Title: My nephew’s father won’t give my sister-in-law’s son back...

Question:
ASKING FOR RELATIVE!

People involved:
Sister-in-law (Custodial Parent/Saint Louis, Missouri)
Nephew (9 years old)
Nephew’s Father (Joint Custody/Houston, Texas)

For all 9 years of my nephews life, he has lived here in Saint Louis, Missouri, with my sister-in-law; who has been the custodial parent. My nephew’s father on the other hand lives in Houston, Texas! Every holiday/break from school my nephew would go down to Houston and visit his father for how ever long established and come back here. He has always been compliant and it has been easy.

Well back in May of 2017, my nephew went down to Houston visit for summer break. She allowed him to stay for the 3 months (May, June, July). When August came around, the time for school, my sister-in-law contacted my nephew’s father basically saying she is ready to meet up so she can get my nephew and get him ready for school. Well, just so happens my nephew’s father said “I’ve enrolled him in school down here. He’s going to stay with me, and you won’t get him back till you take me off child support.” My sister-in-law proceeded to say no, keep in mind she is around 8-9 months pregnant at this time, she never agreed for him to stay down there. She just couldn’t put up the fight at the time due to her being pregnant and low on money. She decided to call the Houston police so they could assist her getting my nephew back. She offered them all the paperwork necessary. They said they wouldn’t get involved because it was a civil matter.

Well, it’s been a few months since then. She had her baby, and is stable enough to take action... our only problem is we can’t get in contact with anybody down there. We have no idea where they live, it seems to be their phone number has changed. The only thing we know is where my nephew goes to school.

We were thinking about driving down there showing up to the school with ALL the legal papers to prove who she is, but we are unsure how that will go. We want him back here. What can we do? Can we get him from school and bring him back, or will there be consequences/way more complicated than that. That’s basically what my nephews father basically did that to us.

TL;DR: My nephew went to visit his father in another state. Now the father is refusing to give my sister-in-laws son back. My sister-in-law is the custodial parent and a joint custody.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 Full stop. You are talking about kidnapping the kid. Or damn close.

Texas has jurisdiction over this kid now. Mom waited way to long.

Mom needs to file for custody... In Texas. Not go snatch and grab a kid


Title: Can the boss dictate who I eat lunch with?

Question:
In our building at work there are several different departments, each with their own office space. Sometimes the people in my office will go out to lunch together.

People in one of the other offices are upset that we don't invite them to lunch with us. For the record, we did invite them once but their manager said they couldn't all leave at the same time, so it didn't work out. I'm guessing this has changed, as you'll see.

Anyway, they went to the bosses and complained that we were not being inclusive. I've now been told that if the people in my office go out to lunch together, we are required to invite everyone in that other office to go with us.

For clarification, there are 3 people in my department and 2 in the other. It's a small company, so I think that's why they feel left out. There's only about 15 people who work at our site.

My boss said that if just 2 of us go out together, it's ok. But if all 3 of us go to lunch, then we have to invite the others. But only the 2 who complained about it. We do not have to ask the rest of the employees.

We are all salaried employees. Everyone is expected to work a 40hr week and lunch breaks are not included in that time.

Is it legal for our boss to tell us who to eat lunch with?

Answer:
 He can't force you to eat lunch with anyone.

But he can fire you for not doing it.

Pick your battles.


Title: Pregnant Fiancé

Question: Hello! My Fiancée and I currently live in IL. She works for a company and was an assistant manager, but recently was forced into taking a demotion because she had a medical excuse that stated she couldn't work more than 25-30 hours. After being forced into this demotion, she still is being required to work 40 hours a week while 9 months pregnant. Is forcing someone to take a demotion due to medical reasons and then neglecting the restrictions legal? What should we do about this? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

Answer:
 Has she actually applied for and received FMLA and/or ADA accomodations (if her pregnancy results in temporary disability)? If not, then an employer can demote her if her availability changes and is not required to honor the request made by her doctor.Answer #2: Demotion as in a pay cut?

And by the way, Fiancee is female and Fiance is male.


Title: Roommate stole my prescription medication, what do I do?

Question:
For context: I've been on this medication - let's call it X - for about two months now. I live in an apartment with a few roommates. We each have our own bedrooms, and the individual rooms don't have locks. Also, I'd absolutely never share any drug I'd be taking. Finally, this drug is a Schedule III controlled substance (with its active ingredient being Schedule I) and you can only get the prescription filled through the mail from one central pharmacy that fills it out. Any healthcare provider that prescribes it has to be part of a special program in order to do so because of how powerful it is. (It's a medication for a sleep disorder.)

Also, in case it's not clear, I live in the United States.

A few nights ago, I noticed that some of my medication was missing. The amount in the bottle (this is a liquid, to take it you dilute it with water) was lower than what I'd think it'd be based on the dose I was taking. I took pictures to document it, but chalked it up to maybe accidentally spilling it in the middle of the night and not remembering. About two days later I noticed that dramatically more was suddenly missing and I started to suspect it wasn't an accident. I found it hard to believe that one of my roommates would be stealing it though, because they all seemed like decent people - I've known them for a few months now, we're all young Christians who regularly attend church together, play video games and sometimes eat meals together. Long story short, I found out that one of the roommates - let's call him Matthew - stole some of my medication, and also stole some cash from another roommate who we'll call Larry.

I don't flaunt the fact that I'm on X, but my roommates noticed that I'd stop eating after a certain point at night, and when they've asked about it I'd just say "it's because of a medication I'm on" and left it at that. I also didn't keep the bottles in a conspicuous location, and they've never left my room (unless I've gone out of town, in which case I've taken them with me). So I never imagined any of my roommates would think anything of it, let alone try to find the bottles in my room (or even know what to look for).

Matthew confessed to Larry the other day (who then confessed to me) - he (Matthew) snuck into my room one night when I wasn't home, saw the drug name printed on the bottles, and Googled it. When he learned about its effects, he decided to take some "to try" and he liked the feeling it gave him, so he took some more. The next night, Matthew and Larry were at a party together at a friend's house. Larry had been drinking, and Matthew gave him a sip of my med (diluted in water) to try, telling Larry it'll "give him a trip." Larry took the sip, and said (when he explained the story to me) that he started to feel like his brain was shutting down, so he stopped. He assumed Matthew got the med (Larry didn't know it was X, just that it was some sort of drug) from another friend of his, who's known to experiment with party drugs (disclaimer: this friend has never been invited into our apartment). But when I casually mentioned to Larry that I noticed some of my medication was missing, the entire thing clicked (including the missing cash, indicating that Larry was stolen from too) - so he confronted Matthew, who then confessed to everything.

Going forward, I'm getting a lockbox and taking other measures to keep the drug secure (if anyone has tips for this, that'd be great) - but the question is, what do I do about what just happened?

I get my next shipment in a few days - until then, I've run out of my month's supply, so I've been totally without the drug for a few days. (I actually had to get my best friend to help me write up this post because I've been so out of it...) My question is, can (should?) I report this to:

1. the central pharmacy (that distributes the medication),
2. my doctor, and/or
3. the police?

If so, how would I prove that the drug was stolen from me (as opposed to me "giving" it to Matthew)? Additionally, would I be at risk of being taken out of the central pharmacy program altogether due to not being "responsible" enough because I didn't keep the drug locked away in the first place?

Any insight is greatly appreciated!
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer:
 Lock up your drugs.
Make a police report.
Inform your doctor, with the police report.
Maybe talk to the pharmacy, with the police report.Answer #2: One of the Medicines I take is a controlled substance and due to some issues with the tsa when I fy, I recently had my doctor walk me through the process in case any of it goes missing/gets taken.

Step 1. File a police report. This is the most important step and nothing can be done without it.

Step 2. Take the filed police report to your doctor and have them issue a new prescription.  You may run into insurance issues but keep harping on the fact it was stolen and you have the police report and you should be fine.

Step 3. lock up your remaining medicine.  If anything goes missing again they will not help you.


Title: [TN] Want to take paternity leave.

Question:
My wife is having a C section this afternoon.
I work for a staffing agency that has a three point system. After the 90 days I get hired on directly through the company.

I gave notice of my wife's C section date during orientation, first day on the job and to HR.

I have two points and am ending the 90 day probationary  in two weeks.

If you accumulate three points you are automatically fired, with or without Doctor's notes.

Does TN law protect me from getting a couple days off?

Answer:
 You are currently a temp? Temps don't have any legal right to time off. It would depend on the policy of the staffing agency and the company you work for. Answer #2: Ask for the time off. If the boss says no, show up for work. It sucks, but it's better in the long run.

I just spent 87 days in the hospital. My daughter spent 48 days in the nicu. It was a hell of a bill...unexpected. Because of amazing insurance we walked away owing less than $1,500.

You're a temp. Which means you started this job when she was pregnant. Simply mentioning it at hire doesn't mean anything. Maybe the boss forgot? Either way, don't piss this job away...our second child was a planned c-section. We got pregnant shortly after my husband started a new job. He was weeks away from being eligible for fmla...he worked the night before our son was born, had one day off & then went back to work the following day. We couldn't afford for him not to work Answer #3: It doesn't sound like you even simply asked your boss for the day off?


Title: Neighbors Fence On My Property - Please Help!

Question:
Hello r/legaladvice,

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I could really use some help.

First let me say I am not the owner of the house, I live with my parents who are the owners. The home is in NY.

A couple years back our neighbor built his fence encroaching on our property.

He has also planted bushes against the fence on his side, making it harder to move it back.

