Title: [Canada] Upstairs neighbor has been making construction and random noises for over 4 years now and it's affecting my health

Question:
I live in a condo that's being rented. For the past 4 years, probably longer, my upstairs neighbor has been making all kinds of construction noises ranging from hammering to drilling to just general noises like banging.

The times they make construction noises ranges from 8 am - 9 pm. Sometimes they make noises for 2 hours straight, other times it's in random intervals between those hours.

Furthermore, they make random non-construction noises 24/7. These include things like balls rolling, loud banging, what sounds like someone jumping up and down repeatedly, a piano being played, and more.

This is seriously affecting my health in all kinds of ways. I can't get restful sleep because I'm usually still asleep until the afternoon. I'm a student.

When I'm up, my concentration and focus suffer as a result of the noises. This affects my ability to get work done. Not only that, but it also affects my everyday activities, like simply playing video games. I can't even relax in my own home.

Imagine coming home from a long and stressful day in an attempt to relax only to have your neighbor make extremely loud and obnoxious noises.

I suffer from depression and ADHD and I have no doubt these noises are exacerbating my symptoms or even causing some of them. How can it not be considering how my sleep is affected?

My dad has spoken to management and they said that as long as it's after 9 am the neighbors can make all the noise they want.

This does not seem right. Is a person not entitled to a noise-free home? Are there no human rights for ensuring a person's home is free from disturbances?

I live in Toronto, Canada.

Answer:
 >Is a person not entitled to a noise-free home?

No. If you want a "noise-free home", move to the country. It's not a realistic expectation if you want to live in an apartment building in the fourth-largest city north of the Rio Grande.

>Are there no human rights for ensuring a person's home is free from disturbances?

No.

You can make a noise complaint to the city or sue your neighbour for private nuisance.

edit: Or you could, you know, try *talking to your neighbour*. Or you could move.


Title: [AZ] My mom is getting put on O2. She works in a kitchen. They are letting her go because there's no other open position

Question:
I hope I'm in the right place for this. But my mom works in a kitchen at a retirement home in AZ. She's soon to be placed on oxygen and her job is telling her that she won't be allowed to work there anymore. I understand that she can't work in the kitchen due to the risks involved with the open flames... But are they allowed to just fire her? Or is there something we can do?

Thanks for any and all advice in advance

Answer: If there are no other positions for her to work on them what would you like them to do? They only have to make reasonable accommodation.


Title: No lease presented (since August). Can my girlfriend and I not pay for November and use the money to get into a new place without penalty and still be eligible to receive security back? Florida.

Question:
Ok. So here's the deal. The place is falling apart and we pay entirely too much in rent. The lease expired in August and no new lease was presented to us but we have continued to pay month to month (there has been no discussion about this whatsoever with the landlord). My thought on getting out of the place is to not pay for November and use those funds as part of the down payment on a new property rental. I figure since there's no lease, he has no legal way of coming after us for the money and if he wanted to evict us it would still take time and would he really have a case as there was no lease? I know this sounds sleazy but seriously, the guys a slum lord and the house isn't fit for rental anymore (almost nothing has been done to maintain it in three years and he used a non licensed installer for the "new" central ac unit - ghetto install).

What should we do, can we do to get out of this hell hole and get our deposit back?

edit: I'm not thinking about squatting in the property. Just not paying November and leaving.

edit2: Lesson learned. Do not do this. Thanks, guys.

Again, we're located in South Florida.

Answer:
 > I figure since there's no lease, he has no legal way of coming after us for the money

You figure wrong.

So, SO wrong.


Title: WA. Caught "shoplifting". Need to know my rights.

Question: Obviously throw away. So I'll be honest. Walked in Safeway to steal liquor. I am 17. Had a little bottle of whiskey in my hand, I was putting in in my backpack as the manager walked by( I know I know, idiot for the backpack) it never left my hand into my backpack, he grabbed it from me and my backpack, told me to leave and have a parent get the bag back. So I left, but came back to ask for the monster in my backpack I bought at 711(which was a no go) and he was going through my backpack holding my monster in his hand, I said "I came back to see if I can get my monster out of there, oh it's in your hand" he said just no then told me to leave, I'm no longer allowed in the store. I know I'm a stupid fucking idiot for stealing alcohol, and I will tell my mom eventually. But I need to know as a citizen with rights, was it totally legal for him to take(basically steal) my backpack.

Answer:
 You should consider yourself lucky the police weren't called. Buy another backpack, stop stealing, and don't drink until you're 21.Answer #2: I love the quotes around stealing, makes me think you dont believe you were stealing. You are in for a world of hurt if you dont "grow up".Answer #3: Sure, taking the backpack was likely not kosher, and you might be able to get it back, but I'd just write it off. You got out of this situation without getting arrested. A backpack is a pretty good price for that. As for not being allowed in the store, that is completly legal. A store can refuse service to anyone for any reason, outside membership of a protected class.Answer #4: He was letting you walk out after trying to steal liquor AND YOU PUT UP A FIGHT ABOUT A $2 MONSTER!? Good God. Be glad that's all he did. It was absolutely legal for him to call the cops and have you arrested, don't be nitpicky about a backpack. Answer #5: * Attempted Theft 3 (for trying to steal the alcohol).
* MIP (for possessing it in the store).
* Crim Trespass 1 (for returning after being told to leave).

You got off with a glare and a lost backpack. Sure, the store owner can't lawfully seize your property. But the store owner CAN call the police and report the three crimes you committed, at which point the backpack becomes evidence, and then you can try to get it back from the police.


Title: Some Tuscaloosa residents are forbidden by their lease to use their decks during practice. Enforceable?

Answer:
 According to the article, the owners of the buildings imposed these rules about deck use on their tenants as part of their lease.

Alabama does allow landlords to adopt "policies concerning the general conduct of tenants in their use and enjoyment of the leased premises", but there are limitations. Specifically, such a policy

>is enforceable against the tenant only if:

>>(1) its purpose is to promote the convenience, safety, or welfare of the tenants in the premises, preserve the landlord's property from abusive use, or make a fair distribution of services and facilities held out for the tenants generally;

>>(2) it is reasonably related to the purpose of which it is adopted;

>>(3) it applies to all tenants in the premises in a fair manner;

>>(4) it is sufficiently explicit in its prohibition, direction, or limitation of the tenant's conduct to fairly inform the tenant of what the tenant must or must not do to comply;

>>(5) it is not for the purpose of evading the obligations of the landlord; and

>>(6) the tenant has notice of it at the time the tenant enters into the rental agreement, or when it is adopted.

Ala. Code § 35-9A-302(b). I have trouble seeing how preventing tenants from watching football practice would satisfy the first requirement, so this rule is almost certainly not enforceable.


Title: [US - CT] Neighbor's chickens invade my yard; worried about potential repercussions if god forbid my dog gets one?

Question:
Hello, /r/legaladvice!

Our next-door-neighbor keeps chickens.  Up until very recently the chickens were kept in a fenced-in pen, as we'd complained to him before about his chickens wandering all over our yard; I'm not sure what happened but that pen is all of a sudden gone and the chickens are free roamin' again.

Yes, I am obviously going to go talk to him about this because if I wanted chickens in my yard, I would have chickens.  They're destructive little assholes and I don't want them on my property.  If that doesn't work we'll do what we've done in the past when we've had problems with this and call animal control if we have to.

My question in the meantime while we sort this out pertains to a hypothetical situation - we have a GSD mix who isn't usually aggressive towards other animals but has a) never seen/really interacted with a chicken and b) tends to overreact when he feels like his turf is being invaded.  The dog has a run out back, exactly where I keep spotting these chickens.  Hypothetically speaking - if something happens to one of the chickens on *my* property, through the fault of my dog, am I legally liable?

Just in case it's useful, I'll add that he's *never* off-leash or off-run in the yard, because it's not fenced in, and his run prevents him from getting too near to the property line on any side.

Answer:
 Your dog can eat trespassing chickens with no repercussions. If your dog chases them onto the neighbors property to eat them it becomes a problem.Answer #2: Good luck! I know this doesn't add a lot but I have chickens in my back yard.

My neighbors are pretty chill, and one of them hopped our fence once in the couple years we have had them. Neighbor came over and let me know and we removed her. He told me he was worried that his dog might kill him- I reassured him if that happened, it would have been the chickens fault and no worries if it did happen. I'd come clean up the aftermath.

I apologized for the inconvenience and made sure to bring him some fresh eggs every now and then.


Title: Boyfriends Psycho ex trying to move back into his house that she had abandoned... (WA)

Question:
Hi all, I am looking for a little advice on restraining orders as well as rights that joint owners on property have. Here’s a little back story:

My boyfriend and his ex had been together for approximately 3-4 years. They moved out of a duplex into a house that they purchased together. He is the main name on the house, she is the co-signer. He has paid the down payment, as well as 80% of the mortgage payments, utilities, etc. Over the course of their relationship she had been verbally abusive, attempting to fight him, constantly screaming at her 2 kids, which thankfully aren’t his. Screaming at my boyfriends’ dogs, making them skiddish and they were constantly trying to run & hide. He couldn’t handle their relationship anymore broke it off and had moved him and his dogs away from the situation, this was in December of 2017.

