Title: Involved in a bar fight and assault is being claimed, first step? (Alabama, US)

Question:
I (24m) was involved in a bar fight last night. I was there with a bunch of friends and my girlfriend (23F).  This Turkish guy who is a regular at the bar and notorious for causing a scene did just that.  I was drinking, but not heavily drunk.  He started causing a scene and one thing led to another and he ended up calling my SO a bitch and shoved her... I then smashed a beer bottle over his head.  I understand that it was an over reaction.  The cops were called and we, including a bunch of other people, were questioned.  They did no arrest me and let me grab a cab home. However, the cop said "you can go but 3rd degree assault charges will probably be filed"

This morning my friend receives a facebook message from the guy and it said "he (meaning myself) can pay for my hospital bill or i'm filing charges on Monday"  He did not seem to be physically injured, he has a shaved head and there was no visible blood and did not need to be transported to the hospital.

My question is, what do i need to do?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: That guy cannot file criminal charges, only the prosecutor can. If that happens, get an attorney and follow his advice.


Title: What happens if I try to buy alcohol with no ID in NY?

Question: I am ahem underage, by a month. I'm wondering what would happen if I go to a liquor store, attempt to purchase alcohol, am asked for ID, but say I don't have it with me. I assume the likeliest situation will be they simply won't supply it too me or will sell it to me regardless... but what else is possible? Would they call the cops ?

Answer: They could call the police, yes.  Attempting to buy alcohol underage is a crime.  Doubly so if you lie about your actual age.


Title: [PA, USA] My wife was stopped in a DUI checkpoint and could possibly be getting a DUI

Question:
Hey guys I understand off the bat this sounds like yeah, a DUI is a DUI. I just want to get some legal advice for us and some facts. We are going to get a DUI Attorney, I was want to talk to you guys and figure all this out.

Backstory:

My wife is a petite girl, about 5'5 and weights 115 lbs., she works at a restaurant/bar, she finished working at 11pm and sat down with her boss and her co-workers and had a beer, and a shot. She sat there till 1am and decided to drive home now. Unfortunately she did not eat anything during the day (she only had brekfast) so she didn't have any food to soak up the alcohol.

Situation:

She left her work at 1am, drove 30 minutes till she ran into this checkpoint. Yeah, you may say she should have avoided it and drove somewhere else but the point where this checkpoint was located was on a bend to the left, just past it. There was a road from the right that merges into the bend but there was a cop there blocking it so she had no option other than go to the checkpoint.

She stopped, did what they asked, did the field sobriety test and passed, but they gave her the breathalyzer and she blew a 0.085. In PA the legal limit is 0.080. From 0.081 to 0.99 is a General something DUI. She wasn't appearing drunk, she wasn't acting drunk, and the cops were cool with her. They were being nice and helpful.

Since she blew the 0.085 they told her that they need to take her to the nearest hospital to get the blood test so they did that. The cop who took her was being nice to her, didn't handcuff her going to the car, didn't arrest her, just had her sit in the front seat of the cruiser. Allowed her to get her purse and her phone from her car. She clearly wasn't drunk. The cop who was going to take her to the hospital told her that It's unfortunate because she isn't intoxicated, he just had too much to drink and that put her over the limit.

Once she was in the cruiser the cop told her she was going to put the cuffs on her in front of her for her protection. They drive to the hospital around 1:30am, but it wasn't the same hospital that they have been taking everyone to that whole night. So, people that legitimately got arrested were taken to a hospital when they had to wait hours upon hours to get their test done. Well, this officer didn't want to wait so she decided to drive to another hospital in the next time over where, unfortunately, my wife got right in. My wife cooperated the whole time, the cop didn't have a problem with her. The cop said that she is going to testify for her once they go to court and recommend that she gets to do that counseling thing and go to a couple AA meetings and then, eventually get it expunged.

Help?

Right now we are just trying to figure out how to go forward from here. Like I said, were going to get an attorney to help us out. If it gets expunged will future employers ever be able to find out about it? My wife is currently going to nursing school and is devastated, as am I, that this will ruin this for her. That is why I asked about the expunged thing. If  it is able to get expunged and no one can find out about it she is going to take some time off from nursing school till after this and then go back after.

We're just trying to get as much information as possible. We know it's terrible this happened, and we're going to move forward and do our best.  If you got this far, thank you for reading this. I hope I can get some responses. If you have any additional questions I'll do my best to respond.

EDIT: Misspelling.

Answer:
 Food does not "soak up" alcohol. It can slow the absorption in which case it is possible that had your wife eaten she could have tested higher when back at the station. Or lower, depending on a variety of factors.

/u/Citicop is the resident expert on these matters and can probably expand on this issue.
Answer #2: I doubt this will ruin nursing school for her. Nurses are the #2 occupation I have prosecuted people for DUI (restaurant workers are #1).

She needs a dui attorney. It is going to cost several thousand, but if she has a clean record there is a good chance of a favorable outcome due to a low BAC


Title: [US, Louisiana] Been with company 7 years, is refusing to make accommodations for recently developed disability

Question:
I am in southern Louisiana. I have been with my company for seven and a half years and am a higher level sales person. It is a Fortune 50 company, but I am at one of the smallest locations in the entire corporation. In Nov, I took some time off to have a sorely needed operation on my foot, it went poorly, got severely infected, I had to have multiple debridement operations, I spent weeks in the hospital, and very nearly had to have an amputation. I will likely never walk without assistance again and am missing about 50% of the tissue in my foot.

I just got released from the hospital this week and my HR manager called to to find out when I would be returning to work. I laid out the entire mess, and told her I wasn't sure when I would be released to return, but that when I did, I would need a few accommodations, including the ability to sit at my desk when not actively assisting customers and not being required to pick up my (over 100lb) freight anymore.

She stated that since we have a new regional manager, we no longer make accommodations for permanent conditions because my company doesn't have "light duty jobs". The accommodations can only be made if it is a temporary condition and that for me to return to work, I would have to be in *better* shape than I was before the original operation. (this isn't gonna happen) We are no longer allowed to have chairs at the desk and I would have to be able to be able to stand for at least 2 hours before my break. This is insane, because for one, there has never been an issue with sitting at the desk before this new manager came along, and for two we never get our breaks like we're supposed to. Most days, I'm lucky to manage a lunch and it's often six or seven hours into my shift before I get to go. I absolutely cannot and will likely never be able to stand for even two hours at a time, much less six or seven.

Is this legal? Aren't they required to make accommodations under ADA? I do have a BS and if I truly can't go back to my job, then I plan to go get my paralegal certification so that I can do something!

Luckily, I do have long term disability insurance, so for now, I am getting paid. However, I'm concerned that once my doctor releases me to return to work, the insurance company will refuse to pay me because I "could" go back to work.

TL:DR - work is refusing to make accommodations under ADA. Is this legal? Should I just say stuff it and go back to school and hope they keep paying my LTD until I can get another job?

Answer: It may be time for a consultation with a local attorney who can deal with the specific facts of your question.  Here we can only share general information, which in this case, is little more than noting that your company is obliged to provide reasonable accommodation for documented disabilities.Answer #2: Under the ADA employers are required to make reasonable accommodations.  This is not my area, nor do I know what your job requires, so I can't opine on what is or is not reasonable in your circumstances.  You can speak to a local employee side labor attorney or civil rights attorney.


Title: [TX] Received a letter saying that I was involved in a theft, can't get a hold of police.

Question:
Hello, My parents recently got a letter in the mail saying that It was reported that I was involved in a theft and that I needed to get in touch with an investigator. I live in the DFW area which is a combination of several different cities, the city in question is one that's quite far from where I actually live and work, like all the way on the other side of the metroplex. The letter stated that the theft took place on August 3rd, I think it's pretty obvious that after working all day on a Monday I did not travel over an hour out of my way to a city that I've never been to before to pull off some sort of heist but the letter indicated that if I did not contact them by today, they might put out a warrant for my arrest and charge me with the theft anyways. However, I seem to have misplaced the letter so I looked up their number on the police departments website. I called both the main line and the "criminal investigations" line and no one answered. The criminal investigations line was the only one with a voicemail so I left a message with my name, what I was calling about and what number I could be reached with. I've tried several times but have not gotten a response from them and I'm starting to become concerned. Any advice would be very much appreciated. I've never been in a situation like this so I'm not sure if I should be looking for a lawyer or not.

Update: So it turns out that the letter was legit because now there's a warrant out for my arrest. I got in touch with a lawyer in my area to help me resolve the situation. I really appreciate the comments, it's really just nice to know that there are people out there that give a shit, but I'm going to let the lawyer take it from here. I'll post another update to let everyone know how it turns out in hopes that it might help someone else who ends up in this situation.

Answer:
 Police don't send letters asking suspects to call them.  Don't call the number back anymore.Answer #2: >The letter stated that the theft took place on August 3rd, I think it's pretty obvious that after working all day on a Monday I did not travel over an hour out of my way to a city that I've never been to before to pull off some sort of heist

So do you have an alibi for the specific time of the theft? Or is your alibi that you would be too tired after work to drive out there. One is an alibi, the other isn't but could help your case.

As for the letter, I would suggest you completely ignore it. Make them prove their case. If they arrest you say nothing at all and get a lawyer.


Title: [NO] A friend of mines whose a streamer was assaulted by a store owner, was my friend in the wrong?

Question:
So my friend took a trip to new orleans to go site seeing he went into a store and the store owner without warning came over to him, took his camera, smashed it, then threatened him with guns while he ran away.

