Title: WA - My wife is pregnant and her company is closing 1 month before her due date, is she able to get short term disability and unemployment at the same time?

Question:
So my wife's short term disability allows her to start a month before the due date. The last day her location is open is June 1st, and the due date is June 30th. Is it possible/legal to receive both at the same time? Is one choice better to take? I'm not sure if this sub or /r/personalfinance is the right location, but any suggestions would be appreciated.
Topic:
Healthcare Law including HIPAA

Answer:
 No.  To get unemployment "You must be physically able to work, available for work, and actively seeking suitable work."  If you're on disability, then you're 0-for-3.

As for which is a better option?  That depends on which you qualify for, when, and how much of a benefit you'd get.  It depends on your income and length of work, so there's no set in stone answer of one being better than the other.


Title: [TN] Help! Pain clinic is requiring patients to be observed by staff member while giving urine sample for drug screen, invading privacy without probable cause, resulting in profound humiliation.

Question:
As the title explains, a pain clinic I'm about to become a patient of (unless I can find a different one, which is unlikely), expects patients to provide a urine sample during each visit (which is reasonable), but they require the patient to be observed by a staff member while urinating into the cup.

Their reason is that this helps them avoid seeing drug-seeking individuals at their clinic, which is a legitimate concern these days.  But do they actually have the right to cause non-drug-seeking patients like me to experience the profound humiliation such a practice will surely result in when they have NO probable cause to suspect me?  (And by the way, I've been taking drug screens for 15 years without any problem; you'd think my history would count for something but noooooo.  When making the appointment and being informed of this policy, I even offered to give them a hair sample in lieu of being subject to this embarrassment, but my offer was rejected.  If they were REALLY interested in avoiding problem patients, they'd do hair analyses occasionally to know for SURE if a patient has been consuming any illegal drugs.  Also, a urinalysis only tells them if a patient has consumed an illegal drug in the past three days or so because most drugs get flushed out of a patient's system fairly quickly.  In fact, a smart patient who consumes illegal drugs could EASILY game the system by doing their drugs throughout the month and only avoiding usage for, say, five days before their next clinic visit.)

If I object to this practice, the clinic will reject me as a new patient and just tell me to go somewhere else, which I would LOVE to be able to do.  However, I've contacted probably 50 clinics and private practices in the area and keep hearing that they're not taking any new pain patients at all or, if they are, they're not taking patients without insurance (which I don't have anymore).

What do?  If I thought there was another clinic out there that would take me, and if I thought I could stand to go through with this (I'm a southern lady and VERY modest), I'd love to find an a law firm willing to bring a class action lawsuit against this place, but I don't know if I'd have a colorable claim.  I also have no reason to think I'll be able to find another clinic in the area because physicians have become terrified of their potential liability *vis-a-vis* drug seeking individuals.

Thoughts and recommendations GREATLY appreciated!

Answer:
 > do they actually have the right to cause non-drug-seeking patients like me to experience the profound humiliation such a practice will surely result in when they have NO probable cause to suspect me?

Yes.

Answer #2: 1.Hair analysis is expensive

This is standard practice, i get drug tested too.

They dont stand there stairing at you, they just make aure you have no apparatus to decant fake samples with.Answer #3: They're not under any obligation to accommodate you simply because you would feel embarrassed.  They don't need "probable cause"  because you're volunteering in exchange for treatment.

For what it's worth, the standard procedure for most urine tests is to simply have a staff member in the room with you.Answer #4: Your legal question has been answered, so let me assure you that the person watching doesn't want to be there either. I've been both a tester and testee, and this is a purely clinical observation in a clinical setting. The person watching sees a dozen vaginas and penises a day, and couldn't care less about yours.

I spent ten years working in the ED as a tech, and part of my job was inserting foley catheters. I've seen more penises than OP's Mom. It's just a body part, not much different than a hand or a nose.

Edit: You're your... Answer #5: They are not only testing for illegal substances. They are testing to make sure that YOU are taking the medication in the proper dosage and not taking more than prescribed or selling them on the street, both of which scenarios require continuous monitoring.


Title: How far across the border can the police legally chase someone?

Question: At the end of the movie Blue Streak, the cops discover that Martin Lawrence's character is a criminal they are looking for, but let him go because they've taken a liking to him. Their official excuse is that since he crossed the border, he's in Federale territory and out of their jurisdiction. One cop goes for a hug, but "can't" cross the border, despite them being [3 inches apart](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLVYMsZqa9Y&t=39). In real life, how far across the border CAN the cops chase someone? Is there a specified distance?

Answer:
 US cops have no authority in Mexico, at all.

So they cannot arrest someone who is one inch inside the Mexican border.  The Mexican authorities would have to arrest the suspect on the request of the US and then be extradited back after that.


Title: [Oklahoma] closed on a house and found mold throughout that was not disclosed.

Question:
I recently closed on a house and started pulling up the carpet and baseboards in the two bedrooms with the intent of installing hard wood floors. I found extensive mold all throughout the rooms. I feel this was not truthfully disclosed and I’m certain the sellers knew about the damage because they had recently updated the bathrooms and replaced all the baseboards in the house.

At the time of the inspection the inspector found nothing, but they aren’t allowed to move furniture or personal belongings around and I believe the seller and listing agent staged the rooms to conceal the water damage.

I’ve since hired a mold inspector to come out to gage the extent of the issue and he is of the opinion that there is just no way that this was not a known issue.

My question is how do I move forward? Do I have any legal recourse? They didn’t disclose this information in any of our documents. I specifically had my relator ask the sellers if there were any mold issues (among other things) with the house because have a compromised immune system and mold exposure just isn’t safe for anyone.

Answer: Talk to the real estate agent you used to close this deal; you'll absolutely need a lawyer to pursue this meaningfully.  Too much money at stake here and the burden of proof is going to be high.


Title: 1099 sales rep working 60 hours weeks - what are my options? Upstate New York

Question:
TL:DR on top - I am working in a medium sized company as a sales representative. I am paid via 1099. I am required to be at the office 8am every day (except Saturday) and stay until 7pm, need to send a daily sales report, I get deducted in $$ for missing out on hours of work, or not following many arbitrary rules that the company comes up with daily. I have zero employees benefits. What are my options?

A bit of a back story - I am an immigrant to US, been here for 3 years now. I worked as a helper in the service part of the company, and I got offered to work in the sales department at some point, and been here for more than 2 years now. The money I make is purely commission based. While I am to be referred to as a sales representative, I am also required to do a lot of additional work such as dealing and managing the actual service I have sold to the customers - this is considered to be "part of the job", and for example if a customer has some issue with the service performed I need to make sure they do not post bad Yelp reviews or BBB report in order to get paid commission (even if they explicitly state that "sales rep was amazing, but the service sucked" kind of thing).

I have not quit my job, I am still at the place. The owner had everyone transfer to 1099 to avoid paying any taxes I suppose, even the front desk person is not on W2; while doing this, he also had everyone sign a contract that is very biased and working in his favor. Main point of the contract was that we are waiving class action and accepting 3rd party arbitration no matter what. This is a contract between my LLC as a contractor and the company. As an immigrant, I was not choosy and had the idea that working hard and no complaining is how to go about it, but now I am drained out after 2 years of 60+ hour weeks, and I will be leaving the place anyway since I do have a skill set I can use to earn a living. The reason I am considering my options in court is the fact that the commission I make is paid out to me on monthly basis, but one month behind - basically keeping me in check as I will potentially lose this money since the "jobs are not closed yet".

Answer: It sounds like you are being [misclassified as an independent contractor](https://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs13.htm).  You can file a complaint with the DOL.


Title: (NY) I Interviewed for a new job, and like an idiot I said they can contact my current employer. I suspect my current employer may have said that I'm not employed there. Is this legal?

Question: My suspicions were because I thought I was a shoe in for this job I interviewed for, but didn't get. A week later I called nys child support processing center because my employer wasn't taking the correct amount out of my check, and he made the remark that when they called to verify employment my employer said I didn't work here. He gave me the correct address and phone number.

Answer: If they refuse to verify your employment, explain the situation to the new job and offer to provide proof of employment (paychecks). That will at least show that you're not misleading them and that they other employer is not to be trusted.


Title: The dealership messed up my girlfriends car and they won't take any blame for it. Idk what we can do in this situation Any advice would be appreciated..

Question: My girlfriend took her car to the dealership to get an oil chance and it turns out that they never put oil in it and she drove the car without any oil until it stopped working completely. The dealership checked it out and they aren't taking any blame for it and they are trying to get her to buy a new car since the car is completely done. What can we do in this situation because we can't afford to get a new car and it was their fault.

Answer: If they charged your girlfriend for work they did not do, she was defrauded. Talk to a lawyer.


Title: somebody hit me on my moto, now I have a broken knee. Do I need to lawyer up?

Question:
I was hit by a car on the freeway, it was completely the drivers fault.  I was in the right lane of a 2 lane freeway and the guy next to me just suddenly veered over into my space and knocked me off the bike.  He has admitted guilt and there are witness accounts.  He has some shitty insurance that I can only imagine is bare minimum for California.  I have already incurred about $20k in medcare fees and more to come.

I have a broken miniscus in my knee, cant walk for 6 weeks, can't fulfill all my duties at work, and I'm running out of money pretty fast.

So am I better off hiring an attorney or should I just negotiate on my own?  My concern is that there is a small amount of settlement to work with and an attorney would end up costing more than going it alone.  I looked up the driver who hit me and he lives in a shitty apartment on the dirty side of town, drives a 1997 nissan pathfinder.  I'm in California

Answer:
 You'll want to go through your own insurance for this to get your costs covered in the short-term.  Your insurance will go after the other party through whatever means necessary to get back their money.

