Title: [CO] Having to pay for a second drug test because of ADHD medication?

Question:
I went to an employment agency last week. A drug test is required, so I disclosed that I am on an amphetamine to treat my diagnosed ADHD, and was informed that they "don't do that here"-- I would have to go to a separate place for a second drug test and I would bring proof of prescription in then. However, I have to pay for this second drug test, despite disclosing that I would fail the first one due to my medication. The fee is reimbursed if I am hired.

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This *to me* feels like a form of employment discrimination against someone with a disability, as I am essentially being charged a fee to apply, but 1) I don't know if it actually is, and 2) I don't know if I have any options.

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TL;DR: Potential employer asking for outside drug test paid for out of my pocket because of my ADHD medication; is this allowed?

Answer: This is perfectly legal.


Title: Landlord removes snow with leafblower outside my window anytime from 1am-6am. Legal?

Question: I live in an apartment complex in Indiana. The city has a noise ordinance that cannot exceed a certain level before 7am and after 9pm. Multiple times I've been awoken from my sleep at 1:30am, at 6am, at 4:30am on Sundays, Tuesdays, Fridays, it doesn't matter. I contacted the apartment complex and they told me it had to be done at those times to be properly removed for our safety. Is this just some bs line? Nothing gets the heart going like being woken up at 330am on a Sunday to the sound of a leaf blower 2 feet from your bedroom window.

Answer: Call the police non-emergency line and ask them this question.


Title: Landlord never signed lease. Can I break it?

Question:
My girlfriend's landlord never signed her lease. She's been paying rent since February. Also, there's a termite infestation, She's 4 months pregnant and she's slipped on the outdoor stairs twice. Oh yeah and the neighborhood has been sprayed for Zika.
 Hoping any of that was relevant.

Answer: Nope, landlord does not need to countersign and even if they did how do you know he didn't sign his copy.


Title: I work for a closely held corporation. Can I ask my bosses what their religious beliefs are now that it affects my healthcare coverage?

Question: Location: New York, USA

Answer:
 A better question would be if any changes to the health insurance coverage are anticipated. It's not something that's going to just happen overnight.Answer #2: You could always ask your bosses.  They're free (and remain free) to tell you to get stuffed.

I should point out, since Reddit is full of misinformation on this topic, that the precedent for this case was actually set in 1993 when RFRA was passed.  If you wanted this case to go the other way, you are on the side of Justice Scalia, who warned about this exact thing in 1990.  Moral of the story is next time someone says "there oughtta be a law" tell them to STFU, because laws have unintended consequences.Answer #3: Its not illegal to ask, but why would you want to? It seems like nothing but trouble. Answer #4: You can always ask your bosses what their religious beliefs are. They can tell you that you're an asshat and to get back to work because your annoying them.


Title: Is this type of Invasion of Privacy Legal?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Your parents making you share a room is not invasion of privacy, nor is it illegal. No, you can't decide to live with your grandparents.


Title: Father passed away with debt, as executor I need advice

Question:
I'm in the USA, in New Jersey. My father passed away a short time ago and I am in the process of taking over as executor (will was old and written before he had me, his son). He had approximately 12-15 thousand dollars worth of credit card debt. No assets to speak of, save a few thousand in a checking account and an older vehicle in his name that was paid off. The only other accounts he had was around one thousand dollars worth of stocks in an account, a life insurance policy left to my mother (his ex wife), and possibly a pension.

If I understand correctly, I have to use the money in his checking account as well as the money made by selling the vehicle to pay back some of his debts. His life insurance policy shouldn't be used for this since it doesn't go to his estate. Obviously, there's not nearly enough there. What exactly should I be doing from here? I plan on notifying his credit card companies of his death and the fact that there's no money to pay them in his estate, but I can't imagine they'll accept this answer.

I'm also not sure what happens to the stocks if there's no beneficiary listed.
Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer:
 >  I can't imagine they'll accept this answer.

Actually, they will because they have to. If the estate has more debt than assets, then the remaining debt goes unpaid and the CC companies have no claim on anything else.

To be clear, if a collections agency gets involved then they'll try scare tactics. And of course if any of the debt was co-signed or jointly held then that person would still be liable. But otherwise the debt doesn't get passed down.


Title: Could a person potentially be legally punished if they possessed child pornography of themselves?

Answer:
 Yes.

There is no exception in the law about that.

A person can be charged with the creation, possession or distribution of child pornography, even if the child in question is themselves.

It is rarely (but still sometimes) prosecuted that way.Answer #2: Photos of you naked as a baby running around? Probably not child pornography. You are fine to possess those. There has to be an element of obscenity in them. Most CP laws have an exception for things like family photos of kids in the bath, etc. Not to say people haven't been prosecuted for them, but the exception exists.

Photos of you with your hand on your rock hard cock? Definitely CP.


Title: OH - New Baby Issue

Question:
So my fiancee and I have been together for almost five years now, planned on getting married and all that. Last year I noticed things changing with her and all seemed to be signs of cheating. We went through a really ugly spot until she came out and told me she had been seeing an ex for a few months and now she's pregnant. She had attended dr.'s appointments with the guy about the baby. He wanted to be involved with her and start a family and all that.

 Now we had tried to have a baby for a while but it got to the point where I thought I just wasn't fertile. She assumed the baby was his because she thought she had just been sleeping with him at the time. Her due date would've put it at a Monday which was a day that her and I had slept together but she was with the other guy Friday. So we just weren't sure.

 So we started couples counseling after she decided she found out I was willing to make things work with her. The other guy didn't take this so well obviously so he had his father leave a note on my car, he sent a Facebook message outlining everything and sent a written letter addressed to her parent detailing everything as well. He stated that if it was his he would do everything he could to make sure I couldn't be around the baby.

 Now the baby has been born a month early and we just received a letter for a court date Tuesday with him stating that he is the father basically. So we took a paternity test a couple days ago and mailed it in. It came back today that I'm not the father.

We're trying to figure out our options. This guy doesn't want the baby he wants to get back at her. His family has money as does he and we don't really have much. What should we do? Do we need to get an attorney? She seems to think that he will try to say she's an unfit mother but she has a 6 year old well adjusted son who's father I'm sure would vouch for her.

Any help would be greatly appreciated!

Answer:
 > Her due date would've put it at a Monday which was a day that her and I had slept together

Due dates don't work that way.Answer #2: Dude.  This is her problem, not yours. You aren't married yet, so you're not the presumptive father legally speaking.  You don't have a dog in this fight right now, except to the extent that you remain involved with this woman.

"He" cannot "get back at her" - what he can do is pay child support and get visitation.  In the absence of evidence he cannot prove that she's an unfit mother.  She does need a lawyer, however.   Answer #3: > we just received a letter for a court date

Elaborate on this?

You're going to want to get a court ordered custody agreement and child support agreement.  If you don't, then by default both parents will have full custody (not sole custody).

> He stated that if it was his he would do everything he could to make sure I couldn't be around the baby.

He doesn't have a say in this unless he convinces the judge during the hearings about the custody agreement that you're some kind of terrible influence on the child.
Answer #4: What exactly are you trying to accomplish? Your options are limited here. Once paternity is established she can file for child support and he can file for partial custody/visitation.


Title: [CA] Was at fault in an auto-accident. The other party is complaining the replacement car is not up to his standard. Says he will pay out of pocket for a higher-end car and then sue me for the money if I don't reimburse.

Question:
Hey guys, need a bit of input if possible. I rear ended a fairly nice car (older Jaguar) last week, their car only needs a bumper replacement and thankfully no one was hurt.

However, he requested a high-end luxury vehicle as a temp and my insurance did not offer that to him. Now he is telling me that he is going to pay out of pocket if the insurance doesn't provide the car he needs, and that if I don't reimburse him he will sue me for the money.

What are the legal grounds for his threat? Should I be worried? Any tips? I've reached out to my insurance agent and left a message.

Answer:
 He can pound sand. Your insurance will fight this fight for you. Don't worry about this at all. Answer #2: He can of course sue you. Anyone can basically sue anyone, but I don't think he'll get much traction. And the good news is that your insurance company will defend you in court should that be needed.

Edit: and thinking about it, when your company pays his bills for repair they are going to want a release signed. He has the option to go through his own company and they can subrogate. But there are few if any companies that would pay for this type of vehicle for their own insured either.


Title: I think my neighbor's vandalizing my car but I don't have proof

Question:
[SF/CA] My cars been getting vandalized since I was in school but since I graduated from college in December it seems nothing has changed. It wasn't a big deal before because it was only like one or two marks but since I've been back I've only started noticing more of them and I think I've found a new one today.

It seems like bb bullet dents to me - and the only people I can think of would be my neighbors, since the marks keep showing up. I've ruled out my workplace and my friends house because none of my other friends/coworkers are getting these dents. the dents are beginning to rust and it's gonna cost me a lot to fix these 5+ dents. Its making me rethink getting a car for myself since I don't want to worry about getting it vandalized as well...

Another reason for thinking it's my neighbor is because my dad and their family have been arguing since we moved in about 15+ years ago but I think it's only started now because my dad is unemployed and literally has nothing better to do with his time than to argue with them. also most of the damage is on the right side of the car, I park in my driveway and my neighbors house is literally 3 feet to the right. I think he just walks out with his bb gun or something and shoots my car late at night...it seems like some of them have been shot up close cuz the dents are pretty big.

