Title: A 3rd party company hired me for a chicken factory; now I might owe them $2,000

Question:
A small company (its very small; its run from inside a domestic house) gave my girlfriend & I applications for a job processing chickens. After we filled in & turned in the paperwork (W4’s, safety rights, etc) , I asked if there’s any interview process or if we just filled those papers out because we were hired on the spot. They said we were hired, they asked when we could start, and their was seemingly official.

Then, they asked us to both take drug tests.

Neither on indeed.com, nor on any of the paperwork, did it say anything about a drug test. I agreed anyway. I went to the bathroom (it’s literally a house bathroom with a shower and everything) and picked up the drug test cup. Out of curiosity, call me crazy, I whiffed the cup and it smelled like urine. I figured that maybe they were re-using cups and cleaning them, and that the odor was just unavoidable. Either way, I /do/ smoke marijuana; but again, there was no mention of a drug test until the paperwork was filed. My girlfriend & I took the drug tests, and of course we left before we got any test results.

Now, you should know there’s a $2,000 fee for the company finding a job for me. The chicken factory would pay that fee for me, unless I get fired or quit, then I need to pay the remainder.

I’m worried that I just got hired for a job, and THEN took a drug test, and now the chicken factory will fire me before even my first day of training, and I’ll end up owing $2,000 to this company because of a surprise drug test.

Answer:
 Why would you have to pay a fee just for finding you an interview?? It doesn’t make sense. If you fail the test or you answered a question wrong, you shouldn’t be asked to pay the staffing agency shit.Answer #2: Placement fees are almost always paid for by the employer to the agency, any agency that conducts business otherwise is not one you should do business with.Answer #3: This sounds super sketchy; if there is a situation where the employer is paying a company, it seems to me that the employer wouldn’t be hiring people if they were not going to be sure they were going to be qualified for employment.

If this is actually a situation where you are supposed to pay someone I would suggest there is a scam going on here and that possibly there is not even a job being offered.


Title: My wife's ex-husband is moving to France and wants us to fly our 12 year old daughter overseas unsupervised.

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 [Here are the major U.S. air carrier's policies on unaccompanied minors.](http://thepointsguy.com/2014/09/unaccompanied-minors-tips-to-help-kids-fly-solo-safely/)

Kids are looked after. They're not unsupervised, they're unaccompanied. Whether you're required to send your daughter is something you should consult with your attorney about. Her father is likely going to remain entitled to some time with his daughter, but the timing is something the courts will likely modify.Answer #2: I have nothing to say about the legality of this, but I think you may be acting a little over-protective about your wife's daughter. Your wife knows her daughter better than anyone here, of course, but it is not "obvious" why you would be uncomfortable about it. She's going to have to learn how to get around on her own eventually, and as other have pointed out, airlines have services to help unaccompanied minors.Answer #3: You should let her go. Enroll her in French classes. She'll have a great experience. She may even want to get citizenship and study there. It's not unsafe for minors to fly alone in a general sense, as long as they aren't afraid to talk to the airport people. They're there if your daughter has any questions. Answer #4: Absent a custody order, no; you cannot be forced to allow her to go to France - accompanied or no. Both parents are also required to sign off on a US passport application.

That being said; pretty much all of the major airlines have an "unaccompanied minor" service (for an extra charge) where they will have an employee take them from the gate to the office/airline club and walks them to their connecting flights; and the flight attendants will have a list of who they are to look after them. They also have the highest priority for weather/mechanical cancellations.


Title: What are examples of "Mens Rea" successfully being used with anyone on the Autistic spectrum? (United States)

Question: I'd like to know this for any state; the entire country. However, I'm from Kansas.

Answer: Can you narrow down your question? Is there a specific crime or fact pattern that you're curious about?


Title: STATE: PA; My place of work is having us go back May 14th and I’m not really comfortable with this.

Question: I work in sales and people come from all over different counties to shop at my place of work. I’m not sure of all the details, as we have a meeting on Thursday to cover all of this but I’m assuming (and I would hope) that they’re going to make everyone wear masks that comes in there, and they’re going to limit crowds to 25 or less. I was wondering what the stipulations would be, if anyone else is familiar with PA laws or lives in PA as well who could tell me anything they might know about this. I saw a news article stating that employees receiving benefits do not have to return to work even their businesses re-open. They don’t have to for the safety of themselves and co-workers. So how do I go about this? If I go to this meeting Thursday and express I’m not comfortable will that still screw up my benefits?? Should I reach out to my boss beforehand with my concerns? And do you think this would give them grounds to fire me completely? Anything anyone might know about this from top to bottom and how to go about this would be very much helpful.

Answer: A requirement to receive unemployment is that you are unemployed GENERALLY through no fault of your own. If you are offered legal work and you do not accept the legal work, you are no longer eligible for unemployment. You have to answer "Were you offered work" every week when you file your claim for that week.


Title: Are judges required to tell you what will happen to you the NEXT time you get caught for a certain crime?

Question: For example, if you live in a three-strike state, and you're in court for your second offense, is a judge REQUIRED to tell you what will happen to you if you get caught a third time?

Answer: Why are you even asking this? Answer #2: No.


Title: Landlord rights

Question:
My landlord called me while I was on vacations and said there was a leak on my house. I did not answer his calls. (Nor did I ever report any leak or plumbing issues)

He went in my home on his own and decided my house was messy, and he "cleaned up". He took my iPod, threw away photo albums, threw away all my pairs of shoes, and spilled soda on my xbox (which broke it). Also threw away my book, DVD, and xbox game collection. Also threw away my food too.

He said it was okay for him because it was in our lease agreement he could enter/fix the house on his own. I argued my lease ended over 6 months ago, it was voided now and no longer even matters. He responded I signed a "renters agreement" (I don't remember signing more than a lease), that also permits it.

All my shit is broke or stolen now. Is it true I can't do anything most likely. Or did he violate any federal US laws by doing this where I can still get him to replace some damages?

I want to know if there is any situation where a landlord is allowed to come in and take things/damage things based on contract. The room he damaged/stole from was not the same room that the leak was said to be in

Answer:
 No.  You have rights.  Make a list. Set a value. Send a demand latter for payment with deadline.  File in small claims after deadline.  Serve.  Wait for Answer, go to court.  Win.  Hard part, collecting.

He didn't violate federal, but certainly overstepped and violated your state's landlord/tenant statutes.  Answer #2: > I argued my lease ended over 6 months ago, it was voided now and no longer even matters.

The lease still governs, it wasn't voided, it converted to month-to-month with all other factors intact. However, what he did was not proper and so follow /u/DesertRat13's advice.


Title: Estranged father wants old family photos. I don't want him to have them.

Question:
I'm in Minnesota.

I want to start off by saying that I know this is petty and I apologize for that, but I still need advice.

I don't know how much of this is relevant but I'll include it anyway:

My parents divorced several years ago. My mother and I continued to live in the house that I grew up in, despite my father still owning it after their divorce. He moved elsewhere, but is still in the state. When they divorced, they didn't split their property through the court, or really at all. Everything for the most part stayed in the house where I grew up.

My mother and I recently moved house. My father knew that this was going to happen and requested that family photos be shared with him. These photos contain me, my mother, and himself. There are also several that contain just me as I grew up.

I do not want my father to have photos of me. He already has a few that I know of and I am uncomfortable with that but I don't think there's anything I can do about it. We have been estranged for just over a year now since I cut him out of my life almost entirely, for reasons I don't want to discuss unless necessary (nothing relevant anyway, I'm almost positive). But where do I stand legally about not wanting him to have these family photos? I don't know anything about how much control I have over the use of my image. It would make sense to me if he was entitled to the ones that have him in them, but am I wrong about that? They also have me and my mother in them, and neither of us want him to have photos that contain either of us. Could we just cut him out of them and send him that part, or would that be some kind of vandalism or something? Is he somehow entitled to the photos of just me?

Again, I understand that this sounds petty, but I worry about sharing more in case I'm identified. I really appreciate anyone who will take the time to give me an answer.

Answer: If the photos are already his, you have no legal right to prevent him taking his property. The fact that you are in them is not relevant.


Title: Car stolen crashed and recovered, thief arrested, no comprehensive coverage, no coverage at all(also apparent that police kicked in my windshield)[NJ]

Question:
What I was told by my insurance and the cops is that I would have to sue the car thief in small claims court for reimbursement for the 1600 dollars worth of damage. I think that he probably wont have the assets to reimburse me.  I couldnt afford comprehensive coverage and so I understand that i'm not covered for theft under my car insurance plan, but I do have uninsured motorist coverage. Could I be eligible for that since the thief's identity is known?

Separate issue, its apparent from boot prints on the hood and the size of the hole in the windshield that the police broke my windshield, of course that was not mentioned to me. I was also made to pay the fee for my car being towed to the police impound lot and for its release.

I also work at trader joe's and can not afford all the time im going to have to take off from work to get the car fixed.

Any insight appreciated. Thank you.

Edit: thanks for all the feedback so far. I haven't received the police report yet, but they told me he rammed their squad car, and this is what my policy says under "for you" for [my coverage](http://imgur.com/hijDEnz)

Answer:
 Your insurance almost certainly won't cover this.

Option 1 is to sue him in small claims court for the amount of the damage.

Option 2 is to contact the prosecutor's office and ask that restitution be added into any sentence recommendation given or plea bargain he takes.  Sometimes when you can go to jail (for probation violation) for not paying the victim back, you suddenly find money you might not after small claims.Answer #2: It's the thief who is liable for the windshield, not the police.


