Title: I was falsely accused of rape by my girlfriend in the Air force, the police broke into my hotel room to search for evidence and found none, now they don't believe me and are trying to build a case. Any legal advice?

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I will call myself "Airman Jim Rogers".

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The fellow Airman who has falsely accused me of sexual assault, We can call her "Airman Sarah".

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My military lawyer assigned to my case, We can call him "Captain Helms".

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The friend I visited when I was on leave, We can call her "Kelly".

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I initially met Sarah in late July, during the first day of the Electrical course. She wasn’t very talkative, like her peers were. I would eventually overhear her say things in Japanese that I was familiar with, like “Yaoi,” which is a Japanese term, meaning “boy love.” I was familiar with this term, as my previous girlfriend was obsessed with Japanese culture and would share the knowledge of some of these oddities with me. After hearing her say this in class, I looked over at her and let her know I was familiar with what she was saying, It was obvious that she was surprised and startled, and her eyes grew big, as she clearly thought everyone in the room was ignorant of the Japanese language and culture. We spoke for a moment about Japanese Animation, which I used to watch a lot of growing up, and she seemed to be extremely interested, as none of her other peers showed the slightest interest in Japanese animation, or anime for short.

The next day, she asked me in front of the class if I knew what “B/L” was. I confessed my ignorance, and then pulled out my phone and googled it, and found out that it also meant “boy love” and seemed very similar to the “Yaoi” she mentioned earlier. I was kind of taken back by her interest in watching animations of homosexual men having sex, but I rationalized it as, “Men enjoy watch lesbian pornography, so I can’t judge a woman for like essentially the same thing.”  Her telling me about this initial kink, and me not judging her would be the beginning of her telling me about her kinks in the classroom.

In the classroom, she set two seats to the left of me, but during breaks or any opportunity, she would immediately be talking to me. We spoke about her life spent with her grandmother in Christian school, our diets (both of us were on special health diets) and above all, we’d discuss anime and Japanese culture. Our conversations were generally lighthearted at this time, and I could slightly tell she seemed to be interested in me, but I refused to see her in this way or pursue anything, as I found her too young and I didn’t want to break any kind of professional barriers that we may have. I decided to keep my distance, yet remain nice and friendly.

Eventually we became friends, where we would talk about our days together during break. She would bring me almond milk and snacks from the cafeteria. We eventually changed classrooms, and instead of sitting two seats down, she moved to sitting directly in front of me. She would tell me how she enjoyed sitting near me, and how she felt “more intelligent” being around me, because I had the highest GPA in the classroom. She never had anything but positive things to say to me, and she would tell me how she didn’t like the other guys in class, but enjoyed talking to me, because of all of our similar interest. Around this time, she added me on Instagram and we would casually chat after school hours. We also discovered we had a common goal of visiting Japan next year, so we started planning to go together and save money.

After this class was finished, we moved into another classroom, where she sat in the front of the classroom and I sat in the back. This was definitely the furthest we sat away from each other since class had first started in July. She sat next to Airman Walker and Airman Fallon, whom would talk to her about things, like who she liked in the classroom or who she found attractive.  To my surprise, in front of them and the entire class, I overheard her say,”I like Senior Airman Rogers.” I was fairly surprised that she had said that about me, but also not shocked at all, because of the consistent flirting.  Our instructor at this time was MSG Watson, who was unfortunately tending to school issues, as he was the NCOIC of the school house. He would just generally leave us all unattended, and have us self-study, while he would work issues with scheduling and other administrative issues. During the times he was gone; Sarah would ignore the other airmen and move to the back of the class where I was. At the point, she began to become very clingy with me and would always attach herself to me, by following me everywhere I went. If I went to the burrito truck in the morning, one could tell that she was definitely becoming attached. This also became known to everyone in the class whenever she announced that she had stalked my Facebook and Instagram pictures and that “I looked really good with no shirt on.” She would consistently remind me and everyone else in the classroom that she had a sexual attraction to me.

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Our conversations generally consisted of Japanese culture and planning our trip to Japan, but sometimes she would deviate from the normal and start discussing her sexual wants and desires. She discussed things like her “Waifus” which were fictitious partners she had imagined that were really dating her. She would talk to me about them as if they were real people she, was in a relationship with, despite them being from an anime she liked. I kind of played along with it, and felt like she was possibly joking and asked her to send me pictures of them through Instagram, and she did.  I ended up looking up “waifus” and found out that this is a normal thing that anime lovers do, however; I don’t believe they take it as serious as Sarah, believed that these fictitious characters actually loved her.

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Around this time, Sarah brought it the classrooms attention that she had a stalker in the barracks, which was harassing her. She said his name was airman “Hendrick?” and that he had been stalking her around the barracks. She claimed that he would follow her outside while taking out the trash, and that he had gotten her in trouble, by going to her room on the female floor and knocking on the door. She also said that she had chewed him out because he kept saying that they were dating. She had made it seem as though he was really stalking her, yet I found this entire situation odd because she had posted pictures of an airman, whom she had described to be this airman, with the picture entitled “My first date.” I chose to ignore this because I thought that maybe they were talking, and she decided to change her mind, but he still wanted to force her to stay in this relationship. I felt empathetic to this problem and we would joke about the “trans” airman who was now labeled her stalker.

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After this point, she began to open up to me a lot about herself, as for the next classes that would happen, we sat right next to each other. She told me about her father, whom she said she had a hatred for. She said that he was (sexually?)abusive and had nothing pleasant to say about her mother. She then showed me the scars on her wrists, and told me about how she used to cut herself. She told me about how she did love her grandmother, who would eventually end up raising her, but how she enrolled her into a Christian school, where she wasn’t able to talk or be around boys at all. She would also tell me about how she was declined at MEPS the first time she went, due to her mental ailments, but she wouldn’t disclose to me what her mental issues were, just that she had some. She had told me (and the rest of the class) about a guy that she was “dating” but who was stationed in Japan, but didn’t like her. Some of the others in the class laughed when she told us this, but she insisted that she was “going to be with him.” She was giving me a lot of red flags, but at this point in time, my better judgment was already clouded. I also felt that she was holding a job, had goals and dreams, so she can’t be too mentally unstable.

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Up until this point in time, when other airmen in the classroom would hit on her or try to convince her into going out on a date, she would thoroughly reject them, but it began to be known that she was with me and wanted to be with me. I noticed the other airmen eventually would give up trying to be with her. She would always tell them, “I like older, more mature men like Rogers.” At one point in time, after being asked about what airmen she thought was attractive, she openly confessed that she had been “stalking” my Facebook and Instagram accounts, and thought that I looked good without a shirt on. They eventually would give up and it seemed to me that they began to see how she openly felt towards me, and eventually they stopped making advances towards her.

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I was kind of taken back by everything. I felt a strong sense of camaraderie, probably generated by all of the similar interest and time spent together. I couldn’t help but to reflect often about how much this girl really adored me with her constant flirting and attention. She wasn’t the typical girl I was interested in, but after my last relationship ended in December of four years, and I had been single since, I felt vulnerable, lonely and very optimistic at the thoughts of potentially falling in love once more, and also interested in trying to be with someone against my normal “type” and maybe being with someone this different could be a very good thing.

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After the class with MSG Fields ended, we would move yet again to another classroom, and this time she sat right next to me. Another Airman, who seemed fond of me, named Allen, would sit next to me on the right hand side. He was a bit younger than everyone in the class and enjoyed sitting next to me, because I wouldn’t mess with him about his age and I would help him with any school work that he didn’t understand. At the point in time, I felt like the conversations had between Sarah and I had been pretty out there, but our conversations began to accelerate now, sitting next to one another.

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Now that she sat directly next to me, it was as if she removed all filters when it came to her sexuality. She started talking openly (to the entire class) about her sex toys were taken during a health and wellness inspection. She would describe in detail her handcuffs that’s were confiscated, but kept the details of her other sex toys between her and I. She began sneaking her phone into the classroom, where she would quickly flash sexual images to me. A lot of these images would be of homosexual men, preforming gay acts on one another. She would tell me about how things they were doing in the pictures, were things that she was also interested in doing, such as oral sex. The longer that she’d sit next to me, the further down the rabbit hole she went with her pornography, showing me more of this “boy love” that she was so fond of. The boy love wasn’t exactly like the homosexual pictures she had showed me before, but instead is was cartoon depictions of young boys having sex with several adult men at once. She seemed especially enjoy this erotic the most and would tell me about however she got home from school, she would spend almost her entire day entranced by this type of pornography.

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Along with the “boy love” pornography, she began to open up to me about other things. She told stories about her sexual fantasies, such as BDSM and DD/LG (daddy dom, Little Girl) where she would fantasize about being treated like a younger girl during sexual intimacy. I felt at odds during a lot of this, because not only was it crossing an extreme barrier in class, where I was certain other people could hear us, but I also felt uncomfortable with why she enjoyed a lot of this, and her love for the type of pornography was becoming seen to me as more of an obsession. Eventually almost all of our conversations began to be centered on pornography and sex, with any wholesome conversations about Japan or anime leaving the room.

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Sometimes we would talk about our plans to rendezvous at different places. I had told her about Huntsville Park, and she seemed very interested in going there with me to see the water fall and walking the trails. I had told her about a new Fender Acoustic Guitar that I had recently purchased, and thought we could have fun playing each other songs (she had been telling me she was learning the guitar from her Christian uncle.) I felt like it would be a good first place to take her, and it would make for an excellent date; however, the weather both weeks we had planned this was ugly, so we had to reschedule in frustration. During this point, she would continue on as normal showing me sexual acts and expressing to me that she wanted me to preform said acts on her or that she wanted to do these sexual acts to me. She conveyed that she was upset to me, that her handcuffs were confiscated as she wanted to use those with me in sexual acts. She also told me that she was consistently out of money and could no longer afford buying breakfast in the morning at the food truck, because she had spent her money on new lingerie.

