Title: My dad is verbally abusive and extremely manipulative, making my mom's life a living hell. How can I get her out of it? [Ontario Canada]

Question:
I'm a 24 year old guy who is just about to graduate, and I am absolutely desperate to get my mom and siblings out of my dad's house.

For as long as I could remember, he's always been a terrible father to us. He has absolutely no interest in any of his family, to a point where I can go on for months without exchanging any words with him, even though we live in the same house. He treats everybody else the same way, but also makes sure to really, really torment my mom and my younger siblings, mostly because they're too scared to stand up to him.

In the past ten days or so, he has been so fucking difficult to live with, that sometimes I can go for a whole day without eating just because of how nervous and angry I am that I will go back home to find my mom crying because of another fight. About a week ago, he had a pretty big fight with my mom (and those fights tend to consist of my dad yelling insults and extremely hurtful shit at my mom, while she sits there and listens to it). The most terrible thing is he does all of these things when I'm not around, because he knows that I'll fight back. Sometimes he takes her on a drive and yells at her in the car, so that I can't stand up to her. My household only has one car, and every time my dad gets angry, he takes the car away from my mom. For the past week, my mom has been walking everywhere, which is infuriating since we live in a suburban area, and if you don't have a car, you're stuck at home.

Yesterday, he tried to hit my 18 year old brother, so my 23 year old sister tried to stop him, and he almost hit her instead. He grabbed her by the shoulder and shook her really hard, and kicked her out of the house. This obviously happened when I wasn't around, because my dad is a coward like that. I'm trembling with anger right now because I can't really hit him back because he will kick me out too, and I have nowhere else to go, and I'm about to graduate in a month and I really don't want to end up homeless during that time. He is so horrible that he made my brother uber to the hospital a few days ago when he broke his arm, and then yelled at him for two days straight after for failing a course.

I've had enough. I really think that I will end up stabbing him unless I do something to distance my family from him. On multiple occasions, my mom said that it would be a dream come true to get a divorce, but she doesn't want my 11 year old sister to go through that, and she's too worried that she won't have enough money to provide for her. We immigrated to Canada 6 years ago, and my mom is still under the mentality that the husband is always right, and that marriage is everything. She is too ashamed to get a divorce, but is too miserable to stay. It is tearing me apart. I am 100% willing to move my mom out, live with her and pay her bills for as long as she needs to once I start my career, but I have no idea where to begin, and what to do until then.

What can I do to assist my mom and siblings in this situation? So far, I've been dependent on my parents for housing and food, as I had to pay for the tuition on my own, leaving me no money to spare. I don't have a car, I don't have my own place, and I'm forced to be with him in the same house. It is extremely degrading and I just feel helpless. My mom and siblings are suffering and there's nothing I can do, because I have no money and I'm still in school. I'll take any advice I can get.

Answer:
 Your mom can file for divorce if she wants out.

Anyone else can call the police when he tries to assault them or otherwise violates the law.


Title: Me and my mom just found out about 18k min was “given” to her but she never received any of it.

Question:
So where to start.....  MN. USA. when I was 7 or so, my parents divorced. My mother occurred 25k of debt raising me alone because she refused to put me in day care (I have autism aspergers) well I’m 21 now currently, my father came and visited me and my mom.... besides bickering about politics (amazed they even had me) my father was complaining about child support and giving her money, well it came to pass to our ears supposedly that he gave her 8k check, half equity of the house and that before they divorced she supposedly took 8k out of his business account. Well he took her to court twice for child support, first time she won, second time she had no lawyer and lost, the child support was cut in half. Fun fact I learned. Child support is based on your income, well he “forged” “cheated” his income, aka tax evasion.

He says he has documentation of the divorce, the court, the whole shabang, she claims she never took 8k from his account. Or received the 8k from him/equity half of house. I’m pissed she lived on credit card to credit card and finding out about potentially 18k min gone is.... well words cannot express. I know for a fact that the account she started for my college fund (2k just her own money) was closed by him.

If they are both telling the truth then that means 18k min is missing, which leads to me thinking maybe the middle person did something aka the lawyer?

What are my options? What can I do? I will not let this stand. At this point it’s half about the money and half knowing how much easier my moms life would have been if she did get the money.

My only ideas is the documentation and account statements of both parties. Perhaps asking the former lawyer of my father etcetc.

Answer: If your mother is interested in looking into this she should check her bank records and previous divorce attorney to start. You give her moral support if needed but there is nothing you can do directly.


Title: Possibly paying out-of-pocket hundreds of dollars

Question:
[California]
I will make this short by some headlines (Health Insurance)

- I went to dermatologist to seek help for acne.

- Dermatology front desk told me that they will contact insurance and let me know if I'm covered or not. I didn't hear anything from them so I thought insurance covers it.

- Turns out my insurance doesn't cover anything acne-related

- Now I own them hundreds of dollars and they (the dermatology front desk) KNOW that my insurance doesn't cover from the beginning.

What should I do? This is the very first time I use insurance so I'm a noob at this stuff. I wouldn't even go there if I know my insurance doesn't cover. Should I appeal? The best thing I can think of is negotiating prices, but it won't change much.

Answer:
 In principle, you knew, too - it's (legally) your responsibility to understand your coverage, not your doctor's. It's shitty that this happened, but you don't really have much recourse here beyond trying to negotiate the price down.

In the future, if you're uncertain if something will be covered, you're supposed to ask your insurance yourself. However, it's tricky to get a straight answer even then, as a lot of coverage depends on how treatment is ultimately billed, which you obviously don't know.

Yes, this is a mess.Answer #2: It s your responsibility to verify insurance coverage, not theirs.


Title: If perjury is very hard to prove and rarely prosecuted then..

Question: Does that mean the court is full of fake witnesses who rehearse to tell lies?

Answer:
 If black holes are difficult to detect and very rarely found in low Earth orbit, does that mean that Earth is surrounded by many black holes?

Does this example illustrate your fallacy?


Question: Help! Need legal advice for issues with tenants neighbor.  MN

Answer:
 So I have a town house in wright county in MN. I have been renting out because I'll lose a ton of money if I sell it. Owned for about 10 years.

Back when we lived there the neighbor living behind us attached to the town house would pound on the wall every time she heard us. She claimed we always slammed our cupboards. We put foam stickies on them but she continued to hit the wall. She reported us to the board but after we asked for her to sit down with the board she stopped.

We are currently on our third tenant and they want out of the lease. They are even willing to give up the damage deposit. Apparently the neighbors keep hitting the wall and have called the cops on them. She has 3 children and said they aren't any louder than other kids.

I asked the other neighbors and they said they aren't abnormally loud.

I reached out to our previous tenants and they said she pounded on the walls for then as well. That explains why we can't keep anyone in there past the one year lease.

I spoke with the neighbor and she thought we still lived there and that for the past 5+ years whoever has lived there is very loud and she will continue to call the police.

The association wants a sit down again but I don't see anything changing.

This is costing us money. What can I legally do?


Title: [ON] US Citizen, CAN First Nations member applying for CAN Passport / Citizenship

Question:
I'm looking to apply for a Canadian Passport and my circumstances are kind of unique:

*Second generation US citizen with US Passport

*No Canadian Certificate of Citizenship

*Canadian First Nations member with Certificate of Indian Status

*Reservation is located in Ontario

*Residing in the US and never lived in Canada

Is there an easier way for a Canadian Aboriginal to apply for a Canadian passport instead of going through the traditional routes of the Canadian citizenship process?  If I have to go through the citizenship process would it be easier because of my Aboriginal status?

Topic:
Immigration

Answer:
 Are we the same person? I am going through EXACTLY the same process right now--US citizen, First Nations registered member with my status certificate, reservation is in Ontario, everything the same as you. I'm trying to relocate to Montréal in a year or year and a half, once I finish my Masters.

Feel free to PM me if you want to keep each other updated and as a support. I'm really curious to see what other people have to say here. It's hard to find information for this specific situation. I figured I'd have to consult a lawyer.

I did find this this morning (see top of page 44 and thereabouts).

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/resources/manuals/enf/enf04-eng.pdf


Title: Is it illegal to call 911 for a non emergency (like a traffic stop)?

Question:
There is a post being shared around by my Facebook friends encouraging people to call 911 when pulled over for a traffic stop as a way to protect yourself from police brutality. Would you get in legal trouble for wasting the 911 dispatchers time when they could be helping someone in a real emergency? Sorry to ask this, but it would be easier to talk people out of doing this if I had an argument other than "that's rude to do".

Tennessee, US.

Answer:
 You know who answers the phone when you call 911?

The police.

So how does calling 911 protect you from police brutality?

If you don't have an emergency, you should not call 911.  [It's a crime in Tennessee](http://law.justia.com/codes/tennessee/2010/title-7/chapter-86/part-3/7-86-316).


Title: Is fasting with your children (based on religious beliefs) considered child abuse?

Question:
There was a post a few days ago where a minor (15m) was being mistreated. There was boat loads of abuse going on, but he mentioned his mom made him and his siblings fast every Friday. A lot of commenters stated that this alone could get CPS to relocate them.

This makes me curious, isn't there some laws protecting religion? If the minor wanted to participate is it still illegal? I knew a kid in highschool whose family (him included) fasted for certain periods of time (like 12hours a day, each day, for a week per year or something like that). He was absolutely religious and consenting to the fasting. Was that considered abuse?

Answer:
 From my understanding they didn't want to partake in fasting, which is what made it an issue.

"She also does other weird things like on Fridays we can't eat at all because of Jesus. I try to respect that but often times I go out on a bike ride and get food somewhere. I get hungry."Answer #2: Religious fasts come in many shapes and sizes, but one of the more common features is exceptions for children, the elderly, and others whose health would be endangered by fasting. Children of Muslims are not expected to fast during Ramadan until they're old enough to make their own decision, and Jewish children are not expected to fast during Yom Kippur until after their 12th or 13th birthday, for example.

