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  I agree with you..if you ain't feeling it, and you've been together a while, give it a bit of time to see if you really weren't feeling it, or if maybe you were sick or something that just messed with your mind. My mind plays tricks on me all the time
context: “Hey, I’m sorry I don’t think this is working for me anymore.” is a perfectly valid reason and IMO, a good reason. Like you said, shit happens and people change. As long as no one is being dishonest, it’s fine. Why should someone stay in a relationship if they don’t feel it? Good opinion. >
  
  What about marriage?  Is that a valid reason to get a divorce? >
  
  Absolutely, 100% of divorces happen because of marriage. >
  
  Yeah I totally understand your reasoning. I know it would absolutely crush me if my girlfriend broke up with me out of nowhere because she just “wasn’t feeling it” but in the end it’d be better for her and it would be even worse if she grew to resent me because she felt compelled or trapped in the relationship since she didn’t have a “reason” to leave. Leave when you need to, don’t make your partner the villain who “forced” you to stay
  Good opinion OP >
  
  Not feeling it anymore is a good reason though. Better to be honest than to lead them on. >
  
  What’s the reason for not feeling it anymore tho >
  
  That’s a little bit too personal. Let’s just say I thought things were going to be different. >
  
  that is a valid reason and i think most people agree with you anyway despite the sub you posted this on, but i think you did expect people to agree.
  i will say an i think Actually unpopular opinion and tell you that, while valid reason to end the relationship, i dont think youre not to blame at all either. maybe your partner did expect things to go exactly as they were going, and you are the one having unrealistic expectations of the relationship. i cant tell from what you are willing to share. then itd sort of be like you wasted their time with a relationship that had no chance of lasting >
  
  Not having feelings and not seeing a future anymore can be a good reason.
  Not having a good reason would be just doing it one day on impulse for basically no reason.
  That being said, I sort of agree, sort of disagree. You should at least try to fix things before breaking it off. Otherwise you're just flighty and that's your own fault. Relationships inevitably will plateau and come out of the puppy love phase, and everyone changes (granted, the changes can be good or bad and they're beyond your control). But if you don't know how to at least stumble your way through with that, you'll never find a lasting relationship.
  Breaking it off and resetting is always a gamble. Regret is very common. >
  
  Well you did just waste their time lol >
  
  If you don't have a good reason for breaking up with someone then you more than likely were not taking the relationship seriously in the first place. This us asshole behavior because you have wasted that other person's time who is assumed to have taken the relationship serious if they wanted an explanation for its ending. 
  Most relationships aren't meant to be so casual that you just cancel them like a quick appointment. They're an emotional investment (and sometimes financial too).
  Ultimately, you don't "need" a good reason because no one can stop you from breaking up but it doesn't absolve you of being an asshole. >
  
  I honestly don’t know when it became ok to just casually burn bridges and assume there isn’t consequences in the immediate or long term. This is why serial monogamists are arguably worse than polys. They can just drop a relationship cold and move on to the next person. >
  
  Truly, an unpopular opinion.   
  If you can't articulate a good reason, how do you know you actually have one? How do you know your feeling is a fleeting one?  
  I am of the opinion that if you are in a relationship, you have an obligation to make it work. "Working" isn't something that springs up spontaneously. "Working" is exactly that, work. >
  
  See I used to think like you, until I realized that no matter how hard you try, you can’t build a sand castle if all you have is gravel. >
  
  Why would you want to build a sandcastle? Sandcastle’s are weak and easily destroyed. 
  Maybe work on your metaphors. >
  
  You can't build an indestructable alien metal alloy castle if all you have is brick and mortar. >
  
  Being honest about no longer having feelings is a good reason. >
  
  Depends on how long and how serious the relationship was and how long you weren't feeling it and what you tried to do about it and how well you actually understood the relationship. >
  
