Title: 26 year old feeling like he's getting screwed hy insurance company (Allstate)

Question:
Im 26 years old in and I live in Mass, single dad, i have a 3 year old beautiful daughter, full time worker (sales manager), full of debt and tight on money.

So I purchased a car (Car A) back in October from the local Acura dealership and was proud of my first big purchase on my own that I've been working hard to get.  I got insurace with Geico for about 30 days then got a call from a friend who owns the local Allstate where I wanted to switch my provider to. After him giving me a quote for my vehicle he asked if I wanted to add my daughters Mom vehicle (Car B) to the policy, we then got a quote and I told him that no I just wanted my vehicle (Car A) (have proof of text of conversation). We then sealed the policy up, signed up for auto pay for some discount  and he said "your good to go!" Awesome.

Now let's bring it back to May 3rd 2018. I'm going to work driving on the state highway when a cruiser pulls me over early in the morning (work is 45 minutes away), and i found it strange because I was following traffic etc etc. Officer says hey you know your plates are revoked? I get my car towed another 35 minutes away from where I live, i have to call out work (I'm a sales manager) everyone thinks I'm trying to skip out blah blah.

Summary. about 2 hours later and about 30 phone calls between work, allstate, corporate allstate i finally almost figuered it out.

They signed me up for a policy with the vehicle (Car B) that I didnt allow and my new vehicle(Car A) never had insurance since November, on top of that they put my gf on a different persons policy which had nothing to do with us. We been paying double insurance for Car B and Allstate is making it look like a "small mistake".

Summary.
I spent 3 days going back and fourth from 2 different Allstates 30 minutes apart to fix this situation, my car got impounded $250, i missed 3 days of work costing me half my paycheck on a busy weekend, I now have to take a whole extra day off to go to court (criminal hearing) because of this situation. Allstate is making me do Allllll the work, reinstating my plates at rmv, getting new plates, taking paperworks back and fourth,  still requesting proof that Car B had insrance all this time when I already faxed them the paperwork twice.

They dont want to refund my money because technically I didnt have insurance on my vehicle for 6 months even though I been paying for it. They don't even promise any type of reimbursement. What kind of shitty low level insurance company is this? Should of went to AA affordable, if not even a reputable company like allstate cant provide customer service and go above and beyond to make sure they keep their customers.

There has to be some sort of legal resolution to this, I feel like we were being frauded and lied to, now we have  to spend days and hours of me calling through insurances for a mistake the Agency made. I have lost a good amount of money (Not wealthy) and I have a 3 year old daughter who I take care of 50/50 with mom and this is getting out of hand. I live paycheck to paycheck and being a young single fulltime father it makes this a little more frustrating and inconvenient. Any advice?

P.s. i come from sales management and gave reffered hundreds of people to this company for any type of insurance. I will now sink that ship.
Topic:
Insurance

Answer: There's a **really** good chance that you have a bunch of paperwork that you've signed and received that has the VIN, make, and model of the cars that you had insurance on.   If the paperwork doesn't show that CAR A was the one that had insurance your chances of getting others to pay for the mistakes go way down.


Title: (ID) Backed out of driveway into car parked across street on side of the road. They're within 20 feet of an intersection. Does that make a difference?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: No. If they parked improperly, they could be ticketed for that offense, but it does nothing to remove any fault from you for the accident. The law assumes that a good driver checks behind them before reversing, even if a car is not expected to be there.


Title: Q: Just noticed a $15000+ credit line on my credit report. It's from a credit card I was given by my work. It has my name but I never agreed to have my information used for the card. Is this legal? Should I be concerned? (CT)

Question:
As the title says, I just found out that I have a credit report listing for the credit card my work gave me to use. I've only used it for a hundred or so at once and rarely but the line of credit shows high balances of up to $10k. I'm thinking it's the joint company card and it looks like it's always paid off each month but I still don't like it or trust it.

What if the company goes belly up, am I responsible for anything? If he's late, will it wack my credit?

Mostly, is this legal? I am looking for the paperwork I signed but I read it when I signed and would not have signed that.

State is Connecticut

Thanks all.

Answer: Either somebody at your company committed fraud and applied for a card in your name, or you are listed as an authorized user. Probably the second one.


Title: Guardianship advice

Question:
A friend of mine has a son with a traumatic brain injury leaving him disabled.  A few months ago her and her husband paid an attorney for guardianship. Shortly afterwards, her husband was admitted to the hospital. During his stay in the hospital, she was given paperwork that both of them were to sign and notarize but he was lost to leukemia before he could do this. Her attorney now tells her that the fee for guardianship has to be repaid and the process must be restarted. Does this sound normal? To me it seems like the process was never completed,  thus services were not provided. However, I do know attorneys often charge by the hour. Is there a way that I can redo some paperwork to help her save money or is it time to find a new attorney?
Edit: This was in Collin County, TX

Answer:
 If all the paperwork was filled out with both of their names on it and required both of their signatures, it doesn't sound unreasonable that all the paperwork will have to be redone with only one name on it now.

The lawyer should be paid for the preparation they did before her husband passed away.

She can ask the lawyer for some sort of a discount on those services due to circumstances.


Title: Purchased a car & the people who sold it to me are not getting back to me even though I was supposed to pick up the title today. Theres nothing I can do right?

Question:
I live in New York

Hey. Please don't down talk me. I already feel extremely stupid & uninformed. Okay So I saw an ad on CL for a car & it looked good so my father & I drove by to check it out. hers what went down.

Looked at the car, it looked good. My dad drove the car. It drove well.

All went well. The car was 1500 & after I went to the ATM to get cash my dad asked for the title.

They said they didn't have the title on hand & that their boss has it. They assured me and my dad that Tuesday they will have it because it was labor day weekend (I bought the car this past friday)

My dad made a face (I know nothing about cars I should have done more resarch) & said "well she doesnt own the car unless she has the title. They said they know and they will have it on tuesday.

I got a little worried and told me dad we can just keep looking. My dad said everything is ok & he'll pick it up Tuesday while im at work.

Today is tuesday. I try to text the guy, the message doesnt send. I call. his number goes straight to voicemail. I call private from my house phone. He blocked my number.

I told my dad & my dad said the guy called him back & said he was in brooklyn & he could come pick the title up. My dad said no so the guy said hell call him when he gets back to queens. hours go by and the guy hasnt called my dad back & wont answer his texts.

I know what you're thinking. "you have the bill of sale right?" the bill of sale is blank. My dad said he left it blank because he would have to add tax on the car & it would be expensive. Stupidly I say ok.

So basically. I purchased a car with zero proof of payment & no title. I have a car that I cant drive. I put the VIN into car fax & all I know is that it has 54 history records. I cant afford to buy the report.

I'm screwed right? ive done some research & its looking like I got screwed out of 1500 bucks. Is there anything I can possibly do about this?

**EDIT** hey so I got in touch with the "boss" who happens to be the dad of the son who sold the car to me. He put his number on the back of the bill of sale. A woman picked up and said her son isn't back in queens yet. Then a man took the phone and said his son hasn't sold a Jeep Grand Cherokee (car that I bought) in MONTHS.

I called my local precinct and they said there is nothing they can do about it because it's more of a civil matter than a legal matter. Looks like I just learned a very expensive lesson.

I have printed out my text messages to the guy & when my dad texted him. I also printed out the CL AD as well as my transaction history from taking money out of the ATM. My parents were upset that I called but what else was I supposed to do? Seeing how it's completely my fault that I have no legal documents saying I bought the car and I don't know where the guy lives or his last name. I'm probably gonna end up having it towed to the junkyard. Anymore suggestions are welcome but it's looking like a done deal from here. Lesson learned & thank you to everyone who took the time to read my post and give me valuable advice. I appreciate it a lot. Seriously this sub is awesome & I know the right steps to take when buying a car now. You all take care & don't make shitty life choices like me LOL

Answer:
 You gave someone 1500 dollars with....no statement in return acknowledging the money received or why?

You can sue the guy for the 1500 if you can find him. You can attempt to retitle the car through the DMV.


Title: Can my employer require me to work a shift no pay? (Texas)

Question:
Current situation: I'm working for a cell phone retailer on 100 percent commission. I do make 10.88 an hour but that is drawn from my comms, it's not a base. Once a week I am required to come in, on my day off, and work a call center shift. What actually happens is I make calls from a list for five hours, im not able to actually make any sales over the phone and I don't even get a draw. In other words I am literally being required to work for no pay. This, to me, seems fishy.

The thing is too, I think the company knows this. The only level of accountability is a piece of paper (we use our own phones to make calls) and I've frequently filled mine up without actually making calls and there have been no repurcussions. Some other salesmen don't even show up and they don't get in trouble as far as I can tell. The whole thing feels like the company knows they can't enforce it and relies on intimidation and employee experience (I've only been here 3 months).

I'm honestly not sure what power I have here. Texas is a right to work state, meaning technically my company doesn't have to have a reason to let me go. But at the same time it doesn't feel like it can be legal to force employees to work without any pay.

Answer:
 I believe you are quasi exempt from overtime compensation as long as your wages is 1.5x min wage.

https://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs20.htmAnswer #2: >Texas is a right to work state, meaning technically my company doesn't have to have a reason to let me go.

I think you are severely misunderstanding what it means to be a "right to work" state.

"Texas is a right-to-work state. This means that under the Texas Labor Code, a person cannot be denied employment because of membership or non-membership in a labor union or other labor organization. Tex. Labor Code Ann. §§ 101.001, et al."

https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/agency/right-to-work-laws-in-texas


Title: (FL) Someone's threatening to sue me over pictures and get my disability pay taken away.

