Title: If an employer forces a woman to wear a bra at work, couldn't she just lie about it?

Question:
Since this is off topic this is more hypothetical, but I've seen that many countries/states have ruled against women going braless at work.

It may seem like I'm just thinking out loud here, but I really do want your opinion here ladies and gentlemen.

Last bit of pre-information, I'm going to consider things like camisoles with support as bras in addition to the more traditional bra and other similar garments. With that said:

I see in a lot of work uniforms the material is thin enough to see a bra and also thin enough to see nipples if someone goes braless. But what if the employee just says "I'm wearing a bra, it's just the color of the uniform / it's very thin / it doesn't have straps / etc" seems  like there's no way they could prove she wasn't, because forcing her to take off her top would be sexual harassment. Of course if she was just defiant and said "No, I'm not going to wear a bra and you can't make me" she could be up shit creek. But if she sticks to her guns and says she is wearing a bra, what could the employer do?

Another thing she could do is wear a thick tshirt under her work uniform and say she's wearing a bra, they can't see it because of the shirt underneath. Seems like saying she has to ditch the shirt underneath and let her bra straps show would also be sexual harassment.

Thoughts everyone?

Answer:
 > But if she sticks to her guns and says she is wearing a bra, what could the employer do?

The point of rules requiring bras is that in most business contexts the *appearance* of not wearing a bra is not considered acceptable.  If it appears that a woman is not wearing a bra (even if she was) the employer would be completely justified to state that her appearance was not acceptable and require that she change.


Title: Asked to do medical procedures when I am not licensed yet?

Question:
I just started a job last week. I also just graduated from Medical Assisting and have NOT tested for certification yet. I am working two jobs to support a child.

The office manager and doctor are not from the US. The language barrier is a problem. However, they hired me knowing I am not a certified MA yet.

Two days later, the woman training me quit. I was pulled into an office and told that a lot of their employees are walking out and was also asked if I would mind "giving injections" as I am a Medical Assistant. I told the office manager, no. Absolutely not.

Fast forward to a week later. Their only nurse left just quit. I believe people are quitting due to no breaks and a hostile environment. We are simply NOT allowed to get up and eat or have a break at all from 9-5. We starve.

Anyway, I was approached by the same office manager and asked to do injections again. I said no. I was then approached by the ENTIRE office staff and told I needed to take blood pressure. Does anyone know how much trouble I can get into if I do this?

I am very concerned. I weighed people all day which was fine and was bothered even more when the doctor had me call in his controlled substances. Can I be sued for calling in medicine when I am not a nurse?

This job is a mistake and I feel bad for the 2 girls left or I would leave right now.

Thanks.

Answer:
 You need to leave.  No good is going to come from this for you.Answer #2: You should report this. Your state's board of medicine would probably be the right agency.Answer #3: Do not do any tasks that you are not licensed to perform.

I would check the license status of the doctor. I find it difficult to believe that the doctor is licensed if they cannot speak English. A foreign trained doctor must do 2 years of med school plus residency in the US for licensure.

Leave before it gets worse.


Title: PlayStation 2 Stolen

Question: I need help seems how I’m only 12 and my friend stole my PlayStation 2 with a bunch of the memory cards for the games and the two controllers I had. I’m just wondering if there is anything I can do about and what I should do.

Answer:
 >I’m just wondering if there is anything I can do about and what I should do.

Tell your parents.  Let them deal with this.


Title: Options for big sister[24y/o] gettting legal custody of little brother[10y/o]

Question:
Here is my situation:

My parents started their drug addiction when I was 17. I am 24 now and it has come to a point where I have to raise my little brother, he is 10 years old. Both of my grandmas wanted to take in my brother in but I can not separate the remainder of his family. He’s been through so much already and he doesn’t give me any problems. He’s really an incredible kid.

I want to give him a stable and healthy start to his middle school years.

My little brother has been staying with my mom up until now, shit hit the fan in August and I made my mom go to this faith based rehab and she gave me Power of Attorney over my little brother so I can enroll him into school/take him to the doctor. She only lasted a month at the rehab and had been going back and forth from my grandmas to her friends.

In december she left my grandmas without saying where she was going. After not hearing from her- which wasn’t like her- I filed a missing persons report because the holidays started and not a word.

It’s now the end of January and she’s contacted us a few times this month but haven’t seen her.

My dad has been sober for 30 days now and living with his mom.

I live in south Texas. I have a stable job, an apartment for my brother AND 22 y/o sister, I have stable vehicle & insurance on everything & the higher end of an average credit score.

I want to get full custody. Does anyone have any similar experiences?

Is there any help/counseling I can get for my little brother before puberty hits and his hormones and emotions clash.

Thank you!

btw I texted my mom asking for full custody and she said I was crazy and that she could not give me full custody....but we still haven’t seen her

Answer:
 There's going to be a ton of moving parts here and you will absolutely need to get a lawyer that specializes in family law.

Judges do not want to strip parents of their rights unless they absolutely need to. From what you described however, the best thing for the child is with you.

It will be an uphill battle, even more so if your parents fight you on this.

But getting a lawyer and filing for full custody is in his best interest.


Title: My friend (16f)got asked out twice by her (22m) coworker and is making her uncomfortable. (Illinois)

Question:
My friend and this coworker work as caddies, so they are both not working there currently because it’s winter. However, he has texted her twice since the summer about going out and each time she has denied him, and it’s making her uncomfortable. She really doesn’t want to work any shifts with him next summer or have to interact with him, and was thinking of just telling her boss but her parents say he didn’t cross any lines and it isn’t necessary. What is the best way for her to avoid working with this guy in the future? This is the first time anything like this has happened to her and she’s not sure how seriously she should take it.
[The texts](https://imgur.com/gallery/JYYBhDo)

Answer:
 She needs to be clear with him.

“I’m 16 and you’re 22, I can’t go out with you, stop asking”

If he persists after that, then she can escalate.


Title: Retail employer wants to force me to stay tonight overnight all alone because alarm system is broken

Question:
The fire department had to unplug our alarm system because there was a malfunction tripping the system. They had to completely disconnect it until ADT can come fix the problem.

If ADT cannot come out my boss wants to make me stay overnight to watch over the store.

Can I pull any OSHA or safety legalities to avoid this shit?

Located in South Carolina USA

Answer:
 As long as you are getting paid to act as fire watch, there's nothing illegal.

Your only recourse is to quit.Answer #2: Where are you located?


Title: Possibly turning my Employer into the FDA

Question:
Both my mother  and I work for the same food production company. It has been a hostile work environment for some time but today we found out a couple of things they are doing illegally.

We have to metal detect each box of food after production that goes into our cooler to wait for shipment to a customer. I found out that my boss has been ordering employees to pass things that clearly aren't passing.  We had a batch that did not pass,  and we ran it three times and recalibrated the metal detector to be sure. My boss told our warehouse manager to pass it and put on the paperwork that it passed.  Apparently he has done this before and makes sure to adjust the paperwork so it looks like it is passing.

Also,  he is ignoring proper sanitation techniques in favor of cost.

We also found out today that he is not requiring everyone to get hepatitis shots and fudging the paperwork on that as well.

Along with not requiring emergency contacts or having I9's for the employees in the company.

Our taxes are constantly messed up at the end of the year due to the I9 and we had a few employees who had to be taken to the hospital and they had no idea who to contact or any information to give to the paramedics when they requested beyond a first and last name as they do not even have employee phone numbers on file.

What exactly should I do and how should I go about this? This is  a family owned company and the HR rep doesn't actually do any HR beyond getting our hours to a payroll company.

Edit location:

I am in Missouri

Answer:
 It honestly is as simple as calling or emailing the FDA. You can usually stay anonymous during the process (but be warned that doesn't stop your employer from putting two and two together).

They will then triage (prioritise) your complaint and decide what investigative action to takeAnswer #2: > It has been a hostile work environment for some time

Are you sure about that? Those words have a specific legal meaning.


Title: Dad being harassed by cops at our home over a sex offense 21 years ago [NC]

Question:
It's a complicated story. My dad make a mistake over 20 years ago. We love him and all is forgiven by all of our family. He is a wonderful man now and would go to hell and back for his family.

Because of the laws in America regarding sex offenders, he's been working oversees to support our family. He couldn't deal with the constant embarrassment. He was unable to find work even though he is one of the most highly qualified individuals in his field.

So, he made the difficult decision to leave his family and lived in isolation for years to support us and my ill mother until his father passed away a few months ago and he traveled back to America for his funeral. After attempting to fly home to the country he was working in, some self righteous jerk off decided his fate and put a big red SEX OFFENDER flag on his record making it impossible to travel outside of the states.

Then, two cops came by my mother's house where he has been staying for the past few months and claimed "they're doing things differently now and will be checking in TWICE A MONTH".

My father has done his time. This is harassment and a violation of very basic human rights. Can they actually do this or are they out of line? They treat sex offenders, regardless of the actual charge, worse than murderers. What can I do in this situation to protect my family from any more torment?

Answer:
 > What can I do in this situation to protect my family from any more torment?

Probably nothing. If your father is a sex offender, then whatever laws and rules are in place for sex offender monitoring apply to him. However, your post is much too vague for anyone to tell you much.Answer #2: > My father has done his time. This is harassment and a violation of very basic human rights. Can they actually do this or are they out of line? They treat sex offenders, regardless of the actual charge, worse than murderers. What can I do in this situation to protect my family from any more torment?

You? Nothing. Your dad should consult with a local lawyer for an hour or two and find out what his rights as a previous sex offender are. It's very possible what the police are doing is 100% legal. A local lawyer who knows the local laws and can do an hour of research can advise him best.


