Title: My hearing is absolutely ruined after working in a restaurant

Question:
I'm so fucking distraught every day of my life. I wake up in the morning and wonder "what is the point?" with such dread simply because my hearing is fucked.

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I worked in a restaurant for about five months (quit about three-four months ago), and during my time there they would have a band play on weekends. My first weekend there, I was exposed to the blaring loudness of stage speakers played at their maximum volume, without any hearing protection, all because it was in the path I needed to take when delivering food to customers. The speakers would be directly next to my head at one point in that particular path. I had no idea about that band at first, and my hearing definitely deteriorated after that first weekend because suddenly "sharp" noises or higher frequencies actually became sharp/painful to my eardrums (I used to wonder why people would cover their ears in pain when loud noises occurred, now I know why and it fucking kills me).

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Further down the road, I began buying earplugs or relying on a bartender to give me earplugs. This didn't prove enough, because the speakers were still blasting at their highest volume directly next to my ear when passing by, and there was no way around it. There were times I would forget my earplugs or the incredibly helpful bartender wasn't working their shift, and I'd do my job regardless or I'd risk getting yelled at because I was hurting business. I once asked a manager there if he had any earplugs and he laughed at me. Then in another separate instance I asked the general manager if he had earplugs and he simply said no and moved on.

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I ignored it all thinking it would get better, but obviously it hasn't.

I have trouble hearing some women and children now, especially when there is a fan on nearby or any other background noise for that matter. I have trouble hearing S sounds or L sounds or T sounds when others are speaking. I know my hearing used to be perfectly fine. I would always capture sounds others seemed to ignore, and I would be so proud of it. I used to hear my siblings so perfectly and I would hear every single little detail in every piece of sound coming to me and I can't believe I took it all for granted. Sound has become physically painful to me. I have trouble hearing the bone conduction in my head when speaking (something that started happening to me somewhere in the middle of my time working at the restaurant) and I am completely uncertain of what I am saying, which leads me to mumble or completely skip on syllables without even realizing until I see the confused look on people's faces. People have a hard time understanding me and it's really making me depressed. Sometimes my friends repeat to others what I'm trying to say, but in a clearer tone, and that hurts me so fucking much. I'm having a hard time understanding what people are saying too and it's making me incredibly insecure in my job prospects and I lost all motivation in the things I had planned for the future. I'm only a teenager and the fact that my parents already have better hearing than me fucking murders my soul every morning that I wake up.

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Please tell me there is something I can do.

Answer: First thing you will need to do is go to an ENT, because anything you do after will require medical records. Then, you could try suing for workers compensation and I would recommend getting a lawyer for that if you can, or at least consult one.


Title: My Ex-GF told me she dated a cop for a month and had him check my records. Is that legal? -Hudson Valley, NY

Question:
She told me a couple weeks ago that she was dating a detective and had him check to see if I had a criminal record or anything. Is that even legal to do?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 Most likely the guy ran you using NCIC, as its quick and easy.  If this is the case its a major violation of the user agreement.  I was in federal law enforcement saw a person fired for this.  Also its another violation if he provided this information to your ex.  Finally, if your name was run in the system, it would come back to the detective either because he was the one that ran it, or he requested it to be ran, and the person that ran it would put the detective as the requestor.

Here is a bit more on NCIC that migh be useful if you decide to persue this, and this is a matter that would be taken very seriously by NCIC:  http://fas.org/irp/agency/doj/fbi/is/ncic.htm


Title: I admitted to a crime to a detective, they let me out of questioning without doing anything else what does that mean?

Question: I realized I probably f\*\*\*ed myself but yeah I admitted to a crime during a detective questioning but the detective just let me out of the station without doing anything else. When they let me out I asked "Am I in trouble?" and they said "No, you're not, I'll call you if I need anything else."

Answer:
 Police lies all the time to suspects during questioning.

The more you talk to them, the more likely is that they will charge you with a crime, since a confession makes it really easy for the DA to get a conviction.

Stop talking to anyone about what happened, including the police.

Retain a criminal defense attorney, tell them everything and listen to their advice.

And please, never listen to terrible advice like "trust the police" and "be sure to cooperate with the police" - this is how people who could avoided a conviction end up in jail.

**Shut up, get a lawyer, only do what the lawyer told you to do.**Answer #2: It depends on what they were asking about, and what you admitted to.  If they were asking about a car accident, and you admitted to jaywalking in the vicinity, but didn't impact the crash, then they probably won't go after you for jaywalking.

It's impossible to give a full answer without more details, and it would be unwise to post more details here.  Getting more specific wouldn't change the advice, but it could hurt you if they found the post.

Don't answer any more questions without a lawyer present.


Title: Reddit help me represent myself. (can reddit get me off ;)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You need an attorney.  Defending oneself, whether in federal court or tribal court, isn't easy in the slightest sense.


Title: Am I entitled to pay for hours I'm scheduled to work but can't clock in since the manager is late?

Question:
This is in Illinois.

I work in retail at a small, family run store, the kind that usually only has two or three people on staff. My shifts usually start at 7 am, where me and the owner or his son would be the only ones opening. When it's his son's days to open, he is frequently late, sometimes not getting there to unlock the store for 15 or 20 minutes after we're supposed to open, while me and any customers wait outside. I can't clock in during that time, since the machine is inside the store, and I can't plan on showing up later since I get chewed out and have my job threatened if I get there late and it's after him. Since I don't work with him that frequently, and it's usually not too long, I'm fine losing out on the occasional dollar or two from this.

The incident that made me ask this question is that last Friday, my manager was almost two hours late. I tried calling him, calling his dad, basically anyone so I could at least get the store opened, but wasn't getting any luck with anyone answering my calls. So I just ended up waiting outside the store, explaining to customers what was happening. When the owner's son finally showed up, I asked if he'd adjust my time card, since I came in on time. He said he'd look into it.

But yesterday, when I picked up my paycheck, I saw that my hours weren't adjusted. I tried talking to the owner, and he said that since I wasn't in the store working, he didn't have to pay me for those two hours. I'm frustrated, and know it's not worth going to a lawyer since I'm only losing out on $30, but I'd like to know if the law is on my side before I confront my boss.

So my question is should I have been paid for those two hours?

Answer:
 Yes absolutely. If you are showing up at your scheduled time, and just have to wait to start work because you can't get in, that is textbook "engaged to wait". You aren't free to leave or do what you want with your time. If you were showing up earlier because you had nothing better to do that wouldn't be work time, but presumably you are expected to be at work on time and could get in trouble if you are not.  The owner is wrong. Show him this:

https://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs22.pdf


Title: Washington State. White coworker called hispanic co-worker "wetback" in a derogatory way. Is he likely to get fired if reported to HR?

Question:
This is far from the only incident of discriminatory and derogatory language on his part.

Short story short, offender was the only white guy working at the time, he called a hispanic co worker wetback, and not in a "funny" way. We were kind of miffed about this, and think that his dumb ass needs to get sat down by someone higher up. He is in a managerial role and higher than or equal to all witnesses to this event.

He is a petty tyrant type and we would love to bring him down a notch with a sit down by HIS higher ups about his behavior, but due to being dangerously understaffed as it is want to avoid HR being in a position where they *have* to fire him.

While he is a crappy person, we have discussed it and don't want to cost him his job.

Answer: This isn't a legal question, it's more of a company policy question. They could fire him, they could do nothing, they could do any number of things in between. There is no way for any one here to know what they would do.


Title: How hard is it to get guardianship in PA

Question: I am really just trying to get a sense of what I’m in for honestly. I am a college student (22f) as of now who has taken in my 14 year old sister almost full time. By almost I mean she stays with me 5/7 days a week, probably more. I buy her food, she has her own room, I take her to school, doctors appointments, literally everything. At this point, I am even the one who contacts her teachers when she is struggling in school, they have little to no clue who my parents are. She has an awful relationship with my parents who are both alcoholics and honestly don’t even have an idea how to parent.  They willingly let her stay here for days because it’s way easier on them (obviously) but I know if I went and filed for custody of her it would be a big deal to them. She just honestly does way better with me as far as school and routine because my parents focus more on drinking than her. I live in PA and am preparing to file, I just have no idea how hard it is and what to expect. I have a lawyer in mind but am trying to save and spend sparingly as this is more than likely going to be very costly. Any advice?

Answer:
 You should talk to a lawyer at the outset, to find out if you should be filing for custody or guardianship and to make sure you do it right. I don't know what kind of free/low-cost lawyers are available in PA unfortunately.Answer #2: What is your end goal for this?

If you feel like your parents are fine with her living with you, and you making decisions, you could go the Power of Attorney route.

If you want to have a more solid legal standing that's harder to revoke, then yeah, you can proceed with guardianship. In my area, the cost for an attorney for that runs anywhere from $1500 to $5000, and of course upwards if things get crazy.

If there's any chance your parents could be gently convinced to sign over guardianship, that would be highly preferable.

If you approached it as, "I need this so I can be the point of contact for her school and doctors" rather than "you are sucky parents" would there be any hope?

If you do have to file, and it's contested, you're going to want to do as much of the legwork as possible ahead of time. Get all the different proof that she lives with you, that you are providing food, clothes, shelter, dealing with school and medical, etc.

The less your attorney has to track down or ask you to get, the better.

I would even go as far as getting affidavits from friends and family who are familiar with the situation.

I'm glad your sister has you. You sound pretty awesome.


Title: [UT] Asked landlord for itemized deduction list which wasn't provided with the deposit check. His lawyer sends me a letter stating I owe hundreds more than before. What do I do?

