Title: Can I choose who my primary parent is in a divorce?

Question: I am 14+, live in Texas, and living with my mother is awful. Is there a way that I can choose my father to be my primary caregiver to be my father? I am living at my dad's house right now, but my mom still threatens that I need to move back to her house.

Answer: The court can take your wishes into account but they don't have to. It comes down to the circumstances as presented and the judge's discretion. [Here](http://www.attorneys.com/child-custody/texas/the-custody-process) is a brief article that describes the custody process in Texas.Answer #2: What's awful about it? Living conditions emotional abuse physics abuse does she just ignore you? Does she not acknowledged you? If you can speak to a judge and explain your position before a judgment has been made it would be in your interests and if it is abuse get it documented.


Title: My girlfriend got hit by a car, but the cops did nothing about it.

Question:
So the basic story is that, my girlfriend was walking on the crosswalk and the light showed it was her right of way. I guess the car doesn't see that and hits my girlfriend causing her (luckily) only have a broken arm which needs surgery.

The cops unfortunately just said its simply an accident so they're not doing anything except file a plain police report.

They told us that because the driver is not DWI, it will only be labeled as an accident and not a crime. I don't know about you guys, but if you're disobeying traffic laws, I feel like that is a crime especially when you hit someone.

What can we do in terms of legal action or are the cops correct about it?

Answer:
 This is an accident, he might get a ticket for failure to yield or something but it doesn't sound like any major crime occured.

If she has any medical expenses she should have the driver pay for them.Answer #2: Why do you want it to be a crime so badly? Do have reason to believe that the driver intentionally hit your girlfriend?

Like any other incident on a roadway, barring criminal negligence, malicious intent, or a hit and run, accidents are purely civil cases.

Talk to their insurance company, get them to pay for medical bills. If you feel as though you have been put through hardship and have damages on top of medical expenses, you can certainly start a civil case against them.Answer #3: > What can we do in terms of legal action

Your girlfriend can sue for whatever injuries she has that aren't paid back.  It's likely her policy or their policy will cover in full.

You cannot force the police to take action.


Title: UPDATE: (Florida) My husbands ex wants to sue me for alienating her from her friends(on WoW).

Question:
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/403ghi/florida_my_husbands_ex_wants_to_sue_me_for/

She trying to sue us in small claims court for lost wages without a lawyer. She wants $4,000.

Apparently her guild was paying her to do arenas and rated battlegrounds. If it even makes it there I'm sure the judge will get a kick out of it. And judging by the way she plays I doubt anyone would pay her $4 let alone $4,000.

Answer:
 Isn't that against WOW's EULA?Answer #2: Well, have fun with that.  Court, if it gets that far, shouldn't last long.Answer #3: You should see if you can get this case on Judge Judy.Answer #4: Who wants to bet her 'income' was not reported to the IRS? Answer #5: Good god the story gets better.

A. I'm sorry you have to deal with this shit.

B. Thank you for updating us. Please let us know what happens in court. And good luck!

C. This is totally a candidate for best of the year. Already. Answer #6: The hassle might almost be worth it for the awesome story you'll tell forever.Answer #7: What tort is she claiming that you violated? Has she listed a statute or common law that is the cause of her suit?

As silly as this is, you MUST answer in the prescribed time (usually set forth in the "SUMMONS"). Counterclaim for frivolous suit and ask for dismissal of her lawsuit and sanctions against her.

EDIT:  do you have any video of kicking her butt to use for evidence in case the judge is feeling generous and wants to be entertained?


Title: My roommate is a sociopath and a drug dealer

Question:
Nashville, TN

My roommate's behavior over the last few months has caused me a great deal of stress. She deals MDMA and coke, and regularly invites her clients (needless to say, not people I feel very safe around) in to our apartment, where they have used my shower (not hers), eaten my food and drank my wine while I was out of the house. She is often not even there at the same time as her clients, giving them the keys to the apartment so they can let themselves in.

Recently she was assaulted and robbed due to owing money to some bad people, and subsequently stayed at her parents' house for a few days, on account of the fact that her attackers knew where she lived, of which she failed to inform me. I believe this is putting my personal safety at risk, and no longer feel safe within my own home

She is incredibly manipulative and passive-aggressive, having sent an email to my sister complaining about my behavior, as my boyfriend had been staying for a couple of days. The message she sent was full of complete fabrications, which, thankfully, my sister saw through and ignored.

She has completely cut herself off from contact with me, facebook, email, has blocked my number, the works, and she deliberately avoids being home when she knows I'm going to be there, which has made communication of these issues practically impossible.

I'm worried that any threat to go to the police could be met with violence, or that she might plant some of her product in my room to attempt to incriminate me. I've looked into simply canceling my contract but I don't wish to do this due to the effect it will have on my credit. I've really reached the end of my tether here, and I'm at a complete loss for what to do. Any advice?

tl;dr: My sociopathic drug dealer roommate is becoming too much to bear, and I'm genuinely beginning to fear for my safety around her "clients". Not sure how to escape.

Answer:
 You need to find a new place to live today. You're just going have to deal with the financial fall out which is a lot better then being murdered or assaulted. Contact a woman's shelter for any possible resources if you don't have a place to move to. Answer #2: If you feel unsafe, you should call the police. I would accept the credit hit over the risk of being hurt, killed, or wrapped up in a police investigation.Answer #3: > I'm worried that any threat to go to the police could be met with violence, or that she might plant some of her product in my room to attempt to incriminate me.

So skip the threat and simply call the police—and find someplace else to live.


Title: Wanting to help my brother with a legal issue

Question:
My brother and I currently reside in Florida. My dad was arrested some time ago for possession of child pornography and is still serving time in prison. My brother has a criminal record as well, but nothing as severe as what my father did. Nothing that should prevent him from finding a job. He's been looking for work for around 6 months now and hasn't gotten any sort of feedback from any of the hundreds (Wish I was exaggerating here) of applications he's put in. Recently he got the results back from a background check a company had performed and it came back with the words 'sex offender' on it, i.e. my father's record. My brother knows he's now been black listed at all of these places he's applied to because they share the same name, minus a II at the end of my brother's.

Needless to say, this has made him depressed and I was wondering if anyone knows of a way I can help him with this legal matter.

Answer:
 He should note on all applications and resume that he is a II and explain when he talks to a job that his father has a criminal background, not him.

But if a background check using his SSN comes back with sex offender then he has a serious problem and likely needs an attorney to help fix it.

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Title: If you hit someone with your car, but there are conditions such as them wearing black at night or a storm disrupting visibility, are you charged the same way?

Question:
Let me start off by saying I have not hit anyone.  This is purely hypothetical, I did however almost hit someone and now just curious on the "what if".

So I was driving to class a couple minutes ago.  I stopped to make a turn and when I was turning I saw a person in front of my car.  I swerved off and I didn't hit them.  I talked to her to make sure she was alright, she was thankfully.  I was driving so if anything happened it would of been my fault, especially because she was on a cross walk.  That being said the factors that make me curious is that, it is night right now and her entire body is covered under a black coat (made out of the plastic material that gets pitch black when wet) including a hood that covered her entire head (I'm assuming for arguments sake some of her pov too), its also raining and there is bad visibility and I think she may of been glued to her phone when walking (I'm only guessing because her head was arched down, but once again for arguments sake lets assume).

So if the pedestrian, still following all laws when crossing, but is crossing in a way that impedes a drivers abilty to see them, hwo is the driver ruled on?

Answer:
 Strictly from a law enforcement point of view: you would be the party most at fault with the primary collision factor being unsafe speed (safe speed being zero when a pedestrian is in front of you in a crosswalk).  There is no law requiring pedestrians to wear reflective clothing.  Although we do advise night joggers to wear such clothing.

My answer is California state law specific. Your location may have a reflective clothing law.


Title: Went downtown, got pretty drunk, got punched in the face, got arrested & charged with PI and medical bills $8k.

Question:
Hello, Im am 22 years old.
Im wondering if I have any case for a man who punched me downtown to pay for any or all of my medical bill. I had a fair amount of drinks, then at some point blacked out. Next thing I know, I'm handcuffed to a chair with cops all around me throwing up in a trash can. I then got charged for a PI, was late to work the next morning, and received a parking ticket. When I was bailed out I called my friend and asked what had happened, and he told me that I had been outside the bar talking to a girl when all of a sudden I was punched in the face by who he believes was the owner of the bar's friend. I've been concussed before, and I feel that the punch to the face caused me to black out and forget what happened, and also it exacerbated my situation to the point of vomiting. I had a bloody nose and a really sore nose. I now figured out I have a $8k medical bill and I'm without insurance.

Answer: The fact that you have no clue what really happened is going to make this a tough hill to climb.Answer #2: So you think the punch to the face caused you to black out, as opposed to the alcohol?


Title: How do attorneys handle clients that aren't being truthful with them?

Question:
So, not so much a "what do I do now" question. I'm watching an estate case closely that I'm an "interested party" in. Person A is now personal representative, and person B has been flinging wild and untrue accusations at person A for years. We had suspected that person B had not given an accurate version of things to their attorney from the start. Person A recently talked to their own attorney and got a piece of info that confirmed our suspicions quite convincingly. This may make the next court hearing rather uncomfortable for person B and their counsel.

I know this is not an uncommon problem, that people often don't tell their attorney everything or tell them the truth. How do attorneys handle this, especially considering this often doesn't get found out until things are well under way?

Answer: Attorneys occasionally fire their clients if they are lied to or would otherwise be forced into an uncomfortable ethical situation. It all depends on context and no one here is person B's counsel so no one can really tell you what will happen.


