Title: (MN) Truck ran a red and I went down on my motorcycle, business owner doesn't want to involve I insurance

Question:
I was sitting at a red light in rush hour on my motorcycle. When the light turned green I accelerated and then saw a truck out of the corner of my eye. I grabbed a fistful of brake and went down since my front end immediately came to a halt. Luckily, the truck passed I front of me! Bad news, my bike is all scratched up and it was in mint condition previously.

The woman behind me offered to call the cops, and she stayed behind to give a statement to police that the driver ran the red. The officer on scene also noted a traffic camera and said he would get the video for his report.

We exchanged insurance after the cop arrived and the business owner then showed up. He wants to keep insurance out of it and has offered to pay to have the bike repaired.

Any advice as to how to proceed? I don't want to file any frivolous lawsuits, however I am a little banged up and getting the bike fixed will be a huge pain I'm the ass. We're talking European brand here, so possibly a long turnaround and we only have a couple months left of good riding left.

Answer: Who cares what he wants. File a claim with your insurance to protect your interests. they will go after him or his insurance. Also, get checked out by a doctor if you haven't already.Answer #2: I'd be willing to bet his tune will change when he sees how much it will cost to repair/replace the bike. It doesn't take much to total a motorcycle. Add in the cost of your medical bills. Yeah, screw that. Call your insurance and have them go after him.


Title: Fired due to refusal to work in on-fire vehicle

Question:
Charlotte, NC

Hey guys I was hoping to reach out here and see if there's anything I can do... I drive the oldest truck (CDL B License) in our small company's fleet of vehicles; it's a trash truck. The vehicle I drive caught on fire today. Multiple times. The fire was in-cab under the control panel that sits practically all around me. The first time it happened this morning, I kinda freaked out. I grabbed the fire extinguisher that's required to be in all CDL trucks and it expired three years prior. Womp. Pulled the pin, and ofc nothing came out at all. I killed the engine/battery box and the mechanic made his way to me. He cut some melted wires out, and told me to keep on going. Roger.

About 10 minutes later the distinct smell was back in the truck. No signs of smoke. But at this point I'm not convinced the problem had been solved at all. It was just another "patch" job to get me back to work. I called the mechanic, and he didn't see anything. Was told to go back to work. I did just that. Had to drive to the dump to get rid of my load and smoke is bellowing out the passenger side wheel well. Call the mechanic, he comes out.. doesn't see anything and told to go back to work. I do. On the way back down the highway (the mechanic has now been following me) I lose all power in my throttle. The truck is engaging in gear, but I have no response on the fuel pedal whatsoever. He tells me to hop into the other side of the truck and drive it back to the base so he can take a look at things. (we have tandem driving, usually only ever drive on the right side of the vehicle I have never driven a trash truck from the left side of the vehicle prior to this) As driving on the opposite side of the truck, the smell is now stronger as I'm sitting on the side of the cab that originally caught fire. I still don't see smoke, but there's no mistaking that smell.

I get back to the yard and drive a pickup truck to help pickup some bulk for my co workers who are still out there running their routes. I get back from driving the pickup truck, the mechanic is in the shop with his feet kicked up and his hands behind his head just chilling. I go home after calling my boss to make sure that there was nothing else I could do. Fuck it, helluva day, but fuck it. It's finally over.

Eat dinner with the wife and kids and get a text from my boss saying the owner is firing me for insubordination. The mechanic claims to of fixed all of the trucks problems within a 2 hour period and was let go since I didn't get back into the truck to go finish my route for the day. I had to call my boss to make sure he was serious. He was. I didn't even have triangles (again by law you must have these) in my CDL truck. Let alone a working fire extinguisher. These trucks are NOT up to date with DOT requirements but we gotta work for money, so we do what we gotta do. But to have this extreme level of discard for a human being has to be illegal when driving CDL trucks. Can I sue this asshole for every penny he has? I went above and beyond. Most people in the business when they have an electrical fire, the truck is brought back on a hook and is down for several days while mechanics work tirelessly to find the issue and fix it. This one guy barely even looked. They just don't seem to care about anyone's safety. I would love to make him care.

 I'm new to the forums so if there's anything I left out please reach out to me. I reside in Rock Hill, SC and the company is based out of Charlotte, NC. I have a SC CDL B License and have had one for almost 8 years now.

Answer:
 The STAA, Surface Transportation Assistance Act, makes this termination against the law. An employee can not be terminated or disciplined in any way for refusing to operate a vehicle that is out of spec or unsafe to operate. Answer #2: From Charlotte myself, you've given an awful lot of specific info in this post and may have inadvertently doxxed yourself.

FWIW there's an awful lot of discontent in the local waste disposal market, entire neighborhoods getting dropped from pickup routes because companies can't keep up with their municipal contracts. Problems with recycling right now with the tariffs etc etc. You shouldn't have any trouble getting a job with a competitor right now.Answer #3: I would hate to see the pre and post trip inspection logs for this vehicle.

Hell I would of found a state trooper and asked for a full vehicle inspection. Let the company deal with the safety violations and crap BASIC score.Answer #4: IANAL, but I drove a medical supply van for five years (non-CDL).  I was told that the fines and such that would be levied for hauling compressed gases (oxygen) unstrapped would fall on me because I was ultimately responsible for having the equipment and such checked off on the list.  Wouldn't making sure the extinguisher and triangles be part of a daily checklist before you set out?Answer #5: Did the company want to lose the truck in a fire instead? Their insurance company would be horrified.


Title: As a prospective juror, can I plead the fifth to any questions asked of or to me during voir dire?

Question: As a prospective juror, can I plead the fifth to any questions asked of or to me during voir dire?

Answer:
 No. Because none of the questions will ask you to admit to committing a crimeAnswer #2: Every time I get called for jury duty, I am dismissed almost immediately after I acknowledge I am a former LEO.

And I wanna serve, they just won't let me!


Title: [Texas] Motion was made against my request for evidence. If I can get dismissal, can I request that it be expunged? Public Intoxication.

Question:
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Topic:
Background Checks and Expungements

Answer:
 You need a lawyer.

If you choose to testify to tell your side of the story, you have to answer all the questions they ask.  You can't tell your side and then plead the 5th.

That's just one of the things that a lawyer, who is a legal professional who studied for years to gain the ability to practice law, will know that you don't.

The prosecution is not using a first time amateur and you shouldn't either.Answer #2: Wow, you are in way beyond over your head.  You're representing yourself but you want to dismiss on grounds of not facing the 911 caller?

Either get a lawyer or take a plea, because you are likely to talk yourself into serving time if you go forward with this.


Title: My apartment wants to start charging for the ability to receive package deliveries

Question:
I moved into a new apartment complex a few months ago. Up until this point they have been accepting package deliveries at the leasing office or allowing access to leave them outside the door. They just announced that they will be implementing a parcel locker system and as a result no longer accepting packages at the office or allowing access for packages to be left. I would be fine with this if not for the fact that the parcel locker system has a sign-up fee.

There is no mention of a fee to be able to receive packages in my lease. There is no guarantee that they will accept packages in there either. However, I specifically asked about package deliveries and additional fees before I signed the lease. I was told they accept packages and there was no mention of any fees. I relied on these statements when I signed the lease and I had I known about this I would have chosen to live somewhere else.

Does this constitute a breach of contract that would allow me to either a) break my lease without having to pay the penalty b) insist on some other remedy (e.g. they cover the cost of the sign-up fee)?

Edit: This is in Texas.

Answer:
 They can charge a fee for the use of their lockers. If you don't want to pay their fees then instruct the package delivery service to leave packages at your door or rent a private mail box.Answer #2: >Does this constitute a breach of contract that would allow me to either

Does your lease have a statement in it that the lease overrides any other oral agreements?

You're not required to be able to receive packages at the apartment. You can ask that the USPS hold them for pickup.

Answer #3: not exactly what you're looking for, but while this gets sorted out, if your packages come from amazon look into using amazon lockers, those are free and you can pick the packages at any hour


Title: Air Canada sent me on a plane with a cat in cabin to the UK (100% illegal in the UK). Should I get a lawyer?

Question:
Moved from Canada to the UK. We prepared for months, had all our vaccinations and certificates for the cat including food inspection agency visit within 1 week of departure. We checked airport laws and everything was fine. (It's UK import law not specific to Airports so we missed it - He needed to come in as cargo).

Air Canada verified the paperwork, let us board/unboard with the cat, only for us to be detained immediately. They took the cat away into quarantine. It took 12 hours and 700 pounds to be released and get the cat back ruining our move to the UK. (Other fees and troubles omitted)

Wrote to AirCanada and they haven't replied in over 2 weeks. Wrote back and still nothing. Spoke to customer service (who told us to write) and they assured us we will get "an answer".

Should I take it a step further and hire a lawyer?

Answer:
 "When in Rome, act as the Romans do".

When you enter another country, it is entirely your responsibility to know the laws of that country.

Air Canada could have warned you, but they weren't legally obligated to. It's your responsibility.


Title: Ex husband suddenly wants to be involved with kids?

Question: I have full custody, we divorced in 2011, he didn't show up to court because he took off to Texas to be with another woman and her kids. He was abusive and has a DV charge on his record. He owes about $16,000 in child support arrears, they finally found him about 2 years ago and started garnishing his checks. He's been in and out of the kids lives for years, has always come and gone without warning. Both kids have anxiety issues because of it, they're on a waiting list for therapy due to a lack of providers that accept insurance. He started dating a girl a year ago, and suddenly wants to be super dad and accused me of keeping the kids from him. I get cussed out often, he's cussed at my kids, forced my autistic son to take his shirt off at a waterpark knowing my son, who is 12, has never taken his shirt off for swimming because of anxiety and sensory issues. Last time I allowed them to hang out with them, they weren't given food or drink, came back to be in tears because they were so hungry. My ex recently bought them a phone without my knowledge or consent, and has been calling and texting CONSTANTLY, says they miss them and can't wait to see them again, etc. I am at a loss, the court docs say they are with me 365 days a year 24/7, all holidays, and decision making, etc. I'm terrified to go to court with this guy because he's so aggressive and manipulative, but I don't want to seem as if I'm keeping my kids from having a Relationship with their dad. I don't like them having a phone from him, I don't trust the motive behind it, but legally I don't know what I'm allowed to do. I'm saving up to retain a lawyer in case something happens, but in the meantime....idk what my options are or how strict Colorado is with this type of stuff.

