Title: [IL] On unemployment. Got a job offer but I don't want to take it.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: *Why* don't you want it?  What about it makes it unsuitable? Is it substantially below your level career wise?  You will need to prepare to defend your decision if you turn it down and continue to collect benefits because they may hold a hearing. "Bad vibes" is not a good enough reason to turn down otherwise suitable employment when you're on unemployment.


Title: Tenant downstairs calls cops on my family during holiday. Apartment supervisor says people can call the cops on anyone if they like, and if im not happy with it i can leave.

Question:
I am located in SoCal and have been living in this apartment for 9 years. I have been dealing with the lady downstairs who always complains to the building manager about "noise" when my family visits but this month she called the police on my family, December 5th, Wednesday.

In my apartment were 5 adults. Myself, my 2 sons and their wives plus my 6 grand kids, (14 years old, 12 years old, 9 years old, 8 years old, 5 years old and one 3 month old). We we're not making any party noise. Just walking, chatting, laughing. The lady downstairs complained of her ceiling "shaking" and noise from footsteps and called the police on us. They came but they saw that there was no party, just a small family gathering.

I went to the office to talk to the supervisor of my building manager and they all side with the tenant downstairs. Over the years they have always given me a difficult time (the tenant downstairs always complains to the building manager when i have my sons over for holidays).

Is my only option here to leave, as the supervisor said?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: Any resident can make a noise complaint.  I've had light fixtures shake and windows rattled by just two persons in the apartment above me.  In all honesty, do you expect people to believe 5 adults and 6 kids make so little noise.


Title: Will I be responsible for a parents credit card debt after their death? [VA]

Question: If one of my parents dies with large amounts of credit card debt, will I be responsible, or will it be taken out of the estate?

Answer:
 It'll be taken from the estate.

You will not be responsible.Answer #2: A friend had an issue where his father died, with about $30,000 in credit card debt, plus car loans. The insurance company did their work and came and picked up the cars. If I'm not mistaken, one of the cars was worthless but still under loan, so when the house/exterior workshop garage and land was disputed, lawyers and insurance went to work figuring things out to recover what was still owed. They had auctioneers come in and sell hundreds of tools, guns, knives, furniture (estate sale like). Then the property was sold and the money was used to pay off the credit card debt. What was left over, then became inheritance. It took like 7 months.


Title: [VA] Peanut M&M wasnt a peanut inside..broke my tooth

Question: I purchased a bag of peanut m&ms Friday evening. I bit into what I thought was a conjoined one, but unfortunately it was not. It was some sort of inch long material tht was hard as rock but not of a metallic nature. My tooth cracked pretty badly. I've called the company, they are going to send me a recovery kit or something of that nature as well as coupons for more products. Do I have any legal grounds for a lawsuit, and if so what are some steps to take?

Answer: You are simply entitled to be made whole. The PR department will probably offer to cover your dental costs, but this isn't going to make you a millionaire. You are always free to consult a PI lawyer. Answer #2: Well, first, you want to get your tooth fixed if you haven't already. I'd forward your medical bills to the company after that. Answer #3: Make sure you are able to return the object to them. If you throw the object away, your claim will likely be denied


Title: I (25F) met a girl on tinder (24F) and we didn't exactly hit it off. Now she's making up violent rumors about me and spreading it and I don't know what to do. Should I file a police report?

Question:
For avoiding PII, her name is Sara.

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Main point: A virtual stranger that I've met on tinder is telling everyone at a bar we both go to that I pushed her down a flight of stairs, when I didn't do that. She did fall down some stairs, but I didn't push her, I wasn't even near her when she fell.

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She had been acting drunk the whole morning preceding the incident, and I have no idea what is going on. I want to be as best prepared for legal recourse as I can, because she's already shown her crazy and I have no idea how far this is going to go. I don't know this chick well at all and she's doing her best to ruin my life.  Please help.

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Background:

* Meet Sara on tinder, she seems ok but we're not romantically compatible/I'm not ready for a relationship with her, and we agree to not date/that we both need time outside of relationships.
* Few hang out sessions go by, we are flirty but not dating. We do hook up occasionally but nothing more extreme than making out. The second time we hung out, I met her friend at a bar who commented something like "wow it's great you guys are together you're such a perfect couple." I correct him and tell him we aren't dating. When Sara returns, I pull her aside and talk to her about it. She apologizes for the confusion and we resume things.
* Later I begin to break away a little bit; I am no longer comfortable with the hook ups. I tell her as much when the subject comes up. When we see each other in public, she attempts to buy me drinks and bring me home out of feigned concern for my well being but I know she's just trying to hook up again so I decline. This goes on maybe two weeks or something.
* Finally, we hang out and get very intoxicated. There's no way I'd let her drive home, so she crashes on my couch, after trying to get into bed with me. The morning after, I am extremely hungover and basically incapacitated. She helps me out, gets me water etc. We agree on getting some hangover food. She initially agrees to go to chik fil a, but later in the car starts talking about pizza. Since I'm hella hungover and the one driving, I insist on chik fil a and we go.
* Halfway through the relatively short drive, it was like she totally changed into a different person and became drunk. She started slumping in her chair, slurring her words, etc. I'll admit, at this point, I'm not really sure what's going on with her but I assumed it was the hangover finally hitting her, so I let it roll. When we get to the restaurant, she's acting so messed up she can hardly talk. We get to the person, and Sara has "lost" her debit card (I saw her handling her wallet in my car earlier in the trip. She was messing with what looked like debit or credit card, i don't know if she dropped it or whatever, but at this point I just want the trip to be over because I'm hungry). I pay because, hey, I insisted on the food anyway, and who cares, its 8 bucks.
* On the way back, her condition seems to get worse and she starts feeling me up in the car, rubbing my legs and my chest (and my breasts). I tell her to stop numerous times but she doesn't, and says repeatedly, "I can't help it" and "I'm dominant, I can't help it". At this point I've already made the decision to never see or speak to her again. I just want the ride to end and get her away from me.
* I ask her, "Sara, why are you suddenly acting so drunk? You weren't drunk in my apartment earlier." She goes, "You don't know me, MakeShiftYolk. You don't know my life. Don't judge me" in an aggressive tone. I don't want anymore conflict, and I know it's definitely bullshit, so I just let it go and figure we'll be done and she can leave soon.
* We get to my apartment finally, and she spills the drink in the car while we were getting out, lemonade everywhere. She's acting like she can't stand, so I offer assistance. She declines. She then lays down on the ground spread eagle and asks, "can we just stay here for a few minutes". Losing my patience, I say we can chill in my apartment, but I didn't want to be hanging out in a parking lot eating chik fil a. She just lays there, so I wait for a while. I got fed up once and left her with the sandwich (should have stuck to it) but went back because I didn't know if she was really under the influence of something, and she'd be even more vulnerable like that, in a parking lot. There's not a ton of foot traffic by my apartment, but we are pretty close to down town so I didn't want her to be unsafe. Again, I urge her to go inside and she keeps telling me, "no".
* I ask her to give me her phone, I ask for the name of her therapist and I search it, and call them. It's a saturday so he or she doesn't answer (don't remember their name). So on my own phone, I call the hospital non-emergency line, asking to speak to a nurse since I was beginning to think Sara had either lost it or was much more messed up with alcohol than previously thought. Either way, I needed Drs. advice. They said they didn't really know what to tell me, but I could bring her in and see what they'd say, because it's hard to tell unless you're there on the scene. I say "thank you" for their time, and as I'm doing the call, I see Sara is talking on her phone, saying "a call has just been placed to you guys, and I want you to know that it's all fine, there's no emergency...." I ask her who she's speaking to, because it's beginning to dawn on me that there's no way she could have known which hospital I called, so whoever she's speaking to is the wrong person. She says she called 9-11, and so I tell her who I called, ask for her phone, and I speak to the 9-11 people and explain the situation.
* So when I first began talking to Sara, she explained that she had some mental health incidents in her past. I include this information in the call--at this point, her behavior is strange. I didn't see Sara drinking any alcohol that morning, yet she was acting like she was completely hammered, etc. Ruling out alcohol in why she was behaving how she was, I figured her mental health was important to include. And I'm not being judgemental, I have a similar history; it's what originally made me want to learn more about her in the first place... And I have alcohol in my fridge, I'm trying to figure out, "did she take a huge shot while I was extremely hung over?" No idea.
* After talking to the 9-11 operator, we try again to get back to the apartment and it's laborious. It takes forever, she's weaving through the alley and can't walk straight. I offer her help and she keeps declining. Finally we get to the door, I open it, and I'm kinda pissy at this point so I walk right through the stairwell and to the other door, but I notice she's not with me. I turn around, and she's poised at the top of the stairs to the basement with her hands up, like she's a cartoon being held at gun point, slowly tipping forward down the stair case. I cannot believe what the fuck I am seeing.
* She falls down 8 stairs. I call from the hall/thing, "Sara. Sara. Sara, did you just throw yourself down a flight of stairs?" No answer. Then I'm like, Oh shit, no answer. I run around the railing and down to her, and when I'm that close, I can see she's been bleeding. I wake her up. At this point, we are definitely going to the hospital, I don't care what she says, I'm at least calling some EMTs. She was bleeding from a wound on her head, and as I explained this to her she seemed a bit dazed. I tell her we gotta go to the hospital and she says "no, no no I can't go, they'll recognize me," etc. I ask why, and she says "because I did clinicals there". But when we first were talking, she said she went to college in a totally different state. Why would she do clinicals here? I just don't even call it out, but now she's either dazed or has been continuously lying to me. I really no longer want this person in my life at all, but I'm concerned about her safety. Finally, I just say "fuck it" and call dispatch and they send EMTs.

