Title: [Kentucky] Cable Technician went into my house without my permission

Question:
I had a service call scheduled for Monday and off the bat two things happened.  I never received a call from him letting him know he was X amount of minutes away, and he just showed up at my residence.   I was away from work was unable to let him in my house so I told him I would call Customer Service and reschedule and told him to leave.

Unbeknownst to me, my roommates mother was at the house doing a repair.  She sees the truck asks him who hes there to see, he says my name, and she lets him in.  This is not even 2 minutes after I told him not to come into my house, I had no communication with either of them.  From what I was told, he went into the house, walked into the room with the modem and left without saying anything.

The tech was given direct instruction not to enter and did so anyway. I tried calling the customer service and the supervisor isn't responding.  Is there any legal action I can take?

Answer: He did have permission because your roommate's mother let him in. There wasn't enough time between when you called to when the technician got there. You don't have a cause of action, here. You're being unreasonable.


Title: (Missouri) Traded my car in to dealer and got a new car, new owner of my old car called me to ask for a 2nd key...turns out insurance card left in the car

Question: So basically what the title says happened. I feel like the dealer did NOT do their job by cleaning out the car well b/c this new owner has my old insurance card with ALL my information, including phone #, address, & potentially other things. Do I have any legal course of action here? It feels like this is a huge privacy concern and what if the new owner gets pissed about something? He has MY info to come to my apt (where both my GF & I reside), call me again, etc...I have legal insurance (ARAG) so if there is legal recourse here, I can get an attorney if needed. Thoughts? The guy wasn't threatening me or anything & didn't seem angry but I'm concerned about the what-ifs.

Answer: Lol. Make sure you clean out your car better the next time you trade one in. No legal recourse.


Title: What happens in a car accident when the at fault driver was killed?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: I am not a lawyer but this happened to me 15 years ago in Atlanta, Ga.  I was on my way to an important meeting stopped at a stoplight and 20 seconds after I had stopped I got slammed into by a car that didnt stop or even slow down.  I call the cops get out of my car and I am livid.  I insist the cops drug and dui test him.  The ambulance comes and the paramedics start cpr on him.  I later learned he was dead before he hit me.  His insurance paid for my damages and I am sure in this case the same will happen.   As in all cases the woman who was hit needs a lawyer but reporting the accident to her insurance is a good interim step.


Title: Handicap parking ticket. Can it put points on my license?

Question:
So my girlfriend  and I went to the beach about a month ago. After about half an hour searching for a parking spot we finally found one in a gravel lot. All the spots were taken but one. The spot was next to a handicap spot, but it wasn't marked itself. So the girlfriend and I are hanging  out on the beach when sure enough we turn around and see a cop writing me a ticket. I sprint back to my car I apologize  to the officer and tell him I'm so sorry I had no idea this was a handicap spot he tells me that the wire fence behind it was painted blue which is indication enough. The ticket was written for my Mom since it was her car even though I told the officer multiple  times that I was the one driving.

So my question first of all is will this pit points on my license?  It was at a emerald isle off the coast of NC.

My second question is is this worth fighting? I live about 4 and a half hours away so it's quite a drive if I have to pay the ticket anyway.

Any advice would be appreciated  thanks.

Answer:
 No, a blue fence is not sufficient for notifying you that you were in handicapped parking. The officer was wrong.
http://www.ncleg.net/gascripts/statutes/statutelookup.pl?statute=20-37.6


Title: My dog bit the neighbor now the dog warden is threatening to take her and put her down..

Question:
I need help. I own a blu pitbull she's 7 years old and her name is Percy. She is akc registered and is all up to date on her shots. My boyfriend and I have just recently moved into town so a lot of our things are still packed up. Mostly the paperwork... we've told our neighbor several times that she does not like strangers and she can be aggressive. Especially when someone strange comes around and my 3 kids are here.

Well last Sunday our neighbor gave us a washer and dryer. My boyfriend and his step dad both told the neighbor that they can move them themselves and they didn't need him up at the house. The neighbor showed up anyways and came into the house and of course my 7 year old pit bit him...he went to the hospital that night.. the police called my place of employment on monday but I had already gone for the day. So my boss called me and told me they were looking for me. I called the state police and they had no idea what I was talking about. I left my name and number and heard nothing..they told my place of employment that they were going to stop out that night so I waited all night for them..

Well the state police finally showed up last night at about 9pm almost after a week it had happened. She said if we didn't provide Percys registration paperwork the dog warden would be here today to take her.. the cop said she would give the dog warden instructions to hold her until Monday and of we still didn't have the paperwork they would put her down. I've talked to many friends about it one being friends with a dog warden and they said they may test her temperament and see if she's aggressive... she doesn't like strangers at all so I feel like it'd would be a death sentence to her..

I told the cop over and over last night that my neighbour was told not to come into the house but he did anyways. We never let Percy outside not tied up or on a leash and shes never not supervised.. we also have a beware of dog sign posted right outside.. all the times she's been tied up outside this said neighbour has come up to our house and she has charged him before so he knows she's territorial... but he didn't listen and now I may have to put down a family memeber..

I don't know what to do if I can't find this paperwork by monday.. I feel like I'll find it months down the road and it'll be to late. I'm just looking to see if there is anything else I could be doing. I called the vet any they will have all her shot records ready but as for her registration it's saturday, How would I get another copy of that today???

Edit: I live in upstate New York..

Edit: you have to register your dog in what Township you live in. That's the paperwork they want.

Answer: It sounds like you can prevent all of this by giving them her paperwork? If that is the case start going through boxes.


Title: [KY] Mother of son wanting money for break up

Question:
We are both 22 and been together for three years with a one year old child. We broke up about a year ago after he was born and she ended up breaking the tv and laptop. I have no evidence or anything but bought receipts afterwards just in case it happened again. Today we broke up again due to us both being unhappy so I finally just said lets end.
She agreed at how life has been but was angry only for a moment, when I came over to get my new laptop she was calm and let me. I still don't have the rest of my belongings. I am the one working since she takes care of my son so everything I have pretty much paid for, but said she can keep the tv and playstation while I only want my laptop.
Also I just did my taxes while claiming our son (this was a week ago before planning on breaking up). I am all for paying for child support but will I have to give her my tax return for this? I understand giving her the amount my son added to it but do not know how this works. She also asked if I can just give her money instead of court payments. But I believe child supports is much more right and legal. Not to mention she doesnt want me to see my son ever now, which I hope will still let me. Any help please?

Answer: You need to get a court ordered visitation and child support arrangement. If you give her money absent any type of chid support order, you would need to have a very documented paper trail. Otherwise, she can say you haven't been taking care of your son. And if you have a custody order, she CAN'T legally keep the baby from you.Answer #2: You need to get a family law lawyer and file for custody and setting up child support. It doesn't sound like she'll be reasonable (already wanting to limit your access to your kid), so it's best to just get everything hashed out and legal. Answer #3: No, don't pay her outside of court, she could claim you never paid years down the road and get you for back child support


Title: Help! Father-In-Law Passed away, mother took everything and left debt.

Question:
I'll try to summarize this the best I can. My father-in-law passed away last year and in his will, my wife is named to get the largest portion of his estate. Her mother (by default since he didn't change it) acquired all of the life insurance money (about 200k). As soon as she got the money, she left for Japan without leaving her daughter a single penny. I ended up becoming the executor of his estate since my wife was not 21 yet. His estate had no money, and we ended up fronting the cost of the funeral, I had to break my lease, and now we are told we need to do his taxes. He had a 40k loan, which they got rid of, and told us to pay the taxes on it. So basically, on top of the 5k debt from costs, H&R block is saying we owe the IRS another 5k for his taxes. I really don't want to put anything else on my credit card. Any help would be much appreciated.

Update: Went to the IRS today, and yes, since we signed the house over to ourselves and took over the mortgage, technically we're responsible for it. Not exactly what I wanted to hear, but thanks for all of the advice everyone! I'll be asking questions about how to close out his estate soon!

We tried asking her mom for help and she will not.
The State is Colorado, El Paso county

Answer:
 You are not liable for debts incurred by your father in law's estate. Once the estate's assets are exhausted that is that.

Do not pay anything else out of pocket until you've at the very least consulted with an estate attorney, especially when 10k is on the line.

The life insurance legally belongs to the beneficiary and she is not obligated to share it with your wife. It is not part of the estate and does not go through probate.Answer #2: Hold on for a second here...

Father in law had a $40K loan, which "they got rid of"?  Who is "they"?  Why did anybody have to pay taxes on it -- is the claim that the loan was forgiven and, thus, the estate owed taxes on the $40k in "income"??

Is that what H&R Block did?   It sounds like you're dealing with some tax preparer there, not with anybody who has any idea of how to deal with estate administration.  That's totally ass-backwards.

Basically, what should happen is this:

(1)  You collect up all of father-in-law's assets.  Cash, cars, house, furniture, coin collection, whatever.  You liquidate (i.e. sell) as much of this as you need to to pay for 2-6, below

(2)  You use that money to pay all the expenses you incur in administering the estate.
(3)  If there's anything left, you pay funeral/burial expenses.
(4)  Then, you pay taxes the decedent owed
(5)  Then you pay medical bills associated with the "last illness."
(6)   Then you pay all other debts
(7)    Anything left goes to the heirs
[There's a little bit more nuance than that in the law, but that's the gist].


Title: Divorce in California: What would a fair separation of assets and custody look like in my case?

Question:
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I'm seriously considering divorce but I'm not sure what's considered "fair" in the US divorce-wise (i'm not from here). I'd like to lay out what my ideal separation would be and then ask you if 1. it's possible at all and 2. if applicable, what a fairer separation would look like. I'd like to have an idea as to what i'm exposing myself to before I start the engine.

