Title: My ex died last night and her mother is blaming me and getting the police involved

Question:
I live in Jacksonville, Florida, USA.
My ex reached out to me last night via text, telling me her sugar was low and she needed help. I know she has Type 2 Diabetes, and when her sugar goes low she can't really think properly, this is the primary reason I'm scared of the potential liability.

I thought this text was her just trying to guilt trip me again to come over and see her (she has a history of doing this, and I kept the texts.) So, I told her she needed to call 911 or her mother to help her out. She said she couldn't, that I was the only one who could help.

This morning, her mom texts me telling me she passed away sometime last night. She goes on to tell me it's my fault since I was the last person she messaged and further, she is turning over the texts to the police because I didn't do anything to help my ex out. My initial thought was that there was something fishy and I went to drive by my ex's place to see if anything was going on, her mother's car was there, and so were several police vehicles. I didn't see any other, so I have no clue if this is all the truth, but it seems like a good possibility. Let the panic attacks ensue...

So now, not only am I hurt over the loss, I'm also scared because I feel like it may be partially my fault and the police are going to come and ask me questions over her passing.

I'm not sure how to handle this at all, any advice, beyond "go see a therapist", would be really appreciated, but some specific questions I have are:

* Can I be legally held responsible for her death?
* Should I reach out to an attorney?
* Should I reach out to the police?
* Is there anything, I can do to to stop her mom/family from sending me texts blaming me? (what I would consider harassing me about the situation)

It might be worth noting before questions are asked:

* Yes, I have all the texts from last night.
* Yes, I have all previous texts from before showing her history of trying to get me to guilt trip me and manipulate me into doing things for her.
* Yes, I also have saved copies of them online in multiple places in case I need them later.

Answer:
 The legal advice has been asked and answered, but I do want to share my condolences with you. She might be your ex but no doubt you still had feelings for her.

It may take some time for you to come to terms with it all, but one thing: it’s not your fault.

Best of luck.


Title: [MA] Co-worker was attacked/got restraining order against other co-worker. Can I be forced to work with the individual that was served?

Question:
My co-worker(A) who works in a dept that is adjunct to mine, reports to the same manager as me and works based in my office was attacked by a another co-worker(B) from a different department outside of work hours. They had been in a relationship and apparently things took a turn for a worse.

Police reports were filed by A as well as a restraining order. As it is B is located in an area we all constantly have to walk by, and I have to at times direct him and work with him to complete tasks.

I no longer want to work with B and do not feel comfortable interacting with someone who is a violent attacker, even worse is that he puts on a completely different persona and you would never guess that he could snap and be that kind of aggressor.

The work I do with B was about to be wiped off my plate anyway as it is seen a a non-essential job for my dept(basically another dept could easily complete it instead of bogging down my dept with the task).

Now my question is - do I HAVE to interact with B? My boss has previously stated that even if people have been aggressive/pushy toward me at work I still HAVE to work with them if he tells me to as it is my JOB.

Answer:
 You have the option of quitting if you don't wish to work with coworker B.

The fact that coworker B is in a legal dispute with coworker A otherwise has no particular bearing on you, although I think you're sensible to treat coworker B as a risk going forwards.


Title: AL-What is considered harassing communications?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Without an order in place, reaching out to apologize likely wouldn't be harassing communications.

However, from your past interactions, it seems like what will start out as an apology may quickly turn into yet another argument.  I think you're better off not contacting him at all.


Title: Cops searched me and found weed after I witnessed a burglary

Question:
My boyfriend and I were parked in a 48 hour parking lot around midnight after leaving a club. We were talking for a while and watching cars come and go, including one that pulled up to a closed restaurant where two people came out. A few minutes later we saw cops storm the place with flashlights looking all around. It was pretty exciting until...

The cops walked up to our car, which was off. I, the passenger, opened my door to tell the cops that we had seen someone at the place they were searching. First, they started asking questions about what we saw. Then, one cop asked if we had been smoking pot and asked for our IDs. They separated us and searched us without our consent because the smell have them the right, they said. They found it in my purse and gave me an unlawful possession violation.

I'm wondering if the search was legal. And if they were justified in overlooking the burglary that had occurred and focusing all their efforts on two bystanders smelling like weed. And disregarding me as a witness to a crime. (My charge is not criminal).

I know they have more leeway to search vehicles, but this wasn't a traffic stop and my door was open before they started talking to me. A case in my state of NY just ruled that cops can't search people on foot for smelling like weed. Wondering if the line is blurred here.

Answer: Yes, it was legal. The smell is probable cause. You were approached because they were investigating a burglary, you happened to be near. You need an attorney to deal with the possession charge. It's a *criminal charge* and will fuck your future.


Title: Demoted on my birthday, after a work injury

Question:
Not certain how to proceed!

Location: Northern California

I've been working in an administrative position with a behavioral agency for just barely over a year now and have been getting "satisfactory" and "above satisfactory" ratings on all my employee reviews since the beginning.

Since starting, I have implemented a new filing system, new system for scheduling staff, a new system for disciplinary action, and revamped and improved client home conditions. All of which received welcome praise.

My last employee review was two weeks ago, where I received again, all satisfactory and above satisfactory marks. Not a single "concern" was brought up during this review.

Last week, a client was in crisis while at the ER. While following all proper procedures, unfortunately the client punched the left side of my head, slamming the right side into the corner of a metal door frame. Emergency room staff responded swiftly by pulling me out of the room and setting me on a chair, telling me I needed to be looked over. I contacted my boss, letting her know what had happened and that ER staff wanted to do a CAT Scan on my head. My boss found someone to come in and take my place while I was being looked over. I was sent home with a mild concussion. The following day I filed a Workmans Comp claim with my agency and left for my weekend to rest and recuperate.

Today (my fucking birthday), I received a text message from my boss stating she has had "a lot of concerns" about my work over the last several weeks. She did not elaborate on what these concerns were, but instead told me that she and her boss had a meeting the day before and decided it would be best for someone else to take over my position, while I would be delegated to more menial tasks. She followed this up saying she would email me the details of this plan, as well as an exhaustive list of her concerns (none of which were brought up two weeks ago during my review).

I've spent my entire birthday frantically checking my email while simultaneously submitting online applications to various other agencies. She never sent an email with any details. I have no idea when the change will take place, if it means a pay cut and how drastic a pay cut, and I have no idea what I could have done.

I want to fight this decision they made, but where do I start when I don't even know what her "concerns" are?!?!

Answer:
 Keep copies of your last performance review.

When you get the updated one with concerns compare the two.

If they don't match and you believe this was specific retaliation against filing your claim you can file a complaint with the state ~~under the REDA act.~~

~~NC has a pretty strong hate on for employers doing that kind of thing.~~

Edit: misread state


Title: Would a trespassing order issued for a school apply to the sidewalk next to it?

Question:
I have a bit of a conundrum. I was issued a trespassing notice not to visit a public school (not from the police, from the school itself), which is fine, but the only sidewalk on that street is next to the school, and a grocery store I need to walk to on occasion is on the other side of it.

My understanding is that the sidewalk is public property and, thus, they can't ban me from the sidewalk, just from the school grounds itself. Could I get in trouble for walking on that sidewalk as long as I didn't enter actual school property?

(Mind you, I was never on the grounds of the school in question in the first place, but rather banned from a school event. However, the letter sent by the district specifically mentions that I'm not allowed to be on school grounds.)

Answer:
 Your verbiage suggests you are looking to play games.  When you play games with the schools and the police, you usually lose.  My suggestion is to find something else to do with your time.Answer #2: It seems like you are looking for a reason to be standing out front or walking past the school.

Why did you get a trespassing charge at a school event in the first place?

My best advice would be: find a different grocery, or find a different route to the original grocery store, or simply walk on the other side of the street.

If the cops don’t like you, then don’t give them any reason to talk to you.


Title: A lesbian couple is asking me to gift them a child.

Question:
First of all I would like to say I'm very new to the subreddit so please ignore if I break some minor rules.

I live in India and my neighbours are from Australia and are here for an year since one of them works in an MNC and she got transferred here for a project that will last till March next year. They both are in their mid 20's and seem very friendly. The other girl does not have a work visa so she stays at home most of the time and her birthday is coming up in November.
Two days ago, she approached me and told me that they have decided to get pregnant for her birthday and wanted to start a family, and asked me if I could help them out. Their first preference is have their own baby. Since, insemination costs too much for them they asked me to gift her a baby for her birthday. I asked if they would like to adopt one but they said their first choice is to bear one themselves.

I want to help them out but I want to make sure that I do not end up spending money in child support or anything else later on in my life. They have guaranteed me that they will make sure that the child will have no contact or no claim in my will later on but is there something legally that can be done to ensure the same?
I am not sure about the laws in these matters or if the Australian laws dictate something in these matters.

Is there anything that can be done legally to ensure that the baby will not legally be my child?

Answer: If you are all in India, Indian laws prevail. I very much doubt that there are many people reading this who know what child support laws are in India. This idea would be a non-starter in the USA without the involvement of a clinic, but I have no idea about India.


