Title: (AZ) Lost my RA job with university housing over idiotic things

Question:
I am going to put a little background because there might be multiple things I need to get straightened out. So I held an RA job on campus for a year and got no complaints and my direct boss never said anything other than I needed to go to more events (Which I went to every event I could without my grades slipping except sporting events because they give me anxiety/panic attacks). At the end of the year my CD (Community Director)/boss said she didn’t want me in her building again next year even though I requested it. She was trying to force me to work in another building I didn’t want to work for. Outraged, I asked to have a meeting with her so she could explain why she thought I wasn’t the right fit. She then went on to list a few things and we talked about how she never told me any of the negative feedback so there was no way I could improve. After a two hour meeting she finally agreed it was partially her fault because she never told me what to improve and that I would be placed in her building again next year. Overall I knew my boss hated me as a person, which I don’t really care - I always remained professional but she never really did. She would make small rude remarks about me and whenever I stated my opinion when asked to in meetings she would perceive me as being rude and completely ignore anything I said.

Fast forward to the Summer when I am off campus and not working for housing (Waiting for the next school year to resume) I get a call saying my grades were too low and I am fired. The contract says you have to have above a 2.70 GPA to keep the job and above a 2.50 GPA to be put in academic probation. I had a 2.46 GPA just for the semester. My overall cumulative GPA was still fine.  I wrote an appeal stating that the one class that had brought me down I was already signed up to retake (Which at my school makes it so you replace the grade). It was rejected after a long drawn out process. I then asked if this could be corrected by taking a Summer course, they replied with a maybe. So I jumped at the chance. I spent quite a bit of extra money on one, useless Summer course. My grades were now a non-issue.

This is where it starts getting ridiculous. I was told I would no longer be placed in the building I wanted because my old boss didn’t want me on her team. So now I had to interview for a spot with the other CDs of other communities who were just hired and didn’t know me at all. I get a phone call from my former boss, who is now in charge of hiring, telling me this. She also lets me know that she will be giving the new CDs an evaluation. The only evaluation I had ever signed was the mid-year one because she never did my end of the year one. So I ask which evaluation. She tells me it will be the end of the year one she forgot to send me or have a meeting with me about. She then goes on to tell me that she will send me the evaluation and about times for the interview. She only emails me about the times to the interview which I respond within the hour of her emailing me. The day before the interview comes and I got more and more anxiety. So I email my former boss asking for the evaluation. She responds with a very snarky “Oh right! Here you are!” Or something along those lines that seems very happy. The evaluation goes on to say all of these complete lies of how I worked in the last year. Saying how I did almost no work and would never talk to my residents (Even though four residents applied and got the RA job because of me). I start crying and having a panic attack. The first thing I do without much thought is send out an email to my coworkers with a document asking if they agreed or disagreed with direct quotes from my evaluations. Two of my coworkers got back to me right away. They disagreed with every single word that she wrote negatively about me. I printed these documents out and brought them to my interview to give to the CDs to prove that what my former boss wrote about me wasn’t true. So I did the interview and overall it went really well. One of the CDs wanted to hire me. All of a sudden I get an email from the CD’s boss saying that he wants a meeting with me. No details - no idea what I am walking into. I go in and he goes on a two hour long rant about how the email I sent to my coworkers was extremely unprofessional even though I had the right intentions just that I worded it incorrectly so I could never become an RA again. This was two and a half hours of me crying in his office and freaking out because I loved this job so much. He then reassured me that I could get other jobs (that have more responsibilities than RA’s but less perks) in housing just never be an RA. Now I understand that they have every right to not hire someone if they don’t want to but one of the CDs wanted to hire me and because one of my coworkers decided to forward the email to the head of housing he vetoed their decision and said I could never work there.
This whole ordeal took up my entire Summer and threw me back into my depression to the point where I almost took my own life. My dad had to take off work and watch over me for quite some time. It’s not alright that a well known university it okay with this happening to a student. I also took this issue to the Dean of Students and nothing happened.

A little bit more on my boss and the working conditions:
My boss was late to almost every meeting to the point where everyone but myself and one other individual got there late. One day when she got there almost on time (after I was at the meeting room) she asked where everyone was and I had to explain how everyone was coming late because she did. She was never professional. We also had meetings where we met one on one with her. She completely forgot about 50% of mine. I would text her and she would says she was busy or in a meeting so she would reschedule and just never would.
The girl I had on my floor to work with would never hold a conversation with me, email me back or even text. It got to the point where I had to talk to her through my boss. (I think she might have had social disorder or something - she was just an odd person) I tried the entire year to work with her but nothing worked. Even the senior RA’s came to me and said they felt bad for me, but my boss never addressed it even after I voiced my complaints.
The job said it would only require 20 hours of work a week and every RA went over that almost every week. And if someone said they needed time off or that they couldn’t go to a certain event they would be yelled at. (Even if it was class and they had our class schedules)
One of my coworkers would make sexually forward comments towards my bosses. One of the ones that sticks out in my mind was “I need to take you to the club and get you laid since you’re so stressed” or something along those lines. They would laugh, blush and be okay with these types of jokes.
Another coworker who was openly gay would always try to hold my (female) hand or be very close within my personal space. I told me over and over this wasn’t okay and I wouldn’t tolerate this because I have issues with people touching me. I brought this up with my boss and nothing happened and I put up with small advances the whole year.
Many other coworkers have been terminated for reasons like mine that were all just very sketchy and forced out of having the RA job for things that just seemed completely personal.

So I was just wondering with all this in mind, is there any legal action I can take?

Answer:
 > So I was just wondering with all this in mind, is there any legal action I can take?

Legal action for what? Nothing they did was illegal.

Also, you might want to look into therapy of some sort. Answer #2: >Overall I knew my boss hated me as a person

It is legal for them to fire you or not re-hire you because your boss dislikes you.Answer #3: Could you please trim this down to just the pertinent facts? Or at least add a bulletpoint TL;DR at the end, that wall of text is just way too much.


Title: How is any evidence _not_ circumstantial?

Question:
Sorry for being inspired by a post which was inspired by a movie, and also being inspired by TV. We're watching Psych right now and this has been nagging at me any time they nab the killer.

I was recently summoned for jury duty and was pretty excited serve and see a real courtroom/trial, and partly because of this question. (Edit to add that my number came up, but upon arriving at the court the trial was postponed last minute)

For any given piece of evidence, other than perhaps a media recording of an event, it seems like there is always another explanation for how that evidence came to be.

For example:
Cops: "Well your prints are all over the murder weapon"
Tom: "Yep, it's my weapon. But I didn't do it. I used it this morning and then gave it to Steve. Maybe Steve is your guy."
Steve: "Yep, he gave it to me. But I didn't do it either. I used it after lunch and then gave it back to Tom."

It's not an amazing defense, but given innocent-until-proven-guilty, how are people ever convicted?

Perhaps my question is actually "what is circumstantial evidence?" Am I even making any sense?

Answer:
 Here is a jury instruction on the subject from my jurisdiction:

>A fact may be proved by direct evidence, by circumstantial evidence, or by both.

>Direct evidence is given when a witness testifies about an event that the witness personally saw or heard.

>Circumstantial evidence is given when a witness did not personally see or hear an event but saw or heard something that, standing alone or taken together with other evidence, may lead a juror to conclude that the event occurred.

>By way of example, if before you go to bed on a winter night, you look out your window and see it snowing and you reach out the window and feel it on your hand, you have personal knowledge that it is snowing.  This is direct evidence.

>But, if when you go to sleep, the sky and the ground are clear and when you later awaken the ground is white and covered with snow, you can conclude that it snowed even though you did not see the snow fall.  This is circumstantial evidence.

>Both types of evidence are admissible and may be considered by you.  Neither is necessarily entitled to any greater weight than the other.


Title: [L.A] Mom being harassed by other employees

Question:
My mom works at a restaurant and she has been getting harassed by two of her co-workers. She has told  management and they have "spoken" to the other employees and they "promised" to not play anymore "pranks" on her. I don't know if they stopped for a bit or didn't even listen to the manager. I'll post a list of what she faces everyday.

1. They check the hours that my mom has done,  if they don't like how many hours she's done they will go and yell at her.

2. The two employees have been talking about getting together and beating my mom up and dragging her across the beach.

3. This is the thing that has ticked me off the most. A few days ago they got a knife and ripped my mom's shoe apart and cutting the slip resistance part of so that the shoes will slip. They poked holes all around her shoes. She told me they seemed fine and one of her co-workers told her that maybe the rats ripped it up. But you can tell that they've been purposely sabotaged.

I've called the owner and scheduled an appointment with him, I'm going to tell him everything that she has told me. But if what they're doing doesn't stop, what would my next step be?

Edit: honestly I was hoping someone who knows about labor employment laws would see this. But yes guys I'll just go ahead and tell my mom, after 8 years of working at the restaurant she has to quit because the employees that are harassing you aren't breaking any laws and the managers that are ignoring her complaints is also allowed because there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. I'll also send her to school, I'll force her to learn to read and to write. Thanks a lot legaladvice you have been a great help.

Answer: If someone is beating up your mom and taking her to places against her will, your mom should call the police. If someone is threatening your mom that they'll do those things, your mom should call the police. If someone is destroying your mom's property, she should call the police. If your mom is having trouble at work, she should talk to management and not you. Sounds like your mom just needs to find another job away from these people.


Title: My Ex Is Saying I Owe Him 10,000 Dollars, Help!

