Title: CT - Offensive graffiti, can I make homeowner remove it?

Question:
I'm in high school a few months ago a senior was driving drunk and crashed and died, everyone was really upset, it was in the news, a lot of people went to see counselors about it it shocked the community. My friend is his brother and he and his family had a tough time but are getting through it.

When he crashed he hit a concrete wall of someone's lawn. Their lawn is next to the sidewalk but its raised up off the ground so there's a concrete wall along the sidewalk and at the top of the wall is the house's front lawn.

About a week after the accident my friend noticed someone spray painted SPLAT on the spot the car hit on the wall. He knocked on their door and offered to clean the graffiti for them but he said no he put it there and not to take it down! He told his parents they went over and offered to clean it up or paint the whole wall however the owner wants but he said the same thing and to never come back and stay off his property!

They called the police but the police officer said it's his property if there was a sign they could make him take it down but since its spray paint it's not blocking the sidewalk there's nothing they can do. They asked him if he would let my friends family hire professionals to remove it and he told them no so they said they were sorry and left!

The house is on kind of a main road my friend sees it every day going to school and his parents see it all the time too its really upsetting.

Reddit is there anything my friend can do?

Answer:
 Totally legal. You have no recourse. Answer #2: I wonder which side of the argument you would be on, if you had posted a cross or some other memorial at the site and the homeowner asked you to remove it.  Would you remove it since he didn't want to be reminded of the accident every time he left his house?  Or would you say that you have the right to post your memorial.  Assuming that your memorial did not break any laws and was allowed.

Perhaps this is the homeowners way of reminding students to not drink and drive.Answer #3: For once, this is actually applicable:

>Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or **abridging the freedom of speech**, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.


Title: Roommate's boyfriend lives here, destroys property, etc. (Ontario, Canada)

Question:
Hello, this is my first time posting on reddit. This is quite small problem compared to what I have seen posted here, but I am not sure what to do.

I rent a townhouse along with some other students. My roommate's boyfriend has basically been living with us for at least two months after being kicked out of his house.
This racks up our utility bill as well as makes living there uncomfortable. He constantly has loud fights with his girlfriend and seems to have anger issues. We suspect he broke a hole in a door but my roommate denied it. When I confronted my roommate she agreed to kick him out, but we found out later that she lied and keeps sneaking him in.

Other things he has done:
Took down the fire alarm so he can smoke in the house
Blast music at 5 am in the morning

We have told our landlord. But he only told her to make sure her boyfriend is quiet. Even though there was a clause in the rental agreement regarding guests, I doubt he will do anything to risk losing her rent/make trouble.

Is there anything I can do or is this something that I just have to live with? Looking for a new place to live is not a problem for me, but we signed a 1 year agreement.

I am just looking for some general advice. Much appreciated.

Answer:
 [Leases in Ontario cannot restrict guests](http://ontariolandlordandtenantlaw.blogspot.ca/2015/01/guests-girlfriends-boyfriends-and-other.html). That's why your landlord isn't doing anything.

What you and your roommates can do: sue the guy for any damage he does that is not fixed by them.


Title: Indiana affordable housing preventing father from seeing his child

Question:
My girlfriend and I live in separate places, but are still together. She lives in an affordable housing complex and I live a block away at my fathers. He is on disability and I help him out for now and have for 2 years.
The housing complex my girlfriend and 6 month old daughter live in have a 14 day in a 45 day period guest rule. The law firm that handles the complex is trying to force me to sign the lease, thus raising my girlfriends rent, and making me a tenant of 2 addresses, just to see my daughter more than 14 days in 45 day period.
I have every document that could ever be asked to provide that I do not live in her residence, and the exact same custody and rights to my daughter that my girlfriend does.

Does this law firm have the right to supersede my parental rights with their lease?

Answer: Not just to see your daughter but to spend the night (8 hours whatever the rule is, is it spend the night? ) 14 times in 6 weeks , more then twice a week consistently.  Yes there can be rules as to how many nights guests can spend before they count as a resident. And yes affordable housing counts all the contributing adults because the rent is income based.


Title: House robbed on Christmas, dad went to register a new microwave online and someone else's name already popped up.

Question:
Two people were arrested but the third wasn't. The person who's name popped up is related to the third person according to facebook. It seems like somebody used my dad's stolen laptop to maybe register a different product for its warranty at some point since the robbery. Can anything be done to try to get the third person?

Edit: I live in Indiana.

Answer: I bet the police would love to have this information.


Title: Is it possible to have a personal indoor gun-range?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: There's nothing preventing an indoor shooting range in general.  You just have to be zoned properly and follow all the regulations for them.  Of which there are many.Answer #2: Yes, my father put one in the basement of his new house. It can complicate insurance so be sure to check with them. Be sure to have proper ventilation, backstop, and sound control. I would suggest looking into some ballistic rubber blocks from a vendor such as range-systems.Answer #3: Of course, there are indoor gun ranges all over the place. Including Florida.


Title: [Utah] MIL was told by a car dealership she could test a car overnight, cops pulled her over for grand theft auto

Question:
So this just happened now, MIL is being escorted back to the dealer by the officers. The dealership told her she could test out the car this afternoon and keep it overnight till tomorrow. On her way to come see me, cops pulled her over because the plates on the vehicle  that the dealer let her use came up as stolen to the police, so they took the proper action and pulled her over at gunpoint.

Is there any way she can sue the dealership for giving her plates on the car, and for having been put through being pulled over at gunpoint by police?

 Does she have much to stand on? We aren't blaming police- they did their job. The dealership told her she was good to go till tomorrow.

I'll get more info if I can, once she deals with the police more.

EDIT: So the reason she was pulled over was because the LICENSE PLATES that the dealer had on the car showed up in the police system as being from a vehicle that was stolen in 2014.

Answer:
 As other posters have already said, she probably won't have much luck suing. This was either a clerical error or honest mistake.

However she does get two things out of the experience:

1. Something to point to during negotiations with the car dealer in question. She might be able to score a discount on her upcoming car purchase.

2. An interesting story to tell at parties about being pulled over at gunpoint and maybe how she got a great deal on her car because of it. Answer #2: > Is there any way she can sue the dealership for giving her plates on the car, and for having been put through being pulled over at gunpoint by police?

Almost certainly not.


Title: Can I send a note of gratitude to the judge?

Question:
(First off, please forgive me if this is the wrong place to ask.)

Today a NYC judge granted my change of name request including my request not to publish. She was very kind and sympathetic regarding my situation and made the process as easy as possible for me.

Would it be inappropriate to send her a note thanking her for compassion and discretion she showed toward me today?

Answer:
 Just due to the nature of a name change action, I don't see an issue with it and I think the judge would appreciate it.  If there was anyone on the other side of this case (which would be abnormal for these types of actions) you'd need to make sure you gave them a copy.Answer #2: In this case I think it is fine.

In NYC, judges are elected. Keep an eye out for when she is running again, and contribute cash/vote for her/tell your friends to vote for her. Answer #3: No, in this case, a note of gratitude would not look inappropriate at all. I think the judge would appreciate a thank you note.


Title: Farm worker we payed to look after our annimals for 5 days while we were on vacation, did not feed the annimals or give them water and ended up killing 2 of our annimals because of it. Now the worker has run off leaving me to bury the corpses myself.

Question: I am a University student who used to live with my parents for 2 years on a farm before engaging  my studies, it being vacation time I came home for a month to help on the farm and recently we were able to go on vacation for 5 days, we hired a farm worker we have trusted to do work before to look after our annimals while we were gone which included 3 lambs that needed to get milk twice daily, 4 dogs, 2 cats, a donkey and an assortment of birds. The day before we left for the vacation we showed the worker how and when to feed the annimals and even wrote him a list of how everything should be maintained every day. The arangement we had with the worker was that he would visit the farm twice daily to ensure that the annimals had food and water and that the lambs were given their milk. We payed the worker half up front as we have always done.  While we were on vacation we called in regularly to make sure everything was fine and the worker assured us that everyhing was going as planned and that the annimals are fine. When we came back however we found that one of our dogs ( a german shepherd about 4 months of age) had been beaten and locked up, there was no food and water for them so they were starving and were severely dehydrated since this timenof year temperatures reach between 35-40 °C (about 104°F). We also found out the rest of the annimals were not cared for and as the lambs needed daily milk, they died from dehydration and upot inspection we saw bruised on them and determined that they were dead for atleast 3 days from today. This morning I had to bury corpses myself as the worker was no where to be found and as my father called him yesterday he said he "has other places to be" and was not heard from since. So any advice to what can be done about this legally that I can relay to my parents as I will be leaving for University again tomorrow or even just a general opinion about this would we appreciated. (Probably the 2 worst days ive had in a long time)

Answer:
 IANAL. I’m so sorry that this happened.  As this is a sub for US/Canada legal advice not a lot of people are going to be aware of South Africa law.  I would suggest looking up lawyers in your area to see if they offer free consultations and go from there. Hopefully you can sue for the cost of the deceased animals, the time spent rehabilitating the starving animals, and any payment made to the worker.

Additionally, call the cops or animal control in your area to report animal abuse and cruelty.

I wish you the best of luck in getting justice.


Title: My little sister was sexually assaulted at school.

Question:
On the way to the buses after all her classes, the hall ways were all full of students. She felt a hand on her butt and she looked over and saw the back of the kids head.

This happened in the hallway at school.

I want this person identified. I want them to apologize, and want them to take sexual assault education.

What is the best way to approach this situation?

State is Indiana btw.

Answer:
 > I want this person identified. I want them to apologize, and want them to take sexual assault education.

