Title: Can an insurance company write off my perfectly good car? (Alberta, Canada)

Question:
I've never used this sub before, but I've heard of it, and it seemed to be a good place to ask, so here it goes.

As the title says, I live in Alberta, Canada. I park my car at a "park and ride" bus terminal everyday, and catch a bus to my job downtown (because parking is crazy expensive here). As always, yesterday morning, I parked my car at 7:10 am, and got on the bus. Was at work by 7:45.

Yesterday I got a call from a police officer about 8:45am, letting my know that someone had hit my parked car. She wasn't comfortable leaving her info on my car, so she went to the police station, and they looked up my plate number and called me. At this point, there was nothing to indicate that the damage was over $2000, meaning a report couldn't be filed (police here don't deal with accidents under $2000 in damage). He gave me her information (first name and phone number) and gave her my info.

My husband got a quote for the damage, $2,200. I drive a 1997 Honda Civic with 347,000Km on it. I've put a fair amount of work into it, and it's a really good car. I was looking forward to celebrating 350,000Km on it soon. We were assured by the body shop that the damage is 100% cosmetic, and has no impact on the safety or mechanical elements of the car.

After I got the quote, I had the following phone conversations:

1. Called the other driver. Told her I had the quote. She told me she would talk to her husband and call me back. Indicated that they wanted to go through insurance.

2. Called my insurance company. Opened a "not at fault" claim with them, for my own protection.

3. Was called by another cop. Other driver filed a police report, I had to come give a statement. I did (not much to say; I wasn't actually there). I have a copy of the report, and a "damaged" sticker on my car.

4. Called the driver back. Offered to settle outside insurance for $1500 cash (so $700 below my quote). She told me her insurance company would be calling me tomorrow (now today).

The biggest reason I want to settle in cash is that there is a very real chance my car will be written off, due to the repair cost and the age/Km on the car. I really love this car. It's a great car (and, let's be honest, it had a couple of smaller dents/dings/scratches already, I'm not too worried about the looks). I DO NOT want it to be written off.

So, legaladvice, if her insurance company wants to write it off, is there anything I can do? I would be willing to take NO compensation (as if it was a hit and run) rather than have my perfectly good car written off and salvaged over a dent.

Edit: formatting

Answer:
 Unless Canadian insurance companies work a lot different than the ones down here, they won't require you to hand in your car to be scrapped.  They couldn't give two fucks.  They'll cut you a check for the cost to repair the vehicle, or the value of the vehicle.

You can then either repair it or not.

But generally speaking, yes an insurance company can total or "write off" a car when it is more expensive to repair than it is worth.  Tort jurisprudence going back ages has determined this as a beneficial economic system to avoid waste.Answer #2: When my car was damaged in much the same way, I just told their insurance I wanted a check. They assessed the damages, and wrote me a check. I cashed it, kept the car damaged, and sold it a year later for about $100 less.

So you actually got lucky in a sense, you get $1,500 for damage you don't really mind, and keep the car.

I will say try and get more though. If it was appraised at $2200 in damages, try and get that, or close. Her insurance has a duty to make you whole, so if they figure it will cost $1500, they might only give you that, but they also might have it quoted at much closer to your $2200 quote.


Title: Building Permit Violation

Question:
So I just go busted for building a carport without permit.  I realize I'm in the wrong here- I just didn't know I needed one.  An Albuquerque city official (who was actually pretty cool about the whole thing) said that I need to retro-actively apply for a permit.  In doing more research, however, I think I also need a variance since it is within 10 feet of the street.
It is built to meet code.  My question is: what can I do to keep my carport?

Answer:
 > what can I do to keep my carport?

Well...

> city official said that I need to retro-actively apply for a permit.

Oh, there you go.


Title: What can employer take out of paycheck? [GA]

Question:
I have worked in the veterinary field the majority of my adult life. One of the perks of working at most animal hospitals is the ability to bring your pets in for discounted services and carry a balance for services rendered. At other vet offices I've worked at, there are policies regarding when the balances have to be paid and how, usually the practice manager will set a future date or work out an individual payment plan to be deducted from paychecks (with written permission).

I worked at a new animal hospital of <25 employees. This particular hospital has no policy (written or otherwise) regarding when/how the balances will be paid. Everyone in the hospital carries anywhere from $100-$500+. Wednesday night, the entire staff received an email notifying us that our full balances would be taken out of our paychecks the following day. Seriously, one day of notice. I had a balance of $314 from my dog's yearly exam in December, over 6 months ago.

I understand this is momey I owe, but being unexpectedly $314 short wasn't sitting well with me. I called the owner and said that this was really shitty (not exact verbiage, lol) considering that I'm getting divorced and paying a mortgage as a single woman on a 4-bedroom house. I make more than anyone there besides the doctors, so I can only imagine the impact on the single moms and the two pregnant girls in kennel and reception who are hourly employees.

She gave me the runaround about how she was only doing this because one employee in particular had a high balance and was always going on vacations, and how she can't collect on her without collecting on all of us. I told her this wasn't the way to do it.  There's nothing in our signed employee handbooks that states anything at all about handling account balances. I'm also not sure if it's entirely legal, so someone set me straight if I'm wrong.

Thank you for reading and advising!

Answer: You couldn't pay $314 over 6 months?  How many other employees were doing the same thing?  Did you expect your employer to handle this like a zero interest bank loan with an infinite term?


Title: [Metro Atlanta, GA] My sister [13 F] was inappropriately touched at school.

Question:
We are about to leave on an out-of-country trip when my mother hits me with this bombshell. My sister told her she was touched by another student at her school a few days before school ended. My mother said she spoke to the principal of the school about the situation and the best the principal said she could do was to ensure that my sister and this student would not be placed in the same class for next year. I want to bring this matter to the police, but another issue arises. My father is a die-hard, super strict Muslim. If he were to find out about this, he would take my sister out of school  and probably put her in some lock-down religious school, and who knows what he would do to the kid. My question, is what would be the best way to go about handling this situation? We live in a small city where small news makes a big buzz, and I truthfully don't want either parties' lives ruined, I just want justice served. What should I do?
Topic:
Searches and Seizures

Answer: No one on the internet can tell you the best choice for your family. You have laid out the options and the plus and minuses. You need to let your parents and sister decide what they are going to do.


Title: [ONTARIO, CA] Lead in drinking water landlord refuses to address

Question:
I live in a neighbourhood with a lot of old houses (late 1800's) and my municipality offers free pipe checks and lead testing. A lot of my neighbours were getting the checks and I had brought up the idea with my landlord. She said not to worry as she thought the pipes had already been fixed before she bought the house years ago, but I figured it was free so I might as well check.

The pipes weren't replaced and we have moderate levels of lead in our drinking water. The landlord was angry that we got the check anyways and isn't going to pay for the pipes to be replaced or for a water filter. She essentially said we could move out after 60 days notice but gave no other option.

Anything else I could do? Are they not obligated to address a health risk like this?

Answer:
 I'm not sure what you mean by "moderate" but if it's above 10 µg/L you should pursue it.

Make a complaint to the landlord in writing that the water is not currently potable because of the lead content and you would like it fixed. There are faucet-mounted filters that will filter out lead so replacing all the pipes isn't her only option. If she responds again that she will not do anything about it, or if she doesn't respond in a reasonable time frame, you can file at the LTB for maintenance not done.


Title: Can you get sued if your soccer ball gets into the neighbor's yard?

Question: OK so in the span of about 2 months my soccer ball has been kicked into the neighbor's yard. (Accidently) its hasn't broken anything, and today I went to go ask for it back. They think I'm kicking to their yard on purpose, and told me "next time we will contact the authorities". Can they do that? We even fixed the fence between our houses that was destroyed by storm free of charge.

Answer:
 In general, kicking a ball into your neighbor's yard is not a crime or a civil tort, as long as it doesn't damage anything.

Your neighbor is legally obligated to return your ball.   It's not their property, and they cannot retain it if they know whose property it is.

Police would not appreciate being called in a dispute over ownership or mishandling of a soccer ball.

The principal way that you can get into trouble is if you trespass to retrieve a soccer ball.   There is no "but my ball was in their yard" exception to the general prohibition on trespassing on private property.

Work on your passing.


Title: [SC] (Former) boss repeatedly asked for details about a medical problem, asked if I was actually just pregnant, told me to change medical restrictions or lose all my hours

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The litany of irrelevant/speculative complaints aside, what would be the basis for your complaint? That your boss asked uncomfortable questions?

If your (former) manager was having a hard time understanding your requests, why didn't you go to HR then instead of going back to your doctor? Answer #2: You quit a job you hated where they treated employees poorly. What are you looking for? Answer #3: You can complain to HR about anything you want. I don't know why you'd bother, since you don't work there anymore.


Title: Do you pay taxes on monetary rewards from a lawsuit?

Question: If you win a lawsuit and receive money/property do you pay taxes on it?

Answer:
 Depends on the reason you are receiving it.

If it is for actual damages or personal injury *and* you did not claim the damages or expenses as losses in prior tax periods, it is not taxable.

Lost wages, punitive damages, or rewards where you did deduct the loss in a prior year are subject to income tax.

[IRS PDF on this topic](https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p4345.pdf)Answer #2: Damages awarded as a result of a lawsuit are taxable unless specifically excluded by another section of the Code.

The Tax Code then gets into various types of awards that are not taxed.

So to answer your question: maybe.


