comment: >
  
  Guy should just get one of them new fandangled robot girlfriends. He can take it to corporate parties 🥳
context: That is some next level stalking. >
  
  We're skipping stalking and proceeding right to extortion. >
  
  You don’t wanna sleep with me? Fine! I’ll see you in court!!! >
  
  "she could either comply with his demands to deepen their relationship or suffer “irrevocable” damage to her personal and professional endeavours."
  How to win friends and influence people.
  Not sure the year and a half of therapy worked. >
  
  I would counter sue for anything and everything I thought I could make stick. 
  Like, if I have to show to court, I’m going to be a pain about it. >
  
  And report that therapist for playing along with this man's disgusting manipulation tactic. >
  
  People lie to their therapists all the time. Especially narcissists. They are on stage playing a role.
   (I gave up on couples therapy with my ex the second session because it was obvious he was playing a role with the therapist and not being honest. I just flat out said that I wasn't going to waste time or money on therapy if he was going to act, flat out lie, make things up, and not be honest. And walked out.) >
  
  Sure and maybe that would be understandable in the first few sessions, but after a year and a half of therapy with these two, the therapist never stopped to think that they're aiding a narcissist to treat a friend like a slave/caregiver? At the very least if there wasn't an ethical violation, someone need to point out that maybe they're not cut-out for the job. >
  
  Yeah, that's weird. The whole thing is weird. I wonder if the guy convinced the therapist they were in a relationship, or there's something else going on. Because it sounds like couples' therapy. Why would you go to therapy with someone for that long if you aren't in a relationship with them? >
  
  But she was always super clear with him that they were just friends and that she wanted space. Did the therapist just...not clarify? For a year and a half? The therapist needs looked into, that's all I think. >
  
  That's really strange. And I agree with you, on that. Therapist needs to be looked into if she was clear the entire time. That is toxic AF. >
  
  It’s sad that this woman had to waste so much of her life dealing with this guy. A year and a half in therapy with him, can you imagine? >
  
  WTF why would she agree to that, poor woman >
  
  Probably hoping that the therapy would help him be more stable, therefore less likely to murder her for refusing him. >
  
  It’s just not worth the risk anymore. I’ve been solo for a year, and it’s been the best fucking year of my life, lol! Just give me a dildo and a roommate and I’m good!
  Probably never getting back in the pool again. 🤷🏼‍♀️ >
  
  May I ask how old r u? Just to feed my curiosity >
  
  I read this totally expecting it to be a stupid headline not really grounded in fact.
  I was wrong.
  This is what this sub is designed for! >
  
  I really want to know the face his attorney made when he began describing why he wanted to sue her. >
  
  Considering he's probably been billing this guy for years over this now...
  This >
  
  Yeah, well hopefully the lawyer gets disbarred over this nonsense. >
  
  I’m fairly certain lawyers can be disbarred for filing frivolous suits in most countries. >
  
  Why would he do that? Now everytime someone Googles his name, this is all that comes up.
  He just ensured that no one but the most desperate woman on earth will ever go out with him. >
  
  At this point, even if he was the last man on earth and the sperm banks ran dry, a woman would probably have to swallow her own vomit to sleep with this man. >
  
  Forget about sleeping. Think twice before you even give him your name so you don’t accidentally become his friend >
  
  Probably not friends anymore. >
  
  Add that to the lawsuit. >
  
  AaAaAAnd she won't even talk to me now that I've sued her! 🥺 >
  
  Haha sometimes pp small on body
  Sometimes pp small in soul >
  
  What a fucking psycho. Idk why she went along with this creep. I’d be getting a restraining order before I was going to therapy with him. >
  
  She eventually was awarded a protection order, thank goodness. She might have acted out of effort to maintain the friendship as strictly platonic, but potentially to protect herself from him by going along with the counseling plan. After a year and a half had gone by, she may have realized she was being held hostage by him and took steps to sever the friendship. It's sad that I'm relieved that he decided to sue instead of turn violent against her. >
  
  The scary part is. What happens once he loses? >
  
  /r/whenwomenrefuse >
  
  I am sad but not surprised that sub exists. 
  My first thought reading the headline was “at least he didn’t kill her.” >
  
  Yet. >
  
  Well at least she lives in the most gun-less country on Earth >
  
  Taking incel level to the stock market >
  
  He's going to kill her one day.  What a sick fuck. >
  
  That's my concern. She was granted a protection order. I don't know how effective that is in Singapore, but hopefully more helpful than they are in the US. >
  
