Title: Buying a Baby African grey Congo parrot from this site Noobly need advice if the transaction seems legit ?

Question: So My daughter wants a parrot and we looked everywhere in stores around nothing what she wants but found this site where birds are listed too . There was an ad for a African grey parrot and it was listed as 250$ I messaged the person and he gave me his email to contact him . I asked few qs about the bird and guy told me he will give to me for 200$ and he will ship the bird from Florida as he jas moved there due to work and cant keep up with work and taking care of the parrot .and he will send the bird to us asked my name address and nearest airport info for registration to send the bird sent us cute pics of him . I asked how do I make payment he sent me to do a walmart to walmart transfer for 200$ and sent a lady's name city and state . I asked if i could use paypal but he says this is better and I dont need to worry about shipping costs he has it all handled and stuff . I am little concerned now that he is not charging shipping and wants me send money without much info dont even have a phone number .... what Do I do in this case ? Does it sound like a scam ? I mean its just 200$ but still my kids will be devastated if no bird comes after all this ... please advise ! Should I just call it off ? Or ??? Sorry if I posted this in a wrong section

Answer:
 Yes, this is a scam.

Are you really, really sure you want an African Grey parrot? Super extra sure?  Do you know what this entails?

Because they live to be like 70 years old.  And require an incredible amount of care...Like, a level of care similar to that of a toddler.

Also they are like $3000. Answer #2: Yeah that's a pretty common bird scam.  Also $250 is way way too low for an african greyAnswer #3: I'm going to say this sounds illegitimate from the title alone.

I skimmed the post, this is obviously a scam.


Title: [NM] My dad changed my last name on my birth certificate that my mom fought to have on before she died

Question: I am 15 years old and this has happened fairly recently. My dad changed the name on my birth certificate, removing a hyphen and changing my name completely. My mom wanted to have her last name be part of my name because her and my dad weren't on very good terms when I was born. He is a very controlling and emotionally abusive person. Is there anything I can do legally to contest this?

Answer:
 Change it again when you turn 18Answer #2: You may have other options as well, but have you considered just continuing to tell people that your name is [old-name], and waiting 3 years, then changing it back?Answer #3: He may have legally done that, but you can still stick it to your old man by going to your high school admissions office and make sure they still have the correct spelling. That way it'll be on your diploma when you graduate. Explain it to the DMV, too, when you get your license (though if you have your permit, it might be right already). Your social security card will still reflect your correct last name, too. You'll have no problems with employment.

Yes, 3 years feels like a long time to wait but your important documents should already have your correct spelling. Keep waiting it out, and celebrate your 18th with an quick and easy name change.Answer #4: I know three years seems like an eternity, but when you do turn 18, changing your legal name to the correct one won't be too difficult. I got my papers from LegalZoom on my 18th birthday, and my real name was all official and good to go after a few months. Don't get discouraged with the waiting till then. Answer #5: Wait 3 years and change your name to whatever you want. Answer #6: How did he do this? Via legal name change with a judge's order, or by using white-out?


Title: [Tennessee] Drunk Driver totaled my leased car; insurance will break even on the buyout. Can I go after the driver for more?

Question:
Short story: My car was parked outside my house, and a drunk driver slammed into it ~65mph, totaling the car. I have Gap insurance on the lease, so worst case scenario, I will break even with the dealer on the car. That leaves me with no car and no funds for a down payment on a replacement vehicle.

Do I have any case against this guy as far getting more money out of him to go towards the purchase or lease of a new car?

Answer:
 > Do I have any case against this guy as far getting more money out of him to go towards the purchase or lease of a new car?

No.  Your damages(car-wise) are equal to the value of the car.  That's what they paid out.  There are no more damages to be had.


Title: (AZ) My place of work is clearly violating labor laws and I want to know what my next step is.

Question:
I've learned my work is violating labor laws in my state (AZ) and I'm trying to find out what my next step is. The business is in food and hospitality. I work in multiple departments across the company, all food related from banquets to the restaurant. I'm part time, however work in a range of 25-60 hours a week depending on the time of year. The issues that I'm having are:

* At 6 hours on shift, they automatically take 30 minutes off for a "break". 90% of staff, everyone not in management basically, is not allowed the majority of the time to take these breaks. Company policy is that if you don't take these breaks, you are to report it to management so they can pay you, however they will either say no or say they will and don't. In the two years I've been working here, I've taken under 10 breaks and have done many 10+ hr shifts with not even 5 minute breaks. I know AZ state law says they have to give you 30 minutes fully, however management expects us to still stay in our areas and not leave and just take our break in our areas while still being required to work if needed.

* We charge an automatic 20% gratuity charge onto all checks. When I got hired on, I was supposed to get a portion of the 10% of the 20% of all charges, that was split between a few positions. They took away this pay without ever informing me. I found out about 6 months after the fact from another employee who had been made to sign paperwork to acknowledge the pay change, paperwork I was never given.

* On that note, they've done that to me again without any notification. My agreement for a recent position was 44% of the 20% gratuity charges that I make. I just checked my most recent check and I'm no longer making anything. This is a multi-hundred dollar difference (making a usually $700-$900 two week check into less that $450). Again, with no prior notification to pay change.

I will note that I have tried to talk to multiple levels of management about the pay in regards to the breaks, and I've been told time and time again that they can't go back and fix anything or prevent the 30 from being taken, and during an all staff meeting when someone asked about the breaks, they openly said they weren't going to do anything about it due to it being our corporate company that own's us's policy, and when one coworker commented that was illegal, HR lead made eye contact with her and started on the next point of the meeting, completely ignoring everyone commenting on it from there on out. I've asked every manager that I've worked under and I've literally been told to just take the hit because it's not work raising a complaint because they will ignore me straight out.

I'm ready to quit, however can't really afford to be out of work, though I've already started applying at other jobs, I've just not heard anything yet. I'm actually so angry and finding the recent pay issue out that I'm considering taking the hit regardless and not showing up tomorrow. Just thinking about going back makes me want to throw up from stress. Aside from all the money problems, my other major gripe is situations they keep putting me in that have caused major harm, such as making me bar tend in 100+ degree weather, in direct sun for 8+ hrs, asking for tents (which we keep in the other side of the building) from management and getting ignored, then getting yelled at for leaving my post to try to find one. Yeah, that was fun. I got sun poisoning. But anyways, to my major questions.

1. I've been told that due to them clearly violating labor laws, if I quit I can file for unemployment. Is this true?

2. How can I get the money they owe me and how far would it go back?

3. What's the path in reporting all this?

4. Am I allow to record on my phone, my conversation with HR without telling them?

Answer:
 Arizona is a one party state,  so you can record conversations you are a part of.

You should be able to file a wage claim with the industrial commision of arizona (department of labor)

I also reccomend seeing if you can get a lawyer consultation since you have a pretty solid case if you have adequate proof of these things, you may be able to get a lawyer on contingency rates (you pay them out of the winning from the court case.)

Many lawyers also have free consultations to help you know how good your case is etc.  look for a labor / employment attorney.

IANAL  good luck


Title: Can I give my vote away?

Question:
American citizen living abroad. I will be getting an absentee ballot for the 2016 presidential election. I live in a state which is already a guaranteed victory for democrats.

What are the ramifications of letting someone else choose for me? I was thinking about recording it on video, throwing it up on youtube as a political statement of sorts. Id have a few people play a game and whoever win gets to decide who I vote for. Even have them fill in the card themselves.

To what length can I legally do this?

Answer: Not at all.  That's called fraudulent voting, and it's a felony in most jurisdictions.


Title: I have 4 convictions due by the end of the month. All moving violations. I am 19 years old and have 2 jobs. I can't afford to pay them off since I don't make enough. What can I do?

Question: I have a lawyer I hired to take care of my last case. I will need to pay her $400 and then deal with 3 other payments for the rest of my tickets. I won't have enough money to pay off all of them and I still have to do traffic school. Also my parents don't know about this. What are my options? Thanks guys.

Answer: You should contact all of the folks you owe (the attorney, the courts, etc.) and set up a payment plan. They want to get their money, so they'll work with you to make it reasonable. I'd bet they've all dealt with this plenty of times before.Answer #2: If you can't afford the cost of the tickets you should probably stop breaking the law as well.


Title: Parents run late, teachers have to wait with students for hours, legal?

Question:
I teach younger teens. Sometimes optional field trips happen on weekends. Parents get specific drop off and pick up times. After a field trip my school expects teachers to wait to leave until all students have been picked up.

Parents have been two hours late before. Is the child truly my responsibility if parents have all the information when they agreed to send the child on the field trip?

Answer:
 Your alternative to staying there and looking after the child is being reported and possibly losing your teaching license, so... stay.

Stay and document how long it took, how frequently it happens, and where the parents were, and what state they arrived in. If it becomes a frequent problem and you suspect there's some neglect going on you call CPS as mandated.


Title: My dad wants me to leave my shotgun at home but I want to take it back with me to college (Texas)

Question:
Hey y'all, I was wondering what legal advice you can give to me about this situation:

I bought a Mossberg 500 recently (used my parents credit card with their consent and I'm currently paying them back), signed my name on the background check and everything. I use it for hunting purposes and keep it safely locked in a case with a chamber lock on it. I want to take it to college with me so I can go hunting out at school. My apartment complex doesn't allow guns but my trusted friend can hold onto it in their apartment since it allows guns. This evening, my dad said that I would not be allowed to take it because "he doesn't want me to take it." No other reason. If I decided that I wanted to take it, could he stop me? I'm 21 years old, mentally stable, and my friend is 23 and mentally stable.
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 A gun is a big responsibility.

