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  I'm jealous that she gets to fuck me. I wish I was fucking me
context: One of many secrets to our happy 11 year (and counting) marriage is we don't seek platonic friends of the opposite gender. Do I really need my wife going to lunch with a single guy? Would she want me going shopping with a single woman? Hell no. Hanging out with coworkers is another story. Deliberately making dates with women who aren't my wife? Yeah that's not gonna end well.
  What works for you, doesn't work for everyone. >
  
  Fr though, I hate how taboo it is to acknowledge this, but successful relationships don't usually have close "platonic" friends of the opposite gender. Like how when Mike Pence talked about it being inappropriate for him to get dinner alone with a woman who isn't his wife, if anybody except Mike Pence said that, we all would have been like: "Yeah, duh". >
  
  Oh Pence has his own weird baggage, but that part is true — me going alone with another woman to a dinner is an issue. >
  
  I think being jealous and being controlling are too distinct to condemn jealousy. If someone has a reason to be suspicious, then they'll feel that way. It's the actions they take that can be detrimental to the relationship. And, while I do agree with you to some degree, there are definitely orbiters/card-carrying members of the friendzone that exist out there, and you might not be aware of them until after the relationship has started. It's probably best to not be rash out it, yeah, but if there's a red flag then it needs to be communicated instead of that suspicion staying bottled up. >
  
  Finally someone said it. I don't think it's an unpopular opinion but the minority who are jealous as shit and think it's normal to be controlling levels of jealous are just a very vocal minority. 
  But it's true. As long as they ain't fucking or kissing on the lips or whatever what's the issue? Not everyone is able to click with thier own gender. I'm I'm dude but I struggle making guy friends. Hell my closest friend is a chick that's been my friend fro 6 going on 7 years. Like hell I'd be ending that friendship to suit a jealous partner lol. >
  
  ... What? >
  
  Your significant other will meet people great woman through her career no matter who she is, and so will the next woman. 
  Your significant other also probably has similar thoughts from time to time but doesn't show it.
  The main thing to think about is this is a issue that follows you for life but is mostly hits hardest during the lost mid 20's and the middle life 40-50's and it is self sabotaging. It happens to both men and woman. Boredom does it no favours and neither do emotional amplifier friends.
  You:" did you see how she looked at her"
  Emotional amplifier who didn't see shit looking at there phone: "oh yeah man, crazy".
  Talk to someone as it's oh to easy to end up a lost single 50 year old because us men "ain't no babies and don't need no doctors".