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  If you have the space for this, then yes, I think it could work. But if you don’t have space to get away? Noooooooo
context: Father inlaw currently lives in our house, I liked it a lot more when he didn't. For the record, I like the guy. LoL. >
  
  Same >
  
  Nothing strengthened the relationship with my parents more than moving out. I know they missed me and always made it clear I could go back, but I needed my own space, my own place to live my own way and build my own life. I talked to them more when I moved out than I did living at home. >
  
  There is a very specific growth you experience living in your own.
  Tbh, I think some people in other countries like asia and europe are missing out. 
  Being a tight knit medium large sized family unit is special in its own right.
  But I just think the growth one physically and mentally feels after moving out cant be compared to other experiences. >
  
  What do you mean with Europe? At least where I live people move out of their parents homes, it may not be as fast as possible, but they do, and I wanted to move out fast >
  
  I always see Europeans be like "There's nothing wrong with living at home until your mid 30's, it's just smart to never become independent and save money, and people who are independent are just wasting money" >
  
  It's less a cultural thing and more an economic thing. If we could easily afford our own places then we'd he out within a month. But rent is so high you either need a lot of roommates and a partner to save up for a house or you need to live rent free at home for several years >
  
  Who gets to live at home rent free? >
  
  People with loving and understanding parents? >
  
  To be fair the reason many grand parents like their grandkids is because they get to send them home. The reason kids are more comfortable talking to their grandparents is because grandparents are usually not discipliners. If you put them all in the same house dynamics will change. >
  
  I don't think this is necessarily true. It maybe if the parents wash their hands off parenting their kids and hand it over to the grandparents, but imagine if all roles are maintained as such, then it would only be additional support. >
  
  Right but at the same time living with your parents and your grandparents creates that dynamic.  You think living with your parents who impart some trauma from their upbringing onto you was bad? Well here’s the people who caused that to them, living with you. >
  
  I agree, it's not the best experience to live with a grandparent. Especially when the reason is money concerns and not the fact that they get along well with your parent. It creates such a weird dynamic especially if said grandparent is strict, than they try to parent you and it ruins family relationships and dynamics. >
  
  I mean no one should be shamed for living with their family even as an adult but honestly I couldn't. I need more privacy than that >
  
  Fuck that. I'd rather live in my own, in a shed >
  
  Shrek? >
  
  I agree. I don't see anything wrong with it. It doesn't work for everyone though. My family was abusive. I got out asap. If we were multi generational in one house physical fights would still be breaking out. >
  
  I am really surprised I'm getting that many upvotes >
  
  As someone in this living arrangement, no. I hate it and every day I wish I could move out. >
  
  I think multi generational households work better if the family lived in a big house with a massive lot, that way everyone has space to their own. I wouldn't be comfortable sharing my entire home with my parents, grandparents, and siblings. >
  
  The kitchen and bathroom should not be shared. That’s where all the problem come. But being neighbors - it would be perfect - grandparents minding grandchildren, family brunch traditions and so on. >
  
  This sounds like a better idea :) >
  
  It's normalized in my parents' culture, Indian, and no thanks. People who praise multigenerational households seem to forget there are dysfunctional, toxic, abusive, oppressive, and/or sexist households, and not everyone is happy in such an environment. >
  
  I have a 5 bed, 3 bath, 2 kitchen, mother-daughter. My mother and mother in law live on the first floor, my wife and two babies live on the second floor and my brother and his family or my sister will stay in our other guest room. I love having so much family around and it’s great for childcare purposes. My wife is a SAHM so having my mom and MIL in house is amazing. >
  
  It works for some people, and not for others, I'm sure. I don't think it's healthy to kick your children out as soon as they become adults, though. >
  
  Works for some people, but I wouldn't be here if I still lived with my parents (adding grandparents makes it even worse). For my family, they're highly emotionally abusive and shame setting boundaries. To have this setup work without someone moving out, it'd need to be with a family that allowed for boundaries and privacy across all generations. >
  
  Was looking for this and glad I'm not the only one. While I have friends who would do ok if they had to live this way. I would not still be here if I wasn't able to leave when I did. >
  
  No they shouldn’t. Politicians should be held accountable for ducking the country and making the rich richer. Not society has to change to account for their fuck ups. >
  
  Living with multiple people really isn’t that nice. It’s never quiet, no privacy, having to share of all your stuff, can’t leave the house without someone needing to know where your going, can’t have sex anytime anywhere. Only benefit is that it’s cheaper. >
  
  I miss living with my mom. She’s one of my bestfriends who I talk to daily. But if she lived with me, I wouldn’t be able to bone my partner on the couch on a Tuesday afternoon >
  
  
  if she lived with me, I wouldn’t be able to bone my partner on the couch on a Tuesday afternoon  
  
  Not with that attitude, anyway. >
  
  I don’t perform well in front of others. Especially my mom. I never won anything in talent shows in middle school because of this >
  
  Honestly I probably would have killed myself if I had no hope of ever moving away from my parents, and my grandparents also lived there. 
  I care for my family, but they are never going to live with me again. 
  I couldn't imagine waking up as a 28yo with a job, having to hear your parents tell you how to live your life, then go take care of some senile old person who also tells you what to do, all of whom you pay for. >
  
  It is in Asia and Europe. >
  
  Depends on a country, in Finland it isn't normal. Kids usually move out around 20yo. >
  
  Is this a post by a time traveler from 1836?  
  Why the fuck would I wanna live with my parents and grand parents in one house? I am an adult. I have my own house. So do my parents. We love each other, but my parents would also never wanna do that. >
  