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During class, I would catch her staring at me sometimes. I could definitely feel an attachment with her, but I wanted to see how attached she was. One day I asked her what she would do if I moved seats, and sat with someone else and she immediately replied with, “I would get really upset and probably cry!” I kind of laughed at it, and reassured her that I wasn’t going to do that. I noticed that any time Airman Len or anyone else, she would become slightly annoyed. She later told me that she didn’t like it whenever my attention was focused on someone other than herself. I reassured her that Airman Len just needed help, and that she was still the center of my focus. I kind of felt at odds though with this, as we had only known each other for a few months, and she was already becoming very possessive and needy. She around this time confessed to me that she was a virgin and had never been intimate with a man before.

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A lot of things begin to make sense after she confided in me that she was still a virgin. She told me about how she had never kissed a man, held hands or anything of that nature. A lot of her odd quarks began to make sense after finding this fact out. She and I discussed her sexual experiences in detail after that or lack thereof. She would tell me about how oppressed she felt in the catholic school, and how she got into trouble one day for wearing lacey panties into school. Later on that same day, we decided that we should start hanging out after class hours. I told her that I liked to walk after class at the One Mile Track,  she seemed interested in the idea of potentially walking with me.

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After class ended that day, I messaged her and asked her to come on this walk. She was slow to respond (she had been telling me that Instagram would take forever to deliver my messages) but she eventually responded and agreed to meet me. I got dressed in my normal PT uniform and tennis shoes, and walked down the stairwell and met her close to the track. She was dressed in tight black pants, platform shoes and had a black shirt and opened thin jacket. She complained a minute on how far the walk was, as we started walking the One Mile Track. She almost immediately said her feet were sore and hurting, which I felt disappointed at, because I really wanted to do this walk, so we stopped at a bench, after only walking for a few minutes. She and I sat there, with the sunlight beaming down on us, as I felt this interaction was a terrible idea. I felt like she wasn’t really into walking the track and I asked if she wanted to come upstairs with me and play guitar, like we had discussed earlier, and grab some water.

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Whenever we got to the top floor of my hotel building, we entered the room and I showed her both my guitars. I broke out the acoustic guitar and played her a song by Jack White. I had wanted to show her a song by The Rolling Stones, called Paint it Black. I put the song on and played along, and she seemed to enjoy it. We sat on the bed together and took turns showing each other songs on YouTube that we enjoyed, playing off of the hotel television.  She seemed like she wanted to mess around with me, but maybe that maybe she felt shy or unsure of herself, so I asked if she wanted to cuddle, and she said, “Yes.” We adjusted and readjusted a few times and got comfortable in different positions, and then I asked her if it was okay if I kissed her, and she once again said, “Yes.” We started kissing one another, and we let our hands roam over each other’s body. I let my hand run down her thighs and into her pants, rubbing the outside of her panties. I kissed on her and then pulled my hand out, and placed in back in, this time inside her panties, where I rubbed her vagina and began fingering her. We continued kissing and I stopped fingering her and I unfastened my belt. She looked at my penis, and began to caress it and placed it in her mouth, as we had talked about it class (her wanting to give me a blow job.)

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After she carried on for a minute of two, I mounted her and began kissing her and having dry sex (going through the motions of sex, but with clothing still on.) We went back to cuddling for a minute or two as we talked about having sex. I asked her if this was something she was sure she wanted to do (give me her virginity) and something that she wanted to do right now, because I’d been okay waiting longer. She reassured me that she wanted to continue. She removed her top and I took my clothes off and then helped her remove her pants and panties. She laid in the bed, looking up at me as I started to insert myself into her, and after I put it in, I asked her if she was on birth control, and she told me that she wasn’t. I immediately stopped what I was doing, and went to the kitchen area (where my bags were) and got a condom, setting the remainder condoms on the nightstand, in case I would need another one. I put the condom on, and got back into bed with, and once again reinserted myself into her.

We continued having sex in the missionary position for a while. Her breathing, facial reactions and moans seemed normal. I readjusted her legs several times, sometimes on my shoulders and then to the side. She had told me about the want to have sex bent over, so we started having sex in the “doggy style” position. After a few minutes of that, I got tired and we went back to missionary position. We continued this on for a while and I stopped, because I was getting tired. I sat up and she began to start giving me a blow job, while I leaned above her. After that, we began having sex in the missionary position again and the to the side, but I felt to fatigued to last much longer and stopped again, this time cuddling next to her.  I asked her if she had came for me, and she said, “yes” so I felt okay about stopping. She said, “but you haven’t came yet?” I said that it was okay, that I was tired and she began to give me a hand job, which would turn into another blow job. I stopped her after a moment and told her I needed to go to the bathroom (I was extremely over hydrated from drinking tons of water whenever we came back into the hotel room from the walk.) I went to the bathroom and came back, where she was still lying in the bed naked. I got back into the bed with her and we cuddled some more. I told her that I really liked her and that I would want to date her if she moved to Barksdale. I held her in my arms for a bit, before I told her it was time for her to go, or she was going to miss curfew.

We got up and started to look around for our clothes, when I noticed I left hickeys on her neck from making out. She followed me into the kitchen area, and looked into the mirror and seen the hickeys for herself. She told me she would just cover them with concealer and that it would be okay. We finished getting dressed and she told me she wanted to see me in some actual civilian clothes, so I put on a pair of black tattered pants I thought she may like. We talked about fashion for a minute, until we walked outside and looked over the guard rail at the flight line and kind of stared off. She was wrapped around me, holding me tightly, as I had my arm around her. We kissed several times and held hands on the way down to my car. She got into my car and I drove her down the road until she told me to drop her off at the Packard Dinning facility. I stopped the car there and kissed her a few more times. She said her lips were chapped from all of the kissing and I gave her a hug and told her goodnight. I let her out there, and went back to my room, where I turned on a show called “My Hero Academia” and fell asleep.

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  The next day, I woke up as normal and got dressed to head to class. I arrived at Will Parker (where the classes normally take place.) I seen the other students against the wall, as the faculty searched their bags for markers, because apparently someone had been drawing on the walls in the bathrooms. I walked past the other students and waited in the classroom for the search to be over. I sat in my seat, and eventually the rest of the students came barreling through the door, except for Sarah.

 I inquired where Sarah was, and they informed me that she had gone to the emergency room last night. I was confused and asked why and they said it was probably just because she was sick and couldn’t wait for the clinic to open up. I was concerned for her wellbeing, but also because I knew that if she missed eight hours of class she would be recycled and held back until the next class.

The day progressed like normal and we were eventually let out of class for lunch. I left the classroom and drove my vehicle back to the Claymore Inn and attempted to go into my room. Whenever I held the card to the door lock, it flashed red. Even whenever my cards were expired or deactivated it had never done this, so I went to the front desk and asked for my card to be reprogrammed. They told me they were having issues with their locks and that it would be fixed shortly and that I could wait in the lobby area. I informed them that I was on lunch and that I had a limited time before I had to leave, so I’d come back later after class, and hopefully they would have this issue fixed.

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I returned to class and there was still no Sarah, which I was sad for, because I felt that she was about to become recycled due to her missing so many hours. I asked the instructor if he had heard any word from her and he said, “They are trying to keep it quiet, but they said they won’t recycle her.” My concern started to grow, as I wondered to myself,” Did they see the hickies I left on her neck? Do they know that she and I were in an inappropriate relationship together?” These questions began to wear at me, as I grew so nervous it became difficult to focus on simple school work. We were set to leave at 1500 that day, and at that time the instructor left the room and the class began talking about what happened to Sarah. Jackson (another airman in the classroom) made a joke to me, “Did you already get her pregnant? She’s been all over you for a while now?” I didn’t say a word, and I saw his eyes get large, he definitely knew something had happened between us. The instructor came back in and told us that we were behind on the curriculum, and that he was told to continue instructing us until further notice. I sat in the classroom for what seemed like forever, until the doors opened up and it was 1ST sergeant James and MSG Fields. They said,”SrA Rogers, can we speak to you.” I walked out and they had me follow them outside. I asked them where were we going, and they said,”OSI had some questions for me.”

I followed behind them, until we reached OSI. Once inside, they were taken to an office on the left side, and then I was told to wait in a small room on the right side. They removed my cell phone and told me to place my books in a small locker. Once inside my anxiety began to skyrocket. I wondered exactly where I was and exactly why I was there. I opened the door and immediately detectives were at the door and they said, “What are you doing?” and I replied, “I needed to go to the latrine.” They walked me over into the hallway where the latrine was located and in a room on the left, I seen a conference center, where I giant screen projected the room I was located in. I realized quickly I was in an integration room and they were recording me.