Title: Are teachers protected if they damage a confiscated item?

Question:
Posting from the UK. Was thinking along the lines of phones but could apply to other items too.

Accidental and on purpose

Answer:
 /r/LegalAdviceUK

In America, schools can confiscate phones but they are still considered property of the student's parents (unless student is 18+ and paid for it himself) and usually ask the parents to come and collect the phone. The school can still get in legal trouble if the phone is damaged, lost or stolen.Answer #2: Used to be a substitute teacher in the US. We were told that, while we were allowed to confiscate items as needed for class discipline, we were 100% responsible for those items if anything happened. So naturally we pretty much never confiscated anything.

But, fwiw, that particular school district treated us pretty poorly. I wouldn’t be surprised if the rules are different for full time teachers (though I also wouldn’t be surprised if they’re not).Answer #3: Teacher here would be considered as a bailee and the law entrusts certain duties on the goods in the possession of the bailee.Answer #4: student here, once a teacher broke a students phone screen in my class and the student got £20 from the teacher, realistically, that seems like the most likely thing that'll happen if a lawsuit isnt threatened


Title: Jail over probation?

Question:
Can I just ask to go to jail over probation? It's ruining my life and I can't do anything with it anyways and I'm too depressed to do anything and I just want my freedom back because my life sucks and I just want to leave and be able to do stuff again.

Can I just ask and see how much jail time I would get? I am getting my charges all reduced soon and going into court for that can I just ask how much jail time I would get if I chose jail over it? I would be able to do like 6 months and get out in like 4 on good behavior but I don't think I could do anything longer than that.

Answer: Jail usually involves less freedom than probation. Talk to your lawyer and they should be able to give you a ball park if you refuse to stay on probation.


Title: Apartment complex is forcing us to cancel our internet/cable service and pay for theirs.

Question:
I don’t even use cable, and I am perfectly fine with my internet provider now. They just sent out a memo saying everyone is required to pay $85 a month for cable and internet (even if you don’t want to). Is my only option to suck it up or move?
Topic:
Contracts

Answer: What does the lease say Answer #2: Might want to look into FCC regulations - case came up in this sub recently about a similar issue, and apparently it's illegal for a landlord to require you to deal with THEIR preferred telecommunications provider.


Title: Any laws regarding if a roommate dies while on a shared lease? (US)

Question:
Question: If a roommate dies, are the other people on the lease responsible for the full rent amount? Do the remaining roommate(s) have any legal protections at that point? I wouldn't be able to afford an additional $600 suddenly like that. (Is this something renters' insurance might cover?)

Why I'm asking: My roommate has a habit of disappearing for 2-3 weeks without notice and I'm never able to contact them when they do this. They were recently gone longer than ever before and I was actually worried they might have died or something. Nearly filed missing persons but didn't. They are back now. Got me wondering if I'd be on the hook for their portion of rent if the event of their death.

Answer:
 >  If a roommate dies, are the other people on the lease responsible for the full rent amount?

The other people on the lease are responsible for the full rent amount even when the roommate is alive.


Title: Administering an EpiPen to an adult in Ontario (Canada)

Question:
At a university first aid course an instructor told my friend that she could not legally administer an epipen. You can only "help them administer it to themselves." I was under the impression that as long as you could administer it properly you should be allowed to under the Good Samaritan Act. The instructor said you would not be protected under the Act because administering an Epipen would fall out of the scope of your training.

The only source I have been able to find is a reference in a CBC article (http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/hamilton/news/hamilton-moves-to-make-epipens-available-in-eateries-1.2187627). I am very curious what is true here. Can an adult trained in basic first aid legally administer the casualty's epipen to an adult casualty that they reasonably suspect is going into anaphylactic shock? My question assumes the casualty isn't actively refusing assistance.

Topic:
Healthcare Law including HIPAA

Answer: I can't imagine a first aide course would give everyone the experience and training necessary to identify a severe allergic reaction as opposed to the hundreds of similarly presenting medical conditions.


Title: Does my friend have any legal recourse against this guy who sexually harassed her (and many of our friends)?

Question:
(St. Louis/Jefferson County area, MO) A couple of days ago, a guy I went to high school with sent me a message on Facebook telling me he was stranded downtown and needed a ride home and potentially a place to crash. Despite not having spoken to him in quite a few years, I figured it was an acquaintance that needed help so I gave him the phone number of a girl I'm close friends with that also went to high school with us. After calling her, she drove across town to pick him and and, when he swayed her with a sob story about how his mom is going to kick him out of the house soon, she offered to let him crash on the couch at her place for the night. After bringing him over and showing him the couch, she went to her bedroom to sleep for the night and locked the door, clearly not interested in engaging further.

In the middle of the night, he started calling her and texting her, telling her he "didn't like to sleep alone", etc. Found her instragram and started liking her photos, started texting **me** about how she should unlock her bedroom door and how she has "nice tits". She spent the whole night awake in her room, door locked, because she was feeling really uncomfortable and scared. The next morning, she paid for an Uber to send him home because she wanted him out of her hair (and he didn't have any money, naturally). Once he gets home, he texts here "why'd you lock your door, were you afraid of me coming in and pulling my cock out", then sends both of us a video of him jerking off via FB. She texts me warning me he's a huge creep, sends me screenshots of his texts and calls and messages. She then made a FB post warning other women in the area who went to high school with all of us that he's a huge creep and should be avoided. She spent the next few days at her parent's house 2 hours away, no longer feeling safe in her own home.

Since then, a substantial number of women have come forward, stating that he has also sexually harassed them, sent them unsolicited dick pics, etc. Many stories, including:

"He FaceTimed a friend of mine 4-5 days ago while jacking off and called me 2 days ago with the same I need a ride story"

"He also contacted me and it was an awful experience and this is not anything new. It’s been going on for years."

"He did this a few years ago including to me and then when people put him on blast he went away for a while and claimed to feel guilt"

"It's been happening to me too and I was really confused and surprised. He's been calling me at work and snap chatting me inappropriate pictures and videos."

"mine happened last time before I knew this was a thing. I heard he was seeking help. Saddened to see it’s happening again."

"Hey ladies! Recieved a video chat request from him exposing himself. My fear is he might move to younger kids. I would like to report him."

"This guy has also exposed himself in a video touching himself to me while I was at work. Do not involve yourself with him."

"He sent me last week a video ... and video chatted me ...  I’m in israel, I got this while I was on base. So incredibly inappropriate"

"Hi!! Late to the party but I was once extremely close with this individual and I can without a doubt say that he is incredibly mentally unstable. I also received a video via Snapchat some time ago which really messed with my emotions because of the person I once knew. To anyone who has solid evidence, PLEASE go to the police for those of us who can't. I am worried for the safety of others, and I do believe that he is in need of psychiatric help."

etc etc

earlier today she posted on FB saying that she called the police and they told her basically that they couldn't do anything, even though she tried to tell them that this is a serial predator who has targeted many women

even just since that night, several women have reported that he contacted them asking for a ride and them either sent them a dick pic/video or video called them while he was jerking off

apparently this is a thing that was happening a couple of years ago too, one girl tried to file a police report then but had no evidence so it never went anywhere

i feel at my wit's end. is there anything to be done at this point? would she be able to file an order of protection or something similar against him? would it even do anything? we're all discussing collectively going to the police together but, even then, would they care? which jurisdiction do we even go to?

any help or advice at all would be so appreciated

Answer:
 While EXTREMELY CREEPY, he has crossed no criminal laws yet.

I would definitely make sure your circle of friends are aware and none of ya'll be alone with him again.

I would go so far as to say that anyone who doesn't want contact from him to formally tell him to fuck off.....if he contacts after that then start documentation for a harassment police report.

Edit-

Another thought.

If you and your friends want to be proactive about this, a better option over uniform police would be to contact the Special Victim Detective Unit in the jurisdiction that the doucheweezle lives.

You can even start it off by saying you don't know if he has committed a crime, but his behavior is concerning and you want them to have his name.

Just to put him on their radar in case, god forbid, something does ever happen.  Hell SVU may even have a case or something similar that matches this guy.  Or nothing may ever come of it, but at least he will be on their radar.


Title: [CA] Non custodial parent trying to keep child longer than agreed time without permission.

Question:
So as the title says, I have physical custody with joint legal custody between the two of us. She lives in Nevada and I in California where our order was made. She has a written letter with my permission to have him out of California from the last Friday to this coming friday.
  She has sent me multiple messages about how she planned to keep him for good, found out that she couldn't so she asked for an extra week and I said no. Now she says she's just going to keep him the extra week anyways. Our visitation is not scheduled on our agreement as I chose to go with the within reason option on visitation considering she's been out of state and this is her first visit that she's requested with him which I said no problem you have a week and we agreed on the days.
  My problem is who do I contact about getting him back on time. She had him for 2 days before telling me she was going to try and keep him, and this is her first visit in over a year since the court order was made.
  Sorry for any spelling errors or vagueness. I just want to know how to go about this.

