Title: Separated but not yet divorced SO wants to have an affadavit signed so her kids can go to a specific school. [SC]

Question:
Details:

I am her concerned boyfriend.

SO's been separated from her husband for over 2 years. They had a very toxic relationship, though they seem to be doing ok as unattached friends.

Us dating and living together in SC is already dodgy as is, but there is openly public information showing her ex as having an active dating life as well. Not so worried about that detail though things could get messy real quick in this state, or so that is my understanding.

She has not yet divorced because on and off over the past couple years things have been rough, and she works as an exotic dancer to support her children, which causes further anxiety in her of how a divorce may not work out in her favor, even though the ex only works part time, lives with his parents, and has in general contributed very little toward their well being.

Now the new school year is coming up. One of her children needs to be in a special program, and the school that she wants them to go to is under the father's parents school district. We have been trying to move into this district, but it has proven to be beyond our reach thus far. The school district that we live in currently has generally terrible schools, especially the one that the kids would go to by default.

So her solution, one that was suggested by a faculty member at the school she wants them to go to, is to have the ex's parents sign an affadavit that they live there and receive care there the majority of the time. This is incredibly untrue, as currently they only spend every other weekend there by verbal agreement.

I'm not only concerned about having multiple people lie on a legal document, but I am also incredibly concerned that such a document could be used against her once she finally gives in and seeks divorce, not only in regards to custody but also over child support - which we desperately need him to be paying because our income is spread incredibly thin.

Am I going nuts here or would thus affadavit cause a lot more harm than good?

Thanks in advance for reading!

Answer:
 You are not nuts and that could be used against her in court, let alone get the kids kicked out of that school. Answer #2: I'm a teacher and my state has geographic exceptions. Parents apply for GE to send their child to a school outside of their district. I looked up SC education laws to see if they had anything similar and in Section 59-63-490, it appears that with consent of the school boards she could send her child to the better school. She would have to prove how the new school is much better suited for him. Its probably not easy or done very often, but a better solution than lying on a legal document.

Source: http://www.scstatehouse.gov/code/t59c063.phpAnswer #3: This is fraud, and it's a crime. She and her parents could get sued for back tuition for all the time those kids were in those schools, and they could even be criminally prosecuted.

Yes, this could be used in court to show that she's perfectly willing to lie and commit fraud on legal documents. Then when her husband says she's lying about something, he can point to this fraudulent affidavit and say, "See? She's a liar and she's lying again." All she can say is "OK, I lied about where my kids live(!), but I'd never lie about this other thing!" See how bad that sounds?


Title: [Wellington, New Zealand] Ex-girlfriend's family refusing to let me get my stuff back

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Try local police non emergency and let them know the situation. They may escorted you to get your stuff back. However, I am located in Canada and this may be different in New Zealand.


Title: I received a Demand Letter from a person I crashed into last month

Question:
I am in Las Vegas, NV.
I crashed into a car last month, I was at fault but things seemed to be going well. The guy driving said it wasn't a problem and asked if I was okay. We exchanged insurance info and he filed a claim for the damages to the car, his mother's. My insurance paid and everything has been covered so far. Today, however, I received a demand letter (auto-generated from [here](http://www.courts.ca.gov/11145.htm)) from this woman, the driver's mother, saying I must pay her $10,000 within ten days or she will sue me in Small Claims Court. No reasons were given. My insurance adjustor said she couldn't give me any legal advice but asked for a copy of the letter. I contacted a lawyer and he said not to worry about it, since she probably had to sign a release when my insurance paid for things.  Yet I'm worried, she can still file a lawsuit against me, and what am I supposed to do then?

Answer:
 This is why you pay for auto insurance.

Give them the letter, let them take care of it.


Title: Hit by driver with no license while he was driving a company truck, what to do?

Question:
I want to start by saying i'm not very articulate so bear with me.
Yesterday while driving home from the beach, I was involved in an accident where the other person involved was turning left on a green light but did not yield to me as I was going straight across from the opposing direction. The driver was alone driving a large Dodge Ram 3500 dually company car (landscaping) and I was alone driving a Chevrolet Cobalt coupe needless to say my car is now totaled. Although there were many witnesses only one man stopped gave me his number and went on his way. Fortunately it was pretty clear cut and the officer that arrived on scene saw that the other driver was at fault. I did give the officer the witness number as well. I did not request an ambulance but i made it noted in the report that I had shoulder pain in both shoulders and went to the ER immediately after to get checked. My right shoulder will need surgery and my left is yet to be determined. The driver did try to deny fault but was quickly deemed a liar when his claim he had a green arrow was proven false by the fact the stoplight never has a green arrow.. Luckily his company has insurance on the vehicle that will cover my totaled car, but my main concern is if i have to have surgery I will not be able to work, as I work with my hands (deckhand on private boat). I also feel as if the company could be considered negligent as they should know whether their employee is a licensed driver before he has a company vehicle.

Tl;dr
unlicensed driver crashed into me while driving his company vehicle, totaling my car breaking a $600 surfboard and damaging my shoulder. Does the company have any liability could this be considered negligent on their part?

The state was Florida thanks for taking your time to read & answer.

Answer: The insurance that is covering your car will also cover everything else.


Title: Want to know if my lawyer committed malpractice

Question:
I'm in Washington state.  I will try to make this short, and if anyone answers, I can add more details.

In December of 2013 we found out our landlord was renting to us illegally (our house was zoned as a guest house and wasn't supposed to have long term tenants or a kitchen).  We found out because our landlord owned the whole cul de sac and one of the neighbors turned him in for numerous code violations.

We allowed code enforcement into our house (landlord really was a slumlord and we were tired of him screwing people over) and landlord was sent a letter, and given notes by code enforcement that we allowed them to enter. He then illegally terminated our tenancy in retaliation (claiming he had to switch from septic to county sewer and it would take so long we would have to move...what he didn't know was we knew we shared the septic system with our neighbors and they were not given a notice because they didn't cooperate with code enforcement)

So we retained a lawyer because the law here is if someone knowingly rents to you illegally, they owe you 6 months rent plus your deposit and we wanted to sue for that.

I should have known in the beginning we picked a terrible lawyer, because his advice to us was to continue living in the house until he brought an eviction suit against us and then we would go to court with a show cause order and affirmative defense.

We ended up moving in February of 2013 and never heard from the landlord again.  We continued to try to pursue the case, but it was delayed because my husband lost his job and we had to wait until March of 2014 to pay him the $1800 he said he needed to move forward.

Once we paid him, there was no movement on the case.  He kept saying that he was just waiting for a call back from the neighbor who alerted code enforcement to get a declaration from him.  Well, I finally got smart and called said neighbor who told me the lawyer had not contacted him once.  Confronted with this information, our lawyer admitted to lying and said he wasn't going to charge us any other fees moving forward.

Rather than converting to a civil court matter, he wanted to go through with the original plan and file a show cause order, which kept us as defendants against the original suit filed to evict us.  We did not have a court date for this until the end of October.

The judge threw the case out in a matter of minutes, and ordered our lawyer/us to pay over $3000 in attorney fees to the other attorney, because he should have converted the case to a civil matter. Now he wants money from us to pay the other attorney when it was his negligence in the matter I believe.  Not to mention that he lied to us, and I believe the advice he gave to just wait until we were legally evicted and then defend ourselves rather than bringing a affirmative suit against our landlord was possibly negligent advice.

tl:dr...I believe our lawyer gave possibly negligent advice on how to pursue suing our landlord (he wanted us to wait for him to evict us through the courts and file a show cause motion with an affirmative defense), he lied to us about not being able to contact our previous neighbor to get a declaration from him, stalling our a couple of months...case was thrown out after our lawyer didn't convert to a civil motion and instead kept us as defendants in the original case for eviction filed by our landlord...and now he wants us to pay I don't know how much of the $3000 in legal fees the other attorney was awarded by the court for wasting his time with a frivolous suit basically

Answer:
 Point of clarification...you didn't have to pay the other side's attorney's fees 3k because your lawyer didn't move the case to regular civil court. That's not a "thing."

You paid in the first case because you lost. That would have happened regardless. If you filed a claim against the LL in regular civil court that wouldn't have terminated the original action pending against you.

Your lawyer made a strategic decision that didn't pan out. It happens.


Title: Portland OR, Car was stolen, abandoned and ticketed, now city wants me to pay for the tow and the tickets.

Question: Sorry for the poor formatting and spelling I'm on mobile. Car was stolen from my work place parking lot, I reported it the same day. A week later it was ticketed twice by two different cops but I was not notified. It was then towed by a private tow company the city now wants me to pay for the tow and tickets. The officer I made my original report to said I should have been notified before either ticket was issued but I wasn't. Is there any way to get the tickets dismissed?

Answer: You can dispute the tickets. The private tow yard isn't giving you back your car until they are paid.


Title: Can my employer require me to attend Mass during work hours? [LA]

Question:
I work at a 501c(3) private religious school as a staff member. I am agnostic but not openly. My immediate supervisor, the head of my department, is understanding and supportive. The principal (who is my supervisor’s boss) is not aware, but I have a feeling she suspects that I’m not religious.

Recently the school administration required all faculty and staff to attend a Catholic mass for faculty/staff orientation. It was specified in writing that all faculty and staff were required to attend.

As a staff member, I don’t have a contract that specifies anything about my faith, though I believe faculty contracts do include something about religion and how they are supposed to reflect it as part of the school’s mission.

This situation is rubbing me the wrong way, but I could be off base. Thanks for your advice!

Answer: Nobody says that you have to believe in the service. If you're being paid for it, it's totally legal and you can be fired for not attending.


Title: [Boston] If I impregnated a woman, do I have any legal duty over the baby and her?

Question: Does it work the same way in other European countries?

Answer:
 You will have the duty to pay child support.

