Title: Poor medical advice cost newborn another 2 days in hospital

Question:
I'll try to keep this short. My wife and I had a perfectly healthy baby girl recently. We are breastfeeding, but baby girl was not getting enough food and became jaundiced bu the time we left.

During our hospital stay, we had several lactation consultant nurses tell us we could not use a breast pump until a month later after we mentioned that it would be easier for us and we'd be able to tell how much she was getting. We were discharged, and immediately had to return 14 hours later after baby girl developed a severe case of jaundice.

This stay, while it likely won't cost us anything as I'm certain labor and delivery has taken us past our insurance maximum, has cost us significant time, emotion, and lost work time. The nurses and doctors in the pediatric department echoed our concerns about the mentality of their own hospital's consultants and how it often ends up with otherwise healthy babies ending up back at the hospital.

Do I have any recourse? Will complaining about any charges passed to me get me anywhere?

Pennsylvania, USA.

Answer: (IANAL) Are sure not using a breast pump led to your daughter's hospital stay? Unless you have concrete proof that not using a pump caused your daughter to develop jaundice, you don't really have legal recourse. You could complain, and should if you feel it's warranted, but it probably won't result in much.


Title: Work being done at house, landlord hired people to do it...at night.

Question:
A few days after I moved into this house the city did a rental inspection and found some major things that need to get done. It is estimated to be about 2 weeks of work...but the guys the landlord hired are going to be doing it at night, night during the day, from 745PM to 345AM.  I found out at the last minute - he had said they'd be starting on Tuesday and Tuesday evening I called him to let him know just an FYI that they never showed up at all.  And nonchalantly he was all "oh they are working overnight so they will be there soon."

I am concerned about this because (a) these are my prime sleeping hours and (b) it creeps me out a little to be sleeping in a bedroom without a lock while a bunch of guys I don't know are in my house.

I immediately told the landlord my concerns about this and he said he would let the guys know to be quiet, and that they would bring me some earplugs. Sure enough one of the guys brought me a crappy pair of earplugs and called me princess.  Furthermore the work they were doing was instantly very very loud, and I never would have been able to sleep with it going on if I had stayed (I ended up leaving and going to a friend's house because I was freaked out and it was so loud).

I just talked to the landlord again after waiting all day for him to call me back and he said that the guys are giving him a discount in exchange for being able to do the work at night.  Then he said if I want to pay the difference to have the work done during the day instead he'll arrange it. Obviously I do not want to pay anything for this of course.

And not surprisingly my lease doesn't actually say anything to specify or guarantee that work will be done during daytime hours...

At this point if it continues I am going to have to sleep somewhere else for my own comfort and peace for the next two weeks.

I am wondering if by some miracle I have some legal defense here to have this done during the day instead of at night.

Edit: Des Moines, Iowa

Answer:
 You have a slum lord on your hands. In your shoes -- and this is not legal advice -- I'd reach out to the city rental inspection office, as they already have a file open on this guy. Between renting out a place with serious problems, arranging for work that clearly violates the habitability of the space (in violation of the lease), and suggesting that YOU foot some of the bill for the legally mandated repairs... You know one thing and that is this landlord is scummy, and this probably won't be the last time he mistreats you.

I'd be looking to get out of the lease and move, if at all possible. Your city or local council person can help you understand the local renters protections. Answer #2: IANAL, but (1) I'm pretty sure that breaks the covenant of quiet enjoyment (your right to peacefully use and enjoy the rental property), and (2) I'm also pretty sure that except in case of emergency, your LL can only enter (or arrange for a 3rd party to enter) during "reasonable hours", normally business hours, unless agreed to beforehand.

[Iowa 562A](https://www.legis.iowa.gov/docs/code/562A.pdf), 0.19 states

> The landlord shall not abuse the right of access or use it to harass the tenant. Except in case of emergency or if it is impracticable to do so, the landlord shall give the tenant at least twenty-four hours’ notice of the landlord’s intent to enter and enter only at reasonable times.Answer #3: Excessive and nuisance noise, which includes construction noise, is generally restricted to working hours such as 7AM-5PM and may be prohibited entirely on weekends (especially Sunday), and certain holidays.

Check your city bylaws and if applicable, inform your landlord that you insist that the construction be performed during lawful hours as required by law.


Title: (Indiana) Landlord rummages through apartment while moving out.

Question: I've been renting of this guy since January 2017. I signed a one year contract, so it's technically been up for 3 months now. Since day one, my landlord has been very invasive. Random stops, he will find random things for me to pay for weekly, if my wife answers the door, he will nudge his way through the door to "inspect."  No notice or anything. I allowed it because I didn't want to be in bad terms with my landlord as I had nowhere else to go. Last week, he came to collect rent and he heard through the grapevine my wife thought he was an asshole. So he started talking disrespectful about her to me. The other day, my neighbor told me he came in while nobody was there, and started going through my stuff. I'm at my wits end with this dude. Tomorrow I'm grabbing he rest of my belongings to officially be out of there. I'm already expecting him there to start drama, collect more money, whatever. How should I handle this and is he in the wrong?

Answer: Inform him in writing that he is not welcome to enter your apartment without prior written notice as specified by state law and unauthorized entry will be considered trespass. If he enters the apartment without notice or permission, you may call the police, even if he is your landlord. If you move out now you will be breaking your lease and may be responsible for unpaid rent. You are not required to answer the door when your landlord comes by unannounced, and in fact you should probably stop doing it if all he ever does is pester you. If this situation really escalates, you may be within your rights to change the locks in order to protect your privacy and peaceful enjoyment of the property afforded to you by your lease agreement.


Title: Friend's landlord is demanding he build additions to the house (Colorado)

Question:
Hey there,

So- my friend (who doesn't use reddit) is in quite a situation. He has signed some sort of lease with this woman who is pretty disagreeable. Beyond the personal issues, she has been demanding that he build an addition to the house, as well as many other monetary demands that are not in writing.

Is it possible for him to break the lease if he has some of these demands in writing? Sorry for the brief question, I don't have more info that this. I appreciate your help.

Answer: No. This isnt going to break the lease. He can just refuse. Answer #2: What does he lease say? It all boils down to the language of his lease. Nobody here knows what he agreed to do other than him. Answer #3: As a general rule, you can't break a lease just because your Landlord is a pushy idiot. That said, you might have your friend take the lease to a landlord/tenant lawyer and review it. Landlords like this who make unreasonable demands may have also included unenforceable clauses in the lease.Answer #4: Does she live at the house also? Does he rent out the whole house or just a room or something? Ive never heard of a landlord storing their stuff at a house they are renting out. Thats crazy!


Title: My brother was hit by a car while riding his bike (ontario)

Question: so he was riding his back back from work and a car didnt stop before making a right turn. my brother was riding on the on the sidewalk; he tried to stop but couldn't. so he got hit by the car and he fell. the driver got down asking if he was alright. my brother only got his license plate number but no other identifying information was taken. what should we do? hes visibly alright now with only a few scratches and shoulder pain. hes going to the walk in soon.

Answer: He should go to the doctor but so far he has no damages. Also, he shouldn't be riding on the sidewalk, that is likely illegal.


Title: unethical denist procedure

Question:
In February of this year, I had a root canal procedure done at 8 o'clock in the morning in a Los Feliz dentist office. The dentist took one x-ray. In the middle of the procedure she told me the nerve was too complicated for her and I had to go to a specialist. Mind you, she did not elaborately explain to me the procudure and cost. I could not speak for I was numb but the secretary told me not to worry because they will take the money from my insurance. Bothered and in pain, I drove to Glendale to finish the first process of my root canal with a specialist.

Now, in August/September of this year, I have to pay 1000 to my new dentist because I no longer have sufficient funds in my insurance.

I currently have a professor who is a Criminal Defense Attorney and told me I have a legitamate case to bring to Small Claims court. On the other hand, I asked my current dentist if they agree, and they got a bit upset and said I didn't have a claim but gave me a $180 filling for a cavity for free.

Can anyone give me substantial information about this? is the dentist or attorney right?

Answer: There is an ADA code for an incomplete root canal; do you happen to know what codes were used by both providers?


Title: Burying a family member against their religious principles (CA)

Question:
Hello LegalAdvice! My family faces a conundrum and I hope you can provide some insight. A distant relative (who we have had very little contact with over the last 20 years) died suddenly. It does not appear that our relative had a will, and under pressure from the coroner my elderly family member (who is the designated Next of Kin) had the body claimed and prepared according to the previously expressed wishes of the decedent's mother (who died decades ago).

Here's the problem. Aparantly, the decedent converted to another religion in the past decade, and it seems that the decision for burial my family member made is in direct violation with the religious law of the decedent's new faith.

Morality aside (I am personally opposed to the decision that was made, but have no authority in the matter), could the next of kin face legal repurcussions for doing this? This relative seems to have formed strong bonds with others in this religious community and I'm worried that they will try to prove the next of kin acted against the practices and wishes of the deceased. This may not be relevantc but there is a potentially substantial estate that these friends have already started making noise about, and my relatives are generally of the opinion that these religious friends are acting out of greed and not concern for the mortal remains of the deceased.

The next of kin has already hired a probate lawyer, but no one seems to think that the burial decision might make this an even more contentious situation except myself. What are the thoughts of the legal eagles of Reddit?

Answer:
 Without a written will I'm pretty sure my next of kin could give me a Satanic burial if they desired. I'm not even sure her friends would have standing to sue.Answer #2: >could the next of kin face legal repurcussions for doing this?

I don't think so. An admittedly quick google search makes it appear that the next of kin's right to determine how the body is disposed of is absolute in California, and the main source of static is from other people who claim that they are the NOK and want to do something different with the body. If there's no argument about who the NOK is, what they've done with the body is their own business.

