Title: Is what happened to me considered sexual assault?

Question:
I (21F) broke up with my boyfriend (23M) a few months ago after finding out he had cheated on me. We were only together for 8 months, but in those 8 months there were a few times where he would violate my boundaries, especially when it came to sex. I live in Ontario, Canada, btw.

* The first time it happened, we had only been together for a few weeks. We didn't have sex yet (I was a virgin and just wasn't ready) but he would keep pressuring me. One night, we went for a walk and everytime we would kiss, he would keep sliding his hands in my pants and panties and I would tell him to stop and smack his hands away. He found it amusing and would laugh. Then, he would repeat his actions again 2 minutes later. This happened a few times throughout the night. The next day I confronted him over text and told him how it made me feel. He apologized and told me he wouldn't do it again.
* I was VERY adamant about him wearing condoms at all times. He used to pressure me to let him have unprotected sex with me but I always stood my ground and told him no. He was very manipulative and would also try to pressure me to have anal sex, and got upset when I told him to never ask me again and he needs to respect my body and boundaries. Eventually he shut up about both things.
* Once we were about to have sex but he didn't bother warming me up or anything. He just stuck it in (with a condom) and I told him it hurt and wanted him to use lube. And his response was ''shut up, slut.'' Eventually he did pull out and do what I said. He could be forceful at times, like if I was giving him a blowjob he would kind of lock my head so I was deepthroating him. Specific sex positions would cause me pain and I would tell him so, but every time we had sex, he would still try to move my body into those very same positions. Usually when I told him to stop because it hurt, he would, but still...how many times do I have to tell him xy position hurts and I don't like doing it?
* A month before we broke up, were fooling around. He was rubbing his genitals against mine (which I was okay with) but suddenly, without any warning, he slides it in without a condom. I didn't really know what to do at that point. I didn't immediately tell him to get off. I wasn't sure how to feel about it, but inwardly I was panicking that I would get pregnant. He started kissing me and penetrating me for about, idk, 30 seconds before I told him to pull out and he did. About two minutes later, he turned me over, bent me over the bed, and stuck it in again. I told him once again to pull out and he did right away.
* A few days after this happened, we were fooling around in the morning and he just flipped me over and stuck his raw dick inside me AGAIN. Without even asking. I told him that it really hurt and he said something along the lines of ''Shhhh, hold on.'' It made me feel really helpless when he did that, so I told him to pull out and he did.

I confronted him about the last two incidents over text and then we had a talk about it in person. He told me that he thought I wasn't strict about condom use anymore. I asked him WHAT in the world gave him the idea that I was suddenly okay with him not wearing a condom? He shrugged and said he mistook the absence of no as consent. Then I asked him why he wouldn't immediately pull out the moment I tell him that I'm in pain, and his only response was ''I don't know...I guess with the condom on, it doesn't feel as good.'' I asked him how it would make him feel if someone did this to his sister or nieces and he admitted it was fucked up. My friends tell me that it's sexual assault, but I'm not sure.

I don't have PTSD over what happened, but it leaves a very bitter taste in my mouth because he wasn't respectful of my boundaries. He also has a history of sexually harassing girls that I've only now just realized was sexual harassment. Before we got together, he sent me this email a girl in his clinical group (he's a nursing student) sent him. She told him that she feels uncomfortable when he asks her very uncomfortable questions, stares at her, touches her, and invades her personal space. She told him if he doesn't stop, she's going to bring up the issue to their professors. My ex told me he barely even interacted with her and immediately went to the professors to sort out the issue. But now I don't believe him and think he probably went to the professor first to get ahead of her and invalidate her. Also, he told me he went on a date with a girl from Tinder who was apparently uglier than her pictures. Despite this, he tried to grab her breast while they were at the movies and she smacked his hand away. Also, he once admitted to me that he would commit rape if he was guaranteed to get away with it.

My friends have urged me to go to the police and press charges. I'm very ambivalent about this. I'm afraid that he really will rape someone one day. It scares me that he's going to be a nurse in a year when he's not respectful of women's boundaries and is actually quite sexist. I'm not sure if what I experienced is considered sexual assault by the law, either. What if he just says ''Well, she didn't say no?'' or ''I thought she was okay with it.'' I'm afraid it won't be taken seriously because it wasn't exactly forceful and violent. The only evidence I have of these events taking place are text messages. I confronted him on text over things he did, describing his actions in detail, and telling him he needs to respect my boundaries.

Do I have a case here? Should I go through with it and press charges, or should I just try to move on?

Answer:
 Yes, just about all of these instances were sexual assault.

That said, I don't know if you should pursue this legally. Its going to be difficult to prove and the process is going to be emotionally draining for you, for probably little payoff.

But please, do learn a lesson from this, and leave any future relationships at the first signs of issues. This man clearly did not respect you or your boundaries from the get-go. You deserve better, and better guys *are* out there. This is not default male behavior, its asshole male behavior.


Title: Leased a car as brand new only to find out it was modified.

Question: I leased a brand new car for my wife last December (2017) using a broker. 3 months after getting the car, it would not go into reverse. I took the car to a local dealer and it was fixed under warranty. 4 months after that the side mirrors would open when the car was locked and the mirrors would close when the car was opened for driving. Took the car to the same dealer and fixed again under warranty. 4 months after that (now) every warning light on the dashboard lights up like a Christmas tree but the car drives and behaves perfectly normal.  Took the car to the same dealer again. Upon closer inspection, the tech noticed a wire under the steering wheel on the driver side that is blinking. He informed me this is not part of any stock vehicle and had to have been installed by a third party. Looks to be some sort of an alarm system or something. We haven't touched this car whatsoever nor made any modifications to it since taking possession of it. They are afraid this modification might be causing the electrical problems. Do I have any legal ground against the dealer and/or the broker that leased me the vehicle? Thanks in advance.

Answer: Possibly a device used to recover the vehicle if you stop making payments.  Check your lease agreement in detail.


Title: My boss told me not to pay overtime. Am I in trouble? Santa Clara, CA

Question:
I am the payroll person where I work and on separate occasions, my boss asked me not to pay overtime for a few employees. This is the result of the employee missing work and then making it up on a different work week. They agree with my boss to waive overtime.

We are paid bi weekly. Their hours would look like this:
Week 1 = 30 hours
Week 2 = 50 hours (employee makes up work on this week for hours missed in week 1)

On all occasions, I make sure to tell my boss that we have to pay overtime. He is well aware of the law and so are the employees but they agree to it anyway. I thought that if I did my due diligence each time, reminding him that it's overtime, that I wouldn't get in trouble. He acknowledges the issue but tells me to submit it each time.

Am I wrong? Should I quit? I really like working here and everything else is perfect besides that. Plus I need this job.

Will I get in trouble because I am the one submitting this paperwork and not blowing the whistle?

Answer:
 On your boss's end, this is textbook illegal. According to DoL, workweek is one week. He can measure it Wednesday to Wednesday if he wants, but combining weeks and averaging does not fly.

https://www.dol.gov/whd/overtime_pay.htm

However, you, personally, are probably fine even if he gets busted. S.B. 588 covers this sinced 1/1/2016, and it allows for criminal penalties against owners and "managing agents"...but managing agents are defined as follows

"exercises substantial independent authority and judgment in his or her corporate decision making such that his or her decisions ultimately determine corporate policy".  (California Civil Code, Section 3294.)

You probably don't qualify as one of these. However, do keep in mind you're working for an employer who is willing to flout at least one aspect of labor law.


Title: Car Accident with no insurance- what are my options?

Question:
So I was involved in a car accident with my insurance expired, and my driver license revoked due to a ticket that I have dealt with but DMV has not updated. During the accident, we exchanged all the necessary information and we did not involve the police. When I got into contact with said individual, he demanded I pay him 1000$ or he would sue, he's been harassing me through mail to try to get me to pay him this amount, and he would not accept payments in installments or even my friend fixing his car for free when offered.

My question is, how real is this case? could is there a possibility that he's really going to sue me? and what can I do about these mails that he keeps sending me? I'd really appreciate the help.

Answer:
 You damaged his car. You're liable for whatever it costs to fix, up to the market value of the car.

Asking for payment isn't harassment.

Pay him, or his insurance company will sue you.


Title: Do courts really look into financial affidavits? (Florida Child Support)

Question:
I (the non custodial father) and the mother have mediation this month for child support.

Basically I'm wondering because we had to fill out the affidavit, and along with filing them with the courts, we had to send each other a copy. She flat out lied about every expense she has. She says she pays rent, but she's lived with her parents for the past 5 years, rent free. She also claims she pays utilities and other bills every month, which I know she does not. She also claims she only makes $800 a month, which I DEFINITELY know is a lie. So I'm wondering do they fact check these affidavits or it that too time consuming for them so they just take your sworn word for it?

Answer: It's up to the other party to call the facts into question and present evidence.  The court does not have independent investigators.


Title: My school is suspending students for creating websites.

Question:
I live in Colorado.

My school is for some reason the most nazi-like school there is when it comes to computers. They've given us all laptops, but restricted everything from internet to not setting desktop background to only being able to access certain folders.

I'm pretty good with computers, so I was fine. I managed to find websites that weren't blocked or filtered and watch my movies and my games, but most everyone else suffered.

After two years of this, I finally created, from scratch, using all of my own code, a website I called [schoolname]isbored.com. The website simply linked to other websites and URL's with games, videos, and proxies.

Word got around pretty fast. The site started getting hundreds of hits per day and students were talking about it.
I expected this to happen and that they would just block the website like they blocked other sites. But they didn't.