It's good to want things. You have zero standing to demand a thing.

She can report this to the school administration and the police. Or her parents can.


Title: [Update] Work hours cut to zero in Denver, CO

Question:
I posted a few weeks ago [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8jywgl/work_hours_cut_to_zero_in_denver_co/), but today, I got the official email that they have no space for me and I am no longer on the roster.  They offered the following opportunity to respond to the email with a resignation and then they'll keep me as "re-hireable"

*Hey [OP] –*

*I’ve talked to [Manager] some about the Front Desk roster, and we will have to do a little trimming on the amount of people we have. I will also be picking up time at the desk a little more permanently which will mean there aren’t really any of those [0:00]-[0:00]pm’s available. I just wanted to let you know your work here was appreciated and thank you for your time here.*

*If you shoot me a resignation in response to this e-mail I will file as re-hireable if your availability ever changes to suit our scheduling needs. Thanks again!*

*[Name]*

*Hospitality Manager*

That resignation seems like a terrible idea, yeah?  They fired me by way of constructive dismissal, and I shouldn't offer a resignation.  Any suggestions on a polite way to phrase an email telling them that?  I don't need them as a reference, and they were awful enough that I do NOT plan on applying there ever again, but I also don't want to poke any bears.  Aside from some obvious threatening behavior (which I will definitely be avoiding), are there any legal tangles I might end up in if I email them back (politely) explaining that what I think about their business practices, and why I will not be offering a resignation?

Thank you.

Answer: I would simply not reply to that email, but would save it in a few places, print it out, and take it to your unemployment hearing and/or an employment attorney.Answer #2: Do not reply. It gains you nothing. That's simply an attempt to gain ammo to fight your unemployment claim. You did file for unemployment right? (assuming you didn't get another job right away)


Title: Ca$hing Out On My $tructured $ettlement

Question:
Hello,

I have a structured settlement, resulting from a personal injury case that was settled out of court by my mother on my behalf, when I was a child.

I am now 26, and for the last few years have been receiving a monthly income of $393.87 on the 9th of each month, paid out by MetLife Insurance; these payments are guaranteed to my estate until 8/9/2050.

I would like to convert the set of payments from 3/9/2015 thru 8/9/2050 (the aggregate amount of which totals $167,788.82) into a lump sum, at the most advantageous present value.

The discounted present value at the federal interest rate of 2% is $120,073.11.

In looking to sell this income stream to the highest bidder, I have approached companies such as PeachTree, who have offered a net present value lump sum of $60,000. (This works out to a discount rate of about 7.43% or 7.5% (depending on how the math is done) that is being applied.)

No deal has been made yet; what was disclosed to me by PeachTree in their disclose statement was that "BASED ON A PRICE QUOTE FROM METROPOLITAN LIFE INSURANCE COMPANY THE CURRENT COSTS OF PURCHASING A COMPARABLE ANNUITY FOR THE AGGREGATE AMOUNT OF PAYMENTS TO BE TRANSFERRED IS $102,096.00." (That works out to a discount rate of about 3.1%.)

I feel that by proceeding with the offer I've received from PeachTree, I'd be losing over $40,000, as compared to the quote generated directly from MetLife Insurance. (Not a bad profit for them, considering the time invested on their part as well as the principal amount of the transaction.)

So, in looking to obtain a much larger cut of the pie than $60,000, I decided to call MetLife to see if they themselves were interested in dealing with me directly, and to see whether they were willing and able to buy back the monthly payments in exchange for a price that's much more similar to their original quote.

As it turns out, according to the representative on the phone, apparently due to some kind of regulations or law, companies such as MetLife cannot alter payments directly in such a manner--and that it would have to be a third party that would have to come in to make an investment.

However, she did recommend that a much better option would be to speak with a lawyer--preferably the lawyer(s) who helped structured the settlement originally, in order to somehow "restructure" the agreed-upon payments to convert them into a present-value lump sum--and that this would be much more advantageous than taking the $60,000 with the ~7% discount rate applied by PeachTree.

I do not know who the original lawyers are, as my mother was the one who took care of all that when I was very young. I would most wholeheartedly appreciate a professional opinion as to: (1) what my best, and most lucrative options would be in this case, to recoup as much of a present amount as I can for present use; and, (2) if there would be any tax implications, despite the monthly payments always having been tax-free due to it being settlement income resulting from personal injury.

Thank you very much for your time and your most useful answers!

Answer: Call J.G. Wentworth.  877-CASH-NOW


Title: What movie would you recommend for the most accurate depiction of lawyers?

Question: If you were going to recommend a movie where a legal question was a main plot point, and it was handled in an accurate way, what movie would it be?

Answer: My Cousin Vinny is literally used in law schools to teach some points of trial law, from what I understand.Answer #2: ianal but I would imagine a movie that's 87 minutes of paperwork, followed by 3 minutes of filing something with the courtAnswer #3: I'll tell you what NOT to watch: every episode of Law & Order and their derivatives. They violate court proceedings in nearly every episode.


Title: I was in an altercation with my father in law. Can I seek any type of order to keep him away from my children [New Jersey]

Question:
Over the weekend I got into a shouting match with my father in law at my property.  There was no violence.  He has a history of both physical and emotional abuse against his wife and kids.

I am concerned about what his actions will be (specifically said about me) if he is left alone with my children.  Is it possible for me to pursue some type of restraining order or something along those lines against him?

Answer:
 WTF?  No, you cannot take any type of legal action against your father-in-law because he yelled at you.  If you are concerned about what he might do if left alone with your children, then don't leave your children alone with him.  If you are concerned about what he might do in general around you, then only see him in public places.Answer #2: You don't have to get a restraining order to keep him from being alone with your kids.  Just don't leave him alone with them!  You're the parent, so you mostly get to control who has access to your kids.Answer #3: Why not just not leave him alone with your kids?

Depending on the altercation you might be able to get an RO for you and your home. It is a stretch to add your kids. Consult a local attorney that knows the local judges


Title: One night stand gone wrong

Question: Okay guys son I need some help here. Im at a loss and I dont know what to do. I was lonely and stupid, I shouldve used a condom. I know. I'm not here for any bad talk or anything like that. I need advice. I had a one night stand, with a guy id known for a short while. And I got pregnant. Well come to find out, this guy has a criminal record for battery and assult and for substance abuse. I told him I was pregnant, he wants to be part of the babys life. After knowing everything i know now, I do NOT want him around me or our unborn child. Hes very persistent on being in this childs life though, even though he is clearly unfit to be a parent. When i told him I was pregnant he freaked out on me because I told him I no longer wanted him to be in either of our lives, I got freaked out and told him that it was a false test and that I'm not actually pregnant. I dont know where to go from here. I know he has a right to know he has a child, but hes not fit to be around me or a child. What do I do????

Answer:
 You don't have to do anything. If you decide to have the child then you have it. If you want child support you can file that request through a court. If you collect any government benefits you will need to disclose the father. If he wants visistation he can make that request through a court.Answer #2: While I'm sure this is going to get down voted faster than the Hindenburg went down....

If I found myself in your shoes, I'd be seriously thinking about an abortion, now.  This has insane nightmare for the next 18.8 years for both you and the child written all over it.

I know plenty of people will now see me as a baby killing scum of the earth, and whatever.. I don't care.  I wouldn't want to put a child through the kind of hell he/she is going to be getting thrust into based on this kind of situation.


Title: [CA] If a young child kills another young child, whose legal responsibility is it?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Of course you *could* send a six year old to juvie.

Would it be the right or best decision?  Probably not.

But a six year old should also probably not be unsupervised for that length of time, either, so the parents could face some charges for that.Answer #2: The age of criminal responsibility in California is 14. Below that age, the state would have to prove that the child knew that their actions were wrong.

>Can you at least punish the parents?

No. People aren't responsible for crimes committed by other people.
In California, you might be able to sue both the child and the parents for wrongful death.

>Or is this regarded as one of those unfortunate things that happens **but you can't really pin the blame on anyone**?

The way that you're looking at criminal law is backwards. You're approaching this from a perspective of "a crime was committed; who, if anyone, was responsible?" The correct perspective is "Is person X legally responsible? Can it be proven beyond a reasonable doubt?"


Title: Denied apartment for criminal background (Florida)

Question:
Back in 2007 I was charged with a grand theft felony. I had adjudication withheld. This charge is a decade old and is still effecting me. I rented from private landlords who would take me at face value.

I am a well spoken individual, with great credit, and have maintained the same job for 5+ years (I am 28) Needless to say, this charge being a decade old...I was only 18 when I got into trouble with the law. Is still haunting me to this day.

Maybe on confused with the jargon but as far as I understand I was not “convicted” of a felony. This is what the application asked. Was I convicted? No. I don’t think so.

I never served time on this charge. I completed my probation, and once again, was withheld adjudication.

Is this legal? Or for that matter, was I convicted? I need to know for future reference if I have anywhere to stand my ground on this matter.

Answer: Yes, landlords can decide not to rent to you based on any reason that is not a protected class.  Those classes are race, color, religion, origin, sex, age, familial status, disability, and depending on the state marital status and sexual orientation.  Other than that, they can refuse to rent to you because you wear baseball caps, like pop music, watch cartoons, or have a past criminal history.  This is legal.


Title: I got a dui at 16 with my permit.

