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  Someone who is turned off by someone asking for some leeway since they are bad at boundaries is likely to be even more turned off by someone who is bad at boundaries.
  
  This is a really interesting point. If someone's going to be turned off by me asking for leeway with boundaries, then I probably wouldn't have become close to them in the first place. Similarly, if I become close with someone then they likely wouldn't be offended if I ask for leeway, and it may even benefit the relationship. The people who were probably turned off by me have likely faded out of my life by now, and those who want me in their lives and thus the people and relationships that would benefit from this information have stuck around. Perhaps it might even be better to be honest about myself upfront and have a healthier relationship in the long run, rather than try to keep up an appearance of a completely flawless human being and then have it and the relationship come crashing down if I'm unable to hold up the illusion any longer.
  
  It feels weird to say that you shouldn't ask for things because no one has to give you those things.
  
  While I agree that this applies to most things, then why is it usually not okay to ask someone why they blocked me on social media? When that happened to me, a lot of people I asked said I shouldn't do that, at least not right after the blockage, since "they don't owe me anything."
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  1) Someone who is turned off by someone asking for some leeway since they are bad at boundaries is likely to be even more turned off by someone who is bad at boundaries.  You're not going to offend anybody you weren't likely to offend anyway.
  2) No one owes you anything, no, That is on them, though, not you.  It feels weird to say that you shouldn't ask for things because no one has to give you those things.