Title: LEGAL FORM HELP

Question:
Hi! I am an event planner who was recently asked to be a part of another start up company. There is only one other person involved which is the owner. I am the first to be hired on as an event planner.

I have been sharing events I have found with him so we can plan together, but no contracts have been made. I would like to make one that makes sure that I am compensated for 50% of the work and that I am somewhat of a partner.

I have never made a contract before so I have no idea what is needed.

Please help! :)

Answer:
 This is really something that you should both go to a local attorney and hammer out. It won't cost a ton and everyone will be covered.

No one here can or will write a contract for you. It is not ethical, over the internet.


Title: [CA] Uncle went to jail for life and refuses to give up house.

Question: I will try and keep this short. My grandfather owned a house in Oakland CA and before he died, my uncle had him sign over the house to him. Last year my uncle went to jail for life, so from that point on no one lived in the house or made any payments. Fast forward to 2016 and one of my sisters gets diagnosed with cancer. With my uncles permission my family moves my sister into the house in Oakland because it's only 5 minutes from the hosiptal where she would undergo chemo. No one had lived in the house for over a year so my brother started fixing it up because my uncle never lived in it, he just used it as storage. He also paid roughly 10k in property tax/missed payments because he got a letter in the mail saying the house was going to be foreclosed on the next month. Currently my uncle refused to sign over the house for no apparent reason and my other siblings take turns living at the house to help take care of my sister. My brother would like continue making improvements and eventually sell the house, but my uncle refuses to give it up

Answer:
 It is not your house. It was your grandfather's, it is now your uncle's. It is not yours. It is not your brother's. It is not a "family" property. It is your Uncle's house.

Your uncle is free to do what he wants with the house, including allowing it to go into foreclosure. If you pay the mortgage or taxes that is a gift to your uncle. It does not give you any rights to the house.

You can buy the house from your uncle if, and only if, he agrees to sell it to you. That's it. It's his.


Title: Two shootings outside my apartment building, management has not acted

Question:
Hi Reddit,
In the last month there have been two separate instances where a gun was discharged directly outside my apartment building by tenants or associates of tenants. I know that on at least one occasion, someone shot out the tires of a car attempting to leave the property. I highly suspect the tenants in question to be drug dealers - they always have cars coming by, there are often clearly associated people outside the building late at night, and it often smells like weed near their unit. I've smoked a bit of weed in my day, so I wanted to let it slide, but after the shootings I have decided to take a stand. Police are investigating but management has not acted.

I gave a statement to the police and later received a follow-up call, so it seems like they are working on it. Should I wait for the investigation to conclude and hope the management company evicts the tenants soon? I guess I should email management for an update? It seems like their activities have died down but I still don't feel safe knowing they're in the building. I just don't want to get caught in the crossfire. I live in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Any suggestions from legally savvy folk or people who have gone through similar experiences would be appreciated!

Thanks

Answer: If the tenants are on a lease, management likely needs more than just "/u/41_6E_64_79 said you were dealing drugs..." to evict them.


Title: Contesting a parking ticket, with a strange set of circumstances

Question:
This took place in Los Angeles.  The LA Parking enforcement unit is notorious for refusing to correct tickets issued in error if you contest them.  For instance, we had an event where we were allowed to park in a PPD (preferred parking district), an area where you’d normally need a permit to park there.  But this was a large event, and for a limited number of hours, the PPD restrictions were relaxed. This was requested through the local City Council, and was a fairly normal occurrence.

I got ticketed, I contested it, I was told that just because the city council requested the relaxation didn’t mean the parking enforcers had to listen to it.  Yeah they’re assholes. In that case, the council-member’s office stepped in and had the ticket revoked.

This case is somewhat different, and I’d love to know the law or policy before I contest it.

Went to dinner Sunday night, parked on a street in Hollywood.  I parked on the east side of the street, but there are permanent “no parking” signs posted there.     Now, had I seen those signs, I’d never have parked there.  But I did a (legal) U-turn in the middle of the street, didn’t see them, parked.

There WAS a different sign I saw... it’s a temporary sign, that said no parking any time EXCEPT for Sundays.

So there’s one permanent sign (I didn’t see) that prohibits parking at any time.  And then a temporary sign saying no parking except Sundays, and as I saw that sign and it was Sunday, problem solved.  Of course, if they hadn’t put the temporary sign up at all, there’d have been no need to put a temporary sign up as there was already no parking allowed.

But my argument is that a temporary sign supersedes a permanent one. So at a normal parking meter, where parking is allowed, if there’s a temporary “no parking” sign there... then you can not park there.  The temporary sign is the law for that time.

Wouldn’t the reverse also be true then? That parking is allowed on Sunday because the sign allowed it?

Photo of the sign here:

https://i.imgur.com/YMhR014.jpg

Answer:
 That's certainly the argument that I would make.  Not because temp signs automatically supersede permanent ones, but because there is no reason for that sign if the other signs supersede in this case.

Will they accept that line of logic?

I have no idea.


Title: I think I'm caught in a scam

Question:
So, I was an idiot and got caught up in a scam trying to sell my car. Long story short, buyer texted saying he wanted the car but could not get it so he was having someone shop it to him. He sent a cashier's check with an extra $2000 that he said was for the shipper. Told me to send 2 money transfers of $900 each to shipper. One went through and the other didn't. Said shipper wouldn't accept cash and tried to get me to do other things like Bitcoin. Li told him I could write a check or have cash ready for the shipper, and the butter has been quiet since.

Is there any way for me to get out of this without being legally liable for anything? I love in Utah if that helps. The money for the shipper was sent to Florida.

Answer:
 This is a scam. There was never a buyer for your car, and your money is gone.

You are not liable for anything, save for the negative balance that has not hit yet...Answer #2: Once your bank determines the cashier's check is fake they will remove that money from your account. You will not be able to get back the $900 you sent. At least you did not lose the full $2k.

Will your account be overdrawn once the fake cashier's check fails to clear?Answer #3: File a police report, contact your bank and explain the situation. Make sure you have enough money in your account for when the fake cashiers gets pulled.

This is a very common scam, take it as a valuable lesson learned. Answer #4: This is a very, very common scam. (Check out r/scams). They see this all the time and it pops up for any high value items, and even for some medium value ones.


Title: How can my Dad protect himself when divorce papers are delivered?

Question:
My Dad filed for divorce from his second wife back in July, after she kept threatening the "D" word for over a year. She has serious mental issues but has never been hospitalized. She sees a counselor 2x a week (1 individual session & 1 marriage session with my Dad). They have been going to marriage counseling 4 times a month for the whole duration of their 10 year marriage.

They decided to work things out, but she called the cops on my Dad twice since then. Once because he looked at her phone, the other time she said my Dad parked the car abruptly causing her to fall (the reality is, she stepped out of the car when it was still in motion). Then she lied to my Dad a few days later when he asked why a policeman stopped at the house to talk to her- he found out days later that they want a statement from him because she claimed her "injury" was intentional.

She is verbally and physically abusive with my Dad. My Dad has had enough, and he finally called the cops on her for a change when she started beating him over the head when he was sleeping last week. They ended up taking her away for the night for a psychological evaluation- she was out the next day.

My Dad is now moving forward with the divorce and she will be served papers on Saturday. I am really concerned about what he should do/where he should be when these papers are delivered. The first time he was going to divorce her, my Dad was not home, and she ended up taking his personal effects and hiding them in her car. He kind of wants to be home so she doesn't steal things again. At the same time, she might do something crazy (she drinks at least 1 bottle of wine a day along with abusing her prescribed xanax). It is not uncommon for her to black out and do/say crazy things.

Anything my Dad can do to protect himself? I'm worried she will call the cops and falsely accuse my Dad of abuse. I told him he should have his sister (my Aunt) at the house as a witness, but she won't be able to stay there forever. Any other precautions he can take? Can he call the cops in advance and say he is worried about retaliation?

Answer:
 > My Dad is now moving forward with the divorce and she will be served papers on Saturday. I am really concerned about what he should do/where he should be when these papers are delivered.

He should have a process server deal with this, and stay home. Depending on jurisdiction, he may not be _able_ to serve process on his wife himself, and there's almost never a good reason to do so.

If he's worried about his wife doing something stupid to herself, or assaulting him, having a disinterested witness around can both help keep peoples' behaviour in check and provide verification that nothing untoward happened. Your father may still want to take whatever he can and leave if his wife gets violent: safety first, and being somewhere else will also make it harder to accuse him of anything.


Title: Estate sale prep in progress, and items are missing. Is there anything that I can do?

Question:
My father died not long ago, my mom has moved out, and we have a company in preparing for an estate sale. Because my Dad had many tools and hobbies, this is being advertised as a "picker" sale. There's not too much in the rest of the house, but the basement and garage are full. I'm in Chicago, Illinois.

I went yesterday to take a couple of remaining items of furniture that we'd prearranged for later removal of, and noticed that a number of items were missing. Nothing too large, mostly in the $50 to $100 range. I emailed, and they promptly referred me to the manager of the individual sale. It has been over 24 hours and she had not responded to me except to say that they cannot locate the items. I should note that my mom is still pretty grief stricken, and signed this contact without a lot of vetting or conversation.

My question is, do I have any options? Should I call the police if they continue to fail to respond? Is this a small claims court problem? Can that be done if we don't necessarily know the entirety of what's missing and/or have receipts for everything? Since this is part of a national chain with local franchises, and we're dealing with one of the teams at the local franchise, should we just go to the national company? Is this even the right subreddit for this question?

Since the estate sale is still being prepped, I feel like there is still room to resolve this in a reasonable way. But, I'm looking for options right now, should reasonableness not work out. Any input you have would be appreciated. Thanks!

Answer:
 I would call the cops immediately and quite frankly tell the company / employees to get off your property.

