Title: Ex wants a gift back

Question:
Québec, Canada.

My ex hit me up saying she wants the PS4 she got me for Christmas back.

She says "I specified that I bought it for us but that it was still mine"

When she got it for me she did say it was for the both of us (to justify the expensive Christmas gift). However, there was nothing about her saying that it was still hers.

The PS4 was always in my house, not hers. I've also invested money in games I purchased for myself.

She went off and spammed me with messages, got other people to message me about it and even apparently contacted the police. She told me she would sue.

I don't care about losing the PS4, it's mostly not wanting the feeling of her fucking me over for something that isn't owed to her. She also went about texting me in the rudest possible way about it and I don't want to give into her childish behaviour.

Answer:
 Block her. She can try taking you to small claims court, but most likely she is just engaging in drama.Answer #2: Don't give it back. Multiple court cases have set precedence that if there was no agreement in place there is no obligation to return it.

If she does argue that it was bought under the idea that "it was for both of us" then go through the list of things that she kept from the break up that were also bought for the good of both and make sure you didn't get massive advantage in the breakup, if you didn't  you'll be fine.

But I very much doubt she would take it to small claims/civil court.


Title: My university is taking $50 per class for "materials" but is providing no materials to any courses.

Question:
I go to a large private university in central VA. I've seen course fees on my account for years. I'm a senior and I'm taking residential classes this semester with one left.

I've seen on my account that I have $50.00 in course fees for each course I'm in. I asked my professor why we have fees and one said "if you want to design a package made of concrete, you need to go to Lowe's and buy a bad of concrete". Another professor explained that they do not implement these fees, and do not know what the money goes toward. I went to Registrar and they told me to go to student accounts, student accounts told me to go to billing, billing told me to go to Registrar. Speaking with a supervisor, she told me that the dean of the college is responsible for the charges, and he can explain why the charges are on the account

I spoke with him and he is giving me the run around. He said he's going to email his people and get back with me. It's been two weeks.

The issue here is that every student in my college is being charged hundreds in course fees with for seemingly no reason. One class specifically is raking in $800.00 extra dollars in course fees that the department doesn't even see. Professors beg for money for tablets, materials, etc, and allegedly, get denied consistently.

What can I push for or ask for to resolve this issue? Could I get a petition signed or anything? I would like to get this resolved for my entire school if possible. What are my options?

Thanks!

Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 This is a legal subreddit and your legal options are non-existent. The university can charge whatever they want and they can label those charges whatever they want. If you want to go there, you have to pay it. If you feel the charge or label is unjust, and want to become an activist, go for it.Answer #2: Legally, there isn't much you can do to my knowledge - if they're invoicing it as "course materials," they can simply reference things like chalk/markers/paper...etc. Similarly, if they invoice "course fee" then it could be anything.

Your best chance at recourse if the administration is giving you the run-around is to take it public. You say they haven't responded to your emails? Then your next email should have an attachment of an article you've written for the college paper and also plan to submit to the town newspapers as a letter to the editor, and simply ask if they would like to respond with a quote to put in the piece. Bet that'll get things moving along.


Title: Does a person’s immigration status have any bearing on their percentage of blame in a traffic accident?

Question:
A couple of weeks ago, me and my fiancé were involved in a fender bender with a woman we suspect may be an undocumented immigrant. She spoke no English, could only produce a Chinese ID card, and did not want to call the police under any circumstances.

If it turns out that we’re correct and this woman is in the country illegally, could exploiting that fact have any impact on where blame is placed for the accident? According to our insurance agent, she initially was willing to take 100% of the blame (as she was on her phone at the time of the collision) but was talked into retracting that statement by her son and is now only taking 20% of the blame.

I’m not interested in the potential moral complications of using someone’s immigration status against them, so save it. I just want to know if it would have any impact on where blame is placed for this accident, as I do not want my insurance rates to go up.
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: It has no bearing on the percentage of blame assessed in an accident. It may have a bearing on her willingness to sue you and her willingness to respond to any legal action you file against her.


Title: Can I use my brother's name for medical treatment?

Question: So I need a steroid injection in my hand for an injury. for reasons of joining the military I don't want this on my medical record. What are the possible negatives of using my brother's name for this? We are close in age and on the same insurance policy.

Answer: No, it's fraud.Answer #2: the military dislikes fraud a lot more than steroid injections for injuries


Title: USA WI, Male. Male boss came up to me and groped/squeezed my nipple for a few seconds. I’m not very comfortable with this, and I’ve never expressed consent to it.

Question:
Hi all, long time listener, first time caller. My boss (we’ll call MB) came up to me earlier and groped me and squeezed one of my nipples for a few seconds. I never have done anything like this, or implied it would be funny, but I think he did it as a joke? I kind of laughed it off, but I’m really uncomfortable with this and I’m not sure what I should do. Should I say anything to him? I really need this job, so I’m not sure what to do.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: That sexual assault. Plain and simple report him and get a lawyer. Answer #2: Yes. Say "I'm not comfortable with you touching me that way. Thanks!"


Title: [Manchester, NH] Mom arrested for picking up a prostitute, says she didn't know women she picked up were hookers, what do we do now?

Question:
My mom is on vacation in LA visiting some girlfriends of hers, she phoned me on Wednesday nite saying she'd been arrested for picking up a prostitute on a freeway, she told me she thought the woman was a hitch-hiker, and that she thinks she'll get prosecuted for it now (additional info... we're dual Canadian/US citizens). I was born here but have dual citizenship of Canada and the US through my parents. (I'm 28/F, if that's relevant!)

My mom has always had a habit of picking up hitch-hikers. Is this something that is normally an unenforced law?

Could my mom actually be prosecuted for this, appear before a judge.

From what mom told me, there were three women she picked up as passengers in the back of her Lincoln SUV, and that she thought she was doing something good.

She phoned me from jail that nite but I haven't heard from her since.

I dont know much about this, is it an urban legend that LA has a lot of hookers, or is that just an urban legend due to Grand Theft Auto?

Need some help guys!!

Answer:
 > Could my mom actually be prosecuted for this, appear before a judge.

Yes.  You can tell by how she was arrested and in jail.

Your mother needs an attorney.  That's all there is to it.  Answer #2: It's not a crime to give a prostitute a ride.  I suspect there is more to this story, because what you said wouldn't support an arrest.  Your mom needs a criminal defense attorney.  If she can't afford one, she can apply for a public defender to see if she qualifies financially for free legal representation.  Answer #3: There is likely more to this story that you haven't been told. Let's assume the women your mother picked up were prostitutes. Why did they get in the car with her? Prostitutes don't randomly go looking for rides from non-customers -- and certainly not three prostitutes.Answer #4: ...I feel like I have one purpose in this sub, so let me commence: [Don't send anybody any money w/o verifying the situation is as it seems](https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0204-family-emergency-scams). I have seen some shit. Answer #5: IANAL, but I've seen a handful of those police shows where they do prostitution stings. They don't arrest anyone until an exchange of money for sex agreement has been made. I don't know if this was a sting type situation or not; but, letting someone who happens to be a prostitute into your car is not a crime in itself.

Sounds like your mom will need a lawyer ASAP TO navigate this. Answer #6: Retain an attorney, and do exactly as that attorney says,and hopefully she doesn't talk to the police in trying to "clear her name" that'll just end up incriminating her at worst, and won't help you at at all at best.Answer #7: First thing, she needs an attorney.


Title: (CA) My mother crashed during the day while trying to pick me up from University, she exchanged contact info and went on her way with a damaged car. While going home later that day a lady in a Porsche pulled up besides us and claimed we rear ended her when she JUST got on the freeway.

Question:
They got our plates. Is this a common scam? Should we be worried about lawsuits? We took pictures of the car with the person she actually crashed with.

EDIT: Forgot to point out that we didn't pull over because we genuinely did not hit her and we were scared that they were trying to do something else.

Answer: This is why I am so tempted to buy one of those car crash cameras.


Title: Can my employer fire me?

Question:
So, they want us to have our photos taken tomorrow to be put on our online company profile. I’m a pretty private person so I told my supervisor, “what if we don’t want our picture to be in the system?” He said, “take it up with HR.” So, I e-mailed HR and said I’d like to opt-out of it. HR lady replied, “Call my cell phone. This is a company initiative.”

I haven’t called yet. I assume she’s just gonna want to know why. I just don’t want my photo taken or put anywhere online. Could I get in trouble for this?

Answer:
 You can always be fired for not following your employer’s instructions. Answer #2: Assuming you are in the US, you can absolutely be fired for refusing. Absent a union agreement or some sort of contact stating you can only be fired for cause (which are super rare), you are an at will employee.  At will means you can be fired or disciplined for any reason (including a bad or inaccurate one) or no reason at all so long as the reason isn’t membership in a protected class or engaging in some protected activities.  The federally protected classes are race, color, national origin, sex, disability, religion, and age (which is 40+).  Some states add other categories. The federally protected activities are some protected collective bargaining activities, filing wage claims, filing EEOC claims, filing sexual harassment reports, filing reports with OSHA, and use of protected leave such as FMLA.

Not wanting your picture taken and refusing to comply with a company policy are not protected classes. If you refuse you can be fired. You would likely be eligible for unemployment in that case, but you could be fired.


Title: Is it possible to screw over my employer for this absurd “rule”

Question:
My employer came out with the dumbest “rule”. The rule is in spanish but ill translate

“ Employees of The store, it is required that starting from July 22nd 2019 you will have to park behind the gas station or in a smog center after 2:30pm Saturday and Sunday all day. You will not be able to move your car to our parking lot for no reason. Whoever doesn’t follow this rule will be given a warning”

This is exactly what it say. Other employees asked the office and they said that they weren’t liable for anything that happens to the car.