Question:
I'm currently on disability(at the beginning of the year I was attacked by some former coworkers, long story). In a year or two I should be able to go back to work part time and hopefully full time after that.

Anyway, since I couldn't afford to keep my apartment a family member of mine is letting me live at a spare house they have. It's in a bit of a rural area so it's surrounded by nature. I can take pictures of wild animals from my porch.

The community college has a facebook page where people post pictures of any interesting animals they've seen. Sometimes I add pictures of the otters,deer and birds I've seen. The account I use to post is my old work account so it's just my name, where I went to school and boring picture of me, no real personal information.

Someone looked me up using that and found out that I'm on disability(how? I don't know). She's been threatening to sue me for spreading false information on what animals live in the area and when I told her to stop contacting me she threatened to get my disability taken since "if you can post of facebook, you can get a job".

Can she do that? Who can I go to for help?

Answer:
 >sue me for spreading false information on what animals live in the area

That's the stupidest thing I have heard all year.

Don't talk with her and ignore her entirely. Individuals cannot sue you over disability since it's a government program. If someone does come by to chat who is official, be polite and honest while reminding them that this lady is ridiculous.Answer #2: Is she doing this while she is working? If so you can report her to the school board.Answer #3: before you go nuclear with the board or superintendent, reach out to the principal through officially published channels (email, phone, etc) this could be a fake account made by a disgruntled student.

this is also a perfect opportunity to use the infamous [Cleveland browns reply letter](http://www.snopes.com/business/consumer/browns.asp)Answer #4: Block and ignore. She sounds nuts.


Title: [IL] Customer recorded me at work while I prepared their food

Question:
This is more of a question for future reference as my manger told me this is common practice as a way to get money by going after restaurants for the smallest infraction.

I work in a fast food restaurant and I sometimes dress food. While I was dressing a carry out order my manager told me through the headset that I was being recorded. I looked over and I noticed the customer holding her phone pointed at me while trying to be inconspicuous (though failing miserably). She recorded me the entire time I prepared her food. I was going to confront her when I took the food to her but my manager told me not to as I had no proof that she was actually recording me.

So my questions are:

1. What is the legality of being recorded in the workplace in Illinois? I was under the impression that since the restaurant I work at is private property that I have a reasonable expectation of privacy and I do not consent to being recorded.

2. Is it true that I cannot confront them without proof of being recorded?

3. If I find this video of myself online, what actions can be taken besides requesting the video be removed?

Also, before anyone gives the "if you have nothing to hide then you shouldn't be upset" line, I did follow proper protocol as I always do, but that does not mean I want to be recorded. Thank you for any advice in advance.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 1. The restaurant is private property, but open to the public.  You could have asked the customer to stop filming you, and asked your manager to eject them if they didn't stop.

2. You can confront them without hard evidence.

3. You can request the video be removed, but they're of no obligation to remove it.Answer #2: 1. The restaurant is open to the public, presumably, meaning you have close to zero expectation of privacy (outside of places like the bathroom).  The "private" in "private property" and the "privacy" in "reasonable expectation of privacy" do not refer to the same thing.
2. You can confront whomever you want for anything without much fear of breaking the law.  Your boss can fire you for doing so, though.
3. Not much.  You can request that it be taken down.  I'm not sure there's a legal obligation to take it down upon your request, though.


Title: [California] Reckless driving by neighbor, any recourse?

Question:
TL;DR: Man with anger issues puts people in danger with his driving, can we stop it before he kills/injures someone?

We live on a private road, with 15 MPH speed limit signs and dozens of neighbors who drive carefully and slowly, so a great place for kids and adults to walk and bicycle. We also have one neighbor who has anger management issues and who - when angry - drives his car extremely fast and recklessly. His previous car was damaged significantly when he lost control on the street at high speed during one of these episodes (and then it was totaled in a solo DUI crash a few weeks later), and he's back to it with his new car. Rational discussions with him are out, because he simply screams profanities and makes rude gestures at anyone who tries to call him out on this behavior.

Sheriff and Highway Patrol have been called... he has a history with both. Highway Patrol didn't feel they could take action after the hit-and-run to the tree and that the damage to his vehicle would have taught him a lesson. Neither can act on reckless driving on their own.

Citizen's arrest for the reckless driving has been suggested, but discounted both due to risk to the neighbor who signs the complaint, and because we are told that in court he would just claim the reckless driving complaint was part of an ongoing neighborhood dispute (and as a result, the DA is unlikely to prosecute anyway).

So now what, if anything, can we do before he kills or injures someone with this behavior? I'd hate to have him kill one of the kids and then look back and say "why didn't we do more to stop this?"

Answer: I would try getting his behavior on video and taking it to the police. If what you get on video meets the statute for reckless driving they *should* be able to do something.


Title: Being Summonsed As a Witness...but I'm going to be out of town

Question:
I live in Ohio. In the evenings I run a program that supervises and documents court-ordered parent/child visitation. There was an incident recently and I am fully expecting to be called on as a witness. The problem is that the court date is on the 18th and I have not received a subpoena or summons or whatever yet (today is the 15th) and I know that for my real job I have an out-of-town business trip planned on the 18th.

What are the rules for how late you can be summonsed? Is there a rule about that at all? Like a time frame or advanced notice that has to be given?? Can I say no?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 You can't just say no to a summons.

But you can contact the court and request that the date be changed, especially if you got late notice.Answer #2: Likely, there is no bright-line rule for length of notice.  Usually, the applicable rules require "reasonable" notice, and requires the party issuing the subpoena to take "reasonable" steps to avoid undue burden and expense to the subpoenaed party.  If you are subpoenaed, you will want to file and serve an objection setting forth the short notice and the previously planned out of town trip.  If the Ohio Rules of Civil Procedure are patterned after the federal rules, all of this will be in Rule 45. Answer #3: > I have not received a subpoena or summons or whatever yet

so you are not being summoned, and i am not aware of any jurisdiction where a summons 3 days before the hearing in a civil law matter would be valid


Title: Mentally ill friend's self-neglect will get her killed

Question:
I have a friend who may have thyroid cancer.  She's now complaining about swallowing (she's going to start taking small bites) and breathing.

Thing is, she's at least psychotic, if not schizophrenic.  She's convinced everything around her is part of a government Conspiracy to wipe her memories and frame her for child molestation or something.  She's convinced her dentist put microphones in her teeth, and that a recent surgery she had ended up with a GPS locator in her.  She refused medical help.

She could very well die without medical treatment.  I tried calling a crisis line in her state, but they said they couldn't do anything.  Is there any way I can have her committed, forced to have the thyroid surgery, and forced to be on antipsychotics until she's not delusional?

EDIT FOR THE BOT:  I live in Oklahoma, but she lives in Indianapolis.

UPDATE:  Thank you for the responses.  From what I could gather from her FB feed when I read it this morning, she did take it to heart when I basically begged her to go seek treatment and told her about my own lung surgery.  Although I am afraid she's going to go back to, "I'd rather be dead than have my memory wiped."  She's been saying her goodbyes for a few weeks now, and is ramping it up, because she's convinced she only has April left before They get rid of her.

Answer:
 Yes, there is a way for you to do this.

It will require you going to court to have her declared incompetent and a guardian (you or someone else) assigned to make decisions on her behalf.

She will be able to appear to defend herself and make the case that she is competent.


Title: Billed $1,000 for foot xrays. Sued them in small claims now they counter sued. Help

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You received the services of the hospital, therefore you will have to pay for them.  Of course they are going to file a counter suit.  You may still be able to get out by paying the $472, though at this point it may be too late.    Answer #2: Dare i ask what you sued the hospital for? Sounds pretty ridiculous. Even more ridiculous that you're surprised they counter-sued you for the money you owe. Answer #3: Xrays aren't cheap. Hell, just an xray of my teeth for a dental checkup usually costs upwards of $150-$200 per xray. The average cost of a normal xray usually lies between $100-$600, so having 6 xrays would be (on average) between $600-$3600 depending on where you get it done. Hospitals are usually more expensive than a general practitioner's office.

I think $472 is a fantastic price for 6 xrays. You should take it and go, instead of going to court only to receive a judgement of court costs and legal fees. If you go to court, it will end up costing you well over $472.


Title: My friend has legal fines from being sentenced to a criminal case. Will she go to jail forever if she doest pay her fines.

Question:
Usa case california state. Im also interested on what would happen in other coutries so please comment if you are lawyer in other country or know about laws there.

Shes homeless. Shes been told if she doesnt pay shell get a warrant for her arrest.

So if she doesnt pay will her jail sentences just increase until shes got a life sentence?

Or will the fines get sent to collections and ruin her credit but she wont snowball into perpetual jail?

Answer:
 No, she won't be in jail forever.

She could go to jail for up to the maximum time she could have gotten for the original crime though.

And if she committed new crimes (like failing to show up for her court dates for payment) then she could go to jail for up to the maximum time for those crimes too.


Title: [Nevada] Why are some music festivals 18+?

Question: This may be the wrong sub and i am of age but i am curious about the law. Why are some music festivals like Electric Daisy Carnival 18+? At that age you can't even buy alcohol so what's the point?

Answer:
 1. Because the venue doesn't require attendees to be 21+.

2. Not everyone goes to concerts to get fucked up.

3. Who cares? You get fucked up in the parking lot anyway because venue booze is too overpriced.

Those are a few reasons. I'm sure you can think of more.


Title: My dad is trying to stop me from seeing my boyfriend (Long Distance Relationship FL-CA)

Question:
Okay so me and my dad had an argument about 20 minutes ago because i was planning on visiting my boyfriend for the first time. I get the concern, I’m the youngest, his child, I’m going across the country, but the way he showed his concern is borderline illegal.