  I'm Asian, from SE Asia, and have worked in SG a bunch of times. It's a veritable police state and "fine" city (every single misdeed that can be fined has a fine), so the protection order should be significantly more effective. >
  
  Thank you for clarifying, that's definitely good to hear >
  
  How did this suit even make it past a judge reading it? It's obviously meritless and purely done for harassment to force her to be in a relationship with him. I hope they penalise him and make him pay her. Wow. >
  
  That's not how it works.  No one reads it when they file it.  
  However, when it is time for her to file a response, she will say "this is obviously not something anyone can sue over, please throw it in the garbage can" and the judge will do so.
  Edit:  Actually, he filed two suits and a judge already tossed the first one, noting:
  
  Considered in totality, I find that the present action was intentionally initiated by the claimant with the ulterior motive of vexing or oppressing the defendant by requiring her to defend various claims that fundamentally stem from the same factual matrix in different forums....This court will not be an accessory to his calculated attempt to compel engagement from the defendant who, after years of massaging the claimant’s unhappiness, has finally decided to stand up to his threats rather than cower and give in to his demands. >
  
  From the Talmud:
  A man once conceived a passion for a certain woman, and his heart was consumed by his burning desire [his life being endangered thereby]. When the doctors were consulted, they said, 'His only cure is that she shall submit.' Thereupon the Sages said: 'Let him die rather than that she should yield.' Then, said the doctors; 'let her stand nude before him.' They answered, 'sooner let him die'. 'Then', said the doctors, 'let her converse with him from behind a fence'. 'Let him die,' the Sages replied, 'rather than she should converse with him from behind a fence.' >
  
  Based Jewish religious law book >
  
  Wait until you read such Talmud stories as “that time a bunch of rabbis outvoted god, and this was the correct thing to do” or “totally not gay story about two men swimming naked in a river and complimenting each others beauty” >
  
  r/inceltear >
  
  Yup, read a few post and couldn't after the guy saying he wanted to rape a toddler so he could know what it was like to have a big penis >
  
  Jesus Christ. 
  I wonder what happened to that dude for him to think that 5 inches is a micro penis and end up in that state of mind that he needs to rape a kid to feel manly. >
  
  I don't think the 8+ is even true. At least, I don't think it is actually the average. Male porn stars are shorter than average. And the women are typically even smaller. It's all about the illusion and so many angles and shots that you see all the time are designed for that. Less body fat also makes a difference. A big guy can have a big dick but a lot of it will be hidden. There are so many myths and misconceptions, like people joke about tall people having huge dicks but there is a reason you don't see people as tall as basketball players in porn. >
  
  
  like people joke about tall people having huge dicks but there is a reason you don't see people as tall as basketball players in porn.
  
  As someone that has been to a fair number of clothing optional places I can definitely tell you that height does not correlate to dick size. >
  
  Where are the people making fun of “snowflakes”? He’s the ultimate one. >
  
  The people calling everyone snowflakes are the snowflakes, they never call out one of their own >
  
  Yep, the entire concept of snowflakery is projection. A person desiring a specific type of respect or treatment is never going to be a bigger baby than someone else whining about that person. >
  
  I'm going to disagree with you on this. This person is a special fucking snowflake. >
  
  
  Ms Tan then obtained an expedited protection order against him and engaged lawyers to file her defence and counterclaim to the suit.
  
  This was the best part of the article. I very much hope that protection order remains in effect permanently and that Ms Tan can live in safety. >
  
  At least he didn't kill her? All he did was engage in a frivolous lawsuit. 
  I want to put /s because I am being sarcastic, but also, I am speaking some amount of truth. Women get stalked, harrassed, assaulted, and killed for turning men down every day.
  Christ the bar is low. >
  
  
  Ms Tan then obtained an expedited protection order against him and engaged lawyers to file her defence and counterclaim to the suit.
  
  At the very least, thank goodness she was granted a protection order. I can only hope it remains permanent and effective and that she will be safe. >
  
  We just reached a new peak in terms of excessive sensitivity. Who in their right mind would come up with this idea? 🙃 >
  
  What lawyer would go along with this. My god if I had 1 million for every time I have been turned down. >
  
  One that is paid by the hour >
  
  Bill A. Blehours, Esq. >
  
  Formerly from the law firm of Dewey, Cheatem and Howe. >
  
  Aww, now I miss Ray and Tom. >
  
  I know my first time seeing that joke was in 1989's Leisure Suit Larry, but I bet it goes back even further than that. >
  
  Car Talk's history page says they incorporated under that name in 1989 as well. Wikipedia doesn't give a definitive origin of the joke. >
  
