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  I think this totally depends on how invested in the relationship you have become. Married with kids? Definitely need to really think and evaluate before breaking it off for reasons like this. Just in a long term relationship? I think “not feeling it” is perfectly valid. People get bored and feelings change and it is better to deal with that before becoming saddled with a house and kids.
context: “Hey, I’m sorry I don’t think this is working for me anymore.” is a perfectly valid reason and IMO, a good reason. Like you said, shit happens and people change. As long as no one is being dishonest, it’s fine. Why should someone stay in a relationship if they don’t feel it? Good opinion. >
  
  What about marriage?  Is that a valid reason to get a divorce? >
  
  Absolutely, 100% of divorces happen because of marriage. >
  
  Yeah I totally understand your reasoning. I know it would absolutely crush me if my girlfriend broke up with me out of nowhere because she just “wasn’t feeling it” but in the end it’d be better for her and it would be even worse if she grew to resent me because she felt compelled or trapped in the relationship since she didn’t have a “reason” to leave. Leave when you need to, don’t make your partner the villain who “forced” you to stay
  Good opinion OP >
  
  Not feeling it anymore is a good reason though. Better to be honest than to lead them on. >
  
  What’s the reason for not feeling it anymore tho >
  
  That’s a little bit too personal. Let’s just say I thought things were going to be different. >
  
  that is a valid reason and i think most people agree with you anyway despite the sub you posted this on, but i think you did expect people to agree.
  i will say an i think Actually unpopular opinion and tell you that, while valid reason to end the relationship, i dont think youre not to blame at all either. maybe your partner did expect things to go exactly as they were going, and you are the one having unrealistic expectations of the relationship. i cant tell from what you are willing to share. then itd sort of be like you wasted their time with a relationship that had no chance of lasting >
  
  Not having feelings and not seeing a future anymore can be a good reason.
  Not having a good reason would be just doing it one day on impulse for basically no reason.
  That being said, I sort of agree, sort of disagree. You should at least try to fix things before breaking it off. Otherwise you're just flighty and that's your own fault. Relationships inevitably will plateau and come out of the puppy love phase, and everyone changes (granted, the changes can be good or bad and they're beyond your control). But if you don't know how to at least stumble your way through with that, you'll never find a lasting relationship.
  Breaking it off and resetting is always a gamble. Regret is very common. >
  
  Well you did just waste their time lol >
  
  If you don't have a good reason for breaking up with someone then you more than likely were not taking the relationship seriously in the first place. This us asshole behavior because you have wasted that other person's time who is assumed to have taken the relationship serious if they wanted an explanation for its ending. 
  Most relationships aren't meant to be so casual that you just cancel them like a quick appointment. They're an emotional investment (and sometimes financial too).
  Ultimately, you don't "need" a good reason because no one can stop you from breaking up but it doesn't absolve you of being an asshole. >
  
  I honestly don’t know when it became ok to just casually burn bridges and assume there isn’t consequences in the immediate or long term. This is why serial monogamists are arguably worse than polys. They can just drop a relationship cold and move on to the next person. >
  
  Truly, an unpopular opinion.   
  If you can't articulate a good reason, how do you know you actually have one? How do you know your feeling is a fleeting one?  
  I am of the opinion that if you are in a relationship, you have an obligation to make it work. "Working" isn't something that springs up spontaneously. "Working" is exactly that, work. >
  
  See I used to think like you, until I realized that no matter how hard you try, you can’t build a sand castle if all you have is gravel. >
  
  Why would you want to build a sandcastle? Sandcastle’s are weak and easily destroyed. 
  Maybe work on your metaphors. >
  
  You can't build an indestructable alien metal alloy castle if all you have is brick and mortar. >
  
  Being honest about no longer having feelings is a good reason. >
  
  Depends on how long and how serious the relationship was and how long you weren't feeling it and what you tried to do about it and how well you actually understood the relationship. >
  
  It depends what values you add to a relationship, and I do think that reasoning is super lazy.
  Lazy because, come on, there's a reason you're not feeling it. You used to be into this person with your whole heart and life, it didn't change over night. If I received that break-up reason I would definitely feel like I wasn't ever really valued, or like I didn't deserve to know what made those feelings change, ya' know? And also, I guess, unless you're a proud serial monogamist (I mean most people are serial monogamists, but most are not proud of it) it seems lazy in the sense that well, did you at least try to find the spark again? Were kids involved, and you just left still due to "not feeling it"?
  Like there's a lot of ways to look at it where that reasoning feels, at best, very flat. Although it doesn't mean you're not "allowed" to use it.