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  oops my bad bro, I didn't know you didn't wanna be DDoS'd at 3 in the afternoon. that's on me, homie, real shit. on jod you should forgive me, it was only an online little prank bro.
context: I'll give you an upvote for an unpopular opinion. I understand why you have this belief but it's also how you end up living a lonely and solitary life. You need to learn how to forgive. Every single person you meet is going to disapoint you at least once. >
  
  This is so true. >
  
  I agree and disagree. Like if a person does not know your boundaries and you give them  a" second" chance with a explanation of your boundaries, really you are giving them their first chance with all of the pertinent information. After this if a person  disregards or discuss your boundaries it becomes a 50/50 on whether the person made the active choice or simply still didn't understand how to effectively respect your boundaries. It's one of those that simply isn't that black and white, but if a person does in fact make the active choice to disrespect your boundaries then by all means cut them off. >
  
  If people were never seen as anything more than their worst mistakes than why should they ever try to better themselves? >
  
  This. This right here >
  
  
  Like, you have to remember that the person who dissapointed you actively chose to dissapoint you and hurt you.
  
  This is not always true and is an extremely childish way to think about it.
  People make mistakes, some are worse than others, but that doesn’t mean they acted maliciously or anything.  In the end you just have to decide how much you want a person in your life.  And then you can forgive them. >
  
  Forgive OP. Up there talking like you never disappointed someone. >
  
  Or they are projecting when they say people always deliberately choose to hurt others. >
  
  I bet you’re awesome to work with >
  
  I think it really depended case by case. If you catch it early on and have communication scales Second chance will work out. Also depends how big the issue . I have given Second chances and they have worked out but I also have done it and they have backfired >
  
  Depends on what they did. >
  
  Learn forgiveness fool. Humans are complex and fuck up sometimes >
  
  You can forgive without ever subjecting yourself, to an abuser again. >
  
  Bit of an escalation someone who disappointed you is not the same thing as abuse. >
  
  He very strongly implied that the disappointment has to do with abusive behavior. >
  
  I'd say there's a small implication from OP and a large inference from you. >
  
  Do you apply this logic to yourself? >
  
  When you're getting to know someone these things happen. You learn and get to a new level. I give a few strikes. In my 40s now so Im not so extreme but also see bullshit more quickly. >
  
  Do you also expect other people to never give you second chances? >
  
  I really don't think so I believe in giving everyone a few chances as long as your aren't  toying with my emotions and Intentionally trying to make me angry. >
  
  Very situational on what is the issue and whether they are willing to change and improve themselves >
  
  This is a case to case basis. 
  Because everyone you meet will disappoint you at some point. >
  
  So, are you perfect? You've never disappointed anyone? >
  
  I don’t think that’s a fair response. He’s talking more about maliciously hurting or betraying someone. Not just disappointing. >
  
  He literally said "disappoint" twice. >
  
  Oh I definitely read the post. But you can be disappointed in someone for small and large things. I think he’s talking about the more malicious things. You don’t “not” give a second chance to someone who disappointed you by forgetting to pick you up a coffee. >
  
  How do you assume that OP meant the worst form of disappointment when their effort is limited by the skill ceiling of spelling "disappointed" correctly twice in a row? >
  
  Meh, people screw up. Life is too short for that kind of resentment. I will say that it will depend on the severity of the fuck up. For instance if you are late for a birthday party compared to if you stab me in the kidney while stealing my television. >
  
  How old are you? >
  
  21 >
  
  I used to wonder why people would ever give me a second chance. >
  
  what if I love them? Life is sad :(
  I still wonder why did he left me alone :( >
  
  Yes,I never believe in second chances too >
  
  You must be a perfect person who never disappoints anybody ever. >
  
  Online maybe, irl no way