Title: [[Kinda urgent]] my sister and her ex have split custody. He is in hospital but demands we give him the child.

Question:
Their arrangement is every other week, exchanging on sunday night.Normally we do the exchange at 7. Well friday he wrecked his motorcycle, and has been in the ICU with brain bleed, two broken legs, 7 broken ribs, and other stuff.

He is threatening to call police if we dont send avery to his grandmothers who is not healthy enough to care for an active 2 year old, has a dangerous dog we told the judge we didnt trust around anyone, let alone small kids, and has already had one "accident" while babysitting where child fell off porch steps and needed plastic surgery to fix split lip.

Cant talk to the lawyers till tomorrow, what can we expect the police to do. The court order says daddy has custody for this week, but he is in the ICU, and cant care for the child. Do they follow order and send avery to his custody, and the unsafe grandmother babysitter, or will they act in the interest of the child? Is there a precedent for this?

In new york state

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My sister decided to send the child to his grandmother to avoid him becoming a spiteful asshole at a later date, which is his usual default factory setting.

Answer:
 If the order says he gets the child this week, it's quite likely that your sister could be found in contempt for not sending the child. It's his week, and it's up to him if he wants to send the child to the grandmother. She can file a motion tomorrow morning to ask the court to change things while he is in the hospital.

The cops are a crap shoot. Sometimes they will assist in enforcing the order, sometimes they will say it's a civil matter and refuse to do anything. Answer #2: If you are rally concerned about grandma's ability to care for the child, contact CPS. Before that I suggest that you just talk to her and ask her if he will have help and is she sure she can manage on her own. Answer #3: Where do they do the exchange?  I would advise to go to the exchange as normal, and if he can't take custody it is his fault, don't give the kid to grandma, and have an attorney file a motion to modify in the morning Answer #4: Check and see if the custody agreement has a first right of refusal.


Title: Alimony ; Married less than 3 years.

Question: Found out my wife spent the night with another man and obviously we haven't been getting along and are thinking of divorce. This all sucks and to top it off I'm thinking about alimony. We have been married for less than 3 years and I don't know if I'll have to pay her anything. She hasn't really been working due to her having anxiety and depression. I come home and do 98 percent of the chores and cooking and pay all the bills. I only make around 35k , barely making it on my own check. I worry that since we lived together before the marriage that will count towards the amount of time we have been together ( since 2010). When I found out what happened we both agreed she should move in back with her mother because we can't get along. I am still paying all the bills including the phone bill that both our phones are in on her name. This is not the first time this has happened where she resorts to stepping out of the marriage. We don't really have any property or assets other than furniture. Any advice would be great. I'm living in Texas. Thanks. I apologize for this being all over the place my mind isn't all there right now.

Answer:
 it is highly unlikely you will be ordered to pay alimony if you were married for fewer than ten years.

take a deep breath. it's time to find a divorce lawyer.Answer #2: It's possible, but not certain.  The fact that she cheated on you is going to make the court less than sympathetic.  She's living with her mother so she's not going to end up on the streets.  And her not working is voluntary.

Plus you can argue that the bills you're paying that still benefit her (for instance, her phone) should count as support you're already providing.

If they did order some, it would only be for a period long enough for her to find a job, and it would be at most 20% of your income.  Alimony is paid before taxes, so she'd get as much as $7k out of your $35k, but would then have to pay taxes on that.  (And you'd only have to pay taxes on the remaining $28k).  Answer #3: You likely won't have to pay alimony if you've been married for only three years. The biggest mistake you can make now is to try tonal it worth an wait a couple more years when you *will* have to pay alimony. Your best bet is to get a lawyer and file right away.


Title: [Alabama] What sort of personal protection can I carry on myself while driving for Uber?

Question:
**Note**: I already have a dashcam (front and rear facing) for legal protection, but I'm asking more specifically about self-defense; diplomacy and conflict diffusion are obviously the first response.

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I usually work the ass end of the late-night shift for Uber, and I recently had an incident occur with a person who approached my car. Luckily, it never became violent, and I had my doors locked and windows up, but I don't want to be in a situation like that again without some form of protection on me.

The day I have to pull *anything* in self-defense is the day I quit driving for Uber, though, so I don't care too much about being deactivated after such an occurrence. **The specific questions I have, though**:

1. Is it legal for me to carry a firearm while driving for Uber? If so:
    * In which situations could it be illegal?
    * How should I disclose this to law enforcement if I'm pulled over for a traffic stop? Is there a way I can prevent my passengers from overhearing that disclosure?
2. If it isn't legal, what form of protection am I allowed to carry in my vehicle?

# Research I've done

[Uber forbids drivers from carrying firearms in their ToS](https://www.uber.com/legal/policies/firearms-prohibition-policy/en/ "Uber Firearms Prohibition Policy"), but it also has an addendum which states "as permitted by law". I'm not sure what that means for Alabama since [employers cannot restrict a person with a valid CCW permit from possessing a properly-concealed firearm in their personal vehicle](http://www.ago.state.al.us/File-Alabama-Weapon-Laws) [p. 25] in this state.

However, rideshare drivers are not considered taxi drivers, nor are they considered registered commercial drivers. In essence, Uber is a platform that drivers use to facilitate a service. It's a big gray area, which is which in some states like Maryland, Uber is considered a common carrier.

I've looked into a type of [mace gel](https://archive.fo/RP2yv "Archived Amazon page for SABRE Red Pepper Gel") that doesn't fan out into the air like regular mace. It's like silly string, but it's not quite as silly. Perhaps that would suit the bill for nonlethal protection.

Answer:
 It is legal as long as you have a permit and are legally allowed to carry a firearm (not a felon, domestic abuser, etc). You do not have a "duty to inform" law enforcement officers in Alabama *unless they ask if you are carrying.* There is no real way to hide it if you are pulled over and asked. Drive safe and follow all applicable laws of the road and you won't have this problem.

Uber's TOS does not magically override laws. The worst they could do is prohibit you from driving for them anymore. Ignore it.


Title: Texas-strange custody case

Question:
Hey, y'all. I need some advice. This is a long one, please, please bear with me. I'm a nervous wife.
My husband found out about his daughter, "Susie" when she was 7. He took responsibility and became a dad to his 7 year old. Susies mom "K" ended up sort of "dumping" Susie on my husband, after a few stints in jail. Fast forward to today, my husband and Susie are very close. The best daughter and father. In 2015, during mediation (where he was finally established as dad) K and husband had to share 50/50 custody over her. The rules for visitation was the California Law. M-W with K, W-F with dad and alternating weekends. This killed my husband. He was always with her and now had to share every single week. It hurt him to not have her near. He missed her so much. He was so lost. I'd never seen my husband like that. And on top of that, it was so unstable! It was hard to establish a life with someone you see every 3 days. But, the baby mama fought hard for it in mediation and so we lost that one. Well, 2 months after the mediation, she texts my husband "I can't deal with her come and get her." Since then, Susie has lived full time with my husband and about 1.5 years with all 3 of us together, so like 2 years. We take her to school, everyone sort of knows me as her mom, we know her friends, etc. It's always us three. She has her own room, restroom, desk...we get her school uniforms, shoes, drop her off at school/pick her up. She has great grades and is a sweetheart. I like to think that we do our best to take care of her. In every sense of the word, my husband and I are her parents. She's happy, we're happy. And we don't get a penny from K.(Its sort of like dealing with a deadbeat dad, but instead deadbeat mom). About 2 months after the text, K argued with my husband about seeing her more, so now Susie's there every other weekend. But, fast forward to today. Susie and her mom got into a huge argument. Susie called my husband to come and get her and she was a mess, crying, just over it. This is one of many arguments they have when she's over there and they are always the same. Its always over why Susie doesn't come more often, I'm your mom, stupid shit. It's been escalating. Truly, Susie doesn't want to be there because it's a pretty ugly environment. It's Ks parents house where at least 7 people live. She has to sleep in the same bed with her mom and cousin or couch since she doesn't have her own room or bed. There's been incidents of bed bugs where Susie comes home with bites. She has a pregnant cousin her age who lives there. Her mom will go out when Susie is there and won't be home till 2 or 3 in the morning. Grandma smokes inside the house...and there are constant remarks about my husband and me. She isn't happy there and truthfully K can't care for Susie like we can. (Susie comes home every other weekend crying about how shitty it was) When Susie is there, all they do is argue. Well, the argument escalated. This is where Susie' s mom threatened to take us back to court to force the California Law back into effect. One problem Susie's mom has access to free legal council and we don't.  So, my question is, do we have a strong case? She's been with us almost 2 years with just seeing her mom every other weekend. If we went to court, would we fail miserably? My husband is not the same without his daughter. And I love her. She is my daughter, too and I claim her as my own..I just want to know if we have a fighting chance or would we lose. Should we suit up now or wait to be served? Can we win this? My husband cannot live happy without his daughter. She needs to be with us. If we had to, we would fight for full custody with alternating weekends/holidays. That's all we want. We don't give a shit about child support..only having Susie with us. (Susie right now is 15, soon to be 16)

tldr: After 50/50 custody mediation put in place with alternating weeks for visiting, stepdaughter lived with us full time for 2 years, and now mom wants alternating weeks again.

Answer:
 TL;DR: After 50/50 custody mediation put in place with alternating weeks for visiting, mother decides not to be involved and child lives with father full time for 2 years  They then go to alternating weekends, but child is with father during the week.  Can mother now go back to alternating weeks again.

FTFY.

The answer is "probably" as long as she can provide a safe and healthy environment for that child.  Not having her own room, or a pregnant relative in the house, would not cut it.  Neither would a random bug infestation as long as it was cleared up promptly (it can happen to anyone.)

