Title: There's been rumors of child porn being mass distributed on certain discord servers. The official response from discord seems legally questionable. Is this good advice?

Question:
[Discord's response](https://images.discordapp.net/.eJwFwVEOgyAMANC7cABaQNfibQgSNFNKoGYfy-6-977mGZfZzKHa5wawnzPL2O1UGakWW0XqVVI_p81yQ1JN-bhL0wkeF0Ki4NFhwLBwBB9XwtUxRSZmF_kFT3s3-TTbWzW_Pwb4Iuw.slzffmjpneiG-yaVRp57jshJQUM)

Basically Discord said that if you are pm'd child porn to contact the Discord abuse account and send them the info of the user who sent it to you and the url of the picture. Now the user info makes sense I don't have a problem with that, but would sending the links to Discord as opposed to directly reporting it to the FBI be considered distributing child porn?

Answer:
 18 USC § 2252 provides an affirmative defense to charges of possessing child porn so long as you "promptly and in good faith, and without retaining or allowing any person, other than a law enforcement agency, to access any visual depiction or copy thereof—
(A) took reasonable steps to destroy each such visual depiction; or
(B) reported the matter to a law enforcement agency and afforded that agency access to each such visual depiction."

That affirmative defense does not allow for you to distribute it to anyone outside of law enforcement, so take that as you will.


Title: Moving To The USA As A Live-Streamer (Need help with legality issues around Visa's/work)

Question:
Hello, next summer I plan to move into a house in the USA with some friends. We all livestream on the website known as [Twitch.tv](https://Twitch.tv) for an audience and make money through this. Now because possibly I'm self employed, I don't qualify for any form of Visa that I know of. The reason why I say possibly I'm possibly self employed is because it's a bit foggy how I get my pay as well as I have a signed agreement with them, not an employment contract. I'll explain:

* All my pay comes from viewers supporting me by subscribing to the channel or donating the sites currency.
* No money comes directly from Twitch. Although they do take a percentage of the money the viewer spends to support me
* A portion of my pay is straight from viewers donating money to me to support me

Like I said as far as I know there are no Visa's for self employed workers, I have no family in the USA, so I'm not too sure what my options are here. If anyone can help shine some light on this and help me I'd greatly appreciate it. If you need any more info don't hesitate to ask!

Answer:
 I am confused. How are you moving to the states if you do not have a visa that allows you to move to the states? You can not work on a tourist visa, including self employment where you perform work in the US.

You need to hire an immigration attorney to establish a way for you to obtain legal residency, then move. You can not just move to the US, even from Canada, without a Visa that allows you to reside and work in the states.

Ther are visas available for those who start their own businesses that employ a certain number of American employees. Somehow I assume playing video games to viewers is nowhere near that threshold. Your plan is unfortunately not well enough thought out to implement, and our  current administration is not at all friendly to people who live or work in the US illegally. Don't risk a lifetime entry ban for this. Answer #2: You can try talking to an immigration lawyer.  But since you have no special skills, no job, no family or friends to sponsor you, and not attending school in the US it might not  be possible.


Title: [WV] Neighbor threatening to sue for cost of trailer

Question:
My neighbor has a nice 40ish foot camping trailer that he takes into the woods for 2 weeks or so a few times a year. He doesn't have a truck so he pays me a few hundred to tow it down there and bring it back when he's done. He parks it on his own private lot but as I understand it he has neighbors near that lot about a mile or so out.

He asked me a few weeks ago to take it down for him and paid me. I picked it up 28 April and towed it down. Usually he shows up later that day or the next day and stays for a few weeks. He asked me to pick it up again 10 May. He said he'd be leaving that morning to do some fishing for a few days and the trailer would be ready to go.

Unfortunately I didn't get the chance and didn't get down to his lot until 13 May. I told him that when he asked and he said it was fine and it'd be OK. He said he'd call one of his neighbors and ask them to keep an eye on his lot. The trailer wasn't there and and I thought he'd gotten someone else to do it.

Today when he got back home he called and asked where it was and I told him it was gone and I thought he had someone else pick it up. He started flipping shit and accusing me of waiting so long to get it that it got stolen. He said he's going to be suing me to cover the full hundred thousand dollars of the trailer. He also said he wants his money back since its not mine anymore since I let his trailer get stolen.

Am I legally liable here? What should my best steps be?

Answer: He’s bluffing. Ignore him.  Unless you had a contract promising to pick it up on the 10th you are fine.


Title: Posting on behalf of my girlfriend.

Question:
We're located in Morgantown, West Virginia.

She works a minimum wage job at a hotel, she works almost every day of the week and has maybe one day off a week and is expected to always be at work.

She suffers from anxiety, depression, and ptsd from past events and isn't allowed to miss work without a doctors note even if she doesn't go to a doctor. She's been in two mental health hospitals in the last year for her problems.

She's had multiple mental breakdowns at work and they tell her to suck it up...is there anything she can do? Idk if this is the right sub, but I want to help her.

Other employees have missed multiple times without consequences and she's the one who gets reamed. I'm tired of her being treated so badly and she's just the nicest and most helpful person I know.

Answer: Has she told them she has a disability and requested one or more reasonable accommodations as a result of that disability?


Title: Girlfriend had her cat stolen taken by her stepdad and the locks changed on her house she’s a legal resident of. How can we get her belongings and cat back without resorting to physical altercation? (NY)

Question: Girlfriend of 4 years has the most obscene family life. Step dads a complete control endured psycho. He changed all the locks on the  exterior of the house she lived at (and legally is on her drivers license and mail goes there) and took her cat to another home they stay at in another town. Last resort is just breaking her bedroom window and getting her clothes/personal belongings and than going to the other house to just forcefully take the cat back. Any insight and help as to how we can effectively and legally get this taken care of without the last resort option is greatly appreciated. For reference the cat was brought home by her step dad who found it at work and gave it to her so legally nobody has papers for adoption etc but we did bring her to petco for a shot or 2.

Answer:
 Call the police and see if they will escort your girlfriend to get her property.

She can sue for an illegal eviction, but I feel like she would be better off just removing herself from the situation and enjoying life without the step dad.

Worst case scenario would be to sue for illegal eviction.  Do not break into her bedroom window.


Title: My mother never adopted me legally. Will I have problems inheriting if she dies? FL

Question: My biological mother left when I was very young. I call my mother mother because she came into the picture by the time I was 3, but legally she is my stepmother. My father died 5 years ago and she remarried 3 years ago. Her husband is closer to my age and does not like me, but she says she has not changed her will for him and I am in the will. He is just supposed to get her insurance policy but I get her house and accounts. If she dies, will he be able to prevent my from inheriting?

Answer:
 If you are listed in her will that you get the house and the accounts, it shouldn't matter if you were never adopted. People are free to leave their belonging to whomever they choose.

The issue of non-adopted kids gets tricky if there is no will in place, which doesn't seem to be the case here.


Title: (FL) A "sovereign citizen" is threatening me because he thinks I was on the jury that convicted him.

Question:
I have called the police but they say they can't do anything until he threatens me in person.

Anyway dumbass thinks that I was on the jury that convicted him(I wasn't)and has been sending me threatening letters and I believe has been driving past my house.

How can I get him to stop? What are my rights of he decides to do something stupid?

I do own a gun and I have a concealed carry permit.

Answer:
 There has to be something missing. The guy has written evidence of death threats, extortion, juror related crimes, and federal mail crimes.  This is like a gift wrapped birthday present for any police dept or DA.  There is no way that it would just get ignored.  Either there are some crucial details being left out or this is a troll.Answer #2: /r/quityourbullshit
Answer #3: Also, in Florida [this is likely to be considered a second degree felony,] (http://www.leg.state.fl.us/Statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&URL=0800-0899/0836/Sections/0836.10.html) and punishable by up to 15 years in prison. Answer #4: This is 100% Fabricated.Answer #5: Put gold fringe on your drapes, that will drive him off.


Title: [North Carolina] Failure to provide adequate breast pump location.

Question:
Good morning,

My wife works for a large hospital here in North Carolina, today she got to work and the office manager / facilities manager / department head are not there, and the 2 offices she uses to pump in are locked. There is no one else available with a key. According to the ACA they are required to provide her a space to pump which is not a bathroom as long as our child is under 12 months old (shes 7 months old).

I'm not usually a lawsuit happy kinda guy, but is there something here worth pursuing? This is, of course, an oversight on her work's behalf; however, this causes some pretty major issues for her (if you can't pump during the day your milk supply can diminish, in addition to painful gorging etc).

I appreciate your time.

Answer: I find it hard to believe a large hospital does not have a private room she can go to. Was this a one-time event? You're not going to win a lawsuit over a single incident.Answer #2: Not being able to pump on time is pretty awful (speaking from experience, here). Pumping in a bathroom is also definitely not good. However, if it's just one day, this isn't a lawsuit level event. She needs to talk to the supervisor and emphasize the importance of making sure the key is left for her to use. For today, she can call her supervisor and ask if maybe he or she left the key with someone else. If not, in a large hospital, there must be an empty lockable exam room SOMEWHERE she can use. Pumping takes about 20-30 minutes. I'm sure she can make it work for one day. Answer #3: First instance of trouble...not lawsuit happy...does not compute.


Title: When the court proceedings say that found 100,000 pornographic images on a computer, what does that mean exactly?

Question: To elaborate: is it just 100k of images downloaded into a folder intentionally by the user, or would this involve anything that would be in a browser cache and not necessarily something that user actively saved?

Answer:
 Some CP laws calculate images weirdly. For example, my state’s code says this:
> For purposes of this section each video clip, movie or similar recording of five minutes or less shall constitute seventy-five images. A video clip, movie or similar recording of a duration longer than five minutes shall be deemed to constitute seventy-five images for every two minutes in length it exceeds five minutes.Answer #2: It depends on context.

