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  It seems by the standard of this thread I'm a terrible person, if I'm with a group of people and one of them is sweaty and sits too close and keeps asking awkward questions or is trying too hard to keep my attention then I'm gonna be uncomfortable and want out of that situation.
  I'm gonna try my best to not be a dick but it's not my responsibility to make up for someones social ineptitude.
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  I have spent years, YEARS, learning to be social and normal, using correct body language,  not turning bright red and sweating when talking to people...speech classes,  non verbal communication,  acting classes,  psychology,  sociology,  social psychology....but F when I think it's going okay and someone tells me Log is just to much, is too friendly,  is trying to hard - it makes my heart hurt. 
  Yes, I am trying...every damn day- because I became tired of sitting in my house paralyzed with social phobia...ugh.  Those mean comments make me want to crawl back in my hole.
  Those few kind people - Those few patient empathic people I've met along my journey make all the work worth it. 
  Keep at it - even when it hurts.
  
  Thank you all for the upvotes,  thoughtful opinions,  empathy,  personal stories,  and sharing! >
  
  In my experience when people say “too friendly” or “trying too hard” they usually mean “doesn’t respect my boundaries” even if they don’t know how to articulate it and even if they haven’t communicated those boundaries. Sometimes they’re framing things this way in an effort to be nice. Sometimes they’re mean because it doesn’t feel good to them and they lack the skill to communicate what they need. >
  
  Yeah, there are a lot of people in this thread who are basically saying 'other people should have far more social grace than I do, and if they fail at the difficult social test I'm putting them through, they're mean.' despite the fact that the people expecting the social grace would fail the same test.