Is this true? If someone broke into the car, would they not be responsible for anything?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 >Is this true? If someone broke into the car, would they not be responsible for anything?

Yes that's true. Your employer isn't responsible for someone else breaking into your carAnswer #2: It’s possible to get fired for refusing to comply with their rules.Answer #3: They wouldnt be responsible if someone broke into your car in their lot either.


Title: NJ My cell phone cannot make 911 calls. My carrier is attempting to troubleshoot and is requesting that I try to call 911 after each attempted fix. Is this okay? And if fixed, do I stay on and explain this to the dispatcher?

Question: Title says most, I get a generic carrier error message when trying to call 911. Luckily we had a friend in the car who was able to call at the time when we needed to a few days ago.  I'm working with my carrier's level 3 tech support to resolve and they keep asking me to try calling after each fix, even though I don't have an emergency.

Answer:
 I used to test 911 emergency phones. Sometimes the 911 operator is kinda pissy and a few times I've gotten one that has never received a test call and they are like "ok wtf" and try to take down all my personal information like I'm pranking them. A lot of times they are just like "ok bye" and hang up. Usually they will read back your phone number and or location as they are supposed to. I've had cops show up when the microphone was broken and they weren't mad.

My point is it can be kind of awkward but they don't care usually and its not illegal. Theoretically you will only be calling them once so they really wont care. Once it finally connects just say you are testing a emergency call service for repair. The majority of 911 operators wont mind as it is pretty standard and any good person would rather be inconvenienced for 20 seconds than have you get murdered to death because your phone doesn't work.


Title: If someone identifies themselves as an officer, is there a reasonable way to verify that before complying with other orders?

Question:
Long story short, a discussion about people pretending to be law enforcement officers to aid in some crime got me wondering; how do I as a layman, without knowledge of what an FBI badge or State Trooper emblem or even the local police forces insignia look like in any detail distinguish that the person is who they claim to be?

If someone holds a badge up to my keyhole and says "open up, we need to talk", is there a way to notify a real officer that I intend on complying once their identities are proven?

Edit; MI if it matters

Answer:
 Let's assume you know for a fact that it's a legit FBI agent.

Legally, you still don't have to open the door to talk.

;-)

But you can certainly call the local FBI field office and ask if there is an agent there with that name.

And the odds of someone doing this are very low, even if it is technically possible.


Title: Why is it so hard to hold police accountable? Shouldn't they be held to an extremely high standard since they literally have the power of life and death in their hands?

Question:
I see story after story of some officer committing a crime and they're "allowed to resign", or they're moved to another police department, or they get a small fraction of a sentence anyone else would get (on the tiny chance they are convicted).

Shouldn't it be the opposite?

Does this bother anyone else?

How can we fix it?

Answer:
 Because the police are the ones that do the enforcingAnswer #2: The biggest 2 problems are the fraternity aspects of policing and cops protecting cops who are bad.

Some cops feel that they need to protect each other from the outside, almost like an us vs them situation. it doesn't help with all the ACAB crap going on. Basically, there is so much adversarial crap going on between the basic nature of policing and the public that some cops feel they have to protect themselves even more then back in the day.


Title: How can I get rid of a worthless house?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You might be able to convince the city to demolish it for you but I wouldn't advise Arson. People tend to get little peeved about unauthorized conflagrations.Answer #2: Find a homeless guy and sell it to him for $100.  You of course will first have to give said homeless guy $200.Answer #3: Craigslist adAnswer #4: Real advice:
OP: get a lawyer.  If you're going to sell this shit house, or even give it away, you are going to need to have some heavy duty disclaimers in the deed.  Also, you need to make sure that you aren't currently violating any city ordinances (the fines can add up).

Life advice:
Consider keeping it.  Home prices, especially in college towns can appreciate like crazy.  Source: Dad rented a room from someone who owned their own apartment in Filmore in the 1970s.


Title: Sister-in-law was raped at a party. Perpetrator and witnesses are undocumentes.

Question: So we found out today that my sister-in-law was raped at a party with her co-workers last night. She works in Alabama. She was passed out asleep in a friends room after drinking too much. Her rapist came in, locked the door and raped her, one of her friends realized something was wrong, broke into the room broke it up, while knocking the rapist out in the process. She is debating whether or not to press charges on the guy. Her worry is that her friends, who both witnessed the rape and stopped the guy, are undocumented and doesn't know if they would be legally able to testify without fear of deportation. In addition she is not sure if she can press charges as her rapist is also undocumented. What possible recourse does she have? And would the key witnesses be able to testify in court?

Answer:
 She can press charges against someone who is undocumented. As far as the witnesses, i don't think their legal status matters. Answer #2: ICE is grabbing people in court houses for deportation now:

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-usa-immigration-idUSKBN1FK335

There may be a similar risk to the witnesses especially if someone who knows the defendant knows or suspects their status. It is said they will not grab witnesses.

Also if the defendant lacks legal status he could be deported at once or, as in my jurisdiction, tried and imprisoned and deported after. Federal immigration is highly variable.Answer #3: Normally the answer would be that the witnesses would likely be safe in a courthouse, but indeed ICE has been coming to courthouses, although I don’t know if they have been in your jurisdiction.

Your witnesses do have a non-zero chance of running into immigration trouble here.Answer #4: the US has jurisdiction over anyone in it's borders (ie, the US can impose it's laws on them) regardless of their nationality or if they're a citizen or not. the only people they don't have jurisdiction over are, by convention, foreign emissaries (ambassadors, and the like).


Title: I agreed to donate a kidney to a stranger but now my nephew needs a kidney, can I reneg on the stranger? MO

Question:
Missouri

I responded to an add seeking a donor kidney, was tested, was enough of a match to move ahead with the surgery. The surgery is scheduled in two days.

I just found out my nephew needs a kidney and I am the closest match to donate after his father who has a preexisting condition and would likely not survive the surgery.

Am I legally obligated to donate the kidney to the first person I promised it to/will I owe them any restitution if I back out at the last minute? Is there anything binding me to my commitment to the first person over my nephew?

Answer: You can withdraw consent to donate an organ at any point before the actual organ removal.


Title: Friend on life support - No next of kin (Texas)

Question:
OK guys, I'm sure this is a little outside the scope of this subreddit, but I'm not really sure where to ask. I have a friend who has been in the Emergency room for the past 12-18 hours on life support. She is in her mid thirties with a 12 year old daughter. She has no other next of kin in the state that are of age to make any medical decisions for her or get information from the hospital. The woman on life support does have an estranged brother, but no one is able to get a hold of him.

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I guess my question is, when this occurs, who ends up making the decision on keeping her on life support or not? What sort of time frame or process needs to be followed?

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Location - TX

Answer: The doctor supervising her care ultimately makes the decisions even when there is a next of kin to give input or an advance care directive from the patient to look to. It's no different in this case, except that the supervising doctor has fewer peoples' input to consider.


Title: UK - got caught urinating last night next to an off-duty officer's car.

Question: Late last night Intoxicated me made the mistake of urinating in public and it just so happened to be next to a police officer's private car. It was in-between a mates car and another at a parking lot and Id just gotten food with some friends. He arrested me and attempted to get a nearby on duty officer to bring him a fixed penalty notice. Upon failing to find one, he informed me I have been reported for the offence of section 5 public order act whereby I caused someone alarm harassment or distress. I was recording this part of the conversation. He said he would submit a file of evidence to the court and that id get a summons which will probably be in the post, meaning Id have to appear in court at some date in the future. He said 'it's not the end of the world and probably about a £100 fine'. After apologising he said 'that's alright, it's taking the piss thoghh isn't it'. This was in a car park with no others around, only three friends in a car, and so didn't cause distress to anyone but the off-duty officer.  Really worried because a criminal record isn't something I need right now. Horribly regrettable and feel like an idiot! Was wondering if you have any advice?

Answer:
 Pay the fine, move on with life, and don't piss in public places next time?

Not only is it an offence to the law, it's an offence to our senses when people out on the piss-up start stinking up the place! It's not nice!Answer #2: >so didn't cause distress to anyone but the off-duty officer

He still counts, you know.Answer #3: Urinating in public is a public disorder and should incur a fine. if they dont issue an on the spot fine you will be summoned to court, which unfortunately will give you a criminal record.


Title: cocaine found in my shipment

Question:
hi im starting a freight forwarding business but this just came in my head and i want to be ready for anything.

this is the case scenario :

i run a freight forwarding business and i got a container which was supposed to go overseas. when they did a checkup at the port they found a bag with cocaine in it.

my business works this way, i receive packages and i ship it , i dont open them up or check them.

so after all that. will i get arrested for being the freight forwarder or not?

Answer:
 Yeah, right.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Drugs/comments/8qehwb/advanced_questions_about_making_crackAnswer #2: > ...will I get arrested...

I imagine this will depend largely on 1) where you are located and 2) whether or not the investigators have any reason to believe you knowingly or reasonably should have known that you were being used to transport illegal drugs.

If you're starting a shipping business, you should probably be consulting with legal experts first though.Answer #3: There is a whole industry of companies that do this.  You aren't inventing a new wheel here.  Find out what others in the industry do.


Title: I want to get married without my parents find out but I am currently in college and they are still paying my taxes, what should I do?

Question: My parents are very conservative about my relationship and discussing this with them is a no-go.

Answer: Do your own taxes?