Title: Can I legally prevent a dumpster from being placed in my driveway during a festival?

Question:
My township holds a festival annually, and the street I live on is where all the food vendors are. Everyone has on the street parking, aside from me. I own the only house on this street with a driveway. Due to this, the festival committee/township usually asks us a month before the festival if we would allow them to place a giant dumpster in our driveway. It's a convenient location for the vendors to throw away their trash, and we've been compliant in the past.. but last year was different.

They never formally asked us if we would allow the trash to be placed, and frankly, I was pissed. I did NOT want that trash in my driveway, and I was going to tell them that. We blocked off our driveway with chairs and our personal trash cans but that didn't stop em'. They just moved all of it to the side, and placed the dumpster there anyway. I even caught some of the vendors using our electrical outlets without permission! After the festival was over it took 3 days for them to remove the dumpster, and there were multiple pounds of trash and recycling left behind, forcing us to pick up after them.

I want to try something different this year. I want to send them a formal email disallowing the use of our property for their trash from here on out. We are the homeowners, and the driveway is within our property line. My main question is do I have the legal grounds to do this? I technically live in a "village", so is there any way my township could overrule me? Is there anything specific I need to do to validate myself in this situation?
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 In addition to other answers, I'd both go into city hall and send a certified letter saying they can no longer use your driveway.

Post highly visible no trespassing signs near the time of the event.

To address other items on your list, they sell lockable covers for both outside water spigots and electrical outlets.

I'd also recommend security camera's to overlook the outside of your home.Answer #2: As an alternate idea that I don't see listed yet: contact the city and offer to rent out your driveway for the duration of the festival.  You could have a lawyer draw up a lease that gets you compensated for your inconvenience and stipulates when, where, and how your private property is used.


Title: Police slow responding to rape/robbery/car theft. Please help..

Question: As quick as possible.... My girlfriend was drugged, then raped, then robbed(car keys wallet phone), then her car was stolen on Wednesday the 7th. We went through all the steps together; hospital, police interview,  rape kit, etc. Yesterday on the 8th. Today on the 9th we found new charges on her stolen card from Walmart and Murphy USA(Walmart gas station) . I contacted Walmart and was told that register footage could be pulled if I provided information for the card used for the purchase but, the footage cannot be released to anyone but the police. The detective assigned to the case said he can't meet until Monday. We don't want to wait until the car is trashed to try to look into this. What can I do and how can we speed this up?

Answer: They can send a patrol officer to confiscate the footage so the detective has it on Monday. Don't stop the perp from leaving a data trial. The perp is an idiot and you're really lucky he's making these mistakes. Let him keep making them.


Title: NYC mom kicked me out of the house

Question: I will be 21 years old next month. I am legally her dependent on her taxes and I am still in college. Over the past few days, I found out the man I thought was my father for my entire life is not really my father. My real one reached out to me through Facebook. He even had a baby picture of us together that I've never seen before, but it's definitely me because my mom was in it as well. He has DNA test results proving this. I asked my mom about it (calmly), she flipped out, got really defensive, and kicked me out of the house. What options do I have?

Answer:
 You are legally a tenant. You can't just be kicked out. Your mom will have to serve you with a notice to end tenancy and then an eviction (if you refuse to leave).

Call the police and tell them you've been illegally evicted.Answer #2: Call non-emergency line, tell cops you're being illegally evicted.


Title: My parents lied to immigration about where we actually come from.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Contact an immigration attorney. This is too involved for internet advice or self help. The answer may be there is no way to do that, so your choices are to either get your parents in trouble for lying to the US government or your Netherlands citizenship expires.Answer #2: Your parents will likely get in trouble if you try to resolve this.  If you ever are subject to a background check, it will come to light and you'll have a lot of questions.

That said, it is probably easier to resolve soon than later.  Consult with an immigration attorney.  You can contact your state's bar association for a referral.


Title: College student. Rear ended somebody. I don't have insurance. What can I do?

Question:
Long time lurker who finally needs some advice. Like the title said, I hit the back of a taxi cab (Prius) earlier today while we were at a light. Idk if it matters but he started going and then stopped, and I obviously didn't. He had a family of passengers who were headed to the airport. Husband was a cop.

Long story short, I'm a 20yr old college student in WA and I don't currently have insurance on my car (Mitsubishi Galant). There isn't much damage to the front of my car and I drove it both on the local roads and on the freeway to get it back to campus. The taxi had its rear bumper a bit messed up but nothing that kept him from being able to drive.

I don't have much money at all. I have all of $4000 in my bank account, most of which goes to school necessities and getting me through summer. I don't have any school loans since grants/scholarships cover that, and I don't have any other debt either. The officer that came and took our statements said that I may or may not get a call from the taxi guy's insurance provider. I don't know if it's important but I've had my license since I was 16 and haven't had any tickets before.

I have no clue what to do or where to start. Any help would be really appreciated! Thanks guys!!

Edit: Since it was asked a lot over in @personalfinance, I always put insurance on the car when I'm home from school in the summer (May -Sept), but I used the car to bring stuff from home over Christmas break, since nobody was available to help, and this happened when I was taking it back this weekend.

Answer:
 >Idk if it matters but he started going and then stopped

It doesn't.

At this point you wait. You can either negotiate a settlement with the other driver (or cab company) or go to small claims and have a court issue a judgement.

Driving without insurance is stupid. so stop that.


Title: I don't have money to reimburse company costs of hiring me

Question: I decided to terminate contract during my probation period, and in my contract says if termination of contract happens during first year of contract I would need to reimburse company for all their expenses. This is by UAE law. I asked them to work until I pay them all expenses and they are thinking about it, what if they don't allow me? Also I wont have a place to stay during work, so it's kind of a big trouble for me. I have hotel that company paid me for 4 more days, after that I need to find a place of my own, which I can't. Any advice?

Answer:
 > Any advice?

1.  Beg for your job back.

If that doesn't work

2.  Flee the country.

I mean, why did you quit with no money and 4 days left in a place to live?


Title: Sold a vehicle with a lien on accident

Question:
I’m a 20yr old male.

In 2018 I purchased a motorcycle from a guy off an online board. He sold it to me for $2500 without a title...... and gave me a bill of sale.

Anyways , it was a good deal and I just needed something to get around until I could afford a car. Plus it was winter (winter + motorcycle = awful)
.

I never attempted to have this motorcycle registered or insured nor get a license to operate the vehicle.

I saved some money then sold the bike for $1900 about 3 months ago.

The guy I sold it to just called me today saying that there is a lien for $2500 on it. He says he wants me to buy it back for $1500 or he’s going to call the law.
.

I’m an honest person. I would never sell anybody anything knowing that something was wrong.
.

Are there laws to protect me? Am I legally responsible for paying back this lien? Could criminal charges be filed against me for selling the bike to him?

NOTES:

I provided him with a bill of sale from my name to his.
 I do not have an original copy of my bill of sale when I first bought it from the previous owner.

Answer:
 If you didn't obtain clean title in your name then you were never the legal owner of the motorcycle and therefore couldn't legally sell it.

This is why you shouldn't ever "jump title" and it is actually a crime in some states.


Title: California: What is the legality of photographing urinating trespassers?

Question:
There is a brand new apartment complex very near my parents’ house and it’s residents appear to enjoy congregating on the hill behind the house and drinking and smoking. This has created issues with noise and litter but most irksome to my parents is that these people, who are all of five minutes from their own homes are urinating in the yard incessantly. They have been in this house since 1982 and never had a problem with this open space until now.

My mother is at her wits end with this and wants to begin posting pictures of these fine young ladies and gentlemen caught in the act hoping the great internet shaming machine will embarrass these brats into holding it or at least get the police to take it seriously.

Would my parents face any legal repercussions for posting photos or videos of adult trespassers urinating on their property online?

Answer: Instead of going all internet vigilante by posting pictures/videos, your parents need to contact the police. They need to call them each and every time this occurs. Be the squeaky wheel. Do not post pictures/videos to the internet.


Title: Would it be possible to get exceptions from the judge if you're under house arrest for 10 years and you have to drive your kid to school and to sports practice?

Question: I'm under house arrest for 10 years in Florida. I could get out early if I behave, but I have a son and I have to take care of him. He is 6 years old and he has sports practice as well as school. Would it be possible to make an exemption with the judge?

Answer: House arrest is an alternative to prison. It's not alternative to being free and clear. You're only at home and not in prison at the sufferance of the State. You can request it but no, it's unlikely it'd be granted. Answer #2: You could ask, but it's not very likely it will be granted. Your kid will have to take the bus to school and hopefully you can arrange a carpool for his sports practice.


Title: Amazon fraud

Question: Amazon has put my son's charges on my account. We do not share an amazon account, email or have used each others cards. We do share the same mailing address. I have contacted Amazon and they will not refund the money for purchases even though it was their fault.  I was also charged for a year of prime but they did refund that.  I have also reported this to my bank and am filling out paperwork, they said it was illegal but not sure if I can get the money back. How do I get my money back and this not to happen again?  Has anyone else had this happen to themselves or others?

Answer:
 Amazon does not match addresses to determine where to put charges.

The charges go to whatever payment method you select which is available to whatever account you logged on with.

I'm guessing either your son logged on to your account.  Or, your credit card got added to his account.

Few weeks ago, I spent pert near an entire weekend with Amazon support, and learned quite a bit about how their accounts work.

I actually had TWO Amazon accounts, with the SAME email address but different passwords.

I'd just randomly pick which password to use (since they both fit in with the same algorithm I use for picking passwords), without realizing I was on two DIFFERENT accounts.

I did this for FOUR YEARS...

