Title: Got caught with drugs at school

Question:
About two months ago I bought a tub of adderall to help me focus with my exams coming up and the dealer told me to also get xans to help me sleep after.

I went into school I few days later and I didn’t realise but my friend took a video of me with them and posted it. This girl then went to the school and they searched me. I had 27 pills of adderall and 9 bars of Xanax. I got kicked out the next day and the drugs got handed over to the police. They tested them and both came back as what they were said to be so the adderall is class B and the Xanax class C.

I haven’t spoken to the police yet but will be on the 14th june. I was 15 when I got caught but 15 now. I really didn’t think it was this big of a deal or I wouldn’t have brought them in or anything because to me it didn’t seem as severe as recreational drugs but clearly I was wrong. It was naive of me but because they’re both someone else prescriptions I did t even think it was that illegal. They’ve said on the phone to my mum that I had enough on me for them to pin me as a dealer but I haven’t dealt ever. Does anyone have any advice on how I should be or say when I talk to the police. It’s my first dealing with the police ever so I really don’t know how this is going to turn out or what to expect

Answer:
 No one is going to believe that you brought that much drugs into the school with you to help you focus.Answer #2: Get a lawyer, don't talk to police without a lawyerAnswer #3: >I haven’t spoken to the police yet but will be on the 14th june

No you won't. This is the absolute dumbest thing you could do. You need a lawyer before doing anything. Possesdion with intent is no joke, even as a minor.


Title: Rear-ended by a drunk driver at a red light.  What's next?

Question:
I was leaving work in my 2-day-old Jeep last night, and was rear-ended (no skid marks) by a intoxicated young lady in a BMW.  It seems like I'm fine for the long term, but have some back and neck pain.  No ambulance was called to the scene because everyone seemed fine (a cop pulled up almost immediately after it happened).  After getting home I was having back pain etc so I went to the ER.

So I've heard a lot of horror stories about insurance companies refusing to pay for hospital bills.  What's next?  I started a claim with my insurer and they will be going after her insurer (I have all of her information).  What should I watch out for?  Where can I get screwed in this process?  What kinds of recourse do I really have here?  If I am offered a settlement, do I decline it in the interest of future medical expenses?

Any help would be greatly appreciated, never had more than a fender-bender before...

Answer: This is the main reason personal injury attorneys exist and they all should give free consultations and work on contingency. In the mean time, don't sign anything and make sure you get your back checked out thoroughly and fixed as these problems linger for years (sometimes even if treated).


Title: [WA] Step-daughter tried to commit suicide. What rights, legally, do her mother and I have?

Question:
My 12-year-old step-daughter (her mother and I are divorced, however I have maintained a relationship with my step-daughter, and she looks at me as dad), tried to commit suicide last night by swallowing a bunch of pills. This is the second time that she's done this.

She's currently in the hospital, and was seen by a "social worker" this morning who is recommending in-patient treatment. The social worker indicated that "Catholic Community Services" was required to interview her because she's on state-funded medical, and that they would get a court order to keep her if mom or daughter refused.

Our belief is that in-patient treatment would reinforce the feeling of abandonment, and don't believe that this is the best way forward. Instead, we'd like to get her into some sort of outpatient program (which mom has started looking into).

My initial suggestion to mom was to get her an appointment with a counselor/psychologist as soon as possible, and have an appointment scheduled for when she talked to the social worker again, and indicate that an in-patient program was not what was desired at this time.

Beyond that, what would be the best course of action forward? What rights, legally, does mom have at this point?

On a separate, but related note, if my step-daughter were to come live with me (with mom's permission), what are the potential legal ramifications? What would I need to do to protect myself in this situation?

Edit: Not sure if the flair is correct in this case. Please let me know if there is something more appropriate.

Edit 2: It sounds like the social worker that she spoke with earlier today was from DSHS and that it is a referral for a second opinion from CCS.
Topic:
Healthcare Law including HIPAA

Answer:
 The mother can take her home unless the child is put under an involuntary hold, and then she will have to stay at the hospital. Assuming that the child's father does not have any custody the mother can allow her to live with you.

I will add that I have experience dealing with serious depression and if your 12 year old has now made two suicide attempts you should very strongly consider the inpatient program. Having her monitored by professionals full time may initially seem invasive, or increase some feeling of abandonment, but it could keep her alive, and help her in the long run.Answer #2: My wife is a pediatric psychologist in a children's hospital. It is protocol for all suicide attempts and even ideations to be taken immediately to an in-patient facility


Title: Car shows up beeping 5x a day

Question:
I'm not sure if this is the place to post this at so redirect me if need be.

I just moved into a new condo about 2 weeks ago. Everyday that I've lived here thus far, a car has shown up in front of my building beeping the same tune 4-5x a day, all hours of the day. To be precise: the car pulls up and happens to stop almost always directly in front of my unit. The man (same man every time) in the vehicle beeps the tune, then leans over and stares at the building across from me as if he is looking at a specific window and unit. Yesterday, I caught the tail end of a conversation between him and a woman walking out of the building. He had been laying on the horn for about 3 minutes when she finally came out and got into his car while asking him, "What are you pissed about now?"

My question is - are there any legal steps I can take in stopping this from happening? It starts sometimes at 7-8 am and doesn't stop until the following night 2-3 am. Sometimes it's the tune, sometimes it's him just LAYING on the horn. I live in an otherwise very quiet neighborhood of Chicago. I don't know if cops would think this is ridiculous to call about? Either way, I've begun to record it on my phone every time it takes place. My fiancé wants to go down and confront him next time, don't know how much that'll help.

Please help me with my silly problem. Ope - Jesus Christ, I am not kidding as I write that he has just pulled up for a third time in a one hour period.

Answer: Call the police. Explain to them what's going on.


Title: (AZ) Buying a house and seller has cold feet. When should I get a lawyer involved?

Question:
This Saturday, I received a call from my real estate agent who explained to me that the seller--who was moving out of state--realized that she cannot afford her medicare payments if she moved to a different state. Lack of planning on her part. I was asked how money much it would take to cancel the contract. I have nowhere else to go. My lease expires in June. It is a seller's market. I've lost all opportunity to buy other houses in the 3 weeks we have been under contract.

I asked for 10% to let her know I was very serious about completing this deal. I dont think she understands that she can't just "change her mind."

After she whined again, I reduced my asking to $6000, which would cover added expenses, rental reimbursement, storage, increase in mortgage %, etc... I can't go any lower than that. I would be losing money on something that is entirely not my fault.

So, now our seller went from 100% willing to do anything to sell to "please dont make me sell my house..." Now, I have not done an appraisal yet. I'm concerned that it might appraise for less (which would be absurd, but I've seen weirder things happen with appraisal). Now last week, she would have just lowered her price to match. Her tune has changed now, since she no longer wants to sell. If that happens, and I can't come up with the difference, I will lose nearly $1000 in inspection/appraisal fees, plus I will be homeless and need to find a last-minute rental. Not cheap.

So now I'm forced to settle or risk a low appraisal moving forward... I'm stuck...

Should I hire an attorney now, or wait and see? If she isn't willing to negotiate after a slightly low appraisal, do I have any legal grounds? Everything seems to be pointing to no.

EDIT: Issue solved...

* She responded by asking if I would accept $2000. Even my real estate agent was furious with that response, and she hit them back by saying $6000 firm. I told my agent I was going to hire an attorney today.

* I was in the process of getting a real estate attorney referral from a friend when I got a text saying she was willing to sign and write a check for $6000.

I guess the severity of the situation finally sunk in for her.

EDIT 2: I forgot to mention: I added "seller cannot sell house for 1 year" to the addendum. No idea if that can actually be legally upheld, but at least it's in writing with her signature.
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 You are going to give her a ton of cash, and she is concerned she can't afford her medicare payments?  BS.  Since you say the market you are in is a seller's market, I would guess she figured out she could make a lot more money in August, than May.  I would stick to my guns.  If her story is true, she can buy in a cheaper part of AZ, but in any event, not your problem.

Also, since you say you are in a sellers market, it is very unlikely the house won't appraise unless you got yourself in a bidding war.  You can estimate this yourself by looking at recent sales nearby (which you and your "agent" should have done before making an offer anyway).

You are in the drivers seat as the buyer.  A seller can not change their mind.  Reinforce to your agent that you will take the seller to court if she backs out of the deal.  Let the woman know that reneging on the deal would be much worse for her.Answer #2: I don't know when to contact an attorney but you definitely have legal grounds as she cannot just change her mind.  Your real estate agent is a good place to start to see what he or she thinks.


Title: If a girl accidentally gets pregnant, is there anything the guy can do to wave his rights and responsibilities if she wants to keep it and he doesn't?

Question: I would like to know about England but would be interested in other country's too

Answer: No, because the children, once born, have rights including to be financially supported by both parents. Child support is not a woman's/mother's/custodial parent's right, its a child's right. There have been multiple studies done that show, regardless of how much contact the non custodial parent has with the child, children who receive child support have better outcomes. More likely to graduate high-school, more likely to go on to higher education, less likely to be abused, more likely to do extra curriculars, etc.Answer #2: Nope.  In the UK parents are required by law to provide for their children financially no matter the living arrangement.  You don't have to be involved in your their life but you do have to support your child financially.  This is the way it works in most of the rest of the world also.Answer #3: Resounding no in the U.S. In fact, in every state to date where appellate courts have considered the question of whether or not minor victims of statutory rape can be forced to pay child support for the offspring of that statutory rape, the victims have been held liable for child support. All victims in the cases cited by the law review article I read on the subject were male.


Title: Can I have an infinite last meal?

Question:
I saw a post on reddit saying “if I was on death row, and I had to choose my last meal, I would choose Olive Garden and just keep eating breadsticks so I never finish and they can’t kill me”.