>my relatives are generally of the opinion that these religious friends are acting out of greed

A not-unreasonable assumption. Let them pray for it, have the NOK's lawyer do the law thing and we'll see what happens next. Answer #3: This is why you always always always have a will. Also, as a CSB aside, make sure your attorney has a sense of humor when talking to them about your will. Mine didn't, which is why my will now stipulates that on my death I am to be dressed in ceremonial Viking armor, and set on fire atop a drifting longboat. My fiance was not thrilled about that.


Title: (Non-resident) Having two SSN numbers due to error

Question:
I was visiting US a couple of years ago when we were students on a J1 Work and Travel program. Me and my friend applied for a SSN after arriving in NYC, indicating his relative's mailing address as we didn't have a place to rent at the time. We then moved to a different city, rented a room and dropped by a local SS office to ask if we could have the SSN cards mailed to our rental address instead. We received them allright in a few weeks.

Now a couple months later, just about a week before our departure, we receive another SSN number (a different one, not the same as the first we received) re-mailed from the relative (might be the other way around, don't think it matters). Obviously some clerical error.

Now I didn't care much about it then at the time, we were about to leave and just found it funny. I've used the first SSN I received for my job, the other one was just opened from the envelope and never used.

I'm not a resident, but now I'm considering positions in the US to work, and remembered about this. So here is the question:

I'm aware that using to SSNs is illegal, and I have no intention on doing that. Is having two SSNs due to error in any way illegal? If I were to work in the US, should I notify the SS administration about the error (will there be any trouble because of that)? Or should I just destroy the second number and forget about it? I've been to US a few times after as a visitor, no issues.

Answer: Have you tried calling Social Security? Plan to wait on hold for an hour or so before they answer but once you get someone on the line they can probably answer your question.


Title: Unfamiliar neighbor's dog bit me yesterday, should I report it?

Question:
Hi, I hope this is in the right sub.

So I was on a run around my large apartment community early yesterday morning when a neighbor (who I don't know)'s dog bit and hung onto my thigh. The dog was leashed, but neither (apparently) nor the dog noticed I was there until the dog started barking. I swung onto the grassy patch between the sidewalk and road to give the dog room but it had slack on the leash and latched into me. I hit it off and (stupidly) kept running because I was scared. I didn't originally think he broke skin, but about 5 minutes later my leg was bleeding through my leggings.

I knew which apartment the dog came from, so I went back yesterday evening to inquire about shots. They said he was but didn't have papers.

I live in a pretty high cost community so I'm pretty sure they vaccinated their dog, but am also worried about diseases. However at this point I feel like the only way to get them to provide documentation is to report it to the police...which will definitely get the dog kicked off the property (which I don't really want; I love dogs).

Should I report this? I didn't need stitches or anything.

Thanks!
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 First, you don't have a huge amount of time to act to get vaccinated if the dog wasn't vaccinated. Considering that the downside here is death, you should move quickly to demand the records or get vaccinated.

Second, if the dog bit you, it's likely to bite other people. Failing to report it isn't smart and will allow this to happen in the future.  Had you been a child, this could have been catastrophic.  Answer #2: Did you ask them to contact their vet and get the information? If the dog is vaccinated, the vet will have records and they will be easy to get.


Title: When is it considered prostitution?

Question:
Hypothetical, if there is a woman on a website like Backpage that is explicitly offering sexual favors for money, when is it considered soliciting a prostitute?

-	for example, if I contact her and ask for services but when we meet, instead of sexual activities, I pay her for playing video games with me or watching a movie, would that be considered as prostitution?
-	for example, if I contact her and ask for a romantic but not sexual service such as $150 to kiss her, make out, or cuddle with her for the night, is that considered prostitution?
-	for example, if I contact her and ask for service that is not really sexual but I begin masturbating during the time we spend together and I’ve paid her for spending time with me (we play video games but i masturbate during the time I’ve spent with her), is that considered prostitution? Does it matter if I masturbate in front of her or in a private area away from her during this time I’ve paid her?
-	for example, if I contact her and ask to have sex but I don’t pay her afterwards, is that still considered prostitution or might that be considered rape or theft in a legal sense? What if she never explicitly mentioned payment in her post and I was under the impression that we were just having a NSA encounter but after sex she asks for payment and I refuse to pay, is that still considered prostitution, rape, or theft?

Answer:
 If you have to ask, it's prostitution.

As is, in all of your scenarios there, the first question anyone asks is "why would anyone pay for that service".  You can claim you paid her for video games all you want, but cops, prosecutors, judges and juries aren't stupid.


Title: Can I buy my Dad a legal document giving him ownership of a tree in his yard?

Question:
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Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 He already owns it.  When he transfers ownership of the property,  he can list that as a condition of the sale that the oak tree not be disturbed. Realistically that could mean longer to sell the property because of that condition and likely a decrease in property value when it's sold.  You could pay him whatever that difference in value turns out to be and what the lawyer charges to draw up the details. Answer #2: No one likes to buy houses/land with weird restrictions on them. It decreases the value of the house. Why don’t you do what someone else suggested and sponsor some trees in a forest or something. It isn’t as if your father is going to be able to visit the tree to enjoy it. And it won’t be the only oak on his property any more. It will be the only oak on someone else’s property.

You could hire a lawyer to put a limitation on the property, but what happens if the tree needs to come down for some reason ? Or if the person does cut it down? Is your father going to sue them? He wouldn’t even know.

People don’t cut down trees without a good reason. It is likely the tree will remain unless it dies and becomes dangerous or someone wants to build where it is. If it is the latter, you would be destroying a potential sale.


Title: Should I include an infidelity clause in a prenup?

Question:
The basic situation is my boyfriend asked me to marry him, I (probably) ruined his proposal by telling him I needed to think about it. I have some deep seated issues with fear of infidelity/adultery ruining a marriage, not because I suspect him of anything, but because that’s what ruined my parent’s marriage.

After thinking about it, I thought maybe an infidelity clause would make me comfortable enough to accept him. However, I don’t know enough about them and the fact that we live in different states at the moment, I’m not sure if that would affect going about it.

My questions: Is that the best option? How would I accomplish it if is?

I live in Mississippi, he lives in Pennsylvania. He’s been offered a job in Georgia, so the assumption is that if we did get married, we’d both move there. Thank you.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: If you are seriously considering any kind of prenuptial agreement, you absolutely need to be taking to an IRL matrimonial lawyer about this. The enforceability of prenups is very tricky, and you don’t want to do this one DIY.


Title: I just TP'd a house and I think they know it was me.

Question: Me and a friend TP'd a mutual friend as a form of revenge. He now claims that his parents have footage of us and have pressed charges. I am going back to my home in another city 3 hours away. He is leaving for his mission trip (mormon) today, the Mormon after the TPing. What can we expect?

Answer:
 Google trespassing and vandalism. Answer #2: Trespassing and vandalism charges. If you are charged, get a lawyer. A good apology and offering to clean/cover cleaning charges might be a good idea.Answer #3: Is it possible he's telling you this as revenge for getting him back? He just wants you to sweat it out a bit but in fact the parents don't care?Answer #4: Just go help them clean up. We TP my neighbor's house every year. It's kind of our neighborhood bonding thing. After he comes home we all get a good laugh out of it and help him clean it up.

They were kids once too. Hopefully they can take a joke.  At least TP won't cause damage like eggs could have.


Title: [ON, Canada] Employee threatening to quit and sue for constructive dismissal because she was refused a promotion. I'm okay, right?

Question:
I manage a childcare center in Ontario.  15-18 employees, depending on enrolment and the time of year.

I recently had an employee approach me to ask for a raise.  She was on holidays and called to tell me if I didn't give her an additional $2/hour, she wouldn't be returning from her holidays.  I told her I couldn't give her the raise as she just had one a month ago and hadn't shown any improved performance that would warrant a raise.  I told her I understood if she needed to look for work elsewhere.  Lo and behold, she returned to work on Tuesday as scheduled.

On Tuesday, she found out our school age supervisor is leaving at the end of the month, and asked me for that position.  The position would pay an additional $0.50/hour, but I didn't feel she was the right person for the job, and I didn't want to promote someone who was only interested in the job because of the (minimal) extra money.  She asked who was going to be given the position, and I responded that I hadn't decided yet but that I would likely be looking to hire someone new who had some experience with that age group.

After that brief meeting, she told me if she decided to quit now she would sue for constructive dismissal. It came across as a threat, basically, "Give me the promotion, or I'll sue you".  About half an hour later, she called my office and said she needed to leave for the day because she wasn't feeling well.

So I'm just looking for confirmation that none of this constitutes a constructive dismissal.  I had always understood constructive dismissal to mean changing a person's hours, pay, or responsibility so that their job was fundamentally different from what they were hired for.  Not promoting someone doesn't count, right??

Answer:
 No this is not constructive dismissal. She is throwing terms at you that she doesn't know the meaning of. Answer #2: > It came across as a threat, basically, "Give me the promotion, or I'll sue you".

Ironically, this _would_ be a pretty good reason for you to let this employee go - with notice or pay in lieu, as required by the ESA. This isn't an employee you can have a continuing, constructive professional relationship: this is someone who throws a temper tantrum and threatens your business if she doesn't get her way.

Refusing to give a promotion on demand is not constructive dismissal.Answer #3: Not a direct answer to your question, but a comment.

If she pulls the "give me *this* or I quit" phrase again, respond with "I will not give you *that* so I accept your resignation effective immediately and will provide your final cheque in compliance with the employment standards act."

Then, put it in writing and send it to her along with her final cheque.

She may fight it but you are entitled to accept a resignation offered.Answer #4: IANAL but could this count as extortion/blackmail? She's essentially saying "give me more money/a promotion or I will sue you" Answer #5: This doesn't sound like that - but to be on the safe side, document everything that has happened.