Question:
Colorado
24th of Febuary this year I bought a car outright. Drivers license test is scheduled for March 1st. The 28th I went out into town to meet up with a friend. ( I am homeschooled online so I'm home alone all day.) We were just going out to lunch and relax at his house. About 3pm I was going back to drop him off at his girlfriend's house. We get there and his girlfriend meets us at my car in her driveway. He takes out a wax tray and offers me some. He says it's really strong ( I think about 90%) I take one hit as do the others. They get out and go back inside and tell me to drive safe. At this point I cant focus on anything. I thought about calling an uber but I needed a way to get my car to my home.

 I decided to just pull put of their driveway and just spend some time at the park to just relax until I feel better. As I'm backing out of their driveway ( it's an S shape with light pillars at each end of the entry of the driveway) I hit one of the pillars and it falls over I  imeadeatly run up the door and knock on it my friend and his gf come out and are trying to figure out how to fix it. His gf runs into her house and gets her parents (I don't remember much after this point) they come out and ask what happened to me I said my head hurt ( thinking I could pull off being sober) they call an ambulance and a firetruck and some police officers come up and I already had my permit out and handed it to them. They do a in field sobriety test and I threw up whole trying to stand. I took a breathalyzer and blew a 0.0. They arrest me for:
1: Driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol
2: Violating instructors permit
3: Destuction of Private property
4: No proof of insurance (dropped)

They put me in a car and read me something. (Don't remember what it was.) Put me in a car and take me to a hospital and have 2 vials of blood and I fall asleep. They take me to a different place where I slept again. My dad came and picked me up and drove me home.

April 19th I have my court date with my lawyer and we going in and push it further to May 30th.

Edit :I need to know if my lawyer is actually worth it or if I have a chance of getting these expunged by 18. And how much I can expect my insurance to go up.

Edit 2: The gf family is pressing charges for me to pay for the damages which I'm willing to do but its $2,000. And I think that's a bit much
Topic:
DUI

Answer: You have a lawyer. What’s your legal question?Answer #2: Ok? What's your question?


Title: Car was towed for bad registration, have to get it registered to get it back?

Question:
Virginia - Traffic

During a traffic stop an officer saw I had bad registration and inspection sticker and wrote me a summons for both and said he had to confiscate the plates. I got stopped RIGHT next to my house but he says that they have to tow any car without plates which is a pain but ok. Now my car is sitting in the tow lot and I called the PD to get more information any theyre saying I cant get it out until I get it registered? How is it even fathomable to register a car while it's in a place I cant get to? Did I just lose my vehicle to a technicality or is there anything I can do? Talk to the tow place and see if theyll just tow it back to private property for me?

EDIT: Forgot location

Answer:
 Location is critical.

But in many locations having access to the vehicle itself is not necessary to get it registered.  It sounds like you may need an inspection before you can register.  In that case, many locations are able to offer some form of temporary registration so you can legally get to and from the inspection.


Title: How is it legal for advertisers to send official looking advertisements in the mail?

Question:
I always get advertisements in the mail that look similar to official government mailings. It’ll come in a Manila envelope that is intended to mimic official or it’ll say “official documents inside” or other things clearly meant to make the recipients open it.

Shouldn’t this be illegal? I mean I get freedom of speech but this seems like it falls more in to fraud than anything. I mean when I got a summons for jury duty it came in a less flashy envelope than the advertisements. I almost missed it.

Answer: (Edit: Assuming you are in the U.S.) It isn't illegal to use designs or wording that *suggest* that it's from a government agency so long as they don't claim to be a government agency. FedEx wouldn't exist today if it were illegal.


Title: Falsely accused of Child Abuse

Question:
In 2007, I was accused of trying to harm myself and child.  Also, later on the same day.  Someone also, called into to say that I placed my child in the trash can.  I did not not do any of these things.  I was taken to the hospital by the police.  My child was taken from me and place in the custody of DFACS in a county other than the one that I lived in.  Now, I have gone back to court, 2007.  The judge, at that time, tried to be funny and asked for my medical records and the doctor to be present.  The doctor refused to come to court so, I did not release my medical records.  The case was dismissed.  In 2015, I went to my county where I live and ask them to look into the case to vacate or void the judgment given by the other county.  I explained that the documents are fraudulent, false allegations, harassment so forth and so on.  I will tell you that it has bee a hard time getting a lawyer to believe me.   I really had a very bad public defender.  I filed an appeal in 2008 after the trial which I believe to be double jeopardy pro se.  My public defender found out about the appeal.  Then she went to the court.  Got my pro se paperwork and took over the case without my knowledge.  I did not find out about this action until the case was close to being decided at the Court of Appeals.  Well, to make a very long story short, I am in court again.  The judge in my county believes the police officer so she threw out my lawsuit.  Told me to go back to the other county to file a lawsuit.  Then, she appoints a GAL and told me that she will only give me my child back based on the GAL's recommendation.

I cannot win for losing here.  It has been eight years.  No one has called in any witnesses.  I have collected the paperwork and found out what I already knew that there was never a BOLO report or any allegations of mental illness.  There was no one who had made a report that I placed my child in the trash can.  I already knew this because I did not do it.

I have filed the lawsuit in the county that took my child.  I accused them of kidnapping and a whole bunch of things.  I just want them to stop this nonsense and do the work.

I have asked the JQC and Bar to look into this.  They just said that I am delusional and angry about a decision.

I will admit that I have turned in my mental health records over to this judge in my county.  I have turn over my lease and contract to my job.

I asked for the case to be voided.  I sued the state, county, dfacs, police departments and other involved.

What can I do because these people plan to keep my child away from me until she turns 18?

I am willing to openly talk about this to people outside of my case.

Answer:
 Your narrative is very, very unclear.

First, you say your child was taken; then you discuss what sounds like a criminal matter...then you're back to talking about custody.

Have you been charged with a crime?  If so, what and when?  What is the status of that charge?  Did you plead guilty, or were you found guilty at trial?  What's the status of your child's custody?  Has it been temporarily removed?  Permanently removed?  What?


Title: Can I sue a family member for disclosing personal medical information to others?

Question:
Hello, briefly about me and why I come here to ask this question. I’m 25 y/o and was diagnosed with chlamydia and HPV about 3-4 years ago. I have genital warts (which are barely palpable, and I didn’t know I even had or how long I’ve had it and I’ve always used condoms. So this REALLY bummed me out and still does). When I was tested for chlamydia, it was during one of my paps. Ever since then, I would get checked at a free clinic.

Obviously this is VERY personal to me and I have not told anyone. Somehow my mother found out about it and I’m thinking she did by the billing statements. I’ve had the recommended HPV shots as a child, and then once I was diagnosed, I had 2 more shots and that’s what showed up on the billing statement I believe. I’ve been insured under her. Also, when I had chlamydia they automatically called my personal cell and said I was tested positive and that they already sent my meds to my local pharmacy (I was SO mad because I knew my mother would find out from bills, since I still had to pay a small fee out of pocket). I went to get it so that she didn’t.

Ever since I’ve been diagnosed by those, my mother has been making little remarks about it to me, so has my sibling. She thinks that I don’t know that she knows about it. When we get into little arguments, she will say something like, “so you don’t got any diseases? You have a lot.” Or when we go out to eat or whatever, she thinks I’m crazy to not use public restrooms or when I put toilet paper on the seats. I tell her it’s gross and idk what’s on it or when it’s last cleaned and she will say, “OH don’t act like you don’t have any diseases.” And I will say “I don’t though” and she would say, “yea, OKAY.”  She use to NEVER speak to me like this or make comments like this. Then my sibling and her will always bring up chlamydia and make comments about it and then ask ME questions about it. Again, they never talked to me like this before and they ONLY bring up chlamydia and HPV. When the HPV commercials come on, my mother ALWAYS asks me questions about it like I’m supposed to know ALL about it.

One time I needed help on a research topic for school. I was thinking of like hand washing, depression, and she immediately says, “what about HPV?” I just looked at her in disgust. Honestly I’m really pissed. Prior to all of this, they’ve NEVER said shit like this to me. For 4+ years I’ve been having to hear stuff like this often.

Can I sue her for disclosing my information? I haven’t even gotten another pap or physical ever since because I don’t want her seeing the bills. Also she keeps telling me “you need to get your physical, you’re due.” And she NEVER tells my sibling that. I’ve told her, “WHY do you keep reminding ME? You don’t remind the other person. And how would you even know I’m due?”. She doesn’t have access to my online patient portal, but I believe somehow she’s accessed my info over the phone by telling them my DOB, address, and name.

Idk what to do. I really wanna sue her for emotional distress as well because having HPV already makes me fucking depressed and feel like I’ll never be able to have an intimate relationship again, I mean SHIT, who’d want to risk it? So her making remakes makes me feel worse. I’ve never confronted her because I don’t want to speak to her about my personal information and I don’t want her questioning about my sexual life and whatever else because that’s all she is, is nosey and runs her mouth to everyone. I was also diagnosed with PCOS and she ran her mouth to my sibling and my grandparents!!! Like wtf and I got mad and told her to not do that. She said it’s not a big deal and I said YES it is, it’s MY personal business and nobody else needs to know that.

Sorry for my rant, I hope you read all of this. I get very emotional every time I think about it. Having HPV feels like I have HIV and I am SO sorry if that is offensive to those that truly have HIV. I feel this way because like I said, I feel like nobody would want me if I ever disclose it to them when becoming intimate.

Answer:
 You don't have any actual damages, so a lawsuit would be completely ineffective.

You should also know that HPV is extremely common. According to the CDC, nearly 80 million Americans have it, and **nearly every single sexually active person will get it within their lifetime**. It's just difficult to detect because most people who have it don't develop symptoms. There's a strong chance your mother has HPV too, and just doesn't know it. You might have even contracted it from her during your birth.