My friend is safe now thankfully (he's laying low) but what we're wondering now is if he could actually be sued for this all? Because before he got to the store his stream followers actually called the store owner and might have left some threating and racist messages to the owner... Not only this but after the incident occurred his followers brigaded the stores yelp page and instagram with a ton of racist messages.

My friends a really good guy but we're all wondering if he goes to court over this will he be screwed? Was he actually the one in the wrong?

Answer: Your friend does not sound like a good guy if he has his followers calling and harassing a guy


Title: Car was stolen, but police are accusing me?

Question:
A few weeks ago, I let my sister borrow my car because she needed it to move stuff for her work. She was going to bring it back to me over the weekend (she works in the city while I live in the suburbs about an hour away). I leave her the car on a Tuesday, and don't hear from her until Friday when she calls me in the morning in a panic; apparently the car has been stolen from where it was legally street parked.

My sister said that she thinks while she was moving stuff, the key fob may have fallen out of her pocket near the car (the car is an automatic start with the key fob). She said she parked it there on Tuesday and didn't check on it until Friday because she's left it there parked for weeks before and didn't think it was necessary.

I called 911 and they told me that I needed to go into the city district police station to file a police report with the local police. The police there are very helpful and nice and tell me that the state police recovered the car and had it towed to a towing company. When I called the towing company they told me that the police have a "hold" on the vehicle and can't give out any information until the officer in charge of the investigation releases the hold, but they told me I should call the state police for more information. So I didn't think much more about it and left with a copy of the police report.

Later that day, upon calling the state police, I suddenly find myself accused by the officer who answered the phone of "running away from the police on the highway" and "driving very recklessly and dangerously". Obviously I'm taken aback by the sudden random accusation, but I tell him that the car was stolen, and I couldn't possibly have been the driver as I haven't seen this car since Tuesday. But the officer says very sarcastically, "oh i'm sure it was [stolen]" and tells me I need to call back on Sunday night because the officer in charge is on his break, and doesn't come back into work until then.

At this point I'm thinking, "OK this is kinda weird, the officer was being kinda rude/combative for no reason, but I'll call back Sunday like he said". The next day though, I get a call from the policeman. He immediately starts out with accusing me of running away from the police and driving recklessly. And that he saw the "accident". Obviously I have no idea what he's talking about, so I tell him no, my car was stolen and I was calling to find out what happened to the car. He's being very rude and sarcastic the entire time, saying "oh yeah that's so convenient" or "yeah, u-huh, i'm sure" while I'm trying to tell him what happened. At this point I start getting a little angry at his tone and I tell him that he's being rude to me and that I'm just trying to figure out what happened. He ignores me and tells me that it's a felony offense to file a false police report and that he saw "me" driving the car and that I look "exactly like my license plate". He sarcastically asks me if I have a "habit of leaving my key in the car for thieves" and asks if I just "handed the keys off to the 'thief'". I tell him that my sister lost the keys and I haven't seen the car and he says "oh yeah suuure, a likely story".

I keep on asking him to explain what’s going on (at this point I’ve still not seen my car in almost a week and have no idea what happened to it after it was stolen), but all he does is continue repeating like a broken record that I "look like my license plate" (whatever that means) and that it's a "felony to fake a police report" and that he's going to "serve me papers and see me in court". I get fed up at this point and say sarcastically that "I can't wait to see what HE looks like", and hang up.

At this point I’m pretty freaked out about the policeman’s combative attitude and unwillingness to help so I call a family friend who refers me to a lawyer. My lawyer says that he’s sure it’s just a huge misunderstanding and that he’ll make some calls to the state police ( he has friends there) and explain everything and it’ll hopefully go away.

Unfortunately it does not. The police dodge and ignore my lawyer’s calls for about a week by using the excuse that the officer in charge of the investigation is working the night shift (and is always conveniently out of office even when we call during the night shift). Finally we track down the police supervisor and he agrees to release the police hold on my car so I can see it.

My car is totalled of course, but I also find a lot of items in the car that I assume belonged to the thief, including what looks like a burner cell phone, cigarettes and a lighter (I don’t smoke), take-out food and boxes (rotting at this point because it’s been over a week). I bag up all this stuff with gloves on and bring it to my lawyer. The fact that all this stuff was in my car for the week or so the police had it on hold makes me think they didn’t even bother doing any investigation on the car.

Meanwhile the policeman’s actually charged me with criminal offenses including fleeing the scene of an accident, fleeing the police, improper lane changes, etc. Apparently according to the documents the accident occured that same Friday morning  I filed the stolen vehicle report  at around 2:30 AM.

At the clerk magistrate hearing (to determine whether it’ll go to trial or not), the policeman swears that he “thinks it was me” and that I was “driving on the wrong side of the highway going 65 mph and forcing other cars off the road). Apparently that’s enough for the clerk magistrate to send it to trial, despite the fact that I brought my sister to corroborate my story and my wife to back-up my alibi (I was sleeping at home at the time of the accident). The policeman and the clerk-magistrate also completely ignore all the evidence I gathered from the car and said that it was “irrelevant”.

So now I have a court date to be arraigned and the whole thing is going to go to trial.
The more I think about this situation, the more I feel like this is incredibly unfair and absurd and I don’t know what to do. The officer kept on saying that it "wasn't up to him" about pressing charges, but it obviously was entirely up to him because without his lies about "seeing me driving the car" there would be no trial at all. When this goes to trial, their entire argument is going to be him just saying that he thinks it was me (which I don't know how he can even say that considering it would have been 2:30 in the morning with the thief going the opposite direction on the highway at 65 mph?)

My lawyer says that I shouldn’t sue the police because it will cost a lot and I might not even win because the policeman can just claim that “he made an honest mistake”. This entire thing is going to cost me in the tens of thousands of dollars from hiring a lawyer and the worst part of it is the actual thief doesn’t even have anyone looking for him because the police are going for me. My lawyer found a retired policeman to fingerprint the evidence and apparently this service will cost me another $600. Is this right? Why won’t the police even try and investigate the crime or entertain the thought that I’m the victim of a theft? And now police persecution?

Please correct me if I'm wrong in thinking this. I am not very experienced with the law so perhaps there are similar cases to mine. But I think that at this point is that the policeman's just trying to screw me out of as much money as possible at no risk to himself. I’m not poor but I’m definitely not rich and this is costing me pretty much all of my savings. From his point of view, either way his time is being paid for tax money, and the state attorneys or whoever will represent him will also be paid for by the people, not by himself. I really think that this is about his ego; either he's mad because he failed to catch the thief who was apparently "close enough for him to see and box in". Or he's mad about me hanging up on him because he said I looked like my license plate.

Even if we can't win a court case against him and recover any money, I think that this is a story that needs to be told to people who matter. As a citizen, I feel like I should have the right to justice, and this is the furthest thing I can imagine from being justice. This whole situation has been like a huge cloud of stress hanging in the back of my mind for months now. Not only are the police accusing me, the victim, they are refusing to even look at the evidence that I found for them (which should have been THEIR job) to find the real thief. But of course, if he's doing this all maliciously (like I strongly believe he is), it makes sense for him to not want to look at the evidence because then it would prove him wrong. I don't see why it's up to me or my lawyer to ask another party to fingerprint the evidence when they should have attempted to investigate in the first place.

I also can't help but wonder if there's an element of race involved with this as well because he kept on repeating that "he knows exactly what I look like and that I look exactly like the license plate picture" (i’m a minority). So even hypothetically if it was a minority guy who stole the car and got chased, he suddenly profiles the guy to look exactly like me?

I don’t know what to do. Do I just have to eat this cost and injustice? Would writing a letter about this situation to the governor, or to the district attorney, or to newspapers help at all? I was going to file a complaint against this policeman after everything was resolved, but now I am a little afraid of police reprisal because apparently they can get away with a lot of little cruelties under cover of technicalities of the law.

TLDR: My car got stolen and the police are accusing me instead of trying to do any investigation. Now we’re going to go to trial most likely. What (if anything at this point) can I do?

Answer:
 Stop talking to the cops.  Talk to your lawyer.  Just shut your face and let your lawyer handle this.

IANAL Answer #2: Nobody on reddit can help you more than your attorney. However, here's a thought: maybe the officer really believes he saw you. Does your sister look like you?


Title: [MD][Baltimore] Help! Neighbor's Plumber disconnected our sewage line!

Question:
So, our neighbor recently had plumbing done. Her plumber apparently unhooked our sewage line during the process, and left it unhooked. He is stating it was illegally connected to her pipes, which then ran to the city sewage as a common connection. We have no idea about that, we did not install the pipes. The house was built in 1890 and it seems the last time pipes were installed was 1977. Anyway, he disconnected our sewage pipeline, which means if we use our sinks, shower, washing machine, or toilets, that raw sewage is leaking into her back yard. Because of this we shut our water off to avoid an environmental bio hazard. He is refusing to reconnect the pipe and has "graciously" offered to run a new line, prices to be determine, of course. If the pipe was illegally connected against our knowledge, why the heck would he disconnected it and allow raw sewage to leak everywhere. It makes absolutely no sense.

Obviously we need to get this fixed so that we can have water again, since he's now may our house unlivable

We contacted the city and an investigator said the pipes are on private property so there's nothing they can do. He's advised me to talk to the city engineers who should have drawings listing if this was an existing approved common connection. Our neighbor has now filed a complaint with the housing code, however, according to the city investigator, since she approved the work, any citation should go to her.