Title: Athens, GA Speeding in a School Zone

Question: [deleted]

Answer: pay the ticket. don't go over 25 in a school zone again. ignorance of the law isn't an excuse of the law.


Title: An obvious troll on Twitter tweeted at me that they hope my dog dies

Question: Is that illegal? Is there a way I could find out who they are and presses charges against them for making a threat?

Answer:
 > Is that illegal?

No. It's impolite, but it isn't a direct threat and isn't legally actionable.

Block, report, carry on.


Title: Why was the doxxing of Redditor Michael Brutsch not illegal?

Question:
In 2012 the renowned internet troll Violentacrez also known as Michael Brutsch was exposed by Gawker Adrian Chen. This was doxxing? We are constantly told that doxxing is illegal and yet Adrian Chen was not arrested. Is it illegal to to go through someone's Reddit posts and expose them (if you do not encourage violence against them) or not?

http://gawker.com/5950981/unmasking-reddits-violentacrez-the-biggest-troll-on-the-web

Gawker article above.

Answer:
 Doxxing is illegal according to what laws? If that were true, PIs would be out of a job.Answer #2: Who constantly tells you doxxing is illegal?Answer #3: > Is it illegal to to go through someone's Reddit posts and expose them (if you do not encourage violence against them) or not?

Not. No law guarantees or preserves your internet anonymity. Reddit rules only do to the barest of extents.Answer #4: Doxxing breaks *Reddit* rules. However, the Internet is part of the real world, and figuring out Violentacrez's real name is no more illegal than figuring out Banksy's real name.


Title: My car was stolen. I can't get to work. Do I have a financial exception to break my lease without penalty?

Question:
Location:  Santa Ana, CA

I recently had my vehicle stolen and I cannot get to work on my own terms.  I've been carpooling with a friend who drops me off 2 hours earlier than my normal hours start.  My job has been accommodating so far, but this won't last forever and I can't afford a new vehicle.

My plan is to move close enough to work such that I can bike there, but there is no way I can afford to straight-up terminate the lease on my current apartment.

Can I appeal with a financial hardship claim?  Is there some other way to get out of the lease?

Also worth noting:  My car was stolen in a gated area.  If they find my car, I can't exactly park it here anymore, because that fence clearly means nothing.  Do I have any recourse other than, 'sure hope it doesn't get stolen again...'?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 >Can I appeal with a financial hardship claim?

Does your lease allow for such situations?

>I can't exactly park it here anymore, because that fence clearly means nothing.

Eh, I wouldn't say it "clearly" means nothing.  A car isn't stolen once a night, is it?  I presume this was the first, and only instance of your car being stolen?

Unless your lease provides otherwise, difficulty at work does not provide grounds to break a lease early.Answer #2: Can you sublet your apartment? And getting your car stolen in Santa Ana isn't some rare event. That's what insurance is for.


Title: [OH][PA]Being accused of assault.

Question:
I went on a dinner date with a girl about 3 weeks ago. On the date she had about half a margarita with her meal and afterwards in the car I asked if it was Ok if I kissed her she said yes, We made out for a few minutes and I put my hand on her breast and again asked "is this ok?" and she said yes. We continued making out as i touched her breast. I stopped several time to again ask "Are you sure this is ok" and she kept saying yes im sure. After a while I drove her home. The day after I text her and said " Sorry if i was handsy last night" to which she responded "No no it was totally fine."

Today I got a message from an unknown 3rd partying telling me she's going around telling people I sexually assaulted her. I dont know what the fuck to do i'm in serious freak out mode. I live in Ohio and she lives in PA where is took place

Answer: Do not contact her in any way.  Keep all text messages between you to and back them up.  If the police come to your house and question you, politely decline, let them know you will not talk to them without a lawyer, and get a lawyer.  Do this respectfully.


Title: Legality of ripping my own game

Question:
(Michigan btw) I am interested in playing around with my old copy of Fire Emblem Radiant Dawn. The game still works, and so does the Wii, but I don't always have access to it. ( I am in college, and live with my parents. TVs aren't always "open" for use).

I was thinking of ripping the cd, and emulating the game to play, but am worried about the legality of this. So is ripping a copy of my own game, and then running Dolphin Emulator legal? If not, if I can manage to get the game to run without ripping it (haven't tried yet), and run Dolphin to play it, is that legal?

Answer:
 *Practically* speaking, there is a zero percent chance that the developer will ever know you did it, nor would they give a shit.

*Legally* speaking, I'm not 100% sure, but I'd imagine if you own a legal copy of the game then it's your data and you can rip it to hardware you own. Distribution is obviously still off limits, but you have a legal copy of the game.


Title: Why would a defendant hire a lawyer/council that is 4-5 hours away?

Question: I saw on one of the local criminal cases that the defendant has hired council that works roughly 4-5 hours away from where the trial takes place. Googeling the lawyers name, everything points to one city on the other side of the state. Obviously with covid courts are moving to web conferencing hearings so having a defense that far away is plausible but would the defendant be able to say they haven't met with their lawyer in person to go over info and thus didn't get a fair trial? Is there something else Im missing here?

Answer:
 Local lawyers may have had a conflict of interest.

Local lawyers may not have had time in their schedules to take on new clients.

There may not be a local lawyer who is as experienced in the specific area of law the client needed.

The client may have had a prior relationship with this specific lawyer and wanted to hire them again.

This lawyer may offer rates that are more affordable for the client.

There may be a reason that someone involved in the case needs to be in that specific city.

There's probably more i haven't thought of.


Title: I found a malnourished dog on the streets near the University of Arizona. The supposed owner showed up when good samaritans cornered her and said "oh that fucking dog's gone!". What should I do?

Question:
When driving we almost hit this dog. It is slightly smaller than full grown (could be puppy or malnutrition). The dog is extremely skinny. She appears to be recently spayed, so she likely has a micro-chip. We ran after the dog and eventually got it cornered into a fenced in parking lot in the University Of Arizona. Some women claiming to be the owner shows up in a car. We tell her that the dog is cornered in the lot. She responds with "Oh that fucking dog's gone already!" in a rather rude tone then drives off. We took the girl home, fed her and she gets along well with our dogs. She is extremely scared by everything, and is always unwilling to come inside; maybe the previous owners never let her inside. When found she had her collar and leash attached.

If I take her into the Humane Society of a Vet, will they simply take the dog back to it's owner if they find a micro chip? We have some evidence showing she was not taken care of properly, as she is extremely skinny, scared of going indoors, and her first poop was all green and full of human food. We know a few people who wold give the dog a good home.

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What should I do? I don't want her to go back to a bad home with no dog food, indoor warmth, or enough food.

Answer:
 You should take the dog to a local shelter, mention your concerns, and mention your assistance in placing the dog should that become necessary. Answer #2: >Sometimes, the next day, we would remind them not to smoke in the room because it gets out and affects my SO's asthma. However, we've smoked with them twice, but we do it in the bathroom to prevent it from affecting us later at night and to set an example.

Yes most likely.

>We have some evidence showing she was not taken care of properly, as she is extremely skinny, scared of going indoors, and her first poop was all green and full of human food.

None of that is really evidence of abuse or neglect given that you don't even know how long the dog was missing for.

You need to contact animal control. They will have a process for lost pets that allows an owner some time to claim the dog from them. If the owner fails to claim the dog then you can request to adopt the dog.

Answer #3: If the owner doesn't want her they will not return her.  She will need to be held for a time (120 or 72 hours, depending on if she has a microchip or not) before you can take her home.


Title: HR is treating me like I'm emotionally unstable after work incident, sighting my anxiety and depression.

Question:
There was an incident at work this past week where my immediate supervisor had a melt down in our office and made the entire team cry. She came back from a smoke break with a different mood than when she left, and with no warning began to grill me and the assistant on our team about our loyalty and let us know that we could speak with the President of the company or HR this week to give notice if we were unhappy. At the time I had asked her very seriously where this came from and if she wanted us off her team. She had no reply and turned the conversation to be about how her personal feelings were being hurt, that me and the assistant didn't have regard for her feelings and how bad it made her feel. When asked to elaborate it sounded as if she felt like she was a third wheel. She explained feeling left out and that it was not ok, mind you she doesn't speak great English so she just went around in circles. She told us how she can't trust people who have mood changes, are happy one time and not happy another. That it makes a fake person.

I have had conversations with her prior to this about my depression and anxiety, and HR has been fully aware of my anxiety and depression from day one. So I cannot help it, literally, if I come in a little more somber than usual sometimes, though I do try to play it off because my boss has verbally expressed she gets frustrated with me about it.

Now after the incident, where even the assistant went to HR to seek help, I am being treated by HR as if I am crazy and emotionally unstable. I work for a mostly Korean company in the USA. Are there any steps I can take to proactively protect myself for the future in case they try to paint me as crazy? I actively see a therapist who does not think I am unstable. I just want to be able to do my job and not worry that I'm going to get fired because my boss is protected as part of the family (she is Korean) and I have openly documented my mental illness.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 >Are there any steps I can take to proactively protect myself for the future in case they try to paint me as crazy?

Can you elaborate on how they're painting you as crazy?

>I just want to be able to do my job and not worry that I'm going to get fired because my boss is protected as part of the family (she is Korean) and I have openly documented my mental illness.

Just because you have a mental illness doesn't mean you can't be fired.  And just because you go to therapy does not mean that your condition rises to the level of a disability per the FEHA or ADA.

What exactly is going on besides your boss being rude to most people in the office?