Granted, my dad is an asshole who won't listen to me and firmly believes that arguing with my neighbor everyday will eventually solve all his problems but what can I do to find out if it actually is my neighbor? installing a security camera seems like the obvious choice but I was wondering if there was any legal action I could take as well. I'll upload the pictures of the damage if anyone's interested

Answer:
 You can report it to the police, but you have literally *zero* evidence that your neighbor's involved.  Or honestly that it's happening at your house or is vandalism.

Get some cameras and see what they show.


Title: Is it legal for dentists in Washington state to pull more teeth then requested?

Question:
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Topic:
Removed - PII

Answer:
 INAL but, it may be insurance fraud. Get an appointment with a new dentist and let them know that you are concerned that the previous dentist extracted more teeth than was actually necessary. Get a copy of all your medical records from the previous dentist yourself. You may want to call a few personal injury attorneys for a consult.Answer #2: Delete the name! ASAP!!Answer #3: Physician here. Dental practice, like medical practice, requires informed consent. ["Failure to obtain informed consent is a departure from the standard of care for dental practice. It is negligent to proceed with the treatment of patients without their approval."](http://www.dentistrytoday.com/practice-management-articles/risk-management/1897-).

Certainly you have no obligation to see this dentist. If this dentist has done something to cause other providers to decline to offer you their services you may have been defamed.


Title: (OH) New employee not showing up/unresponsive, has key to our company vehichle

Question: As the title says, I work for a small company that just hired a new employee to drive a box truck. For whatever (dumb) reason, one of the managers gave this employee a key to the box truck immediately upon hire and then went on vacation. We have two copies of the key. One of them is out of state and the other one is with this person who is now not answering their phone. This guy is so new he hasn't even filled out any paperwork so I don't think there will be any issues there.  I am wondering the best way to get the key back. We need to use the vehicle and obviously don't want it stolen. Can we go to the address on the resume? Should we call the police? I appreciate any advise you may have.

Answer: The matter has been resolved. A member of their family passed away and the key is now back in our posession. Thank you!


Title: Can I get in trouble for talking to someone that I have a protective order against? (UT)

Question:
I have both a civil and criminal protective order against an individual. A police detective called me looking for this person. I tried to provide as much information as possible to assist in the investigation because I figured that a detective wouldn't be wasting their time calling me unless it was a serious crime. I have not heard from this person since the order was put in place but if he did try to contact me, I would have avoided talking to him and immediately contacted the police. However the detective mentioned that if he does contact me, I should talk to him, implying that I should try to get info on his current whereabouts or details on the crime in question.

I would be happy to help get this guy in trouble if he really did do something wrong but I don't want to risk compromising the legal protection I have. I do have an app on my phone that records phone calls and I live in a one-party consent state. If he does call me, should I answer and pretend to be worried about him to see if he will divulge details that could be helpful for the police to find him and charge him? I would obviously call the police and the DA who prosecuted my case afterwords to inform them that he broke the no-contact order.

Could a recording of me pretending to be nice to his person negatively impact my protective orders against him? What if I tried to contact him to get him to talk, what would happen to the protective order then?

Answer:
 >Could a recording of me pretending to be nice to this person negatively impact my protective orders against him?

Yes.

>What if I tried to contact him to get him to talk, what would happen to the protective order then?

Good heavens, don't even think about doing that.  Do NOT do that.

This is one of those times where you just back off and let the police do their own job.  That police officer was clearly not thinking about your own safety.  While we all appreciate the officer's zeal, he has failed to grasp the big picture here.  You need to protect yourself.  Back off.  Very very far off.


Title: California: Hospital intentionally threw away photos of my deceased child.

Question:
When my daughter was stillborn in 2012, I chose not to view her body. This is not a common decision and the staff really pushed me to make sure it was what I wanted, and it was. I wanted to remember her in my stomach, alive. Not as a body which had already been dead for several days. My belief is that after we die, the body is really just an empty shell. I have never regretted that decision.

However, after they had taken her body away and I was recovering, a social worker came in and told me, among other things, that the staff had taken photos and hand/foot prints of my daughter. This was entirely without my knowledge or consent. I was really upset at the time and felt pretty violated. But I did understand that it had been done out of care and concern for my future mental well being. The social worker told me that they had put the photo and prints in a memory box, and that if I was not ready to take it yet, that she understood and had kept many other memory boxes for other mothers in the past. She said she would take care of it until I was ready. This is apparently a fairly common practice when dealing with infant death.

I wasn't sure I would ever be ready, but in October of 2013 I found myself worrying a lot that the box would be lost or misplaced somehow. I called the office and was reassured that it was still there and would continue to be. I almost went and picked it up then, but ultimately just could not do it.

A month or two ago, I realized I was finally ready. It was time. I didn't know if I wanted to look at the photo, but I have hand prints of my other children hanging on the wall and I wanted to put my daughter's up there with them. So I called the office again to make an appointment. The girl put me on hold, and when she came back she told me she was sorry but that my memory box had been thrown away.

I hung up and basically lost my shit for a while. Then I started to think it had to be a mistake. Why would they do that? Why would anyone do that without calling me first? I called back and begged them to look for it again. My call was forwarded up the chain of command, and a while later I got a message explaining: in February of this year, they moved offices. They had a lot of memory boxes - hundreds in fact - and they were taking up a lot of room. So the manager decided to throw them away.

Nobody was informed. Not only me but many other grieving women were told that these memory boxes would be on hand until they needed them. Many of them never get picked up, but some of them do. And apparently nobody at the hospital cared enough about those moms, the moms who would need the only photo or handprints she would ever have of her child, to even give us a ring.

I filed a formal complaint and have talked to several people. It's quite clear that I've been labeled a "problem" person, as everyone knows exactly who I am and gives me the exact same canned response: "Although your memory box cannot be replaced, the Manager (the one responsible for throwing it away) conveyed that if you had any prenatal ultrasound photos, you could put together your own box. [Insert recommendations to contact mental health, etc.] ...please accept our sympathy for the loss of your daughter and memory box." Notice how they take no responsibility whatsoever or admit any wrongdoing.

Now I just wonder how many other women in my position are going to have to call and have someone tell them that their dead child's photo was thrown in the garbage because it was "taking up too much space." A phone call. Really, how hard is that to make?

I should mention that this is an HMO, so the hospital, the health care plan I'm part of, and the social services office are all under the same umbrella. They have records of everything.

Anyway, I don't know what recourse I have here. Nothing I can do will bring my daughter back or allow me to see her hand/foot prints. I have lost those forever. But I want people to know what they did. And it's not just me, it's other people too. I really just don't know what to do but I feel like I should do SOMETHING. And their responses to me have indicated that they are afraid that I WILL do something and they are doing everything within their power to protect their asses.

So... I dunno. Any advice welcome. What should I do?

Answer:
 Sorry for your loss, but other than go to media not sure what recourse you have. At the end of the day, they have no duty to make or maintain these boxes, and originally you stated some anger with the knowledge they did it without your permission.  They are probably well aware of their mistake by now and I am sure the manager feels horribly but they may have honestly thought that after so many years, you would not come back for it. Whats worse, dragging them through mud would likely have one resolution: hospitals stop doing memory boxes all together. I know if I was their attorney thats what I would advise. Its all liability for them.

I think your seeing fear out of them when what they have is indifference to your anger. Yes, it makes them look bad, but and maybe someone will correct me, there is no legal obligation to maintain such a thing indefinitely.

So I have no advice but that is my perspective. Answer #2: Can you establish that they had a legal duty to retain these pictures that long? Answer #3: You don't have a legal case. You had no contact with the hospital for them to keep your box. But you can go to the local media and see if they will pick up the story.


Title: How can an attempted Murderer get NO jail time?!

Question:
A year ago a man came to the house of my brother-in-law and beat on his truck to entice him out of the home. There was a scuffle in the front yard which led to that man shooting my brother-in-law in the chest and leaving him for dead. He is now being offered a plea bargain for 20 years probation and no jail time!

How can this be possible. He absolutely came there with the intention of killing him. There are even text messages from him to some friends stating that he was going to kill him.

How can someone bring a loaded gun to another persons house, shoot them, leave them for dead and only get probation. I literally have no words. Our "justice" system is an F'ing joke!

Any advice on how to bring attention to this and see justice served so this monster isn't feeling like he is allowed to shoot people with no consequences?

This is in Shelby, Montana

Answer:
 Who knows?  None of us were there.  One scenario I can envision is something like:

Goes to house.  Entices brother out.  Your brother *didn't* have to go out, that's a very important part to remember here.  Your brother goes out.  Throws first shot.  Is the first one to escalate to some form of deadly force.  Guy pulls and shoots your bro. Guy is spooked and takes off.  Previous text messages of "I'm going to kill him" didn't literally mean "kill," but instead was the usual puffery you tell friends or something if you want to kick someone's ass.

But again, like I said, none of us were there.  And getting the guy on probation for 20 years is better than going into trial with a flimsy case that can have multiple holes poked through (many more potential issues than just the quick ones I pointed out off the top of my head) and the guy gets off entirely because a jury isn't convinced by the prosecution's case.

Edit: fixed a word. Answer #2: Because that's what the judge and DA thought was appropriate. We weren't there so we don't know all the facts of the case. It's not like probation is a walk in the park. 20 years is a long time to be on probation and he could very well screw that up and go to jail for whatever sentence was suspended to probation. You have no recourse, here. It's all up to the state. If the DA thought it was too lenient of a sentence they could have filed a motion to reconsider but considering they were the ones that offered/accepted it, it would have been a moot point.