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First, our situation: we have a mortgage ($3500/month) on the house we live in in California as well as another mortgage for the apartment we used to live in in another country, currently rented - rent covers the mortgage and some. We have a 9 year old kid. My wife has a car on which we pay a loan monthly ($350), I have her old previous car that we paid cash and a cheap motorcycle that we paid cash for as well. I make $130k/year and she makes $80k/year, both before bonuses. That's it for assets and income.

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This is my ideal separation: I would keep the house and the kid's custody and pay for it all (mortgage, child care, food, mortgage, everything) by myself as well as my vehicles. She can keep her fancy car along with the associated loan and she moves not too far so that it's easy for our kid to see her mom.

I know I can pay for everything like this because i've been doing it for the past 2 months, since my lovely and sharing wife opened a bank account and started depositing her income in it instead of our joint account as we had been doing in the past without telling me. Therefore I have been paying for everything since; also I do all our budgeting and paying for bills and everything so i know exactly where each dollar goes and comes from. The only difference would be that I wouldn't pay for her car anymore, i'd pay for a little less groceries, less gas and less car insurance, and i would probably be able to claim an additional tax deduction. So it could actually be easier.

I know I can take care of the kid and the house by myself because i'm pretty much already doing it. I work from home 100% a job that's not time consuming and my wife works hours that are often unexpectedly long and she often goes on extended business trips so it ended up working that way. I prepare around 2/3rds of the kid's meals and my wife the other third. I do the house chores, I maintain the vehicles, fix the house, help the kid with her homework, pick her up from school, manage the money. My wife cooks a third of their meals (doesn't cook for me ever), works and stares at her phone.

I would be OK giving her whatever part of the value of the house she's entitled to for me to gain full ownership. I expect it not be huge as we bought the house only 2 years ago, we have savings and I could use my half of them for it and if it came to that I know my parents would help me so that their grand daughter could get to keep living in the same house instead of subjecting her to even more stress and unstability. As for the apartment I think we could both agree to keep it as is as it's in an area that's seriously raising in value (hence the rent more than covering the mortgage) and split the proceeds the day we finally decide to sell it.

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So is that scenario possible? Probable? If not, what scenario is the closest to my ideal scenario while still being fair?

Answer:
 California is a community property state and the presumption is that all community assets and debts (everything obtained or incurred during the marriage) will be split roughly evenly. She's going to get significant parenting time, probably pretty close to 50/50, if she wants it.

What you propose is possible, if she goes along. But if she objects, the court is unlikely to go along with all of that.


Title: Landlord's son threatens legal action for Rent owed (Verbal Lease)

Question:
State: TX

So I moved in with an friend of mine (not anymore). It is his parents house, and I had a verbal lease with them for 350 a month. I didn't sign anything, it was all paid in cash. My official residence was with my parents in another county. While living with him, he was dirty, made me clean up after him, took away the internet router because I had the audacity to use it when he was trying to play video games, borrowed money from me and never paid me back, sold weed out of the house, stole and sold my video games for pot, and was just generally a shitty excuse for a roommate. No biggie, I packed up my shit when a friend of mine told me he wanted to kick me out to move in this girl he was trying to bang (rent free btw).

So I left without paying my last months rent. Now, I liked his parents. They were nice people, but I didn't feel like I actually lived there the last 2 weeks I was moved in. I mostly stayed out of the house to avoid him. So I left, and blocked his number and burned the shit out of that bridge. So he starts harassing my friends to tell me he was gonna call the cops (file a police report) for 2 reasons:

-I have in my possession 2 MTG cards that happen to be his. They are not very valuable cards, nor does he have proof of purchase or anything like that.

-$350 in rent for the 2 weeks out of the month that I was still moved in.

I've looked this up already, and I'm pretty sure I'm fine. I don't have a written lease with the actual owners of the home. It was all verbal, and I cant see a court even hearing the case. And the cards, I'm pretty sure most cops would laugh him out of the building if he tried to get them to search my home for 2 MTG cards that he has no proof that I even have. But still would like opinions. Anyone see any reason I should be worried, or was me laughing at him and telling him to fuck off fine?

TL;DR: Verbal lease with Douchebag roommates parents, didn't pay last months rent, douchebag threatens to file police report for rent owed and 2 MTG cards. Opinions?

Answer:
 You were legally a month to month tenant. You legally were required to give proper (generally 30 days) notice. You owe rent.

Edit [link, thirty day notice]( http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/texas-notice-requirements-terminate-month-month-tenancy.html)


Title: A moving company is holding our belongings hostage, but we don't have a contract with them [Canada]

Question:
We had a moving company move 4 boxes for us. Originally, we were only moving 3 boxes, but we decided to add a 4th. It was supposed to be added onto the original contract, but they misplaced the 4th box and it ended up not being shipped with the others. Instead, it shipped on its own, without a contract or order number or anything of the sort.

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When they found the box, they called me and asked for a VISA number in order to process shipping. I gave them my number, and they sent it on its way. We were originally told (in person, sadly) that it would be around $150 to ship the 4th box along with the others, but now that its own its own, they're trying to charge us ten times that amount -- $1440.

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My question: Since there's no contract, are we within our rights to simply go there in person and demand our things, or consider them stolen? Or does the moving company have the right to hold onto them, despite the lack of contract?

Answer:
 Sue whoever you originally moved it with.

They lost control of it, resulting in the situation, therefore it is their fault.


Title: Determined ineligible to vote in Virginia because of address.

Question:
I registered to vote in a voting drive on September 4th, 2016 in Virginia. On September 23 I received a letter from my local Office of Voter Registration that I was determined ineligible because, "Your voter registration application is incomplete. You did not: Provide a Valid Residence Address."

Its important to note I rent an apartment located in a property zoned commercial but which received an Special Exception for two residences.

There are several issues I am having here.

1. According to Virginia Administrative Code "1VAC20-40-40. Review of Application" the application should not have been denied, but instead a further request for information should have been made. [1VAC20-40-40. Review of Application.](http://law.lis.virginia.gov/admincode/title1/agency20/chapter40/section40/)

2. The authority to request additional information in the case "an address provided is a building not normally used for residential purposes" allowed in administrative law is not supported by the relevant statutory law. [1VAC20-40-40. Review of Application.](http://law.lis.virginia.gov/admincode/title1/agency20/chapter40/section40/)

3. Appealing the decision requires a petition to the court and a payment of ten dollars.[§ 24.2-422. Appeal of person denied registration.](http://law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/24.2-422/)

I believe what has been done is against the law, and is widespread. I could easily pay the ten dollars, provide my lease and the Zoning Special Exception to the court and have my particular situation resolved, but I would perfer to correct the greater wrong. I am willing to put the time and effort into this but I would also appreciate any help or comments.

Thanks!
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 > I believe what has been done is against the law, and is widespread

Not doubting you, but why do you believe this to be widespread?  Are there a lot of residents in commercially zoned properties in VA who received zoning variances?  That seems like a pretty narrow group.

>  I would perfer to correct the greater wrong

I don't understand what you think the greater wrong is.  You have to register a valid residential address to register to vote.  That's a pretty simple and straightforward check against voter fraud which doesn't serve to disenfranchise any specific or vulnerable groups (other than maybe the homeless?).  Answer #2: Do you want to vote, or do you want to spend a bunch of time in court?Answer #3: The help you receive will be determined on who you are going to vote for.... /s
all kidding aside do the right thing and follow through on it based on principle alone. Answer #4: I'm confused here. It sounds like they are requesting additional information and didn't deny your initial application, they just can't accept it until they have more information. I'm not in Virginia, but where I live if you provide a commercial address it won't let you register that person and the person gets their application back with a request for a residential address.


Title: Hand Writing the Entire Bee Movie Transcript on Patreon.

Question:
Location: United States, if I can at all not post my state I'd like not too.

So, I have a Patreon with sadly no Patrons yet.
To drum up business, I thought adding an interesting reward would help!
I plan on Hand Writing the Entire Bee Movie Transcript from this source:

http://www.script-o-rama.com/movie_scripts/a1/bee-movie-script-transcript-seinfeld.html

Now, I'm wondering if it would be legal for me to offer the following reward:

"Down-Right Swell Patron - $5 per Month

This reward will go towards making a Hand Written Transcript of the Bee Movie.
For each Patron that donates I will write One word of the Bee Movie Transcript each month.
If you donate, even for just one month, your name will be added to a list of names to be, after completion of the entire Hand Written Transcript of the Bee Movie, also hand written as a "Made Possible by:" section.

I will then hold a vote do decide what the next script should be (Bee Movie will always be a choice.) and repeat."

As I'm not selling the script itself, rather I'm 'selling' my writing of the script, the script doesn't go anywhere it's just being made. Or what would I have to do for this to be legal?

Thanks!

Answer: that's illegal. it's also quite telling on your entitlement level that you not only want people to pay you to do nothing, but want to steal from others to incentivize free handouts. screw you.


Title: Ambulancr crashed...how much would you get in a settlement

Question: My boyfriend and I live in Philadelphia Pa and during a blizzard he had to be transported from one hospital to another for emergency  surgery. The ambulance that my boyfriend was in took a wrong road that was too snowy to drive on and crashed into another vehicle. He was then forced  to walk a block in a blizzard without shoes and in a hospital gown to wait for another ambulance to pick him up. How much is he looking at in a settlement?

Answer:
 >How much is he looking at in a settlement?

Unless he was injured, exactly zero dollars. Answer #2: It sounds like nothing.  How is he damaged in terms of money?


Title: MN: My coworkers and I are salaried. There's no overtime, email access outside of the office or working from home and we work a maximum of 40 hrs a week. Can the company deduct office supplies that we use in the course of work (pens, staples etc.) from our pay?

