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Dude I’m so glad I wasn’t alive in the time parents picked their kid’s’ partners. I know I would be miserable with who they picked. Honestly for me growing to love someone is a waste of time. I can but it isn’t even worth it because they aren’t that great. Meanwhile the men I have a connection with on the first day are the best they treat me much better, they’re attractive, I have so much fun talking to them, very sexually compatible, and they just make me so much happier. So yeah I’m sure it works for other people but not me
I think the most important thing for a marriage to work is shared core values and shared parenting values. I don't put romance up very high, but if one of your main values is to make time to romance each other - good for you, do that.
I agree it's unrealistic to always expect romance and loving feelings as everyone goes through rough patches.
I do not agree that parents should choose your spouse >

I don’t say parents should choose the spouse