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  It isn't healthy, even if you enjoy each others company, but only because like you need your own space and you own things in general.
  It gives you time to explore things that the other person doesn't enjoy, without resentment for feeling they had to go with (it's not nice to do a thing you don't like just for the sake of being around your person).
  It gives you time to reflect.
  It gives you time to weirdly appreciate and miss your person.
  It gives you something to talk about, often conversation can die from being around each other too much.
  Doing seperate things also gives you room to be different; being too insink could lead to not challenging each other thus less opportunity for growth (it's good to bring different points of view, where a lot of shared experience can lead to more closely aligned views).
context: I like my girlfriend more than I like anyone else, so would rather do stuff with her than anyone else. But yeah, if you can't not do stuff together then its a bit odd >
  
  It's not super odd to me, but just inefficient from a household perspective. I like that my wife and I cover different bases. We make a much better team this way IMO >
  
  Enjoying their company and needing their company to function are two very different things.
  If you feel that you need your partner present to enjoy things, that's codependency, and that's bad. >
  
  This.
  But a lot of people argue it's unhealthy period, even when the couple prefers to do everything together, because they genuinely enjoy eachother's company and would rather be together than apart. >
  
  Because a lot of people view that as codependency, and a lot of people like to offer their unsolicited opinions on shit they have no context to. >
  
  Yeah a lot of people like to play armchair psychologists nowadays lol >
  
  To each their own, I know from previous relationships that I while I like doing things together, I still like having my own private time. >
  
  And that's  what you should have because  that's  what you like. 
  Other people prefer their loved ones company. And if they both are in agreement, then they shouldn't be judged or told they're toxic because  of it. >
  
  As others said, it's mainly because it's a codependency type thing, like they need each others company to have fun. My fiancee and I do just about everything together, however we don't need each other to have fun, we can have fun on our own. >
  
  I understand  that. But I find the assumption  that you're  codependent annoying. So many times people just outright hate on couples who say they do everything  together. >
  
  Sounds like the haters are jealous TBH but sometimes couples can just be obnoxious about constantly publically stating how much they're in love with each other and this usually gives me red flags. >
  
  Having a preference to spend all of your social and leisure time in your partners presence is pretty standard during the initial phase of a relationship but if it goes too far you'll end up being unable to separate your own identities. To your mates you become youANDthem. Never just you because it's never just you. Nurturing and growing yourself with activities and hobbies you enjoy is as important as engaging in shared interests and hobbies. Trust me. 19 years and still going with my man. >
  
  It's common to learn some terms that get used within psychology to refer to specific behaviors done to certain degrees and then very liberally apply those terms to things you don't like. 
  Enjoying more quality time together than you would feel comfortable with, does not make a couple enmeshed. Even if they work together or largely share the same friends group. I'm inclined to agree, armchair psychologists on the internet need to touch grass. >
  
  I think couple’s dynamics vary greatly. I enjoy doing everything with my partner! Other couples need their space and alone time. >
  
  I also enjoy it. I can think of very few things that I find more enjoyable without my partner, than with him. He just makes every little thing more exciting. >
  
  Same. It’s also how I know I made the right choice. >
  
  There’s nothing wrong with doing everything with your partner but you shouldn’t NEED to do everything with your partner. You should be able to exist and create your own happiness outside of your relationship. >
  
  I do just about everything with my wife. Not bc I need to know everything she does, but bc I want to enjoy thing / experiences with my best friend. >
  
  Exactly!! This is what I'm  talking about. I know a lot of perfectly  healthy couples that simply choose to involve their partner, because they enjoy it. >
  
  I agree. My husband and I do everything together because we are best friends and all of our friends are usually mutual friends at this point. >
  
  Exactly! >
  
  You are asking for trouble.... perhaps you two have different jobs at the least? >
  
  Ngl, couples like that scare me but more from a "Damn how do you hang around someone that long and not get tired of it?"
  Then again I'm an introvert. Like I love my partner when I do have one, but it does get to a point where I just want to be by myself. Not as in "We're in the same room but not talking" kind of by myself, but one where I'm literally the only one there. >
  
  With my ex, we never did anything  together. And when. He was gone I felt so peaceful and relaxed. I used to think it was because  I was introverted or something. Turns out I'm  not as much as I thought. We just really  didn't  like eachother 😂
  Not saying that's the case with you. Just made me think lol. >
  
  Here's my take on it
  My husband and I have been best friends for 16 years, together for 11 years, happily married for 10 years and we are like this. We do everything together, my friends are his, and vice versa. I've asked multiple times if he wants to go hang out with friends from work, and he's encouraged me to go have a girls night if I want to. But we genuinely have no interest. We'd rather go on a double date with mutual friends, or just stay in, cuddle and talk till the early hours of the morning. Not because we need each other to have fun, but when we start to enjoy something, we want to turn to each other and see that smile we fell in love with, hear that laugh we know so well right along with our own. 
  We get one life to live, and we want to spend every second of it that we can together. Because one day, one of us will go first. And that's the end. No more chances to see their smile light up their face. No more chances to share happiness together. For us, life is too short to not make every memory together that we can. 
  Not everyone functions well this way, and that's entirely okay. It doesn't make it toxic to want to do everything together, just like it's not toxic to want some individual time too. >
  