Answer:
 Not a lawyer, just know a bit about how this works in California. If you have a lawyer, you should probably consult with them, but you'll want to go to court ASAP to file an Ex Parte Request For Order. Your lawyer can give you more information, or search on that. With an order for the child's return, you can get police involved if you have to.Answer #2: Contact the police if your ex doesn't return your child.  In Nevada, this may raise to the level of parental kidnapping since your ex is willfully violating a court ordered custody agreement.

You may also file a hearing in your county in family court for your ex's contempt of the court order.  If you had a lawyer help you with divorce/custody, contact them about the situation and instead follow their advice.Answer #3: How did the two of you communicate? If it was through txt messages make sure to save them all.


Title: This morning someone came to my house and tried to get my parents to sign a Motion for Revivor of Judgement (Colorado)

Question:
This morning, someone brought a Motion for Revivor of Judgment to my house and asked my parents to sign it (I was asleep and never saw them). My parents did not sign it and closed the door, and this motion was left behind at our doorstep.

On the motion it states, "Pursuant to C.R.C.P. Rule 354(h), the Plaintiff requests that the Clerk of the Court issue a notice requiring the Defendant and judgment debtor to show cause within fourteen (14) day after service thereof why the Judgement should not be revived. Should Defendant fail to show cause within fourteen (14) days, the Plaintiff requests the Court revive the Judgement for the amounts requested in paragraph 2."

The judgment date is February 23, 2011. This motion is dated August 29, 2016 and is signed by the Clerk of the Court on August 30, 2016. Today is September 18, 2016 (which is past 14 days of when this motion was dated or signed)

Was I served this motion if I was not the one to physically take it? My parents did not sign it, and it was left behind. If this was a viable service of the judgment, what do I do with the 14 day timeline? The day I got this document was 18 or 19 days after (depending if the countdown starts from when it was dated, or when it was singed by the clerk of the court). How should I proceed if this is the case? I'm a student at a University with no job if that helps my case?

Thank you

Answer:
 Different states have different rules. If the process server made contact with a responsible party, and advised them that they had legal papers to give them, in many states that alone is sufficient to call the service good.

In other words, there's no "lalalala i'm not listening to you" rule. You can't just say, "I'm not taking it."


Title: Let best-friend live with me without being on the lease, she bailed out and won't pay me her portion of rent.

Question:
So before you guys tell me I made a huge mistake and I am an idiot for doing this, trust me I know. Everyone has already reinforced this fact to me.

I am located in North Carolina.

So my best-friend has a horrible credit score and apparently owes another apartment complex $1000 or more in rent (I knew none of this at the time). Naturally no apartment complex would rent to her when we went apartment searching and applying back in August and she said it was because she had NO credit and no consignor.

Well considering she was my best friend and that I had known her for some time, I decided I would just sign a lease with my name, agree for her to live with me for the full lease term and then she would just pay me in cash for rent and not be on any lease with the complex.
Everything was going fine, rent was being paid fine, then about a month ago she comes to me and lets me know she is picking up and moving to another state with her boyfriend in December. Okay so she agrees to pay me rent from the state until someone is found to take her place.

Well here I am almost 3 weeks into December and I haven't received any rent money. I have already asked for it and she either bullshits and says she is sending it, or just is unresponsive; this doesn't surprise me. I am assuming she is not going to pay me the rent she promised and now I have to be responsible for all the rent that is due per month with my job that doesn't pay enough to cover it so I am asking my parents for help now.

Because we made a verbal agreement and no contractual or paper agreement, is there ANY way I could sue her or take her to court for ANYTHING ??

Answer: Yes you can sue her. You will just need some proof that she lived with you and what the agreement was concerning this arrangement. Your own testimony is evidence of such, but if she denies it its your testimony versus hers and absent anything else we have a push, court is the only one who wins (via your filing fees).


Title: hit small jackpot before divorce...now what?

Question:
My husband is leaving me and we are about to file for divorce. No kids and it wasn't really going to be very complicated. We don't really own much together and it was shaping up to be amicable.

The complication is that I purchased a lotto scratcher a couple of days ago (my payday vice) and won a prize that will end up being in the mid 6 figures after taxes.

I suspect it's easy to figure out my question. While amicable, our split is my husband's idea and he says he basically fell out of love. We are in a community property state and I probably have 6 mo. before I will be forced to claim the prize. I have no friends or family that I would trust enough to handle this for me.

I really don't want to share this. My husband makes about 3x as much as I do in a growing career while I have been struggling to take a class every semester to slowly work towards a degree that would allow me to make more than a very meager income. This money would allow me to quit my job and go to school fulltime...basically reboot my life. I don't know what to do.

Answer: Consult a divorce attorney immediately. Do not hide or attempt to spend all of the money in order to make sure your husband cannot get it.


Title: Wrongfully accused of underage drinking?

Question: I was walking home and an officer stopped me and said “ can you show me the container you’ve been drinking out of” i said no i cannot because there is no container i would’ve drank from. I was drinking at the establishment i was at but i did not have an open container with me but so there was no reason to detain me. Should i seek legal help?

Answer:
 I'm not sure you understand what a wrongful accusation is.

Were you cited? Answer #2: Are you currently intoxicated?

If you were drinking at an establishment surely you were in possession of ID to prove your age. That would matter more than any container.


Title: Update~(Texas) Husbands ex-girlfriend is changing her name to his full name.

Question:
She backed off very quickly after getting a cease and desist from our lawyer. My husband managed to get a restraining order against her as well.

http://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2yho3e/texas_husbands_exgirlfriend_is_changing_her_name/

Answer:
 That's awesome! Thanks for the update.

I'm curious what she'll do next...Answer #2: Appreciate the update, I was wondering where this one was going to go. I imagined she'd take it to court, you'd write a letter to the judge, and the judge would raise an eyebrow and deny her. I am glad it never even had to go that far! So much less stressful for you.


Title: Ex girlfriend threatening me

Question: About 6 years ago we broke up. All of a sudden yesterday she posted an insta story saying all of her exes have made her go through blackmail, trauma and abuse so no one should date them at all. I never did any of that to her but still After knowing this i felt bad for her and went and apologized to her saying if anything happened from my side im sorry to which she proceeds to tell me i forced her to indulge in intimate activities. I straight up denied because i never forced her at all. It was always mutual and with consent. After 6 years she's telling me its forced consent which cannot be considered consent. She literally flipped her words, after so many years and threatened me that she could have put me in jail. This has taken a severe emotional toll on me. Please give legal information regarding this.

Answer:
 NAL - DO NOT CONTACT HER. Do not respond to any contact. Block her on all SM. At the moment there is nothing for you to do. But remember - anything you say can be used against you.

If the police get involved, then you say nothing except "I won't answer any questions without my lawyer."


Title: [CA] University housing giving week-long blocks of "notice" for cleaning / repair access

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 University housing does not fall under the normal LL/tenant law. Most of it is actually similar to hotels, at least in my state. You can be evicted with as little as 48 hours notice if you drop out of school, for example, and you cannot access the property over winter break/summer break.

The above is also pretty normal for apartments as well, with 24 hours notice, they can do that in a private apartment too.

She should file a compliant for the door being left open, that's it.


Title: (Mn) Work at a company with >200 employees. I am a member of Emergency Response Team. I Have a question about medical info.

Question:
We actually have a great ERT system. In my industry it's very common to have well trained first responders.

Now to the question, in the past while performing first aid, we would gather as much medical info on the incident and medical history from the patient as is possible. We have a form that we would fill out and hand it off to the EMT when they showed up.

That policy has changed recently, and we have been informed that we should turn a copy of the **medical history** over to the patients supervisor. Is this a violation of medical confidentiality?

thx.

Answer: Does the supervisor have any kind of medical training? Do employees sign any kind of disclosure waiver?


Title: UPDATE (AK) I was attacked in public, and my attackers were injured. They admit to putting their hands on me in their sworn testimony. I was arrested, and they were not. The officer also falsified my testimony.

Question:
The state asked for an additional 10 days for the grand jury to seek evidence against me. My (public defender) lawyer agreed immediately and the judge granted it. I spent literally 30 seconds in the ccourt room after my name was called before I was excused.

See previous post for full story. Also, last time I posted people made the weirdest assumptions/accusations. So here's some clarification/additional information. I had known both of them for about a year.

The males only injuries were a 1/2" cut above his left eye, and a cut of similar size  below the same eye.

The female had two 1cm cuts on and above the bridge of her nose.

Relevent legal information (feel free to verify).

I am being charged with two counts of Felony (Class C) Assault in the third degree. "He/she with criminal  negligence caused serious physical injury to another person by means of a dangerous instrument."

In Alaska. Dangerous instrument is defined as essentially any object that can be used to cause injury in any way. Including bare hands. Yes. Bare hands are specifically included.

Alaska is a "stand your ground state", and additionally you may also use lethal force or strike first in self defence. (I did not strike first, just providing information)

"Serious physical injury" is defined as [something that could cause death] or [actually causing permanent disfigurement or loss of function of an organ or limb].

