Title: [OH] I've been accused of rape and need advice on what I should do.

Question:
So I threw a college party with drinking of course and ended up having sex with this girl. Well my ex- fling and her friend basically got her to think it was rape because she was drunker than me. We were both walking fine so she wasn't that drunk. She originally said she wasn't pressing charges (even though she consented),  but it seems the "victim" is best friends with my ex and now a detective called one of my friends.

I'm wondering if I should get a hold of the detective and give him my side of the story. Since what I've heard from her friend her story has a lot of lies in it that witnesses would disprove.

Or if I should just wait and see if he'll call me? I figured he would only do if he had enough reason to bring me in but at the same time I don't want to wait around for him to call. I want this to all go away as fast as possible with as little trouble.

Answer: You should not talk to any detective or anyone else.  If you are charged, say nothing and hire a lawyer.  Nothing you can say to the detective can possibly help your case.  You can only hurt yourself.Answer #2: Shut up, dont talk to friends, family or detectives.  Call a lawyer and do exactly as they say.  Anything besides that and you are exposing yourself to some serious serious problems that even a lawyer may not be able to fix.


Title: (Arkansas, but irrelevant) - Can someone in the legal profession explain to me how the supreme court can "make something legal"?

Question:
This news story recently piqued my interest on the power of the Supreme Court: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/05/us/kim-davis-same-sex-marriage.html?_r=0

While I certainly don't agree with the clerk's actions, I'm still confused on how the Supreme Court can change the law, when from my understanding its sole purpose is to interpret existing law.  What were the pro-LGBT justices' reasoning?

Answer:
 The Supreme Court didn't change the law. They ruled that any laws banning gay marriage to be illegal because they violate Due process and equal protection clauses of the 14th amendment.

The Supreme Court's job is to ensure all laws and government actions follow the Constitution. Answer #2: >interpret existing law.

Including the Constitution.

The Supreme Court interpreted the Constitution, and determined that  the 14th Amendment protections extend to same sex couples.


Title: Can my employer force me to purchase a firearm? [WA]

Question:
I work for an armed guard company in Washington state. Up until now they provided firearms for us for free to use on the job. They set up a new policy in which we need to use a personal weapon for work. Most of us don’t own a personal weapon. They said we can either buy one on our own, they’ll loan us money for one, or we can purchase one of their used ones at a lower rate.

My question is whether or not they can now require us to essentially pay them money to use the guns we have been using, or if this is against the law.

Thanks!
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 It’s not illegal for a job to require you use your own tools (or firearms).

It’s not illegal for a company to change an existing policy about supplying tools.

It’s not illegal for a company to sell surplus or now unused tools to employees.

These three legal facts don’t become illegal when stacked in a way you don’t like. Answer #2: Yes, you can be required to purchase equipment or uniforms for your job. Answer #3: Make sure you keep the receipt and proof of ownership, since it's quite possible that they'll ask for "their" gun back when you eventually leave the company.Answer #4: This is pretty common. There are some smaller police departments that do this as well. Even the ones that issue handguns may still permit or require officers to carry a personal rifle or shotgun in their vehicle. It's technically considered a uniform item.

I wouldnt borrow money from your employer without a solid understanding of their terms (eg. Is there interest? How long is the term? How will it be paid?) If you purchase one of their firearms make sure you keep the receipt in the event they try to take it back at some point. I'd save your purchase receipt either way for tax purposes since it's a work related expense. Same applies to any ammunition you purchase or other items to utilize or maintain the weapon such as a holster or cleaning kit.


Title: My husband was fired on October 15th and was walked out of the building without being able to gather his belongings. He has since requested his personal items, but has not received them. How long can his previous employer legally hold his items?

Question:
There is nothing of much material value just photos of our family, a nice mouse (around $200 when it was new) and mouse pad, and a few other misc things. We are in Broward County, Florida.

Edit: I should also note that several others were let go and have received their items through employees that were also friends/family members.

Edit2: he was able to get all of his personal items. Thanks for the advice!
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: Technically, they don't have any time to return them, they have to do it as soon as is feasible.  But your remedy is to sue in small claims for their value (which is going to be minimal). Answer #2: Cops isn't the way to go. He should see if any employees will bring it out to him. I understand that it's frustrating he can't just have those items back, but suing in small claims is your option. Personally, it would be too much of a hassle for me to do over family photos and a mouse. Was there an argument or a safety reason that he wasn't able to gather his belongings?


Title: Stuck in apartment with cheating girlfriend...

Question:
Hello, kinda title.

I can't get out of my lease, it is over in January 31st. If I just pack up and leave, what can happen? Will it just go to collections like everything else or will I be expecting jail? I really need out of this place, any information would be amazing.

Edit im located in Arizona, US
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 You signed the lease and are liable for the rent through January plus any damages.

If you leave, your ex can stop paying rent, refuse to move out, trash the place, etc.

Best scenario, get in touch with your landlord. If you, they, and the ex all agree to modify the lease and remove you from it, it can be done.


Title: Update - new charges - My wife lied to police, under oath in court and in civil court about the neighbors dog attacking her. What happens now?

Question:
Part 1 is [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3hxked/my_wife_lied_to_police_under_oath_in_court_and_in/)

Originally my wife was charged with 3 misdemeanors (trespassing, animal cruelty and filing a false report with the police) and a felony (perjury). An additional charge of making a threat (a felony) followed soon after and now she has been charged with destruction of property and intending to poison our neighbors dog (sorry I am not sure of the exact wording yet). The police have informed me that she could also face drug charges depending on the class of drugs she procured. I think both of these new charges are also felonies and the drug charge would be too.

As I said in my first post I don't condone at all what she did and I don't defend her actions in any way. I love her and want to support her but I won't claim she's innocent here. We haven't had any money, marriage or family problems or illnesses, my wife had recently had an MRI on her head and blood work and an annual physical showed nothing. This came out of left field. I know I could be perceived as being in denial about her being mentally ill but what she has done has shocked everyone we know and no one I have spoken to can believe it. She will be having a mental health assessment by a jail psychiatrist soon. Right now I am trying to work through my confusion and doing my best to make this as easy for my children as possible. I am dealing with getting her a lawyer and trying to find a solution to the counter suit to the civil suit my wife had filed. Understandably our neighbor is extremely upset, her dog was injured and the vet bills will be quite expensive I imagine and as well there is the emotional and property damage. My children and I are staying with other family for now.

Thank-you to everyone who has offered support and kind messages. None of this has been easy and there is a long road ahead. With these new charges does anyone have any idea of what kind of penalties my wife is now facing?

Answer: What does she say is the reason she did it when you ask her?


Title: (US) Can you feasibly not hire a specific class because the job would be dangerous to them?

Question: Ex: a pizza joint not hiring women to deliver because of their location

Answer:
 How is it unsafe for women and not men?

And yes that is illegal discrimination. Guys get raped and beaten the same as girls.


Title: girl ran away from home, now staying at a friends house (minor)- can presses be charged for "harboring" by the parent of said girl

Question:
her father is crazy, she was forced to run away- but something that's  not helping her: she skips school a lot and administrators are keeping an eye out on her. her dad is looking for her and might get cops involved. what are the legality issues: i.e. who besides her can be prosecuted-  like the friends mom who owns the property she is staying at (..specifically their house)     More info: the girl has enough on her dad to press charges for child abuse (non-physical?), she has been out of the house for 3 days, and unfortunately drugs do come into play (she would fail a test for many things) thank you in advance for any help.

edit: florida

Answer: Can presses be charged? Yes, *charges can and most likely will be pressed*. Answer #2: If the cops are called she will be escorted back to her house by force if she refuses. You didn't post your location, but most states have laws against harboring runaway minors - so the adults harboring her could be prosecuted. If she is having issues with her parents, she needs to contact CPS. If her parents are acting violent towards her, she needs to call the police. Until she is 18, she's stuck living with her parents unless they allow otherwise.Answer #3: You should not let a minor live at your house.


Title: Is favoritism considered discrimination?

Question:
Today I was let go from work. I overslept my shift by about 8 hours and was given an NCNS. This was my first offense.

Another employee, who still has his job, has committed this offense two or three times and hasn't been so much as reprimanded. He and the boss have also been seen platonically spending time together outside of work. Clearly that shows favoritism, but since I was fired for an offense that he has committed multiple times, does that show discrimination or wrongful termination?

Answer:
 It's 2am, so you get the Reader's Digest version.

The answer is no. Answer #2: Sure, it's discrimination in some sense. But there's no law against discriminating in favor of friends.


Title: Collections notice on credit report from prior eviction. Says I owe full amount but is not split between prior two roommates.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > This should be split to the three roommates equally I believe since it was a joint lease.

It's the opposite.  In the vast majority of cases, a joint lease makes each of you fully liable for the entire rent.  So it's perfectly fine to send you to collections over the entire matter.

If you do pay the entire matter, you can sue the other parties for whatever they agreed to pay.


Title: AirBnb - Refusing refund and shipping costs despite not having access to apartment.

