Title: Need advice for Minor Felony Shoplifting

Question:
(Throwaway Account)

So Last week (on Thursday) I was caught stealing items (3,000+ over 4 weeks). The Store loss prevention member caught me through cameras and evidence. Once i was done talking to the member, police showed up and escorted me out the store and had me sit on the push bar while things were being figured out. This is my first ever encounter with authorities (I am 17 y/o). I was completely compliant to their questions and commands the whole time. Once they read my rights and asked me question about it, they took the stolen property off of me and returned it to the store. They called my guardians and they talked to one of them when they got to the store. I was taken home and yelled at for a good 2 hours. I went straight to sleep and went to school the next day. At night, on Friday all the other items were gathered up and my other guardian returned them to the store with a Police escort. For the weekend, i just coped up, listening with the threats of my guardians, waiting for Monday to come (tomorrow).

I'm mainly concerned as to what i need to know and what i need as i should be getting more information on Monday. I have no clue what will happen and would like to know. They said that i would be going to a court and since it is my first offense and i am a minor, the judge would be easy with me and the punishment. (What would be the best and worse scenario). This entire week has been really rough on me with my living situation and the fact that i have finals. All i have been doing this weekend is studding and freaking out.

Thank you for any responses as it will help me out a lot if i get any.

Answer:
 You’re being yelled at because you have committed crimes that are potentially life altering for you. I’m sorry if that’s not helping your stress levels but that’s the reality.

Your questions should be directed entirely to the attorney who represents you, and you should be speaking to no one else about this matter.


Title: [California] Drunk/high dude broke down my door. Cops arrested him for drunk/disorderly (?), and said if I wanted to press charges for the door damage, it'd be a citizen's arrest. Decided yes, and have a case #. Now what?

Question:
So around midnight, a guy that sounds like he's drunk (ranting/yelling with slurred speech - I can make out the occasional "bitch" and "fucking") started banging on my neighbors' front doors, then mine.  I (and apparently my neighbors) called 911 while he was banging.  The door/frame eventually broke down, and he entered a few feet.  I stood there a few paces away with a baseball bat, yelling at him to "Get the fuck out!", which seems to shock him somewhat into realizing this isn't where he should be.  He stumbled out the door at this point, about the same time the cops arrived.  They arrested him for public drunkenness/disorderly conduct (?), and asked if I wanted to press charges, and if so, that it'd be a citizen's arrest, and I'd need to show up in court.  I decided yes, since I assumed that'd be needed for insurance purposes.  So I have a case #, and that's it.

After talking to my insurance company, we're waiting to get an actual estimate, but I'm guessing the damage is likely to be below my high-ish deductible, so I'll probably be on my own.  I basically just want the dude to pay for fixing my door.  If we can skip the courts, and take care of that, I don't really mind.

1.  Does this mean I'm suing him?  Or is it in the hands of the DA's office (if they decide to pursue it), and I'm just a witness?
 1.1 - If it is in the hands of the DA, and they don't decide to pursue it, then what?
2.  And/Or do I need to go through small claims court to get my costs recovered?  Assuming the repair costs fall within the limits of small claims court.
  2.1  - Taking a quick search, it looks like I'd need his name/address to do this?  I know nothing about him (cop mentioned the dude's first name, but I've forgotten it).  If this is the case, I'm assuming I can get what I need from the police report (which isn't available for a week)?
3.  Should I get a lawyer?  I've never used one before, and would have zero idea where to start.
4.  Should I be getting some sort of notification from the court/police dept/etc on what the next steps are?

Thanks for any info/input you may have.

Answer: At this point you don't need to do anything.  As part of his criminal sentence or plea he can be ordered to pay restitution to you for your door. Alternatively you can sue him in small claims, neither requires an attorney.


Title: Today I was attacked by my father, what should I do?

Question:
Today I was strangled by my father, I'm 17, what do I do now?
I haven't been here before, so I'm not sure if this is the best place to post this. I'm from England if that matters.

Answer: Call the police.


Title: (NYC) Found a US passport, how do I return it?

Question:
I found a passport for a New Jersey resident while I was walking around Chinatown. I'm wondering if there is a proper process to get it returned to her. My concern is if she's using her passport in NYC, it most likely means she doesn't have any other useful identification. She's older so I haven't been able to locate her on social media. Should I return it to USPS or something... Or just shred it?

Apologies if this isn't the right place to ask, not sure who else would know.

Answer:
 Buy a stamp and mail it to:

U.S. Department of State

Consular Lost and Stolen Passport Unit (CLASP)

CA/PPT/S/L/LE/CP

44132 Mercure Circle

PO Box 1227

Sterling, VA 20166-1227

Or you can just drop it in a USPS mailbox and they will return it to the State Department

You may not shred it, because it is the property of the federal government not you. If it has already been reported lost then it is inactive and the State Dept will destroy it, elsewise they will contact the owner.

edit a wordAnswer #2: Don't shred someone else's property. Go drop it off at the police station. Geez


Title: Safelite doesn't allow me to have my car fixed else where

Question:
A month ago i got my car windshield replaced by safelite. While in the process of replacing my windshield they some how damaged the paint of my car and dirtied/damaged my interior. I reported this to the manager and he said all damages would be taken care of by them. But they want me to bring it to a shop they regularly take damaged customer cars to. And this repair shop is where they tell all customers to go to. Assuming this is NOT the first time they damaged a customers car due to carelessness.

I feel that the repair shops within that safelite location are inadequate of fixing the damages - properly and professionally. Am i legally allowed to take my repairs else where and not to a place "required" by them? While also having them pay for all the damages. Since they caused the damage should i not have the say to bring it where ever i want?

Answer:
 You can take your car wherever you want.

But if they're offering to fix it for free at a specific shop, then I'd take it to that shop.

Otherwise, you could get it fixed on your own and sue them but that's going to cost your time and money.  It could very likely end up costing you more than just paying for the repair out-of-pocket.


Title: Got a voicemail saying that my social security is suspended because of suspicious activity.

Question:
Hello something really quick. I got a call which I didn’t hear so it just went to voicemail. I listed to it and it sounded like a spam call. The voice sounded robotic and cheap. This may be a prank call but I have a tight circle and we don’t do that.

My worry lies in the message. The person on the message said that they’re from the department of administration USA and that they found suspicious activity associated with my social security card. And that they’re suspending it. Can that really happen? I’m not a bad hombre I promise.

I get a lot of spam calls and messages is there any way to sue someone about it? I heard of a case where someone did reported and got some compensation.

Thanks in advance.

Answer: Scam. 100% scam. IgnoreAnswer #2: This is a common scam. Ignore the call.


Title: Arizona - Is there an age where a minor is deemed legally old enough to be able to go before a judge in court and request to live with the parent of their choice? If there is, what paperwork should be filed and how does one go about doing this?

Question:
some non-identifiable background: 14 year old cousin wants to live with the stable parent and only see the non-stable parent on weekends due to verbal abuse, manipulation, and the fact the non-stable uses important school events/projects as punishment on whether the 14yr old can attend/participate or not. As of right now they share 50/50 custody, rotate weekends, (its actually very confusing when its written out in detail as it starts in the middle of the week) Any advice will help.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: No. The inital determination is made by the judge. Arizona states as part of this determination the judge will always listen to the child, and place weight on their preference if they are of “sufficient age to form an intelligent preference". This isnt a hard and fast rule, but generally age 12 is an accepted margin. Once the custody order has been issued, the parents are responsible for following it, or requesting modification. The child can't request modification alone. Also, there generally has to be a "material change in circumstances" to request a modification; the child no longer liking one parent usually won't be regarded as a material change.


Title: My mom is trying to adopt a young cousin of mine because her father and mother have lost parental rights. She’s apparently very close. But I know my mother to be abusive and I feel like I should do something. Is there any way I can help? [missouri]

Question:
My mom is apparently very close to adopting her great niece, my cousin. Her parents lost parental rights and from what I’ve heard, family gets the first shot at adoption or fostering.

And while I can’t take care of a baby right now, I recently found out my mother is trying to adopt/foster this little girl.

But I was raised by her and I know she’s physically and emotionally abusive. She would not be a good caregiver for this child.

What can/should I do?

Answer:
 The child should have a caseworker at CPS handling her case; you could reach out to them with your concerns.Answer #2: Reach out to the CPS worker responsible for your cousin’s file to disclose your concerns. Be prepared to discuss specifics—CPS deals in real actions taken, not just bad feelings or gut instincts, and you will likely need to disclose some details in support of your concerns. I know it’s difficult, but those disclosures may be what ensures your cousin’s safety.

In the meantime, don’t discuss this with anyone other than the CPS worker. Even if someone else in your family is feeling similarly, don’t show your hand. There are many reasons why someone would be viewed as an unfit adoptive parent, but you don’t want to leave a trail of breadcrumbs leading back to you as being one of those reasons. If someone else shares your concerns, they’re welcome to contact your cousin’s caseworker themselves. Keep your contact w CPS to thinks you can speak to personally.

Thank you for looking out for your cousin and for being the person she needs at this time.


Title: Jury duty

Question:
Hey all, I don't  know if this is the right place, I just got my citizenship 2 weeks ago, my ceremony   is on the 14th of may but I got jury duty on the 15th, i also don't  have my certificate, that'll  be handed out at the ceremony, should I say I don't  have my citizenship  or do I have to go?
Thanks!

Answer:
 First off, play the lottery.   The odds here are astronomical.

Then, call the court house.  They'll have the answer on how to proceed.


