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  I feel that had sex at 12 years old and slept with about 7 girls before I was 18 girlfriend is the exact opposite she had sex with one person before me and was super restricted as a kid so now she wants to fuck all the time wich is great but I do feel that I was left jaded for having sex so early I  was real mature for that age but yeah I think it's mostly people who'd dnt have sex growing up that go wild for it into adult hood where as we are like meh I've already been there done that it's still awesome in the moment though
context: “All the time you put into it, for a 10 second orgasm”
  :/ OP either is slightly misleading us about his sexual knowledge or may be otherwise wrong?
  Orgasms aren’t the only part of sex that are enjoyable right? I’m not going crazy, am I? >
  
  You are not going crazy. The orgasm is the big finale, but that doesn't mean the build up is a waste of time. >
  
  My bf says orgasms are overrated in his opinion and he loves sex, now that’s a hot take! All the other stuff about sex is even better to him not that he doesn’t like orgasms he’s just into the whole process. Hmm maybe that why people tend to prefer sex over masturbating for the most part. >
  
  I like sex but personally I don't enjoy it if there isn't good emotional connection >
  
  I'm guessing that's what the OP means. Maybe he fucks, maybe he doesn't, but tbh I think most people get bored of meaningless sex as they get older (or the juice just isn't worth the squeeze anymore due to libidos dropping as you get older anyway) - unless they have their cake and eat it in terms of having a strong relationship but then meaningless sex with other people on the side.
  But still the relationship sex won't feel as good as it normally would because you know in the back of your mind you're a dirty cheater, so the connection isn't as strong. >
  
  This man does not fuck >
  
  This man does not even understand the concept of fucking >
  
  This member of the human species has yet to experience the unbridled pleasure of sexual intercourse nor can he comprehend the mechanics of such an act. >
  
  This specimen of homo sapiens is not driven by reactions occuring in his central neural organ evolved to propagate reproduction, and devaluates rituals necessary for the proliferation of his species' population. >
  
  Maybe therapy might help. I don’t think you should have a sense of shame after sex
  And to answer your question, no I don’t feel that way. GOOD sex is one of the best things in life in my opinion. When it’s good, I can’t get enough >
  
  
  I don’t think you should have a sense of shame after sex
  
  Agreed. This seems like the root of the problem >
  
  Sex is only good with the right person >
  
  This is the real unpopular opinion to me. >
  
  can't be that unpopular, otherwise rape wouldnt be a thing >
  
  Rape is different. Thought that didn’t need to be said. >
  
  the point is... if its not the right person it won't be good, obviously rape is the most extreme example, but lots of people regret sex too >
  
  That's the entire point of the thread. 
  Please point me to the 'necrophilia' portion of the comments, tia. >
  
  Lots of people are sold the idea that careless sex is great and healthy, when to lots of people it really isn't fulfilling and takes away from their intimacy. >
  
  Yeah you're refencing the OP, though he is clueless. >
  
  Orgasms aren't the only good thing about sex though. There are many other pleasurable feelings that come from sex. Orgasms also don't have to mean the end of sex, you can continue pleasuring her until your ready to orgasm again. As for it being mundane, don't forget foreplay, afterplay, and using your imagination to keep it interesting. 👍 >
  
  Same, sex is just another form of exercise.
  Love, and making love is something else.
  And in my life I don't need sex, I need deep emotional connection, love. But at the same time, even without that it still can be a fun life. >
  
  You are supposed to enjoy the duration. I dont even care if i finish >
  
  Have you tried Sex 2? >
  
  r/ihavesex >
  
  I wouldn’t say overrated per se but it definitely could get mundane or sometimes not even necessary >
  
  Now that I’m 30 I agree with you whole heartedly 
  Everything is so centered around sex and specialization now a days that it’s just meh! It’s everywhere. Sexual undertones everywhere so it just makes it meh to me now. 
  Maybe it’s a part of aging idk but I def don’t care about sex nearly as much as I did in my 20s. >
  
  Im tempted to agree with you not because I don’t like sex but because of how obsessed everyone is with it. Like damn it’s not that great. People dead ass act like a person is crazy if they aren’t fiending for sex all the time. I didn’t have sex for years before I met my bf I was fine with it but people acted like that was crazy. >
  
  Yes,it is >
  
  You poor, poor man >
  
  His poor, poor partners >
  
  
  All the time you put into it, for a 10 second orgasm...
  
  I think we found what youre doing wrong, mate... >
  
  You can have a nice ten second orgasm all by yourself. >
  
  That's not what your mom said last night... >
  
  Oh but dont misunderstand me. I do have a lot of pleasure in a lot of forms. But mostly not via the form of sex. >
  
  Sex is one of the main ways I express my love to my partner. Giving them what they need to have a mind blowing orgasm or two keeps me focused on them and provides me with a sense of accomplishment instead of selfishly focusing on myself only. It may be that selfish focus is what is bringing you down. Maybe try directing all of your attention at your partner instead and see how you feel when they are flushed and quivering at the end of your ministrations.