Is there any loop holes that make this legal?

Answer:
 A last meal is a matter of policy, not law. Unreasonable last meals get turned down or delivered in modified form all the time.

It's pretty likely someone on death row could get Olive Garden for their last meal, but they'd have to get their order delivered, as they won't be leaving the prison to go to the restaurant. Having to make the order for delivery makes the question of infinite breadsticks moot.


Title: Afraid tenant is subtly threatening to sue myself and co-owner if we don't allow her to keep living in our house (w/o paying full rent)

Question:
Hi r/legaladvice, I'm going to keep things vague....

I recently purchased a multi-family home with a friend, intending for it to be an investment. We inherited 1 tenant from the previous owner. They have been behind on rent since day 1 and currently owe use more than a whole month's rent. We also learned that they owed the previous owner rent money... great.

Anyway, they claimed to have slipped on our front stairs and broke their tailbone. Out of work for a few weeks, the whole time claiming "people are telling me to sue you guys, but I don't want to do that. I like you and I like living here." This was about a month ago. Now their lease is coming to an end (within 2 months), and they are saying "I need to talk to you two. I really want to keep living here, but now I have a compressed and herniated spine."

I can't help but feel like they are subtly trying to threaten some kind of lawsuit if we don't renew their lease.

Am I just being paranoid, and is there anything we can do to protect ourselves from a legal standpoint? FWIW, our front steps are not up to current code. I am unaware if they were built to code back in the day.

Thanks all,

jasanthapus

Answer: You're not paranoid and the tenant is being less than subtle. It's called "extortion". You need to get rid of this tenant ASAP, and I suggest you lawyer-up.


Title: Co-worker's wife harrassing me and trying to frame me for affair

Question:
Hi everyone, I could really use some advice. My former coworker and his wife are going through a divorce, and she is trying to claim he had an affair with me. (Which is 100% false.) For the past two months, she's sent me harassing text messages, she's contacted my husband, and had her friends attempt  to contact us as well, both on social media and email.  She even created fake conversations between "me" and her husband, and then sent screenshots of those fake conversations to my sister-in-law through a fake account, asking my SIL to send them to my husband. This is causing me severe anxiety and making it really hard for me to focus on my studies. I'm also in the middle of applying for my green card, and I'm worried about how this could affect me if she doesn't stop targeting me and my family.

Is there any legal action I can take? I told her point blank that I never had an affair with her husband, but she didn't believe me and continues to send harassing texts.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Answer: Get a restraining order. You’ll need to go to the courthouse to file papers. You can also hire a lawyer to send her a cease and desist letter and tell her you’ll sue her for defamation if she doesn’t stop.


Title: Mom was involved in wire fraud is there anything we can do ?

Question:
Hi Reddit
My mom was recently scammed over a fake dog breeding website. The more I look into her transactions I see so many flags I could have pointed out as fishy as hell but I wasn't there from the getgo and only pulled into the investigation when she was 2000 deep in the situation.
She was given an official contract at the purchase of the dog but when time came to pay the fee it was required via wire. Flag one. Then the man said they used a shipping service which takes care of the flight and courier to bring said dog to house. Ship service contacts my mom that the plane requires the dog to be kept in an 'air conditioned crate' requiring a 1000 refundable deposit. Now at night she's contacted by the 'breeder' saying the flight hit bad weather and is delayed until the morning. Morning comes guy throws another fee my moms way, mom wires it out and brings me into the situation with this man who was then trying to get me to wire him more of my money.

Besides how shitty fraud is my moms heart is like broken, we all were pretty prepared to receive a really young puppy and now it's like a bad dream. I just want to know if there's anything worth fighting for here

Tl dr mom got involved with an internet scam is there anything we can do if not to get money back but at least have the fraud site shut down

Edit to add our location being NY

Answer:
 That money is gone, probably somewhere far overseas.

If they happen to be stateside and you know their real identity (highly unlikely), you can look into suing them.Answer #2: Rescue organizations, not breeders. You aren't going to recover her money.


Title: In NYC i was told people can get a fine of 25 dollars for flirting in the street, i need an advice on where to flirt with people in The State of NY with out getting in trouble, does flirting indoors is the solution?

Question:
its human nature to flirt in the world we live, what i dont understand is how people flirt with friends and family in NYC and they don t get in trouble with the law.

i went to NYC and i had a bad experience  since i was told people can get a fine of 25 dollars for flirting in the streets ,i need an advice on this ,does flirting indoors is the solution?

then i mean flirting i mean ( Fun Talking ) people having a good time talking with each other, its human nature to flirt with others ,we all do it all the time

the law says it "A fine of $25 can be levied for flirting. This old law specifically prohibits men from turning around on any city street and looking "at a woman in that way"

my main priority is to stay out of trouble in my stay in NYC

location New York ,NY

Answer: Move to close the sub until everyone is in school.Answer #2: You will not get charged for flirting. You will get charged for solicitation.


Title: [ON, CA] I really need help with a chargeback. Company wants to charge a 20% cancellation fee($400 for me) for doing absolutely nothing. Please help!

Question:
It's absolutely ridiculous this company is charging a 20% cancellation fee on a pre-order($2000 CAD) that hasn't even been made yet. That means I'm basically giving them $400 for simply putting my name on a list?

So basically, I was really into electric skateboards and bought one. I loved it so much that I put in a pre-order for the "best" board on the market. The second shipment batch I'm in was estimated to be shipped in Oct/Nov 2017, but delay after delay, now just the first batch is estimated to be shipped after January 2018.

Unfortunately I recently got a concussion from riding in wet conditions and now do not want to ride anymore, therefore selling my current one and wish to cancel my pre-order.

I went to their support and they said I can cancel my order, however they will keep 20% as an "admin" fee, which quite frankly is ridiculous. They have not started production on my board and all they have to do is move everyone up 1 in the queue to fix a cancellation.

This is when I decided to call my credit card company and told them what happened. Now when I placed my pre-order, nothing ever said anything about the 20% fee on the site order page, nor was it visible anywhere else except for the terms and conditions page, which everyone usually overlooks since it's a wall of text. My CC company told me to look at their terms and conditions and I find this, half way down the wall of text.

>If notified before goods have been dispatched, Enertion Boards will try to accommodate order cancellations. If items have been picked & packed for shipping or already shipped, or if man hours have been spent, Enertion Boards reserves the right to refuse order cancellation or charge a cancellation fee of 20% should we not be able to request the return of the package from our delivery service.
>
>If the item/s on order are being built to order and are partially built or waiting for additional parts to arrive to complete assembly at the time of cancellation, you are eligible for partial store credit, or cash at our discretion; with the order cancellation fee of 20% deducted from total order value.

I guess the only way to get a successful chargeback is to try and prove that no man hours have been spent on my order? I'm pretty sure they can say some bs on this.

Is there anything I can do to get my money back? This is seriously such a headache and I can't afford to let $400 go down the drain.

Also, my CC company said that if I fail this chargeback. I cannot make another dispute on the same transaction. Meaning they can decide not to ship my board if I decide to chargeback and fails. Then I would be down $2000.

If anyone can give me some advise on what to do, I would be very grateful.

Answer:
 >Now when I placed my pre-order, nothing ever said anything about the 20% fee on the site order page, **nor was it visible anywhere else except for the terms and conditions page, which everyone usually overlooks since it's a wall of text.**

No, no, no and more no.

You do not get to ignore something you agreed to simply because you found it too onerous to read. I don't get to back out of my mortgage because it's a "wall of text."

Unfortunately this is a $400 lesson you're going to have to learn. Next time: read the T&Cs.


Title: [Q-1 Visa][FL] Employment contract ending and my employer is demanding I pay returning-home costs in full. Isn't that against the law?

Question:
(Writing on behalf of Q-1 person). Hi, I'm an Q-1 Employee in Florida and my contract with my employer is ending soon. My employer brought me over here on an airplane ticket. Now, my employer has told us that they will not pay for a returning ticket to my home country. They told us that they will also not pay for any of my things to be brought back with me. I must foot the bill 100%.

Doesn't the Q-1 Visa clause exclaim that I must be removed from the country due to change in visa compliance status, and isn't it the responsibility of my employer?

Answer:
 The mighty Epcot Center Visa!

https://www.uscis.gov/working-united-states/temporary-workers/q-cultural-exchange - There's nothing in here about it.

>In addition, the employer must establish that:

>It has designated a qualified employee to administer the program and serve as liaison with USCIS
It will offer the alien wages and working conditions comparable to those accorded local workers similarly employed
 It has the financial ability to compensate the participant(s), as shown by a copy of the employer's most recent annual report, business income tax return or other form of certified accountant's report


Title: Advice when divorcing a lawyer in Nevada

Question: Spouse is ruthless, a bully, manipulative, and grandmaster at gaslighting. Any advice what to do and NOT do? No kids.

Answer: Get your own lawyer, and only communicate with your ex through your lawyer.


Title: Is docking pay legal in this case?

Question:
Hi all. I live in Minnesota in the US.

Anyway, my mother works as a meat cutter for a small grocery store in our small town. She was hired full time for 40 hours/wk there. She is also the manager of the meat department she cuts for.

Anyway, apparently sales have been down lately for the meat department so the store manager docked my mother's pay by 6 hours (about $70 total) to compensate for the low sales. Obviously, these 6 hours are hours she worked for, so she's essentially not being paid for 3/4 of a full 8 hour day.

Is this legal to be done to her?

Thanks in advance.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: That is illegal. She needs to contact the department of labor and start looking for a new job


Title: I got stuck in an elevator and my apartment wants to charge me $1,000.