Title: Landlord entered my roommates room without her knowledge or consent. Hawaii.

Question:
Today I came home to some cable installers that were there for a different roommate. They needed access to everyone's room to install it correctly, and I had no problem with letting them in my room to check my cable outlet while I was there.

To keep it brief, one of my roommates is out of town. When my landlord came to try to facilitate the cable installation, he knocked on her door to see if she was home, and then let the cable guys in her room. I texted her a heads up just in case, and she said that my landlord did not mention anything to her at all.

I took a short video recording while it was happening just to get some hard evidence for her.

Needless to say, we've both started looking for a new place.

Under Hawaii's landlord-tenant code, in non-emergency situations, entry without notice is prohibited, and the landlord needs to notify two days prior to entry.

Is there anything that I or she should know? Also, am I in the clear for briefly and discreetly recording the incident if it ever had to come out in court or something? I can't imagine that my landlord values consent very much, but you never know with some people.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Mahalo

Answer: Are you all on one lease or separate leases?Answer #2: Its unlikely that your roommate would have any recourse for this one time entry, especially given the circumstances.


Title: My Mother is a Thief, Please Help!

Question:
Im sorry this is so long.
My mother is and has been a manipulating  thief ever since she left our family when I was 9. I wasn't raised by her, (Thank God!) however, I reconciled with her as an adult at 19.
Since then, she has stolen cash, property, and with the advent of the Internet- identities. She added herself to my sister's phone plan, purchased expensive phones with my sister's cc info, among other things.
I received a phone call today from a debt collection agency, threatening me with malicious intent over a Capitol One CC I NEVER HAD!
I quickly figured out what was going on when he read off my mother's address. I informed him it was my mother who has done this, and promptly sold her down the river. He asked me if I would be willing to testify against her in a court of law. I said yes.
Now, here are my questions:
1. The amount is $500 in CC debt. Plus interest. Will the CC company prosecute her? Or will I have to press the charges to clear my name?
2. This debt is 4 years old. Can I have it removed from my credit report?
3. What rights do I have, really? My mom lives in CT, I live in GA. Do I need an atty? I have no idea if this is just the tip of the iceberg, there may be more theft.
My mother just got her SS check cut in half for lying and getting 10k more than she should have for a year. She doesn't have a pot to piss in. But I'm sick and tired of this crap.
TLDR: My mom stole my identity and racked up debt. What are my options?

Answer:
 Pay none of the disputed debt.

First pull all 3 credit reports.
Lock your credit down with all 3.

Go in person with your papers on the debt to your police department. File a police report.

Contact the creditors and tell them it’s fraud and there is a police report.

She is in big trouble. If you do not do this. If you try to protect her you are then on the hook for the debt.


Title: My seven friends and I got royally screwed by a music festival production company. Looking for advice on how and whether or not to proceed legally...

Question:
Ok, kind of a long story, but wondering what my recourse might be (if any) in this situation summed up below:

7 friends of mine and I went to a music festival recently, Imagine in Atlanta.  We spent 8 months planning it and several thousands of dollars on the passes, RV rental, groceries, gas, other items you buy at festivals...anybody who's been to one knows the drill.  It was in an adjacent state about 2 1/2 hours away.  We figured the best way to go would be not to camp, but to rent an RV and stay there for the weekend.  We all got our passes and our RV pass in the mail in time, found an RV we could use that would be sufficient and rented it.  We registered our passes so nobody could steal them and we could get them replaced if lost...just generally tried to cover all our bases.

Well, the day of the festival rolls around.  It was a three-day festival with Friday and Saturday being the main headlining acts, but extending into Sunday.  We had everything prepared to leave at around 4PM on Friday so we could get there and still have time to see some of the Friday acts.  We leave relatively on time and are excited about the weekend.

As we roll into the festival area is where the trouble started to happen.  As soon as we find the place to go for where we park we are stopped by an attendant in the road before the RV lot.  She asks us to standby as she needs to get some information.  About 45 minutes have passed at this point, and we are informed that there are no RV spaces available.  Everybody understandably flips.  They say the only thing they can do is put us on the side of the road in the RV section, but without power or water hookups.  Anybody who's gone to a festival knows that the only reason to rent an RV is so you can store/cook food, use a private restroom for showers and toilet and to be able to sleep in A/C at night.  None of us brought any tents.  This didn't even cross our minds.

Nobody knows what to do so I take the initiative and set off to find the box office, which I'm told by an information station is where I would need to go to speak with somebody about this.  I find the box office and instantly the representative is combative and I'm guessing that this has already turned into a bit of a shit show...I really had no idea.  I explain the situation and she summons her boss down, who assures me that she is aware of the problem.  This is probably at around 7:30.  She asks me to standby while she hunts down some more information.  She takes my cell phone number, says she'll text me with hers, and tells me she'll contact me shortly.  Guess what happened...I wait around for a little over an hour before heading back to the RV to keep everybody else in the loop and to make sure that somebody will be able to move it when the problem is resolved.  I return to the box office later that night three times to get updated.  We haven't been able to set up everything, most of the girls are inside, a couple of the dudes stayed around with me to try to take care of this situation and definitely don't feel comfortable getting started without having this stuff taken care of.  1:00 AM rolls around and I still haven't gotten any word from anybody, so I go in to try to have a little fun after a wholly wasted night spent basically waiting by the box office for people who said they would return to me with more information.  Nobody ever contacted my about any.  If I wanted to find out what was going on in this whole situation, I had to go to them.  Not that it has anything to do, but they all had shitty attitudes and it was just making things miserable and making us shitty as well.

We sleep in the RV for the night after most of us missed the first night of the festival, it was hot as hell, had to walk 3 blocks to use the bathroom, only had access to disgusting, cold, community showers.

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I go back to the box office the next day and the attendant is surprised this is still going on.  I reach her boss who asks if anybody contacted us last night, which I reply 'no' to and she explains that in order to open a spot for us they had to tow four cars (the spot we wound up in didn't look that was a feasible scenario, so I don't know what truly happened.  We finally get into a spot between 2-3 in the afternoon on Saturday.

We're all pretty pissed at this point:  we had spoiled groceries from no power, we spent thousands to have the weekend go smoothly, put as much forethought into it as we could (we've all been to festivals before) and then just get repeatedly punched in the gut (metaphorically, obsviously) by the staff while not knowing what was going on, missing what we paid for and not being provided the spot that we were guaranteed.  The woman in charge that I spoke to upgraded us to VIP status (hardly an upgrade if you're in an RV), but said she couldn't really do more.  But, that just doesn't cover them dropping the ball and wasting so much of our time, missing basically half the festival, denying us the service that we paid (quite a bit) for and I just don't know how to proceed.  If anybody could give me some advice, it would be much appreciated.  Welcome to answer any questions you may have pertaining to this.  Thanks guys.  This is a great sub.

\*\*TL:DR:  Plan a festival trip for several months, spend lots of money paying for it, renting an RV, paying extra for an RV pass, only to arrive and have them tell us they have no RV spots available, didn't find one for us until halfway through the weekend, made no offer to comp or refund anything, just upgrade us to a mostly pointless VIP, despite that it cost us a shitload of money and time.

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Answer:
 So just to be clear, your showed up to a music festival late (past noon on the first day of the event), were surprised that there wasn't a RV spot when you got there, didn't think to turn on the generator in the RV to provide electricity to the fridge, or ac. The organizers still upgraded your tickets despite this problem stemming from your inability to plan accordingly. Frankly I fail to see where you have any real damages that weren't caused by yourself, and it sounds like you were already taken care of by the folks running the event.

In the future, if you're going to take an RV to a music festival there's a few things you should keep in mind. The parking passes allow you to park on the grounds not that you are guaranteed a spot with RV hookups. That's been the case for every festival I've been to, which have been 2-3 a year for the past 12. Further if you are going to rent an RV you need to know how to properly operate it. And finally if you arrive to the venue after 12 noon opening day of the event, don't be surprised when all the RV hookup spots are taken that's just how these events work.

And one final piece of advice, your failure to plan doesn't constitute an emergency for everyone else. Good on you for registering your tickets, making sure you paid for what you should have. But the fact remains that you showed up late. That's not on anyone else. Get there earlier next time so you can enjoy the event you paid for.

Edit: added the word after


Title: Employer requiring my wife to work more hours than originally required.

Question:
My wife was hired by a small business in Georgia. Her offer letter states 32 hours a week, Tuesday - Friday for a set annual salary. About a year later they are forcing her to work 38 hours without renegotiating pay. New schedule doesn't work for our family and she doesn't really need the extra pay.

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Any recourse? Thanks in advance for the advice!

Answer:
 None, barring a contract or union agreement that says otherwise. Offer letters are not contracts in this senseAnswer #2: > Any recourse?

She can quit and look for another job. If she's salaried exempt, that means she needs to work all hours needed until the work is done which can be over 40 with no OT.


Title: Can employees be paid while in jail?

Question:
So my dad owns a business in Houston, Texas and my brother 'works' for him. I put work in quotes because mostly what my brother does is sell drugs, which he got arrested and convicted for recently and heads to state prison in January.

I have already reported my father and brother to the IRS because I have proof that my brother laundered his drug money through my dad's business with my dads' help. Currently waiting to see if the IRS will investigate that.

My big question has to do with my dad paying my brother while he is jail. My brother will likely be in prison for a full year and my dad plans to claim my brother works 40+ hours a week.

Is it legal for my dad to pay my brother a salary while he is in jail?

Answer:
 Depends on how he calls it.
There are certain things he could call it to get away with that.

IRS actually doesn't care \*where\* the money comes from, they just want a cut. That's why Al Capone went down. He could've BS'd his way and reported income, and never been hit for evasion.