If your insurance doesn't cover you for this, you'll have to sue him in civil court for the amount you are owed.  I can guarantee this guy doesn't have $20k sitting around, so it is a very real outcome that you aren't going to collect anything.


Title: Roommate forcing me to live with her

Question:
I reside in Phoenix, AZ and am currently in a situation with a roommate. She and I just moved into an apartment June 1st and a month in things went south. She has continuously accused me of very petty things such as living like a "dirty bitch", neglecting my daughter, disrespecting her belongings and using all her stuff. None of which is true and yet she is threatening me on a regular basis that she is going to take me to court for these things and she claims to have proof of all of this. She has also tried causing problems with my relationship by implying my boyfriend has made advances toward her, which I know is not true. She has publicly aired my dirty laundry online for all my FB friends to see and constantly makes comments attacking me personally in regards to my relationship, how I live, and my parenting (i.e. calling me a shitty mother). Just recently it got so bad we got in each others' faces and were screaming at each other after I heard her in the kitchen snapchatting, making statements like, "Is this bitch f*cking retarded!?"

I have spoken to the management office stating I needed out of my lease and they claim they can't get involved and there is nothing that can be done. She has to sign off on breaking the lease which she is refusing to do and they don't do subleases, so I can't find anyone to take over my half of the lease. Even if I could she has stated she will not help me find anyone even though she is making all these stipulations on where I am allowed to find a replacement, how old they can be, sex, etc. I also suggested her transferring to a one bedroom and she is flat out refusing every idea I throw out there. I am literally being forced to live with this woman who constantly threatens to take me to court, to call CPS on me, tells me I am not allowed to use any household items because they are hers (we discussed upon moving in that she had all items to furnish a house and that I wouldn't need anything except stuff for my room). Any time I throw my trash away she pulls it all out and puts it on the counter because it is her trash can and then accuses me of leaving trash laying around.

I will admit to trying to defend myself and talk back to her the way she speaks to me, however she uses very personal things against me that do not settle well with me. Her intention is to obviously throw things in my face that she thinks will hurt me.

I am at a loss and have no idea where to go from here. I feel I have exhausted all options and no one can help me. Is there anything I can do to get myself and my daughter out of this situation?

Answer:
 Her threats to sue you are hollow. You know how I know? Because there are no recognizable damages to recover, and she's not going to get an injunction ordering you to stop using the trash can in the common space, even if it is her trash can.

Knowing that these threats are hollow may help. I hope.


Title: Worked 5 weeks for a shady company, haven't been paid

Question:
Forgot to say I'm in North Carolina. Sorry!

So, I've worked for a valet company for five weeks and haven't gotten a check. I should've been paid on Aug 5th and Aug 19th and I haven't gotten anything. I don't really even know where to start.. I called the Dept of Labor for my state (in the US) and I was told that I needed the amount I'm owed from the company which the company knows and I don't. I don't know how to find out.

Answer: You're off to a right start. Calculate the hours you worked for the days, ball park it to the best of your abilities. Let your state Department of Labor know you haven't been paid in 5 weeks. They'll get on top of it for sure. If for whatever reason they don't you can always go the small claims court route for unpaid wages.


Title: Why are their so many layers to the US law enforcement system? [Serious]

Question:
Here in Australia, you have the Australian Federal Police and each of the states have a Police Force, so Victoria Police, Queensland Police, etc. Each State also has a Department of Justice to deal with courts, civil compliance, etc. In America it seems you have a magnitude of law enforcement, FBI, Marshals office, DEA, state police, sheriffs, highway patrol, and then each of your cities seems to have its own police force. Why don't you just have the FBI to deal with your federal stuff, drug imports, terrorism, etc, and then state police to deal with local law enforcement.
Why so many layers?

Answer:
 It's actually not as many layers as it seems.  There are really only 4: Federal, State, County, City.  And not all areas are subject to all 4.

At the federal level, each of the divisions is on equal footing and all fall under the umbrella of the US Department of Justice.  They just handle different areas of laws to enforce.

Below the federal level, states each have the authority to operate their own police.  They can also choose to authorize smaller subdivisions (City & County) to operate a police division.  They all have, at this point, but the existence of local police is predicated on the state allowing them to have it.  How that authority is used varies by state, but most have granted the bulk of law enforcement authority to local-level police and use state police only to handle activities which take place in unincorporated areas, on highways, and which cross jurisdictional lines.

Local (City & County) cops handle the rest.  They're who take care of the vast majority of criminal law enforcement in the US.  The general rule is that if a crime happens in a locality, the local police will handle it unless it falls into an exception that moves it to a higher level of jurisdiction.


Title: Can my employer force me to use direct deposit? (Connecticut)

Question:
I work part time in Connecticut. Id rather wait until I'm out of school working full time before giving out my bank information to a third party. My employer is annoyed that I'm still getting paid with a physical check. Can they legally force me to use direct deposit or fire me if I don't?
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 > Can they legally force me to use direct deposit

Nope!

> or fire me if I don't?

Yep!

*Everyone* you write a check to has the exact same info you're giving to your employer, as /u/expatinpa notes.
Answer #2: Nope. But they also don't have to keep you employed.

Your bank account info is generally safe to give out for deposits. There is little else they can do with the info


Title: can I sue amazon for not delivering a package by the time they said they will?

Answer:
 Based on your responses you need a therapist, not a laptop.Answer #2: Yes, you can sue them.

No, you will not win.


Title: My sister and her abusive husband do not let my teenage nephew out of the house besides school except to work at a job, if he gives all his pay to them. They claim to be saving it for college, but my sister admitted to me, they are not. Is this legal? OK

Question: Oklahoma

Answer: Your nephew might benefit from a call to CPS.Answer #2: Sorry, something I've always wondered about like in this teen's situation. Why is it legal that teenagers who earn money at part time jobs could have that money taken away by their parents and nothing happens? Why don't these teens have a right to their own paychecks even if the parents demand it?Answer #3: Legal.


Title: Realtive fired from job for having cancer, legal recourse? (Maryland)

Question:
Location: Maryland

A relative of mine was fired on Friday May 1, 2015 after a 6 month convalescence during their battle with cancer. They are still recieving treatment and very much fighting for their life. Their health insurance has of course been terminated, effective the day of termination.

My question is do they have any legal options to wit, the American's With Disabilites Act or similar legislature?

I am aware Maryland is an 'at-will' state but there are protections provided that ensure discrimination against disability is unlawful.

Answer: They have exhausted their FMLA. The company has no obligation to keep them employed after that. ADA covers them if they are working and need reasonable accommodations. But does not force employers to extend FMLA benefits


Title: Cat kicked to death; call police?

Question:
Hello legaladvice.

Last Wednesday, my cat came home, lay down and died from internal bleeding.  A little over a week later, the pathology report indicates he was most likely kicked or struck with a swung object from behind (swung like a golf club); the injury isn't really consistent with anything else that would happen to a cat.

I've spoken to some of my neighbors asking if there were any noises or suspicious characters that night, and waiting for others to get back to me.  Kicking myself for not making the rounds earlier, but I was beside myself with grief.

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The landlord is reviewing security footage of the complex, haven't heard back yet.

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My question is simply, should I involve police as soon as possible, with the necropsy/pathology and timeframe as my only evidence, or should I wait until a figure is identified on the security cameras or I hear something from the neighbors?  I know in some situations you want a police report ASAP but this doesn't seem strong enough yet.

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Honestly I don't expect any sort of resolution, but I don't want to have to say that I didn't try.

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Thank you.

Answer:
 You can file a police report now and update it later if you find anything out.  If the police already have reports of other altercations that night, your report could be helpful.

I'm terribly sorry you lost your cat due to some asshole beating it.  :/Answer #2: Yes.  File a police report.  I know in my general vicinity, there was a recent spree of serial cat killings.  No joke.  Real nasty stuff.  This might be part of a pattern that can help the police figure out who is doing it.  Or they may have already arrested a suspect for a similar crime.


Title: [CA,ON, King City] Can I tell the animal services officer to piss off politely?

Question:
Context:
 We moved into our new house in the month of august, our younger dog was a bit scared, so she was barking every now and then, one neighbour drove over to ask what was up with her, asked us if we could keep it down. I apologized and respected the man for coming over to ask face to face. However our neighbour's little dogs kept yapping all the time and I believe another neighbour called animal services, the officer came to our house as we were the ones who just moved in, oddly enough she never walked over to the neighbour whose dogs were constantly barking even after we expressed our concerns.
 Prior to the officer coming out to us our younger dog had no dog house (we were planning to build one closer to winter because we arent fucking barbarians and we take care of our animals) since it was still pretty warm for a german shepherd (she has a good undercoat). The other dog we have is an older dog, he currently sleeps in a large dog carrier that he has, hes got tapaulin and blankets to keep him warm and cover the entrance (we will be making him a doghouse soon too), hes got a bit more of a harsh collar than the younger dog because hes a bit more aggressive.

Last week the officer came around again and told us to make a doghouse for the older dog, get the older dog a less harsh leash and give them both 5m of leash instead of the 1m they have currently. This visit was unprompted by anything and (back to the start of the context) our dogs do not bark much if at all anymore since the 2nd week we moved in (we do our best to be respectable to our neighbours and keep the noise down).

Question:
Can I tell the officer that she is no longer welcome on our property, and to threaten trespassing charges if she ever comes on our property? Because its pretty annoying that somebody is telling me how to treat my animals when I'm a decent human being and know very well what I can and cant do.
Is there any way I can avoid any possible legal action from the officer/town while still making sure that the officer is unable to come onto my property?
There is no reason the dogs to need 5m of leash when they are walked/played with everyday for half an hour to an hour and have lots of room on our large property to run around, the younger dog is more likely to hurt herself by tying the 5m of leash around one of the nearby porch posts because shes that silly sometimes.

