Title: Hippy ex-wife wants to take my son and move out of state to a commune. Need advice.

Question:
We have been divorced for going on eight years now and have two sons.  Our eldest is 16 and the youngest is 10.  We both have 50/50 physical and legal custody and neither of us pays child-support to the other.  She is basically in charge of all school costs such as supplies and lunches and I pay for medical/dental.  We live close to one another and we share then every other week.  That's the background and I can add additional info if needed.

A week ago Monday my ex texted me saying that she wanted to get together and talk because she had a job opportunity in another state and wanted to know what I would be willing to do about the kids.  She stated that nothing was concrete, but wanted my input.  I told her, "I'd be more than happy to have the kids stay with me full time, and we can work out what months of the summer she'd like them and what holidays".  She really didn't like the answer and I just kept replying to her that I was in no way agreeing to her moving the kids out of state.  My ex is an LPN but hasn't been able to hold down a job in years so I was skeptical.

After this I asked my oldest how he felt about moving and he told me that he wasn't going to move and planned on staying with me.  When I asked her about it, she said she knew what the eldest planned but still wanted to take the youngest with her.  I again told her I wouldn't agree to that and in no way was she allowed to move him out of state.  We exchanged many many texts that I really don't want to paraphrase but it turns out she is getting a divorce again after only a year and has a "community of people in Oregon that is going to help her get on her feet".  It didn't sound like she had a job lined up at all but a place where she could move into.  I did a little digging on her social media and it looks like some kind of hippy commune that she wants to move to.  So she again probably wouldn't have a real job nor a place to call her own.  I am completely uncomfortable with my youngest being in that kind of situation.

After we got divorced it seemed to me that she kind of slowly started to get into weirder and weirder stuff.  I say she's a hippy, but it's more like this weird alternative lifestyle.  She will go to these get together in different states and I know there are all kinds of drugs being used, and very fringe ideas.  I guess I can't explain it well.  Her idol is a woman that is like a "life planner" or "motivational speaker" that thinks she is an alien from another planet sent to help people here.  She isn't bad to our kids, but she makes very poor decisions in life.  For instance she has moved at least once a year since we've been divorced.  She has gone through multiple men and had them move in with her.  My kids have absolutely no stability except when they are with me.

The last thing that is important is that my youngest has behavioral issues in school and at home, mostly her home.  She has texted me many times over the years that she can't handle him and that he needs to stay with me.  When he is with me he does a lot better with his behavior in school and I don't have a problem with him in my home.  She mentioned and kind of coached him that if they moved he'd have a new school and new start, he doesn't have any friends because of how he acts, so he was excited to move.  I had to tell him that I wasn't agreeing to the move and that I hated to have to be the bad guy and tell him that.

I live in conservative rural Minnesota.  I know my 16 year old not wanting to move will be a big factor is this becomes and issue that needs to go to court.  But, I am wondering if anyone can give me any input on this.  What should I be doing with the kids or saying?  Should I warn my youngest if she tries to leave the state?  Any input at all would help.

Answer:
 I would get a lawyer and a guardian ad leidum for the boys.

It very much sounds lashes buying into some crazy cult that could harm them.

This is kinda above Reddit's pay grade in terms of the whole situation.  Given the stability of the boys it might be worth it to get emergency custody given her poor choices of late.Answer #2: I would make sure to document your youngest changes in behavior around her.


Title: 20 years ago my adoptive dad went to prison for molesting my sister.. How can I?

Question:
How can I get ahold of the legal stuff..
He was convicted and spent 10 years in prison..

I'm just the brother that has to watch all this shit.. But I need to know more..

I've found a news article about the event, but it's behind a paywall on some newspaper site that seems sketchy..

Is there a way to get this info, without him or anyone else knowing..

I'm 30 years old and still haven't seen my birth certificate or adoption papers. I was a grown kid when I was adopted not a baby... But it's all off limits. Discussions are off limits... My convos with my adoptive parents are similar to the convos you have with a distant cousin at a family reunion.. Whatever what means.

Is there a website or something to get this type of info... I'd like to see his confession papers and such.

Answer:
 As far as newspaper stuff goes, if you know the mane of the paper, and the date, it should easily be able to be found through a public library, where it is likely preserved on microfiche, or even digitally. Everything you do at the library is private, and librarians are among the most ethical concerning privacy.Answer #2: You can obtain the court records. These will describe the proceedings, such as who filed what motion, the final disposition, dates, courtroom numbers, presiding judge, and so on. If you give us the name of the state, we can help you find the correct, government-run docket sheets website.

> I'd like to see his confession papers and such.

You almost certainly can not obtain the details on the criminal investigation unless they were published in a newspaper. The detailed information on the investigation itself -- such as interview results, a signed confession, the detective's narrative, etc -- is typically not public record. There may be exceptions, but in my state you can't get details on an investigation, open or otherwise.Answer #3: All of that info is public information.

So you can submit written requests to the police and court that dealt with it to get copies of everything.  There may be a cost associated with getting the records.


Title: Is it legal for workplace to ban use of sunscreen?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Their proposed alternate accommodation probably doesn't actually accomplish what they want it to, since you're presumably going to _arrive_ wearing sunscreen when you come in in the morning, and after lunch. It's a reasonable accommodation, but it may not effectively accommodate your coworker who needs a scent-free environment.

Are there any hypoallergenic/scent-free sunscreens you could counter-propose with? That's probably the ideal compromise, if the driving issue is scent-induced migraines.

If you can't reach a suitable compromise that doesn't put your health at risk, it's probably worth speaking to an employment attorney. As you suspect, there could well be ADA issues here, but you need a professional assessment of the situation.Answer #2: Interesting that no one is questioning the scent free workplace. OP didn't specify the number of people impacted, but is it reasonable to ban all scents in the workplace?Answer #3: They are actually exactly in compliance with ADA by suggesting a reasonable alternative. You need to suggest another. ADA isn't just "I want it this way"Answer #4: ADA allows for "reasonable" accomodations. A 15 minute schedule change does sound reasonable.

Your co-worker has ADA rights too.

Also, could a scent-free sunscreen be possible?Answer #5: Non-legal advice: have you checked out Blue Lizard sunscreen? It is fragrance free, and made with micronized titanium dioxide.  It doesn't have a noticeable smell to me.  Perhaps you could ask HR whether it could be a fragrance free rather than scent free workplace?  Scent free is pretty much impossible anyway, I say sitting and sipping my aromatic coffee.


Title: Girlfriend is being charged with embezzlement.

Question:
My girlfriend (25F) is being charged with embezzlement for a little over $2k by her previous employer. In late October/ early November (we don't remember which) of 2018, she was laid off from her last position due to a company restructure.

She has not taken merchandise aside from things she purchased with manager authorization, she has not committed any time theft, or done anything that either of us can come down to being even close to embezzlement let alone something for two thousand dollars.

She was arrested Monday on a warrant which she was unaware was even out for her. She was never notified of the warrant or any issues with the previous employer. When she was brought in, she was told that it was on embezzlement and not much else  other than that.

She was released after she signed an agreement to go to court the next day and get a trial day. She agreed to get a court appointed attorney since we can't afford a personal lawyer.

What can/should we or she do? I've been incredibly anxious about the whole thing just because of the severity of it. We're both not the type to have any legal issues at all. The worse thing either of us have had before is a speeding ticket or two.

How likely is this to be dismissed and what should we do to start to gather a defense while we wait to be contacted by her court appointed attorney?

Thank you guys!
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 We can't tell you without knowing the details of the case. The DA wouldn't be moving forward with charges of they didn't think there's solid evidence of a crime.

Your girlfriend needs to stop talking to anyone about this other than her lawyer. Let that lawyer go over the details with her.


Title: [IL]Drunk, underage passenger fell out of stopped taxi and became concussed when head hit curb. Driver did nothing.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The driver didn't cause your daughter's injury, your daughter did. Answer #2: 1) The cabbie is not a medical professional, which means...

2) He could either have called 911 or finished his route. Those are his two options. One results in him getting paid, one results in a large bill *to you.* So rather than posting this query, we might be seeing "My daughter got drunk and a cabbie called an ambulance, who took her to an out of network hospital. Is the cabbie liable?"

3) "Found out about this later the next day." So at least 18 hours passed? If it took the better part of a day for you to notice, how would you expect a cabbie to?

4) Drunk people and concussed people tend to behave the same way.

5) There were other individuals present who did not elect to get her medical attention. Namely, her friends.

The only witness to any kind of malfeasance is a blackout drunk 17-year-old girl and her likely-just-as-drunk friends.

You don't have a case.


Title: Got a DWI last night. This is the first time anything like this has ever happened to me. I might not have too much money for a lawyer. What do you recommend I do? (Fairfax County, Virginia)

Question:
I'm quitting drinking for good. No more for me,  ever.
I've been a soldier with the army reserve for several years, I was a volunteer firefighter for a while,  and have never really gotten into an trouble before.
I'm gonna start AA and take a defensive driving course.

Answer:
 You should get the money for an attorney.

DWI's are serious, and can have long lasting implications.


Title: Really screwed up situation.

Question:
Situation is in NY

So basically there is a pastor, who I have known about this for awhile, who sexually abused younger children (only one confirmed but many suspected) about 10-15 years ago. He still hits on younger women and is generally creepy. But he's almost to the point of being a leader of a cult that everyone in the church follows him to a t. The only reason I know for a fact he has abused in the past is one of my cl9sest friends told me why she was depressed and had an ED for most of her life. She did not and does not want to testify or come forward.