Paying for two prime memberships... two unlimited musics...  Cloud drive... everything.

Took me all weekend to get it straightened.

Through the process, I learned, it very unlikely that this was their error.

What happened to the items that were ordered?Answer #2: It isn’t really plausible that Amazon, completely through their own actions, charged you for your son’s merchandise.

In any case it would seem the solution here is for your son to return the merchandise he hasn’t paid for, or to pay you for it.


Title: In California I had a bad relationship that I wanted to end since its very beginning, but I was blackmailed. I stayed longer hating everything. After no contact with the person, and after 5 years I got about 30 phone calls and text messages threatening me talk to that person.

Question:
The Text messages - each text is a single sentence

was patient

but your total disregard for how your selfish action hurt and damage others is actually criminal

you could have been human

so yes i wll sigh this paper

you have been under private investigation for two years

wowza you are fucked

unreal the truth about you

sicr you are a coward

fun time

man you are fucked up

rolling eyes.

I will give you untill wednesday to call me and have a civli discussion or here we go.

&#x200B;

Can I use  all the amount of missed phone calls and this text messaging as evidence that I am being harassed and threatened?

Answer:
 > Can I use all the amount of missed phone calls and this text messaging as evidence that I am being harassed and threatened?

You wouldn't do this yourself, but you can file a police report and see if this qualifies legally as harassment and if you can get a restraining order. If not, then eventually it may. Keep meticulous records, but also, why haven't you blocked this person entirely? Don't *let* them contact you. But I would file a police report to start a paper trail.Answer #2: Instead of jumping straight to legal action, have you tried simply blocking the number?

I see no blackmail here.


Title: Can I move to another country?

Question: Hi, I hope this is right subreddit. I’m 16, can I move to another country without parent’s consent.

Answer:
 Effectively, no. Emigrating is a fairly involved process, and most countries only allow immigrants who either enter as refugees or who qualify for work, higher education, or family-based visa programs - most of which require you to be an adult before you can apply independently.

If you have a particular country in mind, what might be useful is to start looking at universities there you might be able to attend. When you graduate from high school, if your grades are up to it and if you have the finances to support it, you may be able to travel as an international student to go to school in another country.Answer #2: >Hi, I hope this is right subreddit.

Yes, it is.

> I’m 16, can I move to another country without parent’s consent.

No, you cannot move to another house on the same street without your parent's consent, let alone leave the country.


Title: (US) (NY) Minor arrested for shoplifting

Question:
Hey guys, I hope someone can help me out. My younger sister, who is a minor, was arrested for shoplifting. She was caught by the security guard approx 7 hours ago. Since then, I haven't been able to see/talk to her, nor my parents. The officer won't let us, says some paperwork has to be filled first. When she was caught, the security guard at the store refused to let her use her phone.

Is this legal? Is there anything I can do, anybody to complain to? I haven't been in this position so I'm not sure how the legal process goes, but I feel as if I should be able to at least get to talk to her. She's been in holding this whole time.

edit: to clarify, she is not currently being held by the LP officer, but by the NYPD. My main concern is being able to at least make contact with her
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer: Your parents need to contact their attorney right now.  Are the police involved?  If the police aren't involved, they need to call them.  A LP officer can't hold a minor indefinitely.  She should be permitted access to her parents.


Title: Ex wants the PS4 or legal action will be pursued

Question:
My brother-in-law's ex sent a certified letter demanding the following:

- the PS4 (which she helped pay for)
- payment of the amount she put into the PS4

If he does not comply, she will pursue legal action.  What would you do if you were in his shoes?

Note:
- She lived with us in this house, rent and utility free for 6 months.  My thinking is that if she does pursue legal action, can we recoup past rent and utilities payments during her time here?

Edit: forgot about Location: Southern California
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 Give her whatever she put into it so she goes away.

> can we recoup past rent and utilities payments during her time here?

Not unless you had some sort of agreement beforehand.


Title: [Ontario] Born w/medical condition. Turned away from ER. Had cardiac arrest after being escorted out of hospital. Now in a coma.

Question:
My 17 year old nephew was born with a heart condition. He got really bad chest pain waiting for the bus. He called 911 and an ambulance came and rushed him into the ER. When the doctor saw how young my nephew was he said there was no way he could have heart problems. My nephew showed his medic alert bracelet and asked him to look up his name because he had been a patient at that hospital before. The doctor refused claiming my nephew was making it up to get attention (despite an erratic heart rate). He called security over the protest of a nurse. My nephew was threatened with arrest. The security guard also refused to escort him away so the manager/head of security came to do it. My nephew at this point decided to go rather than be arrested, telling the nurse "If I get arrested no one will help me. I'll leave and go to another hospital." He texted his parents to come get him and was escorted away. The security manager walked with him to the edge of the property. As the head of security turned to walk away my nephew collapsed. He was rushed back into the hospital a minute later when the security manager realized he wasn’t faking. He was in cardiac arrest. He was airlifted to another hospital where he had emergency surgery. I’m not sure why they didn’t do it there. His parents showed up to get him and they were sent to the other hospital. A different doctor managed to revive him but he has been in a coma since it happened and has not woken up. This was a month ago on May 2nd.
While there were obviously questions about what happened we were so distraught over him we didn’t ask questions right away.

The hospital gave a copy of the notes from the first hospital and as well as theirs to my nephew’s cardiologist. He alerted us to something of note: A note on the ER paperwork saying my nephew was “looking for attention” and had “nothing wrong”. It also says “no examination required” and “security called”. The notes from the paramedics note the erratic heart rate and medic alert bracelet. My niece went down there to ask questions (she is a former private investigator) and she was rebuffed by management but approached by the security guard who protested. He gave my niece a copy of his notes, as well as his manager’s notes from the incident. When we formally requested notes from the doctor/hospital we were given them with a page missing (the incriminating notes). The first hospital claimed they were lost. Obviously they screwed up and now my nephew may die. Are the notes and a statement from the security guard enough to pursue legal action? I know medical malpractice can be hard to prove. It’s not even about the money, we have government health insurance and his parents have insurance through work. It’s about holding the first hospital accountable and making that asshole doctor pay. Any advice is appreciated before we get a lawyer.
Topic:
Medicine and Malpractice

Answer:
 No. Just present the lawyer with the facts. His parents need to consult a lawyer. Answer #2: Consult a lawyer ASAP. These cases are very fact specific, there's not much information this sub can provide. Answer #3: Thank-you to both of the posters who spoke of getting a lawyer. His parents are so distraught they can barely focus on sleeping and eating, much less legal matters. We are all doing our best to help them and are encouraging them to get a lawyer. The second hospital has been nothing but wonderful. It's only the first one we have issues with.Answer #4: Wow that's insane. You should contact the College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario (CPSO). They take these things very seriously. They've suspended medical licenses for much less than this.

You should also look up that doctors name and medical license info on the [CPSO registry](http://www.cpso.on.ca/public-register/all-doctors-search). It will show any disciplinary action he's faced in the past.Answer #5: Jesus Christ, I hope your making this up. A doctor turning away someone with chest pain is awful.Answer #6: OP, I am so very sorry to hear this. No legal advice; just my best wishes to you, your nephew and his parents.


Title: [CALIFORNIA] I just caught some guy following me and taking pictures, then tried to lose me when I followed him. WTF?

Question:
Had no idea where to post this but figured some legal people might now the answer:
I just realized some guy has been following me. I was driving up a busy street and from the corner of my eye in the distance, I see this guy parked taking photos with a pro camera and telephoto lens. As I get close he turns his head to obscure his face, and as soon as I pass him, I see him immediately put the camera down and jump in to his car as fast as he can. He then follows me, keeping two cars behind and maintaining distance but never getting too far back. I wait for a part of the street where he can't see me and quickly pull over in to parking space and duck down. He passes, but right after, maybe 30 feet away where there's a street running across, he pulls in the kerb bend area and waits with his blinkers on. he's not moving, so I pull out in to the street then and park right behind him, pull out my phone and start filming his car from behind, at which point he immediately switches off his blinkers and tried to speed off. I follow and go in the lane next to him to get a look. At some point a couple of blocks further, I pass him and wait with my phone to catch his face and he purposely waits so he doesn't come past me but traffic starts honking him and which point he drives past but as he gets close, I watch him hold his hand up over the side of his face to cover it. I go to get behind hm but I get blocked in traffic and as soon as he sees this he darts down one of the side streets and is gone.

Now granted, this guy was incredibly shit at not being made but it was all fucking weird.
Is there any way I can identify this guy? I got his plate (and mods, please know I have no intention of sharing this publicly or privately with anyone online). I've managed to look up his VIN from the plate but I'd like to figure out if it's something as innocent as this guy is a pap and thought I was someone else, or if this is something more serious, like he's a PI or criminal?
Is there a way to trace ownership via plate or VIN?
Any ideas greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 Very unsettling.  Professional equipment and being made reeks of an unseasoned PI.
Can you think of any reason a PI might want to follow you? Do you have an obsessive partner or ex-partner with at least a $5000 budget?   Are you out on workers' compensation or do you have a pending personal injury or motor vehicle lawsuit?


Title: Accused of crime I did not commit

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Consider that this person might not exist.  Stuff went missing, cops went to interview/interrogate everyone who could have taken it.  It's pretty standard for cops to claim to have witnesses or evidence that they don't to try pressure the guilty into confessing.

Edited to add: If they in fact had a credible witness, it's likely they would have arrived with a search warrant and less friendly attitude.Answer #2: I second the idea that there was no accuser, and the cops were just trying to find a moderately dangerous possible biochemical danger (IIRC, e coli can survive outside of a host for a while, and theoretically is aerosol transmittable? Im not sure, but I remember its easily modifiable).

