Title: [GA] Vehicular Feticide

Question:
On June 11, I was hit by a jackass off-duty firefighter who was tailgating me.  He had previously gotten out of the car and threatened me because he thought I gave him the middle finger in traffic.  So he followed me and ended up slamming into me at a stop light.  Then at the accident scene he told me that he hoped I'd "learned my lesson."  He had his three small children in the car.

The cop put everything on the police report and ticketed the guy for following too closely but couldn't do anything about the dick's bad behavior without a dash cam.  And dude wasn't admitting to it.  I did get in touch with his county's emergency services community PR/HR person and she filed a disciplinary hearing for him.  I don't have the results of that hearing, I'm assuming its because its private.

I injured my spine a while back in a horseback riding accident and had been in chiropractic care for months earlier in 2016.  So the accident, even at low-speed, fucked up my neck again.  My lower back was also killing me.  I was extremely stressed out from being terrorized by this guy, shaking, nauseous, etc.

I didn't know I was pregnant, approximately 4-6 weeks.  The next day I had a miscarriage.  Because it was a Sunday, there really wasn't a lot to be done; my gyno is a 90 minute drive and I basically just put on an overnight pad, took a 1000mg ibuprofen tablet and a Lorazapam, and went on with my life.

By the time I was able to get to my gyno, they did a pregnancy test for hCG, none was found and I didn't require a D&C because of the early stage of the pregnancy.  So I have nothing but my word that I had a miscarriage.

Vehicular feticide is a felony in Georgia.  As a conservative state, there is no legal specification for how old a fetus has to be for feticide to be considered.  I'm pissed as hell at that douchebag that hit me, after terrorizing me and attempting to run me off the road, and I think he deserves to go to jail.  However, I didn't officially notify anyone that I lost a pregnancy.

I'm on Wellbutrin for depression, my fiance dumped me, my October wedding was cancelled, and I had to move in with my mother.  I've been seeing a chiropractor since mid-June, used alternative pain management centers, and visited my neurologist.  I started grinding my teeth and gave myself TMJ.  I used to sleep like a rock, now I have night terrors; waking up screaming, sweaty and terrified.

I really don't want to get a lawyer and do a years-long song-and-dance over this.  I want to move on with my life.  But I also want his insurance to pay for all my medical treatment, including treatment I will require in the future.  I also want this guy punished, he's a menace to society.

Do I have any options?

Answer:
 You've got a lot of things going on here not the least of which is your own mental state.   How much out of pocket expenses do you have because of the accident?  Are you seeing a counselor or therapist?

In terms of a criminal charge, you said there is no medical evidence of a miscarriage. Answer #2: > The next day I had a miscarriage. Because it was a Sunday, there really wasn't a lot to be done; my gyno is a 90 minute drive and I basically just put on an overnight pad, took a 1000mg ibuprofen tablet and a Lorazapam, and went on with my life.
By the time I was able to get to my gyno, they did a pregnancy test for hCG, none was found and I didn't require a D&C because of the early stage of the pregnancy. So I have nothing but my word that I had a miscarriage.

How long between the miscarriage and the gyno appointment?

I don't want to call you a liar at this time without more information but the GYNO would have detected the hCG.

> It takes an average of 19 days for hCG to disappear from the body, but this can vary based on how high your hCG level was at the time of your miscarriage. **It can take around a week to return to zero with a chemical pregnancy (a very early pregnancy loss)** or over a month with a later loss.

https://www.verywell.com/positive-pregnancy-after-a-miscarriage-2371516


Title: Does this count as sexual harassment and will i get in trouble too if i try to report it

Question:
Hi I'm Danica and I'm 16 and i live in wisconsin.  I work at a restaurant that my boss is the owner, and he's also my friend's dad.  Ever since I started working here he has always said sexual stuff about me and i haven't said anything about it because i didn't want to get fired and also i like the compliments sometimes tbh.  some of the other girls who work here told me that he says stuff like that about them too.  At first he would just say compliment to me about my boobs and stuff and i would always just say thank you but for a while now he has also been asking me sexual questions like if i'm a virgin or what kind of stuff i have done with guys before and usually i have answered him bc i get nervous but one time he asked about if i shave my private parts of not and i didn't want to answer him and he got pretty angry when i didn't answer him so i just told him anyway.  sometimes he also asks me if i want to watch him jerk off in his car but i have always said no when hes asked.

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the main issue is that sometimes if we are sick or if it's not busy he will let us leave early but he will only let us leave if we show him our boobs and stuff.  he said its a tax for slackers and tbh i have done it before when i was sick or when i just wanted to leave.  he told me one time that he fired a girl because she asked to leave early and he told her to show her boobs and she didnt do it but she still went home.  so i have done it because i don't want to get fired and he always compliments me and stuff anyway.  i really like my job and i like having money and i really don't want to get fired for not following the rules even though i think the rules are kind of weird.

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the reason i am making this post is because today at work i wasn't even trying to leave early but i went to talk to my boss bc i am going to illinois in a few weeks to see my grandma bc my aunt died recently.  and so i told him i would need to take 5 days off and he said he doesn't let his employees miss that much times unless they make it up to him.  and so i asked him what i would have to do and i told him i would work more hours since school is over now but he said if i had sex with him he would let me take a whole week off and he would pay me for working even if i didnt work.  and i said no and he got pretty mad about it and said he would fire me if i took that much time off.  and i said i didn't have a choice bc it's my family's decision.  and so he asked what i would do to make it up and i told him again that i would work extra hours to make up for it but he still said that wouldn't work and he told me i would have to have sex with him unless i could think of another way to pay him back.  i got kind of upset because i though i was gonna get fired and he told me he was sorry for getting angry and that he would let me take those days off if i got naked in front of him.  so i took off my shorts and panties like he told me too and he just looked at me for a while and he gave me a bunch of compliments and told me i could take the days off i needed.

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when i got home he texted me on snapchat and he said he hopes that i appreciate all the stuff he does for me and i said i do and he basically told me after my vacation i would need to start doing more for him in order to keep my job since he lets me leave early sometimes and stuff.  and i was really trying to make him understand i didnt want to have sex with him bc i am a virgin but he basically just told me that if i quit or if i stop doing what he says that he would tell my parents and my friends that i did slutty stuff for him.  he said that he could get me in trouble too bc it's illegal for me to show my boobs and vagina since i'm underage and i cant prove that he asked me to do it, he said its prostituting.  i am just really scared tbh and i don't know what i should do.  i'm really scared to tell my mom because she will be really angry that i showed my body to him.  i have gotten in trouble for being slutty before and i'm scared of how she will react this time if i tell her.

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so basically my questions are is he allowed to tell my family about the stuff i did if i quit or get fired?  and does it count as sexual harrassment what he's doing?  and is there any way i can deal with this without quitting and without telling my mom? bc i really don't want to get in trouble but i also don't want to lose my job bc i really really need money.   thank you for reading

Answer: Oh my god, please tell an adult that you know well and trust as soon as you can so that you can have some support when reporting this to the police. It's sexual harassment plus lots of other stuff.


Title: Ex-girlfriend wants cat custody and property restitution after moving out. Massachusetts.

Question:
Early in September, I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years, primarily because she was verbally/emotionally abusive.

We had a lease on the house that ran until mid-January. Since this happened, a notice to quit was put out (which she signed), and I've signed a new lease as the only tenant which goes into effect on November 15th.

I gave her $2350 to pack and ship her things to Hawaii. She came during one weekend with a friend to pack her things and return her key. Her house key is now in my possession, and the locks and garage code on the house have all been changed.

While she was here, she assembled a list of belongings she was unable to find. The total value of these belongings is probably less than $300.

We had two cats "together". One of them was in my possession before we started dating, the other we got while dating. They are both microchipped, and the information on their chips points to me. All their vet records are in my name, and I've spent thousands on their medical care over the last 2-3 years.

My ex is messaging me every day on Facebook now about restitution for her missing items. She also is referring to the cats as "ours", even though I'm pretty sure legally they're mine. She also wants custody of one of the cats. She found mold in a food bowl while she was here getting her things (there's an explanation for that, and I immediately bought a new bowl with an anti-microbial coating upon finding out), but I believe she's going to use a photo of that as evidence that I'm not properly taking care of them.

When it comes to the restitution, I gave her that $2350 and there's no record on what she spent it on. For all I know, she pocketed almost all the money, and now she's asking for more. I also don't understand how I could turn over one of the cats when all of that cat's records are in my name.

/r/legaladvice, what do I do? I know I have no legal obligation to respond to her messages, but I'm afraid she's going to take me to civil court if I stop. Do I have an airtight case? How do I legally protect myself and the cats?

Answer:
 > what do I do

Block her and move on with your life.

She has no case for "restitution" for shit she couldn't be bothered to pack. If she wants her things she can come get them. There is no such thing as "cat custody." Cats are property. You paid for them, so they're your property.


Title: Employer is refusing to allow me to return to work, threatening to fire me due to a medical condition, is demanding access to confidential employee health information. (Warning: long, sorry)

Question:
Location: MD, USA

SUPER LONG: TL;DR AT BOTTOM

Good morning, everyone. I'm in a bit of a strange situation right now, and was hoping I may be able to get some helpful advice here. Using a throwaway, because at least one coworker knows my main.

BACKGROUND:

A brief bit about my health: I have severe, treatment-refractory Bipolar Disorder NOS (Not Otherwise Specified, meaning I don't fit into any of the neat little diagnostic boxes). I've tried over 20 drugs, of every class, to control my symptoms. For various reasons, I'm unable to take all but one; others have always made things worse rather than better. Despite this, I'd consider myself fairly high-functioning. I hold down a job, take night classes at university, go to the gym 3x/wk, and am a member of two social clubs based on hobbies (my therapist's suggestion). I'm in regular outpatient psychiatric and psychological treatment, and I am 100% med compliant.

