SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: "Faking it"?
POST: Hi,

I feel like I'm not going to meet a cute, nerdy girl anytime soon, but that doesn't mean I want to be single for another 4 years .

Whenever I read Advice online it's about changing yourself, not about making girls like the person who you really are, especially if you're not normal.

Thing is: I like myself. I have a pretty low self-esteem and I'm kind of lonely because I have been single for so long, but in general I'm mostly the person I would want to be. I stand up for my opinions and I'm generally speaking a good, intelligent person. 

But I'm a nerd and not to a small degree: My biggest passion are video games and my favourite comedians are youtube artists. 

So if I don't want to be alone all my life should I just be faking to be someone I'm not? For example: I love long hair on women and men. My hair is almost as long as my arms are. I've never met a girl who likes long hair outside of the Gothic/Metal scene many seem to hate it even. I mean I could just try to copy the style of some good looking guy in a hollywood romance movie. I am sure my chances would raise. 

But this wouldnt be me ... although it's easier to convince a girl of my true self if she already likes me ... I suppose?

Then again, maybe this is just young adult Angst speaking and I'm just misinterpreting/overthinking things (I'm 20 y.o. btw, university student).
TL;DR: 
Nerd with long hair, I like who I am, girls don't - should I change and become someone else even if that means faking it and hiding my true self?