I don't understand your question about "other European countries."


Title: [FL] Former Employer is upset that I wiped my computer before giving it back

Question:
To be 100% clear, I was asked to return it after I was done and was given no instructions or to retain any files.  I reformatted it back to factory settings to remove my personal files and information.  It wasn't a company computer they gave me from their IT, it was just a computer they ordered and had shipped to me.

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1 month has gone by, and they are now emailing me saying how expensive its going to be to recover all the files I deleted.  Truth be told I didn't really have any company files on the computer as all of our systems and email are web-based.

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Do I have a responsibility to keep corresponding with them?

Answer:
 Your former employer is correct. You vastly exceeded your authority by destroying a bunch of company documents when you left the company. You were supposed to return those, and may be civilly liable if that decision results in losses.

You do not have a responsibility to keep corresponding with them, and in your shoes I generally wouldn't. However, be on the lookout for a visit from a process server. If you are, in fact, sued, get an attorney and hope you can settle.


Title: need advice adopting grandkids

Question: We have custody of 2 grandkids. #1 is 14 years old we have had her since birth, she never spent a night with parents. #2 is 9 years old, he spent a year with parents. Same mother (our daughter) 2 different fathers. Have not seen or heard from either father in over 7 years. Full custody  to us (grandparents) with supervised visitation only to parents at our discretion for both kids. We have never denied visitation. Daughter comes once a year for about 24 hours, no contact has been attempted by fathers.  #2 is autistic and #1 has anxiety issues related to abandonment issues and is in counseling. Mother will sign over all rights.  We want to assure that if something happens to us that the kids will be cared for appropriately and the fathers/mother cannot step in and gain control. None of them are capable of taking care of these kids in a manner that is conducive to the kids continued growth and development.   At this point we consider the kids our kids and they consider us their parents. We want to make this legal with adoption. We cannot afford expensive lawyers and have been told we petition the court on our own.  I have searched the internet and there is so much conflicting advice but no direct 'you need to do this'  to succeed. We need to know what paperwork to fill out and how to proceed. We live in VA in a small town and appreciate any advice anyone can give us. Thanks for your help

Answer:
 You need a family law lawyer. The state bar association can provide recommendations for lawyers in your area.

Keep in mind that starting this process will require the fathers be notified, and one, or both, could decide they now want to be more involved.Answer #2: I'm not a lawyer. I'm a grandparent who adopted our grandchild last year.

Your story is very similar to my own experience. You need a family law lawyer for this, no if's or but's. Find one that is willing to take payments, borrow the money, whatever you have to do, is what it takes to do it.

It wasn't terribly expensive for us due to the biological mother and father not contesting our adoption. You might be surprised by the (relatively) low cost. I'm sure lawyer fees vary from place to place and lawyer to lawyer, so shop around. Ours was $1200, with just one court visit.

Best of luck to you. You're stepping up to do the right thing for these kids and you deserve being honored for that. If you have any questions I can help answer, just ask.

Edit: Best wishes.Answer #3: I’m not a lawyer but I am in the process of adopting my niece.  Research and talk to multiple lawyers.  We got estimates from $1200 to $10,000 when interviewing lawyers.  You may be able to get some aid or legal assistance.  In our state there is an adoption credit that can help reimburse costs.

In my state, there has to be an attempt to contact the father but if they don’t respond, the judge can sign off on the adoption if they think it’s in the best interest of the child.


Title: Bought a 2014 car, engine blows 1 month later [NC, USA]

Question:
Trying not to freak out or jump the gun on anything, but I figure I can get some advice as to how to handle this situation as it unfolds.
I bought my wife a 2014 Kia Sorento less than a month ago from a dealership. Two and a half hours from home, engine starts to seize up, oil light comes on. I pull over and have it towed to the nearest Kia dealer. I purchased an extended warranty through the dealer. Also, with a 2nd owner 60k miles is the manufacturers powertrain warranty. I was at 59k miles, nice.
Kia service guy calls me and says that the car is burning oil which caused the problem. Nothing that I caused. He also informed me that particular Sorento had been into the shop with the first owner for that issue and due to a lack of their routine maintenance, Kia decided that it would not fix the vehicle. The first owner then trades it in, and I buy it. Kia says they won't replace the engine because they already deemed that it would not be fixed due to negligence (by the first owner, not me). So, Kia guy was very nice and helpful, he said, "let's look into the extended warranty." He did warn me that there is a 50% chance they will fix it, also a chance they will say that it's covered under the manufactuers warranty. It seems like I might be alright, minus the fight that may happen between Kia and 3rd party insurance. I don't see that NC has any lemon laws for this issue, I'm not sure. Kia guy seemed honest and was helpful and timely, but I want to ask the right questions and put my foot down when I have to.
Still waiting to hear back from the Kia service guy. Anything I should do? I am yet to contact the original dealer who sold it to me per the advice of the Kia dealer, which made me hesitate a bit but I have some time.
I'm trying to avoid the fight over who's responsible for the fix which may delay this entire situation.

Thank you for any advice.

Answer:
 This is what I'm seeing:

> For used cars less than five years old, the seller must disclose damage of more that 25 percent of the car’s fair market value to the buyer in writing.

> These disclosure requirements apply to anyone selling a car, including individual sellers and dealerships.

http://www.ncdoj.gov/Consumer/Automobiles/Disclosing-Car-Damage.aspx

They have a number on the page to get more advice.  But so far your experience sounds promising.


Title: (Southeastern Pennsylvania) With tomorrow's Baltimore Orioles baseball game scheduled to be played in an empty stadium, does the team owner now have grounds to seek damages from the city for lost revenue?

Question:
The basis to select the city as defendant is that the Baltimore City Police could not secure proper passage for Orioles fans to/from the stadium.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 Nope. Team did it on their own volition. They had other options, this is just a mere delayed/cancelled game due to circumstances outside of their control. Instead of protests, just pretend its raining really hard. Answer #2: Does the city have a duty to the Orioles to make sure that people can get to the stadium? What about every other business in the area that is losing revenue?

No, the owners would not have a claim against the city for this.


Title: can you legally defend yourself from a city building inspector in court ?

Question:
I have owned my home for 20+ years now and I have a hose coming out of the back of my house about 10 feet away for a sump pump in the basement.  It was installed like this from a plumber roughly 8 years ago.  I never had an issue for 8 years, about a month ago my neighbor who lives directly behind me complains to the city building inspector code compliance.  He is saying it is pumping water into his backyard onto his garden.  The hose is 40+ feet away from his garden, and I told my neighbor it just the ground is so sutured because of all the rain we got 6 months ago.  I moved the hose as much as possible pointing nowhere near his property, and the city inspector said looks good and cleared me.

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The neighbor came over the next week yelling and screaming at my wife saying we have to do something it still getting water on his garden.  My wife said we already moved it and the inspector said it was good.  Well he called the inspectors again, and this time when I spoke with them they recommended I bury the hose and pipe that comes out of the basement directly in the ground and across a different way.  I told them I have video showing all the flooding he is getting is from the water from the sky, and my sump pump was not even running when it was raining and his garden got flooded.  They said because my backyard is on a slight downhill elavation, the water will  still get to his yard even though it 40+ feet away.  I said that is not possible, it makes zero sense.  I also spoke to several different guys who do this kind of work and said it is ridiculous they are making me do this becuase there is no way that much water would even get close to his backyard.

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Long story short now the city building inspector want me to dig up the ground and bury it in a trench, I got a quotes of anything from $500 - $1500.

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My question is should I contact a lawyer and see if I can fight the city inspectors?  Will it cost me more in the long run if I try to go the legal route?  Can I even fight them in court?   I truly believe and have evidence that my hose is not causing the flooding, based on videos, and everyone I talked to and showed them. I have 30 days to comply or it says I get a $250 day fine per day thereafter and / or up to 1 year imprisonment in jail.  (i think this is absurd)

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Can I sue my neighbor for harassment?

Answer:
 OP- A lawyer may be more costly than the quotes you got to have the sump pump drain line buried.

Your best bet might be to appeal to the inspector's supervisor and have their requirement (burring the drain line) overturned or at least re-reviewed.Answer #2: 1. Yes, a legal battle over this is likely to be more expensive than the quotes to do the work. You'd hit $500 before you even got to the point of writing a letter to the city.
2. You don't have grounds for harassment unless you're leaving something out. Your neighbor alerted the zoning board/inspector's office about a violation which they cited you for. He was within his rights to do that, even if they found no violation. Depending on how frequently and in what manner he's been combative with you over the issue you might have a thin case, but I wouldn't expect to win anything as there are no real damages other than to your feelings.
3. My personal recommendation would be to consider an appeal of the notice of violation to the zoning board. Though in my jurisdiction this appeal process requires a $600 fee, and there's the possibility that you end up having to do the work anyways. So, maybe just bury the line and move on for the sake of your bottom line.


Title: Fees for services added during lease

Question:
My apartment added a valet trash service during my lease term without any consent and is now attempting to charge a $75 fee for leaving the bin out past 8am. I know there is literature for the service in new leases but I am grandfathered in under the old documents. I am not required to pay for the service till my renewal comes up. I have not signed any documentation acknowledging the service nor has any official communication been made via mail. Can this fee be charged?

Thanks!

Answer: Paying for the service and being fined for living the bins out too late are two different things. When you signed your lease were these fees disclosed?


Title: [Ontario] Room rental, "Landlord" changed the locks.

Question:
I started renting a room from a coworker starting in February, we began having issues because he wanted someone else to move in instead of me right after I moved in.

On April 9th he gave me an eviction notice of 60 days (June 9th) , per the terms of our written agreement.

The other day, Wednesday May 6th I discovered that he had hacked my computer. Installed a keylogger and set something up to take screenshots of everything I was doing and upload them to his private server. I had access to the server so I was able to see a couple weeks of these screenshots as well as text file that had data including my passwords and google searches and other stuff.