Title: Non-US citizen arrested on possession charges at Coachella

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 There's a good chance you won't be staying in the U.S. much longer. You need a very good criminal defense lawyer, as well as a very good immigration lawyer (or one lawyer with experience with both).

Keep in mind that conviction is not required for you to have your student visa revoked and be deported over this, so you're going to need to tread very carefully here.Answer #2: You are very, very lucky this happened in California. It is one of the few states that doesn't treat cocaine as an automatic felony charge. You need a lawyer yesterday, you May also need to contact the sponsor of your visa to inform them of the pending charges depending on the terms of your sponsorship agreement.Answer #3: You need to contact an attorney ASAP...as in like **yesterday** ASAP


Title: Tenant took off. Owes $14k in rent. Have their contact info. What can I do?

Question:
British Columbia

Hey Reddit. We rented a luxury condo to what appears to be a professional scam artist. This individual applied with fake income information from a business that we know that they owned, and that we now know declared bankruptcy 6 months ago. The renter and spouse kept making excuses for not paying rent, including photoshopping fake bank transfer confirmations and fake bank account numbers. Confronted them, gave them 24 hours to pay up and they took off.

Condo is in good condition but we are short $14,000 in rent (about $10,000 in costs). We have real names, phone numbers, email addresses and a Canadian licence plate number. No forwarding address. What can we do?

Answer: Sue them.


Title: Mother-in-law was on trial, jury found not guilty

Question:
Location: Nebraska

So yes, it was a long week and a half. Family was nervous, and we were uncertain of our future. However, the jury was unanimous and she walked free. The case, was a younger woman (my age, and the "victim" claimed the assaults occurred during high school when she was a minor) that she was sexually assaulted by my MIL and that the events happen a multitude of times.

Like stated above, she was found not guilty. The lawyer asked some of the jurors on their way out why they found not guilty, and it was because there was a lack of evidence. I am not sure how much I can give away, but the only piece of "evidence" (I use quotes because I am not sure it can even qualify as evidence) was a picture of a SCREEN SHOT of a text from my MIL to the alleged victim.

So, now my MIL is left with $30k of lawyer fees since the trial kept getting pushed back by the prosecution due to them needing to find more evidence. All in all, the whole thing was almost 2 years long, if not more. My MIL waived her right to a speedy trial, I forgot what the reason was, but I think her lawyer initially suggested that she do so, so we weren't expecting them to move fast. But the main question I am looking for, is since there isn't a single ounce of evidence that was uncovered or presented, is there a way that my MIL can counter-sue the "victim" for any of the following:

slander, mental stress, compensation for lawyer fees etc

I was told no before by someone, and they said that because the victim at the time was a minor, the counter suit cannot be completed. Just was wondering if anyone had any info on this, and if so could point me in the right direction!

Thanks all!

Answer:
 It's a criminal case. State brings the charge, not the victim. So the State is the cause of your MiL's woes, not the victim. Good luck on that. Not saying it's impossible to sue and recover, just very very unlikely.

It'll turn on whether there was probable cause to charge. Considering there was enough evidence to get to a jury... I'm going to guess that the state got there.


Title: Currently dealing with landlord from hell, am I legally allowed to warn future tenants of the landlord while they are viewing the apartment?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Depending on what the issues are, you could attempt to make the problems known to people viewing the apartment without actually saying anything to them.  Put notes on broken appliances, leave mouse traps plainly visible etc.  Answer #2: You could always be sued. Your defense would be that you told the truth. But it's still a PITA to be sued. And it would be relatively simple for the landlord to prove economic damages if he couldn't rent because of what you told people.


Title: Can't get a passport

Question: A few years back I asked this same question in the Immigration thread. My Mother was born in the U.S. She has dual citizenship. Her Mother is English and her Father American. She grew up in America, England and France. She stayed in America until she turned 17. She moved to another country and married my Father. Then she had me. I am a U.S. citizen by birth, but our records are sealed in the U.S. because my Grandfather was a high level government official. I was told to go to my comsulate in my country. I went there but they plainly refused to receive me after making an appointment. They told me because of my age I can't get a U.S. passport. In these years I was able to get my Mother's birth certificate, my grandparents' marriage certificate, my grandparents' court documents regarding their dispute over my Mother after their divorce and testimonies and letters of people who saw my grandparents visit my Mother at my country. My Grandfather would borrow the presidential plane to visit my Mother. So what are my options here?

Answer: Who told you your records were sealed?


Title: Does my wife's sperm donor have rights?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Define "sperm donor."

Were a doctor and clinic involved?Answer #2: It's best not to use completely inaccurate and misleading terminology when asking for legal advice.


Title: Coworker going to the police about me

Question:
I’m 18. I have no idea what to do in this situation. At work, someone left a winter coat out on a chair for months. I had just been kicked out of an abusive home and didn’t have a winter coat. Still, I waited for weeks and weeks and saw that nobody was taking it. I asked all of my coworkers about it, they had no idea whose it was, or thought that the person had been fired. They even encouraged me to take it, so finally I did and I’ve been wearing it to work. It’s been months now and this lady showed up today and was livid at me for taking her coat. She was like....completely unreasonable. I apologized and said she could obviously have it back. She called a manager down, who looked fed up before she even got her. Apparently the girl had some valuables in the coat pocket which I do not have and did not take. She seems to expect me to pull them out of thin air. Now she’s going to file a report with the police.

The manager basically told me not to take anything, even though she admitted we don’t have a lost and found so basically if stuff is laying around it’s gonna lay around forever. She then told the girl that if she had been looking as hard as she claimed to be, she should have called a manager after checking all the buildings instead of waiting months and apparently knowing exactly that it was me that did it.

What the fuck do I do now? This girl is going to the police and is steaming out of both ears. I gave her the coat back. I don’t have her stuff. should I expect a search from the police or something?? Please don’t say lawyer up, I have no clue about that process. I’m just very worried and shaken up right now, please help. I’ve never been accused of anything in my life.

Answer:
 >should I expect a search from the police or something??

The police need probable cause or a warrant to search you.

>Please don’t say lawyer up, I have no clue about that process.

You only need a lawyer if you're formally charged with a crime. If you can't afford one, apply for a public defender.

Stop talking about this to anyone. If the police actually approach you, politely say, "I won't be answering any questions without a lawyer present." Don't say anything else.Answer #2: IANAL, But I don’t think anything’s going to come from this. Wait until you have the police at your door or a summons in hand to worry.


Title: City refusing to cover claim for car damaged by plow.

Question:
The car was parked in my driveway.  A city plow attempted to turn around using my driveway and hit the back of my car hard enough to push it into the door of my garage.

I was gone at the time and returned 5 days later, but there is a security camera outside my house, that's how I know what happened.

The city is saying that because I did not report it within 24 hours, they will not cover it.  I have tried going as high up as I can by email, phone and visiting people over the past two weeks.  Every single person refers me to a person in charge of claims, and that person repeats the 24-hour rule.

I have talked to more than 20 people, from my local representatives for my neighborhood to the major to the DOT.  No one has been able to help. They all just say it should have been reported immediately, not 5 days later, and don't care that I was out of town so I couldn't.

I am wondering if this is a typical rule, and if I'd be likely to have any luck in court over the issue?

Edit:  State of Nebraska

Answer:
 There is something called the "[political subdivision tort claims act](http://nebraskalegislature.gov/laws/statutes.php?statute=13-903)" that should have the answers you're looking for as far as time to file a claim.  Generally, 30 to 90 days is the norm, so I'd be shocked if they can get away with 24 hours.

Some statutes you might find helpful:

[format for notice of claim](http://nebraskalegislature.gov/laws/statutes.php?statute=13-905)

[Requring snow plows to have insurance](http://nebraskalegislature.gov/laws/statutes.php?statute=23-175)

[Timing of appeals of a denial](http://nebraskalegislature.gov/laws/statutes.php?statute=16-727)

[other exceptions](http://nebraskalegislature.gov/laws/statutes.php?statute=13-910)

And random sample how to file a claim if you live in Omaha: http://www.cityofomaha.org/cityclerk/claimsAnswer #2: I am not a lawyer and this is not legal advice, but have you considered contacting a local news station? If you have the video footage, pictures of the damage and copies of the correspondence between you and town officials someone might be interested in running a story.Answer #3: If they don't respond to requests, you're going to have to sue them.  Your chances in court are impossible to predict over the internet.  Talk to a local lawyer.

And get renters insurance, for the love of god.  It's not that expensive.  Answer #4: First... YIKES... lucky you had that camera...

Sorry for your situation.

How about trying with the local media?  Perhaps they can help get you traction.  You've probably got some juicy video footage.  I'd watch the news to see that :)

What is the typical response when you tell them they are still responsible regardless of when you are telling them about it?

I wonder what they would say if your car was hit on a Friday at 6pm... how would you report it when city hall is closed till Monday?

Either way sounds damn frustrating.Answer #5: Have you checked with your home owners, renters, or car insurance?


