Title: Dealing with vandalism

Question: Hello, for the past few weeks someone has been tping my property. I overheard that he was going to throw eggs and rocks at my house this Halloween. I understand I can call the police, but the wont do anything to juvenile My question is, can I use non-deadly force to get him to stop if it does occur? And if so, is there a chance I can get in trouble for doing it? Any advice is welcomed, thanks for your time.

Answer:
 > My question is, can I use non-deadly force to get him to stop if it does occur?

No.  You can use force on someone only if they're threatening you with harm.  Not your property.  What you can do is call the cops.  Take photos if you think they'll run.

Are you a minor as well?


Title: With all this news about Ferguson and Police brutality, what are some guidelines I should follow when facing a hostile cop?

Question: in America

Answer: Jesus Christ... enough with the "hot topic of the week" questions. Last week it was Comcast, this week its Ferguson. Stop believing everything you see on TV and go get a job or something. You're probably never going to run into a ["hostile" cop](http://media.boingboing.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/TAPATIO-PEPPER-SPRAY-1000z.jpg) unless you're a ["hostile" dumbass](http://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2e53zw/with_all_this_news_about_ferguson_and_police/cjw5833).


Title: Brother is POA for Dad and is letting Dad's house go into foreclosure. Is there anything I can do to stop this? (CA)

Question:
Throwaway account - I created it a long time ago to ask a question but never ended up using it until now.

This is in California

My father has end-stage dementia and has been incapacitated on life support for about 4 years. I used to be his power of attorney (POA) but for the past 4 years my brother has been POA. My brother refuses to talk to me. More info on that further down in case it's needed.

My dad has a house that is rented out. The rent is supposed to pay the mortgage and when I was POA it did. I've become aware that my brother hasn't been paying the mortgage for several months, maybe even a year at this point. I've tried to ask him about it over email with no response (he refuses to talk to me about anything). I've asked my sister to talk to him and he told her that he paid it, which I know is a lie.

Now the mortgage has been sold to a different loan servicer and it still isn't being paid.

I think my brother is trying to put the house into foreclosure. I believe this because years ago when my dad first got sick and we were having trouble paying the mortgage, my brother's solution was to let the house foreclose.  Somehow he thought that would be financially beneficial for us and wouldn't result in us losing the house. My sister and I thought this was ridiculous and we refinanced the mortgage so my dad's rental income could pay it, against my brother's wishes.

Question:

Are there any legal options to require my brother to pay my dad's mortgage? Or other legal options to prevent us from losing the house?

Here is some additional info that may be helpful:

Four years ago my siblings and I disagreed about whether my dad should be allowed to die or be kept alive indefinitely by life support. I was in favor of letting him go and they wanted him to be on life support. His written advance healthcare directives as well as what he had told me verbally in the past indicated that he did not want to be on life support.

The POA document was written in such a way where my siblings and I were all listed as POA but in a particular order - I was listed last. So if my sister declined to act then POA would go to my brother and if he declined to act then it went to me. Basically when they disagreed with me my brother just revoked his declination to act in writing, put my dad on life support, and has been POA ever since.

My brother has refused to speak to me ever since I married someone he doesn't like a couple years ago. He won't even respond to my emails with questions about our dad.

As a sidenote, I've looked into the possibility of taking my brother to court to become my dad's conservator, but I've been told by a lawyer that it would be very expensive and I would probably be unlikely to win medical conservatorship due to the fact that judges are not usually willing to grant conservatorship to someone who wants to take a patient off life support when not everyone in the family is in agreement about that. I wouldn't want to be only the financial conservator because I wouldn't be willing to pay for my dad's current medical treatment which I believe is causing him suffering. Plus my brother doesn't talk to me so it would be nearby impossible to be financial conservator while he was medical POA.

TLDR:
My brother is acting POA for my dad who is incapacitated and on life support. My brother hasn't paid my dad's mortgage in a long time and I believe he is trying to put the house into foreclose. Is there anything I can do legally to prevent my dad from losing the house?

Answer:
 POA just means your brother *may* act on your dad's behalf. It is not like a conservatorship where he is responsible for your dads finances. If your dad is not capable of handling his own affairs, someone needs to file for conservatorship. You should talk to a local estate planning/probate attorney.Answer #2: People with POAs - called agents or attorneys-in-fact - must act in the best interest of their assigners.  If your brother has the capacity to make the mortgage payments but isn't then it's *possible* you can have his status as a POA revoked based on your position as an interested party.

But if the house is in foreclosure then things are moving fast and you have to act fast.  Consult with an estate attorney.

NAL


Title: Car dealership kinda scammed me?

Question:
Hey there /r/legaladvice!

So I bought a car from a local Subaru dealership in Roseville, California. Originally while shopping around, I saw an older model (2006, not old, but not new compared to the rest of the lot) that I fell in love with. I asked the salesperson about it, and he said that an associate of his was closing the deal on it, but if we rushed, we could get it instead. He encouraged us to go that route, as they were going to sell that couple another car that they were looking at anyway. So we bought the car, everything was going alright. A day later while on the freeway I start smelling a burnt smell. I go to a mechanic the next day to find that there is oil spilling. I go back to the dealership, who looks it over and finds the same thing, even after the mechanic I went to "fixed" it. They told me not to worry, and it was fine. Then, my steering was bad. The wheel kept shaking, called dealership, they said nothing was wrong. I insisted something was, I brought it to them, an hour later everything was good. Until now, when I started smelling oil again. I go back before a road trip and ask if everything is fine before my trip, and now my head gasket is leaking fluid into an area that had been leaking oil from the beginning, and continued to leak since they "fixed" it. They're asking $1600 to fix it, and as a college kid, the original $7000 I paid (which was over bluebook) was too much. Can I do anything?

Answer:
 You were rushed to buy a 10 year old car because "somebody else was about to get it" (that was a lie) and didn't have it inspected. Its problems became your problems as soon as you signed that paperwork. Live and learn.Answer #2: You don't post where you're located, so this is general advice.

In most states, used cars are sold "as-is".  That means that you take responsibility for the vehicle the second it's sold to you, and if it's broken then, too bad.  Your only recourse would be if you can prove that they made a **specific** improper statement, like "Oh, we just replaced the engine" or something like that.


Title: [UPDATE] Please help me. Adult Protective Services might be taking my brother.

Question:
Previous post is [HERE.](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8dk536/please_help_me_adult_protective_services_might_be/) Location is New Orleans, Louisiana.

The hospital called my grandmother today while I was at work. They told her that due to her "behavior" she is now banned from seeing my brother, and if she attempts to visit him the police will be called and she will be arrested.

Her "behavior" included saying "this is ridiculous" because of the previously mentioned attempt to put him into foster care, and saying, "What, so you all can just take people's children like that?" She didn't raise her voice, or yell, or cause a scene...what she *did* do was write down anything and everything that's been said to her and the person's name that said it. She had been doing that for the past 2 weeks, but they didn't like it one bit.

Her attorney says she'll just have to wait until it goes to court, but honestly that doesn't sit right with me. Is there anything I can do, or is her attorney correct?

Sorry for the additional post so soon. I'm just really stressed out over this.

Answer: Her attorney is correct.  You need to let this go through the legal system now.  Answer #2: Her attorney is correct. Her comments are understandable, but not helpful. Hopefully her attorney will review her notes thoroughly. Good luck.


Title: I (f15) made the mistake of sending nudes in a past casual relationship and they’re supposedly being distributed to his (m15) friends. If I were to report it what could I face legally?

Question:
I got this text from a guy I haven’t talked to in a long time yesterday, we’ll call him B and he told me that he had just seen my nudes. There’s only one person in the school that I ever sent them to (it was awhile ago and such a stupid mistake that he convinced me to do). Of course I immediately ask A, the guy I gave them to what’s going on because he is friends with B. A is adamant that he would never do that and that I should stop worrying about it, he supposedly never saved them and got a new phone anyway. I technically have no proof that B even saw my nudes, it’s just his word over A’s but it seems too fitting. It’s possible that A could’ve shown them to someone else who then showed them to B, I have no idea how many people could be in on this. I’ve mentioned how much trouble they could get in but neither care since they’re both troublemakers already. I’m terrified to go to my parents or any adult about this because its illegal and I’d get in so much trouble. I have a 3.9 GPA and this could go on my record and ruin anything if anyone finds out. I’ve been having panic attacks all night and have no idea how to focus on anything but this? Does anyone have any ideas? If I were to report it what kind of legal stuff would I go through.  I live in New Hampshire and as far as I can see I will be help accountable for possession of child porn as well as him and could face similar consequences that he would.

Tldr: in a casual relationship with a guy awhile back and stupidly sent nudes to him. I got a text from a friend of his saying he saw them but I have no proof and the guy I gave them to is adamant he didn’t do it. If I were to report it what could happen to me? Would it go on my college record?
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 This is complicated... but you cannot allow that to continue.

Technically, you produced and distributed child pron. Fortunately, I am not aware of any minor in your situation that was prosecuted for sending nudes to their minor boyfriend who then started sharing those nudes with other people.

Still, I would advise you to first talk to your parents about this (they will likely be upset, but you'd be surprised at how understanding they will be once the initial shock wears off).

I would advise your parents to retain legal counsel before reporting this to the police just to make sure that you are in no danger of self-incrimination - while the odds are low, legal counsel will help in minimizing then.

And please, be wiser about such matters in the future.


Title: Mom being sued by former employer for payroll fraud - please advise

Question:
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My Mother and her former employer of 13 years have recently parted ways, and due to recent events I believe we should be preparing ourselves for a potentially lengthy legal battle. I will start from the beginning and do my best to give an un-biased account, however I will have to keep certain details vague. I know state does impact these situations heavily, so I will say that this all takes place in Illinois.