Any ideas as to how I can help his current congregation learn how much of a twisted bastard he is? Is there anything I can do since I am a third party to this situation as nothing ever happened to me?

If I came outright and told his congregation, no one would believe me because my family left on really bad terms. But he has access to young children still and runs a private school.

Answer:
 Your friend needs to come forward and tell the police if it really happened. Otherwise you have no recourse. There is no vigilante justice here and you could find yourself as the defendant in a defamation suit if you think you can just announce it to his congregation. Answer #2: > If I came outright and told his congregation, no one would believe me because my family left on really bad terms. But he has access to young children still and runs a private school.

This is a bad idea.  You can be sued for slander.  While truth is a defense to slander, you have no proof of his alleged wrongdoing.


Title: Problems with ADA and Work Environment

Question:
**I work an NYC, 501(c)3, in a hourly non-exempt position** that is mostly clerical/desk work, with some duties working with the public. Realistically it's probably about 80% & 20% on average. My position is across multiple departments (moreso than my official description even notes) and I have more responsibilities than a single person can possibly handle in 40 hour workweek- proof being that I am, after 1.5 years here, still catching up on tasks left unfinished by two predecessors dating back ~5 years.

I also have chronic pain caused by a musculoskeletal disorder (specific diagnoses still being evaluated), GI problems, and a compromised immune system from an autoimmune disorder. After being written up for months for being late to work but getting a stellar 6-month review otherwise, I explained I had chronic pain, listed the above, and explained this was why I've been late so often, and I'm sorry I didn't bring it up sooner but I was hoping I could get a handle on it as it's never given me such problems with a job before. **I asked about working from home on my bad joint days**, indicating that the walk and transit ride to work often made my pain worse to the point where I'd be unable to concentrate for at least the first half hour of arriving to work. By pushing myself so hard, I'd also end up in pain for several days, sometimes so bad I'd need to take off sick. My reasoning was that if on those bad pain days I can work from home, I'll not only be more productive than if I were to go into the office, but I'll overall have less days I'm in such pain I need to take off sick.

**I was denied that accommodation immediately and without more than a minute's consideration under several arguments**

* If I'm in such pain I want to stay home I should just take a sick day

* We'll talk about it when you've run out of sick days and until then it must not be that bad

* No one but salaried/exempt staff are allowed to work from home because it's illegal in NY for hourly to work from home (I asked in writing for this and was told "you can't find them because they are getting revised".... Since then they've continued to tell me know but let another hourly staff work from home with instruction to not tell me)

* My manager thinks that it's really important for people to be in the office and social with each other and doesn't believe working from home would be beneficial

IANAL but I'm pretty sure their excuses and lack of due process to consider were not legal or skirting the line, but fine. I was still kinda new so I thought maybe I have to prove myself more to be a trustworthy and self-motivating worker. So I asked about more flexibility with my work schedule to come and go a little late or early as needed so long as I still keep to my 40 hours/week and don't make drastic changes. **I turned in an FMLS form** with a note from my doctor stating that I have chronic pain and stiffness, especially in the morning. **I was verbally given a "flexible" schedule** where on bad days I can come in 15 minutes late to work and stay 15 minutes late, so long as I have an hour's advance permission from my manager (so many times my delay comes up later than an hour though)

**Since then I've suddenly been treated as the problem child.** I'm the scapegoat for when things go wrong, my manager and the CEO (small company) both reprimand me for things other people are allowed to do or wear, even if I'd been able to do so with no complaints before. I'm given more menial tasks often not even related to my job, and not asked to do things actually related to my job (and then complained to that I can't or haven't done them). I've been told by my manager that I'm only to say I have a medical delay and leave it at that, because describing it doesn't make for a cheerful office. I'm told that I'm mopey and hard to work with, when all my coworkers and others' supervisors say I'm one of the most pleasant and efficient people there. I was also denied my request for hiring the assistant my position is supposed to have, and instead accused of wasting company time and resources because I don't work hard enough to do it all. I was given a review full of 2s and 3s when the last review i got 4s and 5s (highest scores).  I made one mistake but told it was my second strike (the first my manager described but I have no recollection or written proof of it) and if I made another it'd be my "third strike" and I'd be terminated.

Today I get sent by the CEO to do another menial task that has nothing to do with my job- handing out flyers. This whole week I've been having medical delays because the weather changes are making my joints worse. Standing for 2 hours did not help. I also received a message from HR via my manager responding to my medical delays, saying now that my delays were more frequent, **my communication has to be more specific in relation to my condition I was given accommodation for, and that perhaps they need an update of my condition.**

I want to go to HR and ask specifically what do I need to tell my manager because I was previously told to be nondescript when saying I have a delay. Surely this has risk of leading to inquiry as to how I'm being treated. **I'd love to bring it up to HR, except I don't trust HR** considering the excuses and lack of proper consideration I was given from the start. If I were to talk to HR, I'd want to use my phone as a recording device as my place of work also makes an effort to say everything involving risk verbally. I only have a portion of all of these issues in writing, and the first discussion might be my only chance.

**TL;DR: Read bold. What do?**

Answer: I'm not a lawyer, and I only read down to when they denied your request for accommodation. Allowing an employee to work from home is not a reasonable accommodation that just be made under the ADA, unless you have a job that specifically would not be inconvenienced by telecommuting. If your job requires you in the office, you must be in the office.


Title: My wife is being harassed at work - IA

Question:
A little background: my wife works at a high school as an aide for a kid with special needs. The boy she works with is on the autism spectrum with severe mood swings and anger management issues. He was pulled from the school system last year for these problems and has a history of physically and verbally abusive behavior toward women. For that reason, the school had to hire two associates to work with him - one male, to help restrain him if necessary. The school's guidelines make it clear my wife should not be alone with the student - ever - for her safety.

For the entire time she's been at this school, her male counterpart has been given an inordinate amount of leeway - showing up half an hour late, taking long lunches, leaving early, leaving during the day to help assistant coach the JV basketball team, etc. At no point has anyone done anything to hold him accountable to staying with my wife and the student as he's supposed to. Yesterday, when they were left alone again, the student grabbed my wife's neck. It wasn't malicious, but that was pure luck. She's suffering from whiplash-like symptoms and has an appointment with our GP next week for a referral to a physical therapist, since it's really hurting her.

Yesterday's incident isn't surprising, given that he makes threats daily, lashes out physically regularly -both toward my wife and in a general destructive fashion, and is incredibly abusive verbally.

Today, the school is still allowing her counterpart to ditch out on his responsibilities and leave them alone together. I believe this is tremendously negligent on the part of whoever is supposed to oversee the checks and balances meant to ensure my wife's safety. Am I crazy? Is there anything we can do about this? I'm furious, and told her she needs to get everything in writing ASAP in the form of a formal complaint to start a paper trail. But it galls me this wasn't taken more seriously to begin with, because it's not an unknown or surprising issue. It also infuriates me the school has not done anything to correct the problem - which I imagine should have been done immediately.

Is there anything else she can do to protect herself in case this happens again, but worse? Does she need to look for new work? What about her contractual obligation to finish the school year? Is that something she can get out of?

Answer:
 Could your wife ask to be assigned to a different student?

I mean:  As you describe it, it sounds like the male worker would be capable of handling the student on his own.

Let him be assigned this student on his own, and your wife can be assigned to another student on her own.

Assuming it would work, it seems like a waste of resources to have another person employed solely to help your wife do a job that he would be capable of doing himself.


Title: Guest Towed in Under 30 mins dropping off house warming goft

Question:
We understand this may not have much legal standing but we wanted to fully check. We moved into an apartment in Memphis, TN on Thursday June 27th. Today my roommate's mom came to drop off a vacuum and house warming gift stuff. She didn't see the posted sign saying they will tow and visitors must park on street. There were plenty of spaces for other people to park. She did not park in "the only space left". She left within thirty minutes. We have proof from where she called saying she had arrived time-stamped and where we started calling the local police station.

The office of the towing company was already closed when we found out she had been towed. In fact, she was towed around 4pm and they closed at 1pm. She and her husband will have to miss work in the morning to retrieve her car.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: Her ignorance of and your failure to notify her of the parking rules are no excuse. She was illegally parked and therefore the tow was legal.


Title: (VA) Employer told unemployment commission I voluntarily left my job 3 months after being fired and I'm not sure what to do.

Question: Okay at the end of January my supervisor(who is the bosses nephew) took my W2 form and refused to return it after my sister dumped him. I threatened legal action and he begrudgingly gave it back and immediately after that I stopped being scheduled and my boss stopped answering my calls. About a week after that the douche texted me saying he was glad I was fired and he hopes my family becomes homeless as I was the only one working at the time. Now fast forward to today I received a letter for a fact finding interview because the boss said I left voluntarily but I had deleted the texts proving I was fired about a month ago(I thought I was done dealing with them and didn't want to read the other nasty things he said about me and my family). Im not sure what I can do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Answer: Appeal the decision and point to the shocking lack of paychecks between the day you were fired and the time they said you quit.  They're either in an unpaid wage suit or an unemployment benefits suit, their choice.Answer #2: You can appeal the decision. Most unemployment claims are denied on the first go around, and the decision can be appealed. This is not at all uncommon.


Title: A plant killed my fish

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 You don't have a legal issue. You have a customer service issue.