Your property was stolen from what I gather and they refuse to acknowledge it. I'm not sure how you can reason with someone whose denying it.


Title: [MD] I'm in my 20s and I plan on leaving my parents' house. Do they own the things they bought me, when I am past 18?

Question: I'm mainly in question of my laptop; everything about it has been registered in my name but they bought it for me about a year ago, when I was 23. Can gifts be taken back, when an adult buys something for another adult?

Answer: If they purchased it for you as a gift it is yours.


Title: Voicemail

Question: Strange request. Our boss at work left a voicemail for an employee where he said some very damming things (extremely rude) . I want to post this voicemail on their yelp page and warn the people coming to their establishment about this. Is It illegal to post this. PS this is in New York if that helps. Thank you.

Answer: Not illegal but certainly can get fired for it


Title: Severely defective vehicle under express warranty, what can I do?

Question:
Hey there,

Thanks for your time. I am a Michigan resident. I have a 2013 BMW M6 that I purchased at a BMW dealership in Iowa in September 2015. This car was under the express manufacturer's warranty and only had 10,000 miles on it. Prior to the express manufacturer's warranty expiring and after purchasing it (while it was in my possession), this car spent 150+ days in the dealership's shop having the engine replaced, rear differential replaced, transmission replaced, drive shaft replaced - and it still has transmission issues that the dealership cannot figure out how to fix.

I'm paying over $1000 / month in order to drive a loaner from the dealership... this is unacceptable. I talked to BMW NA and they had the dealership's manager call me to tell me that my car doesn't qualify as a lemon because it was not purchased new. My understanding of the Michigan Lemon Law (which may be wrong) - is that the definition of a lemon car in Michigan is any car purchased from a dealership while under the express manufacturer's warranty.

Have you been in a similar situation? Any advice would be very helpful.

Thank you so much,

/u/JohnCaza

Answer:
 Everyone's saying that lemon law only applies to cars purchased brand new, however the verbiage isn't that clear in Michigan Lemon Law Rights, MCL 257.1401 – MCL 257.1410, New Motor Vehicle Warranties

> (g) “New motor vehicle” means a motor vehicle that is purchased or leased in this state or purchased or leased by a resident of this state and is covered by a manufacturer’s express warranty at the time of purchase or lease.

Could one not interpret a "New motor vehicle" as a vehicle that is purchased while still under "express warranty"?


Title: Landlord declined to renew lease with no reason

Question:
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Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: You can sit down and try to work out something, but the LL does not have to give a reason


Title: Wendy's me_irl post

Question: Wendy's (the restaurant) posted something on me_irl saying that if the post got to the top of the sub, then everyone with proof of a reddit account would get a free whopper, I know that they don't serve a whopper, but could someone at least get the value of a whopper?

Answer: Wendy's does not make the Whopper AFAIK.


Title: [Ontario, Canada] Wrongful termination, need some advice

Question:
This is more for my friend (he doesn't use reddit) and I want to help him out with this problem. We live in Ontario, Canada and we don't know where to go for help, so hopefully someone can point us in the right direction. Here's the situation:

My friend has been working part time at Dave & Buster's for the past 5 years. Right now, he isn't scheduled to work at all for October. The only time he gets any shifts lately is when his co-workers give him one of their own, which is about once a week. There was one particular incident where the manager didn't allow my friend to take his co-worker's shift and scheduled someone else instead. Essentially, the manager is trying to fire my friend without having to give him termination pay.

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Before anyone asks how we know the manager is trying to fire him, here are some reasons:

1. He never gets scheduled for any shifts
2. They already hired a replacement who has full shifts
3. The manager admitted to another worker that he was planning to fire my friend

Although #3 is from word of mouth, the first two reasons strongly reinforce the suspicion. It's also worth mentioning that this all started when my friend changed his availability so he could also work at another part time job.

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He hasn't been fired as of yet but that's what's happening. Does he have a case? Who can he talk to for more information? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 He is fired.  He should apply for EI.

"Constructive dismissal" is firing someone without firing them.  "Your job has transferred to Antarctica."  "You have no shifts in October."  That's what has happened to your friend.

http://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/termination.php

I would: write a letter to the business, demanding to be scheduled for shifts as before or officially fired and paid the due termination pay as above.  Apply for EI.  Complain to the Labour Ministry if termination pay is not forthcoming or if it is less then expected.  (In particular, they might try to reduce the termination pay by including in their calculation the recent non-working weeks, but this is bullshit: complain.)  Find a new job.
Answer #2: > A constructive dismissal may occur when an employer makes a significant change to a fundamental term or condition of an employee's employment without the employee's actual or implied consent.

> For example, an employee may be constructively dismissed if the employer makes changes to the employee's terms and conditions of employment that result in a significant reduction in salary or a significant negative change in such things as the employee's work location, hours of work, authority, or position.

Source - http://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/termination.php


Title: (family law) Can't afford an attorney, I've been old I'll lose my child at my next court date without one. What options have I not exhausted?

Question:
Hi everyone. Long time reader. First time poster.

Basically the details are this: I have a child (11y). The father and I have been in and out of court over the last ~6 years hammering out custody details and though it wasn't always easy we got things done.

Recently things got much much worse for everyone involved. A different attorney for the firm representing the father took over for his case. He's playing dirty and I'll admit it caught me off guard.

Our child was recently confirmed to be gender fluid at the Stanford Gender Clinic. This is a process where a team of no less than 6 professionals (pediatrician, social worker, child psychologist, etc) all meet with the family members individually before making their determination.

The father has not handled this well from day one. From the very first moment our child wore a tunic like top that could be construed as mildly not masculine he sent it back to my house in a backpack. Just as an example.

So. Father sued me for FULL legal and physical custody. Accused me of Munchausen by proxy for taking our (special needs) child to the doctor too often. (Something he had done one time in 6 years). Said to the judge "if my kid was trans I would support him, but he isn't". Even though he knew we had the paperwork coming from Stanford confirming that our child is gender fluid and needs our support of non binary status.

I did not have a lawyer. I was served the paperwork with a 2 hour window to respond, with court being 48 hours later. It was all hella shady. I did the best I can, with the help of the family law help center.

Day of court, neither party got more than one word in. Judge granted TEMPORARY full legal and physical custody to the father. Didn't talk to us at all. Dismissed the report from the hospital that said a trigger for suicidal ideation for our child is going to their father's house.

Since they've been with their dad, they have failed every class, been hospitalized for 3 weeks straight. Also, I've had NO CONTACT. I haven't talked or seen my baby in over 60 days.

I have NO money for a lawyer. None. (If I one the lottery I know which one I would choose though... I spent $400) getting all kinds of good advice from him. I've reached out to loads of pro Bono places and they just push me onto someone else or never call back. I called legal aid, still waiting on a call back.

Court is looming and I've been told over and over that if I go in without a lawyer I'm going to lose my child.

I'm losing my mind. I'm worried sick every day. CPS has been called on the father's house twice. Our child HATES it there. I genuinely think she won't survive living there forever. I am not sure I will either.

Despite the judge having no ruling either way for or against it, the father is not allowing phone calls, or anything. Agreed to snail mail only to berate me for the content (which was as innocent as it could possibly get).

This was half vent/half asking for help. My depression and anxiety are high today- I needed to put it somewhere. Thanks for reading if you got this far.

Sara

Tl;Dr
Messy custody case involving gender fluid child. Wealthy dad vs poor mom.

Answer: You may want to contact the [**Trans Legal Defense Fund**](http://www.transgenderlegal.org/work_index.php). They may be able to help you, or be able to connect you with someone who can.Answer #2: Have you called around and asked lawyers if they take payment plans?Answer #3: Contact [LAMDA Legal](https://www.lambdalegal.org/helpdesk) for advice and referrals. Answer #4: If you live in or near a city, find the local "queer exchange" group (or equivalent) on Facebook. People might be able to connect you to a lawyer.


Title: California: I have a date for which I need to be standby for Jury Duty however.....

Question:
I still have my parent's address listed on my DL however I am living in a city that is about 1.5 to 2 hours away.

I also work in said city, full time during the summer since I am a student.

I was denied to be excused for being on standby. How do I get out of this situation?

Answer: If you weren't excused for jury duty, you go to jury duty. Your work can't fire you because you have jury duty. That's how it works.


Title: My wife took my coin collection.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You can call the police and report it for what it is: theft.


Title: [MD] 2nd degree assault on a woman

Answer:
 No, 2nd degree assault on a woman is not recommended behavior in Maryland.

Was that your question?


Title: [NV, USA] I was threatened with legal action by somebody for trash with my name on it ending up in their dumpster

Question:
In September, I had a service appointment with GE appliances to replace the doors on our new refrigerator which were damaged during delivery. The new doors were shipped directly to my house via the carrier Pilot. The service was performed, and the damaged doors were repacked in those boxes and left outside for pickup by Pilot for return to GE. I received a call from Pilot the morning of the pickup to confirm, and when I returned home from work the boxes had been taken as expected. That was the end of this issue for me, or so I thought.

Now, six weeks later, A man came to my door today (Sunday) and asked for me by name. I confirmed my identity and he became very angry and gave me a packing slip which was from one of the shipping boxes. He accused me of dumping these large and heavy boxes in his dumpster and demanded that I remove them before 8:00 am tomorrow morning or he will file charges.

I imagine what happened is GE told Pilot that they didn't want the merchandise returned and just asked for them to be disposed of (the GE tech even told me this is what would likely happen), and the local Pilot crew just dumped them somewhere in town in a private dumpster.

I tried to explain this to the man, but he immediately said, "No, it was you!" and didn't even want to listen to my explanation. I said all I can do is contact GE and/or the shipper to let them know what happened. I asked where this dumpster was located and he just said, "You know" and got in his car and drove off.