Question:
Hello,

Apologies for the huge amount of text here. I don't know what to do.

My girlfriend and I moved out of an apartment run by a pretty awful landlord. It was a two year lease with the condition that we could find someone to take over the remainder of our lease at any time, so finally after one year we moved out and turned the apartment over to a couple of our friends who really needed a place to live. We were sure to detail how the landlord was before they took it over, but they were pretty desperate.

Upon move-out, we cleaned everything, did a thorough walkthrough with the landlord as well as the new tenants, and the only thing that was being deducted from the deposit was for a broken blind on the kitchen door, which is $11 at Home Depot. The landlord gave us a choice: we could either install it ourselves, or he would install it and just charge us the cost of the blind, in his words "$10-15" and that he wouldn't charge us labor. We thought this was nice of him since we had to move into a new place, so we said thanks, please install it.

Couple notes so far:
1 - The landlord didn't do a single second of work in order to turn the place over. We literally lived there until the day we cleaned the place from top to bottom, and the new residents started moving in the second we were done with the above walkthrough. Additionally, he received a new $500 non-refundable deposit from the new tenants, as well as $50 more per month in rent since that was the only way he would allow them to do a one year lease.

2 - The blind was the only thing agreed upon that would be taken from our deposit. We both signed a move in/move out sheet, but we were not provided with a copy.

The landlord stated he would drop the check in the mail the next day to our new place, and that would be it.

30 days later, literally the last day he was allowed to send it, we finally get the check, and $35 is missing, rather than the initial $10-15 he stated. Additionally, there was no itemized deduction list, it was simply a check in an envelope and that's it. So I send him the following form letter via Certified mail to his office, because I wanted to know why it was so much, and according to Utah law I thought it was required to include an Itemized Deduction, and also I was pretty upset since he was clearly lying. Again, our friends moved into the apartment and they informed me that he hadn't even INSTALLED the blind in the place yet. :

Form Letter - https://www.uaahq.org/media/uploads/2014/04/21/files/Tenants_Notice_to_Provide_Deposit_Disposition.pdf

Utah Code in question - http://le.utah.gov/code/TITLE57/htm/57_17_000300.htm

When he receives the letter, he texts me and we proceed to have the following conversation, verbatim including spelling errors and all:

Landlord (LL) - Did you receive the deposit back

Me - Yes but we haven't deposited it, n (accidentally hit send)

LL - You sent something cerified?

Me - Not only was there no itemized breakdown of the funds taken out, as required by law, there was also a $35 deduction when you said it would only be $10-15. That blind at Home Depot is only $11
Me - Please either send the remaining $24 to get to the amount agreed upon along with a deduction list, or I will go buy a blind and install it myself and you can send the full $35
Me - Whichever you prefer

LL - Be carful how you talk to me and get an attorney. Your lucky I didn't charge you more for damaging the place, for my time and install. And being kind enough to let you out of your lease. Peace out

Me - Under Utah State Law you are required to send an itemized breakdown of all deductions taken out. I'm not making threats so I'm not sure why I need to "take care", I'm simply stating facts. That's the law to protect renters. There was no deduction list and you clearly stated to our face with three other people in the room that you would only charge us for the cost of the blind which should be $10-15. Those are your words

LL - Well it cost more. Your reaponsible for damages. Mr Micah ------ has copies of the $35 receipt if you like to come get it

Me - That doesn't matter -----, you didn't include an itemized deduction, plain and simple. That's the law, at this point you are basically just stealing $35 from us. Like I said I'm happy to pay for one and install it myself since you haven't even installed the replacement yet, and you can just send us the full amount. No harm done.

LL - Invoice is here for you to pick or or I'll Mail it. Talk to an attorney since you know the "law" so well. You broke the blind. Under the terms of your lease I could have charged you a lot more on the min side. So I suggest you thank me for letting you out of your lease and not charging you more money for damages. Come pick up your invoice. Have a nice day.

Me - ----- I'm not required to pick it up, it was supposed to be included with the deposit check. I'm not driving an hour to pick up something that should have been included in the first place. This didn't have to be ugly. Do you still have our mailing address or do you need it again?
Me - Just in case it's -----------

So here's what I am wondering... Am I screwed?

I absolutely would love to take this asshole to small claims court, he's a scumball landlord, lied to us countless times during our year there, and now pulled this. However, I don't really want to take him if I don't have a case. Any advice on the next steps would be VERY appreciated.

Thank you all.

Answer: All this over 24 dollars?


Title: (RI) HOA Put Up Do Not Enter Sign to Public Way

Question:
I live in a cul-de-sac with 31 townhouse units. Not long ago, the board decided to pave another exit to a public way for "fire reasons."  I've made a habit of using this newly paved way as it is the closest exit to my house.

Recently, the board (who is very shady) decided our cul-de-sac should be a one way, and posted a sign stating such.  Then, they posted a Do Not Enter sign that exits to a public way.  I got an e-mail today saying that if I continue to use that exit I'll be fined $50.  Can they legally prohibit my access to a public street?

Answer: Wait, what's a one-way cul-de-sac? Cul-de-sacs by definition have no outlet, so how the hell are you supposed to get back out once you've driven in?


Title: [WA] Is it a bad idea to offer my soon-to-be ex a generous divorce settlement?

Question:
tl;dr - If I make a generous offer contingent upon an amicable, mediated divorce, and my wife decides to lawyer up and try to take everything, will that generous offer be used against me?

Divorcing due to escalating verbal and mental abuse.

She's been in college our entire six-year relationship, I've been working for the same amount of time. I've been trying to see her through to finishing her college degree, but she's been increasingly abusive over the past year and is refusing to see a therapist or psychologist. I'm done. But I also want to see her finish school, and she loves the house we bought more than I, so I'd also like to make sure she can keep paying for the house.

I'd be willing to waive my equity in the house as well as possibly help continue to pay the mortgage until she gets done with school and out the other side, but I'm afraid she's going to try to be aggressive, lawyer up, and take as much as she can due to spite. I'm concerned that being nice is going to cost me more than it already has - but I still love her and want to see her succeed.

Guidance would be appreciated, thanks.

Answer:
 Washington is a community property state, which means that all marital property and debt is automatically divided equally between the parties, unless the parties agree to split it differently.

She will never be entitled to more than half under the statute, so if you are offering her more than a 50/50 split, any good divorce attorney will tell her to take that generous offer.


Title: Work at a car wash in colorado, not allowed to wear tinted sunglasses and being told to "make eye contact" through the reflection of the sun.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >What's the best way to handle this situation?

Look for a job where the boss isn't a douchebag.


Title: I need to break my lease due to medical reasons. How do I go about doing so?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You can negotiate with your landlord, but it's unlikely that your medical situation entitles you to be allowed to break the lease without penalty.


Title: Filed Divorce - Paid ex child support and maintenance last 4 years and now she wants another 5 years. (Colorado)

Question:
I am an Army Veteran and was married in 2005. In 2011 she cheated and we ended up ending the marriage in fall of 2012 after I tried working it out for over a year. I was an idiot and tried to be a good ex and father so I have paid my ex the last 4 years about 30% of what I make to help her get on her feet and reestablish herself. The 30% was for child support and marriage maintenance/alimony. I ahould have did a written agreement but I didn't, like I said I was an idiot trying to be a good guy.

Over the last four years she hasn't done anything to find work and has just taken the money. Taking advantage of the situation. She decided now she doesn't want to work with me on the divorce like we agreed initially and has become greedy wanting another 5 years if not more of maintenance. I forgot to mention that I fight and strive while working full-time to maintain keeping my kids 50% of the time. I'm not worried about her taking the kids away as that I should be able to keep with the orders at court and keep my 50% time, which I want. At this point we've been married 11 years and I found a lawyer but am waiting to pay the huge retainer of 3 grand just yet which is why I am here for more advice.

My main question is that how good of a chance does she have fighting me for another 5 years since I've helped and paid her the last 4 years beyond what the court would order her initially?

I sent the divorce papers to her this last week through the sheriff and now that things are set in motion and she told me she wants to fight me I also want to decrease what I'm paying her until I am court ordered. I want to move her pay down from 30% to 10% (to still help cover child support). Is this okay or will the judge look badly upon me?

Colorado is very pro female and mother but I have been the good father and ex. Always have and now I feel like I'm getting screwed for it. Any advice is helpful. Thank you in advance.

Answer:
 You weren't married that long, and she's shown no interest in gaining employment. The Judge will likely deny it.

That said, child support is a different story. You need an attorney to get a child support order established.


Title: Used car came with restricted Ford MyKey, not admin. Should dealer pay, or me?

Question:
I just bought a used Ford C-Max from indep. dealer in MA. It only came with one key, though i tried to barter with them. After buying and driving, a day later on the highway I find *I cannot go past 80mph.*

Apparently I have a restricted key fob, which requires an admin key to reset. The restricted key limits radio volume, top speed, "buckle up" speed restrictions, and more.

Called the dealer, they said they can't do anything about it. I know I can pay for a new key at a Ford dealer and reset the current one, but shouldn't the used car dealer pay for it? They sold me a car that has limits on it. It's not like the transmission blew after a month, it's that I have options that I cannot use. Like selling me a pizza with the crust in a lockbox i then have to pay extra to open.

