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  Sleeping is something humans simply need to survive. Don’t think it’s a hobby. In that case you could consider breathing a hobby.
context: I think it mostly comes down to making you interesting/ different to a person allowing for conversation and a potential connection to happen and making it so you aren’t relying on them for happiness. >
  
  I agree with this. 
  If someone doesn't have a hobby or an interest in something then what am I suppose to talk about with them. >
  
  Yes this is a struggle for my husband and i since i used to have soooo many hobbys and interests but since i have 2 kids who are 2.5 years and 6 months old, now i dont have time for any of it. Im boring and its a struggle to find things to talk about since he still has his hobbies and interests. Its by choice though since they wont be little for long and I'll be able to rediscover myself outside of motherhood in 2 or so years. He understands and doesnt fault me for wanting to make these babies my whole life while they are little and we look forward to meeting the new version of myself in a couple years once the babies are older. >
  
  Balance is key.   Be careful of the oxytocin trap and remember that you can throw yourself and your love at your kids but you still need to have your own interests.
  As an outsider it doesn't seem fair your husband still has his and you have 0. >
  
  She clarified it was by choice. As long as they came to an agreement in a healthy way I don’t see an issue in her wanting to spend her free time with her kids. I also can’t blame the father for wanting to continue his hobbies. As long as their both happy with their choices and each other’s choices what difference does it make? >
  
  Both of them agreeing on it doesn't make it healthy. It's generally not a good idea to make your children you're entire life for an extended period of time, even for a few years. This isn't good for the parent's mental health nor is it good for the child. >
  
  I didn't even mention hobbies >
  
  The topic at the point I replied was about a woman consciously choosing to only focus on her kids and not have anything outside them for approx. 5 years. All I'm saying is that the parents agreeing to her doing that doesn't mean it's not unhealthy. People agree to do unhealthy and harmful things all the time. >
  
  I might be wrong, but isn't a hobby any recreational activity that you enjoy? Reading can be a hobby, watching a TV series, running, hicking, all those can be hobbies. >
  
  Yess literally anything is a hobby so if you dont have one its just a red Flag because it mean you can not gain motivation to do ANYTHING instead of scrolling on Tiktok or Sleeping. Cooking is a hobby, playing games is a hobby, any instrument, reading etc. >
  
  "Anything that people do for enjoyment or recreation is a hobby! People need to stop hating. EXCEPT TIKTOK FUCK YOU!!!!"
  Ok guy, maybe practice what you preach >
  
  Dude tiktok cmon xd its just hours of watching random videos with no context >
  
  As opposed to TV or movies? >
  
  There is effort put into movies and tv. Many people involved to make that story happen from actors, writers, directors, prop people, sound design etc. Now try comparing that to a fucking tiktok. Usually a minute long clip on a scratched up IPhone from drunk and under aged Melanie with her tits out or ass in the air or something. Its a fucking bullshit, non existent comparison. >
  
  Dang you must be telling on yourself if your algorithm is showing you underage girls with their tits and ass out. Should I alert the authorities?
  Mine shows nothing like that, but shows funny videos and thoughtful discussion about sports, politics, religion, etc. I like tiktok because (similar to YouTube) it allows anyone to share their thoughts or comedy sketches or art. You don't need access to a production studio
  And if the bar is many people putting effort into something, is America's funniest home videos not a TV show? It's basically just a bunch of Tiktok-style videos strung together. Is stand-up comedy not viable entertainment? It's just one person up there talking. Also a lot like a lot of Tiktoks >
  
  I only have TikTok so I can open embedded links to things posted there. It's definitely full of mindless nonsense, tits and ass by default. Never tried to attempt to teach the algorithm to avoid the things that dominate TikTok. Maybe it's gotten better as they've increased the max length of videos, but when it first blew up and they were 60 secs or less it was garbage. Btw, if someone says 'there's too much sexualized children content', 'fuck you pedophile' is a response worthy of tiktok's reputation for stupidity. >
  
  Every embedded link you open is training the algorithm so if you only watch cringe posted to reddit for bashing then your feed will resemble that. >
  
  Usually sports clips, guess barely dressed women is part of that demo's likely watch history >
  
  A hobby doesn’t need to cost money. >
  
  Don't you know the first law of physics? Anything that's FUN costs AT LEAST eight dollars. >
  
