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  Not for nothing, but your friend kinda has a point, do you want someone who likes you, or your biceps? If your goal is put up numbers, by all means work in finance and run marathons, it sounds like he has a different goal.
context: We work on one another. Communicate. Improve. It’s essential in long term relationships. 
  The girl who smoked pot on her brother’s couch is not my psychologist wife with a full patient list today and kickass mother of our children. 
  The guy who spent 18 hours a day playing WoW and not knowing the first thing about women is not her husband and father of her kids today.
  Fast forward a dozen+ years, we’ve grown as people and in our marriage. 
  We aim to make each other better. Work on our weaknesses, lean in on our strengths, rely on each other. Never stop dating each other and making time for a kiss or a deep hug. Corny but it’s true. >
  
  not? >
  
  I mean I don’t really see anything wrong with that if he’s fine with the way he looks. But you likely won’t get the best partner that way >
  
  I’ve been on both sides of this, rejected and also not feeling it for a woman who is really sweet and likes me a lot. What I think people should realize is that they should exercise as much as possible and watch their diet. Why? Because you never know when you are going to meet that person that takes your breath away and you will want to feel at your best and confident when you meet this person the first time. Second, being in good shape, seriously enhances many physical aspects of a relationship. >
  
  Getting rejected 99% of the time is fine as long as you make 100 moves.