Title: I need help, and Im afraid to get it, Ill lose my job.

Question:
Hello, so some background. I've suffered from MDD (Major Depressive Disorder) Most of my life, including Anxiety. Its always been manageable until recently, (January 2019 - Current) I've had so much going on, two custody battles, a divorce, and so much more, and its made my condition impossible for me to manage as I have in the past. I never sought help for it for a long time (I know that isn't healthy and I knew better.) I made an attempt on my life in Feb, and I knew it was time to get help, I couldn't put it off any more.

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I've been working at my current job since November 12th 2018, just over 7 months. I work in a call center as an Inbound Call Customer Service Representative for an Insurance Company in Kansas. My company allows 72 hours missed per 12 month rolling period and then we are terminated. I acquired 68 hours missed before I finally caved and attempted ADA information, this was a nightmare and still is, the company is misunderstanding paperwork, they are telling me I'm wrong when I'm trying to fill it out WITH my healthcare provider (so I'm pretty sure I know what it's supposed to mean and they keep telling me I don't know what im talking about, when I ask for them to explain what it needs to say they told me to focus on my work.)

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I am very ashamed of my condition, and talking about it right now makes me on the verge of crashing again. I'm trying to do what needs to be done. My children need me, my family needs me, and I need me.  I was calling into work a lot due to having full mental breakdowns, where I wouldn't get out of my bed, I wouldn't eat, I wouldn't sleep, I wouldn't even get up and use the bathroom, it was like my body just shut down with me.

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So I started medication with my Healthcare provider, they've upped my dosage now 5 times, and prescribed me an additional medication to go with it. It's really not helping, I never get my highs anymore (my good days) Only bleh ones, and my bad days are significantly worse, I'm not sure if its the medication or the hailstorm of stress overwhelming me. I've now had two crisis situations in the last two weeks, which my job is harassing me about paperwork proving I went into inpatient stay for "records." Just because I was in a crisis, doesn't mean I went In-patient (though I should have.)

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I am not getting better, Im getting worse, this is all overwhelming me, I want to admit myself this coming week, Wed-Sunday, (I need Mon/Tuesday to pay my bills or I will be in trouble financially.) However I'm afraid I will get fired if I admit myself to a crisis center. Please help me, what do I do, I feel so hopeless, I'm scared, and I'm uneducated.

Answer:
 Well, your options are quite limited here. You don't quality for FMLA until after 12 months. Some employers will allow planned medical leaves prior to then if you arrange for it ahead of time vs calling out sick.

I would suggest approaching HR and asking if there is a way to handle a one week leave due to a necessary medical treatment and postpone it so it can be worked into the schedule.

Unfortunately, there's no magic button here. They are not required to keep you employed even if it's due to a legitimate medical issue.


Title: Update: My developmentally disabled brother knocked someone up. (MS)

Question:
Just wanted to give and update since I got a lot of responses and questions.

I called the center who called APS because I said the word abuse and the caregiver was in the house at the time. I also spoke with APS. They said they would investigate but that two disabled adults having sex with each other isn't immediately abuse because disabled persons retain their biological right to body autonomy.

The center also concluded the same statement. MS doesn't mandate or fund safe sex education for person with disabilities though. Apparently, the state of MS sees that as the responsibility if the guardians. The center told me that some adults there are sexually active an they aren't allowed to get involved in that unless there is suspected abuse.

APS said after they investigated that the case would likely be turned over to dmh and a child protective agency to conduct their own investigation but that it isn't necessary immediate that the child would be removed simply based on disabilities because disabled persons are allowed to reproduce.

The lawyer I contacted said that since the state agencies are investigating that there was nothing we could do at the moment and he agreed with the APS in regards to disabled people and their retainment of body autonomy. He said he would get back to me on the subject of child support and visitation and custody but that people with disabilities are treated the same as those without disabilities if the agencies deem then fit to parent.

So, I just have to wait and see what the agencies say. And then go from there.

The center is offering counseling and has mechanisms in place to help with parenting class and birthing classes should that be a thing we would need.

They have actually been pretty helpful. Hopefully this gets resolved soon.

Answer: [Link to original](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/38jtea/developmentally_disabled_brother_knocked_up/).Answer #2: I've worked in the disability services field in Canada for several years.  I don't know how this situation would play out in the US but where I am removing the child from the parents would be a last resort.  Children's services would certainly be monitoring the situation but the first thing that would happen is getting the parents as much support as possible to be effective parents.  This might mean having support workers in the home to show them how to take care of a baby.  There might not even be a need for the extended family to get custody of the child.  I'm aware of a few odd situations where adults with disabilities have guardians themselves and yet remain guardians of their children.  The system here is basically willing to ignore that logistical issues unless it actually becomes a problem.  Only if there is evidence of neglect or abuse will the child be taken into custody.Answer #3: Thanks for the follow up! How is your brother holding up through all of this?Answer #4: I know a severely mentally challenged woman that hooked up with a similar functioning person. They have the biggest mess of a daughter. She's 17 and has a 2nd grade intelligence and constantly cuts on herself. They all live on welfare and can't take care of themselves. This is not a good situation, for the sake of the poor child's life, you might wanna start thinking about your options.


Title: What sort of charges can you face for stealing a house from someones property?

Question:
5 years ago someone stole a house near where I live in Northern Ontario, Canada (Proof at the bottom). They just drove onto the mans property with a flatbed and crane, loaded on the prefabricated 45 foot double wide home, and left.

Clearly the owner noticed and reported it to the police, the police found the home 10km away and in the possession of someone who had faked papers showing he owned it.

The news at the time said that the man faced charges of theft over $5,000 but I'm really curious as to what else he most likely would have been charged with. So given the situation, what other charges would he probably face in addition to just theft over $5,000?

Articles about the theft in case anyone didn't believe it happened;

http://www.thestar.com/news/crime/2011/06/15/gta_mans_home_stolen_really_his_entire_house.html

http://news.nationalpost.com/posted-toronto/police-find-brampton-mans-stolen-house

Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 My co-workers Dad did that decades ago. He was a long haul truck driver in Canada. One day, he picked up a house thousands of miles away, drove it all across the country, and dropped it down next to his own house. He then connected the two buildings.

Instant addition 😁

Made for some really strange floor plan and surprising steps in the middle of the house.

My co-worker didn't really remember the details, as she was very little when (and  probably the reason for) this happening.

When both parents had died, the kids had quite a hard time selling the house in this condition...Answer #2: A house was stolen in [Oregon](http://www.oregonlive.com/pacific-northwest-news/index.ssf/2015/02/dude_wheres_my_house_klamath_c.html) last year.  It seems to have been a comedy of errors.Answer #3: Did any other American here learn about theft over $5000 because of Trailer Park Boys?


Title: Lawyer screwed up. What’s my recourse? Oklahoma

Question: We had to file a lawsuit against my daughters wedding photographer. Our first lawyer quit and we were left scrambling for a lawyer. This new lawyer was a joke. He was all talk until we got to the courtroom. Then he was a bumbling idiot. He asked the same question 3-4 times, he didn’t go after her like he said he would and he wasn’t prepared at all. Is there anything we can do? We wanted at the minimum our lawyer costs (almost $3000) and so far, doing my own research, we’ve been only awarded $1000. He is supposed to get half. Can we fire him?

Answer: From what you've said, that you've been awarded your attorney's fees, you got a judgment against the photographer?


Title: (IL) Someone is currently using our company bank account to pay their ComEd and Peoples gas utilities

Question:
Comed and Peoples gas wont stop the auto billing nor give out persons name who is using account.  We are closing our checking, and will be filing a police report- but does anyone have any suggestions on how to find out the name of the person legally?  we are worried its a current employee and if so this will obviously keep happening as they will get new payroll checks from the updated checking.

We have figured out the address the utilities are being paid at and it is a rental building- unfortunately there are no names on the mailbox and reverse address lookup seems to be outdated.   Landlord told us to pound sand that he wouldnt release tennants names because that would be illegal.

Any help / suggestions are appreciated. Thks.

Answer:
 Report to the police. They can find whose name(s) on the utility accounts within a day.Answer #2: Does the address match the "emergency contact" address of any employee?Answer #3: If not the police, perhaps a court order could be obtained. But since it's fraud (or perhaps a genuine error, someone's given the wrong account number, and has not followed up with why they're not seeing the money go out of their account) the police would be the ones to deal with it.Answer #4: OP- Your bank should have an option to set up an 'ACH Company ID' (essentially a passcode that needs to be provided whenever someone attempts to do a withdraw from your company's account) which is a good form of security for any commercial bank account.Answer #5: Tell Bank that they need to stop making the ach payments to those companies.

The utility company’s can issue the debit order to your account, but the bank is the one that handles it. If you tell them it is unauthorized, they can’t pay it.


Title: I told a customer to go fuck themselves. (NJ)

Question:
a customer that has been banned and told not to come back to my gas station caught me off guard as he was driving a different car and didn't have his cowboy hat. he made a comment along the lines of " well i guess you're boss set you straight about me " which was when i actually looked at who i was serving.  i told him " my boss didn't say anything to me about you, but if i had recognized you without your hat i would've told you go fuck yourself because you're not welcome here. "

he jumped out of the car and said he was calling 911, which as far as i could tell, he did via his voice dialer thing. he refused to pay " until the cops show up and i make a report about you " and i went back to doing paperwork. a few minutes later he gave me what he owed me and left after threatening me. cops did not arrive. i don't know if he wound up not calling them or they laughed at him like i did.

if he does go to the police, is there anything i really have to worry about as far as " foul language " as he puts it goes? my boss already knows and i'm not worried about those kind of consequences.