Many mainstream religious fasts are also limited in some way. Using Ramadan as an example again, participants generally eat, but only before dawn or after dusk.

A total fast that includes children is relatively rare, and would generally be cause for CPS to look in, but it's not obviously abuse all by itself. Unless they're very young or ill, a total fast for one day likely won't hurt a kid much, though dehydration can be an issue, but it's still not a good idea.Answer #3: See the update on that post. The kids are now with CPS but I doubt it was for the fasting.


Title: Bought a car from someone that was still under loan

Question: I bought a car from a friend here in Colorado. She said she didn't have it paid off yet but would have the title to me in a couple of months. It has now been over a year. I paid $2500 for it. I asked her for my money back and she told me "no". As far as I know she does not have it paid off. Can I take her to small claims court?

Answer: You don’t own the car without title. She does.


Title: Power Outage- Groceries/food spoiling.

Question:
At my college there’s been a power outage campus wide. The power has been off for about 4 hours now (since 9am) and I’m worried about my food that I recently spent (about 50$ worth that I literally bought yesterday) to get me through most of the month. I know I signed a housing application entailing what I’m entitled too and what regulations I must follow. However, there seems to be no protocol for this. I was wondering if I can go to the housing office and request compensation for the things in my fridge if they spoil. FDA regulation states on their site that if a fridge isn’t opened at all during a power outage then everything should be good for at least 4 hours. I know it may seem like a small amount, but I really need any money I can get, and I can’t afford to lose all of my food like this. The only thing the university has done is provide sandwiches at the dining hall. I will put their email bellow. Any help is appreciated.

[ Campus Wise Email]

“Good morning (Me),

Some updates regarding the campus power outage:

We do not currently have an estimated time of restoration for power. When we have an update, we will share that with campus.

Please keep refrigerator/freezer doors closed, as well as windows in air conditioned areas to keep units as cool as possible. If you need to get into your building and entry card readers are not working, you should contact the RA on duty and they will assist you.

Fresh Food Company is open and serving cold foods, such as sandwiches and salads. No meal plan necessary- open to all. Stop by and grab some lunch!

We are sorry for the back to back days without power. Consumers Energy is dealing with outages all across the state with this most recent round of storms and heavy rains. Thank you, in advance for your patience.”

Answer: Your school is not responsible for weather related power outages.


Title: Just signed a lease, move in date is Oct. 25th but my husband lost his job. What can I do?

Question: Any advice is greatly appreciated. We have two kids and my MIL is willing to take us in while we catch up.

Answer: Call your landlord and see if you can cancel the lease.  At most you'd have to pay whatever the early lease termination fee is, but hopefully your landlord will be sympathetic and let you out of it without a penalty.


Title: Dad fired for "sexual harrassment" does he have any grounds for wrongful termination?

Question:
My father was on his lunch break in his office talking with a coworker about a client and he was asked why said client kept relapsing. He responded with "because he keeps chasing the pussy". A female coworker walked in while he was talking to his other coworker unannounced and heard him and filed a sexual harrassment complaint on him. He has worked for the company for more than 18 years without a single write up. Does he have any grounds for a wrongful termination case?
Edit: Location: California.

Answer: No. Absent a contract or union that is. Although I doubt those would offer much protection. He made an inappropriate comment using a sexist word that is obviously not a work appropriate word. He can try for unemployment.


Title: Release of Liability form at a private gym/pool - What to do with minors without parents present to sign?

Question:
Michigan, USA

So for back story. The rules that I and my desk staff have been enforcing up until yesterday stated that paying members of the club (edit- the gym/pool area of a high-end resort that also has a private membership option) are allowed to bring guests up to 5 times per year. Guests have to fill out a guest registry so that we can keep track of how often they are there. Up until yesterday, this included minors. The information they filled out included their information so that we could get a hold of their parents in case of an emergency.

Two days ago, I had a tiff with an angry mother who was upset her son's friend had exceeded his visitation allowance and couldn't come in anymore. Though we had been enforcing the 5 visits per year rule, the membership manager (not really related to the role of the front desk staff, we just have to make sure we follow the rules he's presented to us) claims that there was a rule that members can bring as many minors as they would like without filling out any registry forms.

The reason, he says, is because people 18 and over can get their own membership. Allowing kids in might make their parents more likely to get a membership (or something like that). I asked him what we were supposed to do if one of them got hurt? The member is responsible? How do we get a hold of their parents if it's just an 18 year old bringing his 16 year old friend and the 18 year old has panic attack or passes out after seeing his friend bust his head open on the side of the pool from slipping? We wouldn't know who to inform (aside from emergency personnel of course).

The membership manager also pointed out that as long as they sign in on the sign-in sheet, it's a release of liability. But I am  pretty sure that a minor can't legally sign a release of liability.

I'm not trying to get anyone in trouble or get back at the angry mom or anything, but I DO NOT want to be responsible for any hurt kids by letting them sign a release of liability when I know they can't actually do that.

So I guess I'm just looking for some advice on this because I don't know who else to ask.

Answer:
 How would them signing a piece of paper which likely holds no weight make you responsible for them getting hurt? Answer #2: I'm not a lawyer, but I do work in the same industry so hopefully this could be helpful to you.

It sounds like your Guest Waiver and Sign-In/Out sheets are separate? My club only has a Guest Waiver that also serves as the Sign-In Sheet (we do not require them to sign-out). In the case of a minor guest, our Guest Waiver must be signed by an adult member or the guardian of the minor guest, even if they don't stay at the Club with the minors during the visit. It also has a space for an emergency contact phone number, which would be an easy addition/fix for one of your problems. Example format: Date, Member Name, Guest Name, Adult Signature, Contact Info, Front Desk Staff Initials.

I understand wanting to allow unlimited minor guests, but I find it really strange that your club doesn't require the waiver for everyone coming in the club, even if the waivers are mostly for show CYA-wise. If anything, you could try to convince them to add Emergency Contact Info to the Sign-In Sheet, since it's pretty low-barrier.


Title: [California] Dad is closing his shared bank accounts and leaving us (mom, sibling, and me)

Question:
So my dad is going to leave us and says he is closing his shared bank accounts, selling my mom's car (the pink slip's in his name), and not leaving us any money (he said to sue him for it). I'm not sure if either is going to actually pursue a divorce. Getting a lawyer seems difficult because of our financial situation, and I'm not sure what my mom is supposed to do right now. Any ideas?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: In California, one party who controls all the funds can be ordered to pay the other party's attorney fees.  So your mom needs to consult with some divorce attorneys immediately, file for divorce and get a court order to maintain the status quo.


Title: (TX/NV) My dad got mega-scammed, manipulated, possibly drugged and was extorted $47k. Scammers want to negotiate so he doesn't go to the Police. I need a lawyer to put pressure/interact with them.

Question:
**Summary:**
My dad is a 70 years old Vietnamese regular Joe who is part of the Vietnamese community in Houston.
He was the victim of an elaborate extortion scheme, which has left him with $47k in debts (3 credit card charges,1 eCheck). The scheme was perpetrated by 2 Vietnamese characters (mother and son-in-law) and unfolded between Texas, California, Las Vegas.
I am beyond any reasonable doubt that manipulative techniques and quite possibly drugs were used - but there is no proof for the drugs (tested negative, 60+ hours after events)
After 2 days of getting around to the authorities (FBI, Houston PD, Las Vegas PD), I don’t know whether police reports or charges will hold, so I need to prepare for the next step: facing the creditors (Casino, Pawn shop).
The perpetrators of the scheme have admitted in writing to having “done a lot of bad” to my dad and are asking him for time to repay him “give me a chance to gamble and get some winnings, and I will get everything back to you.”
My current priority is to protect my dad, and that seems to mean I need to get a lawyer to interact with the perpetrators.

**Where I could really use some guidance:**
* We need to lawyer up for this, and I have never had to find an attorney.
* How do I proceed and what should I keep in mind?
* How does one even begin searching, and selecting an attorney (Houston, TX)?

Answer:
 How exactly was he scammed out of the money. What did they do?Answer #2: 1.\) The Texas state bar can provide a [referral](https://www.texasbar.com/AM/Template.cfm?Section=Lawyer_Referral_Service_LRIS_), and the Houston Bar has their own [referral site](https://hlrs.org/). I suggest talking to 2 or 3, and see how much they charge, and see if you feel comfortable with them. Since everyone involved is Vietnamese, you may ask if they can connect you with a Vietnamese lawyer.

2.\) Honestly, the police will do the heavy lifting at first. You don't want to contact them directly at all, ever, without approval from the police or your attorney. And expect that the money is gone. It is not uncommon to recover little to nothing.


Title: Teaching Homebrewing Michigan

Question:
I want to start teaching some friends how to homebrew. They said they would pay me for the supplies and my time. I want to know if I can give them the beer that they make with me or if it would be considered distribution.

Keep in mind it would be only the lesson that they would be paying for. I would be giving them their beer as a...reward I suppose but that is not what they would be purchasing.

Answer:
 First I assume everyone involved in this is over 21, because otherwise it's illegal no matter what.

I'd reach out to these folks:

http://nsbc.fluidthoughts.com/

It looks like they make you bring your own supplies and just provide the lesson.  Ask them what they needed to make it legal and avoid distribution charges.  Realistically the odds of being subject to enforcement because of what you and your buddies are doing in your basement are low, but just get your ducks in a row regarding who buys and who teaches.


Title: Can I get fired for saying marijuana should be legal?