Instead they looked up my information, which was registered to the domain. They pulled me out of class, confiscated my computer, and told me that they knew I was the owner of the website and that if I did not take it down, I would be suspended indefinitely.

So what did me, a soon-to-be-senior, do? I took it down of course. I had college applications, and that was more important to me than some stupid website. Then they suspended me for four days anyways. Two kids fighting in the parking lot got two days. I got four.

It's been almost a year since that happened now, I'm ready to graduate and enroll in an top-notch school, and I'm still furious about it, because they nabbed another kid for doing the exact same thing I was doing.

What I'm wondering is whether they had the right to do that; to tell a student they had to take their website down which was not coded, hosted, or administrated on school property, and threaten with suspension if they refused.

What about making a website is illegal? Can my school suspend someone for that, regardless of the content of the site or if they have proof? I thought it was personal property, and a method of freedom of expression.

EDIT: I just want to add that I realize making this website was probably a stupid thing to do. I know that already. I just wanted to know whether they could legally threaten me with indefinite suspension (at a public school) if I refused to take it down.

Answer:
 > My school is for some reason the most nazi-like school there is when it comes to computers.

I don't think you understand what the Nazi's were, what they did, and what they stood for. Perhaps you should pay more attention in school.Answer #2: Of course they had the right. You had the right to refuse and take your lumps. It is not a court of law. It is a school. The website was not illegal. You were never going to go to jail. Answer #3: > What about making a website is illegal? Can my school suspend someone for that, regardless of the content of the site or if they have proof? I thought it was personal property, and a method of freedom of expression.

No one claimed it was illegal. It was definitely disturbing the education of students so yes, they had the right to do it. Welcome to the real world kiddo.


Title: [MD] Renting Room, don't want to discriminate by family size, but I'd think three people living in a room is problematic.

Question: I have a 180 square foot room, that I am wanting to rent out in my house. One of the applicants is a family of three, which seems like it would be tight living, but I don't think I can reject them based on family size. Really I only want to rent the room to one person, and have put a charge for having additional people in the room for the current tenants. What am I allowed to do, because having extra people in that small room would seem like a risk, but I don't want to discriminate.

Answer: Not legal advise, but if you're paying the water or electric that additional strain will cause some much more expensive utility bills.


Title: My SO wants to work and live with me in the US but we aren't ready to get married

Question:
My SO is from Brazil, I am a natural born citizen of the US. She has a degree and has no reason to leave Brazil other than being with me. We are in a long distance relationship and are well on our way to tying the knot but since we are never together for more than a week or so at a time it's hard to gauge what our relationship will be like if we can't be together for more than that in a single instance.

We are exploring all our options however we aren't ready to get married. My Friday thought was for her to try and get a green card through a sponsored employer but it seems like that's not as simple as it seems. I'm wondering how difficult it is for her to get a work visa and if she does, is it legal for us to marry while she is on the Visa and then proceed with me sponsoring her.

Any advice is welcomed thank you.

Answer:
 You said the you aren't sure how the relationship would be like long term. You also stated that there is no reason for her to leave Brazil except to be with you. I would suggest you offer to live with her for a while albeit a few months or a year under the guise of it being forever. If she is not comfortable with the idea then perhaps it will unveil her true intentions.

It's common for foreign women to try to get married as fast as possible and meet the requirements for green card status if not citizenship. She can later leave you and take you to the cleaners of your own government. This is a pessimist view but as a Hispanic myself. I know the rules of the game as well as the exploits.


Title: (WA) Can I be fired for not consenting to separate police search.

Question:
First when I put separate I mean it's not work related. PD talked to me outside my apartment and asked me to consent to a search. I said no but I was late for work because of the police on 24th. Today 25th I couldn't clock in because my boss called me into his office. My boss gave me the "if you have nothing to hide" and "we don't hire criminals speech" and sent me home. My job has less than 10 people so I think some workplace laws don't apply. Can my boss fire me for not consenting to a search that is unrelated to my job. On the clock it probably looks like I came in late on the 24th and didn't show up on the 25th. I checked my work contract and there is no "must always consent to police search" requirement. All I have are 2 traffic tickets and 1 is from 6 years ago. PS I'm not in a union.
Topic:
Labor Law (Unions)

Answer: Yes. You would be eligible for unemployment though.


Title: [Ontario] Can I deduct cleaning costs from rent?

Question:
Signed a sublease for one room in an apartment that starts on Jan 1st and already paid 1st months rent,  but the condition of the unit currently is no way acceptable . It seems the sublessor never bothered to clean his washroom or his share of common areas during the time he was living in the unit. Additionally all the common areas and floors are filthy to the point that they are practically unusable.

My agreement does specify that the unit must be clean, but doesn't define "Clean" and what should happen if the unit isn't cleaned. The sublessor claims the room is clean in his opinion and isn't his responsibility to provide a clean washroom, kitchen, etc.

Overall, the condition is pretty bad. I doubt the tenant is going to clean everything by tomorrow and I have very little desire to clean someones months old mess. Since my sublease explicitly mentions the whole apartment unit and requires the tenant to clean the unit to an acceptable condition, can I hire a cleaning service and deduct the costs of cleaning from next months rent?

Answer:
 Deducting from rent without an order from the Landlord and Tenant Board is a fast way to get evicted for non-payment. Don't do that.

Either:

* Negotiate with the master tenant to address the problem.
* Refuse to take possession and walk away, and take the risk that your landlord comes after you to enforce the sublet lease. Recovering your rent and rent deposit is also a huge pain.
* Take possession and clean it, then decide whether the costs (either for your hours, or the cleaning service) justify a months-long process with the LTB with a very uncertain outcome.


Title: Airport parking security wants to search my trunk before entering lot (CA)

Question:
Upon entering Bob Hope Airport parking lot a security guard stopped me and said "open your trunk I need to search it."

Is this legal?

I opened it and let him search mostly because I was so surprised I didn't know what else to do. I asked him what he was looking for, and he said "anything suspicious".

Should I notify somebody or am I just wasting my time or both?

Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 >Is this legal?

Yes because you opened it.

Any establishment is free to request/demand to search you but you are also free to say no. They are also free to refuse service to you.


Title: Questions about non-hostile home environment

Question:
I don't know if this is the right place to post about this, in fact I don't think it is. Sorry.

I am a minor living in Alberta. I live with both of my parents, who provide me with all necessities and who are nice to everyone (including me).

Alberta isn't exactly a liberal utopia, but it's not Victorian England either. But when my parents have friends over, the conversation always turns to politics. They're racist, they talk about how much they hate immigrants, they say they're in favour of genocide against Muslims and they call them barbarians. Some of the things they say make my blood boil, I hate who they really are so much.

I've thought about getting a full-time job and leaving, but I never get far. They love me, and they provide for me. I feel bad just writing this out, considering how many people live in abusive homes or in poverty.

Now that I wrote this out I realize this is the wrong place for it, because I don't really have a legal question. I'm just so torn about my parents, how they're like these caricatures of what I hate and yet still love me and care for me.

Answer: It's a hard day when you learn that your parents are only human.


Title: Employer partially withheld wages from me without prior agreement

Question:
My job offers 10 days PTO for new hires. I got the job in July 2017 and have used all the 10 days of PTO. I put in my notice of resignation with my last day being January 5th 2017. My employer notified me that since I would not be staying long term I was not supposed to use all 10 days of PTO. Without warning my pay was docked at a later paycheck.

This happened in GA. I have read conflicting info on the legality of this issue. Any thoughts?

Answer:
 Check your employee handbook for how PTO is earned.  For many companies, the amount is prorated to the time of the year you joined.  If you joined July 1st, you likely had 5 PTO days, not 10.Answer #2: So let me ask you this - if you took the job on July 10, took your 10 days of PTO from July 10-21 then resigned on July 21...

do you feel the company would owe you two weeks of pay?

The company likely (since you do not provide the information) has a personnel policy stating that you can earn your PTO over the year, that approval is needed to take more PTO than earned and that if you leave with more PTO taken than earned, that will be converted to unpaid leave and the pay adjusted.

If the facts differ, you might have a legal recourse - but since you do not provide the needed information, no clear answer can be given.


Title: Recieved a random call from a "Compliance officer" today. GA

Question:
The gentleman called me and knew me by name, he said tomorrow he will be coming to my home and my work amd needs 2 forms of ID. Did not tell me what it is about or anything. I have been out of work with a injury since October, but not sure if that helps. I honestly have no clue what its about? Possible scam? I live in Georgia.

Edit- thank you everyone so much for the advice, answered, and responses. You guy have helped me endlessly when Google was striking out. Thank you so much.

Answer:
 I think you need to start asking some questions! He might possibly be with the disability office and ensuring you are not scamming the system.Answer #2: I wouldn't give him any of your identification or any other information until you can establish who he is and if he's legit.

Find out what agency he's from, look up the agency's phone number (do NOT call any number he gives you) and confirm with the agency what's going on and that he's actually employed there.Answer #3: You should confirm he us with whatever company us paying your disability. He will go to your work to ask if you have been, or if any co-workers have met you recently. He wants to see ID to confirm you are not a standin or twin faking the injury while the real you id healthy.

If you are actually injured it should be no problem.  Be friendly,  show him the ID and answer him honestly but carefully.


Title: Mom's psychologist diagnosed me as an opioid addict without ever meeting me as a patient.