EDIT: Canada, Ontario, King City.

EDIT 2: So is there anyway I can decline to meet some of her demands without getting into legal trouble? Mostly its the 5m of leash that bother me really, the dogs do not need that much leash. I would also like to point out that I would potentially bring up the facts that a) neither dog is emaciated, far from it b) neither is distressed or unhappy and c) both have decent living conditions.

EDIT 3: Ive been informed that I cannot decide to decline even some of their demands and must comply, I also do not have the authority to lay trespassing charges, thank you all for your time and help.

Answer:
 Sure you can tell her that and since that establishes you aren't going to cooperate she will come back with an order to seize your animals and paperwork regarding whatever fines you will need to pay.

From a quick google you are breaking multiple city ordinances at minimum.


Title: NYPD said lying to police was not a crime

Question:
There's a paragraph in this article that just doesn't make any sense to me. Lying to the police IS a crime, right?

From this article: https://www.propublica.org/article/treated-like-trash

Paragraph in question:
>The New York Police Department said lying to the police was not a crime.[...]The police, a spokesman said, had no authority to investigate the operations of a private sanitation company.

Answer:
 Lying to police is not a crime though your statements can be used against you during an investigation.

Lying under oath is a crime.  Answer #2: Lying to federal agents is illegal (18 USC 1001) but it doesn't apply to local officers like NYPD. Answer #3: >Lying to the police IS a crime, right?

Nope.  Lying to the **federal government** within the scope of a federal criminal investigation is a crime, per [18 U.S.C. § 1001](https://codes.findlaw.com/us/title-18-crimes-and-criminal-procedure/18-usc-sect-1001.html).

There's not a similar law for state or local police.


Title: Advice on court appearance

Question:
I was stopped in Central Illinois by a state trooper, and long story short, he confiscated 6 grams of cannabis and two cartridges: one empty and one full of cannabis oil. He let me go and said he would mail me the tickets since I only had an amount for a civil offense. He luckily counted the oil as just paraohernalia or else it would have been a greater offense.

So I was mailed to tickets: one for possession of under 10 grams, and one for paraohernalia (even though the oil was more than just that.) Both civil offenses, but both have mandatory court appearance. I plan on pleading guilty and just paying the fines and moving on. My question is, do I need to lawyer up? Will there be any additional surprises when I get to court? I worry the judge could increase the charge for whatever reason. Or am I just going to show up and pay the tickets?

Answer: Yes. Get a lawyer.


Title: Got SCAMMED $100,000 in India

Question:
Hi all, I bought a new apartment which is a built to order (BTO) apartments in India couple of years back. It was a big apartment project around 300 houses built by a private company and it was supposed to be ready by 2015. This company had built few apartments previously, before starting us.

I paid around $100,000 for the house so far which is quite huge money in Indian rupees around 6 million. For the last 8 months there are no work have been done. Companies offices are closed and founders are no where to be found except one of them living here in US. They probably have collected to the tune of $20 million from all the houses and they have spent have half of it in few buildings of the planned construction.

We have formed the house owners association in the recent months comprising of people who bought the house in that apartment like us. We have filed up a case with the local police and covered in few local newspaper about our situation.

It's been really hurting us financially and psychologically for many of us.
Meanwhile I borrowed 50 percent of the money as a loan, for which I am paying interest for the house that I never got so far.

I really don't know how should I proceed with it. What are our options here?

Answer: you need to get a lawyer in india.  no one can help you here.


Title: [CA] Should I contest/appeal an attorney's fee order in a family law case?

Question:
Long story short, I've already spent over $300k attempting to defend myself against a move away case involving our then 5 year old daughter, leaving me over $100k in debt. Lost the move away and am now facing a crushing decision on attorney's fees.

The hearing on attorney's fees was delayed for months after the trial and because of my financial situation I could no longer afford a lawyer and had to represent myself. The judge was new and had never presided over our case. He ordered me to pay $71,000 of mother's legal fees (on top of a previous award of $22,500) at $1000/month for the next 6 years. The total award is nearly 90% of mother's trial costs.

I didn't understand his calculation and he didn't seem to take into account any factors besides what we both paid to attorneys. For example, I was already over $100k in debt at the time of the hearing, but when I brought this up, the judge kept telling me that I can't go into debt to avoid paying legal fees (which didn't make any sense to me because I went into debt to pay my own legal fees). My salary had decreased 33% since the last award of fees. Mother's costs have decreased substantially after the move as she is now living with her mother rent free and my costs have increased because of the travel costs involved in my visitation. Mother has also refused to pursue full time work since we separated.

The judge did issue a Gavron warning at the hearing (even though we were never married).

I'm trying to asses whether it makes to appeal the order based on the judge's lack of consideration of the relevant factors under 2032(b). This decision has left me in a position where I can't justify exercising all of my visitation because of the financial burden and that seems extremely unfair to myself and my daughter.

I also want to know if this order is modifiable because of the long term of payment. For example, if mother's salary increases in the future, can I go to court ask that the award be modified to reflect the current financial situation.

Answer:
 Jesus christ.

Not legal advice, but you should head over to r/personalfinance.  You have serious financial issues and I believe that sub can help you.


Title: What steps do I take if someone wants to give me their baby when its born?

Question: The mom doesn't want her soon to be baby what so ever. She has, after much consideration, asked to bless us with our first child. Is there a way to do this on our own? If not what is the most cost officiant way to do this? I've never retained a lawyer. We're in Indiana. Thank you kindly.

Answer:
 You need to retain council. There are sooooo many things that can go wrong in a scenario like this one. Start with a family-law practice.

Employers sometimes have programs that help defray the cost of adoption. You can look into that. Answer #2: You're talking about an adoption, which is highly regulated by the states. It's not something you want to navigate without a lawyer.

There will be mandatory home visits, inspections, and requirements that you will have to meet to be approved to adopt the child.  These may include things like parenting classes or showing that you can financially support the child. Note that in many states there is a strong preference for placement with a married couple.

You also need to decide how much the mother will be involved - will it be an open or closed adoption? Who will cover the medical expenses of the pregnancy/birth?  Are you willing to follow through if the child has special needs?

A good adoption lawyer can help walk you through all the contingencies. Answer #3: >Is there a way to do this on our own?

Not legally.

>If not what is the most cost officiant way to do this?

Contact your local bar association and get some numbers. Private adoption is not cheap. Answer #4: This is something you REALLY want to ask an expert about...You can buy an hour of time with a local lawyer for a few hundred dollars probably and get an idea.


Title: Debt collection agency (?) calling for dead mother

Question:
I live in AZ and I received a call this morning from Convergent USA, looking for my mom. Although they refused to speak to me without proof of me being executor of my mom's estate, I asked the woman if they were a debt collection agency and she didn't say yes/no, she said something about being a business (insert word I forgot here).

I'm not entirely sure why they would be calling, but if it is for a bonafide reason, what happens then? I was joint on a couple of her accounts (bank and phone) as she got sicker - would that make me responsible for any collections?

Answer:
 > Although they refused to speak to me without proof of me being executor of my mom's estate

"Then our business is done here" [click]


Title: TEXAS- Would it be legal for me to leave my rifle (AR-15) in the passenger seat of my car when I drop it off at the dealership for repairs?

Question: Scenario:  Gun is not loaded, no ammunition in passenger compartment, and there is no trigger lock attached.

Answer:
 I don't know TX law, but why would you?

Also, it's perfectly acceptable for the dealer to say 'we ain't touching it with a weapon inside'


Title: What can I do if I suspect an animal flipper bought my dog?

Question:
I adopted out a pet through a news paper ad in New Mexico and charged a small rehoming fee. However, I contacted the new adopter and they won't respond. Anyways, I saw on fb that somebody was selling a dog and it was mine and for much more. I looked through and saw this person sold many dogs and cats and reptiles, etc. I called the police and they said no law has been broken and I surrendered the pet to begin with. Aside from buying him back, what can be done to stop this guy?

Thanks xoxo

Answer: lol wut. it's not your pet any more. unless he is abusing animals, what do you care?Answer #2: Sounds like you are mad this person is going to make more money on this dog than they spent. Answer #3: You sold a piece of property to someone and they then sold that property to another person. What is to be stopped?Answer #4: Nothing. Next time surrender your dog to an actual rescue who hopefully will ensure the dog goes to a good home.Answer #5: Nothing. When you sell something, you don't get to dictate if they can re-sell it.


Title: Hotel violated my privacy and called the police

Question:
So last night. Another guest said that their tv was hacked and someone's face appeared on the screen. And they thought they were being spied on. They said this face looked like me.
It wasnt me just a coincidence

I told the guest and the front desk that it wasnt me and had to head to work, when I came back after about 2 hours I noted the other guests watched me walk in. I went straight to bed.
A little while later I was woken up by the police knocking on my door. I explained everything I knew about the situation.
During the conversation the police told me told me that the hotel staff had gone into my room ( with the privacy tab on the door knob)  and found a "suspicious device " while I was gone.

This is disturbing to me because it was 100% an unauthorized entry with the intent to find some kind of incriminating evidence.
Police need a warrant for this but hotels dont?

Answer:
 What was the suspicious device?Answer #2: > Police need a warrant for this but hotels dont?

That's about the long and short of it.Answer #3: Hotels don't need warrants. You have a right to expect privacy in your hotel room. However, if the hotel has a good faith belief that you are engaging in anything illegal or has reports that you are disturbing other guests, hotel management can enter your room without your permission.

