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  Balance is key.   Be careful of the oxytocin trap and remember that you can throw yourself and your love at your kids but you still need to have your own interests.
  As an outsider it doesn't seem fair your husband still has his and you have 0.
context: I think it mostly comes down to making you interesting/ different to a person allowing for conversation and a potential connection to happen and making it so you aren’t relying on them for happiness. >
  
  I agree with this. 
  If someone doesn't have a hobby or an interest in something then what am I suppose to talk about with them. >
  
  Yes this is a struggle for my husband and i since i used to have soooo many hobbys and interests but since i have 2 kids who are 2.5 years and 6 months old, now i dont have time for any of it. Im boring and its a struggle to find things to talk about since he still has his hobbies and interests. Its by choice though since they wont be little for long and I'll be able to rediscover myself outside of motherhood in 2 or so years. He understands and doesnt fault me for wanting to make these babies my whole life while they are little and we look forward to meeting the new version of myself in a couple years once the babies are older.