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  Thank god the judge had common sense.  There should be fines for such frivolous lawsuits.
context: That is some next level stalking. >
  
  We're skipping stalking and proceeding right to extortion. >
  
  You don’t wanna sleep with me? Fine! I’ll see you in court!!! >
  
  "she could either comply with his demands to deepen their relationship or suffer “irrevocable” damage to her personal and professional endeavours."
  How to win friends and influence people.
  Not sure the year and a half of therapy worked. >
  
  I would counter sue for anything and everything I thought I could make stick. 
  Like, if I have to show to court, I’m going to be a pain about it. >
  
  And report that therapist for playing along with this man's disgusting manipulation tactic. >
  
  People lie to their therapists all the time. Especially narcissists. They are on stage playing a role.
   (I gave up on couples therapy with my ex the second session because it was obvious he was playing a role with the therapist and not being honest. I just flat out said that I wasn't going to waste time or money on therapy if he was going to act, flat out lie, make things up, and not be honest. And walked out.) >
  
  Sure and maybe that would be understandable in the first few sessions, but after a year and a half of therapy with these two, the therapist never stopped to think that they're aiding a narcissist to treat a friend like a slave/caregiver? At the very least if there wasn't an ethical violation, someone need to point out that maybe they're not cut-out for the job. >
  
  Yeah, that's weird. The whole thing is weird. I wonder if the guy convinced the therapist they were in a relationship, or there's something else going on. Because it sounds like couples' therapy. Why would you go to therapy with someone for that long if you aren't in a relationship with them? >
  
  But she was always super clear with him that they were just friends and that she wanted space. Did the therapist just...not clarify? For a year and a half? The therapist needs looked into, that's all I think. >
  
  That's really strange. And I agree with you, on that. Therapist needs to be looked into if she was clear the entire time. That is toxic AF. >
  
  It’s sad that this woman had to waste so much of her life dealing with this guy. A year and a half in therapy with him, can you imagine? >
  
  WTF why would she agree to that, poor woman >
  
  Probably hoping that the therapy would help him be more stable, therefore less likely to murder her for refusing him. >
  
  It’s just not worth the risk anymore. I’ve been solo for a year, and it’s been the best fucking year of my life, lol! Just give me a dildo and a roommate and I’m good!
  Probably never getting back in the pool again. 🤷🏼‍♀️ >
  
  May I ask how old r u? Just to feed my curiosity >
  
  I read this totally expecting it to be a stupid headline not really grounded in fact.
  I was wrong.
  This is what this sub is designed for! >
  
  I really want to know the face his attorney made when he began describing why he wanted to sue her. >
  
  Considering he's probably been billing this guy for years over this now...
  This >
  
  Yeah, well hopefully the lawyer gets disbarred over this nonsense. >
  
  I’m fairly certain lawyers can be disbarred for filing frivolous suits in most countries. >
  
  Why would he do that? Now everytime someone Googles his name, this is all that comes up.
  He just ensured that no one but the most desperate woman on earth will ever go out with him. >
  
  At this point, even if he was the last man on earth and the sperm banks ran dry, a woman would probably have to swallow her own vomit to sleep with this man. >
  
  Forget about sleeping. Think twice before you even give him your name so you don’t accidentally become his friend >
  
  Probably not friends anymore. >
  
  Add that to the lawsuit. >
  
  AaAaAAnd she won't even talk to me now that I've sued her! 🥺 >
  
  Haha sometimes pp small on body
  Sometimes pp small in soul >
  
  What a fucking psycho. Idk why she went along with this creep. I’d be getting a restraining order before I was going to therapy with him. >
  
  She eventually was awarded a protection order, thank goodness. She might have acted out of effort to maintain the friendship as strictly platonic, but potentially to protect herself from him by going along with the counseling plan. After a year and a half had gone by, she may have realized she was being held hostage by him and took steps to sever the friendship. It's sad that I'm relieved that he decided to sue instead of turn violent against her. >
  
  The scary part is. What happens once he loses? >
  
  /r/whenwomenrefuse >
  
  I am sad but not surprised that sub exists. 
  My first thought reading the headline was “at least he didn’t kill her.” >
  
  Yet. >
  
  Well at least she lives in the most gun-less country on Earth >
  
  Taking incel level to the stock market >
  
  He's going to kill her one day.  What a sick fuck. >
  
  That's my concern. She was granted a protection order. I don't know how effective that is in Singapore, but hopefully more helpful than they are in the US. >
  
  I'm Asian, from SE Asia, and have worked in SG a bunch of times. It's a veritable police state and "fine" city (every single misdeed that can be fined has a fine), so the protection order should be significantly more effective. >
  
  Thank you for clarifying, that's definitely good to hear >
  
  How did this suit even make it past a judge reading it? It's obviously meritless and purely done for harassment to force her to be in a relationship with him. I hope they penalise him and make him pay her. Wow. >
  
  That's not how it works.  No one reads it when they file it.  
  However, when it is time for her to file a response, she will say "this is obviously not something anyone can sue over, please throw it in the garbage can" and the judge will do so.
  Edit:  Actually, he filed two suits and a judge already tossed the first one, noting:
  
  Considered in totality, I find that the present action was intentionally initiated by the claimant with the ulterior motive of vexing or oppressing the defendant by requiring her to defend various claims that fundamentally stem from the same factual matrix in different forums....This court will not be an accessory to his calculated attempt to compel engagement from the defendant who, after years of massaging the claimant’s unhappiness, has finally decided to stand up to his threats rather than cower and give in to his demands. >
  