From December of 2017, until June of 2018, her parents made the mortgage payments because she doesn’t work. After June 2018 she stopped making all payments on the house, the utility bill, etc. They started to receive documents from the mortgage company about foreclosure, and in November 2018 she totally abandoned the house, took her belongings and moved away with her 2 kids to Minnesota. NOW, this entire time that they’ve been broken up, she has been sending him threatening messages that she is going to force her way into the house so her and her kids can live in their house and there is nothing we can do about it. She has some how found out who I am (as I have had her blocked on all social media accounts), telling me I have to find a new place to live because it’s HER house and I have no right to be there. My WA residence is at the house, my car, my mail gets delivered there and all my belongings are in the house, as well as my own dog. I have helped my boyfriend pay off all the bills that were months behind, the house almost $5000 behind all in its own. We have made everything current. We have started renovations, have kept every receipt, knowing that she was going to try to threaten us with a lawyer, etc. She told us that she was going to file for bankruptcy thinking it would put the house in her favor, which without my boyfriends consent, she cannot just claim the house. Neither of us have responded to her messages, so she just gets angrier and angrier. We have made the attempt to have her sign a quick claim deed with a cash offering for doing so, and she has declined. My boyfriend also had someone who was ready to purchase the house, and she said no to that as well.

Here it is the end May 2019 & She now claims that she is moving back in, in 3 weeks, and that there is nothing we can do about it...

Now onto info I need for a restraining/protective order & how we can keep her from attempting to force herself back in. I understand that there are rights that she has, as a joint owner of the house, but my fear is that she could become violent and start to vandalize our vehicles etc. I have been told that she has a past history of DV as well as vandalism to property of people she doesn’t like. We have paperwork for a restraining order, but she has no actual tangible criminal record of DV. We have saved all her text messages, social media messages, voicemails. What type of things will we need for a judge to grant a RO to us, as well as an anti-harassment order for myself on her. I already know that I will most likely have law enforcement involved when she does show up to “move back in”, as I know she will be forceful.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Thank You!!!

Answer:
 Is her name still on the deed? If it is she has a right to live there. You could try getting a restraining order but I don’t think you’ve got much frankly.

You bfs best bet is to consult an attorney to find out what rights your bf has (just to be clear - you’re just a tenant and you don’t have rights to the property at all except those granted by your tenancy).


Title: Company is going to lower my salary to offset new overtime rule

Question:
I am an salaried Assistant Manager of a franchise restaurant, making well under the new threshold for overtime exemption.  I'm required to work 50 hours a week, and sometimes work more.

So far the owners of my franchise have yet to make an official statement regarding how they are going to handle the new changes come December 1st, however reliable rumor is that they will lower our salaries to offset the required overtime.  So essentially we will be making the same with the same 50 hours, however I feel that this is them just trying to get around the new law.  They will also have us clock in and out to ensure that we don't go over 50 hours.

Is this legal?  I feel that is probably is, however unethical.  Is there anything I can do?  I live in Florida.

Answer:
 It is legal and common. Many questions every week here with the same essential facts. Answer #2: > however I feel that this is them just trying to get around the new law.

It is. But it's legal provided you are told in advance. Absent an employment contract your employer may change your pay so long as they comply with the law.


Title: She’s 16, I’m 18, and her mentally abusive father is ruining her life.

Question:
Alright so this story will take some explaining, but here’s the skinny of it.

My girlfriend is 16, going on 17 in March. I’m 18 since late August. (We’re less than 24 months apart) We met about 4 and a half months ago at the same high school, and since then I had to drop out to live with a family friend because of a conflict with my living situation. I’m currently working basically full time at a fast food joint.

Although I gave her the option for us to separate because of the burden a relationship like that would have, we chose to stick it out because we love each other blah blah.

Meanwhile, I had no idea her dad was a possessive lunatic. It started simple enough with him not ever letting her hang out with guys, which is typical enough by a parent. But as time went on he became more controlling towards her. He would constantly accuse her of lying about where she’s going despite me living 3 hours away via public transportation and no car of my own. Simply put it getting over to see her was difficult. That’s when he started it with me.

He had this delusion that I was a drug user and a criminal despite that not being any farther from the truth. (I’m a geeky kid who plays games and reads in my free time.) He has never spoken more than a few words to me the one time we met, and continues to make these assertions about who I am.

The way he treats her, while bad, probably isn’t enough to get custody taken away. He mentally abuses her very heavily, treats her as she’s worthless, takes away all her means for us to talk, and he even took her to a mental hospital once as a means to scare her and threaten her. As fucked up as it is, the courts probably couldn’t care less about it unless he hits her often (which he doesn’t)

She recently ran away to my house (which I stupidly gave the address to her dad) and the cops were here shortly to haul her back under the guise of basically “talk to cps but like yeah you can’t do anything”

I’m asking if there’s absolutely anything that could be done in her situation. She can’t be emancipated because her dad won’t let her work. Her mom isn’t even in the picture. There’s other family but like I said unless the courts will give her that option then she’s fucked. Her dad will continue to make her life a living hell for the next year and a half and I’m worried for her well being until then. I don’t know, I’m just desperate at this point and feeling hopeless and looking for any sort of answers.

Answer: Honestly, if her dad doesn't want you to see her, don't see her. It's not going to lead to anything positive. When she's 18, she can do what she wants. Until then, comply with her dad's rules.


Title: (WI) Forcing families to sell raffle tickets at daycare

Question:
I just saw a FB post that a friend is being forced by their daycare to sell raffle tickets for an Easter Bunny Brunch being put on by the daycare.  Each family would have to sell $75 worth of tickets if the kids were "full time" or $50 worth of tickets for "part time" kids.  The families can have a "buy out" option where the family pays $50 (full time) or $30 (part time) and not have to sell the raffle tickets.  The families must either sell or buyout the raffle.

Is this legal?  This is a non-profit daycare (in case that matters).

Answer: Is it part of their contract with the daycare? I assume they are getting low or no cost daycare since it is not for profit. They agreed to some type of program, service obligation, or some such.


Title: Squatting and Adverse Possession (OR)

Question: I often visit a beachfront town called Cannon Beach, and for the past 12 or so years I have visited I have always noticed an unoccupied house on the ocean. How long would I have to continuously squat in the house for the deed to revert to me, if this is even a possibility?

Answer:
 I'm not a lawyer, but I'm an OR resident. I think AP is 10 years of open, notorious, and hostile occupation. I think you also have to have a reasonable belief that you own the property. So if squatting does fall under AP, and I'm not qualified to say whether it does or not, it doesn't sound like you would be able to fit the criteria.

I looked this up in anticipation of a potential fence line dispute with a neighbor not too long ago.


Title: [Denmark] Sister (22F) is trying to ruin my life and drive me out of the house

Question:
Sorry for the throwaway account but I need legal advice. I am a 24 year old male and extremely underweight because of depression due to my family treating me like shit. Lately, my father has been opening up to me lately and I'm starting to gain weight (I'm 180cm and 56kg) and I'm trying to get back into university (I got in two timss but didn't want to study under the same roof with my sister, I'll explain soon) and had to drop out. Why can't I study in the same house with my sister? She dropped out of high school two times because she can't sit in class with other people (she lied and said it was because of me), she kept kitchen knives in her room until my parents found out it was missing after a few weeks, locks her room at night, played with lego until she turned 18 (autism?),  she yelled at my mom that she wants to be alone and right after my father brings my aunt over (they haven't seen each other in 20 years), my sister decides to get in  relationship and she brings him over every weekend and they fuck 3-5 times a day and kiss every minute. I don't know why she dislikes my father's sister when she visifed us for the first time in 24 years but whatever.. She also jumps repeatedly on the floor sometimes.. AND my mother keeps asking me why I'm not trying to study. I've asked my parents why they think this is fine and they threatened to kick me out (WTF). If I wasn't a skeleton, depressed and full of social anxiety, I would move to my uncle and study in his house and pay a small rent out of gratitude. But I can't.. I'm stuck here to rot.  I just want to study and get a degree and find a real job and live on my own and be free but I can't because of this obstacle.

Please help me,  what options do I have? Technically speaking  they starved me and gave me severe depression but how do i go about my way with this? If you're wondering why I don't study and take a loan for a student apartment, it's because I live 10 minutes away from the biggest university here and I would prefer to not get into any debt. My uncle lives 8 hours away and I have no one else to stay at...

Answer:
 This is not a legal issue. You clearly blame all your issues on your family, and then say you have an option to leave but you don't want to do it because you don't want school loans.

Your options are this: leave, take the debt, and make a better life for yourself. Or stay, keep playing the victim because it's easier, and continue with your life how it is.

It's incredibly difficult to have any sympathy for you when you obviously have options but refuse to take them for no reason.


Title: Caught using a fake ID at a local bar, got a ticket a month later.

Question:
WISCONSIN

Just asking for advice on how to fight the ticket I got.

I posted about this a couple weeks ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/4e99sw/fake_id_used_at_local_bar_bartender_took_picture/

I never turned the fake ID in, I destroyed it.
All they have is a picture of my fake id on a table.

Was sent a $250 ticket for Underage False Identification and a letter.
"[My name here],

Per Chief [name]'s request, since you cannot locate your fake I.D. I will be issuing you a city ordinance citation for using your fake ID to at the [bar name]. We are attempting to reduce the amount of underage alcohol consumption in our city and believe that a citation is appropriate.

It is your responsibility to understand what is right and what is wrong. It is understandable that you are now of legal age to consume alcohol in a public stablishment but because this incident occurred white you were under the legal drinking age a citation is deemed necessary.

With questions or concerns you may contact us.

Respectfully,
[Officer name]"

Answer:
 The easiest thing for you to do is pay the $250 fine. No lawyer is going to fight this for less than $250.

What do you think you can do, LIE in court and say it wasn't your fake ID? So then the judge has to decide "Do I believe the police officer who wrote the ticket, or the young dumbass who got caught with a fake ID and has motivation to deny having it?" Google the penalty for perjury in your state.