Title: Ex husband’s GF sleeping in same bed as daughter

Question:
My daughter told me that my ex husband’s girlfriend is sleeping in the same bed with his girlfriend (in father’s bed that he shares with new girlfriend). This is extremely concerning to me. Should I do the following:

1. Call the police to make a report
2. Email him and his girlfriend to advise not to do that. I have already told them both before not to sleep with my daughter.

Any other advice is much appreciated.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 How old is the child?

>Call the police to make a report

You have not disclosed any illegal activity.

>Email him and his girlfriend to advise not to do that. I have already told them both before not to sleep with my daughter.

You do not have the authority to tell his girlfriend what to do.

If this behavior is prohibited in the parenting plan, you may move to have ~~her~~ him \[the father\] held in contempt.

Short of that, if you feel that the behavior is endangering to the child, you may report it to CPS.


Title: Apartment complex wants to tow my vehicle because I back into the spot. Pulling in front facing causes the car damage (the parking bumpers are REALLY big). Can I do anything?

Question:
My guess is I can't. It's their community, their policy.

I bought my car in Oct. when I moved here. My lease isn't up until Sep.

In Oct. the first time I pulled into my spot I heard the really loud grinding when I pulled in and freaked. I called and got permission to back in. They've since changed managers, but the rule has always been no backing in. Yesterday I got that stupid sticker pasted to my window that is almost impossible to peel off. I called the office and they confirmed I can no longer back in.

I can pull in front facing and just not pull in that far, but I worry about hanging out too far, and it just annoys me. I pay rent to park at this shitty complex (can't wait to move in Sep.) and they want to control exactly how I park my car, why?

Any advice would be great. I'm sure it's mostly going to be, "Sucks but deal with it until Sep."

edit: I'm in AZ if that helps.

Answer:
 A lot of places actually have a ban on backing in, because it can create an enclosed or tight space where vehicle fumes can accumulate and pose a significant health and safety risk.  It's kind of bullcrap, but I've seen this explanation given more than once for these ordinances/rules.  In fact, I am almost positive that the first time I started hearing this go around was while living in Phoenix and Tempe.

It sounds like you're just not comfortable with where the nose of your car is.  I'd recommend picking something in front of you and making a note of where it is in relation to your dash or another marker as you scoot up slowly, until you reach the 'bump'.  Then try to remember that's as far as you can go each time you pull in.

Edit:  Another poster brought up security/identification, and that is 100% also a contributing factor.  I believe Arizona doesn't require front plates (at least, it didn't when I lived there).

If the rule is in your lease, you're pretty much bound to it; even if it's not, there's a good chance this is a local ordinance, and not just a rule for your complex, and they're just actively enforcing it.Answer #2: This sounds crazy, but you might consider speaking to the new manager.


Title: California - can I record myself while pet sitting?

Question:
Is it legal to record while performing pet sitting in a client's home? Whether using a police - style body cam or recording with a home security camera that I've brought with me? I would presumably be the only human involved in the recording while in the home. If I'm on a dog walk, other humans could be recorded.

It seems like an inexpensive way to possibly defend myself against claims (you broke my vase while pet sitting! You left my door unlocked! Etc) in the home. It seems useful if I encounter a dangerous situation while dog walking (loose dog comes out and attacks my dog client).

Answer: Yes, you can record yourself. You can also record in public.


Title: [IL] Lost out on job opportunity because a previous colleague urged the director not to hire.

Question:
Last week I interviewed for a position with a company, and was told by the recruiter that the director had nearly guaranteed my hire.

Today, I was called by the recruiter and told that a former co-worker of mine had seen my resume on the director's desk and urged the director not to hire me.

I work in a fairly small industry, and a lot of people tend to move back and forth between companies and/or know people throughout the industry.

This was not a person who was put down as a reference or anything like that.  In fact, I'm not sure who it was.  However, I'm concerned that this person could cause more damage.

The recruiter even showed me an e-mail from the director stating that I was exactly what she was looking for in a candidate, but that it would be too hard to have someone join a team that already has bad blood with someone on the team.

Being that it's a fairly small industry, and everyone pretty much knows everyone else, I'm just wondering what protection I have against something like this.

Answer:
 In small industries, rubbing people the wrong way is a sure-fire way to make sure you have little to no job opportunities.

You have no protections.


Title: [Louisiana, US] On salary, but company has written me up for tardiness and stealing hours (showing up late, leaving early).

Question:
I've been doing this for about 2 and a half months now at least. They also use software to track our time spent on tasks (we individually record our time there), and I've been fudging my hours to meet the minimum that they require.

I've just been written up for this, and I'm now a bit worried thanks to them referring to it as "stealing hours from the company". I hadn't really thought of it like that since I'm paid salary (which is only docked if I take a day off; missing hours doesn't impact my pay).

So I've been told to either correct the problem or part ways with them. The whole point of my behavior was to give me an excuse to leave soon (I haven't worked there for very long; just over half a year). I don't intend to list them on my resume. I know this was an immature way to handle it but... I'm terrible at confrontation and telling them I quit when I haven't worked there for very long... Well anyway, I realize this was an immature and cowardly way to go about it. I should just have said "I quit" or given notice like everyone else.

Now I'm afraid that if I leave or get myself fired they might sue me. Should I be worried? How long can they wait to sue me for this?

Answer:
 >  I've been fudging my hours to meet the minimum that they require.

So you have committed, and admit to, time theft. Go on.

> Now I'm afraid that if I leave or get myself fired they might sue me. Should I be worried? How long can they wait to sue me for this?

Them suing you has no baring on if you quit or be fired. The deed is done, they can take action if they choose. They, I believe have up to 10 years to sue since its a contract but its an employment issue and I can't be bothered to look it up.

Most likely they will dock your pay. Do you have any earned leave you can forfeit? Answer #2: If you don't like the job that much, why don't you just quit?  Why do you have to antagonize them so much?


Title: [Tx] Student knowingly exposed another student to HIV. As a teacher, what can I do/what shouldn't I do?

Question:
During a recent parent teacher conference, I learned that one of my students was exposed to HIV by her boyfriend, another student in the school.  The boyfriend is aware of his diagnosis but had unprotected sex with her anyways.

How do I navigate this while needing to balance the privacy rights of the students involved (both minors if that's relevant) with the need to address the situation?  Am I allowed to tell my principle?  Am I required to report this to anyone?  The student herself did not tell me, does that change anything?  Is there anything I definitely should/shouldn't do?  Obviously this is a situation that needs to be addressed, but I don't want to run afoul of FERPA, Title IX or any other laws in the process.

Thanks so much in advance.  Any and all help and insight would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 This would most likely fall under mandatory reporting laws; either way, she needs to get to an ER immediately, get tested, and get PEP. She's in for a few months of hell - Truvada isn't gentle on the body - but it's still better than HIV.

In regards to actual charges? It's treated as assault with a deadly weapon in Texas due to the severity of the effects. If he didn't inform her beforehand, that opens up a whole can of consent issues - most likely, if she had known, she would have said no, which means this would have been intercourse via coercion. Hello, Title IX hell.

Call your district's lawyers, and record the conversation. Do not give that to anyone EXCEPT your lawyer or DSHS (you're a mandatory reporter, if memory serves). You could also simply state (to the female student) that you have credible information that the male student has a serious, communicable condition and deliberately neglected to inform her, but that could open you to liability.

DSHS's regional contact information is at the following link. Find your county, call the coordinator / team, and make it REALLY clear that you have a situation here.

https://www.dshs.texas.gov/hivstd/healthcare/reporting/regions.shtm

Credentials: Former Houston (SBISD) elementary teacher (currently a senior systems administrator) who's had to work with hospitals / DSHS WAY too many times for my liking.Answer #2: That's a Felony in Texas. You need to notify the school's attorney immediately.


Title: (ID-US) Signed a contract for daycare, daycare trying to make me pay fees I feel are unfair. Seeking advice.

Question:
Hello.  First off, I apologize for the wall of text, bad grammar, and bad punctuation.  English class was not my best subject.  Let's get to it.

I have just recently pulled my son from a daycare provider for safety concerns.  I am supposed to give a 2 week written notice before I remove him from the daycare or i get charged a $50 removal fee.  I feel it was unsafe to keep my son under the services of this daycare provider and I did not submit a two week notice. The written notice i did provide was 2 days after we stopped taking him to that daycare.

I did sign a contract which states, "REMOVAL  NOTICE:
You must give two weeks written removal notice before removing your child (children) from (Daycare Name removed). Verbal notice will not be accepted unless given to  (names removed) not just anyone who works at the center. If you do not give notice you will be charged for two weeks regular rates and a $50.00 removal fee."

I guess I am just seeking advice on how well the contract would hold up in court if this daycare tried to take me over $50.00.  The reason of pulling my son out of this daycare is because I feel the employees(whom have violent, misdemeanor, charges against them) are unfit to be daycare employees. The daycare owner, I feel, is not hiring qualified employees.

A co-worker did notice in the "Removal Notice" of the contract that the verbal notice does not state that it needs to be given 2 weeks in advance.  Only the written. I would rather not have to call the owner to give the verbal notice since I have already given a written notice.  If need be, I will call though.   Any help is appreciated.   Thank you for your time.

EDIT:  Thanks for the feedback.  I appreciate the responses and the time you took out of your day to respond.  Sorry if I seemed like a dummy.

Topic:
Contracts

Answer: Yes, that cancellation fee would likely hold up.


Title: My mom's purse with her ID got stolen and someone has used it to get counter checks outside of our state and has stolen almost $30,000 what can my family do?