  From the Talmud:
  A man once conceived a passion for a certain woman, and his heart was consumed by his burning desire [his life being endangered thereby]. When the doctors were consulted, they said, 'His only cure is that she shall submit.' Thereupon the Sages said: 'Let him die rather than that she should yield.' Then, said the doctors; 'let her stand nude before him.' They answered, 'sooner let him die'. 'Then', said the doctors, 'let her converse with him from behind a fence'. 'Let him die,' the Sages replied, 'rather than she should converse with him from behind a fence.' >
  
  Based Jewish religious law book >
  
  Wait until you read such Talmud stories as “that time a bunch of rabbis outvoted god, and this was the correct thing to do” or “totally not gay story about two men swimming naked in a river and complimenting each others beauty” >
  
  r/inceltear >
  
  Yup, read a few post and couldn't after the guy saying he wanted to rape a toddler so he could know what it was like to have a big penis >
  
  Jesus Christ. 
  I wonder what happened to that dude for him to think that 5 inches is a micro penis and end up in that state of mind that he needs to rape a kid to feel manly. >
  
  I don't think the 8+ is even true. At least, I don't think it is actually the average. Male porn stars are shorter than average. And the women are typically even smaller. It's all about the illusion and so many angles and shots that you see all the time are designed for that. Less body fat also makes a difference. A big guy can have a big dick but a lot of it will be hidden. There are so many myths and misconceptions, like people joke about tall people having huge dicks but there is a reason you don't see people as tall as basketball players in porn. >
  
  
  like people joke about tall people having huge dicks but there is a reason you don't see people as tall as basketball players in porn.
  
  As someone that has been to a fair number of clothing optional places I can definitely tell you that height does not correlate to dick size. >
  
  Where are the people making fun of “snowflakes”? He’s the ultimate one. >
  
  The people calling everyone snowflakes are the snowflakes, they never call out one of their own >
  
  Yep, the entire concept of snowflakery is projection. A person desiring a specific type of respect or treatment is never going to be a bigger baby than someone else whining about that person. >
  
  I'm going to disagree with you on this. This person is a special fucking snowflake. >
  
  
  Ms Tan then obtained an expedited protection order against him and engaged lawyers to file her defence and counterclaim to the suit.
  
  This was the best part of the article. I very much hope that protection order remains in effect permanently and that Ms Tan can live in safety. >
  
  At least he didn't kill her? All he did was engage in a frivolous lawsuit. 
  I want to put /s because I am being sarcastic, but also, I am speaking some amount of truth. Women get stalked, harrassed, assaulted, and killed for turning men down every day.
  Christ the bar is low. >
  
  
  Ms Tan then obtained an expedited protection order against him and engaged lawyers to file her defence and counterclaim to the suit.
  
  At the very least, thank goodness she was granted a protection order. I can only hope it remains permanent and effective and that she will be safe. >
  
  We just reached a new peak in terms of excessive sensitivity. Who in their right mind would come up with this idea? 🙃 >
  
  What lawyer would go along with this. My god if I had 1 million for every time I have been turned down. >
  
  One that is paid by the hour >
  
  Bill A. Blehours, Esq. >
  
  Formerly from the law firm of Dewey, Cheatem and Howe. >
  
  Aww, now I miss Ray and Tom. >
  
  I know my first time seeing that joke was in 1989's Leisure Suit Larry, but I bet it goes back even further than that. >
  
  Car Talk's history page says they incorporated under that name in 1989 as well. Wikipedia doesn't give a definitive origin of the joke. >
  
  When incels take the “lawyer up” part of that meme too literally. >
  
  Good luck getting a date ever again you fuck-knuckle. >
  
  “Fuck-knuckle” is also going to be his long term hobby >
  
  Any lawyer who took this should be fucking disbarred. >
  
  Imagine spending $22,000 in legal fees just to look like a complete jackass and get laughed out of court, because that’s what’s gonna happen. >
  
  Uber-incel energy for sure. >
  
  I don’t understand how he can sue her for damaging his reputation when he’s doing that himself. Her rejection didn’t make international news, his reaction did. He’s the one who blew this up into a big deal, now no woman will want to go near him knowing he doesn’t take no for an answer or even be his friend since he’d apparently sue if they wouldn’t take it further. I can’t see people taking a person who acts this irrationally seriously professionally either so he really is sabotaging his own prospects and future the way he was trying to do to her. >
  
  Probably made the right call to pass on that guy lmao >
  
  I hope she files a restraining order against him. This guy is unstable and clearly can't take NO for an answer. His ego is so bruised that I wouldn't put anything past him. >
  
  Proud boy incel vibes >
  
  The full story is so insane & isn’t even fully alluded to by the title somehow. 
  This poor woman agreed to do one & a half years of psychological counseling with him to help him process that she had rejected him.
  Now I’m just trying to figure out what kind of therapist would allow such a ridiculous treatment to take place. >
  
  Do you like me?
  ☐ Yes  
  ☐ Get Sued >
  
  Just think if every guy who ever heard "I like you as a friend" filed a law suit... >
  
  Him: "...what I'm trying to say is I think I'm in love with you."
  Her: "No comment. I'd like to speak to my attorney."