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  Systemic and institutional cruelty are insanely common even if interpersonal one on one cruelty is somewhat rarer than kindness. People go around ignoring the obvious in those terms all day long
context: Systemic and institutional cruelty are insanely common even if interpersonal one on one cruelty is somewhat rarer than kindness. People go around ignoring the obvious in those terms all day long >
  
  I'm not even sure how much I agree with my opinion up there. It sounds optimistic. I think cruelty cuts much deeper than kindness soothes us, most of the time. So cruelty can have a big impact for sure, and most kindnesses are simple things that just make our days a bit better. But kindness could save lives too. Yet it doesn't seem to register as a survival strategy, does it? But cruelty most certainly can register as a threat to survival, and in extreme cases does cost lives. >
  
  Most people are kind just the ones that aren't are more vocal >
  
  Could it be that kindness is usually quiet, but cruelty is often loud? >
  
  You have four wide categories of people generally with overlap between:
  1) the small circle -  they care about friends and family are generally apathetic to the rest of the world but are not unkind.  They neither help nor harm strangers.
  2) The Trapped in Their Own Minds -two diverse sorts in this one -  these are the people struggling so much all their energy goes into their own life with none left for anyone else and the narsissistic who see everyone else as accessories to their lives (thankfully a smaller category)
  3) The Helpers (Thanks to Mr. Rogers for the name) - these are the heroes that walk amongst us actively trying to make the world better overall.
  4) The Cruel - these are the people who like inflicting hurt on other people whether because they are angry and want everyone to be miserable, they enjoy the power rush, they want what they want and see no reason why they should care how it impacts others.
  Most people can be all of these at one point or another and mix and match to some degree.
  But lets be brutally honest, most of us are trying to get through our day in one piece and with sanity intact and are focused on our own lives and never notice what;s around us unless it directly impacts us.  Happily the truly cruel are few but their lethal impact is what we remember. >
  
  I agree. Always see comments like “faith in humanity restored” and stuff as if most people suck. 
  In general most people are decent and kind overall. 
  Not saying I’d expect the majority of your average person to sprint across a train track to save me when there is an extremely thin margin of their Survival as well, but just say to say norms in life, people are kind and respectful to each other. 
  To everyone else, we’re just another person like they are to us/I/you >
  
  It seems to be a common opinion, that most people suck. This would suggest that many who hold this opinion also suck. But is that just a feeling without much truth behind it? Probably. Or it could be that one has suffered enough from cruelty, and this colors the way they see people overall. Like if you came from an abusive family or something, that would darken your outlook. >
  
  In general, I think it’s kind of comparable to going somewhere and being like “damn, there’s too many people!” 
  Well to everyone else, you’re just another one of the “too many people” lol. 
  But certainly people with back up bringings or exposure to a lot of stuff can have a skewed opinion >
  
  Depends on where you live and how privileged you are. Like, China has concentration camps nowadays and nobody cares. Also poor has more toxic working environment than rich. Prisons, sex workers houses, bad neighborhoods with drugs problems is where most of cruelty happens. If you are lucky enough you will never encounter that. But human trafficking is just near you, on the same streets. Also fucking fascist russia, sick nation >
  
  Every cruel person was oncea child and relied on the kindness of others to survive. Most people do not commit the very real crimes tou mentioned. >
  
  Even cruel people were once babies and relied on the kindness of others to survive. There are far more kind people than cruel ones. >
  
  That's the main idea I was thinking. For most of us most of the time, being kind or at least not doing harm, is easier, feels better, and probably takes less energy with fewer unwanted consequences, than being cruel. Most of us possess some empathy at least, and are not indifferent to others' suffering. The less suffering around us, the better it is for us too. >
  
  Come to switzerland... and u r gonna change your mind. >
  
  Why? Are they somehow less human? Ive been all over the world and people are basically the same.
  Every cruel person was once a baby that survived due to the kindness of others. Most people do not geow up to be cruel. >
  
  Everyone’s definition of what qualifies as cruelty is pretty different, but generally you are correct tbh >
  
  Systemic and institutional cruelty are insanely common even if interpersonal one on one cruelty is somewhat rarer than kindness. People go around ignoring the obvious in those terms all day long >
  
  I'm not even sure how much I agree with my opinion up there. It sounds optimistic. I think cruelty cuts much deeper than kindness soothes us, most of the time. So cruelty can have a big impact for sure, and most kindnesses are simple things that just make our days a bit better. But kindness could save lives too. Yet it doesn't seem to register as a survival strategy, does it? But cruelty most certainly can register as a threat to survival, and in extreme cases does cost lives. >
  
