Title: Update to "sperm jacking" lawyer post. (IL)

Question:
Just to clarify because I got some bad pms ( also some great ones!): I didn't tamper with the condom at all. He didn't bring one. He didn't even mention using one until I did. Then he said he didn't have one. I offered him one of mine. He took it willingly. He didn't take any birth control responsibility on his own. He didn't ask me if I was on the pill before sex, my thoughts on abortion, etc. Nothing. I am not quite understanding how a broken condom is my fault or why I should have to prove I didn't try to tamper with it?

- Don't have sex with people you don't trust. ( big lesson for me here)
- Take responsibility for your own birth control.
- Don't have sex with people if you can't comprehend that sex has consequences. It just does. It sucks, I know, that we can't just do a bunch of things and not have any consequences but that is true with everything.
- People aren't just holes and poles for your use. Just show some respect.

Now for the update.

So, I got really tired of dealing with it all and I got really angry that he would even imply that I did that. It is just disrespectful. After getting some advice (thank you everyone!) and looking around about people talking about sperm jacking, I got a little scared that he might actually get a bit more desperate and do something more than just annoying. I also took into account how it might be illegal to do what he is doing. Thanks  /u/Karissa36 and others! And if he didn't get told to stop he might try to pull that stuff with someone else.

I decided to go to my dad. I figured, as a male, maybe he could give me some perspective and he is my awesome dad who fixed everything when I was little so why wouldn't I go to him with my problems?

I showed him this thread, the letter from the fake lawyer, and listened to my version of events, and then  he visited some other reddit threads that talked about sperm jacking, and he got a little angry.

I had a talk this morning the Department of Public Safety at my school and they were pretty understanding. They took a copy of my letter and filed a report. They said they would talk to him and look into the thing. Their reasoning was that they wanted to nip this before/if it escalated. I also got a card to call if he ever bothers me again.

My dad actually talked the guy's parents (mostly the guy's dad) on facebook about the incident. He said they were on the same page about how disrespectful this was and how wrong. I felt weird about my dad talking to his dad but my dad assured me that he felt maybe the guy's parent could talk some sense into him.

My dad is contacting a lawyer today to see what our options are for maybe drafting a letter to the fake lawyer and reporting it to the bar.

Everyone I talked to has been supportive and I think bringing my parent into this was the right thing. I am still pretty young and naive and I'm need the help sometimes. Plus, my dad spent a lot of time reassuring me that I was worth more and that I deserved more respect than the guy gave me. " I'm sorry this guy sucks so hard."

tl;dr: Told dad and the Department of public safety at my school, dad talked to the other guy's dad/mom, and we got a lawyer to help.

I am headed to class but I can answer questions when I come back!

Answer:
 > Just to clarify because I got some bad pms

Sounds like some jackasses weren't brave enough to post their opinions publically.

OP you've got a good head on your shoulders. You've handled this well.Answer #2: I think it's hilarious that this guy thinks so highly of himself that he believes anyone wants his baby at all, much less this badly. What a schmuck.Answer #3: Your dad sounds awesome. I think that the conversation between crazy guy and his parents will be rather hilarious, hopefully it will help snap him out of his internet mra delsuions, if not then being sued by the bar association might. Answer #4: I hope "filed a report" means filed a police report. The problem isn't just that *he* never impersonates an attorney again, but that others are deterred from it as well.


Title: Got really drunk, rode an uber, friend vomited in uber, driver pulled over and began to beat us up. What to do? (Philly)

Question: He punched me and my friend in the face and throat multiple times and we were too drunk to defend ourselves. I filed a report with uber and they followed up because of the seriousness of the incident. They said they would waive both the uber fare (for "Poor trip experience") and the vomit cleanup fee, and would make sure that I never get paired up with that specific driver again. Is there anything else that I should do? I honestly just wish they would fire the driver, but they didn't mention that at all. Pennsylvania

Answer: Did you call the police?


Title: Showing kids porn

Question: I live in the uk and just out of interest u want to know, is it illegal that the nhs people came In and basically showed us pictures of other people genitiles? The funny thing was right before they were telling us how it’s illegal to show kids pornography

Answer: Sex Ed isn't pornography. It's part of compulsory education in the UK.


Title: [HI] I work for a pizza delivery chain, and they require us to park in a tow away zone between our runs. We have been getting tickets for parking here and the company is refusing to take responsibility.

Question: I work for a major pizza delivery chain in Hawaii, and our store is directly located in a street that is a "Tow-Away" zone. We have been told multiple times that we have to park there between our deliveries, because the closest parking is a nearly 15 minute walk away.  We were originally told that we were allowed to park there, however we have all been getting a rediculous amount of tickets. At first, they told us not to worry, and that they would take care of it, however we now have upwards of 15+ unpaid parking tickets, and they now are saying "We never told you to park there" and are refusing to even help pay the tickets. Is there anything my coworkers and I can do, or are we just fucked?

Answer:
 Stop parking there, pay your tickets, and if you feel compelled to, sue your employer for the payment of those tickets.

You can report this to corporate that you're receiving parking tickets for following your management's advise and getting ticketed as a result.Answer #2: You are responsible for your own tickets.  So pay them.  Then sue the manager in small claims court.   Answer #3: IANAL.

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Legally, you have a duty to "mitigate damages" which in this case means to no longer break parking rules once the pizza shop has told you to stop, and to pay the earlier parking tickets in a reasonable timeframe so that no further fees accrue.

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You can then damand that lump sum from pizza delivery chain, and sue them in Small Claims if they refuse.

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> When we park that far out it increases our delivery times, which they write us up for.

They can write you up for anything they wish. They can write you up because your shoes are dirty or because the sky is blue. This is a private matter, not a legal one.


Title: Child Support Payments

Question: How can I claim unpaid child support and broken mediation agreements? My dad owes my brother and I atleast 30k, and we NEED the money.

Answer: The money is owed to your mother, not your brother and you.


Title: IRS and SSA - how can I avoid committing fraud and also survive?

Question:
I'm in California but I don't think that's relevant since this is all federal stuff.

I just applied for SSDI/SSI last week. They asked me about my income. I had been told that if I said I "babysit occasionally" that would be accepted without any firm numbers. However, it was not. The first person interviewing me (for SSDI) pushed and pushed and pushed for a number of hours per month. I said over and over again that I really had no idea, but he insisted that I estimate. I said, "I guess about six? But I really, truly don't keep track and have no idea." Then he told me that anything under 45 hours per month was fine. The next person who interviewed me (for SSI, two cubicles away) pushed again for an estimate. I said that I had told that last guy six but I really have no idea, it could be ten, but I'm pretty sure not more than that. I reiterated that I was truly unable to keep track of my hours due to my mental disability. Then she wanted to know how much I make per hour. I told her $15.

When it was time for me to leave, she printed out a summary of all the statements I had sworn to be the truth. She didn't ask me to sign it and I didn't look at it until I left. It said that my income from "self-employment: babysitting" was $1,800 in 2014 and was anticipated to be $1,800 in 2015, and that this was all from babysitting. Obviously she just did some multiplication. Two problems. 1. I only started babysitting in July, she had never asked me when I started, and 2. I'm now terrified of the tax implications, and 3. I'm scared they'll investigate me to find out how much I actually babysit.

I have severe PTSD. I can't handle any more stress in my life. I can't handle running a business, that's why I'm applying for SSDI/SSI! I have been self-employed and payed taxes that way in the past, and it was stressful even when I was relatively well. I just cannot handle it now. I'm on the verge of a panic attack just thinking about it. However, babysitting is really good for me and I don't want to give it up. The honest truth is that I earn about $600/month babysitting (at $25/hour- I'm paid well, but don't actually work much). Most of the cash has gone straight to my therapist. Now that my mother is paying for therapy the cash is sitting in a drawer as unofficial savings so I don't become homeless in between the time my State Disability Insurance runs out in two months and SSI/SSDI kicks in (four months best case scenario, worst case scenario could be years, but I hope to recover and return to my career within a year or two).

Sorry for all the text. I guess it all boils down to two questions:

1. What do I tell the Social Security Administration? Just let the document saying I'm earning $1,800/year stand because it's not enough to effect my benefits? Or write to them and tell them I felt pressured into a number but truly don't know? Or write to them and tell them the truth that I babysit about 24 hours per month, which is still little enough to qualify for benefits?

2. What do I tell the IRS? Will the IRS find out that the SSA wrote down that I made $1,800 in self-employment babysitting in 2014?

Edit: Thanks for all the hate everyone. I hope you never become disabled and have to figure out how to survive. And thanks to the one person who actually gave me helpful advice of where I can get my taxes done for free.

Answer: If you are able to work you are not disabled. Lying to SSDI is what makes it harder for people that truly need it.


Title: Adult harassing a minor for months, recently sent explicit images.

Question:
Quick background: For whatever reason, this guy doesn't like me. Met him on Xbox live through another friend, don't talk to any of them, but two of them take photos of me and edit them onto other images and harass me because I don't talk to my dad. I blocked them on everything I could but they still don't let up.

Anyway, yesterday one of them who is 18 (the other is 17, 18 this July) sent me the following via kik:

Sat @ 1:13 PM
"Hey Fag"
*Picture of a penis*
*Another picture of a penis*
"Merry Fuckmas"

Sat @ 1:26 PM
"Your father"
"Doesn't like you all that much"
"he prefers plowing hookers and snorting blow over spending time with you"
"And meanwhile im here with a huge cock"

That's it.

As said, he's 18 years old. I'm 16 and he knows that. He's from Texas, I'm from New York. I am really sick and tired of this continuing and them finding more ways to harrass me. I have not delete the messages and have back up proof of them. I contacted kik in an email and am awaiting a response.