Question:
Hi there!

I live in California and was previously engaged however we had a pretty awful breakup \(he cheated and went back to addict behavior\)

Fast forward 8 months; he has gone through our financial information which is as follows:

My own personal bank of america card in which I spent 13,000 dollars of mine own money on him. So money he owes me.

A joint personal checking account, which has now been shut down. I personally just paid 500 dollars in fees due to his behavior on this one.

A chase rewards card where I was an authorized user and an american express card which was in his name. Those are the cards with the majority of the debt. He says I owe him 23,000 dollars from these alone. But due to the money he owes me...10,000 I owe him.

He emailed me this information on Monday and I still have not responded. I'm trying to come up with a game plan. I am not sure of the validity of these numbers and I do not have access to the statements.

So I am wondering, do I ignore him? I've blocked him on all medias minus email and am considered a restraining order \(very mentally unstable and has a gun\). Can he do anything legally?

Answer: Ignore him until/unless he files a lawsuit against you. Once he does so you absolutely have to respond. But, in order to do so he has to reveal the statements and justify his claims. However, if there was no agreement to repay or intent to repay at the time it's probably all gifts anyways so no one owes anyone anything.


Title: [NewZealand] Drug issues led to borrowing from till at work. Help.

Question:
Hi,

As the title would imply, I really fucked up here. I have borrowed a considerable amount of cash from work to fund a drug habit. I have sought and am receiving help for said habit, but now I need to fix the money situation.

I manage a small store and like an immense dipshit ended up borrowing appx $1400 all up. I need to pay it back, and I'm scared out of my mind right now and feel real desperate. I can't even sleep, I wanna fix this real bad, what are my options here? I'm hoping to be able to borrow enough + sell some of my stuff to just put it back into the safe and be done. My S/O's parents are a criminal lawyer and businessman, I have a good relationship with them and the S/O insists I talk to them. I want to but can't bear to face anyone about it. Help

Answer: It's not "borrowing," it's stealing. You can (a) return it and hope you're not caught or (b) come clean, get fired, then get an attorney for court.


Title: Lyft Hit and Run

Question:
I was literally ran over by my Lyft driver today at around 5:30pm EST. I reside in Rochester, NY (upstate NY), and I'm 19 years old  just for a little back ground for the political side of things. Okay as the Lyft arrived he pulled over, and unlocked his door. I knocked on the window and opened the door then he took off and as he did this he ran over my foot and ankle. I then began crying in pain... as he drove away I dialed him back to tell him that  he just ran over my foot/ankle. He yelled " YOU LOOKED UNDERAGE, DO YOU HAVE YOUR ID, HOW OLD ARE YOU?" (Keep in mind I am a 19 year old man). I then proceeded to say "I am almost 20 years old," he then asked me if I had my ID and I said yes then I told him that he ran over my foot/ankle and he hung up. I then immediately dialed 911 and took screen shots on Lyft of all of his info (photo, name, phone number, license plate, and  car make/model/year. After speaking with 911 I proceeded to try to call the Lyft driver 1 more time just for more evidence but there was no answer. I would like to press charges against him for the hit and run and I did see him loom back multiple times as he drove away after running over my foot/ankle. My foot/ankle is now very swollen and purple and bruised I couldnt take the ambulance due to my finances and will be going to outpatient in the morning. I am about 90% sure at least 2 bones are broken at this point but I just wanted to know if I were to press charges/sue what would my best possible outcome be,and my worst outcome of suing.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer: You have not contacted the police yet? Did the EMS that took you to the hospital not ask if you wanted the police?Answer #2: File a report with Lyft, including the police report and all related info. This fool driver needs to be shut down before he kills someone (I'm a driver too, all you have to do is lock doors and roll down the window to talk if you have questions about someone's age). You should be able to reach them through the app, or find the local hub to speak to someone in person.


Title: [LA,CA, USA] Yesterday my aunt broke her hand after tripping on unattended kids crawling on all fours in a banquet hall's dance floor, are they liable?

Question:
We were on the dance floor and little kids were just running around getting under people's feet.
The actual accident happened when 3 girls were literally crawling on all 4s behind my aunt. She took a step back and fell on her back, breaking her wrist on impact. She requires surgery now. While the firemen were tending to her, the owner gave me the check and tried to practically shoo me away
Is the banquet hall liable for this injury? The kids were definitely a hazard. I doubt this is the first time or the last time it has happened. Everyone in our family almost tripped on these kids at some point.

Answer:
 >Is the banquet hall liable for this injury?

Unless the floor itself was in an inherently dangerous condition, this is unlikely.  Banquet halls are not usually responsible for policing third party events.

They also probably have an indemnity contract with whomever they were renting to.


Title: Is there anything to do about this sexist comment made to me at work?

Question: I recently requested to be moved to another position that came open where I work. I got a new supervisor in my current position and it just is not working out. When I spoke to the head HR person about moving he told the president of the company & then they both wanted to meet with me. In front of the head HR person, the president proceeds to say to me "I don't mean to sound sexist, but normally we do not see such talent from a woman." He then proceeded to tell me how disappointed he was in me. What? I realize it was a backhanded compliment but he could have said "normally we don't see an administrative assistant taking on the job functions you have taken on." Isn't what he said a blatant sexist comment? Louisiana, United States

Answer:
 Sexism isn't illegal. if he and/or other coworkers create a hostile work environment (which req's much more than this) or if you suffer other negative employer action because of your gender, then you might have legal recourse. Answer #2: >Isn't what he said a blatant sexist comment?

Yeah, it sounds like it.  An isolated comment like that is not illegal, however.

If you can prove you didn't get the new position because you're a woman, you might have a valid complaint.


Title: Is it possible to make yourself legally bulletproof (as in extremely difficult to be sued)?

Question:
For example, making it so that it is hugely costly and logistically to serve you and sue you?

I have heard of some people deliberately registering in places that make it awkward to hold them legally accountable.

Answer:
 Yes. Impoverish yourself.Answer #2: Are there strategies that can help?

Sure.

Is there 'one trick that the lawyers don't want you to know' that will make you quickly/easily/cheaply consequence-free?

No.


Title: Could I get a copyright for my name, surname and date of birth ?

Question: In other words could I use copyright laws to protect my personal data ? And use it to prevent online services to use/rent/sell it to third parties ?

Answer: No, that information is not a unique original work, it’s just factual information.


Title: This is super embarrassing but

Question:
I hooked up with my ex recently. Before hooking up, I asked him if he had been with any other women. He lied and said no and we did the deed.

Fast forward to a couple weeks, I get hospitalized because I now have Pelvic Inflammatory Disease from contracting an STD (lab results haven’t come back yet but they’re thinking it’s probably Chlamydia). I couldn’t have gotten it from anyone else because I’ve only been with one guy in bed my entire life. So I coaxed the truth out of him and he admits to hooking up with a random at a bar after lying about it forever even after the doctor said it was an STD.

Can I take ANY legal action against this in the state of California? I also have a three year old son that I’m afraid I might have passed the STD to as well through sharing drinks and food.
Apparently my ex was unaware that he had an STD but he did lie about hooking up with someone else.... had he told the truth about the other woman, I wouldn’t have hooked up with him because I’ve always been deathly afraid of diseases and now I’m shaken to the core and feel filthy and don’t even want to live in my own body, I’m so disgusted with myself. I struggle with anxiety and depression and this has put me in a very dark place.

Answer: If your ex knew he had an SDT and had unsafe sex with you, then it is possible for him to be charged with a crime, yes. However, if he did not know he had an STD then there is no crime. Lying about having had sex with another person is not the basis for a criminal charge.


Title: Is it illegal to have sex with my father's intern?

Question: I work at my father's company and he recently got a very attractive intern and I am wondering if it would be legal to pursue a relationship with said intern. Location is California.

Answer: Nothing is illegal about it as long as you are both of legal age.  However it can be interpreted incorrectly and in general its best practice not to sleep with coworkers even more so when your parents own the company.Answer #2: Given your relative positions, any advance toward her by you could easily be interpreted as unwanted sexual harassment.Answer #3: Don't shit where you eat. There's a myriad of problems that come with sleeping someone who your father directly supervises. Do you value your job? Do you value your dad's job?


Title: [CA] Offered position provisionally and accepted/signed the offer. HR is now saying I cannot work in the position and has essentially revoked the job offer.

Question:
Made a throwaway because of the usual identity-protecting reasons.

So, this one is a bit insane. I am actually still baffled by the fact that this has happened. I will try to give all the relevant background information while keeping it as concise as I can.

I currently live in California and applied for a position in one of the local county governments. If it matters, it is a fairly large county that employs between 15,000 and 20,000 people. I have previously worked as a paid intern for the department in which I applied, and my supervisors informed me of the position to try and keep me on board permanently, so I applied to it.

After going through two interviews with the department director (not my supervisors at the time) and waiting over the course of four months, the director decided to change the position from a part time position to a full time position. The director told me that they wanted me to work for the department full time based upon my interviews and the work I had done for them before, so they (the director and office manager) sent me a job offer to work in a new full time position provisionally for up to 6 months while they went through the more bureaucratic and "official" method of getting me permanently hired full time. The official hiring process requires me to reapply to a public posting of the position I would be working in provisionally.