Answer:
 Why are you even letting him around your kids to cuss them out? You have full custody. Document the abuse and if he keeps coming back file a restraining order against him.

You have full custody - you're allowed to keep them from him. Your kids have (presumably) diagnosed mental conditions because of his mistreatment of them. Be an adult and a parent and protect your kis.


Title: Is it legal for an employer to hold me accountable if my ISP (Internet Service Provider) causes my internet to go down?

Question:
So here's the story: According to my employer I must have an analog phone. The only provider in my area that supports analog is a hassle. If there's a problem or anything it takes at least a day for a repairman to come out, sometimes even a couple days. The problem I have is  that my employer provides a 48 hour window asking how the issue will be fixed or it will result in termination, also, each shift missed gives me a point towards termination with no way of reversing the points. In the event that my ISP causes issues and won't fix it for 2-3 days how do I avoid termination if it's even possible? Any possible legal recourse or am I at the mercy of my ISP?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 It's absolutely legal in my jurisdiction.

But... what do you need an analog phone for, exactly?


Title: Fiance failed college course, retook the course and resubmitted identical assignments - receiving a perfect score.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I'm guessing you almost certainly do NOT have a case against the University.

In addition to that, at every university I have ever attended, submitting your work more than once is against school rules and is considered plagiarism.

So making a big deal about this could **absolutely** result in her failing again and being disciplined or removed from the school for academic dishonesty.

Tread very carefully.


Title: What rights will my baby’s father have?

Question:
From Canada! I am 15 expecting a baby in April. I don’t want my baby’s father or his family to have absolutely anything to do with my child. I am planning on moving in June, 17 hours away from the father. I am not planning on putting him on the birth certificate. Could he go to court to get a paternity test? He will not have my address where I am moving. Is there any way he could get rights to the child?

Edit: I am staying within Canada, moving to a different province. I don’t want the baby’s father involved for reasons of domestic abuse within our relationship.

Answer:
 >Could he go to court to get a paternity test?

Yes.

>Is there any way he could get rights to the child?

yes, he will just find you using facebook, or common friends or a PI. Unless you have some crazy compelling reason to do this a court is also really not going to appreciate you trying to hide the child from the other parent.


Title: Credit Card Tips at Restaurant [NC]

Question:
I visited a restaurant last week and used a credit card to pay. I did not leave a credit card tip, but did leave a cash tip. Unimportant to question, but I was unhappy with service, so didn't leave a great cash tip, and also wrote a note on the receipt.

I check my credit card statement yesterday and see a larger amount than expected. 31 dollars vs what should have been 27 dollars. I by chance still had the receipt to verify.

I've read that cc companies prefer you to work it out with management before disputing, so I emailed the restaurant.

The owner asked me to call and on the phone made it clear that they were going to credit my card for the full bill, and not just the wrong tip.

This is where my question comes in. He then said that they couldn't find my receipt in their records (probably due to my note), and that this happens from time to time (he said maybe 5 or 6 times a week). He said that some customers forget to leave a signed copy, or that it blows off the table, or any number of other reasons. He said that when this happens, they automatically add a 15% tip so that the waiter isn't stiffed by accident. He said that it's common in the Raleigh area, and he actually called a couple other restaurants to verify yesterday. (I didn't prompt any aspect of his spiel. I didn't say a word until he finished)

Is this legal?

EDIT: I should clarify that I wrote 0 for tip and a line through where you put total. This was not a party of 6 or more, and no signage that I recall.

Answer:
 NC LEO here, this is without a doubt fraud. It is without a doubt [Obtaining Property by False Pretenses](http://www.ncga.state.nc.us/EnactedLegislation/Statutes/HTML/BySection/Chapter_14/GS_14-100.html) which is a felony. It might also meet one of the felonies under the [Financial Tranaction Card Crime Act](http://www.ncga.state.nc.us/EnactedLegislation/Statutes/PDF/ByArticle/Chapter_14/Article_19B.pdf) but I'm too lazy to read it right now. Basically this is a **felony**, report it now.

As for the manager's bullshit, there is one of two possibilities. 1. He is just covering for whoever your waiter/waitress was. 2. **He is in on the scam**. I'd be willing to bet it is #2.

Step 1. File a report with whatever jurisdiction it was in.
Step 2. Notify card company and watch them lay on the hurt.Answer #2: I always put  $0.00 on the tip line of the credit card receipt and leave (or not) a cash tip.

Don't they have to put up visible signage saying that an automatic tip is going to be added?  I know (I live the Triangle area, too) that there are signage for certain party sizes a gratuity will be automatically added.


Title: Can a person get a ticket for driving around talking on a plastic play phone in California?

Question: Someone I know has been doing this and thinks it's funny.  Just wondering if you could get a traffic citation for that.

Answer: No. I'm a California cop. One time I trolled a co-worker by holding a banana up to my ear while I drove by him. He couldn't give me a ticket for that just like he can't give you a ticket for a plastic phone **unless** he can prove it was distracting you.  A legendary stretch by any imagination.


Title: Hi all! I live in South Dakota, and my boss seems to have cut my pay by $.50 an hour without notifying me of the changes for my last paycheck.(quit her buisness for a better job)

Question:
 I think it is her way of getting petty revenge for me quitting her buisness and finding a better job, but I still want to know... Is it legal for her to do this without notifying me first?
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: No. If the last agreement you made said you were working for $8.50, she can't cut your pay to $8.00 without telling you. You could file a wage claim with the labor department to get the $20 you're owed, if you'd like.


Title: Recently got a DUI, not sure if attorney is worth the money.

Question: I recently got a DUI in new jersey. Yes i know driving drunk is stupid and reckless and i will not do it again. I was pulled over by state police on a highway and i admitted right away i had been drinking as im not one to lie. i completely cooperated with everything the police needed me to do and was very respectful to them. When i got back to the station i blew a .14 on the breathalyzer. i know i am facing 7-12 months loss of license and some hefty fines. My question to you guys is basically is it worth it to pay for an attorney or should i just save my money for the court fines? i have already spoke to my attorney and he pointed out several things which may work in my favor and he is a very good attorney and very well known in my area. The only problem is that he is charging me $4000 to take the case. i have the money but it will pretty much financially ruin me for at least a year. Do you think it is worth it to hire him? Should/can i defend myself on this or should i just plead guilty and take the repercussions?  Thank you in advance for any and all replies.

Answer:
 Yes.  Get a lawyer.  I had a DUI about 6 years ago. Many or my friends have gotten DUI's.  I received a vastly better deal than any of my friends because I had a lawyer and they did not.

If you think 4K will ruin you, I assure you that not having a lawyer is going to absolutely destroy you.Answer #2: $4,000 is chump change compared to the amount of money and fees (classes, ignition lock, more fees) you are going to spend if you plead guilty or don't negotiate the charges correctly (hint: you do not want to plead guilty). Having a great lawyer will save your ass, and be worth it in the long run (trust me, it will save you so much trouble). I paid $5K for mine, and that was the best investment I ever made. I luckily got off with nothing on my record.

Take this as a very expensive lesson if you can afford it, and something you learned to never do again.Answer #3: You were caught driving at nearly double the legal limit dude. Loss of license could very well be the least of your concerns.


Title: ex owes me money for car, failed to take me off the lease now i have her security deposit.

Question:
So I lived with this girl in MI for 3 years and we decided to take over the payments on her moms car, which is still in her mothers name

we split up

we agree that she cant afford to pay me the 900 dollars in car payments that I have made and so we settle on 300.

she has her friend move in and and sublet, her friend buys me out of my security deposit which we agreed was fair which is 260

its been about 4 months and she has decided to stop talking to me,
she has her friend come over with some forms from the leasing office has me fill them out. I put my address in the new address box and about a month later check with my name and hers is in my mail box

it says "or" between our names

so I say that she can have the check when she pays me
she tells me "that's not fucking happening"
mind you she thinks that it is for 520 dollars, however they took 175 off for maintenance

should i cash the check and call it even?
do I have a case for more then 300 dollars?
Please help

Answer:
 If it were me? Keep it and stop answering her calls. She owes you $300, plus what you lost on the deposit.

She's not going to sue, and if she does, she loses money even if you pay her the tiny difference.


Title: Abandoned car in parking garage.

Question:
Theres a car at my place of my work parked in a pretty good spot which is clearly abandoned. Its in a parking garage and the car is encased in dust and the tires are all flat. I would like to make my company remove it and am looking for ideas on how to twist their arm into doing that.
I was thinking about spray painting penises on the hood/doors of the car,  or breaking the windows so they have to acknowledge the danger of the glass and therefore acknowledge the car. Looking for legal advice on any hiccups against destroying abandoned property, or any better ideas for getting them to pay for a tow away.

Answer: Have you, ya know, talked to the company about it yet? Or is jumping to vandalism your gut reaction for most conflicts in life?


Title: Roommate is kicking me out, both on lease. How do I protect myself financially?

Question:
Hi,

My roommate (now ex-BF) and I broke up and he is kicking me out. Both our names are on our house lease which is not up until November. I understand that legally he cannot kick me out (just over breaking up) but I found a new place to live so that's okay with me. Is there ANYTHING I can do to prevent myself from getting screwed? I mean if he does not pay "my half of the rent" or whatnot. Can I put it in writing that he is kicking me out and is taking full responsibility of paying the remainder of the rent and bills? Should I just contact my landlord and let him know what's going on and hoping he is fully OK with me having nothing to do with the rent from here on out?