I know you believe your friend is mentally stable. But you don’t know all their friends.

There is a level of risk when the gun is not in your direct possession and you may not see it for days, weeks at a time.

Is there a gun club near school? That could be a more secure location.


Title: Please help me with my speeding ticket.

Question:
Alright. I am an 18 year old senior in high school, still living with my parents. I am insured under them and have one prior speeding ticket. This morning, i got pulled over for doing 65 in a 50. The only suspicious thing i noticed was it took him an awfully long time to turn around and pull me over (my prior offence was 74 in a 50 and it took him twice as long this time). What are my options. I have tried to contact the patrolman but to no avail.
Location: Central South Dakota

Answer: I don't understand what you think is suspicious. You were speeding, you were caught speeding, you were given a ticket. You have absolutely nothing here in the way of a defense.


Title: Buying a house but need to terminate a month to month lease with landlord and roommate

Question:
As the title states I'm buying a home. All is well and good on that the closing date is set for 11/30. But in the mean time I need to take care of my rent obligation. I notify my landlord via text and she states she needs a written letter with 20 days notice. Okay I understand that no issue.
She also states that my roommate who cannot afford the rent on his own will need his own letter and that I am on the hook for rent until he vacates even with my letter. We had signed a 1 year lease but we've been month to month for at least half a year now. My understanding is an at will tenancy. However I'm not certain how this applies with roommates. Am I really on the hook for the rent?

(I'm not putting all my eggs in the Reddit basket but figured it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask the Internet)

Edit: the lease was signed by both me and the roommate in Washington state.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: IANAL.It likely depends on two things. First did you rent a room or the whole place. Basically are you and your roommate both on one lease or do you have individual leases? If you have an individual lease then notice to the landlord is probably sufficient depending on the second thing. If you are both on one lease then the landlord is probably correct. Both you and your roommate will have to surrender possession for your obligation to end unless you have some provision otherwise. If you leave and your roommate stays and does not pay the rent then you'll both be evicted. When you leave either he should leave or he should find a new roommate and sign a new lease without your name on it. The second thing depends on whether you have any relevant provisions in your lease. Does your lease address one roommate moving out? If so you'd have to follow those provisions.


Title: [TX] How can I get rid of a lazy attorney who seems to have abandoned my case?

Question:
In 2016 I was injured pretty badly in a car accident; the other driver was 18 years old and high at the time. My vehicle was totalled and I spent several days in the hospital. The other side accepted full responsibility for everything.

I got a new car and my bills paid, but also lost a lot of work due to recovery, PT, etc, and will have some lifelong physical impact from the accident. Seemed pretty clear I was entitled to pain and suffering, but the other insurance company maxed out on a minimal liability policy, and the driver had no assets we could pursue.

An attorney acquaintance of mine suggested I file a claim with my own insurer for underinsured motorist benefits, which I have been dutifully paying coverage on for years. "I specialize in personal injury," he said. "I do this kind of thing all day long, and would be happy to help you," he said. "This should easily be worth 50K, and it's a straight-up paperwork thing," he said.  "We should be done in 3-4 months," he said.

He took a lot of info from me in the beginning, and told me he was working directly with adjusters and people from my insurer. 3-4 months later, he has given me what he called "a partial early payment" -- one check for $2K or so, which incidentally bounced the first time I tried to cash it.

One full year later from me signing my case over to him, he is just constantly dicking around on updates. I'm pretty sure he's not working on anything at all, much less my case; I went by one day for an update and he's vacated his law office. Someone else in the building reported he had had a lockout notice (failure to pay rent) on the door the month before.  I know he hasn't skipped town but otherwise he's just MIA on my stuff.

I call or email weekly, and get a response maybe every 3rd or 4th time, "Yeah, I don't know what's taking so long, I'll call them again next week."

What's my recourse here? I gave him full power of attorney on my case, but he's being really negligent IMO and I can't figure out what my options are.

**tl;dr** How do I light a fire under the lazy distracted attorney who is handling what should have been an easy claim on MVA / personal injury?

Answer:
 > he has given me what he called "a partial early payment" -- one check for $2K or so, which incidentally bounced the first time I tried to cash it.

This is a huge red flag in my jurisdiction. Partial Payment?
 Either the case is settled and money is tendered, or it was not, especially if the *only* issue is an underinsured claim. In other words, there should not be piecemeal settlements. This really sounds like he probably already settled the case and didn't pay you, especially since a check bounced, he has moved offices without telling you, his client, and there was a lockout notice against him.

Can you check the status of the claim online with your insurance company? If not, call your personal insurance agent and ask the status of the claim. If it is still pending, then they won't talk to you since you are represented by an attorney. But if it is already settled, they should tell you.

I would also call the attorney again, and if the attorney does not answer, your message to the receptionist or your voicemail is that if you do not receive a call back from the attorney (not a paralegal or anyone else) with answers and a copy of your file within 24 hours, you are contacting the Bar to make a complaint.


Title: [PA] No smoking on employers property.

Question: The warehouse I work at is a tobacco free zone for insurance reasons of course. We are also not allowed to leave the property so basically we are not allowed to smoke at all during our 12 our shifts. Is this legal?

Answer: Yes. You don't have a right to smoke.


Title: Roommate allowed to airbnb

Question:
Hello

I have a roommate that has not stayed the night in about a month. He only shows up to airbnb the room out. Is he legally allowed to do this? Is there any way I can get rid of him? Can I put a stop to the airbnb guests? Is he still legally a tenant if he is only here to set up the airbnb room?

State:Illinois

Lease is month to month, my landlord told me to manage the room.

Answer:
 What does your lease say? Does your area have any bylaws restricting rentals by time?

For example, where I live, rentals must be a minimum of 30 days unless you're a licensed hotel/motel establishment. If he's in violation of a bylaw, you could file for eviction.Answer #2: Typically leases have clauses about no subletting without permission, no guests too long, etc. I'd check yours and let your landlord know


Title: Broke a handrail, someone got hurt on hotel property

Question:
I went on vacation with friends to a large hotel recently. We all became intoxicated and, being an idiot, I attempted to walk on a handrail on a stairwell. It broke and I walked away. The next day security showed up, made me pay for it, and kicked me out. They told me that after I broke it (probably about an hour or so later) some lady hurt herself on the broken handrail and that I could be in more trouble if she pursues further action. Is it true that I could potentially be in more trouble for the woman getting hurt? If so, what consequences am I facing and how do I prepare?

This happened in Wisconsin but Im from Illinois

Answer: Yes, you could be in further trouble, but until you receive a summons there is now way of knowing whether or not you're going to be sued.


Title: Employee accused of embezzling at last place of employment. How do I know if this happened?

Question: So I went out to eat with some friends, and the conversation turned to my car getting fixed at this garage. My friend happened to know the employer and his wife. I then told them how his wife is currently employed with my company.  They both were in shock. They then proceeded to tell me how this wife used to work as a colleague with my friend. She embezzled $500k over 5 years from this company. They sued her and got the money back (or most of it), but didn’t press charges, because that would just tie them up in court longer, and they wanted to be done with it.  Afterwards the employers house burned down from arson, and she was suspected. Sadly they couldn’t prove it. I found out that she had spread a rumor that this employer dealt drugs, something I know is not true. I want to know if this embezzlement actually occurred? How can I go about this?

Answer: Don't be batman trying to investigate this. If I were you I'd just part ways with this person. I'm sure you know PA is at will as an employer. Find no reason or whatever to let her go and maybe try to not make it hostile so your house doesn't get burned down. Also perhaps purchase security cameras.Answer #2: If there was an actual civil suit, there would be records at the County Courthouse.  There might be an index of cases online, and perhaps a docket (a list of all the papers filed in a particular case).  The full file itself might or might not still exist, depending on how long ago this was.


Title: FBI agent came to my house and gave his card to my brother.

Question:
The FBI agent informed my brother that he was looking for me and he also had a copy of my drivers license with him.

He informed me when I called him that I’m in no trouble and am not being arrested but he’d like me to come in talk to him about online sales.

I spoke to my accountant and attorney and they both said that I should let my attorney do all the speaking and to take my attorney with me when I meet with him.

Does anyone have any advice?

Answer:
 >I should let my attorney do all the speaking and to take my attorney with me when I meet with him.

That right there is all the advice you need.


Title: 2nd Degree Burglary Missouri

Question: I’m such a fucking dumbass people got of at the university and I went dumpster diving, saw a opened dorm room I assumed they were clearing out and took a mini fridge and speaker, now facing charges for 2nd degree burglary class D felony, only other thing on my record is a littering ticket I don’t know what to do looking for lawyers Jesus Christ.

Answer: A felony will mess up your life for a while. Definitely call lawyers. This is your only valid option.Answer #2: Get an attorney.  No other advice can be given


Title: [Pennsylvania] Should I release my coverage limits in a personal injury lawsuit.

Question:
Okay, I'm gonna start off by  saying this is one long and confusing story so I will try my best to disclose and detail everything that happened. I'm a 19yr old college student and work 35hrs a week now I have to deal with all this added stress. I want to know if I should release my coverage limits to the other party but I want to explain my situation first.