Answer: You can probably deduct them from your taxes.


Title: [CA] Wrongly sued. The name is the same, but I have never lived in that area and don't know the plaintiff

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Contact the court for information on the case, the plaintiff, service, et cetera.

It's possible that the plaintiff simply misspelled the other person's name as yours.  It's also possible you've been misidentified.


Title: wife took kids and left, indiana

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 family law attorney to file for a custody order. until you have an order in place, her keeping them away from you is not illegal, and because she may allege domestic violence, you need a lawyer immediately.Answer #2: File for custody, and hire a process server to deliver her the court papers at the women's shelter. You can also legally go to the school and pick your children up; assuming you have legally established paternity over them and she doesn't have a court order for custody.

You have to ask yourself which is more disruptive to the kids though - doing that and returning them to their home, or leaving them where they are. Answer #3: Tricky situation.  Follow up with the police that handled your case and see if they can assist you in approaching your wife.  If your wife is at a women's shelter, you don't want to show up out of the blue or you'll have the police called on you (they are very protective).


Title: A bunch of high school students (less than 18 years old) are always stepping on my property without my authority

Question:
It's been a recurring issue for the past couple of months, for example;  they would run around the street then run all over my front yard.  There was a time where a girl tried to ding dong ditch my house but ran away when I had the chance to confront her.  There's also been a time where four students were standing in the middle of the driveway smoking weed.

My question is what legal actions can I take against these troublesome kids?  Am I allowed to get physical with them if they refuse to leave my property?

Im located in the province of Quebec, Canada

Answer:
 I’m also from Quebec,

First of all, no you cannot get physical when it comes to making them leave your property. If ever you got physical with one of the teens, it can land you in trouble.

So, what I would do is just maybe tell them politely to stay off your property and if they continue them maybe consider getting the police involved.

But if they haven’t actually done any damage to your property then you can’t do anything besides talking it out with them. But if one day they break your flowers (that would be a “méfait”), you can ask their legal guardian or parents money to repair the damage that’s been done, and if they refuse you can send them a “mise en demeure”

here are some links that can maybe help if ever they damage your property:

https://www.avocat.qc.ca/faq/faq_responsabilite.htm#Dommagefaire


Title: My company automatically charges a gratuity charge but doesn’t give them to the workers. Is this legal?

Question:
I work at a minimum wage job at a country club pool snack shack. Members at the pool come up to our shack, orders food/drinks, we put their member number in and select what they ordered, then we bring out/give the food to them. On the menu for our shack it says a 19% gratuity charge is added to every order, which it is. However none of the employees who work down in the shack that make/bring out the food receives this. Is this legal? In New York State if it matters.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: New York actually has a law saying that any mandatory service charge like that must specifically state it is not going to the employees if it isn't. They may think since they are not putting a "tip credit" against your wage it is legal, but it isn't.


Title: Texas - If an adult (21) gets an underage girl pregnant, what kind of charges/penalties will he face?

Question: If a 21 year old man molests a 12 year old girl and a paternity test proves he is the father of her baby, what kind of charges and penalties would he face? Would the fact that he has never had any interactions with the police or had to deal with court before and was otherwise a model citizen help his case? This is in Texas. Thank-you.

Answer: OP, if I were you I'd delete this and the previous post, for your own safety. The circumstances of a 21 year old being charged with molesting a 12 year old, in Texas, are going to get some news coverage once it goes to court and make you and your son easy to doxx.Answer #2: Well, if the baby is proven to be his, it's pretty much self evident that he committed the charges brought against him. It's a slam dunk trial to find your son guilty.


Title: Is there a law in WA State about overloading a passenger vehicle?

Question:
I’m curious if there is a law regarding a passenger vehicle and how many occupants you can legally have in the car while driving. For example, I have a 5 seat car and I have 8 people in the car. Assuming 5 of the occupants are using all available seatbelts, is it legal to have the extra 3 people in the car?

I’m specifically looking for WA state and would like to see the RCW because I haven’t been able to find anything about it.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer:
 https://apps.leg.wa.gov/rcw/default.aspx?cite=46.61.688

Everyone over 16 must wear a seatbelt. If you don’t have enough seatbelts in the vehicle (one per person, no doubling up), then you’ll have to tell the excess people to find another ride.


Title: Served with Small Claims forms

Question:
I am a drop shipper in Ontario, and I was served by a client with the wrong name - Matt - not Matthew.

They have the correct address and detail

What happens if I chose to ignore the service documents.

Please help

The plantiff does not even live in this country.

Answer:
 Are you sure your name is not Richard? Because you sound like a Dick. ;)

The summons is still valid.


Title: [NSW] Does lawyer give legal advice?

Question:
Hi redditors,

I am planning to run my business about gambling. I have tried those free legal advice unfortunately most of them are not in that gambling area/field. I am just wondering do lawyers give legal advice?
For example, I found a lawyer that specialized in gambling field and ask him for legal advice, then when the business got revenue only then I hire the same lawyer that gave me the advice? Can I do that? Paying for legal advice is much more affordable compare to hiring lawyers in the first stage.

Just looking for an affordable route to ensure I am good and not breaking any laws when running the business.

Thanks in advanced
Topic:
Business Law

Answer:
 One of the first rules of starting a business is that if you can't afford to hire a lawyer to do it right, you can't afford to start a business.

The more legally complicated your business is, the more this is true.

On a scale of 1-10, a business involving gambling is probably like a 6 or 7 as far as legal complications go. It's right up there with opening a skatepark and weapons manufacturing.


Title: Got pulled over last night in NYC. Cop gave me someone else's ticket.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You should call the clerk of court, let them know what happened and request your actual ticket information.


Title: My girlfriend has no idea she is being taken advantage of by her employer

Question:
New York State here: my girlfriend started her first job over a year ago. All seemed well, she makes reusable diapers at a warehouse. However, she often works almost 50 hours a week, and her boss pays no overtime. Instead she makes the workers "bank" hours in order to get holidays off. This doesnt sound legal to me in the slightest, and my girlfriend believes its totally fine. Im pretty sure her boss is simply taking advantage of a lot of women who dont seem to know any better.

So reddit, is it legal for an employee to bank hours instead of being paid for overtime? No, she is not an independent contractor.
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: She should file a complaint with the NY Dept Of Labor and/or the US Dept of Labor.  He doesn't have to provide Holiday pay (unless NY is very unusual and requires it, which I highly doubt) but he must pay time and a half for all hours worked over 40 in a week. Someone who assembles diapers is without question a non-exempt employee.


Title: [MO, USA] Can a landlord turn off the gas if the tenant has not (and will not) transferred it into his/her name.

Question:
I want to make sure I am understanding the law correctly and would be grateful for your advice.

According to [this law](http://www.moga.mo.gov/mostatutes/stathtml/44100002331.HTML), a landlord in Missouri cannot shut off a tenant's gas unless it's an emergency. Suppose that the tenant moved in and never transferred the gas into his/her name (even though the lease says that the tenant will pay for gas). Then, the landlord had to pay the backed-up gas bills after the gas company finally called. The tenant was asked to switch the gas over to his/her name more than once and didn't do so. Can the landlord legally shut off the gas? I suppose that the answer is no, because it violates this law. If the landlord actually does shut it off, can they then be charged with forcible entry and detainer? What kind of process/penalty would that involve?

Supposing the landlord doesn't shut off the gas, the only course of action is start a formal eviction because the lease has been broken, correct?

Thanks in advance.

Answer: I'd be more worried about being evicted. You would be violating the terms of your lease.


Title: Office manager cashed out 23 hours of my PTO without my authorization or knowledge. Is this illegal?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Location matters a lot, as does your company policy.  Many require you to use PTO to stay at 40 hours.  Read your manual.


Title: North Dakota: Brother has a son, the mother is probably going to jail. But he isn't being given custody.

Question:
I'm going to try and explain as accurately as I can.  Brother, age 35, has a job, no criminal background, in good health.  Has a son with a woman of Sioux Indian heritage.  The son is 4 years old.

The mother has recently been arrested on a drug charge.  This after spending 10 days in jail for a previous drug charge.  I don't have any details on the case because the case is still in process and I'm well outside the loop. I'm under the impression that this new charge will be more serious.

My brother was never told that she had been charged and sent to jail on the 10 day sentence.  His son was looked after by the grandma on his mom's side.  She obviously didn't want to mention to my brother that her daughter had another legal issue.  (There are others, mostly minor charges).

So my brother wants to attain custody.  Every lawyer in town he has approached has pretty much explained to him in great detail where the door was and encouraged him to use it.

What exact legal issue dealing with the son's heritage (I think 1/4 Sioux) prevents my brother from having custody of his son?  What can be done?

Answer:
 It's because of the Indian Child Welfare Act:

> ICWA gives tribal governments a strong voice concerning child custody proceedings that involve Indian children, by allocating tribes exclusive jurisdiction over the case when the child resides on, or is domiciled on, the reservation, or when the child is a ward of the tribe; and concurrent, but presumptive, jurisdiction over non-reservation Native Americans’ foster care placement proceedings.[2]

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indian_Child_Welfare_ActAnswer #2: Sorry to yell, but:   ICWA DOES NOT APPLY HERE.

ICWA never applies in custody or divorce case.  See, ICWA Handbook, B.J. Jones, pp. 27-28.  Also see  *In re Defender,* 435 N.W.2d, 717.

End of story re ICWA.

Now, tribal court may have some sort of concurrent jurisdiction over mother and/or child.  It would depend on where they child lived, and what the tribal laws are.  So brother should run to the state court and initiate the action there  post haste.  The story about no lawyer taking the case is not ringing true--it's cut-and-dried as to whether ICWA applies.  If he has money for a retainer, lawyers should not be afraid of this case.

