Title: USA, Southern California. was made an offer i'm having a hard time refusing.

Question:
throw away for obvious reasons.

Anyways, I was offered by an organization that i dont know too much about and am not allowed to know much about a fairly easy job today. I am straight in my money making but as a youngster dabbled in criminal affairs, mostly drug dealing.

ANYWAYS, today i was offered a job from an organization i have no idea about and have never been associated with by a mutual friend. i don't know exactly what the organization does but they told me that their "company" is limited to buying a certain amount of cars. they are offering me $800 to take the cash for a mercedes UP FRONT and walk into a dealership for them to buy the car. i will then drive the car off the lot, around the corner, and they will pick me up and take the mercedes to its shipping point. they tell me the car will not be driven within the country.

i have shit credit, and am a felon. im not stupid so as legit as these people tried to make it sound i know that something bad is going on. the pink slip will be in my name. NOW, i'm okay with committing this crime if the risks are as minimal as they make it out to be. I am not asking for moral guidance, I am not asking for your analysis of the situation, i've already concluded something criminal is going on and the less i know the better off i am.

so my question to y'all is what are the risks associated with putting my name on a pink slip? I have horrible credit, and am a nonviolent convicted felon, buttttt.... i trust these people when they say the car will not be driven in the country. i brought up my concern to them and they said if i tell authorities the car was stolen if the automobile got wrapped up in something that i'd be relatively safe from prosecution. i also know if i expose the crime the organization will exact revenge on me.

So, i still have the right to say no at this point but am having a hard time weighing the pros and the cons. what kind of trouble am i looking at if i tell them i'll work this job on the legal side? im familiar with whats going to happen on the criminal side but if my car/the dealership i go into decide something is funny what kind of things could i be charged for?

Reddit, pretend you are me, would you do it and what precautions would you take?

Answer:
 1. [Something like this was talked about before. Definitely criminal and you won't get away with just saying it was stolen.](http://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/1j1keh/friend_wants_me_to_help_export_a_car_to_china/)

2. Sit down and take this a little further. The cops (and likely FBI since this is an international issue) come to your door and ask you about the car. You say it was stolen. They ask if you can show how you got the money for the car and why didn't you report it stolen earlier. When you realize that you can't prove you ever took out a loan for the car and didn't report it stolen is when the handcuffs go on you and you're prosecuted in state and federal court. Then you have another felony to put up with the other.

3. There's a reason they're asking you to do it. You're the fall guy. The fact that you're even considering doesn't make you exactly intelligent given that you already have a felony conviction and considering getting another.Answer #2: >they tell me the car will not be driven within the country.

>i trust these people when they say the car will not be driven in the country.

Right.  We all know that there is honor among thieves.  So what can possibly go wrong?


Title: (WA) Apartment manager won't issue parking permit

Question: [deleted]

Answer: It's perfectly legal.  Quit parking illegally and you won't get towed.


Title: Doctors office not showing documents to sign electronically.

Question: Several doctor offices in Montana have a signature pad and the worker just says “sign the pad to consent to hipaa, [etc]“ and other documents. When asked to see the document, they say they can’t turn their screen. They don’t have any screens showing the document you are signing to the patient. How is this legal / binding?

Answer:
 Don’t sign documents you haven’t read.Answer #2: Insist they show you a paper copy.  They can print it out for you.

All my doctors have a laminated copy on the desk to read, and can supply a paper copy for my records.


Title: Mother in law is spreading dangerous lies about our parenting. Is there any legal action to protect us?

Question:
My mother in law has always been completely overbearing and ridiculous. For example, she felt the need to criticize my wife for not making our two year old toddler bed for when he goes to sleep. Another time she yelled at my wife for not contacting her first after my wife has a miscarriage with our first child, while my wife was having a breakdown over our loss. She really is just an all around terrible person.

Most of her pointless criticisms have always been directed to us, and we have just brushed them off, but recently I discovered that she has been sending notes to people with blatant lies about our parenting. Telling people we are starving our kids, our putting them in dangerous situations. All of it is complete nonsense.

My concern now is that she may send this to someone that wants to be a do-gooder and they call CPS or something on us. I don’t want to have to deal with that headache. Is there anything I can do now to show that this woman is crazy and spreading lies? I am thinking I need to get a restraining order, is that something I should look into?

This is in Texas.

Answer:
 It's unlikely this will rise to the level of a restraining order.

Block her out of your life. Dont let her see the children.

If someone reports you to CPS, there is nothing you could do to stop them from investigating.Answer #2: I believe the standard advice here is to make sure that your house is clean and stocked with food, and be polite and honest with CPS when they come calling.  CPS has felt with scenarios like this before, and do not remove children on someones say-so, but they do need to investigate.Answer #3: Since she alleged that you committed a crime, you could sue for defamation per se which doesn't require you to show any specific damages.


Title: I'm working at a movie theatre that I believe is taxing customers too much, is there anything that I can do?

Question:
I work at a movie theatre in Massachusetts which uses an electronic system for purchases. For the concession items, there is a 7% tax added to the purchase. However, I believe massachusetts sales tax is 6.25%. Is there anything as an employee that I can do?
Topic:
Tax Law

Answer:
 https://www.mass.gov/guides/sales-tax-on-meals

This seems to explain where the other .75% is coming from.
A city or town may impose this tax on the vendor.


Title: Local parent creating fake snapchat accounts to hunt down local parties and post their locations on a community Facebook page

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The kids could have refused to give a complete stranger address where the potential illegal parties are occurring.

This person sounds like a hell of a detective.Answer #2: Violating the privacy of the kids? I'm pretty sure those kids would have to have accepted this woman's fake account as a friend before she could view the kids' content. Maybe the parents of these kids should have a talk with them about proper online safety/privacy... Answer #3: >  Is she breaking any laws or infringing on anyone's rights?

No.  There is no law against publicizing your bad behavior.  She may be in violation of Snapchat's TOS but that's between her and them.

If the kids don't want to be punished for having parties, they shouldn't have parties.  It's just that simpleAnswer #4: It's a great opportunity for parents to talk about responsible drinking, the dangers of social media, and the value of information.  How is she violating the privacy of kids when she's doing *exactly* what police, identity thieves, and marketing companies do on a regular basis?  If the kids willingly talk about, document, and share proof of their law breaking activity, what did they think would happen?


Title: In a vehicle accident on entrance ramp. Made 2 calls lasted 3 minutes. Another accident happened behind me after phone calls. Other party is trying to blame for their accident. (TX)

Question:
I'm fine, but still in shock. My vehicle will be drivable. I have liability. I have not filled a claim. It was evening, rainy (we hadn't had rain in 6+weeks) roads were slick. I spun out hit a guard rail and NO other vehicles. Someone stopped behind me checked to see I was okay. I was in shock. The witness called 911.  I called a friend to ask for a ride/help. This call lasted 30 seconds. I then called non emergency number. The dispatcher took down my information, location, and what happened this call lasted 2 minutes. As I was getting off the phone there was another accident involving multiple cars. I told dispatch this and told them we needed police assistance. Hung up. I got a citation for unsafe speed, which I will contest. It's an on ramp.  The other accident/party is trying to rope me into their claim. I have not communicated back via that person's text. I have been advised not to. The accidents were 150-200 feet apart.
Should I file a claim with my insurance?
Should I answer there text messages?
Should I lawyer up?
All help and responses are greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 >  I got a citation for unsafe speed, which I will contest. It's an on ramp.

So what?  You were travelling at an unsafe speed, because you spun out and wrecked the car.  You were going too fast for conditions, by definition.

As for the other party, give them your insurance info, make a statement to your insurance company, and let them sort this out.  You may or may not hold liability here, and your insurance company will advise you of the best route.Answer #2: Why does the guy from a completely different accident have your phone number? Who advised you not to respond to his texts? Your insurance? So they are doing what they are supposed to do? Then why would you "lawyer" up?


Title: My parents want to take me to court

Question: I graduated college last summer with 80k in student loans and my parents who co-signed the loans want me to pay for it. I currently don’t have a job and don’t plan on getting any time soon since I’m working on personal stuff and am trying to find myself. Can they take me to court for not paying the loans that co-signed themselves.

Answer: You want your parents to be paying off tens upon tens of thousands of dollars of debt that you ran up going to school that you now don't want to use because you want to "find yourself". You're not "lost" in need of being "found". You're just entitled and ungrateful. Yes they can likely sue you. If your signature is on those loans you're responsible as well. Get a job like the of adults and pay your bills.


Title: Pulled over for texting when she wasn't and screwed over

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > she had been checking the time and has proof of no texts or calls or anything going on.

This is a hard excuse to believe since every car made since 1985 has a clock in the dashboard.Answer #2: > Wondering what you all think or if the cop can even give her that SNAM when she shouldn't have been pulled over ?

 What the fruck kinda logic...? Even by your narrative she was pulled over with phone in hand and eyes on phone. How do you get "she shouldn't have been pulled over." Oh, so he wasn't supposed to confirm? He was supposed to just know she wasn't using the phone to text/Snapchat/PokemonGo??Answer #3: She should have been pulled over.  A cop saw her using her phone while she was driving.  Answer #4: It's completely legal to stop someone and ask for their ID if the police suspect that she committed a crime. She may not have been committing a crime, but that's irrelevant to the fact that she got busted with a fake ID pursuant to a lawful stop.


Title: Creepy neighbors spying on me (NC)

Question: Just found out today my neighbors have been taking pictures of my house. Taking pictures of my guests. Know who drives what car and when they come over.  Mind you they aren’t saints I know he sells bud and visits the methadone clinic. They keep tabs on when I’m here an not here.  Aside from this being very disturbing and unsettling. Is there any kind of legal action I can take

Answer: All those actions are legal...


