SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is connection really important during the first few dates?
POST: Went out with a girl (I'm 24 and she's 22), and the first date went great. We both felt really connected with each other. I know she feels the same way because she told a mutual friend about how we clicked really well and the mutual friend told me.

But we couldn't see each other for about three weeks because I was away and when we finally went on second date, we didn't click as well. We decided to smoke a joint and order cocktails after dinner and things just got worst from there. There were plenty of awkward silences and she just seemed distracted.

Oh, and I forgot to mention, we're friends before we went out, but we were never close. 

At the end of the night, I texted her the usual; 'had a great time, blah blah blah..' but no reply.

This was last night.

I called her just a few minutes ago to ask her if she'd like to go for a jog tomorrow afternoon and she declined. Her reason was, 'I don't jog' but I remember her telling me she wanted to start running again during the date.

I know, she's not willing to take this thing further which is fine. But it got me thinking, is it really important to form and cement a connection when you're going out on the first few dates? 

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TL;DR: 
Shouldn't everyone deserve the benefit of a doubt when it comes to the first date (or at least the first few dates)? Things might get better if we got to know each other a little bit more right?</b>