Title: (Ontario, Canada) Can a police officer do this?

Question: I got in a fight with kid much younger than me, because he was bullying my sister. Im in grade 11, he's in grade 7. I went to my sister's school to drop my sister's lunch off, and i saw him. I asked him what his problem is, words were exchanged, i said i would beat the f*ck out of him, and come to his house to talk to his parents, and then i left. I got called down to my schools office by the principal, and she asked me what happened. I explained everything. The principal told me a cop will be talking to me. She told me to go back to class, and i didnt get called down by any cops. I came home, and about an hour later I was going to go to tutoring, and a cop rolled up and told started asking me what I did, infront of my neighbors and everyone. I explained everything, and when i told the cop what the other kid had been doing, like trying to fight me as well. She told me that that's childish, but when I say it i would get arrested. She then told me she would arrest me, my mom (She was with me when i dropped off my sisters lunch), and my sister (who did literally nothing). Is the cop allowed to come up to me and tell me that she will arrest me and my family, just like that?

Answer:
 Yes.  Cops can say more or less anything they want.

Stay away from the kid that is bullying your sister.  Permanently.  You see him, cross the street, turn around, don't go near him.

If possible, your sister should also stay away from him.  If that's not practical (I realise they go to the same school), your parents can discuss the issue with the school's principal.  You should stay out of it.

Did you actually beat this individual or just yell at him?  If you just yelled at him, that's probably why you were just given a warning.  If you make further threats, or follow through with the beating, expect the cop to be back and follow through with her threat to arrest you.


Title: Co-worker recording conversations she isn't a part of to try to get a couple of us in trouble.

Question:
I was just informed by a co-worker that this crazy woman we work with is leaving her phone out and recording conversations when she leaves the room. None of us say anything terrible, just things like she's so annoying for sucking up to the other shifts by doing their work and not ours. And that she keeps touching people and they've asked her to stop. Or that she talks about disgusting topics like mailing shit to her enemies, or listening to her son have sex, or waking up to her dog eating her out and letting him go until she finished. Just stuff that really grosses all of us out.

My co- worker who informed me doesn't want me to tell her that I know she's recording me, which I can understand.

Just to put the dynamics in perspective I'm the only other girl on shift and I'm her partner most nights. So her anger is mainly directed at me. She also records conversations between a Male co- worker and myself, I believe because he and I are attractive and she has tried to flirt with him and he has asked her multiple times to stop. A few months back an older co worker turned her in for sexual harassment and age discrimination and then told her it was the handsome co- worker, so ever since then she hasn't really liked the handsome guy. But she does confide in him from time to time and I believe this could be to bait him because she knows he and I are close at work. Yesterday she told him that a "brat" is trying to sabotage her, but she wouldn't give any specifics.

She is not attractive and has lately been hanging out with an unattractive man we work with. This man used to be my partner and he tried to get me fired. He would bully me, stop wearing deodorant, fill my work boots with water, make messes in the areas I had to clean, etc.

I just need a good plan to get revenge. It is illegal to set a recorder down and leave the room to record other people's conversations. I don't want to bring it up in a way that prompts her to destroy the evidence. I also don't want to do something like freeze her out so she knows that we're on to her and she loses trust in the co- worker who told me and she also gets rid of the evidence. I also don't want to end up with a box of shit in my mail box.

My initial plan is to write down something salacious and take a picture of it so it is time stamped. Then when I know she's recording, drop this bombshell. I'm thinking something along the lines of a plot to get her fired. Just something that will make her take her recording to the supervisors to try to get me in trouble. Then I can produce my time stamped plan proving that what I said was all bogus... but now we can address the issue of her illegally recording conversations she did not participate in. I am completely wide open to suggestions.

Answer: Talking about who is attractive and who isn't... are you even 18?


Title: (Alberta) Woman in condo is constantly having visitor cars towed. How do we make her stop?

Question:
My boyfriend is currently in the process of moving into a new condo with a friend. His parents own the condo/are the landlords. We're both currently 1L students and are super fired up about this situation and I'm not sure if we're completely overthinking what to do.

Last night we drove over and stayed at the condo but parked in visitor parking because he isn't "officially" moved in yet (spending time elsewhere still and his mail isn't going to the condo yet) and his roommate was in their designated parking stall. Hasn't paid rent yet. The car was parked for less than 10 hours (overnight) and was gone this morning.

Another tenant in the building came out and said it was a woman who lived upstairs that called (rather he was 99% sure it was her because she's had countless cars towed). She's on the condo board but is not the president. She is adamant that the visitors need a pass from the building manager, which isn't on site and can't be contacted on a Sunday to receive this pass. My boyfriend doesn't even know who the building manager is and he's having his parents look into it. But now I can't drive over to his place because I can't park my car as I, as a completely legitimate visitor, have no access to the building manager.

The spot was clearly labeled VISITOR, the others were RESERVED with a tow warning. The visitor spots do not say that visitors need a pass. They do not have a time limit on them and the neighbourhood surrounding the building is a no-parking zone. The condo docs/contract do not say that visitors need a pass. Everything points to it literally being a spot for visitors to the condo.

We're getting the car tonight and we're planning on arguing that the tow company had no right to tow a legally parked car. I'm not expecting them to let us off the hook for that though. We know that small claims is the place to go to recoup the towing expenses... But do we have any claim against this parking nazi bitch? I'm genuinely afraid to drive my car over there now because I don't want to get towed for being a visitor to this building

Answer:
 > The condo docs/contract do not say that visitors need a pass. Everything points to it literally being a spot for visitors to the condo.

It's almost certainly in the community rules.  It won't be in a rental contract.


Title: My parents house went to sheriff sale yesterday. Advice wanted.

Question:
I'm an adult and I live at home. For awhile, things have been pretty bad financially, but I had no idea how bad until I found out yesterday that they had not paid the mortgage in five years.

My father has a lot of mental and physical health issues and kept putting it off. I'm still trying to wrap my mind around HOW. How does this happen to people? Your mortgage isn't something you can just put on the backburner and hope it goes away. I would have gladly given them money if they asked, but they always told me to worry about myself and that they didn't want my money.

Yesterday, my parents tried to file an emergency bankruptcy and were denied, because they had already filed twice this year and were dismissed due to being unable to keep up with the payments.

I'm wondering what can be done at this point. I did read a little bit about how sheriff's sales work, but I'm not really sure how I can help them, if at all.

Answer:
 > I'm wondering what can be done at this point.

You guys should be looking for somewhere else to live.


Title: Trying to get credit card removed off account, but company will not let me

Question: I'm trying to remove a credit card off of a company services, but they will not let me without adding another credit card. Which I don't want to do because I'm done with them. I owe no money, everything is complete.

Answer:
 >Alternatively, the easier solution is to cancel the card with your bank and then get a new one issued. They probably do it without charge, especially if you mention you have concerns of fraud because you cannot remove it from a company.

This is a fine route to go, but if you go this route, then you have to make sure that your credit card issuer understands the situation.  Sometimes even when they issue you a new card number, charges to your old card number will simply appear on your new card number.  You have to make sure they understand you don't want that to happen.Answer #2: I always call my credit card company. They are often great at handling this.

I would also inform the company that you are issuing a complaint to your credit card company for this behavior. If you want to remove a credit card from their system, they should comply.

Is it possible to have your entire account disabled/removed from this company?Answer #3: Good for you it was resolved!

Personnaly, in your case, I would have added a gift card with about $1.18 balance on it.


Title: Payroll error in my favor

Question:
Missouri resident here.
I have no clue how this happened, or if they'll fix it before I get paid, but I can very easily look up how many hours I got this week and one week ago on my company's employee page.
Last Friday I worked 8 hours. Clocked out. Got my stuff. Got worried I didn't actually clock out. Clocked back in. Clocked back out. Felt satisfied, went home.
Today, I looked online at my hours to calculate my paycheck (my paystub isn't available to look at until Wednesday night, so I couldn't just look at that), and it had me clocked in at 3:55 pm, clocked out 12:07 am, clocked in 12:08 am, clocked out 12:08 am...... But it says I worked 32 hours that day, or 52 for the entire week.

This has never happened in the 3 years I've worked there ever. Friday is my last day at this job. If they don't correct it, and I do get paid a ridiculous sum of money that I didn't work for, what could happen? Could I get taken to court, would the bank the company goes through (after they eventually realize the error) take the money off my paycard or somehow get the excess money back?

I'm mostly going through hypotheticals here, but if it goes through I want to be prepared. I'd love to be told I can keep the money, but realistically could I keep the money or would I legally have to tell them they made a mistake if they don't catch it?

Answer: The money isn't yours. You should tell your payroll department about it (or whoever handles that stuff) and set the money aside. Don't spend it. When the error is eventually discovered, you'll be legally liable for that money.


Title: Fired for "contacting" management via text message rather than phone call when sick

Question:
I work for a large global company in Portland, OR whose policy states an employee must "contact" a member of management of intended absences of more than two days. Text messaging has been the main form of communication between my manager and I with pertinent work information being exchanged. And when I texted in sick, he acknowledged my text. HR agrees with my manager saying I should of "contacted" my manager via phone call. If policy doesn't specifically say I have to call, is texting an acceptable form of contacting my manager?

My manager also stated in the resignation letter that he tried to contact me, but my phone logs show no record besides the text messages we had back and forth.