My parents sent a polite letter to him which was ignored. They decided to drop the issue for two reasons being:

1. He has significantly more money than us, and my parents did not want a possibly expensive legal battle
2. My parents are non confrontational and just want peace in the community

What frustrates me most is he is so rich, and still goes and steals land from my hard working parents.

It has been frustrating me for years. I always felt too young to take matters into my own hands, but feel I can handle this now. I am not ready to drop it. I want to make it right for my family. My questions are:

1. Has the land somehow legally become his since we have let some years pass? Is this a thing?
2. What steps would I take to retrieve the land while incurring minimal costs (time/money)?

Please let me know. Thank you to all.

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Answer: How far over the property line are we talking, and have your parents paid for a surveyor to mark the property boundaries?


Title: [NV] I am being forced to create fake glowing Google reviews for the business where I work.

Question:
I work for a nationwide company that has thousands of locations and recently expanded into the state of Nevada.  To help our new stores "attract business from day one" the District Manager asked every employee during training to get at least 10 or 20 of our friends and family to give 5-star reviews on Google Maps or Yelp for our respective stores *before they opened*.  Since none of them were customers, or even could be at that point, all of the reviews were fake.

To make it worse, at least at my own store I was asked by my manager in no uncertain terms to create 10 fake Google accounts to then give 10 completely fictional 5-star reviews for our store.  He said the request came straight from corporate.  So far they have made none of these requests in writing.

Most of our reviews were supposed to come from actual customers who were entered into a raffle to win an iPad in exchange for giving us a review, but I guess that wasn't effective enough.

I don't know what to do about this.  I haven't complied with any of these requests because I object to them on moral grounds, and they know it (since the fake reviews were supposed to mention my name).

It's only been a couple of months now and about half of the original staff has been fired or quit already.  I expect they'll get to me next, but before that happens I want to know what I can do about this company trying to game the system.

Answer:
 You can wait to get fired and apply for unemployment.

You can quit and find a better job.

You can keep your job and write fake reviews.

You can write a completely truthful review somewhere on the internet exposing this company's shady tactics.  Expect legal threats or a defamation claim though, no matter how you write it.

Or you can report the business to Google for the gaming and let it respond appropriately.

Take your pick.  I'm sure others will be along with additional suggestions.Answer #2: I'd write the reviews as instructed, then notify Google and Yelp that their site is hosting multiple reviews of stores that haven't opened yet. Answer #3: What they are asking you to do is not illegal. But it certainly violates Google's and Yelp's terms of service. Yelp has pretty good algorithms in place to filter questionable reviews, and any registered Yelper can report a review they believe might be fake. Yelp takes those reports seriously and investigates each one.


Title: Friend's roommate is threatening to falsely accuse a guy of rape, even though the supposed intercourse was consensual. She is blackmailing him and sending threats through third parties. Is there anything they can do to incriminate her?

Question: Edit: My location is Omaha but the situation occurred in Fort Collins, CO

Answer: Blackmailing him for what? Call the police/ go to the station and file a report. Blackmail is a crime, her saying it was rape will not be enough to convict your friend but he needs to get out in front of this while he can before her lies cause serious damage to his life.


Title: Exposed a company that pays people from Craigslist to post glowing Amazon reviews on their scammy weight loss products. Can they sue me?

Question:
I'm ashamed to admit that I originally responded to the Craigslist ad, posted the glowing review, but did not get paid after nearly a month. After emailing the company a couple of times, I eventually edited the review into a very negative one that exposes the company's shadiness. In the review, I warn buyers that "100% of the 5-star reviews are likely fake, that's why they're all from unverified purchases" and I attached screenshots of the original ad and the instructions I received after responding to it. I also warned Craigslist reviewers that they may not get paid. My review is currently the "top critical review" of the product, and the company just sent me an email asking me to change my review back to the original one. They also just sent me $20 through PayPal, but I returned the money.
There is no way in hell I will change that review, but could they sue me for this for whatever reason? I was very careful in using the words "likely" and "may not" in my review, but the company still knows my personal email and my full name.

Should I be concerned?

(EDIT: Forgot to post the location. The company appears to be located in California)

Answer:
 What sort of product is it, is it a supplement/pill?

 What they are doing is shady so I doubt they would come after you as it would only further expose what they're doing.

Did you report it to Amazon?


Title: Music rights case, should I pay? (Massachusetts)

Question: I'm a college student at Umass Amherst and I was recently told I need to pay a music company $20 per song for an album I torrented on campus. The company has my ISP but not my name or any personal information. The legal adviser at my school told me that I could either ignore the payment and risk getting sued and having to pay more than the initial amount the company stated, or hire the legal services at my school for $50 and pay about $200 to settle the case. Since I'm part of a group of 80 students that the company went after I asked him how many students are not paying and he said about 5 of the 20 he had talked to so far. My question is, is it worth it to pay the $250 to settle the case now or should I just ignore it and hope it goes away?

Answer: For $250? vs. maybe getting sued for thousands? I'd pay the $250. But you could go the "ignore it and maybe it will go away" route to. The Statute of Limitations for a federal copyright lawsuit is 3 years. So for the next three years you can't be sure that you will wake up and be served with a lawsuit.  That's 1095 days. Is it worth 23 cents a day not to have to worry about that?


Title: My mom screwed me...

Question:
So for a bit of background, my mother and I haven't had the greatest relationship. She divorced young when I was about 4, she was 24. She prides herself on being good at budgeting but... she's not. She thinks because something's on sale mean she's getting a good deal. But really, for example, she'll buy $4.00 mayo when the kind we normally buy is $2.00 just because it was a dollar off.

But anyway I left home when I was 16 to try and get a head start on life. I went to Job Corps, because I wanted an escape from my family always shouting and arguing and fighting. I couldn't handle it. So I went into the culinary program and returned a year later. I was 17 years old, and I found out she opened a bank account with BB&T in my name. Okay, no big deal, or so in thought. It was constantly overdrafting because she charged too much to it. I closed it a few months ago because I was tired of feeling stressed out. It was $362.76 overdrawn.  I paid it off and closed the account. I thought that was the end of it. Nope.

 I found out a few months ago after trying to get my first car that my credit was TERRIBLE. I checked it at 18 and I was doing good! I had it at the 670 range and I thought it had just kept going up since I pay everything on time. Now I found out 2 months ago its 490. I cried about it for a while but... now it's time to take action. She opened four credit cards in my name and put her student loans in my name. She's 42 years old with worse credit than me still, in the 450 range. She charged about $6000.00 onto four or five different cards. I managed to get the cards from her, or so I thought.

She has copies of all of them and also one I've never even seen. A blaze card? It has like 27% interest and she never once made a payment. But now that I've gotten the cards she badgers me to make the payments and makes none on her own. I dont think she's paying her student loans either. My dad talked to me about it and asked me to pay my card payments so my mom would stop complaining and he was surprised to learn she opened them all. That was a month ago and I think he left her...

TL;DR my mother screwed up my credit and now I can't start a life because I'm financially crippled.
Topic:
Credit Debt Bankruptcy

Answer:
 You don't ask a question. But realistically your options are: file a police report for identity theft and forward it to all of the creditors disputing the accounts assistant not yours. Or pay the debt.

The first option comes with the chance that your mom will face criminal charges. Which she should.

Whatever you do, lock down your credit so she can't open any more accounts.


Title: Questions about unpaid breaks at work.

Question: Was told to post here- I work a basic minimum wage job (In Ontario) and there's 8 hours in the work days. We get one half an hour UNPAID break and we are by no circumstances allowed to leave the building at this time. I was just wondering.. is this even legal?

Answer:
 In Ontario,  an employee must not work for more than five hours in a row without getting a 30-minute eating period (meal break) free from work. Meals breaks are unpaid unless the employee’s employment contract requires payment.

There are some factors that may require employees to be paid during meal breaks. The fact that you cannot leave is probably  not enough on its own. Are you required to be "on call" during your break, or to do work?

If you have more questions, you can call the Ministry of Labour's Employment Standards Office: https://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/feedback/


Title: Handing out wine at a store across from a school with underage clerks, not checking ID (CA)

Question:
Title says it all, pretty much. Please point me to the specific laws and penalties that will help me convince my boss to stop being insane with this plan. She wants to have 18-year-old store clerks handing out free wine to any shoppers in the store from noon-4pm, and we are half a block from an elementary school. (When the wine is not being handed out, glasses full of it are sitting on a cart for anyone to take.)

I've already pointed out that this is the world's worst idea but she brushed me off. She seems to think it's "not a big deal" because "art galleries do it." I don't want to go to jail. Help?

**ETA:**

• It is a ladies' clothing store. We do not sell booze at all or have any permits. Therefore, it's not like sampling some $2 chuck at TJ's. It's like "welcome to StoreName, feel free to grab a mimosa"

• The clerks do not check IDs

• I mention the school because in CA you ~~can't have~~ **may face mitigating factors, such as school hours, when giving out alcohol ~~next to~~ within 600ft of a school.

**EDIT 2**

THANKS EVERYONE! I compiled the information and sent it along, which got her to call the ABC Controller for our area and learn that we would indeed need a temporary permit and that we couldn't hold such an event *during local school hours, 8am-230pm*. ^SO ^EVERYONE ^WHO ^ACTED ^LIKE ^I ^WAS ^STUPID ^OVER ^THE ^SCHOOL ^THING ^CAN ^SUCK ^ITTTTT

Anyway my boss has chosen to take out her irritation over this by blaming me for "taking so long to bring it to her attention" now that it's too late to get a permit for this week's planned wine binger. I will be taking my next set of questions to /r/raisedbynarcissists. THANKS GUYS!