I immediately contacted my girlfriend and we started moving my stuff out of the apartment. I got most of my valuables/clothes/cat out of the apartment.

At 2:30am(Thurdsday) I get a text from him saying that I was now "persona non grata" and that he had changed the locks, and that I could arrange a time to get the rest of my stuff.

Fast forward through the weekend I am now sitting at work. He has left a new set of keys on my desk, and sent me a text saying that my stuff is in the storage locker and I can pick it up there. However I would like some proof that there isnt more of my stuff in the apartment.

Now, I had no paid rent yet for the month. It was the 6th. I was actually just sitting down to write him a check (our agreement says I have until the 8th to pay rent)

Two legal questions.

1. What are my rights regarding the "eviction" and him changing the locks on me? I believe I am considered a "licensee" since I share a kitchen and washroom with my landlord. He doesn't technically owe me any money. Can I still go after him for monetary settlement?

2. Regarding the hacking incident, I want to press criminal charges. The police were almost entirely useless regarding this, I filed a report and I am waiting to speak to someone in the appropriate group, but so far they are telling me he hasn't committed a crime.
I feel like at the bare minimum this is criminal mischief and invasion of privacy.

Thank you

Answer:
 If he has changed the locks on you without a court order, it's an illegal eviction. Call the police and have them come and explain the fact that he is illegally preventing you from accessing the room your lease gives you a right to.

He is likely liable to pay you for any hotel/moving fees resulting from this illegal eviction as well, but IANAL and that would involve small claims court most likely.

Edit: Please read the comment below mine, as my advice is apparently wrong for Ontario. Again, IANAL.


Title: In reference to a speeding ticket without a speed written on the ticket

Question:
So back in November I was pulled over by a local county sheriff. I handed him my license and told him the address was wrong on the license and that the new address was written on the back on a little while stick the DMV had given me. He said thank you and he walked back to his car. He came back with a speeding ticket in hand, he handed it to me and I was on my way. When I got to me destination I looked at the ticket and there wasn't a speed written on the ticket, it only said "speed not reasonable or prudent". I looked up what that meant and it said that the speed I was traveling wasn't safe for the road conditions, but all I was doing was decelerating down a hill, and it had rained maybe 5 hours before I was traveling down that road. I went to traffic court on the date I was supposed to and plead not guilty. So my question is, what can I say that will reduce the ticket or maybe have it thrown out of court? I don't understand how I can be given a speeding ticket when there isn't an actual speed written on the ticket, and can I also argue that the ticket that was written out has the wrong information on it? I told the officer the real address but he put my old one on it. What could I do?

Edit: Sorry forgot to include where I am, This happened in Albany county in New York State.

Answer:
 Wrong information on the ticket will have no affect on the ticket.  Especially if he put down the address that was on your license and you happened to move and not have your address changed yet.

Since you were cited for "too fast for the conditions," a speed doesn't have to be listed on the ticket.  There's really nothing you can argue other than that the conditions weren't that bad.  But then it comes down to officer's testimony (who is an expert in those types of things) versus your testimony.  Best bet would be to ask the prosecutor for a deal.


Title: Wrongfully accused and detained for shoplifting

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > I originally posted this in /Shoplifting, as I was unaware there was even a subreddit until I typed it in.

There shouldn't be, but that's another topic for another time.

What everyone is saying here is correct: while this must have been a terrible experience it sounds like everyone acted in good faith, believing you to be the thief since there was a doppelgänger thief. As such, and as there were no financial damages, there is no legal remedy.


Title: Underage dui arrest in connecticut, usa

Question:
So I am 20, and at the beginning of summer, I went to my buddy's house to hang out. I wasnt going to drink, but then he offered me a drink and I thought why not? I'm going to be here for a bit. I have one drink, we watch netflix for an hour and a half or so, and then I went home. I it's late, like 2am, and I roll through a stop sign. A cop parked down the street sees me and pulls me over. He asked if I've been drinking, and instinctively I say no because I felt fine to drive. He then responded saying he can smell liqour and asked me again. I said well I did have drink. He asks me to step out, and I do the sobriety test, and then the nystagmus eye test. 2 years ago, I got busted for having a bowl on me so I have that on my arrest record. He then puts me in cuffs and then searches my car for any illegal drugs (there weren't any). He then brings me into the station and I do the breathalyzer and I pass it (I'm pretty sure it was .00). I then do a urine test and my results came back, I had .01 Blood alcohol level, and no drugs detected. He then later told me he brought me in because I failed the nystagmus test, which actually happens to a lot of people sober, and tells me to get my eyes tested. My car also gets towed, and he drives me home. I feel a little taken advantage of, I already lawyered up and my court date is in a week from today. My dad is in local politics, and can't stand the police in my town and really wants to sue them. Should I? It would be nice to get my $ 1700 (1500 lawyer fee and 200 car tow fee). But I'm not really sure
Topic:
DUI

Answer:
 > My dad is in local politics, and can't stand the police in my town and really wants to sue them.

For what?  As an underage driver, *any* alcohol in your system is illegal, by definition.  You can't sue them for arresting you for a crime you committed.Answer #2: > I feel a little taken advantage of

As well you should.  I mean, how dare cops arrest an underage person for consuming alcohol then getting behind a wheel.  Answer #3: > He then later told me he brought me in because I failed the nystagmus test, which actually happens to a lot of people sober

No it doesn't.Answer #4: You lied to a cop. You can't do that. And you're on video lying to a cop. That's a problem. And you admitted to underage drinking to a cop on video (and then online).  That definitely gives him probable cause for the search.

And the courts have upheld arrests and impounds for minor traffic violations.

Seems like he took you into custody for underage drinking and then cut you a break when they didn't have any evidence beyond your admission.

So, no. I don't think it's worth your time for a suit. Answer #5: IANAL but most (if not all states) have zero tolerance laws for minors. So any minor who blows above a 0.0 can be given a DUI/DWI. So yes, you broke the law.


Title: Need help, Reddit...very upset and angry. What are my options?

Question:
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Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: Somebody stole your stuff. You can go to the police. You don't need your mom's permission to report your stolen property.


Title: How to deal with my unsanitary apartement?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 First, check your lease - there is likely a provision that requires the common areas to be kept clean/safe/etc by the property manager. This could be a golden ticket, up to letting you safely quit your lease, but in the interim, it puts management on notice when you make another request.

Second, check your local/state laws - there may be sanitation codes or housing codes that directly pertain to this.

Third, if there is a community bulletin board or something of the like, shame the neighbor. Post a flyer, start leaving rolls of doggie bags outside their unit, place a bowl of clothespins at the entrance and 'warn' people that the hall stinks because of 6C or whatever. Sometimes social pressure can do what infinite threats of legal action cannot.


Title: Tenant problem. Please help.

Question:
So my wife and I decided to rent a room out to a close friend who was going through a rough breakup of 10 years and had no where to live.  She has a full time job, so we aren't worried about her not making payments or anything.
I ONLY agreed to this with the understanding that she wasn't going to be inviting guys over to spend the night. We are in our 30's and don't want another grown man sleeping in our home that we do not know, I'm sure you can understand.
But she just started dating this new guy about a month ago who she claims "isn't just another guy" (she was going through 2-3 different guys a week before him so I didn't believe her nor did I care).
My wife met the new boyfriend last night and it turns out he is a complete asshole. We are both Vegan and he apparently constantly poked fun at her at dinner. At one point he put a piece of chicken in her face and said "why can't you just eat meat like the rest of America?" (I really wish I was there when that happened... Although I have a feeling he wouldn't have done it if I were sitting there)
Anyways, now she is arguing with my wife when I'm not around saying "I pay rent here, so it's my home too and I can invite over whomever I want".

.. Uhh fuck that?

What should I say if/when that gets brought up again? She can't invite people into my house can she?

She says she doesn't plan on moving until the end of May, when her classes are done, but we want her gone ASAP. All we have done is helped her out and she no longer seems like she appreciates it.

Any advice on the best course of action to get her out of here? I read I need to give her a 30 day written notice since she pays rent monthly.
:
We live in Texas and a lease agreement was never signed.

Thanks

Answer: If you don't have a written lease, then you can't stop her.  Having overnight guests is generally one of your privileges as a tenant.  However, you can give her 30 days notice to end her month to month tenancy and then evict her if she refuses to play ball.


Title: Mortgage company screwed up my taxes and now wants $4000 dollars to fix their mistake

Question:
Hello, im a first time home buyer and have only owned my home about a year and a half. This is in houston texas. Not sure what other info you would need. The mortgage is on a house values at 157,999. It was a brand new home built after we purchased it. (new, not used)

When I moved in, I was paying about 1250 per month including my taxes and escrow. After about 6 months, the price randomly dropped to $1040 which is a pretty significant difference. We called them up immediately thinking something was wrong, but was assured that the tax rates had changed and everything was correct. Not only that, but we had paid too much and were sending us a check for 1600!

That was all great, except we went to pay our rent this month and found they were asking for $1850! Out of nowhere with no notice! We called them up and were told there was a mistake, and they were not charging us enough for taxes, so now we owe them 4000 dollars in back pay for all the months we were paying the lower mortgage.

The best they could do was to spread out the 4k over 24 months making our mortgage payments go from 1000 per month to almost 1600 per month, a 60% increase literally out of nowhere. Theres NO WAY I can afford 1600 per month for the next two years!

I guess my question is, does this sound correct? Is there anything we can do? We called when the rent originally lowered and they assured us everything was fine, can they be held liable because of that?

Should I contact a lawyer? Is this something I should consider trying to fight?

Answer:
 I am assuming the escrow was for your property taxes and the amount owed is more then they collected via your payments.  Ultimately you are responsible for the taxes and will have to pay them.