They did not arrest you or open an investigation into you right? If they do, get a lawyer.  Answer #3: Just some general advice for the rest of your life -- **DON'T TALK TO POLICE** if they are investigating you for a crime. Ever. Their purpose in talking to you is to gather evidence. Don't give them any. You have a right to remain silent, exercise the right.

BTW: It's SOP for the police to claim they have a witness or other evidence in order to pressure you into a confession.


Title: Can an attorney still charge you a consultation fee if he decides not to help you or can't help you?

Answer: Yes. Just like a doctor still charges you if they say it’s nothing


Title: Becoming a peace officer in the state of Texas.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > I just want to be able to have the same rights as a police officer without having to have the job.

No.

[One of the requirements is that you are appointed by a law enforcement agency](https://www.tcole.texas.gov/content/civilian-non-licensed-person). You don't necessarily need to become a cop, but you can't become one without the approval of a police department or other appropriate agency.


Title: [NJ] Woke up to no running water in my apartment; notice from landlord in mail that there's an issue with the water main and we might have periods of no water on and off until Monday. Rights?

Question: Exactly what the title says. There is no running water due to a water main issue, and landlord notice says we may have no water until Monday. This means we cannot use the shower or even flush the toilet. Do we have any rights here? Thank you!

Answer:
 If the main in the street has problems, that is the water company. It is beyond your landlord's control.

If it is the line from the street to the complex, issues do occur. If the landlord is trying to fix it, what more would you want?Answer #2: Let's talk water.

Do you have any friends/family close by you can shower at?  Do you have a gym nearby?

Have you asked your landlord for alternate accommodations?  Do you have renters insurance?


Title: Landlord cut down trees without notice

Question:
Hey, the house we rent in Oklahoma has gone up on the market. On Friday we were told there was a showing. I have learned from the trimmers that it was actually the landlord looking at stuff.

This morning, without any notice, tree trimmers showed up and cut down all of the privacy bushes and small trees on the property we rent. It no longer looks like what it used to. At all.

I know this is not okay with regard to the lack of notice. The thing is, we rented this place because it had a ton of trees and birds and wildlife. Now everything except for the few large trees is gone. People can see into our windows and the birds obviously won’t be nesting here anymore.

Do we have any recourse on this?

This will increase our electric bill and substantially decrease the enjoyment of the home for me because I am disabled and spend a lot of time watching the birds.

In our lease, the shrubs and trees are our responsibility. They were properly trimmed and maintained by ourselves, at a bit of a cost for tools and time.

Any input appreciated.

Thanks!

Answer:
 Review your lease and discuss with a landlord/tenant attorney.

Unless the lease specified no changes to the landscaping then odds are that the landlord was within their right to do whatever they pleased with the landscaping.

Source: NC Property Manager


Title: "Dismissal is not on the merits of the case presented"

Question: It seems like my NYC parking ticket got dismissed but the judge wrote that at the end of the message. What does that mean?

Answer:
 It means that the dismissal is due to some technical issue and not because you proved your case with regard to the facts and the law.

It's essentially the same thing as *dismissal without prejudice*. You don't have to pay the ticket, but you haven't been tried and found "not guilty".

Technically, the NYC parking enforcement department could re-open the case because you haven't won "on the merits". Practically, they won't. Writing is far more profitable for them than fighting.


Title: My (now) ex bf destroyed my best friends laptop. Can I press charges?

Question: My friend and I went on a jog because my boyfriend was flipping out because I was leaving him. When I got back my best friends laptop screen was shattered. Can I press charges?

Answer:
 No.

Your friend can contact the police and report the property damage.

The police will investigate, and (if appropriate) take the case to the prosecutor's office for review.

Then, the prosecutor decides if any charges will be pressed against anyone.

You are uninvolved in this matter.  You aren't the victim.  You aren't the suspect.  You aren't even a witness to the crime.  You just happen to know the people involved.  That doesn't really give you legal standing to do anything.


Title: Am I doing something illegal if I use guessed coupon codes for free pizza?

Question:
So, I guessed the coupon codes (the whole series) for a certain famous pizza company and I get a free 25 cm pizza for each coupon. Yeah, I still have to pay for delivery charges.

My dilemma is, say when the company issues the coupon code to a customer (as an offer) and he uses it in vain and tells them about it. They can easily trace it back to me.

So, can there be any legal implications to this? I didn't use hacking or any dishonest means, I just used some maths and guesswork

EDIT: Thanks for the counsel and debate,fellas. With great power comes great pizza but, I'd rather buy it ethically. Destroyed the paper on which I did the math and I soon hope to forget the series. Frankly, I'm not gonna write to the company to be risked into a mess. Now, onto my Matlab homework.

Answer: You can search for legitimate coupon codes online.


Title: [Hypothetical] Is a fully disclosed ponzi scheme legal?

Question:
EDIT: I mean pyramid scheme not Ponzi scheme

Just a hypothetical... (This is for United States law)

But, suppose I launched a company called Ponzi Scheme, inc. And we were 100% direct and transparent that this was a ponzi scheme. We literally explained word for word that it is a ponzi scheme:

>You can put money in and we pay you out based on the next people that put money in after you. If you are stuck on the bottom rung you will likely not see a return, THIS IS A PONZI SCHEME.

I know (think?) Ponzi schemes are illegal, but if you completely disclose it and are 100% open about it, is it still illegal?  I'm not talking about the fine print either, I'm talking about very direct straight forward declarations, even to the point where the name of the company is 'Ponzi Scheme inc'

Answer: Amway, Lularoe, Scentsy, et al


Title: [Oklahoma] evict woman who abandond her kids at my house?

Question:
Sorry this is kinda long
Throw away account for obvious reasons.

Back in January my wife's friend (we will call her Abby) was in an abusive relationship with a boyfriend she had been living with who was not the father of the three kids she has (ages 8-12) and the biological father is not around. Being in a bad situation she had no where to go, my wife took it upon herself to have them move in with us to escape the abuse and be able to get her life back together in a safe environment. When she moved in my wife did not have any kind of agreement or terms and conditions of her staying so I wrote up a small living agreement that outlined that she has three months to prove that she is making efforts towards getting a job, getting a car, and saving to secure her own place to live. If she could show ample improvement I would allow her more time to stay but if not she could no longer live in my house. A few rules I included:
No drinking alcohol in the house
No drinking alcohol or doing any drugs outside the house that would inhibit her ability  to perform her obligations to her children or myself
No dating/seeing anyone
No guests are allowed over

Now, I know it may seem a bit rude or outside of my place to tell her, let alone put it on this living agreement, that she cannot see anyone while living in the house but my wife had just driven half way across the country to rescue Abby and her kids and to allow them to live in my house, in which we also have three kids of our own. I didn't need her going out and getting in another relationship and start bringing a stranger around my family in house that is already full. Besides if she is working and not having to pay any bills whatsoever then she should be able to move within the three months and then she could date whoever she likes. I dunno if that's something that would hold up legally but I am just trying to protect myself and my family.

Shortly after getting a job and a car, Abby started staying out later and for longer periods of times going to the bar and ended up getting herself a boyfriend who did not have his own place to live. They thought it would be just fine if they were to stay outside my house living in the car. Even tho I considered this as having a guest over I was being lenient considering my wife saying her boyfriend was a good guy and she deserves to have a break after all she's been through. I gave it some time to see how things would play out but as time went on Abby was spending less and less time in the house with her kids and started spending almost 24/7 outside with her boyfriend when she wasn't at work. I finally told her that she is breaking our living agreement by having him over and that he needs to leave. So when he left she left with him. She has stayed away for almost three full weeks now only stopping by ever once and a while to grab something and then leave. During the weeks I gave her many chances to return and to be with her kids but she says that it would mean she couldn't spend time with her boyfriend and that's not something she is willing to do. She no longer is here to care for her children or provide for them in anyway except to give my wife her food stamp card to buy them food. Her phone has been shut off and I have no way of contacting her except through my wife who is still in contact with her through Facebook. She is going from place to place living with her boyfriend out of her car. I have told my wife that she cannot do this and that she is neglecting her kids and if we don't do or say anything about it to the authorities we would also be complicit in her actions and risk our own kids being taken away. My wife loves these kids and cares for them deeply and doesn't want them to leave but I feel that we can't continue to care for them while their mother refuses to return unless we have some sort of authority to do so.

I want what is best everyone so I am asking for your help and guidance as to how to handle this situation. My wife doesn't want to lose her friend but she won't listen when I tell her this can be considered a crime for all parties involved. She feels that if we were to file for emergency custody we would be taking her kids away from Abby and that would destroy her friendship. (Too bad so sad in my opinion)

I do not believe that Abby would return to stay with her kids even if the law was involved or that she would just take the kids somewhere else and that somewhere else would be much worse than them staying at our house.

I do not want Abby to live at our house anymore seeing that she has taken an act of charity and goodwill and used it to abandon her children in pursuit of a new found lover and moved out anyway. The agreement she has broken on many occasions ends on the 18th of April.

Please show my wife that something needs to be done now and sooner not later.

Answer:
 First thought: what is the plan for medical care if any of Abby's kids get sick or hurt or need a doctor for any reason?  You don't have power of attorney to make decisions, and they are obviously not on your insurance, nor (I'm guessing) do you even know if they have insurance/what kind/proof/info.

Second thought: Abby keeps swinging by, when most of the country is quarantining/isolating? Why are you letting her in the house?  She's a health hazard endangering you every time she comes by.