Title: My landlord hasn't fixed our faucet leak in over a week

Question: I live in Birmingham, Alabama and we put in a request on November 19th to have our faucet in our bathtub fixed. It is constantly leaking a steady stream of water that has now made our water in our entire apartment freezing cold. We're not sure at this point if our hot water heater is out or just if we're out of hot water, since at first the water leaking out of the faucet was hot. My fiancee and I have looked into what we can do, and according to Alabama law we are legally able to move out without responsibility for future rent if the request isn't completed within 14 days. Is this true or are there any more stipulations to this? Should we look into setting up a consultation with a lawyer? We've come into several situations with this before where they didn't fix our air conditioner for over a week and our apartment's temperature was constantly in the 80s and we're honestly sick of living here so instead of a demand to have it fixed after those 14 days, we would really rather just move out.

Answer:
 Not legal advice but if you're out of hot water why not fix the faucet while you're seeking help from your landlord?

I don't think a leaky faucet is going to be your ticket to getting out of your lease for free.

The AL code you quoted would be for things like black mold, not a leaky faucet.


Title: Being Told to stop noise we are not committing by landlord

Question: So, as it goes, for the last month I been in a somewhat quarrel with my downstairs neighbor. I'm a 27 year old married gamer who lives with his friend in an apartment going on 4 years in the stae of oregon. The people below we are a married couple with a kid around 16 ish. They have been complaining about a noise above their bedroom ( where my room is) for the past month. They have reportedly called the police once, in which i have no idea they did because they never came to my door. I work a 5am to 5pm schedule and as one would think am up at 4am and in bed by 9pm. The noise is between 11pm and 4 am, They have stopped me multiple times to tell me to turn off my sub woofer, which i don't have and told my roommate that we are liars and that we need to stop making noise all night. The roommate sits in his car all night smoking.They also threatened to call their police friends over to deal with it. My apartment manager had me record nights of me sleeping on my phone and i did, no noise besides my fan, i have recorded me sleeping in my living room on my computer. This has gotten to the point where i'm being force to cut out a noise that i have no idea what it is or they will evict me in a month. I have no idea how to handle this situation, do i have any legal ground to stand on? I haven't committed any infractions on my lease and the only thing they have is this noise my neighbors recorded and my noise of my fan and that all. I have become a life if turning everything off before bed, a/c , fan. Only things i can sleep with on. With out them now, im unable to sleep correctly, it is affecting my work, My ability to think. At this point im being forced out of my home with no action to stop this.Any help would be nice thank you in advance.

Answer:
 You should offer to allow them to come wake you up one night when they hear the noise both so you can hear what they hear and they can see there's no subwoofer in your room. It's actually possible that your fan or the building's HVAC system is causing some kind of vibration that you can't hear but to them sounds like a sub. Try to be solution-oriented rather than adversarial. Unless there's another reason they would want you evicted they probably are hearing something and it will help your cause to actively try to find out what exactly it is. Then their beef ends up being the landlord's problem, not yours.Answer #2: By any chance, do you snore? I am not being facetious, snoring can be very loud, even over a 100 db in some recorded instances. Definitely in the 90db range for what would be considered a loud snorer. This is far louder than the typical TV viewing volume in the 75db range, in fact nearly 4x as loud. A lawn mower would be in this range. Even a vacuum cleaner is closer to tv volume. Noise levels in the 80db range are twice as loud, and this includes diesel trucks, trains, etc.

I have experienced loud snoring from neighbors and family members, and sometimes it is not apparent what the noise is, but it can sound like a rumble of a subwoofer when traveling through walls or floors.


Title: I was the recipient of a rear end collision. My step father thinks I should lawyer up.

Question: GLENDALE ARIZONA I was driving down a residential road and came to a stop to make a left turn. I needed an oncoming car to clear the road before making the turn. Unfortunately the driver behind me did not see me make a stop and ran into the back of my vespa. Im writing from the hospital. I have not been checked out yet. Both of us were insured. I have a court date scheduled to prove my insurance. My step dad wants me to lawyer up. Why would he want me to do this? First time navigating an incident like this (I'm 20 years old) what does he know that I don't?  Im not able to walk at the moment so my main concern is loss of income from work. And a totaled vehicle. I have short and long term disability with my work place. As well as health insurance.

Answer: Lawyer up..for?


Title: My Sisters neighbor permanently deformed face with a wine glass. The police “declined to press charges” when my sister said she wanted to. Can she make the cops press charges? Minnesota.

Question:
Apparently my mother, 2 sisters, and 1 year old niece went to a family friends for dinner about a block away from my mother's house. Crazy Bitch, as she will now be known, has been a family friend for a long time and they went over there a few times a week. Apparently Crazy Bitch had a problem that night because my sister, who normally doesn’t drink and is 40, asked for a glass of wine instead of juice because she didn’t like the juice. According to my mother crazy bitch got really aggressive about it say my sister shouldn't drink her wine because she was on medication. But my sister told her one glass would be fine and she would just drink the stuff my other sister brought if it was a problem and poured herself some wine. Crazy bitch then started slamming her fists on the table and screaming at my sister that it was her house and some other crazy stuff about how rude she was. At that point my sister said fuck it. She picked up the wine she had poured and dumped it over the woman's head and was going to walk out and obviously never talk to crazy bitch again. But crazy bitch picked up and empty wine glass and smashed it into her face and then stabbed her a few times with the broken end in the jaw and even broke a chunk off that is still lodged in her gums and will require surgery to remove. My 76 year old mother had to restrain crazy bitch as my sister fled the house and my other sister grabbed her kid and called 911. The cops showed up and took crazy bitch downtown for two days, then released her saying they were going to decline to press charges. My sister is going to file a civil suit and really wants charges pressed. She had to get 16 stitches and will require multiple  plastic surgeries plus speech therapy because the attack deformed her bottom lip.

Now crazy bitch is around my older sister's age, about 40, has never had a job because she an only child with a trust fund that allows her to have a million dollar home and pretty much anything she wants when she wants it. To say she has no grasp on what most people’s life is like is an understatement. She thinks she did nothing wrong and keeps contacting my other sister saying she doesn’t understand why they can’t be friends and that we’ll “get over it”. No, we won't.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Your sister cannot force them to press charges.

She can try talking to the prosecutor directly, or she can try to talk to the higher-ups at the police department.  She can also try suing the attacker for her damages.


Title: [IL] Property Destruction, but it's not that simple.

Question:
Last april, me and a couple friends (We were 15 at the time) took some not strictly illegal research chemicals, but they were labeled as not for human consumption.  One of the party(We'll call him A) had a psychotic break and caused close to 10K in estimated property damage, half of which is a couple dents on an antique cabinet.  We were in the house of the other friend, who we'll call B.  His mom was out of town and had left him there for the weekend.  Paramedics were involved, and now friend A is still paying off hospital bills.

.

Recently, I got an email from B's mom asking to pay for some of the damages, she wanted us to each pay 1000 dollars.  Honestly, we weren't able to pay any of this, as friend A is still paying off bills, B is unemployed and broke, and I'm currently unemployed and am paying off a debt with the little money I have.  We told her we couldn't afford this, and she is now threatening to take us to court.  It would probably be small claims court, but I want to know more about what could possibly happen.

There's no way any of us, or our parents can afford this.  What case does she have, what case do we have? I feel like there's some law somewhere against leaving a child alone for 4 days.  I know we fucked up, but we cant afford this.

Answer:
 How old are all of you in this? If you’re working you’re likely old enough to be expected not to be destructive idiots.

If you couldn’t afford it you shouldn’t have gotten high and destroyed someone’s property. You admitted fault and the other party has damages. It’s pretty much exactly that simple.


Title: (PA) Left my job, boss is mad and holding my pay. I was paid on a 1099, does that make a difference?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 He is correct.  You were not an employee, you are a separate company providing a service to him.  Just like your auto mechanic is not your employee.

It is possible you were misclassified as an independent contractor, [you can review the rules here.](https://www.irs.gov/businesses/small-businesses-self-employed/independent-contractor-self-employed-or-employee)

If you want to be paid, you have to get paid like any other business.  Demand letter, send to collections, sue, report him to a credit reporting agency, etc.


Title: Nextdoor neighbor has been selling our stuff

Question: Birmingham alabama. My wife father left her a house a couple of towns away when he passed. We stayed there for a couple of years before needing to move elsewhere for various reasons. We left it pretty much fully furnished. My wife just heard from someone that the nextdoor neighbor has been selling our stuff. Sure enough. Entire bedroom sets are missing and shit like that. Im trying to see what the smartest way to go about getting this lady brought to justice is. There were a couple of dumb decisions on our part that might make this difficult. I realize a lot of thid stuff is irresponsible and dumb. We were both young and had a lot going on. Im pretty sure aside from witnesses we wont have a leg to stand on. The house is currently condemned (has been for two months) bevause the garage door is jacked up and the mailbox fell down. Inside looks great. Unfortunately in a lapse of judgement this lady was given a key a few years ago to watch our cats at some point. Got it back but she clearly made duplicates. Not sure how to prove that.  Thats where we fucked up. Her prints inside will mean nothing. Also I dont know if it will be relevant but she was arrested for shoplifting about a year ago. She has also apparently had issues with substance abuse. Not sure if any of that will matter. The lady my wife heard this from is the only witness we know who and where they are but the neighbor literally took her in the house and was advertising all our shit to her, so theres that. I called the cops and im supposed to go meet them at the house. Im not sure what to do. I dont want to tip her off that its about to be an issue if evidence on her phone and stuff would be a big thing. Whats the smartest way to procede? Im thinking about getting a friend to pose as a buyer and hit her up.

Answer: You call the police. Which you did. Then you do what they say. So meet them at the house.