This whole confrontation took me by surprise so I wasn't really thinking clearly and neglected to get his license plate number. I live in a new neighborhood which is about 2/3 complete and there are 30-yard dumpsters for construction all over the place. At first I assumed this guy was associated with the builder and they had been dumped in the neighborhood somewhere. So I went to the sales office to ask if it was the builder. The agent called the GC and super and they had no idea, and nobody recognized the guy's car as anybody associated with them.

So it apparently is some random guy who could be from anywhere in town and I have no clues to his identity, and he has made a demand that's impossible for me to fulfill. My wife and I are a little uneasy at knowing there's a random person out there angry at us with our address who would not engage in a rational conversation regarding the issue.

Because GE placed the shipping order and pickup themselves, I don't have any documentation regarding the pickup to prove that the boxes were taken from my custody. I will contact both GE and Pilot tomorrow, but I'm not sure what I should try to get out of these conversations... I guess proof of the pickup order?

Is having my name on garbage enough circumstantial evidence for this guy to prevail in court if he really does file suit? I have documentation regarding the GE service appointment and what it was for, but nothing regarding the parts boxes.

Answer:
 Just tell Pilot to send their guys back to wherever they dumped the stuff to pick it up and dispose of appropriately.Answer #2: "File charges"? For what? Littering?

Ok, you are not supposed to put trash in someone else's dumpster. Perhaps they could sue in small claims court. Answer #3: The company may have technically committed some crime here, but it's highly unlikely the police are going to pursue it.  Even if they do, you haven't done anything wrong, and you have a perfectly good explanation of how it happened.  I wouldn't worry about this.


Title: [Tampa, FL]Landlord is harassing me. Most recent provocation: Removing light bulbs from outside fixtures, creating unsafe condition. Is this grounds enough for me to claim illegal eviction?

Question:
If not, how far does he have to go... so far he has: Destroyed my plants, punctured my bike tire, stolen a package, removed said light bulbs, removed garbage cans.  Taken up outside my bedroom window for extended bouts of hammerring.

[Edit] I just discovered a crazy wiring project he's done... he plugged an entension cord next to my front door. that goes to an underground cable, which seems to be powering the adjacent building

[Edit] Also, the plant he destroyed is sacred to my religion.  He shows zero sensitivity about that. I do not know how to value the plant he destroyed as it is literally priceless to me.

Answer: It's certainly enough to argue that your landlord is breaching your right to quiet enjoyment, as well as damaging your property. What do you want to have happen?


Title: Legally Binding Document for guardianship of kids if we die during our vacation?

Question:
My wife and I have procrastinated on having a will made by our lawyer.  We are going on an anniversary cruise and leaving our kids home with Grandma.

Is there a document we can draft up listing who we would like to take care of the kids if be both happen to die?  Perhaps get it notarized?  We will definitely be scheduling an appointment with a lawyer to get a proper will when we get back.

Just looking for a temprary solution in case something bad happens during our trip.

Thanks!

Edit:  i live in North Carolina.  Sorry

Answer: Where do you live? In Venezuela, the protesters raise your children as one of their own if you die on vacation.


Title: (IN) Multiple DUI charges

Question:
Hello legal advice. My SIL has court the 15th and is facing multiple DUI charges at once. 2 of the DUIs she had her kids in the car, so I'm guessing she's gotta be looking at at least 1 child endangerment charge as well. She was already on probation for a DUI and wasn't even supposed to be driving. She then got another, bailed out, repeat 2x. So a total of 4 DUIs. All with no license, while already on probation.

They finally picked her up a few weeks ago for a probation violation charge. She's been in jail since but is in a work release program.

She's trying to talk my MIL into giving her back her truck when she's released, MIL gave it away. (It wasn't in SILs name but MILs.)This shows me that she plans to drive again, but I would think that the court is not likely to reinstate her license. She sees nothing wrong with her actions, is mostly pissed she got caught.

SIL believes she will be released the 15th when she goes back to court. Her lawyer is telling her he can get her released with an alcohol ankle monitor. This terrifies me. I do not believe she has learned or is remorseful and fully expect her to continue to drive and drink as soon as she can. She is a danger to society.

TL;DR- SIL facing multiple (3 or 4) DUI charges at once. Is it likely she will be released with an ankle monitor and just on probation? Is there anything we can do to to keep her in jail? Like can we send a letter to the prosecutor or something?

Thank you for any and all insights you can provide.

Answer:
 You can submit a letter to the prosecutor, as a sort of character witness mentioning her lack of remorse.  This may tilt the state to requesting jail time instead of probation, which would presumably make it easier to for your brother to assume full custody of the children if he wants to divorce.  That may effectively end your relationship with her.Answer #2: > She then got another, bailed out, repeat 2x. So a total of 4 DUIs. All with no license, while already on probation.
> Her lawyer is telling her he can get her released with an alcohol ankle monitor.

IANAL - Can someone tell me how this is possible or how often this actually happens?Answer #3: Sticking strictly to the charges as described... she has a minimum of 3 felony owi charges and maybe one misdimeanor owi charge (depending on her first bac/if she had a child in the car). She wont have a license for atleast a year (first offense depending on bac is a mandatory 6month suspension and she violated at least 3 times already.) The bmv probably wont reinstate her license for a minimum of a year, but up to 18 years, 10 for max 3rd dui and 8 for habitual offender add on.

She will also need an interlock device that is required on any vehicle under her name. Either way she wont be driving for awhile because i assume shell be in jail for atleast a year with any sane judge due to her endangerment of children and habitual offender status.


Title: Is my cosigner responsible for an entire year's worth of rent if I commit suicide before move in? [Michigan, USA]

Question:
[removed]
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 I encourage you to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Please don't go through with this. If you have someone in your life who cares enough to cosign, you have someone whose life will be irreparably changed by this.

edited to add: If you feel able, drive yourself or walk to the closest ER and let them know that your suicidal urges are this bad. Things can change, and they can improve. Answer #2: Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  If you are having thoughts of suicide, please consider calling 1-800-273-8255 or /r/SuicideWatch.


Title: [UK] Police found 29 ecstasy pills a 4 tabs of LSD in my house

Question:
Hi,

At the end of 2014, my gf, myself and two friends were at our house doing acid together (we took one tab each). It got out of hand for one of my friends and we ended up calling the police because he attacked us and then tried to harm himself with a knife. The night ended with him purposely smashing his head on the pavement and the other three of us being taken into police custody for 12 hours for suspected GBH.

Here's a full TR of what happened that night: [http://www.reddit.com/r/LSD/comments/2r00w8/a_yes_or_no_question_for_rlsd/cnbb0gj](http://www.reddit.com/r/LSD/comments/2r00w8/a_yes_or_no_question_for_rlsd/cnbb0gj)

We've all been cleared of doing any harm to my friend, and he is perfectly fine now (spent a couple days in hospital and had to have staples in his skull). And we are all still friends.

While we were in custody the police searched our house and found 29 ecstasy pills and 4 tabs of LSD. During my original interview with the police (I foolishly decided against taking a free solicitor, but am now in contact with one) I did tell them that it was my LSD that we took, and that it was bought originally for my gf and I, but then shared that night with the other two. They didn't ask about the pills at this time.

They released me on bail pending further investigation into the suspected GBH case (they had to wait until my friend woke up in the hospital, to get his side of the story). They then sent out letters to us three saying that my gf and other friend were cleared completely, but that I would need to go back into the station for more questioning 'in relation to the possession of drugs'. I've got a few weeks until my date.

The pills they found were just for my gf and myself. 25 of them were bought on the darknet and had only arrived the week before, and the other 4 were just random ones from left over parties. We had planned to go out for NYE and NYD and would be taking 10 pills between us for those parties. I am not a drug dealer, and have in fact never sold a single pill to anyone in my life.

I've been reading a few news articles online where people have been caught with 25-30 pills and have done jail time for at least a couple of years. But they have been caught in clubs, or just out in the street. The fact that my pills were in my house should point to me not being a dealer, shouldn't it? Also there were no bags or weighing scales or large amounts of money found in my house.

What is likely to happen to me? Will I have to go to court? And will the police believe me when I tell them that the pills are just for my consumption? They do however know that I supplied the tabs of LSD to my friends that night though - will anything happen over that?

The solicitor I've spoken to doesn't seem too worried - he was more worried about the GBH case, but now that has been cleared up he isn't too concerned. Some of my other friends think that I will perhaps get a caution.

Thanks in advance for your help!

EDIT: This is also my first offence.

Answer:
 Possession of those drugs is a crime, so it is possible you will be charged when you return. If you are charged, you will go to court. I've spent a long time dealing with cases of this type, and the sentence will depend on your criminal history, and the circumstances as evidenced by the police officers.

You could do jail time, or you could end up with a suspended sentence/community service/fine.

You've had advice from a solicitor, so I'd suggest you ask him these questions as he will be able to give a much more informed answer than anyone on reddit. Now the GBH case is out of the way, he will be able to give you a much clearer indication of the likely outcome.

Do keep us updated on what happens.


Title: Who pays the costs of settling an estate.

Question:
I would like to start by apologizing for the length of this and any formating issues since I am on mobile. I am in Idaho. My husband and I recently purchased my MIL's home after she spent 10 years in a care home. We lived in the home prior to her death, but waited to purchase until after she passed away on the advice of our lawyer. The lawyer we have been using was hired by my FIL prior to his death to write their wills and help protect their assets from the state. The state ended up placing a lien on the home to recoup medical costs.