I got (and have a copy of) the offer letter for a provisional appointment, which I signed and dated sometime in early May, which also includes my start date of June 19th. The department decided to move ahead with the official full time position posting in early May because it takes forever. Well, the director and HR had some kind of miscommunication, and the director did not understand that there is an HR policy prohibiting someone from starting in a position provisionally once the department has the eligible list of candidates for that position. They received the eligible list around a week ago, and I was informed yesterday (my first day of work) that I actually cannot work in my position provisionally because of this.

My two supervisors are extremely furious (as am I, obviously). I don't understand how my job offer, which was offered to me and signed by me BEFORE the department put out the job listing and got the eligible list, is just completely null and void because of an annoying HR policy.

The department director is currently on vacation, and her manager is currently trying to hire me in a temp position that pays similarly to the other position in order to pay me for my work yesterday, today, and in the future. However, the provisional appointment offered FULL benefits, and this position has no benefits. I will have to find my own health insurance, which is a major issue for me because I have an expensive and chronic health condition. Luckily the California exchange is good, but I lose out on all the other awesome benefits that I thought I would have in the provisional position.

I am so infuriated by this. Despite the massive screw-up, I'd really like to work in this department because I love everyone else in the department, especially my supervisors, and the work is incredibly rewarding and an excellent way for me to build by career. Is it legal for them to just revoke this job offer? If it's not legal, what should I do/document? Do I have any recourse due to the fact that the other position had benefits and the one they are trying to put me in temporarily is not?

Edit 1 for grammar.

Answer:
 Am I missing something here?

Until you have a signed contract, your potential employer is allowed to revoke any provisional offer. Until you have an official contract, you are negotiating.


Title: Legal advice needed for a family facing a suicide

Question:
My family is facing an awful and painful situation after the suicide of a loved one. We are not from the US neither his wife. It was an unexpected situation no one could foresee and now we have a lot of legal questions as we are not familiar with the US law.

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* This couple lived in NH and had no children. He was US native and his widow is a legal immigrant with citizenship acquired before they meet.
* They are legally married for 2 years but were together and living in the same house way longer than this.
* He had a will which leaves her with half of his estate and the other half goes for his family. His sister is the executor of his will and already have a lawyer taking care of it.
* He was recently retired under a retirement package and was waiting until 65 to ask for retirement pension from the US Social Security.

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**Things we want to know:**

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1. First of all: what is really part of his estate? Does their house are included? What about things inside the house like furniture or appliances? A joint account is part of his estate too or is it passed to the widow?
2. If the house is part of his estate, what kind of bills have to be paid by the estate? Does the widow have to pay for heating or irrigation?
3. What happens with his retirement pension? Does his widow has the right to claim for it?
4. Are there any other benefits she should claim because of his death? He was the provider of the house.
5. What happens with their health insurance which was part of the benefits he received in the retirement package?
6. We don't know yet if he had life insurance. Is there any case when insurance is paid after suicide? We still don't have the police statement, but there is no way to his death to be considered an accident. We do know he was struggling with depression and have documentation about it.
7. He had a 401(k). What happens with that? Is it also part of his estate or the widow is the beneficiary? Is the 401(k) part of Social Security pension or these are independent stuff?
8. The couple was intended to buy an apartment abroad under the widow's name. They have a bunch of emails exchanged about it, including that he was ready to send the money. Does this have any legal value on this situation? The money they have for buying the apartment will end up being shared following his will? Can/Should she claim for it?
9. Does the widow have the right to ask for his medical information to his therapist, practitioner and/or to the hospital that attended him at emergency just at a few days before his death?
10. Should the widow trust the lawyer who is taking care of the will and ask him questions like the ones I'm doing here?
11. Also, some strange things made us think that his devices may be messed after his death and would like to know if this is something to worry about or we are being too much paranoid. If it is a valid concern, what steps should we take? Like going to the police to make a statement. Should I not try to audit his notebook by myself? I went in more details about this is in [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/computerforensics/comments/bfoj16/trying_to_audit_a_notebook_after_a_suicide_case/).

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Thank you all in advance. Hope you guys can give us some answers so we can have a little bit of peace of mind on that.

Answer: You have a lot of questions. These questions are understandable. But they are too much for this subreddit. Your family should hire an estate lawyer.


Title: Police towed car over registration

Question:
Hi reddit,

Last night, I was pulled over for speeding. After pulling over, the officer asks me if I know why I was pulled over. I told him no. The officer responds that I was going 66 in a 55.

After a long wait, the officer comes out to my car and asks me about my car's license plate. I had gotten a new license plate about a year ago at Michigan's secretary of state because it was rusting out. He told me that my license plate did not match my car's registration. My registration and insurance are all up to date, however because my plate didnt match my registration, it was considered an unregistered vehicle.

The policeman wrote me a ticket for a misdemeanor improper use of plates. He called the towing company and my car was towed. The ticket also includes a court date for this. The officer explained to me how to get my car back, I need to go to the secretary of state to get my registration changed and a new plate (the officer took the old one). He let me off with a warning regarding the speeding.

I guess i'm just surprised that the state issued me a new license plate, and never changed it on my actual registration? My question is how can I prove that the license plate wasn't changed at the SOS? What should I ask the SOS for when I go later today?

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 I am not a lawyer. Get your car out of storage as soon as you can, even if you don't first  straighten all this out out. Also, show up to court, but that's a blanket rule.

Sounds like the state messed up. Take all your stuff to the BMV/DMV and lay out your question in simple terms.


Title: Landlord has been hiding info from us about bank forclosing house. We decideed not to pay her for June's rent. She gives us eviction notice today.

Question:
Alright, this is all happening in Queens, New York.

Some wild shit has gone down for the last couple of months. I lost my job, my mom found out she got breast cancer and on that same day, we received a packet from the court saying the house has been foreclosed or is in the process of being foreclosed( I couldn't understand the legal jargon they were saying).  I made some calls to the supreme court house foreclosures department and they said that the house has been "signed" to be foreclosed due to lack of payment and that the bank had 4 weeks to sell or something like that, I didn't quite understand. But they said she technically still owned the home until it was sold by the bank. These problems she's had with the bank has been going on since before we lived there and she didn't say anything. In March is when it was "signed" that the house would be foreclosed. Once that happens, the bank will no longer take money from the landlord, as per the agent from the department. After we found this out, we realized shes just been pocketing the money and we decided not to pay her for the month of June. A few days later I saw on Zwillow that she tried selling the house. Another few days and we received a letter saying the house will go for sale on the 21st of  June. Then today we received a letter saying that we have until the 31st of July to move out.

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I know I sound naive but give it to me straight, what's going on here and how do we stop/delay it? Were we wrong for not giving her June's rent despite the info we received? Because I'm confused out of my mind. I understand that renting homes is business. But by what the agent said over the phone and what the documents are saying, this woman hasn't been doing her part and has been lying to us for a long time. Mind you, the landlord and my mother (the person whom I live with) have history and have been friends for over 30 years. Morally this crushes us because she is aware my mother is sick with cancer and still lied to us and added salt to the wound.

Answer:
 You have to pay rent for the place you live in. You jumped the gun. She still owned it and no court had made an order saying otherwise.

So you need to pay rent and either work it out with her or plan to move/be evictedAnswer #2: Being blunt - you really screwed this up because you tried to DIY this. Federal law requires the lender to give you 90 days' notice *after* foreclosing before you need to move out and even then, you could ask for up to 6 months to move out. [If you're in a rent controlled building with 6+ units, you wouldn't need to move at all.](https://www.legalaidnyc.org/what-tenants-need-to-know-when-the-owner-faces-foreclosure).

You guys stopped paying rent and can be rightfully evicted. You need to pay rent to cure the failure and go from there.


Title: Suspended from work for reporting possible infestation in home that could only have come from work, not allowed to return even after showing proof of no infestation.

Question:
TL;DR: Work gave me bed bugs, suspended me until I could prove I was clear, but now won't accept the proof I have given them and will not allow me to return to work unless I have an extermination done, which I can't afford and feel I shouldn't be required to after providing documentation proving I don't have an infestation. (Moved this to the top for you)

I live in Northeast Tennessee. On April 7th, the company I work for sent out an email alerting us of "isolated cases" of bed bugs being found on site. In the email they explain the measures they've gone through to inspect and treat with preventatives and ensure that the site is clean.

On May 2nd I killed 3 bed bugs on the wall above my bed then spent the entire night searching my bed with a flashlight, checked the box spring, behind every picture on that wall, and every single crevice in my room. I did not find any other bugs or signs of infestation at all. I have never found a single bite on me. As far as I can tell from pictures of bed bugs, all the ones I killed were young adult males, not fully mature.

The next night, May 3rd I killed a single bug on that same wall. I checked everything in my room again and found a single bug (male again) in the frame of a picture that hung above my bed so I threw the entire thing away. I couldn't find any other bugs.
May 4th I told my landlord that I have been finding bugs, but no source and we scheduled an inspection for the next day.

An Orkin inspector checked my entire bed again and everything in my room. We found a single male bug on that same wall right at the join of the wall and ceiling. There were no other signs of infestation and we could not find a "nest" or any eggs. I do want to mention that the Orkin inspector didn't even know the difference between male and female, which I had found out just from Google searches of bed bugs. We scheduled and extermination for 11th.

I had been sleeping on my couch since the 2nd when I first saw the bugs, but still checked my bedroom every morning and every night. After the inspection, I never saw another bug. I think if there was a nest, it was in the picture I threw away since every single bug that was found was around that picture.