The total number of images found probably includes unallocated space, cache images, thumbnails, and other system-type images.


Title: Employer trying to control social media, threat of termination

Question: Does anyone know anything about the legality of a company forcing an employee to consistently post tailored content on personal social media (required 5-10 article shares from their company per day)?  I just started a job with a whole bunch of absolutely wild and unethical standards including required number of shares on personal social media and articles else immediate termination and the redaction of credit on publications. Trying to figure out how to slip out and this seemed like the most legally suspicious clause in their guidelines.

Answer:
 An employer is generally free to require you to post on social media as a condition of continued employment, so long as your employment is at-will and you're not under a binding employment contract.

Make a separate, work-only social media profile if you don't want this co-mingled with your personal profile, if the employer would allow that.


Title: Does prenup have to include exactly how much is in the bank amounts?

Question: I just want to put my bank number, but not how much money is in it. Does that work? Thanks.

Answer:
 If you don't have a lawyer, there is a 0.0001% chance of your prenup holding up.

If you DO have a lawyer, go ask her.

To answer your specific question, a prenup require a full disclosure of assets.


Title: [NC] Vehicle registration logic loop

Question:
1. I have a vehicle
2. I had to replace the battery
3. The registration has expired on the vehicle
4. I must get an inspection on the vehicle to renew the registration
5. For the inspection to pass (and to get my registration) the vehicle must be driven for 25-50 miles

Obviously, it's illegal to drive with an expired registration, but the only way for me to renew the registration is to drive the vehicle. **IT'S ENTRAPMENT!!!!!!!!!!**

Just kidding. Does anyone know about a "temporary exemption" just long enough for me to be able get the car to a point where I can pass the registration inspection?

Answer:
 > For the inspection to pass (and to get my registration) the vehicle must be driven for 25-50 miles

Wait, why does it have to be driven 25-50 miles?


Title: If/when I die, who is responsible for my student loans?

Question: Looking into getting life insurance to cover my student loans if I die unexpectedly. My mom co-signed on the loans when I got them. I am now married, so would my husband become responsible for them, or my mom? Thank you.

Answer: Your mother, provided that they aren't federal loans.


Title: HR pushing FMLA on several employees who have taken sick days or have been tardy. Why?

Question:
It was very strongly suggested that I apply for FMLA after being fewer than 13 minutes late 5 times in a month. I have not taken excessive sick days.  I do qualify for FMLA, but my doctor advised me against it, saying that it can have very negative consequences.

I just found out that 3 others in my department were also strongly encouraged to apply for FMLA, after a few sick days and tardies.  Those of us who declined to apply have gone from meeting or exceeding expectations, to suddenly have performance issues.

What is the benefit to the company to push FMLA?  Even after I declined, the company extended my deadline to submit paperwork to "give me more time to think about it".  What is going on here?

Answer:
 > What is going on here?

Impossible to say, but its possible they are being nice and offering you an opportunity to not be fired for being late.

> but my doctor advised me against it, saying that it can have very negative consequences.

That's nonsensical, you wouldn't take medical advice from a lawyer, you probably shouldn't take legal advice from a doctor.Answer #2: I have FMLA. I was encouraged by my supervisor to apply for it so that my medical issue would not cause me to be written up for absences related to said medical issue. I've been utilizing it for about 4-5 years now. It's actually harder for employers to fire you if you have FMLA because they have to essentially prove it's not in any way, shape or form related to your approved absences. I miss as much as 4x/mo and I'm protected from being let go. When I ran out of FMLA time once, they filed an accommodation for me so it would cover me above and beyond the FMLA.

Honestly, sounds like corporate might be getting on them about not disciplining people for being late/missing time and they are looking for legitimate ways to excuse those absences and protect you from being fired for them.

Take the FMLA.


Title: Money I gave my Mom to buy me a car is being withheld by her now. Help?

Question:
Earlier this year my longterm girlfriend and I decided to start a joint bank account. She contributed significant amount and decided it was time I had a car. The person I wanted to meet with for the vehicle was available during a time I would be out of town.
Therefore I asked my Mom to help out by going for me I sent $1,000 via USD and after this only issues followed.
She travelled an hour away to go buy the car with her boyfriend. Yet, when they showed up the seller was not there. When I asked for the cash back she said she was taking $100 for her time and her lunch.
I coped with that and continued to ask for the remainder of $900 for a total of one over month now she has refused to give it back at all. She has continuously made excuses saying she is getting it out of a friend’s safe. I left my grandparents home that neither her nor I pay to stay in because the environment was toxic. Now she will not reply to text or phone calls from myself or my girlfriend. Despite saying she would send it this past Saturday. My girlfriend needs the cash to pay for college now. Is there anyway I can force her to give the money back legally?

Answer: If your mom is the type of person to take $100 for “her time and lunch” then why would you trust her to begin with? Anyways, I’m pretty sure you can take her to small claims court.


Title: (Italian) Hotel wants to bill us 500€ because we threw up in the room

Question:
My friends and I got pretty drunk and one of them threw up in the hotelroom. They want to bill us 10x 50€ for all the things there was vomit on it. In my opinion thats far too (were only 19 years old and dont have so much money)

If you could help that would be great

Answer: There were 10 things with vomit on it? Pay up and call it a life lesson that not everyone will clean up your mistakes or bad judgements for free.


Title: Ex Wife is continually breaking the no third party contact order concerning my son. Can I file for an Exparte hearing asking for a change in custody? This is in Riverside, CA

Question:
In our current order, my ex-wife is not allowed to bring any adult third parties around our son. Several times (the last time being a few weeks ago) she has brought him around her family members who are the reason this very stipulation was added to the order, including leaving him with them all day while she worked.
The other issue will be proving it. It is my word against hers, as my son is 13, and I was told that the judge would not be talking to him.

Answer:
 Ex parte motions are for emergencies, like suspected abuse or sexual molestation. You can file a motion to hold her in contempt for violating the order.Answer #2: That is contempt, not an emergency. You need to document the contact -  some sort of proof. Right now all you have is your word against hers, since the kid's word doesn't count.

Ask your attorney what will count as proof of contact, collect 3-5 instances of this, and then file for contempt.


Title: Owner gets legally-obtained handgun repaired with gunsmith. Gunsmith refuses to return handgun, as owner is under 21.

Question:
This is not at all my issue, but I came across this [/k/ thread (from 4chan)](https://boards.4chan.org/k/thread/26854150/i-tried-getting-my-1911-back-from-a-gunsmith) and I was interested in the legal implications. Link is **Safe For Work**, as is the rest of /k/.

OP is from Oregon. He or she is under 21. OP acquired a gun legally from a family member, and later got it repaired by a gunsmith. The gunsmith refused to return the gun, believing that this would be considered an illegal transfer of a handgun by a licensed dealer to someone under 21. OP and many others claim it's bullshit that getting a gun repaired and then returned would constitute a transfer. Who is right?

PS: I've been interested in law for a while, and I might consider studying it, so it's always interesting to see the legal breakdown of issues like these.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 He should contact the local branch of the ATF. They can help discuss the law and work with the smith. A Licensee returning a gun to an individual that was repairs is not a transfer and dos not need a 4473. Answer #2: One can also own a gun and not transport it.

Welcome to the wonderful world of blue states with constituencies that largely split the other direction in relation to gun rights.

I can inherit a handgun from my grandfather. I cannot transport said gun anywhere via vehicle until I'm 21. But hey, if someone else takes the gun to a campsite, and I subsequently open carry during our camping trip, that is also legal.

Washington State.


Title: Is drinking water out of a liquor bottle legal?

Question: If a 20 year old is using an old vodka bottle as a water bottle, is he allowed to walk around with it and drink out of it? It's very confusing if this is considered an open container, underage possession of alcohol, etc. Massachusetts

Answer: It isn't illegal to drink out of an alcohol bottle, what is illegal is what is drank out of it. Keep in mind though that it will attract attention from the police. Just use a normal water bottle and there won't be that issue.


Title: Child dismissed from school without parental consent. MN.

Question:
My first grade (6yo) son went to the nurses office this afternoon when he wasn't feeling well. The nurse ended up calling both my SO and I as his temp was 101, but neither of us received the phone calls as we were busy at work. The end of the day came around (maybe 75 minutes after going to the nurse) and she asked him what happens with him after school.  He said rhat I pick him up almost every day. Now here is where it gets complicated.  I do pick him up almost every day however it is at 5 pm, and I pick him up from the YMCA that has an after school program in his schools cafeteria 20 feet from the office. She dismissed him and according to him said that I would be on my way then. So he went outside the front of the school and waited for one of us to show up. In the meantime my SO called the nurse who informed her of what was going on. My SO said that he goes t the YMCA where he is picked up and the nurse just replied that "well I better go outside and try to find him." They hung up the phone and my SO called to see if I was off and I wasn't as I was still 60 miles from town. So she left work and tried calling the nurse with no answer.  When she got to the school she found him in the office and was told that he was outside waiting for me to show up. He told us tonight that he was worried something happened as it had been about 45 minutes. My SO was frantic and sick to her stomach over it all. The nurse left without a sorry or a have a nice day or anything.

What do we do? I emailed the superintendent before I even got back to town (partner was driving) but where do we go from here?

Again this is in MN with a 6 year old first grade student who lives 3 blocka away and could have easily decided to walk home the wrong direction.

Thank you in advance.

Answer: Was he supervised outside at pickup? Elementary schools don't just let kids go outside, teachers wait with kids until they're all picked up.


