Title: Wife wants to take my name off the apartment lease before I have a permanent address

Question:
Throwaway for reasons. I'm in New Hampshire.

During a recent voluntary hospitalization for depression and anxiety my wife told me we were getting a divorce and that I was not welcome back upon my release. I've honored those terms and am living with my mother while I complete the next hospital recommended steps in my recovery from this depressive episode. Because of my illness I've had trouble holding down a job and became the primary care giver for our young son.

Along with other things, she wants me to sign a document to take me off of the apartment lease. Lacking the bandwith to research New Hampshire housing law I don't want to sign anything unknowingly. I understand I will legally surrender the right to enter the apartment without her consent. That's fine with me because I respect that boundary and trust she will not destroy the belongings I left behind. Am I surrendering any other rights, by giving up a permanent address?

The rest of it can be dealt with in other posts if I need to. I just need to know if I'm worried about nothing with this issue or if I should refuse to sign.

Answer: Is this document from the landlord?  If not, you will still be fully obligated to pay rent for the duration of the lease.


Title: I had to go to the ER a few weeks ago because of some virus which caused severe dehydration. Coworkers make fun of me calling me “IV”

Question: Is it legal for coworkers to continuously make fun of this when I don’t even engage in this as being funny to me?

Answer:
 Yes. Making fun of people is generally legal.

You can complain to your employer. That may make it worse. It may make it better. Answer #2: Hey IV, grow thicker skin, yes, this is legal. Answer #3: It's not illegal to treat coworkers poorly. Answer #4: Virtually nowhere will this rise to the level of being a legal issue.


Title: How to challenge a defaulted student loan and erase the damage to my credit?

Question:
Hello all,

I'm in need of some advice. As a recent college graduate, I had thought I rolled all my student loans into one monthly payment using the myGreatLakes service. However, there was one type of loan that was not included, a Federal Perkins Loan (FPL). Apparently this loan had to be paid using a different site (MyCampusLoan). This was completely unknown to me, as to the best of my knowledge, ALL my loans to be paid were compiled into myGreatLakes.

Long story short, I was happily paying the myGreatLakes payments every month on time, as I was supposed to. The FPL meanwhile was not getting paid every month, and defaulted. It defaulted without warning; I did not receive any emails from MyCampusLoan every month, or any notification whatsoever that this loan had gone into repayment, and needed monthly payments. It came completely out of left field. My credit dropped 100 points and I was alerted via an email notification from CreditKarma.

I have since entered into loan rehabilitation for the FPL, but to my current understanding, that giant hit to my credit will still be there after I complete the necessary payment. Is there any way to erase it? Should I speak to a lawyer because I received no warning(s) from MyCampusLoan that my loan was about to default?

What's so frustrating is that the FPL is one of my smallest loans; I can easily pay off the entirety of the loan right now...

Location: MA university within the United States

Any help would be appreciated!

Answer: You agreed to pay the loan. That was all the notice you needed. You didnt pay. The reason is irrelevant. THere is nothing to do but wait out the time until it drops off your credit.


Title: [PA] lying about me to get me fired

Question:
I work at an apartment complex & one of the residents absolutely hates me (no idea why)

She keeps lying to the managers of the building that I'm rude and I ignore her, and was even caught in a lie that I did this on one of my days off. She's been claiming I use my cell phone, which could get me a write up and eventually fired. There are cameras and proof that she's lying.

What can I do?

Answer: If you have a human resources department Speak to the explain what's happen and your concerns. Limit contact and communication with her as much as possible if you need to do maintenance at her apartment request that someone works with you.  If you don't have human resources go to your manager make sure it's documented. If they don't document it send an email to your manager regarding this situation. Share just the facts and your concerns but avoid long storys.


Title: (Pa) me dad just called me, 18, asking if I could be the executor of his will

Question: My father who hasn't been in the best of health for the past year or so just called me and asked me if I would be the executor of his will. He said he's not dying, just getting things ready just in case. I'm not exactly sure what I'd be getting into, but he told me he recently came into a decent chunk of money. I'd like to understand if this may have some negative repercussions for me in the future, as I'm not exactly sure how wills work. Thanks in advance guys! Hopefully I followed all the guidelines correctly.

Answer: The executor of a will is just the guy who makes sure that the will actually happens. Sometimes it means being the bad guy (no you can't have that one thing you really want) and sometimes it means being the good guy (hey, have some money). Follow instructions, even if someone is mad at you, and you'll be fine.Answer #2: Okay thanks guys! I guess I'll go ahead with it.


Title: People Magazine used Instagram pictures without permission?

Question: My wife and I are quasi-famous, having been on a reality show several years ago.  We posted some pregnancy pictures to social media, and they are being reposted by several magazines/blogs without our permission.  Is this legal?  Are we due any compensation?  Thanks for your advice!

Answer:
 People magazine (and the reposters) would have a few possible defenses here:

1. Instagram gave them permission / they have a blanket license with Instagram (likely).
2. They are a news magazine and as such publishing newsworthy photos is protected under the First Amendment.

If you have some fame it might be worth it to have a publicist and/or manager to pre-negotiate paid exclusive rights for things like pregnancy photos.


Title: Is a counsellor allowed to say this to someone?

Question: A few years ago when I was living in my old state it was Vermont. My parents both made me see a counsellor. I think if I remember correctly I would have either been 15 or 16 at the time. My parents are pretty religious so the counsellor they chose for me was a religious lady. I brought up the topic of abuse(physical) from a few years ago from a cousin. She told me I needed to "man up" and get over it. Even though that happened to me from ages 4 to 13 first time I ever let it out and spoke abou it. I told her that was rude and she continued to get snappy with me. She told me when I would enter the workforce a few years atfter 15/16 I needed to man up because my bosses would be allowed to mentally abuse me by calling me worthless, saying I'm ugly, stupid r tard and all of that. I told my parents but at the time they would not believe this counsellor was saying all of this. I have not seen a counselor sense her as they all leave a bad taste in my mouth. Was any of that legal? Why was that really allowed? Are counsellors allowed to say those horrible things?

Answer:
 She’s not wrong—bosses *are* allowed to say mean things to you, and it’s not against the law to be an unprofessional asshole.

If your parents are still sending you to see this person, you can report her to the licensing board, and they can decide if it’s worth investigating. Otherwise, just find someone new to talk to to help you work on whatever you feel needs working on.

If your parents are being actively abusive, you can report them to DCF or have a trusted adult do so on your behalf.


Title: [oh] Dad fell in a store parking lot and broke his arm in two places. He is trying to decide if he wants go try to recover hospital costs. How long does he have to decide?

Question: So basically it was past midday and the asphalt was icy and he fell bad. His arm was broken in two places and he had to go to the hospital. If he wanted to recover those costs, how long does he have before deciding to visit an attorney. We are very low income so I don't foresee him being able to get out from under it without going to court. This break will make it even harder for him to keep up on the bills. Its a mess. I just want to know when he needs to make the decision by.

Answer: fyi -- just because he fell on the store's property does not automatically make the store liable.


Title: Partner deceived by police and now in jail. Need advice re: next steps and arraignment.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 As you realize by now, you (your partner) were completely tricked by the police into coming into the station and giving incriminating statements. Legally, they are allowed - even encouraged - to lie to you, so that they can solve crimes.

You should not believe a word, a single word, of what the detective said, including the stuff about "brain damage" and "attempted homicide." He already lied to you about not needing a lawyer, and also about your partner's criminal record. Literally everything he said is deceptive, and was designed to psychologically influence you based on the detective's training. It wouldn't surprise me if the video was manipulated either, to show one side of the story only and convince you of guilt.

As for arraignment, you should get an attorney. If you think bail will be high, you should retain an attorney with a small sum to show up ONLY FOR THAT DAY (1 - 2 hours). The reason is because if the court sees your partner showing up without an attorney, and also with previous criminal charges, the bail will be even higher.

 The fact you are with an attorney or alone is a factor in bail. Having an attorney with you shows you're not a flight risk because you paid someone to represent you, and also because that person will argue for you at the bail hearing. I have seen people accused of stealing $50,000 worth of money released by the court without paying a single dime because they had an attorney with them (and also no previous record), while I have seen someone caught driving without a license given $500 bail because they had no attorney.


Title: Help

Question: Is it legal for my manager to keep me at work for four extra hours with no pay, threatening to fire me if i dont stay?

Answer:
 This is illegal though a common practice of many fast food restaurants, calling workers in for work at 8:00, making them hang around until things get busy and then having them clock in or what is happening to you.  You are being taken advantage of, probably because you are new to the job market.  I would look for other employment.

There is no middle ground: if they require you to sit at or in close proximity to the work place so that you can't go and do what you want, that is work: working is doing what the employer tells you to do, not what you want, and not being able to do your own activities, even if what you are doing is unproductive.

So what this means is, if the employer tells you to stay and you must, then they have to start paying you; even if they don't let you clock in, that's work time, and not starting the clock doesn't mean you don't have to be paid. If they are doing this, you could contact the state department of labor to file a wage complaint for unpaid wages.


Title: Forced to Pay for Short Register

Question:
At work I accepted a counterfeit $20 bill accidentally. I also had no means to check if it was real or not (ie. a counterfeit pen because the store does not supply). At the end of the day the manager counted the register and found the counterfeit. Is it okay for them to make me pay the $20 so the register is not off? They said pay it or get written up. This feels wrong to me. Is this legal or should I issue a formal complaint?

Background: I am working at a Dollar Tree in New Jersey

Answer:
 This has nothing to do with what your store did to you, just a way you can try to prevent yourself from accepting more bad bills in the future.

