Title: How would you argue an unsafe lane change (no blinker) ticket in court?

Answer: Either I'd have some kind of evidence that I didn't do it, or I'd just pay the ticket.  There's no magic legal loopholes to get out of moving violations.


Title: I got a ticket for parking on a crosswalk. I was not on a crosswalk. PICS INCLUDED

Question:
I got a ticket for parking on a crosswalk in Denton Texas after consulting with other police officers they advised me to fight it.
What is a crosswalk legally? and do you think I will win the fight?
PICS INCLUDED
http://imgur.com/a/9YD2s

Answer: What they're actually going to get you for is parking too close to a corner.


Title: Passenger seized question

Question:
So short context, a few years ago I was in a car with my friend he ran a red light, he knew I had about 3 grams of marijuana on us. I stupidly put it in my jacket pocket, when the cop came to talk to him he was acting super sketchy and was eventually removed from the car. They questioned him and apparently he told them I had weed on me. Long story short eventually they ended up arresting me and charging me with possession and him with just running a red light. My attorney didn't really do dick for me but I had don't some research on my own and stumbled upon a case in California, Brendlin vs California. The driver of the car was stopped he, the passenger,  was then identified to have been an ex-convict they search him find methamphetamine supplies. Eventually they ruled after an initial appeal that the passenger wasn't no seized and the search was then unjustified. So according to that ruling by legal precedent would I have been able to have had my case dismissed? Again this happen a few years ago but randomly thought of it and it's bothering me.

[Link to an article about the case ](https://mobile.nytimes.com/2007/06/18/washington/18cnd-search.html)

Answer: Being an ex-con does not establish probable cause. Being specifically identified as having drugs might.Answer #2: A passenger [**is** seized](http://www.uscourts.gov/sites/default/files/rights-police-stops.pdf) pursuant to a traffic stop.


Title: (MA) Family law advice needed for single dad. Temporary orders all ready filed.

Question:
Long story short fathered a child out of wedlock in MA.
I have zero custody.
My sons mom is very very manipulative.
I have a very small part time job. I watch my son everyday 8-whenever my sons mom feels like she wants him back.
I have him overnight twice and for the past month every weekend something has "come up" and I have had him also.

She threatens me with court to get me to do what she wants. I was always scared because I wanted to see my son and she threatened me to come after me for child support even though she has a great job.

She has privately admitted to getting pregnant on purpose and apologized for it. We were "dating" although living separately until May 2016. A few weeks into June she had a boyfriend much older 12-14 years older. And my son is already spending time with him and sleeping over his house. He has tried contacting me when my sons mother has flipped out and just didn't respond to him. She plays the victim and honestly can't handle being a mother.

I filed temporary orders and I am wondering from people or lawyers familiar with the process what should I expect. I'm terrifyied. Like I am constantly sick to my stomach. She will be getting served this week our court date is in about 10 days and they withheld service in case she goes crazy. Will the judge fall for her sob stories?

O and also she has told me she is going to punch me in the fucking face in front of my son. And before we separated she threatened suicide and frequently hit and beat me. She's diagnosed bi polar and its documented.

Any thoughts or advice on how exactly this process plays out and what to expect would be so greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Answer:
 You really should get a lawyer.  [This page](http://www.masslegalhelp.org/children-and-families/custody) on custody info for Massachusetts has a sidebar link to a Legal Aid search--see if you're eligible there.

Bipolar doesn't matter on its own. Did you report any of the violence to the police or to a health care professional you saw for injuries? If not, and if she doesn't have any other record of violence or institutionalization for her mental problems, it's too common a charge in custody disputes for judges to reliably factor it into their decision.  What definitely matters is that you're currently caring for the kid for a substantial amount of time and you'd like to keep doing so.

Her job does not affect whether or not you're asked to pay child support; Massachusetts, like most states, believes it is the responsibility of both parents to support a child. [This page](http://www.masslegalhelp.org/children-and-families/child-support) leads you to a lot of info about child support.  If you receive sole custody or custody for a preponderance of the time she may owe you child support.

Sole custody is not nearly as common as joint; the state wants both parents to be parents, not visitors, unless there's a compelling reason why they shouldn't be.  Absent external records of her violence or unfitness, sole custody is going to be an uphill climb, but  your current  de facto joint custody is a good status quo to build on for getting joint custody court ordered.


Title: District Attorney notifyed the defendant that I was in contact with them about the charges being reduced then dropped. I was threaten by defendant because of them for this.

Question:
I know the DA isn't my attorney but don't I have some confidentiality with my comunitcstions with the DA?

Violation of rights?

Answer: Call the police. Threatening a victim or witness to a crime is a serious crime.


Title: Can I Legally Import an Arctic Fox into Kentucky?

Question:
I was just on the phone with the KY Department of Fish and Wildlife Resources because of a discrepancy I found on their website. On the site is says the following:
(Prohibited Native Species)
A person shall not import or transport through Kentucky the following species:
Foxes (Vulpes spp, Alopex lagopus, Urocyon cinereoargenteus)

The issue here is that Arctic Foxes (Alopex lagopus or Vulpes lagpous) are NOT native to Kentucky and thus should be classified under the non-native prohibited exotic list of animals if they are not to be transported into or through Kentucky. Following this finding I decided to to call the DFWR for further clarification on what this meant. According to who I spoke with ALL foxes are illegal to import into KY because of rabies concerns. However, it is not illegal to obtain one already within KY. The only problem being that for several years now I have only found nearby breeders in Indiana. So my question would be is there anything I can legally do to get around this? Their site is incorrect to classify an Arctic Fox under native prohibited wildlife so I feel as though it would be possible for me to import one from IN without legal consequences.

Answer:
 How do you go from your girlfriend's parents threatening you with legal action to getting a fox? My previous statement stands, seek mental help.

For [clarification](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5l5gc2/can_a_restraining_order_be_placed_on_a_minor/) Answer #2: > Their site is incorrect to classify an Arctic Fox under native prohibited wildlife so I feel as though it would be possible for me to import one from IN without legal consequences.

A typo on a website doesn't grant you license to break the law. You need an import license to get one into the state and they aren't going to grant you one. You seem to be [fishing around on the web](http://www.sybilsden.com/bb/viewtopic.php?t=13700) for some loophole, you're just going to have to face the fact that there isn't one.


Title: [NJ] Wife getting comments from bosses about her 'energy level' after coming back from disability (maternity)

Question:
I'll try to make this brief-

When my wife started this job, she was being treated for fatigue by a doctor. Stimulants 2-3x a day. We found out she was pregnant, and discontinued the medication.

Went out on maternity leave, to return ~3 months after the baby was born.

She went back to her job after the baby, and now her bosses keep making comments about her 'energy level', starting in with phrases like 'well a year ago...'

This is causing her a lot of stress at work. I don't feel like this is professional behavior, and I feel like the expectations they have are a bit warped.

Is there anything she/we can/should do, aside from looking for other employment? She did not disclose the previous medical treatment, far as I know.

I would think this kind of thing would be in a performance report, but it's being said almost daily if not multiple times a day by both bosses.

Thank you for reading.

Answer:
 There's no issue with her bosses commenting on her demeanor, appearance or attitude.

You reference a prior medical regimen.  Did she disclose this medical regimen and ask for an accommodation of some sort?  It sounds as if the answer is "no" but I want to make sure.


Title: (OH) I believe my family was treated unfairly involving an emotional support animal

Question:
This happened 3 years ago, and it still makes me extremely irate.

My mom and I had a cat, and were living in an apartment. That apartment got torn down, so we were forced to move to the only other apartment complex in my school district, which did not allow pets. We lived there peacefully for years, and OWNED the apartment. Then, the complex manager saw my cat in my window. She raised all hell and try to take my mom to court.

I was 15-16 during all of this, and struggling with professionally diagnosed anxiety and depression. I was on meds and doing therapy. My cat was one of the only things that made me happy. We got a letter from my psychiatrist saying my cat is an emotional support animal, but the manager said she would not accept that. My psychiatrist said he refuses to go to court.

My mom indignantly ignores the manager, and one day while I am at school they arrest my mom WITHOUT TELLING ME. I come home and my mom was gone. I was 16 years old. I have no idea what happened to her and have to spend the entire night alone with my cat and scared. The next day, I get home from school and the apartment manager says my mom is in jail, and I must get my cat out of the apartment or my mom will be kept in a jail cell and not go to court. I'm panicked and crying, and the bitch has someone follow me and my cat all the way to my friend's house across town to make sure I really left with my cat. Let me say again, I was 16 years old.

My mom goes to court, and the judge says that we need to EUTHANIZE our cat, or we can't live in our apartment. The "judge" says that is the only option. Of course my mom says fuck no and I have to live in my friend's basement with my cat.

We go through hell and back to try to move out of that shithole apartment, and my mom has to go through BANKRUPTCY. We had to live with multiple different friends while trying to find another place to live since we couldn't return with our cat.

Finally, we find a place, and begin moving in. During that process, my cat fell extremely ill and passed away before we could fully move in. I can honestly say that was the worst time of my entire life. His last months were hell because of these vile, heartless assholes. It likely negatively impacted his health.

I've been wanting to do something about this for years. I believe unjust actions were taken during these events. In specific;

**Was it legal for them to arrest my mom, leaving me, a 16 year old who was not a legal adult, to live alone and not inform me of the arrest?