Do you or your wife know any of Abby's relatives?  Someone you could call and figure out what us best to do. Bc the current situation is untenable and needs some resolution quickly.

You mentioned that the idea of temp custody had come up, I think.  Is this something you would be prepared to do?  For how long?  I'm not sure you can do that without consent of both of the children's parents if they haven't given up rights to the children. Though if he's not locatable, look to family and/or child services.

You need to get CPS/equivalent involved and/or get some legal agreements in place about authority to be responsible for the children/make decisions for them. And you need to understand all the rights and obligations that go with that. This should not  be informal.

And btw who cares if Abby gets bothered by involving authorities or family or whatever?  She is clearly uninterested in her children or in being a mother.  Put the welfare of the children first. Discuss with a lawyer and follow their advice, but if not, contact child services. And you and your wife need to decide how far you are willing to go for these children.Answer #2: Call CPS for the abandoned kids asap.


Title: [US CUSTOMS AND BORDER PATROL] Brother got detained by CBP for 2 and a half hours. Searched his belongings?

Question:
Okay so im looking for some help. My brother and I are Arab and he recently travelled to China for a month long vacation. Once he came back to the US he got detained by CPB in Boston. He's been "randomly selected".

They started asking very personal questions .I Where are you from, who is your parents, what did you do in china, why do you have two phones, who's your mother, what's her maiden name, why do you have this in your luggage, etc. Then they asked to search his phone AND belongings (he complied). He had the "SSSS" on his boarding pass. When he asked why he was detained they gave him a cryptic "We're questioning people with certain names".

The help that I'm asking is that has his rights been violated based purely on his color and name? He wasn't randomly selected at all and they held him for a REALLY long time.

Advice and thoughts would he appreciated

Answer:
 Two and a half hours isn't really a long time when dealing with customs.

What they did was probably legal.  He has no practical recourse here.


Title: My boss installed security cameras everywhere. I live on site and feel extremely uncomfortable.

Question:
I am 18 years old and am living in Ontario Canada. I am looking for legal advice because my boss just installed a bunch of high-tech security cameras at the resort I work at. Because I live on site, everything I say and everything I do even in my free time is being recorded. And I know for a fact that they are listening to the conversations between me and my coworker because they approached us about something we said while we were hanging out at the bar. I feel extremely uncomfortable all the time.
Is it legal for them to do that? What can I do?
Thank you in advance

Answer:
 Do you live in one of the rooms at the resort?

Is the room you live in under video surveillance?

If not, relegate all personal conversations that are not work related to your un-monitored living area.  Any recordings outside of your living area (and thus, on the private property of the resort) are most likely fair game.  Spend your free time in your living area, or off-site of the resort.  Find a different bar in which to spend your time not working, no matter how convenient the on-site bar may be.Answer #2: Wiretapping laws sound like they might be relevant here, if they are/have recorded audio of private conversations they are not a party to.


Title: Was offered a severance package today. Does this mean the writing is on the wall?

Question:
I have worked at the same software company in SF as an engineer for 6 years now. I went in to my weekly meeting with my manager today, and when I entered the room, sitting there was someone from HR and our  Director of Engineering.

I was told I will be undergoing a job title change. They described it as a lateral move, but they also told me the requirements for the new position are much higher than my current position. In fact, the new requirements were detailed in a 125 row spreadsheet. One of the new requirements was than I participate in 24 hour on call duty.
I’m a single mom, I used to do on call stuff and it was extremely hard. My son is 16 now so I think it will not be as bad as when he was very young.

I honestly think I’m capable of learning all the new required skills, but it’s going to take time, and it will likely mean me studying during all my free time on weekends etc from here on out. They might turn around and tell me I’m not coming up to speed fast enough, and let me go in s few months.

I was offered the option of accepting the job change, or receiving 3 months severance (including COBRA) plus my annual 5 figure bonus which is normally awarded in April (and paid in July). The bonus is around 1/4 of my salary.

My instinct is to stay at this job and work really hard to try to meet the new requirements.

Should I be paranoid that they are going to let me go in a few months anyway? They would not have presented with a severance package if they weren’t trying to incentivize my departure, right?

I am 53 years old and the truth of the matter is that my skill set *is* a little rusty and in need of an update; I just have never had the time, and have been able to get away with not doing anything up til now.

My coworkers (most of whom are in their 20’s & early 30’s) are in fact more skilled than me and I will in fact have to put in a lot of effort in order to bring myself up to par with them. I’m a good 20-25 years older than the average.

Should I be paranoid? What should I do?

I don’t really want to be out interviewing for something new. I feel like the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know. I think with my somewhat outdated skill set I might not be able to find as good a position. I do enjoy a pretty high salary.

Should I just buckle down & give it all I’ve got? I feel like it’s not out of reach, it’ll just be like hell for a while.

Answer:
 I would stay, work on getting trained, and sniff around for a new job as well.  Is your employer paying for training?

I'm also around your age, work in IT, and just got another cert this year after taking a few years off to focus on the family, so it can definitely be done.


Title: My girlfriend was sexually assaulted last night, the guy admitted guilt in messages. What do I do?

Question:
This happened in California, everyone involved is over 18. My girlfriend and I live in separate houses. Last night I went to band and she had 3 of her guy friends stay the night who were on their way to a camping trip. I know two (one of whom I trust very much, one of which I'm not a fan of, let's call him J, and the third guy is roommate of the nice guy). They were all drinking and hanging out on the coach and she fell asleep, intoxicated, there. The rest of the guys were on the couch (it's a big L-shaped couch) and were going to sleep there that night.

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Middle of the night she's woken up by someone touching her. She said she thought it was me at first (she was drunk) and tried to go back to sleep (apparently at this point it was inappropriate touching - everywhere). She woke up again being choked. She said at that point she realized it wasn't me, got up, saw the person doing it (it was J), saw the other two guys far away on the couch asleep, and went to bed.

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In the morning, he asked if he did something wrong. She said she didn't want to talk about it. She called me in the afternoon and explained the situation.

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I'm PISSED. With the permission of her, I sent one message to him on facebook messenger: "Hi J, why is it that I'm hearing you sexually assaulted my girlfriend last night while she was drunk and asleep?"

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He responded immediately. Here's some of the messages: "I’m a dumbass, and it’ll never happen again", "Basically I asked if she was okay with it, but she was too drunk to say no it wasn’t okay. I should have stopped there. I didn’t think that at the time, but came to that conclusion over the course of the night. And eventually stopped. If she said no once, I would have stopped. But basic, sexual assault education should have told me that just because I kept asking her, and she didn’t say no doesn’t make it okay." "If you do press charges, I’m sure it’ll be an easy win. I mean, I admitted to everything." and "If she did press charges, I'm not going to fight them."

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I left off the FB conversation with him by saying do NOT contact her in any way, and if he wants to talk to anyone about it, the only person he needs to be talking to is his attorney(he also said "I’d like to message whoever it is you heard this from, if not from \*GIRLFRIEND\* to own up to how I basically sexually assaulted \*GIRLFRIEND\*).

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WHAT DO I DO??? I don't want to turn this into a legal battle if it's not what my girlfriend wants - i don't want to make this more traumatic for her, and I want to be there for her through this whole thing. But at the same time, this guy's a POS and deserves punishment. How do I proceed? How does she proceed?

Answer: It’s up to your gf to decide if she’s wants to do anything. She is the victim and mist file the complaint.  You should support her and respect her decision.Answer #2: YOU take a back seat. You understand that this is not your decision not even one teeny tiny bit and that you are not the victim here, because you're on the verge of acting like it. SHE is the one who decides what happens, 100%. Stop taking things into your own hands, this is HER situation. If she doesn't want to file a police report, no police report will be filed. Listen to her and handle it in a way that completely respects her comfort and intent.Answer #3: You do what your girlfriend wants and nothing more. Don't pressure her into anything and let her take the lead on how to address it. Talk to her about seeking out a therapist if she feels like its necessary.


Title: Texas. Can a note holder (bank) refuse to put over-payments against the principal?

Question:
Texas.

I have been making payments over the required amount. I just recently found out and thought "Oh no bid deal; just apply it against the principle" and I was told they would not honor my request to put the over payment against my principle. Instead they reduce the next months payment

I am in the process of buying a house otherwise I would just refinance it to a different lender. That level of service does not sit well with me but is it actually illegal?

Answer: What do the terms of the note say about overpayments?


Title: Was rear ended coming to a stop at a red light. Other driver taken to hospital in ambulance at the scene.

Question:
I was driving at around 10:30pm and was raining out. Short version: I was coming to a halt at a yellow and applied more pressure to breaks and the antilock system kicked in bringing me to a stop. A few seconds later I am slammed from behind. I'm not really hurt but we pull over and stay in our cars until emergency and cops show up. Later I see the other driver strapped to a stretcher and with a neck brace is loaded into the ambulance and taken to the hospital. I'm fully insured through Allstate, but my question is do I need to hire a lawyer and if so is this going to be a difficult process. First experience with type of thing.

In Kentucky

Edit: thanks for the replies! I just filed with my insurance so we'll see what happens.

Answer:
 You need to call your insurance company. They will provide a legal defense if nessesary.

If you only carry liability and are injured  you may want to talk to a lawyer.

They other driver is at fault based on your description.Answer #2: You were hit from behind while stopping at a light. If the facts are as presented you have zero liability in this incident.


Title: Got my SC judgement and need to collect. What are the pros and cons of bank levy vs wage garnishment?

Question:
I had to file a declaration of default and just got the official judgement in my favor. I was told what papers to file (one for bank levy/ wage garnishment and the other for interest I can add). What are the differences? Do they both have the same effect on the person's credit?