Question:
As the title says, I got stuck in an elevator. I may or may not bounced up and down to trigger the stop, but the repairman arrived in an hour and had me out 30 minutes later.

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I have renter's insurance but apparently it only covers my apartment unit, and the elevator has a sign that says "jumping in the elevators is prohibited as it can damage the elevator". Is there anything I can do to reduce this fine, etc....I know I'm a dumbass

Answer:
 This isn't a legal issue.  You are welcome to attempt to negotiate a lower amount, but they are not obligated to agree even if you are being coy about whether or not you intentionally caused the damage (" I may or may not bounced up and down to trigger the stop").Answer #2: >  I may or may not bounced up and down to trigger the stop, but the repairman arrived in an hour and had me out 30 minutes later.

Did you?


Title: Advice on bringing alcohol back into the US as a minor (under 21)

Question:
Hello everyone,
So I'm studying abroad in London and want to bring some cider back to the states for my father,  as it's not available there. I know it's illegal to bring alcohol into the US as a minor,  so I guess I'm asking what my chances are of getting caught and the penalties if caught. I'll be bringing a liter of hard cider (4.5% by volume) and I'm 19. I can declare it under "gift" or just not declare it. I'm just weighing my options by cost and possible penalties.

Answer: The correct legal advice is to not break the law.


Title: A person from the US stole 99% of my website. I want to sue them for copyright infringement as quickly, efficiently and with the minimal amount of money as possible.

Question:
I myself am a web designer from Canada, and I recently found someone from the US has ripped my whole website and just changed the names from mine to theirs. So about 99% of the website was stolen. I contacted them, we had a back and forth to find out who the person that stole my website was. I got in contacted the person who ripped my site, they responded and I asked for the website to be taken down because it was 99% of my work. They ignored my messages from there on.

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I had encounter this issue before but, it was a 100% copy (word for word) just robots ripping sites. It was resolved by the domain sellers within a week of back and forth. This time, they are not even replying to my first message, I'm guessing its because it was 99% stolen instead of 100%.

 How can I have their site taken down quickly with spending as little money as possible? Would I be able to do file something by myself or would I need a lawyer to look into it? I have their home connection IP address, website info, etc. is there anything I can do here from Canada?

Answer:
 Send a DMCA takedown request to the site's web host. Even if the web site isn't hosted in the US, most web hosts will honor this form of request as a courtesy.

Sample DMCA takedown requests are available online, and are very simple to fill out -- all you need to include is an example of the infringing URLs, an identification of the copyrighted work they infringe upon, a legal declaration that this use is infringing, and your contact information. (Don't use the sites that charge you money for this.)


Title: Petty Shoplifting, need some advice.

Question:
I read through a few shoplifting threads that I saw, but I'm not sure they really answer the questions that I have. I am 19 years old and I live in North Carolina.

I was arrested for shoplifting today about $70 worth of merchandise from Walmart. I was standing near the check-out lanes waiting to check-out items that I was going to purchase (not the items I had put in my pockets) so I didn't leave the store with any product. I got my picture taken and paperwork was read to me, however that paperwork was then brought to my mother to sign. She was not aware of my shoplifting, so she was outside of the front doors of Walmart waiting for me when I assume she was approached. She signed a paper, which I'm assuming was the paper of me admitting that I committed the crime. I don't know if any of this matters, but I'm not the one who signed it and I believe that because I'm over the age of 18 she cannot consent for me (without my permission at least).

The police then came, cuffed me and took me down to the court house. I believe I left with an unsecured bond for $1,000.00 and a court date for about a month from now.

I've never commit a crime before, or been charged/arrested/convicted of anything. I don't know how I'm going to come up with the money for these things, and I don't know who I owe and what I owe them. I do know I have to make this court date, but I don't know what precautions/steps I need to take before then.

I really don't want to be convicted with anything. I feel like shit, and I'm sure I can't afford an attorney or a public defender. Any advice at all is welcome, I have no idea what my options are and I am clueless when it comes to law.

Answer:
 > I feel like shit, and I'm sure I can't afford an attorney or a public defender.

Public defenders, if you qualify, are free.

What exactly(statute number) were you charged with violating?


Title: (USA, Federal) Paying cash to my housekeeper

Question:
I hired a housekeeper from Craigslist about a year ago. She works hard and does a great job. I pay her in cash once a week, both because it is how she prefers it and TBH it is easier for me. I do not give her a 1099 or withhold any taxes or anything like that. How much trouble would I be in if I am somehow caught by the IRS? How much trouble would she be in? Assume that I am not a wannabe politician or seeking a government job requiring background checks. Also, I don't believe that she is in the US illegally.

I live in southern California, if that makes a difference for a federal question.

Answer:
 What did you pay her last year and what do you expect to pay her this year?  [If you exceed $2,000 a year in payments, you need to treat her like an employee or you're committing tax fraud](https://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc756.html).

>How much trouble would she be in?

Realistically? Not a ton.  She's broke and enforcement is better when it pursues people who have money.  People tend to get caught here when the employee is injured on the job and files for worker's compensation or unemployment protection.  Once that string is pulled, you'll get slaughtered.  [California has a next level financial penalty that blows the IRS's out of the water](http://www.edd.ca.gov/pdf_pub_ctr/de8829.pdf).  CA isn't exactly known for going light on taxes and as a state that had the balls to pass a confiscatory retroactive tax to hit small business owners who sold their business years ago, there is little barring them from pursuing you.


Title: [MN] Can an employer restrict reasonable access to the restrooms for employees?

Question:
My son is 16 with his first job, and he works at a grocery store.

The managers there apparently have a problem with employees screwing around in the restroom when they are supposed to be working, so they have said NO restroom breaks until after 8:00pm.

Is it legal for them to do this? Even for the employees who have been using the restroom responsibly?

Answer: From SHRM :Employees must have reasonable access to a bathroom facility. According to an April 6, 1998, OSHA memorandum, the standard mandates that “employers allow employees prompt access to bathroom facilities,” and that “restrictions on access must be reasonable, and may not cause extended delays.” Employers should also carefully consider restrictions for employees with certain medical conditions such as prostate and bladder control issues, and pregnancy, when dealing with bathroom breaks, as the Americans with Disabilities Act might require extended or more frequent breaks as a reasonable accommodation. Restrooms must be easily accessible to employees with physical disabilities. - See more at: https://www.shrm.org/hrdisciplines/safetysecurity/articles/pages/osha-restroom-rules.aspx#sthash.UF46AYbW.dpuf


Title: Severance agreement questions, New York, NY. What would you reccomend I do?

Question:
I was suddenly laid off and told my position was eliminated for the US. I am over 40, had been with the company over 8 years and was paid a fair salary. I suspect that the company will not be able to function properly without rehiring my role.

If they claim that they eliminated the role, how long after I sign the separation agreement will the company need to wait to backfill my role?

How long would they need to wait to rehire the role if I dont sign the separation agreement?

Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 What makes you think that they can't replace you immediately?

And while you didn't ask, you may want to read up on some of the special rules for "old people" severance agreements: https://www.eeoc.gov/policy/docs/qanda_severance-agreements.html#IV


Title: Once a year, hourly retail employees are expected to work until midnight for inventory and then begin at 5 a.m. for their next shift. Is this legal? [WA]

Question: This is my fiancees job. She got home at 12:30, hasn't come to bed yet, and needs to wake up at 3:00a.m. to get ready and be at work by 5. I'm afraid she's going to crash her car out of exhaustion. She said one of her co-workers is sleeping in his car in the parking lot at work. If this is illegal, is there away to report it anonymously?

Answer:
 Legal? Yes.

Should she look for a new/better job? Yes.!Answer #2: It's strange that they don't have a policy about having at least 8 hours between shifts. [Unfortunately, it looks like split shift laws don't apply because I'm Washington, it's fewer than 4 hours between shifts for extra pay to put like kick in. ](http://apps.leg.wa.gov/WAC/default.aspx?cite=357-28-190) That being said, she can always call out of work. How long is her commute? You don't mention in your post but it seems like she might have a longer one. Perhaps you can drive her in in the morning and pick her up later?Answer #3: It's once a year. I don't think she needs to be looking for a new job.


Title: [Hamilton County, Ohio] Juvenile nearly hit, has panic attack and gets speeding violation

Question:
A quick description of myself, I am 17 year old male who just enlisted in the Navy. I recently have been in 4 car accidents (2 of which were hit and runs) and have extremely bad anxiety of vehicles getting too close to me on a road, especially in excessive speed. I was driving home from work tonight, probably about 10:45ish, and a car had appeared in my rearview mirror and gained speed very fast toward me, nearly hitting the rear of my car. I was going 70 in a 65 at this point, and slowly speed up to 75 in order to give space between this car. The car then sped up again and was way too close for comfort to me, so I pulled to the next lane to my right to let this car pass and when it got next to me I had seen it pushing into my lane. I quickly sped up, as it scared me and before I knew it I was going much over the speed limit. My exit had came up on the right and this car was still tailing me, so I got off on the exit and low and behold red and blue lights came from the car that had been on my ass this whole time. He said he clocked me in at over 100mph, and cited me a ticket for speeding and now I have to appear in court.

Tl;dr Cop nearly rear ended me, and pushed me into another lane full of traffic. I sped up to 100mph(35mph over), and now have court.

My question is, what is the likely penalty for my infraction? Should I get an attorney? What can I do?

Answer:
 You weren't "nearly hit" because a cop isn't going to purposely rear end you? What caused the other four accidents and were you the one who ran? Is this your first ticket?

No offense but if your anxiety is *this* extreme why on earth did you think the military was a good idea?? Tell your parents about the ticket, obviously. Get a lawyer. You should also get a therapist.
Answer #2: I don’t think you should be driving until you attend driving school. You need to learn how to deal with other drivers on the road. Speeding up because you are scared is not the way to go. Also, get some help to deal with the anxiety. Four accidents at 17 is extraordinary. As far as the ticket, if you can afford a lawyer get one and see if they can convince the judge to reduce it.


