SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21F] boyfriend [34M] of two months has learned to compartmentalize his feelings because of his painful past. Now he will never open up and be honest with his emotions. I feel like I can't be open with him either and right now I'm in a time where I need him most.
POST: I've never posted here before, so please feel free to let me know if this is even in the right place or if my formatting is off!
 

I think maybe some of your first questions will be about our age difference. I am 13 years younger, about to graduate college and go to medical school (hopefully). He is out of residency already and well established in his career. When he first sent me a message, my first question was to ask why a 34 year old male would bother with a 21 year old female. His response was open and honest--all the women he went on dates with were divorced and already had kids. Meanwhile, he was sacrificing his personal life for school. I believed him and appreciated the genuine answer.
 

Over the two months that we have spent together, we have gone to water parks with his niece, football games, trips, and I met his whole family. He has some family issues that I won't go into for anonymity. Basically he has plenty of reasons to be hurt and upset by his family's actions but has coped well. Or so I thought.
 

I understand that he cannot let emotions affect his decisions at work and has to be professional, stoic, calculated. But even at home, he refuses to express emotion. I am not allowed to ask "how are you feeling?" or "what are you thinking about?" or "how was your day?" He only gets angry and then won't respond for a few days.
  

I love him, I really do, but I have never been in a relationship where my partner refuses to open up to me. I thought that it would just take time for him to talk to me about how he's feeling. I know that I am a really emotional person and I was recently hospitalized for mental health reasons (feeling better now!). I still haven't told him because I don't feel safe telling him things like that. If he is not open by now, will he ever be?
TL;DR: 
Boyfriend is not expressive about how he feels. I don't feel like I can talk to him about how I'm feeling either.