In Alaska, the defendant may not be involved in grand jury proceedings in any way, may not present evidence or call witnesses, and not even the defendants lawyer can observe the proceedings.

There are two lawyers following the case on my side (my public defender, and a friend of a friend) as well as a private investigator working for my public defender.

To quote my public defender "this entire thing has blown WAY out of proportion".

The police have been calling my friends (including my best friend) and even the place I worked at the fair, multiple days in a row, asking for witnesses. At this point, only the prosecution may call witnesses/present evidence. So the prosecution does not want any information or witnesses that may exhonerate me to come to light. INCLUDING possible video footage of the incident, which (if the video has the incident in frame and/or audio) would show them coming after me and attempting to incite violence against me and people in the crowd intervening on my behalf.  One of my coworkers witnessed the entire event, and the rest of them, including the owners, have only nice things to say about me. Some of them are even going to the police to testify in person (if they dont get more calls back). Naturally the prosecution doesn't want this testimony to make it to the grand jury.

According to the other lawyer. The state is scrambling to find any sort of evidence to justify my arrest and the charges against me. And is most likely going to lower the charges and offer me a plea bargain.

Oh BTW. The state of Alaska has no legal provision for expunging criminal records.

I have been instructed to not accept any plea bargain no matter the terms. As the state is now in a very awkward position and will probably try to "double down" to try and get me to "admit" to any sort of guilt, and thus avoid a "massive" lawsuit for malicious prosecution,  selective enforcement, wrongful imprisonment, etc.

However, in 10 days I could still be faced with returning to jail to await trial (for weeks or months) And possibly facing bail that I cannot afford.

Oh. Btw. The jail phone can only call landlines. No cellphones. And this is the year 2015.

So. At the instruction of the public defender, I've started gathering contact info to give to the investigator on my side (currently about 6 actual witnesses, many witnesses to the guy and girl harassing/threatening/slandering me, and a small novels worth of character witnesses).

So now I'm asking reddit for any additional legal advice. I know /u/TokyoJokeyo said "defense before offense". But I would appreciate any and all ADVICE. I don't care if you believe my story or not, the subreddits rules and good sense prevent me from showing you evidence on my behalf. So keep your opinions on my perceived guilt/innocence up your ass where they belong, random internet Gods of Justice. I came here for advice. I can get the most relevant advice by being honest and anonymous.

So. Should I attempt to file a police report against the male or will it be ignored? Should I reapply for a restraining order? Should I attempt to find a lawyer to handle a possible civil suit against my attackers and/or the state or wait? (As in talk to a lawyer, so we are better prepared based on how the case proceeds) Should my wife attempt to file a restraining order against them?

Or should I just wait here in limbo for the next 10 days? :/

Answer:
 I would wait. And delete this thread while you are at it. Answer #2: >So now I'm asking reddit for any additional legal advice.

The fifth amendmend would be a nice start. You really can't keep quiet for just 10 measly days? Take the opportunity to get some new friends while you wait.Answer #3: Sit in limbo. The police aren't going to write another report about it. Your civil trial can wait until the grand jury comes back.  10 days is nothing.Answer #4: >Or should I just wait here in limbo for the next 10 days?

Yes. This is exactly what you should do.

Question for the rest of the sub regarding this statement:

>There are two lawyers following the case on my side (my public defender, and a friend of a friend)

Could the prosecution use this against OP if it were found? Kind of like "OP is gaming the system by having a PD when in fact they have a private attorney working on the case".

Also, the "friend of a friend" statement makes me pretty sure there's not retainer in place, no true client relationship. Wouldn't anything the other attorney finds be available to the prosecution since there's no true client - attorney relationship / privilege?

If OP had a true client attorney relationship wouldn't that disqualify them from being able to use the PD office?Answer #5: So, uh, are you Native and were your attackers white?Answer #6: Can someone tell me why the state is trying to double down so hard on OP?  Why would they work so hard to ignore the mountains of evidence almost literally pounding at their door?


Title: Friend pushing me to sign on his mortgage extension. I'm not comfortable.

Question:
Please excuse my scatterbrained-ness, I don't even know how to construct a proper post.
The issue started when my friend whom I've know for only about two years asked me to sign as guarantor on his mortgage acquired through a  sketchy private lender...one of those office-near-an-autoshop- type places.

At the time I'd just gotten a full-time job (like that very day) and had no idea how mortgages or anything real estate worked. I still don't. I don't think I fully understood the implication of what that meant although I had a lawyer explain to me just how badly any non payment could affect my own finances. I was reluctant to sign, the lawyer said she didn't want me to sign, stating that she would never let her daughters do a favour of that scale. But my dumb ass did it anyway.

There was pressure involved for sure. My friend just called me out of the blue saying that it was his time of need and basically if I don't help him out, he'll lose his deposit on the house. And for what it's worth, the guy's been through a lot, so I went with it. Months later he pulls the same stunt, calling me at work saying I need to sign some "legal stuff" or else he's in real shit. I'm angry but I say sure, bring the papers and I'll see. This guy shows up with a mortage extension in hand, laughing and saying I have to "just sign it".
Fool me twice. I sign out of compassion for his life.

A while later, he takes me out for a drink, I grill him on if the payments are being made, he laughing, although apologetically, claiming it's rough, but he's getting by. Tells me to chill.
Listen, I make minimum wage. If he's unable to pay - I can't chill.

The case is, his tenants decided to not pay and he is now stuck with making payments on the mortgage directly.  I might add, and don't ask how, this guy manages to look up MY credit score and reassure me that it's "pretty good actually". I've never checked my credit score.

Today, He's frantically calling and texting me that i need to sign another extension. I haven't responded and quite frankly I'm furious and tired stressing about something that isn't supposed to be my problem.

My question is: what if I don't sign? Where am I off the hook? I just want to get him and this mortgage business away from me. Any input, including those who just want to tell me I'm dumb, is appreciated. I doubt anyone will even answer but it's worth a shot.

Also this could be a great post for "am i the asshole?"

Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 >The issue started when my friend whom I've know for only about two years asked me to sign as guarantor on his mortgage

Are you comfortable gifting your friend the mortgage amount?

If not, you should NOT have signed on their mortgage. Not even once, let alone twice.

It does not matter what story he comes up with to explain why he is not making the mortgage payments.

You are legally obligated to pay the mortgage, or you will be sued by the mortgage company and pay them all the amount owed plus court fees, interest, wage garnishment fees, etc.

There is NO way for you to escape this debt, since no sane bank would lend your friend the money to pay the mortgage you cosigned.

>Also this could be a great post for "am i the asshole?"

Not really - it is clear who the asshole is. You are just their victim.

Long story short, your ONLY legal recourse is to pay the mortgage payments, then sue your friend, win, then collect your judgement from a broke scoundrel.

If you cannot afford making your friend's mortgage payments, I would talk to an attorney that specializes in bankruptcy law to see what your options are.Answer #2: If you're signing as a guarantor on his mortgage, that basically means, "I will be just as financially responsible for the mortgage payments as the signatory."

Him asking you to sign a mortgage *extension* means he's having trouble making, and has quite possibly missed, one or more payments.  Yes, this is quite possibly affecting your credit as well as his.


Title: I believe I'm witnessing sexual harassment along with other inappropriate behavior almost every day. It's not directed at me however. Anything that can be done?

Question:
So here's the deal:

I work for a fairly large private company in Illinois. The director of my department has his hands all over every female employee in our department almost every time he's within 5 feet of the. He touches their shoulders, strokes their hair, touches their faces, rubs their back and pulls them in for hugs constantly. In addition, he has a different "pet name" for most female employees in the department. I personally believe this results in them being given preferential treatment in how assignments are handed out, but I can't prove that.

Beyond that. this same director treats other employees with a complete lack of human dignity. We are cursed out, screamed at, and threatened, both overtly and implicitly. Though the director will pass this off as "kidding" if he's ever called on it. As one example, he screamed at a male employee "Bitch, get the fuck over here" recently, and then tried to play it off as a joke.

So the company I work for would immediately find a reason to terminate me if went in and put in a complaint about any of this. That's not a guess, it's almost a 100% certainty.

Still, the environment i'm working in feels almost intolerable to me at this point. Not just because I'm afraid and stressed out on a personal level, which I am, but because I simply can't stand seeing my fellow employees be treated in this manner, especially women who I know are afraid to speak up for themselves.

So I'm just wondering if there's anything I can do and whatever advice anyone might have for me. Thanks in advance.

Answer:
 You can report the sexual conduct to HR.  But by naming names, you may be putting the women in an uncomfortable position.  If there's some of them you know well, maybe talk to them first.

The rest of the stuff you mention is not illegal, but again, you can report it to HR.


Title: Just found out brother and I have a half-sister. Should we get a lawyer now?

Question:
Long story short, a woman reached out to me and my brother last week and said she took an ancestry test and found out our father is her biological father. She friended me on Facebook and looking at the pictures she looks more like my dad than either one of us does. I don't have a doubt in my mind that she is his daughter.