If it makes you feel any better, there are a number of potential cures under development right now, so there's a strong chance you could be made HPV negative in the future.Answer #2: No, you can't successfully sue your mom for disclosing your STDs. She's not required to keep your medical information confidential.


Title: I believe my roommate and I just got wrongfully in trouble with the police for something we do. Is this in any way legal?

Question:
My roommate and I were in the neighbors' dorm room playing Halo at about midnight. We both decided to come into our room really quick to grab something to eat. I was grabbing the tortilla chips while my roommate went back into the hall to go back to their room. He stops and starts talking to someone, so I stuck my head out the window and it was a cop. I figured he was just walking around the hall doing the patrol rounds or whatever. Then he starts talking to us. What followed was an absolute travesty of justice.

"So you guys have been smoking a little marijuana in your room."

"Um, no? We haven't been"

"The hall smells like fresh weed, you were smoking in the room, hold on let me read this to you guys... *Right to remain silent bullshit*"

"Yes we'll talk to you, we actually didn't smoke any tonight, it wasn't us. Like actually."

"Look, you've got the fan on, your eyes are dilated, you're eating tortilla chips so you've got the munchies, I'm not dumb. You can just make this easy and hand over any marijuana or pieces used to smoke it. I really don't want to go through all your stuff. Just hand it over and it'll be a lot easier, I'll send you to the diversion program class that's like 8 hours and some community service"

"We don't have anything. There's nothing for me to give you. We didn't smoke at all. I haven't smoked all day. (Roommate says he smoked it all way earlier in the day)"

"We can smell it, all the signs are here, I've been doing this for awhile and I know what's going on here..."

He then took our cards and entered them in or whatever and gave them back. Never came in our room. Never got any real evidence. Yet he seemed 100% confident that we were guilty based on the fact of smell, us having a fan on, eyes being dilated, and me eating tortilla chips. First of all we didn't refuse his search & seizure, and even if we did that can't be an admission of guilt, right? He said we'll have to go in front of the school board. How the hell is this legal? We weren't smoking and I actually hadn't smoked all day.

Answer:
 > How the hell is this legal?

It's perfectly legal.  In fact, this sequence of events could be a primer on exactly how to handle these situations.

The officer believed he had evidence of marijuana possession.  He questioned you about your possession of marijuana.  He even read you your Miranda warnings, which he wasn't required to do.  He didn't believe your story, so he cited you for it.

He did not make an illegal search, or a seizure, nor did he threaten you or physically assault you.  He went above and beyond his legal requirements in protecting your rights.

In short, perfectly, 100% legal, and not a 'travesty of justice'.  You have no right not to be charged, no right to be believed, and no right not to be investigated.

In this case, it sounds like you were actually issued a rules violation, not an official legal summons.  Legal issues would be heard by a court, not a school board.  You should check your school's disciplinary rules to see what that's all about.


Title: [TX] Company mistakenly shipped me the wrong items. Do I legally own them now?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > Would these wrong items be considered my property since they were sent to me in a box with my name on it?

No. Notify them of the error.


Title: Teenagers Throwing My Garden Stones and Damaging Neighbors' Property. Am I Fault? [VA]

Question:
I live in a pretty nice but slightly older townhouse community in Loudoun Virginia. 1 car garage, 3 story townhomes, no real yard etc. Today I was talking to my next door neighbor (call him Bob), when our neighbor from across the street sees us and joins in. We'll call neighbor #2 Steve.

Apparently in the afternoons, several teenagers walk up the street after school. When they reach my house, they pick up my garden stones/pavers by the driveway and thrown them around. My pavers [look like this](http://images.lowes.com/product/converted/742786/742786502070lg.jpg), just a little smaller and thinner.

Evidently Steve has a security camera and he has multiple recordings of these boys picking up the stones, throwing them at glass doors, stairs, and 1 time, even his car parked in his garage. I have some unexplained dings and scratches in my car too and I wouldn't be surprised if the same kids. Steve says he knows the specific kids doing it and the recordings prove it.

Neither I nor next door neighbor Bob had any idea this was happening as we both work 9-5. These youths even picked up Bob's huge garden pavers and threw them too. They [look like this](http://crescentdc.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/Garden-Wall-Pavers-Stone-Northern-VA.jpg).

Semi related, these kids are also acting up in the common areas, smoking pot etc.

A few questions: what can I do about these kids? Am I fault in any way if something gets broken? Are these kids technically trespassing be stepping the (literal) 1 step onto my lawn to get the pavers and then stealing them? I don't want to do be a narc but I'm pretty pissed the kids are messing with my garden.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Answer:
 >  what can I do about these kids?

I would call the police non-emergency line.

> Am I fault in any way if something gets broken?

I can't envision a scenario based upon what you've said here where you could be liable.

>  Are these kids technically trespassing be stepping the (literal) 1 step onto my lawn to get the pavers and then stealing them?

Possibly technically.  But the bigger issue is the destruction of property.

 > I don't want to do be a narc but I'm pretty pissed the kids are messing with my garden.

I don't see how being a narc plays into it when kids are throwing rocks at vehicles and who know what else.


Title: I'm being summoned to court for "failing" to report for jury duty.

Question: I live in Utah.  I got a letter in the mail saying that I was selected for jury duty and what I needed to do.  I needed to call a given number for six days in a row and follow the instructions given through the phone.  I missed the third day but called every other day, each day I was told that there were no available court dates for me and that I needed to call back the next day.  A while after this I get a letter saying that I failed to report for jury duty and I was given another chance to go through the same process, which I did, and sadly missed the fourth day this time as well but was also only told to call back every time.  Later I get a letter that tells me I failed to report for Jury duty and that I'm being summoned to court in two weeks.  I don't have a solid reason for not calling, they were just extremely busy and emotional weeks and remembering to call in was difficult.  It doesn't seem very reasonable that I'm being threatened with a $1,000 fine and jail time for missing two out of 12 days, especially considering that my Juror number wasn't even called and I that called 10 days instead of the normal 6 most people are required to.  Is there any way to defend myself, or at the very least pay the fine and avoid jail time?  Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 hire a lawyer and see if you can get it settled before the hearing. Its up to the judge about what he wants for your contempt. An apology might be all that is needed.

You could just go down and schedule a meeting with the judge yourself but that could take some time and research.


Title: Mother of my 2 children has separated with me in the past month got her own place and a new boyfriend out of prison less than 4 months ago. he is on parole and i believe he is using drugs and alcohol and watching my kids by himself.

Question: Me ex and I were together a little under 6 years and we split last month april 15. she has got her own place with this said boyfriend from the title. so far we have split custody and expenses as evenly as possible with the kids. I believe he is watching my kids by himself and will have proof of that as soon as i pick my children up friday. My question is how do I get both of them drug tested: hair folicle if possible. Myself taking one is no concern whatsoever. I want my children to not have a chance to be put in a potentially bad situation because of these two and would love to be reassured from a drug test. Location: Missouri

Answer: Talk to a lawyer specializing in family law to ensure your kids are being properly taken care of. As for the boyfriend, I'd wager that a condition of his parole is a drug test. Getting your ex drug tested would be difficult as it could be an invasion of privacy.


Title: Cops keep coming to my house and scaring my pregnant wife.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Alright well here is a situation where the advice of

>never talk to the police without a lawyer, and not to answer the door to the police for any reason except a fire

doesn't apply.  I don't know the first thing about pregnant-lady bed rest to know if it means literally don't leave bed, or just don't do much and stay home as much as possible, so I'm not going to tell you to have your wife answer the door.

But for shit's sake, just call the police and ask them why they're coming to your house.  If they're accusing you of a crime, obviously don't talk to them.  But if they're looking for someone that used to live there, tell them you don't know what they're talking about, you bought the house from the bank recently, yadda yadda yadda.

You're making this situation needlessly more difficult for yourself and your wife.  Answer #2: Well, you could try talking to them. You know, ask them why they keep stopping by. Might be a good start. I'm sure you can survive a wuick phone call without a lawyer.

 Short of getting a psychic with a crystal ball, you aren't going to know what they want without asking.


Title: Tickets sent to wrong address for years.

Question:
I'm in Illinois and I got a few letters dropped off yesterday in regards to red
light camera tickets, some of them are from 5 years ago that were being sent to the wrong address.

The fines at this point are just over $1,000 because of late fees. While I'm sure it's pointless to fight the actual tickets, is there any way to fight the fees since I have never gotten the tickets in the mail?

Answer: NAL. Generally speaking, it's your responsibility to update your address with the DMV. How did you manage to register your car every year with unpaid traffic tickets?Answer #2: Did you keep your current address up to date with the DMV over all this time? Or was this a clerical error?Answer #3: Address is up to date. I always get my yearly vehicle sticker renewals in the mail. Someone I spoke with on the phone said the post office isn't allowed to forward municipal mail? But that doesn't sound right to me.Answer #4: Have you kept the address current on the registration for your car? If you had the address current and they still sent the tickets to the wrong address you may have a defense to the late fees.


Title: (TX) I violated my misdemeanor probation, what am I looking at?

Question: In July of last year I was put on a years probation for possession of  marijuana under 2oz. Thursday I was arrested for a DUI MB and I have a court date on Monday. This is the first time I violated my probation, how bad is it looking??

Answer:
 I'm a PO in MI. Getting a DUI while on probation is about one of the easiest violations I can prove. At least here in MI, you now have two violations. Using alcohol while on probation, and violating the law. If you were not to tell me and I find out amd you still deny anything happened (i've had a couple of people get new charges and lie to me about it), I would add a third violation of failing to report truthfully. Odds are it is also a condition of your probation there.