Title: Someone hit my parked car in university garage

Question:
Earlier today, around 4:30pm or so, I came out to find someone had scratched the side of my car pretty badly. However I was in a rush to attend my 5:00pm final exam. I took pictures of my car and it’s surroundings, and decided to come back and report the incident after my exam.
When the campus police officer arrived, he wrote up an incident report and informed me that despite multiple posted signs claiming live surveillance, not a single security camera was working/had not been working for quite some time. (These cameras could have been broken for months for all I know.)
I attend Towson University in Towson, MD. For those unaware, Towson is not the safest city. There are multiple robberies and vandalism acts that take place ON CAMPUS on the regular. Someone gets robbed or attacked almost every day.
You can google the crime logs of incident reports for yourself.
Is the university responsible for security negligence ? They are more than aware of the constant crime that happens on campus and in the immediate area- and campus police and authorities are also aware the cameras have been broken for some time.
Can I sue? Will I win?
I’m not trying to get them to pay me a million dollars, the scratch is just gigantic and ugly, and I don’t have $2,000 laying around... because it all goes into my tuition(and believe me my tuition is way more than enough money for the university to have a working security system.....).

Answer: Didn't you ask this question like a half hour ago?


Title: Should I show up to Court for physical assault from my brother?

Question:
Hi, I was physically assaulted by my brother a couple of weeks ago and the court date for a hearing is in a couple of days but I don't know if I should show up or not.

I emailed them pictured of my injuries (I tumbled down a set of stairs and hit my head on the concrete) so they have evidence of the assault, but I don't want my brother to be prosecuted. He's 18 years old. My mom drove him away before the police arrived then came back to defend him & tell them it was my fault. My sister asked me if I swung first, and even went as far as saying i deserved it for "being in his face," knowing he has a short temper.

In my perspective, I simply refused to shut up when he was yelling at me then he attacked. I feel so alone during this.

I don't think my brother should be charged (he's not a psychopath, just very troubled?) but I do think he should undergo mandatory therapy/counseling.

I am not sure how to best handle this. If I show up to the court date and tell them how I feel, are they likely to drop the charges? Or, are they more likely to drop the charges if I just don't show up?

I've already moved out and will not be seeing my brother anymore. Mom says he's "learned his lesson" but he has yet to send me a genuine apology without having my mom tell him to. I don't know whats going on in his head.

Obviously, my family doesnt want me to show up to the court date but im tired of being bullied by everyone. Then again, I don't want to do this out of spite and I truly want the best for my family. This incident has shown my family how much they need to heal so I don't know if whats been done is enough, or if i should follow through with the rest of this story & hope the magistrate listens to what I have to say.

Advice appreciated, thank you!!!

Answer:
 If you haven't been subpoenaed you don't need to go to court.  This sounds like an arraignment, so I don't think you will have any opportunity to address the court at this hearing.

What I'd do is contact the prosecutor's office that is prosecuting the case, ask to speak to the prosecutor or the victim case coordinator (or whatever they call it there) and let them know your feelings.  If they drop charges against him, they are dropped, he would have no responsibility to go to therapy/counseling.  So I'd let them know you would like for that rather than any jail time to be the outcome of this case and see what they can do to resolve it in that way.


Title: Can a retail store legally require employees wear their clothing even if they do not carry an employee’s size?

Question: A friend of mine works for a retail store where she is required to wear the store’s jeans to work there. She is plus size, so she had some trouble with the sizes there. She was able to find a pair that fit. However, for employees that cannot fit the available sizes, would it be discriminatory of the store to fire them for this? Does the store have to make reasonable accommodations to employees who cannot fit their clothing?

Answer: Being overweight isn't classified as a protected disability, so there's not need to make accommodations, unless her weight stems from a disability that is protected.  And from my understanding, assuming this is in an at-will employment state, then yeah, they can legally make the employees wear their brand.  The employees can legally refuse, and the employer can fire them for that reason.Answer #2: Short answer, no. Think of Hooters and the likes. Dress codes are allowed to be discriminating (think about how women can wear earrings and men can't in some places.)


Title: [CA] Dog left outside barking/howling into night. Temperature dropping below 40s

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 What kind of dog is it? Some dogs are made for colder temperatures than others.
For example husky, laika or some others are perfectly comfortable  with temperatures way below freezing. Answer #2: Breed of dog and what it has available to it matter. Does it have a dog house with bedding available? Fresh water and food?  If it does that it can live just fine outdoors. Depending on the breed, they'll grow out a winter coat that will keep them insulated.


Title: If the deposition and the terms of a settlement in a lawsuit were made confidential and sealed, would testifying in court in another state break this confidentiality?

Question:
This case has two locations. The first lawsuit happened in court in the state of California. The second, new lawsuit is in court in the state of Texas.

A few years ago I filed a lawsuit against my bosses and the company I worked at. It was settled before it went to trial and as part of the settlement I had to sign a confidentiality clause. Because the allegations were of a sexual nature as well as other issues at play the judge sealed the records and documents from the lawsuit (as I understood it).

Now one of my old bosses and the company is being sued in Texas. I have been called to testify in court by the plantiffs lawyer. I have no problem doing it, except that I have received 2 phone calls from a defense lawyer telling me that if I testify I will get in trouble because the stuff from my lawsuit was sealed and made confidential. He said the court in Texas has no jurisdiction to unseal confidential stuff from a court in California.

I can't ask my old lawyer from back then or the judge in the case because they have both retired. The lawyer for the plaintiff in this case says it is okay but I am not sure I trust either side because they have motives for wanting me to testify or not. So I ask; if I am put under oath in a court in a different state am I allowed to break confidentiality? What kind of lawyer can I ask about this?

Answer: The only way that you can get a meaningful answer is to take your confidentiality agreement to a Texas lawyer for advice about what the agreement allows you to say. None of the lawyers that you have mentioned are obligated to protect you.


Title: My wife's accident...

Question:
My wife was recently rear-ended while she was at a stop by a car going roughly 56-60 mph about 6 months ago.   Listening to her doctors advice she went to physical therapy and racked up a huge bill.  Now of course the insurance company is fighting us.

However,  that is not the problem.   As the months have gone by my wife has developed severe back pain.   Just tonight she was crying out trying to get out of bed.   My fear is that since this obviously developed after the wreck and keeps getting worse she should get taken care of and report it to the lawyer.

Not only will this strengthen the case but should garner even further compensation for her pain.   But even after her lawyer informed her she should do just that she is being stubborn and not listening to either of us.   My wife is a smart woman but she thinks the time going through this will be wasted.

I plan on showing her the replies in an attempt to wake her up.   So please be honest and straightforward.

Thank you.

Answer: Not taking care of the injuries with proper compensation can leave you in major troubles in the future due to the accident causing further health issues.  There is a possibility of alway having pain for the rest of your life, why not be compensated and help make he future brighter.  It does suck investing more time to deal with it but better now than later.


Title: Got pulled over for speeding in NC and was “clocked” at 91mph.

Question: There was a van between me and the cop and there’s no way the cop could have clocked me instead of the van. I have a mandatory court appearance in NC and I live 4 hours away in GA. What can I do? Can I fight this?

Answer:
 > There was a van between me and the cop and there’s no way the cop could have clocked me instead of the van.

And you know this based on your hours/days/weeks/years of training and experience with police radar?

You can go to court and tell your story.  Whether it will be successful or not depends on too many factors for us to know here.

You'll have a much better shot if you use an experienced traffic lawyer.Answer #2: You should hire an attorney in North Carolina.  91mph is not something to F--- around with.  It will transfer to Georgia and, at minimum, your insurance rates will go through the roof.  There's a good chance that you'll lose your license.

By the '4 hours away in GA' comment, I suspect that you were in the Charotte area.   I'd recommend posting on /r/charlotte for referrals.


Title: Supervisor at work said that we can't use the bathrooms except on break and in an emergency. Is this legal?

Question:
I live in michigan. My supervisor told the team leaders that too many people were using the bathrooms, so from now on, no one is to use the bathrooms except during our paid breaks (or lunch) and for emergencies. Now, I did a little research and found that [OSHA mandates](https://www.osha.gov/pls/oshaweb/owadisp.show_document?p_table=INTERPRETATIONS&p_id=22932) that "The standard requires that toilet facilities be "provided" in every workplace. The most basic meaning of "provide" is "make available." Toilets that employees are not allowed to use for extended periods cannot be said to be "available" to those employees."

Now, would the time between breaks (about 2 1/2 hours) be considered an "extended period?"

I also read that "[An Employer May Still Reasonably Limit an Employee’s Use of the Restroom](http://goyetteassociates.com/2011/10/bathroom-breaks-when-can-an-employer-regulate-the-timing-and-length-of-an-employees-trips-to-the-restroom/)" how is this defined in federal and michigan law?

Answer: 2.5 hours is hardly an "extended period." If you have some sort of disability that requires you to use the bathroom more frequently, ask for reasonable accommodations. Answer #2: I would assume having to use the restroom between breaks is an emergency so what's the issue?


Title: Keeping maiden name on Social Security card?

Question:
Hello everyone,
I'm not sure if this is the correct thread to post this question to, but I'd appreciate some guidance. I will be getting married in the next few weeks and have opted to hyphenate my last name on our marriage license application. Though I'm opting to change my last name on the marriage license, I would like to continue using my maiden name for all other intents and purposes (i.e. work, tax returns, passport, etc.). My question is, does hyphenating require me to change my name on my social security card and, therefore, on all other legal paperwork, or can I continue using my maiden name? I live in NYS. Thanks in advance!

Answer:
 If you don't want to change your legal last name, then use your maiden name on your marriage license.  Otherwise, you'll need to update every form of identification you have with your new name.

You cannot use one name on some legal documents and another name on other legal documents.


Title: Can an addictions counselor test me without a parent’s consent?

