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By the person having the emotion/feelings standard.
WTF does feelings being valid even mean?
Feelings just are. 
You have them, and there's a reason, whether it be hormone imbalance, relationships, memories, logic, etc...
Then you choose what to do with them, whether it be look inside, or take pills, talk about it, act on it or even doing nothing.
But WTF is this valid shit? >

I think where the OP gets it wrong is that they are trying to fit every worldly thing into the binary thought process of rightness or wrongness. This constant focus on whether something is right or wrong obscures the experience of life because it makes us think that everything we say or think is somehow tied to whether our character is “good” or “bad”. With a few exceptions, most things in life exist on a spectrum from right (valid) to wrong (invalid) which means that it is up to the individual to decide what is right or wrong for them. A worldview that seeks to define everything in a binary space will always lack the critical thought it takes to see people as complex mammals whose genetic and experiential differences transcend our ability to fully understand each other. >

What the OP gets wrong is failing to separate feelings and emotions from the actions one takes due to those feelings and emotions. >

"Feelings are valid" means roughly "You shouldn't feel bad or stupid for how you feel"
It's used as a counter to the sentiment that you should be happy for what you have and are being ungrateful if you aren't happy. >


"Feelings are valid" means roughly "You shouldn't feel bad or stupid for how you feel"

But aren't there feelings that should make you feel bad about yourself? Like when your emotional kneejerk reaction was petty, selfish, arrogant - anytime your emotions speak to your own character in a negative way. 
Thats not to propose hating yourself over it - but you should still critically engage with your own feelings and not tell yourself it's okay to, say, delight in someones misfortune or pain. If you find yourself feeling that way, you should feel bad. >

"Valid means having a sound basis in logic or fact; reasonable or cogent."
Like many words, "valid" has more than one definition - one of them being "justifiable," so right off the bat your argument fails. >

Justifiable- able to be shown to be right or reasonable
Right can be interpreted as logical or factual, while reasonable is the second part of the definition he gave that seems to be missing in your quote. Maybe check the definition before using it as proof. >

justifiable
adjective
: capable of being justified : EXCUSABLE
Feelings / emotions are excusable (i.e. justifiable) because they are naturally occurring - a person does not choose to have them.
"reasonable is the second part of the definition he gave that seems to be missing in your quote. Maybe check the definition before using it as proof."
Maybe read comments before replying to them. >

All feelings are valid, and they all have a logical basis, it's just that the underlying cause might be somewhat convoluted.
It's always OK to feel what you feel, it's the behaviour that follows that needs to have justification. >


and they all have a logical basis, 

No. They don't. 
Many feelings a response to chemistry and hormones, conditioned responses, ptsd, ocd, etc., or simply because someone grew up with emotional dysregulation. >

And those are all logical causes of an emotion, just convoluted when it comes to the issue at hand, as I said. >

Tell that to someone with extreme anxiety issues, bipolar, depression, etc.  just because the feeling is irrational doesn’t make
It invalid. This, is absolutely an unpopular opinion >

I disagree; they have an 'issue' and that issue results in them having invalid feelings.
That doesn't mean ALL of their feelings are invalid; but they will have many and more investigation needs to take place to determine the validity of the feeling. >

This is right. They (speaking from experience) will probably feel better when they can work out whether the feeling has some validity or not. Sometimes this can be an impossible task working out whether how you feel is 'valid' or rational and you might not actually succeed and that's what can quite distressing. >

Feelings or emotions are not always logical or explainable. The only validity required is for the person experiencing them. Outside sources are irrelevant. 
You are shaming people with this post. >

A feeling is your bodies way of telling you that something is wrong/right/etc. It's logical to experience a feeling. There is a domino that fell on the domino that fell on your head, before you kicked into another domino.
There are good and bad ways to act on certain feelings, but having them is valid, and they don't contradict other peoples feelings.
Saying a feeling isn't valid is what you do when you're ignoring it instead of adressing it. >

If I am feeling something, it's valid to me because....I am fucking feeling it.
Whether or not my feelings are valid to others is completely irrelevant to me. >

Well many folks feel like their emotions are invalid. Often it is due to an environment of invalidation where they are made to feel ashamed of feelings, eg. ‘You’re being irrational again and acting out for no reason and it’s ridiculous and we can’t and won’t take it’ when, sure, the expression may be clumsy, unskilled, whatever, as it often is for folks with, say bpd or schizoid. So it becomes a cycle where they then invalidate themselves and may deem themselves bad or insane or similar, for feeling what they feel. (Indeed this is a core component of the work of Marsha Linehan apropos of DBT, addressing a developmental path imbued with invalidation.) It is quite lovely and poetic that you don’t appreciate it, because it is an awful thing. But from my education in psychology, I am afraid it also quite a common thing. >

my dad and I discussed this at length at different point and came to this conclusion.
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your feelings are real that doesn't mean they are right. >

By whose standard?