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I use the big stall when it’s open but I wouldn’t blame someone for being pissed lol
I've had people "bang" on stall doors who aren't in wheelchairs, too. I think it's when they really really need to poop. >

Yeah, that feeling of "I'm seriously going to shit my pants" can make people do things they normally would not do. >

Yes, sometimes it even makes them shit their pants. >

That's one option, yes. 
Better than getting arrested. >

Why not do both? >

Disabled parking is reserved. Disabled stalls aren't. They are available,  not reserved. >

That's why they have just started using the term "accessible" instead of handicapped. >

I have yet to even be in the same restroom as a disabled person. If that stall is open, I use it. >

I have once and I felt so bad. I had to pee so bad at a bar and the first stall was the accessible one not the last. So even though the rest were open I just ran to the nearest potty. And as soon as I stepped out I saw a girl in a chair waiting. >

Hahah that's like something from a movie. Why'd you have to go so badly? >

I was at a bar, I’d had a few drinks and it just hit like a train >

Haha did you calmly walk to the bathroom or was it a bit of a speedwalk situation >

Calm but like with purpose. This was like 7 years ago I don’t remember too many details and specifics I just remember feeling bad. >

It's handicap accessible, not handicap only. >

Often times too the baby changing table is in there >

And they fit an entire stroller. When my son was still here, I always used the bigger stall, I didn't want to hold my baby in my arms while pooping. >

Also, for parents, the big stalls are typically the only stalls with a changing table in them. >

This is the comment. Its usually where the only changing table is located. >

Or enough space if you have to do it on the floor >

Speaking as someone who is disabled, has a service dog, and doesn't fit in normal stalls...... 
I absolutely agree with you. There is NOTHING wrong with using a disability accessible stall if there's no one in it! It's a damn toilet; it's there to be used, even when a person with a disability could show up at any second! Just because I have a disability does NOT mean that I can't wait my turn! 
Now, I will say that if the disability stall opens up, and you're the next one in line with a disabled person directly behind you, it is kind to offer it to the disabled person, simply because it's easier for a stall to open up that you can use so it will happen faster for you than it would for the disabled person, but, again, that's just if you want to be nice! At no point is that expected of you! You are allowed to go, nope, I really gotta pee, I'm not willing to wait, and just take your turn and I'll just wait my turn. 
I hate when people try to act like disabled people should all be tip toed around and given whatever they want just because they're disabled. I find it to be deeply infantilizing, and I don't want people to do it because I want to be treated like an adult. 
You're doing just as you should, and this really shouldn't be an unpopular opinion. >

I’ve had this happen to me. I’ve had 4 surgeries on my foot and have very little bone left in that part of my foot. Getting up from the toilet I need to lift myself up with the wall bars. Had a lady absolutely flip her shit on me when I came out of the handicap stall, walking with a cane no less, screaming about how I had no right to be in there. She was not in a wheel chair. There were 3 stalls available to her. >

I had a lady at an amusement park recently make a passive aggressive comment about how disabled seating is supposed to be for handicapped people and their families (after my wife asked her grandson to not stand directly in front of her). I am disabled (shattered vertebrate in back). The funny thing is, the passive aggressive lady was in a mobility scooter that the park rents. 🙄 >

Handicapped stalls aren't reserved for handicapped. they're just handicapped capable.
if the other stalls are full, go for it. >

I agree with this WITH the caveat that, if there's a line for stalls and someone who needs the HC stall is in the line, let them use it as soon as it becomes available. Because that's the only stall they can use, and if they first have to get to the front of the line, and then wait for that one stall to be open, its going to clog the line for everyone.
Whereas, as soon as they are through and done, any person can use any stall as it becomes available, and no one is hanging around waiting and crowding the room.
BTW, I have a disability. Before anyone gets their panties in a knot. >

This is exactly how I always thought it should go. >

Like all of us, we have to wait. Disability or not. Especially if you’re a woman at a public event, there’s typically a line up. The stall exists not to avoid the line but to provide accessibility. An opinion I can get on board with OP! >

It's not reserved for them, it's just there so they can use it. >

I've only been unlucky enough to be using a big stall while a disabled person needed it one time in my life. She indeed yelled, banged, and acted ridiculously pissed off. I apologized when I came out and she looked at me like I was the worst person in the world. >

I agree with this. It is important for people with visible disabilities to also recognize that some people have invisible disabilities that an accessible restroom/stall can better accommodate. Those restrooms are not wheelchair access only and we are not the disability police. 
I say this as someone who does have a visible disability, uses a wheelchair, and has caught myself being unnecessarily (but quietly) judgemental of bodies that appear able using the accessible restroom when I really had to go. >