Of course you can ask for your money back. You can ask for anything. They are not legally obligated to honor your request.


Title: [TX] Is it worth it for me to sue for medical malpractice?

Question:
My wife suffered complications to a "routine" gall bladder removal that kept her in the hospital for months. I'll start with a summary of everything I think might be relevant:

* **Tuesday June 9th**: My wife receives a single site Cholecystectomy (gall bladder removal). The surgeon used a [Da Vinci robot](http://www.davincisurgery.com/). Her pain did not subside after surgery by the time she was planned to be released. One of the nurses said they wanted to see her pain down to a "4" (out of ten) by release but my wife reported a 7. She was given a shot of pain meds (morphine iirc) and released.

* **Wednesday June 10th**: The next day we are back in the ER at the same hospital because her pain is still substantial and she is vomiting constantly. They take an X-ray and find nothing wrong. She's given a prescription for some pain and nausea meds and sent home with a some flyers about dehydration.

* **Thursday June 11th**: We call the surgeon again and he advises us to try some different over the counter nausea medicine. We also visit a non-emergency clinic to get her an injection of some stronger nausea medicine. Her pain is still high and she can't get out of bed on her own (all reported to the surgeon).

* **Friday June 12th**: My wife's pain escalates and we go to the ER around 5am. We're back at the same ER, and this time they take her for a CT scan and find that her bowels are seized and essentially non-functioning, hence the severe nausea. She is eventually admitted to the hospital and emergency exploratory surgery is performed that day (different surgeon). The surgeon tells us he found and repaired a hole on her bowels and cleaned out her abdomen.

I'm going from memory so the rest of the dates are going to be imprecise. It was a few days before they could start intravenous nutrition for her. It was another couple weeks before she was well enough to eat liquid foods. She also needed heavy antibiotics and 3 separate procedures to find abscess and surgically insert drain tubes. She was then released, but upon checkup had to readmit to another hospital to get another drain, and then carry around IV antibiotics for another 2 weeks or so until she was well enough to return to work.

This was obviously a very difficult time to get through, and my wife and I told each other that if we decided to sue, we would look into a lawyer after she was better, but when she started to get better and the hospital trips died down, we both just wanted to put the whole thing behind us. There was upward of $300,000 in bills but it was almost entirely covered by insurance and we were able to comfortably cover the bills we received. My wife is mildly traumatized and does not like or trust doctors or hospitals, and she has also experienced delayed hair loss as a result of the malnutrition, although the hair loss is expected to be temporary.

What I'm really wondering is, are we being stupid by deciding to move on with our lives and forgoing a lawsuit? Neither of us are inclined to go through what will surely be a complicated mess of a lawsuit. We're not hurting for money, and I'm not entirely sure that anything that happened rises to the level of malpractice anyway. I don't feel like punishing the hospital or the surgeon, or the robot manufacturer will help anything. I have family and friends who still insist that we should sue, but I don't see the point. In your opinions, should I be more inclined to suing? Are we missing out on a surefire life-changing settlement or something like that?

**TL;DR** Surgeon pokes a hole in my wife's bowels during routine gall bladder removal and ER doesn't find it for 3 days. Is it a "routine" 0.01% chance mistake or medical malpractice? Is it worth it to sue?

Answer: Talk to attorneys in your area, medmal people almost always do free consultations.  Medmal requires some violation of a standard of care.


Title: [FL] I am a lawyer and I was fired after telling my boss I couldn't ethically proceed with a case. Can I pursue a wrongful termination as an "at-will" employee?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You're the lawyer, you should know the answer to this. If you don't know, ask another lawyer, don't ask reddit you donut.


Title: I have PTSD is it legal for a defendant to attack my mental health?

Question: I'm in discovery with someone and they are using my diagnosis to harass and enrage me. I already felt violated, now I feel extremely alarmed as I feel they pose a threat to my physical body. Is there anything I can do to protect myself to seek retribution?

Answer: We are going to need a better description of what they are doing that you think constitutes harassment. The other party is free to ask questions about your PTSD. There is a huge grey area here which is why you need a lawyer to let you know what questions you need to answer as well as to warn opposing council if the questions become too confrontational.


Title: What to do if somebody else filed your taxes for you and took the money

Question: I live in Pennsylvania if it makes a difference. This isn't in regards to me specifically but my girlfriend. Her kids father filed her income tax return for her without her permission, then ran off with the money. We don't have any of the login information for it and they apparently sent the return through a debit card. It's about $8000. Will provide as much information as I can if asked. Thank you in advance.

Answer: Report to police and IRS


Title: I work at a day care center as a child care provider and I’m horrified.

Question:
I have worked there for less than a month and I’m appalled by the management this facility is under. When I first started I expected a well organized, happy place for children to stay while their parents were busy throughout the day. What I found was the complete opposite.
During the hiring process my employer informed me that I would have to get a TB test and Sheriffs Card from the Nevada Police Department to ensure I’m cleared to work with kids. I had assumed the company would cover the cost as most businesses pay for background checks, drug tests, etc. out of their own pocket for some entry level jobs. But she left the fees up to me entirely. No reimbursement. Nothing. I ended up paying about $100 all together just to start working there.
My first day was a nightmare. We were out of ratio a majority of my shift. For those who don’t work in childcare the ratio is 6 children to 1 teacher. If you are working with infants the ratio is 4 infants to 1 teacher. At least this is what they’ve taught me.  (Not sure if this is correct) We had easily over 20 kids in our classroom and were limited to 3 teachers. There simply was not enough staff to support the high volume of children being dropped off. My manager allowed parents to drop off more kids despite this and her solution was to swap one kid from one class to another all the while staying out of ratio. Mind you, I have zero training or exposure to children. I’ve never changed a single diaper before this job. Nobody taught me to do a thing. They threw me into a classroom and essentially said “good luck”.
The children enrolled and employees who work at this day care are being severely mistreated. There have been several instances where staff and management have displayed carelessness in providing for these children. Most of the girls working there are underage and in high school or recently graduated with very few adults. I’ve seen kids go up to five hours without a diaper change, kids exchange sippy cups, pacifiers and other personal affects with one another and “teachers” (titles given to us per our manager) do nothing to stop it. Many girls have up and quit because of what we’re suggested to. Some girls use sleight of hand to pinch or hit kids who misbehave, openly swear and make suggestive comments in front of preschoolers, encourage kids to hit others. The same girls complain about being underpaid ($9/hr) and overworked. Management has made false promises declaring higher pay and PTO without delivery. In terms of day-to-day operation management enforce a curriculum to allow some type of routine but there isn’t much follow through. It’s more of a guideline and most times the girls are too immature to take simple tasks seriously.
I’m here today because I’ve had it. Tonight was the final straw. I worked my shift this evening to find that money had been stolen from my purse by one of my coworkers. I had cash in my wallet during my lunch break but when I got home after finishing my shift it was cleaned out. When I told my manager about it she was offended I made the accusation claiming her employees had worked there for some time and wouldn’t do such a thing. She suggested I checked my bag again and when I pressed a bit harder for some sort of resolution she had nothing to offer but a “not broken don’t fix it” attitude. I explained I no longer felt safe in that work environment and offered my two weeks to give her time to find my replacement. She says hopes it won’t take her that much time to find one.
I can’t leave this place knowing that these kids are suffering. I love them all dearly and have made an effort to excel in this job just to brighten their days. It breaks my heart knowing I’ll never see them again in such a short time. I want to walk away knowing I don’t have to worry about something happening to one of them. If there’s any legal action I can take to shut down this day care please share with me.

Answer:
 1. you may, without realizing it, be a mandatory reporter. in most states, if you are over 18 and work directly with children, you are a mandatory reporter.
2. these children are being abused and neglected daily. if you are a mandatory reporter, you are legally required to report this. doesn't matter that it's a daycare. this will happen to another child today. don't let that happen.Answer #2: http://dpbh.nv.gov/Reg/ChildCare/dta/Complaints/Child_Care_Licensing_-_Complaints/

Start here. This is Nevadas official complaint portal for improper child care facilities.

I would take everything you've written here about being out of code or regulation and put it here. I would include dates and average times per week that the rooms were understaffed especially.

While the lack of reimbursement for training is lame it's not uncommon in some states and unfortunately I don't know NVs regulations on thr matter. However the staff ratio and not getting children's personal affects shared like pacifiers should be easy to get follow up on.

What is more troubling to me is however the the fact that workers are hitting kids or encouraging other children to hit. I would encourage you to include this in the report. Unless there is bruising or evidence such as video of employees encouraging kids to hit each other or being hit I don't know if police would follow up.

But by working with kids you are quite likely a mandatory reporter so I would encourage you to go to a local police station or call the non emergency line and file a report.

If thr day care is part of a chain or owned by a larger company I would reach out to the corporate office. They have the impunity to make broader changes with less evidence.

Good luck.


Title: [MARYLAND] Mothers protective order against my father is getting modified in a few days to include me. What should I expect when we go to court?

Question:
Just a quick bit of background: Last year my mother was awarded an absolute divorce from my father (who was an abusive asshole) and was awarded sole custody of me and my siblings with complete decision making when it comes to visitation. I want no relationship with my dad as he has repeatedly harassed and verbally attacked me.

