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  I recall reading… somewhere that people from the Southeastern US as far less likely to tolerate disrespect than anyone else in the country. I can’t speak to how well that works out for them, but seems a bit better than the almost crippling passivity the Pacific Northwest
context: I think the opposite, patience and understanding is a virtue but I feel like this isnt as unpopular as you think >
  
  Ya, in most cases, unless the circumstances are very severe, it's best I believe to maintain your calm, try to be indifferent. 
  An emotional or defiant response would likely  stick with me - no living in my my head rent-free.  I don't need that drama.
  Among other things, like personal safety, etc. >
  
  The majority of the time when you're angry at someone, that person does not care. Not even a little bit. Most of the time when you're angry the only thing you're accomplishing is ruining your own day. Don't get me wrong, if someone is making you feel unsafe or being violent sometimes you need to stand up for yourself, but the whole defending your honor thing is ignorant and counterproductive. Telling an asshole they're an asshole is a futile endeavor that only wastes your time. When someone disrespects you, the best response is to ignore them and continue living your life. >
  
  If they don't care, make them care, sometimes it's satisfying being a petty bitch >
  
  It's not going to be satisfying when you do it to the wrong person and get murdered or crippled for your trouble.
  That's the real reason you don't retaliate over every petty slight. It's not because of the legal consequences you might face, it's because we live in a society where far, far too many people think they have a right to violence against anyone who pisses them off for any reason. >
  
  People are deserving of dignity.  But people are not entitled to respect, I do not retaliate to lack of respect because if they don't respect me then well... they don't respect me. I can either do something to gain their respect if it matters or I can just not give a shit. >
  
  really because i think people need to be taught to chill the fuck out more and enjoy life instead of getting into beef over meaningless instances of "disrespect". just chill the fuck out. >
  
  I think there is a way to stand firm when you need to without lashing out - and learning when and how to do that mean growing up right. It’s just concerning when you use words like “not accept disrespect at all” because everything depends. 
  And at the end of the day, you need to learn to let a lot of things go to make it easier on yourself. You get into the world, and you’ll see how exhausting it would be to react to any disrespect. Life is too short for that… these days, I save my energy for the good times. :)
  Source: lessons learned living in NYC