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For the last year or so my Mother have had a rocky relationship. This is in stark contrast to the decade preceding. \~2 weeks ago everything came to a head and her boss officially terminated her, after trying to goad her into resigning. Following the termination he offered to pay out the rest of the pay period (2 days) and her remaining vacation (3 days - which is vastly understated, more detail here later). Given the 13 years of service she felt she deserved a little more and counter offered with 4 weeks severance pay and that he not contest her unemployment if she were unable to find a new job in timely manner.

Now here is where things will start to get interesting, but also why I felt the need to ask the advice of others.

My mothers former employer works in an industry that, like many others, has a fair amount of government regulation in order to prevent exploitation, and there is a laundry list of rules and regulations that must be followed. As with anything there is bending the rules, and there is out right breaking them. Her former employer has out right broken rules on a number of occasions, and any single one of these would be enough to strip his license and essentially collapse the business, should they come to light. In one such scenario my mother caught in processing and brought to his attention, saying she would be uncomfortable complying with the request. He went ahead and did it anyway. She kept, and still has, a file with all the evidence needed to prove the fraud.

And because they were having a not-so-amicable separation she hinted at this at the end of her counter offer. Not sure this was the strongest play, but knowing my mother I'm sure she was thinking that he'd simply back down and give her what she wanted so that they could go their separate ways quietly.... Nope!

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Several days later she received an email from an attorney's assistant. The attached letter is a request for a large sum of money citing Payroll Fraud. She was responsible for the company payroll for several years up until the very end. The letter goes on to explain that nearly 2 full years ago my mother adjusted her payroll rate, and because of this they wanted back pay. So what exactly happened? I'll explain! My father also works full time and has access to better benefits through his employer. In 2017 his employer announced that anyone with a spouse covered that also had access to insurance through their own employer would receive a penalty through increased contribution. The situation at the time would have left my parent's subject to the penalty as my mother's employer did offer group health insurance to full time employees. Easiest solution? Make my mother benefit ineligible. To accomplish this end she adjusted her rate in the payroll system to reflect a higher rate, and subsequently recording fewer hours. Zero change in net pay, but no longer eligible for the company benefits. All of this was approved by her employer (unfortunately only verbally). And if I understand it correctly having her benefit ineligible is mutually beneficial to both her and the company.

Did my mother actually do something actionable here, or is he just going out of his way to be malicious? I'm inclined to think the latter, but obviously I am biased in that regard. Nor am I an Attorney.

My immediate thoughts are that because he has Lawyered up that she needs to do the same. Sooner rather than later. No further communication, or negotiation on her own. I know she wants to talk it out with her boss, come to an agreement and be done with it, but I don't think that is going to happen. I am doing my best to convince her to start talking to an Attorney.

Any advise on the best way to Navigate this sticky situation is greatly appreciated! What are we looking at?

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Answer:
 Sounds to me she adjusted her pay rate and hours in order to commit insurance fraud...

I’d suggest she lawyer up and get ready for a hell of a ride.


Title: Keeping someone else's magazines, your PO Box, but someone else's name. Federal offense?

Question:
My boyfriend subscribed to a few magazines a while back and has not gotten them yet. When he went on the website, he saw that they were being sent to his old address. So his ex was getting them. He promptly changed the address on the website and texted his ex asking for his magazines. She got pissed and said she never got them. I called Nat Geo today and they confirmed that they have sent two issues to the wrong PO Box, so she should have gotten two.

Is this a federal offense? Even if it was sent to her PO box by mistake?

This is in MN

Answer: Mkay, I know that your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend is ALWAYS the biggest whore and worst person on the face of the planet, but are you really going to attempt to prosecute someone for a couple of magazines? Petty level off the charts. It's your boyfriend's fault, not hers. I recommend you pursue yoga, not legal advice.Answer #2: You want to have someone prosecuted over two magazine issues that were sent to the wrong address due to your own screwup?  Not likely to happen, but feel free to contact the postal inspection service.  Why didn't your boyfriend file a change of address form so his mail would get forwarded?


Title: I have been subpoenaed to appear at the office of my dad, whom I have an active PFA against.

Question:
This is in Pennsylvania. Long story short: I used to work at my family's real estate company. I have an active PFA against my dad because he pulled a gun on the rest of my family and threatened to murder us. After that, I left the company. The PFA is about 1.5-2 years in, and it's to last 3 years I think. I left some time in 2016.

Some time while I was working there, a lady slipped and fell at one of our properties and is suing us. For some reason, her lawyers are subpoenaing everyone and their mother to come and appear at our office this month.

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My question: Is there any kind of way for me to not have to go through this? In order to be in compliance with the PFA, I'm sure my dad could just not be there that day. The reason I am so adamantly against going forward with it, is that it's very emotional for me to even be in the office and rehash all of those old memories. I am very emotional about this. Are there any options for me other than simply having to go forward with it?

Answer: Contact the attorneys involved and explain the PFA. They should be able to work something out.Answer #2: If you’ve been subpoenaed then you’ll need to appear however in some cases the court will allow you to appear via video link - it may be worth asking your lawyer if this is an option.


Title: Was arrested for trespassing at an amusement park (was kicked out but went back in) do i need a lawyer?

Question: I was at an amusement park in california. Got busted tailgating in the parking lot by their security, and they gave us a 30 day ban. Stupid me didn't take it seriously and went into the park. After a few hours someone recognized us and had us arrested for trespassing. Ended up in custody for about 11 hours. I have a court date in 15 days, I'm torn if I need a lawyer. I've read if I am charged with trespassing infraction I only get a fine and nothing on my record, but there is a chance it could be a misdemeanor in which it would be on my record. I'm worried about paying for a lawyer when it will just be an infraction and wasting my money. i'm also worried about not getting a lawyer and getting charged with a misdemeanor. I'm worried the sites telling me I should get a lawyer are just saying that because they are trying to get more business. What do you guys think I should do?

Answer: You should know what you've been charged with. if you don't that all the more reason you need a lawyer.


Title: What kind of lawyer would even touch this?

Question:
I lost my job today through a contract I work under and my last official day will be in June. Well I have "rocked" the boat at the private school I work at in NC, as a teacher and athletic trainer. After filing a sexual and workplace compliant against a male co-worker after 5 incidents this school year alone on top of sexual/derogatory comments towards me and my class. I FOUND that he has had not two... Not three.... But FOUR females file complaints this year against him. I filed this complaint back in April and they determined it to be a "personality conflict" 🙄 whatever that means... He also says he is a certified CSCS and a personal trainer but he isn't even in the national registry for the national certification for either of them!! He is still there, keeping his job, and teaching next year strength and conditioning for the boys for the third year in a row! Now I've lost my job and he gets to keep his and I'm pissed, upset, and literally all the adjectives! But something seems really fishy and it is not settling right with me!
Seek an attorney and file (I think I have enough information)? Or just leave it alone since I have to get a new job anyway?
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer: You are looking for an employment attorney who specializes in sexual harassment cases. They will likely do a free consultation to hear your side and determine whether they want to represent you. I would suggest meeting with several attorneys for consolations before choosing someone.


Title: Scared and helpless.

Question: My (17F) emotionally, verbally, *has threatened* physical, abusive ex (19M), is harassing and stalking me through my social media and making new phone numbers to contact me each time I block them and I want to take it to the police but I want to know what else I can do against him. I have recordings of him threatening me verbally and screenshots of the constant texts and threats to me and about my family, but I'm scared because I don't want to keep being in fear of him. He texted (today) if I keep ignoring him he will, "get other people involved". I broke up with him November '19. We started dating in March '17. Please help me somehow,,

Answer: Call the police. Change your phone number.


Title: My mom got divorced several years ago and is just now asking for help

Question:
So, this is actually my first post in Reddit...a bit nervous about that...but I'm sure you all can help :)

My mom and dad got divorced several years ago (probably 5+ years) and my mom was told she was entitled to a portion of my father's 401k account. For whatever reason my mom never followed up and never requested the money. Now, it's been several years, and she is asking me if she is still is legally allowed to get that money even though it's been so long. I honestly have no clue if she has any right to that money now...I almost feel like the answer might be no, but I'd appreciate any insight you all can provide. If it's relevant at all, this is for Maryland. Thanks in advance!

Answer: Did she have a divorce attorney? She might want to ask them.


Title: (PA) CPS question- Please respond!

Question:
Harrisburg, PA

My friend's 5-year old child is being interviewed regarding possible sexual abuse. The interview is being recorded on CCTV and the audio is being recorded, too. The police will be in an adjacent room watching the interview. My friend--the parent-- was told that he is not allowed to watch the interview or even see the tape afterwards. Is this legal? Is there any legal process to view the evidence?

Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: Yes. It is a police investigation. If it goes to court then the video will be evidence. The mother is allowed to refuse to do the interview. Cps can choose to take legal action.


Title: EX kidnapped kids during Covid epidemic

Question:
My (38m) Ex-wife (41f) took our daughters (7f and 11f) to another state to her parents house 6.5 hours away from NY (not NYC) where  we both reside and have a legal custody agreement.  They left just as the pandemic started for what I thought was going to be a long weekend.  3 months later she still refuses to return. In our court ordered divorce agreement I am supposed to get my daughters 2 evening visits per week and every other weekend. I have not had visitation since she left 3 months ago. First she told me " no where in our agreement does it say visitation has to take place in NY" and now she is saying she won't return because she has help from her parents at their house and none in NY.  She has come up with excuse after excuse. She even accused me of oweing her money until I showed her I have a 2600$ overpayment.  On top of that I have continued to pay for child care even though they are staying home.
I never bring my daughters in to the "adult" communication but without solicitation my 11 year old asked me " how can mommy go for groceries if she has us with her. We'd have to wait in the cold car". What can I do to get them back and prevent this from happening in the future?  I feel like I have no recourse; every time we are in court I feel like the judge favors the "mother". Any advice is greatly appreciated!
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 First: this isn't kidnapping

Second: you have to take her back to court for contempt.

