Title: If I die, how do I make my husband not get the kids?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You aren't protecting anyone by staying with an abusive partner. Contact a local support organization for victims of domestic abuse. They can help you document and report the abuse, provide you with legal assistance, and arrange for temporary housing if necessary.

There is nothing you can do by yourself that can change your kids' legal relationship with their father. You *must* go to court for that.Answer #2: You're going to need to go to court for this.  What you're talking about is termination of parental rights.

Courts usually only grant this with "good cause", which varies based on the judge, but a history of documented abuse should work, the more documentation the better.  Note that terminating parental rights also terminates parental obligations, such as child support.  You may be able to get him to be on your side with the termination if he realizes that he no longer has to pay for the kids' support.

Note that it's unlikely that the termination would be granted while you are still married.  It would be highly unusual for a parent to be married to the other parent but have no parental rights.  If you can prove that you are separated, that would help.

You should contact a local family law lawyer.  They will be able to help you understand the process and file the proper paperwork.  They will also be able to advise you on the possibility of this working.


Title: city police harass young mother

Question: Looking for some guidance here.  I live in charleston wv and just had to leave work because my wife locked herself in the bathroom with a gun because "someone "was banging on the front door violently then continued to bang on every window of the house including entering our backyard which is fenced in and gated and banging on the picture window.  This was all over her car being parked legally on street but too close to another vehicle.  My question is this police harassment? When I called the station and questioned why they did not identify themselves as police I was told because she didn't answer the door.  Why would a young mother open a door for someone knocking violently when she didn't know who it was? Also since they entered our yRd and can clearly see through the picture window if she would have walked out of bathroom carrying the gun and they saw her they could have very well shot her! Do I have any legal recourse?

Answer:
 I would point out that it sounds like you weren't there, and therefore don't really know what happened. You have one side of a story, which is rarely enough from which to draw a reliable conclusion.Answer #2: > My question is this police harassment?

One instance of the police knocking on your door is not harassment.

> Why would a young mother open a door for someone knocking violently when she didn't know who it was?

Did she look?  I mean, did she look outside to see who it was?  And what does her being a mother have to do with it?

>  Also since they entered our yRd and can clearly see through the picture window if she would have walked out of bathroom carrying the gun and they saw her they could have very well shot her! Do I have any legal recourse?

No, you don't have any legal recourse for stuff you made up.  Was she threatened with a gun?  Did anyone threaten her whatsoever?  It sounds like you're freaking out because someone knocked on the door.

Calm down.  The police did very little, if anything, wrong here.  If you want to call and make a complaint, do so.  Don't make up wild stories about near-shootings when nothing of the sort happened.


Title: I forgot to use the ticket for a game today.

Question: I recently purchased a ticket from stubhub for Real Madrid vs Arsenal ticket. From my mistake I thought July 23rd was Wednesday. It’s very dumb how I missed the date, I know.. I dont know how in the world I thought 23rd was Wed. So obviously I missed the game and tickets are unused. Can I get a refund? Since it’s my fault I won’t take 100% refund at all. However can I get some of it back? I’m not financially set and this was a huge money for me.

Answer:
 This is no different to buying a ticket for a particular game and choosing not to go. You aren’t getting a refund.Answer #2: This isn't a legal question.  It's a go look at their refund policy.
My guess is that you won't get any money back because it is your fault you missed the event not theirs.


Title: [WI] Need to kick abusive partner out of house.

Question:
This is for a friend of mine so apologies if I miss some details.

My friend owns her house outright. She is a stay at home parent with three kids. Her boyfriend has lived with her for the past four years and paid rent for only 3 months when he first moved in. He is emotionally and financially abusive and she's ready to kick him to the curb.

She has asked him to leave her house and he has refused. How can she legally have him removed? Does she have to go through the eviction process? If so, what would her first steps be? I know a lawyer would be ideal but she has zero funds to afford that. Since he is abusive (although not physically) could she seek a restraining order against him instead? Or would she still need to pursue an eviction in addition?

Thank you in advance, you guys are great.

Answer:
 She needs to give him written notice to vacate within 28 days. Then she can evict him.

A restraining order is when you fear for your safety. So she isn't likely to get one because she lives with a mooch who is an asshole.


Title: My friend has a sketchy basement tattoo parlour and may be spreading MRSA

Question:
I have a friend of 3 or so years, let's call him Jeff, who is a reckless shit right now. He's always been pretty artsy and has a knack for calligraphy and art work, I would consider him quite talented.

So recently, Jeff decides that tattoos are easy and that he could do it himself with a stick-and-poke kit from amazon. Alright, kind of sketchy, but it's his life. He tattooed himself first, and it turned out looking pretty okay, so some more people got on board. He has now tattooed approximately 5 people along with himself. He is actively tattooing others while tattooing himself and I have no idea what sort of sanitary or sterilization practices are being followed, if any.

The problem is as follows: Jeff is positive for MRSA, a lifelong superbug staph infection that is resistant to antibiotics. It's very dangerous for many and requires quarantine when you enter the hospital. He has not disclosed this information to anyone he is tattooing because he thinks it's "not a big deal". He is knowingly putting people at risk of contracting the disease. The whole situation makes me feel sick.

My question: Could basement tattoos land Jeff in legal trouble? Am I legally obligated to disclose my knowledge of his diagnosis?

Long story short -- what does this mean for Jeff and what does this mean for me.

EDIT: I forgot to include the location. I am in Western Canada

Answer:
 Call the health department? Or the Canadian version thereof? I don't see why you would even hesitate to do that. Just call them and explain. They'll almost certainly take it from there.

My brother works in body modification in the US. In his state, you have to have a license and a health certification. I bet something similar is true where you are.


Title: [NC] Student's parents to lose temporary protected status in USA. Teachers wish to help.

Question:
Hello all - first time posting ever so please let me know if I've made any mistakes.

I'm a middle school teacher in Durham, North Carolina.

I'm trying to help out one of our 8th grade students.
This student's parents' Temporary Protected Status will expire in March. Their family is from El Salvador. The parents work, pay taxes, and own their home. This 8th grade student is terrified of her family being uprooted or divided.

We will work with our school social worker to hopefully have some solutions.

We've also already been referred to El Centro Hispano for resources.

What else can we, as her teachers, do to help this student? Is there any more information that we can give her that can be helpful?

Thanks so much in advance for your help!

Answer:
 The bad news is that nobody has good answers. But the good news is that lots of people are working to help people like your students and their parents. Here are a couple organizations that could have useful information.
[Protegete.us](https://www.protegete.us) brings together resources for those facing loss of DACA status or deportation and provides rights education.
[Public Counsel](http://www.publiccounsel.org/practice_areas/immigrant_rights) is the nation’s largest pro bono law firm and is deeply involved in protecting the rights of immigrants. If you saw the footage of civil rights lawyers gathered at LAX providing services to those caught up in the initial Muslim ban, that was Public Counsel.
[Mexican American Legal Defense & Education Fund](http://www.maldef.org) or MALDEF is often called the Latino ACLU. They’ve been at the forefront of protecting the civil rights of immigrants for more than 50 years.
[United We Dream](https://unitedwedream.org) was created by and is led by immigrants eligible for temporary protected status. It has been at the forefront of the movement to pass the DREAM Act and is a clearinghouse for information relevant to those in the same situation as your student’s parents.

The most important thing you can do for your students is to be a safe, dependable authority figure who they can talk to at a time when other authority figures seem to see them as the enemy. The most important thing you can do for their parents is to tell their stories to those you know and humanize this issue.


Title: [WV] Can I have a camera recording the outside of my apartment?

Question:
I live in a pretty rough city, that is known for its high crime and drug rate and is on track to become the number one city in overdose deaths this year.

Where I currently live, I have seen/heard of three ofmy neighbors getting robbed (two of them drug houses and one he suspected his granddaughter) and the place I am moving to soon is known as a high crime area (beside a known prostitution area and convenience store).

So, while this new apartment will have a security system, I was wondering if it would be illegal for me to have an incognito camera place in my living room window so that I could see anyone who may attempt to get in?

The apartment is small with only two windows and one door, so I would only need it for the front. I just worry that if someone were to happen that I wouldn't be able to prosecute.

Thanks!

Answer: Yes. Capture video only, no audio.


Title: Grandfather's house split between his kids, one moved in and refuses to share the inheritance. What are our options?

Question:
This is in Florida.

My grandfather passed away in 2014. He left his house to all four of his kids (my mom, aunt, both uncles.) All four of them are on the deed to it.

My aunt was living with my grandfather temporarily before he died. Once he passed she figured that because her stuff was there she should just get to stay. It was a huge family fight that resulted in everyone just not talking to each other.

 My mother now wants one of two things, to either be allowed to move into the house as well, or for her siblings to buy her out of the property.

I don't believe she can force them to pay her.

But what would be the legality of her just moving herself in, as her name is on the deed as well.

Answer: Tenants in common generally have equal rights to property, so any of the co-owners could move in. Alternately, they can petition to partition the property and sell it.


Title: College found stolen light equipment in my dorm. I am so terrified and overwhelmed. Full story in comments

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 All you can do right now is wait, quietly. You fucked up enormously - the school may refer it to the police, since you committed a crime. You won't know until the school emails you whether you're facing

* Nothing, scaring the hell out of you is adequate punishmnent,
* Academic discipline, for breaking the school's honor code, or
* Criminal punishment, for theft.

Speaking up will push the needle towards the bottom of that list. Right now, just wait and see. Once you know what's coming, you can decide whether you need a lawyer: if the cops come to ask you about this, you _definitely_ need a lawyer (and to explicitly refuse to answer questions).