**tl;dr Who pays for the pizza crust/ key fob, the dealer or me?**
Topic:
Contracts

Answer:
 It depends on what your sales paperwork says. Frequently used car contracts say that cars are sold "as is" (or similar verbiage). If that is the case with your paperwork, then you are SOL, and you'll have to purchase the new key fob yourself.Answer #2: I found the following in the MA lemon law for buying vehicles:

>Dealers are required to provide a warranty for up to 90 days and 3,750 miles. Basically, the **dealer is required to repair any defect that impairs the use** or safety of the vehicle during the warranty period, unless you caused the problems yourself through negligence or making a change to the car yourself (like installing a sunroof that leaks, for example).

>The dealer can charge an initial $100 deductible for repairs or offer to buy back the car for the full purchase price instead of making repairs. The dealer may only charge the deductible if it is written in the warranty information.

So doesn't the dealer have to pay for the fob, minus $100 deductible?


Title: [FL] Laptop stolen by apartment's employee and damaged - need help getting reimbursed

Question:
I'm typing this on my friend's computer using only one hand (the other is broken from an unrelated incident) so I apologize in advance for any spelling or grammar mistakes.

I live in Florida. I do have renter;s insurance and the deductible is either $500 or $1000 (I can check the exact policy details tomorrow). My lease ends July 31.

I purchased a new Macbook Air on March 31, 2019. I have always kept a case on it and it is (was) in pristine condition. I sent it in for repair this month for an issue with the keyboard, and it arrived back at my apartment a few days ago. Since my hand is broken, I figured I couldn't carry the package by myself and needed to wait a few days until I could arrange for a friend to pick it up with me. My apartment keeps the package room under lock and key, and I've never had any issues waiting a few days in the past so I figured it wouldn't be an issue.

I got a call from a detective yesterday saying my laptop, among other things, had been stolen by a custodian working for my apartment complex. The detective knew who he was and said they were encouraging him to return the stolen property, and they'd keep me posted. My apartment called me yesterday evening to let me know the computer had been returned and I could pick it up in the morning (today).

When I went this morning to get it, they first showed me the box it originally came in from Apple, which had been roughly torn open and totally destroyed. I was immediately nervous my computer would be damaged - turns out I was right. It is \*covered\* in scratches, some of them really deep gouges. There are dings all over it like the thief just threw it in his bag or car or whatever. I know 1000% I did not cause ANY of this damage, and I highly doubt Apple did either. It's also obvious upon booting up the computer that the thief was rooting through my photos and files, which is terrifying.

I immediately asked to speak to the property manager. I showed her the laptop and my original proof of purchase showing I've only had it a month. I asked her to make this right since the package was in the apartment's custody and was stolen by someone employed by the apartment. I told her I felt I should be reimbursed the original amount of my purchase, or an identical laptop should be ordered for me. (Ordinarily I would be happy with them paying for a repair, but as far as I'm aware, scratches and dings to the outer body can't be repaired.) She told me the employee in question was actually a third party employee of the agency the apartment contracts with for cleaning services, and so I'd have to contact the cleaning contractor to seek reimbursement. I think that's BS because I signed an agreement with the apartment complex, not any third party cleaning company.

She and I went back and forth and she kept denying they were liable. I've thought about making a claim with my renter's insurance and taking the apartment to small claims for the deductible (or withholding that from my rent), but I don't know if that's even an option or if it would work out. Do I have any options here?

Answer:
 Yeah, she owes you the diminished value of the laptop as a result of the incident or the cost of buying a nearly new laptop, whichever is less. You are correct.

She should absolutely go after the contractor, but after she has paid you for this mess created by her business partners.

To get reimbursed, you can file in small claims court, but hopefully she will come to her senses and pay you what is owed voluntarily.


Title: Walked into a chickenfight. Is this legal?

Question:
So in NY I’m at a cigar club and started making friends with a few people in the hospitality industry. Arab migrants. Cool guys so over a period Of time we started hanging out.
One day one of the guys asks me to fill in at the Lebanese restaurant where he works. He’s absolutely desperate to get out of this 3 hr shift without losing his job to attend to another matter and offers me 50 dollars if I cover this three hour shift, on a public holiday wherein only regs come in.

Three hours come and go and I’m loving life. I’ve made tip money, hourly pay and dinner and since this restaurant is kind of like a social club I go up the stairs to see what a few people are up to and to let them know there’s half price food in the last half hour, and what do I see?

Literally 30 plus Arabs around a circle throwing money into a dusty ring which I assume is making bets and two chickens just going at it. There claws had these little weird knives attached to them which was semi traumatising.
One of the boys I met at the club (but strangely not really affiliated to the friend who hooked me with the shift) brought me forward and excitedly attempted to explain how important the match was in broken English so couldn’t gather a lot.
There were feathers and carcasses in the corner and loud Arab men in a smoky room all with cigars yelling things out like ‘sharrmooota’ and ‘ary fikm which I kept hearing loudly so can Remember it. It felt like Borat. And the movie bloodsport with the kumate.

The next day I was still stunned and told my friend, who passed it off as nothing but old boys from the old country doing old country things.

What weirded me out is he seemed interested in the event and not alarmed at all. He explained that one of the chickens was the ‘rocky balboa of the chicken fighting world’ and the other opponent was a beast that was undefeated and came from Detroit. He had a certain glee in his voice that made me not try and argue with him.

I’ve sat in this for a few months now and I’m just wondering what if anything I should do legally?

I drifted away from that particular friend but he has called me and he did mention that the chickens aren’t fighting anymore and the show had moved to another city with all new opponents and chickens involved. So it must be big?
I obviously missed a trick by not saying anything at the time. But all I know is there’s a big chicken fighting championship touring the eastern seaboard somewhere.

Answer: Cockfighting is illegal. You can report it to the police or the local ASPCA.


Title: Child custody - non parents TX

Question:
My in-laws have custody of my husbands niece (15 years) and nephew (13 years). In-laws are getting old and having some health issues. If they die or are no longer able to take care of the children how would my husband and I go about gaining custody of the kids. Their mother is going to be against this, but we are very against them going back with her. The children were placed out of the home with their grandparents by CPS and they got legal custody. Their mother is in and out of abusive relationships, does not have stable housing, and cannot hold down a job for more than two weeks. She is constantly talking down to the children. The icing on her shitty mother cake is, this weekend she and her daughter went to a dance. They got into an argument and she left her daughter in a different town. She called her grandma and her grandma drown to come get her. Their mother does not deserve these kids and we will do everything in our power to keep them from influencing them in negative ways. My husband and I have already discussed taking her to court to gain custody if we need to. I'm just hoping we can do something while his parents are alive to make it easier. We own our own home, we both have steady jobs. We have the means to take care of the children. Can the kids come to court and say they want to live with us?

Also, before anyone tells me to report their mom to CPS, I work for the department and this has already been done. She does have rights to visitation with the kids and can take them places, so they aren't breaking the court order either. The department likely can't do anything because she does not have custody and grandma and grandpa are being protective and not letting her around the kids at this time.

Answer: Either scenario requires a court hearing and a judge agreeing. Mom has a right to disagree in either situation and a judge can decide what is in the kids best interest


Title: Is my ex entitle to a half of my company. Attorney General case

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Under Texas law, to have a common law marriage, you must do three things:

(1) Agree to be married
(2) Live together as husband and wife, and
(3) Told others (hold yourselves out) that you are married.

[Source](http://statelaws.findlaw.com/texas-law/common-law-marriage-in-texas.html)

Unless you have done those 2 things, you were never common law married, and I would tell your ex and her attorney to pound sand. She would be entitled to absolute zeroAnswer #2: IF you were common law married then you need to get court ordered divorce. You need to talk to your attorney to make sure that isnt the case.


Title: Lost and Found Purse Easily Stolen

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The establishment does lost and found as a courtesy.  They are not required to do a background check to return a lost item.

You can fly without ID -- check the TSA web site for instructions.  Go about replacing your things, contact the social security office on Wednesday, and establish credit monitoring.


Title: Serious Trouble

Question: I am in the middle of a huge mess that I am unsure of how to proceed. I filed false reports of rape and assault charges against my husband and he is now in jail waiting trial. I have informed law enforcement the DA and my husbands attorney that the reports I filed were misleading and embellished due to circumstances in the marriage. I was under the influence of alcohol methamphetamine and cocaine at the time I made these reports. I deliberately caused physical injury to myself to substantiate my claims. The DA refuses to drop the charges and is proceeding to trial despite being made aware that they will be using a false report in order to get a conviction. I am very ashamed of what I have done and did so out of malice and spite against my husband for his continued infidelity in the marriage.  We were in a bad situation at the time being homeless and living on the streets. We both suffer from drug abuse. I knew that claiming abuse and rape would allow me to get into a shelter for battered women and get me off the street. I was taken to the shelter and my husband was arrested. I did not believe that this would go as far as it has. I did not think about anything at the time aside from my own needs. My husband is innocent of these allegations against him. I realize that I could bear legal implications due to this but I cant sit by and watch an innocent man be convicted of crimes he did not commit. I am considering going public via social media to tell my story. I need help. My husband needs help. Please someone help.

Answer:
 Without addressing anything else in this post, I will say that it is incredibly common for domestic violence victims to change their story later on. Accordingly, DAs are hesitant to drop charges, assuming that the victim is lying later, and not on the initial report. Answer #2: You need to contact his defense attorney so that you can testify on behalf of your husband. In domestic violence situations, it's incredibly common for spouses to later retract their testimony and so the prosecution will likely proceed without you. However, if you are willing to get in front a jury and tell them what you told us, that may be enough to keep your husband from going to jail. But at the same time, he still might be convicted..