My LPDM sends [this](http://www.newmoney.gov/sites/default/files/download-materials/en/know_your_money_pdf_english.pdf) out at least monthly to all the stores in my district.  If your company won't give you a pen (the least effective way for spotting fakes, because of washed bills), it might be worth learning how to spot them yourself.  We were taught to always check with three different checks.  [This one here](http://www.newmoney.gov/sites/default/files/download-materials/en/fed_cep_info_card_7_27_2015_fpo.pdf) gives you three simple checks that don't need a pen.

The government has some great tools to teach you about counterfeit money.  [This page](http://www.newmoney.gov/resources/download-materials) is where I found those PDFs, but if you poke around the site a little, you can learn a lot more.


Title: [VA] Rear-ended in rental car, other driver's insurance expired, car company coming after me for $1,500

Question:
Hi all,

I'm stumped and looking for some info. Here's what happened:

* I was rear-ended in a rental car in Virginia. The other driver's insurance was expired and she didn't have a license (and was cited for it).

* I don't own a car, so I don't have personal insurance. I usually use my credit card's insurance, but the car was arranged through a hotel I was staying at and so my card was not used to make the rental (and thus no coverage).

* I am also stationed overseas and do not have the opportunity to make court appearances, unless I can be sure of an exact date.

* The car company keeps calling and sending threatening letters demanding that I pay for the damage, and claims they have tried to contact the other party but their insurance is "void".

Is there anything I can do? Can I sue for small claims while overseas?

UPDATE: Thanks for the info, everyone. I spoke with the county clerk in VA and while I can file suit online, I would likely have to make several in-person court appearances which I am unable to do while overseas. What's more, the driver provided a fake (or old) address anyway, so they wouldn't be able to serve her with papers. Guess I'll have to eat this one.

Answer: I'd ask them first why they don't sue the ~~Peru~~ person who caused the accident. Yeah they're not insured, but that doesn't mean you can't sue them.


Title: Some lady keeps feeding wild cats right beside my house!

Question: This is starting to become a menace! There are so many cats that roam arround my garden shitting everywhere and ruining flowers and plants and they just keep growing in numbers. This lady comes with her car every night stops it right beside my house, goes to her trunk picks up a large bag of cat food and just pours it on the ground! Can i do something to stop this or not at all? I don't even understand why would she feed wild cats! Thank you

Answer:
 You don't have a location but you should contact your local cat rescue or humane society. They may have a TNR program that could help with a feral cat problem. Answer #2: Get this on camera and call the police non-emergency line to complain about this person dumping outside your property.

Also, talk to the human society about capturing all the wild cats in the neighborhood.Answer #3: Humane society and/or a animal control may be able to help.

You could look into plants and substances that would keep them out of your yard. We once had a problem with dogs getting into our trash and tried different scents on the trash to keep them out, like chili powder. Cats also hate citrus. Answer #4: Have you talked with her? What she's doing is not uncommon. But if she knows you don't like it maybe she'll move down the road some?


Title: [Michigan] Customer Service Rep misrepresented terms of over the phone purchase. Is the company obligated to maintain the terms agreed to?

Question:
Long story short: I bought a phone over the phone in a deal that required me to add an extra line to my account.  The representative selling me the phone said in no uncertain terms that I would be able to cancel the new line after 3 months.  In a call to the company today to activate the phone I was informed (after activating) that this was not correct and that I would need to continue to pay for the new line for 24 months.  It’s a difference between $45 and $360.

Are they obligated to let me cancel my new line in 3 months?

The purchase was on an installment plan.  I’m not sure if that matters, but I figured I would mention it because the company is extending credit for the purchase.
Topic:
Consumer Law

Answer: They might have recorded the call. Talk to their customer service line, see if they can find it.


Title: [TX] I am about to have a baby with my fiancé and am curious about what would happen if something went wrong.

Question:
I (25F) will be giving birth to a baby boy who is the offspring of my fiancé (31M) in September. Because we are not legally married yet, I have a few questions/concerns over medical legalities.

Basically, I need to know the steps to take in case of something going wrong during birth. I'm assuming, as the father of my child, he would take over the decision making process for the baby if something were to happen to me. Would he have the same medical power of attorney over me if I were to have to be put in a coma or on a life support machine? Or would MPOA go automatically to my parents? I guess my questions are

-Do I need to file some sort of paperwork in case of an emergency with my life?

-Do I need to have a will or some type of notarized paperwork giving him MPOA over our son?

-Should I just inform my parents of my wishes in case of an emergency?

-Am I overthinking ALL of this?

Any and all advice will be considered. Thank you in advance!

Answer: The fiance would have say over the baby, your parents would have say over you. If you want your fiance to have say over you then either give him legal POA or get married.


Title: [FL] Moving out of my apt in August, lease ends Sept 30. Landlord is telling me I have to keep utilities connected until 9/30. Also question on painting.

Question:
So my roommate and I are moving out before our lease ends and have given my landlord notice. My roommate and I have also paid rent through 9/30 already. My landlord is saying that even though we are moving out, we must keep the utilities connected through to the end of our lease on 9/30. I'm not really keen on doing that because I'm sure they will be in there painting and cleaning as soon as I move out and they'll crank up the AC, costing me money. I don't see anything in my lease that explicitly says I have to keep the utilities on after I have surrendered the keys and have had a move out inspection performed. Is that a standard practice or am I being screwed?

Another question is on paint. My mother was telling me that by law, they must repaint the walls prior to a new tenant entering. I've got some marks on the wall that I will clean, but on my notice to move out, that both my roommate and I signed, they have paint 'touch up' fees. These fees amount can amount to $350 total, with a fee of $50 per 'touch up'. I'm thinking they'll use the slightest mark on a wall to try and charge me the $50 per 'touch up'.

I'm not surrendering keys until I have a signed notice that either absolves me of fees or gives a final list of charges and I just have a feeling these guys will try and screw me. I've had bad experiences with past apartment complexes in the area.

Any help or advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 You agreed to pay utilities in your lease.  You continue paying the rent, and those utilities, until the lease is up or until the unit is re-rented.

If you think they're going to run up the bill, then don't vacate the unit until the end of your lease.  They can't re-rent it, but you don't have to worry about your utilities.


Title: I'm being blackmailed into giving sexual favours [Texas]

Question:
This is extremely humiliating and I feel really stupid but I need some advice from people who know the law.

I am a 19 year old male and two months ago I started talking to an older man online. He lives 45 mins from me.

I was dumb and told this man all about my past sexual abuse (which was quite extreme unfortunately). I am heavily depressed and I really thought he cared and I did end up falling in love with him.

But I overshared and he now knows everything about me and my family.

We used to do stuff on webcam but he started pushing me to meet him in real life. When I hesitated, he threatened to put up posters around my town with the webcam screenshots, my name, number and my parents' names.

My parents are very Catholic and have been unable to accept my sexuality. I was scared and I stupidly gave in and have been seeing this man in real life for the past three weeks.

He has taken videos of me and his treatment of me has become more and more degrading and painful.

Is there any way I can get out of this legally without having my parents or the cops know? My dad works with the cops closely and it's a small town where everyone knows about everything.

I honestly rather die then have my parents find out that something like this happened again. I am really disappointed with myself that I got into a situation like this.

I know I made some bad decisions and I hope I don't get judged too hard. This whole thing is really traumatic and I am really overwhelmed.

Answer:
 You can't buy silence.

You can only rent it.

You can't stop him from disclosing what he knows.

Your options are:

1.) Give him what he wants forever.

2.) Ignore him and hope he goes away.

3.) Notify the police.

I don't know which one I'd pick, but I know which one I *wouldn't.*Answer #2: You think your family wants you to take abuse rather than have people know about your sexuality?


Title: 3rd DWI, only income is from playing music in venues with alcohol. What are the chances this will be allowed?

Question: I'm in Missouri.  A member of my band just received his third DWI.  His only source of income comes from playing music and the vast majority of the gigs are in bars.  What are the chances that I'm looking at finding a replacement player?

Answer:
 > What are the chances that I'm looking at finding a replacement player?

Very good.

In MO 3 DUIs in 10 years is a felony.


Title: Employer changed method of payment with no notice. Payment is late and has not arrived.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: The state you live in is crucial here, but I doubt Monday instead of Friday is going to incur any kind of statutory penalties in any state.


Title: TX-I backed into a car, left a note with my number, now how should I handle it when they call?

Question:
So I was dropping my roommate off for class in a parking lot and it was a little narrow and when I backed up to turn around, I misjudged and bumped into the car behind me. I stopped, put the car in park and with hazard lights on, I checked both our cars. I originally couldn't find the scrape on my car but on their car, it is on the bottom left side and it's a scrape and a tiny bit of my paint on them. My car is blue and theirs is dark green so you kind of can't see it. I left a note on their windshield telling what happened and it has my number. I didn't leave my name, now that I think of it. I would just like some advice as to how to handle it when they call. I'm pretty sure it's a professors car. Should I try to pay them back? Could I treat them to dinner or a gift card? How do I answer it when they call? What if they're super pissed and only yell and harass me?
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: Give them your insurance details.


Title: Just found out that 0 federal/state taxes were taken from my check last year.

Question:
In oklahoma. It was just a regular w2 job with sales bonuses that i was told many times are already taxed. I made 28k in 2017. I have never filled out preemployment tax forms saying 0 withheld, but I'm going to check tomorrow if i somehow did so by mistake.

I now have a $2,200 tax bill and am currently unemployed. Already filed for extension, obviously.

In case it was a fuckup on my employer's end, what are my options here?

Answer:
 You file your taxes and pay whatever you owe. Whether or not they take taxes out doesnt change your requirement to pay taxesAnswer #2: One thing you REALLY need to understand.  An extension is NOT an extension to pay!

