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"you should know how to use the basic features of your smartphone by now"
You mean like Do Not Disturb?
My phone's been on silent for almost a decade. I'm a night shifter, so "do not disturb" is programmed to come on automatically during the day while I sleep, just in case there's a notification that ignores the fact my phone is on silent. >

This is the way.
I haven't had an audible notification enabled for a decade either.
That's not necessarily because of sleep, but mostly because I'm not a 12 year old girl. >

Audible notifications being for 12 year old girls is a bit of a stretch. I'll turn my ringer on if I'm expecting something important lol. >

I wear a smartwatch, so I get notifications, including phonecalls, via my watch vibrating. My phone stays completely silent, not even vibrant is on. I've grown to hate unnecessary noises. I have my microwave muted too..I don't need a beep to know it's not running 😅 >

To be honest a smart watch flooding me with notifications sounds even worse >

You just disable everything not important. This is the more key thing. 99% of phone notifications are not time sensitive. They are annoying ads or trash. Disable everything except the essentials. Also stop texting so many people and so often. Who needs to talk that much. >

I leave my phone on silent always because I work night shift, but I have people who blow up at me for responding to messages when I'm awake (at night) because it woke them up.
Bud, if I can figure out how to put my phone on silent, so can you, damn. >

What if someone is trying to reach you with an emergency?  This is the reason I don’t keep my phone on silent. >

Silent for everything except phone calls. If it's an emergency they'll phone. If you're phoning me at 3am without an emergency, fuck you. >

a friend of mine called me 2am at night and wanted to know what video essay about the character dynamics in SpongeBob I talked about a few days earlier... >

Did you fire his from being your friend? >

Killed him >

Woah dude. Overkill much
😄 >

No no. Just normal kill not overkill >

Idk if it's even unpopular oppinion at this point - so many people have their things on silent/vibrate these days (me included). 
The silence things exist for a reason, and i really don't wanna be pinged on whatsapp/discord/whatever at middle of the night, it 98% oft he time isn't that important. >

I keep my phone on silent mode 24/7 but can’t go to sleep with it on vibrate. It needs to be on DND where it doesn’t vibrate or notify me whatsoever as I wake up at the slightest vibration >

Yeah that's understandable - some ppl get waken up by the vibrate. Hence ppl who do should do like you do :'D
Also for my workphone i set it to auto turn on dnd afther 7pm - good idea to everyone who doesn't want vibrates etc >

Bro I’m DND from 9pm to 5 am I won’t get notified if a fucking hurricane hits Denver during those hours. >

Lmao same here except I go from 10:30pm - 9:00am >

Fuck I wish I could do that! That’s 3 hours after when I clock in hahaha >

I’m one of those 9:30am - 5:30pm wage slaves. It was that with no lunch or 9am - 6pm with a lunch. I seldom if ever take them in the first place so I went with that. >

Not too bad I suppose. 
6am to 4:30 pm 2 15 minute paid breaks and a half hour unpaid lunch. >

Yeah, it could definitely be worse. I also work remotely, but I’ve been a remote employee for over twelve years now. I’m less concerned about formal breaks when I’m working from home. When you can walk downstairs and make a sandwich and walk back to your desk and eat it, it’s just different than doing it in an office or onsite somewhere.
When you’re on site you need a break to drop the Mask but at a home office I can be much more relaxed. (And productive for that matter) >

Preach! Totally agreed >

Obviously >

People that sleep with their phone volume on are asking for it. >

There are important, rational reasons to leave your phone volume on. I do it because I am diabetic, and I need the alerts that happen if my blood sugar goes low. That's why granular muting by application, or even by message sender, is vital.
Edit: I guess, in a sense, I am indeed literally asking for it, because that's exactly what I want: to be woken by my phone if a bad thing happens. >

You still have the option to make app exceptions for do not disturb, so there really isn’t a reason it’s someone else’s responsibility to make sure you don’t get certain notifications at certain times of day >

Agreed! It's my phone, my decision, my responsibility. >

My phone is on silent/vibrate all the time I don’t need people knowing I got notifications or a call >

DND always on 24/7.  
Fuck the outside world. >

Alot of Dungeons and Dragons shit has been coming up on my social medias for some reason, and I read that as Dungeons and Dragons >