Location: Florida, USA

Answer:
 You'll need to have him assume your portion of the lease -- both he and your landlord will need to consent, jointly and in writing, or you're on the hook for the payments until the lease concludes.Answer #2: IANAL - If he's asking you to leave, then the two of you should contact the landlord and ask to ammend the lease to remove you from it, or to terminate the current lease and then he and the landlord can enter into a new lease without your involvement. **Unless you get something in writing from the landlord, you may be liable for your portion of the rent no matter what your Ex says**.

TLDR: Be adults about it and discuss it with the landlord. Get whatever solution you come up with in writing.Answer #3: Depending on his income they may not let him assume all the lease responsibility. There is really no plus for them to let you off without a replacement,  one less person to go after for rent or damages.


Title: [NY/FL] Cousin is claiming copyright on our deceased grandfather's photos

Question:
This actually happened several years ago, but I was reminded of it yesterday (and the whole matter being unresolved still makes my blood boil).

When our grandfather passed away my uncle was the executor of his estate- and due to decades of family tensions etc- my branch of the family gave wide berth to the whole situation. My uncle made the calls, he divided up the estate as he saw fit (completely against what was actually dictated in the will) and essentially took all of the sentimental assets personally from my grandfather's home in Florida back to New York.

Somewhere along the way, one of my cousins started putting up old family photos on Flickr. At first this seemed really nice- these were photos many of us hadn't seen in years (and the youngest of us (me) hadn't seen at all). However- this cousin refuses to speak to anyone in our side of the family- not as a result of our distance during my grandfather's illness- this cousin has been a miserable human his whole existence. He has put a personal copyright on these photos (i.e. All Images © John Johnsonsonson) - so none of us can save any of these images and keep them for our own records. The thing of it is- he didn't take these photos, many of these photos were taken before he was even born.

I happened to ask my aunt (cousin's mother) (my godmother) why her son had placed a copyright label on photos of my parents taken before he was born, by someone else- and she responded that it was because (paraphrasing), 'He took the time to scan the images, otherwise they'd be molding in the back of [her] closet'.  I responded that the opportunity was never presented to the rest of the grandchildren- or else we would have been happy to pitch in.

Mainly, the photos weren't my aunt's to keep in her closet to mold. My cousin didn't have any sole rights to the films. (Unless so decreed by his father- who was making up rules as the executor of his father's estate, I guess.)

TL;DR  My cousin is claiming copyright on images that he didn't take- and shouldn't have sole access to. Can anyone point me in the direction of what kind of law even looks at this kind of hot mess?

(To be clear- I'm not actually looking to pursue something here, it's enough of a shit show already, I'll probably have to wait until a bunch more family dies before I'm free to really tell my cousin what I think of him... I'm just super curious about the legal side of this.)

Answer: Copyright belongs to whoever took the photos, or their estate. Putting a label on it is irrelevant.


Title: US: Minor injury during flight

Question:
Hi all, I've done some research and can't find much info on what to do in this situation. In the US for what it's worth.

My (pregnant, don't know if that's relevant) wife, son, and I were on a flight this weekend and everything was normal up until the final 5 minutes on the plane. We reached the gate and the seat-belt sign was turned off. I went to unbuckle my son and my wife went to take our trash back to the flight attendants. After about 1 minute the plane started slowly rolling backwards, and then suddenly jerked to a stop as if someone had slammed on the brakes. My son and I were still in the seats so we were fine, but my wife was tossed into the wall in the back galley. She's got a nasty bruise, but not much else of concern to note. The airline took her name & confirmation number in case anything else comes up, but didn't do anything else.

Obviously suing someone seems over the top to me, but just letting nothing happen as they caused injury due to likely negligence of forgetting the parking brakes or whatever seems wrong as well. Any advice for how to proceed?

Answer: Does your wife have any resulting medical bills or continuing injury?  If not, I don't see what the issue is.


Title: Bringing and selling gold in USA

Question:
Is there any law prohibiting me from bringing gold from somewhere in Europe to the USA and selling it there since it's higher price? Are taxes dependable from which country does gold come from? How much can I bring in?

Lets say I buy 100grams of gold for 15$ per gram somewhere in europe. Can I bring it and sell it in USA for 41$ per gram + taxes?

Answer:
 I'd be more concerned about the 'gold' you are getting for more than half price of market.  If there was a $26 arbitrage on gold it would have been exploited by professionals long before you could type this post.Answer #2: >Lets say I buy 100grams of gold for 15$ per gram somewhere in europe.

You cannot buy gold for $15/gram in Europe or anywhere else, since NOBODY sells gold at a thrid of its price.

What you can do is pay $15/gram for goldent metal you think is gold but it's not.

>Can I bring it and sell it in USA for 41$ per gram?

You can bring it to USA.

You cannot sell it at $41/gram since it is NOT gold.


Title: CA - Found my gf's house listed on airbnb by her soon to be ex-husband

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You don't have to provide a deed to rent out your home on AirBnB. People rent out apartments all the time. She needs to talk to a lawyer about getting a temporary order that gives her sole possession of the house if she's wanting to live there.


Title: My house vibrates and the foundation is cracking due to the factory across the street

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I'm gonna tell you what the defense will tell you when you claim it's their fault. Which is odd that yours is the only affected house.

Prove it.  Answer #2: What did your homeowners insurance say?Answer #3: One thing to add here, is that cases like this are *massively* dependent on the state and locality. It's not just local law - juries are notoriously plaintiff or defendant friendly, and that varies by locality. You need a local lawyer that knows the lay of the land to give you a good idea of whether your goal should be to go to trial, fight for a reasonable settlement, etc. That lawyer may also have deals to get preferential rates for experts who can tell you exactly what's wrong and what's needed to mitigate.

You not only need to fight for the cost to mitigate, but the dimunition of value based on what they are doing.Answer #4: You'll likely want to consult with someone like a structural engineer to make sure it's safe to stay in your house.

Are all the homes around you the same age?  How long has the machine been running at night?  3 months?  Wonder if it is happening to the neighbors but they haven't been able to spot the damage yet.

Like another poster suggested, you should put a call into your home owner's insurance.Answer #5: IANAL

You don't have to buy a machine to test the vibrations in your home, there are companies who do this.

I used to work for a construction company that had to do some blasting near existing homes.  They had to hire another company to put equipment near all the existing homes so they had a record of how much the blasting was effecting the existing homes.


Title: Is anything you sign while sedated binding?

Question: My dad was in a hospital and fairly stoned on meds and my sister told us that she had him sign some things and that she would take care of the witnesses later...How do I handle this?

Answer:
 >that she would take care of the witnesses later

So either your sister is conspiring to commit fraud by having people who did not witness the signing state that they did, or she is some mafia don who is gonna eliminate everyone who saw he was sedated before signing??

Being able to testify to the jmntal state of the signer is literally what winesses are for.

The exact paperwork likely matters.  For instance, Will's have very specific rules they follow.


Title: I sent a dickpic to a "minor".

Question:
Hello, I really need some advice and help.
I am a normal 18 year old guy and I have posted on craigslist that I was looking for a friend with benefits kinda relationship. In a couple of weeks I got contacted by "16 year old Jessica" whom I started to chat with and we sent pics to each other, so I believed it was a real girl. She repeatedly said she wanted to fuck me and asked for a dickpic, so at some point I turned off my head and started thinking with my penis. I sent a pic, she supposedly liked it and said she wanted to meet me. You can guess what happened next: when I showed up, it was cops who searched me and then we had a talk that it is illegal to send porn to minors. I didn't even realize what I did before they told me. They said I might become a felon for this and go to jail for up to 5 years. I really need some advice. Is it real that I can have my life ruined by this? I still can't believe it and hope that they were just scaring me. They took all my info and said that I will get a subpoena to come and speak with an attorney.

I understand now that what I did was wrong and regret it.
Please tell what can I do about it, or maybe what cases to study. I am really scared.

Answer:
 You knowingly sent a dick pic to a minor, yes you can get in serious trouble. Get a lawyer.Answer #2: >Is it real that I can have my life ruined by this?

Yes. You can see prison time and be put on the sex offenders registry.

Get a criminal defense attorney and stop talking about this to **anyone**.Answer #3: You need an attorney and need to not talk to anyone else about this. You not only sent pictures of yourself to a minor, but also asked for and got what you thought was child porn. This could absolutely effect your life for years to come. Answer #4: Have you actually been charged, as in arrested, given a court date, etc.? If so, apply for a public defender ASAP.

Remember, you are under no obligation to talk to them. Even a subpoena does not overrule your right to avoid self-incrimination, so don't talk until you get independent legal advice from an attorney. Your state or local bar association can probably provide you a low-cost consultation.


Title: Would I have to pay for my wife's (federal) debt if we ever move back to the US?

Question:
I am an European scientist and my girlfriend has quite an outstanding debt due to student loans.

My job will likely take me to the US at some point in the future.

Would her debt instantly also turn into my debt if I marry her?

Answer: Your girlfriend is liable for her own debt. If there was a judgement against her, it could be possible to garnish a joint bank account. You can keep separate finances and/or your girlfriend can negotiate a payment plan.


Title: School won’t let me wear my hat. Is this allowed? [CA]

Question:
I go to a public high school in CA and they have a rule that says only hats that are plain or have the school logo are allowed to be worn. I, however, am a Denver Broncos fan, and as such I wear a Broncos hat whenever my hair is too long or I don’t feel like fixing it in the morning. This means that my hat is technically against the rules. I was wondering if this goes against any of my rights to free speech or free expression, especially if this is a public school? Or am I just being a naive teenager that needs a new hat? Thanks
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 Why on earth would that violate your rights?

It applies to all hats. They aren’t silencing you.

Every school has that rule. Why would you think that this hasn’t been litigated?


Title: Family Member was raped almost a year ago and has decided to press charges.