I will say I have issues with mobility and one place I was the stalls were so narrow I couldn't move at all in them, and I waited for a long time for the handicap accessible stall to open. I ended up looking to see it if was occupied and it was occupied by two people having sex. I ended up going to management and they refused to do anything. I then walked into the men's room going "Can I use the handicap accessible stall, there's two people having sex in the other one" the guys were really, really cool with that and didn't give two shits. >

I've never encountered people hooking up in an accessible restroom, but that is a very different circumstance and issue than someone using it for its intended purpose who, upon first glance, does not appear to have a visible disability. >

Yeah, I have medical issues, and don't feel comfortable around others, either. Some men hate urinals. Not everyone pisses the same way. >

Yup. And there's still a queue folks. Accessible stall could be taken because it's the only one that was available in a long line of folks. You'll get your turn. >

Unless their disability is the inability to wait, they're going to have to wait. >

At most, it will take me 2 minutes to pee and I'm not going to shove a handicapped person out of the way to get in there to begin with, so if I'm there first they can definitely wait the minute and a half. >

Those bathrooms can be used by anyone, wheelchair uses get preference if they are actually in the bathroom >

Banging and yelling outside the door seems absolutely insane to me. If someone starts banging on the door, how the hell do they know the person in there isn't in a wheelchair or something?
People are talking about how no one should get troubled leaving the toilet as they could have invisible disabilities, but if the person is banging on the door and yelling through it then for all they know the person in the stall could also have very visible disabilities. 
It's just makes absolutely no sense to me why someone would do that. >

People with visible disabilities shouldn't get aggro with anyone using the handicapped stall because invisible disabilities do exist. 
IBS, Crohn's, etc.
But, is it that hard to wait an extra minute or two if you're able bodied and not in dire straits?
I try to treat them like handicapped parking. I won't say never, but it's very rare. >

Do you need the big stall if you have IBS or Crohns? >

You might not need the big stall, but I can see where you need the first open stall. If that happens to be the big stall, so it goes.
If someone rushes into a public restroom in obvious distress, who would tell them no? Not me. >

So you are saying we should always leave a stall empty just in case someone shows up with that disease… uh huh >

No I am not saying that.
I am saying that if you personally are not in any urgent need, don't use the handicap stall.
Simple human courtesy >

personal anecdote: i must have been in many thousands of public restrooms of all types all across the US and in many other countries. I’ve never once i don’t think seen a wheelchair bound individual in there with me. hmm >

But it’s not just wheelchairs.  I had some sever knee issues.  Had surgery.  I need the handicap stall for the hand rails and the higher toilet.  Other wise I could t wipe my ass and could barely stand up. >

good point thank you! >

I actually go a step further with that logic:  
for me the 'disabled' signs should mean 'priority' for these people, not exclusivity. 
So, if there's a disabled person somewhere, they should get priority for that stall / seat in the bus / parking spot. But as long as nobody's around, everyone should be able to use it.  
In my country it's especially bad with the disbaled parking spaces cause the law requires that for every, I dunno, like 30 regular parking spaces, they have one for disabled people, which leads to large parking spaces having dozens and dozens of disabled parking spots with nobody ever in it, or like one or two at the most. 
Priority should not mean exclusivity. >

Ideally, you're probably right. But realistically, you know those spots would always be full if that were the case. And how often are you trying to enter the same bathroom stall as someone? I think it needs to be accessible, but I see where you're coming from. >

Sure, I see the issue with the parking spots. Cause at least in the bus or at the stalls, the person who is using the space is there to instantly make way for the disabled person, while with the car, the owner might be lost somewhere in the shopping center. 
I'm sure there's a solution for that somewhere, but my point was mostly from the philosophical standpoint. >

From tbe philosophical stnlandpoint, the parkind spots would never be abailable to disabled people. Philosophy also takes reality into account. >

This is Larry David’s burner account, isn’t it? 😏 >

I never went there, despite "qualifying" technically. That being said, I "qualify" to the least amount possible. At that point the possible debate is way worse than the convenience you may gain. >

Where are you people at that this routinely happens? Not once in 25 years have I ever had someone besides a friend/family member bang on the door/stall. >

I've noticed quite a few places that put baby change tables in these stalls. It always feels a bit weird changing my baby's diaper in these stalls, but I can see how it makes sense given the space available. >

Its not really entitlement when you don't have any other options... >

I’d be so willing to offer the disabled stall ahead of me to someone who needs it, but if that’s what’s free and I’m next in line… sorry I’m using it!