Should I go to the police? As far as I know this can get him registered as a sex offender. If the pictures are not of him, can he still get in trouble?

Answer: [Texas Penal Code 42.07](http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/txstatutes/PE/9/42/42.07) defines harassment.  Call the police department where this knucklehead lives and file a complaint.  Also file a complaint with your local police.  The two might need to work together.


Title: [IL] [Mechanic] exploded my A/C, then tried to cover it up.

Question:
\[Mechanic\] = vehicle service center for a well-known brand name.

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Last week, I took my car to \[Mechanic\] for an A/C recharge as it was blowing warm. Car is two years old, 20,000 miles, no damage, no accidents, no issues. I'm the first owner.

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An hour into the appointment, a tech comes out and tells me there's a leak somewhere in the system but he can't locate where. Says a line might have rubbed against the frame. Says because the car is under 36,000 miles, the warranty should cover it. Says to take it to \[Dealership\] and they oughta fix it for free.

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I thank him profusely, leave, call up \[Dealership\], set up an appointment, repeat exactly what \[Mechanic\] told me. Yesterday, I take the car in and 25 minutes into the appointment, the manager comes out to ask me what the hell happened. Apparently, the \[Dealership\] tech working on my car came to ask the manager to run a carfax report but the car came back clean. I know and understand nothing about cars but essentially, \[Mechanic\] hadn't put back the filter, a line was blown at both ends,  there was dye everywhere, an aluminum pipe (under a protective plastic cover) was bent as though someone tried to yank on it, etc.

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The manager took pictures and explained it would essentially be his word against \[Mechanic\]'s. What do I do? Who do I speak to?

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1. I have copies of the pictures.

2. Car is safe to drive.

3. I have receipts from both \[Mechanic\] and \[Dealership\].

4. The damage is extensive and expensive but my primary concern is that whichever \[Mechanic\] tech worked on my car is clearly untrained, profoundly deceitful, and presumably still employed\*.

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(\*I am not trying to get anyone fired. Mistakes happen. But transparency and accountability are important, especially when the mistake is thousands of dollars of damage insurance and warranties won't cover.)

Answer:
 You might begin with speaking with a manager in the shop where the first mechanic worked and seeking what they think and want to do about the situation.

You might also keep on open mind.  It would be an odd (and terrible) deceitful strategy that screwed up your AC and then, instead of trying to fix it to cover it up, deliberately sent you to another mechanic where the deceit could be nothing but discovered and pointed out.  Obviously that’s possible, but there are probably other possibilities as well.  And these other possibilities are perhaps suggested by a car as new as yours with an AC failure which is not remotely normal.Answer #2: Why would you take a car under warranty to anywhere but the dealership for service in the first place?


Title: Apparently the FBI tried to contact me, should I be worried?

Question:
Last month I stayed at a friend's apartment for a few weeks while I was in between places and the other day my friend texted me saying the landlord had contacted him saying two FBI investigators came to the apartment and asked if I lived there. The landlord had no idea who the hell I was and told them just that.

I don't understand how the FBI could have known I was staying there considering I did not receive any mail , or list that as an address for anything, and why they wouldn't just call me or stop by where I work, which are both readily available information. I naturally just assumed it was a joke at first, but my friend sent a picture of the texts from his landlord which has me sort of freaking out.

Answer: You don't necessarily have anything to worry about. Without more information it's possible it's something as benign as them wanting to speak with you because someone listed you as a reference for a background check.


Title: My car caught on fire yesterday. I dont know why. I dont know what to do.

Question:
This happened last night around 10-11 pm. My parents were driving from San Jose to San Franciso, about a 45 minute drive. They heard a strange noise coming from the bottom of the car but ignored it hoping it would go away. A little later my mother heard something metallic drop on the ground and saw flames coming from the front of the car. They immediately pulled over on the side of the freeway and ran. Less than a minute later the car went up in flames.

Now go back about 3 days or so. Had the same car towed from a private area. Picked it up from the lot, took it home, and left it parked until all of this happened yesterday night.

My question is simply what the hell do I do. I dont know if the tow company has anything to do with this, or if it was the car, or if it was just the grace of god. Is contacting a lawyer a good idea, or should I just contact my insurance? Please help.

Answer:
 Your car burst into flames yesterday and you HAVEN'T called your insurance?

Log off. Do not pass go. Call your insurance right now.


Title: I’m receiving severe punishment from my school for defending myself

Question:
I’m a high school student in the US.

So yesterday, I was attacked by another student during lunch.  The kid didn’t like that I was wearing a Bernie Sanders shirt, and threw a very bad punch.  (Keep in mind, I’m 6’3”, 190 pounds, and this kid is 5’10” and 140 pounds soaking wet).  I was standing in line waiting to get lunch, and I see the kid swing once and he’s calling me a “fuckin communist” and preparing to swing at me again again, so I defend myself.  I jab his face, then hit him in the stomach and he’s not fighting back.  I didn’t escalate the situation, I acted in self defense, and I didn’t initiate.  The kid would have, at the very least, broken my nose if I didn’t act, so I figured I was in the clear.  A teacher comes and breaks us up, and I get brought down to the office and sent home.

Fast forward to today, and 10 minutes into first block, I get called down to the office.  The School Resource Officer is there, and he gives me a lecture about “promoting peace” and “turning the other cheek”, I sit there and look like I’m paying attention, then he drops a bombshell on me:

The school has a zero tolerance policy for violence, and I received a three day suspension and a note on my disciplinary record about the incident.   Keep in mind I’m a straight A student, never had a detention in my life, and I have beef with nobody at my school.  Is there anything I can do to contest this?

Tl;dr: I was attacked at school over a Bernie Sanders shirt, then got suspended for defending myself
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer: Most schools have a zero tolerance policy for fighting.  Your parents can try to dispute this with the school board.Answer #2: This sucks but is very common. Your parents can attempt to fight it with the school and district. Given that they’re doing a full suspension v ISS or detention you might get some more headway.


Title: How to safely seek investors for my futures trading algorithm?

Question:
(California)

I wrote an algorithm to trade S&P E-Mini futures at 100× leverage, and backtested this algorithm over 6 and a half years of market data. In my opinion, it will work very well. It's conservative in its choice of initial entries, virtually unable to suffer any significant losses, and highly profitable over several years. I used over 30 theoretical starting points between 2011 and 2017, and my algorithm consistently lost between $0 and $5,000 before pulling in profits, and in every tested scenario ultimately made hundreds of thousands of dollars per year on average. However, I don't have the minimum safe investment (~$10,000) to run it. I would need to either seek investors or sell an encrypted version of the program in order to make a profit, and i don't intend to sell an encrypted version.. so how can i legally obtain capital from investors, and what should i avoid doing to remain within the law?

Answer:
 Traditional investors are terrified of people who have great investment ideas and who can't pull together $10,000 to show a proof of concept. Tax complications and the lunacy of a 100x leveraged position, the fact that you won't even deliver pizza on the side to pull together some starting cash, ask your friends/parents for a loan, or pick up a few extra hours at your job tells me everything I need to know about your idea.

Were I in your position, I'd just hustle and earn the cash. If you're totally unwilling to do this, get an unsecured line of credit and use it to fund your initial operations.


Title: Non-drug arrest in Westchester, NY. Looking to find a lawyer I could afford, or pro bono.

Question: I have searched for lawyers and I cannot find one I can afford (or one who'll take monthly payments). I have a company vehicle impounded and I need it out of there asap. My court appearance is the 18th. I have never been arrested and am terrified to be honest. Whatever help anyone can give would be amazing. I'd be happy to answer any questions about this situation. Thank you.

Answer:
 If you are employed such that you have a "company vehicle," you will not qualify for a public defender in NY.  Public defenders are for poor people, which does not include you.

Also, you will almost certainly not get a lawyer to take your case *pro bono* as you have no special circumstances other than that you refuse to pay a lawyer what their services are worth.

You need to pay an attorney to handle your case.  This is the first step toward becoming a responsible person and avoiding criminal trouble in the future.


Title: [California,US] How to protect inheritance from controlling Uncle/Mom, without them knowing?

Question:
I'll try to keep this short, sorry I know it's a lot please hear me out. I am 18 and in college, so I'm really ignorant about this stuff rn but I want to learn.

My dad has 200k in a Traditional IRA with Fidelity. My mom has approx 500k in a charles schwab account, do not have much detail other than that sorry.

My uncle is very controlling, he is withholding my cousin's inheritance and has threatened to do the same to me. My mom tends to do w/e my uncle says.

TLDR; Is there a way for my dad to ensure that inheritance (Fidelity) goes to me, and not to my mom/uncle?
What steps could be taken here, and is there a way to do it so that mom/uncle do not know about it? My dad does not want to divorce my mom because they're very traditional.

Thank you for reading. Again I understand this is complicated. If there is nothing that can be done then I thank you for your time anyway.

Answer:
 With retirement accounts, you can list beneficiaries to the accounts, which would bypass the probate process.  The proceeds would go directly to the beneficiaries.

The issue is not between you and your uncle.  What has your mom and dad said to you about inheritance?  Are they dying soon?  It sounds like you might be more paranoid because you have seen what your uncle did to your cousin, which sounds completely unrelated to your situation.


Title: Card got stolen, now bank says I'm out $3,300

Question:
Here's the run down. Last Saturday my card was lost and/or stolen, I didnt realize this until Monday when I checked my account. So the following Monday when I checked my account my checking and savings was drained I immediately contacted my bank, Wells Fargo. Nearly 8 thousand dollars. A fake check was deposited to my account as well for 3 thousand, for some reason, and ended up bouncing. Money was taken out of the atms and money was used across the country. When I got to the bank they were absolutely rude and legitimately said I must have been the one to do all this.. they put in three claims to be reviewed I got a little over half in a new account but wont refund me $3,300 according to the letter I just received in the mail just a week later. They say, from the evidence they gathered it was me or someone I gave permission to. I'm a generous person, however, not so generous to give 3,300 of my saved money. They gave me a number to call to know the evidence they are talking about but now I'm at a complete loss it seems. I've never been in this situation and I have no idea how all of this stuff works.