I hope you swiped a $10 lamp, and not a multi-hundred-dollar stage light or something.


Title: Helpless in Kentucky [San Diego CA to KY]

Question: Guys, long time lurker here. My wife received a call today asking for me. Apparently they are saying I applied for a loan in 2012 with a bank account number that was "invalid" so I am being pursued for fraud. I did have a Citi bank account at the time I lived there, however I moved away from San Diego and to Kentucky and closed the account. I haven't heard back from the company yet and I am wondering if this is a real thing? I am currently in Kentucky but this is from a business in San Diego CA. I don't remember ever applying for a loan and suspect identity theft and have been hearing from my wife that this is why I should always check my credit report (which I never due, shame on me). Any advice would be appreciated. I don't recall ever applying for a loan and have heard nothing from the organization in question. Do they have to serve me with papers, or is notification to my wife over the phone enough? Thanks! I'll update as soon as I hear from the company in question.

Answer:
 I'd ask for paperwork verifying the loan.

Do not send them iTunes gift card codes, whatever you do.


Title: [GA] False Allegations

Question:
I was just served papers and my ex wife is accusing me of bizarre/harmful/inappropriate behavior with my minor daughter (the only non-vague thing it says is she suspects me of showering with my daughter) and she's seeking full custody because she recently graduated school and has a good-paying job.

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I have and have maintained primary custody for the past 3 years. She lives over 400 miles away. The kids do well in school and are well-socialized. She's missed 100+ days of visitation (provable via text and her admitting to not being able to see the kids) in the past 3 years. She hasn't been involved in a single extracurricular/school activity in 3 years. I've spoken with my daughter's teacher and she says she's willing to speak to a GAL about my daughter's general demeanor, behavior, and grades.

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I know I need a lawyer and I'm going to have my lawyer push for a GAL for the kids but I'm just a nervous wreck right now. I know I've done nothing wrong but I hear horror stories all the time of men's lives being ruined because of these types of allegations. An input or guesses on what I can expect going forward? I'm hoping we go in for the initial hearing and the judge throws the book at her but that may be a pipe dream at this point.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 > I know I need a lawyer.

Correct answer is right here. Get with a lawyer to pull together evidence and argue on your behalf for a warm, loving home you provide the kids with. Courts today are heavily focused on wellbeing of the children, and less gender-biased than in the past.

Take a deep breath and try to control your anxiety. You've spent the last three years taking good care of your kids, with evidence that you are providing a stable environment with excellent academic, health, and social wellbeing indicators. Being an active parent works to your advantage here, and your attorney will frame a response to your ex's accusations.

Treat the accusations seriously. That is, make sure you're keeping up to date on the kids' pediatric visits. Keep in touch with your lawyer and listen to their guidance. We don't know how the hearing will turn out, but you can prepare yourself and show you've been parent proactive about your kids' health and wellbeing.


Title: My girlfriend wants to get off the lease of an apartment, but her roommates are charging her $600 for them to submit their pay stubs to the office. Salt Lake City, Utah.

Question:
Hello all, first time poster here.

So, my girlfriend decided to get an apartment with her sister and her sister’s boyfriend. My girlfriend could only pay a small part of the rent since she is in school and has a part time job. The three agreed and decided they would revisit the rent split once my girlfriend got a better paying, consistent job. About a month ago (only about half way through the lease), they demanded that she start paying more, cleaning around the house (she only cleaned up after herself, but the apartment was still a mess cause the boyfriend is a pig), and other things I can’t recall at the moment. Among this conversation, the tension was incredibly bad since they don’t think she’s trying to help, but she can’t afford it. Also, the boyfriend has an increasing anger issue and I’m worried about her safety there.

My girlfriend decided she wants to move out, and she is getting a new job during this tax season that will pay her more. She found a place that she can afford by herself, and had a conversation with them about it. They agreed that they would sign off on the lease so that her name can be taken off of it. They didn’t mention her paying any fees, and said they would do it willingly. (Also, I didn’t find this out until recently, the boyfriend punched a whole in the shower after this conversation because he was angry).

A couple days ago the boyfriend went to talk to the office (despite my girlfriend saying she was going to the next day), and texted her saying that the office would charge her $600 towards the apartment. I went with her the next day to talk to them and we asked them if there was a few and they stated no, they just need to check the pay stubs of the remaining tenants and then have them sign off on the lease for her to leave. I told her not to mention it to him, hoping it clear up and he wouldn’t bring it up, but he asked her about it that day and then proceeded to tell her that he is charging her $600 for the pay-stubs to be submitted. I wasn’t there, but she called her other sister for help and they stated that there was no contract or agreement for her to pay that amount to get off the lease, and he left the apartment furious. Now the sister she is living with is agreeing with the boyfriend that she needs to pay that amount.

Is there any legal action she can take to avoid this? Any suggestions on what to do? She shouldn’t have to pay the $600 since the apartment office doesn’t require it, and they are going against their word on signing the lease. Thanks for your help and support, ask me any questions that I might have missed. I was furious as I wrote this.
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: Nope, they don't have an obligation to let her out of the lease.  As a co-tenant, she has obligations not only to the landlord, but to her other co-tenants under the lease.  If they don't want to let her out, they don't have to.  And if they want to condition it on her paying them, they can.


Title: [Ontario, Canada] I would like to know how the laws affect anime consumption.

Question: I have been watching anime for a while now and thought that there was nothing wrong with it as all these shows have been imported through streaming services such as Crunchyroll and Funimation as well as the ability to purchase merch and collectibles from amazon. Some of these shows such as Highschool DxD and Testament of sister new devil depict high school students performing sexual acts/acting in sexual ways (these are called ecchi anime). Would it be against the law to own copies of said anime or similar anime as long as the characters depicted have adult characteristics and/or are adults themselves?

Answer:
 You're going to want to skim this article : https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_status_of_drawn_pornography_depicting_minors

From what I can see (NAL), it's legal in Japan (where it was produced) but Canada seems to regard it as illegal, as does the US.

The bit about them being adults or appearing to be adults shuttles it back over into a grey area; if you end up in a courtroom over it, your lawyer would likely be able to make a decent defense on that point.

Honestly, if it was me?  I'd just skip the ecchi and watch other types of anime.


Title: Sister-in-law behind on car payments, is parking her car in our garage (presumably to hide it from repo agents), can we be held liable for anything? (ID)

Question:
Hi legaladvice! I've tried searching the internet for this one but haven't been able to find anything so far. We're located in Idaho.

My sister-in-law is living with my wife and me and she is extremely behind on her car loan payments. She has been parking her car in our garage, presumably to avoid its repossession, but has not explicitly stated that is her motivation for doing so; however, it's pretty obvious. I understand her bank will eventually file for a replevin and gain access to our garage if they're unable to obtain it through other methods. If this is done, can we be held accountable for anything? If repo agents were to come to the door and request access, would it be an issue to tell them to take a hike?
Topic:
Credit Debt Bankruptcy

Answer: Nope, not held accountable and you don't have to answer their questions.


Title: Mechanic Question

Question: Hey ya’ll. I think I got myself into a mess and need to know what’s right and wrong. My car broke down about 47 days ago. I let it set for a couple days before I had it towed to a mechanic that I had been to before. He had me pay for labor right up front. He said he knew it was a computer and wiring problem and he could get it done in a few days. I was ok with this. After a week I call to check up on the car and he says he almost done and he was hoping to have it ready that evening or the following day. I call him the following day and he says he needs more time. Ok... I call him a couple days later he says it’s almost done I’m hoping to have it done today. I call the following day he needs more time. All the while he is not being specific with me at all about what he needs “more time” for. These kind of conversations have been going on for over a month now and I got tired of this so I said I need to pick up my car and take it somewhere else. He said whatever you want and told me he had to put my car back together and I could come get it. This was a week ago now and he is saying he needs “MORE TIME TO PUT IT TOGETHER” after he told me it would take less than a day. Am I getting the run around here and what can I do?! Please and thank you.

Answer:
 You need to go in person and tell him it's unreasonable how long he's holding it.

Not sure why you would pay for labor up front. That's not standard practice for repair shops.

If he gives you the runaround you'll have to get your car back unfixed and hopefully he refunds you the labor. If he does not, you'll have to sue him in small claims.Answer #2: They're actually breaking the law at this point. Michigan motor vehicle service and repair act says a lot, here are some relevant things more or less copied from michigan.gov

1- They have to provide a written estimate before any work is done

2- Failed to perform promised repairs within the period of time agreed, or within a reasonable time, unless circumstances beyond the control of the facility prevent the timely performance of the repairs and the facility did not have reason to know of those circumstances at the time the contract was made.

This place is as shady as the underside of an umbrella. Go down there and demand your car back.


Title: My dog was involved in a dog fight - the other dogs owner somehow managed to stab my dog to death at the vets office, hours later. What can I do?

Question:
My ex and myself had a dog together. When we split, he kept her. Later, he moved in with his girlfriend following news of an expecting child, and could not keep the dog. At the time of her death, her owners were our friend NaNan and Brando (fake names). I am being given information through my ex, so Im missing some details.

Brando.was walking her, when a loose dog instigated a fight. They were both taken to the same vets office. I am unsure of the fate of the other dog, but our dog needed sutures and was expected to make a full recovery. They held her over night for observation.

 Sometimes in-between ten oclock last night and nine oclock this morning, the owner of the other dog brought a knife to the veterinary clinic. He somehow got to or for whatever reason was allowed near my dog. He stabbed her multiple times. The on-call surgeon was called in but she bled to death before he arrived.

A police report was filed by my ex sometime afterward, the vets office did not file one. I don't know if they called the police during or after the incident, or if my ex did after the fact. What should we be doing legally?

