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  When I say this about a few of my friends kids, I definitely mean they're just assholes.
  Same if I call them sensitive. Really I'm calling them whiny little pains in the ass.
context: Depends. If the parents are the real assholes, maybe the kid is just rebelling against truly stupid rules and mindsets.
  If the parents have reasonable rules and expectations, yeah the kid is the problem >
  
  Yes. My oldest can be described this way. 😂 I love him dearly but nobody has ever pushed my buttons like he does. 
  The strange thing is that he's fun to be around and has a kind heart for the most part, but is also self- centered and stubborn. (He's an adult) >
  
  I don’t like calling toddlers assholes, as this implies some sort of malice that they don’t have yet. >
  
  I figured op was talking about slightly older kids. Unless specified as babies or toddlers I kind of assume 5+ year olds. >
  
  I mean, sure. But their personalities haven't developed and neither has their ability to regulate - so I would hold off on making any predictions about their nature until they were older. >
  
  Ours is high energy and hard charging and never took naps, he’s likable and always happy but can get on people’s nerves 
  Most teachers say they like his drive and sense of humor tho there is always one teacher who gets annoyed >
  
  This isn’t an unpopular opinion.
  I disagree with the second part though. It’s more of a product of bizarre US parenting culture than an intrinsic quality in the kids themselves. Plenty of countries are famous for having small children who are well behaved (France, Japan, etc.). >
  
  What’s different about American parenting than let’s say French parenting? >
  
  Many books and articles have been written about it, but the basic idea is US culture encourages a much more indulgent helicopter parenting style, whereas the French tend to be stricter & give their kids more responsibility early on. French society reinforces a lot of those expectations (and provides much more consistent institutional support) so it’s not purely about individual parenting. >
  
  I mean wtf is American, there are so many diverse cultures in the U.S is crazy, black people, and white people parent differently due to their experiences, and immigrant parents are on a whole nother level( the pressure I had to put up with was insane.) so there isn’t really a defined American parenting culture. >
  
  That's cause self-awareness is a thing that you learn over time, not something you're born with. Babies are have zero idea of what they just got into when they are born. They don't know anything at all except for some basic impulses. They have to learn from the world and their parents, teachers, and community have to help show them that world in a safe manner. It's like saying a high-schooler isn't as good at math as a math professor is. Of course they aren't, they have to learn more to get to that point! >
  
  Except you’re forgetting about children having differing temperaments, right? Some parents have demon kids who throw horrendous tantrums, while others have placid kids who rarely do that. And other times, some parents have both, despite raising them the same way >
  
  
  . And other times, some parents have both, despite raising them the same way
  
  Not sure why this is getting downvoted. I think that many parents who have "easy" children like to credit themselves completely, and blaming misbehaving children solely on parenting sort of allows them to  themselves a pat on the back for how their children behave. My spouse and I have 4 children. If we had 3 of the 4 children, we would probably think that we were super parents who raise amazing, respectful children. Our 11 year old, though, has been exceptionally difficult to raise. Despite receiving the same parenting as the others, appropriate behaviors just don't seem to "click" with him. We have had to stay up many nights discussing parenting him, reading, seeking help... and it's been completely exhausting. A lot of people probably don't realize that parents with difficult children are often putting in 50 times the work parenting them, compared to the work it takes to parent a generally well-behaved child. Blaming it on "lazy parenting" (in many cases) is completely incorrect and backwards. >
  
  This is very true. I was a relatively easy kid to raise (aside from being sick a lot).  I was very easy going and rolled along with whatever.  
  My younger brother was the total opposite. Super defiant with a quick temper. We couldn't be more opposite.