Title: Indecency with a child [TX]

Question:
[Texas] A former friend of mine made the local news out of the blue recently for two separate incidents where he exposed himself to young girls (two 11-year-olds in one case) playing outside and offered them money to touch him. He was arrested and charged with two counts of indecency with a child ([section \(a\)(2)(A) here](http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/txstatutes/PE/5/21/21.11)). According to the county district clerk's online records, he made bond at $30,000 and has retained a criminal defense attorney.

From what I understand, indecency with a child is a class 3 felony punishable by 2-10 years in prison and a $10,000 fine.

I know very little about legal issues, so I have a few questions out of curiosity:

1. Will he be registered as a sex offender?
2. Does the law specify a *minimum* of two years in state prison for this charge?
3. Since there are two charges, will the sentence be a cumulative 4-20 years or just 2-10 years? What does that depend on?
4. Since he's paid bond, is he subject to any restrictions in his public life? (Does he have to stay within a certain area, is he allowed near schools, etc.)
5. Does the fact that he offered the children money affect what he is being charged with?
6. What is the burden of proof like for an insanity defense in these sorts of cases?

I understand if some of these questions are too specific or variable to be answered. Thanks for your time.

Answer:
 1. If found guilty almost certainly

2. Yes

3. Maybe. It depends on the law, past similar sentences, the judge, the prosecutor, the actual sentence, etc, etc. Too many things for me to comment on. Consecutive sentences  (one after the other) are a very distinct possibility

4. More than likely given the crime he will have VERY strict bail conditions

5. It could but given the statute you have listed doesn't appear to have. It will also be an aggravating factor for his sentencing.

6. You friend would have to be assessed by a psychiatrist as being too "insane" to realise what he did was wrong

Your friend committed a very serious crime and is likely to face some serious consequences


Title: Buying Car without valid drivers license

Question:
Hello,

I am disabled and unable to drive.

I would like to purchase a car for others to drive me in. The people driving me would be a mix of family members, friends and privately hired Personal Care Attendants (PCA).

I'm running into a little trouble as I can't put the title in my name as I don't have a license. Is there another option?

Also, I am running into challenges with insuring the car, as I can not be a primary driver. (I will x post to insurance.)

Lastly, I am unsure of what I would be liable for should there be an accident. Do I need to create and register a business car because I employ PCAs?

Thank you

Edit - MA

Answer:
 I suspect the correct answer will be for you to set up a revocable living trust, and have the trust purchase and insure the vehicle:  http://www.legalees.com/revocable-living-trust-owned-vehicles/

However, I would suggest you talk to a lawyer in your jurisdiction.


Title: Ohio. What's the difference between an open carry gun in a level 3 holster on my hip, and an open carry gun in a level 3 holster on my hip with a winter coat on?

Question: I don't have my CCW, so I'm worried that my sweatshirt or coat covering up my open carry at a business that I work might be against the law.  It's winter, and the gun is in no different spot on my hip than it was this summer.

Answer: The difference is pretty simple. Concealed is concealed. If you don't have a CCW, don't wear anything over it.Answer #2: Can you simply tuck a shorter jacket (waist length, not knee or hip length) or sweatshirt behind the grip of the handgun? Wouldn't that avoid issue? There is an obvious issue with it becoming untucked, which is probably a bigger issue.Answer #3: The Ohio ccw license is super easy to get. Do your classes, submit your application and don't worry.


Title: Can he turn his 6th felony into a misdemeanor? Kansas

Question:
My cousin was busted in 2002 with 50 lbs of weed, but ended up talking to the feds and was a cut deal for his testimony.  He was busted a couple of years later and served four years. He also has 3 DUI's under his belt. It looked like he was getting his act together by going back to school. He has one more semester until he graduates and he makes straight A's, but he got busted a couple of days ago with 5 lbs of weed. He is working with an attorney to try and get it turned into a misdemeanor.

Is this a remote possibility? Can he try and arrange a deal that involves him turning into a witness again? He put his family through this once and I am worried about his family's safety if he ends up on the witness stand. This happened in Kansas.

Answer:
 > Is this a remote possibility?

Technically, yes.

It's also possible that the judge will decide he likes your cousin so much that he offers to pay off all his student loans.

Neither is likely to happen, though.

Your cousin clearly is not learning anything by going easy on him.


Title: Is it legal to refuse selling/renting property to a person without giving any reason? And what are the laws surrounding having a hypothetical "private real estate market" where some people would agree to only buy and sell real estate with each other and not anyone else?

Answer:
 > Is it legal to refuse selling/renting property to a person without giving any reason?

Both legal and extremely common. Explaining why you're refusing is an invitation to the other person to discuss it, and often a landlord or seller is not open to discussing it. Flagrantly illegal refusals (eg. on the basis of race) can be reason for a lawsuit, and the courts can compel the landlord to explain themselves, but the buyer/applicant doesn't have that power.

> And what are the laws surrounding having a hypothetical "private real estate market" where some people would agree to only buy and sell real estate with each other and not anyone else?

It depends on the form of that market.

Correctly structured (as a REIT, cooperative, or similar legal construct), it would actually be possible to restrict the sale of real estate - or, rather, the real estate would vest with a legal entity, and that entity's governing documents would restrict who may participate in it or own shares of it.

Done as a binding covenant on the property, this is effectively how HOAs get their power: the set of people eligible to receive the property are exactly "people who accept the HOA's authority." Again, this is tied to a legal entity that exists aside from the property and owners, though: a deed restriction purportedly restricting ownership to members of a particular group might not hold up (and things like race covenants are widely considered to be unenforceable even where they still exist on title documents).

Done as an interpersonal contract, the other parties could sue someone for breach to recover their damages, but could not generally sue to reverse a sale outside of the contract.


Title: [OK]Heat/Air company set house on fire. Insurance won't pay the full amount of the damages. What now?

Question:
Location: Oklahoma

This July, my parents hired a local heat and air company to replace our heating and cooling units. In the process of changing out the heating unit the repair man, who happens to be the owner of the business, opted not to turn off the gas line or vent the gas from the unit. He did try to turn off the gas but couldn't get it turned off, so he decided to just keep going anyway. The unit caught fire, causing damage to the heating unit, ductwork, electrical work, and stairs, among other places. Everything in the house was smoke damaged as a result. My parents don't have homeowners insurance (yeah, yeah, I know already), so they've been dealing with the business' insurance directly. The quote to fix all of the damage is approximately $115,000, not including all of their personal expenses. The heat and air company's insurance as offered only $100,000 to cover everything, claiming that the repair technician wasn't at fault because there was a problem with the gas valve. My parents bought the house less than a year ago and had the home and the heating unit inspected and there weren't any problems listed with the heating unit. What do we do now?

Answer:
 They can take the $100k or sue for the amount they want.Answer #2: 100k may be the limit of the HVAC guys liability policy so they are trying thier best to limit damages to that. Anything not covered by the policy you'll have to sue him directly for.

It's worth taking all the information you have to an attorney for a consultation. They will be able to best evaluate if they could recover the extra 15k plus thier fees or not.


Title: Can my dad's PoA evict me from his house? This is not what my dad wanted, per his words to me.

Question:
I have just received paperwork for an eviction from my father's home, where I have legally resided for at least a year. There has never been any issues between us and he has no problem with me staying here.

However, my dad recently had a stroke. His brother was listed as Power of Attorney. Due to an argument I had with him over how he was handling my father's estate, he is now trying to kick me out of my father's house.

Do I have any legal recourse? Can I simply go to court and say this is not my dad's wishes-- it's merely my vindictive uncle trying to exercise control?

Facts of the case:

This is happening in Iowa. I have lived here a year. My father has never had a problem with me living with him. He even set up another bedroom for my daughter there so that she was more comfortable during my weeks with her (I have joint custody). He even for me to go to court to secure said child custody agreement. My father became incapacitated less than a month ago.

Answer: I'll be blunt: if your father wanted you to make decisions for him, you'd be POA. You can't argue that the POA isn't doing what your dad wants, because the POA will argue the opposite, and he'll win.


Title: Neighbors stole "my" cat. very sad. need help.

Question: Basically the title. There was a very young cat that was roaming around near my house for a couple months and spent a large amount of the day in my garage so naturally I grew very fond of it. I could not however risk letting her inside because my dog is very prone to getting sick and wasn't sure how safe it would be for my dog if I let the cat in and planned on getting all her shots and making sure the cat was healthy before letting her inside my house.  She got pregnant so I made her a shelter/bed so she could nest as well. I also got her checked for a chip (none were found) and planned on getting her vaccinated very soon after but somebody in my neighborhood took her and made a post about it in the neighborhood's community facebook page stating that they were adopting her. I tried to message them and explain the situation but they said since they spent a small fortune on getting her chipped and vaccinated that they did not want to give her up. The cat was one of thew few lights in my life because of emotional and life issues i've had recently but they still have not wanted to work with me on it. is there ANYTHING that I can do to get my cat back or am I out of luck because it wasn't legally mine or something like that?

Answer: It’s not your cat. It was a stray and someone else took it in and took care of it properly with veterinary care. It’s their cat.Answer #2: They beat you to taking her in. It's their cat now. Sorry.


Title: My college roommate deals drugs

Question: I am a freshman in college, and recently my roommate revealed to me both the fact that he is a drug dealer and his weed stash. I don't do drugs, but I don't necessarily have a moral obligation against them. Normally, I wouldn't mind. But, there is a law in Ohio (where I go to school) called "Permitting Drug Abuse". This law would implicate me in the crime for knowing about his dealings and not reporting him. I don't want to be a dick and report him, but I don't care enough about him to risk my future. What should I do?

Answer: If you don't want to report him, see if you can change rooms.


