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I want to eat all of your food. Feed me.
It is a weird cultural aspect, in some places, it is seen as rude not to give people food. I live in New Zealand and a big part of the local Māori Tikanga is feeding people in your house, it is seen as respectful and welcoming. So it is so hard being in your shoes. >

I completely understand this, my family is Mexican and it’s basically written in stone to feed guests. Which basically is the bane of my existence and I feel ungrateful but I can’t force myself to be so uncomfortable just for tradition. >

Do you eat in restaurants?  
Those are super dicey.  I don't like eating in places were I cannot see the kitchen. >

It depends, sometimes I can detach myself enough to eat certain places if they’re higher end. With fast food I’ll usually only eat places I worked when I was younger or know I have a safe food there that I’m willing to risk germs for >

That sucks, I feel like that’s significantly limiting your life experience. Most of the best food I’ve had were random cheapish restaurants >

I love eating at other people’s houses: I don’t have to cook, I don’t have to clean, and I get to try someone else’s cooking. If it’s yummy, awesome; if it’s meh, at least I’m full; if it’s disgusting, it’s a fun story for later, and at least I’m full. >

I would love for this to be my case, for me though a bad meal is like one step away from a sensory meltdown. Even foods I know I enjoy can become foods that make me feel icky and stressed >

I hate eating at others as well. I don't have a massive appetite and am pretty picky.  I always feel obligated to over eat, and force myself to pretend I enjoy food I'd rather not have. >

I’ll literally gag if I try to eat something I don’t like. I can’t even pretend to like it. >

I’m the same way. I cannot stomach eating something I don’t like. >

I kind of feel more worried about higiene in certain restaurants/bars. The kitchen at other people's home is accessible to me, the others are not.. >

I've seen some horrible shit happen in restaurants kitchens. Never eating in restaurants again. >

You're never eating in a restaurant again!? Lol yeaaah right >

Yeah, I don't feel the desire after having worked in one. I don't understand what's so unbelievable. >

I totally agree, i absolutely abhor eating with other people; especially at their house, but at restaurants as well; also parties, events, gatherings. I cant pinpoint exactly why, but it just makes me incredibly uncomfortable and i always eat very little, only enough so i have food on my plate >

I have celiac disease and am genuinely paranoid when it comes to eating at other people's homes. I mean, different reason obviously but I feel ya. >

I understand completely. I make sure to know of any food allergies because I have them myself. Even food restrictions for preference or religious reasons. I show my guests the ingredients before hand to be sure it is ok and ask if how I cook them will be ok. I am paranoid like you as well. I have to be, my life depends on it. I treat my guests as if their life does as well. Considering how many vegan and vegetarian friends my kids have, I am considering buying some cookware only for them so no meat or dairy is ever cooked in the same pan. >

Yeah I'm the same. Having food allergies has made me a lot more considerate. I actually refuse to cook for our friend with peanut allergies because I'm so paranoid about cross contamination as we cook with peanuts regularly. >

Good on you! Sorry you have food allergies. It sucks big time! My friend's child was severely allergic to peanuts before my own allergy came to be, so I was on this ship before my own issues arose. That said, it is so considerate of you!! Your friend must be so happy you are thinking of their well-being!!! I know I would. Kudos to you... (ironically, kudos is a candy I can't eat anymore due to my allergy...hel I am old, are they made anymore? ).
Cross contamination is what ended me in the ER....large banquet facility that knew my allergy, but served my tea on the same tray as my deadly allergen. Lesson learned for me. Paranoid af anywhere without good allergy controls for cross contamination. Props to you for looking out for your friend.
For you, I do let my guests know that peanut butter is in my household. However, my baking sheets and cookware never touch peanut butter, but I do disclose it is in my home. I would suggest letting your friends know and let them make the choice depending upon how allerggic they are. I feel, this puts control in their court as to the level of concern, but you sound like a good person that cares no matter what, like me. 
In some instances, I feel more comfortable in my own home to cook for friends than to eat out. Example: For my one friend, has a severe yeast allergy. Yeast is in so many things. I finally found a broth at Costco that is yeast free! Please excuse my excitement. Before, I made broth from scratch from only meat or vegetables that never, to my knowledge, were in contact with yeast...check lables, because some manufacturers add yeast to spices. 
Also if you subscribe to food box delivery, let your friends know. I cannot remember which food box delivery it was, I think ugly fruit and vegetables (idk) but they couldn't guarantee no nuts in a delivery box, super nice, responsive and very honest so I am not on their subscription, but I greatly appreciate thier business model. >

