Title: TX apartment is blaming a stain on the carpet as an "unregistered pet" I never owned. Despite no other evidence.

Question:
*edit: The pet fee is over %50 of the total charges.

The accounting manager does not seem willing to negotiate. Just to be clear I never had a pet inside of my apartment. This claim baffles me and brings more questions than I have answers for.

In my latest exchange of e-mails with the manager I asked what evidence of a pet they found; the reply simply stated that the "urine on the carpet" was the evidence. I.E. (I'm assuming) they are admitting that there is no pet hair, odor, or markings from a pet to substantiate that further.

So, in summary here are some of the facts.

*Their pictures show a series of stains on the carpet without the pad underneath visible.
*They reference that I did not mark the carpet damaged at my time of move in.
*Their only evidence of a pet they are providing is a "urine" stain by the walk in.
*The invoice for the last tenets shows a $126 fee for "vacant cleaning" and "black stain removal". Per mgmt "no evidence was found for a pet by the previous tenets".

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*My pictures show the stains on the carpet, but also shows that the pad underneath is not stained.
*I did not mark the carpet as damaged because the surface of the carpet was fine. Was I supposed to rip up the carpet to look for stains underneath?
*I can provide written statements from friends and co-workers that I did not own a pet.
*I have pictures of all areas of my apartment. All are completely devoid of any signs of pet damage.

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If I would have unknowingly caused this damage to the carpet, I would pay, but I did not have a pet and I find this excessive. This whole thing has left me confused and upset the accounting manager is accusing me of this. These fees are almost a weeks pay.

Thank you r/legaladvice.

edit* tried to edit some formatting issues.
edit* Edited out the possible reasons the stain could have occurred, as the issue is the Unregistered Pet Fee, and not the damages.

Answer:
 If they refuse to remove the pet fee only resource is to sue for the money back.  Answer #2: It sounds as if you're admitting that the stain was likely caused by you.  If the stain wasn't there when you moved in, and is now, you're likely responsible.

If it is your damage, the reason for the damage is sort of irrelevant.  Unless they're charging you extra for the pet, there's no issue.


Title: Sister on year to year lease being asked to leave (New York)

Question:
My sister has been renting a house in upstate NY for a few years. Landlord just sent a notice of non-renewal. She has to vacate in less than two months. Perhaps I'm dreaming but isn't that short notice? In Quebec, where I live, 90 days notice is required.

Anything she can do?

Answer: No, this is the required amount of notice that needs to be given.


Title: Is asking my dad for back child support worth the time, effort and cost?

Question:
This is something I've been curious about for a couple years but honestly I have no idea how/where to start.

I (F22) moved to the USA with my mother from the UK at age 10, according to my mother and family members (including some on his side) my biological dad has never paid child support or contributed in any way towards the raising of me. In fact, I haven't even met the man, my mother fled while I was an infant due to violence from him. We have messaged online a couple times but we have no relationship and haven't  spoken in a year.

Anyways I'm wondering if it's even possible to get anything from him for the first 18 years of my life? I don't know if I've waited too long or if there's anyways to do it via two countries...Would the cost of getting a lawyer be more than the amount he'd be ordered to pay ect ect... He's been contacted my a lawyer in the US once (when my step dad adopted me) but did not respond so proceedings carried on and the adoption went through.

As far as I know he's not well off or anything so I'm not sure what would happen. I also have two half siblings from him, a sister (17) who lives in the same city as him (her mother doesn't receive anything from him either) and a brother (23) who we only found out about a little under a year ago.

I guess I just want to know if it's even possible?

Thanks!

EDIT: I understand that whatever money would belong to my mother and not to me. Sorry!

Answer:
 Absent a court order, he likely legally owes nothing. If there *was* a court order, he owes it to your mother, not you. Sorry, but it's likely not worth your time.Answer #2: Your dad owes you no money.

If he owes anyone, he owes your mom for his share of the expenses she paid as you were growing up.  If she goes after him for it, and she wins, she can give you some of all of it.

But that's her call because it will be her money and not yours.


Title: [Wisconsin USA] unreported fender bender.

Question:
My girlfriend was out too far in the road while waiting on traffic to let her out of the gas station parking lot. She backed up and there was someone there, causing no damage to my girlfriends vehicle and slight damage to his bumper. He offered to have no police come out and had her write down her info (name, address, DL #) and she wrote and signed a quick note saying "I < girlfriend's name> backed into <guy's name> car on <date>"

The man just called back with a $1600 estimate and it seems incredibly high for the damage done. How should we go about this? Can we use the lack of police contact to our advantage?

Edit: Forgot to mention we don't have insurance and he does. Hence the problem :(

Answer:
 The classic, "I was wildly irresponsible and operated a motor vehicle on public roadways without insurance, got in an accident, and don't want to pay" post.

Even better here because OP's "morals are flexible" and he doesn't want to "have to cough up that $1600".

My legal advice?  Sell your car and give the guy the proceeds.  Don't buy another car until you can afford insurance and reform yourself into a decent human being.


Title: Recently fired for my job, please help!

Question:
I'm in Arizona and recently was fired from my job. I had a two week period where in that time my car broke down and I was late, I was bitten by something and spent a day in the hospital (provided documentation), and I locked my keys in my car and was late again.

I was pretty upset as it was a brand new job and I couldn't believe all the shit that kept coming my way. I've never been fired before, let alone fired in less than two months! And I wanted to be there, I really did. When my car broke down I paid over $100 on Ubers to get to and from the office for two days. I know I know, I don't expect them to care about this, I only mention it because they has asked me if I really wanted to be there...

The following week I got bit on my chin/neck by something and my face was HUGE. I went to Urgent Care who sent me to the ER. I had a staph infection that turned into facial cellulitis. I brought them documentation for this and again they asked me if I really wanted to be there... (I'm sitting there the very next day bandaged up with my documentation even saying to excuse me for two days...)

THIS is where I really fucked up though. I locked my keys in my car with my purse, house keys and phone. Finally I was able to get in and contact them and rush in and of course apologize. This really was my stupid mistake.
Completely understandable, I was written up. Company policy was first a verbal warning, second a write up, third a final write up, and fourth termination.

So the next week I made sure I was at least 10 minutes early for each shift. On Friday though, the freeway was closed. I wasn't even 10 minutes late and I text my boss right away. (Quick rant: 10 minutes was never a big deal, our "morning huddle" was a 8:15 and people just strolled in sometime before then. 7:45, 8, 8:10, 8:15. I was one of three people who was scheduled at 7 am... If I hadn't text her to say I was 10 minutes late, she wouldn't even have known.)

So I'm sitting at my desk working and at 11am, 4 hours after I had got there,  and the woman from HR asked to talk to me real quick with my manager. I didn't think anything of it.
Basically, they just went on to say that since we had last discussed my punctuality, they didn't see any improvement and they would have to let me go. WHAT?
My first reaction was obviously "...uh WHAT? Because of this morning?? It wasn't even ten minutes..." And my second reaction was "I'm so sorry, but why am I not getting a second write up?"
I had signed my first (and only) write up stating I would be given one more write up if the problem continued, and after that would be termination.
They didn't answer me, it was just "Sorry, sorry, we need to move on blah blah blah we'll walk you out"

Why would they have me sign something saying it was my first of 2 write ups before termination? It felt like they were trying to get rid of me. (They hired two of us and realized they barely even needed one of us in this department)
Was my write up that myself, HR, and my manager signed a legal contract?

Also, I had unused PTO days... I know Arizona isn't really out to protect employees but do they need to pay me for that?

Thanks!

Answer:
 You had horrible attendance at a new job; not many employers would keep you around.  You have no recourse.  Answer #2: Disciplinary documents aren't legal contracts, no.  And if you still have your employee handbook, you'll likely find a section about a probationary period during which they can let you go for any reason or no reason at all.  Those periods are generally 90 days.  As a manager, I've only ever used it once, but the option is there.

I'm not sure about Arizona employment law, but it could well be legal there to fire an employee with or without cause at any time, regardless of a probationary period.

Your handbook will also say something about unused paid time off.  Most employers these days don't pay it out when employment ends.

Since you were with them for such a short time, though, as a manager I'd recommend leaving them off your resume when you start looking.  It'll save you having to explain the situation and trying to convince an interviewer that's not how things usually go for you.


Title: Teacher lost almost everything, we raised a lot of money

Question: [removed]

Answer: Petition the school board to make a one time exception for "extenuating circumstances"Answer #2: There's no reason accepting a donation from the student body or community would be illegal.  It may be against school policy for faculty or staff to accept gifts like this, so you might want to clear it with the principal because of the circumstances.Answer #3: Why would this be illegal?Answer #4: I don't see a way that would be illegal in a criminal sense but as a teacher he may not be allowed to accept the money because of school, school board or union rules.


Title: My friend wants to break his lease and move out of his apartment, but his roomate refuses to move out. The RE Manager says he will have to evict my friend to get his roomate out, Is what the management company claiming legal? Will my friend have an eviction on his record? [CA]

Question:
My friend moved in with his roommate a few months back. His roomate is not on the lease, and technically is not allowed to be living there according to the lease agreement which states that all people living there need to be on the lease.

Fast forward a few months, and my friend wants to break the lease and move out, but his roomate refuses to.The management company is telling him that he has to get his roomate out of the apartment or they will file an eviction against my friend, and not his roomate, so my friend will end up having an eviction on record. Is this even legal? The management company is also saying they will withhold his security deposit as well unless he gets his roomate to move out.

Answer: Your friend is the one violating the lease by letting the friend live there. The management company is correct.


Title: [IL] Fourth DUI

Question:
Writing from my phone. Please excuse any mistakes.