Was it legal to hastily force me to leave my home with my cat, and following me, before allowing my mom to go to court?

Was it legal for the judge to demand my cat be euthanized?

Is there anything I can do to justly get back at these "people" (the apartment manager, the judge) for the shit they put me and my mom through?**

Thank you.

Answer: I'm not sure who explained the facts of this case to you, but it's 100% pure bullshit. Your mom wasn't arrested because of your ESA and the judge didn't force her to euthanize your cat because of that either.


Title: Question concerning surname change for marriage (IL)

Question:
I'm planning on getting married in Illinois within the next couple years, and while having THE TALK about what to do with our last name, we began to wonder if a person can just choose ANY last name they'd like when getting married.  I realize it's tradition for the bride to take the groom's surname, but what if we decided we want a whole new last name?  Do we have the legal right to choose anything we'd like?

I realize that certain areas would most likely be off limits: names that are somehow insulting, demeaning or racist in nature would most likely be a big no-no, but what if we chose something ridiculous like "TheBodacious"?  Or, what if we decided to merge both of surnames together, to form an entirely new name?  I'm not describing something like hyphenating, but let's say my last name is Davis and hers is Smith- and we choose to go with either Smavis or Dith.

Is there any specific stipulation that specifies we are limited to choosing only a name that is within our family, or do we have some creative license here?

Answer:
 This kind of thing is becoming more and more common. My sister and her husband chose to adopt his mother's maiden name instead of going by his (father's) last name because (a) his last name was hard to spell and pronounce, and (b) his father was a jerk who hadn't been in his life since childhood.

Basically, getting married puts you on a "fast-track" for changing your last name that allows you to bypass many of the hurdles that usually go along with a name change. Illinois law, however, only allows you to adopt the surname of your spouse. So, if you wanted to adopt a new last name, you would have to (a) both go through the normal name change procedures, or (b) get one person's name changed the hard way before marriage and then change the other to the new surname after the wedding.


Title: [OR] If I put poisoned bait on my property can I be heal criminally or civilly liable?

Question:
State of Oregon, County of Multnomah,City of Portland:
  Long story short: Can I legally and defensibly, deliberately poison trap my own property? The property is a typical urban single family home lot surrounded by like housing, adjacent to an elementary school.
  The property is not enclosed and is easily accessible. Although I police it regularly, within a day it will be strewn with animal feces. It's not pleasant or safe for my own children.
  Honestly it's the work of just a few neighbors that either let their dogs run wild and don't care or they deliberately let their animal defecate on my property and don't clean it up while they are out walking them.
  I don't really want to put poison out but my thought is to approach the neighbors and explain that I am having a serious chronic Rat problem and will need to put out poisoned bait for the foreseeable future. Unfortunately this bait is REALLY attractive and REALLY fatal to dogs. This of course is in hopes to get them to curb their dogs. I could put up proper signage to warn dog owners, etc.. to make it look real.
  But I don't want to go that route if they end up calling the city or etc.. and I just end up getting myself in trouble.
  If the ploy doesn't work however, fuck it, I'll put actual poison out.
  So can I be successfully sued? Can I get arrested? Is there a right way and a wrong way to do this? Anything? Is there an alternate resource available that I should explore?
  Before any sermons get mounted: Yes, I've talked to them. No, they don't give a fuck. No, I am not willing to start a neighbor hood feud by reporting them to animal control or etc.. I just want to make my personal property as prickly as possible so my family and I can actually enjoy it.
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 > No, I am not willing to start a neighbor hood feud by reporting them to animal control or etc

Yet you're willing to kill their dogs, real nice.

Yes, you can be held liable for this.Answer #2: Not legal advice:

Put cayan pepper on the poop and leave it there. It takes a few weeks but dogs will stop pooping in your yard because they sniff the poop, get a nose full of pepper and leave. Worked at my house.


Title: mental fight in pub, being charged sec/18 gbh, thrd time being told jail. is that gonna be it?

Question:
in newcastle, mental fightb- was injured i was in the thick of it not letting them teuchters take the piss..but i lost it and as its thrd offence the cocos tellin me its jail for whit i dun to the two.
was on probabtion for assault in scotland 2012, and previous for affray, but this is english law, will it count on me? any ideas on sentense ? I used cue, chair and bottle was self defense but i lost it then and boys were off tae the hospital

Answer: Question, how drunk are you right now? I'm betting "very".


Title: My grandpas car was towed for being parked in a handicapped spot, but he is handicapped.

Question: [INDIANA] my grandpa has a heart condition that makes him have trouble breathing. Earlier today, he was at a store and apparently his truck was towed for being parked in a handicapped spot. The thing is though is that he’s handicapped so I have no idea why they would do this.  It’s going to cost him around $150. Who is going to be responsible for paying this?

Answer: Does he have a handicapped license plate or a state issued handicapped placard that was displayed in the front window? Vehicles must have those to park in a handicapped spot. He can’t just say he’s handicapped to park in handicapped spots.


Title: [Tennessee] Can I own a wild alligator snapping turtle?

Question: It's listed as vulnerable, but not endangered. It's not a dangerous animal by the legal classification, and it says you don't need a permit. Just wanting some extra advice in case my googling/law comprehension has failed me. I want to be absolutely sure it's legal before I keep it. I know that Tennessee repealed the ban on selling them a few years back.

Answer:
 Snapping turtles are very, very bad pets. You can apparently take common snapping turtles with a license, but you're out of luck for anything endangered or threatened \(or any other reptile in the state\). The best advice is both legal and general good advice: don't mess with animals that can take care of themselves, would be expensive as hell to feed, can't be domesticated, and also they are assholes.

I mean, can you imagine calling to update your homeowners insurance policy regarding owning a fast\-moving, dangerous, and pretty big animal? You know they can snap your fingers right off?

It's been a few years since I lived in TN, so you can call the Tennessee Wildlife Resources Agency tomorrow to make sure.


Title: Mom had me sign for a car for her. Didnt understand what I was signing at the time

Question:
I was 18 (almost 19) years old, had excellent credit from school loans and a credit card I managed. My mom was a finance manger who work at almost every car dealership within the state.

I never drove the car, never one used it. She just used me for my signature. She stopped paying and the car got repossessed. If anyone can give me insight on this matter it would be greatly appreciated.

I am wondering if I have a case to remove this charge from my credit score. The car was charged off under my name, is there anyway to transfer it into her name?

Thank you for your time

Answer: If you co-signed the loan, you’re on the hook for it. It’s that simple. You’re stuck with it. Your only option is to continue paying it, and then sue your mother for what you paid.


Title: Delaware/Maryland: I am being sued for impound/title of a car I sold to a dealer five years ago, which was then sold to someone else. Somehow a judge is allowing this to proceed. Help?

Question:
In 2014 I traded in a car to a large, reputable dealership here in Delaware.  In April 2019, I received a notice from an impound lot that they towed the car and want me to pay the $3500 impound fees or give them the title and keys to the car and they'd give me $100.  First I thought this was some kind of scam, but they sent a second, certified copy of the letter.

I spoke to the impound manager and told her exactly where I had sold it and when and that she should ask them for the current owner's info.  She then told me she was going to take this to court because my name is the only one listed in Delaware as the owner.  I absolutely told her that was ridiculous.

At the beginning of July I was served with court papers; I gave my response and now I have a court date soon.  So I've done some further research.

* A simple vehicle history report shows that the car was sold to a dealer in DE in 2014, then sold to someone in 2015 in the exact same town in Maryland where it was towed from in 2018.
* According to the DMV, I am not the registered owner of the car.  DMV also told me if the vehicle was sold out of state by the dealer, that Delaware would not have that info.
* Also listed as a party on this lawsuit is the original bank I financed through.  That loan was resolved the same time the car was sold, I can show this on my credit reports.
* I still have my paperwork from the dealer showing the details of the trade-in.
* I can't get any more info on the original sale or the current owner because it's been five years and that all requires subpoenas.
* The very name of the impound lot implies they are used to dealing with cars in multiple states.

How do I prove a negative?

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On one hand, I feel like I have a relatively iron-clad defense.  BUT on the other, I feel like there has to be something I'm missing because it is insane that this can even proceed in court.  I have also filed a countersuit for the cost of the vehicle history report and for losing a whole day of work to deal with this ridiculousness.  I am stressed out beyond belief over it and losing sleep.  *There is no reason I should even be involved in this.*   What am I missing here?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: Bring your documents to court. They can't try the case or consider evidence before the hearing.


Title: Need legal help! Used Car Auto Dealership sold me an extremely dangerous car! I am lucky to be alive! What do I do?

Question:
Hello,

I will make this as clear and concise as I can....

I live in Colorado. The car I purchased was from a used car dealership in Indiana. I do not know much about cars.

The carfax said the vehicle passed a safety inspection from a Toyota Dealership. I also had the car inspected by InspectMyRide, a 3rd party vehicle inspection company that Ebay uses. The vehicle passed with a 92/100.

The inspection company and the dealership both said there was rust present on the undercarriage. After getting it home and inspected by several mechanics, there is more than just rust "present" on the undercarriage. The brake lines are badly corroded and the calibers are in extremely bad shape.

I flew out and drove it home. On the way, the drivers side rear tire exploded. Not a flat, exploded in three different parts. It looked like the tire had been repaired/patched up to three times.