For the past 4 years, I've worked at a small company (less than 15 employees, plus the perpetually rotating pool of 3-5 interns) doing clinical trials for pharmaceuticals. I enjoy my job, and I'm pretty good at it. I get along well with all my coworkers, and both monitors and auditors (the scary versions of monitors) have always made a note of how pleased they are with my data and documentation on any study I've worked on. I have a great working relationship with all of them.

The one person I have never had a good working relationship with is my employer. And keep in mind, small business, my employer is the business owner, there is no HR, there is no way around or above this person. My employer is the poster child for hostile work environment, and has been since I've known them. Since I've been there, 8 people have directly cited my employers poor treatment (being *literally* screamed at in front of other employees, personal insults, and punitive measures for any perceived slight or wrongdoing) when quitting. I have experienced this all as well, and consider it a huge accomplishment (especially with a disorder that makes keeping a continuous work history near impossible) that I've managed to toughen up and last this long. For reference: Of those previously mentioned 8 employees, 3 of them lasted less than a month (our record is four days!), and an additional employee suffered a mental breakdown due to abuse by our employer after 3 weeks, and never came back.

THE PROBLEM:

A week and a half ago, I went to a psychological crisis center seeking interventional counseling (I did this after my work day had ended). Unexpectedly, I was involuntarily taken to a nearby hospital for an evaluation, and was discharged the following day with no holds or marks on my record. This is the first time in my life this has ever happened, and NGL, it was fairly traumatic. I kept my direct supervisor (avoid my employer like the plague) constantly updated, but gave very few details. The next day I followed up with my psychiatrist, who was of the opinion that I needed a few (3 total, including the 2nd day of hospitalization) days of bed rest. Still keeping the supervisor updated. It's SOP in my office that if you're OOO for 2 or more days due to injury or illness, you must provide documentation stating that you have seen a healthcare provider. So, on my first day back to work, I bring all this documentation with me: a heavily redacted discharge summary from the hospital, and a note from my psychiatrist stating that I needed to be excused from work for those 3 days. Case closed, right?

I immediately went to speak to employer to give them these documents. At this point, she claims she had sent a FedEx overnight letter (she never did, actually) requesting more, ah...*stringent* documentation. More on that in a moment. I've been working for this employer for several years, I've had to repeatedly submit doctor's notes for appointments, all bearing the signature of a licensed psychiatrist (whom she even knows personally); she is aware that I have a mental illness of some kind and am in treatment for it. She then goes on to tell me how unsatisfied with me she is. I'm not always 100% alert (antipsychotics will do that to you), I seem tired and uninterested (again, see above), that I'm not her most productive worker (true, but we can't all be employee of the month every month; I get my job done), that I'm sometimes late (we've had three separate conversations about flex time and how it's a thing that I get because of my illness, but she never seems to remember that; I always work my required number of hours), and, oh, this is my favorite one: How I *literally*, according to her, spend 1-2 hours of my daily 4 hour shift (one of her punitive measures last year that I actually ended up preferring, much to her annoyance) standing outside smoking. I DON'T EVEN SMOKE. I quit *awhile* ago. So she's blatantly lying there. Not the first time for that.

The next part of the conversation is where I immediately thought: damn, I should check this out with r/legaladvice. She straight up threatens to fire me due to my mental illness, specifically if all symptoms are not eliminated. It's a severe, potentially fatal, lifelong illness. I wish that was an option, but that's not how the brain works. She then complained about the side effects from any medications I've taken in the last year, and actually straight up asked me to stop taking my (life-saving) medical treatment. Her words: " I don't care, I'm only interested in the bottom line. ...I mean, I do care, but the bottom line is most important, and you're hurting that. Can't you just stop taking it and do more natural methods instead?" I don't know, boss, would you ask a diabetic to stop taking their necessary insulin in favor of more natural methods? Because that's equally insane. Actually, my case is more insane (no pun intended) because we WORK with the mentally ill. She's worked with bipolar patients for almost 20 years.

She then told me that she was forbidding me to return to work until she received the documentation she *actually* wanted. What she wants: A statement that I'm currently receiving ongoing outpatient treatment. She already knows I am, but sure, that's not a problem. The problematic ones: she wants a letter from psychiatrist "psychiatrically clearing" me to return to work, with the expectation that I'll suddenly become a Stepford employee. Basically a "You are healed, child!" letter. THEN she wants me to submit to a number of psychological rating scales, administered by my supervisor, at our office, to prove I'm suddenly not sick anymore. Uh... You don't get that. That's confidential employee health information, as far as I'm aware.

And then the lowest blow of all: "I know your brother just died in a freak accident, but that's no excuse for this kind of performance." Count to 10... deep breaths... don't punch her in the face. All good.

TL;DR

My employer is threatening to fire me for my mental illness and/or my adherence to a treatment plan. My illness is classified as a disability in the state of Maryland, and so I feel like this would be discrimination or wrongful termination.

My employer is demanding personal and invasive medical information. In Maryland, it is illegal for employers to request, make conditional, or obtain confidential employee medical information.

Tbh, the only reason I'm still there is because it gets me out of the house for 4 hours a day (which my therapist says it's good in building structure), and because I'm trying to rebuild a respectable CV after Bipolar ravaged my work history in my 20s.

My question is, how do I approach this situation? Maryland is an at-will state, so proving wrongful termination would be difficult. I can absolutely get her to repeat everything she said into a voice recorder, but as far as I know, Maryland is a two-party consent state for recordings, so it couldn't be used to prove discrimination against disability. What should I do about her attempting to dig into my medical records? Do I have any recourse at all here???

Thanks for talking the time to read, sorry it was so long. I appreciate any advice you lot are willing to give, thank you!
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 If it’s over 15 employees, the ADA applies.

Have you requested reasonable accommodations in accordance with the ADA? You say you get treatments and your employer knows, but have you specifically requested accommodation under the ADA?Answer #2: Assuming the interns bump the total employee count above 15, I believe the ADA would come into play. She would owe you a reasonable accomodation for your qualifying disability. She is owed documentation that you have a disability that needs accomodation. You can easily look up the process online.

Keep in mind that poor work performance is not something that is likely to be accomodated.Answer #3: http://mccr.maryland.gov/Pages/Employment-Discrimination.aspx

This looks like MD's civil Rights commission; they may be able to help. There's a place in there to file a complaint if you feel you're being treated differently due to your disability (which you may be if the things she wants you to do are not being applied to everyone) and if she fires you for not complying.

I would recommend getting her to say what she wants from you in writing. A paper trail always helps.Answer #4: Make sure you request accommodation in writing. Also any documents you provide to her should be provided electronically or certified mail.


Title: [UT] Roommate skipped out on lease, lease has ended, and we had to move his belongings to avoid fees incurred by property management. Can we throw them away?

Question:
Back in February one of my roommates decided to move out of our apartment without removing himself from the lease or selling his contract. It was a pretty shitty thing to do as he still owed us money and didn't even give us a 24 hour notice before the next rent payment was due. We intend to take him to small claims court for some things we had to pay on his behalf but that is not what this post is about.

What's relevant to my question is that this roommate moved out in February and did not keep in contact with us after. He did however leave some of his furniture at our apartment, and when our lease had ended (in late May) we decided to move it to our new place rather than keep it there because we did not want to have to pay any sort of disposal fees.

On June 7th we sent him a message on every communication platform we could think of informing him that if he did not pick up his couches by the end of the month then we would take them to the dump. What I'm wondering is:

If we remove his property and take it to the dump, can he sue us for that, even though we provided a notice with a timeframe for him to remove it by?

I have tried to find information on this but I am having a hard time finding a reputable source, so any info from you guys would be appreciated.

TL;DR can I throw away someone else's stuff if they left it at my apartment? Just look at the title I guess.

Answer:
 This is what I found concerning Landlord - Tenant law in Utah:

>Utah Code Section 78B-6-816 authorizes the landlord to sell or donate the tenant's personal property if it has been stored for at least 15 calendar days and the tenant has made no reasonable effort to get the property back, and no court hearing about the property is pending.

>Unless the landlord has already sold or donated the property, the tenant has an additional 15 calendar days to get it back if the tenant provides:

> * a police report or protection order for situations of domestic violence;
* verification by a medical provider of an extended hospitalization; or
* a death certificate or obituary for the tenant's death (provided by an immediate family member).

>If the tenant fails to get his or her personal property in time, the landlord does not have to return the property or pay the tenant for the value of the property.

Unfortunately, I haven't found anything related to the roommate relationship.


Title: Hit by an uninsured driver.

Question:
This weekend I was rear ended in Kentucky. The driver asked if we could settle it without going through insurance which made me suspicious but I called the police to file a report. To my surprise she had insurance info on the police report. When I called her insurance company to file a claim they informed me they did not have a policy for her, meaning she gave the officer false info.

I have (minor) damages to my car and don't know what to do to make sure she pays. Do I go back to the cops and tell them? Will they even do anything?

Thanks in advance.

Answer: Call your own insurance company. You'll be responsible for the deductible, which you can then sue the other driver for.


Title: Boss's wife brought illegal stun gun into country while on vacation

Question:
My boss and his wife (Americans) have been in Paris, France this week for work followed by a vacation. He just discovered his wife packed her stun gun in her checked baggage which from what he's been ~~reading~~ (edit: assuming) is illegal in the country. He's trying to figure out how to handle the situation. He's considered going to the Embassy and asking them or just tossing it in a public trash can.