Next time do not speak to the police without an attorney.

Is the matter settled now, to the best of your knowledge?


Title: My roommate didn't sign a lease, isn't paying rent, I know..stupid of me. Please help?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 >What is the soonest I can evict her?

Per NOLO, you owe her 30 days notice to vacate.  This means you need to tell her "hey, I need you out of here in 30 days.  Pack up, bitch.".  I wouldn't use such language, but you get my point.

Legal advice: AZ law does not specify if you have to give notice based on rental periods, meaning, you can give her notice tomorrow, and 30 days from that notice is sufficient per AZ law for her to vacate the unit.  I suggest you hand her a notice tomorrow with your name, her name, the date you served notice, and tell her she is receiving a notice to leave your unit at XYA address no later than [insert 30 days from the date of notice].

If she does not leave in 30 days, then you can follow your jurisdiction's procedures and file for eviction.

What you should not do:  Don't change the locks, shut off her power, or anything that would qualify as an illegal eviction EVEN IF SHE STAYS PAST THE 30 DAYS NOTICE.  She is a tenant and is not trespassing.


Title: PLEASE HELP: I might be charged for rape?

Question:
Me and My girlfriend have been dating before i turned 18 and now I am 19, Our sex is consensual. Both parties partake in this shared passion voluntarily. Her parents hate me and after finding an explicit video of me, they are threatening or going to call the police! WHAT THE FUCK AM I TO DO! CAN I BE CHARGED!? WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME IM FUCKING PANICKING PLEASE HELP ME! IS THERE ANY PART OF THE LAW THAT IS ON MY SIDE!?

they hate me because I lied to them and said our beach date was a "family trip".

Answer: Location, girlfriend's age, time it took place... You are missing a bunch of info.


Title: [CT] Roommate negligently discharged a firearm in our apartment. Can I get out of my lease?

Question:
Roommate and I are both on our lease for our apartment in a multi-family home. After we signed the lease, he disclosed he owns many firearms. I really wish I had known this before signing, but felt I didn't have a choice and had to trust him.

When I wasn't home, he accidentally/negligently fired his shotgun into my wall. No one was hurt, neighbors weren't home and are none the wiser. Wall is damaged. He knows he needs to fix the wall and pay for my possessions which were broken in the incident. When we talked, he explained that he was checking his firearms were unloaded to pack them up for a trip. To do this, he checked the chamber was empty and then fired it down the hall just to be sure. I don't know if "chamber" is the right word, but I do know basic rules of gun safety include always assuming a firearm is loaded, and not firing it to check if it is. I no longer felt secure or safe in my home knowing his poor safety habits as described in this incident, combined with general immaturity I've seen over the last few months regarding his guns.

At the time, I told him he didn't need to move out. He agreed to take every firearm out of the house and leave it as his family's house, who he is visiting this week. Now that it's been a few days, the gravity of the situation is sinking in. I truly don't trust he's taken everything, and don't trust that he won't bring some back, or that he won't buy or build new ones. **I'm extremely tempted to look through his room** - am I breaking any laws (other than roommate trust) if I do?. Even if he got a gun safe, I wouldn't feel any safer - it's him who I don't trust to handle guns, not that I don't trust guns on their own.

Our lease doesn't include anything about firearms. We're both on it. If the lease is cancelled, the remaining amount becomes payable in full. No subleasing is permitted. Violating laws is grounds for landlord to cancel, as is damaging the dwelling. I don't have a good relationship with my landlord.

**What are my options here?** I'm not looking to send him to prison, screw up his future job prospects, or stick him with the remaining amount due on our lease. I know it's not attractive to anyone - landlord, roommate, me to have to pay extra money or lose income. I'm just looking to not live with him in the most fair way possible. I need a home I feel comfortable and safe in.

[This](http://www.prowaiver.com/forms/connecticut-residential-lease-agreement.pdf) is the lease. I should note the landlord is a lawyer himself.

Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 >To do this, he checked the chamber was empty and then fired it down the hall

So he shot inside purposely to test that his gun was unloaded.... sounds really stupid.

Answer #2: I don't want to be mean to you, but your landlord didn't choose your roommate. You did. Why should your landlord suffer financial loss (vacant apartments don't pay rent) because the roommate you chose to sign a contract with is a nutso?


Title: (CA) Found out neighbor is selling prescription medication from her workplace to neighborhood kids, can I go to the police with this?

Question:
I found out my younger brother got a hold of codeine from a neighbor who works as a nurse at a nearby hospital.  She is using her 2 sons (1 of whom is on probation for stabbing someone during a drug deal) to deal to kids in the neighborhood.

Is this something I can report to the police or something I report to her work place?  I'm not really sure how to go about this, the only hard evidence I have is an empty pill bottle.  She only started recently working there and both her children are heroin users.

edit: songs--->sons*

Answer: You can report it to both, either, or neither. It's up to you.


Title: [CA] Obstructed Sign causes Parking Ticket

Question:
Hello everyone, first time posting to /r/legaladvice.

The other night I received a parking ticket for parking my car on public day use only parking (No Parking 8PM - 6 AM) at a trail head in a California State Park.

The only sign is high off the ground and is extremely difficult to see due to overgrown tree branches.

Is there any hope of appealing the ticket because of the sign being so difficult to see or is this my fault entirely and I'll just have to pay?

Here's some pictures of the sign:

https://i.imgur.com/aa2wxMC.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/JGZysqd.jpg

Thanks in advance for any help with the issue.

Answer:
 IANAL

I would take it to court and tell the judge exactly that.  (Along with plenty of pictures)  Explain that you simply *couldn't* see the sign.  (Didn't isn't an excuse.  Couldn't is.)  There is a good chance it will get dismissed.


Title: [USA/FL] Am I okay to get a permit and just fence off my neighbor?

Question:
I was told that there could be some legal concerns I should account for from my [thread](https://np.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4h575b/my_mom_65_f_wants_to_fence_off_her_neighbor_i_21/) on /r/relationships.

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**Here's my mom's issue:**

There is a driveway leading up to a dirt path on my mom's lot that my neighbors have been driving their trucks up back and forth to get to their house which creates a ditch. They have been using this driveway to get to their house even before she purchased the house.

Recently, there has been a lot of nightly vehicle activity (drugs? idk) in which they park a lot of random cars (from their friends or whatever) in this area which makes the problem for her even worse. They don't acknowledge it and don't try to help her when she's hauling dirt for a week straight trying to patch the driveway.

My mom wants to raise a fence in this area so that they can't use our driveway or park cars in this area anymore.

EDIT: Image of lot: http://i.imgur.com/h8PKofs.jpg

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**Here's why I feel concerned and why I don't feel "lol fuck them":**

The house is far in the back of the lot and there is a lot of front yard and neighbors on both sides. (think lobster or a triangle)

Upon moving in, she was greeted by her neighbors and learned that the neighbors on both sides know each other, as well as practically everyone else in this small neighborhood. They told her that the neighborhood is relatively safe and had a "neighborhood watch" system... and that everyone in the neighborhood tries to look out for each other, no perceived crime from the time they've lived here (5+ years).

About a week after she started living in the house, she had a family emergency in which she had to leave the state for a week and in that span of 1 week the outside AC unit was stolen -- despite the unit being a part of the house for the 1+ years the house was on the market. Was it a coincidence from a random thief driving around? Maybe, but why steal only hers when its so far back and relatively "hidden", when one of the neighbor's unit is unprotected and out front? Was it someone from the neighborhood planning to cash in but was "too late"? Possible, but can't really say.

Either scenario, it's got me paranoid about her issue because if she is in fact targeted, I don't want to have to constantly be worried about security around her house when she's away our has to go out and buy and run errands.

**TL;DR: Mom wants to fence off neighbors, should I be concerned?**

Answer:
 Just to preemptively get it out of the way; you're going to get a lot of requests for a poorly drawn MS paint diagram showing all of the property boundries, where the houses are, and where the roads are.

Your mom first needs to look at her deed. It's entirely possible that there is an easement recorded on the deed which permits use of the road. Even if there isn't one recorded, it's possible to establish them based off of usage, Sotheby's neighbors may have a claim that way.

If she feels strongly about it, she needs to speak with a real estate attorney first, before spending any money to put up a fence that she's just going to have to tear back down.  Answer #2: I don't have legal advice, but from the AC story and the story of the neighbors, I would be very concerned about being in that area personally. I don't have any good advice, but I would agree with your concern that even if it is legal to fence it off, it may not be wise. However, kowtowing to them is not exactly likely to earn their respect either.

I don't see a good solution here. You could start going down the guard dog / security system route, but given the impression of the neighbors, I don't know that they would be too impressed by that. You don't want to have to try turning the property into a fortification, and that seems like the only outcome apart from letting them continue to run wild.


Title: [CA] Health Insurance - Employer just heavily downgraded our insurance, and many employees don’t have eligible coverage/PCP available within 30 miles. Is this allowed?

Question:
Question is in the title. Our shitty company just downgraded our insurance and you can only visit doctors in the certain LA County area. Our work is barely even borderline LA county on the east side, and many of us come from even further east and therefore live in other counties, some are over 30 miles out.

When our insurance cards arrived, it turned out our owner put all of our insurance addresses as *their home address* which is in LA County. She claimed “it was just easier, so nothing gets lost”.

We called our insurance rep back into our office for follow-up questions because we’re already getting red flags. Most of us have doctors around work, so she said we can technically put our addresses as the work address so that we’re within 30 miles of our doctors. So, we did that, only to find out later that it was untrue and even our work doesn’t have any eligible PCPs around us. Everything is further out in LA.