Also, keep in mind that filing a false police report can also be a punishable offense so you may open yourself up for criminal liability if you attempt to help your husband by testifying on his behalf.


Title: I desperately need to talk to a mental health professional about several things, including euthanasia. How can I be absolutely sure to avoid "involuntary hospitalization?" [US-FL]

Question:
I tried to talk to a family member about this two years ago and was Baker acted. While imprisoned I was abused, including sexual violence - as a crazy person with no rights, I had no defense, no recourse, no credibility. I did complain, and attempted to press charges, but they claimed it was self inflicted and that's as far as it went. (It was NOT.) I'm terrified of a repeat but I desperately need help.

Please note that I am not suicidal, just disabled by a hellishly painful degenerative neurological condition. I want to die on my own terms, while I still have a few remaining shreds of dignity and mental acuity. I want my family's support in this escape, not to hurt them. (An aside, my only living relatives are my mother and her parents.)

Please forgive me for asking a somewhat nebulous question I could possibly research myself, it is very difficult to focus through the pain and inability to properly sleep. Thank you

Answer:
 There are states that allow euthanasia, but the guidelines are strict. Washington D.C. allows it, as does California, Colorado, Oregon and Vermont. Other states are coming around to more death positive options.

However, as I understand it, assisted death is only used when you’ve been diagnosed with under 6 months to live and have the option to remain under hospice care. So I’m not sure your situation would qualify. However, I’m not a doctor. This is, absolutely, something to bring up with your PCP.

You would want to ask them what options there were, nationally, for the point when after you have lived your life the best and as long you can, and your body is failing. Beyond a DNR, what other medical directives can you put in place? Would a state that supports assisted dignified death be an option for you? If not, what options for your future are there?

Because having medical directives in place, especially if you have chronic illnesses, is not a bad idea. Being death positive doesn’t mean you’re happy to die, it means you do your research and you ensure that you have things lined up so when death happens, you’re prepared. But that needs to be a frank conversation with your doctor.


Title: Assaulted at work being a minor ~ URGENT ~

Question:
Hi guys! Today working I was Assaulted. I did nothing to provoke him. He responded immediately after with " You shouldent be cussing with customer in the lobby. I was in the back and talking to myself. It was almost like a quiet mumble. I am 16 years old that lives in Wyoming. The workplace I work at is a national enterprise Dominoes Pizza. The guy that hit me is in college and over 18.
My only problem now is that the guy that hit me, is my Head Manager's Son. What action should be taken and how can I prevent it not compelling back to me?
- UPDATE -
He was so apologetic. I did not press charges because he is a good guy, He just dident think over his actions. It would have also been child abuse since he is six years older then I am.  Over all his punishment was a Situation and a ticket. It will never happen again.
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: The appropriate response to being assaulted is to report it to the police.Answer #2: define assaultedAnswer #3: Was physical violence only threatened (assault), or were you actually physically struck (battery)? In either case, as everyone else has suggested, call the police... And work on your English.


Title: Credit card debt collector chasing me for my father's debt

Question: [deleted]

Answer: [How do I get a debt collector to stop calling me if it's not my debt?](http://www.consumerfinance.gov/askcfpb/1411/how-do-i-get-debt-collector-stop-calling-me-if-its-not-my-debt.html)


Title: Estranged Dad is terminally ill and power of attorney is being requested

Question:
My father is a vet with a diagnosed mental illness which contributed to my parent's divorce when I was 8. I haven't seen or spoken to my father in 20 years and this past April I received a call that he had a bad stroke, leaving him unable to speak or make decisions for himself. As his oldest child, I have suddenly become the point of contact for all medical decisions on his behalf. About 2 weeks ago he went back into ICU and last Monday, I received a call from hospital social worker informing me that they would like to move him to hospice.

I had no idea of his whereabouts until his stroke. He is hospitalized down south (not his assumed state of residence, as he is there due to probation) and I currently live in the northeast, while the rest of my family lives out west.

My questions are:

1) How do I get power of attorney in a situation where my father can not sign over rights due to his condition?

2) What liability may I incur if I take up this responsibility (I do not want to take on any financial burdens he may have)?

3) How is this process affected since he is hospitalized in state that is not his primary place of residence?

I don't know much about him anymore, but I want to make his last days as comfortable as possible.

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

Answer:
 1) You don't. You would need a guardianship.

2) None. All that debts impact are the assets in his estate.

3) It doesn't.

Candidly, I'd nope the hell out of this situation. Unless you feel emotionally compelled to participate in this situation, you have no real reason to be the point of contact.


Title: How “messy” is too messy- Child Neglect

Question:
Located in Arizona (AZ)

I have been watching a former acquaintance over Facebook for the past year; before I begin, I want to be clear : **i have not been to her house in person**

The main concern that I have is the photos she posts of her house, with her child visible in some. There is visible trash (including empty food wrappers thrown about, as well as alcohol), things stacked in high piles, small pathways for walking, and just stuff in every square inch of the place. The photos include photos of her child where the mess is visible. The child is only ever in diapers in the photos. This is the case for every photo she posts, including those that do not include the child.

She does not live alone; she lives with her fiancé and their disabled parent. She also claims disability, frequently posts about her depression.

What changed tonight is *she posted a suicidal statement on her facebook*. She is not seeking help for her mental illnesses, and the common symptoms of depression (lack of willpower to do anything esp.) is very apparent. She frequently posts suicidal thoughts in an effort to “reach out for help” (get attention (this applies directly to her, not to others struggling with mental illness), but it’s getting out of hand in regards to her ability to maintain the child’s living condition.

**would it be within my right to call child services for a welfare check for the child?** Should I go to the police? Would they listen to a complaint if I’ve only seen it over her social media, and not in person? How messy is too messy for it to be considered child neglect?

There are many witnesses that could potentially be reached out to, as she frequently gets into internet fights with relatives and they all call her out on it. If needed, I would be able to provide names to the authorities. Don’t know if that helps or is even necessary, but ? Don’t know what does and doesn’t help here.

Answer: Please do make the call. Just express concerns about all the things mentioned, perhaps DFS can put her in contact with some people to help her.


Title: [NC] I have an instagram account called "Townof[MyTown]." I've been contacted by the town's PR dept to change it. What are my rights?

Question:
I have an instagram account made for my town that's called "TownOf[MyTown]." I have a brief blurb and list the town's website in the description. In no where do I state that I am the official website of the town and I do not use any official images or media from the town.

The account only has a hundred followers or so, but I am getting "tagged" for official town things, say a local event happens and someone posts photos they say "Hey I'm here at the parade, thanks @TownOf[MyTown] for a great show!"

They haven't made any legal threats yet. However, the PR person did say that "They may have to contact instagram to close the account because I *may be in violation of their policies.*"

I've tried checking [Instagram's terms of service](https://help.instagram.com/478745558852511) and I think it may be a bit murky here so I'm reaching out. The only relevant parts I'm seeing are:

>Instagram prohibits the creation of and you agree that you will not create an account for anyone other than yourself.

However, that would also mean that every cat and dog account would be shut down as well, since those animals aren't running the accounts. Same with the accounts for babies.

>You must not defame, stalk, bully, abuse, harass, threaten, impersonate or intimidate people or entities

I'm not defaming the town. I'm only posting nice photos of different places I visit. As far as impersonating, like I said, I don't mention in any way that I am the official account of the town.

I know that Instagram removing or not removing the account isn't a big deal, but say that they don't, does the town have any *legal* standing to come after me in any way?

Answer:
 > However, that would also mean that every cat and dog account would be shut down as well, since those animals aren't running the accounts. Same with the accounts for babies.

The fact that other violations exist doesn't mean that you're not in violation.  "Everyone else does it!" isn't a defense.

Instagram can take your account and give it to the town, if they want.  The town could conceivably seek an injunction to stop you from using the site - especially as your account is pretty clearly confusing to others as to the status.


Title: Should I sue my mother and her husband?

Question:
Okay, so here it goes. When I (M26)  was 9, my dad died of cancer. This was obviously heartbreaking. After he died, my mom (F55) quit her job, we moved from a 3 bedroom condo into a massive house in a super expensive neighborhood. Going through middle school and the beginning of high school, I always wondered how she could afford to not work, how we were able to upgrade so quickly to a huge house, and how she was able to afford private high school for my sister (F29) and a master's degree from Harvard. She would constantly tell me and my sister that college is taken care of. I assumed that my dad had life insurance and that this is how we afforded all this.

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Years later, when I was 19, my uncle (dad's brother) told me that my dad did not have life insurance, but that he had won a malpractice lawsuit brought against the doctor that misdiagnosed his cancer. The settlement was $1.2 Million. I was absolutely floored when I learned this. Apparently, when my dad knew he was going to die, he put the money in some sort of trust fund (I don't know the details) that he made my mom in charge of. They got divorced when I was 5 or 6 but remained civil and friendly with my mom for our sake (me and my sister). If I were in his position, I would have done the same thing. After all, that's the mother of your children, of course she is going to do right by them, right? One of the crazy things is I remember seeing these letters in the mail from some financial institution that had me and my sister's names on it all throughout the years between him dying and me moving out of her house. These were definitely some sort of payments from the fund.

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When I was 15, she met her now husband (M60?), a criminal defense attorney, on [Match.com](https://Match.com) and they started dating. After a year, we sold our beautiful house and moved into his smaller house in a town 15 minutes away from our old house. They built a massive addition to the house, went on mountain climbing trips all around the world, bought a 20 ft. sailboat, a Mazda Miata, etc. I am now realizing that my mom spent all this money (it had to have been that money since she didn't work from 2002 till then) on luxury items for her and her new husband. They kicked me out of there house and refused to help me financially in any way from the end of my Junior year of high school (May, 2009) till now.