We are in Washtenaw County, Michigan

Answer: A lawsuit against the guy by the owner of the animal can be brought as well as likely animal cruelty charges.Answer #2: What kind of vet office would not call the police when a man stabs a dog to death in their care? Something is not adding up.Answer #3: I am thinking you may want to verify all the details, but assuming all your facts are 100% accurate your ex (who is now the sole owner of the dog) can sue the guy who killed the dog for the value of the dog, along with any bills from the initial dog attack. Answer #4: that's a really strange story, are you sure your ex is telling you the truth? have any details of this been conveyed / confirmed by anyone else?


Title: [ky] Raised a child from birth, not biological theirs, any rights?

Question: Asking for a someone else, in Kentucky. Basically, the father has been with the mother but not married. Lived together for seven years and raised a child together. He signed the birth certificate and raised the kid as his own who is now six. The mother is threatening to move away and using the child as a threat if the father does anything she doesn't like. He wants to move out but does that want to lose his son in the process. Does anyone like him have rights for visitation if they split? Patching child support isn't an issue, but the child is not biological his.

Answer: He might. He is in the birth cert. So right now he is legally the father. He needs an attorney tomorrowAnswer #2: He's probably the presumptive father since he signed the birth certificate. Your state might also have laws in place that allows a psychological parent rights to pursue custody. Your friend should talk to a family law attorney in your area.


Title: I work in NYC. Can employers ask you to work 7 days in a row?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I worked 47 days straight in NYC once. Good times. "Come to New York" they said. "See the city" they said. Yeah, okay. See the inside of a cubicle maybe.

Anecdote aside, this is legal.


Title: Sold a fake antique advertised as real from a consignment shop. (NY)

Question:
I was sold a compass labeled as WWII era for $60 from a local consignment shop in upstate New York. I don't know much about these items so I wanted to do some research before I wrapped it (it was supposed to be a Christmas present for my father). I quickly discovered that what I was sold was a cheap imitation worth less than 5 dollars. I'm so upset as we don't have much money and now I have nothing to give my father for Christmas. I plan on going to the store to confront them, but wanted to get some advice from you guys first. I imagine they have a "no refunds" policy, but if this is illegal, the law must supersede a store's policy, right?

Thanks!

Tl:dr - Was sold a "WWII compass" for $60. Turns out it's a toy worth <$5. Wondering if this is legal.

**Update**

I went down to the shop this afternoon and the owners apologized and refunded my money. Refreshing to still find honest people in business. I think it may have helped that I had written a bad review yesterday, which I have since updated. Regardless, I'm glad they did the honest thing and I can now find my dad something else.

Thanks for the help, everyone!

Answer:
 You can go to the shop and attempt to return it for cash. They will likely say no. You can then choose to sue them in small claims court for misrepresenting the compass. You may or may not win.Answer #2: Do you happen to have the advertisement? Anything in writing will help your case. Also, you'll need to show how you discovered it was a fake.

FYI, NY allows you to audio record someone without their consent. I suggest doing that when you confront the shop.


Title: [CA] Someone left anal lube in my personal box at work. The area where the boxes are located is in a common area for all employees and has a camera pointed directly at them

Question:
Posting from a throwaway account. Some background on me: I’m a mid 20’s gay man working in a medical facility and office in California. As title says, human grade “enhanced sensation” anal lube was left in my box where other papers and miscellaneous items are stored on my 2 days off. The cubby boxes are located in a common area of my workplace that is monitored by 24 hour camera surveillance. I came back to find the lube front and center in my box. Several coworkers made comments to me showing their concern for this.

I escalated the situation to my manager, explaining to her that this was extremely unprofessional and I felt targeted. She promised to partner with HR and enforce sexual harassment protocols, she informed me that this would be considered discrimination and that the company has zero tolerance for such behavior. After a week, I received a follow up email from my manager stating that she was unable to discern who was responsible based on the camera footage alone, even though it’s incredibly easy to see everyone who visits the boxes. My manager also used very “toned down” verbiage like “practical joke”. This to me is unacceptable and I feel like the situation is being swept under the rug.

I’m at a loss for words and feel like my manager is trying to simply make this situation go away by shrugging and saying she can’t do anything about it. What are my next steps?

Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 Zero Tolerance isn't a legal precedent meaning although unethical, they can pick and choose when they want to enforce it. Company policy, as long as it's within the confines of the law, isn't direct law. In addition, if they're unable to discern who the employee was, there's really no way you can prove them wrong.

If you feel necessary, you can inquire with an attorney who may or may not feel that you have enough information to pursue.


Title: Roommate trying to get Pregnant NYC

Question: I recently signed a lease with a single friend who I have since found out is actively trying to get pregnant. Outside of any marriage or steady relationship. Whatever, her life. However, I obviously do not want to live with a baby. If she does fall pregnant, will I be able to legally break my lease?

Answer:
 Nope.  That's between you and her, not you and the landlord.

note, though, that getting pregnant can take a bit of time and, further, there's a 9-month gestation period.  I'd look to find a new place at the end of your lease.Answer #2: Unless your lease has a clause about babies, no. But likely your lease will be ending by the time she has any baby. Be sure to give proper timely notice to terminate the lease.


Title: (LA) Is a 30 day notice on a year-long lease typical? Am I reading my contract wrong?

Question:
Located in Louisiana.

Last week I got a call from my landlord asking if we would like to renew our lease (1 year, signed 5/1/18) or go to month-to-month tenancy. I told her we were just going to let our lease expire and move out at the end of the month (I told her back in March/April we were planning on house, and we were successful.) She gave me a lecture on how it was mandatory that we give a 30 day notice. Is this normal? She \*graciously\* backdated our notice, but pointed out a part of the contract that she said demands a 30 day notice. Am I reading this wrong? Doesn't this say that I do not have to give a notice? She mocked me in front of other tenants that were in the office for not understanding that portion of the lease.

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Here is the clause verbatim:

"This Lease will automatically and expressly terminate in its entirety at the conclusion of the term set forth above unless the Lessor gives written notice to Lessee at lease thirty (30) days prior to the date of his/her intent to renew the Lease and provided that Lessee is not currently then in default hereunder. Any renewal hereunder shall be upon all of the terms and conditions set forth herein except as to the term, with the term of any such renewal beginning upon the expiration of the term then in effect and ending thirty (30) days therefrom."

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Am I an idiot? Doesn't this say exactly the opposite of what she told me? She said, "Oh no honey, in legal terms this means you have to give notice!!!!"

Answer: I think the misunderstanding here is that you're month to month. If you just left on 5/1/19 I'd see no problems, but since you're month to month, those usually require a rental period (month) notice, meaning if you want to to leave 6/1 you gotta notify before 5/1. That may not be the case in LA Land I'm not a licensed in LA.


Title: [VA] 18 y/o sent dick pic to minor lying about her age on dating app

Question:
My friend (yes I know the cliche but it's actually my friend that I'm worried for) has been trying his luck on the Plenty of Fish dating app. He told me you have to be 17 to signup and then this girl he was talking to's profile said 18 years of age. They talk back and forth and it escalates to her sending a video of herself masturbating. It was a closeup of her genitals, no face. My friend sends a dick pic back, no face as well. They make plans for a date and to hookup in about a week. Today he gets a text message saying something alone the lines of "This is her father, she is 15, I want to press charges."

He told me he already deleted all media and conversations between them. Other than contact his phone provider for the deleted conversations and the app for her profile, what can he do?

Answer: Congratulations! Your friend is the ten-thousandth person to encounter this very common scam today. When the "detective" calls don't repost.


Title: Can search engines be sued for assisting someone who with getting an abortion under Texas' new law?

Question: The title pretty much sums it up. If someone used a search engine to find abortion resources, could they be sued under this law?

Answer: This whole law seems ripe for frivolous lawsuits against just about anyone.  It's going to clog the courts completely.Answer #2: Greg abbot has a secret abortion clinic is his basement sex dungeon. Jesus told me. Start the lawsuits.


Title: Estranged father says he needs my personal information for his wife’s immigration. What should I do?

Question:
My father, who I and one of my sisters am no-contact with by choice, sent me this message today:

*”Hello, Im sorry to bother you and I hope this message finds you in good health and doing well. I am in need of some information from you. I am married and my wife is not American. We are in the process of immigration and I need the names, birthdates, and addresses of all my children and this includes adopted children. Would it be possible for you to give me your birthday and address? Thank you. (If you have [SISTERS]’s that would be nice!)”*

For many reason I do not want to give him any of this information.  Does he actually need it?  Will immigration need it?  If I do not respond would that hinder his wife’s immigration in any way?  I have never met this woman and do not want to make this difficult for her but I also do not trust my father with any personal information.

My sister and I both have changed our full names and he does not know my middle name or her name.

Thanks!

Answer:
 Wait, he doesn't even know your birthday?

Forget that no you don't have to tell him anything; this sounds like a scam phishing e-mail in general.

[Here's USCIS information on bringing a spouse into the US](https://www.uscis.gov/policymanual/HTML/PolicyManual-Volume12-PartG-Chapter2.html).


Title: My friends Husband (Military) got caught cheating via text and audio recording , she sees a JAG Tomorrow, need some advice on how to proceed .

Question:
They have been slowly going through the initial steps of the divorce the last 6 weeks , nothing has really been signed and neither has met With any lawyers or legal representatives . They’ve been married 10 years and he’s an e-6.  Before the evidence came out via a friend, they were on good terms and she was going to split everything down the middle , but after the bombshell was dropped she found out he’s been cheating for the last 6 months atleast.  She’s furious and hurt and wants her pound of flesh (my words )I asked her if she wanted to use this as a negotiation tool or does she want him to get a UCMJ article instead (the other women is an e6 too) she wants him to pay for his adultery financially, This is in California for reference .
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 Long time military member here. JAG isn't the group that would handle any adultery case against the husband, that would be his commander through non-judicial punishment and possibly (although unlikely except in extreme cases) the military police.