Any help or advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 Hire a plumber to determine if it is properly connected. if it is, reconnect it and sue the other plumber for the cost. If it's not properly connected you will have to fix that.Answer #2: I have replaced many sewer lateral lines in Baltimore and it was common practice for two row houses to share one lateral line before it wye's in to the main. That way there are fewer connections on the main Answer #3: You might get more insight on this situation in /r/plumbing  - not from a legal sense but from someone who may have experience with this situationAnswer #4: It could be that the neighbors had to run a new line. If that is the case and connecting your line would be not up to code than the plumber did the correct thing. You need to hire your own plumber and have him look at the situation and also talk to the other plumber.

This same situation happened to neighbors of mine and the city required that they each have their own lines. Answer #5: Hire a plumber and get it fixed, then send the other plumber a bill.
When they dont pay then sue them.  Answer #6: This sounds like the exact reversal of [this user's situation](https://np.reddit.com/r/HomeImprovement/comments/6j2pf3/neighbors_sewer_line_runs_through_my_yard_and/)


Title: Facebook refuses to take down photos of me being attacked

Question:
A few years ago, 2009 so I think I am past being able to report to the police, I was out and got attacked by a bunch of guys. I am a short woman and this was a physical attack - hitting (not rape).

I recently found through a very convoluted "friend" chain on facebook found some pictures one of the guys took of that night. I do not know the person whose picture it is, nor do I really want to contact the person as I don't want to remind them of what they did and them all to get a good laugh out of it, nor do I think I can talk to them.

I have tried reporting these photos to facebook and they refuse to remove them. It is just an automated system so I can never tell my story to them, just click report. And because you have to report photos on an individual basis, some of them do not show them actually attacking me, just them near me, so if you are reviewing that photo on its own, it may not seem that bad as it is just a girl surrounded by a bunch of guys laughing at her. There is no way to report as a whole. Also the comments that go with these photos are horrible, talking about and joking about what they did.

I don't know what to do. It is upsetting me and I feel so helpless. I just don't understand how facebook can allow such things and have no way to report a group of photos, because even if they took down some of them, but left the rest because they aren't showing anything "bad" like I said above, it is still a reminder of what happened, and something on that guys facebook where he can go back and laugh at with his mates.

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Tl;dr: There are some photos of me being attacked on facebook and facebook refuses to take them down, and I don't know what else I can do.

Answer:
 Have the police been any help? This could be extra evidence that could be included in the report.

If there are no criminal charges against them, you could sue the individual that posted the photos or hire a private investigator to find the identities of the people in the photos.


Title: (WA/OR) Bought new Subaru and extended warranty. Car is still in warranty and is making very bad pinging sound (spark knock) from a timing issue. After much diagnosis and going through all the hoops with Subaru, they said "That's just how it was designed".

Question:
I purchased the car in November of 2012 new from a Washington Subaru dealership with a Subaru Gold extended warranty. The spark knock issue started occurring that summer and I've recorded the issue on video. Initial visits to the dealership were unfruitful as they claimed it was only a rattle. This year I moved to Oregon and reopened the case to investigate the noise.  They immediately identified it as spark knock, where the pistons are firing too early and causing the valves to slap. I went for numerous test rides with technicians and they confirmed the noise is excessive. They did fuel system maintenance and software updates (for this specific issue) to no avail. They logged data during a ride and sent this to a Field Service Engineer who reviewed the data and came back with "The car is doing what it's supposed to do, there's no repair for the vehicle." Car is a 2013 Outback and has 68,000 miles. Warranty is good to 70,000.

Obviously I was disappointing with this because the noise is excessive and it's embarrassing to drive (sounds like a diesel). The warranty outlines the engine and fuel systems being covered. Subaru offered me $2500 to trade and get a brand new vehicle, but that nowhere covers the gab between my trade-in value and a brand new car.  There's no way I can get fair market value for the car when it's making this noise even if I wanted to sell it.

I know from reading forums a lot of other people have the same issue with this specific model year and Subaru has issued software updates and services to try and address it, but from what I've read (and experienced with mine), none of these work.

I'm curious what my options are. My understanding is that the warranty should cover this, but Subaru says there's nothing they can do because there's no repair for it. I don't think this qualifies for the Lemon Law in Washington (state from which vehicle was purchased) because it hasn't been (can't be) repaired and I think I'm out of the mileage threshold.

Is there any obligation of Subaru to provide me with a vehicle that operates within the parameters known at the time of purchase?

Answer:
 Welcome to extended warranties. I always stress never buy one, they usually cost more than any repair you can expect to make and as a bonus rarely pay even if you have a problem

 Have you taken the car to an independent shop to get a second opinion?Answer #2: IANAL (But I am an engineer);

Engine knock is not something that should be overlooked as 'what it's supposed to do'.  Knock is not just an annoying sound - it can lead to premature engine failure.

Pre-detonation can cause much higher piston pressures than the engine is designed for - and in the worst cases can lead to piston damage, piston sleeve damage, and ultimately engine failure.

I would recommend going to a private mechanic and having them pull the spark plugs & use a borescope to look for any signs of damage.  This could be your proof that there is damage that needs rectifying under the warranty.

edit and context:  I recently had valve damage in my Volkswagen from a manufactures defect and it ended in a completely new engine & transmission installed.  Not related to knock, but a similar failure could happen because of knock.Answer #3: TIL not to buy a used '13 Subaru when I give my son my '06 Subie when he goes to college in a few years....

> a lot of other people have the same issue with this specific model year

Try to find out if there a class action for your car somewhere.Answer #4: Tech question: Have you run higher octane fuel in it?


Title: Can I get in trouble for sharing voter information I accidentally downloaded?

Question:
I recently accidentally downloaded an excel spreadsheet of about 10,000 peoples voter information. It has their name, email, phone number, voter id number and a couple other things. Could I get in trouble if I posted this on fb?

Edit: I did not realize so many people would question that I accidentally downloaded it. I was sitting in class one day and my teacher had us download something off of his class page. It wasn't downloading on my computer and after trying for about 3 or 4 times it downloaded a file with the voter information. Not of my own volition at all.
I was in Colorado when I downloaded it

I really think if I knew how to hack into a database and spent the time to get this information that I would not be on reddit asking whether I could get in trouble for sharing it but would already be doing something with the data, like selling it or casting votes for other people.

Answer:
 Accidentally my ass.

>Could I get in trouble if I posted this on fb?

You would likely violate FB's TOS.  Not to mention any laws you broke when you gained access to that information.  And depending on the "couple other things." any additional laws if that information is private.

What reason would you have to post this information?Answer #2: "accidentally"


Title: Law student needs help

Question:
i have just started studying law and i am struggling with a question and would hope if anybody can help answer. the question is...

Guy 1 was dancing with Guy 2's girlfriend and guy 2 got jealous.
guy 2 then went and got his mates and jumped guy 1.
Guy 2 then kicks guy 1 and then got a weapon and slashed him.
Guy 1 then dies from his injuries.
It takes place in Scotland

What is this crime? i think it's culpable homicide but not sure what type of culpable homicide this is.

thanks for your help

UPDATE: Thanks for all your smart answers. I went with my first option and guessed it was culpable homicide.
I was right but incorrect at the same time. My lecturer said that it can be argued it was murder but it can still be proven with provocation as culpable homicide

Answer: Hint: it is in your book.


Title: Ex hiding my child right after I filed a status quo.

Question:
He has not been served the status quo yet, which is where my child spends one day a week with dad (this has been the schedule since my little one was born.) it has been two days and i finally was able to reach ex, who basically texts me that hes keeping little one for and undetermined amount of time and theres nothing i can do about it.
I have a police officer comong out to my home right now to see if theres anything i can do, but since the papers were not served yet, my hopes are not up. What can i do otherwise? I am meeting with legal aid in the morning as well.
It might be important to note that ex was physically abusive with me and there was a civil stipulated restraining order that eventually expired. We also had a parenting plan signed off on by a judge that mirrored what is in the statua quo, but it was dismissed, hence why i filed a new case and status quo paperwork. In Oregon.

UPDATE: the police officer who spoke to me could only do a welfare check at this point. But he told me that this event will not be looked at favorably by a judge and it could potentially get ex's one day a week taken away from him. Im assuming he means whenever we have our hearing for the custody papers i filed, i should bring this up and it wont be good for him. He wasnt very well versed on what a status quo was, so im wondering if his advice was valid?

Another update: I met with an attorney who said this event is very good news for my case and could easily have his one overnight taken away from him. He also has never paid child support so attorney got that ball rolling real quick as well. Thanks to all who contributed and made me feel alot more optimistic about this.

Update 3: I think that the police officer that did a welfare check was able to contact my ex, because ex suddenly contacted me that they were on their way home and to come pick up my child. I also spoke to the sheriffs office and let them know hes back in town. They will be serving a boatload of paperwork to ex tomorrow, inlcuding the status quo. Attorney says we will file an amended status quo that retracts his one overnight until the custody case as well, based on this event.

SO I have been calling the sheriffs office and checking to see if the papers have been served yet. They have not. Little one should be going to dads this saturday to Sunday, without any status quo in place, will it be a bad move for me to let dad know that im not comfortable with my child going to his house after last weekend? Im afraid of him being a flight risk and doing something stupid again. I just want to keep my child at home until thw status quo papers are served.

Answer:
 In addition to the steps you're already taking, you may want to consider calling CPS. With your ex's violent history, if you think that the child is in danger from your ex, CPS may be able to help you. Answer #2: IANAL My understanding is Oregon is a little different. In Oregon possession really is 9/10ths of the law.