Answer: No, you committed no crime.  It goes without saying that if the police want to talk to you about this, you should politely refuse to speak to them.


Title: So I'm having a bit of an issue with my criminal record and finding a job.

Question:
Hi guys, I'm from Nevada and I'd really appreciate some advice here. Back in 2011 I was charged with a DUI, but due to the arresting officer not showing up, and after rescheduling, the prosecutor not showing up, the judge decided to suspend the case...or somethin of that nature. I don't remember exactly what he called it, all I remember specifically was the judge saying that in the course of a year, if I wasn't charged for a DUI again, the charge would disappear, if I did get in any more trouble, the DUI would come back, and the new one would be considered a second offense. I think they went this easy on me because it was only slightly over the legal limit and there was no accident involved. Or maybe I don't know what I'm talking about and this is a normal thing that happens.

Well, It's been 4 years and I haven't been in any trouble, cool, but the DUI charge seems to have appeared on my background check at two jobs now, and it's deterred me from getting a job. IT says on the check that it's only a charge, but since I "lied" both jobs decided against hiring me.

Anyway, so can I get it cleared from my record? Or, who do I talk to about it? Should I go to the courts? I can't afford a lawyer without a job, and it seems I can't get a job without solving this problem.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, appreciate the help.

Answer:
 > IT says on the check that it's only a charge, but since I "lied" both jobs decided against hiring me.

Well, *did* you lie?  What was the question they asked?

It's difficult to answer whether you qualify for expungement without a lot more details about the case and its' progression.  You should hire an attorney to look into it for you.


Title: Got a call from the Police from my college town

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >Is the school legally allowed to share this information with local PD?

Yes, if the police want your address from the school, they will get it.


Title: Landlord decides to tell us only 1 car per apartment after moving in.

Question:
As the title says, we are only being allowed one car per apartment now. This is incredibly difficult for us as my fiancee and I drive our cars daily to work, etc. When we applied, the application asked us how many cars we'd have, and we stated two, but now they're only allowing one?

This is a brand new complex, still polishing out everything, however it seems like they didn't have the foresight about the limited parking before hand. After about two weeks of living here we got a notice on our door stating only one car per apartment, anything else will be towed.

What can we do? We absolutely have to have two cars, but moving is basically a no as we just started our lease, and the rent/location is ideal for us.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 Unless your lease stipulates you're allowed parking for two cars, then the owners of the property can change the parking policy.

You'll need to find other accommodations for your car, or ask the complex how much it would be to allow an extra car, or take the risk of it being towed.Answer #2: >Edit: Living in US

Not adequate. State.Answer #3: You are only guaranteed parking according to the terms of the signed lease agreement. If it does not guarantee parking, then you must abide by policy, which is subject to change by them and does not require advance notice. You need to find alternate parking for one vehicle if your complex will not offer a second space. Answer #4: Does the lease say you get two parking spots?

You might see if your landlord is willing to give you another parking spot for extra money.


Title: What is the legal recourse for recording someone in public

Question: Im from ca state, lets say you have plans to meet up with someone. Once you confront that person you start recording them and asking questions like if its an interview.

Answer:
 The legal recourse is the person in public can leave.Answer #2: lmaoAnswer #3: What is the legal recourse? Nothing.

What are other recourses?
1. Walk away.
2. Make it known that you are displeased with it even though there is nothing you can do.
3. Ignore it.


Title: Aunt passed away. She was divorced and unmarried. Her oldest child put her married name on her headstone.

Question:
A little backstory: my aunt passed away several months ago. She divorced her ex-husband over ten years ago. Several years after her divorce she got re-married and then separated from her second husband. She took each husband's last name, but legally changed it back to her maiden name after each divorce. Her legal last name was her maiden name at the time of her death.

Because she was unmarried, her oldest child that she had with her first husband was granted the power to make funeral decisions. The funeral occurred several months ago with some major incidents, but her headstone was put up this past week.

We discovered that the last name on her headstone is her first husbands name, the one she divorced a decade ago. Her maiden name is nowhere on the headstone. This is absolutely retaliation against my grandparents, my aunts parents, by her ex-husband. In short, he blames them for their divorce and he is still bitter about it. Even though his son is technically calling the shots, he is without a doubt is controlling things behind the scenes.

As you can imagine, this is devastating to my grandparents. This guy abused my aunt, which is why they divorced. Having his name on her headstone is heartbreaking, especially because he's been tormenting her since their divorce.

Is there anything that can be done about this? It doesn't seem right that the person in control of your funeral can put whatever name they like on the headstone. There's gotta be some sort of rule regarding legal names and headstones, but I haven't been able to find anything which is why I'm asking you guys.

Thanks in advance. Any help is tremendously appreciated.

Edit: This is in Utah.

Answer: There's no rule about headstones. Whoever is in charge of the deceased's estate (the son here?) is generally free to make such decisions, especially if the decedent's will didn't specify anything specific.


Title: Wife's Ex-Boss showed up at doorstep, says papers will be served for fraud. Totally off guard.

Question:
My wife's old boss (1.5 years ago) just showed up at the doorstep unannounced, I have never met him and we never contacted him after she left the job. He stated, "Court paper work will be served and that we've been avoiding this." Honestly no clue, we moved from prior residence after our son was born as the lease was up.

Literally the guy rang our doorbell, I answered as the wife and son were napping, no paperwork, no discussion just said those words and left in his car.

Is this legal?

I'm a 31 year old professional, this was out of the blue borderline creepy.

California, USA

Answer:
 Sure it's legal. What do you think wasn't legal about someone ringing your doorbell and then telling you something? Answer #2: Its a bit odd.If he really has a lawyer, why would he come to your house?

I think you would have better luck waking up your wife and asking her if she has any idea what is going on.Answer #3: He may have been verifying your address.  Unless he's been doing this many times (aka 'harassment'), anyone can ring your bell and make whatever claim they want.  You can choose to ask them to leave and close your door.

This would be a good time to sit down with your wife and find out what this may be about.  Nothing to deal with until you get said paper work.


Title: HOA says we’re responsible for back dues on a property that was just purchased.

Question: We just got a great house that was in foreclosure. Before i purchased It i went to the county and checked for Leins with the listing agent. Several months later I contacted the road association and was informed they placed a lien on the property for 7k. The Association claims she told the title company before the sale . We changed title companies half way through the deal..This information was not in any paperwork and I was never informed of this. Am I responsible for this amount? I do not  intend to pay for road upkeep while I was not there.

Answer:
 Contact youe title insurance company. This is precisely what they cover.Answer #2: It depends on when/how the lein was recorded. Your argument is that you were a "bona fide purchaser", and that the lein was not recorded, thus you had no actual knowledge, inquiry knowledge,  or constructive knowledge; and thus shouldn't be held liable.

If you paid for title insurance which covers you (and not just the lender), then that could also provide assistance.

If it was recorded before closing, even the day before, you don't really have a recourse, except against your title insurance.Answer #3: Did you purchase a title insurance policy? If so this is something that you can make a claim on. If not there will be a few more hoops to jump through.


Title: Point a possible dad in the right direction.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Look for local "father's rights" groups. They will work for free or low-cost in order to help you establish paternity and get visitation. Without a location, can't help you any more than that.


Title: I'm in an complex situation

Question:
I'm in a complex situation.

A year and a half ago, I entered a business partnership with this girl. As apart of the partnership, I agreed to pay her and I gave her a business phone.

However, I began to hit some serious financial problems and I couldn't pay her, but I continued to pay her phone. In March, I tried removing her from my plan. However, she treated to take me to court, even illegally recording me with the phone.

I currently still pay for her phone because I owe her money, but I'm switching to a plan with my family. However, as I look back at it, she didn't really do any work. I gave her a task and she wouldn't even complete it. She left emails for days unanswered, when she was suppose to send them directly to me.

Answer: Was she a partner, or an employee? And for God's sake, what's your location?


Title: Local college gave me 2 options, both of which have no basis in regards to their "rules"

Question:
In my local college, I'm in a business course. The department (the dean, the chairperson, and some other people) recently gave me an ultimatum: either I allow myself to be behind a whole year through no fault of my own, or to shift course and be potentially be behind 2 years. The problem here is I just knew what they were doing was wrong. I asked them why they made such a decision and I was told it was a "new policy" that they had.

I talked to a lot of other students about it and they said the department had sort of a habit of forming new policies as they pleased to meet what they want. I asked them multiple times to provide me a copy of their so called "policies" but they repeatedly brushed me off and gave me new different reasons why they can't at the moment every time I asked for it.

I asked some staff in the department and they've never heard of these so called policies. I asked a professor in this department and neither has he heard of these policies.

Assuming these policies actually *do* exist, can they actually still enforce it given how they blatantly refuse to give it to us?

And if they really can't provide me these policies and they still insist on giving me this ultimatum, what can I do?

Sorry I've been known to be really bad at explaining things..

Answer:
 You are really bad at explaining things. It would help to know where you are to offer advice. Generally, at universities in the U.S. departments are tiny fiefdoms where the chair gets to make whatever policies they want. Typically the university has rules about how they need to be documented, usually you find the policies on the department website.

If you want to get all technical about it you can argue with the administration and go up a few levels. Typically what happens in these situations when policy changes they say anyone who started in 2012 or before is under policy "A" and anyone that started 2013 or after now follows policy "B".


Title: [MO] My[18M] sister [3F] is being forced to attend mandatory visitation with her non custodial parent despite rampant signs of abuse and neglect in their care.

