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It is weird. But i am one of those so im biased lol
If someone don't want my husband somewhere i also would not go as i would rather just spend this time with him instead  unless we are the same sex/gender and husband can't actually go. I won't put a friend's dislike to my husband in front of him and he would not do this to me either. Either both of go or no deal unless he just can't make it. 
But we are a very weird couple, no jealousy but we have our rules about what are our bondary's when it comes to going out with friends, and one of them is we will go togheter and spend time with our friends AND each other. Two good things for us.
I don’t know how I feel about this I will have to wait to my wife wakes up and ask her. >

Whoa boy did you just post before or after clearance? My partner said ok to this post.
Partner’s signature. >

After a two step verification with my wife all I’m allowed to say is: you should already know. >

I've been with my wife for 10 years now. She knows all my friends and I know hers. We all get together for parties, burthdays, etc...But no way in hell would she want me coming to her girl hang outs, and i dont want her to come golfing and drink beer with the guys.
I think its so important to maintain individuality in a relationship. Couples that are completely dependent on each other creep me out >

Super agree. My husband and I are really open about needing breaks from each other, in a loving respectful way. Which makes the time we spend together even better. Also when we do attend parties together—our shared goal is to socialize with other people. Couples who go to parties and only talk to each other bug the crap out of me (with the exception of very new relationships, when that behavior’s understandable). >

depends on the context. an invitation to a party/social gathering? why would i not bring my husband?? an invitation for just you and me to lunch? well, yeah i think that’s sort of a given lol >

I had a friend who world bring her husband on what used to be girl nights. he was an asshole and an immigrant to my country who liked talking shit about the country too. I tolerated him because he was important to my friend, but some friends stopped contact with her cause they couldn't stand him and she would never go anywhere alone anymore. The divorce after 10 years and a kid and it turned out he was controlling and borderline abusive >

I find that really funny because I go to all of the girls nights because I'm actually invited. It's my wife that started to get annoyed I was usually there so she didn't feel like she could bitch about me. >

Invited is fine, of couse. But it was something we did from high school and the first time she brought him along we were shocked. She said he feels lonely, which I found understandable at the time, as he moved from abother county. But now I think that inviting them both to bigger events when the group gets together and keeping the girls nights as girls nights should have been enough >

When I first got with my husband I would check with my friends if he was invited since it's an otherwise all-female friend group. They always said "yes, of course, why wouldn't he be?!". I'm glad I have friends who want to include him and get to know him. >

As a male, I feel like females are more welcoming in terms of having a guy present. Where as for guys, they prefer “bro” time because you have to keep some level of composure around females >

I disagree. It's annoying when someone always needs to bring their SO. I wanna have girl talk sometimes and always bringing a guy is ruining it. >

Maybe I’m just outspoken as I tend to just be in the background and not say much hence why they don’t care lol >

To be fair, all you said was "more welcoming" which is probably true of women in general in any scenario. I just think women also want to have their own time. We will put up with the friend who always brings the guy, but we'll also have actual girl time without her. >

Most people in long term relationships assume an invite to one is an invite to both because that's how most people do actually invite them. Pretty easy problem to solve though, you just need to be clear in the invite. E.g. "hey, I feel like we haven't gotten a chance to hang one on one in ages - miss you, how about lunch next xyz?"
Rather than hate people's partners also wanting to spend time getting to know you, maybe just put a bit more effort into clear communication. >

I work 70-80 hour weeks and don’t get to spend a lot of time with my significant other, so if someone invites me to do something in the little time I have off, of course I’m brining my significant other unless asked not to. She wants to spend time with me to. >

Yeah, I literally get one full day with my SO I’m going to spend time with them that day >

If it’s a group event - we usually both get invited anyway. 
If I’m going to see one of my mates for a catch up or vice versa with him then no we don’t go. He just went out with his colleagues for drinks and I didn’t go. >

Agree with what everyone else here says. Also, you’re a fool if you don’t think they’re telling their significant other everything that happens/was said, so your personal information concern is pretty moot tbh lol >

Yea definitely. If they’re in a relationship you really need to preface it with “don’t tell xyz” >

And if you have to prefix it with ”don’t tell your partner”, you probably shouldn’t tell them at all. >

if you find yourself keeping secrets, it’s usually a red flag to yourself that you’re doing crappy things, or need to learn to be more comfortable with yourself, or need to stop gossiping. >