So my friend(yes, seriously, I'm not pulling the old "My employee took an underage patrons ID" thing from the other day) just got her fourth DUI on Tuesday. She's 30 and her first was at 25. Looking online, it seems like she's uber-screwed. I haven't heard from her so I'm guessing she's still in jail and may not even get out before a trial.

Her family is very well-off and keeps paying for her attorneys. They've also inherited all of their money and spend it like idiots. My questions are: Will she see prison for this? Should I convince her family not to hire some extremely expensive Chicago lawyer as usual instead of a median priced(I don't know what you guys cost) lawyer if she's essentially screwed anyway?

To add: She hit two parked cars in a bar parking lot and apparently fled the scene. I don't know if it was by foot or car. Also, she's obviously uninsured and unlicensed. She was awaiting trial for her third DUI.

Thanks for any information. If this belongs in legal advice off topic I can put it there.

Answer:
 best for her \- get the best lawyer possible

best for the rest of society \- leave her ass in jail before she kills someone. 1, let alone 4 DUI's is absurd and she clearly isn't learning from her mistakes.Answer #2: They need the best lawyer she can get. Sure, with a great lawyer she may get 3 years, but with a bad one she could get 7.

She will probably see jail time for this, especially if the third one was recent. If her BAC was above 0.16%, then there is a mandatory jail sentence.Answer #3: 4th DUI and a hit and run combined. If convicted, yes, she is going to prison. 4 DUIs in 5 years is hard to defend. She is lucky she has not killed anyone. She needs a very good lawyer because she is looking at substantial jail time.Answer #4: Sounds like she is going to be charged with a a class 2 felony in this case, so probably some jail time (maybe time served maybe IDOC time). Seeing as this is her 4th in time and has 2 dispositions under her belt. Her license is probably revoked for DUI, which is also a clad 2 felony. Get the best lawyer possible. She's in a world of hurt especially is blood was drawn from her.


Title: im 17, moving out, and applying to ontario works, could my parents get in trouble?

Question:
at the beginning of this year i began a program for eating disorders. i disagreed with how the treatment was being handled. it was VERY invasive, i can go into details if necessary.

now its at the point that that my father is cutting off my internet access, and my phone, unless i agree to go the program again. (the program is an out-paitent program). (i have been gaining a pound a week steadily since june

a few months ago they cut off my wifi and phone because i woulldnt go into an in-hospital program

my dad also said that that a judge could order them to pay my rent, and said then they wouldnt be able to pay siblings university, and swimming. he also mentioned that cops could show up and take my brother away.

is this possible? my parents are good people, just not around the eating disorder. the only possible dangerous thing my parents have done is gave me half of my adderall dosage, besides the doctors telling that my dose was fine.

if you need more details or something
pls let me know
thank you

Answer:
 Hey OP, I'm not a lawyer, but I do live in Ontario.

I think folks here are confused about what you're asking - perhaps in part because they aren't aware that "Ontario Works" is the Orwellian name of our welfare system.

Your question is whether there will be any repercussions to your parents and siblings if *you* apply for welfare?

I'm sorry, I can't say for certain.  Though I will tell you that the CAS will not take your siblings away just because you need to move out - there would have to be actually abusive things happening in your home.

I'm not sure how much accurate advice you will get here, most commenters are familiar with U.S. law and don't necessarily know about Ontario regulations.

A quick Google search has turned up [this site](http://www.newyouth.ca/ontario-works-welfare/im-under-18-how-can-i-apply-ontario-works-welfare) which suggests that you may not be eligible.  If you are 17 you would likely have to show there is abuse in your home in order to be considered, though there may be other exceptions.

You could contact [Ontario Works](http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/en/MCSS/programs/social/ow/index.aspx) directly to find out what they say.  If you need further help, Legal Aid Ontario runs free[Community Legal Clinics](http://www.legalaid.on.ca/en/contact/contact.asp?type=cl).  They may be able to help you find a solution.

Good luck and keep gaining weight.


Title: The bank won’t release money so I’m getting late fees on bills

Question: So the bank I use will never release my money for vehicle payments and I sometimes get late fees of 33$ and no don’t have a lot of money so I was just wondering if I could do something

Answer: Why wont they release the money?


Title: [Australia] My friend has been accused of rape, after the initial sex was consensual. Plead not guilty. Gone to trial.

Question:
Long story short. My friend has an upcoming trial for rape.

This is the abridged version of the alleged events.

They had both been drinking, he took her home.  Sex was consensual to a point. She asked him to stop. He did not. He held her down on the bed pressing his hand on her chest. Then put his hand on her neck and she had difficulty breathing, again asking him to stop.
She left the room in tears and reported the incident.
He voluntarily submitted himself to police for forensic testing. He is facing a single assault charge and a charge of sexual intercourse without consent.
What happens in this instance when it's a she said/he said case? What is the likely outcome?

Edit: Thanks for feedback so far. Just to add a little bit for clarification, I believe the defense will be that the charges and events are not true and it was fully consensual. I.e. "She asked him to stop. He did not" did not happen, hence the "she said/he said" question.
He has plead and maintained his innocence.

Answer:
 I would not want to be your friend.
>She asked him to stop. He did not.

That says it all. He then used force to continue going. That is rape, I'm not sure how it could be seen any other way. She said no, he said to bad. Answer #2: Well, I'm no expert in Aussie law, but once the parties tell that story you've posted above, I image the next step is your "friend" gets convicted of the charges and is sentenced. Answer #3: >  I.e. "She asked him to stop. He did not" did not happen,

So his defense is to commit perjury?


Title: Can my local high school principal press charges?

Question: I’m an 18 year old male from West Virginia. My story is that I created a fake email address for a principal at a local high school I don’t attend anymore because I recently graduated and I’m currently enrolled in community college. Anyway I created the email and made an account on this app some teachers use to communicate with each other as the said principal. I said stuff jokingly not meant to be serious even one teacher played along with it. The next day my brother is pulled into his office by him and thinks it’s him. My brother then tells him it’s me so obviously he can’t punish me with detention because I’m in college. He then tells him he’ll press charges for identity theft if I don’t delete it. I comply and delete the account. Fast forward two weeks later he calls my house and tells me I better come down and talk to him tomorrow he didn’t ask he said I better. I relatively remorseful and was very professional on the phone with him. He then ends the phone call saying he’s gonna press charges for identity theft if I don’t come sort things out with him. Which I think is a ploy to have a police officer to scare me. So my question is can I get into any legal trouble and will it affect me getting my degree?

Answer:
 Do not talk to him, you have no obligation to. If you're contacted by police don't talk to them without a lawyer. Answer #2: The principal himself would not be the one pressing charges, as he doesn't have the power or authority to do this.

He can file a police report. A prosecutor is the one who decides whether or not to file charges.

That said, your principal could choose to pursue a civil case against you (AKA sue you). He could also contact your community college and report your behavior to them, and depending on your school's student code of conduct, you could face sanctions from them.

>Fast forward two weeks later he calls my house and tells me I better come down and talk to him tomorrow he didn’t ask he said I better.

You have zero obligation to talk to the principal or meet with him. Zero.

>Which I think is a ploy to have a police officer to scare me.

If the police try and talk to you about this, do not meet with them alone or communicate with them without an attorney. If you get arrested, do not speak to them without an attorney.
Answer #3: Yeah, you can get in both legal trouble with the police for impersonating the principal, as well as academic trouble with your current school for your misconduct.

Up to you if you want to talk to him or not.  He might just ream you out and then do nothing further.  If the police get involved, you get a lawyer and stop talking to anyone about what happened.


Title: I need help removing a “tenant” I let live with me for free because they were down on their luck. Now I can’t get them out, and the law doesn’t seem to be in my favor.

Question: Cross post: first time doing this: [landlord US-VA]Ok.  So I currently rent a 4 bedroom home with my 2 kids. Long story short I told a girl I knew in middle school that she could stay with me a few months, for free.  No lease.  Well things didn’t work out, I’m sure she stole my prescriptions, and her daughter who was only supposed to come on weekends, is here more then that.  I kicked her out. She said she has 30 days. I called the cops, no go.  I can’t prove she stole my meds. There is no lease, and she doesn’t pay anything, per our verbal agreement. I work like 60+ hours a week, so I got lazy and didn’t give her an eviction notice because I didn’t know I had to. Because she never signed a lease, I was trying to help someone.  Now it’s been about 3 weeks, and she is causing drama and being an annoyance.  I am being light on details, but will provide all the information that’s needed per request.  I just want to know if I have a way to get her out before I call a lawyer and pay money I shouldn’t have to spend on someone I was just trying to help out. Also, since I never gave her an eviction notice, has her 30 days not started? And how hard are they to do, how formal do they have to be?  Please help if you can.

Answer:
 Congrats, you done fucked up.

You need to give her a written notice to quite per your state's LL/Tenant laws. in VA that's a 30 days notice to quit. In writing.

AFTER that you can take her to court to evict her.

Before then you cannot remove her from the property.

Practically you may be better off offering her a sum of money to end her tenancy (if you do this get everything in writing).Answer #2: Give her a written notice NOW telling her she needs to move out within 30 days. Tape it to her bedroom door with her name on it, take a photo of it. Wait 30 days.


Title: Fiancé owns a house in a different state that I want nothing to do with. How do I protect myself before I marry him?

Question:
The title pretty much says it all. I think this property could potentially be a money pit and I don't think he'll make substantial money from this once they decide to sell. I don't want to be financially responsible for this.

Do I need a lawyer? I don't even know where to begin with this.

We are both in New York and the house in North Carolina.

Answer:
 > Do I need a lawyer?

100%.

> I don't even know where to begin with this.

Your attorney can address this in the prenup. You'll both need your own attorneys and make sure the prenup is signed at least 6 months before the wedding. It's much easier to invalidate a prenup years later if one party didn't have representation or if it was signed too close to the wedding date.