Negotiate like civilized people.  The courts will not cut a parent out of a child's life unless that parent is incapable of taking care of the child.


Title: If I acquired a staph infection that was almost certainly caused by a nurse who drew my blood during a voluntary medical study, can I sue successfully?

Question:
Background: I signed up for a study that investigates STD/STI contraction rates. I agreed to provide information about my sexual behavior and periodically have my blood tested for HIV over the course of two years.

The day after the first time my blood was taken, my arm felt itchy at the site where blood was drawn. The blood was drawn this Thursday. By Saturday, that area of my arm (about three inches by one inch of skin) was covered in raised, densely clusters bumps that itched. The clinic where the study was taking place was closed on Saturday, as well as Sunday and today for Memorial Day.

Because the area of itching/irritated skin did not improve after two days, I visited an urgent care provider to have my arm examined. The doctor at the urgent care practice diagnosed me with a staph infection.

Since Thursday, no other person has touched me (aside from the nurse) who had any symptoms consistent with a staph infection. From what I understand, staph infections are spread through person-to-person contact and usually require some break in the skin for the bacteria to enter and infect. There was no break in the skin on my arm until my blood was drawn. Nobody has touched that area of my skin except for me, and my significant other who does not have a staph infection. I wore a bandaid over the area for two days as well after the blood draw.

If I contact the clinic where my blood was drawn, and I request compensation at LEAST for the cost of having to visit the urgent care clinic and fill an Rx for an antibiotic but they refuse to compensate me, do I have any reasonable grounds to sue? If so, how much money would I potentially be able to ask for?

Answer:
 There is no way to know whether the nurse did anything wrong.

Everyone on Earth has staph bacteria on their skin, all the time. Any wound or break in the skin can let them enter and cause infection. Even if perfect technique is used 100% of the time, there is always the chance that some stray bacteria will find its way into the puncture.

That can happen after the blood draw as well. After the procedure, bacteria can still enter the wound for some period of time before it fully heals. You could easily have contaminated the area by touching it, or letting your clothing brush against it, or any number of other things you wouldn't have noticed at the time.

> I wore a bandaid over the area for two days as well after the blood draw.

If you ever changed the bandage, you could have introduced bacteria at that time. An attorney would argue the infection could be your fault.

If you left it in place for two full days without changing it, then it was holding bacteria and moisture against the wound. An attorney would still argue the infection could be your fault.

> do I have any reasonable grounds to sue?

No. Sorry.


Title: Small claims court: Me VS University ?

Question:
I was accepted to a university and had to pay a $750 enrollment fee to secure my position at this university.

I paid the $750, but soon after I was accepted to a better school. So, I canceled my enrollment and sought a refund of my $750 as I would not be attending the school.

The university is refusing to give me a refund of the $750 enrollment deposit claiming it is I refundable and says in return they’ll give me 2 years to take classes at their university without charging me another $750. Past that two year mark I’d have to spend another $750.

One, I’m not ever going to this university. I applied, was accepted, paid my enrollment deposit. And weeks later canceled my enrollment.

I want my $750 back. Any advice ?? Ive read about similar cases where lawsuits were brought against universities and they usually settle out of court....

Thoughts please ????

Answer: It sounds like you paid a deposit to hold your spot and then withdrew. You usually lose the deposit in that situation but you should have a look at any paperwork you have from before the deposit.


Title: Can you get in legal trouble for lying on Go Fund Me?

Question: If someone makes up some BS sob story to try to get money, and people find out it's fake can that person get arrested or sued?

Answer: Yes. Depends on what you're lying about, of course. If, for example, you lie about why you need money and/or what you are going to do with the money in order to get people to send money and people do send money, that's called fraud. I would recommend against it, or any clever work around you think you might have (law enforcement and courts are pretty clever too, they'll probably figure out what you're trying to do). I'm not saying you're planning to do this, but just for the record.Answer #2: See what's happening in New Jersey with the couple that raised money for a homeless dude. They tried to run off with the 200k and are now looking down the barrel of the Jersey state criminal justice system.


Title: Estranged dad stealing money with SSN.

Question:
I'm asking about this for a friend at work. I recently heard about this situation from her and wanted to see if there is any further action she can take to help herself in this crummy time.

Long story short, her POS dad is using her SSN to withdraw money from her bank account (I don't even understand how you can do that!), so even though she's working 2 jobs, she doesn't see a dime of it recently because he keeps taking it. She told me today that she's filed a restraining order against him, but I'm curious if there's further legal action she could take perhaps by getting an attorney and taking him to civil court? I just feel so bad for her that he would do this and she deserves to have that money paid back.

I've never been on this sub before, so apologies if I'm not providing enough info. Thank you in advance.

Answer: Has she notified her bank that these withdrawals are fraudulent? That would be the first step. The bank may be liable instead of the customer since it's the bank's screw-up to allow the unauthorized withdrawals multiple times. It's also theft and likely a federal crime since it involved the bank. Answer #2: How old is your friend? If she is under 18, he may be listed on the account, and legally be allowed to withdraw and add funds. Even if she is over 18, he may still be on the account  If she is over 18 have her immediately change the passwords for the account and go into one of the banks offices, ask to speak to either an officer of the bank or the head teller, and ask to have anyone else taken off the account, and that she is the only one authorized to make withdrawals. This should stop him or anyone else from withdrawing her moneyAnswer #3: If want to  help her out look for the IRS fraud link and have her fill that out.


Title: I have an arraignment in two days for a Speeding Ticket in California. If anyone could offer advice, Id appreciate it.

Question:
I'm 19, clean record, 4/5/18, I was taking my girlfriend to Urgent Care as she had a ridiculously high fever, 104°, and said she was in pain. She also has a 15° curve in her spine, so she was in tears. I was freaking out, thinking something was wrong with her back. Has happened before.

I was in the far left lane. I saw the cop and braked. Saw him turn on his blinker so I made my way to the right of the lane knowing that he caught me. Came up behind me and turned on his lights. I pulled over. Came up to the window. He asked why I was going so fast, I responded with im taking my girlfriend to urgent care and explained the situation. He said he's sorry and wrote me a ticket. Said I was going 92, I said I didn't realize. He asked if I was aware of how fast I was going, I responded with, not until you turned on your lights.

Time was 10:34, regular traffic. A lot of Semi trucks. The limit was 65, but it's Southern California and everyone was doing 85 easily. I was just trying to pass these cars so I could get into my exit.

Ticket has an X on Radar, and a / through MVARS. I got court in July. What are my options? I'd like this to not appear on my record or possibly get it waived. I'm thinking about going to one of those ticket clinic guys. I can't really afford a $500 fine, but I'd be willing to take a financial to avoid this on my record, and keep a lower insurance rate. I'd be willing to do traffic school.

This is my first ticket so I'd appreciate any advice.

A bit ago, I went to the court and asked the clerk to plead not guilty, and if I could have an informal trial. She said she would set up an arraignment, and I'd ask the judge then. I told her thanks, and that I would. What should I expect from the arraignment?

Also, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna lose this trail, but I woul like to see if I could get no points on my record, or take traffic school. It wasn't an option on the letter I received, but I should be eligible per the letter. I can't afford a lawyer, I'm pretty broke, and I was hoping to lessen the fines as well. It's $500. I can't pay that even if I wanted too. I would also like the experience. I find court pretty interesting. Never got picked for just duty though :(

[Here's a copy of the ticket w/o personal details.](https://m.imgur.com/a/oaBmyNx)

Answer:
 Take photo down. Your signature shows.

P.S.  he has you for 92 in a 60 mph zone. I believe at 30 over he could have cited you for reckless driving just for the speed.  The judge may not allow driving school if you plead not guilty and lose.  I’d talk to an attorney.


Title: Signed up for a free trial with an empty prepaid credit card, now a debt collector is after me

Question:
So back in September I signed up for a free trial with Usenet.nl. It was a free* trial which charges after the trial for a yearly use of the website. The only problem being that I signed up using my spam email, so when the trial ended, I didn’t get the email since I never check that account.

 A couple days ago, I received a letter in the mail from this website stating that I needed to pay within 2 days or they would forward me to their debt collecting service and it could hit my credit.

After I got this letter I panicked and contacted their billing department stating that I haven’t used this service since after the trial was over (in truth I used it once and forgot about it), and refused to pay this £95 fee that they want to collect out of me. They then replied saying that by signing up for the trial I agreed to their terms to pay for it if I didn’t cancel the trial, and that they will still seek the full money, plus another late type fee of 10£.

This is where I am now. I’m a Canadian resident that is 19 years old. Will this have a major effect on my credit or will I even have to pay it? Are there any laws to circumvent this? I’m kinda stuck and don’t want to pay $150 Cad for a service I will never use.

Thanks for any help! If there is anything I didn’t make clear enough I’ll be happy to answer questions.

Answer: Why are you refusing to pay it? You agreed to pay it. Do you think using a pre-paid card with no balance somehow means you don't owe what you agreed to pay?


Title: Husband's father wants to see his grandchild but we don't want to let him.

Question:
(NY) Also apologies for poor formating on phone.

My husband and his father are not on best terms and never have been. His father left him and his mother when he was born and overall has never been around in his life unless he needed money from my husband as soon as he got a job at 17.

His father has threatened to break me and him up, have him married to his cousin, and threaten to kill him when he was much younger.

