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  Yeah I felt like the intention of this post is more the opposite of how most people are taking it. Because if you’re incredibly good friends with someone, you aren’t worried about appearances the way you would be with someone who you aren’t as close with. They already know who you are and you wouldn’t feel self conscious about your home being slightly messy
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  I cleaned my house before I got my cat because I wanted to make a good first impression. >
  
  First impressions matter >
  
  Furst impressions matter >
  
  Did they get rid of free awards? You needs one. >
  
  hold my beer >
  
  Well Mr bacon burger here is awesome. The username does check out, >
  
  I like to invite a buddy over for beers so I have someone to chat with while I tackle my dish mountain. Way better than doing them alone. >
  
  This is called "body doubling" in the ADHD world, it's a very effective tool for getting chores done. I have 1 friend who's allowed to see my messy house and it'll get pretty clean by time she leaves.
  Edit: people in general can benefit from this, it's just particularly useful for those who struggle to do  chores/other tasks for whatever reason >
  
  Is this why I study/work wayyy more efficiently when I'm around other people? I wish I learned this term years ago >
  
  The simple way I understand my ADHD & GAD is the Buddhist term “Monkey Mind.” I have an overactive one, so some type of stimulation to keep me present, helps the other part of my brain focus. In school I always could listen better if I was doodling. >
  
  I too could listen better if I was doodling. Teachers never understood that and forced me to sit straight and stare at the board. 
  Now I have a office job and during meetings I still doodle the fuck out of things. I don't even care what somebody thinks of me anymore. They may fire me one day soon. I'm already mentally prepared for it. Maybe I'll sue them for discriminating me for my ADD or something. 
  Fuck people. >
  
  I’ve become over time what I think of as a “functioning” person. Instead of doodling which can be distracting for others I have this set of magnets that I can constantly flip inside and out in different ways, I highly recommend giving them a try. Anything small that’s not distracting to others, doesn’t need to be looked at while using, and can be kept in your hand/pocket is helpful. >
  
  Do they make noise when you move them? As someone with misophonia and anxiety repetitive noises can be incredibly distracting.
  Schools used to give each student a peppermint before standardized tests because it was supposed to boost concentration or something. So people like me spent the first 15-20 minutes of the test working so hard to block out all of the mouth noises cause by a room full of just slurping on a peppermint that we were already mentally exhausted before we really got started. Then there were of course the couple that saved it and started slurping and hour in. 
  Then the fidget tools became popular and the constant clicking, whooshing, tapping, clanking, etc. made it impossible to focus. 
  So, I ask if they are quiet because I’d like to have an option to share with people when the situation arises. Cheers. >
  
  They sort of depend on how the person uses them. They do have the potential for making noise, but only if they click together quickly. If you don’t want them to make noise, they won’t, but it’s totally up to how the user plays with them. >
  
  I don't know about anybody else but I keep my place clean to help stave off the looming depression...A clean environment to chill in is really nice. >
  
  My depression keeps me from cleaning >
  
  Can you smoke weed? That helps me. >
  
  I don’t like smoking anything.  I’d love some weed I didn’t have to smoke >
  
  Get edibles? >
  
  I’ve tried some chocolates and noticed nothing >
  
  That's unusual, whether you like them or not you should notice something. >
  
  It's actually not super uncommon. Quite a few people lack the enzyme to digest THC properly, first time I got my best friend high I gave him about 30mg of edibles and he didn't feel a thing. >
  
  You gave someone 30mg of edibles for their first time getting high? >
  
  Sorry I should have been more specific. We started with 5mg, then after a few hours we started building from there. It was around 30mg in total. >
  
  It’s easier to keep the house straightened/tidied. If friends are coming over, clean anything that stands out as being dirty. If they’re coming over on short or no notice, they’ll have to overlook uncleanliness. At least that’s my policy. (My rather spontaneous-minded friends show up on short notice at least once a week). >
  
  Dude this is something I wish my wife would understand and implement. She's a major scatterbug, in that all her shit is scattered everywhere all the time, whereas I tend to keep my stuff in somewhat designated piles. Every time there's even a notion of people coming over, she goes into frenzy cleaning and drags me along. I keep trying to hammer into her that if she'd just keep her shit picked up as she went along, we wouldn't have the stress and headaches of frantically picking up the house last minute. She's getting better about it, but god damn woman lol.
  For the record, I love the fuck outta my wife, even if she is a nut job from Mars. >
  
  We might be married to the same woman. >
  
  My wife apparently has a lot of spouses. >
  
  They're onto me >
  
  Trying to avoid this woman is the plague >
  
  I think the real gauge is how clean your house is AFTER they leave. The real homies help clean up and keep the place clean. >
  
  I disagree. Not because real homies don’t clean, but because regular nice people ALSO help clean. 
  I’ve organized many parties where guests I don’t even know would insist on helping with the dishes, putting stuff away. Hell, I’ve had people vacuum. 
  My super close friends by contrast are passed out drunk on the couch, cause they know my house is 100% safe. >
  
  Nah my homies will do that but then clean up in the morning with me.  Don’t even ask they just do. >
  
  How it should be, if they don't they are not your hommie. >
  
  The more important someone is, the more I want them to feel comfortable because the environment is clean. 
  Sometimes I go to someone's house and it feels like there is no space for me and I'm afraid to touch things because everything is dirty. I don't want my friends to feel that way. 
  I might be a cultural thing, but in my family it shows you are so important to me that I cleaned everything up for you. >
  
  On the flip side, if the reason you haven't invited me over to hang out is because you haven't had the time or energy to clean, F-it - it's more important we hang out. >
  
  Or if you need help cleaning, i will come help! No judgement. Sometimes mental illness gets in the way and i get it. >
  
  There’s an old saying, the people that matter don’t mind and the people that mind don’t matter. 
  Personally I like to keep my house in a stated of lived in, there may be dishes on the sink but there won’t be sticky stuff on floor. >
  
  It’s not that they’ll mind, it’s that I’ll mind. 
  Edit: based on the responses I imagine many of your lives are absolutely ideal and also that many of you are highly delusional >
  
  Out of curiosity, what specifically will you mind? I had a roommate that felt bad about not having the place spotless for when I came back from vacation/time away, and that felt odd to me because they live there. >
  
  Well it’s gonna make me a little uncomfortable if someone comes over and there’s dirty dishs everywhere, mud all over the floor, pee all over the toilet, etc. Especially if there’s not even a place to sit. It’s almost like inviting someone over for dinner and giving them a cup noodle, wouldn’t you be a little embarrassed? >
  
  Well it would make me uncomfortable to be living in a place like that so it wouldn’t happen. I’m talking about whether there’s dishes on the sink etc. >
  
  Ya me too my house is permanently spotless >
  
  I clean my place before my friends come over because I respect them.
  Who wants to hang out at a dirty place? >
  
  Cockroaches >
  
  Oh there'll be roaches, just not the skittering kind. >
  
  I feel like this could be interpreted in two ways. 
  Either your friends don't care about any mess and you're tight.
  Or you care enough to clean the place to give your friends a clean and more chill place to chill at, on a chill night while it's chilly out.
  Edited: typo