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When I learned about the settlement money, I was furious. I wanted to hire a team of lawyers to subpoena her and his spending to see if they she had violated her rights as the executor of the fund (again, don't know the legal terms). But alas, I was young and broke and trying to get through college on my own. Now, I am a 26 year old college graduate that is gainfully employed. She lives in Ireland with her dickhole husband, they sold their big ass boat and house and had the gall to tell me and my sister that the money is all gone. My sister looked through her journal at one point and read something she wrote that basically said she felt bad for using our money to buy a boat with Walt. Do I have any legal recourse at this point? Let me be clear in saying that the thought of battling over my dad's blood money is kind of sickening to me. I would much rather have him back than any amount of money in the world. But I think she should pay for her selfishness, her greed, and for betraying the confidence of my dead father so she could live the life of her dreams while me and my sister struggle.

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In short, do I have any legal recourse against my mother for spending/hording all the malpractice settlement money that my dad left for me and my sister when he died of cancer back in 2002?

Answer: If your mother was the executor of a trust in your name, you have grounds that she did not maintain her fiduciary duty. If the money was an un-encumbered part of the estate, then your mother was legally entitled to spend it as she wished. An estate lawyer will help you with the research of how the money was structured, and will help prosecute any lawsuit.


Title: Friend ran into some trouble in Mexico. Help please!

Question:
Hey everyone. Sorry this may not be the right sub for this but don’t know where to begin to look and it’s urgent. My Buddy (US Citizen) is visiting his family (extended work project) in Mexico. He is born to two illegal immigrants and is staying with family there currently. This morning I received to cryptic messages

Friend: “Shit Is getting real here with cartels and marines i got money taken from me by marines and hit. My cousins got fucked up. They didnt do much to me because i said i was from usa.”

Then : “How the fuck do i report this”

Into our group chat (him and one other close friend) and hasn’t ready any replies to his messages

I don’t know what I can possibly do to help my friend who had reached out for assistance/advise and any help would be greatly appreciated!

Answer: Can you confirm it's actually him? It sounds like a very common scam when an email account gets hacked.Answer #2: Ianal, but I would start first by contacting the embassy in Mexico.


Title: How would a minor be notified of both of their parents' death?

Question: Would they be notified immediately? Would the hospital call? Police showing up at the door? Do they usually open it with something vague and save the worst news for last or do they just say it?

Answer:
 Gym class

"Everyone with two parents stand on the white line...whoa there, Jones, not so fast."Answer #2: I don't think there's a single universal way it's done.


Title: Dead animal in driveway

Question: Last night my friends picked me up from my house not saying what we were going to do. It turns out they had a dead possum and we’re going to put it at my ex’s house. They drove over there and dropped it off in her driveway. However, I did not physically do any of it. I stayed in the car the entire time and my other friend who was driving did as well. Someone else went into their property to place it there. My ex now thinks it was me and the driver who did it and they are claiming to file a police report about it if we do not go and pick up the possum from their driveway. I just don’t know what to do.

Answer:
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Go get the possum.  Remove it.  Grow up and leave your ex alone.Answer #2: The legal term for what you are is "accomplice" which means you are fully liable for what your "friends" did.

I'd suggest you pick up the possum and grow up.Answer #3: Go pick up and dispose of the possum...


Title: Are public schools allowed to moderate chat of streams they broadcast?

Question: Is it allowed under the first amendment?

Answer:
 Yes, not everything is an infringement on free speech.Answer #2: Is it students taking part?

Because if so, then clearly yes.

Just like you don't have unlimited free speech rights when you're in the classroom.


Title: (CA) I was "taken off the schedule" at a nation wide ice cream store for no apparent reason. What can I do?

Question:
I work at Baskin Robbins, When I went to pick up my check last Friday (I was off the clock just a quick check pickup). My boss demands me to sit down and starts accusing me a moving her thermostat to 50 degrees and thus breaking it, which cost her a lot of money. I DID NOT TOUCH THE THERMOSTAT NOR DOES SHE HAVE PROOF OF ME DOING IT. When I tell her I didn't do it she asked if I knew who did, I told her I did not. Then she's tries to write me up for it and I told her I won't sign something that says I did something when in fact I did not do it. So she hands me my check after a little raised voices because I was irritated being accused of something I didn't do. (My boss is a 50ish Indian lady, who is very rude) So I thought she just had one of her bad days and I was going to go work on Sunday.
Then on Saturday I get a text from my shift manger saying that my boss took me off the schedule. I immediately call my boss and leave a professional voicemail asking her to please call me back, I text her asking her to call me, I call her again. No reply. This isn't the first time she has dodged employees phone calls. My shift manager text a few hours later saying if I want to talk to my boss I have to go in on Tuesday and talk to her in person.
She still has not given a reason to terminate me from the workplace and I was hoping there is something I can do.

Answer: You can find a new job. You have no legal recourse here.Answer #2: Apply for unemployment and look for a new job. She does not need to give a reason in an at-will state. :(


Title: Buying a house- Seller informed me she evicted previous tenants for cooking meth- Narcotics enforcement team has cameras in the trees on the back of the property- What can I do to have my privacy- Michigan

Question:
Ive been hunting for a house for a while.   And i found this awesome place.  Close to where I want to be at nice 2.5 acres of land.  Its a fixer upper.  Price is right at 25k.  passed all inspections.

She had been renting the place out and the former tenants got arrested for meth after her husband found it in the attic of a shed.

She states the narcotics enforcement team came out and put a ton of cameras in the trees on the back of the property.

Is there anything I can do about this?? or should I just try and find something else??

Housing is hard to find up here in Michigan as it is.  I just don't want to feel like im being watched all the time either.

Answer:
 If they were cooking meth in there, I would find somewhere else.  Seriously.

http://www.livescience.com/23721-meth-lab-toxins-cleanup.htmlAnswer #2: I'm going to second u/lovelyandi , if there's even a chance that they were *ever* producing meth in the house it isn't a good deal unless your intent is to demolish the house and build a brand new one.

On the camera front, sounds like your first step needs to be a call to the Narcotics Enforcement Team about whether they've left any equipment on the property and, if they have, if they're willing to retrieve it without a legal battle if the property changes hands.Answer #3: Luckily they werent cooking meth in the main house


Title: Landlord supposedly died. Received text from relative of LL saying to send rent checks to him at his address. How do I verify that this is true?

Question:
The group I share a house with received a text (group text to all of us) from someone claiming to be a relative of my landlord (nephew of LL), stating that the landlord had died, and rent checks were to be sent to him (with the addendum Trustee) at his address.  He lives out of state.

How do I verify that A: the landlord died, and B: that he's the correct one to send the rent checks to?

I live in Santa Cruz, California.

Answer: Ask for a death certificate


Title: Getting compensation after quitting a job

Question:
I worked briefly (8 days spread out between 2.5 weeks) for a company in Pennsylvania on a part-time basis. Disclosure: I mention Pennsylvania for specifics, not as PII. Today, I just quit because I found a better job. However, I have yet to be paid for any time. My boss has yet to respond to my questions. This is a legitimate company. I had filled out w4, i9, direct deposit paperwork at the required time.

Should I start with the PA Atty Gen Consumer Protection Office? Is a legal battle worth it? If so, can I make them pay for my legal fees?

Answer: You just quit today. Depending on their pay periods and such, it might be a tiny bit of time before you get paid.


Title: [CA, US] A friend just told me I'm being wired a few million from a friend.

Question:
So.... I'm 99% sure it's not even going to happen, since I only have a regular civilian bank account, no business account or anything. I'm sure I'm not qualified to even hold that much or something.

But in the event that it actually goes through... What's the process of finding out its secure and all that before I can touch it?

I originally thought my friend was wiring me her weekly paycheck to hold until she made a different account that wasn't negative from overdraft fees, which I support, since there's a reason why all of the major banks have been sued over the whole overdraft system.... then she said it's a friend of hers who's sending me something.... then she said it's a few million. So I gave her my info a week ago....

So right now I'm just slightly surprised, really just mostly expecting to get a call from my bank that a suspicious individual tried to cash a fake check into my account or however the hell that wire was sent (I gave her my routing and account number).

**edit**: I called the 24 hour line and had them do their thing. I'll be safe from the fraud. And apparently her friend said he canceled the transaction, so I guess nothing will happen with that besides I guess him trying to use my closed account's info to do stuff, which according to the Wells Fargo rep won't happen. It's all good now, my friend knows better now, no damage done, thread over.

Edit: I'm done with this thread FYI in case you people don't know how to comprehend my first edit. And yes, she is a long time friend, she isn't the enemy, I don't need you guys coming up with stupid stories to explain why she's not. That's why I felt comfortable with her knowing my info, it wasn't a problem til she told me about this dude who got my info. She's not with the scammer, she just got duped herself and didn't know any better. She really believed this dude felt bad about her living condition and was going to send her money. Im not as cold as you guys where I'd cut ties with someone just because they made a stupid mistake. I just explained to her the same stuff you guys explained to me, got my stuff secured by calling my bank yesterday, no damage was done, it's all good.

Answer:
 CLOSE YOUR ACCOUNT.

Move your money elsewhere, asap.Answer #2: Just curious, have you ever met your "friend?"Answer #3: > I'm 99% sure it's not even going to happen, since I only have a regular civilian bank account, no business account or anything. I'm sure I'm not qualified to even hold that much or something.