Question:
Facts:

* Our reservation was for two night in the host's apartment, private room.
* We met the host the first night, the second night the host was out of the city
* The second night, we used the provided set of keys to try to get into the front set of gates, but the deadbolt was broken and gate wouldn't open. Yes, the keys were the right set of keys. It was near midnight and we were locked out. We contacted the host by phone, he was intoxicated, and kept advising to just keep 'working the key' and that it 'always happens'.
* We waited an hour on his front steps (busy street, was harassed a couple times by leering drunkards) as he tried to provide a solution and said he would call us back within twenty minutes. He did not. Ended up telling the host we will be requesting a refund, and booked a last minute stay at a hostel. Refund was unacknowledged (again, drunk host, very unresponsive. Failed to provide us with a pro-active alternative).
* The following day, the host was unresponsive to our needs to get back into the apartment before our flight. There is a SMS thread, timestamped to prove it. We left with half our belongings still in his place.
* Arrived home to find some contrived messages from host via AirBnb app about how he will not provide a refund, that he has been trying to get in contact with us to get our belongings but SMS apparently wasn't working, and that we must have grabbed the wrong set of keys. (Note: these are 100% the right set, in fact, we still have the keys as there was no safe way to leave it back in his home). Timestamp on these messages.. well after our flight (he knew the time we had to leave).
* Our belongings are now being shipped back to us, but there is an absurd "tax/duty" brokerage fee that we're stuck with paying as it's shipping from USA to Canada. We agreed to ship the keys back once we received the package.

Questions:

* Does this count as 'failing to provide a service despite charging the customer' and what does the law say about this if I were to pursue legal action/take to small claims court? How would I go about it? What evidence would I need to provide? I'm talking beyond opening a request on AirBnb. Can I take this to court?
* Do we need a 'copy' of his keys to prove this was the right set we should have used? I ask because his grounds for refute is that we had mistakenly taken the wrong set. Should we keep the keys until the refund/reimbursements come through? or make a copy?
* There were additional expenditures incurred we otherwise would not have spent (travel to/from hostel to apartment multiple times). Is it acceptable to ask for reimbursement from the host?

If you made it all this way, thank you. This is not the worst thing to have happened, but the continuous actions of incompetency has me fiending for a way to seek justice (justice, in the most brutal way possible). I appreciate any insight/help you may have, truly.

Update: host has asked for additional $$$ from us to cover 1. Shipping cost of our belongings 2. cancellation fees for his upcoming reservations as we still have a set of his keys. Airbnb has closed that resolution. We opened up another immediately against him requesting a full refund.

Answer:
 Non-legal advice: take a step back, let the anger pass. Then contact AirBnB support.

Your ability to extract justice in the sense that you're currently fiending for is going to be limited, particularly by the cross-border aspect of your situation. Answer #2: Have you contacted Airbnb?

Just explain your situation to CX. They'll handle it on their end. Also, outside of the phone calls, was all of your contact with the host using the platform? Or did you text via personals back and forth? If so, your technically in violation of Airbnb T&S, which in some circumstances shields your host from liability.
Answer #3: If AirBnB doesn't comply, do a credit card chargeback. You're 100% guaranteed to win.


Title: Having a party, worried about underage drinkers showing up. Is there a way to not be at fault for their drinking if police show up?

Question:
I'm throwing a party in Tennessee (U.S), and I only invited friends that were of legal drinking age. However, as word spreads I'm sure that people of non legal drinking age will show up regardless. Especially since we're right next to a college campus and school just started.

We're providing a keg, but will not be serving to anyone whom we don't know their age, basically friends only and BYOB for anyone else. We plan to keep it fairly tame, so it won't be a cray college party. The one thing I'm worried about is that if the police show up and find minors drinking on our property.

My question is, are there ways to prevent me from being at fault if a minor shows up, uninvited, and gets caught by the police?

Can I place signs around that say that any underage drinking is not allowed and that anyone who is underage and drinking is at full responsibility for their actions? I've heard of people doing this, but I don't know if it actually works.

Any advice to where I can have a fun time, but still be protected if the police show up?

EDIT: Thanks everyone for the advice!! I now know how we're going to approach this party. We plan on keeping it fun, but tame. We also plan on inviting/informing our neighbors to contact us if they have any problems with the party vs calling the police. I'd rather take these precautionary steps and have nothing happen than not be prepared and get hit with a hefty fine.

Answer: Yes, card everyone and kick out the minors. Signs wont protect you.Answer #2: Lock down all points of entry except for one. Have an individual standing at the door checking ID's at all times.Answer #3: Just so you know. Even if there are minors there who are not drinking, the cops will not test anyone for alcohol or anything crazy like that. They will assume the minors are consuming and can charge you with "providing property for minors to consume" or something along those lines. You are best off to truly keep it a 21+ party. One 20 year old could ruin your shit.


Title: [AL] Does mandated reporter status only apply within the context of the job?

Question:
I am an adjunct professor at a college, and a while back I had to go through the title IX and mandated reporter training, but it's been a while and I don't remember a lot of details....

A friend (known her a long time before and outside of the context of my job as an adjunct) recently confided in me that she was sexually assaulted a couple weeks ago, but asked me not to tell anyone. I am encouraging her to talk to someone about it and make a report, but I don't feel that it's my place to force it or report it on her behalf. She is an adult and out of college.

But if I'm a mandated reporter due to working at a school, does that status only apply to information that I learn due to my position or is directly related to students/school, or does that make me a mandated reporter period for any info that I learn from any source regarding any child/sexual abuse?

I don't want to betray her confidence, even though I obviously think she should report it, but I also don't want to risk my job of she does decide to report it at some point and it's revealed that she told me and I didn't report it.

Answer:
 As far as title IX goes, you’re considered a mandatory reporter to your institution. If it happened at or related to your school, you would need to report it to your school. You are not typically required to report incidents to the police for non-vulnerable populations unrelated to your school. Answer #2: Uhm. I don't know what a college professor would be mandate to report about adults.

Mandated reporting is for at risk populations (children, elderly) not generally able bodied adultsAnswer #3: http://www.ccr-bhm.org/media/9624/mandatory-reporting-brochure.pdf

So for an adult someone that has no affiliation with your institution, assuming the incident did not occur at the institution, I'm not seeing any obligation to report that.

You ARE required to report any incidents involving people affiliated with the university, and incidents that occur on institution property. This is the Title IX and Clery act.

You ARE required to report ANY instance of suspected or confirmed CHILD ABUSE you encounter, this is what a "mandatory reporter" is under state law. I am currently a mandatory reporter in my state as well, so if I see child abuse (or good signs of it) anywhere, as long as I have this job, I must report it.

The incident you are describing I don't see being covered by any of those regulations.


Title: Got my eyebrows waxed at salon. Esthetician took off chunk of eyebrow that has never grown back. What are my rights.

Question:
This happened two years ago in Ontario ca

I went to a salon to get my eyebrows waxed. I paid before the service was done. Before the girl started , I informed her that the hair is already sparse and light so to be very careful and precise when waxing them. I reiterated a few times that I only wanted the stray hairs to be done and to not touch the eyebrows themselves. Lo and behold, she of course did not listen and waxed off a chunk of eyebrows around the arch. It looks like my eyebrows are bifurcated. Immediately after she did this, I got up and left to prevent further damage. I called the salon that day to report it and demand a refund and for it to be fixed. The owner apologized and said he would do what he could to rectify it. He asked me to send photos which I did and he would get back to me. He never did. I called him several times and he refused to return any messages. Finally I went to the salon and demanded the refund. The owner refused and the girl who messed my eyebrows gave me the refund herself. I told her it was the owners responsibility, but he again refused to do so or to discuss options to fix the issue. The reviews for his salon and him personally online are abysmal and there are many stories of him refusing to communicate with clients and fix mistakes. Since then, the hair has not grown back. It is extremely noticeable and several people have commented on it. What are my rights?

Answer:
 [Limitations Act, section 4](https://www.ontario.ca/laws/statute/02l24#BK5):

> s. 4. Unless this Act provides otherwise, a proceeding shall not be commenced in respect of a claim after the second anniversary of the day on which the claim was discovered.

Barring extenuating circumstances, by waiting two years you've lost whatever claim you may have had.

> The owner refused and the girl who messed my eyebrows gave me the refund herself.

Furthermore, the refund made you whole, regardless of who paid it, unless you have further damages.


Title: I am very tight on money and got a driving violation

Question: A vehicle was stopped in the road. He then began driving very slowly. I decided to cross the double yellow line and pass him. Lucky for me a cop saw me and ticketed me. I explained he was driving like an asshole but she said it was a no passing zone. I want to plead not guilty as I can just barely afford the $170 ticket. Any professional input is much appreciated!

Answer:
 I'm confused. Would you like us to wave our magic "get out of a traffic ticket" wand? There are no magic words you can say.

You can contest the ticket and ask a judge for leniency. At the end of the day, you broke a traffic law and there are penalties for that.


Title: Florida - Threatened with legal and personal attacks in email from owner of paver sealing company

Question:
Hello /r/legaladvice, long time reader, first time poster. Posting with throwaway.

Story is, September 2016 I hired a company in Florida to come and clean/sand/seal the brick pavers around my pool. When finished, I noticed that they had not sanded between all of the joints but made the mistake of paying them before fixing. I was super busy at the time and let it go after only 1 email to the owner who wrote it off as "erosion".

Fast forward a couple months and I notice an ant mound coming up from between the pavers where I had complained about lacking sand. I again was busy, did nothing to follow through.

Fast forward to current time and there are now 3+ ant mounds and some plant life coming up. I decide to email the owner in the most professional tone I can. I ask him if he can help, he ignores the question and says he isn't an exterminator and can't help me. Some back-and-forth happens (I'm still being as professional as I can, no threats, ever) and he then tells me that those areas have lost sand after 6+ months and it's not his fault. I remind him that those areas were never filled in by him and I emailed him the day after he left my house. He then changes his story and says he filled them in after I withheld payment, but in actuality, neither happened.