Title: Advice needed ASAP

Question:
So here is the situation. A friend of mine noticed that a minor was promoting themselves as selling nude pictures. This friend of mine (male, 19, living in the US, a college student in PA) contacted the minor (a girl age fifteen, living in the United Kingdom), to warn her against the dangers of this potential distribution. After speaking for half of an hour, she asks him if he wants to make a purchase, making the claim that selling photos/videos turns her on. He asks questions and they eventually agree that he will purchase her an amazon gift card. She redeems the code, but says that it did not work. She asks for another payment, which he says he cannot do, as he has a limited amount of funds. She asks again, and he changes his mind, and pays her on paypal. Once again, she claims that the payment never went through and asks that another be sent. At this point my friend got suspicious, and asked to see proof that she hadn't received the payments. At this point, he also asks if she will send the videos anyway, stating that he would pay her back as soon as he was able. She then tells him that there are no videos or pictures and that unless he pays $700 within the hour, she would be reporting him to the police. He tries to talk her out of it, and is entirely unsuccessful, discovering that all of the names under which the accounts were registered, were false. He then blocked her on the messaging app they had been speaking with. She then requests a payment of $700 on paypal.

This was two days ago. Earlier today, my friend recieved another request for $700 on Paypal, even after he had deactivated his account.

So there are several questions here: clearly what he did was stupid, and absolutely wrong, but are there any US laws that he has broken, considering that the girl was overseas, and that she was the instigator? Further more, is he subject to UK law in this case?

Finally, what would be the wisest course of action for him to take?

Answer:
 Yeah, soliciting child porn is really illegal and no one believes that you went from talking a child out of selling porn to repeatedly asking for porn. He is certainly subject to American law, which is basically all that matters. He should get a criminal defense attorney ASAP.Answer #2: *Your friend* solicited a minor for child pornography, which is a big 'ol crime in both the US and UK and he could be prosecuted in both countries.

Luckily *your friend* was probably talking to a 40 year old Nigerian dude. So no actual children were harmed.

> Finally, what would be the wisest course of action for him to take?

Stop trying to buy kiddie porn.


Title: The non-custodial father of my girlfriend's child is moving out of state. How do we mitigate his ability to make our lives harder?

Question:
This takes place in California.

My girlfriend's ex husband has 50/50 legal custody over their son, and has a court agreement for physical custody on the weekends.  The ex has recently decided to move out of state and is threatening to give his physical custody rights to his mother.  The grandmother and my girlfriend are not on speaking terms, which is why this reads more as a threat than an idea or a solution.

Is this even a thing that he can do?  If he just decides to quit his job and move to a different state one day would it be easy or advisable to seek full physical custody?  I'm worried about what he actually has a right to even in this scenario.  To me it says that he doesn't have any interest in seeing the child and is using the existing physical custody agreement as a way to spite us.  I have no idea what to do.

Thanks in advance.

Answer: Your girlfriend needs to consult a lawyer ASAP about the advisability of moving for a change in custody.


Title: I'm trying to give my daughter a better life, I'm worried her mother might drag her back to her destructive and neglectful lifestyle

Question:
I've been nervous in the last couple of days. I made a throwaway account just to post this question, I don't really know who else to ask for advice. This is the situation:

My daughter is 18 months old now. For the past 8 months, up until the last 8 days, she, my SO (former SO currently) and I, have been living in a disgusting trailer. My daughter's mother suffers from deep, unaddressed, mental issues. She suffers from chronic depression, anxiety, and has suicidal thoughts and acts on those thoughts *(she has a pretty big scar on the front of her wrist from cutting herself with a hunting knife on the night of New year's Eve 2018; we were celebrating at the house, 15 minutes after midnight she suddenly went to the bathroom without saying a word. After waiting about 20 minutes, I went to check on her assuming she went to bed, and instead found the bathroom full of blood and the hunting knife in her hand; her reaction to me walking in there was similar to getting caught setting up a prank, she was laughing saying "ho-ho-ho nothing, hehe nothing happened" as if she wanted to humbly show off her actions.. I ignored the strange reaction because it's a typical one on her part, I was slightly intoxicated from New year's celebration and knew the hospital had more serious stuff to do. She clearly hadn't hit an artery or anything so I patched her up, sterilized the wound, and called it a night. It never got infected so I'm assuming it was an acceptable solution..)*.

 She lives in constant darkness, is always in bed any chance she gets, currently doesn't have a permanent address, her job has no benefits and barely gets around 20 hours a week. She has a family history of mental problems and drug abuse in the family (she told me she has lately began hanging out with her heroin addicted brother who never finished treatment and always relapsed, he also just got released from jail for something she didn't want to tell me). Her father died of OD about a year and a half ago (this man was sexually abusing her when she was little, so their relationship wasn't exactly strong). Her mother can't walk or take care of herself, her grandmother suffers from a violent, aggressive type of dementia (I'm no doctor but it couldn't be more obvious, I mean the woman literally lashes out randomly in fits of rage for no apparent reason), her grandfather is no longer allowed to drive and also can't take care of himself.  She also has a pet she neglects,  and she is apathetic towards her problems and the implications they have on the people and her animals around her. She also has taken 4 years to get halfway done with a 2 year degree. No, not due to external factors. Plane laziness.

 She loved to just throw my daughter in her crib whenever she did not want to deal with her. If I called her out she would find small excuses and add them altogether and call that an argument for why it was justified ( "she just ate; she had a short nap today; she rubbed her eyes; I'll give her milk; she always cries when she gets put down; we'll nap at the same time and sync schedules.") I would have to come up with my own reasons to get her out, she would insist, but I would do it anyway so she shrugged and went to lie down anyway. This behavior isn't limited to my daughter either, it is something she does for anything. Anytime these issues are addressed by me, the answer is either mountains of excuses, or crying.

I could go on just about things like this, and find plenty of examples, but I'm starting to digress; the point is that she is not well. But before I continue let me make something very clear: you are probably wondering "well where were you, why do you not take action?" Well, I tried, I really did. For example, when I stopped working because we were moving (that will be the core of this post in the next paragraphs, just bare with me for a second) I spent hours, and I mean hours, and multiple days, making the place shine, cleaning, organizing my daughter's toys and books, just making the place looks homie. I would start to second guess myself thinking "you know, maybe I'm keeping the place dirtier than I think I am, let me test something" so I did everything I could to make the place sparkle, and despite being a trailer it looked pretty good. In the following days, without me moving a finger and constantly cleaning up after myself for the purpose of my "experiment" the place turned to complete garbage again. Crusty bowls I would find behind the couch, a sink full of dishes, diapers forgotten on the floor and left there, counters that have suffered spills and messes that never got cleaned up, full trash cans that never got emptied, a general increasing lack of order with the objects and utensils I had neatly put away. Sure, I could just clean the whole house everyday, I could just calmly  but at which point do we draw the line and just come to the conclusion that I'm just setting myself up for failure and it's not a good environment for my daughter to thrive?

THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART!

So, the plan was initially that my daughter and I would move back to my parents' house so I could continue with school and get it done faster, and my SO  would stay in the craphole until the end of the month, then move in. My stepdad retired from the armed forces and bought a beautiful home with an in-ground pool, three floors, plenty of room, a beautiful backyard that even had a little jungle gym and a slide, 15 minutes from the beach, I mean for a kid it's a dream come true. We've been here just over a week and I've never seen my little girl so happy and full of life. My parents adore her, and we constantly engage her and plan stuff with her. She is living an amazing life right now, with delicious home cooked meals and plenty of daily activities. I've also been feeling much better (I was constantly getting heart palpitations and felt stressed out at the old place with the SO.)

The plan with my former SO changed when I was contacted by the managers of the trailer and the police, saying the woman was accused of animal abuse (she left her dog in the house all day and would come check up on her at night, to stay and sleep). Apparently it was a misunderstanding due to the absence of her car there and they thought she hadn't been there at all, but to me personally that's irrelevant. My mother and I had to be the ones who took the dog to the vet before leaving to the new place because despite having told her multiple times that it's not normal that the dog scratched itself all damn day, she attributed to skin allergies. When her skin **literally started bleeding** she said "poor baby" and walked into her room. So my mother decided the dog's health was more important that my SO taking her responsibilities, or lack thereof, and took it ourselves. She was covered in fleas, even on her front paws, and before leaving we even found a flea on my daughter's face! After the accusation, my mother is furious (we have two dogs) and I can't blame her, so she is no longer welcome here.

We have all the paperwork for my daughter, including social security card, birth certificate, my "acknowledgement of fatherhood" (it's probably not what it's called, but it's basically my dad paperwork from the hospital) and everything, the only thing I don't have is her medical records but I think as a father I can request them no problem, right?

I just don't know what would happen if my former SO would try to take my daughter back. She is in Georgia, and I'm currently in Florida, and I know the justice system is very biased towards mothers. I know she doesn't have the money for a lawyer (my parents would help me if it came down to it) but I know her uncle has been the only person that helped her throughout her life, and I don't know what kind of connections he has. He is an engineer and probably has okay money. He is a really good guy but I don't think he understands the situation, he just cares about his niece but doesn't realize the negative implications that defending her would have.

What should I do? What if she tried to reclaim her daughter legally? I have written records of a lot of the things I'm saying, through messages and veterinary records, including her implied permission throughout messages showing she clearly had no problems with my daughter been taken where she is now. I'm not trying to hide her from her mother, I just don't want her to go back to living in that trash and in that environment. Any advice or help would be deeply appreciated, I would be willing to give my parents full custody because I'm still looking for a job, I'm willing to make any sacrifice for her, I just don't want her to go back to being this "trophy child" that gets shown off in public and then gets barely taken care of in closed doors. She is just better off with us, at least until the mother figures out her issues and stops being this shell of a person. Please help.

Answer:
 First: you do not have to let anyone take your child absent a court order saying so. So just don't let Mom around

Second: custody orders can help but Mom will get some form of visitation.

