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  You are lucky enough that nursing homes in your country ensure human right. Violence in such places outside of first world is very common
context: I don't know how unpopular it is, but same is happening with my grandmother.
  Nursing homes just have specialised personel and know what routines are best for patients with different illnesses. >
  
  I think the people who pile on the guilt about this are the ones who're hoping their kids will take them in and drop their whole lives to nurse them through their final months/years. That might have worked in the days where a lot of women didn't work outside the home, but in today's world it's just unrealistic and we should stop blaming and shaming.
  I know my mom would hate to end up in a nursing home, she's told this to me repeatedly, but I'm an only child to divorced parents who live about 5 hours away from each other, I work full time and, for a variety of reasons, there is no way we could have one of them live with us, let alone both. If a time comes where she can't manage at home even with outside help, she can rage and complain all she wants, there just won't be another option. >
  
  I always thinked that i would never put my grand parent in a nursing home... That was until both of them got Dementia/ALzheimers , and slowly started to became a danger for themselves and other. And nobody in my families was able to help them h24 7/7 , and they needed to be. What is my grand father  fall again and nobody is here at that time ?  What if ?  They needed people to take care of them and who know how too.  Nursing Home are necessary , it just need more budget so living there can be more decent >
  
  Who thinks that? My grandmother is 99 and needs extensive care because she can't move anymore, she would have needed two full-time nurses which was unaffordable.