Title: [TX] Boyfriend's ex wife had all our mail rerouted to her parent's house.

Question:
They have been divorced for well over a year but she just decided 2 weeks ago to start having her mail sent to her parent's house (where she was living).  She screwed it up though, the post office said this is common, and now all of our mail is being sent to her parent's house.

We have not gotten any mail in 2 weeks.  My boyfriend went to the post office last night and they told him about the reroute.  He had it changed back to our address but they had no mail there for us.   Her parents claim they have not received anything though (so where is our mail??).

Even though his ex wife initiated the divorce, they hate my boyfriend, so because of the chip they have on their shoulder about him we are sure they are lying.

These are not pleasant people to work with - they are verbally abusive and very controlling.  When my boyfriend and I first started dating they paid to have background checks done on me and tried to use my student loan debt to start a fight between us..  These are the kind of people who would not hesitate to open our mail and snoop just to try to find something to cause a fight.

Can we report this?  Will anything even be done?  I get that my mail is gone and will never be seen again but I am pretty pissed about this.

---

**Edit** - boyfriend when down to the post office this afternoon, and confirmed that our mail HAS been delivered to the new routing address (the address his ex wife specified) - they cannot explicitly tell us the address but we know what it is because she told us.  So her parents HAVE been receiving our mail and that has been confirmed by the post office.  They are keeping us from receiving our mail.

The post office gave us a number to call, but when we tried to call we had shitty reception and it kept dropping.. so we went to the inspection service website to file a complaint.  Not sure that it will actually go anywhere but it would be nice to see them get a slap on the wrist for accepting our mail and then lying about it and doing who knows what with it.  We will be going to the bank tomorrow to hopefully get our banking information changed.
Topic:
Douche

Answer: At the very least, do something with your credit.  Pull reports, pay for credit monitoring.  Make sure they don't open up fraudulent cards or loans.Answer #2: Mail yourself glitterAnswer #3: You already told the post office. That's about all you can do unless something else happens.


Title: [PA] Any legal concerns for making condoms accessible to teen clients as a mental health counselor?

Question:
I am a therapist (LPC/Licensed Professional Counselor). I work with teens primarily (14-18) but also some adults. A lot of the teens are sexually active, and most of them are sexually active without their parents knowing. Many have expressed that they can't access birth control, condoms, etc. due to either cost or concern for parents finding out (e.g. could get birth control but insurance coding and billing info would be accessible by parents). There have been a few pregnancy scares that the parents literally have no idea about. I have provided basic info on how OTC pregnancy tests work, how to access free birth control,  etc. but I feel the need to do more. A lot of the teens I work with are dealing with serious mental health issues and becoming a parent accidentally would be a huge problem.

I don't want to directly hand condoms to teen clients (for reasons such as not wanting parents to think I am "condoning" or "encouraging" teen sex if they were to find out), but was considering having a giant bowl of them in my office with the implication that anyone can just take one, so if a teen client chooses to take one, that was fully their own decision. I know places like Planned Parenthood and other health centers do similar things. I've tried to do some research on this but I am not finding anything clear cut for PA therapists specifically. It looks like the Minors' Consent Act allows minors to obtain contraception without parental consent, but I'm not sure if this protects ME, the therapist. I know there have been some controversy with schools making condoms accessible, but I'm not a school counselor or affiliated with a school. I know the safest thing to do is to be direct with parents when I do the initial intake (i.e. general statement that if their teen asks about safe sex practices, I will tell them, and provide access to condoms if they ask for it), but this doesn't help me with all of my current clients. Calling up a parent in the middle of treatment and going "hey can I give your kid condoms?" is not something I can do without pretty much disclosing that their teen is having sex.

Is the bowl of condoms, free for the taking, a potential risk for me legally?

Answer:
 There is no age restriction on condom purchase or possession in Pennsylvania. You cannot be legally punished for providing people with things that won't hurt them and that they're allowed to have.

Anyone who takes a condom and uses it will be assumed to understand the risks and limitations of condoms.

Some parents may get upset. Some of them may threaten to call the police or sue you. But offering condoms in PA--even to teens--is perfectly legal.

Police will say it's a civil matter. Anyone can sue anyone for any reason, but that doesn't mean they'll win. If you are sued, you will have to respond, no matter how stupid the lawsuit is.

I would recommend writing up a small sign stating that the condoms contain latex (if they do), with something like "Latex condoms, FREE. Please take responsibly".Answer #2: I’m near the Reading area. I just want to thank you for this mitzvah!


Title: TN - College student who signed a lease and didn't know it was a party apartment complex

Question:
Hey legal advice

Last August I signed a lease to live in an apartment complex close to my school for 1 year. I had no idea that this place was party central for my college. I'm fed up with the loud neighbors, inconsiderate parties, and general uncaring of management. I've called the police a couple of times and have complained to management a few times but not in writing. I have no idea what to do, there is nothing in the lease about exit fees or anything of the such. I have no cosigner so it's just my name. I've noticed that they post eviction notices on people doors who don't pay on time and are late stating "payment by x date or you're evicted" but is this a good route to go? Should I just not pay the bill and hope to get evicted? The contract is 50 pages long and I've read it multiple times trying to find something about exiting the lease. If you need more info, I will gladly reply to comments or update post.

Update: the auto message kind of answered my question. Also, I received an email about 2 weeks ago with a "regulations reminder" about increasing fees, new fees such as dirty room fee "they're not cleaning it either", and a few other things.

Answer:
 > Should I just not pay the bill and hope to get evicted?

Not if you want to ever rent a decent place again in the future.


Title: Last will has a bizarre provision in it AND a grant deed was filed to the wrong person! [TX]

Question:
My grandmother recently passed, and her last will has basically left the family in shambles.

The issue is in regard to real property located in Texas. Grandma passed away in California (predeceased by her husband), the same place where her last will was notarized. She has 5 living children, none of which reside in the Texas property.

According to her last will, the Texas property shall pass to the current occupant (another family member but not one of her children) IF they jump through Hoops "A", "B", and "C".  Without being specific, these 'hoops' are just ridiculous demands regarding their lifestyle that grandma included as a final FU. No one expected the occupant to comply with these hoops, and they have flat out said they won't do it.

This has caused a lot of angry phonecalls and text messages, with some family thinking the property should be sold and split between the 5 children, but others think the family member occupying the property should inherit it without any debate.

One of her children is now claiming to have an older will that we must use, because grandma couldn't possibly have been in her right mind when she signed the new will. That person has already lawyered up and wrote some pretty nasty stuff on facebook. They also refuse to share the old will with anyone else.

Now everyone is saying things like "*Well I talked to my friend who's a lawyer and she said blah blah blah*." It's getting out of hand, and things may be about to get even more complicated.

My grandmother may have filed a grant deed to **me**. Now, I am 99% certain she had never EVER intended the property to be mine. However, I am named after her and our names are very very similar. For some bizarre reason, she filed a grant deed from her herself to her "living estate", then from her "living estate" to herself again but she spelled her name wrong and instead put my name. We do not know why she did this, but it seems pretty clear she could have put the occupant's name and deliberately didn't.

This whole situation is a big mess and I just want it to be over. My parents have urged me to talk to an estate planning attorney, but I do not live in TX so I'm not sure going to a local one would help. So I figured I'd ask here first.

I guess my question is, how will this go down given the facts? Who the hell is going to end up with this house?
Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer:
 >Now, I am 99% certain she had never EVER intended the property to be mine.

Don't assume. Plenty of grandparents give things to random grandchildren, specifically to create strife for their children.

Honestly, this sounds really complex. The only thing worse than "my friend is a lawyer and they said..." is "A bunch of strangers on Reddit said...". All you're going to do is muddy the waters more, and possibly set yourself up with some unrealistic expectations. If I were you, and if you have any kind of interest or claim in this estate, then I would be speaking to a lawyer.


Title: GA - child support question

Question:
Currently going through a divorce. In Georgia there is a worksheet the state provides that takes into account the income of both parents and the amount of money they pay for the child's bills.

I pay 100% of my 3 year old's bills (daycare, health insurance, etc). Of the combined income between me and my ex I make 65% and he makes 35% of it.

He lives outside his means and now claims he can't afford the amount the worksheet says he has to pay. It's over 10% of his annual gross income. After we split, he bought a much more expensive house than we had together as a family and a brand new car. He's also taking classes in grad school (his company reimburses that though).

Here are my questions; Does he have a leg to stand on here? Can he really get out of paying the full amount the worksheet says he has to pay because he "can't afford it"?  My income alone is enough to support our child, so the money isn't required for our survival or anything. But it would be nice to have some help and have extra money to invest in my child's name (529 and a mutual fund).

Answer: Living a lifestyle beyond your income is not justification for not paying the child support you owe.


Title: Landlord threatened to sue due to slow business

Question:
So about a year ago, me and wife took over a closed business on other state and ran it, without even knowing the market, I know, stupid and bold move. So we never had our own business and this was the first. So didn't know much about anything, we signed a lease on the building for about 5k a month for 5 years.

Well the stupid thing was, we signed the lease as us being guarantors instead of under company name.

Fast forward a few months, business was dead as heck, like we barely made even to pay rent. So after about a year, we decided we couldn't do this anymore and just left the place and went back to our home state. We emailed the landlord explaining our situation and she was quiet for a couple months, then last week i received an email from her attorney stating that we had to pay the lease for the past couple months plus legal fees or she's threatened to sue us. Note this, she is unwilling to forfeit the lease so I'm asking you, redditors, for advice.

I'm currently working in my home state and making about 2k a month.