They escorted me back into the room, where I sat for what felt like hours. Eventually a male and female detective came into the room and I asked why I was there. They said they just wanted to talk to me for a while first, and that they would get to that. They started asking me some very basic question about hobbies and interest. As they asked these questions, my anxiety kept growing, as I waited for the real reason why I was there. Finally they said, “There was a case of sexual assault recently, and your name was mentioned.” My jaw dropped and I immediately freaked out and said, “I want a lawyer and a chaplain!” The interrogator slowly closed his binder and said he was now going to have to book me. We walked to the back area and he took my photo and did my fingers prints as I stood in disbelief. I knew exactly what the scanner was and the process he was doing. I knew that I had been arrested for the first time in my life and it was over one of the worst crimes imaginable, sexual assault. I decided to try to talk to him and figure things out, maybe try to tell him that I didn’t do it to avoid the booking process. I thought maybe this is some kind of mix up, and that this can be avoided if I just tell him what’s going on, but his boss said, “This is going to happen, no matter what.” I just decided to stop talking and comply with all of their requests for fingerprints and photos. During the photos, the police officer kept telling me, “The commander just wants to hear your side of the story.”

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I was brought back to the interrogation room at some point, and asked more questions. They had me sign a waiver for my right to an attorney and then asked me for my story. I told them about everything and then I offered to show them the messages between her and I. They asked if they could make a copy of it, and I said “yes.” They took my phone and said they needed to get me to the hospital to have the kit done to me, to confirm that I had sex with her. I was the taken to the hospital by them and waited there for hours, because they said they had messed up some paperwork. Finally after they had gotten the paperwork straightened, a nurse inspected me in front of the other men. After this degrading act, I was escorted back to the integration room, where I was questioned some more. Finally I was told the 1ST sergeant was here and that my phone had finished and I was free to go. After I went outside with the 1ST sergeant, we got into his truck and I sat in silence, wanting to break down. He kept asking, “Are you okay Airman Rogers?” I said “yes” but I just felt completely broken. We talked for a moment about what had happened and he said,” what’s hurting you is that you invoked your right to an attorney. You really need to just talk to them and tell them what happened.” He took me back to my vehicle, Lance parked at the school house and dropped me off. It was around 2AM at this point, and I had been up since 6AM. I was exhausted and sleep deprived. I drove back to the hotel room, only to find out my keycard still didn’t work. After visiting the front desk, I was finally able to get back into my room. I entered in and found my safe had been pried open. I found everything had been torn into in my retire room. Things were missing, vents were removed and my blanket was gone. I realized they had searched the room for anything to do with sexual assault.

I couldn’t sleep that entire night. I stayed there tossing and turning until the sun came up and 1ST sergeant told me to be ready at 9am to go back to OSI. At around 10am I met him back at his office and we walked to OSI and they had me sign another waiver to discuss my story. They asked me questions about how she and I met, and about how the sex happened and tons of very intrusive questions, but I knew I hadn’t raped her, so I just went along with their requests, believing the truth was going to obviously show itself. After several hours of reiterating the same story, they left the room for a moment and stormed back in, demanding that I was “full of shit.” They said that everyone else’s stories matched up, but mine. They said that neighbors heard the bed banging against the wall and sounds of muffled screams. I told them that story was not true, and then they said that I threw her onto the floor, and I once again stated, “That isn’t true.” After that, they said they didn’t think I was a rapist, that I just tried to “dom” her. I still told them, that wasn’t what happened, everything I did was very consensual and gentle. They started asking me, “why do you think you had the right to do this stuff with her, you two didn’t know each other well enough to do BDSM with one another.” I replied, “She’s old enough to wear the uniform, to vote for the president, so she’s adult enough to ask for stuff like this.” The detective (for the first time) actually said he understood that point.

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My anxiety was completely through the roof at this point, as the two detectives both had been trying to say how guilty I was, and trying to break me for hours. Finally another man came into the room and he had photos of my safe. In the photos were picture of my scale and my friend Kelly’s gummies. He started asking me about my drug use, and asked me if I did any substances. I said that I drank (which isn’t true, but he was acting so aggressive, I just wanted him to leave me alone.) He started making accusations that I was drunk and that I put CBD oil in my alcohol to help get me high. I said no and that it doesn’t have THC in it. He said that it did, despite the clear message on the bottle that said “0 percent THC.” He then asked if I had done anything else, and I said, “weed.” And he said, “What about molly?” and I responded with “yes.” Finally he said, “acid?” and I just stopped agreeing with him. He asked me then about the gummies and I told him they were mine, but my friends Kelly’s. He then made an accusation that I was dealing drugs out of my room, and I said, “No.” He said he knew as soon as he drug tested me, that I’d fail, “and I said let’s do it then,” He then said, “well, I’ll hair sample test you, and I said sure.” He then asked me if I’d take a polygraph and I agreed to that as well. He kept taunting me and asking me if I had anything else for him, and then he left. I could tell him and the others were taunting me from how he was acting when we first met, just as he was doing during the interrogation.

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I asked to go outside after that, and they finally agreed to let me have some fresh air. It was around 6 or 7pm now and I talked to them for a moment outside, and finally we went inside and the booked me on the second charge of possession. After words, I left and the 1ST sergeant escorted me to be drug tested. I arrived back at the hotel late again, still sleep deprived and tried my best to pass out, but couldn’t again, my anxiety was too high. I finally messaged my friends and told them what happened to me.

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The next morning, I met with the 1ST sergeant and asked to speak to the chaplain. I drove to The Hilton Café and spoke to Chaplain Bell, where I told him the entire story, and he finally referred me to Captain Helms. I went back the 1ST sergeant and told him I wanted to see a lawyer and he reluctantly directed me to the EOC building. I went there and was greeted by SSG Dillan and Captain Helms, who gave my some words about my case. After that I reported back to the 1ST sergeant, who told me to be dressed in PT gear and report to the cafeteria at 0600. I reported there and was taken to the EOC site, where I was treated like I was in basic training again. I was told to mow yards with an Airman who was pending disciplinary actions for underage drinking. This basic training environment treatment would continue for days, where I was told perform tasks, like pull weeds out of the ground by hand, in the rain all day.

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After days of this and trying to deal with my overwhelming anxiety from the intense interrogation, I broke down and went to mental health. I spoke with the doctor there and told him about my situation. He referred me to the Lancastor Clinic, where I could try to get my anxiety treated, while awaiting this court case.

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Answer: Your legal advice is to not talk about this with anyone, especially the cops or any detective that "has your best interests in mind", except your lawyer.


Title: UBER GOT HIT WHILE I WAS IN IT AND IT HIT MY SIDE

Question:
Hi,

What do I do? Do i file a claim because i did hurt my shoulder and lower back in the accident. The driver has no insurance so idk how he ubered? I want to do something because that hit ruined my vacation..

Help a guy out. What are my next steps and is there some compensation for my situation. I have done research and it seems to say that i am insured as a passenger but i dont know much after that. Thank you for taking the time to help and read.

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Title: Hypothetical : If, due to bank error, $10k is deposited into a garnished account... What happens to the money?

Question:
Hypothetical : The local Dept of Children's Services is garnishing someone's paycheck for back child support.  Any money that gets deposited into that person's bank account is immediately garnished and turned over to DCS.

What happens if, for instance, a bank teller accidentally deposits some random innocent person's paycheck into that account by mistake?

EDIT : Maybe not DCS...  Maybe the IRS has a lien on the account.  One that allows immediate seizure of deposited assets (those *do* exist.)

Answer: "Clusterfuck" is the appropriate legal term here, I think...


Title: What happens to someone deemed a vexatious litigant who actually does later become party to a legitimate suit or case?

Question:
When the court deems someone a vexatious litigant they are barred from filing further suits.

But, what would happen to someone deemed as such, who later became involved in something, i.e. a real personal injury, car accident, insurance scam, etc., that would normally be advised for anyone else to file suit?

Are they completely out of options, and did their little stunt with being a vexatious litigant bar them from ever getting justice?

Answer: In some jurisdictions, vexatious litigants can't file suit without judicial approval or an attorney. Sometimes, vexatious litigants are barred from filing in forma pauperis. There are no circumstances in which vexatious litigants are barred entirely from filing suit, because that would be a denial of due process rights that can't be stripped from a person.


Title: [Georgia] Ex has my son, won't let me see or talk to him. It's been months. I don't know how to get him back.

Question:
Hey guys, I really hope I'm posting this in the right place and following proper procedure. My situation is really sticky and I don't know what to do. Pardon me if this is long winded, it's important all the details are here.

So I'm 27, my ex is 24. We were never married, but were engaged and together as a couple for 8 years. We have a 5 year old son together.

We made the mutual decision to split up and see other people almost 3 years ago. We were fighting all the time and generally unhappy and we didn't want it to hurt our son. Things were going smoothly.

Then my ex, whom we will call Marie, sort of lost it. She'd attempted to kill herself with a pistol her father purchased for her. I managed to take it away from her. I thought it was an attention seeking thing, so I didn't report it. This was a huge mistake. My son was not present for this.

A few days later, I get a call at work. She's in the hospital, nearly dead. She'd overdosed on morphine that she'd stolen from her sick grandmother. It was an attempted suicide. My son, then 3, found her in the room and told his uncle that 'mommy is dead'.

She recovered, and spent a few weeks in a mental institution. When she was released, she came into my house without notice and we had a massive argument. She destroyed 3,000 dollars worth of computer equipment and physically assaulted me. I defended myself by grabbing her arm and throwing her onto the bed. I ran outside and called the police. When they arrived, she intercepted them, gave them a sob story, and they arrested me for misdemeanor battery. I've been fighting this case for 2 years, as I did not intentionally hurt her.

The time off I'd taken resulted in me losing my well paying job. She had the rent money for our home (it was my money, she was supposed to hand it over to the landlord), and she kept it. Used it for her own stuff. I lost the house. I got a new job, and eventually got on my feet and got a new home. I eventually moved to a new city in the same state, where I live with my amazing girlfriend in a nice home.