Title: Photo of my dog stolen and made to look like animal cruelty

Question:
Three years ago I posted [this post](http://imgur.com/yyUgxch) on reddit of my Siberian Husky (snow/sled dog) laying peacefully in the snow. It got a lot of views and nobody saw it in a negative light, which I loved! I recently saw this past weekend after a friend shared it onto her page that it was made into [this meme](http://imgur.com/caxPdA1) suggesting that my dog was being abused. This post spread all over Facebook like wildfire. What these people who are sharing it simply do not understand is that this is a Siberian Husky, a dog, that I'm sure many of you know, loves and thrives in the snow and cold temperatures. Not to mention that he had a doggy door leading inside the house about three feet away from him. They're sled dogs for christ's sake and are okay in -60 to -75 degree temperatures.

I honestly don't know much about my legal rights in terms of this situation and a friend told me to post this here. I believe the image was first made into this post by "petsfans.com" as they put their watermark on the top of the picture and other places have just shared this. For some reason though, when I go to their website their contact page doesn't work. I messaged them on facebook but they haven't read it yet. The posts also had several threatening comments ranging from wanting to "throat punch the owner", "leave the owner outside in the cold to suffer", and one even said "the marks by his legs were probably his last effort to get up". This has been very distressing, especially to myself and my mother, as the dog in the picture passed away 2 years ago and this was one of our favorite pictures of him before it was ruined. Do I have any legal, copyright, or personal rights to pursue this any further? I got 2 of the biggest animal shelters that I saw had posted it to take the photo down, but haven't been able to contact the ones who supposedly made the photo.

One of my biggest issues with this, though, is that many of the Facebook pages that have posted this photo are animal shelters, meaning that they are spewing wrong information out to the public insisting that this is animal abuse and all breeds, despite their heritage, should be treated the same.

So to sum it up, this picture was 'stolen' (after I posted it online 3 years ago) from me and turned into a meme about dog abuse, resulting in over 100k shares and animal shelters misinforming the public about how different breeds need different things. Do I have any legal rights to fight this and would it worth my time, effort, and money to do so?

Thank you all so much in advance, it's been a shitty few days! :)

Answer:
 It looks like petfans.com is hosted in Hungary so you might not have a great success with them. But for imgur.com and Facebook they would probably respond promptly to a DMCA notice and take it down.Answer #2: >Do I have any legal rights to fight this

Probably
>would it worth my time, effort, and money to do so?

Not even close. It's not really going to harm you personally in any way and you will just end up playing a game of whack a mole trying to get people to take it down - every time you do it will just reappear somewhere else. And even if you did get rid of your particular picture exactly the same bullshit using another equally bullshit photo would just replace itAnswer #3: Assuming you took the picture yourself, you hold the copyright and can ask the website to take the picture down by filing a DMCA request (assuming the site is located in the US).


Title: School unjustly deducted $500(net) off my paycheque for missing 1 day of work.

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 This would be a question for your union. This is literally their job.

Discipline has to be reasonable. That's what 13.07 is. Your union president / rep / however your local is organized will be able to answer your questions and fight this for you, if required.


Title: Boss trying to hand over company to me before being audited?

Question:
I work for a small start up company in Colorado that my boss created about 6 months ago. Our biggest client is a non profit that my boss also owns. He's made it clear that he isn't profiting at all from the start up company, which I actually believe.

Recently he's been giving us a few options about the future of the start up - one of which is for me (and two other employees) to take over the company and do what we'd like with it (but still consult him for guidance).

He just brought up that option again yesterday - for us to take over the start up, but work part time for his non profit. He offered us a pay increase to work for the non profit - which seems a little shady and desperate to me.

I'm wondering if he's worried about being audited because it looks shady to own a company that is making money from a non-profit that he also owns.

Any advice?

Answer: N....no. Whoever has that company in their hands when that audit completes is going to have a big bill or shackles.


Title: [CA] Went to dealership to get a brake job. They said they replaced the discs. Worksheet and receipt shows that brake discs were paid for and replaced. They weren't.

Question:
I went to the dealership two weeks ago to get a brake job done on my rear brakes. The worksheet and receipt shows that the rear pads and discs (rotors) were replaced. Lately I've noticed that when I get out of my car, the rear tires smell like something is burning, and that's when I noticed the rear discs are scratched to hell - they clearly aren't new - they look like old discs that they tried to smooth down.

How do I proceed?

Answer:
 You could very well have a semi seized caliper. This will cause the pads to not retract from the rotor. This will scratch the hell out of your rotors and cause to a of excess heat.
Have your vehicle checked by an independent mechanic before you start throwing accusations. Or call the dealership and explain since you had your brakes done you’ve noticed that there is a burning smell from the rear brakes and ask for them to do a courtesy check/warranty check on the rears.


Title: Someone Has Just Filed a Restraining Order Against Me, and I Have Some Questions About My Rights.

Question:
So let me give you some backstory; I've been having legal troubles with my little sisters ex boyfriend (She is 17, he is 18, I am 19, and we live in South Carolina), for the past few months. Over the past three months he has assaulted my sister three separate times. The third time he assaulted her I happened to be with them, and after he slapped and pushed my sister I ran up to him and pushed him away from her. He then slapped and punched me in the face. I, unlike my sister, was not going to just let this go so I called the police and pressed charges. We have a court date in June, and we are currently in the process of trying to get a restraining order against him. He is also trying to get a restraining order against me after a friend of mine called him, because she was angry about what he did to me. He randomly shows up to our house a lot to talk to my sister and I just cannot allow that to happen anymore considering he is filing a restraining order against me and he has assaulted my family multiple times. So my question is: If I see him at my house can I call the police and press charges on him for violating restraining orders even though we haven't gone to court for them yet? Our restraining order against his has been filed and we are just waiting for the hearing, but I am not sure about his restraining order.
Thanks for your feedback, I really just want to get this guy out of my life...

Answer:
 If he shows up call the police. Tell them he is harassing you and you are concerned for your safety.
I have been in a similar situation and that is what my lawyer told me to do. Don't speak to him, don't answer the door (or phone) and contact the authorities.Answer #2: This comes up a lot.

If Person A has a restraining order against Person B, but Person A deliberately "violates" the order by visiting person B, can Person A get in trouble?

Is there such a thing as a "bidirectional" restraining order?Answer #3: Restraining order is only validated when signed off by a judge and served to the person. What you can do is call the police tell them he's trespassing Answer #4: Put up a cheap camera with audio and log his visits. Don't answer him, just let him provide sweet juicy evidence for both your restraining order against him, and him to look like a fool trying to get one against you.


Title: [Ontario, Canada] My brother's landlord didn't disclose there was asbestos in the flat. Now that my brother moved out he is threatening to sue.

Question:
So my brother had a sublease for a room in an apartment, his roommate is the landlord, let's call him BD (for big douchebag).

BD offered a furnished room via facebook and my brother took it because he was desperate for housing at the time. Now it is notable that the lease doesn't say furnished but the ad did. Then like a month ago BD started selling a lot of furniture including kitchen appliances and a pc which my brother needs. Now that's pretty douchey already but then a friend of BD told my brother that asbestos was found in the flat and also in BD's lungs.

When my brother confronted BD, he admitted to the asbestos but said it wasn't harmful (wtf). My brother freaked out and said if he had known that he wouldn't have moved in. However, BD never admitted to the asbestos in writing.

My brother consulted with his unis legal advice department and they advised him to just move out which he did. He found a new room and sent BD a (in my opinion) very polite message detailing the reasons why he is moving out (the furniture and the asbestos).

BD immediately said he would call a lawyer and sue my brother for the rent and utilities of November and December. He also denied any knowledge of asbestos (this is in writing now).

We are hoping he is just bluffing about the lawsuit, my brother has no money (my dad was paying the rent but he's not on the lease). There is no way he can afford an attorney.

The friend who told my brother about the asbestos said he would testify for my brother if necessary.

Any advice on what we should do?

Answer:
 In general, asbestos in a building is not harmful unless disturbed — eg asbestos in the walls is completely fine unless you try to knock down the wall, getting asbestos in the air.Answer #2: You don't "Find asbestos" in someone's lungs without an invasive lung tissue sample. Asbestosis and Mesthelioma take a long time to develop. As /u/docjust said, most asbestos is harmless if not disturbed.

You would need to prove that he knew there was asbestos in the building and that he knew about it, which will be extremely hard to do if he never actually did a Designated Substance Sampling for asbestos.

Even still, asbestos could have gotten into his lungs a number of other ways.


Title: Sold car for scrap, handed over title but did not sign it

Question: Now I'm getting paranoid of the legal implications of selling my car for scrap without clearing my name of it. Considering this happened within the last 24 hours, what can I do to make sure I am in the clear of this vehicle legally? The buyers worked for a junkyard and paid cash and took the car as is.

Answer: Did you get a receipt for the transaction? If so this will be your proof of any come back from the authorities, my friends dad once sold a car and the paperwork was not filled correctly. Later it was involved in an incident and he was contacted by the authorities they took his word that he sold it months prior. No recourse. I wouldn't worry to much a put it as they will probably sell the parts of the car anyway.


Title: [Oklahoma City, OK] I separated from wife and moved for a job, we had a custom home being built during this time. The builder is now charging me $17,000 in upgrade fines. What can I do?

Answer: Uh, pay the builder.  There's obviously a lot of information missing from your post.


Title: My wife and 1 year old baby were trapped in an airplane for 19 hours due to weather and Delta is only offering us a $300 voucher?

Question:
my wife and child were heading overseas from New York. long story short, the plane had to turn around 30 minutes away from landing at the final destination and land in Canada. In Canada the plane was sitting at an airport for 8 hours. No one could leave the plane and wife wife was out of food for our 1 year old baby.

Is this legal? we're only being offered a $300 voucher from Delta?