Question:
This happened in Hawaii and they wish to press charges in Hawaii.

My wife's sister was raped towards the end of high school by her then boyfriend. She has been dealing with severe PTSD and is currently hospitalized due to an attempted suicide. She is not in the state where she was assaulted but will be moving back in the next few weeks. There is a lot of expected backlash from the community for the actions as it is something that is not all that rare but is always pushed under the rug. Her ex-boyfriend wrote her a letter telling/asking her to put it all behind them so he could move on with his life. I do not know the specific words at this time.

Potentially Relevant Information:  She was raped in the final year of high school.  She just dropped out of her first semester of college for mental health reasons.  She has been diagnosed with PTSD.  Her ex-boyfriend sent a letter to her that at least alludes to something happening that would cause him concern for his future.  She is currently in the hospital (did not cause harm to herself) for suicidal tendencies (someone was in the right place at the right time and stopped it).  She will be returning to Hawaii in a couple weeks. Her parents still live there and plan to begin preparations for pressing charges. They do not have any idea what they are doing and are seeking advice as well.

What type of "evidence" or information should be gathered?

What can we as a family do to make sure things proceed properly?

What is the process for bringing up charges?

Is there anything else we should be aware of: ie. common mistakes, common misunderstandings, false starts?

Once again, this occurred in Hawaii and there is no limit that we could find in regards to time that has passed before pressing charges. I may not be awake to reply right away to clarifying questions. She just informed me while I was visiting with my wife that she received the letter mentioned above and would be pressing charges.

Answer:
 All you have to do is contact the police in the location where it happened and they'll handle it from there and tell you if there's any information they need.

Don't be surprised if nothing comes of this. Rape cases are hard to do under normal circumstances. This one is almost a year old and has a victim that isn't even present.


Title: Got into an accident when I was 17. Debt collectors coming after me and my mother.

Question:
Got into a accident when I was 17, scratched another vehicles paint. No one was injured ruled negligence on both parties. Now 22, I get a letter from debt collectors trying to pass a 10k judgement on me and my mother. From what I can understand they sent my mother a letter first and she responded basically giving them my info and making me apart of this. Accident happened in Fl, I live in AR, my mother still lives in FL. Yes my mother was insured at the time of accident and I was under her coverage.

Can a judgement be placed on me even though I was a minor at the time of the accident? I'm going to speak to someone later this week but any advice or whatever would be appreciated. Thanks.
Topic:
Insurance

Answer: Contact the insurance company that was covering you and your mother at the time of the accident. Do not ignore this and hope it will go away.


Title: As a renter in Massachusetts, am I allowed to have a mold specialist enter my apartment to check for black mold or does the landlord have to grant permission?

Question:
I was under the impression that, as a renter, I can let whoever I want into my apartment. If I want to have maids come in, the landlord can't stop them from entering the building.

We've had a leaky roof for a while now and the landlord wants to rip down our ceiling and replace it. I told him we're going to have a mold specialist come in to check for mold first before he replaces the ceiling, as I don't want to get mold everywhere. He told me they're going to be ripping everything out and replacing it. I said that doesn't sound safe and I'd rather have a professional look first. He told me "not to instruct him on how to deal with mold. [he knows] more about it than I do" and that he wouldn't allow anyone to enter his building without his permission.

I told him it's our apartment and that it is well within our rights to have a mold specialist come in to check for mold.

What are my rights here?

Answer: You can have anyone you want come into your apartment.  You don't need the LL's permission to invite people into your apartment.


Title: GPS Tracking on Employer Time

Question: In the state of Wisconsin, I understand that since 2015 it has become illegal to use a GPS to track someone's movement without their knowledge.  Does this hold true if I (the employer) use a GPS on an employee's car while they are on the clock without their knowledge?

Answer: Just out of curiosity, since you already know that Wisconsin bans using GPS to track someone's vehicle without their knowledge, why would you think it's any less illegal in your situation?


Title: I'm a minor living with both my parents in [GA]. How would I go about living with my aunt & uncle in [CA].

Question:
Both my parents and my aunt & uncle are okay with it.

How would I legally move in with so that, for example, I'm able to be enrolled in the school system in CA.

Answer: Your aunt/uncle need a notarized letter from your parents saying that they can make medical and educational decisions for you.


Title: (VA) [Bird Law] HOA may be harassing our local Canada Geese

Question:
To make a long story short, my family has befriended a pair of local Canada Geese by feeding them (yes, I know, not the best thing to do, not my idea). These geese normally do not approach anyone, and will actively avoid anyone but us, however they come paddling happily up when called by name.
A couple of weeks ago, when a family member was feeding the geese, a local woman approached along the footpath with two dogs, who she promptly let off the leash to bark at and attack the geese. They were scared away, and my mother confronted the woman about her actions. She claimed that she was acting on behalf of the HOA, and the HOA was actually getting community members to walk dogs around to “scare the geese off.” On top of that, she casually explained that those same members were told it’s acceptable, if they find a goose nest, to “turn the eggs” (shake them up, technical term addling the eggs). My family member thought nothing of it as she assumed it was “official HOA business” and assumed it was above board.
Today, the female goose was in her usual spot, but was apprehensive, and the area where they’ve been living was strewn with goose feathers and down. We looked for the male, and found him in a different pond, visibly shaken, with loose feathers sticking up.
Being protected by the Migratory Bird Treaty Act, as far as I know, it’s illegal to harass these geese unless it’s been determined that they’re a nuisance. I have a hard time believing that these two geese nesting by a quiet pond are a nuisance. Beyond that, I have a hard time believing that indiscriminately addling eggs as they’re found and literally “setting the dogs upon” geese is an accepted method of wildlife management in a residential area.
Is this something I need to contact US Fish and Wildlife about? Should I contact the HOA to try and get some kind of official position as evidence? Unfortunately we don’t know the name of the person and I’m reliant on a loose description of her. I understand if we’re potentially SOL in the situation, but it’s not something I’d be surprised about our HOA doing or condoning, and I don’t want to visit our friends one day to see a goose lying dead on the shore because of a dog attack.

Answer:
 Your family is the root cause of the problem. They should not have fed them. If the HOA does have permission, then yes, harassing the geese until they find a “better” place to nest would be happening mid-May until mid summer or so. A quick look at VA laws shows that landowners have the right to destroy nests and eggs, so long as they have been in contact with the Virginia Game Dept.Answer #2: You may find this pamphlet from the Human Society of the United States helpful.  https://www.humanesociety.org/sites/default/files/docs/canada-goose-guide.pdf

In short, the HOA is in the right and your family is in the wrong.  Not only is feeding wildlife against the law, but you may be actively harming the birds as well.  Angel Wing (also known as dropped or slipped wing) is a crippling condition caused by an inappropriate diet that can cripple waterfowl like geese.  There was a lot of controversy in my town a few years ago because so many of the ducks and geese at the local park developed this condition.  They had to be euthanized because the condition is permanent and they couldn't fly or defend themselves.

Problem geese can be legally harassed away from an area, as long as no harm is done to the geese, their nests, or their hatchlings.  If your HOA applies for a permit they can also legally addle (prevent viability) the goose eggs, should the problem persist until nesting season.


Title: Legal experts, how does this loophole work? I hit and run causing mild-moderate injuries and let's say 10k damage to the vehicle. They identify my car but can't prove it was me driving.

Question:
I see this story pop up every now and then. Dashcam picked up a hit and run and the plate number. Find out it's my car (example) but my lawyer says admit nothing, say it wasn't you driving. Well assuming I live by myself or even with a gf, wouldn't the court ask me who I gave the keys to then? And if I don't answer, hold me in contempt of court?

Or can I really say, I don't know who drove it.

Location: Canada

Answer:
 You can't be compelled to testify in a criminal proceeding.

But in the civil lawsuit you have no such protections.  You will have to testify, and if you refuse, you could be held in contempt of court, or the judge/jury could just rule for the other party (using your refusal to testify against you).

You would at least have to talk to your insurance company and tell them if you were driving, and if not, who was.  If you don't cooperate with them, they don't have to cover the accident, and then you could wind up paying the whole thing out of pocket.


Title: [CA]How do I sell this undriveable car LEGALLY? Please HELP!

Question:
I recently had an accident in a friends car that has only liability coverage. He allowed me to use his car while he was on vacation. The car is pretty undriveable at this point but has had a clean title so far.

He would like me to sell the car. But I'm not sure how I would get it smogged because it cant be driven(its got a burst tyre).

What options do I have at this point?

Also, a buyer has offered to repair the car and then do the smogging before the title is transferred. Am I in any legal risk by taking up that offer?

EDIT 2: Can I change the title to PNO(Planned Non operation) before sale , that way would I still need to smog it?

Please help me out. Thanks!

Answer:
 Contact a local salvage yard. They will buy it for parts. The last car I did that with got me about $700.

They'll usually tow it for free too.


Title: Will the heartbeat bill have an effect on medically necessary abortions (TX)

Question: Just found out my baby isn’t growing. Which got me curious on how the heartbeat bill would affect abortions that are necessary such as fetal death, lack of thrive, genetic defects etc.

Answer:
 Bill text: https://capitol.texas.gov/tlodocs/87R/billtext/pdf/SB00008H.pdf

Generally it seems to mostly apply if a heartbeat is detected. There is an exemption for medical emergency.

> Sec.A171.205.AAEXCEPTION FOR MEDICAL EMERGENCY; RECORDS

It doesn't specify what medical emergencies qualify, seems to be up to the physician.

Also, I am not a lawyer.


Title: Can a patient in a group facility break HIPAA?

Question: Like, can a patient get in trouble for violating HIPAA if they tell someone else the name of someone at the facility?

Answer: Patients aren't beholden to HIPAA. HIPAA governs medical professionals and insurance companies.