What should we do next?
I'm thinking to file chapter 7 or chapter 13 bankruptcy because there is no way i can afford to pay the rent anymore.
So please, i need advice so badly right now. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 >i received an email from her attorney stating that we had to pay the lease for the past couple months plus legal fees   or she's threatened to sue us. Note this, she is unwilling to forfeit the lease so I'm asking you, redditors, for advice.

This is a very good offer.  I am surprised you are even thinking of not taking it, given that you could be liable for much more than that.

BTW: the landlord is not threatening to sue you because of slow business.  The landlord is threatening to sue you because you failed to fulfill the contractual duties you agreed to.


Title: Can you be summoned to court for bad language?

Question:
Looking for a little advice, any help would be appreciated!

I was attempting to pay my restitution today to end a prior case. The only other condition from my case was that I'm on unsupervised probation for 2 years. It was a minor property damage issue between vehicles that I was taken to court over.

I've attempted to call the office multiple times and I've gotten the same snotty woman each and every time. Each time, I get a lecture, then I get transferred to another department, which almost always takes me to voicemail. I've left multiple voicemails for the past week and have not gotten a return call.

She has basically refused to help me get the information I need to pay, despite this being the number the court gave me to call in order to pay. I finally got frustrated and called her a few choice names. She told me she was sending a court summons to me to appear in front of a judge because I was being mean and nasty. This is bullshit right? You can't seriously be taken to court for this?
Edit: The case is in Missouri

Answer:
 >  This is bullshit right?

No, it's not.  If you verbally abuse the court, the judge can call you on the carpet and hold you in contempt.

Go down there in person and try talking to someone.  You're more likely to get a good answer that way.


Title: Former roommate illegally changed the locks to our apartment then got evicted. Now I'm being contacted to pay and have damaged credit. US/California (22f)

Question:
In 2015, I got my first apartment with a girl. We both had our names on the lease and I was paying majority of the rent since I had the master bedroom. Fast forward to some months, there was a dispute and I left to my mom's for the night. Once I returned the next morning, I realized the locks were changed.
Got in contact with the office and informed them, but they wanted nothing to do with the issue. I was just given name removal form.
I returned to my apartment tried contacting my roommate. Long story short, I had to have my family, friend, and boyfriend at the time gather my things since I was being denied access to my unit by her. She refused to sign the removal form and I left for the day.

Texted her the following morning telling her that what she did was illegal and it would be in the best interest for the both of us if she signed and found another roommate.

My plan was to ignore her until the lease was up, but since she forced me out, I was denied that option.

I still have the screenshots of our conversation where she told me she would not sign the form, but still expected me to pay rent until the lease was up. Of course, I'm not paying for a unit I am not occupying so I began my search to protect myself.
Got in contact with a legal document holder and payed for him to send a letter to my roommate and the leasing office explaining that I was no longer occupying the unit, therefore, not obligated to pay. Heard nothing else from it since.

Maybe a year or close to it later, I get a letter in the mail which notified me that I had to pay around $3,000 for the unit. This told me that she got evicted. I got in contact with the debt collectors and was told by their staff member to send them the screenshots I mentioned earlier as proof that I was not involved and I would be cleared.
Well, some months later, I'm contacted again for the same thing, but with a slightly less balance which means she started putting some money towards the unit.
I tried getting in contact with the debt collectors and legal document holder with no success.
School and personal events in life became the focus which caused this to be put on the back burner.
Later down the line, my former roommate contacted me demanding that I help her pay and I immediately shut that down. I made sure to screenshot that conversation as well.

Life came up again and this got pushed back.
Now, I have a consultation in June and I hope to put this behind me.

What is the best way to tackle this? Do I have a strong case and would I be able to sue her for all of this?

I just want this off my credit history and to get proper justice for all the mess she put me through.

Thank you for reading. Any feedback is appreciated.

TL;DR: Had my name on the lease with an old roommate then had a dispute and left for the night. Returned to changed locks and was forced to move out, but roommate refused to take my name off the lease then got evicted and now I'm being hassled to pay the remaining balance and have damaged credit.

**I'm aware I have a debt to pay. I am here to get a broader scope of options. I was looking for ideas or advice that isn't apparent. Ex: "You have to pay your debt"

Answer: Since you signed the lease you are liable for the unpaid rent on the apartment. You probably should pay the debt and then sue your former roommate for your damages. Are you sure there was actually an eviction proceeding in court? If there was, and you weren't aware of it, it might be possible to get the judgment vacated which could lead to it being removed from your credit history.Answer #2: She didn't sign the form so you were still obligated for the full lease term regardless of whether you lived there. However, you were improperly evicted by her changing the locks, but since you didn't do anything about it at the time your name remained on the lease and you remained liable.


Title: HELP! Potential neighborhood legal issue.

Question:
Hey!

I'm in New Jersey and this happened today. I need some advice.
So, I live in a development. I live alone. I'm a guy with no wife or kids in a development full of young families.

What happened today? I'm off, and I'm drinking beers in my living room and watching football. I step outside for a smoke on my porch and see some neighborhood kids (>10 years old) rolling around on skateboards. They're skateboarding in the street in front of my house and no harm is being done.

All of the sudden, one of them TRIES TO GRIND ON THE BUMPER OF MY CAR, which happens to be parked in the street.

He falls back, his head smacks off the street, and he's writhing in pain on the ground. I run over and start asking him basic questions. I instruct the other kids to go alert his parents and I call an ambulance because I'm afraid of a head/neck/back injury for the little guy. I'm telling him to stay still on the ground and not move. It's important to note that I'm a career firefighter/EMT and am seasoned when it comes to injuries such as this.

A few minutes later, the parents come marching over, with dad ready to roll up his sleeves and fight me as if I did something wrong.
I barely know these people. I keep to myself in this neighborhood as I'm seemingly viewed as a pariah since I don't have a family of my own. It's usually just casual greetings to my neighbors.

Anyway, dad and mom are freaking out about me parking my car IN THE STREET (which is public property, to my knowledge) and how this is my fault.

I didn't know the kid was going to attempt to grind his board on my bumper! Where were the parents?! Why weren't they supervising?
Anyway, the cops show up along with an ambulance. The kid is taken to the ER and dad stays behind to confer with the police.

The cops ask if I have been drinking. I admit that I have, but claim that it was in the safety and privacy of my own home, and that it should not be an issue.

The dad starts claiming that I was "driving the car" and "hit [his] son." I called bullshit on that right away and told the police that they were free to start my car and see that the engine was running cold. It's important to note here that it's snowing in NJ and there is no evidence of me even touching the cat at all, as it is covered in snow.
"I'll give you the keys, and you can start the car," I said to one of the police officers, savvy to the fact that if I started my vehicle in my inebriated state, that they could potentially hit me with a DUI. The officer refused! I took a few pictures of my car at that point and the officers asked me to show them my phone. I said no. They threatened to charge me with public intoxication.

I reminded them that we were on private property and asked if they'd gotten statements from the other kids who were playing with the injured boy. They had not.

Upon getting statements, all the other kids corroborated my story and the police were forced (much to their chagrin) to accept the fact that I was minding my own business and that this was in no way my fault.

The whole time, the dad is cussing me out and saying explicit threats, which the police officers "understand" given his "mental state."

The police officers took my information and advised me not to leave the premises, as they'd be conducting an investigation at the hospital with the injured boy.

The dad also kept screaming at me that I'd be hearing from his lawyer.

After everyone left, I checked my car and noticed a scratch on the bumper. I immediately took photos and contacted my insurance agent (voicemail), and left a message.

Other neighbors all took an ambivalent stance on the matter, but clearly didn't trust my version of the story.

Anyone have any advice as to what I should do next?

TL;DR: In NJ. Skateboarding kid gets hurt and fucks up my parked car's bumper on my street. Cops against me. Parents wanna sue. I apologize for the wall of text.

Answer:
 if the other kids corroborated your story, you should continue to live life as normal. Answer #2: 1. Send the father of the delinquent the bill to repair your bumper.  Give him a reasonable time within which to pay. In that letter, advise him that neither he nor his child(ren) are allowed on your property and this is their trespass notice.
2. Send the letter by certified mail, return receipt.
3. Set up cameras around your house and car.Answer #3: Let your insurance handle seeking reimbursement. That will limit your exposure to these people. If the police contact you for further questioning, hire a criminal defense attorney before speaking with them. Answer #4: Sigh. This is why there are so few good Samaritans these days. If you'd just stayed inside, you'd just have a funny story to tell and maybe a few bucks from insurance for the damage to your car.

There should be nothing to worry about - there's a police report with all the kids corroborating your side of the story, and your photos showing your car covered in snow.

Answer #5: You need to get some security cameras.  Even if nothing comes of this incident, that dad is not going to let it go.

I would get at least one camera and put it where it can view your front yard and your car.


Title: Fired after OSHA complaint

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I used to work at a bank. A couple of times i was asked to grab some supplies down from the upper part of a closet. I'm 5'1, was wearing a skirt and high heels. But I grabbed a ladder and pulled the heavy box down. I didnt call OSHA because i was not injured and i didnt see it as a dangerous task. I saw my coworkers in suits hanging banners to attract business all the time, and i live in Los Angeles so 100 degree weather is a chilly day here.

I guess I'm just confused why OSHA needed to be called? If you felt it was an inappropriate task, you could have filed a complaint with HR - bank HRs are amazingly efficient because they have to be to protect the company.