Basically my mechanic said I was lucky to be alive, and that he won't even work on the car because anything he touches would break.

I feel totally screwed by people whom I paid to check this stuff out, and by the dealership who inspected the vehicle and had it pass a safety inspection report. Is there anything I can do?

Answer:
 Does the Inspectmyride group give any sort of warranty?Answer #2: Bet it was flooded with salt water.

Does it have a clean title, or a salvage title?


Title: Is weaponizing a fidget spinner legal? (US)

Question:
I want to know for a YouTube video
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 It would be state, or possibly city specific.

Different weapons are banned in different places.

We would also need to know exactly what you mean by "Weaponize."


Title: Gave my ID to my friend to get into a club. Bouncer took it.

Question:
Went clubbing yesterday night and gave my friend two ID's of mine (one of them being my health insurance card) to be able to get into the club as he is underage. However, the bouncer thought it was fraud and took the cards. I talked to him saying someone used my ID to try and get into this club (my friend attempted to enter the club before me and there is no sighting of us being together) and that I would like to have them back but he told me they keep it until 3am to give it to the police.

At around 2h25am I have a conversation with him hoping to get my ID back without having to resort to talking with the police, but he told me it is unlikely for me to get them back tonight and that I should probably wait. In short, he thinks that if I talk to the police I could be potentially involved in fraud if it is proven.

I would like to know if what he is saying is true and should I contact the police or leave it as it is and request a remplacement card from the Quebec website (we can ask for a new Healthcare card by internet in Canada with a minimal fee).

Thank you for your future advices.

EDIT: The other ID I gave him was a student card, not a driving licence if you may be wondering.

Answer:
 If you tell the police that you gave it to your friend to get into a club, then yes, that is illegal.  Tread carefully.  If you tell them that your friend took it without your knowledge, they could arrest your friend.  Then your friend may say that you gave it to them willingly for this express purpose.  Now you've filed a false police report on top of the previous issue.

ID's are not to be shared.  They are yours for a reason.  This was an ignorant and careless thing to do with your identity. Answer #2: The bouncer did not just think it was fraud; it was fraud.  Answer #3: Be very careful what you say to the police.  Their first question may be "how did you know who had your id", and if you respond with the truth then you may be liable for some type of misuse of Id.  I recommend saying nothing to the police other than "may i have my id card back".  You may be suspect for a crime here.

Edit i just noticed you are canadian, this was meant for an american so fwiw.


Title: Professor curved my grade intentionally so I would fail, while successfully altering those of student he favours. Now I have to retake several thousand dollars class and lose my scholarship.

Question:
**TLDR:** A professor created fake course rules and altered my grades to fail me, and I am about to lose scholarship, which I cannot afford the school without.

A bit of context, my professor for programming, is famous in school for being an absolute dick. He’s known for favouring certain students, altering grades, pressuring certain students harshly, making fun of students, acting passive aggressively, and thinking he’s “different” because he doesn’t “believe” in second chances.

So basically, the standard criteria of “passing” a class according to the course rubric is getting above 70 in average, not missing two or more assignments, and not getting below 70% in ANY of the exams.

During the school year, I maintained around 95% in assignment grade average *according to the rubric he handed out*. However I kept getting below 85 for each of them because he took off grade for:
- something I apparently missed from a completely different assignment I did 2 months before that day
- adding an unnecessary line of code that doesn’t affect the actual criteria in any way
- making the comments (descriptions to the code that were necessary) too detailed
- not having a required block (that he apparently “made an honest mistake by not noticing them, even though they were highlighted and linked to two times)

So likewise, he did this for 8 out of 10 of my assignments, and I ended up getting an average of 82. Of course I appealed, and half of the “mistakes” he made got corrected around a month after they were recognised. The other half, are still left untouched as of now, after all the final grades have been submitted.

Other than the assignment shenanigans, he took off class participation points for some reason, added a class rule that if a student is absent the assignment for that day would be automatically F (which was made and announced the day I was absent *coincidentally*). He also made the final exam based off of 80% of the things he talked about on the day I was absent, so I ended up dipping low, as I expected the final exam of the bloody semester to be pretty evened out between all the things we’ve learned.

In the end, I failed the course, and about to lose one of my scholarships that had a rule that I shouldn’t fail any of the courses to maintain it, so I’m about to take a huge hit that probably will affect whether or not I’ll be able to attend the school next year. I’ve already talked to the Dean, who told me to talk to the professor and the director of the course m, who both happened to be my programming professor, and that was about it.

I’m not sure if this can be resolved legally in any way. I will provide any necessary information privately if needed. I just felt like not revealing anything more in this post since I know the professor browses reddit and didn’t want him to take any actions to prevent anything done to him. (Ex: reporting him to higher authority, sueing him, even getting him fired if possible)

Also sorry if my English is a little broken, I’m an exchange student and English is not my first language.
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 None of this is really a legal issue, unless his behavior was motivated by discrimination, and that sounds like it would be hard to prove in your situation.

Some universities have policies requiring professors to give notice before altering attendance policies. If yours does, that could help the one assignment you failed for missing class

As for the final, to my knowledge, most universities do not set requirements for how a professor writes their final exam, and the law certainly doesn't.


Title: Paychecks are way short. Please advise reddit.

Question:
Hey all!
I’m in rural AR. I work as a server for a restaurant here. Every week my check is exponentially shorter than I think it should be. After studying my check stubs, it appears that my boss is subtracting my cash tips from my $5.50 an hour wage after taxes. Is this legal?

I’ve been a server for over 10 years and this is the first place I’ve ever worked where my pay is so strange. Any other restaurant has only taxed my tips, not subtracted from my wages as well. See below for an example of how my stubs look.

Hourly —— 40.00 hours $5.50 an hour $220
OT ——        .05 hours $8.25/hr $.69
Tips ——-                                            $141.00
Total Pay —— $ 361.69

Total taxes taken — $65.98
Tips claimed —-  $141.00

Total pay received — $154.71

Does this make sense to y’all? Someone please help?!?

Answer:
 My math is coming out a little different but it generally seems right.

You get paid 5.5/hr and 8.25 overtime so 40.5 hours is

(40*5.5)+(.5*8.25) = 224.13

then add in your 141 in tips (which you already have paid out in cash right?) which is 365.13

Then they tax the full amount and you lose 65.98 in tax for a total of 299.15

then from that net pay take off the 141 that you already were paid in cash and your actual paid out net is 158.15

Edit: If I am misunderstanding and you did not get the 141 in cash then something is wrong, but it looks like they are just recording your tips so that you pay tax on them, it would work out the same in tax as if you properly recorded tips and filed taxes at the end of the year.


Title: (UK) Father passed away, mother inherited some money as there was no will, now she's trying to keep it all to herself!

Question:
Hi, my father passed a few weeks ago from heart failure, he was a lovely man and looked after us very well, my mother was never a very nice person and was very sneaky and manipulative, she lies for no reason and always tries to cause family drama wherever she can.
Once my father passed there was no will and we wasn't aware of any inheritance until a retirement fund came through of £32,000 awarded to my mother, we where all assured a piece until my mother change her mind and is trying to keep it all to herself, this has since caused drama throughout the family which is what she wanted in the first place and has also spent £10,000 of the money in a few days, the rest of my siblings say that we don't have a leg to stand on in court as there was no will, but this is not what my father would have wanted, please if you have any advice let me know.
Thank you

Answer:
 If your mother was the sole beneficiary then you guys don’t have a leg to stand on. It may not be the morally right thing to do but if there were no other provisions made, she legally has the right to keep it to herself.

You would need to contact an estate attorney first and foremost, if you want to attempt to fight it.


Title: DNA test came back and I'm the father to a beautiful baby girl. Is there anything I should be preparing for legally?

Question: Just recently came home from working 2000 miles away, and found out I might have a daughter. I took an at home dna test, and after the results came back, we put my name on the birth certificate.  I was suddenly bombarded by family and friends asking me what I'm doing to protect myself. Me and the mother have an amazing, healthy friendship, so I don't feel it's necessary. What do?

Answer:
 > Me and the mother have an amazing, healthy friendship

That's awesome. Are you sure it's always going to be that way? It's easy enough to find a few dozen threads here about how "my kid's parent has ghosted me, etc."

Getting a custody agreement and visitation schedule in writing now can head off problems down the road, and make those problems easier to deal with when they crop up. You can set certain minimum visitation now, and have more frequent visits than it calls for, for example.


Title: andlord says that while I'm not on a yearly lease, continuing to pay rent put us in one...but I'm trying to move. Part 2.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 There seems to be a common thread in at least half of all renter posts in this sub - roommate problems. I don't think I know anyone who has a roommate who isn't a problem. All most all of them end up wanting to talk to a lawyer eventually.

I think some enterprising law firm or insurance company should come up with roommate insurance policies that cover disputes and some legally binding agreements to sign that would help with some of these issues we keep seeing - like:

Roommate theft
Roommate physical abuse
Roommate non payment
Roommate drug use
Roommate drug dealing
Roommate child porn
Roommate partying
Roommate having sex with minors
Roommate's psycho ex

etc. etc. etc.


Title: Police report misquotes me, says I admitted to things that I only said had possibly happened (I had a severe concussion with memory loss)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: The odds of the police amending the police report based on what you've said are approximately 0.


Title: [CA] I ran out on an escort before any services were paid for or rendered, could I be in trouble or reported for anything?