After I realize the guy isn't going to do anything for me, I tell him that I probably have no monetary recourse since it's been 6+ months but I still have Angie's List, Facebook and other review sites I can post pictures and our emails on.

At this point it gets real bad. Here is his response:

"I knew that was coming,  and I will immediately take legal action if you smear my business.I don't play games with people like you.  Any review you leave will include a response that includes every bit of personal info I can find about you, your family and your employer and I'll attack your credibility just the same, but harder. You smear my integrity and I'll smear yours, period.
You should think twice before acting, you have far more to lose than I do.
I mean that [Redacted name]. Just go away and take your misery our on someone else because this bulll has far bigger horns than you do.
Peace."

I do not respond but a few minutes later another email comes in from him:

"I have the [Redacted former-employer page] review page pulled up anytime you're ready.
BTW, if you weren't an unpleasant customer, I could hire your company to investigate aa website hacking I had.
Based on your pleasantness, skill set, and love for my company you could also be a suspect.
Good day, Sir."

I should have never paid until the job was 100% done but I messed up and I realize that. In fact, I was ready to offer the guy some money to come back and fix everything but that isn't an option now.

I am here looking for advice on how I can protect myself from his guy. My Facebook is locked down but my LinkedIn was not, which is how I believe he found my former employer. I have since locked that down as much as I possibly can(changing last name to initial).

Is there anything I can do legally? Restraining order? I'm thinking no since he didn't threaten physical harm but i'm a bit worried he could pull up in front of my house or employer, given his tone in the emails. I am a bit scared that this guy could be really nuts.

Should I just forget about this entire thing or leave honest reviews? They do have a direct Angie's List link on the front of their website but I don't know how anonymous it is or what'll happen if he sees it and goes nuts.

Proof: http://imgur.com/a/eCRxh

TL;DR: I email owner to put in more sand in brick paver joints, after some back-and-forth I tell him if we are at an impasse, then my only option is leaving reviews online using pictures and emails. He then threatens me and my family.

Answer:
 You can't take preemptive action against something like this.  You can get a no-contact restraining order if you feel inclined, but it doesn't sound like he's harassing you while you're asking him to stop.  A restraining order will not prevent him from uttering your name in public.

If it were me I would write the bad reviews.  It would be hilarious to see a business owner making an attempt to bad-mouth a client.  His business will tank.

What "legal action" is he going to take?  Try to sue people who write bad reviews?  You should add that to the review too.  Tell them he threatened legal action if you write a bad review.  That'll hurt his bottom line quite a bit as well.Answer #2: Write the negative reviews professionally and leave screenshots as proof of what a psychopath this guy is. He can respond to that however he likes, everybody else who sees and comments will likely conclude that you've been polite beyond what's necessary by that point.


Title: College student with little available time trying to deal with a collection agency who insists i owe the wrong amount even after they sent me written verification of the debt (which was a smaller amount than they are still trying to collect)

Question:
Background I am a year 4/5 student at a school in Pennsylvania . I am a resident of Virginia. I spent my first 2 years of school at a Minnesota college where I was a member of a fraternity. My final semester at the school in Minnesota I began dealing with mental health issues and some other personal problems. At the end of the spring semester I transferred from the Minnesota college and I left my spring semester fraternity bill unpaid. I wasn't worried about the unpaid bill as our fraternity had an unspoken policy of not sending alumni, transfers, and health drop outs to collections. At the time I left the fraternity we had 50-75k in outstanding money owed by people such as myself that had accumulated over the last 4-8 years and it was essentially considered a write off. Fast forward 2 years to September of this year and I receive a collection notice from a Minnesota collection company for my unpaid balance. I responded to the notice within 30 days requesting verification of the debt (The bill i was being charged for included an additional fall semester where i wasnt a fraternity member and wasnt enrolled at the university). I got a response on October 26th with the corrected amount and verification that my debt was in fact $1,141 not the $2,091 they originally tried to collect. On Nov 25th i had a verbal communication with the collection agency (which they informed me they were recording) in which I informed them I intended to settle the debt but now was not a convenient time for me to have this conversation and I could not do anything to resolve the situation during this conversation as a result. The debt collector kept trying to pressure me into making an arrangement or agreeing to something formally which i was not comfortable with. As they continued to pressure me, they tried to use my owed balance of $2,091 to leverage the situation in their favor. I informed them that the balance they had was incorrect and I had verification from them in writing that the amount I owed was approximately $1000 less. The caller claimed they had no record of that and my account reflected an owed amount of $2,091. I informed the caller that I had no intention of continuing the conversation until they had the correct information and stupidly agreed to call them on Nov 30th around 12:00 pm. After the conversation I had with them I did not call them back on the 30th because I had not received any further verification or update of my account balance and was not comfortable talking to them  on my own without representation. I have continued to ignore their calls  (last call/voicemail they left was 12/15/16) until I had time available to handle the situation entirely over Christmas break. Upon coming home I found out that I had received another written communication from them (titled Nov 28, 2016) which was requesting payment or other arrangements be made and had my balance listed as $2,091.

Now based on my digging on this subreddit and around the internet it seems that their insistence to collect $2,091 even after verification from the "creditor" and me verbally telling them it was incorrect and I had a corrected amount from them in writing is illegal. It would also appear that I need to find a Minnesota Lawyer to look into my case.

I would like to confirm that/ ask that
1) I do in fact have a case against  the debt collector and it is worth my time to pursue it
2) how do i go about finding a minnesota lawyer to take my case, consult with them, and go through with the case if I'm out of state and do not have the time/resources to travel.

thank you for all your help and any other advice you may have.

*also for anyone wondering I am in contact with the fraternity (outside of the the agency's knowledge as far as i know) and am handling the account so dealing with the collection agency and still having the debt looming is not a concern/issue

Answer: You should post this on /r/personalfinance


Title: [Alaska] Moved out of rented house and days later my landlord changed her mind.

Question: I was renting a house in alaska. When my lease was coming close to end i decided to move to be by family. My main question is regarding my security deposit. She first inspected my house and said i can clean a couple things she pointed out or she will charge me to pay for it if i couldn't fix them. I told her i will and we decided for her to come back in the morning to review and she if everything was good. She looked the house over and gave me $700 in cash and $300 in a check after sge said it was ok. The next day i received a text from her saying the downstairs smelled like dog and the carpet had hair on it. She texted me she called to cancel the check. I have paid her $600 in nonrefundable pets fees before i moved in. Is she legally able to do this and what rights do i have in this situation? Should i lawyer up?

Answer:
 What date did you leave? Were you obligated under the lease to give notice that you were leaving? Did you comply?

If she is going to withhold that money to pay for damages, she must provide an itemization of those damages, and verification that both the $300 and the $600 pet deposit were utilized. [She owes you this itemization](https://www.landlordology.com/alaska-landlord-tenant-laws/) within 14 days of the end of your lease, if you properly gave any required notice, or within 30 days if you did not give any required notice.


Title: Employer makes you use vacation days fr any thing you call in for. Legal?

Question:
(Couldn't find a decent flair, sorry)I live in Minnesota.  This year my employer(who employs mayble 35? people in our state) made a change to his hand book saying that if you call in for an unexcused day they will take that time away from your vacation time.  So if my kid, or I, thrw up at night and need to miss a day with no notice they are going to use 8 hours f my vacation.

It shoul be noted that they don't offer anything for sick time leave.

I'm sure this is legal because they like to ride whats legal with giving their employees the shaft and I'm not happy about this change but just wondering your thoughts.

Thanks.
Topic:
Douche

Answer: A lot of employers are doing this nowadays. They collect all time off into a PTO bank, which you can use for illness, doctor's appointments or whatever else, and vacation. It's annoying (at least in my opinion, since it encourages people to come to work when they're sick and infect everyone else), but it's not illegal.


Title: (FL) Is there anything I can do to stop a club at my university that's petitioning to get me kicked out?

Question:
I waited a bit too long to pick an elective and ended up in a boring class where almost all of the students are part a "women's studies" club(that's known for being a little bit crazy). They've been trying to get me to join.

The club organized a headscarf/hijab day where they all wear them to help support women that are apparently discriminated against. They asked me to wear one and I refused. They've started calling me a racist and xenophobic(because as an immigrant myself with some North African heritage that makes total sense).

They've started a petition to get me kicked out. They claim that when they have 1,000 signatures the university will be forced to.

What can I do to stop them?

Answer:
 well this hits a lot of triggers, my troll sense is tingling, off to my safe space well away from a bridge.

elsewise, nothing. let them bitch and rant and moan. if the university acts on this or asks to talk to you consult an attorney. is this private or public?


Title: I have two questions: Is it illegal for an 18 year old to kiss a 15 year old (less than three years apart), and is it illegal for them to text if the 15 year olds parents told then 18 year old not to?

Question: This is in the state of Texas. The 18 year old is a male, and the 15 year old is a female. The age difference is less than 3 years. Her parents have said she is to have no contact with the 18 year old, but is it actually illegal to continue to be in contact if nothing sexual is said in the conversations?

Answer:
 Legality aside, if you pursue a 15 year old girl whose parents don't like you, you're gonna have a bad time.

Answer #2: Texas's version of the Romeo and Juliet laws is odd. It doesn't stop them from prosecuting you; it just stops you from having to register as a sex offender.

Kissing won't be enough to trigger a statutory rape charge, but other forms of physical infancy probably will fall under abusive sexual contact.