So on to my question. After him repeatedly emailing me about coming to visit us, followed by insults, bullying and threats when I say no/it isn't my call/etc, I asked my mother if she should add me to the protective order she currently has against him. She filed to have it modified. Now we are supposed to go to the court house next week. I have never needed to go to court before so I really don't know what to expect. Would it be best to write up everything I plan on saying and have it with me when I go?  Will I be talking to a judge or a social worker? Will I even need to talk to anyone?

Answer: Protip: most courts don't allow cell phones inside the courtroom,  so if there's messages that you want to show the court, you will need to print them onto paper.  Bring 4 copies: one each for judge, each side's attorney (or that side themselves, if no attorney), and one for the witness (you) to use while testifying. Answer #2: Honestly it doesn’t sound like you have ground for a protective order, he hasn’t done anything to you that would justify one being issued.  That said the case will likely be before an associate judge of the circuit court and he/she will ask you what the grounds for the petition are and will make a ruling.  You and your mom may want to consult an attorney about this to see what can be done, because just emailing you to ask if he can see you likely isn’t grounds for a protective order.


Title: If I payed a full months rent but was asked to leave before the month was up am I entitled to money back?

Question:
Location: California

Long story short - rented from a friend. We had a falling out and I was told to leave on the 22nd of the month.

I payed for a full month not expecting to be put out. Am I entitled to money back?

I was asked to leave over an argument, a petty one, nothing I believe a court would see as a legally viable reason for terminating a renting agreement and not returning some money.

Answer: He has to give you 30 days notice.


Title: Harassment by a former neighbor

Question:
TL;DR I exchanged cuss words with a former neighbor who's since moved, but he drives by my house at all hours revving his engine and being a general nuisance. Not a priority for the cops. Family feeling uneasy.

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A neighbor across the street had one  of those fast n' furious type noisemaker cars. I'm talking LOUD. He would rev the engine every time he left, when he arrived home, sitting in the driveway with friends, etc. I work from home, so I listened to this 3-4 times a day at least. I tolerated it for MONTHS until I just couldn't. One night I walked across the street after a particularly noisy engine-revving - he was startled to say the least (I'm a woman.) I said to him, "Please, I beg you, please stop revving your engine. I can't take it. It's a nuisance. Please just stop."  I was polite, but firm.

He said, "Go fuck yourself."

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Answer: Get a restraining order for his harassment of you.  Then if he keeps driving by you can have the judge come down on him.


Title: Company asked for my username and password of my bank for “accounting” purposes. I don’t trust it.

Question:
I’m in Houston, TX. I was interviewed via Google Hangout due to quarantine. The company is set in Australia, but has offices in the United States. It’s a work-from-home position.

They asked for my basic info like SSN, full name, address, etc. but when it came about direct deposit, they needed me to give them my username and password and I backed away. I never had a job ask for this.

Answer: It was 100% a scam.


Title: [CA] My car was banned from a town?

Question: I live in southern California and am pretty young (18). I recently went on a trip to a small town named Julian with a couple friends just to explore the place and have some apple pie (its known for it's apple pie). We're a bunch of car enthusiasts and had a pretty big group so we took a total of 4 cars all the way there. Problem is that once we arrived, we were immediately pulled over by the sheriff (?) And told our cars would be towed for "street racing" and that over 20 people called in on us. It soon became clear that he was full of shit because he called our parents and told them all different stories that varied from drifting to running people off the road AND we didn't pass more than 5 cars on the way there. AKA there wasn't a consistent story so in the end he just let us all go and told us our cars were banned from the town. Does he have the power to completely ban all our cars? Would we get in trouble is we drove our cars over again? I didn't know where else to post this so sorry if this is in the wrong sub.

Answer:
 I don't know that any local sheriff has the power to "ban you from the town", especially without any due process.

I do know that if he pulls over a group of teens speeding through his town (again) and recognizes you, he's going to make your lives miserable.

Make smart choices.Answer #2: >Does he have the power to completely ban all our cars?

No, this isn't the Wild West where the Sheriff can ban as they see fit. That said, I wouldn't go back looking for trouble.


Title: (CAL) Was hot by drunk driver. Car was totaled. Her insurance wants me to send my title to them before we have come to an agreement on payment for the car.

Question:
EDIT:  Was HIT not HOT... ugh

This is in the USA. California.

Like the title says I was hit by a drunk driver while parked. I and all the people in the car were injured plus one person on the sidewalk who was injured significantly. We all have claims.

I have two insurance people I m dealing with on her end... one for the property damage (my car that was declared a total loss) and another one for everything else.  The property damage person has made an unacceptably low offer on the price of replacing my car.  She was also quite rude and tried to pressure me into accepting it by threatening to stop paying the rental, etc.

I was able to get her to reevaluate the price of the vehicle replacement payment however she will not talk to me about it until I send them the title of my car.  My fear is once I send them the title they could offer me nothing and what can I do?  DO I legally have to send it? I was wondering if you have any advice on how to proceed.
Thanks in advance

Answer: You don't have to send it to them until you have an agreed-upon price. I assume you don't have coverage through your own insurance? If you do then you should go through them.Answer #2: Your instincts are absolutely correct. Tell them no.


Title: Won $20,000 from lottery. Bought some tickets with friend, but purchased more 72 hours later (winner). How do I prepare so my friend doesn't screw me over.

Question:
Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Australia (victoria).

On Tuesday myself and my friend purchased 50 tickets between us (as we have done for several years), no contract, no document, only a verbal  agreement. On friday (my day off) I purchased 10 more tickets.

On saturday I won the second division (a bit more than 20,000. No tax in Australia) with one of the extra tickets (one of the 10).

I know he will find out soon, especially when he can check the winners online.

My friend has the receipt/ information for the combined 50 ticket purchase. I have the receipt for my 10 tickets, and the deposit to my bank account (online bank statements). However, my friends/family knows we do split ticket purchases all the time. How can I prove it was myself alone? Is it his word against mine? Is a receipt enough? I can't prove that I purchased these tickets by my self.

What are the steps to take so my desprate friend doesn't pull any fast stuff? I don't want to tell him I have won yet. If you need answers feel free to ask, but I don't want to go into specifics. The draw was from here:
https://tatts.com/tattersalls/games/tattslotto/play-tattslotto

EDIT:
Sorry I didn't make this clear enough.
He could simply claim that we purchased the 10 tickets together, as we did purchase the 50 tickets together.
He could either pursue legal action, or turn my friends and family against me.

ALSO: I am looking for legal advice. Please keep it at that.

Answer:
 If your friend has the info for the 50 ticket purchase, then it should be very clear that your winning ticket was not from that batch. Legally there shouldn't be an issue (IANAL, IAN Aus)

If your friend gets mad, you will have to weigh your friendship against your money.


Title: Direct Deposit Error

Question:
My old company in the USA (office in GA) just got aquired by a new one earlier this year. I manage a team of employees and we just hired 5 new ones. One employee made a mistake entering his direct deposit info, and it was deposited in another random person's account.

The employee reached out to his bank to see what needed to be done, and the bank said they need a letter of indemnity from the company to reverse the transaction.

The bad news is, we contacted HR to see if they can help, and the short version of what they responded with was, "we don't send those, it was your mistake, work with your bank to make it right."

The bank said to him that they need that letter. Any idea what we can do to help him?

Answer: Is there a payroll department you could talk to? At the end of the day you can't force the employer to write that letter.


Title: Wife injured at work and supervisor is saying she's faking it

Question: My wife was injured at her job where in Illinois and works man comp is covering it. She has a herniated disc in her neck but found out today from coworkers that her supervisor is saying she's faking it. Is there anything that can be done about this?

Answer: How is what her supervisor saying effecting her?


Title: emotional support animal troubles in Iowa/USA

Question:
I’m calling on the power of Reddit to help me. This is in regards to an emotional support animal (ESA) in Iowa/USA. I live in a townhouse and my girlfriend just moved in with her ESA. My home owners association (HOA) has a rule that no pet can be over 25 pounds. Her very calm and docile husky is 40 pounds and is very much needed for her mental health. They called us and send a letter and said we had 30 days to give them the documentation they requested. Upon receiving the letter it was changed to 14 days. They needed a doctors note, a certification for the ESA, the reasoning for needing an ESA, Vet records, and a letter requesting an accommodation to the 25 pound pet rule. We sent them the required documentation but the day before the deadline of today they said it didn’t matter since she has no rights on the grounds of the townhouse complex since she is not an owner and they are not a rental property. So her living with me means nothing to them. We both really need him and I’m in the process of getting ESA approval from my doctor to also have him as my ESA but it will be a couple weeks before I can get in and seen. They said we will be receiving a letter next to have the dog removed from the ground within 7 days.

So I’m asking you Reddit. Is what they are doing legal? Is there anything we can do as we both desperately need the ESA and loosing him would be very detrimental. Please help!

Answer:
 The Fair Housing Act supersedes all HOA rules and regulations. They are allowed to request documentation though. Answer #2: I would call them and ask if they had their attorney involved in this decision, that's a 1000% more subtle of a threat yet makes it clear that it's going to be a legal issue if they don't cut the shit.

She is a resident she has the appropriate medical documents, the dog has his shots.

One last thing, on the history,  did she get the dog because her doctor /therapist recommended one or did she get the dog first then get a doctor's note? I don't know if that distinction has any court precedent but getting the dog because it was recommended totally excludes likely forms of fraud while dog first could potentially be looked at as a fraudulent ESA.

It is probably a bad idea for you to try to get a note at this point for yourself, because that will definitely look like fraud and probably force the issue to trial if the HoAnuses become convinced you are trying to "cheat".