Answer:
 This is _a completely terrible idea_ and will get her fined extensively.

The relevant governing body is [the Department of Alcoholic Beverage Control](https://www.abc.ca.gov/LawsRulesReg.html). They have the power to set out laws around the provision of alcohol in a retail context, regardless of whether your store actually _sells_ alcohol. There's a PDF on that page that lists the relevant laws; they're mostly fairly readable and outline both the actions that constitute a violation and the punishments for violating the laws. Fines and community service are common, with revocation or suspension of various licenses (usually liquor licenses) often imposed as well.

Separately, there's a fairly major concern around [California Business and Professions Code BPC Section 25658](http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=BPC&sectionNum=25658). If a minor acquires alcohol from your store under your giveaway, the store has committed a misdemeanour punishable by a $1,000 fine _and_ 24 hours of community service for each offence.

The right thing to do here is probably to apply for a [special event permit](http://www.abc.ca.gov/forms/pdfspc.html), which will demand that you have a plan for checking ID and ensuring that the people serving alcohol are legally allowed to do so.


Title: Car Drove Through Wall of My House, Myself and Dog were Hit with Debris

Question:
Hello Hive Mind.

So this is a fairly long story and rather than swamp everyone with extra details I'll just try to give a quick synopsis. First, I own my home and have insurance, property personal injury and loss of use are all covered separately. I also have health insurance. The accident caused a full concrete block wall an interior 2x4 stud wall, and all the cabinets, kitchen sink and dishwasher to be destroyed. The impact sent debris flying across the room and about 25' away I was sitting on my couch petting the dog and got hit by the combo move of recently airborne scullery accouterment. My leg was badly bruised and I have a few lacerations needing stitches, 14 total. So in addition to the inconvenience of having my home destroyed and being utterly terrified from the near death experience, I'm not in a brace and can barely walk for the foreseeable future. I also had a tenant who is now displaced, though luckily not hurt. I'm currently out of work on sick leave, missing college courses, and living at my girlfriends house 30 miles away in the next town over. I was also working on fixing the home up so have many tools and construction materials there.

Since then, I've contacted my home insurance policy and a few lawyers. I have some contractors looking to start debris removal tomorrow, and have already done work to board up the hole earlier this week. The insurance co also has a personal property company that wants me to sign a service contract for sorting, cleaning and storing my stuff during repairs.

The driver supposedly had insurance, and I believe was charged with a DUI. They had passengers in the car, including a child. I mention that because my state minimums are 30-60-25. So I will not be the only one pulling from those funds. Additionally, I've heard DUI get's you into punitive damages territory.

My questions are, what would you do? What do you think I should expect the other interested parties to do?

Thanks. Can prove/verify if needed.

Answer: You've done exactly what anyone here would tell you. You've contacted yours insurance company. You've also spoken with a later or two, which doesn't hurt.


Title: Are airlines really allowed to discriminate against people with psychiatric disabilities? Can I legally opt out of that discrimination by pretending to have a physical disability instead? [United States]

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 If you can (and are comfortable) getting a paper saying that you have a disability (ask your lawyer (or other entity qualified to help with this question) if it needs to list what, I don't think it does) and that the dog is a service dog, and what it does.

>I've always ended up on the plane eventually after escalating it to managers, but not always without a panic attack along the way

The employees on lower level's aren't always trained in this. They're paid less and trained less to save money. They don't know and that usually isn't their fault. Walk up and ask to speak to a manager straightaway to circumvent this. Explain to the manager the problem, and you'll be on the plane. Don't feel bad about this. It isn't your fault the employees lack training.

If you feel nervous, maybe call ahead (ask for a supervisor/manager and get their name, write down the time you called, etc) to see what else you need to do. When you arrive, mention the manager who you spoke with and ask to speak to either him/her or another manager.


Title: My girlfriend is having a mental break

Question:
Coastal Georgia

For context I am 22m GF is 31f and her other BF is 21m

My girlfriend seems to be having a psychotic break and has left the state with another partner (we're poly, I helped get them together I had no issue with him until yesterday). I got home at around 5:40 am yesterday after working the night shift at my job, my girlfriend was sleeping at her partners place (normal) in the morning she sent a text to our house group chat (we have roommates and use the chat for scheduling) asking if anyone was up, I was so I said yes (no response after this) I fell back asleep and when I woke up I cleaned up the house a little and then went to run some errands, when I got back home I got a call from a roommate telling me to put my guns on the counter unloaded.

I don't own any guns. I've only fired a gun once in my life 3 years ago. I ask her what the heck she's talking about. Apparently my girlfriend has been going around telling people that I threatened her with guns this morning. The only time we ever had guns in the house (and I was not informed when this happened) was when she left her guns in our unlocked house and then they were stolen (we had just signed the lease and still had time on our old ones so we didn't have anything in there so I was worried about locking the back door). I think maybe she thinks I took her guns and hid them from her? This happened back in February though and I made her file a police report about them in case someone committed a crime with them.

About half an hour later another roommate comes home with a police escort and two friends to help him pack up his stuff and go to his dads. I talk to roommate and friends with the cops present and after the cops leave. They seemed surprised that I wasn't flailing my arms around threatening to shoot people with guns.

I messaged my GF asking her what the heck was going on on text and messenger ( no response yet)

When my other roommates got home they were relieved and also super confused. The roommate who had the police escort said she had seen my girlfriend all freaked out in the morning saying she had to leave because I did something. It looks like some of her clothing is missing and she took her meds. She left her favorite jacket (it was by the door), most of her shoes, and her cat.

My roommate texted the other partner and said my GF is scared of me and that he's taking her with him to Missouri (where he's from).

My GF has PTSD, depression, is on HRT meds, and takes an anti-psychotic.

She has been really irritable lately and has been having memory problems. I don't know who to contact or what to do. I'm extremely concerned she's going to hurt herself or do something else that harms her.

I've tried calling her multiple times and have messaged her on everything I can think of.

I'm so sorry if I'm rambling I'm really freaked out.

Answer:
 It does not sound like you can or should do anything. I didn't read your post closely to try to read into it, but it sounds like she does not want to communicate with you right now, and you need to respect that, as difficult as it might be. She isn't alone and has people who could take her to be seen if the need arises.

Try to keep yourself busy and occupied and just wait for her to contact you. To be honest, it sounds like you would be best off just blocking her and letting her go from your life entirely, as that amount of drama is not sustainable for anyone long term. Just live your life and let her life hers. Answer #2: You need to stop all contact with her. Regardless of her current mental state, through her actions she has already put you on your local police’s radar.  If you continue to call and/or text her you’re likely going to have a restraining order issued against you and you may have to move from your current residence. Answer #3: What exactly is your legal question?


Title: [Ontario] Friend and I charged with trespassing on a building site, caused some minor damage that's yet to be discovered but probably will be soon. How to proceed?

Question:
Let me start by saying I regret and am ashamed of some of the things I did, and that my rational, sober self understands that I was a huge asshole to the construction workers who work on the site.

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Now, down to it. Friend and I (both 20 years old) had been drinking and wanted to go on an adventure at ~2am. A condo is being built nearby and there's a big crane on top of it that we decided to climb.

We enter the condo through the parking garage, take the stairs up to the roof where the crane was, then climb the crane. We were SO high above the city, and the view and adrenaline rush were incredible.

**The stupid part:** On top of the crane where the operator's booth is, we find a toolbox with a few oil cans in it and some odd tools. We took a can and dropped it off the crane, just to see what happened when it hit the ground below, and of course when we heard the crashing noise we got all excited and wanted to throw more stuff off.

We threw all the cans (four total), the tools (not many, i forget what they were), and then the toolbox itself, except the toolbox landed on the roof of the condo building, right out in the open. I'm certain that the toolbox will be found as it's one of the only things on the roof and is very easy to see.

When we climbed down and exited the building site there were a couple police cars waiting for us. I guess somebody heard the banging of the cans hitting the ground and called the police.

I got a ticket (called an "Offence Notice" on the ticket itself) for trespassing, which requires me to pay a 65$ fine.

The thing is, I don't think the officers understood *that we were throwing things off the crane*, and thought that we were only dropping things from a couple floors up or something. I'm nervous that if a construction worker reports that some punks threw his toolbox off the crane that I'll be more trouble.

I haven't paid my ticket yet (and frankly don't know how to), and just don't know what the best course of action is.

**TL;DR**, climbed a crane on top of a building, threw a toolbox and some oil cans off the side, caught by police, charged with trespassing for 65$, don't think police know we climbed the crane, nevermind threw tools off it, nervous that they discover the truth later on.

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Should I just pay the ticket and hope that's the end of it? Should I wait things out and pay my ticket in a week? On the back of my ticket it says I can choose "Early resolution - meet with a prosecutor" or trial option, but trial option seems overkill for a 65$ ticket. What is this early resolution - meet with a prosecutor thing?

Thanks.

Answer: You easily could have killed someone.


Title: [CA] Can my current employer contact my soon-to-be employer regarding me/my work performance/disciplinary action?

Question:
I am giving my two week notice today at my current job thanks to a job offer received a few days ago. The new company is one that my current company works with often (not a competitor), and while they have said they do not contact current employers of candidates, can someone from my current employer (manager, HR, etc.) contact the new company regarding me?