Question:
Edit:Names have all clearly been changed.
I live with my brother, my 3 year old half-sister Mary, and our Mother Susan. Mary's father, Lars, despite my Susan's evidence of his unstable mental health, signs of abusive behavior, and multiple documented suicide threats, was granted full visitation rights of Matilda. No lawyers here in Buchanan county were willing to attempt to admit anything of evidence, and were insistent that my mother not attempt any custody battle, despite Lars's criminal drug history and already criminal lack of child support following the divorce agreement.

Despite the signs of abusive behavior and neglect of Mary in her father's care, the Guardian ad Litem told Susan that if she fought Mary father's visitation rights, she would speak against her to the judge. Additionally, Lar's had begun living with a different single mother, Denise, and Lars had only been working a part time job insufficient of his living independently. Denise has a documented history of jail time for assault, which another attorney told my mother was indicative of a very serious or greater charge being plead down, as jail time is rarely sentenced to women for assault here.

Mary has had documented bruises, burns, and other injuries while in Lars and Denise's care since the visitation began. And in addition to reflecting poor behavior of Denise's children, and their poor treatment of her, has spoken repeatedly without being asked about Lars hitting her, which he has apparently done on multiple occasions. Mary has also implied, over a noted period of many months, that she was touched inappropriately in Lars's care, and shown clear red flag behaviors of sexual abuse in addition to her words.

 Mary came back from a visitation two days ago and claimed that Lars told Denise's 8 year old son to, "go kill yourself". A phrase which she has never been exposed to under the care of my mother's care.

It is a not-unusual occurrence for men in Lars's position to be the perpetrators of Child abuse, and murder-suicides, and in light of these most recent events, I think it is not only reasonable but necessary to actively fight and refuse his visitation rights pending investigation. However, I am under that the judges involved in this type of family court are often unwilling to prosecute dead-beat fathers in general, and the few public defenders are constantly working with the same handful of judges, (Lars's and Susan's guardian ad litem was actually running for county office the same year she refused to investigate any abuse evidence). The Lawyers therefore don't wish to cause the judges or their peers difficulty in court.

What can I do as a responsible adult to improve the conditions for my sister Mary and see that her best interests are looked after? Knowing that no attorney I am aware of would be willing to assist her in fighting Lars's custody rights.

My mother does not have a past criminal history. Lars and Denise do.

Answer:
 Not only can you not keep your fake names straight, but you have a lot of irrelevant and incorrect crap in here.

If there is an order in place it must be followed, period.  The mother can move to change the order, she can call CPS, or she can call the police if there is actual physical abuse.  She cannot ignore the order, or she will be the one in trouble.

What you can do is pretty much nothing, other than helping your mother find a new attorney.  Go to a different county if necessary, but all your conspiracy theories about local judges and lawyers are just that.


Title: Bit into a stone in a Wendy's french fry and cracked the permanent retainer behind my front teeth.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Sounds like you're on the right track.  Keep going on your current course of action.

If you're in any pain, keep receipts for any over the counter medications you purchase (like Oragel or whatnot).  Ask for that compensation, too.


Title: Is this pet abandonment?

Question:
Location: Nevada

My ex and I dated for 4 years. When we started dating, his dog was 1.5 yrs old. Very soon after we starting dating, he asked me if I could watch his dog while he was away for 6-7 mos for work. This continued every year for 4 years. During his time away, he would send some money, but I still paid out of pocket for a great deal.

The breakup was ugly.  He cheated, lied to both of us. We civilly co-parented for about a month before he told me I would never see the dog again and moved states.

Flash forward one year, beginning of 2019 my ex gets a permanent position for the company he was seasonal for, but now it’s in the Midwest. We have been on positive speaking terms for 2 months and he even let me visit the dog. He asks me if I would be willing to watch dog indefinitely since his job would not allow him time to see the dog. He says, “I don’t know when I’ll be able to see  ___ again.”

April of 2019, my ex drops off the dog (who is now 5 years old) with his food and such. Pays half of my housing pet deposit ($300). When I reunited with the dog, he was out of date on all his vaccinations and had not seen a vet in over a  year.

Since then, I have got him up to date on everything at the vet (vaccines, glands, check ups), paid for all pet related purchases, and taken the dog on every adventure and vacation I’ve had  since taking over. My ex has not sent a dime and has barely checked on him. I’m worried that this winter, he will expect the dog back and break into my house if necessary to retrieve him.

I would kill for this dog. He’s my best friend. Reimbursements don’t matter to me. What can I do to prepare to cover my ass? I’ve already been saving receipts. Thanks in advance, everyone.

Answer: IANAL or in USA  but I would check your state regulations on what constitutes abandonment and check with local SPCA about things.  You have been the main caregiver for this animal so it is possible he may have lost any claim,  but does he have any paperwork ( ie.  Breeders papers)  saying he has ownership of said dog.  I hope this goes your way as you obviously love the dog.


Title: Someone threatened to sue me in small claims court after I called him out on trying to fraud me

Question:
Hi, I tried to hire someone off of /r/forhire to build a website for me. After a few exchanges, I realized he seemed kind of shady. I researched some of his templates, and realized that he just passed off a free template as his own. I said, I'm not interested in working with him after calling him out.
Now he has threatened to release my public information and 'I'm gonna make it hell for you.'
He has done the following things so far, but mostly just internet things. Spammed my email with threats. Used a few distinct phone numbers to call me at 5:30am. Spam text messages and emails.
He said he has: Threatened to call my work about what I was doing. Spam my linkedin. Spam my twitter. Message everyone on Reddit that I've talked to about what I did. Put a mark on my credit score for non-payment.

Thread:
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Now, he has put in a letter claiming to sue me.
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Here's all our email connections: sorry for potato quality on the first email, it was a long pdf:
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Finally, he claims he worked for 6 hours, but the whole exchange was a lot less (maybe an hour), if he's counting hours worked. The emails are timestamped

I stopped contacting him after Friday, but he keeps on sending me emails, here's all the email exchanges. I didn't omit anything on purpose. I blacked out the participant's last names and emails.

Edit 1: Clarification -  Most people are confused a bit of what happened. He was still trying to pitch me his business, but haven't done any work, nor sent me that zip folder with stuff. I chose not to work with him because he was unprofessional

> person,

>I'm not working with you because of your lack of professionalism. Look, you just sent me 6 emails threatening me. You tried to sell someone else's work as your own. It's like someone charging me to Google something.

>If you said I'm taking a free template and customizing it for you, I would have gladly payed you $200 for the work, because you were providing a service to me. Taking the time to customize a template to me liking, probably took 5-10 hours for you, and would have taken me over 20 hours. So I would have definitely paid you $200 to do the work for me.

>It would have been a normal business transaction.

>But after this series of email exchange, I seriously have no intentions of working with you. You know how to code front-end and that's great. But you are extremely unprofessional and spiteful, and that's why this isn't going to work out.

>Sorry man, I'm going to hire someone else to do it for me.

>You lost my business because of your lack of professionalism.

Edit 2: I ended up hiring someone local who I can meet in person. Thanks for the help.

Edit 3: Thanks for all your help, I'm glad nothing too big will come out of it. I've removed the links to the emails, for privacy reasons. Again, thanks for the help /r/legaladvice.

Answer:
 Let him sue you. He likely won't.

And if he does, you'll have to respond.

At most, you'll lose $200 dollars. You won't.

You can go to small claims and have it all entered into court.

Also, you do realize that $200 dollars for a website is ridiculously low? At that price, you're only going to get a shitty product. Professional websites cost much much more.


Title: DMV wont let me register my brothers bike

Question: I live in New Jersey. Five years ago my brother passed away during his first deployment in the U.S. marines. In his will he left his belongings to his new wife, while my mother got all the money. At the time of his passing he had a truck and a motorcycle, and my mom had to pay off the rest of the bike with the money she got. His wife never wanted the bike and said I could keep it. And I reallllyyy want it just because he was my only sibling and we were really close and she won't ever let me have his truck. Soon after agreeing to let me have it she decided she was going to make us buy it. So again my mother paid for the bike. My sister in law signed the title and we got the bike. When I tried to take the title to the DMV they said it wouldn't work because the title is still in my brothers name. I gave them my brothers death certifacte as well as his marriage license to try to show them she was the only one who was able to sign it. They said I couldn't do it because she would have to go to the DMV in North Carolina and switch the title to her name, then sign that one. Now she won't do it, because she's evil (she doesn't even let us see my nephew without a court order). So I have his bike and it's in great condition but I can't register it because she won't take the time to go to the DMV and switch it even if we pay the fee. My mom says she can't afford a lawyer but I honestly don't think she's looked at all. Is there anything I can do? My mom simply won't put in the effort, I think she thinks I'll wreck or something, I don't know. I just know I really want that bike to serve it's purpose and not just rot away in a garage. Please help me Reddit.

Answer: How old are you, and what state are you in? Was your brother's estate ever probated, or just handled informally?


Title: The people I baby sit for owe me thousands. Need advice.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Why would you keep showing up to babysit?Answer #2: If you don't want a legal remedy (suing them), you are probably in the wrong place. They owe you money. If you request it, and they don't pay, sue them.

You could start with a demand letter to let them know that you are serious. And include a time by which you must be paid. Don't threaten anything, but if they don't pay, your only choice is to sue.


Title: 18 year old and 15 year old sex legality in Pennsylvania

Question: So a 15 year old girl wants to have sex with me (18 year old male). I've heard about the Romeo and Juliet laws but I'm not quite sure the legality of it in the state of Pennsylvania. I'm looking for answers because I'd rather not do anything to mess up my future. Thanks!