Title: Noise complaint against my own family?

Question: [Georgia] So I know I can call the police for a noise complaint involving my neighbors but can I file a noise complaint against my parents I live with that have constant yelling matches. I know I could get some noise cancelling headphones but I am curious about legal action. Yes I am a minor.

Answer:
 The police are a nuclear option and going to look at this as a domestic disturbance if they act.

As in someone very likely goes to jail.

If your parents are hurting each other or you call the cops. If they're arguing go to a friends' house or put on some headphones.


Title: Parents' S Corp might be getting sued for a large debt. Debtors won't accept any of the settlements proposed. Parents have created a new S corporation and want to protect their assets from getting taken. How do they do this?

Question:
California.

Hey lawyers of reddit,

I honestly have no idea what I'm doing and my parents might not really fully understand what's at stake either so please be patient with me if I explain things poorly. I'll try my best to explain things to the best of my ability from what I've been told. I'll also try to provide any additional details asap if you guys need any more information. Thanks for your help! Mucho appreciated.

My parents own a telecommunications business and are in huge debt to an uplink company. They're threatening to sue us but haven't yet and at this point it just seems like a matter of time. We've offered multiple settlements but they've refused all of them. My parents formed a new corporation and now want to move all of the old corporation's assets to this new corporation. Here are my first few questions..

1. How do we go about doing this? Does it have to be a sale from one company to another?
2. Is this actually legal? If we are sued, can they still seize the assets of the new corporation if they're transferred from the old corporation?

Something else they're considering is that the business is actually in a building that we lease from my aunt. My parents are saying that we need to create a new lease agreement with the new corporation that lists out of the fixtures of the building. Their rationale is that this will also help to separate these assets from the old corporation and will make it my aunt's property instead.

Is this possible? Would we just have to list out all of the fixtures on the new lease agreement in order to establish that these fixtures are owned by the landlord and not the corporation?

Thanks again for everyone's help. This has been a nightmare and I just want to help my parents get through it in any way possible.

Thanks!
Jonathan

Answer:
 All of this (attempting to hide assets when you know litigation is coming soon) is a horrible idea that will not accomplish your goals of fucking the other company over and making the s corp judgment proof. Focus your time and energy on hiring a good lawyer. Answer #2: them attempting to do this may open them up personally to liability. It sounds like their business has failed at this point and they should consider bankruptcy which will result in the assets being sold off in order to pay back some portion of their debts.

The last thing you want is to accidentally act in a way that will allow the other company to pierce the corporate veil.


Title: Is My Apartment's Vehicle Policy Legal?

Question:
The apartment complex I live in has a fairly unique policy stating that all vehicles in the parking lot must be in good condition (no visible rust, no scratches, etc.) I will edit this post to include a PDF of this policy later this week.

I had a guest over for one day, and they towed that person's car with no prior notice to me. I am aware that technically it is private property, but the guest never agreed to this policy. I also feel that this policy is discriminatory to lower income individuals. Do I have any sort of case here? Like I said, the vehicle was towed with no prior notice.

Here is a snippet off of their website: "One of our unique policies is the Vehicle Condition Agreement that is part of our Rental Criteria and an Addendum to the Lease Agreement. Amazingly it came from our applicants consistently telling us that the first thing they looked at were the cars in the parking lot.  If there were rusted, heavily dented, disabled or unsightly cars, they assumed the property was poorly operated and they would have neighbors that were unacceptable. We understand that your automobile is a personal item; however, we believe that a car that is not well maintained detracts from the overall appearance of the customer’s home."

Edit: I am located in northern Kentucky, suburbs of Cincinnati, Ohio.

Answer:
 It's most likely that it's going to come down to you agreed to the policy, you're responsible for your guests actions when they're there. Just the same as if they had parked in an assigned spot and got towed, just a little more... strict.

That said I'd raise hell with the office over it.Answer #2: No reason to update. It's private property. They can set pretty much whatever rules they'd like. Answer #3: >I will edit this post to include a PDF of this policy later this week.

You are going to update this post in a week and think people will come back to answer your question?


Title: Hotel Management Refusal to Call Police

Question:
Hello dear legal gurus of Reddit!

I am in Illinois, but recently returned from a vacation in Mexico with my sister and our children.  This situation happened at the all inclusive resort we stayed at.

Long story not so short, my beach bag was stolen while we were all enjoying the pool on property.  As soon as we noticed, we went to the front desk to inform them and they got the manager.  The manager came out, and while I didn't expect him to do much, he basically shrugged his shoulders and said it was a public area.  OK, fine.  I get it.  Things happen.

The problem came from when I requested that he call the police so I can get a report for my insurance company (cell phone).  He flat out refused to call the police.  Then he hid in the back for a bit.  Front desk staff told us the phones they had only called rooms within the hotel.  My sister attempted to call from her cell phone, but it wouldn't go through.  Her husband, back in the states, even tried but couldn't get through.  The hotel manager reemerged and continued to refuse to contact the police.  It wasn't until an hour passed, and many more requests from myself, my sister, and even my sister's husband, he finally called the police.

It took 20 minutes for the police to come out, and another 20 minutes before someone who could translate came out.  When everything was done, it was over a 4 hour ordeal.

We have evidence of our own attempts to call the police, and there were cameras in the lobby that could document the time frames and our multiple attempts.

Also, I did notice that my USA passport does state, "The Secretary of State of the United States of America hereby requests all whom it may concern to permit the citizen/national of the United States named herein to pass without delay or hinderance and in case of need to give all lawful aid and protection."

Do I have a case here?  If so, what type of lawyer should I be looking for?  Is it worth it?

tl;dr Vacationed in Mexico, bag stolen, manager refused to call police for over an hour.

Answer:
 No, you have no case for anything. And wording on your passport does not obligate a hotel manager to do anything Answer #2: Oh dear bambi, you've been had. It's bloody Mexico for fucks sake, the hotel manager and the cops probably take a cut of the theft rings proceeds.

Also the little paragraph in the your passport means precisely nothing. Mine says "Her Britannic Majesty's Secretary of State Requests and requires in the Name of Her Majesty all those whom it may concern to allow the bearer to pass freely without let or hindrance, and to afford the bearer such assistance and protection as may be necessary." Does that mean the Royal Marines will come to my rescue if I get mugged in Marakesh and the local authorities won't assist me? Not bloody likely, at least not in this century.


Title: UT. Landlord arrived unexpectedly, moved in, filed 3 day notice of eviction. Threatened to kill me.

Question: A friend of mine who claims to be a ex-Green Beret (this will be relevant later) got a job out of state on short notice.  He was in the middle of a remodel on the house he owned.  He asked me to move in and finish the work for him (it was unrentable in its current state).  We agreed to month to month rent paid in cash and that he would pay for materials and I would do the work as a favor (potentially awful situation, but the expectation was that I was a friend doing him a favor so he wouldn't try to screw me.)  He shows up a few days ago with 10hr notice and moves back in.  He has PTSD and a temper and demanded that I work for him as unpaid labor.  I refused. I left the house rather than argue and haven't been back in two days.  He texted me a notice of eviction claiming that the bathroom remodel I was in the middle of was damage to the property.  I have 60% furnished the property myself and done +-$6k worth of labor, plus put in ~$1500 in materials.  I've got documentation of the agreement, payments, receipts for materials, pictures of the property in disrepair and during/after renovation.  He's threatened to kill me and several other people and the general consensus of his group of friends (formerly myself included) is that he's spiralling into something dangerous.

Answer:
 This is technically a civil matter until the threats came in. I would recommend returning under police escort to get your things and making other arrangements for living. Then pursuing the matter in civil court for the sums owed. If he threatens you with the police present he may end up in jail, and you'll be in a great position for a restraining order. You may be in one now and may want to look into that.Answer #2: File a police report on the threats and remove yourself from the property with a police escort. Safety first.

Then I'd contact a lawyer. Sue for the work you did and the wrongful eviction. KEEP THE DOCUMENTATION YOU HAVE SOMEWHERE SAFE. Do not leave it on the property or accessible to the landlord.Answer #3: Document EVERYTHING. Any text messages mentioning the remodelling. Take notes carefully after every encounter detailing EXACTLY what was said. Write down everything in one single notebook book IN PEN.

Here he would have to give you 60 days notice and a free months rent for a landlord to move back in. He can get a hotel, this is not life and death.

Well, maybe for you it is. You need a professional or lawyer to calmly  sit down with you two and review the tenancy laws. Have copies right there with important parts highlighted. Have a sane discussion about the legal notice required for eviction and suitable compensation. If he flips out, hopefully you recorded it but your professional can act as a witness. That flip out will help you in court down the road.


Title: Lost a parent, all responsibility now falls on me—no idea what I’m doing.

Question:
Let’s begin with: I’m too young for this, but I’m the only responsible person in my family. The will leaves everything to me with the exception of the house which is split 50/50 with my younger brother.

The original plan was to buy my brother out of his half of the house, as he has no interest in living in it and either live in it or sell it, from there. Turns out the only money I’ll be receiving is around $10,000 which may or may not keep me paying the bills for this house and maintaining it so the HOA doesn’t put a lein on it for about 2 months.

I’m in over my head with all of this, on top of planning the service and keeping my other family members in check. What resources should I be looking into?

Thank you, in advance.

Answer:
 I'm sorry for your loss. Please take time to grieve, and speak to a personal counsellor if you haven't.