I do have a lot of write ups and absences (due to harassment from management, which is another story and likely enough to pursue legal action but I don’t want to go through that) and I’m concerned my current manager could contact the new company to give information about my attendance and disciplinary action and end up getting my job offer rescinded. Are my concerns valid/legitimate/possible/probable?

Answer: If they said they don't they probably won't, but they legally can, yes.


Title: Husband’s Ex-Wife Is Threatening Legal Over the Mortgage

Question:
Quick rundown: 10 years ago husband and his ex divorced, she signed the house over to him and he/we have been making payments on it since. (She left him while he was out at sea of that tells you anything about her character.)

5 years ago she wanted her name off the mortgage, because it was “impacting her credit”.  (Which, bullshit. Long story, but essentially she has proof for *anytime* she needs it showing that the mortgage is covered by my husband.)

After explaining that we couldn’t afford to refinance and being told by the lender that they don’t do assumptions anymore, she backed off. Now she’s back at it, threatening legal action is we don’t get her name off the mortgage.

**How screwed are we?** Can she force us to refinance and remove her name? Can she force us to sell??

Trust me, I’d love nothing more than not seeing this woman’s name in my mailbox every month, but money is tight and refinancing (or even getting the house sellable- needs new pipes and a few other things) just isn’t an option.

Their divorce agreement just gave the house to him, no mention of removing her from the loan. Any suggestions on how to proceed??

Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 What does the divorce decree say about the mortgage?  Does it order him to refinance?

As a matter of equity (even if not of contract) she should be relieved when possible of an obligation that isn’t hers. And if after 10 years husband can’t refinance, that’s on him.

She can enforce the decree, whatever that provides. After 10 years if there’s any language about if or when, that’s likely to come down in her favor.

And you likely underestimate the impact of a mortgage on someone’s credit. She undoubtedly righteously needs off. Her decade old transgressions not withstanding.


Title: Gaming laws in Las Vegas, Nevada that say a woman can't be topless with pasties unless shoulders are covered?

Question: I was recently at the Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino. I was told by the staff that the females cannot even be topless while wearing pasties on the expo floor unless our shoulders are covered due to the Nevada Gaming Laws. The male talent is obviously allowed to be topless the entire event. Could I get a reference as to which law or rule they are talking about?

Answer:
 >Dancers shall not mingle with the patrons while in an unclothed or nude state at the licensed establishment.

seems like the troublesome line for walking around an expo.Answer #2: https://lasvegassun.com/news/2009/aug/07/clark-county-code-nightclubs-and-topless-pools/Answer #3: What is a pasty? To an Englishman, it's a kind of pastry.


Title: I’m scared that my brother is going to hurt me, as he is mentally unstable and hurts my mom and dogs.

Question:
I’m 15, barely. My brother is also 15. We are in Texas.

My brother hurts my mom every time he gets mad. He also hurts my dogs, and he’s chased me around with a knife. He’s thrown chairs at my mom, punched her. He’s extremely emotionally unstable. Every time he gets mad it’s over something really stupid. My mom has bruises from my brother. I have panic attacks over the situation. In the car, he’ll smash things, kick things, and break stuff. He also yells at my mom while she’s driving, and punches and hurts her. I’m surprised we haven’t gotten into a crash.

Happened again just now, which is why I’m making this post. He punched my mom while she was trying to drive, kicked some stuff, and tried to break the divider between the front two seats. It was all because we had to drive 5 minutes out of our way to buy food for HIS snake. Then, he stabbed his arm with a pen, and then he started bleeding. The only person who he’s scared of is my dad, who isn’t home often.

I’m scared for my life. I need to get out of this house. I’m afraid he’s gonna hurt me someday. I don’t have many friends, and I don’t think I can stay with any of the ones that I am friends with.

What can I do to help myself get out of the house? Or am I just overreacting?

Answer: You need to call 911 any time he's actively violent.  If the situation has passed, you need to call cold protective services for your county.  This is in no way okay.Answer #2: If calling cps scares you, tell your school counselor.they have to report it. Play dumb about how it came up.  Or Call 911 as it's happening if necessary. Cps will not remove you but will probably require he get treatment asap. He is severely ill, honey. It's nobody's fault and he needs help NOW.


Title: Hospital sent bill to collections when I was a minor, collections waited two years to contact me. (ON, Canada)

Question:
On May 31st 2013, when I was 16, I was hit by a speeding car. I was taken by ambulance to the local hospital, where I was X-ray'd, sent to the next city for a CT scan on my neck, then sent back to the original town hospital. A total of three trips by ambulance.

I spent the next week or two at home, so I had plenty of time to notice the fact that I didn't receive a bill. At all.

Fast forward to two days ago. I got a call from the collections agency in this area.

In 2014 the hospital sent the bill (that once again, I NEVER received) to collections. Collections then waited two years to contact me about the money I owe. It's not much, so I'm not concerned, but I was underage at the time. The bill should have gone to my parents who are on disability pensions that cover hospital and ambulance bills, no?

I also don't have a bank account, so there seems to be no way for me to pay the bill in the first place.

Is there any way to fight it, or even have it transferred into my parent's name as it SHOULD have been in the first place?

Preferably in a way that doesn't put me in contact with the hospital. I hate the place. They refused to operate on my leg to remove a cyst that formed after the accident, and the resulting pressure caused a blood clot, a massive muscle infarction, and nerve damage (which I would definitely sue over if I could prove that it was caused by the cyst, but the only proof is when agony started.)

Thanks to ya all!

Answer: I think you need to clarify that you are receiving **ambulance**, not hospital, bills.


Title: Owning Firearms Inside SCHOOL ZONE

Question:
So I rent an apartment that is across the street from a school, still inside the school zone. In Illinois, are there any rules barring me from owning firearms and keeping them in my apartment since I live inside the zone?
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer: So long as you have your FOID card and are not a prohibited person from owning firearms, you are good to go.


Title: Minor meth head wants to fight me tonight.

Question: So I’m a minor and I have a job, this girl (16) who I used to work with and who used to be a close friend wants to fight me. I don’t do fighting and she’s planing on beating me up anyways even if I don’t fight back. I know this girl has done meth multiple times, and it’d still be in her system at this point. If she dies end up fighting me, what can I do for legal actions against her?

Answer: Just don’t fight the girl.


Title: [Question] Is it okay to give assets away prior to filing for divorce?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Since you didn't give a location, I have to assume that you are from Saudi Arabia: If you are the man in the marriage you don't need to agree to a divorce. Under Sharia law, she can only divorce you if you didn't have sex with her (she doesn't need to consent) in the last 2 months or don't provide her with food, clothes and shelter.

EDIT: Also after a divorce you do not need to split your stuff with her.


Title: Trying To Prep For Divorce-Only One Shot To Get Ex To Sign

Question:
I currently reside in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania. I was married in Milwaukee, Wisconsin in August of 2015.  I plan to get divorced in Lancaster County, PA.

I have lived in Lancaster County, PA since September of 2017. My ex husband was abusive so I took our daughter (will be 3 years old on 5/25/2019) and went to PA where all of my family is, including my sister and mother, to aid with my kids. (our daughter and a son from previous relationship).

I will be returning to Milwaukee for 4days/3night from 5/16/19-5/20/19 to clear my storage locker and hopefully sit down with my ex to fill out, sign and have notarized any and all documents needed for divorce. He will be agreeable and is willing to sign things, so long as I shoulder the entire cost associated with getting divorced. This is my ONLY CHANCE to get him to sign any papers needed for an uncontested/easier divorce. He is exceedingly lazy and always broke. So if I need to send him things in the future they will never make their way back to me signed. No matter if postage is prepaid and all he needs to do is sign by the arrows. This will be my only shot.

Here are my questions:

1) Are there any documents I should fill out and file at my local Lancaster County courthouse BEFORE I go back to Milwaukee next week? If so what are they?

2) What should I make sure to fill out and have him sign while I am in town? Also should I just make sure everything we sign together is done in front of a notary?

3) I know I have to serve him, but he is often homeless and moves frequently. He does have a stable address at the moment, but is on the verge of getting kicked out. If he is no longer residing at the address on the filed paperwork before the divorce is finalized, then what? Will I have to start all over?

4) He has agreed to give me sole physical custody and wants joint legal in exchange for $0 ordered child support. I agree because I just want my daughter and even if support if ordered, I will never see a dime. Can I do this or will child support have to be requested? (my kids both benefit from Medicaid and Foodstamps)

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I am a single mother with 2 kids making barely above the poverty line ($31k/year). I am trying to figure out how to get this divorce done without spending hundreds, if not thousands of dollars that I don't have and cannot afford to spend.

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I am only looking to get this divorce because I want to move on with my life. I know I will never have to speak to him again because he never attempts to talk to him daughter even though he has multiple ways to contact her. Also, at some point in a few years I would love to become a homeowner and don't want to deal with the legal headache buying a house while still married would be.

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Thank you all in advance for your input, knowledge and any guidance you may be able to offer.

Answer:
 If your kids are recieving SNAP benefits the state will automatically go after him for child support.Answer #2: I am a Georgia divorce attorney. I would always suggest hiring a lawyer. I can't remember how many times I've heard "but I couldn't afford one." Honestly, you really can't afford not to have one.

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If you decide to go pro bono, the county specific forms are Here:

 [http://www.pacourts.us/learn/representing-yourself/divorce-proceedings](http://www.pacourts.us/learn/representing-yourself/divorce-proceedings)


Title: SO stuck in Cairo need help now

Question:
SO and I are both US citizens - Born and raised. We are currently in Cairo for an extended layover to our final destination.

