Title: [MN] The Curious Case of My Reckless Wife and a Shower of Gasoline

Question:
HI! Very weird question(s) here involving some culpability on (possibly) both sides.

Recently, my wife was visiting home in the Midwest and got a rental car to make traveling easier. Blah Blah the trip was great. After a bit of a late start getting back to the airport, she fueled up at a sketchy gas station (it's SKETCHY, I've been there.)

After finishing, she messed up and recklessly drove away with the pump still in the tank. I know some people that have done this in the past (I'm always like HOW?). Usually, the emergency valve will just trigger and everything is basically peachy - a few have been asked to front cash, a few were told it was fine and easy to reattach.

EXCEPT, my wife's case is a little different. She immediately noticed that she had driven away with the pump and stopped quickly to deal with it, fess up, etc. The emergency valve in the case did not work and the pump was violently spraying gasoline everywhere. Panicked and thinking it might be dangerous, my wife just got into the car and drove away.

SO, I know she didn't do the right thing, but she's in a panic now and I wanted to put her mind at ease or at least get her the facts as best we could.

Questions: - What is the worst case scenario legally here? - What do you think she could do? - Is the gas station at fault for having defective pumps? (AKA Can we 'Better Call Saul' our way out of this?)

A couple other notes: -she paid with a card - she could for sure be identified -she has reached out to a lawyer - they just haven't gotten back to her

TL;DR Wife drove away with the pump still in. Emergency break didn't work and gas sprayed everywhere. Panicked, she drove away. WHAT'S UP?

(Sorry for the immediate repost, I forgot to include location!)

Answer:
 > Is the gas station at fault for having defective pumps?

You haven't proven that the pumps were defective.  No safety mechanism is perfect.

Your wife is likely responsible for the damage to the pump, plus the lost gas, plus whatever other costs and labor were associated with cleanup.Answer #2: She *could* be charged with vandalism/criminal destruction of property. MN requires intent there so I doubt that'd happen.

She's almost certainly civilly liable for the damages and lost product she caused. Whether or not the station ownership properly acted to minimize their loss is something that can be debated at this time.

She should speak to a lawyer and her insurance.


Title: Can a teacher fail me without notifying me that I was in danger of failing? [Los Angeles, California]

Question:
Recently I received my 2nd semester grades for my junior year of high school. I attend a school in the Los Angeles school district in California. My school distributes progress reports, a month before the semester grades come out to inform parents and students how they are doing and to warn them if they are in danger of failing the semester .Upon reviewing my grades I have noticed I received a F for my art course. In my progress report I was informed I had an A. I was not informed that I was in danger of failing the class.

A couple years ago a teacher told me that the only reason the school sends progress reports was so they can legally fail you. Is this true?

A F will look really bad on my transcript. Can /r/legaladvise help me out, thank you for your time.

Answer:
 It is not against the law.

You should have known if you were doing the work or not and what grades you were getting on the work. Talk to the teacher if you think there was an error. Answer #2: Wow.  When I was a freshman in HS, I made a paper mâché mask of a dude sucking a giant 9" dong, and even *I* didn't fail Art.  Given your other grades and participation in the class, it sounds like there may just have been a mixup when your teacher entered the class grades and you got stuck with someone else's F.

Time to talk to your teacher!  (And if you need to know how to make paper mâché dongs, PM me).


Title: Incompetent social worker NC

Question:
My husband was prescribed psychiatric medications that resulted in an extremely manic/violent period.  We went to his psychiatrist REPEATEDLY trying to get the meds changed and were brushed off.  He talked with his therapist about what was going on.  On top of this, we were dealing with unemployment, a sick child, a child with mental health struggles, etc.  Things have been hard.

She reported us to social services, concerned that the children were hearing/witnessing violence.

About five weeks ago, a social worker contacted us.  She said it wasn't an official investigation, but that she was made aware of violence in the home and that they are here to help families with resources to change their situations.  She did a complete intake.  One of the questions was about medical issues.  I shared my son's medical history (long and significant- so much so that it has been my full time job for fourteen years) and gave a list of doctors including phone numbers.  Another question was about mental health issues.  I shared that we had been working for weeks to find a therapist and possible inpatient program for one of the kids but that we were having trouble connecting with anyone.

She gave us a LONG list of things we needed to accomplish.  We have two infants and were actively pounding the pavement trying to get mental healthcare for the teen who was struggling.  Some of the things on the list were really vague and when we asked for resources or more information, she would say "I don't know."

We spent days on the phone and made a list of everyone we called trying to do the things she had requested.  Several of the places we called said that SHE was supposed to be offering these services to US.