Title: Worried about losing a CDL (PA)

Question:
I took my daughter and son in law to court to evict them from my house because i felt like they were just taking advantage of my wife and I. I won the judgement and they actually told me they were leaving anyway but now since i have done that they have contacted the pa dot/ fmcsa and state police about my cdl and my log books I have been contacted by both dot and state police that they will be looking into me further.
The real problem lies in that I have 2 jobs and have for 15 plus years but i have never recorded it in my log book. I work 15 hours for 5 days there every week for the past 15 years and that puts me over my 14 hours a day 70 hours for 8 days every week. I also never get my 10 hours of rest time that is supposed to be taken after working the 14 hours. I have also never told my job that i have a 2nd job so they know nothing about it. I got into an accident the beginning of this year and my son in law also reported me falsifying documents to the police since i gave them a log book that never had my 2nd job in it. I was wondering how worried i should be about this and what all could come of it. thank you

Answer:
 You shouldn't worry about losing your CDL, you should worry about going to jail.

Falsifying a logbook is a criminal offense. Don't talk to the police for any reason and start calling lawyers ASAP.Answer #2: Yeah its lawyer time.


Title: [CA] Ex-husband wants to lower alimony payments without court.

Question:
I have been divorced almost 10 years.  Ex-husband has been paying alimony (sometimes late) but has never missed a payment.  With the alimony I am able to make my house payment and pay other needs.

I have a job, but without alimony I cannot pay for my house.  Now ex-husband says he is having financial problems with the gov't, car problems, and other money problems that will affect the alimony payment this month and he might lower the alimony for the future as well.

Can he lower my payments without going to court?

Thanks for your time.

Answer: Lowering it without going to court isn't a thing.


Title: How do I properly provide tech evidence for court?

Question:
This is in Canada, btw.

My smallish company is being sued and I've been asked to provide some emails and activity logs from our system as defense evidence.  I'm not sure what format to submit these to our lawyer (who has no idea what a computer is).

The emails are from Google's GSuite eDiscovery portal (Google Vault), although I imagine the judge isn't going to sit with me to access and confirm those emails.  ...so then do I take screenshots of the emails, or submit the raw email files, or both??

...and as for the system access logs - they are giant log files.  Do I take a screenshot of the relevant line in the log and then circle it, and ALSO submit the log file?   Also, since I'm the sysadmin on the system and part of the defense company, I'm worried the other lawyer is going to claim I'm not an acceptable source for any evidence. Can/will the other side question whether I tampered with the logs before submitting them?  Obviously I haven't, but I don't think there's any way I can prove I haven't - and I'm not sure how to handle that question on the stand if I testify aside from saying they are genuine (which they absolutely are).   I suppose the same question goes for Google's eDiscovery portal...

***I*** know it's impossible for even me to fabricate emails on Google, but how do I convince the judge of that?

Any thoughts?

Answer:
 Yeah.  Tell your attorney that you, the client, need direction as to how to comply.  That means the attorney needs to do the necessary research to figure it out.

If your attorney can't do that, your attorney shouldn't be handling this case.  Find another attorney.


Title: Looking for malpractice lawyer.

Question:
Looking for a malpractice lawyer for my father. We live in the north bayarea of california. He had to get surgery in his hip for a previous hip replacement that was contaminating his blood. When the doctor was removing the hip he broke the ball head from his hip.

The doctor just left the hip broken and the ball joint disconnected from the hip bone. My father doesn't know what hes legally capable. Can any one give me advice so we can move on.

Answer: Call your state bar. Medical malpractice attorneys generally offer free consultations. Meet with a few, see what they say.


Title: If my company is bought and absorbed by a larger one, do our H1B employees need to go through the visa process again with the new company?

Question: We have a few H1B employees. I don’t know much about the H1B process. If my company gets bought out, do their visas allow them to work for the new company without interruption?

Answer: Current H1B visa holders can transfer their visa and start work for a new employer as soon as an H1B transfer petition is 'submitted' to the USCIS by the new employer (sponsor company). The applicant does NOT have to wait until the Transfer is issued.


Title: [WA] The use of "may allow" in lease agreement regarding early termination

Question:
My lease has the following section:

"Provided Tenant is not in default hereunder at the time of giving notice of early termination and strictly complies with all the provisions in the paragraph, the Landlord may allow Tenant to terminate this agreement before the expiration of the original term..."

It then lays out the terms which essentially say give 30 days written notice and pay cancellation fee of 1 month's rent. If we do NOT do that then we are responsible for "All rent accrued during the period necessary to re-rent the premises at a fair rental."

I am curious if I give the proper notice and agree to the early termination fee, can the Landlord really be a stickler for the words "may allow" and decide to not let me terminate my lease early?

Answer:
 Yes, that's exactly what it means.

That clause is written as it is to allow the landlord to make a judgment based on market conditions whether it's to his/her advantage to let you terminate early.


Title: Legal Guardian- Starting to be afraid...

Question:
Synopsis: Long story but please read.  I'm in Ohio- USA
On Father's day 2015, we received a phone call that my 24 year old niece K., who had been staying with her bio dad, had OD'd and was discovered by her boys ( C. Age 7 and D. age 5) and her younger 1/2 siblings. 4 shots of Narcon later, she survived. Obviously she went to the hospital , her and my sister said it was a pituitary gland issue (sure...)

July 26 2015  my husband and I ( we are in our thirties) recieved a phone call from my brother asking us to take K's boys in for a few weeks. Her step-mom was threatening to call CPS and my brother was trying to avoid having these boys go in to the system.

Note: at this point all of my family has small children but my husband and I.

We decided we could, but we went into this knowing a few weeks could very well be permanent. We became the boys Permanent legal guardians in February and they still visit mom/grandma on the weekends. We've had  more than a few spats and sometimes it's a power struggle. But C. who had missed 34  days of school the previous year, failed kindergarten and passed the second time with a D, has been on Honor Roll all year, only missed 3 days. His little brother struggled a bit in Kindergarten ( due to no preK or any at home learning, He didn't know his letters when he came to us)  but passed and likes school.

This summer K has been telling the boys she's going to "steal them back".  She is illegally staying in her mothers apartment, she drinks heavily and is smoking a lot of pot. She goes out Partying after promising the boys she would stay home and watch a movie with them, so I  end up having to deal with a lot of broken hearted little boys. If they mention my name , she calls me a mother fucking bitch and the oldest will get slapped for saying anything about me. She makes differences between the boys because the oldest looks like their father and the youngest looks like her.

Fast forward to July 2016. They had been staying at her house for a couple of weeks after summer school due to our child care falling through.  We were picking them up on a Saturday to have a fun day at the museum. When we got there she said she was taking them back. I calmly stated that she had to peition the court and that they had a list of criteria she had to meet ( I.e the boys had to have their own room and separate beds, they sleep on the floor at my sisters), but that I wouldn't fight it. I said it would take some time so they may have to start school at my house. She lost her mind . Started swearing at me and screaming , threatening me. I didn't want the boys to see that so I sent them down the stairs of the apartment building. She was foaming in the corners of her mouth literally, I tried leaving and staying calm but I did yell back at her. She tried to slam my arm in the door. She then attacked me 3x and tried to shove me down the stairs. She's  5 foot and maybe 90 lbs. I'm 5'6" and over 200lbs so obviously she physically couldn't move me. She grabbed a vase and then my husband and sister stepped in and grabbed her and I took the boys downstairs and got in the car. The boys were crying and hysterical.

Now my sister sent the boys back to my house and our routine is getting back to normal. but now she's asking people how to buy a gun and how she's ready to kill some MF'ers.

Honestly I'm freaked out. I can handle her drug use and irrational behavior but I'm scared she will hurt me or the boys.  I'm not sure what my options are...

Answer:
 Call the police and CPS.Consider getting a restraining order.Answer #2: Ohio is a one-party consent state, so I would recommend recording your interactions with her. Get a small voice recorder, and prior to any interactions with her, start recording. After you've started recording, mention the date and what is occurring (e.g. transfer of children). Back-up any recordings in the cloud.Answer #3: NAL. Maybe I missed this in the post, but does she have visitation rights? Because if not maybe you should consider not using her as child care as she is a violent druggy who was slapping the kid before any of this went down.Answer #4: Do you have any formal visitation setup with her or has it just been as you're willing and able? In either case, you should consider only allowing her to have supervised visitations at a center that provides this service, at her own expense. They have security precautions there for you both, and will monitor the visitation to make sure that she's being civil. This can only help in the long run. If she acts like a moron, those visitation supervisors have degrees in social work and are often times agents of the court system, able to report on her fitness to even have supervised visitation.

IANAL, but I work with a supervised family visitation center.


Title: Are these signs my local mayor is putting up illegal?

Question:
http://i.imgur.com/8KsxJ0W.jpg

They are extremely distracting. They very closely resemble a construction sign, and I was wondering if that's even allowed?

This guy is my local city's current mayor, and I'm pretty sure he's crooked. The police too. He's running again to be mayor, which he will most likely win. That's not the issue here though. Just wanted to give a little back story.

McKeesport, PA

Answer:
 Local laws vary so much, there's really no way anyone here can tell you if you don't give your jurisdiction, and even then it's not likely anyone will know. Generally, election signs are legal within a certain period before and after the election.Answer #2: While a quick search sure does make his property deal sound sketchy, I'd argue instead of trying to go after him for a sign violation and focus on helping whoever is running against him.  If benefiting directly from a city program where he pocketed north of $20k in savings wasn't enough to cause him political issues, a local sign violation certainly won't do anything.

I'm from MA just FYI - no skin in this game, it just seems like a waste of your time in the long run.


Title: Can I sue my landlord if they attempt to charge me for my old carpet with no records?