It is ONLY an extension to file your taxes.  You are still supposed to pay your estimated tax by midnight tonight or face the penalty and monthly interest!Answer #3: Did you not get pay stubs?


Title: Suspect ex-employee of stealing digital information before leaving the company to start his own.

Question:
I employed ex-employee for 8 months, now to be referred to as XE. XE left my business and has decided to start up a replica of my business, using the same business model, and offering, among other services, a unique service that only my company provides. The issue at hand is that to offer the unique service, XE would have to be in possession of a large amount of data (comparatively anyway) for a single person to obtain without copying it from us given that only 4 passed between XE leaving my company and XE announcing opening day operations.

Part of XE's contract was a portion stipulating that making copies of materials or files is forbidden unless consent is given ahead of time.

Here's the problem. How do I get a subpoena to verify if XE copied our data or not without giving XE time to cover XE's tracks?

Location, Taiwan. Thanks.

Answer: I don't know about Taiwanese law on trade secrets, but in the US that is a civil as well as a criminal claim.  Go talk to a lawyer about it as soon as possible.


Title: DMV is telling me I need a dealership license, I believe they're incorrect. Anyone know for sure?

Question: I am starting a business in Wisconsin where I can market vehicles for people. Basically I'll clean it up, take some pictures, and I'll post the vehicle on Craigslist, etc. Afterwards, the people who are interested contact the owner of the vehicle and that person will sell the vehicle themselves. My local DMV (a place a great assholes) has told me that because I am selling their cars, I need a dealership license. I believe that I am not really selling their vehicles, but more so advertising them. If I would require a dealership license, then wouldn't any car listing website as well? I definitely don't think they understand entirely what I do, however, I want to make sure before replying to them. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer: Sit down with a local attorney, especially since this is a business.  How are your fees getting paid?  Flat fee for every car, or a percentage of what they sell for?


Title: [IN] Apartment complex charges $50 application and $150 admin fee when moving into an apartment. Is this legal?

Question: I have tried to investigate online but can't find an answer. Do I have recourse if I have paid this amount?

Answer: I was looking at apartments in Florida recently and that seems to be common practice at every complex i visited.


Title: I'm worried about asbestos exposure at the office...how to proceed?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: There is a 900% chance that those standard ceiling tiles do not contain asbestos.


Title: So my apartment is telling me I have to move out and move back into a different unit when I renewed my lease

Question:
Location: GA, Cobb County

I have been living in the same unit for two years, and I renewed for a third year. Previously when I renewed for my unit they allowed me to stay in since I had renewed for the same unit. However I signed the renewal and now they're saying I have to move out and move into a different unit despite signing for the same apartment. This is a student housing situation privately managed, not owned by the university. I'm unsure as to what to do, and they said I could stay in the same unit I'm currently in, I'm going down to talk to the leasing office.

Before hand, when I signed the renewal they said it was the exact same lease and nothing had changed besides a slight rent increase. I took them for their word after reading over the lease, nothing had changed and it was the same. They told me nothing had changed, and I being on friendly terms with the rental office agreed to such terms. I'm just confused and will get back to you guys later when I broach the issue tomorrow.

Answer:
 > I'm just confused and will get back to you guys later when I broach the issue tomorrow.

I think you posted a bit prematurely here. Let us know what your PM says about it when you talk to them.Answer #2: Does your lease specify you can be moved?


Title: My son was inappropriately handled at a gym daycare

Question: I went to pick my son up from my gyms daycare Saturday and they didn't know where he was (he's 22 months old) after frantically looking around for him we found him locked in the bathroom with a little girl that was if I had to guess 6 or 7. Upon picking him up I noticed that under his hoody (which was really big on him) his pants and diaper were pulled down and his bottom was exposed. Got snarky attitude from the daycare employee & told there wasn't a manager there and so nothing could be done until Monday. I go today to meet with the gym  manager & he refused to see me because they were repairing the lap pool. He instead had the daycare manager talk to me. She informed me that she knew the little girl and that she was really sweet & that she (manager) had reviewd the tapes and that they weren't in there but a few minutes and offered her apologies. Then told me that she would be talking to the staff from that day to "get their side of the story" Am I  just out of line thinking this is completely unacceptable!?!? That's it!? No other explanation even what I would consider a human response to a "daycare" losing not one but two children & finding them locked in a bathroom with the one who can't speaks pants pulled down!!! I've filed out a police report after what I consider not a reasonable response from the facility now I'm just curious what if anything else can be done? I'm of course not taking him to that gym ever again but I'm just at a loss for words on what my next action should be, Any and all help would be appreciated.

Answer:
 What is your goal? What do you want to happen?

You can complain to whomever licenses them and leave a bad review


Title: Can I personally charge a doctor or service a cancellation fee when they cancel same day?

Question:
In the last two weeks, I've had two professional services call within 8 hours of an appointment, offering to reschedule for later in the week. Since I've taken a day off work to accomodate the original appointment time, I cannot take anotherday off work the next day.  In the provider's service agreements, I agree to a late cancellation fee if I cancel (or skip) a doctor, dentist, driver, or spa appointments within 12 or 24 hours.

Can I write in the initial agreements that I, as a person receiving the service, will also charge a late cancellation fee if the provider cancels within 12-hours?

If this belongs in another thread, please let me know.

Answer:
 Sure you can.

And they will almost certainly not agree to it and then they will simply not treat you.Answer #2: >Can I write in the initial agreements that I, as a person receiving the service, will also charge a late cancellation fee if the provider cancels within 12-hours?

You can write it, but the practice would need to agree to it in order for it to be enforceable. Don't count on that happening.


Title: [GA] My mother apparently has had complete access to my checking account for 3 years unbeknownst to me

Question:
So back when I was a teenager, like 10 years ago, my dad and I went and got free checking accounts at a local bank. One was a joint account (him and me) and one was my own personal account solely in my name, and control. This personal checking account is the one I use the most for everything.

The other day, my mother visited and she asked me to help her change her email on her online banking thing (my whole family banks at the same bank). So I pull up my laptop, she logs in with her credentials, and I see like like 6 accounts there on the dashboard. I know she has a savings and a checking, and that she also has some join accounts with my younger brothers.

Well, I also noticed she had my account there. I saw my account balance displaying back at me. WTF. Why is she able to see my account balance?! I clicked on the account. Apparently she could see ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING in my checking account. All transactions, my direct deposit from work, living expenses. ALL of it. Further, she was even able to transfer money from my account to hers or to any other account. And vice versa. I confronted her about it, and she claims that she doesn't know how that happened. She claimed that I must have given her access so that I could transfer her some money some years back. But that's BS.

Three years ago, I was abroad in Europe and needed to make a transfer to her for something that I owed her, ~$3k. So I submitted a request to add her account to my online banking so that I could do an intra-bank transfer from my checking to hers. After request was submitted, I told her to stop by the bank branch in person and request that they allow my request. Since she's apparently computer illiterate and couldn't do it online on her own, and granted, the bank's online banking webapp kinda sucks.

However, now I realize that they didn't just setup her online banking to allow my request to add her account to  my online banking, to allow me to make transfers into hers, but gave her complete control over my checking, even though, she's not the account holder or ever had my permission to be able to do that. For comparison, all I can do from my end is transfer into her account, not out, and ALL I can see is the last four digits of her account, and not her balance or any transactions.

I feel my privacy has been extremely violated. No wonder she was always asking me for money. She knew exactly how much I was making and spending for 3 years. While I love my mother, I've helped her out a lot, and I know she'd never blatantly steal from me. I think it was dishonest for her to have not have told me about that. And I think it was negligence in part of the bank to give her such access to my money with my explicit consent. My mother has frequently had issues identity theft, and with her debit card being skimmed/copied and strange charges showing up, and having to have her account frozen and debit cards re-issued. I am now paranoid about her online login getting hacked and someone getting access to my money.

What can I do to make sure this never happens again? I have called the bank today and they told me that they would investigate it and would call me back. I'm going to call them to demand they produce a signed document by me allowing my mother to have such access because I'm sure they do not have anything of the sort. I think some teller who probably knows her well (due to all her card security re-issues) gave her access because I was her son.

Answer: Perhaps you should change accounts, and banks as well.  That is a complete violation of your privacy, security and boundaries.


Title: [NJ] Is it legal to install/abuse a train horn in a car?

Question:
I found a website that sells train horns that can be installed in your car.  Not for me, for my father-in-law.  It’s something I’m considering as a Christmas gift.  My father-in-law lives in a more rural area of New Jersey and owns a lot of land there, and I figured it’s something he’d enjoy. He drives mostly on highways and backroads, so it’s not like he’d pull into Hoboken and start ripping it, but would he still be exposed to any trouble for using it?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Illegal in NJ.

>**39:3-69 Horns and audible warning devices.**

> Every motor vehicle except a motor-drawn vehicle when operated upon a highway shall be equipped with a horn in good working order and capable of emitting sound audible under normal conditions from a distance of not less than 200 feet, *but no horn or other warning device shall emit an unreasonably loud or harsh sound or a whistle*. The driver of a motor vehicle shall, when reasonably necessary to insure safe operation, give audible warning with his horn but shall not otherwise use such horn when upon a highway.


Title: We are being sued for a minor accident that took place about six months ago. What are our chances of winning?

Question:
We were driving on the interstate in Denver, Colorado and a huge truck started merging into our lane without looking. My boyfriend steered our truck out of the way of the incoming vehicle and we collided with a car in another lane. The impact was minor, no one was seriously injured. The state patrol came and dealt with us and everyone went on about our lives.

Now, after everything was seemingly settled with the insurance companies, the person we collided with has decided to sue us for $25,000.00 which is outlandish and unreasonable, in my opinion. The accident was not serious, and the only damage both vehicles sustained was minor and cosmetic.