Question: My mom loves to hire psychologists to diagnose her children as drug addicts despite the fact we are all very sober (drug wise). A psychologist convinced her I am a heroin/opioid addict (totally false) without ever meeting me. Needless to say this has torn my family apart as my mom believes her child/children are drug addicts. Do I have any recourse against the psychologist I have never met who somehow decided I was a drug addict? Can I sue him? Thank you for any advice.

Answer: Let me point out that you don't (presumably) know that the psychologist said this, you only know that your mother *claims* that the psychologist said this.


Title: ADT Security - Entered into a contract and they cannot provide purchased equipment. Is this a breach of contract?

Question:
Hi Guys, I recently moved into a new property in Charlotte, NC. I have used ADT for years for their home automation and security. This is the first house I have owned with an automatic car garage so I requested the monitor and opener.

They have a 2 day cancellation policy. The system was installed and a day later I phoned to let them know of the issue. (There were other issues, but I can leave that out). Eventually, it is now 3 weeks later their representative has come to my house and told me that the garage door will not ever work with their system because it isnt compatible. Their sales rep mentioned it would work, and they installed it on the first pass, giving me the impression that it would work, had I known it wouldnt have worked, I would have cancelled in the 2 day window.

I am on the phone with customer service and they are adamant that I must pay my way out of the contract. How can they force me to pay out the contract if they have breached the deliverables?

JS

Answer:
 Did the contract include the components? If so, I'd say you have a solid case unless another part of the contract limits your recourse. You could consult with an attorney and pay them a small amount to write a letter to the company stating that they are in breach and required to either fulfill or nullify the contract.
If the components aren't on the contract and you have no record of being offered them, your case is much weaker.


Title: can i say i have a middle name when i legally do not?

Question:
hi everyone,

so i'm in kind of a weird situation. i will be moving out of my home town for the first time in the fall. the thing is, i identify as nonbinary, but i am unable to express myself as such where i currently live. when i move, i would like to start going by a different name that i feel is more aligned with my gender identity. however, i don't actually want to change my first name. i just want to test out how it'd feel to start going by a different name in a place where no one knows who i am.

i have already entered communication with a potential landlord via email, and used my legal name to do so. she is having me fill out a profile for myself so that i can be matched with a roommate, but now i'm realizing that i would like to go by a different name instead of my legal name when interacting with my new roommate. so i want to fill out this bio with a different name, even though i have already introduced myself using my first and last name to the landlord.

i thought that i could say in the bio "hi, my name is \[first name\], but i prefer to go by \[chosen name\]." but it feels really weird doing that because my chosen name sounds pretty significantly different from my first name. could i just say "hi, my name is \[first name\] but i prefer to go by my middle name \[chosen name\]" instead? i don't actually have a middle name, but my chosen name is the name of a saint so it does seem like a believable middle name to have. it just seems like an easier way to get people to use that name and not question me about it.

would saying i have a middle name when i don't backfire on me legally? would this be fraudulent? would i get into trouble if i casually used "it's my middle name" as an excuse to use the new name?

i know this probably seems like a silly way to go about this whole situation, but it's just because i'm not totally sure if i want to go by this name for my whole life yet, so i don't actually want to legally change my name yet, or go by another name completely all the time. i just want an easy way of experimenting with it and convincing other people to call me by it without raising too many eyebrows.

thank you!

Answer:
 Your legal name has to go on any legal or government issued ID, such as a drivers license, birth certificate, passport, etc.

In your day to day life, you can go by any name that you want, as long as your reasons aren't for illegal purposes (like avoiding a debt or a warrant). Simply wanting to be called a certain name over your legal name isn't really something that is covered by the law, so you can choose whatever name you want.

Why not just say, "Hey, my name is <mdg_roberts1>, but everyone calls me Willy". I've literally used this exact sentence (well, with my real name) before and it's never been an issue.


Title: My landlord is EXTREMELY sketchy, and it turns out he never signed my lease.

Question:
Brooklyn, NY - I moved into an apartment with (six!) total roommates and now I’m making more money and could totally afford a bigger/less roomies situation. I just moved here at the beginning of this month but it’s just too small and cramped. I could go through the process of finding a roommate replacement, but I also just found out he never signed my lease making it null and void. I’ve emailed him asking him for a copy so that if he sends the same one I have a record of him sending it again with no signature of his, or if he says no I have evidence he’s not producing a legitimate contract.

Is this correct? The email/paper trail for my records and that it would be null and void if he sends it again unsigned? And if so, how do I go about moving out whenever I want, do I let him know of the lease being not legit and that I’m terminating my lease with him?

PS, this landlord has been arrested for fraud in 2003 and seems to be an extremely sketchy man. Even our electrical company thinks the lease is too sketchy to service us with power!

Would appreciate any insight. Thanks!

Answer:
 Whoa there...  You are assuming that your lease is null and void because your LL didn't sign it.  That is probably not true.  Did YOU sign the lease agreement?  Is there a signature line for your LL as well?  Does the lease have language that specifies that the agreement is valid if signed in counterpart \(it likely is regardless\).

It really doesn't matter if they signed it or not, or provided you with a signed copy or not, unless the document dictated that you were to receive one, and did not, and even then your damages are minute.

The long and short of this is that if YOU signed the lease, you are bound by its terms.Answer #2: \> I also just found out he never signed my lease making it null and void

No that's not how it works, sorry. You'll need to find a replacement roommate and get all five current roommates and the landlord to sign off on it.


Title: Boss singling out coworker

Question:
My friend works for a tech company in Cincinnati, Ohio. Recently his boss fired two of his friends and is actively searching for a reason to fire him because he believes he isn’t doing his job, despite the numbers showing he is.

 Currently his boss is jumping into nearly every work related chat room, phone call, and remotely monitors his screen from both work and home.

 I believe he’s singling my friend out.

What recourse, legal or otherwise, does he have?

Answer: He can quit if he doesn't like the management style.


Title: Can my boyfriend’s landlord’s son (who lives in the house my bf rents a room in) tell me I am not allowed at the house or he’ll have me arrested for trespassing? MD

Question:
So a few weeks ago I spent the night at my bf’s and when we woke up he seemed pretty dizzy and just kind of off and said he didn’t feel well. I called the ambulance, they came, checked him out and for all intents and purposes he was fine. They left, he felt better and went to work.

So last night, the guy who collects our rent (NOT the landlord, her son) came up to me and said I was no longer allowed at the house. The only reason he would give was because I parked in the wrong spot in the driveway and because of the “drama.” My ONLY guess is that he’s walking about when I had to call the ambulance for my bf’s medical emergency?

My question is, if my boyfriend pays rent for his own room in this house, and without any kind legitimate reason, can he do that? After I left last night, my bf called me and said he had called the cops and they told him he absolutely could have me arrested for trespassing if I come back to my bf’s.
In Maryland.

Answer:
 Can he tell you that?  Yes.

Can he legally bar you when your boyfriend is a tenant, no.


Title: I was physically stopped by a pedestrian while riding my bicycle in Fairfax County Virginia. What’s involved if I decide to pursue charges?

Question:
On a smaller neighborhood rd., I approached a couple with dogs on leashes. The dogs were in the grass to my right side and the couple was standing in the middle of the street with their backs turned to me. They were several feet from each other.  Being that there was plenty of space to pass on my left I proceeded to pass without notification. The woman then turned and noticed me coming and began running to intercept me. Seeing this I attempted to continue to pass until realizing an encounter was inevitable. I pulled both brakes as to not injure myself or her. once close enough she grabbed both of my upper arms and brought me to an abrupt stop holding me in that position for a moment. The collision, while not violent, was hasty enough to cause her to briefly loose her footing. I unclipped both feet as to not fall over. I re-adjusted to direction of my bicycle to attempt to ride away but she stepped in front of me.

Me - “what are you doing? Get your hands off me.”
Woman –(screaming) “you don’t belong here, this is a private drive”
Me- “ok but that doesn’t give you the right to touch me” “you can’t grab strangers”
Again I attempt to position to leave but am blocked by her jumping in front of me.
Woman – “you’re trying to run us over. You’re trying to run my dogs over”
Me – “I’m not trying to run your dogs over, I got as far away as I could”
Husband – (Mumbling) “we can’t walk our dogs… Mumbling… it’s twice a day… there are bicycles here every day…”
I reached for my phone to call police.
Woman – (screaming) “go ahead, call the police. You’re going to get charged with being on a private drive.”
Me – “I’ll accept that, are you willing to accept an assault charge? Because that’s what this is.”
Woman – (screaming) “where’s the scratch?” accompanied with more yelling and reiterating that I was on a private drive.
Me – “ I was unaware this was a private drive and I apologize for that; however that does not give you the authority to chase me down and grab me”

More yelling ensued, and I have not captured all statements here however; anything else that was said was a reiteration.
As I rode away I said she was “batshit crazy”
After leaving their road I did acknowledge there is a sign siting “private drive” from which I called the Fairfax county non-emergency police.
I did not see anything about no cycling or no trespassing
While on a road bike I have no interest in hitting anything let alone someone’s dog. It’s dangerous and can throw you from the bicycle.
Never at any point did she stop to ask if I did belong there. for all she knew I could have been visiting a friend or relative.
I never dismounted my bicycle

Answer:
 You ask the police kindly to pursue the case. I am skeptical that this will lead to charges.Answer #2: I'm not sure what your question is, but I think it is "how do I pursue charges?" If so, file a police complaint for battery and explain the circumstances. If the police feel it is warranted, they will investigate.