Question: I am located in Florida. My golden retriever puppy chewed a couple holes in the carpet about 9 months ago and I was worried I would now be responsible for the replacement because the carpet is really old and worn and now has holes. I knew that carpets have a life expectancy and if i was responsible i would be charged a percentage of the full replacement cost based on how many years of life left the carpet had. I decided to go to the front office and ask the landlord when it was last replaced so i can prepare for how much money i was to be charged. When i asked she seemed upset i was asking so early before my lease is up and she claimed they didn't have carpet records because "we have to ask the carpet people they will have the records". After i asked some more for her to check she finally agreed to look it up when she wasn't busy. The very next day she posted a letter on my door and it stated the date of the last vinyl flooring replacement in our bathroom and contained an explanation of how they would charge us for flooring (depreciation of life expectancy blah blah blah what i already knew). I already knew about the vinyl flooring, i was asking her about the actual carpet so i went back to the office to let her know that she looked up the wrong flooring. She claimed that the reason she put the vinyl flooring on the letter was because that was the ONLY records they had on any flooring in my apartment. I asked her why. She replied that the apartments only keep records up to 5 years. I asked her "so since you only keep records up to 5 years and you have no record of the carpet replacement does that mean our carpet is older than 5 years?" She replied yes, so i asked "so if you charge based on how old it is, how are you going to charge us for it if you don't have records on how old it is, i think it's past it's life expectancy so we can't be charged". She said "you will be charged, i will go based on 6 years old". I said "where are you getting 6 years old from?" She replied "ive been doing this for about 20 years i will go in and look and based on my professional opinion i will say it's about 6 years". I told her that she cannot charge me based on her opinion she needs records to charge me and it would be illegal to try and charge me. She said she would be willing to settle that in court. I was told by others including one military legal attorney that if she tries to charge me i can possibly sue her for fraud and business malpractice. I want to know from anyone here who has had a similar experience, or with a background in legal on whether I have a good case against her or not and any other input they feel is useful. Thank you!

Answer:
 No you can't sue her.  Yes she can bill you for damages that she estimates, or her flooring guy estimates.  It's not illegal if she doesn't have pristine records.  You can challenge what she deducts from your security deposit by bringing her to court.  It wouldn't be fraud.  And it wouldn't be "business malpractice."  There is no such thing as "business malpractice."  There is no such thing as "carpet life expectancy."  People can have carpets in their house for 50 years if they want to and never change them.  Fact of the matter is your dog ate holes in the carpet.  You're going to be paying something.

You're putting the cart way before the horse.  You don't even have a clue what she is going to charge you at this time.


Title: Is it legal for my public college professor to politicize to his students?

Question: During our last class of the year, my prof told everyone he hopes we vote republican because of hard work or whatever. Is this legal? he is a public employee...

Answer: Man, are you even trying here? You asked the same question with the reverse party two days ago and got all snippy because you didn't get the answer you want. Did you really think people were going to say differently because you made him a republican?


Title: [MO] So my sister moved into a new neighborhood and we found out that a sex offender lives in the house diagonal from her. Is he required by law to tell my sister and her husband that he is a sex offender?

Question: Im not sure its an actual law or not, but you always see in like SVU the sex offender did not notify his neighbors that he was a sex offender. So i was just wondering if it is a law that he has to tell them or not.

Answer:
 No.

Edit: He "tells" them by registering with the state.  It's up to then to do their due diligence before moving someplace.Answer #2:  Don't believe everything you see on TV.

They are not required to go door to door telling you of their status.

They may be required to list their residency with the state (I'm on mobile, and can't search well now), which you can look up. Answer #3: In Missouri the offender is required to register with the state and there are multiple ways that residents of the state can remain aware of who lives in their neighborhood and in some cases of the location of specific individuals.
But no, the individual is not required to knock on your door and tell you himself.
http://revisor.mo.gov/main/OneSection.aspx?section=589.407

And if your sister is planning on opening a daycare this is something she may wish to know:
http://revisor.mo.gov/main/OneSection.aspx?section=566.147


Title: [Ohio] A cart coral at a grocery store tipped over on my car.

Question:
By cart coral i mean the thing you put the grocery cart in when your done with it. You can find them at various spots in the parking lot.

I was in line when I heard an employee ask another worker to help him lift a coral off a car it had fell on. After I pay for my things I go outside and notice that I'm parked next to a coral so I ask the attendant which car did it fall on and he points to mine. I then asked the manager to come with me to check and see if any damage had been done and sure enough there was. So we take pictures and statements, the employee writes that he actually seen the coral fall over due to a gust of wind.

Later that day I get a call from the insurance agent asking if i can get him two estimates for the damage. I did ask him why couldn't he send someone over to give an estimate and his response was that since they don't deal with auto claims they don't have a company to send and if I did this it would expedite the closure of the claim. He also made the comment that hopefully its around $500 and I can just send you a check and you fix it if you want. My response was that I'd prefer that they send my car to an auto body shop and negotiate the amount with them. I took the car to get an estimate and the estimate was for $1500.

The incident happened on a Wednesday and we spoke that day, Thursday, and Friday; I sent him the estimate Monday morning and have not spoken to him since. He has not returned my calls nor has he replied to my emails.

So my question to you all is what scenarios should I expect and how should I prepare for it?

Answer:
 Sounds like you should wait for them to get back to you and take care of it. Insurance claims aren't speedy things.

/r/insurance

Oh and uh not to be that guy, but it's, "corral."


Title: Worried about false rape accusation- Massachusetts

Question:
I am a 30 year old male in Massachusetts.

My now ex-girlfriend has been raped several times by her exes, something I fully tried to support her going through. However, a few I found out she was cheating and confronted her about it. She got really upset, tried to blame me and we ended up talking through it. Finally I said something along the lines about makeup sex to which she did not exactly say "no" but was definitely uncomfortable with the idea. So nothing happened (we did not have sex). The next day more cheating was revealed and we broke up (Her being very angry with me).

It was then that I realized her exes raped her right before they broke up.

Later that evening she posted on her writers blog something that describes the portions of the event that she remembers. It includes phrases like "I had 4 glasses of wine and could not consent... no, no this cannot be happening again".... cliffhanger.

The entire idea of being falsely accused is terrifying. Now, in my defense, we did not have sex that night and I can prove it. I was wondering about the legality of my proof. I have seizures that typically strike at night and because of which I record my nighttime movements to see if I seized. I prominently provide a sticker on my door of such a camera and I do warn people verbally as well. I had previously given her warning (not that night but previously in our relationship) of the camera.

The camera does record the entire night from when we go to the bedroom and just sleep. What is the legality of such a recording? If an accusation comes how good is it as a defense?

tl;dr: Girlfriend really upset after I confronted her about cheating. She has accused past exes of rape late in their relationship. She wrote a public blog about how she could not give consent on that night and she didn't want rape to happen again (and her story makes it seem like it did). I have video evidence that it did not (from the point of at least one room).

Answer: When you say she was "raped several times by her exes"; do you mean that her exes are now in prison for rape, or that she merely told you she was raped? I'm guessing that none of those incidents were ever reported, let alone resulted in charges. Just stay far away from her and you'll be fine.


Title: First Arrest Need Advice

Question:
3 days ago I was arrested on my college campus by campus police. The charge is for possession of marijuana under 2 ounces which is classified as a class B misdemeanor. I got out of jail on a PR bond and now I have no clue what I'm doing. Any advice is appreciated. I am a 19 year old college student in Texas, USA. I need advice on how to go about hiring a good lawyer and any other important steps I should be taking. This is my first criminal offense.
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer: Get an attorney.  You can contact the state bar to get a list, and call them up and ask how many of these they have defended, and how successfully.  [FAQ here has some links.](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/index)


Title: Employees left Father's company, made identical company and stole our clients. What can be done?

Question: So this started a year and a half ago when employees of our company left and started a rival company after colluding with our clients. Revenues from 2016 with a specific client they took were over $6 million. Revenues from said client dropped to: $0 this year. The client in question is one of the largest media companies in the world and we have been a preferred vendor since 1997/never had any issues with them. What has happened since they stole our clients: Officially closed doors last Monday after losing 600k this year, Parents house is now in foreclosure, 40 people unemployed.

Answer: Lawyer time. Right now.


Title: MA - Do I have any legal recourse against my old university?

Question:
I'll try to keep this short and sweet. (Or sour depending on how you wanna view this story).

I haven't been in college for 4 years, but this incident happened 6 years ago this June.

So a fellow student raped me off campus. I had a witness, but his dad was a cop so it went nowhere. Irrelevant.

I also charged him through the school. He was found not responsible. I have reasons to believe the "trial" was very unfair, but I don't think the details of the "unfairness" had to do with the outcome. It didn't happen on school grounds. If you think these details are relevant I will provide them.

So, being a rape survivor and losing most my friends in the subsequent legal proceedings, I was understandably upset. I hurt myself. I think it's called "pseudosuicidal" or something, when you don't really wanna die but it's a cry for help. I slit my wrists.

A concerned friend reported me.

I was sent to a counselor. She asked if I was suicidal. **this is important.** I said i had had thoughts in the past, but would never actually go through with it. I told her I loved my family too much.  She asked me what I wanted to do.

I told her I had a shift to work in five minutes and would be going there.

She said "I want you to go to he hospital."

I said no, I didn't want to, I was fine and I would go to work.

She pushed the issue and I continued to refuse. She then got the head of the counseling center in the room and he said "You can either volunteer or we can make you go, and it'll look really bad for you if we make you go."  I'll never forget those words.

