SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [FINAL UPDATE] My[24F] father in law [67M] does not understand boundaries and is disrespectful
POST: Hey Reddit. This will be my final update to the saga (previous update [here](

I'll try to keep this as short as I can. My father in law wrote back to my husband today and it was an essay full of "you" statements that contained:

- guilt tripping

- more elaborate blaming using my mother in law and brother in law in untrue statements to hurt my husband - eg. your brother used to abuse you and it turned you hostile to me 

- saying that he (father in law) has tons of friends and have offended no one else EVER 

- everyone else can see that my husband is the only one being rude and disrespectful to him and not the other way around

The whole thing concluded with my father in law saying he is who he is and cannot change and wrote an elaborate goodbye which included "you clearly find me a regrettable burden to your life" and "you reject me as your father". Neither of those things were said nor implied, he is just trying to increase the drama. 

I wrote to my mother in law telling her that we would still like to maintain a relationship with her and I explained our point of view (including that her husband was using her name to hurt my husband) just in case he was feeding her another story.

I seriously hope this is the end. I picture my father in law as an octopus, swimming around in an ocean of "I'm always right" and "I have tons of friends" while each of his 8 legs are carrying "Nope, you're wrong" or "I am who I am" and he just flings them at you as fast as he can and occasionally he'll squirt out "your brother abused you" and swim away while you're blinded by shock.
TL;DR: 
father in law blames my husband for everything and uses mother in law and brother in law's names in untrue statements to hurt my husband