My BIL is the executor of the estate. The lawyer made arrangements to have a state approved assessment completed on the house and then we made an offer to the state to purchase it and the state agreed. The lawyer then placed the estate into probate and wrote a sales agreement for the the sale of the house. We were the purchasers and BIL was the seller as he is the estate representative.

My husband and BIL went to the lawyer's office to sign the sales agreement and BIL freaks out and refuses to sign because it stated that closing costs were going to be split equally. The lawyer tried explaining things to him, but he refused to move forward. My husband ends up telling the lawyer to re-draft the sales agreement with us paying all costs. The lawyer has to do some back and forth with the state to get the necessary documents the mortgage company wants, we pay for another assessment since the company won't accept the other one and we are finally able to complete the sale.

Since the state forced MIL and FIL to liquidate assets a long time ago there was little other than the house to deal with. All that was left was her wheel chair van and electric wheelchair. In the three years since her death BIL has made no attempt to sell them. Both items are stored at my home.

Now here comes my question. The lawyer has sent BIL a bill for the services he provided. The assessment for the state, negotiations with the state, probate, and sales agreement. BIL presented the bill to my husband and said since it had to do with the sale of the house it was our bill to take care of.

I disagree and feel that all the expenses would have happened no matter who he sold the house to, and we already paid all the closing costs. I feel the BIL should sell the van and wheelchair and use the funds to settle the bill with the lawyer.  Before I start a huge fight with BIL let me know if I am out of line with my thinking.

TLDR: BIL is trying to stick us with the lawyer bill to settle the estate, I think he needs to sell the assets to take care of it.

Answer: *the estate* pays the lawyer.


Title: The city is telling my wife she has to pay the business tax for the past 2 years of the previous business owner

Question: My wife just opened a salon in the same building a salon was previously in. The former business owner packed up and disappeared to another state. My wife hadn't even opened her doors for business and she receives a bill for business taxes for 2018 and 2019. She calls and the person on the phone said she bought the business from the previous owner, which is not true. When my wife corrected her, she said "well you're either going to have to pay or find the previous business owner and have them pay." My wife demanded to talk to her supervisor to which she was told "i can give you their voicemail, but they are gone until next month and if you don't pay by next week you will owe late fees and it will go into collections" ...is this shit for real? Can they city do this?

Answer: Sounds like a scam. I don't see how you woukd be responsible for another businesses back-taxes. I would call the city and ask them directly. NAL


Title: Cemetery double-sold my grandfather's plot and is stringing both families along (TN)

Question:
My grandfather died in 2014 and was buried in the leftmost of 5 plots that he and my grandmother had purchased in 2007.  He was very organized and didn't want any of his funeral arrangements to be a burden, so he had already bought and paid for everything.

Shortly after the funeral, we learned from the funeral director that the plot my grandfather was buried in had been double-sold by the cemetery's caretaker.  The cemetery is chartered by the state of TN and has a Board of Trustees, but the caretaker is the one who handles the daily paperwork.  My family approached the caretaker who told us that we had purchased the plots first and that it was a mistake, etc.  Now, let's say that the plots are numbered 1-8, left to right.  Plots 1-5 were purchased by another family, who had buried their daughter in plot 3.  Plots 4-8 were purchased by my grandfather, and he was buried in plot 4.  We asked the caretaker what could be done, and he told us that he'd give us 6 other plots (so one free one) in a different part of the cemetery, and exhume my grandfather and move him on their dime.  We were distraught because we had just put him in the ground, and now all this?!  We refused the deal.  The caretaker then said that he would try to deal with the other family, instead.  Apparently there were three plots in front of them that were open, and he said he offered them those three plots and they accepted, so yay, everything's settled, right?

Four years pass, we move on. His headstone is FINALLY erected this year after my grandmother took a lot of time avoiding picking one out due to grief.  The other family sees his headstone and reaches out to us over Facebook to ask if we know that my grandfather is buried in their plot.  What?  Apparently, the cemetery never contacted them.  This deal that the other family supposedly took never happened.  For four years now, the caretaker has ignored the issue after blatantly lying to my family that everything was alright.  According to the matriarch of this other family, she contacted the caretaker and he told her he was dealing with us, and that SHE owned the plots first.  She wanted us to know that she adamantly does not want my grandfather moved (because she's a decent person I guess), and wants to know what the cemetery is doing to fix things with us.  Except, of course, the cemetery has not reached out to us at all.

So that's where we're at.  We compared deeds with this lady, and her deed is actually older than ours by a year, so we assume it's legally her plot that my grandfather also paid for and has been residing in for four years now.  Can anyone advise me on what to do here?  We clearly cannot trust anything the caretaker says and we have no idea where to turn.  My aunt called the attorney who helped my grandparents with their will and he said that any statute of limitations has run out and we could sue for emotional damage, but it would cost too much and go nowhere.  This just seems insane and like we should have some sort of legal recourse, at least when it comes to dealing with the caretaker and the Board of Trustees.

Answer:
 Do you know if either deed was recorded at the county recorder's office, and if so, what was the order in which they were recorded?

It's possible that yours was recorded first and theirs either was not recorded or was recorded later.  That could matter.  It's one of the most tedious things a law student has to study and rarely actually comes up in the real world.  So if you'll pardon me I'm going to go sit in the corner and wait for my "Bar Exam Anxiety Dreams" to start up again.  I hope I'm at least in *clean* underwear this time.

**Edit:** TN is indeed a "race-notice" jurisdiction.  So if their deed wasn't on record when your family bought the plot, there's a fair chance you'd  win even if they purchased first.Answer #2: Practical advice [NAL]  Take this up with the cemetery's board of trustees, in the oft chance that the caretaker has done this more than once.  If this is a scam, they need to figure it out.  At the least, the trustees need to know that the caretaker is not attending to his/her duties properly.


Title: What can I do about my mother taking things that she didn't buy? (DeLand, Florida)

Question:
I'm 17, M, from Florida. Earlier this year, my father (who lives in another state) sent me around 500$ to buy anything I wanted. I bought a laptop and a drawing tablet with it. He made it clear that my mom couldn't take it since it was 100% mine.

But ever since I got them, my mom's been constantly "grounding" me from my laptop and drawing tablet (taking them and hiding them).  When I remind her of what my dad says, she just taunts me and says "What's he gonna do? Come all the way down here?" She manhandles everything, too, including the items. I'm scared she'll break one of them one day, and of course she won't pay for a new one if she does.
It's starting to really get on my nerves, and I was wondering if there was anything at all I can do about it. Does this count as theft?

Answer:
 If you're 17, taking your stuff away from you to control your behaviour is called parenting, and is perfectly legal so long as you're provided with a roof over your head, clothes to wear, adequate food, medical care when you're sick, and an education. Your property does belong to you, but your parents can control your access to it.

Your father can request that your mother give the tablet back to him, and may be able to take her to court for the used value of the tablet if she refuses. It's unlikely he will - it would cost a lot and it doesn't seem to be in his interests.

You can take your tablet with you when you, as an adult, move out. Again, if your mother refuses to return your property, you can take her to small claims - but it's unlikely to be worth your time over a tablet alone. The used value just isn't enough to justify the time and expense of small claims.


Title: Sudden job termination - Ontario Canada

Question: My wife was poached from a good paying job she was at for 6 years as an executive assistant to the vice president, where she received 3 promotions during that time, to go to a bigger company where they offered her better pay and the promise of a secure position, as she would be replacing someone who was retiring after 20 years on the job. She accepted and was doing really well. The person retiring had expressed interest in continuing at the job in a smaller capacity if possible after he trip to Ireland in May. Still she retired in March. Suddenly out of nowhere they fired my wife last week after only 7 months on the job without any warnings. She never had any performance issues either. They told her they were restructuring the department and she was no longer needed. Except that same day a friend of mine who works there texted me saying they had announced that this person who had retired was coming back to take over her old position (now vacated by my wife). There was no severance or compensation given. Is this even legal? Does she have a case to file a claim against this company? Should she be getting a lawyer? Neither of us have ever been fired from a job before so I have no idea what to do. This is in Ontario, Canada.

Answer: Your wife should contact an employment lawyer.  Don't sign anything and don't apply for EI until she talks to a lawyer.Answer #2: Related question, could OP get this problem resolved through an [employment standards claim](https://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/esclaim.php) and not have to pay for a lawyer?


Title: Landlord wanting back payment for pet rent on pets that weren't properly recorded on their end (UT)

Question:
So my landlord is wanting (at the moment) $900 in back charges (pet deposit and pet rent, this is covered in our lease) for a dog that we got while living here. They switched Asset Managers at some point during our current lease, not entirely sure when.

When we went to the shelter to adopt the dog, they wanted a signed consent form that the landlord permitted us to have the pet. The old asset manager signed the document, but never put it on their record.

Last night we had a cop come to our door which caused them to call us to ask about why he was there, which brought to their attention that we were apparently not supposed to have any dogs in our apartment. As there weren't any on file.

We have 2 dogs, one a service animal and the other being the one we got from the shelter. They dont have documentation saying either one should be in the apartment.

My question is this: Do we legally owe them anything since it was a mistake on their end?

Answer:
 What does your lease say about pets?

Are they trying to charge you for both dogs? Is your service dog trained to complete a specific task related to your disability? What is the task?


Title: [Australia] Female coworker requested to wear men's uniform rather than women's and was denied

Question:
Hey all, recently my all white, all straight, small workplace hired a female staff member who identifies as a lesbian. She's fantastic, a great fit for the team, knowledgeable, friendly, professional.

She doesn't feel comfortable wearing the women's bright purple, form fitting blouses, and has requested permission to wear the men's light-blue checkered button-up shirts instead.

I don't see an issue with this. The administration manager flipped her shit and denied the request. The admin manager said it was because the staff member "is obviously a woman and the men's shirts won't look professional or fit her properly."