So, stuck between a rock and a hard place, I went. It obviously did nothing for me. As a result of all of this trauma, I ended up dropping out. I was diagnosed with and still battle ptsd. And for the record, I was an A student before this bullshit went down.

2-3 years ago, I got a little fire in my belly and wanted to see if I could pursue legal action. I went to the school to get my counseling records. They tried to talk me out of it but I stood my ground. I have all my records now but have yet to look through them; I don't want to put myself through it unless necessary.

I then went to the student government office to pull the recording of my student trial. This is less than five years after the incident, I believe just over four years. They had destroyed the record of my "trial."

My questions are: did they have a right to destroy that recording? It was my understanding these records need to be kept for 7 years, but I'm no law student. The recording proves The school let him dodge questions and also contains evidence my rapist had tampered with.

Assuming everything I wrote down is true (which it is, at least to my knowledge), do I have any legal recourse and if so, what kind?

Did I wait too long to fight this? A few years after it happened to me, this specific state school was under fire for being overzealous with psych wards/ sweeping rape under the rug.

To be clear, I'm not looking for justice for the rape. Realistically, I will never see justice. He's currently a police officer with daddy, in fact. I've come to peace with it.  But I have not come to peace with being raped out of an education. I work two shitty jobs now to make ends meet; I can't help but think my future could have been different.

My ideal outcome would be some kind of settlement from the school due to their inappropriate handling of the whole situation. I don't feel guilty saying straight up I want financial compensation, especially considering the loans I am currently paying back. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you in advance.

Edit just to add: I'm looking for compensation for a reason, it's not just something I feel like doing, I have 5 doctors appointments a month now because of the severe depression/ anxiety and ptsd. My student loans are high. My life took a pretty steep drop. Just for clarification.

Answer: Know Your IX is an organization whose mission is basically exactly what you've described. A woman who was associated with the group (can't remember if she was a cofounder or what) had the same experience you had at Tufts.


Title: [MD] New Neighbor is making my apartment smell like smoke

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Speaking as a smoker who recently moved from the South, where smoking is much more common, to Montgomery County, I have to ask, have you talked to them about it? I would be **mortified** if I was upsetting my neighbors in this way with my smoking. I am fully aware that a lot of people up here consider it nasty and I don't want to bother them with it. If I were in your neighbor's situation I would switch to a vape or get an ionizer or something.

I mean, it never hurts to let them know it's bothering you.


Title: Can police swab you for DNA even if you are not arrested?

Question:
I recently read a news article in which a home owner had called the police about a possible intruder (who ran off) and the police insisted on swabbing the homeowner's DNA (as well as taking their picture). The homeowner was not arrested. Could the homeowner have refused to allow the DNA swab since they weren't under arrest for anything? Does it depend on the state?
location: East Coast, USA
Topic:
Searches and Seizures

Answer:
 Assuming the article occurred in the USA:

Yes, the homeowner could have refused.  Absent a search warrant or another legal authority(arrest) the police cannot force the swab.

Having said that, if the homeowner refuses to cooperate, the police may refuse to move forward with the investigation.  Answer #2: Yes, they can refuse.  But they need the homeowner's DNA for exclusion, or the lab could say everything has a "hit," only for it to be the homeowner's.Answer #3: Without the home owners exclusion DNA, our lab will refuse to do any testing. If the home owner doesn't care then why should I care.


Title: (NYC) Landlord keeps raising high % rent on what seems to be a Rent stabilized apt.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Check with the city. They will know if it's rent stabilized and they should have the rent history for the unit. If he's been raising the rent more than what he's supposed to, he'll have to set it back and will owe you the money. Call a NYC tenants rights organization. They will be able to help you with all this and can direct you to a lawyer if you need one. Answer #2: If it's a rent stabilized unit, he can only raise the rent by the percentage allowed by the rent board each year. It has not been close to 10% per year. You need to verify if you are, indeed rent stabilized, and, if you are, you need to let the city fuck this guy up for this. They take this very seriously, as they should.


Title: My parked car was hit. Got a police report and guys insurance info. Can I just take the money or do I HAVE to get the repair done?

Question:
I have an estimate for $1078 to repair my vehicle.

Is it normal to have the offender's insurance company cut a check to me or will they only cut a check to a repair station?

Thanks.

Answer:
 You can do with whatever you want with that money.

I am going to assume this car is used and a little beat up.

But, a thought for you, if you wanted to sell it in the future, you may get less in the future if their is significant damage.


Title: [AT/GER] Urgent! Should I contact the police? Somebody messaged me some disturbing thoughts

Question:
I'll try to keep this short. This is my old account, to stop people from identifying me.

I once posted a story on a German subreddit about my recently attempted suicide and subsequent stay in a mental hospital, but this is beside the point.

I just got a message from a person in regards to thoughts about killing themself and/or people around them. I won't go into too much detail, but this is EXPLICITLY what that person wrote.

Now I am seriously worried about that person's wellbeing. I don't want him/her to hurt themself nor anyone else.

I presume this person lives in Germany, though I don't know where. I am from Austria.

Should I report this to the German police? To the Bundeskriminalamt or Bundespolizei?

My plan would be to call the non emergency number of the Bundespolizei and explain my situation. Or am I overreacting?

Thank you

Answer:
 In Austria and Germany, there is apparently a "Duty to Rescue" people in immediate distress, though whether that would apply to a suicidal stranger on the internet would be a question for the courts.

At the very least you should contact the administrator of the subreddit and ask them to help contact the appropriate authorities in Germany. Without any other information, I don't think there is a good way to call the general police.Answer #2: Contact the admins of reddit, OP.  Modmail messaging /r/reddit.com gets the quickest results usually.

The admins deal with this stuff all the time and have procedures in place for this.


Title: Reposted from r/legal Animal Control Violation

Question:
I have a question for anyone who can help me. My wife and I live in a WV town that has an ordinance limiting households to 2 adult dogs. We actually have 4, 3 of which came as sort of rescues from people who acquired them but couldn't/wouldn't take care of them. They are inside dogs, reasonably well behaved but not "trained" in a professional sense. when they go outside they are not a nuisance (IMO) but will occasionally bark at passersby or squirrels etc. We work hard at not being bad neighbors. We have 1 neighbor who has complained to Animal Control and the only non defensible thing is the 2 dog overage. I feel like if the neighbor continues to complain then it amounts to harassment. So my question is do I have any recourse that doesn't involve losing my dogs?

Thanks in advance

Answer: Legitimate complaints about you breaking a city ordinance is not harassment. The recourse of not giving up two dogs is either move or get the city ordinance changed.


Title: IL, Lottery as advertising

Question: Hypotheticly, a guy buys $5000 in the Mega Millions. Says if he hands them out to his first 2,500 customers he can count them as advertising and write them off on his taxes. He also says he can keep the extra tickets to himself if he doesnt hand them all out (do to there being less the 2500 customers). How legal is this?

Answer:
 If this guy thinks he thought of a clever way to buy lotto tickets for himself and deduct the cost on his taxes, he didn’t.

Chance of this scheme standing up to scrutiny from the IRS is better than the chance of winning the grand prize, barely.

The IRS has been destroying form over substance type tax dodges since long before this guy was hypothetically born.


Title: my towed vehicle

Question: san diego california..my question is this so my honda with half paid registration was parked on private property at my boyfriends apartment complex in visitor marked parking area backed in so my plates were not visiable  property management called western towing and towed my car is this legal???

Answer:
 So, first... sentences. Learn 'em, love em, use 'em.

Second, "Half-paid registration"? Not sure what that means in this context. If your registration sticker was out of date, then your car can be towed from the lot.


Title: My 3yr old came home from preschool claiming the teacher pushed his head down on the nap mat and held him down.

Question:
I don't know where to post this but I believe he's telling the truth and I need advice before I speak to the directors.

The story: My wife picked our child up today from preschool and asked how his day went. Mind you he's been going through tantrum stages and we've been diligently working with him to nip it in the bud. We are aware that he tends to be disruptive at times during nap/snack time especially and gets the other kids riled up.

So he proceeds to tell my wife that today was both good and bad. She asks him what was bad and he immediately said "Ms. (Teacher) pushed my head down on the mat at nap time and told me I will be last to get up because I was being loud and waking my friends up". Obviously taken with a grain of salt my wife carefully without leading him tried to get details. He showed her by pushing her head down how hard it was. It was enough force to hold him down.

I was not at home at this time so I asked him 6+ hours later when I got home, without leading him, how his day went and he word for word said the exact same thing. I then asked him to show me what he meant by pushing and he pushed my hand with enough force to hold a child's head to the floor.

My wife and I are bringing him in the morning tomorrow and we will be talking with the directors of the school about this. I know he can be tough to reason with but he's a child with little concept of right and wrong and consequences, and for him to tell us on separate occasions that he was pushed and held down by the teacher is really troubling.

Now intuition for both my wife and I says there's something going on because we have felt that way about this particular teacher ever since he started in her class earlier this summer. He cries before going to school, complains that his teachers are mean to him and his overall attitude is so unlike him it begs the question of what really is going on when he's there.

So I guess I'm asking what should we say when we're there? What kind of questions should we ask? If they are trying to cover for the teacher should we consult a lawyer? I'm at a loss as a parent. My son is a sweet child and genuinely cares for others and for him to be acting this way since changing classes is unsettling.

Answer: “I want to know what happened to my child for him to say this to me.” Let them explain. Ask if there has been any reports of this teacher being physical with any other children. Ask if there are cameras in the classrooms.


Title: How do I protect money that I'm entitled to?

Question:
Back in April my mother passed away. My uncle (her brother) still stays in the house I inherited with me. Long story short, he's pretty much been leeching off my mom up until she died. She left a life insurance policy that was in my uncle's name because I was a minor at the time it was set up.

