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I have mine turned off. I swear. I checked and rechecked but it still shows ppl when I read u might want to double check by sending a friend a msg. I found out when my mom was like u read my msg why not respond and. I’m like I did??? Now I realize there’s no way to turn it off on my phone. No Idea. Why I even took to apple store they said it should be working be careful lol
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Sounds like a 5 word story:

"Please stay safe" - Message Delivered >

“while you’re out getting cigarettes, can you pick up some milk?” - Message Delivered >

Oh, god, that one kinda hurt =( >

Because he didnt come home with the milk right? >

No, the guy is just lactose-intolerant >

I leave my mom on delivered when I don’t have time to respond because if she says I’ve read it she’ll just call me. >

Turn “read”-notification off. Dunno why people like to have it on. Let people read and reply when they want and let me do the same. >

I have mine turned off. I swear. I checked and rechecked but it still shows ppl when I read u might want to double check by sending a friend a msg. I found out when my mom was like u read my msg why not respond and. I’m like I did??? Now I realize there’s no way to turn it off on my phone. No Idea. Why I even took to apple store they said it should be working be careful lol >

There’s a master on/off and then you can choose for individuals. I’d bet your master is on, I’ve never had mine change on me. >

I have a bad habit of reading the notification, and forgetting to actually open the message. >

I hate that because my phone usually give me basic responses like "ok" so I press it and it goes through,  but the notif doesn't go away so either forget it's there and check an old message or I don't get anymore until I open it >

Man. I have 64 unread messages because I don’t want to fucking talk to anybody. >

I mean, left on delivered means at least they care enough about you to not leave you on read. >

Or they don’t even care enough to fully see what you have to say
Probably one of the two anyway >

It could be that but speaking from my side as someone who doesn't open messages from my good friends sometimes.
I actually have very low energy at the time or am going through a depressive time where I am not feeling myself and not able to do the things they may suggest even though I want to.
If you think of that person as a good friend chances are they think the same so don't take it personally >

I have “operating hours”. I will read and respond to messages between 9am and 7pm. The only times I don’t do this, are when I’m at work all day, or when it is close family. 
If I get a message at 9pm and I’m going to bed, I won’t read it until the next day (I can see most of the message in the notification though), because I don’t want to get into a convo when I’m about to sleep. >

At least I can be delusional when it’s left on delivered 😂 Maybe they are in a coma and can’t read it 😬 >

That’s the worst part though. Left on read you know after a few hours. Left on delivered you might cling to false hope for days. >

Lol! Good point. >

I'll take either one over a response that forces me to continue interacting on a personal level. >

Like reaction on messenger is the best lol >

Not really. Or at least I don't think so. If you get left on delivered, it most likely isn't because they don't bother getting their phone for that but because they can't use their phone at given moment. Lets say, they have to take a shit and forget the phone outside. Oh no you got left on delivered. Or maybe this was late in the evening and the person fell asleep. 
But when you get left on read, they fully know that you sent a message, and on purpose did not answer. Getting ether one is not bad if it has a reason. Not everybody can have their phone out 24 hours every day. But getting left on delivered has more possibilities that there is actually a reason rather than not bother answering. >

I think it depends how long it’s been on delivered. If it’s recent, then yeah. But if we’re talking multiple days or something, it’s a more slow burn anxiety where you start to wonder if they’ll ever acknowledge your existence again, or if something happened to them. Especially if you start coming up on a week or so. >

My ex-best friend did this to me and it drove me crazy while it broke my heart. >

Left on one grey tick is worse or sadder as chances are, you’ve been blocked >

Wait so for you: 'Person busy can't look at phone' is worse than 'Person makes a point of ignoring you'?? >

Being left on delivered doesn’t always mean person is busy, in fact I think that’s a tiny portion of it especially since nearly all of us have a phone in our hands or possession at all times. My messages have been left on delivered for days and sometimes weeks and I’ve even done that to others. Are they that busy, or do they just not want to talk to me? How about this what’s worse, being left on read, or being left on delivered while seeing them active on other social medias? Im just saying you can make a point of ignoring someone both ways. >

Am I the only one who had to read the comments to get the gist of what this means? >

Are they trying to say “undelivered?” I still can’t decipher but feel that may be it >

That’s my assumption but every comment keeps the “on” going … except for one “in” delivered.   Is it just a propagated typo or some new slang? >

Left on red is the best when you're at an intersection of two one-way streets and in a state where it's legal to do so. >