Does our employer actually have any grounds to deny this request?

Side note though not important at all: all the women (other than the admin manager who picked the uniforms) in our small 60 person business hate the women's shirts because they are polyester with no stretch. The men's shirts are cotton and much, much nicer and more comfortable. I think maybe she thinks we'll all jump ship to the men's shirts!
Topic:
Non-US

Answer:
 Hit up FairWork and see what they have to say.

Also, r/AusLegal might be a bit more useful as this sub is primarily US-based


Title: [NJ] Neighbor threatening me about loud vehicle. What are my options?

Question:
Long story short my car is loud.  Illegal?  That is questionable.  Here is the problem:
My neighbor (a local police officer) has texted me saying my car wakes him up in the morning when I leave for work at 4am.  First off I leave my house at 4:50am, and it is only a few times a month as more often than not I have late starts, in which I leave between 8 and 10am.  I kindly explained to him that in order to quiet my car it must be put in the shop, a different muffler put on, and the car must be tuned by a mechanic.  The car is a highly tuned performance car and it isn't as simple as turning a few bolts.  I told him I plan to have the car in the shop in the next month or so when I could afford it.  He responded with something along the lines of "I expect your illegal car fixed asap".  Some time has passed and I have made sure to be extra quiet leaving my house and such.  Today I received another message from a mutual friend saying "hey just giving you a heads up, neighbor says you are going to have legal issues if you do not fix your car asap."
Now the ironic part is my neighbor has 4 or 5 cars coming and going to and from his house at 12, 1, 2, and 3am and frequent parties which have woken me up multiple times.  I have never complained and have always been polite.  I also work in law enforcement.  I work 16 hour shifts and come home and am unable to sleep sometimes because of 2 or 3 cars slamming doors in the morning hours.  Anyways, I just feel he is being a hypocrite and I do not want any problems with any of my neighbors.

Tldr:   Neighbor is complaining about my loud car leaving in the am for work.  Claims I am going to have "legal issues"  if I don't do something about it asap even after I politely told him I plan on having it put in a shop to make the changes when I can afford it.  What are my options here?

Answer:
 Fix your damn car.  Answer #2: fix your car. modified=broken in the eyes of the law.

 i believe it's illegal on a federal level to modify your car's exhaust due to emissions concerns, and most states have noise laws, and a lot of cities have the same. you're wrong.

it's black and white. a loud car with obviously modified exhaust is illegal. if you don't want to get hammered, don't be the nail that sticks out.


Title: Subpoena for a criminal case and mistaken identity

Question:
Hey everyone, I hope there's something you guys can fill me in on that I'm not aware of.

Basically, I got a certified letter in the mail a week or so ago telling me I have a subpoena to testify as a witness in a criminal case. The letter says I am commanded to appear at a certain date and time in the United States District Court - Central District of California in Los Angeles.

I have absolutely no idea who the person mentioned in the case is. It's United States v. (Name). I cannot find any possible connection I may have to this named person or any reason why I should be there. Additionally, I currently live in New Jersey.

I called the number on the paper to try to figure out what was going on and to squash the subpoena. The government is the one making me come and not the person that's being charged. They said they I had to be there regardless of my wishes or I could be in serious trouble. I'm currently barely making ends meet and have a wife and kids to support but they said they'll only give me $40 a day and pay for my flight after I front the money.

I cannot honestly afford to miss work and my boss says he won't pay me if I'm not there which is understandable. However, I cannot afford to front the money for a flight to California, a hotel or just get $40 a day while I'm there.

Is there anything I can do to avoid going? Should I hire my own attorney and would it be less expensive than paying to go and the money I lose from work?

Thank you for any information you have.

Answer:
 Call the prosecutor's office that is handling the case and talk to them. It's their subpeona.

If they won't work with you you'll need to hire a lawyer in LA.


Title: Don't want Ex to take my son (WY)

Question:
(CO)

Using throwaway for legal reasons.

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I have a 4 month old son that I've been taking care without his mother for the past month. His mother has not reached out to see how he has been doing or wanting to see him for almost two weeks now. A couple nights ago she texted me and said she doesn't want responsibility or want anything to do with him anymore because she simply does not love our son.She wants to sign her rights over to me so she doesn't have any responsibility of him anymore.  I set up an appointment with a family law attorney but it isn't until the 26th. Is there anything I can do in the mean time so she doesn't try and take him from me?

Answer: What makes you think she's going to change her mind? Is it possible she's suffering from postpartum depression?


Title: I just need a little help with something that happened over the weekend

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I'd absolutely not show up; you're under no obligation to do so.

If you do, bring a lawyer. Answer #2: Also, cops won't call to have you come in. You would have gotten a citation in the mail or they would have come to your house.

Think of it this way.... how would they have gotten your phone number?


Title: My (24f) dad (60m) is being accused of raping and molesting my sister (26f)

Question:
This is going to be a long one and let me apologize in advance for formatting, I'm  doing this on my phone.

First off let me say that I am 99.999999999999% positive that my dad has NEVER touched her in a sexual way.  Ever.  She claims that he did so when she was a child all the way into her teenage years but has "repressed" those memories until now. The last time I talked to her she said that "penetration stopped at age 12, but he kept doing other things after that".

She started to "remember" things about two years ago.  First she told me that she figured out that she was raped.  Then she thought it was a relative,  but has finally settled on our dad as the culprit. She said that she had a memory of him coming in to our room,  raping her,  then tucking her into bed and saying goodnight. She said I was in the room too, and she crawled into my bed afterwards.  I have absolutely no memory of this,  and can theoretically entertain the thought that maybe I have repressed that,  but if he really had been doing that until her late teens,  me and everyone else in my family would have known SOMETHING was going on by that point. I should mention that our patents are still married and we also have an older brother (who was also a suspect to her at one point). Our mom doesn't work and is pretty much always home. My dad has never touched me in a negative/sexual way.

My sister has a very extensive mental health history. She actually cried rape at a long term mental facility she was at as well,  which turned out was false. She has been in and out of mental hospitals her whole life.  She has tried to kill herself on many occasions. She has had hallucinations, visual and auditory of people telling her to kill herself.  She self harms in the form of cutting,  burning,  punching,  hair pulling,  ect. She just fucking destroyed herself and everything else while we were growing up.

My husband and our baby daughter are currently living with my mom and dad until we can afford our own place.  My sister contacted CPS right before our wedding and they investigated us because our daughter is a minor living with the accused. It is a completely safe and healthy environment,  and after interviewing all of us (during my interview I told them about her mental history,  and that mydad doesn't have any time alone with her anyways because he's always working and I'm always with her) they closed the investigation.

Fast forward to a few months later and my dad is called in for another interview with a detective.  He goes and it turns out the detective is with the police, not CPS. They told him that there had been an accusation, but he wasn't being arrested today. My sister apparently wrote a six page detailed account about rapes, molesting,  fetishes, and who knows what else.  He didn't get to read it but he was asked vulgar questions about it, and layer on they disclosed that their conversation was being recorded. They wanted him to take a polygraph test,  and he said sure but he should check with a lawyer first to make sure it's a good idea (they aren't always accurate,  and if they asked him questions like the one the detective did,  he would get pissed off which might be interpreted as lying) he wanted to get a lawyers opinion on the matter. As soon as he said that the detective said oh you're lawyering up? We're done here. He tried to ask what ages/time frame  my sister was saying all of this happened but they said the lawyers can talk about that,  they were done talking.

I'm not completely clear on if this means she is pressing charges against him? I assume so since my dad had to talk to the cops. I highly doubt that he'll be found guilty since luckily he has me,  another daughter who statistically should have had the same experience if she did. Also tons of witnesses that know or family,  and a few psychologists who know my sisters mental health record/status. However,  even though he wouldn't be found guilty,  going to court at all would ruin him financially.  He spent his entire life savings keeping my sister alive (along with mental health,  she was born with a disease,  had a transplant,  cancer,  this girl has been through hell, it's no wonder her mental health is deteriorating), and a lawyer would cost about $25,000 minimum. My mom called a few to ask around and one suggested that he take a polygraph test on his own terms,  out of his own pocket (about $900) and if he passes it then to turn it into the police,  rather than to take it with them first. Would talking a polygraph help? He thinks if he passes it,  they will just toss it out because they aren't always accurate anyways. Can they arrest him based only on what my sister has said, or only if he goes to court and is found guilty? What should he do? Thanks in advance.

Tl;dr: My mentally unstable sister has accused our dad of raping/molesting her as a child. He was called to speak to a police detective, and they want him to take a polygraph test. Should he? Can he be arrested based on what she said or does he have to go to court and be found guilty?

EDIT: Thank you all for the advice, legal and otherwise.  I have one more question. Are my husband and I in danger of having our daughter taken away if we continue to live here? She doesn't spend any time alone with my dad as of right now,  and as a momma bear, no matter what I believe I am still going to be extra cautious. She doesn't get left alone with anyone other than mine or my husband's mom. However,  if legally she is in danger we'll say screw saving up for a house and just rent an apartment.

Answer:
 He should stop talking to the cops and hire a competent criminal defense lawyer ASAP. He should *NOT* take a polygraph test. Answer #2: It could be that OP's sister is mentally ill and making a false accusation. Or it could be that she had been suffering so much mental illness due to being repeatedly molested as a child. Answer #3: I just wanted to say, it's not uncommon at all for one sibling to be molested and not the others--so please don't use that as a way to put down what your sister is saying.

She sure does display a LOT of behaviors that coincide with being repeatedly molested as a child--the cutting, mental issues, suicide attempts, etc.