> I did not see anything about no cycling or no trespassing

TBF, there does not have to be a sign that says "no cycling" or "no trespassing" for it to be illegal to cycle or trespass on private property.Answer #3: There's no way for you to "pursue charges". You can file a police report but it's very unlikely anything will happen to you or them over this


Title: NY- Accident on the road next to a towing company. They towed my car without permission, and refused to surrender it to AAA towing until someone paid all of the fees. Do I have any recourse?

Question:
I was in an accident thursday, right next to a towing company. I called AAA to come tow my car, but by the time they arrived another company had towed my car to the side of the road.
When AAA tried to tow the car, the company refused until someone paid for "towing and cleanup".
I signed nothing, no one requested it, and I did not need them to tow me.
This was almost $200, am I able to get my money back somehow?

Answer:
 I am not a lawyer.

Call the company. Ask to speak to a manager. Tell them that you didn't authorize them to move your vehicle. Ask to have your vehicle released with no charges.

If they don't comply, call the police. Tell the police that the towing company towed your vehicle without your permission. Depending on circumstances and location, this may be Grand Theft, Auto, but, again, I am not a lawyer. Answer #2: Practical advice here: if you have collision coverage or if there accident was the other party's fault, insurance should cover the tow.  You'll just have to submit this as an additional expense.

Edit: the/three stupid autocorrect


Title: IN/USA- Parent hiding money during divorce in my bank account.

Question:
**Edited for clarity**

Parents have been on the verge of divorce for a long time. One parent began using my personal bank account to hide money prior to the divorce (as to not have to split that money 50/50) when I was a minor in high school.

The emotionally complicated part of this story is probably irrelevant, so long story short, **I agreed to lend my account to this purpose again as an adult***. (Yes, I now realize how incredibly bad this is.)

The money was transferred to my account as a pretend “gift” with the understanding that I would return it at request. I did not account for this ‘gift’ on my taxes. The gift amount currently in my account is between 14,001 and 20k.

**Divorce proceedings are in the works. Divorce has not been finalized.**

I am very interested in getting out of this situation legally and returning the money, without having to face legal charges in the future for assisting in hiding assets during a divorce.

The only reasonable option I’ve really thought of: ~~Refile taxes from 2014 now including this “gift” money, calculate expected taxes and deduct that amount from the gift total~~, return the rest of the gift money to parent. **edit: I now know that gift recipients are not responsible for paying taxes on gift sums. Does this mean I do not need to refile my taxes to include this sum?**

Will this prompt the IRS to look more deeply into our taxes for that or other years or perform an audit? Do I need to know anything about how to undo this as to not send up a red flag?

TLDR: Legal adult here. Parent hiding divorce money in my bank account two different times, once with myself as a minor, once as an adult.  Want to get out of this situation. Not sure where to start exactly.

Answer: You were a minor at the time of the transfer? I would just inform the other parent and their lawyer of the money. The situation will practically remedy itself after that.


Title: [TX] Parked in private lot- got a $75 ticket from Parking Revenue Recovery Services

Question: I had a job interview in downtown Austin, was already running late and couldn't find parking. I finally found the lot that Parking Revenue Recovery Services was ticketing for. When I went to pay the box several people were around it trying to figure out how much to park there for an hour. One guy said $10 which was outrageous as it was, but I was late and decided to just take the hit. I paid $20 for 2 hours to only come back to my car with a $75 ticket. Evidently, it was $20 AN HOUR to park there!!!! I am a grad student living paycheck to paycheck- actually I can't even make my monthly bills as it is- almost got evicted this month! Since this is a private business and not a government entity I am trying to figure out how to go about this. These guys are engage in predatory business practices!! The signage was not clear, the machine wasn't clear about time purchased and for how long. How on earth are they still in business???!!! Anyway, I have read Yelp reviews and their BBB site and everyone says good luck- they won't work with anyone or understand anything, again, predatory business practices. Does anyone have any advice here? My credit is shot as it is and the ticket says if the $75 isn't paid in 14 days it will go to collections. Blood sucking deceptive trade practices here... HELP!

Answer: You don't know how to go about what? If you didn't know how much it was to park there, you shouldn't have parked there. You can write a truthful Yelp review, but it sounds to me like you owe them $75. I'm sorry you had this experience.Answer #2: Seems like you made a mistake. It’s a shitty day but not the end of the world. And you’re a law student right? Take this up and go do law stuff with it, I’m sure you have better resources than this forum.


Title: [DC] Started work as a contractor, first paycheck nowhere in sight

Question:
So here's the situation, happy to clarify and answer questions to help figure this out:

I started a new contracting position on 11/26/2018, and prior to starting, I had filled out a W-4, a DC specific D-4, and a direct deposit form.

The initial pay period ended on 12/08/2018, with paychecks set to be issued on 12/14/2018.  However, the employer sent out my first paycheck via mail.

I have my first pay stub (which verifies my correct address) via their online portal, but I still have yet to see my paycheck (I've been walking down to check the mail constantly).  I reached out to the employer to verify if it had been sent out, and was told it had been sent the day before our designated payday.  However, the earliest I'm going to see it will be 12/17/2018.

I asked about what I should do in this situation on the 14th, after seeing the mailman come and go without a paycheck in sight, and I have yet to receive any response from someone at the contracting firm.

From what I've researched online, they're supposedly breaking the law if they don't provide wages within 10 days of the end of the pay period.  Should I pursue legal charges?  This is honestly a first for me, so I'm really lost.

If it helps at all, the company is based out of Ohio, but I'm contracted through their DC office.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: Your check was issued yesterday and you're already contemplating "legal charges" the very next day. This does not bode well for your future with this new job.


Title: My migrant roommate needs help

Question:
Long story short she fears her work permit (or some other important document from immigration dept.) was stolen. I didnt have any good advice for her beyond calling the police... and id keep an eye out. However it was certified mail so it was definitely delivered here 2 weeks ago. It appears she may have to wait an additional 3 months, pay the fees again, etc. I feel bad for her. Figured it couldnt hurt to ask reddit. Any good advice for her? Thanks :)

Edit: washington state, seattle, thx bot :)

Answer:
 Your friend should call USCIS (US Citizenship and Immigration Services) and request guidance on how to proceed. They may be willing to send out the document again if she provides proof it never showed up.

Also contact the post office. Was it possibly stolen from her mailbox at an apartment building, or what?


Title: Advice needed for employers shady medical practices

Question:
Southern California

This is for my wife who has been experiencing some troubles with her work, and I was curious if any of this crosses a line legally or if it is in a grey area.

I'll try and keep it short and to the facts:

- The doctor will regularly make incisions larger than required for a larger bill and more profit (example: In a common procedure a 2cm incision would be required, but incisions over 7cm are billed differently and cost more. Because of this, the doctor will make incisions larger than needed to receive more money.)

- To save money on a costly procedure (MOHS) that usually requires a technician, he has required a secretary making minimum wage to perform it (we are not sure if a certification is required).

- Regularly leaves patients waiting for hours, which while, rude isn't necessarily illegal. However, he recently left an elderly patient in the room for several hours to attend a school assembly for his child. He was gone so long that the patient wet and defecated in his pants.

Aside from these he's shown a regular pattern of cutting corners, and questionably changing documents to result in higher pay for himself. While it may not be illegal, it should definitely be investigated.

Is there a regulatory board or agency to contact? Is there a way to have this looked into further?

Answer:
 Having the secretary do a MOHS is terrifying and practicing medicine without a license.

Some agencies to consider reporting to:

medical board for licensing physicians in CA

fraud departments of the insurance companies paying for unnecessary procedures.

CA DOI (department of insurance)

Medicaid fraud department (if applicable)

Also, your wife should look for a new job asap and decline to do any procedures that are out of the scope of her license. Answer #2: Start getting proof of all this


Title: May be fucked but I guess it’s worth asking

Question: So I’ve been on probation for the past 2 years in Virginia for a distribution of marijuana charge. (I still have one year left) recently I went to Las Vegas Nevada and got black out drunk and was arrested again for distribution of a imitation controlled substance (misdemeanor surprisingly) While I was in jail I was asked by a pretrial officer if I was already on probation, so I figured I’d tell the truth because they’d find out regardless. She told me there was no record of me being on probation at all. I went to court the following day in Vegas and received a diversion from the judge and was told that I didn’t have to come back to Vegas when my case is dismissed after the 90 days is over. Now my question is will my probation officer know if I don’t tell her? I’ve been back for a little over a month and haven’t received any calls from her and I have a meeting with her coming up in a few days.

Answer:
 Ya know, if you keep doing stupid things then your luck is going to run out and you're going to spend serious time in prison.

Do the terms of your probation require you to report violations?  If yes then you had better report because when your probation officer finds out that you didn't report then she will not be happy with you.  Are you going to stop screwing around and take this seriously?


Title: (Arizona)Grandfather put me on his house deed using quit claim deed 7 years before he died, now trying to sell the house and worried I may lose it and my life savings.

Question:
Hey all,

I am meeting with a probate attorney today but I feel like I'm about to have a panic attack and want to know what I am in for.

In 2007 my grandfather added my two brothers and I via quit claim deed to his house.  He passed away in 2014. No will but we assumed the house transferred to us since we are on the title (and because I've paid the house taxes the last 8 years). Dumb assumption on my part.

I put 12k of my own money into renovations on the house to sell. Now, after putting the house up for sale, finding a buyer, and going through a title agency, we find out that the title doesn't automatically transfer to my brothers and I, and that we have to go through probate.

There is no will.

Can my Uncle, Aunt, and Dad, (grandfather's kids) essentially be able to take everything?  Am I out my house and my 12k I put into it?

