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  There is effort put into movies and tv. Many people involved to make that story happen from actors, writers, directors, prop people, sound design etc. Now try comparing that to a fucking tiktok. Usually a minute long clip on a scratched up IPhone from drunk and under aged Melanie with her tits out or ass in the air or something. Its a fucking bullshit, non existent comparison.
context: I think it mostly comes down to making you interesting/ different to a person allowing for conversation and a potential connection to happen and making it so you aren’t relying on them for happiness. >
  
  I agree with this. 
  If someone doesn't have a hobby or an interest in something then what am I suppose to talk about with them. >
  
  Yes this is a struggle for my husband and i since i used to have soooo many hobbys and interests but since i have 2 kids who are 2.5 years and 6 months old, now i dont have time for any of it. Im boring and its a struggle to find things to talk about since he still has his hobbies and interests. Its by choice though since they wont be little for long and I'll be able to rediscover myself outside of motherhood in 2 or so years. He understands and doesnt fault me for wanting to make these babies my whole life while they are little and we look forward to meeting the new version of myself in a couple years once the babies are older. >
  
  Balance is key.   Be careful of the oxytocin trap and remember that you can throw yourself and your love at your kids but you still need to have your own interests.
  As an outsider it doesn't seem fair your husband still has his and you have 0. >
  
  She clarified it was by choice. As long as they came to an agreement in a healthy way I don’t see an issue in her wanting to spend her free time with her kids. I also can’t blame the father for wanting to continue his hobbies. As long as their both happy with their choices and each other’s choices what difference does it make? >
  
  Both of them agreeing on it doesn't make it healthy. It's generally not a good idea to make your children you're entire life for an extended period of time, even for a few years. This isn't good for the parent's mental health nor is it good for the child. >
  
  I didn't even mention hobbies >
  
  The topic at the point I replied was about a woman consciously choosing to only focus on her kids and not have anything outside them for approx. 5 years. All I'm saying is that the parents agreeing to her doing that doesn't mean it's not unhealthy. People agree to do unhealthy and harmful things all the time. >
  
  I might be wrong, but isn't a hobby any recreational activity that you enjoy? Reading can be a hobby, watching a TV series, running, hicking, all those can be hobbies. >
  
  Yess literally anything is a hobby so if you dont have one its just a red Flag because it mean you can not gain motivation to do ANYTHING instead of scrolling on Tiktok or Sleeping. Cooking is a hobby, playing games is a hobby, any instrument, reading etc. >
  
  "Anything that people do for enjoyment or recreation is a hobby! People need to stop hating. EXCEPT TIKTOK FUCK YOU!!!!"
  Ok guy, maybe practice what you preach >
  
  Dude tiktok cmon xd its just hours of watching random videos with no context >
  
  As opposed to TV or movies?