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  I can ask you the same. Where’s the evidence that constant access to potential partners has helped dating? As far as “evidence” goes, look at how much later ppl are getting married for having kids. That’s def based on a variety of factors (namely money), but social media and weird toxic ideas about dating could also be contributing. My opinion is more of a comment on cultural observations
context: I'm old.  Much of my dating was before cell-phones and before texting was common in the USA.  There have always been and always will be people who overanalyze what is going on in the unknowable head of the would-be partner.  I see no difference from then and now other than the medium over which the anxiety is induced.  
  If you don't know how to make someone feel special over text then don't do it over text.  The same question would have been posed by using the telephone back in the day, or by telling a friend to tell them.  
  If you value setting aside time then do it!  Just don't think that people were good at this in the past!  They weren't.  This is the stuff of shakespeare, let alone sms. >
  
  Likewise, guns pose no special threat because we could always kill people — it’s just a new tool — and cars are overhyped because land travel was always possible — they are just a new mode. 
  This is a silly line of reasoning. The advent of digital media and the rollout of increasing rapid/omnipresent forms of communication (email, texting, Facebook, tik-gram and so forth) have tracked with increased individual anxiety, increased rates of population level anxiety (in the clinical sense), and have basically created a new form of addiction.
  Likewise, no, they did not create our ability to over-analyze or to more broadly be neurotic from scratch, but it’s entirely plausible that they have made a big impact on this behavior — possibly to the point that some relationships aren’t viable because of it. >
  
  Millions of people are dating and enjoying it presently. 
  Dating has not been ruined. It still functions fine and results in sex, relationships, marriage, family, etc...
  You personally can choose to not interact through text and seek a partner that shares your desire to use voice or  face to face communication instead. Just because dating has changed a little in a way that you don't prefer doesn't mean it is ruined for everyone. >
  
  I’m not convinced by your argument because yes, some people like it. But is it beneficial for the majority? I’m not convinced >
  
  Where is your evidence / data / information to your claim that it hasn't been beneficial to the majority (aka ruined dating)?  
  We can't change your opinion based on just your conclusion.
  It's like somebody walks into my room and says, "modern movies have ruined dating for people".  
  Ok, thanks for your opinion.  What led you to conclude that?  I can't argue against your conclusion if we don't know how you got there. 
  If you said "I feel like divorce is so common and ruining our lives". I could point to data showing that divorce rates have dropped over 4 decades, and thus potentially changing your view. 
  Give us something to chew on perhaps?