Title: [CA] woman is stealing/scamming money from my job while I am temporarily in charge.

Question:
I work at a small liquor store and my boss has left for vacation until Saturday. Recently a woman has started coming in, mostly buying lottery scratchers but occasionally buying products. My coworker and I are the only ones at the store and she's starting to claim that she was short changed by the other person whenever we switch shifts. My coworker is new so I expected him to make some mistakes and at first gave her the change she claimed(\~$17). This morning my coworker opened and texted me saying the scratcher girl came in and told him she gave me 2 20's for a pack of cigarettes and didn't get her change(most expensive pack is about 10.50) he gave her $30 and said he'd make it up. I immediately went to the store and told him that never happened and to not service her anymore. She coincidentally came in a minute later and I confronted her about her claim. She said it wasn't her it was for somebody else. I told her it's not possible especially when it's change for actual items. I told her whoever sent her has to come in themselves to get their change, she said ok and that she didn't think it'd be a big deal. She bought one thing, some scratches, and left. I stood next to her while she was at the counter

my question is what can I say/do legally to make her go away until my boss comes back? I talked to the owner of the store next door and he told me to tell anyone who makes claims like that, that we have cameras(we do) and that my boss will review them. My problem is I don't like confrontations and I don't want to escalate things, so I'm seeking advice on what me and my coworker can do to keep her away until Saturday. I already told him to write down the times she comes in and to keep track of interactions he has with her

Answer:
 >my question is what can I say/do legally to make her go away until my boss comes back?

Assuming your boss has given you the authority over the store in their absence, something as simple as, "You're no longer welcome here.  Leave now.  If you do not leave now, or if you return to the store in the future, I will call the police."

And then call the police if she refuses to leave or comes back to the store.


Title: Can I get child support directed to me?

Question:
I am 17 and live in WI. My dad took off quite a while ago, but he pays child support. My mom always lied to me saying she got some ridiculously low amount of child support like $20 a month, and I believed it until I saw paperwork in the file cabinet that were records of her actually getting $300 a month (more or less),

Now that I am working she has basically stopped being my mom. She just got a divorce and we live with my grandparents. Recently she refuses to pay for anything for me because I have a job. I have to buy my own clothes, food, car insurance, etc.

The other day I asked her if she could put some money into my school lunch account and she said “you have a job, buy it yourself,” so I replied “you haven’t done anything for me for months could you at least put a little child support towards me?”

She got furious and told me off saying “that child support isn’t for you it is a gift to me for giving birth to you!”

I work a really crappy job and I can barely afford what I have after working my ass off. Is there any way I can get the child support directed to me?

Quick side note: She is currently in a custody battle with her old husband and I don’t want to screw that up, but I really need help.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Child support is owed to the parent, and not to the child.  There's no way for you to get that support.


Title: Who owns it? (New Jersey)

Question:
For as long as I've lived in my house (20+ years), there has been a Porsche 912 ('69) gathering dust in my garage. It once belonged to my mom's cousin (deceased), and may/may not have been willed to my grand aunt. Because of how long it has been sitting in our garage, could we lawfully repossess it?

EDIT: After searching the vehicle a bit more thoroughly, I've managed to come up with the VIN number and registration. However, because the VIN is only 9 numbers (as opposed to today's 17 character VINs), it won't come up on any internet-based search. Any suggestions?

Answer: I have no input but can we get a picture? For science?


Title: Had the cops called on me for parking in front of someone's house (MS)

Question:
So a few minutes ago, I was with my girlfriend out in the woods by a lake in our neighborhood that I live in. To get to the woods, I parked in a cul-de-sac, perpendicular to the entry street, not in front of any house in particular, but very vaguely between the two. There is a house on the left and the right of the cul-de-sac if you are coming from the entry street.
Well, in one of the houses, a woman called the cops and DEA (suspecting we were doing drugs, I guess) and had a tow truck on the way.
Luckily, one of my buddies told me she was out there and called me and told me to come quick, so I got my car and left before any of the presumed authorities arrived.

Assuming she's not bluffing, is there any legal repercussions for me parking on a public street, not even on her property? Just being generally vaguely in front of her house?
(Also, she claimed to be a federal prosecutor? I don't know if that's relevant)

Answer:
 If it's a public street, than anyone can park there and she can't have your car towed just because she doesn't want it parked there.

If the woods by the lake are private property, you can be arrested/cited/charged for trespassing if you're there without permission.


Title: My employer went against the company agreement and terms of employment contract. Can he do that?

Question:
I thoroughly read my terms of employment contract. It stated "To cover up obscene or offensive tattoos." That means tattoos do not have to be covered up unless they are obscene. That is what I signed. That is what I agreed to. It also said "To not come into the work place smelling of cigarette smoke."

My employer today asked me if I am planning any tattoos. I told him I an wanting an Ankh tattooed onto my finger. My employer told me I can't have a tattoo on display and work for the company at the same time. My employer also told me "Yes, I know it states "offensive tattoos" in the contract, but we don't like tattoos at all. He is changing a contract that has already been signed. I asked if I am allowed to leave the area and vape during my lunch break. He said no. I argued that "It's not smoke, it's vapour. It doesn't leave a smell. I would not smell of cigarettes in the slightest." He shrugged it off with a no. Again, something that goes against the contract that I signed. It did not prohibit tattoos. It prohibited offensive tattoos. It did not prohibit nicotine use. It prohibited smelling of cigarette smoke in the work place i.e no mention of smelling of vanilla almond milk which is what's currently in my ecig.

Answer: Need location as some states protect off the clock tobacco use.


Title: (Legal)(Serious)(Indiana) Can I be sued successfully in this situation?

Question:
I recently made a move. You know the drill, lots of furniture, lots of lifting, and overall stress over logistics ect ect.

My father was the only person I knew at the time that had a pick-up truck. He kindly authorized me to use it. Only his vehicle was parked at his job in a non-parking spot.

He has worked at the company for over 30 years. They would let him park on the roof and not say anything to him, but I actually needed to trade vehicles out, and I didn't feel right parking my car there.

Here is where things went a sour route. I had my younger brother 15 and his cousin 16 in the car with me. I was a mile distance from my home. I had heard his cousin boast many times over how good of a driver he was and that he had no issue driving my car if need be.

I asked him if he felt comfortable driving my car back to my home, which was less than a mile distance. I told him if he wasn't comfortable I would simply leave my car in that spot. No other spots were available unfortunately.

He agreed. So I got in the pickup truck and left my brother and his cousin in my car to follow me. It was a slow pace on a back road. Unfortunately he did not slow down on a turn, and was hit by an oncoming truck. My cousin was at fault. Unfortunately he did not have a drivers license and only a permit.

Flash forward his parents call me. Understandably upset, insurance costs went up for them, stuff costs money ect ect.

They just received a bill from the collection agency. I have never received anything and I'm definitely in no position to pay the damages in full of what happened to the other gentleman's vehicle. Especially considering my insurance was not active at the time of the accident. (A very regrettable situation).

My question is. If his parents go after me, which they most certainly will. There is a number they had on the bill, which I'm going to call tomorrow to see if there is some kind of agreement we can come to, otherwise I know I will be taken to court over these costs. What options do I have?

If you have read to this point I thank you very much for your time.

TL:DR I am an an adult and I had a minor (distanct relative) drive my car while I was moving furniture. Thought they had a license but it was only a permit. Less than a mile distance, and they hit another vehicle and his parents received a bill but I never been contacted by anyone regarding the situation. Am I screwed?

EDIT: Also just to reiterate I completely understand the stupidity of my actions in hindsight. Not necessarily trying to defend the decision just interested in information of how this would translate itself legally.

UPDATE: I was just told by the collections agency/State Farm that they do not care who receives the money. I have a bill as well as his parents. They said that by law they are responsible for his decision to operate my vehicle even if I was the adult in the situation. So it's more or less a 50/50 responsibility situation.

Answer:
 >I am an an adult and I had a minor (distanct relative) drive my car while I was moving furniture.

That was kinda dumb.

>Thought they had a license but it was only a permit.

You should have asked

> Less than a mile distance, and they hit another vehicle and his parents received a bill but I never been contacted by anyone regarding the situation.

You've been contacted by your cousin's parents

>Especially considering my insurance was not active at the time of the accident. (A very regrettable situation).

That was a really really really bad choice.

You let a 16 year old who didn't have a driver's license drive an uninsured car a YOUR COUSIN WAS DRIVING ILLEGALLY AND GOT HIT BY A TRUCK - can you stop minimizing this and blaming everyone else?

PAY THE BILL and be GRATEFUL your family is still talking to you because your let your COUSIN DRIVE YOUR UNINSURED CAR  with NO DRIVERS LICENSE. - OH - and HE GOT HIT BY A TRUCK. (I hope he's OK - you're worried about his parents going after you while you should be worried about your cousins well being)


Title: [AZ]Am a former CA MMJ patient. Can I legally bring my vaporizer, bong, grinder etc when moving from CA to AZ if they have traces of MJ on them?

Question:
I used to have an MMJ card in CA but because I also own firearms, I allowed it to lapse. I'm a very occasional user but sometimes suffer from chronic pain. Anyway, I'm going to be moving to AZ and would like to take my vaporizer, bong, grinder, etc with me because they are worth quite a bit of money and I doubt I could sell them easily and re-buy in AZ. Incidentally I have a stash of homemade edibles but I'm assuming bringing these would be even more legally questionable than just bringing the vaporizer, etc.