Answer:
 Pennsylvania has a [close in age exception](http://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/pennsylvania-statutory-rape-laws.htm) to statutory rape.  It states that:

> consensual sexual acts between a minor who is 13 or older and a defendant who is less than four years older.

So, you'd have a defense to statutory rape.  However, it would likely still constitute other various crimes.

You should find someone your own age.


Title: (NYC) School Bus driver made a sudden stop right after crossing the traffic lights and i bumped into it.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > Is it going to shown on my driving record?

Were you ticketed?

> Is it going to affect my Insurance rates?

We can't guess that.

>  Can I do something to prove that its not all my fault?

No, because it *is* all your fault.


Title: Need help in TX. Fiance saying he will go back and change taxes to make sure he gets $$$.

Question:
I have been trying to motivate myself to leave my fiance.  He has been very controling. Literally controlling my money (our money) and my access to it AND my own business.  He always said he wouldn't marry me if I didnt let him handle it because about 10 years before we met -- I had to file bankruptcy. He uses it as leverage aginst me.  But, this happened today:

We had lunch. And after he left I looked up the joint bank account info to see if anyting was left in the account. (consdering leaving). I saw that he put a NOTE on the money that I deposited in the bank (that our accountant can see, as well). It was a 3800 dollar transfer I made last month. I had held onto the money about 3 days past my payday because we had been arguing and I was considering leaving THEN. He yelled and screamed for a few days -- called me a horrible partner (he is losing his job and starting a new business)

He put on the NOTE "MONEY (MY NAME) HELD ONTO FOR A WEEK BEFORE HANDING IT OVER"

I snapped a shot of that and sent it him and asked why that was necessary. He said he wanted to keep a record of all the times that I delayed in giving him my money and how I "play games" and he said the fact that I was calling him to even tell him this shows that I am a real problem, that I "want more trouble" and I want to "destroy our relationship" and he is not going to sit around and pretend I am not a problem.

THEN he told me if I didn't continue to give the money over to him...he would go back into last year's tax return -- amend it and change business deductions into HIS favor and make sure he gets a big refund and I am left with a tax bill. He said he was being 'kind' by giving me deductions and if I want to abuse that and hang onto any of my checks he will make sure he gets that switched around so he gets his money and I'm left with a bill.

I immediately emailed this info to my accountant. But, I can not believe he is going to this extent!

Summary question -- **tl/DrCAN HE DO THIS? Is this legal? The accountant will take me forever to get back to me***

Answer:
 Are you married? If not, how are you filing your taxes together?

Stop giving him any money. Leave him. Call a domestic violence shelter if you have to, but get away from him.


Title: How can I legally move an open container (Kansas)?

Question: Moving homes and want to know how to move my alcohol collection. Kansas is very strict on their liquor laws. Moving to a different city 10 minutes away, within Kansas.

Answer: Put it in a box, tape up the box, put the box in your trunk under other boxes. Make sure your car's registration is paid up, nothing is falling off, all your tail lights work, and obey all traffic laws. (all of which you should be doing, anyway)Answer #2: I only looked for a second, but the first search result on Google seems to suggest that, just like in other states, you can carry open containers in your trunk.  Just to be safe you may as well put them in a sealed box as the other response suggests, but I can't imagine you'll have any trouble.  Assuming you aren't breaking any other laws, I find it extremely unlikely that a cop will search your trunk and charge you for behavior that is legal almost everywhere, including probably Kansas.  This is assuming you're of age, though.


Title: I report for Weekend Jail and am currently suicidal...if I check myself into a psychiatric institute tomorrow for the weekend, will I be able to be pardoned?

Question:
I do weekend jail every weekend and it (among lots of other things) is making me suicidal. I was close to attempting last night and want to have one more go at getting help. If I check myself in, will I get in trouble from the courts? What will happen? I want to get help but am afraid the courts will deny me the opportunity. Ironically, if the courts deny me the opportunity to seek help and miss a weekend of jail, I would rather just commit suicide than live in a world where I can't even help myself even if I wanted to.

Please tell me what to do. And is there any way I can get these weekends reduced or thrown away? If so, how?

Edit: I live in Ohio (OH)

Answer: Long term health comes first. Go to the hospital right now. Call your PO on the way and let them know what's up.


Title: Desk jobs I want require driver's license. How do I discuss reasonable accommodations?

Question:
A lot of tech desk jobs I'm applying for are desk jobs that wouldn't require any driving as part of the job itself. Maybe for getting to an occasional meeting across town, but I don't see why I couldn't take an Uber to a meeting, or ride with a coworker if one of them is also going. As for getting to work, I've been managing with public transit and Ubers for over a decade now.

The jobs will say that a driver's license with a certain driving history is required in the job requirements with no reasoning for it.

The applications also have a place to put all of your driver's license info.

I'm always honest that I don't have one. I'm disabled and while I might be able to get one, I don't feel safe driving because I have a history of seizures and passing out suddenly, among other things.

None of my applications have made it through that require a license, and I'm worried that my state's job board (which filters jobs by your qualifications) isn't showing me a lot of jobs I qualify for just because of this.

I've asked around on Reddit before and was told to just use a state ID number in those boxes and say I have a license to get it through. That doesn't feel right.

It seems like a really silly and overlooked part of accessibility in job applications. Even if it's possible to get a license in my case, aren't jobs required to make accommodations for people with disabilities in every step of the hiring process? Some of these listings don't even show a way to contact anybody to let them know why you don't have a license.

Any ideas?

Answer:
 This might be better suited for the main sub, if you add a state. It's a pretty legitimate legal question.

Edit: autocorrect

Edit2:

Top reply says it's not really a legal question. Huh. Sorry about that. Answer #2: Could you legally get a license? Just because you have one doesn't mean you have to drive.Answer #3: I also don't drive due to anxiety reasons. When a job asked for my license, I always put my state issued ID. Sometimes, the company just didn't even realize they could ask for that ID, they had a form that said licence and just went with that.
The other issue is being paid for your drive time or the office having to pay for the Uber. It's a business expense that they aren't interested in paying. You'd think to yourself, "well, I'll pay for my own uber." But sometimes policy doesn't allow for that. There could be a labor law as well regarding drive time and fare that I'm unaware of. When I'm calculating damages for my job there is an IRS mileage calculation I use to get our client's reimbursed. Perhaps you're finding jobs that use a similar calculation and can't pay for an uber.

A lot of this is conjecture and I'm far from an expert, I just feel for you because I also don't drive. Something that's been pointed out to me is I've not been hired for not meeting the bare qualifications. It hasn't legally got anything to do with my brainhealth, so it's fair to bar me which I understand. I've never had a doctor actually tell me I can't drive, but getting into a car with people is incredibly hard so even learning to drive properly seems out of the question for me.


Title: Can you get in trouble for leaving cash for an item and leaving without checking out?

Question:
Was just watching this:

[https://www.reddit.com/r/byebyejob/comments/ob2ix2/hope\_dealer/](https://www.reddit.com/r/byebyejob/comments/ob2ix2/hope_dealer/)

and was wondering if anyone has seen instances where someone dropped the correct cash for an item in a store and walked out with the item but still got in trouble for not ringing out.  I'm sure it's happened before I just wanted some true crime stories about it :D

Answer:
 >Can you get in trouble for leaving cash for an item and leaving without checking out?

Yes, it's called theft.

Unless and until you exchange money for the goods ***with*** an employee/owner of a company -- *or some sort of device set up to accomplish the same task (like a vending machine)* -- you are just taking their property. That you left cash behind is irrelevant. The transaction and free exchange between two parties is necessary here.


Title: Teacher Forcing me to Enter Class Early [CA]

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 > if there is anything I can do to keep me from having to go inside the classroom earlier than the class starts.

Perhaps not even get close to the class for the teacher to see you're nearby?

This is more of a common-sense question and not a legal one.


Title: [FL, US] I was asked by a manager at my work about if I'm using or have used drugs, is that legal?

Question:
A manager at my work pulled me into her office and told me that I act strange sometimes or make odd faces. She asked me if I am currently under the influence of any drugs, she asked me if I have taken any drugs recently, what did you take, and when. she told me any possible drug use needs to stop. One night after I got off work, I was sitting in my car texting a friend back and forth. She knocked on my car window and in her words "I was worried you overdosed slumped over like that!" Is this legal?

I'm on the schizophrenia spectrum, so I have weird behaviors sometimes that might justify drug use concerns.

Answer: yes. she needs to make sure nobody is taking illegal drugs and jeopardizing the safety of the other workers. she is even allowed to tell you to take a drug test or be fired.


Title: Overstaying a lease for 3 days, what damages can my landlord legally claim

Question:
I have a lease that is scheduled to end 3 days before I am comfortable moving out (in order to be able to move to a new place the same day) and am wondering what I can expect based on the items below:

Resident of wisconsin, I believe Wisconsin state statute 704.27 covers this, it states the landlord can retrieve damages, with a minimum being double the rent per day ( I assume this means double of what one day would theoretically cost)

Landlord sent an email stating that every day overstayed would result in a $400 charge

Next tenant doesn't move in until 4 days after (I would plan to give them 24 hours to inspect/make repairs)

As I interpret it, they would have to prove in court that they incurred $400/day damages by me staying those extra days, which I don't believe would be easy for them to do. Since that stipulation was not included in my lease (only in an email) should I hold strong and tell them that I will stay 3 days past the lease?

Answer:
 > Next tenant doesn't move in until 4 days after (I would plan to give them 24 hours to inspect/make repairs)

30 days is about the standard time that a landlord could comfortably inspect the place for damages, and arrange to have the damages repaired.

7 days is very quick.

24 hours is unreasonably fast.