Everyone lives and eats different in their household. If the kitchen and bathroom seem messy I get paranoid about the food. One time eating at a friends place. All her plates smelled like raw eggs. Even the wine glasses! Also some households  have weird smells in their house. Makes me uncomfortable eating their food >

I had an apartment where the water was sulfuric, so any time I used the tap, the smell of rotten eggs was present. Rough year, for sure. >

I enjoy eating at other's homes but I do think about the germs aspect. On the other hand, the food ends up being delicious I just assume the heat kills the germs to put myself at ease lol 😅 >

I hate other people’s homes period. Especially sleeping in them. >

Biiiig agree on the sleeping part, bed could be the most comfortable in the world, but because it isn’t mine, I just don’t feel comfortable in it >

same >

I am a vegetarian and this always makes me uncomfortable when eating with others. I usually decline invitations for work outings etc. 
In restaurants there's very often a very limited choice on the menu for me. And when I do order something vegetarian, it's always the same comments and questions. I don't like explaining why I don't eat meat, and I don't like having to justify myself. I don't like being the centre of attention. 
With buffets it's not always clear whether there's meat in the food, and I feel uncomfortable to ask. I hate being "difficult" and have them make something specifically for me. 
And for bring-your-own-food kind of events, I'm usually the only one bring something meat-free so I can't eat anything else than my own. >

Me too. I’d rather eat at home where I pig out in a t shirt and sweats and not have to worry about anyone looking at me strange. >

Same here! I have sensory issues when it comes to food textures, as well as severe allergies to strawberries and walnuts so I hate eating at other people's houses. The only one I'm comfortable with, is my grandma because I know how she cooks and she knows what I like >

I won't shit at another person's home........ >

This isn’t an opinion, it’s a behavior. >

Wow, so many people in this thread are assholes about food. Why do you care what we eat and don’t eat? Some of us are picky eaters, and some aren’t. Get over it. >

You’d get over picky eating pretty quickly if we did not live in a time of such abundance. >

Okay and? We do live in a time of such abundance now, so why does someone not wanting to try particular foods bother you so much? Also why do you keep commenting the same thing under that persons comments? Weirdo >

I hate to tell you but your friends kitchen is probably a lot cleaner than the average restaurant, If you're that concerned about germs your only real course of action is to only ever make your own food. >

Christ on a f%$king bike. Have an upvote. >

Thanksgivings at new people’s houses are really super awkward for me. I’m an EXTREMELY picky eater. I hate that it’s considered rude if you don’t eat someone’s food. Like, no, I will NOT try your grandma’s potato salad unless you want me to gag all over the table. I’ll take the meat and bread and nothing else please. I don’t want people thinking I’m rude, but food is not something I’ll fuck with. It’s one of my non-negotiables. I like what I like, and that’s it. >

Same just won't do it. Anyone with a problem with it just has one less guest. >

Bye >

Feeling this. I also like to eat in peace watching tv or with my girlfriend. Can't stand eating at loud, bright restaurants with lots of people.
Edit: the fact that there is always so much background noise already and everyone is feeling like they have to overtune others while talking to be understood makes this always a hell of a experience and is very tiring. >