Question:
I am under 18. Basically, I got arrested with some friends of mine for being out too late. The cops found weed. Was not mine. After everything was said and done, i got off with a curfew ticket. At court, the judge asked if i smoked. I dont know what i was thinking to say “i have before” but it happened and she ordered me to see an addictions counselor. She said if i show improvement, my $115 curfew ticket would be dropped. If i dont, fine increases to $700 AND i lose my drivers license. Sorry for being off topic, just wanted to explain what was going on. Im not sure if this counselor would test me or not, but i dont think id pass. If my parent dosent give consent, they wouldnt be able to test me would they?
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 Perhaps they cannot test you without parental consent, but they CAN say you're not compliant with the program and bring the court down on you.

Suggest you put as much effort toward compliance with the program as you do toward evasion of consequences. Answer #2: > She said if i show improvement, my $115 curfew ticket would be dropped. If i dont, fine increases to $700 AND i lose my drivers license.

> If my parent dosent give consent, they wouldnt be able to test me would they?

Let's assume the answer is no, and that they refuse.

Are you sure you would like the result, i.e., a fine of $700 and losing your driver license?Answer #3: You're not off topic.  It's a good question.

Judicially ordered counseling isn't going to be subject to parent consent, almost certainly.  But if the counselor says you need a blood draw, that's something your parents would have to consent to, or the court would need to issue another order.

Do the counseling.  Showing improvement doesn't mean you've never smoked pot, or even that you don't smoke pot now.  It means that you need to demonstrate to the court that you're trying to improve, that you're willing to play the game, and that you're not going to be an ass about it.  And just to be clear:  don't overshare during counseling, and don't smoke pot during the pendency of the case or counseling.  Here's how this goes down during counseling: You smoked pot a few times in the past.  You understand it is illegal.  You did it because you were curious and your friends were doing it.  You've learned why it can negatively affect your life, and you're not going to do it going forward.


Title: Domain and Website simply saying "Dr. John Doe voted for Donald Trump"

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 1. Yes you can get sued.
2. Your attorney could win the case.
3. You don't know he voted for Trump, you know he SAYS he voted for Trump.
4. When I had a lot of time on my hands, I volunteered at a local school helping kids with their homework.Answer #2: You're being a petty child because he voted for someone you dislike? Wow. Yes, you may be sued for this.


Title: Should I convince my wife to peruse rape charges

Question:
My wife and I were recently having a conversation about all the sexual misconduct allegations arising from the Harvey Weinstein fallout. Trough the course of our conversation she brought up a incident from her past she had informed me of but never wanted to talk about in depth. Two years before we ever met, in college, she was raped. She was at a nightclub, with a friend who ended up leaving her. She saw a guy she knew from school and he struck up a conversation. He bought her a drink. The next thing she remembers is being "out of it" and him asking her "do I need a condom? Yes or no? Tell me? Yes or no." Her next memory was waking up the next morning in his apartment where she saw an open condom wrapper on the ground. She got up to leave and then noticed on edge of a desk there was a camera.

She then remembered earlier in the night she had turned to take a drink and his hand was sitting right next to her cup. At the time in her mind it seemed a little odd to her but she proceeded through the night.

Later that next week a number of friends called and asked if she was ok because they saw her that night and she was completely out of it. Couldn't walk, couldn't talk, Falling asleep ETC. (All the signs of Rufies)

A short while later she was approached by another girl and asked if she had "had an experience" with this same guy. My wife didn't want to answer but the girl said "I'm asking because i think I had a similar experience as yours."

They compare notes, and it was the exact same.

Soon after that my wife was out with friends and saw this guy out again, with his group of friends, and he had a girl with him, that was in the same state my wife's friends reported seeing her in.

My wife says she has always carried guilt Bc she feels by not saying anything she has contributed to others being raped. I told my wife she was raped and she said she would rather deal with it personally then have to go through accusing someone and being accused of lying. My wife is very private and very shy.

I said "but yeah, but what if he is still out there doing this to people." And she agreed. And has thought about it off and on for years.

For the first time in our relationship she told me this persons name. It was a quick Google search and as fate would have it the guy lives in the same town- only about 30 min away from where we live. He's still single, and had a very large number of young female friends. He also lives 10 min away from the main university in my city. I showed her this and I could tell it brought back some emotions. She handles it well and says "I feel like I have responsibility for putting myself in that situation. Being alone, accepting a drink, etc."

My argument is that it like saying "the girl dressed with the slurry short skirt 'deserves' it." Which is absurd.

My state does not have a statue of limitations on this type of crime. My question is, what if anything should I do? I will defer to my wife Bc obviously it will be her that has to bring charges. The Thing that really gets me upset is on top of this happening to her that there is more likely than not video and pictures of it, out there, floating around. This guy is holding a trophy of what he did to someone I have grown to care about so much.

I now have a daughter and it has been weighing on me heavily as to the actions I should take from here. Please- anyone have any good advice?

Answer:
 You shouldn't do anything other than support whatever decision your wife makes.  Maybe look up some local counseling resources and provide them to her.

You need to be a support here, and not trying to persuade her one way or the other.  To report or not report a crime like this is a deeply personal decision.


Title: Cell phone stolen, I know where it is thanks to an app. What can be done about this legally?

Question: Trying to help a friend out. Their phone was stolen recently and thanks to one of those "find my phone" apps, they have found it is located across the state. What can they do through legal channels to reclaim their phone? Anyone ever dealt with this type of situation?

Answer: You can call the cops. That's how you recover stolen property. Ideally, you want to report this in person so you can show the cops your find my phone app.Answer #2: call the police (where you reported the phone stolen), and inform them of the situation.  Answer #3: Have they called the police in that city, or their home city for that matter?


Title: [NY State] I found an uncashed security deposit check from 2015, is there anything I can do about it?

Question:
Naturally I feel pretty silly, but I just came across a security deposit check from January 2015, for a place I moved out of in October 2014 that I apparently forgot to cash. I know checks can't be cashed after 90/180ish days, but is there any legal sense in which the landlord still owes me that money, or is there some statute that says the money is forfeit after x amount of days?
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 You can always cash it, the bank may let it through. There are no law stating you can't cash a cheque past xxx days, just that some bank might stop it.

Another issue is that there are no money in the landlord's account which might cause the cheque to bounce, which I wouldn't be surprise if that happen.

Landlord is definitely still owe you money, but the proper way to do it is to inform the landlord you still have not cash the cheque. Ask the landlord to give you a new cheque to save you some hassle and give him enough time to ready for withdrawal.


Title: My bf's sister isn't smart... and now she's under investigation for sending marijuana through the mail.

Question:
Hi there!

my bf's sister decided to send a 1 gram joint through the federal mail.... she was sending it as a thank you gift to her mother... along with her TAX INFORMATION... ACROSS THE COUNTRY..... TO A NON-LEGAL STATE. (Are you shaking your head yet?)

She received a letter from the postal service saying she has 30 days to claim the package... or the postal service will open the package...

She called me freaking out... asking for my advice... I have zero idea on what she should do. The letter she was sent mentioned that anything under an ounce can be punishable by a maximum of 5 years in federal prison.

So... here's the question(s)
•should she respond and claim the package?
•if she DOES claim the package... will she have to travel to where it is? (Illinois)
•if she DOESNT claim the package... and they open it finding a joint,  what will happen?
•should the receiving end of the package be involved in this?

This whole situation is beyond me. I have no idea what to tell her... and I've been facepalming SO hard at all of this.

Any knowledge and/or advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer: She needs to contact an attorney. Answer #2: She needs an attorney and someone to explain "mary jane is illegal everywhere technically" to her. Preferably the attorney. Even beyond this, you should probably consider seeing if you can arrange for someone with (no offense), some common sense about this to go with her so she doesnt do anything stupid.Answer #3: If she doesn't claim the package they won't do anything except destroy it.  She needs to get new tax documents and send those seperately.


Title: Friend's dog bit a neighbor almost 2 years ago. Now her parents are being sued for 150k.

Question: I know VA has a one bite law, but I'm not really sure how this plays out. Their dog is a smallish, maybe 15lb bischon. Apparently 2 years ago this 60 year old lady got close to the dog and got bitten lightly. A cop came onto the scene after the lady called police, so I'm assuming this incident is recorded. The dog doesn't have any prior incidence of biting, nor is he aggressive in any way. Now this lady is trying to sue for 150k. Does homeowners insurance defend you in court for this sort of case? Or do the parents have to hire their own lawyer? They said they cover 100k worth of bite damages. It's so frivolous and absurd that I'm angry about all of it. Can you countersue for wasting the law's time and her parent's time and money? Is it better to just get a trial by jury and show up wtih the bischon in a costume? It's just absurd once you see the dog. The dog is also turning 14 this year... He's a grandpa.

Answer:
 The dog did bite someone so you should stop acting like a victim here.

They can talk to their homeowners insurance and see if they will deal with this.


Title: I can work with a mental illness but I cannot do this with bullying, intimidation, discrimination, etc. After reading this letter, would you send it to HR, throw it away, or file a lawsuit? Why did you pick your choice? Alaska, USA.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I'm with /u/Sorthum here and my reason is (as you asked in your title): you sound incredibly high maintenance. I'm not saying you might not have valid reasons for being so, but it isn't helpful in this situation. For anyone else who hadn't experience the trauma you have I'd be saying: you are unduly sensitive and/or have a heightened sense of your own vulnerabilities. And that's fine IF you have requested some accommodation for your PTSD.depression. Because if you haven't you simply sound like an over sensitive employee with a not particularly great boss.Answer #2: I would absolutely, positively *NOT* send that letter as it's currently written. Hoo boy.

Have you requested accommodation for your PTSD / depression?  Answer #3: I'd bring it to a therapist and work through the relevant issues.


Title: Can a HOA legally forbid you from having guests over for more than a month?

Question:
The situation has already been resolved (and not in favor of the HOA), but I am curious about the legality of it.