Typically a bank will not turn away deposits so essentially the sky is the limit in terms of holding money. There is a $250,000 per depositor, per insured bank, per account type but the CDARS service allows you to work with one custodian bank that will spread a large deposit out to multiple other banks thereby allowing you to retain FDIC insurance. But I digress.

If this goes through, contact your bank and the police. Actually if I were you I would close the bank account, open a new one, and not let these people know where or what it is. Besides prison, you're looking at owing the IRS hundreds of thousands of dollars. Walk away. Run away.


Title: Can Someone Override Your Advance Directive due to hospital policy without your consent?

Question:
Hello,

My mother is in the hospital and as her power of attorney requested all steps to be taken to revive her. Without my permission the hospital doctors viewed her as useless due to her being in a coma and removed and set her up as a Do Not Resuscitate. What right do I have to get her the help she has because she was a full code before she went into the coma due to cardiac arrest.

What can be done to prevent the hospital from slowing killing her and not doing anything. Even when her blood pressure dropped, they refused to give her blood pressure medication. If she has a fever they will not do anything.

Columbus, Ohio
The Ohio State University Medical Center

Answer:
 Based on what you've said in this thread, it sounds like they've decided that further medical care is futile, there's nothing they can do, and that further attempts to treat her condition and prolong her life would more likely harm her than benefit her and are not in her best interest.  This is called a medical futility case.  Depending on the laws of the state, if a number of independent attending-level providers and the ethics committee review the case and come to this conclusion, advanced medical directives can be set aside and patients can be made DNR/DNI.  Sometimes it requires a court order too; I'm not sure about Ohio.

By all means, speak to her attending physician, the patient advocate, the hospital administrator, etc.  Make sure you understand what's going on.  If I'm right about this, then I don't think there's anything you're going to be able to do to change the situation, except pray for a miracle.

So then you need to get a handle on your mother's prognosis.  Generally, medical futility is invoked when a patient has hours to days to live.  You have to decide how you want to spend that time.  Do you want to spend it with your mother, or do you want to spend it fighting against an institution?Answer #2: Are you saying there is an official DNR on her, despite your instructions to the contrary?  That seems very surprising, because a [DNR cannot be initiated by third parties](https://www.ohiobar.org/ForPublic/Resources/LawFactsPamphlets/Pages/LawFactsPamphlet-24.aspx), generally.Answer #3: This sounds suspect.  Hospitals get sued often enough without actively courting wrongful death lawsuits.  Calm down, review all the facts, and provide an update.


Title: Is there a way to deny hospitalization at certain hospitals while incapacitated?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 No.

If medics think your life is endangered they're going to do whatever is in your best interest continuing-to-live wise. Your opinion is pretty much moot at that point.


Title: Totaled vehicle, lent to me, issues over amount and if repayment is necessary.

Question:
The vehicle in question (a 2001 ford ranger) was lent to me freely, with no special conditions, by the daughter of the legal owner of the vehicle. There was a winter storm advisory for my route. I was driving an average of 10 or more mph under the speed limit, and slowing down even further when encountering specific locations with worse conditions such as snow packs and ice. The toll road  this occurred on was rather well salted/prepped for the weather it seemed, as the lanes themselves had very little ice or snow visible on them. I was travelling at about 50 mph on the toll road (legal limit 75mph) when the truck lost traction and crashed into the center divider wall. It first impacted the front driver's side directly on the headlight, then spun freely on the ice in the median/inside shoulder area and hit the opposite side (rear passenger) off the wall as well. The incident was witnessed by a snow plow driver who immediately came to the truck to try and help, who said that the State Trooper working just a few hundred feet back had seen it as well and would be over shortly. Soon after the Trooper came over, told me to hand him my information, and to stay in the vehicle. The wrecker sent to the site was from [company placeholder] in [town placeholder, for town in between my hometown and destination]. The driver of the wrecker loaded the truck onto the wrecker, then drove up to the nearby toll road exit parking area to finish paperwork with the State Trooper. The trooper issued no ticket and told us to proceed on our way. He did however state that its most likely that the rear tires being so incredibly bald led to the truck losing traction. From here on, the conversation with [truck owner] was sparse and vague. I agreed originally to pay for the tow to the wrecker's shop (totaling $163), and was not consulted regarding payment for any further towing. The shop's head mechanic declared the truck totaled upon even a cursory review of it, and suggested several trustworthy and reliable people to whom [owner] could salvage the truck in [placeholder town] so that he would not incur any further fees for towing. [owner] decided instead to tow it to [actual hometown], stating that it would get me a ride back to town despite me stating to him that I already had a ride secured and would be fine, then [owner] stated he wanted to have as much time as he wanted to salvage it as he pleased and to people he knew and/or trusted. This incurred additional towing fees at his bequest for the trip back to [hometown] which was an additional total of $236, bringing the grand total for towing services to $389. Upon arrival to [hometown], I was told to use cash that [daughter of owner] had left out for me to pay the driver. It was $400 all in 20s so I had no choice but to let the driver keep the additional $11 as a tip as he had no change. From there, the [owner] went from implying that paying back would not be an issue or an immediate concern, to demanding the $400 on the immediately following evening. This is when my father was contacted, and provided them a Cashier's Check totaling $400 as long as they acknowledged this incident is concluded, and if they did not agree to contact him. They refused to cash the check under that guideline, and also ignored its closing premise by chosing to contact me as opposed to him. First the father directed the daughter to contact me, to which I reminded them that the letter indicated to contact my father. Five hours later, they had still not contacted my father, and instead [owner/father] himself attempted to contact me, saying that he has decided to keep communications regarding this matter between himself and I, and that if I wanted to inform my father I should contact him myself. I have not replied to that message, and have not had contact with any other member of the family since then. The truck in question is valued on their insurance paperwork as being a tax value of $1310.31 and Kelley Blue Book lists a 'good' condition vehicle of this make at roughly $2,000. Essentially, this has gone from a sad accident to a very dramatic legal problem wherein both sides are threatening legal action. I had originally attempted to inform the owner that I would be willing to pay the $163 for the tow to get the vehicle off the highway as required by law, and was even willing to pay the difference between its assessed value and whatever he could salvage it for, however, that seems to have been ignored as they demanded the full amount for both tows, and have not attempted to give me a value or number which they deem acceptable to resolve the situation. I have no idea how to proceed, and am not exactly in a financial situation which would afford me quality legal representation (because frankly if I could afford quality counsel I would just pay a bit more than I think fair to quickly resolve the situation..).

edit: there were no other vehicles or people involved, and while I am sore/in pain, I don't believe I am seriously injured in any regard, despite there being no functional airbags in the truck.

Answer:
 You wait for them to make a demand for the value of the car plus any other damages they incurred (the tow).

Your financial situation doesn't change anything. You totaled someone's car. You owe for the damages they are out. Answer #2: Are you over 18?  If so, why would the owner deal with your father?  If you totaled the car you a responsible for the damages, which would be blue book value.


Title: Is it legal in the United States to have two last names?

Answer:
 You have one last name.  That last name can be multiple words, hyphenated or otherwise, up to the character max for the system you're interacting with.

Some states or systems may have additional requirements.  The financial systems I regularly use limit last names to 35 characters.  Passport applications limit them to 21 characters.


Title: Adding terms to rental agreement as tenant - am I being overly cautious here?

Question:
Hi All,

I toured an apartment recently with a few issues that the leasing agent verbally said would be fixed before I move in. I also had a friend with me who can confirm that the leasing agent said all of this. This is, however, a privately owned apartment with a landlord that the leasing agent is representing.

Does it make sense to get all of this in writing before I sign my lease, or is the leasing agent's word enough? I'm considering asking for these changes to be written into the lease before I sign, but wanted to confirm that this is something that would make sense to do.

Thoughts?

Answer: It’s always a good idea to get something in writing. It can’t really hurt— if it does, there’s likely something shady going on.


Title: School kept pushing trying to find drugs, Legal question

Question:
Location: San Diego, California... a public high school...  So there is one campus supervisor in my high school in which he and I obviously hate each other, But have not said a single word to each other. All through eye communication. He stops me in the hallway while I am tired and asks me where I am going, and 5 minutes into my next class he calls me in to go to the VP's office. I had slept 6 hours in the past 2 days at this point. They were accusing me of smoking weed during school. The Campus supervisor searches all of my belongings as well as me taking off my shoes, showing my sweat pants waistband and emptying all of my pockets. This was normal of any accusation of vaping, drugs, stealing, ect. After a search through all of the contents in the backpack, the student is usually sent back to class, but the VP did not treat me the same. She immediately called for the nurse, who also seemed eager to find something out. First they pupil test me where she pointed a flashlight directly at each eye from 6 inches away, one at a time, and had a comparison chart of pupil sizes next to my face, 2 inches to the side of my eye. I passed. Then I get hooked to a machine from the arm to check my blood pressure. It tests high considering I have slept 6 hours in 2 days, and I have been diagnosed with fluctuating hypertension (I am 6 foot, weigh 185 pounds mostly muscle and have a full beard. At 16. Arab Genetics). The results for the blood pressure test where 100/140 and the Nurse (bitchy attitude), The Campus supervisor (Sarcastic) and the Vp all seemed to become more eager with neutral emotion. I told the nurse about the time the same year I had heart pains and rung 90/159 after weight training, and was sent home. Then I pulled out a picture of a Doctor meeting summary which set in their heads that they can't use my blood pressure against me as evidence of drug use. Then the nurse decided She wanted to test my pupil dilation again, which I passed yet again, before being sent back to class. It is important to note I have huge differences with the VP, and during my suspension 2 months back, she told me "Even if someone else put that juul (e-cig) in your backpack, you will still also be in trouble because you are not allowed to have that within your possession at school", to which I replied to her with "How fucking stupid are you?" and honestly yelled at her and stared her down the entire suspension process, to the point she became nervous and was speaking to me very lightly, and could not look me in the eyes while talking to me the entire time.