But like everyone else said, if your bosses made it seem like the OSHA call was the reason you were fired then look into filing an EEOC claim. Good luck!Answer #2: yeah, you should consult an attorney. If the employer fired you in retaliation for an OSHA complaint you'll have a case for wrongful termination. Proving this is not always easy but an experienced lawyer will be able to tell you if it's worth pursuing. Answer #3: You should file for unemployment.


Title: Can a merchant use my credit card to charge for a prior disputed purchase?

Question:
So I had a long time business relationship with a supplier. A couple years ago we had a dispute on a payment, long story short I refused to pay them for the particular purchase and its somewhat a complex situation involving multiple parties. I have since continued to do business with them.

For a recent purchase I provided them with my credit card information. I then learned several days later that they charged my card for the prior disputed balance despite having received clearly written messages we are disputing the amount, and certainly we did not authorize them to use this particular card for it.

I know the basic way to solve this is with simple court over the original value, but I want to know if they committed a crime by using my credit card for a purchase I did not authorize, and if so if I can use this as a way to convince them to return the funds?

My business is in Pennsylvania and they are located in New York.

Thanks for your assistance.

Answer:
 Just dispute the charge with your credit card company.

Do not commit extortion by threatening to go to law enforcement unless you are given money. "Return my money or I'll go to the police" is acceptable. But it's a fine line between that and extortion, do not cross it.


Title: Am I still able to press charges?

Question:
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Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 You don't "press charges."

You call the authorities and they investigate and decide if charges are filed.

Sounds like you did that and they said "no."

You can certainly call back and see what they say- if they will file charges then they will.  But they don't have to.


Title: Given 10x the right dosage of Ketamine in an ambulance after a shoulder dislocation - legal standing?

Question: I dislocated my shoulder while mountain biking. I was in a lot of pain so they gave me Ketamine as an anaesthetic. Meaning to give me 8mg, they gave me 80mg, knocking me into the 'k-hole' - not a pleasant experience. The ambulance guy was really nice so I don't WANT to, but I'm just curious to what could happen legally?

Answer:
 Somethings not right here—

The adult dose of (I assume IV) Ketamine *starts* around 0.5-1mg/kg. Assuming you’re a normal adult male, 80mg would be right in that range.

Either something was misdocumented or you’re remembering incorrectly.

Edited to add: there is no legal recourse for having a known side effect occur, to a medication you had never taken before, and was administered correctlyAnswer #2: What are your damages?


Title: Child visitation and over night guests? (GA)

Question:
My boyfriend Dave and I have been together for 4 years and have lived together for the past 2 1/2 years. Dave has a 7 year old daughter named Sarah. Dave and I have lived several states away from Sarah and he would travel to visit her every few weeks, but without me, so this hasn't been an issue before. We recently moved back to where Sarah and her mom Erin live. We're staying with family for a couple of months while we look for a house of our own. Sarah stays with Dave every other weekend, but I have to find other places to stay on the nights that Sarah is over because Dave can't have over night guests according to the custody paperwork. Erin has mentioned getting that changed for us since I've been around for so long and Sarah and I have a great relationship. She just hasn't gotten around to it yet. The problem I'm having is that Dave and I are moving into our own place next week. I hate to keep having to leave my own house every other weekend, and Sarah has started to question it. We've been telling her that there isn't enough room for all of us, which is true in our current situation. But I can't use that excuse after next week. If Erin says that it's ok, can I stay overnight? Or should I just wait until we get the approval in writing? I'd hate for Erin to change her mind or something to happen that would cause Dave to lose his visitation privileges. To stay or not to stay?

*Names changed :)

Answer:
 I would follow the existing custody order to the letter until changes are approved by a judge.

Some people might have the mother put her approval of you staying over in writing and hope for the best, but if things go very far south between him and his ex that might make a difference. A judge's order doesn't change because *Erin* said it was ok.


Title: HOA Wants to bring suit for AirBnB hosting

Question:
Location: Texas

So i've been hosting on AirBnB for quite some time now and my neighborhood is fed up with it.  The residents are pressuring my HOA to take legal action since i've ignored their letters.  The main reason i ignored the letters is because my covenants do not explicitly restrict short term rentals. I'm allowed to rent rooms or the entire house, while being present or not, to however many individuals from different families as long as it does not exceed the rooms in the house. House is 4 bedrooms, i stay in the master and rent out 3.

My question isn't so much what i should do, its more so to gain familiarity with a legal process such as this.  I started airbnb because i got layed off and needed the cash to pay the mortgage. I still have yet to find a job (its TOUGH out there), so i'm still renting rooms. Basically, i don't have a lot of cash to just dish out to test the waters on this situation, even though i'm 70% sure i would win a case as their legal argument is weak. If i wait till they file suit, can i just stop hosting and not have to pay anything if i find their suit has strong legal standing?  If they file suit and their argument is weak (most likely scenario), What can i expect in terms of cost to play this out? Like, step by step?

FWIW, the clause they're trying to get me on is permitted uses, running a business through my home. Specifically, the residential nature of my neighborhood. MY cc&r prohibits obvious businesses but exempts leasing and a later clause permits renting with no duration restrictions so long as renters abide by the rules.

"The properties shall be used for private, single-fam ily residential purposes only, or as part of the Common Areas. No professional, business, or commercial activity to which the general public is invited shall be conducted on any portion of the properties or any lot, except an owner or occupant of a residence may conduct business activities so long as........(vi) the business activity is consistent with the residential character of the subdivision and does not constitute a nuisance or a hazardous or offensive use, or threaten the security or safety of other residents of the subdivision."

Answer:
 Their legal argument is actually ironclad and YOU will lose if there is a lawsuit. You're breaking the agreement that you signed. If you want to be an air b n b host you can move. If you want to live where you now live you need to stop breaking that agreement. Answer #2: > I'm allowed to rent rooms or the entire house, while being present or not, to however many individuals from different families as long as it does not exceed the rooms in the house.

Which clause are you getting that from?


Title: Employment discrimination (SC)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Discrimination against you in favor of a family friend is legal.


Title: Prepared for the answer to be "just kick his ass. Nothing the law can do, for real". Ex-friend harassing my best friend.

Question:
My female best friend used to be friends with this gay guy who came to our high school freshman year. I kinda hung out with him a little towards the end but they eventually had a huge fight and he started posting really rude immature stuff on Facebook about her.

Whatever. Not a big deal. Everybody is judging him for it. His loss. But tonight, months later, he started giving people her number (he's across the country at college) tonight, horny people. She's getting numerous calls saying I'm horny wanna fuck? I want her to ignore it, but she's seriously shaken up.

We are all at different ends of the country. All I want to know is any advice you guys have. Is there anything I can do to help her? She has a boyfriend (one of my best friends as well) but he's useless tbh. If there's nothing I can do, that's fine. I'm not looking for a magical solution. Just asking if there's anything I'm overlooking. If this is relevant, he's in Texas and she's in MA.

Answer:
 Advice:  Tell her to change her phone number.  That's the quickest and easiest way to solve the problem.

She could also report the doxxing and/or sue him if she can prove that it's him doing it.

No one here will advise you to commit assault.  That would be *terrible* legal advice.


Title: Do I Have To Share EVERYTHING With My Tax Attorney?

Question: So, this upcoming tax season will be the first time I'm paying taxes. I will be using both a 1099 and W2. My W2 comes from a retail shop I work at. My 1099, however, comes from a line of work I do that's not so normal. Basically, I'm a photographer who captures nude modeling, like for magazines such as Playboy and Maxim, and the occasional, yes, adult film - and yes, it's all legal, but it isn't something I'm proud of, it just pays the bills very well. It may seem like not a big deal, but I absolutely do not want anybody to know I do this, not even my tax attorney. When season comes and I need to file my 1099, what all do I have to disclose? Can I just meet my attorney, say "let's do this," claim I'm simply a photographer if questions arise, and be in and out? Or do I need to give specific details about exactly what kind of photography? Thank you. I live in California if that matters.

Answer:
 If you want accurate returns that won't land you in hot water with the IRS down the line, you need to give your CPA or tax attorney all your W2s and 1099's.  If they need more information about the type of work for your forms, tell them photography.  If they need more detail, provide it.  Do not lie.

Your CPA or attorney are both bound to keep your information confidential, and neither of them really care anyway.


Title: If I have a registered emotional support dog, do I have to pay a pet fee my apartment?

Question:
I was diagnosed with chronic depression some time ago and my therapist recommends an emotional support animal. My doctor also thinks it would be a good idea.

The pet fee at my apartment is $500 and nonrefundable, but I can easily adopt a dog for free. If I get a dog and have it registered/trained do I have to still pay the pet fee?

I'm in Arkansas.

Answer:
 There is no registration for an ESA.

You need a letter from your doctor starting that you need an animal to accommodate your medical condition. Answer #2: There's no such thing as registering an ESA.

That being said, no, you cannot be charged a pet fee or deposit.

However you are responsible for any damage to the unit the animal may cause.


Title: When I marry my Iraqi boyfriend, would that make him a permanent resident? (USA)

Question:
So I have been in a long-term exclusive relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years, known him for 5. He has been a permanent resident since 2008, but because of a misdemeanor in 2011, he might have his green card revoked by immigration. He is in the middle of court proceedings right now.

Best case scenario is that his criminal lawyer can reduce his charge from Class B misdemeanor to Class C. If so, he will remain a permanent resident.