Ok so about 4 months ago I was taking this girl on a first date at a restaurant downtown. Went very well and we left. Im driving down a one way two lane road and Im about to turn left on a green light so automatically I have a right away. Now about 30 seconds - 1 minute before I turn left a lady in front of me clips a guy walking (not in a crosswalk) and he is laying down in the middle of the road wearing black. Keep in mind I do not see any of this and she doesn't even stop right away she stops pretty far down the street. I continue my turn as normal (around 15mph) and feel a violent bump. Neither of us were on our phones and I'm sure she would have let me know if a guy was in the road. I'm instantly shocked and thought it was a piece of trash or something like that and I ask my date WTF was that. I look and my mirror and see a guy in the street and my heart drops I get out and see if hes ok (the lady pretty much just sat in her car the whole time). At first I thought It was just me that caused it but after witnesses were talking to me they said the lady hit him first. The police come they question everyone and they say the guy was at fault for being negligent towards the cars. Witnesses also said that it was his fault. I didn't report anything to my insurance company 1. because there was no damage and 2. the police didn't find me at fault so I thought I had nothing to worry about. 2 weeks later I get a claim made against me. My insurance finishes the "investigation" first and find me and the lady at 50% (the ladys insurance isn't even finished yet and its been like 4 months). But the guy only wants to sue me? If the lady initially caused it why not her? Furthermore I also don't have any assets to take from I feel like a middle aged woman would be a better target but that's just my opinion. I've never gotten hit by a car but I can't imagine being clipped at 15mph would hurt enough just to stay in the middle of the street and not move during a busy time. My aunt is a paralegal and she found some public documents relating to him and I can say he is not a good guy. My insurance company want me to release my coverage limits to him but I dont think he deserves 1 cent of anybody's money. So should I release my limits (100/300k) Im prepared to fight this because he doesn't deserve anything. Any help would be greatly appreciated
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 >My aunt is a paralegal and she found some public documents relating to him and I can say he is not a good guy.

If your aunt used non-public services that she has access to via her employment, she may be at risk for termination.

The law does base liablity on whether the victim cuddles puppies and helps little old ladies cross the street.Answer #2: >My aunt is a paralegal and she found some public documents relating to him and I can say he is not a good guy.

That makes no difference.

>My insurance company want me to release my coverage limits to him but I dont think he deserves 1 cent of anybody's money.

What you think doesn't matter. It's what a court decides that does. If he sues you, he's going to get the information anyway.

>Im prepared to fight this because he doesn't deserve anything.

See, that's not really how this works. When you're sued your insurance company hires a lawyer and they largely deal with it. Your participation will be minimal.Answer #3: If he gets a personal injury attorney this is the very first question the attorney is going to ask of your insurance. We’re you covered on that date and what are your limits.


Title: Getting harassed by ONSTAR, need help please

Question:
Yes, you read it right. Onstar the car service company has been harassing me. They keep sending me automated text messages saying my 2014 chevy volt is done charging, however I do not own a volt and never have. I have never owned a car with onstar and have never used their service. I called them 5 different times and have spoken to 5 different managers. They have said they are working on it,but no action as been taken. Yesterday i received over 60 text messages from them, i get them every ten minutes it seems. It comes from a different number all the time, so blocking it does no good. Can I sue them for harassment? This has been going on for over a year. It has caused me a great deal of depression and anxiety. I can not keep my phone off of silent because it constantly beeps and goes off for text messages. I am a real estate agent I have spend thousands of dollars on marketing materials that all have this number on it so i can not change my phone number it will be very costly.

2 texts i have got today so far, they pick up more towards the afternoon.

http://imgur.com/tS6aziH

The first one is at 5AM, I have had to put my phone on silent while i sleep because it has been waking me up in the middle of the night.

Answer:
 Block the phone number. Keep blocking them. If unsolicited texts from a business has caused extensive depression and anxiety, you need to seek professional treatment because that is an abnormal response to a stimulus.

Also, if you really received over 60 texts in one day, I think you probably would have called more than five times. How long has this been going on?


Title: A family member got scammed over 50k by her "boyfriend"

Question:
Here is some context of this as I've just found out about this recently. A family member met this guy and they've been seeing each other over a year, this dude is always traveling and pretty hard to reach. He recently deposited 300k into my family members account (it is still pending to go through) a while back and asked my family member to send them 50k due to them needing money for some sort of situation (yea pretty obvious it's a scam if you have a brain).

With that in mind, she recently came to us with this information and the bank notified her that that deposit might be a scam. So here we are, we've told her to go to the police to file a report and try to get that money back. But she still believes that her boyfriend is being truthful to her and that the money will go through and he told her that she can keep 150k of that money (too good to be true). Family members have tried to talk some sense into her but she thinks that we are jealous of her and her new found love and all the money she is getting. Another part of this is that the guy gave her his banking account so she can login to see that he does have money, but the website he gave her is a fake. She refuses to believe that the website is a fake and just keeps telling us that we are jealous and need to apologize to her.

So my question is, is there any way I can prove to her that this is a scam and since we all know this is a scam, is there any way we can help mitigate this situation. We honestly want to get this money back but she also has a very fragile mentality and we think this might push her to a breaking point of doing something stupid. I'm one of the only family members she listens to, so I want to gather as much information as possible before I talk to her and hopefully have her see that it is a scam.

I've checked the website she gave us, it's a phony site but I have no way to prove it (ofkea.com). The bank that they are posing as is real (French Bank).

Any advice will help. Thanks.

Answer: How to convince her of something which is so obviously true is a  question for psychologist.  People can put up incredibly strong mental blocks which keep them from seeing the truth.  If she has convinced herself that this isn't a scam and nothing will sway her, you may not be able to. She may have to learn the hard (and expensive) way.


Title: Court appointed therapist is forcing a friend to commit illegal activity with the threat of expulsion and jail time for non-compliance. [Arizona,US]

Question:
[Arizona,US] I apologize for being vague, but a friend of mine is being put in danger by her therapist and her probation officer.

I fear retaliation against my friend if either one finds out.
A therapist in Arizona is forcing my friend to read a confidential victim impact statement, from a minor, out loud in a group therapy session.  I do not believe the victim or her family has been informed of this, and we have no way to contact them.  If she complies and reads the statement to the group, without the required permissions, she could be in violation of her probation and arrested.  If she refuses to read the statement to the group, her therapy could be terminated for insubordination.  That is also a violation and she could be arrested.  Her probation officer has been informed, but is refusing to take any action.  She has been blocked from changing therapists.  She is not looking to end therapy, and wishes to comply with the requirements of her probation.

We are contacting local attorneys, and the ACLU, but there is very little time left.  Any reasonable advice would be appreciated.

Answer:
 Why is he supposed to read the victim impact statement? Are they actually disclosing who wrote the statement?Answer #2: What is the relationship between your friend and the victim? Was she the person who made the victim the victim? How would it be illegal to read the statement (without disclosing the name of the victim) in a confidential therapy session? If the probation officer has no problem with it, why would this hurt her probation status?

I'm sorry, but this looks more like your friend is refusing to deal with the repercussions of her acts than a misdeed by the therapist or PO.


Title: Arrested for battery

Question: My ex gf moved out and told the police I grabbed her throat, which is not true. I told the police I picked her up with oh my hands around her to try to remove her from a room. I went to jail and now I'm being accused of battery. She got a restraining order on me. Do I need to lawyer up or will this disappear or am I screwed for touching her at all

Answer:
 Why would it disappear? Stop talking to the police and get an attorney. Speak only to this attorney.
Answer #2: You're accused of a crime.  You need an attorney.  This is not just going away and your statement about grabbing her can absolutely be used to help convict you.Answer #3: You need an attorney. You admitted to touching her. You shouldn't have even said that. You shouldn't bank on it just going away. Answer #4: You are screwed for touching her at all.  You need a lawyer because you made an inculpatory statement already.


Title: My lease says I get two off-street parking spaces, but there is never one available. What can I do?

Question:
When I moved into my apartment, parking was a specific concern of mine and I intentionally looked for a place with off-street parking.

I toured a place that seemed great and had parking available. My one concern was that parking wasn't assigned - but the landlord said that they had decided to make assigned spaces, and someone would be coming to re-paint the lines and add space numbers in a week. That was good enough for me, I signed on and moved in.

The lease specifically states this section here: "Tenant is entitled to 2 parking lot spaces included in rent. If tenant is found to be using more than 2 spaces (including spaces used by guests) excess vehicles may be towed at tenant's expense. If a need for additional space is present, tenant may rent additional spaces at current rate set by Landlord."

However since I moved in here I have very rarely been able to use even one parking space because they are always full. After a couple weeks I started keeping track and in the 48 days since then there have been 41 where there wasn't a spot available for me.

The landlord never went forward with the space assignment plan they told me they were going to do before I moved in, either. So there is not a "specific" spot that is for me, which doesn't help.

I have contacted the landlord by text, phone, email and snail mail. For the past month I have sent them an email every single time this happens, and I have sent written mail 8 times. The landlord rarely answers calls so on the phone I have no choice but to leave messages, which go unanswered.

What can I do at this point? I know if I break the lease the landlord can give me 30 days or some odd value to fix it or I have to leave - can I do that to them? Say fix the parking situation so I have reliable parking within 30 days, or I move out?

Edit:  We are in Michigan

Answer: Realistically, there isn't too much you can do here.  Keep pestering your landlord to assign individual spaces, or come up with a permit system where each tenant gets a hangtag for each parking space they are entitled to.


Title: US-PA, Am i going to get kicked out of college or what can I do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 This is not a legal question, but a question of policy.

It seems very possible that the odor of marijuana gave them reason to search the whole room.