Also, you reference rent, but say you own your home and have a mortgage payment.  If you are truly renting, then your lease would set the monthly rent, but if you own, then you have a monthly payment.  Most mortgage payments with escrow adjust yearly to account for changes in tax and insurance rates from year to year.  Answer #2: A tip for everyone else , whether or not your mortgage company is paying your taxes you should be receiving a copy of them, if you don't get them call the county assessor.

When you got that check back , you should have doubled checked with the county.  The mortgage company making a clerical error does not absolve you from paying the property taxes.  2 years to catch up on escrow is actually abnormally long.  AS I understand were you are at is, $1400 ish is your current mortgage payment with taxes plus 160 ish going towards the shortfall for 24 months (so they lowered your payment instead of raising when it went from $1200 to $1,000. When they sent that check for $1,600 you actually owed them 1600.) That's a pretty stupid mistake for a lender to make , you can try to ask for longer to pay that shortfall but you do owe it.


Title: Slept in my ex’s bed and her kid was sleeping next to me. I’m terrified that she will go to the police and make me out to be a pedophile

Question:
Anonymous account for obvious reasons. Check my post history for the post in r/TIFU to get some more context on the situation.

Basically I was inebriated and tired at her house for a 4th of July party, so I went out to my car to sleep. (Her and her friends party everyday, get drunk as fuck, smoke weed, and never go to bed before 5 am.) Then my ex’s friends told me to come inside and sleep. Her kid was in her bed and I just wanted to sleep so I slept on top of the covers fully clothed and her friend made me out to be a pedophile in front of everybody at this party.

I tried explaining that I didn’t do anything and that I’m not like that all because THATS FUCKING DISGUSTING, but nobody would listen.

Next morning I come to find out she’s reporting me on all my social media accounts for inappropriate behavior (which I found out because a couple of them are now banned.)

I’m scared shitless right now that she will bring law enforcement into this situation and my life will be ruined for something I never did.

What recourses do I have? Is my legal case fucked?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: Cut all of those people out of your life. If the police contacts you, say "I will not speak without my lawyer".


Title: [Indiana] Purchased a car from "Buy here, pay here" place. Paid 10k for a 2000 Toyota, was told it was in great condition. Got it inspected first day off work, power steering pump apparently needs replaced. Do I have any recourse?

Question: [removed]

Answer: First off why did you pay $10k for a 2000 toyota.  I can't think of any 2000 toyota model that would be worth more than 5k even in excellent condition with low miles.  The dealer has no responsibility to repair the car if no warranty was included with it.  Lots like this usually buy cars from auction for very cheap and get them running however they can while trying to cover up any big problems and then flip them to people to with bad credit for much more than they're worth.


Title: A school bus hit me turning right in a left lane while I turned right in a right lane whose liable?

Question:
It was divided by concrete I was making my legal right turn (lane was clear) when a school bus made a right turn on what was a left turning lane damaging my car. He argued that he had the right away because he’s a bus and has to take wider turns I argued he needed to yield to me. What is the truth?

Location: Louisiana, United States.

Answer: Probably the school bus if they were making a superficially illegal right turn while you were making a legal turn. At any rate don't argue with the bus driver, just contact your insurance and let them handle it for you.Answer #2: Probably gonna need a shitty MS Paint diagram, if you can!


Title: Verizon fraud [US]

Question:
On July 22 my iphone6 would not take a charge. Panicked, I went to my local Verizon wireless store to have them give it a look. The rep took my phone in the back for about 5 minutes, came back and told me the lightning port had gone bad. Paraphrasing but he told me 'this happens fairly often with iPhones'. Options I was given was to file insurance claim, upgrade to 6s since I was eligible, or cancel my service. I didn't want to pay the deductible so I opted to upgrade to the 6s. I am currently paying monthly fees for the new phone.

Last weekend I was looking at the old iPhone6 and cleaned some lint out of the port and bada bing the phone charges and works just fine.

Took my receipt and both phones into the same store yesterday and spoke with the manager. Only option they gave me was to return the 6s and reactivate the old 6 and waive the restocking fee of the 6s. What I wanted was Verizon to waive future payments on the 6s I feel I was mislead into buying.   I don't want to downgrade back to a 6 now. They basically laughed at me and said they can't give me the 6s for free.

I left the store without agreeing to anything with the manager. I figure my only recourse now is to take up the issue in small claims court. Can anyone here provide insight- is it worth the battle? Is Verizon really at fault enough that their corporate office be willing to give me what I want? Or should I just take my lumps as sell the old 6 privately?

Edit: located in Virginia

Answer:
 >Only option they gave me was to return the 6s and reactivate the old 6 and waive the restocking fee of the 6s.

That's reasonable. They made a mistake, this solution puts you back where they found you. You're not entitled to any gain from this situation.

>What I wanted was Verizon to waive future payments on the 6s I feel I was mislead into buying.

*breathes in while making incredulous face*

>They basically laughed at me and said they can't give me the 6s for free.

Hm okay they beat me to it.
Answer #2: Expecting them to give you a free phone seems excessive. Answer #3: So, the rep may have been mistaken, and your 6 now works.

The courts are here to make you whole, not make you come out ahead. You don't get to have a free phone out of it.

It sounds like they're willing to take back the 6s and waive any restocking fees since there was an error made by the rep.

I don't see any way you can win a free phone out of this.


Title: Neighbor touched my son (NJ)

Question:
Throw away because... just because.

1st let me say, I'm a long time fan of this sub and really appreciate the help y'all provide.

Location: NJ

There is a deaf & mute man in my neighborhood, henceforth “Neighbor”. Neighbor lives maybe half a block away from us. I assume he also has some other special needs as he doesn’t drive (he rides a bike all over town) and clearly has no job (he’s around the neighborhood ALL the time). Neighbor has always come around when we’ve been out in the yard and played with our children (Son 5, Daughter 3). My in-laws have always been creeped out by him, but I tried to be open minded and reserve judgement.

I am currently enrolled in grad school and had class this evening. When I left, the kids were in the back yard playing with Neighbor while my wife was doing some gardening nearby. About an hour into class I received a txt from my wife, “We are done with Neighbor. Son just requested to come inside because Neighbor kept touching his private part and rubbing his belly.”

Needless to say, I am livid and questioning my faith in humanity.

We will be taking a trip to the police station tomorrow morning to file a report and possibly request a restraining order. I am not under the delusion that any form of prosecution will occur, but we know the police need to be notified.

My questions:

1) Is there anything I should prepare before we visit the station?

2) Would a restraining order be the right thing to pursue? We don’t need hundreds of feet of clearance, I just don’t want the guy on my property to attempting to contact anyone in our family ever again.

3) Is there anything else I should be doing?

Answer:
 1.  Don't prepare, particularly where your son is concerned.  They'll want to question him without any direct coaching or indirect influence from you.  All you should tell him is the police are there to help and he should tell the truth when they ask him questions

2.  A restraining order will probably be easy to get in these circumstances.  The police can help you with that.  Normally I'd say tell the guy first that he's not welcome anymore and call the police if he shows up again after that, but even if he doesn't understand what he did to your son it's inexcusable and the nuclear option is justified.

3.  Counseling for your son.  He may not be traumatized at all, but it would be to his benefit to be professionally evaluated and guided through coping now rather than waiting years to see if something manifests.


Title: Boss demoted me and hired someone else to do my job without telling me?

Question:
So I work in a restaurant. I responded to an ad on Craigslist for a sous chef, interviewed and was hired. I was told that I would be hired as the "lead line cook" and after I had worked there for a bit and figured out the kitchen I'd be promoted up to sous chef and given a salaried raise.
Now about a month ago I was in the kitchen and saw a note for the head chef that someone had called "about the sous chef position" which confused me and so I went on Craigslist and there was an ad that was only a few days old. I asked me head chef and essentially he told me they're opening up another restaurant and were hiring a new sous chef to become head chef at the new one when they open it. He sad "as for what that means for you and your raise, I have no idea."
Is this even legal? I was hired under the promise of more money and I pretty much only took the job for that.

Answer:
 Is opening another restaurant and hiring people for it legal?  Yes, yes it is.

Also, HOW THE HELL DO YOU MISS THE THREE PROMPTS TO PUT IN YOUR LOCATION!?


Title: Is it legal for my partner & employee to take something we made together & simply start a new LLC & cut me out?

Question:
Thanks for any advice in advanced,

Without disclosing too much this is the current situation.
Partner & myself open an LLC (50/50).
We get some office space under our companies name & begin developing our product. It takes the course of a few years with several employees being contracted in and out of the business.

Eventually a permanent developer is hired, no contract is created but the verbal understanding is that she will receive equity in the company. After working on the software with us (in our office) for a long period of time the developer & my partner decide to start another LLC (together), this leads me to believe they're going to leave with the source code & cut me out of the business I worked on for years.

Is it legal for my partner & employee to take something we made together & simply start a new company while cutting me out?

Other employees were on contract to contribute code to the software, they were paid under the corporation that I own 50% of.

Location: Ontario

Answer:
 Ontario, Canada

or

Ontario, California?Answer #2: you're employee has no duty but to not steal the actual code, they can take all the ideas and clients  because you have no contract saying otherwise. your partner can't, he has fiduciary duties to you and the company.

edit, shit, that was for america generally,  no idea for OntarioAnswer #3: You should probably find out from them what they're doing. Is this a completely different company or is it something similar or worse the same?

If it is something competing then you need to get a lawyer to represent the companys interests and try to get an injunction to stop them from stealing your source code.


Title: [Calif.] Am I opening myself up to legal risk by sending bills for my time in response to junk mail?