The process after that isn't really 100% relevant to the case, or to her claims. I can elaborate on those if anyone wants to know, but the most eventful thing was, she decided to ride with me to the hospital (because she doesn't have insurance and ambulance rides are expensive), I helped check her in, and later brought her her things she left in my car and pizza for dinner, since she didn't even get to have the chik fil a. She broke her ankle and her wrist, declined eyebrow stitches but got casts for the breaks. I offered to drive her back when she was discharged and she ended up getting a different friend to do that. I thought it was over with and I'd never have to deal with her again.

* Now, she's spreading rumors around to everyone at a bar we both frequent that I pushed her down the stairs. I got lucky because I overheard it and was able to confront her mid-story (I had an emotional reaction; I can't believe after everything I went through to make sure she was safe, that she would go and say shit like that to people who don't know me, and try to ruin my reputation). I also got lucky, because after I confronted her, she texted the person she spoke to saying to the effect of "sorry I lied about that" etc. The person she was speaking to found me, and sent me a screen shot of that text, so I have at least this much on my side. But what she's basically saying is that I assaulted her, which is definitely a fucking crime, and if anyone really gave a shit about anyone else, they'd report it (or, I would, or I'd encourage the would-be victim to report it). So now I'm worried that because of this dumb he said-she-said nonsense, I may be facing legal action. I just want to be prepared.

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Thanks for reading and taking the time. I know it's a long ass fucking story but I just didn't know what was or wasn't relevant.

Answer:
 There comes a time in everyone's life when they decide stupid drama is literally just that - stupid drama, and their own life is more important than worrying about what some crazy person says about you.

This would be a good time for you to reach that point. Your friends will know you will enough to know if you push people down stairs. Say as much if asked, and drop the subject. The more you feed this kind of thing with worry and discussion, the more it thrives. Ignore it and it really does die off.

Be a bit more selective about the people in your life, too. One actual friend is better than fifty people who think you might push people down stairs or think you and a crazy person are a good couple.


Title: Is it legal for a company to have you clock out for the day and then go through security in able to leave the building?

Question:
Hello everyone!

This is my first post so hopefully I get it right. My question is:

Is it legal for a company in Fort Worth Texas to have you clock out for the day and then go through security in able to leave the building?

After clocking out it takes anywhere from 3-15 minutes to get through security depending on how long the line to go home is or if security pulls you for a "random" scan and has you wait so they can use an x-ray type scanner on you.

Answer: Almost certainly. See: http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/10/business/supreme-court-rules-against-worker-pay-for-security-screenings.html


Title: Unhappy Craigslist buyer has sued my landlord?

Question:
This is in Wisconsin.

Several months ago I sold a laptop on craigslist to a very weird and neurotic middle aged man.  He performed a 45 minute inspection of the equipment and after deeming it satisfactory, purchased it.

Long story short, the laptop had had a little bit of water damage which was professional repaired.  I had initially taken the repair to apple, but they quoted me for basically replacing the entire laptop which I declined.  So I went elsewhere to have it repaired, paid about 1/3 of what apple wanted, and had a brand new working laptop again.

He claims that after bringing the laptop into an apple store to try and get some more information about the machine apple has told him that the machine "will undoubtedly fail at some point" since they did not repair it even though it still works, and functions like it is brand new.

He threatened things, demanded his money back or that I pay apple's repair cost and I just blocked him and went on with my life.

A few days ago I get an e-mail from my landlord saying that he has received some weird things in the mail, and then on this past Monday, confirmed that there has been a small claims court case filed against him.   We assume that he was able to figure out my address somehow and then used the tax filings for the property to file his case.

My understanding of WI law says that the misfiling will be immediate grounds for dismissal?

If the case is dismissed, is that that or do I need to worry about this guy trying to figure out who I am and refiling another case if he can actually figure out who I am.

I am really not worried about having to defend myself if need be but I would rather just avoid the whole situation if possible.

Thanks.

Answer: Well, he didn't sue to the right person, so the landlord has to go deal with this in court.  The landlord isn't obligated to tell him who the right person to sue is, but isn't barred from doing so either.  So... talk to your landlord.


Title: Sugar Babies - Too Unethical for the Bar?

Question:
I am currently a 1L in a Virginia law school, and one of my classmates is in a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby arrangement with an established attorney. The Daddy is married, no kids, and uses SD/SB relationships to have the sex he cannot get in his marriage. (Apparently they have a mostly platonic marriage that does not satisfy his needs.) He pays her large sums of money for a sexual relationship, with the explicit rule that she is not to contact his wife in any way. From what I understand, it's "Keep Your Mouth Shut and Have Sex with Me" money. Furthermore this attorney has offered my classmate the opportunity to go on work trips with him as well as other forms of non-monetary compensation.

The Baby has since told several classmates (including me) about her arrangement, even going so far as to disclose the name of the attorney she's seeing. Thus far, I've heard multiple attorneys say that disclosure to the Bar is the best route for success, and that purposefully withholding a potential ethics violation from the bar could involve serious consequences.

I have two questions: 1) Is her relationship with this attorney a sufficient ethics violation to require reporting? How would you classify this relationship (does it constitute prostitution, for example), and do you think the Bar cares to know about those kinds of relationships?

2) If you do think it's a violation, should I report it, or should I leave it alone? Phrased differently, will biting my tongue hurt me, in the long run? I don't enjoy the thought of being a whistleblower for something that might ruin someone's career, but I also don't feel comfortable being complicit in an unethical situation this early in my career. Any advice you have is appreciated.

Answer: I do not think that you, as a non-admitted bar candidate, have an ethical obligation of your own to report another candidate's behavior.  Unless you determine I'm wrong and you do, I would recommend staying out of it.


Title: Parents refusing to give kids food unless they be religious

Question: Edit: I am in Connecticut. I (F21) have been bringing food to my cousins, M16 + F14 for the past 3 days because their parents are extremely religious and are refusing to give them food unless they pray to god and do other religious things. I can't afford to keep buying them food and I've tried to talk to their parents and theres no use. Please help

Answer:
 You can call CPS. That would be your next stepAnswer #2: CPS.  Do it immediately.  If a parent withholds food (or only provides it as a reward for certain behavior) that's child abuse.Answer #3: Please call DCF.  This is absolutely unacceptable.

1-800-842-2288

https://portal.ct.gov/DCF/1-DCF/Reporting-Child-Abuse-and-Neglect

I'm serious.  Pick up the phone and call now.  You don't need "evidence" or to "prove" anything.  You have a legitimate concern that children are being abused or neglected.  Please call them.  The line is open 24/7.  I've called it many times.  The report usually takes 5-10 minutes.Answer #4: Call CPS.  They will be very nice and listen to you explain what is going on.  They are there to help.


Title: Child support and the birth certificate

Question:
I'm the biological father of a child but would not like my name on the birth certificate or in any kind of public record. I'm happy to pay child support and can reach an agreement with the mother without a court ordered process.

'm happy to pay child support but I don't want to acknowledge paternity officially. I do not want anyone to know I have a child. I do not want any record of it to show up with a background search.

The mother is fine with this. So can I give her money without attracting a gift tax liability?

Answer:
 what the hell are you talking about?

you're the father.

one way or another you're going to wind up on the birth certificate eventually. for example, if you're not listed now and the child needs to apply for public aid (Medicaid or food stamps, say), the state can, and will, file a paternity suit and get you listed. you'll then be stuck with a support order.

also, holding yourself out as the father and providing the child's support can, in many cases, trigger a paternal obligation regardless of biology.

> Ie no gift tax due.

first, child support is not a gift, it is an obligation to the child.

second, gift taxes are paid by the giver. see the IRS website: https://www.irs.gov/Businesses/Small-Businesses-&-Self-Employed/Frequently-Asked-Questions-on-Gift-Taxes

third, court-ordered child support is still taxable to the payor as income.

you are the father, or you are not. if you are, fucking act like it.Answer #2: No you don't pay gift tax on child support, court ordered or not.


Title: I know it's a scam, but just in case...

Question:
So I think I'm getting a variant of that tinder scam, but before I ignore it I just want to make sure, just in case this isn't a scam, that I have some sort of legal leg to stand on. So here's what happened:

Recently single, I signed up for a dating app called MeetMe

Started talking to this cute girl on there whose profile says she's 20

exchange numbers

She sends me a picture of her in her underwear (totally unsolicited btw)

Demands a dick pic from me

This is where I first get the idea that this might be a scam but dick wins out over brain in the end

I send the pic

No response

Few days later I get a call from someone claiming to be her step father

Says that she's 16 and that I should call him

Immediately call him

Rambles on and on, then asks for $800 to repair a laptop

Green Dot card

So now I'm like 90% sure this is a scam, but I'm aware that this is quite a serious charge, so I want to make sure my bases are covered.

Answer:
 If you know it's a scam, why are you asking?

This gets posted so often there's a link in the sidebar.


Title: So i've been taking adderall for a while now, and recently failed a UA test while on probation. The thing is i got my own prescription maybe two weeks later? Am i screwed or will be in trouble? (In Texas)

Question:
Edit: Update, so i asked her if i could send her a picture of the prescription and my PO said "Yeah, that's fine."

I'm an idiot, I meant to write am i screwed or *will i not* be in trouble?

