Title: I have video of A man in Syracuse NY putting money on the heads of everyone in my tribe.

Question:
A man has said he will send $5000 to anyone who murders a member of the tribe which I belong to.  He said he is not kidding and promises no questions asked he will send $5k USD to the person who sends him a picture of a freshly severed head of a member my tribe(in East Africa). The man broadcast this on his Facebook live, I have a video of him saying this while wearing his work uniform with his name and company logo shown clearly.

He said he will pay out even if it is a childs life that is taken for the bounty reward. Can I sue this bastard? If so how?

Thanks

edit: he is not the ceo of the company, he is a factory worker.

edit2: he specified that the murders should take place in Africa.

edit3: The company is in Utica New York not Syracuse.

edit4: Just rewatched the video. He actually makes the threat in English towards the end of the video. He also gives out his phone number.

edit5:For context  his tribe is a highly oppressed minority in Somalia. They are mistreated very badly by my tribe and others. He has a right to be angry at my tribe. But he should not be putting a hit out on innocent children! Especially in Somalia where they have extreme poverty,  terrorists, pirates, and  warlords.

edit6: I am in Minnesota for those of you wondering.

Answer:
 Solicitation to commit murder is a serious crime.  Call the police or better yet, the FBI.  Do it now.Answer #2: NAL

If you are in contact with any members of your tribe I would suggest contacting them and alerting them of the situation. Perhaps suggest that they let the leaders of the tribe know whats going on.

You could find counsel on what you can do domestically through a lawyer perhaps.

Answer #3: Would there be any benefits to contacting the Somalian embassy? It seems to me like that might be a good way to ensure that this is addressed in NY, since OP isn't able to do much more than call it in to his local police or the NY police. Answer #4: So much discourse when the answer is so simple. Contact  FBI. This is intentional terrorism, not just a local police matter. Make sure they see the video. Let them handle from there.   Anything else you do might cause more harm than good.Answer #5: Utica city police: :phone (315) 735-3301
New York State police: https://troopers.ny.gov/Contact_Us/
FBI: https://tips.fbi.gov/

Offering to pay for murder is definitely a felony possibly a capital offense so he might be executed if someone is killed.


Title: Illegal bullying tactics and twisting my contract

Question:
So I work for a major retail shopping company (not gonna state what one for legal reasons) I work in the security which means I deal with cctv and working at the door checking receipts that kind of thing.
So I get asked to rumble (clear cardboard off the shelves and move things forward) I do this two days in a row as a friendly gesture even though nothing in my handy booklet or contract or any paper work does it state I have to do if asked. On the 3rd day in a row I was asked I was really tired and didn’t want to do it and they way the deputy manger spoke to me was rude and completely with no respect I kindly refused. This is the moment he went to rude to hostile he began raising his voice claiming this wasn’t a choice he said I can’t refuse I said I can this went back and fourth I kept calm he didn’t (this being at the entrance of the store with customers seeing) after the back and fourth the personal manager was behind him roughly he went to her and said “take him in that room and tell him” too angry to deal with the situation he let her tell me I followed into the “holding room”  she said I had too and it went under as “essentials” and that if asked no one could refuse but I explained that it wasn’t written and I asked for a copy of my contract so if I was wrong I could check this was very quickly ignored as she wasn’t even giving eye contract and completely changed the conversation to “why do all you security think you don’t have to do it” I kept asking for a copy of my contract  (never did I get a copy) another employee toke my place in the rumble to defuse the situation

Day 2: 30 Mins left to I finish and I’m the only one on at the podium at the front entrance and other college on break ( must always be one guard at door) the deputy and another manager come over to me and the deputy manager looks sidesways into the store just behind the other manager, I knew this was a setup to see my reaction  and it was the other manager asked me to rumble and I explained what happened yesterday and also said I couldn’t because I was the only one on the podium they said the same thing about the essentials and they both walked off together. The deputy was testing to see my reaction.

Day 3:
An employee who’s a Section leader  had done all the jobs on his aisle and had just one more thing to do which is rumble and he went into the warehouse just to get rid of some rubbish and caught the deputy whilst getting rid of the rubbish he explained the department is all good and had one more thing to do, which is too rumble the aisle the deputy said get me to do it the SL explained that he could do it he had enough time the deputy demanded he asked me to do it and told the SL not to mention that he told him to tell me to do it . The SL not realising the days beforehand and the troubles thought nothing of it and said this to me “the deputy wants you to rumble this aisle” the SL is a good friend of mine and the deputy didn’t realise, I discussed with the SL exactly what he was told to do and say and this is how I know the exact way it happened

Called out:

Another security employee was sick of hearing the tricks and games the deputy was playing on me as we were talking bout the manger he walked from behind us so that’s how it began the employee explained calmly that it was bullying what he was doing to me, the deputy then exploded in shouting they then went into the holding room to converse about it without me

The chat:  the chat consisted on the deputy trying to use his Indian background and culture as an  excuse to be rude

Tricks and games:

After their discussion I went into the room with just me and the deputy he asked me to sit down in this crowed room i asked for a representative which he tried to worm out of by saying why why u don’t need that. After realising I was going to converse in this conversation without a witness he brung the manger in charge of my department whilst we waited for her he tried to keep pushing the conversation I kept explaining not without my witness being hear so he then tried to change the conversation saying “ oh I don’t know u well we don’t have a relationship blah blah blah” and then straight after that tries to get information of my family my hobbies and my career path, me being sick of everything that’s happened and how rude he was I gave bare minimum answers,
I realised straight from the beginning the mind game he was trying to play because this was a complaint he wanted to cover his back and try to be friendly and get to know me and tell me about himself,  he wanted to sweeten me into forgetting about this. My manger who is my witness arrives sits down and glazed into the wall she was leaned back and just dreaming I knew in no way was she going to defend me or even care about the issue and how serious this situation is

The points the deputy made:

The first point he made was rumbling is an essentials task and all colleagues do this she’s hmmed and agreed with him while on her phone. (What a good witness)

He also claimed the reason he told he SL not to mention his name is because to build trust (a complete lie and so stupid for him to even say that) he claimed if the  SL used his name I would of done it rather then if he didn’t I wouldn’t of and wanted to try and build trust this way. The other manger just looked up and said yeah I agree ( I realised he had covered his back with lies) even tho the other manager knew these were lies she couldn’t care enough to defend me ( the way he explained the reasons he done this stuff was very make shift and obviously just created on the spot he stuttered loads and was very oh no no I need to connect u with trust to people ) me and the SL are very friendly and have no trouble asking anything to each other.

What came from it:

The deputy still works there. No one likes him he’s got loads of reports against him yet nothing happens

Sorry for spelling mistakes as I am very tired but please if u got advise please help me out (I got a lot of issues with this company but going through all of them will take too long)  I still from this day haven’t seen any legal paper work with the essentials tasks written down or anything  in any handy books or anything in the security help book my contract is just with security nothing else and they have another contract to work on different departments which you get more pay for but they trying to get us to do the same jobs on our normal contract (we might as well be on the new one since they make us do things we can’t obliged to do)

Answer: Being a dick generally isn't illegal. You can go over him to get your job description spelled out and to complain, but they can change your description at any time.


Title: Help! I'm pregnant and leaving for maternity leave and my employer is telling me that I will have to transfer stores when i get back?

Question: Is this legal? I've worked for the company for the last 2 years and they have already hired a replacement for me. My Regional supervision has already told me that he's fine with me coming back but i will most likely be transferred. I've relocated my life for this job and now they are threatening to move me at least an hour away because i'm taking my maternity leave. Is there anything i can do? The repercussions of this are loss of bonus money and i huge addition to my mileage

Answer: That depends on why they're moving you and where they're moving you to.  And if you're covered by FMLA and/or the ADA.  Are there at least 50 employees in a 75 mile radius of where you work?


Title: [US] Falsely Accused - Should I Change My Name?

Question:
Please let me know if there's a more appropriate sub for this but this was the best one I could think of.

A few years ago I was falsely accused of a sexual assault. After months of fearing that I would be spending the rest of my life in jail, losing my job, and >$100K in legal fees the charges were dropped.

Fast-forward to now. I met a wonderful woman, we're engaged and expecting a child soon. My savings are rapidly dwindling and I find myself needing to resume work in my prior field in order to support my new family.

My initial job search has not gone well. Previously, I would have recruiters contacting me pretty steadily attempting to poach me. Now, I have been actively applying for four months and barely get any calls back. I believe this is due to the gap in my resume from the time that I was in court / recovering and I am VERY concerned that HR departments are Googling my name and finding the news articles/videos that heavily insinuate guilt.

I have reached out to a lawyer who is helping me with changing my name but I am concerned that this may result in a Streisand effect. Looking for advice on whether this is the best path to proceed forward or if there are other ways to salvage my reputation. As this is the US, I don't have access to 'right to be forgotten' laws or any similar legal recourse to help clear my name (that I am aware of).

Answer:
 I had a friend who actually did commit some pretty crazy crimes when he was a young adult.

He went on to get a Ph.D. and of course job searches thereafter.  Problem was, the top google search for his name turned up a photo of him in handcuffs flanked by officers from the front page of a newspaper.

His solution was to legally just change a vowel or two in his somewhat unique name.  Name is still pronounced the same.  Does not help a ton with continuity in references, but it allows him to build a history and identity distinct from the crime-associated one going forward.

Answer #2: Problem with changing your name is you will lose references you aren't in touch with currently. Attempts to verify your work history may lead to deadends.

If you think google is problem, look up resources to change that. I forget the term, but you can hire a personal PR team that does shit that helps with that.


Title: Roommate set my stuff on fire, is it worth taking legal action?

