Title: I feel that this girl is trying to blackmail me into giving her money so that she won't press charges on me for an alleged theift of her prescription pills

Question:
My ex-coworker called 911 on me while i was drunk at her house and allegedly high off of her perscription pills. Police and EMT arrived on scene. I was actually not that drunk, as I can recall everything that took place. I consented to medical treatment because i knew she wanted me out of there and i didnt want a problem.

They never ran a blood or urine test or anything. They just kept me there in the bed for an hour, had me do a field sobriety test and i left. The ran an EKG and something else, but that was it.

So even if i had stolen and eaten the pills in question there is no evidence of it. My hospital paperwork just says "acute alcohol toxicity"

Now she just posted on my social media(to everyone) that i owe her money for the other night.  I felt like says, "why should i do that? So you wont go back and press charges?"
I didnt. Instead i took my social media down temporarily and came here.

Should i do nothing?
Should i try to trick her into threatening me?

I have screenshots of everything she posted.

Thank you!

INDIANA

Answer:
 ~~Were you or were you not high off of her prescription pills?~~

Edit: After perusing your post history, I have determined that was a dumb question to ask.

Cut contact with her.  Do nothing.  Don't try to trick her into anything, that is dumb.


Title: What makes something unconstitutional?

Answer: Something is unconstitutional when it violates the constitution.


Title: My boss violated ADA

Question:
I have MS and disclosed this during the interview process. I stated (accurately) that I would be able to perform my job duties and rarely need accommodations but if I did they would be reasonable and I would be sure to approach my supervisor.

My place of employment is very laid back and has a family vibe. My supervisor is very caring and loving. She TRULY cares about her employees. The last week or two the FL heat has made my MS symptoms worse. I've been wearing a cooling vest outside (not an accommodation bc there is nothing in the dress code that prohibits it. If someone else wanted to they certainly could). I just brought my cooling vest to work and started wearing it. My boss asked what it was and I showed her. I told her the heat is no good for my MS but the vest helps. She was genuinely interested I'm how it works and I answered questions.

We had a voluntary end-of-the-year party at a restaurant. I opted not to go because my MS fatigue and pain were acting up. I asked my coworker (call her Jane) to simply tell people my MS was acting up and I needed the time at home to recuperate. I'm open with my MS. Jane works directly with/under me. I have a higher job title but we perform practically the same job. Jane did  just as I asked.

Today, Jane tells me that my boss asked her how does my MS affect me at work? We are largely unsupervised and only see our boss once a week. Jane told my boss the truth, that my MS doesn't really affect me at work.

But my boss can't just ask those questions, right? That's a big ADA violation, right?

I'm SURE she was coming from a place of love and concern and was worried about me. I'm not even upset. BUT I don't want her to do it to someone else and get it trouble when they get upset. So, I want to know the laws regarding this situation so I can talk to my boss. Sometimes the best intentions get us into trouble and I don't want that for her.
Topic:
Disability Issues

Answer:
 Your boss has a duty to the company to:

A) Ensure your disability is reasonably accommodated; and

B) Ensure that your productivity is and remains on par with company expectations.

Without day-to-day supervision, the only way she can do B is ask or observe.Answer #2: ADA violations would involve their failure to reasonably accommodate your disability, not a discussion between your employer and co-worker who you've already disclosed your medical condition to.Answer #3: No, that isn't a violation of ADA. It is completely reasonable for an employer to inquire about a disability inoqcting work performance. Having a disability does not grant you immunity from doing a job or getting fired for not doing that job.

If your MS impacted your abioty to perform your job duties, and that could not be remedied with a reasonable accommodation, you can be fired due to the MS imoeding your ability to perform the job duties.


Title: [TX] Hostile work environment with two coworkers involved in a sexual harassment report I filed

Question:
There are two coworkers I work with--in a very small space--with whom I have had issues with. A male and a female. The female is an angry type who has been known to be rude with customers and coworkers (especially me) but got along wonderfully with the male. One day, it was just the three of us at work and they were having a sexual conversation. He turned to me asked me (in graphic, detailed, vulgar language) if I wanted to engage in sex with him. She witnessed me tell him no and he started giving me a massage. I halted it and reported it all that week to my boss. It went to HR and he was counseled, as well as the female (because I mentioned her name in the report, she was addressed) and were both warned about retaliation.
Ever since then the office has been extremely awkward. Them two always got along but now they give me the silent treatment and are rude or short if I ask them work-related things. They go out of their way to not communicate with me about work and it makes my job harder.
I've been telling my supervisor repeatedly how uncomfortable I am in there and my supervisor just keeps telling me to hang on because they will find another place for me. I had told them I want to be moved because I dread it now.

I'm confused about whether or not this is retaliation, and about why I'm forced to continue working with a man who put his hands on me.

Is this legal? What can I do? Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 Hostile Work Environment is a legal term of art and contrary to popular belief, it does not mean that the workplace was hostile in the colloquial sense. Rather, it refers to a pattern of discrimination or harassment as a result of an employee's membership in a protected class. Please see [this link from the EEOC](http://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/harassment.cfm) to better understand the advice you may receive. The majority of situations that many consider a hostile work environment do not meet that definition legally.

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Title: Underage Possession of Alcohol

Question: Two of my friends and I (all underage) were driving in New York when a cop pulled us over. He claimed he saw us dispensing a bottle of alcohol, made us leave our vehicle, and searched our car. He found 3 arizona bottles full of alcohol and wrote us up for a court date. Was what he did legal? I live 2 hours away from the town the court appearance is, is there another way to deal with it than having to travel there? What else should I know going into court? Thank you in advance!

Answer:
 So the cop claims he saw you with booze in the car.

He searched the car and found booze.

Exactly what part of this sounds suspect to you, OP?


Title: Sexual harassment-now being sued

Question:
This is a throwaway account for obvious reasons. I am a 34/f Florida

About five years ago,a group of girls complained on our manager for sexual harrassment. There were many more girls,but they were too scared to report it.

He would constantly try to kiss us,grope our leg under the table,and say inappropriate things. I got to the point where I was calling out just so I did not have to be around him. I finally told my husband and he said to call Human Resources. Two other girls called and complained as well. They stated the call would be anonymous.

Needless to say he was fired even tho he has been with the company for over ten years and I moved because my husband relocated. Well I was served with a lawsuit. He is suing all three of us plus the company. Stated he was discriminated against,racially profiled,and that we complained because we had poor work performance.

It’s been five years. I don’t know what to do. Do I answer the petition? Do I call my old workplace? Do I call a lawyer? This has brought back so many fears. I am now worried for my safety since he knows where I live. I am worried about retaliation. I can’t sleep. And I am having nightmares. He is  suing each of us for almost 20k. I regret making the call. But I could not go on being groped and trying to get kissed on daily.

Answer:
 If you are being sued, yes, you need to talk to a lawyer.

Depending on a vast many things, the lawyer defending your former company might - might - be able to assist you in some way (probably won't be able to represent you). Answer #2: It's past the point of just advice. Your going to need a lawyer.

However, just to put your mind at ease. From your story, he's suing you for discrimination. It's going to be boarderline impossible for him to prove workplace discrimination against you. The [phrasing](https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/florida-employment-discrimination-32083.html) of the legislation is worded for employers discriminating against employees. He was your manager. You had now power, and were in no position to hold anything over him.Answer #3: NAL, you did everything right, if you hire a lawyer, everything will go butter smooth, don't be hard on yourselfAnswer #4: You need a lawyer; you have been sued. Check your homeowner/renter insurance policy. Many provide coverage for certain types of claims like defamation, which may help defend you here. Answer #5: Reach out to your former employer and see what their plan is. They may provide you with an attorney, although you still may want to get your own. It may be a starting point.


Title: I am being offered a contract to sign with a record label, I have no idea what to make of it.

Question: I am a solo musician with a somewhat small following. I have had great success online marketing my own music, and have been featured on Bandcamp's frontpage several different times. I am being offered a advance and 50/50 profit split after expenses are recouped. I have the full agreements for those interested I can PM them. I have no other offers on the table, but want to make sure I am getting a fair deal. Trying to avoid spending a ton of money on legal fees. Any advice greatly appreciated. In Costa Mesa CA.

Answer:
 Find an entertainment lawyer with experience with label deals, and have them review it for you. This is not an option - there are horror stories in the music industry because of people who tried to do what you are.

It's a guarantee they had a lawyer review the contract when writing it, why on earth would you not do the same? Why would you sign something that you don't understand?

Spend the money. Your career, and your work, is 100% on the line. I've worked in the music industry for years, I've witnessed the fallout and the horror stories, this is absolutely something you have to do to protect yourself and your work. Don't be a horror story.


Title: (NH) Landlord had someone enter apartment while all tenants were gone, no notice given. Options? (somewhat urgent)

Question:
After being gone for the period of one half hour, I came home to drywall on the ground. The chunk of drywall in our closet (tub pipe access point) was moved. My dog was freaking out. I called my roommate, she did not cause this. She was in another state.

A year ago I let my landlord know that there was a problem with pipes. Nothing. It was mostly affecting my downstairs neighbor. He never fixed it. Last week I told him I found mold in the closet, he said he'd "get someone to look at it."

I text him asking him if someone came in here. He at first played dumb, but eventually said that he asked someone to. I asked who? Refused to answer. Tells me they're coming back tomorrow and to stop asking questions. He says "I own the building and have access to it." He ends with "Enough questions will be in there tomorrow to try to fix it."