Second Edit: Type of answers i'm looking for range from: "you will get a slap to the hand" to "5 years in jail" Not just that i'm screwed.

Update: So a big FUCK YOU to all you front page subreddit user who think they are so righteous and wished i went to jail and got in trouble. I'm not a fucking junky just a college student with a heavy workload. My probation officer was cool about it and i'm still here kicking.

Answer: You're pretty screwed there. Getting a prescription after the fact doesn't invalidate your illegal use. Talk to your attorney.


Title: [New Jersey] Car was towed for DWI but I was under limit and let go.

Question: Hey all, I need some help.. So the other day, I was arrested for "driving under the influence".. They arrested me and took me back to the station. During this time, the police had my car towed under "Reason towed: DWI". When I arrived to the station, they took a breathalyzer test and I passed. They realized that I was not intoxicated. When I was let go, they slapped me with a careless driving ticket and a failure to observer traffic lanes ticket. When they let me go, they had informed me that my car had been towed... I had to end up paying for the $185 to get my car towed. I know they made the mistake of towing my car assuming that I was drunk. How can I get this money reimbursed?? Please help.. I am broke!

Answer: You can't get this money reimbursed. This is the cost of being arrested.Answer #2: When you say you passed, were you under the drink drive limit, or had zero alcohol in your system?


Title: Moving into apartment wth PO Box required, few questions on license, registration, etc.

Question:
I'm about to move into an apartment in Pennsylvania on my own for the first time and I have no idea how having a PO Box will affect me. I have an address for where I live(it's more of a duplex than apartment) but there's no mailbox for it and I need to set up a PO Box.

Since I'm moving to another state, I need to change my drivers license, registration, insurance, bills, etc. I've noticed recently when enrolling for insurance for my company that I cannot use a PO Box. So my question is what can I do about that? Use the building address? Won't various places send mail to that address and thus causing it to be non-deliverable?

Answer:
 Is this place even a proper apartment that's been zoned for residential use? If it's an illegal apartment, and code enforcement gets wind of it, it could cause quite a bit of a headache for you. This just feels like someone took some commercial building and made "apartments" out of it.

Whomever owns this duplex or whatever it is (since you're calling it a duplex), can easily get two different mailing addresses established for it, if it's a legal residence. But they *have* to have a mail receptacle for the building. You should definitely call the postmaster.

I bet you anything that these apartments aren't legal and that's why they don't want you to use it as your residence address. Is the rent super cheap in comparison to similar units in regards to size and location? Is this the only residential unit in the middle of a commercial zone? Does any of the construction inside look kinda cheaply done or slapped together in any way? Do you have your own full kitchen and bathroom in the unit?


Title: My mom’s lawyer resigned in the middle of a bankruptcy case, after being paid up front, anything she can do? [TX]

Question: So my mom filed for bankruptcy about 3 months ago, and is in the middle of the case, the court hasn’t even finalized the payment plan. She paid 25k up front, the lawyer has accompanied her to like 3 court appearances, and has only been communicating via email. Today the lawyer resigned, after yesterday getting notice that they have another hearing on the Jan 2nd, to which they needed to respond to by the 27th (the lawyer did not respond before resigning). Is there anything my mom can do legally? The lawyer took the money up front and then without asking for more or giving any reason she resigned from the case, again via email.

Answer:
 You mother can ask for a refund of the fees that have not been accounted for during the lawyer's preparation of the case.  Then, your mother can get a new lawyer.Answer #2: I think you have the facts wrong.

> She paid 25k up front

That's an outrageously large fee for a personal bankruptcy, and I can't imagine the court approving it unless it's a hugely complex and difficult Chapter 13 case - and even then I think the court would at least balk at approving the fee.

> The lawyer took the money up front and then without asking for more or giving any reason she resigned from the case

No, she did not. That's not how things work. A lawyer in a bankruptcy case must obtain the court's permission to withdraw (quit), and she must have a valid reason...and "I don't wanna" isn't valid.


Title: Help I don't know what to do I may lose access to my children and/or go to jail

Question:
So I'm in Alabama and it started yesterday. My children are with my in-laws and I'm not allowed to see them met with detective today for interview. I'm not child abuser and some how this got blown up. Should I lawyer up I don't know what to do I haven't been able to sleep or eat and I don't know what to do I just want to fix this and get my family back. I'll do anything.

So yesterday I was sending my children off to school remembering that they both needed medicine due to a small cough and stuffy nose. I told them to come back inside and gave child 1 medicine then proceed to give child 2 medicine stating before I gave it to her not to spill it on her. She did as kids do and spilled it on her so I angrily told her to go wash her face she stood there with a dumbfounded look in her face so I grabbedon't the collar of her jacket and gave her a push towards the bathroom but instead I ended up pushing her on top of boxes that were in the hallway. She got up saying nothing about being hurt or anything like that. I want and checked on her in the bathroom and saw she had some on her jacket too so I took off her backpack and jacket and told her to find another one. She put the other one on and left for the buss. I go to work and then I get a call and I come home to find my wife in tears and my kids were at my in-laws already. My child had an abrasion on her chin and told the teacher it was because I picked her up and threw her down the hall from over my head. I'm a large man and in no way would I have done that at all.

Please let me know if you need any more info.

Edit: added context

Answer:
 Lawyer.  Don't pass go, don't collect 200 dollars, go straight to a lawyer.

CPS knows kids embellish stories and the injuries you describe don't match a story of the injuries a small child would have if they were picked up and thrown.  You will still want a lawyers help with this when they find out that you shoved your kid into some boxes, as that may cause CPS to disagree with the statement "I'm not a child abuser."

Now with that said a bit of personal advice: Go see a therapist.  You shoved your kid hard enough to have an abrasion on her face and didn't even notice.  It was bad enough for a teacher to notice so it couldn't be too small.  And the reason for you shoving your daughter is because she spilled some medicine and she is so scared of you she didn't tell you that she was hurt?  Yeah sorry dude but it sounds like you need some anger management help. You owe it to your daughter to be a better man.


Title: Trying to “return” a car I just financed with a dealership

Question:
Car is used. State is NJ. Friday I signed to finance a used car and called within 24 hours telling them the car was not right for me - It isn’t. There are a couple things wrong with the car (pretty minor - alignment slightly off, one reverse light out, some slight noise when engine is running, charging plug in is broken, and near bald tires), but mainly I paid way too much, 10k, for an 80k mile car with a 23% APR. I put down $2500. I saw after going home there were much better deals for the same car at other dealerships.

It was obviously a bad buy, but I was not in a great mindset when purchasing. Neither the words “Annual Percentage Rate” nor “APR” were said once during my entire time there. I completely forgot that existed since I was focused on other things.

I see nothing in the contract about returning or cancellation. It seems to be mostly stuff from the bank I’ll be paying to. I called within 24 hours on Saturday telling my salesperson that I this car was not right for me, and they said they would have to call the bank to make sure my information was not sent to them. If it wasn’t, I’d be able to return it. This call was near closing time for them so he said he’d call the bank immediately but call me Monday morning when they open again. I’m not sure what to do, I just want to reverse what was done and get my deposit bank and get out of the loan and give them the car back.

Answer:
 There is no cooling off period. I wouldn't be surprised if you signed a form saying exactly that

 It's your car now.


Title: Can my employer withhold my pay if I quit without notice? Utah

Question:
I’m quitting my job tomorrow because my boss berated me in front of many people and called me names just because I won’t work or run errands off the clock (which to my understanding is illegal) and said many other inappropriate things. I’ve worked there for 2 years but it’s entry level so I’m not worried about losing the job because I already have a couple offers.
My main worry is that my boss will withhold my last paycheck or try to prolong me receiving the check because she’s crazy.....and she’s done it to other employees who quit without notice who were too naive to do anything about it.
She also steals tips from the employees ($17,000 this year alone)...shorts their checks...all kinds of shady things so that’s why I’m asking.

If she does try to withhold my pay is it illegal? How long until they have to pay me after I quit? I’m in SLC, UT
I just want to be prepared. Thank you!

Answer:
 In Utah, when an employee is fired from their job, the unpaid wages of the employee become due immediately, and the employer must pay the employee their final paycheck within 24 hours of the time of separation.

If an employee quits, the final paycheck is due on the next regular payday.


Title: Legally getting married to live off campus

Question:
Merced, California

Edit: After 'heavy' consideration, we dont want to risk financial aid nor our credit. Thanks

Hello,

My friend(A) and I might end up going to the same university (not because of each other). We both wish to live off campus however the school has a policy that students have to live on campus for their first 2 years of school unless you are 21, married, have a biological child, is a legal guardian of a minor, have 2 years of college credits (62 units) from an accredited school.

Now I believe those are majority of the requirements but the main requirement we are looking in is the married one. We were wondering if there could be any legal repercussions if A and I decide to marry in court just to be able to live off campus.

We won't be forging any documents but do plan to divorce after. Is there a big concern on what we wish to do?
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 This comes up every semester on this subreddit.  The last one I remember reading was really hyped about being able to take shortcuts to the classroom buildings that are apparently only for married students.

People marry in part for the economic benefits all the time.  It's often for eligibility for health insurance.   There's nothing unlawful about marrying in order to be eligible for a housing benefit, especially if you move in with one another.

You'll be married, legally and truthfully.

If one of you is female and has a child, then the other will be that child's legal parent.

California is a "community property" state, so if you earn money, it will belong to you 50/50.  If you incur debts, those will be incumbent on you 50/50.  If one of you dies, the other will inherit their estate.