Two weeks later, she showed up again and said that the investigation was now a real investigation and that it was no longer focused on the domestic violence, but that we were being charged with medical neglect of our son with health issues.  She said that because we hadn't seen his specialists recently, he wasn't being cared for.  I showed her that he was up to date on all medications, and told her that it wasn't time to see his specialists again yet.  I told her we had missed one appointment.  She also said she had called our pediatrician and they had "never heard of us".  I pulled out a prescription FROM THAT PEDIATRICIAN and showed it to her.  She didn't take a note or anything.  She just looked at me.

She told me I needed to get firm dates for future specialist appointments. I told her that when I was calling the hospital specialists, I kept either getting a busy signal or a message saying that they are experiencing an unusually high call volume, please call back at a later time.  She didn't believe me, so I asked her to call them herself.  She got the same message.

Our child ended up going inpatient at a mental health facility.  The therapist there was concerned that CPS was not offering us services.  He attempted to speak with our social worker and she dismissed him.

She called me last night and said that they have scheduled a custody hearing for Tuesday to remove all of the kids from our home due to medical neglect.  She said she called all of our listed doctors, therapists, etc (around ten different providers) and that EVERY PROVIDER said they had never heard of us.

I said that was impossible.  I called one of his specialists that we have worked closely with for years.  She said nobody called, that she had his file open right now and would have been able to confirm years of appointments within seconds if someone had called.

I asked the social worker what information she had been giving to these facilities.  She told me she had been using our son's nickname.  Not his legal name.

Even with this, she is continuing with the custody hearing to take our four children.

She had two appointments this week to check in with the kids, check out the home as required by law.  She canceled both appointments.

I'm a mess, totally sick over this.  I hired a lawyer.  She hasn't said much, but said she'd get the records and would be at the meeting.

My son's current therapist said he would vouch for us and say we are caring, concerned and involved parents- some of the most involved and proactive parents he has ever worked with.  But she doesn't want to hear from him.

With my lawyer working and being silent, and four days between now and the hearing, I'm a mess.  What is going on?  How can she legally proceed with this?   What can I do?
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Well, it's not just a social worker. There's a team of people behind these actions - state consultants, legal staff, etc. So it's not like this one woman just standing up and saying this. They'll have statements from the doctor's offices and different doctors, etc. You've done the most important thing, getting a lawyer. Keep reaching out to them and talk with them.


Title: Can a gas station/store ban me from purchasing items?

Question:
Quite embarrassing but...

I recently got busted by my mom for... purchasing soda. She found out I was going to the gas station quite often and buying soda. She claimed that she spoke with them, and said not to go there or else “I’ll get arrested.” Makes me laug. I can only imagine that she is like those “Karens .” Anyway, is this legal, and am I allowed to go there in the future?

Answer: The store is free to ban you because your mother asked them to.  If you are told to leave and do not you can absolutely be charged with trespassing.


Title: Any action available against a political campaign that won't stop contacting you? (CT)

Question:
I've had 6 different people from a state governer's campaign tell me via text they would remove me from their calling list.  I've left voicemails.  I went onto the campaigns web site and used their contact form to complain and all that did was get me signed up for their emails.  I unsubscribed and continue to get emails.  I've tweeted at the candidate.

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Even up to the fifth unwanted contact I was willing to vote for this person and now I'm not.  Aside from that, are there any laws regulating how much a campaign can harass you?  If this was a business I'd think I could complain to the BBB but here I have no clue.

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Much appreciated!

Answer: You could wait literally 12.5 hours


Title: Questions about my job.

Question:
Im in MO.

First thing. My General Manager has explained to me that I am not allowed to hang out with managers (who I am friends with) outside of work because I am a regular employee. ???

Second, my managers work until 3 am, sometimes later, and then are scheduled to work at 8 am? Is it legal to give them that little time to rest in between?

Third, my job does not pay overtime. My managers, and employees have worked up to 100 hours in 2 weeks with no overtime pay. Our break room literally has a paper that states our rights as employees and overtime pay is one of them.

Answer:
 1. In MO, your employers are generally free to set a restriction like this and terminate your employment for violating it.  Certain off-the-clock activities might be protected; I do not believe this to be one of them.
2. MO labor law doesn't require employers give employees any kind of breaks and sets no limit on the maximum shift length or rest in between shifts.
3. MO should pay overtime to all hourly and non-exempt salary employees for any hours worked in excess of 40 in a single work week.  Affected employees can file an overtime complaint using the MO minimum wage complaint form: [https://labor.mo.gov/DLS/MinimumWage/file\_complaint](https://labor.mo.gov/DLS/MinimumWage/file_complaint)


Title: [Hypothetical] Arizona - Is it legal to buy 50 computers and broadcast 50 WiFi signals with the express intent of causing interference with nearby existing WiFi receivers & transmitters?

Question:
The question came up in /r/PCMasterRace.

Hypothetically, someone suggested buying fifty Raspberry Pi 3's ($35 each) and using them to broadcast 50 individual WiFi signals, with the purpose of causing enough interference, WiFi would basically be unusable anywhere nearby.