May 6th I told my boss at work about the bugs and the inspection because the only connection between me and bed bugs is work. I go to work and I come home. I can't think of anywhere else I could have gotten them. I figured they needed to know since they claim to be clear, but I had been seeing them in my home. My boss took me to a meeting with her boss where I told them everything I had recently found and the results of the inspection. They suspended me with the option of using my vacation time to pay myself or to go without pay. They told me I could return to work once I could show proof that I no longer had bed bugs. They also would not assist with the extermination fee as they claim they have been cleared by several inspections and treated each "isolated incident". They claim it would be impossible for me to have gotten them since I don't work in the area where they were found, but logically if someone is bringing in bed bugs from home, they could be anywhere that person or persons goes in the building. It may be a long shot, but it definitely is not impossible.

I haven't seen a single bug since the one found at the Orkin inspection and used Eco Defense Bed Bug Killer that I ordered from Amazon on the entire wall that I had been seeing them, including the baseboard and join of the ceiling. I also took all of my bedding and clothes to the laundry mat and washed/dried everything on the highest heat setting and vacuumed everywhere.

May 9th I still hadn't seen any other bugs so I scheduled an inspection through Terminix just to make sure they were gone. I went through Terminix because Orkin said they can't re-inspect without doing the treatment themselves. I cancelled the extermination scheduled with Orkin.

May 10th Terminix inspected and cleared me of any signs of bed bug activity and emailed documentation showing no signs or bugs were found. I forwarded the information to my boss and landlord. My landlord said that was perfectly acceptable proof and no longer required an extermination. My boss called me and said since even a single bug was found in the first inspection that they required I have an extermination and 3rd inspection afterwards before I could return to work. I called Terminix and explained that I needed an extermination anyway, the man I had been working with said he would be able to exterminate at a cheaper rate since no activity was found.

Today, Terminix called and said they weren't able to exterminate, saying it would be unethical since no bed bug activity was found. I asked if I could have it done as a preventative, but he said no. I told my boss this as well, but they are still requiring I exterminate even though I had been cleared by another reputable company.

At this point I am almost out of vacation time and still not allowed to return to work. I can't afford the extermination fee Orkin is quoting, and honestly feel that since I treated and cleaned on my own and was then cleared by another reputable company that I have shown sufficient proof of not having bed bugs and should be allowed to return to work. I explained the same to my boss and told her I was going to call HR and explain everything to see if there were any other options. She asked me to wait so she could speak with her boss first. My boss has been very understanding and as helpful as she can be through this process, but she really doesn't have any authority over the situation.

I don't know where to go from here. Work is still not allowing me to come back even though I have given them the proof they requested. I'm concerned that I am going to lose my job over an issue that I believe was created by my job, but living in a right-to-work state, I may just be out of luck. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Answer: I got this far: if you find bed bugs, Don't switch your sleeping location. If you have hem, they'll migrate to wherever you are sleeping and spread the infestation.


Title: Landlord keeps waking me up to show house (North Carolina)

Question:
I rent a "guest house" at the back of my landlord's property, which she has decided to sell. She and her family live in the large "main" house. I have a lease for the next 5 months.

She wants to show the buyers my house as well (understandable since it comes with the property), but I work a schedule that sometimes includes night shifts. If I am working at night, I sleep 12pm-8pm. The past 3 days she has scheduled an open house every day, from 2-7pm. Yesterday I was woken up 4 times by different people coming in/out and only was able to sleep from 12-2. My job involves heavy machinery and if I'm sleep-deprived I could hurt someone.

I've given the landlord and her realtor a copy of my schedule and asked them to have the open houses at alternate times, and also offered to leave my curtains open so buyers could look in the windows without disturbing me, but they are not willing to do that. I cannot afford the $1000 fine to break the lease.

The lease says she must give 24 hours notice before entering the house, which she does, but having notice doesn't help me as I cannot change my work schedule. I can't find any laws online relevant to my situation.

Can landlords/realtors visit at any hour as long as they give notice, or are there any restrictions? If them scheduling the showings is not legal, what should my next step be?

Answer:
 With 4 times a day, you might have a quiet enjoyment issueAnswer #2: So long as they give proper notice, they can show the house during normal business hours regardless of your personal schedule. Answer #3: You probably can’t prevent the tours, but if your landlord is unwilling to work with you then you could be unwilling to help her out. Tell her to be accommodating and quiet or you’ll “decorate” the main rooms. I bet buyers wouldn’t like to see weird posters and dirty clothes all over the main room.

This might be bad legal advice so someone double check me pleaseAnswer #4: So it looks like [North Carolina sucks](https://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:RuGj_nZxOdcJ:https://www.wral.com/law-doesn-t-protect-nc-renters-from-people-entering-their-homes/13852869/+&cd=12&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us) for renters but you do have a right to [quiet enjoyment](https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/1237613-landlord-tenant-booklet.html).

Call a local landlord-tenant attorney to ask if there are grounds for injunctive relief requiring her to work with your schedule since this is a frequent disruption.Answer #5: If the LL is giving notice you're probably SOL.


Title: [CA] Parents passed away and a sibling threatened to sue me for property. Does he have any legal standings?

Question:
The property in question was never under my parents name. The title and mortgage was under another sibling. For 20+ years, it was rented out to family members including my parents. After my parents passed, the property was gifted to me from the sibling who held the title. So all paper trail shows my parents never actually owned or gifted it to me.

So after an argument, another sibling wants to sue me claiming my parents left him a will saying the property was to also be split to him. I doubt he has such a will but even if he does, does that hold up in court given my parents never really owned the property to be listing it as an asset in a will?

Answer:
 If your parents never owned the property they certainly do not get to leave it to anyone or have any say at all over what is done with it. How is this even a question?

He may have a document or an understanding that states that your parents **hoped or wished** 'so and so' will happen but the owner of the property gets the final say. And they gave it to you, end of story.
Answer #2: > I doubt he has such a will but even if he does, does that hold up in court given my parents never really owned the property to be listing it as an asset in a will?

If your parents never officially owned the property - as in, they were not on the title or otherwise had an ownership agreement - then they can't "will it" to anyone.  Nor can I, for example, will your items upon my death.

Your parents, or their estate, may have had an argument for ownership at some point in time, but if they didn't exercise it then your sibling is out of luck.


Title: (Virginia) Wife is seeing a lawyer tomorrow. Divorce is inevitable. We have a 2 year old.

Question:
We've been together 9 years and married for 7. She bought our $275,000 house before we were married. My name isn't on it. We've bought 2 cars since being married. My name isn't on either one. See a pattern here?

I've done my research and I'm expecting a separation agreement will be forthcoming because she wants me to move out. I'll be getting a lawyer very shortly.

Questions:
Is joint custody possible? I would have to temporarily move back in with my parents because I'm unemployed at the moment.

She makes almost $100,000 a year and I was just laid off from a job. What are my chances of getting alimony from her that would allow me to move into an apartment?

How does it work in regards to equity in our house that I've contributed to with direct deposit of paychecks into our joint bank account?

What about the cars? I would like to keep the one I've been driving for almost 2 years. She can keep the minivan.

Answer: I'm sure you know; but in VA in a marriage with a kid the divorce can't be finalized until you've been separated for at least a year. It's 6 months if no kids and you have a signed separation agreement.


Title: Upstairs neighbor's toilet exploded - Landlord only will replace the ceiling tiles [PA]

Question:
Hello all.

Last night about 2am I am crashed on my couch watching a movie. I start hearing noises and thought someone broke in. Water is leaking from my ceiling in my bathroom. A lot. And it is brown and yellow in color. *bleck*

I called maintenance freaking out but the call center is only 24-hours, we don't have 24-hour maintenance. So I cleaned it with a mop and basically just started cleaning it to avoid damage to my own stuff. At the time I figured it was a bath.

No maintenance until the morning.

In the morning I get a call, it was a toilet that overflowed. So it smelled kind of like piss, and I guess it was piss. From a stranger. A strangers piss flooded my bathroom.

LL says they will fix the ceiling tiles Monday, but they won't be compensating or anything of the sort. They claim they have cleaning supplies but I question whether or not it will be done to a safe standard.

What rights do I have to not have foreign piss and shit fall through my ceiling? Do I have a right to have it professionally cleaned?

Side note: LL forces all tenants to purchase renter's insurance upon getting a lease. When I suggest that it is the fault of either the upstairs neighbor or the LL for this leak, and I should get my bathroom cleaned - otherwise I will have to spend my own money to do an amateur clean on a health hazard, due to my neighbor's negligence of not having a plunger readily available or trying to flush a clogged toilet. LL says I should file a claim with renter's. But if I file a claim, it is like it's my fault, right? Or my insurance company will go after my LL for money?

Honestly, Reddit, I just don't really know what to do with this. I am not a pro at having piss and shit dumped on my personal belongings.

Answer: This is exactly what renter's insurance is for. Call them up and file a claim.


Title: Loophole

Question:
Ok so I am in a loophole and need help.
I slashed my girlfriends tires about 3 weeks ago. She and I agreed that if I paid for the damages she would not press charges or call the cops.
I paid for damages and within 2 weeks the cops got involved and now I am dealing with a Criminal Mischief charge of Domestic Violence. After speaking to my Ex she had said she explained to the cops that she did not want the charges to be pressed but the cops had to go through with the crime. Is there any way possible for me to get the charges dropped. I had paid for the damages, I do not understand why I still am getting the domestic violence charge.

Answer:
 This isn’t a loophole. You committed a crime. That you paid restitution doesn’t suddenly uncommit your crime.