Take a look at [*Merrill v. Altman, 807 N.W.2d 821.*](http://law.justia.com/cases/south-dakota/supreme-court/2011/25950.html).  There, the mother died, and dad gets custody over grandparents.  Going to prison is similar in that mom will be gone for a long time.

*I'm a lawyer--but I am not your lawyer and this anonymous post to Reddit does not constitute legal advice.*


Title: I recently bumped into a vehicle in a drive through. The mark is almost invisible. We exchanged info and parted ways. He said he might contact me monday if he needs to. Am I legally obligated to pay for anything?

Answer:
 As in you rear ended someone? If there is a mark on his car then you'll have to pay to fix that, even if the mark is "almost invisible".Answer #2: You are legally obligated to pay for any damages to the vehicle and any injuries incurred.

Not all damages are obvious. He may want to have the car inspected by a certified autobody shop. The cost of such an inspection would be on you.

If there are indeed no damages you don't owe anything.


Title: Woman tried to break my car window to save my dog from the heat, but the car, AC was on and door unlocked. Insurance won’t give me any information. Can I make them pay for the window? PA

Question:
I went into a craft store to pick up some clearance stuff I missed the day before, right next to the register and I could not have been away from my car more than 10 minutes. I left my dog with the car on and unlocked, ac on full blast, and water on the floor. Didn’t leave a note but I didn’t think I would have to since I left my car ON. Not just the battery, the engine was ON and it was blowing cold air. I wasn’t worried about anyone stealing him or the car because I know the area really well, besides my dog is quite intimidating and I was only gone a couple minutes.

I walk outside and hear this young girl (early 20s?) saying “it’s too hot!! It’s dangerous!” to another older lady. And notice she’s talking about my dog, who is sitting in the front seat of my car barking like crazy. He’s clearly upset, scared and the back passenger window of my car is cracked. I realized this girl was in hysterics because she couldn’t break my window and free my (TOTALLY FINE) dog. I think I got outside just before she called the police. I confronted her about it and she went nuts on me about leaving my dog in the heat. Didn’t apologize or anything just lectured about the heat. I tried to explain that he was comfortable but she wasn’t having it, she said it was her responsibility to save him (I get it but try the door handle first next time? Or just let the police handle it)

What are my options? I have her first and last name but that’s all I got before she got too mad and just left yelling. I didn’t get the other lady’s name. Should I get a lawyer to try and contact her? Should I just put more pressure on my insurance company (Farmers in case it matters)? Just wait it out and let the insurance do its thing? This happened in PA but my insurance is in IL.

Answer:
 I am so glad you went to the cops. My state has a law that the police,firefighters can force entry into a car IF an animal is in extreme condition's only after they have tried to find the owner or they can see the animals is suffering.. Ever since this law went into effect we have citizens who think they are allowed to smash windows and "save the animals"

I left my dog in my car for 5 minutes (I had a timer running on my phone and it was a windy day with overcast) and as I was at the register I saw a lady yelling at my dog in my car, getting him riled up and barking. When I came out she said she was going to smash my windows If I didn't come out. I promptly quoted the RCW and told  her that if she every broke a car window she would be responsible for damages.

Edit; also if you are interested they make window AC units for cars that run even while the car is off. All of our Police K9 units have them and they are great!


Title: [Canada] Disney Sweepstakes Question

Question:
>Each Canadian resident who is a potential Winner will be required to answer correctly a mathematical skill testing question without assistance of any kind whether mechanical or otherwise to be declared a Winner and be eligible to collect the Prize.

I found this in the terms and conditions at http://parks.disney.com/disney-flip-side-sweepstakes?cmp=smc|dfss|natural|disney-network|2015-01-30|disney-flip-side-sweepstakes|toystory-fb

Anyone know why that requirement is in place?

Answer:
 Canada more-or-less bans games of chance where money is involved to participate.  By offering the question, it's a game of skill.

In other words, loophole.


Title: HOA says renters can't go to the lake

Question: Hi, I own property with a rental house that has lake access thru a shared private road that everyone in the neighborhood uses to get to the water. The road to the lake passes thru public land which was recently purchased by a newly formed HOA. Everyone pitched in money to purchase this land from the government. The HOA has recently told my renters that they are not allowed to the lake anymore as they are not a property owner. Everyone in the neighborhood has used this lake access road for many years. My rent houses not having lake access will lower the value. Not sure what I can do.

Answer: Does the HOA have language like  "The Unit Owner surrenders their use of the pool, sauna, clubhouse, storage rooms, parking spaces and laundry to their Tenants." in the governing docs? And did you move out and are renting the home out?


Title: Found out I may have a child

Question: I recently found out I may have a child. This woman has been raising it with another man since birth, and apparently he is in the birth certificate. At this point she is 12 or 13 and has been raised by this guy her entire life, they also have another kid together. There is no proof aside from that she looks like me. I have reached out and they are both adamant that he is the father and that’s that. To be honest at this point I think it would be best to let them go since they are happy. However, is there any way to legally certify this without a paternity test? Saying that I am not the father and they will not go after me for back child support in the future? State is MD

Answer:
 >  To be honest at this point I think it would be best to let them go since they are happy.

Agreed.

> they will not go after me for back child support in the future?

I cannot imagine that the mother would be successful pursuing this based on the situation you describe and the laws of your state.Answer #2: If he is on the birth certificate it would be a massive uphill battle to get that changed.  Nothing you can really do to be proactive but Maryland only allows child support to be retroactive to the date the lawsuit for support is filed, so you can’t be sued for the past 12 years.  As it sounds like you don’t want to mess up what they have going on just ignore it and on the odd chance you are served with a lawsuit make sure you respond.


Title: Reckless, arrogant teenage supercar owner is disrupting the peace in our neighborhood with supercar. What can i do? [California]

Question:
Hi all!

There is a teenage boy (I believe 18 or 19) who lives alone and has two very expensive cars (A Lamborghini Hurucan and I believe something similar to a Mclaren) and revs his engine to what seems to be full capacity at all hours during the night. He drives recklessly, with music blaring from his car, not taking into consideration the time or his neighbors. His friends also own exotic cars and a few times i have seen and heard them speeding on our street, too.

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There have been multiple instances where he has driven extremely fast down our street, and almost hitting things. I have contacted the police before and they said that they will talk to him, however as I had no proof they are "limited" with what they can do.

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I have installed CCTV cameras on the front of my house hoping to catch him in action- Can i get him kicked out? What can i do to put an end to this? I feel as though he will end up killing someone one of these days with his speeding.

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He has an Instagram which he posts videos of him speeding, doing donuts and other illegal things. In one video he is seen yelling "you got a fat f\*\*king a\*\* to a girl, from his car".  He is very arrogant on that website, boasting about his money.

I have taken screenrecordings of these.

The saddest part is he is quite known on Instagram in our town and those in the comments are praising him.

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Topic:
Douche

Answer: There's not much that you can do.  Maybe you can convince the city or your HOA to put in some speed bumps.


Title: This is more out of curiosity: a friend at a show got knocked out (punched) by a dude randomly who was set up by friends jealous ex-gf to do it. Is she just as liable for the assault because she set it up to get done?

Question:
Long story short: jealous ex convinces swole dude to punch out friend during show, guy knocks him out and leaves, doesn't say anything looking like there was almost no context to this what so ever, ex admits she set It up to rub in his face, is she just as liable for the assault as the dude who actually committed the crime? Would that recent case of the girl that convinced that guy to kill himself via text have any effect on the outcome of such a ruling?

Not that I'm in any real position to help nor do I wish to get involved, I am just morbidly curious and a quick Google search didn't provide much of an awenser. But I will pass on any advice you guys think I should.

Answer:
 The Michelle Carter case is not related;  it's basically a First Amendment case and not a conspiracy case.    You can go back to the 1992 Tonya Harding case (north of the river, but still) for a good example.

In this case, the ex-girlfriend would probably be guilty to conspiracy to commit the assault crime, since she agreed with the "swole dude" to have him commit the assault.    In many cases the penalty for conspiracy is similar or equal to the penalty for the crime.


Title: Taking over lease of an apartment and the previous tenant left furniture and wants us to hold it for them (California)

Question: We're taking over a lease and we're planning on moving in on Sunday. The current tenant just called my wife and told her that she left their massive bed set, a few couches, and a desk. She was wondering if we could hold it for around a week and see if she can still sell it while living 6 hours away. I tried to look up laws about what to do with abandoned items but they were all from a landlords perspective. Do we have any obligation to hang on to her stuff or can we just take it to goodwill? is it legal for us to sell it? We officially take over the lease starting on the 17th. Do you guys have any advice?

Answer:
 Well, have you told her no? Absolutely you're not obligated to hold her stuff for her. It's not her apartment anymore, she doesn't get to use it for free storage. Tell her she's got until the 17th to get it out. Failure for her to plan doesn't mean she gets to inconvenience you.

If it's not out in time, notify the landlord.


Title: (MA) if someone's in your house against your will, can you use force to remove them?

Question:
We rent, theres a relative who is a health risk to our child. We can foresee a situation where she enters our house against our will at an upcoming event.

Edit- yes it's vax related, but also just unwelcome visitors without boundaries. Les assume the premises / property are open, unfenced, or for whatever reason, a person on the property needs to be removed.

Answer: Have you considered telling that person that he/she is not invited and not opening the door?Answer #2: Yes you can use *reasonable* force to remove them, but unless the danger is immediate the best move is to simply call the police.Answer #3: My first thought was vaccinations and after looking through past posts, this appears to be the case. You should tell the relative that she is not welcome because unvaccinated people pose a serious risk to your child(I'm assuming). I would let your entire family know that due to the risk, you request that all people who enter your home be vaccinated and that anyone who is not to please stay home. Answer #4: Depends on what you mean by "health risk" - If you're worried this person will physically hurt your child you'll have a lot more leeway than if you don't want them to come around because they are unvaccinated/anti-vax. Answer #5: You can notify them that they are not welcome on your property. If they return you can call the police and report a trespasser refusing to leave. You could probably even get a restraining order against them if they trespass multiple times.