That's... kind of a bizarre take. Friends talk to each other about personal things. Like, my husband doesn't need to know that my best friend from high school is dealing with unpleasant IBS symptoms. That's not gossip or anyone doing anything wrong, it's just personal. Keeping that to myself is just common decency. >

yeah, sure. i guess my take is more about, if you find yourself doing things that you don’t want people to know about, then you probably shouldnt be doing those things. either that or own them. >

What kind of bearing does that have on not sharing your friend's secret or sensitive information with your partner, though? That's not "doing things you don't want people to know about," it's not gossiping to your partner by blabbing all your friend's info to them. >

don’t tell your partner but i cheated in my bf last night.
don’t tell your partner but i heard sally stole money from her parents.
don’t tell your partner but i play dungeons and dragons on the weekends.
i mean, use your imagination. if you have to preface something with don’t tell anyone, it might be something you should stop and think about. >

Not all secrets/private matters are negative or destructive to others. It's kind of a given that you share more information with your friends than strangers or acquaintances. 
Is it not just simpler to keep things between the person who has built a form of trust with you than completely cut off the aspect of sharing intimate information? Sometimes we share things as a form of help and emotional support. It doesn't have to become a form of moral policing. >

what helped me become a better person may not make sense to you.
for me it comes down to—be the person you want people to think you are, and you will have very few if any secrets.
people wear masks, and front for people, they posture, and try to impress, hide things they are embarassed about, and imo its a negative thing that occupies many people’s minds, making them not their true selves, filling them with worries, and the fakeness is sensed by the people around them. another way to put it is if you are comfortable with yourself, people will be comfortable with you—even if you have IBS.
if none of this makes sense to you, thats fine. but you don’t have to shit on people’s philosophies. no one is “moral policing” you. >

It’s so weird that this is unpopular. Do people here have separation anxiety from their partners? Each person likely had friends before that they don’t see as often anymore. It’s so weird that people would be upset thinking people are ‘bitter’ because they still are able to enjoy time with just their friends. I don’t know anyone who would disagree with poster. 
Some people/partners just need better socialization. If your partner has to be with you every time you go out, there’s likely deeper issues. 
Also recognize it’s not like a ‘they never want to see the partner’. The complaint is ‘we never get to see just their friend. >

Yes, exactly. Friendships are relationships that need to be maintained, too. That means you sometimes need to make time for just your friend, just like you sometimes need to make time for just your partner. It's not that you can never combine the two, but doing it all the time means that at least one, if not both, is probably never being prioritized. It's not that partners can never do things with the other partner's friends or that you hate them, but one on one or just the friend group is a different dynamic than including people who don't have the same shared history. 
Also, couples can have different socialization styles. I prefer one on one or small groups, personally. Walking into a room of my four closest friends as opposed to a room with my four closest friends and their partners - those are very different experiences. The second one is intimidating. Even if I know and like their partners, that's just a lot to take in at one time, and if I have to further divide my attention so that my partner is getting some of it too, that's even more. It's exhausting to me. I'd rather hang out with just my four friends this time, and maybe with my partner and one friend with their partner another time, and me+friend one-on-one another time, and just me+partner sometimes, and so on. That way I can focus on one or a couple of people and not feel pressured to be all the things to 9 different humans all at once. I have to break it down. My husband, though... He likes big groups. He'd rather hang out with 20 people all at once and somehow doesn't have a problem being in the middle of all these people. Which is fine, just not for me. I like his friends well enough individually, but in a group like that? That's even worse than my friends+ their partners. I can do a party like once in a blue moon or something, but I'm not putting myself through that regularly. It takes way too much time to get back the mental energy that gets spent in a gathering like that. But he gets something from those situations that I just don't, they perk him up. It just makes more sense for us to not socialize together all the time - we need very different things. 
I'm also bothered by the "it's normal to share information your friends tell you with your partner," people. Um, no? I mean, obviously it's not like everything a friend says to you is a state secret... but some things are. You don't go home and tell your partner that this friend is struggling with her mental health or that one is thinking about leaving her husband or whatever. That information was only intended for you unless explicitly stated otherwise. Unless all you ever talk about with your friends is small talk about the weather and where you're going on vacation - then I guess, yeah, share whatever. But telling your partner things that were said in confidence or were obviously sensitive in nature is a good way to stop being someone's trusted friend. If they wanted your partner to have that info, they'd tell him themselves or let you know. >