Over the years, I've never met his father or spoken to his father directly. (Though I've heard his voice over the phone and seen his car pick up my husband when we were younger. I don't even know what he looks like!) I know my husband has never wanted me to meet him and now my suppose father-in-law wants to see our newborn. I'm worried about his father doing something by force or taking legal action against us?

Is there anything we can do or he can do? I haven't been able to sleep with how frequent my husband's father has been calling him over the matter. Does he have any right to see his grandchild? He doesn't know where we live nor have a clue, we've already completely excluded him from our immediate family.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: If served, get a lawyer.  This should be a impetus to cease all contact.  NY is very GP friendly.


Title: My friend gave me a squirt of this infused oil he had He didn't tell me it was a CBD oil and I have a drug test this Friday...am I in trouble in Indiana?

Question:
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer:
 Drug tests are looking for THC, NOT CBD. Generally, CBD oils and pills have such low THC content that they wouldn’t show up on a drug test.  So realistically you should be fine. If you’re that nervous, go to a head shop or supermarket and pick up a home drug test for THC and check. You’ll be fine though. Answer #2: What did you think it was?  You can likely call the police and have him arrested for assault.

Pure CBD is generally not tested in standard drug tests.  But, CBD is often not 100&#37; pure, and we don't know what they will be testing.Answer #3: This is highly dependent of your level of exposure and of your ~~employer's policies~~ *probation conditions*.

Hard to tell from my seat, really.

**If you do get a positive test, you may have a sticky situation on your hands, but it is too early to tell.**

EDIT: Updated the post to reflect info the OP posted below.Answer #4: If you test positive,  you won't be able to use the CBD oil as an excuse.


Title: I think my neighbor, who is selling counterfeit/fake items on Amazon, is using my address. How can I protect myself?

Question:
Hey guys,

Around 6 months ago, I became friends with one of my neighbors. In a very short time, we became very good friends. This guy seemed very financially secure, very friendly, and making very good amount of money.

When I asked him what he does for his business, he told me he has his own company and he sells things on amazon.com. After becoming good friends, I kind of figured out he was making very good amount of money! A bit of questioning during drunk times, and it turns out he is making around 300k profit a year. One day, he asked me if he wanted me to be his partner in business. I am making good amount of money myself but I thought it could be something I can do on the side. But, the options/numbers he gave me never added up! After a bit of digging around and cornering him with questions, he admitted that he is selling counterfeit/fake items on amazon.com

I don't know the details of how he does it but here is what I figured. This guy has 5 companies. When one gets busted by amazon, he shuts down that company, moves his remaining items to his other company, and starts a new company as his 5th. After learning this and few other shady things about him. I decided to bail out. I cut him out of mylife.

In the last 3 weeks. I received 4 packages as "return items" for his company! I *think* he might be using my home address for one of his companies. This is only an assumption. His address and mine are only different in 1 number. It is possible that those 4 customers accidentally put the wrong number on the address.

I have couple questions for legally knowledgeable people:

* Is there any legal ways for me to figure out if he is using my address as business with amazon.com? I looked at amazon.com faq but I could not find anything.

* Can I get into any kind of legal/financial trouble if he is using my address? I don't want to be dragged into a court for something I did not do!

* How can I protect myself for any kind of legal problem arising from this?

Thanks in advance for replies!

Answer:
 Potentially worth a try;
Ask a friend (different address) to buy the cheapest thing he has for sale, the  try to return it.
Will confirm for certain which address is being used.Answer #2: the packages you get, are they the preprinted amazon return labels?

Ive never had to write an address myself to return something through amazon, they always give me a label to print myself.

Doesn't mean people wont still find a way to screw it up themselves though. Answer #3: Send your neighbor certified mail he is to cease using your address for business purposes if he is.

Report him to the companies he is counterfeiting. These days the big companies work with local law enforcement to shut down the larger operations.


Title: Witness Fees

Question:
I was subpoenaed as a witness in a divorce/custody battle (I’m the nanny) and am attending a hearing, but timelines got pushed back and they won’t have time to have witnesses testify today, so I’ll have to return at a later date. Although I won’t be testifying today, am I still entitled to the witness fees and mileage today since I am here on the date scheduled on the paper?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: That's a question for the court clerk.Answer #2: Were you physically at the courthouse and able to testify today? If I’m looking at correct rule it says you get paid for [each day’s actual attendance](http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=GOV&sectionNum=68093.). IANAL and I don’t know California law, but I read it as you keep the money if you were in attendance today and they have to pay you again for the next day you attend. You may want to check with the court clerk though, if one is available in California.


Title: [Newark, CA] Who's fault is this car accident?

Question:
http://i.imgur.com/p20GXE7.png

Newark - CA - Fedex truck parked on the street - not even on curb - has emergency lights on. I decide to move past him and right when I do, he gases and hits my car on the right passenger side. He blames me for passing him and I blame him because he HIT my car without looking at surroundings. Who's fault is it?

Answer: Fault can be shared.  Just call your insurance company and let them handle it.


Title: (ON) I believe a well known Canadian artist has taken the exact hook, lyrics, and melody, from a song i wrote years ago.

Question:
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Topic:
Removed PII

Answer:
 > I'd like to hear some outside opinions.

My outside opinion is that you should schedule a consult with a local attorney who does IP work, preferably with experience in the music industry.


Title: My GF found out she was 30 weeks pregnant...

Question:
This happened this week. She had took home tests which were negative and only in the last month starting getting bigger. She's been trying to figure what's wrong if she's not pregnant.

September 19 she went to the doctor and they did a mammogram. She also went to the gyno that same week for birth control which she was given.

My question is if either or both doctors should of gave her a pregnancy test before doing the mammogram and issues BC.  I'm concerned and it seems a clear cut case of negligence. You guys are the experts tho....

(Illinois)

Answer:
 They likely asked her if there was any chance that she was pregnant if a mammogram would even have any effect on a fetus which I am less than sure it would. Same with bc. Doctors do not typically force you to take a pregnancy test everytime you get a renewal.

Answer #2: The answer is no, these are not malpractice. If your girlfriend told them that she believed she wasn't pregnant, and had tested herself recently, they have to go by their best information. Lab testing for pregnancy is significantly more expensive and time consuming than OTC tests, and are only ordered under specific circumstance.


Title: Went through a toll without paying, never received bill. Am I off the hook?

Question:
About a month and a half ago, I accidentaly stayed on the highway too long and got stuck with a toll. The woman said I would get a bill in the mail. It's been a month and I still haven't received it. My address with the MVA is current, as I have received mail from them since this occurred.

Is it possible that I was never dinged for goingthrough the toll without paying, or am I more likely to be racking up late fees? I don't want to ignore this and find that I now owe $4000.

This is in Maryland.

Answer: In what world do you believe 4-6 weeks is a long time for a bureaucracy to operate?


Title: [NC] Do i have to answer jury questions?

Question: Do i have the right to remain silent as a jury member? It seems like they ask alot of questions and i'd rather not speak.

Answer: You can refuse to answer a question if doing so would incriminate yourself. If a question makes you uncomfortable for some other reason, you can say that. You could be compelled to answer, but it's more likely that you would be dismissed. You should not lie in your answers to any questions.Answer #2: During jury selection?   Yes, you have to answer.  No, you have no right to remain silent unless the specific question implicates you in a specific crime (which you will not be asked).


Title: [NY] Can I mess with someone who's texting me from an unknown number?

Question:
So, today I got an ambiguous affectionate message from an unknown number. I figured someone gave a random number away last night and I was the lucky one stuck with giving this person the bad news.

However, after I told them they had the wrong number, they refused to believe me, and after some back and forth, I started suspecting that this person may know me, and is messing with me. Thing is, I'm certain none of the people I like (close friends, family, SO) would do this, so I decided to tackle this by sending the same random string of characters as a response whenever this number texted me. After the 2nd time they seem to have given up.

Now, part of me wants payback. I'm not aware of a way to figure out who this number belongs to (googled it but only managed to find out that it's from around here and the carrier is Jasper Wireless), so I've decided that starting at midnight, I'll be sending this number screenshots of a "found footage", relatively unknown horror movie.

Now, the tricky part is that by sending these screenshots, if my victim is naive enough they'll believe I'm holding someone hostage and they're in danger. If they panicked enough that they decided to call the cops, would the potential consequences make this a stupid move from a legal standpoint?

Answer:
 > would the potential consequences make this a stupid move

Yes.  There's no benefit to this, and only downsides.  Move on.Answer #2: > if my victim is naive enough they'll believe I'm holding someone hostage and they're in danger. If they panicked enough that they decided to call the cops, would the potential consequences make this a stupid move from a legal standpoint?

The cops track your phone number, the SWAT team kicks in a door because they believe there's a hostage situation, shoot your dog, and while searching your home they find contraband that gets you arrested. Just ignore these people and move on with your life.


Title: Being sent to juvy over marijuana possession?

Question:
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Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 If she is 18, she is already emancipated. Her father doesn't have to let her use his car. He can call the police if there are drugs in her mother's house. He can call the police if she is using drugs at friends' houses. He may be able to monitor texts and calls if he owns the phone and the account.

Is the account with her mother joint?


Title: MA - Girlfriend received a signing bonus, does she need to return it?

Question: The signing bonus was not even mentioned in her offer.  The was no language about needing to return it if she leaves the company before X amount of time.  The money was given to her as a check from the company, not as part of a paycheck.  However, she has quit after only 3 months and thinks that she should return the money.  Thanks.

Answer: Your narrative is way too general to offer any sort of advice. Unless there is some sort of condition that leaving the company before X date, that signing bonus is likely hers to keep. Then again, if there was never language regarding this signing bonus, it could be viewed as an overpayment and she could be sued for the return of it. Like I said, way too much going on to offer advice on limited details.