I understand that the United States actually has pretty stringent laws on jammers, and WiFi signals are included in this, but would this serve as an actual violation of the law?

Hopefully it's an interesting discussion if nothing else.

Answer:
 > with the purpose of causing enough interference

From Ye Ole FCC:

> Section 333 - prohibits **willful or malicious interference** with the radio communications of any station licensed or authorized under the Act or operated by the U.S. Government (47 U.S.C. § 333)

Purpose of = willfull.

> Hopefully it's an interesting discussion if nothing else.

Sadly no. Well established illegal.


Title: Charged almost $1000 for cancelling a housing application at my college, that I wasn’t responsible for creating

Question:
This is in North Carolina.
I’m a sophomore in college, and I am living in an apartment this coming year. i was a member of a sorority on campus that had a house, and had originally stated I wanted to live there. I went to an appeal meeting for this decision due to the rent being over $1,000 a month (about 20% more than a nice apartment in the best part of the city). I showed the committee of the sorority that I was financially unable to afford this kind of rent and they cancelled my housing. All good. So I got an email today stating that I owed payment for the full year of housing on campus at a different place- same price just not MY sororities house (called independent Greek housing). I thought this was a mistake because I had cancelled the housing I signed up for, did this about 6 months ago. I called the housing office and stated that I had been removed from the sorority house and that I had cancelled any housing request. They said that they had no record of me ever cancelling (even though I never paid the housing fee required to even get housing on campus) and that I’m responsible to pay an $850 liquidation fee, due by beginning of August. (Maybe before- but at the latest August 1st)
I have absolutely no means to pay this, none. They said I could appeal this charge but since they have no records indicating I cancelled my housing, it probably won’t do any good. I make $11 an hour working part time, paying full rent on an apartment, and I can’t afford food, much less this. I would have to declare bankruptcy to even begin to pay this, since I was just told and it is due and I have less than $100 in my savings account and barely that in my main account. Is there any way to get out of this?

Answer: OP- Did you originally sign *anything* with your sorority related to where you would be living?


Title: Craigslist buyer is threatening me. What should I do?

Question: I sold a 1yr old sofa on Craigslist from my home (in California). The man came to buy the sofa a few days ago. He inspected it, sat on it, and tried the features (pull out bed, storage underneath). He seemed happy and so he paid us and we helped him carry it to his truck. A few hours later, he messaged me saying that he thinks the sofa smells so he wants $150 back to get it cleaned or a full refund. I said no because he already took it home. He could have changed his mind any time before leaving with the sofa. Now he is threatening to come to my door and demand his money back. I called the police and they called him to tell him to stop. He replied back saying "you think a phone call from police will scare me! I"m Russian you little c**t and that shit don't scare me." What should I do? He knows where I live and has my phone number.

Answer: Block his phone number. If he comes to the house do not answer the door and immediately call the police.


Title: Fiancé’s property manager didn’t return deposit or send itemized list of deductions - contacted several times and still didn’t provide. Fiancé got a letter from a collections agency saying she owes the landlord $130.

Question:
On mobile, plus I’m mad. LTL;FTP forgive formatting blah blah blah

Colorado.

So yeah. My fiancé moved out of her apartment complex on July 24 of this year. Lease provides for 60 day return of deposit. September 22 comes and goes. On the 24(ish) we call the complex and ask where the deposit is. Person on the phone is very vague, confused about amounts, something about carpet damage but would take down our info and call back.

No call back. She calls several times over the next few days asking for info. Finally gets in touch with the PM, who is very confused and will call back.

Some time passes. No call back. We go in and talk with the PM in person. She says she doesn’t understand what the computer thingy says because she’s ancient but by god she was going to get to the bottom of this by the end of the week. She had the forwarding address and phone number already saved on her computer and confirmed this with us.

IN A SHOCKING TURN OF EVENTS, no call back. We hand deliver a seven day demand letter we drafted from google. We think about this for a week and realize, since we’re really suing the registered agent of the property management company, we should probably serve the registered agent instead. Planning on going to the post office today to send the letter.

Then my fiancé goes and gets the mail today and finds a letter from a collections agency demanding $130 she apparently owes the property management company.

Should we do anything besides serving the registered agent of the property management firm?

Is she SOL? Will we have any luck fighting this in small claims court?

Answer: Under [Colorado law](https://lawhelp.coloradolegalservices.org/resource/information-for-renters-security-deposits) The landlord has likely forfeited it's right to the deposit due to it's failure to provide an itemized list of charges within the 60 day period. The link above has a good description of the steps you should take to get the security deposit back. You should also send a [debt verification letter](https://www.thebalance.com/debt-validation-requires-collectors-to-prove-debts-exist-960594) to the collections agency. Finally, it would be worthwhile to talk to an attorney about how to get the collections agency to back off while you dispute the underlying charge in court with the property manager.