  It depends what values you add to a relationship, and I do think that reasoning is super lazy.
  Lazy because, come on, there's a reason you're not feeling it. You used to be into this person with your whole heart and life, it didn't change over night. If I received that break-up reason I would definitely feel like I wasn't ever really valued, or like I didn't deserve to know what made those feelings change, ya' know? And also, I guess, unless you're a proud serial monogamist (I mean most people are serial monogamists, but most are not proud of it) it seems lazy in the sense that well, did you at least try to find the spark again? Were kids involved, and you just left still due to "not feeling it"?
  Like there's a lot of ways to look at it where that reasoning feels, at best, very flat. Although it doesn't mean you're not "allowed" to use it. >
  
  I think this totally depends on how invested in the relationship you have become. Married with kids? Definitely need to really think and evaluate before breaking it off for reasons like this. Just in a long term relationship? I think “not feeling it” is perfectly valid. People get bored and feelings change and it is better to deal with that before becoming saddled with a house and kids. >
  
  Also time. If I’d been together with someone for, say, 1 month, I get it. But no explanation whatsoever after 1 year, or maybe even more? It’s not immoral so to say, but I’d definitely be hurt. >
  
  There is an explanation though. The explanation is “I’m not into you anymore.” People lose their love/attraction all the time, and that is valid at any point of the relationship. >
  
  Welll, there are strange and extreme reasons:
  “You did not say “hi sweetie” the moment when you got home. Yeah we are done” 
  Or 
  “You eat your peas 1 at a time. Im done” >
  
  ok true i agree but it’s just that you’re so blunt with it and people have been on both sides so they take it personal. if u care i would start saying “I just lost feelings” and throw in a “i’m disappointed but there’s nothing i could do about it” sum like that idk. but i totally agree with what u said >
  
  I agree with you if you worded this "you shouldn't HAVE to have a good reason". The way it's worded makes it sound like you should never take a relationship seriously ever >
  
  No, it just shows that you're very immature yet. >
  
  As long as you aren't jumping in and out of relationships like its the wind, then 'I feel like this isn't working out' is a perfectly valid reason. If you are burning through several relationships a year though, then that might be on you. Otherwise, its perfectly valid just to part ways when you feel things ain't working. >
  
  
  People always get mad or look at me strange when I tell them I broke up with my girlfriend because "I was not feeling it anymore",
  
  Let me ask you somethings.  
  Would you be fine if your job fired you out of nowhere and it was just because they didn't feel it anymore for having you work there?
  Would you be fine if a person you knew and saw all the time randomly punched you in the face, because when it came to holding back violence, they just weren't feeling it anymore?
  Would you me Ok if your bank closed your account one day because they just didn't feel like having it anymore? >
  
  These are hilariously extreme examples lol.
  But what would suggest that he do?  Go to unnecessary and expensive therapy sessions so that he can pinpoint exactly why it is that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore?  Or should he stay in a situation that makes him unhappy under the guise of “fixing it”?  
  I understand that relationships take work to thrive, but sometimes you come to the realization that the person you’re with just isn’t what you want in life.  While that sucks for the other person, I’d rather someone be up front and tell me they’re not into it anymore than watch them slowly lose interest over time without saying anything because they feel some weird obligation not to. >
  
  
  But what would suggest that he do?
  
  I honestly don't care what he does. I'm just curious on his opinion on the what ifs, and how he would react to them. If in fact he could answer them honestly. >
  
  not always true, relationships are a partnership, you aint always gonna be feeling it. if its a few dates eh best to tell them in the nicest way possible unless they are a total ass. if youve been with this person for years, you should step back and think about what "you aint feeling" anymore and see if its really worth trashing a relationship that would otherwise be good.
  more context is needed. if you arent feeling it just because she put on a few pounds having a child with you your a total ass, if you aint felling it anymore because someone else caught your attention thats pretty shitty too, if you aint feeling it because you cant coexist and enjoy each other then there is nothing wrong with that. unless you are married, then thats a total different story, man not a womam speaking here.
  the ones ive dumped were for very good reasons, the one i married was also for a very good reason. if you arent married you are not tied to her but you should take a look at what is the problem, it might be easily worked out.