Questions: -Without a CA MMJ card, am I committing a crime by bring a vaporizer, bong, etc into AZ? They may have traces of MJ on them though I could try to clean them thoroughly. -If yes, should I renew my CA MMJ card prior to moving to AZ? -Is it illegal to transport the paraphernalia in my car along with loaded guns? (I am a CA CCW holder so whenever driving I keep my guns with me, loaded. I never have transported MJ or anything MJ related while carrying, and am not sure I'd be comfortable doing so, given the ambiguity surrounding firearms & MMJ at this juncture. But I'm thinking that I could perhaps have the items transported by the moving company I'm hiring.) -And finally, I'm assuming there's no safe way, from a legal perspective, to bringing my stash of edibles, but would love to hear if I'm mistaken here.

Thanks!!

Answer: Transporting illegal drugs and paraphernalia across state lines is a bad idea. Just get rid of them, especially if you don't need them anymore as you claim. Answer #2: No. That is bringing illegal drugs across state lines. Bad, bad idea.Answer #3: You would be breaking federal law and Arizona state law.


Title: Bondsman took my money and never posted bail

Question:
Louisiana is the location

The shortest version is that I called a bail bonds company, the person who answered directed me to another person who had me sign papers (which included my social) and I paid him four days later. He never posted the bond and continued giving excuses why he hadn't until I told him I was going to involve the police, where he gave more excuses but claimed he was going to refund me. What can I do? He lives 15 minutes from me or at least his family does so I guess I could just stake him out until he shows up but not really..I've contacted his family and friends and most of them are agreeing he is scamming me but aren't interested in stopping him. There's no physical business (found that out later) anymore, and I unfortunately sent the money through Walmart 2 Walmart, which is essentially a wire transfer.

What are my options for recovering the money? Or is this going to be a $600 loss?

Answer:
 You can sue him in small claims court.

Do not stalk or harass him. It won't help your case


Title: Discovered mold and mice after move-in, Landlord refuses to repair, wants to end the lease. I don't want to move again.

Question:
Hi all, I'm in need of some advice to see if I should escalate or comply with a landlord issue. I am in **New Jersey** if that matters.

**TL;DR?**

**Moved into a house knowing there might be mold after being told it can be cleaned myself easily. Cleaned it, but the mold came back, AND I discovered mice. Landlord refuses to fix it, threatens that he is going to end the lease if insurance denies his claim, unless I sign a document saying that I am responsible for the mold and take the house as-is.**

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**Backstory:**

When I came to see the home I was aware that there may have been mold in the basement. The real estate agent informed me that it's probably not mold and if it is then it can be cleaned easily. The landlord (who I never met since he lives on the other side of the country) informed the real estate agent that it's "just some dust sticking to the walls" and then passed that info along to me, verbally.

My wife and I liked the home besides the iffy basement, but the price was good and the overall quality of the home was nice, so we signed the lease. We asked the landlord for access to the home a few days early so we can clean the basement and it was granted. Fantastic!

**Cleaning Day:**

On cleaning day I went into the basement in a tyvek suit, respirator, goggles, and gloves and went to town with a bottle of clorox that was advertised as "Mold Killing Clorox" or something to that nature. Sprayed everything from top to bottom, went upstairs for 10 minutes and came back down.

I began to wipe down the walls and everything was coming off BEAUTIFULLY. Then I started to get a little light headed. Turns out the mask I used wasn't rated for chlorine gas (my mistake). So I took off the mask, ran upstairs and threw up a little. I waited an hour this time and went back down and finished up the job.

After I finished I went upstairs to help my wife with the upstairs portion of the home. Landlord claims he had a cleaning service come in, but we found literal piles of hair and nail clippings, and semen soaked napkins under the beds...wait, how do I know it's semen? Well there's used condoms inside them of course. (P.S. a few days later I got my first ever herpe/fever blister on my lip! But my wife and I never had any intimacy, and I haven't kissed anyone...so, yeah)

After that little horror show we continued to clean, took apart the nasty bed he provided for us and put in our own instead.

We opened up the refridgerator and WHOA! There was a mass of mold in the fridge and freezer that required an entire bottle of clorox and two rolls of bounty to clean up.

I informed the landlord of all of our findings and he responded by saying "The cleaning company probably missed some things, and I'm sorry about the mold in the fridge"

No biggie, it was clean now...right?

**Post Move-In: The Return of the Mold, and the Discovery of Mice**

It's been about a week now and since the day we moved in there's always been that odor that you just \*know\* is mold, but it's now starting to get stronger.

I go in the basement and discover the mold has returned. Turns out the air condition leaks and is causing humidity in the basement (I think?) and is making mold (I think?) Now...this basement mind you is only 4.5 feet tall and I'm over 6 feet tall so I have to crouch to get in there.

I accidentally stand up too high and broke one of the drop ceiling tiles. It falls out...and so does a dead mouse, covered in mold. Great...

**Informing the Landlord**

So I tell the landlord of my findings about the mold, about the air condition, and about the mouse.

Landlord outright refuses to repair it.

So I ask him if I can rip out the drywall, ceiling tiles, and carpet he put down there.

Landlord outright refuses to repair it.

What he instead does is call his homeowners insurance to see if they could cover it. He asks for a date, and I give him one. Insurance agent comes over and inspects the home and notices the smell in the basement is making him dizzy. I never touched the rat out of fear and he says there's nothing he can do about the rat but he can make the landlord fix the mold. GREAT!

**Veiled Threats**

The landlord is now mad that I told the agent about the mold (I didn't, he smelled it) and is saying that if his insurance denies him coverage then he will have no choice but to end our lease.

He offered to give me back my security deposit, but no mention of whether or not he'd return the money I paid to the real estate agent, the cost of moving in, the cost of cleaning up his mess, and the cost of moving out.

I also inform him that I do not want to move, that I love the home (besides the mold and mice) and that I just want him to take care of the situation.

**Landlord's "Solution"**

His solution to the problem? He wants me to send a letter to him stating that I took the home in as-is condition, and that I agreed to pay the cost for the mold cleaning service. WHAT!?

He also does not want to acknowledge the mice.

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Keep in mind folks, I really don't want to move again. There just aren't any more quality homes this late into the season, and it cost me A LOT of money to move-in to begin with.

I just want to be settled in and be happy and safe in a home for a few years to raise my family. I don't have the money to move again, and I definitely don't have the money to pay another real estate commission.

Any advice?

Answer:
 In New Jersey, tenants have all the rights.  Are you paying your rent on time? Seek legal help. Answer #2: IANAL but I don’t think the landlord has the right to just end the lease arbitrarily.  He’s on the hook to provide you housing over the term, if he can’t provide a house that’s livable that’s his problem.

At the very least he should cover movers but I’d imagine you’re entitled to more than that.  Don’t agree to just end the lease without considering you options, that would be a big win for him.


Title: Co-worker deletes my access to work program. Slips & admits to searching my desk & email. Owner reads from bible at meeting. Is this is hostile workplace?

Question:
Hi there & thank you for taking the time to read this. I work at a small business and throughly enjoyed it until last Fri. The office manager has known the owner since childhood, is of the same uncommon religion and has zero experience beyond this job with her duties: basic HR paperwork, billing, etc.

I mostly run division #2, while she assists our GM with division #1. Our jobs only intermingle in Quickbooks where we both invoice and the hallway bc it's a small building.

Thursday, while my Dept. manager & GM were on vacation, she decided to delete my QB access. She claimed I "really screwed up the whole thing". I got no warning & this made it hard to prep my crew that AM. What did I screw up? She claims I created invoices too early - 1 week before job date - and that totally threw off monthly her P&L. Acknowledges nothing else was "wrong". She blasts off passive aggressive email & repeatedly uses Part-timer to make nondescript requests on her behalf all day to me. Things like "I need the proposals you never put in QB".... (Which ones? Dates? From which sales tech?)
I respond by email, including the owner, my GM, the two coworkers she claimed had asked for these items and her. In my email, I say her email was unprofessional, unkind & that I'm not emotionally okay which isn't fair to me, our staff or customers, so I'm leaving early for the day. She sends nasty email back including only the owner.
My husband convinces me to call owner and we have a good chat. He's says it's just a miscommunication. We agree to meet Fri.

At Friday's meeting, this coworker becomes unhinged. It becomes clear to me that she's gone thru my desk & work emails. She recites a mental list of all the ways I've personally wronged her and/or mean things I've done to her (in her mind). I even supposedly told her 'everyone in the office hates you.' Who even says things like that? An 8yr old kid?? I literally have no fucking clue what she was talking about.
Our owner, while nice, isn't there day-to-day. And the GM is on vacay so I have zero back up. Owner does nothing to defend her accusation that I "really messed the whole system up" & doesn't pickup on her snooping admission. However, he does calm her down, and highlights that her concern about invoice dates isn't important & that these personal slights are in her head. I did feel like the owner heard my concerns with her actions (good) but he also read a bible quote during meeting (not good).
My husband says this is a 'hostile workplace' and I need to start documenting things. I don't know where to start? How do I work with someone who sees my every move as a personal attack against her? She legit is in need of mental help. I'll be working on applications soon & I hate to leave this job but I don't know what to do? How to act in the interim? Any help is appreciated :>

(Kansas)

Tl;dr: Co-worker randomly deletes my access to program, tells of all the imaginary slights against her by me & admitted to searching my desk & work email to prove slights. Owner reads from bible. Need advice on navigating this clusterfuck.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 "Hostile work environment" is a legal term of art and applies when an employer illegally discriminates against an employee.

This is not a hostile work environment.

>How to act in the interim?

You start by not antagonizing her via a group email:

>I say her email was unprofessional, unkind & that I'm not emotionally okay which isn't fair to me, our staff or customers, so I'm leaving early for the day.

If you have a problem with her, take it up with her. Going above her head to complain about how she hurt your feelings is a move that apparently pissed her off.
Answer #2: Legally, a "hostile workplace" is one in which poor treatment is based on membership in a protected class. Basic rudeness, or even hostility as most people use the word, is not illegal. It's not even illegal if people are rude to you  in particular as long as you are not being targeted for specific reasons, and it doesn't seem as if you are. It's also not illegal to read a religious text in a meeting.

