SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: The lack of equality in sharing the housework in our relationship is making me strongly rethink marriage.
POST: Hi there, I am experiencing a relationship issue which I'm sure commonly plagues couples in committed relationships, so i'm looking for someone to help me rationalise my feelings and make a decision. 

I (24F) am in a long term relationship with bf (26M) and we have been living together for at least 5 years. In every living situation we have had in this time we have had other flatmates (1-2 at a time) and I have consistently been the person to pick up after everyone else, assign cleaning rosters, remember to put out the bins and recycling and even pick up rubbish left around the outside of the house that's fallen out of cars etc. In the last few years we purchased a house together and have one flatmate.

I feel very unsupported by my partner in that he doesn't always generate all of the cleaning work, but he sees me using my spare time and energy to keep our surroundings clean and stench-free. I need to ask him just as much as everyone else for help when I feel overwhelmed and the fact that he now owns his own home has not changed this. In addition to this, I feel he should want to ease my constant uphill battle at least a little bit. I am too embarrased to invite friends and family to our home most of the time because our house smells like rubbish, sweat and feet. 

I have given a huge chunk of my youth to this relationship but I feel too young to inherit a lazy child into my life to nag and badger for help for the rest of my life. I need an equal. I feel like I can't marry him because, however good our relationship is, he is doing me this one massive disrespect. I should add that I have taken a job with a long commute, so in addition to taking on most of the housework I am also home less than everyone else. 

Please give me your insights into this.
TL;DR: 
my partner's reluctance to help me with housework despite the significant mental toll it places on me is causing me to not want to marry him.