I just really need some advice, I dont know how to or if I can challenge this. It wasnt me and I never gave permission to anyone. This is honestly the worst experience ever and have been losing sleep and not eating because the situation is extremely stressful to me. Somebody, please help point me in the right direction. I will do all the leg work I just need a sign to point down the right path.

Answer: Have you filed a police report yet? That should be step one if you haven’t. Most banks offer “fraud protection “ but be ready to jump through a lot of hoops and deal with a lot of red tape to get it resolved. In the meantime switch banks. Later on down the line if they report it to your credit you can use the police report to have it removed.Wells Fargo is one of the more difficult to work with.Answer #2: If they deposited a check into your account, something more than your card was stolen. If they are withdrawing money by ATM, then they have your PIN. Neither your bank account numbers or PIN should be available just on your card. You’ve had an entire compromise of your bank account somehow. Definitely file a police report. I worked fraud issues at a bank for years. The bank is not necessarily give you money back that was withdrawn from an ATM by PIN. It is not subject to the same protections as fraudulent purchases on a card, as your PIN should have been private and not easy to guess.


Title: [US] My credit report shows I have something from Sprint in collections. Called Sprint and they have no record of me having an account under my name/SSN...

Question: Called the collections agency and same thing, they said to contact Sprint and get some reference number but I can't because I've never opened a Sprint account so all I can give them is my name and SSN. How do they say I owe them $850 without record of me having an account!?

Answer: You can challenge entries on your credit report with the reporting company.  Start there.


Title: [CA] Received paperwork from my ex employer that I was terminated despite the fact that I quit.

Question: So a few weeks ago I get to work my boss calls me in and is accusing me of something I didnt do, I didnt admit anything but he told me I was "suspended with pay until further notice while they sent it up to HR". I was upset both by being accused of something I didnt do with no proof and that I was being suspended, and understanding that I was an "at will" employee (meaning you can be fired for any reason) I told them I was quitting and packed up my office and left. This weekend I received some paperwork from HR stating I was terminated, granted I knew I was suspended but I quit before anyone told me I was terminated. Can I have them change it? Again I never admitted to anything, nor was I ever made to sign anything. Im just concerned that they tell potential employers I was fired for some crap I didnt do.

Answer:
 It is absolutely possible they fired you before you quit.  The distinction is immaterial in your situation.Answer #2: > This weekend I received some paperwork from HR stating I was terminated

Point of order as a hiring manager myself: this is a standard HR term that just means "separated from company", without a voluntary or involuntary connotation.  All that matters is whether they will contest unemployment insurance or say to a future employer (though most stop at dates only and some extend to eligible-for-rehire).


Title: Union is harrassing workers to join union. Telling them that if they don't vote in the union, they will be fined.

Question: So most of the departments in my store here in Portland, Oregon are unionized, but not all of them are. The union has been harrassing and threatening non-union workers in non-unionized positions to vote to unionize of face a $200 fine. I know this has to be illegal, but I am not sure where to go from here.

Answer: Oregon is NOT a right-to-work state, meaning you can be forced to join a union.


Title: Can I park my truck legally anywhere in Portland?

Question:
I have a 22ft Grumman Olsen Curbmaster bread truck with two axels and six wheels that as registered as a personal vehicle and used like one. I don't use it everyday, but frequently enough for it not to be abandoned. I park it along a back alley near my work. There is a graveyard blocked by hedges on one side, and a storage place on the other. The closest residential building is over 200 feet away and around the corner.

Today I was confronted by that homeowner 200 feet away and told me that he had called the police, twice, and that Monday, my truck would be towed. I asked him if it was against the law. He said yes, that it was illegal to park anywhere for more than 24 hours,  and then it had two be moved at least 4 blocks away. Before leaving he said, "I'll let you know, I am an expert on parking laws. I'm not asking you to move it, I'm telling you." which, of course makes me want to leave it there much more because I like to watch rude people squirm...

Anyway, personal matters aside, it is going to be a real pain to move it 4 blocks every day into real residential territory where people have a real right to be upset (like right in front of their house). The only laws I could find on the internet was that you cannot park a truck in front of across from a residence for more than 8 hours.

I see Laurelhurst park surrounded with full time RV livers and I doubt I'm that high on the to do list for the police even if I am parked illegally.

So my questions are,  1) am I parked illegally  2) will it really be Monday when I am towed? Isn't this city overflowing with RVers who are obviously lived in and illegally parked? (I'm thinking Laurelhurst Park) Will they have to give me some kind of warning sticker?  3) where can I park this thing if I have to move?

I am completely ignorant of all things law, and don't know even where to look for myself so I really appreciate your advice.

[Edit] This is Portland Oregon.

Answer:
 > He said yes, that it was illegal to park anywhere for more than 24 hours, and then it had two be moved at least 4 blocks away.

That seems wrong.  It would be especially inconvenient for people with driveways or garages.

[This section](https://www.portlandoregon.gov/citycode/article/16049) *appears* to be what he is referring to.  You cannot leave a vehicle parked for more than 24 hours.  I don't know where he is getting the "4 blocks" thing.

Maybe go to the DMV with a printed copy of that section and figure out how to get permission.

Edit: [Maybe this section?](https://www.portlandoregon.gov/citycode/article/16050) referring to multiple citations and having to move your vehicle 500 feet?  But if you haven't even been cited I don't know how they're going to tow you.


Title: Health Insurance Failing due to incompetence, Paying $1k per month yet quality of life suffering

Question:
I'll try to keep this succinct but the issue (with the insurer) has been going on for nearly a year so please try to bear with me.

About 4-5  years ago I noticed that I was having minor memory issues.   My recollection was just subpar, and I wasn't as sharp as I had been previously.  At the time I was an engineer at a top tier tech company, and when your coworkers are at an extremely high level of competency, these memory shortcomings are magnified. I wrote it off as a consequence of aging, though I probably should have been more concerned. (At the time I was 25). Cut to a year ago, I've quit my job and started my own company, and I've grown it to a point where it is self-sustaining, and it's now time for me to reenter tech.  Problem is, I'm still having memory concerns. But it's worse. I'm at a party and I forget what a Pinata is called. I'm at an apartment and I forget what a dishwasher is called. Little incidents like this start piling up.  I go to my Primary Care, who refers me to a Neurologist, who refers me to a Neuropsychologist.  This is where the insurance shitstorm starts.

My hospital won't give me a memory clinic examination because I'm over the age of 25. This is May of last year. I get caught up in work and this falls by the wayside.  I subsequently forget that I had been advised that my hospitals memory clinic won't give me an exam because I'm over the age of 25, and I call to schedule again in November of that year. They tell me the exact same thing, and I ashamedly remember I had already made this phone call. Awkward.  My Neurologist gives me the name of a private practitioner who can do the deed.  My insurance, (who I pay $1000 per month) says she is out of network and will only cover 50%. 'Alright, give me someone in-network who can provide the assessment and prescribe me some solutions,' I say. They give me a list of about 100 practitioners.  I start calling and I realize they just provided me with a list of psychologists. Child psychologists, trauma psychologists, occupational psychologists, etc. After calling about 20 providers I find one who can do what I need. The problem? They only accept internal referrals, referrals from my primary care or Neurologist won't do. Ok, I'll get an internal referral from a Neurologist at their location. Oops, none of their Neurologists are taking on new patients. This is the short version, all told I have spent about 12 hours on the phone at this point trying to figure this stuff out. The out of network Neurologist that I had been referred to advises me to request a single case agreement, which essentially means my insurer makes an exception and covers full costs for an out of network provider for a single service.  I contact my insurer. They don't know what this is. I escalate the request, they say they will consider it. Cut to a month later they reject my request of a single case agreement because 'they have in network providers who can take care of the issue,' and they proceed to give me the names of two doctors and their phone numbers.  I call them. One is a child neuropsychologist, who can't see me for my issue because I'm not a fucking child, and the other, is a Neurologist at the location that isn't accepting new patients.  Realize that everything you've read above, and much more had been meticulously outlined and sent to my insurance for context in making their decision.  I appeal my OON rejection, and explain to them that their solutions are inadequate. They reject my appeal, and provide me with a provider who they cite they have made special arrangements with. I contact the provider, they are unaware of any arrangements and will not see me as they only see patients over the age of 45 with neurodegenerative diseases.

Realize there is so much more back and forth going on and at literally every single step my insurer has demonstrated mind-boggling incompetence, not to mention a severely deficient critical reading ability as time and time again I find  myself having to re-explain why a solution or suggestion they provide me with will not work that I have already delved into in-depth previously.  I'm now trying to get a new job and I'm not performing as well in interviews as I am used too because  I'm struggling to recall anecdotes and perform other tasks that demand memory. I pay my health insurer a bundle every month, I've been patient, when their in-network providers couldn't provide me the service I needed I found someone who could, they rejected it.  They've rejected numerous appeals and provided alternative solutions that they would already know would be inadequate if they had simply reviewed the context I had already provided them. My quality of life is suffering, who knows if I'm actually suffering from progressively worsening neurodegenerative issues.  The stress levels from this ordeal is off the charts and I've put way more than  24  hours worth of phone + email time into this bullshit.  Any suggested next steps?   I would love to take legal steps to make them pay for their incompetence and failure to provide the service I pay them for via suing them, but I don't know if that's actually actionable... what I really want is to be treated and have them pay for said treatment as they should due to the fact that my particular treatment id # is covered as part of my plan.