Title: What happens if I hit a pedestrian on a green light (crosswalk too), he didn't have ROW, and cars in other lanes blocked my view?

Question:
Could I still be liable for the accident?

I understand that I could be liable if it was probable that the driver  was able to see the pedestrian. But, it'll be nearly impossible to stop if you didn't know that there was a pedestrian bc a car blocked your view. Could the fact that other cars were stopped at a green light be used against you too?

Also, what about jaywalkers who decide to start walking from between parked cars?

Answer:
 Depends on jurisdiction.  For example in California, we have a pure comparative negligence jurisdiction, which reduces the defendant’s damages in proportion to the amount that the plaintiff was also negligent in the accident.

So in that instance, you’d likely be liable because even though the pedestrian was walking without ROW, if other cars were stopped this would notify you that there must be something happening, so you should have stopped or driven with extra caution.  However, in a pure comparative negligence jurisdiction, the pedestrian is also liable because they did not have ROW.

So you’d be liable, but any damages you’re required to pay will be reduced in proportion to the pedestrian’s negligence in walking without ROW.

For your second question, the standard for liability is a reasonable person standard.  So according to your example, if a pedestrian was walking between cars and you see the person and hit them anyway, you’re liable because a reasonable person would have stopped the car and allowed the pedestrian to walk, even if it was jaywalking.

On the other hand, if you were driving in accordance to the speed limit and were unable to see the pedestrian for whatever reason (maybe they were very short or walking between two large SUVs/busses) then it’s likely you’re not liable because you were performing your duty as a reasonable person in driving as a reasonable person would.


Title: Advertisement stuck to car in Chicago

Question: So I'm going to say right off the bat, this is pretty minor.  I'm more annoyed than anything.  I got a new car this year, it's only ~6 months old.  I have street parking in Chicago.  Randomly you'll get those ads affixed to your vehicle.  Either under the windshield wiper or they'll slide it between your driver side window and the seal of the window.  Well I was out of town and an auto shop had someone come by and do this.  They put a business card (but about twice the normal size) between the window and the rubber seal.  Since I was out of town, I didn't see it to remove it.  It's since rained, gotten really hot and humid, cooled off.  Yesterday when I saw it and tried to remove it, it's stuck and just peeling off leaving half the paper on there.  My first thought was to remove it with a razor blade and some cleaner.  But A) some clearners will eat away at the rubber seal and B) I can't get to the portion below the seal.  So I'm thinking about driving over to the auto/mechanic place in the ad and telling them "Hey you stuck this on my car, I can't get it off, I want you to clean it".  If they give me any guff, do I have any legal recourse I can threaten?  Vandalism or anything of the sort?  It's one of those things where I'm not even sure this is worth my time, I'm just worried about the bit I can't get to otherwise I'd clean it off myself.

Answer: Go to walmart and by a product called "Goo Gone" clean your own window and enjoy the rest of your day.


Title: About to take out lawsuit on former friend who got me fired. How should I go about doing it?

Question:
I got my friend hired to work on a job selling posters across the country. I'd done it earlier with a different partner last year in February '15, but things were a bit different.

Turns out it's a shady company who's M.O is to improperly categorize employees as independent contractors and then sending them out on the road selling posters on campuses and then firing them without pay. So, the main perp is with the company. I've taken cases with them out with the Labor Board and they're pending.
However, my former friend is also the reason I wasn't paid. While we were out he laughed in the faces and made fun of contacts we had at different schools (the company claims one of the schools canceled a contract because of this), left the cashbox out in the school bookstore, got drunk and high on the job and wrote nasty letters to our boss. He also refused to send in deposits on time, which was grounds for firing according to our contract and threatened me when I insisted. My boss saw his behavior as reason to fire us both without pay. Although, she would have fired us no matter what because that's what this company does, (after some research I found many cases taken out against them for doing just this). I did do this job before and though my first partner and I were always scared they'd fuck us over, we powered through it and made money. It was my new partner who got me fired.

Also, he went mad, I was living in a constant state of panic sleeping in the same room as him and basically being terrorized the whole time we were on the road. He was throwing my stuff away behind my back. I knew we had to stay together to get paid, so I just tried to smooth things over rather than fighting back constantly.

All of these "breaches of contract" were his but I went down for them. He put me out of a couple grand I made doing backbreaking work. I was also living in a state of extreme anxiety on the road everyday. This might be irrelevant, but he's a trust fund baby who is offended that he had to work. He thought we'd be traveling around getting wasted everyday and was super mad that it was hard work. I also realized he's always in a haze of weed and booze back home in Seattle where we live which he uses as an anti-psychotic. On the job, he couldn't abuse that stuff as much and just went off his nut. He's just a super angry homicidal maniac. [Seattle]

I'm taking a civil case out on him. I was wondering how I should go about this because I have to get that money back somehow. I worked harder than I ever have for it.

Thanks so much for your time.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: What money do you think he owes you? I am unclear. You are pursuing the company for what you are owed. Your worked with an ass and already said they were going to fire you no matter what, so his actions did not get you fired, by your own account.


Title: Ex boyfriend claims he gave me an STD, won't tell me which one - can I sue him for either giving me one but not telling me which one, or for lying and saying he gave me one, causing me emotional distress?

Question:
Edit: Location is Nebraska

So today (Saturday) I got a call from my ex who I just broke up with in the past week. He claimed he has a disease and that I have it too, but refused to tell me what disease and hung up. I called him back and demanded he tell me, and he said it was herpes but then later said it was Hep C. I asked how that was possible as Hep C is transmitted through blood, and he then said that it wasn't actually Hep C but still refused to tell me what it is.

There are many things that suggest he is lying to me to get back at me. During our relationship, he cheated on me with the mother of his daughter, and when I contacted her to ask if she knew anything about it, she said he hadn't said anything about an STD. Also, during the process of breaking up, he kept claiming he had something important to tell me, but that he could only tell me over the phone or in person, and at first said that it would make me want to stay with him, but then a day later said it would make never want to speak to him again.

 The majority of the signs point to him lying, but I still want to get tested just in case. My question is, if he did give me one, can I sue him for not telling me which one? Or if it turns out that he's lying, can I sue him for lying and causing me emotional distress? I know that sounds far-fetched, but I've been through hell over him and would just like some reparations if it is all a lie.

Answer: You'll successfully sue for neither of those things. To add on, if you were having unprotected sex with a known cheater and haven't been tested yet then you should get tested now.


Title: What should I do if a restaurant messed with my family's meal?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If your daughter is in pain so severe she's in tears, perhaps you should take her to the ER instead of posting on Reddit about it.Answer #2: If you're sick, go see a doctor. If you think you have a legal case because of being sick, you'll also need a doctor's report. So *go to the hospital or a doctor*.


Title: [CA] Got a call about my old dog from two years ago being hit by a car (still alive) but he was technically living with my ex post-break up. Please HELP!!!!

Question:
So just a little backstory (I live in California btw). Lived with a girl who I thought was the love of my life in college. Things got toxic and she got abusive, so I left the relationship, and didn't want to fight over anything else so simply let her keep the dog. She kept it and we both parted ways and moved on with life. I got a voicemail Saturday from an animal shelter saying the dog was picked up as a stray, and is injured. Seems he was hit by a car. Vet ran x-rays and it wasn't very serious. The guy from the shelter on the phone said that the vet made no notes about x-ray results which typically means it can't be too bad.

Anyhow, I am going to pick up my old pup after work today (in a couple hours) and I wanted to know the legal ramifications, implications, whateverications that may come along with me choosing to keep him. Now Beast (Yes, my dogs name lol) is obviously still registered under me because they called me and got my number through the micro-chip he has installed in him obviously. I don't recall my ex doing any sort of paperwork or transfer of ownership, though I could be wrong, that whole period of my life was a blur. She has not called me about him or informed me of what's happened whatsoever, and I have done the same. I have simply kept it quiet today (though very distressed).

So now what? Do I have to legally inform her? Does she have any custody over the dog? Is he legally mine? Can I keep him and not tell her anything? What should I do legally? And what should I do realistically?

Please help!

Answer:
 Yes, you have to either inform her or have the shelter do it. The dog is not yours and you taking the dog from the shelter without notifying her could easily be seen as theft.

She has no obligation to inform you about anything regarding the dog.


Title: The husband of my landlord just came into my home and I accused him of entering without me knowing, he said he will beat me up and that this was his house while he's wife told her lawyer I grabbed her hand.

Question:
I don't know were to fucking start. I'm in my kitchen cleaning my dishes and I hear a noise. It's the fucking husband of my landlord, a guy I've never met inside my home. I told him WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING IN HERE. He said that he's repairing some electrical issues. I'm like get the fuck my of my home. He's like, this isn't your home it's my home. While the wife promptly said she knocked a billion times and just entered the home because why not?

I told him to get the fuck away. He said he will beat me up if I continue. The wife said I'm calling 911. Then I'm like what the fuck is wrong with people. You are traspassing. Get the fuck out.

She then said that if my yelling _killed_ her mother I'm going to jail. And I'm like get the fuck out of my home. They cut my power off for 20 minutes. Then they come in again without my permission and turn it up again.

What in the holy fuck is wrong with people? I know this is illegal but holy fucking shit they don't know that when you rent this is my place by law not yours for the time being?

Jesus. I'm Sorry if this was a want but idk wth is going on. Sorry.
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 >They cut my power off for 20 minutes.