Answer:
 Why was the plane diverted? If it was for a valid safety concern then it was probably going to be legal. Safety is a big concern in air travel and the FAA (and it's associated laws) give airlines a lot of wriggle room when it comes to making sure a plane doesn't plummet to the ground killing everybody.

And although I have no doubt that being stuck on a plane for 8 hours was a horrible experience did your wife or baby actually suffer any long term harm from the experience?

Having said that $300 is a pretty piss poor offer of compensation. I wouldn't be surprised if it's all they are required to offer though - but if you feel like it have a dig through the site listed below

https://www.transportation.gov/airconsumer


Title: [FL] Our parceled land is apparently not legal. Afraid county will penalize us to have it cleared up and returned to owner.

Question:
I am so so terrified that we are screwed.

-- **(2014)** My parents purchase a large amount of property and want to gift some of it to my husband and I to build a house on.

-- **(December 2015)**  We contact a bank and tell them the plan, and that we've NEVER built a home, never owned property; we have no idea what we're doing, or even how we get a piece of the land in our name. They said no problem. They started the pre-approval, we picked out a builder, and the process started.

-- **(March 2016)** To use the land as equity we must parcel the land and get a 911 address. Our builder says they can do this for us.

-- **(April 2016)** Builder hires surveyor, title attorney, and they filed the paperwork with our bank and the county. The land is parceled.

-- **(May 2016)** Parcel is recorded under our names with the county. We're given a 911 address. Bank orders appraisal and it comes back good.

-- **(July 2016)** Time for first closing for the construction portion of the process. The SAME title attorney catches that my parents don't own the land outright. They have a lien.

This is the first time we learn we should have filed a partial release with my parents' bank. We had no idea this was required. We told them upfront my parents didn't "own" the land. They claim they don't remember us saying that. We're shocked there's no check/balance for this sorta thing, because what if we had lied?

-- **(Today)** After a nightmarish 8 mos of just getting to this point, and now issues with the partial release, my husband and I considering backing out completely.

**We're wondering:**

1) According to our bank, the parcel paperwork filed with the county is illegal, because the partial release was not done first. Is this true?

2) If we back out of the building process and cut everything off, we need to contact the county about the parcel. Could they come after us for something? Or would they just remove it from their books since it wasn't legal in the first place?

3) Side question: Shouldn't the title attorney back at the beginning of the process of parceling have caught the land had a lien? How did he warranty deed the land to us without catching this the first time?

It probably was still too long, but we're just very frustrated and angry with the whole ordeal. Thanks for any help!
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 Hmm. Have you consulted your own real estate attorney in this? Not the title attorney or anyone affiliated with the bank/builders?Answer #2: NAL. The partial release would definitely have been one of the first steps in the process. If you parents had a loan for the land, the lender would definitely NOT like them doing something to reduce the value (i.e. selling some of that land off).

The title company/attorney should have done a title search and should have found the lien on the property and gone from there.

You're going to need an attorney. Might I suggest a different one than the one that had been "helping" thus far?Answer #3: 1. No. However, the lien is superior to the deed.  If the lien is even foreclosed on, your property is gone.

2. No. It just won't exist as a sperate parcel of and in the tax records.

3. Maybe.  It depends on the scope of work they were asked to perform.  If they were simply asked to draft a deed, then no.  If they were asked to perform a title search, then yes.

Solution - your parents need to work with the lender to get a partial release of lien on the parcel conveyed to you. For example, if you were conveyed 5 ac. out of a 50 ac. parcel, and your parents have paid 10% of the note, then the lender may be willing to do a partial release, as they're still fully secured.  If they're not, your parents should refinance the property they retained with another lender and make sure only the portion they retained is mortgaged.


Title: [TX] My former Ph.d advisor had a policy of only offering certain positions to non-US citizens. How can I get this to stop?

Question:
My former Ph.d. adviser had a policy of only offering research assistant positions to non-US citiizens.  My understanding of employment law is that this is illegal.  Is this true?  I have told the appropriate people (the chair of the department, etc.) but they have only said "My concerns would be addressed".

I would like to address this.  What should I do?

Answer: You can report it to the EEOC and let them investigate it, if you want. It's gonna be on your University, though, not on your PhD advisor.


Title: Brought a stolen music festival wristband on Craigslist

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Sue them in small claims court


Title: [FL] Can I (gently) Throw Golf Balls on my Neighbor's Yard?

Question:
Florida, if you need the county lmk. I know this is "dumb" but I want to know if it's actually illegal. PLEASE do not tell me this is "dumb", I have included a shitty paint doodle as a peace offering in exchange for you NOT telling me that, ty (if you enjoy my paint drawing and still say this is dumb then pls check your heart)

 [https://imgur.com/GQiMS9J](https://imgur.com/GQiMS9J) it's been a long time since I've used paint so pls forgive me.

I live in a neighborhood on a golf course, the part of the neighborhood I'm in there's literally 0 way possible for you to have moved in w/o knowledge of the golf course bcos it was there in like '05 and our area was built in '08, so you have 0 right to complain about golf balls when you knowingly bought a home on a golf course. This does not stop this neighbor lady from constantly posting on NextDoor about the golfers. Literally 0 exaggeration at least 2 posts a week min a paragraph long complaining about finding a golf ball in her front yard, complained about it damaging her car when the dent she showed on NextDoor has been in her car since at least January (she was trying to portray it as a recent dent). This lady must have nothing better to do than just whine about the golfers (when she bought her home on a golf course) all day long. Run into her walking your dog? Golfers. Wave to her from your car w/ the windows down enjoying the post rainstorm cool afternoon breeze? Golfers. Go to the HOA meeting to discuss real issues like ppl not stopping for kid son their way to school? Oh let's dedicate 5 minutes to Debbie and her fking anti golf ball agenda. She's not a pleasant neighbor in other aspects but they're not relevant to the golf issue.

So basically some of my friends and I just kind of collect the golf balls we find in our yard, they're just sitting in our respective garages.. doing nothing. Sometimes I'll walk my dog on the path of the course if we're walking in late evening after it's closed and she'll sniff out some more golf balls and I'll just collect them. Collectively we have a large amount of golf balls (maybe 200?) and this area of the neighborhood has small yards. So we want to "cover" (not literally) her yard in golf balls. Just scatter them around and see what she says about it on NextDoor.

Relevant facts would be I walk my dog by there daily and have been looking for if anyone has a Ring or cameras set up, doesn't appear to be any so far but obv I'll double check before, I've decided I'd only go through w it if her car isn't in the driveway that night because if we did get caught I don't want to be accused of pelting her car, my parents know and are not supportive but are amused. Our section of the neighborhood is townhomes, my understanding of this from talking to my parents is you don't technically own any of the yard (we're not allowed to do anything to the yards or block off HOA access, the HOA does all weeding/mowing/planting/storm cleanup everything, so not a bad setup).

I've tried to do some googling but obviously this is a unique situation. Best I can come up with is it's trespassing, but since the yard is the HOA's would we be trespassing on HOA property? Or this lady's property? Assuming nobody sees us in the act and apprehends us then and there would anyone even pursue these charges? Also I was wondering is it still trespassing to place something in someone's yard if you're standing on the sidewalk? (In my last neighborhood they always said the sidewalk was technically county owned but this one is gated so I've heard that means streets aren't county owned, idk about sidewalks tho)

Thanks in advance for the help! If I go through w/ it I'll post a screenshot of her NextDoor rant!

Answer:
 >this area of the neighborhood has small yards. So we want to "cover" (not literally) her yard in golf balls. Just scatter them around and see what she says about it on NextDoor.

No, you are not entitled to litter golf balls or anything else in this lady's yard.  WTF already?  This is an actual question?

What if she takes a walk on her grass, trips and falls down and hurts herself?  What if her lawnmower goes over a golf ball and blows up or something?  Maybe just throws out some fragments and blinds someone?  Guess who might be legally responsible?  That would be you.

Just find yourself another source of entertainment.


Title: can you sue a mental asylum for locking you in padded cell because they didn't like furries? (USA).

Question:
lets say you are in a mental asylum such as

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 Northern Virginia Mental Health Institute

 Annandale, VA 22003.

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lets say a "doctor" who works there, lets call him doctor Sunil Khan, has locked you in a padded cell, not because of any legitimate mental illness, but for becuase he didn't like your lifestyle, maybe you were a furry or something.

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once you get out can you sue him or the hospital? is there any chance of being able to sue an organization witch can just lock you up if you try?

Answer: You can't be locked up because a doctor doesn't like that you like to dress up in a fur suit. Believing that your "fursona" is a separate identity is a sign of serious mental illness and could very well justify hospitalization.


Title: Leasing office refuses to take my name off lease

Question:
I broke up with my boyfriend earlier this month. We had an apartment together and signed a lease. He decided to stay in the apartment while I moved back with my mom. We agreed upon an amount of money that I had to pay him for effectively 'breaking' my part of our living agreement, seeing as we were not going to be breaking the lease as a whole.

At first I called our leasing office and asked them what the process is for getting my name off the lease. The office manager (We'll call her Tara) told me that people do this all the time, and they have learned to ignore these requests as people often get back together, then ask to get back on the lease. After I disagreed with her line of reasoning she went on to say that its in their interest to not entertain these requests as they want to have more than one person to go after if the rent is not paid. Again, after disagreeing with her line of reasoning, she instructed my ex and I to email her the terms we would agree to, she will take them to her boss, and she would see what could be done.

My ex wrote this:

>[OP] and I ([OP's ex]) are agreeing to the following terms pertaining to our joint lease signed on [Date] for [Address]

>[Ex] agrees to assume all obligations, rights to dwelling unit, assets, responsibilities and liability set forth in the lease dated, [Date] for [Address]. All security deposits will be returned to [Ex] after any deductions, if any, made by [Leasing Office] for [Address]. [Ex] will provide a new electric account number upon agreement being finalized by [Leasing office].