When it comes to the violation itself, you could be looking at jail, and if you are any type of deferral program for your MJ charge, that will probably be revoked. So instead of having no criminal record, you will have both.

Here on out, for your MJ probation, you are in damage control mode. You need to be completely honest with your PO and yourself.Answer #2: There's lots of 'just be honest with your PO' in here... but what you really need to do is talk to your lawyer.Answer #3: DUI MB? Well if you haven't violated before your PO is going to ask for a statement. Come clean and be honest it will help you and they most likely already have the answers anyway. I doubt you'll be revoked at this point. You will probably get reduced hours if you're on monitoring or they may put you on monitoring. You will have to go to treatment and your level will be increased meaning you'll meet with them more frequently. This is from a PO standpoint, not legal.


Title: Someone stole my design to use in the same contest, and won?

Question:
Hi! A couple days ago I posted a question and you were all so great, I hope it's okay to come to your help again.

So I do graphic design on the side, and recently signed up for a contest, where the winner gets the amount established and gives the person running it the rights to the design.

Anyway, a guy blatantly copied my design and merely changed the font to the flyer's info. He won and now the contest runner holds the rights.

Can I do anything at all? My flyer was posted before, and even rated by the dude who wanted a flyer. If I can 'go after them', do I contact the guy who paid, and who now owns the design? Or what should I do?

Thanks so much!

Answer: I'm not a lawyer, but I think that if the guy didn't own the rights to the design, he can't give them to someone else either.  He certainly can't give away your rights to the flyer you made.  If his changes were enough to give him ownership of his version, he transferred those rights to the contest runner, and you still own yours.  If his changes weren't enough to give him ownership, he probably violated the contest rules by entering it, certainly failed to transfer any rights, and you still own your version.  In that case, you'd presumably want to inform the guy who paid that he's been ripped off and owns nothing.


Title: [Ontario Canada] Fiancee from France on a work visa got a DUI. 2x the legal limit. Criminal record coming? Deported soon?

Question:
Ok so I'm posting this for a friend.

This weekend he was pulled over and blew .16

He works IT for a company with security clearance that would fire him if he got a criminal record.

He's a white male, 30, no record, good job. Been in Canada for ~4 years.

Will this conviction equal a criminal record? How likely is it that it could be plead down to not include a criminal record? How much in legal fees are they facing. Do lawyers offer payment plans, and at what interest rate? Would he be deported if he gets a criminal record? What if he just can't keep his job, would he not be able to stay on his visa.

Would it make sense for him to marry his fiancee (Canadian) before the sentencing?

They are both really shook up by this and I'm hoping I can help them make sense of all this.

Thank you.

Edit: Why the downvote? I'm very appreciative of anyone's help and if I messed up the posting guidelines please let me know.

Answer:
 IANAL.

>Will this conviction equal a criminal record?

Yes. Driving over 80 carries a mandatory minimum sentence of a $1000 fine ($1300 with the victim surcharge) and a 12 month driving prohibition. A discharge is not a sentencing option here.

>How likely is it that it could be plead down to not include a criminal record?

There's no reason for the Crown to do that unless there are serious evidentiary problems with the case, which there probably aren't.

>Would he be deported if he gets a criminal record?

Quite possibly. He's a foreign national, so any criminal conviction will trigger a CBSA report to the Immigration Review Board. He's entitled to a hearing.

>What if he just can't keep his job, would he not be able to stay on his visa.

Can't stay on a work visa if he doesn't work.

>Would it make sense for him to marry his fiancee (Canadian) before the sentencing?

It won't help him with sentencing and it won't help keep him in the country.


Title: Can I get a ticket from an off duty cop?

Question:
Clean driving record with no tickets/accidents/or points on my license and a very low insurance rate. I blew a red light on accident on a not so busy road. (it one of those lights where it’s only functional during rush hour commutes and I don’t typically drive in this area often) I felt like shit when it happened and immediately knew I fucked up and noticed a truck pull out behind me and tail me for a while before snapping a pic of my car and plates. As soon as I reached my town and crossed the line the person turned around and I was on my way. I know what I did was stupid and I thank God no one got hurt by my stupidity. Can this person ‘turn me in’ or file a report? The only reason I can think of for why they clearly tailed me is that they were in law enforcement. Should I worry, or am I bugging out? If I sound like and idiot please be honest.
Tl;dr I may be retarded
Edit: happened in the US more specifically New England

Answer:
 I didn't realize that New England is now under one state government.

Anyways, it is theoretically possible for you to get a ticket, but unlikely.


Title: judge lied about reducing fine!

Question:
So long story short:
Los Angeles Metropolitan Court, Traffic Department:
I went to arraignment for an open container infraction.
Judge said if i plead no contest, he would reduce the fine.
I paid $187.
I realized $187 was the original bail amount.
SO i wasted my time and the piece of crap lied to me!
Can i motion to withdraw my plea?
Sue the court?
File a complaint?
Topic:
Douche

Answer: Typically bail is less than the actual fine.  He may have reduced the fine to match the amount you already paid.


Title: (MD) IRS refund check with both my and my ex's name on it. Cannot deposit it.

Question:
I am recently divorced. My ex committed tax fraud on our joint returns while we were married, resulting in a large outstanding bill for past taxes + penalties.

As part of the divorce decree I agreed that my lastest tax return -- married filing separately -- would he used to pay off the remaing obligation.

When I filed, the IRS took the money from my federal return and issued a check in my name only for the refund of the remainder.

However, they also grabbed my State refund, which was filed in my name only, married filing separately. This exceeded the outstanding debt so they eventually sent a refund check. But this check is in both my name and that of my ex spouse. We are not on amicable terms and I canmot deposit this check, making it useless to me.

Any advice on what to do? Will the IRS reissue the check if I request it? Any advice appreciated.

Answer:
 NAL but try giving the IRS a call. You may be able to get it direct deposited but that may be harder to do since it wasn't included on the return to begin with .

Also why would you not be able to cash it? Did your bank say you could not deposit it? Or are you worried about something else?


Title: Selling my house and we found buyer with no Realtor. We don't see the point in paying commission to one. Advice?

Question:
We are looking at selling our house to acquaintances. We have an agreed on price and basically just need purchase and sales contracts and to open escrow with a Ttitle Co.

They have a lender and are pre-approved. Does anyone have any experience that might help us get down this path without a Realtor?

I see this [website](http://www.lawdepot.com/contracts/real-estate-purchase-agreement/) for the initial purchase agreement. Is it legit?

Thanks!

Answer:
 >I see this website[1] for the initial purchase agreement. Is it legit?

This is a terrible idea. It's a pre-printed form that doesn't account for anything you may need to disclose. Do you know what you need to disclose?

This is one of those situations where you could spend the extra money to hire a real estate attorney to draft your purchase agreement now and save the money on an extended lawsuit later. Which do you think is best?Answer #2: What state are you in? Most states allow attorneys to prepare and process the paperwork for the sale of a home (although they typically aren't allowed to act as a sales agent.) Where I am from, most attorneys will do the work for somewhere between $500 and $1000. Answer #3: You can work with a good real estate attorney instead of a realtor, if you prefer.  You can often find a realtor who is willing to give you a lower percentage (especially if he or she is a broker working solo).  But you should have someone with a clue look over the paperwork.


Title: Withholding Children from Violent Father?

Question:
I am legally married to a violent, unstable, drug addict. We have twin daughters, 1 1/2 year old. I've been a stay at home mom since their birth. Last March I had to get a protective order against my husband after he threatened to murder me in front of our daughters. I have audio recordings of him saying he wanted to put a bullet in our mechanic's head, wanting to shoot up his place of work, wanting to slam his coworker's head into a fryer. I dropped the restraining order against the judge's advice, after he promised to go on meds..things reverted back quickly after, he actually asked us to leave in July. The girls and I moved to Florida.

Since there are no custody orders and we're legally married, is it illegal to refuse to let him see the children? He's ignored us for months, not sent a penny..and now he's saying he's following us to FL......I am absolutely terrified. I cant file for divorce in FL til I've been a resident for six months..

Answer:
 If he comes to Florida and makes a threat of any kind then you can immediately go to the local courts and file for a protective order that would shield you and the children.  If there is imminent danger then call the police.

As to your right to withhold the kids.  So long as there isn’t a custody order in place the parent who actually has physical control of the kids gets to call the shots.  You have no obligation to let him see them and you cannot be charged with kidnapping.  This isn’t to say he cannot run to the court where you lived and file for custody, in which case the court would likely order the kids returned to the state.  But until that time you are free to do as you wish.

To the long term issues, unfortunately Florida also lacks jurisdiction over child custody at this time, the kids will need to have lived there for 6 months before the Florida courts can exert jurisdiction over them, at least without the risk of the prior state asserting jurisdiction over them forcing Florida to drop the case.  However, as noted above if there is an imminent danger then you should call the police and seek a protective order.


Title: I walked into a store and got bit by their dog

Question: The dog is there pretty frequently and has met me a handful of times. When I walked in today, the dog was laying on the floor in front of the mat. I took 2 steps and he jumped up, attacked me and bit my hand (and drew blood). The shop owner came running out and took the dog away. She was pretty upset, he's never done this to a customer before, let alone one he knows. I told a few people what happened and they suggested I sue? I don't exactly want to be That person, but... what are my options here?