What do we do to get this resolved? We can't afford that kind of money, and the insurance company tried to settle for $1,900.00, which was refused.

Please lend us your advice and insight. We appreciate any and all answers.
Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer: The insurance company will provide an attorney, if you are sued. Likely 25k is your policy limit, so it would be covered either way.


Title: My SO’s work never pays him on time, and I’m worried it will affect our ability to get an apartment

Question:
We are reaching the end of a long year of near-homelessness and set to move into our own apartment on November first. My SO works for a large company with a well-known “treats their employees like shit” rep. and for the second time in two months his paycheck is late (it isn’t just him, it’s everyone in at least his building, maybe the others.)

Last time it was late by one day, this time it’s been two days and because of the weekend will likely be at least two more before we see that money. We sort of anticipated this and have budgeted enough to cover our basic necessities until it gets sorted, but we won’t have that option next time.

His next payday is supposed to be the first, the same day we’re supposed to move, and the same day our 30 day hold on the apartment is up. If they don’t pay us on time, we’ll lose the apartment and actually be homeless instead of near-homeless. We have fought long and hard to become stable, mentally, physically, and financially. We haven’t been responsible in the past, but we’ve both made huge lifestyle changes and gotten a lot of professional help. I’m enraged that even when we finally turn things around and work our butts off that we may lose everything anyway simply because my SOs company doesn’t think paying their employees on time is important.

I don’t necessarily want to lawyer up and go all out or anything, but I feel totally powerless in the face of this big company and I’m wondering if there’s *any* recourse here. Anything at all I can do to try and ensure we get our next check on time? A letter, a lawyer, anything? Or are we at their mercy? We have a daughter and I just want to get her into a real home.

Answer:
 How does your SO get paid? Physical Check, Direct Deposit?

Most big companies will have a dedicated HR department. If not, he'll need to speak to his direct manager. - Stick it to an email, that way there's a log.

Request for a direct deposit form. Fill out the form, and request to have it submitted immediately. Unfortunately, it may not take effect till next pay period. But requesting as to why paychecks are late won't hurt. They may bullshit you, if that's their game. But having it in writing is always best rather than verbally asking or recording a conversation.


Title: Grandmother took custody of child. NC

Question:
So rewind a few years back, i was a 17 year old with a newborn baby. I was living with my daughters mother and her mother as we were both still in school. My daughters mother and grandmother didn’t get along well and continuously were arguing over anything and everything. Long story short, during school i was working after, only person working mind you, to buy things for the baby and food for us to eat. She constantly verbally abused me and cheated on me, so i eventually decided i had enough and left. She left at the same time, just upped and moved.

I told the grandmother i would be going back the next day once i got settled in to get my daughter to have her move in with me, since the mother didnt want anything to do with her. She says ok. Next day as im getting ready to leave, a sheriff pulls up and serves me a subpoena to court saying that the grandmother had been granted temporary custody to my child.

I go to court, and they say that i was subservient to the childs mother and that i was mentally unstable as well as financially unable to take care of a child. That has been 7 years ago now. I have paid child support to the grandmother since then and we have set visitation days. Of course the mother has been long gone for years and has not seen our daughter, just me.

I’ve gone to court several times over it trying to get her back but to no avail. I’ve been at my job for 6 years now, make pretty decent money, own 3 nice cars and not struggling. But yet they wont allow me. I have never been arrested, i have never been to a mental institution or prescribed any medicine for mental problems. What gives? As far as i knew grandparents have no custodial right in the state of North carolina.

Grandmother was a CPS worker in this state for 40 years and i feel like she was able to get some type of pull in this situation. All of her children were adopted including my daughters mother. I tried going to a different county to maybe get some people that do not know her to work on this case, but they say since we reside here it can only be done in this county.

I need help please; i want to be a father to her but im not being allowed. I havent even been allowed to visit her at school ever..

Answer: You hire an attorney to fight for your custody. And you make sure you are 100% consistent with visitationAnswer #2: When you went back to court, were you representing yourself or did you have a lawyer?  If you don't have a lawyer, you need one.  I'm not in your state but I would imagine by this point you're facing an uphill battle because your daughter is 7 and you would need to convince the court that removing her from the only home she's ever known is in her best interest (not yours, hers).  Family law varies wildly across states.  A lawyer who is familiar with your local laws is your best bet.Answer #3: Bongs and pipes! In your situation I would be very concerned especially if they are in your child's bedroom and given the age she is she would know what's going on! Can you afford a private investigator that can document behavior at the house? because if there is that sort of stuff just living around I would bet my bottom dollar the truth is far worse.Answer #4: How much visitation do you have? When you say you tried to "get her back" do you mean sole custody? How much visitation do you currently have? Do you have overnights? I would probably start by focusing on increasing the amount of court ordered visitation and go from there. There's something to be said for keeping her residence stable.


Title: What are your options for "pushing past" a person/group intentionally blocking your path, without becoming the aggressor?

Question:
The example in question is very similar to the story from the other day in which the Black Student Union formed a human wall and blocked a major thoroughfare of the UC Berkeley campus.  That was California, my question is from an incident in Massachusetts, but I imagine the advice is generally applicable to both.

Generally speaking, the most convenient path from A to B is intentionally blocked by a large group.  They are shoulder to shoulder.  Finding a different route is not really feasible - multiple city blocks out of the way, around several large buildings, and in a rush to being with - but even if it were, perhaps I'm not interested in wasting my time when a perfectly suitable route exists.  Numerous attempts to excuse myself (obviously) fail, and more insistent demands that they move are quickly met with some sort of "we will report an assault if you touch us" retorts.  Those who did try to forcibly push past were shoved back, justified as "self-defense".

Thankfully it didn't escalate, but it seems to me like they must be doing something illegal.  I'm not sure if they had any sort of permit to demonstrate, but even if they were gathered legally it still seems to me that blocking important routes and physically enforcing that blockade must invalidate that legality, no?  And what about me?  Am I really committing assault if I inch/wedge/shove my way through?  Am I really expected to walk a mile out of my way and get to my meeting 10 minutes late because someone feels like making me?
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 You should use the search bar to the left.  This is literally the 8th time this question has been asked here in 2 days.

Don't touch another person.  Go around the long way.  Having to be on time for a meeting is not a defense to assault. Answer #2: > Thankfully it didn't escalate, but it seems to me like they must be doing something illegal.

They may have been.  That doesn't excuse *your* illegal actions, however.  The proper response is to call the police and find another route; it is not to assault or batter others.Answer #3: You want the right to legally assault and batter someone....for causing you an inconvenience?


Title: Roommate almost killed his cat. The emergency vet clinic is going to release the cat back to him.

Question: I go to school in Illinois and live with several roommates including two sweet, young cats. One of my roommates owns one of the cats and I discovered him in the bathroom trying to drown the kitten. I rushed the little guy to the emergency vet and essentially forced my roommate to pay for treatment. I told the vet what happened and she said she would see what she could do. I can't receive any updates now from the vet because I'm not the primary owner but they did say they probably will release the kitten back to my roommate.  My roommate also lives in California and we all graduate in two weeks. Any help would be great.

Answer:
 Call the police.  Animal cruelty is a crime.Answer #2: Yes animal control, can get a police report to document it.  Probably means finding a new roommate. Answer #3: Call the cops, and your local humane society. What this sicko did is a crime. And while those wheels are in motion, keep an eye on the little kitty. Especially if they decide to not do anything at first. In such a case, report anything he does that's neglectful or abusive (not feeding it or cleaning it's litter, hitting it, etc.) to the humane society.

You could also see if he'd sell the cat to you, at which point you can either keep it or find it another home. But make sure to get the sale in writing, just in case.


Title: TEXAS - My company is overbilling its customers

Question:
Evening,

My employer is overbilling its customers and making it look like its due to a misinterpretation of internal reports. They have a chinese woman who can't speak a word of English doing the billing. I think it's to mask this issue as an accident should anyone find out.

Am I allowed to do the right thing which is quit and make personal phone calls to each and every one of them informing them of the specific items on their invoice that are inaccurate? My company is a tech company but apparently they don't know how to use databases correctly to get accurate information for billing. (Users, clicks, etc.)

I didn't sign any non disclosures nor conf agreements.

Thanks,

Bruce W.

Answer:
 >My company is a tech company but apparently they don't know how to use databases correctly to get accurate information for billing. (Users, clicks, etc.)

IANAL

Being stupid usually isn't malicious. Sounds more like your company sucks at invoicing because they have no idea what they've actually done. Part of this goes back on your customers. If they're not reading the invoices then it's their own damn fault.

Controlling your costs when trying to make money is maybe sort of important.


Title: [OH] Can I get in trouble retroactively for buying drugs?

Question:
(Throwaway account) This seems silly but I can't find a definitive answer on the internet. The details are this: I am going to buy a handful (<10) adderall from a guy I know from high school to help myself handle my workload this semester. The only reason I'm concerned is because this guy is a known drug dealer (weed, adderall, has trafficked coke to and from Vegas). If he gets caught, can I get in trouble for buying from him? I talk to him exclusively on snapchat but I know those messages can probably be accessed by police if necessary. This is  just me being paranoid, but should I try to buy from someone who isn't as likely to get caught by police at some point? Thanks guys!

*Also, I know this is legal advice about doing something illegal, so sorry if that's not allowed. I didn't see anything in the sub guidelines about it.

Answer:
 yesAnswer #2: Yep. Any time within the statute of limitations charges could be brought against you.

Don't want to get caught? Don't do illegal things.


Title: Received two speeding tickets 1 day apart. Help me figure out what I need to do!