You're free to contact her until the parents get a restraining order; which may not be hard to do in Texas. They're free to punish the girl if you do so, and obviously taking away her phone is going to be a big part of that.

I'm a big fan of the "half your age plus 7" creepiness rule. Try and find someone a little closer to your age.


Title: Daughter is "not allowed to be friends with" BFF - do I have to support other parent's decision? (in PA)

Question:
My daughter(16) and her BFF(13) have been banned from being friends by the girl's mother, for no good reason except their family has major psychological problems that are going unresolved and badly handled. I do not support the Mom's decision, and honestly think she's a nut job who is allowing her "good"  twin daughter to be manipulated and socially isolated/abused by her "evil" twin daughter due to the nasty daughter's violent issues.  So, while she's free to make rules up for her own kid... what is my responsibility in enforcing them?  Can I take the position of "not my monkeys, not my circus" and just nope the fuck out of this... or could CrazyMom come after me (or my kid) if she finds out her kid is having a friendship behind her back?

The details, if they are needed:
My daughter, now 16, has some moderate disabilities (not autism, but similar), and about 2 years ago joined a local Anime fan club for teens that's open to all, but specifically promotes itself as Autism-friendly. It draws from about 10 local private and public high schools in the area, and is well-run by a mother (who's getting a Masters in Special Ed) and her own son (who has an encyclopedic knowledge of all Anime and is Autistic himself). It's a WONDERFUL club and my daughter instantly found joy, acceptance, and made friends who shared her own interests - I could have wept with joy.

Everything went great and she even made her first, true, BFF. BFF is a lovely girl, and while she's younger in age, the two of them hit it off like two peas in a pod within weeks - they were suddenly talking, texting, giggling, having sleepovers, and going to the movies and constantly wanted to hang out with each other. It got to be a LITTLE much, and we had to set some ground rules, and had to enforce them a few time - but overall, it was a wonderful friendship for 8 months of the school year.

However... while BFF is super nice, and has mild autism that make her and my daughter just perfect fits in terms of abilities and interests.... BFF has a twin sister, but instead of the mild autism that the BFF has, the twin has severe Tourettes and explosive disorder and becomes nasty, violent, and honestly, the MOTHER called her other daughter "the evil twin" when she first met me and my daughter. BFF's sister, honestly, is scary (I say this as an adult who's been around special kids of all kinds for over a decade, I think this kid is the first true sociopath I've ever met.) BFF had told us when we all first were getting to know each together that her sister hates her (BFF) having any friends and MUST have her way all the time or she "gets angry" (as in, the police have had to be called to their home). Well... the family has a long history of mental disorders - both the mother and the father have their own diagnoses, including Asperger's  and depression, so somehow this child has basically been appeased as the ANGRY GOD of the whole house in their family dynamic. The girl became more and more jealous of BFF and my kid as the year went on and as their friendship grew - and suddenly, the mother was calling me, frantic and incoherent, wanting to put breaks on the friendship, wanting a "time out" and then, after promising it was just temporary - broke my daughter's heart by announcing that the two girls could no longer be friends. It was done in an incredibly painful way, with no discussion or even an apology or explanation to me... so yeah, needless to say, I'm NOT a fan of her parenting choices. I strongly disagree with the way she handled the entire matter, but on the other hand, I had to reinforce to my daughter that she had to back off and "respect" the other parents' rules.

However, she didn't pull her kid out of the Anime Club, and my kid has gone this year as well... and the girls love seeing each other at the club. (No calls, no sleepovers, no movies, no texting... just one 2-hour block per week for 8 weeks in the fall, 8 weeks over winter, 8 weeks coming up in the spring). Here's the trouble: next year, my kid starts high school going from a school with less than 70 to a school with over 1400 in it. With all the social opportunities that entails, we're not planning on continuing her club membership past this next session. At this point, we wonder if the only reason she's doing it is just to see BFF. They will both be freshman in HS, though, starting next September (different school districts) and we've been trying to get my daughter to do more things independently - take the bus to the mall, or make plans with friends that don't' need Mommy to be chaperone/playdate facilitator. One thing I was thinking of relaxing was my stance of "support the other parent" - just in the way of "if you go to the movies and she's there too, it's a free country" and "if she texts or calls you, you can talk to her and I'm not going to ground you for it."

Sorry this is so long. Thoughts?

Answer:
 If you suspect abuse contact Child Protective Services, otherwise stay out of other people's family business.

If they don't want your kid around you should respect that.Answer #2: If BFF's mother doesn't want her 13-year-old daughter to hang out with your kid, that's her prerogative. It's her problem to enforce it: you don't have to support it or be polite to her about it, provided you're not taking BFF places behind her mother's back or similar.Answer #3: TL;DR:  Parents don't support friendship.  Do I have to support the parents?

There is no legal requirement for you to enforce rules on behalf of this child's parents.

Also if you are concerned about the safety of the child, please do make a report.


Title: Is it legal to install a deep fryer in my van? I am in the state of Nevada. Thank you

Answer:
 Is it legal to install? yes, but not on the roof
Is it legal for you to cook out of it? Yes, but not while you're driving
Is it legal for you to park on the side of the road and use it? probably not.
Is it legal for you to sell delicious deep fried food to the public? not without a licence     Answer #2: In any case you'd want to have some doughnuts ready for bribery.


Title: Clicked on a Website and have Access to Users 20k Online Bitcoin Wallet. Whats the best course of action?

Question: As stated in the above title I was searching up a phone number and due to what appears to be a PHP error the users Wallet and Password are in plaintext, I took a quick look and its legitimate on a reputable wallet site. My question is, what is the best course of action? Could I take the Bitcoin? Should I email the guy whose account it is (Dormant for 5 months) or should I forget I ever saw it?

Answer: I'd contact the website admins and tell them. They should patch that up, that's a large privacy concern


Title: My friend (adult) left his phone unattended and someone else (minor) used my friend's phone to send a nude picture of the (adult) friend to everyone in his contacts, including other minors

Question:
Last night I randomly received a full frontal picture from my friend. Turns out that he left his phone at someone's house and to pull a "prank" he sent a nude picture of my friend (that was already on the phone) to everyone in his contact list. I'm wondering what legal action could be taken.

Here's a quick rundown:

State: Wisconsin

My friend: adult

Person who sent the picture to other minors and adults: minor

Answer:
 > I'm wondering what legal action could be taken.

Your friend can report the minor to the police, as can any of his victims - of which you are likely not one.  He may also be able to file a lawsuit, if any damages exist.Answer #2: Report it to the police. Once the police have pressed charges against the minor any civil case your friend wants to bring against the monitor's parents will be a lot stronger.


Title: Could airlines be sued using the ADA regarding legroom being too small for long legged people?

Question:
The airlines are actually creating an environment that disadvantages and even harms people due to their physical build.

Could a case be built and what grounds?

Answer: Long legged people are not a protected class, so no.


Title: Landlord won’t rent to me because of religion (NYC)

Question:
Some friends of mine have an apartment in Brooklyn, NY. One is moving out, and I agreed to move in and take over the lease. For the record, it’s an apartment in a six unit building, and the landlord owns the building, but doesn’t live there.

I met with the roommates and the landlord yesterday, in order to sign a lease. The landlord is Hasidic Jewish, and when he saw me, the first thing he asked is if I am Jewish and if my mother is Jewish. I told him my family is non-practicing Jewish. He told me he can’t rent to me, because I don’t keep a kosher home, and he can’t aid another Jew in “transgressing”. He only rents to observant Jews and non-Jews.

So I’m not going to pursue this, because I would rather just find some place else to live. But I was curious is this discrimination, even though we are technically the same religion? Also, one of the roommates who currently lives there has a Jewish mom- the landlord never asked her, I guess because her last name is very Italian- could he evict her if he finds out?

Thank you and Shanah Tovah!

Answer:
 So, you are only jew-ish, not quite a complete jew?

Sheesh, I worked in a Hasidic area never realizing this was a thing...


Title: [Canada, ON] Got a copyright claim for a movie I didn't download. Normally I would just ignore, but the email seemed fairly aggressive.

Question:
**Here's the e-mail I received:**

The Government of Canada requires by law that all Internet Service Providers (ISPs) let their clients know when content owners contact them about possible unauthorized use of the content owner's material such as illegal downloading of music, movies, TV shows, videos or games. As a result, we must let you know that we have received the below notification related to your account.

Please note that receipt of a content owner's notice may not mean there has been any legal action against you. Seek legal advice if you are unsure whether or not the penalties or fines that may be contained in the attached are enforceable. The simplest way to prevent further alleged infringements is to make sure no one is using your account to illegally download material.

For more information on why you received this notice, please visit: http://www.ic.gc.ca/eic/site/oca-bc.nsf/eng/ca02920.html or contact the content owner directly. Please do not contact Bell as we do not have any further information to share with you.

Thank you for your cooperation.
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Hash: SHA1

IMPORTANT NOTICE TO ACCOUNT HOLDER: COPYRIGHT ACT, R.SC, 1985, c C-42

16/09/2016

Notice ID: f957210b55434d600198803a6de8adf3c90f
Settlement: http://www.e-resolve.ca/en/resolution/XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

FIRST NOTICE

Re: Notice of Unauthorized Use of Copyrights Owned by D Films Corp.

Canipre represents D Films Corp., who owns all right, title and interest, including copyrights, in and to the work listed below (hereinafter the "Work").