Edit: I live in California in case that matters

Answer:
 A bank levy will be quicker. You'll get whatever's in the account.
A garnishment will take time. It's like a mandatory payment plan.
And I will reveal my heartless lawyer side by asking: why do you care about your debtor's credit?


Title: There is a "stormwater fee" on my city bill, question about it.

Question: Just got my utility bill and on it is a "stormwater fee". With any other service if I was upset with a fee I would either end my contract or opt-out of the item that causes the fee. Is there any legal viability to calling the city and telling them I want to opt-out of rainwater? I realize how ridiculous that sounds, but I am thinking that since they assign the fee for something I didn't ask for it would be up to the city to ensure I don't get rainwater.

Answer:
 >  Is there any legal viability to calling the city and telling them I want to opt-out of rainwater?

No.  Remember how you said it sounded ridiculous?  That's because it is.  Answer #2: It's a drainage fee, not a delivery fee. Answer #3: No. That is not a thing. How do you plan on preventing any rain water that hits your property from making it into city sewers?

If you do not like the fees you can elect a city council that will end the fee or you can move to a different jurisdiction. Answer #4: > I realize how ridiculous that sounds, but I am thinking that since they assign the fee for something I didn't ask for it would be up to the city to ensure I don't get rainwater.

Does it rain in your part of the country?Answer #5: I mean, if you can maintain the rainwater lines underground all at your expense, you could make a proposal. I imagine it must be super easy to dig down deep with heavy equipment, and repair lines when they are broken. Or to crawl in there to clear blockages.


Title: My mom got the wrong blood in a transfusion.

Question:
What can we do about this?

She received a pretty large amount of the wrong blood and got pretty sick. We don't know what to do.

Answer: Contact a lawyer, you shouldn't need any money to do so. I'd also advise you to talk to a couple and work their contingencies off each other a bit.


Title: Hit and run on dash cam, found owner, refusing to share insurance info. CA

Question: Got hit by some company truck and got it all on dash cam. Pulled over, but driver never stopped. Got all the information needed on dash cam to report it to my old shitty insurance. Called non-emergency police line to report it, but get a voicemail instead. No one ever called back or answered any other calls made. As for the insurance, some weeks go back and haven’t heard back from them about it. Called and they claimed to not have been able to contact them so I went looking on my own. Found the company and got in touch that same day. Guy tried pulling that “I don’t speak English” card, but luckily my husband does and gets on the phone. They go back and forth and he asks us to send a video to his email as proof. We did and he call back trying to flip it on me and etc... he refuses to share his insurance information. I CC his email to my shitty claims adjuster so they could figure it out. She ends up telling me I would have to wait about 6 months for an update...That whole insurance could have its own post tbh, but I ended up switching over after I got my car fixed. Now, I want to sue that man and company. Been trying to get help on how to go about it and so far, no luck. I’m thinking he didn’t have insurance, Any advice? Anyone deal with something similar?

Answer: Similar situation (In MD). The police were able to tell me the insurance company from the license plate. You may have to go into a station, not just calling and leaving a message. ^^IANALAnswer #2: Did your insurance pay to have your car fixed?


Title: Father turning my child against me (Florida)

Question:
I posted about this in another thread but for a different reason. I'm on mobile so please bare with me- my child's father is putting a huge gap between us. He's been telling my child terrible things about me that just aren't true. I have visitation every week on a certain day and once every other week on one weekend day. A small sample of things that have happened ("he" is referring to the father):
*My child told me how much their father and step mom hate me
*He has taught my child to call their step mom "mommy" but me by name and now the father doesn't correct them in calling me by my name when I'm around
*He had told our child I am buying their love when I allowed them to take home a prize at Dave and busters
*He has told my child he would be mad at them if they ever told the courts they want to stay with me and that it would never happen anyway.
*Trying to get my child to pick sides in a fight he was trying to stay with me and then accusing me of scaring my child into not answering when they didn't want to pick sides.

I don't have evidence of this stuff and more outside of my husband hearing things going down from the car at time share exchanges or when our child tells us what is said. I have been writing down the incidents and dates but am getting severe depression from feeling like a failure and from noticing how it is affecting my child and my relationship. What can i do? I'm hoping taking care of this will rod me of my worsening depression. Can i even do anything at all about these goings ons?

Answer:
 Firstly, consult a custody or divorce attorney in FL about your concerns. Do you best to dot point notes about who, when, what and where.

Secondly, get mental health support for yourself, for the concerns this is causing you.

Thirdly, get an attorney who can help you work through what will and won’t matter to a family court in FL. Some of this would be considered parental alienation. Your child’s opinion may matter, depending on their age. Any distress this might cause you is also something you can discuss with your counsellor.

Finally, what do you want from this? Primary custody? More time? Court orders that preclude some of the father’s behaviours? Discuss all of this with your attorney. Answer #2: I'd make an appointment with a child pyscologist. Let your child speak to them and get a lawyer.


Title: I got caught in a huge speed trap. Is there anything I can do?

Question: Yesterday I was driving home from a race in Braselton, Georgia on a long, four lane (two each way) country road. It was about 2:15, the sky was clear, the road was dry, and the traffic was light. My ticket even says so. The speed limit was 45, which I believe would have been a ridiculous and unsafely slow speed. I passed two or more motorcycle police and I think at least one police car. One motorcycle police came up beside me and pulled both myself and another driver in front of me over. While both of us were being ticketed, another car was pulled over behind me. I was accused of going 67, which I am almost positive I was not. I was probably going 50 or 55 at most. The guy in front of me was ticketed at 69. I was only going the speed that everyone else around me was going. I think this was a speed trap because 45 was clearly not a safe speed, especially because it would not match the speed of those around me. Is there anything I can do? I'm 17 and do not want to pay this ticket. I can't argue with the laser because my ticket says it was calibrated at 9am that morning.

Answer:
 1.) That's not a "speed trap."

2.) If they have you with a properly calibrated and used LIDAR, then it will be difficult to argue that you were not going that speed.

3.) It doesn't matter how fast everyone else was going... "But *he* was doing it too!" is not a valid defense in US courts.

The police don't set the speed limits- those are set by traffic engineers who have way more education and experience on what speed is safe for that roadway than either of us do.  The fact that you disagree with the speed limit is also unlikely to help you here.


Title: Boss threatened me at work

Question: So today my boss called and asked me who parked in the parking lot (there are 4 spots)  and I told him I parked in one of them,  I have done this numerous amounts of times before and had 0 comments made about parking there. Today he screamed at me saying I should never be parking there , that spot is not for you I kindly asked him why are you yelling and told him I can just move my car,  he pretty much said he was going to slash all my tires  and told me to go home. I'm obviously never going to be going back to my job because of how nasty he got. But I wanted to know if I could file some sort of police report based off of this. This went from being in a professional medical facility to some gang slashing tires facility real fast.

Answer: HR professional here, when you say he "pretty much said" - what exactly did he say? How was the threat worded? Were there any witnesses who could hear the call and corroborate the threat? Are there any emails, documentation or signs that indicate you are not allowed to park where you parked? Not at all saying that his behavior is acceptable but do expect these kinds of questions during a normal HR investigation. Yes, report to HR.


Title: [OH] Blanket Denial of Transgender Insurance Needs

Question:
Hi.

I’m mid-twenties and live in Ohio. I work for a small company with about forty employees. I understand we have a “grandfathered” insurance plan that at least one of our female workers is unhappy with, since it has poor benefits for them (we have only three female employees). It also explicitly denies any and all transgender coverage in the handbook.

From what I understand, this might be illegal since the provider is attached to the health care marketplace via the federal government, and likely receives federal funds. I’m putting together some court cases and government documents regarding the Affordable Care Act to see if I can make a case for coverage, as there is virtually no way I can pay for facial surgery on my own and my dysphoria is mostly keeping me from going out in public.

There are three major problems, however. 1) My workplace is quite conservative, so I’m afraid of repercussions and am only out to two friends and my HR rep. 2) I am so ashamed by my face that I cannot bear to “live as a woman” before getting surgery. I do not look very feminine and have no female living experience because I’m embarrassed and scared for my safety. 3) Somehow, my blood work and hormone therapy went under the radar and has been quietly covered by my insurance since I started in August. I’m afraid of losing that.

All that said, is there any chance I could win a discrimination case, given Ohio doesn’t protect transgender people? If I lost a case or simply started by asking the provider for help with their policy, could I lose my health care coverage because they investigate? How would I even start? Talking to an attorney now without a case, or only if (when) my insurance denies me?

Thanks. I am I’ll-informed with law and am scared by all this, but I need to be able to leave my home and feel both safe and like my actual self.

Answer: There are plenty of non-trans people who are unhappy with the way their face looks. Are they covered under your insurance? Face surgery isn't inherently a trans issue.


Title: Wife's credit card stolen

Question:
I don't know where else to post this. Just looking for help.

The other day my wife's credit card was used for some large purchases. We saw that they bought something from a ticket agency for $1100. Today before I left for work I saw that FedEx delivered something from said ticket agency. I opened it up and the tickets are inside with another person's name on it. Is there any way to link them to the person that bought them? The ticket agency said that the name on them might be a fake, but I feel like if this person was stupid enough to have them sent to our house, then maybe he was stupid enough to use his own name. Any help would be appreciated!

I'm in Illinois, by the way.

Answer:
 Report it to the credit card company.  Give them all the info you have about the purchase.

The name on the tickets are likely fake, and the purchaser going to scalp them to get cash.


Title: My landlord is requiring in-person tours of my apartment during the health pandemic.