Title: [Melbourne, Australia] I'm uninsured and caused a car accident.

Question:
I know how stupid I am for not having insurance, but I don't have it because I can't afford it. It gets fairly expensive on your probationary licence.
I've caused an accident and and written off her car. The car is valued at $12k. She had insurance and they want to claim the money through me. I'm a 20 year old unemployed student on Centrelink. What can I do? Or am I just screwed. Thanks guys.

Answer:
 You're screwed. If you really can't pay then you can declare [bankruptcy](https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/find-legal-answers/bankruptcy) but that has a lot of negative consequences attached.

Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer. Australian barristers and solicitors are barred by their code of professional ethics from giving advice to random people on the internet. If you want real advice seek a real solicitor in real life.


Title: Previously landlord withholding security deposit for over 45 days, now asking us to pay half ($400) of cost for bed bugs extermination in a quad-unit building.

Question:
This is in Utah. At the end of March I moved my family out of a two-bedroom basement unit. Our contract stated that our security deposit ($1490 - $100 non-refundable pet deposit = $1390) would take up to 60 days to be refunded. We've been asking for it since about two weeks after we moved out with no answer about when we would get it.

The building that we lived in was a five-bedroom duplex, but the landlord rented it out as 3-bedroom unit (top level) and 2 bedroom unit (basement). The original door at the top of the stairs is still the only thing that separates the top and bottom units by being locked from the top unit side.

A year ago, the top unit adjacent to us got their unit exterminated for pest control. They decided to pay for themselves because our landlord is very cheap and hard to get him to do anything. Around July of last year we started noting small bites on my wife, then our children and began wondering if we had bed bugs. They never bite me so I guess I'm just not delicious. Where my family and I come from there isn't really a bed bug problem, I honestly didn't think they were a real thing until I moved to Utah. So after a few months, Sept - October-ish, it became apparent to me that "Don't let the bed bugs bite" was more than just a night time boogeyman story.

We did have a conversation about our landlord, but he never remembers anything and like I said, he hates to spend money on the place. (We went almost two weeks with no hot-water because he did not want to replace the water heater.) We were planning on moving at the beginning of this year so we never chased  getting rid of them, other than getting some bed bug covers.

We moved out at the end of March, and last month the top adjacent unit found bed bugs and this time are demanding that the landlord exterminate the entire building. Luckily, the people that live in that apartment are close family friends, and they told us about their demand and that the landlord wanted to talk to all the units to see if they have had a problem. We've been out for about a month at this point, but the landlord emailed us to ask if we have had problems. Which we reminded him that A) yes and B) we told him about the problem on two separate occasions.

From that point, we've asked about getting our deposit and the replies we got were, "We have another bed bug inspection next Friday." We then asked, "Is our deposit refund determined by the bed bugs somehow?", to which we got no reply until an email tonight. *Note: There is already another tenant living in our previous unit that moved in two days after we moved out.*

In the email tonight, the landlord has stated that they found bed bugs "but could not determine the source" and that since the adjacent unit (our friends) exterminated a year ago, then the cost ($800) should be split between us ($400) and our neighbors that lived directly above us ($400).

Our friends kept us up top date on the inspections, they said that they found bed bugs in their apartment, the nest in the apartment above us (nest = adult sized bugs), and the last guy who came found literally ONE bug in our previous apartment.

Also, that nowhere in my lease does it state that the tenant has responsibility for extermination.

According to this: http://www.utahlegalservices.org/public/self-help-uploads/bed-bugs-cockroaches I should not have to pay anything. I am contacting a lawyer tomorrow, but should I tell my landlord I DO NOT agree to paying for the extermination and demand my refund? or don't say anything to him and have a [Notice of Deposit Disposition](https://le.utah.gov/xcode/Title57/Chapter17/57-17-S3.html) sent to him?

Thanks for taking the time to read and for any advice you could give me.

TL;DR: Landlord wants us to pay half the cost ($400) to exterminate the entire quad-building ($800), I don't think I should have to pay for it and I want my security deposit ($1390) refunded immediately.

Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Not a lawyer but I don't think the landlord is [allowed to keep your security deposit in Utah for more than 30 days](http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/utah-landlords-guide-security-deposit-disputes-small-claims-court.html).

Edit: if you are contacting a lawyer tomorrow then don't say anything to your landlord until you talk to the lawyer and then do exactly what the lawyer says.


Title: [NJ] Was the middle car of a hit and run. Being called as a witness against the first car in line for leaving the accident. Do I have to attend?

Question: This is my first career accident. As the title says, I rear ended a pickup truck after being hit. The driver and myself got out and spoke for a few seconds while we watched the last car flee the scene. The guy acted rather sketchy and said things like "oh you don't have to call the police" "Just tell them [cops or insurance company] you hit a deer." Being shaken up, I couldn't really muster a response to it. By that point he was basically in his car anyway. I got his plates and called the police to start the process of getting my car fixed. I gave his plates and matched his face to an officer. Fast forward a couple weeks, and a totaled car, later and I get a summons to appear as a witness. Since I have nothing to gain by appearing, the cops didn't find the car that hit me and I was uninjured, I called in and said I would not be appearing. A day or two later I get another summons with a handwritten note requiring my presence. This is a pretty annoying convenience to me since I'd be using a PTO day to go. Is passing on this an option? Whether this guy picks up a fleeing the scene charge does not concern me but I want to make sure I'm not held in contempt.

Answer: You can't pass on a summons.


Title: What usually happens with all those scams on ebay? Like a new account selling Iphone 10 for $400.

Question: Enough people buy it, I assume they withdraw the money from paypal, close their account...and it can't possibly be that easy yet I see these things happen all the time. What usually happens?

Answer:
 Yes, it really is that easy. Fraud in America alone is in the 10s of billions. The investigators into this stuff simply don't have any time to bother with things this small. There are people out there who literally do it, will give you their direct personal bank information, address, and everything. Enough to know clearly who is doing it. And literally nothing happens as they continue doing it over and over. There just isn't enough man-power to deal with the small things. People have kicked around different "triggering" numbers, like anything under 2k wont bother with an investigation if it's CC related, and anything under 1k if it's personal money.

It's actually really popular and widespread, and stupidly easy.Answer #2: I'm pretty sure they use hacked accounts most of the time - I was a victim of a similar scam over 10 years ago where someone used my eBay account to list a laptop for sale. (I think before they were linked with Paypal, but certainly before I had linked my accounts together, thankfully.)

In my case, I think I caught it before anyone bid on it, or at least before a payment was processed.

But now that I'm remembering this experience, I assume this is why eBay and PayPal favour the buyer in disputes most of the time. Hmm.Answer #3: I was literally just thinking about this


Title: Man caught on camera taking my wallet I left in a restaurant, will I ever see this money?

Question:
This just happened and though I think it's an open/shut case, I'm not too familiar with the legal system and I would hate for this to go awry. This happened in Canada.

I was carrying a large sum of cash (approx a few thousand) after making a private sale minutes before. SO and I stopped at a restaurant to get some quick takeout and ended up leaving my wallet on the waiting bench. Yes I know it was stupid, believe me, I don't need to be told again.

Arrived home and immediately realized and turned back. Called restaurant but got connected to a central call centre and by the time they could transfer me I was almost back at the restaurant. Immediately ran inside and asked the server about it after seeing it wasn't on the bench. No dice, they hadn't seen it. I go back outside and tear my car apart to make sure, still no dice.

They call the owner as they have access to the cameras in the front of the store. Sure enough we see me leave without my wallet and a man comes in and is eyeing it as he orders. After ordering, he sits down beside it and grabs it. Quickly looks at my ID it appears and then pockets it. Walks out shortly after. One of the servers identifies the man as an acquaintance. He says that the guy had just come back in to pick up his order while I was outside and when asked if he had seen a wallet he said no.

Police are called and take my statement along with the server and take a look at the footage. Get a call the next morning that the guy was arrested/charged but they couldn't recover the wallet. Turns out the guy admitted to taking the wallet but maintains that he gave it back to me after walking outside.

So now this has to be dealt with through the court system and although it seems black and white to me, I'm worried that I might not get this money back.

Here's a summary of why I don't see him getting out of it:

-he's on camera shadily taking the wallet

-he lies when asked if he's seen a wallet (confirmed by servers statement and possibly audio from the camera)

-I have GPS location logs that show when I left the restaurant, when I returned (bless you Google) and that I was not even there for him to give me the wallet

-I have a witness alongside me the entire time

-I have confirmation from the buyer in my private transaction, emails, my SO and a picture of the money fanned out that I sent to my brother as a joke minutes before (to prove that I was carrying the amount I claimed)

-Might be able to see large sum of cash from the camera when I am paying for my order

I have a bad feeling that although he might get charged for theft, I might not have enough substance to get my money back :(. Thoughts?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: Plenty of substance. He claims he didn't see the wallet and also claims he gave it back to you. He's clearly lying. Sue him.


Title: Car got destroyed by tree

Question:
So this is a weird one and I am curious at the options available to me. So I parked my car at the city park today and a tree fell down on my car. I mean really bad, final destination style.

I have basic and as bare insurance as I can afford right now so I doubt I am going to get any assistance that way, though I have already created a claim.

An officer came to look at everything and said he couldn’t write a report, because it was not an accident and was on personal property (Owned by the city). There were 5 cars total involved in this tree falling.

Also to give reference it was a completely sunny day with no winds.

All I am really looking to find out if the city is responsible for anything under their property insurance or out of pocket for the damages?