I'm very worried. I know my dad and aunt would waive their right but my uncle is a wild card. Could he essentially walk away with everything?

Answer:
 Who told you this? Property held jointly does not generally have to go through probate.

Check with a real estate lawyer, because it depend on the type of deed and if it was properly filed.   Was that quitclaim filed? You can draw up a quitclaim but it doesn't count until it is filed.  You may just need to sue to quite title. Answer #2: The granting language of the deed is important here.

If, after the execution of the deed, you and your brothers were all joint tenants with your grandfather, then it passes outside of probate.

If, however, the granting language was such that you and your brothers were tenants in common with your grandfather after the execution of the deed, then his share would pass through probate.

So, you and your brothers own a house together, or you and your brother own some portion of a house and his heirs own whatever your grandfather retained.

Note that in each of these scenarios, you own at least part of a house, so you're not "out." You may have some work to do though, particularly with respect to getting the $12K back if you do own it as tenants in common with his heirs.


Title: My dog fought with another dog and won

Question:
Yesterday I was outside with my dog. I live in an apartment complex that has a fenced in grassy area that is shaped like a long rectangle. There are doors at both ends of the rectangular yard and I was sitting outside one of the doors while my dog was grazing off leash. There are several dogs that live here and my dog plays with them when the owners give me permission to let my dog out. Anyway, my dog returns to me signaling she is ready to go in and as I stand up, I see the door across the field open up and a little white dog comes out and runs down the stairs to the grass. I notice it, more importantly, my dog notices it. My dog is obviously interested and begins slowly walking toward it. I give a firm "NO" and begin trying to close ground to get my dog being careful not to run and cause my dog to take off. I continue to say "NO!" and repeat my dog's name. She begins to run to the dog and I shout NO and Sprint to catch my dog. My dog got to the dog and tackled the dog and a second later I got there and grabbed my dog by the collar and separated the two. As I did this, a girl opened the door and rushed down the stairs and picked up her dog who was yiping and crying. I said I needed to put my dog away and would be right back and I carried my dog back to my apartment and put her away. I came back out to check on the other dog. The dog was trembling but was not bleeding. I find out the girl's and the dog's name and gave the girl my name. She said she thought the dog was ok and was just scared but noticed a lump on the dogs underside and was thinking she was going to go to the vet to get it looked at. I gave her my phone number because I wanted updates on how the dog was. She sent me a text later that she went to the vet and they had to do two surgeries because there was an abdominal tear that caused a hernia. This was beneath the skin, I want to clarify that my dog didn't rip this dog open and that the tackle may have torn the muscle. The other dog is significantly smaller and older than my dog. So after she explained what the dog needed, she sent me a text of the bill estimate which was $1500-$1800. I received a voicemail from her father today that the bill was more because of the additional surgery needed and that it was "significant".  My question is what is my legal responsibility to pay the vet bill?

Additional information: I live in Virginia. The other dog was unsupervised and unleashed. My dog doesn't have a history of attacking dogs and is loved by everyone that comes and sits at the picnic tables in the yard.

Answer: Since your dog was the aggressor, and since dogs are considered property you are responsible for what your dog does and any damages it does. They could possibly sue you in small claims court for the damages.


Title: [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children.

Question:
My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register.

I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared.
Topic:
CPS and Dependency Law

Answer:
 Yes they can, but it is hard as hell even when there are legit concerns. 1) call a few local family law attorneys, get one you like and get ready to use them if needed; 2) find out who the hell this supposed attorney is and if they did indeed file, if so use that attorney you found. If nothing is filed yet, ignore her. Answer #2: You may want to consider going on offense.  Get a restraining order.  Answer #3: IANAL.  There isn't anything stopping CPS from showing up.  If they have a report, they investigate.  It's everything on your end from that point on that determines whether or not the report was justified.

Have your pediatrician print off their growth charts.  That will show what percentile they are in and whether your children are malnourished or not.  Even having printoffs of all the wellness checks for your children would be helpful.

House should be as decluttered as possible.   Doesn't have to be absolutely spotless, you have 3 month old twins for crying out loud.  Nothing that screams dirty or any funky smells.  Cribs should be bumper free following the standard safety guidelines.

Business as usual.  She doesn't have jack squat.  If you have any emails or texts with her threats,  print them off for your lawyer.  Communications should be writtten from now on.Answer #4: > I received an email from a supposed attorney

lol, no, things like that are sent by paper letter

for kicks, look up that attorney on the bar website, and (if he is listed as an attorney) call his office to see if he knows anything about this

and she won't get custody


Title: What, if anything, does "the allegations are not a matter of law" mean in a hearing?

Question:
From a [Washington Post article](https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/trump-election-challenges/2020/11/17/ea741372-28f6-11eb-8fa2-06e7cbb145c0_story.html) about ongoing objections to election results:

>In the hearing before [Pennsylvania District Judge] Brann, Giuliani painted a dark picture of an election thoroughly infected by voter fraud, even as he also acknowledged the lawsuit did not make those allegations as a matter of law.

What does that mean? Is it a way to make strong claims related to a case without having to justify those claims? Are judges generally cool with that sort of thing?

Answer: It means that he saying all these things, but the judge doesn't have to care because he's not actually suing about them.  ie, he's just wasting the Judges time talking about unrelated things for the press.


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https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/4stljm/update_i_bought_a_stolen_dog_north_carolina/

Author: /u/throwaway031416

#**[UPDATE] I bought a "stolen" dog [North Carolina]**

> Okay, so I know I only posted the original post yesterday (https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/4sn0ab/i_bought_a_stolen_dog_north_carolina/) but there is already an update.
>
> I spoke with Joe yesterday. He kept saying he was glad the puppy had a good home and didn't want to take him from us, just wanted to meet up and say goodbye. I was 100% okay with this. I said if he could supply ANYTHING (vet bill, registration, even just a picture of the two of them together) that showed ownership I would be happy to meet with him. He became defensive and asked why I was being an asshole. I didn't respond to that. I don't think I was being unreasonable in asking him to show ownership before meeting.
>
> So I went back to the woman I'd purchased the puppy from to ask for the information of whom she had purchased him from. She gave me the name and number of the girl and said she had found her via craigslist. So I went to craigslist to see what I could find.
>
> What I found was a posting made by Joe stating he had allowed the dog to be sold but when he found out that family had sold him he was upset and is now looking to have the dog back.
>
> After seeing that I'm pretty sure I have no legal obligation to give the dog back. I'm not sure I would meet up with him anywhere other than a policy station at this point. I don't feel like he is very trustworthy and I'm not sure what he would try.
>
> Thanks to all of you who responded to my plea for help yesterday. Even the ones who think I'm an asshole (Joe, btw, only had the dog a month before giving him up, so no more attachment than I have). I appreciate honesty and that's what I received.
>
>

Answer: Anyone that's going to call a stranger an asshole, while simultaneously begging them for a favour, is extremely immature *at best*. I'd be reluctant to meet them.


Title: [UK] I own a small gaming/comic/gadget news website, with my full-time job working for a games QA company - are we as a site allowed to write about the projects I work on providing I don't reveal confidential information?

Question:
Hello,

I work for a QA solutions company - clients contact us to test their games/websites/apps - and on the side I own a small news site that focuses on gaming, comics, gadgets, films etc. with another two people - one person in the same company, another in the same industry.
The problem is we work on several IPs that people want to know about - is there a legal issue if I were to write a news post about these games? Obviously if the source comes from somewhere outside of my job...

For example, I'm currently working on a AAA console title but the other writers of the site are not - would they be okay to write news relating to this game?

Similar thing in that we as a company have worked on a game that is now releasing Beta codes (although none of the website staff were on it) - would we be fine to record footage of our time on the Beta (as we would a game we're not tied to at all)?

The main game in general is a VERY big American company so you can see why I might be concerned...

As expected, I don't want to lose my job / get sued which is why I'm seeking a bit advice, apologies if this isn't the place!

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Answer: There's more to it than your boss not liking it. If you are doing qa then you are working on pre release products, your company I'd guarantee is under a very very strict nda from whatever companies they are contracting with. These ndas can include monetary damages for violations. Not sure about uk but i dont see why they  couldnt come after you personally for that breech. Violating an nda also pretty much gauruntees you are blacklisted and tour companies trustworthiness is shot. I'm guessing when you were fist hired there you signed lots of confidentiality paperwork.


Title: My uncle refuses to let my aunt to talk her kids, can he legally take away a phone he doesn't pay for?

Question:
My aunt has sole custody of the kids, the court allows my uncle to speak to the kids when he wants to and vice versa. However he never calls the kids and instead harasses my aunt who put a restraining order against home because he's crazy and abusive.

My uncle is extremely authoritarian and tries to restrict everything he can, currently in divorce with my aunt; he does not allow the kids to speak to my aunt when it's his days or weekends.

He disables their internet on their iPads and blocks all her calls/texts so she never has an idea whether or not the kids are safe. She fears one day the kids may get kidnapped from him and she won't be able to get a hold of them...

I'm concerned for their safety to and am curious, if I buy my cousin a phone and pay for his services per month to be able to keep in touch when needed; is my uncle allowed to confiscate it or place restrictions?

Any help is truly appreciated, thank you!

Edit: Location is California.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 If the Parenting Plan does not address communication with the children, then your aunt's only recourse is to petition to modify the Parenting Plan so that it does.

If the Parenting Plan prohibits the parents from restricting communication, she may file for contempt.Answer #2: Absent some court order to the contrary, he can control when and how the children in his custody can use electronic devices belonging to the other parent.