Question:
I know its not the best look, but the title is pretty self explanatory. I messaged an escort over kik, nothing outright was said like "its 100 dollars to fuck" or anything, the most explicit thing was that she said "I meet for 120" and 2 nudes she sent. I did ask what her rates were, which could be incriminating. I went to the motel she said she was staying at, I went into the room, immediately regretted all my decisions leading up to that point, and gave her a bullshit story and left. She obviously saw right through it, and the last messages I saw before I deleted the conversation and uninstalled the app were "I have your license plate number" and "I'll report you".

Does she have any grounds to this? What information could she have with my license plate number? Could I be in any legal trouble for basically soliciting an escort, but coward-ing out before anything happened?

Answer: She won’t do anything.  In order to go after you she would have to increase her presence on the cops’ radar.


Title: (New York) Can I legally be fired for not coming in on days that I put as unavailable, but am scheduled for?

Question: So I've been working at a fast food place for almost a month now, and each week they've scheduled me on days that I'm not available (I work a second job and I work there on those days). The old assistant manager put in his 2 weeks, so I chalked up being scheduled on those days to that reason and made sure to tell the new assistant manager (who makes the schedule) that I cannot work on those days. As you can guess, I was scheduled again for a day that I cannot work, so my question is can they legally fire me for not coming in on that day? I haven't been in trouble nor have I had problems leading up to this, but they don't give a shit about their employees and I feel they might threaten to fire me over this and was just curious if this was legal.

Answer: Yes, you can be fired for that. Your employer doesn't have to accommodate your second job. Answer #2: Generally speaking, you work when your employer tells you to, not the other way around.


Title: Canadian Labor Law: My girlfriend is getting screwed over by her workplace after returning from maternity leave

Question:
Ontario Canada: My girlfriend recently went back to work after 1 year off for maternity leave. About a month prior to returning she discussed with them the possibility of returning part time instead of full time so we can reduce the cost of paying daycare and I have a much better job now so she does not need to work as much as before. It was then when she discovered that they were not even going to hire her back but after some discussion and her co-workers sticking up for her they ended up giving her a part time job, not what she was doing before with only a half day a week dedicated to being able to do what she was doing before to take over for another employee who can't be in that day. and at a reduced salary. When the time came for her to start back up again they ended up cutting her hours even more. While she was off for the year all of her co-workers got raises and I just learned today that because she asked for a raise they are not allowing her to go out into the field any more to take over for that employee because they are worried she will ask for a raise again if she's doing her old job.

this isn't a mcdonalds position, she's a biologist who has many clients.

Also they are now claiming that when she was hired full time, it was actually just temporary to take over for another employee who was going on maternity leave also so they told her that she should just be happy that she has a job, but she worked for at least a year and a half before going on maternity leave herself.

Anyway's, she does not want really to take action herself so that's why I'm going behind her back to gather all the info I need. It's a small company and all of the employee's are her friends and are actively trying to stick up for her, and apparently business isn't going to well for that company, but I personally don't give a shit, It's affecting our personal life and plans now.

Where do I start? What are my options? I know everything they are doing is illegal.. At least I think it is.
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 As an employer in Ontario, this is totally illegal.  After a 1 year parental leave, the employee is entitled to the position he or she left before beginning leave.  If the position does not exist, they are entitled to an equivalent position.

[This website](http://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/pregnancy.php) is a great resource.  Scroll down to "Rights for Employees Taking Pregnancy and Parental Leaves" near the bottom.

Discuss it with your girlfriend and if you decide to take action (which you probably should), the Ministry of Labour is where you want to start.  Looking into lawyers in your area specializing in employment law is also a good idea at this point.Answer #2: It does sound like what they are doing is illegal. You should check out this site to start.  http://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/pregnancy.php

It would be a good idea to contact an attorney in your area who specializes in Canadian labor law.  It always helps to know exactly what your rights are.


Title: Breaking a lease due to fire? WA

Question:
Last Thursday, my apartment complex caught fire. It’s one long building with 4 sections and 4 units in each building. I live in unit 1. Unit 3 caught on fire and burned into unit 2. The fire happened at 12:00 at night and I woke up to screaming neighbors yelling at the building for everyone to evacuate. Honestly it was traumatizing. I can’t get to sleep at night and the area just smells like disgusting burnt wood and ash. I have 2 more months on my lease but I really, really, just want to get out of there now If there’s any way that I can. According to the lease, “The apartment complex: Does not have a fire sprinkler system. Does not have a fire alarm system. Does not have an emergency notification plan for residents. Does not have an emergency relocation plan for residents.” Also if its relevant, there was no smoke detector in the unit when we moved in, and the fire extinguishers are very expired. The neighbors were saying this is the third fire in 6 years. Thank you for any help and input.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Is your apartment habitable? Was it damaged? Did the fire marshal declared different parts of the building not habitable?

> Also if its relevant, there was no smoke detector in the unit when we moved in, and the fire extinguishers are very expired.

You probably should have called the fire marshal of your area when you moved in, and, honestly, not moved in in the first place if it wasn't up to fire code. If there are still problems (out of date extinguishers, lack of smoke detector), call them now to get them to investigate. I'm also sure the complex's insurance would be interested in that information as well.Answer #2: Just cause you really really want early out isn’t justifiable. Unless the apartment was declared uninhabitable, you can’t break your lease without penalty as your unit/building was not involved in a fire.


Title: (UT) Person who sold my brother in law a house a couple months back is now trying to sell it again.

Question:
So as the title says, my brother in law purchased a home a couple months back and finalized all the paper work with the bank around the same time. Today as I was looking for a house to rent for myself I came across a listing for a home that looked familiar and it was indeed my brother in laws house.  The listing claims it will be available June 1st and to not disturb the current occupants. My wife text the number on the ad to verify that they were trying rent/sell the same house. Sure enough they are and they're telling her they can schedule a viewing.
What options does my brother in law have to figure out what is going on? And to make sure everything is on the up and up so he doesn't lose his house to some kind of scam that it seems like these people are trying to pull...

tl;Dr
my brother in law bought a house a couple months back, now the same people are listing it online and trying to sell it again.

Answer:
 Your brother isn't going to lose the house. The people who might try to rent it might lose money though.

And it's probably not the person who sold the house who is doing this: this is a common scam. Scammers find online listings of property and use the details and pictures of them to try and cheat renters. Report the listing to the site where you saw it listed.Answer #2: If he bought the house through a broker and it closed, he should be fine.  There should also be a title insurance policy.

I hate to ask the obvious, but he did change the locks, right?  It's amazing how often people forget to do this when they buy a new house.  If they haven't, they should do this right away.

I don't know if the police would be interested in the rental scam, but it couldn't hurt to ask.


Title: Are there any laws on how loud a stores external PA system can be? (Washington)

Question: A new hardware store was built by my house about 350-400 feet away and I can hear perfectly clear their PA system inside my house with no doors or windows open and my TV on. Im not expecting silence from them but it is excessively loud. Are there any laws that say how loud a system can be? Thanks

Answer: Likely it depends on your city and different city ordinances for acceptable volume levels and time of day. If it’s excessive you can always make a noise complaint on the non emergency police phone number for your city if it’s a nuisance. Typically if they get enough complaints the city leverages a fine against whoever the complaint is about.


Title: California: Landlord sold the property I rent (house), giving me 30 days to move out. I believe I have 60.

Question:
We got a verbal followed by (today) written notice the owner is selling this house and we have 30 days from today to vacate. According to the info below, I'm almost certain we get 60 days. Our landlord loves us: we always pay rent on time, no warnings/violations or anything, neighbors love us, said we're his best tenants ever. **Landlord's children own the house it and want to sell it.**

In the written notice they claim they can setup walk-ins to view the property before we move out **without prior notice if we're not home**. Looking at our lease, this is not in the lease and we still get 24 hour notice of anyone coming to the property without an emergency. So there's that.

Taken from dca.gov:

>A landlord can end a periodic tenancy (for example, a month-to-month tenancy) by giving the tenant proper advance written notice. **Your landlord must give you 60 days advance written notice that the tenancy will end if you and every other tenant or resident have lived in the rental unit for a year or more**

We have lived here over a year if he ends our lease when he claims on the written notice, 6/13.

>.201 However, the landlord must give you 30 days advance written notice in either of the following situations:
Any tenant or resident has lived in the rental unit less than one year

Doesn't apply.

>;202 or The landlord has contracted to sell the rental unit to another person who intends to occupy it for at least a year after the tenancy ends.

He is PLANNING to sell it but HAS NO CONTRACT. So this is where I need clarification.

>In addition, all of the following must be true in order for the selling landlord to give you a 30-day notice
The landlord must have opened escrow with a licensed escrow agent or real estate broker, and
The landlord must have given you the 30-day notice no later than 120 days after opening the escrow, and
The landlord must not previously have given you a 30-day or 60-day notice, and
The rental unit must be one that can be sold separately from any other dwelling unit. (For example, a house or a condominium can be sold separately from another dwelling unit.) 203

None of this applies, no escrow or anything. So we have 60 days....right?

Answer:
 >Your landlord must give you 60 days advance written notice that the tenancy will end if you and every other tenant or resident have lived in the rental unit for a year or more

My interpretation of that statute is that you must have lived there for a year or more at the time notice is given. At this point in time, you have lived in the rental unit for less than one year so he only needs to give you 30 days advance notice


Title: Lyft driver stole something from me [NYC]

Question:
This happened in NYC. I apologize if this isn’t the appropriate subreddit, I just need some advice on what to do.