  When incels take the “lawyer up” part of that meme too literally. >
  
  Good luck getting a date ever again you fuck-knuckle. >
  
  “Fuck-knuckle” is also going to be his long term hobby >
  
  Any lawyer who took this should be fucking disbarred. >
  
  Imagine spending $22,000 in legal fees just to look like a complete jackass and get laughed out of court, because that’s what’s gonna happen. >
  
  Uber-incel energy for sure. >
  
  I don’t understand how he can sue her for damaging his reputation when he’s doing that himself. Her rejection didn’t make international news, his reaction did. He’s the one who blew this up into a big deal, now no woman will want to go near him knowing he doesn’t take no for an answer or even be his friend since he’d apparently sue if they wouldn’t take it further. I can’t see people taking a person who acts this irrationally seriously professionally either so he really is sabotaging his own prospects and future the way he was trying to do to her. >
  
  Probably made the right call to pass on that guy lmao >
  
  I hope she files a restraining order against him. This guy is unstable and clearly can't take NO for an answer. His ego is so bruised that I wouldn't put anything past him. >
  
  Proud boy incel vibes >
  
  The full story is so insane & isn’t even fully alluded to by the title somehow. 
  This poor woman agreed to do one & a half years of psychological counseling with him to help him process that she had rejected him.
  Now I’m just trying to figure out what kind of therapist would allow such a ridiculous treatment to take place. >
  
  Do you like me?
  ☐ Yes  
  ☐ Get Sued >
  
  Just think if every guy who ever heard "I like you as a friend" filed a law suit... >
  
  Him: "...what I'm trying to say is I think I'm in love with you."
  Her: "No comment. I'd like to speak to my attorney." >
  
  Thank god the judge had common sense.  There should be fines for such frivolous lawsuits. >
  
  Lmao Andrew Tate lives on >
  
  Coming soon to US Courts: INCELs suing for damages, and winning. >
  
  Don't give them ideas. >
  
  I think the incels have a new king. >
  
  r/whenwomenrefuse >
  
  Well that was depressing :-( >
  
  Wait that 'trauma' is worth $3mil? Jesus, I've been sitting on a gold-mine all these years. Seriously, what a putz. Learn to write songs. Or just build a bridge and get over it. >
  
  Judge better throw him in jail for contempt and a frivolous suit. >
  
  It'll get dismissed outright, likely by a clerk of court before a judge has to waste their time. >
  
  I’d like to sue my wife, for not wanting to just be friends. - Henny Youngman, maybe? >
  
  Cuz Baby I'm in the zone!
  Like a King without a throne
  I'd rather have you by my side
  Than play the skin trumbone
  I thought what we had was real
  But I could not seal the deal
  I'm a piece of shit
  Cuz Baby, Baby I'm in the Zone!
  source >
  
  r/justneckbeardthings >
  
  "You just experienced life." >
  
  
  He responded by saying she could either comply with his demands to deepen their relationship or suffer “irrevocable” damage to her personal and professional endeavours
  
  isn't this an example of extortion? >
  
  Fuckin crybaby incels >
  
  This jerk belongs in prison. Clearly a danger to this woman in particular and likely to others.
  Hopefully he gets arrested for harrasment and extortion at least. >
  
  Lol.. How damaged is that person or entitled. >
  
  Ultimate incell >
  
  What in the fucking nonsense? 
  I don't know anything about Singapore's legal system, but I hope this man is forced to pay for her trauma, time, and resources wasted on someone who can't handle rejection. She spent a year and a half in therapy with this guy.
  This is honestly scary when you think about it. Imagine getting sued, because you don't want to date someone. You're now forced to be involved with this person you don't want to be around. >
  
  Singaporean here. I don't think this man will get what he wants. Not only is there public outrage, the evidence that he procures in court will only serve to work against him. >
  
  clicks the link. 
  It's not Russell Greer!? >
  
  Let's make him in/famous, Mr K. Kawshigan is his name, aka douchebag. >
  
  How to get even less women to even consider being friends with men.  Task completed. >
  
  r/whenwomenrefuse >
  
  What an interesting way to make it so that you can never get laid again... And so cheaply too. >
  
  There needs to be an emoji for that action of moving your hand in a wanking it motion with a eye roll expression. It would fit here. >
  
  The entitlement of these moron Incels knows no bounds. >
  
  only 3 million? what a nice guy. cant imagine why she wouldn’t want to date him… >
  
  He claimed that as a result of the breach, his earning capacity as an “active high-capital trader by night and a busy CEO by day” has been negatively affected, and that he has had to look for “deeper psychological assistance”.
  Friendzoned snowflake can't concentrate boohoo >
  