He started threatening me, saying that he was going to get a court action, forcing me to stay here (I am 18 years old, I am legal), he started threatening that he was basically gonna kick me out, and even told me that “it’d be ashamed if i was on a no-fly list” and basically threatened to fake an Anonymous call, naming me as a terrorist. It seemed like he tried to play it off as a joke when i reminded him that faking calls like that is illegal but I’m not stupid.

**So my question is, can he somehow legally stop me from going, and is there anyway I can prevent that from happening?**

And before anyone comes at me about the LDR, I’ve known him for over a year and we’ve been dating for 6 months. I’ve video chatted with him, spoken with his mother, and seen photos of him as a child. I trust him fully.

Answer:
 Your father's not going to get an order placing you under guardianship unless you have a serious cognitive impairment. Wanting a long-distance relationship is not any kind of impairment. Similarly, he's not going to get you on any no-fly lists.

However, he _can_ kick you out of his home. You're an adult; his obligation to house you has ended. He owes you an amount of notice depending on your jurisdiction (generally, a month), but if you don't want to live under his rules, he doesn't need to let you live under his roof.


Title: HIPAA and Missing Persons

Question:
If an individual were to check themselves in to a hospital mental health ward, without allowing the ward to release information that they are at the hospital, could the police be told of the individuals location at the hospital? Then, further, could the police relay that information to family?

This is specifically to learn about the case of a missing person. Would hipaa prevent disclosure of their presence at the hospital?

To be clear, this is NOT a question about myself. I have a 21y.o. friend missing, and was wondering if there is any chance they could've admitted themself to the hospital, but HIPAA could be preventing family/law personnel from knowing.

Answer:
 The hospital can [disclose certain information](https://www.law.cornell.edu/cfr/text/45/164.512) about a patient if the police requests it in relation to a missing persons case. Some states have additional protections

The police are not bound to HIPAA, but they will have their own policies/statutes that govern what they will disclose in such a situation


Title: If on a separate lease, am I responsible for what my roommate keeps in their room?

Question:
Location: Missouri
I have a separate (not shared) lease with my roommate. We each pay for our rooms and shared use of the common area, kitchen, and laundry room. If my roommate has illegal drugs and keeps them only in his room and not in any common areas or my room, am I considered in possession of them?

Answer:
 Your lease, and the fact that it's a separate lease from that of your roommate, governs the civil relationship between you and your landlord.

It has nothing to do with criminal activity, how the police investigate, or whether the DA believes you are guilty of possession/participating in illegal drug activity.


Title: [OK & KS] Do speeding tickets cross state lines?

Question:
I live in Kansas. In November of 2016 I was in a car crash. It was my fault and I was ticketed accordingly. I applied for and received a diversion, so if I keep my nose clean for a year the incident will bekept off my record. At least, thats what I believe the terms of the diversion were. I have misplaced the original diversion document.

In June of 2017 I was driving through a small town in Oklahoma. I was not paying attention and drove 30 mph in a 20 mph zone. It was not a school zone. I was assigned a $30 fine with $90 of court fees. The city offered to reduce my ticket from a speeding ticket to a parking ticket if I pay an extra $150, leading to me paying a total of $270.

Does an OK ticket violate my KS diversion? Do I need to pay the $270 fine to avoid violating my diversion?

Answer:
 > Does an OK ticket violate my KS diversion?

Likely, yes.  First, your diversion wasn't "keep your nose clean in KS", it was "keep your nose clean".  Second, OK and KS transfer ticket information between both states, so you'll be punished in KS as if you committed the offense in KS.


Title: I was blindsided and knocked out at a party

Question: I was at a house party this weekend where I knew majority of everyone there besides a few randoms.  Turns out it's the randoms that were a problem. I walked into the kitchen at one point and one of the guys in the group just knocked me out cold for no reason. Turns out the owner of the house was watching them the whole time because he knew they were up to no good. Here's the thing though I don't remember anything. I was drinking a little but I just got hit so hard I can't remember the night at all I just woke up the next day and had everything explained to me by my girlfriend. Now I have witnesses that told me I legitatmetly did nothing and this was just a drunken asshole. But he tried telling the owner of the house I tried saying he was stealing stuff from me and I pushed him.  How well would this hold up with pressing charges? I don't know what to do honestly. If I should just press charges where should I start. I live in Maryland if that makes a difference

Answer: Have you been examined by a doctor? Despite what the movies would like us to believe, a punch to the face can cause serious injury that may not be immediately apparent.


Title: I live in Florida and just found out that my neighbor's well is 7 feet on my 11.5 acres.

Question: I live in Florida and just found out that my neighbor's well is 7 feet on my 11.5 acre property. I'd like to do nothing because, as we live right now, I don't care and I don't want to be a stickler but I also don't want it to cause problems later on if one of us decides to sell. It's not hurting me and he doesn't have the 6,000 to move it. Is there some way to solve this in case either of us wants to sell our property in the future? I'm thinking maybe a notarized agreement between the two of us that it's fine to stay that way unless one of us sells in which case he would need to move the well? Thank you!

Answer:
 The easiest way to do this is to create an easement, which is basically an agreement that says the land is yours but he's free to use it for his utilities because forcing him to move it would make you look like a huge jerk.Answer #2: This is the sort of case where you need an easement, and based on what you want, you need it to be carefully worded so as not to give too many rights to your neighbor.

This is the sort of thing that is definitely worth paying a real estate lawyer to discuss with you and put together the actual easement documents.Answer #3: While an easement is the answer, you may want to have a lawyer involved too. The well is on your property so if something happens (like local teenagers deciding to climb down there) you may be held liable. Get an agreement for the easement that the other landowner caries insurance and indemnifies you for any damages.


Title: I may possibly have been sexually abused by my father a long time ago

Question:
About 15 years ago I think my father did something inappropriate while we were camping. I have no evidence of any kind but I've been to two different psychologists in the past few months and neither have suggested that this is all in my head. Don't know if that counts for anything.

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Legally, what can I do? What could happen if I brought this to light?

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This happened in New Jersey when this happened, in case that makes a difference.

Answer:
 Legally, you can report it to the police. Legally, if it's within your local statute of limitations for the relevant crimes, the police and a prosecutor may press charges and try to see him convicted.

_Practically_, if the only evidence against it is a fuzzy memory from the victim, there's a lot of room for reasonable doubt. The police might still investigate to see if they can uncover any other evidence, but I wouldn't hold my breath on charges being laid.

The legal system is not equipped to give you closure, unfortunately. It can punish wrongdoing, but only under circumstances that are hard to meet this long after the fact.


Title: NSFW? (PA) How hard is it to get someone arrested and convicted of child molestation?

Question:
My sister was (allegedly) molested by a family friend and it's been like 2 years and he's still out of jail. He was arrested but was released. Why didn't this go to court, because my sister said VERY specific things a 2 year old should not know about and never changed her story. She said something about how he said "see girls have wieners too" as he popped her clit out.

Sorry if this is NSFW

Answer: Because the kid is a horrible witness. So if that is all that they have, the DA likely decided they did not have a strong enough case to pursue.


Title: [Iowa] In my neighborhood I have to park on the street and because of a homecoming parade I had to park in a tight spot. Worried about car behind me damaging my car.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Are you serious? Can you actually tell if a driver is going to hit your car based on the type of vehicle they drive?

If your car is damaged, the only way you can know who it was is if you witness it. Making assumptions is not going to help you out.


Title: Former Flatmate Has Decided To Declare My Flat As Her Current Residence. I'm Worried About Squatter's Rights.

Question:
Hello, and thank you all for dealing with my constant questions and parade of bullshite.

A former flatmate of mine (A) recently messaged me stating that due to circumstances "beyond her control," (I.E. she didn't feel like obtaining the proper documentation) she has declared my flat as her permanent residence on her license when she had it renewed last week, as her current one will expire at the end of the week. she was mostly messaging me as a courtesy to ask if I would make sure we didn't throw it out like the rest of her mail, and to let her know when it came in so she could pick it up. I told her I would not assume responsibility for her mail, however I would happily send it certified to her new residence. (which is her boyfriend's house.) She refused to give me the address, and asked me to send it to F's parents house. I blatantly refused, as I had previously sent certified mail there, and not only did it come back as undeliverable, F messaged me to not only request that I cease sending things there, however that if I were to continue, she could call my landlord and inform her that I was subletting against the lease.

I left it at that I would inform A  that *if* the letter were to arrive, I would let her know. What I did not inform A of is that not only did I go down to the Post Office and explain that F and A had been harassing me for months and now refused to change their respective addresses, I have also been writing "Return to sender, recipient not at this address" on her mail since she refused to give me a forwarding address.

At this point, I'm worried that by her lying to the RMV about her current address, she'll be able to get pissed one day about something or want to get into my house when no one is there, call the Police, state it was an illegal eviction, and then pull out her brand-new license with my address on it as proof. Besides doing what I've been doing (contacting the post office, writing return to sender on her mail, etc) how am I able to stop her from continuing to claim that she lives at my house? I tried writing a cease-and-desist back when her and F were sending 1000 emails a day to the Police Station, and it came back as undeliverable.

Thank you!

Answer:
 If her only proof that she lives at your address is her license, and she does not have keys, has no furniture in the unit, and otherwise has no actual indication she lives there, the police are likely to tell her it's a civil issue and call it a day. It's very unlikely the cops will try to tell you you have to take her in.

Keep marking her mail "return to sender," block her email and phone number, and move on. If you're particularly concerned, talk to the landlord about changing the locks, but expect to pay for it yourself. If you are breaching your lease, stop - nothing stops A from telling your landlord about it out of spite.