How serious is this and what are some of his options for handling this situation properly?

Edit: I guess he was just assuming they were illegal but it doesn't look like the case. His flight home is direct back to a weapon friendly state so unless someone can think of any travel problems he might have he'll probably just keep it in the luggage and fly back with it. The TSA says stun guns are ok in checked baggage so unless there is a potential issue checking the baggage at the Paris airport I think he might be fine.
Topic:
Non-US

Answer:
 I would be very surprised if it is legal for a civilian foreigner to own a stun gun in France, or most of Europe, indeed.

If it was me, I'd toss it in a sewer. Also remember that it isn't TSA that will be screening his luggage prior to boarding his flight in France to go home, it is the French version of the TSA. They could very well have a problem with someone possessing this 'weapon' on French soil.


Title: Ex (F27) and I (F22) had a joint credit card, she maxed it out post break-up and I can't get my name off it. What to do?

Question:
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Topic:
Credit Debt Bankruptcy

Answer:
 Sounds like you've gotten her to pay off the card multiple times and simply didn't get around to taking care of it when you had the chance...

I know the past is the past - but if you ever do get her to pay it off again, you need to *TAKE CARE OF IT IMMEDIATELY* - not put it off for another week/month until she maxes out the card again.

You could also have them disable the card - but that still won't force her to pay it.  And as others have said - if she doesn't pay it you are still on the hook for all of the money owed.


Title: [NYC] I have to walk daily to subway station. During this commute, there are some mischievous kids, probably aged 13-14 years, shout n-word and other racial slurs at me. When I try to catch them, they run away. I even don't know who they are or where they leave. I just want them to be stopped. Help.

Question: I live in a mixed ethnic neighborhood.

Answer: Don't try to chase down kids. Nothing good will come of that.Answer #2: Call the nonemergency police line when it happens or just ignore them.


Title: Can I sue the driver as a passenger in a single car accident?

Question:
I was involved in a car accident on Redwood Road in California. The accident was a result of too much speed and the understeer that occurred as a result.

I was sitting passenger side front seat in a Lexus IS250. We were coming back from Oakland going via Redwood Road to Castro Valley, he decides to literally push the car to new limits. He almost lost the car a few times prior to the accident, I knew this because in the IS250 when the traction/stability control intervenes it beeps aggressively (I didn't know this before but you learn something new everyday right -_-). We end up going into a wall on my side. It totally destroyed the right fender/wheel of the car. We were both able to get out on our own. I felt jolted and a bit hurt, but nothing crazy. Maybe that was because of the adrenaline. He asks for my phone because he doesn't have reception. I dont know who he calls (Yes, I still have the call history on my phone, along with pictures of the damage to the car), but he tells me his grandma is coming to pick us up and that he was leaving the car there.

He tells me that his parents are going to kill him (Oh, yea, Im a minor (17), he isnt (19,20?)) etc etc... So he wants me to say if asked that there was a truck that ran us off of the road with its highbeams on and that we weren't going as fast as we really were. (He also sent me some txts today, 2 days after accident, emphasizing that)

I end up going to the ER in the morning after I woke up because of how much my whole right side hurt. They took some X-rays to make sure nothing was broken. There was nothing broken, and they said that it would be painful to do anything with my right side muscles for a few days.

Anyways my real question is, because he was breaking the law, I had asked him to slow down, and I have evidence that he wants me to change the story, do I have any legal standing to get the money from my hospital visit back or other damages (I can't work right now). JFYI, I went to a Kaiser because my health insurance is Kaiser so the copay isn't terrible. Also his parents are beyond loaded so I know there is no difficulty in covering anything I am asking.

TLDR: Can I/Parents sue the person driving me because he was breaking the law, got into an accident, and I had to go to the hospital?

Thanks.

Answer:
 Yes, you can sue him.  Yes, he or his insurance will likely pay your medical bills.

Did you lie to the police or the insurance company about what happened?Answer #2: Since his parents are loaded, you could probably just ask him to cover your medical bills. That may be a simpler option to explore before going through a lawyer.


Title: My friend´s ex-husband has entered his computer, blocked it, and gathered information.

Question:
We are planning to send a text directly to him via SMS. He's got a legal record with charges on computer crimes.
He gained somehow acces to the computer and blocked all the accounts and files, setting them as administrator only. He also gathered messages and information.

We are from Spain, and he is using a proxy showing that he is in the US.

Can you please recommend us what is the best way to proceed?

Thanks in advance, guys!

Answer:
 > Can you please recommend us what is the best way to proceed?

Call the police.Answer #2: There's not enough information here to be able to respond in any useful way.  Take your computer to someone that knows how to repair computers who can fix it up for you.  There's no practical legal issues here.


Title: I am a foreigner studying in the US. Can I legally online bet on a rugby match through a site in my home country with my home country's bank account?

Question: I want to bet on the rugby match, and it's a licensed sports betting site in my home country (South Africa).  It's legal there, and I would be using my South African bank account.  However, I am currently in the US.  Is this all legal?

Answer: No. While in the US you are subject to US laws. Betting on sporting events over the internet is illegal in the US. You cannot legally bet on sporting events while in the US.


Title: Being accused of of hefty Time Theft. What penalties could I face?

Question:
Hi. I work for a big corp and I am wondering what kind of serious punishment I may be facing. I’m waiting for a call back for consultation with a few lawyers but I thought to ask here while I wait. Well here’s my story.

I’ve been off of leave since January 2021, I used a few vacation, sick days to extend my leave into mid January but as far as anyone is concerned, I was due to return back to work.

Life hit hard since Covid, I know it hit a lot of people, but I got hit pretty hard. My second born son right at three months, as I’m coming off of maternity leave, started having heart issues. He had irregular heart rhythms that escalated to a heart attack. To make matters worse, I needed to leave an abusive home situation.

So coming off of leave in January, sick son and homeless and all, I call a friend in another state who let me stay with her for 5 months and my son was also cared for by the hospital in that state. It is now end of January, and after the first scare, I start to call my supervisors at the end of January.

My first supervisor, a program manager, sort of knew that I was going through a lot since 2020, he was sympathetic and he asked me if he could reach out to my current manager on my behalf. (There’s high turnover at this company so I have never worked with this current manager that he was going to speak to). Anyways, he talks to her and says she’ll be in contact. I waited a few days for her to reach out, and when she didn’t, I reached out. I asked to talk on the phone which she was a little reluctant to because I think she just wanted me to go to HR with my problem. I reached out to ask her if I can extend my duties of working remotely which she declined. She sent me to reach out to another department which I worked for previously .

I reached out to the other department, asking for someone to call me, I also sent a message asking to speak to the GM so I can work something out and work remotely to be able to continue taking care of my son and bringing him to appointments. No answer. This was February 5th or so.

My son had another heart scare on the 18th of Feb, and tbh, I just stopped reaching out. I figured someone would contact me sooner rather than later and let me just focus on picking up the pieces of my life. I’m still getting paid my monthly salary though.

Well, I didn’t get noticed until last week in which a new manager stepped in. He escalated to HR. Now a legal HR partner called me today and took my statement of what happened.

I explained my circumstance to her and how I tried to work something out to work remotely, but I was shot down twice. I explained why I stopped reaching out. I told them why I didn’t go back on leave of absence (because medical bills were high and I needed to have my insurance), all of those would be cut for my sick son.

I know I wasn’t at all the right here, but I also think they have some responsibility with lack of communication and help. I’ve been with the company for 4 years, been promoted twice and given a raise three times for excellence. Even the regional director knew of me.

I’m just scared now, because it’s a hefty sum. Over $30k. I offered to work remotely and have them garnish my wages, I offered to pay them back on a plan if I’m terminated. I just don’t want to go to court. My son heart condition has gotten worse, and we will need to increase treatment perhaps surgery next week.

Please advise. I didn’t mean to let it go this far, but it did. What are some other options that I can exercise.

Answer:
 I'll start with that I'm very sorry for your son's issues.  It's scary and difficult.

That being said...  They have NO responsibility with communication or requirements to help.

You showed zero integrity by continuing to collect a paycheck for 6 months while not working and not attempting to contact them about the continuing salary.   They aren't going to want you to work for them.  You stole from them.

You can ask for a payment plan.

You'll be extremely lucky if they don't retroactively cancel your insurance,  leaving you on the hook for the medical bills.  It's a gift if they don't do that.


Title: House sellers learned about a sewer problem after we submitted our offer. Did they have any responsibility to disclose in IL?

Question:
We put in an offer in February. Prior to us putting an offer in and going under contract, the sellers disclosed that they had a plumbing problem the previous December. They stated that there was a clog in the sewer line in the house caused by non-flushable materials and that the clog was removed by a licensed plumber. At the same time, since the sewer system in the house was already being scoped, they had the sewer line scoped for orangeburg. They included a copy of an invoice from a plumber with a brief description - removed clog, stop flushing these things, yadda yadda yadda, also scoped residential sewer line and found no fiber pipe.  With an invoice from a licensed plumber saying no orangeburg, we stupidly did not pay for an independent scope check of our own.

In May we began to have sewer problems and brought out a plumber. He immediately knew what our problem was: orageburg. He said that the house DOES have orangeburg pipe, and that it had previously had a bandaid put on where they line the orangeburg with an inner lining, but that it didn't help and the pipe is partially collapsed.  He said he's shocked we didn't have problems sooner and it's probably thanks to us using trusty Scott 1000 because anything better would have clogged up the collapsed pipe again.