Even tho they are unmarried and lack formal custody orders, the child's residence is where they live, hence the need for the status quo ex parte order.

If the child lives with you, you are the custodial parent so dad is trying to beat the order by saying no, look, baby lives with me.

Hope I've explained this well.


Title: Aiding Rojava

Question: SWIM want to support the Kurds in their efforts to establish a functional independent state in Rojava but SWIM don't want to break any rules by aiding an unrecognized state. If possible SWIM would like to donate money directly to Rojava rather than give money to a non-profit but thats also an option. The YPG is affiliated with the PKK but the US sort of ignores that fact out of convenience. SWIM is not trying to donate military aid but help pay for governance costs/medical and infrastructure costs. How could SWIM do this legally? - USA  state laws probably don't apply here

Answer:
 For the uninitiated: SWIM in internet parlance means **S**omeone **W**ho **I**s **M**e. Somehow, someone got the idea that the third word was 'isn't' and that posting 'SWIM' instead of 'I' or 'me' would be the one weird trick that prevents the FBI/DEA from arresting them. That someone is probably in federal prison.

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Title: Can I legally be made to clean human waste without training? (Uk)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Training to clean human waste? If you don't know how to clean a bathroom, perhaps you can ask one of your servants how they manage it.


Title: [Texas, USA] Psychiatrist wrote me a letter for leave of absence after my employer denied me vacation time

Question:
i work in retail. my district manager denied my vacation time request for a week in mid june. understand the decision, it was relatively short notice and my store manager already is going on vacation that same week. i submitted my request late because i knew i was going to be denied (i transferred to a new location and the manager already had said week for vacation. only 1 person per store can be on vacation at a time). i just thought i'd try because this upcoming trip is very important to me. i was of course denied.

basically- i have depression. i had been looking forward to this camping trip since it was planned 12 months ago. won't be dramatic, but it's the one thing that i truly enjoy doing.
my psychiatrist today wrote a letter for me saying

>this letter is to certify that [me] is under treatment with [her]. due to his medical condition, [me] will not be able to work [trip week] due to increased stress + medically necessary time off. please contact me with any questions"

she said that this letter will protect me from getting fired for taking the week off. is this true? from the look of it, my employer is covered under fmla, but according to one article i'm reading, i had to have submitted 30 days notice, which i did not.

am i fucked? my managers "like" me but they told me all about how it was simply not possible to grant me the week off. i'm afraid of presenting this letter to them, knowing i did not follow the required procedures. and if it is invalid, i am afraid of the repercussions

Answer:
 Nice try but the letter is not going to get you out of work.  You need to submit additional paperwork to be on FMLA and time off still needs to be approved.  A camping trip is not covered under FMLA.Answer #2: > she said that this letter will protect me from getting fired for taking the week off

Wow she needs to stop misleading people.

Yes, she *may* be thinking of FMLA but not sure why she didn't say that.

>*FMLA eligibility requires the following criteria: The employee must have been employed with the company for 12 months. The employee must have worked at least 1,250 hours during the 12 months prior to the start of FMLA leave. The employer is one who employs 50 or more employees within a 75-mile radius of the worksite.*

If you qualify, you can take up to 12 weeks off unpaid and it will protect your job, but it's a process:

>*To apply for FMLA, the employee must take an FMLA Medical Certification Form to their health care provider. This form ensures that the employee's or family member's applicable health condition is valid. After receiving the form, the employee must return it within 15 calendar days.*

FMLA can be retroactive but it's best to not go there. And now that they know it's a camping trip, I'm not sure how that would all play out. The conditions eligible for FMLA leave include "to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition" but camping as "medical leave"?

https://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/fmla-faqs.htm

Sorry you're so unhappy.


Title: What the heck happened in that deleted thread?

Question: It's not the typical BOLA or LA, but it's a lot of the usual players.

Answer:
 What thread? The one that ended up on subredditdrama? Answer #2: r/SubredditDrama FTW!

https://www.reddit.com/r/SubredditDrama/comments/8rr7pz/is_a_legaladvice_mod_an_mra_bestoflegaladvice?sort=topAnswer #3: Too many feels, not enough reals. Answer #4: May I post LAOP's update?

It's in the WayBack Machine. Answer #5: You can the threads on removeddit or ceddit - I'd say it's pretty self-explanatory.


Title: My parents won't give me my passport

Question: Isn't this illegal since it's not technically their property? I am trying to move out and they claim it's "their document". What should I do?

Answer:
 It's not "their document"; it's the property of the US government. If your local laws permit, you may be able to file an action for replevin (return) in small claims court; if you know exactly where the document is, you may also be able to ask the local law enforcement to do a 'civil standby' at the house while you go in to retrieve it.

However, the simplest way is to file a police report for stealing your passport and then purchase a new one. Answer #2: Location and age?


Title: Can I take my doctor to small claims court?

Question:
Months ago, I went into my regular GP for an annual physical. I have insurance with BCBS. They had mailed me out a new card and I didn't notice that they picked a new primary care doctor for me (some person I didn't know and actually when I called them to make an appointment, they weren't taking new patients so I had to find another one that was approved).

Anyway, I went into my physical and had it and they didn't say anything. Later, I get billed for almost $1,000 because my insurance wouldn't cover anything that wasn't referred by my primary care doctor, in this case someone who I didn't know who wouldn't see me.

So I called them and explained my situation and asked that they work something out with me, since both myself and they made a mistake and failed to realize my insurance wouldn't cover this. I was hoping they'd re-bill this at lower rates, not the much higher rates they probably charge insurance companies. The lady I spoke with said she'd do something and get back with me. She never did and now it's sent to collections.

What are my options here? Bite the bullet? I'm in Texas, if that makes a difference.

Answer:
 Ultimately, it is your responsibility to ensure that the services you are receiving are covered by your insurance provider.  It is not the responsibility of the insurance company nor your doctor nor the service provider.

Unless there are some additional facts, I don't think you have a claim against your doctor.


Title: "Dude where's my Car" oh it got towed again.

Question:
I'm in need of some help! if anybody hates sketchy towing companies as much as I do please tell me what I can do. So my 2009 crown Vic got towed recently, the tire was flat and it wouldn't start last time I checked on it. Came back two days later and it was gone. BTW I live in bexar county Tx. It was sitting in our apartment complex in the same parking spot for about two months because I was out of town. I came back and tried to drive it and it was dead, the tire was flat and there was a cute little sticker on there the next day, I waited till the day after to try and move it but it was already gone. I was not given any notice besides the one on my car and the apartment complex manager never said anything to me, also the car was just bought so it was not registered under my name yet but on the previous owner, but he never got a notification about it being towed either. Here's a link to the towing laws please lmk what y'all think
http://www.bexartowing.net/laws.htm

Tl; Dr pretty sure my car was illegally towed and a scamming tow company is trying to make me pay 400+ to get it out

Answer:
 Your car wasn't moved for 2 months, wasn't in your name, and didn't run? And you are surprised that the complex towed it?Answer #2: You say twice that you got notice via a sticker. But still didn't move the car. So... It got towed. Sounds normal to me

Your apartment approved the tow of your abandoned broken vehicle. I would guess it is on your leaseAnswer #3: >lmk what y'all think

It sounds like your inoperable car was righteously and reasonably towed from an apartment complex after being issued a warning that it would be.


Title: Refusing to hire me based on failed drug test for prescription meds. It’s a little more complicated, so I will explain in the comments

Question:
Just for context I will be talking about 2 different jobs for the timeline.  Previous job and desired job, just as to not confuse the 2.  I was at my previous job for a year, and I am still I. Process of working for the desired job.

June 2018:
I was recruited by the manager at a dealership where they do drug screenings for pre-employment.  Very common,  I was originally trying to get the job back in early July, and had agreed to quit my previous job in order to make the transition.

I went and took the drug screening back in June.  At about the same time, my previous job started getting busier and busier, and i ultimately decided to stay at my previous employer.

Now, to clarify, I had already went down the path of starting the desired job with drug screening, and employee packet... etc, but ultimately did not see this through bc my current job I would be walking away from too much money.

Fast forward to this week or mid September 2018, I finally pulled the trigger to start the desired job and quit my previous job.

Desired job told me I need to do drug screening again bc they only will accept the previous for 3 weeks.

I completed urine test on Monday of this week, and the results came back negative and I am approved to work.

However, and this is where the twist come in, Today, Friday when I have been getting impatient with why the lab/ not employer hasn’t informed of drug screening results (only thing holding me back from starting the position) I start doing some inquiring of my own.

I contact the actual clinic that sent my urine test off to the lab this week, and verified that my drug screening was clear.

When I go talk to my employer they are telling me that I FAILED the urine test.

How could this be?!  I called the lab back again, and confirmed this was not the case.

Apparently what happened is I failed the drug test back in June 2018.   I am not surprised bc I am on prescription meds that definitely would have caused me to fail.

When the urine tests positive for drugs, the lab performing the urine test, apparently will reach out to the prospective employee to verify that the reason for failing the drug test was in fact legitimate bc of prescriptions.

Back in June/ July of this year, I guess I was contacted by the lab to verify my prescriptions.  Here’s the thing.   I was so insanely busy, there’s no way I would have been able to answer the phone, not cared to.

I’m thinking I missed their phone calls to verify my prescriptions and have the discussion with my doctor, and because I didn’t do follow up, they are as of now saying that I am being held accountable for the June results.  (Even though I didn’t pursue the job back in June).