(edit because words are hard)


Title: [SD] My wife is a teacher at a public school and caught a student filming her during class. Is this legally allowed?

Question: She was not filmed in an inappropriate manner and technically school policy doesn't allow phones. Looking for more guidance in the legal aspect. While it is a public school, I wouldn't consider it a public place and would assume there is some right to privacy especially since this was in the classroom.

Answer: If the school policy is no phones then she takes the phone away. If someone brings in a recording device that is not banned then ask again. But teachers have the right to manage their classrooms as they see fit within certain parameters. But no recording is certainly within the teachers rights. That being said, thankfully when I was teaching or principaling there were no cell phones. But if I was teaching today I would say that I would allow phones to be used for recording audio or visual for students to refer to. In other words as a back up to notes. But the moment they use the phone to text or google, or post to Instagram they lose it. Other teachers may  have a different view on whether it adds value to the student.Answer #2: It's not illegal. But it's probably agains school policy and if not, she can make it against her policy.Answer #3: Nothing generally illegal about filming someone in a public setting.  Her recourse is to report it to the school administration and let them handle it.


Title: [ID] I need to know about parent consent.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > We are just widening our options if something does happen and I want to know exactly what happens with stuff like that

You're going to need to be a bit more specific in your question there.


Title: Ontario, Canada - Rejecting a settlement offer that meets all of my demands

Question:
Location: Ontario, Canada

I have an ongoing action against a large corporation under Ontario Superior Court of Justice – Small Claims Court. I served my Plaintiff’s Claim and the Defendant responded with a Claim of their own, denying the allegations. I am self-represented while the corporation is being represented by a paralegal.

Under rules of the Small Claims Court, a settlement conference was held where both the facts and law were heavily on my side. The Defendant presented a formal settlement offer that includes everything I am seeking in my suit + costs.

I want to reject it because I believe there is public interest in having this suit to go to trial. I was bullied around by the corporation during the process until I filed the lawsuit. Other people share the same experience online. If I can get this case settled in my favor, I can get the case law firmly on the side of the consumers, and make it easy for future consumers to get what they want (by citing my case).

I also want to expose the lies in the Defendant’s Claim and have all of it documented during trial, for when I eventually go to the media after all of this is settled.

Question is: will my actions be frowned upon by the court? Is it considered wasting their time? Do my reasons for rejecting the settlement make sense?

Note: I do know that if the final judgement is against me or it is for an amount less than the settlement already offered to me, I will be responsible for some of the costs incurred by the Defendant. I am fine with this and accept the risks.

Answer:
 Yes, this would be frowned upon. If the settlement offer includes your entire demand, and you turn it down, expect to need to explain to the judge why you think you should spend the court's time reaching the same outcome you've already achieved. The defendant may even move to dismiss your claim.

This isn't an opportunity to "tell your story." Depending on the terms of the settlement, you may never _get_ to "tell your story," especially if your settlement includes a mutual non-disparagement clause (as is common). Shit happens, but this is a very poor reason to force a case to trial.

You will not establish case law in the initial trial (especially not if you're appearing pro se, or in small claims), and if you win, you don't get to appeal and force the case into a higher court, so your chances of setting any meaningful precedent here are limited. As far as "getting the facts out there" goes, the transcript isn't going to be read by anyone, and the testimony and evidence aren't going to be remembered by the judge or jurors for more than a few days past the end of the trial.


Title: [OH] Manager is going on maternity leave and I am going to be required to take on her managerial duties while she is gone. I have asked about relief pay, but was told no. Is my employer legally obligated to compensate me?

Question: These extra responsibilities will include schedule making, attending manager meetings (outside of scheduled hours), and just extra tasks throughout the day in general. I don't mind the extra responsibility, and I see it as a way to work toward being a manager in the future, but I feel like I still deserve extra compensation. Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 That sounds like they're taking advantage of you. Do you really want to advance with a company such as this:

"Hey, Good news! We're gonna let you take on twice as much work for no extra pay. Arent you excited?"

Take on the tasks. Then, do a new resume adding "acting manager" - and listing all the managerial tasks you did. Then get that resume out there, and find a managers job elsewhere that is deserving of you,
and where they treat you with respect.  Good luck, friend. Reddit is pulling for you:)Answer #2: They're not required to pay you more, but you're also not required to work for them.  You can threaten to quit unless they pay you more, and they might have to if you think they can't afford to be without both you AND your manager. Answer #3: No, they aren't legally required to compensate you.Answer #4: A good company would give you the extra pay for the extra work. If this company won't do it, then this isn't a company you want to be a manager for down the road.


Title: Neighbor keeps calling the cops.

Question:
Apologies for grammar,format, punctuations the last grade I completed was the 7th. This is going to probably be long.

A little background. I finally moved my wife and son out of the Bronx to Westchester where there is less temptation...absolutely more quiet.less violence, better schools,cheaper rent etc... being born and raised in the bronx you need to have certain characteristics to not be taken advantage of. I did not live a law abiding citizenship  for most of my life fought plenty of dopeheads been stabbed multiple times,shot, shot at people, stabbed people you get the point....After spending 4 yrs in prison you learn to turn your life around be a hood boy and set an example for your son. Enough about me I think.

 The third day of moving in we had a knock at the door which is until this date the most disgusting foul human being i have ever laid my eyes on(seen a few in my life). My wife opens the door and she is greeted with a fake bubbly hi by a elderly woman mid 60s followed by “i am your neighbor from downstairs and me and the previous tenant had an agreement about noise levels i can see you are heavy on your feet but can you maybe tone it down a little bit” I could see my wife’s face holding back to slap her(she basically called her fat)saying she apologizes for the noises but we just moved in  and we are getting things situated here blah blah she leaves.

My wife and I are never home from 6:30am until probably 6-8pm depending on traffic weekdays only. Every single day for a month the lady would come up exactly around 7-9pm after pounding the broom i guess to the ceiling for about ten min? Saying its too loud bla bla im batshit crazy bla bla. I just want to clarify I am overweight but in no way stomping,playing music,jumping,exercising,fucking the bed board to death,none of that shit and neither is my son, at the end of the day i just want to relax and relax some more after taking my son to school going back home picking up my wife take her to work go to work go get the baby then pick her up and finally get home. After that month she started calling the cops ever so often 2-3 times a week? For noise complaints. Every time same routine, cops come there’s nothing fishy and they leave. Gets annoying but i kinda get used to it.

It has been 7 months of tortuous police visits and my sons 10th birthday is coming up. We throw a party and of course the cops are there 3 separate times throughout the night and By the 3rd time i am drunk irritated,embarrassed in front of my guest in my new “ticket out the ghetto” place, curse the fuck out of the cops(they are so nice up here) almost getting arrested in the process but ended getting a ticket instead for noise complaint.

Its been 22 months living here and honestly i love the area but this neighbor is literally mind fucking me. I talked to the property manager with my wife to see if anything can be done and she has done nothing. I have no idea what to do is this harassment? What do i do ? Go back to my old ways and pay crazy glue her locks ?pour sugar in her gas  tank ? Send some teenagers to rob her nooooo right ??? Please help and comment please need some guidance.

Answer:
 Really sorry you are dealing with this. That sounds terrible. I found an article on a website that is a more articulate version of what I was going to write. Might be worth reading: [https://www.brickunderground.com/blog/2011/12/keeping\_the\_peace\_what\_to\_do\_if\_a\_neighbor\_is\_harassing\_you](https://www.brickunderground.com/blog/2011/12/keeping_the_peace_what_to_do_if_a_neighbor_is_harassing_you)Answer #2: Whatever you do, don't curse the cops and almost get arrested again.

Not a law\\yer.


Title: Can I sue a doctor for malpractice for not writing a prescription that saves me from life threatening situations?

Question:
OK,  so I have a severe anxiety disorder which causes me to have very bad panic attacks.  During one of these attacks my blood pressure skyrockets and puts me into a really dangerous state,  my heart also goes into afib beating sometimes as high as 200bpm on several occasions my heart had to be stopped for a second to restarted.  I don't have to tell you how dangerous this is.

 A single 0.5cent pill completely prevents this and my doctor refuses to write it for me. I usually get my needs from a psychologist but in this sometimes takes months to get In to see them.  Recently iIhad to switch the armpits and iIam out of my. Men's for the next few months.  I asked my GP doctor if he could write me a prescription for this medicine so I would not end up in this if threatening situation and he flatly refused saying "iIwas not important enough to write the prescription and all he cared about was his family"  he said I was not worth the risk of writing the prescription.

Since then  I have been in the ER 3 times because my doctor doesn't  care enough about me as a patient to write a simple prescription for a problem he acknowledges that I have.  It's there any thing iIcan do legally for pain and suffering caused my his neglected?

Answer:
 So I looked through your commenting history and it appears the medicine you are trying to obtain is Xanax. Your doctor won't prescribe it because it is not the correct medicine to take for a heart problem. You said something different in your other post, that 'your doctor decided Xanax was bad for you.' Xanax is a controlled substance and he probably thinks you are medication seeking. In fact, threatening legal action is a common tactic addicts use when they are seeking medication.

I really doubt your doctor said that to you and I think you are wasting people's time here. If you really are interested in a medication for your heart, ask about a beta blocker like metoprolol or propranolol which are non-controlled medications.


Title: [OH] Employer not allowing any breaks on job when working more than 5 hours.

Question:
I've been at this job for 7 months now and these no-break rules are starting to get to me. I didn't want to take any action at first because I didn't want to risk being fired or have hours cut. [OHIO REVISED CODE CHAPTER 4109](http://www.com.ohio.gov/documents/laws_mllposter.pdf) says "REST PERIOD: No employer shall employ a minor more than 5 consecutive hours without a rest period of at least 30 minutes." I'm 17 and been working at the same place since 16 so this applies to me.

