Title: Had a bad experience with a leasing office in 2006, left a bad review January of 2015. They yelp messaged me, threatening legal action. Scare tactic?

Question:
I am in Virginia, the Northern VA area to be exact.  I had a back and fourth with the claimed "owner" of the company on yelp messages.  I ignored him after a while, and he sent a message saying he passed it on to his attorney.  He is threatening legal action, is this a scare tactic?  Should I remove my review?  Link to my review http://www.yelp.com/biz/purvis-property-management-inc-chantilly

**Edit** - I should explain myself.  I'd agree, posting a negative review 9 years later is weird.  Here is my explanation.  I moved to this place as my first place, with my best friend.  All I came to the area with, was a suitcase, and 200-300 dollars.  The day to day struggle was hard, especially living in the DC Metro area.  Sleeping on the pull out couch bed, taking the bus to work, and barely making ends meet at 20 years old (now 30).  Financially, I was barely making it.  Needed every penny I could get in order to eat,  pay rent, and pay bills.  I eventually got a car on 23% APR...  my family was bankrupt and poor.  There was no other way to get a car, but with a high APR.  After we moved out, I was expecting 200-300 MAX for touch-ups/carpet cleaning.  Naive and young me didn't take pictures before the move out.  They took significantly way more out of my deposit, and gave 0 itemization via receipts.  At that time, I was already struggling, and needed that money to live.  Things were going bad, and that was the nail in the coffin.  I didn't have the time, or money to fight them in court for the 600+.  Took it like a man.  I never forgot that shit.  I was reminded, when talking to my best friend.  He brought it up, basically reminiscing on how badly they fucked me.  That's where I had the idea to write the review, and my experience with them.  It wasn't petty revenge, it was the principle of the matter.  There should never be a time where some working class Joe is trying to make a living, and some leasing company fucks him.  I wrote the review, so nobody would deal with that again.  It was unprofessional, and unfair.  Principle of the matter.

**TL;DR** - Stuck in my mind for a long time, forgot, reminded by best friend.  Wrote the review, so that those in my situation (living paycheck to paycheck, barely making ends meet, working hard to live) wouldn't get screwed like I did.

Answer: You left a comment NINE YEARS later? You must have had an odd motivation for that.


Title: [BC/Canada] Company emailing me customers personal information

Question:
I own a domain that is similar to a certain companies domain name. Think `G00GLE.ca` vs `Google.ca`. This company has salesmen that generate quotes for potential customers, but their form requires the salesman to enter a valid email address. Some customers dont want to commit to giving their email, so several people have figured out that if they entered `refused@G00gle.ca` the system will give a valid quote.

Now I'm starting to get 2-3 emails a week that contain a random persons information including:

* Full Name
* Phone Numbers
* Mailing Address
* Partial Credit card numbers
* Information about current/future billing details
* Installation or vacation schedules

I have emailed the companies privacy office multiple times and have not heard back.

My question: Is there any way that this can bite me in the ass? Can someone sue me for having their information without consent?

Answer:
 Like the sub always says, they *can* sue you, doesn't mean they'll win.

They aren't going to have much of a case if they sue you, since they are voluntarily sending you this information. Just delete it and move on. If it continues to be a nuisance, and they still wont respond to your emails, you can have a lawyer fairly cheaply send a Cease and Desist letter. You could send one yourself, but lawyer stationary has the added threat of "I'm already involved. Pray I don't involve myself further."


Title: (MA - USA) I co-own a small handmade product business. A major retailer purchased our products & did not pay within 30 days. What are our rights?

Question:
I co-own a small business (a partnership) selling handmade products for retail and wholesale. Recently a major retailer ordered roughly $8k in products from us. We signed a contract with them and agreed to a Net 30 Payment from the time the goods were accepted into the retailer's system.

We received partial payment for the order, which contained multiple purchase orders. Two PO's were paid for in full in accordance with the net 30 agreement. The remaining PO's have yet to be paid. We are now 21 business days past the original 30 business days (51 days total from the acceptance of the goods).

I have contacted their billing department and they claim they have no record of the invoices for the remaining unpaid PO's. They said I must resubmit the invoices, which would further delay payment. (They require that all completed invoices be emailed to one of their departments.) I have records of every email sent and received from their company, including the invoices we sent them. All invoices were sent at the exact same date and time. I forwarded the original emails to the billing contact who claims to see no record of the originals.

This was days ago and I have yet to receive any response from them. At this point I am concerned they may not pay us, as we have already had a lot of difficulty dealing with this particular retailer.

I have read about charging interest on late payments, but I am not sure if this would be worth pursuing. The original contract we signed with them allows us very little rights, unfortunately, but thus far I see nothing about us (the vendor) being barred from charging them (the retailer) interest on late payments.

I am not sure what possible legal rights we have here. Obviously it's hard because I am being vague so as not to reveal personal information, but any advice or tips would be appreciated.

We're a very small business, only in our third year of operation, and have been using our savings to keep it running. So we don't have much expendable income for legal fees, etc.

Hopefully this will be resolved and they will pay us the remainder in full, but just in case things go awry, I'd like to know what we can do to protect ourselves.

Answer:
 > I have read about charging interest on late payments, but I am not sure if this would be worth pursuing. The original contract we signed with them allows us very little rights, unfortunately, but thus far I see nothing about us (the vendor) being barred from charging them (the retailer) interest on late payments.

This is going to be almost entirely dependent on your sales contract.  If there's a late fees or interest provision, you can charge it.  If not, you probably can't.

If they refuse to pay the balance, you can sue for breach of contract, probably in small claims (MA allows up to $7,000 in small claims)


Title: Moved across the country to care for terminally ill father, caregivers burnout hit about 9 months in and I think dad changed the will.

Question:
I'm 25 years old and I moved across the country ( Alberta to New Brunswick) to care for my terminally ill 51 year old father. It's been 10 months now and I can't care for him anymore. He is abusive (always has been), a drunk (not anymore due to his health), and hateful. When I found out my dad was going to die I forgot all about his hateful ways and looked past it up until a month or so ago when it just all became too much. He wouldn't let me sleep, he became very demanding and rude. My husband moved out and the topic of my father can not be brought up. If I continued to care for my father without any help from the rest of the family my husband would leave me. He doesn't want to stick around to see me care for an extremely emotionally abusive and manipulative hateful dying man. My father and his side of the family does not see or understand why I'm so stressed and drained. They think everything is okay and I should be grateful to be caring for my father, not that he should be grateful that my husband and I gave up our lives, and are deep in debt just to care for him and spend his last few months with him.

When dad first found out he was terminally ill he made his will, I have POA of his finances, health and I'm the executrix. After I claimed caregivers burnout and almost put myself in the hospital my dad didn't even want to look at me. Said he couldn't rely on me and I'm acting like a child. I'm 25 years old, caring for my now paralyzed father who mentally abused me my whole life. I can't do it alone and it's awful of him and his family to expect it of me and then to shun me when I ask for help.

Dad has developed a new hate for my husband because his family said my husband should be helping out. My husband has zero interest in helping someone who treats his family like shit. We gave up our lives to care for him and that wasn't good enough. Dad has told me that my husband is no longer allowed in the house and that if I can't care for him I will regret it.

He used the will many times as threat to get me to do what he wants and I finally told him I can't do it anymore.

So the question is, how can I find out if he changed the will. If he changed the will I would very much like to walk away and never speak to that side of the family ever again. He doesn't deserve to spend his last few weeks or days with me. I have no interest in spending it with someone who doesn't appreciate all that I've done and who is going to be the reason for my divorce. I picked my father over my husband for the past 10 months and now I feel like my father has thrown me under the bus. If he did I would really like to say my peace and walk away.

If he did change the will can anything be done? We gave up our lives, left our jobs, moved across the country and are in debt because no one could or would care for him. If he doesn't leave us the house we will be homeless. We had a perfect home, a perfect life and making a lot of fucking money. If we would have stayed and continued to work full time, we would have made more money staying and working than what we will be getting from his will. If he changed his will we will be so financially fucked.

Answer:
 This isn't a legal question.  Your dad doesn't have to leave you anything at all in his will.  It's his assets to dispose in whatever manner he wishes.

What would you do if you knew for certain that Dad left you nothing?  Or if you knew that your father would live for several more years?  Whatever you would do in those circumstances, do that.


Title: [Georgia] college roommate is 19, he is dating a 16 year old in highschool. Their age difference is 3 years and 9 months. Is this even legal?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: The age of consent in Georgia is 16. What he is doing is absolutely weird and immature, but not illegal.


Title: Roomates want to pay rent... Help!!

Question: So I have 3 roommates that I share my house with. I do not charge them rent of any sort currently. Recently they have brought it up to me that they would prefer to pay rent so that it feels like they are contributing. I don't really want to deal with the hassle of taxes even though it would mean more money. I would rather them keep the money and me not have to deal with taxes in anyway. If they insist on paying though, is it legal for me to claim the money as a gift instead of rent so I haven't had them sign anything and am not asking them to pay rent? (I am in Texas and am the only person on the mortgage)

Answer: If they want to contribute they can buy TP and laundry detergent and air filters. But if they give you money to live there, it is rent.


Title: Recording real life audio without someone's consent?

Question:
EDIT: I live in Florida, US

So I was thinking about fun projects that I can do with my old phone and one of them was to use it for recording the audio of my everyday life. I started thinking about how I would do it and if it will  be practical.

Now I'm thinking about actually doing it but, I think that maybe it can be illegal to record someone without their consent. So here are my questions:

Can I record someone without they knowing I'm recording?

And if so, can I use that information as proof in a court?