However, your friend should be informed, that if HE pays for it finanically, SHE will pay too. I can't emphasize this enough: **His money is her money.**

If he is reduced in rank, then that's less alimony he will pay later, so it will cost her too. I have seen this happen numerous times. There was a similar case of a high ranking general who was demoted for having numerous affairs (General Sinclair, I believe). A lot of people in the comments to these stories said it wasn't fair that the wife would be punished by getting less alimony. But that's just the way it is.

In my unit, there was an extreme example of an officer that ended up going to a military prison and losing his rank and pay entirely (over much more serious allegations than adultery). His ex-wife called our unit, angry that her alimony payments had stopped. We told her he isn't getting a salary, so there is nothing to draw alimony from! She didn't like that answer but there is nothing else that could be done.


Title: Damage caused by condo association's tree (FL)

Question: My car was damaged by a falling branch from a tree that the condo association I live in owns, they claim that the tree isn't dead and they aren't responsible for the costs and now it's raining and the interior of my vehicle is likely being destroyed. Do I have any recourse? I'm renting a condo, I don't own one.

Answer: Fallen branches are usually just natural accidents for which nobody is liable. If you have comprehensive insurance, file against that. If you don’t, tarp your car until you can get it fixed.


Title: Airline Filed Bankruptcy Without Notifying Me

Question:
Hey everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. I’m also on mobile if formatting is off. So I booked a flight from Newark (EWR) to Stansted (STN) through Primera Air for 10/11-10/18. I get to the airport only to discover that Primera Air filed bankruptcy and cancelled all flights. They had no counter for customer service, their website and phone are also disconnected. The airport help desk told me I was SOL. I tried to find other roundtrip flights but would have cost another $1,000. I called my credit card to charge back the flight and they have started an investigation. However, I’ve lost approx $1,000 in nonrefundable lodging in London, train ticket to Paris, Airbnb, and museum tickets. What are my options here? Do I call the better business bureau or can I file a law suit against Primera? Any advice would be appreciated.

Tl;dr Airline went bankrupt week before my flight, didn’t find out until I went to the airport. Lost $1,000 on deposits for lodging and transport. What can I do?

Answer:
 First, the Better Business Bureau is nothing more than a review site.  They won't get your money back for you.

Second, you *can* sue Primerica if you want to, but they're headquartered overseas **and** they're in bankruptcy protection.  Getting any kind of meaningful payout is strongly unlikely.

Answer #2: You can sue them but even if you won if they filed for BK you would just be one of many many many people they owe money to.Answer #3: Did your credit card have included Travel Insurance protection? or did you purchase a travel insurance policy?  If not, get a better credit card or buy travel insurance next time.

Sad to say that this is likely an expensive lesson learned as it will cost you much more than the amount you lost to file a lawsuit in Denmark against Primera.  And even if you were to win, you'd be lucky to get pennies on the dollar due to the bankruptcy.Answer #4: Not Legal Advice:

The BBB is Yelp for Old People.  It has no effect whatsoever, companies either voluntarily join it or just ignore it.

+1 for checking with your credit card if it had travel cancellation insurance protection.  They might refund you the various expenses due to this situation.


Title: Can my mom drug test me against my will?

Question:
To give some background, it’s my first time in reddit,  and I hope I can find some people who know more than myself.

My mom caught me smoking weed once, and she found the packaging for a cart I had another occasion. Ever since then I’ve stopped having anything weed related in her property and I’ve stopped smoking since. I figured I’d respect her rules since I’m living under her roof until I go to college and then I can make my own decisions.

However, my mom told me she plans to go to my college once a month and rug test me herself. I’m 18 and by the time I go to college in the fall I’ll be 19. Can my mom legally force me to take a drug test?

Answer:
 No.

But she doesn't have to continue supporting you in any ways she's supporting you (tuition, vehicle, living expenses, etc.), outside of any legal obligations to the contrary (like a divorce/custody agreement) for refusing to submit to a drug test, since you're now a full-blown adult.

This is assuming you're somewhere in the USA.Answer #2: She can't *force* you to take the test, no. She can however completely cut off support from you if you don't since you're a legal adult.Answer #3: Location is critical.

In most US states no, but she can give you notice to end your tenancy in her home and withdraw her willingness to pay for your support (including college).Answer #4: No she can’t force you. If she does cut off support or threaten too be sure to get in contact with financial aid. If you are going to college unsupported by your parents your much more likely to qualify for more need based aid to attend school.


Title: Transgender- Coming Out in the Workplace and Legal Precautions

Question:
Hi reddit. I'm an FtM guy in his mid twenties, working in an office environment in MA. I want to start my medical transition now that I have decent insurance- but I'm afraid of jumping into the legal issues unprepared if I were to come out at work. Relevant context:

I am pre-everything save for a name change (a fairly gender neutral and not suspect name) and my overall presentation (I can pass at times but am currently known at work as female).

I am a fairly new employee at my company with a tenure of one year- and I was hired as a permanent regular employee from the get go, so not a temp.

My employers and coworkers know me as female, although from before they even hired me they were aware that I did not dress, speak or look particularly female. I dress like a man. As far as drastic changes go, my presentation would not be one of them. The environment at my workplace in general does not particularly worry me: it seems pretty tolerant even of people who look unconventional, and I get along with everyone I work with.

Our company insurance provider currently (at least as of 2018) provides some coverage for transgender treatments.

I'd appreciate any help you can give me on the following:
- If I start HRT before coming out- would my employer find out from the insurance company if I use the insurance for it? Would doing so legally obligate me to have told my employer?
- When is the best time to tell my employer? HRT changes take significant time- months even. Should I be telling them before I start?
- Should I change my gender marker legally before informing my employer? I am aware that actually changing that gender marker is legally quite simple- but at what stage do I have to inform my workplace?
- The facility does not have gender neutral bathrooms. I've used the male bathrooms before when no one was around, near the end of the day. I'm prepared to just not use any in the building and go to McDonalds during break if I have to- but would I?
- How do I take the best possible precautions to prevent myself from potentially losing my job? Protected class or no, we all know it would be on me to prove discrimimation if I just happen to be suddenly let go- though my review thus far while closeted has been exemplary. Should I be speaking to HR first before informing anyone else?

Thanks for any advice you guys have. Cheers.

Answer:
 MA has legal protections for gender identity, which have not only been approved via the court and law, but some shitheads put a reversal proposal on the ballot and we just all overwhelmingly voted to keep transgender protections.

So. LEGALLY, you're covered. This doesn't mean that some people in your specific organization won't be shitheads, or you won't be annoyed by coworkers playing diversity bingo who are super excited to get to know you now.

Keep records of everything, back up those records on an email account or file that isn't connected to your work. Try to find a person in your management change that you trust and ask them to help you through the process.

Good luck! Answer #2: So the good news is that Massachusettes is one of the states that actually has laws against discrimination on the basis of gender identity in terms of employment.

Your insurance company shouldn't be giving your employer any medical information. The other questions are really up to you on when you should tell them. A sub with both LGBT experience may be better able to help you figure out the timing.


Title: The floor of the house I'm renting fell through, who pays my landlord or myself?

Question: A bit more information we had some people over and there were maybe 20 people dancing, the floor fell about 2 feet to the ground but no one was hurt. The place is clearly neglected and the floor has been shaky for some time. I live in GA.

Answer:
 This is a very fact specific issue.  The lease, the condition of the house, negligence by you, negligence by the owner, insurance?  That's without even looking at the GA code.

What I'm saying is that I think you might need to sit down with a lawyer for an hour or so if you want an answer.


Title: Do I have to allow an Emotional Security Animal (I'm the landlord and share the unit with the tenant)?

Question:
The lease my tenant and I signed for the unit we co-reside in has a clear no pet policy. She has gotten a pet without discussing it with me and, when I discussed this was not allowed per our lease, she said it is emotional security animal and thus it is ok.

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From what I've seen on this forum, she may not do this since we both live in the unit, right? If so, is there any legal reference or link I can send her to show it's not allowed to resolve this? (I live in Illinois.)

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TIA!
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 No. You do not have to allow it if you share the unit with the tenant.

Also, if they obtained the pet before they obtained ESA documentation from their doctor they still violated the lease. They can still be evicted for breaking the pet policy that they agreed to.Answer #2: No she can't have the animal.  The fair housing act, which covers assistance animals in housing, doesn't apply to you.

### "4. Does the Fair Housing Act (FHA) apply to all housing?

The Fair Housing Act (FHA) does apply to almost all housing types including those for sale or rent. This includes apartments, condominiums, and single family homes. Here is how HUD describes what housing is covered:

What Types of Housing Are Covered?

The Fair Housing Act covers most housing. In very limited circumstances, **the Act exempts owner-occupied buildings with no more than four units**, single-family houses sold or rented by the owner without the use of an agent, and housing operated by religious organizations and private clubs that limit occupancy to members."

[https://www.animallaw.info/article/faqs-emotional-support-animals#s4](https://www.animallaw.info/article/faqs-emotional-support-animals#s4)Answer #3: This sounds a bit weird based on your wording.

Are they subletting from you, or do you own the property? This does matter some.

However, what doesn't matter:

She obtained the pet without obtaining the doctor's letter and requesting reasonable accommodations first. As stated above, this breaks the lease rules.Answer #4: How many units are on the property (i.e. is this an apartment building with twenty apartments or is this a house you own and rent out?)