This notice is intended solely for the primary Bell Canada service account holder named herein. Your Internet services account has been identified as having been used in the unauthorized copying and/or distribution of the Work listed below.

Work Title: Love (2015)

Copyright Owner: D Films Corp.

Computer File Name: [StarTorrents.com]love.2015.1080p.brrip.x264.aac.etrg.torrent

Protocol: BitTorrent

Torrent Hash Value: 314a82c4674594e74de9d0e0154fcb561a7de5ec

Coordinated Universal Time: 11/08/2016 00:32:32 UTC

IP Address: XXXXXXXXXXX

Port: XXXXX

D Films Corp. is the sole and exclusive owner and distributor of Love (2015) in Canada and at no time have you, or anyone using your account, received authorization or consent to download or distribute the D Films Corp. exclusive property. D Films Corp. generates its revenues through the lawful distribution and sales of its works and has the exclusive proprietary right to distribute and receive revenues, proceeds, and profits from its works.

In Canada, the unauthorized copying, performance and/or distribution of the D Films Corp. Work listed above is illegal and is subject to criminal and civil sanctions, and is a violation of the Copyright Act, R.SC, 1985, c C-42. The recent amendments to the Copyright Act, which came into force on November 7, 2012, have confirmed the D Films Corp. rights to have its copyright protected in Canada and has updated the rights and protections of copyright owners to better address the challenges of the internet, so as to be in line with international standards.

Moreover, such copying, performance and/or distribution of unauthorized works may also violate (i) the Berne Convention for the Protection of Literary and Artistic Works, (ii) the Universal Copyright Convention, (iii) bilateral treaties with other countries including Canada, and/or those copyright laws and regulations as cited herein.

Your ISP has forwarded you this Notice pursuant to the Notice and Notice provisions of the Canada Copyright Act. While we remain agreeable to communicating with you through your ISP, we reserve our right to seek a Norwich order to have you identified should this matter remain unresolved. Canadian Courts have recently recognized that, in circumstances involving the illegal infringement of copyrighted works, ISPs can be ordered to deliver up the customer information associated with offending IP addresses so that further action can be taken (see: Voltage Pictures LLC v Doe, 2014 FC 161). If you have questions about your legal rights, you should consult with your own qualified, legal counsel.

In the event that this matter remains unresolved and/or you continue to engage in the unauthorized copying and distribution of copyrighted works, you could be in violation of the Acceptable Use Policy you may be party to with your ISP. In Canada, you could also be found liable for statutory damages of up to $5,000, or non-statutory damages for copyright infringement, as well as potential damages for unjust enrichment and interference with economic relations.

In order to help avoid legal action, we have been authorized by D Films Corp. to offer you a settlement opportunity that we believe is reasonable for everyone. This notice provides you with the information you require in order to resolve the claimed infringement matter and prevent any and all further legal actions that may be contemplated and relevant under Canadian jurisprudence.

To access the settlement offer for this claim, you have until 06/10/2016 to visit the provided URL and complete the settlement instructions. If you prefer, you can simply copy and paste or type the URL directly into the Internet browser of your choice. Here, you will gain confidential and private access to all instructions how to complete your settlement payment and receive your executed Release of Liability. Please note that your Unique Notice ID forms the URL and corresponds with the Unique Notice ID found at the outset of this notification.

Settlement: http://www.e-resolve.ca/en/resolution/XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

The settlement will remain confidential and, as part of the resolution, D Films Corp. will also agree to release you of any and all other claims it may have against you for all previous infringing activity engaged in to date 16/09/2016 affecting the D Films Corp. titles and/or its intellectual property.

If you fail to respond or settle within the prescribed time period, the above matter may be referred to our legal counsel representing D Films Corp. for legal action and further remedy. In the event that legal action is commenced, D Films Corp. will pursue all legal, equitable and statutory remedies against you, which will include monetary damages, as well as damages for conversion, unjust enrichment and interference with economic relations, as well as court costs and/or legal counsel fees incurred in this matter. At that point, the original settlement offer contained herein will no longer be an option and any future resolution will require an increased payment from you as a result of D Films Corp. having to incur further costs, which costs they will seek to recover from you. Therefore, you may be held liable for monetary damages in excess of the settlement amount demanded herein, as well as all associated legal fees and court costs. In addition, you may be subject to court ordered injunctions and other extra-ordinary civil remedies.

In the event that D Films Corp. proceeds with legal action against you, you will be required to produce all relevant documents, including electronic documents and files that bear on D Films Corp. claims against you. Until this matter is resolved, whether by settlement or otherwise, we require you to accept this as written notice to preserve any and all hard drives or other means of electronic storage associated with your above referenced IP address and to take no steps whatsoever to remove, erase, discard, conceal, destroy or delete from any means of electronic storage any evidence of piracy and/or other illegal or unauthorized acquisition and/or distribution of D Films Corp. intellectual property. In the event that we determine, through computer forensic evidence or otherwise, that steps were taken to delete or in any way alter or destroy evidence of piracy activities, said actions will be brought to the court's attention and further associated remedies will be sought against you.

Again, we recommend that you consult with legal counsel if you have questions about your legal rights.

Nothing contained or omitted from this correspondence is, or shall be deemed to be, either a full statement of the facts or applicable law, an admission of any fact, or a waiver or limitation of any of the D Films Corp. rights or remedies, all of which are specifically retained and reserved.

In providing this Notice, Canipre has a good faith belief that use of the material in the manner complained of herein is not authorized by the copyright owner, any of its agents, or by operation of law. Canipre and the undersigned further declare under penalty of perjury, that Canipre is authorized to act on behalf of D Films Corp..

Sincerely,

Barry Logan

Project Manager

CANIPRE: Canadian Intellectual Property Rights Enforcement

307-15400 Pierrefonds Blvd

Montreal, QC CANADA

H9H 5L5

E: notice@canipre.ca

W: www.canipre.ca

T.Montreal (514) 312-3185

T.Toronto  (647) 478-7722

T.Vancouver (778) 831-1044

On behalf of:

D Films Corp.

26 Duncan Street, 5th Floor

Toronto, ON CANADA

M5V 2B8

_______________________________________________________________________________

I never downloaded any movie called "LOVE" and didn't download anything on the date it provided. Normally when I've received e-mails of the such in the past, the ISP would acknowledge that there was a possibility that I wasn't the one who downloaded the movie. But in this case I 100% did not download this movie (just like *every* other case). How should I react to this e-mail? Should I contact the ISP? click the link it gave? Ignore it? I'm really not sure.

Answer: Completely ignore it.  The letter says that your ISP has not given them your information.  This letter is just a scare tactic... they want to trick people into voluntarily turning themselves in and paying made up fines.


Title: Land use issue - Prescriptive Easement

Question:
I’m having an issue with my neighbor and I’m educating myself before I take my next action.

I have a flag lot with a driveway leading to my house, planked on both sides by fencing from the street up to my gate.  The fences were there when I purchased the property 10+ years ago.  One property adjacent to my driveway was sold about 3 years ago.  This new neighbor recently opened up a section of the fence and excavated the ground on both of our properties and prepared for paving, to connect his driveway to mine.  If he were to succeed, it would give him a convenient loop for his driveway.  He does not have a (recorded) easement to use my land, nor did he ask permission or even notify me that he planned to do this. Attempts to communicate with him have been fruitless.

He tried this once before, not long after he moved in.  He took down the fence sections without asking. I put them back up, and sent a letter demanding him to leave the fence alone and stop trespassing.  He refused to accept the certified mail.  I recently vacated the property and put in on the market.  This latest attempt of his started a couple days after the realtor’s sign went up.  I presume he thought I moved away and would not catch him, or care, and a new owner wouldn’t know any better.

I had the sheriff come out.  He told the sheriff that the fence is his, that it’s on his land, and that he has a prescriptive easement to use my driveway.  I asked the sheriff if the neighbor had any proof and he said he had “paperwork from a lawyer” but no County records.  The sheriff bowed out of the situation, saying they can’t make judgement calls in such civil matters. I understand.

I’m reasonably confident that the fence is mine, and that it’s on my land.  I could get a survey done to prove it, but even if it’s mine, there is still the claim of an easement, and I would like to avoid the cost if possible.  Regardless of fence ownership, if he can prove easement on my land, he’d be allowed to cut through, I assume.

Regarding his claim of a prescriptive easement, I have some ideas and questions.  Here in California, if I understand the laws correctly, the occupant of his lot would have to use my driveway for 5 years, without permission, yet unchallenged.  Looking back using historical imagery, it’s clear that about 20 years ago an unimproved connection existed between our driveways (then the fence got built and has been there ever since).  Thus, it’s remotely possible to establish the 5-year statutory. But did that previous owner use my driveway with or without consent from my previous owner?  I don’t see how he can possibly prove it was without consent, which is a factor for the establishment of a prescriptive easement.  We’re talking about a window of time some 20-25 years ago, minimum!  The old owners from that timeframe are deceased.

I think my best angle isn’t to disprove the possible creation of a prescriptive easement, but to prove that even if one existed, it would be terminated by now.  If the owner of his lot built the fence, blocking the path, is that not a reasonably clear indication that he abandoned the easement?  If the owner of my lot built the fence, wouldn’t that then prescribe the easement back after just 5 years?

What do you all think?  Is my strategy sound?

-Mia

Answer:
 You want to sort this out quickly, because this will cloud the title and cause difficulty with the sale of the property if you don't.

