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It’s called being a hypocrite
Agreed, and it's a very solid description >

I actually agree people are much more focused on themselves and their problems.
I think many people today also judge other any their actions and themselves by their intentions.
They could do the exact same action as someone else…. But judge the other person harshly for it because they think their intentions aren’t “pure” >

People can’t be empathetic if they’ve never been in insert situation. 
So people that can care about the Holocaust, and then claim they have it harder - technically can’t be empathetic. They weren’t in the Holocaust, so they would think they do actually have it harder.
Sympathetic is probably more what you’re after. Difference between “oh I’m sorry, that sucks” which is sympathy; and “I know how you feel” which is empathy. >

People are extremely narcissistic and view themselves and their needs as the center of the universe. >

Agreed, and it's a very solid description >

I actually agree people are much more focused on themselves and their problems.
I think many people today also judge other any their actions and themselves by their intentions.
They could do the exact same action as someone else…. But judge the other person harshly for it because they think their intentions aren’t “pure”