Worst case scenario is the charge sticks, and immigration will take away his green card. He won't be deported because he is a refugee from Iraq, which is still considered a country in turmoil. So he will be in limbo, not a permanent resident, and unable to be deported to Iraq until the country is deemed safe (maybe sometime in the next 1,000 years??? lol)

My question is, when I marry my boyfriend, will that make him a permanent resident again regardless of his case outcome? Are there any benefits of getting married now?
Topic:
Immigration

Answer:
 You need to talk to an immigration lawyer--with this many different confounding factors, only an expert is going to be able to give you advice.Answer #2: Aren't you the lady whose boyfriend was charged with a drug crime, fought with an officer, and ended up with your boyfriend in a tracking anklet? And now your plan is to get married?Answer #3: Not a lawyer, but I can tell you that it's not in any way automatic. You have to apply for him to get his green card, and will likely need a lawyer as the moral character requirements will still apply.Answer #4: Green cards are usually revoked/rejected if the holder has a history of "crimes of moral turpitude" which the State Department defines as:

>A conviction for a statutory offense will involve moral turpitude if one or more of the elements of that offense have been determined to involve moral turpitude. The most common elements involving moral turpitude are: (1) Fraud; (2) Larceny; and (3) Intent to harm persons or things.

Your boyfriend doesn't become a permanent resident automatically after marriage. He must apply for a green card, and if he already has one you don't automatically change the basis of filing for a green card.  A green card is a green card, no matter the basis. If he gets it taken away, he probably can't get a new one if he applies again. There is nothing that protects a non-US citizen from deportation even with a green card. Green cards are permission to enter,stay, and work in the US, they do not confer a right to residency.


Title: Legal entrapment: can’t get out of the lease

Question:
I am currently stuck in the strangest situation I have ever encountered. I have a one year lease with a colleague that is ending in February.

The leasing office requires a 2 month notice. When I asked my roommate about renewing, she said no and that we should put in our notices. So I gave the office my notice and then later to my surprise the called me and said my roommate did not turn in her notice to vacate.

So long story short the lease ends on the end of February anyways, and neither of us have asked to renew. She did give the office a verbal notice that she is moving out, but then chose to go MIA and not respond to emails/calls, letters.

The office informs me that now the apt will go into month to month automatically and my notice to vacate has become invalid. I then spoke to my roommate and she said she doesn’t mind going month to month and told me to vacate t the nd if the lease and she will take care of the lease on its own.

But she will not talk to the leasing office and they need her to sign documents, and to financially qualify for the apt. So I honestly don’t trust her.

The office said that I will continue to be responsible financially for the rent until we both sign a vacate form.

Now my question is, if my lease is already over is it possible that I would still be liable for the apartment?

My roommate is a miserable person who got fired from her job. And is still able to make rent but I double she could afford the whole apartment on her own. Also I have a feeling in my guts that she is up to something sketchy.

I read the lease (30+ pages long) and it is confusing. But it seems like we both need to give a written notice together and also vacate the apartment on time.

How am I responsible for another adult? And o feel like she is livid on this power as she is losing every where else. I try to communicate and brought in all the forms required, and she would tell me I am confused and I should just leave at the end of the lease.
I thought about calling her parents , but not sure what they would say.

Could this be legal? Can I be stuck in a lease forever with this person as long as she never leaves?

Also there are issues where it says we are not supposed to smoke in the apartment , while she does, can that be a valid reason? Or should I just move out at the end of the lease and let everything burn?

Sorry for the long rant, but this seems like a very weird situation and I feel like the office is not being honest.

Appreciate any advice you guys can give me.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Talk to a lawyer

They'll write out a nice letter for you explaining exactly how what they're doing is completely illegal and that should get them to stop


Title: Pregnant, will have to fight for child support, do not want father to have custody.

Question:
Speaking for a friend here.

Got pregnant, ex did not agree with decision to keep child. Broke up. He said he would pay for the baby but refuses to go over any medical bills, just gives out a couple hundred every once in a while. Recently said to spend the weekend at his place in order to get money for medical bills.

And now speaking as myself, a very concerned friend.

We live in Missouri, a red state. The court will very heavily favor him if he asks for partial custody because he is wealthy, and we don't want him to have partial custody after he abandoned her, and if he gets enough custody then he might not have to pay any child support. We want his child support money because he promised that he would take care of it, but as far as visitation we dont believe he has any rights to it, he's a terrible person.

I'm very concerned with how he has been handling her medical bills, just giving out money but not actually going over any bills, and now she's at his place for the weekend and i feel sick about it. She doesn't want anything to do with him but he is delusional and wants to buy a house with her and get engaged. If it comes to court, he will win.

Do you guys have any advice about what we can do to prepare for court when it eventually comes to that? Is there any evidence we can gather, anything we can do to make sure he does not get custody? She wants him out of her life. The baby is not due for another 6 months. I am worried that because he is rich, he already had a lawyer and the things he is doing are things that will favor him in court later.

Answer:
 Just as an FYI your notion that Missouri will favor him because “it’s a red state” is ludicrous.

Every state favors both parents being in the children’s lives.


Title: Is this illegal or just an unethical workplace...

Question:
A friend of mine was recently pulled aside during work to managements office and without explanation or permission was told to hold out their hands as the superiors in the office shut the lights off and shined a black light flash light on their hands and was told to show both sides. After this said person was then told go back to work without being told what the reason was or given any explanation as to why such procedure had just happened.

About an hour later said friend was asked if they would like to know why that happened and responded with yes I would like to know. Managements explanation was that there had been theft recently in a employee only work area and they had set a trap with an invisible powder to catch the thief so they could solve the issue.

Management had placed valuables in the area for a short period of time and observed anyone that came into said area through security cameras. After the valuables had been taken they then pulled in any employee who had been in that area from time of placement of valuables until they new they had been taken. They pulled in 5 employees and proceeded to repeat the procedure mentioned above. They did not succeed as none of the employees that were examined had any powder of any sort on them. And no further employees were questioned or examined.

Said friend is one of 65 employees who were working and have access to said area. Yet only 5 were examined. And no others were approached. Is this illegal or just an unethical workplace?

Answer: I don't see anything illegal or unethical about this.


Title: Sister-in-law used my wife's name at a hospital, now we're being contacted for the debt

Question:
My sister-in-law OD'd on Heroine in a city nearby and she gave my wife's name when she was taken to the hospital.  We only found out about this after the hospital sent us a bill for $1000 (we knew about the overdose, not that she used my wife's name).  We've notified the hospital of the identity theft, but they were speaking to us like it wouldn't necessarily fix the issue or erase the debt.

We've contacted the local police department but they said we couldn't file a police report since it didn't happen in the town we live in.  We contacted the police department in the city that she OD'd in, and they said that we'd have to drive out and file it in person.

With all of this, I have two questions:  Is the hospital legally allowed to hold my wife accountable for this debt, when we reported identity theft, and when her SS# wasn't used?  Second question,  is there any way we can file a police report *without* driving a few hours away to the city that my sister-in-law OD'd in?

Thanks for your help, we've never been involved in anything like this before.

Edit:  This is in the US, Ohio Specifically.

Update:  Thanks for your support, everybody!  We're going to drive up this weekend, and we've contacted the social security office to put a lock on my wife's number.  We're not sure how she would have gotten my wife's SS#, we think the hospital messed up and read the number off to her when they were trying to identify her (based on the response that the collector gave us on the phone earlier today).

Answer:
 Besides a name, does the hospital have any other identifiers?

Did your sister in law know your wife's birth date and year?

Her social security number?

If all the hospital has to go on is a name, then they haven't done their part in identifying the patient.

You can file a police report, however, any inquiry as to where your wife was on the day of your sister in law's admission will show that your wife was no where near the hospital.

Now the hospital has a fraudulent/identity thief patient that they have to research.

Imagine this wasn't your sister in law but a stranger.Answer #2: Drugs suck the very bones out of families. I'm sorry that you have to endure this, on top of what are probably a thousand other just-as-bad fiascos. You must be so tired. Hugs to you, OP.Answer #3: You have to go to the city. They SHOULD have a way of doing a report from a distance, but since they seem like they don't, go over there. It stinks. Answer #4: Unless the hospital has a valid reason to believe otherwise, they will continue to believe that your wife was their patient that day.  You will have to go through the legal channels and debt dispute to try to clarify it.  Perhaps the hospital has surveillance to prove it wasn't her?

If her SSN wasn't used, it may be easier to dispute, since matters aren't always reported to credit agencies when the debtor's identity cannot be confirmed.  I have a civil judgment for a debtor in FL that the credit reporting agency refuses to list as a judgment against the debtor because the judgment doesn't include his SSN, so they won't confirm the judgment is against the right person.


Title: Wife hit by drunk driver

Question:
My wife was sitting at a red light and was side swiped by a drunk driver going the opposite direction. There were 2 cop cars tailing the guy and he was pulled over immediately and arrested. He also had drugs in the car.

  One of the cops told my wife that somebody had called in and reported him for swerving and they had followed him “since McDonalds” (which is about 1.5 miles away from the accident) while he drove down a busy road with no headlights on at 11:30pm.

  Do we have any legal recourse against the cops for not pulling him over sooner?  Thankfully my wife was not injured but her car has significant damage.

Answer:
 > Do we have any legal recourse against the cops for not pulling him over sooner?

Almost certainly not.  Your cause of action is against the drunk guy who did the hitting in the first place.


Title: [CA] Why is the statue of limitations only 2 years for personal injury. If someone suffers an injury that lasts their whole life, shouldnt they have their whole life to sue?

Answer: No because who knows what could have happened between the time of the injury and when they sue. They have to show that their current problems are directly related to the incident they are suing over.