Knowing him, it's just some friend of his that he gave the key to, not a licenced plumber. My roommate and I are both working tomorrow and can't get the day off I have a dog and cat here. I'm afraid of some random man who has a key to my apartment. What if they copied it? It's just the two of us girls alone.

Would it be illegal for me to change the locks tonight and send a copy in the mail to my landlord? I don't know who this person is nor when they're coming!

Edit: If changing the locks is not a legal option, any other ideas or suggestions? Also, we have a month to month lease and will be leaving ASAP
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 > Would it be illegal for me to change the locks tonight

Yes, very.

In general, if you request repairs you also authorize entry for those repairs.  Standard notice requirements do not apply.

If you'd prefer that they enter while you were home, you can discuss this with your landlord.  That is the extent of your recourse at this time.


Title: Neighbor exposing himself to my gf

Question: My downstairs neighbor has recently been sitting outside in shorts with his penis exposed through the pant leg (puts his feet up and spreads his knees). My gf texted me while out of town and said he just flashed her so I got on my security camera and took a photo of him with his feet up on his truck exactly how she described. I then texted my old next door neighbor about it and apparently the downstairs neighbor is an alcoholic and has “accidentally” exposed himself to women before (management received complaints). I’m unsure how to proceed as I’m gone a lot and I don’t want him retaliating by hurting my pets or anything but I can’t let him violate my gf whenever she comes over to visit. How should I proceed? Tell management? Call the police? This all started about a week ago btw

Answer: IANAL. Your girlfriend should call the police and make a report. She should call each subsequent time this happens and keep a log too. Intentionally exposing one’s sexual organs is a crime.


Title: Accused of stealing at work [TX] x-post from personalfinance

Question:
Hi! I am currently in a situation at my job and have some questions that maybe you guys can help me out with! If so, thanks in advance!

I have been working at a company in Texas for a little over two years. It was my first job and I enjoy the atmosphere and environment very much. I do not work with money or have access to it. What I am being accused of is processing a refund for a customer and pocketing the cash. I came into work today and was pulled into a room and was questioned. I was told that the amount was $1,750 and that 4 other people are involved. We were also told that if nobody confesses to the investigator, even if we are not guilty then we will each have to pay the $1,750 back to the company. Even if someone in the group is found guilty, we will STILL have to each pay $1,750. That part makes me angry and confused. So I was wondering is that even legal?

Answer:
 They can't force you to pay back the money. They can fire you, though. If they give you anything admitting to the responsibility of that money going missing, do not sign it. That is something that can and probably will be used against you. Getting fired is better than having a piece of paper out there that says you're guilty from stealing from the company. Answer #2: Get a lawyer, protect your ass. My sister was accused of stealing $3000. They told her no need to get a lawyer they will just do an investigation. My grandmother said, "Hell no" to that. Grandma doesn't mess around. Got a lawyer for my sister. It turned out the thief was one of the managers that accused her.

 You don't take a risk with your time, life and reputation, get a lawyer.


Title: (Texas) Opposing sides lawyer spoke in private with judge.

Question:
My sister had a child custody case scheduled. She doesn’t have a lawyer (for now). Her ex’s lawyer walked into the back door where the judge stays/comes from and we assume he spoke with him since the judge went back there for awhile as well.

Suggestions?

Answer:
 >Suggestions?

Yeah she should get a lawyer ASAP (like yesterday).


Title: Hotel tenant rights in Texas

Question:
Have been living in a hotel for 19 months in Texas. My landlord (owner) has always let me pay as I make money, usually a few times a week. I was just hospitalized for 12 days, and got behind on my rent. Currently im 2 days behind on rent, but owner is now refusing to let me make a payment and told me to get out today. From what ive found, since ive lived here as a permanent resident for a year and a half, they would have to give me notice and file for eviction, or accept payment.

What are my options? Even if i wanted to leave, it would take a few days to find somewhere else to go, but id rather stay here. What eviction process do they have to follow? Basically what can i say when she tells me to be out in X hours?

**edit: forgot to add, there is no lease or agreement. They dont even provide receipts when i pay rent (small hotel). I used to pay weekly because i got a discount, until last year when they got rid of the weekly discount. Since then i have paid a lowered daily rate, and this is why they let me pay as i can, since i was paying so much more than before. I also receive mail and bills here.**

Answer:
 In TX, unfortunately, the law is not really on your side. Likely you are not a tenant and you can be told to leave whenever they deem you trespassing on the property. In TX, the courts have upheld that as you do not have "exclusive possession" over your room, and that the hotel exercises control over your room that you are a guest and not a tenant.

If you cannot establish exclusive possession of your room then statutory eviction proceedings do not need to be followed.

Some questions to be answered:

* Do you receive mail to the hotel *directed* at you exclusively (i.e., room number)
* Have they suspended room cleaning services, and charged/collected your payment in the same way that other guests pay for their room?
* Are there services you've been provided that are not available to normal guests?
* Have you ever moved rooms or been given the option to do so?


Title: [IL] Taxi driver said he'd take us to California and canceled at the last minute

Question:
My friend and I are both in our early 20s and met a guy on Craigslist who said he'd take us to California if we gave him gas money.

We gave him pictures and ID and he was satisfied that we were safe and sane We spent a week preparing to leave including paying off fines in Illinois so we could get a fresh start.

The day of, we kept texting him and then he finally said he left without us because he wanted to leave sooner and then ghosted us, disconnecting our calls.

I'm wondering if we can sue for false advertising or some other crime? We have proof of our emails where he said he would take us for the gas money, and now we have to find another way to make the trip with no car and our possessions.

Answer:
 You have nothing here. Find another way to get there.Answer #2: Not sure sending him pictures of your id was a good choice.  That shit can be used for Identity theft.Answer #3: "Taxi driver" implies he's some employee of a cab service.

He hasn't taken any money from you?  Then you have nothing against him.Answer #4: You don’t have any case at all, sorry.


Title: Are there any consequences for posting a very VIP person’s personal cellphone number?

Answer: They can threaten you with a lawsuit. Even if they know they will lose, depending how VIP they are, they can easily afford the lawyers and make make your life miserable when you probably can’t afford the lawyers to defend yourself.


Title: What can I do about a Chinese restaurant in my town that keeps ignoring my food allergies no matter how many times I tell them about it

Question:
I am highly allergic to pork to the point where I will vomit for days and have trouble breathing for even longer.

There is a large Chinese restaurant and bar in my town that has fair pricing and good food when they don’t try to kill me.

Over the course of the last 3 years this company  has repeatedly ignored my request for certain substitutes (pork fried rice for plain fried rice, chow mein strained etc.) it has become more of an issue even though I have gone on multiple review website showing just this and they don’t care. I have gone in and basically got into a screaming match with a manager because he simply did not care that they kept messing up saying that all he would do is give me a replacement.  By the way the reason I didn’t want this is because multiple times they’ve given me replacements that were still full of my allergy.

I have a few receipts of this happening and a few pictures. I’d like to know what I can do because it just happened again when I was at work while starving. I’m done with the disrespect and want them to learn they can’t treat customers this way.

Topic:
Consumer Law

Answer:
 >  I’d like to know what I can do

You can stop going there.  By this point, their liability for these problems has virtually disappeared given your continuing visits.Answer #2: Why don't you just stop going there?Answer #3: why would you keep going if that keeps happening? Answer #4: > I have gone in and basically got into a screaming match with a manager

I imagine if you continue behaving like this, they'll fix the problem by trespassing you.

Or, you could voluntarily stop purchasing from organizations whose lack of diligence you find troubling.Answer #5: Is this the only Chinese restaurant in your town?Answer #6: Yeah, uh, you can't legally compel a restaurant to never mess up your order ever again, if that's the kind of answer you were looking for.

If you would like to keep going to this restaurant, then keep going, and resign yourself to dealing with occasional screw-ups with your order. Would it be annoying each time? Yeah. But clearly you like the restaurant enough, screw-ups aside, to continue returning over and over again.

If you would like to stop going to this restaurant, then stop going.


Title: Can I sue someone for based on the percent damage they did to me and my income in relation to how much they earn?

Question:
If comcast over charges me by $8 / month and makes me fight tooth and nail to get them to drop that charge and pay me back, And if I earn ~$20,000 / year so that $8 is 0.0004 times my annual "profits," can I sue comcast for 0.0004 times their annual profits? ($2billion * 0.0004 = $800,000).

Is there any legal precedent to do something like this? It seems fair that if they're able to withhold a certain percentage of my income, I should be able to take back a certain percentage of theirs (maybe just the interest I would have earned on that percent of income?)

Answer: In tort, "damages" are measured by how much YOU were hurt. Only if you were to sue and win for intentionally malicious acts and got punitive damages would the court take into consideration the status of the tortfeasor.


Title: Can we sue LaGuardia?

Question: Just venting but I am currently stuck in Nashville. I am flying to LGA. Almost Half of my flights to LGA in the last 2 years have been canceled or delayed an extreme amount( small sample size of 7 flights). Is there any sort or business tort or class action suit an attorney could bring against LaGuardia or the airlines for this nonsense? Assuming they are actually batting around .500? I am assuming my experience is an outlier but my god how can you  be allowed to operate a business location where half the time you can’t deliver what you promise and not get punished for it; or compensate your victims, uh i mean customers.