More importantly and shockingly however, he had already been to the house for this issue. He checked his records for us and it was 10 days prior to closing (25 days into our contract). He said it was an after hours call and he found that the pipe was partially collapsed and with a reduced opening, matter was becoming blocked up at the collapse point and clogging. He advised the homeowners that they needed to immediately replace the orangeburg. He tells us that the homeowners told him they had a previous plumber tell them it was NOT orangeburg, so they were going to follow up with that other plumber who must have made a mistake.  He never heard from them again. Out of all the pumbers in the world we just got lucky and called the same one.

We just talked to him for the final time this morning so we are just coming out of shocked and confused mode. We don't know if the previous owners had an obligation to report this to us or not. We are going to try calling some lawyers this afternoon but we are overwhelmed by what is going on and wondering if anyone can provide any insight as to what to expect legally, or if we are just SOL.

Thank you for reading all this and have a nice day.

Answer:
 In general, yes. Mandatory disclosures would absolutely cover this. Have you fixed it yet? If not, pay to have it fixed and sue the Seller for the sum. Have that plumber give you copies of his service records proving he was out there while you were under contract.

But, they’ll argue that it came to light after disclosures were made. So, check your contract info and see if it says that disclosures are “continuing and ongoing.” That means they have to supplement/augment the disclosure form if new things are discovered.


Title: [California] Apartment laundry room locked with all of my work uniforms in it, despite signs saying 24/7.

Question:
Been in this apartment for 8 months, never had an issue using the laundry room at night, with the sign on the door saying its open 24/7.

Last night I went to get my clothes from the dryer, and the door was locked. Ive been contacting my building manager with no luck.

My job requires a specific uniform and I was washing them all last night. I'm already going to be late because I have been waiting to try and get access and my boss will NOT let me work without wearing my uniform.

The lease states that the laundry facility rules are subject to signage. I have taken pictures showing that the door clearly says 24/7.

I know I am being a bit impatient but I can't afford to miss work. Since the lease/signs imply/state I have access to the room and the building manager isn't responding, am I allowed to call a locksmith to get my belongings?

Sorry if this is a dumb question, just a bit stressed about the situation. Thanks for any advice.

Answer:
 Before you call a locksmith, or do anything else, have you tried your key in the door yet?

Often, common areas that tenants have access to 24/7 are keyed to allow residents access to them with their apartment key.Answer #2: As a practical matter, unless you are extremely well paid, a locksmith will probably cost more than a day's wages.

Edit: but cheaper than losing your job.Answer #3: anyone you work with who can bring an extra uniform for you?Answer #4: IANAL, but have been learning a lot about being a landlord. Another person referenced this in their reply, but check your lease to see what it says about laundry facility access. As you signed your lease before this policy was put in place, there may be verbiage about access.

Unfortunately, if there’s no specific condition referencing 24/7 access, there’s not anything I can think of as the basis for a legal claim. It’s crappy landlording, but there are no legal requirements that I can think of for notices of operational changes like this if it’s not spelled out in a lease.

Was there any sort of notification other than putting a new sign up? If you weren’t able to reasonably know if the changes (the sign being locked in a now closed laundry room would be difficult to read) then you could use that as basis for a claim.


Title: 2 duis in under 2 months need advice badly

Question:
So i will just get to the point. I’m an idiot.

I got pulled over for not having my headlights on and I was drinking. Blew .13 obviously dui spent the night in jail got out until 4pm next day. Now I have a court date till.  I fucked up and didn’t follow up with anything.

Fast forward a month and a few day later coming back from a party I hit a curb and cops pull me over ask me if I’ve been drinking and I deny everything. They don’t field test or breathalyze me or anything just bring me in and I spend the night but then I read my ticket and it just says “dui”.  And the court date is before the first dui”s .

My friend texted me saying he heard imma get put in jail after the court date.  I literally cannot go to jail and am freaking out because I have a job and a kid and I suprisingly enough have gotten my like together since the last dui and now I’m sober.

Can I get some advice please I’m the stupidest fucking dad.

Answer:
 1) Stop drinking

2) Get an attorneyAnswer #2: You’re almost certainly going to jail or rehab. Or a combination of both.

Quit drinking and hire a lawyer is the only advice that’s going to help you.

You should have thought about not having time for jail when you were endangering the lives of people on the road. Answer #3: The advice is get a lawyer now.


Title: [AL] I'm self-employed, and no one will give me a 1099. My company said PayPal will give it to me, PayPal says I didn't make the minimum ($20,000) this year and they can't give me one.

Question: So this is my first year filing as self-employed, and obviously it's getting pretty late and I planned to do my taxes today. I've been looking up tips and getting advice from friends. I thought I could just report all of my income myself, manually. Like take each check and plug in the amount. Is that possible? I have called PayPal and asked if I could request a 1099 without making that amount, and they said there's nothing they can do for me.

Answer: Just report all of your income and don't worry about it.


Title: Disputing a speeding ticket in school zone 2 hours after school gets out

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 >Is it lawful for a "school zone" to be active over two hours after the school day ends?

Yes. Just because classes let out doesn't mean there aren't sports or other after school activities. The school zone by me is in effect from 7AM-6PM on weekdays.


Title: Does this count as stalking according to [Colorado] law?

Question:
I've never posted here, so I hope everything with my post is okay. I've grown so tired of telling the story so please forgive me if I seem apathetic about this. Trust me, I am far from it. I'm actually about ready to break down and cry and tear my hair out.

A man keeps coming into my work. I work at a store, so right away I feel like the answer to my original question should be "No" because well, he could just be a normal, friendly regular, right? That's not how it seems to me. It's kind of a long story but I want to include as much detail as possible to explain how inappropriate and distressing this situation is for me.

To start off, I posted a version of this in another subreddit a month ago: "One day this guy came through my line, he's about mid fifties. I'm in my early twenties. He started to kind of, I guess flirt with me? He was asking me if I grew up around here, if I go to school, etc. I answered his questions because alarm bells weren't really going off at this point. I am in college and as it turns out, he majored in what I'm majoring in. When he left, he gave me this really uncomfortable look and was like "I'll see you around, [name.]"

So then after that he started coming into the store CONSTANTLY and always using my name as well in a really low, *unimaginably creepy* voice. I haven't asked my coworkers if he comes in when I'm not working, but literally I can 100% without fail guarantee he'll come in at least once on days that I'm working. It's been about 2-3 weeks and I haven't had one day where he didn't come in. (Before our first meeting, I had never seen him before. And I'd been working there a while.) Another side note is that I'm married, so I try to hand him his change with my left hand purposefully showing off my ring, etc, to not embarrass him but get the point across. Well this caused a problem last week.

Last week he came in *3 times* in about 20 minutes. Kept "forgetting" something or whatever. Basically a male coworker was running the register while I was off doing other things, so this creep just kept going back to get more stuff until I eventually got called up to help deal with the lines, and he immediately got into my lane.... Despite my male coworker's line being shorter. So he got into the back of a LONGER line just to be in my lane.

During that transaction, while looking at directly my ring, he began to talk about jealousy and lust. (both psych majors --  he was talking in the context of evolutionary psychology but it was totally 100% OUT OF NOWHERE). I freaked out on the inside and kept looking over my shoulder for the rest of my shift. My radar was going off so bad after that. Then the other night he came in about 20 minutes before close, when no one else was in the store, it was dark outside, and my manager was in the back... and he just stood there and kept asking me what college I want to transfer to after the one I'm at now and I told him I didn't know (even though I do) because at this point I'm afraid he's trying to get more information in order to full on stalk me."

So that was a month ago. After some advice, I called the police and just made a general report that this guy was worrying me. The officer offered to call and have a chat with him but I said I didn't think that would be necessary, mostly out of fear of him retaliating somehow but whatever, point is I said no thank you. He's come in 3 more times since then. 2 of the 3 times he didn't say much but grabbed at my hands really weirdly when I gave him his change.

He just wanders around our store for upwards of an hour and every time I'm in his line of sight he stares at me out of the corner of his eye. Every time. I wish I could explain how creepy and unsettling it is. I've also been getting some hang-up calls at work, and I'm not sure if it's related but I have noticed him come in on days where I get those hang up calls.

In summary, this dude comes into my store on a suspiciously regular basis, has said and done some things that make me very uncomfortable. I do not feel safe. Is this stalking according to CO law?

Side notes: before it gets pointed out, I know I have no way to prove any of this. I'm just scared and looking for any help. I also can't quit my job right now or any time soon.

Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 Have you told your employers about this twit? He needs to be banned from the premises.

You need to begin documenting any interactions or sightings, because if you will be successful in even getting a restraining order, it will be issued on the basis of that verifiable documentation.


Title: Nine year old son assaulted at school *OREGON

Question:
Sitting here in the emergency room, wondering what our options are, as this is a bit more serious than "bullying" my son was brutally attacked and had his head and face slammed into a steel post by another student. When he was sent to the office, he was complaining of dizziness and nausea, so they gave him an ice pack and sent him back to class. Secretary DID call, but made it clear he wasn't medically evaluated, as there is no school nurse today.  As parents, what are our options???

UPDATE

Police came to the hospital, said that here in Oregon, children under the age of 12, according to the law, are incapable of committing a crime. Therefore, no report was taken at all.

We were released from the hospital after finding no evidence of brain trauma. His face is obviously bruised and swollen. His actual cheekbone is bruised as well.  DR's orders are no school tomorrow.

Went to the district office and spoke with the director of **elementary** education (the individual that all 10 principals answer to) she took good notes, and is definitely concerned. She is in her 28th year of being an educator. My wife and I are inclined to believe that this will be investigated.  She also gave us specific things that she will get answers for us about.  Definite concern with how the school staff handled the whole situation today.