Title: My vending machine was intentionally knocked over, what should I do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You should file a police report, because it is vandalism. Then you can sue to get a judgment against them.


Title: Is this a legitimate complaint or am I being butt hurt?

Question:
Not sure if this is the right sub but here goes...

State trooper pulled up behind me at a red light, he was there for maybe 15 seconds before the light turned green and he turned his lights on. I was driving a rental and pulled into a plaza because I thought maybe there was something wrong with the car. Trooper comes up to me and tells me I was on my phone, confused I looked at him and said "no I wasn't " thought for half a second and said "I might have checked my gps while I was at the light". Trooper again told me I was on the phone with the phone to my ear talking, I again said I wasn't the last call I had ended over 30 min ago and offer my phone for him to check (plus my phone was connected to the bluetooth so I wouldn't have had it to my ear anyway). Trooper says it doesn't matter being on the phone isn't against the law that I can be on my phone all I want. Now I'm really confused as to why I was pulled over.

Trooper then tells me that he pulled me over for going 63 in a 50mph zone. Still confused because i didn't think I was speeding, I looking for a street and kept slowing down and each street to read the names properly, but i wasn't looking at my speedometer so I'm not gonna argue that. He says he only mentioned me being on the phone because "you must have been too busy talking to notice me when you sped by me and that was the time I clocked you". I probably sealed my faith of getting a ticket when I again said "but i havent been on my phone".

At this point i have no idea when he clocked me, he didn't turn his lights on untill he was already sitting behind me at the red light, but I do know that the limit recently changed from 55mph to 50. So I asked wasn't the speed limit 55mph (pretty sure I was getting a ticket anyway maybe I get one for 8miles over as oppose to 13 miles over the limit). Trooper tells me that limit was 45 then turns to 50 then to 45, I know this is wrong and confirmed it because I had to drive back on the same street to head back home.

I really feel like filing a complaint on this trooper, the whole thing seemed like some kind of fishing expedition. Do you think this is legit or should I just leave it alone?

Answer: Did you get a ticket?


Title: [TX] Previous employer told unemployment that I voluntarily quit (I was laid off)

Question:
My previous employer eliminated my position. They told me the reason was that I just wasn't a good fit for them. They told me to show appreciation for my work that I would be given 4 weeks of additional pay. I then signed a document stating that I wouldn't sue them in order to get this severance (pretty standard I guess). I was then immediately escorted off the premises.

The following Monday I filed for unemployment and started my job search. The unemployment office eventually got back to me asking for my side of the story. Apparently my previous employer claimed that I "Voluntary Quit: No reason given". I clearly did not quit  and received a severance. The lady I was talking to said that receiving severance is not good enough proof that I didn't quit. I unfortunately do not have that document I signed (either I gave them the only copy or I lost mine).

What options do I have?

If I need an attorney, what kind would I want and what's the best way to find one?

*EDIT:
My previous employer uses a third party company for HR/Payroll. It is this third party company that is claiming I voluntarily quit. Not sure if that means anything.

Answer: have you appealed through unemployment?


Title: Received a 1099-C for mysterious debt, what can I do?

Question:
So about 3-4 months ago, my Bank Of America account was closed by the bank for reasons unknown to me. I contacted costumer service and apparently they aren't required to give me a reasoning as to why my account was closed. All the guy could tell me was that it was a "personal decision" by the bank and also tells me he doesn't think it's for anything serious and  not to worry too much as nothing was reported to the ChexSystems. Still confused but unable to really do anything, I withdrew the remain money from my closed BoA account, open up a banking account with Chase and carry on with my life.

Fast forward to today. In the mail is a 1099-C from BoA for a discharged debt of 5,340 dollars. On the mail it says "depositovrdraft" but throughout my 6 years of banking with BoA I've never borrowed a single loan or and any credit cards with them. Never overdrafted this high, and even if I somehow did the bank never let me know about it.

What steps do you recommend I take so I can find out how I correct/not have to pay taxes on this cancelled debt?

Edit: Florida

Answer: Ask BoA for documentation of this debt. It's possible, for example, that you were the victim of identity theft at some point and didn't even know about it.


Title: [PA] Lease requiring the 80% of floor to be covered with carpet/rugs. Is this normal?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 It's legal. It's normalcy is irrelevant. Carpet muffles your foot steps.

 edit:  (A few scratches can require replacement of an entire floor.)

 If those scratches can be seen as normal wear and tear that may be his problem, not yours.

 [Heh](https://www.landlordology.com/80-percent-carpet-rule/)


Title: Fake visa for free trial

Question: Hello i was wondering is making a fake visa card for free trials only illegal using an online free visa generator i do not intend to use it for buying stuff just free trials

Answer: Yes, committing credit card fraud is illegal.


Title: My mother forged my signature on an apartment lease once I turned 18.

Question:
Before I turned 18, I was living with my mother, grandmother and sister in an apartment in Leesburg, Florida. The apartment was in my grandma's name when I moved in at the age of 17. . I turned 18 while living at the apartment and recently found out that  my mom forged my signature and added me to the list of occupants in the lease. My mom kept herself and my sister off of the list and when the lease came to an end, I am being hit with the charges for damage. I found out by regaining access to my Experian profile (since my mom used my social to make me that and a creditkarma account that I can't get access to at all since I don't have access to her email).

I tried to contact the rental agency about this issue and was told that the loan account for $2,554 has been in collections for too long and has been transferred over to their collections agency. I was recommended that the only way I can deal with this is to either 1) pay off the debt and try to recover my credit or 2) report my mom to the authorities and pursue this in a legal way. I am in no means to continue any relationship with the rest of my family over this and want to take this to the furthest extent to get this removed off of my credit and not be liable for this.

Where do I start in pursuing this in a legal matter?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Shes committing fraud, so yeah, report her and take the legal route.Answer #2: Do NOT pay anything. This could be used againt you as a recognision of the debt.Answer #3: Have you checked your credit? With the CreditKarma issue I have to wonder if your mother has stolen your identity to rack up other debts, as well.

Also, contact Credit Karma personally and explain the situation, including the identity theft report you're going to make, so that they can help you get access to your Credit Karma account.Answer #4: NAL but I highly recommend freezing your credit. You have no idea what else your mother may be trying to forge. Also, definitely report her to the authorities. Hopefully you can get this erased.Answer #5: My husband’s ex did a lot of crap like this. Take all the documents the leasing office has, your license to prove your age at the time, and file a police report where the fraud occurred. This is going to be a long process, unfortunately, and you will probably have to deal with it numerous times as the debt is resold to other collection agencies. Get a file number from the police so if debt collectors call you about it, you can refer them to the case number. They will continue to call you about it (because they are dumb), but just repeat the account is bad debt, it is fraud, it has been reported to the police, and here is the case number.
Good luck


Title: Governor Wolf of PA declared that all non-essential businesses must close by midnight tonight. My employer, a gym in PA, says that despite what Governor Wolf said, we will not close at all. What are my options and what ramifications could my employer face?

Question: Edit: Just found out this wasnt a mandate, but an "order" which seems to have no legal backing.

Answer:
 Tell your employer you have a preexisting condition and were advised by your doctor to not leave your home.Answer #2: Wolf expects self-enforcement and is not having police enforce closures. i would suggest calling/emailing the governor's office to inform them of the non-compliance. likely nothing will be done directly but if enough businesses do not comply while the situation worsens, it may become state enforced.

unfortunately, your only options are to go to work or don't, and you have no legal protections so you will likely suffer consequences. or you could try reasoning with your boss, but if you are at a corporate gym then likely the decision was not his/hers anyway. but it could be worth a shot, or it might not be.


Title: [MI] Two of my classmates have been sexually involved. One is 15, the other is 16/17. I know its a felony and I'm worried. What can I do?

Question:
Me and this girl, 15, were friends back in elementary. We don't talk much anymore but have mutual friends.

When we were friends, she tried to act very mature. She was talking to strangers online who were 30 years old, and married. She never disclosed her age and became close to these people. I was very worried.

A few months ago, I learned she was romantically involved with a junior (we are both freshman) and was very upset. I was worried about her, as they started dating when she was 14, and the junior was obviously older.

Today, our mutual friend shared with me that she and her junior partner have had sex. He got some detail from her, but she didn't tell a lot of people. It didn't feel fake, as I do not know this girl to lie to her close friends, nor this guy to lie to me.

I don't think it's appropriate or safe. I am very worried about her, and angry someone who is supposed to be more mature could even let something like this happen.

Is there anything I can do for my friend? She does not like me anymore and trying to talk to her about the subject would be difficult, but she is being unsafe and I feel like I should do something. All my friends say I'm overreacting, though.

I just want her to be safe and get that junior away from her.

Thanks for all the help. Sorry if I'm being ignorant, I'm only 14.
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer: First and foremost, you don't know that any of this is actually happening. You only know what you have heard. If you are genuinely afraid for this person, speak to someone you trust like a counselor, teacher, or your parents.


Title: Landlord has my house up for sale, and I don't want realtors or people coming in.

Question:
Hi, my landlord has my house listed for sale and he asked me the other day if a realtor comes out to look at it. What are my rights around letting a realtor in, and open houses within the selling process?

Also, do I have to allow that hideous for sale sign to be in the front yard?

Answer:
 Your landlord should provide you reasonable notice of when these showing will occur. But yes, they are allowed absent some provision in your lease explicitly forbidding it.

