Title: Mental Health Neglect Of Minor ?

Question:
I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I don't know where else to go.

My daughter, 14, suffers from extreme anxiety, insomnia and a manic depressive disorder (bipolar).

Around December 2017, she had a mental shift to where she began experiencing her mild symptoms, to which she still gets today. Low mood, disinterest in activities, over sleeping or under sleeping, crying episodes, thoughts of suicide and panic attacks. There were no factors contributing to this, family life and school was good. She had a great support group and there was no problems with her health before this.

Mid April 2018, her symptoms had become worse. Self-harm, manic episodes, suicidal attempts and thoughts, as well as periods where she would stay up for 2-3 days at a time, as well as no eating during those periods due to a lack of appetite. She competes in several sports, and by this time she had dropped all her sports, as well as school. By the end of her 8th grade year, she had missed over 3 months of school. We had visited a family doctor, who prescribed Paroxetine 10MG and sent her on her way.

 She was hospitalized in early May 2018 for suicide attempts and self-harm. They went through several assessments, with several doctors, who all diagnosed her with something different. Adjustment disorder, insomnia, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety, ADD, bulimia, bipolar, were all written down in her files by at least 3 different doctors, who did not communicate with each other nor us. We did not know what she was diagnosed with. She was taken off the Paroxetine by doctors, due to severe side effects, and referred to four other medications; Fluoxetine, Sertraline, Escitalopram and Citalopram. After she was discharged, she was given referrals to counselling and regular psychiatric appointments.

She was not given these medications at the hospital, and our family doctor refused to give us the medications; she ended up staying on Paroxetine.

Not until mid October did we get another follow-up appointment for her, which was a psychiatric evaluation. She did not receive counselling, new medications or any sort of help before this. She ended up missing the appointment due to being out of the country for a competition, and her files were closed without warning, discussion or a reschedule.

Early November, we have switched family doctors. We visited this new doctor with an attempt to switch medication and get another referral. The doctor has given her 25mg Sertraline, to which she was uncomfortable taking due to the exact similarity of Paroxetine. The doctor gave us a referral to see an adolescent psychiatrist, which will take up to 2 months for us to get an appointment.

She has gotten to the point of missing school and sports again, there has only been 3 months of school, she has missed a total of 2 months. She is mentally incapable of leaving the house in the mornings, due to extreme anxiety, on top of that she is balancing severe exhaustion from not being able to sleep. She goes to a private sports school, which is designed to keep track with students about missing school, and they are very flexible. However since she is not missing school for sports, the school is filing legal action against us, and trying to take her away and place her into foster care, with no visits until she is 18. She has great friends at school, is very liked, and is an honour roll student. She loves to go to school, she just cannot get past her mental state. Same with sports.

Today, we have taken her to the emergency department in the hospital. They gave us a pamphlet with at least 15 numbers/hotlines/mental hospitals, we have tried every single one this month, we cannot get anything from anyone without waiting up to 2 months, which will be in 2019. Every hospital we have visited in the city, will not give a diagnosis or new medication. The emergency department today refused to do a re-diagnosis or prescribe new medication, which is the only short term option we have right now.

All we can do is wait until after the new year for her appointment; it's too far away. She cannot wait until it, and things will progressively become worse and worse, ending up with another hospitalization or her being taken away. What can we do?

Answer:
 Go back to the ER. Request a psychiatric evaluation. If she is a danger to herself or others they should find a bed for her on an acute inpatient psychiatric unit.

For every psychiatrist/psychiatric nurse practitioner that is booked out months. Keep calling. They have cancellations most every single day. You may be able to get seen in one of these slots.


Title: Need help for a friend with false charges of domestic abuse.

Question:
I don't know where else to post this as I am new to Reddit, but figured this was worth a shot.

A friend of mine is in dire need of legal help due his soon to be Ex-wife screwing his life over bad. I'm hoping some of you might be able to help him as this is disgustingly horrible.

Background:

In early October he was arrested and sent to county jail over false claims of domestic abuse. I want to make this perfectly clear, these are entirely false and fabricated claims. However she, being a sheriff in training, knew how to use the system to get him incarcerated without any evidence. 0. None. No scratches or bruises. She even refused the medical check up. However, police took her side, despite lack of evidence and sent him to county. He was released on Bond the following day with a restraining order against her. She took the 2 sons with her to her parents which is what is hurting him the most.

Fast forward a couple weeks and the DA is refusing to file any charges due to lack of evidence. Child Protection Services is also clearing him of any wrong doing as there is no evidence and after talking to the 2 sons, ages 4 and 1, they found the kids to be perfectly safe.

Early November, he had to appear in court before a judge to determine the status of the restraining order. My friend had obtained a lawyer to help him, but the lawyer had planned a trip outside a state, so instead left him with 3 pages worth of defense.

To be honest, both of us were confident the restraining order would be dropped, as again there was 0 PROOF. ZERO.

For some reason, the female judge, not only decided to side with the wife, but went hard on him. She established a 1 year restraining order against him for her AND the 2 sons, despite total lack of evidence.

Now this is where it gets even more disgusting and heartbreaking. Not only is he innocent of any wrong doing, he is actually a victim of domestic violence, by his wife. He has multiple videos of her hitting, scratching, choking, and one where they are arguing after she cut him with a knife. In some of these the oldest son was present.

He didn't present these videos in court because he didn't have them available at the time and because he was hoping she would come to her senses, but after 2 months of her outright refusing to cooperate, he finds himself in a bad place.

I've come here to Reddit in hopes that someone might be able to provide legal help/ aide to my friend, as he already finds himself paying the 5000$ bond as well as other lawyer fees. Any help would be great at this point, but especially help from a criminal attorney as he is now seeking to press charges for the abuse in an effort to obtain custody of his kids as well as help in dropping the restraining order that currently prevents him from seeing them. He is located in Southern California.

If anyone can point him in the right direction as well in regards to how to proceed with this, he would totally appreciate this.

Thanks in advance and God Bless.

Answer:
 He doesn’t press charges, the DA does.

If he’s being abused, he should report that to the police

If he has a lawyer, he should follow the advice of his lawyer


Title: Witnessed a rape at a party, now various parties are pressuring me to testify against the rapist - how to I get them to leave me alone [AZ]

Question: [removed]

Answer: Wow, you are a horrible person


Title: [TX] My ex killed himself and his wife is threatening legal action against me. How should I respond?

Question:
**TL;DR: My ex committed suicide, and his wife is threatening to sue me for somehow causing his death.**

Some years ago, I did the smartest thing I could have ever done and kicked out and broke up with my ex after I discovered he was creating child porn in our house.  I should have called the police as well, but at the time I was most concerned about getting this dangerous man away from my daughter (not his, thank God).

Everything was going well and good, until I discovered he had gotten (or was about to get) a teaching license, and would be teaching at my daughter's school.  I knew this put my daughter at risk, put my life at risk, and put every other parent and child associated with that school at risk, so I knew I had to take him down.  I got in the good graces of the Principal, Assistant Principal, and influential figures in the P.T.O., put together evidence of the child porn he'd created (it was almost all in text form, and I had to recreate some of it from memory or the general feel of it), and hit him hard, fast, and often.

My daughter was under instructions to never, ever, **EVER** talk to him, under any circumstances and for any reason, and to flee *SCREAMING* from him if he ever got within arm's reach of her.  She did, and I had more than a few conferences with the Principal because of it, but it let me get my concerns about him out early :).  I recorded everything I saw or heard him say or do.  I never said two words to him without witnesses to back me up.  The other parents started to notice his shifty behavior around me too, and before long half the school was aware of just what sort of a disgusting, sweaty, insincere pile of human waste the school had on its payroll.  The Principal got at least three copies of every time he raised his voice so much as one decibel, every time he lingered too close to a child, and *every*. *single*. *time*. he put one of his **DISGUSTING PIG-MAN HANDS** on a child trusted to his "care."  For any reason.

By the time December came around, he "officially" resigned, but those of us in the know, we knew the truth, and we breathed a sigh of relief.  They'd had enough of him.  They fired him.  They knew what kind of monster they'd made the mistake of ever hiring.

Then, near the end of last week, just after my daughter's first week back in school, actually, I got a call from my ex's wife.

Oh, yes.  Somehow, he'd gotten married.  He could be superficially charming if you didn't know any better, so I suppose he could trick someone for a short enough time (Hell, he tricked *me* into falling in love with him).  But to find someone to *marry* him?  I don't want to insult this woman's intelligence, but it has to be either that or she's just as disgusting as him in terms of personality.  I could say a *lot* about what I think of her physically, but I will condense it into two clinical words that no one can dispute: **Morbidly Obese**.

But yes, his "wife" called me to bellow at me for "killing" my ex.  I'd never touched the monster in years, so I initially laughed her off until she told me he'd actually killed himself and she was about to hire a lawyer.  Then I kept laughing and hung up.

I'm not even 100% sure this wasn't some stupid joke of his, but assuming it's true, and assuming my ex did kill himself, and even assuming it was because I got him fired ... would this woman have a case against me?  And how would I go about responding to it?  I'm a single mom and money is tight, so I would prefer not to hire a lawyer unless absolutely necessary, and I doubt this woman is going to do anything, but I am curious.

Thank you in advance for any helpful responses.