I agree with you. Especially on the last paragraph.
I see several people here agreeing that others are "fools" for confiding secrets in friends who have partners. Like what? I'm sorry but the person who confides is not a fool. On the other hand, I actually think the person who tells their partner all the sensitive secrets of a friend is the a-hole here. You definitely have some other issues if you literally cannot keep your mouth shut at any time. For example, let's say my best friend whom I've always trusted and confided in has now found a partner, does that mean I have to find new friends to share feelings with? Suddenly I "lost" a friend because they have a partner? That makes no sense. Responsibility towards your partner and your friend(s) are different things that need to be upheld separately. You can't just break your friend(s)' trust for the sake of being close to your partner, sharing everything in world etc.
Besides, what happens when you break up? I mean seriously, people don't like mentioning break-ups, but this happens a lot of the time. There are people who stick to their partner like glue, prioritizing their partner over friends, then when the relationship goes south, suddenly their friends become "valuable" again for whatever reason. It's selfish and a crappy move honestly. >

Yeah I don't get that. If they're arguing not keeping secrets from their parter, come on. That applies to YOUR personal information. Not any and every person who confides something in you. >

The amount of people that are socially codependent on their SO is unsettling. I love my husband, but it's important to us to have time with others as individuals. 'Me' time is just as important as 'we' time in a healthy relationship. >

Im huge on individualism and maintaining your own interpersonal relationships while you are in a romantic relationship...
I once dated a girl who INSISTED i came with her to all HER friends' events... I wasnt a huge fan of her type of circle, they were kinda shallow, popular girls with not much substance to them... I would beg her to just have a fun night out with her girls, and Ill just go to my best buds house and have some beers...  She would get mad, and accuse me of not caring about her feelings... Needless to say, that relationship didnt last long... 
So Im a firm believer that we dont need to drag our partners everywhere with us... >

To be fair a persons friends say a lot about them.
I will counter that ideally you and your partners friends would get along. Thats a sign of long term compatability. In this scenario I would say you would actually enjoy spending time with her and her friends. Even to the point that well…maybe both friend groups could intermingle. >

I've dated women where I have gotten a long great with their friend circle, and vice versa. Even where my buds would ask "dude, wheres so and so? You should have brought her!" 
But I also think we had a healthy amount of seperate activities as well. I guess its all about balance.... >

I think it’s fine to bring your S/O along if they asked their group friends or friend if it’s okay. It’s rude imo to just bring someone without even asking- no matter if it’s their S/O or another friend. >

Our gf group now always gets includes husbands.  It’s annoying and changes the whole dynamic. >

You can plan just girl events right? My wife does it with her friends, I’ve done it with my male friends,. >

It always starts as a girls outing, but morphs into couples.  Actually, the girls were friends before the guys. >

If you’re a female inviting another female (works other way round, too), then just give a clue like “let’s have a girls night out”. I personally do that. But if you’re inviting your friend of the opposite gender, don’t expect their SO to not be interested in coming >

So just ask them to come alone? I mean...it's not that hard. >

I’m 100% on board with making plans for a guys night/girls night, no SOs allowed; but it can’t be every event or even most of them in my opinion.  
I just had a guys night with my dad and uncle, planning a bachelor party for my friend right now.  My wife has girls nights monthly, I’ll even drive her and pick her up if she’s drinking. 
But excluding the SO from everything is a recipe to either sabotage the relationship, or your friendship. >

Where are they asking to be excluded from everything?  They even said "never get to see just their friend" not always must leave partner at home.   They just sometimes would like to hang out with their friend one on one. >

The way I read OPs post is whenever they make plans, they are always upset with the fact a SO wants to come along. It gives me the impression they do not want any SOs around; but they come to Reddit to complain instead of asking for alone time with friends. >

I agree. That mentality seems troublesome to me. What was the point of finding someone to spend your life with if you don't actually want to be around them or if your friends throw a fit because they aren't the center of your attention anymore. >

It's all about balance. I don't think OP is complaining sheerly for the fact that their friends occasionally invite their SO.. as opposed to never getting "alone" time. Ofcourse you should date someone who integrates well with your friendship group but.. I also see that people want to spend time with the people they initially built a friendship with.. >