About a little over a week ago, I was taking a lyft to my cousins wedding. I brought with me a card containing a hundred dollars as a gift. The envelope was sealed and labeled simply with their names. When I got in the car, I set the card in the cup holder, but as I was adjusting my outfit it fell onto the floor. I made a mental note to pick it up but since I’m useless it completely slipping my mind.

As soon as I exited the vehicle I took about five steps and realized I had left the envelope behind but the driver zoomed off. I pulled my phone out to call but had no service. I was extremely late for family photos so it took maybe thirty minutes to do the photos and then find someone with service on their phone. I tried calling but no answer. Over the course of the next week I had a back and forth with a lyft employee before they came to the conclusion that the driver was not responding to their attempts at contact and therefore there was nothing left for them to do.

Now, I’ve since accepted the loss of the hundred dollars and perfect card, but it feels unfair that the driver face no consequences. I was hoping lyft would suspend his account but they said they can’t do anything for me.

Is there anything I can do? My cousin suggest I file a police report but I live in California and have returned home already. Should I just accept the fact that sometimes shitty people just get away with doing shitty things?

Answer: You're pretty quick with the accusation of theft. For all you know his next fare pocketed it and he didn't even know you left it there.


Title: I damaged someone’s car while driving it. Can I get sued?

Question: Like the title says, someone gave me permission to drive their car for the night, and shortly after getting in the car I backed into a mail box and dented the back. I told the owner that I can fix it myself (it’s a small dent that can be pulled out by hand), but he is being very irrational and wants me to pay thousands to get it fixed, which I’ve clearly stated that I do not have. If push came to shove, could I be sued for this? I’m not on his insurance and I was given permission by him to drive his car.

Answer: Obviously you can be sued. They do not have to use you to fix the car. They are use a real car repair place to fix it and you owe. Answer #2: Yes you are responsible


Title: Doggy Daycare Injured Genitals WA, USA

Question:
So I dropped my dog off at a doggy daycare and when I went to pick him up the guy at the front desk told me that my male dog had gotten stuck inside a female dog (his penis inside her vagina) and that they pulled the dogs apart. I noticed shortly after getting home that his penis was still protruding and swollen. Got on the phone with a vet and they told me that dogs should never be pulled a part or they can both sustain severe injuries. My dog may require surgery due to the actions of the employee at the daycare facility (I was told wait 24 hours to see if his condition changes). That condition being a swollen persisting erection. I was assured by the vet that the dogs would eventually become "unstuck" and there was no reason for the employee to intervene. Could the facility be liable for the injuries to my dog or responsible for the cost of the surgery? If so, how should I take action?

TL;DR: My male dog was forcible removed from a locked sexual position. Taking such action typically results in injury and has done just that, should I take legal action and **HOW?**

Thank you greatly for any assistance!
Topic:
Medicine and Malpractice

Answer:
 > Could the facility be liable for the injuries to my dog or responsible for the cost of the surgery?

Yes and yes.


Title: I need information FAST guys please help me. So my husband and his family had a HUGE falling out. They are extremely controlling toxic ect...my husband cut them off for the sake of our marriage but the back blow is Astronomical (cont...)

Question: (Tennessee ) So the in laws are vindictive, and have the tendency to retaliate big time, my husband has Aspergers and has tried to make amends but the entire family is in an uproar and has tried to twist some things to turn everyone against me but that’s not important.  So he decided to cut them off completely. The question is this, my husband has Aspergers (he is undiagnosed due to work reasons)  he tried to explain to SIL and MIL that I have mental issues and that they should leave me alone, but he not knowing better said I have ptsd, ocd, depression anxiety and that schizophrenia runs in my family ect...He was trying to make his family understand about my past traumas to gain sympathy but instead I think he set it up to possibly have the family try to take my kids. His sister could have been recording everything for leverage as well. But he doesn’t understand that at all. I do not have schizophrenia or any mental issues that impede my ability to take care of my children, we live and a beautiful stable home and manage finances, I’m a stay at home mom but I am drawing disability due to PTSD and the inability to work but it’s nothing that would warrant me incapable of taking care of my kids ect... under the right circumstances does my SIL and MIL have the right to take my children from me? I’m scared.

Answer: It is possible that CPS would investigate if your family reported that you were unfit parents. As long as the kids are not abused, abandonment, neglected, starving, living in filth it is not an issue, you are fit parents.


Title: Baby mama wants custody

Question:
12 years ago I won custody of our child in the state of North Dakota. I was granted sole legal custody of her, she was granted visitation with the stipulation she never have the kid on consecutive weekends or more than 3 days total. There was some abuse issues against me AND the kid, and her ability to make decisions was put in question.

About 5 years ago baby mama got knocked up and subsequently married. 4 years ago, after allegations of abuse and questionable decision making, divorce was granted and full legal custody with similar visitation to mine was given to bio-dad for this human larvae too.

Bio-dad, fearing baby mama's batshit crazy tendencies, cut bait and disappeared, off the grid. Baby mama had the bright idea to go back to court and won full legal custody of the new human larvae by default because bio-dad is off the grid and never showed.

Now, the issue is following that landmark victory, landing full legal custody of a human larvae she doesn't actually have possession of, I am hearing rumblings she is starting the process of wanting custody of my child.

So... what am I looking at? Does she have any grounds to even do this? Do I need to lawyer up?

TLDR: shit mom granted no claim over my kiddo, wins custody of another kiddo based on a technicality, now wants to try to get my kiddo, what is my future looking like for me?

Answer:
 How on earth did someone who calls babies "human larvae" end up being the more appropriate parent? Heaven helt those little ones. The babies weren't involved in their creation and certainly didn't sign up to choose their parents. They don't need to go through life being told they're little more than parasites.

The only advice I have for you to to erase that term from your vocabulary, along with "baby mama" and anything disparaging. Speak about the adults neutrally and thr children compassionately. Courtrooms aren't the place for slang, no matter how you feel.


Title: Wanted kinky roommate, got mentally ill homeless lady.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You should worry more about her suing you for an illegal eviction. She'd probably win.Answer #2: She still lives in your house, if she comes back you let her in and then you can go through the legal eviction process.  Assuming you are somewhere in the US


Title: [US] Found extremely suspicious Tumblr blog. Wondering just how much of it could be illegal.

Question:
I followed a link to a blog by someone on an online gossip forum. The topic of the forum thread was a certain kink/fetish community. The link to the blog was posted to the forum as an example of how that kink can be harmful.

 The blog in question is hosted on a well-known blog hosting site. There are several photos of a young girl on the blog, purportedly the owner of the blog - the URL is also her name. The girl is very obviously underage - I would guess nine or ten. The photos are tagged with the word "underage" and specific terms used in the kink community. The photos are of the girl doing gymnastics poses in a leotard and tights (including one where her crotch is directly in front of the camera), as well as the girl posing in a flesh-colored bikini.

One text-only post indicates that the girl is looking for dominant, older male partners in the kink community. One of the bikini photos is captioned with a Gmail address to use for paypal, a kik username, and a solicitation for dominant, older males to purchase "cute" clothes for her to wear in photos or send her money. A different text-only post says that she will not send "free pics".

Obviously this is illegal if the blog is exactly what it looks like, and the user is an underage girl who is posting provocative photos of herself in an attempt to attract older sex partners, or an underage girl who is selling sexual photos of herself.

**However, if the real user is not a minor, is it still illegal?** There is a lot of implication but I don't know where that crosses into actual illegality. None of the photos are explicitly pornographic since the child is not nude or engaging in a sex act. Just...highly suggestive. I am not talking about an innocent poolside photo or a gymnastics recital snapshot.

I have reported the blog to the blog hosting website (notorious for doing nothing about reports since they likely get millions of illegitimate reports) and the Center for Missing or Exploited Children.

A reverse image search didn't turn up any matches (I thought if it was a troll, the images might have been stolen from some clueless parent's Facebook, etc.).

Answer:
 Clothed pics of a minor can still be child porn.

Several of your described pics could qualify.

Edit:

Downvote away- I've likely been involved in more ICAC investigations than nearly everyone here, and anyone who's done it more than me knows I'm telling the truth.


Title: My friend's mother is trying to send her away against her will

Question: Basically, I have a friend who is 16. we live in British Columbia, Canada. he mother is trying to get her sent away to live with her grandparents on the Coast (about 6 or 7 hours from here) and she doesn't want to go. She doesn't feel welcomed or happy in her home and when her mother said she was going to send her away she said that she was just going to move out instead. She has a place lined up to live here in town but she is scared her mother will continue to be persistent as she is pretty crazy. What I'm wondering is if there is anything we can do to keep her here? Can her mother legally just send her away?

Answer: Her mother has the right to do that. Your friend is a minor and doesn't get a say in that.


Title: I'm President of an H.O.A. and our property owners don't sign a contract. I thought a contract was necessary.

Question:
Illinois. How can we enforce our bylaws if no one is required to sign a contract? Save your hate for HOA's. We're a low income area and our biggest concern is getting people to fix up houses that are literally falling apart and unlivable.
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer: If the HOA is not based on deed restriction on the properties, it's not really a HOA and you can't enforce much of anything. However what you are describing would probably also violate town building/zoning laws so your community group could apply political pressure to the town to enforce it's laws.