Physical info about me: 16 years old, 6 foot, 185 pounds, full beard (crazy Iraqi genetics), people believe I am around 28 upon meeting

I just wanted to know, if anyone is aware whether or not if the school is legally allowed to test my pupils (twice), as well as my heart rate and blood pressure after having already searched my person and my backpack and found no evidence supporting the use of any drugs.

Answer:
 Can you cut like 2/3s of the angry posturing out of this?

So you were suspended for having drugs on campus previously, and the school had suspicions you were using drugs again, then conducted a search and basic tests? And you want to know if this is alright?


Title: My employer is refusing to pay for a course/test that the state of California requires you to have to serve food (ServSafe)

Question: Hello /r/legaladvice , This is my first time posting on this subreddit. I have a question. So, My boss told me that I had to get certified in ServSafe (Food Handlers Course) by today or I would be terminated. I went on and took the course a couple days ago and it was 15 dollars to take the course/test and it took me a total of 3.5 hours to complete. I go to work today and tell my boss that I've completed my test. I continued to ask him how I would be compensated back my 3.5 hours it took and the 15 dollars it cost. He told me since it was a California state law to take the test that they owed me nothing. No work time or the money for the test. See, I've worked here for 8 months prior to this without having to have this certificate. Am I entitled any type of pay/reimbursement or is he correct? Thanks for any/all advice.

Answer: He's right. And since this is a certification required by the State and you can take with you to another job you don't have to be paid either. It's like CPR certification for an EMT or a Series 7 license for an insurance salesperson. Their employer may choose to pay for the class or their time but they don't have to.


Title: Help hiding from the local news?

Question:
[US:SC] So awhile back I did something stupid, of course I got caught, but thanks to the power of lawyers and money, It was only put down as a misdemeanor and hidden away on my record so that nothing would show up if I was to get background checked.

However... If I search my full name (on any of the major sites Google, Bing, Yahoo etc) a few local news articles come up saying what I did(a few have my picture). It really sucks cause I spent thousands on a lawyer to "hide" this, only to have another reason to detest the local news.

Its been a long time since this initially happened. ~~Could I hire another lawyer to have the articles taken down entirely with out causing to much of a commotion.~~ Would legally changing my Name help at all.

If it would the only problem is that I have a few certifications with my current name one them. (Its probably dependent on the company) Could I just call up the issuers and have them send me a new one, with my new name on it. (I could just change my middle name since that's not on it) I also have my GED lying around somewhere not sure if that has my full name either. Could they send me a new one of those?

Or if I was to be background checked would my previous name just show up, and raise more questions?

Thanks in advanced guys.

**UPDATE**: So we got the "no right to be forgotten thing" doesn't work in the US unfortunately. So how abut the change name part?

Answer:
 >  spent thousands on a lawyer to hide this

How exactly was the lawyer supposed to "hide" this?

> Could I hire another lawyer to have the articles taken down entirely with out causing to much of a commotion.

The media doesn't have to take down stories. I assume these stories are accurate ("Bob was arrested" when, in fact, Bob was arrested).

You can hire an online reputation management company. Answer #2: No. The media has a right to report on these things. There is no right to be forgotten in the US. You didn't hire a lawyer to "hide this" form the public. You pleaded to a misdemeanor.Answer #3: Paying a reputation management service is your best option. They can bury the negative results under a slew of positive/neutral ones, but there's no way to make the negative articles disappear entirely.


Title: AR & VA & IL - Think our uncle stole money as executor of Grandma's will but we did not suspect it until after he passed away

Question:
My cousin contacted me last night to say that she had found Grandma's will and some bank statements while in VA getting a few things of Grandma's from my uncles estranged widow (they had been separated for years but never divorced so his estate  belongs to her no question on that level).

However my cousin commented on a large amount of money Grandma had from an inheritance she had received years ago and my aunt said "oh yeah that is what he used to build this garage."  IT was a huge two story garage.  According to the will our uncle was supposed to get the house and the rest of the estate was supposed to be split amongst my cousin and I.  My cousin received Grandma's car and I got a check for $4000 eventually.  We did not even know about the will until we got a legal letter from the VA court months later so we were never invited to a reading of the will.  Towards the end our uncle had been controlling of grandma and had even berated grandma's nurse for calling us to come see her when she got really bad.  HE did not want us around and made it obvious.

Anyway, sorry if I rambled too much.

My question is at this point is there a way to find out if he cheated us out of inheritance and possibly sue his estate?  Grandma died in 2010 and my uncle died a couple of months ago both in VA.  I am in AR and my cousin is in IL.

Thank you in advance for any information you can provide!  Apologies for typos as I am on mobile.

Answer:
 "Reading the will" is a Hollywood invention.  That doesn't happen in the general case.

Your opportunity to challenge the will or the divestiture of assets was back then.  You haven't really provided any evidence of malfeasance, and the court won't let you go on a fishing expedition, generally speaking.


Title: I want to fight child pornography—esp. on chatrooms—what should I do?

Question:
Should I send their horrors to the police as a form of evidence—or is that illegal? Can I contact the police and agree to help them fight this? I HATE this evil! I wanna c the people who do it locked up 4 life, and I’m willing to do what I can to help punish these monsters, but I don’t want to in the process commit a crime. Any legal advice on how to do this?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 >Should I send their horrors to the police as a form of evidence—or is that illegal?

Soliciting, possessing, or accessing CP is illegal. If you want to get involved then become a police officer. Otherwise do not engage in those chatrooms.Answer #2: Leave the crimefighting to the police


Title: Plantif who filed under X Doe is harrassed and defamed on FB page by an officer removing anonymity... is this legal?

Question:
I've already posted to legal advice but it's more of an aside to a legal matter I suppose, figured I should possibly post here. Not specifically looking for legal advice, more how much trouble could this person be in and what level of "power" DA, state level etc should be seeked if the surrounding area is corrupt ?

This is a civil case, plantif was harmed by defendant- this officer has no relation/doesn't know plantif and the case is filed under pseudonym for privacy and safety as is done with all cases of this matter. They work in the same jurisdiction but it's exceedingly doubtful the officer should even know about the case- they are a peace officer.

I found the person's info with a quick Google search- all employment, family, and "blue lives matter"/racism is there (can't find sheild# in databases so I'm thinking not a full officer). Hey kids, if your going to harass probably shouldn't do it on main lol

Thanks everyone

Answer:
 The plaintiff should contact his/her lawyer to ask them what to do.Answer #2: Defamation seems to be largely misunderstood by most people.  You didn't outline any defamatory behavior.  Telling the truth about someone is never defamatory.  Stating an opinion about someone is never defamatory.  To defame another, you must make a claim that is knowingly untrue.  There are also subtilties in how statements are made.  "I think John Doe is an apple smuggler" is very different from "John Doe is an apple smuggler".

Harassment is another largely misunderstood term.  The term is very overused but rarely used correctly.

Aside from the above, did the officer or person have any duty to protect the identity of the filer of suit?  Was there a court order to maintain that privacy?  Is there a law that guarantees the privacy of such a filer?  If no to all of these, then there is likely no offense in revealing the identity of the filer.  And, of course, there are a lot of details we don't have to form a better analysis.

Reading your post, however, gives me the impression you assume many things to be "illegal" which are not illegal.Answer #3: Libel is a tort under which the tortfeasor is liable.  The tortfeasor is not acting within the scope of their duty, so government immunity is not applicable (Harlow v Fitzgerald).


Title: [NYC] Deadbeat tenant left his wife and kids in the apartment

Question:
My grandpa has a tenant. He rented the two bedroom apartment to him two years ago, and he was going through a divorce. Shortly after he moved in, he told us he was working things out with his wife. The family of four lived there and things were fine for several months. One night last October, cops showed up for domestic violence. The couple was arrested and since then, the father doesn’t come very often beside dropping off the rent.

Police and department of education social workers come every now and then for numerous reasons.

Fast forward to two months ago, the father paid rent 2 weeks late. And last Saturday, cops showed up again to arrest the adult son and he was hospitalized. He came back the next day and the mother refused to open door for him, and the cop escorted him to the dad’s place according to doctor’s order.

The rent is due every 5th of the month, I have been calling and texting the father and there’s no reply. The apartment is currently month to month because the original lease has expired. My grandpa wants to know what are his options here. Currently only the mother and their teenage daughter live there and clearly the father has found his own space, so he might not want to pay rent for them anymore. Is he still legally responsible? If we have to start eviction process, is there any way to expedite it?

Thank you guys 🙏

Answer: Your grandfather needs to send a 30-Day Notice of Termination. At the end of the 30 days, if they have not vacated then he needs to start the eviction process.


Title: Did former co-worker break a law?

Question:
So this just happened at my workplace and I'm unsure of what action if any, can be taken against a former co\-worker for this.

She was fired a couple of weeks ago after many chances given \(pretty sure she's been doing heroin\) and we found out today that she somehow got into the company's e\-merchant account that we use to charge customers debit/credit, and REFUNDED a bunch of customers, the total is like $6000.