I do think its weird for someone to always invite their significant other. It's like dude, I wanted to hang out and chit chat with you not this other person. It kind of makes me suspicious actually. >

i agree with you, but im curious, what does it make you suspicious of? >

At best it's just some weird codependency, at worst it could be a sign of abuse. One spouse wont allow the other to do any activity without them being present. >

I don't think this is very unpopular, I think everyone except the people who do this are annoyed by that. >

My kids are now adults and this drives me nuts. I get that they have SO’s and that’s fine and all. But I can’t even text them in private anymore because everything ends up in the SO ear too. Or even something simple like “would you like to go on a walk this weekend?” Means everyone has to tag along. Would be nice to have some alone one on one time with them. >

This is really unpopular because people love the romanticism of making their partner “their world,” which is fine - prioritize your partner first - until their partner becomes their only priority.
Let’s be real, some people devalue their friendships from supportive and meaningful human relationships to fun activities them and their partner get to do together! I’ve experienced it myself! Listen, your friends became friends with you, not your partner. Your friend definitely notices your attitude towards them has changed.
And on the extreme end of things where suddenly one’s friends are kept strung along to say they still have friends, I had a best friend who got a partner and within three months I was bribing her with treats that I made to come see me, which never even happened without her partner (also one of my friends) too! 
Social gatherings or nights out are different stories, and it’s fine to bring your partner to those, but bottom line is just that many friendships do need some amount of one-on-one time to be healthy. I think our popular culture likes to devalue friendships a lot, which is sad as someone with a healthy long term partnership who also values and enjoys their friendships. Friends are a part of our support system, which a cultural focus on the nuclear family has weakened to begin with. Value your friends! >

In my country and company of friends that is not such a big deal, because the people we hang out with are both men and women and we get along just fine. Also the distances are much shorterand not reliant on cars to get around so getting out is much easier for us. We aren't socially segregated so you'd see more mixed companies and less dudes only doing dude stuff and girls only doing girl stuff. We're just metalheads.
I don't see the point of "guy only" nights. I don't see what exactly could we be doing that has to exclude our female friends. Maybe it's a cultural thing, butbour women are badass enough to tag along with us. >

Most guys/girls-only nights from my experience are either a group of friends with a tradition of doing something before they were all in relationships, (going to watch a favorite sport, a annual camping trip, etc) or the group is wanting to behave in a way they would be embarrassed to act in front of the opposite gender, (strip-club, engaging in gossip, etc). 
I just had a guys night, we went to a hockey game. If my wife had come, she would have been bored and it could have brought the tone of the night down for me and the other guys. 
Likewise my wife and her friends had a ladies night awhile ago, one of them sells sex toys, and she had a sex toy party, if the husbands/boyfriends were there, it could have made some of the ladies uncomfortable to be curious about the products. >

You are not going to like getting older. Turns out if you find the right s/o most people would rather be with them than without them >

Right, exactly! >

The opposite is also quite hurtful though. My SO has a group of friends and we've all known each other 10+ years. I completely understand "boys night" or certain events being more fun with just the original friend group, but some events-- concerts, bowling, movies, weekend trips, or Christmas/birthday parties-- should include spouses, yet none of the spouses are ever invited unless we arrange it ourselves. 
It is very hurtful to be excluded and treated like an outsider when you've literally known people for a decade, babysat for them, helped them move, gotten them jobs, etc. 
My SO does put his foot down more than most but it's no fun to attend an event when you know the people there didn't want you to come. >

I'll be honest, these people sound like they're not your friends and I hope you don't spend any more of your time helping them the way you have. If you know these people for 10 years and they're not inviting YOU or any other person outside of their "group", it sounds like they are a group of friends, and everyone else is merely an acquaintance by default. 
I don't wanna sound like I know your situation but it sounds like they're using you when they require further help and reaching out because you're connected to the actual friend as opposed to being considered a friend. >

I hate it so much. I once went to visit my best friend who lived states away. We went to a restaraunt and then to their house. I asked for her to ride with me back to their house (10 minutes away) and she said we’ll miss each other too much. ??????? Her justification was that they hadn’t seen each other much that week but they live together and she had spent some time with him each day. I hadn’t seen her in a while and she had been my best friend for 20 years. >