Title: Dog custody

Question:
My girlfriend and I are unmarried but live together and recently adopted a dog. All adoption paperwork is in my name as well as her microchip.

I believe she registered the dog in her name with the city.

Does one supercede the other? We might be splitting up on bad terms and I fear she could take the dog and run.

The city is Chicago if that helps.

Any advice would be very helpful.

Answer: Dogs are property and unless it is a purebred have almost no value.  If you split up whoever has the dog likely will keep the dog.  The other person could sue but they would more than likely win money than the return of the dog.


Title: (Canada) Daughter and son inherit a house, only on wants to sell.

Question:
The daughter was living at home with their mother when she died about a year ago. Both children inherit the house. The sister lives there and pays for some work on the house. Son receives no compensations when she lives there. He wants to buy her share of the house and live there but can't get financing. She can't afford to continue to live there and wants to sell but the brother refuses to go along. What are her options?
Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer:
 * Status quo - neither of them sells. They come to some agreement about the use and maintenance of the property and continue. Revisit the issue later.

* Negotiate a buyout at a price they both accept, leaving one owner holding the whole property. (It sounds like they tried that, but for completeness, I'll mention it.)

* Negotiate an agreement to sell the property and split the proceeds (after settling the mortgage and any outstanding liens) in a way they both accept.

* Sue for partition, have the courts split the value of the house, and force a sale over the other owner's objections (or force the property to be split into multiple parcels) and risk losing some of the value of the property if it ends up sold at auction for less than its market value.


Title: Noisy Neighbors, Moving Out Early

Question:
Hi, Reddit. Halp.

Location: Illinois, Cook County

TLDR; Am I crazy? Can we get these college kids to move TF out? Sleep would be nice. Lack of ***holes would be nice. I've already reported to the leasing office but progress is moving so slow. But if I move out, how can I make sure they turn-around our apartment for rental in a timely manner?

Basically, my upstairs neighbors have been partial to what's called 'excessive noise' in our lease contract. This has been going on since mid-April. So about 3 months. Man, I gave them time and benefit of the doubt. The noise/offenses can include, but not limited to, the following at night (from the hours of 9PM to sometimes 2AM):

Parties

Dog Howling

Stomping

Loud music, high bass level

Audible offensive dialogue

Maximum volume television

Cigarette butts on our patio

Yelling/shouting

A dozen people invited

Vacuuming above bedroom at night

There guests making out at the apt entrance

In May, I started to note this to the leasing manager. It has now escalated to the regional manager of the property and apparently they are in contact with their attorney and asking me to keep a noise log (which I have been, in detail).

Apparently, yesterday, the leasing office talked to the noise offenders. The leasing office is now conducting a phone inquiry to the other guests of the unit if they can confirm the noise. And just "call the police" if I hear anything else. Now, what am I to do if the neighbors above the noisemakers also like to have loud, night parties and the neighbors to the right of them have "thought about knocking on [their] door a couple of times, but man, [he'd just] like to join in"? I feel like the other tenants in the unit are just to cowardly to say anything more.

I have expressed to the leasing office that I just want to move out. It's been 3 months with the nightly noise any time of the week. They said there is an option of moving out say, today. I would hand over the keys, but I would still be responsible for paying rent until the unit is ready to be rented out to someone else. From what I gather, there is a long wait for a 1 bedroom apt (which I have), and once it's ready for rent, it will go quick. Then I would be released of all liability from the lease. How can I make sure they don't laze on turning the unit around to rent to someone else? Is there a legal way to make them adhere to a schedule?

Sorry for the frazzled post. Lack of sleep, yah?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Call the police and make a noise complaint, every time.

Noisy neighbours don't give you any particularly good grounds to break your lease early. If they're willing to let you out provided you pay the rent until they re-rent it, that's your option. If you want more control over the timeline, start actively looking for someone to take over your lease.


Title: [TX] Are there regulations on what music is played at a workplace?

Question:
My BIL works for a distribution center for a big box store.  The PA system plays satalite radio music.  The station normally is cycled every thirty minutes.   However, the employee that controls the radio will play religious or gospel stations for half the shift.  I am sure that too much complaining would result in no music, but they are not allowed to have phones or other eltronic devices.  Does he just keep his mouth shut?

Edit:  he has brought it up to direct supervision, and was ignored.
Topic:
Business Law

Answer:
 I think the Sirius subscription that allows you to broadcast at work cost more than a personal subscription. If it is a personal subscription, you could probably make all the music go away if you report it to Sirius.Answer #2: Yes he should keep his mouth shut. There is no law that addresses this.Answer #3: Any satellite stations play anthrax?

If this was a government employee he may have room to argue. If it's private, he's SOL.


Title: Can my evil property managers charge me for re-keying and carpet cleaning?

Question:
First off, I live in Idaho.

When I moved in, my lease was extremely short. I don't recall anything about requiring I pay for cleaning the carpets and re-key, but it could have been there, I honestly don't know and I can't find my original lease (I'm not even sure I ever got a copy).

1 year after I moved in, my landlord turned over the home to property managers. I have the same landlords, but it is now being managed by a standard evil property management company. In order to stay in my house, I had to sign a new, completely different lease. This one made claims about deposits I'd already made that were wrong and didn't include one of my dogs. It also required that the carpets be cleaned by a "reputable truck mounted carpet cleaning company" (ie. not one of those carpet cleaners you can rent at a store) and that either I pay for it, or they charge me for it. It also states that they will be charging me for re-keying the house.

In order to stay there, I had to sign this lease. I got the incorrect deposit information and the incorrect pet information fixed, but I couldn't keep fighting or I would risk getting kicked out.

Is it legal to charge for normal carpet cleaning in the state of Idaho? That seems to fall under normal wear and tear from what I've read. Is it legal to charge for re-keying? I can't find anything at all about re-keying, but that doesn't seem like something they can charge for since I'll be returning all the keys and it's not my responsibility that they want to re-key, that's their choice.

Answer:
 Water under the bridge at this point, but either you were misinformed or your new landlords lied to you when they said that you needed to sign a new lease.  The new landlords are bound to follow the terms of your old lease...unless you sign a new one.  By agreeing to sign a new lease you've put yourself in a rather disadvantageous position. Unfortunately, at this point there's nothing you can do about that.

If the lease says that you agree to paying for carpet cleaning and re-keying, then you're legally obligated to pay.  Don't sign legal documents that you don't agree to in the future.


Title: Might have problems with the IRS. Please advise. Kinda panicking.

Question:
https://www.reddit.com/r/FinancialAdvice/comments/7suyut/i_might_have_a_problem_with_the_irs_please/?utm_source=reddit-android

Sorry forgot to say i'm in Mississippi, was in Tx during years they say i might owe.

Answer:
 >It's a recording saying it's the IRS and I need to call them back at that number.

Congratulations you have not trouble with the IRS this is a scammer.

>A man with a VERY thick Indian accent

A scammer from India to be more specific.

>He memtions among other things a bank account that's been frozen.

A lie that might get people to panick and do stupid things like paying these scammers.

Answer #2: From the IRS website-
If you get a phone call from someone claiming to be from the IRS, here’s what you should do:

If you know you owe taxes or you think you might owe taxes, call the IRS at 1.800.829.1040. The IRS employees at that line can help you with a payment issue, if there really is such an issue.If you know you don’t owe taxes or have no reason to think that you owe any taxes (for example, you’ve never received a bill or the caller made some bogus threats as described above), then call and report the incident to TIGTA at 1.800.366.4484.You can file a complaint using the FTC Complaint Assistant; choose “Other” and then “Imposter Scams.” If the complaint involves someone impersonating the IRS, include the words “IRS Telephone Scam” in the notes.


Title: My ex BF (38m) downloaded all the info from my (28f) phone(s). Not sure where to go from here?

Question: Posted this over in advise, and was told to post here as well. My ex bf of 5 years while I was sleeping hacked into both of my phones (personal and work both iPhones) using his wifi and downloaded every bit of information. I’m not sure how to proceed or even where to go from here. Any advise would be great? Toronto, Canada for reference.

Answer:
 You can call the non emergency police line.

However the exact method you're describing seems impossible. Just tell them he accessed your devices.Answer #2: >hacked into both of my phones (personal and work both iPhones) using his wifi and downloaded every bit of information

Yeah, this isn't really possibly.  Maybe he got your iCloud password and downloaded your online stuff, or he's full of it.Answer #3: Are you sure? Hacking into an iPhone remotely is not usually possible unless you have them jailbroken. Are you sure he just did not gain access to your icloud/apple account that the phones are tied to?Answer #4: Are you sure?  What evidence do you possess?  Hacking into a phone is not trivial, especially remote.


Title: Threatening to pursue me for payment of a gift (VA/DC)

Question: In 2013 I was new to Virginia and networking, fresh out of college.  I met an older guy who seemed very cool and like a mentor.  We went to dinners and happy hours, and it was great.  He was in the army and we would talk about guns, and I said I wanted to get one one day.  Well he gave me a new one as a gift.  I was very grateful and he never asked for payment and I never said I would pay him (I couldn't afford a gun which is the whole reason he gave me one).  Our friendship later turned sour because he started getting sexual and demanding naked pics and pics of a certain fetish.  I would tell him no and to stop but he wouldn't.  So I deleted him and stopped talking to him.  Well now he has emailed me twice demanding immediate payment for the gun.  I emailed back and said that he gave it to me as a gift years ago and I don't have any money.  He emailed back that he will be pursuing me.  What can he do to me?  I never would have accepted the gun if I thought I had to pay for it, I can't afford it.  Thank you for your help.