Answer: No there is nothing to sue for. Being inconvenienced is not legal grounds to sue on.Answer #2: No. But you can stop choosing flights into LaGuardia. When you make plane reservations you'll note that you are often prompted to choose your preferred airport. You could do Newark or JFK just as easily.


Title: [Missouri]How do I stop whoever is smearing our windows immediately after we get them cleaned?

Question:
Work at a store, got big ole windows on one side. Somebody is holding a grudge I assume, because for months EVERY time we clean the windows/get them cleaned they get ruined with fingerprints/forearm sweat/spit.

 I wouldnt care if it wasn't deliberate. It's only happens IMMEDIATELY after we clean them. They don't stay clean for more than 12 hours. No other businesses are affected.

At this point they've undone about $500 worth of professional cleaning. The company charges $20 every time, it's been an ongoing problem for months. They are actually wasting our money.

I'm gonna stake out the store. Can I go after them for what they owe? If proof is required I'll sit tight for a few months and film them doing it. Thanks.

Answer:
 Put up some cameras to get video of them doing it.

If you can positively identify the culprits, you can attempt to sue them for the cost of the cleaning.


Title: Found out my room mate has been taking my money for my half of the utilities and internet bill and keeping it without paying the bill, now the internet is shut off. What can I do?

Answer: You're only option to recover the money is to sue them in small claims court.


Title: [NY] Got fired from a job that I did well at. Any legal recourse?

Question:
Hi, first time posting here, so let me know if I make any mistakes.

This week, I was let go from my job in a construction company. I was a project manager. I've only been with the company 10 months. They put me on a single project, it was on the smaller side money wise (7 figures). The whole duration of the project was 6 months. In that time, I was the guy on site every single day (I worked weekends too, I'm talking Saturdays and Sundays). I handled a lot of the responsibilities that come with a job like this. My 2 direct bosses either quit or went on medical leave halfway through the project. We made 18% profit, which is well above this companies average profit rate (albeit, the other projects have much larger budgets). So basically, at the end of this project, they told me that they didn't have another project to put me on, so they were letting me go. I asked about severance pay, and was told they would pay out my PTO days, but I would be getting nothing else. I could go on and on about how I worked my ass off on this project, but i won't bore you.

My question is, is there anything I can do legally speaking? Or have they probably covered themselves from something like this.  Also, the company was medium sized but is currently downsizing. New York

Answer: That's a perfectly valid reason to fire someone. Are you a a part of a union?Answer #2: If there's no work, there's no work. You can't get blood from a turnip even if you're the best employee in the history of the company.


Title: My mirror broke on me this morning

Question: I currently live in Toronto Ontario. I've been renting a room for a little while and its not the best space but its ok and the rent is cheap. Today however I was shaving and had the mirror (which it turns out was just placed above the sink, not secureed. Not sure if that makes a difference) tip over and fall on me, giving me minor injuries. Obviously the mirror will have to be replaced by the landlord but is there anything I should immediately do other than taking pictures and bandaging myself?

Answer:
 Minor injuries that only require a bandaid are not likely to result in legal recourse for you.

Just ask the landlord to replace the mirror and secure it properly this time.


Title: Hypothetical: putting drugs in a sealed envelope and driving with it in your car - would police need a warrant?

Question:
**Clarification: Does (legitimate) mail in a vehicle require a warrant or only probable cause for an officer to open it when they are performing a search?** That was the heart of my question. I didn't think I would have to explain this is not something I, or anyone would ever try in real life, because it's so ridiculous...

I'm in Alabama but I would assume this would be more-or-less the same in almost all states?

Obviously it is stupid to drive with drugs on you but a lot of people do. I've done it in the past but that was when I was younger.

* I'm assuming it is in fact true that anyone, including the United States Postal Service (USPS) requires a warrant to open someone's mail, even if there is a reason to be suspicious? i.e. pills easily visible when holding up the envelope, or someone trying to send pot through the mail and not packaging it properly, etc.

* If that was the case while you were driving, the police could smell the pot, I'm aware they have probable cause to search the vehicle but if they came across the envelope, could they open it and under what conditions? What if it was not visible or detectable at all?

* Let's say police actually did require a warrant and decided to pursue that, could they detain you until the warrant has been signed and perhaps even impound the vehicle while you wait at the station? What would likely happen?

I don't really know what made me think of this since the whole idea is pretty far out there regardless.

Answer: Merely putting something in an envelope does not make it mail.


Title: What are my legal obligations to someone threatening suicide because they might have to pay me child support? Rape allegations.

Question:
Got pregnant by a douche. Haven't decided what to do. I'm ruining his life because he couldn't be arsed to consider extra protection on his side (We were engaged so I thought he was in it for the long haul and we discussed kids but I took my pills but obviously it didn't work) or to decide if he really wanted this  before he had sex with me. Or break up with his other girlfriend that I didn't know about before he asked me to marry him.

Now he is sending all kinds of suicide rants to me about how I causing him emotional distress and directing leading to his suicide.

He is threatening to off himself and tell people it is all my fault because I am not giving him a choice.

We are 30. This is stupid. I'm stupid because I was gonna marry him. Obviously I need to reconsider my choice in men. Maybe take some time off after the baby and concentrate on me (and the kid, of course).

He is also saying that I raped him. I didn't. He wasn't claiming that until I got pregnant though. Like the day after I told him I was two months pregnant he is like " I want to kill myself" and then immediately after " you raped me."

He claims that some of the doctor prescribed medication he was on ( Ritalin) made him agitated and encouraged him to make poor life choices (sex with me) and that I knew he was on Ritalin and it's effects on moods are known and I took advantage of him.

He says he won't file rape charges against me if I get an abortion.

Look, I get that whole thing about people shouldn't be forced to have kids if they don't want to but I really don't want to have an abortion. Nor do I buy his bullshit about his five year on Ritalin some how leading to me raping him.

He got a degree in Philosophy at that time from a university. Can he sue them for getting a useless degree too?

Can he blame Ritalin on over spending on his credit card or buying that shit house?

Obviously, I blocked him and haven't really responded to anything but we live together and eventually he is going to come back home or I'm going to catch him at home moving stuff out.

So, if he actually files anything or does anything other than send me random messages on every social media I have ever been on I plan to get a lawyer but on the off chance that someone smarter than me know something different, I thought I'd ask how much of a leg he has to stand on here?

Can I be blamed for emotional distress for becoming pregnant and him possibly being forced by the courts to pay child support?

What about the Ritalin and rape thing? I have proof of him saying he consented to sex but he feels he wasn't in his right mind and I knew it because I knew he took Ritalin?

Forgot to add location: Washington, Seattle area.

Answer: I don't think you have anything to worry about in terms of the rape accusation except causing drama for you if you allow it. You need to decide if you want to have this baby.  Unless he is a completely unfit parent, which is a high bar, he can go to court to get visitation rights. You can also go after him for child support, or if you are on public assistance they will go after him.


Title: Car accident ruined my life

Question:
So about 3 years ago I bought a new 2005 convertible mustang from the dealership. On the 3rd day of owning it I was heading to a buddies house and had a passenger in my car. We were only a couple blocks away but  I started getting tired and didnt think I could safely make it there. So I pulled over and asked if he wanted to drive. He said yes, and I said drive safely and go the speed limit please. He instantly notices the power the car has and stomps the pedal to the floor hitting about 100 i yelled slow down! And go the speed limit! He looks right at me and says "it's okay I'm fine" we than blast through an intersection and hit a dip in the road jumping the car about 3-5ft in the air. We came down of the front bumper and managed to spin out to the right side of the road hitting the side walk and light post. Than flew over to the left side of the road jumping the curb and rolling the car taking out like 8 feet of fence on the school property. He than looks at me and says "hey um.. we need to switch seats" I said why!? Him: " because i dont have a license and your gonna go to jail if you dont" in the panic of it all I switched him seats not thinking about what I was doing at all. And I ended up getting stuck with all the fines for property damage ect ect. And I had huge tickets of un godly amounts and my insurance raised by around $350 added to my normal amount I pay. Now I assume it's far to late. But my buddy said I should post this here because maybe something can be done about it.
Is there anything I can do as bout this? Can I use and get all my money back? Can I somehow get this off my record completely and lower my insurance? What can I do?? Help please!

Location of accident : Salem Oregon

Answer:
 If you allowed an unlicensed driver to operate your car, it almost certainly would have invalidated your insurance. So by switching you committed fraud, but actually likely saved you money in the long term.

You could try to complain, but that may end with your insurance being terminated completely, fraud charges filed with your local PD, a lawsuit against you to recover what they did pay out, and an inability to buy car insurance from all but the shittiest and most expensive companies.

Your choice. But do you really want to poke this bear?Answer #2: Key question - would you have been able to collect insurance if they knew the car was crashed by an unlicensed driver?Answer #3: Sounds like you committed insurance fraud by switching seats.   I do not think you can untangle this any better then it worked out for you.

>  What can I do??

Drive very safely, and drive old beatup cars.   I was in a similar situation as you when I was young.  After loosing my license due to driving a different car with no insurance on it... my insurance was about $250/mo to drive.

Also... don't ever let anyone drive your car every again.   Hard lesson to learn.


Title: Do I have a case against my health insurance for denying a claim that led to me developing antibodies to a medication which was later approved in the appeal process? (MO)

Question:
I have been on a medication, Remicade (infliximab) since 2006. I've been with my current insurance provider for 3 years and they previously approved all claims for this medication. This year they decided to deny it on the grounds that I was getting it too frequently.