Answer: You should file a complaint with [BOLI's Wage and Hour Division](http://www.oregon.gov/boli/WHD/PDX_Sick_Time/Pages/Instructions-for-filing-a-PDX-Complaint.aspx), since it sounds like your employer may have violated Portland's sick leave ordinance. They will investigate and make a determination. Answer #2: Sounds like they were looking for a reason to get rid of you. File for unemployment. And do what /u/grasshoppa1 saidAnswer #3: Absent an employment contract, they can fire you for any non-legally-discriminatory reason.  That would include not following policy, and their interpretation is the one that counts.


Title: Fiance and I worked together. Company owner irrationally blew up at fiance, screaming and cursing, fiance walked out. Now I am worried about retaliation.

Question:
I started at a roughly 50 person company in southwest Ohio in a small industry (there are maybe 10-12 companies in the country that do what we do) about two and a half years ago. About 1 year and 9 months ago, we were short handed, and as my fiance had some relevant experience, I suggested him as an option. The owner of the company was ok with this, as we would largely be working in different departments. We have worked together at this company ever since. It has never been the safest company, but after a few particularly dangerous incidents and a couple of disgruntled ex employees, we finally got a visit from OSHA.

One thing in particular that we had to do after the company was cited was respirator fit tests. Our work is similar to auto body work, in that we are working with fiberglass, resins, and paint daily. Now, my fiance has a neatly trimmed but longish beard... I'm sure most of you can see the problem. In order to stay compliant and keep his beard, he tried to talk to the owner about asking the doctor running the tests if a powered air purifying respirator (PAPR) would be an acceptable substitute. The owner essentially blew him off, but said "if he's okay with it I guess you can ask".

Friday was the fit test day. My fiance had gone so far as to locally source a PAPR so he could have gone out and bought on immediately. The doctor was surprised he was willing to spend the money, but confirmed that it was not only acceptable, but wouldn't even require a fit test. My fiance went with one of floor managers and the secretary, both of whom had heard the doctor's answer, to speak to the owner.

Before my fiance could even finish a sentence, the owner started to berate, scream at, and curse out my fiance. Directly in front of the floor manager and secretary. Also across the hall from the doctor running the fit test and the employees getting tested, and within earshot of another floor manager and several more employees. He finished with, "There's the bathroom and a fucking razor. Shave the fucking beard or get the fuck out." My fiance was obviously not okay with being treated like that and decided to choose the second option, which I fully support.

He came directly to me, explained the situation, and we left (I had not taken my lunch break yet). I made sure to notify the floor manager who is my direct supervisor - which happened to be the one that directly witnessed to incident - that I was only going to lunch and that I would be back soon. I returned to work with my fiance's letter of resignation and key, and because the owner had apparently left for vacation not long after we left, I handed them directly to the secretary, while also making it clear that I was not currently intending to quit, myself.

"Company policy" is that we are separate people, contracted to be employed by the company separately, and as long as my performance doesn't drop my employment is not in jeopardy. While I am not certain that I can remain here in good conscience after what the owner did, I am not ready to leave because, A, I do not want to make my coworkers' lives more difficult (we are at the end of a very difficult project and have a frighteningly impossible deadline coming up); B, while we can easily weather the loss of one income for a time thanks to our savings, the loss of two incomes would be a very difficult blow to recover from; and C, as I said, we are in a small industry. If I wanted to keep doing the same kind of work, we would have to move a minimum of two states away. That is not in the plans until after the wedding next year, so if I had to change jobs while still here I would need to change industries as well, which I would like to avoid.

I am mainly concerned that, if the owner was so irrational and combative with my fiance, he may see me as a threat to his business. I am (probably) willing to keep my head down and play nice for the next year until the wedding because I love our work so much, but I was poised to move up in the company before this and now I am afraid that I will be fired in retaliation because the owner is angry and/or paranoid. What kind of CYA measures should I be taking? If he does use this as an excuse to not give me further promotions, demote me, or even fire me, do I have any legal recourse? If I am fired over this and it gets around to the other companies in our small industry, hurting my future job prospects, how can I handle it professionally? The owner is returning from vacation this weekend so I do not think anything will happen until then.

TLDR: fiance and I worked together. After an OSHA citation, my bearded fiance attempted to propose a respirator solution to the owner that did not require him to shave. Instead of listening, the owner went nuclear on him in front of several other employees and told him to shave or get out. My fiance chose "get out" and now I am worried that the owner will retaliate against me.

Answer: I'm not seeing a legal question here. As an at-will employee you can be fired for almost any reason. You are free to seek other employment at any time.


Title: Will a lawyer allow you to pay them for legal advice if there is no active case against you?

Question:
Say someone believes you did something wrong (like stealing from them) but you didn't. The person hasn't pressed charges but you would like to have some legal advice as to how to best protect yourself.

Will a lawyer allow you to pay them for a few hours of their time?

And will the attorney client privilege exist if you do that?

I live in Pennsylvania.

Answer: That's exactly what a consultation is.Answer #2: Yes.


Title: Emancipation for 15 & 17 females in CT

Question:
I posted this in /r/relationships: https://np.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/538scq/my_15f_mother_49f_is_stealing_my_money/

and am here to ask about emancipation. The post above sort of explains how i have an good case for emancipation imo, and there is even more than what's in that post.

So I'm 15, turning sixteen in a month. My sister is 17 and she will be 18 in one month. I'm worried about emancipation because how are we supposed to support ourselves? I don't want to go to a foster home or somewhere because I want to stay at the school I'm at (pretty good public school, not staying for friends or anything). There's no nearby family who we would be willing to live with or would be willing to take us in.

Could my sister become my legal guardian? How does this roll over in FAFSA (college financial aid)? Where are we supposed to live?

TL/DR: i guess i'm trying to ask about how to get emancipated and what actually happens once we are emancipated?
Topic:
CPS and Dependency Law

Answer:
 Emancipation is for people like Taylor Swift and Miley Cyrus, who are working and supporting themselves without needing assistance.

Your mother can take anything of yours she wants because she is your guardian.  Answer #2: Under common law, a parent is entitled to all of the money a minor receives from their employment. The only thing that is the property of the minor are gifts and inheritances; which can still be withheld by the parent for discipline purposes until the child is 18.

Your other post asked about benefits. If your father has sufficient social security work credits, then his children would be entitled to Social Security Survivors Benefits. The SSA does not pay these to minors; instead they would go to a "representative payee", most likely your mother. This money is not yours; but is for your benefit. So the representative payee has to provide an accounting every year where it went. But it can be used on food, shelter, medical expenses, etc, you don't get the full check deposited into an account t just for you.

Emancipation only comes after you are self sufficient. Have your own job, are providing for yourself, and have shown your capable of living totally independent. This includes not being dependent on your sister either. Even the fastest case will take several months; so your sister will be 18 before it could happen anyway. If you want out of your moms house; then your best bet would likely to have your mom voluntarily give temporary legal guardianship to your sister.

Absent some level of physical abuse not mentioned in either of your posts; CPS isn't going to get involved with a mom "stealing" from her kid.


Title: Getting fined EUR500 for buying natural appetite-suppressants online

Question:
So I received a phone call today, followed by an email with the below details:

Police charges to be issued by MEPA for the importation on the 5th of May 2013 of 5 packets of 30 Capsules each containing Hoodia spp. extract.  Hoodia spp. is a CITES listed species under Annex B of the EU legislation.  The Importation into Malta took place through registered parcel originating from Israel. These products were confiscated at customs. The products were imported without the necessary CITES Export Permits from Israel and without CITES Import Permits from Malta in breach of the Convention on International Trade in Endangered Species (CITES) which is governed by EU Council Directive 338/97 and transposed into Maltese Law through the Trade in Species of Fauna and Flora Regulations, 2004 (LN 236 of 2004).   In this respect, the importer is in breach of Regulation 8 of the aforementioned legislation which also specifies the associated penalty according to law.

Accepting a settlement agreement of EUR 500 would mean that the importer accepts the responsibility of the offence, agree to pay the minimum fine as stipulated by the above mentioned law and agree that the items seized are confiscated.  If the importer fails to accept this agreement, then the case will proceed in court.

tldr: I bought some natural diet pills which can be bought locally over the counter from most pharmacies without a prescription. Since I bought them from a non-EU country I was supposedly supposed to prepare an import form which I had no idea about. These pills were intended for personal use and got confiscated at customs 3 years ago. I am now being told that I will need to pay a hefty fine, and if not will end up in court. I'd really appreciate your advice on how to proceed.

Update : I spoke to a lawyer and will be meeting him next week.  He told me not to contact MEPA in the meantime.
I also went through my email archives and found thr PayPal receipt from the Ebay transaction. My purchase was actually  for a lower quantity that they are claiming.

Answer:
 Any chance this is a scam and someone just looked up custom's seizure records and sent you a fake letter?Answer #2: Sounds like the website never had the pills to begin with--Their business model is to use the phone number and email you give when signing up to scam you put of $500, posing as customs agents.

Edit: noticed the 3 year timeline. ..that complicates things a bit. Seems odd you would get contacted via email instead of letter mail though.


Title: Oregon - Is it legal for the government to actually fine someone or jail them for gathering too many people during Thanksgiving?

Question:
Oregon governor said she will work with law enforcement to enforce the "6 people or less" mandate for the next few weeks, including Thanksgiving gatherings, punishable by $1200 fine and/or 1 month in jail.

What are the legal holdings to this?

I am just curious. Please no mask/covid/"but protestors..." debates.

Answer: Yes. The Oregon Constitution and statues give the Governor the authority to issue executive orders like that, and Oregon statutes make those executive orders enforceable by fine and even, for willful violations, by jail time. There are no plausible arguments as to why that combination of provisions is unconstitutional.