You can be kicked out of school, they can report this to the police, and you can be charged with what is almost certainly a felony crime for the possession of the LSD.


Title: [OR] I Was Raped, and College is Trying to Cover it up.

Question:
I'll try to keep this post short and to the point.

I was at a house party sponsored by greek life. I met a very nice person who lived at the house. After some conversations that person gave me a drink. About 10-20 minutes later I felt dizzy, my stomach was hurting and my vision was blurry. I told this person and they offered to find a place were I could lay down and recover. I remember nothing after that. I woke up next to this person naked, confused, and in a state of shock. My private areas were extremely sore.

I immediately went to report this to my school, and they laughed and said I have have a full body forensic examination to substantiate my claims.

I went to the doctors office and told him about my rape and asked for an exam for evidence. The doctor angrily refused and kicked me out of his office.

Angry and confused, I went to the police to report the rape, but since I didn't have any evidence they laughed and told me to get over it. I left there crying.

I have no idea what I can do, and I'm having horrible depression due to this. Everyday is hell because I have class with the accused once a week. My peers all make fun of me and think I'm making everything up. What can I do :(?

Some addition facts:
I'm a male raped by a female.

Answer: Oh horseshit. Either a bad troll or someone looking for attention. Yes, guys are raped. It's terrible. But four different people including 3 professionals did not laugh at you and tell you to *get out*. Nope.Answer #2: So your school, your friends, your own doctor and the police all laughed at you then kicked you out?  That's exactly what happened?Answer #3: Sounds like you are a men's rights advocate trying to fool the people here. This didn't happen. All of those people did not laugh at you. Stop lying.


Title: (Ohio) Does a minor have to pay debt to a debt collector?

Question:
Hi, first off, I appreciate anyone who's reading this.
I'm 14 years old, in the US. About a year and a half ago (4/26/15), I got a free domain from a domain provider. I got my domain, and basically just left it. Never did anything with it or anything. Once my subscription ran out (I didn't even remember it), they sent me a bunch of emails, threatening debt collectors and stuff like that, and at one point, they sent a paper to my house requesting the money. Upon getting the paper, my mother talked to the people online, and they tried to force her into paying, or they wanted a picture of my birth certificate (to prove I was under 18). My mother declined, and we've been ignoring it since. Three days ago I received the email:

We are unfortunately still registering an outstanding amount on your [redacted: domain provider] order account, even though more than 200 days have elapsed since we last contacted you concerning the outstanding amount.

We have terminated your subscription which means that we are no longer handling your domain [redacted: my domain name]. This means that you risk losing your domain.

We would like to inform you that the outstanding amount must still be paid.

Additional cost and interest on arrears will have to be paid for, in case we already forwarded the issue to our debt collection agency.

If you think this is an error, or if you need further information, please contact accounting@[redacted:domain provider].

Best regards
[redacted: domain provider]

And I don't know what to do. Am I forced into paying? What are the possible repercussions if I don't? Facts about me and the company I'm facing:
I'm 14, live in Ohio (USA), and my credit card info is non existent considering I don't own one. I have no form of payment attached to the website, and I haven't logged into their site at all in the past year. (am I safe to do so?). The domain provider I'm facing is based in Dubai.

If any more info is needed from me, I'll be happy to provide it. Sorry if this is poorly written, I'm tired and slightly panicked. Thanks to anyone who read this, and if I can get advice I'd really appreciate it.

TL;DR: A company is trying to force a 14 year old into paying debt. Do I have to pay, and what are my possible repercussions for not doing so?

Answer:
 Send them a certified letter saying that you are a minor,  that you repudiate the contract, and ordering them to cease contact.

Domain name service is not a necessity that they could bind you to, so the contract is voidable by you.


Title: I thought you did an investigation

Question: So recently my husband and I were on the Dr. Phil show unfortunately now I am fully aware that I cannot just go wanting to file a lawsuit against someone just because they have sent me when I have already signed documents however I am fully aware that I am wanting to file a lawsuit against a man who stated that he and his crew had done a full investigation on all of our devices along with no proof yet stating they got the same results as the private Vesta gator and I know that that is not correct he slandered me gave me a false reputation and defamation of character on national TV not only did he do that but it was in a written form of all of the things that I had supposedly done those things were not fax like he stated they were on his show in writing for the entire world to see you I have proof of this and with that being said can I find file rightfully for making false statements plus all of the slander defamation of character etc. and request proof of these things it has cost me my family my marriage and our family business how do I go about this?

Answer: You need to edit that into actual sentences and paragraphs for anyone to understand it.


Title: If you bought drugs, and they were made illegal AFTER you gained possession of them, would charging you with possession or any offence related to the possession of said drug be an unconstitutional ex post facto law?

Question:
Pretty much, the question is in a title.  If I have a formerly legal substance and it is made illegal to possess, is it an illegal ex post facto law to charge me with possession and crimes related to the possession of it since I had the stuff before the law changed, and I had continuous constructive possession of it since then?

Anyone know any case law on this?  Of course, this applies to all states really, but primary interest is federal law.

Answer:
 > is it an illegal ex post facto law to charge me with possession

No, because you remain in possession.  It would be *ex post facto* to charge you with possession for holding it solely before it was made illegal.


Title: 2nd manager threatened to fire me because i told on his lover.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 So what's your legal question? Answer #2: Your boss can be completely in the wrong here, and still fire you.  He can accuse you of doing things wrong, when you did them right ,and still fire you.

He can tell you to wear yellow socks tomorrow, and then when you show up with yellow socks, fire you because he said to wear red socks.

That is the entire extent of "job security" in the US, unless you have a collective bargaining agreement or an employment contract that explicilty limits termination except for good cause.

The only thing they can't do is fire you because of your race, ethnicity, gender (mostly), nationality, etc.  In some parts of the US, they can still fire you for being LGBTQ -- or for not being LGBTQ.  They also can't fire you from a government contract position for reporting on deliberate defrauding of the government.  Or retaliate against you for reporting race discrimination or sexual harassment.

For calling out a manager for dipping his pen in the company ink?  Yeah they can fire you.


Title: Neighbor kids keep coming on my dad's property, which is used for hunting. KY

Question:
My dad owns 40 acres in KY outside town limits for hunting. There are over 300 private property/no trespassing signs posted around the perimeter.

Until recently there were no homes in the area of the land. However, a nearby property was recently sold and the owners are now living on it in an RV with their children.

Dad walks his property daily with his dogs and in two weeks he has found the kids out playing in the woods out there 9 times.  He has spoken to their parents about it four times, and the sheriff has gone out to talk to the family twice - and he keeps finding them out there.

Their parents basically say "kids will be kids" and that if dad doesn't want people to access the property, he should build a better fence (which would be extremely costly, which is why it hasn't been done). Dad has informed them that we hunt the land, so for the kids' safety they need to steer clear of it, but they turned it around and said they'd have his head on a golden stake if one of their kids gets hurt.

We are extremely concerned because hunting season will start soon. Obviously we need the land to be free of roaming children in order to hunt safely.

Dad is going to talk to the sheriff again tomorrow, but in the mean time I am wondering if anyone has any advice.

Answer:
 "if dad doesn't want people to access the property, he should build a better fence"

That is like saying ,   "if you don't want to be raped, stop being so attractive"Answer #2: DISCLAIMER:  Not legal advice.  Hire a Kentucky attorney. This comment does not establish any attorney/client relationship.

That being said, in Kentucky:

A trespasser is someone entering another person’s property without the property owner’s permission and for the trespasser’s own purposes.

He or she has no legal right to be there.
In most cases, it doesn’t matter whether the trespasser entered the property legally or illegally, with or without a plan to do something illegal once he or she was there.
The property owner won’t be liable to a trespasser for injuries unless they are caused by intentional, willful, wanton, or reckless conduct by the owner or someone acting for the owner.

I would write the family a certified letter telling them that the land is used for hunting and specifically inform them of all the known potential dangers.


Title: Can my Employer really sue me for all this? [US -MI]

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 This is at least your third attempt to ask this question, with varying levels of detail.   At least this one isn't three pages long like the one you deleted.

Are you still planning to return to Michigan to work for a different employer ?  That will put you under the jurisdiction of a Michigan court and increase the chance you will be sued.

Nobody on this subreddit is going to be able to tell you in detail about the enforceability of your employment agreement without reading it, and you have not put a single actual word of that agreement into your posts, instead choosing to summarize it and tell long stories about WhatsApp and recordings and timesheets and workplace drama.

If you want a qualified opinion on the chances of you being sued in Michigan over your employment agreement, you need to hire a Michigan attorney.

If you're going to stay in Mexico, the chances are close to zero that you will be sued by this former employer.


Title: Friend was asked to leave store that I work in because his tics were making people uncomfortable

Question:
Hi guys, New Mexico USA here. So some backstory, I've worked at this location for 5 years, and my friend has been in multiple times to shop/to stop in and say Hi while he was in the neighborhood. (Work permits friends stopping by, my manager has a "1 song rule" which means you can talk to your friends for the length of an entire song before you have to get back to work.) Today was my day off, and he posted a status on facebook about being asked to leave from "a clothing store" and about how frustrated he was. I asked where and he messaged me privately to say that it was where I worked.

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He has some pretty intense tics (similar to tourettes), including snapping his fingers and moving his upper body in what looks halfway like a bounce and halfway like a dance. He has OCD, ADHD and he's on the autism spectrum. My manager apparently approached him and asked him if he was finding everything okay, to which he replied he was, he just couldn't decide what he wanted. She then asked him to leave, under the grounds of "making people uncomfortable."

