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  Yeah well being around someone who is annoying you and having to remain kind and patient is emotionally draining and tiring. I am patient but I have my limits.
context: Depends on how big their issues are and how much they offload them on you, of course. Some people become horrible people when they're struggling. Or turn to alcohol or drugs and become obnoxious and repetitive. Or turn up at your house at 3am with a 10ft tree they've dug out of the ground and expect you to be happy about the tree, get annoyed that you're not happy about the trail of mud to your door,  or the tree really,  and throw a chair at your computer and break your new speakers. >
  
  Would you just give up on that partner after witnessing them at this very low point? >
  
  Ha no, though i probably should be the kind of person that would, but I would expect a proper explicit apology and recognition of the upset they caused me. >
  
  Dealing with people who constantly have issues can be exhausting. You are forced to deal with your own issues and that sucks, but they are choosing to stick with you even though they don't need to.  This shoud'nt be taken for granted. >
  
  What if I support them but they aren’t willing to support me? >
  
  Then that is on you to decide if the relationship is still worth it. 
  Even some of the healthiest relationships have boundaries they know their partner is not willing to cross >
  
  So it’s a boundary to desire support from your partner for some that’s causing you pain? >
  
  What? You are being so vague it is hard to give you a proper answer >
  
  Is it wrong to expect some healing form a partner when you’re struggling ? >
  
  Depends on too many things to answer. What level of support are you demanding, how long have you been with your partner, how regularly do you expect support, and frankly, how annoying are you when you need support. >
  
  There it is: how annoying. I have to make my issues palatable. I don’t believe in love being a performance