Shut up. Get an attorney. Stop admitting to crimes on social media. Get some damn self control and stop destroying other people’s property. Answer #2: You get a criminal defense lawyer and go from there.


Title: Im facing chrages of assault and im 17 years old

Question:
So I go to a small school (about 400 k-12) in and im a senior North Dakota and I was in my welding class monday morning. one of my good friend is in this class and we are in the same welding booth and we were just about to start cleaning up and he walked out of the booth and bumped one of the wires and scared me and i turned around and accedently burned him and met with the principal later that day and and talked about what happened and there was not punnishment due to it being an accedent. tuesday i was not in class due to a field trip to a collage and wednesday we were at another school doing projects thursday i went to school and went to 1st, 2nd, and then 3rd hour and we always meet in the classroom before going to the shop when she (agroculture teacher) said "okay go to the shop..... but told me to stay back" and gave me a different work rather than welding i had to do a poster and finish my welding on monday and her words were "sence you were punised by the principal and i think you should have im giving you extra work" and she sent me to the office and i got the the office and sat down for about 5 minutes and my principal walked in and asked why I am i  here and i explained. and i said i was going to leave and go home witch is usaly okay with her when i am pissed off (because i am very tempermental was diaognosed with bipolor disorder, adhd, and odd) but she said i had to get premittion before so i called my dad and told him what is going on and just like me he thought this was already setteled and so i got premittion so sign out and so i did and walked out the door and realized i forgot my hat and jacket so turned around and walked back in and my principal asked whatim doing and i said im going to get my hat and jacket and she said "go to the office and ill get it for you" so i went to the office and stood there she followed me there and blocked my exit and there is only one out of the office and i aked "so are you going to get my property" she said "no im hqving someone else go and get it" so i waited a couple of miutes and she is pinning herself in the door way so i said "im going to go get  my property" so i tried to get through and she fell back and hit her head on the floor and i barly touched her i weigh about 140lbs and im an average guy but not in any sports and i assume she weighs at least 250 she is a bigger girl. and i cant recon that i would be able to push her that hard for her to fall over while she is holding herself in the doorway and my secretary was in the libray about 10 feet down the hall and heard her scream and walked out and steight to the phone in the hall and called the cops and i have been talking to my dad this whole time and at that point i hing up and got my stuff and drove to minot witch is about 30 miles away where i work and my dad got a phone call from a county cop that knows my family personaly and haw my parents have been divorced and both remaried and iv never really gotten along were either step parent so ive been back and forth basicly my whole life and im visitimg withe the cop today and tomorrow going to our other school in the district and meeting with their principal. There are cameras around the school and 3 cameras that point to the spot that the incedent happened but they claim that that the cameras were not working and the only witnesses were me and the principal nobody else saw anything happen.

Does the pricipal have any right to block me when i have premition to leave?
Could i get her (principal) in any toruble for holding me aginst my will?
Can I be charged with assault if there is no proof?

Thanks in advance

Answer: I tried twice to read this.  Can you please clean up the spelling and use paragraphs?  Perhaps a TLDR?


Title: Landlord Entered House while I was Out Without Permission

Question:
as usual, long time reader, first time poster

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My landlord came down to my door tonight (he lives above) and told me that he had entered my house while I was at work. I was PISSED, but he continued on to tell me that because the state of my apartment that he intends to evict me. Is there anything legally I can do to prevent him from doing this again, and to protect myself from eviction? He said the reason was because the circuit breaker is in my apartment and he needed access.

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BC, Canada

Answer:
 Landlords don't need your permission.

They usually need to notify 24 hrs, though emergencies are an exception.


Title: Won Eviction Case against landlords - Landlords have doubled down on aggressiveness and become much more violent - (Los Angles, Boyle Heights)

Question:
Here's a run down of the week following my eviction win in court with my dad.

Thursday - LL's leave 24 hour notice for repairs

Friday - LL's show up at 10am and after 8 hours have only replaced a loose doorknob, a broken power outlet cover - I call the police when I catch them going through boxes of my own personal items, in addition to doing what I think any sane person would consider just harassment rather than actual work

On this day besides these 3 basic tasks they brought in a very loud Air Compressor knowing well my dad is bedridden in the living room and left it revving for 40 mins, after they left to put it away I discovered the only thing they used this AC was to nail shut my cabinets.

When I asked to see a work order or a list of the items that had to be fixed they simply told me to shut my mouth, they're the bosses here and they don't answer to me.

Monday
A 24 hour notice for the whole week is posted on my door with them claiming this paper is valid for the whole week and really emphasized they will be here all week for repairs with nothing specific outlined.

Tuesday
LL's were given permission to do repairs, I don't want to rock the boat, I had a neighbor watch my dad at their place while they did their repairs, and had a neighbor stay with me to help back me up as a witness if anything "strange" should happen, day went by tense but no major issues until the end where they told my neighbor "Mind your own fucking business or else" as he was leaving my unit

Wednesday
I denied them entry based on Friday's behavior with them going through my personal items, being highly aggressive Tuesday with guests I had over. And the fact that my sick dad was not in the mood for more of their crap.

Wednesday night I get a kick on the door and 4 envelops on the ground, with all of them being 3 day notices. I'm being now warned to remove any and all personal effects from our common area that we've had access to for 30 years. Being accused of allowing my pizza delivery man to live with us. (Not even joking i'm accused of breaking the lease by allowing more than 2 people to live in the unit, and my pizza guy is on here). I'm also being held responsible for a stray cat in the area that likes to leave presents for them on their side of the property. And accused of not paying rent in over a year.

Thursday
Denied them entry based on last nights aggressive behavior, in addition they showed up at my door recording demanding access to the unit for repairs.

Flatly I told them, I will not allow them access due to their previous aggressive behavior, I keep asking for a list of what needs fixing, they refuse to show me, I ask them to give me a time frame for the repairs, they refused to answer any question and began quoting some legalese.

I'v been recording our encounters, pictures of their shoddy work, and medical reports from how my oldman isn't doing too well from all the stress here. tl;dr document everything

So my question is does this meet the criteria for landlord abuse, harassment, retaliation?

Answer: Contact the police when they show up without 24hr notice.  Document everything.  Contact a lawyer to see about sueing under quiet enjoyment harassment, and retaliation.Answer #2: California is a two party consent state for recordings.  I hope you're keeping your lawyer updated.  Maybe it's time to file a restraining order on them?


Title: Prosecutor wants my daughters DNA.

Question:
About a year ago my mother in laws boyfriend was accused of molesting my daughters cousin who lives with them.  At this point there is no evidence suggesting that he actually did this.  About 2 months ago a detective went to my daughter's school to talk to her to see if she shows any signs of molestation.  When I talked to the detective she didn't see any signs that my daughter was molested. 2 days about the same detective called me asking permission to get a sample of my daughter's dna to compare to the the dna found on the "toys" found in my mother in laws bedroom. After talking with my wife we decided to say no to the request because this whole situation is not something that we want 8 year old being dragged into. I found out the next day the the prosecutor is now trying to Gary a court order to  get my daughter's dna.
To sum this up the there is no evidence pointing to the accused being guilty,  my daughter spent next to no time alone with him and is showing no signs of molestation but the prosecutor is still trying to get a court order to drag her into this.  I don't know what steps I can take to shield my little girl form all that is going on.  Any advice would help.

Answer:
 The police can't make you supply a DNA sample, but a court can. There's not much else you can do than you're already doing.Answer #2: IANAL But I'll say that if they get the court order for the DNA, they will take it. It doesn't hurt, to my knowledge, it's just a cheek swab. They could just as easily tell the kid 'It's just a checkup' and make it not-scary at all.

That said, if the DNA on the 'toys' doesn't match your daughter, then that's as far as her involvement goes. The only real worry is if it \*does\* match the DNA, in which case... Wouldn't you want to know? And get her into therapy pronto?Answer #3: You are already doing what you can by refusing to give the sample voluntarily. If he is able to get a court order then you will have to comply with that.Answer #4: If there is probable cause, the prosecutor can obtain a search warrant for the DNA, compelling you to cooperate.

If there is not probable cause, then no court order will be issued.Answer #5: The best thing that you can do to support and protect your daughter is give the DNA sample. Because if she was molested she needs your help and she needs you to make sure she gets help.Answer #6: Why would you not want to do everything you could to help stop a potential child sex offender?? Even if there was .0001% chance of guilt because the .0001% could be your child? Wtf is with your logic or thinking?


Title: (MA) How to handle someone who thinks they "own" a parking spot on a public street.

Question:
Ok, so I live in Somerville, MA and I don't have deeded parking. I've lived here for two years, but just purchased a car a few weeks ago, so this is a new issue.

You can park on my street if you have a parking sticker, which I have. The house next to me has a driveway. The driveway has two "spots", but because they have so much crap in their yard (building supplies, a broken down motorcycle, various garden supplies) they often park one of the cars on the street.

Long story short, they think that they "own" the spot in front of their house because they "always park there" and because they've lived on the street longer than I have, and have been nasty and vaguely threatening.

I know that as soon as a single flake falls, they'll throw all sort of trash in the street in the name of "claiming" a spot. Is there anyway to deal with this? Obviously it's illegal. Obviously I should be able to park in a legal spot, but husband says we should just park somewhere else, because it's not worth the hassle.

I think these are just bullies, and we shouldn't give in, but I also don't want them to destroy my car.

