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It also gets pretty tiring how they think you’re out of their league.

To be fair they're just being honest with you.
Don’t confuse being a jackass with confidence. Confidence is being able to order your own meal from McDonald’s. Asshole is being entitled with a lack of humbleness >

"Confidence is being able to order your own meal from McDonald’s" - no, almost everyone can do this, and as a rule of thumb if something applies to or explains all people/situations, then it means nothing. I'd say the term "assertive" is better ("having or showing a confident and forceful personality"). Here I can see how OP thinks people considered assertive are not attractive - because they are often full of BS. It also applies to a smaller % of people >

That’s not confidence. That’s being assertive. >


having or showing a confident and forceful personality

Yeah but the definition of assertive literally includes "confident" and amplifies this with "forceful". To elaborate, to have a person regarded as confident by others, their confidence needs to be more pronounced than the average. >

But you don’t need actual confidence to be assertive. >

Confidence is attractive because I don’t want to have to reassure you every 15 seconds. It also gets pretty tiring how they think you’re out of their league. Just leaves a bad taste in your mouth.