Title: Managers trying to force me to pitch in for a gift

Question: I work at a movie theatre in Missouri where I (and everyone else) gets paid minimum wage hourly. And recently, for the owner’s birthday, the managers of the place told all of the employees that they needed to pitch in $10 by December for a gift for him (keep in mind, we have roughly 20 employees so they’d net around $200 from this). Now, obviously $10 isn’t too much money, at least for me, but seeing as I make minimum wage ($8.60 an hour), I really don’t want to pitch in towards a boss who decides I make the least amount possible and I certainly don’t want to set a precedent for my managers to be able to wring me out for money. So, my question is, can they legally force me to give them the money? If not, please show me what law says this because I’d like to have it on hand in case it’s necessary. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!!

Answer: No, they can't legally force you to chip in for a gift for the owner, and ethically they shouldn't even be suggesting it. Try, "I'm sorry, my budget doesn't allow it."Answer #2: They can’t legally force you to pay them money of course, HOWEVER it might make them dislike you and they could cut your hours/fire you (if they did, you would have a very good case for retaliatory termination). Honestly OP is just make something up like “my father was diagnosed with ALS last year and we are scrounging our pennies as is just to afford medical bills, I’m sorry but I can’t pitch in on this gift”. For what it’s worth I’d imagine it’s not a big deal and if it’s a corporate business, honestly the general manager wouldn’t have any say in what you get paidAnswer #3: NAL. One thing to consider: not paying up your lunch money probably will piss them off. Missouri is an at-will firing state, so you can be fired for any reason at any time. Probably should unionize.Answer #4: No, they cannot take money from you. If they keep pressuring, I suggest filing a complaint with HR, if you have that department. You could ask them to show you a rule in the employee handbook that says you need to contribute to group expenses, which they won't be able to produce.


Title: What happens if the cost of damages exceed the amount of coverage provided by my insurance?

Question: I was involved in a multi vehicle accident and it looks like I'll be the one at fault. I just turned 19, and neither I or my parents have any assets under our names. What typically happens in a scenario such as this?

Answer: You get sued and pay the difference over time. Via wages, tax returns, whatever your state allows for garnishment


Title: Circumcision

Question: I just got out of an abusive relationship. My ex had me beaten down so much that my son was not circumcised. I am Jewish, he is not. Because I am female my son is considered Jewish in my religion. My son is now 3 months old. What are my rights? My ex and I weren't married but he is on the birth certificate. I'm located in Nevada.

Answer: I'm totally unclear what your question is.  Are you trying to circumcise your kid?Answer #2: You can circ your kid if you want. Know that it is considered cosmetic and you have to pay for the whole surgery (it is not cheap).


Title: a guy with governmental connections raped my girlfriend a year ago, what can I do about it?

Question:
So my girlfriend and I has been together for two months, she's 19, and just yesterday she got the courage to tell me about the rape incident that she faced a year ago with a guy from her uni, she has his name and face, I told her to file a complaint about it, she said no, she doesn't wanna get involved with him and he has so many connections, including governmental ones, so she's afraid he'll be able to get away with it and get herself in trouble, especially that she doesn't have evidence for the incident.

what can I possibly do in this case before proceeding to consider illegal actions? I won't let this rapist slip free without consequences.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: You can stop being a white knight jackass and potentially traumatizing her again by doing something that she doesn’t want done. You can support her decision and tell her you will support her no matter what she decides to do about this, if that means she does nothin else then you support that, if that means she seeks therapy but does nothing else then you support that, if she decides to report it to the police then you support that. All you can do is support her.


Title: Is it insider trading to buy stock in a company that is a client of my girlfriend’s company?

Question:
Hey r/legaladvice,

So here’s the situation.  My girlfriend works in an industry that sells products through large and small retail stores, think Target, Kmart, etc., but also through various smaller retail stores.  She said something to me to the effect of, “Company X did really poorly last year, but they’re ramping their orders back up, it seems like they’re about to have a comeback”.  My girlfriend specifically doesn’t manage company X’s account, but she just in general knows that her company is expanding their business with them.

Is this insider trading?  The definitions I see on Google are surprisingly vague so I can’t tell.  I definitely don’t want to run afoul with the SEC over an investment of a few thousand.

Answer:
 Is that order information public, or is it proprietary/private? Also, your gf is likely violating an NDA by telling you that, although, I don't know what paperwork she signed for employment at that company.Answer #2: Insider trading is a very complex issue.  Chances are you would be fine purchasing this stock.  You are making your decision based on your GF's OPINION---based on her company ordering more.  This is not like knowing in advance whether company A is going to buy company B or that company A is going to announce higher then expected earnings, based on word from the guy who is filing the earnings report.

If you are still nervous, dont do it, its not worth worrying about.


Title: HELP Immigration advice needed I’m 13

Question:
I am currently 14 and my mother and I have papers in to move to the usa, going off the last time we got updated we were around 6 months off until we could come but we believe it will be longer. The thing I am wanting to know is if there is anyway my mum could send me over and live with my grandmother so I can get used to the High school system in America as I don’t want my first year of schooling to be doing important things for college when I haven’t learnt about the school system yet. PLEASE ANY HELP WOULD BE AMAZING!!
Topic:
Immigration

Answer: Former Immigration Officer.  I'm going to say no.  You can't use a nonimmigrant visa as you are intending to immigrate.


Title: [PA] Job offer rescinded - Anything I can do to recoup lost money?

Question:
Next week I’m going to be graduating college, and the week after I was supposed to be moving to a new city for a job. I accepted this job back in December (offer was in writing and I signed and returned it) and was supposed to start in about 3 weeks.

Well, this morning I found out they rescinded the job offer. I’m not sure why, they didn’t tell me. Background and drug screening was clear but that’s besides the point.

Because I was supposed to move out there I had an apartment set up. I paid the security deposit and first months rent but there’s no way I can move there without a job. I’m now out $1700 for the apartment, on top of all the money I spent traveling to the city. Probably a little over $2000.

Is there anything I can do to at least recoup the money from breaking my lease?

Answer: Sue them under promissory estoppel. Answer #2: I would reach out to your contact at the company and let them know about the money you lost, and ask if the company would be willing to make you whole for your trouble, especially for the apartment. It's worth it to ask.


Title: Are my parents trying to adopt my cousins kid?

Question:
I don't know where to post this...

Quick backstory...A few months ago my cousin was doing badly and DHS had to remove her 5 yr old daughter (let's call her Beth) from the home. Luckily she was placed with my parents. My cousin did what she needed to to get her life back on track and get Beth back and they were reunited a few weeks ago. They're doing great.

Today I received a letter requesting an interview with me as a reference because my parents have applied for "a Unified Study for the purpose of placement and permanency for Beth" and they have to interview their adult children.

Does this mean they're trying to adopt Beth or get her back or what? My cousin is a good mom and I'm really confused why my parents would try to get Beth back. They seemed relieved that my cousin cleaned up her act and could bring Beth home. We live in WA

Answer:
 > Does this mean they're trying to adopt Beth or get her back or what?

Sure sounds like it.

But why not just ask your parents?Answer #2: In my state they will do emergency placements with family members, and then proceed with vetting the home for foster care, which can take 3-6 months. Any chance the licensing process is grinding on, unaware that its no longer needed since the family is reunited? Often the left hand of government doesn't know what the right hand is doing.


Title: Does it matter who files for custody first?

Question:
I have reason to believe that my ex might be filing for custody of our children since we just split up a few days ago, I work full time and don't get any time during normal business hours to go and do it myself. Is the result dependent on who files first, or will the facts of the matter make the outcome the same regardless?

Edit: New York.

Answer: If you truly want custody fight for it like nothing else matters, as soon as possible.


Title: I carve wood american flags. Another competitor has a design patent on it

Question: They recently Facebook messaged me giving me 4 days to take my listing down. They have a design patent on a wood flag. Theirs are very different. Mine are hand made and vary in little details every time. What should I do? They gave me a number to their lawyer office for my lawyers to call.

Answer:
 ...either they state they have a design patent on all wood carvings which is laughable, or they seem to think they have a copyright on the US flag which no matter how backwards US copyright law currently is; is 10000% not copyright-able.

So the important question here, is which flavor of crazy actually are!


Title: Is this not copyright?

Question:
Hey, I saw something today that really confused me. Below are some links to products that a website is selling.

http://www.jadorelamode.co.uk/collections/men-s/products/black-too-broke-tee
http://www.jadorelamode.co.uk/collections/home/products/the-bang-bang-tee
http://www.jadorelamode.co.uk/collections/home/products/the-black-lv-tee

These are not legitimate clothes from the brands that they have the logos for such as "Supreme", "YSL" and "Louis Vuitton" Are they allowed to just take these brands logos and change them slightly?

I believe this brand is in the UK

Thanks in advance.

Answer: Logos such as these are protected by trademarks, not really copyrights. Nevertheless, I would argue that this kind of use of trademarks of others is not allowed. I would be highly surprised if the owners of the marks will not pursue legal action soon.


Title: Slept with girl and one of her friend's mom has pictures and is calling me a criminal

Question: I am 19 and from NJ and I hooked up with a girl who was 17 a few times and her parents found out. They made no big deal of it and told me to move on and I have, this was a few months ago. Now one of her friends' mom is claiming that she has sexual pictures of me and the girl and is threatening me with them and harassing my family over it and yelling at them saying that I am a criminal. Does she have any right to do this? Also, if there actually are pictures and the girl I slept with's family doesn't want to press charges am I good?

Answer:
 Age of consent is 16 in New Jersey, you're not a criminal. Now if she really does have pictures and you have proof of her saying that, she's in a WHOLE lot of trouble. CP laws apply to anyone under 18, I think(IANAL). Do you want to get her off your back? Go to the police and show them the proof she claims to have CP pictures. I would possibly go to the police anyway and see what they say.

edit: Oh, VERY important, *do not* threaten her about going to the police, just do it. It could be considered blackmail if you threaten.