Title: US - IL legality of dash cam in my car (while driving for Uber)

Question:
I know that surveillance laws exist. Google results aren’t convincing me of accuracy.

In Illinois, if I’m driving for Uber, may I have a dash cam in my car, recording both interior and exterior, and also recording both video and audio?

Do I need to inform riders that it’s there? Does that answer change if the camera is visible (does how discreet it is matter?)?

Am I required to turn it off if requested to do so? What if it’s police making the request (in case of an accident or traffic stop)?

Thanks!

Answer:
 You can still record exterior video, but not interior audio or video, without consent of all passengers.

Edit: However, you could record just the driver's seat video, blocking out the back seat passengers, but no audio.Answer #2: Illinois is a two party consent state. You need their permission to record.Answer #3: By posting a notice that the vehicle has a video/audio recording device present, then it falls under implied consent. You have the right to have the cam in your car, they have a right to get out when they see the sign saying the cam is present.


Title: [BC, Canada] Lawyer trying to scam us?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If your subtenant has rental insurance, they should contact the company immediately. It was not clear if you still live there, but if you do, you should call your rental insurance as well. This is exactly the type of situation that insurance is there for.


Title: Immigration/deportation advice?

Question: I immigrated here from the USSR with my parents at 9 years old. Both of my parents became legal U.S.  citizens when I was still underage (I belive when I was 16 or 17 years old). Both my parents also neglected to file the paperwork to ensure that I would get citizenship as well. Currently I am able to work because I have a green card. When I have called the INS or whatever its name is now I keep getting conflicting answers about what it would take for me to get my citizenship. I'm concerned because someone told me that I can get deported at any time due to Trumps zero tolerance policy and when I actually looked up ways that a green card holder could get deported some of the reasons seem arbitrary. This has me kind of scared. I don't have citizenship in my birth country because of some rule at the time stating people who immigrate out of USSR lose their rights to citizenship and I don't have citizenship in the U.S.. I absolutely can't afford the price of filing for U.S. citizenship either. Can anyone please tell me whether I have any way to protect myself and not get deported. I am currently receiving food stamps while I work because I'm trying to get myself out of homelessness and according to some things I've read online, receiving any kind of welfare is grounds for deportation.

Answer: If you came from the USSR then you must have been an adult for over 10 years... Going through naturalization route is probably the least headache route.


Title: Roofing workers just put a hole in my porch (VA)

Question:
What should I do, what are my options?[ Pic.
](http://imgur.com/a/TrDYK)
Thanks!

Answer:
 I'd just wait until they're done, buy a 2x4 and fix the hole.

On another note, it like your deck needs to be replaced.


Title: Roommate going on parole

Question:
Sorry if this is somewhat scatterbrained, but I have a lot going through my head at the moment and only got a few hours sleep.

I live in Southern California and I was informed late last night, that one of my roommates, who has been going through a legal process for some months based on some fairly trumped up charges from last year, is taking a money saving plea that will involve him going on parole for the next 5 years, the first of which will be fairly intense.  He takes the deal Thursday, and police will be coming to do a search soon after.  The problem is that the other two roommates and I often like to participate in drinking and smoking (a certain substance reddit seems fairly adamant should not be illegal), especially on the weekends, two activities which will have to come to a quick end.  Normally this would be fine, we could just move our activities to another location, but I am more worried that my room could be randomly searched due to his parole, as we live in a large house and each have our own rooms.  Since we all share a common entrance (the front door) I have been informed that this means MY room is a common area (regardless of the fact that I can lock the door to my room) and is thus liable to random searches just like anywhere else.

Sadly, for various personal reasons, the parolee is not leaving, and it is looking more likely that the other 3/4 of the roommates must instead basically go on parole as well, sacrificing various rights by no action, fault, or choice of our own, or leave with 2 days notice.  Do I really have to sacrifice my rights due to my roommates decisions?

Edit: Added location, thanks /u/LocationBot

Answer:
 > Since we all share a common entrance (the front door) I have been informed that this means MY room is a common area (regardless of the fact that I can lock the door to my room) and is thus liable to random searches just like anywhere else.

Where are you located?  If you're in the United States, this is very likely **not** true.

Lock your door when you're not in the room.  If the police **ask** you for permission, you're free to decline.  If they say they're searching anyways, don't interfere and fight the matter later.

Realistically, if the police are going to be in your house at all - and searching the common areas and your roommate's stuff is totally legitimate - you'd be smart just to knock off the illegal activity.Answer #2: Protip, bud... if a PO is going to be searching your house, you should **probably not** be in possession of illegal substances. All common areas are fair game, but your private, personal room is not. the PO requires probable cause, a warrant, or your consent to search it. However, if your door is open and he sees something in [plain view](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plain_view_doctrine) you're in trouble. Whoever told you the bit about sharing a common entrance is likely an idiot.


Title: Charged with DWI for failing to make eye contact.

Question: I'm in NC and a couple of days ago I was pulled over for speeding through a work zone. I passed the field sobriety tests I was given and nothing was found in my car, but I still was charged with DWI and had to undergo a blood test. What I want to know is what happens in cases like these if nothing turns up on the blood test. Just so you know, I do plan on getting an attorney.

Answer:
 > I passed the field sobriety tests I was given

How do you know this?  Did the officer tell you you passed them?  Can you list the clues that the officer looks for on the tests?

If the answer to those two questions is "no" then you have no idea how you did on the tests.

I have taken a lot of people to jail for DWI.  Some of them were screaming about how they "passed all my goddamned tests."  They were wrong.

You know who I have NEVER arrested for DWI?  People who passed the sobriety tests.

Answer #2: Are you certain this blood test is going to come up clean? You hadn't been drinking, and you hadn't taken any drugs, legal *or* illegal?


Title: (AK) Shot in the face by a coworker.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: This is my least favorite thing to say on this sub, but your boyfriend really needs to talk to a lawyer. This is going to go well beyond the scope of this forum.


Title: [WV] I loaned a guy $1000 in Bitcoin and he ran off with it. Now what?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You can sue him in small claims court


Title: Another employee is bringing an infant into my office every day.

Question:
This new employee has worked here before. At the desk behind mine which is typically unoccupied. The problem is when she got rehired this time, she has been bringing her newborn, screaming, grunting, crying infant into my office with her everyday. I've twice talked to the general manager and even been so generous as to offer a compromise... That she can come in twice a week with her baby. Even though that means I go home with a migraine twice a week. Note: I could add her job responsibilities to my own and get them done in about 4 hours per week, so there's absolutely no need for this person to be there for eight hours per day, five days per week. She is kin to the GM however.

Though he has twice agreed to my terms, he comes in the next day and she shows up with her baby in tow anyway.

Is there any recourse I can take here, or do I have to live with the fact that my formerly quiet office space now doubles as a day care?

I reside in VA, USA, in case that's relevant.

Answer:
 If your employer is OK with it then there's not much you can do.Answer #2: If the boss/owner okays it, there really isn’t anything you can do. Instead of trying to get the baby booted from the office, can you negotiate benefits for yourself instead? Telework? A different office space further away? Those kinds of things. If you frame it as wanting to be the most productive—and accommodating for this guys nepotism—it might be win win.

Edit- another thought, could you encourage the mom to telework? Answer #3: If management allows infants in office, they allow them.   I don't think you have any legal grounds for action here.

Answer #4: > She is kin to the GM however.

And I'll give you one guess who would get fired if it came down to you or her. I'd be careful how big of a stink you make.


Title: Legality of placing a GPS tracker on someone else's car [hypothetical]

Question:
([Backstory](https://www.reddit.com/r/Justrolledintotheshop/comments/3pwnre/theres_what_on_my_car/). TL;DR not my car, not my tracker; I'm just the guy who alerted the car's owner.)

Is it illegal for Bob to secretly place a GPS tracker on Alice's car? Does Alice's restraining order against Bob make any difference? Restraining orders are not made public here in Maryland, so I don't know the details, just that one exists (Alice was loud and clear about that). What kind of trouble is Bob in if a court establishes that he placed the tracker?

Answer:
 I'm no lawyer, but Bob is a creepy fucker who needs some serious psychiatric help.

> Is it illegal for Bob to secretly place a GPS tracker on Alice's car? Does Alice's restraining order against Bob make any difference?

I am going to guess Bob is in a world of hurt with the law if this can be traced back to him. Answer #2: Here is some solid legal advice: if you want to know if something is illegal, view your state's criminal statutes. For example, in Illinois GPS tracking as described is explicitly illegal. Answer #3: INAL: is this even legal *without* a restraining order? I seriously hope not!


Title: First day of apartment lease - bedbugs...

Question:
On the first day of my lease I went into my new apartment to make note and take pictures of stains, damages, etc. Then I saw it: http://imgur.com/HuC3Lso. I took pictures and a video and then killed it. I continued inspecting other stuff for 20 minutes and then saw another almost identical one in the exact same place. I took the pics to my leasing office, and they told me they'd put in a maintenance request for it to be checked out on Monday.

I have not moved in any of my stuff yet. The apartment complex I'm in is a bunch of units next to, above, and below each other in two huge buildings, so it seems the only way they'd be able to get rid of the problem is to treat every unit in the building, and I don't think this will happen. With this and doing more research on the nightmare that bedbugs are, I just want out. I was planning on going back tomorrow to hopefully talk to neighbors to see if they have the same problem and then talk to leasing to break my lease.

The issue is how much money I'd be losing. Currently I've paid them almost $2k total for security deposit and prorated rent. My complex offers a 30-day move out guarantee if I'm not satisfied, and so I know I can get deposit back, but as for the prorated rent is there anything I can do, or do I just have to bite the bullet? I live in California by the way.

FML.

Answer:
 You'll have to bite the bullet and pay the prorated rent. Just because you haven't used the apartment doesn't mean you weren't in possession.