Our father died 2 years ago, and left us a modest amount of inheritance that is gone now. We have a step-mother who has us written in her will to take the house when she passes. At this juncture, I'm not concerned our half-sister is interested in inheritance, but ***if she is,*** does she have any right to his estate or inheritance? More importantly, should we get professional legal advice before contacting her?

Just a side-note for context, my brother and I don't have much (if any) substantial money or assets. I am concerned, and I believe this is my brother's concern, is that we would owe her something of what little we have.

Answer:
 Being a biological sibling is not the same as being a legal sibling. Further, there's no reason at present to believe she wants your money. Meet your sister and talk to her about your father without being afraid. Don't put extra pressure on an unusual new relationship.

However, don't throw away any documentation on your father's estate you may still possess. Like taking an umbrella on a cloudy day, it's better to have and not need than need and not have.Answer #2: What was your father's will? ie did it specifically name you and your brother? Answer #3: I do genealogy and people are always very excited to find their real fathers this way.  She probably wants to know all about him.


Title: [20F CA] They hit my parked car (minor scratch) & took off as soon as they saw me.

Question: I was in the Starbucks parking lot getting ready to leave when a car pulls up next to me and a kid swings open the door, hitting my car. It sounded bad. I made eye contact with the driver. The driver started backing up. My initial thought was since he was too close he was going to adjust his parking. My boyfriend and I quickly got out of the car. We then realize that he’s leaving! My boyfriend tells him to stop and the car takes off fast. My car is not even a month old, brand new 2019. The damage is minor and looked into it should be less than $200. What makes me so upset is how he just left. There are cameras everywhere and I was told by two stores they would let me review the tapes in the morning. I want to know would this be considered a hit and run? Also, although it’s a small scratch could I/should I make a police report?

Answer: Definitely you don’t want to be paying for damages that you didn’t do.Did you contact your insurance company yet?


Title: [NY/Illinois] Business partner stole my investment money to pay his own bills

Question:
6+ months ago I was going to start-up a business online with a friend. I was going to provide content and he was going to provide advertising since he is an online marketing guru.

We each agreed to put in $7-8,000 into an advertising budget and I would create the product and he would take care of the marketing. So he asked me to send him the funds and he would add it to his half and get started. He promised big bold things and I stupidly trusted he'd do the work.

I was a bit too naive/trusting and sent him the funds. Aside from text conversations I never had him sign any agreements it was all just discussions via phone and text.

A few weeks go by and he still hasn't done anything. I say I want the money back if he's not doing anything. He tells me his funds (over 100k) got locked up in his merchant account on Authorize.net and it would be six months till they unlock it. I gave him some time thinking it was just a hard time for him, and that the funds had actually gotten locked up.

What I later found out is that he was struggling with bills, didn't have money for expenses, and was already late on many of those bills. As I started pressuring him to get my money back he kept saying "I'll have an update Wednesday and some of the money by Friday". He would do this for weeks and never any updates and never any funds.

My suspicion is that he was already short on money when he began talking to me about this business. I suspect he took my money to cover his bills and expenses. He's repeatedly told me that he'll pay me back including any late fees I got penalized with as my bills started piling up as well. He said don't worry I'll pay you back, as soon as I have cash you'll know. There is also a possibility that he has some funds available but he's sitting in an investment that is currently really low and so he's trying to wait it out and pay me back when the investment bounces back - meanwhile I'm getting killed.

I'm tired of waiting, my finances are getting worse and worse, and I need those funds back. I live in New York and he lives in Illinois. I've been reading about trying to file a civil suit in small claims court and what to do when the individual lives in another state but it's unclear to me. Is there any chance that I can file in NY since we were planning on launching a business selling products nationwide? Or am I stuck filing in his home state? If I need to file in Illinois is there an easy way to file and serve him the papers?

tldr: Business partner stole $8,000 to pay his own bills but he lives in another state, what are my options?

Answer: You can call the police and file a police report if you believe that he overtly defrauded you with no intent to spend it on business expenses. You may then sue him for the money. Most likely, you will never get it back quite honestly.


Title: Trying to get niece vaccinated, what's our legal exposure?

Question:
I was trying to work with my niece's grandparent to get my niece vaccinated without the knowledge of her anti-vax parents. Somehow the parent got wind of it and disowned my wife and threatened legal action. Are we in trouble?

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Since nothing was actually done and I was just feeling out the grandparent to see if they were amenable to doing the right things, I believe this might be a freedom of speech issue. But my wife has extreme anxiety and is worried about legal repercussions. They live in California if that makes any difference.

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Thank you.

Answer: I hate anti-vaxers but you have ZERO authority to vaccinate somebody else's child without the consent of their parents. I know you are trying to do the right thing but there is no way you can do this and have it be legal without their consent.


Title: Out of State In-Laws are using my Address to obtain a medical marijuana card in my state, Michigan, since it is not legal in theirs, North Carolina. What repercussions might this cause me?

Question: Just found this out from my wife. I'm angry and worried. Should this be reported or ignored? Help, please.

Answer:
 Conspiracy to commit the various crimes they're committing, if the government decides that you were helping them. I'd probably report it. They dug their own grave when they decided to commit multiple crimes.
Answer #2: I’m not even sure how this helps them.  Having a medical marijuana card for Michigan doesn’t make possession in NC legal, it would still violate NC and federal law.

If you knowingly go along with this you would be engaged in a criminal conspiracy and could be charged with federal crimes and probably crimes in Michigan as I would assume that the law provides for penalties for those who attempt to improperly use medical weed.


Title: Ex-Wife has me at wits end in a very bad way.

Question:
Texas.

Iv'e been here before. I appreciate any advice I could get.

Little back story about our divorce.  She was and is on lots of antipsychotics and has been institutionalized for death threats (herself and our child a few months after she was born) I am a convicted Felon, Manslaughter (just plain Manslaughter) for an accident where I was speeding well over the speed limit.  All that was in 2013.  I was divorced and sentenced on the same day 3 hours apart, same courtroom and same judge.

After my 4 months in county jail and 3 months in TDC  I got out and with no extra hassle our divorce decree went into effect and I get her 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends. Holidays (rotating yearly) and 45 days for summer. Our paper work states we each to pick up the child from the others residence. We have not once done this. We meet halfway.  3 years now. For 3 years, I have had to deal with a woman who is just flat fucking crazy. Threatening me about not showing up, cussing me out, screaming at me, threatening to move out of state (she could there's nothing saying she can't), moving every 8-10 months, constantly changing jobs, ALWAYS I MEAN ALWAYS late for meeting me to drop her off to me (Until I offered to change our meeting time from 6 to 7 on Fridays to avoid that shit) I still drop her off at 6 because school Monday and i'm okay with that.

Now my kids has a gigantic ringworm, 4 cavities, and (while i only has my kids word as proof) 1/2 the time she is staying the night with my ex mother in law and not with her mom(who happens to be the vice principal at my daughters school so it's obviously not a dangerous thing. Just....i'm the fucking dad if you don't want our kid i'll take custody) . It's gotten to the point that for the 1st time EVER she cried when I picked her up because it was the first time her mom saw her in over a week. my ex REFUSES to provide any medical records, medicaid card stuff, place of employment,  and getting her home address from her means I have to threaten legal action just to get that. I have literally begged this woman at times to stop freaking out, cussing me out, begged her over text and in person and over the phone to just stop bothering me and just take care of shit and leave me alone. She's made so many threats against calling the police if I EVER show up to my kids school I have all but given up on trying to get on her emergency contact list or EVER visiting her out of fear the cops will only see a felon and trust whatever shit my ex makes up.  DID I MENTION SHE EXPLAINED TO OUR 6 YEAR OLD SHE CAN'T LIVE WITH ME BECAUSE "DADDY KILLED SOMEONE" . Anyone know what it's like to be blindsided by that during a car ride home? It was a fucking accident that i go to therapy for PTSD over. i'm forced to carry photos of my dead friend with me at al times in my wallet and car by probation that shit fucks with you after a few years.

I have spent years collecting texts, phone calls (audio recordings) and taking photos of my kid to take her to court, but to date she has not done anything that would surprise a judge. She's just a massive piece of shit but NOT so much that it's illegal.  I'm starting to lose my sanity, to date she's the only person I have ever wanted to hit, she causes me extreme anxiety, and does her BEST to start fights with my fiance. Luckily we know better and just walk away with her mouthing off.

Point is i'm at the end of my rope. My daughters health is now at risk due to her shit (ringworm and teeth) but it's not child neglect nor does CPS give a shit they have pedaphiles and child beaters to deal with. I have no help legally i'm "just the dad" everyone sides with mom in the legal system and i'm "over reacting" and should just keep walking away. My family and friends tell me this while saying how horrible she is in the same breath. I have spent years "Doing the right thing" and ignoring threats and panic attacks and it works but I can't keep doing this.

Answer:
 TL;DR   OP's ex-wife is a drama factory and lousy parent.

OP, it's not clear to me that you have attempted to use all this evidence to petition for a different custody arrangement or schedule.    Or maybe you have, but you've been turned down.

