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  While I don't disagree with your overall sentiment, one problem with your labels is that lots of people cope with trauma, not by admitting or making excuses for their shortcomings, but simply by just bottling it up and taking it out on others. And honestly, most of these ARE caused by your so-called "subtle" traumatic events. I've seen normal people degrade into complete sociopathic jerkwads just because they got dumped, or their elderly parent died, or they lost a job or didn't get a promotion. They're not out there fishing for sympathy or making excuses, so you wouldn't single them out as "mentally unhealthy" based on your criteria, but these people are dealing with trauma in an infinitely worse way than those who at least recognize it as such, even if they can't "get over it".
  This is seems like psychology 101, but really you either deal with trauma, or you let it consume you. At least people who admit they have trauma have taken the first step toward dealing with it, and what you label as attention-seeking behavior is probably just a general move toward greater mental health awareness in society as a whole; people are way more willing to admit they have problems than they were 20 or 30 years ago, for a myriad of reasons.
context: I agree there can be times in which little trauma can be a learning experience. But, heavy trauma such as sexual abuse, neglect etc no those leave such deep scares that people may struggle with day to day things. >
  
  Yeh but people act like getting a bad nickname anymore is considered trauma >
  
  In some cases yes, I feel in most cases when people talk about trauma it’s for real bad shit that happened to them. >
  
  Most people yes. But I’ve literally met a girl (her name was Heidi) that thought her depression stemmed from not getting a hogwarts acceptance letter… I wish I was making that up. >
  
  I get ya. But if one takes a more nuanced point of view, I could say the reason she felt it was traumatic was her possibly having an undiagnosed mental health condition. I’m not saying you are wrong, I’m just saying I’d think of it that way. >
  
  I like that! Well said! And yah probably true I didn’t know her that well she was my wife’s friend. >
  
  Thanks mate, appreciate the chat. >
  
  Trauma is necessary for development, I agree on this. But extreme trauma is bad overall - something like rape or constant abuse. It hampers your ability to function in that aspect of life regardless of how hard you try.