Title: I really need help

Question:
I'm gonna make this short and sweet. Let me know if you need more information. Before I begin I'm just going to say YES I have learned my lesson, I am not here to be told I shouldn't have done this. There were reasons at the time I considered it to be a legitimate deal. But I still want this to shine through and to get my MONEY. Here in Texas.

I found this "job" through Craigslist. Posted as someone looking for models or people to help with sports clients. Listed was a number to send a couple of pictures. I did that. He sent me photos of himself, photos of him holding large stacks of cash, making it seem like he had it. He basically told me he wanted to pay me to hang out with him topless. I told him I had a boyfriend so I wouldn't be doing anything with him. He said that was fine. I told my boyfriend about the agreement and he said as long as I didn't do anything he would let me make the money. The other guy, we'll call him Dave, texted me a few days later saying I could make $2000 if I talked to him for an hour. I was like okay sure. Basically he wanted me to be like a cam girl for him while he jacked off. I had no problem with that - it's not physical contact so I had nothing to worry about. I told him I wanted the money and he said his venmo was at the maximum limit for the week. He told me he would give me more for waiting. Then another time he wanted me to do the same thing, for another $2000. I did it. At this point, he owes me $5000 and has said he will send me the money several times on text message. Fast forward a lil, this dude becomes psycho, basically says he's not paying me any other way except cash, and he won't see me until I break up with my boyfriend and send him texts proving it. That was the night, it has been 3 weeks that I had been putting up with his bullshit, that I decided it wasn't worth it anymore. He sent me a screenshot of my Facebook page and told me if I didn't tell my boyfriend what was happening he would contact him and tell him. I told him to get rid of my information and do not contact anyone in my life and that I was blocking his number. I blocked it and he texted me from ANOTHER number, said I need to call him "before shit gets bad." Then he sent me a picture of myself, not entirely provocative but was threatening to post  everything all over social media and tell everyone. I called a cop and told him about the situation and how I didn't want this guy to contact me anymore. He said it would be a felony for him to post any of my pictures. Anyway, all I want to know is if I can get my money with the text messages of him saying he would pay me, because I have done the things he said he would pay me for.

Answer: You were scammed. Ignore and block him. You're never getting the money. Sorry. His phone number is probably spoofed so it's not his real number.


Title: I did a dumb thing and I’m facing being kicked out of my apartment and idk if it’s legal or not

Question:
I can’t believe I did something as stupid as this. I moved out on my own closer to my job and wanted to bring my dog. I have a lot of anxiety living on my own and knew I would qualify for a emotional support animal. My dad is a licensed therapist and wrote the letter for me stating I can have my animal with me in the apartment. This apartment doesn’t allow pets, but does allow emotional support companions. I thought I could be slick into getting my dad to write me this note and didn’t think I would get caught. Well. I did. I got caught a day before I moved in. So I apologized and went about getting an actual counselor who isn’t family so I can have my dog with me. I’ve been a tenant at this apartment on my year lease for a month now. I call my landlord to state I’m seeing a counselor soon to see if I’m eligible and say sorry for being I liar and this that and the other. I left a voicemail stating that bc they were not available. I get a call back (can’t answer bc I’m at work) stating there isn’t any talking about moving forward bc I should have been kicked out last month. He said now I have the end of July to get out and he’s releasing me from my lease. I just found like out not even an hour ago. I’m having a panic attack sitting at my desk right now. Is this allowed? I know I’m fucking dumb. I’m an idiot. Please give me anything.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Yes, he can evict you for having a pet if that violates your lease.

I am most surprised here that your dad would risk disciplinary action against him for writing a fraudulent letter about your dog. Answer #2: Your landlord can't "release you" from your lease without your consent. That's not how contracts work. They either need to get you to agree, or they need to find valid cause to evict you - a process that goes through the courts and is heard before a neutral third party.

Given that you attempted to defraud your landlord, I would think that a formal eviction is a real risk. If pets are a breach of your lease, and there's reason to question your note that you require an emotional support animal, then your landlord can ask the courts to evict you for that breach and have a judge decide. If you can get actual documentation that your dog is an emotional support animal, and if you happen to live somewhere where ESAs have protections rather than being treated by the law as pets, then you might be able to preserve your lease. Otherwise, treat this as a polite offer to let you out without evicting you, and start looking, or refuse, and take the risk that they try to evict you.

In many jurisdictions, an eviction will make it much harder to find another apartment. With thirty days, you can likely find a pet-friendly unit and move.


Title: My manager is potentially trying to cause problems for me.

Question:
Long story short, an employ of ours was let go for  a very valid reason about a month ago. Since then, people are on edge at the office, and instead of the traditional method of working out issues between each other, everything goes to HR, or follows the process, etc etc. It's just not as fun as it once was, which I guess we see as inevitable as companies grow.

So, moving into my current situation-- I've been emailing/texting in for a significant percentage of the last two weeks. I'm frustrated with the place, and am taking some time away. Employee of 9 great years.

My boss of 1 year texted back and forth with me on Thursday morning between 7:15am and 11:00am. during this exchange, I indicated to him twice that I would not be in. He finally acknowledges this with an "ok". This is the final message he sends me. 0 calls from him through the entire day.

For the remainder of the day, he walks around the office indicating to others that I would not respond to him, and that he is concerned about my welfare, whereabouts, etc. He eventually calls my mom, as she is on the "emergency contact" list. He continues to indicate to her and others that he's concerned about my whereabouts, well being, and that I am not being responsive.

My mom gets concerned to the point that she calls the police to have them perform a "welfare check" by my property. My boss, my mom & dad, the police all stand around my house about to plow through my door to check on whether or not I'm laying on the floor as a dead man.

I get wind of this at about 6:30pm, that the manager has been indicating that I am not responding to anybody, nobody knows where I am, etc.

I call my mom, the police, and others to let them know that I'm fine and that I indicated to my manager that I'd be taking the day off. My mom played the same "well he was concerned that you weren't OK" card that others were playing when I indicated how pissed I was. We hang up, then I show my mom the text messages back and forth w/ a screenshot and she calls me bursting into tears. She was given the indication that i was not communicating, hadn't been contacted, etc. She instantly became very angry, and feels led on. Everyone else feels like he lied about me not having communicated, as well.

The same manager sent us an email (which I still have) that indicates that if we will be out, we should SMS him, email, or call him to let him know, and that he would communicate this to the rest of the team. He has failed to do this twice in the last 2 weeks now, and lies about not receiving my messages. He has responded to my messages both times, which makes it obvious that he's lying.

I spoke with HR, they did say that they were a bit worried that I was taking a lot of time off. I expressed that regardless of the frequency, my personal life is none of my manager's business, that he lied to the point of the police being called, he lied to my mother to scare the shit out of her that I was dead, and that there was a major overstep in this situation, and that I would be collecting evidence for the situation in the event that I need to pursue action to protect myself.

How does my situation look if I feel the need to pursue legal action?

EDIT: Location - Idaho

Answer:
 Your odds of winning any damages are somewhere between slim and none.

That said, for future reference in addition to SMS-ing with your boss, copy a coworker that you work with closely, to ensure that there are others aware of your status.

And do start looking for a new job, because this one isn't looking good.


Title: My manager called me on the phone and screamed and threatened me during a critical task I was performing, causing it to be delayed. Now I'm apparently in trouble.

Question:
I'm using a throwaway account so this post can't be traced back to my real identity.

Last week I was in charge of a late night update on our corporate website (earnings report release). I am a manager myself and manage a small group of offshore Indian web developers as part of my job. We recently hired them to update our website as requests for changes come through to me. Last week India was celebrating Diwali (major Indian holiday) and the engineers we hired were on vacation. On Tuesday I was informed that later in the week would be the release of our Q3 earning report, which is a highly critical process that has to be done in a relatively short amount of time, though no official time limit was given to me. I told my manager (Director) that the offshore devs were on vacation for Diwali and would be unavailable for the ER release, so I was planning to do it myself. He said that's fine, so I emailed them saying I will handle the request and to have a nice vacation. My boss then later that day said that because we are paying them on contract, they are still expected to make the change despite the holiday. I expressed my misgivings about using them for this highly critical task, both from the standpoint of it being a major holiday for them which would likely present a distraction and perhaps logistical issues but also because I had some doubts about their professionalism as they seemed to have a lax attitude about their work at times. He insisted they do the work, not me, and I was to supervise and provide guidance. I had no choice but to follow his direction, despite my fears. I came up with a solid plan for them to make the changes first on our website staging environment to make sure they knew what they were doing, then on the live site at the appropriate time. The plan was approved by my boss. Multiple times they were informed (days in advance) when this task would take place and were sent a meeting invite for an hour before the release to review the process first. On Thursday afternoon they made the changes on staging and they were done correctly. I sent them an email approving their work on staging and reiterated the meeting time that night to do the release, as well as the time of the release. Fast forward to 10pm Thursday night and they are not showing up. I waited a half hour (they were 30 minutes late to a meeting before). Nothing. I emailed them and got no response and was about to call them when my boss asked where they were and I said I didn't know. Meanwhile, I had been preparing to just do the work myself as a fallback because I had my doubts about them showing up. I told my boss this and he said fine. He sent me the ER and other documents just prior to the release time (10:58pm) in a zip archive. I immediately got to work unzipping them and making the changes on the live site. Unfortunately, our site is WordPress and we have no automated deployment pipeline from staging to production even though I have brought this up multiple times as a serious issue and was told it's low priority, despite this being a poor practice. I was scrambling to make the changes on the live site during the 10 minute window defined in the plan. At 6 minutes after the hour, my boss starts sending me Slack messages asking what's happening. I tell him I'm working on it and I'm almost done. He then calls me and starts screaming at me like a lunatic, making threats about the future of my job, telling me I can forget about the promotion I've been working for, etc. if this doesn't get finished immediately. He was literally screaming that the CEO himself will fire me if I don't get it done NOW. Meanwhile, I'm doing my absolute best to get the changes posted as quickly as possible despite the files that were sent to me being named incorrectly and some filesystem permission issues I was having. I'm struggling to get the last little bit done as he's making these threats and yelling at me about what a failure I am.