  You have four wide categories of people generally with overlap between:
  1) the small circle -  they care about friends and family are generally apathetic to the rest of the world but are not unkind.  They neither help nor harm strangers.
  2) The Trapped in Their Own Minds -two diverse sorts in this one -  these are the people struggling so much all their energy goes into their own life with none left for anyone else and the narsissistic who see everyone else as accessories to their lives (thankfully a smaller category)
  3) The Helpers (Thanks to Mr. Rogers for the name) - these are the heroes that walk amongst us actively trying to make the world better overall.
  4) The Cruel - these are the people who like inflicting hurt on other people whether because they are angry and want everyone to be miserable, they enjoy the power rush, they want what they want and see no reason why they should care how it impacts others.
  Most people can be all of these at one point or another and mix and match to some degree.
  But lets be brutally honest, most of us are trying to get through our day in one piece and with sanity intact and are focused on our own lives and never notice what;s around us unless it directly impacts us.  Happily the truly cruel are few but their lethal impact is what we remember. >
  
  I agree. Always see comments like “faith in humanity restored” and stuff as if most people suck. 
  In general most people are decent and kind overall. 
  Not saying I’d expect the majority of your average person to sprint across a train track to save me when there is an extremely thin margin of their Survival as well, but just say to say norms in life, people are kind and respectful to each other. 
  To everyone else, we’re just another person like they are to us/I/you >
  
  It seems to be a common opinion, that most people suck. This would suggest that many who hold this opinion also suck. But is that just a feeling without much truth behind it? Probably. Or it could be that one has suffered enough from cruelty, and this colors the way they see people overall. Like if you came from an abusive family or something, that would darken your outlook. >
  
  I have noticed that when people talking about "most people", they are usually describing themselves.
  The kindest people I meet tend to believe most people are kind.
  The rudest people I meet believe most people are rude.
  Someone who believes most people are honest is probably an honest person.
  The biggest morons I know keep talking about how dumb everyone else is.
  This idea breaks down the more specific or data-driven you get, but it holds up for most uses. >
  
  There is some truth to what you say. I mean, people often follow the "law of reciprocity" don't they? If you are friendly yourself, most people will be friendly towards you. If you are standoffish you will be left alone. That sort of thing. >
  
  Most people are kind just the ones that aren't are more vocal >
  
  Could it be that kindness is usually quiet, but cruelty is often loud? >
  
  Depends on where you live and how privileged you are. Like, China has concentration camps nowadays and nobody cares. Also poor has more toxic working environment than rich. Prisons, sex workers houses, bad neighborhoods with drugs problems is where most of cruelty happens. If you are lucky enough you will never encounter that. But human trafficking is just near you, on the same streets. Also fucking fascist russia, sick nation >
  
  Every cruel person was oncea child and relied on the kindness of others to survive. Most people do not commit the very real crimes tou mentioned. >
  
  My mum warned me all my life about going down dark alleyways at night, there's druggies, criminals, evil people in those places at those times. Recently I had to go through an a very dark alley after my shift at the bar. I go around a corner and there's 2 guys putting heroin on a spoon. I'm a stoner but any hard drugs are disgusting to me, especially that. A quote that Nikki Sixx write in the Motley Crue book in particular scares me 'cocaine, acid, alcohol. Those were just affairs. When i met heroin, it was true love's. 
  They are blocking my way, and I don't want anything to do with this situation, the guy holding the spoon sees me, says 'oh sorry man, go on through mate stay safe' lets me pass and goes back to his business. >
  
  Even cruel people were once babies and relied on the kindness of others to survive. There are far more kind people than cruel ones. >
  
  That's the main idea I was thinking. For most of us most of the time, being kind or at least not doing harm, is easier, feels better, and probably takes less energy with fewer unwanted consequences, than being cruel. Most of us possess some empathy at least, and are not indifferent to others' suffering. The less suffering around us, the better it is for us too. >
  
  This post makes me want to be mean to someone just to even things out. >
  
  roflmao this is absolutely hilariously naïve to me. You have to be sheltered >
  
  Hey, it says unpopular opinions, not ones everybody agrees with. I'm not even sure I agree with it. More like making an argument that didn't feel like something I totally believe, which is an interesting exercise. >
  
  Come to switzerland... and u r gonna change your mind. >
  
  Why? Are they somehow less human? Ive been all over the world and people are basically the same.
  Every cruel person was once a baby that survived due to the kindness of others. Most people do not geow up to be cruel.