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  Seriously, it’s a basic human function. Everybody does it, because everybody needs to do it. It’s like saying eating is a hobby. Like damn, if it ain’t most peoples too.
context: I think it mostly comes down to making you interesting/ different to a person allowing for conversation and a potential connection to happen and making it so you aren’t relying on them for happiness. >
  
  I agree with this. 
  If someone doesn't have a hobby or an interest in something then what am I suppose to talk about with them. >
  
  Yes this is a struggle for my husband and i since i used to have soooo many hobbys and interests but since i have 2 kids who are 2.5 years and 6 months old, now i dont have time for any of it. Im boring and its a struggle to find things to talk about since he still has his hobbies and interests. Its by choice though since they wont be little for long and I'll be able to rediscover myself outside of motherhood in 2 or so years. He understands and doesnt fault me for wanting to make these babies my whole life while they are little and we look forward to meeting the new version of myself in a couple years once the babies are older. >
  
  Balance is key.   Be careful of the oxytocin trap and remember that you can throw yourself and your love at your kids but you still need to have your own interests.
  As an outsider it doesn't seem fair your husband still has his and you have 0. >
  
  She clarified it was by choice. As long as they came to an agreement in a healthy way I don’t see an issue in her wanting to spend her free time with her kids. I also can’t blame the father for wanting to continue his hobbies. As long as their both happy with their choices and each other’s choices what difference does it make? >
  
  Both of them agreeing on it doesn't make it healthy. It's generally not a good idea to make your children you're entire life for an extended period of time, even for a few years. This isn't good for the parent's mental health nor is it good for the child. >
  
  I didn't even mention hobbies >
  
  The topic at the point I replied was about a woman consciously choosing to only focus on her kids and not have anything outside them for approx. 5 years. All I'm saying is that the parents agreeing to her doing that doesn't mean it's not unhealthy. People agree to do unhealthy and harmful things all the time. >
  
  I might be wrong, but isn't a hobby any recreational activity that you enjoy? Reading can be a hobby, watching a TV series, running, hicking, all those can be hobbies. >
  
  Yess literally anything is a hobby so if you dont have one its just a red Flag because it mean you can not gain motivation to do ANYTHING instead of scrolling on Tiktok or Sleeping. Cooking is a hobby, playing games is a hobby, any instrument, reading etc. >
  
  "Anything that people do for enjoyment or recreation is a hobby! People need to stop hating. EXCEPT TIKTOK FUCK YOU!!!!"
  Ok guy, maybe practice what you preach >
  
  Dude tiktok cmon xd its just hours of watching random videos with no context >
  
  As opposed to TV or movies? >
  
  There is effort put into movies and tv. Many people involved to make that story happen from actors, writers, directors, prop people, sound design etc. Now try comparing that to a fucking tiktok. Usually a minute long clip on a scratched up IPhone from drunk and under aged Melanie with her tits out or ass in the air or something. Its a fucking bullshit, non existent comparison. >
  
  Dang you must be telling on yourself if your algorithm is showing you underage girls with their tits and ass out. Should I alert the authorities?
  Mine shows nothing like that, but shows funny videos and thoughtful discussion about sports, politics, religion, etc. I like tiktok because (similar to YouTube) it allows anyone to share their thoughts or comedy sketches or art. You don't need access to a production studio
  And if the bar is many people putting effort into something, is America's funniest home videos not a TV show? It's basically just a bunch of Tiktok-style videos strung together. Is stand-up comedy not viable entertainment? It's just one person up there talking. Also a lot like a lot of Tiktoks >
  
  I only have TikTok so I can open embedded links to things posted there. It's definitely full of mindless nonsense, tits and ass by default. Never tried to attempt to teach the algorithm to avoid the things that dominate TikTok. Maybe it's gotten better as they've increased the max length of videos, but when it first blew up and they were 60 secs or less it was garbage. Btw, if someone says 'there's too much sexualized children content', 'fuck you pedophile' is a response worthy of tiktok's reputation for stupidity. >
  
  Every embedded link you open is training the algorithm so if you only watch cringe posted to reddit for bashing then your feed will resemble that. >
  
  Usually sports clips, guess barely dressed women is part of that demo's likely watch history >
  
  A hobby doesn’t need to cost money. >
  
  Don't you know the first law of physics? Anything that's FUN costs AT LEAST eight dollars. >
  
  In my socialist country Germany we have free hobbies. 😂 >
  
  Exactly >
  
  I consider it a red flag for the opposite reason. If you have no hobbies you have too much time for a significant other. I need alone time, if it's gonna work with someone they need to have their own activities to do. It's nice to do things together but not constantly. >
  
  I relate to this a lot. “I love you and it’s great doing things together, but could you go away for a bit? To be clear, I very much want you to come back, just not for a while.”
  Also known as “missing you is so hard, because you won’t go away.” >
  
  If you do literally anything other than the bare minimum required to keep you alive and do your job, you have a hobby. Maybe your hobby is working out, maybe it's staring at the wall, maybe it's fucking around on reddit. Shit, watching incel videos on YouTube is a hobby. 
  But if you have NO hobbies, you just do the bare basics and nothing else, fuck yeah I don't want to be around you. That's super weird and shows me you have no desire to be a person. >
  
  If someone says “working out” is a hobby I would think they are vain gym junkies.
  I go to the gym daily; but I’d never call it a “hobby” as I don’t enjoy it at all and see it more as a chore. It would be like saying my hobbies include “cleaning my apartment”. >
  
  You can enjoy the activity of working out at the gym without it being about vanity. 
  Whilst I do want to look better, that's not my main motivation or reason for enjoyment of working out. The actual activity releases endorphins and it feels good to do physically intensive things after a day behind a desk. >
  
  I never had working out release endorphins for me. Working out just makes me feel awful. I hate doing it. Only reason I force myself to do is because I want to make myself look better. >
  
  Do you get endorphins from other exercise? >
  
  No. >
  
  K. I’ll bite. Most people who don’t have hobbies are considered dull. Sure there are some VERY expensive hobbies.  But there are a ton of hobbies that are free/extremely cheap
  Reading (library)
  Running (just go outside)
  Drawing (it’s just paper and pencil) 
  Learning new languages (Duolingo is free) 
  And that’s just off the top of my head
  Hell you could even call yourself a gamer with just playing free cellphone games. 
  A hobby is a means to get better at something.. 
  The problem with not saying you don’t have a hobby basically says you have no interests and you don’t want to be better. 
  When I used Tinder and a guy didn’t have any interests they were soo dull and there was nothing I could grasp at and relate to even start a conversation. 
  At the end of the day you are shutting doors and telling people they can’t relate to you, therefore in turn people show as much interest in you, as you do on (bettering) yourself.
  Hope this helps >
  
  Bird watching (go outside)
  Volunteering (go outside)
  Singing
  Playing the spoons
  Organizing random store shelves
  Literally anything can be a hobby, what makes it a hobby is “does it make you happy? Do you like to do it often? Its a hobby”
  Shit, the running joke for some is, “Ive made a hobby of sleeping” SLEEPING CAN BE A HOBBY. 
  There’s so many different ways to enjoy sleeping that one can practice >
  
  Sleeping is definitely not a hobby