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I'd suggest - and many psychological theories support this - that fear is the fundamental here and hatred and anger are forms of expression of that.
E.G. the dog that growls and bites is fundamentally exercising a strategy to deal with fear (fear of being hurt, hungry, of harm to family, etc.).   Hatred in real relationships ("real hate", not "i hate the dallas cowboys hate") is often seen as the proximal to love, but with fear of hurt, pain, etc. because of the power of said love.  
So...I think you've got hatred and anger which are two forms of expressing a fundamental form of fear. >

!delta This was simple and useful. It makes so much !sense and gives a new view to me. So for example, when I hate someone, and therefore don't want to meet them, what I fear is not them, but the meeting.