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  I think the problem you’re running into is that women aren’t horny for you, because you’re a misogynist creep.
  Or maybe you just suck in bed. FYI. Pornography is not a good example of things women enjoy doing sexually.
context: Is this a CMV or a rant? >
  
  "All of the issues in dating" which are what exactly? I mean I agree theres issues just wanna be on the same page >
  
  If that was true, gay relationships would have no issues, but they clearly do. >
  
  Actually you bring up an interesting point, but I think it will shake out more in OP's direction than you intended. Gay and lesbian relationship stats typically lie in opposite corners from straight relationships, for instance lesbians divorce most frequently, then straights, and least gay men. Same with sex frequency, with gay men having the most sex with the most partners and lesbians having the least. 
  So they do have issues, but the specific way they show up enforces OP's point. >
  
  For the record, I tend to agree with OP and men, typically, are more sex-driven. But I don't agree that it's the root of all relationship problems. If even asexuals can have relationship drama, then sex is definitely not to blame. >
  
  Yeah, I mean, I took that statement as a little bit of a hyperbole from OP. Clearly not the root of ALL relationship problems, that would be ridiculous. But I could certainly see it as a major contributing factor in many of them. >
  
  Do you think that gay and lesbian relationships have no issues? >
  
  That only reinforces ops point >
  
  How do you know how horny women are?
  A person can be horny and thoughtful; we're not animals.
  
  Libido is testosterone driven
  
  A quick Google search suggests that this is not true at worst OR a gross over-simplification at best.
  "Research shows that the hormone testosterone may improve sexual function in specific groups of women, but data on safety and effectiveness are limited."
  
  Or they’ll hide behind the “enormous risk” women take by having sex despite most of them being on birth control or the “social stigma/slut shaming” when we have upper middle class suburban chicks unabashedly promoting their fledging porn careers (OF) on their public social media
  
  Social media doesn't get you pregnant, nor does it give you STDs, though, nor will it rape you; therefore, this 'hypocrisy' is actually completely rational. >
  
  45 people is a pretty small sample-size, I would argue.
  Also, could the rise in libido be attached to "becoming who you are" more than some other factors?
  Being uncomfortable with one's self can affect libido; becoming more comfortable with one's self can raise it. So, are we sure that's not what's happening here?
  We have a correlation, perhaps, but I don't think we have a direct causal relationship.
  
  The flip side of this is young men, especially those who are less desirable, are having harder time finding partners.
  
  This doesn't make women 'less horny,' just busier.
  
  Unforteintly politics has gotten to the point where women will simply refuse to date republicans because they are too toxic. This is also a more recent phenomena. 
  
  This also doesn't make women 'less horny,' just selective. >
  
  
  Also, could the rise in libido be attached to "becoming who you are" more than some other factors?
  Being uncomfortable with one's self can affect libido; becoming more comfortable with one's self can raise it. So, are we sure that's not what's happening here?
  We have a correlation, perhaps, but I don't think we have a direct causal relationship.
  
  Well, unlikely since mtf patients report the exact opposite effect.
  The study says it is a direct relationship shrug . It is also supported by talking to anyone in who has experienced it, such as myself. It's nearly universal between both transgender men and women (men get hornier, women get less) obviously with exceptions for the reasons you mention. >
  
  I'm reading testimonials that suggest this effect is temporary and mostly during the transition from M to F, but then when people are F they 'get horny again' but 'in a different way' ? >
  
  Fair enough! 
  Thanks!
  I guess the question now is 'does this cause all relationship problems,' which I think is an overstatement on OP's part (nothing to do with your reply, just bringing it back to the CMV) >
  
  Ohh, toss me a dealta maybe? I love trying to spread information on the transgender experience!
  Thanks for listening :) >
  
  !delta thanks for showing me some real correlation.
  Though, in terms of the actual CMV, does this imbalance really cause all issues in a relationship? >
  
  Confirmed: 1 delta awarded to /u/pgold05 (43∆).
  ^Delta System Explained ^| ^Deltaboards >
  
  This post is really telling on yourself. If in your perception and experience women just aren’t in the mood, don’t you think that’s a hint?
  There is this widespread myth that sex is something that happens to women, instead of them being an equally desirous participant. Women can be horny as hell. The fact of the matter is that in heterosexual sex, a man is putting something into her body (which may be uncomfortable) and there are far more consequences for her (ex pregnancy) so it’s only fair and logical that a woman may be a little more discerning with her sexual partners even when she is horny. >
  