Here are some pictures of the incident:
https://imgur.com/a/EbpDh6I/

Answer: Yes it is the fault of whatever city/county own the trees. Call them or report online about trees and personal damage. They will send an arborist and will take you through their own insurance process. Don't expect anything to happen quickly though. A public park tree fell on my car in November and it wasn't fixed til February. But keep your insurance informed too. This likely falls under storm damage or whatever is closest to fallen trees. Even if their was no storm. It's their responsibility to maintain their trees and take care of them if they look as if they're close to snapping.Answer #2: As an insurance adjuster, the city is not at fault unless you can prove the tree was a dead tree AND it was neglected by the city. You may have to take your loss. This is an “act of god” they can’t be liable for this.


Title: Can my employer ask for paperwork from my doctor for a medical condition?

Question:
I've been suffering from psoriasis for the last 15 years. I go through routine checkups with my dermatologist about every three months.. we've tried different medications and treatments, which has partially controlled my Psoriasis, but it's still noticable.
The most noticable part of it is my scalp.. it's red, flaky, and doesn't look great.
Now for those of you that don't know, psoriasis is 100% not contagious at all. To sum it up, it's an autoimmune disorder that is passed on genetically. You can not get it from touching my skin, being around me, or being anywhere I've been.

I've been at my current employer for 4 years now. I work in a call center where we do not always sit at the same desk each day.. we're moved around based on the calls we are doing that day and we all use a different desk every day.
Nothing has been a problem at my work up until last week when I was called into my supervisors office and was told 3 co-workers have filed workers comp claims and went to the doctor saying that after they sat at a desk I previously used they've gotten skin irritation and rashes and they're concerned they have "caught a disease" from me.
My employer is now asking if I can, on a voluntarily basis, give them paperwork from my doctor listing I'm diagnosed with Psoriasis and it is not contagious.
Can they do that? After my meeting with my supervisor about this last week I've already felt super embarrassed and afraid to go to work to be near my coworkers who I feel think I'm a bio-hazard and I should be in a plastic bubble.. but now do I have to bring my medical history into all of this?

Answer:
 I agree with others that your employer cannot ask for medical information. That being said, you are in a difficult position because your co-workers are obviously concerned that they may "catch" something by sharing a work-station and will likely not understand or support you unless they know they are safe.  If it were me, I would ask my doctor to write a note that simply states that I have a skin condition (which is not a secret to anyone that you work with) and that it is not able to spread to others.  I'm coming at this from the angle that you don't need to share your exact condition, but providing some additional assurance to HR will shut up your co-workers.  At that point, anyone complaining to HR would be told that your condition is not a concern to anyone at the company.  Answer #2: It would be reasonable for you to procure a note from your physician stating you are free from communicable diseases. It is none of anyone’s business what your diagnosis is.

It is also VERY possible that there is something like scabies going around the office.  You would seem like the obvious source by your co-workers. Your office could also have bed bugs in the furniture that are causing others to get a rash at work. The source may need further investigation. Answer #3: He can ask, and you can say no. Answer #4: You could ask your doctor for a letter confirming it's not contagious. As I had to get a letter from my doctor so I could special conditions when sitting an exam at uni.


Title: M/34 exgirlfriend moving out on me, terminating the lease early and giving less than 30days notice in the off season, and I can't afford the rent alone

Question:
Title pretty much says it all..

What are my options?
I would love to move out as well but I can't afford all the penalties that come with breaking a lease under these conditions.

Answer:
 Why do you think you have to bear the entire burden of your girlfriend breaking the lease?

She agreed to pay rent, she can help pay the penalties for breaking the lease.

Talk to your landlord, see if you can work something out.  You might be able to get a new tenant to mitigate some of the cost of breaking the lease early.


Title: [US] Can I legally change my name without a lawyer or parents consent if I'm 18

Question:
Assuming I have acess to all the documents needed

Also how slow/difficult is the process?

Answer:
 As an adult you don't need your parents' permission to do anything.

There's no way of telling you about the process, each state/county can be different.


Title: [Breaking a Lease] I Don't Feel Safe In My Apartment After Burglary (NV)

Question:
Hi there! My roommate and I live in North Las Vegas, NV, and our home was burglarized a week ago. Luckily neither of us were home, but after breaking in through the window they did steal quite a few material things that they can easily sell (MacBook, DSLR Camera with extra lenses, Apple TV, spare car and home keys and a few other things) as well as just trashing the house in general.

We went through the motions of police report, reporting it to our leasing office and rental insurance company. The day after, our leasing office tried to charge us for a lock change (after going back and forth they finally agreed to do it for free), but they have yet, a week later, to replaced the window (they just covered it with some cardboard). We came home today to find out that they returned and stole my roommates truck (he has two) while he was at work. So my question would be, what rights (if any) in this situation are we entitled to as tenants, and what are the legalities of breaking a lease due to an unsafe living environment?

To;dr: apartment broken into, material items and car stolen, how can we break our lease legally?

Answer: Your leasing office is not responsible to pay for those things. They didn't do anything wrong. Your insurance pays. Leasing office also didn't do anything wrong to let you out of your lease. You can pay whatever the lease break fee is our pay until they find a new tenant. Answer #2: Practical advice:  As soon as I saw they stole the car keys I was going to recommend changing ALL car locks. I'm sorry to hear they stole the roommates truck. See if you can change the locks on all the other vehicles and doors as well.


Title: [Pennsylvania] Shared rain gutter in between my house and my neighbors house needs to be replaced. Neighbors won't help to fix it. How to proceed? Pictures in comments

Question:
I live in Pennsylvania in a townhouse attached on one side to someone else.  Earlier this year I had someone come to replace the rain gutters however due to the way the gutter is installed between the houses, it will probably cost about $2000 to replace.  The gutter is tucked underneath my neighbors roof on one side and siding on my house.  It sits directly on top of the firewall that splits the two houses.

I have asked that since it is a shared gutter that we (neighbors and I) split the cost to replace however the neighbors have refused to have any part in replacing it.  Now they are selling the house so I contacted the realtor to see if they can help.  They say that it's not legal for them to work on the house and it's being sold as is.  Any leaks the gutter may have, will go into both houses which could create significant problems down the road.  I have tried to explain this to the neighbors and the realtor but neither are willing to listen.  The only thing the realtor told is that I can try to make a deal when a new owner buys the house.

Is there any legal way I can get them to help pay to replace the gutter?

Answer:
 I think your first priority is to get it repaired, regardless if they help.

If you get a big rainfall before you come to an agreement, you're looking at a lot more than $2k in repairs.


Title: Use secret recording to prove sex was consensual?

Question:
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Topic:
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Answer: This was literally just asked.  It's still on the first page of 'new'.


Title: Serious, What can I do if a tow company separate the semi truck and trailer and tow them as two items to make extra money ?

Question:
On Wednesday morning i put the diesel in my semi truck at a local truck stop in california. It's not too far from my house. I left my truck parked over there for Wednesday and Thursday. On Friday when I went over there to pick up truck I found out that they called the cops to tow it because they have only 2 hours parking policy unless you buy the permit. Towing people charged me $1660. 2 hours labor for towing tractor $700, 2 hours of labor for towing trailer $700. $130 for two days for tractor and same for trailer. So I ended up paying it because no choice left.

If a truck stop has parking policies (like no parking, no over night parking, 2 hours free parking, $20 over night parking, 24 hours free parking...etc) they always post in in parking alot area or usually by the truck entrance. But at this truck stop there is nothing like that except a small sign by cash register inside the store. Which is not visible clearly. If this truck stop is really trying to make money by selling truck parking permits, it should have posted visible signs.

It looks like that truck stop owner and the towing shop owner are playing the "Game" with poor truckers. They are trying to make extra money with the support of police department (because towing company has agreement with local PD). Here are the reasons why I think that- 1. No visible signs 2. They entered in my truck to separate the truck and trailer to charge me 2 different towing fees, while they could have towed them together. ($ 700 each) 3. I leased the trailer. I showed them the leasing agreement but they still wanted the picture of original owner lD and a document of releasing the trailer. Tow company owner was there. He was trying his best to keep the truck and trailer for another day, because weekend releasing is $200 (price was posted over there) 4. $700 a piece is too much for 12 miles towing. Tow company clearly drove my bobtail inside their yard to do butt in parking. I was told that my tractor was towed from back so it wasn't possible to park butt in.

Guys can I do something about it? I accept that it was my error to leave the truck in a private property and I am not trying to get my money back. I just want to do something about this towing game. So hard worker truckers don't lose their money. When I talked to my friends they told me it had happened with friends of friends. They charged them the same fees. They never tow truck and trailers together (to make atleast $700 extra plus $65 per for trailer).

I have feelings that there should be something to stop them.

P.s. there was a dirty cop in my city who used to pull over poor Mexicans because he knew they don't have license. Tow their cars. Tow company asked them for USA ID. When poor people were unable to get their cars back, tow company sold them on ebay. Cop and tow company split the final amount.

Answer: Serious question: Can a tow company tow both the semi and trailer at the same time? I've never seen that.


Title: [IL]My mother's job is mistreating her based on her age and gender. Is there anything that can be done?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >has "passed down" everything to his sons and other equally unqualified 30-something men.

Not illegal.

>they forced her to move from the location she'd always been at, to another one in a different town.

Not illegal.

>Upon hiring the one 20-something woman, they gave her 2 weeks vacation, something my mother had to work 10 years to earn, and they have never increased my mom's benefits.

Also not illegal.

>These things weren't expected, they were EARNED by being a salaried worker, being qualified, and by being loyal for damn near 30 years.

