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  My mom loads my kids with stuff we don't allow but it's all good
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  I think it’s just that they get all the rewards (love, fun, cute kids) and none of the responsibilities (discipline, 24/7 care, paying for everything and being stressed out at all times). Grandma can watch the kids for a weekend but then they go back to their parents and gma gets to rest. >
  
  Kids also save their “worse” behavior for their parents, who they feel most comfortable with. >
  
  Not just that but also being able to parent without stress tends to make people more relaxed. >
  
  This is it.  Grandparents who are not primary caregivers don't have to think about the child's college fund, insurance coverage,  the money needed for next semesters band trip. They aren't the ones waiting up until 2 a.m. when someone breaks curfew or cleaning all the messes left around the house daily. It's much easier to be sweet and gentle when you aren't carrying all the responsibilities. With that being said,  some grandparents do all of this,  God bless em.
  Also responsibility and stress do not justify being a twat to your children so consider this an explanation not an excuse. >
  
  Why should you have to justify being a twat to your children? You can do it just for funsies. >
  
  Do you want your kids to develop a complex? 'Cause that's how kids develop a complex. >
  
  I mean, they wouldn't be normal without one >
  
  Maybe partially....for some. But the only reason? For all? Definitely not. >
  
  No. Lol, it's because they can give them back at the end of the day. They can just do the fun stuff without the stress. I can't wait to be a granny one day. >
  
  Nope. The time demands, financial demands, and lack of experience have been repaired by that point. (Unless you become a grandparent in your early 30's.) >
  
  They are just chill because their patience reservoir has had time to refill, and they know that they can leave anytime with no responsibility. >
  
  Clearly you have not observed a grandparent fall into the petty disappointment that a 3 year old did not provide a suitably appreciative gift at Christmas. Humans can be irrational. Emotions are sticky. Humans stick them to scenarios the emotion does not apply. >
  
  I don’t believe that’s what it is. For starters just about everyone gets mellower with age. Secondly - grandparents don’t usually watch a grandkid 24/7/365 so it’s easier to muster the patience. >
  
  Nah, it's because they're not parenting the grandkids. As they shouldn't be (unless said child is in their custody). The parents are parenting. The grandparents are helping but do not have a say in the decisions, ultimately. >
  
  LOL.
  
  Grandparents are more gentle and relaxed to their grandkids, because
  
  they can give the little snotty noses back to the parents when they become exhausting... >
  
  What absolute outrageous complete bullshit. I would suspect that grandparents are affectionate with grandchildren for a wide variety of reasons. Making up for past transgressions is certainly true for some the fact that babies are cute is another. Have you considered that some people are just affectionate? >
  
  No it's because when they have had enough they can return them :P >
  
  My Theorie is that its no longer their kid so they have to treat it better or there would be consequenses >
  
  It worked for me. Totally helped me and my moms relationship that she was such a great grandma despite sucking as a mom. >
  
  That is great. Mine sucked at both! >
  
  Also because they're older and wiser; that can happen as you age, too.  They also may have less stress about budding careers, etc, since presumably they are well into their or retired by the time they've got grandkids. >
  
  I remember that there is also a correlation with age as statically younger parents are stricter than older ones. This might also include bigger stress levels for younger parents due to social factors such as careers and lack of savings, for older parents these factors impact them less. >
  
  Not the case with me at all. I take great joy in watching my grandkids do to their parents what their parents did to me. >
  
  Nah grandparents and grandkids get along because they have a common enemy. >
  
  My grandma was certainly different. She was more strict than my mom. Absolutely no goofing off until you're done with these chores I came up with that you don't normally have to do! Every surface of the house needs dusting! You didn't clean the table well enough, I can see a spot here, and here, and here, and here... I know you just got every spot I pointed to but do it again, it still looks dirty! Why don't you like when I come to babysit?
  Meanwhile, my mom: you either take out the trash, or you do the dishes. Your sister will do the other. I don't care who does what as long as it gets done, I'm not gonna micro manage. You can go play when you're done. >
  
  This seems very specific and personal, and it has not been my experience at all. >
  
  How about, because they get to send them home at the end of the day. >
  
  Nonsense.  It's because they get to enjoy time with young people again but without the responsibility of shaping their character.  Being a parent is so,  so,  stressful.  Being an auntie or grandma is just a matter of giving love. >
  
  For me it was that my parents used discipline while my Grammy used rewards.
  It wasn't "be good at K Mart or else". It was "if you kids stay with Grammy you can get a candy bar on the way out" >
  
  When the grandparents start getting frustrated with the kid they can just hand him back to his parents.