Relationships are different, with varying degrees of attachment, co-dependence, and time constraints. 
At the moment, neither my SO nor I work outside the home, so we're together a lot. It's good for us to get out and do our own thing sometimes. We're not carbon copies with the same interests. 
I have one group of friends that is adamant about girl's nights being strictly girls night. When really personal things are discussed, they don't want to be overheard by someone else's husband or boyfriend so those with SOs will try to get the SO out of the house if they're hosting.  I doubt I will host again because it offended my SO, but I understand wanting privacy when sensitive topics are discussed  
Recently felt more pressure to do more couple things with one of his friends and his wife. The wife is a sweet lady but she and I really don't have much in common. I would prefer that my SO and his friend just go off and do their own thing and leave me out of it (Yes, I am an introvert and my own circle is small. I don't people for the sake of peopling, I just do what's necessary).
But that's MY personality and its quirks. >

why was your SO offended? that’s so strange >

He didn't like being "kicked out of the house" for a night.
I sort of get it, but I still don't think it would be too much to ask once in a while. 
But based on some of the other responses in this thread, I should sit him down with some popcorn while the women discuss personal matters. Which they won't because there's a man there. >

Agreed. I absolutely love spending my free time with my girlfriend but if her friend or brother invite her out for lunch I’m not expecting an invitation. Even if she offered the invitation I’d tell her to go spend time with her brother. If my best friend invited me out shopping it wouldn’t even cross my mind to invite my girlfriend. I would definitely check and make sure she didn’t have any plans for us during that time but that’s it. Just because we’re in a relationship doesn’t mean we can’t go and spend time with friends without each other. >

It’s such a crazy notion that when two people love each other they want to spend time together doing fun things with other people. 
My wife and I both work full-time, and have hobbies that separate us in the evenings most days; I might not see her until 9pm.  So when we have plans with friends that don’t include the other, there goes more time we don’t get to spend together. 
We can make plans without each other, but unless it’s clearly slated to be outside the interests of one of us, why would we not bring the other person along? >

I understand that but why not just stay home and spend time with your partner then? Decline the invite until you can actually spend that one on one time with your friends. It’s okay to bring your spouse sometimes but not everything. >

This depends on communication up front.
When the invite is for a "boys night" cause it's been too long since I've hung out with my siblings, and one of my brothers brings his SO, yea, everyone is kinda perturbed.
Not because we don't like her, she's pretty chill... but we only get to hang out every 2 or 3 years as a group without all the extras.
If you reach out and say "Hey, you're invited to X"
They get to bring their SO.
If you reach out and say "We're having a girls/boys night" or something similar, then you can be upset. >

Lol I hate the codependent couples like it’s fine to have connections without your SO and be your own person, had a friend who brought her ex around all the time and I hated that dude lol did not have interest in making a connection with him >

Whenever my wife invites me to a hangout with her work friends, I always ask her to check to see if it’s cool that I go. Most of the time it’s fine, and then I decide whether I want to tag along. There have been several times when she’s come back and said, “I guess we’re gonna keep this just work friends.” I’m never offended. It means I get to let loose at home (watch a movie and eat pizza and drink a couple beers). 
We are very relaxed and welcoming people ourselves so it felt weird to ask at first, but I understand how my presence could change the group dynamic. Better to ask than to awkwardly be that one guy.
On the other hand, I do think it is the job of the organizer to communicate clearly who IS/ISN’T invited. I have no problem inviting my dudes over/out and saying “this is a no GF/wife hang”. Or I say, “feel free to bring your SO” or “anyone is welcome to join”.
Seems like most of these societal issues come down to people not knowing how to communicate anymore. >

I agree. There's  a time and place for it...but when in the honeymoon period, guys typically won't leave their gfs alone, which is a recipe for disaster in the future...plus is speeds up the process of being in each others pocket too much.
It's also a massive red flag when one or the other won't give their partner some space.
That's either through serious mistrust, honeymoon period as mentioned, or the fact that the third wheel has no friends, or other things they could be doing. >

Whenever my little friend group would hang out, one person would show up and surprise us with bringing their s/o without letting anyone know. I was okay with it but would’ve appreciated if they had let everyone know at least, so that way there’s enough chairs and such. >

You have to specify.  Especially as you get older and people are married.  
If that doesn't work, find something your friend's significant other doesn't like to do. >

Preach. >

I stopped being friends with a couple because I couldn't tell one something without the other knowing. Whoever I didn't tell would always confront me with the info as well. 
I admittedly share a lot with my partner - but know when the info I have is not meant for their ears! 
Boundaries people! >