It's also entirely possible that you're still on probation and thus not considered a stable home for your daughter because of the risk that you will violate and be unceremoniously returned to jail.

If you just want to unload about how the court doesn't take your evidence seriously, OK.    That doesn't change family court procedure or provide a simple legal question we can answer for you.

>Luckily we know better and just walk away with her mouthing off.

Good.  That's really hard.   [Keep it up anyway](http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/do-it-for-her).

Answer #2: >it's not child neglect

Untreated medical issues certainly qualify as neglect. If you are concerned she's being abused, make a CPS report. Even if no action is taken, it helps to build a file.

Dealing with a combative ex is going to be a part of your life, there's no magical solution there. If she's in violation of custody orders by being late, then you go back to court.


Title: I’m in Grad school and next school year, the school will not accept Medicare/Medicaid as an acceptable insurance to waive out of the school’s student health insurance

Question: I currently attend a small private graduate school in California and I was informed for the 2019-2020 academic year, the school is no longer accepting Medicaid and medi-cal insurance plans to waive out of he school’s student health insurance. The reason the school stayed is because the Medicaid plan only covers the state the student’s plan is issued. This will be the first time they will not accept the plan, even though the plan has been accepted years before. I’m 26, go to school full time, and do not make any income (paying off my school with loans). I wanted to know if the school can do this to the student’s and force the students currently on medicare to pay $500 a month for the student health insurance? The school also discourages students from getting jobs while in school as well (health professional school)

Answer:
 There's really no legal issue here because you attending the school means you pretty much have to abide by what the school says. Being a private school doesn't help unfortunately. Have you talked to other students regarding what they were doing? Have you asked your school's health center for any advice or brought this issue up to the authorities?

I was in your exact shoes as a recent Pharmacy graduate. Here's what I did;

First, look at the coverage requirements for accepted insurances, and note it down.

Next, assuming you're healthy with no medical conditions, you can try to look up short term insurances. They're MUCH cheaper but only offer you the insurance for a short period of time with many restrictions, and usually have a very high deductible. Pick one out that fits your school's requirements, and it should give you enough time for you to find alternative insurances or in my case, actually graduate since this was during my last year


Title: [NV] I have a warrant for my arrest and my job wants me to get a sheriff's card. If I go to the police station to get it are they going to arrest me?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Yeah, very likely.  We call that "easy pick'ns"Answer #2: For those of us not in the industry, a "Sheriff's card" or "Work card" is a permit that everyone who works in a gaming establishment in Nevada has to get.

Part of the process is a warrant and background check, so OP will be arrested on the spot and held until she can be bonded out again.

My recommendation is to hire a criminal defense attorney to help both with the DUI defense and with arranging to turn yourself in and get bonded back out.   So much better to know what's coming and how much it's going to cost than to sit there in jail wondering who is going to feed the dog tonight.


Title: My parents are kicking me out on my 18th birthday.

Question:
   My parents have made it clear to me that they intend to kick me out on my 18th birthday which is in a little under 2 years. I'm 16 years old and a sophomore in high school right now. I have big plans for my future, but I'm scared about what to do when my 18th birthday comes. I'm going to be homeless once they kick me out and I can't do much to prevent that.My household income is just below the states poverty line, so my parents won't let me get a job while I'm living with them because it would push our income above the poverty line, so we couldn't get as much financial aid from the government and all that.
   I live in Utah and  as far as I'm aware, it's legal for me to kick me out once I'm 18, but I'll still have a few months left of high school.
   I apologise if my words are scrambled. I'm just confused and afraid and I need some advice. Thank you.

Answer:
 It may be possible for you to get enough credits to graduate high school a semester early.

Whatever you do, do everything you can to keep your grades up and to graduate high school.

Talk to your school counselors about this. They should be able to guide you through this.

Good luck.Answer #2: If you’re in the Salt Lake area there is an amazing youth shelter that serves up until 25, I believe.Answer #3: Not a legal solution but you may want to talk to a military recruiter. When you turn 18 you can join the service and will be provided with meals and a place to live.Answer #4: Contact social services and ask them about programs. You can't/aren't the only one. Not sure about yours, but some states have laws/regulations about continuing to provide for a person who recently turned 18 if they are full time in secondary school and graduate soon. Check into that, too. Also, check out r/internetparents


Title: How safe are sealed records from viewing by someone who really wants to find them?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Sealed records are done as a court order - that is, if someone leaks them, they could be held in contempt of court.

As to whether these records might be released if you run for office, that's dependent on your state.  And of course, there's always the possibility that they get leaked and you can't identify the party.

Additionally, keep in mind that "sealed" doesn't mean that people with knowledge can't talk about it.  Anyone who knows you got arrested or charged can discuss it, unless they're covered by the sealing order - and that will just be immediate court people.  If this showed up in a newspaper, or someone knows about it in another way, then it's fair game.


Title: NJ - Local police are monitoring the beach with drones. What are my rights regarding recordings of me in my swimsuit?

Question: Our local (NJ) police department just announced (and posted signs) that they are monitoring the town ocean beach with drones.   I assume this is allowed but I am wondering what the laws are around maintaining/deleting the recorded video of everyone in their bathing attire.

Answer: You’re on a public beach, I assume, meaning you have no expectation of privacy, and anyone is generally allowed to film people going about their business in public.Answer #2: No rights. You’re in public— anyone can film you in your swimsuit.


Title: Potentially life-ruining situation I'm in, need some help.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 This is 100% a scam. This exact question comes up several times every week. Block and ignore. Answer #2: This is a scam, a very common one.Answer #3: There's no child. There's no dad. There's no cop. Don't send them money. This is a scam.

In the future do not talk with people under 18 online. The federal government does not give a fuck about age of consent in your state, and sending/receiving images in this situation will end you.


Title: Sold car for too low after being intimidated and harassed by buyer. He took it without pink slip. Anything I can do?

Question:
So I know I fucked up and shouldn't have sold it, but the man was aggressive and one thing led to another.

Anyway, the next day (today) I was like, screw that guy, I'll try to git back. Of course he wanted more money. Anyway, I was looking up his number to find no results. I searched his number on craigslist and he is selling other cars under different names and location. I am now certain the name he gave me was fake, can't find his name anywhere. All he has is the car, the key, and a piece of paper with my drivers license and DOB on it. I think he intends to forge a new pink slip.
I called the cops and they said that it was a legal transaction and I'd have to go through small claims court. I told him he was going to illegally obtain the pink slip, and he said he didn't know the consequences?

I was just wondering what my chances would be at small claims court. And if showing the court the other car adds under various names would help. I texted his number with two different phone numbers telling him i was interested in the car and for his name and address, so hopefully he responds with two different names and addresses at the same time. Not sure if that will be any good!
I am in Los Angeles! I think my car is now somewhere in San Pedro.
Honestly I just want to make sure this creep doesn't harass and intimidate someone else into selling a car or buying his junk.

Answer:
 So someone who sells cars bought a car from you for a price you both agreed on and you want to sue him for what?

You have no proof he is doing anything illegal.


Title: I live in the UK and a kid in the US is constantly trying to access my accounts including my PayPal, which he attempted to withdraw over £1000 from. Is there anything I can do?

Question: I know this person from an online game I've been playing for a while now and neither of us like each other. He's known in the community for phishing people to get into their accounts to steal their items and then sell them for money, however despite numerous reports his account hasn't even been banned. He has admitted to my friend that it was him who decided to "backdoor my router to get info from sites [I] went on" and therefore accessed my PayPal about 6 months ago, and a few other accounts of mine. Nothing was taken fortunately but I am not the only one he does this to. Is there anything at all I can do?

Answer:
 Not sure of laws where you are. But would guess there are laws against hacking and attempting to steal funds. Probably wire fraud laws of some kind.  I suggest googling wire fraud laws in your area. That would give you some ideas of whether you can make a legitimate claim against that guy.
Good luck.


Title: HOA's empty threats on my sweet dog

Question:
So some back story, my girlfriend and I moved into our rented apartment in June and got a puppy in July. Our dog is about 15 months and weighs about 75lbs. Big girl. Anyway, things were fine for a while but recently, our landlord contacted us about complaints of her barking. In response, we got her doggy training, a in-home camera to record her, CBD treats, dog walker service/daycare service, and got better about leaving her in a relaxed state. Over the last two/three weeks, we've monitored her behavior and generally we're pretty pleased. For context, I'm away at work for 12 hours and my GF is gone for 9-10 hours. We've paid an extra deposit for our dog and pay additionally each month. However, she's a dog. She's gonna bark. When she does bark it is for no less than 5 min intervals about once or twice a day due to hallway activity.

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Now the good stuff, our landlord contacts us via email. She's forwarded us emails from two neighboring units (we live an apartment/condo with 10 units) who have been complaining about her barking all day/nonstop. We have evidence saying her barking is way less consistent than what she's being accused. Also, other than emails stating the complaints, there is no evidence being provided. Our landlord has not verified these claims nor is taking our side in the matter. The HOA, which we were given no info on, is threatening to remove her (as if we won't break the lease). What options do we have? What should we prepare for? Any info you can provide would be wonderful, thank you.