EDIT: I just noticed that this may not be the correct place to ask this, but if someone has feedback that will be great, if not I'll delete it.

Answer: Location matters 100% here


Title: Stealing from Walmart

Question: My brother just came back from Walmart with a pair of headphones. When I asked him about it, it was clear that he stole them. Does Walmart have a way of checking the security cameras and following the license plate to our house? What is the best way of going about clearing this up?

Answer:
 >Does Walmart have a way of checking the security cameras and following the license plate to our house?

Sure, they can pull a plate from a video and report it to the police. From that point it's very easy to identify who the vehicle's registered to.

>What is the best way of going about clearing this up?

Get a lawyer if he's charged with anything. Going back to Walmart to "clear this up" could cause more problems than it may solve.


Title: Falsely Accused - Mortgage

Question:
CO

Dear LA Redditors,
Please help to easy my worries.
I've contacted a real estate attorney and they will call back next week. I can't sleep last night and been fretting these past hours. What's the best recourse I can do?

Background:
I've just purchased a home after a few months of bidding wars/rejected offers/failed inspection. I was ready and ignored the hints that the new place is *exclusive*. There were 3 houses for sale in the same time, on the same street, by the same race of folks. I believe this is related to the problem.

Problem:
- I've questioned several times whether this house is mine. My mailbox got flagged 3 times in a span of 2 months as the house is *vacant*. Which lead me to multiple trip to usps to fix the problem.

- A month after moved in, HOA sent letter notified that I've violated the HOA agreement by renting the house to other people. I didn't. I am aware I'm the only black guy in the neighborhood. I've called them but no response back.

- My bank rep called, said that he got audited because of recent report concerning borrowers occupancy as primary residence. Someone will be in contact soon. Soon, I got a nice call from my lender; they've determined that my banking information during closing are materially false, misleading or inaccurate. I've contacted the lender, provided them the previous banking statement and current statement.

- The lender sent a letter yesterday. They stand on their decision, determed the loan is now marked as defaulted so I have to pay the full amount immediatedly. The federal offense was also quoted in the letter.

I was enraged at first. I paid my mortgage bills, didn't rent it out, sent the required paperwork, etc. I called the attorney office right away but he's away until next week.
How bad is the situation?
I'm so pissed I want to scream at the so called Loan Audit Manager..

Answer:
 File complaints with the [Federal Reserve](https://www.federalreserveconsumerhelp.gov/) or [Colorado's Department of Regulatory Agencies](https://www.federalreserveconsumerhelp.gov/) depending on the bank.  Then send a certified letter to your HOA stating you have not rented out your unit and show up to the next meeting to introduce yourself.

Wait for your lawyer to get back to you with what your next steps forward should be.  Filing the complaint will get larger bodies to start investigating your account, and your lawyer can work on reversing the default of your mortgage and suing the bank for any legal fees you incurred because of their ineptitude.

I'm completely speculating, but I'm guessing someone on the HOA board has some clout in your city, and either works in or has friends that work in the financial sector.


Title: [PA] My(21) girlfriend(16) might be pregnant, are we in hot water?

Question:
I'd like to preface this by acknowledging the disparity between ages, it's not exactly normal but I'm a bit too worked up to go into that.

We're worried that, despite using protection, chance did not favor us and she might have gotten pregnant. We're not able to take a test until next week, but she's had sporadic nausea and persistent headaches the past few days. We haven't done anything in over two weeks.

She had already planned beforehand that if it did happen, she would get an abortion. Her mother (whom is 100% okay with the relationship) was also on the same page, but I have been told that even if the mother is consenting of it, when they visit the planned parenthood, that they will have to mention me and/or an investigation by the state will be conducted.

I want to know if this is true for the state of Pennsylvania, as they both have said they had no intention of involving my name anywhere.

Do they have to? Will they get in trouble if they refuse to?

Answer:
 Not a lawyer, not going to touch on the legal stuff, but if you haven't had sex in two weeks, especially if her period is late, she can take a test now. Dollar tree tests are effective and cheap, but get some plastic cups if you go that route. Also, nausea and headache are really non-specific symptoms, and many women don't start feeling nauseous until 6-7 weeks.

Also, dating a high school girl when you're old enough to drink is really creepy, even if her mom says it's okay. Don't do that.

Source: Am pregnant.Answer #2: First... if her period isn't due until next week then you're guessing she conceived last week?

Go to the dollar store and get a handful of pregnancy tests. They are super sensitive - and detect pregnancy very early. If your girlfriend has enough of the pregnancy hormone to make her nauseous and have headaches then she would likely have a positive pg test now.

More likely - these are psychosomatic

Your legal questions are answered.

Now stop taking a dip in the high school pool and get your shit together. Answer #3: The age of consent in Pennsylvania is 16 so there's nothing illegal. The "4 year rule" only comes into play when someone is *less* than 16 years old. In terms of Planned Parenthood, if you still don't want to be named for some reason, she could always claim she doesn't know who the father is.


Title: My BF [28m] and I [26/f] are happily unmarried and have no plans to get hitched, but I am wondering about the long-term ramifications of no contractual partnership.

Question:
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4+ years, known each other for 8. We live together and for various reasons, are not interested in getting married.

We do not have joint accounts, and plan on keeping it this way. We've considered opening one, but ultimately we have a system that works well for us and keeps us more accountable with our money than if we pooled it. We file taxes separately as our returns are better that way. We are completely transparent with our finances (we see each other's bank statements, retirement accounts, etc). He is a financial analyst so we discuss these things often. We have never had a disagreement about money, ever. We both have health insurance through our respective employers, and if one of us lost our job, both of our employers have family plans that allow unregistered domestic partners to join.

Having said that, I wonder if there are any benefits that marriage (or a contractual equivalent) offers that we should consider. For instance, hospital visitation rights? Power of attorney? His mother is currently his life insurance beneficiary, which I am completely fine with, but in the event something happens to me, I don't want some relative horning in and taking control. I have no relationship with my parents, but they are still alive, so technically they (and my sister) are my next-of-kin.

We are in CA, so there is no common law marriage here. Is there a legal equivalent of (or substitute) for marriage papers that we could, or should, consider? Mostly, I am just curious of any possible pitfalls that an unmarried couple with no major assets (at the moment, at least) might face.

Thanks in advance for your help!

Answer:
 >Having said that, I wonder if there are any benefits that marriage (or a contractual equivalent) offers that we should consider.

Well...

>There are **1,138 benefits**, rights and protections provided on the basis of marital status in Federal law.

[Source](https://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/an-overview-of-federal-rights-and-protections-granted-to-married-couples)

Care to be a *bit* more specific?


Title: Neighbor accidentally opened another's warrant. What now?

Question:
My neighbor accidentally received an arrest warrant for another neighbor and opened it without really looking because the state it was issued from used to be her home town. What should she do?

I said she should contact our local PD, explain the mistake, and offer to cooperate in executing the warrant by letting them know when the neighbors are home. She wants to throw it away, but I reminded her how if for some reason they can prove they never received it it'll come back on her.

Also. I told her how we need to inform management as we've had several issues with this neighbor and this knowledge now makes it very uncomfortable to have them living below us. Our mailboxes are lock boxes that can only be opened by the resident and the local mailman, so she didn't steal this from them.

Answer:
 > I reminded her how if for some reason they can prove they never received it it'll come back on her.

How? What?


Title: I lent a friend $30k to pay off her debts, collectors are coming after her for other money and she is unable to pay. I believe she is going to file for bankruptcy. Do I have any recourse if she does? WE do have an agreement written.

Answer:
 Question: Why do you loan someone money that is in a crazy amount of debt? Did you honestly think that someone that is crazy in debt has the ability to ever pay you back, let alone properly manage money?

Legal answer, you can get in line behind everyone else to get money from her during the bankruptcy, but it is very unlikely you will see anything. Answer #2: "Hey I've already not paid these other people back, can I have some of your money so I can also not pay you back?"

Who could say no to that?Answer #3: I'm off work on medical leave and kind of broke right now, can we be
 friends? :)

That is seriously a lot of money to lend to an individual, and was very trusting of you.  I don't know that you'll be able to recover anything though, if she's in that much debt to begin with.Answer #4: > I lent a friend $30k to pay off her debts, collectors are coming after her for other money and she is unable to pay. I believe she is going to file for bankruptcy. Do I have any recourse if she does?

No. To have recourse you would need a properly perfected security interest in her property (i.e., collateral), or a guarantor on the loan.


Title: Can a single mother put a random name as the father on a child's birth certificate?

Question: In the book I am reading, a single mother put the name of a male friend as the father of her baby on their birth certificate.  He didn't find out until years later.  The book takes place in WV.  So could this happen in real life or was the author being lazy?

Answer: It *can* happen, but a paternity test would set the record straight.


Title: [US][TX]My employer is refusing to pay me for hours worked even though I clocked in/out because I didn't select my pay rate correctly in the computer.

Question:
I started working a summer job recently and my employer showed me how to clock in. I clock in on a computer and apparently the first day when he showed me how to do it he said that I was supposed to select "Basic Pay" as my pay rate in a little drop down box, but out of the two weeks I have been working there I did not touch the drop down box (because I didn't want to mess with anything and also didn't remember him telling me to do this).

Today I went in to collect my pay check and noticed that out of 7 days worked at 8 hours per day, the check was only for $56.84. Shocked, I asked him why I was getting paid so little when I had worked at least 50 hours the past 2 weeks. He said that the computer does the calculations, not him and that if I wasn't getting paid what I thought I should that it is my fault because I didn't use the computer right.

