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😄 talk about being stuck in a rut!! Sorry you had to deal with that, but I'm glad you got out. Also not a great sign to be talking about an ex at all with a new romantic interest, unless it's for a little bit of context or they asked.
I agree the exact amount of time isn't really important. It's more about having a moment so you can think about the complete person you are with and not just a category we assign to them based on our past.
I would prefer someone who has had a little time to "cool down" from their last relationship.  I don't want to be someone's rebound.
"A while" isn't a specific amount of time though.  It's more a mind set that means enough to be past their ex. >

Exactly:) 
"A while" being purposefully non-specific >

You would love me then. It's been years.
No you wouldn't. >

Probably! 😄 As long as you're positive and think about other people besides yourself:) >

18 years for me(not by choice) but you wouldn’t like me either.. Nobody does. It’s why I’m single. >

I bet you're alright. It's hard when you don't feel desired, but I'd guess you filled all that free time with some interesting experiences. I have found being single often has a lot to do with circumstance, but ya after awhile it can get in your head. >

Sometimes when I think I’m ok looking, someone says to me, oh nooo you’re Fucking hideous!!! You’re in DESPERATE need of plastic surgery/facelift, that probably won’t even help you anyway, but screw your pain! Don’t get the knee replacement surgery that you actually need.. no your ugliness is more important than your ability to walk. 
No, I wish I could say I have. Between being ugly, unliked(because I’m ugly) and now disabled because of the knee surgery my drs say I need but won’t give me(until THEY’RE ready to give me)I’ve been in a constant state of severe depression and anxiety. >

That's rough! Good luck with the knee surgery. I hope it goes well. Hope you have a brighter Christmas and the lengthening days bring a lot more joy and less suffering your way. As far as depression goes, it doesn't help, but I like to try to notice and compliment something someone else is good at when I'm out and about. It's a fun little game >

Thank you, but they’re REFUSING my surgery right now. I can’t get it until they want me to have it. I’ve been suffering in pain now for 9 years, and they want to wait 20 more years!!! I won’t have the insurance by then to pay for this! Besides, why make me suffer when everyone else gets their surgery?! I’m missing out on life because of my pain. Everything in my life is BAD right now. Not one single good thing(certainly not my health either) I sincerely hope you enjoy your holidays though. >

Nobody wants to be anybody’s rebound so I get it but I once dated a guy who hadn’t been with his ex in 2 years but still talked about her a lot. I ended up breaking it off with him after a month for that reason and various more. It matters less how long they have gone without a relationship and matters more that they are over their previous exes and ready to move on.