Title: [USA] School Assignment- Had to find lawyers to ask.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: I don't think a legal advice forum is exactly what your professor had in mind when they asked you to find and talk to lawyers.


Title: Are you legally required to report a dead body in Florida? If so, could you identify the relevant statute?

Answer: This is one of those questions where the requirements of being a decent human being so far outweigh any legal issue that there's only one course of action. You absolutely must report it. Somebody's family is wondering in the darkness right now and you could shed light. Forget the law and do what you know is right.Answer #2: Is this related to those teens that watched the man drown?


Title: Sherlock Holmes is officially public domain. How does America decide for the world?

Question:
I hope this is the correct sub for this. Please redirect me if not.

[Sherlock Holmes work](http://www.finebooksmagazine.com/fine_books_blog/2014/11/supreme-court-refuses-appeal-50-sherlock-holmes-work-officially-in-public-domain.phtml#comment-1675897625)

I am going to re-post my question from their boards, but combine them.

Aren't Conan Doyle's writings registered under British law? If so, how can American law decide the Local Domain issue? Shouldn't a work of artistic value fate be decided by the country of origin? Why does US law dictate this for the world?

Some one responded, but didn't answer the question. I expanded my question and tried to be more specific. Here it is.

If you read the reason behind the decision it affects both England and the US. The person in the US will NOT have to pay royalties to the Doyle foundation. If it only affect the US, why wouldn't have to pay? Couldn't the British courts charge the author? If the books are public now, that means they are free to download. That takes away funding from the foundation. How can we decide that on an author based in another country?

Answer? I'd also like someone familiar with British law to chime in. I have become obsessively curious over how to US controls "Public Domain".

Answer:
 It's been public domain in the UK since 2000. That's why.

The U.S. has more generous copyright protections, but they have expired here as well.


Title: Walmart announces they “waived their attendance policy “ till the end of April but have secretly reinstated the waiver without telling employees.

Question:
I work at a Walmart. The Walmart website (https://corporate.walmart.com/newsroom/2020/03/10/new-covid-19-policy-to-support-the-health-of-our-associates) shows that Walmart has waived it attendance policy till the end of April to make sure its employees feel supported and don’t have to go to work during this pandemic if they choose not to.

I called out March 13 because I felt uncomfortable being at work during this time. I received a point on my attendance record. When I arrived to work the next day I was brought into the office to discuss why I received a point. They showed me an email claiming it was from corporate and that the attendance policy was in fact still in place. They said that Walmart initially announced they would waive attendance but back tracked the next day.

The Walmart website is still up to date. But after being threatened and actually receiving points I’m scared to not go back in because I can’t afford to lose my job. I take care of my grandfather and I’m as of now having to decide if I should potentially (very likely) expose him to the virus or lose my job and my house.

I don’t have any legal experience and I unfortunately don’t have any prof they are claiming this. Maybe another Walmart employee can find that info.
Topic:
Business Law

Answer:
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OP, reach out to HR and discuss this matter privately with them. Let them know what went down and tell them that you only felt comfortable calling out due to the notice. Explain that if your managers had the responsibility to deliver that \`update\` regarding the policy, that they did not do so.

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You have here a human being looking for advice and all I can see are comments telling them that they have no recourse and are unable to comprehend "what the issue is."

Shame.


Title: Boyfriends ex leaked my medical information

Question:
So I live in a small-ish city, around 20,000 people. I recently (January 2019) got a job working at my hospital as a clinic assistant. I really like it here, my boss is great and I get along so well with my coworkers.

My boyfriend of two years’ ex (from TEN years ago) works in the same hospital which I had absolutely no problem with. She is married, to his best friend I should add, with a beautiful little girl. I didn’t sense any foul play between us at all when we were invited over to their new house for some drinks with lots of other people.

She told me she was a transcriptionist, which means she types out the doctors written notes in to a computer so they can be logged easier for future appointments.I never really saw her at the hospital, just once when there was a fire drill and she seemed like a lost puppy following me around. That’s no problem, I liked her as a person.

Now let’s get to what happened. Last week I went to our clinic because I had a pretty intimate problem going on, which as a private person would be very embarrassed if something even as little as *this* were to get out. So I go and see my doctor, explain to her everything that is wrong in detail, get prescribed my medication and I’m sent on my way. Today, I go to work and got a few side looks and giggles nearing my way. I thought I had something in my teeth or was just having a bad hair day, but no.

My coworker pulls me aside and says that my boyfriends ex took pictures of my medical record from my appointment and sent snapchats to over 23 people. We estimate 23-25 people. A few of them have screenshots just for the purpose of showing me and I watched them delete the photos. I feel sick to my stomach, my personal information and health issues are going to be the talk of the hospital and I have no idea why.