Things have been sour between us sense. Things started off well enough, we'd switch off with my son and help each other out. But once it became clear we were not getting back together, she vanished.

She cut all contact from me and my family. Removed us from facebook, blocked our numbers, changed her own number. I had no way to contact her or my son. She has no real family anymore, they've all cut her off, so I had no way to find out anything. She was gone for 6 months before I heard from her again. She was asking for money. And trying to sell me drugs.

I denied the drugs, scolded her for this. This isn't the girl I knew. But she had my son. I gave her the money, tried to see my child. I had him for one night before she vanished again.

Now here we are. She still has him, won't let me talk to him or see him. I have no way to contact her. She only contacts me if she needs money, and if I cannot provide it immediately she cuts me off again. I have hundreds of saved texts proving she has been keeping me from my son. I have proof of her trying to sell me drugs. She told me recently that she's epileptic, and that she cannot drive and my son has found her having a seizure before. I don't believe she is employed. She is living with her boyfriend, whom she is training my son to call daddy. He was recently arrested for having drugs. I believe he sells them, and that is their income. I have a saved picture of her power bill where she said it was about to be cut off and needed money. During one of the moments she's tried to get money from me, she let my son talk to my mother for a minute. He told her he has been sick and that there is mold in his room.

I know I legitimized my son at birth. He has my last name, I'm the father on his birth certificate. But I don't know what to do here. I just moved to a new city and at the moment, I am unemployed. I need to get my son away from her. I've waited so long because I've been scared. I'm afraid that if I take her to court she will do something drastic or kill herself with my son present. I'm afraid that if I do anything at all I may be putting my son or her in danger.

Guys, I don't know what to do. I've never been through anything like this, I don't even know where to start, I have no idea how I can get my son away from her and back with me. I'm unemployed at the moment, but I still have income, my girlfriend runs a clinic for autistic children and makes more than enough to cover for us (and my kid) until I find a job in the new city. We live in a decent gated community near a nice school. I know I could give my son a better life.

What do I do?

Answer:
 Do you have a court-ordered custody agreement?

If not, your recourse is to file for custody and/or visitation.  Answer #2: Why aren't you calling social services?  First, you do yourself no favors by saying your son is in danger but doing nothing about it. More importantly,  this is one of those cases where your son sounds like he is in danger. Giving mom money for drugs AND letting her leave with your son again is a good way for you both to lose him. You mention you are scared and are adjusting.  It would be tough for you to take care of your son. That much is clear. That's not an excuse to keep him in a dangerous situation.

You need a family lawyer stat, but if everything you say is accurate,  you should consider CPS if you feel your child is in immediate danger. Doing nothing looks bad. Your son deserves better. Hang in there--your heart is in the right place.


Title: Probation violation

Question:
I'm on one year misdemeanor probation in NC  and I went into SC for the day and got into a traffic accident I did not tell my probation officer I
did not get a violation but a police report was filled out.  Will my probation officer be notified of this or will he pull this up on his computer during my monthly visits? Does the PO run a background check on you each visit for new charges he may not be aware of??

Answer: It should be handled by taking responsibility and informing your probation officer. The consequences will be much less severe if you wait around for them to be notified and find out on their own.


Title: Recovering stolen firearm?

Question: A few months ago my truck was stolen along with about $3k worth of tools and a Glock pistol. Yesterday the cops called an said they had recovered my gun from some surrenno gangbangers. The serial number has been filed off but the crime lab was able to figure it out somehow. They said I can have it back in a month or two once they determine it hasn't been used in a crime. My question is what will happen to me if I'm somehow stopped with a now altered firearm? I asked the cop and he didn't really give me much of an answer. Half of me just wants to wash my hands if It. Any advice? I am in California.

Answer: Once you recover the firearm, I would contact Glock about this and see if they can help you out in some way.  They're usually very accommodating.


Title: Minor car accident in NJ yesterday, beginning to think it wasn't my fault at all

Question:
Sorry in advance for the wall of text.

Context: I'm on my learner's permit, and I've been driving under parental supervision for no more than a week. I just got into my first car accident (details of the accident below), and well, I panicked. After parking and putting my flashers on I got out of the car, only to hear the driver of the opposing car say that this was my fault. In that moment, I had blanked out: I had no recollection of what had happened just seconds prior. Every rational thought and memory of mine was held prisoner by fear. So through tears all I could say was "I'm sorry" repeatedly. I wholeheartedly believed her, and eventually her anger turned to white noise. She convinced my mother and I both that she was the victim, and she told the officer the same. The officer then asked me what happened, I regurgitated what the elder said; my turn was too wide, drifted into her lane, wasn't paying attention... I guess he noticed how unstable I was through that, because he told me to go sit in my car and relax. He also noted that "this sort of thing happens - new drivers make mistakes". My mother took care of the exchanges (contact, insurance) for me. I melted into the passenger seat and zoned out as the officer wrote up the report. I felt barely conscious throughout this whole incident - not because of the accident, of course, but because I was blinded by panic. This was a huge inconvenience. I woke up this morning, recalled the details of the accident, reviewed the damage and realized something was off.

This video diagram I made outlines the accident, and also includes photos of the damage to both vehicles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PS5Zdck3Ums&feature=youtu.be

Notable concepts: NJ has a right turn on red policy unless otherwise listed. I know that I turned left on a green light. I was at least 3/4 done with my turn by the time the collision happened.

The problem: NJ is a no fault state, but I'd still have to fish out $500 dollars (deductible) if this is deemed to be my fault (meaning I'll have to put it through my insurance rather than hers). I sure as hell don't have that kind of money right now. I have not made a claim to my insurance company yet; I don't know if she has. What can I do to save my starving wallet?
Topic:
Insurance

Answer:
  Nope.  Your fault.

When you're making a left turn on a green light (not an arrow) you are responsible for yielding to oncoming traffic whether they are going straight or turning right.  You had a green.  He had a green.  You had to yield but did not.


Title: I sent an E-transfer to the wrong person accidentally. They accepted and will not reply to me... I really need that money back. What can I do?

Answer: This is not an uncommon problem.  If you can't convince your bank, the transfer agent, or the recipient, to reverse the transaction, then you would have to sue the recipient for something like unjust enrichment (you could subpoena your bank and the transfer agent for information about the recipient, like their name, address, and SSN).Answer #2: What method of transfer did you use and what do its terms say? Some money services may allow you to dispute the transaction as long as you do it ASAP.


Title: School forcing students to pay

Question:
To start off. Sorry for the formatting, I’m on mobile. Don’t know how to start, so I guess I’ll just jump in.

Recently I was informed that I had to pay an activity pass to get into sports games, or to do extracurricular activities. I would be completely fine with this if I wanted to do such things.

A little background for what I’m about to say. My instructor forces us to come to all football, basketball, and volleyball games to sing the national anthem. If you don’t show, you fail. Pretty simple.

I was told when I went into a game to sing and then leave, that I couldn’t complete my grade, and that I couldn’t sing due to me not paying the school money to get in.

I was wondering if it is legal for an institution to force students to pay a ($125) fee to complete a class. The expense isn’t covered in any information about the class. Mind you this is a high-school in Montana. So I don’t know if that changes anything. I just want to pass and not give money while I’m forced to be at the location they try to make me pay to get into.

Tl;dr My school is forcing students to pay to get a grade.
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 Is this a public school?  Is this a required class?  If yes to both, it's blatantly and hideously illegal.

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If this is an extracurricular activity, IIRC, it's not.Answer #2: What class are you taking that they're requiring you to sing the national anthem at events? Answer #3: If it's a public school reach out to the county school board or show up to one of their meetings to raise the issue. I doubt you're the only student affected negatively by this failure to pay for your grade.Answer #4: As someone who regularly is required to go to school games,  I've never had to pay when I explain I'm with the school's yearbook.  I would go talk with your principal,  and if that doesn't solve it,  go to the superintendent.


Title: [NYC] Current Alimony Payer - marriage has been over for years. I just received an amazing job. Will I still pay what I did last year?

Question:
I was ordered to pay several years of alimony three years ago. It was calculated using a formula for the state of New York and ended up being close to 40% of my income (my $40k at the time vs my wife's $0). Well, now at the end of this year I'll have made $180k.

When they see my taxes for the year will alimony be changed? I was never making more than $40k during the marriage - but I've heard it will increase if my income goes up yet stay the same if my income goes down? This can't be true, can it?

Answer:
 It depends on what exactly were the terms of the divorce, but if the alimony payment is wage based, changing the wage will impact your alimony payment.

Look at the bright side though - even if the alimony increases, you will still keep way more money from the new job.

Good luck.Answer #2: How is it written?  My husband also pays alimony to his ex-wife, and despite taking a new job with a huge pay cut, he still owes.  He made $280K in NYC, ex-wife stayed home.  Now we live in a smaller west coast town and he only makes 90K.  100% of his paycheck goes to alimony, which is insane to me, but that least there's an end date in sight next year, and I work.

If any new negotiating is done, be sure to ask your attorney about tax implications.  I think people with alimony already are grandfathered in to having it be pre-tax, with the recipient paying taxes.  It would be an ugly surprise to have that change.


Title: (OH) Landlord claiming over $600 in damages and $1700 in cleaning

Question:
Hey everyone, I'm having some issues with my old landlord. I moved out of my rented house about a month ago and my landlord is saying we owe him an extra $300-some on top of our $2000 security deposit. I have a lot I could say here, but I'll try to keep it somewhat brief.