>[OP] agrees to forfeit all obligations, rights and access to dwelling unit, assets, responsibilities, keys and liability set forth in the lease dated [Date] as of March 24, 2016 for [Address]. [OP] agrees to forfeit all security deposits associated with the joint lease dated on [Date]. All security deposits will be returned to [Ex] after any deductions, if any, made by [Leasing office] for [Address]. [OP] will turn over all keys and copies of keys to dwelling to [Ex]. [OP] will sign off on the locks being switched in the apartment and will no longer have access to the dwelling unless he has written consent and approval from [Ex].

>We will reply in e-mail that we agree to these terms. We request you honor these terms and remove [OP] from the lease signed on [Date] for [Address]. [OP] and [Ex] will accept any new agreements needed to be signed or filed per [Leasing office]’s policy’s and approval.

>We look forward to your response.

>Your Tenant, [Ex]

I agreed to the terms via email.

Tara's response:

>Good Morning [Ex] & [OP],

>I have received emails from each of you including the document and will review.

>Upon completion of the addendum I will email you both a copy and both of you will have to sign it.

>Thank you,

>Tara

She said it may take until Mon (today) to get back to us.

I just got this email from her:

>Good Morning [Ex] and [OP],

>Your request was submitted to management and unfortunately it was denied.

>We can remove [OP] from the lease after the expiration date if the lease is renewed.

>Our position is, that a contract was agreed and signed by all parties and is binding through the entire term through to the expiration date.

>If it was the same in reverse, and we decided to increase your rental rate, it would be illegal, we can’t make changes to a lease prior to the original expiration date.

>The purpose of a lease is for all parties to agree and be held accountable for the terms and conditions of the lease for the entire lease term.

>The personal business of who paid or who will pay, is between the both of you, we aren’t concerned about where the money comes from, just as long as the rent is paid on time.

>There were meetings to go over this and a final decision has been made.

>We consider this matter closed and the lease terms will proceed as agreed upon.

>Sincerely,

>Tara

So where does this leave me? Do I have no course of action? Am I stuck with my name on this lease for the next 12 months?

My ex and I already agreed to our own terms of how much money I should pay him, and that has already been paid. We have verbally agreed that if the leasing office did not take my name off the lease that him and I would write up our own agreement that puts the responsibility of the apartment on him and not me. But with my name officially on the lease, is such an agreement between my ex and I even enforceable?

Should I get a lawyer? Should I just roll over and accept this situation?

For reference we are in Maryland.

Thanks!

>EDIT: Just spoke to a lawyer in my area. He told me to write up an indemnification agreement between my ex and I.

>>EDIT2: Just wrote up an indemnification agreement. If anyone has any feedback on phrasing/what more to include I would love to hear it. Thank you!

>>>Indemnification agreement between [OP's Full Name] ([OP's preferred name]) and [Ex's Full Name] ([Ex's preferred name]) regarding [Address of apartment]

>>>[Ex] agrees to pay [Leasing office] for the full amount of rent due each month in a timely manner before the end of the 'grace period' to ensure no late payments that could have an adverse effect on both parties' credit.

>>>As of the date of this agreement [OP] is not held responsible for any liabilities pertaining to the lease signed by both parties, including but not limited to: payment of rent, late fees, additional deposits for pets or objects provided by [Leasing office], damages to the apartment, and any costs associated with the use of the apartment such as medical costs of an injury sustained in the apartment.

>>>[OP] forfeits his share of the security deposit paid to [Leasing office] upon signing of lease. [OP] also forfeits rights of dwelling and use of space of the apartment. [OP] also agrees to surrender his keys to the apartment and mailbox. (Keys were surrendered to [Ex] on March 24th 2016 in anticipation of successfully getting [OP]'s name off the lease and/or agreement of indemnification)

>>>[Ex] will be responsible for any and all damages, losses, and expenses [OP] incurs due to [Ex]'s failing to comply with the lease in its entirety.

>>>The intent of the agreement is to free [OP] from any and all obligations, financial and otherwise pertaining to the lease signed by [OP] and [Ex] for [Address] and to protect [Ex]'s right to dwell in the apartment independently without any influence or impositions made by [OP]. This agreement between [Ex] and [OP] is made in lieu of [Leasing office]'s removing Blake's name from the lease agreement.

Answer:
 As it relates to you and the landlord, you have no recourse. They have no obligation to take your name off the lease and as they stated, it is in their best interest to leave you on the lease in the event the rent is not paid.

What you can do is enter into an agreement with your ex that he will indemnify you in the event he does not pay the rent and the landlord comes after you. What this means is, that while the landlord could still come after you for the rent, your ex would legally then be responsible to you for any losses you incurred because of his failure to pay rent. You should probably have an attorney draft this up for you, it could be a simple one page agreement.

Always be mindful of these situations when entering into leases with SO's. The landlord does not care what happens between you two, they only care about being protected against the rent not being paid.


Title: {ILLINOIS} Can I be evicted for painting one room in my apartment without my landlords permission?

Question: Hi, kind of stressing out here. I have insane harassing landlords, who are requesting a Walk-Through of my apartment to determine my compliance with provisions in the rental agreement. I have stories that you would not believe about them (I will type them out if there is enough interest), and am currently stuck in a 2 year lease. Thankfully, I only have about one year left. I have painted my child's room without permission from the LL. In my lease it states this: " Tenant shall not make or cause to be made any alteration or addition to the apartment, without prior written consent of the Lessor, and shall under no circumstances install any additional lock or security device to the Apartment or the property which could impair Lessor's Access." What do you think I should do? There really is no reasoning with these people. Should I paint it back to it's original color, or just let them see it and take things by ear?

Answer: You violated the terms of your lease, so yes you *could*, at least theoretically, have your tenancy terminated for this.


Title: Ex filed chapter 7 on house and It's interfering with my lawsuit!

Question: My ex gave me the house in divorce on the grounds I kept up the payments or he would file Chapter 7.  I'm in a lawsuit with my servicer who granted a refinance then took it back but had already reconveyed original loan.  Without a loan, I cant make a payment. But my ex saying I am in contempt of the decree and he filed bankruptcy.  Now the servicer has sent me preforeclosure notices.  How can I stop the bankruptcy from going further because the house and title have been tied up in a lawsuit since February of 2014?  I need to stop the bankruptcy and now I need to stop this BS foreclosure notice.   Seattle, WA

Answer: You need an attorney


Title: Landlord hasn't returned security deposit within 30 days (FL)

Question:
Title tells most of it but this is a landlord I've had a lot of problems with. I moved out on September 30 and have been waiting with baited breath for today (October 30). Mailman has come and gone with no sign of a letter. On September 19, I sent a certified letter to his address with the basic language and providing my forwarding address. The next day, his girlfriend emailed me saying that her son had refused the letter and asking what it was about. I had no reason to believe her and she is not listed as anything on my lease, so I ignored her. September 29, the letter did indeed come back to me refused and I still have the unopened letter. On October 2, I sent an email to all three email addresses that my landlord uses with a copy of the letter attached and the information in the body. I asked for confirmation of receipt of the email and he never responded.

I have the following ready to go out via certified mail:

On September 30, 2017, I vacated XXXX. Under Florida law, you had 30 days in which to notify me of any valid deductions from my security deposit and refund all unused funds to me. That time period has now passed.

Per s. 83.49(3), Florida Statutes:

“If the landlord fails to give the required notice within the 30-day period, he or she forfeits the right to impose a claim upon the security deposit and may not seek a setoff against the deposit...”

To date, we have neither received an itemized list of deductions from our deposit nor received a check refunding our security deposit. You can no longer withhold any money from our deposit, so we demand you return the entire deposit in the amount of $1,650 within 5 days of the date of this letter.

Should you fail to return our deposit within 5 days of the date of this letter, we will be forced to take the matter to small claims court.

I have three questions-

1. Should I email this letter and send it certified?

2. How long should I give him? The 5 days that was in the sample seems really short but I'm done waiting. Should I keep it at 5 or make it 10?

3. Say he sends me the list of deductions in three days. What do I do? I should be entitled to the full amount, correct?

Answer:
 1. Yes
2. He's had 30 days.  5 is more than enough.
3. Yes you are entitled to the full amount.  If he sends a list of deductions sue in small claims.


Title: My son who has Asperger's syndrome is being sued for medical bills..

Question:
My son is 21 now but emotionally is probably more like a 12 year old. He cannot and does not work and is dependent on me for all of his needs. About three years ago, he was in a horrible situation where my mother was causing him so much emotional trauma that he developed a perforating ulcer in his stomach, and it caused severe abscesses in his abdomen that required emergency surgery. He developed multiple complications including pancreatitis and sepsis that kept him hospitalized for three months. He was covered by my health insurance and I began paying some of the astronomical copays, but my mother, who has severe control and emotional issues, convinced the staff of the hospital that I should be barred from seeing my son while he was hospitalized and they enforced this until adult protective services intervened. Medical professionals determined my mother was impeding his improvement and even used the term Münchausen syndrome by proxy to describe her actions. Once she was removed from the facility, he recovered and came home within a week.

Today a police officer came to my door with a legal summons for my son from the hospital that allowed my mother to dictate my involvement in my son's care. I could not afford to continue paying the copays and am still trying to recover from what I did pay. My son has no means to pay for his bills, no income or disability income. Since he was 18 at the time they pursued him rather than me. I realize they cannot draw blood from a stone and I frankly went through the most difficult time of my life due to this hospital's staff and I don't want to pay them any more than I have. My question is this: will I need to spend even more money securing an attorney to fight this on my son's behalf? Should I file bankruptcy for my son? I'd rather he not be subjected to a court hearing that may terrify him. I do not have any legal authority in place over my son; I am just doing what is right and caring for my baby who can't care for himself and he is safe and comfortable knowing he can depend on me.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

TL;DR: My son has medical bills incurred when he was 18, but has Asperger's and no way to pay. He is being sued by the hospital, need advice about how best to protect him. We are from NM.