For best results: hire an attorney


Title: Am I wrong in thinking that the armed security guards hired by MMJ/Rec facilities are risking serious federal charges?

Question:
Due to federal banking regulations most dispensaries and rec facilities are operating as cash business.  Some facilities have turned to hiring armed guards to stand inside/outside the store, or to help with cash movements.

It seems to me that those individuals are risking huge mandatory minimum sentences for "[8.71 Firearms—Using or Carrying in Commission of Crime of Violence or Drug Trafficking Crime](http://www3.ce9.uscourts.gov/jury-instructions/node/529):

The defendant is charged in [Count ____ of] the indictment with [using] [carrying] [brandishing] a firearm during and in relation to [specify applicable crime of violence or drug trafficking crime] in violation of Section 924(c) of Title 18 of the United States Code. In order for the defendant to be found guilty of that charge, the government must prove each of the following elements beyond a reasonable doubt:

First, the defendant committed the crime of [specify crime] as charged in [Count ____ of] the indictment, which I instruct you is a [crime of violence] [drug trafficking crime]; and

Second, the defendant knowingly [used] [carried] [brandished] the [specify firearm] during and in relation to that crime.

[A defendant "used" a firearm if [he] [she] actively employed the firearm during and in relation to [specify crime].]

[A defendant "carried" a firearm if [he] [she] knowingly possessed it and held, moved, conveyed or transported it in some manner on [his] [her] person or in a vehicle.]

[A defendant "brandished" a firearm if [he] [she] displayed all or part of the firearm, or otherwise made the presence of the firearm known to another person, in order to intimidate that person, regardless of whether the firearm was directly visible to that person.]

Further more, in my state a medical store is required to maintain 40 days of surveillance footage, and a log of all people who enter the store, and each transaction.

So it seems to me that a guard could possibly rack up hundreds of prison time in a single 40 hour work week.

Is this correct?

Answer:
 You aren't wrong.

Getting involved with marijuana growing/sales operations is a very risky move.


Title: Neighbor keeps calling apartment security/cops on our barking dog. Kansas

Question:
For context, we have lived in this unit for over two years, she moved in around the first of the year, and our first noise complaint ever living here was two weeks later.

My downstairs neighbor has repeatedly called in noise complaints during the night. She started with noise complaints about us "stomping through the apartment, throwing things and slamming doors." In reality, we had an extremely creaky bedroom floor, and we had maintenance come through and screw down floorboards. While the quality of our apartment is somewhat out of our control, we understand how annoying it would be to be woken up by creaky floorboards. We never were making excessive noise as she claimed, but we still got it taken care of.

Right before we had the floor taken care of, we started getting visits from our apartment security in the middle of the night, and calls from the complex managers early in the morning, asking us about our dog, and wanting to know what we can do to keep it quiet. The issue is that we don't have a dog. We have two cats, but when we have spoken to the complex staff, they say she's insistent that it is a dog barking. The complex manager has told us that they've had security posted at our door some nights for up to a half hour listening for a dog barking. We have talked to security about once a month, and the managers equally as frequently. They said that security is called about once a week, and that she records a dog barking on her phone, and has played several recordings for those she calls. Tonight we were visited by WPD and she asked if we had a dog. I told her no, picked up one of my cats and joked about only having kitties. She asked if she could come through our apartment to check for a dog or kennels, so we let her. I turned on the light in my bathroom and bedroom and opened the closet door so we could prove definitively that we had no dog stashed anywhere.

While I have nothing to hide, I don't want to have to deal with the cops weekly, and I don't like having my home messy with strangers in it, as it causes my anxiety to spike. Is there anything we can do legally to stop her from frequently calling in completely unbased noise complaints? We are starting to feel harassed and we've gotten visits ranging from eleven pm to around three am.

Sincerely,

Feeling harassed by the girl who cried dog.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 I'm not saying this to be funny ... it sounds like your neighbor is having auditory hallucinations.

It's time to confront the complex manager with the simple truth: if all of these entities have not found a dog in your apartment, that means the dog doesn't exist and they need to stop acting like it does. She is the common denominator in all of this.


Title: DOT drug testing

Question:
I have a "safety-sensitive" job which makes me subject to the Department of Transportation (DOT) pre-employment, and random, drug/alcohol testing. (i.e., aviation pilot, truck driver, bus driver, aircraft mechanic, etc).

My question is, in the event Marijuana is either re-scheduled at the federal level or taken off the list of controlled substances completely, would the DOT still test for THC?

It's my understanding that because Marijuana is currently considered schedule 1, this is why DOT tests for it.

OR,... What is the likelihood that perhaps they alter the testing rules to consider for medical use of cannabis, if they are unwilling to completely eliminate THC from the tests? Or perhaps they raise the testing limit, currently at 50/ng...

Thoughts/Opinions???

Answer:
 > My question is, in the event Marijuana is either re-scheduled at the federal level or taken off the list of controlled substances completely, would the DOT still test for THC?

Nobody could say for sure, but I'd guess that they will.  They still test for alcohol, after all.


Title: [WA] Spouse refuses to get mental help

Question:
Full disclosure: this is happening to a close friend of mine that feels totally stuck and without resolution. I am seeking wisdom in a number of ways, one of which is r/legaladvice. I’ll change names to make this easy to track.

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My buddy Adam moved to my town to work with me in a small business about 3 years ago. I was a part of the hiring committee and knew he would be a great fit for us and our small community. Adam and I worked directly with each other a lot and have become very close friends. Our wives are close, our kids are close, we are happy to be friends with them. However, Adam’s wife Eve started to behave strangely. My wife would ask questions about her sometimes and I wouldn’t think much of it. After several months of this, my wife and I began to wonder if Eve might be bipolar. But that’s not exactly something you can ask somebody, even if you are close to them. (Sidenote: my wife is an RN and I have a degree in counseling, so we aren’t being flippant about it)

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Recently, things have gotten worse. She started to make accusations about her husband that I knew were not true. Or sending me unnecessarily aggressive texts. The details of which may not be important, but they were wildly inconsistent with reality. It came to a head as she undermined Adam’s attempt to pick up a side job. She didn’t want him to do it, so she began to accuse the other family-owned hiring company of trying to get them divorced and ripping her family apart. This was a family that they were friends with. Now her issues were the issues of the company and community. I finally had a sit down with him and asked what’s going on. The texts, the conversations, her actions. Adam finally confessed to me that she has a history of mental health issues. She twice had been admitted to a hospital, once for post-partum psychosis and another time for bipolar tendencies. However, she absolutely refuses to believe she has issues. She is extremely defensive about it and accuses others of having ulterior motives when they ask her. He gave me a whole history of problems that had been created from her actions, and some of them were bad. She has no issue saying anything to anybody to get her way, to the point of ruining careers. Adam told me it comes in waves, and that she had been doing well for a long time, but she’s in a bad place now. Maybe the stress of new life and work exacerbated it.

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Here is where I reach out to r/legaladvice. Adam and I talked and he (all of us) knows she needs to be helped professionally. That is the solution. But he is stuck. If he does nothing, she continues to be a threat to do something drastic to their family or other families. If he tries to talk to her about it, she lashes out defensively and makes crazy accusations. The only way she can be forced into a hospital is if she harms herself or others. She has never done that no matter how bad she has gotten. However, today Eve sent a text to my wife instructing her to share it with me. It’s a text she says she also sent to Adam. It basically says that she forgives Adam and her family for being hateful and failing her. But the scariest part she says is “if you continue to pursue that I have a mental illness, it will come out that you tried to kill me. I won’t be able to stop it. It will come out that because I loved you I didn’t report it. And everything you and your family ever accused me of will be done to you.” The rest of the text is grandiose and crazy sounding…

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First, I know Adam very well. I know his character. I’ve sat and cried with him at his feeling of being hopeless and stuck with this problem. He thinks he should just quit his job and them move so she doesn’t ruin something severely. I also have seen her say things not rooted in reality. I know he has never tried to kill her.

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So now, is there any wise advice from the sub? If she’s making those kind of statements, is that enough to get her hospitalized? Should Adam start talking to a lawyer and getting a paper trail of things she says and does? If she accuses him of this, he would lose his kids. Maybe end up arrested? Not hard to imagine the state siding with the accusing mother.

I love this family and know she is sick. She is not the “enemy”, she is my friend. I have been pulled into this to play a role, no matter how uncomfortable. I want to see her taken care of and him not feeling like a scared caretaker. Any words are helpful.

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TL;DR: Friend’s wife has mental issues, refuses to believe she does, but is threatening to lie about murder to those who try to help her. What to do?

Answer:
 If she is a danger to herself or others she can be hospitalized temporarily against her will for treatment and evaluation.

He can go to court and have her declared incompetent (she'll be able to fight this and present a defense) if he wants to make all the medical decisions for her.

And that's about it.

Almost no one is going to read everything you wrote above.Answer #2: Your friend needs a good divorce attorney.


Title: [KY, USA] I was pulled over for speeding ticket (60mph in a 55) while driving my friend's car, and accidentally handed an old copy of insurance paper. The police took the insurance, marked me as driving uninsured, and now I am facing $1000+ in fines.