Invoke the clause Monday morning and start looking for a new place to live Monday afternoon. Consider yourself lucky. I've heard of bed bug cases costing thousands and thousands of dollars, because folks have to throw out so much crap to get rid of the infestation.

Also, be very careful whenever you step into that unit, if you do again. Bed bugs are excellent hitch hikers.


Title: [Kentucky] 9 year old sexually assaulted by other 9 year old.

Question: My 9 year old daughter has been sexually assaulted by another 9 year old on her bus.  Apparently, a male classmate has been pulling down her shirt to see her (non-existent) breasts and grabbing her butt.  She has asked him to stop but he continues.  She finally told me about it today and I immediately went to the principal with the information.  What can be done in this situation?  Do I have any recourse, either against the boy or the school?

Answer:
 I'd like to see an official investigation by LE or CPS into the boy's home life. This doesn't sound like normal behavior for a 9-year-old boy. I'm wondering if he is also a victim.

Doesn't excuse his behavior, but it might explain it.Answer #2: IANAL, but I feel like the next reasonable step would be to discuss this with law enforcement. Not to “arrest” a 9 year old boy, but (as another comment stated) to determine what’s going on his home life that makes him think his behavior is acceptable. He’s getting the idea from somewhere..

I’m sorry you and your daughter are going through this, and I don’t know that school officials have the resources to properly investigate and deal situations like this. Answer #3: Bring the issue up with the school and go from there.Answer #4: Potentially. You can file a police report for assault. There may be liablity on the school (assuming the bus is run by the school and not a 3rd party transportation company which is becoming more common). Feel free to speak to an attorney. You may need monetary damages i.e. costs of counseling to get legal relief. Answer #5: NAL- But until this gets resolved. I would tell your daughter to sit up front in the bus, as close to the driver as she can get.

Also calling CPS and the police and explaining what this kid is doing. He needs help, this isn’t a normal thing for a 9 year old to do.


Title: My friend who is a single mother of 3 tried claiming her son on her taxes, but the father beat her to it. Hes not even part of her sons life. What are her options?

Question:
My friend is a single mom of 3. Her youngest is 1 year old. His father is not around. He doesnt pay child support, never visits him, basically doesnt really care to be a part of his sons life. She recently filed papers to get child support from him but thats still in the process right now. She has always had her kid under her care. Theres no custody over her child or at least no legal paperwork on who gets full custody of their child right now since she didnt find it necessary since he doesnt even bother to come around.

She tried filing her taxes yesterday and wasnt able to because her kids father apparently had already claimed him.

She lives on her own with her 3 kids, works full time, and is a responsible mother. I honestly have no idea how she does it.

What are her options here? What can she do? She was really counting on that money for bills, and to get her by.

He filed his taxes online btw.  She is located in California.

&#x200B;

TIA

Answer:
 She needs to file a paper return, the IRS will see that the kids have been claimed twice and investigate. If the kids reside with her and she provides for them they’ll eventually let her claim them.Answer #2: Contact these fine people https://www.irs.gov/advocate/low-income-taxpayer-clinics/low-income-taxpayer-clinic-mapAnswer #3: So because the online filing is just a computer once it sees a SSN has already been used it won't allow for it to be used again

She needs to file a paper return claiming all her dependents like she normally would. If she has proof that it is her year to claim the child include that.

What will happen after both returns are filed it gets sent to a specific department to be looked at by an actual IRS agent. Both filers will be a letter asking for proof of who legally can claim the child.


Title: What do you do when the shopkeeper refuses to give you the right amount of change?

Question:
For example if you buy something worth $20 and you give the shopkeeper $100 and he only gives you $30 change and insists that you only gave him $50.

Edit: If the shopkeeper owns the store, and he intends to keep your money, without evidence, there is nothing you can do...

Answer: The one time this happened to me I started hollering that they needed to count all the money in the register and figure out where they screwed up. The store manager came out and they actually did remove the drawer, take it to the back, count it, then came back with my change. I'm not sure that, "hollering" would be considered a legal remedy, but it did get me my correct change back. Answer #2:  I am cashier it happens about 1 or twice a week where I work. What should be done is you have him count down the register to see if  it comes out even. He should have a tally of everything that was sold that day on his copy of the receipt tape/on whatever program he is using to tally his sales.  He should be able to pull up that tally of the day and make sure it matches the sales minus whatever they started with in the cash drawer.   If he won't ask nicely to speak to a manager. It will be taken care of pretty quickly if there is a manager and they get involved.  If that doesn't work.  You can call the police. Usually that will take care of any issue very quickly.Answer #3: Depending on the setup of the store, you can ask to see the security camera footage of the transaction. If it exists, it will probably show what denomination you gave to the cashier.


Title: Few weeks after I purchased a house, the lot size changed

Question:
I recently purchased a house and the lot size advertised on all of the listing sites was 0.49 acres. However, a few weeks after I purchased it, I noticed the lot size listing changed to 0.43 acres, and this included the lot size listed in the county records (I verified that there was a recent change with the county records data).

I feel like this is false advertisement - would I have any chance to be compensated for this?

Answer:
 Why was it changed with county records?  A correction, a new road going in or change in laws about set backs?  Call the county assessors office and ask.  Be nice, they are hard working and underappreciated.

Did you have a survey done prior to purchasing?  What did your appraisal report say on site size? Does your legal description in your title policy give an amount for size (or possibly long/later and you can figure it out)?

NAL, work in mortgages so deal with this Answer #2: Most MLS systems are for advertisement only and all data is to be verified by the buyer.  This is one of the ways that real estate is caveat emptor.

Though if the county records changed then something *might* be up, but it's probably something like eminent domain rather than something shady.


Title: Man signed birth certificate and isn't the father!

Question:
I have a friend who I have taken care of off and on since she was 14. She only stays with me until she feels she is on her feet and then she leaves. My home is always open to her regardless of her problems in life. Years ago she got herself into trouble and spent 5 years in prison. She was released to me upon parole. We had some issues and she left. I hadn't spoke to her since September. I found out the other day that she was arrested for parole violation a month ago and then gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on Thursday. Here is the problem. The new boyfriend (of only 3 months) signed the birth certificate and took the baby because they didn't want him going into state custody. He is now talking about leaving the state since the doctors reported the baby having a bruise on his back yesterday.  I didn't know about any of this until Sunday night, didn't even know she was pregnant. Now she is wanting me to take custody of the baby, but scared to tell the guy, seeing he is threatening to leave. I know the real father and he wants to establish paternity and give me the baby as well... how can we go about this, without this guy taking off with the baby?! This guy seems to be on drugs, has a consistent record with violence, drugs,theft across many states. He also has no job and is temporarily staying with a friend in a tiny filthy room.
On another note, I am scared yet excited at the thought of having this baby in my care. I am completely capable financially, I own my home, vehicles, good job, very well off... but I've never taken care of a baby besides watching my niece here and there.
If anyone has any advice or know a safe route to go about this, I would appreciate it greatly! I am located in Kentucky.

Answer:
 The biological father is the only person with standing to challenge paternity. Until then, the current legal father will remain the legal father and will retain the right to move the child wherever he wants.Answer #2: Do not get involved.

You don't know that he isn't the father biologically and he's presumed to be the legal father at this point. She consented to him signing the certificate, so she needs to fix this. She will need an attorney because this is going to be very, very complicated.Answer #3: I am not a lawyer.

It sounds like you want to adopt the child, and the biological parents are on board with this. If this is the case, you need a lawyer who practices family law.

This will not be cheap. It will be expensive, and take a long time.

Assuming the mother has not surrendered/been stripped her parental rights, she can file for custody.

The biological dad can petition to establish paternity, and claim his parental rights.

When this is done, they can allow you to adopt.

This is a long, complicated, expensive process with no guarantee of success, and you absolutely need guidance from a lawyer.


Title: I live in Canada, can I be denied employment if I fail a drug test?

Question: I have to have a drug test tomorrow. I smoked legal weed last week.  Can I legally be denied employment? It's literally my only job option right now and I'm kind of freaking out.

Answer:
 Is this a pre-employment drug screening? You're a candidate for a job?

IANAL, but I don't believe "legal marijuana users" are a protected class, so the employer has the option to choose not to hire you based on the results of the drug screen, and it wouldn't be considered improper discrimination.


Title: [Utah] Can a cop pull you out of the car to administer a sobriety test, anytime they want?

Question: Cop asked me a question, I said I don't answer questions, he pulled me out and did a roadside.

Answer: When you drive you are consenting to breath or blood testing, if you refuse that there will be a consequence even if you are sober.


Title: Fucked my friends girlfriend / Being threatend with assault & death

Question:
Morally, I fucked up. I don't really particularly care whatsoever about that, I'm more at the point where I want to make sure I don't get fucked over physically.

I'm tall, physically fit, have never taken any kind of self defence classes or whatnot. He knows where I work and the general area where I live. He's the kind of guy who will 100% get his mates to come and jump me. He's 21 years old, I'm 20.

Essentially, I fucked his girlfriend and she told him. He's beta in regards to relationships but a natural alpha in the way he views conflict / violence, I've known him for several years. He will come after me.

What's my best bet here? I've done some illegal shit in the past that he knows about and vice-versa, nothing big, just doing drugs. I know if he was alone I'd be able to take him down if I acted fast, though I know he will bring many people - anywhere from five to ten associates.

I've cut ties with the girl. She's tried to convince him not to do this but you know how well that'll work (lol) and likely won't be much help to me at all, so I'm just avoiding all contact with her.

Thinking about signing up for a Krav Maga class to take over the next 3 months. It'll cost me a bit under £200 but if it saves me from being hurt, disabled or god forbid killed then I'm willing to shell out the money.

