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I'm currently trying to grow lemongrass, pentas flowers, a pygmy palm & cat grass. 
the cat grass is easiest & and honestly, the only thing i can grow consistently. I think the pentas would have been fine if we didn't have that cold snap last month. Also, my cat pooped in them, so they ded.
i know it's a lil too chilly for the lemongrass rn, but i just tried my luck. But even my palm is turning brown. I honestly want to cry, but will stick with it& try again in spring. thank you for your suggestions, I'll keep them in mind!
I find that it takes a while before you find comfort in gardening. You have to eventually develop the mindset of "If it dies, it dies."
You also have to learn what grows easiest in your area and not really bother with things that take too much work. Being prepared is also another big one. Having some insecticidal soap on hand is always nice. >

I'm trying to research best plants for my area. I live in a "9a" zone from what i read online. 
what benefit does insecticidal soap offer? I'm taking any advice i can get at this point lol >

thank you so much! i will definitely be looking into to this. >

You're welcome! Also, feel free to hit up some of the gardening subs if you have future questions.
r/gardening
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Try different plants in the Lamiaceae (mint) family. Like Hyssop, Bee balms, Salvia, etc. They're great for lazy gardening.