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  Agreed. And I have ADHD. I often have anxiety nightmares about being unreasonably late for everything. I'm always anxiously early.
context: What I don’t understand is that for people who are chronically late, they know they are always late.  Why then are they still too selfish to make the adjustment in their schedule?  You have a scheduled appointment at 2, so why not make it 1:30 in your calendar??!   
  And then they (maybe) apologize ?? If you were actually sorry you’d change the behavior. >
  
  I agree. When I lived in South Florida, that chronic tardiness from everyone was very hard to get used to. Down there, being 20-30 minutes late is expected and accepted behavior. Doesn’t even matter if it’s a doctor’s appointment or a family get together. People are even late to job interviews down there 😬. Some call it “Miami Time” or “Cuban Standard Time” or “Livin’ la vida time”… it always annoyed me.
  Moved back to Ohio and it’s delightful how ridiculously punctual midwesterners are. And they call or text when there’s traffic. >
  
  Ugh, I hate it. I am black and a lot of other black people call never being on time "C P time". I don't think it is funny or cute. I have noticed that people from warmer climates are never on time whether it is white people from the southern US  or pure blooded Africans from Ghana. I don't know what it is about that warm weather.
  Me, I am the opposite. I feel sluggish in cold weather and more likely to get up and get stuff accomplished in warm weather. But I still make it to appointments on time no matter if it is cold or not. >
  
  I’m white but dated a Mexican girl for awhile; she had a very diverse friend group and 2-3 of the friends were black and perpetually late. They used the “I run on CPT” line every time. 
  It drove me crazy, especially because they were the type that if I had ever made a joke about CPT they’d be down my throat over racism. >
  
  Totally agree. Being late is the worst thing you can do to someone outside of hurting them. >
  
  You're right. It's disrespectful. Or it points to be the person being too dimwitted to manage their time correctly. If they are sick or have an infant, I can sympathize to an extent. But other than that, get your ass here on time or I will stop inviting you to stuff. It's rude. >
  
  Can only speak for myself but I have sort of crippling attention deficit disorder.
  Even with my meds I find myself zoning out and then realising I've spent 20 minutes doing some random maintenance around my house while I should be getting ready for work or heading to a friend. Idk it's weird man but it's definitely not my fault and I'm not dim-witted. I've really suffered in my life from this mainly the guilt of how I appear to others (eg you - saying dim witted)
  That being said, there are simple ways to cope. Medication, alarms, notes, whiteboard, putting up a clock, etc etc etc.
  So while people who are like those are not necessarily stupid as you imply, they are probably in a negative mind space and not have the motivation to get help or improve their lives. So they deserve some level of critisism but not so harsh imo. No disrespect to you at all it's just my perspective. >
  
  I used to have a friend who was always late and I'm not talking 10-20 minutes, I'm talking HOURS late to dinners and events. One time she showed up 3 hours late to one of our mutuals' birthday and I was livid because we made plans for a specific number of people. Some time later she posted a 'joke' on SM about how when she said she was on her way, she was actually just chilling in bed and that was it, I never invited her out ever again and now we're not friends but the people who stayed in touch with her still complain about her lateness. 
  I also have friends who are sometimes 5-20 minutes late and I usually just tell them something starts 20-30 mins before it actually does so that they show up on time or close to it. I think some people are genuinely time blind and I try to accommodate but once your lateness is to a certain point (30+ mins), I can't deal. >
  
  I'm a tradesman, I had a bosses son in law apprentice. He was 10-15 minutes late every day, I bugged him about it for a while. One day I just decided to leave the shop without him. The boss promoted me to project manager shortly after.