Question:
I was coming home from my army drill weekend and I got tagged going 83 in a 65mph zone. Officer wouldn't cut me a break, I tried politely and was never rude. I have court for that ticket on Friday 3/10. I plan on going and pleading not guilty. I really need this one dropped for the sake of my insurance. The next day(Today) I open the mail to find that I received a automated speeding ticket on February 22nd going 62 in a 50. I am totally lost on what I should to. I want to try my hardest to drop both tickets. I have a 69mph in a 65 on my record that's it. Please all help is appreciated.

EDIT: Ohio- Toledo

Answer:
 Slow down.  And hire an attorney to see if they can get you a no point violation.Answer #2: You didn't put your state so its impossible to know if insurance will either matter. That said, you gotta slow down.

You can plead not guilty but you haven't articulated a reason why you aren't guilty.Answer #3: 1.  Stop speeding!

2.  Talk to lawyer about getting them reduced to non-moving violations.

3.  Just because you're polite doesn't mean that the police has any reason to not ticket you for driving almost 20mph over the speed limit.  You're lucky, some jurisdictions may have arrested you for it.  And that it would raise your insurance is your own fault, because you're reckless and driving unsafe on the roads.

4.  STOP SPEEDING!Answer #4: Slow down.

But more seriously?  Everyone I know that has fought a speeding ticket, usaly got some kind of leniency the FIRST time.  Seeing how this is your third ticket, you may want to start budgeting for higher insurance premiums.  Most states take anything over 20mph pretty seriously.


Title: I believe I have been slandered on Facebook. How does /r/legaladvice stand?

Question:
I've been seeing a woman for 6 months, and she has kid by an ex. Tonight he posted on her status, that he doesn't trust me around his daughter, and that I was a "creepy pedafile"[sic]. We've never met, and his claim is absolutely fictitious. As you can imagine, this is the last thing you want someone to say about you. I've been looking for a new job, and this could turn away any potential employer. [Here's a screen cap](http://imgur.com/Xdbjh) of what he said, and my reply. Also a couple months ago, he's sent me messages, saying that he was having sex with my g/f, and she's a whore etc..

I am going to pursue legal action on this, but would like some advice/info/guidance.

This is in the state of Michigan.

Answer:
 Aside from the libel issue, this is what you should do. Take the man out for coffee, explain that you understand he is the father and that you respect that. Work together for the sake of the kid. Your pissing contest will ultimately produce nothing but aggrevation and ill will.

When kids are involved, their needs must always come before the egos. he may be a tool, but if you stay in this relationship he will be in your life forever.


Title: In a for-profit prison system, what happens to unexpectedly shortened terms?

Question:
Let's say this fella commits a serious of heinous crimes and is sentenced to three consecutive life sentences. The institution he ends up in is a private prison, which I imagine has a contract for this person stating terms, liabilities, etc. Obviously this person cannot survive for three consecutive life sentences in prison. Is the private prison entitled to compensation for lost revenue due to expiration of the prisoner before their term was up?

I suppose I'm thinking of this as a crude analogy to a hotel. If you commit to a long stay at a hotel, and check out early, you are subject to fees and could even be on the hook for the full price of the total anticipated stay. Is there anything like this in a privatized prison system?

Answer: I don't know how the state and private prison have their contracts set up but I expect it to be more in terms that the state guarantees an X number of inmates to be present each day and thar they pay per inmate present at any given time.Answer #2: Private prisons are paid per inmate per day, so length of sentence means nothing.


Title: I work for a food delivery company and they are threatening to fire me if I don't stop wearing a bra and makeup.

Question: I'm mtf transgender and work for a food delivery company in Seattle. I don't pass yet. However, I still wear bra and makeup. Apparently a customer called and complained. Now my manager is threatening to fire me if I don't stop wearing a bra and makeup. What should I do?

Answer:
 The WLAD protects transgender people against things such as employment discrimination.

https://aclu-wa.org/docs/rights-transgender-people-washington-state

http://apps.leg.wa.gov/rcw/default.aspx?cite=49.60

>What should I do?

File a complaint with the Human Rights Commission:

http://www.hum.wa.gov/employmentAnswer #2: Why do they know you're wearing a bra?Answer #3: If this happened within Seattle city limits, the company could be in big, big trouble if they persisted in firing you, OP.

The office you will want to contact will be Seattle's Office of Civil Rights. You can file a complaint here: http://www.seattle.gov/civilrights/civil-rights

Note that sexual orientation AND gender identity are considered protected classes in the realm of employment.Answer #4: Do you have a uniform or dress code in your employee agreement?Answer #5: Well plenty of jobs forbid makeup. Don't see how they can tell you're wearing a bra. But you can get a Dr's note for it too.


Title: (between MN and WI) 17 year old girl lives apart from her mother but can't get medical care without mother's consent. How to change this?

Question: The 17 year old is a friend of our family. I've known her since she was about 10 and since that time her mother has had an ongoing problem with alcohol. The young lady, we'll call her Meg, shifted around between households before at 17 she decided to leave her mom's house for good. Her mother lives in Wisconsin, and she moved in with her older boyfriend (23) and his parents in Minnesota. She works and provides for herself, is completing her high school diploma through online school, and is law abiding. Because she is not necessarily being neglected, the police have refused to intervene on the mother's behalf as Meg clearly has the capability to leave again. While Meg is self-sufficient, because she is a minor she cannot get medical care without her mother's consent (except for from Planned Parenthood for birth control). Her mother refuses to give consent unless Meg returns to her care. Meg turns 18 in May but needs medical care. She is afraid to reach out to social services because she is afraid they will try to place her in foster care as she is not yet an adult nor is she emancipated. Her mother continues to collect Meg's survivor benefits from her father's death and Meg hasn't seen any of that social security money since September. Meg asked again recently to be taken to the doctor but refused to return home and so Meg's mother burned the belongings she had left from her father. I'm really worried about Meg and am hoping you can give us some legal advice as to how to get her some medical treatment. Thanks!

Answer:
 Minnesota allows a minor living separate and apart from her or his parents or guardian (with or without consent, regardless of duration) who is managing her or his own financial affairs, to consent to medical treatment. If she is living with her boyfriend's parents, it's not likely she'll be considered independent by this statute.

She cannot receive any medical treatment in Wisconsin without parental consent until she turns 18.


Title: I discovered that my name and credit card were hacked and used to start a business in the state of Tennessee and potentially for opening lines of credit. Looking for advice on how to proceed.

Question:
So I noticed a $100 charge to the Secretary of State office in TN, and called around to follow-up on it. I discovered that my name is being used as an "incorporator" and "registered" agent on a business in TN, and that my CC info was used to pay for the filing fee.

My assumption is my CC was hacked at a gas station or online. It's small business card that I don't use very often: gas, amazon, paying vendors online.

I spoke with someone in the TN Secretary of State office and they said they see these cases often where someone uses someone elses (my) ID to open business so they can then go and open lines of credit in the victims name.

I've already had my ID stolen once and used to collect tax returns and resolved it at the federal level.

Now I am not sure how to proceed. My main concern is how many other businesses have my name attached to them, if my name is attached to any open lines of credit, and what other information of mine they have.

Any advice would be great. The man I spoke with suggested called every single Secretary of State office in the country and asking, as well as calling as many financial institutions to check my name. I'm hoping there is a more effective way to follow through on this.

Thanks.

Answer: Call the police and freeze your credit.


Title: Does throwing a plate a child constitute child abuse? And how could one prove it? [Florida]

Question:
In an effort to maintain the most anonymity I can I'll leave out some info.

I'm a minor (a teen) and had a plate thrown at me by one of my parents. This happened several years ago, but I still have the cicatrix. It's kind of prominent, and affects my looks & confidence etc, but I digress. When it happened my parents told me to essentially keep my mouth shut about it, and now a few years later I want to know whether or not I can actually do anything about it. Yeah, I do get hurt physically still, but mostly nothing nearing that magnitude. I read the
statutes, and I'm pretty sure that this state allows corporal punishment, although this may be pushing it. I'm still at an age where I rely on them financially.

Can I still report this? Whom would I report it to? What would it take to prove it? (It would probably just be their word against mine and my cicatrix). What would be the consequences for my parents? If something were to happen to them like jail or whatnot, would I be placed in the custody of a relative? That would definitely not be good; they'd probably make my life hell for saying anything bad about my parents.

Sorry for making this so long.

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Answer:
 TIL cicatrix is a technical term for “scar”.

Sharing this to save others the google.


Title: Making a delayed rape report?

Question:
I live in Alaska. I was raped by a now-ex three years ago, and have been haunted by it ever since. I couldn't muster up the courage to report it as I was 16 and confused, especially with it being the first time I ever had "sex". He was friends with all of my close friends which made it that much harder to out him, in fear of being blamed and shunned yada yada.
Anyways, I know he's pulling similar acts on other girls to this day and hope to stop the cycle.
 I'd like to make a delayed report. I don't have it in me to actively pursue him in court, and don't have physical evidence to prove it.
What is making a delayed report like? I'm hoping its something that can simply be a mark on his file so that in case another girl reports it, they can see a pattern. Will he be notified of the report? And what actions do they take when a report is made?

Answer:
 >I don't have it in me to actively pursue him in court, and don't have physical evidence to prove it. What is making a delayed report like?

You're basically a non-cooperative witness.  Anything you say is worthless since you won't permit yourself to be cross examined.  You can't accuse a person of a crime and then not be questioned on it.

>I'm hoping its something that can simply be a mark on his file so that in case another girl reports it, they can see a pattern.

Nothing will be documented without proper testimony.  If you're not actually willing to stand up in court then you're an unreliable and non-credible witness.

If people could make uncontested accusations we would live in a very screwed up world.

If you want to get this POS then you're going to have to deal with a public trial.  If you really believe and know he is up to the same crap, others might come forward with you.  But someone has to speak not just make accusations from the shadows.