A prenup won't protect you 100% though. There are still things that could happen that would impact you. Your attorney can explain what they are given the specifics.


Title: Carmax crashed my car

Question: So this is something I haven't seen or heard of before but I figure this is a good place to post. My 2008 VW Jetta Wolfsburg Edition was starting to give me problems so I figured I could take my car to get checked out and just see how much it was worth while I checked out other cars. Long story short while they were test driving it, the driver crashed my car. The front of my car was completely ravaged and in no way able to be driven. They gave me two options. Either sell the car for $3,000 or have them fix what they could and have the accident on my clean record making the car value even less. I decided to sell the car due to the pressure of having to make the decision that day and scared I might make less if I sold it after. My question is if there's any way to take it to small claims and see if I could get more or if I should just take it and leave it?

Answer: They own you fair market value of the car which doing a quick KBB search is about $3000. So they made you whole they own you nothing else.


Title: [Ontario] Are you liable if a party guest drives home drinking or high?

Question:
1. What if you did not provide the drinks/drugs?

2. What if they were drinking or getting high elsewhere first?

3. Is there a difference in the case if they drove drunk (alchohol is legal) vs driving high (illeagal substances)?

Thanks in advanced.

Answer:
 What you're looking for is called "[social host](http://otlablog.com/social-host-liability/)" liability laws.    I don't think that Ontario has specific statutes that address it, which makes it up to caselaw.

For the past ten years, the most important Supreme Court of Canada ruling has been [Childs v. Desormeaux.](http://www.fieldlaw.com/articles/MGD_Party%20On%20Supreme%20Court%20of%20Canada%20Rules%20on%20Liability%20of%20Social%20Hosts%20for%20Guests'%20Drunk%20Driving.pdf)

That case held that even if you do provide the alcohol or drugs, you aren't responsible for the actions of your party guest.

But Desormeaux left the door open for a responsibility if you knew your guest was too drunk to drive, and the Supreme Court of Canada issued a decision on a related case this year, [Wardak v Froom.](http://www.lexology.com/library/detail.aspx?g=ba23ec66-2efd-4301-9ef1-32399dea2d25)

Strictly a journeyman's view of the topic;  we've got some Canadian experts around here, though they're probably out drinking Labatt's and congratulating themselves on their Federal election choices.


Title: Question about modifying signed documents

Question:
I run a small business that does design modifications in photoshop/illustrator (PA). I typically do very small jobs such as photo restoration, changing colors or removing things from photos, etc for people in the community.

I just got a request from a customer to make some changes to some signed legal documents (contracts). I refused, as I was unsure of the legality of it and really didn't want to get involved.

To what extent could I have been held liable as a third party for modifying documents on behalf of my customers? This would be specifically relating to documents that are signed or notarized by another person (a person other than customer). How about if it was the customers own signature?

Is there anything I can do to mitigate that liability? For example - placing my customers initials next to the changes that I make, etc.

Answer:
 > To what extent could I have been held liable as a third party for modifying documents on behalf of my customers?

100% liable.  That's fraud, never do that.  You made the right call to refuse.  Answer #2: Dear lord, don't do it. It's baaaaaaaaad.


Title: (Idaho) Father committed suicide, very suspicious behavior by one of his "friends" and a long lost cousin

Question:
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Two days ago my father committed suicide at age 72. I am the youngest of his five children but most of us do not keep in regular contact with him. Me (38m) and my sister (39f) have kept in closest contact but I hadn't spoken with my dad in about 6 months (he had a difficult personality and worldview to say the least). The circumstance of his suicide are still being put together but some of the details that have surfaced raise some legal questions I hope to get some insight to.

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Reportedly, my father went to coffee with one of his friends, we will call him Joe. Joe stated that my father developed some stroke like symptoms during coffee which cleared up after a few minutes. As a result of those symptoms Joe states my father declined going to a hospital and instead told Joe he was going to go home and kill himself. Joe says that after my dad told him that he told Joe "I want you to be the executer of my estate." Joe states he was "respecting my father's wishes" and just let him go home knowing that he was going to kill himself. First legal question: was this a crime? Is there any law that states someone must render aid when someone is threatening suicide? Is there any law dictating aid must be rendered if an individual is showing clear signs of stroke? As a result of the supposed stroke I don't know that my father had clear capacity to deny such care. Is a dying decree naming an executer to an estate valid (especially in someone displaying signs of a stroke and threatening to commit suicide). I don't believe Joe's story (more on this later), but let's just say for the sake of argument that conversation took place. Is it legal? This statement would be contrary to consistent wishes regarding my father's estate that he has voiced to me and several of my siblings.

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My dad went home and shot himself in the head. Joe never informed anyone. Later that day another of my dad's friends, we will call him Bill, came to the house and couldn't get my dad to answer the door or phone so he broke in and found him dead with an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound. Bill called the police. The police determined it was all as it looked and made a report. They collected a suicide note and a gun. My sister has obtained the police report and it clearly states there was only one suicide note but oddly there were no shell casings found on the floor where one would expect.

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My father was transported to a funeral home where he remains now. The police found somewhere in "their system" an emergency contact listed for my Dad. This emergency contact is supposedly a cousin that none of our immediate family have ever heard of or met. At some point this cousin subsequently broke into my father's house and took the deed to the house "for safe keeping." This leads to my second legal question: is it legal that this person, who is not next of kin, broke into my father's house posthumously and took anything? Can he do anything with the deed to my father's house? The deed is in my father's name and, as far as I know, has not been signed over to anyone. We are attempting to get ahold of this cousin but so far have not had any luck. My father owns his house outright.

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Back to Joe. Joe showed up to the nursing home at some point (the details are vague) and, when asked about next of kin, told the funeral home that all children were estranged. This is not true. We are not a close family but my youngest sister and I in particular have maintained a regular relationship with my father and both of us know Joe. Joe subsequently went to my father's house, broke in, and took titles and keys to all of my dad's cars. My sister was able to travel home today and got ahold of Joe. She tried to text him but he was onto her. He would only talk in person. He claims not only the above details regarding his status as executer but also that my dad "willed him" a 1949 Buick and stated "and he told me the 1952 Ford needs to come with it too." Both of these cars are stored at Joe's property but title is in my father's name. My sister, being the cooler head between all of us, told him that may be true but we need to do everything legally. She told him he needed to return all legal documents he had stolen. Surprisingly, Joe did return all of the titles, except the two he is laying claim to above. Joe later texted my sister a picture of one of the titles that had been signed over to his name, we think this was forged however (more on why we suspect this later). How do we go about getting these titles from Joe, at least for examination into their authenticity?

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We are still working everything out as my father was very secretive but, so far, we know of at least 10 classic cars and 15 motorcycles owned by my father along with upwards of 50 valuable guitars. My father was very strange. He lived reclusively in utter filth and for some reason always adamantly refused to write a will. "I am investing all of my money in motorcycles, guitars, and cars and that will be the inheritance for all of you kids" he would say. "If I put all of the titles in your names then you can skip probate." Frustrating but there was no reasoning with him. Regardless, my father always consistently told my siblings and I that all of his titled property would be in our names and would transfer ownership when he died. Many of the titles my sister received were, in fact, signed over to us. My father put each of his children on at least one, and sometimes two car titles. We have not yet found his motorcycle titles. Unfortunately, there are several titles where ownership was never transferred from the previous owner to my father. I do not yet know if we have the bills of sale. We can look through financial statements to see if we can find proof of him taking out money to purchase these things but, again, my father was very secretive and often dealt in cash only. In fact, we all thought he was dirt poor. None of us had any idea how much he actually owned. Is there any way to transfer a title from a previous owner to one of his children if we cannot find a bill of sale? Some of these cars were purchased 10 years ago or more. Many of them were never registered and driven illegally

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More on why we suspect Joe forged documents: When Joe met with my sister and told her the executer dying decree bologna he also told me sister "oh and I think there is a will somewhere in your dad's house too. My sister, after checking with police to make sure we weren't disrupting a crime scene, gained entry to my father's house. There on a cork board, plain as day, as a suicide note. Another suicide note that is. This note does not appear to be in my father's handwriting and states to the effect "I killed myself of my own free will because I was having stroke like symptoms, I don't want a funeral, I want to be cremated," and, off to the side, it states Joe is the executer and gives his phone number. It seems very suspicious to me that the police were very specific to say there was one solitary suicide note and then magically, after Joe broke into the house after buying time before notification of next of kin by lying to the funeral home, there is now a second suicide note in a very obvious location, it was the first thing my sister saw when she came in the house. It also seems suspicious that Joe would only elude to such a document when he freely admitted to breaking into the house and stealing and if he was in there he would have clearly seen this note as clearly as my sister did. Lastly, my sister said there were MULTIPLE shell casings on the floor of my dad's living room, also clear as can be, where the police report said there were no shell casings at the scene. It's possible these were missed but its also possible this was staged. The police say this is all a civil matter and initially declined to get involved. My sister has hired a private detective and seems to be making progress talking to a sergeant with these details. Is there anything else we should be doing to ensure this is properly investigated? Will Joe's apparently fraudulent behavior throughout this process be taken into account when we go to probate court? Is there anything else we should do secure a just outcome and have crimes prosecuted that clearly occurred?

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We are all so sad, and it is overwhelming having to deal with this on top of the sadness.

Answer:
 what's the value of the estate.  a cursory internet search suggests that $100k is the cut-off for processing the estate as a 'small estate', which is a simpler process than probate.

anyway, one of the next of kin can petition to be appointed personal representative and handle the estate.  you should be able to find how-to guides online.  of course, it's complicated by the possible forgeries which means you may need to rope in an attorney.