I try to leave people on delivered, not to be rude, but if I’m not in the mood to respond then why should they know I read it.
Also I’m kinda annoyed that when my mom sees that I’ve read her message she assumes I’m gonna remember it to the end of time, when in reality I have super bad luck and happen to get the notification for the text the exact moment I close the app. >

Why do y’all have read receipts on? Mine are always left on delivered because I’ve turned my read receipts off. No one needs to know when I’ve read their texts. >

Not really, being left on delivered might also mean that this person doesn't want you to feel bad about being left on read, which really means that they don't care at all. >

Being left on read is either annoying, confusing or kinda understandable depending on who it is and how long after sending they saw it. Being left on delivered (for a prolonged period of time, I know people can be busy) is just fuckin' depressing no matter the situation. >

Nah, left in delivered they didn’t get to you. Left on read was a choice, it was deliberate >

I mean "left on delivered" could be a choice: if you read from the notification without opening the app. >

The other choice was “read receipts off” >

Yeah I always turn it off. Read receipts are stupid fuckin peer pressure. If there is a particular message where the person needs to know I saw it ASAP without warranting a response I’ll just react to it. >

I see what you were going for, but sometimes people can be on trips, full work days, or dealing with family tragedies. So not always true, but the mystery can be unfortunate. >

Actually when you're an adult and it's a one off thing, it doesn't matter. People get busy, life happens, whatever. Now if a close friend of mine or my significant other starts doing that on a regular basis I may start to get anxious. Especially if it's not like them. So I guess it's situational but mostly it's fine and doesn't mean they have anything against you. >

I can’t even count the number of times I’ve opened a message and have gotten pulled away before I could reply. Sometimes it’s hours before I can even pause to construct a reply. But if I don’t want to talk to a person, I won’t even attempt to open the message, leaving it on delivered deliberately until I can muster the energy to deal with that person. Then there are times when I’m just too busy with what’s in front of me to even open a message from someone I want to respond to, but that’s rare because we make time for those we want to talk to. That’s something I always try to remember when I feel like I’m being blown off. >

If someone leaves you on seen add them to a private story post something you know they’ll respond too and bam leave them on deliver >

I just turn off message read receipt, so they don’t know if I’ve read it or not. >

For me at least it absolutely does not. Just means that they're busy or can't respond at the moment. Being left on read hurts way more.
Edit: dang, reading other comments, I'm not the only one xd. >

I must be taking crazy pills. I came here to upvote the person that corrected OP by saying that it should say: “un-delivered” and “un-read”. I didn’t find that comment so I’m the guy doing the heavy lifting here. >

Now I feel bad because sometimes I just don’t have the energy to reply and I don’t want people to feel bad :((
Also sometimes I just like leaving the notification there so that I don’t forget to answer >

i leave people on delivered when im busy or in a depression episode. the second is because my depression convinces me that i don’t deserve companionship or attention, so i isolate. i dont want to give a half assed reply and when im depressed, im too numb to give them the response they deserve. like im not here to give anything. it sucks because not replying makes me feel guilty, but i cant bring myself to do it until im “better” but the guilt lingers. >

Not that many years ago, I remember how it was socially frowned upon to be ringing people's house phones in non-emergency situations during dinner time. Nowadays, you're nearly expected to be on standby for anyone within your closer circle.
I'm always working, sometimes I would get little time to myself. I got into the habit of triaging my phone calls/texts or whatever. Some of my friends are just as busy and others are not so much. My relationship with the latter seems to be the most strenuous. >

And it hurts even more when on discord too haha. It shows they are online and they may be active in an another server and never responded to your message. seeing that really hurts different >

Man, this hits. Found my estranged brother a few years ago and was hoping to reconnect. Sent him a message, and was left on delivered. He committed suicide shortly after. I stared at that "delivered" for a really long time wishing it said "read". >

FYI I get delivered all the time to my husband’s phone but he gets the texts on his watch. When he sees it on the watch the phone does not acknowledge as “read.” >

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Sounds like a 5 word story:

"Please stay safe" - Message Delivered >

“while you’re out getting cigarettes, can you pick up some milk?” - Message Delivered >

Oh, god, that one kinda hurt =( >

Because he didnt come home with the milk right? >

No, the guy is just lactose-intolerant >

I leave my mom on delivered when I don’t have time to respond because if she says I’ve read it she’ll just call me. >

Turn “read”-notification off. Dunno why people like to have it on. Let people read and reply when they want and let me do the same.