Question:
As the title states, I was pulled over for speeding yesterday and received my first citation. The officer said he would lower my speed to be 60 in a 55mph, collected everyone's license and my insurance paper, and came back with the citation. The first citation was in the wrong name (he had ticketed my brother who was in the back seat of the car), and I had to wave him back up to the car to get this corrected. After fixing the name, he quickly drove off.

Once I got home, I looked at the citation and noticed I was cited for "speeding 5mph over the speed limit", "failure to produce insurance card," and "failure of owner to maintain required insurance." The speeding I understood, but the other two confused me. I had my friend check and realized I had grabbed his old insurance paper and given it to the cop. He had the current paper in his glovebox, and I could have produced it if the police had pointed it out, instead, he accepted the expired insurance and fined me for it. The care was insured, with the documents inside.

On top of this, it happened in Kentucky, 2+ hours from my house. The ticket says it is not prepayable and has a court date listed. Is my best chance to go to court and simply explain the situation? how should I approach this?

Answer: You didn't produce a valid insurance card. Often, if you go to court and show that there valid insurance at the time they will drop the ticket. Edit: If the ticket is in your brother's name / license then he has to go.Answer #2: Bring the updated card or proof that the insurance was up to date. Most likely it will be dropped.Answer #3: Since there was valid insurance coverage bring whatever valid proof you can when you go to court and more than likely they'll drop it. In the future, double check the documentation before handing it over.


Title: Car accident due to avoiding vehicle making illegal turn[IL]

Question:
The accident happened yesterday. It was snowing, and there were black ices on the road. The speed limit is 35, and I was traveling around 25-30. There were three vehicles involved in the accident.

Both my vehicle(A) and the vehicle B were traveling in the same direction on the main road. I was in the right lane and car B was in the left lane about half car distance ahead of me. When we passed a "T" intersection, vehicle B suddently cutting to my lane and trying to make a right turn from the left lane. There was no turn signal. I was forced to hit the brake and turn right to avoid collision with car B. My car lost control and the front of my car hit the driver side rear door of car C. Vehicle C was waiting to turn to the main road at the intersection. I didn't make physical contact with the vehicle B.

The policy came and investigated the accident. Driver C (got hit by me) corroborated my testimony that vehicle B was trying to make an illegal turn and I was forced to lost control and hit his car. Driver B did not admit but or deny it (the police told me that, which he thought it's interesting.) The police issued a $265 citation (unclear on what violation) to driver B. The police called driver B "at fault" and give me the insurance information of driver B and a court hearing date of the case.

It says "A citation was issued to the other motorist. Your court testimony as a witness/participant is necessary for prosecution. Without your testimony, the citation will be dismissed in court.

Driver C told me he would appear to the court to testify. The car belongs to my girlfriend. She has liability up to $20k and comprehensive $500 deductible for her car. I don't have any car insurance. Per my understanding, the insurance follows the car since I was driving the car with her permission and she didn't exclude me in her policy, her insurance should cover me.

I have a few questions regarding the question:

1. Does my girlfriend's insurance cover me?
2. Who is at fault? Will the driver B's insurance cover any of the damage?
3. Do I need to appear in court? I live in a different state that 4-hour plane-ride away. I need to take time off from work and the airfare is not cheap. I was wondering what difference does it make? If it worth the time and energy to fight in court? Do I need to get a lawyer? Is there any alternative than physically appear in court? Can I write an affidavit or things of that sort instead?

tl;dr - crashed girlfriend's car due to avoiding another car making an illegal turn.

Thanks and Merry Christmas!

Answer:
 1. Yes. You are correct that the insurance follows the car and you qualify as a permissive user.
2. Fault may be apportioned between you and driver B. Driver B moved into your lane, but you failed to control your car and struck an innocent motorist.  Generally referred to as "faulty evasive action."  The claim adjusters will sort it out.
3. It's extremely unlikely this will go to court.  Just give the adjuster a statement when s/he calls, and that should be the end of it.


Title: Need help determining if my workplace is operating shadily: I am forced to clock out for bathroom breaks and access to water.

Question:
I have worked for a well-known manufacturing business located in Wisconsin USA for nearly 4 years. It's always irked me that we are forced to clock out when we have the need to relieve ourselves or get a drink from the fountain. It's especially annoying on 80°+ days when water is extra tantalizing in our a/c-less work environment.

Is this legal?

Answer: [Nope, not even a bit legal](http://www.dol.gov/elaws/esa/flsa/hoursworked/screenER5.asp).


Title: I have HIV and my doctors are taking their sweet time to start me on treatment when they have had all my blood work done for over a month.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You're talking about a lawsuit instead of going to a new doctor?  Not for nothing, but that is vaguely, I dunno, crazy.


Title: How much information am I legally required to give police when asked?

Question:
I live in a college town (attending college). Every weekend, everyone is out going to parties, bars, and the like. It’s not uncommon to see mobs of students leaving campus dressed up to go out. That said, the police have a habit of fucking with us. Just last night I got separated from my friends, and two police officers approached me. It started off with them seemingly jokingly asking me where I was heading. I responded with a smile just saying “Just hitting the town”. At that point, the interaction abruptly shifted to a more serious tone. One of the officers asked for my name, I told him it. He then asks for my ID, which I hesitantly gave him. He made a comment about me not being from around there, and I told him I attended the college. He then much more firmly asked where I was going, to which I again replied with “just going about my business”. He told me by law, I had to tell him where I was heading. I then asked him if I was free to go. He told me that I wasn’t because if I didn’t tell him where I was going, I would be charged with obstruction of justice. At this point, I just wanted  to end the interaction, so I told him I was going to the Rite - Aid across the street. He then said I was free to go, and watched me cross the street and enter the store.
This isn’t just an isolated case though. They do this shit to us all the time, presumably trying to bust parties, but this is the first time I know of that they threatened to charge with something. Is this legal? Also, how much information do I have to give the police? For example Name, ID, where I live, and if I have to tell them where I’m going.

This happened my college town in New Hampshire US. I should also clarify that this happened off campus with town police, not campus police.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 Like many states, New Hampshire does have a stop and identify law. It gives officers broad scope to stop anyone they believe has, is, or is about to commit a crime and may demand his name, address, where he is going, and what he is doing.

That being said, I'm not sure that an obstruction of justice charge would stick all that well if they *did* arrest you for refusing to answer his questions. Police can and do frequently bluff and even outrighg lie to gain compliance, though.Answer #2: Practical advice -- just have some canned but reasonable sounding non-answer to make them disinterested.   The nerdier or more love-struck the better.  Don't mention going to any parties.   Ask the officers innocent questions like where you can buy some flowers or chocolates around here or what late night eatery is open to study at?    Bore them with your collegiate innocence.


Title: Will my Gmail violate my TRO?

Question:
I have a TRO against me. It is bogus but I assume no one here will believe that and it's not important because it exists.

My gmail has an auto-response (vacation) set up every weekend as I'm out of town. It basically says:

    Hey there. I'll get back to you next week. Have
    a great day, and I hope you and yours are doing
    well!

Well last weekend the *cousin* of the person who took out the TRO emailed me to annoy me and got this response presumably. Which they reported me for since I'm not supposed to talk to any relative of the person with the TRO or try to contact them directly. Yesterday I got a voicemail to call in and discuss this.

I have deleted my vacation-response thing but did this violate my TRO? Can I prove to a judge that this was automated and not me actually responding to the cousin? Or does that not even matter?

We all live in Texas.

Answer:
 >Which they reported me for since *I'm not supposed to talk to any relative of the person with the TRO* or try to contact them directly.

You're not supposed to talk to the person with the TRO against you. Unless the rest of those family members have TROs against you as well, you're fine.

And an autoreply, by it's very nature, is a response to them contacting you. Their position is BS


Title: Sent pictures of a certain nature to a girl...only to get a message from her dad saying she's underage, who is threatening legal action?

Question:
So i had met a girl on a social website who said she was 21.  We had gotten to talking for a week, and then to texting.  One of these conversations involved sending rather risque pictures.  She sent me a few, and i sent one which didn't have my head in it.

I got a text from a man, and a voicemail, threatening legal action for sending these to his "seventeen year old" daughter", and that he'll send them to the police unless i speak to him. I'm not sure if he has any case, especially because there's a lot of ambiguity in this matter[the phone number seems to be from well out of this area].  I've blocked him from my phone from the time being and don't plan on talking to him, just the police.

What else can i do, if anything at all?

Edit: I'm from MD.

Answer: Scam.  Block number and stop sending pictures of your tiny prick to alleged women.


Title: Employer Claimed Training Hours as Shadow Hours (TX)

Question:
I'm writing this for a friend of mine. He was getting a job as a dishwater at a local chinese restaurant. Before they officially hired him, they told him to "shadow" an employee to learn the job. This was basically his training so he could perform the job on his own for his first shift. They didn't pay him because they counted it as shadow hours.

He shadowed for five hours, but was not officially hired because he left 30 mins early. He didn't think it was a big deal because he wasn't getting paid anyways. Is it legal to count training hours as shadow hours? Should he have been paid for the five hours he was trained for?
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 "Shadow hours" is something they made up. It's absolutely time worked. He can file an unpaid wage claim with the Texas Workforce Commission.

http://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs22.pdf


Title: Neighbor is on his roof everyday looking through my parents windows and at the nearby school, sometimes with binoculars[California]

Question:
My parents live in CA in a house they bought in June. Everyday for the last few weeks my their neighbor(late 50s, male, lives with elderly mother) is on his roof looking around and into my parents windows and backyard. Recently my mother has noticed that he looks towards the nearby elementary school with binoculars when kids are arriving for school.

This is mostly from her point of view, fyi.