Question:
I have managed to purge most junk mail out of my life, but I am still bothered by the occasional credit card offer or irrelevant magazine subscription offer. It occurred to me a while back that in my view of reality, these are unsolicited business proposals from these companies and if rather than just discarding them, I instead reviewed their terms and conditions, I would be justified in returning the application with a short rejection letter and an appropriate bill for my time spent doing "document review". The way I see it, they must expect me to read through all their fine print before I make an informed decision, and it's only reasonable that I should be compensated.

Now I don't expect these companies to actually pay anything (bonus if they did though!) - it's  really just for my own dickish amusement. But I'm curious, would I be opening the door to any sort of legal retaliation by doing this? Please let me know if I'm being an idiot. Any suggestions of what area of law I should look into to research this would be great. Thanks!

Answer: You're just annoying a minimum-wage mailroom clerk who would rather be chilling at their desk because it's a slow day.Answer #2: I can't think of any legal issues, but they will probably laugh at you and maybe someone will post your letter on the internet.


Title: Could a pregnant woman auction off the right to decide if she has an abortion or not?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 This sounds like a poor sort of auction, since no pro-choice advocate has any interest in her decision.Answer #2: It sounds like it would be an unenforcable contract regardless, so maybe fraud?Answer #3: This post smacks of the intimation that pro-choice groups *want* to abort babies.

Pro-choice groups want the person who's most familiar with the situation to be able to make the decision as to whether or not it's the right time to bring a child into the world under their care.

That's it. Nothing more, nothing less.


Title: USA Breakchecking

Question:
What are the legal ramifications as far as break
checking goes?  What if one hits hits you if you breakchecked, what if he doesn't hit you but yet swerved and collides with another motor vehicle. What if he just slams/slides into the jersey wall? What if they fall off a cliff in the PCH? Sheesh driving is nuts and too many carry less cents than the common.

Answer: Don't do it.  It's just asking to be rear ended.  How is this even a question?


Title: [CA] Glassdoor subpoenaed for reviewer identities?

Question:
Hi all,

I recently wrote a review about my former employer on Glassdoor, talking about how awful they are (along with the many other negative reviews that were already there). Apparently, they subpoenaed Glassdoor to give them the identities of all the reviewers. Now, I doubt that Glassdoor will actually give it to them, but on the off chance they do, what can the company do? Can they sue me for writing that review? I'm just worried because I know that my old company loved to sue everyone and anyone that they could.

Thanks!

Answer: They could sue you, but they wouldn't win, assuming your review was truthful.Answer #2: Glassdoor will fight any such subpoena tooth and nail unless it's obviously defamation, candid reviews are their business model, without them their business dies. Answer #3: Ah, got it. My review was true and my opinion. It was pretty harsh, but they did a lot of terrible things.


Title: Class action lawsuit for Cricket Cell service was down across the country

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The real question is, "Do the terms of service with Cricket Wireless require arbitration and contain a class action waiver?"

[Yes they do](https://www.cricketwireless.com/terms):

> PLEASE READ THESE TERMS AND CONDITIONS CAREFULLY AND MAKE SURE THAT YOU UNDERSTAND EACH PROVISION AS THEY CONTAIN IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT THE SERVICES PROVIDED TO YOU.  THESE TERMS AND CONDITIONS REQUIRE THE USE OF ARBITRATION ON AN INDIVIDUAL BASIS TO RESOLVE DISPUTES, RATHER THAN JURY TRIALS OR CLASS ACTIONS. THESE TERMS AND CONDITIONS LIMIT OUR LIABILITY AND THE REMEDIES AVAILABLE TO YOU IN THE EVENT OF A DISPUTE.


Title: Employer will not let us leave the workplace, even wants us to eat and sleep on the job site until work is complete. [CA]

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I don't really understand what is going on here.  Are they locking you in?  What does "forbidden" mean?  What is "intensive work process" even meanAnswer #2: What is your job?

I mean, if you worked on an oil rig...Answer #3: You are salaried exempt...but are you properly classified? What are your job duties?


Title: Pokemons copyright

Question:
can i use some modified pokemon sprites for my game and monetize it ? The sprites are completely made by me , but they are really similar to the original ones just stylized.

edit- i'm from italy

Answer:
 The phrase you're looking for is "derivative work." In most jurisdictions, you may only _create_ a derivative work if you have permission from the copyright holder for the underlying work.

If you take a Pokemon sprite and add cat ears, that's a derivative work. You need to get permission from Game Freak/The Pokemon Company to use it in anything, regardless of whether you charge for it or not.


Title: Sibling changing diapers

Question:
So this may sound silly and may not be a legal issue but I’m very curious as to what our options are. My boyfriend has custody of his 8yo daughter. Her mom gets visitation and he agreed to a schedule change during the summer allowing her mother to have her a majority of the time.

Here are the issues. Mom has a 2yo son. She makes 8yo change his diapers when she doesn’t feel like doing it (sleeping in, lazy). We don’t feel it’s appropriate for her to be doing this in the first place as he’s a boy and she’s a girl, but the fact that she doesn’t have a choice in the matter makes it worse. She’s tried telling mom that we don’t feel it’s appropriate, after we had already talked to mom about it, but mom told her she doesn’t care and to do it anyways.

She also went and cut 8yos hair in a way that the 8yo hates. We have told her that if she doesn’t want her hair cut we won’t force her as it’s her hair,and her body. Daughter is worried that she will try to cut it again over the summer. If that happens idk what we’re going to do or how that will affect daughter psychology.

The first weekend of summer, mom was already calling us asking us to come get her. She’s now forcing 8yo to take naps (3-4 hr) which I worry will become problematic during the school year. I don’t want her to be falling asleep in class because of this.

I know that in her house, things are different. We have expressed our concerns and been met with nothing but hostility,lies, and walking away. I’m just wondering what options we have if any. I don’t want to see moms behavior cause if harm to daughter. TIA

Answer:
 This seems to be a difference in parenting styles, not a legal issue. There's nothing illegal about an older sibling changing a younger sibling's diapers and the mother has the authority to style her child's hair in whatever way she deems appropriate. If you're concerned that this is something that is actually impacting the child's psychology (not "she hates this" but "she's becoming withdrawn or having changes in behavior"), then you can take steps from there.
Answer #2: I don’t see any legal problem with the diaper changing. Quite frankly until recently it was probably pretty normal. The multi hour naps However are probably inconsistent with that phase of a child’s developmental cycle. You should call your pediatrician to find out if that’s inappropriate, and if so consider seeking to have the custody arrangements changed. Answer #3: There is no way on any planet that a court will forbid the child's mom from having her change her sibling's diaper.Answer #4: >I’m just wondering what options we have if any.

Based on what you said, I don't think that your boyfriend has any legal recourse, and you certainly have no legal standing on anything related to the kids.Answer #5: I don't overtly see a problem with an 8YO helping with a younger sibling. But what is a problem is 3+ hour naps for an 8 year old. That to me means they are not getting proper sleep during the night or potentially some other issue. That is worth questioning and looking into.


Title: I live in Texas and my roommate let's people stay at our house.

Question:
I live in texas and my roommate lets person stay in our rental. I asked the extra person to leave, but they won't. I asked the landlord, who is the brother in law of other renter and they won't do anything.

Is there anything I can do to keep person out of house and driveway while I am a legal renter with my name on lease. They Take up half of driveway with bus and I no longer can park in my own driveway. He is eating my food, using my shower, even used my car and bed while I was away in vacation. I  have no clue what to do.

Answer:
 It is my understanding that if somebody else on the lease is giving them permission to be there, then they don't have to leave.

Eating your food has actual damages so you could probably sue them in small claims for that, but you'd likely need some pretty comprehensive proof of what was eaten, by whom, and when it was purchased by you. I can't imagine that being worth your effort.

Using your bed is scummy, might be illegal depending on your state's tenancy laws re: entering your private space within your home.

Him using your car without permission while you're gone is 100% illegal, it's akin to if he stole it.


Title: [California] A teenager came to my fiance’s door and said she was being attacked. He thought it was a trap or a domestic and didn’t want to get hurt or involved so he didn’t open it. She came back later again and he still didn’t. She got killed. The cops have his door cam footage. Is he in trouble?

Answer:
 The short answer is possibly.  All states have laws pertaining to rendering aid in an emergency situation and/or good Samaritan laws.  In some U.S. jurisdictions, property owners have a duty to rescue invitees but not trespassers from all reasonably foreseeable dangers on the property. However, California extends the duty to rescue to all persons who **enter** upon real property regardless whether they are classified as invitees, social guests or trespassers. Also, ten US states including CA have laws (California Penal Code § 152.3) requiring that people at least notify law enforcement of and/or seek aid for strangers in peril under certain conditions.

The fact that the police got a warrant for the door cam footage is concerning.  In light of this I would advise your fiance to get a legal consultation in the meantime, and most certainly get a lawyer if they are arrested and/or charged with a crime.


Title: Rebooked two times and missed Christmas - entitled to compensation?

Question:
I was supposed to fly out the 22nd evening to arrive home the morning of the 24th. A good flight with minimal layovers considering the distance.

My first journey has its first leg as a domestic flight. It was delayed and delayed and delayed and I had to be rebooked becaue I would have missed my connections. Really shitty but happens.
They rebooked my journey to start the next afternoon. I would arrive home the morning of the 25th. Missing family dinner but at least I have the 25th with them.. Went home and came back in the 23rd.

This new first leg was international (Canada to US) and was delayed and then cancelled.
Called the airline WestJet to get rebooked asap and they put me on a flight for the next night.. I would have arrived home on the night of the 26th.. Wtf. Huge layover and all.
It was really hard but after calling a few more times I persuaded them to put me on another flight that same night (still the 23rd, hadn't left the aiport.)
I arrived the 25th in the evening so still sucked. Missed the family dinner and all of the 25th. Had a 10 hour layover too but it was the best option since their delaying before actually cancelling meant I had no time left to find a better flight.

