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I think the most important thing for a marriage to work is shared core values and shared parenting values. I don't put romance up very high, but if one of your main values is to make time to romance each other - good for you, do that.
I agree it's unrealistic to always expect romance and loving feelings as everyone goes through rough patches.
I do not agree that parents should choose your spouse >

I don’t say parents should choose the spouse >

Dude I’m so glad I wasn’t alive in the time parents picked their kid’s’ partners. I know I would be miserable with who they picked. Honestly for me growing to love someone is a waste of time. I can but it isn’t even worth it because they aren’t that great. Meanwhile the men I have a connection with on the first day are the best they treat me much better, they’re attractive, I have so much fun talking to them, very sexually compatible, and they just make me so much happier. So yeah I’m sure it works for other people but not me >

My take is that love is a necessary but not sufficient condition for marriage, and marriages are very much not about love (but it sure helps) >

What's the point then? >

That’s a tough question, but my two minute attempt would be: The creation of a conjugal unit or society for mutual social, family and financial benefits. >

Yes, love is a fickle thing. It takes a lot more than love to keep a marriage together. One of the keys to a success marriage is being able to fall in love with your partners over and over again, because there will be times when you feel like you just don’t love them anymore.
I think a sense of duty and common goals are more important keys to keeping a marriage together.