Common sense would tell me that health insurance coverage/doctors must be available within so many miles of somebody’s home. But, I can’t seem to find information on that. Is this really allowed? Cause it sucks, hard.

Answer: I can't stress this enough. Google CA continuity of care. I'm not sure how much you can do about your company forcing you to use healthcare in a particular region, but health care insurance must honor the law and allow continuity of care. Read it. Share it. It stopped people at my work from quitting because of our insurance switch/downgrade and stick it to the insurance company.


Title: [US-PA] I have a Felon living downstairs in a shared house?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You can't break your lease without penalty because you don't like your neighbors. Answer #2: You can't get out of your lease for that.

You should call the police if you hear a DV in progress. Answer #3: My advice would be to tell the landlord you don't feel safe and you would like to end your lease early. Negotiate how much of your deposit you can get back.

If you just talk to them and explain your reasoning they may work with you on this.Answer #4: Is he in parole? Would his PO be interested in the police being called repeatedly to his residence? That may be enough to get him back in until your lease is up.


Title: Found out my sister's deadbeat father has an under-the-table job, so he has no legal money to pay child support. How can I bust him?

Question:
Firstly, sister's father, who we'll call Dick, is in NJ, and so am I.  My mom and said sister moved to Florida after she remarried.  Dick has about 7 kids from various women, my mom included, and he hasn't paid child support on any of them (and if he does, the payments are give-or-take $100).  Basically a classic deadbeat.

He is, as of right now, $6,000 behind on child support for my sister alone.  His usual excuse before the court is that he isn't working right now and living with a friend.  He's been "not working" since probably 2010.  And on and off before that under the table.

Unluckily for him, I happen to be friends with his present landlord's daughter - friends since childhood.  She has watched the situation with Dick blossom and wilt and slowly tear people apart since we were kids, so she knows better than most what a complete asshole this guy is.

We run into each other the other day and she proceeds to tell me something interesting:  Dick as an under-the-table construction business, complete with papers for estimates among other things.  The silly part of it is that he advertises his business with magnets on the back of his car that he *removes at the end of every day* because he is "so afraid that [I] will find out" and tell my mom about it, because we both reside in the same town.

So of course now I have my telescopic lens ready to go because I will sneak the shit out of this guy, but I want to know exactly what I need in order to nail this guy to the wall.  I've never considered doing something like this until literally 15 minutes ago.  Also, are there any legal things I should be concerned with when I'm sneakin' this guy.

**TL;DR: how to private eye, bust my sister's deadbeat dad for working under the table.  Please and thank you!**

Edit:  I just want to say thank you to everyone who has put in some very good advice.  While this was cooking, my co-worker actually revealed herself to be a criminal justice major and gave me some simpler, albeit less secret-spy advice:  submitting a claim to the IRS basically accusing this guy of tax fraud.  Tying this into my original post, is this actually worth my time?  As a regular person I feel like the IRS gets TONS of these papers and the time it would take to investigate and nab Dick would be so far from now that his dinky undertable business might not even be around anymore.  Though he's worked undertable for YEARS so if anything they'd nab him up for that.  I don't know.  Once again thank you guys so much for explaining some nifty laws and advice.  It's much appreciated.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 > I want to know exactly what I need in order to nail this guy to the wall.

Gather your evidence, and present it to your sister's attorney for use at the next modification hearing.


Title: [CA] My sister is involved with a woman who is scamming her. This woman has now also threaten the lives of my family and I with all the information is has on us. What legal actions can I take?

Question:
My sister recently met a woman online that claims to be a U.S. marine in training to become a cop, ex bounty hunter, AND ALSO a psychic and also a priest in training with ties to a powerful priest who practice voodoo in another country. My sister (let’s call her J) met this woman, who we will call A, two weeks ago. They have not met in person yet since apparently A is out of state at the moment taking care of other matters, but they have had talks of meeting when A comes back in a month or two.

Ever since then, A has claimed to see and know things about J. One of those things include seeing spirits that were put on J by her exes. A encouraged J that the only way to protect herself from said spirits is to purchase a protection spell that A’s powerful priest from another country can do. A also managed to get J to quit her current job because apparently one of J’s coworkers practice spells too, and did a dark spell on J. A prevented J to take a job at one of the places my family members recommended because A “saw” that if J takes the job there, she will meet a guy who will like her and eventually stalk her. These are just some examples of what A has been telling J.

In the two weeks that they’ve known each other, A has gotten J to completely isolate herself from her coworkers, her family members, and her friends. A also told J that I, her older sister, am so jealous of their relationship that I myself went to find someone who can do a spell to break them apart. When I found out that A told J this, this is when I really know this woman is scamming my sister because I did not do what she claimed I did. She defamed my character, and my sister who has known me all her life, takes her word for it which baffles me. My brother and I got extremely concerned for J, so we both confronted A, and questioned her credibility. If A was truly who she claimed to be - a psychic who has a lot of clients who pay her to help them, I would expect her to behave professionally and address our concerns since we can not be the first people to ever question her psychic powers. But no, A’s first reaction to us questioning her why things she said don’t add up was to threaten me, saying she will “destroy” me. She also threatened my brother, saying that she can “see” he has many spirits that were put on him by his “enemies”, and that she will make his life so miserable with the help of her powerful priest relative, that my brother will have no choice but to crawl back to A and beg A to lift his curse.

So my question is, what can I do to protect my family when this stranger knows our address and everything about us (birthdates, pictures, etc) thanks to J telling her everything? She threatens to destroy and ruin our lives to a point where we will beg for her forgiveness. If we go to the police with this, what are the chances that they will take this seriously since it involves stuff such as voodoo, spells, psychic powers? Even while typing this out I can’t help but to feel like it’s some crazy story that can only happen in movies.

**TL;DR** My sister met a woman online who claims she is able to see the past, future, and also can do voodoo spells to either help or destroy people’s lives, and has been controlling her life decisions and also getting her to send her money for “protection”. This woman now has threaten the lives of my family and I. What actions can we take to get this woman to leave us alone?

There are a lot more to this which I didn’t include but if any part is vague or needs clarification, just let me know.

Answer: This is a mental health issue as much of a legal issue. Does your sister possess the faculties to manage her own life?


Title: Any sort of action I can take for photographs or baby videos being held by a family member?

Question:
First, id like to give some context. As of right now I am 23 years old, employed, and rent my own living spaces.  My Mother was a single parent who had multiple ailments while growing up. She was diagnosed with MS when my twin brother and I were born. She had a stroke later in my teens and is a diabetic. She lacks most motor functions, but still retains the ability to speak.  She had a collection of photos and videos all through our childhood that she kept and loved.

When my brother and I turned 18, which was shortly after graduating High School, Adult Protective Services got involved, and informed us that my Mother no longer had the ability to take care of herself.  They informed the three of us that she would be moved to a continuing care center at the local hospital.

As 18 year olds who had just finished high school and were starting college, we were told that we had until August of that year to find a place to go ourselves.  This was a very difficult transition, as my family is less then problem free, and there was really no place for myself and my brother to go. He went to live with his girlfriends family in Tennessee and I stayed in a motel for a couple weeks until finding something more stable.

Anyway, the issue I am having is my Uncle took all my Mothers belongings to his house, as we really had no other place to retain them until we had the situations figured out for ourselves. If we fast forward to the modern day, my Brother and I are both in much better situations.  I rent my own house and he owns his.  He has a steady job and a child and has really stepped up to provide himself and his family a life.

He contacted my Uncle recently as we had both gone to the hospital to see our Mother on Mothers Day. He wanted to get the pictures and baby videos that my uncle had in his possession. He then told us that we forgo any right to any of my Mothers possessions under the pretense that we neglected her in the period directly after her transfer to the hospital, while we were still trying to stand on our own feet.

Talking to my Mother today, she is fine with My brother and I receiving the items that essentially chronicle our own lives, but due to her illness and now acute dementia, I'm not sure if anything that she says really has any grounding.

Is there anything that we can do to get these items, or should we just let it go? It's completely an out of spite decision to him as he constantly felt having to assist our family growing up was tedious and a chore. I told my Brother to walk away from the situation, but he wants to pursue it.  Any help or advice would be appreciated.

Answer:
 Where are you located?

Does anyone have power of attorney for your mother? If not, you and your brother may want to look into that. I am not a lawyer but my understanding would be that these items belong to your mother and having POA would allow you to act on her behalf in retrieving them.


Title: i m woreid if this is legal

Question: I have been hired in this website  as pacakge forwarder reshipping, they send boxes clothes laptops camera iPhone etc to my home address then I have  to send again to an address they will provide it later, then they send 2boxes clothes I have forwarded them and they paid me, later i made more research about this position online, and I found that many people had scammed in this situation, I  contacted the employer, he exactly said :totally, there is online fraud nowadays but we are not running such thing here. All orders are paid by customers who were checked by our security department. If U have any questions do not hesitate to ask.: So any advice I live in Seattle Washington thnk you

Answer:
 If they were running a scam, would they tell you if you ask...?

Think about this: why would they need you? They can apparantly send things on their own (to you). Why would they need a middleman that only costs them money?


Title: My friend asked me to sign an affidavit for him, the story is in the description l. I just want to know if I could get in some legal trouble.

Question: [WNY] My friend is on probation for a DUI and he got a ticket for fighting and carrying beer in a back pack while being under age. He's asking me to sign an affidavit that would state that the beer in his bag was mine even though I'm underage as well. If I do this he's gonna give me 300bucks plus I'm keeping my friend out of jail. I need some advice because I don't know if it will bite me in the ass later for signing a legal document . It was both of our beers but he's the idiot for getting in a fight in the first place.