Title: [IL] Can video be used against me as evidence even though it is illegal in our state to record someone without consent?

Question:
I apologize if this is not the place to ask this.

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I am going through a divorce, currently seperated. My wife continues to record me with her phone everytime I show up to pick up the kids or to drop off groceries.

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My wife is very manipulative - yesterday she threw a fit because I didn't get her a certain name brand food item. She threw all the groceries that I got her on the ground.

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She started to insult me as she always does but I couldn't take it anymore. I am pretty good at keeping my composure but there comes a point where you just can't take the abuse anymore - so I yelled.

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I didn't do anything physical but stand by the door - far away from where she was and just taledk(yell) in a loud voice because I was upset.

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She then pulls out her phone and begins recording me. This is reason behind my post; the police told me when I called them once that it was illegal to record her without her knowledge and consent.

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However, what I am confused about is what classifies as consent? If I see the camera - and I am yelling, do I then somehow forgo my rights as am I acknowledging that I am being recorded as I continue to yell?

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She always texts me saying she has all the evidence in the world to destroy me, I feel as though she wants to use these videos of my outbursts she instigates as proof that I am unfit to be a parent. I just want to know how our law here affects myself being recorded in situations where I am distressed and I have not given consent but it's very obvious that the situation that I am being recorded in is rubbing against the law we have in place in this state.

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I am just so confused; she physically assaulted me once, I caught that on video - I was bruised, and I made a report about her on that. However the officer at that time never told me what i did was illegal - he just asked if I wanted to arrest her and I said no.

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TL:DR: can cellphone video of me be used in court where I know the camera is on, I have not given consent, but I am yelling? What classifies as "consent"? And is this law we have two sided where its okay to record physical acts of violence/yelling but anything else is not?

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Thank you for help.

Answer:
 Why are you doing her grocery shopping? It sounds as though a manipulative woman is manipulating you.

Get a divorce lawyer


Title: Is it illegal to not disclose an std if it was not consensual?

Question: If you have an std and are raped is it illegal not to say anything about the std?

Answer: You're hardly expected to remember something like that when a sexual assault is happening. I'd love to hear from someone in a jurisdiction where disclosure to sexual partners is required, but I really have a hard time believing any judge would call a rapist a sexual partner.


Title: House was broken into yesterday and all my valuables were stolen. Roommate never put me as an insured person on renters insurance

Question:
Hi /r/legaladvice, I'm still reeling from a second break-in at my home. The first time my roommate left the backdoor unlocked and they took my roommates wallet and cash. This time, two months later, they smashed the apartment door and took my two HDTVs, laptop, 3 firearms, headphones (and other smaller stuff)...all which were very expensive.

I found out my roommate never put me on the renters insurance that I was paying him half for. He says he thought it covered everyone in the apartment. And the policy seems to say it only covers relatives/dependents also living there. I'm afraid I won't be able to recover any money whatsoever to purchase some stuff I lost. The backside of the apartments have no cameras and no security. The apartment has released me of my lease after I said I'm moving out it's the second time, blah blah blah.

Do I have any options for recovering money for my stuff? Or just chalk it up to a loss? I'm already living paycheck to paycheck because of how expensive it is to live in this city.

Thanks.

Answer:
 You may have a case against your roommateAnswer #2: Still check with the insurance company. Some of the stolen items could be classified as ‘community items’ if both of you used them, like the TVs maybe. Then based on that conversation you may want to pursue action against your roommate. Answer #3: > Do I have any options for recovering money for my stuff?

Yes, you can sue your roommate.Answer #4: How much did you pay your roommate for a service he ultimately didn't deliver? (aka he got your payments to let you benefit from his insurance, but you didn't benefit from it, so he had no right to that money).

Before suing him, I'd simply request the money back. Work out a reasonable payment plan with him, it's probably enough money that it's a bit of trouble coughing it up at once. Get every agreement and every attempt of your side to mediation in writing.

The more reasonable you are, the more chance you have that he'll play along, and you both avoid costly court costs.

If he refuses to pay you back, you can sue him in small claims court. That you tried working it out aimically will help you.Answer #5: As an aside, please tell me you reported the firearms as stolen.


Title: (Oklahoma) Friend got a second DUI, just looking for some information to help.

Question:
A girl I went on a date with got a second DUI. She was on a one year differed sentence for the first one, which would have been up on Dec. 1st.

She has a good steady job and has joint custody of her kid. She's going to contact a lawyer Monday morning. What are the chances of her going to jail?

She shouldn't have drank and drove. However she said she couldn't drink a lot that night, and I was an idiot and bought us drinks all night long. So I feel partially responsible. As someone with a decent drinking problem as well, I get it.

I am helping out as much as possible, just don't want her to lose everything and go to prison. Anyone have any experience with this? Thanks in advance!

Answer: Going to need a very good lawyer.  Oklahoma considers a second DUI within 10 years to be a felony offense with minimum 1 year jail time.  You help by finding the best lawyer you/she can afford.


Title: How to get an Eviction off of my public record?

Question:
Ok Here it goes.

Rented an apartment in Atlanta, GA for 6 months. I got an amazing job offer towards the end of August and it required me to move to California. I let the apartment complex know about it and they seemed to have an attitude. I tried to be civil with them to break the lease but in the end, they wouldn't accept two months rent (which was in the lease). So I left  and moved to Californa.  My company put me in a hotel for about a month while I looked for reasonable housing  I found a few places and was subsequently denied. At first I was confused, I have great credit and a great salary.  One company told me because I had an eviction on my public records.

Through some digging, I found out that my former landlord did not break my lease and filed for eviction and won obviously. I never received any letters or anything like that. Now I'm stuck in a hotel with kids and a dog. I want to know how can I satisfy this default judgement after I find out who to pay? I just want to move on with my life without this on my public records.

PLEASE HELP!!!!

Answer:
 >I tried to be civil with them to break the lease but in the end, they wouldn't accept two months rent (which was in the lease). So I left and moved to Californa.

Wait, was there a provision in your lease stating a fixed break fee?

Did you pay this fee and break your lease? Or did you just... up and leave?


Title: Los angeles, CA. Can I sue someone for slander after they wrote a negative review?

Question: I read a little about slander laws. Basically I understand that if someone says something that can be proved to not be true, and that it is hurting our reputation, that is considered slander. What legal recourse do I have against this individual. It seems he wrote this review to just be a dick.

Answer: If it is, in fact, untrue, then yes.  But it has to be an untrue fact.  Like he can't say "this is the worst burger in LA" and you think that's untrue so you sue him.  He would have to say something like "The chicken burgers are really ground pigeons they catch in a net downtown."  Something factually incorrect, not an opinion or something.


Title: roommate arrested for noise violation with no warning, handcuffed on the spot because he was on the lease

Question:
My friends and I hosted a karaoke 'party' in our home last friday. there were ten people and we sang over a small stereo along with youtube videos. the cops showed up at 11PM and asked for someone who lives there. my friend walked to the door and asked what was going on, to which they responded "put your hand above your head", handcuffed him, and took him to jail.

he has no record, and had literally just gotten home 5 minutes prior. we're at a complete loss at to how this is legal, as no warning was ever given. he is being charged with a misdemeanor for disturbing the peace of the neighborhood.

the officer felt bad by the end of the drive after listening to how kind and rational my friend is, and told him to call the county prosecutor this week and it would be dropped. he was advised by a lawyer not to do this. his first court date is next monday. any advice?

EDIT: MICHIGAN

Answer:
 >he was advised by a lawyer not to do this. his first court date is next monday. any advice?

If he retained that lawyer, then he should listen to that lawyer's advice. Plead not guilty at the first court date and make sure he has representation.Answer #2: Well don't ever take legal advice from a cop ... that's the best free advice you'll ever get.Answer #3: If the party was disturbing the peace, and disturbing the peace is an arrestable violation in your jurisdiction, there's nothing wrong with this.

He should hire a lawyer to defend him against the charge. Answer #4: There is no legal requirement to give a warning to stop committing crimes. A little surprised that the state law was used instead of some kind of municipal code but it's all legal. Answer #5: He should NOT talk to the prosecutor.  The prosecutor doesn't care what happened, he/she is just trying to get a conviction.  He should let his lawyer handle it.


Title: Making me work on my day off? Ca

Question:
My boss just texted me to say, I am now on the schedule today. That I need to come in. This was my day off, I have had this schedule since Tuesday. On Friday, he informed me, he may need me to come in on Monday to work graveyard. He had all weekend long to inform me. Instead he texts me at 8:00am in the morning to let me know, I'm scheduled now.

Is this legal? Every other job I have had, has called and asked if I can come in on my day off; never have I been just added to the schedule on my day off- the day off. Even when there is a sick employee who calls off, they've always called and asked if I would come in and cover.

Answer: Absent a contract you work when you're told to work or else your job is at risk.


Title: Someone stole my old license and got $500 traffic tickets under my name.

Question:
I had lost my license in 2013 and had it reissued. The license doesn't expire until 2020. I recently noticed I received tickets under my name, but was not me. I contacted the court office and they informed me the plate and vehicle, which are not mine.

I received mail saying that I missed four court appearances and have to pay a fine or they'll suspend my license.

What should I do?
I'm 98% sure I know who stole it.
Should I file a police report or go straight to court?

I still have to explain to the court that it wasn't me.

I need help :(

Answer:
 You are being accused of crimes.  You should speak to a criminal defense attorney.Answer #2: What country, state, or province did this happen in ?

In general, you should both file an identity theft report and go to court to defend yourself on the traffic violations.

It would be ideal to hire a traffic defense attorney to assist and represent you.

It's hard to prove that it was OtherDude driving OtherDude's car with OP's license, rather than OP driving OtherDude's car with her own license.