You're welcome to not explain to people you date, or have sex with, that you are married.

But if you do choose to marry again later, you will be compelled to disclose on your marriage license your previous marriage and provide evidence of divorce.  This could make for an uncomfortable discussion with your second spouse about how seriously you take marriage.


Title: Getting SO to drop petty theft charges?

Question: Long story short, gf and i got and a argument. I stole her purse and car keys, police called i was arrested, but i have since convinced her to try to get the charges dropped. Only catcher is one of my bail conditions was no contact till the court date. Hpw do i got about getting the charges dropped with out indicating any contact between then in the court date. Richmond,VA. Can give any other newded info

Answer:
 Your girlfriend can request that the charges be dropped, but the prosecutor's under no obligation to take her wishes into account.

Separately, pressuring the victim of a crime to withdraw their support for the criminal charges is exactly why you're subject to a no contact order. The exact thing you want to do is comprehensively blocked. If the prosecutor believes they have evidence that you contacted her to ask that she "drop the charges" while you're under the no contact order, you'll have some new and exciting charges to deal with on top of your existing trouble.

Instead, get a lawyer, defend the charges or negotiate a plea bargain or diversion, and stop stealing your girlfriend's stuff.


Title: An ex coworker isn’t paying my girlfriend back.

Question: So my girlfriend and I work at an Auto parts store, and about 6 months ago before I started working there, she loaned a coworker who she thought was a good trust worthy friend 3000 dollars because he was going through a tough time with vehicles and he told her he’d pay her back. She wrote him a check and then he disappears of the face of the planet. He was fired from the store because he was caught stealing tires. No where in writing does it say he would pay her back. Does she have a legal leg to stand on? And if so, what is the best way to go about this without spending more then the amount that was loaned? Thanks!

Answer:
 Yeah she can sue him in small claims court, but that money is as good as gone unfortunately. Answer #2: The surest way to never see anyone again is to loan them money.

3k to a coworker is insane, no collateral or paperwork is something I just can't even fathom.

I don't know if this is recoverable, I would be shocked if it is


Title: [PA] How do you fight your own union?

Question: When every avenue seems to require going thru that very own union!?

Answer:
 Are you accusing them of doing something illegal or just something you don't like?

If it's something you don't like, then yes, you handle it through the union.


Title: Ex-Employer Sent An Intent To Sue Letter For Lost Office Key. How To Respond? (MA)

Question:
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Topic:
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Answer: They're not taking it out of your wages, they're suing you for the cost of re-keying the office and issuing new keys, which was only necessary due to your negligence. The laws you're referencing have absolutely nothing to do with what's going on here. When they do file the suit, you'll have to answer and go to court and try to explain why you should not be responsible for financial damages caused by your negligence.


Title: Child on child sexual abuse. (Kentucky).

Question:
I’m a 23yo man who was consistently abused by a peer who was a year older than me at school from 3rd grade through 8th grade. The peer used his popularity as leverage, hit puberty years before me, made me promise to not speak of it, and molested me with increasing consistency and intensity over the years. Ultimately he groomed me and for a time conditioned me to want the attention, and I have had severe and lasting effects on almost every aspect of my life because of it. I don’t think I show physical signs of trauma, though it has affected me physically from mental issues. I know he had some sexual experience with a child slightly younger than me at one point as well. He was only 1 year older than me, but completely manipulated me and abused me hundreds of times over about 7 years. He introduced me to sex, pornography, masturbation, the list goes on.

My parents caught wind of “something” happening at one point and said to me at 10 years that they didn’t want to hear about it because it was “between me and God”. I believe the predator’s mother knew it was happening.

I struggle to keep a job and have had (and continue to have) loads of relational and mental issues because of it. I have been to multiple therapists, diagnosed with OCD, and struggled with sleep disorders, daily flashbacks, and PTSD.

I have some friends who do not know the abuser, but believe me and have helped me work with the lasting effects of it.

What is usually used as evidence in these situations? How different will it be since he did it to me as a slightly older child? I fear kentucky courts would be fond of the idea of “he was a child and just took it too far”.  Am I even able to press charges because of the age he did it at? Am I able to press charges against his parents at some point for neglecting this and therefore allowing it to continue?

Answer: The fact that you were around the same age, and were both so young when this started, really complicates the issue. You can file a police report if you really want to, but I wouldn't expect much to come of it.


Title: (MN, USA) One party recording law - can a parent plant a "bug" on their kids legally?

Question:
So, I'm working with a friend who is going through a custody dispute with her ex over two kids.  The kids were just bought new iPhones, and we're honestly expecting the ex to install monitoring and recording software in the phones.

He's very much a controlling person, and it's likely he wants to not only know everything about all the calls they make, texts they send (in the past the kids have sent texts to their mom complaining that they or their step brother are being abused or are thinking about suicide) and pictures they take, but he probably also will install software that permits him to listen to and record any audio or video that happens in the vicinity of the phones regardless of whether they're in use or not.

IE, he's almost certainly going to set up the phones (which he will encourage/require the kids to carry 100% of the time, even when with their mother) as surveillance devices so he can spy on everything about the kids when he's not in the room with them.

I'm technically skilled enough to detect this spy software, and I can build a case/box to block their signal and keep them from recording anything.  Of course, the kids won't enjoy that, because again their father is going to send them texts/check on them using the phones, and them not answering because their phones are offline is just going to get them in trouble with him.

If you haven't guessed yet, he's giving the kids phones to further his control over them and his ex.

So... my actual question: MN is a one party recording state.  As long as one party in a conversation is aware that a recording is being made, it's legal to do so.

So, is it legal for my friend's ex to do what we expect him to do?  Can he be one party in a conversation on the kids behalf even if he's not physically present with them?

Background on custody is that thanks to his attorney and some legal maneuvering he currently has 100% legal and physical custody of the kids.  This is likely temporary while my friend waits for a trial, but in the meantime he continues to place as much stress on my friend as he can, partly so she can't oppose him in court as well, and partly because he likes it.

Given that the phones are property of the ex (most likely because the kids are minors) is it legal for me or another technician to examine the phones for surveillance software with only the kids' permission?

Thanks for any answers.

Answer:
 While the kids are in her care, she should put the phones in a [faraday bag](https://www.amazon.com/Black-Hole-Faraday-Bag-Anti-tracking/dp/B0091WILY0), stick them in the back of a drawer, and return them to the kids when sending them back to dad. Until and unless the custody order requires it, she doesn't have to allow his devices into her house.

If you want to go further and actually examine them, she should talk to her lawyer about it first. Inserting yourself into someone else's custody dispute is always a risky move, just to start, and I'm not confident that you can examine the software in the phones without running afoul of the CFAA.


Title: FL buyer claims vehicle is not as described (PayPal)

Question:
Hey, guys. I need some help.

I sold my 2003 All American Blue Bird school bus on eBay about a month ago and listed on the page everything that I knew was wrong with it (fuel injectors, radiator, etc,.). The buyer filed a dispute on PayPal recently with me and he's saying that it's been "grossly misrepresented." We both signed a document from HelloSign and it stated that the bus is sold "as is, where is." He is dead set on getting his money back and for me to pay his shipping costs.

What can I do? I feel like if I escalate it to PayPal straight away, they'll immediately side with the buyer (which is what I've heard they do pretty often). He had several chances to come look at the bus but never did.

Answer:
 You can make your case to paypal. If paypal sides with him you will have to sue him directly. If he attempts to ship it back to you do not accept it, don't sign for it, anything.

Does registration work like with other vehicles? If so has he registered it in his name?


Title: My ex husband and his wife are sabotaging my parenting

Question: I split from my ex 4 years ago. He has since then remarried and has a son with her. I got diagnosed with a mental illness (bipolar) after my son was born and my ex has used that as leverage since then. As part of the divorce, he is able to call my doctors and check up on me. 2 years ago I got help for depression and did not tell him. He found out and they took me to court. He convinced the judge to take part of my time away stating that my illness could take over at any time and I could go suicidal, but we are still joint conservators. After the custody changed, him and his wife moved almost an hour away causing me to move (he has primary residency). They withhold telling me about activities he is in and Just this year I got to start going to his swimming classes that he’s been taking for 4 years. My ex’s wife got mad at me because I went to my sons art show and his art was gone and I asked them about it which she took as harassment. They have a history of going to his school events and taking important things before I can ever see them. Since then (about a month ago) they have been sending harassing messages about my illness and the fact that I have less time with my son, they have switched his swimming class without telling me. Yesterday I found out his wife took my son to a new therapist without my knowledge or consent. The judge had ordered he see one for the transition, but it did not work out before and the decree says I choose who he sees. I only know because my son said he went with his step mom to a new doctor during lunch. I feel like the stepmom just hates me and will do anything to keep me out of things when I am doing nothing wrong. So I guess I just need advice on how to proceed when they are willfully neglecting our decree over and over by making big decisions without me, withholding important information from me, and intentionally changing his schedule so I can’t see him doing his sports. I am very stable and take medicine every night, see a therapist every other week, and see a psychiatrist every 3 months. The only reason they got more than half was because they convinced the judge of a future “possibility” based on zero facts. I even had a psych evaluation and the doctor said I was very good at knowing my symptoms and knowing when to get help. I have not been to the hospital for over 2 years. Any advice would be great. I want at least half time back if not more, because I feel like he is being used as a pawn.

Answer:
 Do you have a lawyer? You need one. It is not SOP for your ex to have access to your medical information. Answer #2: The operative phrase here is "legal custody." Do you know who has it? Based on your story, I would not be surprised if it's your ex.

