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I get what you’re saying. I mean I don’t think people should be insensitive and I do believe it’s an insensitive thing to say to someone who is suffering. So I agree with that.
You are unlucky to be in a crash. Now that you are in the throes of a crash you are lucky to make it out of the crash alive. >

Throes* >

Why can't we just manufacture self-driving cars made out of feather pillows? >

Or just use 22 pounds of bubble wrap and a leaf blower ‼️‼️ >

You're crazy though, homey. Crashes are going to occur regardless of safety measures. Although humans are fallible, you're less likely to die from a car crash than at any point in the past. You should rightfully thank scientists, physicists, material specialists, metallurgists, etc for the knowledge they've gained from decades of research. >

Nah, I was lucky.  When I was 13 my grandma rolled the car I was in four times.   None of the five of us had seat belts on as people just didnt wear sear belts back then (mid 80s).  I came out of it with a scrape on my knee.  No one was ejected which is what usually kills people in rollovers. My grandparents had bad bruising, I think I bounced off my grandfather multiple times, but otherwise we all lived.  Very lucky. >

i was lucky too. my ex boyfriend was racing someone and we hit a fence going 95 miles an hour & the fence went through the engine and the windshield and hit me in the face. no seatbelt. windows were down. i’m a small woman. i should’ve got ejected. my face was FUCKED. i came out with internal bleeding and almost lost my eye but i’m sitting here 5 months later. being alive is surreal. >

I’m so glad to hear you’re okay JFC. I’m also curious if this is the reason he’s an ex… >

obviously they’re unlucky for the situation to happen in the first place, but they’re lucky to not have died >

Yes, but surviving the crash wouldn't have even been a factor if they didn't get in the crash in the first place, hence, bad luck. >

I'm always mildly infuriated that I survive a car crash. >

Fr it always ruins my mornings >

Precisely >

Sure if you want a pessimistic outlook on everything >

Beyond being pessimistic. They're lamenting the loss of a perfectly good opportunity to play victim. >

Just by statistic if you are driving there is 100% chance of getting into accident at some point. Almost every driver will experience accident in their life. So no, you are not unlucky for getting into accident, it was supposed to happen at some point. 
But how much you hurt is ambiguous, where you need all the luck. >

Yes but regardless of statistics, at any given moment, the car crash is inherently bad luck, unless you do it on purpose. >

What do you mean regardless of statistics? Luck is what we call rare statistic phenomena by definition. If something happens statistically rare that person is lucky, or unlucky depends on the outcome. 
If everyone hassame bad shit happen to them, and when it happens to you it doesn’t mean you are unlucky. >

Because luck on an individual basis is just random. We are talking about a particular incident here, I'll rephrase; statistics aren't relevant to this hypothetical. >

I had a stroke a number of years ago and I consider myself very lucky because of how little damage it did to me.  
Getting the whiplash injury that resulted in my stroke was unlucky.
What was lucky was the area and size of the stroke was minimally damaging, I finished work early that day and wasn't driving at the time, my gf (now wife) came home literally minutes before it hit and got me to the hospital immediately, and that I am a very short distance from one of the best stroke centers in the US.  
I would definitely say that I was very lucky that everything worked out so that it only amounted to a bad week and a few months of blood thinners rather than a fatal accident or permanent disability if even one of those other things had not occurred. >

Joe? >

I don't know if this is a reference to something or a genuine question, but nope. >

I have a friend called Joe. He had a stroke in his 30s, but is at this point pretty much back to normal. >

We all need cars from demolition man >

Or Death proof.
Buy unfortunately it only works if you're in the driver's seat >

Sounds like the live action Speed Racer movie..when you crash, you get bubble wrapped >