Apparently SOs etranged father put a travel ban on her when she was a minor in an attempt to keep her in Egypt. He basically asked her to go on vacation with him after a divorce and she said no. She was not aware of the ban so we traveled here two days ago to see the pyramids. Now she can't leave.

Currently working on getting the ban lifted, but US embassy says their hands are tied and we have to work with the Egyptian government.

Also tomorrow is my birthday hence the trip. We are both just sad and defeated. Did not get to sleep or eat all day yesterday frantically running around town. We just want to go home.

tldr: Even if you are a US citizen, born and raised. Sometimes citizenship reverts back to parents culture or ethnic citizenship if you set foot in your parents homeland. US embassy hands are tied.

Answer:
 May sound strange, but is she Muslim (meaning considered Muslim as opposed to Coptic)? And if so, are you?  Because if you are stuck and with legal problems, be careful. A lot of Muslim majority countries have laws on the books forbidding marriage between a Muslim and a non-Muslim. And if she's considered Muslim and the two of you have been staying in hotels together, they may try to bring up charges of adultery on the both of you (or perhaps just her). Which will bring another round of issues.

I would try to get professional help either from a congressman, or local legal aid. Answer #2: The suggestion to contact your US Senators/US Rep is obviously the first part.

Do NOT attempt to evade the travel ban in any way without the express advice of the US Embassy or your Senator/Reps office. Attempting to circumvent a ban (like, by trying to drive through an Israeli border crossing), is as likely to cause more problems, and will complicate any attempt to help you.

The embassy may be able to help you get in touch with expats or lawyers that are willing to help you out while this gets sorted. Embassies in the Middle East are pretty used to dealing with bullshit like this, and it's a diplomatic song and dance, that just so happens to completely screw over people like you and your SO.

You should also ask the embassy whether you should just go out and do stuff while you wait, or hole up in the hotel, or if they can tell you who can give you advice here. You're stuck in Cairo, so if you can actually go see something cool while you wait for this to blow over, you might as well.


Title: [NH] Possibly threatening note left on winshield

Question:
So I live in an apartment building with street parking available out front. I park a truck at the beginning of the curb just next to a wide driveway for another apartment not affiliated with my building. Today I got a note on my truck that was typed reading
" Fair Warning:
If my wife gets hit trying to pull out of our driveway because she can't see past your truck, I'm settling up with you."

I'm parked legally on the street and I actually watched the guy put the note on my vehicle. I debated leaving a note for him asking him to refrain from touching my vehicle and leaving threatening notes. I don't care for getting sued after a physical altercation with somebody who can't simply speak up like an adult. Any advice on the situation would be greatly appreciated

Answer:
 There's nothing you can do to prevent him from suing you, but as long as you truck isn't illegally modified and you are legally parked he doesn't have much of a case.Answer #2: I have to back into my driveway to park because pulling out of the driveway is so dicey when a neighbor parks just as you are parking. I do it because it's just too scary not to be able to see beyond his truck.

Is that the only place you can park?Answer #3: Are you actually legally parked there? Do your local codes or laws say anything about a vehicle that obstructs other drivers' ability to see oncoming traffic? Just because there's not a sign doesn't mean it's legal.

Also, if you know that your truck is blocking other people's ability to see, you should park it somewhere else.Answer #4: It might be time to put in a dash cam if you haven't already. That letter does sound kinda threatening, and who knows if he'll go unhinged and damage your car in the middle of the night.

Sure, you can play good neighbor, but not to the point that it inconveniences you. If the only free parking space is a block away or further down the street then his wife will have to be careful pulling out. She's going to encounter obstructed views all over the city, so are they going to sue every car owner if she can't clearly see when she's pulling out and then has an accident?


Title: Weed trouble

Question: I have court next week and I've been freaking out about it , I was charged with possession of paraphernalia , possession of Marijuana and maintaining a common nuisance. The person who owned the weed admitted that it was his, but since my name is the only one on the lease the police said they had to arrest me anyways. I've had no prior charges and never had any sort of run in the cops before ... I have an appointment with my public defender the day before my court date and I don't feel like they even have the best interest for me . Does anyone know what I'm looking at ? I live in Indiana

Answer: You're looking at not getting a very good answer to your question because you didn't provide your frogging location.


Title: I am newly 19, parents split when I was 12 and my dad only paid maybe a years' worth of child support. Looking at back pay child support.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Your mother can go after the back child support, she should consult with some local family law attorneys.  Answer #2: You're owed nothing. The $ would have gone to your mother. She can take him to court but you can't.


Title: Car towed in my own lot. Who's legally responsible?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You can sue all three of them in small claims court and let the court figure it out.Answer #2: question is whether LL/MGMT had a duty to relay the info to you. If they promised you parking, then they probably had a duty if they knew that your parking entitlement would be interfered with by HOA.

I think your LL/MGMT owes you. technically the way that would work is that you would sue your lessor (probably LL) and he can sue MGMT since they were probably the ones who failed to transmit the notice.


Title: Can landlord require me to have comprehensive insurance on my car?

Question: I'm going to be moving into a new apartment soon and as part of the terms of the lease they are requiring me have comprehensive coverage on my car due to the fact that the apartment is located in a federally designated flood zone X (.2% of flooding each year). I honestly don't want comprehensive coverage on my car and don't see the need for it in my situation. Is this something that they are legally allowed to include in the lease? I live in the state of NH. Thanks for your help.

Answer:
 Yes.

Your recourse would to live elsewhere.


Title: [CA] Traffic ticket for crossing double yellow lanes, but only did so b/c there was a cyclist in the lane, help!

Question:
I was driving in mulholland dr in Malibu where the roads are very curvy and people tend to cycle there through the canyons. There's only one lane going in each direction. I was approaching a curve and there was a cyclist in the lane, so I moved over to the left and crossed the lanes, but I only did so to give the cyclist space and also to pass him. I know that's illegal to do so, but after I passed him, a cop saw from after the curve and had me stop. He proceeded to give me a ticket for passing the double yellow lanes and said that I was supposed to just wait for the cyclist. I didn't have my insurance on me cause i was driving my friend's car, but he didn't make that too big of a deal, although it is noted on the ticket.

Anyways, I do plan on contesting this ticket by showing up in court. Not sure how to go about this though, please give me an outline/process of what to do in this particular case. If I pay the bail, i'll also be getting a point on my record, both of which I do not want. It's not a speeding ticket, as I see a lot of threads on that.

Additional info: As i asked him what to do next, he said to show up in court by the date written on the ticket, but "the sooner the better."

**TLDR:** Got a traffic ticket for crossing double lanes but only b/c there was a cyclist in the lane, and wanted to give him space/pass him. Need a step by step process on how to fight this ticket?

Answer: You certainly can show up and state you side in a polite, professional manner. There is no guarantee that you will get the outcome you want though.


Title: Employer requiring I do social media posts

Question: Currently living and working as a bartender in the state of Florida. In short my employer has began requiring us to do a social media (Facebook specifically) post for every shift we work. We're being threatened of loss of hours and/or termination if we do not comply. Is this legal?

Answer:
 Sure.

You can also make a work only account for those posts. And you have to be paid for time spent writing them. Answer #2: As long as you're getting paid for your work, I don't see why it would be illegal. Your job duties *can* change over time.


Title: [Hoboken,NJ]After signed the lease with the leasing office,they said there is some IT problem caused typos in my lease and trying to raise the rent,is it legal?

Question:
I just signed the lease with a leasing office in Hoboken on Aug 15th for $2265/month include heat and hot water.And I've already paid for the first month and deposit the other day.
But last Sunday,I found that the rent on the first page of my lease matches what we agreed and what I've paid them.However,on the fifth page under those tiny little terms, it says $2315 as numbers but  says "two thousand two hundred sixty five dollars 00 cents" in words.
I know that the lease is a legally document and I asked them to match the number with the words as $2265 as what we agreed and what I've paid them.
But they've been dodging me since then.I called them this morning again and they told me this is an IT problem and the rent should be $2315 and they're gonna raise my rent to $2315 now.
I just wanna know that is it legally for them to do so?
The leasing office only gave me 5 minutes to read that 29 pages lease coz she got a dentist appointment or whatsoever.And she told me this is really a take it or leave it offer.
I just move from London to Hoboken.I'm not very familiar with here so I panicked.Silly me.Please feel free to leave some comments.I could really use them.Many thanks!

Answer:
 This isn't a UCC case, but [UCC 3-114](https://www.law.cornell.edu/ucc/3/3-114) states the general rule that words prevail over numbers when there is a discrepency.

It is a lot harder to accidentally mistype "two" than "2."

Tell them they can try to evict you over their error.Answer #2: What price was the lease advertised at?Answer #3: > The leasing office only gave me 5 minutes to read that 29 pages lease coz she got a dentist appointment or whatsoever.And she told me this is really a take it or leave it offer.

Putting the current issue aside, hopefully you've learned that you need to fully read contracts you sign, and you should generally walk away when people tell you to "hurry up and take it or leave it".


Title: My (20) former abusive step mom that is the reason I have PTSD shows back up in town. Is there anything legally I can do about the abuse I endured as a child or am I too late?

Question:
This is my first post, so bare with me. When I was 4 years old I moved in with my father, his new wife and her two children. In the beginning things were fine and I liked being around more people since it was just my dad and I before.

 Months into living with her I started to be emotionally  and physically abused by my new step mom.. I didnt know why it was happening and I was way too little to communicate with my Dad on what was happening so I never told him. I developed severe Anxiety when I was around her to the point of getting physically sick when ever she was around me. I was punished for getting sick as well so it made things worse..