Answer:
 Do you want to sue? Or do you simply want your medical bills taken care of? Because if the latter, send the store a letter (probably certified) telling them you want X. Include any documentation.Answer #2: Your options related to this incident are:

1) To request that expenses incurred as a result of the dog bite me paid for by them (which may include them filing a claim with their insurance and them paying you)

2) Sue them for damages - Which by the way, what are they? Did you go to the hospital? Was it just a boo boo that you put a band-aid on and it's already healed? Did you lose a finger/hand/arm?

3) Go get treated and do nothing against the shop.

Unfortunately there is no big payday here, unless you sustained some major injuries. If you typing on reddit, that tells me you are at least capable of moving your hands. Unless of course you're in a hospital all bandaged up and using voice nav to post?


Title: Sister(19) pepper sprayed brother(15) in the face. Mother doesn’t want police to arrest her. Everyone else does.

Question:
This is my first post and it’s on mobile and I’m still shaky so sorry for any errors.

My sister (almost 19) pepper sprayed my our little brother(15) inside our mother’s house. Of course since this happened indoors so it ended up spraying our mother and our baby brother (11) as well.
My mother called me (I have my own house) asking how to get rid of pepper spray in the eyes and skin. I asked for the full story and now I’m pissed and told her to call the police. Mother doesn’t want to involve the police since it will ‘hurt her future’.
This may be a dumb question but can we document this incident and not arrest my sister. My mother recently had a mastectomy and can’t handle a lot of stress.  The 15 year old wants to press charges, mother is just wanting her out of the house. If it helps sister that’ll be 19 in April refused to get a job and leaves the house every night lying about where she’s going. Sorry it’s so long please I need advice! (Kentucky)

Answer:
 While this does ostensibly involve an adult pepper spraying a minor, the police may not be excited to get involved. Did she do this just randomly, in a fit of anger, or was there more to the story?

Let's assume it was unprovoked. Nothing prevents you from calling the police, or CPS, by yourself. Doing so would probably at least result in an investigation, but an arrest is not a guarantee. Whether you want to do this really depends on the larger story. You've explained why the sister is a deadbeat, but that's irrelevant to everyone except your mother. Other than this incident is there any *other* reason to think that your older sister represents a threat to your siblings?Answer #2: The mother has no ability to "stop" the 15yo from reporting the crime.Answer #3: You or anyone else can report the crime to the police. However they may not be so willing to do anything about the domestic violence since the mom wants to keep her daughter safe. There would still be a paper trail. Cps might be interested tho.
You make it sound like parents are separated? If that's the case a police report and /or cps involvement could be useful to the father.


Title: Me and my gf making out etc. in empty parking lot and things escalated quickly

Question:
Me (21M) and a girl (18F) im dating ate something and then we started making out in my car and it led to me performing oral sex in my backseat, there was nobody near us and it was pretty secluded but when i was leaving this car pulled up and said they recorded us, he said he got my license plate, and was gonna go to the police. I told my girl not to worry and to go home, we came in separate cars so i dropped her off at her car, and after she texted me saying they followed her to her house........this literally happened 5 minutes ago and i honestly have no idea where to go or what to do so i just came to reddit......she isn’t answering me so i have no clue what’s going on and now that she said they followed her I’m really freaking the fuck out.
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 >she texted me saying they followed her to her house

Then she should call the police. Answer #2: Yeah, definitely call the cops before going to reddit!

I’m wondering why you didn’t follow her home if I were her and that happened I would beg for my bf to follow me back home just in case.

Good luck. I’m overly paranoid so sorry if my comment doesn’t seem nice.. or helpful.Answer #3: I mean, who hasn’t been part of something like that in their teens. It’s literally so normalized it’s everywhere on TV. Back in highschool something similar happened to me except it was a cop car that drove by us, and they didn’t do anything.

By your updates it really just sounds like some ridiculous old bat and her husband are jealous that he needs a little blue pill to get it up so they’re taking it out on you and your girlfriend.


Title: You can Google my arrest record (NY)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You can ask nicely. But it is completely legal since it is fact.

You can also hire an SEO company to move it father down in the results.


Title: Property damaged by a Customer

Question:
How to handle this situation if it happens.

Lets say I own a small electronic business in California. I have property and personal insurance, and I have security cam installed.

Scenarios:

1. A teenager comes in, and **accidentally** breaks a $2000 computer. He then runs away. Security camera captured his face.

Will insurance pays for it, and how much?

2. A teenager comes in, got mad, and **intentionally** breaks a $5000 computer equipment. He then runs away. Security camera captured his face.

3. A masked burglar stole $20,000 worth of equipment. Security camera can't see who it is.

How much will insurance pays for this, and will they pay for potential loss of costumers?

Answer: Nobody wants to help you commit hypothetical insurance fraud.


Title: (TN) Is it legal for my college to force teachers to deduct points off of schoolwork (regardless of the quality) if a student doesn't have the "required" technology?

Question:
So this fall semester my college implemented a "iPad initiative". They say that it is mandatory that all students have one, regardless of whether the classwork requires it or not. They received a lot of backlash on this so they decided the best response was to tell teachers to deduct points off of student grades if they do not have one.

I know this probably doesn't break any actual laws but would this be grounds for a lawsuit? If the student is completing the required work in a proper and satisfactory manor, what gives them the right to deduct points? Especially when there are classes that don't even use the iPad for coursework. Couldn't it also be seen as discrimination as not all students can afford such things?
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 I recommend transferring to a better school if possible.Answer #2: OP, I may be a professor at your college as I work at a school with an iPad initiative in TN. As far as I know, we have NOT been told that we can deduct points from grades for students who don't have an iPad. We're just meant to remind you that it's technically "mandatory" and we're supposed to incorporate them in instruction "as we see fit for the subject."

So you know, many members of the faculty are not any more on board with the "iPad initiative" than the students are, and we've been especially unhappy with the way the textbook situation was handled this semester. We weren't asked for our opinions before any of these policies were implemented, and when we make suggestions on how to roll out these policies in an organized and controlled way, they're often ignored. There have been a LOT of behind the scenes debates and arguments that have gotten us nowhere because administration doesn't want to hear it.

Know that you aren't the only person who hasn't bought one. The reason administration is cracking down is because they've only sold a small fraction of the number they expected to sell. I don't know what will come of it, but I'll be happy to answer any questions I can.


Title: Is there really no legal action available for my partner against her abusers?

Question:
My partner was raped and molested by both of her parents, as well as associates of her parents. Her father also beat her regularly, which she has a mishealed broken shoulder, nose and fingers to show for. She also claims that her father beat her older brother to death in front of her when they were 3 and 5 years old, that she witnessed the disposal of his body, and that her parents committed multiple other murders together.

All of this has left her with a lot of mental illness, including Complex post-traumatic stress disorder and Dissociative Identity Disorder, which which has left her with a lot of amnesia and memory troubles - she's only recently begun to remember a lot of these incidents, particularly the parts involving murder.

She was apparently advised just under a year ago that it wouldn't be possible to prosecute the people responsible, but hasn't been able to explain to me why not. The only explanations I can think of are a lack of evidence and/or the fact that she's mentally ill. But I still find it hard to believe that it won't be possible to prosecute at least her parents for the abuse she suffered, though the murder stuff is difficult to believe and even if true can't be proven.

We are currently living in Western Australia, where her dad also lives, but the abuse occurred mostly in Queensland, Australia where her mother still lives, and also in Israel, where they lived for a few years before moving back to Queensland.

Answer:
 There could be a statute of limitations... But more that likely is that your friend is not 100% truthful. Answer #2: Their 5 year old just disappeared one day and the police didn't investigate? She had a broken shoulder, nose, and fingers, and none of her teachers or anyone else anywhere noticed this?

I hate to seem insensitive -- I was abused as well -- but extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence. All of this supposedly happened, including the death of her 5 year old brother by ass-whooping, and yet her parents avoided all scrutiny?


Title: Is There A Test For Getting Religious Exemptions At Work? (Texas)

Question:
I work in a clothing store where we are required to wear the brand’s clothing and present a specific style that goes with the brand.  I’ve worked there almost a year and it’s been fine.

But the new clothing/style guide for my store for 2019 shows  either pants or skirts/dresses worn without tights (or maybe with sheer hose).  I was raised in a religion (which has strong ties to my ethnicity and culture) that strongly discourages women from wearing pants or showing much of their actual legs — basically women either wear long dresses and skirts (past mid calf) or opaque tights/leggings under shorter dresses and skirts. While I don’t practice that religion anymore I still think I personally would feel extremely uncomfortable and underdressed either in pants or in bare legs in a professional setting.  The pants shown in the guide are nearly all very form fitting as well.  We do sell wider legged and trouser style pants but none are shown in the guide of what employees may use their “allowance” on and wear to work. I don’t judge how other people dress at all and I’ve had no trouble selling pants and shorter skirts, and recommending bare legs/open toed shoes to customers if it works for them as far as their style/the environment they’re dressing for.  I have so far always hit my quota and even gotten recognition for being an outstanding newcomer.

But my boss has made a few weird remarks about the fact that I always wear dresses and tights (I got all the dresses with my “allowance” and they were in the 2018 guide but the tights are all mine as we don’t carry hosiery), and with the new guide looking less like what I’m comfortable wearing, I’m a little concerned.  The last time something was said I actually pointed at the 2018 guide because it did show one lady wearing opaque tights in the examples but this year’s doesn’t show that, and it also calls out ladies for “sizing up too much and looking boxy”.  I think my boss is going to outright ask me to stop wearing the opaque tights and wear pants or skirts without tights and I wondered if I could use the fact that I grew up in this religion and still identify with it somewhat culturally as a reason to keep wearing opaque tights under my dresses?