What law would that be breaking?  She didn't steal anything, but this can't be right.  The boss is filing a police report today but if there's anything else we can do or anywhere that would be good to report her, or ANY wisdom any of you have about this situation, I'd very much appreciate it.

We're all pretty stressed out over this as our boss is such a nice guy.

Answer:
 A police report IS reporting her.  I prefer to think most people are honest so you all should get on the phone, explain the situation to the customers and ask them if you can rerun the cards.  Answer #2: She stole the funds she refunded to people. That's a type of fraud as well.

She doesn't need to keep stolen goods for them to be stolen.


Title: I'm insured but at fault, other driver is uninsured.

Question:
MILWAUKEE, WISCONSIN: It was a minor accident on the interstate, both my car and hers have minimal body damage, but the other driver (uninsured) claims that her repair estimate is $3,000 which I so highly doubt.

I'm insured under my parents and don't want to have my parents deal with rates going up. I haven't talked to my insurance company yet, but I'm wondering if because the other driver was illegally driving uninsured if that somehow negates be being at fault?

Answer:
 First: Never, ever admit fault.
Second: Speak to your parents, see if they'd rather go through insurance or out of pocket.
Third: If viable contact your insurance, tell them what happened and most importantly that the other driver was uninsured. OR pay out of pocket, be sure to double check the body shop estimates etc.


Title: [TX] parked in the area next to a disabled spot

Question:
First post here so please excuse any formatting issues. TLDR at bottom. I recently moved to a new apartment complex, arrived home late and my usual spot and all the spots in front of my apartment were full so I went a building down and parked next to a disabled spot, but I parked in the area that was supposed to be for the wheelchair ramp. I received a ticket that’s $513. I would like to try to contest it if possible, it was dark because it was almost midnight so I didn’t see the lines, I’m new to this complex, etc. $513 is a lot of money to me, so I want to know if I have any shot of having this reduced, but I also understand that it was just completely negligent on my part to not check that it was an appropriate parking space.

TLDR I parked in the area with lines next to a disabled space and was ticketed for parking in a disabled space. Is this something I could try to fight or should I just pay the early fine?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 No. That is part of the disabled spot. So you don't have a defense there

You can go and see if you can get them to refuse the fineAnswer #2: Contest it all you want.  You'll lose.Answer #3: The ramp area is part of the disabled spot. That spot is a specific width prescribed by law that enables a person to lower the ramp on their vehicle for their wheelchair or motorized personal transport.

What you did is no different than if you’d parked in the main handicapped spot itself.


Title: [CAN] Customer wants their deposit back, but after nine days, their money was used to manufacture a product.

Question:
My father owns a window furnishing company. A couple ordered vinyl shutters and gave us a deposit of $2,200 for their $5,700 order. They spoke at three different points between when my dad received their deposit on Nov 4 and when they decided to cancel their order on Nov 13. They're basing it on the potential toxicity of vinyl. Our vinyl is made here in Canada. We provided them credible links from the likes of Canada Plastics Industry Association and others to calm their concerns and they even spoke over the phone with our manufacturer's manager.

Not once during those three talking points did they mention their concerns with vinyl. They now want their deposit back and refuse to have the shutters installed in their home. We've explained to them that their money has been converted into a product and that we can't reverse that process. We are willing to give refund their deposit in the form of $2,200 worth of their vinyl order or follow through with their order and they can choose what to do thereafter with their vinyl shutters. If they refuse to pay for the remainder of their balance, we take a loss and are stuck with their custom shutters. They've noted that they might want to seek legal council. Are we wrong here? Do they have a case? What are our options?

tl;dr: Customers gave us a deposit for vinyl shutters, nine days later they want to cancel their order, when their product has already been manufactured and is ready for installation.

Answer: Your province is really going to matter here.


Title: My job claims I claimed 1 on my taxes while I was married but I never did. Now I am only getting $25 on my tax return despite paying thousands in taxes.

Question: Hi I don't know what to do or if I have a leg to stand on here. My job claims that I claimed 1 when I was married early last year but I never did. I also got divorced in May. The person I'm speaking with via email claims that they will not change my W-2 federal withholding amount even though I have proof that taxes were taken out of my paycheck. For context, I couldn't have claimed 1 because I was married to someone in the military and I was legally her dependent. They showed me our HR Central where it says that I supposedly changed my tax status to claim 1 from originally claiming 0 but I never even knew you could do that online and only informed my boss that I was married the year previous (we were married for less than a year) but don't recall doing anything differently, especially online (such as claiming 1 from claiming 0). I have had thousands taken out of my paychecks over the course of the 2 years that I worked for that company but they are claiming that because I claimed 1 I don't get to be reimbursed for any of it which 1. I never claimed 1 and 2. doesn't sound legal. I am very frustrated and getting confused and feel like my company just doesn't want to have to change my W-2 or something. Does anyone know what could be going on and if I should pursue them further? They're asking for my pay stubs which I'm getting sent over from my mom's house in America (I moved to Ireland for university so all my documents are back home) and they should be here in a few days but the tax deadline is coming up and I don't want to not have this resolved and only get a $25 tax refund when I desperately need a bigger one as I am in poverty. I'm sorry this is so all over the place I am just completely panicking and don't understand a lot of the jargon.

Answer:
 > Does anyone know what could be going on and if I should pursue them further? They're asking for my pay stubs which I'm getting sent over from my mom's house in America (I moved to Ireland for university so all my documents are back home) and they should be here in a few days but the tax deadline is coming up and I don't want to not have this resolved and only get a $25 tax refund when I desperately need a bigger one as I am in poverty.

file your tax return, if you are due back any money, you will get it back there. if you only get back $25 it means you paid your taxes correctly, and are not owed anything, you got the money that you would have gotten in a refund, spread out over your paychecks.Answer #2: I am very confused. You can claim any number you want. It just changes how much they take out. Then you file your taxes. If you paid to little, you owe taxes. If you paid too much, then you get money back.

That's it. Your employer doesn't have that money to give you back. They have nothing to do with your tax return


Title: Tow truck illegal trolling

Question:
So my car go towed from a customers only lot last month in Oceanside and it cost my 400 bucks to get it back. I had eaten at one of the restaurants that the lot was for and then walked across the street to watch a movie at the theater. When I came back my car was gone.

I went back to the lot that it was taken and the signs were the right size and clearly marked. But I’ve read the California towing laws and they are pretty clear that someone from the property has to call to have each car towed. I talked with the people at each restaurant that the lot belongs to and asked if they ever call and both places said the tow truck drivers just walk into the lobby and ask who’s car is which. No one from the store ever calls. I haven’t been able to really find information on if this counts as illegal trolling for towable vehicles or if it is legal.

So I have two questions.

Was this a legal tow?

If not. How do I go about getting my money back?

Answer: Or, they lied to you because they didn't want to have a confrontation with the guy who got his car towed.


Title: our neighbor has been harassing us for over a year

Question:
We've been in our current apartment for about 5 and a half years, it's a two story apartment complex, an older building. In the time I've lived here there have been two or three people who lived above me. You can hear a lot but normal noises fade into the background and never bothered me.

Last year a new neighbor moved in upstairs. Immediately he started telling us we were being too loud but wouldn't specify what we were doing that was loud. I tried to introduce myself but he just stared at me and said to stop being loud and walked away. Over the course of about five months we documented harassment every day. He would stomp on the floors so hard that the light fixtures would shake. He would ring our doorbell multiple times and say "we knew what we were doing" and say "we're full of shit" when we asked what exactly he was hearing. It got weirder. He'd slam his mailbox, he'd slam his windows over and over, he'd pace back and forth aggressively, he'd leave his cell phone alarm on for 30 minutes at high volume in the middle of the night. One time as we left the house we heard him scream from the middle of his apartment "IM GONNA FUCK YOU UP."

We noted all of this in a document (may-december, seven pages) with times and duration and gave it to our apartment manager. They said they were going to evict him but then turned around and said there was nothing they could do. He did get a formal warning and so for the last five months or so it's been fine. Until recently. The last few weeks it's started up again. He would walk past our apartment every day and laugh sort of menacingly at himself. He'd slam drawers over and over again. One night he just slammed the window over and over and over again while he was laughing to himself. I don't feel safe. The outbursts are unpredictable and directed specifically at us. Our manager told him to stop and he said he wasn't doing anything.

To make matters worse, he's started reporting us for being loud. Our manager said he's essentially reporting us for what we've been reporting him for the last year. It's frustrating because I feel like it's becoming an "our word against his" situation, since no one else can hear what is going on. My partners father had one unpleasant interaction with him and our neighbor had one unpleasant interaction with him. Nothing too crazy but they both said he seemed "confrontational" with them.

We plan on calling again and making another report today. My question is: can our management company do anything? we live in oregon. can we do anything, personally? what do people do in this situation aside from report report report report? any advice at all in terms of dealing with this? I feel like it's just been an ever-present part of our life since he moved in.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Talk to your landlord again. Honestly, the simplest and most effective way to resolve the issue is to move. "Being a jerk" isn't grounds for eviction, so the landlord's options are very limited. But you can resolve the issue by finding a new apartment when your lease is up. Let your landlord know you've left because of that crazy tenant.

In fact, feel free to tell your landlord that if they can't resolve the issue, you're leaving when your lease is up. That might motivate your landlord to elect not to renew that tenant's lease.Answer #2: Adult Protective Services may be worth a call if he seems unstable and lives alone