I’m not going to get in to the reasoning of what she could have possible wanted to get from this, that will be on a ranting subreddit. I need to know what I can legally do about this and how to go about it.

Thank you so very much, this has been such a rough day for me.
Topic:
Medicine and Malpractice

Answer:
 Each province and territory have bodies which manage privacy complaints, and have privacy Acts which differ slightly from PIPEDA, it might be beneficial to know which state the hospital is located in.Answer #2: IANAL - keep copies, get statements and go to HR. She needs to lose her job!

I am so sorry this happened to you!! HUGS!Answer #3: I'm really disgusted to hear that happened to you. Absolutely horrific behavior on her part and I hope someone at a very minimum educates her on all the different reasons why what she did was gravely wrong.Answer #4: Id keep a copy of the snapchat screenshot and any other evidence you have. Go to HR and then file a complaint with the ministry of healthAnswer #5: The Canadian LW is PIPEDA.Answer #6: IMO the people showing the pictures around are as much at fault as your boyfriend's ex. Report it and demand maximum punishment, or you will lawyer up.

Here in the U.S.A it's called a HIPPA\* violation, and is a major deal. As  a SECURITY OFFICER in a college, I was required to be aware of it and take the lessons to heart; you simply do NOT disclose someone's medical info!!

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 \*Regulation designed to protect personal information and data collected and stored in medical records. The **Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act** established a national standard to be used in all doctors' offices, hospitals and other businesses where personal medical information is stored.

above quote from an Internet article, available by googling


Title: Can I legally carry a taser or pepper spray on a public college campus? [California]

Question: I go to school in an area with high crime. Either would (of course) only be used for self-defense and would stay in my backpack (during classes), in my pocket (walking too/from campus), or on my desk in my dorm.

Answer:
 I would not carry pepper spray. The reason police go through training with pepper spray by getting sprayed themselves is because when you use pepper spray, especially out doors, you will usually spray yourself as well.

Do not think that you will be better off either if you only "get sprayed a little bit" as even a tiny amount can make your eyes water up completely and make your sinuses flare up fully.

If you are forced to only carry pepper spray I would forgo not using it and take self defense courses.


Title: Canada (QC) - Grandfather Sold a house "as is", now the buyers are threatening,

Question:
Hello,

My grandfather helped my mom and his ex buy a house together. The name of my grandfather is on the mortgage, but not as the owner of the house, I think he just helped them sign. After my mom and ex parted ways, the house has finally been sold "as is", but now the buyers are threateting legal actions because the eletricity wires are melting, the pool is not like on the images, etc etc.

What are the recourses for my grandfather to dismiss this threat? If he really sold the house "as is", does the buyer have any recourse? The buyer didn't pay for an inspector before buying the house. Is this just a bluff? The ex is hiding, so my grandfather is the only one to receive the threatening letter.

The ex and the house have been a problems for a long time and we finally tought that it was case closed. I'm thinking that the ex might know the buyer and they teamed up to steal more money from my grandfather.

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Should we go see a notary?

Answer:
 In Quebec, "as is" clauses in property sales are subject to a restrictive interpreration in favor of the buyer. This will be very fact-specific depending on the buyer's due diligence and if they hid or misrepresented known defects, they can absolutely be sued.

Everyone sued should retain a lawyer if that happens.Answer #2: >What are the recourses for my grandfather to dismiss this threat?

Why is your grandfather sued? The ex is the house owner and the seller - your grandfather is just on the mortgage.


Title: I think I was double charged for the same crime?

Question: Back in 2016 I was arrested and convicted for possession of schedule 2 narcotics while trespassing in an abandoned camper. Was not charged for tresspasing until 2 months after They convicted me of the possession but both incidents occurred at the same time. I feel like I'm getting fucked because the shitty cop didn't do his job. Help?

Answer: They are different crimes.  As long as you weren't charged with trespassing the first time you can be charged now (assuming the statute of limitations hasn't run).Answer #2: Sounds like the good cop did a great job actually. Didn't jump the gun and got an extra conviction. This isn't illegal. Answer #3: Both of these alleged offenses require proof of an element that the other does not, so therefore these are different offenses.


Title: [OH] Didn't know my license was suspended and got in an accident that was my fault.

Question:
I was in a car accident that I was at fault for. I moved to a new neighborhood and didn't realize I had a stop sign at the intersection right next to my house. I ended up running it and having another car hit me. I admitted fault to the accident (running stop sign) at the scene.

Everything regarding my accident is sorted out (no injuries.. wasn't a serious accident because we were going 25 mph). However, I found out that my license was suspended after failing to prove insurance (didn't have my card on me, I had insurance though at the time). The day of my accident I went to the BMV and my license was reinstated. Since I was driving under suspension I have to appear in court though.

I didn't know my license was suspended. I paid my fine but I never proved my insurance because I didn't know I had to do so after it was paid and taken care of. Right after my accident I went to the BMV and had my license reinstated (I had insurance the entire time).

