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This is the second time you've avoided the argument, and I purposefluly did not use the word in my response here.
If you want to actually have your view challenged, perhaps you could not avoid the question.
I reverse card UNO your argument: it's not uncommon that asians people are called by offensive slurs (and it's not rare that people don't even realise it) therefore if a black person use one then does it give the right for the asian people to use racial slurs again?  Or if you use a gay slur in front of LGBT people, can they use the N word?
Isn't it a very childish way to behave? like "but mum he started it!" 
Wouldn't it be better if actually nobody used racial slurs at all? >

Obviously it would be better if nobody Said racial slurs but this isn't a perfect world also I mean in the context of the ga word people say It cause according to then its not a slur >

I think all these contradictions come about because society is caught in a weird definition of slur that requires the identity of the person using the word to determine whether it's a slur or not. So we have Black rappers using the Nword nonstop but if their non-Black fans use the word while singing along it's suddenly a slur. Same with gay people and the F word.
It would be so much better and more healthy for society if we simply treated everyone the same and defined certain words as slurs that either nobody should be allowed to use or everyone should be allowed to use.
If we adopted the above none of these weird conversations would need to take place. >

I mean everyone knew er was a slur but black people took it and made ga to turn it into something different just because black rappers are saying it doesn't mean their non black fans should say it know what I mean?
I agree but sadly this isn't a good society >

I think it shouldn't be difficult for everyone to start shunning everyone who uses the Nword (a or er since both are considered offensive).
It's an ugly word with a horrific history. By saying certain races still get to use it we're only rehabilitating that word into society and pop culture. Essentially giving it even more cultural power. 
South Africa has an almost exact equivalent of the Nword that starts with a K. The difference is that nobody uses the K word not even Black people (It's actually against the law in South Africa to use it though I'll admit that seems extreme).
This is so obviously the way to go and its weird that the Black community in America isn't even making a tiny effort to remove that word from polite society.
We made rappers literally edit their songs on Spotify for using the word "spaz", I think we can survive without the Nword in future songs. >


So I feel like for true "equality" would be black people able to say racial slurs back.

If you want true equality, then people get to hang out and be upset by whatever they want, or don't want, around people they want, or don't want.
If I'm hanging out with my buddies and they call me a 'lil bitch' then I'm probably gonna laugh.  It isn't rude, because that's how words work.  The intention behind them is the point of the word.
If I'm at a bar and someone I don't know at all calls me a 'lil bitch' I'm probably going to not want to talk to them, and maybe tell them to go away, or I'll walk away from them.  
Why should anyone have to be offended, or not offended, based on whatever friend/stranger category they want?
The point I suppose, hinges on the idea of "if someone is a piece of shit, is it ok to stoop to being a piece of shit" because they get to do it. >

Why is a white guy saying it in the first place? If someone wants to become closer with black people there are other ways 🙄 >

My thought process is about anybody who isn't black and no I'm not racist but I'm sure not going to let someone who isn't of my race call me a slur >

Haha alright we are done here dude really deflecting from the point >

Words have meaning only in relationship with social interaction.
For example. Did you know that jay in jaywalking is a slur? It was insult of being stupid, inferior, inbred, uneducated, non-city folk. That what word jay meant and it was as bad of a slur as nigger. But now days nobody thinks "jaywalking" is a slur.
Now if we examine nigger as used by black community they are not using the word as a slur (or they only rarely use it as a slur). It's word about comradely and shows that you share the same racist burden and know what it is to be called a nigger by a racist white guy. You are in this together as brothers. Way word is used changes it's meaning.
Now do you think that other POC also experience racism? Of course they do and weirdly enough sometimes non-black Hispanics are called niggers just because it's a slur that racist people know. They are also your brothers and as long as they are using the word as sign of comradely and not as slur (what they could be doing) then I don't see the issue. Context of the word matter. >

Non black POC are not our brothers and why would you even say the er word 🙄 >

So you don't think they experience the same racism as black people does?
I have more than once heard someone called a Mexican a nigger and it's both racist and dumb but it still happens. >

And yet you keep saying the word without blurring it your part of the problem we are done here >

So your argument sets up the premise that "nobody should say these words, but if someone does say them, then I should be able to say them back at them".
You don't see a problem with that? >

How about don't use the word at all?