Question:
Backstory: I've had a roommate for the past two years that has made my life miserable at best. Constant misogyny, never cleaning up after himself, never cleaning dishes, you get the idea. One weekend my boyfriend and I leave for the weekend. Because we were leaving during finals week, we didn't have time to do the dishes before we left. No big deal, we ask the roommate if he would mind doing the dishes while we were gone. Apparently he does mind and starts screaming at us that we're disgusting, trashy, horrible people. Whatever, we have a concert to go to. So we leave for the weekend. This is when he sets my $50 bean bag on fire, because he was so pissed that we asked him to do the dishes.

The problem is, he took a video of it on Snapchat. So we have people that were with him while we did it and people who saw video evidence of him doing it, but no video evidence as the video gets deleted after 24 hours. My boyfriend found online that he could be charged with Arson with malicious attempt, and destruction if property under $500 which totals to about 13 years. He was informed of this fact. Instead of apologizing, he found different information online saying that he would only get 5 years, and texts us a screenshot saying "ha you're full of shit I wouldn't get that much time for it". So there is a slight acknowledgement of him committing the crime, but his text doesn't explicitly state what he does.

Honestly, I don't care about the bean bag. I just want retribution for my 2 years in hell and complete lack of respect for my property. My question is, with the very loose amount of evidence, is it even worth taking him to court? Would that even be enough evidence to convict?

I live in South Carolina and this was in an apartment (of which he violated several terms of the lease agreement)

Answer: You're overthinking this. Take what you have to the police and let them worry about it. Move ASAP, and consider asking if you can get a restraining order. Answer #2: Snapchat can recover the video.  It's not the "darknet hacker tool" people seem to think.  The cops can have them restore it.Answer #3: Yes, go to the police and report it. Arson is a dangerous crime.


Title: Current situation: dad who works too hard to care and his jobless girlfriend that just doesn't care

Question:
Hi Reddit,

I want to open that this post is way long overdue. I'm currently engaged and my Fiance and I live with our parents still; so that we can save for the wedding and save for a place to rent. My dad's girlfriend and I haven't seen eye to eye since she's moved in. She's been against me living here since she's moved in. I'm going to try and explain the situation as summed up as possible. I know some may require more background and I'm happy to give that.

Brief background (relevant): My parents have been divorced since 1999. My mom was really unstable with jobs because of the market at that time and she's been doing VERY well since then. The divorce was relatively friendly, from what I remember. When the divorce happened, my dad moved into the current house we are in now. So I've been here for well over 15 years. My mom back then would crash at my dads for financial support. Eventually, she was almost on her feet until my aunt (her sister) passed away from an overdose. This happened in about 2005 and my mom took my cousins in without question. She started to do much better, but she still needed support. Fast forward 5 years and my dad left the house we live in now (have been since 1999) to move in with my mom to help support her burden. During this time, my dad met his girlfriend who currently lives with us.

Please don't question this, it's irrelevant. Just family struggles we all deal with.

Fast forward to 2011 and my mom's job finally pays off. She's making bank and has company shares now (fuck yea!) and my dad moves back into our current house (because he's a kick ass renter) and I move back with him. This is where things go off the handle.

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I'm just going to premise everything right now and save everyone time: My dad's girlfriend moved everything from her mansion into my dads small house. Our once, empty "bachelor pad" has become grounds for a storage unit. Somewhere in this mess, is my childhood memory box that even my mom has become concerned with. I am finally moving out in a few months and I want to know: what are my options with legal rights moving out of my dads house and ensuring my childhood memories are able to leave with me?

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To premise, my dad's girlfriend (Marjene) has made it really damn obvious that she thinks I don't belong here. The day I moved out for school, she turned my bedroom into a guest room.... four times until she realized I was going to be coming back home. We had a few arguments over it, in fact, and a ton of others.. I won't dive into details unless I'm asked. It's all really petty. But prior to all of this, she was going through a divorce of her own (which ended a couple of years ago). To my understanding, her and her ex settled on: Marjene keeping all contents of the house and her husband keeping the house. My dads house is not equipped for this kind of deal and Marjene doesn't work a steady job. She tried to cut her costs by storing things here, which means making the once empty basement with a couple of boxes (including childhood heirlooms) turn into a nightmare just to even go down into.

Our history is very long and longer than I care to type everything up for. But I'm at the point where I will be moving out soon and I want to make sure that every. last. thing. that was once apart of me, leaves with me. I just found in the trash some old coloring books and test papers from *my cousin*. Marjene and I hate each other, so if that's how she treats my cousin's stuff, I know she'd burn my stuff without question. My dad insists she never would, but this was all I need to see.

Reddit. Please for the love of god help me. I feel like my childhood literally depends on it. I have no idea how I can save it anymore.

Answer: What legal issue do you think there is here? What law do you think is being broken?


Title: [IL] Did cop give me a ticket?

Question:
So I was dropping off uber passengers in the City of Chicago on wrigley field.

They told me to stop on the street on the main light. Cops were there and they started writing a ticket on me and she pulled out a paper and was probably writing my licence plate.

No one was behind me, so I just went off. Could they mail me a ticket with just my licence plate? Or did the cop give up and let me go?

Answer: So an officer said "I'm giving you a ticket" and when they started writing it you drove off? Don't just expect a ticket, expect an arrest.


Title: (OH) I hired someone illegally to plaster, to tile and to lay electrical wires in my bathroom

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Yeah, welcome to the mess that comes with illegal activity.  Any action you take exposes you to additional risks.  The safest thing to do at this point is probably to pay him so he goes away.  Answer #2: You knowingly paid for unlicensed work and got unlicensed work. You likely can't not pay, but he likely can't put a mechanic's lien down if you don't pay.


Title: Arrested for "Possession of Burglary Tools". Any advice?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 If I were on the jury and you tried to sell me that story, you'd be headed to wherever they send criminals in California these days instead of jail. You should talk to a lawyer. Answer #2: You need a criminal defense attorney. Your story sounds like bullshit. I don't say that to tell you I think you are lying, but so you understand how the story presents. You need professional help. Answer #3: It's going to be hard to prove that you had **zero** criminal intent to loot.  You don't need to prove that.  You'll need to either frustrate the state's ability to prove that you had burglary tools or prove that it's more likely than not that these were not burglary tools or tools intended to assist in a burglary.

I agree with /u/raisedbyyinz - this story sounds like total horse shit.  You guys drove into an evacuation zone past documented barriers and did so with tons of tools and a mock firearm.  It's October, it doesn't snow in Santa Rosa anywhere near October.  Your ski mask wasn't for skiing.  You need a *real* attorney to deal with this and these are serious charges.  What you (and your boyfriend) told the police may have already sank your cases, but that's another topic.


Title: Brother put through a long series of medical tests for a transplant even though the doctors knew they would not qualify him. Any recourse?

Question:
My brother is in need of a liver transplant.  he started the process at our local transplant center. As part of the process of getting on the list a long series of medical tests lasting years needed to be performed which took time and money from my brother.  It is now two years later and he was recently informed that he would not be accepted into the program due to a preexisting heart condition. My brother had a rare case of needing a heart bypass at the age of 36.
The doctors knew this all along from day 1, and yet they put him through hundreds of thousands of dollars in tests with the forgone conclusion that they would never let him in.  Is there any legal recourse?

Answer:
 First thing is first medical malpractice is too specific for this subreddit to help you. Please seek a local malpractice attorney.

Second, can you prove the doctor's knew he would be rejected? Is it possible the doctor's were trying to get your brother accepted for a life saving transplant even through they knew it was rare just because they wanted to try and save his life? It is almost never the individual doctor making these transplant decisions


Title: Illegally working for 7 years and 401k money

Question:
Im an illegal immigrant living in the States, working for an IT company for the past 7 years with a fake name and social security number.
Due to obvious reason I have never claimed my taxes (afraid of breaking more rules) but recently found out that I got about 16k saved in my 401k.

I have been married to an American citizen for 4 years but we have never been able to submit the immigration papers + lawyer fees cuz of the lack of money. (I started out with nothing)
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Now, “16k” in my 401k is making me dream of the possibility of having enough money to quit my job, submit the immigration papers and finally get a job with my REAL name.

I have done some research and I’m aware of the early withdrawal penalty, but I’ got many doubts. The Well Fargo 401(k) Early Withdrawal Costs Calculator tells me I should be getting back 11k which will be enough to start over.

Im afraid that if I quit my job I'll lose everything I have worked for but at the same time I'm sicken tired of living a lie. I’m currently making $20hr, I got 3k in my savings, car and college is all paid for so I have zero debt.

How realistic is it to get my 401k money back given my situation? The 401k is being managed by a company called “empower-retirement”
How long does it take to receive the 401k money back? Whats require to withdrawal the 401k money from empower-retirement?

Any advice/help would be highly appreciated.

Answer:
 7 Years of identity theft and fraud. Sounds like just the type of person legal immigration was meant for. You think whoever owns the SSN you're using isn't going to get hit with one hell of a tax bill on that withdrawal? And you're just OK with that?

Just a little tip. That's not a "fake" SSN, it belongs to someone. Someone who you've been fucking over for the last 7 years.


Title: [CALIFORNIA] Someone posted my # to craigslist for free avocados, getting bombarded with calls / VMs, I know who posted it.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 If he continues to do it then it may constitute harassment. It's very important that you document the listings from this point forward. Where did your friend see him boasting about it and can s/he get a screenshot? You might eventually qualify for some type of protective order if the harassment is longstanding. Answer #2: You could file a police report.Answer #3: This is going to sound insane but I promise it's true:

In CA, the threshold for grand theft is $950 UNLESS it's one of some very specific things. Avocados is one of those. In that case, the threshold is $250.