If your ex has sole legal custody, he is probably 100% allowed to make major decisions without your consent or even against your wishes. (YMMV based on local law.)


Title: [California] my business account was levied for a old personal medical debt, can they levy my business account?

Question: I live in USA, California. I had a old medical debt that all of the sudden levied my business account wich is only in the business's name. They were able to levy $10k.  The business is a sole proprietorship, but can my business account be legally levied for a debt unrelated to it? Why didn't they go for my personal account?

Answer: If they can prove that the funds in that account being solely to you, then they can absolutely levy it.


Title: How are those "24/7 King of the Hill/Futurama/South Park" live channels on Youtube legal?

Question: As in, how are they still up and not immediately closed down within minutes on YT? Seems like an obvious copyright violation.

Answer:
 They're almost assuredly not.

They're still up because the copyright holder either hasn't seen them or hasn't decided to pursue them.


Title: Los Angeles. Have a Carbon Monoxide leak in the apartment complex laundry room causing my wife to become sick. The landlord isn't fixing it. What do I do?

Question:
My wife was feeling sick for a while and she was the one who spent most of the time in the laundry room. When we left for the holidays she quickly recovered. We looked up her symptoms and they matched perfectly with carbon monoxide poisoning.

So, when we got back we immediately called the gas people and they came and inspected our apartment. They found nothing in our apartment. But they went out to check the water heater which is located in the laundry room and found a massive gas leak.

The gas guy turned off the water heater and gave us a form stating what he found. We quickly sent this to the landlord and the maintenance guy for our complex. They said they'll check it out.

The next day they stated they looked at it and didn't have the part to fix it so they had to order it. That was two weeks ago and nothings been changed. The water heater has been running and they haven't even placed a sign on the door warning other tenants.

I'm really bad and inexperienced with this type of stuff. What should I do and who should I talk to?

Answer:
 This is not an ordinary code violation, it is an urgent safety risk.

Call the fire department and tell them you have a known carbon monoxide leak in an enclosed common room in a multi-family residence.    They will bring a truck and their "air unit" with nifty sniffers and big fans.

Not tomorrow, not tonight.   Today.

If the problem still exists, whether with a malfunctioning heater or an actual natural gas leak, the fire department has the authority to evacuate the building until the landlord proves the problem is fixed.   Having to pay for every resident's hotel room will motivate the landlord very effectively.Answer #2: Did you call the fire department yet?Answer #3: Report it to city/county code enforcenent.Answer #4: Here:
>For code violations regarding properties with two or more dwelling units (duplexes and apartment buildings), please contact the Los Angeles Housing + Community Investment Department at (866) 557-7368.

Or online: https://www.ladbsservices2.lacity.org/OnlineServices/?service=rav


Title: Drivers license revoked - I heard it catches up to you if you do this sometimes....

Question:
Hi! I lived and obtained a drivers license legally in IL when I turned 16. But by the time I was 20, I was revoked. The causes for my revocation were moving violations(speeding, improper lane change, following to close, dwls), which led to me being suspended twice and the third suspension(which leads to revocation in IL) was based on drinking tickets I received as a minor. (Consumption of alcohol by a minor x4) This was all in 2005, making me eligible to get my license back in Oct of 2006 .  In 2006, I was arrested again for possession of a controlled substance earlier in the year(May) and was admittedly addicted to heroin. I had kicked the habit when I was arrested.  When I went to go get my license back, I was told that I had to complete a DUI treatment course, even though I was never charged with or drove under the influence, so I did. This took all of 2008, as I had to complete 125? (I may be off by a little bit, it’s been awhile) hours of DUI treatment because I was an addict to heroin previously, therefore classifying me as a level 3 high risk driver. I went to see a hearing officer for my informal hearing to attempt to get my license back, on my own with no lawyer, and was denied for multiple reasons. I had told the evaluator and the hearing officer two different amounts of consumption for alcohol and weed so the state told me I was lying to someone and therefore diminished my credibility. It was discouraging and I said fuck it, continuing on with life by riding my bike or walking to work and relying on people for rides. I did fine for 6 years and then once again tried for my license in late 2014. I had to repeat the previous process over again, I went to a dui evaluator, got a level 3 high risk label, did 75 hours of treatment and aftercare in the first half of 2015, then went to a hearing officer without a lawyer for an informal hearing. I wasn’t completely denied this time around though and had been given the opportunity of a hardship license aka I can drive to work, my kids school, and their daycare at certain times of the day. The hardship license was given to me and valid from July 2016- July of 2017.  I unfortunately was arrested with this hardship in August of 2016, because I took too long to get home from my work one night. I had made a stop afterwards for an hour en route to my home.  I was caught driving outside of my scope of limitations. I assumed that when my hardship license expired that I would just have to go back to the hearing officer at the DMV and do another informal or an update of some sort. Turns out I have to do another alcohol and drug evaluation to repeat all these steps again before I go to do an informal hearing for the third time, in which, from what I hear, I will be denied full privileges again based on the arrest for driving outside my limitations. I’m at my wits end with the legal aspects of all this. I had an opportunity to move out of state, to Texas, and took it. I’ve been told that if I go to the DMV out here and say I never had a license, that I will get a valid license in Texas and that my previous license won’t stop me from driving “legally” out here. I know this is risky and can catch up to oneself if I get pulled over and an officer runs my name in IL. I want to know if there is a legit easier way to do this legally or do I really have to keep going through this frustrating bullshit. I had heard from an Illinois lawyer that there is an “out of state” packet that one can obtain but even then you may be denied a license in the new state your moving to, based on their laws and regulations.

Never had a DUI, just consumption of alcohol by a minor tickets <——people always ask

What could I possibly do to make my life normal once again?

Answer:
 We certainly won't recommend lying to the Texas DMV.Answer #2: Go get a lawyer.

You've been trying to navigate the process on your own for a very long time, and it doesn't seem to be working out for you too well.

Time to turn it over to someone who can.

Hire an attorney.  Give him the facts.  And do exactly what he says.


Title: Not allowed to sell my shares without approval from my employer and not getting permission either

Question:
HI

I live in Ontario/Canada and joined a US bank ( it has a branch in Canada) few months back. Also , I am regular investor and before joining this company I invested my money in stocks. Now, I am facing the issue that I am not allowed to sell off my stocks without getting the permission and I am not getting the permission either .This mean that I will lose all of my investment ( around 5000 USD).

I understand the concept of insider trading and approval process. And after I joined the company I have stopped buying shares all together but what ever investments I made prior to joining the company I need to sell them off other wise I will loose all of money.

My main issue is this issue is about the investment I made when I didn't have knowledge of my future company. And out of sudden my investments are being wiped off.

Can you please suggest how should I approach this problem so that I can sell my shares.

Thanks

Answer:
 Insider trading laws apply to both buying and selling of stocks.

If you purchased stocks before you had insider info, then acquire insider information, you will only be able to trade those stocks during small windows that usually open after the company announces earnings or major good/bad news to the public.

Until then, it is completely legal for any person that has insider information to be barred from trading.

You have no legal recourse.

If you wanted to avoid the risk of getting stuck, you should have liquidated your stock holdings before becoming an insider - and yes, I know that Monday morning quarterbacks are a dime a dozen.


Title: Mom(42F) is in jail. How can I get my(22F) brother (16M) to me safely?

Question:
So I live in California and just found out my mom got sent to jail for "assault and battery on a spouse". She has a long history BPD and abusing her ex-husband (my dad). My dad wasn't any more innocent in the past but prior to this she had him sent to jail for abuse which is just really ironic to me now. My dad and mom split up in 2014 and she's been at his throat with child support and custody ever since. She's now with her new husband (59) and assaulted him earlier today.

That all aside, my brother is basically me and my dads life... But he lives with her. We've been waiting till my brother is 18 to whisk him away from the bum fuck town she has him in but hopefully this can make it a little sooner.  I'm not sure how visitation is with them. She takes him and only lets us see him maybe a weekend every other month if she feels like it. Its just been really hard.

He's currently at a friends house until later today. I don't want him to go back to the house where her current husband is and I don't want to interfere legally in the custody war. What I want to know is how to get this boy without fucking my dad over or letting my dad know what's going on. Anything would help.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 Without knowing the actual custody order, the best thing you can do is help your dad pay for a family law attorney to try to get more custody. Answer #2: Your brothers dad (your dad too?) is the custodial parent if your mother is not available. He needs to consent to you assuming guardianship. You unfortunately are not able to petition for custody of him unless your father is involved. Your brother will need to be taken into the foster system and only if they opt to place him with you, can you assume custody  in this situation. If you are our of state, they are not likely to place him with you unless your father becomes involved.

Your father must petition for custody, then grant you legal guardianship. When your mother is released, she will be able to petition for custody or revoke your guardianship if your father was not given custody of him.

It may sound counterintuitive here, but siblings can not petition for custody when there is an available parent, even a homeless one.


Title: Ex husband took kids and put a restraining order on me. ARIZONA

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >The judge released myself and my boyfriend as there was no probable cause for our arrest.

The Judge released you because they didn't see you as a threat to run. That doesn't absolve you of the fact the police showed at your house and there was drug paraphernalia in plain view with children present.

Get an attorney because your ex-husband likely has temporary custody until your felonies are resolved.

You did this. Not your ex-husband. You're not as innocent as you may believe you are.

P.S. The children had access to a bong. It likely had drugs in and/or around it.