He found out about that & basically took that money since there wasn't anything legal I could do about that. It was over 28k. I KNOW my mother, & she always told me if something ever happened to her, that she didn't want him to get anything. She also left me a small savings which was set up while she was pregnant with me. It's a little over 30k, & somehow my uncle found out about it.

I'm the only beneficiary listed on this savings account, which was for me to begin with. He keeps threatening to take me to court or something legal if I don't share any of it. I know he can't, but it's starting to worry me. I feel he's being greedy & looking for another free ride, & also trying to take advantage of me. I'm scared he's gonna try to do something. What should I do?

Answer: Hire an estate attorney and get your stuff sorted out. Then evict him from the house if possible.


Title: My dad “sold” furniture.

Question:
He kept money he should not have for himself. He’s a plant manager, currently on suspension. He’s been with the company for a long time, I’m not exactly sure. He was caught in the act, during a hearing where the company was terminating another employee.

What’s going to happen? I’m very concerned for his immediate future, and my future as well.

I will add more details as I ask/know about them.

Please help. I have absolutely no idea what could happen.
Topic:
Business Law

Answer: If he sold items that were not his, that is theft.


Title: [GA] Arrested at school, was not read Miranda Rights.

Question:
I am in high school, and was charged with possession of marijuana and possession of drug related objects. The officer who arrested me did not read me my miranda rights and I don't know how to go about this in court. I was also thinking about pleading first offender, if anyone could give me advice on these two subjects it would be tremendously helpful!
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer:
 Lack of miranda warnings has no relevance unless you were interrogated.

Talk with your parents/guardians about hiring a criminal defense attorney.


Title: Payment canceled but subscription boxes keep coming

Question:
A while ago I was given a few months of a subscription box as a gift. While the gift-giver thought the charges would stop after those few months, they did not, and they continued being charged and I kept getting the boxes. Two months ago they tried to cancel through the company, weren't able to figure out how, and canceled the charges through their credit card company instead.

The thing is, I keep getting sent the boxes -- I've received one each the last two months. I feel weird about receiving these boxes that I know are not being paid for. I know I get to keep any unsolicited merchandise that gets sent to me as a gift, but this feels different. Am I under any obligation to try to return these boxes?

My location: Oregon
Purchaser's location: Kansas

Answer:
 If you feel bad then the only obligation is inform the company that you no longer want to receive the boxes and received boxes in error.  If they want back the merch then they have to send you a prepaid shipping label.  I would not go through to much more than sending them an email. Answer #2: To be clear, cancelling the charges through the credit card does NOT cancel the order with the subscription box company. The company legitimately continues to send your box until the order has been cancelled with them. By doing it through the credit card, your friend leaves themself open to charges of fraud. Your friend should figure this out right away.

If your friend needs further advice on how to cancel the order with the company, come back here and ask. You might need to give more info.Answer #3: Oh man, this happens too often with the smaller start up boxes and even some of the larger, lazier ones. Try getting in touch with them via social media as well as traditional channels like email/phone. Try finding public faces of the company, like the owner or a spokesperson, on social as well. The sub /r/BeautyBoxes might have insight particularly if it's a makeup/beauty sub but a lot of users have experience with other boxes as well. Good luck!


Title: Late pay check, what can I do?

Question: I work as an adult teacher in New York. I work 4 hours a week for $25/hour and rely on this paycheck to pay for college and my monthly expenses. For the last few months the person in charge of paying us has been consistently over 2 weeks late or more paying us constantly coming up with excuses and saying "tonight" or "next week" (We are supposed to get paid the first Tuesday or Thursday of every month) This person is also notorious for firing people who actually complain to about what they do. But today I had to pay an overdraft fee and have beem dealing with late payments for the last few months thanks to this. Is there any legal means I could use to get my paychecks on time and not be fired because I complained? Am I even able to sue and win on such a situation?

Answer: File a complaint with the [NY Department of Labor](http://www.labor.ny.gov/workerprotection/laborstandards/workprot/lshmpg.shtm). That will light a fire under their ass.


Title: The house next door to me has been abandoned (bank owned) for years. There are animals living in it. A raccoon got into my attic. Do I have a case?

Question: deleted

Answer:
 No case on the raccoon damage.

If the place is that bad shape, call your city's code-enforcement and see if you can get it condemned.  Or, call the bank and offer them $1000 for the property.

Answer #2: Unless the only way the nuisance animal could enter your attic was through a shared space with the neighbors home, I highly doubt you can recoup any damages.


Title: [ME] Ex wants my beneficiaries specified in the divorce decree.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Sounds like your uncontested divorce just became contested.

Inform your wife that the papers are all prepared, and if she insists on changing the terms at this point, you will ask for a continuance so that you can have time to secure counsel.

Probably wouldn't be a bad idea anyway... at least so you can have a review of everything before finalizing.Answer #2: Don't agree to something you're not willing to do. Answer #3: > If I change my beneficiary to someone not named as permitted in the decree, would there be any consequences?

Yes, you'd be in violation of the divorce decree and she could move to force you to comply with it.  If you're not willing to agree to this, don't agree to it.  Pretending you do and trying to go around it later will be much worse


Title: Can my little sister move states to live with me?

Question:
My little sisters dealing with bullying problems and wants a fresh start going into high school next year. We're looking at ideas and one I floated is her coming to live with me. I go to school in a different state. if we did it my parents would be in full support.

What would legally have to allow this? Would I become her guardian? Im not sure i even know what other questions to ask. Anything relevant would be appreciated

Answer: You are an adult right? If her parents agree then yes, she can live with you. You will probably need some paperwork (like a POA or temporary guardianship) so that you can enroll her in school and do things like take her to the hospital if needed.


Title: Car accident

Question: Throwaway account here. I’m a beginning college student and I recently got into a car accident in a parking lot. A man backed up into me and my sibling as we were driving out of the parking lot and we ended up calling the cops, we exchanged information, and he gave me his insurance card. After further speculation of his car, I saw that it was only a little scratch, however, the side of my door is wrecked. After the cop left, I told him that because his car only had a small scratch that I wouldn’t file anything with his insurance however, I’d be taking my car into repair and he’d be the one paying for everything. It’s been a few weeks now, I texted him the repair estimation and he replied with a laugh. Im not sure what to do? If he doesn’t comply should I just file a complaint with his insurance? They’ll be able to pay for my damages right? Also side note: I don’t have insurance on my car does that make a difference? Everywhere I’ve read said it doesn’t because he was the one at fault. Thanks I’m sorry this was a lengthy post!

Answer:
 Well, you handled this the worst way possible. Your best bet is to go through his insurance company. Depending on what is in the police report you may have a hard time getting money from their insurance.

You can't just tell someone they are paying for something and you should not tell them you are not going through insurance. I'm not sure on your location, and am assuming U.S.


Question:
Was assaulted by police and locked in a psych ward for two weeks. Legal recourse?

In the Portland, OR Metro Area....

About 7 or 8 months ago I called the non-emergency number.

I was acting weird. I should not have called it.

They sent police to my house, probably to assess if i was a danger to myself or others. I do not remember inviting them into the house.

Before the police arrived I told the operator I had a firearm on me when asked if I had any weapons on me.

I should have put the gun away but I did not know they were sending police.

I was not a danger to myself or anyone else. I knew to call the non emergency number because I knew it was not an emergency.

They were trying to talk to me. They entered my house. I do not remember inviting them in.

About three police officers were in front of me in a small hallway. I tried to move so as to not feel surrounded. I was wearing loose fitting shorts. I believe I put my hand near my pocket to make sure the gun did not fall out.

They noticed I had a gun which I think I assumed that they already knew because I told the dispatcher.

Then one said something like "He has a gun, take him down." Then they threw me to the ground, took my gun and took me to a local hospital, which I was locked up in for two weeks. I was not a danger to myself or others. I never claimed to want to hurt myself or anyone else.

I had to release all my guns to the county and take a high dose of psych drugs to be released. I have since gotten my firearms back and gone down to an extremely low level of the psych drugs which help me with sleep.

Please help me find legal justice for being assaulted and having my rights taken away. I should have dealt with the situation differently, but so should have they.

I don't remember inviting them into the house and I always maintained that I was not going to hurt myself or anyone else.

If you think you can help me, please send me a direct message or link me with a number or website. Thank you.

Answer:
 Totally legitimate use of force. You had a gun. *You had a gun*.  Frankly the situation worked out very well since you aren't dead or seriously injured. You have no recourse.Answer #2: >I was not a danger to myself or others.

Evidently a psychiatrist and the director of your community mental health program disagreed, or you could not have been committed for 14 days. Now, perhaps they were wrong, but then again, *you* were the person who grabbed a gun while surrounded by police officers. Answer #3: I recommend that you see a therapist. Answer #4: There was really nothing improper there...


Title: Just been emailed that I have to be in court the day after tomorrow, i'm 2k miles away and can't attend on short notice.

Question:
A former friend of mine, who i hadn't talked to in a while before today, sent me an email that I am supposed to appear in court the day after tomorrow for a debt i had totally forgotten about. This is in NYC, but I am currently in California. Had I known before, I would attend the hearing but I can't on such short notice. I don't have the money right now, but I can pay it off at the end of the month. I don't know if I will be able to talk to him.

What are my options here?

Answer:
 Call the court at 8am (NYC time) and explain your situation. Answer #2: Did you know about this court proceeding before?

The way your post is written makes it sound like you were previously aware there was a court proceeding regarding your debt and you just forgot it existed and forgot to pay attention to court dates.

You should never skip a court date, that is how you get a default judgement against you.  At the very least you need to call the court first thing in the morning.