I cannot tell you what you can or should do with that information but I would certainly advise that you  document all correspondence and your avocado crop.

Source: http://codes.findlaw.com/ca/penal-code/pen-sect-487.html and my weird-ass knowledge of esoteric minutiae. Answer #4: I heard you had avocados.  Share the green, bro.
Answer #5: One time? Not likely. If there is a pattern? Yes, more likely.

If you would like to show a pattern save documents (SS the craigslist ad, archive it, screenshot the boasting, write down names of people who called you asking above avocados, etc)

Answer #6: Honestly, I'm kind of curious as to why it was specifically free avocados, of all things.


Title: [Maryland] Should my brother in law sue the police/court to recoup court costs?

Question:
My BIL was charged with some serious criminal crimes.  He is going to trial Tuesday.  His family and my SIL are 200% sure he is innocent.  The bail was fairly high at over $200K so his family put down 10%, and his lawyers were another large expense.  He expects to be fully acquitted on Tuesday and plans to sue the police and court for monetary damages related to the charge.

From what I understand sovereign immunity protects the court/police/govt and prosecutor immunity protects the district attorney from this kind of suit.  Also I'm obviously not a lawyer, but it seems like the courts/government can't afford to cover the legal fees of every innocent defendant.  And maybe their attitude will be "You didn't go to jail, that is your reward."

I don't think there are issues related to slander or malicious prosecution.

What do you think r/legaladvice?  Is it worth a shot?

My gut reaction is he will try to do this and some firm will do it for him and end up charging him a ton for putting this case together.

Answer:
 > His family and my SIL are 200% sure he is innocent.

Of course they are- they are only hearing his side.

A firm will likely not even take this case- it's not going to happen.


Title: (MO) Roommate enlisting in the army and says army can enter apartment without warning?

Question:
One of my roommates (there's 3 of us total) is enlisting in the army at the end of the month. He will continue going to class like normal as We are all attending college. We live in Missouri and have typical college-kid stuff laying around the house and we may only be 20 years old. My roommate just told me that when he officially enlists that the army had the right to walk into our apartment without knocking and without warning.
The 3 of us are currently renting an apartment to which we all 3 have separate leases for. The roommate enlisting has to give them permission to enter his room whenever apparently and the living room and kitchen are both between our front door and his room. So my questions are: Can the army just open our door whenever like my roommate says? Can they ticket/arrest us if there's anything illegal in sight? Or do they have to have a specific warrant, etc? Would they need probable cause or anything like that if they found anything? I'm not giving the army permission to enter my apartment and neither is my roommate, but can they still do it if we're only renting? Thanks in advance for any help and if you need anything else please just ask. Thanks.

Answer:
 >My roommate just told me that when he officially enlists that the army had the right to walk into our apartment without knocking and without warning.

Your roommate is wrong.

Former Army here.  All I could do during leaders checks for non-barracks soldiers was knock on the door and ask for permission to enter.  Same rule applies here.  They can knock and you can refuse entry.

>Can the army just open our door whenever like my roommate says?

Not without permission.  If they do so, notify the first officer in their chain of command.

>Can they ticket/arrest us if there's anything illegal in sight?

LOL no.  They do not have power/jurisdiction.


Title: I am a teacher who is in love with a man convicted of possession of child porn

Question:
I have been friends with a man, J, since I was 14 years old.  We dated on and off over the years and eventually settled down with other people.

In 2007, J was convicted of possession of child porn.  He plead guilty, served 5 years on probation, and is now a lifetime registered sex offender.  I called him immediately to let him know that I was still his friend, still cared about him, and was here if he needed me.  We got back together for a few months and then parted way.

Earlier this year, I receive a facebook message from him, trying to reconnect.  I agree to go out with him and we get drinks and dinner.  Everything is like old times, we are laughing, making fun of each other, just having a good time.  We end up hooking up and agree to see each other again.

Fast forward several months, to today.  We are, for all intents and purposes, in a relationship. He spends the night at my place, we go out on dates, we tell each other that we love each other.

I really do love this guy.  I know that he has made TERRIBLE mistakes which have hurt a lot of people.  I am in no way trying to take away from the severity of what he did.  It was unconscionable, disgusting, and tragic.  But if he asked me to, I would marry him.

So here is the most recent problem.  I am a teacher.  I LOVE being a teacher.  I cannot imagine what else I would do with the rest of my life.

Is there anyway that I could ever marry this guy and still be a teacher?  Would I be obligated to tell my school?  I know that it would come up when I have to do yearly FBI clearances.  (In one section, you have to list everyone who lives at your address.)  Would I have any legal protection since I did not commit a crime?

I know that this is a sordid subject.  I would love to hear any thoughts you might have.

EDIT: I am in Pennsylvania.

Answer:
 > Is there anyway that I could ever marry this guy and still be a teacher?

Sure.  There's no blanket ban on the spouses of registered sex offenders teaching.

Practically speaking, a school may find that an unacceptable risk.  It would be a case by case thing.


Title: A company on Amazon is offering me a gift card to remove my bad review

Question:
I don't plan on taking legal action, I'm genuinely curious if what they're doing is legal.

I tried a beauty product that caused an allergic reaction on my eyes. I was really worried that my skin had been discolored permanently due to PIH (hyperpigmentation, can be caused by allergic reactions). But thankfully it went away.

I left a one star reviewing urging potential customers to do a patch test first. I wish I had. I said that I was allergic. I also think it's the ingredients. The corners my eyes looked like they had chemical burn. When I had initially bought the product, I found it strange that there were virtually no bad reviews. Now I know why.

The company reached out offering a $20 giftcard to remove my bad review saying that they are 'detrimental'. Is that legal?

Answer:
 Not illegal for them to offer, no.

Also not illegal for you to edit your post saying that they offered you a gift card for a better rating, nor is it illegal for you to forward that offer email to Amazon.Answer #2: It’s not illegal. It is against Amazon’s TOS, but companies do it all the time.

Do it at your own risk. Good luck and sorry about that reaction!Answer #3: Please consider filing a complaint with the FDA against the company that manufactured this beauty product.

 [https://www.fda.gov/about-fda/contact-fda](https://www.fda.gov/about-fda/contact-fda)


Title: 15 and soon to be 17 year old dating [Canada]

Answer:
 That's some cool time-travel shit right there. 15 straight to 17? Wow.

I even like how you don't even bother to ask a question or include anything in the post except your title. Make us work for it to get your story.

I'll start: is your problem bigger than a breadbox?


Title: [NJ] I got a loud noise ticket for a party my housemate threw

Question:
My housemate alowed a friend of his to throw a birthday party at our house. My housemate assured us that if there was a loud noise ticket that he or his friend would pay for it.

I got out of work late and spent the majority of the party trying to make sure that people didn't sneak in through a side door and that they didn't congregate in the driveway. At some point the dj (aka the birthday boy) turned off all the music and everyone left very quickly. A few minutes later the police were knocking on our back door. I opened it, stepped outside and spoke with the officers. They asked for my information and then told me to go back inside, clear out who ever was left, and then come back out to talk to them. When I went inside there were officers in the front hall talking to my housemate who threw the party and another housemate.

I did everything that the officers out back asked, and when I went back out to continue speaking with them I was informed that I was the one getting the ticket despite having told them repeatedly that I wasn't responsible for the party. The officer even told me that he felt bad giving me a ticket because I was being so nice.

My housemate and the dj who threw the party have been unresponsive to my messages about paying me back for the ticket and the time I'll be missing from having to take off from work.

I'm not sure what legal action I'm able to take. I would have just subtracted the money from my rent (rent is paid to one housemate who then pays landlord and bills) but because of this I don't plan on continuing to live at the house.

Edit: formatting

Answer:
 The unfortunate thing is you were there. You didn't stop the party when you heard it being loud. You answered the door and talked to the cops.

You can try to contest the ticket by explaining you'd just come home from work. Keep in mind though the judge may ask questions that don't make you look good.


Title: Pregnant GM being discriminated

Question: I have been a GM at my store location for 1.5 years. I have never received any bad feedback/disciplinary forms during my role. I became pregnant at the first of the year and let my DM know at 8 weeks pregnant (sometime in February). My due date is in September. I received a raise in May right before our busy season. I live in a tourist town. In June, HR and my area supervisor wrongfully terminated one of my employees without even telling me on a Friday afternoon leaving me extremely short handed for a very busy weekend. I asked my area supervisor to help cover those shifts and was told that I would be accommodated. The supervisor never showed up or answered a single message from me after leaving my store that evening following my employee’s Termination. I later found out that the supervisor helped out a neighboring store all weekend. I had never asked for help previously and it had nothing to do with my pregnancy/personal physical capability. I was already understaffed. I complained to my DM about the situation. A week later I was told they were bringing in a co-GM to help through the rest of summer since the supervisors were all stretched thin. My position/pay/benefits were not changed at all when my co-GM came. We have gotten along great and he has witnessed me still working 45-55 hour weeks despite being salaried for 40 hours. After the first full period ended with him there, I was never notified about changes to my bonus eligibility until I opened my check and saw that I only received $200 when I know that was easily a $2k+ bonus. I asked my DM about it and was then told that the other GM was in charge and would be until they found a replacement that would take over while I am out on maternity leave. I asked about my pay rate and he said it would remain the same until the replacement comes & then they would repurpose me & possibly drop me down to hourly. I have bent over backward for this company and to be told at 32 weeks pregnant that I will possibly be demoted (for no reason whatsoever) right before my maternity leave is discrimination. They know I am staying until 38 weeks. My benefits do not include paid maternity leave, but my job is protected by FMLA. What am I entitled to since I never received any writing about being under the new “co-GM” and he got away with my bonus? And as far as being “repurposed” to hourly right before I take maternity leave so when I come back I would no longer have my GM title & would not be eligible to accumulate PTO anymore? Has anyone ever had this happen?