Title: Need help with font laws. I illustrated and formatted a book for a writer. A publisher picked up the book and wants the native files and fonts packaged and sent to them so they can change things if they want.

Question:
So I'm super excited that the book was picked up by a publisher and will be traditionally published rather than self published, but I'm worried about the licenses of the fonts I used in the book. I used 3 different typefaces, two were purchased online and I have the license to produce commercial work at unlimited quantities, and the third is an Adobe font that came with my Adobe Creative Cloud subscription.

The writer has told me that I need to package the file that holds all the illustrations and fonts to be sent to the publisher. They just want to be able to tweak a few things on their own. I'm totally fine with them changing the design if they need to, but I'm worried about the licensing of the fonts.

I feel silly for not knowing how any of this works but copyright laws and all that is confusing to me. Is it okay to send the fonts to the publisher so they can tweak the book design if they need to, or do they need to purchase the fonts themselves to be able to use them?

Answer:
 Check the license terms of your fonts to see what they say about sub-licensing. If they do not explicitly allow you to sub-license (spoiler alert: They most likely won't), then you cannot legally send these fonts to someone else.

I would offer to point them where they can obtain their own copies of those fonts on their own dime if that's the case.


Title: Going through divorce. Wife's friend works at apartment complex and is harassing me with inspections. (NV)

Question:
In the past four months, I have had four "annual inspections" so far. I get a notice on my door saying they will be entering in 48 hours in order to inspect what may need to be repaired or replaced when I move out. I will be moving out next month so they will want to do another inspection, which means five in five months. Does this sound right to anyone?

And here's a real kicker - my key stopped working one day. I had to contact the office and they had to replace the lock. They claimed it was a "rusty spring mechanism" but now my soon-to-be-ex is saying I locked her out of the place because they changed the key, even though she hasn't been here in 4 months.

I'm thinking of either confronting the apartment office and asking who authorized each of the inspections, or just going to my attorney and seeing what she can do (but that's super expensive).

Anyone have advice?

Answer:
 No legal advice, but a good analogy for dealing with people who want to control you. Its a tug match where you both are holding an end of a rope. Just drop the rope and they have no more control. Move out, move on. Best of luck to you through this difficult time.Answer #2: You're moving out next month and move out inspections are common practice, so I'd just brush it under the rug and move on.  As for the lock, if you're afraid she'll try to claim you changed the locks to bar her from entry, try to get some kind of documentation from the office that states you had a "rusty spring mechanism" and give that to your attorney to hold on to just in case.

Edit to add that I don't mean five inspections in five months for move out is normal, it's not.  I just mean the last inspection they're planning on doing is common practice and you're moving out next month so your best bet in this situation is to just ignore it and move on.


Title: Breast Pump Caught Fire

Question:
Ok so I want to know how best to proceed based on my wife's breast pump catching fire in my house, and I'm thinking you guys could give me some advice.

So were sitting on the couch when suddenly the breast pump plugged in next to us catches on fire. I react quickly and grab it and unplug it from the wall and throw it outside while it is still smoking. Overall there is no damage to anything just an awful smell of smoke on all of our furniture. We were using the pump in accordance with everything in the manual.

What kind of communication should I have with the pump vendor/maker? We are well within the warrantee, but I don't exactly want the same pump back. Also, it seems like they should owe us something for the smell, but that's not really quantifiable.

If we hadn't been sitting right there, it could have cost us the house.

What should my next step be, considering it didn't turn out that severely?

Location: massachusetts

Answer:
 Great tits of fire!

I'd start with a very politely worded letter to the company laying out the facts of what happened.

Next steps will depend upon what they respond with. I'd suspect they'd love to know about this so as to prevent it happening to others!


Title: Southern Georgia, USA. My 17 year old son was arrested at school...

Question:
My son initiated a fight by pushing another student.  They both walked away after the push.

The kid claims he was beat up by my son and that my son had him on the ground, beating him. The thing is, people saw them both leave after the push. The kid apparently exaggerated about what happened to him. There was no blood, no torn clothing, no bruises.

My son's story? They were arguing and other kid called him a "fuck boy". This kid also threatened via facebook to have my son "jumped" and threats like the boy was going to "beat his ass in the cafeteria". Anyway, my son admits he made a mistake by allowing his temper to get the best of him and he made a bad decision by turning to violence. So he apologized and served his 5 day out-of-school suspension.

 Upon returning to school my son was arrested and charged with simple battery. No one called me. I had no idea until my son called me from the county jail. I bailed him out and took him back to school.

We plan on getting a lawyer but I need more information now. I have no idea if he is being charged as a minor or an adult. Should I get copies of the reports from school? He has never been in trouble with the law before. He has been involved in fights at school but never has he been the aggressor.  My child was bullied for his speech impediment and various other things for years and we firmly stand by our decision to allow him to protect and defend himself but we know this is different because he initiated the physical altercation. He is not perfect but he didn't deserve the embarrassment of getting arrested at school.

Here's the thing that bothers me most of all: my son has had plans to attend a Youth Challenge academy in January. He told the school as much before they punished him with the suspension. I feel like the arrest was done to keep him out of that program. The school knows that if he on on probation or charged with anything he cannot attend this program.

Also, My son has an IEP (has had an IEP since kindergarten) and is a special education student. His IEP states that he has a disorder that leads to impulsive decision making. I'm not making excuses for him. He knows he messed up. I just need to know how to help him.

What do I do now?

Answer:
 The school has nothing to do with the arrest. The school dealt with it but suspension. The district attorney is now pressing charges because he assaulted someone. The school has nothing to do with it at this point. They had no control over his being or not being arrested.

Get an attorney to deal with it.


Title: Am I legally required to take care of my disabled sibling?

Question:
Since I was in middle school, my parents have always talked to me about having to take care of my autistic brother when I’m older.  I’m currently a college student and this topic has come up a lot in my house recently. However, as selfish as it sounds, I don’t want to take care of him . He’s functioning enough to take care of himself without supervision in the right environment, but my parents have always done every little thing for him and expect the same of me. He  gets agitated very easily when he doesn’t get what he wants and usually kicks/hits and throws things. I’m worried about having him in my home once I start my own family.  I’ve considered community living options, but they’re all too expensive for me considering I’ll be living off of a teacher salary once I graduate.
Once my parents die, will I become his legal guardian? If so, will I be required to care for him? Can I get any type of finical assistance if I do?
I love my brother dearly, but I already know I won’t be able to provide the care he needs while living the life I want to. I’ve tried talking to my parents about other options but they’re dead set of me being my brothers sole caregiver. My other family members won’t be willing to help. This is something that has been stressing me out for years and I just need some answers.
Topic:
Disability Issues

Answer:
 You won’t become his legal guardian unless you want to be. No one can force it upon you.Answer #2: You will not become his legal guardian when they die, and you have no obligation to provide care or financial support for him whatsoever.Answer #3: If they both die, you don't have to care for him. You can call Social Services and get him the resources he needs so he can be in assisted or community living — but you don't have to take him into your home or become his caretaker.Answer #4: Tell your parents that you've realized that you are not in a place to fully care for your brother, and that it is time to start making decisions for him to reside in either a group home or other living situation.  If he is high functioning, do you mean he functions high enough to hold down some sort of job, and can contribute to his own care?

There are group homes that are perfect for high functioning but not fully functioning adults.  Depending his situation, he may be able to live in one of those, or even in a somewhat supervised situation.

The local school district should be able to assist with transition to adulthood.


Title: Pit bull divorce lawyer

Question: I am looking to find a pit bull lawyer who isn't afraid to fight for their client. My case is in kitsap county Washington. So I am willing to get pierce county or king county if I have to. The lawyer I have from kitsap is not willing to fight only wants to take my money never defending me.

Answer:
 If the sole qualification you're looking for in a lawyer is aggression, I foresee your pending divorce going well for you...Answer #2: Dog Law specialist here.

Pit Bulls are surprisingly friendly.

You want a Chihuahua lawyer.


Title: My Mom is Trying to Kick Me Out

Question:
Hello. I am 20 from Indiana. Recently, my mom and I have been butting heads. For backstory, I quit college, tried working temp jobs, and later joined an IT trade school and completed that. It offers 10 certifications and I completed 8 (average student obtaining 6) and I'm nearing the end of when I can take these certs. One of these certifications being extremely difficult that I don't believe I'll be able to obtain.

My mother has recently gotten extreme. She threatens to take away my car, phone, computer (which i paid for), and especially my cats (which she stated were mine because she did not want them). Today she took away my cats and gave them to someone. She told me that if I didn't get those last two certs I would never get them back but if I did then I could have them back if I paid her for everyday they were not here.

The end goal in the IT program was for me to get a job, but it seems none of that matters anymore. I've been applying for numerous jobs and just yesterday I applied for a total of 25. Recently she has threatened to kick me out that if she said "get out" right now she could call the police if I did not comply. She recently quit her job and has two other kids living here besides me  (15 and 16 years younger than I am).

I don't know what to do. My friends offer to house me while I look for a job, but at the same time those cats are my whole world. Please help. Thank you.

Answer:
 You are an adult and a legal tenant. If she wants you out, she has to evict you thru the proper legal channels.

Because you are an adult, you have a right to your own stuff. She can not give away your cats because they belong to you and as an adult, you get to legally own stuff and have the right to not have them stolen from you.

It sounds like you should move out. This also sounds more like a relationship problem than anything else.

Legally speaking, since you are an adult, your mother has as much legal control over you as I, a random internet stranger, does. If I stole your cats and gave them away, you could sue me for their value. If I kept your stuff from you, you could call the cops for theft. Those are all options that you have when dealing with your mother.