Answer: I’m sorry you are going through this. You’ve gotten tangled up in some serious bureaucratic mess so I suggest writing to your Senators and Congressional Representative. I’ve had to do this with issues where I hit a brick wall (with my mortgage company and with the IRS) and they worked miracles. Constituent service is their job and, frankly, in an election year with healthcare such a hot button issue, I think you’d get some help quickly. It’s a cynical view, but you’re in a crisis so take help where you can find it. Good luck!


Title: is it ok to print random pictures of celebrities in concert or MVs and sell them?

Question:
Hi everyone

I am thinking to do business by selling celebrities pictures I found in the internet, and I may modify some of them

is it ok to do that, I am in a country in middle east and these celebrities from Asia, so I am thinking if its ok if I sell them to some shop that sells pictures?

Thanks

Answer: Can you steal someone else's work, print it, and sell it? No. That isn't how it works. You take your own pictures and sell them. Not steal other people's


Title: Do I have a case ?

Question:
Hello there ,

I wanna talk about a situation that happened to me an hour ago and see if I can sue those people!

So I walked in to a Ralph's store here in Southern California! I honestly wasn't specifically coming to Ralph's , but I was in the shopping plaza for a restaurant and found it closed so I was like okay let's see if Ralph's has my favorite Naan bread in stock yet!

I grabbed a shopping basket and started walking down the aisles to see if I needed anything! One of those was the alcohol aisle! I stopped for a minute looking at some Margrita mixes then continued walking! Never touched anything!

I ended up in the bread aisle and looked through the shelves but couldn't find what I wanted then I heard the lady paging that they'll close in 17 mins, so I decided to leave. I put away my shopping basket and walked out of the store and here where the drama begins!

While I'm walking out, I found the manager and a bunch of employees standing right outside the door holding their phone and recording me! ( I honestly didn't realize it until walked down the parking lot a dozen feet , then I heard them yelling "Why didn't you buy anything , huh ? Where is you friend ?!  "  I looked back at them and then looked behind me to see if they are talking to someone else, but there was noone. I responded " Are you talking to me?" They didn't respond and kept filming so I walked towards them and said " Guys, you have a problem with me ?" Then one of employees said " Oh we took your license plate number! Is that your friend over there who just drove away?" And I was like "what friend ? Are you guys crazy or something?  Why are you filming me?" And then silence again , I started walking away to my car and one of them said "Pathetic theif"!

I didn't look back I went in my car and started driving out the parking lot and  passed by them and they were still recording and one of them was giving me the middle finger , which I responded back the same!

Honestly my blood was boiling,  so I decided to do something about it! I called 911 and told them I was being recorded and cussed at and called a thief by Ralph's employees for nothing! I told them I'm turning back to the parking lot and I need someone to come to see  what the hell was going on! They were on their way already because those people have already called 911 on me! I guess she was happy because she didn't have to go look for me lol!

The cops came a minute or two later and two of them stayed with me and the other two went to talk to the employees. I asked them to let me face those people in their presence and they said they can't do that! While waiting , they kept telling me that stores are being ripped off those days bla bla bla, a few minutes later , their 2 partners came and told me oh sir It wasn't you! I think they confused you with someone who stole alcohol and thought it was you! You can leave now! I was like what the hell?! I know it wasn't me! I needed those people to be punished for falsely throwing accusation at me and recording me without my consent! And their response was" We can't do nothing about. But you can file a complaint with corporate if you want!!"

I told them I need to go talk to those people again they owe me an apology at least! So I go there and talk to the manager who was recording me all the time , and tell him I was shocked that he didn't even show any remorse or said sorry even once! All what he said was no , I wasn't filming you, I never said anything to you! I was like at least be a man about it and don't lie to my face! He went silent,  then an officer came and was like guys that's it nothing happened go your separate ways we don't anyone end up being in jail!!! And then the other guy left!

I don't know if I'm exaggerating by asking if this will qualify as a case or not! But I've never ever been called a thief in my life or been in such a situation! So I wanna get those people so bad and I know complaining to corporate won't do anything!

Any advice?!

Thanks for having the patience to read!
Topic:
Consumer Law

Answer: No. You were not arrested and there’s nothing illegal about recording a person in public. You don’t have any damages here and nothing to recover.


Title: Told that I have to appear on television to keep my job (Florida)

Question: So, I'm a college student and work part-time at a cleaning agency that cleans private homes. Really what happened is that my employer schmoozed a guy at a bar who works for the local daily news show on tv and they're doing a segment on how to choose a safe and reliable cleaning agency, but it's really a way for my boss to plug his business on tv. He informed me that they'll film me cleaning, but not a customer's home- the secretary's home for just this one time. I told him that under no circumstances do I want to be on television, and he said he has every right to require me to do this as part of my job. No way. He probably could fire me over this, but I thought I could ask you guys.  My backup plan is to just quit at the last minute right before filming to leave him inconvenienced ; I hate this $10 hour job and my boss even worse.  Edited to say that I was told I had to style my hair and wear make-up that day- Florida laws still side with employer on everything?!

Answer:
 You can be fired for not doing the duties assigned by your employer. Even when that duty is to appear in a commercial.

That may not seem totally fair in the circumstances but nothing in the statutes prohibits it. Answer #2: He's correct.  Your job is what he says it is, and if he says "go on TV" you either go on TV or quit/get fired.

> My backup plan is to just quit at the last minute right before filming to leave him inconvenience

That's a great way to ensure you get no unemployment at all.


Title: [USA, Pennsylvania]: Tutoring Student paid for services via paypal, now disputing charges, is this fraud?

Question:
Hi all,

I am a freelance tutor in the Philadelphia area, and tutored a student for many hours over the course of November and December. They usually paid in cash, but paid 3 times in December via paypal. It's over a month later, and they have just filed a dispute on ~$650 worth of tutoring sessions that occurred, and Paypal is saying they'll be taking out the money from my account if I don't contest it. I have reached out to the student to resolve it amicably in case it was a mistake, but also have prepared all our scheduling emails and texts messages regarding the sessions in question, and will be filing those as part of the dispute. Is this fraud and should I report it to my local police department? How can I protect myself in the event this person is simply trying to steal the money they paid me for services rendered? I was thinking that being able to cite a police report to paypal would be helpful, but I'm not sure if I am taking things too far. Help!

Thank you

Answer:
 Paypal always sides with the buyer, which is why so many people have stopped using it.  Answer #2: If PayPal does retract your funds after dispute you need to file suit to obtain payment.Answer #3: > Is this fraud and should I report it to my local police department?

The police won't care; they'll say it's a civil issue. Which it is. They'd probably take a statement if you insisted. I doubt it would help in any way in your paypal dispute.

> How can I protect myself in the event this person is simply trying to steal the money they paid me for services rendered?

You can sue them in small claims court if they win the paypal dispute.Answer #4: Hi, I deal with PayPal a lot.  I am also a Tutor (fairly close to you actually)

Tutoring services are not tangible.  PayPal seller protection only really works out for the seller with tangible items that can be tracked.

In simple terms, you're likely shit out of luck whether he's filing this under the fraud option or the goods not received/acceptable option.

Pro-tip: Only accept tutoring payments in cash, especially if you're working alone.  Man, why would you ever accept paypal for Tutoring?  That's a bad idea (for now obvious reasons)...


Title: Would it be illegal for me to purposely release massive amounts of an invasive species into the wilderness throughout my state, destroying the natural ecosystem over time ?

Question: [removed]

Answer: Do you imagine there's some way this *wouldn't* be illegal?Answer #2: What are you, some type of villain ?


Title: (NV) Lease says we would owe legal fee's in court action, but state law says they can not be required

Question: I am currently in a dispute with my previous landlord. They say we owe an amount that we beleive to be unreasonable in regards to the security deposit. It is likely this will end up to court. The amount that is in dispute is small enough that it would go only to the Nevada small claims court. Nevada law states that in small claims court lawyers fee's are not allowed to be requested from the losing party. However, our lease states that "The loser of any court action will be responsible for all incurred legal fees". Can our lease require us to pay legal fees, as described, or would the small claims court laws override the lease rules?

Answer:
 > Can our lease require us to pay legal fees, as described, or would the small claims court laws override the lease rules?

The small claims court rules only apply to actions in the court.  In other words, that rule says you can't ask for legal fees in small claims court.

It does *not* say that you can't contract out of court for fees.  They'd have to file a separate action to recover that.


Title: What happens if a jury finds someone 100% super clearly guilty, not guilty. And despite surmountable evidence still not guilty?

Question: What will happen in that scenario? The end? It's really that simple? Some random jurors have that much impact?

Answer: It’s called jury nullification and in the US yes, that’s the end. The only way it would be is if you could show the defendant had improperly coerced the jury.


Title: My mother-in-law (TX) has paid $10,000 dollars to have her debt consolidated, but only $2,000 has been taken care of and she is being taken to court by a credit card company to which she owes money.

Question:
This is all second-hand information from my wife to me. My mother-in-law, from what I have been told, has over $50,000 in credit card debt. In an effort to avoid bankruptcy she found a firm who was willing to consolidate her debt, and signed a contract stating she would pay them and they would take care of her debts and related legal troubles. She has paid them $10,000 so far, and in return they have taken care of $2000 dollars worth of debt.

Two weeks ago one of her credit cards threatened legal action. She sent the info to the firm, and they said they would take care of it. This morning my mother-in-law got an official summons from the credit card company. When my wife heard this, she looked the firm up on Google and found most of the reviews called the firm a scam.

Is there anything legally my mother-in-law can do against the debt consolidation firm? And should she declare bankruptcy? She has very little money and went bankrupt once before.

Answer:
 This will all come down to the contract she signed and what their responsibilities are.