That's why you have to be willing to swear out an identity theft complaint with the police;  that's you asserting under penalty of perjury that your license was stolen and mis-used.   Most folks planning a false "it wasn't me" defense won't go out on a limb like that.


Title: [OH] Probation meeting card left on my windshield, never been to court?

Question:
I'm 18 and today after school I walked out to my car and noticed a card left under my wiper. It says ***** county juvenile court on the front along with a *Probation officer* badge symbol. On the back, it says appointment and has my correct name written on it for this Friday. It also says to report to his office. There is no other information. The strange thing about this is that I have never been to court for anything before, so I have no idea why I would have a probation meeting?

A little more than 6 months ago I was involved in a shoplifting accident but was let go on the scene. I was 17 at the time and basically forgot about it until now. That's the only thing I can think of that would relate to this. That is the only instance of legal trouble I have ever had, but once again they let me go after banning me from the store. I learned my lesson right away and, like I said, forgot about it.

Even if it were that, wouldn't a formal court appearance be the prerequisite to a probation meeting? I also think that they would contact me in some way that wasn't a card under my windshield. I called the number on the card and no answer. What do I do?

Update: I called the phone number on it again, and it really was a probation office. I asked why I had received a card to appear for a meeting when I was not on probation or ever summoned to court and the guy basically told me that the card is real, but I should not have received one. He thinks maybe he gave one to a probation student that didn't have the name filled out, and he is playing with me. I called the school and asked about it and they said they knew nothing about it, but I could come in to see who put it there on video. So I guess I'm pretty much good here. The probation officer told me to throw it away and forget about it because they would contact me personally for things like this. What a relief.

Answer:
 There should be a phone number on that card. Figure out who owns that phone number.

There should be a name on the card. Here's the Ohio Govt. phone directory. Is he in it? http://www.ohio.gov/phonedir/query.aspx

There is an address on that card. What's at the address? Is it a probation office?


Title: Sex offender for life for event as a child?

Question:
State would be Washington. 95.

At the age of 12 i asked my three year old brother to put his hand on my penis, he did and i immediately felt like a scum bag and told him to stop. This was the entire extent of the offense. Prior to this i had been raised by my father for twelve years, and had just started living with my mother and had quit a rather high dose of ritalin cold turkey, so i wasn't exactly in the best mental state, but its still no excuse for my actions. My mother has a long history of rape attempts and molestation in her history and this event triggered her so she called the police in a panic when i was too ashamed to admit what happened. My mother decided to not press charges, but the county did. I was given a public defender that was a month or two out from retiring, so the extent of her legal advice at the time was i should plead guilty and the judge would go easy on me. We decided to take her legal advice, i didn't know any better at the time. I was told i would spend two years in probation and had to complete sex offender counseling, and if i did all this i could have it removed from my record when i was 18. I'm omitting alot of life events for the sake of keeping this short, but there was a violation of my probation that ended up with me spending 5 months in juvenile detention due to moving with my family without my mother receiving permission from my probation officer, no other offenses. Other than going to school and meals during my confinement, i was kept in solitary. These entire events have had a profound effect on my mental state for most of my life.

Upon completion of my probation and counseling, no one ever informed me of the steps i needed to take to get my record cleared, so i just assumed it was done with and not a problem any more, it would just fall off when i was 18. I never found out i was required to still be a registered sex offender until later in life when i tried to get an apartment and was informed that it had come up on a background search. I've never spoken to legal counsel about any of this as i've never been able to afford a lawyer, so the rest of this is assumptions. During my attempts to get my record removed, i discovered that due to (i think) the adam walsh act i had been reclassified as an offender that had to register for life, due to the age difference between my brother and i (12 and 3).  The judges decision to allow me to have it removed from my record no longer mattered due to the act.

I've dealt with serious suicidal depression for twenty plus years, anxiety so bad i've been unable to leave the house, i've lost marriages and a long list of other consequences for what i did as a child. I have extreme difficulty finding (or holding) a job due to my mental state and criminal history (this is the only offense i have other than a failure to register when i was going through a mental breakdown and ended up homeless). I'm 36 now, i am mostly mentally stable and have a minimum wage job, but i don't want to just be scraping by and living with this floating over me for my entire life. I believe i've paid ten fold for my actions as a child, people are absolutely floored when they hear the full extent of my story.

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I apologize for the length of this, but i wanted at least a minimum description of what i and my family have had to endure. I was best man at my brothers wedding, he's one of my favorite people in the world, i have helped raise all of my nieces and nephews, and i still talk to my mother every day. I am not a monster, but i have lived my life labeled as one.

 I need to know what legal steps i should be taking to get some semblance of a life back. It's my opinion that things were taken entirely too far and legal action by the county should never have taken place, or that the original decision by the judge should stand since i was a child. I'm aware i can petition to no longer have the requirement of registering as a sex offender, but it will still show on my history. Should i petition the governor for a pardon? What can i do to get my life back?

Answer:
 There is no part of this that we can help you with here.

See an attorney in your area for a consultation.


Title: Florida USA, I [25m] am being asked to sign employment documents without reading them

Question:
Hi, I am located in Florida. I am being offered a position in a company, but there was a problem with the paperwork. In electronic document service they are using, one of the documents for me to review and electronically sign was blank, and possibly in addition, a different document erroneous was included. The other documents appear to be in order.

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They are telling me to sign for now and they'll fix it on the back end. However, I'm not comfortable signing something that I have not read, even though I would like to (and am probably going to) take this job.

Is signing without the correct documents more wrong than just me being uncomfortable?

Answer: I’d hold out for the real docs. Of course, as a stranger online, I can’t guarantee they won’t rescind the job offer.


Title: Attorneys: I have a $10,000 CD opening up in a few days but...

Question: My mom is an equal on my account (she put herself on when I was under 18 and now I'm 22) it's 100% my money but I'm worried she will transfer it out and put it in her own savings account . If that happens, what are the necessary steps to take? I live in Colorado

Answer:
 1.  You can move an immature CD.  It's not bank bound.

2.  You can take her off the account.

3.  You can show up the day it matures & move the money.Answer #2: By "opening up", I presume you mean coming to the end of its term or entering roll over period?

It's legal to break a CD early. You can take it today if the bank's still open, or take it first thing Monday morning.

When you break a CD early, you'll be penalized some of the interest that's accrued during the current term. You'll probably lose a few month's worth (see the details for that particular CD), but you won't lose principal.

Have them give you the funds in a cashier's check, then take it to another bank where she doesn't have accounts. Yes, technically that's overkill and she can't get into accounts at the current bank without her name. But, I've seen all sorts of stuff happen and you want to avoid problems since you already don't trust her.

Source: former banker. Answer #3: To prevent it, take it out before she does.

If she does take it, then your recourse is to sue her.


Title: My University Adviser screwed up my classes, now I have to take 2 more years [GA]

Question:
My university requires students to go through an adviser to register for courses. My adviser was either incredibly misinformed or just plain stupid, and had me take classes I don't need. I only found out because I got a new adviser when she cancelled, who was confused as to why I had barely any classes necessary for my major. My regular adviser told me these were all required and I couldn't graduate without them. According to her I was on track to graduate next year, but the adviser today told me I'd graduate in 2 years if I was lucky.

I did some research on it myself, and sure enough pretty much all of the classes I've taken so far are useless. Is there anyway to fix this to where I graduate on time? I doubt I can afford this for another two years.

Answer: Do you not have a catalog where you can plan things out on your own? We had a chart for our majors and we knew we had to work the classes in-- the advisors helped us plan when.


Title: Update: (FL) Can I be forced to testify in my moms favor?

Question:
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3u4ljh/fl_can_i_be_forced_to_testify_in_my_moms_favor/

I called the other woman's lawyer but she said that they wouldn't need me since there's already enough witness.

I have a bad cold so I'm staying home(not my moms home) from school today and my moms lawyer keeps calling me.

Should I answer it?

EDIT: I answered the phone. Her lawyer wanted to tell me that she's been arrested for shoplifting!

Answer:
 Don't answer. You are not obligated to speak to any lawyer, even if you get subpoenaed to court. If you *do* get a subpoena to appear at court (regardless for which side), show up and tell the truth under oath. Good luck to you.Answer #2: If you weren't subpoenaed, you aren't required to show up. Enjoy your day off. No matter what you do, never falsely testify on someone else's behalf. Lies are pretty easily discoverable in court and could cause you serious problems in the future, including jail time.  Answer #3: >EDIT: I answered the phone. Her lawyer wanted to tell me that she's been arrested for shoplifting!

Why call you?Answer #4: Were you subpoenaed to testify?  If so, by who?


Title: How do I find a good patent firm specializing in mechanical engineering, specifically freight rail equipment?

Question:
I know the DC area has a lot of patent firms surrounding the patent office but I'm location agnostic.

When I google keywords for patent firms specializing in railroad equipment and mechanical engineering I get a lot of hits. When I dig a bit deeper, however, I find tons of firms who are writing down huge laundry lists of (I assume) every single patent type they've ever been even tangentially involved in. I understand they're casting a wide net for new business but I'm really interested in a group with deep industry knowledge.

Also, I'd like the firm to have experience protecting patents internationally. Is this common? Or is that a second type of specialized firm? Would you then look for a mechanical engineering firm *and* an international patent firm and have them work together?

Thanks in advance - I hope this is an appropriate question for the sub.

Answer: Contact your local/state bar, they should be able to give you referrals.


Title: Made a stupid mistake in a large chain store last night and unsure whether to admit it or pray I don't get caught.

