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  Dad was an alcoholic druggy who left when I was a kid so I know what alcohol problems look like. For some people drinking any alcohol (one a week, can lead to alcoholism, for some it can be fine thus probably) and drinking two or three nights out of the week absolutely can be a drinking problem. If you are having 8 shots a night 3 times a week at parties that absolutely is unhealthy and is a problem
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  I think you're just looking too far into things.
context: Maybe hang out with better people who aren’t so judgy and insecure >
  
  I prefer "Maybe hang out with people that don't suck". >
  
  It's funny I was just saying this to my friend the other day. My husband and I went on a trip to stowe vermont and there was a restaurant with a whole page of mocktails and being pregnant it was great. Despite the username (lol) I am not an avid drinker and used to collect whiskeys and scotches. Now, I'm trying more bougie sodas and making my own little mocktails at home. I'm hopeful that more pubs and places will open with things aside from drinking as the draw like video game bars, board game cafes, pool halls etc. since sober curious and sobriety is becoming more common in younger people. >
  
  My husband and I are headed to Stowe this Tuesday. Good to know! >
  
  Doc Ponds was the name of the place we went and there was lots of mocktails if you find yourself curious >
  
  Great, thank you! We'll have to try it out. >
  
  We had a dry bar in my area and it closed after 5 months due to low business. Pretty sad. >
  
  As a non drinker now, I'll spend $12 on a mocktail but I'm not going to buy 3 or 4 like I would when I was drinking. Same with NA beer. I'll have 1 or 2 at a concert but I'm not going to have 5 or 6 like I would when going out before. You just can't do the volume of sales like with regular bars so you better have some other revenue stream if you're a dry bar. >
  
  Just use my response, problem solved. >
  
  Nice! Might actually use that. >
  
  Question: How old are you and what part of the world are you in? Individual and cultural attitudes towards alcohol can vary greatly by area and probably by age. I'm in my 30s in the northeastern US, and no one ever gives me shit or weird looks if I don't want to drink. >
  
  Mid 30s Norway >
  
  I only drink sometimes and I’ve never heard people say any of that to me when I’m not drinking. Conversations go like this “what drink can I get for you? Beer? Cocktail? Wine?” “No thanks do you have anything nonalcoholic” “sure! Soda? Mocktail? Iced tea?” “I’d love an iced tea thanks!”
  Whenever I have parties I have 6 different pitchers with spouts and 3 are blue and 3 are green and the blue are labeled alcohol and green are labeled non alcoholic (I make my own cocktails/mocktails) and then I have a cooler of beer and wine and a cooler of soda and tea. 
  Maybe get different friends? If people are rude about this they aren’t worth hanging out with. >
  
  Society is so obsessed with alcohol it's not funny. >
  
  I'd hardly say obsessed its just something fun to do sometimes. >
  
  I live in the uk and we are definitely obsessed.  A lot of people I know live for their next drink. >
  
  Ahhh, I see. I guess it would all depend on what you consider excessive as well. Like 1 drink a week probably isn't bad but yeah if you're drinking 2 or 3 nights out of the week that's probably not the best. >
  
  Lol you have no concept for what actual drinking is… >
  
  And how exactly did you divine this from two comments that have no mention of my drinking habits? >
  
  Your first reply shows you are oblivious to how integrated alcohol use is into social norms/customs. 
  The use of “probably” and “maybe” in your follow up reply indicates you don’t have a good sense for what a real drinking problem looks like. 
  I very well could be wrong. But language use can be an indicator of underlying perceptions.