[Here's ORC 4109.11 going into more detail than the pdf saying the break hours must also be logged for 2 years by the employer](http://codes.ohio.gov/orc/4109.11)

There's around 4-5 other minors that work there that get no breaks.

my questions are:

1. How can i report them, and would that be the best option? Should I just find another job instead or reporting them? also

2. Can i get fired for reporting them?

Thanks!

Answer: Have you brought this up to your manager?  You can contact the Ohio Department of Labor


Title: [Florida] parked car with no insurance got hit, and the at fault drivers policy won’t cover them!

Question: I was in the process of trying to sell my car, and with the car being parked a freak accident occurred with multiple vehicles and my car was one being hit. The person at faults insurance is not covering them, as the car was technically insured but not under their name but their spouses. I don’t know what to do! It was in Miami Dade county in Florida.

Answer:
 > I don’t know what to do!

You sue the at-fault driver.


Title: [FL] Constitutionality of clergy's privilege?

Question:
I was reading over Florida's [laws about evidence](http://www.leg.state.fl.us/Statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&URL=0000-0099/0090/0090.html) and I found that 90.505 left a bad taste in my mouth.

    90.505 Privilege with respect to communications to clergy.—
    (1) For the purposes of this section:
    (a) A “member of the clergy” is a priest, rabbi, practitioner of Christian Science, or minister of any religious organization or denomination usually referred to as a church, or an individual reasonably believed so to be by the person consulting him or her.
    (b) A communication between a member of the clergy and a person is “confidential” if made privately for the purpose of seeking spiritual counsel and advice from the member of the clergy in the usual course of his or her practice or discipline and not intended for further disclosure except to other persons present in furtherance of the communication.
    (2) A person has a privilege to refuse to disclose, and to prevent another from disclosing, a confidential communication by the person to a member of the clergy in his or her capacity as spiritual adviser.
    (3) The privilege may be claimed by:
    (a) The person.
    (b) The guardian or conservator of a person.
    (c) The personal representative of a deceased person.
    (d) The member of the clergy, on behalf of the person. The member of the clergy’s authority to do so is presumed in the absence of evidence to the contrary.

From what I understand, people can generally be forced to testify about the conversations they had with someone else, but there are certain exceptions to that. Spouses, lawyers, and journalists I can understand, but it seems like confessions to clergy count as well?

That doesn't seem right to me. Besides the obviously biased wording of the law (why mention Christianity/Judaism in particular and not Islam/Buddhism/etc?), why is that any different from confidentially discussing something with a friend? As an atheist, I don't belong to any  religious organization nor would I feel comfortable going to one. If I did a Bad Thing™ and needed to talk to someone about it, I would instead  talk to a close friend about it. But unless I'm missing something, the friend wouldn't have the same privilege as a clergy and could be compelled to testify, correct?

Has this issue ever been raised in court? With the general lack of [secular churches](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sunday_Assembly) in America, there's no equivalent for nonbelievers and therefore it seems like the law is effectively playing favorites based on religion. What are the chances that something along these lines could successfully be argued in a criminal case?

Answer:
 >Besides the obviously biased wording of the law (why mention Christianity/Judaism in particular and not Islam/Buddhism/etc?)

Those are examples and not exclusive.  The statute includes those religions as well, and "any religious organization or denomination usually referred to as a church."

>why is that any different from confidentially discussing something with a friend?

Because it is logical and well-established result of the first amendment free exercise clause.  It's believed that society benefits by having spiritual counseling available, and to be truly available, individuals must be able to tell the truth.

>But unless I'm missing something, the friend wouldn't have the same privilege as a clergy and could be compelled to testify, correct?

That's correct.  You could talk to a psychologist instead.  Or you could talk to a minister of any religion even if you don't belong to the religion, as long as you wanted to seek spiritual guidance.  It's the clergy-penitent privilege, not a clergy-believer privilege.

> in America, there's no equivalent for nonbelievers and therefore it seems like the law is effectively playing favorites based on religion

No, it isn't, because it treats all religions equally.  The fact that you lack a religion simply means this one protection doesn't apply to you -- the same way the marital privilege doesn't apply to someone who is single.


Title: Neighbors complained about my dog, worried it will happen again and I could lose him

Question:
Hi all,
So my boyfriend and I just got And apartment together 2 or 3 months ago. I have my dog with me (a gsd mix) and he’s skittish around people he doesn’t know and has never been aggressive. I went to take him out to go potty one night and our neighbor (let’s call her Karen) and her friend were outside installing an air conditioner (in September in Vermont). My dog ran down the stairs barking but stopped at the bottom of our stairs. Long story short Karen filed a complaint saying that my dog came down barking and snapping and growling at her which he definitely didn’t do. We proceeded to talk for a few minutes and at one point she reached out her hand to let my dog sniff it, he didn’t and he let out another small bark but that was it.
Today my bf was returning from getting breakfast and had the dog with him. At the same time he was getting home Karen was coming out of her apartment with her kid (13 yrs old) and my dog barked at them once and then ignored them and he and my boyfriend came back inside. Do they have any grounds to file another complaint? He wasn’t close to them and didn’t lunge or anything, just the one bark.

Answer:
 If you don’t want to lose your dog, go buy a 6 foot leash now.  Before your dog goes out the door, attach one end to the dog’s collar, and keep the other end firmly in your hand at all times unless your dog is safely confined in a fence or your car.  Don’t let your dog approach people who you don’t know or who look like they don’t want to pet your dog.

Your neighbor clearly doesn’t want to have your dog running up to them and/or barking at them.  If you don’t keep your dog under your control, then they will probably continue to complain to the landlord and possibly animal control.


Title: [Quebec, Canada] My mother's ex-boyfriend stole 20k from her, is there something she could do legally?

Question: My mom met this guy on a dating site. At first all was well except for the fact he never wanted pictures taken of him, which my brother and I found a little odd. He had my mom twisted around his little finger. She would believe anything he would say. After a couple of months they decided to go on trips which were paid by my mom (we had no idea at the time). Little did we know he also had her pay for his brand new car which he said he would pay back. The car was 20K. He gave my mom 10K and then started telling her all the time that she should start redeeming her RSP's and hide the money in the house so that she wouldn't have to pay interests. My mom unfortunately listened to him and hid the money in the house and then it suddenly disappeared. Surprise, the only other person who knew where it was, was this guy! He played innocent but there was no break in ever at my mom's. He then convinced her that it was a robbery and somehow not to call the police. We have just found out about all this after a year and a half!! Is there something we can do?

Answer: She can call the police


Title: I paid a tutor $800 to do my online English class, and he failed it. I asked for my money back, and now he is blackmailing me. What should I do?

Question:
I am in New York.

I paid a tutor $800 to do my online English course, and he got me an F in it. I asked him for my money back, and he said that if I dispute the payments he will contact my school and report me for cheating. What should I do?

Answer:
 Do your own coursework?

You can sue him if you like but it won't change your grade and it won't stop him from telling the school they shoulde expel you. Also, unless the agreement had some kind of guarantee about your grade you may not even be due the money back under your agreement. Answer #2: You learned a valuable lesson (hopefully) and it only cost you $800.


Title: Vacations

Question: The Mother of my child refused to vaccinate our child, we're not married... Do I have any legal ground to stand on?

Answer: Take the child to get vaccinated, then, next time you have visitation.  No court would fault you for that, though it might degrade the relationship you have with the mother.


Title: I was let go for being pregnant.

Question:
First, I feel like I should mention I am in the US, Ohio in particular. I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant.

I got a job November 2nd when I was about 3 weeks pregnant. The job was working with dogs. When I had my first OB appointment I talked with my doctor about my job and asked about safety. He told me the job was perfectly fine since I wasn’t working with cats.

I waited until 8 weeks to tell my boss. She told me I could not work there after the second trimester or when I started to visibly show. I think half of it is genuine concern, half of it is being afraid something will happen and she will get sued. She asked when my second trimester began and I told her and she decided that would be my last week and took me off the schedule (we pre-schedule a month in advance.) Technically, I did give her the date of my second trimester but when I told her I was pregnant I told her how far along I was so she would have easily figured it out.

A week before the date she took me off I had a threatened miscarriage and was told my the ER to go on light work duty until I saw my doctor (it was a Sunday and I saw my doctor on a Thursday.) My job isn’t exactly light work, but the restriction could have been accommodated as I was usually never alone there anyway and if I was it was for an hour. She did not accommodate the light work and took me off the schedule early. I have text messages proving she took me off for being pregnant. I won’t lie. At the time I wasn’t super upset because I had just almost lost my kid. But now I’m jobless and was given full clearance to do the job in full that Thursday.

Should I take this to the BBB or let it go? I know she has done this before and she even once said, “I wonder if it is legal to only hire lesbians because they don’t get pregnant.”

TL;DR Was let go for pregnancy, not sure if it was legal.

Answer:
 How many people work there?

> Should I take this to the BBB

The Better Business Bureau is essentially an older version of Yelp. Despite the name, it is not a government organizationAnswer #2: How many employees does your employer have? The federal law against pregnancy discrimination does not apply to companies with 15 or fewer employees.


Title: Do you consider this Judge Neutral and detached? Issued a search warrant and weeks prior had heatd argument with defendant in public...

Question:
Defendant works at medical clinic. Judge stopped in and requested records of someone else. Defendant refused to furnish arguing hipaa laws. Judge threw a tantrum, refused to leave, asked for full name and wanted to alk to supervisor. supervisor refused also being a hipaa violation. (judge is well known to be  a diva at clinic) Overall, argument was very heated.

Six weeks later Judge presided over search warrant application.