Question: So I forget how it came up but I basically just said I though weed should be legalized and taxed. Is that something I can get fired over? I live in PA

Answer:
 If your employer wants to fire you over this then they can. PA is an at will state. But seriously doubt they will.Answer #2: Yes.

Expressing an opinion on a moderately controversial political topic is not a protected act or class from an employment discrimination perspective.

There are limited employment protections at some levels for politically related activity and expression, like membership in a political party or union-related activity.    But expression of your opinion regarding marijuana is neither of those.


Title: [NC] Only one parent wants to evict us

Question:
23 years old, my boyfriend and I live with my parents. My mom just said that we need to be out by December 30, my dad said we can continue to stay here. They're married and as far as I know they own the house jointly. I found an apartment that I like, but it's not available until mid February. Does my mom's saying we need to leave override my dad saying we don't? How urgently do I need to get this ball rolling?

Edit: My mom just said she is going to put all of our stuff outside on the lawn if we don't leave. What could I do about this?

Answer: The permission of your dad is enough for you to stay in the house.


Title: Dry cleaners lost my clothes, what to do?

Question:
Hi /r/LegalAdvice,

I took 3 shirts to the drycleaners - one nice one ($75, and 2 mediocre ones ($30 each). When I came to pick them up, they said they weren't able to find it and told me to come back the following day. I did this, but they told me again that they are looking for it, and that I will get a call back today. Just called them because they didn't call me, and they asked me for the brands/colors/sizes because they still aren't able to find them. I asked to speak to the manager, who will be calling me back in 30 minutes.

At what point can I say enough is enough, can you please compensate me for my lost clothes? The only issue I can see is that on the back of the receipt it states: "The company's liability with respect to any lost article shall not exceed 10 times our charge for processing it". Does this mean they won't pay more than 10x the cost of cleaning my clothes? Because that would be a miserable 60 dollars, not even worth the one shirt I gave them. Is that receipt a contract, given the fact that they gave it to me after I already handed them my clothes? (this is my first time using them).

Thank you!

Edit: In the US and NYC

Answer:
 When the manager calls you is probably the best time to say "enough is enough". Just be forceful but calm in explaining that the one item is $75 for you to replace new, and the other two combined are $60. If they say they can only give you $60 just take it and cut your losses.

You can always take your business elsewhere and give that place a bad review


Title: Officer Left Note Asking Me To Call Them, Do I Have To Respond Legally?

Question:
A police officer slid a note under my door while I was at work today that said

 "Please call (police department) Officer (name) (phone number)".

There is not a case number, it does not have my name on it, and there are no other descriptions on the note and it is on a piece of notebook paper. I have a clean record and cant think of anything I've done recently that could be an issue.

Considering the department is a few cities away from me I was wondering if it could be some sort of scam, but I called the department phone number I found online to confirm the listed name is a person working there and the given phone number doesn't return any searches so I'm not sure.

So I guess my question is do I have to legally respond or can I safely ignore it?Any help is appreciated.

Answer:
 You have no legal obligation to call them.

Edit: I had a friend out of state ask an officer there to do a wellness check on me before. The cop called and just left a voicemail asking me to call him back. Googled the number and it didn't come up with anything but searched his name and department to confirm it was real before I called back.

You're still not required to talk to them, but the call alone isn't reason to worry. Answer #2: You do not have to respond.

But they're not looking at you. Cops do not slip notes under the doors of people they're investigating. Odds are one of your neighbors is a fuck-up.

Call 'em back, using the publicly available number, see what they want. If it's about you, or is something you don't want to answer, thank them for their time and hang up.


Title: [Sweden] Been undergoing surgery with severe side effects due to doctors ignoring signs of heart failure when younger.

Question:
Hello, I live in sweden, so I understand if people do not know how things work nor want to give certain advice, but I would happily want to know how things work where you live. I'm a boy, discovered signs when I was 1, surgery when 17, now I'm 18 with problems.

 When I was just under a year old, the doctors discoveret d signs that my aorta was not ''normal'', they did not hear a heart pulse at my waist, and my legs were not getting enough blood. This is a common sign that my aorta was too small, and was not able to push enough blood into my legs. The doctors decided to wait a year and come back to me and check if anything had changed, but my parent never heard from them again. Notice that the doctors never told my parents this, this is all written in logs from when I was 1 year old.

 During my lifetime, but more noticable when I was 14-15, I was working out and playing sports as usual, having good upper body strength, but always having worse stamina in my legs, never being able to run as fast nor as long as any of my pupils.

 When I was 16 I started getting headaches and getting really tired, making my school time harder, and after a few months, and a lot of tests, they discovered my aorta was too thin, not getting enough blood into my legs, and therefor my legs were not as well built as they should on a boy in my age. I underwent a surgery during my summer break, which went very well, but had to stay inside, dizzy and unable to really move about for the rest of the summer.

 Now a year later I'm 18, still being very very tired, getting very dizzy when standing up from a sitting position, and have fainted more then a few times when standing up from a laying position.

 How to things like this work where you live? Is this worth looking into legal advice?

Tl;DW, Doctors discoveres signs of malfunction in heart, does not follow up on it, thus having to undergo surgery when 17, thus still when being 18 being a lot more tired, as well as having underdeveloped legs.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 I'm not sure what you're asking.  First of all, it doesn't matter what the law says where we are, it matters what the law is where you are.  Secondly, are you asking about suing a doctor that you feel didn't "follow up" 17 years ago?

IANAL but I'm going to guess there are status of limitations and if there aren't, your going to have a hard time proving something 17 years ago.  I don't know about Sweden but in the U.S. it's not a doctor's responsibility to track down a patient a year later.  If you were scheduled to be looked at again after you turned 1 then it was your parent's responsibility to make the follow up visits with the doctor, not the doctor's responsibility.

If you feel you have a case, you're always welcome to find a local attorney and all as they're going to be more familiar with you local laws than anyone here.

Good luck.


Title: (OK) My (public) university has charged me over $1,100 recently due to an overpayment by the Department of Veterans Affairs, which was caused by a reduction in my tuition from last year. I think an error has been made on the school's part, the school is currently not much help in resolving this.

Question:
Not really sure if I'm in the right place so if someone could direct me to a better place, that would be appreciated.

This starts with last semester (Fall, 2018).

Financial aid was applied to my bursar account (again, for last semester), except for a percentage amount of the total tuition and fees that the VA pays on my behalf directly to the school; this financial aid was not applied when it was supposed to be due to the VA's system being down at the time. So I paid the remaining amount, knowing I would be refunded. Everything was paid off, on time.

Earlier this semester, I received the refunded amount. I compared it with the activity and payment history on my bursar account, everything lined up. Everything has been paid for this semester, on time.

Earlier this month, I received notification that my school account has a bursar balance of $1,147. Going over my bursar activity again, I can see that something has changed, but I can't discern why or how.

After talking multiple times with both the bursar office of the school and the VA, the most I've been told is this, which all comes from the VA:

>The charge resulted from an overpayment made by the VA to the school.

>The overpayment resulted from the school sending an amended report to the VA stating that there was a reduction in my tuition from last semester (something that had already been paid).

>Because of this reduction, the percentage amount that the VA pays on my behalf is also reduced, and the school has now become indebted to the VA.

Again I've not dropped/withdrawn from any classes, and I've remained in good standing with both school and VA standards.

For some reason, I'm responsible for repaying this debt that was caused by a change the school made. When I asked the school why this reduction in tuition was made, especially way after the fact, I don't get a definitive answer, aside from them telling me that I need to take it up with the VA to figure it out because they (the school) "don't have a workable solution."

I'm not accusing the school of intentionally trying to steal money from me, but I think an error was made on their end. They've been very unhelpful with the situation.

Normally, with an overpayment made by the VA, I would have the option of appealing it and/or filing a waiver to cancel the debt created by the overpayment. However, because this overpayment was made directly to the school (but on my behalf), and because the school originally incurred the debt, I can't directly appeal the decision or file a waiver with the VA, and I've yet to find out if I can do something similar with school.

Any advice or suggestions about more appropriate resources for this would be much appreciated.

Answer:
 Who have you been dealing with at the school?  The accounting department doesn’t care;  they just want their money. There are a number of office in the school that can help you advocate for yourself, depending on the size of the school and what offices they have. Look and see if there is a Veteran’s Affairs office;  a Student Advocacy office;  a school ombudsman or school ombudsman office;  possibly the Dean of Students office can help or direct you to an office that can help.Answer #2: OP I think you are closer to the truth than most of the commenters are.  This isn't an issue with the VA as I see it, it's an issue with the school.  The refund to VA was appropriate under the circumstances that were described to you.  You need to find out for sure why they reduced your tuition and why doing saw caused you to owe the school a balance.  I feel like this could possibly be an accounting error of some sort due to your refund from paying out of pocket.

I would send a polite email to the dean of finance at the school to dig down on these questions.  Or if you school has a student ombudsman go there.


Title: (Maryland) Bought a used car "as is" from dealership. Car failed after 5 months/6000 miles

Question: I bought a 2005 Subaru Outback with 85,000 miles from a GM dealership. The dealership had the car checked out through a subaru dealer and they said all was good. Fast forward 5 months later and I'm taking the car in for 90,000 service (first service needed since ive purchased it). A couple hours later I get a call from the mechanic (a respected subaru specialist) telling me the oil filter is "loaded" with bearing material which could only be caused by poor maintenance. The Car will need a new motor very soon.  I have a feeling I'm screwed but I feel like I was sold the car under false pretenses and want to know if I have any legal recourse. Thanks /r/legaladvice!

Answer: What false pretense do you see in "as is"?Answer #2: Lesson learned, always have your own mechanic check a car before you buy it.  Don't take the seller's word on it.


Title: My Girlfriend is on public assistance and has been awarded a scholarship of $5000 for a study abroad program, does she have to notify welfare?