I tried contacting the lab that did the urine analysis back in June, but bc the employer paid for the testing and I did not, they will not allow me to see the results of the test, so that I can show them I am prescribed meds.

I am trying to work it out with the desired job, but want to know if I can pursue legal representation just in case this desired company won’t allow me to verify my prescriptions for the past test.

Is this a case that I could had to pursue legal action under the Americans with Disabilities Act?

Any questions for clarity please do include.  Thanks

Answer: You’re not being discriminated against for having a disability, you’re being discriminated against for failing a drug test and offering no reasonable explanation as to why when you were asked.  That is legal.  You have no case.


Title: Someone tried to buy things online with my debit card and now I know the ship-to address

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >Should I contact the authorities about this?

Yes


Title: [USA] Are there laws regulating "projection bombing"?

Question:
I'd like to take a projector out into the city and project video onto the walls of buildings. I understand that this is called "projection bombing" and is often used to create temporary, non-vandalizing graffiti.

What are the restrictions regarding this?

If I'm allowed to stand outside a building holding physical signs, how is it different if I project the signs onto the buildings?

EDIT: Fine. Massachusetts.

Answer:
 It is not unusual for city ordinances to ban shining lights on others' property in a bothersome way, in the same way they prohibit excessively loud music and the like. It really depends on the jurisdiction you're in. The wording will be important in determining whether the specific projection is illegal.

Of course, there are also laws relating to the *content* of what you project, such as obscene images. But that's not particular to any technology.


Title: I was informed someone made a false report to CPS under my name. What can be done?

Question: my ex andci are in a huge custody battle over my six year old son.  he spoke with me, last night, stating that cps came to his house, interviewed him, And was told that it had been reported that he is involved in illegal drug activity. he then was required to submit a drug urine test. he states that when he was doing this, he saw paperwork pertaining to the case that indicated i called and opened/reported the case/situation. i did not call however. i am not 100% sure who did but i do have a hunch on whom. in any case, this is a false report, fraud, & breaking confidentiality. what can be done?

Answer: It seems unlikely CPS would allow him to see who filed the report. Could he be lying about that part based on his own assumption it was you?


Title: I left my company a month ago and still have my computer equipment.

Question:
My former employer supplied me with home office equipment, monitors docking station, shredder, etc, as well as a laptop and iPhone.

They said that I could expect shipping labels within 14 days. 30+ days and several reminders later, and still no labels.

At what point is it legal to assume the equipment abandoned? 90 days? 120 days? *Ever*?

Answer:
 Send them a certified letter stating they have 30 days to send the shipping labels required for their equipment or you will consider it abandoned.  Do not pay for the shipping yourself.Answer #2: This happened to me. (They gave me a stipend for home office setup and let me take monitors home from my office when it closed, but did say they were going to send a box for my laptop. Sensitive financial information, etc.)

 I called them twice about it and was told they would send it- seven months later....

It was encrypted and my credentials timed out, so I wound up with a modestly nice Latitude I couldn't log into.  Months later I finally got around to installing a trial copy of windows over the encrypted brick and now I have a new personal laptop with some obscure company stickers on it. If they want it back they can have it, but I'm pretty sure they have bigger things on their mind at the moment. Answer #3: If I'm not mistaken, if you've made several attempts in good faith to request the shipping labels so you could return the items that your former employer gave you, you're entitled to keep them. You've given them 30 days to remedy the situation so they could recover the items and they've failed to do so. But to be on the safe side you may want to get advice from a consumer law attorney to see what your rights are in this situation.


Title: I am currently a high school teacher on my intern year who has been suspended due to a student (18) making false allegations out of spite. I lost my position in a school that I loved, I run the risk of losing sponsorship for my certification, and now I am labeled as "pervert" within the community.

Question:
Hi r/legaladvice,

A student made false allegations out of spite for reporting her to the school administration for being in my room and following me around the school as well as continuously spamming my email and social media. Following the day I reported her, she reported that I kissed her (untrue) so I was placed on admin leave. I am still getting paid for the whole school year, and have not had any financial loses. However, the school district is so backed up with similar cases (400 or so as they told me) that it could be a 6+ month investigation, and due to not being able to finish the school year, it seems I will have to redo a whole probationary year again with my sponsors for my certification if they do not drop me based on the allegations. I was already told by the district I cannot return to that particular school if the investigation finds me innocent (which it will), so I already lost a school and a position in which I was very comfortable in.

Also, I feel I have lost respect within the community, as when I go shopping or to eat whenever I see another staff member or student they turn pale and pretend they do not know me or tell me that the entire campus has wrote me off as a pervert, which I believe this falls into defamation?

There is no evidence that the student and I had physical contact (kiss) and in fact I have a 10 minute recording of the student telling me that her family is asking her to lie and say that I assaulted her so they can get some sort of financial reward. I know that this ten minute recording more than proves my innocence, and proves her family conspired to take me specifically down to go after the district, regardless of how sullied my name becomes.

Is there any legal action I can take against the student (18) or her family? I feel like the student defamed my name and cost me a comfortable position in  a school I loved, and I hate the fact that the student and their family will not suffer from any consequences. This is in Texas, by the way.

Answer:
 Good news is that Texas is a one party consent state. Have you shared the recording with the school board or whomever is investigating?Answer #2: This is the trouble with teaching.  Students or parents can make accusations and the teachers job is over, regardless of the truth.

Since you do not have tenure, it's over.  Start applying to other school districts.  You'll get hired somewhere else.  You'll forget the sting of this experience and have many good years in another place.  Just be careful.  NO STUDENT CONTACT outside of classroom business.Answer #3: This is clear-cut Defamation, Civil Conspiracy, and likely Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress. I think this is so clear-cut that you should shop around and find the best lawyer you can, as I see no reason that any lawyer would turn this case down.Answer #4: I am not a lawyer, but I would get a lawyer and have them write a nice long letter to the student and her parents that outlines the civil lawsuit you plan to file against them. You have proof that her lie could drastically alter your future earning potential. I’d demand they publicly retract the complaint, public publishing of the audio and then... I’d prob still sue them.

Granted, I’m just a dude bored on a 13-hour flight with no legal training but seems like a pretty easy civil case and the right lawyer could probably make a case for potential massive financial loss. You could argue this has permanently damaged your ability to be a teacher... so you wasted your money on your degree and now need to find a new career.


Title: [OR] Film subject is demanding footage (and more) even after we agreed not to use her - do we need to turn it over?

Question:
Hello!

Could use some quick legal advice, if possible! We've been working on a film here in Oregon which involves interviewing real people. We filmed a scene with one such person, who was displeased by the way the interview went down and demanded we not use her scene, threatening potential legal action if we were to do so.

I should now make it clear that she did sign a release waiver beforehand, one that we have all our on-camera subjects sign. It's a standard film waiver, basically agreeing to let us film her, use/edit the footage however we please, in perpetuity, etc. She signed this under no duress, nor intoxication.

But that's beside the point, because immediately after she got in touch with us via e-mail to withdraw consent for us using her in the film, I wrote back and said I understood, and that we would cut her out of the film entirely. So this issue doesn't even have to do with whether or not we have the grounds to use the footage (although any opinion on that is welcome), because we want to respect her wishes, so we are not using her in the film whatsoever.

She has since gotten back after apparently consulting with her company's attorney, and has drafted up a long-winded document she expects me to sign, along with demands of sending her a copy of the footage, as well as destroying any and all copies we have. The document details all of this, along with statements where I give up any claims to intellectual property over the footage, void her waiver, and agree that if I fail to comply to any of this after signing the document, I'm liable for a litany of random charges (including "violation of privacy and publicity rights, misrepresentation, fraud, false light, libel, slander, copyright infringement, and all other available claims, including criminal charges" - I should also make it clear that she does not come across badly in the footage whatsoever...). She went as far as to say that her attorney is suggesting more aggressive measures, but she said that she assumes I'll follow along, so isn't going to go that far yet.

After consulting with our team, I currently have no desire or intention of signing such a document. We've already agreed not to use the footage of her, despite her signing a waiver, so I feel the matter should be put to bed. But now I turn to you all to ask if I'm mistaken in doing so, and if there are any real grounds. Does she have a right to the footage? What "aggressive measures" could her attorney be talking about? Should I sign this document? Does she have any case?

Thank you for any help you can give!

Answer:
 Of course you shouldn't sign it, good call.

You should contact the lawyer you got your release from and have them simply send a letter to her lawyer that says something like, "It appears from the claims made in your letter of [X DATE] that your client may have failed to inform you of the terms of the attached release, which she executed on [DATE SHE SIGNED]. As you can see, her claims are unfounded: your client waived any and all rights in the footage, granted my client permission to use the footage in the film, and waived any right to control the editing or use thereof. However, in a gesture of goodwill, my client has agreed not to use any footage of your client in the film, and has also agreed not to use your client's name, image or recording in any publicity thereto. I trust that this resolves the matter and that your client will cease her harassment of my client."

If she doesn't have a lawyer--if she just sent you this insane request herself--I would ignore her until she either (1) has a lawyer or (2) gets obnoxious (bombarding you with phone calls/emails/etc., showing up at the shoot or wherever she can find you, etc.).Answer #2: >She went as far as to say that her attorney is suggesting more aggressive measures, but she said that she assumes I'll follow along, so isn't going to go that far yet.

I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say that she does not have a lawyer.