Normally, I'd suggest that a $10,000 estate isn't really worth getting too worked up over, but the fact that real estate is involved changes things^(1). I would sit down with an estate attorney and go over everything, and get real advice. Your funeral director may be able to refer you; otherwise, your local bar association or law society can probably connect you with someone.

Keep in mind that during the probate process, the estate's assets and debts and your assets and debts are separate. You are not expected to put your own financial life at risk to keep your parents' house afloat. Similarly, your rights as an heir and your responsibilities as executor are separate: you can step away as executor, if you like, without waiving your share of the estate, or conversely waive your interest in the estate while still administering it for your parent's creditors and heirs.

^(1) Parents of reddit: don't leave your kids joint ownership of property unless you _really_ hate them. It feels "fair" up front, but it creates a lot of cost and a lot of opportunity for bad blood.


Title: [MO] Neighbor terrorizing my family allegedly set my barn on fire. What to do?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 Police now. Also the fire marshall.

Might wanna remove the personally identifying info about what state route you're on.


Title: [VA] Brother sentenced to weekend jail for Failure to appear in court for traffic violations, urine tested positive for marijuana on hi first day there. Sent to solitary for entire weekend and being held until new trial today.....is he screwed?

Question:
Just hoping for some answers as I'm really worried about my bro right now. He had two speeding tickets that he ignored and didn't show up to court for, these were 3-4 years ago. His license was suspended but he just dealt with that for a few years until this summer. He and his wife got pregnant and the baby was actually born just 3 weeks ago. My brother decided to turn himself in earlier this summer in an effort to fix all his mistakes and eventually get his license back for the sake of his soon to be new family.

He was blindsided at his original court date and was sentenced to 15 consecutive days of jail time, they were to take him right then and there (this was in July I think). His lawyer did not even tell him he may be looking at jail time so he had not made any arrangements with his job or anything. He appealed and had a new court date set for 9/16, his Son's due date was at the end of August so this new development was upsetting as he was hoping to be done with this before his birth.

He got a new lawyer. Got the support of his boss who greatly values him as an employee and actually wrote a letter of some sort to the judge to express his wishes for my brother to have his sentence reduced to weekend jail so he could maintain his job and income to support his wife and new born child. His court date was last Wednesday and he was sentenced to 4 sessions of weekend jail  which would start on 9/18, we were all pleased at this outcome and were looking forward to him getting it over and done with.

Through all of this sentencing and talking with his lawyer, no mentions of drug testing were ever brought up. To my knowledge, my brother was never told that having clean urine samples was a requirement of his sentencing. He had smoked one week prior to his Son's birth (4 weeks ago) but had quit since then.

So the worst happened this weekend, he reported to the jail on Friday, got urine tested sometime Saturday. It came back positive for Marijuana. He was put into Solitary and told he would have a new trial on Monday (today).

My brother has no other criminal history, nothing with drugs or alcohol or anything. He's only had these stupid traffic violations that he ignored 3 or 4 years ago bc well he was a lazy guy back then before he met his wife and started turning himself around.

Now I fear his life is going to take a huge turn for the worse when all he was originally trying to do was make things better. I'm not sure if he'll get to keep his job, if he'll even be released from jail anytime soon....I guess I'm just looking for any info. I feel helpless, and my bro (older) has always been there for me in my moments of stupidity and it's hard to know that there's not much I can do for him now. Any advice would be great or just any info at all really. Even if you just tell me that he's screwed, at least I can begin to prepare for that reality.

Thank you.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: Oh man. This guy pissed on every chance he had to get off easy.


Title: (AZ) Negotiating future medical costs after car accident

Question: This past March I was in a car accident where I was not at fault. My medical insurance covered almost everything, but the physical therapy I go to twice a week is not covered. I have been limited at work and between that and the pt, I'm concerned that I won't be able to wait until I'm finished with treatments to settle. Is there a way to calculate future medical expenses? Is settling early a bad idea? Do I have any other options?

Answer:
 > Is settling early a bad idea?

You betcha.

This is more of a 'get a lawyer' than you can imagine.


Title: Is it legal to open the mail of a deceased family member?

Question: Hey all, figured this was simple enough to not go in the main sub. I just got a handwritten envelope to my dad from a residential address I don't recognize. He's been deceased for around a year now. Would it be legal to open? Curiosity is killing me.

Answer:
 The executor of his estate may open it perfectly legally.
As can anyone they give permission to do so.
If you're the sole heir, you can also, since you inherit the letter.
If you're a joint heir, then you need the executor to figure out who inherits the letter.
In practice, as long as you don't try to defraud the estate, or anyone else with the info from the letter, no one will care.


is there any existing case law for conjoined twins where one committed a crime but the other did not?


Title: I have the IP address of the dude who stole my xbox.

Question: My apt got broken into a few weeks ago and my camera and xbox got stolen. They logged into my netflix a few hours ago and now I have their IP. The police have't really given any sort of a shit yet, but I feel like its a pretty obvious win. Is it even worth bothering them?

Answer:
 No you don't.

You have the IP address of the person who has your Xbox NOW.  Which is not remotely the same thing as it being the suspect who stole it.

You should absolutely give this info to them.


Title: [FL, USA and Cuba] Would kidnapping Assata Shakur break laws in the USA?

Question: She's a fugitive currently living as a political refugee in Cuba. She's got a high bounty on her head (a few million) for capture in the USA. I know it'd be breaking Cuban laws to kidnap her, but would it be breaking USA laws if you turned her in immediately upon encountering the coast guard?

Answer:
 Probably they would find something to charge you with.

The US takes a dim view of freelancing foreign relations.


Title: Fiancee suffered head injury during international flight

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You shouldn't do anything. Fiance does not equal wife. They paid for her treatment and at that point she was made whole. How much does a cheap curtain rod weigh? What lasting and persistent medical conditions arose from this event? Do you have medical documentation to prove damages? How far are you willing to take this?

Move on and grow up. Not everything in the world is a lottery money grab. The airline has TEAMS of lawyers to deal with people like you and at the end of the day they win 99/100 times.Answer #2: Where are the stitches? Is she disfigured?Answer #3: You've received what you are entitled to, as long as she has no lasting issues after the incident.


Title: Nearly collided with a cop making a u-turn

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If you had a stop sign and he did not, then he had the right of way.


Title: Woman was in a car accident with my wife’s grandfather. He’s deceased now. She refuses settlement.

Question:
A number of years ago, my wife’s grandfather was in a car accident with a woman. There was damage to both cars, but no injury to either party. He was at fault for the accident.

Shortly after, he surrendered his driver’s license. He had Alzheimer’s and really shouldn’t have been driving.

A month ago, he passed away. This is now over five years from when the accident happened.

The insurance company tried to settle initially with her. She refused the settlement. When he surrendered his license, insurance (obviously) dropped him from the policy.

Now he’s dead, and my father in law is worried she’s going to sue his estate.

What should we do? My father in law has a lawyer, but he really doesn’t seem concerned about it. To be honest I don’t think he’s the brightest bulb. He routinely forgets to do things that my father in law asks him to (like making sure legal forms get completed and filed in a timely manner).

Answer:
 > My father in law has a lawyer, but he really doesn’t seem concerned about it.

I probably wouldn't be either.  Grandfather had insurance, that insurance is going to be on the hook for legal representation and whatever level of damages she manages to win.


Title: (HI) Medical billing company keeps sending me bills even after being told by my insurance not to. I also spoke to someone from the company who said they put the bill on permanent hold. Three months later, they send me a bill. Is there any kind of legal action I can take to get them to stop?

Question:
Long story short, about 2 years ago, I was sick while visiting family in Nevada. I had to go to the emergency room. At the time I was covered under Medicaid. There was some confusion on my part because I wasn't sure if the services were being paid by Medicaid or my work insurance. I wasn't sure if my coverage started from work at the time. I found out through my insurance that all my other services that day were paid for through Medicaid except the physician's bill.

For the past two years, I have been getting bills for the physician's services. I have been very cooperative with them trying to give them the information needed. Every time they would put the bill on hold. Then 2 to 3 months later, I'd get a new bill and repeat the process.

I got my insurance involved this past year and they have in their records that they talked to the billing company and told them not to contact me anymore. Well, you guessed it, even after that, they sent me a bill. This time though, I called and the person that helped me said that she'd put the bill on permanent hold. Three months later and I get a new bill.

At this point would this be considered harassment? My insurance has record of contacting them and the last time I called the billing company, I wrote down everything. The billing company claims they don't have a record of my insurance contacting them. Also, the company was supposed to send the claim in before a year for it to get processed. Since I had issues with coverage, I think that delayed filing the claim but it shouldn't be my concern. I had coverage at the time and other services were paid for. The company can still find the claim too, they just have to mail my insurance. I don't know how to get them to go through that process.

I have also tried getting my insurance to do a conference call with me but the billing company is 6 hours ahead. This had been going on for 2 years and I would like to know how to get them to stop. Thank you.

Answer: Was the bill originally sent to your insurance for processing?  If so, was it denied by insurance, or partially paid by insurance?


Title: House buying while married but separated.

Question:
I posted [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2wbdex/nonspecific_form_to_purchase_a_home_independantly/) already, but want to verify based on what the realtors are telling me and cause this is kinda a big deal.