Per constitution- Issuing magistrate must be neutral and detached when finding probable cause. There are grey area in affidavit where judge may have overlooked small glaring detail or made an inference that is usually unfair to make and does not provide substantial basis for probable cause.

bare bones affidavit, conclusory in nature. only contraband lacked indices of residency or nexus to house to be searched.

Answer: Your problem here is incredibly situation specific.  If the target of the warrant wants to challenge the warrant, they can.  Answer #2: I'm not a lawyer but I'm going to make a guess here that this is going to be very specific and you'd want to talk to an attorney in your own location with all the details. I don't think this is something that Reddit is going to be able to help you with.


Title: [Minnesota] My landlord hasn’t charged me for parking in months and now they want to charge me next month for all of it. Is this legal?

Question:
I signed a lease agreement saying I’d pay $1748 a month for my rent and an extra $100 a month per parking spot. We had one spot from the beginning which put our monthly charge at $1848 and then added a new tenant to our lease three months ago and she also got a parking spot, and we all signed an updated lease that has the additional $100 on it so the total monthly charge is $1948.

However, my landlord forgot to charge us the additional $100 for the last three months and is now trying to collect it. She claims we didn’t sign an additional document that allows them to collect, however we never signed such a document for the first car and they apparently chose to wait three months to decide to tell us that they needed another document signed in order to collect for the additional spot, which all just sounds so sketchy and I don’t think it’s even true since now they’re just gonna tack on an extra $300 to next month’s rent.

Is this legal? I did agree to pay $1948 a month but they are the ones who only charged us $1848 a month. Can they retroactively collect a large sum like that after neglecting to charge us?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: Yes you owe what you agreed toAnswer #2: You owe the money. You could go back to the landlord and propose a different payment plan if their error is causing a hardship, especially around the holidays. Like propose paying an extra $100 per month for three months instead of all of it at once.


Title: Mpls—landlord not responding

Question:
Original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8ef7d0/lease_break_vs_lease_takeoversublease_mpls_mn/

I’ve spoken to people who are interested in renting my place. They’ve called and called and LL just won’t respond. I’ve also called him for updates at least 5 times and he hasn’t returned my calls. Certified mail letter is still sitting in the PO box and hasn’t been picked up.
Is there a good next step to take to get him to respond? It’s frustrating knowing he’s being like this, but this isn’t r/unprofessionaldickheadlandlords, so any legal recourse/steps I could take to get this sorted out or at least get a response would be great.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Read your contract to see if you can sublease or assign to a new tenant. If you can go ahead move forward. If you sublease and the person fails to pay you will be liable.

You can also just breach your contract as well, you will be on the hook and the apartment is will have to attempt to find a new tenant but you will be responsible until then.

The only recourse you would have for your LL not responding is if there was an issue with the apartment and you needed it to be fixed.


Title: Small business, prevent reverse engineering on robots [Michigan]

Question:
I work for a small company (~20 employees) and I am one of the two R&D people who makes robots.  Recently, a competitor was given all of our IP on how we make our robots (we don’t know how yet), and they started manufacturing them as well (and even forgot to remove our business name on the documents they released).

Outside of that, we have been tasked with trying to find ways to make it difficult for our product to be reverse engineered in the future.

We get a lot of parts from a lot of random suppliers.  This rogue company called each supplier, one by one, to try to get the same parts we buy.  Some of them are proprietary, but the supplier just “re-invented” it in a way that was slightly different, and sold it to the rogue company.

Is it legal to form a fake second company (let’s call it “NotATrapIncorporated”) and put the fake contact info on parts that we manufacture so we can try to make the rogue company’s life difficult when they inevitably call us to ask if they can buy our parts.

This means that one of the parts that goes on the robot (that we designed and manufactured) will have our fake company name on it.  So the rogue company will call “NotATrapIncorporated”, which is really us.
Topic:
Intellectual Property

Answer: This is a question that should be addressed to your company's general counsel.Answer #2: Why are you forming a fake second company? Just form a *real* second company and spin off the parts manufacturing part of the business. That's legitimate. It seems like it would be a waste of time, though, since your competitor is going to catch on eventually.


Title: Stealing someone else’s identity and making a bomb threat?

Question:
[I came across this interesting article on how 2 students framed another student for making a bomb threat.](https://newsone.com/3329339/muslim-student-framed-bomb-threat/)

This is a pretty interesting (and scary) concept, the fact that someone can pretend to be you, commit a serious crime, and land you in trouble.

How would the police even know that you’re innocent, if someone framed you? Logically, even if you were guilty, you’d probably deny that you did it.

Answer:
 The fact that you used the word “framed”, and everyone knows what it means here, shows this isn’t a new problem nor one with an easy solution.Answer #2:
>How would the police even know that you’re innocent, if someone framed you? Logically, even if you were guilty, you’d probably deny that you did it.

The same way they solve every other crime. Evidence.

From the article, it seems the *only* piece of evidence against the person being framed is that the bomb threat was sent from their account, since they left their account logged in.

One of the first things the police do when investigating is ascertain your alibi. If the student in question was in a different class at the time the threat was sent, they would just verify with the teacher and classmates. If the student was in fact in a different room, then they (probably) didn't send the threat.Answer #3: It's also worth noting that someone can just straight up murder you and get away with it. Something like a third to half of murders in the US go unsolved depending on your source and definition. Plus some unknown proportion of "solved" murders actually ended with the wrong person being arrested/imprisoned.  The legal system is far from perfect.


Title: Ex won’t stop contacting me. What are my options?

Question:
My ex who I haven’t talked to in a year keeps calling me through unknown numbers. I’ve blocked all the ones with a number present, but the “No Caller ID” ones can’t be blocked.

I came home to find flowers on my front lawn. That means he came to my house after i made it clear i don’t want to be near him.

He’s blocked on everything by me and my family. I’m getting concerned. What are my options? I don’t want to get him in trouble to give him a record, i just want it to stop.

I have LegalShield through my insurance if that helps.

Answer:
 He's continuing to bother you despite you telling him to cease and the behavior has no purpose other than to annoy, alarm, or bother you. This is textbook harassment.

You got to the police for harassment.Answer #2: >I don’t want to get him in trouble to give him a record

Why not? This is harassment. You need to protect yourself. Every time he calls, file a police report. Talk to the police. *Every time.*

And frankly, don't worry about a "record"--the only records that would exist would be in the police station, and aren't publicly accessible, if you're worried about, for example, preventing him from getting a job. (Which I still don't think you should be worried about, but it sounds like you are worried about.) A restraining order won't hurt him unless he violates it like an idiot and it will protect you, but you can't get one unless you start filing police reports.

This isn't going to go away on its own, it's already gone on for a year.Answer #3: Stop worrying about whether or not he gets in trouble and go to the police. Your safety is more important than a stalker's record.


Title: [BC, Canada] My husband is refusing to let me leave the house with the kids. One is my stepdaughter. Legally, he has sole custody. Can I take her if I feel the house is unsafe?

Question:
To clarify what I mean by unsafe, my husband has anxiety and when the kids scream and are upset it turns into anger. He smokes pot, in front of the kids sometimes. My kids are 4 and 1.

ETA: he also wrecked a lamp this morning and last week when he was mad he broke a bunch of shit and was throwing stuff.

I'm just asking for short term: if I call the cops will they let us leave? At least until Tuesday when I can talk to a lawyer.

[Update] I left with my son. We're getting a divorce. I'll be speaking to a lawyer on Tuesday.

Answer:
 We're going to need more details, but generally speaking, no you cannot take someone else's child.

If the home is unsafe, depending on the situation, calling the police is your best bet. Answer #2: To clarify, do you mean that he has sole custody of all of the children, or he has sole custody of his stepdaughter and there is no custody order for the kid(s) you share since you are married? (Are there two kids or three?)

Answer #3: To clarify what I mean by unsafe, my husband has anxiety and when the kids scream and are upset it turns into anger.  He smokes pot, in front of the kids sometimes. My kids are 4 and 1.

ETA: he also wrecked a lamp this morning and last week when he was mad he broke a bunch of shit and was throwing stuff.

I'm just asking for short term: if I call the cops will they let us leave?


Title: Landlord not giving last month's rent

Question: Hello I am from Ontario Canada, I am new to renting I have rented my first room with a rental agreement signed for 12 months with first and last paid. Recently my landlord has up and decided she wants me out before the first of May and she insists not paying me last month's rent because she needs the money to pay for the month of may and that she has no money to give cuz of her renovations on the house. I tried to reason with her too and tell her that she has to or I must stay for the month of May and even that is not flying with her. Like I'm fine with her not wanting me to stay for the month of May infact after the way I'm being treated I would much like to move out before May now too and have some money to save for a new place but she won't give me the money. I really want to take legal action but I dunno how to go about it.

Answer: Stay put. Last month's rent is exactly what it says it is. If you've not paid a deposit, she should be walking on eggshells hoping you won't eff the place up. Your landlord is a douchelord.


Title: Lady asked us to leave park or she would call home owners association and cops

Question: I know this is a stupid inquiry, but me and my friends like to hang out at a park/playground by on of our houses. For some background: This has been going on for a few weeks now, the park is new and we just chill there after school every now and then. It has a playground but it isn’t childish, it looks more for kids 12+ as it is kind of a parkour course with giant nets, ropes, and ladders to climb over. We aren’t hooligans by any means who like to smoke or do drugs in a park, we are just high school seniors who like to run around the little parkour course we made and talk about our future lives in college. Today, while we were just lying down to relax, middle aged woman came up to us and asked if we lived here. We all pointed up to our friend who did and said he did. She then asks “what is your address”. Looking back he shouldn’t have said anything, but he said a fake address. She then says “you guys have to leave. I’ve been watching you for the past few weeks and you play in this park. This park is for kids, you need to leave now or I will call the HOA and the police.” Since we aren’t trying to escalate anything, we just say okay and pick up our stuff to start going, but she keeps telling us to leave right now or she will call them. If she just told us to leave then we wouldn’t have a problem, but she came in as very prissy and entitled so we don’t care what she says. We still want to go back to the park cause that is our spot to just laugh together before we got to leave each other for college, but she will probably confront us again. Are we doing anything against the law that she can use against us? Once again, we have a friend who lives in the area giving us access to the park, and we aren’t being reckless and are using the park equipment correctly. Also once again, I get this is a very trivial matter but any advice would help

Answer: You don't have to leave. In fact next time have the nonemergency number for the police ready. When she says if you don't leave she is going to call the police, say nothing to her, call the number and tell them that you have an adult female harassing you.