If their contractor gets "sick", and the new tenants are unable to move in on time, the damages could be substantial.  And the $400 that they are quoting to mitigate those damages could very well be considered reasonable.

At the end of the day, I'd predict it would be much cheaper for you to stay in a hotel for 3 days... even a nice one.


Title: Kicked out of Drug Program for Guessing Password on Router

Question: I'm in a program because of court. I got kicked out today, because they found out that I found the router password. This is not the wifi password. This is the password for logging into the router. The password was "password", so I don't think they can really blame me. They only found out because I told my friend, and they told their friends. And someone snitched. Anyway, I feel this is a really stupid reason for me to get kicked out of the program, and I need to be in this program for court, so I don't really know what I'm going to do now? Any way I can get back into this program?

Answer:
 > I don't think they can really blame me.

Is there some reason you should have been trying to guess it in the first place?

In any case, you're now in "hire a lawyer" territory. Your probationary program is in serious, immediate jeopardy.Answer #2: So you acessed a computer network without authorization and altered data within? This depends on your location, but you likely committed one or more crimes, possibly a felony. You're not getting back into the program, you're probably going back to jail. Get a lawyer, now.


Title: florida law - being kicked out of nursing school for recording teacher

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Please let us know if anyone PMs you so that we can ban them.


Title: Charged with marijuana possession however fighting in court could easily result in overlap with national legalization of July 2018. Then what? (Canada)

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer: When the law changes it does not retroactively apply to crimes committed prior to the law being changed.


Title: Tree in the backyard keeps dropping dangerously large branches. Is it the landlord's responsibility to remove the tree before it kills one of us? [California]

Question:
We just signed a new lease.  We have not moved any belongings over to the house yet.  Then new lease states that I am responsible for everything except "HOA, Landscaping, or garbage removal services." However, it also states that, "Tenant shall be responsible for watering and maintaining the landscaping."

This tree is really old.  When we moved in there was ample evidence that a branch had fallen, shedding splintered wood and branches everywhere.  Before showing the property they cleaned it up and moved whatever had fallen off. We just got back from vacation and saw that another huge chunk of the tree crashed to the ground.

The size of the new fallen branch is IMMENSE, it could have killed us if we had been outside when it fell.  The longest of them is over 15 feet long and estimated to weigh over a hundred pounds.  The remaining tree looks unhealthy and should probably be removed entirely.  Landlord says that she is willing to send a landscaper over to haul away the fallen branches, but is not willing to pay a removal service to take down the dying tree.  She says that the tree is falling down because we are not watering it enough.  There is an automatic watering system.  It is broken, and we said we wanted it fixed before we signed the lease.  She said her gardener would come over and fix it, so we signed the lease before the work was done.

We are also struggling to get a shattered front window repaired (She says it looks ok to her, so she is dragging her feet to get it repaired).

The outside and the inside of the house is full of a thriving ecosystem of large spiders and silverfish. The garage has a number of black widows.  We also have a wasp nest in the ceiling of the garage, and an infestation of some sort of insect that makes a nest out of mud on the walls.  Landlord wont schedule a pest control service, because she says any pest control matters need to go through the HOA.

I am super stressed because this is a horrible way to begin a landlord/tenant relationship.  I want the shattered window fixed before I move in, and I want the pests in the garage dealt with before we move our belongings in.  I don't feel safe in the backyard because that tree keeps dropping chunks large enough to kill us.  Watering the tree more wont keep it from dropping branches- We trusted her to send someone to fix the sprinkler system, but she never did.  What do I do?  Is the landlord required by law to deal with pests and dead trees, or did I accept the state that this is in when I signed our lease?
TL,DR- new landlord wont fix things she said she would before we signed the lease.  The dead tree in the backyard keeps dropping deadly branches, the house/garage is full of pests, and the front window is shattered.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Yes, in CA, the landlord is responsible for pest control. Fortunately for you, this is one of the rare cases where being in an HOA may work out in your favor -- take your complaints to them. They will not be happy about a house with an ignored death tree, pests, and a broken window. Show them photos. Ask them to send an arborist to check the tree.

In the meantime [read this carefully](http://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/landlordbook/catenant.pdf). Send your landlord a polite, detailed letter listing the items she needs to repair.

Realistically? The pests are your #1 issue before moving in. The window and tree can be taken care of later, after you move in. You're already dealing with an unreasonable person who thinks that water will revitalize a dead tree; when dealing with someone like that, it helps to be very firm but as reasonable as possible.


Title: [TX] Former employer denied my time-sheet then terminated me, I found out when I didn't receive my last check.

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: If you haven't received payment for hours worked, that is not legal. You can contact the Department of Labor and report it.


Title: how much trouble am i in?

Question: hi fellas, i live in chicago, IL and have been having problems with my building and landlord lately. I live in an apartment and my landlord or whateverr also lives in the paartments at the next unit over. These past few months, I would hear during the night someone talking outside my window/whispering to me very disturbing things about crimes/murders and whatnot and how all the tenants at this apartment (i know none of hem) hate me and that i should move out or kill them, but everytime i would get up to see who was outside i would see nobody there but i could swear it was the voice of my landlord. a few nights ago i had enough after another particularly bad night of him doing this and went over to his apartment at 5 am while he was asleep and was able to enter his apartmnt ( he must not have locked the door when he went back into his apartmnt to try to be fast?) but anyway the door was unlocked so i went in and entered his bedroom and jumped on him and swung at him several times and knocked him out. he seemed somewhat badly hurt and i got kind of scared but i wanted to teach him a lesson to stop messing with me because it was really getting to my head. anyway i worked 6-10 am that day because i work at a coffee shop and whe i reutnred i guess he had woken up (good right?) and i could see two police squadcars parke d at our apartment so i think he must have called the police hnen he regained consciousness? anyway i got way too scared and left and went to a motel to stay and think it over because clearly my place is no longer safe as he has managed to pain himself as some sort of victim even though he has been terrorizing me for months at night when nobody would hear. i dont have any family nearby because i am not from here but i have some savings that i could dip into if need be. my question are one am i in trouble here? i know with the cops it may look like i am ut i honestly believe i am in the righ as this guy has been seriously terrorizing me for a long time and i am sick of it. two should i get a lawyer or go back or explain to the police the situation? will i be arrested for breaking and enter and assault?

Answer:
 You're hearing voices. When you check there is nobody there. You need to seek mental help because you are having delusions and probably need medication.

On the legal side, you need to hire a lawyer and not talk to the police without a lawyer.Answer #2: I would STRONGLY suggest going to the nearest hospital emergency room and seeking help from a doctorAnswer #3: >am i in trouble here?

>should i get a lawyer

Can be answered by:

>so i went in and entered his bedroom and jumped on him and swung at him several times and knocked him out.

Yes, OP. Yes. But you really should check in to a hospital.


Title: [va] Golf course lawn mowers for 1-2 hours everyday now starting at 5am. Do I have any options?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Noise ordinance changes by city, so I can't tell you if they're doing something illegal or not. Even if they are using lawn equipment outside of the time allowed in your city's noise ordinance they might be exempt.

Get earplugs? Move? Lawn mowing kind of goes hand in hand with living next to a golf course.


Title: I made a mistake on backpage and i'm getting blackmailed. what should I do?? Go to the police??

Question: I went on backpage a few months ago and contacted someone about meeting up. It was the first time I ever went on the site and I honestly thought it was legal because it was a website (I know I'm an idiot) but now I know it isn't I just asked if they were still looking then she discussed the rates and I gave her some difficulty because of the rates so she just went off on me and basically turned it into her blackmailing me saying she was going to out me to my family and friends and my work and stuff and demanded I give her 500 so my stupid self again just did to try and shut her up because she said it would be the last i heard of her well about 2 months went by and she contacted me from a new phone number and is demanding another 300 and is calling me a rapist and all this stuff and i told her that I don't have the money because I literally don't right now and I told her if she out's me i will go to the police. Nothing even happened between us, all we did was discuss a price and argue and then it went all south so no contact actually occurred. What should I do or what can I do?? Am I going to go to jail if I go to the police for help?? Any help is greatly appreciated! This happened in Ohio.

Answer:
 Look. Stop paying her. Just delay her. Tell her you are trying to get it together. Second. Google every instance of your number to see what is out there and see if she can find you. Change them (list new number at work replacing old number) wherever possible. Remove it from Facebook, anywhere else you can.

Next post a fake listing website with a job, office, location, etc. List a fake middle and last name, so if she googles it she'll find your created presence. It might help obscure you if you do it right.

Trash your old number.  You should have done that 2 months ago.

Finally, it's probably her pimp and not her.

How did you send her payment?Answer #2: How does she know who your family and friends are and where you work? Answer #3: You're paranoid. Unless you literally met her at your home and showed her your legal ID or gave her your full name/DOB/etc- you have nothing to worry about. Get a new phone number, and that's it. She's scamming you because she can- why would she stop otherwise. It won't happen if she can't call/text you anymore.

Also- yes you know that prostitution is illegal. You know it's illegal to pay for sex wether it's at a strip club or you find the woman online. They truth is you didn't think you'd get caught because it was back page for some reason (where literally every cop goes to run a sting). Then you didn't think a prostitute would be clever enough to scam you. As someone else said you need to stop breaking the law because you're really bad at it.


Title: Nerve damage from blood draw

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You should definitely see a medical malpractice attorney for a consultation.  It's an unusual location for a venous draw, definitely.  Did they obtain informed consent for the draw?  There *might* be an informed consent form you signed that said one of the risks of a blood draw could be nerve damage.  In which case, they might be clear legally, *maybe*, depending on the circumstances. But your lawyer would be able to tell you how much of a case you could make. Medically, if you can afford it, you should also get a consultation with a hand surgeon who could give you a better idea about what do next.  It may get better by itself, it may need physical therapy, or even surgery.