Do not disturb the dragons in the dungeons.. >

I turn my phone off. >

Here is all you can do on an iPhone (probable equivalent on android)
- schedule Focus modes and/or Do Not Disturb and/or Downtime
- Shedule Summaries,
- Deleting stupid apps
- Deleting unused apps
- Silencing group convos
- Deleting news apps: because if you really want to be informed real time, trust me you'll be. Prefer their website counterpart with a good and free Adblocker (literally called Adblock) which offers a VPN. and Super Agent to automatically refuse cookies.
- Choose to keep these apps? ok but managing notifications in their settings because, no, you don't need to know when somebody upvoted your comment, liked your IG, followed you or sent you a request. You'll deal with it during the millions times you open the app daily, world can wait.
- Automating Focus according to the open app. If I'm reading, playing music, or else, the matching focus starts, only my loved ones' notifications goes through, or important things like uber delivery, weather alerts, etc.
Like OP says, you're given all the damn tools to maximise sleep and well being. If you don't use them, then don't complain. >

Sounds like a lot of time and effort on my part to not be woken up by some asshole texting at 3am. Why can't he just not text at 3am? Why is expecting common courtesy so unreasonable to you? >

the trick is: you don't have to do al of that, you just do two of them, you'll already be far better of.
In addition: you don't just do it for sleep but for work, for your hobbies, children are around. You could do it pro actively or as you go about life and realise you need quite times.
Expecting others' courtesy to not match your schedule the definition of unreasonable... I don't even know how you could ask this one... but that's the point of the post: if you don't set up your device right, they don't complain... >

Why doesn't the sender just set a "do not disturb" of their own and not send outgoing texts or calls during typical non-waking hours? The onus isn't on the recipient because they are a passive participant in the communication which is being sent by the sender, an active participant. 
Would you knock on someones door at 3am and be surprised that they weren't awake? Then why would you call them or text them? >

The sender might not even be expecting an immediate reply, they just sent the message because it was convenient to send it at that time and read the reply the next morning. And even if they were it doesn't matter. Being sent messages while you're asleep is not a problem in the slightest, the act of someone sending you a message doesn't really affect you in any way unless you choose to let it affect you.
You are absolutely an active participant of your own device waking you up. Because it wasn't the text being sent that somehow magically woke you up through the ether, it was your own device ringing and you explicitly allowed it to ring by how you set it up. >

I just want to know how to block blocked msgs on my phone, there's a reason why I blocked them, I don't wanna hear from them! And for some reason they still allow VM and save the msgs. Smh >

I've never even considered this being an opinion let alone unpopular opinion >

Seriously. Especially with the whole “not everyone lives in your time zone” thing. >

I always turn off wifi when I go to sleep. For urgencies, just call me. >

I've got too much anxiety to go radio silent, want to be able to be contacted if it's truly an emergency. But got do I love the mute conversation features on most messaging apps. >

I have too much anxiety for my phone to be reminding me all the time of shit happening that’s not around me. People know how to get through if it’s an emergency >

How is this unpopular? Of course it's your fault, it's your phone >

This shouldn’t be unpopular, but from experience, it is. Sorry friends, but y’all know I’m up at 4 am and I text back when I first wake up. I’m not gonna remember to text back 6hrs later. >

Are your friends 13?
Who would leave sound on and then complain when notifications wake them up >

Are your friends 13? Who would text someone at 3am? >

I didn't say my friends texted me at 3am, Janna. 
If you can't keep up please don't participate >

OPs scenario was someone being bothered by a text at 3am. 
You're the one that needs to keep up. >

My phone is on do not disturb most of the time. It’s definitely on do not disturb every single night. If someone desperately needs to get through to me in an emergency or something, they’ll call me twice in a row and it will ring and wake me up (as has happened before). I wake up at the slightest vibration so my phone needs to be on DND every single night. A lot of days, I don’t turn it off. Sometimes I do during the day. >

I just have my phone on silent unless it's my son. Everyone else can just cope >

Silent mode works better… and always leave the phone face down and mostly out of reach.. >

I use mine everyday from 7pm-7am. Only my Dad, Sister, MIL and Husband can get through for emergencies. They know (except for my Husband who's with me at those times) that I won't answer if it's not an emergency. >

I keep my phone on silent 24/7 and turn on airplane mode when I sleep. That way I’m in charge of my phone instead of it being in charge of me. >

I turn notifications off on almost every app installed. At night i have do not disturb enabled. It has the disadvantage to miss emergency calls. >

