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  Watching my dad cry at my grandmas funeral from under his sunglasses was the worst thing I’ve ever seen and felt.
context: I work in a cell phone place and most of my clients are old
  This 85 year old came in crying one time trying to pay his bill. I asked what was wrong and with the most genuine sad eyes I’ve ever seen he said 
  “I miss my wife a lot today.” >
  
  That is just heartbreaking. >
  
  Managed to hold it together at my dad's funeral, until I saw my grandpa crying. Then I just lost it. Not an easy thing to see. >
  
  It's one thing eventually losing your parents. Everyone does.
  But to lose a son? Thats on a whole other level of pain. I don't blame your grandfather for being distraught at that. I would of lost it too in your shoes too. >
  
  Losing a child, even an adult child, has to be one of the worst things for someone to deal with. >
  
  Many years ago my partner and I were on holiday in the USA and took the ferry from SF to Sausalito. A well-dressed older man sat opposite us overheard our British accents and asked where we were from. We had 20 minutes of the journey to go so we got chatting with him and he told us how he'd emigrated to Pennsylvania and then retired to Sausalito with his wife. She'd died a few years ago. He said, 'They say time heals all wounds, but I can't say it's ever got any easier for me.' There were tears in his eyes. I was trying my best not to start bawling my eyes out. My partner was barely holding it together. 
  I think about him a lot. >
  
  I'm 61, and in my experience with older folks who have lost spouses it seems to me that women who have lost their husbands seem to do better than men who have lost their wives. I don't mean functionally. I mean emotionally. I think a lot of that is because women tend to maintain friendships with other women as they age where men let things lapse. So men rely more on their wives as they get older.
  I'm not elderly (yet) but I'd be lost without my wife. I think my wife would probably be OK without me though.