Question:
As previously stated, my gf has been awarded a 5k scholarship to help pay for fees associated with the study abroad program. She has saved money from her financial aid refunds to pay for her plane ticket and her program fee, so the $5000 scholarship would essentially be spending money.

 Some of her family members are saying she needs to hide the money because it may disqualify her from public assistance.

I tried to search online for some information but I can’t seem to find anything regarding the issue.

Is this true? She has rent assistance as well as snap benefits.

For reference, she lives in NYC. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 Is it a tax-free scholarship, or funds she has to pay taxes on? Non-taxable scholarships are generally not considered income.

She should mentally switch how she is thinking of the money being spent though - she should use the scholarship funds to pay for the transportation & lodging & her savings as spending money. Its all just money, anyway and if she dips into one or the other do be it. But just as a technicality, if ever questioned how she spent the scholarship, she should have it mentally categorized as *"I used the funds to pay for an educational trip abroad including paying my airfare, lodging, and educational experiences."*


Title: Is it legal for my employer to monitor me with cameras?

Question:
I have been informed that my company will be installing cameras to cover every inch of my work area. I work in a shop doing service work on vehicles. Not that I have anything to hide, but I find this particularly offensive to my privacy.
There is a store attached to the shop where I could understand if they wanted to install cameras to monitor theft. But in the shop, there's not really anything to steal. We haven't really had much of a problem with employee theft that I know of.
Is this even legal? What are my rights pertaining to cameras? Thanks in advance.

EDIT: State is Colorado.

Answer: You have no right or expectation to privacy on the clock performing job tasks in your work area. You can quit and find a new job.


Title: (OH) I want to adopt my fiancée's child, father does not want to sign over rights or pay child support.

Question:
Here's the situation:

I want to adopt my fiancée's daughter to put her on my insurance and to get her last name changed. The father has not been around since the baby was 6 months (2 years old now). We have asked him to sign over the rights and he has been going back and forth with it yet does not want to see her or have anything to do with her. Since he has not made contact in over a year, how hard would it be for me to adopt her?  We both want what's best for the child, especially when she views me as a parental figure in her life. I realize this will have to happen after we get married, but it doesnt hurt to be proactive about it.

Answer: With a good attorney, not too difficult. On the insurance issue, check with your employer and insurance carrier but it's common to be able to cover stepchildren in your household even without adoption.


Title: Buying home with shared driveway / garage, how do I figure out who is responsible for maintenance or possible repairs? [ KY ]

Question:
Buying my first home this month and the house comes with a shared paved driveway that is two cars wide and is located between my house and the neighbors house to the left if you're looking at the houses from the street. At the end o the driveway there is a two bay garage, one bay per house. The bays are separated from each other with a wall but are contained within the same structure.

My question is how to I find out who is responsible for maintaining and repairing the garage and drive way? what if the neighbor's half of the driveway needs repaired, would I be held liable for half their costs?

What about if they have somehow neglected or damaged the structure of the garage, would I be somewhat responsible for the costs of repair?

My real estate agent said they are "shared" but didn't go too much into detail about it. Would it be in the deed somewhere maybe?

I am located in Kentucky.
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 Look at the deed carefully.  It could be shared or it could be the entire structure is on one property, with an easement granted to the other for use; and the easement will probably also talk about jointly splitting maintenance and repair regardless of the side the damage is on.

If it's actually directly down the property line, I'd also check and make sure that a variance to the setback distance exists. Typically you're not supposed to have structures within a certain distance from the property line, let alone crossing it.


Title: Cyclist hit by a car

Question: A friend of mine was hit by a car on his way to work. He was wearing a helmet. My friend is currently on life support with no clear signs of brain activity after more than a week. He does twitch occasionally when taken off sedatives leading doctors to believe that he is not paralyzed. I was wondering if anyone had any advice for the family. They are not very clear on what their legal steps should be and medical bills are piling up. We know not to pay the bills until lawyers and insurances get involved. Any advice would be appreciated. He was hit in California. We would also like to know how to keep him on a path to recovery as the hospital is pushing us toward acute long term care where things seem less than hopeful.

Answer:
 IANAL but if he passes, they should not pay any of his bills - his estate would be responsible for those after funeral expenses - unless someone signed a financial responsibility form.

They should talk to a personal injury attorney, though.


Title: I'm victim of domestic violence. Wife was arrested for assault, but judge awards her temporary visitation?!

Question: How can my wife, who was arrested nine days ago for assault against me while I was holding our daughter, get an ex parte judge to quash my protection order keeping my daughter safe and protected and enforce a temporary visitation arrangement that only gives me every other weekend and one night a week until the family court hears my case? How is this reasonable in any way, considering her assault charge? Washington State, btw.

Answer:
 That sounds like a question to ask your attorney.  They will be privy to many more details that we aren't.Answer #2: Generally judges try to keep the current living arrangement.  If your wife either provided most care or convinced the judge that she had then that may be why.

However this is not really something someone unfamiliar with your case can answer...


Title: Someone loaded my credit card

Question:
So no one physically stole my credit card but someone made 3 400$ transaction that show on my online banking app. The transaction were made somewhere I have never been.
400$ of epic game purchase in USD
402 at best buy in Mississauga
400$ at Walmart in Mississauga.
I live in Quebec and Mississauga is in Ontario
I don't know what to do now. someone 100% stole my card info or something because I clearly did not make those transactions and now my card is maxed out.
I locked my card as soon as I realized what was going on and now here I am, asking Reddit for help at 4 am.

Answer: Call the bank my friend... they will open an investigation and pay you back the money that was stolen, if they know you didn’t do it


Title: Bows vs Bros - Any help would be amazing

Question:
Hi, I own a business that primarily sells bows for cheerleaders in SC.

I have a written contract with a marketing company to sell merchandise at 3 high school cheer events; 2 state qualifying meets and state finals. They're huge events where thousands of people attend.

The marketing company also has a contract with a LARGE t-shirt company. They requested to the marketing company that we no longer sell at the contracted events because their sales were low after the first event (even though we're not selling the same items).

We went to the second event, with the blessing of the marketing company if we did not sell anything, as the t-shirt company decided to add bows, our only merchandise, to their inventory. This was all under the spoken understanding that the problem would be resolved by the last event.

The last event is this weekend and we have been told (not in writing) that we are no longer able to come to the event because of the t-shirt company. I have lost sales, staff costs, travel costs, future clients, & more.

Do I have a breach of contract case? It seems like the marketing company is trying to avoid being sued by the t-shirt company, so they're intimidating us into not going...

Any help would be amazing, we're a little company trying to make an impact on the local community. Thanks so much!

Answer: You likely have a breech of contract here. A local business attorney would likely read over it quickly as a free consult.


Title: Should I call CPS - New York

Question:
I live in New York. I have sole physical custody of my 9 year old. Visitation is as I see fit which was mutually agreed.

My ex has history of saying fucked up things to our son which I've worked through with him and I honestly thought things were getting better. We separated in June. My son spent almost 2 hours at his dad's tonight and came home and was inconsolable. His father got upset at his new girlfriends dog (small breed if that matters) and picked it up and threw it across the room. He also kicked dog and threatened to kill it all in front of our son.

I know I have the right too and will be not allowing him to go to his dad's . My question is do I call CPS? Cops? Court?

As far as my sons emotional state, I'm already working with school for outside counseling and will be talking to snsocial worker in the morning to let her know what happened.

Answer:
 You can contact CPS and they will investigate.  Violence against a dog is not violence against a child.

If you have an absolute veto over when your son visits his father, then you can refuse to allow your son to visit.  The father may attempt to modify custody if you refuse to allow contact.Answer #2: update: I have secured an appointment for my son for a counselor. I notified the school counselor of what happened and they will meet with my son tomorrow. I will be calling CPS. I appreciate the advice given. I don't know what will come of it, but they're the experts. I am also documenting everything to create a paper trail if any custody/visitation issues arise in the future as I currently have sole physical custody & visitation is as I see fit. I also hope to use the counselor to help assess when/if my son should be around his dad and how to help ensure their relationship is positive (if possible). I'm not looking for criminal charges. His GF can address that if she wishes too. My concern was how witnessing that emotionally affected him. Thank you for your help - I know some of this issue isn't legal advice and I appreciate your time and thoughtfulness either way.


Title: Room mate took nude photos of me while I was passed out drunk?

Question:
Pretty cut and dry, shes a very aggressive girl and I passed out drunk in my room with no pants on, she came in and took nude photos of me. I did not consent to anything and nor would have I if I was sober or drunk.

Later I found out she got drunk at a party and showed my naked pictures to people.

What can I do here?

Answer:
 Location isn't optional.

Feel free to call the police.

Edit: Go to the police, [print this out](http://www.wvlegislature.gov/wvcode/ChapterEntire.cfm?chap=61&art=8&section=28), ask that they make a report and investigate a crime, and give them the names of people you know she showed the photo to.


Title: [USA, New York] Class action against doping sports star? standing?

Question:
A sports star is caught taking illegal performance enhancing drugs.  Essentially cheating to win a fight.  He won his main event fight and took home a significant prize money check.  Experts are saying he only won because of the drugs and in a fair fight he would have lost.

2 questions:

* Does his opponent have standing to sue for his cheating?

* Do ticket holders have standing to sue (class action?) for his cheating in the fight to recover ticket costs? (for robbing them of a fair fight they paid for and expected)

Answer:
 The opponent, maybe, but it is probably addressed in the contract they sign.

The spectators, almost certainly not.


Title: Probably going to be kicked out, I'm 18, I have 2,000 in my name. And I have some legal issues to sort out and I want know my options.

