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  When I read this didn't feel happy, or motivated, felt fucking defeated man. This must be how women view men? Majority of comments supported everything said here as well.
  I'm never going to be good enough, not good looking, or my personality.
  
  OP, all that said was "men need to actually contribute something to a relationship".
  This is, simply put, about you, not about them. You're depressed, anxious, don't like yourself very much, and have been posting every day or two for months about how miserable and hopeless you are.
  You are stuck in a state of bad mental health like so many other young people are (and yes, many of those people are women, too). You know this, of course. You've said it yourself quite recently. You feel like you're stuck, that it's too late for you, that you cannot change in the ways you want to, and that your life is just going to stay where it is forever.
  Believe me, I get it. I've been there. It's horrible and scary and so hard to escape from on your own. But it won't help to reinforce and reaffirm the thoughts that depression and anxiety want to guide you toward. They aren't helping, they're just sustaining the same self-destructive cycle you're already in. Your life can be better, it really can. I promise, because I know.
  But you have to give up the notion that change is impossible. As long as you're attached to the idea that it is - largely out of fear of what changing might ask of you - it's very hard to actually make those changes and develop and grow. Right now, you think what your depression screams at you is rational and correct and that other people just can't see it, and that's how every depressed person feels because that's what depression is. It distorts the inputs to your thought so much that a reasonable mind will still come to the wrong conclusions.
  What you're doing isn't working. You know this. You need to try something - anything - different.
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  "work on improving yourself and being a better person"
  I have no idea how someone could meet those standards
  
  The standards in this rant are not that high. It asks men to have some self improvement (which all people should), and asks them to be respectful. This isnt a high standard. This is the bare minimum (again. Regardless of gender, I wouldnt date a truly disrespectful woman either)
  It doesnt even mention being good looking like what you talk about. I wont pretend being attractive isnt better for someone looking to date regardless of gender, but the actual rant makes no mention of men needing to be a certain appearance or attractiveness. >
  
  "You need to actually add something positive to our life otherwise we'd rather just be without a man"
  This is the overwhelming part, considering women make more and already have companionship, what do I add to a woman's life? >
  
  Do you have hobbies you can introduce her to? Talents? A cool idea that requires two people to perform?
  Adding something positive to a partners life doesnt need to be some world shaking difference. Literally just adding 'warm hugs' is something some people might want, on top of the extra partnership benefits like sharing housework, more income, etc. >
  
  
  Do you have hobbies you can introduce her to? Talents? A cool idea that requires two people to perform?
  
  No, have hobbies I'm interested in but women wouldn't care about. >
  
  Youre sniffing some andrew tate pipeline shit. Shut up. Women are people, and just as varied as men. Any hobby you have, there is 100% chance that a woman has at least an interest in that hobby.
  Are you gonna say girls dont like anime and video games? Not enough girls in the MTG scene? Shut up and start looking. They are there I promise you. I'm not gonna accuse you of liking any fucked up shit, but even if youre into some super sus shit theres a woman thats interested. >
  
  
  Women are people, and just as varied as men. Any hobby you have, there is 100% chance that a woman has at least an interest in that hobby?
  
  Do Women build and enjoy building teams on Madden? Where are the women in my area who enjoy metal detecting? I'm saying from experience that women are not into the things I enjoy. >
  
  Again, stop sniffing that pipe. There are women that would enjoy Madden. Maybe not as much as men, but they exist. And metal dectecting? 
  I guarantee that any decent guy could get at least a first date with a unique line like "Oh yeah, we could walk the beach with a metal detector and see what we find. We'll split the keys and change lol." Or something along those lines. 
  And when I say decent I don't mean a 10/10 super guy. Just a normal, not hugely out of shape guy that has a socially acceptable level of hygiene. Have you read some of the stories on reddit about people who date literal bottom of the barrel trash? Thats the bar. If you can't hit that and be a "decent" guy then you have some problems that arent "womens high standards" >
  
  
  Like I have no idea how someone can meet these standards.
  
  My guy you realize that rant basically just said don't be a dick and provide some sort of positive influence in a woman's life?? That's too high of a bar for you? To be nice and a positive influence? It literally didn't even specify anything specific, they just said provide something like....anything. That's such a low bar.
  
  Women will make more, have friends for companionship, have a vibrator bigger than my dick. Seriously what are guys even doing anymore?
  
  Yikes. Ok so...in order, no they don't, you can be one of those friends too if you're not a dick, and so what? This bit here is very telling on you my guy.
  
  everyone already hates me because I'm a white guy lol
  
  Yikes again. I'm a white dude. Not everybody hates me. Just don't be a dick. Be an ally to marginalized groups. It's really not that hard. >
  
  "You need to actually add something positive to our life otherwise we'd rather just be without a man"
  This is the overwhelming part, considering women make more and already have companionship, what do I add to a woman's life? >
  
  Women do not make more. I don't know where you're getting that from. And shouldn't you endeavor to improve the lives of anyone you care about? Shit man, I'd hope you would have at least as much as a standard for any woman you'd want to be with, or hell man, I'd hope you have that standard for even platonic friends. 
  Literally you can improve someone's life in so many ways. Be fun to be around, be handy, be smart, be funny, be kind. Literally pick any positive adjective that someone might want in their life and be that. Work on getting better at negative traits and improve on your positives. It's really not a very high bar and frankly you should already be doing this whether it gets you laid or not. No one is going to want you in their life if you make their life worse. It's not that hard to understand. >
  
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  Totally get what you're saying. I suppose it's the fact that I'm only as good as what I bring that's the problem. I'm going to be honest, a lot of this sounds like manipulation in a sense. I'm basically just doing those things so people like me more, being the handy guy or whatever. >
  
  
  I'm going to be honest, a lot of this sounds like manipulation in a sense. I'm basically just doing those things so people like me more, being the handy guy or whatever.
  
  It's only manipulation if you're trying to make people believe you're something you aren't. If you are actually helping people in the process of getting people to see you as helpful, that's not a lie, that's just people seeing you as you are (whatever your motivation might be). >
  
  Fair enough! It sucks having to do stuff I don't want to do but guess that's what being an adult is all about. >
  
  It's a part of it, but probably not in the way that you think.
  People don't go about their lives going "well i have to do X so I'm doing X". Or most people don't, anyway.
  What people do do is go "I want Y, and Y is behind X, so I will do X to get Y". The trick is to connect X and Y in your head, so that your want for Y becomes want for X.