**tl;dr:** The HOA of a place I used to live in tried to prevent residents from having guests over for more than a month. Can they do that? [Florida]

**Long story:** My gated community had a fairly large South Asian and Hispanic population. Unfortunately, this didn't sit well with a few older members of the HOA. (If I remember correctly, there wasn't a single person from a minority on the committee before this.)  It started slowly, with fines for inane things. For example, requiring the South Asian and Hispanic residents to repaint their houses, trim their trees, etc. The regular stuff. Oddly enough, the HOA didn't require the same level of code compliance from the non-Asian and Hispanic residents... But the rules are the rules, so the vast majority paid their fines and painted their houses.

The real problem was when the HOA instituted a rule forbidding residents from having guests for more than a month. The formerly-compliant South Asian and Hispanic communities immediately became outraged, saying that the rule was unfairly aimed towards them. Petitions were signed, angry calls were made, and eventually, the rule was revoked. Afterwords, three South Asian and two Hispanic residents ran for the committee and were elected. As far as I know, there hasn't been a problem since.

But the real question is, had the two communities not reacted, could the HOA gotten away with it?

Answer: The thing is, in most (all, I believe,) places in the US, a guest is no longer a guest after 30 days- they become residents. If there are occupancy or "no renting" rules, I could see how this would stick legally. HOAs often even limit the number of cars per house.


Title: $7000 is showing on my credit report on a lease my ex wife signed. What is the best course of action?

Question:
I have a copy of the lease,  I have a copy of the eviction notice.  Before this my credit score was damn near 900 right now it is sitting at 604.

The only name on it is clearly my ex wife,  I am only listed as an occupant which says and I quote:  "List all other occupants not signing the Lease Contract:"  Listed is my name,  and my toddler aged daughter.

Frisco, Texas is my location

What can I do here?

Answer:
 Dispute it with the reporting agencies. You can usually do this via an online submission. Include a copy of the lease.

How did they get your social to report it anyway?


Title: Abandoned vehicle dui possibility?

Question:
Yesterday morning I had police knocking on my door concerning my car being in a ditch. I told them I let a friend borrow my car which may or may not be true. He asked this friends name which I refused to tell and they left after a conversation. The notion of a sobriety test wasn't even brought up and they left. It's been brought to my attention there was a bottle of liquor within reach and empty cups in the cup holders which the officer has yet to inform me of.

My problem now is they towed my car and won't release it until they "put someone behind the wheel" I talked to the officer tonight and need my vehicle back. He's saying either I give him a name or admit to driving the vehicle and I'll get a couple tickets and he'll release my car. He's going to be at my house this morning to sort it out. My question is should I shut up and not incriminate myself any further or just say I was driving and take thw abandonment ticket?

I'm told they need to put me behind the wheel and prove I was drinking in order to give me a dui but there's no witnesses and he has yet to place me behind the wheel. My other question is if I should not say anymore how can I get my car released to me?

I'm in NY if that helps. And thank you it anyone is awake and has some answers.

Answer:
 > My question is should I shut up and not incriminate myself any further

Do that. Also speak to an attorney.


Title: Called for Jury Duty in another state, can't go?

Question: I live in Tennessee but was called for Jury Duty in Missouri. I only lived in MO for a year, 2 years ago. For 2 years I have been a resident of TN. I can not get to the place they are calling me to attend; I have no vehicle, no money, and two children I can not leave unattended. How do I get out of this? What happens if I don't show up?

Answer: Just call them and tell them.


Title: Can my boyfriend be denied a promotion due to lack of veichel/license?

Question:
My boyfriend has been waiting to be promoted to a supervisor at a convenient store in the suburbs of Philadelphia. In the job description, it says the applicant must have reliable transportation. However, managers have told him he may not get promoted because he does not have a license nor vehicle when none of job duties require him to have license or vehicle. The other day, his general manager told him that the area manager is going to stop promoting people that do not own a car.

Wouldn't this be considered social economic class discrimination because my boyfriend is not in a financial position to purchase a vehicle?

Can a employer actually do this to an associate? If the employer cannot do this, what is the best way to proceed?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 They can. If it’s a job requirement. Which it is. A lot of companies require management to have their own vehicle and registration.Answer #2: > Wouldn't this be considered social economic class discrimination because my boyfriend is not in a financial position to purchase a vehicle?

Sure, but that isn't illegal.

Discrimination is only illegal if its based on a protected class.  The big ones are race, color, national origin, religion, sex, disability, or age (over 40).  Its not illegal to discriminate against people who don't have cars or even against people who are poor unless that reason is a pretext for discrimination based on one of those other prohibited classes.  There are a ton of legitimate reasons to have this requirement so its highly unlikely it would be viewed as pretextual discrimination.Answer #3: Socioeconomic class isn't a protected class. So yes, this is socioeconomic class discrimination, and it's absolutely legal.


Title: My Wife was in A car accident caused by someone nailing their breaks in front of her.

Question: First off everyone is safe and she is Okay. My question is the person she hit was turning into a field of a known organic farm venue due to the wedding at the location can I sue the farm venue for having the main entrance closed? This place never has enough parking and is a known hazard. I don't feel that having an unmarked entrance onto a field with no turn lane should be legal for such a large business. Also one of the people that she hit had a warrant out for their arrest and was taken to jail. FYI this is in the state of Oregon

Answer:
 The problem here has nothing to do with the venue or parking and everything to do with your wife following too closely and not paying close enough attention to the car in front of her. Answer #2: > can I sue the farm venue for having the main entrance closed?

No.

> If you are a lawyer and interested in taking the case let me know.

You should delete that, it's against the rules of the sub.

Answer #3: What does an unmarked entrance have to do with her maintaining a proper distance between herself and the vehicle in front of her? Answer #4: No, the company has no control over how quickly someone brakes to turn into their business. Answer #5: Mods Please lock this thread already got the info needed. I guess this was just misdirected anger. Everyone who replied thanks for the quick advice TLDR of the thread tell the wife to stop tailgating


Title: Executor of the will won't give me what's mine.

Question:
I'll try to make this short and leave out the majority of the family issues and stick to the legal issue. Recently my step-grandmother passed away and she was extremely wealthy, my mother (her step daughter) dropped everything when she became ill and stayed with her throughout her cancer, her children had always only been in contact for money and they were upset when their mother decided to include a gift of $250,000 to my mother and her two sisters about a month before she died. This amount was a meager sum compared to the overall value of the estate. The executor of the will who does not like my mother because of this is just flat at refusing to release the money. My mom had decided that money was to pay for my college (which I am currently attending thanks to student loans instead) so this personally affects me. What can I do to get this money? If I had his phone number I would call and explain to him that his little beef with my mom is jeopardizing my future and maybe that would help change his mind.

Edit: I'm in Alabama
Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer:
 I think the key word here is "recently". It can take some time, years quite possibly, for an estate to be distributed. And the executor can't just hand over money until the estate is fully probated (debts assessed, assets assessed, taxes paid etc etc).

I was my mother's sole heir and it took 9 months to get everything sorted out.


Title: (WA) Debt Collectors Threatening Legal Action over Ex's Debt

Question:
Good Morning,
I have read reddit for a while, but this is my first time posting.

I lived in Seattle with an ex for 11 Months.  The whole time was in the same apartment.  I was not on the lease, I was not on any of the bills.  The property management company had me fill out background check paperwork.  When rent was due, I wrote my checks to the management company.  To settle the costs of utilities, I would either pay extra rent or give money directly to my ex as the bills were in her name (save the internet bill, which I transferred to her when I moved back to California.)

About a year after we split up and I moved back to California, my ex left the apartment and moved to another state.  When she left she had outstanding utility bills.  Approximately 3 months later, I started getting calls from bill collectors trying to get money from us.  They claim that if they do not get money soon, they will impact my credit.

I have had sporadic contact with my ex.  She has not been able to pay off the debt yet, and I cannot confirm if she has setup a payment plan.  I have perfect credit and intend to keep it that way for obvious reasons.

TL;DR
My ex accrued debt at our old apartment, long after I left, I was not on the lease.  Debt collectors want money from me.

The questions:  Am I financially liable for the debt that my ex accrued?

Answer: They can make lots of threats, but you're not obligated to pay any of the debts. Keep an eye on your credit report and dispute anything that pops up that you're not liable for. All of the major credit reporting companies have a simple process for disputing things on your credit report.Answer #2: No, my name is not on the utilities where the debt was accrued. Debt collector claims that, by Washington law, I established residency and am therefore liable.


Title: Violation of probation in California after moving out of state

Question: [deleted]

Answer: A lawyer is all you really can do because you were given a chance and fucked it up. The 80 hours may help, it may not. All in the judges hands now.


Title: Dog vs HOA Breed Hater

Question:
I have a young Rottweiler / Australian Sheppard cross who is likely the most well temperament-ed animal I have ever owned. While perhaps a little shy, she is nothing but freindly! My family, my friends, and all the neighbors I've talked to (the 3 doors on both sides, and the 5 across from me) have all expressed that she is not a nuisance, extremely friendly, and a welcomed part of the community.

Unfortunately, I received a letter today from my HOA stating that someone has complained about aggressive behavior including "barking causing undo fear" and "pawing at the fence."

What can be done to protect my dog from these false claims? Unfortunately my HOA has rules which allow the HOA to remove the right for a property owner to own any pet they do not approve of on the residence.

Would it be worth setting up cameras, getting people to officially vouch for Lexa's temperament (as neighbors or experts, where applicable) and more?

Obviously I don't mind vicious dogs being removed from the neighborhood, but It is ludicrous to have an innocent dog be chastised and penalized without evidence on the word of someone who dislikes her for nothing but her breed.

Answer:
 Dog Law specialist here.

Sounds like your HOA has you dead to rights on this.