Question:
Firstly, a bit of context:
My family owns an apartment in Canada and a house in California.
If I'm going to be kicked out I want to know if I can take my laptop and laptop backpack with me. My mom bought my laptop with her money but I've been using it since I was 17 come 18. Same with my laptop backpack. Would that also include my clothing that she bought but the fact of the matter is I'm the only one wearing my clothing? Would that make it automatically my possession? I asked this question in another subreddit and someone told me that my mom had to give me an eviction notice before kicking me out. But I've never seen anyone else being kicked out and received an eviction notice from their parents other than a verbal one.

I also want to purchase a flight back to California where I know the streets and the cities. What are my options back in California? Thanks!!!

Answer: Your parent's can't legally kick you out without written notice. That's not saying it doesn't happen. Parents illegally kick their kids out of the house all the time and nothing happens. Your stuff would probably be considered your property as a gift by your parents, unless they were conditioned upon you doing certain things. But again, that doesn't mean your parents won't just change the locks and keep all of the stuff. Why are they kicking you out anyway?


Title: Previous car owner's bank won't release title to dealership?

Question:
I apologize for formatting, I'm on mobile.

So, I bought a car from a dealership about two months ago, and I still have yet to receive my tags from the dealership. I called today to see if they were in yet, and I was told they were having trouble registering the car because the previous owner had paid off the car, and the title company was holding the title for some reason. This is the first car I've ever bought, and I'm worried. Can the title company legally hold onto the title of the car I purchased? Could the dealership just be lying to me to buy time? What are my rights?

Answer: IANAL but it sounds like they sold you a car that had yet to enter their possession in bad faith. Tell them you want your title or they can reverse the transaction. You're currently illegally driving a car you don't own and it is unregistered. Do not let them depreciate the vehicle on return or offer you any different vehicle. Be ready to get a lawyer involved.


Title: Boyfriend has an arrest warrant (Utah), what can we do?

Question:
A few days ago my boyfriend got a piece of mail from the SLC justice court. It's an arrest warrant, the bail set at $1,000. The charges are from 2013, I think. They include intoxication, interference with arresting officer, and criminal mischief— destroying property (he broke open a jail razor to slit his veins). He has bipolar, and this even occurred at the height of a mania due to not being medicated and getting drunk. He's now very stable, and we live together (Utah). What can we do to take care of this? We don't really have $1000 to spend, but it can be put together if that's what's needed. He's pretty suspicious of the law now, and is honestly pretty scared of what they could do to to him.

What should we do? My thought process is that he has to go to the jail and get processed, but I don't think that will go over very well with him. If he knows that he won't be kept overnight, I think that could help, but honestly neither of us knows what will/needs to happen next.

Answer: He can either ignore it and hope he doesn't run into any cops or he can turn himself in. Those are the only choices.


Title: [CALIFORNIA] My boss just changed my job description, adding a requirement he knows I don't meet.

Question:
When I was hired, a driver's license was not a requirement for the job.

Interviews covered that I would need to be able to get around for meetings and occasional errands—I live in friggin' San Francisco, I'm used to getting around on transit and all those silly "disruptive" not-cab companies. Plus it's an exempt position, so it doesn't really matter if I take extra time to do it. Right?

On my first day, my boss made it clear that driving WAS an expectation, was shocked that I don't have a license, but still had me sign my contract.

It's now 3 months into my training period. The job is not going great, I'm not performing up to snuff, and despite everything else he's decided it's solely because I don't drive (it's not, but that's his reasoning). He has been wheedling the whole time, but I'm spending 8 hours/week outside of work on other mandatory professional development so driving lessons are not my priority.

**The kicker:**
Today, he presented me with a rewritten job description, with several new driving-related responsibilities and a requirement for a California driver's license, and told me that on Monday he wants a written plan for when/how I'll get it.

*Regardless of your opinion of whether or not I should just get a driver's license,* was it legal to change my job description and requirements that way?

At this point I want out anyway; I feel like my best option is to refuse and let him fire me. If I quit, do I have a case for unemployment?

Answer:
 Unless you were working under the terms of an employment contract, yes, it's legal.

You can be terminated for any non-discriminatory reason.

For this to be an issue, the reason why you do not have a license would need to be a protected disability, like if you are legally blind or something.


Title: Friend hurt herself working as a volunteer for one of our school departments and the department is not covering the costs. (California)

Question: Hey all. So a friend of mine cut her hand when a jar she was holding shattered and she had to be sent to the emergency room. They stitched her hand closed and she's facing medical bills that aren't too huge but are a burden for a college student. This was done while she was volunteering for one of the departments at her college. Is there anything that can be done about this? I am not well versed in how volunteers are treated when it comes to workers comp and if she's entitled to have the department pay her bill.

Answer:
 She won't get workers comp. That is for employees.

She needs to file a claim with the schools insuranceAnswer #2: If the school was not negligent I doubt they are liable. Answer #3: There needs to be a bit more information. Was there a formal agreement for the volunteer position, was it in writing. Often schools will have insurance to cover this sort of thing but it may be under their general insurance. Its rare, but some workers' compensation policies will cover volunteers depending on the type of work and the organization.

At the very least she should file a claim with the school's general insurance policy and she should look at any formal written documents (if there are any) regarding her volunteer work.


Title: Legality of posting other peoples photos on social media and web pages?

Question:
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Topic:
Intellectual Property

Answer:
 1.  It's a copyright infringement.  They can successfully sue you.

2.  See #1.

3.  Sure.

You could always contact the copyright holder (usually the photographer) and ask permission.


Title: Consent and Underaged Drinking

Question:
Hello!

I live in the New Jersey area and a group of friends believe they have been raped (they were at a party, were drunk, and had sex). However, they do not want to report it to the police because they were drinking underaged.

What should they do in this instance and would they still be punished for underaged drinking if they report it to the police?

Answer:
 The chances of being in trouble for drinking underage while reporting a sexual assault are essentially zero.

They should report it when they're comfortable, and should get counseling and other non-police help in the meantime.


Title: Traffic Violation In NC

Question:
Hello, all. My wife and I were coming home to Maryland after a vacation in Florida. We changed up in North Carolina to give me a break and I nodded off. I awoke to my wife getting pulled over as she had 2 cop cars behind her. The speed limit (at some point) had gone from 70 to 65 and she was doing 83 (not wise!). Worse still, she didn't know why they were pulling her over (she was in the left lane), so she inched over on the left. Yeah. Needless to say, the redneck cop was crazy pissed off and made us pull over to the right side (we complied without any sort of confrontation). Well, she got a citation. When we got home I called the clerk of court (Cumberland County) as paying any sort of fee online wasn't an option. The clerk of court basically told us tough shit. Now, I'm in the military, I'll be gone at that time, and it seems as though the only option is for my wife to drag our 2 kids down to Fayetteville, NC for 2 days for a court date. We did get a deluge of letters from lawyers, and I'd much rather part with a good bit of money to avoid this simply because.

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The lawyer's letters seem like bad spam mail, so having not (yet) talked with any of them, what should I expect or do? The lawyers' fees vary from $130 to $250. I know that there are court costs and other fees (not sure what, but there is always something). Some of the letters from the lawyers state that just showing up to court and paying fees is admitting guilt and will add points to my wife's license. Any good advice on this one? I've searched online, can't seem to find anything relevant. Thanks in advance!!

Answer: I hired a lawyer for my NC ticket. Best $300 I could have spent. I didn't have to go to court and he got it down from 20 over to 9 over.


Title: Car impounded after being "abandoned"... What can one do to reduce the fees necessary to claim the vehicle?

Question:
First of, I know now that this is completely in our wrong and that we should have learned about the parking laws in our area, but the damage is done, and now I'm just hoping someone can help me get out of this pickle.

My girlfriend and I have been living together for two years. In that time, I have been the sole driver, so she has had her car parked at our friend's apartment down the street, since my apartment only gives out one parking spot.

The spot in question where she left her car parked is not a designated parking spot for guests or residents, but just a spot in an alleyway where me and my friends often park. My only point I'm trying to make in this part is that I promise we weren't being rude/inconsiderate to others intentionally, as this is not a high-traffic parking area.

Anyways, it has never been an issue in the past and I guess we just got too comfortable and ended up leaving it there for an extended time now that we have gotten busy.

We decided to finally pick the car up today and discovered it was not there. A few calls here and there and we have now found out that the car was impounded after it was reported as an abandoned vehicle (Not moving it 72 ~~days~~ hours after a parking citation).

Usually we would call it a lesson learned in life but the fee for retrieving the vehicle is $5,000. Frankly, even with my help, that is a whole lot of money that my girlfriend can't afford.

We are curious as to whether or not there is anything we can do to lessen the fees that we are responsible for, and whether or not the fact that she never received any public/official notice of her violation/impound would help us argue that the total fees are unfair since we were not notified that her car had been impounded.

Location: Los Angeles, CA
Zip Code 90066
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 You can try to negotiate with the tow company/storage yard. But they aren't required to do so.

Some areas require them to notify the owner within a certain time frame- you could look into that.

How much is the car worth?


Title: (Norwegian in NYC) Friend got drunk, picked up by an ambulance. Advice on payment.

Question:
https://imgur.com/gallery/uhVOAnT

This is the bill which was sent to the AirBNB hosts my friend stayed with. The bill is for $ 1250 USD, and we're wondering if there is any way to reduce this.

Friend got drunk, someone called an ambulance, put in a bed at hospital for 3-4 hours before being discharged. No other treatment administered.

All comments appreciated.