I walked him over to the computer and demonstrated how I was clocking in and out and he pointed out that since I did not select basic pay as the pay rate, the hours I worked not under basic pay were being multiplied by 0 instead of 7.25 like they were supposed to do, therefore I was only getting paid for the first day that I had worked.

He basically ended by saying, "At least you learned something, so you'll do it right from now on!" I am furious. I **EARNED** over 400 dollars and he seems content in paying me 1/8 of that and writing it off as a learning experience. I have college classes to pay for!

How do I solve this? Do I have any legal recourse, or am I just screwed because I messed up? I figure that since I clocked in and out and those times are recorded somewhere, even though I did mess up, he still has to pay me for the time which I can prove I worked.

Thanks guys and sorry I am a little flustered. I'm still a bit shocked.

Answer:
 Call up these people, see what they think.

http://www.twc.state.tx.us/jobseekers/how-submit-wage-claim-under-texas-payday-law


Title: Website displayed a "100% money back guarantee" on the sales page, now they are refusing to refund me, because "it doesn't have a money back guarantee".

Question:
I purchased a conference's recording [on this website](https://10xgrowthcon.com/stream). On the bottom of the page, it says "Money Back Guarantee" in text, with a picture above it that reads "30 days 100% money back guarantee".

I did not like the recording, so I messaged their support.  After a few emails, I get transfered to the accounting department, and am told that

"Per our refund policy all digital content is non-refundable; we are unable to release a refund for your recent purchase. "

I purchased it around 2 weeks ago, and first requested a refund in email in the end of last week, so it is definitely within 30 days from purchase.

I would like to refund, because I purchased because I was assured by the text and the image that if I do not like it, I can request a refund. Now they are denying this.

I believe the website is deliberately misleading people, which counts as false advertising. Can anyone with legal knowledge please verify/deny this?

Furthermore, the website does not have the required links at the bottom of the page for legal documents such as ToS, Privacy Policy, Refund guarantee. Is this legal?

The company is located in the USA, I purchased from a country in Europe.

Thanks for any help!

Answer:
 Theoretically speaking you probably have a case against them. Practically speaking, you're going to have a very hard time enforcing this.

You can save proof of the guarantee, call your credit card company, and dispute the charges. Might work, might not.Answer #2: Any legal action you could take against them would cost far more money than the $97 dollars you paid them to watch the video. An international suit costs thousands to pursue. I'd chalk it up as a lesson learned not buy shady business growth videos off the internet. It was too good to be true that a service would let you watch the videos in their entirety and let you get a full refund on them. Every single person would that.


Title: [MI] Can I get disability for PTSD even if it’s been diagnosed 10 years ago?

Question:
Now let me clarify I did not get PTSD from any military action. People associate PTSD with that most often but mine stems from childhood sexual abuse. If I need to be more specific I will below:

Cause of PTSD (trigger warning for rape):

From when I was around 9-17 years old, my 2 older brothers would sneak into my room at night and rape me. From years of counseling, I came to figure out I was silent and just took it because I watch my mom abuse my father growing up and I didn’t want to ruin the family and add more issues so I kept it quiet.

When it all came out, I had to deal with the court throughout my senior year in high school. My mother blamed me and called me a whore. When I went off to college, I tried to overdose to kill my self. I was saved at the hospital but not without ruining my stomach (so I get ulcers now). I was almost kicked from the university for being a threat but in order to stay, I had to see a counselor 2 times a week and see someone to get on medication while also meeting with an advisor. I did all of that and got my bachelors degree.

Skip ahead 10 years, I am working my dream job but because of a new structure to the job and the company I work for got sold and a lot of changes are taking place, my stress has exploded. We don’t get bonuses anymore which were almost a guarantee. I can’t afford anything. I am so stressed that I had a mental breakdown and started breaking things in my apartment. This is not me. This is not who I am or want to be. I probably have spent an hour or so at work crying everyday for the last week.

My nightmares of my brothers still happen from time to time. I am scared to sleep 99% of the time and need to sleep with the tv going so I don’t feel alone and trick my mind to feel secure that if anyone comes to rape me, it will sounds like there’s people awake and a light. But all of this is increasing with the new added stress.

I almost can’t manage myself anymore. I had a migraine for 3 days straight and now a headache for another 3 days straight.

My mind constantly forgets to do everyday things like eat, feed the cats, call family/boyfriend, ect. And my mind constantly just goes blank/black. I will be talking to my boyfriend and then go blank, like a light randomly turned off. When I do remember to eat, I can’t stop eating until I feel sick.

There’s just so much and I feel like giving up. I been able to manage it with a job that wasn’t stressful and let me go at my own pace but now I have to do twice as much work with less money and if I keep this up, I feel I will eventually end up at the hospital for suicidal thoughts again. I was feeling this stress and suicidal at my last full time job too (both graphic design jobs) and was sent to the hospital by my employer but was fired a couple months later.

I know I can physically work. I don’t want to be someone who uses disability as an excuse not to work but I have stuff to pay and emotionally/mentally, I feel I am just about to explode and give up on life. I also feel so stupid asking on Reddit but I honestly have no idea where else to ask.

Also, the flare looked like it could have gone under a couple different topics but I picked the best I could.
Topic:
Disability Issues

Answer: a delay between initial diagnosis and filing for disability would not be a bar to getting approved.  that does not mean you would be approved we have no way to know that, but the time since initial diagnosis wouldn't be a disqualifying factor


Title: I am 14 years old, how can I get a credit card for online use?

Question:
I do some flipping and things online, but the problem is that some of these things need a credit card and I can't just use PayPal. My parents won't let me use their own credit cards because they're afraid of losing a lot of money (which I wouldn't let happen!) but anyways, I would like to get a credit card.

Could it be under my parent's name with me as the user? It's not credit card fraud if they are okay with it, right?

Thanks for your advice!

Edit: Am in US.

Answer: Can you use a pre paid visa? You can buy them at grocery storesAnswer #2: No card issuer in the right mind would allow a 14 year old to get their own card. You can get a joint account with one of your parents and a debit card.


Title: Family home - dad is getting re married

Question: My mother died 7 years ago and we have a family home. My father lives in the home and there are us 3 daughters. We love the house and want it someday, it’s our family home and reminds us of our mother. I am very passionate about it and want to live in the home and raise my family. My father has a girlfriend whom he would like to marry. We are on the will to get the home and I do know it can very well change when he gets married. He knows we want the home and he says it is ours. However, I need legal advice. I understand that we need to change the title of the house to my sisters and I name but I am concerned that his new wife can change that. How do I go about this? Can the new wife change or make him sign paper work on the house without getting us involved? Is there anything else I need to do to ensure we get this house before he gets married and what steps do I need to take. Thanks!

Answer: Whose will says it is yours? Your mother's or your dad's?


Title: (AR) Sexted a decade ago, worried

Question:
Hello legal advice,

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I have been worried about this now for about a year and I finally decided to post here to maybe get some good advice. About a decade ago my 15 year old gf sent me nudes. About two years after recieving them, I deleted them from my email. I have lived life, had a family with a different woman and moved on, but I watched a news report about sexting the other day and it had me wondering... This happened in 2009, and on my end all photos were deleted. The email account itself was deleted in 2011. Worst case scenario for some reason say she didn't delete them off her sent folder and someone found out about this, what punishment could I face? I have just been worried sick over this, and I don't know where to turn. I haven't spoke with her in about 6 years now and I have no idea what I can do about this. Could a prosecution against me be successful if I don't have any pictures at all from the event? The computer is gone that the photos were accessed on, and the email account.

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Thank you so much for any answers I receive.

Answer: If you’re not in possession of them, you should be fine if anything ever happens. So as long as they cant be found on any of your computers, it’s all good


Title: [Idaho] son's father has a warrant out and Is on the most wanted list for our region

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If this is a court ordered custody agreement, you have to abide by the custody agreement. If you feel like your child should not be with his father, you need to petition the court for an emergency hearing to change the custody agreement. Answer #2: IANAL, but you should call the police and ask them. They'd probably be interested in knowing where he'll be at pick up time.


Title: Can a car dealership sell a car without doing any sort of inspection on it?

Question: Basically the title. I bought a used car, and got a limited powertrain warranty with it, however within two weeks it started having issues. It's a $2,000 fix. So when I contacted the dealership to get their inspection report they said that they never had anybody inspect the car before they put it out on the lot. Can I make them pay for the repairs? I'm in Colorado.

Answer: No, they have no obligation to inspect the car before selling. It's typically on the buyer to understand the condition of what they are purchasing.


Title: Uber driver offering on the Side services, is this legal?

Question:
An uber driver offered to give his services for me to call upon him personally and he would offer a lower rate than Uber and he said that he would give me his business card.

Is it illegal to accept this offer?

Is it legal for him to do this while employed by Uber?

Is this something that I should report to someone or simply not use and not involve myself?

Answer:
 > Is it illegal to accept this offer?

No. (Unless your locality has some oddly worded taxi regulations that go after riders, which we don't know as you didn't include a location.)

>Is it legal for him to do this while employed by Uber?

Yes.

>Is this something that I should report to someone or simply not use and not involve myself?

Report to Uber if you want. Use or don't if you prefer.

Having said that, should Uber find out, they'll probably be dropped as a driver for them. But that's between him and them - not you.