Title: Was rented a car without a working horn. No horn leads to body damage which rental agency wants me to pay for...

Question:
I rented a vehicle through Hertz in Beaverton, OR to drive for Lyft in Portland, OR. I discovered the car horn didn't work when someone cut me off and I had to swerve to avoid them. This caused me to hit a curb and ultimately lose a hubcap. Hertz wants to charge me for hubcap... When I informed Hertz about the issue with the horn I was told that they only inspect the body of the vehicle, not whether it functions. When pressed, they insisted that it was Lyft's responsibility to check that the car is working and safe. Lyft support tells me it's on Hertz to make sure everything is working. WTF???!!!
Any advice on how to move forward. Filing a report with the NHTSA now...

Answer:
 It's the driver responsibility to ensure any vehicle they are driving is in good working order.

You damaged thier vehicle. You are liable. Quit trying to blame other people.Answer #2: You're going to have an extremely hard time proving that a car horn would be the cause here. You hit the curb because of the other driver and I have 0 idea why you aren't pursuing them.


Title: I think I’m being cyber stalked by strangers.

Question:
For context, I am in the US. I recently ended a friendship with an online friend that ended in a very messy way. She is not a mentally stable person and overreacted, saying things like “I ruined her life” and she “won’t forget this.” Needless to say it scared the crap out of me.

I blocked her on everything, including her phone number. I received harassing messages from multiple unknown numbers. I blocked these numbers as well and said “do not contact me.”

I’ve blocked her on everything I could, but I’ve been alerted to the fact that there are fake Instagram accounts using my pictures and titled things like “shitty human.” I haven’t been able to see the content because it is private. A friend told me that there are pictures of me on the account and pictures of my dog that I know I sent this person when we were still friends. They were able to see the account before it went private. They also said that the account was in French and it said things like “buy pictures here.”

I’m worried that this is going to turn into something dangerous. I’m really paranoid about this whole situation. I don’t know what else I can do at this point. I’ve been blocking and reporting the accounts. I haven’t received any more messages from unknown numbers, and I haven’t been contacted in any way.
Topic:
Computer and Internet

Answer:
 >I blocked these numbers as well and said “do not contact me.”

Just block the numbers, don't bother replying at all.  Sounds like you're doing everything you can though.  Make sure all your social media accounts are locked down and set to private or friends only.


Title: High school seniors are allowed to get away with blatant bullying and assault. What do we need to bring this to the attention of the school district?

Question:
This is a bit long-winded and I apologize in advance.

The high school location -TX. Near the DFW area.

I have two sisters, now aged 20 and 19.

They attended this specific high school for their freshmen year (which they did together) back in 2015. I distinctly remember for homecoming my mother and my sisters worked hard on making mums for the event. Everyone was encouraged to make their own mums and it was a cute fun experience. As it turned out, only seniors were allowed to use white during homecoming on their mums. This led to seniors stomping around and tearing the mums of the lower class-grades. However the freshmen were the big losers of the evening. No faculty and or staff got involved to prevent this, according to my sisters and their friends. The seniors were allowed full range of this rampant, destructive behavior. My sisters got home devastated. What they had worked so hard on for days, if not weeks, was torn apart. My mother did schedule a talk with the vice principal but nothing was resolved. It was justified as "kids being kids" and it just "being a joke". In the end my sisters were transferred to a different school within the month.

Now onto the more recent events. My family has since relocated to a new state. My sisters still have friends in TX. The 19 year old has a friend with a 14 year old sister who now attends said high school. It's almost graduation (in June, I believe) and to celebrate, the high school has been having spirit weeks and assembekies and what have you exclusive to seniors. This girl called my sister crying because as it turns out, she was wearing a white t-shirt. The theme of the day was school colors (being red, black, and white). The girl was wearing a white t-shirt. Evidently only seniors were allowed to wear school colors that day. According to her, a few senior girls walked by and with some scissors pretty much cut the sleeves off of her shirt. The parents of the girls aren't necessarily the most involved or caring. My mom had always looked out for them when we lived in Texas and they would often spend nights and sometimes even the full summer over with us. The girl is so distraught it's gotten to where my mom has been pretty much having arguments with the girl's mother in order to get her to do something about the incident, and is even offering to have both girls flown up to her house to live with her and my sisters.

My mom is beyond pissed and wants to get in touch with the superintendent of the district. The thing is, we don't know wether she would be allowed to make a complaint, for lack of better wording. Her children are no longer enrolled in school, she doesn't even live in Texas anymore. But she refuses to just sit idly by. What can be done to end this cycle of blatant destruction of property?

Answer:
 >According to her, a few senior girls walked by and with some scissors pretty much cut the sleeves off of her shirt.

Has the girl gone to the police about this?Answer #2: For non-Texans: http://www.rattlingaroundinmyhead.com/humor/177/mums-the-word-at-homecoming.htmlAnswer #3: Knowing no other meaning for the word 'mum' besides mother made this a *very* confusing read.Answer #4: What is a mum?


Title: (MINNESOTA) My family accused my deceased grandpa's nurse of stealing fifty grand. A family friend who is a cop started an investigation, she’s in jail and we won a lawsuit. My grandpa’s accountant was arrested on unrelated stuff. It was found that he stole the money. He’s never met her. What now?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 there is 2 things you can do here

1. contact the nurse asap and try to work out some kind of payment plan and pay every single cent she spent defending herself and paying your family

2. dont say anything and hope she never finds out but if she does find out she is gonna sue you guys and you will probably end up owing a lot of money to her

im not sure how you guys won a case against her but you destroyed her life Answer #2: This is firmly in get an attorney territory. Go on the legal referral network of the Minnesota Bar Association and find one through there.Answer #3: Well, since you answered in this thread with a different throwaway alt, it's amazing that this happened to your cousin's girlfriend too.

https://np.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/543212/what_is_the_saddest_thing_you_have_ever_seen_or/d7yhlcmAnswer #4: #troll


Title: [Ontario] If I get injured on someone's strangely designed driveway, are they liable?

Question:
There's someone in my neighbourhood that has a very odd driveway, it's almost like slick tile.. last winter I slipped and almost fell while walking my dog. I have no idea why they have such a bizarre, slick driveway, but the driveway is this strange texture all the way out to the road.

I don't know which house it is, and can't tell underneath snow. I don't want to crack my head open this year.

Edit: I should mention, the snow actually makes the driveway more slippery, almost like ice.

Answer: Why are you on their driveway?


Title: Buyer threatening that he will sue me (I live in Ottawa, Canada)

Question:
I was selling my Gtx 1070 Computer Graphics card on Kijiji for $400. Being on Kijiji, all Im hoping for was to do a local meetup and transact locally, as easy as that.

However, a buyer asked me if I do shipping he live in TORONTO ONTARIO, and said he would do the transaction through Paypal.

I am really new to Paypal, and never used it at least once in my life. I've heard of it countless times from people but I have never really had the chance to use it.

I did some research and he offered to send it as 'Friends and Family' and he said that, that might somehow make me even comfortable with doing it through paypal because F&Family method is not disputable by Paypal.

He sent me $415 ($15 for the shipping), Ive received the money, however, paypal held my funds and I have to remove my account limitation because my account was just new and told me nothing to worry about because they are just doing this for security concern.

I told the buyer that the funds were held, showed it to him, but he says that I should really ship the product as soon as possible. I told him that by any means, I will refund him his money, or wait for paypal to remove my limitation to my account so that I can actually get the money, and then ship the card to him.

The next few hours (3-4 hours later), he texted me saying that he will hire a free-attorney and will sue me, and I should prepare my self for legal action. He also stated that he filed a police report and mentioned something about RCMP.

I told him that I will refund him (that is the least thing I can do for now since my account is still limited), but he said 'No, that money belongs to you, send the card or I will seek out and have a meeting with my lawyer tomorrow'.

My decision now is that I will just refund his payment, but what comes to my mind is that he said he doesnt want a refund, but he wants my product. I cant do that yet because Paypal held the funds, and I am scared that if I send the product, he might just dispute a charge back on his credit card and get back his money as well.

My only concern at the moment is I am scared as this is my first time experiencing this type of situation, do you think he will really sue me? I feel like he doesnt want to get this solved, as he is always insisting that the only thing that I can do for now is send my product, then he will not continue to plan on suing me tomorrow by talking to an attorney. He also mentioned that I should really think of it because if he wins (he stated that he is confident), he will put all the charges against me, and he will make couple thousand bucks off it.

What should I do guys? Thank you very much!
He knows my Phone number, and my Paypal email.

Answer:
 Sounds like a scam to me. The money won't clear and you would have already shipped the card and loose it. It'd wait for the money to clear.Answer #2: Scam. Three signs:
(a) he wants the transaction not in person
(b) he wants paypal friends and family (which can't be disputed)
(c) he is more concerned about getting the product than getting his money back.

If he sues you, you will have plenty of time to respond, including giving his money back so that he has no damages.  So don't worry.

Meanwhile, 99% odds that the money doesn't clear.  if the 1% does, send it back to him.  You don't need the drama.


Title: Car Towed by Apartment Complex

Question: So I'm out of the country for 2 months, come to find out that my apartment complex (in CA) had my car towed because they were working on a parking lot paint job. Apparently they taped notices on people's doors prior to the paint project. Did not receive an email notice/phone call regarding the project, and they did not bother to notify me that my car has been towed after the fact. They do have my cosigner's contact info & emergency contact on file, however did not contact either of them. I just paid the towing company over $1k for holding my car there for 2 weeks. Any advice on what I can do?