Answer:
 I *think* you're looking at filing a complaint with the EEOC. I also *think* that congress disallowed individual lawsuits until the EEOC has completed its investigation specifically to protect business from litigation. Answer #2: Sounds pretty clear cut discrimination to me. They learned you were pregnant, brought on a new GM to take your role, and took your bonuses as a result of this.

Obviously document everything, save every email and text, and consult with a lawyer.


Title: Is it legal to issue a warrant without any official notice of a violation?

Question:
Arkansas

Back in February I "passed" a school bus unlawfully and was suspended for flipping the bus driver off (yes, it was stupid, please don't insult me, you guys already did that when I asked about the school punishing me for something outside of school). Anyways, I got pulled over the other day, and the officer told me that I had a warrant, so I got arrested, sat on a bench at the county jail for two hours, and got out. Apparently the bus driver that I "passed" got my license plate number and I got slapped with a warrant. I never got any official notice, or any notice at all, that I had been charged. Is this legal? The cop at the jail literally told me that they don't notify you for this type of thing, they just issue a warrant. Also, there is no evidence that I passed a school bus, other than the bus driver's word.

EDIT: Based what evidence there is, would I be found guilty when I go to court?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 Yes, that's perfectly legal.

You get notified of the warrant when you get arrested.Answer #2: On [illegally passing a school bus](http://arkansasnews.com/sections/columns/news/steve-brawner/when-school-bus-stops-stop.html) in Arkansas:

>After Bryant elementary student Isaac Brian was killed in 2004, the Legislature passed Isaac’s Law the next year. Any motorist who illegally passes a school bus – even if nothing happens and everyone is OK – is guilty of a misdemeanor. If convicted, you can go to jail for 90 days, lose your driver’s license for a year, be assigned up to 400 hours of community service, and pay a fine of up to $1,000.

In other words, this is a crime rather than a simple traffic infraction. You should hire an attorney.Answer #3: >I never got any official notice,

They do not have to notice you that you broke the law. You knew that already.


Title: why does my attorney never want to go to trial

Question:
personal injury case -

i always get told that if i go to trial id end up paying more money and my lawyer always try to push me not to

telling me theirs a chance i would owe THEM money after the case

is there chance i could lose my entire settlement? or owe the defendant money?

just bc i dont want to accept a horrible offer i get ridiculous responds from my lawyer trying to convince me that trial is a horrible idea and that i should accept immediately

any truth in this?

Answer: Nobody here knows the facts of your case as well as your attorney does. Trials are unpredictable and can be costly. It's very possible that a "horrible settlement" is a better choice than going to trial.


Title: Waiting for a trial date for 3 years

Question:
I'm the only plaintiff in a civil rights case in New York federal court.  The facts and law behind my case are very strong, there's only a couple of motions that the judge has to rule on to determine if my case can go to court.  It's been 3 years since I filed, and the judge hasn't taken any action on the case in over a year.  My lawyer insists that there's nothing he can do except wait.  I'm concerned that he's not doing everything he could be, especially after one of his other clients came to me and told me my lawyer mishandled their case.  My financial future is tied up in this case.  I know that court rulings happen slowly, but I'm beginning to wonder if this will ever happen.  I want to know if there's anything that can be done to move the case forward.  I've considered paying another lawyer for a second opinion, but I don't have contacts in New York well and  I don't know who I could trust or who would have the right expertise.  The defendant, btw, has indicated that they want to settle, but only after the judge rules that the case can go to court.  Until then they won't settle.   Any advice  would be greatly appreciated.

Edit: removed request for referral

Answer: We don't do referrals. If you don't like your lawyer, get a new one. Call your state's bar association. They typically have referral services.


Title: Parked a rental car in a handicapped spot - Will I wake up to a ticket/tow? (FL)

Question:
Backstory, I am in a new city and rented a car.  Booked a hotel and drove there to crash for the night.  Get there and find shipping containers all over the parking lot.  As I back out to go park in a vacant lot next door, the front desk person comes out and tells me 'it's okay, park in the handicap spot, they are not handicap during the construction'.  But there's a giant handicap only marking on the ground and signage still exist warning of financial penalties (no tow though).

In my state even if there is construction or its your own property or whatever other excuse you can make, it's still illegal and a ticketable offense.  Is this the case in FL?  What recourse will I have if I am ticketed over night?

I plan to move the car first thing before the sun comes up, but is there anything else I can do short of moving my car to protect myself (I know I should just move the car but i'm tired as fuck).  Shitty MS Paint diagrams available upon request

Answer: I know of no law in Florida that allows for a handicapped space to not be so.


Title: My pregnant ex wants to move out of the country.

Question:
edit: no pm's

I live in the U.S. (Florida) My 3.5 months pregnant ex wants to move to Mexico in July. She bought a house in her mother's neighborhood. I do not have the financial means to move my entire life there, but my child will be my entire life. Do I have any rights to having our child born in the U.S.? And if not, will I have any rights to the child whatsoever? I fear losing my child before I even meet her.

Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 >Do I have any rights to having our child born in the U.S.?

No. Until there is actually a child you don't have any rights.

>will I have any rights to the child whatsoever?

Yes, you should, but logistically there may be difficulties and you may need to file for custody/visitation in Mexico. I don't know mexican laws but a cursory google search suggests that in Mexico there is no split custody so one parent (usually the mother) is assigned custody and the other gets visitation. The marital status of the parents does not seem to matter.


Title: Disclosure says "driver seen with blk handheld device raised to his ear in his left ear", is that enough evidence to charge me?

Question:
Preparing a for a case tomorrow, a ticket I got for handheld device a while back. The "narrative text hardcopy" in the disclosure is only 6 sentences long. It says he observed a vehicle (mine, I assume) on ____ Rd, driver seen with blk handheld device raised to his ear in his left ear. And then once vehicle is stopped he was satisfied with my IDs and things like that.

I am defending my case tomorrow in Toronto. I am wondering if that is enough evidence to charge me. It did not mention any video evidence or anything, just that one sentence of him saying that I am seen with the device from a distance while observing the vehicle. It is my first ever ticket, so any tips advice would be nice.

So far my plan is, I will just say that I did not drive with a handheld device in my hand, and I demand for evidence. And if it gets any further I would argue that since the officer was observing from afar, even if I was holding something to my ear at that time, it is unclear because it can be anything but a handheld device, example mouthpiece case. Also I noticed my trial time is changed from 2:55pm (notice of trial form) to now 10:30am (read in disclosure).

Answer:
 If the person who saw you was the police officer who wrote you the ticket, of course it's enough to charge you.

There doesn't need to be video evidence- just like there does not need to be video evidence of speeding, failing to use your turn signal, or any other violation.

> So far my plan is, I will just say that I did not drive with a handheld device in my hand, and I demand for evidence.

*Did* you drive with a handheld device in your hand?

Because if you did, this is a TERRIBLE idea.  Do **not** lie in court.  Ask them to prove their case, but don't lie.

Did you admit it to the officer?  If so, that can be used against you as well.


Title: [UK] Disabled tenant unable to access rented apartment due to broken lifts

Question:
One of the disabled, wheelchair-using tenants in my building lives 30+ stories up in a place that has three lifts. Currently two are broken and awaiting repair.

If the third also breaks down, there is no practical way of this tenant being able to climb this many stairs to access their own rented apartment.

What suggestions would you give for someone in this position?

Answer: I would suggest trying /r/legaladviceuk. Best of luck.Answer #2: Shit does occasionally happen. Do you believe the failed lifts are intentional or that their is unusual delay in the repair?


Title: Getting a restraining order for mentally ill father

Question: (Washington State)My father is schizophrenic, and homeless. He got banned from our town limits about a month ago, but that caused a new problem. My 8 year old brother's school is outside the town limits, and my dad has been hanging around out near the school. We feel as if we have enough history of danger to get a restraining order for my brother, but my question is about his bus ride to/from school. It goes right by where my dad is, there's one way to the school, and my dad stands on the corner, sometimes 50 yards from school property, sometimes a mile. So essentially, my brother drives past my dad every day. I know we can probably get an order that says my father cant be within so many feet of my brothers, but can we get it so that he can't camp alongside my brothers bus route as well? Thanks for any answers.

Answer:
 If your brother has a restraining order against your dad, and your dad places himself somewhere in which he knows he will come within X yards of your brother, then he is in violation of the order. You should report him every time he is.

A restraining order can’t make your father choose to stay away from you, but by causing him to be incarcerated, it can keep you safe from him.

You are not responsible for his mental illness, and you do not owe him any consideration for it if you are feeling threatened. A person who has been abused has absolutely no responsibility to make their attacker get treatment. Your duty is to keep you and your family safe. Everything else is between him and law enforcement.


Title: Government ride for the disabled arrives to take my kid, in his wheelchair back home and only has half enough straps to tie the chair down safely, 911?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Um - perhaps more details? I'm all for succinct but this seems like too little information.Answer #2: Should you call 911? No, you should never call 911 unless there is an emergency. Now, do you mind explaining what happened and what your question is?


Title: [CT] No poison label on plant. Now pet in hospital

Question: I recently bought a Sago Palm from Lowes and had it in my house. There were no warnings of its toxicity to animals or humans anywhere on the label. My cat got into it and ingested a little bit of the plant. I then went online and did some research and found out that this plant is HIGHLY toxic to animals and even humans. Now my cat is in the hospital and I am stuck with a mountain of fees. Do I have any ground to stand on and file suit since there was no warning label?