12/6/2018- I went to Police dept. to ask and discuss what were my options as a homeowner when my neighbor gets on his roof regularly and looks in my backyard and windows and into the nearby school.  Both our homes back up to elementary school and next to our fence is the kindergarten classrooms and playground. I have caught him with his arms crossed staring into my yard ,windows and into playground. I asked the police what to do. They told me to make a phone call to them when it happens. They said that it would stay anonymous.

12/7/2018- I opened my living room blind to see my neighbor up on his roof looking at me. I closed the blind and went to other window, He was looking down into the kindergarten play area . All the parents were dropping off their children for school. It was 7:35am. He then pulled out his binoculars and started looking around at everything, our yard, the students in playground, and the view on the other side of his house. I immediately called the admin office of the school. I asked to stay anonymous and told the woman that they should probably send someone to check on this guy on his roof looking into your school yard. I do not believe I said I was a neighbor(important later). She then went to play yard and questioned him. I only got bits and pieces of what was said. She said something and I heard him say  "no I'm good, alright". She said something and he replied "it's none of your business". I then heard her say "I'm going to call the police". He said "go ahead". Police came about 30-45 minutes later. It was the same officer I had spoken with yesterday at the precinct.  Two officers came for this call. They spoke for 20-30 minutes with his mother present. I saw him point to our home while talking to officers. About 30 minutes later the officer came to our door. I then was pretty upset because I wanted to stay anonymous. I told him that too. He said our neighbor said we must have called and that he was up on roof because *his mother heard something on the roof and he was checking it out* . The officer also said that the neighbor went to the school and apologized to the school admin woman that he spoke rudely to. While the officer confirmed that, yes, it is weird and unsettling behavior, they can not do anything as the neighbor has not broken any laws.

Why don't they just close the blinds, you ask? Well A, they shouldn't have to. and B, they bought this house because of the coastal view.

Are there any legal actions they can take? To be clear they are not scared of this guy, but its pretty unsettling to not have any privacy in your own home.

Edit: they have the blinds that can be pulled down from the top on their windows so that they can still let light in but keep prying eyes out. Conveniently if used as such they can only be looked through if you are looking down from above.

Answer: It's creepy, but not illegal.Answer #2: Do you have an HOA? With an elementary school and coastal views it sounds like a nice neighborhood so I would be a little surprised if you didn’t. They may be your best recourse because they can make new rules and fine this guy even if he isn’t breaking any laws. Having some guy on his roof with binoculars all day would definitely affect home prices so I’m sure they would be interested in this.


Title: [Virginia, USA] Employer pays tipped minimum wage ($2.13/hr) after operating hours. Legal?

Question:
Hey there!

There's a restaurant that I have worked at for the last couple years that pays out tipped minimum wage to their staff, $2.13/hour, and closes at 12:30am. There are normally a few closing staff that generally get out at around 1:30-2am, but during that time closing staff are paid at the same $2.13. Management is not agreeable to paying the full minimum wage after closing hours ($7.25/hr currently).

The US Department of Labor has this piece about "dual jobs" on their Tipped Employees fact sheet for the Fair Labor Standards Act:

>The FLSA permits an employer to take the tip credit for some time that the tipped employee spends in duties related to the tipped occupation, even though such duties are not by themselves directed toward producing tips. For example, a waitperson who spends some time cleaning and setting tables, making coffee, and occasionally washing dishes or glasses is considered to be engaged in a tipped occupation even though these duties are not tip producing. ([Source](http://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs15.htm))

This would appear to cover such activities that occur over the course of the shift (like running a rack of dishes through, or whatever) – but I don't see anything in that document specifying work done after operating hours. The issue I have is that, from 12:30am onward, we have virtually *zero* opportunity to earn tips (the store is closed), and 100% of the work that is done involves not receiving tips and are tasks not normally assigned to us during normal operating hours: closing down the dish pit (we don't hire a permanent dishwasher), scrubbing and mopping all the floors, putting away food/drinks, taking out trash, cleaning bathrooms, etc.

So, bottom line: can my employer legally pay us the $2.13/hour, even when the restaurant is outside of operating hours?

Secondary question: if that answer is no, do I have grounds to pursue a case with them? How do I go about? They have done this to every employee for at least the three years I've been there, so if they're skirting the law on this it could be a big deal, of course.

Thanks in advance!
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 I believe the employer just needs to show that your average wage plus tips is greater than minimum wage.Answer #2: You are on the right track with your FLSA quote.  But you may be in a grey area as to whether the duties you mention are related to your tipped duties or not.  You can do a little more research on this.

You can also make inquiries of your local state labor department and even file a complaint for investigation.  Before doing so you should determine if your name would be kept confidential or not and consider the ramifications on your job there if it is not.  You could also do likewise by contacting a lawyer.

EDIT:  [Here is a web page](http://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs15.htm) that discusses this under the topic/paragraph titled "dual Jobs"  It sets a standard of a maximum of 20% of your typical hours being devoted to clean up duties such as the ones you mention before these are considered a seperate job that must be paid minimum wage.  But in finding this I also noticed other states where there was no such threshold and all such hours must be compensated at a full minimum wage.  I couldn't find anything specific to Virginia but you might want to look further.


Title: [NY] Girl from online dating site gave me herpes and didn't disclose that she had an STD!!

Question:
On her profile she had 437737, apparently I was somehow suppose to know that this is code for herpes.

Anyways, I'm going to make this as short as possible - we met up a few times and had unprotected sex (yes I know, very stupid, but I'm young and new to sex). I ended up contracting herpes from her and confronted her about it. I threatened to report her for not telling me first and she is saying that she technically did let me know by putting the code for herpes in her profile.

Does she actually have a solid defense or did I screw up? I'm almost certain what she did is a crime but I'm not sure, and I want to press charges but don't know if I can.

Answer:
 you were having unprotected sex with a stranger, absent any sort of real evidence on her part that she was clean.

sure, she was a dick, but at what point are you responsible for your own sexual health?

legally speaking, though, sure - report it.  you can't "press charges," but you can certainly report her for knowingly transmitting an STD.

in the future, though, i'd caution you to protect yourself, rather than rely on a stranger to protect you.Answer #2: >On her profile she had 437737, apparently I was somehow suppose to know that this is code for herpes.

TIL

>Anyways, I'm going to make this as short as possible - we met up a few times and had unprotected sex (yes I know, very stupid, but I'm young and new to sex).

Should be thankful you did not get HIV, bucko.

How do you know you contracted herpes from her?  HSV-2 can be dormant for multiple years.

Her code is bullshit.  However, you still have an issue about proving you received it from her.  [It is a misdemeanor](http://law.justia.com/codes/new-york/2014/pbh/article-23/title-1/2307) to knowingly transmit a STD to somebody in your state.  You can report it to the police.


Title: [IL] Custody and child support confusion

Question:
Hi guys. Throwing away since ex is on Reddit. Thanks for reading.

I [30M] facing a situation where the [29f] mother of my son  (never married) and I are parting ways in the next month. We have verbally agreed on 50/50 custody and would like to avoid any court battle if necessary when it comes to splitting my son's expenses going forward.

I first want to understand what I should be doing on my end / what my options are as a father to try and get us to create a legal document that will end with us splitting any costs for my son (either 50/50 or according to income) as they come up (medical, daycare, etc).

There is, however, one hiccup. My ex-girlfriend is heavily set on a need for child support and gets aggressively angry at the prospect of splitting costs. I am so against this since medical, dental, and day care are all in my name and paid by me at this point. It would make no sense for me to pay her child support for her to turn around and give it back for me to pay these shared expenses.

I realize the alternative is going to court and potentially paying a lot more or, god forbid losing 50/50 custody. So what should I prepare and get in writing? How careful should I be to get our communication in writing? And, if you can spare it, how do I sell this to her/compromise fairly for the sake of avoiding court.

TLDR: EX and I are splitting. We both want to avoid court, but she wants child support and I want to split shared expenses as they come. How do we come to an agreement and what needs to be done to make that agreement legal and binding?

Answer:
 The best and safest plan is to go to court. The two of you can agree in advance what your parenting plan should look like, though, and if you present it to the court that way, the court isn't going to waste a lot of time digging into details; most judges will just sign off on the agreed plan. Here's a [Cook County version](http://www.cookcountycourt.org/Portals/0/Domestic%20Relations%20Division/Forms/DRD_Parenting%20Plan_Final.pdf) to use as a template for the issues you need to agree upon. Once the judge signs off, that becomes a legal and enforceable agreement.

Illinois has recently changed the method for [calculating child support](https://www.isba.org/ibj/2017/06/lawpulse/newincomeshareschildsupportcalculat); can you run the numbers via this method, and then via the shared expenses method, and see how far apart they are?


Title: Wondering where to turn...

Question: My RV was being stored at my Aunt', and Mother's place. With permission of the land lord. They received a typed eviction (not one from the court) dated for June 15th. They asked to have until July 7th to move out. On the 8th My little brother talked to the Land Lord company and asked for additional time to remove the RV. They gave him 24 hours at that time (2pm). On the 9th of July he called back asking to be given until 7, they agreed but when he went by at 3:30 or so it was already gone. Turns out they gave a 3rd party permission to remove the RV and do with it as they pleased. The RV was taken to another town and sold, no title, to a junk yard. The local cops are claiming their was no illegal action taken and refuse to pursue it any further. Live in Minnesota, Martin County. Where can I go from here?

Answer:
 The owner of the property can have the RV removed if he doesn't want it there.

That would properly be done by a towing company, who would then store the vehicle and you would have to pay to get it back.

He cannot just give it away to a stranger or sell it without the title.

You can absolutely sue him for the value of the RV.