As to the sign, I have no idea. But, Its your Landlord's house and he/she has the right to sell it. Does this sign really impact your life in such a negative way that it is worth the effort and stress fighting with your LL about it?Answer #2: You didn't list your state, but most states have laws making it illegal for a tenant to unreasonably withhold access to landlords, potential buyers, agents, etc.


Title: Is it legal to own a rabbit skull in NH?

Question:
I was wondering if I were to order a rabbit skull on etsy, would it be legal to keep in my house in New Hampshire?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: Considering you can hunt rabbits in NH, I would be shocked if it were illegal to own a skull.


Title: Is it illegal to use a fake ID to get a job?

Question:
My friend and I work in the same bar. She just got hired last week with us, she is 22 but has an ID with her picture, legal name and legal address and birthday other than the year which says she is 25. I believe she used it to get hired as she lost her real ID and needed one on the spot to get the job so she used an old fake ID.

I doubt the bar owners care, I just want to make sure she will not be flagged by the government or get in trouble with the IRS (which I believe goes by your SSN which is not necessarily tied to age anyways, but still.)

Thanks.

p.s. I know she is not the brightest but she needs this job to support her daughter while in between two other jobs.

Answer:
 Well yes. I'm guessing since this is a bar, there is a certain amount of checking that is done to ensure that staff can legally serve/sell drinks. So she's likely to be caught out.

Why on earth didn't she simply replace her lost ID?


Title: Illegality on posting posters outside of a workplace saying you quit?

Question:
Let’s retry this. I understand my first post was too bitchy, and it did sound like I was just trying to get advice on how to piss people off. Forget all that, here’s my q, lawyers, and people smarter than me, of reddit.

My job is in a strip mall. They don’t own the columns out front. Is it illegal to post my notice or termination of my employment publicly, as in a poster on a column out front, along with some other choice words I have for upper management? I would be adhering them to the posts with duct tape, so I doubt the complex owner would try to press vandalism charges against me- though, could they? It’s duct tape. It’s not destroying anything. I would obviously never reveal company “secrets” or anything that is obviously illegal to say publicly (anyone’s full name etc). Just wanna know if the act of publicly displaying posters with a frustrated tone off of company property is illegal or not.

Thankyas! Hopefully this fits the thread better.

Answer:
 Taping letters to someone else's property is vandalism. Depending on your choice words, you may also risk being sued for defamation.

This employer may also torpedo you for future job references.


Title: [Georgia] Misdemeanor Marijuana possession and possession of drug related object(s) AND possession of false identification

Question:
Long story short, our dorm got searched and I got charged with what's in the title.

Will I be drug tested? My lawyer has already pleaded not guilty on my behalf and my lawyer is sorting it out with the judge.

It wasn't a condition of my bond, and as my lawyer has explained it so far, I won't end up on probation. He's being vague as he's a friend of my parents ad trying to keep me majorly out of the loop as far as I can tell...

What are the chances of me ending up getting drug tested? I've been clean since the day I got arrested, but I was a chronic user and I definitely wont be clean for like 2 more months.. I smoked dabs and bud DAILY. Like.. a lot.

ALSO THEY TOOK MY BADASS 600$ DAB RIG.. It had no residue on it at all, and I'm wondering if I could get it back from them?

Answer:
 "ALSO THEY TOOK MY BADASS 600$ DAB RIG.. It had no residue on it at all, and I'm wondering..."

Glad to see you have your priorities in order here.


Title: If someone gets caught stealing an unscratched lottery ticket, would authorities scratch it and could a winning ticket amount affect the charges?

Answer: Lottery tickets have a code that can be read without scratching them to tell you how much it’s worth. The scratching is like the TSA, it’s security theatre, and it’s part of the entertainment value. The ticket is treated like any other negotiable instrument.


Title: [Hungary] If I want to use a captured image from the anime Princess Mononoke print it out and give as a gift with a bit of a text written over the image what should I write as copyright?

Question:
I live in Europe so the US distributor would probably not be relevant.

I basically want to declare that I do not own the picture and it belongs to the respective owner.

Answer: What do you mean "write as copyright"? You'd need to first get permission from Studio Ghibli or whomever the copyright holder is. You can't just write "I don't own this" and not be in violation of copyright law. Hungary is a signatory of the Berne Convention (as is the US).


Title: The company I work for had me sign away 30% of my paycheck for tax purposes, however I live in an income tax free state.

Question:
I was hired to work in an entry level position at a fast food place, which I will leave unnamed, and for whatever reason I was unable to set up direct deposits before I got my first paycheck, so they gave me cash instead.

Part of their protocol when this happens is to give you a slip saying that you only take 70% of what you earned so that the rest may go to taxes and what not, however I live in an income-tax free state.

Was this legal? If not, what are my options for recourse?

Thank you.
Topic:
Tax Law

Answer: You do not live in a Federal income Tax free State, and you have to pay Social Security and Medicare withholding. Any excess will be refunded when you file your taxes.


Title: Roommate has been using my name without knowledge of it to buy illegal drugs

Question:
His girlfriend asked me what I kept getting in the mail that warranted boxes twice a month and I had no idea of it.

He finally tells me what he is doing and I'm pretty upset by it.

He owns the house and I'm renting a room so I have no idea what to do.

I'm moving out before September. All of my information is linked to my parents house. I never changed any bills to the current address

I live in northern Colorado

Sorry I probably should have read the rules before posting :(

Answer: Call the police and report identity theft.


Title: I believe my sister has fabricated a police report, what can we do?

Question:
I am sorry if this situation has been brought up before. I have searched for similar instances and all I can find is giving false info to police officers or lying under oath.

For reference we are in Oklahoma.

I believe my sister has completely fabricated a police report- meaning she never actually went to the police and somehow obtained a blank report and filled it in or possibly downloaded a police report template off the internet... or she did file a report and then doctored it up.

Long, convoluted story made short: my sister is accusing another family member of using her debit card. She has a "police report" with an anonymous witness statement that the witness saw the family member using the card at a specific place of business.

When other family members have gone to the police station to get a copy of the report, the police say they don't have a record of that police report. My sister says they don't have the report because she said not to press charges so the report is private.

My sister is an EMT and is familiar with police reports as they have to fill them out or give to victims on scene. She also knows the officers names as she works with them on scene. It would be extremely easy for her to make a fake report and use real officer's names, or it would be easy for her to doctor up an existing report with the "witness statement".

Is it illegal to make up a fake report or to doctor one up, even if she claims she isn't going to press charges nor is it being used in any active case going to trial?

How can we prove the authenticity of the report?

Can the family member sue her for slander and/or defamation of character?

What other charges, if any, could she be facing if she made the report herself or doctored up an original report?

Answer:
 Police reports are public record.

And if they had it but for some reason would not release it (like an active investigation) they would say that instead of "yeah, we don't have that."


Title: Buyer asking seller to pay apartment transfer fee - Idaho

Question:
Hey guys, I need some help and hopefully this is the right sub to post in. Currently I live in California and go to school in Idaho. I was looking for off-campus apartments around the town close to campus and I remembered that my school has a bulletin that people sell their apartment contracts on for a good price, so I looked on it and I eventually found one I wanted. With the process comes certain fees, the deposit/application fee and the transfer fee, since I am taking her contract which she initially paid for. I texted the seller and everything went smoothly, she then asked me to contact the manager to let them know I want it and that I had to pay the deposit/application fee and transfer fee. I already know to pay for the deposit/application fee, but I thought that the buyer was the one that pays for the transfer fee, or am I wrong?

Hopefully this makes sense! I typed it up super fast since I am at work. Thanks guys.

Answer:
 either one of you can pay the fee. there is no rule. it's whatever you two agree.

so if you think she ought to pay it (she's the one trying to get out of her lease after all), then tell her that.


Title: [IL] ELI5: What I just got in the mail

Question:
I was in an accident on 9/1 and I was at fault. I had liability insurance on the vehicle. There were 2 parties in the other vehicle. I thought I had everything squared away but today I got something in the mail for both parties from an attorneys office saying they wanted a reasonable contingency fee for both party 1 vs. me and party 2 vs. me. What is this? Am I getting sued? Will my insurance provide me with a lawyer?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 > Am I getting sued?

Possibly.

> Will my insurance provide me with a lawyer?

Yes. Forward everything to your insurer.


Title: Not given a refund after not receiving food delivery

Question:
My roommate ordered from a restaurant about a month ago.  After not receiving his order after four hours, he called to ask what was going on.  They told him to call back the next day to ask for a refund.  He did, and the owner of the restaurant refused to give him a refund.  Today, the same thing happened to me with that restaurant.  I can't find anything online about how to address this, and from reviews I've read of the restaurant, they've done this to a lot of people.

Basically, is there any action I can take against this restaurant to not only get my money back, but to ensure that something is done to prevent this from happening in the future?

Answer:
 Report it to your credit card company or your bank and ask to reverse the charges.

Don't order from there again.

Leave them a negative review. (facts only - don't insult them or get emotional "I placed and order and was charged but my order was never delivered."Answer #2: Do a chargeback on it, enough of those and the restaurant won't be able to process cards anymore


Title: California— received two identical books from giveaway

Question:
Hi, legaladvice,

I won a Goodreads book giveaway (I'm in California and it shipped from Penguin Random House in Indiana— Goodreads is 3rd party, the giveaway is from Penguin) in May; after six weeks, if not received or shipped, an option is given to click, and so I did.

I received the giveaway copy a week or so ago, clicked the button indicating so through goodreads, and today received a second copy of the same novel in the mail.

I have two questions:

I looked through goodreads terms about giveaways, and it says nothing, and neither does Penguin Random House, itself. I am wondering if I am legally obligated to tell anyone I received a secondary copy?

