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But my whole point is that it isn’t the apps. People appear as superficial on the apps because they’re also superficial in real life.
Yes, most people are awkward and weird and too busy to go out to physically meet people these days.
I actually think it's a lot easier to meet people in person. I don't like checking some site or app continuously and sending messages. >

Apps have the problem of making people think someone wanting to sleep with you is the same as genuine interest and it inflates egos. In real life you have to deal with rejection on a more personal level so more goes into trying to make yourself appealing. >

I don’t see how this is exclusive to the apps. Plenty of people who shoot their shot irl are pump and dump as well. >

Most people aren't good at relationships even though they claim that stuff doesn't work out because girls or guys these days . No, you're all the same (not directing anything at you personally, OP). Every single one of you & that's why shit doesn't work out. Everyone has a similar approach to dating, the opposite or same sex, commitment, etc. You hardly hear any unique takes on these topics. It's always the same spectrum of responses. Nothing that veers off of that. >

Well it’s not just dating. People look at things through rose colored glasses.
Reminds me of the time someone was telling me about sketchy uber drivers. Um…you don’t think there were sketchy taxi drivers before uber? >

I always preferred apps. I’m social, but not to a fault, and I’d much rather have a chill conversation with someone online first rather than screaming in their ear at a club or a bar. >

Hey, it saves me money at least. >

My (relatively short) life experience has taught me that this method of meeting a random stranger and immediately jumping straight into dating is terribly inefficient and unworkable.
All my success in dating has come from meeting someone through school, work or friends and getting familiar before jumping headfirst into dating them.  
Dating sites as a concept seem to place an inordinate amount of pressure on only hitting it off on the first date. >

Well to be good at dating apps is to also be good at social media. You gotta have good pictures at the right angles, make a good catchy bio, and be good at texting. It also helps to be conventionally attractive and have a high paying/status job. It partly resembles the real world. But irl your social connections are way more important in finding a partner >

I’ve found that unless your profile is truly heinous…like every photo looks like it was taken by a potato or your prompts give off sex offender vibes the quality of the profile doesn’t matter much. For women it doesn’t matter at all. >

Yeah. It's like 90-10% men-women. They don't even need to try. Those apps typically broaden men's standards anyways, while making women more selective. They're exploitative for men and too much to deal with for women. I do agree a lot of women's profiles are low effort and superficial. Like where I live, the typical profile is "I drink and like hockey!" or some line about how they do blowjobs. Maybe all the good and interesting women get quickly matched in a heartbeat before you even see them. But tbf the apps are superficial and don't give much information