Title: HOA Bylaw Help

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If you want to clarify the rule or add conditions which allow you to use such a service, you should run for the board and make it better yourself.


Title: What rights does a father have to his child when the mother doesn't want him in the picture?

Question:
Hey guys, I'm going to try to keep this one brief.

My coworker went out with a girl 9 months ago who he would later describe as crazy. About 2 months ago, she told him that she was 7 months pregnant with his child. At first he was shocked and worried that his life was over, but within a week he was all on board to be a father and work out the relationship with his ex-girlfriend. Everything was great for about a week, when she told him that she was not interested in him being involved in her or their child's lives.

His big concerns at the moment are

What right does he have to the child's time?
How does he prove he is the father?
Does he have a legal right to be present at the time of birth?

I've done research on the subject but I had a hard time finding literature on the subject that I could understand, so any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks guys

Answer:
 He does not have a right to be in the room at birth.

After the kid is born, he will probably need to file a petition to establish paternity.  Once that is established, visitation/custody and child support will be set by the court.

In short, he has every right -- he just needs to be proactive and assert it.


Title: Being forced to work after layoff (Ontario Canada)

Question:
Short version: I was laid off and now they're expecting me to come in for shifts after the date specified.

Long version: I currently work at a retail store. I was given a layoff notice from my current employer saying that I was laid off effective December 31 2015. This was completely fine as the main store I work at was scheduled to close then. However I frequently work at multiple locations as needed. One of those locations is insisting on keeping me on the schedule because they weren't given notice of me being laid off.

I have a new ( not retail) job that's supposed to start first week of January. The schedules don't conflict but I really don't really want to do the shifts.

The company has a habit of doing things that violate labor laws ( for instance the pay stubs they give us are produced from a government of Canada website that explicitly states that it does not legally count as a pay stub) I never signed an employment contract and I had to force them to take my SIN ( but I have gotten all the proper tax documents from them since starting) . When I started the employee manual said that if you didn't give two weeks notice before leaving they'd take your last paycheck. It doesn't seem to be there anymore and I'm pretty sure that's illegal.

I want to know if I turn down these shifts can they withhold my paycheck for not giving them notice even though they laid me off first?  If I do do the shifts how can I make sure I am paid after all I had to sign a notice saying I acknowledged I was laid off as of the 31st.

Answer:
 > if you didn't give two weeks notice before leaving they'd take your last paycheck

Not a tiny bit legal _regardless of your contract_, and grounds for a wage claim. If they, _for any reason at all_, withhold your final paycheque longer than seven days or later than your next normal pay period (whichever is later), [talk to the Ontario Ministry of Labour](http://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/esclaim.php) to start the process.

You are not responsible for internal communications problems within the company. They've already let you go; the one store can schedule you but can't expect you to show up or penalize you for a no-call no-show, since you don't work for them. If the store contacts you asking you to work or to chastise you for not showing up, direct them to your ex-manager, then hang up.


Title: I sold a pickup as is for $900 and have only received $400 now they're claiming I took advantage of them.

Question:
So I had this truck (1992 F150) for about 2 years since my dad gave it to me  when I moved out and since I was no longer using as I have a new car I had it and it needed a new radiator as it was busted and a new water pump I had it for sale as is. My original asking price was $1200. Well around June of this year a man came and asked me a price we agreed on $900. And I let him know of the problems I knew the truck had. He asked me if he could give it in payments so I drew up a bill of sale that stated the dates of what he paid me at the moment we both ($400)  and what he would pay me in the following months.  ($250 over the next two months) and I would hold the title till the full amount was paid we both signed and dated it fast forward to today after not hearing anything or being paid anymore I show up to their house and the brother comes out and tells me they took it to a lawyer citing lemon law and that because of his brothers mental health issues and the paper i had him sign I was taking advantage of him.
I was wondering if I am at fault for this?
I still have the title would I be entitled to go and ask for the truck back?
(This is in Kansas)

Answer:
 Offering payment plans for used cars is always a bad idea.

Good luck in small claims.Answer #2: Not a lawyer- but lemon law only applies to a new car( never titled before) take your paper and this "brother" to a small case court. And here I'm not sure and don't quote me here ,  but I think caregivers are responsible for the action of their dependent


Title: Pregnant mother rear-ended, lead to emergency c-section

Question: [deleted]

Answer: I'm glad you and baby are okay. You need to see a personal injury lawyer. Having been pregnant and forced to deliver an unready baby who could suffer lasting affects from the trauma of the crash or being born early, I think this is absolutely necessary.Answer #2: Not legal advice, but a word of encouragement in your tough time.  My wife is a neonatologist, and I hear her and colleagues talk shop all the time: most of them would be perfectly happy having their own babies at 35 weeks, because despite being pre-term, kids born after about 32 weeks generally have really good outcomes.  Good luck with everything, make good friends with your NICU team!Answer #3: This is my second child, considering tying my tubes but really hesitated with the surprise nature of her arrival.. just so much happening so quickly.Answer #4: Great advice. Thank you. This is my only social media and it's a generic throwaway!


Title: If I tell people I plan to commit suicide are they required to stop me/can I be forcibly committed to a hospital?

Question:
I've been depressed for awhile and seen plenty of medical help (3 hospitals, 4 therapists, lots of drugs). I'm really not here for that, if another person links me a suicide hotline or /r/SuicideWatch I'm going to go nuts. As the idea of suicide in my head becomes increasingly real I have found it difficult to talk to people about it. And I would like to talk to them about it because I would like to give them actual closure instead of a suicide note.
Whenever I bring it up with family they immediately talk about calling the police and having me committed. I don't really understand how that would work or what would happen. I can easily deny everything and tell them I have no plans to hurt myself if it would come to that.
As it stands, I do want to kill myself, I'd like to talk to people about it, I don't understand what the actual legality of suicide is, and I don't understand how I could conceivably be prevented from committing suicide by the law.
I am more than happy to discuss it at length since I'm sure not only is my information not enough but I am sure I will have other questions too as the discussion develops.

Thanks for your help, I live in Massachusetts.

Edit: It's a little baffling how people refuse to read an entire sentence, but "I would like to talk to them about it BECAUSE I WOULD LIKE TO GIVE THEM ACTUAL CLOSURE INSTEAD OF A SUICIDE NOTE"

Answer:
 > are they required to stop me

No.
>can I be forcibly committed to a hospital?

Yes.


Title: Legality of charging to pick up medicine prescription? (TX)

Question:
My doctor's office charges $5 to pick up prescription refills without a doctor's appointment (so call ahead refills). This seems like a shady way to make money and it doesn't seem fair for students/poor people who need monthly refills that the doctor can't legally phone in. What's the legal basis for this? I've never seen a doctor's office that does this before.

FYI this is for ADHD medication (I'm avoiding specifics, but I have had multiple different drugs for the same purpose) which is regulated in TX so that doctors cannot call it into the pharmacy (it has to be signed by the doctor on special state regulated prescription pads and hand delivered to the pharmacy)

Answer: If you don't like it find another doctor. Someone is spending time writing out the prescription, signing it, and handing it to you. They deserve to be compensated for that time.


Title: I bought a case of expired beer from a nearby gas station and got crazy sick..

Question:
[Southeast Missouri, USA.]

Pretty much what the title says. Bought an 18 pack of beer, drank about five of them, got crazy sick, realized it expired last month. Can someone get in trouble for this?

EDIT: Location added.

Answer:
 I think it is unlikely that you got sick from beer that was a month past the expiration date. The only difference you might notice is that the beer does not taste as good. It is not like milk that spoils after the expiration date. Unless there was something else wrong with the beer you probably good sick from something else.

That being said I would take the beer back and ask for a refund since they sold it to you after the date.


Title: Cosigned for a motorcycle. They won't pay the loan now. What can I do? (This is in California)

Question:
I will spare the details as to how I got here, but I did and I've made a huge mistake.
I cosigned for an acquaintance, the loan/credit was taken out on my name. He is the primary registered owner of this motorcycle. I am on the registration as well. He played me for a fool and I fell for it.
He promised me money if I did him this favor. I've been going through a financially rough time so I did it. He is very manipulative and I wish I would've seen it then. He never gave me the money.
He said he was going to make the payments and he hasn't nor will he.
He has been avoiding me. I asked him if he can surrender the bike to me, and my boyfriend would be more than happy to take over the payments and keep the bike for himself and make this easy for both of us.
This guy is giving me a very hard time since he has no transportation other than the bike. He basically thinks he can keep it and just ruin my credit and just screw me over. He's been nothing but an asshole to me. I have done nothing to this guy for him to treat me this way. I told him we can make this easy or difficult. This guy has no heart.

I was thinking of just getting a tow truck and picking up the bike when he's asleep. I can just get another key made for it and get the registration at the dmv and request a new contract from the dealership I got the bike from.
That seems like the best thing I can do..
I'm running out of ideas. I'm extremely stressed out about this. He's ruining my credit.
Is there anything else I can do? Can I take him to court? Any help will be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 Pay the loan, sue the deadbeat.Answer #2: > I was thinking of just getting a tow truck and picking up the bike when he's asleep.

Unless you are on the title, this would be theft.

> I can just get... the registration at the dmv...

No, you can't.

> ...and request a new contract from the dealership I got the bike from.

No. Lol. You can't do this either. The dealership doesn't own the bike. You don't seem to understand the process or the situation. Your friend owns the bike. Period. That he owes you money is irrelevant.

> Is there anything else I can do? Can I take him to court?