Title: Sold Alcohol to Minor in Florida

Question: I am a 26 year old woman, police sent 19 year old asian in and I assumed she was old enough and didn't ask for ID at the convenience store I've worked at for 8 months. Cops came in later and said I have to appear in court as this was a misdemeanor charge. They said I could ask for pre-trial so I could possibly just get community service and my record cleared in a year. How does this work? Is this my best course of action? I don't have a lot of money to pay the fine and I heard the outcome is either paying that, just paying court costs if they're lenient, or this pre-trial thing. Please help! I've only ever gotten a speeding ticket and expired tags ticket.

Answer:
 First offense can be a $500 or up to 60 days in jail. You should ask for pre-trial to see if they will offer something like community service as this is your first offense.
Answer #2: I would not go further without at least a consultation from an attorney.  You can get one through the [Flordia BAR association](http://www.floridabar.org/lawyerreferral).  They can tell you where you stand.

You can pay for $25 for a half hour consultation and can decide if you need more from there.

This is a second degree misdemeanor.  What the cops told you may be true or not but the ultimate decision is not up to them.  It will be up to a judge.  They can assign any fine $500 or less in addition to other various penalties depending on the specifics.


Title: Served with Motion for Contempt of Consent Order - Need Help! (NC/USA)

Question:
42 White Male

Divorced since Nov 2016 (separated since Sept 2015)

2 kids, daughter 9, son 7

Consent Order signed by Judge in March 2016 (retro-effective to Sept 2015) with the following key components:

Child custody schedule (50/50 split, both kids go back and forth on the 2/2/3 day schedule)

Child support (I owe her) $1,685 on the 20th of each month (I’ve paid every month, on-time since Sept 2015, with total CS paid to date of $44,126)

Alimony (I owe her) $2,125 on the 5th of each month (I’ve paid every month on time since Sept 2015, with total paid to date of $57,375)

“Pro rata” of 77% on pretty much all expenses for the kids (including $$ summer camps) except:
She carries health insurance for both kids (through large University employer)
She pays after-school care @ $400 a month

At time CO was signed I was employed at large tech firm with $220k annual salary
I was traveling a lot and thought that travel schedule would continue (she would take kids on my days of custody when I was traveling) (did not travel in 2017, had kids on all my days)
Optimistic about job and prospect of bonus(es)

At time CO was signed she was employed at large University with $66k annual salary

I was laid off from large tech firm with last day of employment on Dec 29, 2017
Notified of layoff on Dec 12, 2017
Paid for 3 weeks of vacation not taken on last day of employment  (~$8,500 after tax)
Granted 1 month severance (still not received yet, likely to be ~$11k after tax)
Total compensation in 2017 from large tech firm is $240k

I filed a Motion to Modify with the Courts and will ask for a suspension of child support and alimony during the months of unemployment, “Pre-Trial Conference” (PTC) date set for Feb 9, 2018

I paid a partial child support ($500) on Dec 20, 2017 because I was/am worried about funds to cover my unemployment period, I just paid the balance because I’m hopeful the severance payment arrives soon

I didn’t pay alimony on Jan 5, 2018

I paid partial Child Support of $500 on Jan 20, 2018

She filed a Motion for Contempt

I do not plan on hiring a lawyer to support this Motion to Modify and or defend from Motion for Contempt for the following reasons:

I don’t want to pay any more lawyers (to date more than $50k paid in legal fees)

I don’t think it helps my case to pay a lawyer (I’m arguing I don’t have money to pay CS and alimony, where do I have money for lawyer?)

At this point I’m not sure lawyers really help much (in these situations, no offense)

PRIMARY QUESTIONS:

Am I being reasonable with my ask to suspend alimony and child support during unemployment?

Will I be found to be in contempt for not paying alimony and/or partial CS ($500 only) in January? (I don't plan on paying anything in Feb 2018 or beyond until I have a job)

What is the process for the Motion to Modify and the “pre-trial conference”? What is the expected outcome from this initial PTC?

What do I need to do if I want to represent myself?

Can I object to (most of) her long, long list interrogatories and requests for documents her lawyers sent over?
I don’t want to give over personal banking info as it’s personal

Other Key Considerations:

Ex-wife is from wealthy family in Louisiana, oil money

Ex-wife’s Daddy funds her multi-attorney legal team

Ex-wife’s Daddy has history of suing people and companies

Ex-wife and her Daddy took me to court over the house, she wanted it and most of the stuff in it
The house is/was worth close to $500k
I put a lot of time and effort into house, I lived there for seven (7) years, I paid the mortgage for seven (7) years
I paid $35k in legal fees to fight for my equity in the house, I received $5k in the end
She kept the house

I’m living with my girlfriend and her son in her home.  They made room for me and the kids, they are awesome.
We moved in August 2017, I pay about $800 per month for rent and utilities to her (can show checks and/or money transfers for these payments)
Previous to August 2017, and since Sept 2015, I had an apartment for me and the kids at $2,200 per month

I drive a 2007 Porsche Carrera 911 (4S), KBB says it’s worth about $30k

I have IRA / 401k worth $440k

I have college savings for the kids in 529 account worth $30k

I don’t really have much in a savings account (I just finished paying off the lawyers, essentially debt free at the moment)

I borrowed $120k from my Dad via a home equity line of credit on his (my parents) current home
Dad was willing to help me buy a house with this loan (ex-wife took all cash from marriage)
It is/was a good deal (3% interest)
Since I lost my job, this money is just sitting in a money market account, not sure buying a house now is a good idea and am seriously thinking about just paying it all back now
I pay the monthly payment on this loan, net/net, it costs me about $200/month in interest to sit on this money

Help me out r/legaladvice!!

Answer:
 For a moment, I thought that you were in a decent position.

The purpose of the contempt of court process in family court is to compel the unmoving party to perform.

If you experienced a significant change in circumstances which makes you unable to pay support, then the courts may not find you in contempt.  Especially when the unmoving party is not significantly in arrears.

Your problem is that you do have the resources to pay the support.  And, you have no intention of paying support by liquidating some of these resources until you have a job.

This is contempt.  You have the ability to pay.  You are refusing.

You may be able to be successful in getting support suspended or modified.  Until you do, if able you need to comply with court orders.

It would be in your best interests to retain an attorney to address these matters.  Honestly, a good attorney is going to keep you out of court by convincing you that you need to comply with court orders.


Title: I was never paid for my summer job. Can I still collect my payment?

Question: About two years ago when I was 18, I worked as a camp counselor at a VA horse stable. The other counselors received a semester of free lessons as compensation. The agreement my boss and I had worked out was that I would be paid the monetary equivalent of a semester of horseback riding lessons. There was never a formal agreement or contract. I worked approximately 12 hours a day 5 days a week doing manual labor (cleaning, taking care of children and horses, and teaching lessons).  Fast forward two years and I haven't been paid. I was sent free lessons which I was never able to go to due to the distance and not what we agreed to. She has ignored my emails and attempts to call her. As a college student, the money I was promised would make a huge difference. But since there was no formal agreement do I have any legal standing?

Answer: File a wage complaint with your state's DOL, it may or may not  be too late.


Title: She deleted 2 YEARS OF WORK

Question:
I met this artist a while back through a friend. Then we started hanging out and I offered to help her with her business. I acted as her marketing agent and spent a good amount of time on that. Then she decided to run everything on her own and slow down progress for personal reasons.

At that time I started a video series on my instagram stories that later turned into youtube videos. I wanted to do an "Artist of the Month" where I could incorporate art from a local artist to my channel every month. She was my first artist, before I decided not to do it anymore. While I was getting starting on the youtube channel I came up with an idea and asked her to be apart of it. Then she offered Social Media help. So I gave her access to my google drive (full of planning and organizing for the channel along with my modeling, acting and personal documents). I, also, gave her access to my Channel's Instagram and then she started posting for me.

Things started escalating between our relationship and we ended our friendship. Then she commented on someone else's comment on my post saying that she didn't want me using any of her work. So I deleted all of the stuff she posted on my Instagram (I cleared the entire profile) and removed any art that was associated with her (which included my logo and cover photo). I still do have a video with her art on it, but I wasn't going to delete the whole video cause it's still got my content.

Then a couple months went by and she wasn't bothering me anymore, so I thought it was in the past. Then just last tuesday all the folders in my drive  went missing. When i started looking in my drive I found that she accessed the drive through her account (I thought I removed her privileges, but obviously not) and started clearing one of my "Video Ideas" documents. Then she had the brilliant idea of logging into my google account (I assume she was able to do this because I've logged on to her laptop before and her chrome saved my account) and deleting all of my folders. All of them. There was only 2 documents left after she did her work.

Fortunately I was able to get all of my files back except for a few photos that I was able to recover from the photographer.

Is there any legal actions I can pursue against her? This is in Colorado if that's relevant.

Answer: You can't really pursue any action. You got your stuff back. There is nothing to sue for unless you incurred costs getting your stuff back. You can call the police and explain what she did, but practically speaking they probably aren't going to do anything. Unsolicited advice, back your stuff up in multiple locations and change your passwords frequently.