Title: [TX] Private car seller won't return my money after I returned faulty car

Question: Hi guys! I bought a used car from a private seller. Our deal was he was supposed to fix minor damages on the car, but when he brought the car to our home, he did not fix any of the damages. He also removed the car grille and the tire cover. Now, I returned the car but he won't return the money. The car, with the paperwork, is currently at a mutual friend's place. I think it's worth mentioning that nothing has been signed yet and the car is not under the seller's name (he bought it from someone else but did not transfer the title to his name). Is there anything that I can do to get my money back?

Answer: Lesson learned: Don't pay until everything is done. And don't pay for a car without a signed title in hand. People don't realize how important the title is. For legal purposes, the title is the car.


Title: Is age of consent still legal in one state if person a resident of a higher age state?

Question:
This took place in Tacoma, Washington. I've been freaking out since this weekend. I haven't called a lawyer because I just don't know what I should do. I am a healthy guy in my early 30's. I was at a local bar/club with some friends on Saturday (Halloween) having a good time. We met some girls there dressed in the traditional slutty college girl costumes. Lots of lingerie, stockings, fuck-me pumps. You get the idea. I started getting close to one of them, buying her drinks, dancing, flirting. She told me she was 26, visiting from California. This went on most of the night. We were both pretty drunk and decided to head to my place. Long story short and legally speaking we had consensual intercourse. Afterward, she went to the bathroom and I wanted a smoke. I grabbed her nearby purse for the pack she had put there earlier. While there, I took a look at her pocketbook because I'm a nosy asshole. I saw her ID in a clear pocket, but I saw another ID tucked behind another card. That ID was from California with her picture, a different name, and a birthdate that said she was 16! I freaked out. At that time, she came out of the bathroom and saw me in her purse. She got angry and grabbed everything. I asked if she was 16. She started crying and denied it saying that the it was a mistake by the DMV and she kept it because it was funny. I'm stupid, but not that stupid, so I pressed. She admitted that the ID that she used in the bar was of her sister's friend (who looked almost exactly like her), and that her real ID was the one that said she was 16. At this point I was freaking out. She was crying hard now. I did my best to calm her down. That was the last thing I needed for a drunk 16 yearold to be upset in my bedroom. I got dressed and asked for her to do the same. She finally did and I drove her "home" (or at least to where she was staying that weekend). She said that it would be okay and that she wouldn't tell anyone. She said she wanted to call me and asked if we could see each other again maybe. I said yeah sure, maybe. She kissed me and left the car into her house. I noped it out of there afterward, carefully driving the speed limit as I'm sure my alcohol level was still not legal.

Anyway, the age of consent is 16 in Washington. But she was pretty drunk. Does that matter? Everything was consensual. The age of consent is 18 in California. Does that make a difference if we hooked up here where it's 16? I don't want to see her again. No fucking way. Am I going to get jammed up for this? Do I need to get a lawyer? I don't want to waste money on a lawyer if I don't have to. I've been freaking out since it happened. I haven't told anyone about this, even my friends who are asking me what happened when I left them that night. Am I screwed? I am totally freaking out. She has been texting me everyday since, and even called my phone twice yesterday. I did not pick up or respond. She has even sent me 2 nearly-nude pictures of herself. I am assuming she is back in Cali as she said she was only visiting for the weekend. She said she will be back here for Thanksgiving and wants to get together.

Answer:
 > The age of consent is 18 in California.

Irrelevant, your state of residence has no bearing on the matter.

However if she crosses state lines for the purpose of having sex, there can be some *trafficking* issues.

However.

>But she was pretty drunk.

Matters alot, since at 16, she was supposed to have 0 alchohol, at all any amount could be enough to be considered "impaired" and unable to consent.

> Do I need to get a lawyer?

If the cops come sniffing around, yes.


Title: Is there way to give a child up to the "state" or "crown", if their current living conditions are fine, but the parents just want out?

Question:
Ontario Canada, but curious about any laws that might apply elsewhere. No kids myself, so this is all theoretical.  Can the government force you to raise your kids? Or can you just sign a form and they enter foster care programmes?  I'm taking suburban parents who are generally fit, but just don't desire to raise children or risk neglecting them in their personal persuits.  Or a married couple who had an oops baby at an inopportune time.  Could they terminate their parental rights and assign then to the government?

***not interested in morality, just legal progress and precedent.

Answer:
 It doesn't look like Canada has safe haven laws for newborns. Adoption seems the only option.

For older children, I suppose you can attempt to work with an adoption agency. But no, you can't just drop your kid off at a group home and declare you don't want him anymore. That would constitute child abandonment.

In Canada, it looks like there is a federal child abandonment law that covers children under the age of 10, punishable by up to five years in prison.

Beyond that, most child protection laws include language which states that neglect/abandonment of children under the age of 19 constitutes a form of child abuse.

So yes, you could "surrender" a child to the foster system, but that will likely come with the price of a child abuse or child abandonment conviction.


Title: (NY) 23 Genderqueer (biological Male) Never registered for Selective Service System

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 You can either register or suffer the consequences. Those are literally your only two options, whether you like it or not.Answer #2: You realize that the chance of you being drafted for selective service is about the same as you being struck by lightning and eaten by a shark while vacationing in Topeka, right?

Pick a battle that matters.Answer #3: Do what the law requires you to do or choose to accept the consequences. Answer #4: Your option are to stand up for your beliefs, and take the consequences, or do what every other biological male in the country does and be able to secure the employment you want. Entirely your choice.

Oh, also feel free the communicate your views to your elected representatives who are empowered to change the laws.

Edit to add: Do you have a New York drivers license? As of 2003, registration with selective service is automatic when you get a license or permit in NY. You may actually already be registered.


Title: What trouble if any could a woman get in trouble for doing this ?

Answer:
 In my jurisdiction, there's clear case law supporting charges of sexual assault if someone obtains consent to sexual contact with a condom and secretly sabotages the condom.

However, it's important to note that this reasoning (in _R. v. Hutchinson_) does not hinge on the unwanted consequences, but rather on the fact that this changes an essential element of the sexual contact itself by exposing someone to bodily fluids. It would be legal to negotiate unprotected sex under the pretence of non-barrier birth control without actually being on birth control, for any party to the sex act.


Title: Marijuana possession in Michigan

Question:
Today the police arrived at my apartment saying that there was a complaint to the leasing office about a strong marijuana scent. I was told that they had a warrant ready to be filled out and used (I think they were under the impression that I was growing/dealing). I let them come in and surrendered everything I had (somewhat less than 1/2 ounce and some paraphernalia). I know this was probably a mistake but the threat of a warrant had me very rattled and it seemed I was basically caught red-handed. I was given a citation with two misdemeanors, possession of marijuana and possession of paraphernalia. 333.7403(2)(d) and 66-24-42(1) respectively. I am a 25-year-old man with no criminal record (not even a speeding ticket). Needless to say this has been the scariest day of my life and it's only getting scarier. I haven't contacted an attorney yet (will be meeting with a couple over the next few days) but would appreciate any advice moving forward.

Edit - Should add that this is in Ottawa County.

Answer: There's nothing you can do at this point. Since you're too old for the Holmes Youthful Trainee Act, your lawyer will attempt to get you guilty plea under MCL 333.7411. If the judge accepts this plea and you successfully complete all of the terms of the sentence, the conviction will become non-public. This means it can only be accessed by the state and/or federal governments.


Title: Gyneocologist was a creep and now there is a settlement

Question:
I live in Europe, but I went to a university in the US (California), where a story broke about the gynecologist at the student health center behaving inappropropriately and basically sexually harassing/abusing his patients. Unfortunately, I am one of them who was his patient at one time. When the story initially broke I submitted a brief written statement of my experience to my university through an anonymous hotline they set up, though I included my student ID, name and email.

Now, there are several people suing this doctor (or the university? Not sure), I don’t really want to be involved in a whole lawsuit, I don’t really know how it works, nor do I have the means to hire a lawyer and I don’t live in the US anymore either. But, a settlement agreement has been approved (final approval pending until after deadline to submit claims). It means I can’t sue, which for me wouldn’t be an issue I suppose.

As I understand it, I basically have three options (beyond ignoring the whole thing and suing):

1. Receive a check of 2,500 USD automatically for simply qualifying as a class member;
2. Fill out a lengthy form, i.e. a written statement of everything and be eligible to receive 7500-20 000 USD, or;
3. Submit the written statement plus be willing to be interviewed and be eligible to receive up to 250 000 USD.

I am from a European country where this is not really a thing. You can sue people, but settlements of this kind or suing for enormous amounts of money is not a thing. So, I am very confused and uncomfortable with this whole process. I would be up for submitting both a written claim and be interviewed. I have so many questions and worry about how to proceed.

A special website was set up for the settlement, and with that a contact email/number to ask questions. Plus, if you need or want any assistance in filling out the claim form, the court has appointed attorneys to represent settlement class members at no cost for me. I want to contact them directly with all of this, but I don’t know exactly how it works in terms of which “side” they are one. As in, is their goal to unconditionally help settlement class members, or is their goal to have a few of those as possible?

So I suppose my main questions are:

1. Should I pursue option 1, 2 or 3 under this settlement?
2. Somewhat silly, but can/should I contact the settlement/attorneys with these and other questions?

I am sorry if I am leaving out any important info, will update if there is something else I should have included.

Answer:
 This really isn't a legal question so much as a question of what you personally want to do, and are comfortable with doing.
You can definitely call the attorneys to ask questions, and I would also ask if they have some sort of a liaison or support worker to talk to about what to expect.Answer #2: I'm assuming this is about USC.° This settlement is from the university, which had copious evidence of wrongdoing and failed to take action. The doctor's criminal case is something else. I strongly encourage you to contact the law office to discuss your circumstances.

°For those who don't know, this happened to thousands of patients.