When my biological mother came back into my life I finally got the courage to tell her what had been happening and why I threw so big of a fit when I needed to go back to my dads house from visiting with her. She immediately called my father and cussed him out, and he told her I was lying. ( my Dad was at work during the abuse. He worked 12-14 hour shifts every day and was on call on his time off)

after bringing this up to my step mother and asking my step siblings ( who were not abused) he found out I wasn't lying and left her. During the transition I moved in with my mother. The abuse stopped in 5th grade.

Every time I see my former step mom, I tense up, I panic and I have flashbacks. I usually end up blacking out and crying uncontrollably after. She's now working at the store I go to down the street that my biological brother also works at. Seeing her all the time after years of not seeing her, is hurting me so bad mentally and I was wondering if there is anything I could do legally about the abuse I endured  or if its too late.

Also any tips on how to cope with my PTSD episodes.

Answer:
 "Emotional abuse" is generally not a criminal matter.  Physical abuse may be, depending on the severity and the occasion.

The statute of limitations for criminal action of this type in Colorado is three years.  For civil action(a lawsuit), it's between one year and two years.  In both cases, you're well past time.

You can always make a police report, if you want.  It may not go anywhere, but you'd be available as a witness if anyone else has an issue.  You can also talk to a civil attorney about a potential lawsuit - although it appears that your time to file has expired, there may be an option we're not seeing.


Title: [WV] Son Assaulted at park

Question:
My son was assaulted earlier today. Called the police and they said they would be here first thing in the morning.

Back story. My son is 12 years old and earlier Thursday was assaulted at a park by two of his classmates. He ended up with a dislocated shoulder and a busted nose. Two kids that he thought were his friends lured him to the park then one attacked him punching him multiple times in the face. When he fell down the other kid kicked him multiple times in the face. Damaging his nose, we won't know till tomorrow if it's broken. I only found out about this when my niece told me about it being circulated at school. The kids that attacked him actually took video of the attack. I live in a small town in West Virginia and the local police have a boys will be boys attitude. The one boy last year assaulted and choked a kid in a ditch with a rope. My son is scared to go to school because of this. I also found out that the boys had already planned it and were going to attack another kid.

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What can I legally do in this situation? What are my rights as a parent? Encase the police don't want to do anything, what can I do then?

Answer: Police - Work up the chain. This is assault and battery. WV Code §61-2-9.  Malicious or unlawful assault; assault; battery; penalties. subsections b and c. Your child, the same age as my son, was viciously beaten by two classmates who have intimidated him enough he is afraid to attend school which he is required to do so by the state. This plan they have for another victim and that there is a video is evidence enough they thought this through well enough that they wanted to broadcast it at least among their "friends." This is not a boys will be boys event. This is one that can easily lead to further injuries and even kill someone.


Title: [MI] My friend did everything wrong post car accident.

Question:
My friend got in a car accident a few nights.  Here are things he did that are things you should not do.

-did not get any pictures of the license plate or damage of the other car
-did not contact the police immediately (the other party said not to, my friend is very nice and forgiving.)

One thing he did that is a huge red flag.  He let the other party take a picture of his driver license.  Basically it looks like they want him to pay for their damage.  Still they have a picture of his driver license, which I read up on is not good at all.  Plus they didn't want to call the cops, also a huge red flag.  My friend never exchanged insurance info with the other party.  I doubt the other party even has insurance.  Which is illegal in the state I live in, MI.

Answer: He should let his insurance handle it. This is why you have insurance.


Title: City damaged yard, agreed to re-sod and now refuses

Question:
I’m on mobile so apologies for any formatting issues.  I’m in Minnesota, and had new sod put in late in the fall.  We had early snow, and the snow plow ran over our yard doing some damage.  The area is fairly large (say 20 ft long by 2 ft wide).  When it happened we e-mailed the city.  They said they would seed it in the spring.  We then said that wasn’t acceptable and  wanted sod.  The city agreed to re-sod via e-mail, so we can prove all of this.

It’s now spring and they won’t re-sod, but did place seed.  We aren’t happy and are getting the run around, and flat out refusal to use sod per what we agreed to.  They even tried to deny that they said they would after we sent the e-mail they sent.

I’m upset by this and wondering if I can’t get them to re-sod can I sue?  Would I have a case?  Also would the courts care?  There would be low damages (call it 250 in sod plus labor at most).

Thanks in advance for any help

TL;DR:  City agreed to replace damaged sod with sod in writing, now refuses to do so.

Answer: Contact a local lawyer concerning the city's liability.


Title: I need my 2 year old back !!:(

Question: Last year my ex went to rehab and shortly after I was arrested for speeding with my son in the car with me. The charges were later dismissed and I was told by courts to sign over my parental rights temporarily to the grandparents to attend rehab and within a year I would have my rights back. Well fast forward a year, after completing rehab successfully and maintaining sobriety, the grandparents and ex boyfriend have been keeping my son away from me to the point that he doesn’t even know who I am. All because they do not approve of the guy I am dating. They made me go to rehab because I was on a methadone prescription but the grandfather drinks on xanax and yells at the grandmother sometimes getting physical. Court is this week in Georgia and they want to take full custody or adopt my son. What can I do? Is there anything I can do ??

Answer: Get a family law attorney and work with CPS to get a reunification plan underway.


Title: [NY] Can an employer legally provide health insurance to all employees except one?

Question:
Months ago I used to work for a company and there were many suspicion actions that were taken place. Part of my job duties was filing, which is how I became aware that I was the only full-time employee who was not provided health insurance. The employer was not willing to provide it to me and persuaded me into signing a form which said I did not accept the employer's insurance (it was never offered to me) for the reason that I was getting insurance from my parents (not true). The employer then went as far as creating an account for me with the State's health plan marketplace website and instructed me to sign up for insurance there. The last part surprised me but I said nothing because I was the 2nd newest employee.

I should note that I was the youngest employee there. And although it was racially diverse workplace, I was the only Asian there. I remember every employee, including the one who opened the business, would almost never be on time (9:00) but if I was ever late, I was the one who was targeted. The employer also set up a fingerprint time clock but it was obvious it was to target me as it was not enforced to everybody at the same level as me. I mention this because it feels the health insurance bit was not all about saving costs.

Answer: They can set standards that someone would have to meet to get insurance (for example, probation period, full time workers only) but they cannot randomly pick an employee or pick one young employee & not offer insurance.


Title: [MA] Neighbor Parks Directly In front of House Refusing to Either Move Car or Shut Car Windows So I Can Run Sprinkler

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > If I set up and turn on my sprinkler, and water gets inside his vehicle, could I be liable for any damage?

Yes, if you spray water into someone's car you can be liable for damage done to that car.


Title: My school is randomly checking phones in order to find out who has been leaking personal info of students

Question:
Like the title says my school is randomly checking phones of students. They’re checking because an anonymous student made an Instagram account revealing very personal things and issues regarding some students. This is a small hokey Catholic school, so this info getting leaked is the talk of the school. Some of my friends have already had their phones confiscated. I just want to know what my rights are in terms of keeping my phone. If you’re wondering why I’m still in school it’s because my school runs until July for some reason.
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer: You can leave your phone at home.


Title: [NM] Animal Control accidentally euthanized my coworker’s dog.

Question:
Coworker’s dog was on a 10 day hold for a bite. (Unsure of the initial situation.)

Dog was to be released today (10/22), coworker called to ask what time they could pick up their dog and was informed that the dog was “accidentally” euthanized yesterday (10/21.)

Coworker is obviously upset, and asks if they can pick up the body so they can bury their pet with their family, and was informed that the body had already been taken to the landfill.

It’s awful and heartbreaking in about 100 different ways, but can they do anything legally? Euthanizing a pet accidentally seems like gross negligence of procedure to me. (But I’m NAL. Or an ACO.)

Answer: At best they could sue for the value of the dog.


Title: [CA] How spicy can a packaged food be without being labeled spicy?

Question:
So I ate [this](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Chef-Boyardee-Chicken-Ravioli-in-Tomato-Sauce-15-oz-Can/31707290) today and, while it wasn't overbearingly spicy to me, it was a surprise. My nose ran and my mouth was mildly-moderately spicy. I do have a tolerance for spice though. I read the ingredients and it just said "spices." It was definitely spicy enough for a reaction. You can also check out the reviews included in the link to verify that it wasn't just me experiencing it.

So my question remains: How spicy can a packaged food be without being labeled spicy?

I am not interested in pursuing a case on this since I wasn't harmed in any way. Although if a case comes up, I would like to hear what comes of it.

Answer: As spicy as is medically safe.


Title: My family bought a new house. After everything closed, the prior owners admitted to covering up horrendous amounts of dog / cat urine in basement.

Question:
TL;DR at bottom.

We did multiple walkthroughs of the house before closing and we could not fully detect the smell. My mother caught a small whiff of it but it was not enough to make her think twice.

The prior owners covered the smell with candles (red flag we missed, we know) and pet odor eliminator (we found this after hiring a black light service after we closed the deal).

One of the family members called my mom today and this is what was told:
-	Her grandma had a caretaker who left the cats downstairs and locked them down there.
-	The homeowner and her husband started smelling a horrendous owner and her grandma didn’t know, they found the cats locked down there with a big tub of food.
-	The daughter of the homeowner went into anaphylactic shock from it and they had to replace the wall halfway up and they replaced the carpet.
-	Their Pomeranian was old and had bad hips and couldn’t go up the stairs and so they basically let her pee at will down there.