By the way, I've worked for this company for several months and am universally well liked and respected by my colleagues. I have an excellent reputation that I've been working very hard to build so that I will be considered for a promotion to a director role next year (I'm a DevOps/IT infra/SRE manager). When my boss was screaming these things at me, it caused me to panic to the point where my fingers wouldn't even work well enough to type because I was so panicked. My heart was beating so hard it felt like it was going to burst out of my chest.

I am a father with a one year old daughter and a very pregnant wife who can't work, so I'm the sole breadwinner for my family. Even though I have a good job, we live in the Silicon Valley where it's very expensive and currently we're living paycheck to paycheck, barely scraping by each month on a single income. I work extremely hard and take my job very seriously because I like the company and believe I will get a promotion and a raise (which my boss has been dangling over my head like a carrot for several months). Now he's threatening to take it all away. I'm shaking like a leaf. I'm getting tunnel vision. I end up mistyping a filename in one of the links, causing a 404 error. He sees this and is screaming even louder. I beg him to please just let me hang up the phone and focus on what I'm doing. I tell him I can't concentrate with his constant berating of me while I'm trying to do this critical work. He eventually hangs up after more insults and I finish the work, 5 minutes later than planned. I then find out one of the files that was sent to us by our CFO was in the wrong format and he calls me again telling that I need to update it right away, which I do. About an hour later I get an email from our VP saying that both the CEO and CFO were shitting bricks before the earnings call because of the ER release and that my work was "absolutely unacceptable".

My boss has called a meeting with our VP on Tuesday to discuss what *I* did wrong and to have a review of my performance. At first I was starting to feel like this was my fault, but I had done everything in my power to make them aware of my misgivings about relying on these offshore WordPress devs for such a critical task and my concerns were ignored. Also, I would have been able to do the release myself in the time specified if my boss was not terrorizing me on the phone while I tried to do the work.

At this point, I am planning on getting HR involved and am also considering hiring an employment law attorney in case any kind of disciplinary action happens as a result of this. I've re-read our employee handbook and it explicitly prohibits making threats or engaging in intimidating behavior towards other employees and subordinates.

Please tell me, do I have a leg to stand on here? Thanks everyone.

Answer:
 You have zero legal recourse for this. Shitty bosses and shitty companies abound.

You can prepare for the meeting. 1 - 2 pages.
Here are the problems encountered.
Here are the solutions.

1.	No automated deployment capability which you recommended (have backup doc prepared with emails and price of this)
2.	Diwali. Engineers may be CONTRACTED to work, but would you trust 100% a US engineer to do a critical task well on Christmas? What time of day in India? (Again, backup)
3.	Time boss sends you docs. Issues with file names being incorrect. Issue with file in incorrect format.
4.	Times boss contacts you on slack and phone during the 10 minutes you have for this task. Yes, I mistyped a file name while being screamed at.
5.	Time completed vs promised

Come up with some solutions to reduce risk next time.

A) Automated deployment. Then you have the page and links already done, set to go live at X time. All one has to do is have files named the same as placeholders that say “will be updated day, time” and just copy the real files to the directory.

B) Done in US to have fewer hands in the mix

C) Pre-release meeting on deliverables with the exact people who will be creating and forwarding the data. File names, file formats need to be 100% correct when one has 10 minutes.


Title: I'm an LLC member and the other parties involved are refusing to provide me financial records.

Question:
I don't know if there is another sub better suited for business matters. But this is just a small "mom 'n pop" shop that I and two other people own. I've been suspicious from the start when they changed the password online to the bank account so I couldn't see anything.  I have invested just as much money in the company as they have but I am not the "finance" guy. I was in charge of other things. But according to Texas LLC law (from my understanding) I have the right to review the financial information of the company I own.
It's been especially discouraging when I ask and am denied. I don't want to touch any money, I just want to SEE it. At one point a few months ago they caved. I could see why they were hesitant in showing me, they both have debit cards on the account and I saw tons of purchases at gas stations, restaurants, car washes, etc... multiple atm withdrawals with no receipts. No cash drops.

Their excuse was that because they don't have a set payroll they just do that as their compensation. Which is irresponsible and hard to keep track of, for one, and two ... I've never got my share of what they've taken. I've never gone out to eat on the company dime, or gas in my car, etc. I've only ever been paid for time worked, and even then not the full amount. They've also received compensation for time worked. But that's another story all together. I was naive enough to believe the store couldn't afford anything more than that.

They were told to stop immediately and budget for a payroll. That never happened.

What are my rights here. Last month the store couldn't pay it's rent, so they had to take out a loan. Of course this has got me asking questions again. But they just flat out refuse to show me anything., even though its well within my rights. They simply wont do it. Since I'm not on the bank account the bank won't give me any records. Even when I've taken our LLC paper work to the bank prove I am an owner.

It's an antique store, if that matters at all. I don't see why it would but thought I'd include that anyway.

 I've seen our sales. The store makes enough money to pay rent, but I have no idea where it's all going.

Answer:
 Look at your operating agreement if you have one. The answer should be contained in there. Many states issue default rules for the operation of LLCs and the default rules may be changed via contract, i.e. the operating agreement.

If you do not have an operating agreement you do have the right to inspect the LLC books and records. The inspection is at your own cost and must be for a "proper purpose". Tex. Bus. Orgs. Code Ann. § 101.502.

Your first right is to make the demand in writing. If they do not allow you to view the books and records its your right to sue for inspection and any and all damages that have been caused by the LLCs denial of your request.


Title: [Ohio] Question about driver-fault during highway lane changes.

Question: Scenario: I'm driving down the highway in the left-hand lane, there's an open spot in the center lane, and another car is driving in the right-hand lane neck-and-neck with my car.   I signal my lane change from left to center-lane and begin to merge at the same time the right-lane-car starts to drift into the center-lane *without* signalling...who's at fault when we inevitably cause a massive pileup?  I've narrowly avoided this bumper-car-eqsue situation three times in the last month.  *Three times* in a *month*.  For the love of whatever you hold dear people, *use.* *your damn.* *turn signals.*

Answer: Fault can be shared. It doesn't have to be 100%


Title: [NM] ISP is canceling my service after I complained to the FCC

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > Do I have any chance bringing up legal actions?

It's probably illegal to cancel your account for complaining to the FCC, but if you breached part of the agreement then you're probably up the creek.

Also, stop pirating games.
Answer #2: They don't have keep you as a customer any more than you have to remain a customer. Sometimes a business chooses to end it's relationship with what they believe to be a problem customer.Answer #3: You broke their rules and pissed them off enough resulting in enforcement of said rules - rules which you agreed to upon signing up as a customer. There is no legal issue here, you can't force them to take you back as a customer.


Title: Is it legal in Canada for a bar to check a purse?

Question: I went to a bar last night, and all of my female friends had their purses searched. Is that legal? Just curious.

Answer: They can't **force** a search, but they can make a search a condition of letting you in. Answer #2: Of course it is. Your alternative is to go somewhere else. Answer #3: Not familiar with CA law but if you refuse to let them search your purse they can likely refuse to let you in.


Title: Husband buys beach front home while separated and refuses to support wife [NC]

Question:
My mother and her husband were married 5 years before separating in 2008 without a divorce in NC. Since then, he has been depositing money into a shared account and paying the mortgage (the house was purchased before separation and both names are on the deed) while he has lived elsewhere. Infidelity caused the separation. His parents passed away and left him a 1/3 share of a beach house. He bought out the other 2/3 of the shares.

He has recently stopped depositing money into this account. He is also saying that he can give her no more than $40k in the divorce though he just purchased a beach front property on Topsail Beach.

After raising 4 children without a college degree, she may not have the option of going out and obtaining a well paid job.

I am assisting my mother through this, but have not yet approached her husband. Can she expect to receive more than $40k in a divorce? Does she own any part of the beach property? The value of the home purchased before separation is $300k+. She is very scared and I want to know what our options are as he is becoming threatening.

What should I do?

Answer: Hire a lawyer and get his or her advice. Divorce decrees take a lot of different things into account. And what do you think she should get? This is a very short term marriage where she was separated from him most of the time. I'm a bleeding heart feminist but if he earned money to buy a beach house that's his business not yours or someone who has known him less time than the pair of underwear I am wearing.


Title: [Serious]What's the best route to getting a contract for someone asking me to be a sperm donor through intercourse? (One that would protect me from child support.)

Question: Recently my ex from years ago asked me if I would be willing to help her bear a child. She would like us to do it the natural way. Is it possible for me to get her to sign a contract beforehand stating that she takes full responsibility and will not try to claim child support? I'm in south carolina, and she actually lives in texas.

Answer: Will not happen if you do it the "natural" way. Will only happen if you go through a doctor and sperm bank.Answer #2: Any such contract would be deemed void and unlawful.


Title: How are my odds at winning this case against my former landlord?

Question:
This occurred back in September of last year in California.

My wife and I moved out of a condo we were renting. After about a month had gone by, I was curious why we had not heard anything from the landlord/realty company regarding the refund of our $1,575 security deposit.