Title: Probation

Question:
Hello guys, I just got put on year probation for “criminal damage to property” I had that charge pending and then I had court soon but then I got caught selling mushrooms at school. The DA said if I plea out to the criminal damage to property that they will toss out the distribution charge, and that’s what Happened I got one year probation on June 28. My question is that is there anything I can do to get out probation? Is there other choices for me? Or am I just basically stuck for a year. I just turned 16
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 > My question is that is there anything I can do to get out probation? Is there other choices for me?

No and No. You already got a sweet deal. I would stick to that and be on your best behavior. When you break the law, there are consequences.

I guess I spoke too soon, the other option would be to turn down the DA and go to jail (although you have already accepted the deal, so I guess that's the bed you are stuck with)

Seriously, probation for two criminal charges? You just won the lottery. Be happy that the consequences were more severe.


Title: My neighbors tied their huge dog to my fence and it ended up breaking my fence.

Question:
I'm a pretty non controversial guy who lives in Alabama and we have been living here over 4 years and have not had any problems with my neighbors. I'm pretty sure the fence is on my side of the property (was already up when we bought the house). About a year ago, my neighbor tied his huge dog up to our fence. He put two brackets up and ran a chain in between them and then another chain or leash to his dog so his dog had more room to run. He did this without asking us if it was okay.

Well, about 3 months ago, one of the post broke and the fence started sagging outwards there. He conveniently moved his dog further up our fence to a non sagging section before eventually building a fence under his porch for his dog.

Now the broken beam and the boards attached to it eventually gave away all the way and almost fell completely over to his side of  the property. He mentioned to my wife that we should get our fence fixed and my wife was upset and told him that we didn't know how to fix it and he told us he would find someone to fix it, we would just have to negotiate the price. My wife told him no. I don't like causing issues with anyone but this seriously pisses me off. He ties his huge dog up to our fence and breaks it and then had the audacity to tell us to pay for it. Is there anything legal we can do?

P.S. I don't have any pets or anything so i'm content to just let the fence stay broken. It seems to bother him more than us.  Petty revenge I guess until he either caves in and fixes it himself or we resolve the issue some other way.

TLDR: Neighbor tied huge dog to fence, broke the fence, he wants us to fix it because it's leaning into his property.

Answer:
 You need one of these.  Ask your neighbor to help.  Will take you an hour tops.

http://www.homedepot.com/catalog/productImages/400/eb/eb43c059-9cac-4f63-9709-d7c180ea0922_400.jpg

I buy them at Home Depot.  $13(?).   Called a Fence Mender.  There are two in my garage, I'd come help if you were closer  :o)Answer #2: Tell him that you will fix the fence but only if he agrees to not tie the dog up to it anymore. You're spending too much time and energy on this. Just fix it and be done.Answer #3: I would point out that there is no earthly way a dog could break down a 4x4 post unless that post was already damaged.  Unless the dog made it his mission to chew on the post every day for months, just pulling on a properly-set 4x4 post would never dislodge it.

If the bottom of the post was rotten because of improper setting or drainage, then collapse was inevitable anyway.Answer #4: IANAL, but alternatively, you if don't care about the fence, just take it down.  If he wants it, he can build a new one.

Or just tell him that it's not worth it to you to fix, and that you're considering tearing it up, but if he really wants it to stay, he can pay to fix it and you'll do him the favour of leaving it up.


Title: Apartment gate causes car damage

Question:
At my apartment the gate has been messed up (mostly just not opening at times) and coming home today went to drive in behind another person (only about 3s had passed, I do this every day) and the gate smashes into my car causing me to need a completely new door. I had not seen the email but they said they aren't responsible for gate incidents. They said they aren't going to pay for repairs and I may have to fix their gate. Should I talk to a lawyer.

Also I am so upset with this apartment for the school. I have the porch completely rotted. Water damage that has been filed and nothing done about for 2 weeks, the gate not letting us leave apartment, and tons of other small things. Right now I really want to break lease but I feel that is just me over reacting because I'm mad about car incident. Any advice reddit? Is this legal for them not to pay? A police report has been filed about vehicle

Edit: I am located in Tyler texas going to shool at ut tyler

Answer: does the lease you signed mention anything about proper protocol for entering and exiting the gates? mine specifically states not to follow behind the car ahead because it's designed to let just one vehicle in at a time. as it stands right now the gate has sensors and won't continue to close if there's anything in its path but if it ever malfunctions and closes anyways that's all on me.


Title: Devious Beekeepers

Question:
My roommate recently got a job as a beekeeper and the employees are proving to be sus. He was initially told he would get $15/hr for the training period and then move to $17/hr after 2 weeks. The employers have been withholding his pay for extended periods of time causing me to have to loan him rent money, and then they are shorting him when they pay him.

For example, today he received a paycheck for $981 to compensate him for a 148.5 hour pay period (2weeks). When he asked his employer they said he was only getting paid $12/hr. That doesn't even add up though as 12*148.5 should be like ~1600 after tax.

So basically they lied about how much he would be making, withhold pay for no reason, and are shorting him. I told him to get his pay stub and call the BBB but I don't actually know anything about reporting this or what documents you would need. Please advise, Reddit! Location is Idaho panhandle, USA

Answer:
 He needs to file a wage claim with the [Idaho Dept. of Labor](https://www2.labor.idaho.gov/WHClaim?AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1).

The BBB is not a government agency. It's basically just old-school Yelp. It cannot do anything for anyone.


Title: I found the perfect home to rent, but the owner works off shore and is unavailable to show me the property. He wants me to sign a lease and pay a deposit before he sends me keys to the place. What can I do to ensure I’m not getting screwed over?

Question:
I’m trying to get out of my current living situation and I’ve been searching high and low for a suitable home for my daughter, my cats, and myself. Yesterday I came across a listing for a house in a great area that was in my price range, allows cats, and includes utilities. As far as I can tell, this is exactly what I’ve been looking for.

I messaged the owner of the home to see when I could check it out and he emailed back stating that he works off shore and is unable to travel to show me the property, and that I should drive over to it and look at it from the outside as best I can.

He said that I’d need to fill out and application and allow him to do a background check, and if that came back okay he would send me a lease agreement. Then I’d need to pay the deposit and he’d send me the keys to the place.

He said there was a previous situation in which he sent the keys to someone and they moved in without paying anything and he doesn’t want to deal with that again.

He also said that in the event I get the keys after payment and I am unhappy with the property I will be refunded my money as soon as I send the keys back.

I want to rent this house, but I can’t sign a lease or pay anything without actually seeing the inside, right? I’m trying to be objective so I don’t get scammed, but I also don’t want to lose this opportunity if he’s for real.

What can I do to ensure that a) he’s for real, b) I can get into the house to check it out before I sign anything, and c) I don’t get scammed?

Thanks in advance.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 It is a scam. Answer #2: Its a scamAnswer #3: >Yesterday I came across a listing for a house in a great area that was in my price range, allows cats, and includes utilities.

Yeah uhm nope.

>I messaged the owner of the home to see when I could check it out and he emailed back stating that he works off shore and is unable to travel to show me the property, and that I should drive over to it and look at it from the outside as best I can.

Translation: I don't have a key to the property because I don't own it and am just a scammer.

>What can I do to ensure that a) he’s for real,

He's real, a real scammer trying to use one of the more common scams.

>c) I don’t get scammed?

Walk away and keep on looking.Answer #4: A scam is what it be.

Can't meet the landlord in person?  Can't see the inside of the unit?  Plz to send money before you can see or meet anyone?

Scammy\-scam\-scam\-scam.  They'll take your money and run, no matter what convincing\-but\-absolutely\-bullshit story they give you.

If they actually had a property to rent, they'd hire a local property manager who you could meet in person and who could show you the place, inside and out, before asking for money.


Title: Is it legal for an employer to have a "tip" jar that goes only to them?

Question:
Hi, I don't know if this has already been asked but I couldn't find anything about it on this sub.

Pretty much title. I work at a fast food place in a mall, and there's a big jar that has "TIPS" scrawled across the front. All of the money goes to the owners though.

I live in South Carolina.

Answer: No, it's not legal at all. Tips belong to employees. You can file a complaint with the Department of Labor, since that rule is a federal level rule, but South Carolina may have equivalent rules and agencies. But the kind of place that does this will also probably find a reason to fire you if you complain, so I'd be looking for new employment.


Title: [CA] My employer switch me from full time to part time with out notices I lost my PTO and Insurances benefits anything I can do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If you're in California you can't lose earned vacation (or PTO if it's combined) ever. If you had it on the books they either need to pay you for it or let you keep it.  If you mean you no longer accrue going forward, then that's legal.


Title: Can you get out of a lease if you lose your job? Otherwise, how the hell can people actually sign leases?

Question:
I live in one of the most expensive areas in the country. I'm probably going to wind up putting half my paycheck towards housing soon, leaving me VERY little to actually save each month. I am naturally a very paranoid person, because "worst-case scenarios" usually wind up being reality for me.

One of the things I'm worried about in finding a house, is quite literally every single place I've looked at requires signing a one-year lease. In a perfect world, that would be fine... but what if I lost my job? At my previous employer, I was making just about *half* what I currently make; my job is incredibly specific, meaning it would be *very* difficult to find another job, and I could guarantee it wouldn't be at my current salary.

If worse came to worse, what are your options? Furthermore, if you were to declare bankruptcy, would that free you of the obligations of the lease? (chances are, I'm going to wind up spending somewhere in the neighborhood of $2k/month after utilities, and that's not even going to be for a *nice* 1bed).

Just curious about the legalities on this, because I want to make sure that I'm not getting in over my head. My current living situation has about worn me down, and just worried that signing a lease could put me in a really bad spot, if anything went south with my job.