Title: Can a lease bar me from keeping a firearm in my home?

Question:
I live in the state of Texas and will be moving to some apartments that are on a state universities campus but not owned by the school, as far as I can tell. In their lease agreement, it lists that "no weapons" are allowed. However, Texas is a very pro-gun state, and in the codes, it states that
https://statutes.capitol.texas.gov/Docs/PE/htm/PE.46.htm
>Sec. 46.02.  UNLAWFUL CARRYING WEAPONS.  (a)  A person commits an offense if the person: (1)  intentionally, knowingly, or recklessly carries on or about his or her person a handgun or club; and (2)  is not: (A)  on the person's own premises or premises under the person's control or; (B)  inside of or directly en route to a motor vehicle or watercraft that is owned by the person or under the person's control.

Does this give me any leeway if they try to evict me?
How binding is this lease to prevent me from possessing my firearms in the apartment that I am leasing?

Answer: Yes. It can. Just like a private business can not allow guns.


Title: Ex-Wife Threatening Civil Suit to Recoup Costs of Hiring P.I. to Serve Custody Papers [NY/MT/PA]

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 She is going to end up serving you one way or another, and if you make it harder, you may be liable for costs of service.

You are indeed being a dick about it. Just give her your address.


Title: My dog bit someone at the dog park that I have managed for years.

Question:
[Minnesota] Tonight, my 65lb dog bit a woman at the dog park.  My dog has absolutely no history of aggressiveness with any dogs or people of any size except for this woman's dogs.  This woman had two small dogs (10lbs each) that my dog has played with aggressively in the past but has never injured.  Even other dogs of similar size have not had an unfriendly encounter with my dog.

My dog and I were at the park when the woman arrived.  She was holding her two dogs after she entered the fenced in area.  My dog ran over to the woman and her two dogs and ended up biting the woman in the hand she was holding one of the dogs in requiring 6 stitches.  I have not heard from the woman tonight besides receiving a picture of her wounded hand.   What is my best course of action?

edit: There was also a police report filed.

Answer: About all you can/should do is sit tight and see if she makes contact with you or if the local animal control organization tries to make contact with you.


Title: Mocked by a coworker over mental health

Question:
This really came out of nowhere. I don't have any issues with this person.

We were working on a project together overnight. I'd been at the office longer than everyone else, close to 24 straight hours so I try to catch 30 mins of sleep. While doing so I hear a coworker ask another where I am. I hear the person in question very loudly answer "probably asleep, like someone with moderate depression should be."

This came out of left field. I am quiet, but not some on who mopes around - in fact I smile quite a bit and genuinely enjoy life. Does this constitute harassment? I like my job but don't feel comfortable working here any longer.

Edit: work in Mass

Answer: This was a single comment? If so, I think you just need to get over it and realize that some people are mean or insensitive. If it continues, you can ask the person to stop or report it to HR.


Title: Biomom threatening legal action if we talk

Question: A few months ago my (basically) step-daughter's biomom and dad were changing their parenting plan. The biomom threw out many untrue accusations against her dad and I until we had no more money to fight a legal battle and had to give into many of her demands including loosing over half our time with my step-daughter during the school week. The biomom and her stepdad then threatened legal action against us if we try to talk to her about this as she grows older. They are basing this argument with a part of the parenting plan that says "Neither parent shall disparage the other parent in the presence of the minor child". Her dad and I go out of our way to defend questionable parenting by her biomom because of this threat when my step-daughter asks why things are one way at her mom's house and another way at ours. However, her dad and I are getting more concerned about staying quiet with what her mother has done as she nears age 11. We live in Georgia, and starting at age 11 a judge may take into consideration what she thinks about her living situation. She can not yet pick, but she gets to weigh in her oppinion. About the time she turns 11, the parenting plan will be able to be modified again. Since she will be able to talk with the judge, we would like her to have the whole story of what happened from our side. Should we? I'm scared of her biomom suing us or something but at the same time, article 12 of UNCRC (UN convention on the rights of the child) states that every child has the right to express their own opinion and to have access to information that they need to take into consideration. Is this enough of a legal defense for talking to my step-daughter? Is there anything else I can use to defend ourselves for telling her things she needs to know? Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 Telling her the facts of "we went to court and the judge decided x,y,z" isn't disparaging. Telling her "we went to court and your mom insisted on this new schedule even though you hate it" is a very bad idea, by contrast. If this situation is that contentious, maybe consider some family counseling to help her process what is going on.

Just because the judge may take her opinion into account doesn't mean she gets to choose.

Don't go to the UN treaties. What you need to look at is the law in the state where the child lives.


Title: Can a seller of a property put specific conditions on a property that a buyer must follow and would the buyer legally follow those conditions once they own the property

Question: Say hypothetically a person selling a property indictes in order to buy the house/property you must maintain the property a specific way or not make changes to the bouse. Like you  can't make changes to the house or knock the house down or Say there is a large amount of trees on the property and the seller states the trees cannot be removed or a more out there one, what If the property comes with animals and a condition is that the animals must remain on the property and cared for until their natural death. As a buyer once you own the property would you legally have to follow those restrictions?

Answer:
 What you're describing is a deed restriction or a restrictive covenant. Yes, they exist. Some may be unenforceable (famously, the US has a horrible history of [using deed restrictions to exclude people by ethnicity and religion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Covenant_(law\)#Exclusionary_covenants), and those are unenforceable now) while many others are enforceable, including those that bind the house to a HOA, preserve neighbors' views, [require owners to trim trees](https://www.lilanduseandzoning.com/2019/06/17/trim-those-trees-seventy-year-old-restrictive-covenant-requires-property-owner-to-trim-its-trees-to-enhance-the-view-of-adjoining-property-owner/), for [historic preservation](https://www.npi.org/model-language-title-restrictions-use-transfer-historic-properties), restrict sheds and other structures, other limitations on the use of the property, requiring the property be used as affordable housing for a period of time (i.e. "deed restricted affordable housing"), even preventing building on a piece of land at all.

Particularly weird deed restrictions could start to cause you problems, either because they're hard to comply with, diminish the value of the property, will cause mortgage lenders to run away screaming, or are just plain weird enough you'd have a hard time finding a buyer if you want to sell.

Writing them is definitely something you'd want to talk to a real estate lawyer about, to understand what you can and can't do.


Title: Drug test, fired

Question:
Alabama, US
I tested positive for something on the naughty list at my new job and was promptly terminated. I have to concede that the employer was within its rights to do so but the issue I'm having is that this was a pre-employment screening that occurred after I was hired. I wasn't told of this zero tolerance policy before I accepted the offer. I wasn't asked to submit to a drug test before I quit my previous job and moved more than 100 miles .What was I supposed to do when they told me about the policy on the first day? Politely decline and be unemployed sooner? I sacrificed a lot on the assumption that I'd be employed if I consistently did quality work, which I did for the  2 weeks I was there. I immediately started looking for a job after the first day as I began to have doubts in my ability to fit in there. Their employee handbook stated that visible tattoos were not permitted and I have visible tattoos. They met me in person before offering me the job. Is there anything I can do here or am I simply in mistaken in my belief that this is an unreasonable way to go about hiring people? Is there someone I can file a grievance with or something? Also the employee handbook violates SB286, is there anywhere I can go with that? Much appreciated

Answer:
 ...................... If you want to sue someone for firing you according to their drug policy that you were in flagrant violation of, you can go ahead and file the papers, put this before a judge and make their day. It's cathartic to ream people who don't think about their arguments before voicing them.

You have no recourse. You should not attempt a suit. They can do this. There is no one to whom you can report them and get them anything other than a pat on the back. You should find a new job and not do drugs if that is the policy to which you agree by working there. Answer #2: You can try filing for unemployment. Your termination was not unlawful. Stop using illegal drugs if you don't want bad things to happen because you use illegal drugs.Answer #3: I have personally never heard of a company that would not fire someone after testing positive for an illegal substance within the 90 day new employee phase.

You have tattoos in a place that does not allow visible tattoos? So do most people. Long sleeve shirts work wonders.

You have no case here. At all. You said you sacrificed a lot to get this job, but clearly not enough.

Assume every new job you will be tested every day for 3 months minimum.


Title: Vet Clinic will not return items to me that were with my animal who died there. How can I get my items back?

Question:
( TEXAS) Hello, this should be a fairly trivial thing for most of you here.

This is my 3rd or fourth post dealing with my dispute and this clinic.

A couple of months ago I took my rabbit to a clinic to get fixed. Something went wrong in the surgery and he died. The Board of Vets has opened an investigation into what happened there.

Onto my current question. When I took my rabbit to the vet, I took him in pet carrier. Inside the carrier was a food bowl, and water container, and my bunnies favorite towel.

Now, this towel has special meaning to us. It was what we wrapped him in when we rescued him, he slept on the towel every night, and dragged it around the house with him. It was also his favorite toy, he would scratch at it and throw it around. He was inseparable from his towel, so it has a lot of meaning to us.

After my animal died, I went in to look at the corpse. His towel and all of his belongings were nowhere to be seen. As I was leaving, they gave me his carrier and I asked them about the other items. They said they took them to the back to be cleaned (which I didn't request) and that they would call me back to get the items in a couple of days.

After that day I went to social media and shared my experience with my friends about this vet and how I don't think they're very reliable.

The vets are claiming to the board that I openly "threatened" them on facebook and they were about to call the police so they decided to just never talk to us again. (I never threatened them, I have a post about that, too)

So any attempts I've made to get my belongings back have been in vain.