Answer:
 > our landlord contacted us about complaints of her barking.

So you tried to address that - great.

> Over the last two/three weeks, we've monitored her behavior and generally we're pretty pleased.

Apparently, the neighbors are not pleased.

>We have evidence saying her barking is way less consistent than what she's being accused.

While that may be so, your own evidence shows that your dog is barking when left alone.

>However, she's a dog. She's gonna bark.

Definitely not the case - it is a matter of training, and properly trained dogs will not bark when left alone.

I appreciate that you are trying to address this, but I disagree with the "nothing we can do about it" tone quoted above.

> The HOA, which we were given no info on, is threatening to remove her

You need to decide how much to spend in fighting the HOA if they decide to force you to remove you dog on the basis that it is a nuisance.

Those fights can be really tough to fight - what does the HoA agreement that applies to your rented apartment say about pets?Answer #2: Your evidence shows that your dog is still barking consistently, even if it's not as often as accused. Five minutes is a long time to bark. Can you do anything to keep her from hearing the hallway noise? Baby gate to keep in the back room, white noise machine, etc.


Title: Nashville, TN: Our tenant asked to break the lease. We agreed but then she changed her mind. Are we required to let her stay?

Question:
Nashville, Tennessee

My brother and I purchased a rental house in January. The rent is is set to increase starting in July.

The tenants were unhappy about the new rent amount but signed the documents anyway. Last month they said that they weren’t sure they could afford it and were shopping around for a new place. We reminded them that they had a lease through December, they said they might want to break it.

On Memorial day, the tenants contacted us to confirm that they have rented a new house and would not be staying for the remainder of their lease. They asked to be let out of it early since they couldn’t afford to stay. We agreed to let them go and they said they would be out by June 10th. They haven't signed any paperwork yet  (we were planning to do it at the final walk-through on the 10th) but we have many texts outlining the situation.

Yesterday the tenant called my brother, hysterical, saying that the new place is actually MORE expensive than our rental, that she and her boyfriend had split up, and that she couldn’t afford to move. She said “I will be living out the remainder of my lease.”

Question: did we totally, completely screw up by not putting anything in writing the day she agreed to break the lease? We have other plans for this house (I would like to buy it from the business and live in it).

Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: They can stay. If you try to evict them they can show up with your lease and that will likely be the end of it and you will lose. Answer #2: Another option is you could try to pay her to leave.  Basically, in exchange for vacating voluntarily, you give her cash.  Costs you in the short term but might be worth it in the long run, especially if she's worried about affording the new rent.


Title: can i refuse a cps drug test?

Question:
my child’s father has a snapchat where he has posted numerous videos and pictures of incriminating material such as drugs and alcohol. he recently posted “acid” (fake blotter sheets he found on amazon) and someone from his snapchat ratted on him to CPS. she came to our house and drug tested both of us, he tested positive for amphetamines and i tested negative for everything. she placed our child in the care of grandparents and have both of us only supervised visits.  my child’s father demanded a hair and urine test because he insists that his test was incorrect (even though he took two of them and they came back the same). she is now claiming that we both are required to take the urine and hair tests even though mine came back completely clean. do we, or at least myself, have the right to refuse to take the test? i was compliant in the first test because i knew it would be clean but her insistence to take ANOTHER one is an inconvenience because of my job. i was cooperative with allowing her to come in and look at everything but i understand i could’ve refused. so, do i have the grounds to refuse to take this 2nd test because i was clean on the first one? we are in Texas.
Topic:
CPS and Dependency Law

Answer: Wait, if you tested clean why were you only granted supervised visits?


Title: Smoking weed vs possessing weed.

Question:
So bare with me because I know this is kinda a dumb question.

Now selling weed is illegal.. as is buying it no?

What about the act of giving it away?

Possessing weed is also illegal. But what about smoking it? I know it may be impossible to smoke it without being in possession of it so it may be a moo point but what if I constructed some type of apparatus that allowed me to smoke it while the actual weed was in someone else's possession..like a long bong that went across to another house where all the weed was and someone else lighting it for me..  Or someone shotgunning it into my mouth. would that act be illegal?

I live in CA and yes I am high

Answer:
 "I live in CA and yes I am high"

That is apparent but thanks for confirming.

Smoking = Possessing


Title: My wife is threatening to file a restraining order against me -TEXAS

Question:
My wife and i have been married for 8 months, i am in the military and we got married because we always wanted to and it was ideal timing but agreed to keep it quiet until we could have a big ceremony. she hasnt respected that(even though she requested it) and has told her sisters and brothers and friends but not her parents
lately weve been fighting alot and its progressed to the point where she decided to leave our home and go home to her parents. shes pretty much cut contact and not told me whats going on or anything, so iv been calling and texting her everyday trying to find out whats going on.
she hardly replies and usually its " i want a divorce" but hasnt filed papers or even consulted a lawyer just has her sister call and threaten me to stay away from her.
i decided to call her mom to find out whats going on and informed her we are married and now shes telling me she wants a restraining order for god knows what reason. i have never laid a hand on her
will this affect my career?
will a judge sign that?
what does that mean to me?
i dont want a divorce personally i dont believe in them and i honestly dont want to go through that with somebody i love so much i married them..
WHAT DO I DO

Answer:
 1.  Stop contacting her via text & call.

2.  It's fairly unlikely that she will actually go to court.  She is trying to tell you to stop talking to her.

3.  If she goes to court, she's unlikely to get a restraining order, if you stop contacting her.

4.  Did I mention stop contacting her?


Title: School system is acting shady {west TN}

Question:
My son was recently suspended from school. The reason being is he keyed someone's car;however, when the car got keyed became an issue. Their is a student my son was friends with whose parents belived my son to bullying their kid. At the time it was not considered bullying. Any other hateful act against this student would be considered as bullying. My son knows he keyed the car before he was told to not do anything else harmful. Sadly, he does not have any witnesses who can testify in his favor. The parents also do not have witnesses saying he had done it after his warning. We pulled our son out of public school and attempting to enroll him in a private school. Unfortunately we have already received word that a student is not accepted if they have been suspended. HIs school hand book states " Reasons for suspension/expulsion ... 4.
Willful or malicious damage to real or personal property of the
school, or the property of  any person attending or assigned to
the school;" My son was not being Willful or Malicious. He saw writing already on the car ( a plastic fender that he believed he could wipe off as he saw people do it before on the same car) and wanted to add I guess to mess around. Is there any way we could override the suspensions? My apologies if I am not being to clear this is my first time posting.

Answer:
 School system isn't shady. I am not sure if West Tenneesse has different vernacular but "keyed" a car is not "to mess around." Keying a car is serious and expensive property damage. Doesn't matter when he did it. They don't have to give you a warning to not damage/destroy a persons property. Keying is 100% willful and malicious. There is no way to playfully key someones car. And while its nice you believe your kid when he says their was already writing, here comes the big question **WHY DIDN'T YOUR KID FESS UP TO THIS WHEN HE WAS WARNED???** A GOOD kid who mean't no harm upon being warned to stop bullying and that the next incident is suspension would say "oh, well let me tell you EVERYTHING I have done including things you haven't brought up"

Get your kid together cause he is on a bad path.


Title: Accidentally viewed CP and got a message

Question:
I was on my phone on Google images looking at legal porn, clicked on an image, viewed the link it came from, and got a pop-message s from chrome saying I've been accused of viewing CP. Is that significant?

California, USA

Answer: It's malware. Reset you phone and browsers and make sure any apps you re-install are kosher. Answer #2: You don't state your location, but I'll venture a guess that no law enforcement agency in the world reaches out to suspects via browser pop-ups.


Title: [PA] Can I claim wrongful termination in a job that is at will employment for panic disorder related issues?

Question: I worked at a franchise location of a national restaurant chain and I was hired at will as a dishwasher. I was a hard worker, but a few days recently I had to miss because I've been having very bad panic issues. I told them that I was sick these days because, well I kind of was, in the way that I could not perform my job due to my panic disorder preventing me from doing really anything. A few nights ago I was working late and had a panic attack towards the end of my shift and had to leave work early. I said that I got sick and had to go. My boss let me leave work. I came into work today to be told I had been terminated. Do I have any rights here and does this count as wrongful termination? I'm not trying to sound whiney at all and if I don't have a case I'm sorry. I just am frustrated because this is something I've been working very hard to control and I was doing well at my job, but this mental illness got in the way and I ended up fired from it.

Answer:
 What is a "reasonable accommodation" that means that the work still gets done and you can deal with the issues on your end?

There is no law on the books that means that someone who physically can't do the job reliably can't be fired ever. No, if a disabled person can't do the job then they can be fired for it. If there is another way, then they might have an obligation to try that first. I just don't know what that would be.


Title: [USA] Family member has not paid their bills and they are now being sent to me.

Question:
This is based in Texas. Posting on a throwaway account.