I know that sounds harsh as but these rights are extended to every citizen even if they are guilty as hell.


Title: Landlord evicting me over pet.

Question: I'm currently in California and have been living in this home for a month and a half. My roommate (landlord) wants to evict me for getting a cat that she orally agreed to me having. I asked her about the cat prior to signing any adoption papers and she told me it would be fine and that she has to speak to her doctor because she has a slight cat allergy. However, I didn't get a written statement from her saying that I was allowed to get the cat so I really have no proof of what she did and didn't say. A few days go by and I tell her that I'm going to go get the cat on Saturday. She does have two dogs here so when I told her I was going to go get the cat she said that she never said it was okay and that she didn't agree to it and that she's not responsible if anything happens to my cat because of her dogs. I go and get the cat on Saturday and bring him home and a few hours later she tells me that she cannot have the cat here and since she didn't give me written consent saying that I could have the cat, I breached the 6 month lease and that I have to move out in either 3 or 30 days. In the lease it says that she has to give me a written statement telling me that I can have the cat in the home. Can she legally evict me even though she said that I could have the cat at first even though she didn't give me written consent?

Answer:
 > However, I didn't get a written statement from her saying that I was allowed to get the cat so I really have no proof of what she did and didn't say.

 >>A few days go by and I tell her that I'm going to go get the cat on Saturday. She does have two dogs here so when I told her I was going to go get the cat she said that she never said it was okay and that she didn't agree to it

 Clearly she said that she didn't agree to it and you got the cat anyway. Who cares what you think she stated previously, especially considering the part where your lease specifies that you need written permission. Also, I notice she mentioned needing to consult her doctor regarding her cat allergy first and you *not* mentioning you'd even given her time to do so in the week(?) between asking to get a cat and blatantly ignoring her telling you not to get one right before you did so anyway...
Answer #2: If the lease says you need a written statement then you need a written statement. If you didn't get this you can be evicted.


Title: Disputing strip club charges

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 None of those charges are extraordinary, in fact, they're much lower than where I'm living now.

Are you saying (in this wall-o-text) that you did not receive those services, or you don't want to pay them because the prices seem unfair to you?


Title: [Florida] FDLE is asking for a DNA swab for a case I was involved in, in 2009, for "exculpatory evidence". Should I cooperate?

Question:
The detective made it a point to say that the case was closed back in 2009 with the State Attorney choosing not to bring charges forward. My concern is that they're just trying to add me into some database for tracking purposes.

edit: I spoke with a criminal defense attorney. They asked other attorneys in their circle if there were any programs regarding collection of DNA from persons involved in past cases. All replied no and that it was highly suspicious. The attorney told the detective not to contact me again. At this time, I have yet to hear back from the detective.

Answer:
 It is very unlikely that they are trying to add you to a database for random tracking purposes.

It is extremely likely that they have a crime that they suspect you committed and are trying to pin on you.

It is not at all illegal for detectives to lie to you, for instance by telling you a case was closed when it is not.  It doesn't even make sense - "please give a sample to exonerate yourself in this case that we aren't working on" - what??

There is absolutely no advantage to cooperating.

Answer #2: There does not appear to be any benefit to you to voluntarily give a DNA sample to law enforcement for unspecified purposes.


Title: Termination due to medical condition [IN]

Question:
In December of 2015, I began having really severe panic attacks and other symptoms. The symptoms were bad enough that I had to leave work on a few occasions.in January of 2016, my doctor gave a written recommended that I work from home for 30 days to try to alleviate some of the stress that could have been causing my symptoms.

my job was a logistics position, which entailed me tracking things on the computer, and using my company issued cell phone. No direct face-to-face communication was ever necessary to do my job.

I gave the letter to HR, and to the president of the company. On February 1st, 2016 I was pulled into HR and told that I was being terminated because they could not accommodate what my doctor wanted.

A few other pieces of info:
- I had worked from home on many, many occasions before without issue.
- the company at about 45 employees at the time
- it was categorized as a layoff, and I did receive unemployment

I have two questions:
- is this grounds for a wrongful termination suit?
- has too much time passed for me to pursue this?

Answer:
 > is this grounds for a wrongful termination suit?

Unlikely. A 30 day remote work requirement is pretty extreme, and provided no guarantee that the issue would be resolved. While your basic job duties didn't involve face to face communication, that can easily be argued as a business necessity re: management and assigning tasks.

> has too much time passed for me to pursue this?

Almost certainly. Federally the time limit is 180 days. Some circumstances can extend that clock, but 4x the duration would be iffy even if you had those circumstances.


Title: OK, Reddit - Here's a Doozy! (Divorce-FL)

Question:
Going to give you the TLDR version:
* Married 20yrs - Wife tells me she is unhappy and wants divorce. Reluctantly I agree to uncontested divorce.
* I (stupidly) sign an MSA (Marital Separation Agreement) stating that I will give her $,5000/mo. No lawyers were involved in the MSA creation, but we did get it notarized (again, stupid).
* The amount of $5,000/mo was determined by her "research" into what our "Company" was worth. Our "Company" consists of me in front of my home PC 9-12 hrs/day handling computer issues for home users that call in with problems. She was a glorified bookkeeper, handling all QuickBooks tasks, etc. From time-to-time I would assigned her projects in excel, etc.
The point is this: If I am away from my PC, the "Company" does not make money. I handle the support calls, advertising, etc.
* We sign MSA and she moves back to WI with our 14yr old daughter. I remain in FL and run the business.
* 2 weeks go by, someone alerts me that she is in FL on vacation on my "Best Friends'" Boat. (6 months earlier he had kicked out his wife of 10yrs and her 10yr old son). It turns out my wife and him have been involved in a long time affair (CONFIRMED). He owns a business that is worth millions of dollars. Us four were best friends, trips together, neighbors, etc.
* During this time I had been keeping up on the agreed upon $5,000/mo, but money was becoming more scarce. I decided to do some digging into our tax records for the previous years. Our average earned income for the previous 3-4 yrs was $5,000/mo. This means she was asking for 100% of the total profit we made from the "business".
* After a while, business slows down and I cannot keep up with the $5,000/mo., so I start paying her less...Some months $3,000, some months less. She then hires attorney (SAME ATTORNEY HIS EX IS USING FOR HER PRE-NUP BATTLE!).
* Finally, I try to get an attorney. I see several for free consultations, but their retainer to fight this guy is far more than I can come up with (He is a very well known divorce attorney in our area, and nobody will take my case against him without a HUGE retainer).
* I have been representing myself Pro Se, filing on my own behalf, etc.
* He is still paying for her monthly trips to FL (one time was an extended stay of 3-4 weeks at his home on the Gulf of Mexico), among other countless trips (Vegas, New Orleans, New York, etc.), and is also providing financial support long distance. (She "bought" a car from the dealership that he owns, her Financial Affidavit (FA) shows no payments being made).
* I filed a motion of "Related Case" due to the fact that wife's attorney firm is currently going after this guy, but at the same time going after me..This may not seem important, but if you think about it, they are trying to prove that HE is supporting my wife, but at the same time trying to prove that my wife needs MY support...
* At last Case Management Conference (CMC) judge ordered me to pay $2,500/mo for support payments. I have not been able to keep up with that (I have had eviction notices the last 3 months in a row, car repossession letters, utilities cut off, etc.)
* Her attorney file a Motion to Strike my Related Case motion...calling it "Slanderous, etc"....But just today, he underwent his deposition and the same attorney firm questioned him about the affiar and financial support with my wife (WTF RIGHT??!!)
* Her attorney also filed a Motion for Contempt because I have been unable to keep up with payments. I go to court 11/4 for that one at the same time he will try to disprove that this qualifies as a "Related Case".
* Have no money for an attorney. I work my ass off 5-6 days/week. Business is not making the money she is demanding. My financials are an open book. Nothing to hide. Afraid they are going to crucify me.

Question 1: I know "Conflict of Interest" is a hard sell, but int he legal sense of the definition, is this a "Related Case"? Same law firm. Same parties. Same court.

Answer:
 So..

* You and your wife got divorced.
* Your best friend and his wife got divorced.
* Your wife is using same lawyer as best friend's wife used.

Is that right?

Hard to see a conflict of interest with that.

Why the heck did you agree to give your wife $60K a year if you can't afford to give her $60K a year?

You really, really need to find a lawyer and a way to pay them.

[Not a lawyer.]


Title: Dog chased deer into road and deer caused accident

Question: I live on 4 acres unfenced. Today I let my dog out and there was deer on the property. My house sits back from the road about 100 ft, maybe more. My dog chased the deer maybe 40ft toward the road and then stopped and came back when I called him. The deer continued running and ran into traffic of the 2 lane road directly in front of the property. Speed limit is 45mph and the deer was struck. Thankfully there were no human injuries but the vehicle sustained damage. The owner of the vehicle is pursuing the cost of damages against us. What are my legal liabilities here? In VA.

Answer: Contact your homeowners insurance to assist you in the suit. You should not be held liable for an accident a deer caused


Title: [NV] I am being followed by a private investigator

Question:
Around two months ago I was at a bar, and noticed a very drunk man slurring his speech, stumbling around the bar, and just generally saying offensive/rude things. Over there course of the night he became increasingly belligerent and making generally racist comments. Something happened and he lunged at a (black) woman who was there with other people. I tried to separate him from her, because his friends seemed oblivious to what was happening. He tried to reach for her again and I punched him. This has all been reported by both parties. I expected i may have some legal fees as the police officer I reported the incident to said he has a broken nose and concussion.

Since these events I have been contacted by their lawyer a few times, I refer them to my lawyer. My job has started receiving calls inquiring about me, my work, and political associations. They have since stopped answering these questions and are referring to their legal department. I have also noticed a car following me. I live in a city it is not typical to see the same car everyday following you.