We have been given a referral to a local attorney and will be calling in the AM after our Son meets with his pediatrician.

Made contact with lots of families in the district that are experiencing similar situations with bullying, harassment, and assault. My wife and I have directed them to the district office.

My wife contacted a local news agency that specializes in investigate journalism.  This problem is bigger than just us. Finding out that we aren't alone has been quite empowering.  Maybe we will actually be able to help facilitate some healing.

Answer:
 Contact the police and file a report, obviously.Answer #2: Former teacher here.

The school really, really messed up here.  For the sake of your child, and for the protection of your son and other future victims of the vicious student, you need to file a police report about this incident.  You also need to get an initial consultation with a personal injury attorney, to find out what kind of a case you may have.  Such a consultation may be free.

Such violent behavior on the part of the perpetrator is not normal, and *it is likely that he/she has done antisocial things in the past*.  My instincts tell me that the problems with that kid have likely not been sufficiently addressed.

Schools often take the path of least resistance, and the parents of the problem kids are usually the parents who come in and aggressively JADE about their kids' errant behavior the most.  This will not change unless/until parents like you stand up for their kids, hire your own lawyers, and call the cops - in your case.

Justify - Argue - Defend - ExplainAnswer #3: Before you send your child back to school, make sure you have a meeting with teacher/admin and find out their plan to keep your son safe!


Title: Same sex DV

Question:
This occurred in NJ.

I'm so worried. My sister got into a physical fight with her gf last night. Someone in her apt building called the cops and they both got arrested. My sister said her gf started it and she was defending herself so why were they both arrested?? What is likely going to happen next in cases like this? Is there usually jail time? Will she have a record? She's only 19. I don't want her life ruined over this.

Answer:
 > My sister said her gf started it and she was defending herself so why were they both arrested??

Because the GF had another story?  Because the witnesses saw or heard otherwise?  Because there was other evidence present that changed the opinion of the officers?

If all you had to do to not be arrested was tell the officers "It totally wasn't me" then no one would be in jail.

There can be jail time, but for a first offense usually is not.  She would have a record.  It is unlikely to "ruin her life."

But just the same, she needs a lawyer.Answer #2: They were both arrested because they were both involved.

They will likely investigate, but it depends on what they might be charging her for. Assault vs public disturbance/whatever it might be.


Title: [MA]Failed to stop for a school bus. Is there any way to appeal the ticket?

Question:
Basically, I had just exited the highway after about 2 hours of very dull driving quite early in the morning and I was definitely feeling tired. I understand this is not an excuse but rather the reason why my reactions were not as fast as they should have been. The bus had stopped on the other side of the road with its flashing lights and I slammed the brakes once I finally noticed with about ~50 ft between us, but the brakes on my car are not the best and I skidded by its stop sign at about 10-15 mph before coming to a complete stop a little bit ahead of the bus. An r/ConvenientCop was directly behind the bus and naturally flicked his lights on and pulled me over with a $255 ticket. Is there any way for me to appeal this ticket? I have a spotless driving record and this is the first time I’ve been pulled over but I recognize the severity of the situation and would not be surprised if I can’t fight it. Please let me know with any advice you can offer.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 Don't tell that story to a judge. That sounds insanely reckless.

You can hire an attorney to mitigate the damages. Or go and beg leniency


Title: Wrongful termination through gross abuse of policy.

Question:
I was recently dismissed from a position after less than three (3) weeks of employment.  The main contributing factor for my dismissal was a complaint lodged by a salaried employee whom I have spoken to only once.  The conversation was uneventful and friendly, I forgot about it before the day had finished.

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On the second (2nd) day of my third (3rd) week at the company, I was approached by my manager with the letter of complaint specifying a single phrase used in our conversation as offensive.  I was so taken aback by the simple fact I had a written complaint I could only define the phrase in question as my response.  After my coaching I tried to locate the employee whom lodged to the complaint to apologize, take the write up however unwarranted and move on.  After asking my trainer I was told the employee would be out indefinitely, I though this was strange but decided to postpone my apology until she returned.

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However this company has a zero tolerance policy on matters involving race.  The salaried employee happens to be black.  I was fired on the fourth (4th) day of my third (3rd) week.  There was no other recourse available to me, feeling that this was incredibly unfair I recorded the exit interview and the management confirmed that this employee was the key figure in my dismissal.

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Later after speaking with older employees of the company, they informed me of a far more serious event involving a racial issue.  The offender was dismissed and a second employee who defend them was suspended without pay, this was a justified response for that case, it was the victim's actions which interest me though.  The victim of the previous, justified, racial issue was allowed a full year of paid medical leave, or so I was told, for mental anguish because of the issue.

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Here is a summary.

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1. A single friendly conversation and no other contact with the employee who lodged the complaint.
2. Inappropriate phrase in question, would not be considered racially relevant by a reasonable individual.
3. The so-called "Victim" has taken time off indefinitely, and this time off is likely paid medical leave for mental issues.

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I find the actions of this employee suspect, and would like to accuse her of gross misuse of a racial policy, or something equally corrupt and disgusting.

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What would be my options in this situation.

Answer:
 You made another employee feel uncomfortable about race and you violated your employer's policy.

It really is that simple. Your thoughts on how innocuous or unintended or humorous or whatever you said was are not material.

File for unemployment as others have recommended and dust off your resume.

If you want to be free to say whatever  in the workplace you should look in into being self employed.

Good luckAnswer #2: > What would be my options in this situation.

Assuming the US, file for unemployment. If it's initially denied, appeal. You'll probably lose the appeal but you never know.Answer #3: What was the phrase?


Title: [NY] Why do very few people go to federal prison? What crimes do people in federal prison tend to commit?

Question: It almost seems like it requires effort to get sent to federal prison.

Answer: Federal crimes. More people get charged with state crimes, so you see more people in state prisons. It really doesn't take much effort though. You could theoretically get fed prison time for stealing your neighbor's mail.


Title: I got an underage drinking ticket but they had no evidence of me drinking

Question: I was walking down a path off campus in Madison WI and a cop stopped me and my friend. They found the bottle but had no proof it was ours. Will pleading no contest drop my charges?

Answer:
 > They found the bottle but had no proof it was ours.

LOL

You need a lawyer.  They have legitimate evidence you were underage drinking.Answer #2: >Will pleading no contest drop my charges?

Nope, you need an attorney. This is likely a *criminal charge*.


Title: [Indianapolis] Contractor brought a hand gun into my home

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You live in Indiana people carry guns around all the time.  Unless you had a "no guns" sign on your door there's nothing illegal about that. You can not give him any more business.Answer #2: When you have an Indiana concealed carry license you can take the weapon [anywhere you're not prohibited from having it](http://www.handgunlaw.us/states/indiana.pdf), including a home into which you are invited.   Whether the invitation is personal or professional doesn't matter.

You, likewise, have every right to tell any person entering your home that they may not bring a firearm with them.   If they do not honor that request, they can be charged with criminal trespass.

I agree with you that his behavior was strange and I wouldn't do business with him.    Not merely because he was carrying a pistol, but because he told you so, and because he evidently considers a pistol to be an alternative to prudent care regarding other people's dogs.


Title: [CA] Remote Employee - How long can I live in CA for before I am a resident and have to pay state income tax?

Question:
Hey guys,

I just got a remote job that allows me to live anywhere I want. I was planning on buying a house in the Seattle area (no state income tax and because I like Seattle) and setting that as my residency but spend time in LA too. I was planning on renting my 2 bedrooms. How long can I live in LA legally and not be a resident for state income taxes? I eventually want to live in Seattle over the long run, but just I want to spend some time in LA the next 1-2 years.

Also, if I just stay in CA full time, how could the CA tax authorities find out? If I pay utilities under my name? cable internet? car insurance?

Answer:
 If you work in a state with income tax, you owe that income tax.

Trying to find ways to commit tax fraud is unethical.

It's great that you like being in LA. Try contributing to it sometime.


Title: Auto mechanic ran away with $5000.

Question:
This happened to my friend in California, and I'm looking for any possible recourse he may have.

A few months ago, he paid $5000 up front to a mechanic to have some customization done to his car. It's been taking him forever, but the mechanic (the boss) has been keeping him up to date with part orders and any setbacks along the way.

One day the boss lets my friend know that he will be out of town for a few days dealing with family issues. But when my friend finds the boss' cell phone to be disconnected a few days later, he heads over to the shop to see what's going on. The shop is still there, but his employee hasn't heard anything from the mechanic who left. Also, it turns out that no one has even touched my friend's car yet. No parts have even been ordered. The employee doesn't know what else to do, so he is in the process of giving back the couple dozen cars that were at the shop. It is a good sized business.

It has been over a month and no one has heard from the boss. My friend has tried but cannot get a refund from the remaining employee for the money he paid up front. He tried filing a police report and got referred to a detective handling the case. Basically, the detective told him there is nothing he can do because it's a "bad business issue, not a criminal issue." My friend has filed a report with the BBB, but that doesn't get my friend's money back. What legal action can he take, not even knowing where the business owner is?

I appreciate any help I can get. My friend and I are both in our early twenties, so naturally we have no idea what to do.

Answer:
 So as a piece of general advice: I don't "customize" my cars or anything, but when you get a car repaired, you typically don't pay until the work is done. Anybody asking for $5000 upfront for vehicle work would set off my radar.

As far as legally, you have to take him to court. You can talk to an attorney or file yourself, but there is nobody you can just complain to and get the money back. You don't have to find the owner, the business entity itself is the defendant.


Title: Neighbor dumpster dives, retrieves camera with photos taken of breasts (immediately following a breast biopsy that revealed breast cancer) and talks to neighbors about "clearly augmented" breast photos.