Yes. You can sue him in small claims court (assuming he owes you less than $7500). Regardless, you are on the hook for the loan as you borrowed the money by consigning the loan.


Title: Visited friend for 20 minutes and car was towed from apartment. ZERO signage, towing company charging 300+ CASH. Illegal towing?

Question:
I'm tired so I'll be brief.

Showed up to friends around final two minute warning of the 4:30 football games. Left when the games ended and car was gone. ZERO signage in lot. Tow company wants 300 cash. Taking bunch of pictures, tried calling non emergency services but they said it was a civil issue. Should I pay and try to get it back in small claims?

Answer:
 Yes pay. You are responsible to mitigate your damages.

Yes you can try to sue to get it back in small claimsAnswer #2: If you want your car back, you'll need to pay it for now.

You don't post where you're located, so we can't offer an opinion on whether the tow was justified.


Title: I've ruined my marriage and my health.

Question: I had an affair with this woman. I broke it off. She voiced some fear of pregnancy. We decided to use Plan B to lower the risk. She called the next day and said she was experiencing discomfort. We talked about it. She called the next day and left a message saying she had been hospitalized. I called for two days with no response. The following week she was angry. I straightened it up. We decided not to see each other anymore. A few days later she asked for money for the medical expenses, I asked for the bill. She said she hadn't received one. I asked her to send me the bill when it became available. She became angry and called and informed me that her best guess as to what the bill might be. She began telling me that if I didn't wire her $1233.00 That she would come to my home. On several of her phone calls and texts she threatened to send someone to hurt us. She sent a young man to my home to intimidate me and then told me she had sent him. She continues to tell me that I must send he money. I have repeatedly asked for some billing. There was a lull in the threats for a week or two. She recently asked me to sleep with her when I refused she once again began asking for money or she would show up at my home. She will not share the bill. She wants money or sex, or she'll tell. I have recorded calls and text messages. I refuse to pay extortion. I do not believe she has a bill. I recognize the fact that she may tell as she wishes. But she does not have the right to ask demand money or sexual favor for her silence. I'm in California. What should I do?

Answer:
 Not to sound crass, but this is the plot of several films, most notable [Fatal Attraction](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fatal_Attraction) and [Play Misty for Me](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Play_Misty_for_Me).

If you wish to avoid an overly dramatic and theatrical conclusion to this series of bad decisions, then:

1) Cut off *all* communications with this woman

2) Tell your wife to get ahead of the inevitable legal action

3) Call the police

Your wife can find out on someone else's terms or on yours. Better to do it on yours. If she's sending people to your home to attempt to collect, then you're going to need a protective order, which will require stating *why* it's necessary.Answer #2: Call the police.


Title: Person admitted to stealing my tv and will not give it back

Question:
I came to my hometown to fetch some things before making a big move to another state. A lot of my things have been moved/lost, but I just could not figure out how anyone could move and LOSE a tv. Didn’t make sense because it’s too valuable of an item.

After asking around a few times, I come to find out my ex has it. I texted him asking for it back and he told me that he’d give me his older tv that’s the same size, but lower quality. “You won’t be able to tell the difference”. Im assuming he is using it to game. I told him to give me mine back and he said “take it or leave it”. I told him it was a bad move on his part to admit to stealing it thru text message. I’m only in town for a short period and I don’t want any drama. How can I get it back? Should I file a police report? I’m afraid if I go to pick it up that he will just try to give me his old one which is crappy.

TLDR: ex stole tv and implied that he had it and wouldn’t return it to me
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 > How can I get it back?

You can call the police or sue him for claim and delivery.


Title: Boss Threatening To Dock Pay

Question:
My boss is threatening to dock $1/hr per employee for every item not taken care of by X time, for every hour past X time.  Example: 12 things not taken care of by X time will cause everyone to lose $12/hr per hour the things aren't taken care of, until everything is done.

Is this legal?  Most people don't even make that much per hour there.  And if my boss can dock pay for that reason, it couldn't go below minimum wage, could it?

I apologize if my explanation wasn't the greatest.  Thank you in advance for the advice.

Edit:  I'm in Wisconsin, sorry.

Answer: Lolnope to everything you ask. If he decides to dock you without your permission, call [these glorious bastards here](https://www.google.com/search?q=wisconsin+department+of+labor&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8). Oh, and get a new job, you don't need to be working for that guy.


Title: Employer Refusing to Pay Out Annual Bonus Upon Submitting Letter of Resignation

Question: My organization issues a discretionary annual bonus between Q1-Q2 for the previous year IF revenue targets were achieved (they were). I recently submitted my letter of resignation and my employer is refusing to pay me out. Unfortunately, nothing regarding the bonus is outlined in my employment agreement and the fact that it is "discretionary" is disheartening. Is this issue worth chasing?

Answer:
 > a **discretionary** annual bonus

Bingo. Nothing to chase here.

What you are describing is extremely common and why timing of resignations is so important to get right, which of course you know now.


Title: Waitress serving alcohol to someone who showed a police badge and ID but was found to be only 18 and charged with impersonating an officer? [California]

Question: This didn't happen to me, it happened to my coworker while I was working. The guy showed a badge and police ID. In our city you have to be at least 21 to be a cop. The badge was a not real and neither was the ID but they looked real to us and he got arrested for impersonating an officer but my coworker is in trouble for serving an underage person alcohol. I was just wondering if him pretending to be a police officer and getting arrested for it is a defense she could use?

Answer: She did serve underage.  Police id and badge is not valid age verification.


Title: [MI] Got 'caught' getting frisky at a park after hours.

Question:
My girlfriend and I (Both 17) had been on a date and decided that we wanted to get frisky. Both of our mothers were at their respective houses, so we decided to park my car at a local park and do our thing there. The park is just down the hill from some appartment buildings so I parked where I thought nobody could see us. After about an hour a car came up to mine and parked perpindicular to ours (note, it was 1:00 am and heavily raining) even though the rest of the parking lot was empty, they were shining their headlights right at us. We then decided that we should probably leave and frantically started to put on clothes. I didn't want to stick around long so I had my girlfriend start driving the car away and the guy FOLLOWED US. Since I knew the neighborhood pretty well I had her take a way that made us lose our stalker. My question is, can we get in legal trouble for what we did?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 > My question is, can we get in legal trouble for what we did?

Yes, you could, but since you haven't, you probably won't.


Title: [Ohio] Coworker fired for discussing wages

Question:
Hello LA,

I was informed recently by a coworker that they were fired for specifically discussing wages. It’s against our company’s policy, but I’m aware coworkers are allowed to discuss wages under the fair-bargaining act.

To top it off, our manager sent an email saying that discussing wages is a fireable offense.

Is this in violation of the NLRA and should my coworker file a complaint with email attached?

Location: Ohio (if you couldn’t read the title)

Answer:
 > file a complaint with email attached

He's not an independent contractor or a supervisor of some kind? Make a copy of that email, forward it to a personal account and print it out.

I would absolutely file a complaint:
https://www.nlrb.gov/about-nlrb/what-we-do/investigate-charges


Title: Questions about Child Custody in Arizona and Texas

Question:
Hi my story is I was in a 9 year relationship with my ex in Arizona we have a 3 year old son. We have no signed legal document regarding custody or how to split it yet but I am on the birth certificate as his father.  I raise him at home Monday through Friday while she works and then she gets him during the weekend. We both used to live together in the house my grandfather bought for me. I want to sell my house and move to houston but I have no idea how to go about getting full custody which i what I want or if I deserve child support because for the past 2 years I have been raising my son as a stay at home dad/part time worker while she worked full jobs.

I am afraid to go to court as a male thinking it will end up in me losing my son or house and having to pay child support which I cannot afford as I am busy raising my son 5 days a week. I have no taken any moves or talked to a lawyer yet.  I know she would fight me for full custody in court and I am super afraid of all the bad please send some of advice and if you have any questions feel free to ask.

Answer: Your only viable option at this point is to get an attorney. You need to get a court ordered parenting plan in place ASAP. Answer #2: Why would you be awarded full custody? Is she an unfit parent?


Title: Unsure of type of case at this time, just need help, please. I am unsure if no one wants to help due to me working for the State, a medical problem that I’m aware of, or disability.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
  This sub isn't your firm, and don't assume anyone here is an attorney.

You have fmla protected leave. Take that if you can't work. You're a corrections officer...that's not an easy position to find accommodations for. If you can't do your job with reasonable accommodations, your employer doesn't have to keep employing you. Answer #2: Divide this up into readable paragraphs and delete 80% of it. Give us the facts.


Title: Not exactly "advice" but can somebody tell me about my search and seizure rights on a college campus?

Question:
(Not sure if this is the right sub for this but...) I'm a college student living in an on-campus (ie owned and operated by the school's res life) fraternity house (va, USA). The school is a Virginia state school. I have a locked safe in my room with valuables in it. I have a car (in my fathers name) with a Connecticut (where I'm from) license plate on it. I'm 19 years old and an American citizen (not sure if that matters for search and seizure rights).

I know in high school/under 18 I had drastically different rights, so I just want to make sure I have a good understanding of what my rights currently are.Could somebody lead me to an article, book, or something similar explaining my rights in language I would understand? Thanks so much

Answer:
 Courts have differed over the exact relationship between student and college, but it has been held that Fourth Amendment protections apply to your dormitory room, for example.

Your college can't let the police in to search your room without a warrant (though as landlord, they have a limited right to inspect the leased premises). Ordinary protections apply to your car and your person. But it is worth keeping in mind that even for a state school, constitutional protections do not apply the same way in a school disciplinary hearing as they do in a criminal case. You may face consequences if you "take the Fifth".