The officer told me to plead guilty to the charges but to explain to the judge that I wasn't aware of my suspension and that I had moved twice around the time of my speeding ticket.

I got 2 charges -- driving under suspension (license suspended for non-compliance) and running a stop sign.

Should I be looking into hiring an attorney? Should I be pleading guilty? Will my charges be harsher because I hadn't proved my insurance or will they likely be dismissed?

Answer:
 Don't listen to the cops advice. He may be right about the explanation to the judge, but you have no recourse if he shows up to testify in court and states to the judge that your license was suspended at the time of the accident.

Definitely speak to a traffic attorney, there is no verifiable proof that this simply will be dismissed.


Title: Liable for 25% of tuition

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 IANAL, but I think this bill might be legit. You signed up for classes so they held your spot (preventing another paying student from enrolling if class was full).  Like any purchase, if you don't want to keep what you purchased, you need to contact the seller (in this case the school) to see what your refund options are within a reasonable amount of time.Answer #2: >I registered for classes thinking this was just a rough registration and not the official one.

So you thought registration wasn't registration? That they were going to have another "official" registration later?

You need to behave like an adult and you didn't. You bought a product you had no intention of using, and then didn't follow the refund procedures. Pay up.


Title: [CO] We both filed for emergency custody

Question:
My daughter is in my care.

He filed against me saying I am mentally unstable and broke our agreement. --- He left her with me for weeks because he was at his wits end with her temper tantrums. Also, I have been med and therapy compliant for two years with no worries or issues coming from my professional mental health team....

He has a DHS case open which my daughter's pediatrician opened against him for physical and verbal abuse.

What should I expect? Should I draw up a motion? Print off only relevant text messages? Come back more offensive than defensive? My therapist said she'll try to get me a note stating I've been going consistently with no missed appointments. My psych office said I'd have to go print off my records, that's all they can do. Neither can be done by Monday, and possibly not even by Tuesday morning. (The therapist is out of town and the psych office said they'd get back to me.)

Should I explain that I want him to take parenting classes before he can have her back?

PS Our schedule is not notarized or even been issued by the courts. We have an old one that's well over two years old, from a different county, that was through mediation, but hasn't been followed for a very, very long time by either of us. The agreement he speaks of was him and I signing something in April 2017 in order to get day care coverage, so - it exists, it's just not all that legal.

EDIT TO ADD --- Should I bring affidavits? I have one from my mom, my sister (also my roommate,) and my friend of 21 years.

Answer:
 You need your doctor's to write a letter that your are compliant and, if they will, that they have no concerns for your ability to care for a child.

Take all the text messages with stickies for relevant sections.

Hire an attorney

The judge would likely order you both into parenting classes and possibly co-parenting classes


Title: [orange county California] wife suspected DUI please advise

Question:
Hello everyone. I have no experience with DUI so I was hoping someone could give me some advice.  Thank you. I got a call last night that my wife was taken into the orange county sheriff department on suspected DUI. There appeared to be a small car accident, nobody was hurt, that's all I know. They told me she would likely be released 6/7am PST. So I got out of bed, no sleep, at 4am, got ready and drive down to get there by 6. The lady at the front desk (unhelpful and rude) told me that it takes anywhere from 10-24 hours, she was taken in at 12:40 so they said earliest 8:40.

I ask if she has had her medication, an antidepressant with terrible withdrawals if missed. She takes it every morning. She verified last night that she didn't have it with her, and when I called the nurse they said she didn't take it.

I was told a short while ago that the earliest she would be released is 10:00, because she started the process at 2am. I have no idea what's going on, I'm just parked nearby having ulcers. Anybody some wise words?

Edit: thanks everyone, looks like it's gonna be another long year.

Answer:
 You need to just wait it out.

As far as her medication, jail medical staff will evaluate her and determine what, if any, medication she needs. They may give her the one she's already been prescribed, or they may prescribe something different. They may also give her nothing, if they determine she doesn't need anything.


Title: false CPS reports (TN USA)

Question: a friend of mine has had CPS called on her roughly 100 times in a month making false accusations that said friend is doing stuff / abusing her 1 month old etc etc. we know exactly who it is because they’ve admitted to it in text messages, but we weren’t sure if we’d have any real shot at pursuing a case i know false CPS claims are class E felony in tennessee but do they actually prosecute them?.

Answer:
 Here's the text of the law:

"False Reporting

**Citation:  Ann. Code Ann. § 37-1-413**

Any person who either verbally or by written or printed communication knowingly and maliciously reports or causes, encourages, aids, counsels, or procures another to report a false accusation of child sexual abuse, or false accusation that a child has sustained any wound, injury, disability, or physical or mental condition caused by brutality, abuse, or neglect, commits a Class E felony."