This was a big mistake. There are serious laws regarding landlords doing this kind of shit. If you can find a way to get her to admit to this in writing or on an audio recording, it might be very helpful later.

Get a security camera in your home, pointed at the front door.Answer #2: Not legal advice but get cameras and a chain or other mechanism to keep that door locked while you are home.  Saw the last edit and am relieved the police are aware they are lying about the grabbing.Answer #3: It could actually be reasonable in the midst of a pressing repair for landlord or her agent to knock and then make entry if no response.

Obviously when you encountered him cooler heads should have prevailed.

Your remedy here is to remind landlord of her notice obligation in the lease and state law.


Title: Gf's mother destroying her property, texting threats, and coming to her place of work to threaten her and coworkers. Oregon.

Question:
Hello, my girlfriend (21) still lives with both of her parents. Her and her mother evidently have a rocky relationship. Two nights ago they were in an argument and her mother broke the rear window of her car.

My girlfriend came to work the next day and once management had left her mother arrived and requested to multiple staff members to have my girlfriend come talk to her. Knowing of the recent drama none of them obliged and she left.

That night my girlfriend stayed with a friend. My girlfriend reciever various vague threatening text messages and phone calls from blocked numbers. At some point that night the mother damaged my girlfriend's and her father's vehicles and threated to attack my girlfriend (who was not present) with a bottle (this is second hand but we have photos of the damage to the vehicles, photos and texts have been sent to police).

The next morning my gf went to the police to file a restraining order and they told her she would have to follow up on Monday to finalize. Meanwhile her mother went to her friend's house and the friends children (~8yo) allowed her to take my girlfriend's purse. When my gf returned she reported the theft to the police and they gathered the purse and returned it to her. No items were kept from the purse.

Tonight my girlfriend's family is threatening her and her friend via text message threatening to get them, and myself fired from our place of employment for various fictional violations. I don't want this to escalate to the point that my property and/or my reputation will be damaged. What options do we have? We are in Washington County in Oregon. Her mother has a rather extensive criminal history. My girlfriend will likely prosecute to the fullest extent of the law. What do we do to protect ourselves and our jobs while all of this gets sorted out?

Thank you in advance for the advice.

Answer:
 > What options do we have?

The restraining order your partner is seeking is a very good place to start. If her mother is threatening you, as well, you can seek one of your own.

You should probably give your boss a polite heads-up that your girlfriend's mother has made it her mission to get you fired, and that you're doing what you can to address the situation. Better that your boss hears about this from you in advance than that they get caught flat-footed when your girlfriend's mother calls or shows up. You don't have to go into detail, just explain that you're expecting her to call and badmouth you, and that you're already dealing with it.


Title: How do workplaces deal with marijuana use in states where it is legal?

Question:
I live in Oregon and Marijuana will be legal here at the beginning of July. I don't currently smoke, but I plan to in order to help deal with chronic pain instead of relying on prescription pain killers and muscle relaxers. If I were to get tested at work, what would the ramifications be?

It will be just as legal as having a beer after work, but it can stay in your system much longer. Will It still be actionable by my employer if I started smoking weed in my own time?

This is hypothetical, as I've never heard of anyone in the restaurant industry getting tested. I'm more wondering for bigger companies that require background checks and might actually test their employees.

Answer:
 >How do workplaces deal with marijuana use in states where it is legal?

However they like. If they want to fire you for smoking weed, they can fire you for smoking weed.

>Will It still be actionable by my employer if I started smoking weed in my own time?

Yes. They can also fire you for having a beer after work.


Title: How to handle blackmailing on adult dating sites? I am living and working in the United Kingdom.

Question: I am not a celebrity and I have not posted nude pictures. But I am concerned that somehow the mere fact that I am on adult dating sites has led to a situation that might cost my current job. I am a teacher and someone (whom I don't know) has found out that I have created a profile on adult dating sites and is willing to tell that to my employer and contact parents of the kids I teach. What to do?

Answer:
 One day ago, you posted this...

http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/2n98io/has_anyone_ever_found_someone_decent_on_adult/

Asking how to prevent this from happening. Then 22 hours ago, you start asking how to handle the situation as if it's already happened. I find it hard to believe that in two hours you became a victim of a crime you were just asking about. No one can give you any advice that's worth a shit unless your honest and upfront about your situation...


Title: (North Carolina, US) Pressing charges for parental identity theft?

Question:
My SO's mother has stolen his identity and has opened several fraudulent utility accounts (and possibly loans) in his name, and the accounts have gone into collections. We're trying to meet with Social Security to find out what else is registered under his SSN. The first time she did this, he was going to pay off the debt she had racked up, but he has decided to press charges after discovering more fraudulent accounts.

The problem is that he is not a minor, and the debts we know of so far happened after he turned 18 and while he was still living at the same address with her. He was aware that a cable account was in his name, but his mother had lied to him about how credit works, what she was paying towards that bill, and that an additional address for service was registered for the bill as well that he did not give permission. Any collections letters from these fraudulent accounts were not given to him, and he was not even aware of these accounts until he checked his credit report and called local utility companies.

My question is: what does this classify as? Is this fraud, parental identity theft, and/or financial abuse? Is this something else? Or is this something we're just going to have to eat financially?

Additional info: She has a history of doing this to other family members, like my SO's father, uncle, and grandfather, and was convicted of felony public assistance fraud. He has also called her (and, with her permission, recorded the call) and asked her to take financial responsibility for the debt she has racked up, and she refused.

(EDIT for additional info)

Answer: You can also go [here](https://www.annualcreditreport.com/index.action) to find any more accounts that may be in his name.


Title: Someone I barely know gave me a car with no title. I'm worried it might be stolen

Question:
I live in California. This girl I met a few months ago wanted to sell me a car for $300. I was very skeptical, but after test driving the car I figured it was a neglected car that was too costly for her to take care of anymore. She said her parents had the title for the car at their home in Texas. She said she just had to get them to mail it out and we could transfer the ownership. Many days went by and she was never able to get the title. One day I got a text from her saying she was still having trouble getting the title, and that I could just keep the car (I still hadn't paid, since I hadn't ever seen evidence of an actual title). She claimed that she was still working on getting the title (BS) and that she'd get back to me.

So, I haven't heard from her since that last text. I have a strong suspicion the car is not hers to give. **How should I proceed?** Should I report the car? I don't actually know if it's stolen, but it definitely seems super shady. Is there a way I could look up who it's registered to? Could I get in trouble for using the car before owning it?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 If you can't find anything like registration papers and you don't want to contact law, run the vin on a carfax or equivalent and that will tell you if it has been reported stolen.that will probably cost you, i imagine the police would do it for free, but if it is stolen they will definitely have some questions, I'm not sure about that aspect. But i was sold a stolen car and contacting the police and being cooperative was probably my best route.

However DON'T DRIVE IT. If you are caught in a stolen vehicle you are an accessory at least.


Title: [WV] My BiL was just booked on Felony Child Abuse with Risk of Injury charges

Question:
Location - Northern West Virginia

tl;dr - Brother in law was booked on felony child abuse charges and had bail set $100,000. His child was taken out of a house by his 7 year old niece that is why they are charging him.

I am at a loss and was wondering if anybody would be able to help me make sense of this situation and also let me know if there's anything I can do.

My wife and I live out of state and we just found out that her brother was booked into jail on "Child Abuse with Risk of Injury" charges.

Background: My brother in law (BiL) and his girlfriend have a child together. They currently live with his parents while they are trying to get their life sorted out. A couple of weeks ago his girlfriends brother got in trouble and was put in jail for something (I had never asked) and they wanted to bring his daughter (7) over for the weekend to help take her mind off of everything. Well for some reason the 7 year old decided to take their 1 year old daughter out of the crib in the middle of the night and carry her up the road because she wanted to go home. Everybody in the house was sleeping and they had found out that they we missing a couple of hours after she had taken the kid. Obviously they panicked and started to look for them.

The cops had picked them up at some point and brought the kids to their grand mothers house after the fact. After the situation was resolved the officer said that they were going to be charged with child neglect and that they would need to turn themselves in after the warrant was processed.

Fast forward to last night. A police officer or someone involved with law enforcement let them know that they are able to go turn themselves into the local jail and that they would see a magistrate at 7pm and would hopefully be processed out with a court date sometime that night. So him and his fiance drove over to the jail, turned themselves in and then my mother in law heard nothing for the night.

A hour or so ago we get a call from her mother saying that they booked him on Felony Child Abuse charges and set his bail at $100,000 and his girlfriends bail at $100,000. My wife called to jail to verify that was the act charge because she can sometimes overstate things but that is definitely the case. They currently do not have a court date so they don't have a public defender. Also they do not have the means to pay $20,000 to a bail bondsman to get them released. EVEN if they were able to, they have some sort of restriction on being near a child under the age of 18, so they couldn't go back home, and all of the local family members have children.

Personal thoughts - As a parent of two kids myself. I swear this could happen to anybody with kids. I am really shocked that it was brought up as a felony child abuse charge then the 7 year old was the one who took the kid out of the house. While they are not perfect parents by any means, they definitely do not abuse their daughter. We feel completely helpless here and I know those charges are going to ruin him.

Is there any sort of recourse? We are at a complete loss here and are unsure what to do.

Answer:
 Yeah. You are missing something huge because that story doesnt make those charges.

He needs an attorney.


Title: [MN] FAFSA and falsified information?