If I purchase a home using a "married person as his/her sole and separate property" title *and* get the spouse to sign a Quit Claim Deed, what is the probability that the spouse will have any legal claim to the property when/if  a divorce eventually goes through ?

Thanks!

edit: location, central FL

Answer:
 If the spouse or comingled funds contributed to the home, there is some chance she has a claim.

If the spouse is not on the title then you cannot do a quit claim. And if she is on the mortgage and the title she is stupid if she does do it.

When you are buying the loan person will have her sign a form saying she gives up any claim to the property. That is the best way to go about it.


Title: Is it illegal/wrong for work to inform to only certain people that paychecks were released early?

Question:
I work in the medical field in which we go by set shifts of Day (6:30A-2:30P), Evening (2:30P-10:30P), and Night (10:30P-6:30A). We normally get paid on Mondays, but since the office was closed this Monday we were told to wait until Teusday for our paychecks. [Front office closes at 4P Monday-Friday and is closed on the weekends+Monday this week.]

I work night shift, so I clock in at 10:30P. Apparently administration gave ONLY Day/Evening shift their paychecks early on Friday, and since the office isn't open again until Teusday, Night shift has to wait 4 extra days.

Had we of been told this or notified in ANY way, we'd all of been down there before the office closed at 4P. But since no one told us until our clock in time at 10:30P we're fucked into waiting until Tuesday when we could have had them Friday.

Is this illegal or anything? Or just a legal method that I'm supposed to swallow and bow my head to? There was NO notice on the boards of any kind, just word of mouth. (Yes, people really got their checks, it's not a lie/rumor.)

EDIT: I'm in Missouri.
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: it's not very nice, but it's not illegal.


Title: Random kids coming in and out of my house.

Question: I am renting a home, my brother is currently living with me in the state of Colorado. His friends keep coming in and out of the house by the windows/ front door/back door (even when I'm sleeping), I have no idea who they are, they loiter around the front yard, yell/cuss, and my neighbors think they are gang affiliated (which they are not). It has gotten way out of control, the cops have talked to him, the cops have searched the house (because again the neighbors think they are gang affiliated because they loiter in the front yard smoking cigarettes), my neighbor has talked to them, but as you can tell nothing has changed. I have also takes to my brother (who is 18 almost 19) about this, also told him if you don't control your friends or follow the rules you have to go...again nothing has changed and nor will he leave. I now fear that something could happen to me while I'm sleeping because of them, or something bad could happen at anytime. Is there any legal action I can take? Such as calling the police to have the removed from the property? Anything?

Answer:
 If they are friends of your brother than they are not "random kids" they are guests. You need to sort this out with your brother not with a lawyer.

In the meantime, maybe buy a lock for your bedroom door.


Title: Child family services have been called every year at the end of the school year for 4 years. What can I do to stop this?

Question:
Quick back story to the issue. My sister has a severe form of autism. She had the best school program to help her over the years but unfortunately we had to move to a neighboring city resulting in her having to go to a different school. During her first week at this new school she was expelled because she had a tantrum. They then reverted the decision the next day after realizing the backlash that would occur from expelling a 10 year old with autism. They eventually made a "program" just for her but according to her teacher (The only person at the school who actually helps and is a great special ed teacher) the program was terrible. Many of the staff disliked my sister because of the changes they had to make and shortly after this happened, every year, we suddenly get a knock on the door from Child Family Services. All until today the reason they'd come is to see if the living conditions were okay. For four years now, someone at the school calls saying the living conditions are bad. Every time they come they say how 90% of the cases are false and they regret having to come and disturb us since nothing was wrong.

My sister just recently developed an eating disorder where her appetite can never be satisfied no matter how much she eats. Over the past few months she's gained weight (mostly in her stomach region). Now to today, about 30 minutes ago, they showed up again. This time someone called Child Family Services because they thought my sister was pregnant because she gained weight and eats a lot. This devastated my mother. Not only does she have to deal with raising 6 children (three with disabilities) and having Graves Disease, but now she has to deal with outrageous accusations like this. She's already getting extremely sick because of her Graves Disease and this constant added stress of the school accusing her of poorly raising her kids and making outrageous claims is taking its toll.

Is there anything I or my mother can do to combat this? I'm young and don't know much but all I can think of is suing for emotional distress. I'm sorry if I'm posting in the wrong area but this looked like the right place to ask.

I forgot to add that I live in Indiana, USA.

Answer:
 Not really. You cannot stop people from calling. It sounds like they have concerns. They may be ignorant but that doesn't change that they cannot call.

Also, reporting party information is confidential and next to impossible to get released via the courts. So you cannot prove who is calling anyway.


Title: [Vermont, Illinois, and Georgia] I need help understanding the legality of an emotional support animal. Thank you.

Question:
Hello, guys. This isn't as serious as some posts on this sub, but it is causing me a lot of distress.

I am flying on a plane, and moving to Georgia from Vermont, with a short layover in Chicago ( don't need to get off the plane).

I am flying with Southwest Airlines, and I called, but the woman was not sure what she was talking about, based on her voice. She told me only cats and dogs were allowed.

My issue is that I have severe anxiety and panic. I have medication, but sometimes it doesnt work. My rabbit, Attila, whom I've had for a year as an emotional support animal, helps me to  cope with something as stressful as riding on a smelly overstuffed plane with a bunch of strangers.

I also have a letter from my psychologist stating that I need to have my rabbit with me to avoid severe panic.

He's smaller than a cat, cleaner than a dog, and is perfectly fine with travel since I take him with me wherever I go.

Southwest has told me that I can not bring him on the plane with me. I'm very nervous about flying without him, but I don't know enough about the emotional Support Animal laws to have fought the answer the woman gave me.

Something doesn't seem right. I've been able to bring him in to restaurants, stores, and on road trips. He's a Flemish Giant, so he's not skittish at all, and is actually very excited every time I bring out his travel cage.

Can someone please help me to understand my options? I can't stand the thought of giving him up to the humane society. I can't stand living a life without my precious Bunny.

Any answers will be appreciated, including answers I can approach the airline with.

Thank you so much, everyone.

Answer:
 Be sure you keep the distinction between Emotional Support Animal and a Service Animal.

A service animal, by law, can do many many things and go places.  Can go everywhere with the owner.  An Emotional Support Animal is different.  Essentially, it is a pet that makes you feel better.

I wouldn't get your hopes up that you're allowed to take him on the plane with you.  I could be wrong, but read up on the links that Napalmenator gave you.

Best of luck.Answer #2: Paging /u/Zapopa regarding an ESA rabbitAnswer #3: Southwest is really strict about cats/dogs only, I've tried (ours is a pet, not emotional support animals, but we still needed him to come with us when we moved!) - rules often get weird about rabbits because they get considered "exotic" animals. House Rabbit Society has a [big section on rabbits and travel](http://rabbit.org/faq-vacations-and-travel/) with a link mid-way down the page about various airline policies; that might be helpful for the future if not for this trip. Answer #4: You are aware you can also travel by automobile from Georgia to Vermont? If the airline doesn't let your rabbit on the plane you don't have to give your rabbit to the humane society. I'm sure there are also provisions for shipping rabbits through mail, although this won't help the ESA side of things.


Title: Shoplifting Fiasco (Missouri)

Question:
A friend of mine was recently caught shoplifting at a Wal-Mart store here in Missouri. They took down her information, she returned the undamaged property, and she was told by the employee that she wouldn’t be pursued further by Wal-Mart. She didn’t owe them anything because it was a first offense and the merchandise was returned undamaged.

A few weeks later, a letter showed up in the mail addressed to her from the Palmer Recovery Attorneys, PLLC, based in Longwood, FL. The letter basically stated that she owed them $250 by the time two weeks had passed after the letter was mailed, or they would sue. We sat down together and called the office number to see if she could make smaller payments because she did not have the full sum of money. We asked if she could make biweekly payments of $50 instead, and they immediately agreed.

So far, she’s made one payment, and they’ve seemingly left her alone.

My question(s) are:
Is this a scam?
Does she have to keep making these payments?
Why was she told that she wouldn’t be prosecuted and then received the letter?

We’ve both looked into it on other sources of the internet and people seem to have the similar issues, but we’d like to make sure that this is an unnecessary expense before she stops paying.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 It's called a civil demand letter.  Basically, that's Wal-Mart's way of asking for a civil settlement for someone shoplifting from their store.  This letter does not absolve the shoplifter from criminal charges.  It just prevents Wal-Mart from pursuing a person further in a civil matter.

Basically, if she stops paying, expect her to get hit with a lawsuit from Wal-Mart in civil court.  She should pay it off and use this as a lesson not to shoplift.Answer #2: > Is this a scam?

No. Basically, Wal-mart has to operate loss prevention services to catch criminals both big and small. Wal-mart also has to contend with politicians who do not want to tie up police resources by going to Wal-Mart to deal with small-fry shoplifters. Ergo, civil demand letters - keeps a person from entering the system, pays for LP, and generally works to everybody's benefit.

> Does she have to keep making these payments?

Probably. Depends on what she has signed/paid.

> Why was she told that she wouldn’t be prosecuted and then received the letter?

She's paying so she won't be prosecuted. Once the payments are done, Wal-mart considers the matter resolved.


Title: Selling home grown Ghost Peppers. Could I be liable if someone got sick?

Question:
My partner and I love hot food, and hot sauces, so this year I decided to try my hand at growing Ghost Peppers (one of the worlds hottest peppers; I believe they’re the 3rd hottest pepper in the world). I didn’t think I’d get any to actually grow, as I’ve killed every bell pepper I have ever planted. I got SO MAY OF THEM. Well over one hundred between my two plants.

