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Yeah I never agreed with calling it selfish. They see it as a way to end their pain.
I mean jumping in front of a car is selfish cause imagine how the driver must feel, but seriously sorry that happened. >

I agree, although it's very controversial. People who call it selfish actually fosters even more guilt and shame, which ironically can push someone to suicide even further, or worse, abstaining, solely to keep other people happy.
I wouldn't want anyone to stay alive just so that I could be happy. That's a LOT of responsibility to put on someone else.  My happiness is my responsibility. If one deems their life has no inherent value and there's no way that they can lead a fulfilling or happy life, maybe due to physical disabilities or something else, I wouldn't want them to feel forced or guilttrip them to stay alive.
Truly that's selfish.
That being said, I also think ending one's own life has a degree of selfishness too. But I don't think selfishness is inherently a bad thing. We all make selfish choices every day to stay alive. I.e. eating dinner instead of going out serving starving, homeless people. >

Thank you! Someone else finally agrees. I remember talking to someone who's brother committed suicide. All I remember was him saying how his brother ruined the family by committing suicide. 
No, he didn't. 
I wanted to slap the dude for saying that. >

I think from a brother's perspective, he's right. Suicides fuck up a family completely. My friend's suicide broke up his family even though they all loved each other, lived under the same roof and talked every day. >

My brother committed suicide. Grief is hard. I often find myself screaming at the sky at him for how selfish it was. He left his daughter. She doesn’t have a dad now. It honestly makes me so mad at him. How do you explain to a child their parent didn’t think they were enough for them to live? 
I love him. But what he did was a bit selfish. I know he’s at peace and in a better place. I know he’s no longer hurting. And I’m happy for him. But he left a lot of hurt behind. And it’s ok for me to be mad at him for that at times. >

I’m sorry for your loss :( this is a touchy subject. Since I haven’t experienced what you have, should I delete this post? Was it too triggering or is good for people to vent their feelings on this? >

I think you should leave the post up. 
It may generate some interesting discussion (I know that's expecting a bit much from Reddit, but I believe).
I think there are some selfish aspects to suicide, in that you don't realize (or just don't care) the grief you're going to put your loved ones through.