  In my socialist country Germany we have free hobbies. 😂 >
  
  Exactly >
  
  I consider it a red flag for the opposite reason. If you have no hobbies you have too much time for a significant other. I need alone time, if it's gonna work with someone they need to have their own activities to do. It's nice to do things together but not constantly. >
  
  I relate to this a lot. “I love you and it’s great doing things together, but could you go away for a bit? To be clear, I very much want you to come back, just not for a while.”
  Also known as “missing you is so hard, because you won’t go away.” >
  
  If you do literally anything other than the bare minimum required to keep you alive and do your job, you have a hobby. Maybe your hobby is working out, maybe it's staring at the wall, maybe it's fucking around on reddit. Shit, watching incel videos on YouTube is a hobby. 
  But if you have NO hobbies, you just do the bare basics and nothing else, fuck yeah I don't want to be around you. That's super weird and shows me you have no desire to be a person. >
  
  If someone says “working out” is a hobby I would think they are vain gym junkies.
  I go to the gym daily; but I’d never call it a “hobby” as I don’t enjoy it at all and see it more as a chore. It would be like saying my hobbies include “cleaning my apartment”. >
  
  You can enjoy the activity of working out at the gym without it being about vanity. 
  Whilst I do want to look better, that's not my main motivation or reason for enjoyment of working out. The actual activity releases endorphins and it feels good to do physically intensive things after a day behind a desk. >
  
  I never had working out release endorphins for me. Working out just makes me feel awful. I hate doing it. Only reason I force myself to do is because I want to make myself look better. >
  
  Do you get endorphins from other exercise? >
  
  No. >
  
  K. I’ll bite. Most people who don’t have hobbies are considered dull. Sure there are some VERY expensive hobbies.  But there are a ton of hobbies that are free/extremely cheap
  Reading (library)
  Running (just go outside)
  Drawing (it’s just paper and pencil) 
  Learning new languages (Duolingo is free) 
  And that’s just off the top of my head
  Hell you could even call yourself a gamer with just playing free cellphone games. 
  A hobby is a means to get better at something.. 
  The problem with not saying you don’t have a hobby basically says you have no interests and you don’t want to be better. 
  When I used Tinder and a guy didn’t have any interests they were soo dull and there was nothing I could grasp at and relate to even start a conversation. 
  At the end of the day you are shutting doors and telling people they can’t relate to you, therefore in turn people show as much interest in you, as you do on (bettering) yourself.
  Hope this helps >
  
  Bird watching (go outside)
  Volunteering (go outside)
  Singing
  Playing the spoons
  Organizing random store shelves
  Literally anything can be a hobby, what makes it a hobby is “does it make you happy? Do you like to do it often? Its a hobby”
  Shit, the running joke for some is, “Ive made a hobby of sleeping” SLEEPING CAN BE A HOBBY. 
  There’s so many different ways to enjoy sleeping that one can practice >
  
  Sleeping is definitely not a hobby >
  
  Seriously, it’s a basic human function. Everybody does it, because everybody needs to do it. It’s like saying eating is a hobby. Like damn, if it ain’t most peoples too. >
  
  Plenty of hobbies don't require money >
  
  Even when I was little and my parents were poor my mom still found a way to make activities enjoyable. She cooked with what we could afford and made it a fun activity on weekend nights. She picked up some cheap fabric markers from the thrift store and showed us how to decorate our plain clothes so that we could personalize them. I’m pretty sure her first guitar was bought from a thrift store, she used the $1 sale books to teach herself the best she could, and she loved it. 
  My mom, me and my siblings are fortunate to be living in middle class class now. My mom now has the money to PURSUE her hobbies and make money from doing what she enjoys. However, that doesn’t mean she didn’t enjoy them when we were living poorly. 
  Years of extravagant art on tee-shirts turned into beautiful watercolour paintings. Weekends of creative pizza nights turned into even more delicious meals. Nights of plucking an untuned, old guitar but still making it sound beautiful turned into playing even more beautifully with a newer guitar.
  I’m happy, and very fortunate my mom found happiness within a man who treats her well, and that we escaped a bad situation. I’m happy that the hobbies she had grew, because she was financially capable. 
  However, I still have those full-shirt doodles made with a shitty thrift store felt, which I wore with pride and joy believing my mom was the best artist in the world. I still miss the pizza nights, where my mom used the cheapest, low-quality items, yet everytime it tasted amazing. I still miss the occasional screech of the untuned guitar because my mom didn’t know how to pluck properly.
  All these things made me look up to my mom, she made it feel like we weren’t poor.
  Hobbies are still hobbies, even if you don’t have adequate funding. >
  