Answer:
 Gifts don't have to be repaid.

However, if it wasn't a gift, you owe him the gun or the value of the gun.  If he chooses to sue you for the matter, you'd need to prove it was a gift in order to prevail.


Title: Neighbor beating dog very aggressively, "Just f***ING die"

Question:
I am living with family due to difficult circumstances on both sides (Aunt, uncle, second cousin). My neighbor, T, has a few dogs. I was informed by my aunt that she once heard T beating and yelling at one dog very aggressively, to the point the dog's cries were making my aunt very concerned. She peeked through the fence but couldn't see much and left quickly due to fear of being seen.

I've been are about 5 months and since living here I have noticed the dogs bark very aggressively at any passerby and I have only seen T in passing (small in stature but looks like he could have a temper).

Long story short, I was sitting in the back yard and I overheard one of these beatdowns. I've been around but that sounded pretty disturbing. Loud thumps that were clearly hits, T claiming that it "doesn't hurt", the dogs cries were straight wails that set off other dogs around the neighborhood, and by the end of it he was exclaiming "Why don't you just die? Just f***ing die. F***ing b***. After four years you don't get it. Just die already."
I did not see any of this first hand but it clearly came from T's backyard and I know T's voice. I very much wanted to look over the fence and make myself known but I am a guest here and we have a sensitive situation in our household. I could not live with myself if I ended up bringing on some sort of neighborly vendetta. I also, however, can't just sit here and do nothing. If it were my situation here I would have just demanded he give me the dog right then and there.
What can I do? Is there any actual crime here? Do I have to record it next time and file a report? And if so, with whom?
Any guidance is appreciated.

Answer:
 You have several options.

1.) Report to the police and/or animal control. Animal abuse is straight up a crime.

2.) If they do not have a privacy fence, then you might get a camera set up. My suggestion - get security cameras, rather than wander out there and record with your phone, because that's less confrontational.

3.) If they want rid of the dog, offer to buy the dog, then figure out what to do with it.

As a note - if the cops/animal control do nothing, and the neighbor realizes it was you, prepare for more "fun", then do option #2 to deal with angry neighbor.Answer #2: This is a crime in every remotely sane jurisdiction. Call the police.


Title: Could I sue parents?

Question: I would say they have been mentally abusive towards me. Some of the things they do, or try to do are, forbid me from having female friends at all, even going so far as to block them from my contacts on my phone and Facebook, prevent me from going out mostly, giving me grief on every small opportunity they get, being overly controlling; they don't know what privacy is, and prevent me from having a personal life in general. If I was fully independent, I would have left them a long time ago. I'm a 19 year old student, working part time so the money I earn and get from student finance would not be able to support my living and studying costs. So I wanted to know that if I were to "separate" from them and sue them in court for my part of their wealth, how likely would I be to win? This is in UK by the way. Thanks :).

Answer:
 > sue them in court for my part of their wealth

LOL. What do you mean *your* part of their wealth?Answer #2: > 19 year old student

Well, you're legally an adult. So there's implicit consent to their activities.

> my part of their wealth

You mean, money you did nothing to earn?

I'll keep this simple. You're young and, shall we say, ignorant. You are entitled to get a job, move out, and earn your own money. You are not entitled to living by your own rules when under your own parents' roof, or to any part of their money, now that you've reached the age of majority.Answer #3: Nothing you described is abuse or in any way actionable. Answer #4: You aren't a minor, and you have no record of physical abuse according to what you provided. I would just separate from there after you have enough money from another job to be fully dependent.Answer #5: This is a US and CA focused sub, but even still, I would wager you have a non-zero but very near zero chance.

You can try over at /r/legaladviceUK, but I highly doubt you have any claim to your parents money. Your best remedy is to become fully independent on your own.


Title: Police Supervisor Points a Gun at Another Officer and Is Demoted, Not Fired

Question:
TLDR: Supervisor points her gun at fellow officers over Chex Mix and gets demoted.

Female second shift supervisor was upset over one of her officers, then third shift didn't take calls as fast as she wanted them to, and then two third shift officers wouldn't give her back her Chex Mix... So her solution was to draw her firearm and point it at one of the officers (who is a supervisor at her same level).

The other third shift officer told admin. They did their investigation and told the female supervisor initially she'd likely only get a couple of days off. Line officers heard about this and complained, finding out her defense was we point guns at each other all the time. Nope. Not true. I've never pointed my gun at another officer, in jest or anger, ever, nor have I seen it done. The closest thing is we'll mess around with Tasers, but usually the cartridge is removed.

After the line officer complained, they suspended the female supervisor (idk if it was with or without pay) and we were recently told she underwent a "position change" and has been demoted. I'm not sure if there are additional penalties/days off.

In her mind, it's unfair and she should not have been demoted.

The officer who complained originally is the same officer who later killed himself, which adds complications.

She's since been back at work, though there was no announcement she would be returning. I came back from my days off (Sunday) and saw her truck and then her eating dressed in her uniform and wondered if she was supposed to be there and even texted my sergeant to see if she was supposed to be back, which she was. Sunday is the only day I work with her. On Tuesday, I saw her truck again but didn't know why she would be at work since it was her day off.

Both of those days I wondered if she was going to start shooting officers because she was upset she was demoted. The second day I had to shower at the station and wondered if I should bring my gun in the shower. I don't want to feel unsafe at my station, especially when I feel unsafe because of another officer.

If it matters, I am the same rank she was.

Has the department opened themselves up to a hostile work environment lawsuit potentially/already? I've decided to voice my concerns, as well as other liability concerns working with her, auth my admin tomorrow. What else can I do?

This is Kansas, btw.

Answer: Holy crap, call the pol— wait. Answer #2: I would think that committing aggravated assault on a law enforcement officer would warrant criminal prosecution in addition to dismissal. Have you contact the Kansas Bureau of Investigation?


Title: (GA, USA) Question about paying my mom for a Parent Plus Loan she took out.

Question:
[Here's](https://old.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/9abl9w/us_mom_took_out_parent_plus_loan_that_i_seriously/) a thread I made in /r/personalfinance that might give better context. Here's the quick version:

I found out recently that my 2 semesters and 1 summer semester of college were not paid for out of pocket like I assumed they were, but were in fact mostly covered by 2 Parent Plus Loans. The summer semester actually doesn't have any loan money in it, but that's besides the point. The amount of the 2 loans are $21.3k  (I don't have the exact number for that loan right now, sorry) and $5,000. The $5,000 loan has already been paid off. The $21.3k loan is due to start payment on January 1st, 2019. As of right now, I have no info on what the interest rates are, the terms of the loans, when they were taken out, etc.

As people on /r/personalfinance pointed out, I am legally not responsible for paying my mom for Parent Plus loans, as they're solely in her name. I would, however, like to pay her back for the money that was paid to my college and the spending money she gave me while I was in college, as I left college to join the Air Force and I think that's only fair.

**Here's the thing:** I go to UGA, and they allow me to access an online student account that shows every charge and payment I received while I was in. *According to this online record, only a little over $11,000 was actually paid to my college.* There are 2 payments listed as "Federal Dir Parent PLUS Loan" in both my Fall 2017 and Spring 2018 payment records. The /r/personalfinance thread has comments from me saying both $12k and $13k, but I realized this morning that I accidentally included charges listed as "PLUS Loan Refund" as parts of the Parent Plus Loan payments. Also, I lived on campus, so the rent and any payments towards which would be on my student account.

This obviously leaves room to suspect that she took out extra money for whatever, but I'm trying not to worry myself about that right now. For all I care, that money was taken out and used for purposes that I don't want to pay her back for.

I want to pay my mom back for what went to my college, the spending money she gave me while I was in school, things like deposits, and the credit card charges that paid for school stuff. However, I don't want to pay her for the rest of the loan money she took out, as it's shaping up to look like none of that money went towards my education, the purpose of the two loans, and I don't want to pay her back the extra $15k (Before interest, as well) just so I can spend the rest of my life silently grumbling over suspicions that she conned me out of money when I was 18.

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**So here's my question:** What is the best way for me to pay her back for what I think is right without opening myself up to any legal ramifications? What I fear is her one day suing me, telling a judge that we had a verbal contract that I would pay her back for the entirety of the loans, and that I broke the agreement, showing the ~$11k of payments I'm willing to pay her as proof that I started paying her but stopped a little under halfway. I don't know if I can get my mom to sign a real contract with me, but as I understand it the loans aren't in my name anyway so I have all the negotiating power.

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I haven't told her about my findings, and I don't plan to for a while. I'm waiting for her to let me see the loan info again so that I can take screenshots and have info such as when the loans were taken out. I'm also an authorized user on her Bank of America accounts, which gives me the ability to see transactions that have occurred on her personal checking account and what I believe is an account that my college savings were put into. I forgot the password to this, so I haven't investigated these yet. I'm also waiting until tomorrow so that I can call UGA and ask if any reimbursement checks were sent to my address / if there were any charges that wouldn't be listed on the online account I have access to. After I learn this, I'll be checking the BoA accounts to see if my mom cashed those checks to those accounts, and if so I want to check to see if the money finally adds up.

Finally, I'm hauling my ass in gear to ship out to basic training so that I'm dependent on Uncle Sam instead of my mom. Before I ship out, I plan to spend an afternoon packing up my valuables and storing them at my dad's house so that my mom can't destroy them in an act of revenge in case this blows up in my face.

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**Fast Facts**

- Mom took out 2 Parent Plus loans, one for $21k and one for $5k

- $5k loan is paid off, $21k loan is due to start payment on Jan 1st 2019

- It appears that only a little over $11k was actually paid to my school

- I want to pay her back for what she took out in loans to pay for my school, but it's become apparent that not all the money she took out was used for school.

