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If that’s the case they would just wait for the 366th day
Divorces can be expensive so they most likely won’t be able to pay everyone back >

Rather than pay everyone back i think it should be considered socially acceptable not to turn up to the next wedding or financially support it in any way. >

How about don't go to the first one >

Already doing that for my cousin lmfao >

What's absurd is spending thousands on that shit. How many of these did you go to and how much did they each cost? >

Depends on the culture really. In my hometown (northern China), depends on the relationship it ranges from few hundreds RMB to upper thousands. Like if my older cousin (male) on my dad side got married, my dad probably would give somewhere around 10-20k as a gift. When his coworker’s daughter got married I think he gave 5k. Though there are no wedding registry and the food is usually pretty good. Guests can take the leftover home if they want to. Also the reception is usually huge since everyone is invited based on both the parents’ and the couples’ relationships (like my dad got invited to his coworker’s daughter’s wedding whom he had only saw a couple of times. I happened to be home so I got to tag along. I have never seen the bride before the wedding lol). >

Yeah, as you said, it does sound absurd.
If I've spend so much money on someone that must mean I care for them. I think dealing with all the divorce stuff and heartbreak is enough on someone's plate without them worrying about paying people back.
If you'll miss the money just don't spend it on them in the first place, I guess. >

It’s more just funny to me. Like you guys couldn’t even fake it for a couple years after you realize how strange it would look. Also the money they put toward it all gone. Then again who knows >

The last thing any couple needs is to be discouraged from leaving a relationship that isn’t good for them over needing to pay back their wedding guests for their wedding gifts. >

you're not investing into their marriage tho so what difference does it make if they're together 10 months or 10 years? not like you get anything out of it either way. >

I think that it is at the couples' discretion. If they ended due to issues they already knew they had then it would be the polite thing to do to give back gifts and pay back any extras they pushed upon guests. However, if they broke up because of unforeseen situations (e.g. one person was cheated on) then I think it would be unfair for the unsuspecting party to be forced to try and scrape together money to pay back guests. 
I think, at the end of the day it is on you as a guest. If you can't afford to go to the wedding, then don't. If you don't think the couple will last and you don't want to spend money on their big day then don't go. It doesn't need to be a drama - just make an excuse. 
Also, aside from a gift (usually price point at the discretion of the guest) and perhaps a new outfit (if the guest wants to get one) then I am not sure what else the guest is forced to spend on unless they are part of the wedding party itself. If someone is inviting you to a wedding as a guest and expecting you to spend a lot of money on many aspects then that's pretty entitled of the couple to expect that. >

If the money is such an issue for you, maybe you shouldn't be spending that much >

Yeah cause every couple just has the money to reimburse everyone’s travel, accommodation, and other expenses.
Just don’t go to a wedding if you think they may break up within a year. >

I definitely don’t mean every penny spent! Like the comment above of course I’m willing to spend on people I care about but it also hurts when they have no remorse for watching their loved ones go broke if it was all for nothing… I’m also thinking of specific situations that don’t apply to everyone! >

I think you’re assuming they have no remorse or negative feelings about the fact that their friends and family all spent money and time to see them get married.
I have a friend who was in that very situation and she felt very shitty breaking things off with her ex after they had a really beautiful, warm wedding with all their friends and family. No amount of money could symbolize how heartbroken she was that her marriage fell apart and remorse that so many friends and family spent their hard earned money to see her marry her ex; on top of remorse/guilt for not having figured that out before the wedding (granted there’s rarely ever a way to do that easily).
I just find your opinion, not unpopular or popular per se, but very self-centered. People don’t get married and invite their friends and family to watch them get married just for shits and giggles to break up/divorce later as a prank on those same friends and family. >

This truly is a case by case experience and your experience of course didn’t say shits and giggles but I guess the two cases I’m considering did feel that way. I could edit this whole post to center around being about the attitude of the bride and groom. The cases I experienced they had a very hands thrown up in the air “oh well” attitude and that’s what started the fire in me to want my money back. Of course money isn’t everything but when they push everyone to spend their money on their “eternal” love then turn right around and say their love doesn’t mean anything it made me wanna say… well.. then give me my money back >

I’m going to have to disagree, they are gifts for them to do with as they please. It sucks, but they aren’t obligated to reimburse you if their marriage fails. >

Don’t spend the money then. It’s not a gift if it comes with “conditions” like this. >

That's an interesting opinion. I never thought about it, and I like it. I agree. >

yes >

Disagree, circumstances are much more nuanced then that. What if there’s cheating or abuse involved? I think their minds are preoccupied with a hopeless marriage and rightfully so. And also sometimes weddings regardless of whether the marriage is successful, is a means of family bonding or creating memories