Answer: since you happen to be from europe. did your friend have health insurance or travel insurance?Answer #2: This doesn't look like an ambulance bill. They have words like "Trip" on them. I just paid off one. This very much looks like a bill for a hospital or ER stay. You might not have recieved the ambulance bill yet. They are private companies and bill separately. Answer #3: Call the hospital and say you can't pay it in full. They may reduce it. Answer #4: Cam someone tell me what would happen if OPs friend just left the country and never paid it and never returned to the US? Asking as a curious non-American.Answer #5: IANAL.  Call your consulate, they may have a method of allocating state health care funds to pay US medical bills.  Some countries make this available.


Title: US/TN - Contemplating selling parent's belongings to pay debt.

Question: Not me, and probably hypothetical.  College kid lives with his parents who are financially abusive.  Parents have convinced kid to cosign a car loan that he is not on the title of, and continue to make the payments himself.  The parents are on the title of the car, they drive the car, and they are the primary on the note.  Kid doesn't want to continue to pay for the parents car, but knows they won't pay for it if he doesn't.  He doesn't want to screw up his credit.  What would be the legal ramifications if he sold stuff from the house they all live in (guns, furniture, TVs, etc.) and used the money to pay off the car?  These things belong to his parents, but he still lives in the home as their child.

Answer:
 > parents who are financially abusive.

What does that even mean? Answer #2: Parents could sue him, evict him, and file a police report for theft.


Title: Breaking probation and assault charge

Question: I am located in Virginia. My ex boyfriend was out on probation after serving a two year sentence for domestic assault and breaking a protective order on his previous girlfriend. He assaulted me yesterday morning and was arrested. His charges are showing as simple assault on a family member, grade f degree 6. I'm wondering if there's any way anyone could tell me exactly what I'm in for and what to expect? How long will he be in there?

Answer:
 He was out on probation for domestic violence, and be committed domestic violence again.

He's likely going back to prison.


Title: My friend is full of shit and I wanna figure out how to be sure.

Question: So, we all have that one friend that gets too drunk and talks a bigger game than is real. My friend who is that person got arrested tonight at a casino and he’s telling me that he is now suing them for a million dollars. I want to call bullshit but don’t know how to be sure. Can anyone provide some insight on how to look this type of shit up in the state of Delaware? I wanna see what really happened but what he’s telling me doesn’t seem plausible.

Answer:
 >he’s telling me that he is now suing them for a million dollars

He can sue anyone for pretty much anything he wants. Whether or not he'll win is a different matter.
For him to win a million dollar lawsuit, he'd have to have million dollar damages. What exactly are the damages he had when he got arrested?


Title: An employer told my stepfather that they wouldn’t hire him because he has cancer

Question:
I honestly couldn’t believe that this employer downright told my stepfather that wouldn’t hire him because he has cancer. This has to be illegal.
Topic:
Constitution

Answer:
 NAL, but I believe cancer is covered under disability (disability includes infirmities) and is protected under the Canadian Human Rights Act and Ontario’s Human Rights Code.

Your stepfather can file a complaint with the [Ontario Human Rights Commission](http://www.ohrc.on.ca/en) and the [Canadian Human Rights Commission](https://www.chrc-ccdp.gc.ca/eng/content/how-file-compliant).

Start by contacting the  **Human Rights Legal Support Centre (Ontario)**:

* Tel: 416-597-4900
* Toll free: 1-866-625-5179
* TTY: 416-597-4903
* TTY Toll Free: 1-866 612-8627
* Fax: 416-597-4901
* Toll free fax 1-866-625-5180

*Telephone lines are open: Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday: 9 am to 5 pm; Thursday: 2 pm to 6 pm. Phones are busiest on Thursdays between 2 pm to 4 pm*


Title: How do I get out of a hundred dollar fine from Six Flags?

Question:
I have a habit of walking around while on the phone, and while at six flags I walked out of a store with a Coke in my hands while on the phone, it was a complete accident and when a security guard stopped me I offered to pay for it but he didn't let me. Now I have a hundred dollar fine for basically nothing. What do I do to get out of it.

Tltr; I walked out of a store with a Coke at six flags

Answer:
 You used an incredibly common shoplifting tactic to shoplift. You're accountable for your actions and shouldn't use the phone in public if you're incapable of realizing that you're stealing while you're on the phone.

State matters. It sounds like you received a civil demand letter. Generally the letters can be ignored *but* this may result in a civil lawsuit or negative entry on your credit report. The consequences of ignoring the civil demand is highly state specific.


Title: Scam, legal advice

Question:
I fell for it. A scam.

The money mule. I was suppose to send money to individuals as part of a personal assistant job (which made sense, because I've done it in the past as a PA, for a completely legal company, knew the owner and the workers and everything), so I didnt think much of it.

Luckily, thank God for mothers (I'm only 21). My mother did some research last night, and we were able to get moneygram/ walmart to stop and reverse the funds.

We contacted the bank, redeposited the funds into the account, froze the account, changed all passwords (as it was under my name and set up under me), and contacted the bank's fraud department.

Moreover, we contacted the FBI through their online complaint form.

No money made it to a receiver.

I was wondering, in terms of legality, am I in the clear? I know I will probably have to explain to the FBI further details, but as I am attending school, I need the ability to take out loans come the fall, and my record for the university must be clean.

Advice? Did I do everything correctly? Is there another step I should take, all the accounts associated with the individual has been frozen. My license number has even been changed so he cannot use it.

Answer:
 Congratulations on narrowly avoiding the scam.

The FBI will never respond, so you won't have to explain anything.

The check you deposited will bounce and those funds will be taken out of your account.  Make sure you have sufficient funds remaining so you don't get an overdraft fee.

Talk to your bank to see if you can avoid the bounced check fee.

Otherwise, you're fine.


Title: My mom just signed a 10 year contract for a timeshare, how do we cancel it? (We live in Texas)

Answer: When did she sign?


Title: Texas. instead of full FMLA, employee wants to work from home part time while care taking. Everyone has cleared it except assistant director. Is part time work from home reasonable accommodation, or am I missing something?

Question:
Hello!
I have a coworker whose grandfather went home last week for hospice. She has been his primary caretaker for years. She's an administrative assistant in a healthcare job and we work for the state of Texas. She works in my department calling insurance companies to determine eligibility, get preauthorizations, etc. She's eligible for FMLA, but would like to work from home part time (1) as a distraction, and (2) because she has been in the department since it opened, she is the best at what she does, and she takes a great deal of pride in her work. My boss (also the boss of her manager) is notorious about not allowing employees to work from home, putting a burden on the remaining employees to cover positions that must be held vacant. Her department (administrative) is already 2 full time employees short (out of a total of about 15 for the building) and just the absence of another "warm body" will be difficult. Also there are only 2 other employees that can perform her job duties and my department requires 3 of these employees (we have been using a floating employee trained to schedule and answer phones, and when we can't, we are simply understaffed).
Her manager, her coworkers, and myself have outlined a list of appropriate job duties that can be performed from home, HR has given the go ahead, and IT can give her a computer with appropriate secure privacy.
The only problem is this guy not wanting her to work from home. Even if she can't be reliable, we're short her position anyway, so we need any help we can get. I'd imagine cashier insurance will be volunteered to do some of her work,  but they are not familiar with the specifics of my department. They are also faster to bill the patient (as opposed to working harder to have insurance cover the charges), and will need to be in the department, which they will not want to do. Also they are swamped with other work.
In the past, this man has refused temporary work from home accommodations, had non skilled employees moved to departments where they are not trained, and forced us to see patients without providing proper EOBs (and when the patient complained, they were told they should know their own benefits). These things are not illegal, but poor patient care. I think he's saying no because he's new and overwhelmed and he can. It's easier to squash it than do extra work.
Can anyone help me with some insight or advice to help me convince this man that it is in our best interest to allow her to work from home? I feel like this would be a reasonable accommodation and help everyone (but him? Because he has to authorize it maybe?).

tl;dr: I'm probably losing a skilled office worker for FMLA because she wants to work part time from home, and everyone has cleared it except the assistant director. Have a meeting tomorrow with him and need help trying to sell her working from home.

Answer: FMLA does allow for "reduced leave," where employees can take part time off, but the FMLA does not require employers to allow employees to work at home.


Title: Me and my ex GF bought a vehicle in both our names. Now she won't sign it over after the breakup, even though I pay for it.

Question: It is in BOTH of our names. She got another vehicle after the split and I kept this one. I pay the note and the insurance. Can I take her to court to force her to sign it over? What are my options?

Answer:
 Did you put her on the title?  If so, *why would you do that*?
Answer #2: > Can I take her to court to force her to sign it over?

When you say it's in both your names, what do you mean?  Is that the registration?  The title?  Which?

If the title, she owns half the car, and you likely can't unilaterally take it from her.  You can certainly offer to buy her out, or to sell her your half.Answer #3: no you can't.  since it's in both your names, you both own it.  she doesn't have to sign it over to you if she doesn't want to.  your only option is to negotiate with her and see what it'll take for her to sign it over to her, even if that means buying her out.


Title: [California] Got my phone stolen, called the police, they filed a report, but never followed up with me. Will I ever get my phone back or money to replace it?

Question: I was going for an early morning jog and two individuals robbed me at gunpoint and took my wallet(which had no money) and my phone. I immediately gave them the stuff and ran as fast as I could back to a safe place where I asked someone to call the police and they arrived and talked to me and filed a report and I told them about my stolen phone and wallet. Luckily I canceled all credit and debit cards and got a new ID. But the phone was really expensive and I don't exactly make a whole lot of money. The police officer gave me his card and I contacted them and they said they got nothing new on the investigation. How do I get my phone back? There's also some important photos and data stored on the phone and not all of it is in iCloud. And yes, I've tried find my iPhone and the last location was near where I was robbed, so it's not helpful. And if I can't get my phone back, do I just take the loss and buy another phone? Or can I get compensation for the stolen item(I don't have any insurance on my phone).

Answer:
 If you do not have insurance, you won’t get your money back from anyone.