Answer:
 No, leases generally don't include gainful employment terms. Most people sign leases because most don't lose their job each year.

You can see what the penalty is for breaking early before you sign it, but those vary widely. Bankruptcy puts your creditors in line to fight over what you can pay. It's a last ditch effort saying you can't meet your obligations, and very much not something you ever want to plan on ("well I could always just be bankrupt").

This is more of a r/personalfinance question really on how to have savings, budgets, and living expenses.Answer #2: No, you can't get out of a lease because you lost your job. Term contracts are what they are.

However, you can often sublet or assign a lease, or buy it out. Even failing that, _other than in Arkansas_ you can walk away - it's a civil matter over money, not a criminal matter resulting in jail time, if you breach the lease. And yes, generally that debt would be dischargeable in bankruptcy.

However, 50% of your income on housing is one of the ways people define poverty. You might want to look for something a bit more affordable, so that you can build up a rainy day fund to carry you through surprise unemployment and similar issues. If possible - I know not every municipality makes this easy. Roommates may help spread the load, too.


Title: Woman refuses to sell her house to me

Question:
So my husband and I own a home together and we are in the process of selling it and buying another home. We’re doing that through a contingency sale, meaning the person selling us their home knows that we’re going to pay for the home they are selling with the profits from selling our current home. So we have our house sold already, we’re just waiting to close, no problems there. We’re almost done with the buying process of the new house. We’re just waiting for the appraisal to come back, and then we’re good to close.

The problem is, the owner of the new house is now saying that if we don’t close on the 11th she’s not selling us the house. The date has been pushed back already because of unforeseen events (like coronavirus), but in my experience closing dates get pushed back all the time? Two weeks ago she got into it with the realtor (she hired) and refuses to talk to him anymore. The realtor also refuses to talk to her. So we’ve been middle men between them so they don’t have to talk to each other anymore. We’re under a contract though so idk if she can just refuse to sell us her house now? The realtor has been no help at all. What should we do?

Answer: The seller has no obligation to extend the contingency period beyond the original window.


Title: Fiance is a waged employee being pressured into doing work outside of normal working hours with no pay.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: She can keep an accurate recording of her hours and file a compliant with the [WV Division of Labor](http://www.wvlabor.com/newwebsite/pages/Wage_Hour_main.html) who can compel her employer to pay her for all the hours she's worked. It would be ideal if she could get her employers position (i.e. not paying for hours worked) on record in an email.


Title: Children getting fleabites from school playground. Owner aware, and does not want to send out an e-mail because it "looks bad." Legal?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Call community Care licensing and file a report. You can do it anonymously. Answer #2: Just for the hell of it. The bites:
http://imgur.com/f6hZqWEAnswer #3: Not only will the kids get bitten, they will also carry fleas into their own homes.

This is going to be a lot worse for the owner if she doesn't step up and get it fixed.Answer #4: Nothing ever bad came from fleas biting people right? Nothing Black Deathy at all...


Title: Has my step son's father gone too far?

Question:
I appreciate any feedback in advance, and am grateful for this sub. First and foremost, we live in the state of California. My wife and I have been together for a few years. She had a son who is now 8, and the father has been a problem since day one. Just to give a quick idea of the type of person he is: has had a restraining order, has no problem yelling to intimidate to get what he wants, and lies to make himself look better.

Recently he's been creating lies about his son in order to pick fights with my wife and I. He claims that his son told him that he isn't allowed to have anything on his phone pertaining to his life at his dad's house. Something our son denies. When we confronted the father, he denied ever saying it and he basically spent all day Mother's Day texting my wife about what a horrible parent she is and how I shouldn't be allowed anywhere near him on pickups. She asks him to stop texting, which he always ignores until I get involved and tell him to stop. After his recent behavior, our son has stated that he was afraid to go to his next visit over fears that his dad will yell at him. Sadly, our son remembers a lot of his father's behavior towards my wife growing up and deep down is afraid of his dad.

Is there anything we can do here? More specifically, when my wife asks him to stop texting and he doesn't, is there much of anything we can do aside from documenting the event?

I'd like to do my best to file a police report, but I tried that once before without much luck. The father isn't allowed at our residence anymore after screaming and yelling outside our home. When the cops arrived they did nothing as he had already calmed down.

I hope I didn't leave anything out, and that this is appropriate for this sub. Thank you for your time.

Answer: You may want to petition the court and seek modification of the visitation plan if he is abusive to the child. Otherwise not much you can do. I don't think you are at police report stage.


Title: CA Got an automated call, now the number is texting me claiming I impregnated them.

Question: Who ever is texting me now say that I impregnated them, and they’re underage and they know my name. Saying we met on tinder. I recently deleted my tinder. I asked them to leave me alone or I’d report them to police, now they’re saying they’ll do the same since they’re underage. Never met the person, or anyone off of tinder. Kind of worried because I’m going through an investigation for a clearance.

Answer:
 IANAL, but if you've never met them/don't know who they are, then there's literally nothing connecting you to them. How could they ever even substantiate the claim in court. No previous messages, no previous calls, there's literally no evidence you ever even met themAnswer #2: Sounds like a variation on one of the common top /r/Scams "the underage girl scam"

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Title: I split up with a girl 10 years ago. Today I found out she has a 9 year old boy that looks just like me. How do I even begin to find out if he’s my son? [VA]

Question:
In 2009, I had an 8 month whirlwind with a highly unstable girl that ended poorly.  Long story short, we got together, she got pregnant by someone else early on, we broke up, she had an abortion, we got back together, found out she was hooking up with her boss, and we broke up for good- I went no contact, moved to a different state (NC), and changed my number.

I got curious today and looked her up on Facebook.  She’s living in the same place with some guy- and has 2 kids.  By the pictures, the oldest, a boy, just celebrated his 9th bday.  If that’s correct - there’s a very good chance I may be his father.  The dates align, and he looks enough like me that I couldn’t breathe when I saw him.

I could say “it’s been 9 years, the kid might be happy, why ruin his reality?”   But, if I am his Dad,  I want a relationship with him if possible.   I can forgive my ex for not telling me, but if he’s mine, I want to be in his life.

If I reach out to my ex, there’s a good chance she either lies or just doesn’t respond.  Quite frankly, she was crazy as hell.   If she doesn’t respond, or I think she’s lying - do I have any legal right to know?    How do I initiate that process?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 You can file a paternity case in the county where the child lives. But consider the repercussions of kicking that door wiiiiide open.Answer #2: You talk to a family law attorney about filing a paternity case and seeking custody if you are indeed the father.Answer #3: If he wasn't yours and she lied, then it wouldn't get very far and all you would be out is the cost of a paternity test.

If he was yours, it just seems unlikely that a mother would say no to child support after 10 years, crazy or not.


Title: [MI] Applied at family dollar, manager I interviewed with quit. New manager says she wants to redo EVERYTHING, could lose my offer. Can she really revoke a previously extended offer?

Question: New interviews, another background check, and a new drug test. It'll be a week or two before my first interview, so I'm looking at like a month or a month and a half before I start work, "if you even match up to what I'm looking for" (her words). I posted a few days ago about this situation before I talked to new manager, and people over there said since I passed background and everything that I'm technically already hired. So can she revoke previous manager's offer? If she decides not to hire me, is there anything I can do as far as contacting the district manager or HR?

Answer:
 > If she decides not to hire me, is there anything I can do as far as contacting the district manager or HR?

You can do that. But you have no legal right to the job offer; it can be revoked at any time.


Title: How would I go about getting emancipated? [TN]

Question:
 I'm 15 and I'm pretty sure the state of TN has no minimum age for petitioning to emancipate. I'm hoping to either start the process now or when I get sixteen.

I have a few reasons for wanting to do this:

* I currently live with my mother, and the neighborhood we live in is rather dangerous. Plus, our house has needed a major repair done that she has outright refused to do, which affects my personal hygiene and puts me at possibly risk of illnesses.

* I would live with my father however, he 'does not approve of my lifestyle' (I'm gay and an atheist). We have a very, very *estranged* relationship.

* In my childhood I suffered both emotional and verbal abuse to the point of me being diagnosed with a mood disorder. Everyone I have seen or been evaluated by has suggested that I have intensive therapy because of trauma. Regardless of this, neither of my parents have taken active steps to get me help.

* I'm not sure if this has significance or not, but my current homelife is problematic. I wouldn't consider it special needs, but due to how severe my disorder has gotten I need someone to have patience when it comes to emotional outputs, stressful situations, etc with me. My mom is unable to provide this because she's extremely hotheaded and isn't all that understanding. We've tried family therapy before but it hasn't helped. Plus, due to the dangerous neighborhood, I'm constantly scared for my wellbeing.

  I am able to provide for myself financial wise. When it comes to school I had a few bumps in the road (mostly caused by emotional issues) last semester, I was able to end it decently enough. I'm a good student and I'm possibly set to graduate early. The only thing that I think could hurt my chances is the fact that since I'm 15 I can only get a learner's permit, so I don't have a car. I think I could qualify for taking the bus at the school, but I feel as if it'd be overlooked.

 I've researched it, however, the closest guide I've gotten isn't that detailed and I cannot find the application that I'm supposed to submit. My county's chauncery and circuit court sites don't seem to have them up. And I was wondering what my chances would be in general and if my reasons would hold up.

Answer:
 > I am able to provide for myself financial wise.

 What does this mean?
Where do you get enough money to feed, clothe and house yourself?

 > Plus, our house has needed a major repair done that she has outright refused to do, which affects my personal hygiene and puts me at possibly risk of illnesses.

 You need to call CPS and speak to your counselor and teachers about your home life.