SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: UPDATED UPDATE I [24 F] am finding traditional relationships hard to stomach
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I have no idea who has actually followed this saga, but anyway.So, I don't know if this happens often, but I actually heeded you guys advice. 

After much thinking, I realised I wasn't being fair on my boyfriend. He wanted to accommodate me, said he'd accept living apart and seeing less of each other. But after some of the views people have expressed here and speaking to him, I came to the conclusion that he was forgoing his own desires out of desperation to hold on to me, and to some extent I was doing it because I thought 'not wanting a long-term relationship' meant there was something wrong with me. 

We've now broken up. And next time I'll be more upfront about what I want, and explain to future partners that my 'default' is not a traditional relationship, but that the terms of our relationships need to be more carefully negotiated.

[Aside to whomever it concerns: no I didn't leave a 4-year relationship with a guy I care about because I wanted to 'have lots of dicks', are you mad???]
TL;DR: 
Reddit had some great points, and I took them on board, and broke off my relationship. Will be more careful in future getting into committed relationships without working through the terms.