Answer:
 Please tell me we are not to the point in society where plants need warning labels and people sue when they don't have them. What's next? "Do not feed to pets" labels on chocolate and onions?

The ASPCA lists [over 1000](http://www.aspca.org/pet-care/animal-poison-control/toxic-and-non-toxic-plants) plants  reported as having systemic effects on animals and/or intense effects on the gastrointestinal tract.

It's your job to be a responsible pet owner and research accordingly.


Title: Breathalyzer Alabama

Question:
After reading the papers related to [this incident](http://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2wsrab/dui_alabama_what_do/), I noted that the Certificate of Breath Alcohol Analysis from the police station states that I refused and the test was aborted. Specifically it states that the diagnostic checks were okay, that the subject refused, and that the calibration check was aborted.

I blew into the breathalyzer three times at the station, and to the best of my knowledge fully consented and obeyed any demands given to me. The officer stated something to the effect that the machine wasn't working, but it was okay. Alabama is an implied consent state so I've assumed that a failure to consent would have resulted in a blood test, and I was never given one.

What's the significance of this, if any? Am I being screwed here? The wording really has me concerned,
Topic:
DUI

Answer:
 DWI Enforcement Instructor here.

"Implied Consent" does not necessarily mean that blood is drawn if you refuse the breath test.  It just means that there is a legal consequence for the refusal.  The officer *can* get a warrant for blood if you refuse breath, but may not be *required* to do so.

How successful you'll be at arguing that you tried to consent to the test will depend on the specific facts of the case and the officer's ability to articulate them.

It's not uncommon for people to try to "beat the machine" by agreeing to take the test, and then trying to play games and affect the test result by doing things like:

* pretending to blow without actually blowing air into the instrument

* blowing *around* the mouthpiece instead of into it by not making a tight seal with their mouth

* not blowing steadily into the instrument/starting and stopping

If the officer can articulate HOW you were not following his directions at the time of the test, then you can still be found to have refused the test despite having "tried to take the test."

If he cannot do that, though, and all he can testify to is that the instrument timed out, then you might be able to argue that you did not refuse the test.

Does that make sense?

If you have any other questions, I'll answer what I can.


Title: Are cat bites taken as seriously as dog bites?

Question:
Yesterday my mom was feeding my cat and my cat has this habit of rubbing between your legs when you’re about to feed him. Apparently my mom didn’t see him and stepped on his tail and as a result my cat bit my mom on the leg. It’s not a bad bite but there is some swelling and she’ll probably need to go and get some antibiotics for it. My cat has had all his shots but I’m scared that when she tells the doctor what happened they’re going to take him away or something. They’re was also a time when I was taking my cat to the vet that he bit the vet tech on the hand, but that was because they were sticking one of those things up his ass and he was showing clear signs of agitation. My mom also knows this happened and she might mention it. In the 4 years I’ve had my cat those have been the only 2 incidents and they were always in retaliation. I’m also in Texas if that helps.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 She needs to get it checked out and get antibiotics. Usually they’ll alert animal control to do an in home quarantine even if you’re cat is up to date on shots. Cat bites are nasty punctures.
I had cellulitis within hours and needed to be admitted after a cat bite on my finger.

They won’t take your cat away. But your mom really needs to get treatment. The bites go very serious quickly.


Title: (KS) texting while driving when I was neither texting nor driving.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >What can I do to fight it?

You can get a lawyer if you want, but it will probably be more expensive than the fine.

>The ticket is $65 dollars, is it worth fighting?

That is very cheap for a texting while driving violation. Consider yourself lucky.

Even though you were "stopped", your car was running and in the drive gear, and you didn't pull off the roadway. Technically, you violated KS law.

http://www.drivinglaws.org/kansas.php


Title: Can I be held responsible for someones property that they left in my car?

Question:
About a month ago me and my friend hung out, my friend lives a good 1 hour away and I was in the area.  My friend brought his friend,lets call him George. I parked the car in a parking lot and we all got out, George left his backpack with a lot of stuff in my car, even though I told him it's not a good idea as my car doesn't lock and this isn't a good area to leave stuff in an unlocked car... he didn't listen.

Flash forward  hours later and George is doing stupid shit and got kicked out of Mcdonalds. I'm not sure where he went but he took off with someone else, I have to go home, it's late, so I leave. I get home and see his backpack in the back of my car.

He sent me messages on Facebook saying he needs his stuff back tomorrow or his dads going to be mad and call the cops.

Flash forward to one month/bunch of messages later and we've been unsuccessful with meeting up. I talked to his dad last week and he said he can come get the stuff this past weekend. I was out late Saturday and they didn't want to come out after midnight, George said Sunday morning since his dad doesn't have work. I'm busy with work and stuff during the evening and sleep usually during the day so I'm usually only free during the night. That pissed them off and they threatened the cops again.

Finally I said I don't care anymore, call the cops, I'm not responsible for your backpack that you left in my car even though I told you not to do it. Then I told him since he keeps mentioning the cops I'm taking the backpack and leaving it outside in the woods(at  a location he could find it)  so he can pick it up whenever is convenient for him. Angered him because it could be stolen and I haven't heard from him sense.

My state is Connecticut

Answer:
 > Then I told him since he keeps mentioning the cops I'm taking the backpack and leaving it outside in the woods(at a location he could find it) so he can pick it up whenever is convenient for him.

Why don't you just ship it back to him?  That's a quick and legal method to get rid of this mess.


Title: Chicago, IL - Neighbor's building was on fire and damaged our vehicles

Question:
Last Saturday our neighbor's building, which is managed by Eastlake management, was on fire. When the fire department came in, they broke several windows from the 5th floor to put out the fire. All the debris and broken glasses fell into our parking space next to the building and damaged five vehicles. According to the news, four got injured, one person is in critical condition. The cause of the fire is still under investigation. It's been almost a week since this fire accident, however, Eastlake management hasn't removed all the broken windows from their building management. They stated that the rest of the broken windows are firmly attached to the window frames so that nothing will be removed at this point. They also refused to clean up the mess in our property. So, today I submitted a building violation request to CHI 311, hoping to get the city of Chicago involved, but the estimated completion time is 45 days. Does anyone know if there's a way to have Eastlake management take immediate actions?

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My landlord and I have been told by Eastlake management that they have nothing to do with the fire, so their insurance company won't be responsible for our damages that we should go after their tenants (but they are still in the hospitals!). I know that everything is still under investigation, I don't have much to do but wait, but I am also very stressed. Does anyone have any advice? Can the building management next door deny all responsibilities? Worst case, I am thinking about taking this to the small claim court or do we have other options? Thank you.

Answer:
 Go in person to your alderman's office.  311 is useless.Answer #2: Until the cause of the fire is determined, nobody is going to do much in the way of cleanup. CFD is doing one investigation. Eastlake's insurer is probably doing another.

Your landlord should file a claim with their insurance company, and you should too if your car was damaged. Your insurance company should pay your claim, then they'll go after whoever was responsible for the fire, if indeed someone was.


Title: I'm not being allowed to cash out a pawned item due to background check issues. [USA,LA]

Question:
I'm in North Louisiana

Two months ago I pawned a .22 rifle to pay some bills during a change of employment. I pawned it for $100 with $20 interest each month. So as of today it's at $140. Coming up soon it'll bump up to $160 and wanting to avoid that I went in to pay it today.

I go up with the $140 out in cash and I'm going through the paperwork for the background check since it's a firearm. I absent mindedly wrote the address that I'm staying at for college instead of my parents house ( which is only about 30 miles away) that's on my driver's license. The guy working comes over and says that he can't run it because the address that I wrote down isn't the one on my driver's license. I explained that the one I wrote down is my temporary residence and the one on my license is my permanent and asked him if I could just start over and write down my permanent instead. He said no, that I'd have to go to the DMV and pay to have the address on my license changed to my temporary address.

Slightly frustrated and having work soon, I asked if I could at least pay off the loan and interest so that the interest wouldn't accumulate when it hits the due date soon. He also said that I couldn't do that either and said "You can pay off the interest on it now and I can hold on to that $20 for when the interest goes up again." but he would not allow me to completely pay off the loan.

I'm quite frustrated with how things have turned out. I don't want to have to pay to have my license changed, and I also don't want to deal with any issues that might come up because of a change of address.

Is it possible to use the address on my license regardless because it's permanent? And is there a legal definition of permanent/temporary I'd need to be aware of for this argument?

If that doesn't work I read on the ATF.gov website that a hunting license registered to my temporary residence could circumvent my issue?

Finally, if all of this background check work takes too long and I can't fix it before the interest increase, do I have any way of keeping the pawn shop from charging me more since I've produced the required amount by the required time but they won't take it? From the tone of that exact quote of the worker, it seems as if they're just trying to bait me out a few more days until the interest rolls over again.

Answer:
 It's not the worker jerking you around.  I went through this at Cabela's, when my driver's license city name didn't come up with the same thing as their address checker had (I live in a suburb) and they refused to sell to me until I changed my address with the DMV.

You might check to see how much it costs to do the address change online.  If it's a reasonable fee, you can change the address, print out the paper, and then change it back.

Doing something like waiting until it goes onto the shelf and getting a friend to purchase it for you could be considered a straw purchase and is not a good idea.


Title: Someone who gives talks and makes speeches is using and showing a selfie my cousin took without his permission

Question:
Hey reddit. Basically what the title says. My cousin has been unable to find a lawyer to take his case yet and I'm just seeking info for him.

The story is that in the past my cousin caused a car accident. He was totally in the wrong because he was on his phone on Facebook at the time and it was his fault. He has paid his debt to society, done his time and settled his lawsuit.