I briefly thought it was a stalker, it is not. I confronted the individual with a friend and have a video of them. They were watching my home, and I snuck through my neighbors yard (with permission) to come around the opposite side of the car. The man told me that it was his job, and that he was within his rights to be there as he was not on my property. I went inside and got my restraining order, but he stated it was not regarding that individual and so he would continue.

I contacted my lawyer who stated this practice is legal, and that it is probably the man who I had the altercation with paying for this. I am not being charged with anything (at this time). I was not cited at all for the events that happened due to some evidence that's available that shows I had good reason to think that this man was going to hurt someone. I am concerned that I am being followed in an effort by that person to harm me. My lawyer is currently out of town (until Monday).

So, I guess my question is can I get a TPO/restraining order against someone even if they have not actively harmed/attempted to harm me? If I can, would that prevent the investigator from following me?

Tldr; I punched a man, and now I think he's paying someone to follow me.

Answer:
 [Does this sound familiar?](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/96vgxs/nv_social_worker_assaulted_me_no_one_will_help_me/)

IANAL, I don’t have any idea if this could help in any potential case that may arise, but I figured I’d share the link just in case.


Title: Sold a computer on craigslist, buyer says it's bad, but also made significant changes after purchase. Now he wants his money back and seems like he may sue.

Question:
Located in: Washington State

Throwaway account; I don't really want to end up tracked down.

I sold an old laptop on Craigslist.  The system had some history, and at one point needed a warranty repair.  After it came back, the system worked fine for several weeks, but it was replaced because I wanted a new computer.

I posted the old one on Craigslist.  I did not disclose that it'd had warranty work, but said, "It works fine for me"

The buyer met in person, he fiddled with it for some time and asked, "Any problems with it?"  I again said that it has worked for me, and mentioned that it's still under the manufacturer's warranty.

The buyer took it, filled out a bill of sale (just our names, date, and purchase amount) and left.

Later that day, he emailed saying that he'd tried to install Windows 7 (it came with Windows 8) and was experiencing problems.  He also said that the "touchpad and keyboard were loose", something that was news to me, and that he only found out because he was having the Geek Squad put a replacement SSD drive in it.

I offered, since it was literally the same day, to pay for half the repairs if the touchpad was bad (around $40 total).  I further offered that, should the computer develop some "fatal flaw" (my stupid words), inside a week, I'd take it back.

About a week later, he took me up on the offer, saying it wouldn't power on at all.  We met, the system powered on, but was obviously using a different OEM's installation of windows 7.  I asked about the SSD, and if a factory restore was done.  He had wiped the drive entirely, removing the factory restore partition.  I suggested that it just needed some drivers installed and so forth to get working properly.  I warned that Windows 7 is probably not a good fit for this machine.  Regardless, I returned his money and took the machine back.

He said if I could get the drivers installed, he'd buy it back again.

I downloaded lots of drivers, and did manage to do just that.  It was working well, with the caveat that there were a few drivers he should *not* install, as they tend to cause crashes under Windows 7.  I also provided him with all the driver downloads and instructions in the form of a text file on how to install them.  I suggested copying them to a USB drive or similar for backup.

We met again, and he gave me money (the same purchase price, different bills) and he took the computer again, after powering it up and fiddling with it for a while.

About a week later, he emailed me *again* saying he was having trouble with the machine, and wants his money back and he can't work and so forth and so on.

I've since ignored his calls, texts, and emails.  My stance is:

* I sold the computer initially as-is.
* Then I made a stupid warranty.
* I honored that warranty.
* I sold him the same computer *again*, this time making no warranty.
* He modified the computer extensively (different OS, different hard drive, who knows what else when it was opened).
* It's beyond as-is at this point, his modifications void even any implied warranty.

I'm worried that my actions trying to help him out may end up screwing me over.

Thoughts?

**EDIT/UPDATE**: Okay, so the general consensus appears to be, "Ignore him for now.  If he actually files suit, revisit the issue."  The dude's contact info is all set to go to voicemail / skip the inbox / archive the messages as appropriate.

Answer: You should've ignored him from the beginning. Start doing that now unless and until you get served court documents. Answer #2: I would offer him a refund provided he return the computer in it's original condition. Tell him to take it to the Geek Squad and have them put your original hard drive back and do a reinstall of Windows 8.


Title: California: Septic tank is built under the home with no access to pump or remove beside excavation with the possibility of methane fumes penetrating?

Question: I am the subtenant , the master tenant is being cooperative and understanding the situation. The landlord would not help out with any repairs ect. when we called him to tell him the toilet was backing up. We have not informed him the information the plumber had given us. So he is just present/ Our plumber diagnosed the problem we need to save to move out ( deposit etc ) as we did not plan to move out so soon, we have only been here 3-4 months and can not leave. The plumber said there are methane fumes in the home, and it is illegal and unsanitary to have the septic tank under the home. It is buried under one of the rooms. What options or rights do we have as tenants and/or the master tenant have? The home is most likely not up to city code and will most likely be condemned once reported. Should we get a lawyer or who can we contact for help? We are not showering or using the water here (plumber said it is most likely contaminated). We are just using toilet. Our son was sick two weeks in a row on the first or second month we moved, which is rare for him because he doesn't get sick often. In the first week pink eye second week cough. I don't know if this is the reason but we have only been here about 3-4 months and would like advice as to what options we may have? We found this information out yesterday evening.

Answer:
 Wow.  That's . . . really impressive.  Any septic tank *should* have an outflow to a leach field where liquids drain; if you get a septic company on site (not just a plumber), then they might be able to get in from that outflow and pump the tank, which would buy you some time.  A normal septic tank shouldn't be leaking out the top, sides, or giving off noticeable fumes.

But in general, the county health department is probably going to declare the place uninhabitable as soon as they find out about this.Answer #2: I'm sure that the [California EPA Office of Environmental Health Hazard Assessment](http://www.oehha.ca.gov/) would love to hear about this.

Edit: Maybe the [Department of Toxic Substances Control](http://www.dtsc.ca.gov/) would be more appropriate.

Edit 2: I agree with /u/ria1024 that you should call a city inspector, they'll report it to the proper authorities.


Title: Dying Mothers Wish Unfulfilled

Question:
Mothers final wishes unfillied
I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this. But my mother died when I was 12 and her dying wish was to see me and my brother before she passed but  one of my aunts had power of attorney went completely MIA when my mother died and didn’t tell us until Mother’s Day we didn’t even have a body for the funeral. Fast forward to 2016 I saw my estranged aunt at a funeral and she told me she had my mother’s urn as well as letters and items that my mother left for me but a few months later she reneged and refuses to give me anything. My mother did not leave a will So I’m trying to find out if I have any power since I am the be next of kin and which actions to take. My mother died in Michigan but I have since moved to Chicago but I’m willing to go to Michigan for this case if I have to. I’ve contacted lawyers in Illinois and Michigan and none of them have seemed to have an answer. Please help with comments or DMs this is my last resort.
Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer: So just to be sure, you're wanting a way to force your aunt to give you your mother's ashes and the letters for you?


Title: Girlfriends car was broken into..

Question: last night my girlfriends car was broken into. They took her wallet and a lot of other things. They tried spending the card online at Zumiez.  So how's the best way of tracking down the ip? Or is that how it works? Do we file police report or settle this issue with the bank?

Answer: File a police report for the theft and report the card stolen at the bank.


Title: I lied to someone in an online dating app and told them I'm a photographer and showed them photo examples that I didn't really take - they contacted the original photo studios.

Question:
I can't believe I'm writing this. This is asinine and full of stupidity and deep shame. This takes place in Washington state.

I was chatting with a girl on a dating app. It was my real face/pictures but a fake first name. I was doing it out of boredom with no intention of every meeting anyone. I just wanted to roleplay and be someone else for a night. Not a different face but a different life.

I told her I'm a photographer that does both fashion and nude photography in nature (I AM a photographer but a much more boring side of photography). She said that's awesome and wanted to see some work so I just google searched and showed her 5 or 6 photos, mixture of fashion photography and nude nature photography done in a classy/artsy way. Not porn. Maybe important to note I never said I'm a representative of those actually photo companies or named them. I didn't even know where they came from. She thought the photos were awesome and wanted to try doing it someday when she felt better about her body and I said it can be good side money.

She then approached me later saying that she reverse image searched the photos and discovered I'm full of shit that I took those and that she contacted the photographers/studios who took them, contacted the app, and posted my photo all over "creep report" pages as well saying she will potentially call the police.

My heart sunk and I got incredibly anxious and freaking out. What I meant as a harmless (albeit one sided) roleplay turned into this girl taking action. I apologized to her. Told her I just meant it as some harmless roleplay and that she made me realize how stupid and pathetic it is. She basically said well just learn from this and improve yourself. I asked her if she could take my photo down from "creep report" pages and she said no.

At this point, a day later, I'm experiencing overwhelming, crippling anxiety. Heart beating fast, shaking. I have a nice, good life and I'm afraid these photo studios/photographers are going to find me and sue me or that I'm going to go to jail for fraud or something. Prison is my worst nightmare, to an irrational level. Please let me know what could happen to me. I know what I did was scummy. I deleted any photos I downloaded, deleted my app account and email address associated with it and sure as hell won't do stupid shit like that again. I'm sure these people could still find me if they wanted to despite fake name. The app could give them my wifi access points, phone number, photo. Is what I did pretty bad?

Answer:
 You aren't going to go to jail over this. If everybody who fibbed on an online dating app went to jail, there wouldn't be any room left for real criminals. Being on a "creep report" page is pretty much the end of this.Answer #2: If you didn’t earn any money posing as them, and didn’t do anything to hurt their professional reputation you didn’t do anything legally troubling. Dumb and unwise but hey, that’s dating. Feel bad if it helps you process and respond if anything legal appears. Don’t do it again.

