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  I agree, But I think this issue is not the childhood mistakes but the parents still have the behaviors which make it difficult to relate. And this makes it difficult to connect and repair the relationship. Being a parent now I understand a lot of their decisions which I thought were mistakes, I wouldn’t have made the same choice but I understand why they did and “forgive” them for it
  For example if your parents were very strict, and religious growing up.  Now as a middle aged adult you still “get in trouble” for doing something against their views And they force their religious view onto you and your children. I think it’s not so much the mistakes they made, it’s the continual impact of them which stops the relationship developing 
  The true test of a successful parent is do the children want/chose to hang out with you? And can they tell you anything? If this isn’t happening then it’s probably not the mistakes from childhood, it’s likely the parents still have this behavior and the damage from the childhood makes it harder to form a relationship. Always being careful which  what you say when your around your parents is not a good base for a relationsip
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  I don't think you can easily change a view that relates to 'some people'.
  It can be summarized as 'some people are overly dramatic'. Hard to argue that.
  If you'd have said 'CMV: everyone overdramatizes how bad their parents were', then there'd be a discussion. A naff one, but better than this. >
  
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  Is this supposed to be a delta? If your view has been changed, you need to add the word delta directly after the !, no space between