He has messaged me multiple times on Facebook telling me he is going to hunt me down / have his friends attack me / should leave the country before I get killed / baseball bat is going to lose it's virginity etc etc.

Will the police care at all about my past drug use? I'd assume not, right, seeing as though my life is potentially in danger?

He works for a company stationed in the same city as me. I'll be telling my manager about this in case he comes to my workplace. If he comes, I'll simply go into the back room (locked with a keypad) and call my manager over our internal communications.

I'll make a visit to the police station and inquire about my options. I don't have the money for a legal battle, will there be any expenses?

Cheers.

EDIT for bot: I live in England, UK. I'd prefer not to say the exact city.

Answer:
 It doesn't matter if you're a karate black belt or Krav Maga master; if they come at you with 10 guys, you're going down. Training just helps you do some damage before you do. 3 or 4? Maybe training will help. But life isn't a Jason Bourne movie; sometimes sheer mass wins, no matter what you do.

You can get a restraining order; but if someone is willing to break the law in the first place, an extra piece of paper isn't going to deter them. It'll just increase the penalties when they do.


Title: I got threatened of being kicked out b/c of owning weed in Canada

Question:
Hi Reddit,

So, for personal reasons I've been smoking weed for a while. With that habit of course comes some odors, wich I try at my best to mask with scented candles, aerating etc.

So here's the deal. I got threatened to be kicked out of the students residence in wich I live in because of the smell that comes out of my room. According to the surveillant who threatened me, on the campus I can't own any weed, because of the smell, and it's a "law" that the school implemented that makes it so if I have weed in my dorm, I can get kicked out.

I am just really confused. I know that the federal law has more power than provincial ones, but how do I deal with that ? I adressed it to the owner, all I got as a response was the threat.

It's a nice situation, being legally allowed to own weed. But then  to be told by the surveillant of where you live to go take your car, smoke out of the campus, to then come back so it doesn't smell or else you get kicked out, it doesn't make sense to me.

Should I fear getting kicked out ? I really watch the smell from now on, but you know it sucks.

Answer:
 If you continue to smoke weed in your student residence, yes, you can be kicked out. Answer #2: Academic conduct rules can be tighter than federal or provincial law - they're enforced by suspending or terminating your enrolment at the school, not by fining you or sending you to jail.

If you break the student rules, your school can take action against you within that framework. In most provinces, there are legal arrangements that allow your school to end your tenancy in certain-kinds of school-provided housing (most dorms, for example) with notice when you are no longer a student.

If you really want to be sure, talk to your school's student housing department and find out from them what the policy is. It would not surprise me in the slightest if _all_ smoking in dorm rooms is banned, and will get you kicked out - including marijuana, as well as tobacco and even particularly fragrant incense. Your school should be able to point you at the specific parts of the student agreement you need.


Title: Update: [NY] College I work at only pays their student workers with payroll cards

Question:
So I ended up talking with the payroll supervisor and I showed her the information I had. She was actually a really nice person, who'd have thought it? Anyways, she has to ask the VP and she said not to expect a response until Friday. I love bureaucracy.

[Previous post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3n9obp/ny_college_i_work_at_only_pays_their_student/)
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: Just wanted to say I like your style. Most people who get screwed over by their employers (even in a relatively minor way, like you) can't afford to complain about it because they need the job, and can't risk annoying their bosses. People who don't depend on their jobs should go out of their way to stand up for their rights. Payroll cards are horrible, I'm surprised a university HR department would allow them. Good on you for taking the time to show them they're wrong.


Title: CO - Is it legal for an employer to schedule an employee for a shift, but only allow them to work when it is busy

Question:
This is third hand.  My wife has a client whose teenage child works at a local Chick-fil-A. This is a fairly new restaurant and apparently the business is not steady.  According to the parent, the restaurant will schedule the child for a shift, but if the restaurant isn't busy they make the child sit in the lobby until it's busy enough that they need assistance.  When the rush ends they ask the child to clock out and sit in the lobby until the next busy period or the scheduled shift ends.

This is definitely shitty management, but does it cross into law breaking?

Answer: In addition to the labor department, call Chick-fil-A corporate. They are very *very* strict with their franchises and they'll have the manager or whoever's in charge of doing this out the door before you can say "Moo".Answer #2: Google search term: "Engaged to wait"Answer #3: Ah, the old shift-business-risk-to-the-employee gag.


Title: Cruise Ship line refused to let my mother on the ship for "improper documentation"

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Your problem is: she didn't provide proof of US citizenship.

>CRUISE TRAVEL FOR U.S CITIZENS
Carnival highly recommends that all guests travel with a passport (valid for at least six months beyond completion of travel-unless otherwise noted differently). This will enhance the debarkation experience as delays may be expected upon return to the United States for those without one. Additionally, this will enable guests to fly from the U.S. to meet their ship at a foreign port should they miss their scheduled port of embarkation and allow guests who must disembark the ship before their cruise ends due to an emergency to fly back to the U.S without significant delays and complications.

>Cruises that begin and end in the same U.S port / Cruises that begin and end in a different U.S port
ALL guests are required to carry proof of citizenship such as a birth certificate OR a valid, unexpired U.S passport OR a WHTI-Compliant Document AND proof of identification (a non-expired government-issued photo ID for all guests 16 years of age or older).

Lots of people have state issued ID (me included) but who aren't citizens. Now if she has presented a US BC she would have been OK. But she didn't.Answer #2: The cruise line was saying she needed a passport? Even if she wasn't planning on getting off the boat in any foreign port, there's always the possibility of a malfunction or other emergency which would require her to get off in a port that required a passport. Just because the US would let her back in with an enhanced DL doesn't mean the other countries would.


Title: I might be HIV positive. [AZ]

Question: Not very long ago I was on campus waiting for my FWB to get out of an exam. There was an event going on and what it was is a questionnaire about sexual habits and an oral HIV test. If you do it they let you get a plate of BBQ. I was starving and still had some time to kill so why not. Well I answer their questions and get the swab. I'm a big guy, 6'1" 200lbs so I'm killing some BBQ. The same black dude that took my swab approached me with an MD from the health center. The first thing he does is introduce to the Dr and they told me "there is no cause for alarm but we'd like to offer you a free HIV blood test. You have tested positive but its not for certain and could be a false-positive." I refused and left. Its been keeping me up at night. I have a girlfriend, FWB and I'm pretty active on tinder. If I am positive there is no way my girlfriend and FWB aren't, we never use condoms. What legal things are there, do I have to inform both girls? Do I have to tell people I meet on tinder?

Answer: Why would you refuse to have a follow-up test?  You can't run away from HIV if you are, in fact, positive.  The oral tests can have a false positive rate of about 10%, so you owe it to yourself and everyone with whom you've had sexual relations to have a confirmation test done as soon as possible.Answer #2: Go to tested immediately.  If you are positive you literally could be killing people


Title: Traveling with an infant Who is not my kid

Question:
My sister in law has a tourist visa
She had her kid in the U.S but moved back to Mexico.
4 years later sister in law visit US again by herself.

She misses her daughter and since I am traveling to Mexico she wants me to bring her daughter with me.

Is it possible?

What do I need?

Is she going to face some consequences because of it?

Answer:
 Who has custody of her kid? You're going to need their permission - in writing, very likely - or the kid's not going with you. You, her guardians, and your sister-in-law will also need to check that she will be admitted into Mexico, although an accompanied minor is generally not an issue.

Provided you bring the daughter back to her guardians as arranged, you'll be fine. If your sister-in-law tries to keep her kid and you fail to return her as a result, you may face charges for participating in a parental kidnapping.Answer #2: How old is this "infant?"

What proof do you have of the child's citizenship?  Who is the legal guardian of the child?


Title: [WA] I slept with a tenant in lieu of rent one month. Now she won't pay rent at all expecting to continue. I want to evict her. How bad of a situation am I in?

Question: I am a small-time landlord. I rent out the "mother in law apartment" I have over my garage. A couple of months ago, I was pretty depressed for reasons unrelated to this and was drinking pretty heavily. My tenant knocks on my door, she comes inside, and asks for an extension to her rent. I said no. She came on to me and offered to spend the night with me if she didn't have to pay that month. I wasn't thinking clearly and I agreed. The next morning I regretted it and told her that this was a one time only deal. The next month, she didn't pay and wanted to repeat. I said no. She tried to come on to me. I refused. She told me to call her when I wanted to. I didn't. This has gone on for a couple of months now. I don't know what to do. I want to evict her for not paying at this point as she hasn't actually paid rent since September. What would happen if I do? Could she tell the police and would they arrest me for prostitution? Would this one time deal effect any eviction proceeding, or would they only look at the fact that she has not paid rent in over 3 months, or over 2 months if you ignore the "October one time deal"?

Answer:
 She'd be foolish to tell anyone about it because she'd be in just as much trouble as you. Serve her a pay or quit notice and follow the laws for evicting a non-paying tenant.

Edit: SpellingAnswer #2: Please tell me you didn't send her a text about this.Answer #3: >Could she tell the police and would they arrest me for prostitution?

She's the prostitute in this situation, not you. She has just as much to lose.


Title: FINAL UPDATE: Assaulted in Bar Last Night (NJ)

Question:
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3f6j59/assaulted_in_bar_last_night_nj/)
[Update](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3i688j/update_assaulted_in_bar_last_night_nj/)

It's been a while, but I found out some news this weekend that I wanted to share. I was out with some friends last night at another bar when I ran into some of the girls from that group.

I noticed a girl staring at me, and I realized I knew her from somewhere. Finally she said, "Oh my God. Are you the guy that Stacy slapped?"