It might be worth it to bring her contract and all financials records to a bankruptcy attorney to see what they recommend. $50k cc debt and "very little money" doesn't look good.


Title: Seller did not disclose previous flooding, back room flooded and we did not have flood insurance. (Las Vegas, NV) (Update 2)

Question:
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3he5k6/seller_did_not_disclose_previous_flooding_back/)

[Update](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3id5xc/seller_did_not_disclose_previous_flooding_back/)

We finally got all the numbers back, and submitted them to the seller via our agent. The number is quite high, a lot of which is because the quote includes preventing future damage as well as repairing the damage from the flood. I don't think this is unreasonable, as he presented the house to be in a certain condition (he stated there's never been a flooding issue,) and since we can't prevent water from falling from the sky, we need to fix the house and surrounding wall so that flooding is less of a risk.

He has not responded thus far, with the exception that a legal firm contacted his agent to let them know that while they are not representing him currently, they had looked over some paperwork for him and may be representing him in the future should anything be filed.

I have access to an employee assistance program through my work, so I have contacted them for a reference for legal assistance regarding this matter, but I won't be hearing from them for a few days.

I want to make sure I have all my ducks in a row since I only get 30 minutes with the lawyer before they start charging, and I'd rather not waste that time asking them simple questions.

I have quotes from general contractors, bills from the restoration company, photos of the damage, photos of previous flooding in the yard (from our neighbors) and I can probably get written statements from the neighbors stating the previous owner knew that there was a high potential for flooding in the home.

We are hoping to just do arbitration/mediation for this matter. Based on some info from the lawyer at our agent's office, we know we can sue for 3x the amount of damages, but we're not looking for a payday. We just want to get this issue fixed as soon as possible as we have an entire room that is completely non-usable since a couple weeks after we bought our home.

What questions should we ask, what else should we bring, what shouldn't we bring?
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 Personally, I think your biggest barrier is proving the homeowner had actual knowledge of flooding.

Your pictures are only from the outside of the house, they don't provide evidence that water entered the house.  I don't believe he would have to disclose a yard that floods, just the house.

Without a contractor who worked on the house etc..., he is going to claim water never entered the house while he lived there.


Title: (CA) Landlord threatening actions that I am fairly sure are illegal.

Question:
There are six things to break down here, so I will list them by what is legal and what I’m pretty sure is not. I am moving out on Dec. 30 (tomorrow) since they want the keys and I do not feel like driving 3 hours two days in a row. My 30 day notice would put the move out date on Dec. 31st.

What I’m sure is legal.

1. We owe 1125 in rent for this month and have to pay.

2. We gave a 30 day notice on the 1st to move out and they accepted it, so they want the keys. However, it seems like they want the keys before the scheduled move out date.

3. They will use the security deposit for any cleaning or repairs.

What I’m pretty sure is illegal:

1. They issued a 3 day pay or quit for December’s rent, even though it is due Jan. 2

2. They went into the apartment to do a walk through without a 24 hour notice and neither me or my wife was home. There was no emergency situation happening.

3. They are claiming that the apartment is unrentable and that we will have to continue to pay rent until the cleaning and repairs are done. I was told it is the owners discretion as to when the apartment would be “rentable.” This would have me paying rent after I have already moved out.

As far as I know, this should be as simple as paying December rent, giving them the keys, and letting them use the security deposit for any cleaning/repairs. I believe I shouldn’t be worried about eviction, as I will be paying before the 3 days (I could also just choose the quit option and let them use the deposit for the rent, but I won’t be doing that). Also, they cannot charge me rent while they prepare the apartment for the next tenants after the move out date, correct?

Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: Are you positive December rent is due in January?  I have never heard of this in my life.


Title: Indiana landlord sent an independent contractor into my friends house when no one was home without notification. We come back to finish moving 1,000 worth of sentimental stuff is gone Please help

Question:
I read through the landlordtenat faq and couldnt get the answers i need. What was stolen:
 1. A signed Jersey autographed to my friend. 400-800$
2. A 22. Rifle from his grandfather that was handed down for generations. 80-100$
3. A surround system inherited to him after his other grandfather died 100$
4. 5-10 dvds (no big loss)
5. Some half bottles of liquor (no big loss)

We found out when My friend showed up at his place the 27th 4:00.  He also found a notice of failure to deliver a summons dated the 18th not in a letter, just a paper in the mailbox. We didnt come the 26th because we'd been moving all week. My friend owed last month of his leases rent which was due the 1st, He just got a new job and offered to pay her over text message and when she called (16th or 17th) he said he'd pay on the 30th including the $100 late fee (which he did), and she agreed. He had already had the final walkthrough scheduled for the 30th with a representive through text message.

He called her on the phone once he saw his missing stuff and she said she told "em" not to take anything. My friend asked her to talk to her contractor about it and try to get it back. My friend asked why she didn't contact him and she said it was abandoned. When he said no... no it wasn't she said he had fallen out of contact. (He replied to every text message which was the main source of contact and how she verifies payment) then went on to say that 99% of times someone hasn't paid last months rent they abandon and trash the place. She said the place was a pig sty and she was suing him over rent and damages, when he said it was messy because we had just moved two years worth of furniture and that once again she'd have her money on the 30th. She said it was fine that he would just have to pay court cost.

After i get there he calls her again later that day and she says the contractor said the back door was open and that My friend had left something unlocked. I was there when we left. He had been robbed a year earlier so we did an idiot check before we left and went into each room, made sure everything was locked doors and Windows and garage. I know it's just our word against hers, but there is a 0% chance we left anything unlocked.

We txt for the information of the contractor she sends us a message with a 1st name and a phone number.

We didn't record any of the previous conversation over phone so we have no proof about this besides the part that were noted as text messages.

We then call and record our conversation with the contractor lets reffer to him as Mr. J
Mr. J doesn't at first admit to working in the house yet, when we tell him she said he'd been in he admits he'd done a walk through to place a bid.  Mr. J said he went in and took pictures then backtracked and said he'd just walked through. When asked if he took anything Mr. J said hed taken out a bag of trash. When asked if he saw the jersey he paused and said the back door was wide open. When asked if the landlord had told him it was abandoned he said he couldn't remember. Mr. J said he wasn't given a key and that she (the landlord) wasn't with him. That he'd been given the door handle to switch and that everything was unlocked.

The door handle wasn't switched my friend opened it with his key on the 27th.

The 30th my friend got his court eviction/summons, It had been filed the 25th. He is due In court the 7th, not leaving us enough time to file a counter suit. It has to arrive to her 7 days before trial.

We have it all cleaned up when her representive comes at 6:00 p.m. The rep was sent to do her first walkthrough by herself but she wasn't sure how to do it so they wanted to do another one with an additional rep. They tried to schedule the second walkthrough for when he wasn't home but he refused. We really wanted to be there. Part of the lease is that he doesnt get his damage deposit back regardless. The second rep comes around 8:30. We record the encounter for posterity.

We'll call the second rep ms. M.
When asked what criteria must be met to declare a place abandoned, she said in the lease it
It says the tenants must be gone for 5 days. Ms. M says the landlord definatly knew the walkthrough was scheduled for the 30th. Ms.M said she didn't know anything about Mr. J's walkthrough or that it had even happened. Ms. M said the landlord told her they needed to drive by and see if my friend was gone, Ms. M said she replied "they have a walkthrough scheduled for the 30th why would he be gone?"
She said she didn't know anything about the "loose" failure to serve  paper found in the mailbox the 27th. She said she's have a copy of the lease by Wednesday(today).

We are going to the landlord's office today and picking up the lease copy and dropping off his second key. We plan on recording both encounters. My friend is poor and can't afford court cost, not to mention a lawyer. He's so stressed he's sheding hair. We may go to the sheriff and ask if he delivered the failure to deliver summons letter dated the 18th because it looks like it's something that was given to the land lord. Neither of us can afford legal assistance but no matter what we'll find a way to raise the money to file the suite. We'd of normally just moved on, mistakes happen, but after asking around its apparent the landlord is notorious for this type of stuff (two cops and multiple people told us) Always targeted at people who don't have the means to defend themselves in court, I am incredibly outraged and distraught that she has made it this long by bullying people who don't have the money or time to defend themselves. It's usually cheaper to eat a few hundred dollar loss then spending 1000 bucks on an attorney. None of our local legal assistance programs will be taking hours till after his court date which is why we could really use some help.

Did she violate the lease or state laws by failing to notify of a contractor walkthrough? Did him being that late on rent forfeit his right to notification of a walkthrough? Would a sheriff deliver a loose failure to deliver summons letter in his mailbox? Do we have any legal options? Are there any questions we should ask the landlord? Do we have to tell her we are recording if we are talking to her in her office or over the phone? We can desperately use all the advice you can give.

Sorry if grammar is off or unclear, it's been awhile since I slept. Thank you

Answer: Either way that's felony burglary most likely. And the case should be investigated by the police as such.


Title: My friend (19) got his girlfriend (17) pregnant.

Question: We are in Texas. Her mom threatened to beat his ass and she threatened to take all the money he has. What all could she do?

Answer: Nothing. Legal consent is 17 in Texas. Unless the baby mama is reporting rape there is nothing the mother can do.


Title: Is it illegal to publicly open a can of beer and pour it into a non-transparent water bottle?

Question:
I go to college in Chicago, IL and sometimes I like to sneak a beer into my night class by using an insulated, non-transparent water bottle. I usually have to resort to going into a secluded bathroom to discreetly pour my beer into my water bottle and avoid suspicion.

What if I just poured it into my water bottle right as I left the store, on the sidewalk? Is there anything illegal about doing that?

Answer:
 Alright, I'm just gonna say it. as a former alcoholic - that is alcoholic behavior. Chill out.