Am I not entitled to compensation since they rebooked me? I feel like a double rebooking plus missing Christmas is way beyond usual circumstances.
Topic:
Consumer Law

Answer: You would have to look at the terms of the contract of carriage from when you booked and there are some treaties that address this since it was international, but honestly, it’s highly unlikely that you could recover.  This falls into the category of “it sucks hard, but them the breaks.”


Title: Can my boyfriend adopt his adult sister? Her parents haven't filed their taxes in years and she can't fill out her FAFSA. [Maine]

Question:
She lives in Indiana.

Although it is possible to fill out the FAFSA without including parental information, you can't get a grant that way, from what I understand. She is 18 and really wants to go to college but cannot afford it without the financial assistance. If he adopted her, she'd use his financial information, right?

We are planning to marry soon, and if this is something that we can pursue, we may push the legal marriage up if necessary. He doesn't have a job, but I do, and I can support him and her just fine, even if things might get a bit tight.

Answer:
 Just a heads up, changing legal guardians for the sole purpose of financial aid is illegal and if caught it won't be pretty.

She needs to contact her school and see if she qualifies to fill out the FAFSA without parental info.

If she doesn't qualify, last resort she can fill out the FAFSA without any parental information (by checking 'my parents won't give me their info' or something similar) and she will be offered only student loans.


Title: [Ontario, Canada] My boss accessed my email and forwarded himself some of my personal correspondences, and I am unsure if he has a legal right to have accessed my account

Question:
**TL;DR: My boss forwarded himself two of my emails with a rival firm. He might have reasons to suspect that I was sharing proprietary information with said rival even though I have not.**

Throwaway and a long story. I am residing in Ontario, Canada.

Background: I've been with in my current employment for exactly 4 months. It's a very small company: literally only me and my boss. I'm newly graduated and this my first job ever. I was only half interested in the job but I figured it was better than nothing (especially after 5 months of unemployment after graduating). My boss understands that this industry is something I'm only doing for now and that I will be leaving within a year, and we had reached an understanding that I would let him know if/when I would leave and help him find a replacement, as possible.

About three weeks ago, I met with a rival (J) who runs his own company in the same field. I did not intend to look for a job with him. I only did it as a courtesy to his son-in-law (C) whom I've known for a bit and who offered to introduce me to J. C connected me with J via email and he game me his phone number which I called and we set up a meeting. On the day of the meeting J sent me an email to confirm that we were meeting and I replied to confirm. I met with him and even though J hinted at offering me a job I was not interested and never shared with him any confidential information about my employer.

This Saturday, as I was browsing my Google Inbox account on my phone, I noticed that the two emails I exchanged with J popped up to the top of my Inbox, which was very strange. I clicked on them and discovered that they had been forwarded to my boss's email. I quickly scrambled to change my password and checked recently used devices from Google and discovered that two devices in the city that my workplace is located in had last accessed my account minutes before I changed my password. One of those devices I'm sure is my work laptop and the other must be my workstation.

The big complication to all of this is the fact that on my personal email I had files that my boss had sent me before my work email was set up and ones that he had asked me to delete from my account. I honest to God forgot to do so. However, now I am suspicious he might have seen these files and would be suspicious that I was sharing proprietary information with J which is why he needed to forward himself the email exchange to establish that I met with him.

I have not and never ever intended to share any confidential information with anyone. However, since I have not deleted those files, I am worried my boss might have a right to access my account and also forward himself these emails.

As I'm writing this, he has messaged me asking me to bring my personal laptop to work tomorrow.

My questions boil down to this:

* What are my privacy rights as an employee? Are they affected in case my employer might suspect that I was sharing proprietary information?

* Also, does he have jurisdiction to search through my personal files? When would he have such ability, if ever?

I am just scared shitless because I don't want to be found to have done anything illegal and I don't want to go look for jobs and see my name tarnished because of such a dispute with my boss.

Answer:
 Not sure about Canadian law, specifically.  In the US, your employer has the authority to monitor their employee's internet usage at work, including things like logging key strokes on their systems.  They do not have the ability to access your accounts you've accessed while at work, unless you've signed an agreement to the contrary (and even then, it is questionable if that would be enforceable).

You should contact an attorney.


Title: What means does the legal system have to find a fugitive?

Question: I was arrested for a fairly serious offense in the southern US and due to being a first time offender was given a fairly low bail to post that I could afford on my own. I promptly fled to the north, as my charges were serious enough that I would rather take my chances on skipping town than facing significant prison time. I'm just wondering how, if I don't drive, work "under the table", and have changed my appearance significantly law enforcement can locate me? I'm essentially a shut in at this point and only do freelance work, with my pay going through my roommate.

Answer:
 Ha. We're not going to tell you how you'll be found. Answer #2: The most basic legal advice there is is this:

*Don't break the law.*

With nearly no exceptions, fleeing from your legal troubles does not make the situation better in the long run.

No one here is going to give you information which will help you successfully avoid arrest and prosecution.

Get a lawyer, turn yourself in, and take care of this.  It will never go away until you do.


Title: [New Mexico]My sister was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and has decided not to treat it. She suffers from mental illness, and I think she's doing this as a form of passive suicide. Is there anything we can do?

Question:
I found out a week or so ago that my sister (age 41) was diagnosed with breast cancer. My mom called me today in hysterics. She told me that my sister's cancer is in her lymph nodes, and that she plans to "let it run its course" instead of seeking any treatment. My sister refuses to discuss the matter any further with me or my parents.

My sister has struggled with her mental health for a long time, and has attempted suicide a few times in the past. It seems like she is planning to use the cancer as a way of some kind of passive suicide.

She has been hospitalized a few times for attempted suicide, and is currently seeing a therapist and receiving disability benefits for her mental illness, so there is a record of her mental health problems and suicide attempts, if that makes any difference.

Is she allowed to make this decision if the doctors have told her it is possible to treat the cancer? Is there anything we can do?

Answer:
 Forcing someone to get medical treatment is not easy.

Having mental illness is not the same as being incompetent to make medical decisions. Taking away someone’s right to decline treatment is a huge deal.Answer #2: If the cancer has metastasized, she's not in good shape. I know you are grieving, but this is her choice and it's imperative that you respect it. I am sorry your family is going through this, cancer is horrible. Unless someone has durable medical POA or conservatorship, she has the absolute authority to make her own medical decisions.


Title: Girl I dated for a short time says shes pregnant.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 It says NOT pregnant.

I'd cease contact with her though. Answer #2: here you go friend

http://i.imgur.com/hpGCPzy.png

I had a crazier ex who pulled this.  but not with a test, she got copies of a friends pregnancy confirmation paperwork from a clinic, then edited them with all her information.  Answer #3: Your chain of command will not give a shit until a child is born and even then they won't care unless you're avoiding child support.  But it says not pregnant so relax for now. Most people feel relieved when it shows up as a negative for pregnancy. Answer #4: Birth control is 100% your responsibility. It is also 100% your partner's responsibility. Hopefully you just learned this lesson, cheaply. Answer #5: That pregnancy test also tells you an estimate of how many weeks you are, if it's a positive. It should say pregnant and below it, 1-2 or 2-3. Source: I've taken hundreds of pregnancy tests. She sounds a bit unhinged. Answer #6: Hey, pregnant person here. [This](http://lovelace-media.imgix.net/uploads/6/48466740-fde7-0130-67a4-061fd1de01e3.jpg) is what the pregnant result looks like for that test. See how it's right and in the lower corner? Left/up is not positive.

Going no contact might be a good way to go. You can fake blood labs, you can even fake sonograms...but seriously, why anyone would fake the first trimester is beyond me. First trimester is all barfs.Answer #7: Also, if she stopped taking the pill *after* you left, she can't be pregnant with your baby. If she were pregnant, which she obviously isn't. Answer #8: For future reference. You don't get pregnant by a person by stopping birth control AFTER a break up. That's all sorts of crazy. In the future, use condomsAnswer #9: It says Not Pregnant.


Title: [FL] Sister wants to give up son for adoption at 2.5 years of age. Do I have any legal recourse to prevent her from doing so?

Question:
Hopefully my sister doesn't see this post, but if she does, oh well.

The father isn't in the picture, he's abusive and he's technically not even on the birth certificate (she accidentally misspelled his name). I wouldn't even know how to track him down.

I believe she's making a mistake, and she seems mentally unstable to me, because she's speaking in very delusional terms. She struggles with mental health issues (ETA: mainly depression and anxiety) and sometimes randomly goes off of her medication and behaves erratically. She's been committed to a mental hospital in the past, if that's relevant.

I love my nephew and I don't want to lose him. Half of our family has offered to adopt him at this point (I would love to adopt him myself), but she's refused, saying she doesn't want to live with the painful reminder. But the reality is that she can't just get rid of him and pretend he never existed.

Do I have any options, or am I completely powerless?

Answer:
 Do you consider it possible that your nephew is in immediate danger from your sister?

I ask because delusions aren't normally part of depression or anxiety, so she may have been misdiagnosed and could possibly have something more serious. And, giving up her child for adoption is a drastic solution to her issues, so I worry if she is capable of doing something even more drastic.

How long has it been since you've seen your sister face to face? Can you make a visit soon and see how the vibe is? If you think there's even a tiny chance she would harm him or abandon him, please call CPS as soon as possible.


Title: (SK, Canada) Got into a car accident, other driver was adamant it was my fault, called cops on me, threaten to sue me. I have it on dash cam (he doesn't know this) but don't want to file a report if I don't have to.

Question:
This happened last weekend but I need help before I go make my official statement before my deadline of April 25, 2018 hoping to get some advice on how to resolve this. This might get long so sorry in advance I just want all the info laid out. Also I think typing it will help me if I do go make a statement.

I made a crude drawing in paint on what happened.
(https://imgur.com/yIdHczQ) I think it is fairly easy to understand. For the sake of explanation up is north and right is east. I am obviously the blue rectangle, he is black rectangle, green is other traffic.