I won't go into how absurd it is for them to make this claim despite 20 years of medical history and having been on this drug for over 13 years. I was pissed. I called frequently to the appropriate parties and was respectful but very angry at how long it was taking.

Regardless, after roughly an 11 to 12 week gap (I am supposed to receive it every 6 weeks) I may currently be experiencing side effects that indicate that I have developed antibodies to the drug and may not be able to take it any longer. This is something that happens specifically with this drug when gaps between treatments occur and it is amazing that I've been on it as long as I have and that it has continued to work.

If it turns out that I actually have developed antibodies due to this gap which was clearly their fault, do I have a case against them for future treatment costs and pain and suffering that may result from having to change a treatment course which has been working since 2006? They may have affected my health and quality of care for the foreseeable future. I may be unable to take a medication that has worked and kept my disease under control for years.

Answer: This is a very fact specific issue.  If you wish fo talk to an attorney, look for one that deals with bad faith insurance.


Title: Who gets in trouble?

Question:
okay, I need some serious help you guys. so i found a fantastic job that pays extremely well (Landscaping) and i started my first day and the driver (who is also the owner of the company) and the 2 other guys i ride with love to smoke pot as they are driving the work truck. Now im on probation for a MIP and dont want to get in any trouble and i know not to smoke with them as they drive but will i get into any legal trouble even if i was not smoking any pot if they get pulled over? Btw im in Washington state.
Thank you!

Answer:
 ~~You could be charged with possession of whatever pot is in the car.~~

Allowing someone to drive you around while they are intoxicated is also a horrible idea.Answer #2: I live in WA state and this is what my probation officer told me.  ANY contact with the police for ANY infraction could have the possibility of violating my probation.  She literally told me that something as simple as a speeding ticket could violate me.  She went on to say that it's highly unlikely it would unless everyone was in an especially bad mood that day, but you get the point.

However knowingly associating with anyone who is actively committing a crime can definitely and probably would violate you.  Weed may be legal here in this great state, but DUI is not.  Answer #3: Check the terms of your probation for one. Second, you likely could if they are pulled over and are smoking while driving.


Title: [Canada] what is someone acidently downloaded child pornography

Question: My friend in Toronto phoned me last night. Saying he was looking for porn and downloaded a video.the people look like 10. He said he deleted it, but he is scared that he will be in trouble, he is 16

Answer:
 Read title like a Jeopardy question. And the answer is "What is something a pedophile says, Alex?"

Your friend should be fine. Tell him not to look for porn on sketchy sites. Answer #2: No one is going to care that your "friend" downloaded potential child porn once by accident. The police have bigger fish to fry.

Oh, and on the very remote possibility that he actually is contacted by law enforcement the standard advice is to not talk to them without a lawyer present.


Title: [CA] Wrongly accused of going 104mph!

Question:
Hey all,  here's how it went down: a couple of months ago I was caravaning with a friend on the I-5 North. I'll admit we were going a little above the speed limit - MAYBE 80ish in a 70mph zone. My friend is leading and I am behind, in fact there was a car in between us at the time the cop rolled up behind us. Cop goes after my buddy who exits the freeway and parks on the right, I exit the freeway behind them and turn left and go to a gas station to refuel and wait. After receiving the ticket my friend drives over to the gas station and tells me the ticket is for 104mph! "WTF!? We were going the same speed as every one else!" I think and as we start to roll away the cop comes over and writes me the same ticket. (RAGE). The cop claimed he radar gunned my friend at 104 while he was travelling the opposite direction.

I am fighting this. I am representing myself as I do not have the funds to pay for a lawyer. It is too late to request a trial by declaration unfortunately (court date is next friday).

I am wondering what points I should focus on when speaking to the judge? Do I drive home the point that there was a car in between me and my friend when the cop pulled him over? Do I question when the gun was calibrated? Does the judge care that I drive a 25 year old convertible that I wouldn't even feel comfortable doing 104mph in?! Am I allowed to use all of these at once?

I'm getting pretty nervous as the date comes closer, any help is greatly appreciated.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: You can bring up anything you feel is relevant.  But based on what you've said, this will come down to the credibility of you vs. the officer.  And the officer has training and experience and is likely to have more credibility. Answer #2: If you lose the case, be prepared to lose your license for either 30 or 90 days, I forget which. 101+ comes with a mandatory license suspension.


Title: (WV) Children's BioMom makes poor decisions regarding their education. If she resists this summer, is it something we can get court ordered?

Question:
EDIT: I've had only two comments are everyone seems to think my husband and I are excluding BioMom because we're petty jerks. This woman is trying to push a child with a kindergarten reading level into second grade by fighting the school board! It's nonsensical. She makes many ill founded choices and I don't have time to tell you the life story. But the short version is she was reprimanded for it by a judge last November when we went to court.  SHE TOLD THE JUDGE IN THE COURT ROOM TO STOP INTERRUPTING HER. So please, take my word when I say that we have to be prepared for the worst while trying to do what's best for a kid that is now a year behind in school

You know that idea of don't attribute malice to what is actually ignorance? This is my children's BioMom in a nutshell.

The youngest has an August birthday and barely made the cut off to start kindergarten last year. But BioMom and BioDad sent him because it was better than daycare. BioDad assumed he would likely repeat the grade but never discussed it with BioMom. Because at this point in time BioDad just assumed he could reason with crazy.

The youngest's first year in kindergarten unearthed some pretty serious ADD. He didn't start medication till the last quarter of the school year and as a result, had significantly failed to retain the majority of kindergarten. Especially in reading. The school wanted to hold him back but BioMom vehemently argued to push him into first grade. The school acquiesced but said that if he wasn't up to standard this year there would be no question about holding him back.

Well guess what? He's failing miserably. And he undoubtedly will be retained. BioMom knows it's coming and is threatening to go to the school board to fight it. I'm not worried about that because I know the school board will handle it. What I'm worried about is that BioDad and I (we are married) have signed up the youngest for a six week reading program for the summer and will probably sign him up for another one that starts after the first one ends. I'm concerned that BioMom is going to be livid that we signed him up for these and will refuse to take him or allow us to take him.

These programs will obviously include her custody days but during times she would have them in childcare regardless. Our parenting plan does not forbid scheduling activities during the other parent's custody time but obviously the parent can refuse. In this situation with his education being at such a critical point, is there anyway we could have the court step in since she's hell bent on making terrible choices? We have a lawyer and he's good but he's not very good at having conversations with us about stuff like this.

Thank you for any help you can provide.

Tldr: BioMom makes bad decisions educational wise. Can we take her out of the loop if we go to a judge?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 He's sort of guaranteed she'll be livid because he's made the decision without so much as consulting her. He has to at least make an attempt to collaborate with her on this before complaining that she's being unreasonable about it; if this does go to a judge, she'll complain that dad is making educational decisions unilaterally and she'll be right.

Anyway, the answer to your question at least in part depends on what exactly their custody arrangement says about educational decision making. Answer #2: >  Can we take her out of the loop if we go to a judge?

It doesn't sound like you've tried to put her in the loop yet.

>  We have a lawyer and he's good but he's not very good at having conversations with us about stuff like this.

It sounds like your lawyer either doesn't agree with the types of things you're trying to do, and you don't want to hear what he's telling you,  or that you need a different lawyer.


Title: Are “not guilty” pleas subject to perjury?

Question: Let’s say you are arrested and charged with a crime (let’s say burglary). You plead not guilty to the burglary, and the trial proceeds. At the end of the trial, the jury finds you guilty of burglary. Notwithstanding any other lies that you might have said to the court, does the fact that you pled “not guilty” to a crime you were later convicted of lead to perjury?

Answer:
 Yes, that’s why everyone who pleads not guilty immediately charged with perjury upon their initial conviction.

Ok, for the real answer, no, all not guilty means is you are requiring the state to carry its burden. Moreover, pleas are not made under oath.Answer #2: No, because when you plead "not guilty" you are not saying "I am innocent" what you are saying is "I am exercising my constitutional right to have the state prove my guilt"


Title: Old people man

Question:
So I'm  walking down a train track on my way back from school. Some guy in his back yard told me to leave so said shut up and hes mad af. I heard him on his phone saying "I need a officer" and "theres a young man trespassing"

Am I really trespassing?

What should I do if police confront me?
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 If you're walking on train tracks you're very likely trespassing.

>What should I do if police confront me?

Why don't you stop trespassing instead of allowing there to be a police situation to deal with?


Title: No Female Bouncers?

Question:
Hey, I live in MT, USA.
I have over two years experience as a bouncer at the same location (I'm always super reliable, and excellent at de-escalation).
I went to apply at the club my friend works at (She's a dancer) and the manager looked at me and immediately said 'We don't hire female bouncers. we can't."
To me, that seems a bit unfair and left a bad taste in my mouth. It's confirmed I have more experience than a couple of the men they just hired, and it doesn't seem like there's a state law in place that  prevents women from bouncing.

Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: You could talk to an employment lawyer, as sex is a protected class, but lets face it, if they don't want to hire women, they'll find other ways not to hire women.


Title: Wife and kids are out of town and we are fighting

Question:
My Wife and 2 kids are visiting my her parents out of state, and right now we are fighting. We moved in with my parents because my parents don't have a place to live right now and don't have jobs.  My sister lives with us too. My Sister and I both split rent/bills and my parents give $500 to help with other bills.  When we are here she doesn't have any problems (that i know of), I have 4 month old and infant, my parents watch the kids on the daily basis or whenever my Wife needs to pump or run errands. They also help clean up around the house and makes food everyday.