Question:
Hey guys, so I am in a very tough situation right now. The financial aid office at my university has decided to halt all aid for the rest of my career there. The reason is because I have spent 3 1/2 years putting my aunt and uncles name as my mother and father. I'm in my senior year and the reason why I told them so late was because first, I had no knowledge that I was falsifying information I was raised in a very abusive household, my aunt is extremely mentally unstable and manipulative plus she does not speak English which left me to figure college and aid on my own. I had no idea what I was doing and at the time, she just kept insisting that everything was fine. I was under the impression that because my aunt and uncle had raised me since I was so young (my bio mom is estranged and bio dad was deported, lots of abuse in the household) I considered them to be parents so that's how it was filled out. Obviously this wasn't good enough for the head director considering there's 3 1/2 years of information that's not true. She sent me an email last night telling me to set up an appointment as soon as possible but until then my financial aid was paused. I go in and she gives me little to no information other than the fact that because of the situation I'm in financial aid will not be given to me further from that university and that I have to start turning to private loans. I was led into thinking that if I could prove that they are not my parents and that I was estranged from both parents at a young age or if there was any record that there was no legal process that I was adopted or had legal guardianship than they could override the independent status. I have to somehow pay $4500 out of pocket by next Tuesday. My aunt and I have a very strained relationship and she doesn't even know about this. Please help, I'm just at a total loss as to what to do. FAFSA was a huge help for my going to school. Without going to school I will become jobless and I will lose my education (my job is for the school, I need to take a certain amount of credits to be able to work there). I'm convinced that there has to be some way to clear this up, I just have no idea what to do or how to go about this situation.

Edit: My aunt and uncle came here from Korea to raise me because my mom abandoned me when I was an infant, there is record that I was in foster care for about 2 years and my dad went to court to get me back. Since then, no one has filed for adoption or legal guardianship and aunt and uncle are still here illegally.

Edit2: Just a question, will I ever receive FAFSA again or is it just the school? I believe the head of financial aid told me I could apply to a different school and start over with FAFSA but I'm not quite sure. Thoughts?

Answer: Wait..You were in foster care? This makes you an independent student. Bring this record to the finaid office.


Title: Hypothetically, if someone filed a restraining order against me, how am I supposed to behave if I am sitting in a restaurant, and the person who filed the order enters the premises? Am I forced to leave?

Question: I mainly ask for Poland, but I am also interested in other EU countries, and the US.

Answer: In the US, yes, you have to leave.


Title: Florida: Is it legal to put a hidden camera in your own home without your spouse knowing?

Answer:
 No.

And frankly, it's an excellent way to end up in divorce court. Since I assume that's what you want why not just go straight to that?Answer #2: Florida requires all parties to consent to taping a conversation either over the phone or in person where the person has reason to expect privacy. Being in your own home is a reason to expect privacy. Moreover, the state has extra laws pertaining to hidden cameras that criminalize video taping someone who is not dressed without consent. So, you couldn't use that evidence in civil or criminal litigation, you are liable if the other party ever finds out that you did it, and if the spouse is naked on tape that's an additional set of criminal charges.

[This PDF](http://www.rcfp.org/rcfp/orders/docs/RECORDING.pdf) runs down all state recording laws.


Title: Had a rent check stolen out of my mail and cashed at the local Walmart. Have no idea what to do next.

Question:
[NM*, USA] This morning I received an overdraft protection notice on my phone. I checked it and saw that my rent check($1000)- intended for the homeowner (who lives out of the country)- had been cashed at a local Walmart. I called my bank and they froze my account while the investigation is underway. I called the local Walmart and they said that they don't 'necessarily always' ID before cashing a check. I'm waiting on a call back from the person I spoke with over at Walmart while they look into it. I suspended someone took the check out of my mailbox and cashed it in my landlords name. I have never had something like this happen... and I don't know what my next step should be. Any advice would be sincerely appreciated.

Edit 1: added state

Answer:
 Someone is in a lot of trouble. Walmart doesn't even cash hand written checks. It has to be printed. Answer #2: Not really adding to the legal advice mentioned so far, but I can't imaging Wal-Mart isn't on the hook for some of this since the rent check was cashed to someone without the addressed person's ID, and cashed on a date prior to the date on the check.

It could very well be a Wal-Mart employee is complicit in this scam as well.

Thing to consider for the future if your landlord is amenable, write in on the back of the check "for deposit only" (which means your landlord can only deposit it as well)--this would at least help against a check getting cashed.Answer #3: Did they change the amount of the check?  Why did your account overdraft?


Title: A wife and husband own a home, but husband was arrested for fleeing country(USA) after DUI. Does the home get foreclosed?

Question:
So my mother is being helped out by a lady who is essentially a stranger. The lady is currently homeless due to the fact that her husband is in jail for fleeing the USA after receiving a DUI, and then returning back to the USA after finding out his daughter was diagnosed with schizophrenia. The lady has told my mother that she has no home to return to, but I find that hard to believe. Would the home be foreclosed if the husband fled the country? What exactly happens when you get charged with a DUI and leave the country?

The reason we are concerned is that we believe the lady is trying to extort money from our family. My brother is also schizophrenic and we are worried that the lady might manipulate my brother into a faked crime. Also, we have no control over this situation, my brother is hard to reason with and will not listen to anyone else but this lady. He is very aggressive toward our family and will not try to have a conversation with us.

Answer: Only if they didn't pay the mortgage.... for a long time.


Title: Being sued by old landlord in Ohio, after 5 years!

Question:
I signed a one-year lease to in apartment in February of 2012. The rent was $575/month.
Water would seep under  the  walls and onto my carpet every time it rained. I  complained about  this many times and they wouldn't do a single thing about it.
Finally I called corporate and asked to be taken out of my lease in April, they agreed and  had someone  from my apartment call me  back. They told me I was free from my lease and I even qualify to get my deposit back.
I left in April and I left behind  a dresser, a tv stand, and a futon because they were all affected by the water. They called me back in April and asked if I wanted any of that stuff and I explained to them why I did not and they said that's fine, but they were just going to keep my deposit. I didn't care, I was just happy to be out of there.
Fast forward to 2017, they're suing me for the rent for the months of MAY and  JUNE!
I haven't gotten a single notice or letter or call from them since I moved out April 2012!
However  the letter says they will make a default judgement and if I  want to fight it I must bring receipts and other documented proof.
The thing is, it's been five years, I don't think I  have any!
They say I owe them  $1100.
What are my options  here?

Answer:
 I came here thinking it must have been way outside the satire of limitations, but it looks like Ohio has a SOL of 8 years on a contract, which crazy long.

Are they suing you in small claims?Answer #2: My guess is that they didn't actually terminate your lease -- instead someone wrote it up as if you would vacate in April, and they want the rent from May and June because no one moved into the unit until July and they have taken the position that you broke the lease agreement.

That may have been intentional on their part, or an honest mistake.  If they refused to make repairs, I'd guess that it is intentional.

You should have had -- and kept -- paperwork about the lease being terminated.  You may have to go to court to prove this.

Speak to the corporate office and remind them that you were let out of the lease early because the unit was uninhabitable and they refused to make repairs.  Then let them know that you expect them to immediately issue you a letter absolving you of the alleged debt, otherwise you will get a tenant's rights lawyer.


Title: Passenger In a Bad Car Accident, Unhurt but PTSD? Can I sue? [TX]

Question: Me and a friend were in a bad car accident when we were driving back from a concert a few weeks back. My friend who was driving suffered some bad injuries (car struck on his side) but because I was wearing a seat belt, and I was on the other side of the car, I ended up with just some bumps and bruises. However, I am having some terrible flashbacks and anxiety attacks on a regular basis. Can I sue the other driver? (he was totally at fault, probably drinking) Is it even worth it? I really would like to get some therapy or something but I cannot afford it.

Answer:
 Before talking about suing, why don't you file a claim with the insurance company(ies) involved.

Generally you need a diagnosis from a professional before you have any hope of winning a lawsuit for something like PTSD, especially in the absence of physical injury.


Title: Help with Non-Compete Agreement.

Question: I’m trying to leave my company for another that is in the same field but there’s a standard NCA clause in my contract. I live in Michigan and would take a job in Cincinnati that’s within the 300 mile restriction on the clause. The only option I can see is there’s a clause stating “c. Governing Law. This Agreement will be governed by the laws of the State of California without giving effect to the conflicts of law principles thereof.” Non compete clauses are unenforceable in California, so I guess my question is can this be enforced or do I have any ways out of it without having to wait for it to end?

Answer:
 Lol wat.

You aren’t in CA but have a NCA that’s governed by CA’s laws?

I think someone is trolling your employer.

Talk to an attorney to be sure. That sounds unenforceable.


Title: My gf's ex is threatening to post a sex tape

Question:
So my girlfriends ex is threatening to post an old sex tape of theirs online basically if she doesnt become friends with him and forgive him.  She obviously doesnt want that up and he also told her that he had deleted it months before but still has it now.  It also was taken when she was a minor and he was 18.  Is there any way we can either stop this guy or fuck him over for threatening her?

I'm located in Upstate New York

EDIT: Thought I'd update this a bit with some extra info . 1) The act was consentual and she consented to filming it. 2) She's 18 now but doesn't want her mother involved or to pay for a lawyer. 3) She's hoping it all blows over and 4) he's also threatening to kill himself for various reasons. The only problem is I can't beat the shit out of this kid (can't find him and that would probably mean jail time for assault I'm assuming) and he just keeps wanting to talk and "proclaim his love" for her which really pisses me off because what can I do?

Answer:
 So you're telling me this guy committed statutory rape, filmed evidence of the crime (also creating child porn) and now possesses said child pornography?

And you haven't called the police, why?


Title: (US) Can a lawyer face any kind of sanction for encouraging their client to commit a crime during a legal proceeding?

Question: Inspired, of course, by a current hot button case, but it got me curious. If a lawyer encourages his or her client to commit a crime inside of the legal process like during trial, deposition, sentencing, or whathaveye such as perjury or contempt of court, could they face sanction themselves like being held in contempt or being censured or disbarred?

