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Yeah no then I don’t agree. Men and women aren’t this monolith that are all the same in that way. There are men who are great providers and their are men who are great caregivers. Same for women. It’s not oh you’re a woman so you are better at house stuff than men are naturally. It’s just based on whoever fills that role and what you bother to learn how to do. As well as personality differences and natural strengths as a person. 
Plus women should have equal opportunity to pursue career success because they have dreams outside of children and marriage. If it’s 50/50 on who stays home and who is working then that’s one thing but just to say it should be her as default is wrong. Why is he more deserving of a career? 
I also just don’t think a lot of men can handle mentally a woman being a breadwinner because it makes them feel emasculated…but that’s just the sexism seeping through there rather than based in reality. A lot of guys can’t even handle if their partner makes more money than them because these gender roles are so engrained in society. How is that a good thing? Saying it’s best to have someone at home and someone working I agree with. Saying it should be men that are breadwinners is just perpetuating sexist ideas and toxic masculinity. 
Personally I don’t mind staying home with my children when that time comes because my husband has a much more established career than I do. But in todays day and age there just isn’t this distinction between genders. Anyone can fill a role well based on their personality and strengths rather than just their gender which is pretty surface level basic. And to say otherwise just comes across as thinking less of women tbh.
If it works for you, then I won't knock it. For me, however, I think I'd hate being a stay-at-home mom because of the lack of adult social interaction. Also, if I make my own money, then I won't be SOL if me or my partner wants to leave or if he dies or something. >

I have a very large life insurance policy and no prenup so I think my wife is set if I die or our marriage ends. >

I dont think a lot of people could live with only one salary per household in this economy. If it’s working for you then great. 
Also personally of course I work because I need money but I also love what I do and I feel that it kinda give me purpose and I can feel useful for society. Being at home every single day only cleaning etc would get boring really fast in my opinion. Also atm with all the business closing because they lack staff would be even worst if you remove half of the work force to make them stay at home >

If you don’t think it matters what gender is where what you are talking about isn’t actually “traditional”. You’re just saying it’s optimal if both parties don’t need to work full time. Which I fully agree it’s nice to prioritize the children and the home. Good idea bad phrasing. >

I guess I do think roles should be defined and followed as “masculine” and “feminine”, but my thoughts are it shouldn’t matter what someone’s assigned gender at birth was or what their biological sex is. >

I’m not sure I follow. If you’re cool with women being a bread winner and dad staying at home as long as they both have their set roles then I don’t see how that’s “masculine” or “feminine roles”. It’s simply one who provides and one who is the care giver. >

I think certain roles are traditionally gendered as masculine and feminine. Caregiving and housekeeping is traditionally feminine. Being the breadwinner is traditionally masculine. I don’t think there’s an issue with a man electing to fill a feminine role or a woman electing to fill the masculine role. But I think that is how the roles are best split.