**EDIT: To the anonymous coward who have me gold and has refused to identify himself or herself ... you can waste your money any way you want, but I will only delete this account.  I can create another just to fuck with you.  You have accomplished nothing but waste your own money and the time and effort you spent to earn it.**

**EDIT TWO: Here's an analogy for a "gift" of reddit gold I never asked for.  Imagine you're "given" a dead, rotting possum.  You call the city to remove it, and they refuse.  They say they can't remove dead, rotting possums.  The only thing you can do is wait for it to completely decompose until nothing is left; until then, there's a dead, rotting possum in front of your house.**

***THAT'S* what it's like to receive a "gift" of reddit gold I never asked for.**

Answer:
 So, to summarize this whole affair, you discovered evidence that your ex was a child sexual abuse victim trying to process what had happened to him, so you kicked him out of the house, harassed him, and then manufactured evidence to damage his reputation.  Then when his wife told you that your harassment had driven him to suicide, you laughed.Answer #2: The account has since been deleted, but if anyone would like a little context for reference see [OP's post from a few months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3eiir7/tx_my_ex_a_pedophile_who_was_never_prosecuted_is/).Answer #3: The comments about her physical appearance are totally unnecessary. Answer #4: Have you seen that mental health professional yet?Answer #5: Hey, you sound familiar.  This alleged child porn wasn't of the "text-based" variety, was it? Answer #6: Let's say it's not a troll.  Theoretically, could someone successfully argue that OP harassed her ex and indirectly caused his death?

EDIT: Looks like this was her goal all along:

"Ha! Wrong.
He's too chicken to do anything. I honestly hope he blows his pedo brains all over the wall when his principal reads what I'm writing him now."


Title: Can my parent legally open up my mail?

Question:
This is in WA state. I am 18 years old. Due to serious circumstances I am currently residing in my uncle's house, although not for long.

Any mail to me will be addressed towards my parent's house, although I am positive it will be under my name. I realize opening someone else's mail is a federal crime. I am not comfortable with my family opening up my mail and they have done it before. If it is addressed at my parent's house, but under my name, can they open my mail?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: No.  Have your mail forwarded to your current address.Answer #2: It is illegal. Whether or not that will deter your parents is another question that we cannot answer - people do illegal things.


Title: brother and sister in law stuck in china nephew kidnapped by Chinese grandparents

Question:
ok so long story buckle up.
My brother is married and has a kid with a chinese girl whom he met while she was attending college here in the US. After she graduated from college she and my brother and there new child decided to go to china to live for 2 years or so and then return to the states. everything was going fine until they started getting ready to come back. now my brothers Inlaws  (the childs chinese grandparents) have decided to not let my brother and his wife have there child back. they are claiming that they need to pay them a large amount of money in order to get there child back. they then went to my brothers place of work and got them to fire him so he cant RAISE the money (they are well respected citizens in Beijing as far as i know and have some pull). then after finding out that there daughter was pregnant with their second child they beat there daughter and kicked her out then threatened to kill my brother so now neither my brother nor his wife have access to there own child, they are a week or so from being homeless in what is a foreign country to my brother and the U.S. and Chinese governments refuse to offer any assistance. the child was born in the states and i'm pretty sure that means he is a us citizen. so isn't this kidnapping they took the kid from the parents. right now we are in the process of raising money to get my brother and his wife back to the states as formerly noted they are out of money and will soon be homeless  but as we are a lower income group of people ( I'm a local radio talent with a budding family of my own and my mother is disabled) we are finding this task itself daunting. what I'm looking for is any resources/help/advice/alternate subreddit if this one is not appropriate ANY help is appreciated  we just want our family back.

if proof is needed i can reference some face book posts from my sister in law and i have some chat logs my brother sent me between her and my brother also to prove my identity fun101fm.com click listen live im on from 3-6

TLDR: ya i dont know how to sum this up
EDIT: im in Georgia US

Answer: I will premise this by saying I don't know anything about Chinese law but have they gone to the local police? Or the American embassy?


Title: [Texas]Is flashing high beams at oncoming traffic a citable offense?

Question:
The other night, I passed a local LEO who appeared to be running radar on the oncoming lane of trafic.   I flashed my high beams three times to warn the drivers in the other lane.  I was pulled over by a DPS trooper.  He made a passing reference acknowledging that my actions were permissible free speech, but then he also said I was creating a safety hazard for the oncoming drivers.  His real objection, however, seemed to be that I was impeding the ability of law enforcement officers to make traffic stops, said stops providing officers with the opportunity to search vehicles and apprehend criminals.

He let me go with a warning that cited me for failure to dim my headlights for oncoming traffic.

My questions are two:
1) Although I was only issued a warning, might I actually have been issued a valid citation for the offense specified on the warning?
2) Did the trooper have probable cause to pull me over merely for flashing my high beams at oncoming traffic?

Answer: Texas has no specific law about warning about speed traps, but there are [lots of ways](http://abcnews.go.com/US/speed-trap-sign-lands-texas-woman-jail/story?id=16670386) for the police to [creatively charge you](http://abcnews.go.com/US/texas-man-fights-charge-warning-drivers-speed-trap/story?id=21559309). If you don't want a criminal record, don't help people avoid punishment when they break the law.


Title: Am I supposed to be taxed twice on my tips?

Question: Hey guys, long time lurker here. I work for a local restaurant in Florida that a family friend owns as a server. Recently, we have switched over to receiving our tips on our paycheck the following week because its easier for the manager to do it from home. My question is, if i'm declaring all my tips for the week, why am I getting taxed for my tips that that OWE ME from the previous week? Any help and/or advice is appreciated. I really hate seeing hard workers get scammed out of their money. Thanks in advance.

Answer: What do you mean "Declaring your tips".  Declaring them is how taxes are withheld.  I don't see where you're being taxed twice


Title: Louisiana- top of neighbor's tree hit my car during a storm- neighbor denying responsibility because it's an act of nature

Question:
I'm not kidding, the top of the tree fell of and hit my car. Also, it fell on my car. Should have been more specific.

Anyway, I do not have comprehensive insurance on my vehicle. It is a 2002 Chrysler Intrepid. My insurance company didn't recommend I get it because my car is so old.

I received a letter the other day from the neighbor saying that all claims made against him are denied because "it was a 40 mph wind" and "he cannot control the forces of nature."  I looked back at a log for weather for that day, and the worst wind we got from the storm was 11 mph with a gust of 36 mph. That was three hours before the incident. Winds were actually calm when the tree fell. A smooth 5 mph with no gusts.

I received a phone call from the neighbor earlier today stating that no one from his homeowners insurance company will come out and look at the damage because it was an act of nature. I haven't been contacted in any way from his insurance company. I don't even know who insures him.

My aunt rents this property, and the owner of our house only has landlord insurance to cover damage to the house. We do not have renters insurance.

How should we proceed? We were thinking about going to small claims court. Should I ask the guy which insurance company insures his home and file a claim? My aunt just wants to skip to small claims, but I feel that is a bad idea.

Answer: Healthy tree falling in a storm is an act of God.  Neighbor is not responsible. You or your insurance will be paying for damages to your car.  You won't win in small claims.


Title: People coming onto our home's property. Concerned about potential repercussions. (TX)

Question:
So we live in Tx. We live on the corner of our street. Our neighbors on the corner next to us have several kids and people over all the time. They have teens which have been in trouble for stealing, which is bad enough.

However, they have several elementary/preschool age children that they let run around freely. Now, our yard doesn't have a fence. Privacy bushes on the side street facing their house, but no fence. My issue is that these kids come in our yard and my understanding is that if they get hurt on our property, WE are held liable.

Our home is prone to flooding, so there are spots in the backyard where the ground is torn up where put in drains recently. My husband has an old truck body in the driveway that they try to come climb in which is very unsafe. My biggest concern though at this point is our dog. She is a medium size 30 lb dog and we take her out on a leash in the yard. These kids like to come into our yard and try to come up and tease her while I am walking her. In MY yard. She goes crazy and I am terrified that one day she is going to manage to get loose or they will come too close and she will bite one of them.

My question is, what can we do to protect ourselves legally? One day we will put in fence, but that isn't in the budget right now. Would having up a 'no trespassing' sign afford us any legal protection should something ever happen? Should I be keeping record of when they come on my property and I have to shoo them off? What would help?

Any advice, tips, info you have for me is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Answer:
 1.  Talk to the neighbors and warn them about the dog.

2.  Do get a fence.  You can do it on nearly zero dollars if you are willing to work on it.  It might not be pretty, but you can put it together out of scrap wood.

3.  Get good insurance.

4.  Don't leave your dog alone outside.


Title: [TX] Daughter just got out of hospital for a weak after a terrible staph infection picked up in apartment pool.

Question: My 6 year old daughter was in bad condition for 7 days in the hospital after contracting a severe staph infection in her foot from the community pool.  We have been in our current apartment for 6 months and have had a few issues so far but this really caps it off we are completely unhappy with where we are living and want nothing more than to leave what can we do to get out of this situation legally?

Answer:
 Probably not. There are several reasons why, but the biggest hurdle is proving the infection definitely came from the pool, that management was fully aware and failed to act on a pool with a known pathogen that is almost literally everywhere... and easily killed with pool chemicals.

The management can make a rule that people must shower prior to entering the pool area, but it would be a near impossibility to design, let alone enforce a system where other humans don't bring germs in... That's on the level of OR or a clean room for microchip plants where a single cell pathogen  or particulate matter can cause harm or significant monetary damage.

Pools are always full of people who always have germs and should not be out spreading them, but mostly people are unaware they carry the pathogen. It a risk of being alive to catch infectious diseases (as I write this from my hospital bed with a nasty infection)

I absolutely understand and share your anger and wish to force irresponsible management to cover tour financial damages. Unfortunately, you can always try, but I find this pretty unlikely that you would succeed.


Title: Landlord's employees stole our stuff. please help.