Title: Creator of Indiegogo campaign threatening to sue me after I posted about what appears to be a scam of his

Question:
Original post:
http://www.reddit.com/r/shittykickstarters/comments/37gblk/scam_no_need_to_create_your_own_products_anymore/

Also got covered here:

http://www.crowdfundinsider.com/2015/05/68552-scampaign-alert-beware-of-crowdfunders-re-labeling-already-made-products/

Referred to this sub from this thread:
http://www.reddit.com/r/shittykickstarters/comments/37wmfa/looks_like_the_wallet_drone_creator_is_planning/

&nbsp;

His statement in his campaign comments
>@Matt: Your question was asked and answered, I saw no reason to keep it on the comment board, along with any other comment that linked to a potentially infringing product. All questions and comments have been answered either on the board or privately. I have seen the Reddit rant, although it is nicely organized it is also highly inaccurate. We are working with our legal and PR team to decide the best way to address both the potential infringements and the libelous claims being made on Reddit.

Answer:
 Odds of them filing a lawsuit are between slim and none.

Most people bitch and complain and threaten but don't actually file.


Title: Old Friend has CP at school

Question:
So one of my not-so-close friends was on a pedophile group on kik and was sent a bunch of child porn. He keeps sending the link to the drive to people at our school. I don’t want to face legal ramifications if he were to send it to me. So what should I do? I don’t have the link and even if I did I wouldn’t send it to anyone. Also I want to avoid getting my phone confiscated by the police and much as possible.
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer: Call the police.


Title: [OH] pregnant ex gf [18] cheats on me [21] with her ex [18] tells him I’m a gay roommate.

Question:
So this started a long time ago but I was too stupid to see the signs, I got together with her back in November last year and things were going well.

She told me she was on the pill so I was super relaxed about wearing a condom and low and behold a day or two later she claimed she was pregnant, and that it was mine. Now I’m just a dumb kid so I went along with it so I told my whole family that I was fixin to have a kid. Well shortly afterwards, she started distancing herself from me so I started walking by and casually looking at her phone to see who she was texting all the time... it was her ex. So I called her out on it and she apologized profusely and said she wouldn’t do it again.

Things went fine for the next 2-3 months. My birthday rolled around (March) and she started being weird again but I sorta blew it off because my job was stressing me out more. The night of my 21st birthday I got absolutely trashed and woke up the next morning with a bunch of texts from my stepmom who lives a long distance from me, all of which were from her ex to ex gf and from her ex’s mom to ex gf. All of which was her saying she was using me for a support system and I’m just her gay roommate.. and that the name we chose for him (found out it was a him the day before my birthday) was just a joke and that he would be named after her ex.

So I started to kick her out of my house and she called the cops because I didn’t give her enough time to get out of my house, in which she then came back into my house and tried to sexually assault me, things such as grabbing my dick and rubbing herself on me. I didn’t attempt to stop her because I didn’t want her to tell the cops/courts that I pushed her or hit her in any way. Well she finally gave up and went to bed and left me alone. She then moved out a week or two after the fact and never returned my key and left my house a mess (all documented).

I went up to her place of work to retrieve my key as it was no longer hers about a month after she moved out. This was the first time I had talked to her in weeks and been to her place of work in about a month and a half. The conversation went exactly like this

Ex gf coworker (egc): hello welcome can I help you?

Me: yes is ex gf here?

Egc: yes she’s in the back I’ll go get her

Ex gf: what?!

Me: can I have my key back please?

Ex gf: I don’t have it with me

Me: okay do you work tomorrow?

Ex gf: yes

Me: okay I’ll be back tomorrow to pick it up and if you don’t have it I will contact the cops

Ex gf: okay.

She then contacted the cops while she was outside smoking a cigarette (I have video of this too) and sent them to my house. The cops then told me she reported I had been up to her work multiple times and I had been asked to leave several times (in which is completely false) and that I was making threats towards her (still untrue).

I also have evidence of her drinking and smoking weed, as well as what appeared to be a crack pipe in the center console of a car she was in (on Snapchat).

Does anyone know what I can do?

How can I ensure that the child she has is safe?

I don’t want to go on knowing she is endangering that poor child even tho she’s still carrying it.

Cross posted from r/relationship_advice
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 How sure are you that she is pregnant? I wouldn't trust a single word out of her mouth.

As for the child, there's not much you can do until it is born. It is not illegal to drink or smoke while pregnant. You can report her use of illegal drugs to the police but I don't know if that would really make the situation any better. Do not sign anything until the child is born and you take a paternity test.Answer #2: DO. NOT. SIGN. ANYTHING. AT. THE. HOSPITAL.
NOTHING.
DON’T DO IT.
Do not sign the birth certificate.
Get a paternity test.
If she files any actions in domestic court after the baby is born, get an attorney.
You cannot handle that without an attorney.

Regardless of if you’re the father or not, this will be ok eventually.


Title: Kittens were crushed by the disability lift in our home.

Question:
I'm still pretty distraught so I'm sorry if this isn't the most coherent of posts.

So ill start with the lift, it was fitted to our house in the summer so my mother's boyfriend (has MS, wheelchair bound) can get upstairs and downstairs.

The company that fitted it assured my mum that no animals could get inside and if underneath it, it would not move. When it is upstairs, there is about a foot gap underneath it, this is so the lift is flush with the upstairs floor and it has like a flap underneath which acts as the downstairs ceiling when the lift is upstairs, again assured nothing could access the gap.

Now to this morning, I was woke up by a call from my mum telling me she is on the way to a hospital appointment with her boyfriend, but before leaving she couldn't find the two kittens and she's certain they didn't get out, asked if I could head over to look for them. So I've put their litter tray outside so they can smell it (apparently upto a mile away, if anyone loses cats) and looked around the streets etc, discovered the lift wouldn't work after getting back to my mums and then I found them under the lift, crushed by the carers who were with my mother's boyfriend this morning.

I'm sorry if alot of this information wasn't necessary, or if this isn't the right sub. I'm wondering if I can take any legal action against the lift company? I whole heartedly blame them for this whole situation. I'm from the UK also. If any further info is required ill add as requested.

Answer:
 > if underneath it, it would not move.

The only real mistake here is the lift company making such an assurance.   It likely rises only to the level of a mistake or misunderstanding, rather than a guarantee or warranty.

Most lift mechanisms protect the underside with a tilt-up barrier or gate, or even a weight-sensitive pressure mat.   None of those things are going to stop intrusion by kittens.

This is a pure and simple accident.   It's awful and distressing because of the fuzzy and adorable nature of the victims, but legally it's an ordinary accident and the lift company owes your mum no duty to make the lift kittenproof.Answer #2: Sorry for your loss. :(


Title: How to protect myself and my daughter from her father/my ex? (Ohio, USA)

Question:
Hello. I live in Ohio, I have a 2.5 year old daughter. I am 29. Her father (31) and I split up in the early spring of 2014 and I have been living apart from him since May 2014. We have not been to court for divorce or official custody yet. I pay all of our daughter’s expenses (her father hasn’t provided any money for her care since we split up), provide all transportation, I am a department coordinator for a blue-collar service industry company, I have recently been approved to buy a house, and I am in a relationship with a man who is in a comparable life position to myself. My partner and I will have been together a year in July and he is excellent with my daughter, they adore each other.

My ex and I had been together for almost three years when I left, although we've known each other since 2004. I left him because he was spending our bill money on pot (I disagree with smoking pot because no matter the view on it, it's still illegal in Ohio), hiding money, lying, and he had explosive, destructive rage issues. Prior to him starting to smoke pot in 2013, he had been 100% sober for 6 years following a string of 3 DUI's in 2007. I did not agree with him smoking pot because of his history of substance abuse and his addictive personality, but he chose not to listen to my concerns and quickly went from smoking every other day or so for anxiety to smoking all day, every day, spending around $100 a week on pot.

After I left, we agreed to a custody agreement of myself keeping our daughter from Sunday afternoon through Friday morning. He would pick her up from daycare Friday afternoon and we would meet so I would get her back Sunday afternoon. He started drinking again after we split up, and returned her to me two weekends in a row wearing dirty clothes that were ill-suited for the weather, unbathed, and with terrible diaper rash. I had a serious discussion with him about how whatever he chose to do on his own time was his decision, but if he was going to have our daughter in his house he needed to be sober and on the ball. Since then she has been returned to me clean and dressed appropriately… until lately.

At first he was living in a one bedroom apartment completely paid for by his mother and driving his mother’s car and seemed to be doing well. Then he moved a girl that he had just met into his apartment and she got drunk and crashed the car. I did not find out about this until later. He has since moved out and into a friend’s house because he didn’t want his mother “controlling him through money” although she was trying to help him get his life together. His roommate has informed me via his mother that he has not paid any bills since he moved in.

A few months ago, his mother informed me that he had lost his job as an electrician – he tells me he was laid off, although my suspicion is that he was either fired for testing positive on a drug test, or he quit, since it was in the spring, which is the busiest season for electricians. When I asked him about it, he told me that he was working part time for $8/hr plus tips as a pizza delivery driver because he “didn’t want to be put into society’s box” and everyone that tried to convince him to get another electrician job was just trying to make him conform.

Shortly thereafter, his mother told me that he was again drinking heavily – he crashed her car this time, totaling it, and now has no transportation. He voluntarily no longer has our daughter on Friday nights, just Saturday afternoons through midday Sunday. He has been denying that he is drinking, and saying that his mother is lying, trying to ruin his life, it’s all terrible rumors, he’s fine, etc. I also found out that his water was shut off for a week, and his phone keeps getting shut off. His roommate informed his mother that he was having no issue killing a 30-pack in a day.