Title: Ripped Off in Failed Trade

Question:
I agreed (like a dumbass) to trade multiple shoes with a man who called himself Gary Murray from California. I am from Pennsylvania. Long story short I shipped out the shoes June 21, 2016 and for the weeks following the guy kept BSing me until I never heard from him again. Doing some internet sleuthing I managed to find the guys real name, where he lives (which is where I shipped), His actual phone number which has my number blocked, and the where the phone he originally contacted me is registered to (a location where they guy used to live according to his Facebook page). With this information, are there any actions I can take to retrieve my stolen property?

Any help would be much appreciated thank you!

Answer:
 >With this information, are there any actions I can take to retrieve my stolen property?

Only if you are using that info to locate him for service of a summons for a civil suit. You can call the police for the criminal part.


Title: [California] Employer announced that the company is moving to Houston, Texas, and I don't want to go.

Question:
I created a throwaway, because this information is technically company confidential...

I recently had a crazy week. At the beginning of this week, half of the company had been let go. The remaining group (~7 engineers) was then gathered together in a town hall where the CEO announced that the company was moving to Houston. Frankly, I don't want to keep working for this company, and I definitely don't want to move down to Houston. What are my options? Is it possible to walk away from this without quitting outright? I'm sorry for not providing many details, but frankly, I'm so overwhelmed I'm having difficulty putting it all together in my head let alone in text. I can answer additional questions in the comments if you ask them and please do. I have no idea how to even begin approach this or google for help.

Answer: You should qualify for unemployment benefits if you do not agree to the move to Texas. That is just about it.


Title: Possible domestic violence situation and I need to know what my options are

Question:
Hello,

First of all I just want to say I am very nervous, afraid and not in a good place mentally right now so if I don't make much sense or if I am all over the place I apologize, I will do my best to be organized and coherent. Thank you in advance to whoever reads this.

I suffer depression and I am in treatment for it (I take medication), I am in medical school and I failed an exam on wednesday afternoon so it upset me (but I wasn't at the point of losing my mind), just really bummed out. I wanted to talk to my boyfriend about it as I was very upset since I have been getting lack of sleep as he only lets me sleep 1h at night because he decides to have a fight with me because he is horny and doesn't understand I need sleep over sex first, it is a constant ocurrence and due to sleep deprivation I am not able to study properly and keep failing exams, he also threatens everyday to break up with me and leave me homeless if I don't sleep with him so I have no choice to quit medical school and find a job to support myself as I come from an abusive home and I have tried to ask my parents to please let me come home but both have said no and absulotely refuse to.

I told him that ok, he wins, I give up...I am tired, I am taking a break from med school and he can just throw me out like he keeps saying as I was just so fed up of the same thing all the time. His reply is "ok", he gets dressed to go to the gym to go with this girl to work out as if nothing happened and said "so when are you leaving? when are you grabbing your stuff and leaving? I need you to make a desicion right now so you can get out because we are 100% over, your education is over". That did not help telling me to make decisions while I was upset and saying my education is over, I financially depend on him and even if I decided to continue he is not going to pay for it and neither will my parents and the school required you to be there 12h and I can't get a loan or work (not in the U.S). I have no family, no support system, I have been with him for 12 years and I just felt very lost and alone and all I wanted was to finish my education to be free from anybody hurting me and I felt it was being taken away from me and due to being depressed I went into a crisis and gave myself an insulin overdose to end my life that evening (he saw me inject it).

He was gonna walk out the door and go to the gym anyways as I sat there waiting for it to kick in, but I think he realized it is illegal to leave somebody in that state so he called my brother to deal with the situation and an ambulance so he could leave. Ambulance arrives and I almost got away with it as I lied to them and said I was ok but my brother told them I had an overdose so...my mother shows up (now? after all these years? anyways...) and goes with me on the ambulance and my brother goes to my house that was right infront of the ambulance to get my documentation and he finds out my boyfriend has locked us out and has dissapeared, no idea where he went.

In the hospital I had a seizure and wet myself due to my blood sugar going too low and they almost lost me, I feel like shit right now. My boyfrined never contacted to know how I was and he was supposed to have the day off but went to work instead while I was hospitalized from an overdose. I am discharged after long hours and drugged the hell up, he comes home and doesn't even ask how I was and grabs all his money leaving nothing to be able to buy food with (I have no income as I study full time), his clothes and said he was leaving and I need to make desicions now as to when the fuck I am leaving. I told him the psychiatrist said I can't make decisions in this state of mind and need time to be calm about it, he kept pressurising me and one thing led to another and he grabbed my arm and gave it a very large twist...I bit him to get him to let go of me as he was hurting me, I am not proud of that but I felt that I needed to do it.

He leaves, my arm 1h later swells up like mad and I have to go to the ER again...turns out I have 3 fractures. He fractured my scaphoid bone, distal part of my ulna and part of my 5th metacarpal. They are hairline fractures except for the scaphoid so I should heal ok, took me ages to type all of this with a damn cast on.

He is currently staying at the house of the girl he went to the gym with, he refuses to speak to me and just wants me to make decisions I am not capable of making right now especially after all of this happened. We have been together for 12 years and I never expected this, it is very unlikely of him and I feel betrayed and abandoned?

Sure, break up with me all you want, but there are times and moments and you do not take advantage of somebody in a vulnerable situation to gain control and make them feel worse when they are at risk and then just dissapear after extreme events. He says I am the abuser, that I bit him (I saw no other way for him to let me go...) he is going around showing his coworkers the bite bruises so they can see how horrible I am, that I am manipulative and that he is in the victim here and he is not in a stable place mentally to talk to me but yet wants me to make decisions after almost passing away and him breaking my arm. I do not understand.

The logical part of me says this is domestic violence and that I should file a police report, but the other side of me thinks that maybe he is right? That I am manipulative and a control freak and I am doing it for those reasons?

He wants to talk on monday but I do not, I blocked him everywhere, he is a trigger for me right now and I do not feel safe around him (he said that he doesn't feel safe around me and he is afraid of me...?). I need minimum a week of no contact before I even think about talking to him and if we talk I want a third party unbiased professional as a mediator so he cannot shout at me or so anything to not make me feel safe.

What would happen to him if I filed the police report? He is also staying in my country illegally and where he is from he is a fugitive because he didn't complete his military service when drafted and that is punishable for 2 years in prison...he would also prpbably get deported due to being here illegally and his documents out of order despite of being in the E .U. I see this as ruining his life and I do not want to do that but the logical part of me says breaking a person's arm and ditching them when they are at risk is not a joke and I should do something about it but I dunno...

I am so so so so sorry, I know I am a rambler, annoying and go on and on (he says I am anyways) and I hope I haven't bothered or made anybody angry or upset at me for wasting their time reading this for me being silly or something.

Thank you

Answer:
 He sounds abusive, and he's probably dating gym girl too. I can't give you any legal advice, I know nothing about Spanish law. But he seems to have confused you into questioning whether you might be abusive to him, and I just want to point out that from your story, he sounds clearly abusive and manipulative. Only letting you sleep one hour, and forcing you into sex, for instance, are not normal, loving behaviors. I assume he wanted you for free sex and now he has found another girl for that and doesn't care about you anymore, if he ever cared about you in the first place.

In all probability, he was always an abuser, but initially hid it and slowly ramped it up so you got habituated to it. Abusers tend to do that.

I'm so sorry this has been and is happening to you.


Title: Wife was physically assaulted

Question: My wife was assaulted at work. The dude came up behind her choked her up and slammed her to the ground. He then said he wasn’t done and that she is a liability. Her place of employment has done nothing because they keep saying they are investigating, but seems to just be backpedaling to figure out what to do with him. She’s missing work because he hurt her back and the hospital took note and called the police to report but we have yet to file charges. I don’t think they are going to terminate him because they keep saying well we’re looking into it and might have to change schedules around. Yet she’s been guaranteed 40 hours and a shift differential. My wife is scared to go to work and seems to have changed after this all happened. She was happy and ready to go to work the day before work and now she is just an emotional wreck. I feel horrible and wish there was something I could do. What can we do legally? Her employer has a zero tolerance against violence policy yet has done nothing to ensure she and others are safe.

Answer:
 >The dude came up behind her choked her up and slammed her to the ground.
>
>Her place of employment has done nothing because they keep saying they are investigating

Holy cow, when someone chokes and body slams me and causes an injury that requires a trip to the hospital, I call the cops, not my boss.  My boss is not law enforcement.

This guy needs to be arrested, not fired.


Title: [Colorado] Can my landlord do walkthroughs while there's a lockdown?

Question:
I am moving out of my house at the end of May, and my landlord wants to start doing walkthroughs for new tenants. I've asked her to do virtual ones so as not to expose myself or my family to coronavirus, but she's refusing.

My county (Arapahoe) is on lockdown until May 8th, and it may get extended if the virus situation doesn't improve. I'm hoping she can't legally invite a bunch of strangers into the house until I've moved out, but I honestly have no idea what my rights are. I've reached out to the city and haven't gotten any answers. I even spoke to a housing attorney and he said he wasn't sure if I had any standing, although it seemed like he truly didn't know. No one seems to know what the laws are in a situation like this.

Unfortunately, asking her to be reasonable isn't an option. She's out of her mind and that ship sailed long ago.