Generally, you can't consume alcohol where it is not usually permitted. Answer #2: Just a bit of life advice, this sort of thing is how I slippery-sloped myself into habitually driving drunk for about six months of my life.  I have no idea how I didn't kill anyone.

Stealth drinking alone is not a healthy pattern of behavior, OP.


Title: Can I get sued for hitting someone else's car even though she left with no scratches (on both her and the car?)

Question: Sorry for the long post, but I need some serious help here. Last weekend I had a project to do. It had to be done on Saturday (2/21/15) because it was due on Monday (2/23/15) and long story short, if I didn't get it done by 5:00 on Saturday, I wouldn't be able to pass that class and I wouldn't be able to graduate. (This teacher was strict on due dates, I even asked for an extra day.) Now, I know it sounds like I'm a procrastrinator, but all last week I had work and had to prepare for a valentine's day ball (I play lead sax in a jazz band and couldn't miss out). I had work that saturday and all day sunday. The reason it had to be done on that day was because it was the only day me and my 2 other partners all had the same day off at work. So I get in my car, and pick up my friend and we're off to go film our video for the project. On my way there I rear-ended a lady in an SUV twice as large as my jeep. I got out of my car and offered help and asked to see if she was injured. She only pushed me and spewed profanities. Her car had absolutely no damage whatsoever and she was walking around like no problem. There were no bruises or blood on her at all, she was walking around just fine. When I first hit her she wasn't claiming she was hurt or that she had any pains, but later started faking a limp. When the paramedics (and what I assume was her husband) arrived, I tried asking to see if she was okay. The paramedics wouldn't tell me of her condition because of a "hepa" violation. Fair enough I said. After the police officer (who ticketed me with a 2-point/$180 ticket for following too closely) had left along with the paramedics, her husband kept saying he was gonna sue me. When I told him there's no reason to sue ("I'm a poor high school student struggling with a minimum wage job trying to graduate. If my parents find out, they're kicking me out" You don't have to do this. Your wife is just fine and your car has no damage at all") He said he was suing for "Pain and Suffering" because she had no immediate, physical or noticeable pain. (I'm also about 90% sure she was faking). So after the left, my buddy's dad said "don't worry about it, people lie all the time about getting hurt in rear ends just to get free money. if she tries to sue, she won't get very far because her car isn't damaged and she looks just fine. Accidents happen" The paramedics also told me something similar ("Accidents happen" "If she tries to sue, she won't get very far" etc) I could use some serious help/advice here. I also have photo evidence of her car to show it's undamaged but I'd rather not post it publicly. Thanks in advance!

Answer:
 Holy extra information, Batman.

Here's the deal.  You were following too closely and you hit someone.  You're not their doctor, you don't know if she's faking it or not.  People get injured all the time with no visible damage to the vehicle. It also takes time for injuries to show up, especially soft tissue injuries.  (think whiplash).

The fact of the matter is that, yes, she can sue you.  And, yes, she can win.  But that's ok, because that's why you pay insurance.  As soon as you receive something in the mail saying you're being sued, you're going to call your insurance company, give them the information, and it'll be in their hands.  That's what you pay them for.

People get in accidents. It happens.  Don't worry about being sued, just stop following so close and pay better attention.


Title: Euthanasia in TX

Question: My STBXW had a counseling session recently where she may have admitted to helping her mother to pass peacefully by administering a lethal dose of morphine. This was over a year ago, her mother had stage 4 cancer and was all but gone. Organ failure was imminent and she had been under hospice care for months. The hospice nurse specifically told my STBXW that "there is no such thing as too much morphine at this point ". The counselor apparently consulted a superior, and then sent her an email saying he was dropping her as a patient, and they were reporting her as "a danger to herself or others". Her mother had a DNR order in place. Does my STBXW have anything to worry about?

Answer: It is unlikely any police agency is going to be interested in this. If she is contacted by the police she should just not talk to them. She should probably stop telling people though.Answer #2: Sounds like your wife got lucky to the extent she found out early her therapist was pretty awful. Unless there's more to the story, helping your parents die peacefully is not a "danger to yourself or others."Answer #3: I'm curious about this too. I've heard that my grandpa (who was actively dying, best way I can describe it) was given a bunch of morphine by hospice in his home. Same thing with my friends aunt in same situation. I have no problem with this at all (it helps end their suffering quicker, takes away some pain), but is it legal?Answer #4: whats an STBXW?


Title: Yesterday, the police busted into my home without a warrant and broke up a party. I believe this was unlawful. What can I do?

Question:
Yesterday we were hosting a party for Halloween and the police busted into my home without announcing anything or even having a warrant. I was posted to answer the door (we have two doors, a door in the front and then a door to the upstairs). I was at the upstairs one. There were no unusual circumstances as everyone was inside and they couldn't see anything. Regardless, they opened the first door and immediately shut the light off, scaring me from my post to behind the second door. They then forced entry through the second door. They scattered everyone around the neighborhood and arrested my girlfriend's brother. I believe this was negligible and unnecessary, as they shouldn't just bust in for a noise complaint and I would have handled them at the door if they hadn't just barged in and killed the lights. What can I do?

Location: Buffalo, NY, USA

Answer:
 You can file a complaint on your own or meet with an attorney who can go over all the facts. I suspect the police will be able to articulate a reason they came in. Were minors drinking or were any illegal drugs present? Answer #2: > What can I do?

1) Don't have parties that disturb others.

2) Post your location so someone can actually reply with something helpful.

EDIT: I see you've posted your location now. Unless the cops searched the house and seized evidence, you likely have no real recourse for this. What exactly are you hoping for here?Answer #3: What did your girlfriend's brother get arrested for if there was no underage drinking, drugs, or loud music?


Title: Girlfriend got arrested in TX, for charges in CO. Found out that I (also in TX), have the same charges, and I don't know what to do.

Question:
First time posting, on mobile, sorry for formatting.

So, my girlfriend went to get her driver's license here in TX, only to be arrested on an outstanding warrant in Colorado. Warrant is for supplying false information to a pawnbroker.

Upon finding this out, I learned that I also have charges.

I have no idea what to do, or how to go about doing it..

Answer:
 "False information to a pawnbroker" is a real felony charge.  Find a lawyer, ASAP.  The internet/Reddit probably won't be much use to you or your GF in this case.

This link is just an example of a law office in CO which makes mention of your predicament... it is not a suggestion to engage with this particular office:
[https://www.omalleylawoffice.com/Fraud-Forgery/False-Information-to-a-Pawn-Broker.shtml](https://www.omalleylawoffice.com/Fraud-Forgery/False-Information-to-a-Pawn-Broker.shtml)

If you believe you both ever visited a pawn shop in CO, you both better think REAL hard about what you said/wrote/did/sold while you were there.  This charge is usually pressed when someone pawns something that doesn't belong to them, since the sale requires the seller to state (in writing) that they own the property being pawned.  This charge can also be pressed when the seller uses a false identity or tries to conceal/falsify information about the property being pawned (serial number removed/altered, counterfeit goods, etc).Answer #2: You probably want to contact a criminal defense attorney in CO to deal with those charges. And by deal I mean: discuss your options with you ass to what is the best course of action, which could mean turning yourself in but also something completely different.


Title: [Texas] Common law married without my knowledge? Trying to avoid a formal divorce

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You're not common-law married.  [Link.](http://statelaws.findlaw.com/texas-law/common-law-marriage-in-texas.html)

Who is "they" who say she needs to provide divorce papers?  She should tell "them" that in Texas the law is that you are not common-law married.

You can fix the tax returns with a retroactive re-filing of your taxes separately.  Use form 1040X to get started.


Title: Called for jury duty but won't be instate

Question: I've been called for jury duty but I won't be in the state at that time, I will be living long\-term (but not officially a resident of) in another state. Is this a valid excuse for getting out of jury duty?

Answer: Yes. Just write this reason on the form and send it back.


Title: Fitbit wants me to return their defective products. Do I have to?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You violated the warranty when you gave them to your friends instead of recycling them.  I am sure they are aware, since fitbits have serial numbers and sync with an app.  Perhaps they have an internal policy to allow some of this to occur, but you have done it too many times.

I doubt they will come after you legally, but the free fitbit gravy train is over.


Title: [Canada][ON] My neighbour built a condo on his property and destroyed my fence in the process. I want him to replace it.

Question:
Between 2008-2009 a property developer built a condo on the property adjacent to mine. The construction caused my fence to bulge inward. Fast forward to today and I finally have the time, resources, and inclination to replace the fence. Moreover one of his tenants has a pitbull who has broken through the fence a couple of times. Luckily the dog has a good temperament, but this is still a serious safety concern for me.

I talked to the neighbours on the other sides of my property and they are totally on board with paying for half the cost of the fence on their side. However, when I emailed the owner of the condo to see if he would be willing to cover half of the cost of the fence--that his crew damaged--he basically told me to go fuck myself.

So I want to take him to small claims court to get him to pay for the full cost of replacing the fence, but I'd be willing to settle on 50% of the cost.

I have photographs of the damage, but unfortunately, I never took before-photos. The fence on the other sides of the property is the same age, but un-damaged. Along with photos of the damage, the only other evidence I have are three people who witnessed the gradual destruction of the fence over the course of the construction.

Do I have a strong case against him? How can I strengthen my case? Should I proceed? If not, why not? Are there any tips and tricks I should know before kicking off the whole procedure?

Answer:
 You do not have a strong case, because you waited WAY too long. The limitation period to sue the developer has passed.  In Ontario, you have only two years from the date you knew (or ought to have known) your fence was damaged to sue.  As a result, the court would dismiss any suit you bring.