Answer: Posting a notice on your door at least a day in advance would be an acceptable and standard method of delivering notice.


Title: Legal counsel and custody

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Is his aunt an attorney? If she is, and is licensed to practice in Ohio, then it's not illegal for her to represent him. Whether it's a good idea is a whole other ballgame. Relatives are sometimes called as witnesses in family court, and if she were representing him she cannot be called as a witness.


Title: A brick archway collapsed, falling on my foot and injuring me. Is my landlord responsible at all?

Question:
A little over a week ago, I was taking out the trash in my backyard. It was really late at night and my buddy was with me. My backyard has brick fencing all around with a door that had a brick archway over it. As I was headed out that door, the brick archway came crashing down. My buddy jumped out of the way, unfortunately I wasn't as fast. The bricks slammed down onto my foot. I was in extreme pain. I couldn't stand on my foot or put any pressure on it. My friend had to grab another person inside my house so they could carry me in.

I was on crutches for several days after and had a pretty bad limp afterwards. I can now walk fine, but I am in constant pain and it doesn't seem like my pinky toe is getting any better.

I contacted my landlord the day after it happened. He seemed very worried and immediately rushed to my house to inspect the archway while I was at work. He also texted me frequently over the next few days asking about the condition of my foot.

I would have immediately gone to the hospital the night of the incident, but unfortunately I can't afford health
insurance right now and don't have the money to pay for those kinds of bills.

What can I do? I have daily pictures of my foot and I took photos of the bricks that caused the injury.

This happened in Pennsylvania.

Answer:
 Before worrying about legal advice:

**GO TO THE HOSPITAL**

You may have broken bones. There is no point in jeopardizing your future ability to walk over this. Your medical bill does not need to be paid immediately.

The next step is asking for your landlord to pay for your medical bills. If your landlord refuses, you can sue them for personal injury. If you can show that they were negligent (landlord had duty to fix problem, fixing problem is reasonable for landlord to do, cause of injury was failure to repair archway, negligence caused the injury) in repairing the archway you have a good case.

If the archway was not visibly broken beforehand, I'm not so sure. In that case, those who constructed the archway may be at fault. You should absolutely present this case to a personal injury lawyer **AFTER YOU GET MEDICAL HELP**

Edit: You may also be able to sue for lost wages and any long-term harm that comes of this.


Title: DUI at .07

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > However at the station test I blew a .07 which is below the limit.

It's below the *per se* limit, which is the BAC at which you are automatically DUI without any other evidence of impairment. However, you can still be DUI at much lower BAC's when you show signs of impairment like, you know, swerving into a cop car.


Title: [NC] I work at a hospital, and I got bedbugs from a patient after a lapse in hospital protocol. Do I have any options?

Question:
I work as a nurse on a main hospital floor, and I get a call from an Emergency Department nurse about a patient I will be receiving. She notes that the patient had a history of bedbugs, but no one had seen any on him. I make a mental note of it, and they send him on up.

The patient gets to the room and it's clear they're infested. The nurse couldn't have looked at them for more than 10 seconds, otherwise it would be apparent. I had asked the unit clerk to order a cart with personal protective gear before his arrival, but it hadn't got there yet. I make a phone call to the people who drop off supplies, and it gets there soon after. I also look carefully through the patient's notes, and the note written by the Emergency Physician states the client has bedbugs and is to be placed in isolation.

I tell my charge nurse about the situation, and she is furious. She makes calls to the emergency department, their charge nurse and coordinator, and then calls the hospital nursing manager to tell them what happened. Hospital protocol says that a patient with bedbugs must stay in the ED room for 48 hours after being treated for bugs. During their ride through the elevator throughout my floor, they must have dropped a few bugs. And the patient wasn't critically ill or requiring specialized help that required immediate transfer.

Fast forward to a day later, and I have the distinctive linear bites that bedbugs are known for. I freak out and immediately go buy treatments and equipment to fight this and I start washing and bagging everything I own.

My question is, can I get help from the hospital on this? I don't make a ton of money, and I'm annoyed that I've had to pay hundreds of dollars and several days working on this. And that's even before I resort to an expensive professional exterminator, which I'm hoping I won't have to.

I hate the feeling that my apartment doesn't feel like a home anymore. I can't sleep comfortably in my bed anymore knowing that those little demons are just waiting to come out and attack me, and I feel restless sitting in one place for too long. I'm paranoid that every itch I feel and every speck I see anywhere is going to be a bug.

Does the fact that the hospital didn't follow their own protocol make a difference? Can I get help for any of this?

Answer: You first need to report a possible exposure to employee health or whatever equivalent your hospital has. There's nothing much to do other than that and actually confirming that you have bed bugs. Your supervisor should be able to help.


Title: What possible damage does a restraining order cause someone looking for a job/apt?

Question: I have a temporary registration order on my abusive ex to get him out of the apt. Now he is looking for a job And an apt. If I make it permanent, will it hurt him in these endeavors at all?

Answer:
 It won't show up on most jobs, but it will show up on some.

His welfare should not be your priority here. If you're basing your decision on whether to get the permanent order on whether it will hurt him, please see a therapist.


Title: Previous employer defaming and slandering me to potential employers

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 >I was pursuing litigation for criminal defamation

It doesn't help you when you make threats that come across as silly.  Defamation is nearly always a civil matter.


Title: (FL) Father currently in custody of son(no court order) - Going for full custody. Questions/Help/Advice

Question:
First things first, thanks to everyone who contributes on these subreddits.  The "real stories" aspect is so helpful!  Thanks to anyone who comments or has any input at all, positive or negative.
I could write a book about the past 5 years of my life.  However, I’m going to try and keep this simple and to the point.  I am only listing "facts" that I have hard proof of.  My proof consists of text messages, Facebook messages and pictures / screen shots, police reports, etc. I am going to give a quick narrative below and then some facts.

I am a 30/yo father who is currently in "possession" (for lack of better terms) of my 3 year old son. He
has lived with me and his mother from Birth until about 3 months ago.  She left with him for about 2 months, I have had him for the last month+.  No court order yet.  I basically have him now due to domestic violence on her part, her lying to the cops and having DCF on my side.  I will list some facts below. Of course, everything here is in "my interest", however I am a good person, father and human being.  Never been arrested, no trouble at all - pretty much lived under the radar my entire life.  My son has always lived with me since he was born.  I was the first one to feed him, change him at the hospital etc, I've worked from home for the past 5 years, this kid has never left my side.  I am deeply bonded with him and honestly am not sure what I would do if I get a bad custody deal here.  Currently my son is afraid to leave the house because he thinks he’s going back to his mother and her new bf.  He literally cries and says "please don’t take me back".  It breaks my heart every time.  He is getting better recently; poor kid has just been through so much.  I struggled for a long time to understand if his mother actually does love him.  I want to believe she does, but I have come to the conclusion that she was just using me and him for her own personal gain.

Note: In Mothers defense - (My sons Mother was sexually, physically, verbally and mentally abused as a child by both her mother and step father.  She and her brother were taken (rescued) from her abusive home and her Grandma gained custody around 9-10 I believe.  I know this has shaped her into who she is today.  I do not fault her for a lot of her actions.  Nobody understands why I’m "soft" on her, but I can't help it.  She didn't ask for those things to happen and she is still young.  I know as she ages she will hopefully grow up a bit as well.)

:: FACTS ::

- Father 30, Mother 23

- Florida

- Not married - Fathers name on birth certificate - acknowledgement of paternity was signed, witnessed and notarized at the hospital shortly after birth.

- Son has lived with me (mother and father) his entire life up until about 3 months ago when his mother left me for another man.

- Father has always provided for Mother and Son since birth.  Mother has never worked.  Currently not
working.

- Mother has been baker acted twice, once on her own accord, once by the police.

- Mother has history of being suicidal and "cutting" herself.

- Mother Smokes Marijuana, I have pictures, text messages from her to her brother asking him to bring her weed, saying she almost got caught smoking by her mom (this is shortly after she left, while in custody of our son)

- Father clean and sober, will be requesting not only urine test, but hopefully I can get a hair test as well.

- When mother left with child we agreed on being "civil".

- Mother cheated on me at least once during 4-5-year relationship.  I have her confessing this on fb messenger to me.  No chance son is not mine.  He’s my clone lol.  Even if he, in some crazy turn of events he turned out not to be my son.  I’ve loved and raised this kid for 3 years now.  he’s’ mine no matter what. I don’t even want a DNA test.  It does not matter at this point.

- Mother moved out of the baby’s home county, to her mother’s house in another county. (about 100 miles away)

- Mothers step dad (who resided in the same home as ex and son) is a convicted felon including sex crimes.  Not a registered sex offender.  Served 6 years in prison, was supposed to serve 12, plea deal (snitched)

- Mother went head first into new relationship, I’m talking within 1 week she was posting pictures of her new “family” on Facebook.  Saying she was pregnant with his kid after 2 weeks ( lol how can you even know that, she’s off) the new bf was sleeping in the same bed as her and my son, she sent me pictures of her new bf kissing my son on the lips, taunting me.  I have so much proof on text messages it’s not funny.

- Ex soon had a falling out with her mom, because of how she was not putting our son first and doing all the wrong things. (proof on text messages).  I still despise my ex’s mother for what she’s done to my ex. However, the mother is older now, she has changed a bit. She understood my ex was not doing the right things.