Question: So last night I was blind drunk and celebrating the last week in our house with my housemate. We headed to the nearest Tesco express for more booze and while there, I decided it would be a good idea to grab a bunch of flowers and leg it. I'm pretty sure they saw me and I want to go back and pay for it but don't want to be detained and charged. Would they be forced to contact the police if I go back? Would the police have to charge me? Am I likely to get caught? I'm moving house this weekend. Please help!!!!

Answer:
 They wouldn't be *forced* to call the police, but they very well can. The police would similarly not be forced to charge you, but may. I'd say you're *significantly* more likely to get caught if you go back.

You should just forget about this, and lay off of the boozing for a bit.Answer #2: Knowing Tesco, I would be really quite surprised if they did not call the police if you went back to apologise.


Title: [NJ] Just got my first paycheck of July today at my minimum wage fast food job. The minimum wage has increased from 8.85 to 10. My pay rate has not increased and is still at 8.85.

Question: Was expecting a 1.15 dollar increase as the minimum wage of nj just increased to 10 dollars at the beginning of July. The pay rate on my check is 8.85 (old state minimum ). The beginning of the pay window is July 1st to July 14th so this is after the minimum wage has increased. Am I entitled to the new minimum wage and if so what actions should be taken to have my pay increased to minimum wage.

Answer: Have you asked your boss about the oversight?Answer #2: Talk to your boss about it. Chances are high the pay rates just haven’t been adjusted yet. There are probably a lot of employees whose rates have to be increased and it takes a little time. What should happen is the company should increase your rate in the next couple weeks, then on the first paycheck you receive with the new rate, you should receive, in addition to that full week’s pay at $10 an hour, back pay for $1.15 per hour worked since the minimum wage increase took effect.Answer #3: What are the dates of the paycheck itself? Depending on your pay schedule, this check may have been from dates worked in June. Regardless, it may just be a clerical oversight. Approach your manager and ask.


Title: [MA] Crazy friend wants revenge on ex, I want to convince her it's illegal.

Question: My friend wants to take revenge on her ex for cheating and they recently broke up. His parents didn't know about their relationship because they are extremely conservative and religious. If they knew about the relationship or about his alcohol or weed consumption, his parents could physically/verbally abuse him or kick him out of the house (he's over 21 and currently lives with them). She's really pissed off about the cheating and wants to tell his parents in person that the guy had sex, smoked etc as a means of revenge. I'm not sure about the legality of the situation since having sex, drinking is not a protected class but there could be other liabilities. Thoughts?

Answer: Hypothetically, it could be a privacy tort.  Nothing criminal.Answer #2: This is more of a /r/relationships issue than anything legal.


Title: [KY] Can I get vaccinated without my parents consent? 16M

Question:
Thanks in advance for any help, y'all are a great community.

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I'm 16 years old and I'll be getting my intermediate drivers license here in the next couple of months. I'll be able to drive by myself and I'd really like to go get vaccinated. I haven't gotten anything past my 11 year old shots, and I'm pretty sure I cried so I might not have even gotten them. Am I able to bring my insurance card to a doctors office and get vaccinated? My mom anti-vax, and I really want to avoid any confrontation if possible with her over this, which is why I want to do it as secretly as I can.

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I have a few important reasons for wanting to get vaccinated. For one, I don't want to die from a disease from the 19th century, and secondly I want to go through EMT school here soon and I have to have my vaccinations for that.

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Am I totally fucked here or can I get vaccinated? I tried Googling my question but I couldn't find anything concrete.

Answer:
 Unfortunately, the laws I can find in KY about minors being able to consent to medical treatment only apply to things related to sexual health, mental health, and pregnancy (which are good things to allow minors to consent to, but not enough in your situation!). It seems that there isn't a legal basis for you getting vaccinated without a parent's permission.

On the bright side, you are only two years away from turning 18, at which point you should see a doctor and put together a schedule to get all the vaccinations you've missed.


Title: I got a Cease and Desist letter from CBS, what should I do?

Question:
Dear Lawyers,

I live in the Middle East, I am not a US Citizen. I have an Internet shop, I am selling things I find on eBay and Amazon. I do not have any stock, when I get an order, I order from e bay, it's called Drop-shipping. I was selling Star Trek products, and I got a cease and desist letter from CBS regarding saying the items I am selling are unauthorized, that I need to stop selling and advertising them, and that I need to tell them my revenue so they can calculate compensation. I answered that I didn't know and that the items are from eBay, and that I'd love to sell licensed products, and that I removed all the products as requested and that I sold only a few pieces. I did not get an answer yet, and I will go see a lawyer next week. Can you give me some advice or explanation what happens in this matter? I'm afraid they will still pursue me or find ways to shut down my store/ads/money processor/whatever.

Topic:
Intellectual Property

Answer:
 It sounds like you ceased and desisted.  I wouldn't worry about a lawyer unless you do hear back from them.

If you can trace your resold products to CBS-licensed sources, then you might not even be infringing (though your local laws might not recognize the first sale doctrine).Answer #2: I deal with stuff like this at my work a lot. You just have to stop doing it and they'll leave you alone. You only need a lawyer if you keep doing it, but you seemed to have stopped so you should be fine. No need for a lawyer.


Title: Odd policy at work forced me to confront a Co worker with a witness present. Details in post.

Question:
I work in a nursing home.  I'm a fairly new employee but I have never been disciplined or written up.  This past weekend a female Co woker (I am male) began to follow me around quite a bit.  She is significantly younger than me (by about 17 years).  At first she seemed nice, but that slowly transitioned to flirty over the weekend.

Long story short, she spent a great deal of time with/around me.  Needless to say, my other Co workers noticed this.  At no time did I attempt to lead her on or give her any idea that I was interested in her I'm any way beyond a professional level.  Over the weekend a friend of mine, who doesn't work with, begin to discuss this girl and what seems to be a mild infatuation with me.  We both agree that I need to end it before it gets out of control.  So, I resolve to end it today right before I leave for the day (so I don't have to deal with any fallout from her).

Well, today (monday) rolls around and the adminstration types pull me into the office and start asking me questions about our relationship.  I answer truthfully. That I had no interest in her outside of work.  I also mention my conversations with my friend about me ending it, and they tell me to basically tell her to stop distracting me at work and either tell her there's no chance of this going anywhere, or there definitely IS a chance of this turning into more of a professional relationship, but either way, stop distracting me at work.

Bottom line, I have to tell her to stop distracting me at work.

And I agreed.  I was going to do it anyway, so I thought fine.  I'll do it.  But then they hit me with a surprise.

When I go to tell her, I have to have a witness go with me, and the witness has to be able to hear everything.

I balked.  I didn't want to do that.  All things aside, I thought she seems like a good person.  She doesn't deserve to be humiliated in such a way.  It seemed degrading.  I wanted to handle this a little more delicately.  I knew this was going to be a bit of a conversation.  This wouldn't be something I could wrap up in one or 2 lines of a sentence.  They wanted me to handle this like some kind of....I dunno....buisness deal?  Bascially they were asking me to handle this in such a way that there was no way for me to come out of this not looking and sounding like an asshole.

So my only other option was to allow them to talk to her instead.  I have no idea what was said, but i know she didn't talk to me the rest of the day.

So I guess my question is: can they do this?  Can they give an ultimatum like this?  Essentially force you to handle a relationship with such a lack of tact or to choose to allow them to police what could be your personal life?

EDIT:  and btw, one of the managers present during the meeting that took place came up to me an hour before I left. The conversation went something like this.

Manager: you know oni, if it were up to me, you wouldn't have had to go to that meeting.  The director seems to think you're still interested in her.

Me: nah, she kinda young for me.  No way

M: well, you know.  Feelings change sometimes.   Here in 3 months.....who knows?    I wouldn't blame you if yours did too.

I was floored.  It seemed to me to be a pretty transparent attempt to "tell me how you really feel".  Which tells me they think I'm some lecherous pervert.

Do I really have to put up with this and just try to keep my head down, or is there any legal recourse??

Answer:
 "Talk to her with a witness present or we'll talk to her for you" isn't particularly balk worthy. They were willing to do this without any further action on your part at all, only, if you wanted to be involved, they wanted someone else there to witness it, probably for your benefit.

 Your location matters.


Title: (TX)Wanting to press charges for assault

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If you wish to report a crime, call the police and do so.  They will investigate and give their report to the prosecutors.  Prosecutors will then decide whether or not to press charges against the individual(s).


Title: Who is liable if an umbrella blows away in the wind and impales a beach-goer?

Question: I just heard about this happening at my local beach, so I was just wondering the legality of the situation

Answer: Depends on who put up the umbrella, I suppose. If it's owned by a cafe/restaurant, it would be their liability. If it's something put up for the public by the city, then the liability would be the city's.


Title: [NY] Legal Protections Entering into Open Marriage-Type Relationship

Question:
This may be a bit of an unusual question, but I'll trudge on anyway. I'm an unattached individual who has been invited to enter into a couple's marriage. The thought would be this type of arrangement would be a polyamorous triad whereby all three of us interact in ways similar to how a typical monogamous couple would, but with a third wheel (me).

I have nothing to lose but the existing friendships of the couple, but I would like to have some documents to extend protection for each of them, but I'm unsure what form those protections may take. I have done some preliminary research about the subject and found for individuals in that sort of arrangement its common to establish an LLC for the three individuals to pool finances and resources to facilitate living together and whatnot and medical proxies to ensure access in the event of medical emergencies, in addition to custody issues. In my case, there are no children as a result of their marriage and never will be. The enhancements, like forming an LLC, are something way way down the road.

I understand the different venues to emulate the rights conferred by a traditional two-person marriage, but what kind of protections could I provide them? For instance, an affidavit stating that any actions undertaken with me by either party would not constitute adultery or would be grounds for divorce. Or a document clearly defining my lack of rights in order to property they have already accumulated. I'm really not sure. Any suggestions would be helpful.