I decided to leave it alone and never responded to the letter I received. I was never asked to testify, and didn't go down to the police station to obtain a copy of the report. The girl I spoke with told me the following:

Stacy and the other girl, the one who grabbed her, had a huge falling out over the whole thing. They blamed each other and nobody really talked to either of them anymore.

Stacy got into a diversion program. She's made a while new group of friends through AA and doesn't really hang out with people outside of the program.

She was dropped from the teacher certification program because she had pending charges. They told her she could reapply once her record is clean. Apparently this is when Stacy turned on the friend that grabbed her. The girl I spoke with didn't know how long the diversion program is.

I hope she sticks with it, and I sincerely hope there's more good than bad that comes from this for her.

Answer: Just went back and read the updates, wow what a chain of events. For what its worth, I think you did all the right things.Answer #2: Thanks for the update.  Sounds like she's maybe on a better path. Answer #3: Thanks for the update, I remember reading the story and I can't believe that was 9 months ago.  Amazing how much of a hole she dug for herself.Answer #4: i can't believe how far she was willing to go to refuse any sort of responsibility for her actions. first it was your fault, then it was because of booze, then it was her friend's fault. i'm glad you didn't let her off the hook. it sounds like she really needs a good life lesson like this.Answer #5: Thanks for the updates. Im of the belief that young people make mistakes, those mistakes should be punished so that the violator learns from them and that that should be the end of it. Hell, in retrospect Ive been in a few drunken fights and Im lucky I dont have a couple felonies. I think its a good thing you pressed charges, I know I had to be disciplined when I was younger, but I also sincerely hope this doesnt cripple her prospects and ability to improve for the better.


Title: Wells fargo drained my account

Question:
For some background I am 19 years old and go to a university. Today I got an email saying that my checking and savings account reached 0 dollars. When I checked my account it said that there was a charge called Legal Order-Los Angeles County S 213 974-6613 to both my checking and savings account. Initially I thought it was fraud so I called Wells Fargo and they said they would have to transfer me to their legal order department which ended up being closed. So, I have to call tomorrow. I also looked up the numbers after the legal order and it was the branch supervisors phone number for a court house in Los Angeles

I learned from my mom that this happened to both my sisters savings account and my moms savings account. But, it didn't happen to their checking accounts, at least not yet. My family can't figure out what is going on. Our best guess is that it might be because my mom has debt.

My questions:

Can they drain my account just because my mom is "linked" to my account because it was a supervised account that turned into a student account?

Can they just drain my accounts without giving me a written notice?

If it is from a court house wouldn't there have to have been a trial? If so we never received a notice for any of us to go to trial? And if there was a trial and we didn't go wouldn't there be a warrant out for one of our arrests for not appearing?

I just don't know what to do. I am going to call wells Fargo's legal order department tomorrow and I will update with what they told me. Thank you in advance any advice will help.

Answer:
 If your mom has a judgement against her, they can usually levy ANY bank account that she is on. They don't have to send you paperwork. It is likely that your mom has been served with legal papers and she lost or failed to respond.

Open a new account in your name only.Answer #2: OP there is hope. Get in touch with the legal order department tomorrow and tell them it was student loan money.

[cite ](https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/20/1095a)  subsection (d) is the paragraph to cite to the bank. Answer #3: Your mom probably has a judgement against her for a debt... so they collected it from her accounts, one of which you share. Sounds like your mom screwed you. Not much you can do beside help her get a lawyer, and hope they can negotiate something... but the money that’s taken is most likely gone gone.


Title: Moving out of apt, have 2 other roommates who will be resigning the lease and bringing in another tenant. Landlord says the security deposit has to stay with them. Is this normal? [Location:FL]

Question:
The security deposit section of the lease agreement says this:

"Upon the due execution of this Agreement, Tenant shall deposit with Landlord the sum of $1000.00 (the "Security Deposit"), receipt of which is hereby acknowledged by Landlord, as security for any damage caused to the Premises during the term hereof.  Such deposit shall be returned to Tenant, without interest, and less any offset for damages to the Premise upon the termination of this Agreement.  The Security Deposit (and advance rent, if applicable) will be held in the following manner: Deposited in a separate non-interest bearing account with (local bank)."

I'm not too savvy in these kinds of things but shouldn't I get my third of the deposit back and the new tenant replace the last third of the deposit?

Answer:
 Have the new guy pay you your portion of the deposit, then he gets his buyout after they leave.

Basically he buys out your stake. Answer #2: yes it's normal - the agreement hasn't finished yet.

best choice is to get the new person to pay the landlord and the landlord to pay you and in writing discharge you. otherwise document before you leave, as they could end up screwing you.


Title: Question about divorce and getting remarried.

Question:
COMPLETELY HYPOTHETICAL pleaseee don't downvote this comment if you disagree with the content (you should leave a comment instead) rather you should only do so if you don't think its not an interesting topic to discuss.

Lets say you decide to be a dirtbag would you ever have to tell your second wife that you were married before or would it be relatively easy to keep that information from someone? (discounting facebook, having mutual friends, snooping, etc.)

Lets say a guy doesn't offer that information. Would he ever legally or otherwise be obligated to do so?

This is directed for any major Metropolitain cities/states in the west or east coast.

Answer:
 I don't know about other states, but applications for marriage licenses and the marriage licenses themselves in California all ask for:
 * number of previous marriages
 * date most recent previous marriage ended
 * most recent previous marriage was ended by (death, divorce, or annulment)

Given that wife #2 would need to sign two forms (the application and then the license) she would see rather clear evidence of the previous marriage.


Title: Is my business partner going something illegal?

Question:
This is a long story but I'll try to only give the short version. This is in the United States.

This is a wholesale business in a regulated industry. There are 4 partners, no outside investment. The majority partner is the one I suspect of illegal (or at least highly dubious) behavior.

My stake is small (<10%) and I do not work day-to-day for the company any longer, however I did previously. Without the approval or even informing the other partners, the majority partner formed a new LLC with himself as the sole owner and has begun copying over our website and other web assets to a new URL. The only reason I know some of these things is because I am still an admin on most of our web services and GSuites (I set most of it up). Quite a bit of the rest of it I learned from a friend who did web development for us and was approached by the majority partner to do work for his "new" company.

He has also indicated to another third-party that he plans to buy out the inventory and infrastructure to use for the new company, essentially gutting the former company and recreating the business with himself as the sole owner. I do not have access to the finances so I'm not sure if any money has been directly transferred. Furthermore, he has indicated that he plans to convince both the clients and the suppliers of the original company to work with him solely in the new company. Some of our suppliers have regional exclusivity contracts with us, so I'm not sure how he plans to navigate that.

The original company is in a fair amount of debt via accounts payable and CC debt, as well as a loan from one of the other partners that is in default currently. The majority partner has consolidated power so to speak, in that he has stopped communicating with any of the other partners. I have learned quite a bit of this from public record (our industry is gov't regulated so much of it can be found via FOIA, etc), guesswork, and hearsay.

My other partner with the loan owed has legal representation, however I do not. Unfortunately, I don't think my percentage is worth enough to get an attorney without a clear idea of what I'm hoping to accomplish.

Finally, our operating agreement is fairly open-ended and doesn't give a lot of recourse within the bounds of the agreement for the minority to have much if any say. Rookie mistake I realize now.

We are well-known within our regional industry, and my reputation is tied to the perception of the original company so even though I'm more or less out of the picture in the day-to-day, this reflects heavily on me.

Answer:
 The behavior of your business partner is fraudulent and highly criminal. As soon as he brought on partners, he lost the right to do whatever he wanted with company property without operating within the agreed upon company framework. The company (board of partners) itself has claim to the resources he is stealing and can sue him and/or his newly created business.
Since you have a financial stake in this, I suggest you consult a qualified lawyer about what is the best step forward which very well may include informing your fellow partners and/or the police of your fellow partners’ actions.


Title: Just got notified that I'm being sued for medical bills and pain and suffering for a hit and run I did not commit. Need some advice.

Question:
This all started almost 2 years ago. A liability claim was filed with my car insurance company based on the premise that I backed up into a person leaving a parking lot. This person had to have surgery due to their injuries according to my insurance company.

The insurance company then started looking into things to determine if I was liable. The bank has a record of me being there that day around the time of the incident, but there is no video of this event taking place. Things get weird now, the person who was hit described my vehicle as a newer Silverado 1500, I have a 10 year old 2500.  Some of you may know that there is a huge difference between the two models. After the initial investigation, my insurance company said they would keep me posted on any updates with the claim.

Now for what brings me here. Yesterday I had to sign for the letter that told me this person was filing a lawsuit against me for all of the damages caused to them due to this hit and run incident that I have no recollection of and totally forgot about over the past year and a half because my insurance company never reached back out to me about this case. Now I'm going to have to go to court to determine if I'm going to lose everything I have ever worked for because of a hit and run I had nothing to do with.

I have no idea how these civil cases work and I'm extremely worried that I'm going to be held liable for something that I didn't do based on a he said she said argument. Not to mention no police report was filed and I definitely haven't been arrested for hit and run. What are my options in fighting this and how should I go about it? Also, would it be unwise to assume that the plaintiff's attorney figures they have a pretty good case based on the only evidence they could have, me being at the bank, because I know lawyers in this field won't take a case unless they think they have a good shot of winning since they don't get paid unless the case is won.

Any advice or suggestions would be really helpful as I'm really lost right now and have no idea what to think about this whole situation.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer: Contact your insurance company immediately and tell them about this lawsuit.


Title: Can you be forced to buy clothes for jury duty?

Question: Inspired by a post on LA yesterday... they said if you show up to court in inappropriate clothing you'll be sent home and reassigned to another date and eventually will be held in contempt of court if you keep showing up dressed inappropriately. What if you only own shorts and crop tops? Can you be essentially forced to buy long pants and a shirt because otherwise you'll be fined?