- Father said he would move to mother’s county, as close or as far as she wanted.  Father did not give trouble for her new bf.  Fathers only concern was being civil and having my son in my life as much as possible.

- Mother agreed to a "mediation", father scheduled mediation in her county out of courtesy, she called the day of the mediation, saying she was moving in with her new bf in another county (ugh). (proof on text messages)

- Father paid $250 every paycheck to mother for child support for about 2 months.

- Mother spent child support money on new bf and demanded I give her more or I would "never see my son again" (Proof of this on text messages)

- Mother started denying weekends, phone calls, visitation - father still paying child support. (proof of this on text)

- Many text messages from child’s mother stating "If I don't send the fucking $250 today I would never see him again etc."  So many many examples of this.

- Father had enough, filed for paternity, emergency custody in son’s home county.

- Mother refused to give her new address, filed a restraining order against me on false grounds in an attempt to deprive me of my son.  Restraining order was denied.

- Mother hid out for about a month, very limited contact.  Father was not sure what to do.  Played "hardball", cut off mother’s cell phone, which he provided for her and paid the bill, cut off child support.

- Father was stupid and did not serve custody papers to her old address right away(ughhhhhh) because I thought it would not matter, she won’t live there, what’s the point? No lawyer or attorney at this point.  All self-research and self-filing of paperwork.

- Father has since served her old address and has a temp emergency custody court date Jan 23, 2017

- Mother called about 1 month ago now, crying. Said she wanted to come home (from her new bfs house).  Stated that they had no food, cable, washer and dryer, vehicle, any money whatsoever.  Her bf was a “drug” dealer, but a shitty one haha (I do not have this on text, just her words to me) Her new bf does not work, lives at home with parents and a whole bunch of family, all on welfare.

- Father was hesitant to pick her up, however while talking to my son on the phone, her new bf ripped the phone out of his hands and hung up on me.  I heard my son saying "noooooo I miss daddy".  This broke my heart. I was on the road ASAP.  I had to get my son back.

- New bf left my ex on the side of Walmart, with my son, threw out all her possessions on the street.  I ended up getting there around 2:30 AM to pick them up.  My sons face was covered in mosquito bites (Florida) due to him sitting out all night.  I WISH I took pictures, I did not.

- Brought them home, had a good day, ex bf was sending me death threats via text and calling all day.  She was sticking up for him all day. Told me not to worry.  If someone is threatening to come to my houe and kill me, “mow me down”.  Father does not play and does not respect mother for not taking it serious.  Father realized nothing had changed with her and said that he would help her move out on her own but there would be no relationship between me and her again.

- Mother did not accept this, we had a verbal argument.  I left bed to sleep on the couch.  Shortly later my ex was standing over me, screaming, yelling, freaking out saying I could never leave her.  I attempted to leave the room.  She grabbed bleach and poured it on me.  Cops were called.  I had some burns.  Pictures taken by police. Nobody arrested, no witness I guess, her word vs mine.  I am pressing charges.

- Cops said that we had to agree on who has custody or they call DCF.  Father said DCF is better than mother having custody and would not let son leave the home.

- My ex called her mom, her mom arrived to pick her up even after I told her not to come on my property. Her mother blocked my driveway (long narrow fenced in) with her SUV so I could not leave.  Even though I didn’t attempt to. Dick move.

- My ex's mother called 911.  The cops had left at this point. At the end of the conversation they thought they hung up, did not.  9/11 caught them talking about making up a story that I had a gun to my son’s head and was holding him hostage.

- Police came and basically tore my ex a new asshole for lack of better terms.  I had never seen a police officer yell like this. She was in handcuffs at one point.

- Police said she could go inside the home and attempt to take the child, but they would not get involved or help her at all.  Mother did not even try to talk to me, which honestly, still makes me sad. I feel she abandoned him at this point.

- My ex and her mother left -I’ve had my son full time since then.

- Ex sends text threatening me that once she has our son, even for 1 day, that it will take the FBI to find her.  She has stated multiple times that she will run and hide with him the moment she gets him again.

- I told her she can call him anytime; she’s called 3 times in a month.  Has never asked to actually see him.

- States that I "kidnapped" him.

- DCF came to my home, excellent visit, DCF agreed son should be with me until court.  Warned me now to let mother have him at all until then.

- Mother has since moved back in with her bf again, pretty sure she is pregnant.

My questions would be.

1.) If she filed for paternity / emergency custody, just as I did, but 100 miles away in her county.  Although she filed after me.  How does that work?  Does it just come down to who has the first court date?  My emergency custody court date is actually Jan 23rd.

2.) I know she lives with her new bf full time now, in a different county than she filed the custody paperwork.  Is that ok?  I believe she will attempt to say she lives with her mother still.  Her mother has a nice house and can provide.  Her new bf has no reliable vehicle, no job, lives in a trailer with his parents.  Should I hire a PI or something? Some way to prove her residency?  Even if she has everything still going to her mom’s address?

3.) I want my sons mother to be in his life, I do. I know he loves her.  However, I am torn, if she has him on her own, unsupervised I do believe she will run.  She does have some family and resources spread out across Florida into North Carolina, even New Jersey.  How should I approach this?  Should I continue to not allow her to see him until court.  As I understand the law, if she was to grab him, jump into the car and drive away right now...there’s nothing I could do.

4.) I sometime send his mother pics of our son, try to get her to call him.  When she does call shes crying and gets him really upset. He thinks she is in “jail” I tell him every day his mother loves and misses him and is at the Drs. I am just not that kind of person.  No matter what she has done to me.  It’s not about me or her, it’s about him. I understand that, she does not.  She has since stated that she wants no more pictures of contact until court.  Can she claim harassment?  I have since stopped contacting her 100%.  Actually, blocked all her numbers (goes straight to voicemail) I Told her to email me if anything.  Does her cutting off contact have any bearing in court?  From my side of the fence, if he was not with me, I’d take any pictures or contact I can get.  NO MATTER WHAT the situation.

5.) Does DCF really care?  Should I count on their support in court?  I know sometimes they can befriend you to get all the facts.

6.) Most of my case resides in emails, text messages, Facebook post and Facebook messages along with pictures.  Will this be valid in court? I am getting a lawyer soon.  100% will have one in at least a month.

7.) If I have a picture of her smoking weed, while she had him in her custody, is that grounds for a hair drug test? How should I approach this?

8.) I work from home full time; my boss supports me working and taking care of him.  I work on the PC /phone.  Should I put him in daycare or keep him home? I prefer to keep him here.

9.) If I were to place him in preschool, would that count toward being "established" here the same way grade school would?

10.) Do the courts generally allow time sharing across about 100 miles?  Can I push to have him stay in his birth / home county? Mother lives almost 100 miles away now.

11.) I'm almost certain I have asperger syndromes as does my son, high functioning autism, level 1) No official diagnoses. Started self-diagnosing About 1 year ago during the process of researching my son's behavior and slightly delayed speech.). I know ex will try to use this in court.  My job requires me to train people in person and on the phone. After doing this for 5 years I feel my social skills and public speaking are pretty freaking excellent now. My son has an appt with pediatrician for a referral to psychiatrist next week. he needs to be diagnosed or not but I need to know for sure. If he does early intervention is key. Living undiagnosed with Asperger is the true definition of "fake it till you make it" lol. At this point in my life you would not think Im any different than you. How should I handle this? During a psych eval? Should I answer as me or answer as to what they want to hear?
I never want to deceive but I equate it to one of those are employed test that you have to take, like for a retail job. You know what they want to hear so you answer accordingly

12.) Any other tips to keep my son with me full time?  Or at least supervised visits on her part.

Answer:
 That is insanely long.

Talking to a local attorney is there is that much necessary detail.


Title: My Mom was in a drinking and driving accident where she hit the other driver on the interstate. I need advice.

Question:
   My Mother was involved in a drinking and driving accident late at night.  She hit the other driver, a 20 year old boy, head on on the interstate.  He was life flighted to the nearest hospital and she was taken to a different hospital.  She was 2x the legal limit and this was her first offense.  They both will live, but his injuries are pretty bad.

My biggest question is the upcoming lawsuit.  My family owns a farming operation.  I'm wondering if divorcing my Mom will save my Dad from the likely million dollar plus lawsuit?

Answer:
 Lawyer, not reddit. Answer #2: > I'm wondering if divorcing my Mom will save my Dad from the likely million dollar plus lawsuit?

If the divorce happened before the accident, yes.  If it happens after, unlikely.

Your mom needs a good criminal defense lawyer and a good civil defense lawyer.  Her insurance may provide the civil lawyer.


Title: Legality of voting absentee after moving to other state [NY]

Question:
I'm graduating from college this year. Throughout my time in school I've voted in my parents' home district in New York. I'm moving out of state this summer to start my job, and my new district is significantly less competitive than my parents'. I feel I have a strong interest in voting at home one last time.

I would be moving to my new district well in advance of the voter registration deadline, so there is no great reason for me not to vote there (other than strategic concerns). Suppose I ask for a NY absentee ballot and keep a low profile in my new state (e.g. not trading in my driver's license or registering as a voter until after November). Does that cross a line into doing something illegal?

Answer: That is voter fraud / election fraud.


Title: Roommate vanished, is trying to fraudulently reclaim payments he sent me for his cut of the rent.