Answer:
 I hope you have a healthy life insurance policy in place and someone who can look after him if something happens to you suddenly.

I understand your reasoning, but forgoing all the benefits he might be entitled to, including things like occupational therapy and job training, seems to be a risky choice.  Answer #2: "They cannot draw blood from a stone" is just a saying. It's not a legal defense. So hiring a lawyer won't stop him from being judged responsible for the hospital bills.

Unless you have some sort of legal guardianship over your son, you can't file bankruptcy for him. He could do so, but you'd have to pay a lot of money for it, and it doesn't sound like he has anything for a bankruptcy to actually protect.

A court summons isn't optional. He has to go to the hearing, even if it will cause him emotional harm.Answer #3: Why does he not get government healthcare?  As a severely disabled person, he should be covered by Medicaid, and get some money as well.

You are not liable for his debts, since he was an adult.

Bankruptcy might be an option.

You should look into advocates for the disabled, and see if you can get some help for him.  Also, get him into the government programs he is eligible for. http://www.drnm.org/index.php?page=programs-services


Title: Someone I know neglects her child and is now pregnant with a second, it needs to stop please help. In Arizona.

Question: I just need to know what routes I can take to do something about this because I can't sit around and do nothing. So here's a little back story, this girl has been a major marijuana smoker for a while. I have absolutely no problem with people smoking weed, they can do whatever they want to do. But I do draw the line at doing anything like that while pregnant because you just don't take that type of chance with something as important as a human life. The child she has is a little over 1 years old and has had numerous learning disabilities along the way and her and her boyfriend continue to smoke weed around the child and have all types of pieces/wax/edibles etc. around him and I'm not 100% sure but I'm pretty positive the father does cocaine as well. She pawns her child off on her mother and father in law while she goes out and parties and does drugs and drinks, she calls out of work to smoke weed all day then she begs her friends for money (upwards of 500 dollars) for rent and food for the baby then tells them they're bad friends when they say no. She can't afford to feed herself and her baby because she spends all her money on weed. And now she is pregnant with another child. While struggling to keep herself and her child afloat, she is actively bringing another life into the world and she is still smoking despite everything that happened developmentally with her first child. I know hers and his full name as well as the child but I do not know her address. I would like to know what I can do to help these poor babies because I see them suffering and it breaks my heart. Any advice would be appreciated, even if there's nothing legally I can do I need to do something please help. Thank you!

Answer: Call CPS. Literally all you can do.


Title: Break a lease right after signing.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Your old roommates' financial problems aren't your own. You stand to lose a lot to make sure they're doing what they should have been doing in the first place. Hell, I'd rather just loan the money to them rather than trying to break a lease and move back in with them.


Title: [GA] Received an F in a college course but wasn't notified until after the withdrawal deadline that I'd be failing

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The instructor has no duty to inform you of your grade at any point. They're completely free to let you find out by checking your transcript at the end of the semester.

It's your job to read the syllabus, understand the grading criteria, and do the work necessary to not fail the class.Answer #2: What u/stillunderthestars and u/thecatguardian said. If you were taking my class, while I do follow up with students in similar cases to yours, I have absolutely no institutional obligation to do so. You can count to 5. You know what you missed.Answer #3: He was totally in the right. You can also count to five right? So you should have known that you had missed five assignments.


Title: Landlord attempting fraudulent charges?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Why wouldn't it be legal? Your lease ends on May 28th. What makes you think you can just cut out early without paying? There's nothing "fraudulent" about this at all.

If someone else moves in before May 28th, then you can get a refund for the days the unit is occupied by the new tenant, but given how close that is to now, I wouldn't count on it.


Title: [CA] My ex-roommates whom are NOT good people are withholding my W-2 and say they wont give it to me unless I have a "talk" to them.

Question: I recently moved back to Seattle from San Diego on very, very bad terms with my ex-roommates. It was an urgent, quick move as I could not be in that house and deal with their bullying and torment any longer. My W-2 was sent to them and I DO NOT trust them to have my social security information. I asked them to forward it to me or let my cousin who lives down there pick it up and they said no. They said they wanted to have a "talk" with me which I know will just be pointless as all they want to do is torment, abuse & call me crazy, a whore and a slut and try to break me down like they did when I lived there. They are bullies and I do not trust them with this information. I will get another W-2 but I still want them to give me the one that was sent to the house unopened. They have the ability to do TOO much to me with my social security number.

Answer:
 That's considered mail theft.  It is very much against the law. Said law is the very last one on the link below.

https://postalinspectors.uspis.gov/aboutus/laws.aspx

Edit: Fixed a typo, was on mobile.Answer #2: They already have your SSN, they can just write it down.

Get a new W2 from your employer, this is a very common request.

As to how to protect yourself from identity theft/issues with them having your SSN, I'll leave that to others who are more in the know.Answer #3: "Mail theft is a crime. If you do not give me my mail, or have opened it, I will call the postal inspectors."Answer #4: You need to request a credit freeze at the three credit reporting agencies. You also need one for Chexsystems.

> http://www.transunion.com/securityfreeze

> https://www.freeze.equifax.com/Freeze/jsp/SFF_PersonalIDInfo.jsp

> https://www.experian.com/freeze/center.html

> https://www.consumerdebit.com/consumerinfo/us/es/chexsystems/securityfreeze/index.htm

Because you are not an identity theft victim yet you will have to pay an fees for it, but it will be a lot less of a headache then having to unwind dozen of fraudulent accounts and bounced checks across the nation. Answer #5: Correct me if i'm wrong but opening someone else's mail is a federal crime isn't it? [According to this](http://blogs.findlaw.com/blotter/2014/01/is-it-illegal-to-open-someone-elses-mail.html) and my uneducated interpretation they cant hold on to your mail. I'd contact the Postal inspectors.


Title: Need advice on filing an injunction to protect my 6yo son

Question:
Will an injunction be successful?

Details:

1) my son (6yo) was caught with his head between the neighbor’s son (7yo) legs by neighbor’s dad at the neighbor’s house. My wife and I were not there, but next door at our house.

2) neighbor’s parents didn’t tell us about the incident for 48+ hours us at a birthday party in the presence of dozens of people.

When asked why not immediately they said because “they talked to their son about it and he didn’t seem to think it was a big deal.”

3) Through therapy, my son has revealed that the neighbors son was  changing clothes, got naked, triple do dared him to put his mouth on his privates. My son said no. Neighbor boy said the other neighbor kid does it, so it’s okay to do it. My son said no. He then threatened to kill my son if he didn’t. His words.

4) when asked about the interaction with the father after being caught. My son said the father separated the boys. Spoke with his son first and then my son. When he spoke with my son, he told my son to not tell his parents or he wouldn’t be able to play with his son again.

We have filed a police report and protective services have interviewed my son who corroborated all this information in rapid succession. The DPS investigator has knocked on their door and they didn’t answer. They always answered in the past. We know they were home because of lights going on before and after the knock. The DPS investigator said she can’t force them to talk to her. And if they don’t talk to her, there isn’t much they can do. The detective from the police department says he likely won’t pursue anything due to the age difference between the boys, which is understandable. But something very weird is going on with the dad (who I’ve been friends with for years), and I want to file an injunction to get him away from us.

I’ve contacted the landlord. They agreed to give them a 60 day notice to move.

Is it worth it to file an injunction?

Answer:
 I understand that you're frightened and scared by what happened. However, I don't see any cause for you to seek an injunction or restraining order against a 7-year-old. If you don't want him in the presence of your son, it should be sufficient to refuse to allow your child to go over there or for him to visit your house, and if it's not, that's a question for your doors & fences, not the courts.

The second most important question here is what to do about this other family. I am not a child psychologist, so I won't speculate there, but again, he's 7, and there is probably a good middle ground between "doing nothing" and "running the family out of town." You have given the authorities the relevant info; I would leave it to them and look to your own family as best you can.Answer #2: I mean, what evidence do you have now to file said injunction? What is actionable that would allow you to be granted a temporary or permanent restraining order?Answer #3: I think that you are right to be concerned.

And... I don't know... an injunction or a restraining order might be feasible.

But, I think it's redundant with your ability to keep your child away from the family until they move in 60 days.


Title: Illegal eviction?

Question:
OK SO I OWN MY MOBILE HOME ON A PRIVATE LOT IN VT. My landlord sent a certified letter today stating that the mobile home needed to be moved by august 15, and that he is shutting off the water on august 2nd. No reason was stated on the paper. What is the process he needs to go through to have me move the mobile home? I am current on rent, I paid first and last months rent which would cover me until the end of August.
Two days ago his grandsons pitbull attacked my daughter and my dog. I called the police I believe,  his eviction is in retaliation of that. I have no proof of this though. What are my options?

Answer:
 It's [definitely an illegal eviction](http://legislature.vermont.gov/statutes/section/10/153/06245). If he actually turns off your water, you can sue him in small claims court for your damages (such as needing to buy bottled water, etc) and injunctive relief (he has to turn the water back on).

From what I can find, if you have a lease he [cannot evict you](http://legislature.vermont.gov/statutes/section/10/153/06237) unless there's a substancial breach in the lease or you don't pay your rent. However, I wasn't able to find exact wording on if it applies to month-to-month leases.

