SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I don't feel like me (30, F) and my bf (26, M) of 9 months are friends anymore. Same thing happened in my last relationship. Could it be just me?
POST: For as long as I can remember, I've been pretty much best friends with whoever I was in a relationship with.  Lately... not so much.

I just ended a 3 year relationship with someone who kept me at arm's length (37, M).  My current 9 month relationship (25, M) is heading the same way.

I'm used to spending time doing idle stuff with whoever is my boyfriend-- even a trip to WalMart can turn into a hilarious 2 hours of goofing off.  At night, when we're tired and giddy, we can be so ridiculous and laugh over everything, like when I had sleepovers at the age of 9.  Sounds silly, but it's really fun bonding.

But that doesn't happen anymore.  My last 2 bf's only had the weekends to spend with me-- which, I UNDERSTAND, people need time to do their own thing and wind down.  But putting 10+ hours on a video game, then getting to bed too tired to even be on top during sex, every single weekend... I just don't understand it.

Am I being too immature?  Do I just need to get my own goofy friends, and not expect my bf to act that way?  Am I just staying in relationships were I love the guy, but we don't exactly match?  

Is being all goofy and close normal, or is being more distant normal?
TL;DR: 
I'm used to being like Spongebob and Patrick with my boyfriends, but it hasn't happened in my last 2 relationships.  Am I immature, or do relationships get more "distant" as people get older?