Question:
We are still not thirty days out from the end of our lease. I would summarize, but it's much easy to but the text conversations below.

Me:  "Hello, it’s one of the residents from REDACTED. I wanted to ask if you could suspend showing the apartment until we move out on June 30. REDACTED, the realtor showing the house, has agreed to this and says I should check in with you to get the final word. We do not feel safe in our own apartment when upwards of ten people we don’t know are coming into the apartment every day during a literal health pandemic. It interrupts our workday and puts our actual lives in danger. We should not be afraid to live in our own apartment. We should not feel unsafe in our own apartment. Please suspend showing the apartment with in-house tours so we can once again feel safe and healthy. Thank you."

Landlord:  "Hi REDACTED, according to your lease agreement that you signed with me, when you give your 30 day notice to move out I can advertise the apartment and notify you about the advertisement. At this time my agent has people who are interested and they want to see the unit. As you know in order to rent the unit, the prospective tenants need to view it and it takes some time to find right tenants. I understand the circumstances that we are all in right now, but I have asked my agent to be very discreet and cautious regarding viewing by wearing masks and gloves at all times and not staying inside the unit no more than a few minutes plus no touching anything. As an accommodation, I suggest when they arrive, perhaps you can stay inside of the rooms and not make that room available for view. I understand your concern at this time, but I believe that if they are entering wearing masks and gloves, everyone is protected just like the times when we all go grocery shopping. Also I hope you understand if people do not enter your apartment while you are still living there, it might take a whole month to find new tenants, which leaves the unit empty for one month after you move out and therefore this will financially affect me. I really appreciate your understanding and cooperation in helping me find good tentative like you all. Thank you again."

What should I do? Do I have any rights here? Located in Los Angeles, CA.

Answer:
 As long as they give you appropriate notice, you can't refuse.

Shelter is an essential service and must continue.


Title: Can my roommate evict me w/o notice if I'm not on the lease & never payed rent?

Question:
### Basic Information

- **Age**: 24 years old
- **Legal Sex**: Male
- **Gender**: Female

- **Where I'm At**: Ridgecrest, California, USA
- **Overall Status**: Homeless
- **Current Status**: Living for 2 nights at a motel thanks to the generosity of the [Women's Center High Desert](http://womenscenterhighdesert.org/)—that is, last night and tonight; it is currently Saturday. (I did not suffer from domestic abuse but they were able to help me anyway; though domestic abuse is primarily what they focus on, they have programs for more than just that.)

### The Situation

My 2 housemates (we lived in a duplex) just up and said Thursday afternoon that they wanted me out that day. They gave me absolutely no warning otherwise. I wasn't on a lease and I didn't pay rent; they just were letting me live with them because I had nowhere else to go and they didn't want me being homeless.

They kicked me out because apparently it just wasn't working out for them, for a variety of miscellaneous reasons, nothing super serious like damage of property or making threats or anything like that, and they felt like the stresses of their own lives just made it so they couldn't deal with having a roommate.

(They thought my personality and stuff would be very similar to how theirs are; apparently they didn't realise I'm kind of my own person... To be fair, they're only 18 & 19 years old, respectively, and this was probably their first time having a roommate.)

### My Question

I know I'm not on the lease & wasn't pay rent or anything; they were letting me stay there out of the goodness of their hearts (though their landlord *was* aware of me being there, of course). However, can they still just up & kick me out, just like that, without any warning whatsoever?

---

### Some Extra Information

I've done some basic research on my own and found the document, ["California Tenants: A Guide to Residential Tenants' and Landlords' Rights and Responsibilities"](http://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/landlordbook/catenant.pdf), found on the California Department of Consumer Affairs website.

However, according to this document, California law only recognizes two types of people in this context: tenants (aka residents) and lodgers. I wasn't a lodger since I was a housemate, and was living with them in the whole house, not just the bedroom they let me sleep in; and I'm not a tenant because I wasn't paying rent, and it defines a tenant as "a person who rents or leases a rental unit from a landlord" (page 88). I didn't rent or lease since I didn't pay anything or provide any kind of service in exchange for living there.

Also, there was no written agreement between my friends and I. And according to this document, oral agreements are not enforceable (page 16, "Oral Rental Agreements"). I had no falling-out with the landlord; this was entirely between my housemates and I.

Am I screwed?

Answer: You were not a tenant. You are not being evicted. You were a guest, and they were letting you crash out of the kindness of their hearts. They got fed up with you mooching. Find a new place.


Title: Found animal porn on a soldier’s computer. Is this illegal? I’ve searched online and haven’t found clear answers.

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 > If it is illegal and I don’t say anything, I’ll get in trouble if it’s ever known that I did find it and said nothing.

You said you *read a description* on the browser tab. That makes me wonder if you *saw* anything potentially illegal. I say that because the words you saw are not illegal in the US.

My service time long pre-dates the internet, so the worst porn I encountered during inspections was Hustler; but even as bad as the browser tab description was, if I was in your shoes, I would let it go and warn the soldier to be more careful about his browsing. If you blow the whistle on your soldiers unnecessarily, you'll undermine their respect in you.Answer #2: You said you saw a tab... this means you really don’t know what he was looking at. In short, you did not see it yourself so how do you really know it??? Honestly maybe it was just a guy who is ‘hung like a horse.’ /well endowed?

Ultimately you should remember these are guys you serve with and the ones that are trusting you (and you them!) with their lives.

Just warn your buddy/bunkmate and let it be. Could even do so in a subtle way such as,
‘Hey just wanted to know it looked like someone was watching porn on you computer. I closed it Incase we received a surprise inspection and didn’t want you to get busted.’
Because maybe this was the case???


Title: Client refuses to pay design student 1 month later

Question:
Hi all,

Current jurisdiction is Santa Clara County, CA, USA.

I've run into a bit of a sticky situation. I'm a graphic design student and sometimes a freelance designer, and I got hired by a friend of a friend to do a magazine-style article. I'm going to start this off by saying I was stupid to take the job: I was contacted on August 11th, asking if I was willing to take the job. I accepted, but before he could send over the copy, my computer's fans bit the dust and I needed to get a new one. Fast forward to August 20th, when I reached out to him to let him know that my new computer was set up and I could work on the job. Great, he shared the doc, informally agreed to my $40 an hour rate through Facebook Messenger. (this was before I had researched the AIGA, and I'd done work with him before) And I was supposed to have it done by end-of-day tomorrow. More red-flags, I know, but I thought this was on the up-and-up. I work until around 3a for a total of 5 hours, 49 minutes, send off a proof and call it a night.

In the morning, I have a few messages, nothing crazy at first, but eventually he wants every aspect of the design changed, in horrendous ways. At first I try to tell him that it won't look good, but he is set in his ways. Sure, whatever. Apparently he also changed a lot of the copy. Still can do. We get all of this done, and it totals up to 12 hours, 54 minutes. I send off the file (stupid) and ask him how he wants to pay. "ok good night". The following afternoon, Aug 22nd, He informs me he doesn't actually have money right now and will pay me at the end of the month. I'm a patient guy, I can wait, and I know them. So I agree to wait until the end of the month, and that's that.

Until Wednesday, Aug 24th comes around. I get a message from his fiance (who is a part of the business) who informs me that the copy is off, and very off. As it turns out, the copy was in the process of being edited in the Google Doc as I carried over paragraphs into InDesign, my design program. I open up InDesign, but before I do, I'm told to stop work. Apparently there are more revisions 2 days after the article was supposed to go live. THey accuse me first of rewriting the article, and then that my computer was hacked for the sole purpose of editing their article. (I have Full Disk Encryption and a VPN) I let them know it was because I was supplied multiple different changing versions of the copy, and I tell them any revisions at this point will be billed at the standard rate. They acknowledge, I finish up the revisions, and now the running total is 14:46, or about $590.

He lets me know he's going to have to pay in parts. At this point I'm wondering whether I'm going to ever see payment, but I figure I need to start cutting my losses. I tell him that's fine. No response. I send a fairly lengthy worded message to the both of them on the 29th, asking where payment is, that I'd really accept anything at this point. I'm told "Um the 31st is the end of the month / I'll get 100 then". On Sep 6th, I ask what the plan is, though, I get a response asking for routing and account number to transfer funds. Seems a little sketchy but I'm starting to need the money. I send it all over, but the money is never transferred. On Monday, September 12, I ask what the plan is again, no response. And again, yesterday, Wed Sep 14. Still no word. I text our mutual friend asking what the hold-up is, and I'm told "He doesn't feel it's fair to attach the last part of the payment for your mistake / But I think he definitely needs to fucking pay you for the min part".

I'm now stuck, down $590 (which I kinda need) and am wondering what routes I am legally allowed to take to recover any of this. I had one friend recommend a collection agency, another said take it to small-claims. At this point, I just really don't know what to do. I'm considering visiting the house in person to sort all of this out, but if it has to go to court I don't know if that's a great idea.

If you read this far, thanks. I know it was super long, but any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. I know every detail counts so I've included as many as I can and have exported the FB chat logs if they need to be included. Thanks!

tl;dr: design student has a $590 job that is not in contract but on FB messenger, client refuses to pay 1 month later.
Topic:
Contracts

Answer:
 Lack of organization on their part does not constitute a reason not to be paid for work that you did. You did work as per your agreement with them; you're entitled to be paid for it, *especially* as they accepted it.

Document, document, document. Print hard copies. Sue them for unpaid wages; you do have an agreement, and they need to honor it, *formal contract* or not.

NAL, just a fellow graphics/art monkey who's learned to always keep records of communication. :)

(I can't imagine that the judge wouldn't be on your side on this.)