I can't fathom why people buy houses with contract terms like this attached…


Title: I accidentally leaked my SSN and now I'm being blackmailed and threatened by someone I know who has it. What can I do?

Question:
Ok first thing first, let me explain how I got into my situation.

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I'm in a discord server with a few friends and some people who I know of. Anyways, around a year ago I was medically discharged from the Air Force, and I was talking to one of my friends in discord about why I was discharged and what not, and for whatever reason I wanted to show him my discharge paper and why the air force said they discharged me. So I sent a picture of the discharge paper in the discord which I thought I proof-read and had no important information on it, but somehow I missed a part that showed my full SSN. Now the friend I was talking to is an IRL friend for years so he's not the one that is blackmailing me with it, it is another guy who is literally 15 years old who just happens to be in the discord and is friends with my friend. This kid has been constantly black mailing me for the past year to post and share my SSN online and on some occasions actually posted it on reddit and youtube comments but deleted it after I started screaming at him.

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Now I know what you are all thinking, I'm a fucking dumbass, and I agree, but it was a fucking accident. Anyways, my friend told me the kids information and I know his address, real name, etc, and I was wondering is there anyway I could go to the police or something about this? I mean the kid genuinely wants to fuck up my life and I know that it's virtually impossible to get your SSN changed unless there is evidence that someone has used your SSN to steal money from you or whatever. So if I went to the police about this, is there anyway they could make sure the kid doesn't do shit with my SSN? Keep in mind he lives in another state than me.

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This has literally caused me anxiety for the past year just because I don't want my personal shit out there and I just want to find out if there is a way I can be sure this dickhead doesn't post my SSN anywhere. Like I figured if I got cops involved that maybe an actual police officer can speak to him in person and would hopefully scare him enough not to do anything with it since he is only 15.

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Please actually help me out here and give me advice instead of calling me a dumbass for getting into this situation, because as I said, I am a dumbass for getting into this situation.

Answer: Take screenshots, go to police. Extortion is a crime, and you're wasting time by waiting. They will give you the advice you need.


Title: Found out ex wife is a cam girl, going for custody

Question:
So I just recently found out that my ex-wife has become and online "streamer" and was offering nsfw pictures of herself for sale on another website that was linked to her account. As you can imagine I was absolutely furious since she is performing from her house. The issue at hand is that we have joint shared custody with 1 child who is under the age of 12 who resides at her house on her weeks (alternating every other week). Upon further investigation through various search engines, reading of twitter postings, etc., I have now learned that she had been doing webcam sex shows for the past year and a half/ two years. She's posted pictures of herself going to sex conventions as well.

There are many issues that arise from this. One is that my child always seems very depressed to go back to her when it's her week and had mentioned her doing YouTube videos before and recently which aroused the suspicion and lead to me looking deeper into what shes doing for money. Another is that there seems to be no caring about our child's extra curricular activities (sports, hobbies, etc.). For example, our child has played a sport for 3 years, they only go to practice and games when I take them as she and her husband don't seem interested in taking the time to cheer on and support the child in sporting events. I pay for all the equipment, fees, and anything else they may need to play/practice for the sport. And I have not once complained to my ex about money issues and only about their lack of cooperation in getting the child to games and practices.

But I digress, I coming here asking for advice as I have already contacted my attorney and will be seeking full custody of my child in order to get him away from what I perceive to be a toxic environment. And by toxic I mean exposure to sexual content (I fucking hope not), lack of interest from the parents in hobbies that the child is interested in, and even simple lack of weather appropriate clothing (kid was wearing blue jeans when it was over 90F because they didn't own any shorts). I am curious as to what the reality is that I will be able to present the evidence to my attorney and have his be a swift custody battle. Or does my evidence mean shit if there's no physical signs of neglect or endangerment (which there hasn't been). I love my child very much and I will try all that I can to get them away from this environment no matter the cost or time. I'm really just looking for information and guidance with what all to tell my attorney and how to proceed before I meet with him next week.

TLDR; want full custody of my kid because my ex wife is a camwhore who doesn't seem to care about the child. Meeting with attorney next week, any advice would be appreciated.

Answer:
 This may come as a shock to you, but performing cam shows is not illegal, doesn't make someone a bad parent, and isn't likely to be grounds for them to lose custody.

Grow up.Answer #2: > swift custody battle

You realize that is an oxymoron, right? If the ex fights, there is nothing swift (or cheap) about a custody modification. You didn't give your state location, so no one can possibly guess what standard your state requires to change a custody order. Generally, not being interested in sports is not enough. Further, (and again generally) unless ex has exposed  your child to actual sexual videos, or to her work, then what ex does behind closed doors doesn't affect the child. Look at it this way, whatever you (or you and your partner) do behind your bedroom doors is not going to affect the child (unless, again, the child is exposed to it by sound or sight). Answer #3: Ditch the attitude.  However you may feel about your ex, be polite and civil about them in court and around your kid.

'Lack of interest in child's hobbies' - this is so not an issue I can't even explain how not an issue it is.

In-appropriate clothing.   Your kid ~~is 12~~ - presumeably old enough to dress himself.  If you think the clothes he has at his mom's place are in-appropriate, send what you think is appropriate with him.

Mom's profession - being a porn actress isn't illegal, even if you find it distasteful.


Title: Boyfriend told a doctor that he had thoughts to hurt others. If he isn't take to the hospital what could happen and what are our options?

Question:
Before you ask, no, he is not a danger to anyone. He suffers from severe anxiety and has the fear that he might hurt someone, not the want or will to actually do it (ex: has the fear of hitting people with is car). What he told doctors was that he had ideas of hurting others, not that he was about to or that it was directed at a person in particular. He managed to talk the doctor out of calling an ambulance for him on the stipulation that I come, pick him up, and take him there. The hospital will be expecting him. So, to anyone who knows, if he doesn't arrive at the hospital will police be sent to our residence? If so can I refuse they take him? Can I lie to them and tell them he isn't here?

We cannot afford another hospital visit and the care they give him usually makes his condition worse. He is far better staying home until he can go to the physiologist where he can receive better care and the meds he needs.

Answer:
 \>  He is far better staying home until he can go to the physiologist where he can receive better care and the meds he needs.

Do you mean Psychiatrist?

I would get a call into the Psychiatrist.  He can pick up the phone, and call the doctor who he reported this to and be all like:  "Dude... It's cool... He is under my care...  "  And then explain the nature of his anxiety disorder.


Title: Got hit by a cab and I'm getting the run around.

Question:
A few days ago, I was in a car accident where a cab driver hit me(clearly his fault- I was parked). When I got his info, he gave me 2 insurance companies (which I suspected was normal since he's a cab driver), and when he handed me his license, it looks like he had another license underneath it. Didn't give it too much thought at the time, with the adrenaline kicking and all.
The next few days, I called the insurance companies which directed me to ANOTHER insurance company, and a few hours later, YET ANOTHER insurance agency called me regarding my claim. 2 of the 4 agencies recognize the same claim number, and none of the insurance agencies are major national names.
The question is: is all of this normal for a cab driver? When I asked the 4th insurance company about the other 3, they said "Company A is a broker, " and Company B they had not heard of, (and didn't mention anything about Company C.
Obviously I don't want to end up getting conned into liability or anything. And it's been almost a week and liability still hasn't been decided, and I still haven't been issued a rental even though they already towed my car to the shop.

Edit: I live in Portland, OR.

Answer:
 Call your insurance and let them deal with it.Answer #2: Submit the claim through your insurance carrier and let them sort it out.  Submit all the information you have.  It's the fastest and easiest way to get your car fixed.

Source - An Insurance agent


Title: Little sisters friend tried buying an iPhone off of Mercari app

Question:
Arkansas:
So my little sister and her friend are 15 and don't quite understand the sketchy people on the Internet. So she buys an iPhone with $400 via cashme and then the person deletes the entire post for the iPhone (I'm not sure exactly how the app works). I told her to start with cashme and see if she can contact them to cancel the transaction. I looked up customer service for the app she used and they have horrible reviews and don't have a way to contact them by phone. She has a conversation between them where he agrees to sell to her for $400 (they communicated via Twitter). What should she do? Sorry for any errors in this post. I'm on mobile.

Update: I was wrong about their communication medium. They actually had the conversation though text. In the texts it shows that she would prefer to sell to him through the app so if she didn't get the phone she could get her money back, but he insists that CashMe works best for him and he's "not trying to scam anyone". It also shows confirmation that she sent the money and he received it (she also has something from MasterCard saying he took the money out). I found the guy who did it. He lives in Louisiana and I have his full name. Her and her parents are interested in suing him for what she paid for the phone + court fees. Is there anything she needs to know about suing someone who lives in Louisiana and would it be wise to message him and tell him that she has the intent to sue so that he has another chance to either return her money or get her the phone? She is really just interested in getting one of the two, so suing isn't the desired way out of this.

Answer: What was the funding source to load the money into cashme?


Title: Termination within 3 month probation period with absolutely no reason in Ontario.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Nope - that's what "probation" means.   No reason, no cause, just because it wasn't working out.

Now, if the reason was for some human rights reason (say their Race, or Religion, or they got pregnant) then perhaps your friend would have a reason to file a suit, but as it is described - nope, no claim to sue in Ontario.


Title: [San Antonio, TX] Accepted a promotion at work with a new offer letter, but I've just found out they're refusing to honor the letter one month plus into the new position.

Question:
At the end of March, my boss retired from his position. The department head and my boss's boss approached me about taking over his position. I agreed to take it over and negotiated a 33% raise effective April 1st, when I would take over the position. I obtained this in writing in the form of an offer letter signed by my new boss and the department head.