There is no law that says that she is owed a bonus because of this.

Nothing you have said is indicative of ageist or sexist treatment. Given that your mother is a woman and her new coworkers who are receiving preferential treatment, that actually contradicts the sexism notion.

It is not illegal for an employer to treat someone better than someone else. Frankly, it sounds like your mom's boss just doesn't like her very much. And that's a shame. But there's nothing legal to be done about it.


Title: Friend had a gas pump shoot back into her face; no serious injuries but concerned about possible effects of the gasoline that got in her mouth and nose. Does she have any legal grounds?

Question:
No serious facial injuries but got gasoline in her mouth throat nostrils, who knows how far it got down inside ,but it most certainly got inside.

Could she sue? On what grounds?

Answer: You have to have damages to successfully sue.Answer #2: You haven't given enough details to suggest anyone is liable/neglient over than your friend. And depending how how much gas, this is a none issue.


Title: What recourse do I have for forcing my daughters school to deal with sexual harassment?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You're describing this as sexual harassment. Is he doing anything besides staring?


Title: (UK) My husband and I have a joint business and mortgage. He is threatening to make if impossible for me if I leave

Question:
My husband and I have a joint business. I set it up with him 15 years ago and worked in the business until about a year ago when I couldn't work with him any more and I didn't like the job. He is abusive and disrespectful to me on a regular basis and I told him I want to divorce. We have a shared mortgage on the house. We both have 50% share of the business. He says that if I leave he will refuse to sell the house and stop me taking any money from the business. He controls the finances (he controls me!)

If I leave he will stop my business credit card and refuse to sell the house. I have no other access to money so cannot see how I can leave. There is nowhere for me to go and I have nothing to pay rent. I don't know what to do. He has been violent in the past.

Answer:
 Hi, I used to work in crime prevention in the UK.

Please call a domestic abuse advocacy group. They can offer advice and put you in touch with appropriate resources local to you. From experience, I'd recommend Womens Aid, though it's been a few years since I've worked in that field.

Their 24 hour freephone hotline is on 0808 2000 247. Please call them asap.Answer #2:  I'm not a lawyer but I'll just point out that he can't refuse a court order to buy you out or sell the house.

As has been pointed out it sounds like you are in a domestic abuse situation so you will likely qualify for legal aid.


Title: Mother is no longer claiming me in her household. [17]

Question:
Hi everyone,
I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible while still including relevant information. I am getting my driver's license tomorrow. I live in Florida. I'm 17. My parents are divorced. My mom told me today to not list her address as my home because she doesn't want to pay for my insurance. Even though I don't have a car, apparently she will be charged for each licensed driver in her household. Even though I've been living with my dad for the past two months, I'm pretty sure she can't do this, as she has main custody of me. I turn 18 in 4 days, so I know she can wash her hands of me then, but I need help navigating the situation now.

Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 Where do you plan to be living in 4 days when you turn 18?

List that as your address on your DL.Answer #2: If you live at your dad's house, it's perfectly appropriate to put your dad's address. Really, though, if you lived with your mom and you wanted to use "her" address, it's not like she could stop you.


Title: [NJ]Ex Boyfriend maliciously leaking nudes of me on social media, etc

Question:
I lived with a man in Florida and now I am back home in New Jersey, Main reason was due to the domestic violence he inflicted on me.  He constantly accused me of having affairs, refused to let me contact any of my friends, destroyed my personal belongings, etc. When he threatened to choke me, I decide to leave him. I filed a police report against him a few days prior to leaving Florida, but the officer simply said," Just give it time, you might get back with him."

 I left my home feeling hopeless.  Before I returned to Florida, he threatened to leak naked pictures of me if I didn't return home with him. I didn't believe him capable of that. I left Florida and came back to New Jersey; He continued to get in touch with me and when I finally decided to block him from my phone, social media, etc. ;he exposed the picture on social media.  He sent me proof of what he did by sending nude pictures of me to my underage sister's social media messenger.  My friends and family have been contacting me regarding this horrible situation he has been putting me through and have saved the malicious photos as evidence in case I can do anything with it.

First of all, he is not very smart; I have evidence (photos, text and voice recordings) of his evil actions against me and HIS PRIOR GIRLFRIENDS.  I have proof that he has done the same things to other unfortunate victims and I wish to stop him here and now so no one else falls for his cruel tactics.

I called the FL police and they told me, I have to file a report in NJ. I did. Unfortunately, the guy continues to post the pictures while mocking me.

What can I do whilst residing in NJ, while he is in FL? Is there anything I can do from here?? Who can I contact in this situation? Can I sue him?

Please help me.

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Answer:
 He’s distributed revenge porn to a minor? And you haven’t called the police? Call the police and make a report.

ETA: he commuted revenge porn offenders in Florida, and sent them to a minor from Florida. You can definitely go to the NJ police, and they may refer you back to Florida.


Title: Fired as contractor, told I have to finished Amazon Pro Services jobs anyways or be sued for the Cancellation Fees.

Question:
I have been working as a 1099 employee in the state of Michigan with a friend's business.  Our main income came from Amazon Pro Services.  Basically a customer can buy handyman services on Amazon and then Amazon would hire us to do the jobs.  If our company cancels a job, Amazon charges us a $50 fee.

So last night I was fired by my friends company.   He told me I still need to do the five jobs assigned to me.  He said that if I don't do these jobs, he will sue me to collect the cancellation fees.

The problem is, I don't trust him to pay me for these jobs either. He hadn't paid me in two months, and finally paid me last night.

  I'm afraid that if I do the jobs, I'll never be paid.

 But if I don't do them, he will sue me for the fees Amazon Charges him.

Any advice?

Edit Important note: Amazon only pays out bi weekly, so he can't pay up front

Answer:
 He's going to sue you for $250 for not working for free after ending your contract relationship?

My advice would be to ignore him. Answer #2: Don't do the jobs unless he pays you, and if he sues you, counterclaim for all the unpaid time. Answer #3: Demand payment up front for the jobs. Answer #4: > I have been working as a 1099 employee in the state of Michigan with a friend's business.

>So last night I was fired by my friends company.

iANAL, but this would seem to me to be his problem, and were I a judge (I am not), would laugh in his face for firing the guy he was contacting to do a job BEFORE the job was done and then expecting that guy to pay the cancellation fees (As I said, not a judge, and for good reason)


Title: I suspect my father is not being honest about what my grandfather left me and my siblings in his will. How do I find out without making a big scene?

Question:
My siblings and I live in and around Westchester, New York, and our father and now deceased grandfather live in Jupiter, Florida.

Thanks in advance.

Answer: Generally wills are public after the person passes. Contact the courthouse where they lived/died.


Title: My ex-girlfriend told me she was pregnant

Question: I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about a month ago. She just reached out to me to tell me that she had visited a doctor and they had told her she is pregnant. She has a follow-up appointment with her OB-GYN within the next week. She was on the pill and but I still never finished inside without a condom though I realize both of those are fallible. I'm not sure if there's anything I can or should do at this point until I have more information but I wanted to know what my options are and if there's any specific information I should try to gather at this point. I live in New York City.

Answer:
 At this point, you should do nothing.  Don't send her money, don't make promises, don't sign or agree to anything.  Even if she is, actually, pregnant and insists it's yours, don't do anything except start saving money.

Do nothing until the child is born *and* you've had a paternity test done confirming that you're the father.  At that point, you'll want a lawyer.


Title: Is it legal to prohibit cash as payment for rent in California?

Question: My landlord recently changed my rental contract and now it says they will not accept cash or personal check for rent payment, only money order or cashiers check (both of which cost me money to order). I have never had a bounced or canceled check. I havent signed the new agreement yet....is this legal? Do I have any push back? Not being able to pay in cash or personal check is a really big inconvenience for me.

Answer:
 Alaska non legal guru here. Totally acceptable up here, typicall for the lower rung places. You may not have bounced a check but there are x number of others who might not be able to say the same.

One place i was staying was pretty scummy and did the same thing. The extra 2$ sucks but it is minute in comparison. The manager just about messed himself when i paid half the year at once. Needless to say i was prettt high in the queue when anything went to shit. Answer #2: Wow, there are  some bad answers here. You issue is with the changing of the contract. Your landlord generally cannot change you lease after you signed it, and before it expires. Some provisions may be found unenforceable by state or federal law but how you pay will not be covered by those. If the original lease you signed specifically said cash was okay then you are probably good.


Title: Got caught lifting today

Question:
I am 18. I got caught over a pair of headphones at walmart. 2 LP got me about 3 steps out the front door.  Pretty forcefully, the held me kinda against a wall and put me in handcuffs and took me to the back. I was flipping out and thinking how can it be me. I still am. Here's the bullshit: they say some shoes from sports authority were missing too. I had been in there earlier, and tried on a few pairs including that pair, but did NOT steal them. They said they had probable cause, even though they searched my car and found nothing. They also said someone tampered with the magnets inside the security tag and that was all that was left behind. Now I have 2 fines, one of which isn't justified. I have court in about a month. Please help this is my first time idk what happens at court and what I'll have to do. I'm freaking out...

Edit: here's my fine. http://i.imgur.com/Jt2tzQH.jpg

Answer: You're being charged and you're 18, which means the result of your day in court can follow you the rest of your life. Stop stealing things and get a lawyer ASAP, they will dispute the validity of the charge for you based on the facts provided


Title: House was raided in California, no warrant was ever served. Information was falsified in report and is being falsified in the papers.

