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  Had a professor once give his relevant take on this. He’d call people up one at a time and ask them to put up their hand (like for a high 5). He’d press the palm of his hand against yours and push. Some would resist and give force. Others would let him push their hand back willingly. The point being that people often have a choice, bend or break. Long term, it’s good to learn how to bend at least some of the time.
context: I think the opposite, patience and understanding is a virtue but I feel like this isnt as unpopular as you think >
  
  Ya, in most cases, unless the circumstances are very severe, it's best I believe to maintain your calm, try to be indifferent. 
  An emotional or defiant response would likely  stick with me - no living in my my head rent-free.  I don't need that drama.
  Among other things, like personal safety, etc. >
  
  The majority of the time when you're angry at someone, that person does not care. Not even a little bit. Most of the time when you're angry the only thing you're accomplishing is ruining your own day. Don't get me wrong, if someone is making you feel unsafe or being violent sometimes you need to stand up for yourself, but the whole defending your honor thing is ignorant and counterproductive. Telling an asshole they're an asshole is a futile endeavor that only wastes your time. When someone disrespects you, the best response is to ignore them and continue living your life. >
  
  If they don't care, make them care, sometimes it's satisfying being a petty bitch >
  
  It's not going to be satisfying when you do it to the wrong person and get murdered or crippled for your trouble.
  That's the real reason you don't retaliate over every petty slight. It's not because of the legal consequences you might face, it's because we live in a society where far, far too many people think they have a right to violence against anyone who pisses them off for any reason. >
  
  People are deserving of dignity.  But people are not entitled to respect, I do not retaliate to lack of respect because if they don't respect me then well... they don't respect me. I can either do something to gain their respect if it matters or I can just not give a shit. >
  
  really because i think people need to be taught to chill the fuck out more and enjoy life instead of getting into beef over meaningless instances of "disrespect". just chill the fuck out. >
  
  I think there is a way to stand firm when you need to without lashing out - and learning when and how to do that mean growing up right. It’s just concerning when you use words like “not accept disrespect at all” because everything depends. 
  And at the end of the day, you need to learn to let a lot of things go to make it easier on yourself. You get into the world, and you’ll see how exhausting it would be to react to any disrespect. Life is too short for that… these days, I save my energy for the good times. :)
  Source: lessons learned living in NYC >
  
  I recall reading… somewhere that people from the Southeastern US as far less likely to tolerate disrespect than anyone else in the country. I can’t speak to how well that works out for them, but seems a bit better than the almost crippling passivity the Pacific Northwest >
  
  It doesn't work out well at all. People here will get arrested and ruin their lives just because someone laughed at them or made eye contact too long. >
  
  Different environments seem to have an effect on tolerance for disrespect. Certain cities people seem more on edge, in general, and confrontational >
  
  Florida has entered the chat >
  
  Florida is one that comes to mind yes haha >
  
  Had a professor once give his relevant take on this. He’d call people up one at a time and ask them to put up their hand (like for a high 5). He’d press the palm of his hand against yours and push. Some would resist and give force. Others would let him push their hand back willingly. The point being that people often have a choice, bend or break. Long term, it’s good to learn how to bend at least some of the time. >
  
  This is a bad take.  Getting but hurt about minor indiscretions is weakness not a strength.   There can always be a time and place to defend one's self but those incidents will be the exception and not the norm.  
  TLDR/ honor culture is dumb. >
  
  So we should just all be punching each other in the street over real or perceived disrespect? That doesn't seem like an improvement. >
  
  Respect is earned....there is common courtesy that should always be given to all- but respect is something each person earns. >
  
  Sometimes, it’s not worth it. Best to just turn the other cheek. >
  
  Please use commas >
  
  This is the line of thinking that gets us leaders like Justin Trudeau. 
  Not everyone is going to like you.  Deal with it. >
  
  What a racy opinion. >
  
  It doesn't get you anywhere. >
  
  If someone disrespects me or intentionally try to put me down, I feel sorry for them. I was bullied a lot at school and was taught/ learnt that they want a reaction. Recently I’ve adopted the philosophy that they must be in a pretty bad place if they need to put someone else down in order to raise themselves up >
  
  i feel like this mindset will just encourage people to overreact...
  "oh you bumped into me, i'm going to beat your ass for disrespecting..." >
  
  I think the opposite, patience and understanding is a virtue but I feel like this isnt as unpopular as you think >
  
  Ya, in most cases, unless the circumstances are very severe, it's best I believe to maintain your calm, try to be indifferent. 
  An emotional or defiant response would likely  stick with me - no living in my my head rent-free.  I don't need that drama.
  Among other things, like personal safety, etc. >
  
  The majority of the time when you're angry at someone, that person does not care. Not even a little bit. Most of the time when you're angry the only thing you're accomplishing is ruining your own day. Don't get me wrong, if someone is making you feel unsafe or being violent sometimes you need to stand up for yourself, but the whole defending your honor thing is ignorant and counterproductive. Telling an asshole they're an asshole is a futile endeavor that only wastes your time. When someone disrespects you, the best response is to ignore them and continue living your life. >
  
  If they don't care, make them care, sometimes it's satisfying being a petty bitch >
  
  It's not going to be satisfying when you do it to the wrong person and get murdered or crippled for your trouble.
  That's the real reason you don't retaliate over every petty slight. It's not because of the legal consequences you might face, it's because we live in a society where far, far too many people think they have a right to violence against anyone who pisses them off for any reason. >
  
  People are deserving of dignity.  But people are not entitled to respect, I do not retaliate to lack of respect because if they don't respect me then well... they don't respect me. I can either do something to gain their respect if it matters or I can just not give a shit. >
  
  really because i think people need to be taught to chill the fuck out more and enjoy life instead of getting into beef over meaningless instances of "disrespect". just chill the fuck out. >
  
  I think there is a way to stand firm when you need to without lashing out - and learning when and how to do that mean growing up right. It’s just concerning when you use words like “not accept disrespect at all” because everything depends. 
  And at the end of the day, you need to learn to let a lot of things go to make it easier on yourself. You get into the world, and you’ll see how exhausting it would be to react to any disrespect. Life is too short for that… these days, I save my energy for the good times. :)
  Source: lessons learned living in NYC >
  
  I recall reading… somewhere that people from the Southeastern US as far less likely to tolerate disrespect than anyone else in the country. I can’t speak to how well that works out for them, but seems a bit better than the almost crippling passivity the Pacific Northwest >
  
  It doesn't work out well at all. People here will get arrested and ruin their lives just because someone laughed at them or made eye contact too long. >
  
  Different environments seem to have an effect on tolerance for disrespect. Certain cities people seem more on edge, in general, and confrontational >
  
  Florida has entered the chat >
  
  Florida is one that comes to mind yes haha