Obviously I will be in violation of my lease if I change the locks to prevent her from entering, so does anyone have any advice about what I can do? I'm really hoping someone here knows of a law that states she isn't allowed to do walkthroughs during the shutdown. An extensive search in Google yielded no results. Again, this is in Arapahoe County, Colorado. Thanks everyone!

Answer:
 I was in a similar situation in Larimer County (CO). Here's what I learned: Under the Governor's executive order, real estate "showings" are considered marketing activities, and thus NON-essential. Face to face transactions are only permitted after an agreement has been reached (buy-sell, rental, etc.). The Department of Regulatory Agencies Division of Real Estate is a good source for information/guidance. As far as the Governor shifting to "Safer at Home" on 4/26, the details of restrictions on real estate transactions are still being worked out. Colorado Association of Realtors' General Counsel Scott Peterson posts on this topic regularly. CAR is advocating (among other things): virtual and still photography are preferred, but if showings must occur, they should have no more than 3 people at a time. More: [https://www.coloradorealtors.com/colorado-realtor-coronavirus-information-portal/](https://www.coloradorealtors.com/colorado-realtor-coronavirus-information-portal/)

I imagine Arapahoe County may have additional guidance as they've extended the original order.

Here's where I landed: I was absolutely unwilling to have 'n' number of strangers walking through my home, potentially exposing me to the virus ('mine' as I pay to occupy it with some expectation of safety, and it's my furnishing and fixtures that could be contaminated). This virus can live on surfaces for an inordinately long period and catching it would be catastrophic for me, both professionally and financially (FWIW: I'm a biologist).  Masks and gloves do not mitigate *all* risk.

I sent beautiful photos for the owner's to use for marketing purposes, and offered to leave 5 days early to allow them time for final walk through(s). We agreed I will prorate rent accordingly.

Best of luck!


Title: I was arrested and tased when the police were called to bring my to a psychiatric hospital under a baker act. The state dropped the charges, but the arrest is now on my record. Is there anything bedsides a lengthy expungement process that I can do?

Answer: No. That's it.


Title: [California] Fair Housing Act reasonable parking accommodation - apartment complex gave me a reserved parking space, but not able to tow when other people park there

Question:
In a nutshell, I had a knee surgery and I'm in a full leg brace which makes it hard to walk long distances so my landlord has been helpful and have given me a reserved space.  [See example 2, this is pretty much my situation](http://www.accessiblehousing.org/rights/accommodations.asp).

Without going into a ton of details, people park in the space anyways.  The landlord says the best they can do is try to get in contact with them, give them a ticket and they have to wait a few days to tow the car - however I can call and get it towed on my own dime.  I've left notes on cars before saying this is reserved and to please not park there so I've tried going the nice route.  I know it's not legal to put those hellish orange/green stickers of shame on there.

I give them praise because they've been helpful with getting me the space and it's great when someone else doesn't park there, but 50% of the time someone is parked there and there's nothing they can do.

They are saying I can pay to get someone towed, which at this point I'm about to do for "repeat offenders" just out of spite - the money isn't an issue, it's more out of principal.  This one jerkoff parks his Jeep there anyways even after I've left him a few notes and they've given him tickets.

So my questions:

1. I understand it's "bad for business" for the complex to tow cars parked in a reserved space, but are they under an obligation to do it in a timely manner?  How is timely defined?  "Tickets" (whatever they mean by that) obviously are not working and not sure what they can do besides tack it onto their rent.  It's private property.
2. If I pay to get the car towed, could I be held liable in any way?
3. Are there any other ways I should try to deal with this first?

I feel like there's standard "No parking, violators will be towed" signage, which I haven't seen here (but I haven't been looking).  That's my main hesitation on #2 (if they choose to pick up the car and tow it, is it on the tow company at that point?)

Please help!

Answer: See if your doctor will approve a temporary disabled permit (<6 months) and then you can park in the reserved disabled spaces, assuming that's fairly close to your apartment.


Title: Buddy going through divorce. No court date, no settlement yet. Wife cleaned out house. Will the thing he buys to replace what she took become part of what eventaully has to be divided in settlement?

Question:
GA. My buddy's wife moved out suddenly and took pretty much everything from the house. He needs lots of basic things like kitchen stuff to cook and eat on, sofa, TV, lamps, etc. Naturally, his assets are kinda stretched right now. So some friends and i were talking about maybe giving him some basic stuff.

But there's no way i want to give him something if it could eventually end up being part of the "community" belongings that are split between him and his wife when the settlement finally happens. So first, could she end up with anything we give him as a result of her moving out (and illegally taking everything with her)? If so, would there be a way for us to loan him the items on the condition that he would return them to us when he can buy his own things? If we did that how would we mark them to indicate that they belong to us? Would a $1 rental contract be a better idea so there's a paper trail to prove the items don't belong to him?

Answer: What you friend needs to do is ask those questions to his divorce attorney, because the best answer we can give you here is "maybe".


Title: H&R Block "forgot" to file my friend's tax returns [MA]

Question:
Hey everyone, my friend filed her tax returns through H&R Block in February, paid them and completed all the procedures (she has the forms from them and everything). But it's been so long she checked up with them about why she didn't receive her returns yet.

Turns out H&R messed up and their employee "forgot" to file it.

The questions I have is:

1. Will my friend get into any legal trouble (fines, etc.) because of this?

2. Is she entitled to any financial compensation because of their mess up?
Topic:
Tax Law

Answer:
 If she was owed a refund, the IRS doesn't charge penalties or anything else. If she doesn't have any damages then she really doesn't have any course of action. She should ask and maybe as a goodwill gesture her H&R will refund her the fee they charged her to file.

 If she owed money then she would have to pay late fees and penalties and would be entitled to reimbursement from H&R. Answer #2: IANAL obviously, but maybe she should get it in writing from H&R that they messed up. In case her tax return being late somehow comes up in the future for whatever reason.


Title: Can I get a job purposely to get fired?

Question:
Title explains most of this. I had this dumb idea where I would get a job at McDonalds and show up drunk on the first day. I'm assuming I'd be fired on the spot. Would I have any legal issues doing this? To avoid public intoxication, I'd have a ride home on standby.

What do you guys think?

Answer: Why, though? Answer #2: A ride home on stand by doesn't prevent public intoxication laws from being broken. The McDonald's has all your identification information from the hiring process and cameras in the restaurant. Just takes a phone call and a police report for a bored cop to come knocking on your door if so inclined. Answer #3: I, with 100% certainty, can assure you that someone showing up drunk to his first day at McDonalds has happened many, many times. They might even have a specific policy for that in place


Title: Is the attorney's oath unconstitutional?

Question: I recently learned that new attorneys in most states have to swear to support the US Constitution. Obviously it seems to be in effect everywhere, but why isn't it unconstitutional under the First Amendment? Seems to be an ideological test for a regulated profession. One can be a perfectly fine lawyer while opposing the principles of the Constitution.

Answer:
 And remember that a lawyer who swears to support the Constitution is not constrained from seeking changes to the Constitution— by swearing to support the Constitution, after all, they perforce swear to support Article V, “Mode of Amendment.”Answer #2: Ugh. It's 1am and this just crushed my head. No, swearing to follow the constitution is not unconstitutional.Answer #3: The structure of the practice of law in the United States follows from the notion that the courts, legislature, and executive form the legitimate government of the land. Lawyers assist people in navigating that system, and advocate for them. A lawyer who can't do that is a danger to their clients, regardless of the seriousness of their beliefs.

A lawyer can absolutely believe that the constitutional system of government in place is a bad system. There's no problem with that, and lawyers are not asked to leave that belief at the door. A lawyer who can't separate their personal beliefs from their job, however, should not be practicing.Answer #4: No.  Article VI of the U.S. Constitution establishes the U.S. Constitution as the "supreme law of the land" it would seem to be just simple logic that an attorney would swear an oath to support it.

>This Constitution, and the laws of the United States which shall be made in pursuance thereof; and all treaties made, or which shall be made, under the authority of the United States, shall be the supreme law of the land; and the judges in every state shall be bound thereby, anything in the Constitution or laws of any State to the contrary notwithstanding.


Title: Landlords murdered, where do I stand as their tenant? (England, UK)

Question:
Well this is an unknown situation for me!

I rent a property through an agent, landlord is named on my tenancy agreement however, c/o of the agent. Regrettably my landlord has been murdered (first I heard about it was on the news) and now I fear that I will have to move house!

I have a new family and its taken a very long time to find a place that we can stay in much longer than 6 months (in the past we've either had problems with people, properties are sold etc) and I have my fingers crossed that this does not go the same way.

Whats my stance as a tenant now? Am I at the mercy of the landlords' relatives? I have 3 months remaining on my initial 6 month tenancy before it moves to a rolling tenancy. The possibility of buying the house (if sold), without serious help, is far from my hands.

Of course my condolences go to the landlord's family.

Answer:
 IANAL and also not in the UK.  I'd suggest contacting the leasing agent.  You're likely fine for now, as whoever handles the estate would have to go through proper eviction procedures if they decide they want you to leave for whatever reason.  Until they decide what they want to do with the property, you should continue paying your rent to the agent.

You should cross post this to /r/LegalAdviceUK.  You're more likely to get accurate answers there.