My phone is just always on silent if I didn't see you texted oh well I will eventually and Ino get calls unless there spam so 🤷🏻‍♂️ >

There are people who don’t use DND all the time? They must love stress >

Haven't had any of my phones on anything but silent in several years. Some people really believe they are required to have their phones on for their jobs 24/7 and it is so sad. >

I always put my phone on silent when I go to bed, because I find it very hard to sleep. I only turn notifications back on once the alarm goes off and I've gotten up. >

Correctomondo- I also like how I go to bed at 9 and if someone messages me at 11 that’s okay but if I message at 5 when I’m at work that’s not okay
Get fucked losers lol >

Is this an unpopular opinion? Are there truly people out there who don't know how to manage their phone notifications? >

Mostly older people >

Who are you talking about?? Haha like no shit >

Who are you talking about?? Haha like no shit >

DND 24-7. 
If they need me fast they'll call twice. >

I have senior parents I don’t wanna miss an important call if something happens or they need help >

Add their number to your favourites so they can bypass the DND >

Bypass/Favorites is important. I can’t afford to lose sleep because some scammer wants to call me in the early morning. >

DND & emergency bypass for my circle! they know not to hit me up >

I mean... it's your phone. You are responsible for it's settings.  How is this an unpopular opinion? >

This unpopular opinion is that you have the right to disturb me at 3am because I didn't spend three hours customizing all the notification settings on my phone. >

That's 100% on you though.  Your phone, your choice. >

Yes! I had a falling out with a friend at university because I text her at like 1 am and it woke her up. She said she always keeps her phone off silent in case of emergencies, I told her that she could set things up that would allow emergency calls or calls from specific numbers through. She just got more angry. >

Sure, go ahead and tell me more about how I can cater my life and my needs to you, friend. >

Umm if you get woken up by notifications it’s your job to put them on silent, not everyone else’s job to cater to your sleeping habits >

Totally agree, but that touched a nerve with our Canadian friend 😅 >

Tell that to my boss and my guys who call in sick, or drivers having tcomm issue with handhelds at 4am. >

Or people who get all surprised Pikachu when their public Facebook post gets invaded by strangers. Privacy settings are a thing. 😆 >

There are people that still don’t use dnd? Yah, fuck them. My phone is pretty much always on dnd. >

I can still complain about a group that is supposed to be for important thinsg only that drops random minecraft facts at 3am because three dudes cant shut up and the group isnt on silent because it it supossed to be for important things ONLY >

Some people have responsibilities that require them to be on call/text for emergencies and cannot use these features without risking missing more important correspondence. >

Either your job is important enough that you have an on call work phone. Or your employer is putting undue pressure on you to work during time that should be your off hours. >

Agreed. What's the point getting notified that someone is standing at my door at11:45pm if I don't get the notification.
I just block anyone participating in a (non-emergency) 3am group chat that includes me. >

Did anyone say otherwise? That's your phone and it's up to you to make it silent or do whatever you want with it. >

When the pandemic hit & when I was in a dire financial situation, my Aunt let me use her Amazon account to buy shit. The agreement was I would help my little cousin with any questions with his PC. A year later she texted me angrily that my package arrival notification woke her up from sleep & to GTFO. I obliged, but what I didn’t tell her is that I won’t be helping her with anything IT related ever again. >

No, because some of us are on call, even when we sleep. I expect people who have my number to be mindful of the time they call or text. I'm willing to wake up in the middle of the night to help my friends, and do not disturb would prevent me from being able to help. >

Do not disturb has options for that though >

Which options? If it involves going through each of my contacts to set notification preferences, that's not a reasonable ask. >

You favorite/star the people you want to allow through. It takes like 2 seconds. I’m not going to remember that there is one person in my contacts that I’m not supposed to text at certain times. Your notifications are your responsibility. >

If a friend texts me before midnight or after 7 AM I'm not going to be mad, but a message at 3AM is going to be annoying. I didn't realize 12:00 AM - 6:00 AM was considered a polite time to text anyone, I thought that it was common courtesy to avoid texting and calling in the early morning hours. >


I thought that it was common courtesy to avoid texting and calling in the early morning hours.

It is, these people are just inconsiderate morons. >

They’re not though… turn off the notifications >

"Software always works as intended and apps and updates don't fuck with your phone settings."
Sure buddy :) >

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