April 1st I took over the new position as planned. Paychecks are monthly (first business day of the month) and for the month of May, my pay rate was unchanged from my old salary. After a few days, I was able to sit down with HR who said they never received any information about a change in my pay, even after I showed them my offer letter.

I just had a meeting with the department head and my new boss, and they told me they aren't able to honor the letter because they do not have money to fund the raise for me. There are no plans to find money to fund the raise.

I have already begun searching for a new job. Do I have any legal recourse to obtain the difference in pay I was promised?

Answer:
 Did you ask them what happened to the money that was funding your previous boss' salary? I suspect it didn't magically disappear when he did.

I'd absolutely file a wage claim and look aggressively for a new job.Answer #2: If you are already looking elsewhere File a wage claim with the Department of Labor.Answer #3: Paychecks are monthly in arrears or monthly in advance?Answer #4: Well, it was April 1st, perhaps the promotion was a joke.

In all seriousness, they cant do that.


Title: Is it illegal for my mother to let a 1 and half year old baby drink alcohol?

Question:
I want to include proof (incase of accused of trolling) but the only proof I have is the baby holding the wine bottle and the top of bottle touching the lips. The bottle is at leg level and the fluid is not flowing to the mouth. Also, a while ago I have seen my mother feeding the baby some wine and I am wondering if this is illegal since providing minor with alcohol be a charge. Also, I am just wondering and I won't do anything just only to stop my mom's attempt to feed alcohol to the baby.

EDIT: I am 13, would you like it if your child caught you feeding alcohol to an infant and reported it just because what the law says? Of course you are going to make the child to be silent about it.
Topic:
Alcohol Related Other than DUI

Answer: Not only that, but it could cause the issues with the child's development. I've heard of a finger dipped in brandy to soothe teething pains, but not actually giving a child a drink.Answer #2: Yes. Giving a baby alcohol is illegal.


Title: Got arrested -- Need legal advice

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 A half century of police shows have trained people to expect to be read their rights as soon as the cuffs go on. That's Hollywood license. A valid arrest doesn't require any rights advisement at all.

The only time you need to give a "Miranda warning" is you are both in a custodial situation AND you're being asked incriminating questions. In most police situations, police don't need to question the suspect at all, because they have all the evidence they need without even needing a confession. So in reality, most suspects aren't given rights advisements.

Even if both those conditions were present (which is doubtful based on your story), that only throws out any incriminating statements you made, not the physical evidence they found


Title: (UPDATE AND RESOLUTION): I am a 22 year old dependent living in a rural CDP that does not receive mail service from the USPS. However, I still need proof of residence for a car loan.

Question:
[Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3c3sfg/a_small_but_critical_issue_i_am_a_22_year_old/)

I thought I'd post this thread for posterity because apparently this issue isn't all that uncommon. The bolded section is information that I think may come in handy for other people.

I went to my bank in person to see what they could do, but that was no help. Although I really didn't want to, I went to the DMV to get my information. **As it turns out, the DMV only records your mailing address despite leaving a separate option on the driver's license form for your physical address in case the two are different. You read that right. They had NO record of where I actually lived despite the fact that I put it on driver's license renewal form in the section made specifically for that purpose.** I even had the lady at the DMV explain it to me twice. She told me this was a common problem for residents of my town. As far as the California DMV is concerned, I might as well live at the Playboy Mansion.

I went back to the dealership to see what I could do. The finance officer had no further advice and said there was no way around this predicament. He gave me another day to figure it out.

As a last ditch effort, I looked up the County Elections Office and went to see if I could get proof of my voter registration, which requires a physical address. Luckily the office was a short drive from the dealership so I went to see what I could do. 15 minutes and $1.50 later, I finally had what I needed. It was the only documented proof of my residence from the government available to me. The finance officer said it was sufficient proof and I was good to go. I am, however, going to have my dad put my name on the utilities bills just in case because it took more work than it should have to resolve this.

Answer: Sheesh, what unnecessarily convoluted beaurocratic stupidity! I'm glad it worked out for you though in the end. And thank you for the update!Answer #2: Compared to what I'd have to do here in Brazil that was a walk on the park, still beaurocracy is stupid!


Title: [Ontario] business between Wholesaler/Supplier has been ongoing for 40+ years with no contract between the two. Supplier has now provided 30 days notice for termination of services, does the wholesaler have any recourse?

Question: title, Does the Wholesaler have any legal options they can pursue? this maneuver by the supplier will have deep and profound consequences for the business of the wholesaler.

Answer: Very likely not, as I can't see any reason the supplier should have an indefinite obligation to provide service, or would have any reason to provide longer notice. However, getting professional advice from an attorney is always prudent when your business is facing an existential risk like this. The Law Society of Ontario can refer you.


Title: (FL) Can my(17) public high school ban me from wearing safety gear?

Question:
I ride my motorcycle to school. I've been doing this since the start of the school year, I have my drivers license and the motorcycle endorsement.

Last Tuesday(the last day before thanksgiving break) the principal called me into her office. She said that my gear(helmet,back protector and gloves) made some of the staff uncomfortable and I'm not allowed to wear it on school property anymore. I always take all my gear off as soon as I get off my bike and I carry it to my locker. Not to mention that I'm probably the least intimidating person ever.

My bike is the only way I can get to school and Florida law states that riders under 21 have to wear a helmet.

Answer:
 Schools have pretty wide leeway to limit a student's dress.

That being said, can your parents schedule a meeting with her to ask her to rethink her decision?  Maybe you can put your things in a bag first?Answer #2: My guess is this is their round about way to get you to stop riding a motorcycle to school.

For whatever reason, they want you to stop.Answer #3: Is anyone else riding a motorcycle to school? Is the school having this conversation with anyone else?Answer #4: NAL, but does your school have an on campus police officer or a drivers education teacher? I'd go to them and ask them to explain the law and safety precautions of motorcycle riding to your principle. I seriously don't understand their issue with you making safe decisions. Answer #5: Start by reaching out to abate of Florida to get some people used to fighting these issues. Then reach out to the American motorcycle association which sometimes helps

Can you park off grounds and put your gear in a case? Cheap ones online can typically be found for less than $50 if you look around enough. Check out advrider and ask for help finding a good one. One of those guys may even mail you an old one.


Title:
 Help! Boyfriends dad stealing credit
cards, cashing fraudulent checks,
and forging my signature!

Question: Hey Reddit! Ok, for quite some time my boyfriends Dad has been stealing cash from his (my boyfriends) grandfather (my boyfriends dads dad), as well as using his credit card without his consent. More recently he's taken my boyfriends debit card to cash fruadulent checks, some of which were forgeries from my boyfriends grandfathers account, also causing large overdraft fees on my boyfriends account. Today his grandmother called me to tell me that they received a call from their bank saying their credit card was used and legible on the recipt was "Brittne", my name is Brittany. The credit card was used over the past 3 days to total $500. We have proof of the signatures on the fraudlent checks and were waiting right now for proof of my forged signature on the recipt. We know we have some type of fraud/theft/forgery case, what do we do?

Answer: You call the police. This is a criminal situation. They'll handle it.


Title: My Uncle got into a 30k+ fender bender without insurance in NY, Inland waters in his commercial fishing vessel. Please help!

Question:
A couple days ago my uncle was dropping off fish at a dock on the west side of a channel. The tide was going north outgoing and there was a dredge blocking a lot of the channel. It was a particularly Misty morning and his windshield had a considerable amount of fog develop from the time that he left that dock. He released the boat from the dock and the tide dragged him North towards the Dredger. His bow faced east. My uncle Turns to starboard, with some fog on his windows. He was by himself by the way in a 41-foot vessel. As he goes past the dock the other vessel turns port into him. My Uncle wasnt Able to see the vessel until the last minute. My uncle's boat was undamaged but the other boat sustained some damage. 29k worth. They're also trying to make him pay for lost time as the other boat was a fishing charter vessel (30+ feet).
Here's the kicker. My uncle checked to make sure that there wasn't any damage or injuries to the people. He hen left the scene back to his dock slip. Proceeded to drive home. The other vessel called the Coast Guard on the radio (channel 16) and said "I hit another boat."
From home my uncle got a call from the Marine Patrol. They said he had to come back to  the boat. He popped in his dentures that were in a mouthwash solution  and drove down to the coast guard station. He had been on and off the phone with the Coast Guard and Marine Patrol before then. He got a breathalyzer at the scene and blew just over .06. He wasn't arrested or anything, but it seems the insurance company wants to make my uncle 100% liable. He is 65+.
He's already hired a lawyer that's charging $250 per hour. Not sure what we should do. I know that lawyers like to go to court. Please help with any information possible. This happened within the town of East Hampton, New York. Thanks so much.

Answer:
 About 95% of this is irrelevant. What the hell does your uncle putting his dentures in mouthwash have to do with anything? Are you arguing that the residual mouthwash solution on this dentures was what caused him to blow a .06?!? What does his age matter? Elderly people don’t get a free pass from liability: “oh you wrecked my boat but you’re 85 so shit I guess I can’t sue you???”

Your uncle needs an attorney and needs to listen to what he says. if the attorney he has is too expensive for him, try to find a cheaper one or work with that attorney to hold down costs. Answer #2: It is highly improbable that your grandfather's residual mouthwash solution caused him to blow a 0.06.  It is much more likely your grandfather was drinking while operating the boat, which would better explain his careless behavior such as causing an accident and leaving the scene of an accident before authorities arrive.

He needs to get a lawyer.  He needs to tell his lawyer the absolute truth.Answer #3: If he doesn't have insurance, he pays for his own lawyer to defend himself. No one here is better placed than his current lawyer. Listen to what they say.


Title: GF was arrested for a non drug charge in Florida and they confiscated $106 off her. She didn't get it back when they released her. Will she be able to get the money back?

