SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [22M] DAE feel like no-one could ever find them attractive?
POST: I don't think I have low self esteem, I'm just a realist, and realistically speaking I don't think I'm what most women are looking for physically. I have a weird face, I'm 5'10" and a bit overweight. This has caused me trouble in terms of dating because I'm a 4 who's only attracted to women I consider to be a 7+. It seems that the general rule of thumb is that if I find a woman attractive, she's out of my league, and I get rejected. I still try, but so far I have a 100% failure rate with women I find attractive.

On the other hand, I'm quite successful when I date less attractive women, but even if I love their personality, I never want to be more than friends with them. I don't see the point in dating someone if you're not attracted to them. As well as this, it seems that attractive women can reject me because they have other options, so I worry that the less attractive women I date are only there because I'm the best of a bad bunch, and they're just as ambivalent to my looks as I am to theirs. I want to find my partner irresistible and feel like I'm lucky to have her, and I want her to find me irresistible, and feel like she's lucky to have me, because without mutual attraction you're just friends imo.

Any advice would be appreciated, I wish I could be less shallow, or just have a broader palate, so if there's ways I can change myself to make that possible I'd love to hear it. Any personal anecdotes that relate to my situation are also relevant.
TL;DR: 
Average to below average looking guy is unable to be attracted to women in his league, and worries that women in his league are just settling for him anyway. How can br improve this mindstate?