Title: Utah - Teaching Assistant gave information about my grades to ex-girlfriend (FERPA)

Question:
My TA in one of my language courses had previously told my then girlfriend about the grades that I was receiving in a class that was her native language. Girlfriend then told me about what her best friend (TA) told her and that I should try harder in class. Embarrassingly, I try to work harder in that class because of what was given out, but long story short, our relationship didn't work out. Rather than filing a FERPA complaint form against my TA I decided to ask the professor if there was another way that I could submit my papers and assignments without having it go to the TA because of what had happened in the past. The professor says that I can submit everything to her and she will check it for me instead of the TA.

Problem is, professor takes a long time to respond and usually says that she will answer my questions in class (so not giving information in a timely manner), so I decided that maybe I was being a bit too sensitive about the TA and maybe I should try again with asking her for help, so I message her. She refuses to give any help and says that if I really wanted her help then I shouldn't have told the professor I didn't want to turn in my work with her. I feel that this is indicative of them stacking the cards against me when I tried to be understanding and find a way around filing a FERPA complaint. The professors actions are what I would consider to be very unprofessional and I need to make sure that I am within my bounds when going to the department head for some sort of support in this class.

Answer:
 Not a legal question.  Complain to the department, sure. Or keep your head down and get through another month of class.Answer #2: To summarize, you told the TA you didn't want her help and now you want her help and she says no.

If you are going to file a FERPA complaint do it already but don't try to hold it over someone's head.


Title: My car at a red light was hit by a fire truck. Now they're telling me they won't cover.

Question:
[TX]

So a few months ago, I was parked at a red light when a fire truck with its sirens on clipped my car, knocking my mirror off.

The firemen were super nice about it, and they gave me a number to make a claim report. I was upset but hey, accidents happen.

I get a phone call yesterday where I was informed that they would not be able to repair the damages because the fire truck had its sirens on -- and therefore not liable. I would understand that if my car was in motion, but I was completely stopped at an intersection, with nowhere to maneuver.

Any advice? Or am I stuck with this one?

Answer:
 Did you go to your insurance? If not, go to them and report what happened. They will go after the insurance for the fire department on your behalf. Answer #2: Look up the traffic laws/state code for your jurisdiction.  You might find some verbage pertaining to emergency vehicles and your situation.  Generally speaking, in traffic accidents with one vehicle stopped or parked, the moving vehicle is at fault.  Answer #3: Generally speaking, governments have sovereign immunity and cannot be sued.

 In Texas, the Texas Tort Claims Act limits that immunity.  However, there is an emergency response exemption.  If a vehicle or other property is damaged by emergency equipment responding in good faith, the entity cannot be held liable.

So, as long as whoever was driving the truck was not doing so "with conscious indifference or reckless disregard for the safety of others", they're immune. Answer #4: Nj has a similar law, they don’t even have to stop. The best thing for you is to go through your insurance. Did you get an accident report at all?


Title: (Georgia) My boss is a vile piece of shit... but could it be construed as racism? Small business (8 employees).

Question:
Last week my check and a couple of other people's checks were shorted a couple of hours. I am of Asian descent in the construction industry, so get a lot of jokes etc. I am used to it and have been on the receiving end of such derision for years. C'est la vie.

However, after my check was shorted I filed a complaint with the office manager regarding these racist comments and my boss' inaction toward and participation in these comments (calling me Wing Chun or Kim Jong Un, etc.). My reason wasn't that my fee-fees were hurt, but instead that he shorted my check because maybe he perceives me as weak for being Asian and therefore less likely to complain about the shorting.

Anyway, the two hours were put back on my check and the following Monday I talked to the boss asking if I could conceal carry at work since one of the locations we frequently work at was robbed with one person killed during the day. He said it was fine, then sat me down to talk about the racism allegations. He then gave me the spiel that we were in construction and i needed to "grow a set of balls". I told him that I've been in construction for several years and don't care about the ribbing, I just don't want to be treated unfairly or taken advantage of financially because I'm Asian. He gave me the "one of my friends is gay i'm so tolerant" speech and bragged about how he could get sued for sexual harassment by the secretary at any time (he calls her bull dyke because of her short hair, tells her her bathroom smells like strawberry douche, etc.).

The conversation ends, I essentially say whatever, good talk, and I leave. Today, our usual payday *everybody's* checks were withheld. I have a feeling that tomorrow this will be blamed on me for some reason (i.e. "y'all wanna bitch and file complaints about racism") in some attempt to turn the others on me and maybe even get me to quit.

Yadda yadda, what do?

Answer: With 8 only employees the EEOC won't even investigation. Find a new job.


Title: I want to reopen my case.

Question: Two years ago I was charged with unarmed robbery, a felony with a max sentence of 15 years in jail. The eventual outcome of the case was me pleading no contest to 3rd degree store fraud and aggravated assault, both misdemeanors with a maximum sentence of one year in jail, I was given timed served and released. I would like to reopen my case so I can fight the charges against me. Is this possible?

Answer:
 Almost certainly not.

You disposed of the case when you plead no contest, which is an admission in court that the prosecution has enough evidence to convict you.

You had an opportunity to fight it at the time and you chose not to do so.  You could consult with an attorney to discuss vacating the plea, but I'd put your chances somewhere between "really really slim" and "no way in hell."


Title: Husband was laid off on first day of job, could he be entitled to 6 months of pay? (Minnesota)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: No there is no such thing. He did apply for unemployment and look for a new job right?


Title: [MI] My former boss deleted all of my personal files from my Drive after I left his company.

Question:
My former boss and I came to a decision that it was best if I don't work there anymore. He was making changes that I don't agree with, because they are based on pure greed. I was expected to enforce new rules that shifted financial burden onto the commission only employees and off of the company. He used to treat them very well, which led to him being extremely successful. Then he got greedy, they complained, and I was stuck in the middle. I had to listen and calm them, but I wasn't allowed to give him any feedback.

So when we came to terms, I packed up my office under his supervision, and I left.

I hadn't thought to sign out of my google drive. I had used it primarily for work, but I had two files on there that were mine personally. Nothing threatening, just my family address book.

As I was packing up my office, the boss texted the tech guy, and he started clearing my computer. I saw it happening, but didn't register anything.

When I got home, I remembered my address book and went to send it to my other google account. It was gone. Everything was gone except one very important work file.

I texted the office manager the next day and said that she might want to remove my access to it. She hasn't done it. It's been three days.

I looked in the trash and the files aren't there. I have a feeling I'll never see my address book again.

I wonder if he left that file on there to test me.

Does anyone have any insight on either of these?

Answer:
 Don't access files you shouldn't

Don't mix work and personal things. You had personal things on work drives. Nothing wrong with them being deleted.

Don't use work computers for personal things


Title: [AL] Stopped making car payments 2 years ago, dealership never picked up the car

Question:
Hi, I’m posted on behalf of a friend who asked me to find out any information I could.

My best friend got pregnant and couldn’t afford her car payments, so she called the dealership and told them where the car was and that she couldn’t afford it any longer.

The dealership never came to pick up the car, but it was a nice vehicle and she owed something to the tune of 15,000 dollars left on it.

I didn’t know this until tonight, but I told her that she should try to make some type of payment arrangement or something with the dealership/debt collector in order to stop whatever legal action may or may not be taking place.

She is a young mother of three who has a small trailer and a van in her name. I’m trying to figure out how to guide her into dealing with this.

She has moved multiple times and if she has received a court date etc. She would not have known and currently doesn’t.

What are our options and what are the legal ramifications for not dealing with this head on?

Answer: First thing is to run a credit check. There is no way the financer has conveniently forgotten about the debt.


Title: [NJ] I'm a proud sober member of AA and was in a new group for 3 weeks and left because of cultish practices and mental abuse. There's a girl living with them, they took away her phone, forced her off her psych meds, and hasn't seen her family in months because they won't let her. What can I do?

Question:
Sorry if this isn't in the correct sub..

Hey guys, I know it sounds crazy, but it's all very true. I was in this group for a few weeks and within that time, noticed huge red flags here and there. I've also heard stories from other people about this group and to stay away which I learned after the fact. Anyway this isn't about me.

This group/network all live together in one house. There's this girl there who I believe has basically been kidnapped. She came to them for help, moved her In, took away her phone, forced her off her psych meds, won't allow her to go home (It's been 3 months and she's been home once) and no Internet/Facebook obviously. She's cut off from the world. She mentioned to me so often how homesick she is and she's a really great person and has so much potential to recover and help others.

Anyway, what can I do? If I contact the police I might sound crazy. Maybe she is happy there and maybe it's "what she needs" as they put it. Maybe I'll do more harm than good?

Any input is appreciated. Thank you.

Answer:
 Go to the NJ Adult Protective Services web site: state.nj.us/humanservices/doas/services/aps/

If this is a minor then call CPS.
Answer #2: AA is a national organization. If things are going haywire, contact the state/national organization and start making noise. Answer #3: I have been sober for 34 years. AA has turned into a cult, and has become very spotty over the past ten years. Intergroup, and GSO, have very little authority over individual groups. I have never seen a group shut down, not matter how badly they behaved.

When I first joined the fellowship, it was about not drinking. Now, it is a religion. I haven't been to a meeting in three years.

We have clubhouses now that require a membership fee. When I came in, all you needed was two guys and a coffee pot to start a meeting. It was set up to not let power trippers take control at any level. Now, my area is broken up into multiple service areas with a central leadership organization.

The story above doesn't surprise me at all. AA has turned into a cult.


Question:
Can Printer Companies update your drivers and remove your printers ability to print copy or scan for an all in one printer so long as it is past the service date for the product?

I have a client who updated their operating systems drivers after numerous pop up windows would regularly ask to have the drivers updated.

Now the client can no longer use the scanning functionality of the all in one printer scanner copier.