Answer:
 Assuming you don’t have ANYTHING, and you explain it nicely, there’s a good chance they will recommend somewhere with cheap or even free clothing you could borrow.

This question feels more like a “I’m trying to get out of jury duty” question though, so being polite and getting some cheap or free clothes isn’t even your intent. So the 2nd day showing up in shorts and a tube top, after being told it not acceptable, could end up with you facing contempt of court charges.


Title: Ex-boyfriend abandoned his cat with me after ghosting me. I have bonded with the cat, paid vet bills etc. Can he come back in and demand it back?

Question:
I said I'd look after my boyfriends cat while he was away on business, 6 months ago. He came back but said I might as well hold onto it as he was going away soon after. I tried to give it back on multiple occasions but he always had an excuse as to why I shouldn't do that.

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Then he randomly stopped talking to me for a few weeks. Went to speak to him and relationship of circa 1 year now over (have known him for 2). He hasn't spoken to me for about 7 weeks since then. No mention of the cat.

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Came to light he was likely cheating on me during the relationship so last week I blocked him on social media and phone to avoid being reminded of that. In my view he had plenty of time to contact me before then.

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I have paid the cats vet bills (ex-boyfriend told me it was male but turns out it was female and needed to be spayed- trans cat!), I've bought food, bed, litter and all the stuff that goes with it all these months. We've also formed a bond, he's affectionate towards me in a way he wasn't with previous owner, who by his own admission said he was incapable of loving another living thing (yikes).

So I want to keep him but am concerned about what might happen if this guy tried to get him back after all this time. At what point does the cat legally become mine?! He's not microchipped or anything. He's the kind of guy who might do that just to hurt/spite me in the future and I want to know what the options are. Any advice greatly appreciated! This is in UK.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 Get the cat microchipped with yourself of course as the owner.
Do keep all vet receipts, paperwork from them together say in a folder.
All these indicate ownership and are dated so you can argue cat was
Abandoned as there was no verbal agreement re/ you housing the cat . I'm unsure the timeline re/ abandoned pets in the U.K.


Title: [NYC] Father was arrested at JFK airport for three empty magazine clips?

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 You have done all you can.

Your dad should listen to his lawyer.Answer #2: To expand on this. It is not a NYS thing. It's national. Just don't carry gun parts. If you need to, visit the tsa website and familiarize yourself with the laws. I learned this the hard way after being detained but not arrested for having a new magazine in my carry on.


Title: [CA] Employer failed to provide drinking water, told me to drink piss instead

Question: I work fuel reduction in the woods, stacking piles of brush/tree trunks/branches that sawyers cut with chainsaws. The stackers (us) usually have a 5 gallon container of drinking water available in our crew shuttle. A few weeks ago the container was not brought to work with us for a few days. On one of those days me and a few other members of my crew ran out of water (we normally bring about a gallon apiece from home.) I volunteered to go get water from the sawyer's truck from their container, since there was none available in our van. When I got there, our supervisor told me they had no water left. I was able to get only a few cups out of their jug. Then my supervisor said, quote, "Why don't you drink urine instead?" I laughed it off but this deeply offended me. I returned to work and me and 3 other co-workers had to work about another hour with no water, and it was over 95° that day. I looked up OSHA regulations and from what I can tell, employers are required to have clean drinking water available at all times. My question is: is this a violation of OSHA regulations? And does my boss telling me to drink pee constitute harassment? If I reported this would anyone take me seriously? Thanks in advance for your help!

Answer: Cal-OSHA can and will fine employers for not making pure potable water available to employees at all times. If you don't have access to water, report it to them.


Title: Signed over vehicle title to my mother before payments were complete. She stopped paying.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Your only recourse would be to sue her in small claims court. Probably in Ohio, so I don't know that it would be worth it. Especially since she has no wages to garnish.

Is she using the truck? Or is it just sitting around? I have a hard time imagining she's paying taxes, inspection fees, and insurance on it...


Title: [CA] Person behind me at BOA ATM stole $100 from me. What did I do wrong?

Question:
Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit.

I was at the BOA ATM and there was a man behind me in line, but he was not under the ceiling area (like a bus stop). He was waiting at the designated line. I don't think he was there when I put my pin in but I'm not 100% sure. Anyway, I always cover the keypad when I do it so I doubt he knew my pin and he did not have my card. I have it. Regardless, I completed the transaction, printed a receipt, clicked "finished" and made sure it went back to the "welcome" screen before I left.

I got home and received a phone call from BOA that I tried taking $100.00 6x after I made that deposit. My account was frozen and $100.00 ended up being taken out literally ~5 minutes after I left. They credited back the money and are looking at the security tapes to investigate. The representative said that they knew it was the person behind me (not sure how exactly).

What did I do wrong here? I don't see how this guy would have done this but he apparently did. What will he be charged with? Will I have to go to court?

Answer:
 BoA has a major security flaw where once you finish, a screen pops up that asks if you want another transaction.  A lot of people leave before they see this screen and it allows the next person the ability to access your account and withdraw money.  I'm a law enforcement officer in California and this is a pretty common problem.  We've had no luck getting BoA to change the software.

The other major banks have security features to get around this.  Namely, Wells Fargo keeps your card until you are fully logged out and Chase requires you to re-enter your pin if you want another transaction.

Edit:  since a lot of people here have different experiences, I'll just say that the ones in my city do not require pin reentry. We've been trying to get this changed for some time now.Answer #2: Perhaps he had a [skimmer](http://krebsonsecurity.com/all-about-skimmers/).Answer #3: >The representative said that they knew it was the person behind me (not sure how exactly).

atm's have security cameras, that's how


Title: [VA] Does this constitute 'assault'?

Question:
Last night, a man approached my wife and baby daughter out of the blue while she was waiting in line for food at a local take out place and said, "Looks like someone was grabbed in the pussy."  I believe this is considering simple assault since it's pretty threatening and suggested she call the police next time.  My wife is a small women and my daughter is just a toddler.  I doubt this guy would have done it if I were there.  He didn't try to hit her or anything like that, but I feel like there's an implicit threat in what he said.

Legally speaking, what should my wife do in a situation like this.  Is getting the authorities involved too much?  I only ask because someone who's willing to do this to a woman just standing there minding her own business, is likely to do it to others.  So, the idea of calling the cops doesn't bother me at all.

EDIT: Thank you for your input on this matter.  I stand corrected and am glad I know.  Also, thank you for the suggestions on the best course of action to take.

Answer: Your wife should practice hissing like a cat. This confuses assholes like this.


Title: [USA] Paternity Waivers

Question:
This is purely hypothetical, not something I am planning on doing.

In Metalocalypse, there is an episode where one of the band members fathers many children with groupies.  He avoids paternity by having the groupies sign (ahead of time) waivers that waive him of being declared the father, even with a positive paternity test.

So, my question is: Would these waivers hold up in a real court of law?

Answer: No. That is not a thing. No one can sign away paternity rights other than a judge. Also, no one can sign away a child's right to financial support other than a judge.


Title: Boss is a bully and making work Hell. (Indianapolis)

Question:
I've been working at a mechanics shop for just under my 90 days.  My 90 days will be up the 14th.   The assistant manager where I work is awesome, but the manager is extremely hard to work for.   Any and all interactions by him to me is negative and bitching.  He talks down to me, shoos me away like a child and has absolutely zero respect for me as a man.  He's laughed at me and shakes his head at me like I'm an idiot.

I live across town and have been sent home for being a couple minutes late due to traffic or weather.  Other employees have been late on many occasions, one about 45 minutes and said he overslept.  Nobody but me has been sent home.

He's given others a hard time as well, to the point that no one likes him, but it seems that I am the main focus of his ire lately.    I have anxiety about going into work when he's there and my stomach is in knots....it's awful and I feel like I'm going to snap on him or walk out.  I have a family and I can't afford to leave my job....I asked for a transfer to another location but so far no good.  I have two days off, one being Sunday and the other Thursday, but I'm always trying to cram everything I need to do into that day and don't have time to job hunt.

Is there anything I can do?  I feel like it's a hostile work environment and it's making things terrible for me at work and at home.

Thanks!

Answer:
 > I have two days off, one being Sunday and the other Thursday, but I'm always trying to cram everything I need to do into that day and don't have time to job hunt.

Almost everyone else in the world works 5 days a week. Hell, you get a WEEKDAY off. I would kill for that. Everything is crowded, busy or closed when Monday-Friday 9-5ers try to do anything. Unless we take a day off.

You are telling me you can't spend an hour or two on Thursdays picking up job applications or filling them out online? How do you think people find new jobs? We don't wait to be fired or quit, no one can afford that shit.

Get off reddit and fill out some job applications!Answer #2: "Hostile work environment" is a legal term of art that applies in limited circumstances, mostly sexual or racist harassment.  It doesn't mean that any boss who makes a work environment hostile or unpleasant can be successfully sued.

Finding a new job is your recourse here.


Title: [USA] Are the cops "doing me a favor" or do I need a lawyer

Question:
I lost my investment but a reddit user contacted me on skype and offered to buy me out to help me. He ran off with my monero and I filed a police report. they wanted logs of the skype conversation and the "listing" that prompted his message. When I provided them I had to explain the market and I cried a little and I don't know After one of the cops read the skype logs the told me to wait while one of the other cops were asking me dumb questions if I had a history of self harm or drug use and other shit but it wasn't helping none of it was related to getting ym money back

The other cop told me the monero wasn't traceable and compared it to a common scam or money order and they wouldn't be able to get my money back. Three cops left but one staked out my driveway for 2 hours before knocking on my door again and giving me a number to a therapist and telling me I needed to go or they would have to put me in a hospital so I accepted the number he kept telling me he was looking out for me, I needed to call this number and he would follow up on Wednesday

I didnt speak to a lawyer I don't want to be held but I don't want to go to therapy either. Its a waste of time I know I'll just feel better when I get my money back. What do I do? How do I get my money back and why did the cops lie to me? It was 23.2 monero I spent all of my savings $3,500 on it before it because fucking worthless

Answer: I concur with the cop. Talk to a therapist.