Regardless, he has to give you 60 days notice. I would definitely consult with a lawyer to find out the best move for you.Answer #2: What does your lease say about termination of the lease? Here is a Vermont government web site with mobile home park rental rule and law. http://accd.vermont.gov/strong_communities/housing/rules


Title: Possessing a Handgun In and Around Public University Buildings, Wisconsin

Question: I've been researching the Wisconsin statutes on carrying and possessing handguns and from what I understand I should be able to open carry on public university property and, if I unload and encase my handgun, I can take it into the building with me. Can someone confirm this? Does that violate some federal code or something? There's a lot of crime around me, but I'm not about to try this unless I'm 100% certain it's legal. Thanks!

Answer: The idiotic law that was going to allow it didn't pass. You can't take a weapon into a UW campus building. Don't take your gun to school. Try buying a sports car, it's a safer way to compensate for a small penis.


Title: Friend's son not getting medical help in Vegas hospital

Question: My friend's son has had eating problems and neurological issues that doctors have said are related to his autism. However, it took two weeks to get a permanent feeding tube in him. Now he's in the hospital for a high fever, seizures, and tachycardia. He had a fever spike and low oxygen levels because his nurses are not doing their job. I don't know how else to help her and Nevada doesn't have Ryan's Rule. She also doesn't have enough money to come back to California. Help me help her please.

Answer:
 I am sorry that this is happening. But one of the problems is that unless you are medical professionals, you aren’t qualified to comment on whether the treatment is appropriate or insufficient. You can still advocate for the patient, and if you believe that the care he is receiving is insufficient, you can look into transferring him to another hospital or getting a second opinion on his treatment plan.

However, keep in mind that medical professionals are not wizards. Not every treatment is going to be successful, but that doesn’t make it negligent. Sometimes, the patient’s body just doesn’t respond, despite the best efforts of the doctors and nurses.


Title: Can i keep my job if i ask for leave to go to rehab

Question:
I work for a large conpany in kansas. Employer has at least 10,000 employees. Just need to know if i have any ground to work with as i desperately need this. I am quite honestly going weather i keep my job or not. However having a good job i can support my family with when i return would obviously help with sobriety. Also, do i tell them it is for rehab when i speak with HR or just say medical leave wwith no explanation. I know we have a small hr staff like maybe 2 employees in the office i work at, but the main HR is at HQ in kcmo. Thanks for any advice in advance.

Edit: So i just went and talked with HR and asked just general guestions without getting into specifics. Basicly just said what would i need to do if i needed to request a leave for a medical issue and told them i didnt have enough vacation time to cover it. They told me that i would just let them know my reason why and when to HR in my building and then HQ would then send me the paperwork for FMLA and short term disability. I obviously just never asked specifically about rehab being covered under this. Short term disability would be paid and FMLA could be paid under certain circumstances. I am not really worried about getting paid as I have money saved up to keep me ok for a few months. Its just the job security i am looking for. Thanks everyone who has helped me out so far.

Answer: How long have you worked there?  You may qualify for FMLA.Answer #2: You should find out if your company has an EAP, an employee assistance program that covers this


Title: "Don't worry about a raise, your husband will make money." Gender discrimination?

Question:
So my fiancé works for a large fortune 500 science company. A while back her boss said "Don't worry so much about getting a raise. Your fiancé will make a ton of money." She thought it was a weird thing to say. I thought it was 1950s level crap: her career is just a plaything and someday she'll just be taken care of? So meanwhile said boss is never very transparent with her performance or whether it will translate into raise/promotion despite praise from all her other managers.

Then more recent meet up with boss produces the following gem when asking again abouts promotion/raise: "You just need a boyfriend who makes some money."
Wtf? Apparently it's always said jokingly, but come on. I can't see how this guy will appropriate promotions equally among her and her male co-workers with this type of mentality.

I don't think either one of us has an interest in suing, but I guess I just wondered whether I was overreacting or if this was a case of gender discrimination?

Answer: Nah, that is gender discrimination. I fully believe you should contact your state Department of Labor.


Title: Forced to Pay for Damages in Longboarding/ Car Accident

Question:
Hey Reddit, I just got hit with a $1K bill from a car insurance company and I'm not quite sure what to do.

About a year ago, March 20th, I was Longboarding and ended up hitting my friend's car as he was rolling up to a stop sign.
1) Longboards are restricted to sidewalks in this state
2) I crossed over into his lane due to gravel being in the road, which prevented me from turning sharp enough.
I know that based off of that, the fault is completely mine, BUT, my friend told me that he was texting when he was pulling up to the stop sign and didn't even notice me until I had hit his car. I told my friend that I would help him pay for the damages, and I kept that fact that he was texting on the down-low for the police report and when his insurance called to gather information.

For the next 2 months, I continued to ask him how much he was going to need me to pay, and he kept saying he would get back to me. I haven't heard from him since he graduated last May, so I figured he ended up not needed me to help pay for it.
Today, I checked my campus mailbox and found a letter from his insurance company, "seeking reimbursement from you for this claim and for out insured's deductible." It was dated March 2nd and it stated that I have 28 days to send them payment before they "forward this claim to an outside vendor for further handling."

This totally blind sided me and I have no idea what to do, so I figured I'd come here for some advice. I'm just a 22 year old college student =/

**TL:DR** Hit my friend's car while longboarding a year ago. Never heard from him about payment. Got billed for all of the damages from his insurance company today.

edit: formatting

edit 2: This happened in IL, USA

Answer:
 Sounds like you are admittedly at fault. You owe him the damages you caused him.Answer #2: You didn't get billed for all the damages, just his deductible.

Your choices are to pay, attempt to negotiate, or fight it in court.


Title: Girlfriend suing me for previous agreed upon credit card charges (MI, USA)

Question:
Hey all 👋🏻

As the title states, I am dealing with a nasty situation with my EX.

She is claiming that I have put over 4,000$ in charges on her credit card in the last year and a half. We are broken up and she is now saying that she has never checked this credit card and I put all this money on her credit card without her knowledge.

Background, she had given me the card, the card was used to make some small purchases ( gas etc..) and then a vacation was put on the card, and gift cards were put on the card. She was in the know about all of this. She would often ask me to bring her the card when she needed it. She made payments on the card using my account etc.

My point is, she was fully in the know about these purchase and never confronted me until we were broken up claiming she had never looked at the credit card statement for the last year and a half. I know she is maming this up because several of the charges she pointed out were made by her

Now, her mom is pushing to sue me for all of the “unknown” charges.

So, besides speaking to an attorney, what should be my next steps?

Answer: You aren't being sued until you are served. Until then, you should stop taking to this woman and her mother.


Title: Can a company make you remove them from your resume?

Question:
So I recently completed an internship for a small company and to cut a long story short after an altercation they told me to remove all mention of them from my resumes, LinkedIn, etc. Are they actually allowed to do this?

I did the work I said I did, they just don't want a tie to me. This internship gave me really important experience and is a key part of my resume, what should I do?

Thanks for any help

Answer:
 The have no way to enforce this but if somebody calls them for a reference they may say terrible things about you.Answer #2: Not a lawyer. I would list the position and responsibilities, dates worked and general location (city / general area, etc.) but put the company name as “Company Confidential”.

We have to do this in construction from time to time when a client makes us sign confidentiality agreements about the work we perform. If a future employer asks just explain that you were asked to sign a confidentiality agreement as a condition of your internship.Answer #3: I would review Andy employment documentation that you signed. This is a new one for me.

Another thing to consider is the impact of a potential new employer reaching out to this place for a reference and the damage they may do to you (regardless of ethics).Answer #4: What was the altercation?Answer #5: There is no law that prevents you from putting truthful details in a resume.  However, it may not be a good idea to include someone with whom you have a hostile relationship, but that is a discussion for a different sub.


Title: Michigan: Hospital says I owe money for tendon surgery on my knee. Except my leg was amputated above the knee 6 years ago.

Question:
Edited to add: I didn't include anything about my past in my post because I wanted to keep this on topic but I won't be going to the media for this. I had some bad experiences with them in the past and had to threaten to take them to court in order to get them to stop harassing me. So this won't be happening, even if they came to ask my about this I would refuse to speak to them.

I have been receiving phone calls and letters from a collection agency saying that I owe money for a hospital bill. I haven’t been in the hospital in a long time so I got them to send me a letter explaining what the debt is for and I contacted the hospital in question to ask them. Apparently in February I had surgery on the tendons in my right knee. Except that 6 years ago my right leg was amputated above the knee. I tried to explain that it must be a mistake and even went down to the hospital to show them but my prosthetic leg wasn’t enough evidence. I thought maybe it was because of identity theft so I did some digging around and made some calls. I have never so much as applied for a credit card before in my life and the credit bureaus have information which reflects that. There has never been a credit card taken out in my name and there haven’t been any searches for any loan applications or debts. There are no records of applications for a replacement driver’s licence, SSN, or birth certificate. My ID is safely locked away in a safe that only I have access to, and there have been no strange withdrawals from either of my bank accounts. I don’t use a debit card, I only use cash and no debit withdrawals have ever been taken from my bank accounts. So I truly have no idea what is going on.

The collection agency has informed me they will freeze my bank accounts and seize my money if I don’t pay (I don’t have a car or a house or any other expensive assets for them to take). I am in my last year of nursing school and I’m terrified they will take my money and I won’t be able to pay my tuition. No matter how many times I tell the agency and the hospital that it wasn’t me or show them photos of my prosthetic leg I get told there is no mistake. If I go to the hospital to show them my prosthetic I get told by whoever is seeing me that their information is accurate. I have even shown them my medical records and letters from the doctors who treated me to prove I haven’t had a knee for 6 years but every time I get told that their information is accurate and there must be a mistake with my records because they are not correct. I also got two letters, one from the agency and one from the hospital saying I should just pay because if I get a lawyer and try to fight this I will just end up paying more because their information is correct and I do owe a debit, and in the end I have to pay all their legal fees because they’re correct. The debt collectors are calling me over twenty times a day now. I am losing sleep over this because no one will listen to me no matter how high up the chain I take this.  If they take my money I won’t be able to afford school. Any advice as to what I should do would be really appreciated.