  That's a beautiful story! I'm happy that you are good now. >
  
  What do you do in your spare time that isn't considered a hobby? If your entire life is work + family that honestly sounds miserable >
  
  You never watch tv? Go for walks? Anything?
  If your life is work, chores and sleep, I'm not gonna date you. We would have nothing in common, I could never be with a person who can live so boring life. >
  
  My guess is the issue here is definition of hobby. If in my spare time I watch TV, read a little, play video games, etc. are those hobbies? Where is the line between causal activities and hobby? I see hobby as things someone is really excited about, dives deep into, that makes them happy. I’m happy  no matter what. I fill time with things but I don’t have a passion for something. >
  
  Yes those are hobbies. For me hobbies are something you regularly spend your free time with, things you choose to do, not things you have to do. >
  
  People without hobbies tend to be the most basic and boring people. Having a hobby makes you interesting and gives you something to talk about >
  
  lol what…maybe you just enjoy socializing instead of doing random shit by yourself.  Like I don’t have hobbies, but I love getting dinner and drinks with friends, keeping myself healthy, and relaxing.  Like some people just aren’t into particular niche things.
  Edit: Only in reddit would I get downvoted for saying I prefer socializing to personal hobbies.  Smh… >
  
  Doesn’t have to be niche. Could be something like you listed. Like keeping yourself healthy, going to the gym, going on walks, bike rides, etc are keeping yourself healthy. >
  
  Having free time and having money are two very basic things that most people are looking for in a date. Also it shows you have a passion for something which makes you interesting >
  
  What do you do for fun OP? There you go, that's your hobby. >
  
  One of op's hobby may be writing Reddit posts! >
  
  You thought you ate didn’t you?😂 >
  
  It...kinda is. Like, if I asked someone I was dating what they enjoy doing and they said "nothing" I'd be super concerned for them. Like, you have no passions in life...nothing that brings you joy? Like...NOTHING? >
  
  I don't know if I just have a more loose definition of "hobby" that other people do, but if someone told me they didn't have a hobby I'd probably just immediately think they were lying or didn't want to disclose what it was.
  If someone doesn't have any hobbies, what do they do with their free time? Just sit somewhere, blankly staring into the middle distance? >
  
  Different definition. I see hobby as something you have a passion for. I have many things I like to do or get enjoyment from. None stick out. None are a passion. >
  
  Yeah like I watch TV almost every day but very rarely am I passionate about it. I just watch it to pass the time after work and before bed.. >
  
  When ever I’ve told someone to get a hobby it’s cause they have a lot free time any just kinda sit around not doin too much. Also not all hobbies are super expensive like I have a buddy who just reads like a full length book every two days or so. >
  
  Throw your stale bread outdoors and watch the birds fight over it. Congratulations you're a birdwatcher! >
  
  I used to think this and when I met my fiancé I thought the same thing. She doesn’t have a hobby. She works and then comes home and chills. Every now and then she will go out with her friend. She goes to the gym daily but that’s about it. 
  But as I saw her more and more I realized what she does in her free time doesn’t really matter to me. We get a long great, never even so much as argue, and whatever I do she’s more than willing to come and give it a shot and have fun. I can’t imagine having not given her a chance because she doesn’t like to go bowling or biking as a hobby or something. >
  
  If all you do is scroll on your phone and your only source of fulfillment is a romantic partner you come off as boring and needy.  I'm not saying that anyone without a hobby is boring and needy, but it raises concerns.  What are we going to talk about?  Are they going to give me a moments' peace to spend time doing MY hobbies?  Or are they going to be so bored from their lack of interest in anything other than a romantic partner that the pressure is going to be on me to constantly entertain them? >
  
  Valid >
  
  Just tell them your hobby is not having a hobby >
  
  If your hobby is not having a hobby, you're really bad at your hobby >
  
  Idk LOL, if my hobby is not having a hobby- - I think I have perfected my hobby >
  
  I’m not sure how a person doesn’t have a hobby. What are you doing in your free time? Sleeping? That’s a hobby