TL;DR - entering into polyamorous triad with married couple and looking for legal protections for the interests of all parties

Answer:
 > For instance, an affidavit stating that any actions undertaken with me by either party would not constitute adultery or would be grounds for divorce

That's not really going to offer any sort of protection.  For one thing, NY is a no-fault divorce state, so unless they have an existing pre-nup with some kind of adultery clause, adultery is legally irrelevant.

> Or a document clearly defining my lack of rights in order to property they have already accumulated.

You wouldn't need one.  You're not entitled to any property of theirs because they're already legally married to each other.  NY doesn't recognize common law marriages, but even if that were a risk, the fact that they're already married precludes that possibility.

>  have done some preliminary research about the subject and found for individuals in that sort of arrangement its common to establish an LLC for the three individuals to pool finances and resources to facilitate living together

I would strongly recommend against forming an LLC with people you're sleeping with, as a general life rule.  In fact, to the extent possible, I'd say you're better off being as legally separate as you can be.  Answer #2: ...marriages have a ton of protections and benifits, including ones you can't contract into. if you really want to try this, go to an attorney and have them draft, I'm not quite sure what, but something. odds are you are looking at a massive headache no mater what you do.


Title: [Louisiana] I don't want to say the Pledge of Allegiance at school.

Question:
Hey guys. I want to start out by saying this is an amazing subreddit. Thank you all.

Anyways my 1st class teacher in High School makes everyone in the class stand up and say the Pledge of Allegiance, and would tell the ones who don't that they are disrespecting the country and those who fight for it. I know my rights well enough to know that I don't have to even stand for the Pledge, however, my teacher is the type to single out students or punish the entire class for the actions of a few. Thus, I've been standing for the Pledge so I don't cause the entire class to be given a pop quiz or single me out. I want to know if it is unconstitutional or illegal for a teacher (or anyone else) to single out someone or act on others for not saying the Pledge of Allegiance.

Sorry if this seems like I'm trying to be an edgy kid, but I'm 18 years old and I don't feel like I should stop what I'm doing to say the Pledge of Allegiance every day. I find it creepy and cult-ish to force young people to do it.

Answer:
 No. Per the Supreme Court case [West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/West_Virginia_State_Board_of_Education_v._Barnette), you do not have to.

If your teacher is as difficult as you say, maybe your best bet is to go to the administration (principal or vice-principal) and tell them you don't want to and cite the case. Tell them about the pressure and the comments that the teacher makes. If there is difficulty, I suspect the ACLU or the Freedom from Religion Foundation would be interested in hearing about it.Answer #2: Let me start by saying I 100% agree with you in principle and in practice. I was a Pledge Refuser too, initial-caps because that's the way it went into my report card, from when I was in grade school -- which was in the 1980s. In TEXAS.In fact I was just at a school board meeting last night for my kids' school, and they started it with the damn pledge and I didn't say it there either. So yeah, good for you, keep it up.

The way to do this while causing yourself the minimum amount of friction is to be *exceedingly respectful* while standing quietly and not saying the pledge. Stand up straight, shoulders back, don't slouch, don't put your hands in your pockets, and for pete's sake don't check your phone.  Face the flag and do whatever it takes to keep your face in a respectful expression; meditate on the First Amendment, think about the principles of freedom of expression and association, whatever you have to do. You MIGHT even choose to place your hand over your heart.  Make it impossible for them to get you on disrespect or laziness. It'll still be a fight for you, but it will be an easier one.Answer #3: Private or Public school?


Title: My father in law died and his POA won't give us his SSN

Question:
My wife's father died suddenly. He didn't have a lot of assests or money. He lived with a friend and his friends wife who turns out to be his power of attorney for some reason. My wife's brother is handling mostly everything and says he needs the Father's SSN to move forward with things.

He called the POA who confirmed she has it, but multiple times found excuses to get off the phone and not giving straight answers. He suspects that his father's friend and the power of attorney are hesitant to give up the social security so that they can collect more social security checks. Either way he says he needs the SSN and is having a difficult time obtaining it. Any advice on what to do from this point?

Answer: POAs don't survive death. She no longer has authority to act on your father's behalf. The personal representative/executor now has that authority. If no one is the PR/executive, someone needs to be petition to become it.Answer #2: Death certificates are usually ordered at the time of death at the funeral home. They also typically inform SS. Who took care of final arrangements? Call the funeral director to see if they can help. DC’s can also be obtained at the health department.


Title: Tricked into buying $1300 in iTunes gift cards. TF do I do now?

Question:
At my desk. Receive email from my "boss":

"Are you busy? I need you for something ASAP"

"I'm available."

"We are doing a client gift card promotion, I need 20 $100 iTunes gift cards, you'll probably have to stop at a few different places. Need them purchased and the codes sent to me, I have less than an hour, do you think you could get it done in time??  I'm headed into a meeting, so just reply ASAP  sent from my iPad"

<we do gift card promotions, and needing this sort of help did not seem out of the ordinary to me, we had just purchased new iPads for the office a few weeks ago so "sent from my iPad made sense to me, sending codes seemed odd, but we recently hired a new marketing person and I thought it might just be some new program>

"Do I need the company card?"

"If you can, please just use your card and I'll pay you back with interest when I'm back to the office."

<I did have the funds at the moment and I figure, nice, maybe he'll just give me $100 for my trouble or something>

On my way to the store, I even call the bank to let them know about the purchases I'm about to to make as I assume it will trigger some sort of fraud alert (go figure, idiot).

27 minutes and $2000 in gift cards later I'm back in the office, boss is standing in his doorway.

"Did I make it in time?"

"In time for what?"

"You emailed me, you were in a meeting?"

"No?  Why?"

<blood leaving my head>

"Oh my God"

Long story short from here, it was just a scam, obviously. Gift cards cannot be returned. One of the stores was able to void the transaction and I got $700 back. Still $1,300 gone though. Company is looking to see if this is covered in our fraud insurance. Bank is checking to see if this is covered in some sort of forgiveness program. Seems websites that deal in buying gift cards won't buy iTunes (only Apple store) gift cards.

So. What. Can. I. Do. Now?

Answer: If you still have the cards and didn't send the scammer the codes you can sell them.Answer #2: Sell them for as close to face value as you can via a reputable site?Answer #3: So you didn't actually turn the codes over to the scammer?


Title: (US, CA) Dad called into vehicle finance company with my SSN, got copies of my records and information

Question:
My dad and I have a pretty bad relationship. Ever since discovering my sexuality, he has tried to spy on me and do everything in his power to "financially force" me back to church. Yesterday, he opened a financial statement/vehicle lease bill that was addressed to me (but mistakenly delivered to my parents' home due to a credit report at the dealership being put as my address).

He then proceeded to call into the financial company with my SSN and other personal info to "verify" that it was me calling, then asked who else was on the loan (I co-signed) and their address, etc.  Apart from him calling me a liar for not telling him that I had a lease, now he is threatening me to pay him money I "owe" him back from when he was actually kind to me and helped me get out of a tough legal situation. If I don't pay him back, he said he will bother the other person on the loan and "force him to break the lease."  Not sure what he meant by that.

Basically, I am wondering if it is against the law for him to go around with my SSN finding out about my financial records and statements, etc. Also, the finance company said "oh it looked like your dad called in" when I called demanding to know why they gave out my personal information and account information.

I really am sick of being threatened by him all the time. Hopefully this makes some sense.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: If you are over the age of 18 and not his dependent then I am pretty sure what he did (impersonating you) is illegal.  But I am not a lawyer.Answer #2: Just want to add that you should probably put a fraud alert on your credit reports to make sure he doesn't try to ruin your credit with your information. Contact each of the credit bureaus: [Experian](http://www.experian.com/), [Equifax](http://www.equifax.com/home/en_us), and [TransUnion](http://www.transunion.com/) to do so asap.Answer #3: Call the police and file a complaint. Opening your mail and Identity Theft. Unless there was a written agreement to repay him the money he helped you with tell him to go pound sand. Cut all contact with your father and move on with your life.Answer #4: Can't offer you any legal advice but I do believe that's called identity theft.Answer #5: Call the cops and put a freeze on your credit.  What he is doing is illegal in CA.


Title: Texas - Got fired, have not been paid for final weeks plus expenses - employer will not respond to my emails.

Question:
I was recently fired from a small company located in Texas. My employer told me the termination was effective immediately and requested business expenses be claimed no later than four business days afterwards. I responded with my business expenses within that time frame and asked my employer when I would be paid for two weeks of wages I was still owed. After three attempts via email over the course of a week to obtain clarity on the situation, my employer has not responded WHEN I will be paid, IF at all. According to Texas State Law, an employer needs to pay final wages within six calendar days of termination and it has been now a toal of a week.

Any clarity on this situation? Writing letters to them? This was a salary-based job if that helps.

Answer: File a [wage and hour complaint with the Texas Workforce Commission ](http://www.twc.state.tx.us/jobseekers/how-submit-wage-claim-under-texas-payday-law)Answer #2: Theft of wages is a thing.  The law varies state to state, but Texas does have a six day mandate.  I would open a case through the Texas Department of Labor.  Be careful here, though.  Depending on the laws of your state, the department of labor may only be able to claim reimbursement at the state's minimum wage so be sure you ask that question up front.  Beyond that, you can sue with damages, but here's the thing.... if they are in violation of the mandate, the state will make their lives miserable, so submitting a case through the state will likely resolve your issue (i.e. they will pay before being forced to pay).