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I texted my manager and asked if she kicked my friend out of the store, and informed her that he had "like tourettes" (bceause I am not entirely sure what his diagnosis is), ocd and adhd, but he's harmless. She just informed me that "we're going to talk about it tomorrow."

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I feel like I should note that a different friend, independent of me, called and chewed out my manager for kicking the friend out, stating that it was discrimination and that they wouldn't remove someone with a severe intellectual disability or a crossdresser or someone wearing a hijab/turban because that would also be discrimination.  I also feel like I should note that said manager has profiled Hispanic customers in the past.

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Is there any way that I can be punished for any of this? Is there anything he can do (beyond contacting the company and explaining the situation, which he has already done)? Is there anything I should be doing to cover my butt?

Answer: You could be fired as you work in an "employment at will" state. There really isn't a way to prevent it. Your friend should call or email corporate to take action for the descrimination.


Title: Guy gets tires slashed for moving traffic cones on a public street - Is moving someones traffic cones(someones property) wrong?

Question:
So there is this long discussion on FB of this guy that posted below text.(id link to the post but its a private group) There are replies stating that they know where the person lives so they'd get revenge, theyd call the cops, etc... but a surprising amount of comments stating that "You shouldn't ever touch peoples property, don't move peoples cones"

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Obviously its illegal to cone off a parking space with your own traffic cones, but would it be stealing if someone took the traffic cones?

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>People really have some nerve! Just because I moved a cone where a guy was blocking public parking on the street near the festival at st edwards. I came back to my car and had 2 slashed tires on the side. I know it was the guy whose cone I moved but I have no proof anything I can do? Or am I out $500 for 2 new tires

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Answer:
 Yes it is stealing to steal.

This one would probably go down as such:  The FBOP calls the police and reports that someone slashed his tires, that he knows who it probably is, and explains the cone moving and subsequent slashing.

The LEO, if they are bored enough and so inclined, will either call or pay a visit to the residence of the suspect, and say something like "You were observed slashing the tires of a car on xx St. at yy time", and the suspect may say "Yeah, well that guy deserved it, he moved my cones" thereby self-incriminating, even though the officer had nothing to cite for, he does now.  Then the FBOP can file in civil court and the criminal offense is corroborating.

You would be amazed how many people will throw out a line like "They deserved it" or "I did it because he was being <insert reason>", when questioned by LEO who don't have enough already.   For some reason these folks seem to think that if they can emotionally sway the officer, they will not get cited or arrested.  Then they self incriminate and do.  "I decline to answer any questions without my attorney present" is the *only* proper response.Answer #2: _Taking_ the cone would still be theft. Moving it out of the way, for example to the side of the street, would generally be legal. So would calling parking enforcement to report someone obstructing parking, although whether the cops would bother with it is something of a crapshoot.


Title: Can I lose my baby?

Question:
My fiance has been telling me for months I was pregnant but I didn't believe him because the test was negative. He got a doppler and I let him try today just to get him to stop and we found a small heartbeat. I would be 23? Weeks and I've been smoking weed this entire time for depression and pain, ect. I am stopping immediately. Will they take my baby? ((Doc apt in 3 days 😒))
Topic:
CPS and Dependency Law

Answer: I know this sounds patronising but hearing something on a Doppler doesn't mean you're pregnant. We usually advise women to not use them because they either unnecessarily worry women or they give them a false sense of security because they think they can hear a heartbeat when in fact it's their own. You need a blood hcg testAnswer #2: At this point, there is no baby (legally. Just a fetus). So CPS has no reason to get involved. As long as you quit now and test clean when the baby is born, you should be fine. Keep in mind any OB will likely test your urine. It is best to be honest with your doctor about your history.  CPS doesn't remove children lightly. if you and the baby both are clean at birth, you should be fine. If you are worried, talk to an attorney. And before getting real upset, take a pregnancy test.


Title: [California] Following too closely traffic violation.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 An exit rapidly approaching, unfamiliarity with the roads, changing lanes, and having your turn signal on are not defenses to the charge of following too closely.  If you were too close to the car in front of you, you were following too closely.

If you have an argument or evidence that suggests you were not in fact too close to the car in front of you, you should raise that argument or evidence in your trial by declaration.


Title: Move over law. $1062.50 fine.

Question:
Rock Hill, SC. York County

My husband received a ticket for not "moving over", endangering EMS when he passed a police officer that had someone pulled over. My husband slowed down, wanted to move over, however felt due to traffic it would be dangerous. What can we expect if he goes to court w/o a lawyer vs with a lawyer? Has anyone had experience fighting this ticket? Paying that high of a fine would definitely put a strain on the finances.  Thank you for your time.

Answer:
 He could fight it. The law says he needs to "significantly reduce the speed of the vehicle" and "make a lane change [...] if possible with due regard to safety and traffic conditions".

No clue what his chances are of beating it or getting it reduced though. He should probably write down exactly what happened and what actions he took while it's still fresh in his memory.Answer #2: The move over law states that a driver must at minimum slow down when approaching an authorized emergency vehicle that is pulled over and change into a vacant lane not adjacent to the parked emergency vehicle ONLY if it's safe to do so.   If your husband was ticketed it could be that they thought he was driving too fast or that they were simply mistaken that it is the law that you must change lanes even if it is not safe at the time.   Also I thought the maximum fine was $500?  Were any other offenses tacked on? Answer #3: How much did they slow down?Answer #4: I am curious if anyone's successfully fought these kind of things in court, particularly without say, dashcam evidence.

If I were betting man, I'd say the court is going to take the officer's word on the matter, and assume you wouldn't have been issued a ticket if you weren't seriously a danger to the officer.


Title: What am I permitted to discuss after the case is over as a juror?

Question:
Just served an extremely lengthy jury duty. Obviously, was not permitted to discuss the case while it was going on, but now that it's over, are we allowed to tell friends about the case? Specifically, are we allowed to link to articles about it on Facebook? Believe it or not, they didn't give us any direction on what we could or could not say after it was all over. I don't want to get in any legal trouble for doing something silly. This was a civil case so it wouldn't matter if any attorneys or people involved in the case knew my name so I wouldn't be in any danger...

Located in the US; Kentucky.

Answer:
 The point of separating your private life from the case is to prevent your conversations from outside the court from "contaminating" the trial. Maybe the news is reporting something that the judge is withholding from trial, and discussing the trial would open up the possibility of finding out something like that.

Now that the trial is over, and everything in the trial is public, go right ahead and explain it. Jurors will even talk with the media after some high-profile cases, like the Paul Manafort trial (not that I'm advocating you talk to the media, that's against the rules of the sub, just giving an example of how jurors can and do talk about the case when it's done)Answer #2: If the case is over and there is a final verdict, yes, you can talk about the case.Answer #3: While generally you can talk about the case, in many jurisdictions, you are not allowed to disclose anything that happened in the deliberations, especially that might identify which juror had which opinion. There may also be a publication ban on some information in the case. Inquire with the clerk's office to get definitive answers.


Title: (IL) Recent issues of Ex not knowing where our son is.

Question:
Hello all,

A little bit of a backstory, my son's mother and I have been divorce for nine years. Our son is ten. In that time she has remarried and had three other children. They live in IL and I live in MO, two hours away. I get him every other weekend.

A few weeks ago when I went to pick up my son from her house he was no where to be found. I asked his step-father and his mother where he was, they had no idea. After finding this out, I asked where he might be. They stated the mall, the park, or at a friends. I got in my vehicle and went to the mall. The step-father went to the park. My son was not at either place. When I got back to my ex's house they were sitting around acting like it was not a big deal he was gone. I promptly got back in my vehicle and went down every street looking for his bike and calling out his name. All together it took me a hour to finally find him at a friends four blocks away. Of course during this entire time I'm losing my mind and worried about my son. After I picked him up and took him back to his mother's, his mother and step-father began telling him he shouldn't be that far away, etc. I didn't say anything because it has taken years for my ex and I to get to the point of not hating each other.

Last night, I got a call from my ex. She proceeded to tell me that my son was brought home by a police officer. According to what I was told by her, he and a friend went to the nearby laundromat to get a snack. After getting a snack, my son's friend showed him that one of the coin operated toy dispensers was broken where you could take the top off and steal toys. Well this one happened to have these balls that would stick to walls. From my understanding the boys had taken a few of these, then apparently had made a mess of the laundromat. According to my ex, the owner of the laundromat and the police are reviewing security footage, and the owner may choose to press charges against my son. During all of my son's activities, his mother was at school, but his step-father was home.

My question would be is there anything I can do about this? I worry my son will become a delinquent if nothing is done. I get the feeling my ex and her husband don't pay enough attention, nor seem to care where my son is/goes.

Thank you.

Answer: Do you ultimately want your son to come live with you? If so, this is potential evidence that can be used in a motion to modify the custody order. You should talk to an attorney about what the possibilities are for pursuing that. Answer #2: Regarding the first issue of knowing where your son is, the most obvious and simple solution is to get him a Cell Phone and have him carry it on him. You can then contact him directly yourself if/when you are looking for him.


Title: [NV] Bullied out of a 20 year career

Question:
My mom has been figured from her 20 year job because they say she no called no-showed.

For the last 3 years the company has been under new management.
It's been said amongst coworkers that there has been firing among anyone not young, fresh and modern to represents the companies new image.
Out of everyone that worked there before management took over, now only a handful remain. Seasoned in their fields, they are all scared.