Question:
Hi guys,

In the August of 2017, I moved into a new apartment complex with a close friend and another guy who I played videogames with since we were kids and linked up with multiple times just to shoot the shits and hang out.

We will call him "X" (the game guy).

Long story short, he made his living by social engineering various companies and selling the items on eBay. He constantly charged his bank back, and was always awarded money he claimed was spent fraudulently.

He moved in to our place (2400/mo, so 800 per person) and was struggling to pay the rent. I was nice enough to buy him furniture, and gave him $1,000 to get off the ground.

Not to repeat myself, but long story short one morning he told my other roommate and I that he was packing his bags to go visit his GF in another state, and would be back in a couple weeks.

Needless to say, he totally vanished. I was left to pay his cut of the rent (which is tough - I'm 18 years old) as it was my idea to bring him in to live with us, and not the idea of my other friend.

I have been somehow managing to cover his rent and bills, as the apartment complex only cares about the lump sum every 1st of the month, and not who pays how much.

I have gotten multiple calls from Bank of America, from agents with the claims department telling me that he is claiming the (3?) rent payments he sent me as fraudulent. I politely asked them to review his account, as I'm sure they could see that the rate of the chargebacks were astronomical. I also informed them that I receive all his mail, and while I don't open it, I clearly see envelopes from the claims department on a biweekly basis.

I have reached out to his parents, who seemed like decent people, to no avail.

I'm at the end of my wits. I can continue paying this massive rent for the next 6-7 months, but it's taking a toll on my way of life.

Is there any legal action I can take? I have images of his passport as well as his social security number. I just want some compensation, or at least for him to be brought to justice, as this was a messed up thing to do when all I did was help him get on his feet.

Thanks all.

Answer:
 Did he sign onto the lease? Or was he subletting from you? If he’s breaking a contract you might have some recourse.

If he didn’t sign then your best bet may be to find someone else who can take his spot. Even if you have to offer it at a slightly discounted rate, something to help offset the extra $800 you’re paying. Answer #2: Some apartment complexes will allow you to add a roommate and remove one midlease. You should ask what requirement you need to fulfill to do something like this. I know you are not focused on this now, but you will need to have help paying rent eventually and you don't want him coming back and freeloading because he still has a right to be in your apartment.

Get roommate, remove roommate, new locks. (NAL so make sure he counts as abandoning so you don't get caught up in an illegal eviction ofc)Answer #3: What if you sent the bank a copy of the lease showing he owed the money?


Title: Uninsured friend wrecked husbands truck. What should we do?

Question: So I gave my husbands coworker friend permission to take our truck to visit his sister around the corner from our house. I ended up having to leave and said he could hang on to the truck for the rest of the evening. He ends up getting wasted and wrecking our truck, truck was towed up and impounded. Now we do have full coverage. BUT come to find out this joker is NOT licensed to drive and UNINSURED and poor. I am freaking out right now. I need to call my insurance and report the accident. At this point we do not think anyone else was involved in the wreck. How should I report this to my insurance in order to get the truck fixed? Will my insurance cover the damages? Accident occurred in our county, Spartanburg SC

Answer:
 Car insurance follows the car, not the driver. Since you gave the friend permission to use the car, and (assuming that your insurance policy doesn't specifically include this friend), your car insurance will cover the damages.

The only possible exception that I can think of is if your insurance contract has a clause excluding drivers that don't have valid driver's license. In my experience, they usually do, but I'm not sure if that's an universal rule so it's worth talking informally with your insurance agent to find out for sure.


Title: (Florida)Employer if forcing us to buy shoes, I own shoes...

Question:
They are forcing everyone to buy shoes by deducting the cost out of two paychecks, I, like most civilized people already own shoes.

The shoes they are making us buy are non-slip, and mine are already non-slip/slip resistant. Is there anyway I can weasle out of buying these shitty shoes? If they are made of leather can I convert to Islam and say it's against my religion? Or that I have a rubber allergy (I have other allergies that are well-known)? Knowing my employer they will be overpriced and very badly made.

Answer:
 > Is there anyway I can weasle out of buying these shitty shoes?

Sure. But, your employer would be within his rights to fire you for not complying to the requirements of your job; namely, wearing the specific shoes they want their employees to wear.

> If they are made of leather can I convert to Islam and say it's against my religion?

Don't be ridiculous.

> Or that I have a rubber allergy (I have other allergies that are well-known)?

Do you have an actual documented allergy to the material of those shoes? If not, you'll be fired for lying to your employer. BTW, *TRUE* latex allergies are rare. Most people people with "latex allergies" are actually allergic to the powder coating of latex gloves.

Employers are allowed to require uniforms. It sounds like this job has a uniform requirement of this shoe. Wear it or don't. Just don't post later with a "*My employer fired me for not wearing required shoes. What are my options?*"-post.


Title: Taxes Notice of Deficiency Due to Churning

Question:
United States

I received a notice of deficiency from the IRS for the 2014 tax year. I am involved with churning credit cards for points. At the end of 2014, over the course of 4 days, I used a credit card processor that was allowing a free trial to run just under $2,000 in transactions. The payments were from my husband's credit card to this merchant account. The money from the merchant account was deposited in our joint checking account and then used to pay the credit card. There was no monetary gain, although I did get credit card points.

Apparently, the credit card processor sent a 1099-K to the IRS. The IRS obviously had no way to know that this was a closed loop, so they see it as unreported income. My notice of deficiency reads, "If you want us to consider additional information, please mail it."

I am working to prepare my letter to them and am trying to figure out how to prove that this wasn't income. I have bank and credit card statements from this time as well as the records from the merchant account that show the last four digits of the card the payment came from.

Additionally, is the "Unlimited Marital Deduction" a factor here? Would simply proving that these payments were from my husband erase my tax liability for them?

Will I need to file an amended return?

TL;DR - Churning behavior looks like income to the IRS, so they think I owe them back taxes. Need to figure out how to explain it to them.

Answer: Maybe IRS is actually right and you should look at it like on a business transaction then. Your income is $1,000 (money you received from your CC) and your cost is $980 (money to pay of the CC). Profit is $20 and you pay tax on it.


Title: Flirted with an agent (California) could I get in trouble?

Question:
This night wasn't my brightest, and I decided to get drunk after a successful interview. While out, I was talking with a friend and decided to pretend that I'd be interested in buying a home WAY out of my budget to see if they'd go for it and to see how it would be pitched. Well turns out I scheduled two agents at the same property, the first one was with her husband, the other was alone. By time I got to the home, I was more than drunk and it would've been pretty obvious.

I headed inside with the first agent, they showed me around, and said I'd think about it. As we headed out there was a second agent waiting for me, which ALSO showed me around; however through the process, I thought she was flirting with me, so I complimented her and asked to kiss. She said no, that there were cameras, which I laughed and shrugged it off awkwardly. She asked if I was interested in buying the property, and I said probably not, and we parted ways. (Though she did text me again the day after asking if I was still interested, which I just ignored)

So obviously after this, it was clearly an asshole move on my part for wasting an agents time, gas money, and flirting in such an inappropriate environment. However.. a week later I find out they made a posting regarding my description and for agents to beware. They described that I was startled by the first agent's husband, and that the second agent I closed the blinds, flirted, and was lead off once I learned about the cameras. In other words, it made me sound dangerous and predatory. My family found this posting, and informed me, which was incredibly humiliating.

Boiling it down, it's a huge mess to deal with because of me flirting with someone at an inappropriate time. Definitely not my best day, or me being my best self, and though I don't drink often, after this incident I probably won't touch alcohol again.

My questions are this;

Should I contact the agent and apologize?

Is there anything I should be worried about lawfully?

Is there anything I could possibly do to have that (Warning) removed?

Answer: It sounds like someone posted the truth about you, which is not actionable. Don't be a dick in the future.


Title: [California] Someone made a Facebook account using photos of me covered in semen that I posted on Twitter and sent friend requests to my family. What do I do? :(

Question: This morning I woke up to a call phone from my mom crying. Someone tried to add her on Facebook posing as me. They used photos I posted on my Twitter of myself about a week ago. I was tutoring this guy I had a crush on and posted us studying together. Well, one thing led to another, and we end up having sex. He came all over my face. In the heat of the moment I posted a selfie with his cum on my Twitter. It got hundreds of likes- I have 10,000 followers. This morning someone made a fake Facebook account with my name on it using the selfie of me I posted. I DID NOT give them permission. Apparently they’re going around adding my friends and family on Facebook to show off my selfie and also posting the picture of the other dude. I’m so scared. I don’t know what to do. My friends are reporting the page as fake, but what else can I do? I have no idea who would do this!!!

Answer: What would you sue *for*, exactly?  What are you alleging that your damages are?


Title: [NY] Getting caught selling Viagra/Cialis

Question:
Hi, I was wondering what kind of legal ramifications I would face if I were caught selling (or possessing without a prescription) unscheduled E.D. medications like Viagra or Cialis? Thanks for your help.
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer: Generally police will give you a hard time over things like this. They do not go soft with these kinds of pills. Generally the justice system has a hard-on for this kind of crime and do not go limp in prosecuting it. If I were you I wood consider quit doing it unless you are looking to pitch your tent in Rikers.


Title: I want to start a blog about my experience in EMS. Will anything violate HIPPA? [MA/RI/CT]

Question:
I'm a paramedic who practices in these three states: MA, CT and RI. I would like to start a blog about my experiences in EMS and life in general. I want to talk about calls, but what would violate HIPPA and open myself up to lawsuits?