But now a family member of the person who died in the accident goes around giving talks and speeches to schools and other groups in the New England area about why using a phone while driving is dangerous. It's certainly a noble cause but the issue is that when she gives her talks one of the pictures she shows the selfie my cousin was taking when the accident happened. She doesn't have the copyright or permission to use it. My cousin is not allowed to contact her so I sent her a letter asking her to stop but she hasn't. The cops don't care because she's a cop so they are automatically on her side. Money is tight for my cousin and he hasn't been able to find a lawyer to take his case.

The question I (we) have is what we can do to get her to stop? Not giving her talks, just using the selfie. Any help or info for us is appreciated, thank you reddit.

Answer:
 If ever there was a case for fair use...Answer #2: The cops won't help because this is not a criminal matter but a civil one. Police generally don't get involved in civil disputes.

An attorney won't help because it's a losing case. As others have noted, you contacting this person could get you in legal (criminal) trouble.


Title: does my bro have a chance?

Question:
TX. My older brother has never gotten along with our mother. He's lived only with our dad for the last 7 years (he's 21) but the other 3 of us live between both of our parents. He has been in trouble a bit with weed and traffic tickets, but nothing too major.

He's been working at our mother's medical practice since she earns way more money than our dad does. He would pay her bills for her using quickbooks online and there's some times where she leaves the office to have a "liquid lunch" and doesn't come back, so she tells him to just sign the checks in her name. She also does this when he needs to be paid, it's honestly a very common things she does (shes had me do it many, many times as well).

I guess my brother needed more money and took advantage of her obliviousness so he wrote some checks to himself in her name (I do not know if he had permission from our mother). She found out after he did this multiple times because her bank noticed the signature was wrong. I know the amount has added up to over $2000, but I'm not sure how much of that was given permission by her. She flipped when she found out about 3 months ago, but never decided to tell police about it until now. He was arrested yesterday for that as well as some unpaid traffic tickets.

He's kind of a shithead but our mother has always targeted him for no reason. He does not deserve this from her, she has been so bad to all of us, and we can prove that she is a very unfit mother, even though she is a physician. She is severely bipolar and tends to explode over literally anything. I know that this is a bad thing for him to do, but she has been so absent and mean to only him for years with no explanation. She is just a very bad person.

I have proof she is unfit for my minor brothers to be living with her (pictures of guns in her side table, pill bottles written to random patients of hers in the bathroom, anti-psychotic meds, and prescriptions for opioid induced constipation). We have only kept these things to ourselves solely because we need her and her husbands money. Is there any way we can maybe prove that she has no credibility and get the case thrown out? There is no way she will just settle the case, she wants him in prison.

Answer:
 > He's kind of a shithead but our mother has always targeted him for no reason. He does not deserve this from her, she has been so bad to all of us,

WOW. Your brother forges checks and steals her money and you're calling HER bad??

What is your brother being charged with? I'm assuming forgery and theft.

Theft is a state jail felony in Texas if the value of the property or services stolen is $1,500 or more. The punishment for a state jail felony in Texas is incarceration up to 2 years, plus a fine of up to $10.000.
His forgery will also be a state felony, also punishable by up to 2 years in prison and a fine up to $10,000.

So he's looking at up to 4 years in prison and $20,000 in fines.

He needs a lawyer NOW. Your mother's parenting skills have nothing to do with his criminal charges.


Title: (CA, Eviction Notice) My mother is being forced to pay the portion that section 8 is refusing to pay the owner

Question:
On mobile so I apologize in advance for my rant.

My mom has been on housing assistance for over 5 years. We have been in our current unit/home for about 3 years. This unit is set to over a $1000 monthly but she just pays a little over $300 Her name and mine are on the lease because i was of age (18), we don't speak  directly to the owner but with the realty management.
We always have problems with the house, especially the living room ceiling that tends to leak every summer due to the cooler right above it not being set up correctly, along with other issues that are not as major. Every time management is notified they send sketchy people to do the job and nothing ends up being fixed. Every year housing authority inspects the unit and earlier this year (march) it failed twice. The realty management was notified to fix the problems or the contract was going to be terminated, they were given about a month to do so and reschedule an inspection date. During this period section 8 was going to stop payments because according to housing authority the owner/realty management violated their HAP contract. We (our family) were given a new brochure and were told we had 3 months to find a new unit or speak with the realty management and have them fix what had failed. A month later (april) we were told it had passed and we thought we were fine.
Which bring us to (june), Two days ago she heard a knock at the door and by the time she got to it no one was there but there was a letter stating that she had to pay for what section 8 has not paid, with the exact words "3-DAY NOTICE TO PAY RENT OR QUIT". She is being forced to pay over $1800. She is obviously on housing assistance because she doesn't have the funds to pay for the rent completely. I talked to her housing assistance worker and i was told that the realty management cannot force us to make the payment ant they were going to contact the realty management immediately. A quick google search led me to the Cornell University law school site which states the following:
"(4) The family is not responsible for payment of the portion of the rent to owner covered by the housing assistance payment under the HAP contract. The owner may not terminate the tenancy of an assisted family for nonpayment of the PHA housing assistance payment."
Today, the 3rd, My mom and I personally went down to the realty management's office to make our usual $320 monthly payment.
They refused and told us it was incomplete.
According to the realty management the owner does not care where his money comes from, and because section 8 didn't make the payments(they did pay but then withdrew the money) for the months of march and april we are held liable for that portion because her name and mine are on the lease.
Now the realty management wants to lawyer up against housing authority because this is not the first time they do something like this and they believe to not be at fault. But neither are we. We can't afford to pay or even move in such a short notice. We have no idea what to do. Im afraid that this will affect me too.

Answer: You bet this is going to affect you. You need to stay in VERY close contact with the HA because if there is not a clear understanding of the circumstances and an eviction is filed you could lose your section 8.


Title: Wrongfully denied a promotion. What should I do?

Question:
Hello,

My wife applied to be a Customer Service Manager at let's say ABC company in Toronto, Canada. She is currently the supervisor in that department and is more experienced than the other top candidates, who are from totally different departments. It turns out her manager and director selected her for the new role but her VP came in and said no because she declined a different position earlier in the year (Earlier in the year she applied to be let's say a Manager of Operations, she didn't get that role and was offered the Operations Coordinator role instead which she declined). She found out this reason through her Manager and is beyond upset at this.

She is more than qualified for this role and has proven herself but was declined because she refused an alternative role from the past. I know she can file a complaint with HR but their HR dept is known not to do anything. Is there anything else she can do? Do she have a strong case?

Thank you for all of your help!

Answer:
 >Is there anything else she can do? Do she have a strong case?

Was she refused because of her membership in a legally protected class? If no, then this is legal.Answer #2: Is this a union position? Then have her speak with a union rep.

If it is not a union position, the company is free to use any criteria they want to determine if someone gets a promotion. Your wife has absolutely 0 legal rights to get a promotion.


Title: Sheriff has came by my house twice to collect a fee, and I don't know if it makes sense.

Question:
Based in Virginia, Hampton Roads

I'm typing this for my mother.

About a month ago, a sheriff dropped off a notice at my house saying that if a certain expense wasn't paid(the notice was dropped off in the mailbox and didn't specify what expense or fee had to be paid), then the police, or whoever could take whatever they wanted from my house of value if they wanted to, as sanctioned by a VA rule. It was given on a little post card type paper with a message. I'll post an image when I find it.

Anyway, I called the number numerous times and it never has anyone available to pick up or a line to even leave a message. This note card seemed suspicious so I called a lawyer and have yet to hear back.

Today the sheriff showed up again. My husband was home but I wasn't. The sheriff dropped off the note again. Today is also the day that I found out that the notice is for a doctors fee(dermatologist) that I didn't/forgot pay for, 275$, nearly two months ago. I've been two additional times since then(getting treated for signs of alopecia) and not once did they notify me of this pending balance.

 Now the fee has been hiked up to 480$ for I guess not paying. Is this legit/ethical? Do I just need to pay it? Or is it not legit?

Answer:
 Sounds like you were sued and got a judgement against you. Were you ever served legal papers or had them dropped off at your house?  Answer #2: This could be a scam.  Are you sure this is a real sheriff?  Call your local sheriff's department, (using the phone number from their website, not from this notice) and ask if they can verify the authenticity.

If it's authentic, then most likely you got sued, the plaintiff got a default judgment because you didn't show up, and is now trying to collect.  You may be able to petition the court to set aside the judgment and hold a retrial since you were not properly served.
Answer #3: You should also contact the doctors office. I am guessing that they have the wrong address, perhaps as a clerical mix up. Doctors offices don't sell debt, go to court and get a judgement for a bill that is two months old.  They generally send planty of notices, because they lose money when they have to sell it off.


Title: Tenants won't pay rent. What legal recourse do I have here?

Question: [Maryland] So, basically, this couple has been staying with me for a couple months under a verbal contract. They are miserable to live with. Newborn baby, drug use, constant screaming and fighting, stealing. Just general white trash. Now I am having to fight tooth and nail to get this months rent from them with no luck. What course of action can I take to either get them out of here or to get my rent money? I can't really afford a lawyer or anything like that.

Answer:
 You can give them written notice to vacate within XX days, that number determined by the laws of your state.

If they owe you money you can sue them in small claims court. For both that and getting them out you'll need to give your state.


Title: Currently living out of my car and it was towed because a restaurant manager lied. What do I do? Minnesota.

Question:
Hello! Someone from another sub said I should ask for advice here since I have a unique problem and I'm currently living in my car. Today I parked my car at a local restaurant to grab a burger during their lunch special. I ate my burger and decided to walk over to a book store a few blocks away. I fell asleep for a couple hours and came back to my car being gone. At first I thought it might have been stolen, but I realized my car really isn't worth much to a thief. I went inside and talked to a manager who informed me it was towed. They said it was because it was taking up multiple spaces, and they don't allow sleeping in the parking lot.