See a layman explanation of the Limitation Act here: http://www.omh.ca/articles/know-your-limitations-a-brief-overview-of-limitation-periods-in-ontario.html


Title: Family is asking for a favor and an am unsure of what to do(cross post from r/personalfinance)

Question:
Hey LA, Long time lurker first time caller.
Recently ran into a situation, where I could use some advice. A close family member tried to get a loan modification on their home, and were advised to cease making their mortgage payments in the interim, the modification fell through, but now they have been served a notification of foreclosure. Their account advised them to have someone they trust to buy their home (short sale) so that they can keep their house. They would pay the down payment, and they would pay their mortgage after all was said and done. They have asked a few people in our family, who couldn't for several reasons.
They have now asked me.
My question is does this sound right? Is there nothing else that they can do? Would you fine folks at PF do or consider doing this for someone?
Background info on me: 27, freshly married, not a ton of savings(enough to survive for a few months) and credit in the 500s that I'm actively working to repair(hence not a huge savings account). I make a decent salary in an expensive city.
They are now telling me that they did not make a payment for 3 years while the loan modification was in process. Does this sound right?

EDIT**: this is all happening in New York State

Edit 2: I've said no

Answer:
 They didn't make a loan payment for 3 years, and now they want to get into a complicated financial arrangement with you?

Tell them one word; "No".


Title: Employer wants me to shave my body hair.

Question:
Vancouver, BC

This is a bit of a hypothetical and a bit of a real life situation that happened a while back. I've just discovered this sub and thought you guys might get a kick out of this. I'm a guy, 19 at the time.

10+ years ago, I worked for a rather small, family owned lumber yard. Our manager was an older, big, not so attractive woman who definitely crossed the sexual harassment line a few time. I don't have a lot of body hair, you can't see it on my forearms but you can on my legs. When I started there, I had my legs shaved because of bike riding. During the fall/winter, I didn't but I wore pants. Next spring, I began to wear shorts and but I didn't shave my legs. She began to make comments and on a few occasions, said directly that if I wanted to wear shorts, I have to get rid of my leg hair. Other people had leg hair. Not that I could, but I was also not allowed to have facial hair. This was strictly a policy for me. An older worker had a full, unkept beard and one guy had a moustache.

Sounds fucken creepy, right? Yeah. I left shortly after this. Funny story, I was still friends with a few people and apparently she asked the guy after me if he ever shaved his legs and he was totally caught off guard. I had to explain to him that it was for riding to which he had a pretty good laugh.

In retrospect, I understand there was some sexual harassment but we didn't have an HR. What should I have done in that situation?

Secondly, can an employer have different grooming policies for different employees?

Thirdly, although it never got to that point, could she fire me because I didn't shave? Would I be able to sue for wrongful dismissal?

Thanks in advance

Answer:
 Making you shave while others didn't have to would fall under discrimination.

I wrote mountain bike's every weekend for years and never heard of shaving your legs. Can you explain me why you did it?


Title: Help. Ex withholding medical information of our kids and causing other issues. Kids are M(11) and F(9)

Question: (Pennsylvania) As of now my ex(F31) and I(M33) have shared custody thru a verbal agreement  until court in January. She is very high conflict and I’m having trouble figuring out how to handle some things related to our 2 kids medical care. We agreed they needed therapy due to the separation. I made an appointment, let her know the date, time place, etc. Day of the appointment she wants to reschedule an hour before because she wants to use this other doctor at the same office. I suggested we go thru with the appointment and give it a chance first. She came to the appointment and caused a scene in the waiting room and tried to cancel it right there but they asked her to give it a chance as well. She screamed and insulted me the entire time. Any time the kids said they felt some any kind of way, she called them liars and insisted she knows everything about “her children” . About a week later, she calls the office and accused them of being unprofessional and lied and said I  gave MY CONSENT to change counselors even tho the kids liked the woman they spoke with and I thought she was fair and professional. Due to all the conflict the office has refused to see the kids there again. Now she’s insisting our daughter has ADHD. She made her an appointment. The date fell on my parenting time so I asked her the location of the office. She said she would be taking our daughter and that she would come to my house to get her and I would have to follow them to the appointment if I wanted to go. I told her I think we should just meet at the location since there is no reason to follow her there especially because she wants to argue and our daughter didn’t need that before this appointment. Since I didn’t comply she cancelled the appointment and made it for when our daughter is with her but still won’t give me the location or name of the doctor. I emailed my lawyer but I guess I just need some outside input on how to handle this mess.

Answer:
 You need to talk to you lawyer and get a court order in place as soon as possible. Jan is too long to keep dealing with the crazy on just a verbal agreement.Answer #2: Make sure you document all these encounters scrupulously. Get copies of emails, voicemail, text messages, and the rest. Make a calendar entry for every time your parenting time is cut short because of your ex. Store these on the cloud just to keep copies.

Make sure to inform your lawyer of the shenanigans she is pulling.


Title: How do I go about dropping a No Contact Order that I asked for?

Question:
Hello. US, Indiana here.

My ex boyfriend got physically aggressive with me a couple of nights ago. He had been drinking and left marks on me trying to throw me out of the house. After he was arrested, the cop asked me if I would like a no contact order. I wanted him gone for a while to sober up and think. Note this is a first time thing.

My question is, since I feel it is not necessary anymore for it, how do I go about getting it dropped? I've researched as much as I could but could only find a guide of what to do if the court and not yourself placed the order.

Thank you for any and all help!

Answer:
 The other answer covered your legal question.

But think hard before dropping that order.  If he did it once there's a high likelihood he'll do it again.  Consider taking this opportunity to figure out a plan to move out and end the unsafe relationship.   If you're unsure, call a domestic violence hotline and talk to them.   No matter how sorry he says he is, most of the time the first time is just that - the first of many.  It's easier to hold the line now than to break away when you've gone through this cycle repeatedly with him.


Title: [Missouri] Is it legal to withhold my Christmas bonus because I was put on workman's comp two days before they were handed out?

Question:
Hello! My name is Matthew and my mom has a situation that she would like to know if it is legal or not.

My mom was recently put on workman's comp after having her rotator cuff torn. When she went to pick up her bonus today, she was told that she would not be receiving one because she is on workman's comp.

No mention of this is in the policy book. In fact, they typed a paragraph in Word while she waited and handed it to her as proof of policy.

The bonus is $25 per month of employment. She has worked for there for 32 months, so I'm sure you understand how significant a loss this was for her.

I appreciate any advice, or knowledge you might be able to share with us. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

Answer: Unless the bonus is also in the handbook, or in her employment terms somewhere, the company likely isn't required to pay anyone a bonus for any reason, and can withhold it for any reason.


Title: Are police officers allowed to pull me over in a different city than the ones they are originally from?

Question: My friend (really my friend, not me) was pulled over for speeding. He's on the verge of losing his license and this is probably the nail in his coffin for speeding. However we noticed the officer was from the neighboring town. So basically the question is, can the ticket be thrown out because of this? sorry if this has been asked before, if anyone has a link to a thread about this, i'd really appreciate the help. thanks guys.

Answer:
 Officers can enforce state laws outside their jurisdiction. They cannot enforce another jurisdiction's local laws, nor can they enforce their own jurisdiction's laws in a different jurisdiction, *unless* you originally made the violation within their jurisdiction and they didn't get you pulled over until after you had left it.

Speeding tickets are usually state violations.


Title: [CA] My apartment complex has been a nightmare to live in and I want out. Is what they have been doing legal? Is what I am about to do legal?

Question:
**Backstory**

I live in Los Angeles County. I am renting from Greystar, a huge property management company. I'd like to know if I have a case against them and what I am about to do is legal. I have been trying to transfer/break my lease. I live in a building with a large number of apartments (~500-1000 residents). The leasing office has high turnover, the same people that worked in the office when I moved in are all gone within the span of months.

**Details**

I moved in June of this year, everything was snappy and moved along quickly. I was approved within a day for my apartment and the staff was quick to respond. Living here, I have noticed many things wrong with the apartment/complex itself and I want out. It's spelled out in the lease that I would have to pay about $10K to move out after all the fees involved. No thanks, so asking the leasing office about my options, they informed me that I could transfer my lease. While there was no explicit mechanism to do so, they suggested that I find someone, add them to my lease as a roommate, make them the primary person, then remove myself. I found some qualified candidates and did a little bit of preliminary screening myself. Unfortunately, the process wasn't as simple as getting the prospect to fill out an application, I'd have to involve the leasing office and I could only have one person apply at a time. They took so long to process each prospect's application that one of the parties would usually drop out since they found something else. They took over 2 weeks to process each application as opposed to the less than one day it took to process my application. This is an extremely stressfull process as at the same time, I would be finding another apartment so the stars would have to align since I didn't want to have two leases in my name (Wanted to find someone to take over my lease before officially signing a new one). On my third try, the assistant manager informed me that only three tries to add someone would be allowed despite this "rule" not being explained, shown anywhere or in the lease. They would simply stop helping me. Every time I walk by the leasing office I see the associates idle twidling their thumbs. When I asked why the last two were denied, they said the procured "fake documents", and when I asked them how they determined this, they said it could have been typed in Microsoft Word. I feel that the fact that the documents were produced in Microsoft Word would not be a valid reason to classify the documents as fake and deny someone since small companies could use this program as well. I have been trying to set a meeting with the property manager with no response for the past couple days. Now, I feel in bit of a bind because they are essentially barring me from not doing a "lease transfer" by not willing to work with me anymore. I don't like the feeling of being stuck so I plan to inform prospective residents of the complex know my experience and my annoyances with the property as they approach the leasing office or I see them getting a tour of the property. It's technically private property but I am a legal resident of the complex so I don't see how what I am proposing to do is illegal. I don't plan to have any threatening or false claims, just pure facts of how shady Greystar/my experience has been. Can they evict me for this/have me arrested? From my reading, any retalialitory practices are a violation of the Fair Housing Acts.