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I love my wife and kids but I can't leave my parents homeless.  We only fight when she visits her family and we would fight on the phone.

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I guess when it comes down to it, who would have custody of the kids?

Answer:
 It sounds to me as if there are 5 (?) adults plus a couple of children in  this home. I'm not surprised there is friction TBH. I gather you have brought your parents in to your home plus your sister. Did you actually discuss this with your wife first (as opposed to: well they have no other place to go)?

Have you considered therapy before jumping to the divorce option? Because it seems to me that when you say "I can't leave my parents homeless" what you are actually saying is: and however my wife feels is less important.


Title: Falsely Accused of Rape in Kentucky. Took a plea deal. Lawyer told me the misdemeanors were expungeable. Turns out one stays on my record for life! Can I sue him for Malpractice? How do I do that?

Answer: Misdemeanors are expungeable after 5 years. What is the issue? What was the malpractice?


Title: [SC] Got paid for time I didn't work, so I'm told I just won't get paid for working until it evens out again.

Question:
Okay so this is actually for a friend of mine who found herself in a weird situation.

She works for a private university, in a part time position, and as such is only contracted 10 months out of the year (off for Summer).  However, when she returned to work this week, they informed her that they had accidentally paid her for the past two months which she didn't work (still not sure how that happened as she hadn't submitted any hours worked).  But since they paid her for those two months, they just wouldn't pay her for the next two months while she worked, meaning she wouldn't get another pay check until October.

I know logically that kind of makes sense, but I can't help but feel that there's something not right about the situation. If she decided to quit, she still keeps the money they paid her, so if they can't withhold that money, why can they withhold future earnings? It also feels like that would be a breach in her contract which says she gets paid for the hours she works.

What's the situation here?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 If she decided to quit she would have to return the overpayment. The company could alternatively require her to pay back the overage right now and then pay her out normally going forward.Answer #2: She can repay the money one way or the other.

She can decline then to withhold her money and pay then out of pocket.

She can ask for a repayment plan instead.

Really not sure how she got two months pay she knew she wasn't owed without noticing.


Title: Paying child support for a kid that's not yours

Question:
[This story](http://www.newson6.com/story/34240493/ok-man-ordered-to-pay-child-support-despite-not-being-father) got me thinking:

Say a court finds you responsible for paying child support on a child that's not yours. What recourse do you have?

Can you sue the mother for fraud, pain and suffering...?

Can you sue the mother to try to find the bio dad and then sue him?

Answer:
 You can sue them both for anything you want.  It's another question as to whether a suit would be fruitful.  I'm not a lawyer in OK, so it's a bit of stretch for me to answer, but I'll ponder the question.

AS to the mother, I would assume that you would have to show that she not only knew for certain that you were not the father, but that she also did what she could to actively hide it from you for all those years, including lying to your face about it.  Note: I doubt that a simple showing that she knew there was a possibility someone else was biodad would be enough.  Even if you could prove all of that (which would be nearly impossible), you'd have to prove damages.  That's where the statutory provision that caused this mess would probably throw some wrenches into the thing.  It would get complicated really fast.  My hunch is that the statute would bar the suit entirely.

As to biodad, you could sue for paternity to try to find out who the father is, but again, this statute would be a problem.  I don't see how you could have any legal recourse against biodad, unless you were able to somehow prove he was in on the whole conspiracy against you thing, and that he actively aided in deceiving you. Then you still run into the same statutory problem as in the first scenario.

My state doesn't have a statute like this, as paternity can be challenged at any time, so I'm not totally qualified to answer this question, but I would guess that in OK you would have very little recourse. I assume it would be up to either Mom or biodad to change things.


Title: [CA/BC] Baby's father left abruptly, wants to terminate his rights

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 A father can't just 'nope' on his parental responsibility.

Once the child is born, you can name him the father and go to family court to get court ordered child support.  He might contest paternity, and being in a different country could delay that process, but Canada and the US have an agreement on child support.  He doesn't have to pay you anything until the child is born, but keep your receipts/invoices because you might be able to have a court order him to pay for a share of prenatal care.

No idea on citizenship.Answer #2: I look forward to your ex- boyfriend's post asking us how he can get out of child support because he's decided to "terminate his parental rights".

Also, is he on the lease?


Title: I have a order of protection against my ex but police will not enforce it. What should I do next?

Question:
I was granted a order of protection against my ex in January 2018 and it's good for 24 months. It was for domestic violence I'm not sure if the subject matter is important but that's why it's in place.

TLDR (I do suggest reading though):

Police officers and case worker will not take action on order of protection violations by my violent and also documented as armed and dangerous ex (as listed on my OP)

He has violated it several times by trying to add me via multiple social media accounts on about 5 different platforms. I called the police after the first violation they told me I didn't have one and I made it up. I called the court house immedately after and they said they forgot to file it but it was approved the judge om. January. That made me furious but I didn't say anymore I just for copies of my document showing it has been approved months before and gave it to the police once again after giving them a copy of mine when it was granted. They told me.they would not pursue the violation I called about because they didn't file the proper paperwork in the computer so they won't recognize it but to call if he does it again and they will arrest him. Well he did it several more times and also had his sister and a few of his friends try to contact me with fake profiles and prank phone calls (I'm 26 he is 29 that's how inmature the person I'm dealing with is). I called the police once again and they gave me the same bull crap story they did the first rime. That I made up the fact I had the OP and I had to once again send them anything. It was the same officer because he was assigned to me so I have all his information and he took the I inital report yet he pretends he doesn't remember. I have called a total of 5 times now due to my ex violating the OP which clearly states absolutely zero contact once so ever.

Now he won't take my calls and I leave a message but I'm not contacted back. I talked a woman that is in some.postion above his I can't recall right now and she said she would pursue it and notify me well that was like 6 months ago. No one is helping me. He clearly violates it and they bullshit me and either ignore my call, tell me they are going to take action and they do not, or call me a liar when I saw I have a OP.

I have no clue where my case is at .. she told me once that she had more top priority matters going on which I found a little rude even if true. My incident happened in a small town so there isn't many cops so filed with the state police also my ex was the a city "officer" and by that I mean he has a patrol mans job to become a cop but had only done half the course and had not been to school for it yet.

I can elaborate on anything you need to know it all. I know this all sounds absurd but I assure you it's real and it's very stressful.

I moved across the get away from him and I was told that should be good enough why am I calling them about my OP??

I have been talked to completely unprofessionally and I've been blown off completely. This charges (prob not the right phrase) are for physical asault and rape.

I'm sorry if I rambled or used any incorrect words or typos but feel free to ask me anything you need me to clarify and I will answer. I'm scared of my ex he has threatened to kill me on multiple occasions and assaulted me in various serious ways. He promised to kill me one day and all I can do is rely on this OP for right now and they won't take it seriously no matter who  I speak to.

Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 IANAL. Just advice as to what I would do and have experienced.
When you call law enforcement again, try having a physical certified copy of the order available to show the officers as proof it does indeed exist and is enforceable. The few times ive dealt with with this, the officers asked to see the order before making any further actions.Answer #2: Sorry you’re dealing with this.  Google for a local women’s center and ask for their advice.  Also, call the National Domestic Violence hotline to ask for advice Too.

Both calls should be free.


Title: [USA, LA] friend hit my GF's car on private property

Question: GF stayed at a friends the other night, her Friend who i will call Pam left the next morning early and backed into my GF's car.  She went inside and woke her up and told her she hit her car.  She then sent apology texts to her, but now she doesnt want to pay to fix it.  She claims her auto insurance doesnt cover private property damage and she wont give us the name of her home owners insuarnce, GF got a police report, what can we do?

Answer: If she doesn't pay, you sue her in small claims court for the cost of repairs. Chances are once she realizes she's going to have to go to court for it, it suddenly won't be an insurance problem.


Title: I am being accused of a sexual assault I did not commit. What do I do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > I am now supposed to meet with two people who will hear my side of the story. I'm allowed a lawyer, but I have to speak for myself. What should I do?

You should not say fuckall to these two people or anyone else. Hire a lawyer and do exactly - and only - what this person says.Answer #2: Lawyer. Now.

Do not talk to *anyone* about this except your lawyer. Answer #3: Get an attorney immediately and don't speak to anyone, including your school, friends, ex-girlfriend, etc about this


Title: (USA, Florida) I received this email offering me a part time job. Is this type of job legal? Money laundering comes to mind. What's your opinion?

Question:
Good day,

My name is Xiaoli Yin and I own a company that sells Art Work and fabric materials in London,I am looking for a representative in the United States Of America And Canada who will be working for me as a part time worker and i will be willing to pay Ten Percent for every transaction,

JOB DESCRIPTION

*. Recieve Documents/Payments in form of Check, Money Order, Bank Draft,
*. Deduct 10% which will be your percentage
*. Forward balance after deduction of percentage to the company.

if you are interested in working get back with this details, Please get back to me with your Complete information:

Full name.......................................
Physical address(Not P.o.box).......................................
City...........................................
State.........................................
Zipcode......................................
Telephone number.......................................
Age........................................
Present Job........................................

Your provided information will be sent for the first internal screening and computation of applicant's information. Please if you are interested in this position don't hesitate to get back to me for more information

Regards,
Xiaoli Yin

Answer:
 I'm a cop.

This is a scam.