  This sounds like an emotional topic for you, I'm sorry if you're going through a hard time. 
  Your title and description are two different things, so I will ignore your title and just address the description. You are correct that men are more often aroused than women, but your reasoning for why is incorrect. Evolutionary things in biology have observable reasons. You dismiss all other reasons why a guy might be more horny as "he has more testosterone" without asking why men have more testosterone, or why testosterone impacts how often someone gets horny. 
  Most things in evolution come down to what helps something survive or reproduce. Men don't have as great a need for their offspring to survive, because we can create way more children than women can, so women have an evolutionary reason to make as top quality of babies as they can, as they have limited opportunities to have them. On top of reproducing, it is in that woman's immediate survival interests to not be pregnant. It's very hard to survive while pregnant. Since she is taking a major risk by doing that, the offspring has to be seen as worth it. You made a claim about how birth control means women don't have to be worried about getting pregnant, but that is not how biology works. Our instincts and hormones are built up over millions of years of evolution, just because a pill came out in the last hundred years or so, doesn't stop our instincts.
  Women also don't have more testosterone because it can cause infertility, but they still have a lot of testosterone. Testosterone is the dominant hormone in men and women, just the levels are different. 
  You made a lot of claims about "basic biology", but never looked at why things were that way, which is like the number one requirement to the scientific method.
  Source: Am scientist. >
  
  A much better explanation of all of that is that testosterone tends to make people more aggressive and bold, which means that men are more likely to take the risk of approaching the other gender. 
  Also, there are plenty of real, physicals risks associated with sex that women are more likely to suffer like for example being raped. Due to the same testosterone men are, on average, much bigger and stronger than women. Getting naked and alone with a man could put your life in danger.
  I’d recommend you find a woman who actually likes and is attracted to you. I’ll bet you sex drives won’t really be a problem. >
  
  
  Anytime you bring this up you have idiots coming out of the woodwork to remind you “wOmEn aRe jUsT aS hOrNy tHeY jUsT rEqUiRe XYZ tO gEt iN tHe MoOd” or “women are even HORNIER than men they’re just more selective, etc. Then you’ll hear the similar “they have the vagina” or “dick is abundant and of low value.” “My boyfriend can’t keep up with me” or simps proclaiming “bro women are way hornier.”
  
  So . . . what, you're just dismissing people's personal experiences out-of-hand?
  
  Libido is testosterone driven
  
  [citation needed]
  
  All of these facts essentially reinforce what is obvious
  
  You've provided exactly zero facts. Can you clarify what you think they are? And can you provide a link or a citation that backs up your assertion that they are, indeed, "factual?" >
  
  
  Or they’ll hide behind the “enormous risk” women take by having sex despite most of them being on birth control
  
  Which can fail and doesn't protect against STDs in some forms.
  
  when we have upper middle class suburban chicks unabashedly promoting their fledging porn careers (OF)
  
  Maybe the problem is your attitude towards women. Consent is a thing. Just because they're on OF doesn't mean whatever the heck you're trying to say with that whole ranty paragraph that's very generalizing and emotionally charged. 
  
  WOMEN AREN’T AS HORNY!
  
  Aren't as horny for men they don't want to sleep with.
  
  If men and women had equal sex drives, this disparity would not exist.
  
  women are afraid of being murdered or raped when meeting up for a date. No that wouldn't change the disparity
  
  Women’s inboxes would not be flooded, every woman wouldn’t complain about getting hit on everywhere she goes, and average overweight chicks wouldn’t feel entitled to men way out of their league.
  
  How?
  
  Libido is testosterone driven
  
  Source?
  And stop talking about people's "value". It's disgusting and would make most women run for the hills. >
  
  "Source"
  My tenth grade bio textbook. >
  
  Can you give me the name?
  Testosterone is not the only thing driving it, like the OP implies. I would imagine your book does not say that it is. >
  
  I know it’s not the only one, but it is the one which tends to express itself most often, that’s why it plays a big role, not due to intensity, but frequency of activation >
  
  The issue isn't the woman/women.
  It's you. >
  
  It's probably OP, yeah. That doesn't mean his point is necessarily wrong. They're not mutually exclusive. >
  
  So how do you quantify horniness? >
  
  No matter how horny you are, there's a big difference between penetrating and being penetrated in terms of the emotional and physical cost/mental space needed to be comfortable/etc. >
  
  Horny people don't need to have sex to satisfy their cravings. People can masturbate. 
  Women carry the risk of pregnancy and are FAR more likely to experience sexual assault or abuse from partners. Contraceptives can fail and the fact that some women are openly very sexual does not mean there's no stigma (in fact the whining that so many people do about these women shows there's very much still a stigma)
  Men are also notoriously bad at making women orgasm. Women in heterosexual relationships are the least likely to orgasm.  So, with a low chance of getting more from a partner than one would get from her own hand or toys, why roll the dice on a man? >
  
  Libido isn't testosterone driven and you're ranting