Title: Can I file a restraining order on my daughters boyfriend?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Because she is an adult, you've no standing to file the restraining order.Answer #2: She's an adult. She's got to do it. Answer #3: >She's responding but has told him to stop a couple times.

Not only can't you file for a restraining order to prevent someone from texting your adult daughter (because you don't have standing), but given what you have said your daughter probably wouldn't be granted a restraining order if she filed for one (because based only on what you have said here there is no basis for one - you don't get a restraining order just because someone is texting you despite your request that they stop - especially if you engage in conversation with them).

Explain to your daughter how to avoid drama and how she is worthy of valuable attention, not this type of shitty attention.


Title: Hypothetical: VR headsets are not recommended for children under the age of 12 for safety reasons. Places like Disney Quest, allowed and encouraged children to use VR. If a child developed problems with their eyes after using it, could the parents' possibly sue?

Question: In my head, I'm thinking no, but crazier things have happened. I'm 27 now. My grandparents and parents always said I would wreck my eyes if I sat too close to the television. I always thought that was something everybody knew. I'm sure Disney, and others, knew this as well. On the other side, the parents should have known as well and not let their children use it. Also proving the eye problems were caused by VR and not naturally or something other reason may be difficult.

Answer:
 Your parents and grandparents are wrong and are referencing the early days of television.

'Safety reasons' is a vague catch-all term, and can mean anything - including ~parental supervision required because your kid is an idiot and will stumble around the living room until they break something~.

In order to sue because children developed eye problems, you would need to prove:

  VR caused eye problems in children under the age of 12.
 Disney knew that VR specifically caused eye problems in children under the age of 12.
AND
This was the specific reason that they gave the very vague warning.

Then you would have to prove that the parents were not negligent in allowing the children to use these despite the warning label.


Title: Update of out of state pedophile step father

Question:
Again, sorry about the title I'm terrible at them.

After reading several people's advice I made some calls and found out that the investigation was dropped because "one of the victims refused to work with the investigation" and that they felt if both victims (me and my little brother) were willing to help then we would have a stronger case.

This strikes me as incredibly odd because both me and my brother were very willing to do whatever it took to help put him away. The only thing I can think of is maybe in the recordings they took of us crying was counted as not willing to face him in court or something.

Next I found out that all of the child porn and whatnot that we saw on his computers wasn't useable because they couldn't unlock the computers. They did say that he threw a tablet in a lake and that because he was hiding things like that, we had a stronger case. I asked if they still had them and we provided passwords if they could try to use them and the DA guy I talked to said they could. So I've compiled a list that me and my brother remembered him using and plan to give that to them.

I know who reviewed the case and who was investigating everything. I've called both people and the guy who reviewed it said that I could reopen it if I spoke with the investigator. I've called the investigator twice but he wasn't in the office.

Where should I go from here? I definitely don't want everything just swept under the rug and forgotten. He HAS to pay for what he did. But I honestly have no idea what I'm doing here.

Answer:
 Unless the computers are encrypted, the password won't matter.  If the investigators know what they're doing, the first thing they do is remove the storage drive and make an exact copy of it.  They then use the copy for all of their work so they never risk compromising the original evidence.  Getting around a login password is unnecessary to view the contents of the drive, and is trivial to do even if they needed to for some odd reason.  Now if the drive is encrypted, then all of that goes out the window and needing the password to the encrypted partition may be required.

I can't speak to the rest of it, but it sounds to me like they have someone that is not technical trying to handle that portion of the investigation.Answer #2: Is it possible that the step father has some sort of political sway or something that is causing someone higher up to not want to prosecute? If you know that you and your brother are both wanting to cooperate but they are telling you that one of you isn't willing to cooperate, and then they are saying they can't get the info off the drives, and stuff like that, it almost sounds like for one reason or another, somebody doesn't *want* the investigation to move forward? Or maybe I've watched too many movies... Answer #3: Is this local police or the FBI?  You should report him to both.  CP is almost always interstate, so there's federal stuff he might be on the hook for as well.Answer #4: I have no legal advise, I just want to let you know I am so sorry you are going through this. And to say you are so strong for going to the police.


Title: Company forcing employees to room together on the road

Question: Just as title says. Employees work on the road 5 nights/6 days every week. The employees have stated they do not feel comfortable rooming together but company says they have right to make the arrangements, since they are paying for it. One of the employees has health issues (diabetic and on dialysis machine) and doesn’t want to expose the other to all of his medical stuff. In Texas so what is there to do?

Answer: The only thing which *might* (and it's a big might) be actionable is your coworker's diabetes. Have they requested a reasonable accommodation? Again, I'm not sure if it would fall under that, but it's worth asking.


Title: Is it okay for a lawyer not acting as a lawyer to keep mum about something that would decrease his/her inheritance?

Question:
Hypothetical:

An attorney is set to inherit some money. She happens to know about something pertinent— a secret will, a secret marriage, a half sibling nobody else knows about— that would decrease the amount of money she would inherit. She keeps it secret to maximize her inheritance. Has she committed professional misconduct? She happens to be an attorney but is not acting as an attorney in this matter. Is this something the state bar would want to know about, or is there no duty to disclose?

Answer:
 Gonna play the "jurisdictional variation" card here, since the Rules of Professional Conduct differ from state to state. Some rules apply to attorneys even when they are not wearing their attorney hats, so to say. As a general note, lawyers are held to a higher standard than lay folk, as the integrity and dignity of the profession as a whole depends on the heightened ethical standards of the individual practitioners.Answer #2: Just making further assumptions, she is uninvolved in any way, she just happens to be the beneficiary of the estate.  So she is uninvolved with the drafting of any estate plan, is not acting as a fiduciary in any capacity in the estate, just waiting for money.

I do not think there would be any professional misconduct in that situation.  The only violation I could potentially see is if they signed or consented to the court ordered distribution knowing this material fact.  That might be a violation of their Duty of Candor to the court itself.

Personal anecdote:  I had a client disclose to myself (his attorney) and his daughter that he had a secret love child no one knew about.  That was an awkward meeting.


Title: [PA] Landlocked garage. Driveway has been open since at least 1990, now she wants it cut off. I thought my parents would win, my cousin is sure they won't but hasn't said why...

Question:
*"She" in the title is the neighbor - typing on a phone at a baseball game, sorry!*

EDIT: [Photo here](http://imgur.com/rRrzX0a) Note that the houses aren't that difference in size, I just can't draw. And the yard on my parent's side isn't large enough to fit a car through, I just didn't want to start over and kept drawing.... Also note that I wonder if any part of the driveway near our garage is on my parents' property, I don't know about that, but it was paved a long, long time ago as if the previous owner did intend to allow access via the route. Not that I think that matters, it's just weird. The neighbor has plenty of room to pull in when a car is backed into that little garage spot and has been pulling in and out with multiple vehicles for 2 decades.

My grandparents purchased their house in 1990. The garage attached to the property could only be accessed by a short, paved driveway on the neighbor's land and the neighbors said that was fine with them. They apparently wrote it into their deed that it must remain open for a time when they may sell to someone else.

Around 1997 another family moved in. The husband eventually started pitching bitch fits about the one night a week my gram needed to move her car for street cleaning but nothing ever happened because he smacked his wife around until they finally divorced and no one had to hear his screaming anymore. Things seemed fine between my gram, recently widowed, and the newly single neighbor.

My gram passed in 2011 and my parents began renting the property immediately to keep pipes from freezing. That renter left because she was a deadbeat and they got a new renter in who has been paying on time and really taking care of the place. The new renter moved in around late 2012/early '13 I think.

Now the neighbor wants her to cease using the driveway, making the entire garage inaccessible 2+ decades after it's been open, most of the time with her as the owner of the land the driveway was on. She's just now claiming she wants her off because "she only let the old woman use it to be nice and this is how they treat me, I'm just a poor foreigner." She has seemingly gone legitimately insane.

I thought this was an open and shut case - the driveway has been open for use since at least 1990. This woman agreed to this in the mid-90s. Taking that back now means no access to part of the property.

Today my cousin informed me that "she didn't want to tell her aunt nothing cuz once she gets something in her head she can't be talked to but she is gonna lose." She implied there is more going on that they don't know about - my cousin was only like 20, at most, when that place was bought so I'm like dude wtf?

Am I misunderstanding something?

**TL;DR** Can't access the garage without use of the short, paved driveway on the neighbor's land. First owner in 1990 said it was fine, wrote it into their deed. Second owner bitched a bit then got a divorce leaving the wife there alone. Wife was fine until this year, has resorted to calling the cops constantly and bawling about being a "poor foreigner". I thought it was an open and shut case; my cousin seems to think she knows something that my parents don't and that they'll lose for sure.

**More info**: My cousin is apparently claiming that the garage was built illegally before my grandparents bought it back in 1990. The guy who owned it did allow access to the garage but apparently asked them not to park in the driveway overnight, which I don't think they did. But doesn't her own re-telling prove its been open for too long to close?

Also, my parents are already starting a lawsuit against her at this point, I'm just really interested in all the armchair legal advice my family is throwing around. Lol

Answer:
 It's entirely possible you've got an easement written into the deed-- but stick around, /r/legaladvice *loves* landlocked neighbors. You'll have real estate attorneys dropping out of helicopters to weigh in momentarily!Answer #2: If it is in the deed, the neighbor can't just take it away, it is an easement that runs with the land. Could you clarify " it must remain open for a time. When they may sell to some  else?"  Is that what the writing on the deed says?Answer #3: I don't do real property, but easements fascinate me. It would seem it's in the deed, which means the neighbor can't just decide not to honor it. The tenant should continue using it in the meantime, and document any efforts on the neighbor's part to restrict access.