Question:
ok so this has some story attached to it, i'm going to explain everything as best as i can.

 so about 2 weeks ago my drug dealing terrible neighbors moved out (hurray). i always thought leave them alone and they'll do the same. so when my new neighbor moved in they tried to get into my storage unit. i happened to be out there because i know the people, so quickly i mention "oh hey that's my storage unit" right as he turns the knob and the door opens a bit to my surprise, it's late i'm ready for bed so i brush it off thinking that maybe my wife was in there and didn't lock it so i lock it quickly and close it, the door didn't even open all the way. my neighbor tells me the maintenance man said the back unit was hers. no the front is yours i say and i go to bed.

 The next morning i'm taking my A/C unit out of the window to put into storage for the fall, and i mention it. she of course says no so we go out there and like half of my stuff is missing. inside the unit is a big old dresser mirror, and on the mirror is the name of my old drug dealing neighbor, it says "Blank Loves you" and it has a heart. so obviously we assumed ok so the neighbors broke and and took our stuff when they skipped out on their back rent, and apparently they were so out of it they even left a note. so we call the cops fill out a statement blah blah blah.

This morning i get a text message from my landlord "i've got good news i have info about your stuff." so i play phone tag with the landlord for a few minutes and we connect. he tells me the maintenance people thought that the back unit belong to my neighbors (sound familiar?) so when they left he had his people start clearing it out. thats right his people got into my unit and took our stuff. so he tells me they are bringing it back. they show up 2-3 hours late and are missing our bikes and 2 storage totes full of christmas and halloween decorations. the maintenance people tell me thats all thats was there and there is no more. we called our landlord after we got back what they had brought and explain we are still missing items, he basically says well you can't blame me for being broken into and you're lucky you got anything back at all. but his employees enter the building on the clock using a key and took our things. on top of this is missed 3 days of university for this. im driving 3 hours round trip for school every day and i'm a senior in biology so my classes are expensive. this has interfered with my school work. (i was already struggling in my advanced anatomy course) my wife and i have both had trouble sleeping, because for the last few days we thought we had been robbed. and the emotional bullshit of thinking you lost all kinds of sentimental shit only to get 70-80% back. anyways do you guys think i have a legg to stand on? what should i do?

 also important, my wife just graduated and was looking for work so money was tight, we had lapsed on the renters insurance like 2-3 months ago and we haven't been on a lease in a while, we have never ever missed rent or been late. typically we would play several months at a time. we have all the receipts to prove this

Any advice at all would be very appreciated.

Answer:
 You can sue your landlord/his workers for the objective value of the missing stuff.

You'll want to weigh this against the prospect of finding a new apartment.


Title: Is it unconstitutional for a state to simply ban doctors from performing abortions as opposed to banning women from having abortions?

Question: Can you also please understand the legal logic behind it as well.

Answer:
 Government can not (should not) do indirectly that which they can not do directly.

If the courts decide that there's a constitutionally protected right to have an abortion, then anything which affects that right is considered by the courts.

Recent decisions where you might find this in action would be gun rights in Chicago. If you have a right to own a firearm then you also have a right to obtain one. Chicago's ban on firearm retailers was found to be too burdensome on a citizen's firearm rights.

The same thing is being done regarding abortion laws. They can't ban them outright, so they're trying to do it via every backdoor they can think of.Answer #2: Yes.

It would cause an Undue burden on the woman seeking the abortion.


Title: I lied on a Credit Card application, but still got accepted. What would be the ideal action for now?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Ok, so you committed fraud. First things first, let's go ahead and delete this post. Next, phone AMEX ~~Capital One~~ and ask to cancel the credit card immediately. Do not give them a reason. Hope it all blows over.


Title: [NYS] I don't know if I'm getting my wedding video....

Question:
This is mostly a just in case question but I married my husband on 8/9. The videographer has yet to deliver a video. I emailed 2 weeks after the wedding and he said he'd be done in 2 more. I asked again and he said 2 more. My husband emailed yesterday and so far there has been no reply when last time he replied 10 minutes later.

We've already paid him 2/3 of his money, the last bit set to come after he delivers. If we have to sue, what would you even sue for? Our money back, obviously, but I can't redo that day and just getting our payments back is somewhat lame when you consider what we would have lost out on. Hopefully it won't come to this but it has taken over two months and he only has four hours worth of video to scan through and piece together. I'm not saying it's easy by any means but im getting worried. :/

Answer:
 Demand letter from a lawyer is what you need.  If the videographer doesn't give you the video, they owe you that 2/3 of the money back.

Is it under $5,000?  If so, then good news!  You can use small claims court, which is cheap and should be an open and shut case.  All you will need is your email chain of asking the videographer where your video is, and them responding with delays and then not responding at all.  You represent yourself in small claims.  It's still formal, but very informal compared to regular court, designed to be used by people who don't know every detail and nuance of the process.

You're right to worry.  Even an amateur would have taken only a day or two to cut that video and send you a DVD.  A delay of over two months means either they overbooked themselves to the point of outright negligence, their editor quit and nobody knows how to do his job, or something bad happened to the video source and they're trying to recover it.  Hopefully it isn't the latter.

Ideally, the letter will be all it takes to get them to bump you to the front of whatever line is holding them up.


Title: Are Ashley Madison financially liable for damages against anyone exposed in the recent leak? [Hawaii]

Question:
A friend of mine is freaking out over the ordeal, because he used his name-linked email to use the service. I was told that I would get advice for him off reddit.

Apparently he used the site once, months ago, to "hunt cougar women" and now he is worried that his future employment opportunities would be scarred by it.

Any advice? Any ordeals? I've gotten him to calm down for a moment.

Answer:
 There's like 50 AM posts already today.

And that's hilarious. AM might make my list of places to search...


Title: [PA] HP spot blocked by valet.

Question: Can a place that has valet parking only, block the HP spots? I have a placard and couldn't use a spot as they blocked it and the valet said it is legal. I say no. Am i wrong?

Answer: No, even if you privately own the parking lot, you cannot park a vehicle in the handicap parking spot unless you are handicapped. Call  the police non-emergency line and state the problem the next time it occurs.Answer #2: The city has regulations about handicap parking accessibility. There are rules about the amount of spots required. If they are using these spots for valet they are certainly breaking a local regulation. Answer #3: Big no no. Call the police and state a business is illegal blocking hp parking and preventing you from using the space.


Title: Towing company charging me a disposal fee to leave my vehicle in their impound lot.

Question: Got my car towed after an accident the other day, decided the vehicle was totaled and not worth the cost of repairs. The towing company is telling me I have to pay $160, hand over the title, and car keys in order to leave my car with them? My understanding was that they are allowed to keep the vehicle and auction it off after 30 days and I wouldn’t have to pay any of the fees.

Answer:
 > My understanding was that in Virginia, they are allowed to keep the vehicle and auction it off after 30 days and I wouldn’t have to pay any of the fees

No, no no no.

They keep it.  You continue paying storage fees until the 30 days is up.  Then they sell it.  Then you pay the remainder of the bill you racked up.

Or you pay the $160, turn over title and leave.  That's almost assuredly cheaper.


Title: Some law firm just took almost 20,000$ from my bank account!

Question:
So I just received a letter that some random law firm got a court order to remove funds from my bank savings account. The total was almost $20,000. I have no outstanding debt, own a home that I have everything up to date on. There is no possible way this debt belongs to me. I have received no type of notifications in the past from my bank, the law firm or anything. The bank says it is out of their hands (Wells Fargo, go figure) the law firm is closed for the weekend. (when I looked them up they have a history of doing shady things from reviews and online complaints) The letter had a case number, but when I tried to look it up I could find nothing. Is there a good online place I can look up a case number for something like this? Am I better off just calling a different attorney immediately? Should I contact the law firm that took the money? or have another lawyer do that? This is so surreal, I feel like I've been robbed.
EDIT: So I was able to get some help to look up the case #, the case is not under my name, any address ive ever been associated with or anything. The case against some random person I have zero association with and have never heard of in my life. So it appears the bank or the firm accidently (idiotically, illegally?) got my bank account number and took  it from there without looking up whos account it was? My full credit history and report is clean.. seems like a serious fuck up on someones part..
EDIT 2: I am in Southern California

Answer:
 Make a complaint against the firm to the appropriate law society. I know you're upset but realistically it doesn't appear that you would have any legal claim against the firm, criminal or civil.

Ultimately, this was a mistake that can be rectified. If you end up incurring any costs because of it, i.e. missed payments, overdraft, etc. keep track of these as whoever made the error should be responsible for such costs.

DISCLAIMER, I am not your lawyer. No attorney-client relationship was created through this correspondence. This is not legal advice and was provided for informational purposes only. I do not guarantee the accuracy or validity of this information. If you require legal advice, you should retain an attorney.


Title: Can I be sued for emotional distress?

Question:
Hello,

I had a roommate who was severely depressed, ( keep in mind I am also severely depressed but just high functioning) she was very messy and I would ask her to clean up after herself. She would refuse and her mess would expand to my side of the room. Moldy food left everywhere, unwashed clothes. You could even smell it from the apartment door when you opened it to get in.

All my other roommates wanted to just throw her stuff out and tell her off when she got back from break. I refused cus I was worried about her well being. So I cleaned up after her. And tried to talk to her about it. Of course she was angry didn’t take to keen to it.

But also threaten to kill herself and told me specifically that I triggered her so bad and gave her ptsd.

It’s been a year and we all left the lease but she “swore vengeance for all she went through” and might try a law suit.

My stance is that it wasn’t fair to me because on top of being depressed I also have a physical illness and physical disability. And still was put in a situation where not only she threated to kill herself but also caused me emotional distressed by blaming things like that on me. Calling me an abuser.

In that senerio? What would happen? Or is she just trying to cause distress on me?