Third: document everything


Title: Town requiring decals to park in our own driveways

Question: Is it legal for an incorporated town to require decals on vehicles that park in the driveways of private residence? The county we live in requires no decals and the state requires a safety inspection and license plate stickers. The town police advised they will come onto private driveways and ticket vehicles without a town decal... No benefit comes from the purchase of the decal and just another hit to the wallet. Am I able to seek legal action against the town for a town officer to come on my property to ticket a valid vehicle with the county and state? Thank you for any input!!

Answer: What state is this? Is there and HOA?Answer #2: Is it an excise tax? Many towns require payment of an excise tax each year. They often issue a sticker for use of transfer stations, beaches, etc. Depending on the language in the statute or ordinance that allows the collection of that tax, a vehicle that is principally garaged within the municipality or where you are a resident can likely require a sticker.Answer #3: I'm in Alexandria City, which is distinct from the Alexandria thats in Fairfax County, and they do the same thing regardless of where you park. I believe the language they use is "garaged in the City" which they define as any vehicle primarily stored in the City of Alexandria. So for Alexandria City residents, we need license plates, safety, emissions, City decal, and in some areas if youre parking on the street you need a parking zone sticker.Answer #4: Yes, requiring every car in a city/town is completely legal, regardless of where they park.  Big example: Chicago, they will nab you driving around without a sticker, doesnt matter if you only ever park in private garage (from experience, $180 ticket in the mail with a photo). Small example: pretty much every Chicago suburb requires a city sticker that range from $25-$50 per year.


Title: [North Carolina] My LLC received its first C&D letter for Copyright Violation

Question:
This morning I woke up to an email from a media group's lawyer. Attached was a C&D (directed at my LLC and our distribution partner) regarding our limited edition DVD release of a "public domain" film.

In the C&D, they want all remaining stock sent to media group's headquarters, a check for all immediately available funds (indirectly or directly profited from the infringed work), and records of all transactions (subject to review and/or audit by the media group of all compensation). They want all of this done in ten days or less.

I purchased this film from a vendor who offers many Public Domain films for exploitation in the United States. This was under the assumption the film would not be violating any copyright in the United States. Additionally, the film is not registered in any US copyright databases, nor was it ever renewed -- thus why it apparently taken as Public Domain. Should I get the vendor involved in this mess as well?

So far, they have not provided any proof of ownership of the title, no legal documentation, etc. Being that my LLC only produced a small amount of these DVDs and they haven't provided any proof (yet they're threatening me with legal action if I don't comply asap), I'm curious as to how I should go about complying with their demands, and if I should request that they provide any legal documentation before complying with their demands.

Thanks guys.

Answer: This is firmly in the "you need a lawyer, but not an internet lawyer" territory.


Title: Terminated in [OH] for having fibromyalgia.

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: They fired you for not being able to do your job


Title: Small bum colony popped up in disabled grandmas back yard, police won't even take a report.

Question: I live in oregon. My grandmother recently noticed a group of cars and two rvs in her back yard. She lives with my mother after she had a stroke a couple months ago. The people on the property claim she rented to them, but when she first asked them to leave they didn't even know who she was. I know for a fact no agreement was made. When I asked them to leave they claimed they paid 150 dollars. The local police department told me this is a renter/landlord dispute and they wouldn't get involved, is this legal/how is it not an open and shut case of criminal trespass. How can I get rid of this tweaker colony for my grandma? Excuse my grammar, I don't spend my nights yelling at drug addicts alot and I'm pretty frustrated.

Answer:
 > how is it not an open and shut case of criminal trespass

Because there's a 'he said, she said' dispute about whether or not they have tenancy.

Your grandma can evict them by following proper eviction procedure. Answer #2: UPDATE: I asked a family friend who is a former police officer from my town to accompany me and called the police again. The response from the officer today was more active and actually came out to the property, all of the plates on every vehicle are expired. The responding officer told me to give them 24 hour notice and suggested a tow company. The tow companies coming around 8 at night, one of the rvs has already left. Thank you for all of your suggestions, and giving me an outlet to vent about shitty people. Answer #3: Since these are vehicles, can't they be towed for illegal parking? The RV's might be an issue, but the cars?Answer #4: You might consider moving into grandma's house so that it's less likely to get vandalised or robbed while this dispute is going on.Answer #5: Contact city code enforcement. Chances are, city code doesn't allow this (although Portland is famous for its tolerance of vagrancy.) Answer #6: Call the police and say there are people trespassing on your property. Be there when the police come come and once they bring up this "agreement" ask them to prove it with any documents to support their claim. Any texts, any emails, anything written, recorded, etc. They won't be able to provide anything and the police should treat it as a trespassing offense. Answer #7: How long have they been there?


Title: Can HR make me wear a bra?

Question: A lady from HR came to me yesterday and asked if I was wearing a bra. I answered no to which she asked why. I told her they were uncomfortable. They are, I work in a factory and it's very hot and I dont feel the need for extra clothing. She said the last 2 days there have been complaints ( I haven't worn a bra in 3 months). I asked if wearing a bra was apart of the dress code. She answered that it is not but wearing something distracting is. I do not wear low cut shirts. I wear a little scarf that covers part of where my breast are. I'm usually sitting most the day and am secluded to a small area. There is no distraction. The only difference is I switched departments the last 2 days so I'm around different people but still in my own area. I do not have a huge chest (34 C). There are men there with a bigger chest than me. Can they really ask me to wear a bra simply because I am a women? Is that not sexist or violating my human rights?

Answer:
 [To be honest, I think maybe you should consider wearing a bra.](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/8ai3ze/tifu_by_burning_off_part_of_my_nipple/)Answer #2: They can absolutely require you to wear one if there is anything distracting about your attire without one. From your post history, you state you're a nudist, which makes me suspect your desire to not have to comply is less a matter of work conditions and more a personal choice. I'm only a 32C and could not imagine showing up for court without a bra on. You're more noticeable than you believe your scarf is covering. Answer #3: \>I work in a factory and it's very hot and I dont feel the need for extra clothing

...

\>I wear a little scarf that covers part of where my breast are

Part of your problem is that your argument makes no sense.  Is it hot and you don't need extra clothing or are you wearing a scarf to cover up your breasts... in this hot factory.  Methinks there is more to the story as usual, but I'll let you backpedal your way out of this one!Answer #4: Yes, they can.  Different dress codes for men and women are legal, as is requiring underwear. Answer #5: If your nips are the issue, perhaps you can compromise by wearing adhesive nipple covers. They make silicone ones that are pretty easy to use and aren't uncomfortable. Answer #6: Practical advice, if you find bras hot in the factory try Glossies, they’re just this super sheer fabric, very stretchy and comfortable. However, it looks and feels like you’re not wearing a bra so I don’t know if it really solves the HR problem


Title: Boss fired me because of COVID-19 , got unemployment because of it. Now boss is saying they never fired me, and is claiming to unemployment that they offered my job back without telling me anything. Is this legal?

Question:
Is there any way I can fight this? It is a food service job, and 85% of the people are quarantined.

They are saying they are going to pay 400 a week, which is below minimum wage too. Apparently they can do this and I literally have to way to fight it?

Answer:
 Do you think your employer got the PPP loan?

Try to get everything in writing, and try to get confirmation in writing of everything that was verbally said previously.

Eta: the requirements of the ppp loan is you don't fire anyone for the 8 weeks i believe, comment if that is incorrectAnswer #2: I would advise to continue fighting this. I’m in Indiana. You can file an appeal to the determination. There will be a video/phone hearing to finalize and determine your eligibility.

If they offer you work, and you refuse you will lose benefits. If the pay is LESS than minimum wage you can refuse.Answer #3: Appeal. It is often a phone hearing.Answer #4: Regarding your malicious compliance edit: PLEASE don't go back to work if you're sick (I think I'm reading that right). You'll just be putting other people at risk, especially if you're in the food service industry.Answer #5: To your edit: please dont. Your malicious compliance could really harm someone, notnjust your employer.Answer #6: Furloughed or fired? If furloughed you where never fired and the minimum wage is probably what you will get. If fired, appeal. If you have written notice, take a picture with your phone upload to your state ui website.


Title: [IL] Gave Ex a ring, she won't give it back.

Question: I gave my ex a promise ring that belong to my mother. She will not give it back. There are records proving that a promise was made, and while I know verbal agreements are hard to prove, it is possible with phone records of text. How would I go about charging her with petty thievery? I know there's not a lot to this, but I still need help figuring this out.

Answer: A promise ring is not an engagement ring. It is a gift. It's her ring.Answer #2: It was a gift, and legally she does not have to give it back to you.


Title: Semi-credible threat made against my family

Question:
In Oregon. My husband is a security guard at the local, churn um and burn um mental hospital. (basically this is where about 90% of homeless people looking for three hots and a cot without a prison charge end up looking for asylum. about 10% are fucking nutso in the whatso and end up committed.) My husbands job is to eject the folks who are deemed by the crisis workers as not crazy enough to be reliant on the state aid given to the cerrrazy people.

2 days ago he had a guy threaten to follow him, find out where he lived and burn down his house and kill his family. This threat was credible enough that in 4 years of working for this hospital and receiving threats similarly, my husband filed a police report and gave me the key to the gun to protect the house. To be frank I've really never seen my husband this rattled.

Within legal bounds is there any recourse we can pursue to protect ourselves?

Our Facebooks are already 100% private. I've gone no-contact with my mom who is an unabashed fb friend whore. we'e prepping the rest of the family. Other than that, is there anything else we can do?

Answer: IANAL, and this isn't legal advice, but hate the way you talk about mentally ill people. It's people like you that keep the mentally ill from seeking help.