Here are the basic facts:

- Signed two one-year leases for the property

- First lease had a $2000 security deposit and was between myself and 3 friends

- Second lease had a $1500 security deposit and was between myself and my wife

- Landlord didn't do a walk through or return the security deposit after the first lease ended

- There were some damages done during that first lease, none during the second

When my wife and I moved out, we left the house in good shape. It wasn't perfect, but we spent a lot of time and effort cleaning. We expected to be charged for the damages from the first lease and a couple hundred for cleaning that we missed. I want to make it clear that although we expected some charge for cleaning, we did leave the place clean.

What we weren't expecting was a $1700 charge for cleaning.

The landlord claimed that he had to do 76 hours of cleaning after we left at $30/hour. He gave us "discounts" on everything he charged us for, including only billing us for like 56ish hours of cleaning. Most of the things he says he had to do were done by us before leaving.

Unfortunately, we didn't take pictures before moving out. I know it's stupid, but I trust people too much and didn't anticipate any issues this severe. I asked him if he could send me pictures. He said he didn't have any either, but he could take me to the house (per the new residents permission) to show me the damage. Although there were a couple damages he claimed against me that I have issues with, the cleaning fee is my big issue.

So, I have a couple questions regarding my situation:

1) Does the responsibility to prove that charges are/are not warranted fall on the landlord or the tenant?

2) I know it's illegal in some states, but can a landlord in Ohio deduct money from a security deposit for routine carpet cleaning if the carpet was not dirty beyond normal use?

3) The landlord is claiming that we installed a fuse for the A/C backwards and is charging us to replace it. We don't even know where the fuse box is for the A/C (he just told me it was outside and not with the other fuses). Is there any way I can prove that we did not touch this?

4) I understand that in Ohio, a landlord must either return the security deposit or supply a written list of charges within 30 days of the end of the lease. Since he never did this for the first lease, does it roll over into the second lease, or will that be returned? If it is returned, is it possible that my wife and I are charged the full amount for damages done during both leases?

5) If we decide to sue, will we have to file two suits, one for each lease? In either situation, do all five of us have to be present to do this?

Thank you all for any help. Please let me know if I was unclear about any of this.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: 76 hours for cleaning? Ya that's bullshit, ask him for proof of the cleaning he did and the time each task took him.


Title: Help Please!!! Can CPS legally force me to take custody of a child that is not mine against my will?

Question:
My ex wife and I got married and no fault divorced earlier this year after about a month of marriage.We lived separate for awhile and decided to try to patch things up saying that we got married too fast. So I moved back in with her. She has a 5 year old son from a previous relationship whose father is currently incarcerated. She takes care of him well and attends to all of his needs.  She has a job and has been maintaining and paying all of her bills with little to no support from me. I've helped occasionally with a few bills here and there but she is functional without me. despite recently learning of her drug problem. She recently was stopped by police on the way to pick up her son from school and they detained her.  CPS  was called  to come pick up her child from school, because noone else was responding to come o pick up the child. well i got the text and the child and mother was released to me. The next day CPS came to her house and asked questions she was honest and said she had a problem and failed a drug screen. I was asked to come to an initimidating family planning meeting with CPS. where they told us our options were I would have to petition the court for custody or the state would take the child. They told her she had to leave her home and her child. They told her she could only have supervised visitation with me present. until treatment was completed/ I told CPS that i would take custody while she got her treatment. I signed the documents with CPS telling me that nothing was official until I officially petitioned the court for custody. We went to petition myself and her but discovered whats called temporary guardianship so we discussed this together and decided that was the best course of action so she could retain her rights as a parent while getting treatment. CPS called me and said that that was not what was agreed upon. I told CPS that the legal advice I was given was that petitioning the court for custody was making allegations that she is was an unfit mother and I would not do that, but I will take responsibility for her child while she is getting treatment and we agreed together she would leave the home until her treatment and recovery is complete. We both get calls yesterday from someone at court saying that a restraining order was placed on her from seeing her child and that i was goven custody. And that CPS has petitioned the court for me to take custody against my wishes. So I'm not sure what is happening? but apparently I am now a single parent? I have no idea. Soemone please give me some clarity on what is happening.

TL;DR I need answers regarding custody vs guardianship. CPS is backing me saying I'm fit for Custody, But will not back me saying I'm fit for guardianship. From my understanding a guardianship will protect her parental rights but me petitioning for custody would be me making an allegation that she is an unfir parent and deny her of her parental rights.

Answer: You need a lawyer that does cps and custody cases. Either that, or the kid goes into foster care.


Title: Did this Nurse break HIPAA? Friend needs help.

Question:
Hi,

My friend works for a Home/Heathcare service in Missouri. She is not a nurse, she is a caretaker. She really loves her job and is in a dilemma.

The company she works for is in contract with an elderly home service/compound that has several apartment complexes and services they provide to the senior tenants. This compound hired my friend's company for health services and home-care assistance.

The Nurse (#1) with the company took a photograph on her cellphone of a tenant/client's personal notes to her Doctor while she was in the apartment to set up medication. There was another Nurse (#2) in the room who noted the act. Nurse #2 claims the note of the elderly woman had Nurse #1 laughing for ten minutes while she sent the photo to friends or family. The note was very personal.

My friend was told about this incident by Nurse #2 as well as by another caretaker on a completely separate occasion.

Nurse #2 and my friend approached the owner of the company. The Owner downplayed the situation and is known to favor Nurse #1. Nurse #1 has been with Owner since their previous business, in which they share a lawsuit of breach of confidentiality. Owner assured both Nurse #2 and my friend that he would not mention their conversation or their involvement in coming to him.

Well, now my friend received an email from Nurse #1. It states that she did not reveal any of the personal information of the client and that my friend should have come to her, blah blah. Basically, the Owner completely told her about the complaint.

My friend feels between a rock and a hard place. Her company is not what she believed them to be nor do they uphold any of the values that she believed they held high.

She has thought about going to the elderly woman's family. She has also thought of going to the facility/compound that has the contract with her company and informing them of what happened. This could result in them dropping my friend's employer, and in turn, my friend.

Is there anything that comes to mind from this situation? She may lose her job if she wanted to resolve the issue by informing the family or the people that are contracted with her employers. Now that she knows the Owner sides with Nurse #1... what should she do?

I will also mention that Nurse #1 has been reported by several individuals, including my friend, for incorrectly supplying medicine and for forgetting to supply meds at all. The Owner has done nothing.

Is this a violation that my friend should pursue?

Thanks for any advice.

**TL;DR Nurse took photos of an elderly woman's note to her Doctor and sent them to friends. Her boss was told about the incident and did nothing. Friend needs to know if she should tell elderly woman's family, etc.**

Answer: If your friend thinks a violation has occurred, she can report it to the HHS Office of Civil Rights.  HIPAA doesn't create a private right of action and any state law privacy action would belong to the patient.


Title: Hosting a camping trip for minors, should I make the parents sign anything?

Question: I have decided to be nice to my sister (16) and offer to host a birthday camping trip for her and her friends. Her other brother (29) and I (28) would be the only adults there and we would be there for 4 days. I have discussed calling the parents and getting verbal permission over the phone for each kid. However yesterday my brother proposed a release form idea, with emergency contact information, similar to a permission slip for a field trip. I thought this was a great idea, but my sister is saying some of the parents won't sign it, and some of them don't care where there kid is and dont want to speak to me on the phone or in person. I am pretty sure she is lying to get friends to go without permission but I thought I would ask anyways. Do you think I am being to strict to make sure every kid has a release form signed by the parents with contact info? Would it be okay for me to call the contact numbers to verify that the kids have permission? I want to host a great trip, but I don't want to upset any parents. Thank you Reddit.

Answer:
 You really need permission from parents to take minors on an overnight camping trip. I would get it in writing

You could end up with some crazy parent calling the FBI for their “kidnapped” little darling.

Some kids are less than responsible and could forget to bring medicine, epi pens, etcAnswer #2: Well then those kids can't go. The liability for you is to high without permission and proof.Answer #3: Yeah, I wouldn’t trust your sister.  She’s at the age of stupid hijinks.  This sounds like a great way to get nailed for contributing to the delinquency of a minor; I’d recommend putting some rules on the form, like no drugs or alcohol.


Title: Is it illegal to take my car from a tow company and not pay the bill?

Question:
I’m from California and had my car towed by a tow company this weekend. A friend and I went to see a concert and wanted to avoid paying $30 for parking at the venue, so we parked at Del Taco across the street. I parked in a parking lot where there were “no parking” signs and got what I deserved. I believe that my car deserved to be towed and I should have expected nothing less.

The thing that gets my blood boiling is that the tow company charged me $387 to get my car back in the same night!!!

I am not the registered owner of the car. My dad bought it, and I use it as a student.

There was a point where the tow company had my keys while they brought my car out so I wouldn’t drive away. They brought the tow truck with my car out, unhitched the car, and left it in the street. I had an extra key for the car at the time and was strongly considering making a run for it and not pay the absurdly high towing bill.

Would this have been illegal?? Do the tow company’s have a right to hold my car for ransom and force me to pay a bill? Would I have broken the law if I ran? I want to know what my rights are in the future.

I know that I was illegally parked, but I believe that this insane bill was completely uncalled for. I would have loved to avoid paying it all together if I could have.