As a rule of thumb, you should expect constitutional protections when the police are involved (including university police, if you have them), but probably not when it is an internal university matter. Though you may have protection of other laws, like those regulating landlord and tenant rights.

An example: from time to time, your university might want to inspect your room to make sure you are complying with rules, fire safety regulations, etc. Under most states' landlord-tenant laws, this is perfectly legal with proper notice, if you agreed to it when renting. (Which no doubt you did, in the student handbook or the like.) If during such inspection, drugs happen to be found in your room, you're going to get in trouble. The university could even report it to the police. But if they merely suspect you of having drugs in your room, then they cannot let the police in to search your room without your consent, or search it themselves and provide the results to the police.


Title: I was recently in a hit and run, and theie insurance has made me an offer.

Question: So this guy completely rear-ended and smashed my trunk and bumper in, and after pulling over refused to give me his insurance, totally no remorse. When I was calling the cops he drove away. I had taken a picture of his license plate however. The thing is my gf hit her head on the roof and has had neck pain and shoulder pain, I have had some as well. His insurance offered to pay each of us $500 in addition to paying all of our medical bills. Should we take that? This happened in Seattle.

Answer:
 NoAnswer #2: Lawyer up. The offer is way too low.

I had a similar circumstance, less the hit-and-run component. I got a small settlement offer.

I approached an attorney, told her the offer and suggested she take the case on contingency for a flat fee of 30% of any increased settlement.

We dickered a bit, then agreed to 35%.

Maybe too much, but in the end she got me a much, much higher settlement, even after paying her (substantial!) fee.


Title: Is it legal to shoot a cat anywhere in Utah?

Question: A coworker of mine recently told me they shot a stray cat in their yard because it had been harassing their cat. Is it illegal to shoot stray/feral cats? What is the law/provision regarding this issue? They live around Bluffdale Utah.

Answer:
 Depends on what they shot it with and the exact locality (Bluffdale has plenty of desert around it), and the manner of the animal's death.

Feral cats and coyotes are an issue here, but discharge of a firearm within city limits without an affirmative defense (which shooting feral cats is not, generally speaking, unless said cat is worrying livestock) is a Misdemeanor B. If they shot it in such a fashion as to constitute desire to torment or cause pain to the animal, they're on the hook for an animal cruelty charge, which can vary between Misdemeanor A, B, and C depending on what can be proven as far as intent.

Practically, this'll boil down to what the local Animal Control Officer wants to do. If it was not a clean kill or was somebody's pet, they're a lot more likely to get involved.Answer #2: It appears that it is legal. https://www.deseretnews.com/article/705367509/Feral-cat-bill-passes-Utah-House.html


Title: Friend's mom thinks I bought stuff with her card

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Douche

Answer: Say it wasn't you. If she doesn't believe you there isn't much you can do other than throw your friend under the bus.


Title: Thought I paid $45 for seminar. Not $545.

Question:
The registration page for a seminar lists options as such:

     Feb. 15, 2017-full day seminar-location ($545)

I read ($45).  Once you choose your option the page then only asks for your name and the details for charging your credit card.

After submitting your taken to a 'thanks for registering' page with no info about the purchase or the seminar.

I'm used to websites verifying the total before charging you.  Are there standards for these kinds of transactions that I can check?

For example, what is to stop someone from changing the text on the page to read $45 before you register and $545 after?

Thank you.

Other info: I registered the day before the seminar and didn't receive the receipt until the day after I attended.  I even emailed the company the day before asking for a receipt and they said they would send it when the transaction was processed.

Answer:
 >For example, what is to stop someone from changing the text on the page to read $45 before you register and $545 after?

But that's not at all what happened here.  You misread the page which, by your own admission, does say $545.  Many sites often provide a final confirmation page though they are not legally obligated to from what I have seen (you didn't post a location so not sure).

You can try contacting the organization explain your mistake and see if they are willing to refund the seminar fee.

**Edit** - I just noticed you said you attended the seminar before noticing the mistake.  I believe you may be out of luck on this one.


Title: Was the hospital allowed to claim eminent domain on my house?

Question: We lived close to a hospital (UPMC) and they wanted to buy all houses in my area including my house and neighbors to build another parking lot. They started by lowballing us and said they would give us about 5,000-10,000$ to move to another house. We refused and it went back and fourth until they claimed eminent domain. Was UPMC allowed to do that? I thought it was just state or national government that could do that kind of stuff.

Answer:
 As the owner you are permitted reimbursement for reasonable legal fees. You should find a lawyer experienced in eminent domain to help you. They will be able to walk you through the steps and make sure your rights are protected and properly compensated.
Although you are entitled to reimbursement for legal fees it would be wise to follow up with the hospital to confirm they are willing to cover the fees.
Remember the point of eminent domain is to make the owner whole, so there should be no costs out of your pocket for this. Answer #2: UPMC is part of a state university (University of Pittsburgh), so effectively they are an instrumentality of the Pennsylvania government and can therefore pursue eminent domain.Answer #3: >I thought it was just state or national government that could do that kind of stuff.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kelo_v._City_of_New_London

The short version: Its legal.Answer #4: In addition to finding a lawyer, there are some organizations in Pittsburgh that advocate for people in this situation. Pitt and their affiliates are slowly eating up a LOT of real estate and some groups are dedicated to fighting against it. They may provide some help to you In addition but not instead of a lawyer. Answer #5: They can but they still have to give you market value for your houseAnswer #6: So when these things happen: what if the property owner says: "I am razing the property and turning it into a parking lot. UPMC staff and visitors will be welcome to park at the hourly rate of $$$."

Can eminent domain still be claimed if the property is going to the same use for the same people, it's just different people who will profit off of it? Lets stipulate that $$$ will be a reasonable rate.


Title: [MN] Instacart doesn't disclose wages, anywhere.

Question:
Isn't that Illegal?

Instacart says the amount you make it varied on City, Zone, and Order Type, which I feel is understandable; What isn't understandable is there is no concrete for X you will make Y, anywhere. In the application, it will state an 'estimated weekly earnings', although it is pure speculation. I should be told how much I make, right? Even the agreement says I should be told, but I'm not! This is an Independent Contractor position, and the Agreement doesn't state the wages either.

Copy and pasting from the agreeement:

> 3.1 Instacart agrees to pay you for the Services within 30 days of performance.
Instacart reserves the right to change the rates schedule at any time, and Instacart will
provide you with notice of the changes in advance of your accepting a Delivery
Opportunity through Instacart's Shopper App. ***Instacart does not pay earnings by salary
or by an hourly rate.***

>3.2 For a Delivery Opportunity that involves both personal shopping and delivery, ***you
will be provided a payment for each delivery, plus a per item payment, and any
applicable bump payment. Available payment rates are posted in the Shopper App***, and
you can review the applicable rate schedule prior to accepting or rejecting a Delivery
Opportunity.

>3.3 For a Delivery Opportunity that ***involves delivery only, you will be provided a
payment for each delivery.*** Available payment rates are posted in the Shopper App, and
you can review the applicable rate schedule prior to accepting or rejecting a Delivery
Opportunity.

Answer:
 As an IC, you have far fewer protections. If you don't like the contract, negotiate a better contract - likely with someone else, since I believe that Instacart, as a matter of policy, does not negotiate.

If you believe Instacart's independent contractors are misclassified, then you'll want to speak to an attorney or to the IRS.


Title: I was arrested this morning

Question: Cops came to my house and I was arrested for allegedly throwing eggs at someone's car. I live in a common wealth state and I know things are a bit stricter here but how is it possible to arrest someone when there is no proof that they did it at all. I live in Virginia

Answer:
 You don't win any points here by being coy. You egged a dude's  car, you got caught, and now you're acting indignant because you thought you'd gotten away with it.

How can they arrest you? I'm betting they have a pretty good reason to think you were the one who did it, like one of these:

Somebody saw you do it.

One of your fellow car-eggers admitted it.

You told someone "we egged Dave's car a couple hours ago," and he told the police afterward.

There was a video camera.

You bragged about it on Facebook

In a dissociative fugue, you sent a written confession to the police station.

Long story short, you're nicked, and you're not doing yourself any favors by supposing that you're smarter than the police.Answer #2: How did they find you to arrest you without any information about you?


Title: Is having a song playing on the radio in a short film a fair use or copyright issue?

Question: I’m a filmmaker, there’s a particular scene that is supposed to mirror a moment in my own life, and on the radio a song is playing. It’s part of the scene, not added later as part of the soundtrack, I own the cassette tape that was released by the record company of the song and only about 90 seconds of the entire 4 minute song is heard. Is this fair use or do I need to ask for permission and pay for it before releasing the film?

Answer: You'll need to pay for it, and you'll need not only a license for using the song itself (master) but also one that covers how it's used in the film (sync).


Title: An animal shelter stole my dog!

Question: To be fair it's my. Sisters dog but I needed a good title, so about a 2 Weekes ago my. Sister. Dog went missing, she has basically the whole town looking for him, and last night her dog pops up on an animal shelters feed and her friend sees and tells her, my sister immediately calls the shelter which has already adopted it out, we are all reasonably upset and we get ahold of them again and all they said is we should have micro chipped the dog but that's fucking expensive, basically I'd like to know how to fix this, her kids loved the pup (I'm reposting this from a. Different sub reddit as this one is more appropriate of a place)

Answer: For future reference, many rescue groups run low-cost chipping clinics. I think it cost me $25 for our dog.


Title: Car towed without reasonable signage - is there any way to argue this?