Should she seek a lawyer?
Can they reject her of anything she has earned, such as Retirement, 401, etc? We're worried all of her commitments will be degraded.

By bullying I mean she has been harassed with text messages, people demanding her to come in on days she has scheduled PTO. Demanding her not to enjoy her days off and cover shifts.. just all around pressuring her to feel stressed and she feels bullied. Please advice

The company is a healthcare facility in NV.
Please and thank you for sharing anything we should be aware of moving forward.

Answer: Being fired for not calling and not showing up is not the same as being bullied out of a job.


Title: [US,CA] Cell phone chargers in exchange for CA Prop. signatures on college campus. Isn't this illegal/voter fraud?

Question:
I go to Mesa College in San Diego.

To make a long story short when I was walking to class I saw several large sandwich boards saying "FREE IPHONE AND ANDROID CHARGERS ASK ME HOW".

I asked how to get one at the table, and I was told by one of the canvassers to sign the petition to sell the city's stadium to a private company. I said I didn't want to sign but would like a free charger. I was then told "Sign this and you can have a charger." I refused again and asked for a charger.

I was not antagonizing or trying to get a rise out of anybody. I was just curious if I could get one without signing. I was then yelled at and insulted and blocked in a physically menacing manner by the large canvasser. He told me, "Go ahead, take one", but he was physically blocking me and said it in a menacing manner obviously implying that I was completely unwelcome to have one. I decided to snap a picture of the signs and table at which poi

How is this not quid pro quo phone chargers for ballot signatures? I'm sure the canvasser personally didn't fund the creation of these sandwich boards, they were all over campus.

Who can I report this to!? I didn't spend 6 years defending the constitution to allow our government to be sold off for some cell phone chargers. This is a complete perversion of our voting framework and I really feel strongly about this.

Pictures:

https://i.imgur.com/GG4CXzq.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/uFeErsMg.jpg

Thank you for your time and words.

Answer: Either your state or county does the elections in CA. You can contact them about this. They may actually be fairly interested in this as elections offices really don't like the image that people are getting paid for specific votes.


Title: Georgia, 23, M, Employed "Mother-in-law" wants to file for my child as her dependant

Question:
I recently had my first child, and this was a bit unexpected to say the least, so my finances weren't in the best order. However, i did provide all that my needed as a baby and my child. My kid and her mom both live with the grandmother (on her mom's side) for half of each week due to my retail hours, but I am the sole provider for my kid as her mom is a student. Her grandmother has bought a few items here and there, but as far as her main support, that comes solely from my income (formula, clothes, diapers, etc.). I make around 45k a year. My issue is, her grandmother wants to claim my kid, even though she doesn't actually provide anywhere close to half the support. My kid and her mom both spend half of each week with me at my own apartment, I also provide financial support to my kid's mom, but I won't try to claim her since I understand her mom (granny) needs the money from the tax credit.

TL;DR

My kid's granny wants to claim him/her. I don't think that's fair since I provide all her support. My kid's mom doesn't work, and only stays with the grandma for half of each week due to long work hours. What can I do?

Answer:
 this isn't a question of what anybody *wants.* this is a question of what the law is. but the IRS has a handy-dandy little tool to help you figure it out:

https://www.irs.gov/uac/Who-Can-I-Claim-as-a-Dependent%3F


Title: Accounts created using my email address(es)

Question:
Lately, there have frequently been more people using my email address and email addresses with my domains to create accounts at websites.  Some of them require you to login to unsubscribe.  Is it legal for me to reset the passwords for these accounts and change the email address?

Location is in the U.S.
Topic:
Computer and Internet

Answer:
 I always go with 'Reset password, remove email information (or replace email to one of said services own, we'll see how they like being signed up for an account and spammed without verifying the email address is correct!) , delete account if possible' personally.

Why? How can I be sure this isn't someone trying to impersonate me? Impostor fraud is quite common, with fake or cloned accounts and hijacked accounts being the most popular ways of doing it.

That said, I do have some repeat dopplegangers I treat a little more nicely. Finally had to talk one through creating his own facebook account after I'd deleted three of them out from under him. Poor guy is 81 and still doesn't understand how email addresses work, despite fifteen minutes of both myself and one of his grandchildren explaining it to him.


Title: Employer tells us there are "gaps" in our health insurance coverage while still charging us the premiums.

Question:
This is in NJ.

As the title says, last week my employer told us that there's been a "gap" in our coverage. It was suggested that if we have any scheduled appointments, to tell the doctors offices to hold off on billing our insurance until next month. The thing is, they're still deducting our premiums from our paychecks, while not actually providing us any coverage, and on top of that, they didn't notify us of this "gap" which appears to have occurred April 1st, until halfway through the month. This is also the 2nd time in the past year they've done this in the past calendar year.

Is there any course of action here? Some sort of agency that can be notified of this? I certainly don't want to make a stink about it for fear of losing my job, but it seems very negligent of them to do this.

Answer:
 >Is there any course of action here? Some sort of agency that can be notified of this? I certainly don't want to make a stink about it for fear of losing my job, but it seems very negligent of them to do this.

You should start looking for another job.  This wasn't negligence, it's because they are having financial problems and used the insurance money to pay something else.

I wouldn't be surprised if they are failing to pay their payroll taxes as well.


Title: Roommate says I touched them in an uncomfortable way.

Question:
I have a roommate whom I’ve lived with for over a year now. Things have always been fine between us up until recently. The night before last she had a friend over, and when I heard them talking she told the friend that I had touched her when I knew she didn’t want to be touched, and said it made her have bad vibes and felt I was creepy. I don’t know where it’s coming from other than that I know she’s been talking to a guy who’s jealous that she has a roommate who’s a guy. Other than that I don’t know why she’s said this. I spoke with her and she got angry and told me she doesn’t care what happens to me. I don’t really have anywhere else to go right now. No family or friends where I live. What can I do? If it comes down to one person’s word over another, will it mean I’m screwed because I’m a guy?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: Uh, what’s your question? Are you just trying to get her to stop saying stuff like that?


Title: Uber eats is screwing me

Question: So i delivered uber eats to a person (I have the trip info and the finance info from it) decided to report a month after the delivery ( and i should add they tipped me through the APP!) decided to report that they didn't get the delivery A MONTH after the delivery and uber sent me a message saying they reviewed the gps and decided i didn't deliver it. even though the dude tipped me which is an obvious  point to me having delivered it. Not to mention if the actually pulled the gps the would have SEEN that i had delivered it.

Answer: It's worth pointing out that Uber Eats and similar services solicit a tip when ordering, before the food is actually delivered.  Your situation sucks and I wish you the best, but the mentioning tip doesn't really help to support your position


Title: Can an employer legally sell jobs to the highest bidder?

Question: There is a techbro recently discussed on r/recruitinghell trying to make a start-up where you pay money to “skip interviews” which sounds a lot like just paying for a job. Is that legal? Would it matter who gets the money, and who gets employed?

Answer:
 This sounds like the worst possible way I could imagine to hire peopleAnswer #2: An employer can hire on whatever basis they choose as long as they’re not illegally discriminating.Answer #3: My father used to hire people by simply offering the job to the first qualified applicant to walk in his door.

This method actually sounds worse (Edit: assuming you want to genuinely hire workers to do jobs properly and not just run your tech company as a pyramid scheme kept afloat by the ~~fees~~ bribes paid by job seekers)


Title: Ex-gf gave me a temporary restraining order.

Question:
Broke up with my crazy ex couple weekends ago, and now she’s trying to get one last punch in by playing the victim and trying to get me in some real trouble with domestic abuse.  She gave a report to he police about our final fight, some of which was lies and some truth, with some things carefully left out on her end.  There is a court hearing next week, and I want to talk to the detective that is handling the case to clear it all up beforehand.  Should I lawyer up if it sounds like it’s something that shouldn’t really be a problem?  I’m pretty broke so I can’t get a good one anyway.  What do you guys suggest doing right now?

Edit:  I’m in California for legal purposes

Answer:
 > Should I lawyer up if...

Yes.  That which follows the "if" is irrelevant.

Restraining orders are serious business.Answer #2: > I want to talk to the detective that is handling the case to clear it all up beforehand.

Bad idea.  Nothing good can come of that for you.  Anything you could possibly say to the detective before court can be said in court instead, or rather, in the presence and under the guidance of your attorney.Answer #3: > There is a court hearing next week, and I want to talk to the detective that is handling the case to clear it all up beforehand.

Impossible. It is not being handled by a detective at this point, it is being handled by a court.

> Should I lawyer up if it sounds like it’s something that shouldn’t really be a problem?

If she lied in her earlier statements then it **is** a problem. Will she lie this time? Will she tell different or bigger lies? Would you know what to do in court if she did? I think having a lawyer will be much better in the long run, although it is NOT necessarily the case that a less expensive lawyer is less competent, so it's probably OK to go with whoever you can afford (or who takes a payment plan).


Title: How to get half of my deceased mother's house/land which my sister now inhabits.

Question:
Location:  Texas

My mother passed away in April 2015.  My uncle is the executor of her will.  Her assets were to be divided up 50/50 between my sister and I.  All is going well on most fronts.  We agreed it would be a good idea for her and her children to move into the house and I would move into a trailer house on the property (I usually just rent apartments) until all of the deeds are transferred, be closer to family, etc.  My sister and her children were living in this trailer house before my mother passed.  I believe she is in the process of getting the house homesteaded in her name for tax purposes.

