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'If you wouldn't let them in your house, why let them in your head?'

Omg. My jaw just dropped reading that. I always used the metaphor of a sinking ship, 'I can stay afloat if I don't let their negativity in'. But I like yours better and I think I'm gonna use it from now on. Thank you. Seriously. Thank you. I hope others benefit from it as well also.
Yeah I still get random texts of "but we're family" and it just kind of makes me laugh a little. I wasn't good enough to be considered family and it was only when you choose to see fit?
But now you want me to consider the term "family" bc it's not benefitting you?
Like nope. I'll make a whole new family! Toxicity is not allowed!!
My parents started kicking me out around 12. Then would threaten to call the cops on my friends parents (who took me in and did right by me) if they didn't return me.
Every 3-6 months it would happen again. Rinse and repeat.
I promised my son that I would never do that to him. He's always got a room with me no matter how old he is, bc life is hard and throws curve balls that we don't expect.
I've got a laundry list of things my parents did that I'll never do to my kids.
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Shoutout to Mr & Mrs H(R.I.P.), Mr & Mrs P, Ms. C and Ms. B for stepping up and being great people and teaching me what true kindness is. I'll never forget it.
Thank you every one for your well wishes. Those who endured horrible childhood's like mine or worse, my hearts with you and I hope you're doing better. 
Please, everyone, hug your kids and just love them. >

/r/raisedbynarcissists really opened my eyes to the kinds of insane shit parents do. I think you and others with these kinds of experiences would (sadly) relate to a lot of stuff in that sub. >

Yeah I use to think "narcissistic" behavior was mainly in reference to the Greek god Narcissis. Being infatuated with ones self. 
Only found out about 6 yrs (?) ago what clinical diagnosis of "narcissistic" actually was. 
It was a huge eye opener and I say unironically; my mom is a narcissistic bitch and my dad is an enabler with his own rage issues. Not a good combo for me.
It's increasingly difficult since I've become aware, bc I'm setting up boundaries with my family and they've unanimously aggreed that I'm a selfish toxic bitch bc I won't let them verbally abuse me anymore.
So Yeeeeaaaaahhhhh... I take it day by day... Sometimes minute by minute.
Yes I fully agree people need a parenting license. >

A question that stuck with me that was posed to somebody going thru something similar: 
'If you wouldn't let them in your house, why let them in your head?'
I believe this had to do with the guilt of cutting toxic family members out of one's life. I took it that way for my situation and have found some solace within that line of thinking. Hopefully others will as well.