So here we go, I was traveling north approaching the intersection which had a red light, signaled right and entered the turning lane. I yielded, checked my blind spot for east bound traffic there was a car there (green) so I yielded. Once he cleared I checked again to see if anything was behind me when I noticed a large truck (black) in my blind spot. He looked pissed off and honked at me. I thought maybe he thought I was taking to long in the intersection but whatever, not a big deal I make the right handed turn and carry on east towards my house.

When I check my mirrors I can see the guy in the truck riding my ass pretty bad. I was close to my house so I figured either he was just being a dick. I pull into my driveway and he gets out of his truck on his cell phone and stomps up to me yelling. That I hit him and I was trying to flee the scene of a crime and and the cops were going to have a field day with me because how could I be such a shitty driver to not even see, why would I try to pass him in a turning lane. Anyways I was pretty apologetic because I don't want to fight this guy, he is significantly bigger than I am. I say I am sorry and that I didn't even know we made contact, asked if I damaged his vehicle and said we can exchange info.

While I am going to grab my info 3 cops show up to my house lights on and everything they hop out and immediately walk up and see what the matter is. The guy again says that I was trying to run from him after I hit him. Obviously because it was my fault I was trying to flee. The cops keep talking to him I walk around my vehicle and see there there is very little damage. Like almost 0, little bit of his paint on the very drivers side rear corner of my car. We exchange info, the cops take my statement and my info as well. He has very little damage but stated twice "well its your fault so you are going to fix it".

Anyways I honestly didn't even think of my dash cam, didn't mention it to any of them because I was taken off guard by the whole situation. I didn't think it was my fault and said that a couple times because I swear he wasn't in front of me. I thought I had nobody in front of me.

Anyways I was right, looked at my dash cam footage and this truck is nowhere to be scene. It's pretty clear from the footage there wasn't anyone in front of me when I entered the turning lane and at no point could I see his truck. I got a email from SGI, that a claim has been filled against my license and I need to go in and give my side of the story within 14 days. I can also file it electronically to my adjuster.

What do I do? Obviously I will give the video to the adjuster and that should be good enough but will this go on my driving record? Also I don't really care in my car gets fixed, I am 90% sure the paint will come off with a gas rag and you won't be able to tell it was ever damaged. Also my car is a 11 year old shitty dodge so it isn't going to hurt the resale value which is probably $500 anyways. Also the guy was a total dick to me, I don't want revenge but seriously he didn't need to treat me like that and an apology would be nice.

Answer:
 You won't get an apology. You might get a little paint job out of the deal, at least on that quarter panel. Call your adjuster, explain you have the dash cam footage, and go from there. Many people see dollar signs where they think something is he said she said. It's to bad he knows where you live though, that sucks. Glad this person will get their come uppance.Answer #2: From your description and picture it sounds pretty obvious that you were there first and that HE would have had to hit YOU.

I would provide information to the police as requested and contact your insurance company. They can take this over for you.


Title: California: In car accident and now the other party's insurance company is demanding more money than my coverage limits, do I have to pay?

Question: Got into a car accident and it was my fault.  The damages are $17,000 and my liability coverage is $10,000.  They are demanding I pay the remaining amount.  Do I have to pay?  Is this negotiable?  Should I contact a lawyer?

Answer:
 You probably have to pay. It might be negotiable. Your insurance company should provide you with a lawyer.

And in re your user name -- it's not State Farm's fault that you chose incredibly inadequate coverage. That's on you and your state's legislation for allowing it.


Title: 14 year old girl arrested with stolen car then abused by officers

Question:
My friend was recently arrested and caught in a stolen vehicle. She wasnt aware that the car was  stolen and she didn’t resist when being arrested. But when she got arrested she wasn’t read her rights, she was strip searched by a male officer, one of the officers spit in her face, she was beaten and has many bruises on her body, and they took her phone and wouldn’t let her out of the cell to call her parents until she gave over the password. What can we do about this, she cant really afford a big expensive lawyer and she still has yet to even get her phone back from the police. Im just posting to get advice for her situation
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 I hope you are prepared for the possibility that she is lying. That story sounds a bit too good to be true, and exactly like something a slighly savvy (but not too savvy) kid would cone up with.Answer #2: If what you say is true, you are not being told the entire story. She will need an attorney to defend her if charged. If her family can't afford one she can get a public defender.

If you're talking about a lawyer for a lawsuit against the police or city, her family will have to find one.


Title: roommate put my life in danger.. i hate being pushy but reddit, i need help ASAP

Question:
hi guys, sorry if this is a bit jumbled, this all happened tonight so i'm still so upset i'm shaking. i'll do my very best to be brief.

so i'm 21 years old, attending university, and have type 1/insulin-dependent/juvenile/etc. diabetes. i live in an off-campus apartment independently but cohabiting with 3 other roommates, two of whom share one room, and one of whom shares a room with me.

the one i share the room with is the problem. we met last year and were friends up until a BAD falling out in january. ever since, i have made numerous attempts to patch things, which have been met with nothing but silence and passive-aggressive hostility.

normally the things she would do to "provoke me" were small (moving/touching/intentionally dirtying my things, making the room smell of weed and old takeout, and just being a slob in general).

however... tonight, i came back from a weekend trip to find her gone and the mini-fridge on my sectioned side of the room unplugged.

normally no biggie, right? sure, a mess to clean up and expired groceries, of course that's maddening.. but the fact that i am diabetic makes this a much bigger issue.

i keep my LIFE-SAVING medication in the fridge, which she knows i keep in there as she has seen me take it out in plain sight multiple times. i am almost certain that she unplugged the fridge in order to spoil my meds and make me EXTREMELY, like, hospital-visit-for-sure ill. since we were friends before, she also knows that i only have access to purchasing my insulin at home with my parents, as i am still under their insurance and need their assistance affording the expensive medicine.

i have spoken with my parents to the security office at my apartment complex, and they recommended that i fill out a harassment complaint with the city police department... but i'm scared to take action with the police unless i know for sure that this complaint would be able to remove her from the apartment. i no longer feel safe in my own living space knowing someone wants to harm me, and fear having to go out because i'm worried that something else will be sabotaged.

any thoughts? :/ i hope this doesn't come off as dramatic, i'm just feeling very scared, betrayed and alone right now.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 Ooo-ooo I learned in a post a couple weeks ago that insulin can go up to 28 days unrefrigerated. So a couple days shouldn't be a big deal. Still I'm no expert.

Your big problem is that you need to be able to prove some kind of intent, which I don't think you'll be able to do. You guys need to find some alternative living arrangement.


Title: Need advice about possible HIPAA violation at pharmacy [PA/USA]

Question:
Thanks in advance for any advice on this incident, it left my wife  embarrassed and she is extremely stressed out right now. I'd like to know if there was any HIPAA violation that might have occurred and if a call to a lawyer would be a smart idea for her.

Here's the scenario:  Yesterday my wife stopped at CVS pharmacy to drop off her prescription, which is a narcotic prescribed for her pain from a disability which she as undergone multiple surgeries. She gets this narcotic every month without issue, other than the usual "here comes the junkie again" look from the pharmacist. So turns out that they couldn't fill it until today at noon. She went back to CVS today a little after noon and one of the pharmacists said very loudly with other customers standing in line and employees all around "This is a narcotic and once the truck delivers there's a big process that needs to be done before we can give them to you." My wife said OK i'll come back later then and left. This is what happened, and even though the actual medicine name wasn't said, my wife felt really embarrassed because it was directed at her in a very loud and demeaning manner. Thanks for any input.

Answer: That probably isn't a HIPAA violation because of the vague nature of the statement.  It didn't identify a condition, a medication, or even if the drug was for her or someone else.  Even if it is a technical violation, her remedy is to report the pharmacist to the state board and see if they're interested in taking action.  Which they likely won't.


Title: [TN - US] Daughter cited for serving alcohol to minors

Question:
First time poster on Reddit, so my apologies for any formatting snafu's.  My daughter (a bartender) who I am financially supporting has just been cited at the restaurant she works in for serving alcohol to minors during one of the state's stings.  Court appearance is not slated until January, but I wanted to get an idea about what I could do to help and also what kind of financial ramifications this might have (in fines, punitive, ect.).

Questions like, do the restaurants generally share council with the employee when arguing whether to keep their license?  Or are these separate proceedings?  Will the restaurant generally toss her under the bus or go to bat for her?

Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 She needs her own lawyer. A restaurant is not going to provide a lawyer for her. Even if they did, I'd worry about a potential conflict of interest as the place may throw her under the bus.

Unless it's a city ordinance ticket, it's likely a misdemeanor. This will impact her future so she definitely needs an attorney. Fines will likely be in the hundreds of dollars.


Title: [CA] Church/cult/religious organization needs my fingerprints for their records along with other personal info (not SSN, so far). Is this legal?

Question: Asking for my family who are still members. I am very much against it. But they did it 3 years ago already and is apparently mandatory. They also do this in other states and countries.

Answer: Its legal to ask. It's also legal to tell them to pound sand and find another church.Answer #2: Sure, it's legal if people voluntarily give a copy of their fingerprints. If you're against it, don't do it. Answer #3: They don’t need them, they want them. You’re free to tell them no.


Title: Mom is trying to not let gf take to me shes 23 in el paso texas

Question: Hello im 22 and my gf is 23 she has autism. Her mom is trying to get guardianship over her to keep me away from her. Me and her do have a daughter. As far as i know right now gf has not been summoned or served court papers yet. I need to talk to gf to see if she wants to move with me but her mom wont let us talk and wont let her see me. Would police be able to help us talk and find out what we want to do?

