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The length of the average divorce is greatly increased by that fact that the divorce is not amicable. Neither party agrees on the nature of the divorce, causing a fight in the courts.
An amicable divorce is typically a much swifter affair.
So, do you want to increase the time for people who agree they want to be married, based on the time of people who don't agree on how to divorce?
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Think of it this way OP.  It is WAY easier to tangle up earbuds (in the days before airpods), than it is to untangle them. >

You know what? I can't argue with that. 
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I can understand when kids are involved or you're business owner or whatever. But if you're an average citizen with no kids and no real assets (let's face it, the majority of millennial and gen z have next to nothing compared to generations before) >


But if you're an average citizen with no kids and no real assets (let's face it, the majority of millennial and gen z have next to nothing compared to generations before)

Things can be easy, but things get harder when feelings are hurt.  For example, if my wife cheats on me, why should I let her have the dog?  Or why should she get any money from me.  Emotions get in the way of rational thought for dividing property. >

That I can 100% agree with. I understand feelings and emotions gets super wrapped up in the divorce process. I just don't like the idea that people who don't really know each other but love each other getting married easily and then having, potentially, a multi-year long divorce process when it might not have happened if they had a harder time getting married to begin with >


a multi-year long divorce process 

Those long divorces are usually the result of the divorcees fighting each other. They could do it quickly, but they are too wrapped up in going to war with each other. >

Not to mention the fact that court systems can get or be clogged/shut down. My girlfriend's dad just went through an almost 3 year long divorce with gfs ex stepmom, which was caused by her threatening to murder him in his sleep. 
Why? They couldn't get a court date. 
Also, he didn't press charges for some stupid reason and she dragged out the process by refusing to accept anything that wasn't her getting everything. Though that only accounts for like 6 months of mediation and actual hearings. >

Do you want to get married? Yes/No. 
Do you want to get divorced? Yes/No. 
How do you want to split assets, how do you want to split any children, how do you want to split property, how do you want to split liabilities, etc.
One question is much easier to agree than multiple questions. However if the partners are aligned, it's very easy to get divorced. >

Split children horizontally, of course. >

I see that you are a fan of the king Solomon option.
I’m not sure how many modern jurisdictions would be okay with that.
Hence the complications of divorce. >


Split children horizontally

I’m not sure how many modern jurisdictions would be okay with that


Diagonally is the way to go in the modern world. >

Diagonal is certainly easier on the eye. >


you should be made to wait as long as an average divorce takes

I'm going to disagree with you on the timing here.
At worst it should be the same amount of time as the average divorce in which both people want to get divorced.
There's a key difference between marriage and divorce. Marriage requires both people wanting to do it. But it's possible to divorce when only one person wants to divorce. Because of that, it can be inherently more contentious.