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  The reason why I asked OP what age they were referring to, was because I was curious whether or not they meant people that had already got their life together or not. The younger people you mentioned are just a small percentage of the main target group but generally, young people such as 18yolds, 20yolds, 25yolds etc are still going through their career development period. The people you mentioned are old, worked their whole life, so therefore they're already successful. There's no other stage of it, that's it. This is as good as it's gonna get. But if you've just graduated, work a part time job, you're studying for your collage and just have a plan you're willing to follow, you do not have time to be outdoors all the time having fun. It's just not possible, it may work at the beginning, but it's not gonna work forever. It's common sense.
context: Sometimes I wish I had your problem. But just sometimes. >
  
  That’s why it’s “too many”. Having “too much” of anything is bad. >
  
  Even money? >
  
  Yes >
  
  Just putting it out there. If anyone here is suffering from too much money, I'm always here to take some of that burden. You don't have to go through this alone! >
  
  This isn't a "having too many friends"-problem but a "having poor personal boundaries"-problem >
  
  Not being mature enough to be able to say no to peer pressure makes your life worse. >
  
  People should learn the difference between friends, >
  
  Me as a loner who has nobody: Oh wow, that sounds terrible /s >
  
  i used to have this problem, so i just started ghosting people, or making excuses for not showing up at their get togethers, or taking days before replying to their messages. Eventually I just developed a reputation for being unreliable and flakey. Now I have no friends. >
  
  Sounds like you got what you wanted tho, rejoice. >
  
  Quality vs quantity. Focus on that, even and especially when it comes to the people you surround yourself with and vice versa. Also important: having boundaries, maturity, self awareness, a back bone strong ebough to say "no" to people, things, and experiences.
  It's maybe an unpopular opinion, but compartmentalization is often important as well. Different types of people and your different relationship with them belong in different circles, based on your level of relationship with each other. I strongly believe if you know different types...then think about how you met, whom you met through, who is actually the friend, who is a friend-of-a-friend, who is a social acquaintance, and what your level of closeness (and distance) is. What interests do you bond over? Categorize and keep them in their own respective place in your life. I strongly believe you shouldnt mix everyone you're friends or social acquaintances with in one or two big baskets. 
  Not everyone who have known me for years know each other. I also dont like to invite everyone at the same party or event. My social circle is very small, and within that, my inner circle is even smaller. >
  
  I do kind of agree...it's exhausting because you'll always have something you have to go do. This happened to me at one point when I was seeing multiple groups of people regularly. Felt like I had no time to relax by myself >
  
  I concur on the drama. After my divorce I drastically reduced the amount of people in my inner circle. After doing that, I deactivated  my Facebook account for over 2 years. 99% of the drama disappeared. >
  
  What age are you referring to? Because I know for a fact that no grown person who takes their 
  career and personal growth seriously has time to party and go out all the time >
  
  Lol I know some extremely wealthy and successful people in their 60’s and 70’s that drink all the time and have parties all the time, more than people in my age group even. It definitely is not a matter of age or whether or not they take their career seriously. >
  
  Haven't you already kind of made up your life in your 60s tho? You supposedly already have a job, a family and those people are already wealthy, which allows them to have a carefree lifestyle. Something that doesn't apply to someone who's 20 or even 30 and they're at the start of their career. This is why I'm asking which age is OP referring to. >
  
  But they’re not retired, they’re still working. So it’s not a carefree lifestyle of retirement that you seem to be picturing. One of these individuals I’m talking about works in the hotel industry and flies all around the country/world like every other week. 
  The point is they’re old, they take their careers very seriously, and they have social gatherings and parties and shit all the time. So asking about age doesn’t seem like relevant criteria. >
  
  They're working to maintain this lifestyle, not achieve it. They're already in the peak of their career and that's hardly going to change. And honestly, there's not a lot of things a 70yo can do to their work. Considering you said that they're wealthy, I'm assuming they run some kind of business or something. So they probably have other people who are working for them to take care of important matters, and they may also have a lot of savings. It's almost impossible for a young person to achieve something like this. Unless they inherited it from someone lmao
  Plus, the social gatherings you're talking about seem to be a part of their job, so I guess that's a little irrelevant to what I'm trying to say >
  
  They work in numerous different fields, as I said one in works in hotels, others work in vastly different fields. And yes they are wealthy, I think I said that but that isn’t the point. 
  The point is you tried to say that people like OP is describing must not be taking their career seriously, but these are all people who take their careers so seriously they’ll probably never retire even though they absolutely could.  There’s plenty of younger people in their orbit that party as much or less than them, and still take their careers seriously. The main takeaways here is that you can not rationally assess how much a person cares about their career simply by how many social gatherings they want to involved in.