Can I call the police and get some sort of "preemptive" harassment order against them? For a variety of reasons having to do with them being shitty neighbors, I don't want to be the bigger person here.

Answer:
 It's probably not worth it to get into it with them.  Scratch that, it's definitely not worth it to get into it with them.

But if you really want to, before you do *anything,* install a security camera pointing at the spot.  Preferably a camera looking out your window as opposed to mounted on the exterior of your home.

Do not tell them about it.  Ever.  Do not reciprocate or respond in kind.  Ever.  If they are attempting to escalate, *leave.*  Though try to stay in frame for your camera, the police generally tend to look down on people who harass someone and then attack them when their back is turned when they're trying to leave.

If they throw trash in the street to claim the spot, as in literal garbage, call the city for littering/illegal dumping.

If they damage your vehicle, call the police for vandalism.

If they harass you while you're going to/coming from the car, call the police for harassment.

And you'll have it all on tape.Answer #2: > but husband says we should just park somewhere else, because it's not worth the hassle.

Getting into it with your crazy neighbor rarely is.  Your husband sounds like a smart guy

> Can I call the police and get some sort of "preemptive" harassment order against them?

No.  You can report them if they break the law, but you can't just claim you think you might be harassed in the future and get some kind of protection.

> For a variety of reasons having to do with them being shitty neighbors, I don't want to be the bigger person here.

So be the smarter one


Title: Watch (Rolex) was stolen out of my apartment by the Maintenance Guy... Help!

Question:
Hi Guys,
I put in a maintenance request today to turn up my water heater and the front desk asked me if it was ok for the repair guy to come in if I wasn't there. Being a brand new upscale apartment complex in Austin, Texas I figured that my belongings would be safe. I know, I know, I am stupid AF. I am walking back to my apartment around 1:30 PM today and see that the maintenance guy is inside. At this point I have no idea how long he has been in there but he hadn't completed the task. I walk in and he finishes up and goes on his way. Fast forward an hour I am about to leave my apartment and I am looking for my watch and it is no where to be seen. I am VERY meticulous about where I keep it since it is a Rolex. I absolutely know it was on my bedside table before I left but didn't notice it was missing while the maintenance guy was there. IT WAS 100% there before the maintenance guy showed up and 100% gone now. WTF do I do!?!? I have renters insurance but I literally just moved in about a week ago and I hadn't given them the list of all my belongings. I feel so screwed. Please tell me what to do, I need HELP!!! Any advice y'all can throw my way would be greatly appreciated.
B

Edit: I did tell the front desk but they were no help. They called me back and told me they had asked the maintenance guy if he had seen a watch when he repaired my water heater. Of course he said no, wouldn't you if you had just stolen something.

Answer:
 >I have renters insurance but I literally just moved in about a week ago and I hadn't given them the list of all my belongings.

You should have done that when you got insurance

Since you are so meticulous you will have a receipt for purchase and should file a police report as well.


Title: Private Car Sale Gone Wrong

Question:
So, my boyfriend has sold his car privately to a buyer from a few hours away (we are located Ontario, Canada) This buyer has failed to pay him for months at this point, and the police won't help. The buyer (lets call him Rick), deals mass amounts of weed and makes a lot of money off the radar, so there is no proof of work. Now, my boyfriend has gone through the measures to transfer the vehicle over, but due to the failure to make payments and no legal proof of work, the car is now under Ricks name. My boyfriend (lets call him Joe), claims to have not actually signed the bill of sale, would this potentially nullify the contract for the sale or technically make the sale not finalized? We don't know what to do at this point, Rick keeps promising he will pay Joe, but never comes through and just ignores the calls and texts. This is not a cheap car, and they agreed to finance it for the 29k it was agreed to be sold for.

Any advice is appreciated and totally welcomed! We need to figure out what step to take to either force the guy to make payments, or get the car back.

Answer:
 Sue him for the money.

$30k is big boy court, not small claims. You'll need an attorney. Answer #2: Did he record a lien on the car that would allow him to repossess it? Or was it an unsecured "gentlemens" agreement?


Title: (MO) Won monetary judgement against former tenant. How do I get the amount owed on his credit report?

Question:
I won (default judgement) a monetary settlement (over $10,000) and an eviction against a former tenant earlier this year. I tried garnishing his wages, but he doesn't make enough money, so I legally can't garnish.

I don't really care about the money, I just want every single credit report ever run on his name to show a big fat ass $10,000 bill. How do I go about reporting this? Problem is I don't have his SSN.

Are there debt collection agencies that might be interested in purchasing this debt at a fraction of the cost so I maybe recoup 1k?

Answer: I've heard that there's a form you can use to write off bad debts against your income, effectively selling it to the IRS at your marginal tax rate - and the written-off debt is attributed to the debtor as income, so they have to pay tax on it.Answer #2: Assuming you already have copies of all the entered judgment paperwork, just call each of the big 3 credit bureaus and tell them you want to report a judgment.  If they didn't pick up on it already as a public record, they'll tell you what info they require and how to submit the paperwork.Answer #3: you might want to consider seeing if a debt collector will buy it. Won't pay much -- pennies on the dollar but given that vengeance seems on your mind, it would (a) get you a few bucks out of it and (b) ensure that a debt collector is aggressively chasing him for whatever they can get. They'll be much more unpleasant and aggressive than you can be.


Title: I want to fly to Egypt to film in front of the pyramids for use in a marketing campaign.

Question:
I intend to use the desert area around the pyramids to simply film a close up of myself with no one else in the shot. However I wish to film many different takes and have a list of different names and locations I wish to list off on camera.  Will I need any permits etc?
Topic:
Non-US

Answer:
 I think you're greatly underestimating just how crowded the area around the pyramids can get.

And it's a bit of a grey area - some filming in some spots is allowed, in other areas it's not. And in some areas they'll let tourists take videos but not commercial entities.

So you really need to find somebody who knows what they are talking about. This is one of those things you can ask for general advice about on the internet but before actually doing it you're going to want to speak to somebody you can trust.

I'd maybe cross post this on any film making, documentary making, etc forums you're aware of and then also get in touch with the State Department / US embassy in Egypt to try and locate a 'fixer'

A 'fixer' is just the name for somebody in Egypt who will be able to help you locate suitable locations and take care of any permits you need.  Answer #2: Yeah, Egypt isn’t gonna be thrilled if you just start doing commercial filming around one of the biggest tourist attractions in the world.  Plus you are going to need appropriate visas to work.  I’d call the Egyptian embassy and/or the state department to get some guidance.


Title: Landlord refused to repair flood damage for 6 months - now refuses to return security deposit.

Question:
Tl;Dr - Landlord refused to repair damages after a flood in February. Avoided texts/calls for almost a month afterward, and when he finally returned our calls in late March he claimed that he needed 1k to pay the insurance deductible for repairs. Claimed he couldn't use any portion of our 12k security deposit because we had already damaged the house enough to consume the entire deposit, per his estimate, despite the fact that our lease doesn't end until August.

I am a 20 year old tenant in Maryland. I live in a home with 6 others, and 3 of us live in the basement of the home, despite the house not having an exit door. The landlord is aware of this arrangement, and was aware of it when he leased us the home
Earlier this year, in February, a toilet in our basement leaked overnight and flooded the entire basement with about 3-4 inches of water. My roommate and I lost thousands in belongings, but that isn't the issue.

Immediately after the flooding our landlord sent over repairmen to remove the basement carpeting and drywall along the walls (about a foot along the bottom of all walls). Along with that, they removed sinks from all the bathrooms, even though nothing was wrong with either sink and the bathroom in my room didn't even have any issues to begin with.

All these renovations continued for two weeks - during which I was unable to even sleep in my bedroom - until one day the repairmen left without telling us anything or completing anything further. The entire time they had been working there, our Landlord refused to give us any timeline or update as he claimed he didn't have any idea about that information.

Skip ahead a month, our basement still hasn't been repaired and our landlord hasn't responded to any of our texts or calls. Once we mention that we've been talking to a lawyer (one of my housemate's parents) he immediately responds to us that we need to give him a 1k deposit in order for him to complete construction of the basement and replace the drywall and carpeting.

At this point my roommates and I are just losing it. According to our landlord the 1k is the insurance deductible for repairs that, without insurance would cost "about 12k". Not to mention the fact that we have a security deposit of two-months rent. When we ask him why the deductible can't come out of that, the landlord tells us it's because he is sure that we have already consumed the entirety of the security deposit and there is no way there'd be enough left over for the repairs.

Was that even legal for him to claim? This was around March, maybe early April, however our lease ends in mid August. Granted there have been a few damages in the home, but there are not nearly 12 thousand (which is about 2 months rent for us in College Park) in damages so far.

We are trying to find out if there is any way to seek compensation for the months where several of us have had to live in a condition far worse than what we had originally agreed on. We also would like to know if there is any way for us to get part of our security deposit back even though our Landlord claims it's been gone for months.

Answer:
 Oh man. I feel for you. So hard. The $12k that he is claiming was already spent makes sense. Just stay with me here. I had a toilet overflow one night to the depth of about 4 inches. It was 100% clear and wasn't the cause of a physical backup. This was a couple years ago and I don't remember the exact cause but I do remember the clean up crew showing up and the guy immediately said "oh god. Has anyone been out yet? Is it tree roots? Don't let it be tree roots." Why was he so ominous about tree roots? Because if the cause was tree roots, insurance would have said its on you and we will not cover this.