Delete the email, do not open emails in the future that you are not expecting. Do not open emails with attachments that you are not expecting. Answer #2: Did you apply for a job with this company?

If so, it's 99% a scam.

If not, it's 100% a scam.

It's a scam.


Title: [Ontario, Canada] Emergency contractor didn't finish work after water leak, has been paid by insurer. Worth it to take to small claims court?

Question:
We had a water leak in our kitchen which destroyed our hardwood floors.  We contacted our insurer who instructed us to get a contractor to do emergency remediation, and then file a claim for the emergency remediation and the subsequent repairs.  A contractor was recommended, they came in, did MOST of the emergency remediation, leaving a few things here and there which they assured us they would do when they did the repairs.  We filed our claims, they got paid $8800 for the emergency remediation, and then they just disappeared on us.

After a month of screening our calls and not calling back when we did manage to get through to them, we've given up, notified them that we're going with another contractor (they never replied), and are now proceeding.  But there's still a few things that they billed for the emergency remediation, which they were paid for that they never did.  I did the math, and it's around $500-$800 worth of work.

It's hard to judge exactly, for example, they removed the hardwood in the kitchen, but didn't remove the hardwood under the fridge.  Another example, they removed the hardwood in the family room, but not along around a 1 foot perimeter of the room, or under the free-standing fireplace.  Things like that, so the exact value of the unfinished work could be up for dispute.

So I'm considering taking them to small claims court to recover the costs of this, since I'll have to pay the new contractor to do this work that they've already been paid for.  Is it worth my time and trouble?  I have no experience with small claims court. Basically, they were paid $8800 to do the work, did maybe $8000 worth of work and then vanished.

Answer:
 >since I'll have to pay the new contractor to do this work that they've already been paid for.

If your insurance company paid them, they're the aggrieved party. Tell them the contractor skipped out early and let them get their money back. They're way better at suing people.


Title: [ON] Landlord told me I had to move out at the end of the month, a week later, after I found a new place she said I could stay and may try to keep my rent deposit because I'm backing out of the lease she didn't let me sign

Question:
I moved into a two bedroom apartment with a friend last September. The landlord has been a nightmare since we moved in, when we moved in we had no power (took 3 days before it was turned on because of a long weekend), no bathroom sink for the first two weeks, unfinished carpets for the first 6 weeks which left parts of our floor with nails stick straight up out of it (room mate and I ended up pulling extra pieces of carpet out of the pile of garbage left in out stairwell and fixing this ourselves). I once had to email her 15 times in 2 months to get her to put lights in our stairwell.

Anyways my room mate planned on moving out at the end of the month, but it was a good location at a reasonable price and I didn't want to move so I found another friend who would move in with me. I informed the landlord of the situation, she approved my new room mate and said she would send a lease for us to sign. I reminded her probably close to 10 times in 3 weeks to send it, stressing that I wanted to get it signed since she was looking at selling the building and I wanted to make sure everything was sorted out in case she sold it. Every time I asked for the lease she always said she would drop it off today/tomorrow or that she was just getting it ready and would send it later that day.

Two weeks ago she responded to one of my emails with "call me ASAP". So I called her and she informed me that she had sold the building and the guy buying it wanted to move into my apartment so I had to be out for September 1st. She told me she felt bad since we had talked about me staying there so she would let me and my new room mate live in one of her other buildings for free for September and October. After 2 months there I could stay and pay rent which is significantly more than I pay now and it's also on the other side of town (far from school for both me and my room mate) she also avoiding confirming that it was a 2 bedroom apartment. I told her that if she gave it in writing that said we could both live there for free and if she returned the extra month of rent I paid (I've paid 13 months of rent for 12 months) that I would move out. At this point both of us were looking at the free place as plan B as moving during midterms would be a hassle and the bus ride to school for two months would be pretty long. I signed a lease to live in a house with some other friends starting in September and the guy that was going to move in with me was still looking.

Five days after she told me to move out she finally sent an email saying that the two of us could live at her other unit for free, but added "unless the sale of [current building] falls through". This was the first time she indicated that the sale wasn't 100%. Then after a week she told me the guy couldn't get financing and that we could in fact live in my current building so she would send us the lease. I told her that I had signed a new lease since she told us we couldn't live there and asked her to return my money since it was part of an agreement that she had already told me was off the table.

She still hasn't acknowledged the money but she has asked me to show the place tomorrow (not sure if it's to buy the building or rent the apartment) and said if I was home she could talk to me then. I said I would be at work and asked what we needed to talk about, and when she would return my money. No answer.

I have a feeling she is going to try to tell me I can only have the money back if she finds someone else to move in for September. I'm trying to figure out how to make sure she returns my money. I was thinking about sending her an email about all the things she has done wrong and saying I'm borderline whether or not to report her to the Landlord Tenant Board for all of them, but if I have to go to the LTB to get my money back anyways then I would definitely report her for everything. I'm not sure if that's too close to blackmail though.
One of my biggest concerns is that she told me I had to move out over the phone so I can't quite prove she did it but I have emails where I made sure to reference the phone conversation and I have an email from her where she told me to nevermind and I could stay.

Any advice here would be appreciated.

TLDR:
Landlord - Move out in 2 and a half weeks

Me - Ok just give back the extra months rent I paid

Landlord - OK

1 Week later...

Landlord - Nevermind, you can stay

Me - Still moving out, return my money

Landlord (ignores me)

edit: I guess LocationBot doesn't know what ON is, but this is in Ontario, Canada

Answer:
 Hey OP,

So I'm not a lawyer, just a fellow Ontarian.  I'm a bit confused by the back and forth of this whole thing, and I confess, I only skimmed it.

But I still have this advice for you; you need to reach out to the [Landlord Tenant Board](http://www.sjto.gov.on.ca/ltb/) for accurate advice and help.  Commenters in this sub often give incorrect advice for Ontario tenants - our laws are just really different from the U.S..  That's a good thing for you, because one of the rules here is that landlords can't charge security deposits.  They *are* allowed to charge "last month's rent"  but that is to be used by the tenant for their last month of tenancy - not to cover damages.

Good luck!


Title: Doctor who did my surgery said i was "OK." turns out i wasnt

Question:
I had surgery when i was 16 for a urethral stricture. I followed all the guidelines to make sure things healed well and went back to normal. When the catheter was removed i was instructed to urinate and i did. It was still painful and my testes were still purple and swollen so i asked when that would all.go away. Doc said it would return to normal in a few months.
FFW 3 months - testes were less swollen but urination still remained persistently painful. Saw the doc and after 5 minutes of him feeling and looking he said everything was fine and to see him in 6 months. I saw him 6 months later and told him nothing had changed, burning still present and he gave me medicine for a possible std after sending a sample to the lab. Tests came back clean. He said to see him again in 6 months. I went back and told him the pain was still very present, random teste pain and abdominal pain and i had occasional discharge. Again he said flow was perfect and said i was fine after 5 minutes. Things are not fine and im sure of it, idk why this doctor keeps telling me im.fine when there is clear pain when i urinate. I dont know what to do, im seeing a different urologist this month and hoping (even though it hurts worse than ripping a catheter out) that i can persuade them to use the dye and see if another stricture opened up. Is there anything i can confront my surgeon with for not listening to me if something is noticably wrong? Malpractice wise?

Answer:
 How long ago was this? Answer #2: Malpractice of any kind is very fact specific and it is unfortunately beyond the scope of this subreddit.  If this is a medical question, it is highly recommended to speak with a medical malpractice attorney; your state's bar may be able to refer you to one. They typically work on contingency, meaning there is little up front cost to you. Similarly, consultations are typically free. It wouldn't hurt to meet with one, have them look over your info, and go from there.

If this is a question about legal malpractice, you should seek the advice of a second unrelated attorney and/or report the matter to your state bar association"

*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*Answer #3: Go to a different doctor


Title: My neighbors murdered my dog

Question: So my neighbors put rat poison on a milk bone and threw it over the fence because he barked to much. He had a seizure in the kitchen and at the vet he started going blind and wined and barked. Apparently, dogs are considered property so the neighbors got no jail time even though they murdered Rusty. Is there anything I can do to make them suffer the consequences of their actions?

Answer:
 Civilly: suing your neighbour for the value of your dog is likely a non-starter, even considering the cruel way they killed it, unless your dog was unusually valuable. A purebred in breeding condition, a show dog, or a working dog you now need to replace are all good arguments for damages; a beloved family pet, unfortunately, is not.

Criminally: if you've already run this through the police and animal control, you've done what you can. The decision not to pursue charges is usually out of your hands. You can always follow up and ask that they press charges, but unless there's something new, it's unlikely that decision will change.

If you _haven't_ talked to the police and to animal control, do so.Answer #2: Sue them in small claims for the fair market value of a replacement dog.


Title: Did we ever get an update to...?

Question:
I decided to leave this question open ended if anyone else wants to hop on this bandwagon, but my specific question is if we ever got an update to "I paid for my car in cash but the dealer took out a loan in my name w/o my knowledge or permission for reasons nobody can quite discern" ?

 I can't remember what it was actually called.

Answer:
 The 4 month old baby who had been subpoenaed to testify in court. The DA wouldn't retract the subpoena even after the mother called and we all told her to go into court and embarrass the DA in front of the judge.

Answer #2: I personally want to hear an update from the "refuse to recognize my daughter killed someone while distracted driving" folksAnswer #3: Has there been an update to the shitty neighbors who had OPs house repainted while they were out of town, and then sued them for the cost of the repaint?