Answer:
 Yes.  They can face colossal sanctions.

However, it's not necessarily true that a later finding of criminality will lead to sanctions for the attorney.  Answer #2: Yes.


Title: Looking for advice on fighting a Possession of Controlled Substances Citation received while leaving Burning Man (Bureau of Land Management, Reno, NV).

Question:
I am looking for advice about a possession of controlled substances citation I received while exiting Burning Man on Monday. The BLM rangers pulled us over for a non functioning taillight on our trailer, which we were unaware of, and immediately set a drug sniffing dogs on us, who alerted on our vehicle. BLM rangers found prescription pills (which I have a prescription for but was not on my person at the time) and a small amount of psychedelic mushrooms in my backpack (which had my ID in it) and charged me with violating 43CFR8365.1-4(5)(2), which is a $525 violation.

What are the consequences of paying the fine? Will I have a criminal misdemeanor on my record? I am looking for advice about fighting these charges, recommendations for criminal defense lawyers in Reno to contact regarding my case, and any additional information to help me plead this to an offense that will not negatively impact my professional future.

I have contacted Lawyers for Burners but have not heard back from them yet. I intend to fight the charges, but am concerned about the fact that they could become more severe in court. Any advice or stories from others who have fought these charges are  greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

Answer:
 >  I intend to fight the charges

What would your defense be? The stop appears to be lawful and you set the dog off.

I think it's a Class  B Misdemeanor but I won't swear by that.


Title: Please help. Wrongfully accused of sexual misconduct and the girl is spreading libel and slander about me.

Question:
I am a broke 32 year old college student who left the military (contract ended) to go to college and pursue a life long goal of becoming a pilot. I have been going to school for almost two years now and I have racked up a few license and ratings for my aviation career. I am currently working on my Commercial license. I live in Mississippi and I am currently living in the dorm. Here is my issue.

In early February, I met a girl who I started to talk to as a friend (I will refer to as Girl 1). We both are in aviation and hit it off. The only issue I had was that she was 12 years younger than me. We don't really talk to get to know each other, but just to complain about our professors. I ask if she wants to go grab sushi one night and she wants to know if she can invite her friend (I will refer to as Girl 2). I agree and pay for both of them that evening. We go back to my dorm afterwards and play video games and just relax. They then leave and we plan to hang out another time. We all exchange Snapchat info and even start a group message.

Girl 2 starts to message me directly and revealing information that Girl 1 is saying about me. Girl 1 is so happy, she has never had a boyfriend before and how she is going to convert me to Christianity and all that. Things that I don't really appreciate. I am super anti shove-your-religion-down-my-throat. I eventually have to have multiple conversations with Girl 1 about how we aren't going to work and she should stop saying these things about me. While this is happening, Girl 2 is sending messages via Snapchat and flirting with me. I had thought I had made it apparently clear to Girl 1 that we could only be friends and Girl 2 was sending messages on Snapchat that Girl 1 was okay with it. I find out later that this isn't the case.

Girl 1 goes home for the weekend and Girl 2 wants to hang out. I ask Girl 1 if it is okay and she gives the blessing. I really enjoyed both their company and I didn't want to cause friends to fight over anything. At dinner, Girl 2 again confirms that Girl 1 was trying to convert me to her religion. Other than that, we have a normal dinner and talk about each others past. We then come back to my dorm and watch movies. She tries to start taking pictures of me of snapchat and I threaten her with tickling. So we start this tickle-picture taking war and we are just laughing and having a good time. She then goes back to her dorm before visitation ends and I go to bed.

Girl 2 is sending me message on Snapchat telling me how wonderful of a time she had and wants to hang out again that night. I say sure. We go to a skating ring and that's when I begin to have feelings for her. We are holding hands because we are both terrible skaters and it just feels like a good connection. I ask her about our age difference and she says she doesn't care. We go grab pizza to go, and then back to my dorm for movies. We get back and things start to get romantic. We are holding each other, cuddling and just enjoying the closeness of each others presence. I ask her what Girl 1 would think about this and she says Girl 1 is over it and as long as I confirmed that myself and Girl 1 can only be friends, we are good to go. I show her the text messages confirming that I did just that and then she kisses me. We make out for about 15 minutes. She then climbs on top of me and I lift the back of her shirt up and massage her back while we are kissing. I play with her bra strap and she stops kissing me and says that we will need a bigger area if we are going to do that. I ask her what she means and she says that if I want to take her clothes off then we need to go to my bed. (We were on my couch). I ask her if that is what she wants to do and she grinds her hips into me and says absolutely. I carry her to the bedroom and we have sex. I will spare you most of the details but she is very tiny down there so it took some time for me to enter her. I stopped multiple times and told her that we can stop if I was hurting her. I was very gentle and I made sure to not \*rip\* or \*tear\* her. We had sex twice and then she went home before curfew ended.

A week goes by of a pretty good relationship. Girl 2 is always hanging out with me by herself and not inviting Girl 1. I suspect because she wanted to have sex. We had a lot of it. One weekend she comes over on a Saturday night and puts me to sleep by rubbing my back. She then stayed the night with me in the dorm. This is problematic because I am the hall director of the building  and could lose my job if caught, and she could get in trouble as well. I wake up the next morning unaware of the time (I thought I had just had a quick nap, it was still dark outside) and we have more sex. I then hear my work out alarm go off and immediately start to panic. I ask her why she stayed the night and we could get into serious trouble. I kind of rush her to get her clothes on and tell her that she has to leave before we get caught and I get fired.

The next day, Girl 2 begins to feel guilty and Girl 1 is messaging me telling me that she wants to work things out. I again tell Girl 1 that we cant be together due to religious differences. Girl 2 wants to tell Girl 1 about our relationship. I am shocked. I was under the impression that Girl 1 would be fine because of what Girl 2 told me. I decide to not bring it up, because of my dumb feelings for Girl 2 and I agree to tell Girl 1 about us with one condition. I tell Girl 2 that I am not yet ready because I need to think about what I am going to say. She agrees and then turns around the next day and tells Girl 1. To this day I still don't know what she told her. I tell Girl 2 that I am upset with her and I do not know if we can continue the relationship if she is going to make decisions without me. She is very apologetic and a few days go by before I agree to tell her again. She sent me a message before I did agree saying that "what if we have sex and then talk about what happened later?". I tell her I am uncomfortable with that because it just feels wrong. I tell her if she wants to talk so bad that she could come over after class. We talk. We make up. She climbs on top of me and tells me she wants to show me how sorry she is. We have sex.

The next day Girl 1 messages me and tells me she wants to know exactly why a relationship wouldn't have worked between us. I tell her because Girl 1 was bragging about how she was going to convert me to her religion. Girl 1 responds with she never said that. I immediately message Girl 2 on Snapchat and ask her to confirm that Girl 1 was bragging about converting me. She says yes and I screen shot the message and send it to Girl 1. Girl 1 says that Girl 2 is lying and that Girl 1 never said that. 10 minutes later I get blocked by Girl 2. I am super confused at this point and try to reach out to Girl 2. I am blocked via phone, Snapchat and Facebook. I eventually just give up and try to move on.

Fast forward to last week. My boss (housing director) pulls me into the office and tells me she is taking her housing director hat off and putting her Title IX hat on (she is the Title IX coordinator for the school). Title IX deals with basically anything with rape, sexual misconduct and anything under that large umbrella. She tells me that I need to tell her about my relationship with Girl 2. I tell her this story as much as I can. She then tells me that I am accused of sexual misconduct but wont tell me what exactly it is. Two days ago, my boss shows up to my room and tells me I am fired from my position because I broke the visitation rules the night she spent the night. I am unsure if Girl 2 was punished as well.

Yesterday was the board member meeting about my case with the Title IX committee and I was told I would hear back in the afternoon. I did not. I have called the investigator (my old boss), texted and sent an email. Her behavior is strange because she would always get back to me when I was a Hall Director, but now she is suddenly unavailable. This is causing me a great amount of stress.

I found out last night that Girl 2 had been posting on Snapchat and Facebook about how I hurt her. The first picture I have is her taking a picture of my Facebook profile and writing about how I hurt her and I am trying to do "this" to other girls in her area. Girl 2 goes on to say that I need to be blocked and reported. The second picture I have saved is Girl 2 saying that I have 20 girls who I have victimized and she is telling them to come file a report with the schools chief of police against me. She is trying to build a case against me and is asking for anyone to come forward to help build her case.

Girl 2 is the only girl I have had sex with in about 2 years or so. I have had no other relationships with anyone else.

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Had a consensual relationship with a girl. She got caught lying about some details that were the basis of our relationship and ended up blocking me. She then reported me for sexual misconduct and is posting libel (have proof in the form of two screenshots from Snapchat given to me by friends) about me in the attempt to ruin my reputation and harm me.  This is causing me a great amount of emotional turmoil and I feel my sanity is being stretched thin. Last night I wrote an 11 page suicide letter explaining the details of the case and a few personal good byes to people who I am close to. I have even gone so far as to set up some things to go through with it. I have put all my eggs in this basket called college. Flying is my dream and now it is about to be ripped away from me. I don't know what to do. I am super broke and have pretty much all my money tied up into my aviation funding.

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Do I have anything going for me? Do I have a case against her in any form? Any advice would be appreciated.

Answer: Before anything... go talk to a counselor or call 800-273-8255


Title: Is it illegal to lie about income to apartment complex.

Question: They have a ridiculous rule where you need to make 3 times the rent and I am thinking of photoshopping some fake paystubs. Is it illegal? How would they even find out I was lying?

Answer: A lease is a legal contract, and therefore falsifying any information you provide is inherently illegal.  Worst case scenario, if you ever get involved in any dispute with the complex, your deceit is going to hang over your head like the Sword of Damocles.