You have a release, and unless you committed some type of deception, you can do with the film what you please, limited to what's in the release.Answer #3: Maybe have your attorney send her something like this?

http://www.lettersofnote.com/2011/02/regarding-your-stupid-complaint.html


Title: Roommate telling me I need to move out early

Question: I'm in Houston, TX and due to incompatibility, I decided to move out from my place with my roommate and into a studio. I was not on the lease (but the landlady knew I was living there) and gave my 30 days notice on Nov. 16th, telling my roommates I would move out on Dec. 16th. At first my roommate said I would need to give 60 days, but since I am month-to-month, I gave her 30 days. Then she said I would need to pay for all of December, which wasn't what the renter's rights handbook from the Texas State Bar said. I paid yesterday through the 16th plus two extra days as a gesture of goodwill. Today she texts me and tells me I will need to be out by the 9th so the new roommate can move in on the 10th. Since I am not on the lease, is she legally able to do this? I can move on the 9th luckily, but I already paid through the 16th (I'm assuming she is charging rent from the 10th for the new person, so in effect asking for double rent for that week), so am I legally entitled to receive a refund? Thank you in advance!

Answer: How about meet in the middle? If you move into your new place by then and will your roommate give you back the extra you paid (7 days rent) then seems both of you get what you want?


Title: ILLINOIS INSURANCE COMPANY WRONGLY ISSUES HOMEOWNER POLICY TO TENANT, PLACES TENANT IN TOTAL CONTROL OF LANDLORD'S RECOMPENSE AFTER FIRE, UNBELIEVABLE BUT TRUE!!!!

Question:
 In Nov. 2014, SELLER went to court to have BUYER  forfeited from her Contract for Deed and to have her evicted from  his property. Because it was so cold in Northern Illinois that Nov., SELLER did not have the heart to have BUYER evicted in such bad weather and so close to the holidays. SELLER decided to propose to  BUYER that she be allowed to stay in the house until the better weather of Apr. if, and only if,  BUYER would pay $100 per month rent and proved insurance on the house. That proposal was accepted with gratitude by the BUYER. A new lease agreement was signed by  BUYER and SELLER  and the Judge and entered into the forfeiture case file as an Agreed Order. SELLER also  included an offer that if the  FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT could come up with all the money to cure all the arrearages ( about $7000 ) to bring the forfeited Contract for Deed up to date,  FORMER-SELLER-NOW-LANDLORD would reinstate the forfeited Contract for Deed.

The  FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT took a copy of the Agreed Order ( a now admitted fact) to a CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT for one the largest insurance companies in Illinois and the CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT bound a homeowners policy to the FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT  as the insured and the FORMER-SELLER-NOW-LANDLORD as additional insured/mortgagee.            ( essentially, the agent wrote a homeowners policy to the tenant ( non-owner) in spite of being in possession of the document that expressly for forfeited all her " rights, title and interests" in the owner's property.)

Then, in late Feb. 2015, the house burned and was a total loss.

THE LANDLORD met with the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER from the insurance company the day after the fire and immediately gave the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER a copy of the Agreed Order. ( SELLER-LANDLORD  knew the Agreed Order was a unique outcome to a forfeiture and eviction proceeding and wanted the adjuster to know exactly the situaton surrounding ownership of his destroyed property in case the TENANT had not given the Agreed Order to the agent at binding.)

Less than two weeks later, without further discussion with LANDLORD, the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER wrote a two party check for about $86000 ( requiring FORMER-SELLER-NOW-LANDLORD's signature and FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT's signature in order to be cashed) for the entire amount of the insurance policy pertaining to the LANDLORD'S destroyed dwelling and demolition expenses. ( The FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT received tens of thousands of dollars for her destroyed possessions and started receiving " loss of use" payments as well from the wrongly issued to her homeowners policy.)

This issuance of a claim settlement by the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER for a building destroyed by fire was in direct violation of an Illinois Law 215 ILCS 5/397.1 which states that no claim over $25000 can be paid until the States Attorney of the county of the property  is notified and the County Tax Collector and the City of the site of the destroyed building has received money set aside  for possibly delinquent taxes and demolition expenses. The CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER  did not comply with the requirements of the State Law.  Instead, he issued the settlement in a manner that allowed the FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT  to demand any amount of money she desired in return for signature on the check before THE LANDLORD, or the City, or the County, could see any of the settlement money.

About three weeks later, when the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER was contacted by the City as to why  no funds were set aside and sent to them for demolition, the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER did not give a straight answer. ( The Adjuster was a "Senior Adjuster" so he must have known the State Law and the set aside requirements.)

Of course, the FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT  then demanded tens of thousands of dollars from THE LANDLORD in exchange for her signature on the settlement check.That would have left THE LANDLORD with only a small part of the $86000 settlement for the destruction of house he owned.  The FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT would then make off with the rest. ( her investement in the house at the time of the forfeiture was less $2000 of the purchase price of about $27000.  Nice profit for her! The very definition of " unjust enrichment".)

A couple of weeks later, the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER threatened THE LANDLORD with the loss of the entire  settlement if he pursued a certain type of court action that declared he owned the house on the day of the fire. ( which was, in fact, true)

Several months later, THE LANDLORD finally figured out that the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER was trying to cover up the CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT's mistake of writing a homeowners policy to the  FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT.The error of binding a homeowners policy to the TENANT happened even though the CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT was given a copy of the Agreed Order ( by the FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT ) when she went to him to get insurance on the house that would allow her stay in the house until better weather.    ( The CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT should have told her he could not write to her an insurance policy on the property because she did not own it.)

 THE LANDLORD has been in contact with the Illinois Dept. of Regulation and filed a complaint. The BIG INSURANCE COMPANY has so confused the issue with the investigators that they are turning a blind eye to the insurance companies violation of 215 ILCS 5/397.1 and refuse to address the COMPANY'S misdeeds.

 THE LANDLORD has finally ( after  9 months ) been in direct contact with BIG INSURANCE COMPANY but they continue to maintain it is okay to put the TENANT'S name on a settlement check for a property she did not own. That has  forced THE LANDLORD to continue his lawsuit against TENANT  to get any part of the settlement check. lANDLAND also knows that BIG INSURANCE COMPANY is now colluding with TENANT against LANDLORD in the current suit. ( LANDLORD  should have been suing BIG INSURANCE COMPANY from the begining  but it took months for LANDLORD ( and others ) to figure out BIG INSURANCE COMPANY'S wrong doings. No one presented with the facts of the this matter, including three lawyers and a couple of insurance veterans, upon first examinarion, figured it out either but once the facts were examined with cover up for CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT in mind, it all made sense.)

The BIG INSURANCE COMPANY also did not furnish  THE LANDLORD  a copy of the  BIG INSURANCE COMPANY'S policy on which he is listed as additional/mortagee for nearly a year after  THE LANDLORD first requested a copy. That initial request was probably stifled by the CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT trying to cover up for the CAPTIVE INSURANCE AGENT mistake.

 THE LANDLORD, in order to be a good citizen, paid for the demolition of the property out of his own pocket after the BIG INSURANCE COMPANY failed to set aside money to the City as required by State Law. The neighbors suffered for over a year with the stinking, burned out hulk still standing. That would not have happened had the CAPTIVE INSURANCE ADJUSTER complied with state law and set aside money to the City for the demo as BIG INSURANCE COMPANY was required to do.

The BIG INSURANCE COMPANY still refuses steadfastly to make things right with  THE LANDLORD. The BIG INSURANCE COMPANY will not take the  FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT'S name off the check ( even when presented with all the documents ) nor will they discuss recompense for the vexation and trouble THE LANDLORD has endured over the past year.

All of this is true and  THE LANDLORD has the documents to prove it.

In summary,

THE ACTIONS OF THE BIG INSURANCE COMPANY'S EMPLOYEES, IN PARTICULAR,  THE CAPTIVE ADJUSTER,  THE CAPTIVE AGENT  AND OTHERS ARE, AND HAVE BEEN, AN ATTEMPT TO COVERUP THE CAPTIVE AGENT'S MISTAKE OF ISSUING OF A HOMEOWNERS POLICY ON  THE LANDLORD PROPERTY TO HIS FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT ( NOT THE OWNER OF THE PROPERTY AT THE TIME OF THE ISSUANCE OF THE POLICY).

IN FURTHERANCE OF THE COVERUP, THE BIG INSURANCE COMPANY VIOLATED 215 ILCS 5/397.1, FAILED TO PAY LOSSES ACCORDONG TO THEIR OWN POLICY PROVISIONS WHICH STATED LOSSES TO INSURED'S AND ADDTIONAL INSURED'S WOULD BE ACCORDING TO THEIR RESPECTIVE FINANCIAL INTERESTS, THREATENED  THE LANDLORD WITH LOSS OF SETTLEMENT IF HE PURSUED A CERTAIN COURT ACTION TO GAIN ACCESS TO SETTLEMENT FUNDS, FORCED THE LANDLORD TO PURSUE COURT ACTION IN ORDER FOR  THE LANDLORD TO SEE ANY FUNDS FROM THE SETTLEMENT AS THE  FORMER-BUYER-NOW-TENANT WAS PLACED IN A POSITION BY THE BIG INSURANCE COMPANY TO HOLD THE SETTLEMENT FOR RANSOM, FORCED   THE LANDLORD  TO PAY FOR THE DEMO FROM HIS OWN FUNDS AND CAUSED   THE LANDLORD   TO SPEND UNTOLD HUNDREDS OF HOURS ON THE  INTERNET RESEARCHING FOR HIS UNNECESSARY COURT CASE AND PREPARING MOUNTAINS OF PAPERS AND LETTERS AND EMAILS ABOUT ALL OF THIS.