Title: (CA) Obtaining a gun when someone in the home CANNOT have a gun

Question: My brother and dad have the same name. He lives at home still in an in-law unit in the back but same address, same property. It's just separated by a few feet. Anyway, long story short, my brother wants to get a gun. However, my father, is a POS who cannot obtain a gun because he was in jail half his life for armed robbery and a number of other drug related charges. He served his time and has been out for 10+ years but can never obtain a gun. So, would this cause issues for my brother? Should he just wait until he moves out?

Answer:
 It could cause issues for your dad, not your bro. Answer #2: Really much easier to wait until he moves out.

It sounds like your father is a convicted felon. To ensure that your father was never charged with constructive possession, he'd have to do the following:

* Keep the gun in a locked safe only he knows the code to in a place typically unaccessible to your father (Although he should do this with owning a gun at home anyway)

I'm not sure about CA law but it is illegal in certain states. The above are the guidelines on the federal level, however.


Title: If a someone is using a name for a project that isn't trademarked, can I legally register the trademark use it for my own project?

Question: Would it then be within my rights to order a cease and desist?

Answer:
 Putting aside the legal implications, don't you think that's kind of douchey?Answer #2: No. The trademark office goes by the first person using the mark even if it's not registered. They would be able to invalidate your mark.

This presumes you are in similar industries and they have been publicly using the mark.


Title: Friend who has green card in serious trouble?

Question:
I think my friend might be trouble. Let's call her Leah.

Leah was riding with her friend Candice around 3 AM today when she was stopped by the cops for speeding. The cops decided they would search the car because the speeding gave them probable cause.  In their search, they found a single piece of candy wrapped in a plastic bag on Candice's side of the car. The cops immediately suspected it was marijuana-infused. Because Leah doesn't do drugs, she adamantly denied knowing where the candy came from or what it was. So did Candice. Well, the cops tested the candy on site, and it did in fact, come back positive.

Leah was given a civil violation of $200 for marijuana since it was found in her car. Candice denied knowing about the candy until a few hours ago. Candice admitted it was hers and that she threw it out her purse when she saw the cops pulled them over. She gave Leah $200 and begged her not to implicate her because Candice is only here in America on a visa.

Well, Leah has a green card herself and is now very worried about being able to be naturalized because of her friend's shitty decision.

What should she do?

FYI- she lives in Illiniois. I don't think she's allowed to record Candice's confession without Candice's consent.

Answer:
 Leah needs a criminal defense attorney. She should further discuss her immigration concerns with an immigration attorney. If she's found guilty of this crime, although very minor, it could be a problem for her immigration status.

If she was a citizen she could laugh this off and pay the fine. Civil citations are in the same category as minor traffic violations, but because it's drug related it could be a problem as far as her immigration. A criminal defense attorney may be able to get this tossed or lowered to something non-drug related. For something this minor attorney fees should be low.


Title: PRK Surgery Issue

Question:
I had PRK (which is like Lasik) in 2014 on my left eye. I don't use my right eye, so I only had my left eye done for $1975. No insurance coverage for that elective procedure.

This year, I have noticed my vision is a bit blurry again. I went to an optometrist near me yesterday for an exam and my left eye regressed a bit.

Question is, do I have any recourse here for the surgery I paid for in 2014? To make matters worse, the doctor retired and sold his practice. When I called his office last week, the rude lady told me basically I'm screwed because there is no lifetime warranty for those procedures.

What should I do?

Answer:
 No medical procedures are guaranteed. I have no doubt that your ophthalmologist explained this to your prior to your surgery. There is always a possibility that they will not work.

Or, are you alleging negligence and malpractice? If so (and this is a very high bar to reach), you can speak to a medical malpractice attorney.Answer #2: The doctors who perform LASIK and related procedures are very clear on how long the warranty is, and anyone who does even basic research knows that a certain percentage of people will regress. You have no legal claim


Title: Help with nursing home threatening us. Don't know how to flair this. NJ

Question:
My father is in a nursing home. He was put in this particular place after being committed to a mental health facility. So, we had no choice in where he went, but he cannot come home.

He was finally approved for Medicaid long term care. While we send the nursing home as much money as we can each month, we cannot afford the whole amount. We have not even received an actual bill, but yet they continue to want money. We have no idea what the money is allocated for, how much insurance is covering, anything. We have never received a bill.

The administration also threatened to put my mother in jail, because apparently they are entitled to his entire check. But, we are still continuing to pay his bills. We cannot talk to any of his creditors to get him off and out of bills. We don't have Power of Attorney, and the nursing home won't help us get it.

Can they say we are stealing his money? These are bills we are trying to get him out of, but no one can legally talk to us. We can't get him off the bank account (to separate the incomes), we can't get the car out of his name (thus removing him from the car insurance), he apparently is having the IRS take money out of the account to pay a debt, we can't talk to them. Any Power of Attorney paperwork needs a notery, and the home is saying he doesn't know what he's signing. I understand that, but still. He also didn't put my mother's name on anything mutual. Which is a whole different issue.

What are our rights here? Are we stealing money? We pay what we can each month, but without a bill, they can be demanding money we don't owe. Can we withhold payment until we get a bill, or does that mean they have a right to send him home? We can't even ask the insurance company what they are paying, they can't talk to us.

They are retaliating against him, as well. He had a day pass, but after demanding more payment (that we can't pay) they pulled his rights to come home for a day for the holiday. His behavior has remarkably improved. I wish we could afford a lawyer, but the money is extremely tight. The nursing home is taking everything we have. When my parent's rented this place, they had both incomes. Now we can barely afford it. We are trying to move, but that's now more expenses.

What are our rights, what are the home's rights? Is there anything we can do or say that will make them have a civil conversation with us? Can they pull visitation? Should they be helping us get his name off bills? Anyway around needing power of attorney to talk to creditors?

Answer:
 Have you contacted the [New Jersey Long-Term Care Ombudsman](https://www.nj.gov/ooie/) or [Legal Services of New Jersey](https://www.lsnj.org/)? Something is very mixed up in this situation, and you need somebody who can go over all of the paperwork with you and figure out exactly what.

If you don't have and he can't give power of attorney, you or someone else in the family is probably going to need to seek [guardianship](https://legalbeagle.com/6517239-become-legal-guardian-new-jersey.html) of his person and estate (finances), which then gives you the ability to talk to the bank and make decisions about the car and so forth.Answer #2: I can’t answer all of this because there’s many personal questions involved
I can tell you the check belongs to the nursing home. That check is for the care and upkeep of your father. He is not living in the apartment nor is he driving the car. The check should be given to the facility to be spent on his care. It is fraud to keep it. I’ve watched it happen during the years of working at the nursing home.


Title: [MD] Uncle is in a coma and dying in a hospital, daughter was listed as next of kin but she disapeared

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Contact your state's bar association and speak with a lawyer who can help you get appointed guardianship over your mother.  You can go to court and make your case about why you (or whomever you decide) should be appointed guardianship over your uncle.

If granted, the guardian would be able to carry on business and sign documents with your uncle's name.


Title: A form for partners selling their stake in a company?

Question:
Hello, I'm buying out two partners who are 25% each partner in an S-Corp (i am 50%).

Does anyone have a form, or can suggest what I should search for to find a form for the transfer of ownership within an S-Corp?

Answer:
 Unless this is for a very inconsequential amount of money, hire a lawyer.  You might want more than just a form.

If you really are just looking for a form then just fill out the form on the back of their stock certificates and then have their certificates cancelled and new ones issued in your name by the holder of the stock record book.  If you have no idea what I'm talking about, or don't know if there is a stock certificate or not then hire a lawyer.


Title: I am Being evicted from the sober house i live in i think its without cause i have 6 days to figure this out before i have to leave.

Question:
Massachusetts

  I'll start out by saying i do pay 300 a month to live here i feel behind and owe a bit but im slowly paying that back and has nothing to do with why

 have to leave just wanted you to know if it helps im not staying here for free i give them the 300 a month plus extra whenever i am able.

 So this all began when I had to leave for a bit and in order to move back in i was told i had to sign a contract which if i didn't follow it i would have to leave.

   Here is what happened and i don't admit im not wrong too but i've been back here for 3 weeks and am being kicked out for violating 5 things on the contract.

  Here is my issue on it 3 of the issues are lies they're saying i did things i literally didn't do and i have a guy that supposedly would have told them two of those things and

thats gonna back me up that he never told them any of it.

   The other one is that i told them i would get set up with the vna for a certain med and i tried to set it up with my case worker the day after i moved back in.

   I found out the house staff here which this house is affiliated with my doctors office, But neither of the staff are trained medically at all and have no right to interfere with meds.

   My medication was stolen and instead of trying to help me they've done nothing but blame it on me with no evidence or effort to investigate what so ever.

   I told them i don't abuse my medications and i wouldn't want them if i did as i am trying to stay clean as much as i wanted to find them

i got sick of arguing and I reluctantly told them if they weren't gonna help just to forget it.

  I really do need them to help me function

 properly and to feel normal but i really don't like drama and i just wanted it to be over with so i could just get back to getting my life in order.

  Now they have convinced my primary care Dr to tell my psychiatrist she cant prescribe it and when i found this out and talked to my physic

Dr and she said she didn't think it was right and was gonna try and convince her she shouldn't be trying to change it.

If not she would help me find a new psychiatrist at another office that could.

  There's no definite prescriber right now so the

vna told me and my case worker

they couldn't do anything until we figured out who was gonna do it. (like i said this was the day after I moved in.)

  I came home and told the staff

what happened trying to set up the vna and that i wouldn't know anything til June 3rd when i see my psychiatrist again.

  What kind of bothers me is knowing that they

tried to and in their minds had stopped the medication they still made the vna part of the contract and i signed it not knowing any of that.

  The only reason i knew they knew is because when i told them what happened they admitted it.