Question:
My mom recently had her Purse stolen from her car while she was at her friends funeral. She immediately cancelled all of her debit cards and called the local branch of our bank to tell them what had happened. A few day had gone by and nothing seemed to come of it, then my Dad got a call today from the bank asking if anyone in my family was in Spokane witch confused him because He and my Mom live in Idaho, she then went on to say that someone had been using my moms id to go from bank to bank in the Spokane area getting counter checks. I'm not sure what my family can do and this lady has taken enough money for my dad to worry about keeping his business open. we bank through mountain west bank if that helps at all.

Thank you all for any advice you can provide

Answer: It's time to get the police involved.Answer #2: You need to contact the bank immediately and freeze the account. The bank *should* rectify the situation but it may take some time. It may help to go to the bank in person and speak with a banker, preferably a manager.


Title: HIPAA violation?

Question: So I was at my dentist's office getting a periodontal procedure done. This was a three hour procedure. For part of that time, there was an observer. I initially thought that she worked there. Turns out she's the daughter of one of the women who works there that is considering becoming a dentist. She's 17. So to clarify, she's not an employee, she's not a legal adult, and she spent time watching my laser procedure done for at least 30 minutes- could've been longer or shorter- time seems to stand still when you're in the chair. I'm not sure if my name or other information was on the machine being used. She was also the without my permission to observe. This is in California. Were my legal rights possibly violated?

Answer: Do you really want to sue a parent and child over take your kid to work day?


Title: Parking Law on Public Street in Columbia SC

Question: I live in Columbia, South Carolina near the Williams Brice Football Stadium.  On game days, people will park on the road in front of my house and I can’t find parking near my house.  I have called the police but they said since it’s a public street they can’t do anything about it.  I have put up no parking signs but people still park in front of the house.  Is there anything I can do to prevent people from parking in front of my house?

Answer: Petition the city for permitted parking. If the only parking available to you is street parking, that's public and everyone has a right to use it.


Title: Absent father for 10 years then I'm served papers by him today in Arizona requesting legal paternity, long distance parenting, legal decision making custody and child support. Never married.

Question:
I'm a single mother of a 12 year old daughter. We moved from Illinois to Arizona 10 years ago to escape the father who abused us  with severe domestic violence and he was using drugs such as coke. He became a US citizen few years ago as he was born in Pakistan and I left him along with removing his name on the birth certificate and changed her last name to mine due to the above.
Now today he served papers to me from Illinois to Arizona wanting to establish paternity. I work full time but don't have any savings or $$  for attorneys. The father, the daughter and I are all Deaf.  I legally never asked for child support or anything in fear of domestic violence. His father and brothers are violent offenders. He has some records re domestic violence with me and from his ex girlfriends. My daughter met him several times throughout the years but never liked him due to his mean and controlling personality. I'm panicking and need some advice from you.

Answer:
 Did you, in the 10 years since birth, get any state or federal benefits?

Because daddy who did not pay 10 years of child support would be on the hook to repay that $.

He could also be liable for back child support.

A discussion that accepting paternity could result in $$ owed by daddy might dissuade him from harassing you.


Title: [WA]Woman can use the mens room, men cant use the womans rooms. Possible problems?

Question:
This isn't a problem just yet. I would like to see what possibly problems or legal ramifications it might have.

**Back story** My company merged with another company. The other company paid for a huge lease in a fancy building with a great view that ended up costing money. The execs thought it would be cheaper to break the lease and move everyone out of that building and everyone in the company in a certain department to a new building. They were not wrong.

**Issue** The new facility has roughly 50 employees. 49 females, 1 male. There is 1 bathroom for men and one for women. The mens has a urinal and enough space for 1 handicap stall. I have not been in the woman's rest room but as they are both limited in space I would wager theres one normal stall and one handicap stall. This can cause women to wait. When the one guy isn't there they use the mens room. The mens room has a lock on it saying open/occupied. Effectivly if woman use the mens room they can lock it and keep anyone out.

Now all though there is 1 man stationed at that site, he is not there often. I work in a department that requires me to visit different locations and I know there are other men that stop by that site from time to time.

My questions are;

* If I were in the restroom and the female staff did not see or know I was there and decided to walk into the restroom to use it, would I get in trouble or would they?
* If I stop by and I'm denied the use of the restroom for an extended period of time because a woman is in there or a line forms, what are my options?
* Is this a form of discrimination by blocking access for men/letting the women use the mens room but not the other way around?

I am one of the youngest people in the company in my early 30s so its not as if we have to worry about a horny 16 year old walking in on a 17 year old or anything.

Answer: You've gotta be kidding me. There's no legal issue here. You wait until there's an available bathroom, just like you would do anywhere else.


Title: [TX] Neighbors keep complaining about my dogs making noise during the day. How can I fight against HOA fines?

Question:
I pretty much covered it in the title. I'm in Texas, in a neighborhood with an HOA. The neighbor is a stay-at-home dad and he plays in the backyard with his son (who i think is 2-3 yrs old). We have a dog door so the dogs (3) are in and out as needed all day. They are inside at night.

The neighbor keeps complaining that our dogs are making too much noise because they bark when people approach their territory (i.e., the backyard). If it's relevant, the neighbor's dog is also outside all day and frequently starts the barking. None of the dogs are aggressive, they just want to play. And the neighbor's son isn't scared of the dogs, probably because he's used to his own dog doing basically the same thing.

Anyway, I received a notice from the HOA that if our dogs don't stop barking they're going to begin fining us. The HOA restrictions just say "An owner or handler may not keep an animal that makes frequent or long, continued noise that is disturbing to neighbors." The CC&Rs also say "The maintenance, keeping, boarding and/or breeding of animals or reptiles of any kind, regardless of number, is prohibited, except that the keeping of a reasonable number of domestic household pets (as permitted from time to time under the Rules and Regulations) shall be permitted."

I have the option of requesting a hearing regarding the complaints. I don't know what I would argue though. Any suggestions?

Answer:
 If you have three dogs who are free to go outside all day and bark when anything approaches, I'm guessing that the HOA will find the complaints to be valid. I know that if I were at home with my kid who naps and the next door neighbor had three dogs who barked all the time, I'd probably be decently upset also.

Not legal advice, but maybe consider uninstalling the dog doors and hiring a dog walker to avoid the noise complaints?


Title: Open container question involving keg and local delivery van. Indiana.

Question:
   So this is actually about hopefully giving me ammo against my district manager who is on the warpath trying to get rid of me. The portion of my job relevant to the question is that I deliver pizza dough to individual stores from where we make it. We're all employees of the same company just I don't make and serve pizza.

   I was asked by my DM to collect four empty kegs from a store on my route and bring them back with me. I don't know why but that's irrelevant. I refused on the grounds of "I deliver dough not kegs". Shitty excuse I know but I was getting tired of having responsibilities added without any change in compensation. He was pissed and I was resolute. He caved but is now using any excuse to fuck with me in an attempt to fire me.

   I'm hoping that transporting those kegs would have been illegal and therefore mean shithead asked me to break the law. I can totally use that to at least bring him down with me.

Edit: broke up wall of text with *paragraphs*.

Answer:
 Seriously? You're getting a paycheck, not to do any one task, but to do what your boss needs. Do the damn job or quit.

Do you have any *idea* how many times I've had random duties asked of me in my career? Duties that aren't even *close* to my normal job? I do them without complaint, even as a very highly trained specialist.Answer #2: If they were empty it would not have been illegal.

And he doesn't need any reason to fire you besides, "I told him to bring the kegs back and he said no."


Title: Lost my passport before trip after checking in flight- insurance denys coverage

Question:
My passport went missing after flight check in at the airport along with my wallet containing cash. Insurance claimed that (1) since the trip has not begun(still in my home country) I am not covered and also (2) the missing passport is due to negligence therefore not covered.

Within the fine print
(Will not pay.... If you do not act in reasonable way to protect yourself and your property)

I believe (1) is bs. Any advice? And is there any way to prove that i acted reasonably to protect my belongings. Thanks

Im on mandatory conscription to the country ie NO MONEY. Please help

Answer: The mere fact that you lost your wallet and passport seems to me to that it indicates you were not acting in a reasonable manner to protect them.


Title: Buying a firearm

Question: If I am a felon but was never convicted of it am I legal to purchase a firearm? I know a felon in the state of texas can purchase a firearm 5yrs after the date of their conviction being expunged. So me having a felony but never  convicted does this allow me to be ok to purchase a firearm?

Answer:
 You become a felon by being convicted of a felony.

So you're either convicted, or you're not a felon.


Title: Is FIRSTNAME LASTNAME the same as FIRSTNAME MIDDLE LASTNAME

Question: I usually go by FIRSTNAME LASTNAME, but my legal name has a middle name. Would it ever matter if I did not have my middle name on any legal documents? (My name is unique, so no danger of confusion here.)

Answer: Legal rights and responsibilities run to the person, not to the name.Answer #2: Either name will be fine, just ensure that you use your full name for passports etc. I wouldn’t bet on your name being unique though


Title: On Monday I have to take a drug test at work. I already know I'll fail because I use weed. Would it be better for me to take the test and get fired or just quit without taking it? Thank you [Oregon]

Answer: It makes no difference.  You won't be able to get unemployment either way.  The upside of waiting is that they may not fire you, and there are usually some days between the test & the results coming back.  The downside is that it's possible they'll tell future prospective employers that you smoke.


Title: Kid brother hurt himself and is trying to blame me for it, what do i do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > I am sitting here going oh lord not again. My family has tried and failed multiple times to get me in legal trouble and arrested

Quick question: why are you still living in the same place? (I would start looking at the option to move out if you are an adult).

>What do i do in this current situation?

 show them the evidence that you couldn't have done it. (edit: but talk to a lawyer firs IANAL)


Title: Brother got arrested with keys to our shared car, is there anyway I can get them back?