Title: How to not let my violent MIL get any legal access to my baby?

Question:
Currently 13 weeks pregnant. To get an in depth picture of my MIL I have been posting in JustNoMIL.

To keep things short MIL is a drunk. Whenever she is drinking her violent tendencies are escalated x100. She has attempted to assault me twice already. She had to be pinned back at a little kids birthday party by at least 20 witnesses. She then chased me down the street and had to be tackled be her own husband and him screaming at us to hurry and leave for our own safety. MIL has harassed me and SO for a year using “health issues” and threatening suicide to get SO to talk to her again. He has been going behind my back and playing both sides. Antagonizing her and adding fire to the whole situation.

She has sent me 3 page letters calling me a liar for having asthma and being allergic to her cats (it’s been documented by medical professionals since I was 6months old) She has mocked my miscarriage and told me to get over it, she has called me disgusting names and told me she’s the only woman SO ever needs in her life and will do anything to get me away.

We moved states away to protect me. I am now pregnant and have an overwhelming fear for the safety of my child. I live in Texas, I need to know what I can legally do to keep MIL away from my kid for his/her safety. Me and SO are not married. We have been together for 4 years. We were on the same page about keeping her away from our child.

Until today. He changed his mind completely and said he does not agree whatsoever anymore and that our child needs to meet his parents “at least once” which means it’ll turn into several visits. I know my SO. I am so pissed. Someone suggested not putting him on the birth certificate, I am willing to do whatever it takes to protect me and my child. My MIL cannot have access to my baby, I am worried she will try to kidnap my kid. She reports step SIL constantly to CPS for being an unfit mom and doing drugs, an is always threatening taking custody. Step SIL doesnt do drugs. MIL will go to great lengths to get her way.

What can I do? I have time to prepare so I need to get my ducks in a row. If it’s leaving the country untraced, then so be it. MIL is dangerous and plays the “I’m just a little old lady” victim card well. I need help
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 You can not list him, but if he wants and legal participation in the child’s life he will just file a suit for paternity and custody and will likely get something approaching 50/50. If the two of you agree she shouldn’t be in the kids life then there is nothing she can do to be in it, “grandparents rights” is a term she would likely sling around in that situation, but grandparents rights are about situations where there is an existing relationship that is cut off (normally because one parent passes away). So if you are in agreement there would be no issue.

However, if you don’t agree, and there is a custody order in place, what he does with the child on his time is his business so long as there is no physical danger to the child. You are not going to get a court to say he can’t have the kid around his mother without some damning evidence and even then you would very likely need an attorney.

Unfortunately unless you get him onboard it’s highly likely that she will have some role in your child’s life as he will get a custody order and will be able to have the kid around his mom during his time with the kid.


Title: Company has reported me to state bar for impersonating a lawyer when I did not intend to do so. (US)

Question:
My grandmother was owed about $2300 by a company.  It was a deposit for work on her house, but then they never completed the work and she had to hire someone else. They agreed that they owed the money but then started ignoring her. She is an elderly woman and in general not very "well spoken" to put it simply . She asked me to try talking to them for her before taking the situation to court.  She believed they would take me more seriously.

I sent them a letter. I began it by stating that "I am writing on behalf of (her name) regarding an agreement between (company name) and (her name) between February and June 2015." I then went on to state that on this date she talked to this person, on this date she got a quote for work, on this date she paid a deposit of 1/2 the quoted price for the work to be completed beginning on this date, the work did not begin on that date, it was rescheduled for X, then rescheduled for Y, etc., and finally on this date she contacted the company to cancel the work and hired someone else to complete it. This person agreed on this date to refund her deposit.  She attempted to discuss it with these people on these dates but so far has not received a refund.

At no point did I attempt to state I was a lawyer, say that I was representing her legally (only said I was writing on her behalf) and I never used any lawyer-ish titles, just my first and last name.

I sent it via certified mail and used an envelope that was pre-printed with a return address of "Smith and Johnson" (my last name, my husband's last name) and our home address. I sent it certified mail.

5 days later she got a check in the mail for the $2300.

Now (3.5 months later) I have been notified via mail that a complaint has been filed against me to the state board for impersonating a lawyer.  It states that I claimed to be from the law firm "Smith and Johnson" and that I claimed to be representing my grandmother (by name) in a legal fashion.  I am now waiting to hear from the state board who is apparently investigating the incident.

Does it sound like I need a lawyer myself?  Should I do anything during this time?

Answer: No. Just explained what happened and provide a copy of that original letter you sent. State clearly that at no time did you claim to be an attorney.


Title: Is it legal to put a hidden camera on a student if you think their teacher is being abusive?

Question:
I have a friend with a very autistic son (he's 18 but is at a roughly 1st grade level) who has said a few things, this year, that made my friend worry about his teacher and how he's being treated. He's not communicative enough to tell her what is going on. She said she wished she could put a camera on him and I found one for her online. It's a happy face pin, It looks like something he'd wear. He wore it to school and the pin never came back.

Now the teacher won't return my friend's calls and has avoided her when my friend has gone to school to talk to her. Her son doesn't know what happened to it. My friend wants to contact the principal, but wants to make sure that she wasn't breaking the law. I couldn't find an answer anywhere.

edit: This is in NY state. Thanks, bot! :)

Answer:
 Why does she keep sending the kid to a person she thinks is abusive?

She should contact the police. Answer #2: NY is a one party consent state when it comes to wiretapping / recording conversations.  I'm assuming it's a public school, so you're dealing with the student's and parent's First Amendment right to record and gather information, too.

There shouldn't be a violation of the law here, but if you're really concerned, your friend ought to speak with an attorney in the area.


Title: Dad almost died from appendix bursting, docs said it was gas pains

Question:
So this pain in his side was going on the remainder of last month into this month, so we took him to his (shitty) doctors and throughout the month he was getting progressively worse because when you have have an inflictive appendix inside of you, it tends to hurt. So after countless time of going back and forth and getting the same answer we went to the ER, and because everyone at work said that either my mother was taking her or the coworkers were. So after being stubborn for about 30 mnts, my mother finally went to the ER, and after 30 mnts of being there they said "So you're gonna go into emergence surgery because your appendix has bust." After 9 days in the hospital he has come out very weak but walking. My mom is thinking of taking legal action against the doctors because every nurse we talked to that had work or known what had happened said he only had hours to live. Yes people say that a lot, but when a the whole hospital said it, we knew how fucked up the doctors were for calling an infected appendix and maybe a bursted appendix ( have no idea when it actually happened) gas pains (Sorry if im putting feeling in a legal matter). My mom is now taking legal action, what should she do?
Topic:
Medicine and Malpractice

Answer:
 If you are asking if this is malpractice... no one here can tell you. Your mother needs to hire a malpractice attorney to do a detailed chart review to see if she actually has a case. Many malpractice lawyers have free or low cost consultations where they can tell if you if she might have a case.

That being said, a simple misdiagnosis is not malpractice. Not even close. I can name a dozen different diagnoses that have a similar symptom pattern as acute appendicitis. It is harder than you think to make the correct diagnosis the first time (or even the second time), especially when a patient might not exhibit the "classic" symptoms. To be malpractice, there needs to be negligence, and that harm needs to have been caused as a result of that negligence. Negligence requires care that is far outside the standard of care. A medical mistake or simple misdiagnosis does not reach that high bar.

But without a detailed chart review I can't say if this was or was not negligent. Your mom should relate her story to a malpractice attorney, but honestly, based solely on what posted above, I just don't know. In other words, don't get your hopes up.

FYI: the word is "inflamed" not "inflictive".


Title: Graduate HS at 17, what are my rights?

Question:
Hi, I live in Oregon in the US, and I will graduate high school one year early at age 17 (my birthday is in March) because I took more credits than I needed to and applied for early grad. Am I legally allowed to live without my parents or consent to medical treatment? Am I allowed these things in other states? Can I take full control over my trust fund? Do I need to get emancipated in order to for these rights? Some answers, or links to good websites would be very helpful.
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer:
 Graduating high school does not emancipate you at 17. You are still a minor.Answer #2: Your rights as a 17 year old high school student are pretty much identical to your rights as a 17 year old high school graduate.  If you want to enroll in college, you'll need a parent signature. You still can't enter into a meaningful contract.  Your ability to consent to sex is unchanged.  Your parents still have responsibilities to you and rights over you.  Your trust fund isn't going to be accessible at 17.

But congrats on finishing early!


Title: Parents sold it all and spent every dime

Question:
My father died in an auto accident when I was 8. We were well off, a substantial amount of equity in the family home, and my mother had a few forms of income - rental income from additional owned property plus her work.

A few years later she meets and marries a man. We live in my childhood home together until I go off to college. I never move back in and they sell and downsize a few years after that.

It is understood by all but not in writing that they are financially secure. They live nice but modest lives. Local travel only a couple times a year, dinners with friends, some affordable hobbies.

I recently discovered they have spent every dime from the proceeds of the sale of my childhood home and the additional properties. Well over a mil. They are in debt though it is unknown how far. They are not answering questions about how they got here or how bad it is and are lying about certain things.

I love them both but am experiencing quite a bit of shock. I want to know where all the money went and how far in debt they are.

Do I have any legal rights? I'm not named POA and I'm certain they wouldn't agree to that. They're in Virginia. I'm in Texas preparing to fly up next week.

Any advice?

Answer: No. You have no right to another adults financial information. It has nothing to do with you. You can ask but you cannot force them to tell you what they did with their money


Title: [FL] Ex-boyfriend is still living with me rent free. Want him to leave.