Title: (CT) When applying for a job, if a potential employer asks if I was ever terminated from a job, assuming that I have been and enter no, can they find out from my past employer?

Answer: There would be nothing stopping them from verifying your past employment, so yes, they can easily find out.


Title: Girlfriend's parents are filing a restraining order against me, what can I do?

Question:
Location: NSW Australia

So my girlfriend (15f, turns 16 in about a month) and me (just turned 18) have been enjoying a healthy relationship for about 7 months. Her parents are very conservative so a lot of the typical teenager things we've been doing have been under their nose without telling them for fear of the exact reason I'm making this post.

Very recently the mother stole her phone and started reading the entire history of messages sent between us and found obvious evidence that we're having sex. The mother then called me and said the relationship is over and she's filing an [AVO](http://www.domesticviolence.nsw.gov.au/get_help/what_is_an_apprehended_violence_order_avo) and a sexual offense against me for sex with a minor. There was ONE photo sent that was sexual which is what I'm worried about. What can I do here? How screwed am I?

Please don't say "It's a teenager relationship just let it go". It's not the route I want to take here.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Sorry, buddy. You've got to let this go. At least until she's 16, which I believe is the age of consent in your area.

What's your alternative? Are you going to defy a court order and go to prison over this? That's not romantic, it's stupid. If you're going to play the Romeo and fight her parents, at least wait until you're not committing a criminal act in the process.Answer #2: The age of consent appears to be 16 in New South Wales.

Let it go, don't contact her or her mother, if the police call on you get a lawyer.Answer #3: Stay away and follow the restraining order. You're not screwed.


Title: What are the legal ramifications of sending Comcast a dildo with a card saying "Go Fuck Yourselves?"

Question: Search came up empty

Answer:
 What's the point?  Nobody who's going to care is going to see it, and it's just going to get thrown away immediately upon opening.  You'll just be wasting your money and the time of some poor hourly mail room grunt.Answer #2: in theory they could call the police claiming it's a threat. most reasonable people wouldn't interpret it that way, though.

my personal suggestion is to return your cable box/modem with a jar of Vaseline. it needs no explanation or translation.Answer #3: Technically it would fall under [18 US Code section 1461](http://www.gpo.gov/fdsys/pkg/USCODE-2011-title18/html/USCODE-2011-title18-partI-chap71-sec1461.htm) Mailing obscene matter, it's not a very often used law, but it is used for this sort of thing where an unsolicited "obscene" item is received. The standards for obscenity are incredibly vague and down mostly to how the recipient feels about the item.

(This is also the statute that mailing (literal) shit to people you don't like falls under, btw)Answer #4: /r/circlejerkAnswer #5: Anonymously send them a giant dick from shipadick.com


Title: Illinois- Can I ride in a boat while it is being towed on the road?

Question:
Sorry if this is the wrong place to put this, but I'm just curious.

The boat has a cabin, which is where people would be sitting if it is legal. I imagine sitting outside without seat belts is illegal, but sitting inside is really no different than an RV or camper. I can't find information anywhere, thanks for your help in advance!

Answer:
 Funnily enough the previous posters might be wrong. You can apparently ride in the boat if you are over 18 years of age and do not exceed a velocity of 15 miles per hour.

>    (625 ILCS 5/11-1408) (from Ch. 95 1/2, par. 11-1408)
>
>    Sec. 11-1408. Riding in towed vehicles. No person or persons shall occupy a trailer, >semitrailer, farm wagon, or any other vehicle while it is being towed upon a public highway, unless:
>
>        (1) the occupancy of the towed vehicle is necessary to avoid an imminent threat to a person's safety due to extreme weather conditions or another emergency situation;
>
>        (2) the speed of the vehicle does not exceed 15 miles per hour and the vehicle is used in connection with a parade, farming-related activity, or similar activity; or
>
>        (3) the speed of the vehicle does not exceed 15 miles per hour and the passenger is over the age of 18.**
(Source: P.A. 97-17, eff. 1-1-12.)

http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/ilcs4.asp?ActID=1815&ChapterID=49&SeqStart=127100000&SeqEnd=138300000


Title: Party ticket question, Michigan

Question:
I'm a student at Michigan State in East Lansing Michigan. I had a party with a couple of friends last night and we got rowdy and decided to throw a couple of glass bottles off of our balcony. Unfortunately someone decided to walk by as one of us was throwing a bottle and the individual called the cops on us. When the cops arrived they asked if we had thrown bottles off of our balcony and the individual who answered the door said no because he had not taken part in it, but another friend quickly went to the cops and admitted that yes he had thrown a bottle off of the balcony. This aggravated the cops and they accused us of lying. In the words of the cops they gave us a break but wrote myself and another roommate two separate tickets for civil infraction noise complaints. I looked it up and it appears each ticket in their own is going to be 285$.
I was wondering could we fight it because we had two noise violation tickets written for a single incident/ apartment. And if we tried to fight it would there be any chance that we could have additional tickets added on for something else like littering.
Thanks for the help.

Answer:
 You can't fight it just because you both got tickets.

On an unrelated note, you really ought to start taking responsibility for your own actions. (1) Pay your fine like a big boy. (2) Stop thinking about this fine as being in any way the fault of the pedestrian. "Someone decided to walk by as one of us was throwing a bottle"? No. "Someone was walking by and one of us decided to throw a bottle" is much more accurate.


Title: A lawn care company forged my signature, claims I signed a contract, and is threatening to send my account to collections if I don’t pay for additional services.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: File a police report for identity theft for the forged signature.


Title: Is it legal for an apartment complex to force us to pay a monthly fee for a cable company? Florence, KY 41042

Question:
Hi. Our apartment complex informed us when we moved in that we have no choice but to get our services (internet/cable/phone) from Time Warner Cable because the apartments' management has a contract with them. They also said that every apartment is charged $51 per month for basic cable and there is no opt-out for this. It is a charge that HAS to be paid every month.

We moved in at the end of October and this has been bothering me since then. We got the basic cable box since we pay the $51 each month along with water, sewage, pest control charges etc to our apartment complex, not time warner. We also pay time warner another $55.58 a month for Internet and an HD cable box (they said it was the package deal). So in total, we are technically paying over $100 to time warner.

Since Spectrum bought over time warner, I have been even more annoyed that we are paying this 'fee' because the complex's management has some deal with Time Warner. Well, it's no longer time warner. And when I tried calling Spectrum this week to see if we can add on phone service, I was informed that we are still paying the rate that time warner offered us, and if we make any changed to our services, we will be moved onto the rates Spectrum offers which are much higher than time warner.

Basically, is the apartment complex legally allowed to make such contracts with a cable company? And then, are they legally allowed to force every resident to pay that $51 compulsorily every month? Furthermore, are they legally allowed to dictate that we can only use that one company for our services?

I just feel like we're all being cheated and time warner doesnt even exist anymore. Everything is 'Spectrum'.

EDIT: ok so it seems that we're not really being taken advantage of. We've been paying this fee and will continue to for as long as we live here. But in he future, I will be very careful about what we read/understand/agree to. Thanks to everyone for their help!

Answer:
 Is it in your lease?Answer #2: >is the apartment complex legally allowed to make such contracts with a cable company?

No, the FCC banned this practice in 2008 or 2009.

*47 CFR §64.2500(b) No common carrier shall enter into or enforce any contract, written or oral, that would in any way restrict the right of any residential multiunit premises owner, or any agent or representative thereof, to
permit any other common carrier to access and serve residential tenants on that premises*Answer #3: Ask the FCC. I thought they'd banned this...

hmm here we go but this is old and may have been superseded: https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2009/05/federal-court-upholds-fcc-ban-on-exclusive-cable-deals/


Title: Black friend makes more money then me in same exact position. (California)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Unless he makes more than you because he is black you don't have a lawsuit at all. He could have a higher salary because he was hired at a different time, he has more experience, he is buddies with a manager, he negotiated harder than you.....Answer #2: You got any *real* proof he's being paid more because he's black?


Title: Pennsylvania College Requires VERY Personal Health Information—How do I refuse to give it?

Question:
Going to college in two months and I was told that all incoming students have to fill out a form with very personal health information.

They're asking you to check of whether the following applies to you:
-When was the last time you were hospitalized and for what?
-Which diseases run in your family?
-Ever been treated for STDs?
-Ever been pregnant?
-Are you disabled?
-When was the last time you tried to kill yourself if you have had a recent suicide attempt?
-Have you ever taken psychiatric medication?
-Have you ever been diagnosed with any of the following mental illnesses (goes on to list 10 very stigmatized mental health conditions)?
-Do you use alcohol, marijuana, abuse opioids?
-When was the last time you did these substances + how many times a week do you do them?

This is all super personal to me and I don't want to give a school this information.

Can I refuse to fill out this form? Does anyone have advice for how I should do so? I'm the type of person who hates making a scene.

Answer:
 You are not required to divulge any medical information unless you are requesting accommodations due to disability or medical necessity or are absent from class and need a doctor’s excuse, much like if you had a job.

There are a number of informational websites regarding HIPPA and what educational institutions may/may not require students to tell them regarding their health. They cannot access your medical records, for example, without your explicit written permission.

If you are playing a sport, you may need to have a general physical but you still have the right to privacy from non-essential, invasive questions that do not relate to your ability to play the sport.

You should be able to write a short statement explaining that you do not consent to sharing personal medical information with the college.


Title: Court appointed lawyers. Do they care?