Title: [IL] My boyfriend can't get health insurance and needs to see a doctor.

Question:
My boyfriend used to be on a really specific plan through a hospital in his town, but since he's moved away he's been trying to get on a standard plan. He switched over in December, well he attempted to switch, but after a few months realized his payments weren't going through. He looked into it and the state said that he was not under their insurance, there was an issue with his account on their end that they'd look into asap.

Then, nothing. He called again (another 4 hours on hold) and got the same conversation, they noted the issue and would resolve it promptly.

Again, nothing. They say they'll look into it and call him back and weeks go by, months go by with no word.

So, he goes to the office they recommended, it's closing to move to a new location. Waits till the new location opens and they say they'll look into it and will call him asap. He says no, it's been months, he needs to speak to a manager or something because he needs health insurance. They get the manager who says that his account is so overdue from the error that he doesn't even know how to handle it. They need to escalate the situation and they assured him they'd look into it and call him.

You guessed it, nothing. What the hell, he's just trying to buy insurance!! The issue is, well he has a bunch of health issues, and hasn't been able to see a doctor since this whole mess started. He has a ton of old injuries and is in a ton of pain because he can't get his pain prescriptions refilled and recently his pain has been so bad he thinks there might be something seriously wrong, but he can't go see anyone to find out.

I'm at my wits end, what do we do?

Answer:
 > his pain has been so bad he thinks there might be something seriously wrong, but he can't go see anyone to find out.

This is not true.

If he feels that there is something seriously wrong, he needs to go to Urgent care or the emergency room.

The lack of insurance is not preventing him from getting care.  It is preventing an insurer from guaranteeing that they will pay for that care.

And, even if he gets insurance, the cost for the medical care might just go towards his deductible.

I do not mean to minimize the financial impact of getting uninsured medical care.  But, bills can be paid, and payments can be negotiated.  But him delaying care could have life-long repercussions, including death.


Title: Painter destroyed carpets, how to resolve payment dispute [WA]?

Question:
Hi All,

I hired a painter to pain the interiors of my recently purchased home. I have not moved in yet because I plan to remodel. The painter asked that I purchase all of the supplies - paint, tape, plastic, a tarp etc and pay him 50% upfront. I did all of the above.

I worked from home for 2 days while the house was being painted. Everything was fine. I had to go into work the last day (day 3). I went to the house after work and saw that that the floors are covered in paint! The bedrooms and stairs have carpet and they have a ton of paint splatter all over.

I called the painter asking him to clean up and he refused saying that it was my responsibility. He also told me that I owed him the balance 50% because the job was completed.

We do not have a written agreement. I saw him painting my neighbor's house - liked his work and asked him to paint mine.

I want to deduct the cleaning expenses and pay him the balance. Is that legally allowed?  If not, what are my options?

Answer:
 Take pictures. Pay him. Demand he pay for the damages. When he doesn't, sue him for the damages.

Never hire anyone to do anything again without a written contract that specifies who is responsible for what and when.  Not even someone to cut your grass.

Don't hire "contractors" that don't put everything on paper.  Don't do business with back of the van contractors who insist you pay for all supplies and materials **and** half the cost up front. That's absurd.

Make absolutely sure you get a lien release before you let anyone touch anything on your property. Example: I hired a guy to pour some concrete in two places. I paid him $1,800. Concrete got poured, all is well. A month later, the concrete supplier comes knocking on my door wanting $800.00 for the concrete. I tell him I paid already and his dispute was with the guy who got the concrete. With no waiver, it turns out I'm the guy who got the concrete.


Title: [OH/IN] My niece [19] moved in with my husband and I[28m/27f] & is renting a room from us and her mom is trying to claim we stole her bedroom furniture.

Question:
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Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: This is a civil dispute between your niece and her parents. If these things were given to her as a gift, your niece owns them and she can take them wherever she wants. Her parents don't get to change her mind about that. You also have no right to tell anyone else that they can come get your tenant's furniture. She's your tenant and you have an obligation to not give her stuff away. My advice is to stay out of t and let them deal with it. If a cop comes to the door, say nothing and don't let them in without a warrant. If you are sued, respond.


Title: Pregnant, planning on adopting child out, possibly privately (not thru agency), question about lawyer need regarding birth father.

Question:
Little back story on him, he said he wanted a family, we got pregnant the first fucking try, of course, and 2 weeks later he decided he was scared shitless and mentally/emotionally abused me.

Fast forward a month, he messages me a cryptic suicide note. I tell him Im pregnant, leave me alone.

Fast forward 2 more months, last week, he messages me saying, loosely, when he gets back into town we should talk, he misses me, and I think he wants to take some form of responsibility.
Well, I got excited but decided he was just toying with me again.
I decided about 3 days ago, today more firmly, that adoption is best for my situation.

After reaching out for advice on an Adoption forum a woman and her husband going through private routes to adopt with a lawyer reached out to me with interest in my child.
Nothing offensive, very kind lady that I think I'd love to help. She talks with me, it's nice.

Anyways, I'm wondering how badly I need a lawyer in my situation. Can I trust hers with the matter of the birth father? And since I'm assuming this guy is just gonna be relieved to be rid of his situation, I was going to just call him today, say no go on meeting up, to leave me alone, that I'm blocking him and that when the time comes a lawyer may reach out with whatever info is needed.
I live in WA state and it seems like the law is that you don't always need birth father consent. It is sooo not possible that he would fight for parental rights, but someone mentioned talking to a lawyer first.
The couple I'm talking with is offering up their lawyer's info if I have questions. So can I just talk with him about it? They're in Indiana, if that matters.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 You absolutely need a lawyer, especially since you met this couple online and don't actually know them. Do not trust their lawyer.Answer #2: You NEED a lawyer. Look for one that specializes in adoption. Most will work the contract so the people adoption (receiving the child) assume the legal fees of the person providing the child.

But absolutely get your own attorney. Before you go any further.


Title: Can a university falsely advertise a degree plan? Is there any legal wrongdoing in enrolling students based on certain degree plans and then never offering those degrees?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The short answer is, yes, depending on state law you could conceivably have a case based in misrepresentation of the availability of classes and degrees that it turns out are not available.  The longer answer is, only a lawyer whom you retain for this specific purpose would be able to determine whether you in fact have a claim and whether it could help you to file a lawsuit.

You should be able to find a lawyer whose resume includes consumer fraud lawsuits and/or education law.  Plaintiffs lawyers, i.e. lawyers who sue on behalf of wronged parties tend to offer free consultations that can help determine whether you have a case.

Also, throwing out a thought that occurs to me as I write this: perhaps someone who knows about this sort of thing can weigh in on whether this can potentially be a qui tam lawsuit if federal student aid was involved.Answer #2: u/i_work_in_hied

Any guidance?Answer #3: I work for a for-profit university and yes. You have a case. Contact the department of education, starting at the state level and then national if that doesn't work.


Title: Sold a Used Car 8 Months Ago and Owner Wants Their Money Back

Question:
I sold a used car 8 months ago (to the day, oddly) and I get a text today from the new owner. It went like this:

Hi rehpotsirhc123, this is (new owner)… I'm the one who bought (used car). It has not been able to pass emissions after getting numerous things done to it. I have spent over 2500. I am hiring an attorney if you cannot give me the money back. They will not let me transfer the title or registration.

I know that this lady has pretty much no leg to stand on as far as suing me but I was wondering how to handle her if she keeps trying to contact me or shows up at my work because that's where I sold her the car. I didn't respond to her text and do not plan on responding to it.

Edit: State is Wisconsin and I think I sold the car for $1200 with no bill of sale and I had her write in whatever she wanted on the title for the sale price, which I think she put $500 at the advice of the old guy she brought with her, to avoid paying as much in sales tax when she registered it.

Answer:
 Generally speaking, used cars are sold As-Is unless otherwise stated. There's a few places that have lemon laws, but they are usually on new vehicles and 8 months is a long time. Don't pay him a cent.

"Hey person I sold my car to. Please go pound sand. Don't contact me again."

He'll talk to a lawyer who will tell him he's got no case. If you get served, make sure you show up for your court date. You will not lose here. Answer #2: In WI, not only state but also county matters. What county do you live in, and which does the buyer live in?


Title: [NY] Is it legal to break into a vending machine if my food is stuck? (serious)

Question: Let's say I purchase a snack from a vending machine and it gets stuck. I am in a rush and cannot possibly wait for a service technician to come and assist me, and I am hungry and want my snack right then and there. Am I legally allowed to break into the machine to retrieve what I purchased?

Answer:
 Can you destroy expensive property you don't own to recover something that cost $1.00 or so?

You're entitled to a refund.  You're not entitled to the snack to the point where breaking into the machine would be lawful.  Unless there is also a starving baby inside at the time your snack jams.Answer #2: Still vandalism whether you paid for it or not, even logic dictates that's just a bad idea in whichever situation. Just take a picture of the ownership tag, should have a phone number or company name. When you have time call them, tell them what happened, and they'll get you your money or your snack when you have time, that's why I've done and it works out well.Answer #3: No.  You would be damaging private property. Also, I can't think of a situation in wich it would be ESSENTIAL to get a snack


Title: Can an 18 year old DATE a 17 year old

Question:
Background: I live in Seattle, Washington, and I've been single for like 3 years, I finally decide to start finding someone; it doesn't have to be very long term, just for experience.