  Incel >
  
  What exactly is the problem with men? I get that we’re not all like this but seriously it’s enough that it is a problem. Is there paint chips in our formula or some shit? >
  
  That level of litigation absurdity makes me wonder, was it Trump? >
  
  Man reveals troubling personality traits that land him with restraining order >
  
  That's some incel energy. >
  
  Lol she has a stronger case to counter-sue for the same thing. >
  
  I'm suing the guy because he won't date me. Turn tabled >
  
  The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward goes into a great deal of detail regarding why men feel guilt, shame, or other powerful negative emotions when they are unable to establish an intimate relationship with a woman. It essentially comes down to the culture of entitlement men grow up in and inhabit most of their lives, one which marks a man's success by his romantic partnership with a woman in such a way that allows him access to her domestic, emotional, and reproductive labor. 
  Failure to claim this, for straight men, is seen as a significant social failure akin to losing access to something you feel owed to you since birth. >
  
  Actually, one of the other claims in a later chapter is that queer people find it endlessly frustrating when straight people are unable to endure even the mildest criticism of straight culture without trying to carve out some kind of mental niche for them to feel excepted from said criticism. >
  
  Sounds pretty defensive tbh, but you could try reading it.
  Criticism isn't bigotry, and the nuance is pretty easy to see if you train yourself to read and understand difficult topics without having a snap emotional response. >
  
  I'll admit, I don't see much point in responding to your points directly because the way you've chosen to voice your thoughts belies a serious lack of understanding or education about the topic, and the simple process of catching you up to speed to even have the discussion you're attempting to have would be so mentally draining that I don't find the effort worthwhile.
  I will say that anyone reading this who finds themselves presently unable to see why the above person's comments aren't just wrong, but effectively invalid and unrelated to the topic at hand should definitely read the book. The shortest possible reason I can give for why the premise that criticism of straight culture is equivalent to bigotry is that, put simply, that 'things straight people do' are not the same as 'things straight people are'.
  Furthermore, straight culture is both inescapable and harmful. Because queer people have minimal control over how to shape straight culture, it is therefore the responsibility of straight people to reform, rebuild, and repurpose their heterosexuality for the better. That means separating it from patriarchy, building up the humanity of women, jettisoning the toxic elements of masculinity, rejecting the need for a binary gender paradigm, and plenty of other pro-human, anti-harm measures. >
  
  
  Maybe meet some people outside of your echo chamber. See the world, go to another country, talk to locals. Not just a touristy local hot spot, go out into the world and actually meet people.
  
  By god, you're right! Could you recommend a good place where I could meet these elusive straight people? I've never met a straight before so it would be really enlightening to get to properly study a straight in person!
  I was born in a vat to a 7 woman lesbian polycule and raised by drag queens and trans people all my life. I wasn't allowed to watch TV, answer the phone, or go to public school.
  Maybe you could help me find my sperm donor father?
  Edit: Apparently the solution to 'queer people criticizing straight culture' is "idk just travel or something. Maybe Korea :)" >
  
  Why are men >
  
  You think the people who are downvoting you don’t have the ‘context’ of the three-word comment you replied to? >
  
  This guy is a piece of absolute shit >
  
  Emotional damage! >
  
  How can you get to this point in life: It’s just sad. >
  
  Aggravated Friend Zoning >
  
  Something tells me he'll no longer be in the friend zone after this... >
  
  Andrew Tate simps be like: >
  
  Someone with money who wants to punish a person for not liking them. >
  
  The ULTIMATE NICE GUY. >
  
  Some incels throw acid in your face, some sue you for millions of dollars. >
  
  r/whenwomenrefuse >
  
  “as a result of the breach, his earning capacity as an “active high-capital trader by night and a busy CEO by day” has been negatively affected”
  Why couldn’t he just buy an ape NFT like the rest of the crypto bros instead of harassing this woman? >
  
  Kari Lake's cousin? >
  
  Apparently he has decided he never wants to date again, I’m sure people will line up to date someone who will sue them if you leave. >
  
  It’s sad that my first thought was “well I’d rather get sued than murdered for turning a guy down” >
  
  Huh. My first thought was "I hope she has somewhere safe to live that he can't find her because when this case gets thrown out his next step will be to kill her." >
  
  Holy hell people are fragile these days. >
  
  I don’t know if people read the story. It’s crazier than the headline. This woman is in danger and the Singapore courts have failed her. >
  