Getting your mug posted for doing something stupid can be cost of being stupid. You could ask again (nicely) in time after things cool off.


Title: (KY) Notified today, apartment building I live in is being seized in 6 weeks. My lease is for 10 more weeks. Can I rightfully demand moving costs and withhold it from my last month's rent?

Question:
I live in an apartment building in a 5 building complex. My building is the only one being seized. According to them, the building is being seized by the state of Kentucky for some road project. The only compensation they seem to be offering are apartments in their other buildings to be moved into if requested. This is a major inconvenience to me. I was planning on staying here 6 to 8 months more, at the least. I didn't love it, but didn't want to go through the hassle of moving or making a new 12-month lease commitment elsewhere for some time. Now, I'm certainly not going through the hassle of moving to stay in the same place. Do I have any legal right to request moving costs in this situation? I guess they are technically breaking the lease. My lease was until the end of April. I have to move out by the beginning of April now.

Humorously, in the letter, they are requesting written notice that you are moving within the next 10 days, despite the fact that they are literally force-vacating the building 40 days from now.

UPDATE: Contacted apartment management. Offering nothing. No discount on last month's rent, no reimbursed moving costs. I'll contact the local free legal organization in the area, not expecting anything, but it's worth a try.

Answer: Who is the letter from?Answer #2: What does your lease say about early termination from their end?Answer #3: If the government is seizing the property against the will of the landlord, it's likely this terminates your lease. (same as if your apartment building burned down, etc) Typically in that case the landlord has no further obligation to you. (besides returning your security deposit)


Title: (CA) Mom found a hidden camera in her bathroom facing her shower.

Question:
Hello all.

Okay, to start, I'm in an incredibly uneasy and shocked mood right now. So if anything here seems jumbled, please forgive.

About twenty minutes ago my mom sends me a few photos via text asking if I could help her identify something she'd found in her bathroom. After studying the photos and then doing some research on different websites online, it appears that someone had installed a battery-powered, motion-activated, hidden camera disguised as a power outlet. It was installed in her bathroom in a way that it directly faced her shower.

[This](https://www.amazon.com/Fuvision-Electrical-Activated-Recorder-Surveillance/dp/B0716D4SRL/ref=pd_day0_421_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0716D4SRL&pd_rd_r=BK16NRF9D5R1WGHMRK3R&pd_rd_w=kBy6i&pd_rd_wg=57BFQ&psc=1&refRID=BK16NRF9D5R1WGHMRK3R) is the model in question. It was just about the first Google search result when I searched for "hidden outlet camera."

Some things to note.

1) She lives alone. She does have help (maids, handymen, occasional relatives) in her house from time to time. I've not yet asked her to provide me with a list of people who've had unsupervised access to her house.

2) The red light on the unit was still on. According to the Amazon listing this unit has up to 15 days of battery life when motion-activated, suggesting to me that whoever installed/knew of this camera either recharged it or installed it within the past 15 days.

3) The unit does not transmit wirelessly but saves all recorded data to a local SD card to be physically retrieved later.

4) The unit was installed in a less-than-professional manner, i.e. it was installed on the bottom-exterior portion of her bathtub (an electrical outlet on a bathtub frame?), and the black camera unit was not masked under the white outlet facade (the black was clearly visible under the white outlet facade).

I've asked her not to mess around with it, to put the entire unit in a ziplock back, and then in another opaque bag and that we'll discuss this in the morning. I've asked her to make sure every door and window of her house is securely locked, including her bedroom door, and to keep her phone and any form of protection she has nearby, and to call me if anything at all makes her feel uneasy.

I have no idea who did this, when they did it, if anything has been recorded and those recordings accessed, if any additional units exist, etc.

My father abruptly passed away a few years ago so the safety and well-being of my mother has been very important to me over the past couple years (I feel like I hyper-scrutinize male figures in her life lately). I don't know if I'm looking too deeply into this but right now I feel like the safety, privacy, and sanctity of her home (my childhood home) has been totally robbed.

I'm not sure what I'm asking here, I feel like I'm rambling. I guess my main question is "what do we do?" Just talking to someone about this might help clear the chaos in my head right now. I know some people have incredibly life-altering, life-or-death situations here, so I hope my situation/question isn't a waste of anyone's time. Thank you, in advance, to anyone willing to share their thoughts with me.

Edit: Okay, my first order of business tomorrow morning is to accompany my mom to the local PD and ask them what to do. We're not going to mess with the device in any way. We'll see what they say from the legal side of things tomorrow. As for the personal, safety-security-privacy part of things, I guess we'll just have to figure that out. While this isn't one of this sub's classic interesting legal clusterfuck, I respect and value the input of everyone here so much that I didn't really want to share this anywhere else. So, thank you so far. I'll update as I can. 4:00am now, might as well *try* to sleep...

Answer:
 Call the police. If it's motion activated, chances are that the culprit managed to create solid evidence against himself by appearing on the SD card.Answer #2: Absolutely call the police. Additionally, IDK about the 15 day assumption. I would think the battery life would be entirely dependent on how often the camera is triggered and how long it records.

It's probably too late now, but I wouldn't even touch or move the thing. Hopefully your mother has another shower she can use, though she should probably look for additional cameras. But yeah, for all you know there could be other devices planted around the house.Answer #3: Go to the police ASAP. There could be other things inside the home that compromise her safety and security. This is not a drill.


Title: How should I handle this?

Question:
Hi everyone,
IDK if this is the right place to post this but my half brother just got served for a debt for me. He's staying in the house I'm living in and they gave him my paperwork.
My half brother doesn't even live here but they gave him the paperwork and told him to call me and tell me. So he did I got home got the paperwork and it says I owe 2,300 and I think I remember the credit card and it was a lot less. I think around 1600. I had a lot of medical stuff happen and was working jobs for 10 bucks an hour and there's no way I could pay this as I have a whopping $200 in my bank account and still have to pay the gas bill for the month. I tried to call the lawyer but he's out. Should I call the lawyer and tell them I don't have the money? Kinda freaking out I've never been sued before and don't know what to do. I can't afford this. Please help!
EDIT: This is for an old credit card. I did not receive any notice they had the debt. Not for my medical bills which I'm sure are already in collections. I just don't have any money to pay this and buy food and living expenses.
I am in the state of colorado

Answer:
 > I remember the credit card and it was a lot less. I think around 1600.

Likely due to interest and late fees.

You can call and attempt to negotiate.  If you're able to come up with a bulk some of money, sometimes they will accept half the debt.  They're unlikely to at this point, however.  They're going through the process of suing you for the debt, so at this point they have less of a reason to settle.

If they win (either by default or at trial), they can then garnish your wages or bank account.

Its a tough situation to be in.  Your best bet may be calling in favors to relatives for some financial help.
Answer #2: You can call and tell them you don't have any money.  They probably won't care that much.  They can certainly continue to sue you, and get a judgment to force you to pay.

If you believe you owe the debt(which it sounds like you admit), you'd be better off negotiating a payment plan.


Title: I did a fraud chargeback on product that hasnt arrive in 2months

Question:
I brought a purse for someone last 2month ago and pay $56 shipping for next day shipping. I never got it, after 2 months later, I got tired of waiting and file a fraud chargeback,. Did I do it right or wrong?

Location Canada

Answer: You did it right.


Title: Would non lethally shooting a belligerent anti masker who I have asked to get out of my space but won't be considered self defense?

Question: I feel that I should be able to defend myself from a deadly virus during a pandemic, but the "nonviolent" aspect of the danger that belligerent anti maskers pose makes this unclear to me.

Answer: How do you plan to guarantee a "non-lethal shooting"?


Title: Put my self in more trouble while blackout drunk...

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 It doesn't matter until you're charged with something / arrested. When that happens, your job is to shut up and get an attorney.

And for god's sake, get help for your alcohol problem.


Title: Are audio billboards legal?

Question: Can you have a billboard lets say near a freeway that has a speaker loud enough for people to hear while driving past it

Answer:
 Most of the places you'd want to place a billboard have noise ordinances that limit how much noise can be audible off the property. A billboard that's clearly audible inside cars driving past on an adjacent highway is going to be way too loud for everyone else, and will likely violate those ordinances, leading to fines for the lot owner and an order to remove it.

In addition, most jurisdictions recognize civil causes of action for property nuisances, such as excessive noise, when it substantially interferes with the use of neighbouring properties.

Finally, most jurisdictions prohibit doing things to deliberately distract drivers, and while that's often not a bright line, making a ton of noise is probably over it.Answer #2: God no!

I don't really need to check. That ought to be illegal, because if it weren't, advertisers would do it everywhere.Answer #3: in romania we have cars with speakers that advertise whatever - maybe check if that is legal in your country?Answer #4: Why have you shared this idea to the public. You should have killed it with alcohol.


Title: How should I handle a website posting defamatory content about me?

Question:
I recently did a search for my name on Google and, having a very unique name, found that someone had posted my name to a pretty shady website where people can claim that others have STDs. The site's posts are not moderated and there is no contact form or email of any kind on the site (I spent about 3 hours looking). This wouldn't be such a huge deal if it were not the 3rd post when my name is searched for... above my GitHub account, meaning that anyone who looks me up to see my work will see that first.

Like I said, the site contains no contact info and the owner of the site uses whois guard to hide their identity (ironic, right?) so no one can contact them easily. My first question is, is this legal? And second, is there anything I can do about it?

Full Disclosure: I have the STD they have claimed I do.

Answer: It's not defamation if it's true. Answer #2: The truth is an absolute defense to defamation.