Question:
My house was visited by the sheriffs 2 days ago.  Upon seeing them I asked for a warrant. They told me I did not need to see it and to stay where I was.  I asked why they were on my property and they told me it was to investigate the medical cannabis plants on my property.  I am fully paperworked and legal to grow the 25 plants that I had.  I asked them for a warrant again they said to shut up.  As the 8 officers secured my property, they started going through everything I owned.  I asked again for a warrant, they said I would see a warrant when I needed to, and to shut up.  As they were searching the property, they found evidence towards another crime not involved with the cannabis plants.  That is what they have charged me with.  They have cut down everything that was growing, which was all going to go to old women who have cancer.  I run a small organic farm that produces medicine for cancer patients.  Does the 4th amendment exist in america?  Was I supposed to be shown a warrant at any time?  I never saw a warrant, they cuffed me and brought me in.  I need advice as to what I should do.  They also are saying that there was 60 more plants than even physically existed.  They also claimed to have found multiple pounds of processed cannabis that also did not exist.  Help?
Topic:
Searches and Seizures

Answer:
 The requirement is that the officers *have* a warrant.  It's not necessarily required that they show it to you prior to or during a search.  That's up to their discretion.

If they lacked a proper warrant, your attorney can work toward suppression of the other evidence found.  That's how the 4th amendment generally works: You let them do their thing and hope it can be attacked later.

If they did not have a valid warrant, and did not have probable cause with exigent circumstances, then it's also possible that you may have a case for civil rights violations under 42 USC §1983.  Your defense attorney may be able to put you in contact with a "1983" civil rights lawyer.Answer #2: Police officers do not need to produce a warrant for you during the search.  You can get a copy of the warrant through your attorney.  If no warrant existed then your attorney will earn his pay when he suppresses any evidence seized as a result of the entry.


Title: Investor uses credit line meant for startup company to fund his other startup - leaving company unable to pay bills. Now wants members to buy him out.

Question:
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A group of Investors bought into our company for a cash amount plus a $150,000.00 credit line to support the company through its growth phase. The promised credit line was part of the executed agreement.

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After almost a year we have managed to keep the use of the credit line to a minimum - less than 30K. Only occasionally drawing $2-5k to cover expenses shortfalls when needed. Most of the time we managed to keep the company afloat through monthly collections/sales.

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The company had over $500k in sales commitments for the past year but we are living on the edge as we re-invest almost everything into growing the company nationally and getting systems in place to scale the business.

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In August we did financial forecasts that showed we would be needing additional funds from the credit line for the rest of this year to the tune of $80k (We have some projects coming to fruition and it needs funds to be completed. Once these projects are completed in 1st quarter 2019, a profit will be turned. We managed to not draw the forecasted funds from the credit line in August or September by keeping costs low and collections/sales up.

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Last week we requested a $20k draw from the credit line to pay vendors and staff - with the commitment that I would replace at least $10k by the end of the month as more clients will be paying us. The forecasted (and approved) draw from the facility for October was $17k. Suddenly the investors wants a meeting.

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Just to put it in perspective - The company that invested also has 2 other projects that they are busy with and both of them are big money drains at this stage - $40-50k per month.

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In the meeting the investor says that they don't have an appetite for the risk anymore, changing numbers on the forecasts and saying he doesn't believe the company would ever be profitable etc. Only later a glimpse of the truth slips out when the investor says he had to find another $50k in September and that it is also gone and the credit line that was supposed to be used for our company has been depleted by the other projects. So he needs to go and find the $20k that we need.

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Basically the contract says they have to provide us with a $150k credit line to use in growing the business but they used that credit line for their other businesses and now want to withdraw from our company. They are talking about shutting some of our new projects down and just pulling the plug to recover the $30k that was already drawn from the credit line - the credit line was a pre approved bank credit line in the investment company's name. They own a 50% stake in our company.

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If they shut down the projects it will cause huge reputational damage to the company and the brand.

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We told them it is fine if they withdraw from the company and take their credit line with them - We got through this month end with the help of family, friends and a renewed cash collection drive. And we are confident that we can make it work going forward - will need to cut costs to the bone and maybe hold back on growth strategies until the first big projects are completed and we get the money from that. It can be done though.

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Answer: Clearly you need to hire a lawyer.Answer #2: Does your equity contract not discuss penalties of non-performance or non-availability of credit? The credit was only part of the deal - they also paid cash and are likely entitled to the fair market value of the business equal to their percentage of ownership. Keep in mind that your business's value may be at or below book value at this point. You do need a lawyer and need to decide when you want to make an issue of this.


Title: Super-duped by an Acura dealer. Paid $43,500 for a $27,000 vehicle. Have I been deceived, and do I have any recourse?

Question:
This happened last year. I was 2 years into a 2015 Acura RDX lease and wanted to buy it out, so I went with my wife to the Acura dealer to have this done.

The payoff amount was **$27,000**, which I wanted to finance. The dealer insisted they can’t finance it unless the car is “Certified pre-owned”, and that certifying it will cost me around $3,000. Certification involves a comprehensive inspection so I said fine, I guess they have to make some money for helping me with all the financing and transfer paperwork. They took the car into the shop to start working on it and we went ahead with the financing paperwork.

By the time it came to signing, we’ve been there for most of the day and wanted to be done with the whole thing already. We just had to choose between 3 monthly payments: $550, $600, $650 (simplified numbers), each payment coming with different levels of "protection" or whatever. At this point we were tired and hungry, so the sleazy finance guy talked us into the $650 option.

Interesting tidbit: they had surveillance cameras in the financing office. Anyway... we signed, got the car back and we’re on our way. I was still salty about the $3000 we had to pay extra, but whatever.

A year later I came across the financing contract. Looked at the numbers and I was shocked. Then I remembered... sleazy finance guy *kept our focus on the stupid “monthly payment” at all times.* I don't remember ever seeing the totals. Because if I did, I **100% would not have signed**. Alas, there's my signature, at the end of this long contract. The total amount financed was... **$43,500**! To be clear, this doesn't include interest charges or anything.

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A simplified itemization table:

|Vehicle|$37,000|
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|Sales Tax|$2,500|
|Acura Care|$3,500|
|Taxes and fees|$500|

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$37,000... this was more than a brand-new, newer model, fully-loaded RDX would have cost. I don’t even know how Acura Financial Services was able to do this financing with a loan‑to‑value ratio so out of bounds... the actual value of my car would have been <$25,000 (lease payoff was higher, $27,000).

I want to go back there but before I do, I wanted to ask you guys how to prepare and what kind of arguments I can bring up, and ultimately whether I have any legal recourse. The only thing I can think of is the focus-on-payments and obfuscation-of-totals, which should theoretically be visible on the surveillance video (if still available). Also the fact that they talked us into buying the Acura Care, by not telling us that it overlaps with the manufacturer's and the Certified Pre Owned program's extended warranties, so it wouldn't have been necessary.

TL;DR: Purchased my own car at a 60% markup. Can I do anything? Thanks!

Answer:
 It took you a **year** to look at the amount you actually signed your sales contract for?

Edit: OP, the amount listed seems to be what the car would have cost new. Are you sure that some of your lease payments/other information wasn't taken into account on this? Cuz on 72 months I have a hard time getting down to $650/month with any amount of interest rate.


Title: [WA] Hit and Run By an Uninsured Driver. Is Suing Worth the Trouble?

Question:
Hi all,

Recently my car was hit by an uninsured driver, who also has a suspended license. No one was in my vehicle (thankfully), it was parked when the other driver hit it. He was picked up later  by police. Damages were extensive and my car is now totalled. I do have uninsured motorist coverage so my insurance is paying for my claim. Unfortunately, after paying off my loan I'm left with essentially no money to buy even a beat down daily driver.

Is it an option to sue him for damages?  I've never been in this situation so I have no idea what I'm entitled to legally, if anything. The DOL sent me a form that I'm returning with the repair estimate so they can suspend his license. Which was already suspended, so not sure what else they can do.

Answer: You can sue him for any damages that weren't paid for by your insurance company. Did you insurance company pay out the full value of your car or did they subtract your deductible? Are you paying for a rental car?


Title: Being pursued by a Collection agency 2 years later! [Pennsylvania]

Question:
I was seen at a local hospital and was billed for roughly $700. The physician I was seen by waived $250 from the bill. This was in January 2016!

I paid what I owed and never got anything else in the mail from anybody else other than the hospital itself to confirm my monthly payments.

I got something in the mail from a collection agency called Phoenix Financial Services saying I owe them $9700.00. The original creditor just says PA Emergency Physicians PLLC. Hospital said they don’t have any records and can’t look up any information about it and said to ask the collector for the specific physician name.

I called the collector and said that they don’t have a name other than what’s listed. Both times I called they didn’t ask for my name (I guess they have caller ID...) and then when he asked to verify my birthday he then stated it for me. I have his name and he also gave me some other verification number to provide to the physician who billed it to them but how in the world would I ever owe this in the first place??

I’m probably sounding ridiculously stupid but I just don’t understand. He said my account has only been open since June 8th, 2018. I never received any type of bill from any other physician or owed anything near $9700. I went to the ER for a few spider bites & I had the flu pretty bad. They didn’t give me any medications or take any blood, I literally sat there and had her tell me to buy mucinex & benadryll. How the hell would that even cost that amount of money?

I don’t know if it’s a scam, or what. I have no idea what to do or where to go because I don’t have any information about the person who saw me that day and the hospital has no way of telling me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Answer: Send a debt validation letter. Stop talking to them on the phone.