But I'm curious as to what it is your cousin thinks would drive this matter into the ground. Is the driveway concealing a bunch of dead bodies? Did grandma blackmail the original neighbor to get the easement? What unearthly secret could she be keeping?!Answer #4: I can't picture it. Can we get an MS paint diagram of the two properties, the property line, the driveway, and the main road?

Seriously though, the deed is going to control. Is there any other access to the main road for the rest of the property? Or is the garage and easment the only way they can get from their property to the main road?Answer #5: Saw "landlocked" and my heart leaped, only to be dashed again. Still waiting on an update from the other guy with the landlocked neighbor.


Title: Dominion Dental Settlement: Take it or leave it?

Question:
Got the postcard in the mail notifying me of settlement.

Seems odd that **11 years** of unprotected data results in maybe $100 per person whose PII was hacked, breached, stolen, etc.

Should I hire an attorney to attempt to get a larger settlement?

No, I'm not aware of anyone who has stolen my identity but I don't monitor or know how to monitor that type of thing on a global scale.

Answer: What damages have you suffered that you’d seek compensation for? You would need to demonstrate something beyond my PII was vulnerable and or accessed.


Title: "Unpaid Work Requirement

Question:
Quick question all.

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I live in Arizona. Received this email about an evening event they want ALL employees to attend (hourly and salary). Here's the first sentence:

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"All full time employees are expected to attend XXXXXX.  This event is outside of working hours and is an unpaid requirement."

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Is it even legal to require hourly (NOT salaried) to attend an event that is unpaid?

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Thanks!

Answer:
 If you are not salaried, and you are required to attend a work function, you must be paid your hourly rate (or more if overtime applies).Answer #2: Salary wise, yes, because you're required to complete certain jobs during the year so this would be one in their eyes. Hourly, no, they can't force you to ~work~ without pay, Answer #3: https://www.azica.gov/labor-wage-claims-main-page

Please file a wage claim if they don't pay it.Answer #4: Are you paid a salary?


Title: Police are pressing charges for my friends and I messing around with model rocket engines.

Question:
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Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 don't say a single word further to the cops or anyone. have your parents help you pay for a lawyer.

It's a little fishy, though, that of all the things you could have tied a rocket motor to, you picked a cell phone...Answer #2: > What's the worst we can be charged with?

Well, there are all sorts of bombing and terrorist charges on the books.  Lengthy prison sentence.

> What will realistically happen?

No one could possibly predict.  Here's a similar case:

http://www.almanacnews.com/print/story/2008/11/19/student-avoids-prison-for-dry-ice-bomb

You desperately need a criminal attorney, who would have told you not to confess your felonies to the police officers who came to the door, but it's a little late for that.  The attorney will also tell you not to confess your crimes on Reddit, but I guess it's a little late for that too.

Get a lawyer.  Shut up to anyone except your lawyer.
Answer #3: >We decide to put a bunch of firecrackers into a sealed altoids container

So you made a bomb and then got picked up on bomb making charges? Time to talk to a real lawyer in your area, your far past the Internets help on this oneAnswer #4: Model rocket engines are class C explosives, and BY law can only be used to launch hobby rockets vertically.
 shooting them horizontal is strictly forbidden.

trying to launch loads larger than 1lb requires FAA waivers.

fire crackers are class C explosives, and illegal many many places.

you're open to a LOT of charges, from illegal explosives, bombs, to FAA waiver violations.

you need a lawyer like Yester-fucking-day.


Title: Do university campus police have any real authority?

Question: Beyond citing you, do university policeman have any enforcement remedies; arrest, warrant, etc.

Answer: Yes. They are legal licensed police officers, the same as the city and county. Their jurisdiction happens to be the area of campus plus the school itself.  Depending on the state, they may even have authority outside of the campus area.


Title: [Hypothetical] My parents will likely die intestate

Question:
USA. North Carolina if I had to pick a state.

At this point I should just be called legaladvicethrowaway.

Here goes. Facts:

* I'm adopted with very messed up documents, which means that without a will I don't have the strong claim that a biological child would have.

* I'm maybe 70% sure that I can prove that I was adopted by my adoptive parents. This is a high estimate.

* This means that in most scenarios my aparents' siblings have the strongest claims. There are currently 2 on my amother's side, and 3 on my afather's.

* My afather's siblings will go the hardest after any profits. My amother's sisters are more sympathetic to me but will disregard me as primary heir.

* Regardless of what happens, my aparents' deaths will signal the end of any pretense that I am family.

* My aparents have a will that says everything goes to me (not that I am desperate for this)

* They won't sign it and likely never will.

Conclusion:

Their death will signal a madhouse for standard middle-class shit. Sorry, but it's true.

Due to the documents, it'd be easy legally and emotionally for their siblings to trample all over me. They will.

The plan:

Basically, I'm going to create a false sense of victory.

First, I will offer them to each claim their respective sibling's body for burial so they think I'm disinterested and ceding to them. If they claim it, time for step two.

Next, I will is to say that I will cede the primary claim to calm them down. I of course will not write this down. Once they're mollified, I will humbly ask that my amother's sisters go in first as there are fewer of them and some items are my amother's family's. I won't stake any claim to heirlooms. The goal is to create a false surrender. The smaller and slightly more sympathetic crowd will let me sneak in to grab some sentimental items provided they don't want them. Then the others can just ransack.

The most suspect ones will be first, and during their time I'll be working to get the house and as much control over the bank accounts as I can. My priority is the house for various reasons.

Is this a good plan? Is there anything else I'm missing?

Answer:
 None of that's going to happen.

The funeral director will talk to the next of kin and figure out burial arrangements. It will not be a bargaining chip you can meaningfully use, and the person ultimately in a position to make the final determination likely won't take into account whatever plans you have beyond finding out if you want the ashes/want to be at the interment.

You and your lawyer can file to have you recognized as your parents' adopted child, either now or after they pass. I would do that sooner rather than later: while they're alive, you can likely subpoena them to testify to the nature of your relationship with them, how they participated in your upbringing, whether they believe they adopted you and why, and so on. Once they're gone, that source of evidence goes with them. You can use the outcome of that to settle your relationship with your parents' estate if they die intestate: if you are their only child (adopted or otherwise), then [you stand to inherit the entire estate from whichever dies second](http://www.ncleg.net/EnactedLegislation/Statutes/PDF/ByChapter/Chapter_29.pdf).

Questions of strength of various claims don't enter into it. Frankly, modern succession law is not like Crusader Kings, for the very reasons set out _in_ Crusader Kings: heritable claims and fragmentary claims not supported by either written intention or statute tend to produce generation upon generation of bickering. For a middle-class family, that's just financially destructive, but at least won't start any wars.


Title: [OH] How can public schools punish students for what should be basic rights? Zero tolerance question.

Question:
My 17 year old daughter and her friends have been having problems with a former friend.  I know my daughter isn't 100% innocent but this other girl started the problems and lots of angry texts have been exchanged from both sides.  Today this girl decided to attack my daughter.  From what my daughter and the school has told me this girl came up and just started punching my daughter.  My daughter did not fight back because she does not want to be suspended.  She isn't being punished and the school is punishing the girl who attacked her.

According to the school's zero tolerance policy ANYONE caught fighting will be suspended.  She is afraid of missing days and falling behind in her classes because she has a full class schedule this year and always has a hard time playing catch up.  But what I don't understand is how the school can punish someone for defending themselves?  I have asked the school and can't get a straight answer.  In the real world if someone would charge you with fists flying you could defend yourself so you could get away.  Why isn't that the same at public schools?  Luckily, there was a couple teachers across the room and our daughter is fine.  But I worry that if the adults hadn't been there would she have gotten really hurt by trying to follow the rules?

Answer: Because schools have a broader latitude to administrate their policies and because teachers/staff often arrive in the middle of a fight and cannot determine who is to blame.


Title: Waiting for next college class in hallway, roof tile fell right next to me. What do?

Question:
Hey so I was waiting for my class to start and had a seat out in the hall and suddenly a roof tile fell right next to me covering me in dirt. It was literally a few inches away from me and I immediately took some pictures. I dont know if I have anything I can do with this so I am asking someone what they would do in my situation. Here are some pictures i took

- https://m.imgur.com/a/9gwNQz5

Wwyd?

Answer: You weren't injured, and dirt washes off. Go to class and stop looking for reasons to be unnecessarily litigious.Answer #2: Inform maintenance, or your professor who can likely inform maintenance if you do not know how to contact them.


Title: my mom stole my car

Question:
so the car is mine, I'm 16 and I've worked ever summer since I was 14 to afford it. I let my mom borrow it because her car was out of gas. when she came back, it was a MESS. there were half eaten apples on the floor, Starbucks cups littered everywhere, and she left a nice solid dent in it. This is nothing new, she has never kept any of her cars clean and despite all the safety packages in the world she has banged up her own car multiple times.

I called her out on it. I told her that she needs to get my car fixed and cleaned, so she reacted by taking my keys and driving away. This was about 4 days ago and she hasn't been home since. Apparently she's at some hotel and is trying to divorce my dad but she wont tell any of us where.

what do i do this whole thing is really weird

thanks

Answer:
 Questions:

-Do you live with your mom?

-Are you on her insurance policy?

-Is her name also on the car title?

-Has she made any contact with anyone who knows her whereabouts?Answer #2: Call your Dad, then the two of you call the police.

Yes, she's you mother but she tore up her "mom card" a long time ago. You don't need to feel sorry for her anymore.