If not, (and my second question), is there any legal ramifications (due to my winning it in a giveaway) if I give one of my goodreads friends my secondary copy? It wouldn't be a giveaway, or a lottery or anything— just me shipping it personally to someone else.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and I really apologize that this is trivial in comparison to other cases, haha. I just looked everywhere about this issue, and haven't found anything about it.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: You should tell them that they sent two copies. They almost certainly will tell you to keep it. I actually had the same thing happen to me and wound up with two autographed copies of Stardust.


Title: What would be the legal repercussions for me if I were to fill a public pool with rubber ducks?

Question:
Arkansas, US
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Not legal advice but this would be quite expensive.  I bought 1500 several years ago and those only allowed for lines of ducks six inches apart Ina 200 sf office.  Cost me 200 and those were discount ducks.  If you wanted to fill a large pool with rubber ducks I don't think you'll do it for less than 10k. I can think of better things to do with 10k.  If you cannot you can probably also afford the clean up and fines. Answer #2: Criminally, depends on the details. Maybe some sort of vandalism charge, trespassing, any number of other things depending on how you do it and the location.

Civilly, you'll be paying for the clean up. I wouldn't underestimate the cost of a bunch of government employees spending all day cleaning up after you.Answer #3: Paging /u/fuckswithducksAnswer #4: God forbid a skimmer filter is broken and it gets in the pump works. Not that something else wouldnt have done it but itd be an expensive thing to be blamed for


Title: [LAS VEGAS, NV] Will I be held liable if I rent my room to a illegal immigrant ?

Question:
I've rented my second apartment to this Indian guy since past six months. I've just come to know that he has entered US illegally via mexico and has been living in US as illegal immigrant.
Am I obliged to notify authorities? Will I be held liable for that?

Answer: you have no duty to verify anyone's immigration status nor report it to the INS.


Title: Can a divorce lead to my personal property getting distributed?

Question:
I can't really seem to find anything about this topic from just a broad Google Search. I live in North Carolina, USA.

I am currently enrolled in college and I am 18. I have a long way to go before I even think about marriage, but I do have a hypothetical situation.

Let's say that I get married but the marriage falls apart 7 years later. During this said 7 years, let's say I purchase property independently without her to rent to other individuals. So literally, the house and property assets will be privately owned by me.

So during this divorce, the wife decides to threaten to have these properties sold in order to split half/half (I have no idea what sort of arrangements would happen, this is all hypothetical). Is she legally allowed to have any right to do anything with those privately owned (by me) property?

And if so, is there anything around it?

Answer:
 How do you purchase the property?  A business or in your own name?  If a business does the business predate the marriage?  Do you have a prenup?  What does the prenup say about the business? Did you get the money to purchase they property by selling property you owned before the marriage?

North Carolina is an equal split state so the division of property is equal between the two parties. If the property was bought during the marriage and was not bought by a business then its martial property and grounds to be split equally between all of those involved.


Title: Friend is borderline psychotic, is refusing treatment from parents, school won't do anything. Most of us actually feel in danger near him

Question:
EDIT: in California

First off I want to start this by apologizing if this is the wrong sub Reddit for this, but I can't find anything. Secondly, I'm on mobile so please excuse the wall of words. Basically, friend of mine skipped a year of school because he was in rehab, came back here for his now senior year, and is totally different. He's uncontrollable, says the strangest things (ex. We should just kill all the retards) and just makes people feel uncomfortable. He got an IEP, and for those who don't know, on the IEP form there is a section which asks if the student has any emotional, or behavioral issues which can impact his learning, and the school administrators basically said "no" for both of those sections. One of the teachers asked why he was placed in her class if he acts like this and why it's not on his IEP, and admin basically said "it's not our job to take care of that". Again, his parents aren't giving him any form of treatment for him because he truly believes he is normal and keeps resisting treatment. My friend group is pretty much the only friend group he has but we all don't like being near him anymore because he makes us uncomfortable. He is now suspended for vaping in the bathroom, and we all know this is only gonna get worse from here.

So my question is, what the hell can we do for him? Who can we contact to get him the help he needs, whether he want it or not because he NEEDS it before he does something insane and actually starts to hurt people.

Again, parents aren't helping and school isn't helping, so what is there anything at all we can do, anyone we can contact to help him? Thank you for reading, and again sorry if this is the wrong sub. You guys are pretty much our only hope

Answer:
 If the school isn't adequately managing him in the classroom, your parents could talk to the school, or the board. However, a student being a tremendous asshole may not be enough to get the school board involved.

Why are you staying friends with this clown?


Title: Scammed and car stolen!?

Question: I met a seemingly nice and knowledgeable man at a couple of the local Pokemon Go meetups, here near Daytona, FL.  We talked about my VW GTI and how he used to have one, and how he worked at a local auto care shop.  We exchanged numbers and spoke a few more times at meetups and recently I called him to see if he could quote me on a part plus installation for the car.  He said he could take care of it for me no problem, after hours, just meet him at the shop.  Well yesterday afternoon I did so.  I met him there at 530 when they we closing down.  He said to leave the keys on the seat and give him 90 bucks and a couple hours and he'd call me when it was finished.  Its been 12 hours and he isn't answering his phone now.  I've also found out that he's not employed at the shop.  I'm fairly certain I was scammed pretty hardcore.  I realize I am an idiot, but what are my options here?  Should I call the non-emergency line and report the car stolen?  Does insurance cover something like this?  What is the best route to ensure I get my vehicle back, or compensated properly by my insurance company?

Answer: You need to report that vehicle stolen ASAP.Answer #2: Yeah call the police


Title: I have a kid and I was never married, and my ex says she doesn’t want to ask for child support, but are there situations in which the government would force child support even if she hasn’t requested it?

Answer: If she ever applies for any type of public assistance, she will have to request child support first. Answer #2: Basically if your child has all their needs met and no one asks the state to help support the child (that would be food stamps, Medicaid, daycare assistance, etc) the state doesn’t intervene.  But once you ask the state to help support your kid (through food stamps, etc) or otherwise cause the state to support your kid (by CPS intervening because the kid’s needs aren’t met) that state can and should intervene.


Title: Noisy neighbors, what to do?

Question:
Hey I'm trying to figure this out.  I live in a house I recently moved into and down the road, there's people who play music really loud up until 1 AM during the weekends and on Fridays.  It's currently 11 PM and the music is actually so loud that it's shaking my house.  I'm having trouble focusing as a result.  My entire desk is vibrating.

I live in Houston, TX.  Does anyone know how late people are allowed to blast music like this?  I've never experienced anything like this.  I think if the music was loud it wouldn't bother me, but the fact that it's causing my desk to shake and my chair to vibrate under me is causing issues.

Thank you.

Answer: Call the non-emergency line of your local police department.


Title: [NY] victim removing restraining order

Question:
Im in orange county, NY and Im the "victim" in a domestic violence matter. There have been several incidences spanning over 12 months. The police were called maybe 5 times and theres 2 or 3 cases with several charges. I can only remember the obstruction of breathing, destruction of personal property charges and violating the original RO.

I had suggested to the ADA and my boyfriends attorney that I would be happy with therapy and anger management for him. The judge only sentenced him to probation for 3 years and told him we cant see each other until next next November (For the temporary restraining order) or longer (If the decide to make it a permanent restraining order)

My question is how can we lift the restraining order? especially since the judge doesnt see him as such a threat that he would need to go to anger management and therapy. I know only the judge can lift it but who do I need to speak with or write to or what do I need to fill out in order to lift the RO.

Answer:
 NAL, but here's some personal advice: keep the RO and abide by it. You'll be better off.Answer #2: \> especially since the judge doesnt see him as such a threat that he would need to go to anger management and therapy.

Trust me, the judge sees him as a serious threat.  Him not giving the guy an anger management option to avoid an RO or probation suggests he takes his behavior \*more\* seriously, not less.

You can ask the court to change the order, but something will have to have changed for them to seriously consider it.  You not wanting the RO keeping you and your boyfriend apart is not sufficient, they need to believe you aren't in danger anymore.


Title: Invasive "noise violation" tickets given to residents in college area in Southern California. What are my rights regarding this matter?

Question:
The San Diego police have this thing called a "30 day" where if you throw a party and the police come to shut it down your house gets put "on a 30 day" meaning you cant have a noise complaint within 30 days. If you do, its called a CAPP, and the police fine every head that lives in the house $1000. This CAPP lasts a whole year and every time police come its $1000 a head within that year.
https://www.sandiego.gov/sites/default/files/legacy/police/pdf/northerncapp.pdf

http://web.sdcaa.com/external/wcpages/wcmedia/documents/White%20Papers/CAPPBrochure.pdf

This rediculous "program" (see link above) has gotten to the point where the police are patrolling the streets and literally any noise from any house will result in a 30 day. My buddies house got a 30 from 7 guys just drinking in the backyard with music barely audible from the street. And my fraternity house just got a 30 day for listening to music while making lunch (literally unheard of). The police told us "sorry, theres nothing we can do" as they are writing the ticket for the loud music during lunchtime that could not have possibly disrupted anybody around.

My question is that is this legal? what are my rights regarding this matter? The police are extremely vague regarding this matter and will not give us any details, so im just curious if this bullshit "program" of oppressing kids through being CAPPEd is even constitutional.

Answer:
 >My question is that is this legal?

Totally legal to enforce noice ordinances.

>what are my rights regarding this matter?

You can contest the noice ordinance ticket if you get one, probably with a slim chance of success depending on the circumstances.

>The police are extremely vague regarding this matter and will not give us any details, so im just curious if this bullshit "program" of oppressing kids through being CAPPEd is even constitutional.

Noice ordinances aren't unconstitutional.


Title: [GA] Affair with adopted daughter

Question:
This is old talk, but it's always bothered me.