I know I can talk about people such as: "early 40's male involved in a car accident," but I can't use patient identifiers.

If there's an off chance someone read my blog and sued, how can I protect myself in that event?

Answer:
 Frankly, I wouldn’t be so concerned about a lawsuit by a patient as being fired from your job. It’s really not implausible that someone will find out or suspect that you discussed them on your blog and contact your employer.

I think you should speak to a lawyer in person before you start this blog.


Title: Roommate violated parole unintentionally and is freaking out...please help.

Question:
Last winter she was cited for marijuana possession while working at the restaurant we both are employed at. The restaurant has bread with poppy seeds on it that she had been eating almost daily. She recently tested positive for morphine from consuming the poppy seeds and just received summons for a hearing regarding violating her parole. Any advice for her or likely ways this will play out to help her calm down? I should note that we live in Michigan if that plays into any advice.
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 One of the little small print items in her probation may have been to stay away from poppy seeds.  There is no commercial test that can tell the difference between opiate narcotics and opiates in poppy seeds.  There is a test, but it's still in academia IIRC.  Be a few years yet before it's available.

People have had their parol revoked, violated probabtion, and otherwise had no end of trouble with false poppyseed positives.

One thing your roomate can try is see what the reading was.  There is a large descepency in the threshold different jurisdictions use to call a positive.  Many have changed to a higher threshold to eliminate most false positives.  Your roomate should find out what yours uses.  Maybe her lawyer can work that angle if it is a low-threshold jurisdiction.Answer #2: It looks as though there are lots of restrictions on eating products with poppy seeds when on probation. Does your friend have a restriction like that? If so, not much that can be done.


Title: My builder is saying they don't need to sign off on the deficiencies in our condo complex. Is that true?

Question:
Our builder is supposed to be scheduling a walkthrough of our property to ensure they have fixed all of the deficiencies within our property. They're being very inflexible on the timing and since most of us board members work, it's tough to make it.

They just told us that they don't actually need us to sign off on it and that doesn't seem right. Does anyone else have experience or know about this? We're in Alberta, Canada.

Answer: IANAL for construction sign offs YES BE THERE this is your chance to ensure everything is done correctly if not continue to keep back at a minimum ten percent of the total contract cost


Title: Have a woman who continues to call and harass me. Apparently I have the phone number that belonged to her Ex and now that makes me his “side hoe”

Question:
I’ve had this phone number for nearly 2 years now. And when I first got the phone number i would receive unwanted calls but that’s normal. I Would inform them this is no longer “so and so’s” phone number and then would block them. Over the course of time I’ve learned the previous phone number holders name and nicknames but that’s about it. Since the beginning of December I’ve been getting calls from this woman who would call looking for “so and so” and i would tell her “this isn’t ‘so and so’s’ number anymore and then would block it.” But she managed to keep getting new phone numbers and continuing to call. It turned into this degrading competition to her to see how many nasty things she could call me. I told her the whole story. How i have had the phone number for a while and that that’s how i knew who the previous owner was but that i didn’t know him in real life and she wouldn’t believe me. She would call and say awful things. Calling me a “scary ass bitch.” “That I’m just a little side hoe” that i was nothing but a “little piece of ass” for this man. So i put her phone number into Facebook and sure enough i found her and where she lives and all about her. Mind you any time she would call from a new number i would continue to block it. Then she decided to start calling from No Caller ID which i couldn’t block. I would get 40 phone calls in 5 minutes from this woman. Continuing to leave voicemails and call me horrible things. Now she’s threatening to show up to the previous phone number owners home and “beat the fuck out of me” i told her I’m filing a police report. But I’m not sure how to go about that. I’ve never had to do this before. I seriously want her to learn a lesson. She’s nearly 40 years old. It’s not like she’s a 16 year old little girl who’s got her britches up her butt. This is a grown woman calling and harassing and threatening me and I’m only barely turning 20.

Suggestions? And how should i go about filing a report?

Thank you so much in advance.

Answer:
 If you are in the USA;

1.) Change your number  Most US carriers will do this for free

2.) Tell her to stop calling one more time.  Then go to a lawyer and have the lawyer send her a letter.  You can get a restraining order.

The quickest way would be changing your number. Answer #2: If you have her address, call the local police and make a report.


Title: (WI) Doctor prescribed medication to my mother, told her to purchase it without insurance using cash from a personal friend of his.

Question:
My mother recently had a dermatology appointment and the dermatologist prescribed a topical medication that was highly recommended but not completely necessary, IE not a life-or-death purchase.  He told her that it would be extremely expensive to buy it through a pharmacy even with insurance ($500), but gave her the address of a man that he knows in the next town over who he guaranteed would make his own homemade version of the medication and sell it to her for $50 cash without insurance.  We looked up the man and the address and it seems to be a house address though the man may work at the local pharmacy in the town.

I don't think that this would be considered malpractice, but it seems incredibly shady to me personally - this is a MD telling a patient to purchase an under-the-table home concoction from a friend with cash meaning that the payment and formal prescription would be untraceable.  In the best and worst case scenarios it seems unsafe, unprofessional, and very much like a scam.

My mother did receive a paper overviewing what happened during her appointment and it does include the suggestion to purchase the medication from the man.  Is this illegal?  And if it is, how would we go about reporting the doctor and who would we report him to?

Answer:
 I can speak to the pharmacy aspect of this, but I'm not a lawyer.

It's not uncommon for dermatologists to have a connection with a legitimate compounding pharmacy that compounds topical treatments for specific patients.  The situation that you are describing sounds incredibly shady and not at all like the normal course of compounding pharmacy.  I would not visit that dermatologist again and I would absolutely not go buy a "homemade" medication from some rando's house.

I believe you could report the physician to your state's medical board.  If the doctor's friend is a pharmacist then you could report them to your state's board of pharmacy.


Title: [MA] Father told me he was to give me house

Question:
he shook my hand, took my $2000 and said house is yours.

House should be mine officially right?

Answer:
 IANAL.

Absolutely not. Massachusetts requires transfers of real property to be committed to writing, and you have to register the change in title with the Land Court. Answer #2: No.  Not if that was the totality of your interaction on this sale.


Title: [CA]Can my spouse be fired over a review I wrote?

Question:
A few months ago my spouse got a new job at a TGIChiliBees everything was great. I wrote a review saying so. About 3 weeks ago I went back and the service was not up to par so I updated my review. My spouse tells me today that because of MY review (I had a picture of him and the kids on the first review) he may be fired.

I mean I am just sick over this as it’s the only job we have between us. (I’m disabled) we can’t afford to lose this job. There are other reviews saying the same thing about service. I am just really sick to my stomach thinking he may lose his job because of something I did.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 Yes, he absolutely be fired over this.

Non\-legal advice: you should delete the review, go to the manager, apologize profusely, tell him or her that the review was your idea alone, and apologize again.Answer #2: Yes, he can be fired for it. He can be fired for any reason, including no reason.

And perhaps a word of advice, don't leave reviews about your partner's workplace. As a former manager I can tell you that negative reviews from known friends/family members will only ever cause trouble.Answer #3: Unless he has a contract or union agreement he can be fired on Thursday because it's not Wednesday, or virtually any other reason.


Title: Police just raided my cousin house. They came over to my house trying to search my house.

Question:
Just like the title said, all that happened today on a Friday @ 10am.   Arrested my cousin. They came over my house, 4 detectives and they are threaten to get a search warrant because I am affiliate with my cousin.  (HE IS MY COUSIN and his brother and me go out from time to time.)  They said they have been watching the place.

Now, since im trying to sell this house, i don't really want to spend more money on re-renovating what I already did, so I let them in and search my place (about to move so the whole house is clean) and they found nothing.  They are really pushing it too when they want to search my car (which nothing is in there either), and i was being cooperative.

As I am typing this, police are driving by and they are shining their lights into my property, driving by every 2 hours.  What legal action or who to call/write so they are not harassing me?

Oh, and i've learned that my cousin have been selling ... whatever in my house without me knowing.  How did i find out?  Those detective told me.

Summary:  Police arrested cousin that was selling... whatever, and they search my house without a warrant but with my approval.  Now they are driving by and shining their lights in my house.  What kind of legal action, who do I need to talk to/call to get this harassment away.

I want this all away, because i dont need polices driving by stopping in front of my house while im trying to show potential buyers my house.

im located in US, TX.

Answer:
 >Summary: Police arrested cousin that was selling... whatever, and they search my house without a warrant but with my approval. Now they are driving by and shining their lights in my house. What kind of legal action, who do I need to talk to/call to get this harassment away.

You can try to ask a supervisor to intervene.  You can try going up the chain of command until someone agrees with you or you run out of people willing to talk to you.  It helps that you were cooperative and allowed them to search.  If you're trying to sell your home might help if you show them the listing.

The unfortunate reality is your house is associated with narcotic sales activity.  They police can literally sit outside of your house and find pretext reasons to stop everyone leaving it until they are satisfied that you are not involved.


Title: New Obama Executive Order Will Ban Government From Asking Criminal History On Job Applications. As a convicted felon, what does this mean for me?

Answer:
 Sounds like if you are applying for a job with the federal government they cant ask you your criminal history on the application.  You can still fail security clearance and stuff though Answer #2: That they ask about your arrests after they interview you and not before. Answer #3: I'd imagine that this EO will be limited strictly to federal Gov jobs.  However, there is a possibility this will also ban any federal contractors from asking about prior criminal history.