The only signs in their lot say no overnight parking, but nothing else. Also I was not parked in two lanes because I always make sure to be considerate of others. I've also never stayed overnight in their lot and definitely did not sleep in their lot. My gut feeling is that they noticed I was homeless while eating and watched me to see what car I came from to have it towed. I've been to this place a couple times before, and while the serves are generally nice to me, I've noticed that the managers never say anything to me even while greeting other tables. I've also caught a couple bad stares from them. I try to never bother anyone and I always am super self conscious about my smell so it's something I pay attention to. I always tip since the waitresses usually give me soda for free and I always leave if they get busy so I don't bother other people waiting for a table.

I tried to reason with the manager and explained that I know I wasn't parked in two lanes, but they basically threatened to call the police for tresspasing so I left. The contact for the tow company wasn't much help either. Their owner also didn't seem to care and only wants the $120 fee. I have only a few dollars until I get paid next Friday and I only work part time right now after just getting this job this month.

I'm trying to stay calm and figure things out, but I'm freaking out inside. I have no idea what to do and I don't know how to fix this. My car had my clothes, some dry food and drinks along with most of my time. I also had my work id in there for my new job. Basically everything I own is in that car. I have a gym locker with some stuff in it for like a day or 2 but that's it. So I'm freaking out.

Is there a way to get the car back for free? I know they are lying about me being parked in two lanes so I don't understand how they could tow my car so quickly. Can I get the camera footage somehow? Is there some way around paying since my car is my home too? I'm just looking for any help I can possibly get with this. Thank you all so much.

Answer:
 They can not prevent you from obtaining personal property out of the car. So you can get your food, drinks, work badge, etc out of the car. Other than that, the other redditor is correct, not much you can do except wait until you get paid and get the car out. Unfortunately, expect them to charge sometime like 10-20 per day for “storage fee”Answer #2: Sorry but most every place has a sign that says parking is for customers only.

Once you leave you are no longer a customer.

The tow is in all likelihood valid.

You are gonna need to find a way to come up wit the cash to get it out.


Title: Parents rent home from grandparents, havent paid rent in months

Question:
Hi,

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So my grandparents decided to move over near us in Florida and bought the house next to them to give to my parents so they had their own place free of bullshit. At the time when i was there it was fine, but shortly after i moved out my father had health problems and had to stop working for a few months. During that period we thought he was actually going to die so my grandparents gave them a month or two of rent free time so they could catch up on bills and other stuff. Since then they havent paid rent since those months. I dont think my grandparents have the heart to say anything but they are being abused and used horribly in this situation. The house is slowly getting worse and worse, destroyed carpet hole in a door etc. What can they, or myself, do to push them to say something or evict them?My parents are pieces of shit so im 100% on the grandparents side here. If they get kicked out thats thats fine, i just dont want my grandparents being used anymore.

Answer: Your grandparents can evict them (rather easily in Florida).  Other than that, you don't have a legal issue here.


Title: Dead body Near Apartment

Question:
Location: Jersey City, NJ

A few hours ago my dad encountered a dead body and we don't know how to approach this gently. I will be honest, my dad and I don't exactly trust the police so we want to do everything possible to be within the law.

I have cameras situated in the building and around the outside so what I thought of doing is getting an external hard drive and putting all the footage from after Wednesday into it and when the police arrive we have a way where they can find the criminal.

So is this the right approach and can you type out what I am supposed to do in steps so that way this can go as cleanly as possible. As you can see, I am panicking and so is my father so it would be very appreciated.

Also, if it helps my mom and dad are the legal owners of the apartment complex.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 > I don't exactly trust the police

Wait, So you think finding a dead body = getting innocently convicted of murder? Sounds legit.Answer #2: Ironic post of the day.  Scared of police so don't call them to report dead body and instead act extremely suspicious, which then results in criminal investigation. Answer #3: Wait... you've found a deceased person, and you haven't called the police yet?

I don't understand the crux of this question... if you find a deceased person, you pick up the phone and call 911. Answer #4: If only there was some government body, perhaps one responsible for dealing with potential crimes. If only one existed I would recommend it to you. I'll just keep working on figuring out what you should do. This is a toughie!Answer #5: Why are you panicking? Just call 911. There may be family looking for this guy. If the police want your security footage they will ask.


Title: (FL) Is it legal for an employer to only offer health insurance that's more than an average employees salary?

Question: Insurance for myself,my spouse and two kids would cost more than my salary every month(I earn $20.00 an hour 30 hours a week). This is the only policy they offer. Is that legal?

Answer:
 yes, it's legal; however, your insurance would not then be classed as "affordable" under the Affordable Care Act, which would enable you to purchase subsidized coverage off the exchange at www.healthcare.gov.

get on healthcare.gov, call their 800 number (which, i believe, is staffed 24x7 with americans who are actually pretty helpful) and see what the deadlines will be for you to sign up for 2016 and what kind of information you will need to gather and provide.


Title: Could next nuclear option be impeachment by 34 senators?

Question:
Just a hypothetical. In order to be convicted by the Senate, 2/3 of the members *present* have to vote for conviction.

Source: https://www.usconstitution.net/xconst_A1Sec3.html

>And no Person shall be convicted without the Concurrence of two thirds of the Members present.

In order for the senate to conduct business, they need a quorum.

Source: https://www.senate.gov/reference/reference_index_subjects/Rules_and_Procedure_vrd.htm

>Article I, section 5 of the Constitution requires that a quorum (51 senators) be present for the Senate to conduct business. Often, fewer than 51 senators are present on the floor, but the Senate presumes a quorum unless a roll call vote or quorum call suggests otherwise.

If these are the only rules, couldn't 51 senators meet at a Red Robin and if 2/3 of the 51 senators agree, they can convict a federal official if they were impeached by the House?

Is there a rule preventing 34 senators from claiming a supermajority at a Red Robin and convicting their enemies as long as there is 51 senators present?

Answer:
 > Neither House, during the Session of Congress, shall, without the Consent of the other, adjourn for more than three days, nor to any other Place than that in which the two Houses shall be sitting.

They can't convene at Red Robin without the House first voting and approving the change of Place.


Title: Non-compete from Florida to Texas

Question:
Hi, I searched around a bit on non-competes here and elsewhere, and it really seems like it can vary wildly in terms of what to expect. I'm a programmer at a major health software firm, and have been here for three years. I'm not particularly senior or anyone important, but I have been here for a while and I know the organization well enough.

Unfortunately I feel they haven't been paying me enough, and so I've been searching around. In my job search, I've gotten far along in the hiring process with a major competitor of that company, enough to where I think I may soon get an offer that is much higher than my current salary (tens of thousands more).

I spoke with a friend at my current job who has been here longer, and he mentioned that I probably have a non-compete clause in my contract, which I was not aware of (It's my first job out of college, so sue me). This non-compete clause basically says I cannot do business with anyone in the same field, nor with any clients, in "any area where the Group has business or customers" (they have customers in all 50 states). This strikes me as very broad, which as far as I can tell is a point in my favor. It *does*, however, name this second company that I am interviewing with by name, along with a few others as examples of competitors whom I am not allowed to work for.

The position is in Texas, and I am currently in Florida. I'm not sure how this affects things, as I've heard Texas has tightened up in recent years in enforcing NC contracts and Florida is apparently notoriously litigious with them. There is also a clause about how the business may release me from this restriction at its discretion, so long as I don't do "restricted" stuff (basically share major business secrets, which I frankly don't really have, though I'm not sure how they might see it).

That's a lot of info, and I'm sure I'm missing some important points. I'm fine hiring a lawyer if it would make a difference, as the amount of money this new job would bring in more than justifies a few thousand dollars (feel free to tell me if I'm way low-balling what the fees might be). I'm mostly wondering what my standpoint is, whether I should expect to actually be sued, what it might cost me, and how the new company might react.

Also, if this is an obvious "get a lawyer dummy" situation, if anyone knows how I might look up contract lawyers efficiently in my area (north Florida, I know no lawyers, or anyone who even knows a lawyer) then that would also be appreciated.

Thanks.

Answer:
 Florida is one of the few states that's held a nation-wide NCA to be reasonable.

NCAs must be reasonable in scope, duration, geography, and protect a legitimate business interest. Scope may be an approach for this; a NCA cannot bar you from an entire industry. As might the legitimate business interest.

Short answer: You should absolutely talk to an attorney who specializes in employment contracts in your area.


Title: Case for unlawful termination?

Question: My friend was recently let go from company (in the state of GA) with severance after being told he was not a good fit. A week and a half before his termination, he had a tragic death in his family, and he reported it to management. In addition, due to the stress surrounding the week of the funeral and death, he dropped the ball at work, and he was not working up to his usual standards. However, there were no major financial or situational impacts of his work that week, and it mostly resulted in him just being poked and prodded heavily by management. Furthermore, the following week, his manager sat down during a scheduled “check-in” performance review (an unofficial one) and gave him a list of specific things to improve on. He was also told that he has 30 days to make these improvements, but it was verbally said and it was not in any form of writing. Nonetheless, he was let go less than 7 business days later under the condition that he was not meeting requirements. When he asked about the 30 day period, the management had no response except “we didn’t think you were worth keeping around for a full 30 days”. On a side note, my friend was the only person of color on a entirely Caucasian team, and he was constantly told that “he just wasn’t a good fit, and we want someone better to fit in with us”. Does my friend have a case for unlawful termination in some form? His severance did not come with a contract or signed document of any kind. Thanks!