The client has contacted the company who sold him this product and they will not assist the customer or release drivers which allow the printer to function.  The client is using an older version of the Mac OSX operating system, and before the driver update the printer scanner copier worked flawlessly.

Is it legal to remove a devices functionality via software so long as the product is past the service date?

My client basically feels like he was sold an all in one printer scanner copier but was defrauded because he was never alerted that the scanning functionality maybe removed at a later date due to a driver update.  The client also feels like the driver update was an outright lie as it did not update anything rather it removed scanning functionality, where the previous driver had the scanner working.

This client is in California, but there are numerous individuals throughout the USA and Internationality who are also suffering from the same issue of alleged fraud.

Answer:
 Um.. I'm no lawyer, but I was in the sub and saw this. I *am* an IT guy, though.. I don't think your printer company disabled your printer. Your user clicked a pop up (something users should be trained not to do...) and it updated their driver to one that didn't work on that machine. Roll back the driver or go to the manufacturers website (printer manufacturer) and find the one that works for your computer and os version.

There is no fraud here... user error. Are you their IT guy?Answer #2: Are you sure they willfully disabled the scanning function?  More likely they updated the driver, and didn't take into account older operating systems (because as a programmer, after a certain point, you just have to) and the new driver doesn't work properly with your clients old OS.  How old is the OS and how old is the printer?

Just have him find the old driver online and roll back the driver version.  Don't really think this is a legal issue.


Title: (VA) Moving out of abusive (mentally) parents house, what can I do to protect myself?

Question:
I live with my father currently and am going to leave within the next few weeks. He is a very controlling man that constantly threatens violence. Prior to me turning 18 (I am 19 now), I had my mother from another state call the police because he had hit and choked me. Nothing came from this and now I am finally ready to move out.

My question is, can I do anything legally to protect myself? I'm going to be moving in with my girlfriend that my father knows of, however not the exact location she lives. It will be about 2 and a half hours away.  Please let me know if there is anymore information I need to give.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 You're overthinking this.

Move out. Take your stuff with you. Take your personal documents (passport, drivers' license, SSN) with you. Close any joint accounts. Pay your rent on time. Enjoy your life.


Title: Leaving Scene of an Accident

Question:
So, this is a pretty weird situation, but the court system is really confusing me.

I left my car parked in a place that was not allowed from 4-6 PM, and as I was retrieving it, someone rear-ended my car, very severely to the point that it was totaled, but still driveable. I greeted the person who hit my car, took his insurance information (as he was at fault), shook hands, and attempted to drive my car home.

Well, after I left he must have realized that my car was parked illegally, so he mistakenly thought that this made me at fault and called the cops. When they arrived, he told them I fled the scene of the accident. So when the cops track me down (my car was obviously damaged), they ask me what happened and I tell them, show them his info etc. They proceed to issue him a citation for hitting my car, and me a parking citation. This idiot called the cops on himself!

To make things worse, this guy wants to press charges for me leaving the scene of an accident, and since the police reported a hit and run I have to show up to court (the guy refused to drop the charges). So I show up (he doesn't) and plead not guilty, and they setup another date for me to come back. I show up again, and they set a non-jury trial date. I am getting concerned now...why is this frivolous charge going to trial? When will I get a chance to explain what happened? Even the police officer that showed up at the scene said the charges were total BS and nothing would happen.

Should I be concerned at this point (and possibly hire an attorney?), or should I just show up at the trial and explain myself?

Edit: I was issued a citation for leaving the scene by the officer before she had all the information. After she had all the information she was really pissed off at the guy. She told me to just show up in court and explain myself and everything would be dropped, so that's what I did. Appears that it is not getting dropped though.

Edit Edit: I am in Ohio

Edit Edit Edit: So I talked to a lawyer and he told me to just show up and explain, because the lawyer fees would be close to the size of the fine if I lost anyway, which he deemed very doubtful based on the facts.

Thanks everyone for your help.

Answer:
 Yes hire an attorney.  It seems like there is something missing in this story.  The guy that hit you doesn't decide whether charges are pressed or not, that's up to the prosecutor (DA).  If the prosecutor is still moving forward with the charges then there is something missing.  Or the prosecutor is just a mouth-breather.  Answer #2: I'm having difficulty understanding how the prosecutor is proceeding on charges of leaving the scene of an accident if the police didn't cite you for that.

Regardless, the general advice whenever dealing with criminal charges is to get an attorney to maximize your chances of a successful defense.


Title: Neighbor complaining that we park by his drive way, claims hes going to get the side walk painted red so we can't park there anymore

Question:
This is the note he left us today, hes already left another note a few weeks ago. About a week ago my brother parked there and he said "you guys like parking there huh?" with an attitude, then started muttering stuff under his breath and told my brother not to park there. My brother said its a public street and the guy just kept saying stuff under his breath, probably just talking shit.

https://imgur.com/a/VwSzabC

I live in San Diego, CA, our house is on a hill and hes on the right of us. Between our driveways and between our houses is parking for about 3 cars. He complains when we park next to his drive way, even though its a public street and we aren't blocking his drive way. He claims he can't see up the hill when he pulls out, but I back out of my drive way all the time no problem when a car is parking to the left of our drive way up the hill. We ignore him and park their anyways, does he have any legal basis to get the sidewalk painted red? Pretty ridiculous this guy thinks he can tell everyone they aren't allowed to park on a public street. This guy has about 3 parking spots in front of his house that he never uses, plus a drive way, so he has a lot of parking for himself.

Answer:
 Ignore him. Motion sensing dash cameras might be a good idea in case he decides to vandalize your car. If the curb gets painted red, check with the city roads department to see if they did it or if he did it himself.  Answer #2: The 15ft limit is only if the driveway happens to be to a fire station, and I think you would have told us if your neighbor was the local fire department.  According to CA 22500E you can't park in front of your neighbors driveway, but that does not begin until either the curb cut or the point where the curb starts to curve down to street level to meet the point where their driveway actually hits street level.

In case your neighbor gets any amusing ideas it is also illegal for them to paint the zone red on their own and the city is unlikely to grant a request for a large buffer zone.  If the curb does suddenly become red overnight contact the city, apparently this (illegal curb painting) is a bit of a problem in San Diego but it comes with a $1000 fine for your neighbor so maybe a cheap outdoor video camera watching the spot might not be a bad idea...Answer #3: Paying $300 is to have a curb painted red in San Diego is not a thing. They can submit a request to traffic engineering and if the request is accepted then the city has there own crew paint the curb for free, like they do for every other curb in the city. See the bottom of https://www.sandiego.gov/parking/faqs/parkingfaq .  If your neighbor paints it himself then have him reported. People painting their curbs red is a big problem in San Diego.


Title: My 66 year old father was just sentenced to 18 months in prison and the state prosecutor lied to the grand jury to get an inditement then threatened my father with over 200 years in prison if he didnt accept the plea.

Question:
My 66 year old father was just sent to prison for an 18 month sentence last week in AZ, Maricopa county.  For a little back story on my father and the "victim."  My father has always been a serial entrepreneur owning small businesses from towing to classic cars all my life.  At the time this happened, around 2010, he had started an RV dealership that had been running for quite a few years at this point.  My father had a perfectly clean record and was truly one of those people who had never done anything wrong in his life, never even smoked a joint or a cigarette.  The victim is essentially a loan shark who had invested around 1 million dollars into my dads rv business for a 25% return.  He invests money in lots of people with similar terms and has had dozens and dozens of different litigation against people who he invested in that have failed leading to a number of bankruptcies and foreclosures on people he has had prosecuted for i guess failing to replay his loan.

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In 2008 the RV business was starting to go south and my dad had become very ill which he did recover from but did not help the situation.  As the business began to fail my dad contacted john and told him he only had 600,000 of his dollars left and asked if he wanted to take what was left and back out, john said no try and save the business.  By 2010 or 2011 the business was bankrupt.  It should be noted that john and my dad had been friends and had a business relationship for roughly 10 years or so by this time without any issues.

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When john finally relized he had lost his money he started coming after our family in civil court trying to take their house, savings, anything he could of value, he even tried to sue their mortgage company into giving him their home.  he failed in all these endevors.  These civil hearings were around 2014.  Step up to 2016 he takes it to state of arizona and enlists a prosecutor to take his case or however that works.  The claim was my dad had stolen 1 million dollars from him.  my dad was duplicating titles to give him as RVs where coming in and john was aware of this as he and my dad had verbally agreed about how this was all playing out and they never really had any business contract or anything of the sort because they were friends.  My dad had sold him cars, bought office furniture from him, they would go grab beers on occasion.  This duplicating of the titles and john claiming he did not know they were duplicated is what would ultimately constitute 23 counts of theft and 1 count of conspiracy to commit a fraudulent scheme.  John was entirly aware the titles were duplicated and had no interest in ever actually seeing them or anything like that or coming by the office and verifying titles to units and stuff, he remained involved and just told my dad to keep doing what he was doing.

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John went to the prosecutor to try and seek vengeance for losing his loan money and made up a story to get them to take the case to a criminal court.   The prosecutor took the case, never even questioning johns history of suing people and prosecuting people and being a loan shark, you would think someone so litigious would be looked into a bit (some 34 cases in the past 5 years).  john went so far as to pretend to be some frail old man who had lost all his retirement to my dad the thief.  John was and is in fact a multi million with homes all around the country.  ultimately before sending my dad to prison john went to the state prosecutor and even said himself lets stop this its gone to far i just wanted my money back, not to send someone to prison.  this was told to my dads lawyer.  my dad had spent all of his retirement to include refinancing his home and everything to try and fight this, this case had cost him around 20k at this point in legal fees.  He ended up taking a plea because he did in fact duplicate the titles but he could not afford the 100k+ his lawyer said it would cost to fight it in court and there was no guarantee he would win and the charges were so high that he didn't want to die in there and never see his grandkids again, etc.