It's pretty petty, but I REALLY want that towel back to be a keepsake with my rabbits Urn. They said they would give it back but have avoided contact with me for 3 months now.

Is there any legal course I can take to get my towel back? It's the towel I want, I don't even care about the rest of the items.

From what I've read, in Texas, withholding property from someone is a Class C misdemeanor

"(2)  "Deprive" means:
(A)  to withhold property from the owner permanently or for so extended a period of time that a major portion of the value or enjoyment of the property is lost to the owner;
(B)  to restore property only upon payment of reward or other compensation;  or
(C)  to dispose of property in a manner that makes recovery of the property by the owner unlikely."

I'm fairly certain they threw the towel away the day I took my rabbit in and they just wanted to buy time while I forgot about it, but they refuse to speak with me about it, and it's really pissing me off. It's like your dad dying at the hospital and they refuse to give you his wallet and clothes back afterwards.

Is there anything I can do to get it back? It's a really crappy thing of them to do. Can I file a police report or anything or would they laugh at it?

Thanks a ton for any advice.

Answer:
 Theft is a crime. This means you can report it to the police, who have the authority to investigate crimes and pass them along to a prosecutor, or to a prosecutor directly if one's willing to work with you. A conviction would see the accused fined, potentially imprisoned, and given a criminal record. However, police departments and prosecutors have discretion over what crimes they investigate or prosecute; unless you live in a shockingly low-crime area and the cops literally have nothing better to do, it's relatively unlikely they'll investigate your vet over a $5 blanket, no matter how important the blanket is to you, and it's extremely unlikely a prosecutor would seek charges. The police will take a report, tell you they'll be in touch if anything turns up, and file it.

Theft is also a tort. This means you can sue. However, the tort of theft generally only entitles you to be made whole. You can sue for the nominal replacement value of your property, or for its return if the tortfeasor still has it, but you generally can't sue to recover sentimental value (which may not be determinable). Civil courts do not have the authority to levy criminal consequences such as incarceration or criminal convictions. The cost of filing a suit, and the time value of appearing in court and of enforcing a judgement, will rapidly dwarf the $5 replacement value of an old blanket.

I'm sorry your experience with this vet has been one disaster after another, but I don't think you're getting your rabbit's favorite blanket back.


Title: Freedom of speech?

Question: First off I am 100% against what my friend said but am curious to see if it's legal. My friend recieved a ticket for illegal fireworks however the cops did not find any illegal fireworls at his home and admit they have no proof. They said he was firing the fireworks in his backyard and wanted to look as he let them look and also showed them all his fireworks. They still did not find any illegal fireworks. Being wrongfully accused my friend got mad and after they gave him a ticket the officers were walking on the street back to their car, my friend standing in his garage said " i hope you guys get shot and your family gets murdered". Is this freedom of speech? This makes me curious because he is fighing the ticket but could the officers use his "hoping" against him? Technically he did not threaten anyone, he was just exercising his write of free speech, he only "hoped".. stupid. And also would he win if he faught the firework ticket since they have no proof other than an accusation?

Answer:
 It's not illegal for him to tell the officers he hopes they get murdered. It's not anywhere close to a "true threat," as the term generally applies to first amendment legal analysis. True threats generally have to be credible and specific.

It's also irrelevant to the fireworks charges, so it likely won't come up.

However, just because it's not against the law doesn't mean it's a good idea. Your friend shouldn't make a habit of antagonizing the police like that. In principle, they should be professional enough not to react, but in practice, police officers are human, too, and telling them you want to see them dead is a great way to burn any goodwill they might have towards you. A police officer who wants to make your life hell has lots of ways to do so without breaking the law: your friend should probably avoid speeding, even by 1 MPH, for a while.


Title: [USA Portland] Potential assault not sure how to proceed

Question:
Hi all, a bit of background on my situation: I have just moved to Portland from LA, I was in fairly bad family situation (family not accepting my sexual orientation) I am a women of colour and size, so Portland has been very accepting. I've been navigating the local art scene, I have made many new great friends and connections, so all in all quite positive.

Last week I was attended a local Anarcho/feminist spoken word and poetry evening, I attended with a femme friend, (also a woman of colour) so I felt very safe there. During the evening she ran into a friend (who I'd never met) this "friend" is a white man who is quite prominent in the local arts community, so I was naturally a little skeptical of his intentions as I felt he was intruding a little on our space.

After the evening concluded he asked if we would like to go to a bar with him and some of the spoken word performers (mostly WOC, or trans women) I was a bit hesitant to go because of him, but decided with all the other people going with us I'd be safe. At the bar we had a few drinks, and I got talking to him. He seemed like a very nice guy at first, but after we had a few he started Asking quite sexually charged questions, about my previous relationships and sexual experiences. At this point I was quite tipsy so I was going along with it and not realizing what he was trying to do, after a while he came in and tried to kiss me, he didn't ask for consent or anything just moved his face towards mine. I pushed him back, and I could tell his was upset by this.

He then went back to talking to me about sorta art normal stuff, but I was pretty shaken about what had happened. I took a cab home with my friend, and told her what happened, she said it was not big deal which shocked me. This guy is obviously an abuser because if he's done it to me he's done it to other women, he uses his popularity in the local scene to exploit femmes and WOC, without repercussions. I've been talking to a few others and they've said he also gaslights and is abusive.

I'm wondering what I can do about this mans appalling behavior, I was thinking a call out post, but it might be ineffective. Under what legal grounds could he get into trouble if I complain about his behavior? I'm thinking of reporting him because he obviously wouldn't go to jail, but it would start a paper trail leading back to him if he ever does something else? Would this be most effective??

Thanks
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: Trying to kiss you and then backing off when rejected isn't illegal. I don't see anything in your story that sounds like assault


Title: My friend just told me she was raped 3 weeks ago, how to approach from here

Question: My ex told me she was raped and is to scared to tell anyone. We think we have enough information through mutual friends to get his identity, but is it to late for hard proof through a rape kit? I want this fucker in jail before he does it again

Answer:
 Your friend needs to contact the police as soon as possible.

You don't do anything other than be a supportive friend. Legally, you can do nothing and will not be involved.Answer #2: There are two things your friend might consider which I can think of of the top of my head.

1. Go to the police to file a report (victims of rape go to the police sometimes more then a year after the incident).

2. Therapy, rape is a traumatic thing therapy might be helpfull for her.


Title: My ex-girlfriend was physically and verbally abusive which resulted in a permanent disability for me. I want to sue her in small claims court for it. No charges were ever filed against her and the relationship ended several months ago. Will I have any problems? (CA)

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 Jesus Christ that recording is disturbing. Your ex is a horrid person.

You'd need enough direct evidence showing that your forearm injury was caused by her. If your doctor is unwilling to definitively take that position, it will be difficult for you to be successful in a lawsuit against her without it.

You would need to quantify your damages in order to determine a total amount you feel you deserve (including doctor's bills, etc.). Evidence of the abuse is admissible.


Title: A question about US status

Question: So lets say that there is a person residing in the US with a non-US passport, but has held a work-only Social Security Card for the past few years. She has been here for more than 10 years. She came as a young child. Firstly, what would be this persons status in the US. Does this make them illegal? Secondly, I would like to know if that person qualifies for citizenship, or at least permanent residency. Also, I would like to know with the non US passport, and the work only SSC, how would that person go about marrying? Could she marry, and then apply for permanent residency? Or could she gain citizenship through marriage. We have been together for a long time and marriage is definitely coming once we figure out this issue.

Answer:
 Status: no status.  Illegal alien.

> She has been here for more than 10 years. She came as a young child.

Do you happen to know if her parents entered the country legally (perhaps on a tourist visa, and then just stayed instead of leaving), or if they came entirely illegally (swim across the Rio Grande....)?  It makes a difference.

> Secondly, I would like to know if that person qualifies for citizenship,

No, because you have to be a permanent resident first.

> or at least permanent residency.

Maybe.  Consult an immigration lawyer.

>  Also, I would like to know with the non US passport, and the work only SSC, how would that person go about marrying?

Immigration status doesn't affect marriages.  Marry anyone you want. (On the other hand, marriages may affect immigration...)

> Could she marry, and then apply for permanent residency?

Yes, possibly.  Consult an immigration lawyer.


Title: I bought something handmade online from a seller and two months later have still not received it. She’s blocked me on all forms of social media however I have her email and social media accounts saved. What can I do?

Question: So I bought my boyfriend a gift from a seller I found through Twitter who makes all of her products. I was extremely excited to receive it and to give it to my boyfriend as it’s something I know he’s wanted. I paid for the gift and to ship here and that was over two months ago. At first I was nice and asked her when she was sending it out and if she had sent it yet since I haven’t received anything, and sure enough she blocked me on everything. I’m really angry and upset about this and it really puts me off from ever buying something handmade again and I don’t know what to do. At this point I obviously know it’s not coming and I got scammed but I’m wondering if there’s anything I can do or if I just have to cut my loses since it wasn’t really a cheap gift. Any advice would really be appreciated thanks guys!

Answer:
 I would go to the site from where you purchased the item and see what steps they say to take in their FAQs or through their support. For example, Etsy lets you open a case regarding items not received in a specific window of time after the items should have been shipped, but check soon because two months might be too late or close to too late.

I've had to do this a couple times in the past with some shops that didn't mail the items and I believe Etsy specifically gives the seller 7 days to respond to the case with proof that they have sent the product.