Southern CA

Answer:
 Emotional distress isn’t “you were mean to me.”

Emotional distress is closer to “you dug up my dead relatives, made marionettes out of them, and performed a puppet show at my wedding reception in which they all mocked me.”

I’m saying the standard is high.

She has no cause of action and the SOL for her nonsuit ends after 2 years. If served you’ll need to respond. I doubt you will be.

Cut contact. Ignore. If you fear for her safety call police. Answer #2: It does not sound like she has a viable lawsuit against you.

That's not to say she's not going to sue you -- anyone can sue for virtually anything -- it's just to say that it sounds like she has no case against you.  If you're sued, respond to the suit appropriately.

Keep in mind that the majority people who threaten to sue leave it at that: an empty threat.


Title: Employer told me to remove nest. I didn’t know it was illegal.

Question:
Hello.

My employer directed me to install bird spikes and remove a birds nest.
The nest had eggs inside and I just found out it’s illegal to move.
We relocated the nest to another site.
But now I’m worried I might be penalized for following employer directions and doing what I was instructed.

I know ignorance does not validate breaking a law.

But how fucked am I in case the department of fish and wild life comes after us?

The issue was the nest was in a highly visible public area so I’m afraid someone will call and complain because hey always do with animals issues here in California.

I was just doing my job 😔

Answer:
 It is extremely unlikely anyone will come after you. If they do, it is considerably more likely that your employer would get the fine than you. The reason for this is that you were acting under direction from your employer. If you get fined, you can argue that your employer should have to pay it, again, because they ordered you to move it and you were acting within the course of your employment.

In the future, just tell your employer that you cannot do such a thing because it is illegal. If they want to do it, they can do it themselves, or even better, hire a professional who knows whether there is a legal way to move birds.


Title: NY Holiday Pay Dispute (sent here from r/personalfinance)

Question:
My wife works at a factory that was closed on Thanksgiving and Black Friday. Her employee handbook clearly states only Thanksgiving as a Holiday that is paid for either a 6 or 8 hour shift, whatever is scheduled for that employee on the holiday. This handbook has no warning or suggestion that anything outside of being past the initial 90 day probationary period or not showing up on the day directly before or after the holiday without prior vacation approval would disqualify an employee for receiving holiday pay.

Since my wife has been an employee at this same company for a few years, the past both Thanksgiving and Black Friday have been paid as holidays because production is closed.

At the beginning of November, a flyer was given out to employees making the Sunday before Thanksgiving a mandatory work day with inflexible hours in order to pay for the Holiday and Friday off. My wife went to her supervisor and explained that since we are practicing Catholics, Sunday is a day that she needs to be in Church and cannot come in to work, wanting to know if there was another day she could use to make up that Sunday since my wife's schedule does not include Saturdays even though production is open on Saturdays. Her supervisor refused and told her that if she does not come Sunday she will not be paid for Black Friday. We figured that was fine, as long as Thanksgiving, the actual holiday, was paid, we would take it as a sort of unpaid vacation.

Fast forward to this week, her paycheck does not include either Thursday or Friday. My wife goes to HR and her supervisor, and they both say that since she did not work Sunday, she cannot be paid for Thanksgiving even though there is nothing close to allowing that in the employee handbook. She is trying to get them to understand that she is only fighting for the Thanksgiving day pay, but they are insisting that the Sunday was meant to cover both days.

This is in a borough of NYC, and we want to know what the best recourse is to get that holiday pay, as this is something that it seems the employee handbook which was agreed upon by both parties should have precedence for, and that this is a policy that has never been exercised before for any other holiday, as well as other employees in a similar job description and production responsibility as her were paid for Thanksgiving. Thank you.

**TLDR: employer in NYC went against employee handbook to add new inflexible requirements for holiday pay, how can we fight this?**
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 Employee handbooks are not contracts. If your wife is in any kind of union, you could contact the union for recourse.

On the other hand, if your wife is not in a union, the employer is free to not pay her for the days. She's an hourly (or daily) employee, she didnt work, they have no obligation to pay despite any prior promises or prior holidays. A private company is free to change its policies provided they compliance with the law. Here they went above and beyond by sending the memo an advance.

It is possible that they should have offered your wife the opportunity to work on a different day to make up for the Sunday she could not work and, since this is involves religious beliefs and practices that could be considered discriminatory. That would be something only a lawyer on consult could analyze to determine if it's worth pursuing. I am not a lawyer just experienced in hr.Answer #2: Is it a union shop?


Title: Lead passenger on holiday of 9 has changed my name without permission, stealing my money

Question:
England, Holiday to Magaluf \- I was meant to be going on holiday in the summer with 8 other friends, after a fall out with one of them, it seems the lead passenger has gone to TUI \(Our booking agency\) and changed my name without my permission, meaning the £270 \(£70 original deposit and £200 first instalment\) I've already put into my holiday is not only lost, its gone towards the new passenger, None of them are responding to my messages.

This to me is effectively stealing my money however TUI have said there's no way I can get that money back. What can I do to get my money back?

Answer:
 Keep escalating with TUI, they need to refund your money and have the new passenger pay. Did you pay with a credit card?Answer #2: You'll likely get better answers from r/legaladviceUK.

One of two things is true, though: either TUI owes you your money back, or your former friend does. You never agreed to pay £270 towards _someone else's_ trip - you agreed to pay £270 towards your own travel, and if you will not receive that benefit, then you generally should get that money back.

If you paid on a card, then this is a good reason to charge back. You have tried to resolve the matter with the merchant, and they have taken the stance that they are going to keep your money without providing you with service. If you paid in cash or by some non-reversible means, or if you paid your friend and he paid TUI on your behalf, then you might end up dealing with this through small claims, a mediation service, or [any of the options listed here](https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/legal-system/taking-legal-action/small-claims/going-to-court/before-you-take-someone-to-court/).


Title: The age of Consent in Canada?

Question:
So I have a female friend in our Canadian neighbourhood who is 15 (I'm 21) and we mostly communicate via email.

Recently she's mentioned that she's been practising blowjobs on a dildo and wants to try it on the real thing, specifically mine.

I declined, and she offered to have sex if I would. Now I'm pretty sure that would be illegal for me to accept and told her so.

Yet she still asks hoping I'll change my mind. (regarding the bj)

So my question, Is her consent not given if she initiates and carries outs the act?
also are handjobs/blowjobs considered equal to sex?

So If I were to allow her grab my cock and get me off, could I then, with no input, be charged with "Sexual Interference" of a minor?

I've looked into it but the wording is all for if I were to start something.

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/other-autre/clp/faq.html

http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Canadian_Criminal_Law/Offences/Sexual_Interference

Answer: People below the age of consent cannot provide consent to sexual activity. It does not matter who initiates the activity; you can't allow it to continue.


Title: [advice needed] bought a pair of running shoes, wore for 2 weeks+was having serious issues with both knees+ankles. stopped using. 1.5 months later still cant run and have a lot of pain. i'm convinced they are a manufacturing fault. afraid to take on a big manufacturer (UK based)

Question:
the running shoes are from Puma and are not designed for Pronation or Supination - neither of which i have.

I was having pain when running which i was surprised about, but i didnt suspect the shoes were faulty until 2 weeks after purchase when just walking in an effort to wear them in - when i was in agony after a few hours and had to walk home barefoot.

examining the shoes i've noticed that when the heel sits flat the front of the shoe doesnt touch the ground on the outsides. when i push the front of the shoe flat it creates a rolling outwards effect - which i'm certain is what has caused the injuries

its been a month and a half waiting for the pain to go away but it hasnt.  i cant run at all any more. i can walk around, but am in constant pain doing so.

i would like to get proper treatment for the injuries caused, and i really hope the damage is not permanent. I've written to Puma customer complaints and they didnt reply, i would be nervous to take them to court due to their size and my current financial situation. also, where could i possibly get the shoes independently tested?

i'd really appreciate some advice.

Answer:
 Okay.  This is something I know a whoooooole lot about (check my user name).

Where did you get the shoes?  Did you purchase them at a running store and get properly fitted, or did you buy them online?

Running shoes (especially when doing longer distances) correct for a lot of things beyond pronation.  Getting the correct fit is critical.  If you ordered them online, I would work with the retailer and get a refund.  If you can't, Puma's customer support is very good and I would reach out to them to see if they'll offer some kind of refund.

If they're causing you pain, stop using them.

I hope you bought them at a running store and were properly fitted, so that you can go back, explain the issue, and hopefully walk out with shoes that are proper for your running style.

I wish you luck and I hope this works out!

Edit:  Sometimes shoes can't correct for everything and custom orthodics are necessary.  I would meet with a podiatrist and have both the shoes and your feet evaluated.  My form and all running pain has gone away for me thanks to my orthodics.  They make the shoes a tiny bit heavier, but they're well worth-it in my opinion.

I would also suggest posting over to /r/running for more specific form/running advice.Answer #2: I doubt the shoes were faulty, just that they weren't right for your feet. A reasonable person would stop wearing them once the pain began, not prolong the use and then go on to sue the label.


Title: Found child pornography on my son's computer

Question: [removed]

Answer: To legally protect yourselves you need to start by deleting this post. Then wait until the police contact your son if ever regarding the CP and if that happens hire a criminal defense attorney. Your son needs some serious therapy.


Title: Could I be prohibited to own a firearm because of things I did as a juvenile?

Question: Basically when I was 14-15yo I got into some issues with skipping school and got sent to an “alternative juvenile facility” for a mental evaluation. It was determined I had social anxiety/depression but was never deemed a danger to myself or anyone else. Never was on meds or sent to any mental hospitals, I actually visited a therapist recently and he assured me those diagnoses were BS. Will this show up on my background check? What exactly are my options at getting this expunged? Thanks.

