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  Most people who break your trust do not deserve a second chance and won't get one because trust is finite. Once its gone it does not usually come back.
context: There's always the chance a cheater might not cheat in a future relationship. 
  But I think the odds of a cheater cheating on the same partner are very high if they got away with it the first time. 
  Some people cheat for thrills. Other people cheat to escape the relationship and don't see any other way out. 
  Not all cheating is the same, but most of the time, it's dirtbag trashy entitled behavior. >
  
  the taboo is exciting to them, they know its wrong and thats what makes it fun, they care nothing for the pain they might cause. >
  
  26 male, and I think you both just cured my heartbreak froma past relationship. Just hearing someone else say what I always thought. Or atleast acknowledge what I'm sure alot of people have been through 
  😓 Thank you >
  
  24, got out of a 6 year relationship back in March. She cheated… it was really hard the first few months. My family and friends were super supportive and did what they could to cheer me up but I still felt very alone. 
  I hate to say it but I’m glad it happened. I’m glad she cheated because I needed to grow and I needed to experience being alone. I needed to learn how to deal with that type of pain and how to love myself. 
  Since then I’ve picked up a few new hobbies, lost about 20 lbs, and met someone new who I get along better with then I ever did with my ex. 
  You’ll be fine my friend. Pain is temporary, it might not make sense now but one day you’ll look back and understand. Life can only be lived going forward but understood looking backwards. >
  
  Eh. I believe you can go on and never cheat on someone else. But to the person you’ve already cheated on, you’ll never not be “the one who cheated” or whatever >
  
  This. The person who cheated may go on to change and better themselves, but they will do that on their own and it sure af won't be with me. And no apology would ever be enough to make it up to me. >
  
  I think cheating can be circumstantial, but it can also reflect a person's character; narcissists who don't feel bad about cheating will most likely continue to cheat. This saying applies to them. >
  
  There is no circumstance in which cheating can be explained, period. Cheating on someone once makes you a cheater. If you're unhappy, leave. Feeling bad about it means nothing. >
  
  If you think every bad behaviour can ONLY be explained by personality/character of a person then you’re being biased. This is what’s called the fundamental attribution error.
  I’m not saying cheating is okay by any means, but to ignore any other factors/explanations is foolish imo.
  Feeling bad about it can be helpful towards change. Recognizing your wrongdoings is the first step. Combine that with a lot of therapy and self-reflection, someone can make a relationship work if they other party is wiling to. >
  
  Sorry, no, I don't care what factors you try to put into play. Nothing but excuses. You know there are people who can go through it all and still be able to not betray their partner. Leave the relationship before you decide to cheat. Yes, decide because cheating isn't an accident or mistake it's a choice you made. >
  
  It’s a choice sure, and you’re still responsible for the choices you make. But choices aren’t made in a vacuum. You’re ignoring the context.
  Explanations ≠ justification/excuses. >
  
  I'm saying the context does not matter. There is no explanation. Don't care why you did it. All I need to know is you're capable of doing it. Like I said, leave before you cheat. I'm sure every cheater has an "explanation" for why they did what they did. Who cares? A scumbag is still a scumbag regardless of how they want to  explain their actions. >
  
  I agree. There's always a moment when you "Decide" to go with it. Yes people can be unhappy in a relation , fall out of love, fall in love with someone else but still there's always a "Choice" if you want to cross the boundary of the relationship or not. If you want you be with someone else just end the one you're in right now. That shouln't be too hard Imho. >
  
  Exactly. If you're unhappy or you've fallen out of love, discuss it, and move on. Cheating is never never ever ok period. >
  
  Hey, if they change and become better, that’s wonderful. Hopefully their next partner is happy with them, because I’ve got enough self-respect to not stay with someone that would cheat on me.