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We should encourage people to do what they want. We’re over correcting in the west and telling people they shouldn’t have families and be committed. Stay at home moms are shamed most by other women. There’s always going to be a bias swaying one way.
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There are two ways to approach doing something about the fact that women get more dates than men, and there are increasing numbers of men struggling to find relationships.

Inequality/fairness-centered. "It's unfair that women have more than men." "We need to make things more fair." In extreme forms, this could even involve looking for someone to blame for this perceived injustice - "alpha males", or evolutionary psychology, or feminists. 
Utilitarian perspective. "People, particularly men, are lonelier now than in the past. This is sad. Can we work to address the problem?" This approach involves noticing when life has gotten worse for some portion of society and wanting to fix that.

Perspective #1 might lead someone to try to reduce womens' choice, or shame them, in order to help men. I won't try to convince you to adopt perspective #1.
But perspective #2 is something any feminist should support. We should all want to help people, men or women. Right now, for example, many women face sexual harassment and violence, toxic gender roles, etc. We should help them by making our society more feminist. Likewise, many men face toxic ideas about masculinity (e.g., boys grow up being shamed for crying or talking about their feelings or not having enough sex or being queer or experiencing sexual violence). We should help them, too!
And similarly, if an increasing number of men are lonely, we should seek to understand why and how we can address that loneliness. Not by shaming or harming women, of course! Both men and women are human beings who deserve our care. >

You said we should help them, but what is the actual proposed solution though? So many men are lonely, those we can help them by teaching them how to be more social and form more bonds etc if they are willing.
But the ones that say that are lonely because they can't get dates, they're lonely for one type of company only. What can be done about those? If no one wants to get in a relationship with such a person? What can be done? >

We should try to understand why there is this epidemic of romantic loneliness. A bunch of men can't get dates; why not? What we discover will influence our solution. 
Suppose we discover that 20% of men are growing up to be Nazi sympathizers, and very few women want to date Nazi sympathizers. Then our solution should certainly not be to force women to date Nazi sympathizers. Rather, we should work on finding ways to deradicalize Nazi sympathizers. After all, this will be good not just for the men (who will get dates once we reintegrate them with society) but for society (which will have fewer Nazi sympathizers). Likewise, we should find ways to educate boys so that they are less likely to become Nazi sympathizers.
Less extreme version: Suppose we discover that as women become higher wage earners, they are raising their standards for what kind of men they want to partner with. It used to be they'd put up with husbands who made them do all the housework, because they needed a husband to survive. But now many of them will only take men who are willing to do roughly half the housework. In this case, our solution should not be to force women to accept an unequal share of the housework. Rather, we should work on developing contribution to housework as a value in men, and we should teach men how to perform traditionally "feminine" household tasks.
Suppose instead we discover that men are becoming shyer and are simply not asking women out (and that women tend not to ask men out, because of traditional gender roles). Then we have options. We could teach and encourage girls/women that they can break free of these traditional gender roles if they wish, which is a good thing for society and has a side effect of getting more women to ask out men. Or we could develop greater social confidence in boys and men. >

That makes sense, it's a good answer imo. In my part of the world (middle eastern country), more and more young women are starting to refuse or delay marriage. Those that do marry, more are starting to refuse to have children. The reason is that they're simply not getting anything out of it. They can get companionship from friends, but the rest of what marriage is supposed to fulfill is not worth it. 
If they marry, they have two choices:
1. Work outside of the home and contribute to expenses but also do all of the work in the home and do all of the childcare
2. Work inside the home only and forgo your career but be trapped in the marriage and be unable to leave if anything happens. They have seen how that worked out for their mothers so they're not willing to do the same.
A lot of men are complaining that they cannot get married, but will refuse to even discuss these issues. 
My point is identifying the cause is easy for us, but this suggestion will be shot down every time. Have you ever talked with an incel and tried to make constructive suggestions? You will get denial or hostility every single time. 
Some one who is willing to adapt to fit what is desired is not going to not be able to find a partner out of nearly 4 billion people of the opposite gender. >

Ever have someone tell you, “I don’t want a solution to my problems - I just want to vent”? When men say “women have an easier time finding someone to have sex with,” I don’t think it’s code to advocate for societal change. It’s just something that is. And for some men, that can be really frustrating.
So I think your basic premise is wrong. I don’t think anyone is advocating for a whole upheaval of social norms or making promiscuity illegal. I think when people say that, they’re not looking for solutions - they just want to vent. >

There's a few people. Trad wives. Christian men. I can't say every man or even woman complaining about single men existing are the Christian type, but there's definitely enough to cause concern for me.
The Christian men who are low key think women less than if they have a lot of sex. The women who slut shame. The incels who feel owed etc. 
I will say !delta it is possible that the ones complaining are just that, complaining. >

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As a man, I think women have an easier time finding people to fuck them. 
In terms of relationships, in this day and age, both sexes are pretty down bad in the gutter. >

I mean sure maybe. But that's not really central to my view. I don't care who has it easier and who doesn't. Nothing should be changed. We shouldn't have to encourage women to stay monogamous because poor men will be single. As long as there is no Lying, no one has to be monogamous.