**EDIT**: reminding him of your agreement and then stating that if he doesn't honor it, you'll be forced to take him to small claims court first would be a good idea, yes. Court comes after he still won't pay.


Title: Can I force my daughters to quit if my wife (their stepmom) signed under her name?

Question: My daughters are doing horribly in school because they aren't completing their homework, because of their ballet class. I want to pull them out, but my wife (their stepmom) signed the contract in her name. Do I have a parental right to pull them out legally? If you need more context, I'll link my original post.

Answer: You can pull them out whenever you want. The question I think you're asking is if you can avoid the contract. Your wife is bound to whatever she signed so if it is for a set period or requires notice she will have to pay that out


Title: Past employer accusing me of cashing a check twice. Is that possible?

Question: I worked at a convenient store for about a year, at one point I had lost a check and asked the owner to write me a new one. Two months later, after I had quit, I received a voicemail from the owner saying he never cancelled the lost check and I had cashed it twice. I have no recollection of doing so and I'm pretty sure my bank wouldn't even let me. This all happened a few months ago and my ex employer never tried to contact me again. For whatever reason I didn't hear the message until recently. I only became aware of the situation when I was hanging out with an old co worker and he mentioned the whole thing to me.

Answer:
 There is no reason your bank would stop you from cashing the original and reissued check.

You should ascertain the truth of the check and pay the money back if you received money you should not have.


Title: Investors trying to oust me from a successful business built on my image.

Question:
Oslo, Norway. Throwaway for obvious reasons.

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I've spent the last three years building a really strong and successful brand that revolves around myself and the food I make. Its the first of its kind in this country and there is significant potential for serious scalability.

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Whilst I had the talent, career, skills and reputation, my investors and business partner had the money. They made a deal that secured them majority ownership if they provided me with a retail location I couldn't have secured myself.

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7 months after opening, we're doing really well and my team is fully trained and autonomous. But my business partner has convinced the board that I am expendable and they have gotten lawyers involved in an attempt to remove me from the company. My business partner has a lot to gain financially by my departure.

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The name of the company is mine and my business partners names. There is a written agreement that if the business is dissolved or one of us is no longer involved that they can no longer use our names as a brand.

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There are two companies for the two different products we make.  Company 1 was founded a year before the second company and its purpose was to start an online store and begin building our brand whilst we worked on the build of the physical location. The ownership breakdown:

Me - 25.5%

Business partner - 25.5%

Investor 1 - 16.33%

Investor 2 - 16.33%

Investor 3 - 16.33%

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Company 2 was founded a year later and is the more financially lucrative of the two. The investor group claimed that majority share for them was necessary to have harmony with the other locations they own in the same building. The ownership breakdown:

Me - 20%

Business partner - 20%

Investor group that includes 3 original investors plus one other - 60%

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We all put the corresponding capital into the company for the various startup costs when both companies were launched but its worth mentioning that I was creating these products solo and building my personal brand significantly before any of the companies were founded or even having met the investors.

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Knowing that its most likely inevitable that I am forced out, I was wondering:

1. Can I keep the company instagram and facebook? Its content I created and I have never shared any of the passwords. It was started before either of the companies were founded and the follower count is almost 16k. It is the main method of communication with our customers.

2. How much should I demand for a payout? I've estimated the revenue to be at least 10.5million nok from the second company alone for 2018.

3. Is it possible to get away without signing an NDA? I can't keep quiet about what I think is some really poor behaviour on their part. I genuinely feel so used and I want to use the voice I have publicly to speak up about their bad behaviour.

4. Intellectual property. I have never registered any of my recipes but its the first of its kind here. Do I have any rights to the IP rights because they had been developed before we incorporated?

5. I am sick and have been temporarily off work because of this. Are there any employee rights I should be aware of? It does seem as if they are using my illness as an incentive to get rid of me.

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A meeting has been set with their and my lawyer for next week. Any advice before going into this meeting?

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Thanks for reading. I'm seriously worried.

Answer: You need a lawyer. Internet help in a situation like this might be worse than no help.


Title: (CA) Dads GF has royally ruined both of their credits over the years. Shes currently on her deathbed. As repayment she signed him over a large $$ of her life insurance. Recently she requested a final wish to be married before she died, my dad refused and she removed him from her policy out of spite.

Question:
Hi! As always, I’m sorry if this is missing information I will try my hardest to include every detail that is important. Please be patient with me!

My dad started dating this spawn of the devil woman many years ago. We will call her J. Every single cell in her body is evil. She’s destroyed my childhood, abused and stolen from myself and my siblings. Stolen from my father. I have no idea why he stayed with her so long, but he did.

She’s abused drugs and substances as long as I can remember. My dad is not a drug user but he is an uneducated man who was constantly working multiple jobs to provide for us. He also works so very hard to provide for J as well. Put her through school, buy her everything. Take on vacations. Everything. (It’s one of those relationships. I hate her.) If it was between J or his kids, it was J.

Fast forward to all the bull shit in between and all the drugs and alcohol start to effect J’s health and eventually we learn the symptoms she was experiencing were that of ALS.

It’s also worth noting that J’s family also chooses to have nothing to do with her daughter because of how awful of a human being she is. She has a son from her younger years that they had to raise because she was not competent.

It was even rumored once that my dad tried to break up with her and she laughed that she would rob him of everything he had and burn the house down with him in it because she has close ties to people in HELLS ANGELS.  (And she does, we’ve seen the shit she gotten out of.)

As things began to decline in the last 3 months the doctor suggested they get her end of life arrangements together. Luckily she’s has a few insurance polices and such from over the years apparently.

She chose to gift my dad as beneficiary and they both agreed that he deserved the money because she didn’t have anyone for it to go to and she’s appreciated the care he’s given her through out the years.

You know, you think you’re going to die and you soften up your cold heart a bit.

We were ecstatic over hearing that she was really going to do something considerate and morally good for someone. My dad is 90k in debt because of this woman. Some charges he’s made himself, others she took liberty upon herself to help herself to his credit cards.

He’s been by her side since her diagnoses and been at her side since she’s been in ICU the last three weeks, not leaving to go anywhere else but home to shower. He’s her power of attorney, her family also knows about her situation and refused to see her in the hospital and say goodbye upon learning she was leaving nothing behind in their name.

J has been a great sport and is close to God and is not afraid to die. A couple weeks ago she mentioned to my dad that a final wish that would make her life worth it all would to be married and know she died with a partner. My dad said no. She is also $50+ in her own debt. My dad didn’t want to be responsible for that debt as well.

The last week: the hospital and hospice agree she’s wasting space at this point and she won’t recover and it’s time for them to just make her comfortable.

Upon learning her impending doom is near, J, understandably freaks out and decides she wants to be put back on everything because she has changes to be made to her will and she’s no longer ready to go anymore. She wants to be transported home to die peacefully. It will cost a large amount of money.

My dad then begins to become aggravated, he feels at this point we’re just wasting everyone’s time and he’s also getting loud and frustrated that she’s already put him in so much debt. He didn’t feel she deserved to be taken home to HIS house to die in peace surrounded by literally no one. I didn’t see what went down but a nurse recorded the whole thing and afterwards called the security to escort my dad out.

Hospital called J’s family and explained the situation and took all of my dads rights away and gave them to J’s estranged father. They’re also currently working to get an emergency change to her life insurance policy to ensure my dad rots and suffers for refusing to marry her.

The pain and distraught in my dad voice is enough to make me scared for his mental health. He in the end is about to be totally screwed one last time by a woman who is the devil herself. I understand it’s her policy and she can do whatever she pleases but is there any type of law we can get involved after she passes so he can at least get some of that $$$ to cover the debt she’s incurred under his name?

Thank you in advance. There’s a lot of emotions involved at this point, he’s an idiot for banking this whole time he’d be rewarded in the end for the suffering. But literally my heart is breaking for him. I want this to be over with.

Answer:
 >I understand it’s her policy and she can do whatever she pleases

You answered your own question


Title: My apartment got robbed and the thieves made off with $7000 worth of Apple products. What should I do?

Question:
I live in New York.

I buy and sell iPhones and iPads on eBay and Craigslist. Someone found out where I live and robbed my apartment. The thieves made off with $7000 worth of merchandise. What should I do?

Answer: File a police report.


Title: (Nyc) my boyfriend and I broke up. We currently live together on the same lease. We agreed that I will move out (so his new gf can move in). What can I do to make sure im not screwed if they fail to keep up with the rent?

Question:
He was sleeping with her for the last year and has finally chosen to come clean and tell me along with the fact that he is ‘in love’ (gross) and wants to marry her (even grosser). They want to move in together. We have 8 months left on our lease where we are co-tenants.
I agreed to move out because I can’t stand to be in the apartment anymore. His plan is for her to move in but not be added to the lease (landlord won’t approve her because she has no job/money). He said he will cover the rent in full.

He has the means to do so but I don’t want to bank on him sticking to his word. He said that he would be willing to sign whatever I ask.

Is there something I can find online that I can use in this situation. Basically something where he agrees that he is fully responsible for the rent and that if he doesn’t pay it and we get evicted he is the only one they can collect the back rent from?

Answer: You need the landlord and your ex to sign a document removing you from the lease.Answer #2: All parties on the original lease must agree for you to be removed and not responsible for rent. It's entirely likely your landlord will refuse because it means one less person to sue/evict if the rent isn't paid.Answer #3: Going to need to modify the lease with the landlord. If they won't do it, you may be stuck with the risk until the lease is up.Answer #4: Do you have 8 months of your portion of the rent saved up in case your ex defaults? If not,  then I would stay in the apartment until the lease is up or make his new girlfriend get a job.