Your theory is that your neighbour is trespassing on your property. His theory is that he's within the terms of an easement on your property. The appropriate venue for resolving this is a court: you can sue on the theory that he's trespassing and seek an injunction ordering him to cease and that he compensate you for your costs, including repairing the fence. He can defend it by presenting this supposed easement, which will let the courts evaluate it.

As real estate issues tend to be sticky and fact-specific, consulting with a real estate attorney would be wise.


Title: [WA] Landlord giving 30 day notice to vacate despite lease being active

Question:
Hi there,

My landlord recently let us know that she is selling the townhouse that we currently reside in. She has received an offer and has told us that we have 30 days to vacate and need to be out by 7/30. However, our lease isn't up until the end of August and we previously had agreed to renew our lease. We are now scrambling to find a new house, but I'm not sure if what she's doing is legal.

I want to fight back and ask to remain in the house until the end of the lease to allow us more time to find a place to live. Otherwise, I was thinking of asking her to refund our deposit in full, pay for movers, and cleaners.

Do I have any leg to stand on? Is what she's doing legal and are we just going to have to deal with the circumstances?

I appreciate any help or guidance.

Thanks!

Answer: Unless your lease says she can terminate the lease in the event of a sale, your lease carries with the home and the buyer will have to honor it. You can negotiate with her though, if you'd like, but she has no right to terminate your lease for this unless the lease says she can.


Title: [US-GA] My Friend's Parents gave her this contract which causes her to pay hundreds of dollars if she doesn't get at least an 80 in her classes. Is this legal? Is there anything she can do about it? What are some steps she can take?

Question:
My friend posted this image on her private snapchat story, and it got me wondering, what is the legality of this? I talked to her, and she is pretty frustrated with it. Is this legal, as she has saved up $1,000 dollars from working her job, and any money which she won't be able to pay them through this contract would cause her to be forced to get a job, and all of the money from that taken until her 'debts' are payed off. Again, is this legal, and is there anything she can do about it?

Contract Image: [https://imgur.com/a/Zo9NQWi](https://imgur.com/a/Zo9NQWi)

Side Note: NHI means Not Handed In, or the assignment wasn't submitted. Life360 is an app used to track the location of family members.

Answer: Sure, it's legal. If she's under 18, they can parent her, which includes managing her money. If she's over 18, they're under no obligation to continue to support and can cut off all support if she doesn't follow their rules.


Title: [OH] Neighbor purposely being loud jackass, am I helpless?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >Do I have any ability to sue him?

Sure, you can, but you will not be successful.  What would you sue for?  What would be your damages you can quantify?

>I need three independent people to complain about the dirtbike. I keep to myself since I'm a student, don't really have much in common with the neighbors, and don't think I should have to go canvassing the street to beg anyone else to make a complaint.

I am sure you and your neighbors have 1 thing in common, that you do not enjoy this jackass neighbor.  Talk to the neighbors and see if they are having the same issues as you.  You will not be begging.

Have you talked to this jackass neighbor and expressed your views?


Title: [OR] Wife signed up for a $70 ESL class. Community College switched her into a different program without notifying us and is trying to bill us $1,300.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: This was really long. But based on a quick read, I see that non-credit students are charged a $70 fee. I would expect that fee to be **in addition** to the regular class tuition fee.


Title: Looking to sue cruel sister, please advise

Question: hi..thanks for taking the time to read my question. My sister played the dv lottery for my whole family including herself and i won a greencard. It was a surprise but since she lived in the u.s.a she was always trying to have her family join her. she paid all the costs for my travel and offered her place to stay. i was pregnant and informed her and she still agreed to have me travel to live with her. i admit it was unexpected pregnancy. i get to the states about 2 months pregnant suffering severe morning sickness. 3 weeks later she chased me out onto the streets of a foreign country saying she didnt sign up for my state. i lived in a shelter for 7 months and gave birth while there. our parents found out and begged us to reconcile. all our relatives were talking and she was looking bad. so she initiates contact via email and phone apologising and asking to see my baby. i accept and go meet her. immediately she started asking us to move back with her. she even gave me her key to move back in any time i wished. i was hesitant but having given birth a month earlier with 3rd and 4th degree tears and living in a shelter with no help, i accepted and moved back. i agreed to pay $300 rent monthly. its been one month and i paid my rent. she is again kicking me and my 2 month old son out. she says she needs to move on with her life..she accuses me of milking the u.s government by being on welfare. i had no choice but to seek government aid when she kicked me out. i needed to keep myself and my baby going as i scouted the city heavily pregnant looking for odd jobs. am a university graduate and was practising landscape architecture back at home. she is intimidating and used to beat me up when we were younger so i still have a little fear when i face her even though am 29 years old. Shes 6 years older. i decided to remain in the u.s and not return home because the opportunities here are better than my 3rd world country. what am asking is is there a way to sue her for abandoning me in a foreign country twice. what is the name of the offense? she never looked out for me when i first arrived and was being groped by a repairman in her apartment and told her. infact she told him to come back the next day when she would be at work and i would be at her place alone, pregnant and vulnerable. this time she commented that me and my son go to a shelter and look for a pimp. am really distraught and frustrated. please advise me on how i can go about suing her. thank you.

Answer: What legal obligation did she have to support and house you?


Title: [MI] meeting with Community Director about violating community standards and policies

Question:
So I don't really need life advice I know I am a dumbass and all that.

I start off by saying a few weeks ago I got drunk and blacked out and woke up in the hospital. After piecing my night together using Google timeline and my friends I figured out I left a party in a uber to my dorm where I assume a RA called and ambulance and sent me to the hospital. Upon admission my BAC was measured at .141 so drunk yes but dangerously high no. They also didn't really do anything for me but let me sleep it off. I say this because I really don't think I need to go to the hospital but anyways I did and I that is my responsibility.

A few days ago I received a email to meet with the community director about a incident that was I violation of community guidelines. I am 20 (almost 21) so obviously it is illegal for me to have alcohol but I don't live on a dry campus. What I am wondering is what I should admit and what I should keep quite about in the meeting. I obviously don't want to be kicked out of school or worse. Is it possible there will be a police officer there? My school has its own police department and I am aware that MI has medical amnesty laws but could I be charged after the fact if I admit to it?

TL;DR: Got drunk and was at my dorm, someone called a ambulance and now the school wants to meet with me.

Answer:
 >Upon admission my BAC was measured at .141 so drunk yes but dangerously high no.

That's not the right attitude to have here. .141 is well into the range where motor skills, reaction time, judgement and memory are impacted. That's closer to "hospital" drunk than "fun" drunk.


Title: Visitation and exchange of child

Question:
Hi all, I need some advice for my situation. Just finished my case recently with the court and I got visitation rights with my 3 year old son.  Everything was going well, but now mom doesn't do the exchange with me.  In the first week, mom would always be the one there. Now it has been her parents doing the exchange with me, even though mom is clearly home.

Is this allowed? Does this have any negative impact on my son in the long term?

Answer:
 It makes zero difference who hands over the child to you.

I feel like you are picking things to try to be upset about. You should focus on the child, not the motherAnswer #2: >Is this allowed?

Yes, of course it is. She isn't required to see you, she's just required to make sure your child is available for ypur visitation as so ordered by the courts. If she feels the exchange can't be made safely and/or without arguing, it's even preferable that she uses a third party to oversee the exchange.

>Does this have any negative impact on my son in the long term?

I don't see how it would.


Title: How can I verify the offer my attorney says I was given?

Question: We are at a point in the litigation where the opposing counsel made an offer. It is WAY too low. I am worried my attorney is lying to me and telling me this low offer just so I will retain him further. I have a PACER account and can see all the briefs so I know he isn't totally BS: he has litigated the case this far, but I just feel funny about the offer since it is way lower than what we projected.

Answer:
 Of course it's way too low. Most first offers are way  too low. But you have every right to ask for offers in writing.
Source: PI attorney.


Title: Help! Mass email sent to everyone by senior manager

Question: Hello out there, I had a question about a mass email that was sent out to all employees by accident about succession planning and where each of us sits in the senior manager rankings. My ranking being not so favorable which to all my colleagues looks extremely bad as I work hard and we get along.  This was meant to be sent to the Senior managers however got sent to everyone by accident allowing everyone to see this. What I'd like to know if I have grounds to seek legal action  as this has caused me stress & anxiety along with tarnished my reputation among my colleagues. Thanks in advance!

Answer:
 Wait, are you suggesting that senior management evaluating you honestly is somehow actionable?  Nope, not even close.  They could shout it from the the roof tops, and you wouldn't have a basis for a legal action.

That said, go look for another job, because this isn't going to go away.


Title: [TX] Need quick help on employee leave when subpoenaed to court.

Question:
My husband has been subpoenaed to court as a witness. His employer has told him that he cannot take any paid leave on this day and that it only applies to jury duty, so he would have to use a sick day (which he has none left of). If he takes the day off without using a sick day he faces disciplinary action.

What are the laws on a situation like this?

Answer:
 They don't have to let you use sick or vacation to cover the time for pay. But they have to let you go to court without taking disciplinary action.

The relevant law, Texas Labor Code section 52.051 prohibits an employer from disciplining or penalizing an employee for going to court due to a subpoena.

The statute can be found here - http://www.statutes.legis.state.tx.us/Docs/LA/htm/LA.52.htm


Title: [TN, USA] Husband's ex-wife wants him to give up paternal rights so her new fiancee can adopt their daughter

Question:
My husband's divorce was nasty. She was a vile woman. Put him in enough debt to cost him his career. When they divorced, he gave her everything in the house (military housing, so no one got that). He showed up back home at the end of it all with his clothes and a TV. They have one daughter together.

