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  I think you are conflating sarcasm with satire.
  Sarcasm is supposed to be understood by the audience we use sarcastic tones in our voice or we make sarcastic comments with people that know us well enough well enough to know that it is not our stance.
  Satire lives a bit more in the gray area of you either get it and see that the statement is intentionally absurd, you don't get but see that the statement is absurd and it maybe makes you think about your own position, or you agree with it and everyone else thinks you are absurd.
  Which are both different than just taking up an antagonistic position to work up another person. Which isn't sarcasm it's just trolling.
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  Tone is hard to capture on the internet, better to be clear. In English, a significant part of sarcasm is tone of voice - there is no tone of voice on the internet.
  It's harder for non-native speakers of a language to understand subtlty like sarcasm
  It's harder for neuro-atypical people like autistic people to understand sarcasm.
  I'm a teacher with public facing leadership roles in my community. I also like to joke around on the internet. If someone were to connect my identity irl with my internet accounts I like to have plausible deniability for any outlandish jokes I've made instead of getting canceled. >
  
  TIL I do sarcasm wrong.
  I don't change my tone when I am sarcastic.
  I wait for the other party to figure it out or ask, "really?" then say no.
  Probably makes me seem like a moron and/or an asshole. >
  
  
  Probably makes me seem like a moron and/or an asshole.
  
  Depends on the frequency but I know a few people who do that a lot and honestly it can get annoying. Real conversations:
  "Hey man, wanna go to lunch?"
  "No, I just ate a huge meal."
  "Oh, you ate early today..."
  "I'm kidding let's go."
  -----
  “Man, I'm so excited to hear you talk about your Tokyo trip, how was it?"
  "Boring as hell."
  "Oh wow seriously?"
  "No, it was awesome."
  -----
  It really gets tiring after a while. >
  
  That's not even a tone issue imo, just dead humour 😂😂😂 >
  
  It's about context. If your having a conversation with people you know, even through text, you can reasonably expect them to know when your being sarcastic.
  When your having conversations with strangers, that expectation is no longer there. There are more unknown factors at play that make the likelihood of them recognising sarcasm different. They may be from different cultures, some cultures use sarcasm more commonly than others. Or languages, if English is a second language for someone sarcasm is harder to detect anyway. 
  None of this to say you have to put /s if you don't want to. But you can't then complain when people misunderstand. It's a conversational convention use it or don't. 
  
  I see someone use a fucking /s it’s not even hard to tell
  
  If you can already tell then what's the problem? It's not aimed at you then. >
  
  
  and when they realize you were being sarcastic they feel really stupid.
  
  And then you get nasty messages and before that a load of downvotes. It's just not worth it.
  
  It’s like telling a joke and then ruining it by explaining it
  
  How? You still get the joke. 
  I'd rather I got my (sarcastic) point across rather than have someone frothing at the mouth thinking I was serious and having to explain it to them.
  Also it's difficult for some people to understand sarcasm, so it's just being inclusive as well. >
  
  
  than have someone frothing at the mouth thinking I was serious and having to explain it to them.
  
  This is something I hope happens when im being sarcastic, so idk. >
  
  So you don't actually want people to know you're being sarcastic. You're trying to slip something past them to feel smart and superior, or simply to troll. This differs from how most people use sarcasm. 
  
  putting /s at the end of relies completely defeats the purpose of being sarcastic
  
  This might be true FOR YOU, but again, this doesn't apply to most uses of sarcasm.