SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: [Help] Question about separation anxiety and trust.
POST: My boyfriend and I just adopted a lab-border collie puppy and she's extremely sweet and loving. Obviously high energy (so we try and play a lot with her) and very smart (already picking up fast on training at 11-12mo).

My main concern is her horrible separation anxiety. Whenever my SO and I leave she has a horrible panic attack. We actually had to move her out of her metal crate/cage and put a padded gate in the closet and leave her in there because she would physically harm herself from fear (she hurt her nose on the cage 2 times, once with a lot of bleeding...) We're working to kennel train and get her used to being alone, but **my question is -- if I'm always the one to leave the house last and my SO is always home first, will that make her start to distrust me?** My SO leaves for work an hour before I do and gets home about 30min sooner, so I'm always the mean "cage lady!" and he's always the one to come and "free her!" 
I'm worried that since I am the one having to lock her up about 90% of the time *yet* I almost never actually get her out, she's going to start distrusting me.

My SO thinks it's no biggie (that she won't remember/care) but I would think that dogs are smart enough to pick up on patterns like that.

How worried should I be...? I don't want her viewing me as the bad, abusive person :(

Thanks in advance for any advice/feedback!
TL;DR: 
if I'm always the one to put our puppy in the crate and my SO is always the one to get home and free her, will she start to distrust me?