Question: Lawyers and appointed clients. Do appointed lawyers care and show the same intensity as they would of a paid client? I was wondering what the culture/attitude around appointed cases are. What motivates an attorney to work hard for these clients? Thank you!

Answer:
 It depends on the person, just like with anything else.

You have some bad faith actors, and some jurisdictions that are notoriously terrible (looking at you, Maine!) but most PDs I have interacted with are super passionate and want to help people.

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Look at it this way: Most public defenders could get much more money working elsewhere but they choose to remain PDs.


Title: Was with my sister when she crashed a vehicle, she received a DUI and now wants to blame me.

Question: Happened about a month ago, we left a bar, she was driving and lost control of vehicle. It's my vehicle and its now totalled, we are lucky and walked away with no scratches, nobody else was harmed.  Police arrive on scene about 30mins after it happened, she does breathalyzer and walks, admits to being drunk and is taken in for a DUI and other warrants i did not know she had.  She then proceeds the next day to change her story and say I was the driver, her court day is coming up and was curious of what I could expect to happen. Cops began to question me in which I replied I'd like my lawyer present, they then left me  alone, they towed my vechile and provided me with a ride to the station where I was picked up by a family member, no charges or tickets were issued to me

Answer:
 ignore it. keep your mouth shut if the cops try to come at you again. if you get called as a witness at her trial, plead 5a (it'll never get that far).

if you get charged, get a lawyer.


Title: Do you think a jury will acquit me? Felony possession of marijuana with intent to sell in ND.

Question:
Got busted (in my college dorm) with 3.5oz of marijuana in ND, along with scales, baggies, paraphernalia, the whole shahbang. I have a good track record, no crimes what so ever except for traffic tickets. If I take it to a jury trial I know the prosecuting attorney will try and make me look like a horrible person, selling pot to all the nice students of my college. When in reality I was selling to no more than 15 friends of mine. I sold to purely profit in pot. I smoked my profit for medicinal uses. I smoked 3-4 times a day and it alleviated my IBS symptoms entirely.

My lawyer wants all of my high school history to present to the court (all of my achievements in sports and activites, ect) and my standardized test scores. Essentially we are presenting to the court that I am a well rounded, smart, good kid that just smoked pot.

Do you think that at least one person on the jury will say "not guilty?" Because that's what I want to happen. If I don't risk a jury trial, I'm stuck with whatever shitty plea bargain the D.A. gives me.

Oh and also, can they legally obtain a warrant to search my smartphone? It has been seized as of now, but I have not been informed of any warrant to search it.

Thanks reddit

UPDATE:
I guess my main question is, would any juror find me not guilty because they thought the law was stupid/unfair/unconstitutional/whatever? It was my understanding that a juror is OBLIGATED to nullify, if the law is wrong. Even if, that juror understands the law and that I am guilty of it.

Answer:
 > Essentially we are presenting to the court that I am a well rounded, smart, good kid that just smoked pot.

...and sold it, which you can't deny.  The issue of you being a 'good kid' is irrelevant.  The only issue is "Did /u/hedggie break the law he's being charged with?"  What is your defense to the charges that you intended to sell marijuana?


Title: My neighbor pointed his gun directly at me - cops refuse to take action - Have witnesses - long story - please help us

Question:
New Hampshire - NH, USA

I'm absolutely running on fumes right now.

No legitimate provocation. He tried to force his way onto my property while I was on the phone with the police.

When he realized that I was on phone with cops he stepped back. He then went about 100' away and aimed at me with his gun.

I dove for cover. Girlfriend dove for cover. Cops finally got there after eternity and they initially disarmed him. They took statements - he denied it of course - I was able to describe the gun, the light on it, the frame size, and which pocket he had pulled it from and put it into and they don't give a shit

They told me that when they asked me I said he pointed it at me and when hey asked the witness they said pointed it in my direction and so that was a discrepancy and he denies it and then they gave this lunatic hopped up on narcotics his fucking gun back!

Please help me. I am too afraid to go home. I've tried telling them this. They do nothing. He has a history. My girlfriend spent the night bawling and I am too afraid to go home at this point. I feel helpless that the police won't do shit!  I don't know what to do! This guy will try to kill me or my family or my dog and somehow get away with it.  Please anyone. Help.

Answer:
 go to the police dept and ask nicely for them to revisit the issue. you can also contact the district attorney directly.

also file for a restraining order.

and keep calling the police if the neighbor returns. Answer #2: > No legitimate provocation

This isn't the whole story.  What was going on between you and your neighbor, before you called the cops?Answer #3: >No legitimate provocation. He tried to force his way onto my property while I was on the phone with the police.

What was the non-legitimate provocation, thenAnswer #4: PPO and security cameras. A PPO is obviously not some magic shield that will protect you but it will give you more options in the event something like this happens again. Also in some instances a PPO can prevent someone from legally possessing or purchasing firearms. Security cameras may act as a deterrent or will provide evidence in the event it happens again.

Is moving an option? I would do anything I can to get away from this person.


Title: My employer terminated my contract 6 months early. I live in an at-will state (US). Do I have any legal legs to stand on?

Question: My employer had me fill out a contract that had me ending my contract in October. The company, through what I can only imagine a massive case of miss-management ended up with not enough work to justify paying wages for both me and my coworker, so they downsized to just my coworker. Now my contract is ending 6 months early, and I don't know if I am even allowed some sort of severance? There was no verbal or written promise of getting a severance.

Answer:
 If you're under a binding employment contract, everything you're entitled to is outlined in that contract.  If it's not outlined in the contract, you're not entitled to it.

If you're under a binding employment contract, "at-will" is meaningless.  You're not at-will, you're under a binding employment contract.

The question is whether or not what you signed is actually a binding employment contract, or whether it's some other kind of agreement that doesn't affect your at-will status.  Either way, I don't know of any state in the USA that, by law, mandates severance pay upon termination.


Title: Former landlord opened the letter containing my W2 and sent the contents to my new address. [USA, CA to IL]

Question:
I'm a college student that interned at a company in California this past summer, and during those few months I stayed with somebody I found on Craigslist who had an extra room. It wasn't anything formal, as I don't recall signing a lease.

It was a paid internship, and the HR corporation that managed my old company's finances sent me my W2 to my summer address. Old landlord texted me and asked for my new address and told me I had mail, so I gave him my address.

Lo and behold I get a letter from him, with his own damn handwriting, and my W2 and fucking H&R Block coupons inside. I'm pissed because:

1. You *don't* open other people's mail.
2. It's my W2. it had my social security number, how much money I made over the summer, etc. I feel as if my privacy has been violated.
3. It said "W-2" next to the damn mailing address!

I've already filed a fraud alert with Equifax, but is there anything else I should do to protect myself further? Should I report this to anybody? Am I overreacting?

Also, is this the right subreddit for this? Maybe I should crosspost to /r/personalfinance?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 She may have opened it inadvertently. Some people just open all their mail without looking at it.

> I've already filed a fraud alert with Equifax

I think that's unnecessary.

> Am I overreacting?

YesAnswer #2: > You don't open other people's mail.

Accidents happen, especially when you have the letter opener out and are just popping all the envelopes in the stack open.

> It's my W2. it had my social security number, how much money I made over the summer, etc. I feel as if my privacy has been violated.

If it bothers you so much, you should have updated your mailing address with that company or set USPS up to reroute your mail from that address.

> It said "W-2" next to the damn mailing address!

I bet your landlord gets a W-2 as well.  Also see point one.

You're massively overreacting and immediately ascribing malice and possibly identify theft to this.


Title: [IDAHO] Apartment flooded and we no longer have power in half of apartment. Landlord claims he doesn't have enough money to fix it. What options do I have?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Find your city or county housing board/regulator (just try googling for it) and see if they have a process to file a complaint and send an inspector out to your unit/rental to compel your landlord to make the required repairs.


Title: Can you be suspended from work because someone in your household has a criminal record? (uk)

Question:
My friends sister (16, let's call her Q) is doing an apprenticeship at a school, working as a teacher. Today they gave all the staff members forms to fill out, asking if anyone who lives in their household has a criminal record. Another girl doing an apprenticeship wrote down that her mum had criminal damage on her record; that girl was immediately suspended pending further investigation. Q is worried because her mother has a record: possession of drugs, from 8 years ago. (it was like £5 worth of weed, if that's relevant).

Is it legal to suspend someone just because someone in their household has a criminal record?

Answer:
 Yes, unfortunately you can.

The most common situation is for childminding, where everyone in the house has to be checked, and if anyone fails, the application fails. It is understandable, in that as case, the children could be exposed to the family member.

She will have been suspended while the conviction is investigated, and whether it will affect the future. Luckily, I don't believe that a drug related conviction will have any affect on your friend, once it's disclosed, as long as her mother is not on any barring lists (and has no other convictions). She will need to be upfront and honest with her employer, though, as will her mother.


Title: My eye dr lied and said my online glasses are causing vascularisation

Question: About 4 or 5 years ago my eye dr told me i have some vascularisation from contact lens wear. Not enough oxygen gets to the cornea so veins in the whites of the eye grow towards, and in worse cases into, the cornea. Its not uncommon for someone with a very strong prescription with astigmatism, which i have. This week a had an eye exam with a new office and was told that the cheap eye glasses i got online are causing this condition and i needed to buy glasses from them for min 670$ to fix it. A total money making scam. The only thing the wrong lens prescription can give you is bad vision and maybe a slight headache from eye strain. So what do i do? I want to find out what is actually causing the vascularisation, and she's just trying to get my money. Should i confront her and ask for my money back? Should i file a complaint? Should i confront her in a non aggressive way and express my concern that my eye problem isnt being addressed? An old family friend was general council for a very good eye and ear hospital and im sure i could verify that what i was told was a lie, but i dont think talking to an expensive specialist is going to tell me anything i dont know. What approach should i take? I want my money back so i can see a better optometrist.