Answer:
 With no court order, you GF is free to talk to you, move in with you, whatever she wants. She is an adult and can make her own choices unless and until a court says otherwise. She needs to talk to her doctor about her condition, as they would likely be the best person to testify on her behalf that she can take care of herself and doesn't need a legal guardian. She should talk to local attorneys to get her ducks in a row for when or if her mother actually does file seeking guardianship.

The other important question, where is your child in all this? Is her mom going to seek custody of the baby, too?


Title: Motorized Skateboard vs Motorized Wheelchair.... Help me out!

Question:
Alright, I'm from Tucson AZ and have been riding a "Motorized Bicycle" for the past 2 years. The local laws here in Arizona are more strict than others and basically boils down to define a Motorized Bicycle as a Bicycle with an engine no greater than 48cc and cannot be operated at speeds greater than 20mph.

If you exceed that 20mph, you are now a moped and require everything a moped requires, including but not limited to; valid drivers license, insurance, registration, windshield, signals, etc. Simply going over by 1mph lands you a pretty hefty ticket and your bicycle gets impounded as a moped or motorcycle. This is even more troublesome since it's literally impossible to get it out. In order to get a vehicle out of impound (or a "moped"), you need to provide insurance and a license. Can't do that for a bicycle.

So, I kind of want to stick it to the man and have been looking at GoPeds. These are basically little foot scooters with engines strapped to them. They are legally classified here as "Motorized Skateboards" or more specifically from our revised statutes

(http://www.azleg.gov/viewDocument/?docName=http://www.azleg.gov/ars/28/00101.htm)
"Motorized skateboard means a self-propelled device that has a motor, a deck on which a person may ride and at least two tandem wheels in contact with the ground."

Well, I found out through our local city ordinances that these are completely banned. Most cops don't even know this and people scoot around on them all the time. They hit about 40 mph and are loud as shit.

The ordinance can be found here (http://library.amlegal.com/nxt/gateway.dll/Arizona/tucson_az/partiitucsoncode/chapter20motorvehiclesandtraffic*?f=templates$fn=altmain-nf.htm$q=[field%20folio-destination-name:%2720-30%27]$x=Advanced#JD_20-30)

Now my question is, what's the legal difference between a motorized skateboard and a motorized wheelchair? The legal definition of a "Motorized wheelchair" means a self-propelled wheelchair that is used by a person for mobility.

So if I put a seat on a Motorized Skateboard, does that make it a motorized wheelchair? Am I suddenly a pedestrian, capable of zipping down sidewalks and through crosswalks at 40 mph? Am I essentially a pedestrian suddenly because I have a seat?

I know people are going to give me a bit of a hard time, tell me it's stupid or unsafe, etc, I have no intent of actually doing this, I truthfully want a way to get to and from work like I always have been on my bicycle, but have a little leeway in court if it comes to that.

Answer: Motorized wheelchairs/scooters are legally restricted to under 7mph (or less depending on your location)


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Question:
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Answer: How in the world would anyone here know the answer to that?


Title: Advice for a single mom

Question: I am a single mom of a Native American boy who is registered with a tribe in Arizona. I came to a different state to make a life for myself and my child. I am not married but I do have a boyfriend that I have been with for four years. When I moved to this state I met a boy (platonic) who has helped me and my son get established here and who has helped me in every sense of the word. I don't plan on ever getting married. However, if I die prematurely I want to make sure my child is taken care of. How do I establish this with my platonic friend? He has already agreed to take on the responsibility if I die. We have talked about this on numerous occasions. What next steps should I take?

Answer: you need to discuss this with an estate planning attorney who will walk you through your options. note, with a registered son of tribal descent, options are more limited than normal, as the tribe has a vested interest in protecting its heritage. Answer #2: Draft a will. But know that his bio family will have a strong legal argument for custody over your plutonic friend. So hire a good attorney to draft it.


Title: Can I sell my playlists?

Question:
I create workouts to today's hit music. Id like to be able to sell them somehow? Where can I do that? How can I do that?

Washington DC

Answer:
 If playlists are just lists of song titles for people to find and play, why would there be an issue? If you are actually distributing music, then of course you would need to obtain proper licenses for every song.

I think the bigger question is your business model. Would people just buy lists of songs when they could easily go to Spotify and listen to a bazillion for free?


Title: Nurse drawing my blood was tweaking and making mistakes

Question:
Hello,

So I went to a hospital yesterday to get my blood drawn, and when I got there they said they were on lunch and to go to this woman that draws blood alone downstairs.

So I go there, and this women is clearly tweaking. She's shaking and bouncing up and down and making all kinds of mistakes with paper work and mixing up my stuff (she even said "oops this is for the last guy...that would have been bad"). So she can see I'm kind of hesitant to let her do it, but she goes ahead and puts the needle in my arm while talking about "don't worry I'm really good at this".

She goes in with the needle at too deep of an angle, and she never straightens my arm so the needle goes past my vein.  So shes sliding this needle in and out of my arm while (while rambling about "see, I know what I'm doing") and then she pushes this entire 1.5" needle into my arm. I freak out and pull my arm back out of the needle and tell her I'm done and to bandage it. She bandages it up while trying to say something, but I was so frightened by what just happened that I left.

Later that night, I get a call from a local number, it's a girl saying she's doing a survey about the service I received today. I hung up.

I have gone to this hospital many times before and have never received a survey call. And when I have gone to other hospitals and they do a survey call, it's ALWAYS a machine.

I'm fairly certain she knew she screwed up, and is worried I'll report her.

She's on drugs, messing up at her job because of it, and got my personal phone number from their record to try to do a fraud survey to cover herself.

I'm wondering what I should do in this situation.

Thank you.

Answer: Your first step is to call the hospital and tell them about your experience.


Title: How long can a company "investigate" a missing order before it is considered theft, if ever? [BC, Canada]

Question:
I ordered a product online about three weeks ago, with an estimated delivery date of 5 business days. That date came and went, but what was really weird is that the tracking information never updated past "label created". So I called the company and asked what was going on, and eventually had myself escalated. They tell me that an internal investigation, typically taking 2-3 business days, will be needed. Well, we're at 9 business days now, with no developments.

The specialist has been sending me an email every other day, but they've just been saying that there have been no updates or new developments. Since the product was never delivered, and I asked to cancel my order outright. They said that no cancellations or attempts at a second shipment can be made until this investigation is complete.

Now, I know that I'm not there yet, but I would like to know how long the company can continue to stall without delivering the product? I mean, there has to eventually be a line where it crosses into theft territory, as I have given them money for goods that have not been delivered.

If it's at all relevant, the product is a laptop, the value is $1600, and my biggest frustration is that I'm a student, without the funds to find a replacement for something that is beginning to impact my studies.

Any input is appreciated.

Answer: Credit card? Chargeback.


Title: (California) Sister owes me nearly $200 from babysitting. She's blocking & ignoring any pleas for payment & is moving to Oklahoma. Is small claims out of the question now that she's moving?

Question:
Hi there, /r/Legaladvice I'm sorry if this is against the rules (I did read them but I'm on mobile so I worry they don't all load). As stated in the title, my sister owes me money for babysitting. This babysitting was overnight 5 days a week, $300 a month which sums up to $75 weekly. I have numerous texts between her screenshotted dating when the last time she paid me was, how much she owes me, and then her subsequent blocking (with roughly a two week or monthly notice that she still owes me) once I told her I wouldn't work with her if I wasn't going to be paid. Normally I would let this roll off my back, I have a very strained relationship with most of my blood family.

 However, I am in desperate need of that money for school. Originally she was going to pay me out for an expo I went to in July but she says she wasn't able to and only gave me 160 dollars from previous babysitting debts on June 12th, it ruffled my finances of my boyfriend and I but he saw her not paying coming well before me and budgeted for it when we left June 31st and returned July 2nd.

 Then I had a face to face conversation with her when I got back begging for that money because I was going to be using it for school. The original funds I had spent on the expo were going to be for school but I dipped into it when she didn't pay me.

Now, I really want to be done with this situation and wash my hands of it but I really need that money. The exact total she owes me is $190 which covers one class and a text book for community college. I have screenshots of these if necessary for you fine folks. What I want to do is take her to Small Claims Court, but now I find out through the grapevine that she's moving to Oklahoma in the next three weeks. Is Small Claims completely out of the picture because she's moving now?

I'm desperate for some help, and I'm sorry again if this is too long or in the wrong spot. If it's wrong, please kindly let me know where I can find help because I'm at the end of my rope

Answer:
 You might be able to sue her in small claims if you can serve her before she leaves.  Once she's gone, no.  You cannot serve out of state for this kind of case.

You need to make some kind of written demand for the money first.


Title: (Texas)Am I a child molester?

Question: I was 12 at the time and let my baby cousin sit on my lap.I did this a few times. I don't want to do it now because paranoia is getting the best of me. I didn't touch her inappropriately. This is really stressed because I feel like they'll call the law when I'm older and screw me over.

Answer: You should see a doctor or mental health professional about your paranoia. Either that or stop smoking.


Title: Thought i worked in a kitchen not a fraternity

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Getting groped is sexual harassment. Your employer needs to step in and manage the situation. If they don't, chat with a employment lawyer in your area. Many do free/low-cost consultations.

Until you meet with one, keep everything in writing and emails. don't complain via phone calls, complain via email and/or text so you can show you told your bosses about the problems.


Title: Dealership wants us to sign an "as-is" warranty document a week after purchasing car.

Question: Bought a certified warranty car (CPO) but then a few days later, the dealer emailed and asked for a signature that they are selling car "as-is," after the purchase has been completed.  The vehicle was sold as having still the original warranty as well as an extended one based on being a CPO.  The "as-is" documentation that the dealer wants signed states there is no warranty.  What say you?  This is in IL.

Answer: Tell them you need compensation for the fact that they are now taking away the CPO. And they need to tell you why they've changed their minds.