A few weeks ago I found someone who seems to have an interest in me but then I remember I'm only a month away from becoming 18 and she's a year younger than me. Every where I look talks about statutory rape laws, and every site has different information. In my mind, I think it should be legal to date anyone within a year or two, but obviously, laws don't work based on how I think they should. Does anyone know if I can go out with her without risk of being accused of pedophilia or rape or something?

Side note: unlike so many people in my school, I don't have a problem keeping it in my pants, But false accusations happen.

Answer:
 Dating her is legal.

DO NOT send her any naked pictures and don't let her send you any. That is illegal until both of you are 18.


Title: I wrote to a website asking about the shipping cost to Europe for some items. Without even answering, they sent me the items and now want me to pay $100 in shipping costs.

Question:
Edit: Thanks again for your advice! I figured before turning to my country's consumer protection, I should email the website again explaining that I'm not willing to pay the full shipping costs. They just told me that they're going to simply write it off as a loss and that's it. Phew. :)

I'm actually from Europe, but as the website I ordered the items from is based in the US (Washington), I figured this subreddit would be the right place.

A while ago I wrote an email to a website that used to sell some small gimmick items a few years back. I asked them if they still had some of them in stock, and if yes, if I could still buy them and how much shipping them to Europe would cost. They said that they still had some of those items and that they needed my approximate location to calculate the shipping costs, so I sent them my full address (which, in hindsight, might have been not that clever). So far I had only asked them about the exact price of the items and the shipping costs, but never received a direct answer to any of that.

In fact, I didn't hear anything from them for a while; until I received a huge-ass package a few days ago, which not only contained the items I asked about but also a lot of other cool stuff. Checking my emails this morning, I saw that they had sent me an invoice for about $150, with shipping amounting to $100 and charging me $50 for ALL of the items they had sent me; the items I asked about would have amounted to about $30. They argued that because shipping was that expensive, they added other items to make it "worthwhile".

If I had known that shipping cost that much, I would have never agreed to that purchase. Do I really have to pay for that or the full price, although I never agreed to neither the shipping costs nor the extra items? Or did I somehow signed a contract by giving them my full address? The website is not even a real online shop, although they used to have one, if that it some valuable info. Or do I have to refer to European law for that?

TL;DR: Asked about shipping costs from the US to Europe for some items. Never heard from them again. Received a package with said items, and was charged $100 for shipping afterwards.
Topic:
Consumer Law

Answer: Can you tell us which website, Id like to receive some free shit too. Common scam. Wouldn't mind obliging their generous offer.Answer #2: Where in Eureope are you (which country) if it's the EU then there are some pretty sweet consumer protection laws in place.Answer #3: Common scam


Title: 16 Year Old Needs Help w/ Traffic Citations

Question:
Hi! I've never been on this sub before so please forgive me if I'm posting this in the wrong place.
So I'm 16 and I live in New Mexico. On Christmas night I got into a small fender bender that was definitely my fault, I freaked out and sped off, the person I hit called the cops and I was detained that night. I was cited with Hit and Run, Reckless Driving, Driving without a Licence, Driving without Insurance, and Driving an unregistered Vehicle. As I understand, Hit and Run is a misdemeanor in New Mexico, as is Driving without a license and Reckless Driving. The court date is tomorrow at 1:00pm. I'm not sure whats going to happen and I'm absolutely freaking out. Also, I'm an immigrant who immigrated to the US illegally in 2002, when I was still a baby. Ive never been given a ticket for anything. I fear getting deported, but im not sure if that'll happen.

I know I screwed up big time, I don't need another lecture, I need advice and if you have any idea of what might happen tomorrow please tell me, I'm prettu desperate right now. thanks.

edit: another question, could a 16 year old be deported? im not sure, if it helps i turn 17 on January 22nd.

edit: sorry one more, could my parents be deported? my dad has been deported before several times, and my mother has never been deported. i also have to younger brothers, one 15 years old and one 8 years old, the 15 year old was born in midland texas and the 8 year old was born in Albuquerque New Mexico, what could end up happening to my family, if anything?

edit: sorry, one more, i understand that in new mexico a juvenile can be tried as an adult from age 15 under certain circumstances, does that meam i could be tried as an adult?
also i saw that reckless driving can sometimes mean 5 mandatory days of jail time, could i be taken into custody?

Answer:
 You need a lawyer.

Go to court tomorrow, plead not guilty, and ask if you can be appointed a public defender. If you do not qualify for a public defender you'll need to hire your own criminal defense attorney. In either case, tell your lawyer everything you know, and then do what he tells you.


Title: Can I put a spy camera in my car to catch wife cheating?

Question:
Found suspicious texts from my wife's coworker.  I know she is cheating, but want solid proof before I see the lawyer next week.
She drives him home from work a lot. And they work nights. Can I place a small camera in my car to catch anything? The car is in my name, title, payments, everything, so it's my property. Just not sure if filming someone without their consent is legal.
I'm in Virginia.

Answer:
 Hire a PI, it's legal and neutral. Answer #2: If they have a reasonable expectation of privacy, then the answer is no.

So I'm going to go with no here.Answer #3: Careful - especially if the camera records audio.

Taken from a law blog - "Virginia is a one party consent jurisdiction and Virginia Code § 19.2-62 makes it a crime to intercept wire, electronic or oral communications, except if one party of the conversation consents to it. Again, this means that if you are participating in the conversation then you may record the conversation without the consent of the other parties, but if you are not participating in the conversation (the other parties do not know you are listening), then you need at least one party to the conservation to consent to the recording." (https://www.stevenkriegerlaw.com/blog/in-virginia-may-i-secretly-record-a-conversation-and-is-the-recorded-conversation-admissible-as-evidence-in-court)


Title: What happens if you do illegal things online without knowing as a kid

Question: I realized my friends used to post fake tax forms as a joke but I realized that that's pretty illegal and I'm a bit worried for them.

Answer: We have no way of guessing. ANywhere between nothing and criminal charges


Title: Who owns the cat?

Question: We adopted a kitten from a shelter and never got around to updating g the mandatory microchip. In the event she gets o in t, would papers trump the microchip? Texas

Answer: You like the kitten right? You want to get it back if it is lost? Then update the chip. It usually requires a 5min phone call. The problem otherwise is that if someone finds the cat you may not have a chance to show anyone papers since no one will know to contact you in the first place.


Title: Pennsylvania - my stepfather is dying of multiple myeloma. I would like for him to adopt me. I'm 29 years old.

Question:
My stepfather has been in my life longer than my own father and now that he has been diagnosed with stage 3 multiple myeloma, I want him to know how much I love him and how he's been the best stepfather ever.

How much are adult adoption costs in PA? Would we have to have a court hearing? What documents would I need? My mom and bio dad were divorced over 20 years ago... would I still need proof they were divorced? I don't know what other questions to ask so if someone could fill me in that would be great.

Answer:
 Pennsylvania is not the easiest state to do this in but largely because they precluded adoptions that have inherent risk such as one party having previously had a felony or the two parties involved previously having had a sexual relationship.
However you do not need to prove that your parents were divorced and you do not even need the consent of your biological parents for this.
If you and your stepfather both agree that this is what you want the legal path is fairly smooth.

https://bierlyandrabuck.com/adoption-services/adopt-an-adult-in-pennsylvania/


Title: Someone I know hacked my email and facebook.

Question:
They guessed my passwords then changed the password and recovery to both accounts.

They have been sending messages as me for a month harassing my friends on facebook.

Since I know the person and address. Is this a police matter to get my life back. I confront the person and they laugh and tell me they wont give it back.

Im 30 in maryland.

Answer:
 In theory there are laws about this. In practice, right or wrong, you'll probably get laughed out of the police station.

Do you not have any way to recover these accounts? No phone number associated with them?


Title: Hit and run in Minnesota. Need help.

Question:
Earlier today I was involved in a hit and run and I'm freaking out about what I should do.

I was heading home from a long night of drinking with my buddy when I guess I fell asleep behind the wheel. My car must have swerved because I woke up too the bumps of the side of road. Before I could regain control of the car I hit something. I say something because I'm not sure what it was. I was too close to see whatever it was with my headlights.

I knew I was possibly DUI so I was freaking out and just drove straight home. First thing I did when I got home was look at the damage. My front left bumper and fender had some scuffs on them but not it wasn't bad.

At this point I'm not sure what I should I do. I'm worried I may have hit someone's dog or something but I don't want to get charged with a DUI. I also don't have car insurance right now so I could be sued for whatever I hit.

Is there anyway I could report this anonymously? I really can't afford an attorney or to be sued right now. Please help.

Answer:
 >Is there anyway I could report this anonymously?

What exactly do you plan on reporting anonymously?

> I really can't afford an attorney or to be sued right now

Then you shouldn't drive drunk and/or without insurance.

Don't talk to the police if they come to ask you any questions and look into some good lawyers.


Title: I purchased a "new" vehicle for full price but later realized the car had 300 miles on it. What can I do?

Question:
Details: The car was brought from a another dealership. This was in South Carolina.

Edit: Answered. TY everyone. It was actually for an uncle who doesn't speak english well and I guess he felt cheated. I explained. ty

Answer: 300 miles is reasonable for a new car which was driven to another dealership and was previously test driven on the lot. Answer #2: The odometer reading is generally on your paperwork that you sign ...Answer #3: 300 miles is pretty close to newAnswer #4: 300 miles is new.. that engine wasn't even fully broke in yet. That's from dealers trading cars and being to cheap to ship it via truck, and test drives.