The issue that prosecutors run into is the line "knowingly and maliciously."  They have to prove that the person knew it was a false report and did it anyway.  You have text messages of the person admitting that they knew the report was false.  Take that to the police and file a report.  The prosecutor should be really happy when they see those texts.

[https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/laws-policies/state/?CWIGFunctionsaction=statestatutes:main.getResults](https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/laws-policies/state/?CWIGFunctionsaction=statestatutes:main.getResults)


Title: EU flight delay of 9 hours - made me miss a funeral

Question:
Hello! I really need help figuring out if I should still be pursuing this, or if I should just drop it. A short summary:

* Booked AerLingus flight through their website to get to a funeral, from London to SF.Flight included a changeover in Dublin.
* The first plane was delayed several times at Heathrow (EI155), both at the tarmac and in the air, making me miss my connecting AL flight. Once I got to the airport, AL rebooked me to next available.
* My total travel to get home, due to the delay of the first Aer Lingus flight, was 27 hours. The delay of my first booked Aer Lingus flight caused me to arrive at my destination 9 hours later than planned, and most importantly made me miss the funeral I was going to.
* The behavior of every AL personnel person who I met in Dublin was absolutely incredible - unhelpful, brusque, rude, unapologetic. Their behavior, in addition to how upset I am at having missed this really important event in my life, have spurred me to bother them until I am absolutely certain they do what's correct (whether that's to compensate me or not)!
* So far, have filed a complaint through Resolver after extensive research.
* First, I told them about what happened as outlined above. I told them how I was delayed 9 hours, and that I was seeking compensation under EC 261/2004.
* They replied that the flight was delayed due to Air Traffic Control restrictions. They deemed it an extraordinary circumstance and "wished to invoke Article 5 Paragraph 3". They said no compensation due.
* I have gone through and read the law, and Article 5 Paragraph 3 says: "An operating air carrier shall not be obliged to pay compensation in accordance with Article 7, if it can prove that the cancellation is caused by extraordinary circumstances which could not have been avoided even if all reasonable measures had been taken."
* I replied back and asked for proof of the extraordinary circumstance in the form of third party documentation, in order to verify that the circumstance was indeed extraordinary and in line with NEB guidelines and previous rulings.
* They replied back and said "it is our understanding with regard to this disruption that we are in line with EU regulation", and that's all. No proof.
* The law says that "the burden of proof shall rest with the operator". Where should I go from here? I am willing to get a lawyer just to make them prove that the circumstance was extraordinary, if need be. Is there some other way I can phrase it in a response back to make them provide proof?

Any advice is really really appreciated!!

Answer:
 Hi,

Unfortunately if it was an unforeseeable ATC restriction then there is no compensation but often airlines will give that as their final reason for the delay despite it actually being the result of some other reason within their control.

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Example - Crew is late - When everyone is finally ready they try to depart - ATC says they have to wait. So is that really an ATC reason?

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I think your next piece of research should be trying to find out if there was a legitimate ATC flight restriction on your flight. Was there dangerous weather anywhere along the route? Any other issue?

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Sounds like you need to give them proof to help them 'understand' what the cause of the delay was if in fact it was not a legit ATC restriction. Even though the burden of proof is on the operator, this is probably only when you get to the court stage.

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I believe the most compensation for a delayed flight you can be awarded is €600. Will that be worth pursuing with a lawyer etc?

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Title: Jewish ex-employee citing both racial and religious discrimination

Question:
Long story short, this guy was horrible at his job and got himself fired after generating plenty of supporting documentation. He is now suing for wrongful termination on both racial and religious grounds as he was the only (or only vocal?) Jewish employee at the time.

No one seems too concerned about his claim, but it's got me thinking.  Under which protected class does the legal system classify Jews? If he were to be successful, could he win on both grounds?

This is in PA.

Answer:
 > this guy was horrible at his job and got himself fired after generating plenty of supporting documentation.

Make copies of all your documentation and save them in different locations. If you are served retain a lawyer and give them a copy. Firing someone for being shit at their job is legal. Answer #2: Religion most likely, since people of non-Jewish background can be Jews, and people from a Jewish background can be other religions or not religious at all.


Title: My little brother is being accused of rape, what can I do to help him?

Question:
My little brother is currently being accused in high school of raping some girls in his school. Some of them have already filed a report to the dean of the school. When my little brother went to talk to his counselor about the situation (as it has now escalated to damaging his reputation and harassment from his peers) he was directed to his dean who told him just to file a report about the situation.

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As the older brother I don't know what advice I can give him to deal with the situation. My little brother was born diabetic and fat. He was the victim of bullying that lead to lots of self esteem problems. Around middle school he slimmed down alot and has been working hard to fight his diabetes, but his self esteem issue still remains. He's constantly stressed and upset about what is going on and does not want to return back to school. What can I do? Please advise.