Title: Ex-husband won't pay $80K divorce settlement. He is hiding and I can't serve him. What can I do in TN?

Question: I have hired 5 different process servers and a private investigator to serve him with contempt of court.  All have failed.  I even have a protective order that the sheriffs have been trying to serve him with since October 2014.  He is not working, using facebook, or email.  His family knows where he is but won't talk.

Answer: Why did you make a second post?


Title: [TX] Can a tow company just raid random parking lots for cars with expired stickers and take them?

Question: I realize I have no one to blame but myself  for letting the sticker expire. I dont intend to give the towing company a hard time over my mistake. The question is really just academic.

Answer: Does the apartment lease state that unregistered vehicles may not be parked? If so, they can do it. It's their land and you agreed to it.Answer #2: What "sticker" is expired?  Where are these vehicles being towed from?  Apartment?  Restaurant?  City lot?


Title: Long time friend has forged $6k in checks and I fucked up.

Question:
A family friend has been staying at my mom's house for a couple years now, and just recently found my checkbook and forged checks totalling over $5k. I immediately contacted my bank to freeze the account and get an affidavit for the forged checks. I met a detective this afternoon to figure out what I could do. This is where I fuck up. After showing him the affidavit, he said they could no longer make an arrest if I were to call the police on him to the house and show them the affidavit. Apparently it will take at least a month to get anything done, and by then Im afraid he will be long gone in hiding. He has no record, is pretty damn smart when it comes to certain things, and honestly I think he is a sociopath that very well may hurt more people. I need him out of the house, even though he has tenant rights. If he gets wind of anything, im certain he will be gone. He doesnt even have a phone or facebook.

Location is Montana.

Answer: What exactly was contained in the affidavit? Really not understanding why the detective told you nothing could be done.


Title: Husband had an affair. After a year of trying to reconcile he is rushing a divorce.

Question:
In March of last year while we were living in Massachusetts, I discovered my husband was having an affair. He ended things and we began seeing a therapist. Things we strained but slowly improving between us.

We ended up moving to Idaho where I learned there had been other attempts to connect with people (craigslist, dating sites, etc). He seemed genuinely remorseful so we agreed to see a therapist once again. After a few months things seem to be going well.

Suddenly he sits me down on a Satuday and says he is done. I'm shocked and go to my best friends house to process. The following Monday he is already filing paperwork. He told me he would just like to be done with everything and keeps asking me to sign stuff. I did move my things out of our apartment because I could not be there without crying, but i only took what was mine.

I'm stupid, I mean I gave him multiple chances so clearly, but not stupid enough to just sign things. I'm meeting with a lawyer later this week but I have no idea where to start and what to ask her. Should I just make sure the paperwork is ok and I'm not getting screwed over, or should I fight back?

I'm so hurt and lost I'm struggling to think and I could really use some direction.

Answer:
 Your lawyer will have the best advice for you. That said, it seems like he is pretty determined to make this happen. It would likely be in your interests to make sure that marital assets are divided fairly and that all paperwork is done swiftly.Answer #2: Fight back for what? Assets? You deserve to be with someone that loves you and respects you. Anything else it’s a deal breakerAnswer #3: Just because he wants this done fast, doesn't mean you need to rush into things simply to meet his timeline.

Sit down with a lawyer.  The biggest things you need to do are 1.  Understand your rights under the relevant law, 2.  Understand what it is specifically you would be agreeing to in signing those documents, and 3.  Decide whether you're okay with those terms.

The biggest rule here is to not sign or agree to anything that you don't completely understand.

Good luck in this difficult time.Answer #4: Don't sign anything with out your lawyer reviewing them. Him pushing you to sign stuff screaming red flag about him trying to so something shady and take advantage of your shock.


Title: [WA] landlord is doing construction while we're still in the home and it's causing problems

Question:
I'm from WA, near Seattle. Recently our landlord decided he was going to fix the roof. He's changing the overall shape of it from flat to gable. All of this would be great, but he seems to think we don't need to be evacuated while they're doing construction. Since they've started, a crazy amount of dirt and wood shavings have fallen through the holes he made/left there in the ceiling. I'm finding ants all over the place now. He drilled a tarp over the roof while it rained and he wasn't working, but water leaked through anyway and damaged some things in our car port.

On top of all the damage he's done to the inside of our home, we never know when he's going to be working on it because he just doesn't give us updates.  He started this morning at 9 AM, no announcement. I can't shower or eat while he's working because dirt will rain down on me and my food as they walk over the roof. I just don't see how this can be legal.

I guess what I'm asking is do I have any legal recourse? I'm barely able to exist in my own home when he's working on the roof, and there's nowhere else for us to go. We've got small animals too and I'm worried about them getting hurt. Can I sue if something happens causing great injury or damages, or can I do it now?

I forgot to mention that I'm not on the lease, I'm supposed to be moving out in a couple months and I live with my mom. I don't know if that affects anything though.

Answer: Washington State has a group called the tenants union that is usually helpful with questions like this: https://tenantsunion.org/en.Answer #2: IANAL but I am in law school. If you’re not on the lease I don’t see how you could sue the LL but if your mom is she could. There was a similar case I read in NYC where a LL was doing construction on an apartment (above the apartment; building an elevator) that was still inhabited by renters. Like your situation dirt and debris rained down on them, it destroyed their furniture and personal belongings and became a nuisance and interfered with their right to quiet enjoyment. They stopped paying rent and then sued to recover costs of damages items. The court was sympathetic to them, and instructed the LL to compensate their lost items, etc but ordered the tenants to pay back rent. So it really depends on how bad the situation is I guess. Not sure exactly what the law is in WA. I would contact a lawyer that specializes in LL/Tenant issues and ask if you have a case here.


Title: Sister is out of the country until 2nd of June. My nieces (3yo) father gets her this weekend. Says he won't give her back to her grandmother on Sunday.

Question: They're afraid in these 2 wks he may psychologically abuse her trying to turn her against her mom and grandmother. Can he legally keep her until my sister returns or will that place him in contempt of court?  Standard long distance parenting agreement for Ohio.

Answer: What does their custody agreement say?


Title: We wan't our roommate out who isn't on the lease, she says she doesn't have to leave. Norther California

Question: We moved into this new place 2 months ago, she moved in a month ago. She never signed a lease or anything at all. We want her out because she goes in our rooms without asking and has gone through our phones without permission and has seriously threatened our roommates life, and comes at us at all times screaming at us for random things. Were literally all afraid of her and she owns 2 guns which she keeps with her in her room.  Can we just give her a 30 days notice to leave?

Answer:
 > has seriously threatened our roommates life

This is when you should probably consider getting police involved.


Title: Furniture delivery person stole my iPhone, caught and called police. What are my options?

Question:
Location: NJ, USA

Hello, so I purchased a king mattress set (mattress and box springs) From JCPenney. Apparently they used a 3rd party delivery company to make the delivery from the warehouse. They called me at like 6am to say they were about 30 mins away (was never given courtesy call night before to specify timeline) and was a bit caught off guard.

Anyways, I was on my way out to work and waited around. Everyone else in the house is still sleeping in the house so I'm the only one up. I showed the 2 delivery guys where the new mattress is supposed to go. There was a problem with the mattress (size is not correct, does not fit frame). So I went to get my phone to call JCPenney. Looked for my phone and noticed it wasn't where I just left it charging 30 mins prior. I took my wife's iPhone and used the Find My iPhone app (thank God!) to track my phone to being outside. I followed it some more (the delivery guys are up in the bedroom cleaning up the wrappers) to their delivery truck. I could hear my phone ring.

At this point I called the cops, and kept the guys waiting delaying them until the cops came. They did not know I called the cops. So the one guy went into the truck, took my phone, and proceeded to walk towards my house. At this point I sent a signal to the phone to make it ring. Guy noticed and immediately tossed my phone on the ground damaging it. Cop saw it and arrested the guy.

So now I have a damaged phone and a mattress that is not the correct size. Obviously the mattress issue should be straight forward, but who do I go after for the damages to my phone and case. The 3rd party delivery company is saying to go after the guy, and JCP says they will call me back after speaking to the customer rep.

So... what courses of action can I take, and what should I be expecting to get out of all of this? I ultimately want the damages to my phone paid for, and feel I should be getting some type of compensation for the issue as I missed work to deal with the cops/etc.

TL;DR - Ordered mattress from JCPenny. One of the driver from the 3rd party delivery people they used stole my phone, caught red handed, damaged it, called cops and guy arrested. What can I do?! Who should I go after for damages and try to get further compensation (e.g. discount on the mattress or store credit from JCP).

Answer:
 Generally, companies are liable for negligent acts of their employees, but not criminal acts.  You're supposed to sue the driver in small claims court for the cost of the repair of the phone, or a replacement phone in the same condition, whichever is less; plus court costs and any other damages you can claim.  You don't need an attorney.

Alternatively, the judge might order restitution to you as part of the criminal case, if it continues.  Contact the DA to see if this is possible.

You can keep following up with the two companies involved; maybe they will want to be nice and compensate you themselves.  They probably don't have to, though.
Answer #2: Try engaging with JC Penny via email with a copy of the police report.  You could also do it via DM on Twitter or a messenger on FB.  For whatever reason companies are much more responsive to contact initiated with and through social media. But give them the opportunity to resolve it privately before you tweet at them publicly.