Answer:
 Optometrist here....

No pair of glasses in any prescription can cause corneal neovascularization. Neovascularization (or vascularization, as you are referring to it) is caused by decreased oxygen getting to the cornea.  There are two common causes for this:

1. Contact lens wear:  Most older brands of soft contact lenses caused some degree of corneal neovascularization. This is not unusual, and unless you've abused the lenses by wearing them much more than you were supposed to, this isn't going to cause any long term issues. If you stopped wearing contacts, it won't get any worse.
2. Eye lids:  This is going to sound odd, but your eye lids will cause decreased oxygen to the cornea, and some mild neovascularization behind your upper eyelids is normal. It won't cause any vision loss or long term problems. It's a benign clinical finding.

You probably do not need to see another optometrist. Buy your glasses wherever you want (although I'm not a fan of online eyeglass purchases, for lots of reasons).  Federal law requires that your optometrist provide you with a copy of your eyeglass prescription. They cannot legally require you to purchase your glasses at their office.

The federal trade commission is the enforcement agency for this federal law.  See the details here.....

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[https://www.ftc.gov/tips-advice/business-center/guidance/complying-eyeglass-rule](https://www.ftc.gov/tips-advice/business-center/guidance/complying-eyeglass-rule)


Title: (AR) Trying to divorce my husband, he is refusing to give me my father's ashes. What can I do legally to get them back?

Question: I have heard that in some states human remains are not considered property therefore they cannot be divvied up in a divorce as property, but I don't know if that applies in the state of Arkansas. It seems like there can be something I can do to get my dad's ashes back from him legally but I just don't know where to begin.

Answer:
 >some states human remains are not considered property therefore they cannot be divvied up in a divorce as property

I've seen some cold judges in my time, but I can't imagine a judge so devoid of emotion that they wouldn't order a spouse to give the other spouse their parent's remains. If you have a pending case, you request a hearing and bring it before the judge.


Title: Wife's employers "no compete" clause, how strong is it and can she work both jobs, or neither for X time.

Question:
So long story short, my wife has been job hunting and got offered a job with a relatively new company, with a 28% pay increase. What we are trying to do is see what legal binding the “Not to Compete” clause has that is in her contract. The way that I read it, is that she can’t work anywhere in the state of Maryland in her career path for 6 months after she leaves her current employer and that she cannot work for her current employer and another employer in the state of MD if it’s in the same career path.

She works part time hours, about 2-4 hours a day at her current job. The new job would not interfere as she would be working from home when needed.

What are our legal options here? We were advised to get a lawyer, but also told it wasn’t “legal enough” to stand up in court saying she cannot practice in her field for 6 months.

To do her ABA job in MD and VA she has to be licensed from the state directly, the license is not something that depends on her current Employer. She obtained her Master’s, passed the Certification, and then got her State licenses on her own Accord.

Covenant Not to Compete. In consideration of the promises and obligations set forth in this Agreement, including *Employers* offer (or continuation) of Employee’s employment, Employee hereby covenants and agrees that at all times during the term of this Agreement, and for a period of six (6) months following the termination of this Agreement, without the prior written consent of *Employer*, Employee will not, at any time, for Employee’s own benefit or for the benefit of any others: (a) solicit, call on, transact or engage in any business activity with any individual, family, or entity with whom (or which) Employee worked during Employee’s employment with *Employer*; or (b) work for any individual, entity, enterprise or venture that competes, directly with *Employer*, including (without limitation) individuals, entities, enterprises or ventures that provide Applied Behavior Analysis therapy or similar services to children and/or their families in the state of Maryland and, if Employee works for *Employer* outside the state of Maryland, then in a 15-mile radius around any location outside Maryland at which the Employee has actually worked for *Employer*.

Maximum Enforceability of Covenant Not to Compete. *Employer* and Employee each intend that the provisions of paragraph 7 (titled “Covenant Not to Compete”) be enforceable to the fullest extent permitted by law. In the event that any of the foregoing restrictive covenant is held to be unenforceable by any court of competent jurisdiction, *Employer* and Employee agree, and understand, and intend that such paragraph shall be construed to impose the maximum limitation upon Employee’s business activities then permitted under applicable law.

Covenant as Condition Precedent to Beginning (or Continuing) Employment. Employee acknowledges that she has carefully read and considered the provisions of paragraphs 7 and 8 of this Agreement. Employee acknowledges that the restrictions set forth in paragraphs 7 and 8 (the “Restrictions”), are reasonable and necessary to protect the legitimate interests of *Employer*, that the duration and geographic scope of such Restrictions are reasonable given the nature of this Agreement and *Employer*’ business. Employee further acknowledges that *Employer* would not enter into this Agreement unless Employee agreed to be bound by the Restrictions, and that the Restrictions would not prevent 4 Employee from earning a living in businesses that are not competitive with *Employer* and without otherwise violating the Restrictions.

Answer: That's quite likely enforceable. It's bounded both geographically and by time.


Title: Being harrassed by my town police

Question:
I have been pulled over 15 times since age 16, now I am twenty two. I have some traffic violations, never speeding , but have been searched almost all of those times to no avail (mostly) I had a rocky start when I was younger and go my arrested three times for having alcohol in my home at 17, weed paraphernalia x2, and my last arrest was in 2017.. I’ve been clean of everything since and after being pulled over 4 times in 2 months since living here and being searched all the times, i have become increasingly paranoid of police and breaking petty traffic laws.

How can I get the police to lay off on me... it’s taking a serious toll on my finances and it’s not fair, i’m a dark male and i believe it’s profiling on how tough and tyrannical they have been towards me...

Answer: The *only* way it would be taking a toll on your finances is if you were breaking the law. Stop breaking the law. Answer #2: You can talk to a civil rights attorney if you’d like, but it sounds like none of the encounters you’ve had were wrongful, considering your multiple arrests and admitted traffic violations.


Title: Family member who is dual U.S./Syria Citizen has been taken by the Syrian government.

Question:
Basically what the title says.

A family member of mine is a dual U.S. /Syrian citizen and he went back to Syria to visit. When he arrived they said he hadn't done his mandatory military service, and he said that he had right after school. They told him this is different because it is wartime and they are now holding him.

Can anything be done to get him back because he is also a U.S. citizen?

Thanks.

Edit: My location is Missouri, his is Syria.

Edit 2: Just wanted to say thank you for all of the information and I am taking everyone's advice.

Answer:
 Start here to see if the US DoS can do anything. Call 1-888-407-4747

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/international-travel/emergencies/arrest-detention.html

Edit: Don't hold your breath. The US gov't closed their Embassy in 2012 and the Czech Republic provides only limited services there.


Title: what kind of legal consequences can my brother face by making a false rape accusation?

Question:
My brother is a 17 year old highschooler. I go to college and live in the a off campus apartment,but my parents(and my brother)live close enough that they can visit without too much hassle.My brother came because he might go to the same university as the one I am attending right now and I wanted to show him a little bit of what college is like.

There was a party and although there was alcohol and marijuana I thought my brother could enjoy himself a little and see what college is like.This wasn't the super wild party with everybody dancing,taking hard drugs,and having orgies.This party was a pretty relaxed one. I didn't feel well so I went back to my apartment and told my brother to enjoy the party.When I left he was completely alert and fine and seemed to be enjoying himself.I left at around 10.I actually seem to have caught something so I took some medicine and went to sleep.The next day my brother calls me and he frantically jumbled words together I didn't understand.I told him to relax and I would come get him.I picked him up and he told me that he was raped by three girls.

He told me he didn't drink a sip of alcohol, but he did have soda and he believed that soda was drugged.He said they took him upstairs when he complained about feeling weak and then overpowered and raped him throughout the night m.I asked who the girls were and I know 2 of them.The thing is his story doesn't make sense for a couple reasons.My brother is pretty much a loser.I tried getting him to play football in high school, but instead he reads manga all day.He is skinnier than a twig and is a nerd.As I said I know two of three girls he told me had raped him and they are both incredibly hot.

As a matter of fact one of them has a girlfriend.They are both extremely popular and every guy on campus wants to fuck them.It doesn't make sense because they could have easily found any number of guys to sleep with them instead of raping a scrawny high school nerd.I called one of the girls I knew and asked her if she had any idea what my brother was talking about and she laughed and basically confirmed what I had thought.My brother called my parents and they called me and asked why my brother was acting in such a ridiculous manner.

My brother wants to go to the police even though I repeatedly begged him not to.However he seems adamant about going.I need to know what to expect, what kind of consequences will my brother potentially face by going to the police with this ridiculous story of his?

I live in Virginia

Answer:
 Filing a false police report would be a crime. However, nothing about what you said makes this sound false. If a guy had raped an unattractive nerdy girl I doubt you would be saying that she is too ugly to have been raped since the guy could have just found a hotter girl. Answer #2: >There was a party and although there was alcohol and marijuana I thought my brother could enjoy himself a little and see what college is like.This wasn't the stereotypical party with everybody dancing,taking hard drugs,and having orgies.

What college is that the stereotypical party?Answer #3: Attractive, popular people rape others. Look at the Stanford swimmer case.

Have your brother talk with a counselor either at RAINN.org or at a local center.