Answer:
 If you lose your firearms rights it’s generally because a judge does it. Simply having a mental diagnosis isn’t enough.

Without a location we can’t really provide more.


Title: Previous owner is requesting copy of my property deed

Question:
I purchased my house in 2016 in Michigan. The previous owner just recently sent me an email requesting a copy of my property deed I received from the county.

Am I required somehow to give this to him?

Answer:
 No.  Tell him get it from the county.  Many are onlineAnswer #2: If they want the deed they can get it through the county for the few bucks it’ll cost. Answer #3: >  Am I required somehow to give this to him?

No.  ~~Ask him why~~ Just tell him he can get it from the county.


Title: Can he sue? Is it true?

Question: Posting for a relative that lives in California. My uncle was in the process of selling his house with an agent/broker (who had a listing agreement with my uncle until November 4). A buyer was found; however, the buyer wasn't approved for a loan by the bank and the listing agreement with the real estate agent expired. My uncle doesn't wan to sell the house anymore because the listing agreement expired, but he was the told by the real estate agent that the buyer could sue him. Is it true? Can the buyer sue?

Answer:
 The listing agreement between your uncle and his real estate agent and the contract between your uncle and the potential buyer are two separate things. The contract with the potential buyer would govern what happens and what is allowed as far as your uncle choosing not to complete the sale with that buyer. It's very common for such contracts to be contingent on the buyer successfully securing financing to purchase the property within a certain timeframe, but your uncle needs to look at the actual contract terms to determine whether that's the case here (or better yet, have his lawyer look at them and advise him accordingly). Answer #2: >Can the buyer sue?

Yes. Will he win? Unlikely. His inability to buy lettuce on a Whopper was not affected by the listing agreement.Answer #3: Was there a date to get mortgage commitment by in the purchase offer?  If the buyer didn't meet that contingency, deal is off unless both sides agree to extend.


Title: How should one handle going to a narcotics detective about information on meth dealers?

Question:
I allowed a stranger to use my cell phone and I am still logged into his Facebook Messenger.

He is selling and using meth as well as stealing property and merchandise to sell and or trade for meth, xanax, etc.

I have over 300 screenshots. I want to turn my phone over to detectives and allow them to handle it. I don't want to be screwed over in the process. I need a phone, chances of being given a new phone? Changes of being compensated at all for valuable information that I WANT to give regardless?

I have home addresses, phone numbers, pictures of merchandise/ stolen goods, pricing on drugs, meet up spots, voice recordings, images with names and tattoos visible for identification. This is all over various cities within (a guess) a 50 mile radius of myself. I feel like I have hit a wet dream for the DEA. Am I making this more than it is?

This person messaged over 30 people in a matter of just a 4 hours asking for, selling, and trading items for drugs.

My phone has not stopped lighting up, because this motherfucker doesn't sleep.

I became logged into his messenger around 6:45/7 PM last night (Aug 31st) and my phone has not stopped.

I cannot speak with a detective until Tuesday morning because of the holiday.

I plan to consume as much knowledge as I can until then.

Answer: The most likely scenario will be you go talk to detectives, explain the story, give them permission to “dump” your phone which will mean hooking it up to a machine and pulling off the photos and other info on it, then they give it back and they say thank you. You could ask for compensation, but that’s typically only for people who are actually doing undercover deals for the cops.


Title: [OK]Personal Aid drugged Grandma. Should I get cops involved?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 What kind of aide is she?  Home health aide?  Was it your grandmother's klonopin?

If she's a home health aide, and not a state certified medication aide in OK, she shouldn't be giving your grandmother ANY medication at all.  Medication should only be given by nurses or certified medication aides.  This doesn't sound like an issue so much with the aide as it is with the training the hospice agency is providing.  But that said, I'd probably report it to your state department of aging or health.  I probably wouldn't call the cops.


Title: Blackmailed by ex Boss

Question: So I worked for this pretty large company. \(well established HR\) I was working under this very eloquent and flirty general manager. One thing led to another and after working for the company for two years we ended up having an affair. Things seemed great, we were sexting/texting all day everyday. We were hooking up all over work after hours and early in the morning, we were meeting up at hotels etc. Long story short things started to fizzle within a couple of months, he completely changed with me at work as well. We had talked about how our affair wasn't going to change anything and my job wouldn't be in jeopardy. He stopped communicating directly with me and wouldn't only relay messages to me with other people or all of a sudden started "cc\-ing" people in our emails in a total passive aggressive expression of "we're done". I totally understood that our relationship couldn't turn into anything else, but I did not want that affecting my work since I knew I was doing an excellent job in my role. The company closes and everyone needs to be relocated, he finds "homes" for his "best employees" and I'm left until the end with promises of finding me the "best job" if I just "help him close the account". I was left without a job. When I was jobless I called HR and explained to them our affair and explained how I felt like this sincerely hindered my ability to receive a job as I was promised. \(other managers were fighting to have me at their accounts\). I emphasized to them that I was not sexually harassed as I willingly and knowingly participated in this affair, however my boss retaliated against me because our relationship soured. It was a long investigation and I was completely honest even providing them with a month's worth of my text log with him. He was ultimately questioned and he resigned, but apparently they still have "sexual harassment" on his background, and he can't get another job within the same field. So this all happened late last year. A month ago he contacted me again and basically blackmailed me to send all "naked photos" of me to my ex husband via a private investigator. I called him and asked him why he was trying to cause damage in my relationship. He said he was extremely upset because he had clearly lost his insurance benefits and was getting in debt due to paying out of pocket. He let me know that he was suing the company for "wrongful termination" and he wants a favor from me to write a letter telling HR that I falsified those text logs and all of the information I provided to HR. He says if I provide that he will be able to settle with the company and he will put it in writing that he will give me half for settling. Ultimately the company will call me to testify or give a statement I imagine. But I seriously can't lie and say what he wants me to say. What are my options here? Could I be in trouble for lying about documents? They're real but he wants to help him settle. I am having so much anxiety over this, I'm unemployed and can't afford a lawyer at this time and I am so scared because I am sure I will be subpeoned but this guy is threatening me :\(. Help.

Answer:
 >  What are my options here?

Report to police for the extortion.

> Could I be in trouble for lying about documents?

Absolutely. That would be fraud.

Either report the extortion or move on. Theres no other legal plays here.


Title: Inheritance being held by step dad, refuses to give it to me.

Question:
- I originally posted this to /r/personal finance and have been directed here.

My inheritance is being held by my step dad and he is not giving it to me - what action can I take with this?

As the title says, I have money in my step dads bank account that was supposed to be paid to me in full by my 18th birthday (From what's been told to me)

Since child benefit has stopped he's stopped caring about me. Augusts money was non existent and There hasn't been food in the house for nearly a month. I'm positive he sent my child benefit money to some people he met in Thailand and does so frequently. He holds £10k which was left to me after my mother suddenly died, and refuses to give it to me because he thinks I'll spend it all.

I don't want my inheritance milked out of his account to scam artists in Thailand. How can I get this money, which is rightfully mine, in my hands?

I'll take this information and read over it with my aunt who can also guide me further on what to do. Thanks for reading, and I will answer questions to the best of my ability.

Answer: You need a lawyer. The money is also most likely already gone.


Title: My brother (Non U.S. citizen) getting a divorce from his wife (U.S. citizen). Do U.S. divorce laws apply to him?

Question:
They got married in New York 2 years ago and now they've had a bit of a falling out and decided to get a divorce.

What I want to know is, do divorce laws of New York apply to him? does he need to worry about anything punitive? And does he need to prepare anything?

Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 The laws of the state or country where they are currently living and getting the divorce will apply. If that is still New York, then yes; it applies to non-citizens as well.

Is He interested in keeping his green card? Because that's possible as well.


Title: UPDATE: landlord is selling the house and wants us out

Question:
ok so a couple of weeks ago I posted a question about the landlord selling the house and essentially trying to unlawfully kick us out (the link) http://redd.it/3c93qf  (Illinois)

anyway, we got together yesterday to see if we could find some type of middle ground and as you can imagine it did not go to well. He first try to tell us again that he wanted us out by September 1 to which I told him no way because my fiancé is expected to be due on august 21st. He then tried to get me to sign a paper stating that he would allow us to stay at the house until October 1st and we wouldn't have to pay a months rent and then got furious when I told him that I would not sign that on the spot and needed to have someone look it over first. he then started to threaten us saying that the lease states 2 adults and having a baby would breach it and if we didn't sign the paper that he would evict us. my question is, wouldn't it be illegal for him to say we breached the lease by having a baby (discrimination)? we have been great tenants ie: never late on rent, no complaints, keep up on the house and yard. If he does try and go through with the eviction would it even hold up? as stated in my last thread he never served us any type of written notice just texted my fiancé telling her he wanted us out by the end of the month. should I go seek professional help just to have my end covered? any input would be greatly appreciated, thank you in advance.

Answer:
 You really hold all the power here. This fuking moron LL is doing potentially illegal acts to break a lease and sell the property as vacant.

If I were you I would find a local LLT attorney and bring your own COA for harassment and discrimination. Answer #2: Everyone saying 12 months is unreasonable needs to stop.

1. We don't have any of the facts of the sale of the house. For example, perhaps the Seller LL made a representation to deliver the house vacant. Oh oh! If the OP is still in the house at the time of the closing, the Seller LL will be in violation of their contract with the purchaser. There could be serious damages involved for the seller.

2. The OP attempted to settle and was treated like chit. The OP has a valid LEGAL right to occupy the house as well. The combination of discrimination, harassment and unreasonableness would set me off personally. Combine that with the unnecessary outside pressure when having a baby.