Title: Got pulled, blew 0.00 charged with DWI and gave blood test. Blood test came back negative. (Nevada)

Question:
Hey everyone,

Here's the story. Try and make it as short as possible. Left my parents house after a early dinner and was driving back to my place. Had 0 drinks at dinner and got pulled over around 6:00 pm. The officer said I was swerving but I told him I might of was just looking at my stereo. Tells me I have the odor of Booze coming off of me and if I would submit to a field sobriety test. I did the test and told me if I could blow in his breathalyzer. I did, he went to his car and came back and told me I was under arrest. In shock I asked what I blew and he said 0.00 and told me I was high and that my car "now" smelled of marijuana. He asked me where the marijuana was and I told him I don't smoke. Never liked smoking as it made my anxiety worse. He searches the car and alas to him nothing was found. I was taken to the police station to get a blood test and booked into jail for 16 hours because they said I was allowed to leave right away as I was "high" and had to come down off of it. The whole time every police officer was asking what drugs I was on and I kept telling them nothing. Finally get released the next day and of course my family thinks I was high now. They said police just don't arrest you for nothing and I told them I did absolutely nothing and how could I have done anything since I just left your house. Flash forward to last Wednesday when I finally   got my results back (negative results on all 12 tests). Now that I proved my point to my family that I did nothing. I'm really still very pissed off about this and even though everything was dropped it still makes me mad. Im just thinking that how can a police officer get away with taking somebody to jail for nothing. I was thinking to myself if my friends had smoked weed a week earlier and the same thing happened they would still be charged with DUI. Being 25 and knowing a lot of kids my age smoke weed, I was wondering if this officer assumed I had cannabis in my system and was just trying to get his "quota" or just thought he could get me on some kind of drug to persecute me. Is there anything you would recommend to me or should I just forget about this all together.

Thank You Reddit

Edit: thank you guys for all the replies. It has helped me out a lot.

Answer:
 You are missing the point. Testing for intoxicants just makes it easier to for a charge of unsafe  driving ( called different things in different states) to stick. You can be stone cold sober and if you driving in an unsafe manner, weaving, changing lanes without signals, speeding or driving too slow  failure to maintain a safe interval etc, you can be charged. Being under the influence of something is a little extra to nail you.

IamaL


Title: Just received a copy of a background check, I am floored.

Question:
I applied for DoorDash for a little extra vacation money and just received a copy of my background report. I’ve never lived out of state, and barely even out of the same county for my entire life. That said, it’s come back with a misdemeanor for “Facilation (?) fugitive from another state” with a guilty disposition and a restitution of 0.00. I’ve only ever had speeding tickets and while I did completely forget about it, I paid it IN FULL when I was arrested for the bench warrant. Even then, the state trooper mentioned that I was listed as a fugitive from out of state and said that it was strange because of the circumstances. The ticket was also in the same state. I genuinely feel like this is why I’ve lost so many job opportunities and not knowing it was even on my record or that I even had a record.

[charges](https://imgur.com/a/MJSHNez)
Topic:
Background Checks and Expungements

Answer: Sounds to me like you may have a case of identity fraud, however I feel this may only be able to be removed from your record if you can PROVE it was not you who helped the fugitive. You’ve never been to Kansas or what?


Title: (CA) cousin is growing weed and making good money. He borrowed $5k from my grandma. If I coerce him to pay her back, could she be screwed if he gets busted?

Question:
He's a POS. I'm only compelled to coerce him because he's a POS and I'm pissed.

My logical side says leave it alone, but my asshole side says shake him down.

I'm allowing myself to cool down because I know I'm pissed.

My main question is if he pays her back, can she get screwed because the money is likely drug money?

But if the answer is yes, I'll probably just turn him in.

Edit:  alrighty, no blackmail.

Answer: Did she know it was for drugs? I wouldn't "coerce" anybody.


Title: I was fired because "my cultures and ideals don't match their standards"

Question:
I'm currently in Baldwin County, AL and was employed at an Ulta as a temporary employee until the store was done being set up. 50 people were hired, 25 would stay.
*I was told on a Monday I was being kept for the final store* along with one of my friends and that they were excited to have me there and that they loved my hard working attitude. I had Tuesday off due to class and returned Wednesday for store training. I spent the whole day going through training videos, asking questions about products and learning about Ulta policies. Later that day I found out that I would not be schedules on Thursday morning but instead Thursday night which was not the schedule I agreed with my manager. I brought it to her attention and told her I could not come because I had class and would prefer to come that morning like we planned for my scheduled training. They told me not to worry about it and that it was fine and I continued setting up the store. As I was about to clock out on the system my manager called me over to speak with her in the office; as I walked over the manager of a different branch who was helping with setting up the store asked me to take out the trash in the back before I left so I did as she asked. When I returned the manager of the other store and my manager told me that they were thankful for my help the past week and how cheery and well mannered I was but that **"my cultures and ideals don't fit the Ulta standard."**
After they said that they told me I don't have return for work even though I was scheduled for Friday and that I could clock out.

I have not contacted their HR yet as I'm waiting to receive my final paycheck tomorrow so I don't have any conflict with the managers. I requested over email an explanation of why they told me that but my manager simply ignored the question and replied to my other ones. I emailed her again and asked if we could meet in person but she never responded. When I came in to get my paycheck, I asked the manager of the different branch if I could speak with her but she told me she was busy. I asked if there was a better time and she told me to email the other manager who I already tried to contact.

I'm no HR rep but I'm 90% sure you can't tell someone that as a valid reason for firing them? I have no evidence that they told me besides the email I sent where my manager didn't *deny* saying those words. But do I have any options? What can I even do with this?

Answer:
 IANAL but Alabama is an at will state. They can fire you for pretty much any reason or no reason at all. Answer #2: "Later that day I found out that I would not be schedules on Thursday morning but instead Thursday night which was not the schedule I agreed with my manager. I brought it to her attention and told her I could not come because I had class and would prefer to come that morning like we planned for my scheduled training. They told me not to worry about it and that it was fine and I continued setting up the store."

I only have your story to go on but based on that it seems likely that something about this interaction changed their mind about keeping you. It could be as simple as you were unable to work the schedule they wanted you to work or it could have been something about how you handled the interaction that led to them coming to the conclusion that you wouldn't be a good fit. Their word choice makes me guess that the latter is more likely but it isn't more than a guess. If the interaction was rough I'd recommend treating this as feedback on how you can improve future interactions of this type because this sort of thing will definitely happen again where you are unable to work a schedule an employer wants you to work and flexibility is expected.


Title: Can someone send a recorder with their autistic child to school? Child can't communicate.

Question: Does anyone know the law for recording someone in the state of Georgia without their knowledge? This would be a parent of a special needs child. The child is nonverbal and the parents are suspecting abuse is going on at school. It is a public school, the child is 16. Is it legal to send a recorder to school on the child to make sure nothing bad is going on? what are the legal ramifications if they find the recorder and with the recordings admissible in cour

Answer: Georgia has a one party consent law when it comes to recording people. So as long as one person knows they’re being recorded, then it’s fine. It may be argued that a nonverbal student can’t actually consent, which could open you up to criminal prosecution or even a civil lawsuit. So I would say don’t do this. Contact the school or school board and express your concerns first.


Title: [US][CA] Sueing a company out of existence- is this possible?

Question:
Uber long story.. So telling the short: AAFES has a credit card program known as the Military Stars Card Program. This company has a history of preying on service members by masquerading as some great service. However, they fabricate fake charges to peoples' accounts, forcing them to pay fees and/ or interest unbeknownst to their customers.

The question Im asking is, will it be possible for me to sue this entity to the point they are no longer in business? Because they dont deserve to be working with the military, and if i just file a civil lawsuit to handle my issues - it wont stop them from continuing their poor business practices.

Any and all advice will be welcomed.

Answer:
 >The question Im asking is, will it be possible for me to sue this entity to the point they are no longer in business?

The AAFES isn't a privately-held or publicly-traded corporation. It's [part of the Department of Defence](http://www.aafes.com/about-exchange/exchange-quick-facts/).


Title: Would I be able to sue

Question: Yesterday I had to go to the hospital after hurting myself in a big chain store. I fell off of one of their bar chairs.  (this was not at a bar and I was perfectly sober)  It turns out I broke my elbow. Can I sue them for my medical bill as I don't have insurance? I don't want anything extra just my medical bills covered.

Answer:
 Why did you fall off the chair?Answer #2: Was there some sort of defect in the chair that caused you to fall?

If the fall was YOUR fault, and there was nothing negligent that the store did, then you have no claim against the store.


Title: Will legal issues result if I tell my therapy group this?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Your teacher/counselor is legally mandated reporter, which means she must contact CPS if she is aware of any form of child abuse.  If you are a minor and still living with your parents your counselor would absolutely have to report this.

If you are still living with these people and in danger, then her contacting CPS is the best possible thing.  I would encourage you to continue to seek the support of trustworthy adults who can ensure you are never hurt again. Answer #2: The other posters have covered the mandated reporter stuff.

>I told my father about my mental health issues and he made a plan to help me commit suicide. I backed out of it at the last minute and he physically forced me.

This is attempted murder. It is completely unacceptable to remain with an individual that tried to murder you. Please tell the therapy group your story. Your parents belong in jail and you belong in a safe environment.Answer #3: > I told my father about my mental health issues and he made a plan to help me commit suicide. I backed out of it at the last minute and he physically forced me.

Jesus. Are you still living with him? Are you under 18? How long ago was this?