Question:
I live in West Haven, CT and this is the third snow storm of the year. The first two, there was no towing. This morning I woke up to see that my car, and the rest of the cars on the even side of the street have been towed. There are no signs posted. When I looked it up online there is one place (the city of west haven website) where it says no parking during snow emergency but that's only on main streets. I live on a one-way, residential street. It also says "once snow begins to fall, a parking ban is in effect on the even-numbered side of most roads unless one is posted with a 'no parking' sign on the odd sign".
They are not plowing the area where they towed cars from and they didn't tow cars the last 2 snow storms.
Basically my main question is: Is there ANY way to argue against this and not pay or am I out of luck?

Answer: You're out of luck.  Unless the law *requires* posting of signs, none are necessary.  It's up to you to know the law.


Title: [CO]Woman stole my dog, then sent a second person to return it and collect the reward

Question:
I'll try and make this as concise as possible, but there is a ton to unpack.  Last Friday 18 August, I got home from work about 430 and my back door was open.  Two of my dogs were in the house, but my French Bulldog was gone.  What I assume happened was that the backdoor never got closed, I leave the house first then my wife and kids.  There has been water line work on our street for about 2 months, so we went out and talked to the crew.  One guy said to go talk to a particular flag crew member female(call her Sara).  We were told by several crew members that Sara was a liar.  We spoke to Sara three separate occasions and her story changed every time.  It culminated with a different woman telling us Sara put the dog in her car.  We asked Sara and she said no she didn't.
We called the police, but by the time they got to our house, the crew was gone, and we didn't have a name.  With the value of a French Bulldog, this puts it at felony level. They say they will do what they can, but you know, its a stolen dog.
Monday comes around, Sara doesn't come back with the crew.  I find out she is actually a day laborer, so she doesn't have to go anywhere, or even work if she doesn't want.  I start asking around.  I get a name, and a phone number for Sara.  Meanwhile all the actually employees of the construction company are telling me she took the dog.  I find Sara on Facebook, and I find an address online. I sit by her house a few evenings, Tuesday and Wednesday.  I never saw the dog or her.  Wednesday I saw a car slow down as it went past me as I was parked on her street.
Yesterday, my wife's phone starts blowing up at work.  She can't really talk on it at work but she can text, so she spoke to the person briefly.  The woman on the other end says she is homeless and has the dog, my wife tells her to switch to texting, and they do.  Whew this is getting long.  The woman tells her she's homeless and she would love the reward.  My wife sets up a time to meet.  My wife gets $100 in cash and $50 in food gift cards.  They meet, my wife gets our dog, and gives her the cash and cards.  I was super suspicious, so I hung back from the meet up and followed the girl as she left on foot.  I see her get into the car I saw the previous day slow to a crawl as it passed me on my stake out.  They pull over to get gas and I see Sara get out of the car to pump.  I have pictures of Sara, the "homeless girl" and the car.
The police are now saying, well you have the dog back right? Yeeeesss but I paid the thief to get her back!  If the police don't move forward with an investigation, are there any real options for me getting my money back.  What I really want is her punished, but I'd settle for my money back.  Thanks for making it to the end of the wall of text.

Answer:
 You have your dog back. It cost you $150. Be more careful with closing the door. it's not worth your time to pursue these people in small claims court. Plus, they know where you live.Answer #2: You can't force the state to prosecute someone for theft. And if you try to sue them, they just won't show up for court, and you'll get a default judgment that you'll never be able to collect.Answer #3: Let the construction company know what Sara did and ask what temp agency they hired her through.  Then, call that agency to report her actions.  That way, she'll be blocked from getting hired again by at least two companies.  Answer #4: You can tell the police you want to file a report. It won't go anywhere, but you will have a record for the future. You can also sue them in small claims court, if you think it's worth the trouble.

More practical advice though, bump up your security. Better locks, fences, get some security cameras in case they try to pull this shit again.


Title: I've witnessed cooking oil spills that wasted $250,000 of product. I've watched coworkers breaking a dish. What law if any exist, could make a $16/hr worker responsible for a spill, or a tipped waitress responsible for a dish?

Question: Ohio USA

Answer: $250k of product? What are you cooking in this restaurant where one cooking oil spill can ruin a quarter million dollars of product? Seriously, if you have buckets of Sturgeon caviar that close to the fryer where you deep dry baby seal eyes in gold dust, you need serious insurance.


Title: (Pennsylvania) Fourth Amendment Right to Forbid Municipal "Inspector" from Entering Rental Unit?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: no, there is no fourth amendment right against this. this is a reasonable investigation of the unit, authorized by municipal code, in order for public safety and interest, yadda yada yada, and thus probably legit. now, if LL has nothing about inspections in the lease, the analysis could change, since this technically is aimed at the LL.


Title: Drunk friend was called an ambulance, I was also taken against my will.

Question: About a month ago at a party in Connecticut one of my friends was throwing up and was almost completely unresponsive. We were both 16 at the time and I was quite drunk, but still very functional and was taking care of him. My friends (who's house we were at) 19 year old brother was the one who made the decision to call 911 after he slumped over in the toilet and would not respond. Just after the 911 call I quickly began to feel sick. I go by myself to the basement bathroom and throw up. Just a few minutes later I felt completely fine and began to clean up the mess I made. As I am cleaning up I hear the police show up. A few minutes later an officer finds me and reports it to the other responders in the house. I tell them I'm fine and don't want to go to the hospital, but they make me go into the ambulance. I did not resist at all but made it clear I was fine and did not want to go. My friend was taken out on a stretcher however I was able to walk myself out of the house. In the ambulance I was able to answer every question and gave the EMTs basic information about my friend. Once we arrive at the hospital I am separated from my friend and put in a room and answer more questions from nurses. Shortly after I arrive my parents show up and after briefly talking with them and the nurses was able to be discharged. Just before leaving I was given an anti nausea pill which made me almost instantly throw up. I am just now writing this post because of a $2500 bill I received for my 45 minute stay and anti nausea pill. That also does not include the cost of the ambulance which will likely be around $700 according to the EMT. My question is do I really have to pay $3200 to be taken to the hospital against my will with no services besides the one pill I took?

Answer:
 You were underage, supervises by other underage drinkers, and intoxicated to the point of puking. The medics took you because you were in a vulnerable and dangerous position.

Your parents are liable for the bill.


Title: Can I get fired for expressing my first amendment right in a civilized manner? WV

Question:
I work for a local government and i was talking casually with someone about a new position that the city manager hired making 90k. I have yet to see the purpose of her position because the city manager already has 2 other assistants. Someone overheard me and allegedly went and told the woman I was speaking of, she is friends with the city manager. Can I get fired?

Edit: Don't understand why I'm getting down votes because I asked a question, but thanks for all the input guys. I've just come to the conclusion that I just need to keep my mouth shut at work.

Answer: Yes.  The 1st Amendment doesn't mean you can say anything you want, to whoever you want, whenever you want.  Working for the government means you're afforded more protections than employees in the private sector, but nothing in your post appears to be any sort of protected speech.


Title: (Canada) ticket in parking lot

Question: I received a ticket for rolling a stop in a Rona parking lot. While he was issuing me the ticket I have 4 or 5 cars on video doing the same thing. And I also pointed out several others while I was talking to him about it after. Do I have a chance and getting rid of this with the above facts? I have a clean driving record and the fact dozens did the same thing right before me pissed me off.

Answer:
 >And I also pointed out several others while I was talking to him about it after. Do I have a chance and getting rid of this with the above facts? I have a clean driving record and the fact dozens did the same thing right before me pissed me off.

Ever gone fishing? Ever catch *all* the fish?


Title: [MI] Tenant in my apartment is under 18 and unruly do I have to provide her with a 30 day move out notice.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: She is a tenant, so she has to be treated like one. This means notice to vacate followed by an eviction if she refuses.


Title: Wife wants to help someone get on their feet

Question:
Hey LegalAdvice,

My wife has met someone who has fallen on tough times. It seems to be caused by a toxic family mostly. She wants to help her out by giving her a temporary place to crash while we assist in getting her a job and apartment. Our main condition is that she can't have contact with her family while here. Both as a method to break her from the toxicity, but also to protect us. I've spoken with her and she seems genuine enough, but I remain skeptical. Not out of suspicion, but out of cautiousness.

What could go wrong legally with this?
How can I prevent it?

Thanks!

Edit: Looks like we're passing on letting someone stay with us. Luckily, some friends talked her out of it. That makes things a lot simpler. May help her out still, but not by housing her. Thanks all!

Answer: This board is littered with stories of exactly how this goes wrong.   Also, within a few weeks you will probably find out why this person has been kicked out of where they were living.


Title: Who is responsible for the vet bill.

Question:
My cat was injured by a dog on our property. My son who witnessed the dog with my cat in it's mouth. The cat was covered in slobber and her breathing was labored. We have tried local vets in our town but it was after hours and the vets here will not come in for non clients.
So we had to drive to the city for an emergency vet. The total bill came to 641.00. The day after we went to the house of the person who retrieved the dog, they have refused to pay. The reasons they gave are as follows: 1. the dog got out on accident it was accident. 2. They claim limited income, both teachers they don't get paid during the summer. 3. It is not their dog, they were taking care of the dog while the owners were on vacation.
The cat was accessed with oxygen build up around the lungs and bruised muscles. She has a slight limp.
We have not heard from the owners or the the people that had the dog.
We live in Texas.

Answer:
 If you haven't already, you need to pay the bill before the vet sends you to collections. They did save your cats life after all. But you can sue the owners of the dog in small claims court and let the Judge decide. Answer #2: Most likely the people who were watching the dog and let it escape will be liable.

If you have to sue them, you can always sue both the babysitters and the owner jointly and let the owner sort out who should pay what. Answer #3: 1. They're still responsible.  Accidents happen.  Accidents don't mean a waiver of liability.