  How have the courts failed her?  There hasn't been any court yet. >
  
  This article has more details.  There has been court action. One suit was tossed. He has already been ordered to pay her for the case. She has a protection order as well. This is very much not the courts failing her. >
  
  Yeah, I was really trying to figure out what the courts did wrong.  Eve if they allow anything to play out there, no way is any of it going to stick. >
  
  And that, women, is why you shouldn't be "nice" to lonely creeps. >
  
  How this guys didn’t seal the deal I will never know >
  
  I don’t believe you can sue for a bruised ego. >
  
  This reminds me of that legaladvice post where a woman in her mid-20s went on a date with a guy who lied about his age (on the dating app it said he was 30 but he was actually 45) and when she discovered this upon arriving for dinner, she said no thanks and left (had to be escorted to her car by the manager cause the guy made a scene). He then sued her for the cost of gas and mileage and age discrimination. >
  
  Lol because surely threatening a lawsuit gets the ladies moist >
  
  If a man wants a woman for any reason, she belongs to him. She is his to control. Religion, housewife, breeding hips, blah blah. 
  -Republicans.  Probably. >
  
  Having moved from Singapore to the US my friends from back home sometimes ask me if it’s really true that Americans will sue over anything… now I have a case to point to that shows Singapore isn’t that different >
  
  Incel hurt by his own expectations and expects the woman to pay for his stupidity. >
  
  Imagine seeing your small country being featured here 🤡 >
  
  Not the first time tbh >
  
  It's really sad that Singapore courts even allow this garbage. Also terrible is the therapist that thought terrorizing this woman into sessions with this loser was appropriate. >
  
  Seriously- 1 ½ years of that therapist allowing this bullshit! Sounds quite unethical. >
  
  Can we have pictures of the man please for completeness >
  
  these get rich quick schemes are getting a little out of hand >
  
  r/whenwomenrefuse energy!
  Jesus ... what a piece of shit. Can't imagine having to deal with a nutjob like him! >
  
  I'd get a restraining order immediately >
  
  this is so sad >
  
  "active high-capital trader by night and a busy CEO by day" - this guy is a super hero. How can any woman not be attracted to him? >
  
  What even is this. There is no grounds to sue. It’s her human right to reject the guy. Lmao. >
  
  Better than what rejected men usually do these days in situations like this >
  
  The lawyer who agreed to represent such a frivolous lawsuit should be disbarred. >
  
  I really want to know why the therapist let their sessions go on for a year and a half! I understand this is in Singapore but how was his behavior not reported at any point?! >
  
  dont this bullshit get dismisses as frivolous lawsuits? >
  
  Woman doesn't want anything else than friendship. It should be fine. We can't demand things we can't have in such situations. >
  
  SINGAPORE?! Did not see that coming. >
  
  We get weird cases like this from time to time, since nothing really notable ever appears in the country so frivolous lawsuits (even if rejected) have a high chances of appearing in the news >
  
  Imagine what this guy would do to a woman who makes the mistake of marrying him and then filing for divorce... >
  
  Fuuuuck, I'd be a billionaire by now. >
  
  Well I guess Cartman did grow up >
  
  So is this just marketing for “Crazy Rich Asians 2”? >
  
  Anyone can sue someone else for any reason whatsoever. Judges (hopefully) sort them all out, with sanctions levied against those bringing such frivolous lawsuits. >
  
  Wish that applied to Karen’s who call the cops on black people just living. >
  
  /u/nostalgictuna I found an article about you. >
  
  Bruh >
  
  No doubt in my mind he’s the one suffering from psychological damages, has been long before her and now he’s making sure she gets some too
  Edit: y’all don’t actually read, do you? She’s not the cause of his psychological issues, I’m saying he’s had them and he’s making them her problem, not saying he’s right by any means, it’s pretty obvious this man is a lunatic >
  
  my lawyer will be in touch with you, bitches. >
  
  You can really do this? (Asking for a friend). >
  
  i kind of suspect that he was paying her the whole time for her company and is now trying to get his investment back?? guys like this can't even get female friendship without paying for it, much less sex >
  
  Whoa. This is a thing now? Payday baby! I can sue atleast 50 women. >
  
  Idk if that is even a win for you tbh >
  
  Best thing i ever did was disconnect from those that don’t reciprocate that interest in connection. Be it family or romantic partner if you arent being valued dont waste energy on them >
  
  Sounds like the plot of an Ally Mcbeal episode. >
  
  How will the judge rule on tonight’s episode of The People vs. Friend Zoned Incel at 6 pm, on TLC. >
  
  I would be a bazillionarie. >
  
  First case of pre-palimony I've heard of.