Title: Baited by hertz

Question:
I made a reservation over the phone through Hertz to rent a car after a 1 way flight. Knowing beforehand that some offices won't grant rentals with a debit card I triple checked with the agent to make sure my situation was acceptable (one way flight, returning to a non-airport location, paying with a debit card), and was assured multiple times it was. After flying halfway across the country on a late arriving flight I was told by the rental office that my reservation could not be honored because the branch has a different policy. Despite getting the national line on the phone with the branch manager telling him that the rental was valid they would not let me rent the car. Due to time spent in the branch office I'm out the costs of a taxi and hotel room for the night. Is there any recourse to recoup my expenses, or any legality issues with the branch denying a reservation that was made over the phone?
Some more specifics:
This was not a mistake by their booking department. Multiple agents and a supervisor clarified that the reservation was valid under Hertz policy. This policy was apparently not the same as the airport branch from which I was trying to rent, the manager was kind enough to draw be a diagram explaining how the two could be different.
The branch manager kept me waiting over two hours before informing me that any decision he made could not be already by agents from the national office.

Answer: You can escalate this up through corporate.  That's about the best option you have.


Title: [OR] Friend getting fired over voiced opinion on mandatory tipping out change

Question:
Sorry for the formatting, on mobile, hungry, etc

My friend works for a small local chain of restaurants as a server. Recently, they underwent a payout structure change where they began to garnish her check 2% of total sales to be tipped out to the back of the house. This is in addition to the already 3.5% that is tipped out to other front of the house positions. This means that no matter what she is actually tipped, she will always pay 5.5% of what she rings up. She also told me that prior to March 2018 it was illegal to tip out positions that did not earn tips in Oregon (don’t quote me here, I’m too lazy to verify if that’s accurate, nor if it adds to this story.)

She then openly voiced her opinion about her distaste for the pay change over the next few days to both employees and management. I’m not going to lie, my roommate is mildly quarrelsome sometimes, especially if she thinks she’s right.

One day after a long shift she noticed people were getting cut who arrived after her. She made passing remarks to the host: “stop seating me. I’m not the closer and I’ll tip you extra if you stop seating me.” She was written up for “attempting to bribe the host.”

A few days later, she posted in a closed Facebook group for coworkers (employee to employee communication, managers are not involved) a screenshot from an article about the law on tipping back of house employees. The only thing she wrote was #foodForThought. The next day, she arrived at work and management called her into the office where they sat her down and was told she was now given the day off to “decide if you want to work on an attitude adjustment, if not, then we will have to part ways.”

She got home and checked the group, and the post had been removed.

Now, here’s my question:

Could this be considered retaliation? The write up was the first she had ever received in the 3 1/2 years of her employment, which seems too convenient to me. If so, what would she need to gather in the meantime?

Just looking for a gentle nudge in the right direction, or if there’s any direction at all.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 Disciplining her over the Facebook post or talking to other employees may violate the NLRA. Disciplining her over complaining to management is perfectly lawful. Disciplining her over being quarrelsome is perfectly lawful.

The tip pool procedure is also lawful, provided it's not depriving her of more tip than she actually earns.


Title: [TN] School sent me notice for harassment

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 In the event that a criminal complaint is filed, your apology to her may be admissible as evidence used against you.

Over the coming weeks and months, you'll have many people explaining to you that it is inappropriate and illegal to touch people who don't want to be touched. Presumably you've already figured that out yourself. Hopefully the subreddit will go easy on you.


Title: [NC] landlord buries trash, contaminating the well water(Sulfer, metals, etc.) is there anything we can do about it?

Question:
I don't own the house but finding out what we can do for my girlfriend, and tired of only being able to drink bottled water.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: Has someone tested the water to determine that it is contaminated, or is this a conclusion you have come to?  If the landlord has actually contaminated the well, this could be a condition to terminate the lease.  See a lawyer about this.


Title: Fear of Retaliation

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 No. There is nothing you can do. Stop being friends with sociopaths helps.

Talk to an attorney if you honestly believe someone will frame you for a crime


Title: Is this even legal to do? KFC in Illinois

Question: My GM had a mandatory unpaid meeting yesterday and stated that they won't hire people who ride buses, and if you're late or call off, she'll take your picture and put in on the front door. And if you call off or are late she'll write you up and three write ups is termination. Also, we have this board in the office that had a bunch of employee rights and says it must be shown in a location visible to employees (I'm paraphrasing). This board is behind a door which has a window covered in papers so you can see a little behind the window but not much. And one of the papers says no employees allowed in office. Also, this board is covered with papers  saying who owns the building and what not. So is this all legal and just shitty to do or what? What should I do if it's not legal? I don't want to get fired, I need the money.

Answer:
 Mandatory unpaid meeting isn’t legal. You should be paid for that and can file a wage claim.

The employee rights notice thing is probably an issue. I don’t know how much people will be concerned.

The rest isn’t illegal unless your manager uses “rides a bus” as code for black or something similar.


Title: it is common for lawyers to draft an affidavit to be signed with me, saying what they want me to say, before ive said it?

Question:
then sending me the information to review after ive already seen the draft of said form waiting signature?

state is IL, but this is a generic question.

Answer: Yup. You pay me to be your mouth piece right? Don't you want me to type up your affidavit to the point I think it's the one the judge would like best? As long as everything is factually correct, what difference does it make? You agree with everything stated, right?


Title: Interview subject wants video featuring him pulled, despite signing a waiver - What to do? (Oregon)

Question:
Hey guys,

I'm an independent filmmaker up in Portland, Oregon, and I recently launched a new series where I interview people on the streets about a variety of topics. We have waiver forms that all interviewees sign (this is probably a good time to ask - is it okay that there are multiple signatures/names on one sheet of a waiver? Or do I need to start printing individual waivers for each person? We just interview so many people that it seems like an unnecessary amount of paper. So we have 8 lines for signatures per page - running through about 4-5 pages per shoot day).

I got a call today from one of the interview subjects who claims he never agreed to be in the video - when he did in fact sign the waiver, and sat down for an interview.

He only appears briefly in the final video (cumulative total of maybe 6 seconds), but our actual interview with him did last a while (about 5 minutes). During the interview he seemed eager and engaging during the actual interview (going as far as to do some silly things such as squats to show off his rear) - and of course, as mentioned, he signed the waiver at the end of the interview. He was also given a business card with details about the show.

So I guess I'm asking - does he have any case? I should note that he didn't print his full name on the waiver form - I know this could be an issue, and I'll make sure that all subjects print their full name in the future. This all just gets very confusing due to the nature of the work (being a YouTube video) - for example, notable pranksters on YouTube are able to feature the image of their victims, some of whom may sign waivers, but in some cases, I'm sure the victims are too upset to do so. In the future, would having subjects give verbal permission given on camera also work? (i.e. "I approve of my image being used in this video")

Honestly, from what I understand, worst case scenario, I can pull the video, but I don't want to be forced into that just because one guy is a little upset about the final video, even though he knew what he was getting into.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. If you have any additional questions or require more information, please don't hesitate to let me know. Any opinions/advice would be very much appreciated.

Topic:
Contracts

Answer: Don't use the footage. Why? Because you're not a jerkoff. He doesn't want it used. If it's six seconds long I doubt it's going to make or break your movie/show.


Title: [NY] Can my Mother's nursing home prevent me from taking her out for a visit?

Question:
This is in Monroe county in New York state. My mother is currently in a nursing home and I visit her regularly. I usually take her out to dinner once a week at least. Herself and a couple of others in her wing were recently diagnosed with the flu so they have "quarantined" her wing.

Because of this they told me I cannot take her out until she is better. This obviously has causes my mother distress. I am my mother's power of attorney and health care proxy. Do they have any legal recourse of keeping me from taking her out for a visit? I really want to take her out as I know it will help he mental state, but last thing I need is to be arrested for kidnapping.

Answer:
 Idk but I think they are trying to protect the public.  Ask how long she is contagious for and bring her favourite food to her in the meantime.Answer #2: Under the circumstances, the nursing home can prohibit your mother from leaving right now.  The risk of infecting other people in the community is very high and outweighs her right to leave.

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Medicare extends a wide range of rights to nursing home residents regardless of payor source.  This includes the right to a leave of absence (leaving the nursing home for a short time).  However, the right to a leave of absence is contingent on physician approval.  It is unlikely that a physician would authorize a leave of absence for a resident who actively has the flu as this would present significant risk to the public (nursing home residents are statistically  much more likely to have more treatment-resistant forms of influenza than would be seen in elderly people living in the community).  The nursing home's social worker can explain these rights to you in detail.  A legal citation for these rights are at 42 CFR 483.10.Answer #3: Some infections are also not dangerous to the patient, but are very contagious and put other patients at risk. My mother had one that required us to wear gloves and gowns when visiting — all to ensure that we didnt spread it to other patients.


Title: [PA] Advice on Ending Lease with Pregnant Tenant/Roommate

Question:
As the title says I'm trying to find out if it is actually illegal to not renew a month-to-month lease with a pregnant tenant/roommate.

The person in question does not have the financial means to continue paying her rent/utilities while also trying to pay for medical screenings for her unborn child. I'd like to evict her by not renewing her month-to-month lease but she is adamant that it is illegal to evict someone who is pregnant. I'd like for her to move back with her family for emotional and financial support but she is refusing to even consider moving out of spite that we are not supporting her. I'm the landlord and have provided individual month-to-month leases to all the other tenants/roommates.

Am I in the clear to send notice to her that her lease will not be renewed? If yes, what amount of time is sufficient notice?