When I told them my psychiatrist was gonna

try and fight it or help me get it elsewhere they got kind of upset but they said ok and asked

if in the meantime they could count what i had and monitor them, and having nothing to hide i said sure so they did.

 Now they are trying to say none of that happened

and i haven't even tried to contact the VNA so I'm gonna call the VNA first and see if they have any record of talking to me and my case worker

and or if there's anyway they can send me or verify proof that it happened

and explain the situation if needed I'll try to get my case worker to say something

but he was there when they said everything and having had to know they were lying didn't say a word.

The two other things were true but I am hoping I can justify it.

 I was supposed to go to this coffee house meeting twice a week

where honestly you do nothing but sit and drink coffee which is fine i don't mind doing it to make them happy.

   The problem is i have been away long enough

 that i need catch up on doctor and therapist etc appointments and deal with getting things in

order to start moving forward again and be able to survive

and be back on my own.That is what this house was originally and is still meant to be here for.

\

To be able to do this it involves going to a few

different places that need to be scheduled and soon and they know about all of them.

  I missed four coffee meetings i to go to get all this done and get back on track and move forward.

I can get verification of some kind like notes from all the places i went to prove i was there those days.

  The last problem is that I missed 3 of 6 AA meetings since I've been back

we have meetings here Monday Thursday and Friday.

  The first meeting i missed was because i got held up at the doctors that like i said before is affiliated with the house

and i got delayed for a reason which was important.

  I didn't get back to the house until it the meeting was over

and i can get the doctors office to confirm it.

  The other two were the the week after on Thursday and Friday.

I don't know what happened to cause it whether it was a bug or stress or what but

i fell sick to my stomach and was throwing up on Wednesday night and on Thursday

 i couldn't even get out of bed.

  It was so bad i had to cancel a doctors appointment

which was to get a medicine that if i go without makes me sick.

   The doctor wasn't there Friday so i was stuck with nothing until Monday.

Not having that and already feeling like death i didn't leave my room

until i made an appointment on Monday to get the medicine

and that is one of the coffee house meetings i missed.

That was this Monday and the other one on

Wednesday this week that i missed was

because the staff asked me to help the older guy here mulch the yard

so i did and now of course hes holding that one against me too.

   I was given this paper which obviously just listed the five things

not anything i wrote here and that i had to leave because of it and my case is basically what

i wrote and that i don't think i should be booted out because i had important things i had to do and i was ill.

I told them too I'm doing better everyday just give me a
chance

and I've gone to all the AA meetings  this week

and I'm planning on definitely going to the coffee and AA next week.

   I apologize for the length and any grammar issues

i don't often write this much and i wanted to post it asap.

To anyone who read all of this thank you for caring enough to take the time to help .

  I just think lying about part of what there claiming

and being able to justify to having to meet certain commitments i shouldn't be left homeless with nowhere to go.

I am trying my damndest to do everything right to be ready to get out and on my own.

I don't know if this would help my case but i volunteer around here every chance i get to help keep the house going.

I regularly do all the house laundry and the landscaping weekly.

Everyone else only have one chore which is something lime vacuum a hallway sweep kitchen etc.

     I feel like I'm being wronged in a way and don't know what to do

i was told i have til the 28th to leave

but i want to try and fight this if i can

i do not think its right.

Please anything at all anyone can tell me would be greatly appreciated and helpful

to keep me off the street.

I have nothing and no one to turn too.

   If i can stay I'll be able to continue doing the right thing and actually be able to get my life together

and have a chance

so if you have any advice that can help me keep my bed please share as much advice or legal rights or anything at all that you can.

Thank you for your time from the bottom of my heart.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 When you're in a recovery program, you follow the rules.  All of them.  Or you don't get to stay.

Why you broke the rules doesn't matter.  You broke them, and there's no law that says they have to overlook that, or give you another chance.

I know it feels unfair, but they have every right to kick you out.

Start looking for another program, and a new place to live in the meantime.


Title: Someone uploaded my song under their own alias on itunes and is profiting off it. What should I do?

Question:
(Nashville, TN) Hey guys, new reddit user here.
My name is Zotti, I make experimental electronic music and have a small following on Soundcloud. Someone under the name "WRNG" uploaded my song, as well as many of my friends songs, in an album titled "further" on itunes. While I doubt they'll make any money off it, it's a giant middle finger to me and my friends since we put so much time and effort into our work. I can't find the person who uploaded it on social media, so contacting him is not possible. Any ideas on how I can get this taken down and also how I can protect my work from being used like this in the future?

Answer: Send Apple a [DMCA notice](https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/appstorenotices/#?lang=en) asserting your copyright over the tracks in question and demanding that they take them down. If they file a counternotice _and if Apple reinstates the tracks_, then you're left with the choice of suing, but it's possible that the DMCA notice will be enough to put a stop to this.


Title: An American Citizen was mugged and gunned down in Colombia. What kind of paths can the family take to find justice?

Question: Hello. Last week, my friend was brutally murdered on the streets of Medellín while vacationing. This was not his first time in Medellín or Colombia. Born in America to Colombian immigrants who fled the country many years ago to escape the violent atmosphere that plagues that region. Now his family and friends are trying to find a way, if any, that the US government can get involved with the investigation and finding the men that pulled up on motorcycles to mug my friend.  His body just returned today to the states and will be laid to rest later this week. I refuse to believe we live in a world in which an injustice like this can pass by as another bad day in Colombia.

Answer: Almost certainly nothing. The local police will investigate, if they can find the perpetrators of the crime they will be prosecuted. Beyond that, barring evidence that he was targeted because he was an American, the state department has almost nothing that they can do. If the law in Columbia allows it perhaps you could hire a private investigator if you feel the local law-enforcement is not up to the task, but that’s about it.


Title: Restaurant Now Taking Employees Written Tips (IL)

Question: Hope this is the right place to post. My friend delivers for a local restaurant and gets a FLAT DELIVERY FEE from the restaurant for every deliver, no matter the size of the order. These are generally larger orders for banquets/small office groups and such. Of course most customers tip either in cash, or on the tip line of the credit card receipt that’s handed to them at the time of delivery. So the pay is the flat delivery fee, and whatever tip is given. Most customers tip, and a few don’t. Recently they were told in a meeting that they make too much money, and that the NEW POLICY would be a lowered flat rate delivery fee, and if they were given CASH tips, they could keep them. However going forward, any tips given them on the credit card receipt tip line would now go to the restaurant. So recently my friend was given a $38 tip on the credit receipt and the restaurant refused to give them the tip, saying they got a flat deliver fee, and that was the pay. Is this even legal? If not, who should they report it to for remedy? Thanks in advance.

Answer: File a [complaint](https://www2.illinois.gov/idol/Pages/Complaints.aspx) with the IL Dept. of Labor.


Title: Non-custodial Ex has disappeared w/children & refuses to communicate. Divorce has been filed and finalized in Oklahoma.

Question:
I am asking this for a good friend who is distraught and doesn't know where to start.

His divorce was finalized March 8th, 2017 in Comanche County Oklahoma. He currently resides in Lawton, OK.  His ex-wife went away to a funeral in Chicago, IL about a week before fathers' day (2016) a year ago with the children and never returned. He was awarded full physical and legal custody of the 3 children. She also has a vehicle in her possession that has been awarded to him.

His lawyer has been very unhelpful. She didn't help him enforce the custody agreement and has offered no advice on how to go about retrieving the children. He asked if he should put in a motion to enforce custody. She suggested a writ of habeas corpus but it made no sense.

We spoke to the police and they suggested that he file missing person reports and report the vehicle stolen. We know that she is alive because she is constantly posting on Facebook but we cannot locate her physically. The children are small 6, 5, and 2.  Someone even suggested having an Amber alert go out. But we are trying to minimize the trauma with the children because he would not be able to get to Chicago until he is on leave because he is in the military.

The main issue is that she is technically homeless and unemployed. She is jumping from house to house. He located her a couple of months ago at a shelter but lost contact again. I read something about a motion for ex parte or emergency custody order. But he doesn't know her exact location.

I am trying to convince him to do this in the most law abiding way possible in order to not jeopardize his full custody. But he is starting to get desperate.

Any and all help would be appreciated

Answer:
 > We spoke to the police and they suggested that he file missing person reports and report the vehicle stolen.

Did you do that?


Title: I'm a friend of a 14 year old who was raped and got pregnant.

Question:
I'm thirteen, and I'm close friends with a girl who is now fourteen and 8 months ago was raped and impregnated by a now 16 year old. No charges were ever pressed due to parents just in general being shitty and lack of proof. Her dad however tried to get some but had none. Soon he is transferring to her school and he somehow got her number. He sent [this](https://imgur.com/gallery/bunBb2J) text.

I want to know how to go about getting justice. So far I have thought of having her act as if she doesnt recall who she is, and getting him to mention him committing the act, thus giving evidence for court. I told her to send the picture to her dad and explain everything. Is this a good way to go about this? What could he be charged for and how severe would the punishments be?
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 Call CPS and make a report, and then call the police and turn over every piece of information you have \(including the text\). It is *their* job to investigate, not yours. Doing investigations like this on your own is a thing often done in television, but in real life you run the risk of tainting evidence and just generally weakening your case.

At 13 you are a child and are not in any way equipped to investigate a rape. Let the police do their job. Furthermore, please do *not* rope your friend into continuing contact with her rapist in a misguided attempt to procure proof. It likely won't work and you run the risk of further traumatizing her.

I'm stunned that she managed to be pregnant *and* have a miscarriage without CPS getting involved, but they need to be called, stat. Especially since you say this 14yo is stressing out and drinking heavily?

Note: I'm not a lawyer, not your lawyer, this isn't legal advice.