I really like the job but I also really like wearing what I wear, and the fact that I am comfortable going to family functions straight from work or going to see my religious grandma during my lunch hour (she also lives really close to my store).

Any help would be appreciated!

Answer:
 The legal test is "sincerely held religious belief."  There is no exemption for non-religious cultural beliefs, and the fact that it might be awkward with your grandmother isn't really relevant at all.

If you no longer practice the religion or hold the religious beliefs as religious beliefs (as opposed to cultural customs), then legally, you wouldn't qualify for an accommodation.

That said, you can request it and see what happens.


Title: [MD] Aunt and uncle, power of attorney, draining my grandparent's money

Question:
What can I do?
My grandpa died in 2010 and since then, my grandma has been declining. She has brain cancer and dementia.

My dad passed away a long time ago and, after my grandpa passed, my aunt and her husband have managed my grandparent's accounts. My aunt is the power of attorney and my uncle (her husband) is the guy that manages the accounts. The accounts are shared in name now--my uncle, aunt, and my grandma are all on the checks.

My grandparents worked reasonably-well paying jobs their whole life, and my grandpa worked and lived frugally and invested his money (/r/personalfinance would be proud).

They recently sold my grandma's house and pocketed the money. That was worth about 250k.

I believe they have been siphoning money from my grandma during her decline for the past 4 years. My uncle seems to have gotten some tax certification, and he has been "billing" my grandma for his services of maintaining the account at a high, hourly rate. They seem to "bill" my grandma for everything they do, despite the fact that she is well taken care of at a local assisted living facility. The will divides the money among the grandchildren, my aunt and uncle, and my mom, and I don't believe they are legally entitled to the money from the house or for the "services" they performed.

My question concerns how to maximize the amount of money I can inherit from my grandma and when I should start speaking with an attorney. I am already peeved about the house. I think I stand to inherit over a hundred thousand, and I intend to use it for educational purposes (professional school).

Answer: Report financial elder abuse/exploitation to the [Maryland Department of Aging](http://www.aging.maryland.gov/ElderAbusePrevent.html).


Title: HOA overstepping authority?

Question: So I live in a community in South Carolina that has an HOA in place.  With in the past two years the town has started working towards a road that will go through the neighborhood.  This road has been planned for over 10 years, anyways it all of the sudden became a huge problem with many people in the community.  It has just come to light that our HOA has spent $29,000 in legal fees fighting this road via a lawsuit.  My question is what power does a Homeowners Association have to file a lawsuit on behalf of a 700+ home neighborhood without a vote, as well as are they legally allowed to spend that kind of money without a vote? And final question, how would one go about replacing the board of directors?

Answer:
 Do you regularly attend the meetings and vote on issues?

As others have said the bylaws will set forth the procedures.

It seems like if this has been ongoing this would have reflected in the budget or a special assessment and that it would have been discussed at meetings.Answer #2: Your HOA has a set of governing documents that will answer these questions for you. You should have received a copy when you bought the house, or when the HOA was formed if it was formed after you bought the house. Go read those documents.Answer #3: I have read them and do not see anything that answers these questions


Title: Girlfriend is getting threatening phone calls from a buy here pay here dealership, what can I do?

Question:
For a little background, she bought a car last august at a buy here-pay here place. Total piece of shit car, total piece of shit place. It is what it is. This is in Virginia.

Fast forward, I got her out of it and she's now traded the car in to get something reliable. The deal was done earlier this month so her buy here pay here dealership is waiting to receive the payoff, but they have been calling her every day since the payment has been late, telling her that this will destroy her credit, that they will garnish her wages, that it doesn't matter if she traded the car in they still need their money for it because they claim the other dealership has no recollection of selling her a car or sending them a payoff. It's only been a couple weeks and the deal wasn't funded immediately for dumb reasons, but her old dealership is calling her every day to harass her and her payment hasn't even been late by 30 days.

What can we do?

Answer: Pay the car off


Title: Girlfriend arrested for DUI without breathalyzer but officer claims he gave her a breathalyzer.

Question: My girlfriend is about to go to court for DUI under the age of 21 (we are in Georgia). The officer who arrested her claimed in the police report she blew a .02 but she was never given a breathalyzer as confirmed by the dash cam footage. She did take the field sobriety tests and stumbled a little on the walk and turn. She is also being charged with failure to maintain lane, driving on a suspended license (it wasn't actually suspended), and posession of marijuana under a gram on top of the DUI under 21. Because the police officer lied on the report should her case be dismissed?

Answer: She really needs a lawyer for this.


Title: My LIA moved out, (from California to China) & left all his belongings. Now threatening to sue me if i touch any of it. What do I do?

Question:
Here is the basic story.  I live in California, in low in come housing.  I'm disabled and need someone living with me for safety reasons.  In the past it was always friends of mine, until this last LIA (Live In Aide).  This last time I just went on craigslist and found someone that needed somewhere to live.  I found this guy, and he had actually gone to law school with my sister in law, so I picked him.  He lived with me 2 years, but never could find steady work, so 2 months ago he moved to China to teach.  (Important note, before he moved, he went to the office, signed papers saying he no longer lived there, & turned in his parking pass.)
Last Christmas his cousin came to visit, & never left.  When my LIA left 2 months ago, I made an agreement with his cousin to let him say until after he received surgery.  Cousin is not able to assist me when i have seizures, so I have been staying at my mothers since the week before my LIA left.
Last week I received a phone call from my apartment complex informing me the car needs to be removed from the lot, or it will be towed.  I never even knew it was still there.  Apparently LIA did not tell cousin that it could no be parked there.  Cousin informed me car does not start, so he could not move it; & that the car payments had not been made in over a year.  The only reason it hadn't been repossessed was because it had been parked in my gated community.
So, my complex towed it.  I also went by my apartment to find all of my LIA's belongings are still there.  All he took was his clothes & TV.  According to cousin, LIA's baby mamma was suppose to come get everything directly after he left, but never did.
Skipping forward to last night, LIA apparently finds out car has been towed.  He made a post on his Facebook asking his "lawyer friends" for legal help for his car being towed from his apartment complex without giving notice.  I replied to his post saying that he moved out, taking with him any right to park in a private lot.  That there is posted signs saying without visible parking pass the car will be towed.
He then blocked me from his Facebook, and left me voice messages basically telling me if I touch any of his things he will sue me, & that he's going to contact the housing authority & report me for fraud, & make sure I never receive disability assistance again.
Although that second part may end up causing a lot of stress, I haven't actually done anything wrong to loose housing or disability, and he would just be filing false claims.
I've told cousin that anything that does not belong to me, or him, has to go immediately.  I never made any agreement for anything to be aloud to stay in my home.  I've told cousin that if anything is going to stay, such as the bed, he needs a letter from LIA saying it now belongs to him.  But is that necessary? I'm just trying to make sure my bases are covered here.
At this point, I don't know what to do.  Legally, what can i do with his stuff?  His cousin is still trying to get a hold of the woman to take it, but what do I do with it if she doesn't come?   Cousin will be leaving in less then a month.  A new live in aide has to move in.  The stuff cant stay, what am i aloud to do with it?

Answer: Google "California abandoned property procedures" and follow the directions provided by the state on what you can/can't do with abandoned property in CA.


Title: [OK] My father-in-law accused me of kidnapping my wife because he does not agree with my religious views. I was arrested.

Question:
I married my wife about a week ago in a quick private ceremony - her father (both my parents and her mother have already passed away) was not invited because of his history of abusing her, and she broke off contact with him two years ago, about a year after we started dating. In the past, he has made threatening phone calls to me, repeatedly called me a "heathen" and implied my religion is made up of savages and terrorists.

Today, the police came by my workplace with a warrant for my arrest for "kidnapping" her. She was at my house, but did not answer the phone when called. When I asked why I was being charged, they said her father reported her missing. I was arrested, despite showing proof that we are married. What should I do?

Answer:
 I highly doubt things went down like that. All you had to do was take the police to your house to show them she was alive and well. They wouldn't arrest you because she didn't answer the phone.

Hire an attorneyAnswer #2: I shouldn't have to ask this but: your wife is over 18? Not under any form of guardianship order?Answer #3: So you got arrested for kidnapping today but you're already out of jail and posting to reddit on the same day? Generally kidnapping offenses would have substantial bond requirements and would need a hearing before a magistrate before bond would even be set.


Title: Warrant for my arrest, but they have the wrong guy.

Question:
I am visiting a friend who lives on a military base, and when the staff at the entrance gate ran my driver's license through their system, an arrest warrant for domestic violence came up. I have never heard anything about this, I don't have a wife or kids and I live alone.  The people at the gate called some other police officers who asked me a few questions regarding tattoos (apparently guy has one on his leg and I showed them that I didn't).  They saw they had the wrong guy and let me go, just couldn't get on base, so I'm writing this from my hotel room.

What do I do to get this corrected?  I'm calling the DMV from my hometown in the morning, should I call the court there too?  I'm starting a new job in a few weeks and I'm kinda paranoid they will see this and I will get fired or something for a crime I never even came close to committing.

Edit: this is in New Jersey and I'm from New York

Answer:
 Sounds like you're in the clear.  The guys clearly identifiable as not being you and you CAN ask the police to note that which they might or might not be arsed to do.Answer #2: So, why were you not allowed on base if it was determined that you were not the person named on the warrant?Answer #3: Ok here is what happened. When your license got ran into the computer system it goes into a program called NCIC. there are three levels of checks that are done (local,state,federal) your name gets checked along with your birthday in all three and anything that comes up with an exact match or a close match (same name different birth year, similar name i.e. Jon instead of Jonathan, phonetic spellings) now all these matches will have additional information to verify the person is who they want.