You can get lucky, that the police finds the phone or the thief so you can go after him, but the odds are most likely slim.

Consider having your belongings insured.Answer #2: >Or can I get compensation for the stolen item

Unfortunately, if the cops compensated everyone for their stolen stuff, everyone would literally be reporting their stuff as "stolen". Insurance is what covers this.Answer #3: Sorry. You were the victim of a crime. You're not getting the phone back.


Title: Is it legal to masturbate with your children?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 In my state, lewd conduct with a minor conduct can include causing the minor to touch themselves.  So, yes, illegal.  In fact, a felony leading to lifetime sex offender registration, and losing the kid to CPS.

Also, disgusting and inappropriate.Answer #2: I need eye bleach. And brain bleach.

Yes. This is child abuse. Even if they didn't touch the child.


Title: Leaving my husband. Can I take money from our joint account and what else legally do I need to know?

Question:
I'm in NY, kids are involved and I plan on going to family Court the next day for custody once we leave.

We will be staying in a shelter for a bit till I can get my own place and take care of all the family Court things as well.

We have a joint bank account. All my money goes into it. His pay goes into his personal account first and he filters money when "needed"

He has always controlled the financial end of our marriage and I blindly gave him every red cent.

Anything left he takes to his personal account.

My question is, besides what the title says do I have legal ground to any cash in our joint at least?

And what else should I do legally to protect myself once I leave?

Am I allowed to take our things? Like the kids beds, toys, dressers?

Any advice is welcome. Sorry for the jumping around, I'm upset so my thoughts are far from organized.

EDIT: I feel I need to say this, sadly but  I am here looking for direction so  once I can afford a lawyer I know what needs to be done and what to "not" do. I am not looking for anything other than that. I just want to make it clear since I am getting down votes in one comment about not having cash.

My goal is not to put out a sob story for hand outs (which is why I am trying to be as vague as possible).

 I have what I need, just wanted to make sure I checked all my bases.

Answer: Talk to a lawyer. Seriously. Most will give you some free advice and hope you will hire them if needed. Because if you file for divorce, he may be the one that has to leave, not you. Anything in a joint account belongs to both of you and can be withdrawn by either. If your state is a 'no-fault' divorce state, then all property, even any money you took out of this joint account, will be considered as part of the 50-50 split of property upon divorce.Answer #2: Speak to a lawyer before you leave. The lawyer will help you get ask your ducks in a route before you leave, make sure you do it right to set yourself up for success


Title: My supervisor forged my signature on weld inspection documents, that I did not inspect. USA

Question:
Hi, this is a very specific issue that I'm not sure how many individuals can relate to. But I don't know who to turn to, and I'm going to keep this vague and only list the location as USA

I am a Certified Welding Inspector. The company I work for recently built a few dozen pressure vessels to a very strict code. The vessels were not up to code, and I was specifically instructed not to inspect them. I did not inspect them. The customer would not accept the vessels without being inspected by a Certified individual or equivalent.

Someone (I'm fairly certain it was my supervisor, his name is on the documentation as the creator in Acrobat, and his name is signed on the doc as well), used a photocopy of a signature of mine, and used Acrobat to sign 22 Visual Test Certificates saying I approved all welds and they meet the requirements. You can very clearly tell it's a fake signature. The line underneath my name is fuzzy, whereas the person who "reviewed" (my supervisor) the document is nice and crisp. You can  also select the signature. It's off center and it looks odd in general. I recently found out these documents were all forwarded to the customer.

What can I do here to protect myself legally? What type of lawyer would I talk to?

I spoke with someone from the Inspection Agency that oversees our shop, and they suggested I go directly to the state attorney general.

I want to speak with the agency that provides certification, but I'm not sure if they will be on my side, or looking out for themselves. I briefly spoke to them already, and they were very helpful.

I am starting a new job in 4 weeks, this job I've had in the works for several months now, it's unrelated to this incident.

Or should I ignore it unless something happens? My company doesn't know that I know. I have read articles of prison time for things like this in the past, I'm a bit nervous.

Edit: Things like this are what I mean make me nervous.
http://pilotonline.com/business/defense-shipyards/newport-news-ex-inspector-gets-years-for-lying-about-welds/article_cbed07ed-e975-57ed-9930-b00588a8be2e.html

Edit 2: Everyone seems to think I should go to the Attorney General first? I should not go to the company providing certification? They a pretty damn big company and nearly write everything to do with welding in the US and other countries use their rules as a foundation. I have a feeling they'd want to protect their name more than anyone. But I don't want them to come against me.

Also, if I go to the SAG, should I speak with a lawyer first?

**Edit 3**: Ok ok, I'm going to do what needs to be done. But first I need to get a new phone, so I can record all phone calls. I have a feeling that may come in handy. As soon as shit goes down hill I can guarantee I'll get some nasty phone calls from "friends". I use a SII now, and it's old as dirt but it gets what I need to do done... But it's time to get serious.

Will update on how it goes if I'm not dead or in prison myself. He probably has some kind of dirt saved on me I'm sure. I don't know what, but he probably can make something up real quick.

Thanks guys.

Answer:
 > Or should I ignore it unless something happens?

Absolutely, unconditionally do not do this. I have some experience in jobs where signatures carry serious weight like this. I encourage you to blow every whistle, wave every flag, and light the beacon of Gondor.

I'm not sure what the correct procedure is. Let me say that again. **I do not know the correct procedure.** I encourage you to look into your workplace documents, there should be a procedure for certifying, or for reporting fraud.

What I *would* do is immediately secure contact information for the customer, and then get in touch with someone in my own company who wears an expensive tie, and explain what happened. Tell that person that corrective action has to happen *now,* including getting those vessels back in the hands of your company, and getting them checked over. If this doesn't happen, and fast, I would contact the customer myself, and tell them. This is a safety issue, and possibly a life-threatening issue, and it must be treated as such.

Odds are good that the welds are fine. But you would never sign a document based on "odds are good," would you?


Title: Girlfriend is being seriously threatened in the workplace and boss does nothing.

Question:
[US- Massachusetts] My girlfriend works in a daycare, and there's one coworker there who doesn't like her. This girl hates my gf and has threatened her multiple times(including specific threats of beating her up after her shift). When my gf reports these things to her boss, her boss doesn't really care. Her boss said that the girl "probably doesn't mean it" and was just "brought up that way" because she's black.

My girlfriend is searching a new job, but we're wondering if there's any sort of legal action she could take about this. She's scared to go to work but needs the money. It feels like there must be a law against this...

Answer:
 If the threats are credible, which it sounds like they are, you could file a police report. If your state allows one-party consent, you can record her making these threats and provide them to the police when making your report.

I would also suggest that you communicate these threats to your boss in writing, and document all instances. Should these threats merit any police/legal action, you may be able to get a restraining order.

Be warned that the boss could decide that he does not like "drama", and she could be let go for this reason if there is no contract involved or if she is an at-will employee. Answer #2: This is what the police are for


Title: USA: a youtube user is accusing me of rape in the comments section of other peoples' videos.

Question: I contacted YouTube's help center and they said they found no violation of community guidelines. How can I get the comments removed? They damage my reputation.

Answer:
 If they are making false statements of fact you can sue for defamation, you would not typically have to prove damages as a false accusation of a crime I defamation per se. However there are a few states which do not allow defamation per se and so then you would have to prove actual damages.

Keep in mind that a lawsuit for defamation will likely take 3 years if it's quick and cost 30,000 if it's cheap.


Title: Can you ever obtain a credit history when hiring a candidate? Are there any legal risks here?

Question:
I'm in Cali but asking for nationwide advice.
Topic:
Business Law

Answer:
 There are absolutely legal risks if you pull someone else's credit without their consent, and there are conditions that must be met to pull a report on an employee even with a disclosure. ([Source, with the actual legal code](http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=LAB&sectionNum=1024.5))

>I'm in Cali but asking for nationwide advice

Other states may have their own laws. The above is for California only.Answer #2: Are you doing the hiring?

If you're hiring people and considering doing that "nationwide" you need to have a real business lawyer on retainer you can call with questions like this.


Title: Fiancé’s uncle has embezzled millions of dollars from the company her grandfather started in order to pay for an extravagant lifestyle and is also the trustee.

Question:
Everything that follows it true, and unexaggerated.

It all started in 2011 with the death of my fiancé’s grandfather. In his will the company was divided evenly between his two children, his daughter, my fiancé’s mother, his son, my fiancé’s uncle who was also appointed ceo and trustee. My fiancé’s mother’s share was divided evenly between her mom, her sister, and herself. Along with dividing the company three trusts were set up for my fiancé’s children. Two of them for college, and one as a special needs trust. At such time a tedra was created, my fiancé’s uncle brought in everyone listed in the will and forced all parties to sign it without legal counsel threatening to cut anyone out if they refused to do so. With no other options all signed.

Fast forward to 2014 when, according to a forensic accountant currently employed with the company having managed all accounts discovered money being funneled from the company accounts to the trustee’s accounts to pay bills, non company expenses, and trips. They also noted the special needs trust was also withdrawn from into accounts also controlled by the trustee. A house and yacht was also purchased using some company funds. This continued until sometime in 2017 at which point the accountant says it stopped and has not resumed to date. During this period the other members of the tedra were supposed to be receiving dispersments on a monthly basis from profit sharing. This was not happening as the trustee was keeping it for themselves and issuing personal checks when begged by the other members to help in emergencies.

The FBI was contacted in order to remove the trustee and appoint a third party as well as recoup some of the money taken. The FBI refused the case citing a low monetary amount (around $4 million) as well as the unwillingness of the accountant to testify. My fiancé has attempted to contact other law firms but due to a large retainer required has been unsuccessful in finding one.