During this time I've helped her out financially, only about $4,000 in total.  In trying to recoup some of this money now that she's on her feet somewhat she has completely stonewalled me.  At this time, I would like to be compensated for my 50% stake in the home, as well as the 8 acres of land it sits on and then I'll wash my hands of the situation and move on.

My uncle (the executor) is of the mindset to work it out if we can but I'm about done, actually yeah I'm done.  We have a probate lawyer that isn't the brightest bulb in the room.  What are my options to move on?  She can have the house and the land, I don't care, but I want to be compensated for my stake in it.

As a caveat, the house has no deed that I'm aware of.  It was built by my grandfather, passed down to my mother and uncle, and then passed down to my sister/myself.  If I had to guess an appraisal value on it I would say around $50k.  The land is now deeded to myself and my sister.

Thanks for any help.

Answer: It would behoove you to obtain your own attorney, especially if your probate attorney isn't doing a great job. Even if he was great, he isn't out for your best interest, he's out for the interest if the estate. I like the solution below concerning having her get a loan to pay you your portion, but i suspect that can only work if she is legitimately scared you'll forclose on her and force a sale if she doesn't cooperate, and that will likely require representation.


Title: Neighbor won't sign permission waiver, which allows the contractor access our easement to tent and fumigate our home.

Question:
Unless i agree to pay for any plants that die in the process. I live on a zero-lot-line. The neighbor has 4 bushes with trunks from 6 inches to 13 inches from my wall. The branches and leaves touch my home and all the plants are so close to my home that they fall directly under my roof.

Also termite company won't fumigate without the neighbors permission...so the neighbor is effectively stopping me from maintaining my home.

What can i do?

Answer:
 They're within their rights to not sign, and you're within your rights to find a termite company that will do the job without a waiver.

Offer to replace plants that may be killed. Take before photos and have the neighbor provide an accounting of what kind of plantings they are.


Title: [CA] Hooligans egged/broke my window, landlord says he’s not responsible?

Question:
About 3 days ago, some hooligans egged/broke my window(very old and fragil). We’re new to the area, so we don’t know anyone. (However, our landlord is not well liked in the area, so that might have something to do with it) Our landlord lives in the back of the house in his own space. Immediately let him know about the window, and he said he would fix it in a week or two. Today, he texted my girlfriend this.

“Unfortunately I'm not responsible for your broken front window and renters insurance probably won't cover it on the deductible because that winter will probably be $150 but it's up to you guys if you want to live with it like that.”

What rights do I have? Can he really do that? What can I do about this?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 As I understand it, the warranty of habitability requires unbroken windows in CA and the landlord may not avoid it, legally.  I see no way you can be held liable for vandalism.  It *may* be different if you broke it yourself, but I'd be willing to bet they'd have to fix it then bill you or the like.

If, after informing them in writing, they do not repair it then you have the right to either withhold rent until the repair is made or you can repair it and deduct the reasonable cost of the repair. This sort of issue can get complicated.  I'd suggest contacting local legal aid if you can't afford an attorney.  There are very specific procedures you have to follow for this sort of thing.

There is likely a free legal aid option close to you.  Here's a [website](http://lawhelpca.org/subtopics/landlord-and-tenant-issues) recommended by the CA Attorney General's website that should help you find that, if you need it.


Title: Fired for “Poor Lack of Judgement” 5 Days before Christmas with no severance.

Question:
I have worked for the past 18 months as a senior executive at very large software company. I received a new manager( Let’s call him Mike) the first week of December. Mike, my new manager had a negative opinion of me before he was promoted to be my direct manager. I had received feedback from one of my peer managers who Mike used to report to before being promoted. This peer manager told me that Mike had told him prior that Mike felt like I shouldn’t be a manager at the company and that Mike was unimpressed with me. This feedback was relayed to me while Mike was interviewing for the role as my new manager. I was also interviewing for the role but decided to withdraw my candidacy for multiple reasons.

For the end of year, I wanted to reward my team with an outing to go sailing down in Miami. I collaborated with my team on a couple of ideas on what they wanted to do end of year and everyone agreed that sailing would be awesome. These end of year gathering are typical in sales organizations and are often referred to as QBR’s or Quarterly Booking Review. These QBR’s generally include a fun team building activity or outing coupled with formal meetings and discussions regarding performance for the quarter. My direct reports have had really rough year due to leadership turnover, lack of strategy and vision, plus no formal compensation plan put in place until late October. Long story short, I wanted to build moral and team synergy going into 2020 and we all agreed a couple day sailing trip would do the trick. Additionally, I had one new hire that was planning on attending plus another hire that was formally starting in Feb 2020. It was a great opportunity to onboard the new hires, celebrate the hard work of 2019, and plan for 2020. Most of my team was already residing in Florida which made the event more cost effective and convenient. All of the guys were super excited.

I started making plans, gather cost information, and preparing the expense proposal for my VP who was my direct supervisor at the time. Most of the scheduling and finalization took place over Thanksgiving break. I had a scheduled face to face one on one with my VP the following week to seek his approval for the outing. The Monday before the face to face with my VP, I received a call from Mike who had just formally started that very day. He said my VP asked him to call me in regards to the boat reservation expense I had submit via expense report over the Thanksgiving break. I told Mike all about the event and that I was planning on seeking my VP’s approval in my 1-on-1 the following day. Mike didn’t express any concern and seemed passive after I gave him the information regarding the event. Mike had no problem with the event or didn’t seem to care at the time and suggested I speak with my VP directly, which I had already scheduled. I decided to reach out to my VP directly post the call with Mike to clear up any confusion. My VP explained that he didn’t feel the event had good optics end of year since the division hadn’t fully hit our targets. He felt my team should be focusing on closing end of year business, which we didn’t have or were forecasting. He did not approve the event,m so I cancelled the reservation right after our call and the deposit I had placed to hold the boat was refunded in full. Done deal, team was bummed.

Fast forward to Dec. 20th. I received an calendar invite from Mike and HR requiring my presence in person 3 hours before the scheduled time. Mike was on a conference bridge while an HR rep was in person.  I thought the meeting was to perform 9-block planning(employee assessment exercise) for my employees. Mike opened the meeting by stating that he thought the event showed a poor lack of judgement on my part and that I could no longer be trusted as a leader. I was terminated effective immediately. Mike then disconnected from the conference bridge and I was left with HR. The HR representative claimed that they did an investigation and that the members of my team felt the event was unsafe, compulsory, and inappropriate. I was never spoken too as part of the investigation. HR also claimed that my team members said they would have rather been focusing on closing end of year business. I was given no severance, extension of health benefits....nothing. 5 days before Christmas and the last day before the company closes the book for the year and shutdown until Jan. 2nd

I have worked at the company for 18 months and my team has outperformed in multiple areas. My wife is pregnant with our second child who is due in April and we have a 2 year old at home. My father was recently hospitalized and is struggling tremendously. I am the sole breadwinner.

I have always been a hard working honest employee with zero HR infractions or warnings. To be terminated 5 days before Christmas without severance or support I feel is harsh and unjustified. Especially considering the event never happened. I was completely blown away by the whole situation, I still am!

I have seen this company payout severance in much more extreme terminations like harassment and insubordination. In fact, two of my direct reports where awarded 3 months severance for fairly serious infractions.

I was especially hurt that HR claimed my employees had said those things during an investigation.  I have always had what I felt was a very open door relationship with my team members. I consider them friends and they have confided in me and I in them regarding very personal information. Something didn’t sit right with HR’s claims. I then decided to reach out to each member of my team via phone and directly ask them if they felt the trip was inappropriate, unsafe, and if I made them feel like they couldn’t approach me about it. Everyone I spoke too confirmed that they never said or felt any of those things. In fact, they stated the exact opposite and that the event was something they were most excited about. I recorded these conversations with each team member using my cell phone. Before recording, I check and discovered that per my local state law I could record as long as one of the parties on the call consented, which in this case was myself. I did not inform each team mate that I was recording. My logic in recording the calls was mainly for my own documentation and to ensure I didn’t mis-quote anyone. I am not sure if the recorded calls can be used in a court room but at least I knew what each person would say if they were directly asked the same question during a trial. It also gave me piece of mind that I wasn’t a bad leader as HR and Mike were trying to paint. It would have really hurt me if my employees didn’t feel like they could express concern or approach me. We mutually made the plans together as a team so I was pretty confident Mike and HR were fabricating cause to have me terminated.

So my question is: Do I have grounds to sue?

I feel defamed, which I am not sure how to quantify but this was certainly an attack on my reputation and leadership.

This company typically pays severance and I am being treated differently.

Could they just be making up a bogus reason to fire me to hide a more discriminatory reason?

I know what at-will employment entails but is there something to be down with the call recordings showing possible fabrication or lack of HR due diligence?

Lastly, this company is extremely well know globally for being one of the best companies to work for. They have received numerous awards and recognitions regarding there investment into employees and benefits. They always seem to have a lot of good press, especially locally, that talks about their respect and treatment of employees. They claim to be all about employees and their families toting a high caliber of work life balance. Terminating someone 5 days before Christmas for bogus cause, no severance, a pregnant wife and young family at home is just cruel. Would there be any benefit to talking to a reporter or newspaper?

Thanks for taking the time to read everyone! I am really eager to get some of your insight here.

Please forgive any typos or misspelling as I am typing with brevity and a toddler in my lap.

Answer:
 >So my question is: Do I have grounds to sue?

For what? You planned a party that your boss didn't like. Nothing in your narrative suggests this was discriminatory in nature.


