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I said even if.
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There are two ways to approach doing something about the fact that women get more dates than men, and there are increasing numbers of men struggling to find relationships.

Inequality/fairness-centered. "It's unfair that women have more than men." "We need to make things more fair." In extreme forms, this could even involve looking for someone to blame for this perceived injustice - "alpha males", or evolutionary psychology, or feminists. 
Utilitarian perspective. "People, particularly men, are lonelier now than in the past. This is sad. Can we work to address the problem?" This approach involves noticing when life has gotten worse for some portion of society and wanting to fix that.

Perspective #1 might lead someone to try to reduce womens' choice, or shame them, in order to help men. I won't try to convince you to adopt perspective #1.
But perspective #2 is something any feminist should support. We should all want to help people, men or women. Right now, for example, many women face sexual harassment and violence, toxic gender roles, etc. We should help them by making our society more feminist. Likewise, many men face toxic ideas about masculinity (e.g., boys grow up being shamed for crying or talking about their feelings or not having enough sex or being queer or experiencing sexual violence). We should help them, too!
And similarly, if an increasing number of men are lonely, we should seek to understand why and how we can address that loneliness. Not by shaming or harming women, of course! Both men and women are human beings who deserve our care. >

You said we should help them, but what is the actual proposed solution though? So many men are lonely, those we can help them by teaching them how to be more social and form more bonds etc if they are willing.
But the ones that say that are lonely because they can't get dates, they're lonely for one type of company only. What can be done about those? If no one wants to get in a relationship with such a person? What can be done? >

We should try to understand why there is this epidemic of romantic loneliness. A bunch of men can't get dates; why not? What we discover will influence our solution. 
Suppose we discover that 20% of men are growing up to be Nazi sympathizers, and very few women want to date Nazi sympathizers. Then our solution should certainly not be to force women to date Nazi sympathizers. Rather, we should work on finding ways to deradicalize Nazi sympathizers. After all, this will be good not just for the men (who will get dates once we reintegrate them with society) but for society (which will have fewer Nazi sympathizers). Likewise, we should find ways to educate boys so that they are less likely to become Nazi sympathizers.
Less extreme version: Suppose we discover that as women become higher wage earners, they are raising their standards for what kind of men they want to partner with. It used to be they'd put up with husbands who made them do all the housework, because they needed a husband to survive. But now many of them will only take men who are willing to do roughly half the housework. In this case, our solution should not be to force women to accept an unequal share of the housework. Rather, we should work on developing contribution to housework as a value in men, and we should teach men how to perform traditionally "feminine" household tasks.
Suppose instead we discover that men are becoming shyer and are simply not asking women out (and that women tend not to ask men out, because of traditional gender roles). Then we have options. We could teach and encourage girls/women that they can break free of these traditional gender roles if they wish, which is a good thing for society and has a side effect of getting more women to ask out men. Or we could develop greater social confidence in boys and men. >

That makes sense, it's a good answer imo. In my part of the world (middle eastern country), more and more young women are starting to refuse or delay marriage. Those that do marry, more are starting to refuse to have children. The reason is that they're simply not getting anything out of it. They can get companionship from friends, but the rest of what marriage is supposed to fulfill is not worth it. 
If they marry, they have two choices:
1. Work outside of the home and contribute to expenses but also do all of the work in the home and do all of the childcare
2. Work inside the home only and forgo your career but be trapped in the marriage and be unable to leave if anything happens. They have seen how that worked out for their mothers so they're not willing to do the same.
A lot of men are complaining that they cannot get married, but will refuse to even discuss these issues. 
My point is identifying the cause is easy for us, but this suggestion will be shot down every time. Have you ever talked with an incel and tried to make constructive suggestions? You will get denial or hostility every single time. 
Some one who is willing to adapt to fit what is desired is not going to not be able to find a partner out of nearly 4 billion people of the opposite gender. >

Ever have someone tell you, “I don’t want a solution to my problems - I just want to vent”? When men say “women have an easier time finding someone to have sex with,” I don’t think it’s code to advocate for societal change. It’s just something that is. And for some men, that can be really frustrating.
So I think your basic premise is wrong. I don’t think anyone is advocating for a whole upheaval of social norms or making promiscuity illegal. I think when people say that, they’re not looking for solutions - they just want to vent. >

There's a few people. Trad wives. Christian men. I can't say every man or even woman complaining about single men existing are the Christian type, but there's definitely enough to cause concern for me.
The Christian men who are low key think women less than if they have a lot of sex. The women who slut shame. The incels who feel owed etc. 
I will say !delta it is possible that the ones complaining are just that, complaining. >

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As a man, I think women have an easier time finding people to fuck them. 
In terms of relationships, in this day and age, both sexes are pretty down bad in the gutter. >

I mean sure maybe. But that's not really central to my view. I don't care who has it easier and who doesn't. Nothing should be changed. We shouldn't have to encourage women to stay monogamous because poor men will be single. As long as there is no Lying, no one has to be monogamous. >