EDIT: As stated in the post, I am aware that it was illegal to park where I shouldn't have. I know I should have been towed (as said in the post). My problem is that $387 felt like extortion on behalf of the towing company. It's a scummy profession. I'm curious as to what legal power they truly have over my property. What would have made it illegal to take my own property, when left unattended on the street by the company? Maybe it wasn't clear, but I paid the fine and learned my lesson.

Answer:
 >I would have loved to avoid paying it all together if I could have.

Park legally next time.Answer #2: Yes.


Title: Credit Card fraud, in my name. Need advice

Question:
So a quick back story, my mother is Schizophrenic, during an episode she opened a Shell Gas Card and put me as a co-signer without my knowledge, and charged over 2000$ to the card. Recently I was contacted by a collection agency, so I talked to the credit card company and explained the situation, they sent me a document that let me state that I was claiming fraud.

I am not sure where to go from here, the card company said to file a report of fraud with the police, but this is my mother and I would hate to have her arrested. I am not even sure what documents are required to file a fraud report? Where can I go from here? I would appreciate any advice, I can supply more information if needed.

Answer:
 Your mother stole more than $2,000 from you. You can either say that she stole the money or not, but you can't have it both ways.

Look at it from the credit card company's perspective. If they simply let people write off thousands of dollars of charges without involving the police, then everyone would claim all sorts of fraudulent charges.


Title: Is it legal for me to get fired and denied unemployment because I refused to make a "mandatory" donation to charity? [TX]

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 Appeal the unemployment denial. Your employer might have lied as to the reason you were fired. There will be a hearing when you can make your case and they will have to show proof of actual misconduct. Unless you're leaving something out, the decision will be reversed.

I'd also contact Amnesty International. I'm pretty sure they don't want people to be forced to give to them.Answer #2: You should appeal the denial.


Title: Cancel Gym membership contract states I need to be in person to cancel gym membership. I moved over 30miles away. Is there anything I can do to cancel without showing up in person?

Question:
CA. Crunch Gym. Contract says:

Termination Procedures:
Any request for Membership termination must be made in person at your Home Crunch Club. A Termination Form will need to be completed and authorised by you. Requests via phone, fax, email or other mediums may not be processed. All termination requests will be processed on the day of submission, however if this falls within 3 days of billing date, your termination will be processed the following business day after billing. All outstanding debt must be settled prior to Termination requests being actioned.

Seems cut and dry, but somehow this doesnt seem right. If i cannot show up in person, they will never cancel my membership?

Answer: Sounds like you're taking a short road trip.


Title: I took a dual enrollment high school class as a 17 year old, and the school's asking me to pay for it. Am I legally responsible for these debts? SC

Question: When I was 17, I decided to take dual enrollment classes at a local university. These were conducted at my high school. Due to a nasty separation, my parents are no longer able to be contacted, and the college is pursuing me for the full amount of tuition. Am i responsible for paying these debts off, or are my parents?

Answer:
 I'm confused here. How does your parents being separated impact the university contacting them?

Contact your school administrator \(high school\) and at the university and see what can be done. Why can't someone reach an adult? Don't you live at home with one of them?Answer #2: I did dual enrollment when I was in high school as well. From what I understand, since it’s a partnership between your school district or county (idk where you live) and the college, shouldn’t it be free? That’s how it was where I went. Maybe reach out to your high school and see if they know anything?Answer #3: In South Carolina I believe you have the ability at 17 to contract to borrow money for higher education. My take is that it's entirely possible that the school "loaned" you money and you used that money to take the higher education courses.

How much are they asking for?

ETA: relevant statute

>SECTION 63-5-320. Minor's capacity to borrow for higher education.

>Notwithstanding any other provisions of law to the contrary, any person who, not having attained his majority, contracts to borrow money to defray the expenses of attending any institution of higher learning, shall have full legal capacity to act in his own behalf and shall have all the rights, powers and privileges and be subject to the obligations of persons of full age with respect to any such contracts.


Title: After their acquittals why wasn’t OJ Simpson or Casey Anthony tried in federal court for murder under the dual sovereign doctrine?

Answer:
 Murder is typically not a federal crime - there has to be some particular connection to federal jurisdiction in order to make those trials possible.Answer #2: Under what federal charge?

The federal system and the state system(s) don't all cover the same conduct.  A matter can be a state crime and not a federal crime and vice versa.

"Murder" isn't a federal charge unless it occurs on federal property, involves a federal employee, or occurs in "interstate commerce".  Most murders don't qualify for that.


Title: Copyright advice for writers — can you mention car names, gun names, and use a line or two of lyrics in your novel?

Question:
* If I have a character with a Beretta, am I allowed to say "Beretta" or am I relegated to just "pistol"?
* If I have a character who drives a BMW i8, can I say "BMW i8" or am I going to have to be vague like, "he drove a coupe worth more than my house."
* Can I use two lines out of a real-world song to come on the radio in the background? *This is the dawning of the Age of Aquarius, Age of Aquarius,* etc.
* Can my characters "google it"?
* Can someone's favorite cereal be "Froot Loops" or will I get sued?

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In case it matters, I'm talking about self-publishing online (I'm physically in the US, but I feel like it's worth it to mention online publishing given that copyright laws vary by country and the lines get a little blurry when things are "online" I hear.)

Any and all advice is much appreciated!

Answer:
 You can name drop within fair use. Look at American Psycho - half of that novel is brand names.Answer #2: It's a murky and complicated subject, since there's a difference between "what am I allowed to do legally", "what will get me sued", and "what will get me sued but I'd win the case in the end if I could afford enough lawyers".

You can generally mention brand names as long as you do so correctly (spell it right!) and you don't "bring the brand into disrepute". This is not likely to be a big problem with a random online story, but it can be an issue if you were making a movie that strongly associated a family-friendly brand with a serial killer.

Quoting lyrics in fiction does not fall under fair use (it would if you were writing essays analysing those lyrics). You need permission. Sometimes the copyright holders will be "yeah, sure, whatever" about it, sometimes they can demand surprisingly high fees for just a few words.


Title: Caught having interaction with landlord's wife and was kicked out of house. Is this legal

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 > This definitely seems like an illegal eviction, should I wait for him to calm down and perhaps I can continue living there?

LOL. Yes, it's an illegal eviction, but dude, you banged his wife. You're lucky he didn't introduce your face to some nearby concrete. Under no circumstances should you try to continue living there. You can sue him for the illegal eviction if you'd like, but don't be surprised if that blows up in your face too.

> Can i call the police for assault?

Sure! Don't be surprised if the cops laugh at you though.

> I really enjoyed the company of the landlord and his wife.

LOL, yea I'll bet.


Title: NC: Me and my wife are about to separate, if I remove her from my insurance after the separation is official, will I be liable for any medical debt she incurs?

Question:
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Topic:
Insurance

Answer:
 Don't change anything until a court okays it. And an affair does not automatically bar alimony. Answer #2: You can't remove her until either open enrollment or actual divorce. Separation is not a qualifying event.

Removing her at open enrollment because you want to may piss off the judge, which you do not want. Be conservative. Leave it alone absent an order or the final decree.


Title: [MI]Is it legal for a towing company to keep my license plate? Not the car, but the plate itself

Question:
I was involved in a traffic accident in Livonia, MI, in early December and the car was towed from the scene by a company called by the police.  There was a lien on the title of the car, so we could not immediately sign the car over.  The bill has been paid for the lien but we haven't received a release of lien yet.

All I want is the license plate to transfer to a new vehicle that we purchased, not the car itself.  I still fully intend to pay the towing and storage fees and we informed the towing company the day-of the accident about the lien and why it would take longer.

The towing company (Livonia Towing Co. on 12955 Levan) refuses to allow me to retrieve the plate until the bill is paid in full.  They have been very confrontational and the lady who picks up the phone is very quick to anger and is threatening to file the vehicle away as abandoned after 2 weeks.

I want to know if it is legal for them to hold the license plate (being that it is attached to the car), which is ready to be transferred to the new vehicle, without me having already paid their fees.  I'm not sure if the license plate is owned by me or the State, either.  The tags are still current.

The towing fees are $85 initially and $15/day following for storage, so it's almost $600 at this point.  As I mentioned, we have no intention of not paying their fees, but getting the license plate back would save us a great deal of time and money over registering a new car.

**Edit:  Thank you all for your responses.  Thanks /u/gratty for telling me about the possessory lien.  I didn't realize how far it would extend.  I consider the matter resolved.**

Answer:
 > I want to know if it is legal for them to hold the license plate (being that it is attached to the car), which is ready to be transferred to the new vehicle, without me having already paid their fees. I'm not sure if the license plate is owned by me or the State, either.

The license plate belongs to the registered owner of the car, not the state.
The towing lot can hold the plate (and the car) until its bill is paid. This is called a possessory lien.


Title: [NYC] I'm terrified and in a lot of trouble. Please help.

Question:
This is a question about New York City laws.

So I was in Grand Central Station in the restroom at the urinals. A cute guy sidles up to the urinal next to me and starts smiling at me. I'm in a hurry to get home but I smile back. He then shows me his junk, and , I don't know, I sort of winked at him. Next thing I know I'm being arrested and brought into custody. I'm held in a cell for 6 hours and told that if I plead guilty, because it's my first offence, the whole incident would be downgraded to a violation in court and it wouldn't appear on my record. I never really exposed myself to the guy, but if I plead not guilty they would have held me overnight and I would have been outed to my family. Will this come out in the news? Will my family find out? Will they really downgrade my class B misdemeanor? (PL 245.00)

Please, if there's anyone out there with advice please help me. I'm close to a nervous breakdown.