3. The OP has the leverage and no real reason to move. Once the LL began being a Major Anusburger, things done changed.

-
I suggest you get an attorney and bring a COA.
Answer #3: If he genuinely did sell the house to his daughter, she's the new LL. Ask him for her address to send your rent payments.


Title: Daughter got in a car accident, how to plead

Question: My daughter recently turned 19. She left work after an 8 he shift, went home and changed to head to a BBQ. The sun was in her eyes and she looked down at her passenger seat for her sunglasses and ran a stop sign. She was t-boned at her passenger rear tire and was spun around. No one was hurt. She told the truth to the police and has received a ticket to show up in court. I was told to have her plea not guilty for hopes of a lesser charge/fine. What should she do? Thanks in advance.

Answer: Hire a good lawyer. That is your best bet.


Title: Pregnant girl needs a divorce

Question:
I live in Arizona. I've been married just over two years. I have an 18 month old son and a daughter due in November. My husband likes to drink and solicit people for sex on Craigslist. He's done this four times, and I am ready to get a divorce. I was a stay at home mom/college student, so I don't have any income currently. My husband made just enough for bills, and very little extra. I'm worried about my husband getting custody, I really don't want him to be able to take my oldest son overnight. I have copies of his Craigslist emails from two separate occasions, but other than him having two DUI's I don't have any proof he's an alcoholic. I'm not sure if I should file for divorce as soon as possible, or if I should try to wait until after my child is born? I don't know what more I'll need to build a strong case? Or how I will pay for any of this. Any advice is appreciated.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 >I'm worried about my husband getting custody,

He is the father. He will get custody. Nothing you have said makes him a danger to the child.

Contact an attorney.


Title: Tenant changes mind about renting, Do I have to return deposit ?

Question:
So i am subleasing my apartment in Ontario. This guy said he was interested, he came and saw the place, asked all the questions he wanted and said he would get back to me later. I had other parties interested at this point. He got back to me later that day and said he would rent out the place for a certain amount, I advised him through email that I had other interested parties, and If he wanted to secure the rental I would require a $500 deposit.

2 Days later he tell me he does not want the place anymore because he realized it did not have AC. I made a mistake and said I would return his deposit, but realized I had already said no to the other interested parties and had no one else to rent it at this point.

I am at a loss now for June and will have to go through the whole process of finding someone to rent it.

Do I have to return his deposit ? He's claiming now that hes a student and cant afford it and hes spoken to his lawyer and bank mananger who said they will reverse the deposit ( i don't even think thats possible) and will go to the police and file charges.

I read up on the Landlord Tenant Board and ACTO, and from what I understand I do not have to return the deposit since I will be at a loss for rent payment. But the fact that i already agreed to return the deposit in the beginning before realizing all this - i think i might have screwed myself.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated...

Answer: You agreed to return the deposit.. so, do so.


Title: UT - I came across an Epic home video (not mine) and do not know if I can post it online.

Question:
I recently purchased a VCR at a local thrift store. Inside was an old home video from a new years celebration out on the Las Vegas strip. The video is pretty amazing and I would like to use some of the content online. I have no intentions of revealing the identity of the original owner of the tape. Because I purchased the original tape am I able to use the footage?
Topic:
Business Law

Answer:
 You purchased the tape itself, but not the copyright to the contents of the tape. So legally speaking, the contents of the tape aren't yours to post online.

Realistically, you could probably post it and not get in trouble unless it's defamatory or something like that. Consider removing or blurring out any parts which might identify people who didn't give their permission to be posted. If you want to be safe, either don't post it, or try to get written permission from the person who created the video.
Answer #2: > Because I purchased the original tape am I able to use the footage?

No. The person who recorded the footage owns the copyright. Whether you want to risk that person (1) finding out, and (2) coming after you is entirely up to you.


Title: Should I get a lawyer?

Question:
So I had my son in March. He was 7 weeks early and was in the NICU for 6 weeks. We will have been home 2 weeks this coming Wednesday.

Rewind to beginning of his stay- I had set up insurance for him.. I had to pay for a premium that wasn’t through work and was just for him, as I am still on my mothers insurance until later this year and he couldn’t be added to hers. I chose the insurance company I did because the hospital we stayed at was in network so the costs would be covered. Come to find out I get a denied claim in the mail saying they won’t cover his NICU stay because the NICU is run by a different company and is not in network. AWESOME RIGHT?! Anyways, I had planned to appeal the claim and sort it all out since I was never told by the hospital the NICU wasn’t run under them.

So a couple weeks after applying for insurance the hospitals social worker comes to talk to me and says she has filled out an application for Medicaid for my son. She told me he automatically qualifies since he was in the hospital for more than 30 days. The only problem was that I needed to cancel my insurance or it wouldn’t be approved. So I asked her if he automatically qualifies just because of the length of his stay and if he would for sure be approved and she said yes. So I canceled his insurance. I was so happy because everything would be covered for him and I wouldn’t have to worry about the bills anymore or appealing the claim. The idea of 80,000 bills had been eating at me since he was born.

SO! Since we have been out of the NICU I’ve been calling the social worker several times to get more information on the Medicaid and she just can’t seem to get back to me. I called Missouri department of social services and they tell me that he is not qualified just based on the length of his stay but it also depends on income. I know for a fact we don’t meet the income requirements and I told this to the social worker when she first brought it up, but she assured me it’s not based on income. Not only that but when she filled out the application she wrote I had no income and am a single mother. No. I have a full time job and am getting paid maternity leave and the baby’s father lives with us and we are engaged. I don’t know anything about Medicaid but when I talked to a second social worker she also confirmed that there are two types of Medicaid, family Medicaid and disability and he would qualify for the disability one. I trusted that.

So obviously this Medicaid this isn’t going to work out, so I’m going to have to put him on a new insurance policy, hopefully one that will at least backdate a month to cover his oxygen equipment and all the NICU follow up appointments.

This has been the biggest stress to me on top of the already traumatizing NICU stay and I’m just blown away they have shitty people like that working for them. So my question is this- if I can’t get coverage backdated to his birth, should I get a lawyer and figure out how to wave the NICU bill for
The time I’m not covered since their employee screwed everything up? Is there anything else I can do?

Answer: Wow what a mess. You may benefit from the advice of an attorney, and for the time being you may want to crosspost a truncated version of this to /r/insurance for strategies on moving forward. State laws vary on the issue of backdating and I'm not sure if that's even possible here (COBRA is the only plan I know of that allows backdating) so you can use all the help you can get.


Title: Ex-girlfriend is handcuffed on my plan and racking up charges

Question:
Hey all, this is my first  post to this sub so apologies if I broke any rules. Crossposted from r/relationships

I deployed to Afghanistan in October 2014 to April 2015. My girlfriend (soon-to-be financé) and I combined our cellphone plan and insurance when I left. She also took watch of my dog. Well, mid way through my deployment, she decided she didn't love me anymore.

I tried to reignite things to no avail. So I was "convinced" (manipulated) to give my dog up to her because it wouldn't be "fair to the dog." Heartbroken over losing my dog and my partner, I gave up without much fight.

I severed our ties with the insurance and cellphone plan, but I experienced a hiccup. She added the Edge plan for Verizon (without me knowing). Verizon won't let me kick her off the plan unless I pay the fee ($412 termination). She refuses to pay this fee and because its in my name, I'm stuck with the bill. I'm tired of being handcuffed to this plan that I rarely use. She consistently uses the data up and it's a constant stab to a still pretty fresh wound.

I'm not looking for my dog back. Or my time back. Those are lost causes. Due to some unfortunate financial circumstances, I can't pay that fee and I'm stuck paying the overages every single month. And am constantly reminded of her because of it. I just want to terminate the plan and sever the ties with her, but she won't pay the fee. I set up a GoFundMe because I honestly don't know anything else to do.

Is this worth going to a small claims court over?

tl;dr: I can't afford to kick my ex off of my cell phone plan and requesting advice

Location: Colorado Springs, CO

Answer: Not legal advice but I believe you can call Verizon and make sure she is NOT an authorized user on the account. Then you ask the rep to set it so that once she reaches her data limit each month she cannot use it anymore. At least then you won't have overages, although idk about the rest. It might even be possible to turn her data off permanently.


Title: Neighbours raising cattle *location: mascarene islands*

Question:
Hello everyone, so my neighbours have been raising cattles (in the neighbourhood of course) for quite some time.

Because of that, there's been a waste number of new odors I've been introduced to along with swarms of flies and cockroaches.

I've tried resolving the issue peacefully by asking the neighbours to move their herd, which they promised to do since last year. But almost a year has passed and they've shown no intention of moving their cattle.

So my question is; if I was to report them to the police, would there be any legal grounds I could base myself on to prove my point?

Answer:
 I doubt there is going to be anybody here familiar with the laws on the Mascarene Islands (I had to google them just to find out where they were)

But these things are usually handled by local government rather than the police. So if I was you I would speak to your local government to ask them what the laws were and to find out who you should be speaking to to get something done about this.


Title: Selling clearanced items on ebay and the manufacturer is telling me to pull my auctions.

Question:
The email:

>Please remove ALL items manufactured by xxx Electronics. We are the owner of xxx Electronics and you have not been authorized to sell any of our products. We will pursue this with eBay's Violation of Ownership policy if not immediately removed. This will adversely affect your standing with eBay. xx xxx, Owner, xxx Electronics

LOCATION: United states
I have receipts and ownership of the items. Does the manufacturer have any right to demand I remove the items?

Answer: Their demand sounds like total horse pucky to me.