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So getting to my question part of this, the prosecutor took johns statements and all that but still didn't have enough evidence to have my dad arrested or really build a case so he went to a grand jury.  While in front of the grand jury the prosecutor lied about the entire situation intentionally leaving out facts and details so that he could get this case through.  He intentionally misled the grand jury for the sole purpose of prosecuting my father going on nothing more than johns word of the events.  My dad ultimately took the 18 month plea (must serve 85%) because he couldn't afford to go to court and the charges against him were too high.  The judge, prosecutor, nobody ever heard my dads side of the story or questioned what john was telling them to be true.  The prosecutor just took a case that was based on lies and then took it to a grand jury and perpetuated lies even further to get an indictment.  Now, my dad sits in prison at 66 years old for a business that failed 8 or so years ago.  How is this kind of behavior acceptable within our justice system?  How are prosecutors able to lie to get indictments?  This whole situation is so messed up and has been an absolute nightmare on my family both emotionally and financially.  Is there anything i can do for my dad that might help his case or is it too late?  I feel like the entire system is rigged.  whats to stop anybody from going to this prosecutor and making up a crime based on very loose information and bring it to the point of having someone thrown in jail, even after the "victim"  says they dont want to prosecute. Please help with any information you can provide in how i can go after this prosecutor, the victim (lieing to prosecutors, perjuring himself with contradictory statements throughout all the different court cases he put my parents through, among other stuff), and help my dad get released.  This case filed 2 civil hearings and now because of an overzealous state prosecutor my dad is in prison.  Thanks for reading my wall of text and i would appreciate any help or advise that can be provided.

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tldr - dad got sent to prison for something he didn't really do because an Arizonan prosecutor lied to the grand jury to get an iditement and then threatened my dad with over 200 years in prison if he didn't take the plea.  Going to court would have costed over 100k more on top of the over 200k they had paid already in fighting this.  He felt he had no choice at this point.  What can be done about victims who make up stories to prosecutors in an effort to seek vengeance on someone and what can be done to prosecutors who make things up in front of a grand jury in order to get an indictment.

Answer:
 > Are prosecutors allowed to lie to grand juries to get indictments in situations like i have described above?

Well, no...but that's not what happened. The prosecutor presented his evidence to the grand jury, and they decided it was sufficient, and issued an indictment. The prosecutor isn't required to present the grand jury with your father's (or your) version of events.

You're focusing on the wrong part of the process. Your father had the opportunity for a trial, where he could have told his side of the story, i.e., that the evidence against him is false or weak, and whatever else might have been relevant.

But your father chose instead to take a plea. Which also happens all the time. He was represented by an attorney.

I don't see any *effective* legal recourse here.Answer #2: The simple answer is that if the victim lied or the prosecutor was wrong about the situation, then your father would go to trial, and he and his lawyer would work to prove his innocence. The government and the grand jury cannot arbitrarily convict people. Your father pleaded guilty (or no contest), which means he essentially admitted that the charges against him are true. Instead of pleading, your father could have gone to trial and given his side of the story. He chose not to, for whatever reason. He had his chance and gave it up.


Title: [USA][CA] teacher rang a bell in my child's ear

Question: I have a very bright and enthusiastic child in the first grade, who has a veteran (20 year) teacher. My child talks a lot (this is not new information) but today he complained that the teacher rang a bell right in his hear, and complained that she also rings a dog squeaky toy in his ear a lot. My first reaction is to walk into the classroom tomorrow and ring a bell in her ear, but the smarter side of me is here reaching out for advice instead. Besides setting up a meeting with the principal and teacher, is there anything else I should / can do?

Answer:
 First, expect that the principal will dismiss this as something that needs to be discussed privately with the teacher.  S/he will then refuse to provide you any information from that point forward and will cite "privacy" concerns.  S/he may also try underplay what is really going on here.

I'd be as calm as possible in the meeting.  You don't need to prove anything, nor do you need to convince the principal that this is a big deal.  Simply say that California [criminalizes corporal punishment in schools](http://statelaws.findlaw.com/california-law/california-corporal-punishment-in-public-schools-laws.html).  The definition of [corporal punishment is broad enough that it likely includes this kind of conduct](http://codes.findlaw.com/ca/education-code/edc-sect-49001.html).  As the principal to provide a written or electronically submitted remediation plan to you within a few days or tell him/her that you'll be forced to escalate the matter to proper channels.  If the school actually acts and the problem stops, great.  If not, speak with a few attorneys and file a police report against the teacher.Answer #2: Ask for a demonstration of the technique.


Title: My father told me before he died that I was the sole beneficiary on 2 life insurance policies. One company refuses to cooperate.

Question:
Hello, a little background: I live in the state of South Carolina. My father passed away late last year as a result of a battle with brain and lung cancer. About a month before he passed, he called me to make sure I knew that I was beneficiary on 2 life insurance policies and that I would need it to pay for funeral expenses. He told me that whatever was left, was to be split amongst my sisters and I (they were not listed because he trusted me to take care of everything myself.) Part of the funeral was paid by a policy from MetLife without much problem. I sent in a claim form to Cigna only to get a letter back from them (2 weeks later) stating I wasn't the beneficiary. My mother (his ex wife) called to see if she had been on the policy, but they won't tell her anything or reveal who the listed beneficiary is. I still owe the funeral home around 20% of the cost. What do I need to do? My father assumed I was the beneficiary before he died, obviously there had to have been a communication error on Cigna's behalf. And what makes it worse is the fact that they really don't care to resolve the issue in a timely manner, if at all. Thanks in advance for any advice that may come from this.

edit: he never was able to get around to writing out a will. His health deteriorated suddenly after thanksgiving and before anyone knew what was going on he had passed.

Answer:
 To be frank, it sounds like your father simply did not name you as the beneficiary and thought he had. You need to call back and figure out.

1. Whether they will disclose to you who the beneficiary is
2. If not, how you can discover who it is and under what circumstances they will disclose it.Answer #2: Did your father have an estate? I see he didn't have a will, but was someone named executor? Cigna may disclose the name of the beneficiary to the executor of your father's estate.

Failing that, I would contact Cigna and ensure that if they won't disclose the beneficiary, they at least are following up and contacting the beneficiary directly. They do have a responsibility once notified of the death to contact the beneficiary.  Although they may not be quick about it.Answer #3: To the poster, I am sorry to hear about your father's passing and I wish you the best of luck resolving the situation involving the life insurance plan.  I, unfortunately, cannot offer anything on that point.

But, this is a perfect time to tell everyone else some good information:
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As soon as you have a kid, you should have a will written out.  You want to identify people who will take care of your children if you should unexpectedly pass away.  Other things too, of course, but certainly your children are important enough a reason to get a will done.  Don't wait until you are old.  Having kids is a big enough mile stone to warrant a will.


Title: Home Piercings: Is it legal for a parent to pierce a minor child’s ears at home, unlicensed?

Question:
We live in Kentucky. My stepchilds mother took her to the mall for ear piercings. They got severely infected. Now she wants to redo them at home. She is unlicensed, with no formal training. Does this fall under child abuse? What steps can my husband take to prevent this, and what steps should he take after the fact?

We want to take her to a real studio on our own dime, but mom seems to want to do it the easy way, regardless of the safety of her child.

Answer:
 It's not child abuse.

If the two of you are determined that the child should go to a 'real studio', and you are willing to pay, then offer to pay for the *mother* to take the kid.

The kid did not get an infection because of the mall -  the kid got an infection because the piercings weren't cleaned often enough.

If the kid is over 6 years old then they need to be taught how to care for the ears themselves.

Answer #2: As someone with 8 piercings I highly suggest you fork out the money for a professional piercer. The guns can shatter nearby cartilidge from the blunt force impact. There is no substitution for needles that have been medically sanitized. Please ensure you get this done by a real piercer before her mother fucks her ears up even more. Answer #3: Please take her to a local piercer or tattoo studio that has a piercer in its employ. A sanitized needle as others said is the only safe way to have a piercing done.


Title: [Virginia, US] Parents kicking out 22 year old son, and threataning to beat him

Question:
Ok, so one of my friends just came out of the closet and is being forced out of his family's home, and they wont let him do anyting.  They wont let him pack his things or use the family vehicles (he does not own a vehicle) they also will not allow any one to come and help him gather his things or rent a Uhaul to move.  Today I learned that it was a very big possibility that he will be beaten(I dont know if it is because of his sexual orientation or because he is not out of the house yet).  I told him that he needs to get out of there and that the police would probably escort him back to gather his things, but he does not want to get the police involved.  I want to help him but im not sure there is much more i can do.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 He can call the police non-emergency line to get an escort to help him get his things. He has no right to use their car.

If he chooses not to involve the police then that is his choice. He can leave work whatever he can carry with him.


Title: Child support question from mother

Question: My 17 year old son who I have raised without any help from pathetic father recently decided that he wanted to go live with his dad and grandmother (paternal)  since I won't allow him to drop out and do drugs. Father is over 10,000 in back child support owed to me. Before my son moved with him and grandmother They begged me to drop the child support case on him but I wouldn't.  Today I received a letter from sheriff where grandmother is going aftrr me for child support for my 17 year old?? He is not in school, is a daily drug and drinker. Living that life he couldn't when he was with me. I don't know what to do?! Any advice is greatly appreciated!  I am in Ga

Answer: you'll need to talk to a family lawyer. how do you know his grandmother is coming after you? were you served a summons or did she just text you? what does your current court order on child support say? do you have a custody agreement? Answer #2: You are generally responsible to support your child until the age of 18.  However, it makes no sense that the grandmother is filing against you when the father lives in the same residence.  Get a lawyer.