I called him Sunday (yesterday) to set a time for me to pick up our daughter, and he seemed really off on the phone. He told me that he is growing pot in his house and alluded to selling it. He told me that he has grand plans to start a pot farm and a dispensary and start growing tobacco for his eventual smoking empire – totally off the wall stuff, rambling and incoherent. He was saying that he had funding from “major players” and his mom. I immediately went to pick up our daughter. When I arrived at 6pm, he was obliterated, totally shitfaced, sitting outside on the steps. I could smell him from 10 feet away. Our daughter was in the house, alone, and he wouldn’t let me inside; he said she was sleeping and would wake her up. He went in to get her and came back out, and she was wearing dirty clothes, her face was covered in dirt, her hair was uncombed, and she had obviously not been sleeping. I immediately took her and left.

I originally did not want to keep him from her. I didn’t want to be the bitchy ex-wife who tries for full custody for revenge. No matter the issues between us, he deserved a chance to know his daughter as long as she was safe in his care. But she is unsafe in his care, and I’m not willing to put up with it. What if she had gotten hurt while he was wasted? He would have had no idea. He cannot care for her if he cannot care for himself. He is in an extreme downward spiral and I don’t know if hitting rock bottom will even phase him, because if this isn’t it, I don’t know what is. I talked to his mother about it and she fully supports keeping her away from him. She agrees he’s dangerous, and actually called him a narcissistic sociopath.

I have already left a message for my attorney and I’m waiting to hear back, but what are my options to protect not only my daughter but myself? I don’t want to get in trouble for not letting him see her, but I don’t want her around him in the dangerous state he’s in. I’m not afraid that he’ll come to my house, because he lives 35 minutes away and has no transportation, but in the long run I don’t want the court to order that he has unsupervised visitation, nor do I want to be penalized for keeping her away from him – have we set a precedent by him seeing her every weekend? Can I get an emergency temporary full custody order? Can I ask for mandatory drug and alcohol testing for him?

Please help me!

Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 > I don’t want to get in trouble for not letting him see her

Your post got very long, so let me summarize.  Correct me if any of this is wrong:

1.  You are married to the father.  You have not filed for divorce.
2.  There are no custody filings, hearings, motions or orders.
3.  The father, your husband, is the legal father - i.e., he's on the birth certificate or something similar.

If all that's correct, you don't have to let him see her.  If you don't, he can file for custody and he'll probably get something.


Title: 15 year old boy dropped off

Question: I don't really know where to go with this but about a week ago my wife's parents separated , they were both very much so meth addicts. Their dealer went through hard times and dropped her kid off to their house before her parents lost everything themselves.. This was about 6 months ago, and they were trying to raise this kid while struggling with addiction. Long story short, they moved into my wife's grandma's property, and then she kicked her dad out. So, guess where the dad and kid ended up at that point. (My house).. The bad part is her dad a few days ago ended up having sex with the dealer in my spare bedroom and he keeps making excuses for her to stay here I know its the kids mother but I don't want her around because I don't agree with her selling and using. , I don't want meth around me PERIOD and the only thing I can think of doing is calling dhs but I'm not sure if that would make things worse at this point. If it weren't for his addict mom staying with us I would have no problems taking the kid in. What do I do? I feel like giving up, I don't know what to do anymore. I live in the USA.

Answer: You need to evict them out of your house and call CPS to help the kid. Keep in touch with CPS and ask if you can foster the kid since he already lived there for a while.


Title: How difficult is it to get divorced if you're married purely for financial benefits?

Question: A friend is experiencing some financial issues that marriage could potentially help with. If I were to marry her, would there be any legal obligation to live together or anything of that sort? Would it be difficult or involved to get divorced, assuming we planned that out ahead of time?

Answer: Location is important, but ignoring the whole fraudulent aspect of entering a sham marriage to receive benefits you wouldn't otherwise be eligible for, she'd be entitled to all the things any spouse would be in a divorce, up to and including half of all marital assets (including retirement accounts/pensions).


Title: NY family member, who is attorney, stole from family house.

Question:
My family member in NY had not paid rent and lived alone in our house for years. We finally evicted her but before she left, she pick and chose what she wanted, including the couch that's been here for almost 10 years.

When asked to return the things before pursuing legal action, she claimed that she let all her attornies in the area to be on alert and started to spread lies about it before anything happened. Is this illegal?

Also what is the procedure for getting things back? Is it tough to prove that those things were taken by her and owned by the owner of the house?

Answer:
 File a police report for the stolen property, record all correspondence and back it up.

Report her to the bar, and file in small claims for the value of the items (a 10 yr old couch has little value, unsure what else was taken).Answer #2: You may want to consider what the replacement value of a ten year old couch is and compare that to the cost and stress of taking legal action.


Title: [West PA] Was told not to plead not guilty on speeding ticket because they were already cutting me a break?

Question:
I got pulled over doing 55 in a 40.  I had a little weed paraphernalia on me and admitted it to the officers when asked. They took it but didn't charge me since i was upfront about it. They wrote me a ticket for 15 over and advised me not to fight it or plea not guilty because he'd cut me a break on the paraphernalia.

My question is; If i do try to get it knocked down to a lower fine or no points, can they bring back the non-charge? Or was he just trying to scare me into just paying the fine?

Answer:
 >If i do try to get it knocked down to a lower fine or no points, can they bring back the non-charge?

Yes.


Title: [US,CA] I bought my daughter a phone and my ex-wife took it away. What are my options?

Question:
I bought my 12 year old daughter an iPhone 7+.  Probably worth $950.  My ex-wife, with whom I am not on speaking terms, took it away from my daughter, after some disagreement between them.  And won't give it back.

What are my options? Can I complain to the police?  If so, do I report it at theft?  Do I have to go to court?  What can I do?

California, USA.

Answer:
 Assuming your daughter is still a minor, it's entirely legal and appropriate for the mother to discipline her daughter by taking her phone away; no matter who bought it. The police won't do a single thing.

You can either get another phone and have her leave it at your house, or try and work with your ex to have a more cohesive coparenting relationship.

If your custody order talks about phone calls during the other parents parenting time; you can still enforce that. But as soon as the phone call is over the mother can lock the phone back up.


Title: Apparently my post didn't show up, trying again. How to report someone abusing the disability system? [TX]

Question: This is is Houston, TX. I don't know if I should even pursue this or not, but it has been at the back of my mind lately. I used to associate with someone who I knew collects a disability check every month. For what condition, I don't know, never asked as it is not my business. I cut off contact with said individual because I learned they are a drug addict, and through word of mouth have heard he brags now about getting his disability check to pay for heroin. He doesn't have a residence, he camps out in the woods so I know it's definitely not going towards rent of any kind. Is there any way I can report this behavior or should I just stay out of it? Thx in advance.

Answer:
 Stay out of it. You have no idea from what you say why he collects disability or even first hand knowledge that he is

>getting his disability check to pay for heroin

Even if this is true, it's not unheard of for people to have a valid disability and also be an addict. It really is none of your business.


Title: Accused of selling a fake guitar

Question: I sold my Fender Telecaster for $280 bucks the other day through a local online ad site (KSL). The person that bought it just called me and told me that they took it to a local shop/"professional" and they said it was fake. She wants a refund. I called my friend I bought it from and he says it's legit. I want to know what my rights are, am I obliged to give her a refund? Can she pursue any legal action if it turns out it's not legit? What's the best course of action?

Answer: Was this by chance a Squire Telecaster that you advertised as a Fender Telecaster?Answer #2: Have Fender verify the serial number.


Title: URGENT: Failed drug test at work.

Question:
/xpost from /r/jobs

To clarify I am in Australia.

Guys, I need some urgent advice.
I'm in my early 20s and have just graduated university and was in my first job of my 'career'. My employer conducts random drug testing in the workplace as part of their safety program.
When I came in this morning to start the day I was picked for random drug testing. Well anyway I failed and tested positive for THC use. I don't really want to go into further detail about it but that's what happened.
The company has a strict zero tolerance drug and alcohol policy, with the punishment being instant dismissal for positive readings. My manager came into the room and I was upfront about partaking over the weekend, which in hindsight maybe I shouldn't have been. I was immediately sent home from work and told to await a call.
Now I have just received a call from my manager requesting my resignation so he did not have to terminate me. He was pretty good about the whole thing and offered to provide a positive reference for me, which I think may have been because I was honest about it. I think I'm very lucky that my manager has given me this opportunity but would like some advice on how to proceed.
How should I craft a resignation letter sounding appreciative yet sincerely apologetic for my actions? Should I mention my positive drug test at all in my resignation?
I was also thinking of writing a handover of my duties to give my coworkers etc. Is this a good idea?
TLDR: I was irresponsible and now I'm paying for it. I have no idea what to do.

Answer:
 You don't really have much of a legal concern here. Find another job, don't screw it up by partaking in illegal things that will get you fired from it, and learn from the experience.

How exactly you resign is more or less stylistic at this point; it isn't going to matter substantively.Answer #2: No. Do a simple resignation letter for records. Don't talk about the incident. Stay clean and chalk it up to a life lesson.


Title: Judge imposed a zero income for mother of child and I pay a daunting amount

Question:
Subject: Child Support

Location: Tennessee

The mother of my child has always refused to work. We were never married. She briefly held a job while we were together but quit and then got pregnant a while after. Once she had the baby it did not make financial sense for her to work due to the cost of new born child care. Skip forward a bit, we split, we come together, lawyerless and fill out the child agreement together. The judge allows her to be listed as a zero income. This of course makes my child support payments skyrocket. For the past few years I have dealt with the high payments as the child did need to be home schooled. However, this will not always be the case. I am hoping to get him into regular schools within the next year.

The payments were orginally set when the child was about 3-5 months old. The child is now 8. She would occasionally check up on my tax returns to ensure my pay hadnt changed much (I was required to provide the documents) and she always agreed not to raise it. To give you an idea of what I pay, I make about $1200 biweekly - my CS payment is $700 (reconfigured for my small annual raises and cost of living it would now be closer to $800)

Do I have a real chance at getting the payments lowered when he enteres school? My thoughts are, before she was "required" to be at home. She was home schooling. No problem. When he goes to school though, Im wanting the get the judge to impose a minimum wage in for her refusal to work. She is an able bodied person, her husband just makes a lot more than myself so she chooses not to work. To make this slightly more complicated, she has had two more children whom are quite young and that will of course be her new excuse not to work. However, those are not my children. If the judge refuses to apply an income based on that I will essentially be responsible for providing for those children.