Answer: An eviction is a court order. You can end get month to month tenancy with proper notice (generally one month)


Title: Roommate on lease not paying rent.

Question:
I just have a quick question about my current roommate situation and wondering what my options are.

My roommate and I both moved into an apartment together and both of our names are on the lease. Issues arose and the roommate left the apartment and no longer wants to pay rent (their name is still on the lease). They have the financial ability to pay rent, they just think they shouldn't have too.

I have already contacted the leasing office but they weren't of much help, saying that as long as they get the full amount they cant really do anything and wont accept checks from individual roommates. Any help would be much appreciated.

This is in Atlanta Georgia.

Answer: You pay in full and sue him for his share.


Title: fake company sent me $1,400 for "job scam"

Question:
This is clearly a scam. I was "hired" by a fake person claiming to work for ARM Holdings. They sent me a check for $1,400 and told me to deposit it then wait for it to clear. The check cleared and I was instructed to deduct $1,120 cash and keep $310 for my pay. I was told to money gram the $1,120 cash to a random person for "supplies"  and the cashier rejected it and told me it was a scam. When I confronted the "agent" who was illiterately texting me instructions, they basically started threatening me violently and typing in all caps and what not...  What should I do with this money now? Can they do anything if I keep it? I'm in Cincinnati Ohio btw. Thanks

UPDATE: issue is resolved. I just deposited everything back into my account and sure enough the bank took out the money today. Thank you to everyone who gave their input!

Answer: So you cashed the check even though you realized it was a scam? That wasn't very bright. Put the money back in the account and tell your bank.Answer #2: 99.99% guarantee you that check will bounce and that money will be gone. so you won't be able to keep it anyway.


Title: Can I (Canadian) donate to a US charity on behalf of an American so the tax receipt doesn't go to waste?

Question: Title pretty much sums it up. I'd like to donate some to Erowid, which I don't think has a Canadian branch, however it's enough that I don't want the tax receipt goes to waste. Is there a way to donate on behalf of someone such that they're able to use the tax receipt, or is that some sort of financial crime?

Answer: If you give them the money, they can donate. Otherwise they can’t deduct the value of the gift.


Title: [New York] Bank overcharged my account for a check written from someone else's account that's different by 1 number

Question:
My bank charged my a $40 overdraft fee on top of a $400+ check (a photo copy of it was included) and **the account number on the check is off by a single 9->0**.

 I know I need to go in 1st thing on Monday but what can I expect them to do? Is this common?

I think the photocopy of the check is pretty delicate information so I assume they must have fucked up pretty big here right? They didn't even double check the account number before charging me nearly $500

Answer: This is what is known as an error.  They will correct it.


Title: Questions about getting a divorce to a gambling addict. (Texas)

Question:
So my Dad is 74 and finally had enough of my mom, she has been a gambling addict for over 15 years and my dad finally has had enough. He wants to divorce my mom, who doesn't contribute anything to his and her house hold, doesn't pay bills but her name is on the deed with his (she did it without his knowing) and his name is the only one on the mortgage. Dont know if it makes a difference but she did cheat on him about 8 years ago, and is on disability due to a medical condition. He is already going to seek an attorney but my question is, will he have to sell the house? Thats his biggest concern.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: There is literally no way that anyone on the internet can answer this specific question, without a detailed examination of your parents' finances, as well as an understanding of Texas divorce law.  Your father is going to have to consult with a divorce attorney licensed in Texas.


Title: [Washington State] Recently moved states, "friend" is trying to keep my desktop PC, blocked all communication from me. Is there anything I can do?

Question:
Hello, /r/legaladvice. I recently moved from Arizona, where my "friend" currently lives. On my way out of the state, I stopped to visit him for a few hours. I mentioned that I was thinking about leaving my computer and drawing tablet with him, since I was planning on being homeless for a bit, and he somehow managed to convince me to do so. I told him I'd send him some money to ship it to me when I got into a place, and he seemed happy to help. He doesn't have his own PC, so I offered to let him use mine for the time being. We talk fairly often over the next 2 1/2 weeks, but then I bring up that I am staying with my grandfather. Over these past 2 weeks, all he was talking about was how much he loved using my computer. I ask him about shipping it back to me, no response. I ask another time, once again, no response. So, after a few days, I decide to message him again. This time, he's blocked me from both his Facebook accounts. I make a new one (for unrelated purposes) and send both accounts friend requests. The next day, I'm blocked. I then sent him a text through TextNow. He blocked me there. I text his mother, and once again, got no response. I'm almost completely certain it's because he's trying to keep my PC. Normally, I'd just write it off as "what a shitty situation", but I have years of drawings, family photos, music, and game files on it. Is there anything I can do to be reunited with my beloved PC?

Thanks in advance!

Answer: Try calling the local authorities. If not you're going to have to make this a court matter.


Title: I was fired after discovering that manager's were stealing massive amounts from employees!

Question:
Up until recently, I worked at a restaurant in Newark, Delaware, where there is a tip-pool agreement. As a key member of the team since the inception of the restaurant I was promised bonuses in the form of profit sharing (5% ~ huge!). It was 4 fiscal quarters of not receiving any said bonuses until I decided to dig into the financials. I discovered that certain managers were [illegally](https://dia.delawareworks.com/labor-law/minimum-wage.php) (not just immorally) being paid very large shares of the tips, sometimes even larger than the servers who earned the tips.

I was fired shortly after I wrote an email to the owners and management about their deceit (I was attempting to create a documented record) and was told that it was because of an argument which I had with another manager (my equal, not my boss) outside of the building. That manager is still working there. I was told by multiple employees that both that manager and his significant other were boasting that they had received bonuses for "finally getting [me] fired." One of those witnesses is willing to testify if need be.

The owners of the restaurant are openly Christian people to the point where they have made comments about not promoting or not hiring people who don't have the same "values." I recently discovered from my Muslim friend who still works there that they gave him an ultimatum: to sign a [bad contract] (http://i.imgur.com/k1I9BZy.jpg) or lose your job. Only certain employees were given this document which requires all service staff to donate 100% of their tips to this tip-pool, it was not given to all servers.

I'm at a loss, for I've never been the subject of such terrible treatment. (religious and racist discrimination, and just plain breech of contract regarding promises for my and others employment). I'm now unemployed with a gap on my resume for unjust reasons (after winning the Wine Spectator award for my work). Interviewing is tough, because if I tell the truth, I look like I'm just hating on my previous employer. If I lie and pretend we're on good standing I run the risk of a potential employer contacting my previous employer which will ensure a bad recommendation. I don't know anyone in this state, because I moved for this career.

I won my unemployment case and they appealed it. 2 owners and 2 managers came to the hearing and submitted false "write-ups" and false testimony (perjury, as far as my knowledge). I have proof of their lies through witness testimony. After that, I've reached out to a few local lawyers, but since I am in an at-will-employment state and I didn't have a contract on paper, I can't even get past the paralegal / receptionist. I have plenty of highly organized detailed documentation, I have credible witnesses, and yet I still feel helpless.

Here's a crazy kicker: I slipped on water and fell on my last day of work, and am having back issues. They refused to fill out an incident report right away because it was busy. I was let go right after the argument so the report was never filled out. Luckily, I looked at the security footage and recorded the fall and a person who witnessed it. I only just went to a chiropractor this week, and apparently my spine is not in good health.

I am open to advice, for I feel like I've hit a dead end. I'm broke, my resume took a hit, and I'm alone in a state, depressed, feeling defeated about my shitty decision to trust my former employer. My next intention is to submit a detailed report to the department of labor if I cannot find some better alternative options.

edit: grammar

Answer: Good plan, include the Worker's Compensation authorities as well.Answer #2: While the the bonus being promised and not paid is not illegal, managers getting tips from a tip pool is.  You can file a claim with the DE Dept of Labor for that.Answer #3: If employers ask, it would not sound bad at all to say something to the effect of you noticed illegal business practices and you did not want to be a part of that. I can't imagine any potential employer holding that against you.


Title: Can I help my girlfriend at work if I don't officially work there anymore?

Question: Hi everyone, I'll get straight to the point. I live in the state of Florida and I used to work at a place for four years and I'm really friendly with everyone still there. I quit because I found an even better job. I was talking to the Operational Manager (OM) who just visits from time to time and he came in while I was helping my girlfriend who works there mop the floor so she wouldn't have to do it, and the OM said that he understands that I had noble intentions, that yes, I was helping her deal with customers and I was in proper uniform and everything, but that I couldn't help her at work because its illegal to work for free. I understand his position because he's protecting the company from lawsuits, but i was wondering if there is anything we could do so I could help her out at work, like sign some forms that say I won't sue them if I get injured at work or anything remotely like that. Thank you.

Answer: No.


Title: [UT - USA] Does my employer get notified when I get arrested?

Question:
I got arrested last month for a Class B misdemeanor charge, I went to court and got a plea of abeyance for 6 months, after which I can get the record expunged.

However, today I got let go by my company for things unrelated to my performance.
I'm just curious if this is a coincidence, or if my employer is somehow notified when I go to court?

Answer: No, courts don't notify anyone in particular of your arrest, other than you.  It's a public record, so it's possible they looked it up.  But I'd guess it's a coincidence


Title: A storm caved in the roof of my workplace. We will be closed for three weeks or more because of this. Could I be entitled to wages?

Question:
It is a pizza restaurant in Edmond, Oklahoma. I've already missed this whole week of work, and now the owner is quoting us three weeks or more until repairs can be completed. In addition, he says he is considering simply leaving and relocating the business. Do I have any rights to claim wages.
Thank you

Answer: This is unambiguously time for an unemployment insurance claim.