Title: Roommate hasn't paid rent, utilities, or late fees, won't answer phone. Can I move his stuff out & go to small claims court? (California)

Question:
I rent an apartment from the landlord and my roommate rents through me. We have a roommate agreement from lawdepot.com that we both signed a year ago. He owed me rent on Jan. 25th for Feb. 2016 and has not paid it, utilities, late fees, and other minor fees totaling up to $725. He continuously tells me he'll have it tomorrow, two days from now, etc.

I've told him today was his last chance and he's not showed up with it and hasn't responded to any texts or calls (he turned off his phone). He's violated several parts of the agreement. Since he hasn't paid rent, do I legally have the ability to put his stuff on the curb? And if I do/don't, what's the next route of action?

I looked at the LA County small claims court website and it looks like that'd be my next step. Is that correct? And if not, what do I do? This has been a huge nuisance and stressor for the past few weeks and I just want to get the money owed to me and move on. Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 You have to give him 30 days of written notice before you can evict him. Answer #2: > do I legally have the ability to put his stuff on the curb?

[No.](http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/handling-tenants-abandoned-property-legal-notice-requirements.html) When reading that thoroughly, remember that you are the landlord in this situation.


Title: [PA] Pulled over by a state trooper, but no ticket. Can I get one mailed? Looking for some clarification on what just happened.

Question:
My friend and I had left work (about 4:45AM) and we were heading to get breakfast. The roads were empty so we were messing around in our cars. We merge onto the highway and get off at the next exit and while we were on the off-ramp I saw cop headlights behind my friend.

We pull into the parking lot of a diner and the cop puts his lights on as soon as we park. Between where I assume we were followed to the diner was probably about a mile or a little less. Anyway, two cops get out and go to our cars. The cop at my car asks for my license and I give it to him and I also offer my registration since he didn't ask. He didn't even ask if he knew why we were pulled over, he just jumped right into speeding.

Both cops took both of our licenses and registrations, go to their car and are back in about a minute. The cop at my cars was asking me where I was coming from and other questions. He asked if we were getting breakfast and I said yes. He responded by giving a lecture and  saying "Well that's an expensive breakfast with a $300 ticket, 5 points on your license, and even suspension of your license." He told me that my friend and I can't drive like maniacs no matter what time it is and how were doing 80 (the highway was marked for 55). I know it probably doesn't make a difference but people regularly do 70-75 on this highway with no issues.

Then he gave us our stuff back, got in the car, and left. He never said anything about our speed being clocked by the radar. I'm confused because he listed all this stuff (ticket, points, suspension) but never actually gave either of us a ticket. The whole thing from them turning their lights on to leaving us was maybe 5 minutes or so. Did we just get an aggressive warning? Can a PA state trooper mail you a ticket after the fact?

Answer:
 Sounds like you lucked out.  Any ticket I've ever gotten required a signature to acknowledge receipt of the ticket.  BUT, they can still send it to you in the mail, so don't breathe too easily, yet.  Give it a solid month, and if you don't get anything, chalk it up to a lesson learned.Answer #2: Go to this link: https://ujsportal.pacourts.us/DocketSheets/MDJ.aspx

Type in your information  (Last name, first name, county in which the traffic stop occurred).  If and when the ticket is filed by the trooper, the information will show up on that site under your name.

It will also show the district court in which the ticket was filed.  You can then contact that court to address the ticket.

Good luck.

[Edit - "sight" changed to "site."]Answer #3: This sounds pretty much like a kind of aggressive 'lets scare em a bit and let em off with a warning'. Do what Lawdoc1 suggested, and keep some money aside in case they mail it to you (unlikely; I know they CAN, but I've never heard of it actually happening from anyone I know), and if a month or two passes and theres nothing on the docket and you don't get anything in the mail, you're probably fine.Answer #4: Did he give you your stuff back and take off right away?  He might have been called to something important and might just say screw it to the ticket.


Title: Motorcycle Accident

Question:
Hi all. I just discovered this sub after a friend recommended it. I'm in Loma Linda, CA (southern CA for those of you elsewhere) and I was the rider in a motorcycle accident at a stoplight.

the details:
I was sitting at a stop light behind another vehicle on my street bike (2009 Kawasaki ER-6n) waiting for the light to turn green when I was rear-ended by a Cadillac CTS. Is was a low-speed collision, but you can view the photos of the collision here:

http://www.reddit.com/r/motorcycles/comments/3ak2hz/got_hit_yesterday/

I had liability insurance only on my bike through Progressive, and he has full coverage through AAA. I thought I was okay, and my wife came to pick me up, but on the way home I started feeling pain (I guess as the adrenaline wore off). We went to the emergency room at our local hospital, and after X-Rays, the nurse discharged me and told me that I had sprained my lumbar region. I am on hydrocodone and buperno-something.

After talking to his insurance company yesterday I was informed by the claims agent that if my bike is totaled out (which is likely because of the expense of repairs versus the value of the bike) that I will be cut a check for the blue-book value of the bike. This leaves me nearly $2,000 in the hole for something that was not my fault. I would like for his insurance company to pay off the bike. I don't want to sue, but I want things to be fair. In my opinion his negligence took away my ability to ride my motorcycle (which is my only source of transportation) and I should not be paying on something that was take away from me due to someone else's inability to properly handle a 3,000 lb vehicle.

What are my options?

My pain is mild as long as I am on medications, and I understand that swollen or damaged disks can take quite a while to appear, so I would like to reserve the right to see a back specialist in the future.

I am government employee at the hospital here, and so is he. I would like to fight this put with the insurance company, and not have to start a legal battle with someone I could potentially see for the next 20 years until one of us transfers or retires.

**EDIT:** Thank you all for the advice. As I am not willing to take the guy to court, and can't reasonably settle this through insurance, I guess that I am at a loss and will just be underwater on the bike. This is not the advice I was hoping for (and doesn't generally seem fair to me), but I suppose that a rule like this prevents people from intentionally wrecking their vehicles just to pay them off.

Answer:
 >I will be cut a check for the blue-book value of the bike. This leaves me nearly $2,000 in the hole for something that was not my fault. I would like for his insurance company to pay off the bike.

His insurance is responsible for the value of the bike or cost of repairs, not the amount left on your mortgage. I guess this means you do not have Gap insurance, so you are out of luck.  His insurance is also responsible for your injuries, assuming he is found to be at fault, which seems likely.


Title: Can minors sue using the small claims court?

Question:
My friends have been scammed for prom photos. They paid and they were expected to receive their photos by 5/24, but never received it. When they contacted the photographer, he constantly pushed back the deadline for the photos and when he finally gave a couple their photos, he verbally harassed them for not "giving photo credits" when he never asked for them.

They and I were wondering if minors can sue the photographer using small claims court for mental distress, verbal harassment, and poor business practices.

We're in California if that's important at all. Thank you!

Answer: An adult cannot sue for mental distress, verbal harassment, or "poor business practices" in this case. They can sue for not delivering the product they paid for if the photographer refuses a refund. Their parents can file suit on their behalf, but a minor cannot do it themselves


Title: camming and video distribution rights

Question: (California) My partner [M] and I [F] had been camming/making videos successfully for half a year. I show my face while he does not appear on cam, as we had agreed, and he controls the email account for all the sites we are on, edits and uploads the videos. Due to gradually becoming very insecure of myself and also wanting to exit the business to at least gain some of my privacy back, I asked that we end the accounts, but it was a tricky situation because there were still earnings on some accounts, but there’s a minimum to withdraw those earnings. I agreed to pay him out for those losses because I don’t want to have the videos out there on these sites anymore and the money matters more to him, but I feel bad that he did do a lot of editing for it and I asked to end it. Thankfully, he’s understanding although unhappy with taking the videos down. In situations where one model wants to leave but the other doesn’t how can the model who leaves ensure removing images of themselves? we didn’t form an LLC or sign contracts or anything but can I have videos of my face taken down from verified sites(let’s say if this didn’t end well and one person keeps possession of the vids and continues uploading them?)? I understand he’s upset of it ending but at the same time, I’m not comfy having myself out there anymore, especially since it’s only my face and identity exposed out there.

Answer: It's going to be impossible to remove all your videos. You can delete your accounts, but the internet is pretty permanent.Answer #2: Your boyfriend seems to care more about a few dollars than he does about you...


Title: (TX) I need to evict a sibling and sell my father's house. He has vascular dementia.

Question:
So I'm in somewhat of an unusual position. My father's health and cognitive abilities began to fail in 2011. I kept an eye on him, but he was mostly fine without help. He also retired that year, so he did what old men do all day; relax. In December of 2012, I moved into his house.

Here is the deal with the house ... He bought it in the early 70s and the mortgage has been paid since the late 90s. Ever since my mother died in 94, it was a disgusting, smoke-filled hoarders palace. My father worked for the same company for over 40 years in a well paying job, and yet when I moved back in there was literally no functioning HVAC, there was mold in both bathrooms, piles and piles of crap and boxes everywhere, the carpet was original to the house and filled with dust, mold, and everything else. The list goes on and on but suffice to say it was bad. I hated it so much, but it was his house and I needed a place to go. I put blood, sweat, and tears into it. At first, I ripped up and fixed what I could on my own (which admittedly wasn't much) and later when he had money again (more on that later) with his permission I fixed most of the major problems with his income. It is now almost completely renovated and my area is starting to go up in value.

