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  It's about context. If your having a conversation with people you know, even through text, you can reasonably expect them to know when your being sarcastic.
  When your having conversations with strangers, that expectation is no longer there. There are more unknown factors at play that make the likelihood of them recognising sarcasm different. They may be from different cultures, some cultures use sarcasm more commonly than others. Or languages, if English is a second language for someone sarcasm is harder to detect anyway. 
  None of this to say you have to put /s if you don't want to. But you can't then complain when people misunderstand. It's a conversational convention use it or don't. 
  
  I see someone use a fucking /s it’s not even hard to tell
  
  If you can already tell then what's the problem? It's not aimed at you then.
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  and when they realize you were being sarcastic they feel really stupid.
  
  And then you get nasty messages and before that a load of downvotes. It's just not worth it.
  
  It’s like telling a joke and then ruining it by explaining it
  
  How? You still get the joke. 
  I'd rather I got my (sarcastic) point across rather than have someone frothing at the mouth thinking I was serious and having to explain it to them.
  Also it's difficult for some people to understand sarcasm, so it's just being inclusive as well. >
  
  
  than have someone frothing at the mouth thinking I was serious and having to explain it to them.
  
  This is something I hope happens when im being sarcastic, so idk. >
  
  Are you being sarcastic or are you just annoying people on purpose? >
  
  Aren't you kind of always annoying on purpose if you're sarcastic? I mean sarcasm is irony with the intention to mock someone. When is mocking not annoying to the person mocked? >
  
  I don't think sarcasm is always intending to mock someone. Something maybe but not always someone. And i guess I go by the general rule that if the people around me aren't laughing, it's not funny. If I'm joking about, riffing with my friends but they just find it annoying, why would I want to continue? >
  
  
  Tone is hard to capture on the internet, better to be clear. In English, a significant part of sarcasm is tone of voice - there is no tone of voice on the internet.
  It's harder for non-native speakers of a language to understand subtlty like sarcasm
  It's harder for neuro-atypical people like autistic people to understand sarcasm.
  I'm a teacher with public facing leadership roles in my community. I also like to joke around on the internet. If someone were to connect my identity irl with my internet accounts I like to have plausible deniability for any outlandish jokes I've made instead of getting canceled. >
  
  TIL I do sarcasm wrong.
  I don't change my tone when I am sarcastic.
  I wait for the other party to figure it out or ask, "really?" then say no.
  Probably makes me seem like a moron and/or an asshole. >
  
  
  Probably makes me seem like a moron and/or an asshole.
  
  Depends on the frequency but I know a few people who do that a lot and honestly it can get annoying. Real conversations:
  "Hey man, wanna go to lunch?"
  "No, I just ate a huge meal."
  "Oh, you ate early today..."
  "I'm kidding let's go."
  -----
  “Man, I'm so excited to hear you talk about your Tokyo trip, how was it?"
  "Boring as hell."
  "Oh wow seriously?"
  "No, it was awesome."
  -----
  It really gets tiring after a while. >
  
  That's not even a tone issue imo, just dead humour 😂😂😂