Once again, you should move out.


Title: (GA) Employer isn't doing anything about bullying/harassment

Question:
I live in Georgia (the state, not the country) and work at a quick lube oil change place. For the past 1-2 months, a co-worker of mine has been verbally harassing me (i.e. making fun of my type 1 diabetes, calling my girlfriend a bitch and a whore, yelling at me for no reason causing me to get in trouble sometimes for something I didn't do, etc.), and now it's turned into threats of physical violence from him. I have barely ever spoken to this guy and have never done anything to provoke this (I have most of my other co-workers on my side about this). I have gone to management many times and they will not do anything about it. Yesterday, him and I had a small argument (that he started by the way), and I left work early because he was trying to fight me after that and I didn't want that to happen. All I did was tell him.to back off and  leave me alone. I have spoken to management once again about the situation and got the standard scripted "We'll look into it" response and nothing is happening. Do I have anything here? Is there anything else I can do? I'm actually scared to go back to work because I don't know how this guy will be when I go back.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 >threats of physical violence from him

Dude. Call the police when he threatens violence. Threatening to harm somebody is illegal. It's that simple.Answer #2: They obviously don't care. You have to realize that some employers will value you and others won't. Find one that will


Title: Hypothetical situation involving banks.

Question:
(California) So today I went to my bank to deposit some cash. I had $3700 total. I asked the clerk to put $3000 in my checking and $700 into my savings account. By mistake he put $3000 into checking and $1700 into my savings. I didn't notice until I got into my car and checked the receipts. I immediately went inside and told him because a.) it seemed like the right thing to do and b.) I didn't want him to get into any trouble. He was grateful I came back and he fixed his error.

If I hadn't gone back in, what would have happened? Would I have been able to keep the extra $1000 or would the bank have taken the money from my account?

Answer:
 The bank would have realized and taken the money out. There is no magic money fairy that gives free money at the bank. Even if you didn't say anything and spent it they would have overdrawn your account and charged you an overdraft fee.

Answer #2: They'd have figured it out when the teller reconciled the accounts at the end of the day and debited your account for the error. I'm sure the teller was grateful, though. You saved him from having to stay late looking for the error and avoided the subsequent write-up.


Title: Can I legally pick flowers from parking strips? (Grassy area between sidewalk & street)

Question:
Of course I would never do this, but the grassy area between the sidewalk and street is publicly property in most cities as far as I know. A lot of people in the houses in front of those spots plant vegetables and flowers in these locations. Since it's public property, would it theoretically be perfectly legal to pick those flowers even it would be a dick move? I live in the U.S.
Edit: I live in Washington State in the United States of America

Answer:
 As /u/expatinpa said, this is incredibly location specific.

However I would suggest that when you say it is "public property" you are probably incorrect. Does the city come mow the strip? Probably not. You're probably thinking about the area being an easement. It's technically owned (as much as any property is owned in the U.S.) by the owner of the rest of the lot, the city just reserves the right to do specific things with that area. For instance taking it to build a bike lane, or widen the street. Something that often leads to the (admittedly low) compensation of the owners by the city.

So no, you probably cannot. In addition it's certainly a dick move.


Title: Are police allowed to threaten me with arrest if I do not speak with them? (US)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 They are allowed to lie to you. If law enforcement says they have probable cause to arrest a person, that person needs to tell the cops to go ahead and get a warrant for their arrest, and do not talk to them until they do. Call their bluff.

They were there in part to establish probable cause, and your statements could be used against you. Generally speaking, do not talk to the cops without a lawyer present if the cops are telling you that you could be arrested.


Title: Home buyer suing for noise damage

Question:
Hi all,

I'm posting for a friend as his parents recently sold their house in California a few months ago.

A little background -  his parents are in their 60's, have lived in this quiet neighborhood in a single family home for the past 30 years and decided to downgrade and move closer to their kids. They recently put their house up for sale "as is" and it was sold within 2-3 weeks. The sale went thru, $/title transferred. Complete.

They sold the house "as is" due to the fact that it would have taken much effort to remodel the house since the kids live 2+ hours away from the parents. The remodel would be more of a refresh ( new paint, new carpets)

Fast forward a few months, they get a letter from the buyer's lawyer stating that the noise from the freeway, jumbo jets, and other noise. They are asking for roughly $80k in repayment for their young daughter not being able to sleep and repairs ( the buyers got quotes for new windows, new sound system to cancel the noise)

I use to live close to this house and thought it was a very quiet area. Sure, one will hear some faint freeway noise in the background, but the house is nowhere next to a freeway. I grew up in San Diego, living next to an air base and that was loud.

I'd appreciate any advice or general knowledge about this. I believe my friend is looking into obtaining a real estate lawyer. Just wanted a second opinion.

Thanks!

Answer:
 By "letter", I'm assuming this is not notice of a filed lawsuit - no case number, no court, any of that, right?

Anyone can send a letter asking for anything.  Until or unless ordered by a court, they don't have to do anything.  If they are sued, they need to get a lawyer and respond.

I doubt such a suit would win, at all.Answer #2: >Fast forward a few months, they get a letter from the buyer's lawyer stating that the noise from the freeway, jumbo jets, and other noise

The family didn't notice the giant road next to to their house when they bought it? How the fuck do they think his parents have any control over the noise?

Tell him to talk to a lawyer about it but I highly highly highly doubt the buyers could collect any damages.


Title: [NM, US] Can an employee be terminated after the first day of the 13th week of FMLA?

Question: If an employee wants to take vacation time/personal days/sick time after their 12 weeks of protected FMLA leave (basically to extend their leave by a week or two) is their job no longer protected by law? Can they be terminated at that point? Is any written or verbal notice necessary from employer to employee?

Answer: Yes. Their protected leave is over. They are expected to go back to work.


Title: When all local law enforcement departments tell you it will be a civil case, yet all it takes is one person to know who to talk to and all of a sudden it's being threatened criminally.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 TL;DR OP and fiance thought they received a gift from the in-laws, and gave away said gift. Turns out that it wasn't meant to be a gift, just a temporary thing, and the in-laws want the dog back. There are currently (or soon will be) criminal charges.

Meet with a defense attorney.


Title: Got transferred to different job in same location because of an insurance policy involving age, can I fight it?

Question:
So I recently got hired at a local marina, and by recently I mean yesterday. I was hired as a dockhand a job I had been shooting for really aggressively and was looking forward to a great amount. I started training immediately at 9:00 this morning, learning the ropes both literally and figuratively. But at around 3:45 ish, the subject of my age came up, and a higher-up on the docks told me because of their insurance policies I couldn’t work with the boats until I was eighteen (will be 17 at the end of July). I then got transferred immediately to the small desk at the corner of the beach that handles rental kayaks and pedal boats, and was told I’ll be working there from now on.

I’m really sad about this, because I was having a great time working at the boats prior to this and was doing well, by the standards of someone on their first day. So now I’m asking if it’s possible to ask my employers if I can sign some sort of contract or something of that nature that could maybe get me back on the docks, or if I’m shit out of luck for the rest of this summer.
Topic:
Insurance

Answer: Your signing something won't help. The problem is most likely the marina's liability insurance, which apparently won't cover you. That means if you inadvertently cause a million dollars in damages, the insurance won't pay, and the marina will go broke.


Title: My mom wants to get a restraining order on my boyfriend so that he cannot see me

Question:
I’ll start this off by saying that my mother and I have a very unhealthy relationship. In fact, my mom has no healthy relationships in her life. I go to therapy often to talk about my issues and everybody agrees that my mom needs professional help as well, but she refuses to go.

I am 17 and my bf is 16. He was at my house 3 days ago when my mom kicked me out. I guess she expected me to go to my dads house, but I went to my boyfriends instead because I didn’t want to be alone and my dad is out of town. Now, I understand that this was wrong but she shouldn’t have kicked me out (she told me to leave because I left my fan on when I took my dog for a walk. That is an example of the type of stuff my mom gets pissed at and how she gets EXTREMELY mad over little things)

So I went to my boyfriends and I blocked my mom on everything. I was pissed because she kicks me out all the time for very little things that are purely stupid accidents on my part, and I couldn’t take it anymore. I was planning on coming home after this blew over. But then my mom messaged my boyfriend and called the police claiming he “kidnapped me”. My brother in law convinced me to go to their house and I stayed with him and my sister. They agree that I shouldn’t have just “run away” (I know it was immature and I shouldn’t have done it.) but they also understand why I did it. But now I am finding out that my mom has been in contact with my boyfriends mom and is saying that she is getting a restraining order put on him so that he cannot see me anymore. I’m just wondering if it’s even possible for my mother to do that without my consent, and if she is, when I’m 18 can I drop the restraining order against him?

Answer:
 > I’m just wondering if it’s even possible for my mother to do that without my consent, and if she is, when I’m 18 can I drop the restraining order against him?

Yes to the first part.  After you turn 18 you would need to go to the court yourself and file to have the restraining order lifted.

Be careful to not have sex with your boyfriend before he turns 17.

Next time your mom kicks you out of the house, call the police.  She cannot legally do that.


Title: If a child threw a rock and damaged someone's car, How do you get Justice?

Question: After watching a certain youtube video, I questioned how to actually go about this. If the kid runs away, how do you even get justice? Are you able to stop the kid and hold him down until you get the cops involved? If he doesn't run away, can you have his family liable? Will the family pay for the damages? How do you handle troublesome kids when you're an adult?