Question: So my brother go arrested with the keys to the car we share on him. I don't know if there are in the stolen car he was arrested in or on his person, but he's going to prison, and will not be home for a couple years. Is there a process I can go through to get the keys back? I live in Texas.

Answer:
 Considering your user name, why bother?Answer #2: Whose name is the car titled under? If it's your car, that will probably help when it comes to claiming the keys.

Also, if you have the vin, it may just be easier (and cheaper) to order a replacement key online. I won't link to a site, but there are relatively (<$40) cheap alternatives to getting dealer made keys/fobs.Answer #3: Thank you all, genuinely. Answer #4: Will the keys be needed as evidence? If so, I wouldn't expect to get them back in the near future. If not, you can go down to the police station and ask how long until you can have them back.


Title: Deceased grandmother had "checks" for me, got dementia, passed away, is there a way to find them?

Question:
I'm sorry that this is so long, but I want to provide as much info as possible.

When I was a around 10 years old my grandmother showed me these documents. Now forgive my ignorance but they looked like a check but colored and possibly with a person's face, similar to money. If my memory is correct they had my name on them too. She explained that they would gather interest and she had one for each birthday for my brother and I, and that we couldn't do anything with them until we were 18.  She had them in her bedroom somewhere and this is where she showed them to me.

Little bit of background, but we grew up poor but my grandmother would look out for us and give us money on birthdays here and there. She always did it "secretly" because my mother is a drug addict and if she knew we got money she would take it from us. So grandma would give it quietly when my mother was outside smoking and such. She showed me these "checks" secretly too.

Fast forward and my grandmother starts having signs of alzheimers and dementia and was diagnosed. Eventually I turned 18 but she had lost a lot of her facilities and it got to the point that I would have to remind her who I was etc. My uncle became get caretaker and got power of attorney.

As these things were going on I was also trying to find my way in life, I started going to school out of pocket and working as soon as I turned 18. I remembered that she showed me those documents but it just didn't seem appropriate to ask about them given all the things that were happening with her.

For a few years my mother and uncle were primary caretakers for her and she passed away last year. My uncle inhereted everything. Now I have kind of accepted that these things are gone for a while now (either mom got a hold of them or uncle got them when he took over), but I'm just wondering if it's possible that these are at a bank somewhere in my name or something and if there is a way to check on this kind of thing.

I'm in California.

Answer:
 [Sounds like savings bonds.](
http://media2.s-nbcnews.com/j/msnbc/Components/Photos/051130/051130_savingsbonds_hmed5p.grid-6x2.jpg)

EDIT: if they had your name on them, they're yours - no one else could cash them. It's possible that they're still out there - your uncle probably has them somewhere and doesn't know. [EDIT2: Worst case, they've been thrown out, but you might be able to recover them with your SSN.](http://savings-bond-advisor.com/how-to-recover-lost-savings-bonds/)


Title: Baby Stroller “Proceeds to Crime??”

Question: Hey new to the sub and have a dilemma...please no judgement I already know what I did was stupid...I was shoplifting today at a local mall and was busted by the mall security. I was using a decoy baby bassinet to conceal the merchandise. When the security approached me and things were discovered they took the merchandise out of the stroller to see what I had taken. At that point the security guard made it clear that he wasn’t detaining me or calling the police but did say that he was going to keep the stroller. When I objected and told him it was a $1300 stroller and my only means of transporting my daughter (who was not with me at this time) he told me that he could take it because it was considered “proceeds to crime.” At that point I considered myself lucky that he was not calling the police so I did not protest any further… They escorted me off the premises and that was that. It might be important to note that they have no personal information on me they don’t know who I am, but that may not be important either… My question is, is this legal? For him to not charge me with an offence or not involve the police but then still take my property and say it’s proceeds to crime? To me it seems like he is picking and choosing what he “charges“ me with… Does this make sense? Like if he’s not charging me with theft, then why is he confiscating something for proceeds to crime… I am really confused and could really use some advice for when I attempt to get the stroller back from the security department tomorrow. Thanks in advance. I’m in Canada if that helps.

Answer: Using your only means of transporting your daughter to steal? And you're worried about getting it back? Be thankful you didn't get arrested and can still be with your daughter.


Title: Restaurant is taking credit card fees out of my tips.

Question: I am a server at a Massachusetts restaurant. Management deducts whatever credit card fees are associated with the bill from my tips. From everything I can find online, this appears to be illegal in Massachusetts. How should I proceed from here?

Answer:
 This is common but what I've found so far is somewhat vague for Massachusetts. You should contact the labor board for clarification.

>*State rules differ as to whether employees are entitled to the full amount of a tip left by credit card. If the employer has to pay the credit card company a processing fee, some states allow the employer to subtract a proportionate amount of the tip to cover the employee’s “share” of the fee. For example, if the credit card company charges a 3% fee, the employer could legally reduce the employee’s tip by 3% as well.*
>
>*Under Massachusetts law, tips expressly include amounts customers add to credit card bills. State law also prohibits employers from taking any deduction from employee tips, other than as a contribution to a valid tip pool. Read together,* ***these provisions COULD be interpreted to prohibit employers from deducting processing fees from tips*** *left for employees on credit cards.*
Answer #2: They cannot deduct whatever credit card fees are associated with the bill from your tips. They can deduct whatever credit card fees are associated with your tips.  It should be around 2-3%.  Any more than that is wage theft.

You can report it to DOL WHD.  They have an online reporting form.


Title: {GA} Car accident, I was deemed at fault. How do I fight it?

Question:
It's like the title says. My SO [25] and I[23] were in a car accident. I was driving, and it's her car. We were leaving a store and trying to turn left- over a right hand lane, a turn lane, and into the double lanes. The coast was clear from the right side, and the left had a red light, so a driver slowed down right around where the turn lane begins to let us through.

Unfortunately, as we were crossing over, someone several cars back couldn't wait. They hopped the double yellow, cruised through the yellow caution area at the beginning of the turn lane and slammed right into the rear left passenger door. We did a 360, and I was taken to the hospital with whiplash. No one stuck around to bear witness, least of all the kind woman who waved us through.

The officer took my statement after taking my SO's (we were separated practically when the wreck happened- she got out, I stayed in the car, so we didn't have time to compare notes on what just happened), and gave me a citation for failure to yield. He gave the other driver no citation, despite the fact that he could *NOT* have been in the turn lane yet without illegally passing cars.

We went to get the police report today and guess who was behind us? The other driver! He said something along the lines of, it was okay, I couldn't see him past the line of cars. *On a one lane... which meant he just admitted to passing cars to get to the turn lane*. This was in an audio recorded police lobby, and we're petitioning for a copy of that as it is open record. We're also trying for the CCTV footage from the gas station we were pulling out of.

Do we have a shot to at least fight for 50/50 fault? I know I won't be able to fight the failure to yield- I mistakenly trusted another driver, and trusted that no one would cross double yellow lines, but I feel that I wasn't completely at fault in the wreck.

TL;DR, I trusted another driver and pulled out, another driver crossed double yellow lines to get to the turn lane. He hit us and I'm the one with a ticket.

EDIT: https://snag.gy/1bFgMy.jpg

That's my beautiful picasso of what happened (Censored for privacy with red). I'm green, the other driver is blue, and the kind lady is white. I'm sorry, I'm shite when explaining directions/roads.

Answer:
 >at least show my case that I wasn't the only one warranting a citation

This has no bearing on your guilt.

You don't really have a defense to the citation. Trusting another driver is not a defense; the other driver has not authority to direct traffic, and traffic on the road has the right of way.

Aside from consulting a traffic attorney, your only other option is to go to court and plead nolo to the ticket. This will prevent the points from going on your record, but it can only be used once every 5 years in GA.


Title: Headphones while driving if broken?

Question:
Okay so I am driving and get a call so I put my headphones in (I am in harrisonburg,virginia).  One of my headphones does not display any sound at all but I put it in because the microphone is attached to it.  But I only hear sound out of 1 headphone.

I get pulled over and a passenger seat cop in training (the one that saw me wearing the headphones) writes me a citation to traffic court for wearing both headphones. I tried to explain that one of them clearly doesn't work but I still got the ticket.

If I go to court and say that I'm not guilty will I get out of this $60 fine?

Answer:
 If the statute says you can't wear both headphones, why do you think it would matter if they were both working or not?

What statute is listed on your ticket?


Title: I (16M) hooked up with a woman (21F) at a college party. What should I do now.

Question:
1. This happened last weekend. 2. This occurred in the state of Texas 3. TLDR at bottom 4. Sorry for the format on mobile

I'd like to start off by saying I'm 16 and in highschool. That being said, I'm very mature for my age (when I was 14 people would would regularly assume I was 17). I've done bodybuilding for 3 years and am a grade ahead of most kids my age so it's not hard to see why people think I'm older. Most of my friends are older than me as well.

Anyway my best friend (19M) invites me to a college party. It's not the first time I've been to one and I have set very strict limitations for myself whenever I go (no alcohol, no drugs, no unprotected sex).

About halfway through the night I meet a girl and we talk for an hour or so. We hit it off pretty well and by the end of the night we're ready to we're both ready to "do the deed" no questions asked. It's by no means the first time I've had sex and I usually prefer older girls so I think nothing of it we exchange info and part ways.

On the way home my friend makes a joke about her being 21.

Here's the deal. I DO NOT feel like I was taken advantage of in any way. I DO NOT regret anything I did. I've had sex with girls 18 or 19. The problem is, just about everyone saw us getting close and while no one explicitly knows, it wouldn't be difficult to guess. The last thing I want to happen is either of us get in trouble because of this. I don't want a big deal or anything but I know how college campuses can be.

TLDR: I (16M) hooked up with a girl (21F) at a college party and don't want either of us to get in trouble or make a big deal out of it.