Title: Cop Provoking Speeding

Question:
Hi Reddit.
Let me start from the beginning.
It was the 28th of October. I was driving on a single lane road limited at 55 mph. The car in front of me maintained a speed of about 45 MPH meanwhile the car behind me was tailing close enough that his headlights reflected directly into my eyes off the rear view mirror.
This driver behind me continually pressured me to speed up, which was impossible due to the driver ahead of me. The car behind me maintained a distance of about 1.5 cars, a distance I feel is not adequate at the 45 MPH we were traveling to stop safely in case of an emergency.

The single lane road finally split into two lanes, so naturally I merged left to pass the slow moving vehicle. The car behind me followed me left immediately and once again began to speed up quickly behind me. This caused my focus to shift into getting out of his way instead of simply passing the car now on the right. I attempted to speed up and gain some distance but he instantly reacted in the same way. I then reached 70 mph and hit my signal to merge right when he hits on his lights and reveals himself to be an undercover cop. He charged me with a $125 ticket no questions asked and when I explained I just wanted to clear the way and merge right he exclaimed that I didn't slow down fast enough after passing.

I have no previous tickets or accidents, a 100% clean record. I have been driving since I was 14 and am now 23. I feel like he was trying to get me to commit any illegal act in order to pull me over.
Do I have any legal defense?

Answer:
 The response to tailgaters is to slow down if you can't pull to the right and let them pass.  When the second lane opened up, you should have stayed in the right lane until the car passed you.

You chose to do this a different way, and the car turned out to be a cop.Answer #2: You have a duty to follow the law, you can't now blame your actions on another driver.


Title: i got into a car wreck without insurance [OK]

Question: Last year in November i was at fault in a car wreck in Oklahoma when i didn't have insurance. i know that its most likely not legal, but me and the other driver agreed that i pay the deductible and that be the end of it. i payed them $1,100 for it and thought that would be the end of the situation. Fast forward to June 2018, i was served by their insurance company because they ended up reporting it. My checks are now about to be garnished, which i cant afford, and i was wondering if there is anything i can do in this situation

Answer:
 I'm unclear on why you thought they wouldn't report it to their insurance.  You paid their deductible - that would be the insurance deductible.  For them to only owe their deductible, they had to report it.

You owe the insurance company the money they paid out.  Were you sued?  It sounds like you were sued and they got a judgment against you.Answer #2: That makes no sense unless your goal was to commit insurance fraud, in which case you should stop trying to conspire to commit insurance fraud. You're on the hook here.


Title: trying to leave abusive fiance but take my son

Question: I live in michigan usa and have been with my sons father for two years, he steadily has become more mentally/ verbally absuive and has become physical as well, im scared for me and my son. I am trying to get a plan to live with a friend, but how do i go about leaving? Our son is 1, he said if i leave he will call the cops and have me arrested for kidnapping. Is that possible? I dont want him around us for at least a couple months, do i file a restraining order? Do i need to file for custody? I have no proof of his abuse and he is schizophrenic and will make himself to be the victim. How can i make sure he is kept away from my son? I dont know exactly where to start or how to make sure i leave safely. We live with his mom and she told me if the cops get called that i wont have a place to live, so im trying to not rock the boat until im ready. Any and all advice would be appreciated.

Answer:
 Contact a domestic violence hotline in your area. They can help you.

“Escape plans” are a thing they deal with all the time.


Title: I bought a new car yesterday afternoon. A day later it's getting towed because of multiple malfunctions and a grinding noise in the engine. How do I protect myself from this purchase?

Question:
Hello All,

Location: California

The circumstances are that I purchased a gently used CPO 2018 Mazda 6 yesterday afternoon in Escondido California. I live in Los Angeles. I made the 100+ mile drive because this was the exact trim and color I wanted with an excellent price.

Everything went fine at the dealership. Test drive was great, service was great. I drove it back to LA without any issues.

Today, I take the car for a short 4 mile drive and suddenly when turning a corner, the vehicle sharply lurches, the engine makes a grinding noise, and a smorgasbord of warning lights kick on. Two of which were related to brake malfunctions, another was a camera malfunction, along a couple others I don't remember. In addition to that, the check engine light and another yellow caution sign came on.

Next came the issue in dealing with Roadside Assistance which was unpleasant to say the least. I then called the rep who sold me the vehicle and he tried everything in his power to assure me that it's likely a low battery issue, and this isn't uncommon. "Your CPO warranty will cover it, blah blah blah." You know, every trick in the book to placate me as an unhappy customer who thinks he was sold a lemon.

I am currently back home and a tow truck is on it's way to pick up the vehicle. I left the vehicle because the tow truck was going to take 2 hours to come get me and I couldn't get a confirmation from the rep that they would bring me home, nor was I offered an alternative way to get picked up. I took a 360 degree video of the vehicle, photographs from all sides, video of the dash console, and video/photos of the engine compartment to cover my ass since this thing needs to be held overnight at the towing company and I'm not on location to see it get picked up.

The dealership I bought it from has a 48 hour return policy. I bought it yesterday around 12:00 - 1:00 PM. I am still within my return window at this time. The challenge is that the vehicle is not going to be in my possession between now and when the return window will expire. My gut is telling me these guys sold me a lemon and they are going to fight me with everything in their power if I try to make a return.

If anyone has any advice about how I should handle this situation, I am all ears. I feel like I should send them an email that shows my intent to return it before the 48 hour window expires, even though I literally cannot return it by then. I can always back out if this turns out to be nothing. Beyond that, I'm not really sure about the best way to approach. I understand that CA has Lemon Law protections, but I'd rather not get to the point where those need to be invoked.

Answer:
 >The challenge is that the vehicle is not going to be in my possession between now and when the return window will expire.

Why not?


Title: [FL] can I take my drivers license road test with a cast on my left foot?

Question:
Can't find any information on this anywhere.

Called the DMV call center, and the lady said she had never hear someone ask that question and I would need to go to the dmv to find out.(this will be my next step)

The car is automatic and I am 100% capable of driving.

Answer: I don't see why not. Hell, we give licenses to people without left legs.


Title: [NC] I was hit by a girl turning left from a stop sign. Campus police cited mutual fault because he claims my headlights weren't on. Can I fight his or do I just give up and pay for my car?

Question:
I was driving on a straight away and the girl was stopped at a stop sign. I noticed her lurch forward and then stop and then as I passed her she pulled out and hit me in my passenger door. The accident happened about 5:25 in the afternoon so the sun was going down but by no means was it dark. Campus police said it was mutual fault because my headlights weren't on. I have 2 issues with this 1. My car has automatic headlights 2. I actually had the lights turned on. The cop said that when he pulled up my lights weren't on. Well I had shut my car off at this point. I called my insurance and they said since I was cited there's nothing they can do. Is there anything I can do to fight this? Or do I just accept it?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: I was involved in an automobile accident where the police report was incorrect. In my case the police report indicated that I rear ended the other vehicle, while the other vehicle had actually pulled out in front of me. I did not have collision, so I was out of luck for my damage if I couldn't file a claim with the other drivers insurance. I filed a claim with the other drivers insurance, which was denied based on the police report, and then took them to small claims court (~$2,500) and won based on the photos of the damage I had taken. It took a good amount of effort, but paid off in the end.


Title: (CA) Do I have to return lost possessions found on my private property

Question:
I found a cell phone in a private building I own. When the original owner came to pick it up he complained that there was a crack on the screen. I told him it was like that when I found it, but he demanded I pay for it. We got into a bickering contest and I told him that I didn't even have to return the phone to him because he left it on my private property. He told me that was bullshit and we argued a bit more before he left. There is no lawsuit or lawyers involved. I am just curious because I was talking out of my ass in the argument. If I find a cell phone left on my private property do I have an obligation to return it? If it was cracked under my watch, do I have to pay for it?

Edit: I should probably mention that the building is a business and he is a customer. Don't know if that makes a difference, but I'm trying to include as many details to be helpful.

Edit 2: I can't believe I didn't mention that  I returned the phone.  The guy has his phone back. I'm not holding it hostage or anything.

Answer:
 >  If I find a cell phone left on my private property do I have an obligation to return it?

Yes, it's not yours.  Give it back.

> If it was cracked under my watch, do I have to pay for it?

Possibly.  Give it back first then argue that matter later.


Title: I really need advice on ICE

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Why do you think get lawyer would give you anything?

If her lawyer says it will take that long to get a hearing for a judge approve a bail then likely that is how long it takes.

She was here on conditions. She broke those conditions. There will be consequences in some form. Let her attorney mitigate the damages here


Title: [WA] (Seattle) can I sue my ex for causing me enough stress by undiagnosed mental illness, and violence, that led me to losing 2 jobs?

Question:
Often I would leave her and on those days she would cry and beg and slam on my door promising it would be different.

Calling me up towards 50 times on my phone, she's gotten into my apartment at times and would not leave and violent at on multiple occasions.

Last week she wanted to hang out and that led to her kidnapping me and speeding down I-5 toward Oregon exclaiming "you're stuck with me bitch."

In December she took me to court to get an order because im an asshole for keeping evidence of her violence which she quickly removed the next month(I missed the date due to rescheduling 3times of the Court date)

She manipulated me into claims of being stalked and threatened and someone trying to get her before all this, and I found out she was just hanging with a guy she regretted to feel better from me.

My resume really took a hit in 2015 from all of this, i spent tons of time and helped her from abusing drugs, hurting herself, and empowering her to be active and not socially pressured from withdrawing from things like skating and dance.

I feel like she has really damaged me emotionally from her laZiness to get herself evaluated.
She's threatened me and my family because if I'm leaving her it must be for another girl.

Any advice would be great.

Update; the sharp honesty has been very eye opening, thanks Reddit for helping me notice my Jester's cap.

Answer: No?  File an order of protection against her, block her number, and move on with life.  You let all of this happen and allowed yourself to get sucked back in to her life while yours took a nose dive because of it.