We had dehumidifiers and fans running constantly for about three weeks. By that I mean there were at least four giant dehumidifiers and at least 8 fans running day and night. They had to rip out literally everything other than the tile and concrete floors. They took out all the carpet, all the cabinets, it was insane. Thank the lord that it wasn't tree roots because all and all insurance paid around $40k.

So if you guys caused $12k of damage, it's because he paid out of pocket to have the place demo'd. Instead of paying the $1k up front he thought since you were living in slum conditions you wouldn't mind him being a slumlord.

How is the person with a lawyer parent not losing it? This is the most unsafe and horrifying situation.


Title: Do I have a case against my employer?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: I wish you hadn't handed in your resignation


Title: I signed a 5-year contract with a company but they are backing out.

Question:
I signed a 5-year contract. The length was so long because it's a huge commitment - the job involved moving to another country. My salary at my previous job was $81.5k USD/year, the salary for this position was $181k USD/year, so obviously this job is a huge step up.

Now there has been a huge change.  The company is no longer going to operate in the country I was supposed to move to. They basically told me I am no longer needed.

I reminded them of the contract, something they seemed to be hoping I wouldn't think about, and that the contract works both ways.  They asked me to willingly exit the contract.

However, I have already made huge commitments for this - I sold my house, quit my job, etc.

They admitted that the situation does not fall under any of the situations that the contract states it can be ended, so now they have agreed to meet with me and "negotiate terms of exit."

My father-in-law says I should ask them for money, but I am not sure how much, or if that is even the right approach.

Does anyone have any suggestions?  Is there a type of lawyer I should talk to about what I should be asking for, and how?

Thanks.

Answer:
 Don't talk to them anymore and consult an employment attorney. They (your employer to be) will screw you over as much as possible. You wan't an advocate on your side for negotiations. It sounds like you may actually have a legitimate case. If the attorney feels you have a strong case they'll probably work on contingency, so no money needed up front. Answer #2: The payout you stand to gain/lose is huge, lawyer up.
Like get one yesterday. Answer #3: Simply put: Anticipatory damages

Any lawyer worth their salt will start there. When you meet with an attorney, have a rough idea of what you did while getting ready to take this job. You mentioned quitting your job and selling your house. You may want to start looking for proof of these things, but don't bring them to the first meeting. Tell your attorney you are starting to collect these things and hopefully s/he will tell you what else to gather.

Good luck.Answer #4: !!!DON'T TALK!!!

Get a lawyer.


Title: [AL, USA] Landlord forgot to charge electricity from September to November and now says we owe them all the money by March 1st. Am I protected from their negligence or do I owe them the money? I'm having a similar issue through my dentist.

Question: I feel like this is their fault and yes I noticed a decrease in my rent but with how it's structured assumed our power wasn't costing much of anything. And to extend the question my dentist is now saying I owe them $300 because they charged me incorrectly and my insurance didn't cover what they charged me for. Again is there some law in Alabama protecting me from this negligence?

Answer: You owe them the money.


Title: Grievance towards attorney that did not complete said tasks in retainer

Question:
**update: location NYC**
I obtained an attorney for a misdemeanor case during the beginning of the year. In the retainer, my attorney was supposed to show up to the police station with me, speak to the detective, push back my said court date that interfered with my school schedule since I go to school out of state which made it difficult to come back on a weekday. Also, to present me in court. Not only was my attorney 3 hours late to the meeting time for the police station, my attorney did not speak to the detective at all, only accompanied me to the police station. They promised me to push back the court date by working out something with the prosecutor but they only pushed the date back a week later (which still interfered with my school schedule) and only notified me the night before which left me less than 12 hours to return to my home state to show up to court at 8 in the morning. I consistently called to follow up about the changed court date but did not hear back from their office until very late. My attorney claimed their assistant left a voicemail but there was no said voicemail in my inbox. I rushed back to show up to court and my attorney was once again late (didn't show up until noon) so a public defendant had to represent me instead. Considering they did not represent me in court nor did they acted in a professional matter throughout the months they were supposed to work on my case, I contacted them once again hoping to get some of my money back considering the tasks that were included in the retainer were not probably completed. They ignored my emails and I had to call in their office multiple times to leave messages for their assistant to get a proper reply. After they finally replied back, my attorney felt that they did everything they needed to do for me (which I believe is false) so they will not be refunding my money. I'm not really sure what to do at this point considering I think I should have at least a portion of my money back. Any advice on how to proceed? Thanks in advance.

Answer: File a complaint with the relevant [Attorney Grievance Committee](https://www.nycourts.gov/attorneys/grievance/complaints.shtml) and a [fee dispute](https://www.nycourts.gov/admin/feedispute/)


Title: Laws regarding my psych taking legal action if I told him I was planning on committing suicide

Question: I was looking into it and I just wanted to know if there was any legal thing a psychologists office could do to admit me to a mental hospitals if I told my psych I was planning on committing suicide and if there is what it’s called, if there is I’d like to look at it

Answer:
 Location can matter here, but in the US, if a medical professional believes you pose an immenent threat to yourself or others, they are legally and ethically obligated to report it. It is called various things in various states (in California, it's called a 5150 hold). Such a hold is usually for 72 hours, but can be extended if the facility executing the hold feels it is necessary.

If you are having suicidal thoughts, please call your mental health professional or 1-800-273-8255.Answer #2: If you do that they are obligated to contact the authorities who will take you to a hospital for an involuntary hold. That's not to say you shouldn't discuss how you're feeling with your psychologist, and in fact that's exactly what you should do.


Title: Pharmacy law

Question:
I’ve recently been accused of stealing from the pharmacy by an old co-worker a year after I left the business. I’ve only just shown interest in getting back in after being out for the majority of last year due to personal reasons and was informed by my old manager of these accusations. He asked me if I ever took anything from the pharmacy and I said no, because I didn’t!

He says this girl has proof of me stealing from them so I asked for this proof from both the accuser and the manager and neither could provide evidence. He reported me to LP and I don’t know what to do about this. How can I fight a company I no longer work for?

I’m afraid that she’s made something up in order to get a position both she and I wanted at a mutual acquaintances pharmacy. I don’t know how to fight this and I’m afraid for my license. I did nothing wrong but if this girl I thought was my friend said these things about me, then I wouldn’t put it past her to fake evidence to get my license revoked.

Please help!

ETA: I agreed to meet the manager on Monday at the store to talk more about it so that I can defend myself. Is this a bad idea? I’ve emailed a few law firms but I need advice now.

Answer: Do nothing.  You've already denied it. You don't need to keep denying it. Don't have any contact with them. If any action is taken against your license there will be an appeals process.


Title: [SW] Apartment we bought doesn't exist?

Question:
We bought an apartment recently and we are now trying to call the electric company to set up a contract for it ( We are currently in our residence, going to finish our lease before moving in- in another country). When we called the electric company said the apartment doesn't exist and nobody who's ever lived there has had a contract with the electric company, when we tried to ask how come she just hung up and we tried calling again and she just hung up when she heard it was us.

We visited the apartment and we've seen it so we know it's real, and the apartment has electric oven and it's in Sweden so you'd die from the cold if you didn't have the electric heating on when you lived there, and when we were there the lights were on. I mean we could of bought it from some crazy people who lived without electricity but the apartment is 5 ish years old and they're not the only previous tenants so what are the chances of them and those before them never having had electricity?

I'm afraid we are being scammed somehow, we bought the apartment from a very reputable firm.

EDIT:
/u/iheartvodka had the solution the to problem! It turns out it needed the name of HOA and not the apartment.

Answer: Is there some kind of monthly building fee? (Like HOA?) Maybe the building is billed as a whole and the tenants split costs. Answer #2: It's probably just a mix up with the address in the database the electric company uses. If it's getting electricity, there is most likely an electric meter where the power line meets the wall outside, or possibly inside the unit. That meter will have a unique ID number; find it and give the company that number and they'll be able to pull up the file.


Title: Are police allow to check a restaurant's footage without a warrant?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 If they ask for you to voluntarily show them the footage, and you voluntarily comply, what's the problem? You don't HAVE to do anything like this unless a court orders it however.

> he claims that if the camera footage is missing or deleted, than we would have to pay. That sounds reasonable

No, that does not sound reasonable. You are not required to have cameras at all or to make sure the ones you do have are operating. Places of business routinely record over footage. But don't delete it now, given that you might be subject to a subpoena.


Title: [NYC] My parents live in NYCHA, Leak coming from upstairs and neighbor threatening to sue if repairman goes in

Question:
My parents reported a leak back in April 2018 in the bathroom ceiling of their apt. I opened a ticket and a repairman came in to patch it on several occasions but the issue persisted over several months and eventually caused parts of the ceiling to crack and plaster to fall down.

Throughout this time as the separation between my parent's apt and my neighbor degraded we were able to hear music and voices coming through from the pipes and on a few occasions the smell of weed which irritated my folks who now keep the bathroom door closed. A few times their dog must have urinated somewhere near the bathroom because the pipes started to stain yellow and a weird smell would cover the room.

Throughout this whole ordeal I've been following up with the NYCHA office every other day and they basically told me that they are very understaffed but they are getting to my ticket. (I was put on hold for about an hour each time) On several occasions my ticket was randomly closed as "completed" and I had to re-open a new one which threw me back into the queue. No other explanation. The repair dept suggested I raise my concerns to the housing manager who in turn suggested I raise my concerns to the repair dept.