Title: ESA in Los Angeles, can't get apartment

Question:
I am trying to get an apartment with my Emotional Support Animal (dog). I tried the approach of the "will consider pet" apartments and let them know. They ask for size/breed (which I thought was illegal), and I never hear back. Some just outright won't let me see the place.
I am know applying without disclosing any info about my ESA (I will tell them after the lease is signed) because I have 2 weeks until I am homeless.
What can I do to make sure that they don't nullify my lease when they find out I have a 65lb ESA? Do I need a letter from a lawyer to give them that states California law regarding ESAs? Me telling them the law is useless, their motto is "ignorance of law the IS an excuse." And I can't sue them, because I don't have extra cash for legal fees.
I have a form of PTSD from previous personal situations. I have a letter from a therapist.

Edit: I am looking for advice from people who have gone through this or from someone with legal knowledge. I already know what is on google and what the law states. What ACTION can be done to protect myself?

Answer:
 oh an ESA post, these always go wellAnswer #2: Is [this](https://i.imgur.com/r2AVKeb.jpg) your "ESA"? (From your history)

Wow, talk about burying the lede....
Answer #3: Find a pet friendly apartment like everyone else.  I live in So Cal and have always been able to find appropriate housing that allows my dog. Answer #4: [Here is a document about ESAs and California](http://www.dfeh.ca.gov/res/docs/Service%20Animals/Service%20Animal%20Chart%20Final.pdf) [PDF Warning]

The good news is that it looks as if ESAs are considered in the same class as service animals for housing situations.

The bad news it that, as it states:

> ...with “reasonableness” determined on a case by case basis.

I am willing to wager that the pushback you will get in apartments that are denying you is that it's not reasonable to have a 65 pound dog in an apartment because it'll cause damage. (Also I think there are some apartments, like very small groups of apartments where the owner also resides, that are exempt from FHA rules, but I'm not sure.)

I have no idea if it's possible to look for apartments that specifically allow large breeds but that would be your best bet. There's also renting a house, but I can only imagine that requires a small fortune in L.A. Perhaps a room in a house, but finding one that allows for a large dog could be very tricky.Answer #5: First, note that there is a huge difference between service and psychiatric support animals, and ESAs.  The first two must be trained for the purpose they provide.

ESAs do not require training, but *may* require a diagnosis.  The law doesn't exist to bypass "no pet" policies, so landlords may be able to require proof that the animal is necessary.


Title: Our former pediatrician has lost their shit (Washington, DC)

Question:
Our infant son became gravely ill and has been in intensive care literally fighting for his life. It's subsequently come to light that our pediatrician has been fighting with the hospital, as they feel she was negligent in our son's care and this contributed to why he is in such dire condition. The hospital had not initially shared this information with us, citing that it wasn't productive to planning his current care, and not wanting to add stress to our family, however as they began to successfully work towards healing my son it became clear that it was the pediatrician's fault. The hospital let us know they had multiple confrontations the pediatrician themselves in trying to obtain medical records and determine the scope of the negligence to be able to repair the damage caused. Apparently, the pediatrician initially refused to speak with the hospital, and lied to them about the dosage of medications as well as the over-the-counter drugs they had recommended for our son to take. The hospital called and told them what was happening, they realized how deeply they fucked up and immediately went on the defense. During this time, they acted strangely towards my family and were verbally aggressive with both myself and my mother on the phone when we called.

It turns out the pediatrician had tried to muddy to waters and divert blame from themselves. They attempted to tell the hospital social worker that they were not at fault and that our son was ill from neglect because we were mentally unstable, fabricating allegations of non-existent unmedicated schizophrenia and severe mental deterioration. The social worker called bullshit, citing the fact that my husband and I had left our other child with my sister and were camping out in the NICU at our son's bedside literally 24/7... If we were unstable, someone certainly would have noticed. The pediatrician threatened the social worker that they would call CPS on our family if the hospital didn't stop "trying to blame them".

Low and behold, they went ahead and called CPS with their fabricated horse shit. We have the hospital on our side, character witnesses, our own medical records which show no serious mental health issues at all (including a therapist I see regularly for namely productivity and stress relief goals), our son's evaluation at the hospital and the support of his current medical team, and the evident wellbeing of our other child. Regardless, we are scared shitless by this situation. We told the CPS interviewer all about the pediatrician and they acknowledged that the hospital supported us as parents. We let them know that we're currently working towards pursuing legal action against the pediatrician, and that their office is aware of that. We agreed to meet with CPS and let them meet our children, but we're declining to let them in our home, explaining that they have not been trustworthy or forthcoming with us and we're concerned by the escalation. Having worked in social services myself, I'm kind of disgusted with the way they've handled it and am deeply fearful of our child getting sucked into the system because we're working class people of color.

This is such a hot mess. We're interviewing firms to file a malpractice suit, I don't know if we need an attorney for CPS also, they seemed irritated we wouldn't let them in their house but said they would get back to us in the next few weeks. I'm so lost though, I don't know what to do, I'm just trying to protect my family and shield my children from this shit storm.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 If you want to go after malpractice, you will need an attorney.
For CPS an attorney wouldn't hurt, but given that everyone seems to be supporting you, you will probably be okay cooperatibg with them.Answer #2: >Having worked in social services myself, I'm kind of disgusted with the way they've handled it and am deeply fearful of our child getting sucked into the system because we're working class people of color.

Would you be able to contact the local chapter of the [NAACP](http://naacpdc.org/) and see if they could give you advice?

Also, when looking for a lawyer, you can call the DC's [bar association](https://www.dcbar.org/)Answer #3: Med mal is fact specific, beyond the scope of this sub, and you should consult lawyers in your area regarding your case.

The typical advice here is to be cooperative with CPS, including the home visit. Their lack of transparency with you is not to be particularly persuasive to any of the authorities potentially involved here. If you would like to hire an attorney for your interactions with CPS, contact your local bar’s referral service.Answer #4: I just skimmed this post but I'd imagine that malpractice lawyers would be salivating over a case this ripe. I'm not a lawyer though


Title: Looking for copyright help.

Question: I am a 2D digital artist, I make sprites in much free time, i found a website (redbubble) to upload my sprites to make money selling them on merchandise. Most of my characters are my adaptations of Dragon Ball (anime) characters from japan. I created them 100% by myself but I didn’t design them as they come from the anime, does fair use laws allow me to sell these designs as I made them or can I get hit with copyright infringement lawsuits?

Answer:
 No, this is far from fair use, and you can be hit with lawsuits.

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Chances are, the site will just ban your account for infringement to avoid being named in a suit, as they would also likely be making money off of the Intellectual Property that neither of you own.


Title: Diagnosed with Herpes. Only had 1 partner. Told me he was clean.

Question:
I live in Indiana. This morning I was diagnosed with Herpes. I've only had sex with one partner... and we had sex many times with protection, but one time without. I know where he lives, so I know his address. But, and I know it sounds bad, I don't remember his name.. it's been a while and... he's avoiding telling it to me. Also trying to lie and say we always used protection right now.

How can I proceed and is there even anything I can do... I also have his phone number..

Answer:
 Move on. You don't know that he even knew he had it.Answer #2: Fun facts about herpes.

Condoms do not prevent the spread of herpes because it's transmitted via skin to skin contact. You can contract herpes from fingering, grinding, oral, handshakes, etc. Even with a condom on, your pubic mounds would be contacting.

Also, herpes is not a big deal. Most people never have a second outbreak, and it's symptoms are quite manageable.

You notify any partner(s) you had including non-penetration contact.

If you can prove he knew he was positive and didn't disclose you may have recourse, but I don't see it.

IANALAnswer #3: The biggest hurdle you face in this, apart from not knowing his name..........................

..............is that you would have to prove the he knew he had herpes and knowingly transmitted it to you.  Which is going to be hard.


Title: [NY] Landlord is evicting me for owing rent.

Question:
I am a college student attending a public university in the state of New York.
Back in February, my older brother, who lived in another country, passed away unexpectedly. He was born and raised in this country and had a lot of family there so we decided to pay for his burial there, but due to my parents’ financial situation, I had to use the money I had saved for rent to pay for his funeral costs.

This obviously hindered me from paying rent on time and I fell back 3 months. I ended up moving in with my boyfriend (into his apartment) because I was in a terrible mental state, I barely went to class and slept so much and was just not really alive. I tried contacting the apartment building manager and the front desk person told me the only thing I could do was pay in full and sublease my apartment for someone else to take over.

I’ve been searching and couldnt find anyone, because it’s the middle of the semester.

So two days ago, the person I used to live with at this apartment told me someone came in and handed a paper saying I have a court date in two weeks, and that to stop the eviction process I have to pay in full by tonight.

I obviously don’t have that much money available to me.

The only option I have is to prepare for the court date and I would like to know what to do; I have no experience at all, or money to hire a lawyer.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 You may have legal services available to you at your university. You will need to appear for the hearing and may be able to negotiate a payment plan for your missed rent. You are likely to end up with an eviction on your record which will make it hard to lease an apartment in the future.Answer #2: At this point, getting a lawyer isn't going to help, because you're being evicted for nonpayment of rent, and there's no magical legal argument that can solve that.

At this point, you need to work to avoid an eviction. Ask your landlord if you can move out immediately to avoid the eviction. Agree on a date (sooner rather than later), and move out. It will help if you set up a payment plan for the rent you owe up to the move-out date (which you'll owe anyway if you get evicted).

Honestly, they should have given you that option from the beginning to avoid the eviction.


Title: NY, Pulled over due to civilian complaint

Question:
I was pulled over, on my motorcycle, in upstate NY over the weekend.  I had seen the officer in a parking lot and I know I wasn't doing anything wrong at that point so I was fairly surprised when he pulled me over a few miles up the road.