Answer:
 No. Really no. It would not only be a lie but you would be opening yourself up to charges of possession while underage. Really this isn't a friend if he would try to drop you in it like this. I suppose he might be monumentally self-absorbed and/or stupid, but don't do it.

And in truth, I don't think it would help him much.Answer #2: Funny story- your friend was still in "constructive possession" of the beer even if "it was yours."

So you might not get him out of trouble.

But you would be admitting to a crime yourself, while at the same time committing a much more serious crime.

This is a terrible idea.


Title: Mother of my son won't give me my sons S.S to open up a savings account.

Question: Hey, so i am not on good terms with the mom of my son and recently i went to the bank to open up a savings account for him. they said i needed his social security but when i went to ask his mom for it she refused to give it to me. Is this even allowed? I wanted to open up a savings account for him and she's just being extremely immature and not letting me get the information i need. what can i do?

Answer:
 you can probably go to the social security office and get another copy of his card since you're his father. do you have a copy of his birth certificate?Answer #2: Are you listed on your son's birth certificate, or has your paternity been established through the court? If not, that's your first step. Florida law says an unmarried mother has sole legal rights until your paternity has been established.

Once you have paternity established, you can [request a copy of his birth certificate](http://www.floridahealth.gov/certificates/certificates/birth/index.html); there are several walk-in locations in Miami-Dade, or you can order online or through the mail. Then, use that birth certificate to ask the Social Security office for the number.

Yes, you could go back to court and ask for the number; the court would probably grant your motion and compel her to disclose it. However, getting the number directly from SocSec is likely simpler and easier (and faster).


Title: [CA] One shitty parent cheated and is trying to take everything and leave. Help, please.

Question:
Low down is aside from the feelings I have from reading the texts and looking at the evidence, what can happen? Pushing aside all this hate and everything, good parent has told me that bad parent is now planning to take away half of everything and start a life with an assholeshit. Things have been slowly changing and didn't know what was going on.

From what I've been told is that:

Bad parent has been sending the other guy money regularly, with checks up to 850 marked as rent.

Bad parent plans on buying a house for assholecunt.

California has a 50/50 ownership law, with the house and everything else under both spouses.

What should I tell good parent to protect themselves? What can happen?

Answer: Protect themselves from what? Just because someone cheated doesn't mean they aren't entitled to their share of property.


Title: If I were being pulled over by a cop, would it be legal for me to wait until I've reached a more populated area before actually pulling over?

Question:
I'm a female in my early 20's and I live in Georgia. Where I live, even many of the main roads are secluded and there is rarely any traffic after about 11pm. There are not many street lights and most of our surrounding area is dense woods.
I'm often over-vigilant in my need to feel safe and I've always wondered if, had this situation ever presented itself, I would be arrested for something such as resisting arrest if I were to drive one or two miles to a gas station or more populated area before pulling over. If I can do this, do I have to call 911 and let them know or should I put my hazards on to signal to the police officer that I acknowledge him? If I can't do this, what charges might I face and how hard would they be to fight?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 The advice I've received from LEOs in the past is to reduce speed and to put on my signal or my hazard lights to indicate that I'm pulling over.  Either that or actually reach out the window and point toward the direction you intend to pull off.

I've also been advised that you can call the non-emergency number to confirm that the car behind you is a real police officer. The dispatcher can always put you in contact with the officer or relay a message.


Title: Hit and run advice

Question:
Posting from mobile, so I'm sorry for bad formatting. Also it's long.

Straight to the point,  I'm in Colorado and in February I went to go pick my friend up from an intersection where her car had died and the tow truck was going to take it to a shop. While we were waiting a man not paying attention drove into the back of my car that was stopped with hazards on behind my friends car,  shoving my car into my friends causing severe damage to both ends of my car, the front of his,  and the back of my friends.  I immediately called 911 while assessing my friend for injuries,  while I was doing that the man that hit me and his underage friends exited their vehicle and ran on foot because their car would no longer drive. As soon as I realized it I told the dispatcher and when the police arrived I told them where he had run to. The police found an open bottle of tequila in the car.

When I called my insurance I was notified that I had not set up my insurance police correctly and if he wasn't caught/ didn't have insurance I would not be receiving any help from them.

On Thursday I finally got the police report, the man did not have any insurance,  neither did the person that lent him the vehicle. He lives in another city about 45 minutes from where I live and was hit. He was fined for failure to report an accident, careless driving, suspended license, and not having insurance; no mention of hit and run or fleeing the scene,  no mention of alcohol,  and even though I had to take my friend to the hospital for a concussion and bruising to her face and shoulder, and I saw his passanger bleeding from the head before they fleed, the police report says no injuries.

Do I have any recourse? I don't know if i can take him to small claims court, or if he will even get in trouble for blowing it off, or if it I should be going after the person that lent him the car for not having insurance, or the police for not charging him correctly or leaving things out of the report. Is any of that even an option?
I'm left with no car and no help and I don't know where to go.

Answer:
 You can sue him for your damages, but your chances of collecting aren't good.

Did your friend have uninsured motorists at least?


Title: Got Scammed by Topresume.com What are my options?

Question:
I feel dumb for only checking Google reviews which supported this resume writing website.  If I had checked a bit more, I would have seen that it's a complete scam.  They offer an "executive priority" option which states that it's their top 10% of their writers to help write your CV.  I ordered that (at a 50% discount) along with a $75 expedited service.  The cover letter came back as a copy and paste from a cover letter from a website and my CV was a copy and paste from a job offer in a town in Florida.  I've seen that hundreds of people have been conned by this site too and would like to know what my options are.  I've attached their refund policy but I don't know if I am able to get my money back or if getting a bunch of people together and getting a class action lawsuit/mass tort would be the best route. Any advice would be great. Thanks!

Refund policy:

TopResume provides a professional resume-writing service. All sales are  final. There is no trial or grace period after purchasing the  resume-writing service. Like any writing project, there will be multiple  drafts and revisions. TopResume's writers will work with you throughout  the Revision Period until you are satisfied with your resume. As a  result, there are no refunds once the resume-writing service has been  purchased.  TopResume offers a payment plan option that allows you to receive the  new resume upfront, in exchange for future payments. Failure to make  future payments may result in your information being passed along to the  leading credit bureaus and appearing on your credit report. 		TopResume guarantees, if you are not receiving two times more job  interviews within 60 days of receiving your final copy, we will rewrite  your resume again one time free of charge, provided that you notify us  in writing within one hundred eighty days of receiving your final copy.  Only certain packages are eligible for our guarantee.

Answer:
 > if getting a bunch of people together and getting a class action lawsuit/mass tort would be the best route

That's not gonna happen. If you complaint to them, you might get a refund, or a partial one if you're lucky. You can also write a bad review.


Title: Wife’s pregnant being told she can only work 3 hrs a day because of her pregnancy

Question: So my wife and I both work for a small 4 store retail company. In January we found out we are pregnant! Everything has been fine with the pregnancy besides the normal stuff that woman go through, morning sickness and the like. She’s at around 16 weeks, and on Monday my wife had a particularly rough day and went home early. Tuesday she followed up with the Doctor just to make sure she was good and got an all good except eat and drink more. Well when she came in she was told she needed to sit down with her boss who is the Founder/owner. He informed her during the sit down that he wants her to leave every day by 11am which is a 3 hour shift. He’s also saying she’s not allowed to go into the warehouse anymore even though that’s where 60%+ of her job happens and never had any restrictions while pregnant . His reasoning is she’s his first pregnant employee and he’s nervous...just curious what we can do. It doesn’t seem legal at all to tell her that or not allow her to work her normal 8.5-9 hr shift she did long before getting pregnant and up until yesterday while being pregnant. This is the same man that doesn’t allow her to us a step ladder(yes a 2-step ladder) because of the liability.

Answer:
 > This is the same man that doesn’t allow her to us a step ladder(yes a 2-step ladder) **because of the liability.**

That's hitting the nail on the head, your employer is simply worried about your pregnant wife getting injured. In theory your employer is free to set your schedule as they see fit, but this is certainly skirting some discrimination. I would er on the employer being worried because they care, and in that regard maybe your wife can get a note from their doctor stating what kind of work is okay for her to do? Lifting up to X pounds, using two-step ladders, etc. This can help put the employer at ease.


Title: Why do judges/attorneys always say "good luck" to defendants?

Question:
This might be an impossible question to answer, but I've noticed this on quite a few zoom court/court cam videos, so I'm assuming it's a trend and not just a coincidence. At the end of just about any criminal proceeding (arraignment, pretrial, whatever) the judge or sometimes the attorney will end by telling the defendant "good luck".

Does anyone know how this got started? How do other people feel about that habit? It always struck me as a weird thing to say during a criminal proceeding. Like shouldn't it be about truth and justice not getting lucky?

It sounds like I'm against it, I really have no strong feelings either way and I've never taken it as a diss or condescending, but something that's said sincerely. It's just something I've always been curious about but I suspect there may not be a satisfying answer for me.

Answer:
 1. They are being nice
2. It is meant to be an illustration of the fact that the judge's decision is not based on personal animosity toward the defendant, i.e., that justice is blind.


Title: Federal agents intercepted x<2 grams of cannabis extract last year and have done nothing to me at all.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 People send other packages to differently named individuals and different addresses all the time. The DEA didn't want to pursue this further, so they didn't. They don't really care about catching end-users, they look for bigger parts of the food chain that can net a large scale bust and thousands/millions of dollars seized.

Don't have drugs sent to you in the mail but other than that they just didn't care enough to follow up with you about it.
Answer #2: Strategic use of resources, that's what happened. The FBI has discretion to not pursue an investigation if they don't think it's the best use of government resources. This is particularly true of 'victimless crimes.'