I've grown to hate it after my head on collision that I flipped twice in coming home super late from work. It was my last shift at a horrible location in my career and I was supposed to start my transfer two days later. Dude that hit me was some bum that decided his time was more precious that he tried to pass the cars in front of him just to hit me.and of course his ride is fine except a headlight and he is perfectly sound. I had No broken bones, but tell that to my bulging lower disks in my back, the mashed and mangled muscles in my right part of my ass and hip. Couldn't sit normally for months and still have trouble now and then. Couldn't even hold my kids. Then all the financial stuff.... Then to add the price of cars skyrocketed in just the year span we had the totaled car. That same car went for almost $4000 more (for the same make and similar mileage) than we got it for the previous year. I didn't come out ahead. I came out marked for life. >

Sounds rough dude, hope things go better for you bro‼️ >

It has ups and downs. I can still work, and love on my babies. More stress obviously, but things really got put into perspective, for better and worse. Hope things go better for you as well!! >

I’m split. I survive by focusing on every scrap of good I can get out of difficult times, and it makes sense to want to help other people feel more positive, too. I do think “man, you’re lucky” can be taken as flippant or dismissive so I usually say, “That’s really rough, I’m glad you’re going to be ok.” (Or asking are you going to be ok, or something.) I hope it doesn’t do the same thing. >

Yeah don't get me wrong, I'm not arguing against a positive outlook on situations, just to speak mindfully to or around the affected person(s). Also, good on you that's a great alternative to use. >

I know people who've been born with every advantage and some with every disadvantage, and I know people from both groups who are winners, in the sense they live a happy productive life, and people from both groups that are losers living miserable fucked up lives. The difference is not in where they started from. It's in their attitude. >

A good attitude always helps. >

Not been in a car accident, but have nearly died. 
Am I lucky to be alive, yes. Did I feel lucky afterwards? Not so much. 
It took ~2 ish years for me to start feeling like myself again after my medical event. During that time I had horrible pain, depression, social isolation issues and couldn’t drive. Had 4 specialist appointments a month that were sending me broke. At my lowest I wished my medical episode had actually killed me. 
Lucky to be alive yes but the physical and emotional toll rehab takes is not really spoken about enough, nor are you really warned about it >

Glad you're doing better man :) >

I can assure you after colliding with another vehicle at 60 mph, being partially ejected through the windshield (in the days before seatbelt laws), and kicking my badly crushed door open to escape a now fully engulfed in flames pickup truck, walking away without a scratch, I was indeed “lucky.”  Bonus?  The other driver was uninjured, too. >

Well, in my country, we say : " Congrats for still staying alive with your heart and soul."
So, compared to those who lost their heart and soul, anyone who survived a car crash is definitely lucky. >

I like this >

We are all lucky that a meteor hasn't collided with our planet. Basically... being alive = lucky >

In that case I'm lucky the vibration frequency of the atoms in my body haven't caused me to combust yet. >

I hate how religious people will say someone they know only survived by the grace of god, while the people in the other car all died. So stupid. >

This is exactly what was said to me when my fiance and I were in a horrific crash. I lived (obviously) but he died. 
The absolute, unthinking gall of the people who assured me, afterward, that "God must have been protecting" me... I can't even... 
Anyway, that was my first step toward leaving religion. What a bunch of monsters. >

That’s called toxic positivity. >

hey, I'll take it. >

You never know what worse fate your bad luck has saved you from >

A worse hypothetical outcome does not make yours any better >

Nah but it does. If something bad happens to you that protects you from something far worse then it was good luck to have that thing happen.
If you got sick and had to call into your job at the twin towers the day of 9/11 then you had the most amazing luck in getting sick that you could have. 
You would have to consider getting sick that day the luckiest thing that ever happened to you. 
Now just imagine how many things and times we’ve dodged an event that would have been life altering or ending in thanks to something apparently bad happening. In most cases it’s not a 9/11 level event we would all be aware of but just a subtle timing mixup that could prevent a worse outcome.
You should watch the movie Bullet Train >

I get what you're saying, but i feel like it's still ultimately very bad luck if your workplace gets bombed, even if the alternative is you perishing as well.
Honestly, this topic is definitely more nuanced that i thought it would be, i was kinda generally referring to people saying this sort of deal to like burn victims or cancer survivors etc etc. I just feel like it can be a bit insensitive to call someone lucky after something horrible happened to them