Replace eating with "sleeping" and that's me.
I don't think I've ever had a serious formal dinner at anyone else's house but I have had burgers and pancakes at a friend's house and that's always a win.
As for the germophobe stuff, as long as they're not having a massive health code violation and using rotten meat, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Okay that probably didn't help lol >

In my country, it's polite to offer food at other peoples homes, but also polite to refuse them 
Yes... It's as weird as it sound. >

I feel some kind of panic. I just realized that I feel like my chewing, looks and way to eat makes other people feel disgusted. It’s very difficult to try to eat in quiet place while someone is watching. I can eat with my bf and family but not even with my friends. >

Oh my god, yes. I've always been a picky eater, I'm really fussy about textures, temperatures, and overall food hygiene. I'm also a vegetarian in a country where the usual reaction to not eating meat is serving meat soup without the actual meat chunks. Also, please, don't let your dog lick the spoon or your hand and keep cooking with the same utensil/hand. I've witnessed it way too many times and I'm pretty sure there are much worse things happening in those kitchens. >

I kind of understand this. I had a friend who had a very unclean home. Not their fault. We were kids and their parents just couldn’t be bothered. But damn would I always do my best to never eat there. >

It's worse when they offer you the left overs in the fridge. >

Get help, OP. You have a mental disorder. >

Only children are picky eaters.
You're an adult.
You have refined taste and a discerning palate. >

I’m using this from now on thank you lol! >

This sounds like a maladaptive habit that will severely impede your ability to function as it intensifies with age. >

Exactly. And god forbid we have a world war, famine, etc. Imagine being in a time where people are starving and trying to have this attitude. >

Picky eaters are children and deserve all the obstacles they create by their pickyness
Change my mind >

I had some Lithuanian room mates once, they invited me to a friends house one evening. I'm very fussy about meat and I don't like fat on meat at all. Well there friends had this spread of weird fatty meats that I was basically forced to try. It was awful. There were nearly 10 of them all aggressively telling me I must eat. None of them spoke great English and they just weren't inderstanding that I do not like this food. Once I had tried one piece they were even more insistent on me trying more. Now I hate fatty meat even more than before >

Oh my god.  I am so sorry That sounds like my personal hell. Fatty meat is one of my biggest no goes. >

Why can't redditors just be normal lol. I've literally never met anyone like this but here they are in this thread. >

You have met them. They just keep their weird traits to themselves. >

People that are insanely picky have always seemed incredibly childish to me. “My porridge is too cold.” >

Is wanting your food to be warm really insanely picky? >

I feel the same way purely because I hate everything everyone else makes and I know zero good cooks. I like eating my own food because every time I go somewhere everybody is like oh this is so good and I'm like it's dry as fuck or burnt. >

You are the worst kind of person, an adult child. Your parents failed you miserably. >

No worries, we wouldn’t like to have you for dinner either. Adult picky eaters are the worst guests anyway. Thanks for staying home! >

Total ingrates. >

Sounds like a you problem dude >

Home cooked meals are generally safe unlike restaurants that are filled with germs, unsanitary food prep stations, improper washing and most importantly employees that don’t care about what they are serving you. 
There are only 2 types of restaurants. One where you can see the kitchen and one where you can’t. Hint, if you care about germs don’t eat where you can’t see the kitchen. >

It really depends, but in the US at least everyone preparing food at a restaurant has been trained in food safety and at least knows what cross contamination is, whereas many home cooks don't. 
Most quality restaurants are pretty motivated to not make their guests sick. Of course there will always be sketchy places but I've eaten at a lot of restaurants and I've only gotten food poisoning once in my entire life from a restaurant.
I've known multiple excellent home cooks who made me sick. (And I once gave myself food poisoning by cooking eggs a weird way I wouldn't do at a restaurant lol). >

Yeah same but bc the foods bad. I've been to some peoples houses, and they usually serve me food they eat and their tastes are too sour. Idk why anyone would eat a lemon. Then I feel really bad for not eating it and choke it down. Now I always avoid eating at anyone's house