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  Looked at your post history. You are probably irrirated that you care more about your partners struggles than she does for you, right?
context: Depends on how big their issues are and how much they offload them on you, of course. Some people become horrible people when they're struggling. Or turn to alcohol or drugs and become obnoxious and repetitive. Or turn up at your house at 3am with a 10ft tree they've dug out of the ground and expect you to be happy about the tree, get annoyed that you're not happy about the trail of mud to your door,  or the tree really,  and throw a chair at your computer and break your new speakers. >
  
  Would you just give up on that partner after witnessing them at this very low point? >
  
  Ha no, though i probably should be the kind of person that would, but I would expect a proper explicit apology and recognition of the upset they caused me. >
  
  Dealing with people who constantly have issues can be exhausting. You are forced to deal with your own issues and that sucks, but they are choosing to stick with you even though they don't need to.  This shoud'nt be taken for granted. >
  
  What if I support them but they aren’t willing to support me? >
  
  Then that is on you to decide if the relationship is still worth it. 
  Even some of the healthiest relationships have boundaries they know their partner is not willing to cross >
  
  So it’s a boundary to desire support from your partner for some that’s causing you pain? >
  
  What? You are being so vague it is hard to give you a proper answer >
  
  Is it wrong to expect some healing form a partner when you’re struggling ? >
  
  Depends on too many things to answer. What level of support are you demanding, how long have you been with your partner, how regularly do you expect support, and frankly, how annoying are you when you need support. >
  
  There it is: how annoying. I have to make my issues palatable. I don’t believe in love being a performance >
  
  Yeah well being around someone who is annoying you and having to remain kind and patient is emotionally draining and tiring. I am patient but I have my limits. >
  
  I'll never understand this. My partner annoys me when he forgets his keys or won't budge on a serious issue. And even then, its an endearing kind of annoyance. My partner being emotionally in flux and needing support is not annoying. It's entirely human and part of my job is to make sure he feels understood, listened to, and cared for. If you look at your partner experiencing emotional instability and only feel annoyance and impatience, I'm not really sure you actually love them. Expecting them to cope with that on their own and/or suck it up so it's at an acceptable level for you is kind of awful. Everyone is responsible for their own emotions, sure. But if they want or need more support than you're willing to give, and they are hurting because of it, it's best for you to let them go instead of force them to adapt to your needs. If you're incompatible, you're incompatible. Focus on finding someone who needs limited support, but also be well aware that everyone experiences some form of depression, anxiety, or other mental health issue and may not act in a way that is non-annoying for you. >
  
  This is going to devolve into pure semantics and "Don't do the most extreme version of X" countered with "Well don't do the most extreme version of Y", wash, rinse, repeat.
  You can be a friend or a partner.  You can't be a therapist.  And I don't think it is anywhere near as difficult as people are going to pretend it is to tell where that line is.
  I'll be there for you when you are having a bad day.  I can't "fix" you.  There's a difference. >
  
  A partner should expect you to support them at all points. You absolutely can be a therapist and I’d argue that it’s important to educate on the issues of a partner and me there to help them as they attempt constrict a better version of themselves
  I think a partner is someone you should be truly honest with >
  
  There is a thing called codependency, check it out.  Just make sure you are getting time to take care of yourself too, if you can't take care of yourself, then you can't take care of others, this is a common saying in healthcare. >
  
  I am and many people in experiencing chsllenges aren’t just letting it fester. 
  Having a mental health and being a relationship is kind of being fat in society: you have to feel like a burden even whilst trying to better yourself >
  
  If all you have to offer is "You get to take care of me" that's not society being unfair to you when it comes to romance. >
  
  There’s more to the person, but they also have this baggage. Again, fuck em, let em suffer >
  
  That's all you're bringing to THIS table, yes.
  I can't magically know stuff.  All you've talked about is "I'm broken, take care of me." >
  
  No, I’m broken offer me some humanity. It’s a mutual thing; if you support me I’ll be there to support you >
  
  Real talk.  Do you think THAT is what a relationship is?  Just back and forth "I'm the broken one this week, take care of me, next week it's your turn?"