What happened here is actually pretty typical. What your relative received is referred to as a 'love letter' by people in drug scenes. Basically, the state doesn't have the resources or inclination to go after every small-time use of the mails for illicit purposes. But it also doesn't want to encourage anarchy. So, when something comes on the radar that they don't plan to pursue, they send a scary letter instead. The hope, from the state's perspective, is that by sending out letters (which costs very little), they can scare a lot of small-time, casual lawbreakers into obeying the law.

For your sake, I hope they succeeded. You really don't want to get caught up in a federal prosecution (even over something as silly as cannabis). From a legal standpoint, you're probably better off finding local sources for THC - the risk of discovery is probably lower, and the consequences less severe.


Title: (California) We have submitted a lawsuit for damages caused to our home by a neighbor. How long do they have to file a response?

Question:
We already have lawyered up and have a lawsuit for damages that was served on 30 July, 2015.  I'd ask my lawyer, but all he ever sends are one sentence responses that usually don't address the questions I ask, and also bills me $75 per email I send to him.

The neighbor kept trying to get me to drop the suit (because he can't afford it and he doesn't believe in lawyers or politicians telling him what to do he says) for about 2 weeks before he says he submitted it to his homeowners insurance.   When we started the process I had asked my lawyer on the phone a basic timeline and projected costs.  I could have sworn that he told me that if they don't respond to the complaint within 30 days we can submit for a default judgement in the amount we claimed in the complaint.  I waited until a few days ago (past the 30 days elapsed) to contact my lawyer to see what the status is since I hadn't heard from him in over a month since the papers were served.  He responded back that since the neighbor stated he would not hire  lawyer and is likely going to be using an insurance appointed attorney, that it will take longer to receive a response.  I'm not really sure how this is my problem.  If there was a deadline to file a response by and they've missed it that should be on them, not me correct?

Should have known that this lawyer wouldn't be the best fit when he said to handle most communication through email and it is a AOL.com address on his business card...  Only redeeming quality we found out is that he has been involved in a suit with this same neighbor and won for another adjoining property owner for the same issue...

Answer:
 > If there was a deadline to file a response by and they've missed it that should be on them, not me correct?

Extensions to the time to respond are common.  If your lawyer refused to give one, the other party would probably have grounds for relief from default anyway.  A default is not a "gotcha!" -- it's when there's truly no response (or intent to respond) by the other party.


Title: [WI] Landlord is showing our unit to prospective tenants all next week because we wouldn't renew the lease 6 months early

Question:
So two weeks ago I posted [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/b9jxv7/wi_landlord_is_demanding_we_sign_new_lease_or/) about the issues with our landlord. In summary, our lease doesn't end until the end of August. A new property management company took over in November and we were assured that nothing in our current lease would change. In mid February, we got a letter saying that if we didn't sign a lease for the next year by March 1st, they were going to market our unit. We don't want to live here anymore because the new property management company has been extremely unpleasant to work with but we wanted to wait until we were required to give notice so that we weren't having prospective tenants coming through our apartment the rest of the time we live here. They have been harassing us non-stop about signing the lease since February.

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We took the advice we were given, which was that whatever time the lease says we are to give written notice by is when we must give notice. The lease says 60 days written notice. When I called to explain the situation to the property manager, the woman I talked to told me that they needed to know now because they think the building is going to be in super high demand. I tried to reiterate what is in the lease and that according to that, we don't have to formally make a decision yet. Rather than letting me finish speaking, they hung up on me. I hoped that would be the end of it but the letters and the text messages keep coming. Then yesterday (4/18) they sent us a text saying that if we didn't sign the lease that day that they were going to sign the unit over to someone else. For weeks I have been trying to speak to the owner of the company but she has been straight up refusing to talk to me so yesterday, when I called I said that I refused to get off the line until I could speak to the owner. When she finally decided to talk to me, she told me that in Wisconsin, landlords aren't required to give any reasoning to not let someone renew their lease when it comes to an end and that in May we can expect a letter that says that they intend to not let us renew.  Today, we got a text message saying that they will be giving tours of our apartment on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday from 8 am to 5 pm. Again, our lease doesn't end until the end of August. Is there anything at all we can do to fight this? This is exactly why I didn't want to give notice 6 months early.

Answer:
 Wis. Stat. Ann. §§ 704.05(2):

>  The landlord may upon advance notice and at reasonable times inspect the premises, make repairs and show the premises to prospective tenants or purchasers

The landlord is allowed to show the unit. That being said, the landlord really can't do that so often that it interferes with your right to quiet enjoyment of the premises.

Three days is not going to rise to that level, if if he tries to do so for three days every week from here on out, then it definitely would.


Title: [OH] Speeding citation with incorrect DOB? What's the best move?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Cops always show up to court. Well, not "always", but enough that the use of the word is not inappropriate.

If you are concerned about the misspelling, call the courthouse and they will be more than happy to correct it on the citation. It will not invalidate it in any way.

As to the fine and points, it's up to you. I would typically pay the money and take the course to save the points. Well, actually I don't know what I'd do, as I've never gotten a speeding ticket in a state that had "points". But I'd still take the course to save the insurance premium increases.

No one cares about simple non-criminal traffic citations. They do not show up on background checks.


Title: Was I put under a 5150?

Question:
I’m sorry if I’m posting this in the wrong subreddit, I’m not sure where else to ask.

Last year my parents took me to the hospital after a bad panic attack. While I was there, the doctor decided to send me to the psychiatric ward for “observation.” The doc stated it was clear I wasn’t a danger to myself or to others but would prefer that I was seen by a mental health specialist. I had no choice in the matter, they convinced my parents.

I ended up staying there for a week. At the end of 3 days they had me sign a voluntary commitment form. At the time I did not know my rights and no one had explained them to me so I just went along. They did not provide me with any information, they only asked me to sign. I signed because on my second day there, they had threatened to send me to court if I didn’t follow their orders as well as voluntarily take psychiatric medication.

I was not arrested or confronted by the police, it was the doctor’s decision. Is this considered a 5150 hold? Was my signing the voluntary commitment a 5250? Will these show up on background checks?

Thanks for the information.

Answer: Are you a minor? If so, its likely your parents consented to treatment. If you're an adult you were likely on a 5150, and since you signed in voluntarily after it is not a 5250. Answer #2: No this will not show up on a background check


Title: Friend is being asked to reimburse her company for a business trip

Question:
My friend was scheduled to go on a business trip (to a conference) in a week or so. Meanwhile she found a position in another company & city which she liked - she said yes to it and gave her current company 2 months' notice of leave.

Now her company has cancelled the trip, and is telling her that if they are unable to get refunded for the tickets/flight/hotel she will have to pay them back for all of it.

This seems wrong, can anyone offer some insight? She is Canadian.

Answer:
 IANAL It largely depends on which province, but in the province of Quebec, labor laws make it illegal to hold an employee responsible for business expenses, especially if the purpose of travel is for training purposes (eg. a conference).

Is she unionized?


Title: Can I continue to use my maiden name in the workforce?

Question: I work in both Iowa and Illinois. I'm about to be married and I plan to take my husband's last name. The agencies that I work at tend to use their employees last names and I am not comfortable with my clients knowing it (I am a counselor). I would like to use my maiden name at work. I also do not want to hyphenate my name. Is it okay for me to legally have a different last name then I use at my site of employment?

Answer: Legally yes. But your employer does not have to adhere to your wishes


Title: I suspect one of my relatives put a GPS tracker on my car (MI)

Question:
Hi I'm looking for advice on what to do about a gps tracker I found in my car.

To make a long story short, last year I, 22, moved out of my parents' house. Recently I was involved in a car incident and my parents offered to pay to have my car fixed. I had to get it towed to a mechanic that my aunt had suggested to go to, since it was close and she said she could get me a discount. After my car finally got fixed, about a week after I got it back I noticed this little black box in the data link connector plug underneath my steering wheel.

Being paranoid of my mother putting a tracker on my car for years, (and her and my aunt trying to convince me to download an app that tells her my location 24/7 when I lived with her,) that's the first thing I thought it was. I opened it and found out that it's a Teltonika brand gps tracker and car monitoring device. Ever since then I've been trying to figure out if it was for sure my parents or not, and what action to take at this point. I don't want to make this too long by explaining my reasoning, but I have strong reason to believe it was my parents or my aunt who put it there while it was at the mechanic.

I called the insurance to see if they use a GPS tracker as part of their claim investigation, and they all told me they don't. I haven't called the mechanic themselves since I think they know my aunt well and don't want my aunt or parents to know that I know yet before I figure out what to do. I even called Teltonika to see if they could help me figure out who put it there, and they said they were going to get back to me but they never did.

Is there any way I can find out for sure who put it there? What legal action can I take if I do find out, and is it even worth it?

I can give more details if desired, any advice is appreciated. Thank you

Tldr: found tracking device on my car and suspect it was my parents who put it there, looking for advice on what to do.

Answer:
 Go to the police.  Someone put a tracker on your vehicle.Answer #2: You can ask your parents, aunt, or mechanic.

And just to be sure: the car is titled in your name, correct?


Title: On probation in [NY], warrants out in [AZ] - best way to handle it?

Question:
My brother fled AZ about 7 years ago to avoid warrants for DUI and assault. He's in NY now and is on probation for dealing adderall, I think.

He hasn't had a job in about 10 years (as far as I know) and is facing eviction now that a friend stopped paying for him and he can't deal anymore. He tried to get a job at Goodwill and they fired him because of the AZ warrants. So I'm trying to persuade him to deal with this.