Sadly that's me >

I agree. Bringing your S/O to boys night out kills the vibe. >

I always told my buddies that I'm not bringing my don't bring yours.
We only hang out once a month. But if they want to do a couples thing that's cool too but not on dedicated buddies day. >

It kind of depends on the situation and the age ranges. In my teens and twenties I used to get pretty irritated at the obligatory gf/bf inclusion. Sometimes it’s just the friend group. Sometimes, a long term relationship meant both people were part of that group. We also had certain people who always had a new SO and it would always be this awkward attempt to include a basic stranger. Now that I’m married and know lots of other married folks, I expect my wife is generally included in invites I receive. 
Some environments are just not fun for my wife or me to tag along too though. For instance, years ago we decided not to attend each other’s work holiday parties. It’s just a constant struggle between neglecting our partners or our own fun. Just stopped being worth it >

On one hand, I understand your frustration, but on the other, I feel like after a certain point people's SOs become part of the group. If they're just miserable to be around that's one thing, but if they're not then I think you should just try to mesh with them better. >

This is weird to me as my wife and do almost everything together. We mostly have the same friends, and friends we had since before we met have definitely become both of our friends. It seems weird to want to isolate one person of a couple. 
But then again, this is r/unpopularopinion after all! >

Sometimes you just want to have a guys day or girls day or whatever the case may be. Especially if the SO tagging along isn't as into whatever you are doing, it's a buzzkill. Having time apart from your SO with friends is perfectly healthy IMO. >

I do understand. My wife goes out on girls nights and I’m fine staying home. 
I also think that having time apart from your SO to see other lovers is healthy. But this is your unpopular opinion post so we’ll leave that topic for mine. Hehe. >

Dude, I completely agree. People seem to be in such a hurry to lose themselves in another person, and it's honestly nauseating. >

I don’t really know how to feel about this. Usually I just ask the friends if my SO is invited and then ask her. Obviously it’s a little obligatory for them to say yes but it’s rude to just not ask. >

more people to play monopoly and smash bros with. >

Depends where. Christmas parties and stuff sure, that makes sense to want to bring a partner. But if your not even friends with the SO and they want to bring them to EVERY hang out then yeah that's annoying. 
I also find that happy couples tend to make time to be alone with their friends (without each other every time). >

May I interest you in telling those people what you think? It's a revolutionary product only sold here. From the makers of just say no and not giving a fuck what other people think, our new tell those people what you think can save you from cringe meetings with their SOs.
Try it today and get a fuck, I wish you guys wouldn't change the plan a million fucking times to fit your SOs in it for free. Yeah, you heard it right, for FREE. >

This made be laugh too hard. I hope you have the best day today >

It's not rude to say girls only etc >

I agree with every word written. Especially this

I just feels like they can no longer function as a individual.

They would no longer have lives and they become their s/o' s puppet, controlling each other like a marionette.
Still, when they do hangout without their s/o,  they would give the most boring & annoying conversations (centered about their s/o, inserting their s/o's name every other two words they speak, and the "I" becomes "we").
Raising again the question : where the fck is your life ? >

Yup. I recently asked a friend if she believed in ghosts and her answer was "my husband doesn't." It's like she doesn't realize that she can have her own opinion >

Imagine two people being together and ultimately being each others true best friends and thus wanting to enjoy all activities together. The crime >

i think all relationships need to have at least some alone time away no? "enjoy all activities together" sounds unhealthy asf. >

If you want to have a one-on-one with a friend then the "adult" thing to do is to say just that. 
Or you can expect people to read your mind and be constantly disappointed that they don't make decisions based on your priorities.
But from your reading, it seems more likely that you are having a hard time adapting to the idea that your friend wants to include his SO... 
This is very popular for boys who have not evolved to the "couples" part of social evolution - so not really unpopular as much is immature. >

On the other hand, other people should not assume that their SO is automatically invited or welcome when nothing had been said about that.
The adult thing to do would be to ask "Can I bring my SO" (and of course, not getting angry or pushy if the answer is "no"). >

Oh god. I’m super guilty of doing this. My SO lost a lot of his friends due to frankly not being friends with good people on the first place, and being socially awkward. After the last bridge burning so to speak, I started bringing him around my friends more often. Now everyone is friends and he’s no longer a “tag-along”. But at first I could tell that people were like, why are these two ALWAYS together. Some people still think that. Oh well for them. >