My sibling and I live in separate houses. When we were first setting our houses up when we were younger, sibling asked if they could open an electricity account for both houses, so that they had some bills in their name, since they were unemployed at the time and were setting up their house with their fiance. I agreed to this, and they set up an electricity account for both my house and theirs. I simply paid for mine and they for theirs.

My sibling closed the electricity account suddenly and when I tried to open an account for just my house, I was told by the electricity company that my sibling had not paid the bills for their house and that they were over $5000 in debt. As such, they were refusing to let me open a new electricity account until the bill was paid. All my bills for my property were paid on time and they said there was no issue with my side of the bills. I would pay my sibling cash, they would then pay my bill for me. I've had it confirmed that my bills for my property are paid and not in debt and the debt is for my sibling's property. So my sibling has paid my bills with the money I gave them, but not paid their own.

When I told them this was not my bill and gave them my siblings contact details, they said that because I was related by blood, I had to pay off the $5000 debt instead of my sibling. I told them I could not afford this, and as a result, they shut off my electricity.

It's now been a week and a half since they did this. The only way they said they would restore power was if I removed my name off my mortgage, which I share with my friend. (Which I do not want to do as it's expensive and my friend could not afford the mortgage on her own) My friend, who also lives with me and is on the mortgage, tried to open an account in her name, but was told the same thing about the debt. The electricity company informed me that my sibling knew about this debt, and was meant to be paying it off in monthly installments....but never did.

I contacted my sibling, who doesn't care, because they are now 'debt free'. The electricity company are holding me completely responsible for my sibling's $5000 bill for their house. I asked my sibling to talk to them, but was met with 'They wont let me do a payment plan, they want it all in one bulk sum'. I have tried to talk to the electricity company about this, but they are loathe to talk to me regarding the account that was closed and is in debt as I'm not the account holder. While telling me this, they also told me that the debt was 'not linked to my house'. So when I asked if I could have my electricity on again, they told me no, because there was debt on the other house.

Right now I am being sent in circles, being told that I need to pay my siblings debt, which I just cannot afford to do, but also being told the debt is not linked to my house...yet my electricity has been cut off and they a refusing to restore it until the debt it paid.

My sibling in their house has full power, and has not had the electricity cut off as they closed the account and reopened a new one under their roommate's name. When I tried to do the same thing under my roommate's name, said roommate was told this was not possible due to the debt on my sibling's house...

I'm seeking legal advice via a free service in my town as I just don't have the money to pay for a lawyer, but I'd like to know more about the legalities of it before I see my lawyer. Do I have any rights in this instance? Or is it a case of I'm stuck and will have to try and find a way to pay?

Any advice at all is greatly appreciated.

Also, I am aware letting my sibling open an account for both of us was stupid, but I was young at the time and trusted them, so please do not lecture me on this. I am aware of my stupid mistake. :(

EDIT:

PUC said they cannot do anything.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Have you only spoken to the electricity company the one time you called? How is it that this company is aware that you share a relationship with the person who's (whose?) name the electricity was in? Answer #2: IANAL - There are forms you can find through a google search which require a debt collector to verify in writing that you owe them money. If they cannot verify then they are heavily penalized for any further attempted collections. I would suggest you send in these forms. Then the next time you are approached contact a lawyer and ask them to work on contingent. The lawyer may be willing to work for those contact violation fees. Answer #3: >When I told them this was not my bill and gave them my siblings contact details, they said that because I was related by blood, I had to pay off the $5000 debt instead of my sibling.

IANAL, but no, that's not how that works.

Unless you have made some sort of agreement with the electric company, which I do not see in what you've written, they don't have the power to enforce someone else's debt on you, regardless of relation.

Simply asked:  Is your name on the account, OP, in any capacity besides the bills you paid ( said bills wouldn't amount to having your name on the account)?Answer #4: Have you considered talking to the public service commission in your area?


Title: Eviction in progress, tenant moved out just before hearing. Do I still have to attend court?

Question: I made a previous thread about this, the update is that she has finally moved out, not 12 hours before our scheduled hearing. Do I have to, or should I still attend the hearing? I'd have to leave work to go, so I'd prefer not to, but I'd there are repercussions to be then I will (court costs, judge in her favor, etc). Any help? This is in Rhode island.

Answer: Call the clerk of the court and tell them you've reached a settlement with the other party and would like yo withdrawal the case, and ask for their advice. If you cannot reach anyone, then yes, you need to show up.


Title: [TN] Is it legal for the car dealership I work at to take 5% of my pay for a donation to a political party and to fire us for not being registered to that party.

Question:
The car dealership I work at was bought by a new owner in January. 12 people work here. He just put a new policy in effect where in addition to deductions and taxes 5% of our pay is taken and donated to a political party. He has also required that we all register to join this party. One of my coworkers objected (he is gay though he is not out because it's not socially acceptable here and only a few people know) and he was fired for his refusal to register because the party is against gay people. His unemployment application was also denied because the official reason for him being fired was insubordination. The rest of us are afraid to say anything because none of us can afford to get fired. I don't think it's right no matter which party you support. Is there anything we can do about this? Thanks!

Location is Tennessee.

Answer:
 It's not unusual for unemployment to be denied based on the employer's initial objection. If your ex-colleague appealed, then he would likely be awarded unemployment (dated back to the date he originally applied) unless your employer could corroborate the supposed insubordination.

I mention this, because Tennessee only allows deductions to offset debts owed by the employee to the employer, and only with the employee's written authorization in advance. Other deductions are not, as far as I can tell, permitted - and you can file with the state [Department of Labor](https://www.tn.gov/workforce) if your employer does not pay you your wages in full.

Doing so will likely cause your employer to terminate you at the earliest opportunity. It's illegal to fire employees in retaliation for wage claims, but it's _not_ illegal to fire an employee who has filed a wage claim for some other cause, and it's up to the terminated employee to pursue any kind of retaliatory termination complaint.Answer #2: If it's a corporation, and the donations are made to federal candidates or national parties, coercion is illegal.  11 CFR 114.2
Also, if they are a lobbyist employer (probably are not), then they are bundling contributions and have to register as such.
Finally, there is no TN statute, but the TN Department of Labor regs say that any deductions from wages must be authorized by the employee in writing.
So you can file a complaint with the FEC and the TN DOL.Answer #3: Get a lawyer from the other party. Any labor or workplace lawyer, peeferably a Superlawyer.

That is total bs.Answer #4: Legally no...unless you get in writing, you will not be able to prove it. You are an at-will employee, can fired for any reason or no reason.


Title: UT. Overreaching neighbor trees.

Question: My brother wants to know if he can trim tree branches from his neighbor's Walnut tree?They shed branches, twigs, leaves and, of course lots of nuts all over his driveway.

Answer: If the neighbor isn't interested in helping, your brother would need to check state, probably even local ordinance, to see what the rules are for overhanging branches. Typically you're allowed to trim things which overhang your property, but if you damage the tree in doing so (improper trimming), you may be on the hook for a very expensive tree. You'd want to hire a professional trimming service which guarantees their work, licensed/insured, etc.


Title: Girlfriend is being sued for backing out of a tennant situation before it began

Question:
I'm seeking legal advice for my girlfriend who initially signed a lease of an apartment, which needed a cosigner (She sent it off to her mother who never signed it). She returned later that day to talk over the rental agreement and was immediately was creeped out by the landlord and called back immediately that night to cancel the lease. The landlord waited 3 days before calling her back and saying "He decided she didn't need a cosigner" and that he would be suing her for $10,000 (which she doesn't have even that amount to her name) for breaking the lease agreement.

I guess what I'm asking is: Does the landlord have legal ground to sue her over breaking the lease, and for that much money?

Edit: She is located in San Luis Obispo CA.

Answer:
 She was offered a tenancy conditional on finding a cosigner. She wasn't able to accept that offer, as she never found a willing cosigner. I assume she never actually returned the signed lease?

I ask this because generally contracts require a meeting of minds. The landlord is absolutely free to _offer_ her a lease that's not conditional on finding a cosigner, but he can't simply decide that she's now bound to that lease without ever communicating it to her, regardless of whether he believes she would have accepted it, or would have accepted a more tightly-constrained offer. He would have needed to have communicated the offer of the cosigner-free lease to her, _and_ she would have needed to have actively communicated her acceptance of that offer in some way.

The one wrinkle I could think of is if she did sign the original lease and deliver it to the landlord.


Title: Car insurance cancelled while on vacation. Cited in an accident. Other driver had no insurance or license.

Question:
So I was recently in an accident, and cited at fault. The other driver didn't have insurance, a license, or even own the car he was driving.

I thought I had insurance, but my coverage had recently been cancelled due to non-payment (thought I was on autopay). The cancellation email got lost in a sea of emails while I was on vacation, so i didn't find out that it was cancelled until I tried to file a claim.

Should I be seeking out legal advice for either my insurance, or should I be worried about the other driver coming after me?

Answer: It is your responsibility to make sure you pay for your insurance. They are perfectly within their right to cancel it.  The other driver or their insurance company can absolutely come after you for damages. Hopefully for your sake there were no injuries and only property.