Title: [GA] General Contractor left unpaid bills and now contractors coming to me for the unpaid balance.

Question:
\[Georgia\] I hired a General Contractor Sept 2017 to build out a store front for a business I planned to open Jan. 2018.

On April 2018 with 90&#37; of the project finished and about 100k over budget the General Contractor was fired and we parted ways somewhat acrimoniously. Fast forward to June; a contractor responsible for the flooring came to my business claiming the General Contractor owed him 6k and since the General Contractor had gone dark and not responded to any communication his only option now was to sue me.

My gut feeling is the contractor is telling the truth, in any case my brief research tells me that I'm likely on the hook for the remaining balance. What are my options? I'm thinking the easiest solution seems to be to come to some sort of deal with the contractor and then try to sue my General Contractor or is the law different in Georgia where I'm not liable for the GC's fuckups?

Thanks

Answer: You need to contact an attorney. Generally, there is a mechanism, called a mechanic's lien, by which the owner of a property that is improved by the work of a subcontractor can be pursued for payment if a general contractor does not pay the subcontractor. However, there are typically very specific requirements for delivery of notices etc in order to enable a subcontractor to pursue this avenue. As part of your contract with the general contractor, you should have required a bond as well as proof of payment to subcontractors and lien releases in order to receive payment draft following the deposit. In general, a well-structured and executed construction contract can prevent you from running into this exact problem, and reputable contractors will agree to this kind of arrangement as everyone's interests are protected. Unfortunately, the chance that you will ever collect money from the general contractor, even if you do go as far as to sue him, is very low, because many of these individuals operate on a very fly-by-night basis and it is very unusual that you are the only one chasing after him for money.


Title: [GA] In-network lab sent test to out-of-network lab without my knowledge

Question: My GI doctor only uses two labs which are both national chains that are in-network for me. I had blood drawn about a month ago, and I got an EOB letter from my insurance company yesterday saying that I am going to be receiving a $700 bill from a laboratory I didn't recognize and that is out of network. I did some digging and saw that occasionally my in-network lab occasionally sends tests they can't complete due to volume to this out-of-network lab. It seems like that is what happened in this case because I checked with the doctor and they confirmed that they sent it to an in-network lab. I'm going through the appeal process, but I'm just wondering what my options are. I have never heard of this happening before.

Answer:
 The in-network lab should eat this. Answer #2: Usually, the problem is the doctor sending it to an out-of-network lab. In this case, appealing was absolutely the right step. Insurance *should* take your side here, but insurance companies are notorious about sticking shit like this to the customer.

If it fails, you could sue the in-network lab and insurance company in small claims court to make them cover the cost. (Check on suing the insurance company - your policy may force you to arbitration.)Answer #3: That exact thing happened to my husband. He called the insurance company, who called the in-network lab and reamed them for it. The in-network lab covered the cost. My husband didn't have to pay a dime (and the insurance company made the in-network lab send that over in writing in case they tried to say he owed the money later on).


Title: Customer stole a loaner phone, says he's not paying for or returning it. What can I do? (Missouri)

Question:
I work for an electronics repair shop in Missouri that also does some sales/trades of customer devices.  A couple weeks ago, a guy brought in a phone for us to replace the screen on. It was working normally except for lines on his LCD. We opened it up, and found some pretty heavy water damage. I showed it to him, explained that it voids any guarantees or warranties we have, and he OK'd the repair.  After the repair, the backlight went out, which means it's unusable. It's also not repairable--the actual solder points themselves underneath the bad backlight component had been eaten away by corrosion from the water damage.

We have disclaimers that every customer signs, including this guy, which say that we aren't responsible for replacing non-functional devices after attempted repair due to hidden issues like this that can pop up, where we have absolutely no idea it's there until we attempt a repair.

I gave him a loaner phone as a courtesy for a couple days while we tried to repair his original device. After we determined it couldn't be repaired (on a Monday), I notified him, and he said "I'll call you back."  I tried for an entire week to call him back, with no response. I finally e-mailed him on Saturday with the same message--that he needs to get back to me about returning our phone.  He e-mailed me back saying that he was going to keep it until I come up with a better offer. I e-mailed him, again, explaining that this was the only offer he's getting. I explained in fine detail our liability disclaimer, the exact nature of why his phone isn't functional, and how it was absolutely related to preexisting water damage and in no way related to our repair.  His response was to call me dumb, and say he's not returning the phone.

The police department advised me to send a 10-day demand letter, stating that if he does not return our property within 10 days, legal action will be taken. The officer suggested I send the guy a letter through certified mail, and if we haven't heard from the guy within 10 days after it was delivered, to file a police report.

I've sent the letter, have concrete photos of the customer's device and water damage, have his original signed disclaimer. I tried to report the loaner as stolen through the carrier, but I'd have to contact its original owner and have them come with me.

Is there anything else I can do in the meantime? What is the best route to take if he doesn't respond to the letter?

Answer: Do you have the IMEI of the phone you lent him? If so call the carrier to flag the device as stolen. It will brick the phone.


Title: Illinois...How do I word OBJECTIONS for Divorce Pre-Trial Documents, Before Trial? How's it worded? What all does it contain? What all goes with it? Can I put all my Objections in 1 document? Objections are filed with court. Do I send to opposing counsel, too?

Question:
Objection example; Stating I have 2 cars that I do not.  Never had 1st, spouse sold the 2nd car over 10 years ago.
I have many objections about untrue statements.  This will effect the property division.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 You really shouldn't handle a family trial matter yourself. Get a lawyer. If you **really** cant' afford one, go talk to a legal clinic (google it). They'll ask for proof of income to determine what your assets are to see if you **really** can't afford one and represent you if you can't.Answer #2: Well, this isn't Phoenix Wright, so they're not OBJECTIONS-- and you're not clear on what you're talking about specifically.

1. What are the actual documents you're referring to?

2. [This might be more clear to you](http://objection.mrdictionary.net/go.php?n=7964319).


Title: University has incredibly broad Sexual Harrasment policy that is being abused. Multiple student organizations are collaborating to make the policy better written. Any advice?

Question:
[Here is a link to the actual wording](http://www.txstate.edu/effective/upps/upps-04-04-42.html) but the part that is particularly problematic is this section here defining Sexual Harrasment as when:

> "c.   such conduct has the purpose or effect of unreasonably interfering with an individual's performance or creating an intimidating, hostile or offensive employment or academic environment."

The school has completely removed any requirement of authority being involved in the exchange, and have left it open to where one student may claim sexual harrasment on any other student, even if they have no classes or contact with each other or anything, simply by claiming that any sexual request made them feel like their academic performance was being impaired. This is exactly how it has played out in multiple instances too already. One student hits on another student, and gets reported and investigated under this rule, and all that is required for them to be found "guilty" is for the other student to claim that anything they said or did made them feel that their academic performance had been hampered by it, even if it was nothing more than a one-time flirting incidence that stopped immediately after the first instance.

Is this fair/legal/right? If not, how should the wording be to be more just? We're just starting to gather support for changing the wording but it'll help if we have exactly what the wording should be changed to.

Thank you very much for any assistance you can lend, even if it's just "no you guys are wrong, this is totally an acceptable claim for sexual harassment."

Edit: because cuts become evident that I'm arguing with people who don't even know the laws they're talking about:

> [What Is Sexual Harassment?
Sexual harassment is a kind of sex discrimination occurring in the workplace as defined by Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Traditionally, sexual harassment could not occur outside of the workplace. However, new laws are finding it in certain relationships of trust, such as one with a doctor, an attorney, a social worker, a real estate agent, a banker, a contractor, an executor, a landlord, a teacher, and so on. ](http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/rights-of-those-accused-of-sexual-harassment.html)

Y'all can downvote me all you want, that doesn't make you correct. Half the "advice" here doesn't even know what sexual harassment is, and just assumes "if it's sexual, and it could potentially bother anyone at all, it's sexual harassment".

Answer:
 I'm not sure that is problematic. In real life, sexual harassment can absolutely be committed by a person with no "power" over the other person.

But I do have issues with the whole "judge and jury and no standards of evidence" thing. That would be my focus (but good luck with changing that)


Title: (WI) 14 yo with question about custody enforcement

Question: My parents are currently in court over custody of myself and my brother. His official visitation is immediately after school to 6pm on Mondays. Yesterday my father asked my mom if he could pick us up Tuesday instead because I had a practice on Monday that went to 5, but he was told in court that he had to oblige by my sports practices. My mom for whatever reason agreed. Since it isn't official, what would be the fallout if I walked to my grandmas house instead of going with him? Thanks in advance to anyone who answers.

Answer: Your mother and father can come to whatever agreement they decide to, and if they can't agree, it defaults to the court order.  Your dad making arrangements because he couldn't pick you up isn't outside that agreement; it supports the agreement.Answer #2: So is your goal to spend as little as time with him as possible?


Title: [TX] Girlfriend lied about age, parents found out we had sex and are now pressing charges

Question:
I live in southern Texas
So as stated in the title, my girlfriend told me she was 17(I’m 18), but after her parents found out about us having sex she told me she’s actually only 14. I know I should’ve known better and that I was thinking with the wrong head , we were in a relationship for a few months. When I asked her why she lied she told me it must’ve been a typo despite the fact she said it multiple times before. Is there anything I can do to help my case? I have screenshots of her admitting her mistake but I’m not sure if that’ll help. Her parents are under the belief that my motivation was to just have sex with her and nothing else.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: You need to get a criminal defense attorney and do and say absolutely nothing unless they tell you to.Answer #2: Shut up and talk only to your attorney because you're looking at up to 20 years in prison. No that is not a typo twenty years. Do not have any further contact with her or her family.Answer #3: How do you confused a 14 year old with a 17 year old?Answer #4: Have you actually been charged? Because if so, you need a lawyer. If not and they are threatening, you need a lawyer on speed dial for when/if this happens.