Title: Silver Bar Scam

Question:
—California—
My father placed an order he saw in the newspaper with for silver bars. He gave all his info and completed the order for $590. He was happy to tell everyone and when I heard about it I investigated further and found out this company is basically scamming its customers. Within 1 hour of the transaction, I had my father call the bank and cancel the pending transaction. The CSR told us there was no pending transaction. We were confused but elated, so we asked how can we stop this company from charging his visa.  CSR suggested we cancel the card and get a new one issued with a new number. We did exactly that. 14 days later, a package from was received. My dad stored it aside never opened to this day waiting for the company to ask for it back. Forward, 2 weeks later my father finds out that company pushed the transaction through the bank but with...get this, my mother's visa card. How is the world did they get mother's visa when it was never given to them by either my mom or dad. Dad was confused as was my mother. He again calls the bank and disputes the charge. The are investigating. They also suggested that my mother cancels her existing card and get a new one to prevent this from happening. Forward a month later, We find out the charges are pushed through because that company provided documents with my mother's visa # and not my father's. So we are still in the process of disputing it first thing Monday as the bank's dispute coordinator is not available on the weekend.

I have a feeling that it will come down to he said she said. I mean, how can we prove that my father only gave his number. This company never had access to mother's number placing an unauthorized charge with her card. Anyone have any ideas the best way to proceed? Does anyone have any idea how this company got my mother's visa #?

There is one fact that was interesting to me. In this company's claim to my father's bank, they state the following "This order was placed over a recorded line with a live operator." If my bank heard this "recorded line" they would know immediately that my father nor my mother DID NOT authorize my mother's visa card. The only visa card number given to over the conversation would be my father's canceled card. Any thoughts/ interpretations on this matter would be appreciated.

Answer: With no pending transaction on the fathers card, i would guess he used the mother's card, for which you have said he is authorized, by mistake and forgot. It happens. return the package.Answer #2: Please cross post this in r/scams. It's a new one to me, but someone over there might have an idea.Answer #3: He can cancel the credit card all he wants but he still owes the money, unless he returns the bars pursuant to federated mint return policy (if there is one)


Title: Job "made a typo" on my contract, forced pay cut and took the difference off my check

Question:
So I took a job to do some extremely specific design and fabrication work (animatronics) for a company I've worked for in the past that has since moved almost 2 hours away from me. I normally wouldn't but it was a really fun project and they were offering $40/hr. More generous than they usually are but then there are not very many people who could do the job.

Couple of weeks go by and it turns out I was "supposed" to have only been offered $30. What I agreed to with the manager was take the pay cut initially and figure the rest out when the owner got back from Hawaii. What happened was the manager took the difference out of my following check. "You can't just expect to be paid extra, that's not how it happens!" I signed a fucking contract that's exactly how it happens. I wouldn't have taken the damn job for $30/hr, my rank and file fabrication job pays more than that and comes with union benefits. No I did not ever sign an amended contract they just started paying me less.

I pointed out that the manager lied to and stole from me and the owner fired me. This is all kinds of illegal, yeah? My dumb self didn't get a copy of the contract at the beginning but I have my pay and timeclock records and texts mentioning the rate, unless they're willing to try and forge a document they'll have to bring the original to court.

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Is this a matter for small claims or should I get an attorney? Is it worth seeking damages over the amount stolen from me? I'm really just angry these guys think they have the right to do this to someone, it's the most entitled bullshit I've ever experienced and I want them to learn a lesson they will not soon forget.

PS: I also dented a rented box truck and dude took another $500 out of my pay to cover the deposit. I'm not as pissed about that one since I was the one who screwed up but then it's also not my company. Is it worth trying to get that back as well?

Answer:
 If you were a contractor/1099 you can sue. (Small claims court of the. total amount is $5000 or less. No attorney required.)

If you were hired as an employee, filled out a W4, you can file a [wage claim](http://labor.hawaii.gov/wsd/filing-a-complaint-with-wage-standards-division/) and let the gov't sort it out. For the box truck too.


Title: Bought a knife for self protection but I'm confused about the laws.

Question:
I'm (21F) planning on traveling alone soon and, as a young women, I always have to be careful about my surroundings. I bought some type of pocket knife online (i'm not an expert at this stuff) and now i'm wondering if it's even legal for me to carry. As far as I know, it is some type of "tactical survival spring assisted folding pocket knife" at least that's what the website says. The blade is probably around 3 inches.

I tried looking up the laws but it wasn't very clear. All i know is that the knife i have has to be manually opened a decent amount before it locks into place. Can anyone help me or tell me where I can find some reliable information?

Oh also, the knife has a car window breaker thing and a seatbelt cutter in case I ever found myself in a car in the water so it would be nice to keep it in my car just in case of anything but i'm not sure if there's laws against that either.

Thanks!

Answer:
 Knife law is extremely location dependent. In many locations pocket knifes are legal to possess.

Practically a pocket knife is a terrible, terrible self defense weapon.Answer #2: First and foremost, a knife for self defense is a highly dangerous idea.

Secondly, many states restrict spring assisted knife ownership.

Keep the knife for utility, buy something that creates space for self defense (taser, spray), if legal. Answer #3: Where are you?  50 states, 50 state laws about carrying a knife.

Legality aside for a second... how much training do you have in using a knife for self defense?  If you're in a situation where you're afraid for your life enough to use a deadly weapon, but all you can do is kind of wave it around and hope you get lucky, you're likely to be unsuccessful in your attempt to defend yourself.


Title: Is it ethical to sign a 30-year mortgage agreement if you're certain that Jesus is coming back before the house will be paid off?

Question:
Was reading reviews of *Left Behind* a long running cliche and masculine favored fringe Evangelical series the begin in 1995; and sold over 50 million copies last time I cared to check.

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Basic summary is the Rapture \[capitals required\] occurs and the chosen are whisked off to Heaven. There is dogma, destruction, and devotion, with little in actual literature. The books are... not great. Not good ever. Like Dan Brown with no adjectives. But  that aside, those who expected this event were rewarded by being Reaptured, which raises the question if one \[like the characters in the book\] really, truthfully believe that they will be Raptured at any moment would they be lying to sign a document such as a mortgage?

Answer:
 Legally they're fine.

The closest real-life scenario would be signing the mortgage knowing that you've got a terminal illness and believing that you're going to die in the next few years.  While that is ethically dubious, it's *legally* fine.  There are regulations, laws, and policies in place to handle the death of a debtor, and there's the implied "If I'm wrong, I understand that I'm still liable for this mortgage".

If you want to get into the ethics and morality... you'll want to find another sub.Answer #2: Legally you are fine. Ethically you are going to hell


Title: If I run a company's Facebook page, do I have the right to delete it if they decide to cease to pay me for it.

Question:
I created it from scratch. They paid me as a subcontractor monthly.  They want to discontinue the page (they are old school and don't understand the relevance of having a Facebook for a company).

Idaho
Topic:
Computer and Internet

Answer: it depends on the terms of the contract, but likely no, usually they bought your service at the time, not a limited license, you just ceae to update.


Title: Getting rid of deadbeat roommate

Question:
This is for a friend, but I'll use first person for clarity. We're in Texas

I let a friend move in with me 3 years ago because she was in a tight spot. I own the property in question. Things haven't been going well, she has never paid me any rent. I asked her to leave and she has become hostile. She's threatened to slash my tires. I heard her talking about calling animal control on my cats. She starts shouting at me in the middle of the night. I had a couple of cops come over to help me move my cats and myself out last week. My cats and my stuff are at a relative's house and I'm couch surfing. She told the police that she's moving out at the end of the month. What are my options? She tells me I have to evict her. She isn't a tenant, do I still have to talk to a lawyer to get her out?

EDIT: What would the repercussions be if I just change the locks?

EDIT: I should have mentioned how extremely broke I am. Lost my job last month.

Answer:
 Yes, you have to evict her.  She has established residency.Answer #2: > She isn't a tenant

Yes she is.

You need to give her a written notice to move, allowing her one month as required by Texas law and specifying the date on which her tenancy will end.


Title: [CO,US] My large corporate landlord is trying to prohibit all package delivery to my apartment

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If your packages are delivered to the property manager's office and they hold them there for you to pick up, they may refuse shipments as a general policy unless your lease requires them to accept shipments.


Title: I was unwillingly taken to the hospital in an ambulance and I cannot afford the ambulance bill.

Question:
I passed out during one of my classes because of a chronic condition I have and was then taken to a hospital (a hospital that was only five miles away) via ambulance. I was unconscious— I never asked anyone to be put in an ambulance because I know how expensive they are. Now I have a $2,000 ambulance bill, and I as an uninsured college student can’t afford to pay for it.

Is there anything I can do to minimize the bill? I never gave anyone permission to put me in a debt-mobile and now I just don’t know what to do.

Answer:
 There is no better example of a reasonable delivery of services than paramedic services to an unconscious person.  You owe this money and your lack of permission is not a factor.

If you have no insurance to cover this you might speak with the provider about any available discounts or programs.

And get your student health insurance.


Title: [GA] Hyatt charged me 2x for a room due to an error on their end. I didn't use 2 rooms, I wasn't even OFFERED 2 rooms. What can I do?

Question:
Through some error on their website, it looks like when I booked 1 room TWO separate bookings were created for 1. the exact same days 2. The exact same name (my name) 3. Stating "1 guest".

I didn't notice this, because hotels don't charge your card until after you stay there.

When I checked in I was not offered 2 rooms. I was only checked into 1 room - nobody even mentioned that I have 2 bookings.

I only used 1 room while I was staying there.