Most likely they'll take care of you.  If not you can either sue the guy or his employer.

Alternatively you can connect with the prosecutor and request that any plea deal or criminal sentence include compensation for your damaged phone. Answer #3: The delivery company should per their contract with JC penny's be bonded and insured.  The bond should cover this.


Title: Who decides what is "reasonable" in the context of granting accommodation(s) to university students with disabilities?

Question:
**TL;DR** Who has the authority to declare a requested accommodation by a mentally ill student "reasonable"? I'm from Papua New Guinea, not that it matters. I'm trying to understand US, UN or UK law here, not Papua New Guinea Law. This might or might not be helpful to me, but that's my problem isn't it?

Please back up your claim with specific (as specific as you can) parts of relevant documents (legal document or webpage from a university).

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The UN has the [Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Convention_on_the_Rights_of_Persons_with_Disabilities)

The US has the [Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990
](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Americans_with_Disabilities_Act_of_1990)

The UK has the [Equality Act 2010](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equality_Act_2010)

Canada has the [Ontarians with Disabilities Act](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ontarians_with_Disabilities_Act)

Hong Kong has the [Disability Discrimination Ordinance 1995](http://www.legislation.gov.hk/blis_pdf.nsf/4f0db701c6c25d4a4825755c00352e35/D72F7A7DE6892EEE482575EF000ED92F/$FILE/CAP_487_e_b5.pdf)

Australia has the [Disability Discrimination Act 1992](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disability_Discrimination_Act_1992)

And [so on](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disability_discrimination_act#List_of_disability_discrimination_acts).

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What all those mean for a **university student with ADHD** (like me) is that said student in any of those places would or should be granted a ["reasonable accommodation"](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reasonable_accommodation) such as extra time or extended deadline if

1. the student requests for such accommodation (of course going through the process eg submitting the appropriate documents and so on)

2. an appropriate university authority declares the requested accommodation as "reasonable"

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#**But who exactly has the authority to declare such a requested accommodation "reasonable"?**

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I read [here](http://www.additudemag.com/q%26a/ask_the_learning_expert/1390.html) that

> since your accommodation has been approved by the disabilities office, the teacher is obliged to honor it. If your professor fails to provide extra time on tests, report him or her to the disabilities office.

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#The ***assumption*** seems to be:

> A mentally ill student would appeal **to the disability office and not their professors** of his/her university to request accommodations.

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This is what I have read elsewhere: [Psychiatry](https://np.reddit.com/r/Psychiatry/comments/4bby0g/granting_of_extra_time_to_university_students_is/d1edc41) [Academia](https://np.reddit.com/r/academia/comments/4bbzzj/granting_of_extra_time_to_university_students_is/d1aisce) [ADHD](https://np.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/4b9zzu/extra_time_is_supposed_to_be_decided_by_a/d17o42u) [AskDocs](https://np.reddit.com/r/AskDocs/comments/4bbw86/granting_of_extra_time_to_university_students_is/d17q8g7) [AskAcademia](https://np.reddit.com/r/AskAcademia/comments/4bbx4o/granting_of_extra_time_to_university_students_is/d17xo64)

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(However, I also read that a professor is allowed to try to prove "[**undue hardship**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Undue_hardship)" to the disability office. So, professors **can make appeals** but **cannot judge**.)

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**While it seems sensible to me for this** (students appealing to disability office) **to be the standard procedure** (rather than students appealing to professors)

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#**where exactly** in any of the above documents can I find support for ***the assumption***?

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I'm hoping some part of those documents will give some kind of elaboration like:

> Universities and Colleges

> 1. The disability office of a certain university or college shall be where the students request for accommodations.

> 2. The request procedure shall generally consist of the following steps:

> 2.1 ...

> 2.2 ...

> 3. Upon granting of the accommodations, the professors of the students must honor them.

> 4. However the professors can object on grounds of "undue hardship" which include...

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I have a feeling such things are **not explicit** in those documents because they **should be obvious or core features** of the parts of the document relevant for university students.

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If that's the case, how then exactly do we know that the **proper interpretation** of universities being required to grant "reasonable accommodations" is that **disability offices have the authority to judge if requested accommodations are "reasonable"** and to grant them?

Answer: The institution makes a determination. If they say its unreasonable, the student can sue and have a judge decide if the institution did that properly. Some states/cities have special committees/offices that let you get a faster determination rather than having to go the litigation route.


Title: Need help. Two different lawyers on the same day same time same place.

Question:
I got three speeding tickets in three consecutive months at the beginning of the year. Never had a speeding ticket prior to that in my 10 years of driving. I took defensive driving for my first one and for the other two I hired different lawyers. Never been in this predicament so definitely making all the mistakes.

My question is, will there be any complications of having two different lawyers for the same date, same time, and same place?

Also, on the third ticket I had an expired registration. I took care of it via the same courthouse I will have my court date with my lawyers. Since then I have lost my receipt for proof. Can I obtain a copy there or will they already have it in their database?

I live in Texas if that matters any. Thank you in advance.

Update: I wasn't able to consolidate my attorneys but both tickets were dismissed. The only thing I had to pay for was the initial representation fee for both law firms which I had done months ago. Total cost was $150. Thank you to everyone who helped.

Answer:
 It would be more cost effective to hire one lawyer vs two. Answer #2: > My question is, will there be any complications of having two different lawyers for the same date, same time, and same place?

There shouldn't be, but consolidating both cases with one lawyer would have saved you some money.  For the expired registration, your current registration should suffice for proof that's it's no longer expired.


Title: Suspected of stalking in Nebraska

Question:
Hi,

So my very best friend of the opposite sex decided to break off contact with me and I get two cops at my door Friday night saying I am in trouble with both the school and have to appear in court Nov 7th.

So I had this really good friend I met about a year ago and we hung out every week for about 2 hours and stuff was great until she started texting me less and less, we never dated and in fact I have never dated anyone before, she claimed I made her uncomfortable and I sent her several texts and one letter and by several I mean like 5 after that date (September 12 2017).

Now the university police which are like state troopers in Nebraska are saying I was "Stalking" her.  I am diagnosed as being autistic, General anxiety disorder, and major depressive disorder as well as social anxiety.

I never intentionally tried to scare the girl and never threatened her I did leave an apology note at her dorm once before police got involved and I haven't followed the girl or gone back to her place even once since this happened.  Also we never dated and never even talked about sex and the only touching we ever did was the occasional hug.

I have scheduled an appointment with my universities free legal aid service just as soon as they get to me in line but I know they can't help with student vs student troubles. Also being a student I have like 2000 dollars to my name so I can't really afford a lawyer.

The officers gave me something called a uniform citation and complaint form that has a court date on it and told me if I miss it I could be arrested (I don't plan on missing it obviously!)

I would appreciate it if someone could tell me what to expect on my November 7th court appearance date and what is gonna happen to me on that date and also what my plan of action should be?  Thanks in advance!
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 Having skimmed your post history, I feel compelled to add: 1. Do not contact this girl again under any circumstances and 2. You really, really need a lawyer. Answer #2: The November 7th date is your arraignment. If the prosecutor has decided to file charges, you will be given a copy of the charging document. If you don't have a lawyer and can't afford one, this would also be the time when you would ask for a lawyer to be appointed to represent you. You will also be asked whether you want to plead guilty or not guilty. If you plead guilty, you will be convicted and possibly sentenced at that hearing. If you plead not guilty, then you will receive another court date.

The consensus on this reddit will be that you shouldn't plead guilty without talking to a lawyer first.


Title: I'm facing a charge of aggravated assault and can't afford a lawyer. I also don't qualify for legal aid.

Question:
I'm in Alberta, Canada

Im 27 and have no criminal history.

I messed up really bad on Friday. I was at a bar with my boyfriend having a good time when I ran into my abusive ex. I kept telling him to leave me alone because he was harassing me. I eventually got fed up and told my boyfriend i just wanted to leave.

As we were leaving, my ex was following my boyfriend and saying stuff which lead to an altercation between the two. I took my empty drink and hit my ex on his head with it. I didn't think it would hurt him that bad. Didn't expect that it would break. The bottle ended up breaking on his head and cut him pretty bad.

When I saw that it had broken, I was horrified and in shock. I immediately left the bar and went home.

My boyfriend got home shortly after I got there and said it was really bad and that the police were called. I waited for the police to come get me at my place.

I stayed in jail for two nights and got bail Sunday evening. While I was in jail I was told that they were charging me with aggravated assault. I really didn't mean to injure my ex like I did. I've never attacked anyone in my life and would never intentionally injure someone, let alone cause bodily harm. I wish it never happened, even if I weren't facing this charge.

I found out how serious this charge is today, when I looked it up. I was told by legal aid that I don't qualify four their program.

I'm scared and I don't know what to do. The two nights I spent in jail were the worst nights of my life. The maximum sentence for aggravated assault is 14 years..

I know what I did was really wrong and I wish I could take it back. I just need to figure out where to go from here. I'm not a violent person and not sure why I decided to do something so stupid. Please don't judge me. I know it was fucked up what happened and I am really beating myself up about it.

Tldr; I bashed my ex over the head with a bottle and I am (hopefully not) totally screwed.

Answer: This is serious and you need a lawyer. You can’t afford not to get one. Borrow, sell valuables, take out a loan if possible.