Question: Hi All, My sister lived across the street from me and recently moved. During her move she rented a dumpster which was parked in the street (Grand Rapids, MI). Several neighbors went through her dumpster which contained a ton of personal items. The next day one of the neighbors approached me about a camera she had removed from the dumpster and told me that she had replaced the batteries and her and her husband found photos of "large, round, and clearly augmented breasts" on the camera. Talk about feeling violated! Is it illegal to dumpster dive in a rented dumpster?

Answer:
 >  Is it illegal to dumpster dive in a rented dumpster?

Nope.  Trash is trash, and you have no reasonable expectation of privacy in trash.

If it was parked on private property, you may have a case, but if parked on a public street you have none.Answer #2: It most likely isn't illegal. As a side note, your sister needs to get into the habit of wiping electronics before she throws them out. What if it had been tax information containing her social security number? Other sensitive information? It takes far less time to protect yourself by wiping equipment properly than it does to fix identity theft.


Title: My 18-year-old son got high on crystal meth, got into a fight, and killed someone with a knife. He is facing life in prison without parole. What should we do?

Question:
State is New York.

My son was at a party. He got high on marijuana and crystal meth. He had a knife on him. He got into a fight and killed someone with his  knife. The person he killed was unarmed.

He is being charged with first degree murder and is facing life in prison without parole.

He deeply regrets what he did and can't stop crying. He is being held in jail without bail. He is terrified of having to spend life in prison.

What should we do? Is there any way to reduce the sentence to, say, 10-20 years?

Answer:
 Feeling bad about killing someone is not a defense for having killed someone. Neither is being high or drunk.

If he did not act in self defense, he will likely spend several decades behind bars.

Frankly, he deserves to be in prison for life. He killed someone. You both wanting "only 10 or 20 years" really show that you are not grasping the fact that he MURDERED SOMEONE.

He needs a good attorney, excellent circumstances, and more luck than exists in the world and he may get out by the time he's 60. Answer #2: You might want to post in the legal advice subreddit, not the offtopic one.

Get a lawyer, listen to what they say. Answer #3: The only answer is getting the best Lawyer possible. if that means liquidating all of your assets then do it and take on as much debt as you can.

Oh and most importantly

DO NOT POST ANYTHING ABOUT HIM OR HIS CASE ONLINE


Title: Being Forced to Sign Annuity

Question:
Oklahoma-

Mother died last May. Sister is trustee and refused to talk to me. The trust says to "setup an annuity to Joe's benefit with monthly distributions". She will only consider a lifetime annuity when the wording allows for a shorter term annuity that would be more to my benefit.

There are 2 condos. I have always been told I would get one April 1st. I received a letter March 1st stating to let them know by the 15th if I wanted a property and an inspection could be completed so I could move in by the first.

I get an email at 9pm from the brother in law:

Joe schmoe

I am writing on behalf of Sister to ensure advancement in the resolution and settlement of the trust account and assets.  Your email and requests were reviewed regarding the condos.

A request for an appraisal of both condos can be accommodated. However, if an appraisal is completed, the value given will supersede the previous value determined by the price when originally purchased. In turn, any difference in value between the two properties will be split and placed in your supplemental annuity and will not be a cash payout in the form of a lump sum. A request for appraisal will also delay the move in date one month, to 5/1/2017. If you do not wish to proceed with appraisals, the original purchase price of the condos will be used to determine value.

The condo will be transferred as-is and no repairs will be completed prior due to the transaction being a title transfer and not a purchase. Any inspections or work done on said condo may be completed once possession has been taken. The trust will not be responsible for any repairs.

The annuity at Morgan Stanley, which is currently awaiting your signature, must be signed by no later than 3/27/2017 in order to take possession of the condo.  You must contact Financial Advisor by 3/20/2017 in order to start the process to ensure a signature can be accomplished by 3/27/2017 and start receiving your distributions. Failure to sign the annuity by 3/27/2017 will result in forfeiture of the condo, at which time will be sold with the proceeds being placed in your supplemental annuity. Your supplemental annuity will be set up after the estate jewelry has been settled, which Stephanie is currently in the process of completing.

Sister is making the effort to ensure fair distribution as set forth by the legal guidelines within the trust. Stephanie is under no legal obligation to transfer one of the condos to your name. However, she is continuing to make every effort in order to provide you with a condo in partnership with both annuities.

If you have any further questions regarding any statement made, per Sister's Lawyer (successor trustee if something happens to sister) ’ request, I will be your point of contact moving forward.

-Brother In Law

This is the first I am being told of these dates. I have been renting a short term rental with the understanding I was moving on the 1st. They intentionally have put me in a jam to try to coerce me into signing.

Is this legal? Is this coersion?

Answer: You need an attorney. You need an attorney now. This is way beyond the scope of this sub.


Title: [VA] Racist/sexist roommate won't approve any of my subletters. Unclear whether or not I need her approval.

Question:
I'm graduating from school this May and was hoping to sublet my apartment from the end of May to the end of August. However, my spoiled brat of a roommate is being quite difficult to this process. I've found several subletters and she's rejected them all. The first one because he is a boy, and "all boys are rapists," and the other two, that are female, because of their skin colors. This is not acceptable to me. Thus, I began to hunt through the lease to see if she actually has to approve said roommate or not. Dick move sticking her with someone she doesn't like, I know, but being racist is not cool, so I really don't care who she ends up and if they bother her or not after finding that out fact about her.

This is the exact wording of my lease:

>REPLACEMENTS AND SUBLETTING. Replacing a Resident, subletting, or assignment is allowed only when we consent in writing. If departing or remaining Residents find a
replacement resident acceptable to us before moving out and we expressly consent to the replacement, subletting, or assignment, then:
(a) a re-letting charge will not be due;
(b) a reasonable administrative (paperwork) fee will be due, and a re-keying fee will be
due if re-keying is requested or required; and
(c) the departing and remaining Residents will remain liable for all Lease obligations for the rest of the original Lease Term.

>Restrictions on Subletting. You shall not sublet the Apartment (or any part thereof) or transfer or assign any interest in this Lease. Our acceptance of rent from persons other than you
will not be deemed to be consent to an assignment of the Lease or subletting of the Apartment, nor will it create a landlord/tenant relationship between us and such other persons, but rather, the
Apartment will remain subject to the tenancy created by this Lease until properly terminated. Assignment of the Lease or subletting of the Apartment without our prior written consent is a
material breach of this Lease.

>Procedures for Replacement. If we approve a replacement resident, then, at our option:
(1) the replacement resident must sign this Lease with or without an increase in the total security deposit; or (2) the remaining and replacement residents must sign an entirely new lease. Unless we
agree otherwise in writing, your security deposit will automatically transfer to the replacement resident as of the date we approve the replacement. The departing Resident will no longer have a right to occupancy or a security deposit refund, but will remain liable for the remainder of the original Lease Term unless we agree otherwise in writing – even if a new lease is signed.

I'm no expert in law, but it doesn't say she has to approve a subletter. So, I went down to the management office and asked and they said it wasn't in the lease, but they still require it. That doesn't seem right to me. If they require it, it should be in the lease that I signed and agreed to enter in with them.

So, now I'm asking, what are my options? If worse comes to worse, I'll just dip into my grad school savings for the rest of the summer's rent monies, but would really like to avoid having to do that.

Answer:
 > So, I went down to the management office and asked and they said it wasn't in the lease, but they still require it. That doesn't seem right to me. If they require it, it should be in the lease that I signed and agreed to enter in with them

It says you need their approval which they can make contingent on your roommates approval. Check your lease to see if threes any criteria for approval.

Now has your roommate put in writing shes denying potential tenants do to race? Have you informed management that thats why they are denied? (Denying the dude is likely legal unless your a dude, even then its not worth fighting over). Have any of your prospective subletters mentioned they wanted to know why they were denied?

Reason I ask is you may want to let your landlord know that there may be two females who know they were denied housing due to their race. I would argue that given the lease doesn't say the roommate has to agree, their allowing a roommate to deny housing based on race means THEY are denying someone housing based on race.

No student housing wants to be known as the place that violates FHA on race terms. They would probably rather discriminate against someone on basis of disabilities.


Title: TN, USA: Boss asking to promote business on personal social media accounts

Question:
Hello, I'll start off by saying this is my first post here. If there is any information that I've left out please ask.

I work part time(~18-23 hours per week) at a coffee shop in a small town in Tennessee. We have Facebook and Instagram accounts, I do not manage or have access to them, in which pictures, videos, etc. of our products are posted. My boss is now asking us to do two things. One, take photos/videos of our product and send them to her, a manager, or the 'social media person', which is not a problem at all. Two, asking us to share Facebook post(from the official account), and post pics(to promote the business) on Instagram from our personal accounts. She has also said in a group text message(which is how we formally communicate as a group) that "those who do this can expect more hours". I have deleted these text, as it was a while ago and i just brushed it off, so i obviously have no proof of that. But Now she is cracking down on this and is saying that we should set reminders to promote multiple times per day and is saying "theres no facebook activity!" in the group text 2 or 3 times per day.

I don't feel comfortable doing this because to me this is a major invasion of privacy, not to mention this has to break some kind of privacy law or terms of service. I've tried looking up info about this online but can't find much. Do i have the right to refuse? I'd love to hear your opinions and what i can do about this. If you have any information please leave it, also please link me to ANY sources/other info about this online.
Thanks!

Answer:
 > Do i have the right to refuse?

Yes, and you can be fired.

The only potential issue I see is if she is making you promote the business outside of work hours and not compensating you to do so.