Answer:
 Don't plead guilty to anything without talking to an attorney. The police don't decide if your charge gets downgraded.

If you're telling the story how it really happened I don't see what law you broke. You would naturally have your penis at least partially exposed if you were using the urinal for its intended purpose, and it's not illegal to smile/wink at somebody. Was the guy who exposed himself to you an undercover officer? I find that very hard to believe. Are you leaving some details out of your story?

As to your outing issues and how to deal with that if it happens, I'm sure there is another sub that can help you.


Title: Credit card info stolen and used to order Domino's delivery; Domino's emails me receipt with delivery name, number, and address

Question:
Hi people.

I got an email for a Domino's order that I didn't place.  I called Domino's and they refunded my money.  I called the bank, and they change the card number and mailing me the new one soon.  No other fraudulent charges as far as I can tell right now.

Here's the thing: the Domino's email receipt has the person's first name, last initial, delivery address, and phone number.  The credit card company suggested I file police report.  I will do that first thing tomorrow morning.  Any other suggestions?

Answer: Report it to the cops. They should, presumably, be able to find them


Title: I'm being harassed by an ex-roommate and his family. His mom just stopped by my family's house unannounced.

Question:
(Washington State, USA)

This is quite a long story, but to sum it up, I was in a one-sided romantic relationship with a friend (he didn't return the feelings but took advantage of me): let's call him George. I was emotionally abused by him for a few years as we lived together, and I decided to move out last May. I informed him that I was cutting communication with him in August.

Background: George and I met in our hometown, and we moved in together after a year (Summer 2013), to a different city for university. He didn't want a relationship with me, so I started seeing other people and he had an adverse psychological reaction, rendering him useless in university for the 2015 year. He graduated, with my help.

Now: George remains unemployed since summer of 2015, and blames me for his troubles. I tried to support him (I cooked, cleaned, paid for all groceries and the full rent), but had to move out May 2016 because it was stressful - impacting my career and home life. Unfortunately, because I'm on the same lease for the place George is staying at, and because he's unemployed, I've been paying for both mine and his rent. I tried talking to the property manager, and they told me I was stuck with the bill unless I wanted an eviction on my record, or if I could convince George to sign me off the lease and replace me with someone who could pay.

George's lease is up in May 2017 (this coming May), and he still is unemployed. He's been sending me e-mails since September. As of today, there have been approximately 14 e-mails, totaling up to ~15,000 words, where he reminisces on our time together, blames me for his downfall, says mean things to me, etc. He also begs to see me. I had been trying to ignore the e-mails, but they kept coming, so I had asked him to stop. This past weekend, he sends me another long, long e-mail, this one being angry that 'I did this'.

I responded back, telling him to stop contacting me, or else I will take legal action.

That's the part with George. Now, in September, I got mystery harassment texts from someone who wouldn't identify themselves. I called that number and the voicemail message indicated that the number belonged to someone who shares the same name as George's sister. I blocked that number.

George's mom texted me in September as well - the text was unintelligible and unfriendly. I blocked her. She attempted to contact me on Google Hangouts, but I immediately blocked her.

Today, she showed up at my family's front door, repeatedly demanding to see my dad, and claiming that I am supposed to return her furniture.

She tells my mom that she doesn't have a cellphone, but takes down my dad's number. She told my mom she would return. Not even an hour later, she calls him and tells him that her and I made an agreement that I would give the furniture back when I graduated.

The furniture she's referring to is a couch, a bed, a speaker set, a table, and a dresser. When George and I moved in 2013, George's mom drove us there, paid for the hotel room, and bought groceries for George. I offered to pay for the hotel room, and paid for my own groceries. She gave the furniture in question directly to George. The speaker set was already his. The bed was already his.

In September 2014, she texted me, demanding that I make George pay her back for a laundry list of things that I had no involvement or awareness of (nothing to do with furniture). I thanked her for her hospitality in the past, but I was not a messenger between her and her son, and that any expenditure on me was offered to be paid by me, but declined. She told me to think twice about what I was suggesting, and threatened a lawyer. I have all of this in text.

In May 2016, when I moved out, George told me to take the couch and the table, because he didn't want them - thought they were old, beaten up, and didn't match the apartment he was in. The bed he had me take, because it was full-size, and he took my queen-size bed instead. The speaker set was his, and he had me sell it. I have an old craigslist ad as proof that I attempted to sell it in the past, when we lived together.

I have never made any agreement with George's mom regarding anything, and the entire time George has been sending me e-mails, he has not once mentioned any furniture or asked for it back.

I have most of my text correspondence with George's mom saved on my computer (2014-2015). Nothing about furniture. Just the disturbing lawyer threat for George's stuff. I am very bothered and scared that George's mom went and visited my family. My elderly grandparents live there, and George's mom has had a history of drug abuse and a stroke. I don't feel like she is mentally well. The only reason she knows where they live is because she picked me up from there once, back in a slightly simpler time. I've never shared an address, but the location is easy to find due to the surrounding buildings (my city is not very busy).

My dad doesn't think that returning the belongings will make her stop, and that it's something more than a concern about possessions. My mom wants me to wash my hands clean of this by returning the furniture. She offered to drive to me to help return the things. I live ~300 miles away, and have no car of my own. Plus, I'm fairly low on cash due to paying two rents every month.

I'm planning on following the process for filing restraining orders against George, his sister, and his mom. What steps do I need to take to protect myself and my family against these people?

I am planning on sending George an e-mail, politely asking him to urge his mother and family from any future communication, or else I will escalate legal action. I want to also attach the text messages between me and his mom.

Should I send a cease & desist to her for harassment? I don't want to involve my family or make them go through any processes (they don't have any money, either).

Thanks for your help. Please let me know if I left something out that the guidelines need, or if you need more information! I really appreciate someone reading all of this. It's very stressful.

Answer:
 You will not be able to control whether his mom approaches your parents, so they should consider getting a restraining order themselves if she continues to show up at their place, or threatens them. They should contact the police if she comes onto their property.

You can send her a letter telling her to stop contacting you or anyone in your family, but do it before getting a restraining order, if one is granted. Your letter should mention that the issue about the furniture is one that is solely between her and her son, and that you are not a party to that disagreement/issue.

Sending a letter to him will likely be fruitless, as he too has no control over his mom's actions, but it could serve as a record of your dispute.


Title: (MI) I accidentally enrolled in Medicaid and can’t seem to cancel

Question:
I left my job in mid-June due to a move across the country. I already had a new job lined up with a mid-July start date, so I had a month of no health insurance.

I didn’t know what cobra was at the time, but i have some minor health issues so didn’t want that gap so was looking for something temporary. I’d never used the Marketplace before but knew there was an open enrollment period, so I created an account there wanting to look at options (I now understand that that wasn’t the right way to do it and I should’ve used cobra or a temporary insurance plan).

On the Marketplace info, I guess I listed no income since at the time that was my income, and it enrolled me in Medicaid. I am single making almost $100k/yr in both my past and new job, plus I had/have employer coverage, so I definitely don’t qualify for Medicaid.

Now I’ve gotten all these enrollment letters and noticed in the mail. I’ve called the number for my case manager but they have a voicemail saying they’re out all month! I’ve called the 800 number for enrollment stuff and they said only your case manager can cancel you.

Will I be legally in trouble for enrolling in Medicaid when not eligible?

Answer:
 NAL but used to be an assister in the Marketplace.

You have clearly made good faith efforts to update the situation. This is in your favor.

It would help to know what state you are in, as each state has their own rules. (I was an Assister in Maryland but looking up the rules isn’t terribly hard.)Answer #2: NAL but I doubt it. Just don’t use it and in a month try to call back.Answer #3: Basically did the same as you once, just don't use it. Call the case manager late and sort it out. If a college educated person can accidentally enroll, it says something about how they function.Answer #4: Maybe write a snail mail letter explaining the situation and keep a copy.


Title: Am I [19M] allowed to have sex with a [17F]

Question:
My girlfriend wants to have sex, but before we proceed I wanna make sure everything is legal and fine.

We’re in Georgia by the way.

Also is it ok for me to socilict nudes from her?

Answer:
 Age of consent in Georgia is 16, so it's legal for you to have sex with her.

Do NOT solicit nudes from her.  In fact, make sure she knows not to send you any sexual images or video until she turns 18, even if she isn't nude in it.  That could be considered child porn.


Title: Gunshots have been fired at a bar in front of my house for the third time.

Question:
Hello,

I live in Des Moines, Ia and there's this bar that established in front of my house about a year or two ago. At first, the bar wasn't much of a problem, they were pretty quiet, but now but they started to get more attention drawn to themselves. Bike Gangs ride over and rev their engines as loud as they can around 12am - 2am as well as ride up and down the street is a very noisy manner.

There have also been three moments at this bar was gunshots have been fired. The first one wasn't reported, just two gunshots that woke me up and all i saw were two cars driving off. The second time was more serious, two people were injured and were sent to the hospital (I'll try finding the article), and the third one just happened last night (September 2, 2016 around 2am).

This makes it very hard for my family, and I'm sure the other families around the bar, to sleep at night and feel safe anymore.

I want this bar out of here, I'm sure the other houses around the bar would like that too because this has gotten way out of hand. Is there any way I can legally get this bar out of here?

Edit: I should also note that there's an elementary school not even 200 feet from the bar, I'm sure I can even get the support from the teachers at that school as well.
Topic:
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Answer: Contact your city council and the liquor boardAnswer #2: Might be able to interest an attorney in filing a nuisance suit.