Now,   THE LANDLORD  needs to find an agressive, successful lawyer to bring the BIG INSURANCE COMPANY to account for their misdeeds and gain recompense for THE LANDLORD  for all the trouble they have caused him over the past year.

Please pass this along to all of your contacts. Help find someone interested in helping THE LANDLORD with this. LANDLORD'S family has suffered more than a year because of this  BIG INSURANCE COMPANY's actions and they need to be held accountable.

The names of the people and the insurance company involved are intentionally omitted but if you are an agressive, successful  lawyer experienced in dealing with insurance companies in Northern Illinois or Chicago suburbs this is a verrrrry unique instance of an insurance company's bad behavior. I can prove it by docs. If this looks like something for you, or if you know someone, somehow we can get in touch.

Answer: Have you submitted this to an agent?  You pretty much have a novel here.


Title: [NYC] My boss is making bathroom rules for the office.

Question:
I'm working for a small company (4 employees) and the owner is very controlling. Recently I got a written warning citing among various things too much time spent using the bathroom.

We are usually given 30 min lunch and 2 15 minute breaks during the day. Yesterday he eliminated both 15 minute breaks citing too much time is spent using the bathroom. I don't find it to be anything excessive from anybody, but I have almost never seen him use the bathroom so I guess he has a very high standard for it.

He also implemented a policy that we have to leave our phones at our desks while using the bathroom because he is afraid we are working side jobs in there. Another employee has told me his obsessive behavior causes multiple people to quit before I was hired.

At this point I'm ready to quit, but is there anything I can do to improve the situation while looking for another job?

Answer: NY does not require rest breaks, only a meal break, but you cannot restrict bathroom use. If it as extreme as you are conveying, it might be a good idea to get OSHA involved.Answer #2: I worked for a jerk like this.  He made me make up my time if he thought I was in the bathroom too long.  I reported him to HR...in my exit interview.


Title: A Rat's Nest in Oven, Landlord Won't Replace (PA)

Question:
My boyfriend's oven (broiler) has a rat's nest in it. He informed the landlord immediately, who is just now getting around to doing anything.

He wants to fix the oven. I'm saying the thing should be replaced. He claims because it's in the broiler it's not unsanitary (wtf). What are his options? We live in PA, and I don't think he should pay rent until he completely replaces the oven.

Answer:
 Consider that if he were to replace it (which he has no obligation to do), he would certainly have no obligation to replace it with a brand new oven.

He could replace it with a functional oven from another unit, or that he found off some guy on the internet, or from the junk yard.

Under those circumstances, you would have no idea what kind of animals had previously lived in it.

For that matter, you have no idea how many animals lived in the existing oven before your boyfriend ever moved in.

You are going to burn through a lot of your own money if you set the standards that you need to throw something away and buy it brand new just because it gets dirty.Answer #2: Well, the broiler will get hot enough to sanitize it completely unless I'm mistaken about broiling...

Does he depend on the broiler for daily use?Answer #3: Just clean it. Unless it ate the cables or something, there's no reason to replace an entire oven. This is pretty common.

Withhold rent and he can be evicted. Answer #4: There's no reason to replace the stove.  Once the nest is gone and cleaned there's no issue.


Title: I (28F) seriously considering leaving partner (33M). We have a child together (1F)

Question:
Hi all,

Mind is going a thousand miles an hour and I'm on mobile so apologies if this is all over the shop.

My SO evidently has anger issues which I had not seen up until a couple of months ago. After an episode last night I am thinking about what is best for my daughter and me. I was scared shitless thinking about leaving but sort of excited too.

So, background, I work part time after having our daughter and my SO works shiftwork, so I work on the days he is home to look after her. Basically if I leave I would probably have 2 set days at work and put her in childcare for those 2 days.

My SO owns the house we are in at the moment and although I haven't signed any tenancy agreements I have been there for 5 years now. We have joint back accounts and all the rest, so it's not like I pay a fixed amount for 'rent'

I am in Australia and will apply for the single parenting payment and family tax benefits, as well as rent assistance and a bond loan, as I don't have separate funds, so I am working off having nothing if I leave.

Working only 2 days a week will be tight and I might have to do more depending on if it is 'worth it' with childcare costs etc. I know I could apply for a small interest free loan for appliances like a washer and TV.

Is there anything else I should do? I am waiting to hear back from a legal aid office about setting up an appointment from where to go from here.

Is it a good idea to do things like pay for my daughters swimming lessons in advance for a year and buy gift cards etc to fall back on if I end up with no funds?

How does all this work. I'm so torn between doing this and not doing it. I just need to know my daughter and I will be ok.

Thanks
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Maybe also post this to r/AusLegal for more answers? :)


Title: Is it legal to buy something from someone in public consensually without any permits?

Question: Let's say I was walking around the park buying pokemon cards off of every stranger I met, is this legal?

Answer:
 It's not broadly illegal to buy things off people in public.

There may be areas where, if you are doing this regularly, you need a permit to operate a business.  There may also be areas where soliciting people (walking up to random people and attempting to buy or sell trading cards) is prohibited.

Of course, if what you're actually buying is not legal to own, buy, or sell, you can get in trouble for that.


Title: Neighbor had maintenance man come into my apartment while I was gone (FL)

Question:
Hi

New neighbor moved in like a week ago. I have had no problems and little interaction with her up until last night. She knocked on my door at 10 or 11pm last night complaining she could hear my bathroom fan running. I guess the walls are so thin she can hear it running and asked me to shut it off so she could sleep. I agreed and apologized.

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This morning I was leaving my apartment, she came out of hers to apologize for last night and said "don't worry about me, use the fan if you need to" and then in the same breath also commented about how she could hear my kitchen stove top fan running and to "shut it off" that it doesn't need to run that long. At this point I explained to her that I used the bathroom fan because of how steamy my bathroom gets after a shower and the kitchen fan I turned on after cooking. She then said "well they must be broken or clogged if you need to run them that long" and mentioned getting in contact with a maintenance worker. I just agreed I should and I left to go to the store.

In the 3 hours I was gone, I came home to find out she had called the apartments maintenance team to come in WHILE I was gone to do a check on my apartment. She mentioned this in a note that she left on my door. She also knew specific details(she mentioned in the note) about my apartment that only she could have known if she went inside as well. My thinking is she also came into the apartment with the maintenance guys to snoop around.

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My lease calls for 24 hours notice before an entrance. I immediately emailed my landlord who said he'd be in touch with her to let her know that's not okay.  Nothing is missing or moved around, but I am angry and I feel violated that she could do that. I was not expecting anyone to enter my apartment that day and I did not put in a maintenance request.

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Am I wrong to be thinking I should also call the non-emergency police number and at least get some sort of police report for record? This has escalated to this within 24 hours and she has only been here a week.

Answer:
 If your landlord was unaware of this maintenance visit, it was not an emergency, and the maintenance guy(s) also allowed the neighbor to enter your apartment, while you were out, yes you should definitely file a police report!

You assume nothing is missing, but you can't be 100% sure, nor can you be sure nothing was left, or damaged, or anything. This was a clear case of trespass.


Title: How to go about legally starting an in-home private party business involving exotic dancer(s)?

Question: I live in PA. I am considering trying to start up a small business where I would go into the homes of clients and do private shows for them. This would include nudity and I imagine I would charge a price for me to show up plus tips. How would I go about doing this legally, if it is even legal? No sexual stuff would happen and it wouldn't be escorting. it would be a strip club in their homes...starring me.

Answer:
 You'll most certainly want to notify the following people, and follow their advice. If you do not HAVE an association with these people, then arrange it.

- small business lawyer
- accountant
- business insurance


Title: [MA] Employer didn't pay me so I kept their iphone. I'm now being charged with grand larceny.

Question: [removed]

Answer:
  OMG you messed up. Assuming you really are being charged with a crime, you absolutely need an attorney. You're facing a **felony** criminal charge.  You don't get to self help yourself to their property.

>  The employment contract I had did not specify anywhere that their equipment belonged to them

So you think that makes it yours? You think the contract had to say they get to keep their property or else you get to keep it? The idiocy of this logic is frankly stunning.


Title: I think my HOA is stealing my property

Question:
So, I live in the very front of the neighborhood, the first house past the neighborhood sign.

I’ve noticed recently that the bushes and landscaping around said sign seems to be too close to what I believe the property line should be. I found the title paperwork for the home that describes the lot, and by my best estimation, the HOA’s plants are approximately six feet over the property line. They aren’t PLANTED six feet over the line, they’ve just GROWN that large. (Well, sorta.) We noticed after the landscapers came through for the spring with new pine straw that they put down straw on an area of what is my yard, about 10 feet by 15 feet.

So, what can I do here? I believe if I have the area professionally surveyed, that I can cut their bushes as much as I want to and reclaim my land. But that would look awful. Ideally, I’d like to negotiate with them for something in return, say they pay for my lawn care in exchange for having bushes that don’t look awful.

Any suggestions?

Answer: First, have you talked to them about your concerns?


Title: [Indiana] Father used my money to purchase car in his name, now trying to take it from me

Question: I had the money to buy a car, and my dad convinced me to let him buy it for me and ended up purchasing it under his name. I'm moving to go to college soon, and now he's saying he's keeping the car. I paid with my own money and while I don't have much hope, I'm wondering if there is any legal recourse.