  I thoroughly enjoyed this comment! >
  
  Tbh, I think this depends. I do see how it could bring people together, make taking care of people easier, and if the family gets along, add a lot of healthy teaching and learning opportunities between generations, and financial situations could be stabilized easier with the income of the whole household.   
  However, I think it's healthy for people to also live on their own. It's not uncommon for people to have toxic family dynamics which lessen with distance. I also think there is an element of privacy that is lost when generations live together, and we all need privacy. Personally, I prefer the idea of living away from my family because there is lots of arguing going on at a constant rate, and I wouldn't want several generations to have to deal with that lmfao. 
  As a side tho, it IS normalized in tons of places, especially in Asian and South American cultures! >
  
  I enjoy time alone, and don’t really like company when I’m not in the mood for it, so this would make me feel mentally worse. 
  Should they be normalized as an option? Yeah for sure, just not as the only one. >
  
  Fuck that. Living with my parents was a damn nightmare. >
  
  No, as soon as I turned 16 I fired myself out my parents house like someone lit a rocket up my ass and I don't wanna go back. Hell, I had to live with my grandma for a while and while my grandma was alright, my aunt and dad were NOT and I was the most depressed I had ever been in my life, so I basically just hoarded every little bit of money I could and LEFT. Now I am happy being alone with no visitors or other residents. >
  
  No way in hell, coming from an Asian >
  
  I’d rather live in a tent than move back with my parents >
  
  I'm sorry, you can but I can't. I mean it was fine when it was myself, my mom who respected my privacy and youngest sister who wasn't home often because of work. But ever since my other sister lost her own place because of her husband's BS, my mental health has severely deteriorated. She has two kids under 10 and with all their stuff cluttering the living room, poor boundaries, poor parenting, zero privacy there's been a LOT of fights sometimes physical, drama, noise, chaos, mess and the energy bill has skyrocketed. She also can't find a job to work around her raising her kids solo because her abusive, narcissist husband refuses to help, so the rest of us bear the weight financially while she gets crumbs from delivery driving. I've probably had the urge to unalive myself a few times because her bullshit for the past 6 months has worn me down and sent my already sickly mom to the hospital a few times too. She's one of those people that just  kills the vibe whenever she's around, like bad energy and unresolved trauma follows her around like a stormcloud....
  So yeah, sorry to vent but multi generational households ain't what they cracked up to be. And I don't feel like this should be a new normal especially when you have to share space with damaged people who happen to be related to you. Fuck that mess. >
  
  I went 5 years without seeing my mother, then she stayed with me for 4 days. My anxiety had never been so high. Next time she will stay in a hotel. >
  
  I’d rather have a multi generational street/neighborhood rather than a household. A multigenerational household would have way too many people in it and that would annoy me.
  My family has a multigenerational street. 20 some odd years ago my parents, grandparents, and uncles bought four houses across from and next to each other. That way each family has their own space but still has the village. >
  
  That would entail socioeconomic similarities or affordability. Four families, all related, buying 4 houses in the street is a far stretch from common. But a fun anecdote nonetheless. >
  
  Very unpopular, I definitely do NOT want my kids or parents living with me (for kids, of course after adulthood). >
  
  I moved out at 16. Best decision I ever made. >
  
  You thought your mom hearing you fuck was awkward? How about we throw in grandma in the mix >
  
  In some cultures this is true. I personally couldn’t do it. The second I turned 18 I moved out. I’m a loner so having even more people to avoid would make it so much harder to find enjoyment. >
  
  I can always get my grandparents perspective and advice by, you know, going to visit them and spend time with them. 
  Likewise with aunts and uncles. >
  
  I personally don’t see anything wrong with this, but since I moved out on my own my relationship with my parents got better now I’m dealing with how they live vs me. (Mostly comes down to the difference in schedules, I work MST hours even when I was still in EST and they work mornings) >
  
  If people want to, sure, go ahead. But it should not become expected of everyone to live like this. >
  
  If it’s what you want to do then do it, doesn’t need to be “normalized” >
  
  I think that really depends on the respective family structure. Because with that many men/women under one roof, things are bound to get volatile quickly and can lead to some serious issues.
  Personally, if you'll pursue a structure like that, maybe living in the same neighborhood is better, since then there's still a certain privacy barrier and leave an opportunity to eg leave your kids with grandma for a day etc. >
  
  I used to live in a home with my grandma, one of my aunts, my mom, and my sisters and it was the most stressful thing in the world especially as a child. It was stressful for everyone really. 
  It became less stressful when it was just me, my mom, and my sisters. It became even less stressful when I finally moved out. >
  
  Look, I pretended like I was oblivious to why you would lock your room and play loud music for far too long. You need to get out of my house. Your Dad is old and cant just “do it to me one more time”. So we need you to figure your shit out and get the fuck out of this house so we can enjoy what little time we have left. >
  
  Nope. I’m moving out if I can. >
  
  They should, but everyone has to have their own sub-household. Grandparents, parents, adult kids should all be separated to a certain degree, but not much more. Have meals together, work on things together, but live for yourself. That way you'll have a harmonic household and can still access knowledge one party might have which the other doesn't. >
  
  No. I'm gay and I like to drink and have fun and my family is extremely religious. It wouldn't work. >
  
  Would you want to live with your in-laws? >
  
  I don't wear clothes when I'm home and it would drive me insane not having that freedom. >
  
  No >
  
  This only works if your parents stay together. And nobody's does anymore.