I think it unlikely, as there would be more fuss about it if it was intended to be that broad.  But, at the very least, it will apply to federal gov jobs.


Title: I (stupidly) signed a lease extension form that had the wrong termination date. What do I do?

Question:
I'm an 18 year old living in a leased property in Melbourne and I think I need some legal advice...

About 9 months ago (last July), I signed a lease contract stipulating a 10-month residency with a termination date of May 20th.

Last month I received a form from my agent saying my lease was expiring and that I had to inform them of my intentions. I signed it and told them I wished to extend my lease by pursuing "periodic tenancy at least for the next month (June)" after my fixed term ended.

So today I gave my agent my 28-day notice of intent to vacate the property. However, she said my lease is fixed till July 20th, citing my lease extension form as proof of this. As it turned out, printed on the form was a termination date of July 20th. Not May 20th, as it should have been. I stupidly didn't check it trusting that the agent had written the correct termination date as per the contract.

I just checked my tenancy agreement form and it does state that the termination date we had initially agreed on is May 20th, and that we had agreed on a 10-month fixed term only. My question is: given that I did sign the lease extension form containing the incorrect termination date, is the incorrect date legally binding?

Thanks for reading, I'd love it if any of you guys could shed some light on this situation :') cheers!
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Explain this to the property manager and ask if they'll accommodate you. Legally you're on the hook for the extra month.Answer #2: If you already signed a form stating that you will continue to lease until July 20th, then you have to abide by your modified lease.

Needless to say... this is why you read every word of every contract you sign before you sign it.


Title: If divorced parents disagree on whether or not to homeschool their child, what happens?

Question:
This is for a case in New Jersey, USA.

Thank you.

Answer: They go to court and a judge decides for them. Answer #2: I went through this with a few clients. Unless there is an extraordinarily good reason, and the parent very qualified, it can be very challenging to have a child homeschooled when the other parent (who shares legal guardianship) objects. Attending school usually confers great benefit to the child, which tends to be held as very valuable.


Title: Employer Taking Tips

Question: I have a job in Ohio at a dinner theatre. All employees are full-time and payed a bi-weekly salary. We all do administrative/box office work during the day and in the evening during shows some people work in the kitchen, in the bar, or on the floor waiting tables. We are assigned our jobs based on where we fit in best. At the end of the night servers are required to turn in any cash tips they have earned. The justification is that we are all being payed the same and it is not fair that the kitchen staff misses out on those tips because of the job they have been assigned. Management tells us that they count all tips (cash and card) and distribute it evenly into all of the staffs paychecks. I'm skeptical of that, but it is hard to tell either way because it is all lumped in together in our "take home pay". Is this legal? Could I face any legal trouble for not turning in cash tips?

Answer:
 Mandatory tip pools are legal provided that they 1) not include management and 2) include only customarily tipped employees.

Kitchen employees are generally not customarily tipped, so they shouldn't be included in mandatory tip pools. However, that particular issue is headed for the Supreme Court.

For now, you can inform your managers that the practice is illegal, and you can file a wage claim if you get push back.

But no, you shouldn't just pocket the cash tips. Then you would taking a share of the your co-workers' tips without pitching in your share.


Title: [Los Angeles] HR Forcing Me to Sign Letter I Disagree With?

Question: Long story short, I recently started to voice concerns to my manager about office safety. Our office is located in a less than desirable part of L.A. and the walk from the car to the office can be scary, even as a male (homeless, drugs, violence daily). After I voiced my concerns, I waited a few weeks for a response and in return I was given a letter to sign by HR which outlines our current office safety procedures and essentially asking me to sign the letter acknowledging the office being safe. I feel like I am being set up by the letter and do not want to sign the letter. A few days after being sent the letter I am being warned if i do not sign the letter that I will be written up. What should I do? Do I legally have to sign this letter? Thank you for your help!

Answer:
 You don't have to sign, and they don't have to allow you to work there anymore.

(Assuming no contract and no union)Answer #2: You don't legally have to sign the letter.

Unless you're subject to a union agreement or to a binding contract controlling termination, they don't have to keep employing you.

If you believe the neighbourhood is unsafe, speak to your local police department about your concerns. It's not your employer's responsibility to only put the office in "safe" neighbourhoods, exactly.


Title: Subpoena to go halfway across country to Texas to appear as a witness to my ex not paying child support.

Question: Ok tile says almost all of it. I currently live on the east coast with the kids. Moved with Exs blessings not to mention divorce paperwork says I can take them anywhere I want. I got a Lawyer and he got drunk. Anyways he hasn't paid child support in 5 years and is now being sued by the state. I have been subpoenaed to appear in court as a witness in Texas. They can find him and see currently looking to arrest him if they can catch him. If I have to go it will be a huge hardship on my family. I have two other kids with current hubby and I'm a SAHM. If I have to fly out it will not only cost airfare,  hotel, car rental, but he will also have to miss several days of work to take care of the babies during the day. I have called all the numbers I can think of and no one is any help. The last guy i talked to said I could file paperwork with the court but couldn't tell me what paperwork.  Anyone out there in texas know what he was talking about and can help me? I have taken care of our 2 kids without him since we split, we are struggling financially.  It's not fair that I have played by all the rules and taken care of the kids and now this will just about cripple us.

Answer: Check with a real lawyer, but my understanding is that state subpoenas aren't valid across state lines, so you can tell Texas to pound sand.  That said, your best bet will actually be to talk to the state's lawyers, if they're the ones trying to summon you.  It's in their best bet interest to keep you cooperative.  You're not going to get a benefit from it, but it's not crazy to expect reimbursement for reasonable travel/lodging expenses from them, even if the subpoena is valid in your state.


Title: Diplomatic Immunity

Question:
How does it work? I was inspired to ask by this quote from the story about anti-Erdogan protestors being attacked in WDC: "there could be a diplomatic immunity issue, but that won’t prevent us from doing what we need to do"

I have only a very basic understanding of diplomatic immunity and I'm curious what legal scholars know/have to say about it.

Answer: It's total and it only ends when the hosted country withdraws their diplomatic status. The host country can expel diplomats but they must be allowed to leave.


Title: Eviction - Colorado - 72 Hour Notice Served. Move now?

Question:
I was served on Thursday March 2nd.  The papers were served by the Larimer Sheriff's Office and do not contain any court documents.  It is a standard Pay or Quit notice, and the reason for it is much too long to post here.

I just need to know if, by 4pm today, Saturday March 4th, if the Sheriff is going to come and lock me out.  I want my day in court, but I've been ill and slowly attempting to pack my stuff just in case. If I am indeed going to be thrown out today, I will move faster.  Basically everything I've tried to read doesn't really ELI5...  I thought that a judge had to grant an eviction and that the process involved me being able to go before the court to challenge it.  Was I stupid/wrong to think I had more than 72 hours to move my entire house into storage, facing homelessness?

Thank you for your help.  I don't have current access to internet/phone that aren't intermittent and require travel.  Sorry if an old fart seems too dense to be asking for advice.

Answer: Today should just be the deadline by which you can pay your overdue rent. Next step is your landlord filing an unlawful detainer action against you.


Title: [US][FL] **Mother-In-Law Won't Move Out**

Question:
Earlier last year my wife and I decided we were going to move out of the home we inherited from her late father. We'd been living in the home with her mother and gave her plenty of notice that we'd be relocating to a new town for career reasons. Here's a couple of details regarding our issues:

*  She was given verbal notices several times since December 2015 that we'd be moving in May after I finished school. She was given a one month notice on May 18th to be out by June 18th. We didn't get anything official in writing but she confirms it in a recent text message.

*  The deed of the home is in my wife's name. Her mother and father were also divorced long before he passed away.

*  Her mother contributes nothing to the bills going into the home. She doesn't help pay mortgage, electric, water, garbage, or even the internet. She was on my wife's car insurance up until she left her car abandoned in a bar/tavern parking lot for 2 months with flat tires. So we cut her from the insurance and because of that she claims she can't drive her car to move anywhere.

*  Her mother claims she has no funds to move, yet she roughly gets $1,200 monthly disability. She also recently pawned the portable AC units, her late father's toolbox, and wife's Keurig among other things.

*  She's also **ILLEGALLY** dealing pain medicine she receives from her doctor scripts.  It's one of the primary reasons why we decided to move away from her. She had also been **stealing** my wife's checks since January amounting to ~$1,000. We thought about calling the police over these issues but figured we'd be moving out soon enough so we didn't care to bother with the hassle.

We need help. I'd like to know if we can legally change the locks and evict her. Can we have the police there to make sure things go smoothly? What options might I have to get her out of the house so that we don't have to continue to pay for her living there?

Thank you very much!

Answer:
 I'm not a Florida lawyer, but I would think you need to commence an eviction action through the courts. I would call a lawyer in the county where the house is located and ask for steps. Answer #2: > She's also ILLEGALLY dealing pain medicine she receives from her doctor scripts. It's one of the primary reasons why we decided to move away from her. She had also been stealing my wife's checks since January amounting to ~$1,000. We thought about calling the police over these issues but figured we'd be moving out soon enough so we didn't care to bother with the hassle.

Sounds like something you ought to seriously reconsider.Answer #3: Your MIL may have a drug or gambling problem. Not that it's your problem, but the missing money, pawning items, and theft fits the bill for either.

Definitely start the eviction process to legally cover yourself. Maybe once that reality sets in, she'll accept going to a treatment center. It's better than not having a place to live.