Title: Do I have to pay what I owe if I get evicted without a Lease?

Question:
I have been renting a house and last year June my girlfriend got laid off from work and was unable to collect any form of income so I got stuck paying everything and fell really behind on rent to the point where i had to sell my car to keep up but eventually that money ran out. My lease ended in FEB 2015 and the landlord wanted to change to a month to month lease I signed the lease for March but he keeps forgetting to have me sign APRIL,MAY,JUNE so technically we are not under contract. I have been keeping communication open with the landlord about our financial situation and he has been really understanding. I owe him about 7 Thousand right now. I have a feeling he is losing his patience and wants to do an eviction. I PLAN to move out July 15th i have not mentioned this to my landlord just yet.

my question is
what is the worse case scenario? and if he evicts us do we have to owe him money? even if we are not under contract?

what can he do if we decide to up and leave ( i am not looking to run away from this debt I will gladly pay him back monthly) I just want to know what he could do if we leave without paying him the full amount we owe.

thank you everyone hoping for some answers and perhaps some advice!

by the way we live in New Jersey

Answer: People that are on a month-to-month rental agreement don't sign new agreements every month. Yes, you owe all of your back rent.


Title: What is the absolute worst thing that can happen to me if I stop paying off my student loans?

Question:
I owe student loans to the government and I owe some through a private loan company.  What does rock bottom look like for me if I simply decided to stop paying them today?
Some additional details:
I owe about 55k between the two loan servicers.  We'll say 30k private and 25k government.
I have a job making around 60k a year.
I have a house that has less than 40k left on the mortgage.
A credit card that I usually use no more than 500 bucks on.
No other debt, less than 10k in savings.

I know there is a personal finance portion to this question but right now I want to know what are the worst legal ramifications of not paying.

Answer:
 They put a lien on your house, garnish your paychecks, withhold any tax refunds, send your credit into the shitter and you become unemployable for demonstrating a lack of personal responsibility.Answer #2: You won't go to prison, if that's what you're concerned about. However, you will suffer some pretty significant legal consequences while they collect.

You will be sued, and lose, and the loan servicer will get a judgment against you, that will include court costs (though probably not attorneys' fees), and the loan will likely be accelerated to become immediately due. Judgments accrue interest at a higher rate in most cases than the underlying loans, so the cost will go up.

Your wages will be garnished, which means that the loan servicer will necessarily get in touch with your employer and explain to them that they have to divert a chunk of each paycheck, which is potentially embarrassing. There may be a judgment lien on your house, which can then be foreclosed upon and sold, with the proceeds going first to the mortgage company and your loan servicer. Personal property can be seized and sold, including your bank accounts and investments, which would be liquidated and paid to the servicer, etc.


Title: My wife and me have lived in VA our whole lives. I got a DL and PO Box in NV to file for divorce there because it's faster. After that my wife filed for divorce in VA. Mine is no fault and hers is fault. What happens now?

Answer: She'll file a motion to dismiss in NV for lack of jurisdiction, and the case will proceed in VA. Unless you were actually physically living in Nevada for the requisite time period, the DL and PO Box won't be compelling.


Title: Can I get my roommate to stop his friend from coming over to our apartment legally?

Question: Ok heres the story, My roommate's friend is a real asshole and I don't want him to come inside our apartment anymore. I've told my roommate that I don't feel comfortable with his friend inside our apartment but he does absolutely nothing and still invites him over. Can I legally stop him from coming over? what can I do?

Answer:
 If it's just because you don't like him and feel he's an asshole, probably not.

When you share living accommodation you sometimes have to put up with friends of friends you do not like.

Now if you have cause, maybe.


Title: My apartment is freezing, landlord wont do anything, 311 calls have done nothing (NYC)

Question:
Im not sure if this is the best subreddit for my post, so please let me know if there would be a better place to post.

I live in a rented apartment in NYC with my parents and siblings. For the past few years there hasn't been proper heating and it gets really fucking cold. Its gotten to the point where my family has had to wear jackets while inside. I used to ask my parents to do something and they've tried communicating with the landlord but he doesn't really care. They have also made countless calls to 311 which have resulted in nothing.

My parents don't think anything can be done and have pretty much given up. I hate living in this constant state of cold though and know it will only get worse because winter is coming.

What can we do?

Answer:
 [Calling 311 should have opened a Housing Preservation & Development (HPD) complaint. ](https://www1.nyc.gov/site/hpd/renters/complaints-and-inspections.page) Were you given a Service Request number?

You can also file an [individual complaint with Homes and Community Renewal (HCR)](https://apps.hcr.ny.gov/ServicesIntake/BuildingSelect.aspx) if the apartment is rent-controlled.

Since your calls to 311 have been unanswered, your next step is [housing court](http://www.courts.state.ny.us/courts/nyc/housing/startinghp.shtml).


Title: Custody agreement not being followed

Question:
Posting for a friend who does not have a reddit account.  He lives in OH.

His current custody agreement is every Tuesday and Thursday afternoon and every other weekend.  He also has first right of refusal.  He recently filed for 50/50 custody which has made his ex angry.

On Tuesday when he went to pick up the kids, they were not there.  His ex texted him that he "couldn't see them because he is being investigated."  The same thing happened Thursday.  Today the grandparents had the children and would not allow him to see them for the same reason.

He has a lawyer that recommended he document everything and file a police report.  He has done this on all three days.  His lawyer has received no notice of an investigation and nothing was filed at the police department or social services.  The custody hearing is scheduled for the middle of November and his lawyer is recommending he wait until the court date and to provide documentation for contempt.

Is this good legal advice?  Is there nothing that can be done sooner?

Answer:
 He needs to listen to his lawyer's advice. From a lawyer's perspective, a month and a half of her not following the previous court order and your friend having documented proof of that is a strong case for your friend getting split custody. It's just enough time for her to hang herself by her own rope and a relatively short time to be without the children. Doing anything in between then and now would disrupt the procedure the lawyer has already got in place, especially if it's just empty threats on the investigation.

Doing something usually causes retaliation. If she's not going to send in a false report but violate the order, it's going to look real bad come mid November when she has to explain to the judge why she kept the children away from your friend for no apparent reason. If he tries to act, I imagine that's when the report would come and then that might actually jeopardize any visitation. The lawyer seems to be letting the waters stay still because you're headed on the right course.


Title: White Nationalist tattoo quandry

Question:
A friend of mine is running a free community yoga class. They got a new student that has White Nationalist tattoos. Is it legal to ask this person to cover their tattoos? Could there be any possible legal troubles from asking them to cover their tattoos?

Thank You

Answer: legal to ask, legal for them to say noAnswer #2: It’s perfectly legal to ask.


Title: My dog ate my security deposit refund check. Does my old landlord have to give me a new check?

Answer:
 Yes.  you have to give the landlord adequate protection against the check showing up again.

Do you still have the remains of the check?   Is it enough to be able to make out the account number and amount?

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Title: NC with "immediate family" for 3 years. Parents are dead and they won't give back my parents properties that are rightfully mine.

Question:
Backstory. My parents are both dead. Dad has been dead since I was born and Mom since I was 12. My parents owned several properties and my "Aunts" took all the responsibility of taking care of all the properties since I was still a minor (currently 22 turning 23 on Dec.).

I am adopted. So I think this is the biggest reason why they did what they did to me. I understand that I was being a rebellious teenager, etc. but they never were there physically to guide me. They think that I'm lying all the time even though I'm not. And I resulted to snatching my Aunts jewelry because she won't give me my Mom's. Plus, people around me (my supposed biological mother) kept on telling me things like my aunts were going to sell my moms property, etc and that made me mad at my Aunts thus making me a teenager who's mad at the world.

A lot of things happened to me. Bad decisions. But honestly  right now that I'm an adult, I think lack of proper guidance and love made me choose the wrong and angry path. We're currently NC (for 3 years) and I reached what I am right now without anybody helping me (except for my boyfriend that has been with me since last year and who I love to pieces). I became an adult with no one to guide me.

The problem is, I wanted to borrow my Dad's property documents because I need it in order to borrow money so I can go and study abroad (New Zealand) and that's the only way I could make my life turn around and to secure my future. I'll bring my boyfriend after 2 years if I'm already stable and work a full time job.

I'm broke and I just wanted those property documents that's rightfully mine. I contacted my aunt last night bit she seenzoned me. I tried explaining again. Telling them that I just need my dad's land title but she BLOCKED me. I'm so heartbroken right now because I'm all alone with no family and I just want to make my life better but they turned me down. Sorry this is turning into a rant but yeah. I have nothing except for the clothes I have, my cats, my 2 jobs and my boyfriend. I want this really bad. Please help me reddit. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

Answer:
 Depending on your location and the laws that govern property and inheritance and things of that nature, the property may even belong to you.  You should probably consult with an estate lawyer.

Additionally, property titles and things of that nature should be public record so just look into the local records of wherever your dad owned property.

Also, for those who were confused by certain terms in the OP

NC = No contact

Seenzoned = when you send someone a message and it says "seen" but they don't reply ( I had to look up this one)