Answer:
 Your medical records are yours by law. Go get a copy of your medical record. Chances are there's someone with your name who had something done on their knee, and they'll give you a copy of that person's record. THEN they're in big trouble for not using multiple patient identifiers and for giving you someone else's records.Answer #2: A completely different tack. After reading all of the previous advice given, I have an idea. Go to the hospital's records department and request a copy of the records for your knee "treatment". Make no mention of anything prior. Simply say you're seeing another doctor for a second opinion. If they are able to give you anything about the surgery, (up to and including x-rays), they've very likely committed a major HIPAA violation. They just released confidential medical records to an unauthorized person.

Just a thought. It may be worth a shot just to have some leverage.Answer #3: What if they are claiming the other knee?Answer #4: This is a classic FDCPA violation (source: I'm an FDCPA lawyer). I don't practice in Michigan, but I would suggest you get representation to help you achieve YOUR goals with this. You can check with the National Association of Consumer Advocates (www.naca.net), who will refer you to a consumer attorney near you.


Title: [TX] father says IRS will stop him from paying future child support, cutting it in half now

Question:
Parents had  messy (violent) divorce when I was the most apathetic preteen. My mother doesn't speak English and doesn't really know the laws, and my father had her emotionally and physically abused for years. I (21) don't have a good relationship with the guy.  Their divorce paper says he must pay child support until I either marry, graduate college, drop  ollege, or turn 23. I didn't drop school but I am attending part time this semester to work to pay for my tuition. Nowhere in the decree does it say that is a no-go, but he just told me he will cut my "salary" (child support) in half from now until December (when I turn 22) and then quit paying. His excuse is that the IRS won't let him continue with payments which I suspect is a load of shit. However, he and my mother for some reason don't go through child support payment office (?) when transferring money, they just let the school district my father works in deposit the amount directly to my mom's bank account. He hasn't been paying the full amount of CS in the decree, but my mom hasn't done anything about that. What can I do about him cutting the amount, and in the future supposedly stopping payment altogether?

My father is retired Navy, if it's necessary for some reason. What is this about the IRS not letting him pay what he owes to us? Do I just call him out on his bulls hit or is there some legal reason he's so sure he can get away with it?

I'm sorry for the bad formatting i'm on the phone and it's super late night for me. I would seriously appreciate any answers before I confront the guy.
Topic:
Contracts

Answer: the IRS stuff is bs, technically you can walk into a child support division and tell them that he's not been paying it all and they will calculate how much he missed and lots of interest and make him pay till he pays it off extending payments.


Title: [CA] Car dealership appears to be pulling a bait and switch

Question:
I needed to buy a car and knew what I could afford and started researching used cars.  I researched prices extensively and found the best deal available but it was a long drive away (several hours).  I obtained my own financing at a great rate and had the ability to execute a cash deal at a certain price.  The car was listed with a glowing commentary by the dealer, listed the VIN# and linked to a carfax report that was clean.  It did not have pictures or mention color or if it was certified.  I spoke to them twice and confirmed the car was available and that it was certified pre-owned.  I asked why this information wasn't on the online ad and they said they are high-volume and it takes time to get all the pictures and information up when a car comes in.  I also asked why the price was so low and was told they don't make profit on the cars, but are a high volume dealer (300+ used cars a month) and make their money on bonuses from the maker of the cars.  All of this made sense since I know about the dealer incentives for sales volume and since the car was so new, one owner per carfax, no accidents and low mileage that it was more than reasonable to expect that it was certified.

There was a comparable car 1.5 hours closer to us than this dealership that had a price $2k higher than this other bargain.  We showed them the other dealer's price and asked if they could meet it or beat it.  They could not so we drove down to the lowest price dealer.

They knew how far we were driving from and how far away we were because my second call to confirm details was when we were halfway there.  When we were almost to the dealership, they called and said they were mistaken, but that the car wasn't certified after all because it had been in an accident and had front-end damage.  They apologized and told us they had 10 other similar years and condition cars in that model and listed a few of them starting with a newer year model.  We stopped them right away and said that new of a car would be out of our price range.  They said they knew the price on the advertised car was what our range was and that they would make sure they worked something out for us in that range because they knew we had come a long way and that they had given us the wrong information on the originally advertised car.  They even offered to upgrade a lower trim with leather seats if that was what would work which seemed unusual but like they knew they had messed up and were willing to lose a little money and bend over backwards to make it right.  They said that no matter what, they would fill up our gas tank since they know we were driving a long way (at this point we expected we should get something and if we didn't, it would be because we didn't like what they had, so the gas tank promise seemed like a no-lose reason to keep driving).  We knew this would be a steal of a deal for the newer year, but believed they were trying to make up for the misleading information we were given and that there would be other ones to choose to pick the best option if they couldn't come down on the newer ones.

We drove there and found they only had 3 models of the car, one with far more miles than we wanted and 2 that were newer.  We test drove both newer ones because of the promise of coming into our price range (the online price on these cars were $4k above the other advertised one that lured us in - still seemed like a very good deal but not unbelievable).  After sitting down to negotiate, they were completely unable to lower the price below the online advertised price.  They did not come down one bit to meet our range based on the other one that lured us in.  They tried to convince us to finance of 80 months or even lease a new model.  We were firm and adamant and repeated that we only came down because they said they could come down to our price range.  They couldn't honor that promise.

We walked away without buying anything.  They did fill up our gas tank for us as promised (hey, that's something I guess??).  I was in tears and we were furious and disappointed.  We drove back towards home and looked through the other cars available that I had printed out and stopped at a dealer on the way that had one that was older with a few more miles than the 'bait' car but for the same price.  We ended up buying that car even though it was more beat up than many we had viewed and has some things that didn't work (they couldnt' fix them that day but are covered under the certified warranty and can be fixed at no cost to us).  I don't know if we would have made the choice to buy that one in that condition if we weren't so burned out from our experience.  I'm not sure it was a bad purchase, just that I was so beaten down that I was not thinking critically.

It is VERY hard right now not to be disappointed after having the shiny newer model waved in front of our faces because they led us to believe they were going to honor the price that lured us in because they messed up.  I saw one safety feature that I just can't forget and every time I use that function on this car, I am keenly aware of what I am missing that I was shown on the newer year.  I chose to not test drive newer models than I could afford because I didn't want to see what I was missing.

I checked today and they have RAISED the price of the 'bait' car on their website and other sites.  They still have not disclosed the 'damage' or updated the carfax.  This appears to be a clear bait and switch tactic that is illegal.  We did not get tricked financially since we walked away and were 'compensated' with the tank of gas but that was NOT worth what we went through.

It just hurts that the newer model car was still a good price but I just flat-out could not afford it, I knew that and didn't want to look at something I couldn't have.  It was a $4k increase in price, which is a lot when you look at your bank account and I'm just upset I couldn't afford it and was led to believe I could and now my 'new' car doesn't seem as great as it would have if I had never been tricked by that dealer (I had deliberately avoided test driving newer models for this reason).

What can I do to make sure they are punished and can no longer blatantly pull this tactic on other people who may fall for this scam and not be smart enough to walk away?  If I get something out of it, great, but I mostly want them to feel the pain that they caused us and not be able to do this to anyone else.

I could not deal with a lawsuit even I had quantifiable damages which I'm not sure I do since I didn't fall for their scam (I had a recent legal dispute that caused so much stress that I had some painful physical side effects so a lawsuit is not going to be worth it to me emotionally).

1) I have spoken to the car maker's corporate office and they did take my complaint down.  Do not expect anything to come of that but if it hurts their internal rating that determines their bonuses from corporate, great.  I was clear that this one dealer's tactics has hurt my enjoyment of my new car and damaged my opinion and faith in the brand and that they need to know that.

2) I reported their autotrader advertisement as fraud and a bait and switch.

3) I reported to carfax that the dealer has told us this car is damaged but has not updated the carfax report.

4) I have submitted a complaint to the attorney general.

Should I have a friend from another area code call and see if they disclose the damage and claim it is certified still?

Should I mail them glitter every week/month until I feel better?

I want to hit them hard and make them pay if I can.  I don't want to hold onto this anger forever, but before I let it go I just want to make sure I've hit them every way I can so I know I did what I could to pay them back.

I learned a big lesson here... that everybody lies and all the research in the world cannot avoid the pitfalls of buying a car.

(For those looking to buy a car I learned that every place tried to sell a car at a higher price than their online price... so RESEARCH that shit before you go anywhere... each of these dealers would have happily charged us more than their online price except I had the printout to show them.  None of the ones we negotiated with were able/willing to go below the online price even when we threatened to walk and followed through on our threat.  One dealer told us the online price was their rock-bottom because it was what they could get at auction so another heads up if someone is going to spend a whole day driving around and haggling that you may not have much luck getting below the internet price)

EDIT:
**TL;DR:** (courtesy of u/haemaker)

*Finds used car they like online

*Dealer tells them it's all good!

*Dealer calls back while they are on the several hour trip to buy car to say it's not certified. Makes promises about deals on other cars.

*Promises don't pan out.

*OP complains to every agency and service provider they can think of.

*Wants to know if mailing them glitter is taking it too far?

Answer:
 tl;dr:

* OP finds used car they like online
* Dealer tells them it'saulgood!
* Dealer calls back while they are on the several hour trip to buy car to say it's not certified.  Makes promises about deals on other cars.
* Promises don't pan out.
* OP complains to every agency and service provider they can think of.
* Wants to know if mailing them glitter is taking it too far?