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Tact goes a long fucking way. People who say this or have no filter can rightly fuck off because more often than not the words that come out of their mouth is some bullshit
A lot of people who claim they "have no filter" are just assholes or outright bigoted. They convince themselves that they are simply  more honest and everyone else secretly agrees with them because then they can frame their bullshit as being brave. >

Right, and if you object they frame you as being intolerant. >

I think there is a balance here. I agree that you can’t just be as blunt as you want and not be perceived as a jerk in some capacity. Some people are just negative and use “honesty” as an excuse to attack. With that in mind, there are also the types of people who bottle up every thought they have until they eventually let it out in passive aggressive or gossipy ways and that can actually be much worse than if someone is willing to be open about their feelings. >

I think that's what I mean by being genuine. Maybe I should say even keel. I don't think people should bottle things up in an unhealthy way. But having some form of discretion is important too. So striking a balance really is a good point. >

Generally people who say they're "brutally honest" are just prefacing the rude and impolite shit they say all the time. It's the same as someone who starts a sentence with "now I'm not racist but [the most racist thing you've heard all day]" or "I'm not sexist but [something disparaging to men or women]". Same shit. >

Like, yknow it's possible to be non-brutally honest >

Some people need to develop self control in order to say what’s on their minds. >

Yeah that's super dumb. Saying what is on your mind is the opposite of maturity, that's what a child does.
Maturity is knowing what is on your mind, your emotions, your anger or fear or sadness, and wording it in the best possible way to resolve the situation or get your point across with the highest chance.
You take your monkey brain thoughts and transform them, not let it spill out, that's how an actual mature person does a conversation.