My parents are immigrants with weak English so I've been trying to handle the contact with NYCHA and generally try to expedite the process in any way. I knocked on the upstairs neighbor's door several times when I knew they were home but they never answered. On my last attempt I left a post-it message to "kindly not have your dog urinate anywhere in the bathroom as we have the liquids and smell leaking through". He left a note on my parents' door to basically fuck off and if I had issues to contact housing management and never to leave any messages on his door. That was the last and only interaction with our neighbor. I raised a complaint with housing again and we haven't smelled anymore weed or dog piss at least. But the water leaking persisted.

Two weeks ago they finally came (December). They knocked my parent's bathroom wall open and found the source of the leak was a pipe leading from the neighbor's kitchen and scheduled further repairs which may take weeks. The hole has been duct taped but now we are having a roach issue due to the hole. In the meantime I'm trying to patch this hole but the leak is undoing any of my attempts.

Today my dad called me saying the repair guy came to examine the bathroom and then went upstairs. He had to knock several times before the neighbor opened his door. The repair guy knew he was home due to the music and sounds coming through from my dad's bathroom. When the repair guy came back my dad called me to put him on the phone. He stated my neighbor was "very hostile and refused to let anyone in for repairs and is threatening to sue if they touched anything in his apt". He said that he will get in touch with the housing manager. I don't know how long that will take and its getting worse with the roach issue.

I've had this ticket opened for 8 months and it is started to reach a really bad point. Is there anyone outside of the NYCHA system that will take my concerns seriously?

A link to a few videos and images of the state of the bathroom now. The walls are becoming undone and I don't think it is good for my family's health. [https://imgur.com/a/6Fo9Fos](https://imgur.com/a/6Fo9Fos)

Answer: You're dealing with the worst landlord in America according to different media reports.  You could maybe try elevating it to HUD?  [https://www.hud.gov/program\_offices/housing/mfh/hc/complaint](https://www.hud.gov/program_offices/housing/mfh/hc/complaint)


Title: [Rhode Island] Water damage from upstairs condo. Owner has no insurance.

Question:
I own a condo on the second out of three floors. Two weeks ago I notice a water stain forming in my dining room. All of the units are identical, so this was not a sink or dishwasher leak.

Called the HOA's maintenance and he cut a 1 sq ft hole in the ceiling to find complete saturation in the ceiling, crown molding, and wall. Found the source of the leak to be the upstairs owner's fish tank that has been leaking for this two week span. When maintenance went into his unit, the owner's girlfriend (who is also part owner) allowed him inside. When she called her boyfriend about everything, he immediately ordered maintenance to leave.

Turns out, he doesn't have home owner's insurance.

He works for a restoration company and offered to dry everything out and repair the damages. I declined. I called my insurance. The restoration company contracted through my insurance has come and found that an estimated 20 gallons worth of water has leaked from ceiling to floor. The wall has been cut out and is currently drying with machines.

I spoke with him earlier today and let him in to see the hole that has been cut and the damage he has done. He immediately said he is getting himself a lawyer. Do I need to do the same? Or will my insurance company's legal team do all of that?

I'm not sure if there is anything here that I need to be doing, or if I just pay my deductible and let my insurance take the reigns from here.

Topic:
Insurance

Answer: Let your insurance company handle it.  They will almost assuredly cover your damages and then seek redress from him.


Title: State turned my driveway into a road - who is responsible for upkeep?

Question:
This is  North Carolina. My driveway was previously a dirt driveway about 1/3 of a mile in length. Our house was at the beginning, very close to the normal state road it connected to, and at the other end, where the dirt drive ends, was another house. Some land was sold and another house was built at the far end, and the state declared that now that there were three houses on the drive, the drive had  to become a road.. And so a new road was born.

This wasn't a big deal to any of us at first. Myself and the other original house maintained the drive/road, even though it was a lot of work due to an improperly cared for private road for a small development down the road (lots of flooding on their end that would then flood to us and wash out the drive. They've been trying to get the state to take it over for years with no luck because it's in such bad shape the state just tells them "lol nope".)

Now, however, I  can see problems on the horizon. Due to medical issues I can't keep up with the care very well anymore (can manage the part I use, but not sure how much longer that will last), and the other helpful household has moved and that place is vacant and will likely remain so for a good while due to unrelated circumstances. The newest house? Completely useless and uninterested in doing anything about the drive, even though they will be the ones suffering the most as it deteriorates.

What are the options for me here? I am hoping that since the state is the one that made this an official road, we can get them to care for it, but I have a feeling any request will be met with the same response the neighboring development is getting: "lol nope." Any thoughts?

Answer:
 Who exactly owns the property?
Was an easement obtained?Answer #2: Surveyor here. Here are cases where the government may build a road:

* It's in a public Right-Of-Way (ROW)

* It's on some other type of public land.

* It's in an easement (access easement).

* There is some other clear agreement between the property owner and the government.

They don't build roads on people's driveways. That doesn't happen. There is something missing here. If I had a plat, map, or other property information, I might be able to help, but there's too much missing information.Answer #3: IANAL but I live at the end of a 1/3 mile drive in North Carolina that has become a street since the addition of a 3rd house. Our street sign is labeled “private” and we were told the change was due mostly for postal delivery purposes. Where I live, “private” roads are still the responsibility of the residents to maintain. Since our drive (now road) is an easement to the 1st property, it is our, and our new neighbors’ responsibility to maintain.

Edit: interesting username, there. Are you my new neighbor? Or maybe my husband?

Answer #4: IANAL

I do live in NC.  The people who are saying it's not a state road are correct.

In NC, every "road" of any length or with more than one house on it needs to be named for postal and emergency service purposes.  Oddly enough, they do not designate these roads as "Private" on the road sign.

You need to see if there is a "Private Road Maintenance Agreement".  It used to just be the FHA and VA that required them, but now it's most lenders.

If there isn't, it would probably be worth it to talk to a lawyer about implementing one.


Title: [TX] My previous employer was not paying me correctly for the past 2 and a half years.

Question:
I'm a server and as the title says my previous employer was not paying me correctly. The amount is around $80 to a $100 dollars per paycheck, bi weekly. I was not the only person either, other employees and myself have known, and plenty have quit because of it, but now I want to see if I can do anything about it. I mainly want to do something about it because I didn't think the amount of money that I was not getting was so high, I assumed it was $20.

The way they were doing this is by, changing the amount of tips we received, like if I made $20, they'd put $40. And the second was the actual pay, so the way it works is that if I am clocked in under "service", I get paid $3 per hour, I was told they made even if we didn't make enough, but since they change the tips, the system doesnt show a need tk pay us the amount we didnt make in tips. some days are slow, so we don't make enough money. Then there is "production" which is $7.50 an hour, and NOW we are supposed to clock in under production when there are no tables, and this store can be dead alot. With my previous employer, we were only ever under service, we were told to never go under production unless we were doing dough, or something, but if the store was dead, then we were under service, now in days if its dead, and by dead I mean no tables, then we go under production. My bi weekly pay checks went from $50 to $60 a week to $140 - $180, only counting server hours, my actual pay now is roughly $250, but I'm being generous and saying that my 7 hours a week doing production, such as prepareing dough or whatever is $100. I always new I was short a large amount, but this was my first job and I guess I got used to it. When I did the math before I saw that I was being shorted, now however it is where it needs to be. Other servers that have been there a long time too, have noticed there pay go up aswell, so it's not just me.

The only problem is that I don't know if it's too late to do anything about it. My question is..

1. Can I get that money back?

2. Would this hurt my future in getting other jobs, would people want to hire someone who ratted on a business.

3. I don't really want to get my old store manager in trouble, he moved to a new store, I know it was the district manager that was forcing him to do it. So would my old store manager get in trouble.

4. How would I go about proving my case,  I do not know if them changing time and tips is saved on the system, ir if it shows them do it. All I have pictures of the schedual and my bank showing the e pay.

5. What are possible repricutions.

I'd rather keed certian information unspecified untill I firgue out what I want to do.

Answer:
 Legally, as a server, if your tips average minimum wage with the paychecks, they owe you nothing. If they are documenting your tip amount incorrectly so it LOOKS like you average minimum wage, it is illegal, but you would likely have to have proof/ timecards/something to back up your claim.

IANAL but many restaurants have had class action suits filed against them for this exact thing, if you are willing to look into something like that.


Title: Got a letter from a law office about unpaid parking tickets from 2012 from my ex boyfriend

Question:
Long story short, I broke up with my bf in 2010. I kept the tv and PS3 and he kept the van. We did not do a bill of sale. Van was registered in Minnesota, I lived in California and he lived in Colorado. Tickets were issued in Denver. I didn't ever have a drivers license until 2016 and never lived in Colorado so I couldn't have gotten the tickets. However I think both our names were on the title. At some point he got a Colorado license plate, I think before the tickets were issued, should my name still have been on the title if he made changes like that? Eventually on the last ticket the vehicle was towed and impounded. He never got it back and they sold it.
Is there any way out of paying these tickets?

I found a bill of sale template that doesn't have a spot for buyers signature. If I submit that with the date of when I gave it to him, will it then be up to him to dispute it or is that pointless? A bill of sale is what the company asked for as proof.

Should I just pay these bills so it doesn't show up on my credit report since it hasn't yet?

Any advice is greatly appreciated

Answer:
 If both your names were on the title to the van, then you're both responsible for paying the tickets to the government entity that issued them.

If you believe he is the reason the tickets were issued, I would suggest you pay them up front, and then contact him to have him reimburse you.