**Questions**

* Can I handout flyers detailing my experiences with the property to prospective renters when I see them touring around the property? Any verbiage to avoid in the flyers? My underlying point is to inform future prospects about the greivances I have encountered. I want to be such a legal hinderance to the leasing office that they would prefer to see me not live there since I am hurting their quotas, but while still respecting the law.

* Can they legally use a third party billing service for rent which automatically includes a fee as part of the bill each month? There is no option to pay the rent by itself with just a check, direct deposit or ACH. Their use of this service wasn't relayed to me before I signed my lease or detailed in the lease documents.

* Can they legally not allow me to add someone/take myself off my lease? They claim that I had three tries (as my third attempt got denied!) and that I wouldn't be able to do it anymore. I would have to wait out the remainder of my lease or pay the ~$10K fee.

* Can they legally change the apartment transfer fee (if I wanted to move to another unit within the same complex) from $1000 to $1500 without notifying residents?

**Property Annoyances / Slightly Questionable Behavior**

* Charged fees that weren't disclosed to us, having to use third party services that charge fees (package lockers, 3rd party billing fees, etc.)
* Management is slow to respond once you have signed your lease
* I have been passed around between multiple people in the leasing office. The same people are never there.
* 3 times rent to break your lease (almost $10K+)
* Fire alarms constantly being tested despite being informed that it is an "annual test".
* Raise fees without notifying residents
* Amenities are constantly broken. I have been trying to get some fireplaces fixed for several months without any progress.
* Sunlight only hits pool before 3PM
* Policies are not relayed to residents until an issue arises
* High turnover of leasing staff
* $150 lockout fee even if you leave your key in your unit. The keys are electronic and one-time access fobs are easy to generate.

Answer: Sunlight only hits pool before 3PM. Now that's a first world problem for sure.


Title: Geek squad like side business

Question:
Hi, sorry if this is in the wrong place or breaking any rules. I’ve tried googling but can’t get a specific answer.

I currently do tech support in a retirement city and constantly get calls from older people having trouble connecting devices, using computers, trouble with smart TVs, etc.

It’s hard to help them over the phone and most of it my company doesn’t like us troubleshooting because it’s not our equipment. I’ve been thinking about starting a side business where I go to their house and help them with their stuff and charge a small price. I figure it would be a good side hustle and I can help some of these older folk who really struggle with this stuff.

My questions are what are the legalities of this and is something I need some sort of permit for or license. Also say I install chrome or something on someone’s computer and then a week later they blame me because their computer crashes. Can I be sued? I’m really bad at all this but I’d really like to do it. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

Answer:
 You’ll be acting a sole proprietor, and the income would be subject to self employment taxes. You may want to register a DBA to change your business name. It’s probably unnecessary at this stage to establish an LLC, because while your clients certainly *could* sue you, IT is a relatively low risk business as far as damages are concerned, unless you cause an electrical surge and fry some expensive electronics.

However, it sounds like your main job is at least peripherally related; so if you advertise while on the clock, your boss may take offense and fire you, which wouldn’t be an unlawful termination.


Title: Company behind the locked bank account of my previous homes deposit won't return the money because my signature apparently doesn't match the signature I used when I moved in.

Question: I've already proven I am the one who signed it by sending a copy of my ID. Is there anything I can do or is it legal for them to withhold the money? Thanks!

Answer: Send a letter certified mail stating that you are the person who made the deposit. Have it notarized.Answer #2: What state


Title: Large public university charged me a premium for a handicapped accessible room, then changed their policy and charged me the same as a normal room. Am I entitled to backpay?

Question:
I am a student living independently with a pretty severe physical disability going to a state flagship university. Even though I am proud to be able to live on my own, my condition requires that I use an accessible bathroom in order to complete my activities of daily life. The way the dorm room are structured is such that all the accessible rooms are baths that are shared with only one roommate. Thus, the university charges about $500 more per semester to live in these rooms. I always thought this was weird because my parents said that hotels never charged us for accessible rooms when we went out of town. I tried fighting it but nothing got accomplished.

Then two years later I got an email saying that legal codes had been changed and now I would be charged the rate for a regular room even though it was an upgraded room. I again suspected that this was the rule forever and that someone more powerful than I am lobbied for the rule change. I requested my $2000 dollars back that I paid to be retroactively disbursed to me and I was told no, but was not given any concrete proof as to why I was not entitled to these funds.

I want to believe that the school is going to do right by me and follow the rules in place at actual businesses far before 2016. If someone can point me in the direction that tells me one way or another whether I am entitled to the money I would really appreciate it!

Edit: I am in Tallahassee, Florida

Answer:
 First of all, laws are often complex and contextual. Just because one type of business (such as a hotel) has one requirement doesn't mean that a different type of organization (public school housing) has the same requirement, nor that a third (a residential condo) does either. They may, they may not. But you cannot assume the analogue.

> but was not given any concrete proof as to why I was not entitled to these funds.

If it was a legitimate charge, then there's nothing for them to prove. Can't prove a negative.

Typically when a law or rule changes, there is nothing that happens retroactively like you're describing. If you paid for parking in a parking lot last year, and this year it's become a free parking lot, you don't get a refund for what you paid last year.

If charging you what they did was a violation of any law, such as the ADA, then you very well might have a case for a refund--because they did something wrong and that refund would be making it right. But you'd have to demonstrate that they did something wrong. The fact that they have eliminated this charge because the laws changed suggests that the laws allowed for this charge in the first place, but you'll have to do some more digging to make sure (or /u/iworkinheid might be able to help). Edit: Writing is hard.


Title: Mother abandoned children to oldest sibling

Question:
I’m going to be vague here as to not risk the anonymity. The mother of a very close friend of mine abandoned and left her 3 kids to the oldest sibling(adult). The mother received a  very large amount of money  from an insurance claim and just left with the money, leaving the 4 in an apartment figuring out how to get food and pay the rent. This is not the first time she does this. Apparently it’s very frequent and she comes back after a few weeks or sometimes months after she runs out of whatever money she somehow came across. She is not missing or lost. Is there any action that can be taken legally in this case? They should not be risking eviction and figuring out how to stay fed while the mother is now rich.

Edit: location: Washington State
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Cps should be called asap


Title: Happening right now: how long do i have to wait for medical appointment time before i can leave and not get charged for missed appointment?

Question: It'll be an hour in 2 minutes. I'm ready to bail but don't want bullshit missed appointment fee

Answer: Have you asked the employee at the check-in desk?Answer #2: If you want your doctor's office to continue doing business with you, the answer is "go check in at the desk again and ask whether you can reschedule because you can no longer wait." If they charge you a missed appointment fee at this point, whether it would be _legally_ enforceable is a bit of an open question, but they can absolutely refuse to see you until you pay it.


Title: [Upstate NY] Landlord giving 11 days to sign new lease or vacate, New lease terms is a $40 increase.

Question: Hey, so I live in an apartment complex in upstate NY and my lease renewal was posted on my door saying that my lease ends on the 30th and that if I want to renew the new rate is $40 higher than what I'm currently paying. I always thought that there had to be a longer notice period if there was going to be an increase in rent. Can anyone help with some advice and/or what the law is in Upstate NY? (All my searching only shows NYC related issues)

Answer:
 technically he must give you 30 days notice to change the terms, however he can give you 10 days notice that if you don't renew for a higher rent that you will get a 30 day termination on 6/30 effective 7/31

your only leverage with the short notice is you could insist on paying july at the old rate then leave.


Title: Friend still paying alimony, what recourse does he have?

Question:
I have a friend who was married and had two kids with his wife. After a few years they got a divorce and he assumed she would be civil and just used her lawyer that she hired for the divorce proceedings. They had a house wish she got and he is still paying the loans on. They both worked full time and she made significantly more money, but he is paying alimony, and she is still working full time. She has majority custody and he pays child support. Now she is getting remarried. Does he have any sort of action he can take so he can terminate the spousal support?

Also, she is forcing him to help pay for daycare costs on top of the child support. Is that even legal?

Edit. He lives in Iowa

Answer:
 With all do respect to your friend, he was a complete and 100% utter fool to agree to any of this.

His only recourse is to go and hire a divorce lawyer to try to get as many terms as possible changed.Answer #2: > assumed she would be civil and just used her lawyer that she hired for the divorce proceedings

Really.....Maybe he should get his own freaking attorney, since everything that's happened, if your narrative is true, is because he got totally screwed over by negotiating with an expert as a DIY side project.  *He* likely should have been paid alimony, it's unclear why he gave her the entire house and kept the loan, and why he thought any of this was acceptable.

Alimony should be terminated upon remarrying.


Title: heat on in apartment unknowingly/high electric bill(san diego,ca)

Question:
My question is...can I charge my manager for leaving the heat on in my apartment. My electric bill for 5 months was 1,400??

I moved into a condo about 5 months ago and from day one the bedroom has been unbearably hot, but I just thought it was due to extreme lack of circulation due to small windows. So we just didn't go in the room anymore. Every month my electric has been about $300-400.

I called SDGE asking why such a high bill,they asked if I was always hot, I said YES ,they told me to check my breaker for one that said heat and click it off.within 10 minutes my room was so nice and cool. But now my dishwasher doesn't work because they are connected on the breaker. And when I moved in, I wasn't even told the place had heat in the ceiling

My question is...can I charge my manager for leaving the heat on in my apartment. My electric bill for 5 months was 1,400??

UPDATE: thank you a million reddit for all of the help and replies, I am going to try the thermostat and see if it will work so I don't have to shut off my dishwasher too! ill update tomorrow!
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: Your story makes little sense. Why didn't you check the thermostats the first day you notice it was hot in there?