Title: Fender Eliminator ticket in Washington state

Question:
Washington state motorcycle rider here. I just got a ticket for lane splitting (46.61.608.3) and alter/make plate illegible/obscured (46.16A.200.7C). My question is, is it worth going to court to my fender eliminator citation? I go over a toll bridge all the time and it takes pictures. Obviously if they can still toll me with my plate under the tail, it's not illegible or obscured.

Also, the guy who reported me was a WSDOT inciden vic (tow truck) who was using his sirens to get through traffic. As soon as traffic thinned out they went off. The stater said he wasn't going to give me the $1000 ticket that comes with following an "emergency response vehicle" too closely. I know he wasn't responding to any emergency, because he was able to come sit with the stater as he gave me my ticket for about 20 mins. Was he using his sirens wrong?

Answer:
 > Was he using his sirens wrong?

That's of no consequence to you, as you were not charged with anything relating to his emergency response.  As is, there are plenty of reasons why he might have been responding emergent, but the emergency dissipated or terminated.

As for whether you plan to fight that ticket, that depends on whether you can formulate a defense under the statute.  The [specific statute](http://app.leg.wa.gov/rcw/default.aspx?cite=46.16A.200) you're charged with violation reads:

> It is unlawful to...Use holders, frames, or other materials that change, alter, or make a license plate or plates illegible. License plate frames may be used on license plates only if the frames do not obscure license tabs or identifying letters or numbers on the plates and the license plates can be plainly seen and read at all times;

Did your holder obscure the plate numbers, letters or tabs?  What defense do you have to the statute as quoted?  If you can formulate one, it may be worth your time.  Then again, if the fine is minor, it may not.


Title: Am I responsible for my friends' break in?

Question: (UK) I was hanging out at my friends house and they opened the window briefly to let out some air. Afterwards, when they were getting dressed I closed it but didn't turn the handle and left shortly after. The next day they got broken into and their television (rented property) got stolen. I feel bad but I don't feel responsible because I wasn't the last person in the room or in the house? Am I liable for the theft? It's only a television but we (all my friends and I) are students and I won't be able to afford it.

Answer:
 Did you steal the TV? (rhetorical)

This is why you (and your friend in this case) should pay for renter's insurance. It's not that expensive.


Title: [AZ] HOA want to enter property with 3 days notice, I cannot be there, they are threatening fines

Question:
I rent.  My condo is privately-owned, but there is an HOA that handles trash, water, and the public spaces, for which they contract a management company.

I got home from work today to a note on my door from the management company.  They want the maintenance manager to inspect all the units for water leaks.  This is perfectly reasonable because the HOA pays for water for all the units out of our HOA fees, and also we live in the desert and water is an important resource.

But they want to inspect the units on Monday morning.  The letter says between 8:30am and 1pm, and that a member of the home 18 years or older must be there to admit the inspector.  I have a deadline at work at around 1pm, and have to spend at least a couple of hours there in the morning to meet it.  I live alone.  Basically everyone I know works a standard M-F 9-5.  I cannot meet this demand.  The letter says failure to comply may result in fines and responsibility for all damages caused by leaks.

Their notice is completely unreasonable.  They left it at... some point on Friday, where people with a 9-5 would not receive it until after the management office closes.  They are closed Saturday and Sunday.  I have no way to talk to them about this until after I would usually be at work on Monday, and as my company is also closed for the weekend, I have no way to arrange for the time off other than just calling in sick.  I would be super happy to work something out (I can be home in roughly 15 minutes when they're ready for my unit, or we could set an appointment for a fixed time that I can arrange to take off), but their short notice gives me literally no opportunity to talk to them about it, and I cannot just call in and miss a deadline.  Neither do I want them to start throwing fines around and get my landlady upset with me.

I tried to google Arizona's requirements on notice required to enter for inspection/maintenance, and couldn't find the relevant laws.  I do not have a copy of the HOA agreement - they've taken this over relatively recently and probably would have sent it to my landlady, who hasn't provided me with a copy (super nice lady, but I guess has overlooked this) - I obviously need to rectify that and soon.

So, what are my options?  Can I tell them to pound sand because they legally gave me insufficient notice, or are they within their rights?  Do I have to seriously inconvenience an elderly relative or just pay a bum to hang out in my house for a morning?  Can I leave a note on my door saying "call this number and I'll come and let you in"?

Cheers!

Answer:
 Why do you have to be home at all? Mainrence can enter when you’re at work. No biggie.Answer #2: Talk to your landlord - maybe he/she can be there (or an assistant could be.)Answer #3: Does your rental contract require you to comply with all HOA requirements?Answer #4: Most likely the HOA is within its rights to inspect your unit within reason. It sounds like they have a good reason. This happens somewhat regularly in condo communities in particular. You don’t need to be home for the inspection at all. If you feel like you need to be, that’s your call. I’ve lived in a condo for 5 years and they do some kind of inspection for some reason maybe twice a year. I’ve never been home for it and never had a problem.

Community associations file a document with the land records called a Declaration that you are most likely subject to as a renter. The Declaration probably includes the HOAs right to do this. If you want to investigate, you can look for the Declaration online with the county land records. Ask your landlord for a copy of it. A copy of it may have been provided with your lease. Check your lease for language about this.

General law regarding inspections most likely will not apply to you. Although they should have probably given you more notice (check the Declaration for this), in my opinion what they’re doing is most likely not unreasonable and you don’t need to be there.


Title: [GA] My roommate and I are letting her friend stay with us temporarily while she gets back on her feet. How long can she stay before we can kick her out without eviction?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Typically it is 30 days. Other factors come into play though in determining if residence has been established such as receiving mail. If you want to be safe, either don't let her stay at all, or no more than 3-5 days.


Title: CA - A long history of direct yet slightly veiled threats that continue to plague my family. What can be done?

Question:
Hello,

I may not have all of the explicit details, but I'll condense the story as much as I can:

Essentially, my mom's adopted-brother has chosen the wrong path his whole life. Drugs, crimes, and a multiple crime and felony rap that has kept him locked up for the majority of his life. When he gets out, he sends threats, apologizes, asks for money, rinse and repeat.

My mom's parents are now passed away, and even before then, she decided to never help him again. When the parents passed, she inherited some nice things, and even the brother got a bit in the way of cash. However, he wants property and more. Cue the threats.

For the past three years, she has received multiple threats that are direct, but slightly veiled. An example would be, "nice job getting everyone to like you. Too bad you won't be around to enjoy it."

My mom has tried to get a restraining order, but nothing ever came of it I believe. He is currently out of prison, and is living about 4 hours away without a method of transportation that we know of. I believe he may be in a program of some sorts, but no one has talked to confirm.

Recently, she received a friend request from him on Facebook with a message (that I will alter slightly to conceal info,) saying, "Nice picture at [the family area.] It should be mine, but you blew dad to get it. Too fucking bad you and your kids won't be able to enjoy it."

I shortened it a bit, but I did not change the language. Now that the threats affect me, the son, can I do anything to have this end? Or is there anything I can advise to her to help this? She has nothing else to worry about in life, and even if these threats never come to reality, the nature of them is enough to send her into days of worry. Other family  members worry that these threats will never end, and some worry nothing can be done unless he does something, but surely these types of threats are illegal?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

EDIT: Changed "step-brother" to "adopted-brother," since he is not a step-brother at all, but was adopted by my mother's parents when she was a child.

Answer:
 First step would be to block all communication with him. That way, he has no way of getting the threats to you.
Second, if this is all he has done so far, for three years, he is probably not going to do anything else.
If you are concerned about him snooping around, get some cheap security cameras with cloud storage and check the recordings regularly.

I understand it is frustrating and worrying for your mom, but the police are not likely to be able to, or want to, do much about this if he has never given you more direct threats or physically assaulted you.

EDIT: Forgot to add that he may be out on parole, which will keep him on a pretty short leash - this may also be the reason for the veiled threats - doing anymore than that might put him back behind bars.

Try and see if you can discover if he is out on parole. You may even be able to talk to his parole officer and inform him/her about his behavior.


Question:
How do you remove a middle aged adult child from your house?
(A) Is it possible to evict them? When a parent gives a middle-aged adult child (who has had no job for years, ballooning credit card debt, cut off credit) a deadline to move out, what means do they have enforce that? This adult never paid any rent/utilities and does not contributed any thing to the house (food, chores, etc). (B) How does kick-out day go down? Is there a first stop to drop off an adult off to give them a chance to find some kind of place to stay and better yet employment or do you just drop them on the streets? (C) Surviving the interim until deadline hits: What is the waiting game like?

Answer: I don't see a location, but usually yes, you must file for eviction.


Title: Reddit, I may have fucked up. I sexted someone under 18 (I'm also under 18)

Question: Im a 16 year old horny teenager. On omegle randomly, cone across this person that claims to be a girl. She gives me her kik ID. I chat her up. She tells me she's horny etc etc. I tell her to send me a selfie so I know what she looks like. She refuses because apparently she looks like shit without makeup, but she does send a pic of her from the past. I reverse image search because I'm paranoid and nothing comes up. The picture itself isn't particularly explicit. I ask her for another image to make sure she claims who she says she is and she sends another one from her gallery and it's the same person. At this point, I'm excited so I send her a pic of my boner (which she asked for multiple times). It was underneath my underwear, although it was clearly there. Not visible, though. Then, she disappears and completely ghosts me. I'm aware that sexting is illegal in the United states and technically counts as child porn, and I'm really really fucking scared she's an undercover cop or something. Am I fucked? It seems she went offline right after she saw the image I sent her.

Answer:
 Her dad, uncle, brother or so on all probably be contacting you soon to have you pay for therapy, a broken laptop, or iTunes gift cards in exchange for not going to the police.

Block the number and stop sending your junk to strangers.