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  If this is true then there aren't many good people that my weird ass meets
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  I have spent years, YEARS, learning to be social and normal, using correct body language,  not turning bright red and sweating when talking to people...speech classes,  non verbal communication,  acting classes,  psychology,  sociology,  social psychology....but F when I think it's going okay and someone tells me Log is just to much, is too friendly,  is trying to hard - it makes my heart hurt. 
  Yes, I am trying...every damn day- because I became tired of sitting in my house paralyzed with social phobia...ugh.  Those mean comments make me want to crawl back in my hole.
  Those few kind people - Those few patient empathic people I've met along my journey make all the work worth it. 
  Keep at it - even when it hurts.
  
  Thank you all for the upvotes,  thoughtful opinions,  empathy,  personal stories,  and sharing! >
  
  This is a good moment to engage your rational brain and think: "What would my reaction be if I noticed somebody who apparently struggled with socializing making an effort to be friendly and outgoing? If somebody shits on their efforts, what are their reasons for doing so?"
  As a socially anxious person you likely view yourself as being in an inherently inferior position and imagine that everyone else has it all figured out, the trick is in realizing that most people have their own psychological hangups and if they react badly to you it could very well be because of issues in their own development and nothing to do with you whatsoever. >
  
  I think many people are stuck in high school there without realizing it.
  If you're weird trying to make friends in high school, saying stupid stuff or being too friendly, kids will judge you and be mean to you, and it can make you feel you don't fit.
  In the adult world, most people won't really care. Maybe they won't return your friendliness, but failure does not matter. Nothing really bad will happen if you don't say the right thing, or if the person just doesn't really want your friendliness. That's why you can continue until someone reciprocates.
  In short, the fear of failure in social situations, often developed in teenage years, should not stop you as an adult. >
  
  A lot of work environments are worse than high schools on this front. Just because the people around you are older now doesn’t really mean you’re surrounded by adults.
  The difference is a limited power to change who you surround yourself with. But for a lot of people switching jobs is a huge investment when possible at all, so if you’re stuck at a job with hundreds of shitty coworkers, many of whom didn’t even finish high school—well, it’s like being stuck in high school but without the benefit of the few good adults supervising things. Now you have adult children supervising things.
  And even in higher paying workplaces… It’s more like a college prep school, but still a direct high school analogue in terms of privilege, cliques, and the petty bullshit they tell you will be over when you’re no longer school age. 
  You can develop a social circle outside of work, yes, but that is a privilege for people who have the time and disposable income.
  I guess what I’m saying is many people are stuck in high school and they DO realize it. >
  
  Well I'm sorry your experience with people has been bad.