Title: Question about dropping mail to the post office after clocking out.

Question:
I am a receptionist and one of my daily duties is delivering the mail to our nearby post office once I leave work.  I leave at 4:30 rather than 5:00 to accommodate my driving and mailing time.  I do clock out though.  I have to drive my car every day and I risk getting in an accident while technically off the clock but while still doing required work.  My boss is not sure if they cover my car should it get hit.  What should I do?  Can I say I will not do the task if they can not guarantee to pay for any damages?
Edit:  Sorry you guys, I am located in Metairie, Louisiana.

Answer: Easy solution: do the mail run during the day, when there's no ambiguity as to whether you're on the clock or not. You don't have to do any work at all while off the clock.


Title: Neighbor keeps playing porn very hard

Question:
So recently a new neighbor has lived into our apartment complex. I mostly keep to myself so I probable have seen him on 2 occasions in a time span of 6 weeks. However I have noticed that on more then one occasion a day, moaning and groaning sounds are heard in our apartment hall. I would guess it to be between 50 and 60 Decibel.

Now I don't really mind sound in my apartment hall. But moaning and groaning is very hard to explain to friends and family who wait in the apartment hall for me to open the door. And it hasn't really been a great small talk convo with them. Neither would I assume it to be with my neighbor.

edit: belgium is where this is happening.

Answer: When you hear the loud moaning and groaning noises coming from his apartment, you can be a nice neighbor and knock on his door and ask him if everything is OK (because you can hear loud moaning and groaning noises coming from his apartment and you are concerned about his wellbeing).Answer #2: Put a note on his door in an envelope letting him know everyone can hear his porn. If it persists \(or you can skip to this if you don't want to use the note\) contact your landlord. For the biggest guns of all, check to see if you have anything similar to disturbing the peace in Belgium, and ask officers to come over when he's doing this and let him know he's disturbing the peace. They may or may not decide it's worth their time depending on how stretched thin they are.Answer #3: What did your landlord say when you complained?


Title: Heat has been broken for several days and the temperature is below zero tonight.

Question:
The heat in my apartment stopped working a few days ago. The plumber has come several times but hasn't been able to fix it yet. He gave me a space heater to use in the meantime. There's a big storm tonight so he won't be back until Monday at the earliest, which will make a week without heat. The space heater can heat one room well or the entire apartment to about 62 F. Apartments in NY are required to be at least 68 F from 6am-10pm when it is below 40 outside so the heater does not fulfill this requirement.

What would be the process for witholding rent until the heat is fixed? it is not due for about two weeks. Do I tell the landlord I won't be paying ahead of time or on the day it's due? I know space heaters are very inefficient way to heat a room so the electric bill will probably be very expensive. Can I deduct the difference in the electric bill from the rent?

I've found a lot of resources for renters in NYC, but I haven't found any for NYS.

Answer: This is an emergency situation. About to do more digging and will edit, but wanted to let you know this situation should have been corrected days ago.Answer #2: IANAL but make sure you informing your landlord of this is in writing. I wouldn't be just worried about myself, but also about pipes freezing and landlord coming after me for damages. It would depend on where your pipes are and how your unit is placed. But that might be a big worry as well


Title: Sort of caught stealing fentanyl from a hospital

Question:
I didn't do this. I just asking for someone I know who did.

Chris works at the hospital because it is a university hospital. He's an undergrad, so he really doesn't do shit. He notices a lot of things like where they store fentanyl. Chris' friend Alex makes a deal online to sell fentanyl. It's a good deal and is good money especially for unadulterated substances. Chris tells Alex where it is stored and how he should get it. Alex walks in impersonating staff because Chris knows where uniforms are kept and got him a pair. Alex goes to steal it, it's more complicated than stealing off the shelves, so Alex is taking forever because Chris is shit at describing things. Alex thinks he finds it, and is about to get it when actual hospital staff spot him. Alex tries to play it cool but hospital staff still are like "who the fuck are you?". Alex distracts them by "mistakenly" pushing several glass bottles onto the floor. He runs past them as they are distracted with two bottles of fentanyl. The next day, he has already shipped them but now he's nervous about being caught on camera. Alex believes he is safe because he wore gloves and wore a mask over his face as well as didn't look up. Chris is also very nervous because Chris was asked to a meeting tomorrow and Chris believes they have linked him to the theft. Alex is nervous that Chris will give up his name. Can Chris ignore the meeting and quit his job? What should both of them do?

Answer:
 Fentanyl kills people, shithead. There's more people overdosing on that shit right now in my area than are overdosing on basically all other illegal drugs combined, and you were proposing to steal and sell it to people you don't even know online for your own financial gain.

I only wish you'd posted more details about yourself, the theft, and the job so that I could forward your post to the authorities.Answer #2: I had a travel nurse caught stealing Fentanyl and the DEA got involved.

Enjoy prison, lol. Answer #3: This reminds me of a villain in a cartoon, revealing his master plan while the protagonist totally still has time to defeat him.

That being said, the best thing you could possibly do right now is to continue to post every detail about the incredibly illegal thing you just did (really poorly, I might add) on the internet.

Note: IANALAnswer #4: Please update us on this, OP.


Title: Can I create repercussions for the sperm donor in case confidentiality isn't maintained as a part of a legal agreement?

Question:
Okay, this is a bit complicated.

I am one to research a lot and in advance. So my fiancé is a transgender man, therefore we need a sperm donor. We are NOT using a clinic for this because of two reasons: excessive costs and we want particular characteristics that clinics don’t offer. Do not mind the second part, it isn’t really important for this post. Thus, we are doing it on our own where we seek for the perfect donor personally. However, we live in a very small community and we do not want the identity of the donor be revealed to anyone EVER. We do not want the donor be involved at all. Nobody will ever know who it is.

We hope to find the right person and have it be kept completely confidential. We plan to offer a financial stipend and legal papers \(with lawyers involved and all that jazz\) that basically say that the donor is NOT responsible for the child, they must keep it 100&#37; confidential, and if they break the confidentiality, the repercussion will be that the sperm donor becomes legally obligated to pay child support \(basically to ensure that the confidentiality is maintained\) since if the donor breaks the confidentiality, they’re basically claiming the title with no repercussions. I want to ensure repercussions so they will be less likely to break the confidentiality. I know once the person legally gives up parental rights, it’s for good. So can the legal agreement include certain repercussions such as child support and whatnot? \(To clarify, I do not want this to happen at all, but if the donor reaches at that point of claiming "the title," they might as well claim the responsibilities that come with it, you know?\).

Basically, I want to know if this is possible? Can a family lawyer draft up something like this? Is there anything I need to be aware of or even learn more about?

Background: An older lesbian couple I know \(in the same small community\) desired what my fiancé and I want right now. So one of the women reached out to her ex \(without any legal involvement, it was just casual\) and he happily agreed, with confidentiality and all. Then when the kid was born, the kid became somewhat famous and the donor broke the confidentiality, proudly announcing that he is the biological father. This devastated the entire family and sparked drama. I do not want to go through the same thing the family went through.
Topic:
Contracts

Answer:
 If you do this outside a clinic, you don't have a "sperm donor" you have a baby who has a different father.

And there is no way to cure that.Answer #2: >say that the donor is NOT responsible for the child

This is likely not possible \(or legally enforceable\) unless you go through a clinic.

>I know once the person legally gives up parental rights, it’s for good.

There is a specific legal process to do this and it's not by having a lawyer draft up an agreement pre\-insemination.

>Basically, I want to know if this is possible? Can a family lawyer draft up something like this?

For the conditions you want \(relinquishment of parental rights, child support, etc.\), likely not.  Or rather, you can have drafted up whatever documents you want, but they'd likely be unenforceable in whole or part based upon some or all of the conditions you're seeking.

Your best bet would be to go through a clinic.  Since you do not want to do that, your second best bet would be to discuss this in detail with a family planning attorney.  I highly suspect they may tell you some of the same things \(e.g., that some of the conditions you want to put in the agreements would not be legally\-binding\).

Worst\-case scenario is that whatever male sperm donor you find to agree to this comes back at a later date claiming parental rights, you wave the papers in his face saying he gave up his parental rights, and the courts disagree with you and now you're in for a lengthy custody battle or some such thing.


Title: (California) "Friend" keeps bringing up my sexuality in groups of friends, trying to embarrass me or otherwise shame me, what can I do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 There is a time in your life that you have to grow up.

Stop hanging out with, talk to, FBing, Snapchating, and anything else with those person. They are not harassing you when you are choosing to hang out with them

And he can tell anyone any truth he wants.


Title: Kids on my property (Oregon)

Question:
When I got home from work today, two kids were at the bottom of my driveway and asked if they could ride their bikes down my driveway (It's a really steep driveway in an otherwise flat town.) I told them no, but as I went inside I had a gut feeling they would anyway. Sure enough, as I look out my window, they are.

I wouldn't care otherwise, but I don't want them to fall and hurt themselves, leading to their parents being mad at me. So friends, do I have any liability if the little twerps break themselves? If so, is there anything I can do to absolve myself, if it were to happen while I am at work and can't tell them no?

Thanks.

Answer:
 Take a video of you walking out to them on your driveway telling them they are not to come onto your driveway and asking their names. Or call the police.

Do you know who the parents are?Answer #2: Well I found a link that said that Oregon had abolished the distinction between licensees, invitees, and trespassers.  Thus the requirement is reasonable care.  That probably just means keeping your property free of "hidden dangers."