We should encourage people to do what they want. We’re over correcting in the west and telling people they shouldn’t have families and be committed. Stay at home moms are shamed most by other women. There’s always going to be a bias swaying one way. >

I don't see evidence of that. But even so. That's not really part of my view. 
so what if women decide to be sluts/promiscuous. Don't associate with them if you don't like them. Problem solved >

Didn’t you read my comment, I just said we should encourage people to do what brings them happiness. Whether that means focussing on your career and being single or having a happy family and being at home, or anything in between. 
Usually a society has a narrative that sways one way or the other and we should try to be unbiased. >

OK...? If that's what you said then it doesn't really run counter to my post. Which is. Everyone should do what they want. If you are single and unhappy, it doesn't mean everyone else should give up what makes them happy just to make you happy. 
If you got nothing to say I'm not sure how this changes my view >

You think that "nothing should be done" about it.
The person who responded to you is saying that things are this way because something is being done about it to make it that way, and if we truly let people be to do what they wanted they would act differently.
That directly addresses your issue. You should accept or reject whether you agree with that on the strength of the argument, not just dismiss it as being irrelevant to your view. >

Can confirm this logical redditor accurately conveyed  my point 👍. >

There's 2 things that need to change.
1) People need to start being honest about the "dating market". There is still a lot of falsehoods that are mainstream. This is why ideologies like Red Pill have become popular. They at least attempt a more honest scientific approach. It's also why the Black Pill has become so popular. When people say horseshit all your life about dating, something that resonates for a change becomes very attractive. Even when it's horseshit in many ways as well. 
2) There needs to be a much stronger push to get people to socialize again. It is likely where most of the problems stem from. We've gotten really comfortable in our socially secluded lives with an abundance of entertainment. >

Are we supposed to force them to socialise? If someone says that they're lonely or want to be in a relationship but won't socialise, what are we supposed to do? You can't help people against their will.
In the spirit of being honest about dating, there are people who simply are not able to get into a relationship. No one wants to be in one with them. Nothing can be done about that. >

I mean I want to change your view that it’s easier for women to find someone interested in dating. I think that’s a mighty assumption to make. Single mothers? Women who are disabled? Women who are not peoples idea of beauty? Gay women? Plenty of men get dates/sex too. It’s about determination, respect, what are you looking for, attractiveness.
I’ve really only seen this “women have it easer, men have it so much harder” in incel forums. Not calling you that OP, just saying. Do some women have it easier? Yes. Comparative to who though? 
I heard something today that stuck with me “comparison is the death of joy”. If you compare your lot in life to another’s, you will miss out on all the joy waiting for you in your own life. So yeah that attractive influencer has men in her DMs constantly while you’re sitting on empty tinder message box for month. But not everyone is looking for super model Sandra. Sometimes people want Down to Earth Eddy/Edith. It’s easier to blame women (even if you think you’re not you kinda are). 
As for the rest of your argument, I am having a hard time understanding what you’re arguing for exactly. I think this argument is almost a facade for some not so friendly beliefs towards women. I don’t see any evidence where men don’t enjoy the sexual liberations that women do. In fact, it can be argued they are encouraged to enjoy them at a younger age while women are still stifled in that department until we get to the “why don’t you have a baby yet?”  stage of our lives. >

Personally. My central view is to counter the incel like community. Even if they aren't necessarily incels themselves. My view is, I don't care if men are lonely or that women are promiscuous. And I guess I want it changed or understand what the problem people have. Yes I'm very, in this regard, liberal I guess. Have as much sex. Don't shame others. Wanna be conservative? Stay conservative then. Leave the promiscuous people alone. Problem solved. 
I guess I just don't see the problem with men being single. so fucking what. >

Then I absolutely agree. I don’t think it’s a woman/man issue though. I think if you talk about “why do some men feel unacceptable to be single” (and this goes into some aspects of incel ideology where they feel owed sex/women for being nice guys) is that society puts a man worth from a young age on how many “scores” he has. This completely alienates asexual, demisexual or men who just don’t give a fuck about having a partner. Men are afforded more “leisure” in the promiscuity because a) people think men are sex driven more than woman b) it has roots in homophobia/toxic masculinity. That’s why Alfred at 17 still a virgin is seen as a screw up and Alice, a virgin at 17 is seen as a pure maiden who respects herself. Both are the different flavors of toxic masculinity/misogyny.  That’s why I say some of your comments came off as unnecessarily critical of women’s sexuality. There’s a boogeyman in the closet for sure but it isn’t women’s sexual liberation. It’s other men and how society has made these men feel like their worth is measured. >

OK then we agree? 
I don't see how I'm critical. I literally said to just leave women who fuck around alone. >

Yah we agree on the premise of your argument. I don’t agree with how you worded it in a way that is critical of women’s sexuality. >

since its out of scope of the CMv I don't care. I asked where I was critical and you couldn't answer 
I said leave then alone. How is that critical >

But it is. You said in your CMV, that women have an easier time dating and that’s a fact. I don’t believe they statement is true.