Basically there is nothing you can do about this. Sometimes this may be an inconvience (at highly sensitive places) other times it might not even be mentioned to you at all. Answer #4: Lots of people with similar names have warrants issued.  You can't change other people's warrants just because they have similar information to you.


Title: [NC] Wife took Husband's inheritance from mother from joint account, put in account in her name only.

Question:
Hello. I'm in NC.

The husband got an inheritance from his mother several months ago, which was deposited into a joint account with him and his wife.

The wife took that inheritance money today and put it into a different account in her name only.

What can the husband do to get that back?

Thank you.

EDIT: Thank you all for your thought out and helpful responses. I'm making sure to pass along all of this information.

Answer:
 The way either of them forces their finances apart and recovers assets inappropriately withheld by the other is a divorce.

Commingling his inheritance with the marital assets may have made it a marital asset as well. It also may not have. This is something for the husband's divorce lawyer to look at in light of state laws and the full facts of the situation.Answer #2: Lawyer, now. While keeping up a good face with the wife. If he goes that route, it's a good idea to keep his internet history clear of suspicious searches like "divorce lawyer". Also, meeting with a lawyer doesn't have to mean a definite divorce. It can be framed as becoming aware of his options.Answer #3: This just happened to a family member. Transferred all of the money to a personal account, then filed for divorce. Judge is working it out, the lawyer is pretty confident they will recover the inheritance. (community property state)


Title: Security Deposit was given back late and with no interest - What am I entitled to? And why can't I seem to get a lawyer?

Question:
My boyfriend and I had rented an apartment in Massachusetts, we moved in on 9/1/13 with a 1 year lease, and renewed it for another 10 months, so our lease ended on 6/30/15 (we actually moved out/turned over the keys on 6/28).

On August 4th we **still** hadn't received our security deposit, nor any word of it (be it to list damages or otherwise), so I called the leasing center and was like, "heyyyy give it back." (I knew since it was after 30 days they couldn't contest any damages). The woman kept me on the phone FOREVER saying she could see in the system that the check was "processed" but couldn't get it to give her a date or a check number, acting like it was a computer issue. I think she was *actually* processing the request for the check just then, but that's irrelevant. She said she'd call me back that afternoon, and never did.

A few days later we get a check in the mail, post marked the 5th, the check is dated the 4th (the day I called), and the check is ONLY for the initial amount of the deposit, there's no interest. We never received any interest payments in the 22 months we lived there (nor was it ever deducted from our rent).

Now if I'm understanding the MA law correctly (I've quoted it below), because they didn't pay within 30 days, aren't I entitled to three times the original deposit amount (and any legal/court fees that come up), and also the interest, I believe also times 3? If I am entitled it, how do I go about getting them to pay?

Now here's the kicker, I've tried contacting several lawyers through their/their firms pages, through either a message left through their website, or leaving voicemails. All since the beginning of August and I've heard back from **no one.** Am I going about this the wrong way? Should I try contacting the apartment again? I haven't since the first time I called, and I also haven't deposited the check they gave me. Are security deposit issues just so trivial that no lawyer wants to pick it up? I can't seem to figure out why no one is calling me back, and I'm really frustrated by it. Also a lot of lawyers just seem to be personal injury lawyers, I'm having a really hard time finding one that specializes in real estate law representing tenants (although there's plenty that will represent big companies). And that's the other question I'm wonder, because the lease was through a big property management company, maybe no one wants to take them on? But I haven't told them the name of the apartment complex in any of my messages.

Should I just drop the whole thing?

Chapter 186 Section 15B [Source](https://malegislature.gov/Laws/GeneralLaws/PartII/TitleI/Chapter186/Section15B)
>(6) The lessor shall forfeit his right to retain any portion of the security deposit for any reason, or, in any action by a tenant to recover a security deposit, to counterclaim for any damage to the premises if he:

>>(e) fails to return to the tenant the security deposit or balance thereof to which the tenant is entitled after deducting therefrom any sums in accordance with the provisions of this section, together with any interest thereon, within thirty days after termination of the tenancy.

>(7) **If the lessor or his agent fails to comply with clauses (a), (d), or (e) of subsection 6**, the tenant shall **be awarded damages in an amount equal to three times the amount of such security deposit** or balance thereof to which the tenant is entitled plus interest at the rate of five per cent from the date when such payment became due, together with court costs and reasonable attorney’s fees.

Answer:
 Likely, the lawyers aren't calling you back because the case isn't really worth it to them.  The value of your winnings is likely less than the cost of paying their fee.

Small claims court is generally the proper venue for these sorts of issues.  Small claims court does not require an attorney.


Title: [FL] Emergency! I just found out my auto insurance was canceled Sept 1st. No notice. And I'm stranded and panicking.

Question:
Ive been with my auto insurance company for 16 years, always pay my premiums in full and on time, and have had one small accident in the past 5 years (i bumped a car in a parking lot 2 years ago, no injuries, minor scratches to both vehicles)

I paid my 6 month premium in full in June and I have my paperwork showing I am covered from may 19th to Nov 19th 2017.  The reason it was not paid until June was because they had to redo my policy because they removed my emergency roadside assistance because, between my husband's car and mine, we used it 7 times in 2 years.  3 of those times were my vehicle.  My husband and I also divorced in May and he changed insurance companies.

I called and spoke with my agent on August 7th because I had canceled a travel trailer policy in June and never got the refund check for it and requested that it be resent.  Since I had an issue in May with my car, I asked to verify everything was in good standing on that policy and I was told yes, paid in full and good standing as of August 7th.

Tonight I got a call from my friend who is getting my mail while I am on a trip and I have a letter from the state of Florida saying my license is being suspended for having no insurance.

I called my agents number and it connected me to their after hours line and the gentleman there told me that my insurance has been out of force since September 1st and if I was to call to make a claim since then, he would not be able to do anything for me.

I received no notice or indication that there are any problems with my policy since it was reinstated in June.  This is the second time I found out via drivers license suspension notice from the state with no notice from my insurance.  I let it slide last time because by the time I got the notice from the state, my policy was already reinstated... But this time it does not seem to be the case.

I've been panicking and researching this all night because I am stranded now in Virginia and was supposed to be driving home tomorrow.  My check out is at noon and I can't drive without insurance.  I'm sick to my stomach knowing I have been for 5 weeks now unbeknownst to me.  Surely this can't be legal.

I found this Fl Sta. Stating that I must be given 45 days notice via certified mail of any intent to cancel or not renew.  Am I understanding this correctly?

http://www.leg.state.fl.us/STATUTES/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&Search_String=&URL=0600-0699/0627/Sections/0627.728.html

I see I can appeal but the time limit has passed, assuming the sept. 1st date stands and I need insurance by noon.

I got some quotes from other companies, but since I am marking down I have no current policy and it's been canceled, plus that accident, the premiums their quoting is more than double what i wasnt even expecting to pay for another month and I do not have the money for it.

Please please help me

Answer:
 You may want to post this on /r/insurance. Answer #2: First thing is first,

Go online, get a policy written *right now* for liability on your car. Geico can do this almost instantly.


Title: My Landlord/Doctor is abusing his power and abusing my insurance

Question: I live in Texas and I'm on Adult medicaid, I have lived in the house im in for about 5-6 years. My Landlord was my dads doctor at first, he found out we needed a place so he rented a house to us. Fastforward years later my dad just passed away, and the covid19 stuff is happening. My mom and i bring him $200 of the rent in april at his office, but i met him in the back of the parking lot. I try to hand him the 200 and he tells me to come inside for a minute. When i come inside he tells me my feet are gross and i need to dry them after showering and wear better shoes(this is all done in a storage room) then he grills me on our finances and if we will be able to pay rent and for how long. This all happens in a time frame of 3 minutes, then a month later i see on my insurance that he charged me for a medical office visit. He has continually bullied me into seeing him at his office whether i needed to or not. I would tell him, "hey i just need to drop rent off i have stuff to do" or "i dont need to be seen" and he would tell the girls at the registration desk to pull my chart. I have been in constant fear that if i said no he would evict us. Now since my father passed and the virus has been coming around, we are having trouble paying rent and he is evicting us. Now I basically have until the courts open up to find a place for my family to live. The last straw for me was him telling me, " you guys are totally taking advantage of me not paying rent right now." I have nothing to be afraid of now because the worst is here already, eviction, my father passing. I don't want anything from him, but i want to make sure he doesn't do this to anyone again. any ideas what i should do.

Answer: If he is abusing your insurance, then file a claim with them. Next, contact the state medical board and file a complaint there.  If he isn't seeing you as a patient, but filing claims and faking paperwork/documentation - they will want to know.


Title: Employer requiring cashiers to punch out prior to counting money

Question:
At a certain place of business in Virginia, management recently started requiring their cashiers to punch out at the end of their scheduled shift, and then count money from the register off the clock.

I would like to confirm the legality of this and assuming it is illegal, what steps can be taken?

Thank you!

Answer:
 When you punch out, leave. When you're off the clock, your employer no longer controls your time.

If you still have duties, punch back in. If you have duties, [you must be paid for performing them](http://www.doli.virginia.gov/laborlaw/laborlaw_forms_p1.html).Answer #2: Keep track of all the time. Start looking for a new job. When you have a new job lined up, file a wage claim for the unpaid hours.


Title: If a person takes another person's car keys and car, after being told not to, is that GTA, or a lessor offense?

Question: Washington State, USA

Answer: If someone steals your car you can the police and let them handle it.