Title: Man threatens to sue company, says I stole from him and committed fraud in NM

Question:
Hi all,
I work for a well known pizza chain in New Mexico as a shift manager. About a month or so ago a man called saying he had a credit for $15 off because his last order was messed up or took too long. He did have a credit for $15 off and I took his order which included a variety of things and after coupons and the $15 off his total came out  to about $19.
I didn’t have time to tell him his total before he blurted out his card information to me. I processed the payment and told him that a driver would bring him a receipt to sign for the $19. He then went on a long rant about how that was too much money, it shouldn’t be so much and that we were ripping him off and doing “shady shit”.
I explained to him why it was so much money and told him the price of all the items on his order. He then changed the toppings on one the pizzas to be cheaper. He was still huffing about how much money it was and because I didn’t want to get his card info again or be on the phone a moment longer with such a rude person I told him I’d just give him the order for free.
I hung up with the man, voided the credit card payment and planned to tell whichever driver had to take the order to inform the man that the payment would be back on his card in 3-5 business days.
Not 5 minutes later he called back demanding to know why I’d charged his card. I explained to him that I’d already voided the payment and had planned to have the driver let him know the payment would be back on his card in 3-5 business days. He claimed that I’d charged his card without his knowledge and what I did was illegal/fraudulent. He essentially ended the conversation with “my food better be right” and hung up. I, of course, told my general manager about the whole thing when he came in.
The man called back the next day saying he wanted his money back and was told by another manager (I refused to speak to him) that the payment had been voided and would go back on his card in 3-5 business days and that it was up to his bank to decide when the money would go back on the card. He called again the next day and told the same thing to the manager on duty that day. In each conversation he threatened to take legal action, call the attorney general, get the news, etc.
My GM told our corporate office about it. They talked to the man and while I’m not sure everything that happened, we were told to mark the man’s account and to no longer take his calls, take orders or deliver to him. The man was informed of all this and knew we would not be taking his orders from them on.
Today he called and I answered the phone. He told me that he deserved to have his order made and that I’d stolen from him. I told him corporate had told us we were no longer allowed to deliver to him or take his calls, as well as that he should be aware of this. I told him if he continued to call us we would be reporting him to the police for harassment.
He then wrote a complaint to corporate saying that he never got his money back, no one was helping him, I was rude and stole from him and that he was going to pursue legal action.
My question is, did I do something wrong? I know I should have told him his total before I charged his card or told him about the voided payment before I got off the phone with him the first time but this man has always been a problem customer, always been rude to everyone that’s ever taken his calls, and I didn’t want to be on the phone with him a second longer than I was.
My other question is, is there anything the company or my co-workers can do so those of us at the store don’t have to deal with him again?

Answer:
 The only thing you've done wrong is continue to engage the crazy person. Don't talk to him. Just hang up if he calls. If he keeps calling call the police. You should also have the police issue a no tresspass for your location.

He's getting his money back. He has no damages to sue for.


Title: Do you get fingerprinted when you go into the drunk tank?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > Am I now "in the system"?

Probably.  Though, depends on what you mean by "system."

> Are my prints and picture now floating around out there?

Nah, they're in a database.


Title: I [20F in Boston, Massachusetts] found out that someone is using my pictures to catfish people on OkCupid, what now?

Question:
I posted this question on r/relationships, but I was told that this would be a more appropriate subreddit.

This morning I got a message from a guy who was catfished on OkCupid by someone using pictures of mine. At first I was really skeptical so I asked for screen shots, and, sure enough, somebody had taken pictures from my instagram, cover photos, and profile pictures (including family and baby photos) and constructed this fake girl who was graduating from Columbia who was a really talented skier, but then got cancer and had to have her leg amputated.
Towards the end of the year that they were in touch "she" was talking about all of the operations she was getting and how the radiation/chemo wasn't working. Then apparently this January, fake version of me died (yikes). The guy reverse google image searched a few of the pictures she sent and found my real facebook profile.

He sent me all the photos she sent him and it was EXTREMELY unsettling. I contacted OkCupid's customer service and haven't heard back yet. He also gave me the phone number she used. I tried calling it, but nobody answered. I looked it up on whitepages and spokeo, and after some intense Nancy-Drew-ing, I think my roommates and I identified who this person is. We were able to figure out that the phone number was registered to this man in Georgia, and when I looked him up on facebook I realized that his daughter went to my high school. I never knew her, but I recognized the face because about a year ago she friended me and I deleted the request. Usually I don't remember that sort of thing, but she stuck out because after I deleted the request she friended me two or three more times (each time I deleted it).

She never asked for money or personal information of his. What do I do now? Is there even anything I can do other than delete the social media accounts that the photos came from? How can I go about confronting her in a constructive manner? Is there any sort of legal action I can take? (We live in Massachusetts)

tl;dr: Someone used my pictures to catfish people on OkCupid, not sure how to proceed.

Answer: Better Call Nev


Title: READ AND BEHOLD ITS GLORY!!!!

Question:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/262792039/Fuck-This-Court

Florida.

Question: Legally speaking, is this awesome?

Answer:
 Is it weird that I find this tub full of crazy to be extremely well-written?  Style-wise, I mean.  I get the impression that she's intelligent enough that, if she were sane, she'd be a force to be reckoned with.  Though probably not as much fun to watch without all the bats in her belfry.Answer #2: Speaking of awesome?  [The original complaint](https://s3.amazonaws.com/pacer-documents/N.D.%20Ga.%2014-cv-02128%20dckt%20000001_000%20filed%202014-07-03.pdf).  And the [very brief order](https://s3.amazonaws.com/pacer-documents/N.D.%20Ga.%2014-cv-02128%20dckt%20000039_000%20filed%202015-03-31.pdf) dismissing same. Answer #3: SHE HAS A WEB STOREFRONT! YES!!!

http://tamahjadaclark.com/downloads/why-most-americans-do-not-inherently-owe-federal-income-taxes/Answer #4: > Legally speaking, is this awesome?

On a scale of 1 to Awesome, it's at least [Super Great](http://www.homestarrunner.com/sbemail3.html).


Title: Got a large speeding fine in Allen parish, LA. what are my options

Question:
I got a ticket for 114 in a 55, because I had been canoeing for 8 hours and couldn’t hold it in anymore. I had to go #2. The sheriff said he couldn’t take me in because the jail was full but he said I might have to show up for court, or I also may just be able to pay online. What are my options/consequences and is there anything I can do to help this case?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: a judge won’t consider having to pee a worthwhile reason and you were around two times the speed limit-that’s grounds for a reckless driving ticket and points on your license. if you just got a fine, you should wait and see about a court date cause you’ll likely have to pay. sorry i don’t have better news!


Title: [CA] Person who has a restraining order against me, is trying to contact me.

Question:
Hi all. Long story short, this guy who has a restraining order against me has been trying to contact me. He contacted my girlfriend, who told him to leave her alone.

What can I do to protect myself? I have a feeling he is trying to get some sort of rise out of me so I can violate the order. Should I just ignore it, or should I contact a lawyer?

I just want to continue on with my life in peace without having anything crop up from my past like this.

Answer: Keep a record of any attempts he makes to contact you, continue to block any attempts, and provide the record to the court if he files any motion to make the restraining order permanent. Proof that he is ~~violating~~ ignoring the boundaries of the restraining order will go to show that he doesn't really need one in the first place, which is a consideration the court always takes into account.


Title: Does my previous lease override new property management?

Question:
Location: Missouri

I’ll try and make this as short as possible.  I started my lease August 2018. It was me and one roommate. Roommate wants to move out. I agree. Talk to landlord who says I just need to renew lease for another year. I renew the lease November 2018. Original landlord sells property to management company who then sells it to another company a month later. I still have the lease with my original landlord.

I call property management company to let them know I will be paying rent late. 10 days approximately. My current lease states after the 5th day it’s considered late. Each day after a $5 fee is applied. Property management company tells me their fees are different which is $50 fee after the 5th day and $5 a day afterwards. So instead of me looking to pay $25 late fee, they’re wanting me to pay their late fee of $75. If I have to have to pay their fee because of paying rent late I understand. However I want to know if I have any say so since I have signed nothing with them.

[Original lease regarding late rent](https://imgur.com/a/uKZn1mW)
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 I'd pay the late fee schedule set out on your lease along with a copy of that page of the lease showing that is what is contractually agreed to you between you and them (by assignment).Answer #2: Unless you signed a new lease, the renewal stands and you can only be compelled to pay the fees defined.

Make a copy of the lease that you have, and bring it to the office with your rent payment and appropriate late fees. Show the lease to the property manager and state that you know the fees in your written lease are what you are bound to pay, and do not have to pay fees per their policy until the lease renews and you either (1) are notified of the change if rolling over month to month or (2) sign a new lease with the new fee terms. You do not have to sign a new lease before the one you have expires either; the lease is assigned to the new owners. It isn't your problem if somewhere along the line someone forgot to inform the new owners you were still under a lease term.

If you are given a pay or quit notice for unpaid late fees, or unpaid rent because they are applying rent to fees, contact an tenancy attorney. They cannot do that, and the attorney fees can be charged to them as well, so it's probable the attorney will not charge you upfront.


Title: tourettes syndrome, noise complaints, my rights ?

Question:
so i have tourettes syndrome, and it is getting pretty severe. i just moved into a small studio apartment for school, and the walls are thin. my vocal outbursts have been pretty uncontrollable, even when im on medication. a few hours ago, about 10:30 pm, my neighbor finally snapped and yelled at me to shut the fuck up. i have briefly talked about this with my landlord, but she thinks that its just some weird blinking and stuff, and does not see this as a real issue i am having. any of my neighbors can file a noise complaint.