I attempted to contact them at least half a dozen times over the course of the next month. Calls went straight to voicemail, emails went unread, letters went unanswered. After looking into CA realty law, I became aware that they should have either refunded us the entirety of our deposit or provided a list of what our deposit was spent on less any expenses with an itemized deductions list and a refund with the remainder.

From what I can surmise, after this 21 day period elapses, the landlord forfeits all claim to any portion of that deposit and must refund the deposit in its entirety regardless of what may or may not have had to be fixed after we moved out.

I also read that there are laws regarding bad faith withholding, where a landlord will either refuse to give back a security deposit without justification, or do what these people did and just completely ignore my multiple pleas for some sort of response. When this occurs, the landlord is legally obligated to pay out the original security deposit plus a "treble" fee equal to twice the deposit.

I've submitted this to the courts and am taking them to small claims courts in the amount of $4,725. I have all email chains as well as call logs and a copy of the letter I sent certified to their offices proving I did everything in my power to open up some form of communication to get this resolved and all of my attempts went unheard and unresponded to. It would certainly seem that their game plan was that they could simply ignore me and that I would eventually give up and come to terms with the fact that I was never going to see my security deposit again and that they'd get to keep it.

How do you think my chances are at winning this? I've never attempted to sue or take anyone to court before so I've no idea what to expect.

Answer: No one can *really* say what your chances are, but you're well on your way to making a solid case. Barring anything weird you'll probably get your security deposit back, at minimum. Answer #2: This smells a little like getting a default judgement and them not paying. Hopefully collection isn't an issue, OP!


Title: Police confiscated SD Card from GoPro...

Question: Laguna Beach, California: Police confiscated SD Card from GoPro on Sunday April 15th during a motorcycle group ride. We were all riding through red lights and some were stunting. The cop said that he could confiscate my SD card without a warrant and get a warrant at a later date. When I called today to see when I could get my card back, he stated that he has not submitted it for evidence just yet and proceeded to offer me two options. One...I could allow him consent to view the footage or Two...he can try to request a warrant for the viewing of the footage. He also asked for the name of the motorcycle facebook group and the address of the meet up spot which I told hm I would find and possibly send him later. My dilemma is how I should proceed from this point on. He was nice on the phone but I don't want to screw myself over. Yes, I was riding reckless like the group so I could be possibly be prosecuted if the  footage is viewed as well as the other riders if there plates are ran. What is the smart thing to do in this case?? Please no "daddy" responses like "don't ride stupid" or "you shouldn't have being doing that". Just need law based answers. Thank you for reading this and any help that follows.

Answer:
 The law based answer is to hire an attorney and see if they can possibly suppress the evidence of you breaking the law.Answer #2: > We were all riding through red lights and some were stunting.

> "you shouldn't have being doing that". Just need law based answers.

The law based answer is to stop doing that.

Get a criminal defense attorney. Don't talk to the police without one. Answer #3: You should get a lawyer before you incriminate yourself further.


Title: Is it possible to make your SO sign a contract that is legally binding to say you will never a child?

Question:
Robert Durst it per say.

Stating like if in the event, you get pregnant, you will get an abortion or if you choose to keep it, I am not liable for the cost?

Answer:
 I never a child all day every day, yo.

But no.  This contract would not be valid. For a multitude of reasons.Answer #2: Get a vasectomy, stop having sex, trust your condoms, and accept the possible outcomes.

But my guess is you want the best of all possible worlds, for yourself.Answer #3: Nope.

Nobody can choose to get an abortion but the mother and nobody can free you from financial support but the mother.

Even if the mother *chooses* to abandon claim to financial support the state will still come after you for child support if she ever receives state benefits.

There is no guarantee of protection against the financial aspects of pregnancy except for abstinence if you are male.

Choose your girlfriends wisely. Answer #4: She can absolutely sign such an agreement. It will not be enforced in any court, so maybe you could just use it as decoration. Frame it on your wall as a warning to other women, while you pay out the child support you legally owe. Answer #5: > Robert Durst it per say.

Uhh, Robert Durst killed Kathie after she got pregnant. Interesting analogy to use.Answer #6: No.


Title: My wife is having some issues with her bosses.

Question:
Long story please bear with me...

My wife accepted a part time teaching job in May 2014 at an affluent Methodist Preschool in Houston, TX her contract would begin in August.

Just shortly after we found out she was pregnant with our second child. She notified her school over the summer, but never received any response.

Our first child actually attends this school and part of the reason my wife took the job was that they offered great discounts on child care.

During the first week of school the 2 head school administrators ask what her plans are for child care for the new baby and also what her maternity schedule would be. This conversation was also held in front of her co-workers and without HR present. My wife said she would like our son to go to the school if there is space. They said that wouldn't be possible the laws and licensing wouldn't allow that to happen because he would be too young (we looked into this its not true) and that they can only hold her job for 8 weeks before they replace her.

My wife followed up with HR and said she would get 12 month for maternity leave. She also informed the admin that they were incorrect regarding the laws and licensing.

Fast forward to today. The admin had a meeting with my wife's teaching assistant who would be standing in as a head teacher while she on maternity leave.

For whatever reason the admin felt it was a good idea to express their opinion to the teaching assistant on this current situation.

This is what the teaching assistant passed on to my wife:

They think my wife was pregnant before she took the job

They said the laws and licensing doesn't matter having an extra child would be too much of a burden on the teachers in the nursery. (Although it wouldn't be an extra child because he can only be enrolled if there is space to begin with).

Said they already found her replacement and if she were to notify them that she would not return after giving birth they would fire her and replace her now.

Finally, they said we should have someone in our neighborhood look after our newborn...

While I'm not sure how much of this is legal I know a lot of it quite unethical and is certainly tiptoeing the legal line.

Would appreciate some input or advice if things seem to escalate.

Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 You aren't eligible for FMLA until you've been employed for 12 months. If she just started in May she may not be eligible at all, or possibly only eligible for pro-rated amounts.

Also, you aren't eligible for FMLA if you don't work an average of 25 hours a week. It sounds like they'll be within their rights to replace your wife almost immediately once she leaves on maternity leave and the 8 weeks may even be a courtesy - not a legal requirement.


Title: I was expelled from a Private School

Question: [deleted]

Answer: I'll bite. Why does *the school* think you were expelled? Answer #2: I've never heard of a school that randomly approaches students and expels then.


Title: Wife's parked car was hit by 2 stagecoach horses at her work, they're refusing to pay even the deductible.

Question:
My wife works for a non profit museum/farmland.

She was on her way to her car when she got to her driver side door sh noticed that a stagecoach with two horses was going crazy.

She began to move back from the car and by the time she was out of harm's way two giant horses have barrelled their way into her car. Completely damaging the car so much that it was undrivable.

We got the car fixed, our insurance took the brunt of everything and we were stuck paying the $1,000 deductible. Which was our entire savings.

We had been contacted by their insurance after the recurved our claim, that this was not means for them to pay and they were not at fault.

She also had heard prior to this event that their had been accidents from these specific horses with visitors. They had also not been trained recently due to "budget issues".

She's terrified of losing her job if she fights this, I'm just beyond upset and bugged that they're not even willing to pay for the deductible.

Answer: Don't take advice from the guilty party or their insurance company.  How are they not at fault? If you told this whole story to your insurance company they will likely go after your wife's work for the damages in excess of your deductible. That might depend on the total damages. What was the total repair cost?  Might be smart to start looking for a new job just in caseAnswer #2: The statute of limitations is probably going to give her a couple of years to sue. I’d keep all of my documentation, start actively looking for another job, and sue the moment I turn in my notice.Answer #3: well although you could take them to small claims court for the deductible yes there is a risk of her losing her employment.Answer #4: She has the right to go after their insurance carrier. They have the right to fire her due to “at-will” laws (they could fire her for anything that’s not a protected class and this is not one).


Title: NY Was given a ticket for a UPM but description was not what i had.

Question:
So i was on my way to a music Festival with two friends i was driving.  About a mile away we were pulled over because they were profiling people going to the festival I had camping equipment on top of my car.  They pulled me over and claimed they smelled weed ( Im pretty sure it was a lie, everything was in the trunk and in bags and air tight containers.  No one had smoked in the car.  i was asked to get out, i asked if i had to and i was immediately threatened with more charges?

They pulled me out and straight said to me face "easy way and tell me where the weed is or i let my dog out and all you guys arent making it to the festival this weekend.

I had less than a half gram and a pipe on me.  My friends had 20 grams, and 14 grams in their bags.  We all claimed what was ours. No one had over 25 grams.

They went through all of our phones and i even had to give my passcode to the cop.  every time I asked why or didnt want to he acted as if i was lying and not assisting them getting in my face and talking about charges etc.

Come my first court date the Judge said that i was caught with 25 grams of weed.  I did not have that and they have all my shit in evidence bags.  My one friend was given my charge of a half gram and a pipe and my other was only charged with 4 grams.  So im wondering if it was because im the driver?  The cops said we were all being charged on what was found in our individual bags because we identified our bags.

I have a clean driving record and no crimal history whatsoever.  I work 2 jobs and try and stay out of trouble.  I looked it up and know that i can receive a ACD or ACOD.  I dont know what route to go though i might be possibly be moving jobs withint he next few months and the ACD would show up for 6 months to a year.

I was charged with the wrong amount of weed even though its the same charge theres quite the difference in my mind between half a gram and a pipe vs. the full 25 grams...  Should i try for the ACD or try and talk to them about the wrong information on my charge? I havent gotten a chance to talk with the DA i get to on the 23rd.