There is a ton more information I could share but don’t want to leave a wall of text. Will provide if needed.

Is there no way to back out of this considering all of this was hidden from us? Or at least force an allowance to fix the basement?

TL;DR: Prior owners let their dog pee at will in the basement. Former caretaker locked cats downstairs with food, again letting them pee/poop at will.

Answer:
 And the home inspector didn't catch this because? You didn't hire one?Answer #2: I had a house one time that had so much dog shit in the basement, we had to scoop it up with snow shovels.  One oil based primer coat later along with another coat on the floor for a different color and voila. Problem solved. Answer #3: I am not a lawyer. It would appear you have a case and you should consider talking to a lawyer.

Idaho requires a disclosure form to be filled out when selling a house. Among things that need to be disclosed are:

>**the condition of the structure of the property including** the roof, foundation, walls and **floors**;

>**the known presence of hazardous materials or substances.**

[Section 55-2506](https://legislature.idaho.gov/statutesrules/idstat/Title55/T55CH25/SECT55-2506/) (emphasis mine)

The owners knew that there was an issue with the floor and I would argue that pet urine in sufficient concentration to send someone into anaphylactic shock is a hazardous material. So it seems to me they had a duty to disclose.

>... However, any person who willfully or negligently violates or fails to perform any duties prescribed by any provision of this chapter shall be liable in the amount of actual damages suffered by the transferee.

[Section 55-2517](https://legislature.idaho.gov/statutesrules/idstat/Title55/T55CH25/SECT55-2517/)

So it appears they owe you the amount to fix this.


Title: [Canada, Ontario/New Brunswick] Selling laptop, buyer wants to pay in increments.

Question:
So I am selling a laptop and the buyer wants to pay in increments due to a few reasons.
anyways, what I'm worried about is that i dont want to get screwed out of this deal. I have no problem selling it for so much a month for a few months, but i want to be safe in case the buyer decides not to pay out after the first month. IS there any way to protect myself? The buyer is willing to give SIN number and drivers license info aswell.

Answer:
 Sure, layaway. As soon as he has made the last incremental payment he can have the laptop.Answer #2: This reeks of scam in the making.

Hold out for a buyer who'll pay up front. Do you REALLY want to have to take a buyer to court if they don't pay?


Title: Had a breakdown, work was large contributor to it, do I have recourse?

Question:
I've had no choice but to keep my job in order to keep my house.

I'm an IT worker that's been at my job for nearly 7 years.  The environment is atrocious.

I'm half indian and white.  I told a coworker "your beard is looking sharp today!" while walking down the hall.  I had trimmed mine.  His reply:  "Thanks.  I see you trimmed yours; looking less jihadi."

It's just normal.  A couple days after the Boston bombings, a
 former receptionist actually suggested I shave my beard so I can make my flight on time.

I've reported serious security flaws that have gone ignored.  We have a Windows 98 computer still in production.  My boss has not wanted to use a password manager; stores it all in a non-password protected excel spreadsheet.

My boss uses expressions like "nigger rig" when describing a poorly configured tech appliance.  On several meetings, he tells how he strong arms salesmen by saying "I jewed them down pretty good."  Not an isolated incident.

In on instance an employee was downloading porn, because of a standoff my boss got into with networking crew, I couldn't even get access to firewall logs to report the porn.  Had to swoop in when the employee wasn't around and make my own reports.

The workload, atrocious conduct, and years of panic attacks led to my breakdown.  I voluntarily went into a hospital.  Given enough medication that made my gums bleed.

I had a manic episode on Thursday, called out on Friday to attend my first follow-up which went great.  Then got a call in this monday for a mandatory referral to a counselor.  Had to plead, over email during the workday no less, to please not force me to see another counselor when I'm already seeing one.

I have to see my couneslor one additional time on New Year's eve.  My boss told me the good news was I don't have to use this as a personal day.  It sucks he has no grasp on the amount of pain he and management have added.  They are oblivious.

Answer: Your options are to find another job or not.


Title: Unpaid wages amounting to 20k?

Question:
My mother has been working for the same company for over a decade. The company has broken down a bit, dissolved, and decreased in size over the years. Basically she accepted decreases in income and reliability for the ability to work from home and still make a decent living. As things got shakier, her paydays started getting further apart until she was basically working on a per job basis as the only accountant/financial consultant for this investor based business. Owner takes money consistently and funnels it into himself for when the company eventually/inevitably fails. She is aware of this as she handles all the financial information. Investors are involved with this owner and are unaware that she has gone unpaid, especially to this extent. Current tally of owed income is easily $20k, but that is just for recent work over the current year. She is missing much more that in total, but has likely passed statutes on that claim. She has the ability to trace every penny owed to her but nothing gets through to this guy that he genuinely owes her anything. Every time a cash influx comes into the company... He takes 80%, and doles some to expenses and some to her but never enough by far. It’s on record with investors that she was to be paid with incoming funds, but she wasn't. Most recently, company was set to receive a huge cash influx that would allow him to pay her in full, expenses, and invest in the next project but it’s looking like he is only going to pay her a small portion of what is owed and pocket the rest. She was betting on this last promised payout to be in full so that she could finally back away from this company, as doing so before had her worried she would lose any right to being paid.

This is located in the state of Arizona. Sorry for the word vomit blurb. This has my family emotional and I’m not extremely versed on the topic. I can ask for specifics however if someone has real insight to provide. Is there anything that can be done? Perhaps financial lawyers? Problem is, we aren't sitting on enough money to hire someone outright.

Answer:
 She needs to file a wage complaint with the Department of Labor ASAP. I'm betting she's not the only one at the company that isn't being paid and lied to about finances. Have her talk to her coworkers and report it to the DOL. She should also definitely report the embezzlement.

There is absolutely nothing that takes away her right to be paid for her work. She needs to quit immediately and file the wage complaint. She is being taken advantage of for free labor (or so the owner thinks!) and that is not acceptable.

edit: If the DoL for some reason does not intervene, she still has the right to sue for the money she's owed. For $20k+, though, she'd need an employment attorney.


Title: Gf just got fired for “poor performance” after being told to go home and recover from bruising a rib.

Question:
Hello,
So my post is pretty much what the title says.
Usa Oregon company, gf works there and has been getting over a cough but working with no problems.
Wednesday last week she coughed hard and there was an audible “pop” and suddenly in severe pain. Was told by Hr to go home and get better and come back when she was able to work. Went to Urgent care to check, had bruised and almost cracked a rib from continuous hard coughing.
Upon returning to work Monday, was promptly told her performance wasn’t good enough and let go.
Does this qualify as a grounds for wrongful termination?
The boss saying go home and recover and come back when you’re better seems like a verbal promise to me.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: They have no obligation to continue her employment. It's not wrongful to fire her unless it was for a legally protected reason.


Title: Bought a restaurant here in Idaho, and the previous owner has hidden a lien from me!

Question:
My wife and I bought a restaurant where we live here in Idaho. It was having some simple issues, and we fixed them rather rapidly, and have now paid the business off as a matter of fact. We are now wanting to move to different area of the state, and would like to start up shop there(Boise). The issue I am having, is the previous owner has some liens in his name, and the equipment was used as the collateral. He took the loan from a community development agency about 3 years before he sold it to us, but never paid on it.  He has agreed to pay the payments, and has been as of now. Just not in full, or on time. The lien was not on our lien search as it wasn't placed until the Community Development Center heard about the sale. Is there anything I can do to force him to pay up faster? Is there even anything to worry if we move anyway?

ps
These events transpired late in the day today(4:45pm) and I wasn't able to contact an attorney, so I wanted to see if there was any advise for me out there.

Answer:
 If you hired a company to do a title search and they missed it I would think they are liableAnswer #2: I'm assuming that when you say you bought the restaurant, you mean you purchased the property and the assets?

What does your asset purchase agreement say about liens & emcumbrances?Answer #3: Talk to your lawyer, this is bread and butter UCC/lein stuff that they should know very well.  You should be able to take legal action against the seller, but if they lack money that may mean little.  Until you do talk with you lawyer, the lender does likely have a lien on the equipment UNLESS they signed a release.


Title: X-post from r/Relationships - My roommate is crazy and I need to protect my valuables before I secure another place to live.

Question:
Sorry, my mind is a jumble.

I am a 30yoF living in the SF Bay Area. If you know the area, you know it's hard to find a place to live by yourself without paying exorbitant amount of rent. I've been living with roommates for a long time with no problems, even if I've found the roommates on Craigslist.

The last place I lived at was at a woman's house with her 2 daughters, and I rented a room in her house. It wasn't bad but in the end, it wasn't the best fit, and decided to look around for another place to live in.

Good thing, there was an opening in a house right across the street from where I lived. I was thinking, OK, not bad, but I didn't want to rush any decision to move in. I met the guy, we'll call him Mason, because that's what he likes to go by. He seemed sane enough, and the place looked cute as he was fixing it up.

While I was looking for other places to live, I met another girl, Nadia, who needed a cheap place by local transportation. She was very sweet and really wanted to move out of her place.

So, I said, well, how about this, Nadia, you will take my room in my landlady's apartment, and I guess I can live with this guy across the street. At the time, it seemed like a win win win situation: Mason would get a roommate to split the rent, I would get a place that was a little roomier, and Nadia would get a room that was cheaper and closer to the train.