The custody battle was nonexistent. They tried to work on it out of court but she wouldn't have any of it. Every other holiday and a month during the summer was "way too much time". So she took him to court for child support. He provided documentation showing that he had been paying her $1300 a month, plus given her the tax returns for that year. When she failed to provide any documentation from her side of things, the courts dismissed the case, but said she could come back after him at any point until the child was 18.

Various attempts to contact his daughter failed miserably. The ex was always listening over her shoulder or made her put the phone on speaker. Whenever she didn't like where the conversation was going, she would cut him off and end it. The final straw was when my husband emailed his ex, asking for his childhood Christmas ornaments. It led to a fight, and the final email (that we still have) states "do not contact us again and if you try to I WILL call the courts".

Now here were are. Per the email request my husband never tried to contact her again. And now his ex has messaged his mother, saying she didn't know how else to get a hold of him. Saying that
 since he never bothered to try and call or write or contact, her fiancee would like to adopt their daughter and that the daughter would like to take her "new daddy's" last name.

It's been four years since my husband has seen his daughter. She's now 10 years old. This would be an easy decision if we knew for sure she'd be better off. But my husband didn't walk away by choice. And we're not destitute. We both have jobs and a house and two cars and two other babies who I'm sure would like to have a big sister. We were just never able to afford the legal fees of a custody battle. Quite honestly I'm not sure we can even now.

What can we do? Does he have rights? Is it worth fighting?

Answer:
 He doesn't have to give up his parental rights.  It's really unlikely that the court would unilaterally terminate them.  If she tries, however, your husband would be granted a chance to challenge.  Answer #2: The courts aren't going to let a fiancée adopt.  They generally want to see a marriage that's lasted a few years.

If he doesn't want to lose his rights, he does need to go to court to get visitation established and actually make an effort to have a relationship with his child.  Otherwise, he will eventually lose his rights.


Title: Illegal eviction from commercial space, with violence involved

Question:
Oakland, CA. I really am asking for a friend, so I may not be able to provide all the details. But he'll be reading too. It's a complicated situation and  he'd appreciate any suggestions.

My friend, call him Doug, is the primary tenant of a commercial live/work warehouse space with a multi-year lease. (His name is the only one on the lease.) He rented space to several subtenants. Everyone was living there in their own rooms. Two of the subtenants got together and decided Doug had to go. They made him leave at gunpoint without any of his belongings. They also broke into his rooms while he was living there and robbed him.

Doug called the cops and got a restraining order against the one who actually held the gun (Jay), and went through the eviction process against both of them in court. Jay was evicted but the other one (Joe) was not. The case was dismissed because of improper service. Joe is still letting Jay live there too, and the police won't do anything about it.

The owner is aware of the situation and won't respond to Doug's messages. Meanwhile Doug is still on the lease and is on the hook for rent, but the subtenants won't let him into the building. The police won't help, saying it's a civil matter. They might let Doug back into the building but then he'd be forced out at gunpoint as soon as the police leave, so that's not really an option.

Legal aid and tenant's unions won't help since it's a commercial lease. Doug doesn't have money for a lawyer unless he can find one to work on contingency. He believes he can win significant damages from the owner for illegal eviction. But his primary concern is getting the space back, or if he can't do that, at least being able to retrieve his belongings and get out of the lease so that he is not liable for what happens in the future. What should his next steps be?

Answer:
 this is all kinds of wrong. if he's got an RO, the gun guy shouldn't be in the building even if he lives there.  Doug needs to re-serve the gun guy and also evict the other subletters. if he's prime tenant, he should be able to do all of this.

Doug can get damages against the subletters. not the owner. this isn't owner's problem.  Doug needs to do a prime tenant eviction against all the people he doesn't like and then choose better subtenants in the future.


Title: 3Day Suspension in highschool

Question:
( California )
Yesterday security in my high school pulled me out of my 3rd period class, i was walked to the office, and lead into the assistant principles office. I was questioned about marijuana, and about using, selling, and distribution of it. While he started to ask questions, i asked him i have a right to have a teacher or a parent here, and he said no. There was already a security guard there, but i wanted someone that was on my side, not the other side.
So i told him that im legally allowed to have a parent here since im a minor, and he said since it was an ongoing invenstigation and that i couldnt have a parent here. So i said i was gonna answer any questions till my mom got here. They asked me to fill a incident report, i wrote on it that i was denied the right to have a parent or teacher present, and that i don't remember anything about the questions there were asking me. I was walked to a room that was empty and told to wait till they came to get me. When they came back about 20 minutes later, they took me to the same room, and the vice principle started saying that they had strong " evidence " that i was seen giving a piece of a chocolate edible to a girl, and crossing the street the day before purchasing the edible.
They searched me and found nothing at all, and i asked them if they had evidence of my giving her or buying anything, and they didnt answer any of my questions.
When my mom was on the phone she was furious, and start to argue with the assistant principle about who was the person that said this, and what happened, but the principle just said that it was confidential.
But they just suspended me for 3 days, and i found out that the girls mom was the one that told the school about it, and she and her friends told them it was all our doings.
But the girl consumed drugs on school property, and she can be suspended too. Can she?
My main question is: is it legal for the assistance principle to question you, and deny you the right of having a teacher or parent present?

My freshmen year teacher told me that if i ever got in trouble to ask them to have her come in, and that it was illegal to question a minor without some sort of guardian there for them.

Answer:
 >is it legal for the assistance principle to question you, and deny you the right of having a teacher or parent present?

Yes. However, they can't force you to answer.


Title: Not getting paid for food delivery in [AL]

Question:
I live in a small town. Some friends of mine (a married couple) started a food delivery business in which they've contracted with some restaurants in town, take to-go orders, and dispatch a driver to pick up and deliver the food. I'm a driver for them and have been since opening day. All drivers are 1099 workers. We will be paid via check every two weeks. First check is due this Friday.

The company charges a delivery fee to the customer, and customers have the option to leave a tip for the driver. The driver is then paid 50% of the delivery fee and 100% of tips. The business just started up, and has been slowly growing. We went from 1-5 orders per day to ~15-20! This is great, but the owners have done a lot of promotions to get there. One of those promotions is "FREE delivery!" or "Half off your delivery fee!" As a driver I'm a little salty about this obviously because free delivery means I ONLY make tips on that delivery, and if the customer doesn't tip I get nothing. The smallest delivery fee is $2.99, so when they run the promo for half off delivery fees, I only get paid $0.75 for that delivery, plus tip if there is one. These people are my friends and I'm not very comfortable with confrontation, but I really feel like this isn't right. So far I've had 6 orders that did not leave a tip AND got free or reduced delivery. One of the deliveries I did for free was over 9 miles away from the restaurant.

I've been keeping a spreadsheet of every order I do, with formulas to calculate how much I should have on my check. I have the date, restaurant, delivery fee, a column for subtracting the delivery fee if the customer got it free/reduced, tip amount, and customer name. For one calculation, I add all delivery fees, subtract all coupons, and divide that in half. I then add tips and that is the amount I should have on my check. I have another column that adds all delivery fees, ignores coupons, divides them in half, then adds tips. This is amount is higher than the amount I WILL get, by over $150.

Is what they're doing wrong, in terms of those free deliveries with no tip, at least? It is a 1099 job after all, but I don't have the freedom to turn down an order that pays $0. I get what is assigned to me or I'm sent home. I feel cheated on some of these orders, but then some of the good tippers make up for it. I'm so conflicted.

Answer:
 It sounds like the 1099 designation may not be right. If you can't control your hours or your pay, then you may be misclassified.Answer #2: Unless you have a contract stating that you will be paid the delivery fee in full regardless of it is actually paid by the customer, I don't see any issues, especially since it isn't contingent on them to ensure that you are being additionally tipped by your customers.

Just a note, this is a business model that will not work unless it is at scale.  If they want to keep this going, they will keep doing these promotions and you will keep being severely underpaid.Answer #3: It's a W-2 job that's been intentionally misclassified as an 1099 job. In addition to anything else, you'll want to talk to an attorney to see if you can't make a mass FLSA claim.


Title: [Eastern US] Wife may have done a bit of fraud not thinking about it...

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 If Walmart had not thought it was an exchangeable item, they would not have exchanged it for her...they turn down people ALL THE TIME when the return does not meet their criteria.
The only reason they take down all that info is to keep a trail of serial returners who continually return or exchange items without a receipt.

And by serial I mean, enough that the customer service agents notice and take note of the same person, day after day, "returning" stuff that is obviously shoplifted.
When that happens, they quit accepting returns from that person and that is all that they do.

Your wife didn't break any laws, or defraud anyone.


Title: Work called the cops on me for eating pineapple.

Question:
Hi everyone, I'm 18 and live in Quebec in Canada. I work part time for a grocery story in the fruits and vegetables and today they called me to the human resources room and said that there had been video from hidden cameras that I had been eating some products without paying. I admitted that I did sometimes take a piece of pineapple or a couple grapes if I was really hungry and didn't have time for a break. They estimated that each time I might have taken 1-2 dollars worth of food and said that since I admitted to doing it for 5 months maybe once or twice a week, that I had taken a total of $140 so they suspended me and call the cops.