Title: Officer lied about our conversation on the statement section of my speeding ticket.

Question:
So I'm a CT driver who just got a ticket for speeding in NY.

It was about 8:50 in the morning and I was on my way to a doctor's appointment. Driving on a state interstate (65mph zone) with very few other cars on the road. Was in the left hand lane maintaining distance behind another car. I wasn't exactly laser focused on my dashboard but I'm pretty sure I was going around 78-80mph. Speeding yes, but nothing crazy for a super wide 6 lane highway that was almost deserted.

We pass a speed trap and my stomach drops. I look in my rearview and pray that I'm not the one who's gonna get pulled over and move into the middle lane and start doing 65 on the dot. He starts tailgating me for about 150-200 yards then pulls me over. Says he clocked me on the radar gun at 91. I think that number is a bit much for a few reasons. Firstly I've never gotten a speeding ticket because I don't usually speed. I know I was probably going 15 over but I was moving with the speed of traffic. Secondly, I have a more than 10 year-old Honda compact car. If I want to get to 91 mph in that thing I would basically have to put my foot all the way down for 10-plus seconds just to get from 75>90. And I'm 100% sure I didn't do that.

So the officer pulls me over and asks if I know how fast I was going. Like an idiot I say "I'm not sure officer maybe 8-10mph over sir but I can't be sure". Should have just kept my mouth shut. So he gives me the ticket yadda yadda and as I'm looking at the officer statement it says exactly. "Driver admitted to going at least 75 mph"

I know I should have just kept my mouth shut when he asked me about my speed but I thought that maybe if I was nice and polite he would let me off with a warning. But I under no circumstances confirmed that I was going 75mph.

I plan on showing up in court to fight it. I would really like to at least get it hopefully dismissed or at least changed to a non-moving violation so my insurance doesn't shoot up through the roof. But I'm afraid that if I fight it in court the judge is gonna read the statement saying I admitted to going 75 and say "well you already admitted to being 10 over the limit"

My friend is a newly minted lawyer and says that I should cross examine the cop and that he would coach me through which questions to ask. Seems tempting and he says it's not too hard but I have no idea if that's a prudent course of action.

Any advice for my situation?

Answer:
 So he clocks you at 91, you think you were "probably" doing 80, and you're upset that he says you admitted to at least 75?  When you really only admitted to 73-75?

There's not really any fighting this.  You were speeding.  They can prove it even without your admission.


Title: My mom has epilepsy. Her meditation colleagues says that she doesn't have it. Is it possible to sue them? I have a video of that.

Question:
My mom has been suffering more frequently from epilepsy after she started to practice Falun Dafa. This cult encourage her that what she has is not epilepsy. It's been 15 years of struggle.
She is staying with me in Canada for 6 months, here she meet this group of practice that reinforced again that what she has is not epilepsy, and she believes and stop taking her medicine. Yesterday was 4 seizures already.
This morning I filmed a talking with one of the leaders of this group and I have on video his declaration that he believes that what she has is not epilepsy.
Can I sue him? What is the path to follow?
Thanks
Topic:
Medicine and Malpractice

Answer:
 You can't sue someone else because your mother is choosing to believe nonsense.Answer #2: I don't see what you would sue over. I could say you don't have seasonal allergies even if you do, but that's not something to sue over.Answer #3: Sounds like she is voluntarily not taking her own medication.

I'm not sure who you expect to sue here?Answer #4: Nothing to sue over since your mom is choosing to believe them.


Title: Boss is Forcing me to go 1099

Question:
I apologize beforehand for this great wall of text. There are nuances to this story and I am moderately day drunk on  boxed wine while I deal with this.

I originally posted this in r/personalfinace as it was originally a question about how a 1099 could work for me.

Long story short: I work for a friend of mine, have done so for 8 years. I have always worked from home. I lived in NY for 5 years or so, moved to OK for 2 years or so, and moved back to NY last year. I am an operations manager for his business. There is one other employee who is technically a virtual assistant that lives out of the country. She is very good at her job. We are an agency for a larger corporate entity. A third part brokerage if you will.

He recently asked me to go to a 1099. I looked into it and it would not behoove me to do this unless there was a commensurate pay raise to make up for what I will pay into taxes and the  like.  I would not be able to work for anyone else, which of course makes me definitely "not an independent contractor."

I spoke to my accountant and after that discussion, I realized this would really not work for me unless I could bill him 15-20% more than what I was making now. I mentioned all the taxes and fees I would have to pay as an IC, and said he would have to pay me more to make up the difference.

He went OFF. He refused to pay me more (again, him deciding the pay scale effectively makes me NOT an independent contractor). He is threatening to fire me, as I asked him several times if he knew what asking this of me would mean on my end. He claims his CPA told him it would benefit me (he lives in FL). This clearly only benefits him without any commensurate bump in pay on my end.

It should serve to mention that we have been friends for \~20 years.

He has not fired me yet, but is intimating he is about to. I feel he is hesitant to do so because of unemployment fees. He is asking for my drivers license as " im required by law to have an updated drivers license for tax purposes and by refusing my request i can’t update payroll." I told him I am not working today as I do not feel well (while I process what is happening), and he said he requires a doctors note. I do not believe there is an employee handbook or policy in place for this.

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I do not know why he wants my license and all of this just seems really off to me. Any thoughts or direction would be greatly appreciated.

BTW Bota Box is a great bargain.

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[https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/ajeomi/update\_boss\_is\_forcing\_me\_to\_go\_1099/](https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/ajeomi/update_boss_is_forcing_me_to_go_1099/)

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Answer:
 OP- It sounds like it's time to get your resume updated and start the job search. You can't be forced to become a 1099 contractor, but your boss also isn't forced to continue to employ you. Asking for a substantial hourly pay increase when being asked to go 1099 is completely reasonable (I'd even suggest you asked for too little), and his petty response tells me that you should start job searching. Even if he doesn't let you go, your relationship maybe damaged.Answer #2: A CPA did not tell him to abruptly make you a contractor. That’s not how contractor classification works.

If fired file for unemployment and look for a new job. Start looking anyway; messing with payroll like this is a red flag Answer #3: >I realized this would really not work for me unless I could bill him 15-20% more than what I was making now.

50% is more typical.

This sounds like a bad situation, and forces you to choose between friendship and employment.  I would find another job.


Title: Woman calling business about an employee of ours stealing an SSN

Question:
Let's start this story at the beginning.
I work for a small company that has less than 6 employees. I am the receptionist/office assistant.

On Tuesday, I got a call at the business that was from the Indiana SSN office. They claimed that one of our employee's has been using a SSN that belongs to someone in Indiana. Now this man has the the physical SSN card and a Florida driver's license (where we are located) and his I-9 and w-4 all have this same number. The lady from the Indiana SSN office asked me what to do to release his information. I had no idea and I was the only one in the office at the time.

She, for some reason, gave our business number to the man who's SSN was apparently stolen. His Aunt called because he apparently does not speak English. She told me she was trying to get proof that he worked here because her nephew was attempting to get benefits in Indiana because he is disabled (MS) and that they denied him because apparently his SSN is showing him as working in Florida but living in Indiana.  She explained that she was trying to get these documents because she the police told her that in order to file a report SHE had to get these documents. That sounded odd to me so I told her I would look into it and call her back.

I went to my boss after this and he was completely confused as well. He had no idea what to do. He spoke to the employee that has been accused and the employee's response was "How the heck can I steal my own SSN?" We gave him the number for the Indiana SSN office and instructed him to call them to figure it out.

Well, today I got a call from the Aunt again. She was attempting to push me to give out this information on my employee but I told her that I'd have to speak to the owner and would figure it out from there. My boss is still at a loss to figure this out since the woman doesn't make much sense and seems to be very (understandably) emotional.

I did a little bit of research but really found nothing to help me out. I found that in TX there is no law against giving out that information but I still don't really trust that. What information do I give her, if any at all? or who do I insist I speak to so that these documents can be given legally?

I'm completely confused as to what to do.

Answer:
 You need to speak to whoever is above you about this. Don't handle this yourself. You could put yourself and the company in a potentially bad position by giving information you shouldn't. Tell your supervisor and keep your hands off this. Answer #2: Do not give out personal information about any of your employees.  Your employee doesn't need to contact the Indiana SSA office -- he should, however, contact his local SSA office to ask them to confirm that his number is, well, his number.  It's conceivable that somebody in the SSA screwed up along the way.

There are, however, more likely scenarios:

(1)  The Indiana guy is wrong about what his SSN is.
(2)  The Indiana guy doesn't actually have an SSN and has been using yours fraudulently.
(3)  When your company reported FICA earnings to the government, it made a mistake about your employee's SSN.
Answer #3: I'm no expert, but this sounds to me like an organized scam for identity theft.  Did you do anything to confirm the caller was actually from the Indiana SSN office?Answer #4: IF there are 2 people with the same SSN, there are steps to take to fix this.  As it is, not your monkeys, not your circus.  The holders of the SSNs are the ones to work it out.  NOT YOU.  Why is the aunt calling the employer instead of the other guy?  NOT YOUR PROBLEM.  NO INFO TO THEM!


Title: Maine state law says I need writen parent convent to get married. Does that mean just a note signed by my mom?

Question: does it have to be both parents and does it have to be some official form or can my mom just write a note to the town office with a signature?

Answer: How old are you?Answer #2: Your best bet is to contact the department that issues marriage licenses. Perhaps they have a form, or perhaps your parents (or one of them) needs to come in person. The requirement for consent can be implemented a number of different ways.