- I want to know how to pay her back without implicating myself in the future. Such a scenario could be her suing me for breaking a verbal contract that never existed saying that I would pay her back for the entirety of the Parent Plus loans she took out, with her showing a judge the roughly $11k of payments I'm actually willing to pay her as proof.

Thanks for any advice, and thanks for reading.

Answer: You're over thinking this. Pay her back whatever you want to. You have no idea right to know how much in total she borrowed.


Title: (FL) Crazy business partner trying to steal entire business.

Question: I am an MBR-MGR of an LLC registered in Florida.  A crazy partner who is also an MBR-MGR who tried to "fire" me several times decided to register a new LLC with the same name in Arizona and start selling off IP, calling infrastructure to lock me out of all of it, and is claiming it's legitimate.  It's pretty obviously the same business, transplanted minus one MBR-MGR.  Before I pay a lawyer, what do you guys think about my options?

Answer: The only relevant issue is this: What does the operating agreement say about removal of managers?


Title: (California) Employer wanting specifics about medical leave.

Question: My wife's pregnant at the end of her first trimester, high risk pregnancy, and started miscarrying. Doctor ordered bed rest for a week. Things got better, and she returned to work. HR is now asking for a Leave of Absence form in addition to the doctors note. The LOA wants specifics for why the doctor took her off work for 5 days. We aren't really comfortable yet telling her work she was miscarrying, as we still haven't told them she's pregnant. Do we need to actually answer the medical specifics, or can we simply put "Personal Medical"?

Answer:
 It's none of their goddamned business.  Put down personal-medical.  If they inquire further, inform them that they should probably talk to HR about ethics of inquiring into an employee's medical condition.

I am so sorry for your loss.


Title: Neighbor's tree fell on my dar and totaled it, seeking compensation

Question:
Edit: "Car"

I live in a big city in Oregon, USA.

Last November, there was a storm and my neighbor's tree fell on my car, totaling it. The local news filmed the scene and an interviewed me. I have photos/film evidence of the damage.

I had a great condition Honda Civic hybrid. It would cost about $10k to buy a similar car. My insurance paid me ~$7k and I used it to get a much lower-quality car (think roll up windows) so I could get to work.

I contacted the City because if the tree was on their land, then I figured they would need to compensate me. I filed a formal complaint and the City responded saying that the tree was on my neighbor's property.

I knocked on my neighbor's door and asked her about the tree. I got her name, phone number, and home owner's insurance information.

Life got busy and I didn't do anything with the info. I would like to pursue this issue and get compensation for the damage to my vehicle. What do I do? I was thinking I might just straight up ask the neighbor for money. Or should I go through insurance? Small claims court?

Answer: You were already compensated for the damage. What exactly are you trying to get now, and why?


Title: Is my employer allowed to randomly drug test a specific employee?

Question:
[Chicago, IL)

So the general manager of the Jimmy John's is about to give me a "random" drug test for the second time in a couple of months. The first one came after my coworker (who recently got out of rehab) told my boss that I was a junky because "he can always sense a junky" and the second one happened after I was sent on 5 deliveries and forgot to deliver the 5th one. I passed the first test (except for weed, which he doesn't care about). And I haven't taken the second test yet. It was an honest mistake and the only time I've ever screwed up. The emotional toll this has taken on me is significant. I'm constantly stressing out about it and wondering if there's something I can do legally.

Answer:
 So you've messed up at work and already failed a drug test and want to know if you can be retested? That's not random. Where are you located?

>  and wondering if there's something I can do legally.

You could try not using illegal drugs.


Title: (California) Do my parents have legal rights to avoid me from being a US Citizen?

Question:
Greetings,

I applied for US Citizenship without asking my parents because I am over 18 and it’s mainly because my parents are strictly against me being a US Citizen. We currently have Green Cards (Permanent Resident Card) and it’s valid until 2023 but my parents plan is to move back to our home country after I graduate from college which is 2021. I don’t want to go back so I applied for US citizenship so that I can stay here and work for places that require security clearances.

I got a mail letter from USCIS almost 7 months ago about an appointment for biometrics but my parents hid the letter from me and never told me. I missed my appointment and I rescheduled another one. 4 months ago I got a letter for interview date but again my parents never told about the letter and I just found out about all this mess.

I’m at this point where I want to move out and live peacefully. Are they even allowed to hide my mail even though I’m over 18? What legal steps can I take here to ensure I can be a US citizen ASAP?

Thank you for reading.

Topic:
Immigration

Answer: If you are 18 and have a green card, your parents have no authority over you. Also stealing mail is a crime.


Title: [CO] Am I still on the hook for child molestation 27 years ago?

Question:
I live in Colorado, and this happened in Colorado.

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Around 1991, When I was about 12 (I'm guessing a little bit on the dates/ages) I molested my 8yo sister.  Nothing happened below the waist.  She trusted me since I was her older brother.  I did not yet understand my sexuality.  (Maybe I still don't.)  She made it clear she wasn't okay with it and I stopped.  It was an isolated incident.  I have never repeated anything even remotely like that and I never will.

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I want to know if I can still get in trouble for it if it's found out or reported or whatever.

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Before you say it, yes I know I am a bad person.  If it helps, know I have been single for over 15 years, and I have carried intense guilt with me about it for my whole life.  It's possible it has prevented me from connecting with others for my whole life.  I am not okay with what happened and I'm finally in a place where I can start to deal with this psychologically.

Answer:
 There is no statute of limitations in CO for child sexual abuse if the child was under 15.

EDIT: Looks like that doesn't apply if it was pre-1996, though there's conflicting info out there about how it can be applied depending on the age of the victim. Talk to a local attorney to be 100% sure. Answer #2: You're not a bad person for something you did as a child, and something like this is more common than you'd think. Have you talked to a therapist about this? I assume you're afraid to? It's extremely unlikely that this would fall under any kind of mandatory reporting guidelines.Answer #3: > I molested my 8yo sister. Nothing happened below the waist.

I don't understand what happened here. The nature of the contact might be relevant to the statute of limitation. Can you give more detail ***without*** being disgusting about it?


Title: [California] At home care worker has client for about 1 month, co-worker finds client's medical record, discovers client has Hepatitis C, has already been exposed to client's blood.

Question: The client is under the care of a couple who hired the at home care company.  The couple claimed they had no idea the client had Hepatitis C either.  Obviously, somebody dropped the ball here, and I want to know where to start with this mess.

Answer: Why would the home care worker expose themselves to the patients blood, diseased or not....


Title: Wife won Instagram giveaway for $300 and the person running it has not sent the prizes. Its been 4 months. Location: NY

Question:
On December 10th my wife entered an Instagram contest which offered cookbooks valued at $300 total. My wife won it and has the screenshots to prove she won, the lady said she will send out the cookbooks but to date she has not sent any and is now ignoring my wife.

I want to know if this is legal to do and if not what sort of options do we have to get the cookbooks?

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Location is NY

Answer: I am not a lawyer. I would guess the contest is BS.


Title: Served by State for Child Support. Mother has been lying for additional benefits. Louisiana.

Question:
Yesterday I was served by the Department of Family Services to pay my child support to them instead of the mother.

I have been paying stipulated child support for 17 years. Over the years I have given the mother a note, approximately 3 times, stating that I pay less than what I have really been paying her, so she can receive more benefits from the State. I realize I am an idiot.

What is the potential of this biting me in the ass big time?

Answer: Unless you can prove that you've been paying the full amount, DFS is going to come after you for the remainder. That said, if you prove that you did pay the full amount, DFS is going to come after you and the mother for fraud, which carries a much bigger penalty than a couple thousand dollars. You screwed up. Big time. See a lawyer ASAP.Answer #2: Depends what do you consider big time. The state will now bill you the stipulated amount for every year she was recieving benefits minus what your note said you gave her. If this difference is no big deal to you, pay it and no one will be the wiser. As a citizen of LA, I thank you for your contribution. If this amount is a big deal to you, your kinda fucked as your only defense is to admit you intentionally defrauded the government. Which is interesting giving all you can do is admit your guilt, you can't prove your child's mother played any role, and you can't actually prove that you lied then instead of lying now.


Title: [California] Paternity leave after 7 weeks of work. I am a father and my wife will be having a baby the 3rd week of October (C-section). I stated a new job and was wondering if I have any rights?

Question:
So my wife will be having our baby the 3rd week of October. I'll barely have about 7 weeks of full time work put in. I asked my HR department but since we are a new market in California and they are based out of AZ they dont know much on parental leave for California. So all they could tell me what I could use my PTO which is about 1 day at the moment... Since my wife is having a surgery I'd like to be there for a while to help her recover for at least a few weeks. Any idea what type of rights I have if any?

Any cited sources help so I can pass them along to my HR department. Thank you!

Answer: You have to work someplace for a year before FMLA can kick inAnswer #2: California has an additional policy beyond FMLA called [Paid Family Leave](https://www.edd.ca.gov/disability/Am_I_Eligible_for_PFL_Benefits.htm). It doesn’t have a 1 year waiting period like FMLA does but you do have to earn at least $300 and pay into state disability with those earnings.


Title: Can anyone help me find the loophole?

Question:
My professor says there is a loophole in this rule: Any student who intentionally, knowingly, recklessly, or negligently misses or disregards the due date, topic or assignment of course material or fails to turn it in on time does not have a legitimate excuse or justification for not meeting the course requirements.

Can anyone help me find it?