Title: Received a parking fine for parking on double yellow lines for 30 seconds

Question:
Hi all I am in the UK (Wakefield) and just received a parking fine for £60 (raising to £100 if I dont pay in 14 days).

There are pictures on the fine with date/time stamps which show me getting out of my car at 09:02:32 and getting back in at 09:32:54.

So I was there and didnt go anywhere for grand total of **32 seconds**

Where do I stand with this? Can I get out of it.

Seems hugely unfair as I could have easily been checking something safety-wise on my car.

Answer: Typically, it doesn't matter if it is only 32 seconds or even one second, you still committed the offense. You can try /r/legaladviceuk for a different opinion, but in the US, the fact that is was only 32 seconds would not be a defense. Answer #2: So there's an exception for short stops? It's ok to park on a double yellow for 32 seconds or less?


Title: [ON, Canada] I think my neighbor is trying to poison my dog! What can I do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Someone putting out a tupperware container on her own porch is not going to fly as a threat of poisoning your dog.

Either you are leaving out something huge, or you're paranoid.Answer #2: Practical advice: don't let your dog drink out of unknown containers. Have your dog 100% under your control when you're outside your home. Answer #3: Yeah, don't let your dog go onto her property. It's really that simple. How would he drink from that water if you're watching and controlling him?

And don't you trespass onto her property to get a sample, either. Even if you did prove there was something in the water, she's got a defense that you put it there yourself to get her in trouble because you're not law enforcement and don't know evidence laws.

Leave her and her property alone and don't let your dog out unsupervised.


Title: [MN] My employer health plan won't cover a vascectomy because the department I work in happens to be affiliated with the Catholic Church. But they'll cover one for people that work in other departments.

Question:
I work for one of the large health care systems here in Minnesota. We have multiple hospitals and clinics all over the area. The department I work in happens to be a part of the main hospital (even though, as a side note, I don't actually work at the hospital).

And that hospital, specifically, happens to be affiliated with the Catholic Church...even though the rest of the company's clinics, offices, and smaller hospitals are not.

I recently inquired about getting a vascectomy, but found out that my health care plan doesn't cover that procedure. After doing a little digging, I learned that because my department is a part of the Catholic-affiliated hospital, I have different insurance coverage than other people that work for my company. So, basically, I can't get my vascectomy covered, but someone else who works for the same company, does the same job, and is signed up for the same insurance plan can.

I just learned about this today, and so I'm in the very early stages of figuring out how to appeal this. But I'm just looking for some information about whether this is even allowed. I know that churches and private companies that have religious ties are allowed to not cover birth control, sterilization procedures, and abortions. But this situation seems unfair.

Thoughts?

Answer:
 NAL, but I have a couple of ideas for avenues to look into for information.

Are you paying the same amount for your plan as other employees in your organisation? This will help determine if you are really on the same plan or if it's technically a distinct plan.

Where did you get the information that this procedure isn't covered, from information in your company or from the insurers themselves? If you got it from within the company, see if you can get any information on the plan directly from the insurance company.

See if you can find out where, specifically, this decision got made. Did the Church request it or is the company offering it proactively. Is it a memo from a specific manager or an actual company policy (ie, in writing from the board, in the company handbook, etc).

The point is to try to figure out who your target actually is: the company, the insurers, the Church, a certain manager who is overstepping, whatever. Determining your next step will be much easier when you know who you're going after.

Again, however, IANAL (or American) so this all might be perfectly legal where you are. I'm just suggesting the things I'd look at.


Title: (California) Is freeballing legal?

Question:
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Answer:
 Dog Law specialist here.

California has no underpants law. We're not Utah.


Title: Firearm ownership -Commited to mental institution

Question:
When I was 15, I was committed, by my parents, to a mental institution. The official reason I was committed there was for "impulsive behaviour". The real reason was that my parents sent me there so they could show me who was in charge, as I was an extra rebellious teenager (Coming home late, not texting back, spending a lot, parties, etc).

But on to my point. My PARENTS Committed me into a mental hospital as an inpatient, however I was still picked up and brought to the the hospital by the police. I was released from the hospital after less than 3 days because I was deemed not needed to be there - basically I was normal and the staff and psychologist there affirmed that there was no issue with me.

My question is - would I be legally able to pass the background check, FOID card requirements, and CCW requirements?

Answer:
 I put this comment under a similar thread, but it applies here as well.

It depends on the circumstances under which you were committed, but looking at the ATF 4473, question 11f asks, "Have you ever been adjudicated as a mental defective OR have you ever been committed to a mental institution?"

Under the instructions for 11f, the form says that commitment is, "A formal commitment of a person to a mental
institution by a court, board, commission, or other lawful authority. The term includes a commitment to a mental institution involuntarily. The term includes commitment for mental defectiveness or mental illness. It also includes commitments for other reasons, such as for drug use. The term does not include a person in a mental institution for observation or a voluntary admission to a mental institution."

So, if you were committed involuntarily, then you're what's called a "prohibited person." This means you can't own guns. I would do some more digging however.

As for the FOID, no idea. I've never lived in a state that requires one. I'm guessing you're in Illinois? Answer #2: You should be okay. You technically were most likely on a hold for evaluation... you weren’t committed, as they decided that it wasn’t needed. You were simply evaluated.


Title: [WI] Advice on compensation for driveway damage

Question:
We had a storm in the area that caused a tree to fall on the utility line in my back yard. The power company came out to repair the powerline. In the process, they damaged part of my asphalt driveway due to their big truck.

The power company agreed to pay for the damage, however, in order to repair the damaged part of the driveway, the asphalt repair company will have to use the undamaged portion of my driveway to access the damaged area. The asphalt company told me that their heavy equipment/trucks, would ruin the undamaged portion of the driveway and I should get it all redone/fixed together.

Do you think that in this case the power company could be liable for replacing the entire driveway? There would be no need for the asphalt company to take their equipment onto the undamaged area of the driveway, if the power company hadn't damaged the middle portion of my driveway.

Answer:
 Look at it this way: the power company didn't break "part of your driveway."

They broke your driveway. They need to give you a whole driveway.


Title: Massachusetts. Nieghbors house foreclosed on years ago full of junk. 7 years bank has not cleaned it up. What can be done?

Question:
Ok, so I own a rental property in MA.  Back in 2006 some guy bought the 3 familiy house next door and started to renovate it.  He was from Brazil and did things a bit different than what I think we are used to.  My tenant tells me he buried all the material from gutting the house in the back yard.  Then proceeded to collect junk in the back yard for several years until Wells Fargo foreclosed in 2011.  They have never cleaned the property up.  The yard is chock full of junk and trash.  The house has weeds and trees growing out of cracks in the foundation and looks like it could topple over at anytime.  People are living in the house but I dont know if the bank rented the apartments to them or if they are squaters.
What can be done about appearance of this property?  I am thinking I want to sell my house, but they are killing my values.  Thanks,

Answer: You need to contact the city, preferably the city inspector.Answer #2: This is a cause of action you can sue for. Theres actually a large class action v. a lender claiming racial discrimination cause they found that banks take better care of homes in majority communites than minority after foreclosure.


Title: Can the father of my girlfriends child stop us from living together?

Question: My long term girlfriend and i are wanting to get a place together but were worried that the child's father won't allow it? Is that possible? If so, what can we do to ensure and/avoid this from happening? Also we are in Arizona

Answer: Looking at your post history, I wouldn't want my kid living with you either.Answer #2: We need more info. Why are you afraid he won't allow it? Do your gf and him co-parent well? What were previous disagreements they've had? Please be as impartial as you can in giving more details, as you'll get a more detailed and accurate response.Answer #3: What does the child custody order or a divorce decree say? If they are silent he can go to court to have a hearing to litigate the issue.


Title: My parents forced me out of our house without an eviction notice, changed the locks without telling me, and got physical with me. What can I do legally?

Question:
I live in the state of Illinois, and this occurred in Kendall County (Yorkville). My parents and I have had a rough relationship within the past couple of years, but nothing physically abusive until a couple of days ago. My parents and I argued, and I was told that I would be receiving an eviction notice soon, so I began moving personal belongings to a friend's. My parents video taped me doing this and said I have violated my eviction rights as this is an act of willingly moving out.

From what I have seen, according to Illinois's laws, this is not true. Local town police officers told me that me moving items out is not the same as willingly moving out. To have an established tenancy, I must have my license at their address, receive mail, and have personal belongings there. My license is still registered to their house, I still receive mail there, and I still have my bed, computer, and other belongings there. They changed the locks without giving me notice (again, from what I have looked up, this is illegal) in March and still refuse to give me a key. Until just recently I had to use the garage keypad to get in and out of my home. A few days ago, my father ripped the keypad out so that I could not use it to gain entry. This, from what I have read, violates Illinois laws.

Yesterday, I went back to my parents' home to retrieve clothing and toiletries. My mom let me in, but said I may only stay for a few minutes. I have special work shoes that are slip resistant because I work in a restaurant, and could only find one of the shoes. I spent around 20 minutes looking for the other shoe, as the family dog likes to take and hide them. My mom became impatient and said that I needed to leave. She argued that she could kick me out because since they claim that I no longer live there, being there at the time was because I was an invited guest. After becoming impatient, my mother pushed me from behind in an attempt to forcibly remove me from my home. I caught my balance, turned around without touching her, and asserted that she has no right to touch me. My father then grabbed me by both arms to throw me out of the doorway. I held on to the doorway and surrounding walls, thwarting his attempt. He left a bruise on my upper arm which I have taken pictures of. I also have audio (almost entirely of my mother) and partial video recordings of my parents as well as part of the physical altercation.

