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  It seems like the majority of these comments are people not understanding a 38 year old dating an 18 year is much worse then a 68 year old dating a 48 year old. It is creepy if you go for solely 18-20 year olds and we all know you would go lower if you had the chance and it was legal. It creepy and weird
context: I dunno. I’m 44 years old. I guess I’d just feel weird dating someone who wasn’t even born when I was a legal adult, or who is closer to my 14 year old daughters age than my age. >
  
  Huh? You mean as a grown adult you don't want to pillow talk about literal high school drama? /s >
  
  What kind of love do you think a 50 year old could see in an 18 year old? >
  
  If he's with her for her looks and she's with him for his money isn't that a fair trade? >
  
  I mean I guess? but that doesn't absolve them of judgement from others. When I hear that, I just think it sounds like such a superficial and meaningless relationship between vapid people >
  
  That's not your business >
  
  It doesn't have to be your business for you to have a negative impression of something. If you jump in front of their faces and start insulting them, yeah, that's fucked up. But if you just think they're vapid people based on their life choices, you're well within your rights. >
  
  Why so judgy? I'm not for or against it necessarily, but why do people act so judgy around this subject? Like, how does some other relationship between two consenting adults affect you personally lol >
  
  Again, we're just talking about having an opinion, not getting involved or even expressing that opinion to the other person. 
  Do you think that the simple act of forming an opinion is some huge emotionally involved act of aggression? If you see someone walking down the street in a gimp suit are you literally incapable of even having the thought that that's kinda crazy because you're so committed to "minding your own business" and "not being judgy"? 
  If I get the impression that someone is only dating someone else for looks or money, my impression is that that sounds vapid. I'm not making a choice to have that opinion; it's just a gut reaction. >
  
  Yeah my former coworker married a 19 year old (mail order bride) at the age of 41.  He had been "dating" her and have sex with her since 15.  He was arrested a month ago on 9 felony counts of child molestation involving a family member. >
  
  My ex husband is 42 and I'm 24. 
  He met me online when I was 15. He wanted to take my virginity before I reached age of consent, and he has at least 2-3 years worth of CSAM with me in it.
  So here's my question: What on earth does a grown man have in common with a teenager, and why do you want a teenager more than a grown woman? >
  
  That’s entirely different dawg >
  
  Not really. I'll be hard-pressed to find an example of a healthy age gap relationship. >
  
  Literally any who don’t involve one person being groomed. No offense but you were groomed. That’s different. >
  
  I'm well aware I was groomed. 
  All I'm asking is for a reasonable explanation as to why it's okay for grown men to date teens. So far, no one has been able to justify it. >
  
  Here's the thing, you don't have to justify it if there's no manipulation (if legal). >
  
  Im a 19 year old who constantly get hit on by 30/40 year olds I’m sorry idc if u see me as a adult it’s gross and I will judge you and so will my peers. >
  
  Same, it’s disgusting and I always judge them when they try to come at me. I want a young partner that is around my age so F off. >
  
  I mean that's cool for you, but no one is forcing you into a relationship with these men and the OP is referencing consenting relationships. >
  
  And I’m saying that I find it gross and so do my friends grown adults who could be our parents have no business hitting on us or trying to groom… someone who is 19 and someone’s who is 40 have nothing in common whatsoever and no it’s not “cool” I made it pretty clear that i was grossed out by it so this is for all the old people here DON’T HIT ON US YOU CREEP THANK U. >
  
  Adults don’t groom adults. I think you’re using that wrong. Fwiw. >
  
  People  can certainly groom someone who just graduated from high school. They have NO LIFE EXPERIENCE….so the they have nothing to judge on. The person who is older can use that to groom them into something they want…it’s gross. >
  
  If age doesn’t matter a gorgeous and cunning woman could groom a rich mentally feeble desperate man just as well. I’m sure it happens all the time. I think it’s more just taking advantage of a fellow adult. It’s not any better. Grooming is usually an adult grooming someone underage so when they become of age they’re just what they want. >
  
  What an 18 who just got out of high school can easily be groomed into something they want.