Answer: Your professor tricked you. There's no loophole. By telling you there's a loophole, he caused you to focus your attention on the rule so you don't forget it, so you will follow it, and so you won't waste his time whining to him if you break it.Answer #2: Simple.  Drop out of school.  Now you're no longer a student and the rule doesn't apply to you.


Title: Emancipation?

Question: I'm 15, about to be 16. My parents fucked me up emotionally in multiple ways, causing my whole life to be miserable. My dad has threatened to physically harm me including (specifically) breaking all bones in my body if I reported him to DCFS (which has been reported TO dcfs), hit me with a hammer, and "beat my ass". He said he would be willing to go to jail if it taught me a lesson in respect. Things he has actually done include: trying to make me flinch and hit him first, pouring a beer on me and my bird, kicking my room door in without much warning and throwing a bucket of ice water on me and onto the rest of my things, smashing my guitar into my door, screaming vulgar and offensive things into my face, spitting in my face, threw a TV down the stairs. I do have a place I can stay, a room in a friend's house. I have a small startup company which might turn into a legitimate business that I could be either co-owner or employee of. If that doesn't work there are other jobs where I'd move. Some things I'm not sure about are: whether getting emancipated allows you to switch schools, if you still have to have some sort of legal guardian, exactly how much money you have to make in supporting yourself, and if they expect you to do that while going to school. Also, how does the living situation have to look?

Answer:
 You don't qualify for emancipation as you are not supporting yourself.

You can report any abuse to DCFS or to a teacher.


Title: Can my son’s father sign away his rights to avoid child support?

Question:
[KY and TN]

My ex and I are not together and live in different states.  He does not really see our son or offer any help with him.

My son [4 month] has insurance through the state and the state plans to press for child support against his father [19m]. His caseworker called me and told me what they were going to do and I approved of it. I mean if I didn’t approve it is very likely that he would be without insurance.

I called his father to give him the heads up, which I thought was the right thing to do, but he believes that he can sign away his rights to avoid having to pay for child support.

If he can’t sign away his rights, he supposedly plans to disappear.

Is there any chance that he will be able to sign away his rights because he does not want to pay?  I don’t know what the consequences of him signing away his rights will mean for our son.

Answer:
 > he believes that he can sign away his rights to avoid having to pay for child support.

Your son's father cannot voluntarily "sign away his rights" and thus be relieved of his responsibilities, simply because he wishes to be absolved of child support duties.

That sort of thing only occurs if a parent marries and the child is adopted by their new spouse.

> he supposedly plans to disappear.

Plenty of guys choose voluntary impoverishment and a career of low-wage jobs to avoid child support payments.   The government is patient.Answer #2: He can not pursue visitation. But he can't just abandon his financial responsibility. The only way that might happen would be if somebody else adopts the child.Answer #3: Ha.  No.  He can sign his rights away, but that will in no way affect the fact that he is responsible for support payments.  This is not variable by state either.  So yeah, is on that hook for the next 18 years.Answer #4: Nope. He can sign his rights of visitation/custody/parenting decisions away but he cannot sign away his parental responsibility of providing for his child. The only way he can sign his responsibilities away is if both of you agree on a third person adopting the child (ie, you get married and your new husband adopts the child.)Answer #5: Girlfriends sisters ex tried that in TN. Now he has no rights to the child and still pays. Only real way out is if the child gets adopted by some one else but, he still will be on the hock for any past due child support Answer #6: No he can't.Answer #7: He can “sign away” his rights to the child, but he cannot sign away the child’s right to financial support.


Title: [CA] A question about dog breeding and the rights to owners. Not an actual legal issue.

Question:
This is something I've been curious about, but since I'm not versed in law I figured I'd ask you guys and gals.

What happens if you have a breeding stud/bitch and a neighbor, relative, anyone, takes the dog to be neutered or spayed without your permission? Would this fall under a property damage or livelihood damage?

I was thinking about this since many people where I live are AKC showdog people or have show-quality pets.

Answer: I would imagine it's property damage, yes. The plaintiff could likely recoup the cost to be made whole, maybe by the purchase of a dog with similar titles. I don't believe they could get the cost of, for example, the purchase price of future puppies that they would have sold, but effectively by neutering or spaying a titled show dog, that results in the dog being unable to fulfill its initial purpose as well as no longer being able to show, et cetera.


Title: If you get arrested, but you're well-off enough to hire a criminal lawyer rather than use a public defender, how do you shop around for a lawyer from in jail before the police interrogate you?

Answer:
 "One phone call" is a hollywood lie.  You get more calls and a phone book, and probably a list of lawyers.  Possibly access to a computer.

Find a lawyer.  They can't question you until you have one (if you insist).  You can take your time, within reason.Answer #2: You don't.

When the police start to interrogate you, and they tell you you want to talk to a lawyer first, the police have limited options-

1.) Let you get a lawyer.

2.) Provide you with a lawyer if you can't afford one.

3.) Stop questioning you.

They always pick #3.  So in practice, you get arrested, they start asking you questions, you tell them you want to talk to a lawyer, and then they just stop talking to you.

So you have plenty of time to shop around for a lawyer either from in jail (if they have enough evidence to charge you anyway) or after they let you go (if they don't).


Title: If an anti-theft device harms a thief, could the owner be held responsible?

Question:
I'm interested in answers from anywhere, but if I must specify a place, as per the subreddit's rules, let's say New York.

For example, I think I once saw an invention of a bike with a small bomb that explodes if someone tries to steal it. Can't remember if it was a joke or a real thing, but let's say it's real. If it can be proved with things like CCTV evidence that the person injured by the bomb is not the owner and was trying to steal the bike, (rather than legally move it, for example), and the bomb only goes off following foul play, would the owner be exempt of any punishment?

Answer:
 Call it what it is, a boobytrap, not an anti-theft device.

An anti-theft device would be something akin to a bike lock, audible alarm and things of that nature.Answer #2: "Man traps" that kill or injure someone to protect property will result in charges against the owner.

This is 1L stuff.


Title: Question about probation officers in New York State

Question: My mother and I live with my grandmother and yesterday my mom got put on probation. She has her first home visit/check tomorrow during the hours I sleep for my night job and I hope to be asleep when they get here. Am I required to let the PO search my room? She never comes in here and I'm not the one that's in trouble so are they allowed to disturb me?

Answer:
 I took a quick look at your post history...

>Is there anybody here that smokes meth or uses a similar pipe for other stuff, if so where do you buy yours? I can find a few clearnet sites to get them but most of them are wholesale sites.

Posts like this, combined with your user name make me worry about what may be in your room.

If you value your mother's (and your own) freedom, I would suggest not having **anything** illegal in the house....at ALL!!!!  It is very possible your room could be searched.  It's possible a substance or paraphernalia could be discovered.  It's possible this could lead to the revocation of your mom's probation.  Your actions could put her back in jail.  It could land you in jail, as well.  In New York, all probation officers are peace officers.  Just be smart about this, okay?

Edit:  Formatting..

Edit2:  I saw you posted this about an hour ago:

>Who has the best quality MDMA in the states for the best price? I'm looking for abour 14gs. Every time I think I found somebody they sell out or go on vacation and don't come back.

Seriously, man.  If a package like this comes to your house (where your mother is on probation) and gets seized, your mother is going to jail.  Plain and simple. Be smart.


Title: Falsely accused of rape in public?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Is there much you can do prospectively to mitigate the effects of being accused of rape?  Nothing that I know of.  Look up the Streisand effect.  Might be best to cut off all contact and never talk with this person again.

Also, you'll have to respond to location bot for a more accurate response.  What state are you currently in and in what stat did you interact with this woman?


Title: Can a judge in a court ruling make odd punishments in exchange for jail time?

Question:
I heard a story where a judge told a person that they’re no longer permitted to buy alcohol, or go to a bar, following an argument between the person and their girlfriend.

How are things like this even enforced? What if it’s an unrealistic condition, and the person refuses?

Answer:
 This is frequently a condition of probation in Florida  (and probably other places. Florida is where I practice) for domestic violence cases. If the defendant is seen in a business whose primary business is serving alcohol, or if they’re seen drinking or if they test positive for alcohol at a probation check in, then they get hit with a violation of probation.Answer #2: There's a bunch of different ways that novel punishments occur. In this case it sounds like binding over.

Being bound over to keep the peace normally happens in lower courts (e.g. magistrates and the like) for misdemeanor or minor offences, and the person is prohibited from committing certain actions or they will have to pay a fine. The person who was bound over may also be in contempt of court if they really go for it, depending on a whole bunch of things.

It's basically a suspended sentence, although technically a suspended sentence is normally more along the lines of "if I see you again, you're going to jail" and gets handed down for more serious offences...


Title: I want a kid. How do I make sure the guy I have sex with (who already agreed to father the child but never be in their life) doesn't come back in five years and try to claim visitation or custody?

Answer: You use a sperm bank. Otherwise the father is the father and can request custody or visitation just like any other parent.


Title: My mam and Dad have fell out with my neighbour. Yesterday my neighbours daughter (50F council worker) came into my work and harassed me. I asked her to leave and she wouldn’t. Then she started threatening my job and boss saying “have you ever been fined?”. She’s exploiting her position.

Question:
When I asked her what she meant by “have you ever been fined?” She changed the subject. I believe she was threatening me with the knowledge that I know she works for the council. She has used her position in the past to get my caravan taken off the street.
She knows I’m getting below minimum wage and I believe this is something she plans to report.

Answer:
 I'd report it to her boss. It's unprofessional, and her boss is likely to reprimand her. Get your boss to sign it as well, as a witness.

Also, if legal in your jurisdiction, record any further interactions.Answer #2: /r/LegalAdviceUK

For both your neighbour issue (and the daughter).

And your employment issue.