Immediately following the incident, my mother called 911 and told the dispatcher that I assaulted her and my father. The police arrived about 5 minutes after this phone call. Once the police arrived, my mother told them that there was no true aggressor between the two of us. They kept peace between the 3 of us. I asked the officers for a report of the incident but they told me since there was no evidence of harm and it was my parents' words against mine that no one could be taken to jail. I did not learn of my bruise until an hour after leaving the house.

What legal recourse can I take upon them for actively keeping me out of my home without following proper eviction procedure, changing the locks without informing me (and never giving me a new key), and with the evidence of assault against me?

Answer:
 You lose your protections against an illegal eviction when you return possession of the unit, and no sooner. However, it's unlikely to matter: illegal evictions are largely a civil issue, and unless you're willing to sue your parents (and unless you have sufficient damages to make it worth your while) nothing's going to come of it. Your time is better spent recovering whatever your remaining possessions are and finding a new home.

You could file a police report about your father assaulting you. Given that an officer was already dispatched and opted not to pursue charges, and given that your most severe injury is a bruise, it's unlikely to go anywhere, but the paper trail might be useful if it happens again. Next time, have a neutral party present if you're going to get your things from your parents' house: if they're willing to assault you once, they'll do it again.

That's the bad news.

The good news is, your parents have comprehensively explained their nature to you, leaving you to decide, as an adult, what kind of role you want them to have in your life. "None role at all" is a perfectly valid choice, either temporarily or permanently. This is likely one of those situations where a good life is the best revenge.


Title: (CA, US) What can a former employer say about my past employment to a new potential employer?

Question: For instance, if I was lying about work completed, if I began to slack off and not do work, if I took vacation and didn't give notice until the day of my shift...could all of these things be things that my former employer could legally tell my new potential employer? Or are they only allowed to disclose certain parts of my employment?

Answer:
 Most companies big enough to have an HR department will only confirm dates of employment. A smaller company may be willing to "spill the beans."

I'd be surprised if there's any law restricting what can be told do long as it's factually accurate, but am not a lawyer and not familiar with the complexity of Cali employment laws.Answer #2: Legally they can say anything they want if it's true. They may not want to do that because they expose themselves to getting sued and having to prove they are right, which is obviously more trouble than it's worth.


Title: Fiancee being sued for $60,000 for 4 years of HOA fees on a house her mom bought when she was 19

Question:
Hi, pretty worried here and hoping there's some positive recourse.

My fiancee and her sister were 19 in 2005, when their mother bought a condo under both of their names, in California.

In 2009, their mother filed for bankruptcy. The condo was foreclosed on.

I'm trying to figure out the title transfer history of the condo right now, and can update this post, but right now I don't know exactly when the title was transferred to the bank, or if/when the condo was resold by the bank.

My fiancee and her sister were just served with notice that they owe HOA fees from 2009-2014. I'm guessing this is the period of time the bank owned the title to the condo, but had not resold it. They are being served now, in 2018, right before the statute of limitations expires on collecting overdue HOA fees. They owe about $35,000 in HOA fees and $25,000 in interest.

From 2009-2018, they have not, until now, received a SINGLE notice that they owed anything. They have clean credit and good jobs, albeit not very much in savings as they also have student loans.

On the HOA records, it looks like the HOA was sending bill requests to the EMPTY CONDO for years, without ever contacting either my fiancee, her sister, or her mother in any other way.

I feel like this is extremely predatory. I'm not sure on what legal grounds my fiancee and her sister stand. But it would be financially crushing if they had to take on $30k of debt each at this time.

Their mother is talking to a lawyer, but it's the same lawyer that ran her bankruptcy the first time (and I don't exactly trust that guy now for not foreseeing this situation).

Anyone been in a similar situation or can suggest a legal path for us to chart? Thanks so much. Fingers crossed.

Answer: Your fiancee needs to get her own attorney that specializes in real estate law. $60k is enough to warrant a consultation.Answer #2: If the bank owned the condo for this period the bank is responsible for the HOA fee, but you're probably going to have to get a lawyer for them to admit it. You could try calling the bank first. Answer #3: I couldn't tell from your post - were your fiance and her sister aware that mom had bought the condo in their names? If this is the first time they have heard about any of this, they may considered victims of identity theft. Might want to consider that route if it applies. Answer #4: Don't get married until this is sorted.Answer #5: This could be a simple bluff; is this a simple notice or a lawsuit?   Just because they say you owe the money does not mean you owe the money.  Don't be surprised if you get a settlement offer to clear the debt.  Talk to a lawyer of course, but you may get away with a legal letter (coming from a law firm) stating the property was foreclosed on and you owe nothing.  It might even be a clerical error on their part.


Title: Canada - intimate images

Question: Thought it would be useful for someone to help clarify the laws against revenge porn in Canada - just so people and educated, are aware and not in the same position as my friend. A few questions: Is threatening the same thing as actual act of distributing the images to the masses or a friend? Can the police force you to delete those intimate images if you have threatened and/or harrassesing someone?  Implications of going to the police?

Answer:
 I think you're right. /r/legaladvice should have an official statement clarifying revenge-porn for our users. Here's a draft I'm working on:

* Is threatening [to release revenge porn] same thing as actual act of distributing the images to the masses or a friend?

 * Don't release revenge porn, it's illegal to do so and open you up to a civil lawsuit. Don't threaten to release revenge porn, it's illegal to do so and open you up to a civil lawsuit. Don't share revenge porn with anyone, it could be illegal and it's definitely shitty. Delete potential revenge porn, it will save you a lot of potential grief.

* Can the police force you to delete those intimate images if you have threatened and/or harrassesing someone?

 * Don't release revenge porn and you won't have to worry about the police. Don't threaten to release revenge porn and you won't have to worry about the police. Don't share revenge porn with anyone and you won't have to worry about the police. Delete potential revenge porn and you won't have to worry about the police.

* Implications of going to the police?

 * Don't release revenge porn and you won't have to worry about the police. Don't threaten to release revenge porn and you won't have to worry about the police. Don't share revenge porn with anyone and you won't have to worry about the police. Delete potential revenge porn and you won't have to worry about the police.

I grant a permanent, perpetual, and irrevocable license to anyone and everyone, including the mods of /r/legaladvice, to use, duplicate, repost, and preach from the rooftops all or part of this comment.


Title: How do I read this statute out loud? §304.012.1

Question: I'm going to court and I don't want to sound stupid.

Answer: Missouri Revised Statutes Section 304.012 Subsection 1Answer #2: Just a tip - if this is serious, going pro se is probably a bad idea. A man who is his own lawyer has a fool for a client. IANAL


Title: [Oregon] Can I set up a concealed camera in my workplace to catch a sketchy coworker in the act?

Question:
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Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: It's ultimately up to whoever oversees your lab, so you'll want to talk to your advisor and explain _why_ you want to set up a camera.


Title: A few agents came to my house today

Question:
Two FBI agents came to my house today from the Buffalo Headquarters regarding a tweet a buddy and myself created. Which was all satire and none of it, [that is now deleted] was serious in any way, and anyone with half a brain would be able to notice. But anyway they asked to come in, i said sure because of the situation and how much of a joke this all is. Oh and the tweet was suggesting along the lines of someone (anyone mind you) should shoot Hillary clinton. All a joke.

They interrogate me asking all this shit, asking for my girlfriends name . number and address which i didnt give. they asked for work information and general questions about this topic i assume. About any mental health issues, if i abuse drugs, or if i have easy access to guns and or  any physical training. After all this, mind you they werent dickheads or anything they were all very polite and nice, didnt feel threatened at all. But they wanted me too sign 3 papers, first two where just saying that i told the truth during the interogation and the second one which was about the agents and how the presented themselves, which i signed both. But the 3rd paper was basically asking for consent to search my entire house and vehicles if they chose, which at this point i gladly declined. Because its a tweet which was blatantly obvious it was satire. Then no questions asked, shook their hands and they were off. Besides the idiotic tweet did i do everything okay in this situation?

Answer:
 You did almost everything wrong in this situation. You went down to meet them, you participated in an interrogation, and you gave them signed statements.

Many people who couldn't be convicted of any underlying crime were convicted of lying to the FBI. Martha Stewart, for example. Even if you told the 100% truth, you're now relying on their memory of the conversation as well. Hopefully they remember what you said correctly.

You should stop talking to them, and if they arrest you get a lawyer.Answer #2: You should not have spoke to them, let them in, or sign anything.Answer #3: Did they give you any contact info or anything regarding they next step in their investigation?  Publicly threatening a presidential candidate is a serious matter and the FBI and Secret Service do not have senses of humor (they honestly give a fuck).  Don't consent to a search and if they contact you again be prepared to have a lawyer present. Don't be surprised if you have some trouble flying in the future and hopefully you didn't have any hopes of job prospects requiring any sort of security clearance, as you can kiss that goodbye.

Always assume that everything you do/say online is public and forever etched in stone (because it ultimately is to many people who can seriously fuck up your life).  It's not the wild west and law enforcement and future employers check that stuff as a matter of course.  I've been on hiring committees that have denied a job offer to a top candidate based solely on dumbass internet posts.Answer #4: You joked about killing someone that is  a former first lady,senator,security of state and presidential candidate what did you think would happen?