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  They kept “friends” with them long after their ex got married and even had kids. It’s sick. I feel so much hatred.
context: My ex and I are friends simply because we realized partway through dating that what we had was a friendship and not a romantic attachment. It's really not that complicated. In fact I don't even like describing them as my ex because we've been friends way longer than we dated at this point. >
  
  I agree with this but it's probably different than what OP had in mind. 
  There are many people who were romantic partners for longer than they've been friends. After a breakup, there wouldn't be any connection to maintain a platonic friendship. So why insist there is one and "stay friends"? Just asking for drama. >
  
  I'm so confused.
  So my ex-wife demanding, in court, to know who my then-current girlfriend was, where she lived, what she did for a living, etc. just meant she wanted to be friends?
  Yeah. She got a few blank stares before her attorney suggested she drop it. >
  
  I'm not making excuses for her behavior but is it cause ur kids are being exposed to ur then girlfriend or is she just overly possessive?? >
  
  Overly-possessive would be putting it mildly. >
  
  Damn sorry dude >
  
  A wise man once said, "Never stick your dick in crazy." It wasn't worth it.
  My 1st girlfriend after her was like going from a tranquilized mattress to a porn star in heat. >
  
  Seeing the way that you talk about women I wonder what made her crazy. The fact that you reduce a person that you at one point exchanged vows with to her sexual performance despite it being irrelevant to her character reinforces that for me. >
  
  I'm sorry, Karen. But there's no need to project your insecurities on me. >
  
  Thank god she got away. >
  
  It's just as immature to make this sort of declaration in the other direction.
  Here's a thought:
  It's completely normal for exes to remain friends if that is what they both want.  It's also completely normal for exes to never talk again if that's what even one of them wants.
  Normalcy and maturity have nothing to do with this topic. >
  
  I’m honestly not sure if my ex and I would have stayed in touch if it wasn’t for the kid. 10 years after the breakup, she’s one of my best friends. 
  It has nothing to do with unhealthy boundaries either. In fact, we’ve talked about the fact that the romantic relationship is long dead and that neither one of us sees it being revived. >
  
  I tend to agree. And while I am friendly with my ex husband and I hold no ill will against him at all and I appreciate what he does for our son. I’d consider myself more friends with his new wife. We do the co parenting and we talk several times a week. As a woman, I’m more comfortable talking to women in general and we both love my son. We have a laugh and enjoy each other’s company. It’s lovely. We also do birthdays together with our families and unwrap Christmas presents etc together. It means everything to our son and he tells us that. 
  I don’t personally feel comfortable staying friends with most exes because sometimes they will randomly hit you up in a flirty way and I don’t feel comfortable with it. But to each their own! >
  
  I actually know a couple who went from friends to getting married.  After a few years they realized they had made a big mistake. The breakup was mutual and was not brought on by violence or infidelity.
  They got divorced and then went out to a fancy restaurant to celebrate.   They were so happy that people came by and asked them if they had just married, to which they replied laughing "No--Divorced!"
  They remain close friends, but obviously are not "besties." >
  
  I bet that everyone in the restaurant stood up and clapped after that >
  
  Then the director said “and… cut!” >
  
  And the director's name? Albert Einstein. >
  
  I genuinely think some people need to put effort into improving their social skills, I know people who've said the whole "be friends" after a break up and didn't want to say it wouldn't happen because without the physical aspect the other person wouldn't want to spend time with you. >
  
  If you have children together with an ex-spouse, I do think the mature thing to do is keep things cordial.
  Aside from that, I'm 100% with you. >
  
  I think it all depends on what kind of friendship you have. If it's toxic and on again off again no it's not mature. If it is a healthy stable friendship that shows maturity. Ex shouldn't even factor in in my opinion. You like who you like . >
  
  I know a couple who split up and dad still comes to holidays and birthdays. He is friendly with moms new BF and everyone generally seems to get along. It’s very nice to see them all get along and the kids don’t have to split their time as much. >
  
  I disagree with the idea that it is not a sign of maturity to remain friends with an ex. In fact, I believe that it can be a very mature and healthy thing to do, depending on the circumstances of the breakup and the nature of the relationship.
  Remaining friends with an ex can be a positive way to move on from a relationship and to show respect for the person you once cared about. It can also be a way to maintain a sense of closure and to support each other's growth and well-being. Of course, it is important to be mindful of boundaries and to ensure that both parties are comfortable with the decision to remain friends.
  However, it is also important to recognize that not all relationships are meant to be lifelong friendships, and that it is okay to let go and move on in a way that feels right for you. Ultimately, the decision to remain friends with an ex should be based on what is best for both parties, and should be made with care and consideration. >
  
  Exception number 1
  The attraction and sexual tension doesn't just disappear because you're not a couple anymore. With some couples,  it's like a drug. >
  
  
  The attraction and sexual tension doesn't just disappear because you're not a couple anymore.
  
  Sometimes it disappears while you're STILL a couple. >
  
  It's weird to be close and intimate with someone who completely changes who you are and then decide since you no longer work as a couple you want nothing to do with them. It feels like repression as opposed to growth and understanding. >
  
  I think of it less like “I want nothing to do with you” or cutting them off because I’m angry/upset/etc. More like “they contributed a lot to my life while I was in a relationship with them, but I don’t need to hold on to that to appreciate the growth I experienced with them. The end of our relationship is the start of a new season where I continue to grow and change in different ways without relying on them, but I wish them all the best”. >
  
  But why cut them out of your life? I have never stopped loving a person I started loving. >
  
  That's why. It would make her extremely jealous. >
  
  Making other people responsible for your jealousy to the point of pushing someone they care for out of their life seems pretty immature. >
  
  Yep. >
  
  I agree it's not a sign of maturity. You're wrong about when I child is involved. You don't need to be friends with the childs other parent. Be professional and an adult about it at the minimum in front of the child shows maturity >
  
  Eh, you should really try to be amicable in general after a split (excluding extenuating circumstances) for the kids sake. If all you can manage is frigid 'professionalism' and barely controlled dislike - your kid will pick up on it.
  This crap annoys me so much. One of my siblings was a teen parent, who went onto have a dramatic teen break up and even then, they've displayed more maturity than most grown ass adults I know in co-parenting. They're friendly, respect one another and try to communicate regularly to make sure their kid has the most stability they can. The amount of grown parents I know who have seperated and niggle at one another over everything is just depressing. It's bad for kids. >
  
  I know a girl who puts all her back n forth fighting over the kids texts between her and her ex husband ON FACEBOOK. Don't get ks wrong, the guys isn't a great dad but damn ! Even if she is in the right them kids gonna remember their business being put out in the street!! >
  
  Yep. It's fine if you vent to close friends about an ex if you need to. But airing dirty laundry in public will never be a classy look imo. >
  
  You need to be apart for a long while, a very long time. >
  
  Fair. >
  
  Yeah and I fell victim to someone who literally is divorcing me for their ex