Title: Should I pay 4 months rent up front

Question:
So I'm hoping someone here has some advice for me in regards to renting a room. I will be attending school in Toronto in September and due to my low budget ( 500 - 850 ) I'm going to have to rent a room in a shared unit instead of a apartment. I'm having a really hard time finding something as I have poor credit, no references as I've always lived at home and I'm patting with OSAP so I currently don't have employment in Toronto. The only thing I can think of that would help me to get a room is to offer to pay all 4 months rent up front. My concern is that if I'm just renting a room from in a shared house then I don't think I'm covered by the LTB and could be licked out any time without reason and could then be out 4 months rent. Could I get a contract or somthing stating the money is for rent and if I'm kicked out I get it back?

Not sure what my options are so if anyone has any suggestions on a contract or even advice on how to find a room in my situation I'd really appreciate it.

Answer:
 Renting a room = you need a lease. It does not have to be long and full or unintelligible clauses, but you need something in writing. Canada recognized month-to-month tenancy, but any time you pay out money to someone else, you better get a receipt.

Make it simple. When looking at the rental unit, ask for a receipt that details how much you paid and why (4 months rent) and a lease that states the start date of tenancy, the end date of tenancy, and what happens at the end of the lease. If anyone refuses to provide a written lease of some sort, refuse the unit - with haste.


Title: Old employer (who fired me) is saying they need me to speak to their outside counsel because they are getting sued by an account that I managed while working for them.

Question:
Location:  Washington State

I didn't get fired for bad behavior or doing anything I shouldn't have been doing.  I simply hated the job and my manager could tell and fired me.  I want to know if I have any legal obligation to comply with this "interview" they want me to give to their outside counsel.  I remember absolutely ZERO about the account that's suing them, so I wouldn't be able to help with anything anyway.  It was 2 years ago and I've forgotten everything about that terrible job.  I just don't want to get myself involved in anything messy.  And not to mention I hate my old company with a passion.  I don't want to give them anything if I don't have to.

Answer: If it's a request, "no" is a complete sentence. If it's a subpoena, you mostly don't have a choice. Have you been served with a subpoena? If not, and if you don't want to comply with their request, I'd be tempted not to even give them the time of day.Answer #2: You could request an hourly contracting fee to speak to their attorney.  Make sure to include travel time.


Title: Paralegal not following through

Question:
Location: Ontario, Canada

In 2014 my spouse got a parking ticket in a city a couple hours away from where we live. What it was for is irrelevant to this, but the fine was ~$100. Because of the distance from our home my spouse found a ticket fighter type service online from that city. Their deal was we pay half the price of the fine to him and he fights it for us, and if he loses he pays the ticket.

In 2015 we got a notice of a court date from the city for the ticket. We contacted the company and they said just ignore it, we have it and will be going for you. We never heard anything more about the case. No result or anything. We, probably foolishly, assumed it was resolved.

Now, recently my spouse received her plate sticker renewal and it included $60 for a overdue ticket. We confirmed with the ministry that it was for that parking ticket and that it was reduced but never paid.

When we call the number on their website it goes straight to voicemail. We have sent multiple emails, and as far as we can tell they have been ignored. We are unsure where to go from here. Is this a matter for the police, or for consumer protections, or maybe small claims? It's honestly not the money that matters, it's that we paid them and they did not honour their guarantee.

Answer: [file a complaint](http://www.lsuc.on.ca/with.aspx?id=644) with the Law Society of Upper Canada.


Title: How can my mother break free from financial ties to my (cartoonishly) evil aunt and uncle?

Question: Like the title states, my mom is tied financially to her brother and sister through property ownership in Minnesota and Missouri.  There's a lot of backstory here, but I'll cut right to the chase. My mother wants to sell the Missouri property.  She owns a third of the land, her brother owns a third, and her sister owns a third. No property lines were drawn or mentioned in my grandmothers will.Her siblings agree that they want it sold as well, but disagree strongly on how to sell it.  My uncle, being a realtor, claims he wants to sell it himself to avoid being charged commission, yet makes absolutely zero effort to do so (probably because my mother ended up testifying against him in a child abuse case).  My mother already has a seller lined up for the property, who has already found a willing buyer, but my uncle won't agree to sell unless he is the seller.  This battle over how to sell this property has been raging for ten years, since my grandmother died, and will seemingly continue for the rest of their lives.  Is there anything that can be done that allows my mother to get her money from this property?  It seems so wrong that my uncle can single handedly prevent her from collecting her share of her own inheritance. Any advice helps.

Answer: She can file a partition lawsuit to force the sale of the home.


Title: Question about worker rights

Question:
Hi,

I am having some trouble at my job and I'd like to get some advice in how I should proceed.

I work at for a cell phone company at the moment that does things in a rather shady way. When I got hired they said that training would only pay 5 dollars an hour. Being that I was desperate for a job, I accepted. For three weeks of training I worked full time and got paid 5 dollars an hour. Then the actual paychecks started which are decent. However, they pay only cash. This is only my second job so I don't know if this is normal.

Anyway, this is the issue. I found out my immediate manager was dating my coworker, I didn't say anything as everyone knows already. Except that when me and her work together she gets treatment different than all the other workers. He clocks her in if she is late, she takes 3 hour lunches to go do her nails, etc.  I find this unfair as she leaves me alone in the store.

Anyways the other day he came to pick her up and they were gone for 3 hours. I was hungry and needed a lunch break so I called the manager above my manager (he owns the store) and asked him if I could leave a sign up, as I needed to eat. He asked where the other girl was, I told him. I'm guessing I shouldn't have said anything because now I am going through extreme retaliation for opening my mouth. All I said was that she was still in lunch.  He said her lunch started 3 hours ago, so I told him she hasn't came back. He said he would deal with it, then hung up.

Well the Next day I found out she had gotten fired. Now my immediate manager is treating me like shit. He called me on speaker and started yelling at me in front of my new coworker and a customer. He said "you better not get attached to your schedule because I'm cutting your hours. Also, I'm taking 60 dollars off of your paycheck" I said,  you can't do that. And he said he could and would. He then said I'd be working at another store at the other side of town. He knows I don't have a car.

He cut my hours and is threatening to take money from my paycheck. All because his gf got fired. I have no proof he is going to take money from me as they only pay cash. I'm so lost, I don't know what to do.

I want to quit but my sister said There's places I can call that deal with workers rights.

I talked to the main manager and said he would have a meeting with me and the manager, where he would decide what to do with me. (Implying I'd get fired for complaining). They are good friends. I don't know what to do.

Answer: You're working under the table. Stop immediately and get a job that follows the law. You can file a complaint with the Texas Workforce Commission if you weren't paid at least minimum wage.


Title: Got in a car accident, guy told me he was fine, now he’s claiming he’s injured.

Question: First off I am liable. I made a left hand turn hit his back end. As soon as we pulled over the first thing I asked was if everyone was alright to which I received a “yes” from both individuals. I repeated the question several times and had two people in the car with me who may have heard their responses. When I gave my statement to my insurance company I repeated this to them as well. Now it’s three days later and the guy is claiming an injury. Is there anything I can do? Also I’m not totally sure if I’m in the right place.

Answer:
 Just because they said "yes" doesn't mean they didn't feel anything immediately and even if they didn't, it doesn't mean they weren't injured.

Let your insurance handle it.  It really only becomes your problem if the injuries exceed your coverage limits.Answer #2: It is not uncommon to have injuries that are not apparent immediately.  Just follow your insurance company’s directions and be thankful you were insured.


Title: Idaho, neighbor keeps calling the cops on me.

Question:
My upstairs neighbor is, for lack of a better term, poor white trash. She has 2 little girls (under 10) and a new boyfriend every month or so that moves in. So far all the boyfriends have had legal issues, cops, probation, parole. It's pretty disruptive. She makes her daughters call the never ending string of boyfriends daddy.

That's background sop you can understand what I'm dealing with.

Neighbor calls the cops on me. I go to bed at 8am and get up at 5pm. Which means I'm up all night. I go outside to smoke and like to walk around a bit. 6 times she has called the cops on me. She tells the 911 operator that I'm an ex-boyfriend, I have a gun, and I'm coming to kill her and the kids. The cops show up, hands on guns, and interrogate me. It's happened so often that the 4 cops on night shift in this town all know me. It's to the point where they say "Hi, Mr. Soandso. Your neighbor called us again, could you get your ID?" They have to respond though, because she always says I have a gun.

I'm not going to change my schedule, and I shouldn't have to. I walk on the sidewalk in front of my unit, I don't get within 100' of her front door. She has a bedroom window that overlooks mine. I wear sneakers and am silent. She's just paranoid from all the bad choices she's made. Or maybe she likes drama. Honestly, it could be either one.

Her lease is up in January and judging from all the notices for late rent I doubt my landlord will renew her lease.

Any survival tips until then?

Answer:
 So, the local police aren't charging her for all these false reports?Answer #2: Have you asked the cops about filing a complaint against her? Could be they don't want to do it but you could get that started.

If, when, the police show up next time ask them if reports have been filed over these calls. If yes get copies. If not get each of the police officers names and tell them you will filing a complaint against her so they know whats coming. Go to the police and make a complaint against her. Talk to the DAs office after to see what can be done.

Be the squeaky wheel or one night you might get a new cop who does not know you or what this person is up to. Things could end badly for you in many cases if a over zealous cop gets this call. Answer #3: Tell her you will wear an orange vest when you go out at nightAnswer #4: I had same kind years ago with a neighbor one of the most important things to do is get all police reports filled from them coming out in the past, and every time they come again. this help to establish a pattern of harassment by her. This can help if the time comes you need to break your lease and move. you can also give copy to LL to help reinforce the idea of not renewing her lease.Answer #5:  Call CPS. Tell them the mother is mentally unstable and you're worried about the children. It might keep her busy, but I legit think those kids should be checked on. Answer #6: We know our frequent flyers, and this action was performed automatically.