comment: >
  
  I can absolutely see why you are known for saying stupid things.
context: I think what you're describing isn't people being genuinely nice, it's a forced 'niceness' stemming from a fear of confrontation. If you compromise you own honest reactions to things in order to be 'nice' too much, this isn't very genuine and people can see through it. >
  
  I do. What the fuck are you talking about? 
  
  I’m known for saying things that other people find stupid
  
  I wonder why. >
  
  Oh be nice >
  
  Yea, you don't want to be friends with this idiot! >
  
  Idiots are people too, I think >
  
  You make friends by being yourself and finding people that like who you are. I think what you are really trying to say is that faking being overly nice to make friends is not worthwhile or effective. Or maybe you just really like being mean to people, idk. >
  
  Let me get this straight: you'd rather people be mean to you in order to express that they want to be your friend?
  You can't shit talk your friends until you're friends. >
  
  No, OP, this is a fact. If you are rude to people, they will want to be your friend. It's the nature of things. >
  
  It's the thing, a true friend isn't afraid to call you on your bullshit.  I agree, but you can still be kind sometimes too, there is a time and place for both. >
  
  It's a healthy dose of standing your ground and calling your friends out to better them, while also supporting their decisions regardless of your advice. Just being friendly or combative with people is just one layer of depth out of hundreds. >
  
  Nor do bullets make friends...  I am not sure your outlook is healthy to you and those that interact with you.
  Being nice is basically an example of showing weakness or trusting the other to either be trustworthy or show the quality of their character.
  you sound like an adherent of the 48 rules of power.
  It is a fatally flawed perspective.  why? because what we do as social animals involves trust if all we have is mistrust then offence will become the rule... violence both covert and overt will be the norm...  we seem to go here (hobbes nasty brutish and short life) perspective every century or so might be that the children of prosperous peaceful times take it as an entitlement and take more than give...
  All I seem to have is questions.
  Just to say there are situations where being mean is appropriate like when an asshole is acting out... protecting those who are unable to protect themselves...
  Be mean to discourage assholes dont be mean to make brownie points with a group of assholes.... >
  
  I’m happy and I trust my friends so guess I disagree with you >
  
  Right on...... dont forget your safe word...   :) >
  
  You get friends by making jokes and teasing people, not things they are super self conscious about...just funny or unique things you notice about them. >
  
  Yes you do. >
  
  This ready like an edgy 14 year old wrote it
  You just can't handle my dark humor >
  
  Is your dark humor kindness??