Since we can’t possibly use that many, we’ve been thinking about selling them. But I’m concerned about liability. They are BRUTAL. I ate a slice, got tunnel vision, and felt like I was going to puke. I am always fine with very spicy foods.

If I sold them, and someone got ill from these stupid hot peppers I grew, could I be held liable?   We’re in Utah, and I’m a home gardener.

Answer: Waivers are not really that useful, maybe a little useful. What you have to make sure is that you are allowed to sell food to the public. Zoning regulations, health regulations, etc. There are regulations for farmers' markets and [licenses required](http://webapp.ag.utah.gov/LicenseLookup/?parameters=c02d455f972917d6571a65e03e5a4b61,b4bb55d6c8fac1e3164ca902ba7b75343677b9db8b531c9e7602ab4a6041ca61,f07a07514617a53328ae04b6e387af27,) and who knows what other red tape.


Title: Ex wants to be a deadbeat but still get half when the house sells...need some advice

Question:
Ex & I divorced as of 11/30/16. I wanted the divorce, he didn't. I have no desire to stick it to him financially, or regarding our child. I just did not want to be married to him anymore, we were like roommates, separate rooms, no affection, I was no longer attracted to him. We didn't involve attorneys, did all the paperwork and court filings ourselves. Agreed that our child would stay during the week with the parent in the better school district-if that's him, I am fine with it. I have no interest in having our son feel torn between us.
Throughout our 12 year marriage, aside from one year, I have been the primary, verifiable, wage earner. He is self-employed doing home improvements, gets paid cash or personal check. As far as getting mortgages or any other loan, it's mainly been on me because he can't prove income.
Our cars our in both our names. I'm on the mortgage loan by myself, we're both on the house title. As part of the divorce, we agreed to stay in the house until the school year ends, so that our son didn't have to switch schools during the semester. (He's in 4th grade) We agreed to split the proceeds. The down payment came from selling a piece of land given to us by my father. My payroll is directly deposited into our checking account, I am the one making sure the house, cars, cell phones, insurance, utilities, etc get paid every month.
He keeps saying he's going to move in with his mom because he isn't happy living in the house with me any more. I told him he can do that, but he'll still have to give me money until the house sells if he expects to get his half of the sale proceeds. He seems to think that because we're joint on the title, I'm stuck. I told him I could go back to court and advise of his plans, and get the divorce agreement amended to show I don't have to give him anything.

I am really hoping he's bluffing, because I have tried my hardest not to have this turn into a horror show like most divorces seem to. I have no ill will toward him, he is not a bad person, or a bad husband. I was no longer happy, and wanted out of the marriage. I'm trying to minimize the damage as much as possible, for his sake, and our son's, but he seems determined to make everything as difficult as possible. He's also dragging his feet about refinancing his car to get me off the loan. His mom said she would co-sign (in reality she'd probably be primary on the loan) because he can't prove income to qualify for the loan. I guess maybe I need a judge to say it's his sole responsibility either way, in case he thinks he can keep dragging his feet to screw me over.

Can anyone offer insight as to whether I'm correct about going back to court?

Answer: Your house is probably marital property which means he's entitled to half.


Title: Are parents who pay their children an "allowance" that is below minimum wage breaking labor wage laws in the USA? Could the children file a wage claim? [100% serious]

Answer: No. An allowance is a gift, not wages earned for labor.


Title: Is it illegal for a university student and a professor to have sex?

Question:
They’re both in Miami, Florida so I’m not sure if the laws are different there.
Is there a consequence if they are caught?

Answer:
 It's not illegal in terms of the police will come knocking, but it's most likely a violation of the code of conduct. I don't know what the student's consequences may be, if any, but at most colleges and universities I've taught at, the professor will be subject to discipline and/or dismissal, particularly if the instructor is a direct supervisor of the student.

As it was explained to me, it's considered an ethical breach because of the power imbalance between student and instructor, and it also opens up the potential for claims of sexual harassment, unfair grading, favoritism, etc, later on.

Source: I actually got a job because the former English teacher at one university was fired two weeks into the semester. It was discovered that he'd had an affair with a former student before she graduated and their employment handbook listed it as grounds for immediate dismissal.Answer #2: Assuming the student is at least 18, no. It may be a violation of the school’s code of conduct though. Answer #3: What is your concern?  Are you the student or the teacher?  Is someone threatening to expose the relationship?


Title: Girlfriend is going to resign apartment lease without me

Question: A little backstory before I lay out the main question. Girlfriend of 6 years wants to break up. Our apartment lease ends next month. She told me she's resigning it without me. We both have our name on the current lease for this apartment that we rent out year round - we live here while we attend college -. Now for the question, can she legally go to our landlord and say "yeah he's not resigning this, only I am."? If she can, should I say I want to resign first? I am completely fine with living in the same place as her, I have a year left in school and can't afford to live anywhere else. Any input is appreciated and I can give further detail if needed.

Answer:
 She does not want to live with you, so why are you trying to turn this into a bigger issue than just the signing of a new lease? If you want to live in the same building because it is convenient, ask the landlord if there are any other units available.Answer #2: Your question amounts to "can my landlord end my tenancy without cause at the end of my lease?" The answer to that depends heavily on your location.Answer #3: Your LL can most likely chose to sign a new lease with either you, your gf, or both.

Edit: or they might decide to rent to someone else entirely, depending on your location


Title: What Can I Do To Stop A Sociopath From Killing My Friend?

Question:
I used to post memes, and no one really knows about me, but right now, I am genuinely concerned about my friend’s life at the moment. I’m on mobile, so sorry for my crappy grammar.

I used to have a friend that I used to play with all the time. Let’s call him X, for reasons. Around 6th grade, he got a girlfriend. Let’s call her SG (sociopath girlfriend.) She used to butter him up all the time so he would spend time with her more than us. We (me and other friends) thought nothing of it, considering they are “dating” and want more time to themselves. We wanted to give them room.

Biggest. Mistake. Ever.

A few months pass and he moves away. Far-ish away. Like an hour drive far. And sure enough, SG moves close to the same place as  him around the same time he left. You see where this is going.

We kept in contact through discord, but, the older we got, the more depressed and sad he sounded. SG has been emotionally tormenting him and telling him that we want him dead, and he is trash, and the only person who wants to be around him is her. She sent us threatening DMs threatening his and her LIFE if we tell anyone. We are genuinely scared, and don’t know what we should do. We have screenshots of her telling us what she likes to do to him, how she likes to see him crumble at will, how she controls him and what he does. I am around 15 and he is 14 at the moment, and I don’t know what I can do to help him. She covers her tracks on discord by using alts to threaten us and is always changing her name/tag so no one can truly pinpoint its her.

Recently she threatened that if we don’t fix him (she got tired of him being broken and now wants us to fix him while she is gone) in a week she will make sure we never see him again. I have screenshots of it, but he not his parents won’t listen to me for some reason.

What can I do, and if I call the police or sue, what can I do or use to get him free?

Answer:
 This is, without a doubt, a good time to get your parents involved. Show them what she's told you and ask them to help you get in touch with his parents.

If your parents won't help, you can take what you have to the police. They may or may not be willing to help - a lot of this does, frankly, sound like teenaged posturing, but if you're convinced she's sincere about wanting to kill your friend, it's the best you can do.

I've got one final suggestion: you say that she's asked you to "fix" her friend. Putting aside how unfair and how impossible that request is, this means you have a good chance to sit down with your friend and - calmly and politely - show him that she has threatened you if you remain in contact with him. Tell _him_ you miss him, and that you're worried about him! Help him realize that you're still there for him, and that you'll support him if he needs help.Answer #2: You need to talk to your parents about this.  They can take you to the police station, and you show the police the screenshots, and they can transfer the complaint/screenshots to the police where he lives.  What she's doing is known as terroristic threats.


Title: Unlawful Poss of Alcohol. Do I have to put it down on my resume?

Question:
Two weeks prior to my 21st birthday I was approached by an officer in NH, while I had beer in my pockets. (unopened) I complied with everything the officer asked. I have a court date coming up in a few weeks. My only question is whether I would have to put this on applications to jobs? I have never had any priors haven't even been pulled over for anything. Will I simply get fined the minimum $300 NH enforces or will this be something more?

TL;DR: Caught unlawful poss of alcohol. Do I have to put it down while applying to jobs?

Answer:
 >I complied with everything the officer asked. I have a court date coming up in a few weeks. My only question is whether I would have to put this on a resume for applying to jobs?

No, in fact, you should probably google what a resume is so you learn what you actually should and should not put on a resume. A resume is just a marketing document for you on which you highlight those things you feel make you a strong candidate. You are not required to, nor are you expected to, disclose every pertinent fact or even every job you have had. In fact, in many situations you would be expected not to include all of your employment history.

If you put a random criminal conviction on your resume, you would be more likely to not get a job because of the perception you have poor judgement and/or do not understand professional norms than this type of misdemeanor conviction.

Now, if asked as part of the application process you should be honest. People are much less likely to care about whether you drank before being twenty one than they would be discovering you are a dishonest person. Answer #2: Resume? Like the resume that you write playing up your skills and strengths? Absolutely not. But on an application you'll usually be asked if you've been convicted of a crime. There you have to answer truthfully.