Question:
Location: Florida, USA

Charge: enhanced DUI

It's been 6 days since booking

Answer:
 Has she called them and asked?

We can't guess whether the money will be returned, as:

1.  It may be used as evidence.
2.  It may have been applied to bail or other fees.

So call them and ask.


Title: How is this not age discrimination?

Question:
How is the DoL mandating that minors are legally required to get breaks but not adults, not considered age discrimination?

Edit: Michigan is my state

Answer: It is age discrimination.  It just isn't unlawful age discrimination.  We don't know what state you're discussing and that does impact the answer.  Some states specifically bar **any** age discrimination, even discrimination that negatively affects minors.


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https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5g52v8/update_terminated_company_says_i_cant_sue_ny/

Author: /u/LegaltoSue

#**Update: Terminated, company says I can't sue (NY)**

> [Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5ca7zr/terminated_company_says_i_cant_sue_ny/)
>
> Quite a bit has happened in the last few weeks. A friend of mine at another company, after hearing what happened told me his company had an opening. I applied, interviewed, and at the end the manager asked me what i liked to be called.
>
> Two days later I got a call saying they'd gone with another candidate. My friend admitted to me that he'd gotten some flack for recommending me. Apparently HR had worked with one of the employees at my former company, and called the employee to ask what the deal was with me.
>
> To which the employee responded, "He got fired for sexually assaulting a subordinate. I think he's actually being charged criminally."
>
> I'm literally crying as I type this. It's a nightmare that won't end.
>
> Long story short, I lost my shit, called up my old company, boss wouldn't get on the phone with me. Had an attorney draft a letter of demand and send it off. Had another phone conference scheduled.
>
> They once again "regret" that an employee provided a reference outside of the prescribed channels. The employee was coached on the proper way to handle such requests.
>
> My attorney informed them that in addition to wrongful termination, we would be adding defamation to our complaint against them. They insist that they have not broken any laws and they cannot control the actions of an individual employee who went against company policy.
>
> So we're at an impasse there. Either I move ahead against them, or I walk away. At this point I'm ready to drag this through court. I tried to take the high road and go elsewhere, but they're "regretting" a lot that they've done to me without any action to correct it.
>
> Oh! I almost forgot. A few days after my last post, they sent me a packet of papers. Standard nondisclosure notifications, COBRA, and a blank copy of the arbitration agreement for me to sign!
>
> Why a blank one, you ask? Well it seems somebody fucked up! They weren't making people sign when I was hired, and HR never bothered to have me sign when the agreement when I worked there.
>
> I of course have signed nothing that they sent me including that agreement.  I considered allowing arbitration if they pay the costs and I have approval over who is selected, but my attorney has advised not to do that.
>
> I wish I had better news to report. Things aren't as hopeless as they'd first seemed, but not as easily fixable either.
>
> As for the employee who made the accusation, I know you're eager to hear, but at this point I can't comment on what's happening there.
>
> Thanks for all of the advice and support so far. I promise to update when everything resolves, if not sooner, as Mitch as I can.

Answer:
 /u/LegaltoSue now has even more damages.  Also, I agree with /u/mywan  - going here to discuss is moronic.Answer #2: Someone needs to change these ridiculous rules. I've just about had it with these bots locking posts and I'm not even the one posting them!Answer #3: Isn't it highly illegal for a company to disclose employee information to another company that may higher them? I thought company's could only say they did or didn't work thereAnswer #4: It's against my company policy for me to call at midnight and threaten somebody who is in collections. You know what happens if I do that? the company gets sued and rightfully so for having an employee who goes around doing that.

I hope you prevail in your case against them.


Title: [TX] Landlord failing to repair water leak, over $400 in above average water bills. What can I do?

Question:
Backstory:  Approximately 2 weeks ago we received our water bill for November.  The bill was $433 when our average is nearer $100.  Coincidentally, the city left a notice on our door that same day indicating that our usage showed a potential leak.  We immediately notified the landlord.  Here is why my problem begins.

Her first question to me was: "Who do I call for this?"
She expressed concern for calling someone out near the holidays, however I found a top google rated plumber willing to come out for an inspection the following day for less than $40.  She declined, and instead waited another week (while we continued to have a leak.)  During this waiting period I contacted the city water dpt and they confirmed we had used another 18,000 gallons since we received our bill, about a weeks time. (FYI we average 20,000 gal/month and in November we were billed for 62,000 gal/month.)

Jumping to now, she has sent one plumber out, fired them after they said they needed to charge to run more tests, then became unresponsive once the 2nd plumber she hired found a faulty T&P valve that could be creating or at least adding to the problem.  I sent her an email in length last night saying that we did not feel responsible paying for the entire November bill or the upcoming bill for December because the leak was caused by her property, not us.  Furthermore, she was doing her best to waste everyone's time and not get this thing fixed.  2 weeks is way too long to let your tenants hang and rack up water bills, then to not even respond once a problem was found.  I also added that I would be withholding current rent due until the problem is fixed.

She then showed up at my front door unannounced last night around 9pm to say that we shouldn't be in a rush, and that the water company was at fault and they would reimburse us (which we already confirmed with them that they will not.)

My questions is this, what recourse do we have to leave this rental and break the lease without penalty?  She is not offering to help with any of the water bills in any way which could total as much as $800 for 2 months alone, and she has not given me any indication that she is scheduling anyone to fix the problem.  She is just blaming the water company as a way to shift the blame and responsibility off of herself.  I am positive she is an inexperienced landlord and hasn't handled this in a way that gives me any hope towards finishing out our lease. She was condescending as hell to my wife and tells us "there's no rush" when the house is having problems pop up left and right that costs US MONEY.

Any advice on how to break this lease effectively, legally, and quickly would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance.

Edit: Spelling

Answer:
 Like the place?  Pay the rent.  Pay the water bill.  Take her to small claims for excess water bills.  Show up with spreadsheet and bills to show last year water averages, last few months excessive bills, and storyboard of actions by you and feet dragging by landlord.  Should be a quick win and you should be able to get filing fee and a small slap on the wrist fee.  Do this today, regardless if the problem is fixed.

Remember...the water bill is in your name and they can/will ding your credit, so don't mess around with them.


Title: My old employer is telling me I owe them a thousand dollars (WA)

Question:
I just received [This Letter](https://imgur.com/RvaWNau) in the mail TODAY \[05\-07\-18\].

I left the company just short of 2 months ago for a better company \- one that pays me right and treats me with more respect than this one. Since Pay stubs are sent out a week after the pay period I got a bit confused on what my last pay check would even be. Mix this fact with the hectic startup at a new company and it equates to me just blindly pushing my hard check \(last one\) into my ATM without thinking twice.

This was two months ago and I've already spent this money. There's no way I can get over a thousand dollars together in such short time \(2 weeks!\). I was already living paycheck to paycheck 'cause of this company and am just now starting to have a little bit left over with my pay increase. On top of this, they left me with a really bitter taste in my mouth so the LAST thing I want to do is cut a check to them for a thousand dollars.

What is the law on something like this? Do I need to come up with the money fast? I'm assuming when they say

`Failure to make a timely payment will result in an escalation`

they mean take me to Collections. Is that something they can legally do?

The company is based out of Chicago and I live in Seattle.

Answer:
 You owe this money and must repay it.

How long you have to repay it depends on how you play their game.  Suggest you start by \(saving money\) mailing a reply letter, in a day or two, stating that you were unaware that you had been overpaid, and ask them to provide more details about the hours worked, copies of the paystubs and check, etc...

Then once you've gotten all that, you can write back asking them to look into how this payroll mistake may have affected your taxes and withholding, and can you get a breakdown of the old figures vs. the new?  Have they generated a replacement pay stub?  Can you please get copies of both?

It's not that you don't want to pay them back, or are refusing to, it's just that you have the right to avail yourself of all of the intricacies of the situation.

Hopefully this stalling will allow you enough time to un\-spend the $1k you didn't notice you got paid extra and  get it paid back without incident.Answer #2: Yes,  you owe the money.  It wasn't yours to spend.Answer #3: So if they had underpaid you by a thousand dollars instead, would it be legal for them to not pay you what you're owed? Because they already spent that money? Because it was a hectic week and that equated to them not noticing the error? Because you left a really bad taste in their mouth and the last thing they want to do is cut you a check for $1,000?

Fortunately we live in a system that is fair to both parties and there's not a "you made a mistake, so fuck you, hahahaha" provision that only covers (disgruntled) employees.


Title: Calling a scam number back

Question: I received a call from a scam line, trying to claim they are the IRS. I googled the number it verified they were indeed a scam. I’ve called back several times just to tie up their phones and be rude. Not ethical per se, but fun. However, can I get in any trouble for continuing to do so? The call originated from another state than I in am.

Answer:
 I've done this. There's nothing they can do...

Wait a couple hours so they forget. And start doing it again😂😂


Title: (MS) What is the fastest route to selling co-owned property, if other party disagrees?

Question:
Horrible sister and I inherited a condo from our dad.

She had offered to buy me out for a specific sum and I agreed to that sum to sell it "As Is" since I haven't been there in a year and she went recently.

My attorney got a letter stating that my counter-offer was rejected and she was withdrawing her offer to buy.  I don't know if she just doesn't have the money to buy it, or wants to try and play games to pay a lower price.

Either way, I don't want to end up paying half the fees on a condo when she's living there by herself while she jerks me around.

I know I will have to hire an attorney in MS, and that it's possible to force a sale on a property if 2 owners can't agree and one won't buy the other one out,but I am wanting to know the most effective way to do this quickly, even if it is more expensive.

If it helps, I have plenty of documentation of her and her lawyer being obstructive to the running of the estate, and not paying her half of the bills.

Answer: You have an attorney who is intimately familiar with the details of your case.  Speak with them about your choices, go over them in detail, and follow that course of action.