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context: The things you listed that you had to go through are shitty things to go through but would you want that to be a requirement for being a women? If a biological women could grow up without being impacted by those would that not just be better? Or would you say if she hasn't been harrased she can't call herself a women? >
  
  Even if nobody wants them as a requirement, it doesn't change the fact that it did happen, no? >
  
  This is reddit i hope you are prepared for a shower of abuse for daring to take this common sense stance! >
  
  
  As a naturally born woman, I get angry when I watch those videos because they didn't go through the creepy predators watching you grow up
  
  There are a LOT of things that I, as a cis woman in America, have not had to deal with (that tends to get joined to 'the experience of a woman')
  I did not have parents who pushed me to pursure wifedom and parenthood. I did not have relatives or authority figures who molested me. I did not have teachers who shamed me for menstruating.
  If you compare my experience to a global one, I have never had to fear being killed by my community for having sex outside of wedlock. I have never had to worry that if I were raped, I'd be forced to marry the attacker. I have never faced arrest because I'm not covering my hair or my ankles.
  At this moment I don't know if I can bear children. But I'm a woman regardless. Whether it's impossible or easy, whether the process nearly kills me or if it's the best thing I ever did, whether I decide to end a pregnancy, none of that threatens to revoke my womanhood. 
  In my experience, womanhood is not defined by suffering. I hate that some women, some feminists, are trying to restrict our understanding of womanhood to those who have suffered the most, or suffered enough, or suffered uniquely, or suffered the right way. All of that is abhorrent to me. Being a woman is not pain. Being a woman transcends the society you're born into.
  When it comes to healthcare, I have never felt like less of a woman just because people who aren't women are included. I have never felt threatened by a trans man in a Planned Parenthood lobby. That person has a uterus, and is there for some sort of related procedure. Them being there doesn't erase me. I.... literally just stare at my phone the whole time. And frankly it's difficult to fathom why their inclusion would upset me.