What are my rights in this situation? everyone in the apartment complex who pay rent should deserve a disturbance-free unit, and that applies to both my angry neighbor and i. is it justifiable for any of my neighbors to file a complaint? is it justifiable for me to get away with tourettes related noise complaints? i just emailed the same question to my landlord, so i might be able to talk to her about this tomorrow.

EDIT: i keep all my other noises quiet. all my electronic devices are silent/used with earphones except for alarm clocks, microwaves, etc. i dont invite friends over either. I keep my noise level EXTREMELY low, so its just the tourettes that the neighbor is pissed off with.

Answer: My son has Tourette's so I definitely relate. He has always tried to minimize disturbance to others as I'm sure you do. You can minimize your noise by hanging thick fabric on your walls to absorb the sound. Buy a white noise machine and leave it close to the wall. Move your furniture away from the wall. Then if it STILL bothers your neighbor it's tough shit. He can buy earplugs. Good luck honey!


Title: Can you fight someone legally?

Question: So long story short, I’ve been having issues with this individual harassing me for quite some time. I’ve contacted the police already and they’re not doing jack sh*t, because I don’t have evidence of the incident. (I will try to get some next time) I definitely don’t want to get in trouble with the law but was wondering if I invite this guy to “spar” with me in a boxing or mma type of setting could I still get in trouble?

Answer: You could go to a boxing gym, or if you’re in a state with mutual combat, you could fight on private property


Title: My sister has bipolar disorder. She refused to take her medicine, now she's going to be taken to the emergency room. What are our legal rights involving her and her medicine? [x-post r/BipolarReddit]

Question:
This is the third time she's refused to take her medicine, and it's the third time she's going to have to be hospitalized.

I'm done trying to get sympathy for someone who refuses to let us help her. I just want to know how we can guarantee the ability to monitor what she's taking, and who prescribes what, so that she doesn't inevitably spiral out of control.

Please help.

Answer:
 She has a right not to take her medication, you have a right not to be involved in her "spiraling out of control".

About the only way you could control this issue is to get guardianship over her, which is both unlikely, and unlikely to be effective anyway.


Title: Mother wants to sign almost 3 y/o daughter up for gymnastics. I want to enroll her into preschool. We have 50/50 custody.

Question:
Necessary info: the divorce was finalized in KY, but she loves across the border in WV. We share split custody alternating weeks (I pick up my daughter on Friday and return her to her mother the following Friday).

She just messaged me on Facebook asking if she could sign up our daughter for gymnastics. I place a higher importance on my daughter's education and want to enroll her into preschool. I really don't think gymnastics should be happening right now.

The mother disagrees saying that she wants to wait until it's absolutely necessary for her to have to start school as she wants to spend every second possible with her. (She is currently unemployed).

The question I have is can she sign our daughter up for gymnastics without my permission? I understand "what you do with your child on your own time is your own business", but is there any legal leg for me to stand on?

Answer: Are gymnastics and preschool mutually exclusive for some reason?


Title: I'm locked in a cemetery can I bust out of here?

Question:
The cemetery is huge and they apparently didn't check it when they decided to close early (it's raining, but hardly at all and it doesn't say anywhere that is closes due to weather). We called the police but my husband didn't tell them we have kids in the car so I think they are taking their time because it's been over an hour. It's like a chain that we could probably break if we tried. Just wondering thanks.

Edit:I'm in KY.

Guys we are out. We didn't have to break out, it was a really old man running the gate and he just forgot to check, I couldn't be mad he was so nice. It did take over an hour though.

Edit: Lexington cemetery if anyone is interested, and no we could not have walked out if we wanted to it has high stone walls and huge iron gates.

Answer:
 >We called the police but my husband didn't tell them we have kids in the car so I think they are taking their time because it's been over an hour.

Call them back, mention the kids.Answer #2: Pokémon Go traps another victim. Answer #3: God bless real life, always so much more exciting than reality TV! Glad you are all safe and sound and heading home.Answer #4: If you do, you'll be liable for the damage to the gate and chain, unless this is an emergency and there are no better options.  Answer #5: This actually happened to my dad 40+ years ago in upstate NY. He took some kids from the boys home he was working at on Halloween. After a few hours of telling ghost stories. He went to the gate and found it locked. The groundskeeper was there and told them he would not let them out. That they were doing drugs. My dad explains to him that he works at a boys home and he was trying to show them a fun time. Eventually one of the kids faked a panic attack and the guy let them out.

Needless to say my Dad did not work there very long. He got fired around the time he kicked a kid, because they kicked him first.


Title: A decade ago, my wife's stepfather gifted her with a house, paid in full. Her parents are now going through a divorce and her stepfather is deducting our "rent" from alimony checks, although we've never paid rent. What should we do?

Question:
This divorce has been going on for over two years now. We live together in this house, in a different state and pay all expenses associated with home ownership (utilities, maintenance, etc.).

Two months ago, my mother-in-law texted my wife stating that her soon-to-be ex-husband has began to deduct "rent" from her alimony checks each month for the house we live in.

**Key facts:**

-The house is in **both** her mother's and stepfather's name.
-The house was paid for in full, cash, in 2006, for my wife who was beginning university at the time.
-I moved in 3 years ago, and we have lived here together since.
-We have never paid rent.
-We have not received any documents, nothing official, except texts from her mother stating that stepfather is deducting $650/mo for rent from her alimony checks, so we need to send her checks for "rent" from now on.
-Stepfather is not answering messages or phone calls from us, and all we have to go off of is her mother's claims and requests for monthly rent checks.

At this point, we're not sure what to do. According to her mother, the court ruled that he can deduct this amount ($650) from her checks as "rent" and we shall reimburse her. However, we've received no communication from anyone besides texts from her mother. I feel weird about sending checks with no form of official/legal communication to us directly. Somebody told me sending a check means we're "agreeing" to a contract we know nothing about.

I don't want to sound greedy, spoiled, etc. as I'm grateful for a "free" house so-to-speak, but I also want to make sure I'm proceeding correctly here.

Answer:
 Yikes, what a mess.

I take from your

> The house is in both her mother's and stepfather's name.

that neither your wife nor yourself are on the title. Therefore, it's not a gift - your wife's just been living in someone else's house rent-free for ten years as a tenant. The real question is "who is her landlord?"

Absent a lease, many jurisdictions allow a landlord to modify the terms of an at-will tenancy with sufficient written notice. In that case, the endgame here is that the two of you will be paying $650/mo in rent _at some point_, even if your landlord - her mother or her stepfather, or both of them as a unit - hasn't quite gotten the notice correct yet.

What state is the house in? Under whose permission do the two of you occupy it? Whose names are actually on the deed?Answer #2: Who is on the deed to the house?

As is, alimony is between her mother and stepfather.  You have no standing in that situation.


Title: price switching

Question: I switched price tag on 1 item and bought it along with a bunch of other things at a nordstrom rack. Used my credit card. Nobody stopped me and nothing happened, will they come after me. it's been 3-4 months.

Answer: No one here can tell the future. The statute of limitations is likely years. So they can come after you any time within the statute of limitations. Whether or not they do, only time will tell


Title: [UT] Hit a pot whole on freeway in express lane, shattered my rim. Family and friends advising me to contact the city to make them pay, is that a possibility?

Question: The pot whole has been there for a long time. Finally after years of driving past it, I got caught and it shattered my rim and split it down the middle. They're fancy rims and low profile tires, so itll cost a good $400 if I have to repair it all. So can I contact Udot, or the state to have them pay? Doesn't seem possible to me.

Answer: "Pothole"


Title: Dui, resist arrest, handgun while under influence

Question:
Tennessee- my boyfriend just started a benzodiazepine Monday. The doctor told him just not to drink alcohol before he goes to bed with the drug. Last night, he remembers drinking 3 whiskeys in a 6 hour period and that's what his bank statements show as well. I took an uber home and saw 3 cop cars at my house. They told me he was swaying about 2 miles away from my house and they pulled out behind him and he wouldn't stop the car. He remembers seeing blue lights and for some reason thought if he just made it home he'd be okay. The officer told me they asked him to get out of the car and he couldn't follow directions and told him to turn around and put his hands behind his back, but he couldn't understand, and he kept turning around. They took it as a sign of aggression and pushed him against the car. He says he remembers them pushing him on the ground, but they said he fell and could barely stand. And almost had to carry him to the cop car. I woke up my mom and she asked to see him. They shined a light on his face and he was bloody, and they explained everything and his face was scraped on the concrete.
 He started throwing up so an ambulance took him to the hospital where the toxicology showed he had the benzodiazepine in his system from when he took it the morning before. He was unaware of what the long Half-Life meant.
I got him out of jail today where his charges were dui, evading arrest (felony), resisting arrest,  failure to stay in lane, and handgun in possession while under the influence(it was in his glovebox where he keeps it).
He graduated summa com laude with a chemistry degree. Got all of the awards. Was in the navy for 5 years and got 2nd out of 582 people in bootcamp. He just got a 15% raise at work and his performance in everything has been amazing and exceptional and has a completely clean record. The drug mixed with alcohol turned him in to a completely different person and he blacked out for the most part. Do we need a lawyer or can he plead his case ad see what the judge says? What repercussions are we looking at. I'm not sure where we go from here.

Answer:
 100% he needs a lawyer here.

Full Stop.Answer #2: His past history and current employment are irrelevant to this (although they might be helpful to his lawyer when dealing with this). And yes - he absolutely needs a lawyer.

You need to understand: he might not have intended any of this but it happened. And now he has to deal with it and a decent attorney is his best and only option.Answer #3: Yes, he absolutely needs a lawyer and should under no circumstances attempt to explain himself to a judge.

Even if the story he told you is completely true, it means that he disregarded the very clear instructions he certainly received about not mixing benzos and alcohol. This isn't something that just "happened" to him.