Answer:
 This is, at some level, why it's a good idea to carry a comprehensive policy with a reasonable level of coverage, rather than just a liability-only policy. If you have insurance, then the answer is easy: you call your insurance, they pay for the repairs, and your life goes on.

You can't assault a child over a misdemeanor. Citizen's arrests are almost never a good idea at the best of times, and are generally not allowed for minor crimes. In addition, excessive force in the course of a citizen's arrest can lead to prosecution even if the arrest itself would have been lawful.

Civilly, a child who deliberately damages your property may be liable to you, and most jurisdictions have a parental liability law that can transfer some or all of that liability to the parents. If your insurance won't cover the damage, and you sue, you can generally sue the parents as well.


Title: Someone I know dropped his baby at a firehouse 3 hrs away because he didn't want to be a dad or pay support. The mom and him were not together but the cops know now - in Florida

Answer:
 Are you saying that your friend had a child with a woman and then abandoned the baby during his visitation? Are you saying that when the mother reported the baby missing he said he never had the baby, but now the cops found out he was lying and abandoned a baby behind his/her mother's back?

IANAL but that can't possibly be a good idea.


Title: Is what the city did legal?

Question:
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Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: LOL. No, that's not fraud. It's a clerical error, and they fixed it.


Title: Child Support Advice / Motivation

Question:
I've been divorced now for about 4 years. The breakdown has really hard on me as she cheated on me with one of our friends yet we've both been able to kind of move on from that. Some days are better than others.

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Regardless, and big picture, the kids are happy and excelling in many ways (ages 10 and 6). They are happy and healthy and lots of fun. I love them dearly, and she does as well.

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My question and ask of advice is one of not really legal (as I'm pretty sure I'm in the right) yet more in motivation. When we separated (we live in North Carolina), I was making about $125k/year and she was like $20k/year (part time). I went through some hard years after the breakup making perhaps half of what I was originally, which I accept responsibility for kind of falling apart. I am an entrepreneur at heart and have a couple different businesses. If I'm not there 100% then the businesses and my income suffers. I've been able to build them up a bit however not really certain as to how much I'm actually making as I don't pay myself a consistent salary. Regardless, I think we are roughly making about the same income, maybe $60k/ish or so. The original agreement was that I would cover the kids private, catholic school which we've moved away from and now are in a great public (free) school. In addition, I was to cover the kids health insurance, as neither of our jobs/businesses over this and pay her $500/month cash. Our agreement also stipulates that we are too modify these numbers at most every two years if there is a "substantial" modification in our incomes, living situations, or if we get married. To date she has been very reluctant to budge on me reducing my payment to her or offering to help with the cost of health insurance for the kids, which together are maybe $500/ a month. I totally get this too, if someone was paying me money albeit money that I was not due then I'd also put up a fuss about it if they were going to take it away.

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So big picture I'm probably paying $12k/year that I'm not legally obligated to. I met with my lawyer and he agreed that I was legally obligated to reduce this amount. So whatever and that kind of stinks, but doesn't really bother me. What is starting to though is the defense of, "I'm barely getting by and need to save all of my money to pay my bills." I would totally get and support this if I thought it was the case. However, she just took a 2 week trip to Europe with her (our 😢) friend and I sense goes "out" and eats at nice restaurants and whatever else -- small trips and things and seems to be doing ok on her own. I don't like the idea of cutting her payment off completely as I want her to be successful in her own life, and presumably this would be received as some sort of plan to get her back or something like that. I love that she is taking trips to Europe and doing whatever else she wants to do, just like I'd be for other humans that are out and having fun. However, I don't like the thought that I'm essentially paying for her to take trips to Europe and whatever else that costs extra money which is not being spent on the kids.

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So my question is what are some good questions that I could ask myself regarding this situation. How do you motivate someone else who is disincentivized to do so? I want her to be able to support herself and feel solid financially. Money doesn't really matter to me. I feel like I get by and have enough however it doesn't motivate me. The biggest benefit I find of my companies are they afford me flexibility. She had pointed out that as part of her defense to not reduce money coming from me to her that I seemed to be volunteering a lot at schools, the local hospital and groups around town. I ended up cutting down my volunteering efforts a good bit this year to date however I don't really like that and resent that choice. I'm feeling a bit lost and just wondering if other folks have been in a similar boat, and what kinds of choices you've made and ultimate what impact these choices have had on motivation.

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(I posted this in /Advice with no feedback so I'm moving over here. Perhaps more interest here?)

Answer: Your only option is to take her back to court to reduce the order.  She doesn't have to agree to it. It's up to the judge to decide. Make sure you have your financials in order.


Title: Sibling "holding onto" CD account

Question:
So, my half-sister, let's call her Judy, mostly likely stole $3,500 from my younger sister, Sally.
Some background: Our maternal grandmother died and left Sally a certificate of deposit account with $3,500 in it. Judy was suppose to hang onto the account for Sally until she turned 18. After Sally turned 18 and tried talking to Judy about it she was basically brushed off, most likely it was spent. Sally didn't pursue the matter further because she was worried about not getting to see her niece and nephew. But now Sally and I are moving out of state so she can go to college and she needs that money.

Before she considers taking legal action we're going to visit her this weekend and try discussing paying the money back. If Judy agrees to pay Sally back, she wants it in writing, like a promissory note or something. I really doubt Judy's gonna go for that, so if she doesn't...I guess I don't really know where to go from there. Maybe talk to our uncle (the executor of our grandma's will) before taking legal action?
Also, we're all located in Nebraska.

Answer: I wouldn't even talk to Judy - this is entirely the responsibility of the executor, talk to him.


Title: Nephew moving with us of state to attend school Kentucky to Pennsylvania

Question:
We have a 15 year old nephew, who has expressed serious interest in moving with us out of state so he can attend school and just live a different life. His mother seems ok with the idea

He lives with his single mother in a very rural area. He’s a good kid, and is no trouble. But he’s bullied a lot and feels like he just doesn’t fit in in rural Kentucky - mostly he doesn’t fit the conservative social norms of the area

We’re moving to a suburban area of a large metro.
How the hell does his even work? We’re definitel considering it. Will his mom have to sign over guardianship? How will health insurance, and all that other jazz work?

Answer: NAL, but from my understanding you will need to get her to sign guardianship over to you so you can claim him as a dependent and resident of your school district and what not, and take care of him (make medical and legal decisions for him, etc). Here is Kentucky's process ([http://kyjustice.org/node/568](http://kyjustice.org/node/568)). You can look up PA's. As for insurance, that's something you'd have to ask your insurance. I dunno if guardianship will let you add them to yours or if you'll need to keep him on his mothers'.


Title: Getting kicked out of university class for freedom of speech discussion (Kansas)

Question:
I am currently enrolled in a summer class at a small state school here in the state of Kansas. It's a sociology course, and we had a class earlier this week that was in regards to hate speech. We frequently have similar conversations where students are able to express their opinions on different topics and in many cases these topics are relevant political issues in today's news. Usually I am quiet, but as a supporter of freedom of speech I was pretty attentive to this one, because it was about racism and hate speech.

A student got up and basically it should be against the law to say words like the N word and other things if you aren't apart of that race. After that I then said my opinion which was essentially being a free speech absolutist. We had a back and forth completely non threatening in any way and I didn't raise my voice at all or make any movements or anything. Eventually I started asking what words were and weren't okay. This was in an attempt to show how ridiculous this could be. I said and used examples and said them these words were Honky, Coon, Wet Back, Bitch, Chink, Uncle Tom just to name a few although I don't know how many others I used (Not many).

That was pretty much the end of the discussion some people were clearly uncomfortable, but I honestly didn't care. I didn't use any of these words to refer to other students, or in a demeaning way. I was just asking about what words were okay and what ones weren't. This was yesterday morning when this class took place. I am supposed to have class again tomorrow, however I got an email from my instructor saying she had gotten contacted by a number of students who said they were uncomfortable with the language I used, and she doesn't think I should attend class anymore. She also stated that she had set up a meeting with me, her, and her boss (I believe the dean) about how to move forward from here. She told me she could kick me out of class if that was necessary. This class is just about over. The final is next week. I think this is unfair, and I would argue illegal. I plan on attending class tomorrow, and I've called my boss to tell her I will be late because of the meeting. If they continue with the threats of kicking me out of the class should I call a lawyer?  Should I try to get one to be present at this meeting? Should I at least record this meeting?

Answer: Call me crazy but a sincere apology and expressing desire to finish the class final would be my main goal. This probably isn’t a hill you want to die on here. Maybe offer to write an apology letter to the students in the class that were offended. Whatever you have to do to make this blow over Answer #2: Did you think nobody in the class knew what a slur was until you spouted them off..? I'm struggling to find a good reason to actually vocalise the words during the conversation. I'd apologise and, in future, pick my battles a little more carefully.Answer #3: This is one of the most embarrassing threads I've ever seen on LA. There are way too many personal feelings and beliefs being expressed and too little good or accurate legal advice being given. OP, you might want to get in contact FIRE https://www.thefire.org/ . You cannot be kicked out of a class in a state university because you made people uncomfortable, especially considering the entire context of the class discussion was free speech! There are other situational factors here that need to be evaluated but the number of LAers here that are happy enough to sign off on a heckler's veto or government censorship is pretty disturbing. Speech codes at public universities are largely unenforceable legally and most that are on the books have no real legal teeth.Answer #4: You want to contact the [Foundation for Individual Rights in Education.](https://www.thefire.org/)