Answer: None of what you said gives me a reason to believe that he was wrongfully terminated. GA is an at will state also which means he can be fired for just about any reason or no reason at all barring him being in a union or having an employment contract that specifically states otherwise.


Title: Major Online News Outlet posted an article about the THAI boys trapped in the cave and what Elon Musk is doing to save them - and also referenced/hyperlinked to a FAKE crypto giveaway INSIDE that same article they claimed was being hosted by SpaceX/Elon - I was scammed almost $2,000... Help?

Question:
Hey guys, good morning.

A bit of a long shot here I know, but I figured I’d at least ask. So I try to stay away from a lot of the nasty politics involved with traditional news sites by reading technology-based news. Primarily, I keep up with this on a phone app that a company publishes (company is known for hosting startup competitions called “Disrupt”, located in the Bay Area of California) their stories on.

Yesterday while I was sitting around on my phone, I began reading an article about how Elon Musk is helping to build a tiny submarine out of SpaceX rocket parts to help save those poor kids trapped in Thailand. In the same article, the author mentioned about how Elon was tweeting a bunch about the rescue mission details, BUT ONLY TOOK A BRIEF BREAK TO PROMOTE A CRYPTO GIVEAWAY HOSTED BY SPACEX. That part I capitalized was underlined and hyperlinked within the article, so I clicked on it and it literally led to an elonmusk.com domain - showing how much crypto was left on a bar graph and counting down how much was left to give away - with instructions on how to send between 0.5-2 ETH to get back what you sent, plus a bonus amount! I was so excited.... I could really use the money. So I quickly logged in to send 2 transactions of 2 ETH to the address it mentioned, but nothing came back...

I reloaded the news article, only to find the link and the reference had been removed with only a footnote about the removal left at the bottom of the article, and that’s when it hit me - the author had posted a scam DIRECTLY in a PUBLISHED and SYNDICATED news article without doing ANY due diligence. I feel horrible. $2000 is a lot of money for me. I know a lot of you might think  I’m stupid or gullible, I understand - but to me it was very believable. I have never fallen victim to a scam before about ANYTHING, and if Elon is flying cars into space and selling flamethrowers, a crypto giveaway did not seem so unusual to me with respect to that.

So my question:

Is there any action I can take to recover my funds? Is this company liable or at fault in any way? I don’t want to punish anyone, just want back what belongs to me.

Ultimately I did not purposely seek out a crypto giveaway because that’s asking to be scammed - I went to a news site to read a story about a crisis and instead was baited by negligent authors and was given the impression that I could participate in something awesome.

Answer:
 Doubling scam irl. Did you not play runescape?Answer #2: Every time someone posts about losing their cryptocurrency and asks if they can "recover their funds" I get the biggest schadenboner. No, you can't get your funds back. A *bank* might be able to get your funds back, because a *bank* has people working on and overseeing the transactions. Cryptocurrency transactions can't be reversed. Welcome to your libertarian paradise.Answer #3: Sorry for your loss.

In case it helps at all, here's a sad face for you:  :(


Title: Serious issues selling a car... Please help

Question:
I gave a "friend" a great deal on a vehicle, $500 under low book price. The car had been sitting un moved for 2 years, but was in great condition when it was parked.  I gave her the deal because I figured it was more than fair. Everything was disclosed by me prior to making the agreement. We have a hand written bill of sale WITH a witness signature as well, with her agreeing to pay $100 a week...I also told her I would work with her a little... It has now been 2 months and I have gotten under 2 weeks of payments. She does not have the title. I even agreed to give her the title early, if she made 2 months of regular payments. I am now over 1000 miles away, and are my wit's end. I was trying to help her, but I feel like I am being fucked over. Any advice would be greatly appreciated... Do I report it stolen... Do I have to go back and file a small claims suit?... Can my attorney do that for me (he's really busy and I don't want to involve him if possible)... Thank you in advance.
EDIT: Car is in Montana...I am in Southern California
Topic:
Small Claims Procedure

Answer: If the title is still in your name, and the deal was for her to make payments and she hasn't, I'd treat it more like a stolen rental car. You can either have someone pick it up for you, or call a tow company and ask them to go get it, or tell her she needs to return it. If she doesn't return it, the police won't get involved since it's a civil matter.


Title: My landlord wants me to move out??? HELP

Question: [deleted]

Answer: She can't evict you unless you violate your lease.


Title: Dad wants increase in child support, mom wants it decreased.

Question: 16M: I really think my dad is an absolute moron in this situation. My sister is 18, has her own apartment, and doesn’t go to school, so my mom decided to take my dad to court to get a decrease in child support. My dad decided to retaliate and fight for an increase in child support. He has hired a lawyer. My mom can’t afford one, nor can she afford to pay more child support due to debt she’s been struggling to pay off. My mom literally has divorce agreement that clearly states that if one child is 18, does not live with either parent, and does not attend school, then there will be a decrease in child support. My sister is not going to college anytime soon, she’s going but it doesn’t seem like it’s gonna be soon. So will my mom win this 100%? That only seems right to me. I don’t know what argument my dad had to raise the child support, and my mom has evidence to decrease it.

Answer:
 First, you should stay out of this. This is a matter between the adults and no one should have told you about it.

Second, no one can really answer your question. If your state's child support calculations for 1 child (you) are more than what mom is paying now, then your dad may have a good case.


Title: Fmla

Question:
Hi thanks for taking the time to read.

Employer is changing my job from a field job to coming into the office daily.

Wife and I both suffer from anxiety and/or depression and have 2 young children.

My formerly flexible schedule is obviously gone and is creating some stress within out marriage and above symptoms are worsening.

Office work hours are 8-4.   I would like to request a reasonable accommodation so that I can assist her in helping out with the kids/reduce stress and subsequent symptoms.

Can this be an fmla situation?  Specifically, the reasonable accommodation request would be that I work 7-3 or even 715-315 rather than 8-4 so I can be home to help with kids.  Or maybe that I could remain in the field if that's possible.

Should I put in for it or should I use her?

Answer:
 I’m not sure this would qualify for FMLA, you are looking to help with basic child care, not provide for a family member with a serious medical condition.

Nor does it appear to be a case where the ADA would provide help because your disability isn’t preventing you from working.  Your depression/anxiety are not stopping you from being at work, it would just be more helpful to be at home at different times.

You appear to have the standard problem that nearly all parents face, child care is a pain in the ass and we can never be home with the kids as much as we would like.

You can ask nicely if they will accommodate your schedule, you can even talk to an attorney in your state to see if they think you might have other options, but I don’t see anything here for you.


Title: i hurt my self at walmart now im confused on what to do

Question: so in 2005 i broke my arm and had a plate put in arm. now in 2014 i work at walmart i believe that my plate has popped out of bone while lifting a case. when i reported injury they made me sign a piece of paper explaining that this was a preexisting injury. now i am worried if i go to doctors and they take me out of work i will get fired for not being at work. which would then leave me unemployed and thousands of dollars in medical debt. im so lost and unsure what i am suppose to do. i live in new york state. if you were in my position what would you do? or what are my options?

Answer:
 They probably wanted you to sign the document so they wouldn't be responsible for workers comp.

Assuming you are eligible for FMLA, your employer cannot fire you simply for visiting a doctor.

If the doctor says you can't work with the injury, then you really should follow his advice.  Your employer will have to make reasonable accommodations for your injury, but you could be let go if they cannot.

I would start by contacting HR and explain the problem and schedule an appointment with a physician ASAP.


Title: Getting Mentally Disabled Adult Sister Home for Xmas

Question:
So here’s the deal: My wife’s 20yo mentally disabled sister is moving halfway across the country to live with us in less than 20 days. My wife (Karen) and her sister (Emma) had a rough start  (mom on drugs, abusive father, neglect...) and grew up in foster care. Karen managed to get leave her foster home at 17 and move east to where we live today. Emma (who is still in her birth state) will be turning 21 in a 6 days and therefore have aged out of the system, but because of her disability she will never be able to live alone. Karen and I have offered bring Emma to live with us numerous times but Emma has expressed her desire to return to her moms house.

This past Thanksgiving Emma spent it with her mom. Their mom who is attracted to drama, invited a friend who ended up pulling multiple knives (and trying to stab whoever got within arms reach) in an unprompted fit of anger.  Emma locked herself away and called 911. This scared Emma so much that she called Karen and I in tears begging to come live with us.

The Problem: I lost my job a few months ago due to depression and Karen has been our only source of income. Since Emma assured us that she didn’t want to come live with us, we downsized from a 2 bedroom to a small studio. We have about half of what it will cost us to move back to a bigger place. How can we find assistance with moving? Is there any agencies we can call? What are our options? Please, any and all advice is appreciated.

Answer: NAL, but a parent of a child with special needs. Emma should qualify for SSI which can help with moving costs. You can call the department of human services in your state and get a head start on setting up services for her.


Title: [ILLINOIS] My friend's landlord is charging them seemingly absurd prices after they've moved out. Is this legal?

Question: They are charging $100 for cleaning each room in a 900 sq ft apartment in the NW suburbs of Illinois. Furthermore they're charging her fees for clean up of dog feces and urine but she had to clean and paint the whole place before she and her fiance moved in. I'll upload a photo of the invoice in the comments but is this legal? I feel like charging $100 to clean each room in a 900 sq ft apartment is brutal overkill.

Answer:
 You do not need to upload the invoice.

If there were dog feces and urine in the apartment, they are justified in charging a fee.

I hope they took pictures of the unit when they moved in and when they moved out.  They can dispute the charge with the landlord.  If they cannot resolve it, your friend can go to small claims court.Answer #2: If she left a mess that's a totally reasonable invoice. Did you personally see the condition of the apartment before they moved out?