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  resilient kids are made from the support of the adults surrounding them
context: I always saw it as like them getting hurt. Like falling down and scrapping their knee or burning themselves. Every human is resilient in that way, you’ll get over it. >
  
  This is not an unpopular opinion it's a fact. Childhood trauma is deadly. My question has always been: why are we made to traverse a trauma filled world and not built better equipped to handle it? >
  
  Because the common opinion is that kids are just fine and will grow up either way. >
  
  This is exactly right. The core demographic of childless 20-somethings on reddit is really apparent here.
  Kids come out feral. They're not equipped to even feed themselves for several years let alone handle trauma. But the array of what kids can adapt to and overcome with parents who love and guide them is vast. >
  
  Kids can be resilient to many external factors (e.g. poverty, sickness...) as long as the family environment is healthy and supportive.
  Also notice that being resilient does not mean not being impacted by traumatic events, it means being able to overcome them in a healthy way. >
  
  As someone who’s working with foster kids. They absolutely are not and will in fact remember EVERYTHING they don’t block out. >
  
  Kids only seem resilient because they have no other choice but to put up with the adversity and survive . They’re helpless and powerless. >
  
  Reminds me of this quote from this book called “Universal Harvester”:
  “If you work with or around children, you often hear a lot about how resilient they are. It’s true; I’ve met children who’ve been through things that would drive most adults to the brink. They look and act, most of the time, like any other children. In this sense—that they don’t succumb to despair, that they don’t demand a space for their pain—it’s very true that children are resilient.
  But resiliency only means that a thing retains its shape. That it doesn’t break, or lose its ability to function. It doesn’t mean a child forgets the time she shared in the backyard with her mother gardening, or the fun they had together watching Bedknobs and Broomsticks at the Astro. It just means she learns to bear it. The mechanism that allowed Lisa Sample to keep her head above water in the wake of her mother’s departure has not been described or cataloged by scientists. It’s efficient, and flexible, and probably transferable from one person to another should they catch the scent on each other. But the rest of the details about it aren’t observable from the outside. You have to be closer than you really want to[…]”
  I think kids are resilent. Doesn’t mean there isn’t damage, though. Just gotta look for it.