Answer:
 > About a mile away we were pulled over because they were profiling people going to the festival

Not illegal (and I'm sure the driver violated some traffic law)

>They pulled me over and claimed they smelled weed
>I had less than a half gram and a pipe on me. My friends had 20 grams, and 14 grams in their bags. We all claimed what was ours. No one had over 25 grams.

What a shocking coincidence

> i was asked to get out, i asked if i had to and i was immediately threatened with more charges

Yes, you have to

>Come my first court date the Judge said that i was caught with 25 grams of weed.

You were caught with more than 25 grams -- that was what was in your car

> I havent gotten a chance to talk with the DA i get to on the 23rd.

You shouldn't talk with the DA your attorney (which, I'm sure you've hired by now, right) should

Drug convictions can have long lasting consequences, including license suspensions and making you ineligible for student loans


Title: My brother got a DUI under DACA

Question: He’s attending university and he was pulled over by a police officer for missing a traffic light.  He was found with a blood alcohol content of 0.19, he then was taken to jail to stay for the night.  This is his first ever offense that will go on record and it’s his last year until he graduates. What are our options moving forward? Please I’m super desperate for some help.  He has a clean record and has good grades.

Answer: That’s super drunk, he needs an attorney right away. No one can predict exactly what will happen, but he certainly should start figuring out a plan for how to live in your home country because deportation is certainly going to be a consideration.


Title: I am being sued for a car accident that was not my fault.

Question:
So recently I was involved in an accident where I was driving down a residential rode and a woman very abruptly pulled out of her driveway and stopped in the middle of the rode. I was about 3 cars lengths from her when she pulled out and was traveling around 30-35mph. I was paying attention, and as soon as she pulled out of her driveway I slammed on the brakes. She was not visible at all prior to her pulling out and she did not yield at all.

I was able to stop fast enough to only nudge (not even move) her car. There was a minor dent in her lower drivers side door, and no visible damage to my front bumper. I immediately got out and made sure she was okay. She confirmed that she was fine and that I had probably saved her life and profusely thanked me. She said she had thought she had enough time but was wrong.

We agreed since no was hurt and there was not severe damage that we didn't need to inform the police (which I am now regretting). We both documented the scene of the accident and the damage in photos and exchanged insurance information.

I found out a yesterday that she is now claiming serious injury and filing a lawsuit against me and I really don't know where to start. I spoke with my insurance and they said they don't think she has a case and they are planning on denying her claim, but they said if they deny it she will most likely take it to court.

I've never been in any kind of legal situation and I don't know what to do. I moved out of my childhood home and started college as a freshman so this is all a bit scary. Any help or advice would be appreciated.

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Answer: You pay insurance for this. Let them handle it.


Title: (Ontario, Canada) Ex-Friend Won't Give Back very personal and private memoir I gave as a gift. What are my rights?

Question:
Hello,

About a year ago around December of 2015 I gave an ex-friend a completed manuscript of a personal memoir of the first 23 years of my life. I gave it to her as a gift, because I really did trust her and cared about her so I wanted to give her it as a sign of my trust.

That, since has turned out to be a bad idea. As of September 2016, that friend has turned out to be a person who caused me emotional suffering to the point of having a mental breakdown. While I have no evidence that she has been public with this book. I am obviously in fear of her having my entire personal life now, and would like to get it back. She has actively expressed intent to give it back (IE She randomly emailed me a few weeks ago asking where she could leave it). But every time she never actually executes it. We've been talking it over since October, and occasionally she'll email me out of the blue to say she'll drop it over during x day or x week, but never does.

To make matters worse, she knows for a fact that some of the content in this memoir is about her. And she doesn't particularly like some of it because it paints a bad light on her. (ie. She led me on for a few months and then rejected me possibly because I have a physical disability)

I fear that she his holding my memoir hostage in order to force me  to change such content, which I feel would be sacraficing not only the truth but my integrity. I did tell her however, that I would be taking it to a media lawyer so that they can decide for me just how  much I can stick to the truth?

So what should I do? Is what she's doing legal? Or are there too many conjectures to do anything about it?

Please help! My entire life story, and my privacy is at risk!

Answer:
 A gift is the property of the recipient. You don't get to impose conditions on it after the fact.

I had a whole bit here about publication of private facts, and about her apparent agreement to return it anyways, but none of it _matters_. The bottom line is this: you gave it to her, and unless she does something with it that actually causes you measurable damages, that's the end of the matter. Put it out of your mind, end the relationship entirely, and move on. Remaining in each others' lives is clearly not good for either of you.


Title: [PA] I run a company but I am not sure if it is a grey area.

Question: I run a small company (LLC) where people give me their money to be pooled and gambled on sports.  At the end of the season, they are given the profits (minus a small percentage taken from profit).  Everyone giving the money is an adult.  Everyone is fully aware that they are pooling the money for others to bet it and have a chance to lose everything.  I only take a percentage of profits.  Every bet is done through crypto currency.  I know that this can be a grey area legally but is this type of organization allowed?

Answer:
 >I know that this can be a grey area legally but is this type of organization allowed?

This is not grey. It's black.

You are running an unlicensed gambling operation (since if you had a license, you would have mentioned it).

Start reading this:

https://gamingcontrolboard.pa.gov/

The FAQ page is here:

https://gamingcontrolboard.pa.gov/?p=34

You need to have a slot machine license to apply for a sports wagering certificate, etc.

Grey area, indeed.


Title: (AZ) Mother dies, who gets custody of child? Relative or Step-Dad?

Question:
Asking for GF.

So roughly 2 months ago, my gf's mother died. Currently there is a battle for legal custody for her half-sister, who is roughly 8 yrs. old, between an Aunt, mother's sister, and the girls step-father.

The situation prior was that the mother had the child out of wedlock before remarrying to current Step-Dad. So Step-Dad has no biological relation nor has he legally adopted or attained some form of custody. The child's biological father has never been apart of the picture, not on birth certificate / no child support. The Aunt has been included with raising the child for several years.

After the mom passed, the Aunt expressed a wish to attain full custody of the child, but the Step-Father has kept her and has slowly been cutting of connection with the mothers side of the family. Her Aunt is worried that he will cut her out all together while not having a means to provide her with a good upbringing.

So here are some of my questions:

1. What rights does the step-father have to retain custody since he has no legal / biological connections to the child except for being married to the mother?

2. Is there a way for the Aunt to gain legal custody / guardianship without going through the long process of a custody battle?

3. If this is taken to court, can you speculate how good the chances of the Aunt gaining custody are?

Answer: If the bio dad does not step forward, then both the aunt and step-dad will have to fight it out in court.  Step-dad could have a legal edge if your state recognizes "*de facto*" parent, but then again, if aunt has been in the picture helping with the child for years, they may be on equal footing. My guess is the standard in your state is probably like mine: what is in the best interest of the child.


Title: [NY] Political candidate using fake accounts to mock our candidate on Facebook. Legal?

Question:
I'm the chairman for my party is my city. We have a mayoral election this year with two other candidates in the running. One of those candidates, holding a minor party line, is basically a Facebook troll who got the nomination of a small party and held onto it.

Since day one he's been bashing our candidate on Facebook unrelentingly, which we expected because he needs to get the same voter block that we normally win to even stand a chance.

However, soon these newly made accounts would immediately start going onto local political pages and mocking her. They were commenting about her within minutes of being made, all of them seemed to endorse the third party challenger, and they even made the same grammatical errors that the candidate frequently makes online.

We know this obviously violates Facebook's TOS and we've reported the accounts that way, but this doesn't sit right with me and I presume there has to be a campaign law, state or federal, that prevents him from engaging in this sort of deceptive behavior online.

I took a brief glance and couldn't find any law that talks about this, but I figured someone on here may have a rough idea about this.

For the record I don't think he's hurting our candidate that bad, I'd just like to be able to report him to the proper authorities if he is breaking election law.

Answer: What evidence do you have that it's the other candidate doing this?


Title: I was arrested for using a photocopy of my dads monthly train pass

Question: Any legal advice is greatly appreciated. The cops let me walk out of there after 3 hours or so. I have a court appearance in July.. Do I need a lawyer for this?  The police seemed to tell me it could probably be reduced to a disorderly conduct charge.

Answer:
 Don't take legal advice from the police. Where are you located and what is the exact charge?Answer #2: >Do I need a lawyer for this?

Whenever you're facing a criminal charge, you should always have a lawyer.


Title: Can I still buy guns in Texas ? Arrested & Charged with misdemeanor Possession & UCW

Question:
A few months ago I was pulled over for speeding. The cop said he smelled weed in my car so he had to search my vehicle. Before he started the search I notified him that I had 2 firearms in my vehicle as well both of which are registered in my name. I did have a little marijuana in my car (less than a ounce) and he of course found that. I was arrested and charged with Unlawful Carrying or Weapon & Possession . Both misdemeanors. I was let out on bond 2 days later. I still do not have a court date set.

A few questions I have is:

1. Is it possible to get my guns back that were taken during the arrest ?

2. Can I still purchase a gun with being charged with a ucw and possession ?

Again I am in Texas.

Thanks in advance
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: It is federally illegal for a user of marijuana to possess or own firearms. So no, you can't.


Title: Restaurant told me at time of payment that they couldn't take anything but cash and agreed I could leave to get cash. They then called police and told police that I walked out on my check. What, if anything, should I do now?

Question:
Location is Manhattan.