Because I cared for him (cooking, cleaning, medications, and all of the legal stuff) he paid for all my expenses including school, except for my car and gas. At the time I worked, went to school, and was his caregiver. Honestly, because my energy and attention was so divided I did terribly in school and work. To add to this stress, I have a half sibling who is almost two decades older than me who lives here also. They are constantly in and out of work and are argumentative, rude, and unhelpful with anything. They play games and watch TV in there room all day. Never helped with our father in any way, even going so far as staging a coup with our neighbor because in the beginning they believed there was nothing wrong with him and I "just wanted to control everyone." They have lived in the same room since birth and feel extremely entitled to everything. Recently they were diagnosed (of course I was the one to initiate it) with mild autism. It was my father's choice to allow them to live here, but I can't deal with it anymore. There is no other family for thousands of miles, and the ones that know don't care.

Reddit, it has been a rough few years for me. Before my father was medicated we fought constantly because he did things that endangered himself and others because of his dementia. I had to literally pry the keys out of his hand to keep him from driving anymore. He drove drunk more than once, went the wrong way down highways, etc etc. I paid bills, put his money into a 401K, started his pension for him, and grieved losing him slowly everyday. Before this he was a fantastic father to me, and I miss him.

Two years ago I was forced to put him into a memory care facility because his health had reached a point where I literally could not be there enough to help. It is a very pricey facility ($6000+ a month) and he very well cared for and only a few miles away. Since then, sibling and I have remained in the house. I am trapped. Because of the nature of his issues, it is very difficult for me to hold a job. He can go months without needing anything at all, and then months of being in and out of the hospital. I am still attending school and am ready to start the next phase of my degrees. I sought help from a lawyer once when I was interested in getting guardianship to put him in a facility. He told me the only way the courts would allow that would be to evict my sibling and sell the house due to conflict of interest. This wasn't possible because I had no money or job and I couldn't put them on the street. The only other option to be able to pay any bills would be to get Durable Power of Attorney. Unfortunately, he was too far gone cognitively by that point to sign anything. I have POA for his bank and his 401K. This is honestly not as powerful as it seems.

I need to evict my sibling so I can hopefully sell this house before our father dies. I don't want to deal with it while grieving, and I will most likely need the money for his care. I'm scared that because I have used his money to support myself that someone will cry "gold digger" and get me into legal trouble. If that were true, I could have simply waited for him to die and collect my inheritance instead of getting him into a state-of-the-art facility. I want to move on with my life, but my sibling is just there constantly being a financial and emotional burden. Help?

Answer: If he cannot sign a power of attorney, you'll have to go to court and get legal guardianship of him.


Title: I am in middle school and being threatened with unwanted packages

Question:
I have been bullied by a certain student for almost a year. This kid has pushed me to attempt suicide. I called him out on snapchat and he is now having a serious bitch fit. He is now threatening to send things to my address without my permission. Can I call the cops?
Topic:
Juvenile and Youth Law

Answer: The first thing you do is speak to your parents and your school counselor.Answer #2: Yes! Tell your parents, teachers, any and all adults. No one should feel the way you did.


Title: [AZ-US] preteens watching PG-13 movies

Question:
Kids are a year(and a year and a half) away from being 13 and both parents have joint custody. One parent is very insistent that children not watch pg-13 movies while the other lets them watch these movies within reason. Children are not exposed to sexual content or anything beyond marvel movies in terms of ratings and the parent actively reviews content beforehand for any film they do see. Kids have no unusual behaviors beyond typical age issues(no excessive aggression or inappropriate behavior). Is there ANY legal issue here at all or is it simply a difference of opinion in parenting?

TL:DR; kids watch pg-13 movies before being 13, is it legally questionable in any shape or form?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: The rating doesn't have any legal standing, the film industry is self-regulating in the US.Answer #2: It's a difference in parenting. The rating is just a suggestion.


Title: [INT] My crochet pattern was plagiarized/resold. Filed DMCA, just received counter-claim

Question:
I am from the US (Pennsylvania) and the other user in question is from Canada (Alberta, I believe). I am currently traveling outside of the US, if that matters.

I design crocheted toys and sell their corresponding patterns (step-by-step instructional PDFs) on Etsy. I place a copyright on each page of all my patterns and specify them as personal use only (no reselling, public sharing, modifying or redistributing of patterns, etc.) A couple of days ago, an Instagram user notified me to let me know that someone else has been selling a design and pattern that looks remarkably similar to a shark pattern of mine and claiming it as their own.

This normally isn't a huge deal - lots of crochet designs and patterns have similarities - but I checked it out and it looked suspicious. The user was selling the pattern as an instant download PDF on Etsy (for $1 cheaper than mine, no less), so I purchased it and checked it out. Turns out the bulk of the pattern had been copied line-for-line from mine, but the user just added 2 extra stitches at the beginning to cover her tracks and make it look a little different (comparison linked below with identifiable information removed). But the number of rounds is exactly the same, with all of the same instructions in all of the same corresponding rounds. She also changed the pattern for the fins to make it seem more original. I searched through my PayPal receipts to see if she had ever purchased my pattern - couldn't find anything with her name on it, but I expect she just got someone else to buy it for her at some point.

When confronted by another person and myself, the user played dumb and pretended she had never seen my work. Claimed she had been inspired by some figurine (comparison also below, looks nothing like the design). She deleted all of the comments questioning the authenticity of her pattern, blocked me, and continued selling the pattern on Etsy.

**Bottom line/main question:** I sent a DMCA infringement report to Etsy last night and the listing has been removed for now. But I just received notification that the user filed a counter-notice, and I now have to seek a court order within 10 days or else she can start selling this item again. Seeking a court order sounds like something I probably wouldn't be able to afford, and I don't even know how to do it, but if this person re-lists this pattern, I'm concerned it may negatively impact my sales (since she sells it for $1 less and it shows up in search results before mine, for whatever reason).

Please, how do I proceed? Based on the info given, would my case even hold up? Thanks for the help. I'm really, really furious. This whole thing makes me feel sick to my stomach.

[Pattern/product comparison](http://i.imgur.com/grbARj1.jpg)

[More comparison](http://i.imgur.com/qCx6IiU.jpg)

**UPDATE:** I think I'm out of luck with this one. Looks like since the person altered my work just enough, she's technically not in violation of copyright laws, even though it's clearly copying mine. There are no IP lawyers in my area that offer free consultations, and I don't think I can afford to take the risk. In 10 days she'll be out there selling a modified version of my pattern again. My hope is just that my work is recognizable enough that she won't be able to fool many people or get very far with hers. She might be able to dupe some unsuspecting people on Etsy, but I don't think she'll be able to sell the pattern in many more places without raising suspicion. I'm a published author with a small but decent following and my patterns are on other websites, so I'm just gonna cross my fingers and hope that people will know it's my work when they see it. Still can't wrap my brain around what compels people to do stuff like this though.

**UPDATE #2:** After some internet sleuthing I'm pretty sure I managed to find the person who purchased my pattern for her. Looks like she didn't want her name in my email receipts, so she got a friend to buy my pattern instead, with the intention of plagiarizing it and passing it off as her own. I don't know if it's enough proof, but I'm going to be contacting New Media Rights to ask if they can help me. Thanks again for all your advice!

Answer:
 US Law appears to be fuzzy regarding this sort of thing. If the text was copied verbatim, it would be a much more clear-cut case of copyright violation, since it would have shown use of your instructions exactly. The procedure used in the pattern, the actual counts of rows and such, are generally not eligible for copyright, but the descriptive text and pictures included in the pattern are.

While it may be painful to hear, it *appears* that the other seller is not in violation of copyright laws and has done their homework on how to copy your pattern without doing so.

That said, if you are serious about pursuing this, your best bet would be to obtain a consultation with an IP lawyer, as I am not a lawyer, just a person who is fascinated with the law.Answer #2: Not legal advice but IMO your shark is cuter than the impostor shark.


Title: He's not even related to me!

Question: My Aunt died 5 years ago. What started out as me just trying to help her husband transition into looking after himself has become a life-ruining ordeal. I had to teach him how to cook. I help him pay his bills and take him grocery shopping. He does very little himself. I take him to all his doctor visits. I manage his meds. He's 80 years old, has no money at all other than about $800 in a British pension. He's a permanent resident in the U.S. But not a citizen. I got him on Medicaid and Food stamps. But this guy is vile. He's a hateful, demanding bastard. And he's getting worse. He just gave up driving and his car, so he's even less independent than he was. I live an hour from him, and go over once or twice a week to see to him.  He's such an awful person, he has alienated everyone who has ever had anything to do with him. Even his old church has abandoned him. I have no idea how to extract myself from this situation. I'm so depressed to the point of feeling suicidal. Can I just close his door behind me and never go back? I don't know what to do.

Answer:
 >Can I just close his door behind me and never go back?

Yes.

Though if you wanted to be nice and be on the safe side, call Adult Protective Services, let them know the situation, and then just block him from your life. Answer #2: I'm unclear why you feel that you have a legal responsibility to care for him, why you think this is a legal question, and why you think suicide would solve anything.Answer #3: Call these guys, get them to send someone out:

http://elderaffairs.state.fl.us/index.php

Disengage yourself.  Make something up if need be ("oh, I have a new job, can't come out any more").


Title: Girlfriend has warrants, used a friend's name when she got pulled over in my car with expired registration for speeding in Texas.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You have your scumbag girlfriend take responsibility before it goes any further. Answer #2: So your GF committed identify fraud and now You want a way out of it? Really?