Answer:
 Do nothing. Anything you do is something more than you have to do.Answer #2: If you want her to get busted keep talking about it.  Answer #3: Depends on your state. In many states this is fine. Some states she could of committed statutory rape. But, the best way to not make a big deal about it is to not make a big deal about it.Answer #4: > TLDR: I (16M) hooked up with a girl (21F) at a college party and don't want either of us to get in trouble or make a big deal out of it.

So don't make a big deal out of it?

&#x200B;Answer #5: Its unclear what your actual question is. You don't have to do anything if you don't feel like you were taken advantage of. If your question is whether she could suffer some sort of legal consequences, it would depend on your location.


Title: California. Doctor only did CYA and discharged. Went to a research hospital and was given a diagnosis that other doctor should have found.

Question:
So here’s my issue. TLDR at bottom.

Two weeks ago I went to hospital A. Due to chest pain. The doctor walks in, says because of my age she doubts it’s anything besides anxiety but that she’ll run test on my heart. (Felt profiled based on age) Ordered cardio to take a look as well. I communicate that I don’t think that’s the case (anxiety). Life is great and I have zero anxiety or depression. I pointed to the fact that they’ve had me on anxiety meds since the emergency room July 8th and it hasn’t made a difference in the 5 days I’ve been hospitalized in terms of these episodes I was having. That was entirely ignored. Brain scans were not ordered, even though requested, since the fire department said my blood pressure was 205 and heart rate at 188. We were concerned about a stroke. Nevertheless, she never showed any compassion and treated me like a dramatic child when I said I could not walk from the bed to the door without fainting, or falling.

Nevertheless after my heart is checked off by the cardiologist, She has a psychiatrist come in, and after 10 minutes he’s decided I have a panic disorder. Hospital discharged quickly after with some psych meds.

Follow up with primary, she’s in the same network as hospital A and disagrees immediately with diagnosis. Stops psych meds.

Fast forward two weeks later, my condition is worse, I can’t walk at all, I’m waiting on a wheelchair.

I go to a better well known hospital B. On the 3rd day of hospitalization the cardio and neurologist have diagnosed me with POTS an anatomic nervous system disorder. That affects my heart.

My issue was, I felt the doctor at hospital A never believed me or my symptoms and did the bare minimum to cover her ass and discharged me. Never addressing the new weakness I had. They gave me a walker. And I wasn’t discharged at baseline.

When home care from hospital A came to assess me, they said I needed a wheelchair STAT because of my fall risk, an RN to come every day, and physical therapy twice a week until the end of the month.

There was one point where I was blacking out standing and I injured my left shoulder because I fell. Again, they knew I was a fall risk, it’s why they made sure I had someone with me 25/7 before discharge. And I again, was not at baseline. Doctors at Hospital B said I should never have been discharged.

I also had a bad experience with an RN. The confrontation happened late at night.

He shoved  medication (Valium) in my face and told me to take it before he looks in the computer to verify my cardio consult for the next morning. (He was visibly upset when entering the room) After I take it, I insist he pull it up on the computer and verify. He said “if I told you you have an appointment you have an appointment, right” I urged him, politely, to check. No appointment. I was flat out lied to by staff and had been waiting for a doctor and cardio consult the entire day because of a bad episode I had in front of a nurse, who also felt this wasn’t anxiety. I was in the hospital the entire day with nothing done at all. I wasted an entire day at the hospital waiting for my doctor and cardio like the RN said. His exact words were “the doctors going to come see you right after she’s done with her patient) around 10 AM. She never did. When I asked him if he understood why this is frustrating he walked out. I had to cal the nurse supervisor myself.

I met with the director a day later. When the director eventually came, she was very apologetic, admitted staff shouldn’t act that way, and that she would handle the situation.

TLDR

Went to ER for chest pain, doctors hospitalized me and treated it as anxiety ignoring that medications were not working and condition was worsening. Felt like I was profiled based on age and rushed out of the bed. Slapped an anxiety disorder. Had an issue with nurse that involved the director meeting with us and having around an hour long talk about it.

Went to better hospital, 3 days later I have a diagnosis that first hospital should have caught. POTS. I suffered pain from Hospital A not listening to the patient.

What can I do?
Topic:
Healthcare Law including HIPAA

Answer:
 You can complain to the hospital, and could file a complaint with a state oversight board. You do not have good grounds to sue or do anything like that.

ETA: missing a POTS diagnosis is not unusual. I don't remember the stats on it exactly, but it often takes years to diagnose. From what I'm reading it sounds like standard of care was followed, and POTS is rarely progressive in a way that means the delay in diagnosis will impact your medical situation. Answer #2: The ER really only has to stabilize you, that means do what they can to keep you from dying or losing body parts.

Any ER visit will tell you to follow up with your pcp or specialist


Title: Is this school board discriminating against my child because of her age? (Union County, Ohio)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Teacher here.  The school has to have a cutoff date *somewhere*.  The test is to ensure that the younger children are intellectually ready for school.  If your child is that close in age then they should easily pass it.

No, you don't have any recourse.


Title: My friend called the cops while we were smoking weed.

Question:
Well. Here goes. This happened in the state of Michigan. Last night I was put in handcuffs for the first time. I am 17, My friend, we will call him George, is also 17. We have some friends who are older. (Early twenties). Last night, after curfew, (10pm) we were hanging out with our older friends. They are dating and own a trailer which is where we were. There was a solidly large quantity of weed in the trailer that was being smoked by everyone there including me. A couple ounces at the max. The couple begins to argue quietly before a fight erupts between them. The details were vague and we couldn’t tell what it was about, but at some point, she called 911 and nobody saw it.

Shortly into the fight the boyfriend walked out and wasn’t seen for the rest of the night, leaving just me my friend and the girl. I was worried about her being left here alone. Long story short, the police bust in and cuff everyone because she had begun to scream when they arrived. The only drugs there was weed and the cops essentially just wrote us a citation or whatever, said we had a court date and dropped us off at a nearby Walmart at 1:30 in the morning so we could find a ride home... which we did.

All of the weed was on the table that we had been sitting around and my friend and I both said the weed was here when we got there. They asked us if we had med cards which of course we don’t.

The girl who called the cops has some issues mentally (something along the lines of Borderline Personality Disorder) if I’m remembering that correctly and she became an entirely different person during the encounter. Normally she’s a saint, but I saw a side of her that was completely different from anything I’ve ever seen. She was taken away by the paramedics and I haven’t seen her since.
TL;DR friends had a fight and one of them called the cops to their trailer while we were smoking weed. I got a ticket and have to show up in court... what now?

My reason for posting this is I have some questions:
- I’m 17, the officers said I didn’t have to tell my parents but will anything be sent to my house like mail from the court?
- How much am I going to have to pay for this ticket? I believe the only things on it were a curfew violation and a weed charge of some sort. (I can take a picture later if needed I don’t have it with me now)
- The police told me not to smoke because I would very likely have to drop at court. But I smoke enough that after 10 days I still might fail. What happens if I fail?
- How much will I likely have to pay? I believe it’s just a misdemeanor so is it like a ticket?
- Is there a possibility of me getting probation? If so how likely?
- Any other information you think is important for me to know?

EDIT: here is my citation. https://imgur.com/a/RF7Mp It seems I was wrong about curfew, however, possession of Paraphernalia is listed even though I owned nothing at the house. The only thing I had that was mine, was my phone and wallet and stuff in my pockets. Shouldn’t the paraphernalia charge go to the owner?
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer: You need an attorney.  Tell your parents you need an attorney.Answer #2: Dude tell your parents and figure out exactly what you are being charged with like now. Misdemeanors are way worse than a driving ticket and can result in jail time.


Title: I am getting ready to start nursing school and have a legal question about my criminal record.

Question:
so this is a question on the application to take the boards:

Have you been convicted of or pled guilty or nolo contendere to any criminal offense in any state or in federal court? Pleas
e do not give details on minor traffic charges, but do include information relating to Driving While Intoxicated (DWI) charges.

Now I have a clean record outside of traffic charges, however there are a couple that i am not sure if i should consider a yes for this question.  Those are leaving the scene and driving on a suspended license.  I know not answering truthfully is worse than being honest and supplying paperwork.  Any advice would be appreciated thanks.

edit - forgot to mention this is in Illinois

Answer:
 Those aren't minor traffic charges. This will almost certainly come up in a background check.Answer #2: Minor traffic charges are things like speeding or parking violations.  They're considered violations or infractions and, while subject to civil fines and points on your license, they're not considered crimes.  Driving without a license is a misdemeanor, and I'm pretty sure that leaving the scene is one too in most states.  The board is not interested in that time when you were nicked doing 67 in a 55, but they're interested in your misdemeanor record.  So you have to disclose driving without a license and leaving the scene on your application.  Failure to do so may be a crime.

Source: am a pharmacist who has gone through a similar licensing process many times.


Title: Landlord sent cease and desist order because of frequent guests

Question: I live in a two\-family house where my landlord lives on the first floor. He normally stays at his gf's 5\+ nights a week. My gf has been coming over for a few days a week with her dog for the last 4 months. Recently, my landlord sent me a cease and desist letter via traditional mail. Should I be worried? Does it matter that it wasn't certified mail or in\-person? She is moving into her new apartment in a week (had been splitting time between here and her parents) so I don't see it being an issue in the future. However, I do frequently have bbq's in the backyard and my friends bring their dogs from time to time. What are the rules around having guests over for a bbq? What about having guys sleep over randomly for a night here and there? I live in Bloomfield NJ. I feel like he's being petty. It's his responsibility to mow the lawn and it gets mowed once per month max, which leaves the grass 6\+ inches high. Is he in breach of the lease or town codes for that? Or should I just ignore it all. I'd love for someone to tell me he doesn't have much of a leg to stand on!

Answer: What does your lease say?


