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  Ong some people are just annoying condescending about this stuff. Yeah we know you don't agree, hence the goddam name of the sub man.
context: Upvote for the unpopular opinion, nice one.
  That aside, I’ve always held that you can hold a pretty cheap ceremony, spend a little to basically have a piss up, meal and general celebration with family (which as an aside functions as two family reunions in one) and then use the actual money for a decent honeymoon. 
  Seems better to me that way, some may disagree but hey, it’s your wedding. Do what you want, who’s gonna tell you otherwise? >
  
  That's what my husband and I did!! We went to a local lake with our parents and witnesses and had an outdoor fall ceremony. Family took some pics of us and we had a fantastic time because we weren't crazy stressed about it all! >
  
  How is this nsfw? Do you work for a wedding planner? >
  
  Because they’re Not Slightly a Fan of Weddings? >
  
  I’m amazed at how so many of my friends complain about being in debt or broke but they had big weddings that cost an arm and a leg. Big elaborate Weddings should not be a priority unless you actually have the money. I don’t have sympathy for people who spend 30k-40k + on a wedding and then complain about money issues afterwards. >
  
  We had a spectacular wedding with 38 guests on a mountain in Southern California. The total cost for the venue, an amazing brunch, professional photos, DJ, decorations, gifts, afterparty with sushi, deserts, dress, wedding rings, officiant was $4,600. This was 2016. A little DIY goes a long way. >
  
  I’ve always thought weddings were a waste of money, and those who pay thousands of $ are doing so because of family members and friends. I can’t fathom dumping so much money on food, cake, dress worn only once, venues, etc at overinflated prices. Imagine using that money to pay off school loans, pay off vehicles, down payment on a home, investing in the market. It’s just money being flushed away. >
  
  Weddings are fun and celebrating with everyone you love in your family and friends and people who have never met getting to meet is special
  It’s shown that the more people who attend your wedding the less likely you are to get divorced. Probs because you have a more supportive community keeping you together >
  
  That’s a hot take. Celebrities have thousands show up- divorce. I’ve been to 100k+ weddings with 500+ ppl- divorced. >
  
  While I do like a graph.. the man who did the study concluded that people who eloped were far more likely to get divorced than people who had guests at the wedding. It begs the question of, did they divorce through lack of guest support, or did they divorce because they rushed into a marriage without really thinking about it?
  He also found that the more money a couple spend on their wedding, the more likely they are to divorce. Which contradicts his first point (eloping is far less expensive than having 200+ guests).
  So really, his graphs were pretty pointless.. to have more people attend (meaning less divorce), you would need to spend more money (meaning more divorce). >
  
  I also think the culture of the people having large weddings changes things. Some cultures have weddings that are 3-7 days with a whole lot of guests. However, those cultures also heavily frown upon divorce typically. >
  
  Your cliche 10-20k weddings are definitely not necessary. I've always been one that I would never ever do an extravagant wedding. It would be low key, not a big group and maybe $5k max for venue and food but that's it. 
  I'd much rather spend the thousands of dollars on the honeymoon to travel across Europe for 2 weeks >
  
  I married a woman who had majored in drama, and it led me to realize that elaborate weddings are basically theatrical plays, where the bride is the star. The parallels are unmistakable.
  There are costumes (a white dress/tuxedo), scripted dialogue ("in sickness and in health"), multiple acts (ceremony and reception), props (rings and bouquets), and various musical numbers. It takes place on a stage in front of an applauding audience, who are seated by ushers. There's usually a wedding planner who acts as "director" to make the event run smoothly.
  It's a performance, through and though. >
  
  So true. Save your money for a down payment on a great house. >
  
  First off, you don't have to go into debt to have a wedding
  Secondly, you're generalising to an insane degree. Some people may have a wedding because they feel obligated, because it's a romantic ideal/dream to them, or because they love the community-aspect of it where everyone gets together and shares the joy.
  The inability to model other people's possible motives can be a sign of incredibly poor empathy and lacking ability to understand social situations, or it could speak of a fatal lack of general life experience.
  I'm just gonna assume it's the latter and that you're a child. So I'm just gonna say that you should probably stop spreading nonsense online. There's enough to feel embarrassed about when you're older, you don't need to go out of your way to add to it now.
  The same goes for everyone in this thread who agreed with the OP. >
  
  This is why the thread is unpopular ~~opinions~~