I went to a restaurant for dinner the other night (alone, no one else along) and had a nice meal. I have been to this restaurant several times and they take all major cards, but when I asked for the check I was basically told "Just so you know, our machine is down and we are only accepting cash."  I had several types of cards on me and checks in my car but only a few bucks in cash.

I explained to the waitress that I wasn't told before I ordered and did not have cash on me. They were closing very soon, so she agreed that I could drop by with payment the next day.  She asked me to write down my name and phone number, which I did.

I went back this morning and learned that it seems like the waitress got into trouble for me not paying / not telling me before I ordered about the card machines or something, because she claims she didn't tell me I could. She claimed to management I simply walked out on my check (but mouthed "sorry" to me when they weren't looking).  I talked to the manager and then owner this morning who don't believe my "story".  They told me that last night they called police and filed a theft report, giving my name and info.  They had a copy of the police report where my name, address, etc. was all reported.

They told me to expect the police to "follow up" and to leave their restaurant immediately or they would call again.  They also rejected my money saying getting rid of a thief is worth more than a hundred bucks.

I am not sure what, if anything, I should do now.

Answer:
 Get a lawyer. Your side looks pretty good, since you did leave your name and number with them. Still, don't try to just explain this to the police without an attorney.Answer #2: Have you been charged with anything?

**If police show up, don't speak with them and contact an attorney.**

Explain that you had every intention of paying - The restaurant only accepts cash so you talked to the waitress and she agreed to let you pay the next day.

Answer #3: IANAL.  They could have easily taken your card information and charged it as soon as the machine was working again.  In fact, back when I used to cashier, there was a number we could call for each major credit card where we could process transactions over the phone when the machines were down.Answer #4: Every restaurant I've ever worked in has had "Crash Kits"

It includes an old fashioned machine you kids may have never seen.
http://i.imgur.com/Vg3f5Ha.jpg

We never had to use it though because the Point Of Sale system could run a credit card and store the info until the system is back online.

I find it extremely tough to believe that a restaurant would not have any backup if their credit card machine went down. Especially a place where a single person's check can total $100.

Something is fishy here.


Title: [VT] Landlord seems to have returned multiple security deposits to one renter

Question:
My boyfriend rented a house with 5 other people last year. He has recently moved out, along with 3 others. I am unsure of the relevance of this fact, but he was never included on the lease so (as far as I'm aware) the landlord could put more people in the house than was legal. Today he received a check from the landlord for 4 months of rent, which would equate to all 4 of the security deposits for those moving out. There was no communication from the landlord indicating that he should distribute this to the others, and regardless this seems as though it shouldn't be my boyfriend's problem to deal with.

Is he allowed to keep the money, or is the landlord able to take back the overpaid portion? Additionally, if he can keep the money and the others were indeed not given their deposit back, is the landlord still required to pay them as well?

Answer:
 > Is he allowed to keep the money,

No, because it's not his money.

He should contact the other tenants and distribute their portions.


Title: Curious as to the legality of this clause, and enforceability if it is legal.

Answer:
 IANAL, but that probably goes against quiet enjoyment of the property. Theoretically tho, I'd use this as an excuse to bombard my landlord with emails and texts inquiring about what does and doesn't qualify as spiceAnswer #2: First off, nobody can cook everything without oil. Some things, yes, but not all. Like go and fry an egg without butter and let me know how that works out for you.

But no spices? So, if I go to your home and find black pepper, this is grounds for eviction?  Chile, please!Answer #3: Could be enforceable if this involves shared common space.

I could also see an argument where the smell of cooking could be so strong in an apartment complex that it offends other tenants .... but this isn't the way to address it properly.


Title: I'm black. Daycare worker accused my wife of kidnapping and called the cops, didn't believe my son's mom was white. Wife had ID and is on the list. Is there a regulatory body where we can get policy/training changed so this doesn't happen again? LA

Answer: Talk to the day care's management about how the situation was handled.


Title: [San Antonio, TX] Scammed, Bought a Monitor off OfferUp that was assured worked but ended up not working, Is there anything I can do about it?

Question: I was assured through various texts, we messaged on OfferUp, and through text. Their reasoning was that they just moved and misplaced the power adapter for the monitor, they seemed nice enough so I suggested we switch to text so I can see more of the monitor - to see if replacing the power adapter could be easily solved. I ended up taking the monitor and buying an adapter online, when I first turned on the monitor it was had a large crack not visible when it was off, I tried messaging them about it and they've ignored all my texts and calls. I've taken screenshots of all the messages and pictures, I know their names and numbers. A simple google search Does show their address and accurate information. When buying it was said to be in perfect working condition and reassured it was. Is the anything I can actually do about this since I have proof and information about them?

Answer: You can take them to small claims court for the amount you spent on the monitor and adapter.


Title: Is this illegal or just unethical?

Question: Say you graduate high school and are a legal adult. A relative gets you a card and puts money in it. Your name is written on the envelope. They give the card to your mother to pass on to you instead of mailing it and mention they hope it helps with college expenses. Your mother later opens the card and takes out the money. She applies it to your college tuition. She gives you the opened card sans money. Is this legal?

Answer: IANAL. You’ve added a lot of unnecessary detail here but what you’re basically asking is if it’s legal to take money by promising to deliver it to the intended recipient and then not doing so. This is larceny-by-trick and is illegal. Whether any prosecutor would be interested is another matter, especially if the money ends up in the intended location, even if it didn’t pass through the hands of the intended recipient. Strictly speaking though, it seems to me that this meets the definition of larceny-by-trick


Title: Joe Biden's niece plead guilty to grand larceny. Her sentence seems ridiculously lenient. Am I wrong?

Answer: It was a deal she made with the DA this might have been in the best interest of the victim. By which I mean that she gets her money back pretty quickly instead if waiting years (details mattet yo know if it is lenient or not.


Title: Roommates think we need a maid.

Question:
Before I start I'd like to state our house is already pretty clean other than typical dust and dirt building up here and there.

Location: California
Basically my roommates think we need to get a maid to come and clean the house once or twice a month for $100+ per month. This is simply not within my means and therefore I said I'd like to pass. I'm on a sublease, the main lessee stated that it could come out of the deposit. This cannot legally happen right? It's no where in the sublease I signed and only states that damages and such will be deducted from the deposit.

Any advice?

Answer: Feel free to tell them no, you won't be paying for that. If he tries to take it out of your deposit you can take him to court over it at the end of your lease and you'll probably win.


Title: Arkansas - My girlfriend's father refuses to allow her to go on a road trip with the car that he bought her.

Question: We are both legal adults, with her being 20 and I 21. The car was bought for her and he is still making payments on it. He's threatening to stop payments on it if we leave the state to go on a road trip this summer. My girlfriend is afraid we can be arrested or face similar legal consequences. Can you give us a clear understanding of what we may face?

Answer:
 If the car is titled in his name, he can tell her how to use his car.  If the car is titled in her name, he can choose to stop giving her financial assistance.  Answer #2: IANAL.
If he owns the car and your girlfirend takes it against his will, then that would constitute theft.  If your girlfriend owns the car, then it would not.

He could choose to stop paying for the car at any time or for any reason.  Whoever's name is on the loan would be responsible to the lender for any payments.  They might both be responsible for them if he co-signed for her.  The payment stuff is a civil matter, however, not a criminal one.


Title: (CA) I've been trying to keep it cool, but I have no love for this job and have my co worker on camera (work and personal) saying "I'm just trying to make sure you're not taking it up the butt" and wonder what I do legally.

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 >  I might as well get some money out if it.

It's awful behavior and it is harassment but you're unlikely to profit unless you can show that the company (management/HR) was aware of the harassment and did nothing to stop it.


Title: Do I stand a chance in suing a hospital? [AU]

Question: A little back story to begin with - I've had problems with the ligaments in my knees for about 2 and a half years now which resulted in dislocations twice. As a result of this, I had an MPFL reconstruction in late October of 2017. Before the operation, despite the previous dislocations I had close to full function/use of my leg. However now almost 3 months post-op, I'm way behind in where I should be with recovery. In fact it's much worse than it was before as now I can't do normal everyday movements such as straightening it and lifting it, I have to be even more hesitant when walking as it now feels even more unstable than it did before which both my physio and family GP think is very unusual. I've had a CT scan and am waiting on results to see if everything is as it should be or if something is wrong. By the sounds of it though both my physiotherapist and GP don't think things are looking good. I was just looking for advice and wondering what my options would be if the damage is potentially already done and going back into surgery isn't able to fix it? I'm only 19 so not being able to have full use of my leg is going to be a huge impact on my life and will be very debilitating. My mother thinks if things are bad and can't be fixed that we should sue the hospital. Would suing be a good option? Is there anything else I could do?

Answer: There is a 99.9% chance that you will be highly unsuccessful in this endeavor.


Title: Are universities able to withhold disciplinary and other records from students?

Question:
If I received any disciplinary action in an accredited college or university, do I have a right to understand the charges and actions against me? Do I have a right to view this information or to know that they exist?

If I feel that no formal disciplinary action has been filed, but that informal disciplinary action has been taken without my knowledge, do I have any grounds for damages?

Or to put bluntly, I believe university officials may have been talking behind closed doors to deny me access to university personnel and services. However, I do not know if I have a right to access such. As far as I'm aware I have no formal charges or actions filed against me.

How best should I proceed?

I'm from the United States, but the university in question is a private institution.
Topic:
School Related Issues

Answer:
 >  but that informal disciplinary action has been taken without my knowledge

I'm fuzzy on this.  How, precisely, is disciplinary action taken against you without your knowledge?  It would not be very effective discipline if you were unaware of it...