A few years back, a man my family knew had an affair (while his wife was super fucking pregnant, btw) with his adopted daughter. She was a foreign exchange student who was going to HS here. Don't really know that back story about what exactly went down, but she ended up getting adopted by the couple when she was 15? or 16?

Anyways, it came out that he was cheating on his wife with the adopted daughter (I don't remember if she was 17 or 18 at the time), because they made a sex tape of some sort. She sent it to her friends, who told their parents, who told my parents, etc. etc.
I shut my mouth about it, because everything I knew was 2nd/3rd hand. But anyways, aren't there laws against this? Does this fall under incest? It seems super fucking predatory of this guy.

The daughter got sent back to her home country, and the wife ended up not divorcing the asshole. He never got charged with anything. Are there mandatory reporting laws? I know people in his church knew about it, including the pastor.

Ugh, every time I think about it, it makes me sick.  A part of me hopes it was just false rumors, but I'm 99% sure it's true. :/

Answer: What is this, cheat on your pregnant wife with a teenager day in this subreddit? Jesus Christ.


Title: HELP! Getting rid of my abusive guardian

Question:
somehow it was decided that I needed a public guardian, so enter this miserable woman, dictating over my whole life! I'm going to be  32 years old in a few days, but she is treating me as if I were like 8. She won't let me have my Nintendo in my room, she's trying to take my tablet away now. But those are just minor annoyances compared to what she's done now, which is taking 2 of my medications away! This has pretty much crippled me, I can't sleep, im in pain all the time I am having tremors and mysterious falls,and now depend on a walker to get around.despite all this, she won't allow me to go see my doctor, or any other doctor for that matter! Probably cause the doctor would see my condition, and overturn her decision.
Anyway,  I need to get away from her and possibly get a family member to be my guardian.  If anyone has suggestions, or know how this system works, i would appreciate your help.
(Edit: I live in Canada btw)

Answer: Contact your local human services department and complain. Presumably you are still able to use a phone. The police might also be an option.


Title: If I got kidnapped/trapped how far can my methods of escape be?

Question:
So, I’ve been kidnapped. I’m chained in a basement.

If I strangled my kidnapper to escape thats fine?

If my kidnapper psychologically tourtred and tricked me into thinking that all his neighbours were in on it and would attack and bring me back (think the toy box killer tapes), if I killed my kidnapper + if I ran into a neighbor killed them to escape, is that okay? Manslaughter? Or straight murder?

If the basement had the ingredients to build a bomb and I knew how to could I build a bomb, place it on a window, blow it up and escape? Would I get charged for building a bomb?

What if the bomb killed an innocent passerby?

Answer: In every state in the US, you can use deadly force if you reasonably believe it is is necessary to terminate a kidnapping. That certainly means you can kill someone who is actually kidnapping you. It also means that you can kill someone who isn't actually trying to kidnap you, as long as your mistake is reasonable. (Whether any given mistake is in fact reasonable is an intensively fact-specific question.)


Title: Mom died in 2013, Dad overwhelmed by grief hasn't done anything to settle her estate. How can I help? (Maine)

Question:
My mother died of an aggressive cancer within six months of her initial diagnosis.  My dad was devastated and basically stopped functioning for a few years.  He recently came to me for help- he is not sure what the steps are to settle her estate.

Bills are still in her name- which he pays.  Her car sits in the driveway and at this point is rusted out.  They own two homes- one has been empty since her death and needs to be sold (worked in different locations).  He hasn't gone to court for probate?  Is it an issue that he has waited so long?

I assume the first thing is to contact a local lawyer- estate?  For probate- which I'm not even sure what probate is.  As an aside- my dad can't locate their will(s).  I have two sisters.  I believe both are on board that we (as children) have no claim to her estate as Dad is still alive- is this accurate?

For the bills- can I call each company (electric/internet/etc) and explain she is dead and have them transfer the service to my dads name?

From what I understand, the house was their only debt with 100k left on the loan.  Do we call the mortgage company like the electric?  Or is that taken care of through the courts?

Thank you for your help.  I'm a nurse and don't know much about this but would really like to help my father.

Answer: There is no law that says your dad has to start probate. Hire a lawyer on your own. He needs you to do what he can't.


Title: My roommates cat scratched me, drawing blood, can I sue?

Question:
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Topic:
Troll Post

Answer:
 In general owners of domestic pets are responsible for damage done by those pets to persons or property.

If you required medical attention, your roommate could be liable for those costs.

As a practical matter, wash the wound with soap and water, apply a bandage, and avoid the cat.


Title: Someone opened a personal letter sent to me at work

Question:
I just got to work and saw a personal fedex with a letter addressed to me from judge Judy. I am suing someone in my state and not sure how they got my work address, all of the court papers are sent to my PO Box.

The thing is I am upset someone at my work opened it when it clearly has only my name on it and it says where it’s from. I am really upset that someone would open my mail.

We receive a lot of mail (usually packages from vendors) at my work and sometimes we receive checks but they are never in just my name. Also, when my coworkers check where things are coming from it says on the letter Judge Judy. I felt like someone was being nosey and intruded my business.

I will contact whoever sent the letter and tell them not to send stuff to my work, I never applied to be on their show. I told my manager someone opened my mail but I don’t think he is taking it seriously. He thinks it was an accident. What should I do? I am upset.

Answer:
 >I never applied to be on their show.

Judge Judy doesn't ask people if they want to sue someone; They have people watching court dockets, and then approach them. Legal talent scouts, if you will.

And mail sent to you, at your employer's address, may very well have been mistaken for business correspondence that they have the right to open. Answer #2: FedEx is a private shipping service (as opposed to the United States Postal Service) and there are far fewer laws governing interception of parcels shipped via a private service.

Separately- While I know you didn't intend for this to be sent to your work, the reality maybe that your employer gets enough mail that some of it gets opened from time to time accidentally.


Title: Doctor keeps prescribing my girlfriend Xanax and Oxycodone, is there anything I can do?

Question:
I’m in Australia, and every single time my girlfriend visits the doctor, no matter what the medical issue is, she walks out with a prescription for Xanax or Oxycodone, and sometimes both. In the past she has gone to a treatment centre for a Xanax taper after becoming physically addicted, and the doctors at the clinic are aware of her medical history. Yet they keep prescribing her the stuff. She goes to the doctor at least once a month, and never leaves without at least one of those drugs.

The thing is, she never uses them for medical reasons, only for fun or when she’s bored. Currently she doesn’t seem to be addicted to either drugs physically based on my observations of her dosages, but she’s still using both drugs about twice a week and in recreational (high) doses. I think she’s walking a dangerous line where she could become addicted to either drugs in the future, or just have an accidental overdose.

I didn’t think that much of it until yesterday when I drove her to the doctor because she had a minor rash on her neck, and she walked out with a prescription for both Xanax and Oxycodone, along with some skin cream. I asked her how the hell she always gets these prescriptions, and she said she just “dresses nice, looks cute, and asks politely for them”.

I told her I’m worried about her becoming addicted because we have a kid, but she just says that unless she’s having withdrawals or selling my possessions I should stop interfering and treating her like a drug addict. Apart from this we have a very good relationship for 7 years now and never normally argue.

I’m not a doctor, and I don’t pretend to know more than this clinic. But how on earth does someone with minor health ailments like a neck rash or shin splints from running keep getting these kinds of drugs? Maybe I’m just being paranoid with my limited medical understanding, but the entire situation seems weird.

I want to know what my options are, perhaps legally? I’m pretty sure my country (Australia) has privacy laws which will prevent any doctors at the clinic discussing my girlfriend if I call them. I don’t really want to be sneaking around behind her back and investigating this but I’m just concerned that eventually something bad could happen to her.

I should add that I have been to this same clinic for my own medical issues and never been prescribed these kinds of drugs. But I don’t ask for them either.

Answer:
 Sounds like she's the one asking for the drugs.  She's probably answering questions in such a way that she seems like she needs them.Answer #2: She's asking for these drugs, answering questions as if she needs them. No doctor is prescribing xanax or oxy for a rash.

It's clear she either has an addiction, or is just conning the doctors to get drugs.

This is a conversation to have with your GF.


Title: I have a parking ticket from a private company. None of the pay kiosks were running, so there was no way to pay for parking, other cars did not have a parking pass either. What should I do?

Question:
I refuse to pay a parking ticket if the company managing the lot does not provide a way to pay for parking in the first place. Also, I do have pictures of the kiosks not running.

I also talked to the parking patrol guy about it, how I got a ticket even though it's impossible for me to pay for parking in the first place - he said "don't worry about it, I'll talk to them" but didn't quite seem like he could do much.

I'd rather not pay for this and I don't want to have to deal with the company sending it to a debt collection agency, and the website provided no way to contest the ticket. Is there anything I can do here?

Answer:
 > Lol okay this is the least useful subreddit I have ever come across.

 Translation: I only came here to hear what I wanted to hear. You suck for accurately informing me of how it actually works according to the law. The truth is unhelpful. I'd much rather feel vindicated.Answer #2: If you go into a store and their credit card machine is down does that make it ok to steal something?Answer #3: Your right to park in the lot is created by your payment. If you weren’t able to pay you should have left, not left your car there.

Now that you parked there without payment you’ll need to work out the best deal you can with them.


Title: Friend left his kid in his running car while he was in a store and the car got stolen. The kid was found almost right away but this is the second time this has happened and he's worried he'll lose his visitation since the mom is (rightfully) mad.

Question: How likely is it that she will win in court and get his visitation taken away under California law?

Answer:
 If there's even an ounce of any justice remaining in the world, it will be a definitive 100%. How old is the kid? Are you telling us that the car was stolen twice, both times containing his child that he casually left in that car?Answer #2: I may not be perfect but are you f*king kidding me!