His friends became junkies and/or alcoholics. It is sadly common where we live. And we’re in our 30s. No time or energy for “henpecking” or distrust. >

Not only socializing together but telling every single thing like they have no life to worry about but talk about others. That is all my friends so I stopped hanging out with them. They tell their husbands or SO everything, even the very private things I share with them in confidence. The last time when my bf husband’s said ‘I heard you are....’ was the moment I stopped hanging out with her. You >

Don't be single or find new friends that are single if it bothers you so much. Life's too short to get worked up over something so trivial.   Take my upvote buddy. >

That's so stupid. So if you're a couple, you have to bring your partner everywhere? >

Yes, that’s how it generally works. You and OP sound hell bitter lmao. >

No it doesn't. Maybe in cultures where you're not allowed to have a life without each other but I think it's healthy to still visit your friends one on one too. You sound like a bunch of boomers with your partners attached to your hips. I guess you're also one of those people that started saying "we like/dislike..." instead of "I like/dislike..." once you got into a relationship? Yikes. >

Lol yup you’re bitter. >

Having a life and friendships outside of your partner isn’t being bitter it’s healthy. >

this just seems like lack of communication, if you tell them outright and they just ignore you then you have a problem so just adjust accordingly >

How dare you not want to hang out with your friend's spouse, OP. >

Is this even an unpopular opinion???? >

I'm gonna guess OP is quite young. >

Don't get me wrong, my wife and I do stuff separately all the time. But don't think for a second I'm not inviting her 99.9% of the time. Doesn't matter how cheesy it is, she's my best friend, why would I not want to bring her with? >

Nothing wrong with a guys/girls night. Just understand that if you have a friend with a serious partner, odds are they are going to bring them to things like get togethers and parties. 
One day you might meet someone that you’ll want to be around all the time, and you may do the same. > >

That’s why married people end up hanging out with other married people doing WEAK activities. Whole single people end up hanging out with other single people riding across the open plains. >

I spend most of my life at work away from my wife and kids. If you invite me to something outside of work, and they are not invited, I'm probably not coming. Otherwise, I'd never get to see my family, free time is too scarce. This is definitely true for my wife, my kids are getting into the teenage years, so I'm more likely to leave them behind now. >

OP is right and you're all wrong. >

they’re all the angry codependent partnered people >

No, I like my husband and I will always bring him. If someone doesn't like him, they don't like me. >

Happened with one of my best friends. Got a toxic girlfriend and insisted on bringing her to every single thing. You couldn't even suggest that he should just come alone or he would get upset -- though it was likely her making him comply. She was like wormtongue from Lord of the Rings >

I agree with this. A couple of months ago my bf was going to have dinner with some friends since one of their buddies came in from out of town. I was gonna stay home and enjoy some me time. Well… one of the guys last minute said his girl was gonna come no matter what because she felt excluded. So my bf asked if I would come so that she didn’t feel weird being the only partner there. I said I should still stay home because maybe the awkwardness would teach her not to do that. Ended up going anyway just to be nice. She was still awkward and quiet the whole time. Like why did she even wanna go to the dinner if she was just gonna be weird? I had a good time talking with my bf and his friends but after was like “Next time, I’m staying home” lol. There’s a time and a place to have your SO tag along. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you need to lose your individuality. >

Yep. My homie got a gf and she just started showing up at EVERY hangout. 2 years later and she is still at every hangout and is basically now one of the bros. But still I get what you are saying, it’s been so long since me and my homie have hung out with just us. Part of it is the gf doesn’t really have any of her own friends in the area so it is what it is. >

Instead of seeing them as separate individuals, just count them as a team. If there's an event that you want one but not both present, then don't invite them. >

This >

Listen man that’s a neat opinion. That being said, if you are dealing with long term relationships, it’s almost given package deal. Cutting your partner off to your friends or visa versa is pretty cruel. >

You must not enjoy being around your S/O as much as you think you do. My wife is my best friend and frankly that allows me to have a better time with our friends. >

This is how I feel about my S/O ☺️ >

People call their significant other their partner, or their other half, or any number of other sayings. I think when someone is married or in a long term relationship, you have to just assume their partner will be with them. Unless specifically specified otherwise.