Apparently he has 1-4 years left on probation in NY. NY gave him the probation because they thought he didn't have outstanding warrants. He's concerned about mentioning it to them now, thinking that he'll just be in more trouble with NY if they know he has AZ warrants and won't be able to actually go serve time in AZ.

I don't know how long he would need to serve in AZ but I do think it's the best thing he could do at this point. I don't want to worry about him becoming homeless because he can't find a job. And he's in his mid-thirties, he's ready move on and get a meaningful job - the kind that do background checks.

What would you guys recommend?

Edit: He will be homeless on Sunday. We have no idea how he'll obtain shelter. He may have a new job starting on 2/5, but it'll take awhile to get a paycheck. So those are the stakes.

Answer:
 He needs to speak with a criminal defense lawyer if he can afford it.

If NY finds out about the warrants, that will likely violate his probation and they may revoke it. He also needs to see about finding a place to live and getting a job because those might be terms of his probation.


Title: Can you change the rules of an auction in the middle of the auction?

Question:
Everyone locks their funds with the auctioneer previous to the dutch style auction. 3 days into the auction, the rules are changed so anyone can "lock" as much funds as they want until the end of the auction. Then the (future) sale price of the unsold items is changed by the auctioneers in the middle of the auction. Neither of these actions seem legal at all and the auction should be restarted to before anyone locked any funds with them so everyone has the same expectations going in. Am I crazy?

The auctioneer is based in California, USA and has attracted about 22 million USD in locked funds and about 16 million USD in spent/won auctions.

Answer:
 Read the terms and conditions you signed. Answer #2: Is this an auction for goods or securities?

How much money do you have locked into this thing?


Title: Parking ticket for something I didn't do?

Question: In the mail yesterday, I received a legal notice saying I have to pay a $69 parking ticket. It also said they added $10 because I failed to show up in court (I never got anything about it). I never received a ticket. It was issued  on September 27th in a town that I've never been in and they said the car was an Audi. I don't even have a car! How could this have happened and what can I do about it? I live in New Jersey if that matters.

Answer:
 Could be a clerical error. Could be someone gave your address. Could be ID theft.

Verify that the ticket is real and contact the issuing body about it Monday.


Title: My son was assaulted at a high school US football game (9) his aggressor was the school principals son.

Question:
USA Wisconsin

My son was punched, held by a second individual and kicked repeatedly by the first.

We have a witness (6 year old).

To add to the social complexity of the situation. The kicker/puncher was the elementary school principal's son where my son goes to school.

To add to the complexity, my wife works for the same school district.

 Ive contacted the local sheriff's department and made a report. What should I do beyond that?

    There are no bruises, it seems to be more of an emotional issue.
    It seems as if this happens about once a year (where I'm notified) - Bullying from a group of students that result in physical violence.

I'm not trying to cause waves with the school principal, but in the same instance I want to protect my son. I know from personal experience that bullying without repercussions can result in worse bullying in the later years of school. I've had friends for which bullying has resulted in a tragic ending.

My goal is to fend off any would be future attackers from attacking my son either physically or emotionally during his school years.

Answer:
 IANAL but you could consider talking to the district superintendent. If the principal's son is doing this to your son, he's likely doing it to other kids as well.Answer #2: I would suggest handling this as parents and not with lawyers.  Contact the boy's parents, explain your story, and allow them to handle it.  You could also notify your son's teachers and counselors  of this incident so they can be vigilant. It may be possible to assure the children are in separate classes.

Attempting to have the other child  punished will show you that you have a weak case.  You have a he said/ he said with an incredibly unreliable witness (a small child).  There's too much doubt there to justify formal punishment of a child/minor.

There is no way to guarantee your son will never be bullied. You can't control that. But you can control teaching your son how to respond appropriately and keeping the lines of communication open so he can get you involved before it gets out of hand.


Title: How do I "pay" my mother?

Question:
My mom is disabled and has 0 income. I pay her rent directly. Now, places to rent are becoming more strict about what they accept as income. Going forward, she would need her own "income". Could I set up a trust or something to pay her monthly?

I'm in California.

Answer: You could set up a trust, but a landlord may not accept it as sufficient unless it is very well funded and is accompanied by guaranteed payments. You will probably need to to be a cosigner.


Title: [OK]Neighbors loose Pitbull comes into yard and tries to eat my cats. What can/can't I do?

Question:
[OKLAHOMA]
As a Dog admirer myself, this is a difficult problem for me. The meth-head neighbors across the street own a male, un-neutered Pitbull that for whatever reason they allow to roam the neighborhood willy-nilly. What's worse is the dog has proven to be aggressive on multiple occasions. But, you know, meth.

First off: the Cops will do nothing. The neighborhood itself carries a certain 'reputation'. They have been called a handful of times to come pick up the dog, but the damn thing was born with an internal Cop-sniffer-outer and goes all Anne Frank any time a white cruiser gets within 5 miles of the neighborhood.

Last year the pitbull came into my front yard (there is only a fence around the backyard) and snapped one of my cat's necks. Took me three months to get over it. I still have the sister-cat of the deceased. And now that the weather is warming up, the dog is back, in my yard, plotting a sequel. I love my cats. And I'm not a violent person. But I don't know how I will react if I lose ANOTHER victim to owner negligence. (I am being negligent too, I admit, in letting my cats into the backyard, as sometimes they jump the fence for greener pastures)

My question is this: should something happen, say, the 9MM locked in the closet was to discharge into the Pitbull's skull should it enter my yard looking for breakfast, what kind of legal repercussions should I expect?

As an alternative: if I were to say, lock the Pit in my backyard and call Animal Control for pickup and (hopeful) re-adoption of the animal. Could this be considered theft of property?

Putting down a dog is the last thing I want to have to do in my life. But at this point, it might be the best thing for it. It's been ran over twice. Ripped up by another dog (also-loose). Beaten. Neglected.

Help.

**edit** Clarification:
I live alone. And I'm out of the house nine hours a day. I feel incredibly guilty when they don't get a chance to even see the Sun at least once a day.

Obviously the correct answer is to keep my own animals indoors. And it is something I have given significant thought towards. I guess I should clarify that 99% of their outdoor time is monitored. By that I mean, they are only allowed outside when I am 1)home, and 2)working in the backyard. It's their favorite activity actually. The 1% is going inside to use the toilet, or grab a drink.

I hope this can get us all on the right page: advice, from a legal standpoint.

Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 calling animal control on a loose dog is not theft.  so that's a fine option.

blowing the dog away is messed up, as you acknowledge, but you'd probably get in worse trouble for discharging a firearm in a residential neighborhood than for killing a dog.  pepper spray is also an option.

otherwise: put up a fence.


Title: Question about rape laws in Minnesota?

Question:
So this is more for my own curiosity after spending time interning at a legal aid (specifically helping out with abused women and men) but does "surprise sex" count as rape if there was no violence or threats of violence involved?

The story I heard was that this guy came back to his apartment to see his girlfriend.  As he opened the door, she was right there and she undid his pants and basically started performing oral sex on him.  I'm wondering if that would be considered rape?  She didn't use violence to force him to have sex and he never once said no or anything (at least according to her).  Apparently she did this all the time.

Answer:
 Minnesota doesn't call it rape, it's "criminal sexual contact".you can see the different levels and punishments here: http://statelaws.findlaw.com/minnesota-law/minnesota-rape-and-sexual-assault-laws.html

Now, there's no such thing as "assumed consent". Just because people are in a relationship and have consented in the past doesn't nessecarily mean they'll consent now. That's why its possible for a husband to be charged with raping his wife if he had sex with her while she was sleeping or unconscious (in the past, sexual assualt laws specifically said they don't apply to married couples, that has changed nearly everywhere). However, prior consent is important for a "mistake of fact as to consent" defense. Essentially, if a reasonable person believed they had consent, and the victim gave no sign that they did not consent (and the victim was clearly of a sound, unimpaired mind), then she would have a defense to the crime.

A victim does not have to give a verbal "No" to revoke consent; body language, resisting, even crying can be taken to revoke consent. On the flip side, a verbal "Yes" isn't required either (except by some University code of conduct policies now in CA). Physical responses and non verbal communication can also indicate consent (although good luck proving that in court). It all going to be based on the totality of the circumstances and the individual facts of the case.

As long as he's awake and unintoxicated, and doesn't pull away when she starts, she's probanly ok.


Title: School Debt

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 What would you sue the school for?  They provided you with the education and apparently the degree (even if the education was perhaps below what you consider to be quality).  If they somehow breached their agreement with you, you might seek a remedy for that breach.  It doesn't sound like they did.

>even if it means retracting my BA

Retracting your BA wouldn't change the expenses incurred in providing your education for which you paid them.  They employed staff, maintained classrooms, perhaps provided room and board.  All of those expenses stand even if you didn't get a degree in the first place.

No.  There is almost certainly nothing you can do in this instance.


Title: SPCA gave us wrong cat back, expects us to pay adoption fee.

Question: We took our cat to the spca to simply get fixed. My mom picked up the cat, brought him home and peaked in the cage and... Not our cat. She opened the cage because she wasn't sure and it shot open and attacked my brother, and ran into the woods. Now the spca is saying it's our problem and if we don't bring the cat back we have to pay the adoption fee. And they originally said it was a stray,  then said it was someone else's cat.  What can we do? They fucked up. Why would we pay?  They wouldn't let her (my mom) open the cage and see the cat at the actual spca so how could we know? De, US

Answer: Use this as a lesson to everyone involved to get your pet chipped, even cats! Strange things happen.Answer #2: OP, please keep us updated about this ~~if~~ when you get your cat back.