Ofcourse this guy is going to lose visitation!

Judges are not idiots!

If I was a parent I would be far from overbearing but come on lol

This must be a joke! Answer #3: He will probably have supervised visitation ordered.


Title: Can you still be punished for killing someone who was a criminal themselves?

Question:
If it's not self defense, but the person you kill has been convicted of horrible crimes themselves like rape and stuff. I always wondered this. If you basically do the world a favor, will you still get prison time?
Obviously you do. What I mean is, could any of this reduce your sentence? If the deceased was a disgusting person?
This is a weird question. I just wonder how it works.

Answer: No, you don't get to murder people.


Title: [Ohio]My brother and I (both aged 20+) were not informed of our youngest brothers custody hearing date or asked if we wanted custody.

Question:
My mother passed away recently and in her will she said she wanted her sister in law to have custody of our youngest brother (age difference of 10+ years). Suddenly one day she announces on social media that he got custody of our youngest brother. My other brother and I (both aged 20+) were not informed of any court dates and we were not asked if we wanted custody. Is this normal?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Why, if it was in your mothers will, and if her sister in law was in good legal and financial standing and willing and able to take in the child, would you or your brother be asked if you wanted custody?


Title: Airport guards made my father pay import taxes on an Iphone he bought 3 years ago.

Question:
My father was flying from China and when he arrived in Germany the local guards made him unlock his iphone to check some serial code in the settings, and then made him pay import taxes on an Iphone he bought 3 years ago.
Is there anything we can do? Or were the guards in the right?

Answer:
 I don't think anyone here knows anything about German customs and import laws.

Likely you need to speak with a local attorney.Answer #2: Was a reciept issued to him? If so, it's probably legit.

If not he should request a record of the payment. Answer #3: How much money was involved and what does a decent lawyer cost per hourAnswer #4: Is your father living in Germany?
Then google "Zollamt" and contact them for more info.

The limit to import things tax free to Germany is 172€ last time I checked.

Did he declare the phone? Or did he walk through the "nothing to declare" exit and was it a random search? Something is not adding up. Answer #5: 1.)  Where does your father live?
2.)  Where did he purchase said phone?


Title: [NC] Fired for sending an explicit picture of privates

Question:
Ok, not me but someone I know and definitely not one of their proudest moments.

This individual has sent one of his co workers a picture of their privates while black out drunk. They apologized and the co worker said to just delete it. However, the incident went to HR and that person got fired. They have the picture etc.

The complicated part is that the person who sent the pic is on probation for 2 DUIs. They are scared that this could have legal repercussions and influence his probation. The questions is: What could happen to that person from a legal perspective?

Answer:
 Not so much worried about the pictures as much as him being black out drunk.

I suspect that drinking is a violation of his probation.

Sound like your friend needs serious help for his alcoholism.


Title: Unanimously kicked out member of signed band, member suing

Question:
To make a really long story short, my band unanimously kicked out a member shortly after signing a record deal at a very early stage in our band, for very good reasons that were detrimental to the band's success and progress. We offered him a settlement, to which he did not respond. Now he is turning around and suing us, using a free student lawyer who has no idea what they are doing other than making this a semester project from hell. I did not include my location, because most of these (besides the partnership) I believe, are federal issues.

Some notable points about the case:

*We unfortunately did not have an LLC for our band, at the time.
*While he co-wrote a small percentage of the album, he did not perform on said album. The member who replaced him performed the material.
*I came up with the band name, and own the trademark.
*We are not yet profitable as a band, and have not seen any royalties to date (probably never will).

They are suing for:

*A portion of the trademark I own,
*A portion of our partnership and partnership assets/money, and royalties, and 'damages'.

We are obviously going to get legal help, but as we aren't profitable, it's hard finding people to work with our budget.

My questions are:
Given that I own the trademark and came up with our band name (although everyone voted to choose it) What are the odds he will be able to own a share of this, given he was voted out unanimously?

As far as partnership assets, (money we make on tour from merchandise sales etc) what are his odds of getting his hands on this as well? We owe our label an obscene amount of money, so even if a judge rules in his favor, would he not also be entitled to the partnership's debt?

Royalties we aren't necessarily worried about as we understand they are paid out by our label for mechanicals and paid out by publishing companies for performance royalties, so if we are correct, he is barking up the wrong tree.

However, and this is my last question, given that we had no written agreements, and he only wrote about 10% of the album, it appears he is going to try and take more writing credit than he actually put forth.

What are my rights in terms of songwriting, given I generally authored the songs, and he only added small tweaks to it later?

I appreciate any and all advice.

Answer: This is too complicated for internet advice and many of these issues are questions of highly debatable fact to be determined in the lawsuit you are about to experience. Kicking a member of your band with intellectual property interests out immediately after signing a record contract was probably a bad idea, and signing a record contract without a business entity and a professionally written operating agreement to settle these exact disputes of membership and ownership before they arise was also probably a bad idea.


Title: Is this illegal? Sorry for the crap title I'm all over the place

Question: This happened a couple of months ago to me but I've tried not to think about it but it's started troubling me recently. Basically i was kissing a guy and he goes to unzip his trousers and i say no and refuse to do anything and tell him to keep the trousers zipped. He ignores me and then forces my hand on to his penis while I'm saying no and when i manage to yank my hand away and tell him to stop he takes my other hand and forces it on. I manage to move away and exit the room. I still know the guy and because he was my friend i didn't want to accept what happened. But it's been troubling me and i would like to know the legality of it. One of my friends says it's sexual assault but I'm not sure. Advice on the legality and if i can bring a case against him would be appreciated greatly.

Answer:
 > One of my friends says it's sexual assault but I'm not sure.

Yes it is sexual assault. You can go to your nearest police station and ask to file a police report for it.Answer #2: There’s a Birmingham in England, Alabama, Connecticut, Kentucky, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Michigan, Missouri, New Jersey, Ohio (several,) Pennsylvania, and Illinois.

If you’re the one in England, try /r/legaladviceuk Answer #3: Yes, it is certainly a crime of some sort. You should go to the police and file a report.

You don't bring a case against him. The government decides whether or not to bring a case against him. In criminal cases it's not you versus him, it's him versus everyone. Talk to the police and let them file what they think they can get.


Title: In California, can a minor be sent to juvy for having and/or buying less than an ounce of cannabis?

Question:
Long story short: got caught smoking weed by mom; she told school; cop told me I'd go to juvy if I smoked again.

I didn't really buy it though since I've read from loads of places that California decriminalized less than 1oz of marijuana as long as there is no intent to distribute and all you get is a fine. Is it any different for a minor? Also, is it still illegal to **buy** less than an ounce? Please don't lecture me about how it's bad for me, I know. I just wanted to know the legality of it for my own purposes. Thank you.

Answer:
 I'll tell you this: legal or not you are (I assume) living in your mother's home. As a minor she can legally: take your stuff, take your wages, basically take everything that you own.  So if you want to follow this path, I would be telling your mother to remove everything from your room but your bed and let you lie on it.

OK - I sound irritated. But do you really want to jeopardize your relationship with your mother over drugs? Because that's what you are doing. And if you think that is worth it, perhaps the drugs have a stronger hold over you than you think.


Title: Someone I know is being doxxed

Question:
Last night, I received a text from my friend asking me if I got a weird message. I told him no and he showed me what he had received. Someone sent him his address and social security number. We were worried at first because we had no idea who it could've been. I looked up the number on white pages and just by seeing the initials, I knew who it was immediately. I went ahead and paid the $9 fee just to be 100% sure. And I was indeed correct. It was our long time friend that we recently cut off due to him just being negative all the time. This is a guy who would dig through peoples social media accounts for fun. I'm a bit worried that he may do something with this information. He's currently in the Air Force and I was contemplating having my friend call his Commanding Officer, however I understand that there's a chain of command that you often have to go through first. So im a bit stuck here, is there anything he should do about this? Has he done anything punishable by law?

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Answer:
 Knowing someone's address is not illegal. Nor is disclosing it.

The SSN is a separate matter. How was that acquired?


Title: A recently deceased man in Minnesota wasn't a registered donor. Can his family choose to donate his organs?

Question: The man was 56, died in a car accident. Wasn't particularly close to his family. I'm just wondering if someone knew more about similar situations.

Answer: Is he currently on life support?


Title: Orlando FL child custody mediation preparation

Question:
First I'd like to start off by saying that I've just started child custody proceedings with my ex and we haven't even gotten our mediation date yet. What I'm doing now is preparing for the mediation by keeping notes and topics I want to discuss. I hope it's ok that I'll likely be asking a lot of questions as I come up with them over the next couple of months. Moderators please let me know if I'm doing anything wrong, I believe I am following the rules so I think I'm ok.

So to the question. Like I said I am preparing notes and topics to discuss during mediation. I've been researching what to expect in mediation and I've read that we will both likely get a few moments to introduce ourselves and say a couple of words. So that is the first thing I'm trying to tackle to have a small paragraph to say got my introduction.

A little backstory really quick: my ex and I had a bad break up. There was lots of fighting and we both said horrible things to each other.

My question is, would it be a good idea to acknowledge the fighting and horrible things we said and express remorse and apologize for my part in it? Or would that be more like shooting myself in the foot and I should keep my mouth shut about it?

My thought process was that if I acknowledge what happened and express remorse and apologize to my ex for my part in it that that would look good that I'm willing to be civil and cooperate for the good of our child.

Answer:
 Ignore any and all things to do with feelings and emotions.

Stay focused specifically on the actual issues with an eye to resolving them and coming to an agreement as quickly as possible.

If after you have a written agreement you still want to address what happened, you could certainly apologize at that time.

Do not let things get messy and overtaken by emotions. This gets long and expensive.