Answer: It's your Dad's car. You can try suing him for the value, but it's his car.


Title: Friends and I caught smoking in National Park in Ohio

Question: On Friday, about 6 weeks ago, my friends and I were caught smoking by two park rangers, they took down our information, confiscated our drugs and paraphernalia, called our parents and we left. They didn't give us any sort of citation or arrest us. As federal officers they said they do not pursue minors and they said it would be forwarded to the local county's prosecuting office. I called the juvenile court today to see if there has been a case filed against me and they said there has been nothing. Is it normal for it to take this long to file a case or are they letting me off?

Answer:
 It can take up to the statute of limitations which is generally years.

You may get off. You may not.


Title: [NY] disputing credit card charge from strip club

Question: [deleted]

Answer: No. Take the L.


Title: Girl Friend went to a hair salon, 10 days later has a patch of hair size of a quarter missing where there was tin foil for hair lightening.

Question:
Went to ER last Friday and was told need to need a primary. Have appointment tomorrow with a primary to see if we can find out what it is.

Is she able to contact a lawyer for possible civil suit for negligence if somehow the hair salon and missing hair is related? Ringworm? Chemical burn?

This is not genetic in her family and has never happened before. She is Asian early 30s and has long thick hair, so this is not typical.

Any advice going forward?

Answer: Why would you sue instead of letting the stylist know so they can fix it or have someone else do it? Also, breakage is a well known risk of hair lightening, especially if you have hair that's difficult to lift, which East and South Asian hair typically is. It's not gonna be ringworm either. If it's absolutely bald there and there are no broken and fried hairs near the scalp, this was not the result of bleach. My advice going forward would be to take deep breaths and not get litigious.


Title: It is legal in Ohio to drive with your left foot?

Question: Been having an argument, is it legal to drive with your left foot in Ohio? I know it’s NOT safe but is it illegal?

Answer: It's legal. Many of us at /r/Amputee wouldn't be able to drive otherwise without hand controls or assistance devices.


Title: I was separated from my child 12 years ago. If possible I'd like to try and contact him but his mother got a restraining order against me a long time ago. Is there any legal way to proceed?

Question:
Throwaway for privacy reasons. Here goes. 14 years ago I was married and we had a baby boy. At that time I was not in a good place at all. I had serious mental health issues due to things that happened during my childhood, which led to deep depression which I left untreated for a long time. I was a mess, I did drugs sometimes, I was unable to take care of myself, even less of a child, even if I loved him a huge lot. I was unable to connect to people and to be a good father because of my poor mental health. I had also anger issues and  hated myself with a passion. I was unable to keep a job and had no stable income even though I have skills. My wife tried to help but at some point it was too much and she left with the child. We had a divorce when my son was about 2, and she got full custody, which I'm first to admit was the right thing for the kid. I would never had abused him but I wasn't able to supervise him properly and offer him the emotional stability a child needs.

Soon after she left my ex-wife met someone and moved in with him, then they got married. I know him a little and he's a good, stable person.  I knew my kid was in a good home so it was fine. I didn't really try to see him often at the time because I was too busy spiraling, moreover I didn't think it would be good for him, which I now understand was probably not true but at the time I wasn't able to make sound decisions. I paid some child support, not much because of my low income, but I always made the payments I was required to.

Then an incident happened: my ex-wife agreed to meet me in a bar because I wanted to talk to her, and when we were there I got frustrated at how the discussion went I yelled at her,  got mad at a man who tried to intervene and ended up outside fighting with him, which terrified my ex-wife. In the end the guy had pity on me because he saw what a sorry mess I was and let it go. However that was it for my ex-wife and she said she never wanted me around anymore because I was dangerous (her father had anger management issues too so she didn't want to go through this again), and she got a restraining order against me, which I respected. She told me she would never let me near our child for fear I would hurt him. I never would but I understand how she could come to this conclusion after I had been verbally violent with her. Anyway I was sure that I would soon be dead so I just gave up and I didn't really try and see my son after that. Soon thereafter I was persuaded to relinquish my parental rights so his stepfather could adopt him. I thought he was young enough to forget me and he now had a good family. It hurt a lot doing this but I was convinced it was the right thing to do for him. I felt completely worthless at the time so I thought it was all for the better , and I got completely out of his and his life.

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However time passed and after years of misery and struggling and wanting to die I finally received help and support and somehow got my shit together. I dealt with my suffering and turned my life around in a way I would never have thought possible, and I've changed for the better. All this time it hurt a lot  to be without my kid even if I knew he was in a safe place. Knowing he was there somewhere has been one of the motivators for climbing out of the hole. I still miss him terribly, and I wonder how he's doing, what he's up to, what his life is like. I want him to know I'm there for him if he wants me. I'm not even sure if he knows about me, I'm aware contacting him could be very upsetting and I don't want to do this to him or his family. So I'd like to ask his mother what she thinks about it  (and I'm prepared to be told no), and what she told him about me, but I'm not supposed to contact her because of the restraining order. I don't want to do anything illegal, moreover I have a good job now and would risk being fired if I did. I'm lost and don't know what to do. I know it's my fault if I didn't have any contact with him for all this time, I take full responsibility for that. And I understand that I'm not legally his father anymore. So my question is this: is there any way I can get around this without breaking the restraining order or doing anything wrong or illegal? The last thing I want is to mess things up once more.

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Location: SC

Answer:
 Is the restraining order still in effect? I believe the maximum length of time for an order is one year in SC although it can be renewed.  If the restraining order has expired you would not be breaking any laws by contacting her with a contrite letter asking how your son is doing, and if they felt contact would be helpful for him.

 Don't contact him without getting permission first. You did the right thing in letting your child be raised in a stable loving home when you couldn't yourself. And I do think it might be helpful to let your son know that it was because of your own issues, not because of any lack of love for him. But you have to do it the right way for it to be helpful.Answer #2: You can have your attorney contact your ex on your behalf. He can advise the best way to do this. You can also start proceedings for awarding visitation.Answer #3: You relinquished your rights and the child was adopted. You have no right to see him. He is legally no longer your child. There is no way around a restraining order. Any attempt at contact is a violation.Answer #4: At this stage your only real option is to wait till the child is 18 and attempt to contact him directly.


Title: School mishandled my information

Question:
I recently received an email from a family member that a college believed that I used their social security number on my application. They want a notarized note from me stating that I used my ssn on my application by accident. The problem is, I stopped attending that school 4 years ago, and I never sent out my ssn. I have a reason to believe that because my family member and my information are very similar, when he applied to the school, the school assumed that the new application was my old application, so instead of creating a new account, updated my account.
This worries my for multiple reasons. First, the school did not contact me about the problem, but instead told my family member of the situation. This disclosure of personal information without my consent should not be allowed, and could be used to steal my identity. I was lucky that this time, it was a family member. Second, they altered my records without my consent, and want me to take the blame with a notary. Even if I write and send a notary, how will I know that the same mistake will not happen again? I would like to know what steps I should take.
Thanks for your help!

edit: I am from california
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 > I have a reason to believe that because my family member and my information are very similar, when he applied to the school, the school assumed that the new application was my old application, so instead of creating a new account, updated my account.

Why would you think that?  That's frankly a pretty far-fetched thing to happen.  Do you have similiar names?

When you say you "never sent out my ssn", what do you mean?  You mean you never gave it to the school?


Title: My BFF (15F) kissed a 21 year old man. How do I help?

Question:
I had to make a throwaway account for this. My best friend (who I’ll call Rita) and I are 15, we both have a crush on a guy that is 21, I’ll call him Jake. He’s a family friend to me. Obviously, I know a relationship with him will never happen, I just find him attractive. I thought Rita had the same belief. Jake is staying with my family until November because our house is close to his job, he’s going back to university in January.

When Rita comes over to my house, she flirts with Jake A LOT— and he flirts back. I took her aside and told her that I understand she likes him, but that’s weird and that type of relationship with him will never happen. When Rita left, I told Jake to stop flirting with her and that she’s underage. He said okay and that he was just playing around. Rita was supposed to come over last night, but i had a last minute plan and told her we could just meet up another day. She ignored what I said and headed to my house.

This morning, she told me her ‘flirting’ with Jake worked and he actually kissed her! WTF! She told me it was right in front of my house (we have cameras outside the entryways of the house). I checked the cameras and she was telling the truth. I could tell it was a mutual decision but I know in the eyes of the law, because Rita is underage they may not view it that way. I’m going to show my mom the security footage when she comes home, but what should we do after that? Jake is weird and I don’t want him in my house anymore.

 I just want to know, what does he get from this? Rita is inexperienced when it come to dating. I’m  sure when 21 year old guys brag about their GFs they don’t say “I’m with a girl who’s in 10th GRADE, hahahah it’s great.” Ive always assumed that most adults want to date... adults? I’m not trying to sound like a smart ass, but I’m pretty sure that A 15 year old girl and 21 year old man have different maturity levels.

**TLDR: my best friend Rita kissed my family friend who’s staying with us. He’s 21 years old. Besides telling my mother what should I do? I’m afraid of betraying Rita, but this is weird. Also, I live in New York.**

Answer: A kiss, while creepy, isn’t illegal (sex would be, but a kiss isn’t).Answer #2: There's no legal case here, but you are right to think it's weird and not want Jake at your home anymore. Definitely tell your parents. A 21-year-old should be dating other adults. It may not be illegal for Jake to kiss Rita, but it is a warning sign that he could be interested in a sexual relationship, and that WOULD be illegal.