So, everything seemed fine, until the NIGHT before I'm supposed to move in, he calls me and tells me he has something important to tell me. Apparently, he is going to try to cut the lease with the landlord short due to personal reasons (eg. he broke up with his gf). I was like, OK, you do you, but WTF honestly, we all go through break ups, and you want to act like a high schooler and just up and leave?!? I told him I was willing to assume his lease and find another roommate, but I told my landlady and Nadia what was going on. Of course, this put Nadia and me in a bind, because one of us was going to be displaced. I'm sure neither of us got much sleep that night. (This was also after he printed out a lease agreement between him and me.)

The next morning, Mason called me and said, after much deliberation, he was going to stay on the lease, and that if I wanted, I could still be his roommate. I was apprehensive, but I had nowhere else to go, so I said yes. Both of us signed the lease agreement and I thought that was it.

Well, apparently not so. I moved in May 4th, and today (May 9th), he woke me up in the morning and told me, he has been dealing with some personal issues. Apparently, his ex had lied to him about who she really was and he just found out. He spent the whole DAY in the living room, moping around and Googling her name to find out 'who she really was'. I sympathized with him because, well, we're roommates! I guess he was so shaken up he told me, "I don't know who you really are, either." and subsequently asked me for my driver's license and business card. I gave him an old card, and told him I didn't work there anymore, but that he was free to search me on LinkedIn or whatever. I went to the gym pissed off. I told him, "Just because 911 happened to you, it doesn't give you the right to become the TSA to me. We are roommates, as long as I am paying you rent and I am respectful, you have no right to invade my privacy." Well, apparently, while I was at the gym, he decided to do some Googling on me. I didn't even know this, but I seemingly have two arrest accounts/warrants?, and that I could be this other girl in SF Bay Area (my last name is as similar and popular as the name Jones or Jimenez). I understand Googling names is important, but he was just so out of line with his accusations. I don't even know if he knows how to use the internet correctly. (He probably doesn't even know how to reddit.)

Oh, reddit, I was livid. I gave him a piece of my mind. And he had the audacity to be so calm about it, and told me he took my BRAND NEW IN BOX salt and pepper shakers, AS WELL AS my fridge magnets (and God knows what else) because there were 'bugs on them'. I don't know where he took them to...He told me he was bringing people in tomorrow to 'debug the place' and that 'if any of my other things had bugs on them', he would dispose of them. I told him if he even touches or throws away my things, he will receive a bill for them. I left the house and he was SO PARANOID HE MOVED ONE OF THE COUCHES IN FRONT OF THE DOOR after I left. Like he was afraid someone was going to get him or something.

He can't Google worth shit; I'm even having doubts he Googled his ex correctly if he can't even do a check on me properly. I did do a check on him, and found this "His accomplishments include arrests for a 1st degree misdemeanor, a FELONY and Public Intoxication". Jesus H Christ on a pogo stick.

Fuck reddit, I've almost always had good results with Craigslist. What the fuck happened this past month??

So here, I am now, typing this away furiously at my friend's place while I am scouring Craigslist for another place to live. This guy who is WAY older than me behaves like a high schooler, and can't compartmentalize exes from roommates. He called me her name TWICE this afternoon after I gave him a piece of my mind.'

My biggest concern is: I took pics of some of my stuff before I left, but I want to know how to proceed if he does throw my things away.

Answer:
 Probably should add a tl;dr to the end of that.

Move your stuff into a storage unit until you can find a new place.


Title: (FL) I'm being accused of cheating on the SAT by a teacher?

Question:
I took the SAT in January and I just got my results this morning.

The teacher that supervised everyone while they took the test keeps accusing me of cheating and says she'll get me expelled. I got 860(yes total) why would I cheat to get a terrible score?

It's a public school can they kick me out because one teachers thinks I cheated or do they need proof?

Answer: Why didn't she report a testing irregularity during the exam proctoring if she's so convinced you cheated?


Title: I wrote a computer program on my work computer while on company time that saves me hours of work every day. What can I do with it?

Question:
I work for a hotel in Phoenix Arizona. Much of my job is tedious computer work, so one day I got bored of doing it, and decided to automate as much as I could. No one else at work knows I made this thing yet. I did not download/install any program and I am not putting any vital information at risk of exposure, so as far as I can tell I am not breaking any Information security standards put forth by the company. I have 3 main questions, and 1 small one.

1. Can I get into any trouble because of this code? (I can go into more detail about what the code does if you think it's relevant)

2. Do I own any portion of this code under current I.P. Law?

3. Can I either sell this code to my company, or use it as leverage to possibly get a promotion?

4. If I took this code home to keep as a memento can they demand it back?
Topic:
Intellectual Property

Answer:
 > Can I get into any trouble because of this code?

Yes, they can fire you.  That's true of nearly any action you take.  If your program causes no other damage and doesn't violate the law, that's about it.

> Do I own any portion of this code under current I.P. Law?

Likely not.  Projects undertaken on company time with company resources generally belong to the company.

> If I took this code home to keep as a memento can they demand it back?

Sure.  Since one could have infinite copies of the code, it's unlikely they'd notice, until or unless you tried to sell it.  Answer #2: First of all you should remove any company names from your post.

As for whether you have rights over the program you made while at work on paid time I would say the company has right to that program and you have no rights to it.

If you had made that program on your own time at home that would have likely been a different story. You then may have been able to show this to your superiors at work (after making them sign a NDA) and gotten  somewhere.Answer #3: Be very, very careful.

You're probably familiar with the "I'll replace you with a small shell script" joke, but people do lose their jobs because someone coded their position out of existence.


Title: [DC] Dude stole my mattress, police are in agreement but won't do anything. I have his number and where he lives, how can I get my mattress back?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > put up an old mattress of mine for $80

> guy who wanted it, and even agreed to full price

> guy came and picked up my couch

Did.. did he steal your couch, or your mattress?
Answer #2: Police report is filed.  You let them do their thing.

You can also sue him in small claims court for the $80.Answer #3: While I wholeheartedly agree that he stole your mattress and you SHOULD get it back or the money for it, the question I would ask is, would you really want your mattress back from him? I would think it would be gross, but that's just me.


Title: Wife's father hired private investigator to find her (California)

Question:
My wife has been estranged from her father for 30 years at least. Today she received a text message from a private investigator saying that he missed her and wanted her to contact him. She identified herself as a private investigator.

My question is do we have any legal recourse to prevent any contact from him? Can we issue a cease and desist to the PI? Or is she just left with getting texts from this pi and potentially her father?

Answer: No, it's not illegal to find someone. Or call them on the phone once.


Title: Hospital has discriminatory policy - Indiana

Question:
My stepdaughter had tubes put in her ears this morning. It was an outpatient procedure. It certainly made for an awkward waiting room wait with a blended family of mom, dad, step mom, steppish dad.

At the beginning they had mom and dad go back and then everyone else back. She underwent the procedure and we all went into the waiting room.

The nurse came out and asked for mom. Dad asked why he couldn't go back and the nurse said "they want mothers to go back first and get them dressed then everyone else." So they wouldn't let him go back to the recovery room. We waited almost half an hour in the waiting room, including step dad, before mom came out with child, completely discharged.

My husband was so upset, not only for the implication that he can't get his daughter dressed but not being able to be there when she woke up.

He's left a message with the main hospital and they are supposed to call back in 3 business days but we are so upset that this kind of policy was in place that puts mothers importance before fathers and fathers were just "everyone else."

Is there anything we can do or should know regarding the legality of things like this?

Answer: It's entirely likely the hospital has found that young female patients prefer their mothers over their fathers when waking up from surgery. You should not take this as a reflection on you personally.   It's about the best needs of the patient, not the family. It's frankly selfish of you to suggest that your needs are more important. Answer #2: If you are getting so bunched up over something as ridiculously trivial as this, be prepared for eternal warfare. Try to do it outside the earshot of the child as much as possible. And if your husband was "feeling alienated" because of this then get him some therapy stat. Otherwise the world is going to eat him alive.


Title: Nevada; car accident, broken ankle, medical bills = $120k, other policy $100k

Question:
March 23, I was involved in a car accident that left my left ankle broken with a shattered talus bone and fractured left wrist. The costs that happened before April 1 are about $105-110k. The hospital that did the surgery has some type of state-law designation as first paid high priority (i don't remember the terminology), so they may be able to battle the lawyer for their share.

I just started a new company and the medical insurance didn't start until April 1.

The medical bills are around $110-120k.

The other driver's insurance have accepted full responsibility but the policy is $100,000 per person and $300,000 maximum.

My lawyer says $100,000 is the best option to work with. He'll take 30-40%, ask the hospitals to lower their price. And whatever left over he'll get me which is probably in the range of $0-10,000 (i assume $0 is more likely). Afterwards he'll try to get me 100% of the UIN (uninsured/under-insured motorist coverage) from my insurance, which is $15,000.

My doctor says there's a high chance of post traumatic arthritis surgery in the ankle. I assume my future medical insurance would cover that.

The property damage is being taken care of and I just get a tiny tiny bit more than the car was worth.

My lawyer thinks that going after the other driver directly would be a total gamble at this point. He mentioned that he won't/can't have access to find out how much the other driver is worth or how much they have in assets.

I lost about $9,000 in wages during the healing phase after the accident where I didn't go to work.

Is the $100,000 insurance route really the best option?

I'm grateful the accident didn't leave me in a state of permanent disability, but the pain and suffering that I've gone through, it just seems so unfair. I guess I'm grateful the medical bills look like they'll be covered, but this whole situation seems so wrong.

Answer: You should listen to your lawyer.  They know the intimate facts and details about the case.