Question:
We have lived together since May and broke up in October. We were civil with each other and because he was supposed to be moving to PR in March to finish at his University, I agreed that he could stay until then. Since then things have gone downhill. He can be abbusive and destructive. When asking him if I bought his tickets back to PR, would he move out now, he got pissed and we ended up in a physical fight. I know I need to call the police if I want him to leave at this point. I'm not afraid of him, just felt bad because atm he doesn't have a car and his phone was stolen and I know he doesn't have somewhere to go in the area.

So my legal question:

As he is not on the lease, and as said before, not paying rent and we were never married.

Does he have any legal right to stay here?

Thanks in advance for any advice!

Answer:
 > Does he have any legal right to stay here?

Yes, he's effectively a tenant and is entitled to written, 15-day notice to vacate, and you'd need to file for a formal eviction with the courts if he refuses to leave after those 15 days.

&#x200B;Answer #2: You have to legally evict him. If he hits you, you can report him for domestic violence, but the way you describe it, it's possible you could get arrested too. The next time he hits you, don't hit back. Just call the police and let him get arrested.


Title: Scammed out of $6000+ on PayPal at age 17

Question:
When I was 16 2 years ago, I met a guy who I played CS:GO with me on a team. After a year or so, he asked me lend him some skins to help him earn more on a website called csgoblackjack. At the time, I didn't think too much of it. The other people on the team joined in and one day he removed and blocked everyone.

I, like the others, eventually got involved in selling/trading CS:GO skins/items for Paypal money in one way or another with this guy. After he removed everyone, he kept me on his Steam friends list, so that he could message me once every three days or so. He told me to hand over my Paypal account because the accounts I was dealing with would be limited, that my balance would go negative, and that he would pay me back for the skins he didn't return (~$900) or something along those lines.

I learned that one of my other teammates gave him his PayPal account, so I did too. I realize what a mistake I have made, but when I gave him access, I thought it would be fine since the balance is just positive and no bank/ssn was linked to it. Anyways, he took access and I didn't hear much from him at that point.

It was around October by the time I created a new PayPal account with the old email. I used the same info as I did with the account I lost access to, the one I stopped getting notifications on (I changed the email and details on the old one too...). I didn't get any new info about the old account until last Friday when I was emailed by PayPal saying that my account was limited because the old one had a negative balance.

I called PayPal and discovered that the old account had a negative balance of over ~$6300 which absolutely shocked me. If I heard correctly, the guy on the phone said that the debt might be with a third party debt collector already, but I'm not sure on that. I told my uncle situation and we called PayPal yesterday explaining that I had 0 access after September 2016. The representative said that PayPal would investigate the issue within the next couple of days.

As for the debt collectors, I don't think we've received any calls/letters as of yet and after checking credit reports, no collections seem to be listed. Maybe they didn't link the two accounts at the time? I'm lost. I know that I have made multiple mistakes along the way. **I'd just like to know: "What and how do I deal with the situation?"**

Also, to clarify, I opened the account under my mom's name and we live in California.

Answer:
 >Also, to clarify, I opened the account under my mom's name

Burying the lede.

You should probably tell her, if you haven't already.


Title: "what if" question about selling drugs

Question:
In California.

IF one were to cap caffeine (80mg Coffee worth) and have it at a rave calling it "moonrocks" and asking people to "donate" to receive a "free gift/moonrock".

What kind of legality issues would there be? Thanks!

Answer:
 Yes, selling a substance under the guise of being a controlled substance is illegal in California and punishable by up to 1 year in county jail.

[See Health and Safety Code Section 11355](http://law.onecle.com/california/health/11355.html)


Title: [OREGON] Car dealership messed up my paperwork and are now making threats if I don't sign a new contract

Question:
I traded in my car for a new one about 3 weeks ago. A few days later I get a call from the dealership saying that the bank wouldn't lend me the amount of the new car along with the negative equity from my old car, so the dealership and I signed an "Agreement to Rescind/ Enter New Contract" where they agreed to give me more for my trade-in so the bank would approve the amount. Awesome, my monthly payment is significantly lower.

THEN, a few days ago the finance manager calls me and says that when they filed the paperwork with the bank they accidentally put the additional trade-in cost as a cash down payment. He said instead of giving me my old car back, or making me pay that cash down payment, he is going to use my maintenance package I purchased as the downpayment, so they are going to take that out of the deal and I must sign a NEW contract ASAP.

Everyone I talked to said there's no way they can just void the current contract or repossess my car, and I don't have to talk to them or sign anything, but the finance manager has been calling me for three days and is now making threats that my credit is going to be ruined and they're going to repossess the car or send me to collections.

Am I in financial danger, or should I just tell them it's not my problem and to stop contacting me?

Answer:
 Counteroffer with "unrolling" the transaction - you return the new car, they return your trade-in (actual car in same condition as when you traded it in) and any cash you paid, deal gets cancelled. Make it clear that if they don't stand by the deal they made, this is the ONLY alternative you'll accept.

They don't want to be stuck with a no-longer-new car, or (more likely after 3 weeks) they've already sold your trade-in? That's their problem. They played a stupid game (juggling figures to defraud the bank)? They won a stupid prize.Answer #2: The deal is done. You don't have to give car back. Answer #3: Don’t sign it its there fuck up and they want you to cover it. I would basically tell them that if you force the contract through I will speak to a lawyer and seek legal action against you for defrauding.

Side note I used to be a used car salesmen men and what there doing is shady. Plus the general manager would call you on this matter not the loan officer.Answer #4: I don’t think this type of thing is uncommon.  I think you can find more threads in this sub with similar (or same) details.  Dealers hope once you take the car home you’ll be vested and then they can get you to do anything to keep it.  Answer #5: I think your county attorney's office would be interested in hearing about these shenanigans as well.


Title: Is this a FERPA violation (USA)?

Question: My company emails a newsletter to all of its employees each day with various bits of information. For new hires, they provide a bit of background on the person, such as their favorite x and the school that they attend(ed). Recently, a new person was hired, and they included her GPA in the background information. I am not sure if she  gave them permission or not, but for the sake of curiosity, suppose that she didn’t. Would this constitute as a FERPA violation?

Answer:
 > I am not sure if she gave them permission or not, but for the sake of curiosity, suppose that she didn’t. Would this constitute as a FERPA violation?

Almost assuredly not.  FERPA is mainly considered with the disclosure of educational information from an educational institution.  If your company didn't educate the employee in question they aren't going to be covered under FERPA.

Conceivably, the institution that gave them the information might be violating FERPA(although this is also unlikely) but that doesn't pass down the line.


Title: Suspended w/o pay for a failed drug test due to Rx meds from 3 years ago I was never notified about

Question:
I work for a very large utility company in Minnesota and I operate a company provided vehicle. A little background info: I applied for this position three years ago but did not get the job due to a failed background check. They told me to wait a couple years and apply again after some more time had passed. Fast forward and I've now been employed by them for 4 months with no issues. Tuesday of this week I was called into the office by my supervisor and put on a three-way call with somebody from HR. She said that because I failed the drug test during my first application process years ago and due to D.O.T. laws/regulations I'm now suspended without pay and required to complete remediation with a drug counselor and follow any recommendations on treatment/classes/etc that are paid on my dime.

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I was NEVER notified 3 years ago that I failed any drug test. I'm also 100% free of illicit substances, but do have a prescribed medication that shows up in screens. I don't even recall an MRO ever calling and asking about said medication.

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I have asked HR to provide me with the test results and they were not willing to do so. She told me I can request a copy from the remediation people. I was looking up MN laws and it says I have a right to a copy of the test results. I also have the right to have the sample re-tested. Well, since I was never even informed about any positives in any test, I no longer have that option. I'm losing 3-4 weeks of pay for something that should've been cleared up years ago if someone would've told me. Even if I had found out I wasn't getting the job due to the BG check, I still would've cleared the positive test stuff up because I had plans to be employed there in the future.

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I know the company is trying to cover their ass as they're required to make this happen by the DOT, but I feel like I'm completely being screwed on this and I have nowhere to turn for help. Thank you.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 OP- You might want to have a consult with an employment attorney on this one. You might also consider politely escalating to your manager's manager.Answer #2: My advice is to try administrative remedies first. Your doc should be able to write you a letter stating "So and so was taking a medication which would cause a positive for X from Y to Z dates.". I would start escalating that with HR before speaking to council.Answer #3: Not an Attorney, however am a SAP (substance abuse professional) for the DOT. You need to seek an attorney, because this is something that will follow you from employer to employer if they're under any DOT umbrella. If you are required to see a SAP and engage in the return-to-duty process, follow up testing is required at minimum 6 times in your first twelve months, and once a year for the next 3-5 years.

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If you do not fight this it will follow you through every DOT covered entity that you seek to work with. According to DOT laws, it is at the discretion of the employer to pay or not to pay during suspension, however they are not required to do so.Answer #4: If they won't tell you what drug it was then how do you know it's from a Rx?  it may have been a false positive for something else.

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If it WAS due to an Rx, then you clearly remember that you were taking an Rx at the time, and you already know (or can ask your doc) what medication you were taking at the time, correct?

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Were you asked, and failed to disclose, an Rx at the time of the test?


Title: Are Female Escort Websites Illegal? (Ohio Developer)

Question: I have been working for a client for a bit (I am a web developer who took this on as a freelancer) on a female escort website and, until recently, didn't bat an eye at the issue. Though, with some recent stings that have happened I fear that what I am developing is illegal and could land me into some legal issues. Should I drop the gig? I don't want to touch anything illegal with a ten foot pole..

Answer:
 > Should I drop the gig?

probably.

strikes me as conspiracy to facilitate solicitation. there's a reason backpage.com got their credit card processing yanked.