Hiring a lawyer, while essential, is very expensive. I want to know the collective thoughts on if I should even try. I fully understand I am rolling the dice either way but either way but if there isnt much hope Id rather just keep the money and apply it towards these daunting payments.

Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!

*Edit: I have the child every Friday, Saturday, Sunday, sometimes Mondays.
*Edit 2: What kind of lawyer am I looking for?

Answer:
 Honestly, many attorneys are willing to give low-cost or even free consultations so you can usually explore your options with a family law attorney before deciding whether you want to bite the bullet and put down a retainer with one.Answer #2: >Hiring a lawyer, while essential, is very expensive.

700 a month *12 months *8 years =$67,200

If you had gotten an attorney when this started and he had been able to get just $70 a month knocked off, you would have already paid for the attorney.

You can't afford not to have an attorney.  You can probably get a free consult with an attorney and he/she will be able to tell you if its worth trying to get it changed.Answer #3: You could certainly argue that she has earning potential and a zero income should not be imputed.  A lawyer will be able to advise you on whether this is realistic.Answer #4: unless there's some changes in your income or her income, you're unlikely to change the amount of support.


Title: I bonded a friend locally and she was deported. Now bondsman is holding me liable.

Question: I had a friend move out to Colorado from SC for a fresh start. She is originally from England and married to a us citizen for over a decade and are currently in process of divorce. She is/was 100% legal to be here. When she moved out, she brought a deadbeat boyfriend and they got into trouble here locally for not returning a rental car. I tried to help get her on her feet and away from him by bonding her out, getting her work, place to stay, etc. After her last court date and continuance we were stopped by 4 unmarked vehicles carrying masked men with rifles who took her, only identifying themselves as ICE agents and that "her past had caught up to her". I didn't see her again. That day I called her bondsman and public defender to inform of the situation. It has since been decided to deport her, due to charges here and the possibility of her facing time in the county, and her previous simple possession of marijuana charge from 9 years ago in SC(apparently the original reason they came looking for her). My issue is the bondsman (lady) does not seem to understand how to handle the situation,  or to appeal the bond, and has people calling and harassing me about 2x the amount of the bond, and saying I'm liable for my friend not showing up to court even though she was under federal custody and being deported.  Any advice anyone can offer, or who I can call to talk to about this situation? I'm at a total loss. I've called our local courthouse,  but get limited info and can't appeal myself due to the bond being through bondsman name on their paperwork and no mention of my name.

Answer:
 When you posted her bond, you assumed the risk of this happening, as I am certain she was not deported if she was 100% legal. Deportation is not the same thing as extradition, and it doesn't make sense she would have been extradited to the UK to face relatively minor criminal charges.

You need to hire an attorney to help you determine if the court will release the bond requirement due to her deportation, but I see no reason why you aren't liable to the bondsman for the entire bail amount if it is not canceled. I think you don't actually have all the facts about what happened, and we aren't able to figure it out based on what youre posted. Answer #2: Why do you think you're not liable?  Do you think there is some exception here making you not liable?


Title: Hole in brand new shirt pocket, put phone in it, it slipped right through and fell into water, is store responsible?

Question:
Hypothetical Situation: Say I bought a brand new shirt from J. Crew, with a breast pocket, and I wore it for the first time. I was in the restroom and put my iphone into the pocket and because it was un-sewn on the bottom, my phone slipped right through and was irreparably damaged due to water. What are my rights for recovery, if any?
Topic:
Douche

Answer: Assuming this isn't a troll (a very big assumption because this is a very stupid post), you can buy yourself a new phone. See if the credit card you used to pay for it offers any warranties for this type of damage.Answer #2: The store owes you a new shirt, but not a new phone.


Title: Is this child neglect? My friend’s parents never vaccinated her and her mother isn’t letting her eat breakfast or dinner.

Question:
I’m in high school, by the way.

I have a friend who has opened up to me about what life is like at her home. Her parents are psycho (like deliberately not telling the school that her boyfriend was sexually harassing her to keep their friendship alive), but now I’m beginning to suspect they’re breaking the law. She doesn’t eat breakfast and her mother doesn’t let her pack a lunch. Me and my girlfriend give her whatever we don’t eat from our lunch, like carrots and stuff. When she gets home, she usually eats a few baby carrots and a tortilla for dinner, and her mom doesn’t let her eat more than that. She’s done it before, and the mother yells at her over it and says she’ll get fat. In addition to that, she attends public school, yet her parents never got her any vaccines. I might be overblowing this, but is this child neglect? If it is, what do I do to report it to the authorities and CPS?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: You don't need to confirm that a child's treatment rises to the level of abuse before contacting CPS. They'll let you know. Talk to your parents or a trusted adult. In the event that they suggest that you not get involved, belay that instruction and contact CPS anyway. Answer #2: Yes, this is child neglect and also not reporting sexual harassment when they knew about it is also a crime.Answer #3: Go ahead and call CPS. You won't be in trouble for sincerely reporting what you thought might be abuse. For the record though, everything but the vaccines is.


Title: Cop is probably over stating their authority here, is this protected by free speech?

Question:
**Update: I spoke with the officer who banned me in the first place, said she'd "let me come in next week." I think she's still full of it, but since she's being more reasonable than having me sprinting in 90 degrees I agreed to it.** I even apologized, very lightly but I meant what I said. I don't owe people shit, and with how I've been treated in my life it all starts with respect. At one point I was constantly surrounded by cruel nasty people who would bully me and laugh in my face and I couldn't even speak up for myself, and nobody EVER defended me. It was all for no reason, I was only kind to these people, some I'd known since we were babies. I hated being that person who gets pushed around, so without changing my compassion I changed what I'll stand for. I'm one of the happiest people in the world with my life. Since I haven't posted at all on this sub, and have been lurking only on reddit for years, you guys are even worse than I remember for assuming all kinds of shit and being nasty to entertain yourselves **so you're no better.** The post would be even longer if I typed enough for you to get an idea of who I really am. Get off your damn high horse and let people live. I will continue to say fuck off to pretentious comments, I'm just as worthy as any of you morons who definitely have your own issues to worry about. I'm not taking shit from you dumbfucks, you get it just as you're serving it to me, downvotes or not.
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Ok, I'm in Savannah GA, 25F, no arrests, no record to speak of. I go up do the jail last week to visit my boyfriend and was told that they had reached their maximum visits allowed. I was upset because I had missed about 6 calls from him that day and I wanted to know if they could let him know that I was there. I didn't see his calls until it was late, almost 4:30 when I had got there and visitation closes at 5 so I was trying to hurry. They said we can't, but you can go up to the front of the jail and ask them. I ran over there and they said that they can't, but go back over to the visitation place. I did, and forgot they don't allow phones even if I was just asking a question so I had to run back to my car and go through the metal detector again. Here's the funny part, they say I have to talk to this woman, this fat CO, big black woman with eyeliner around her lips comes out and says no we can't, we've changed the rules here blahblah. This other chick who hadn't said shit the whole time was like OKAY YOU NEED TO LEAVE in that cop tone. I said that wasn't necessary and started heading out, not aggressively though.

 As I stepped into the foyer I said under my breath y'all crazy MFs. Meaning everyone there, the visitors, the COs, the inmates, and me. That fat pig waddled out right as I got to my car to yell DON'T COME BACK FOR 90 DAYS OR I'LL FILE CRIMINAL TRESPASSING CHARGES. I just walked off and didn't say anything to that.
 Now I know I'm a bit of an ass at times, but although I was unhappy that I ran around and got sweaty and wasted a good 30 minutes instead of them giving me respect enough to say "No, I know its a while, but just come back next week and don't make this into a bigger problem. They could have even bullshitted, told me ok we'll tell him, let me leave happy, and do nothing. I'm 99% sure this is still free speech (not a threat, not sexual, not hate speech, to my understanding) and laws protect assholes rights too. Cops don't like me and I don't like them, so I might be considered a fringey character, but I'm certainly not a criminal. I was going to a concert that night and was wearing a bob marley shirt that says I shot the sheriff, but I've worn that same shirt there before without incident. (The Ying Yang twins killed it that night!)

The protocol for visitation on the website says argumentative behavior will terminate that visit. I need to go back over there though, and I'm 99% sure that nasty desk job swine was hating and overstating her authority trying to scare me off. In any case I definitely can't take her ass serious with those clown lips she had. If I do get arrested its because cops have that final authority and I'm not worried about that part honestly. I'll probably spend the night in jail then go home. I'd rather not add an arrest though, I was planning on going back and apologizing for my language and being as nice as I can and seeing how it goes. I just want to know if 1)JO the CO was bullshitting and 2) this would be free speech to a judge.

TLDR; had my time wasted by bullshit at the jail, used profanity indirectly and was threatened with criminal trespassing while wearing a shirt that says I shot the sheriff. Is this free speech?
 edit, wall of text

Answer:
 Yes, you exercised your right to free speech.

And now the jail is exercising its right to determine who is allowed to visit inmates.Answer #2: >Cops don't like me and I don't like them

You know… They don't have any kind of magical detector that the rest of us don't have. I think they can just tell that you just hate them and respond accordingly, sort of how everybody can always tell when they're dealing with somebody with an attitude problem. Also we didn't need to know the ethnicity of the guard, not sure why you included that detail. Answer #3: It appears you may be barred from visiting your boyfriend indefinitely if the jail pleases. You're going to have to play by their rules.

Answer #4: I know prisons in my state have a pretty extensive process for banning visitors. Several people have to sign off on the ban / suspension of visiting privileges. You could try contacting the jail and see if you actually made it onto the banned list or if the CO didn't follow through with whatever procedures they have in place (if any).