Title: Someone verbally assaulted me on Reddit, so I googled them, found their number, address and name and messaged them. Can I be arrested?

Question:
Loc: NY

This person was calling me horrible names, following my posts and responding to me in a ~~threatening~~ harassing, obnoxious manner.

So I googled their very distinct username, and it showed pages and pages of public information based on the sites s/he buys and purchases (WhoIs information and what not).

To get them to stop, I messaged them their name, their number and their address saying I know where they lived and that one day other people (not me) might want to pay them a visit if they keep being an asshole online to everyone. (You know, like how we always say in person about rude people that "one day they'll be rude to the wrong person and get what's coming to them").

Can I get arrested? They said they reported me to an admin and now I am worried police will be barging through my door. I wanted this person to basically realize the repercussions of being a dick on the internet, especially when you're easily identifiable. I have no intention of harming this person, just making them stop and think twice.

Answer:
 To address your main question, it's highly unlikely. The police would likely view this as two idiots having a fight online with each other. Absent an actual threat, it's fine.

Some personal advice:

1. It's the internet. If someone isn't calling you a horrible name somewhere along the line, you're probably not on the internet.

2. If the "threatening manner" was just calling you names, that's not threatening. It's mean and impolite but not threatening. If they make actual credible threats, such as referencing your current address and saying they would come there to kill you (in those exact terms), then I would describe that as threatening.

3. If their "threatening messages" was just calling you mean names, then your message to them is much more closer to the credible threat example that I referenced above.

4. Next time someone bothers you on the internet, unless it's a credible threat, just ignore/block them. I get 2 or 3 hate letters a year and all I do is just burn them. Answer #2: Reddit is pretty anti-doxxing, so you could get banned over it.

Looking the person up and contacting them was legal. Saying they'll get what's coming to them could imply a threat. "This is a lovely shop. Would be a shame if something happened to it."


Title: 17yrold wants emancipation, guardian not in contact, obviously abusive family

Question:
Location: Columbia, SC.

I am positing on behalf of a friend of mine, we'll call him T. T is 17, and from an abusive family. Every day he rides his bike 30 minutes to the mall, even in the frigid rain, and he has nothing to do. At this point, he might as well get a job there. Since he shows a lot of promise, my boss wants to hire him. I know that with this job, he could be emancipated, but he can't get this job without being emancipated, so... I'm stuck. I'll go into details as to why, below:

T wants to be emancipated, which I believe is something that will immensely help his life. I want to help him do this. Among other things, emancipated minors are considered independents when applying for student aid, and subsequently get 'hella' free money. I know that emancipation can occur easily at 17 if the minor shows the ability to take care of himself... so, lets just give him the job?

The problem: since we're 'technically' contractors (its a cell phone repair kiosk), my boss won't be able to hire T without a parental guardian negotiating. Apparently T is on bad terms with his guardian(grandmother), and hasn't had contact with her for over a year. He lives with his dad and also has no contact with his mom. This situations astounds me since there was a reason why his dad lost custody in the first place. He needs out.

If T can somehow get this job, I'm sure he would have a much easier path to emancipation. Is there any way he can get the job now, without his guardian negotiating? Is there a way he can get emancipated without having a job?

I want to free him from legally needing his parents, give him a shot at part time job where he can make friends with a few people who've came from bad situations like him, and pave the way for him having basically free education. What's the best way to go about this? I realize that he could just get another job, but most mall jobs that would hire someone his age are going to pay minimum wage, and barely hold any hours. What's even worse is that, he isn't mentally healthy, so most jobs at the mall wouldn't suit him. I see this as a golden chance for him to have a better life, I'm just stuck.

So, how can we get around this "need a job to get emancipated" "need emancipated to get the job" scenario?

Important information / (TL;DR):

T turns 18 in August. He has no contact with guardian, and with his dad who does not have custody. (AFAIK) T needs his guardian to negotiate contract at potential job. (AFAIK) T needs a good job to get emancipated. Its highly unlikely for T to be able to get a good enough job anywhere else.
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer: At 17, it is almost always quicker to turn 18 than get emancipated. Without a current job and place to live that other than his guardians, he will not get emancipated.


Title: What to do when you catch a cop driving drunk?

Question:
**tl;dr** I am 99% certain I witnessed a police officer driving drunk the other day, called 911, was berated and told that **"we have recently dealt with this individual, they just have a broken foot"** and pretty much hung up on.

So I was driving home from my parents place the other day on a rural road, and I noticed this green jaguar sitting half in my lane, half in the ditch, with the door wide open fully blocking my lane, and a man stumbling out of the vehicle.

I drove around him (just thinking "wtf?") and as I passed, I noticed that the front of the jaguar was completely smashed to pieces.

I put 2 and 2 together, realized that he was driving drunk, probably hit something and drove away... and was now dazed and confused on the side of the road.

His face was flush, red, he was sweating a lot, stumbling, blank stare, etc... the dude was fucking wasted on something, not necessarily alcohol, but he should not have been driving as evidenced by his smashed up hood.

So I called 911, and after I gave them the license plate I was told **"this person is not impaired, an officer has just dealt with them a few minutes ago and they just have a broken foot"**.

I asked her if she had anything in her notes about the car being completely smashed up in the front end, and the lady on the phone just repeated what she had said. "He is not impaired, we have just dealt with him, but will come take another look."

Ok... I did my civic duty... and I drove away.

And then I started wondering... how could a guy with a broken foot stumble out of his car, walk about 8 feet down into a very deep ditch to presumably take a piss, and then walk back up the ditch and get back into his car???

No to mention there was no cast or crutches or anything about the man that suggested that he had a broken foot.

If he was driving around with a broken foot, and an officer had just realized that, why didn't they drive him to the hospital and call a family member to come and retrieve his car?

He was drunk, and the dispatcher on the phone was covering for him. I am certain of it.

**What can I do in the future if I come across a similar situation?**

The only way I could think of solving this would be to hide out in the bushes with a video camera or something and film the officer who presumably came to pick him up and have his car towed after I made that phone call... and then sue the department or something.

This left a horrible taste in my mouth, and I really have no idea what I should or could have done better.

Please help!

**EDIT:** Location is Ontario, Canada.

Answer:
 I do not see where it was established that the person you witnessed was a cop.Answer #2: If you suspect someone is committing a crime, you can call the police. If you suspect the person on the line is covering, you can follow the issue up the chain of command. That is all you can do; you are not Batman. Answer #3: You can't really make the police do anything. Even if they said "yeah he's drunk af but whatevs" you still couldn't make them do something.

All you can do is file complaints. Obviously if he hits you or your car or your property, you can sue.


Title: Accused of cheating

Question:
I am a graduate student and was accused of cheating. After   a exam in a science course, I ran into a classmate who said she hasn't taken the test yet and she was wanted me to quiz and explain some of the notes to her. As I was trying to explain some notes, the professor of the science course saw us and thought that I was sharing answers, which I was not. She reported it right away. Even after me and the classmate explained that we were not cheating, the professor and her department head decided to give us a a penalty of 0 on that exam. I received a 86 on the exam.

 There are only 5 exams in the course, I worked hard and got good grades for the remaining exams but it was hard to overcome the penalty so I now have a overall failing grade in the course and there is no remediation offered. I am trying to appeal but I am worried that it will fail what will happen to me because I am already on probation because of a low gpa. So, if I fail a course they can suspend or dismiss me.

I am thinking of hiring a lawyer. The school does not have any evidence, it is a matter of he said, she said. What can the school do to me based on this situation. Can you please give me advice on the situation.

Answer:
 There is no legal right to a good grade, and the school is not a court of law, so keep that in mind before you go on a rampage about the rules of evidence.

There are mechanisms within your school to appeal this decision including going to the Chair of your program, and probably the Dean of your college.  You may consider reaching out to the Provost as well, but start with Dept. Chair and College Dean.

I believe the school has done all that it intends to do on this matter since they gave you a zero.

If you discover the school has a policy about these things and appears to be willfully violating it, you can pursue a Title IX action to get your due process.Answer #2: I actually agree with the school here — once you take a test it’s incredibly inappropriate to discuss the material with someone who hasn’t taken it yet. Just because you weren’t giving her specific answers (I assume that what you would count as “cheating”) doesn’t mean you weren’t giving her an unfair advantage. I have TAed classes in the past and I think this would be considered cheating at many universities.

Instead of getting a lawyer, start showing some contrition and getting better grades so you can get off of probation. Answer #3: Your college should have an ombudsman.  This is a person who serves as a student advocate.  Find them and get their help.  They'll know the process and it may save you the cost of a lawyer.


Title: Breaking and Entering in the Daytime with Intent to Commit Felony [MA]

Question:
A week ago I was standing outside the duplex shared by my child's mother when I realized there was a tablet facing out the window towards where we were. After wondering if we were being filmed she went inside to see if we were, called out that the tablet was filming and called me inside to help her delete it.  I went inside the neighbors house, saw the tablet along with another one that was filming out an opposite window and deleted the files from both of them.

Unbeknownst to us there was a third tablet filming the inside of the room and everything we did. That afternoon we were called to the police station and arrested for B&E with intent to commit a felony. Upon being questioned by the police a second time after I had been arrested I gave a taped statement attesting to what I had done and we were given bail and reported to court a few days later. At court we were read the charges, assigned a court appointed lawyer and told to come back in a month and a half.

Here is my issue. I am set to go to a very prestigious nursing school in the fall and one of the permanent disqualifying factors for getting a nursing license is this charge. I don't know what to do, I am meeting with my lawyer next week but am nervous about this whole thing. I have talked to a few people and they say it could get bumped down to Criminal Trespassing and my lawyer when we met briefly mentioned possibly getting a CWOF. I feel as though I completely screwed up my future and would appreciate any advice anyone has to give.