I understand that what I did was against the law, but I just came here to ask if anyone here knows the chances of me getting a criminal record. I've been stopped by the police once before when I was 17 because I had some weed on me, but I didn't get a record or anything because I was a minor so I took a drug class instead. Thanks a lot for the advice everyone!

Answer: "Work called the cops on me for stealing their goods"


Title: Sexual harassment, Doctor and Nurse

Question: My wife has worked at a hospital for 7 years. There is a doctor that is known to be sexually explicit and hook up with nurses. He has said sexually explicit things such as I would love to see you come, and comments on her tits etc. Well recently it has gotten worse with him grabbing her ass today and another nurse saw it. She reported it to her director and nothing happened as it it well known what he does. She is thinking about filing an incident report, but what else should we do? Thanks

Answer: If she reported it to a superior or to HR, and the behavior didn’t stop, then she should speak with an employment attorney. She could also speak with the state labor board or the EEOC.


Title: [MA] I'm wondering what my mother did would legally be considered.

Question:
Hello. Last December, my mother scratched me with her nails, hit me several times with her hands, a broomstick, a carpenter's flashlight, and finally I "fought back" by grabbing the sledgehammer before she had a chance to use that. She considers this biblical discipline, but I'm pretty sure this would be considered something else under United States / Massachusetts law, and I've come to you for an answer.

**What would her actions be legally considered?** I'm not looking to charge her with anything, I would just like to know what this is called besides "disciplining my child."

The injuries were a large bruise running up my forearm from blocking the flashlight, scratches on my chest, hand, and leg, and a contusion on the underside of my forearm from where she dug into my arm with her nails to make me let go of the sledgehammer.

I think that this post might get some responses like "Why didn't you call the cops?" My mother receives housing assistance, and any police calls would result in the assistance being revoked, making my mother, brother, and I homeless. Not that the assistance really mattered financially to her, as she was only making $200/mo tops over the table, and I was making $2K.

Another reason is because she can't be more than 5'5" and 110lbs (165cm and 50kg), and I'm over 6' and weigh a lot more than her (186+ cm and 130+ kg.) Any police response would be a joke with the size difference, and she could easily claim self defense like she did when I stopped her from swinging the sledgehammer with her claims of ~"let go of me", and ~"stop hurting me."

**The Backstory** or *Just what exactly did you do to elicit this response from your mother*

My mother is type of person who thinks the Bible trumps worldly law. When my brothers and I were younger, she'd say things like she should have beaten us black and blue / to a pulp at the start of school vacations in order to get us to behave, and so we would healed by the time we got back to school so DSS wouldn't take us from her.

One Sunday morning last December I made sure to get up extra early to do laundry and hang it out to dry so clothes would be ready in time for church at 11am. They were not, and I refused to go wearing cold wet clothes. My mother ended up making me go in a bathrobe, but I refused to attend service in a bathrobe and just stayed in the car. Either before we left late for church, or after we returned home from church, I've forgotten over the last nearly 8 months, was when my mother physically disciplined me.

That is literally it. I messed up her plans for churchgoing that day.

**Note:** I am over the age of majority (over 18.)

Answer:
 Leviticus is not the law of the land.

As u/citizenva says, it's [assault and battery](https://malegislature.gov/laws/generallaws/partiv/titlei/chapter265/section13a). While I'm no fan of the cops, your beliefs about the police are probably wrong: your mother attacked you with a weapon, which the police tend to take fairly seriously regardless of how big and manly you are. You could still report it to the police, if you're so inclined. It's "nice" that you're willing to shield her from the consequences of her actions, but - both morally and legally - she bears the weight of responsibility.

_You did not do anything to elicit this response_. Striking you, and striking you with a weapon, is something your mother chose to do, not something you caused. If your model of your mother's behaviour involves figuring out what "you did" to cause it, _please_ see a counsellor: you're showing the classic signs of a victim of serious abuse by normalizing and excusing your abuser's behaviour. Your mother did not hit you because you made a mistake. Your mother hit you because she wanted to hit you.

If you're making two grand a month, you can absolutely find somewhere safer to live - even if you have to live with roommates. Most people don't hit.


Title: I think my mom might try to sue me to pay for the Parent Plus Loans she took for my undergrad. Does she have a case?

Question:
(PA) Background: My mom has about $20k in debt from Parent Plus Loans (PPL from now on) that she took which paid for a couple years of my undergraduate degree. I'm now in graduate school and have my own debt that's piling up that I'll need to take care of when I get a job.

She's been asking me about the PPL more and more frequently because she gets monthly statements about them. We haven't had the best relationship and I'm trying to focus on finishing school and figuring out my own debts so I've been pretty dismissive about it.

If it comes to the point where she tries to sure me to pay the PPL, does she have a case against me? My understanding is that the loan is in her name and can't be transferred to me, but I'm not sure how accurate that is.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: Did you agree to pay this loan?Answer #2: Did you agree to pay them? Can she prove it? It's highly unlikely she would ever win. When you take out a PPL it's very clear that the parent is responsible.


Title: [OR] Do I need a lawyer to deal with daycare and what kind?

Question:
I recently withdrew my 3 children from a daycare without providing 30 days notice. Between talking with my kids, other parents and former employees, I thought that the daycare was providing any extremely negative environment. I'm not talking about abuse or anything, but more mild stuff like yelling at and demeaning kids. They sent me to collections over the 30 days.

The only place that the 30 days notice was documented was the parents handbook, which I signed. However, I believe they violated many of the parts of the same handbook about how they would treat and discipline children. The only documented evidence I have of this is from the former employee.

Do I have any hope of fighting this on those grounds? Is it worth go up against a collection agency? The amount is about $2,500. I have no idea how much a lawyer would cost, but is that amount too small for it to be cost effective to hire one? Finally, if a lawyer is a good idea, what kind should I get? I can't find any lawyer that mentions daycare except personal injury lawyers. All lawyers that mention kids at all are basically family law/custody, which also doesn't seem right. Thanks for any help!

edit: OR is Oregon bot.

Answer: If your contract requires 30 days notice, and you didn't give 30 days notice, you owe them for that 30 days.  They'll take you to court, and you will lose.


Title: VA - Child Support, Army Bootcamp, Family Affairs and more.

Question:
I'm being taken to court by my mom, who has custody of my child, for enforcement of child support and medical insurance. No, the dad isn't around. The problem is, that I'm set to leave for army boot camp in a week and I don't want this to interfere with that, as i feel like im finally getting my life straight. They're asking to verify my income with tax statements, pay records and any other documents, but the problem is that I've been working at a gentlemans club since January and all of that money has been all "under the table". I havent maintained any sort of records for how much i made per night either.

I'm really not sure what to expect from this and I don't want to be placed on a state work order which will prevent me from going to boot camp. What can I expect from this and what can I do to prepare for the meeting on Wednesday?

Overall, my goal has been to fight for custody but it seems like theres always an obstacle. I was starting to feel like everything was going right by joining the army, get my life back together, and then fight for custody of my son and then this happens... any help would be appreciated

Answer:
 When you are dealing with custody and support you should always get a lawyer.

As a side note, not recording that income, and not paying tax on it is a big issue. If they are paying you in cash you need to keep track of the money you are paid (tips as well) and report that as income on your taxes.


Title: My boyfriend won’t delete my nudes

Question:
Hello

*please, I want serious answers. No “well you shouldn’t have given him nudes then” I don’t need a lecture right now.*

I want to leave a relationship but I feel like I’m being tied down. I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, I trusted him with all my heart until I found an ugly truth side of him. He’s pathological liar and very twisted with the things he does to other people.
(Also to note, we’ve been in a LDR for a year ands half now. I’m in Europe and he in America, Florida)
I honestly do not mind sending nudes because I like turning my partner on. Most of my exes are respectable enough to delete them afterwards or that they really are a good person to not share them.
Not this guy.

I am actually very scared right now and don’t want to break up with him or else I’ll be on his bad side. He goes on shady websites and he has no remorse on the things he’s done behind my back.

I asked him to delete it many times but he would lie that he did but he actually saved them into a USB.

Is there any way for him to delete it according to law? Is there such thing?

Also when we were doing cyber sex, he recorded it without me knowing and only caught him in the last minute when he reached out on his keyboard to stop recording. Can I use this against him? I don’t have evidence though that I did not give him my consent.

Thanks for your help!

Answer:
 He has no legal obligation to delete photographs you voluntarily sent him.  If he distributes the photographs then he might be responsible under revenge porn laws, but that's different.Answer #2: How old are you?

There is no way for you to force him to delete the images.

And even if there were, he'd certainly have been able to make a copy by now, right?  You'd never be able to be 100% sure that he really did delete them.


Title: Got beat up, accused of break-in

Question:
So two weeks ago I was walking home from a party drunk when I had a few beer muscles and ended up getting in a street fight. Literally a street fight, I woke up after being knocked out in the middle of the street and now the guy that kicked my ass is saying that I broke into his girlfriends house that was conveniently close to where the fight was, but not super close. I was still about 100 yards away from that apartment and I know for a fact I never went there at all. But now I’m sitting in a position where I’m outnumbered and drowning in medical bills. I’ve contacted the police already I’d just like to see what you guys have to say about this. Thanks in advance.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
As far as I can tell, your question is:

> I’d just like to see what you guys have to say about this.

All I have to say is that I'm sorry about your medical situation and hope you recover soon, and that you have been accused of serious crimes (the break-in), so you should stop speaking about the event to anyone (**ESPECIALLY POLICE!!**) unless you are charged with a crime. If that happens you should get yourself a criminal defense lawyer and speak with them.