As of the end of 2017 to now dispersments are being properly sent out. The current issue is that in order to get married a prenuptial agreement must be signed or her stake in the company is forfeit. But in signing the document it includes somehow granting the ceo/trustee a controlling stake in the company which negates the need for a vote in the trust. We have no way to confirm this as we are not given financial statements when asking for them and are terrified to do anything for fear of reprisals.

Please, there must be someway to prevent this person from destroying the company and our children’s futures, please.

Answer:
 This sounds complex and a lot of money is at stake.  Hire a lawyer.Answer #2: All of those who were forced into signing the original agreement and are impacted by this should pool their resources to hire a lawyer.

Answer #3: Even though I have a hard time believing this (specifically the first part of how everyone had to sign "or else", and specific parts of the FBI aspect of this), you need to tell us the state the company was based in, as well as the states in which all contracts relating to this were signed.

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You need a lawyer for something this big, which you can negotiate on rates with (a larger percentage of funds recuperated than usual in a potential civil proceeding of up to 4 million USD in return for less now, as an example).  We're talking about potentially millions of dollars and thousands of documents in potentially many locations, something that can't be accomplished in a subreddit topic.


Title: My son's public school sent him home with an afterschool bible club registration form, and I AM PISSED. Advice?

Question:
So my son is 8 years old, goes to a public school, and I just received this registration form for him to join an after school biblical club.  I am pissed, and isn't this against the law to send something like this home with my child from a public school?

Let me clarify, I am not pissed that his school has an afterschool bible club, I am pissed that they are forcing this advertising on my son, who now has to be given an explanation as to why he is not going.

As per the bot, I am in WA.

Answer:
 This is perfectly legal if the school treats the after school Bible club the same as any other after school club. If they are specifically pushing Bible club, that's not permitted. Are you new to the school? Perhaps, by luck of the draw, he hasn't come home with pamphlets for any other after school clubs yet, even though those are ordinarily distributed.Answer #2: It is not illegal for a public school to offer a religious club to all students. They cannot, however, make it mandatory.

>who now has to be given an explanation as to why he is not going.

Welcome to parenthood. If you are going to force your beliefs onto your child it seems only fair that you tell him why.
Answer #3: >who now has to be given an explanation as to why he is not going.

Does the form in fact say that the school requires an "explanation" if your son doesn't register? Answer #4: >I am pissed, and isn't this against the law to send something like this home with my child from a public school?

No. It may be inappropriate for the school and/or officials to promote it over clubs or explicitly treat it differently.

>I am pissed that they are forcing this advertising on my son, who now has to be given an explanation as to why he is not going.

You can be pissed if you want. But the fact that you don't like religious clubs soliciting participants the same way other clubs do at the school, assuming that is actually the case, does not make it illegal.

As far as an explanation for your son, welcome to parenting. Make it a teachable moment.


Title: Ex did not abide by Judge's order, wondering what this means for him.

Question:
This is in SK, Canada.
My ex and I have an ongoing child custody case with the court. His mom had been in charge of the transfer of our children, which I did not want. I wanted him to have access every other weekend, with us taking turns with the pick up/drop off of the kids. On Monday the judge ordered week on/week off access with my ex to be in charge of pick ups and drop offs. He was supposed to pick them up today at 4. He did not show up. When I messaged his mother asking where he was, he messaged me through his mothers phone saying that he denied the judge's proposal and he was going to make their daycare deal with the transfer of the kids.
I'm just wondering what this can mean for him. Will he be in trouble with the judge? Does this help my case with only offering him every other weekend? I will be talking with my lawyer on Monday but I would just like some insight into what this means until then. Thank you in advance.

Answer:
 Am I missing something here? Why does it matter who/how the transfer of the children from one parent to another takes place?

To answer your question, if the judge is annoyed enough, he can find the ex in contempt and levy a fine and maybe other consequences.


Title: I have reason to believe my hired dog walker isn't walking my dog.

Question:
Hi there, for context, I'm in England and my dog is a 19 month old beagle, I'll refer to it as Bagel.

About 2 months ago me and my partner hired a dog walker to take out Bagel, who picks her up in a van with some other dogs. Bagel is supposed to get a 1 hour walk, not including the times it takes to drive to the location.

So my partner was too ill to work today and took the day off in bed. She heard the walker arrive and Bagel ran downstairs to see her, and she left with Bagel. However, moments later she returned Bagel, locked the house (we provide a key) and then my partner looked out the window to see her get back in her van and leave. We have yet to received no correspondence from her about why Bagel didn't get a walk today. It's worth noting that there have been a few times where my partner or myself have been home when she has taken Bagel out and not returned for a few hours, and he does appear to have had a walk.

Although this incident is quite worrying, and is very cruel on Bagel, especially if this is not the first time that it has been deprived of it's walk. It would appear that all that is happening is that we are paying for her to take Bagel to the toilet and leave him inside all day again. This is not only not providing the paid for service, but animal neglect, because as we both work full time, we haven't been able to take Bagel out every day (hence the requirement for this service).

I would just like a bit of advice before any confrontation is made.

**EDIT: To elaborate; I would like to know what the legal repercussions of what she is doing can be. I *obviously* am not going to continue the service if I can prove this is a recurring event. Also worth noting that this isn't just a hired person out of the paper. It is a company, and a contract was signed.**

EDIT 2: Thanks to the guys who gave me some actual advice :) Ooh and extra thanks to the people that apparently downvoted me for contributing to my own discussion!

Answer:
 Hire a new dog walker, they are a dime a dozen. If they aren't doing what you pay them for, fire them. You caught them and your asking us what to do, fire them, find someone you can rely on to take care of your animal the same as your child. that's why you pay them. Answer #2: If leaving a dog inside all day is criminal animal neglect, I know a lot of working couples who neglect their dogs.

(It's not).

Your dog walker is possibly doing a half-assed job. Fire her and find a new one if it concerns you. There's no legal issue here. Answer #3: Easy way to test is to put a fit bit on dog collar. Problem solved.


Title: Bullied into a speeding ticket

Question:
I haven't been to this sub before.. I hope this is the right place to post this...Sorry for the length

I was on my way home (in NJ) and got off the turnpike to get onto another smaller highway. Even though it was mid afternoon on a Thursday it was pretty busy. Right after I got onto the highway I moved over to the middle lane and let some cars pass me on my left. As the last couple of cars passed me I saw that we went next to a speed trap that had a State Trooper facing us. I didn't think much of it because I'm pretty sure I wasn't up to the speed limit at that point and then moved to the left lane (passing lane) when I could.

 After driving a few more miles I was behind a car somewhat similar to mine, small black with a spoiler, just cruising behind him; then all of a sudden I see police lights in my review mirror. My immediate thought was "He must want to get past us to get somewhere" so I moved over to the middle lane, expecting him to keep going. But 10 seconds later he moved behind me again... and I thought "Am I being pulled over? Why?" In the past I had gotten pulled over for a broken license plate light but this was during the middle of the day and I definitely didn't think I was going fast enough to warrant getting pulled over.

So while I pulled over and while I waited for him to come up to my car I took out my license/ registration/ insurance card and I checked all of them, thinking that maybe one of them expired without me realizing, but they were all fine. He got out of his car and asked me the standard "Do you know why I pulled you over?" and I genuinely said "No sir."

Cop: "I clocked you going 100mph" (in a 65mhph zone)
Me: (obviously shocked and not sure if he was joking) "No way, there is no way I was going 100"
Cop: Yup you were, you passed right by me 3 exits back and I finally just caught up with you
Me: Going 100 would scare the hell out of me. I would never do that. And my car shakes if I go anywhere even over 85 so I would definitely know if I was going that fast. I was just following traffic in front of me.

He caught onto what I had said and turned it on me and I made a huge mistake.

Cop: Well I got you going 100mph but the lowest I got you was 83mph

That meant without me looking directly at my speedometer he could say I was going almost the max of what my car could handle and I wouldn't know...I don't think I was going over 80 at all but at that point I was so scared I was going to get a huge ticket, he was so adamant about me going 100 and I knew he could write whatever he wanted and just give me the ticket without proof...and because of that I said "Well I maybe could have been going 83 but I know I wasn't doing 100"

And that was all he needed for him to write me up for a ticket for going 83mph. He had asked if I had any points on my license and I said no (because I don't), and when he came back with the ticket he said "I'm doing you a huge favor, if I wrote you up for 100mph you would have had your license suspended."

I drove off a bit scared and shocked, and angry at myself for admitting to something I don't think I did. And when I got home I looked at the cost of the ticket... $180...Any other time I have talked to friends if they had gotten pulled over the highest amount I have seen was $65...I figured if it was that much I would bite the bullet and just pay it. But $180 is insane! Also he said that my license would have gotten suspended from one ticket?! Is that actually true? I want to fight this but I don't think I will win...do you have any advice about what I should do? And what I can do differently next time?

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TLDR: This isn't one of those stories of how I felt threatened by a cop beating me or anything..but I was so scared by his pressuring authority that I falsely admitted to speeding way more than I was actually going and now have a huge ticket. Is there anything I can do about this if I chose to take it to court?

Answer:
 TL:DR; OP never checked their speedometer. Got pulled over. Thinks arguing with the cop = being bullied.

You can try to contest the ticket in court or pay it. That’s your recourse. Answer #2: >"Well I maybe could have been going 83 but I know I wasn't doing 100"

So you admitted to the cop you were going 83 miles per hour?

>Also he said that my license would have gotten suspended from one ticket?!

Yes, there are speeds you can go that can lead to suspension of your licence. They are state dependent.

>Is there anything I can do about this if I chose to take it to court?

Are there any points involved? If there are points, or if you believe your insurance rates will jump significantly consulting a traffic attorney would be a good idea.