  This is so sweet, and what I hope my relationship looks like in the future. >
  
  Hard agree. I'm not a jealous person by nature, we have trust and when my bf wants to go out or do anything by himself, I've never felt abandoned or tried to control him or tag along. But we're each others' best friends, and we naturally prefer to do a lot of things together because it's more fun. People who criticise this are usually in superficial relationships, serious or not, without a lot of intimacy or camaraderie. They're missing the friendship part of a relationship, which is all that matters once the honeymoon and passion phase is over. >
  
  I also think it's  a much more mild version of the whole "hate your spouse" type thing. Like you should get on eachothers nerves so much, and annoy them so much to the point that y'all  can't  stand eachother and "need to get away". And that's  considered a normal relationship. >
  
  That is not at all a normal relationship and yet nowadays that is considered “normal” and even shown on tv and movies and media as being normal. The whole “have to get away from the wife/husband” or “need a vacation from family.” I’m sorry but if you need a break from your partner or family, that’s a sign you chose the wrong person and you fucked up. That’s just fact. >
  
  Codependence is not something you addressed in this post, that's the main reason people consider it unhealthy >
  
  Because it's  not always codependency. Like I said. Some people just really enjoy eachothers company. And there is nothing wrong with that, as long as both people agree and have communicated that they both enjoy it. >
  
  I agree with you, OP. My wife and I don’t have a problem doing thing separately, but we usually have more fun and enjoy experiences more together. She’s my best friend and honestly the only person who I feel I can be fully myself around. >
  
  This is what I mean! Obviously  I don't  have to spend time with my partner, nor him with me. But that fact that he chooses to invite me and take everywhere with him makes feel warm and fuzzy. And I can't  think of more than a handful of things I'd  rather do without him. It's  the perks of having  a fun, outgoing partner imo. >
  
  This is exactly my husband and I. We’re both musicians so we spend all our days together in the studio writing and recording music :) We’re absolute best friends, lovers, and each other’s biggest supporters/ encouragers. Our parents/ in-laws call us the “love twins” because we go everywhere together and do everything together. We’ve never been happier and healthier with great enthusiasm for life!
  I’m not sure how other couples are or if this dynamic would even work for everyone. Maybe we just scored the perfect chemistry jackpot. >
  
  Of they are compatible who cares? >
  
  Apparently a lot of people. >
  
  As long as it's not codependency and both are happy with it, then it's alright imo! >
  
  I'm  saying! >
  
  While I understand that some people prefer to do everything together as a couple without outside interests, this isn’t very healthy behavior whether it’s forced or not. Maintaining your own identity- as well as finances, hobbies, friends groups, and the like is very important- til death do us part is a bitch and a half.. >
  
  You don't  lose your identity  just because you spend a lot of time with your SO. You can grow your own identity and individuality while being very involved with someone else. >
  
  This is unpopular? Y'all need to chill if so. >
  
  So many people think it is. That somehow you're  gonna like, fuse into eachother and have no individuality if you spend a lot of time together. >
  
  Its absolutely toxic and unhealthy. You need to be able to give each other space. If you both have the same job (god forbid), same hobbies, same friends, you will find that rarely do you get a moment of time by yourself. 
  I don't have much to say here other than you are very much incorrect I believe >
  
  No it isn't. Being able to give eachother space, and simply deciding you like it better together is not wrong or unhealthy. As long as both parties are willing and both enjoy it, I see nothing wrong with it. 
  Some people don't  want "a moment by yourself" 
  Some people have had plenty of that already and are now enjoying having someone there and experiencing life with someone. >
  
  My husband and I literally don’t separate. I understand not everyone can have that kind of relationship but we haven’t spent a day apart since I picked him up 5 years ago :) >
  
  Yeah everyone  is different. I'm  not sure why everyone assumes codependency, when sometimes people just really like eachother. >
  
  I think we have some codependency but I don’t care if other people view that as a bad thing. Every aspect of my life got healthier when I met my husband. I quit drinking and doing drugs, I lost weight and got fit, my perspectives shifted and I feel like I can think much clearer before I speak. 
  If I’m codependent it’s the best thing that ever happened to my over all health haha >
  
  unhealthy af >
  
  They literally wrote that all aspects of their personal health improved by spending all their time with their partner and yet you wrote “unhealthy af” just because they don’t care anymore about hanging out with their old friends drinking in bars on the weekend as if they are perpetually in their early 20s college student years.