Here is the [Link regarding the qualifications for getting a nursing license in MA](http://www.mass.gov/eohhs/docs/dph/quality/boards/nursing/nursing-good-moral-policy.pdf)

Also in the policy it states that "for the purpose of this Policy, "conviction" means the final judgment on a verdict or finding of guilty, a plea of guilty, a plea of nolo contendere (no contest), or a plea treated by the court as a guilty plea, regardless of the jurisdiction in which the conviction was entered". Does this mean a CWOF which is admitting that there are enough facts would fall under this category.

Sorry if this is jumbled, my mind is going a mile a minute as I am not sure what to do.

Answer:
 This may be a blessing in disguise. I mean if you would just go into someone else's house to delete their security footage and who knows what else,  I sure as shit wouldn't want you in the medical field. Answer #2: A better question would be, what were you doing that made breaking and entering look like the better option? Because, sorry, it sounds like you had something else to hide....Answer #3: I'm confused. It seems like your saying someone called you inside to delete the files.Answer #4: You walk into random people houses? WTF?

But really, the only thing you can do now if hire an attorney and hope to hell they are good enough to get you out of your stupidity.

You are still convicted if you plea no contest. It won't save your career or schooling


Title: Can I ask the judge to drug test my ex wife at our upcoming child support hearing in Virginia? She hasn’t paid or contacted our son for over a year.

Question:
She just went down the CPS road and lost custody of her other two children with her current husband, but now they have reconciled:/  Can I request she sign over her rights at this hearing?  My wife has been researching step parent adoption and my son is totally on board.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 You can ask, but unless there's documented good cause it's unlikely the judge will require that.

>Can I request she sign over her rights at this hearing?

You can ask for anything you want.  But forcing it is an entirely different matter.


Title: Worked for 8.5hrs immobile in 1-4°C

Question:
It was at a stall selling goods for a graduation ceremony - there was no warning that it would be outside, no heater, and we only got a 30min break about 6 hours in to go into a building and warm up.There was no information about cold stress either. Apparently the reason the stall moved outside last year was because the university wanted to charge £200 for power. So the company moved the stall outside and skimped on power, this offering the employees no source of heat and limited possibility of movement as the role consists of manning a stall.

Today I have another 8.5hrs to do and it's supposed to be colder.

Is this legal under UK/EU working legislation?

Answer: Provided that they do not place you in a dangerous situation by doing so (for instance by prohibiting protective clothing and requiring a uniform that provides insufficient protection from the elements), yes it is legal for them to make you work outdoors.


Title: [Michigan] I resigned, and a supervisor verbally defended me the next day and was fired. I'm now asked about the NLRB

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 What was the legal violation they committed?

Did he have a contract? Were either of you part of a union?


Title: My boss says she's not required to pay for being on call or for working from home, is this correct? (KS)

Question:
I work at a non-profit, emergency shelter that is open 24 hours a day, every single day. We have a large staff (about 30) but only 3 supervisors-- I am one of the supervisors. We are all paid hourly, though we are not allowed to accrue OT and are encouraged to flex our schedules to make sure we don't work OT.  Often, this means we do actually work OT and just don't get paid for it/ are told to take extra hours off the next week.

Because we're open 24 hours a day, this means someone must always be on-call in case staff calls in sick, there's an emergency, or just to answer questions.

Our director just informed us she is not required to pay us for being on call or for any work we do from home. This means that if I am up for four hours in the middle of the night speaking with various staff members to address a crisis (like I was Monday night)-- I'm still expected to work 8 hours the next day for no extra pay.

I can almost understand not being paid just for being on-call, but since being on-call always means I'm answering phone calls and text messages 24 hours a day (probably average 2 phone calls an hour though it can vary), I'm confused as to why my boss would not be required to compensate me for this time.

Answer: If you don't perform any work while on call, aren't restricted to the place of employment, and free to conduct personal activities then she doesn't have to pay you for that time. But you absolutely do need to be paid for the time you actually spend working; even if it's over the phone or while at home. Which is why most on call workers are on salary; since salary employees generally don't require overtime pay; and their pay isn't dependent on the number of hours worked.


Title: Unpaid Child Support

Question:
My ex (never married) lives in FL, I am in MI. We tried keeping things out of court but he didn't hold up his end of things, so I filed for child support about a year and a half ago. Since then, I have been getting partial payments from his paychecks. Cut to Feb, he quit his job to "start his own company" out of his house. Since then, I have not received anything.

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I have used up my savings account making up the difference since then, arrears are just over 3K.  Not a lot for many people, but a lot for me and now I'm worried I wont make rent next month.  What can I do?? I have emailed friend of the court a few times and they tell me they've sent a letter and have no employment info.

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I'm also worried that he may try to get his payments lowered because "on paper" he has no income, even though he's running a business and does a few side gigs as well that were never included in the original paperwork. I know he has the money which is the most frustrating thing.  We are on good terms aside from this, but this is a major issue.

Answer:
 It's true they can't garnish his wages if he's self employed, but they can take his tax returns if he files his taxes.

Working under the table is sadly a common way of avoiding child support, but over the course of his life it will add up to more problems for him. He can get his license and passport suspended and even face jail time. Courts also frown heavily on people who avoid child support by working under the table and falsely reporting zero income.

Your relief will not come quickly, though. My mom is still getting her wages garnished for back support on me whenever the state finds out she has a new job, and I'm 25 now.


Title: Jaywalking guy threw a rock at my car and damaged the door.

Question:
Essentially the title. A guy was jaywalking across a Washington State highway in Kent WA, when I passed him and honked the horn, he threw a rock at the car denting the driver side door.

I stopped, called the police, and followed the guy for a while until the police showed up and arrested him. He admitted to throwing a rock at my car, and his story completely lines up with mine.

I had my wife and two very young daughters in the car with me, and the cop handling the case said that it was a slamdunk since everything lined up.  Luckily I have a dash cam capturing everything including audio. I don't really know what to do now. After copying the video to my computer I am headed down to the police station to turn in the video of my dash cam.

I guess I don't know what to do right now in terms of insurance. I have full coverage on the car but do I wait to make a claim on the insurance until a trial or what happens next? If the guy is too broke to pay for damages how do I get money to fix my car?

Answer: If he is charged you talk to the state attorney and ask for restitution to be included as part of a plea or part of his sentence. Otherwise, you sue him for the money.Answer #2: Call your insurance company. You will pay your deductible and they will take care of the rest. You will have to sue him in civil court for the cost of the deductible. If he has no money, you are SOL. You can't get blood from a stone.


Title: Alaska : How many days of vacation day am I required to give my employee?

Question:
I own a tiny business with only one employee.  She asked if she can take a few days off during summer so she can go camping and stuff. I said sure,thinking 7 to 8 days at most. She crossed out total of 14 days off between May and July. I am super busy during summer and think she is taking too many days off.

 I already give her 3 days on Christmas, 4 days on thanksgiving, memorial day, July 4th, labor day, new years day and new years eve, her birthday, easter off. And whenever she asks because of her family birthday or visiting or wedding like that. Oh and every friday off because she goes to school.

She works only 4 days a week working about  36 hours per week.

Can I say no you need work those day because I am too busy?

Also can I ask her to work on her jury duty day?

Answer:
 Your state says you can give between zero or as many as you want.Answer #2: You're not required to give any vacation days.

https://www.blr.com/HR-Employment/Benefits-Leave/Vacations-in-Alaska

>Can I say no you need work those day because I am too busy?

Absolutely.

>Also can I ask her to work on her jury duty day?

If she was summoned for jury duty, you cannot interfere with that. You don't, however, have to pay her for those days.

https://www.employmentlawhandbook.com/leave-laws/state-leave-laws/alaska/#4


Title: Ex-Wife Will Not Return Sentimental, Non-Replaceable Piece of Art

Question:
Long story as short as I can make it. My ex-wife and I had an uncontested divorce.

She relocates to a new state. I help her move. She and I maintain our separate property. Things are easy.

She has a single piece of art, a mask - the first piece of art I've ever owned. The mask resembles  my now elderly dog (with health problems, to boot) who will most likely die within the next few years.

Ex-wife told me she would return said item when she had time. She nearly had time. She has it. Will return it. Etc. That was nearly a year ago. Just jerked me around.

I have messages in which she express her intent to return it to me multiple times and her acknowledgment that it is, in fact, my property. Otherwise, I have no itemized statements or the like in which the item in question is referenced.

She will not return any communications from me. I just want the property returned.

Do I have any legal resource or is it just not worth it? The mask has only a minimal monetary value.

Sentimentality is the key factor here for me. It matters to me. She knows that and is using this as an opportunity to harm me, I suppose.

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 I would love to get an informed opinion. My assumption is this: it's gone.

Answer: Gone, during your divorce your property should have been divided up and gone your separate ways, since it was uncontested you agreed you had nothing of hers and she had nothing of yours. Maybe she’ll return it one day but ask her one last time maybe to send it via fed ex and offer to Venmo her the shipping cost? If nothing consider it gone.


Title: Miss receiving a subpoena so you don't have to show up to a civil case?

Question: (oregon) Is it possible to go completely off the grid or to another country or the wilderness or something to get out of receiving a subpoena so you don't have to be a witness to a civil case? (or criminal for that matter).

Answer:
 With one or two small and inapplicable exceptions, it looks like subpoenas in Oregon must be served in person in order to be effective. [Source](http://www.oregonlaws.org/ors/419B.902).

So long as you can avoid being served, you cannot be required to appear as a witness in the case.