He approached with the usual intro and asked if I knew why he pulled me over.  I responded "No" and he seemed shocked but at this point I really wasn't sure what he had seen.  (I'm not always the slowest of drivers but given that I had seen him and there was traffic my speed should not have been an issue).  He repeats a few more times and I kept responding with "No, I don't know why, sorry".

He then says he received a civilian complaint that I was passing cars on the shoulder.  Now I was kind of shocked but then thought back and realized what had happened further up the road.  I had filtered (filtering is not legal in NY) up to a car at a red light a few miles up the road (2 total car lengths rolling with only momentum, no throttle), the light turned green and I went without thinking anything more of it. This car had been going between 45 and 50 mph in a 55 mph zone, not that that justifies anything.

So the cop asks if I was passing cars on the shoulder, since I kind of guessed what was now going on I decided to shut up at that point and simply responded "I don't wish to answer any more questions".  This went back and forth for a bit, me being very polite about it but still refusing to answer any questions.  The cop was professional though clearly did not like me refusing to answer.  He went back to his car and I waited.  For 20 minutes.  Finally he gets out, walks up and says that a state trooper will handle it from here.  I was kind of like ... ok?.

Another 15-20 minutes go by (trooper is behind me and has my license etc).  The trooper finally gets out and says something to the effect of "I don't know what's going on, we received a civilian complaint and I need to issue you this ticket"  I took the ticket and asked where on it it indicated the witness to my alleged crime.  He stated he still needed the formal complaint from the woman who called and that I should request a supporting deposition.  At this point I was a little curious and asked what this person claimed I did.

He stated that the complaint was that I was swerving through traffic and passing cars on the shoulder.  This is not a case of "I was really doing all of those things but how can i get off".  I'm just curious as to the legality of issuing the ticket based on 1 persons phone call, the fact that I was detained for over 45 minutes and the weird hand off to the state trooper and what my options are in terms of fighting this.

^Edit: the violation was 1123 Unsafe passing
^Edit 2: Thank you all for the feedback, this was just a weird encounter for me.

Answer:
 Plead not guilty.

When you get to the hearing, talk to the district attorney ahead of time. Ask for an adjournment in contemplation of dismissal.  That's a legal phrase but it basically means if you stay out of trouble for six months the ticket is dismissed. Tell them a lawyer friend told you to ask.

If the district attorney won't give you that, explain that the officer who wrote the ticket did not witness you doing anything and that he'd have to subpoena the citizen who made the complaint.  Hopefully that will be enough to convince the DA it's a waste of time to take this to trial.

And I agree with the other people that you should ask for a supporting deposition when you plead not guilty. Might be tough to provide here and if they can't provide it, your ticket will be dismissed.Answer #2: > I'm just curious as to the legality of issuing the ticket based on 1 persons phone call

That's perfectly legal.

> the fact that I was detained for over 45 minutes

No specific issue here.  There would be a potential issue if they were detaining you for purposes of further investigation, but it sounds as if the detention was for administrative reasons.  No issue.

>  and the weird hand off to the state trooper

No issue.

> and what my options are in terms of fighting this.

You can offer a defense, if you want.  It sounds as if you admit to the conduct, but disagree on the characterization.  You need to look at the statute you were charged with violating and formulate a defense on that.


Title: Did not receive work bonus - NH

Question:
I recently gave my two weeks notice to my previous employer. I did my work for two weeks and then left the company. I was a salaried employee and everything went fine.
The day before I left they announce a company meeting. I didn't go because not only did I have errands to run but I thought the meeting was just a quick announcement and then beers to drink. It turned out that it was a bonus announcement. The bonus was calculated by time at the company. The longer you worked the more days of pay you got. All in all it should be about at $1200 bonus coming my way.
Via word of mouth I was told that the HR lady said " If you are an employee as of today you get the bonus". That was second hand. I did not directly hear it and it was not weitten down any way.
Am I entitled to the bonus or do they reserve the right to withhold the bonus because I gave them my two weeks notice?
Thanks!!

Answer: Bonuses aren't required by law. Unless you had an employment agreement with them that explicitly stated you were entitled the bonus, they don't have to pay it to you.Answer #2: You are not entitled to the bonus. They are allowed to decide who does and does not get additional compensation beyond your contract.


Title: (NYC) Landlord holding security deposit because new tenant is no longer moving in

Question:
I tried to move out this past Friday. My landlord inspected the room and agreed that no physical damage was incurred. I expected to get my full deposit back, but then he hit me with all this:

1) Wanted money to paint and clean the room
2) Wanted money to fix the 6/7-year-old air conditioner (which broke one day when I turned it on and it was making a weird noise, ignored it because I was comfortable with just a fan), despite the fact that the A/C unit was there when I moved in and belongs to him, plus I always paid my own utility bill. Plus the lease does not say the tenant is responsible for the appliances, and from what I know it defaults to landlord's responsibility. He said that because I used it, I was responsible for it.
3) Tried to say that the furniture in the common area (couch and coffee tables), which were there when I moved in, was my responsibility and I would have to pay for its removal. The previous tenant told me he was leaving 2 items of furniture to me, both of which were small shelves that were in my room and that I took with me when I moved out. I never heard or agreed to anything about the common area furniture.

Now for the heart of the issue: the lease (which has no time period stated on it - nothing saying 12-month or anything) says that the tenant who leaves agrees to interview new tenants for the apartment. Since this was my first apartment alone, I foolishly signed the lease, and did interview someone and have them ready to put down their deposit and take the apartment.

Now that all this security deposit stuff has happened, I had to inform the new tenant that she would not be moving into an apartment with a working AC. As a result, she does not want the apartment any longer, and the landlord is a) holding my security deposit and b) holding me responsible for the lease until I find another person.

What can I do?? I'm planning to go to a lawyer with all this because I think I'm in the right on all the security deposit issues (at least according to the Tenant's Rights Guide), but I'm moved into my apartment already and swamped with work, and don't think I should be held responsible for someone else backing out because of the landlord's decision to not repair the AC...

Any help much appreciated :(

P.S. there was also no smoke or carbon monoxide detector in the apartment for my entire tenancy. plus when he was telling me to find a replacement, he said he "prefers girls" but "no blacks" and "Asians okay." that's not relevant to anything but still makes me really mad.

Answer:
 >P.S. there was also no smoke or carbon monoxide detector in the apartment for my entire tenancy.

Please go purchase a smoke detector if one is not installed in your new apartment. They are rather inexpensive ($10-20) and it could literally be a matter of life and death, not just for you, but for others in your building. And don't forget to test it regularly and replace the batteries twice a year.


Title: [Illinois] HOA President Spying/Lying

Question:
As title says, Illinois.

I live in an apartment with one other roommate. We recently have had issues with our HOA President who happens to be our neighbor. The issue is that when the President thinks we've violated a "rule" she goes immediately to our landlord instead of coming to us for clarification.

First, she claimed our dog got out and that it was an "incredibly vicious and large animal". Few things wrong this-1) Our dog never got out. 2) Its a small breed and not vicious. Instead of coming to us with this issue, the President side stepped us completely and went to our Landlord. Luckily, our Landlord is chill as fuck and told us to not let it happen again. When we explained the situation, the Landlord sided with us and also told us that the President claimed she spoke with us. She didnt.

Secondly, the President has been watching us closely to make sure we don't have additional "violations". Yesterday, the Pres informed our landlord that my roommates girlfriend spent the night here for a week straight, which did not violate our leasing agreement or any HOA policy. The Pres also informed the Landlord that my girlfriend was staying over during the weekends. Again, this does not violate any policy.

Can we take any action to stop this? Our landlord pointed out to the Pres that they are violating our privacy by constantly keeping track of visitors/minor infractions. To our knowledge, the HOA Pres does not do this with anyone else in our unit, only us.

Thanks!

Answer: Seems like the HOA president hasn't actually reported anything that wouldn't be visible from her house or the street, nor said anything to your landlord to create actual damages. If you are worried she is snooping on you by looking over your fence or  peering in your windows, or notice her doing anything like that call the cops and report her.


Title: If someone got into an accident because of this paint job, would the truck owner end up paying damages?

Question:
Here's the paint job I'm talking about: https://i.redd.it/nmf6zrv28xq01.jpg

There was a discussion on /r/ATBGE about this causing an accident: https://www.reddit.com/r/ATBGE/comments/8b0f4m/this_paint_job/dx3v719/?context=10000

So I got curious, let's say I was checking out a road sign to see if this was my exit and at the same the car between me and the truck changed lanes. The first thing I see is barrels falling off the truck. I swerve/hit the brakes and end up in an accident. Would the truck owner be in any way responsible for this?

Answer:
 No. You are responsible for keeping a safe following distance to avoid road debris and where you car goes during an emergency maneuver.

In NH it is well known to hit a deer rather than swerve and potentially hit someone or something else. Generally the deer will get the bad end of it and you will get a new car. People will come up and offer you cash to haul away the deer if its a fresh kill.

However if you hit a moose, you just pray you survive and don't get crushed. An adult male can weigh close to a ton.


Title: My jacket was stolen from a restaurant/bar. Can I make the bar reimburse me? (boston, MA)

Question:
The restaurant/bar had no available coat check and it was taken right off a coat hanger on the wall when I wasn't looking. To me, it would be no different than a girl having her pocket book stolen. There should be some form of responsibility to protect patrons of the establishment.

I'm thinking my only options are small claims court? Jacket =$300, gloves $50, hat $40.

..not to mention I had to go home without a coat. It was 15 degrees in Boston over the weekend.

Answer:
 Your recourse would be with the person who took the jacket. Not the resturant.

If a girl got her pocket book stolen it still won't be the restaurants fault.