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  I miss living with my mom. She’s one of my bestfriends who I talk to daily. But if she lived with me, I wouldn’t be able to bone my partner on the couch on a Tuesday afternoon
context: Father inlaw currently lives in our house, I liked it a lot more when he didn't. For the record, I like the guy. LoL. >
  
  Same >
  
  Nothing strengthened the relationship with my parents more than moving out. I know they missed me and always made it clear I could go back, but I needed my own space, my own place to live my own way and build my own life. I talked to them more when I moved out than I did living at home. >
  
  There is a very specific growth you experience living in your own.
  Tbh, I think some people in other countries like asia and europe are missing out. 
  Being a tight knit medium large sized family unit is special in its own right.
  But I just think the growth one physically and mentally feels after moving out cant be compared to other experiences. >
  
  What do you mean with Europe? At least where I live people move out of their parents homes, it may not be as fast as possible, but they do, and I wanted to move out fast >
  
  I always see Europeans be like "There's nothing wrong with living at home until your mid 30's, it's just smart to never become independent and save money, and people who are independent are just wasting money" >
  
  It's less a cultural thing and more an economic thing. If we could easily afford our own places then we'd he out within a month. But rent is so high you either need a lot of roommates and a partner to save up for a house or you need to live rent free at home for several years >
  
  Who gets to live at home rent free? >
  
  People with loving and understanding parents? >
  
  To be fair the reason many grand parents like their grandkids is because they get to send them home. The reason kids are more comfortable talking to their grandparents is because grandparents are usually not discipliners. If you put them all in the same house dynamics will change. >
  
  I don't think this is necessarily true. It maybe if the parents wash their hands off parenting their kids and hand it over to the grandparents, but imagine if all roles are maintained as such, then it would only be additional support. >
  
  Right but at the same time living with your parents and your grandparents creates that dynamic.  You think living with your parents who impart some trauma from their upbringing onto you was bad? Well here’s the people who caused that to them, living with you. >
  
  I agree, it's not the best experience to live with a grandparent. Especially when the reason is money concerns and not the fact that they get along well with your parent. It creates such a weird dynamic especially if said grandparent is strict, than they try to parent you and it ruins family relationships and dynamics. >
  
  I mean no one should be shamed for living with their family even as an adult but honestly I couldn't. I need more privacy than that >
  
  Fuck that. I'd rather live in my own, in a shed >
  
  Shrek? >
  
  I agree. I don't see anything wrong with it. It doesn't work for everyone though. My family was abusive. I got out asap. If we were multi generational in one house physical fights would still be breaking out. >
  
  I am really surprised I'm getting that many upvotes >
  
  As someone in this living arrangement, no. I hate it and every day I wish I could move out. >
  
  I think multi generational households work better if the family lived in a big house with a massive lot, that way everyone has space to their own. I wouldn't be comfortable sharing my entire home with my parents, grandparents, and siblings. >
  
  The kitchen and bathroom should not be shared. That’s where all the problem come. But being neighbors - it would be perfect - grandparents minding grandchildren, family brunch traditions and so on. >
  
  This sounds like a better idea :) >
  
  It's normalized in my parents' culture, Indian, and no thanks. People who praise multigenerational households seem to forget there are dysfunctional, toxic, abusive, oppressive, and/or sexist households, and not everyone is happy in such an environment. >
  
  I have a 5 bed, 3 bath, 2 kitchen, mother-daughter. My mother and mother in law live on the first floor, my wife and two babies live on the second floor and my brother and his family or my sister will stay in our other guest room. I love having so much family around and it’s great for childcare purposes. My wife is a SAHM so having my mom and MIL in house is amazing. >
  
  It works for some people, and not for others, I'm sure. I don't think it's healthy to kick your children out as soon as they become adults, though. >
  
  Works for some people, but I wouldn't be here if I still lived with my parents (adding grandparents makes it even worse). For my family, they're highly emotionally abusive and shame setting boundaries. To have this setup work without someone moving out, it'd need to be with a family that allowed for boundaries and privacy across all generations. >
  
  Was looking for this and glad I'm not the only one. While I have friends who would do ok if they had to live this way. I would not still be here if I wasn't able to leave when I did. >
  
  No they shouldn’t. Politicians should be held accountable for ducking the country and making the rich richer. Not society has to change to account for their fuck ups. >
  
  Living with multiple people really isn’t that nice. It’s never quiet, no privacy, having to share of all your stuff, can’t leave the house without someone needing to know where your going, can’t have sex anytime anywhere. Only benefit is that it’s cheaper.