When I checked out, I asked why there were 2 holds on my account and the person at the desk did not mention that I have 2 bookings.

On top of that, I don't live in Atlanta. I had to travel to get there, but I **will** be back in Atlanta this Saturday.

What should I do if they won't refund me? Am I able to make some kind of police report?

It can't be possible for them to charge me for 2 rooms, check me into only 1, and then claim that I owe them $1600 for 2 rooms when nobody mentioned I had multiple bookings, I did not take the room key for 2 rooms, and I only used 1 room...

Answer: What did they say when you brought this to their attention to fix this? I don't see a legal issue, just a mistake.


Title: A company is dumping wastewater from their carpet cleaning equipment.

Question:
Basically everyday they dump it down a pipe at their house which leads to a storm drain and smells god awful all throughout the neighborhood can I report them to the EPA for this and what are the repercussions for myself filing the report and them being found guilty. Location Indianapolis Indiana
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Oh yeah, this is exactly what the EPA was made for.

Assuming the waste has hazardous material in it, your neighbors can be fined, and will be on the EPAs radar forever.  So they'll make surprise visits to inspect the property and make sure everything is kosher.

I worked on a obstacle course game show and we pumped out old water at the end of the season down this stream at the ranch.  We didn't do anything illegal since it was just water, but someone called it in to the EPA and we would get regular visits.  Just someone in a suit, poking around the property.


Title: Doctors say physiotherapist may have injected infected needle during “dry needling” session.

Question:
So here’s the situation.

My mom was experiencing knee pain stemming from tight hips and a doctor recommended for her to see a physiotherapist. So she booked the appointment with the PT at a brand new clinic that was nearby our house.

She had the appointment and the PT thought the best way to treat her tight hip / knee pain was to do some sessions of “dry needling”

During her first session, she found it extremely painful to the point where she was shaking and crying at the pain that the needles brought to her hip where the needles were being punctured into her.

Due to the excruciating pain of the first session she cancelled all remaining sessions and decided to find other ways of treatment.

She found that after the treatment of dry needling that her pain was actually getting worse and it was no longer her knee that was bothering her but instead a pain that would shoot through her right leg.

Eventually, the pain becomes unbearable and she finds her self needing to go to the hospital after the pain progressively intensifies day after day.

And so now here we are at the hospital and the doctors have found that she has inflammation DEEP in her muscle at the location of where the dry needling took place.
The doctor also mentioned that there’s a good chance that the needle they used had bacteria on it and in turn infected deep in her hip/pelvic muscles.

And so, we’re wondering if suing the new clinic / PT is worth considering? Negligence? Malpractice? We don’t really know really if we there’s anything here 🤷🏻♂

TLDR:
Mom goes to physiotherapist to get dry needling done.
Ends up getting worse.
Goes to the hospital.
Doctors tell us that the muscle where needle was injected is now severely inflamed/infected and needle that was used most likely had bacteria causing infection.

Answer:
 Of course, standard disclaimer is typically that med-mal is above the  pay grade of this subreddit so take everything you read here (including this post!) with a grain of salt.

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IANAL, but I am familiar with dry needling.

First, your mother should have been warned about possible side effects prior to treatment.  This is part of informed consent.  This can either be done verbally or written.

Any time the skin is punctured there is a risk of infection.  This goes for dry needling, giving blood (i.e. to test for an infection), or getting an injection such as a vaccine.   Dry needles are single-use sterile needles.  In dry needling the risk is lower than most medical procedures because the needle diameter is so small and not hollow.  Of course, this is assuming normal infection control practices were followed (area swabbed with alcohol, gloves were worn, etc).  If normal infection control was ignored then that changes things.

Aggravation of symptoms is more common risk, and this typically goes away within minutes to 48 hours later.  Inflammation is part of the natural healing process (as long as it's not chronic), and is not inherently bad.

If your mother feels that she was not informed of any risks, or that they were negligent in infection control, you could reach out to a lawyer.  But with ER visits being covered by the health care system it is unlikely that she would have a lot of damages and it may be difficult to find a lawyer to take this case.

But again, take this with a grain of salt.

Anyways, I hope your mother is feeling better soon!


Title: [PA] Our electrical contractor will not respond to requests for an invoice

Question:
Help!

My soon-to-be-ex-wife and I had electrical work performed on our house, which we estimate to total around $10k. The guy basically refuses to send us an invoice, and my soon-to-be-ex is trying to introduce provisions into the divorce that would hold me accountable for half of the invoice whenever he feels like writing one. I'm not on board with that, I want a clean break. He did the work and has been saying he'll write the invoice "when he gets a chance" for almost 3 years now. I've drafted a formal letter of request, which ostensibly says that we've asked more than 5 times over the past few years, have received no invoice, and if we don't receive a response within a month we'll consider all debts paid. I was going to send this via certified mail.

Is this kind of action justified? Is the timeframe reasonable? Is there a statue of limitations on how long he would have to provide an invoice before we simply don't have to pay?

This is basically the only point of contention we have in settling our divorce amicably, so I really want to get it taken care of in the quickest/most efficient way possible.

Thanks in advance for any/all advice.

Answer: Um... I have to say, I've never heard of a contractor who is owed money FOR THREE YEARS and refuses to send an invoice to collect it. Did you have a written contract? I *think* the statute of limitations for collecting a debt is 4 years for a verbal contract and 6 for a written one.


Title: [New Jersey] Ex boyfriend - taking back gifts and threatening to take me to court?

Question:
Hi, /r/legaladvice.

  Recently, my [22m] boyfriend and I [21f] broke up.  Now, he is harassing me with text messages saying he is coming to my address, entering my home, and taking gifts he has given to me throughout our relationship. Note - we never lived together. We have always lived separately.  Any possessions of his were either collected at the time of our breakup or returned to him the following day. This includes clothes, personal hygiene products, books, movies, etc.  He says I owe him big-ticket items he bought me throughout our relationship - jewelry, boots, and even makeup products.  He says if I don't grant him access into my home, he will find a way to get the items back, legally or not.  Because they were bought by him and given to me, are they technically his property?

Thanks in advance!
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 If they were gifts, they are yours.  If they were his but left at your house, they are his.

Even if you actually have things that belonged to him, his only legal recourse would be to sue you (probably in small claims court), prove that they were his, and then get an order from the court that you either return the items or compensate him.  Unless he files suit against you and gets to order, he has no legal way to force you to give them back.

If he tries to enter your house without permission, call the police.  Answer #2: A gift is given without recourse or consideration. If it was a gift he simply doesn't have any interest or standing in them from the moment he cedes control of them. In other words, taking the gifts back is theft.

Given that he is threatening to break and enter, I would talk to the police either in person or by calling the non-emergency number. Tell them what is going on, express concern that he's going to try something, and ask for advice when it comes to mitigating risk. If you are really concerned, there are security camera systems for sale on eBay and Amazon for a couple hundred dollars and single cameras for less than a tenth of that price, if you have a computer with ample hard drive space. If he has a key, change locks as soon as feasible.

The guy is upset, emotional, and irrational. He may or may not actually follow through on anything, so it's important to take simple precautions even if it's far too soon to do anything proactive. That being said, gifts are gone the moment you give them and he doesn't have any legal recourse here.


Title: Chemical burns at work

Question:
[ON,CA]

For starters I'm a teenager who works as a swim teacher at a private swimming pool.

One of the courses the school offers is a 2 week crash course of any level at a pool. My hours at the pool are 9:30-2:00 and 4:45-7:45. The first 4 days went really well; no complaints. On the fifth day I started to feel itchy at about 5:30. The rest of the shift I found myself scratching aggressively. I got out of the water and found out I had a rash all over my body. I bought some allergy meds and put creme all over my body. I texted my boss and let them know the situation. She texted me saying the pool conditions were fine. Fast forward to the next morning, at 12:00 my body gives in to whatever was going on and told my supervisor that I had to go since the situation was getting bad. The rash turned into a burn with hives.  I did the same routine as the night before and texted my boss again to see what was going on. She offered I took the next day off and she said she'd look into the situation. She calls me later and lets me know the chlorine meter was broken and the pool was pouring crazy levels of chlorine into the water. The maintenance team was let go (since they checked once and said it was fine) and we hired a new crew. I'm hoping someone can give me some advice on this situation since even after all this the only real thing I got was the next day off and full pay for the day I left early.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer: I had a similar experience with someone turning the sanitizer in a bakery to concentrate and filling a small bucket.  Unknowingly, I wiped down all the tables thinking the solution was correct.  This caused deep chemical burns from the chlorine based sanitizer that required Prednisone to bring it under control.  Turn it in as a workman's compensation claim just to cover your butt.  It ended up paying my days off as well as covering the prescriptions and numerous doctor visits.


Title: My son's mom put a restraining order on me against my son..

Question:
I woke up this morning to a policeman at my door serving me a restraining order. The Temporary Restraining order says I can't see or talk to my son. The reason is she said my son said I showed him porno and asked if it would be fun to do the things in the video, which were 2 boys putting their penises in each others mouths. It makes me sick to my stomach that this is happening. I have not done these thing's and am wrongfully accused. I live in San Diego and I have tried calling several Pro Bono lawyers and even ones that are not. I am unemployed and need help fast! I already plan on going to the police office and to ask for an investigation and to have my son interviewed by an independent social worked. I also will not contact my ex. I am so afraid of losing my son and I need help!
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Keep looking for attorneys, there also may be legal aid available to you, search around. This order is temporary and there will be a hearing to determine whether to keep it or remove it, do not miss that hearing.