Title: Should I contact the police officer that pulled me over?

Question:
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Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: What good would talking to him about it do? He already issued the ticket. You go to the court date on your ticket if you want to fight it.


Title: Am I guilty of collusion if I agree with a company not to cross bid on properties we are both interested in?

Question: (Oregon) My wife and I are going to buy a vacation home. My wife's family have a small company where they buy rental homes in vacation areas and rent them out as investments. We're thinking of buying a home in the same vacation community that they are going to make offers on a few homes. Over the holidays we agreed with my in-laws that they will not make an offer on the house we are interested in and we would not consider or make offers on the ones they were interested in. I was thinking about this today at work and I started to think that I might have been guilty of collusion by doing this? Am I?

Answer:
 Collusion alone isn't really a crime.  You would need to collude to do something illegal.

In the context you seem to be considering, collusion involves an intent to defraud.  You aren't defrauding someone simply by agreeing not to bid each other up on the same property.


Title: [Europe] What is the Legality behind "Liberland" could anyone really claim the "Unclaimed" Area in the Balkans and "Establish" his own nation?

Question:
Here's the Liberland forum http://liberland.org/en/forum/?topicID=34729205554e28f9ddbbbd

and an overview on the "nation" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liberland

Basically its whats supposed to be an Anarcho Capitalist Libertarian nation using crypto currency and doesnt allow Communists to join, It also doesnt seem to have a real government or police/defense force.

Answer:
 Yeah. This is totally going to work.

So, generally, the definition of a 'nation' according to international law is 'what existing nations agree is a nation'.

This is why you see people talking about X or Y "Not acknowledging the existence of Palestine/Israel" or whatever. That nation does not accept the legal existence of Palestine or Israel.

In modern times, the official status of a nation tends to be determined by vote in the UN.

But, as one of the basic requirements is 'sovereignty' in a 'can defend its territory' point of view, I somehow doubt an unoccupied 7 km^2 area counts. This seems to be a nation on paper only. I don't think that's going to fly.

If it does, I'm founding Lunar City now. It occupies the whole *Mare Serenitas*. We'll trade stocks and shit.


Title: Probation Last day

Question: Texas: Ive been on probation for 6 months now and ive been assigned mail in probations with a PO who doesnt even reply to my emails...lol. But i have my last court date coming up and i was curious if i was gonna be drug tested on that day. I havent been drug tested at all except the first day which im assuming was a baseline test. Any info will help!

Answer:
 We aren't psychics but one of two things will happen:

1) you'll be drug tested
2) you won't be drug tested.

If you don't want to end up with a violation of probation charge on your last day of probation, stay clean.


Title: I'm thinking about anonymously reporting my work colleague to the police for solicitation of a minor and child pornography. I have no proof, other than my gut instincts. What consequences could I and/or he face if I'm wrong?

Question:
I'll try to keep this brief. This is in Canada, for context.

I work in a creative field where minors and adults often work together as equals. In this situation, there is a 45 y/o man who has worked with the company for over a decade. He has constant supervised interaction with a teenage girl who has also worked with the company for quite some time, and to be clear, their jobs do require them to work directly together. I have had the unfortunate luck of having to collaborate with these two for the past few years, and their relationship is NAUSEATINGLY inappropriate.

I want to make it clear that I have never seen him touch her intimately, though he does constantly make excuses to be near her. They spend their day chatting with each other (normally about non-work related things), and playing pranks on each other. He gets away with touching her by lingering uncomfortably close and sticking something on her/clipping things to her clothes (this is a game they play). Their conversations are shamelessly flirtatious, and no one except for a select few of us seem bothered by it. Because I am somewhat responsible for facilitating both of their jobs, I need to know where they are during working hours. Their behavior has gotten so inappropriate, that whenever they are missing I end up finding them together somewhere talking privately. Her mom is fully aware of it, and is seemingly fine with it, as she too enjoys his company when she is around (which is less than 50% of the time).

The only reason I would consider reporting him for child porn, is because he does this with ALL the kids. If there's a kid around, this guy is with them, telling jokes and pulling pranks, basically dominating their attention by whatever means necessary, and getting possessive if someone even attempts to take it away. I have discussed this with a few of my fellow employees, many of whom have been there longer than me. They all say the same thing, "He's just a big kid! It's a little creepy, but his intentions are pure."

I am all but positive that this guy is sicker than people think. I believe that his shameless behavior in front of people is a strong indication of the lines being crossed over private text messages and weekend dinners (both of which they have, and regularly talk about). Am I able to call this in anonymously? If not, could I face possible repercussions if my tip turns up nothing?  The last thing I want to do is ruin this guy's life if he's innocent, are there any long-term consequences for him if he is investigated and found not guilty?

Thanks for your time, I know I've failed in keeping it short.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 You won't face any repercussions as long as you don't lie about what you think and why.

But what you have will not support a search warrant or any meaningful investigative measures besides talking to him, asking for consent to search his devices, and talking to her or her parents and doing the same.Answer #2: First and foremost: yep, that's a concerning pattern of behaviour. However, none of it _obviously_ gives rise to suspicions of child porn possession. If you're honest with the cops, you won't be breaking the law… but there's not much they can do directly with "my coworker is inappropriately possessive of kids" at this level.

You could try speaking with your province's child services ministry, rather than the police, though. While they are often overworked, they're also in a better position to investigate vague-but-real concerns about childrens' welfare.


Title: Arrest for possession of cocaine

Question:
I’m a 23 year old female residing in the state of Florida. Last night my boyfriend was pulled over because his windows were too tinted. He got a warning, but the cop claimed to have smelled weed but we didn’t have any in the car. There may have been bits and pieces along the floorboard but nothing major. Anyways, he decided to search the car and I had forgotten that I had a bag of coke hiding in an empty cigarette pack. I don’t use often, I had it from the night before. My friend bought it and we were sharing it and he left the bar without telling me so I kept it on me and forgot about it. I never clean out my purse, if it goes in there it stays in there for a month at least. The cop detained us both and informed us he found coke, I waived my rights and admitted it was mine so my boyfriend could go free. I already have a suspended license and I’ll be going before the same
Judge that handled my case from my accident (she didn’t suspend my license or add points, the state did) I have no prior criminal record and I also have no drug offenses. I was let out without bail. Should I be worried of jail time? Should I go ahead and enroll in a NA program to show the judge I’m making an effort? I’m going to take a loan out for a lawyer. I’m court date is in only 10 days.

Answer: You should hire an attorney and ask them these questions because you're going to need an attorney anyway. Do not speak to the police without them present.


Title: I have to go to court in a couple of days and I'm starting to panic. Can anybody give me any advice?

Question: I have to go to court for a mistorminer, under $500 for failure to appear. What could be my maximum/minimum punishment? What could my chances be for max or minimum? Please help me, I am kind of spazzing a bit. If you need any info for all this, please message me.

Answer:
 OP, here's some general legal advice.

-Stop stealing.

-Don't talk to anyone about this except your lawyer. Not the police, not the victim, not the prosecutor. Just your lawyer.

-Get a lawyer. If you can't afford one, ask for a public defender. If you're not eligible for one, look up resources in your area. If that doesn't work, you need beg, borrow and ~~steal~~ suck dicks in the bathroom of the olive garden until you can afford one. A criminal conviction can have lasting consequences on your life.

-Your original question as to what kind of punishments you'll face? This depends on a lot of different things. Your prior criminal record, your attitude and character, the jurisdiction you're in, whether or not the judge got a blowjob last night, the quality of your lawyer, whether or not the prosecutor is hungover....etc. It's difficult to predict with any certainty.


Title: Job application asked for my sexuality

Question: A job I was applying for asked for my sexuality, and as far as I'm aware that's legally not allowed. Is there anything I can do about that?

Answer:
 The EEOC on the federal level considers Sexual Orientation to fit under Sex discrimination.  You can file a complaint at the federal level with the EEOC.    https://www.eeoc.gov/federal/fed_employees/filing_complaint.cfm

"EEOC interprets and enforces Title VII's prohibition of sex discrimination as forbidding any employment discrimination based on gender identity or sexual orientation.  These protections apply regardless of any contrary state or local laws."
https://www.eeoc.gov/eeoc/newsroom/wysk/enforcement_protections_lgbt_workers.cfm

The Supreme Court will likely be deciding if sex really does cover sexual orientation later this year.  https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/22/us/politics/supreme-court-gay-transgender-employees.htmlAnswer #2: 50 states.

50 different state laws.

So maybe it's allowed and maybe it's not.Answer #3: Many companies ask about race and gender in employment applications to use for statistical purposes. This information is not shared with the hiring manager, and is kept strictly confidential. Asking about sexual orientation is less common, but its legal to collect for statistical purposes as long as its not shown to the hiring manager.Answer #4: Where are you?Answer #5: You really need a location here.


Title: (CA) Employer gives us our sales plan last week of the quarter

Question:
My employer routinely gives us our sales plan 1-2 weeks before the quarter ends. For the entire quarter we dont know how we're performing against the plan until the very end when its a surprise if we're doing well or way behind.

Dont they by law need to give us our plans at the beginning of the quarter so we can at least try our best to achieve the quotas they set? I've previously said I wont sign the plan and their response was "fine don't sign the plan we don't have to pay you then".

What recourse do I have here?

Answer: There is no requirement for them to give you any input at all on how you're performing.  But they must pay you your salary, whether or not you sign the document.  Bonuses are optional.


Title: My girlfriends dad takes her paycheck and uses it for bills

Question: My girlfriend, who is sixteen, works with me at McDonald's, her parents wont my parents won't get her a bank account and they take her and her brothers checks. They get pretty much none of their money that they work hard for is it legal for them to take their money in? We live in Pennsylvania

Answer: If she's under 18, her parents can take her paycheck, yes.