2. Doesn't matter.  They shouldn't be acting carelessly if they cannot afford the financial liability that comes with carelessness.

3. In many jurisdictions, there is some form of "implied ownership" when people choose to care for an animal.  You can't just feed strays, keep them on your property, walk with them, then the minute things go south turn around any say, "Not my dog!"  If you feed it, house it (inside or outside), and treat it like your dog, in the eyes of the law, that dog is your responsibility and liability.  In other words, most times, if it looks like it's your dog, then it's your dog, so don't act in ways that look like you own the dog if you don't want to take responsibility for the dog.

Sue 'em for the vet bills, then call animal control each and every time you witness the dog off-leash and off their property.  They'll get the hint sooner or later.


Title: I can't get a divorce?

Question: I have been married to my wife for 3 years. I filed for divorce last March, and it had yet to be finalized. I had been trying to work on my anger problems to save the marriage for many months but she showed no effort in trying to stop her drug use. So I got a second job, rented a condo down the street and told her I was divorcing her. But here is what I'm having a problem with.. We still have sex, maybe like 4 times a week. I knew she wanted to fix our relationship, and secretly I still do love her but it was too close to our divorce finalization so there's no turning back . But on the date we appeared in court, she told the judge that we were still having sex, we spend more than 30+ hours together a week , and that she has not been sexually active with anyone else but me during our separation. The judge then assigned us counseling and dismissed our divorce case!! Does this mean I can never divorce her? What do I do?

Answer:
 Dude if you divorce her, then you have to be totally separate. The judge felt you wasted his time (You did). you guys are acting like you want to be a couple. Take this over to /r/relationshipsAnswer #2: No. It just means that if you want a divorce you should act like it.Answer #3: > Does this mean I can never divorce her?

No, it just means that you have to go to counseling first.  If that fails, the judge will grant the divorce.

It's fairly obvious to you, her, us, and the judge, that you still have feelings for each other, so this marriage may still work out.Answer #4: this is for Dr Phil to answer, not the Courts

you guys want a divorce and yet have sex 4 times a week?Answer #5: What is the point in divorcing her with the setting you gave us?

You can still be married and be in a relationship together living separately.


Title: Should I or can I, if I were professional and did everything in good taste, write to a judge/commissioner regarding her decision on my family case because I totally disagreed with the grounds for her decision?

Question: Long story short, basically what the title says.  Judge reverted custody of my oldest son back to his mother.  Son, who is autistic, ends up getting pulled out of current school and moved to another one a month into the current semester.  Judge states it was in the best interest of the child to do so based on the trial, and an interview with my son.

Answer: You should not.  The place for those discussions is in court.  If you have legitimate arguments, file motions or appeals as appropriate.  Otherwise, stay silent.  No good will come out of lecturing the judge, and significant harm could come.


Title: Laws regarding therapy and service dogs in Ontario, Canada

Question: [deleted]

Answer: In order for it to be a service animal it needs to be trained to perform a specific task relating to your disability. It does not need a vest, but websites selling you those vests at a high cost is not illegal. It would be illegal for you to put the vest on your non-service animal and pretend it was a service animal.


Title: Can an 18 year old legally move out of the country by themselves.

Question: This is a question for educational purposes. Just curious if I’m an 18 year old living with my parents in New York(USA) can I legally move to a different country without telling anyone

Answer: Assuming the county will give you an immigrant visa, yes.Answer #2: You’re a legal adult in the US and the which ever country you’re planning on emigrating to as long as you have a job and proper visas and authorizations from the country’s migration bureau


Title: Child Custody: Mom Living In Car

Question: State of Oregon. My daughter is seven years old and I am paying child support after a recent court hearing concerning missed payments. She lives with her mother and most often lives with either my parents or hers; she was recently able to rent independently for six months. When her lease was up, my separated wife decided that she and our daughter were going to live in our car and keep it a secret. My daughter told my mother that they were living in a car in November and that not all her needs were being met in that environment; they are both now living with my parents again. I confronted my wife and told her that she can live in her car but I have a private indoor room entirely designated to her weekly visits and that our daughter will be staying there until my wife could again procure appropriate housing. She sent me a text later that night defending her parenting choices and claiming that she had already lived in her car multiple times with our child in a different state, without my knowing._____I am going to speak with an attorney tomorrow for legal advice. Please tell me if there are any questions I should be asking the attorney or what other resources may be available to help my daughter be in a safe/stable environment.

Answer: Just get the emergency motion filed asap and save those texts.


Title: My country says I must attend army training for 9 months, otherwise I get a fine or jail time, what can I do about it?

Question: Hi guys, so I live in Lithuania, and our government last year made a law that every guy from 18 to 27 has to attend army training for 9 months. We get selected randomly. Every year there will be list with somewhere 2k people that will have to quit their jobs, leave their families or what ever they are doing in their life and go to live somewhere in army camp and get training for using guns and other physical exercise. We wouldn't be going to the field and shooting people, it's just to prepare us so in case we need we are better prepared to defend our country. Any way, I am university student myself, so they won't call me to go there until I have finished my studies, but my friends and many other people might get chosen and they will be enforced to leave their jobs and families and needless to say they are really angry with this new law. If you refuse you have to pay huge fine or you will get jail time and we think this is violates our human right to freedom. What is the best way to escape from this? We don't want to leave our country, we want to stay. Thanks for any help.

Answer:
 Many, many countries have a conscription laws. The UN does not intervene in your countries internal decisions, even if this was a violation of human rights (hint: it's not). If you have some moral objection to service, it's possible your country has an alternate service path for conscientious objectors; such as serving as a medic. But otherwise you must follow the laws of your country. If it is as unpopular as you say it should be easy to get the law changed. Answer #2: > and we think this is violates our human right to freedom.

Which it doesn't.

>What is the best way to escape from this?

Getting lucky and not getting drafted is the only option you have since you illimated all the other options by mentioning that you don't want to leave your country for good once you get drafted.


Title: [IL, Cook County] Parking ticket from the future.

Question:
Earlier this week I received a parking ticket for parking between 2AM and 6AM, but the violation date on the ticket reads 12-13-12. Under where it states "The undersigned certifies that the statement set forth in this instrument is true and correct." is the officer's signiture and again the date 12-13-12.

Now when I look up the ticket on the online payment service the date is correctly 11-13-12. I'm guessing when the officer finalized the ticket  they realized their mistake.

Is this something that could be challenged based on a technicality or should I just pay the fine and be done with it?

Answer:
 Courts, generally speaking, do not throw out matters based solely on clerical mistakes.  Especially when the officer, of his own accord, notes the technical mistake and corrects it.

In short, I don't think you'd have much traction.  This is doubly so in Cook County; while I've successfully challenged tickets here, it's difficult and they usually don't truck with crap arguments.


Title: Louisiana - My daughter plans to abort her child. Seeking legal alternatives to halt this decision.

Question:
In Lake Charles, LA.

My daughter is currently pregnant with her second child. Unfortunately, and unlike the first, genetic screening showed this child has a strong chance of down syndrome (trisomy 21). It has now also been determined that the baby's arms will not fully grow either. After a healthy first pregnancy my daughter and my son-in-law are very upset.

At first they started looking for outside help (nanny/caretaker/etc) for their future child but then suddenly decided they were going to terminate the pregnancy instead.

My ex, her mother, is funding the termination and taking her out of state to do it in a facility that she deems safe. After speaking to my current wife we decided to put the following on the table for my daughter to consider:

If she carries the baby to term (because my wife and I consider abortion to be wrong/murderous) we will adopt the baby and care for the baby. My daughter declined saying that since we are older if we pass then it will be a burden on the family to care for the baby/child afterwards and she does not want that burden to fall to her or her existing daughter.

Now I'm wondering, could we possibly sue for her to keep the baby and transfer rights or custody to us? Since she's leaving the state to do it could we sue or petition that she stay here and pay a fee or amount of money to her to surrogate the child so that we could adopt it formally?

If not, fine. We'll just resent her for taking this child away from us. But I just want to see what options are open to us to stop this in it's tracks so that we don't lose a child. Thank you for any advice.

And I know that reddit is a progressive site and there won't be a lot of pro-lifers here... but please be understanding that while I can in a sense see why she would want to terminate, there are people who would love that baby to pieces and care for it if she doesn't want to. So try and not be mean to me for asking. I don't want to lose a grandchild.

Answer:
 She's an adult, it's her body, her child.  Nothing you can do, best accept that, abortion is legal.Answer #2: No, you have no right to any control over her pregnancy. She's free to terminate her pregnancy.

If you need something to do to amuse yourself, there's a really great steakhouse in the Golden Nugget. Go have some sirloin.Answer #3: >  I know that reddit is a progressive site

I find that rather insulting. This is a subreddit where you are asking for legal advice. Pro life or pro choice,  all attorneys are going to give you plain, black law legal advice. In this case, assuming your daughter is an adult, the advice, based on the law of the nation, is that the grandfather has no say. Whether we sympathize with you or tell you are nuts is moot; the law is the law.

You have no say in this matter. How you accept that and move forward is up to you. Sorry, seriously. While I am generally pro-choice, I know in my heart I could never deal with an abortion, outside of health reasons.Answer #4: Schools out, Trolls out.Answer #5: >Now I'm wondering, could we possibly sue for her to keep the baby and transfer rights or custody to us? Since she's leaving the state to do it could we sue or petition that she stay here and pay a fee or amount of money to her to surrogate the child so that we could adopt it formally?

No court is going to issue an injunction to prevent your daughter from having an abortion so you can take the child.