Title: 2 misdemeanor charges can anyone give me advice

Question: I'm 15 year\-old 9th grader and my world seems to be falling apart. Last week stupidly my friend and I decided to spray paint a storage room in a apartment complex we live at. Let me go back a little bit. So I was skateboarding once and I noticed a storage room that was open. On the lock side of it , it had marks on it that showed that someone broke into it. So one day my friend and I decided to spray paint the inside walls of the storage room and put holes in the walls too. After what we did we left and never came back. And last week on Thursday I was picked up from school by my parents. They were really mad and asked me why I did it, etc. They told me that my friend has confessed and told the cops on what happened. And that I was going to have to answer the questions that the cops had. You might be thinking why did this stupid teenager to do this. I know it was really stupid , when I decide to do stupid things that will get me in trouble I don't think about the consequences. So I talked to the cops they told me my friend had confessed. They had a camera and they took pictures of the damages I have done with my friend. They asked me what I did and I told them that I spray painted the walls and put holes in the walls with my friend. They also asked me if I broke the lock on the door and I told them it was like that, and my friend said the same thing. \(Note my friend and I were interrogated at separate times and we never made contact with each other after the incident \) When I kicked the walls I left a shoe mark. They asked me for the shoe and I gave it to them. They took a picture of it and gave it back to me. If I remember correctly I'm being charged with 2 misdemeanors which they are : break in and entering , and vandalism. \(Note I was taking concerta for behavioral issues since I had ADHD, I started taking it in 7th grade and I stopped taking it 1 month before the incident happened.  I really need any advice anyone can give me. I will have a court but I don't know the date of it yet. I also live in the state of NC.

Answer: Well you shouldn't have spoken with the police without a lawyer present. When you go to court ask for a public defender if your parents won't provide one.


Title: Chalking Tires

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Have you literally never parked a car at a meter or timed space before?


Title: [MO] Recieved money from someone about to commit suicide

Question:
I was online on a site much like this and started talking to someone who was adamant on killing themselves. I tried to talk them out of it but they were set on doing it and nothing I said could've helped them. I didnt know their true location to contact authorities or anyone.

As a joke, I was telling them that if they are gonna die anyways, send me some money cause it's not like they'd need it and this person was a forever alone type with no friends or family or anything. So they actually sent me a few hundred bucks much to my surprise.

They usually get on daily and they haven't been on for a week since they said they'd do it so I assume they really did kill themself. So do I have to worry about anything with this money?

Answer: That’s a crazy situation. They willfully sent the money, there’s no worry there. I would however try to report it to the site administrator. Nobody is going to car about the money, but maybe you they can contact the local authorities if they have enough information on the person. It’s doubtful but worth a shot to possibly save someone’s life.


Title: I keep going sent home from work on the only day I'm scheduled to work. Illinois.

Question:
I posted earlier but I'm reposting again because I posted at 2am 😅

Sorry if this isnt the right sub I didn't know where I should post this, I just wanna hear some opinions if that's okay.

Im working at a fast food place this summer in Chicago, IL and my schedule ranges from 4-5 days a week. I started in May and told them I can stay until the end of August when I go back to school.

My general manager went on vacation 2 weeks ago and left a schedule that is supposed to last for the whole 3 weeks he's gone for. The new schedule he made only has me working 1 day a week! That's not even the worst part. It looks like purposefully scheduled 3 other employees to work the same shift as me, the limit of employees on that particular shift is 3. First week I show up after he leaves for vacation I get sent home, because there were already 3 other girls there. Second week, it's just me and 2 other girls. Then my coworker gets a call from the morning manager (who had just left) telling her to send me home if the other (4th) girl shows up. She never shows up, I got to stay the full shift.

Yesterday, I show up and the afternoon manager says "Oh you dont work here...erm..I mean you're not on schedule...I mean you are on the schedule today but you're going home. You weren't supposed to work last week either why didn't you go home." It was just her there. The other 2 girls hadn't shown up yet.

I have a friend who works at another location for the same chain, and I would've transferred to their location since week 1 of this "1 day a week" madness but I cant work there because I'm still "working" here. Managers won't tell me why I'm scheduled to work even tho I just get sent sent home.

What do they benefit from doing this? Why not just fire me? Do they want me to quit? Is there anything I should be doing?

Answer:
 They're probably hoping that if you quit, you won't think you can get unemployment, and that by avoiding an unemployment claim, they'll keep the cost of their insurance down. Or they hate conflict and don't have the guts to actually fire you.

Either way, this is classic constructive dismissal. If you quit fairly promptly, you _should_ still be eligible for unemployment while you look for a new job, on the basis that the schedule change and being sent home from every subsequent shift effectively terminated your employment. That's not a guarantee, but it's likely your best option. Look for another job, and if you do quit "voluntarily," file for unemployment anyways.


Title: D.u.i. Experience in mesa,az

Question:
It all started 23 months ago, I make a legal left turn,into the proper lane and there he was ,out of no where, tailing me on his motorcycle ,lights flashing ,siren wailing.
I find a safe place to stop,the officer approaches my vehicle ,I'm a bit nervous,I had just quit smoking cigarettes 5 days prior,I had not been drinking or any recreational drugs either .
I hand him my d.l and insurance and he explains to me why he stopped me,I had hit the white center line as I made my left turn.......really! And from here it went south fast ,why you nervous ,have you been drinking,no officer and next thing I know he has me out walking the line ect.
Then here comes the goon squad,4 gorillas climb out of a large black armored 4 wheel drive,D.E.A. Plasterd across there chests ,backs,and hats.
Well here's where I made a mistake and let them search the car,being my then g.f s car I had borrowed ,I assumed nothing would be in it,wrong.
They ended up finding a small amount of weed and pipe .
The officer is now testing me with the light in the eyes test,as the officer has me follow the light,one of the goons is standing behind the officer ,head practically sitting on officers shoulder ,making stupid faces at me as I'm trying to follow this light.
Well now the officer is not arresting me,but is going to take me in and give me a blood and urine test ,tow the car ,and it can be picked up at the tow yard for 25.00 by owner.
I give my blood and urine and a d.m.v slip no ticket for anything,and I'm released.
As the cop walks me out,he is offering me a cigarette, in which I said no I have quit ,and then he is like lets talk about your case ,I told him there is absolutely nothing to talk about and left.
It's 23 months later,my licence is still suspended ,and I have not received anything in the mail ,court date ,nothing.I went down to police station this week and ordered a police report ,and will be receiving it in a few weeks,it is the report that was filed the same day I was stopped by officer.
I have the officers phone# and extension and have left several messages this week with case # have not heard back.
I guess I'm posting here to vent,and to see if anyone has had an experience similar, and what was the out come,I realize I'm  going to need a lawyer to get this taking care of,I just can't see the reason for the huge time lapse,and realize the D.A only has one year if misdemeanor to file charges .thanks for reading .

Answer:
 What happened when you followed the advice given last time?

[Link](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3pcwca/az_license_suspension/)

You also forgot to mention this time that you failed to contact the DMV in a timely manner.

If you continue posting with no new info they will be deleted. Only warning.


Title: Need legal advice regarding my daughter getting a serious injury at daycare (Pennsylvania)

Question:
So I am 200 miles away at work, my wife got a call at her office today, she is literally across the road from our daycare, my 2 1/2 year old daughter "fell" onto the corner of a bookcase in the classroom according the school (I feel like this isn't whole truth however) , my wife went to pick her up and she clearly needed to go to the ER, she has a HUGE gash on her forehead that has required 6 stitches and has a suspected concussion.

we have had serious concerns with staffing levels at the daycare before, this isn't a cheap daycare either and I feel that an injury this serious is at the very least negligence on the part of the daycare at worst case actual endangerment at having something in a classroom for children that age that could cause an injury of this type.

so here is the question, what do I do? clearly I feel like we should remove her from this place and find an alternative ASAP, and I feel like we should report them to the state.

do I sue for negligence? my wife is surprisingly more calm about this right now, perhaps as she has been at the hospital all day with my daughter she is just tired about it and as I am so far away until tomorrow I am just very emotionally high on this right now as I feel like I can't do anything right now.

 thanks in advance for any discussion and advice anybody can offer.

Answer:
 > (I feel like this isn't whole truth however)

I'm wondering what you think happened. I have a two-year old. He falls into stuff constantly.


Title: Being stalked and the police won't help

Question:
Long story short,  me and my girlfriend are being stalked and harassed by an ex-girlfriend of mine. She is mostly harassing my girlfriend and it's been going on for about six months.

She has followed her to work and left messages on her car.  She has left messages on her door telling her to "be ready for tonight".  She constantly creates fake profiles and pretends to be someone "I'm fooling around with."

She has found someone very tech savvy who showed her how to spoof phone calls and texts.  She even found a way to inject malware into our phones and was able to get a hold of our logins and passwords for everything.  She was reading our message and sending messages to other people pretending to be us.  We had to format our phones and computers after that and I'm  paranoid it's not still there.

For a while my girlfriend was friends with a sheriff that would send people over to watch her  house at night.  Because of all this she has moved to a different location and the new police force will not do anything.   They told her that unless the girl does anything physical then they are too busy to do anything effective.

I would really like to know what our options are because we don't know how much more of this we can take.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Edit: this is happening in Georgia

Answer: If you have evidence that this ex-girlfriend is doing these things, you can seek a restraining order.  Other than that, keep filing police reports when these incidents occur.Answer #2: It's the "injecting malware" part that stopped me. How in the world would she have been able to do this without having possession of your phones?