But practically speaking, you should call their parents and then the cops.Answer #3: If you are a renter, I would call you landlord.  If you own the place, I would contact their parents (if you know where they live).

Be aware though (cynicism incoming)...kids have the potential be mean little pricks and if you tell them "No", they may try and screw with your property.  And if the kids are mean little pricks, then it is also likely that they learned this behavior from their parents, who would therefore side with them in the event they kept doing it and got hurt, or intentionally messed up your property.  So based on the "tone" of the conversation with the parents, you may want to consider getting an inconspicuous video system set up.


Title: Don't have a lot of law knowledge, could use some help.

Question:
My GF recently purchased prescription glasses from target and had to pay $315 in advance. After about 2 weeks she went to get them and they were the wrong frames, so they said it was a mistake and they had to send them back.

Now today she calls because she got a voice-mail saying her glasses would be there, when she called to confirm they told her that those frames were no longer available and she could get a refund or switch frames.

Is this not theft? Having her pay in advance and wait a month to be told what she paid for can't be provided.

Answer: They're giving her the money back. What, exactly, are they stealing?


Title: Sold a $2000 laptop through Square. Buyer claimed it was “hot” and wins dispute. Buyer doesn’t even have to return laptop and Square now claims i owe $2000

Question:
[Screencap of Email Exchanges](https://imgur.com/a/DQt1E33)

**Backstory:** I posted my laptop for sale and had a buyer willing to use square. He gave me a 1 day fedex shipping label and I shipped the brand new sealed laptop to him afterwards.  The The way lenovo packages their laptop, i forgot to send the charger and only sent the laptop alone. Admittedly my mistake, i then sent him the charger with 2 day shipping and the tracking shows that it was left in his front door even though he claims he didn’t receive it.

He then claims that the BRAND NEW laptop is now “defective” within 2 weeks of receiving it and opens a claim on me on square. Despite himself saying that he couldve sent it to lenovo since it was still under warranty. Buyer then tries to coerce me to send him $100 to “drop” the dispute, but he eventually wins the case anyways. Buyer doesn’t even have to return the laptop. He now gets to keep both the laptop and he gets his money back as well. At no point does he ever even provide proof that the laptop is defective except describing that it was “hot”.

I feel cheated especially since he didn’t even have to return the laptop and now square claims i owe $2000 even though i shipped a brand new sealed laptop and all the buyer had to do was claim it was defective. Please help!

Answer: This sounds like a run-of-the-mill small claims case. You'd have to file the case in the state the other guy lives in, if it's not NY. $2000 is well within the limit of small claims. No lawyer required.Answer #2: Whatever legal action you consider taking, you should [challenge the dispute](https://squareup.com/help/us/en/article/3882-payment-disputes-walkthrough) with Square.


Title: Is taking fruit from a tree on my property illegal?

Question:
So this is more of a two part question. My house (Los Angeles if that helps) has a guava tree in front right behind our fence. The tree overhangs onto the sidewalk around this time of year when the guavas start to show up.
1) Is there anything wrong with people picking fruit from the part of the tree that hangs over the sidewalk?
2) Is it legal to go onto someone's property and pick the fruit from the tree that's behind the fence?

The 2nd scenario just happened now. My dog started barking and when i looked, there was an older asian lady standing on our lawn picking the guavas from our tree. I told her she can't be on here since it's not her property and she just looked over and me, smiled, waved, and walked away.

I have no issue with the first question, people have been doing it in our neighborhood with other fruit trees for years, including me. The second scenario is what got me mad because that's the first time someone's done that (as far as i know) and i feel like it's a pretty big leap in logic to feel it's ok to walk on to someone else's property and take from it.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Second case, no it's theft.

1st cast, it varies state by state. Some places, if it overhangs a public side(or into your yard) it's free game. I'd have to do some searching to see if Los Angeles has that.

edit: doing a bit of research, and finding a previous post here on, it's a gray area. There's no current law saying you can't or can.Answer #2: Seems like the second story is definitely tresspassing and theft.


Title: (Richardson Texas) School will not let us go to the bathroom during class.

Question:
Richardson, Texas

Like I previously stated, our teachers are not allowed to let us go to the bathroom or get water during class. We can go during passing periods, but its only 5 minutes, which for some of us just is not enough time. They did this to stop people from vaping in the bathrooms, and other reasons, but this just doesn't seem fair. Its punishing students who don't vape or don't break any rules. Is there anything that I can do about this?
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 This has been an argument since i was in school. The best course would be to take your argument to the school board at their next meeting and explain your case.Answer #2: Complaints for schools should be issued as follows:

* Principal
* Superintendent
* Board of education

Each time your complaint goes unheard, document conversations and escalate.Answer #3: Absolutely. Get a doctors note. That’s what I did and haven’t had an issue since.Answer #4: Since your principal and admin seem to be the ones wanting this in place, your best bet is to get your parents/parents of friends/PTA members to ALSO be upset about it and either try to get it on an agenda for a RISD board meeting, or speak out about it during the visitors' section of a board meeting. Meetings are held at 6pm in the RISD Administration building. The next two meetings are 12/3/18 and 1/14/19.


Title: FL exgf/roommate is planning on leaving me with rent

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You will have to pay the rent right now to avoid being evicted.

You can sue her for half the remaining rent, and she *can* keep living there if she wants until the end of the lease.  You can also make an agreement for less than half to avoid court, if you like


Title: Found a piece of bone with bone marrow in my pack of sour patch kids

Question: The title sums it up. Is there any action I could take? My friend thinks I could take legal action but I really don't think there is that much proof. Also, bone marrow is used to make the gelatin which is another reason why I don't think its such a strong case. I have the piece of bone with marrow still on it. I also got it from a vending machine at my university in New York City if that matters. Thank you

Answer: You can contact whoever makes sour patch and they would most likely send you a coupon for a free bag of sour patch. Answer #2: Legal action for what?  Were you harmed?


Title: Ex is allowing our kids to violate quarantine (in NY)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Is it concerning? Yes, but it's definitely not a CPS matter unless you have a doctor saying it is endangering the children's health and they need to be in isolation. You can file something in family court, but they are only hearing emergency matters right now, which this isn't.

(Source: am a CPS worker)Answer #2: call the non emergency. its unclear on enforcement and would depend on how your local pd is enforcing it.

its also unclear how far police are going to prove it unless they respond to one of those play dates.


Title: [Va] what is the standard applied for the term "neglect" of a child to allow for approval of an emergency custody hearing?

Question:
My ex and I have 50/50 custody of 16 male. She lives in another city outside of my sons school district. She lost her car a month ago and is unable to replace it. She refuses to allow our son to stay at my house during her custody time even though she can't get him to the bus. As a result I have to pick him up and drop him off which is hard on all of us. I filed for a hearing a few weeks ago thinking if she replaced car in meantime I could just drop the case.

I called the court today to check on status and was informed it takes 90 days from filing just to get a court date scheduled. That means I would have to wait until late January just to get the first date. I don't know if it's possible to keep it up till then. He already has issues in school and this makes it worse.

I read the rules for emergency hearings and abuse and neglect seem to be the conditions that need to apply to be allowed  an emergency hearing.

I really don't want to do this I'd like to give her all the time she needs to try to fix the situation before involving the court. But given the impact this is having on all of us and her unwillingness to be flexible I feel like I may be forced to involve the court sooner rather than later.

With all that in mind is her inability to get him anywhere he needs to be meet neglect?

I can't find anything definitive

Answer:
 > She refuses to allow our son to stay at my house during her custody time even though she can't get him to the bus. As a result I have to pick him up and drop him off which is hard on all of us.

It isn't abuse or neglect at this point because you're preventing that from happening.  If you remove yourself from her lack-of-car situation, then it could become a problem.

I'd recommend you tell the mother to make arrangements during her custody time that doesn't involve you to get him to and from the bus.  Give her a week or so to make the arrangements.

Then, if/when he misses school, you can file an emergency hearing because now his schooling is being impacted to modify the custody agreement.

If she's not willing to work with you about where he's staying during her custody time, I see no reason why you should offer to remedy her problem by going out of your way.


Title: AZ sprint store gave wife and sister in law "free" tablets that they're now demanding payment for

Question:
Sprint store employee gave my wife and sister in law tablets for free (he was very clear they were free, or they wouldn't have taken them) and did not charge them when purchased their phones.

months later sprint added a huge charge for the "free" electronics to their service contract, and when they went to appeal it they were told they had to pay as the contract said they couldn't fight any fees Sprint added to their bill. their only consolation was being told "yea we fired the guy who gave you free stuff" .

what sort of recompense can we pursue?

Answer:
 IANAL but worked in sales. Your wife and SIL almost certainly signed a contract that described exactly what sorts of charges would start to occur in the future. A *lot* of cell phone places will do call overs and say "hey, do you want a free XYZ?" and then lock you into a multi year contract.

There's no such thing as a free lunch (or tablet). I'm curious as to the reasoning the sales person gave as to why these tablets were free and how it wouldn't cost them anything in the future.Answer #2: You've got two issues here: (1) you are subject to the terms of the contract, and tablets weren't free under that contract; and (2) the employee, by giving you the tablets for free, acted outside the scope of his authority and arguably could be personally liable for the costs.

Either way, have you thought about just returning the tablets? I know it's not "fair" but it might be what needs to happen if they won't work with you and you don't want to purchase them. Answer #3: NAL but my husband was in the Sprint store yesterday, and was offered a free tablet, as long as he signed up for a seperate data plan.  Is that what this is, a delayed bill for several months of two data plans?  What is the bill actually for?Answer #4: You mean they gave your wife and sister in law a free device so that they could charge you a monthly fee for providing service to that device? That's what all cellular service carriers do.