Answer:
 You (or whoever his guardian is) might want to start talking to lawyers

And dont automatically assume that he didnt do it, either. Just hug him and let him know you're there for him. That's the best you can do. Answer #2: Get him an attorney.

The best thing you can do for him is to tell him to not talk about this with ANYONE beside his attorney until advised to do so. That especially includes the police, but also includes his counselor, teachers, school administrators, and friends. That also includes his family and you.


Title: (Oregon) Potential landlord advertises "No Trumpers". Is this allowed?

Question:
I am not a Trump voter, but I saw an ad that clearly depicts someone advertising and decided to take up the offer. My question is: Does Oregon and Federal law prohibit such political discrimination or not? If I were to sue, do I have a case here if I potentially decided to vote Trump or some other person the landlord likes? Also, would I be more secure under a lease to do so rather than month 2 month?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer:
 Your vote is secret and does not need to be shared.

"Trumper" is not a protected class though so, unless I'm missing something, the landlord can choose not to rent to "Trumpers" or those he thinks are. Answer #2: just out of question how would the landlord even know who you voted for? How could this ever even become an issue? Answer #3: > Does Oregon and Federal law prohibit such political discrimination or not?

No.


Title: Filing for Divorce, credit is frozen and bills are in my husbands name.

Question:
I'm going to start off by saying yes I'm stupid and I've learned my lesson about not be completely knowledgeable about the household finances.

So last week my husband said he was unhappy left for work and never came home. I tried calling and texting him trying to be civil and figure out how to  start this separation but he's been non-responsive.

We moved into this house about a year ago and as far as I know the mortgage and utility bills are in his name. There was that experian hack about two years ago and we decided to freeze our credit. Once we decided to purchase a house just his was unfrozen and mine is still frozen. We have  joint checking account that these bills get paid out of but I have no idea what the account numbers, username and passwords are. Everything was done online so no paper statements.

Since I can't pay for the mortgage and utilities since I don't have account access do I stay in the house until I get notices? How will this affect my credit? I  called a lawyer but I don't know where his staying to serve him papers or anything. I feel completely abandoned and helpless.

Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 1. You can call the credit reporting agencies like Equifax and check to see if your credit is still frozen and unfreeze if necessary.

2. A judge can allow you to serve him by publication if you can’t find an address for him.


Title: Company loses government work contract, demanding I stay on until LOW letter or pay back all relocation costs.

Question:
Hello. My company was notified of intention to lose their government contract bid  to another company by Fedsim. We are now in a protest window. If the protest fails and awards the new company, the new company literally begins a 90 day transition period of taking control of our positions.

I took $10k in relocation to move to this location to work. The stipulation being I had to stay with them for 1 year. I was given the false impression that there was still 4 years left on the contract so this wasn’t a concern initially.

If my company loses the protest and it’s awarded to the new company, my company is insisting that involuntary separation doesn’t count unless I stay on until the very last possible day and receive a Lack or Work (LOW) letter or I have to pay back all relocation costs (no prorated option).

My question is, under the assumption my company loses the protest, can an argument be made that involuntary separation occurs once the award has been made because it is inevitable 100% that in 90 days there won’t be work from my original company. Or is there a legal precedence that establishes that even if you know they can’t pay you any longer after a certain point you still have to wait until that date for it to be legally defined as involuntary separation.

It is beneficial for me to join the new company as early as possible in the event the new company wins the award.

Here is the exact language of the relevant part of the contract I signed to accept relocation.

Involuntary Separation: In the event the firm initiates separation (Current Employee) or rescinds an offer (New Hire), prior to completing one full year of service the employee will not be required to repay any relocation expenses incurred on their behalf.

Topic:
Contracts

Answer: If you leave while you still have a job and a pay check that is a voluntary separation and you will owe back the relo.


Title: Boyfriend kicked my son and I out and left us homeless

Question:
10 days ago my now ex boyfriend kicked my son and I out in the middle of the night.
My son's dad picked him up, and I had nowhere else to go at that point so I was stuck in my ex's camper with no access to food, water or a bathroom for 2 days. My car had also broken down a few days prior so I was literally stuck.
My ex finally let me in after almost 48 hours, and that's when I saw that he had all of my stuff packed.
That night I was able to find somewhere to stay for the night, and at 4:30 the following morning my ex called me and told me that I could come back (and like an idiot, and with nowhere to go) I did.
That lasted for two more days until he spent that whole last Friday drinking heavily, and screamed in my face that I again needed to get out.
I wasn't on the lease, but I had lived there for almost 2 months and my mail was and still is going there.
Do I or did I have any rights to the apartment? I've never been homeless before, and not sure what my options are.

Answer:
 >10 days ago my now ex boyfriend kicked my son and I out in the middle of the night.

What you describe here might have been an illegal eviction.

edit: but a location is needed to be sure.


Title: Someone I know might be getting arrested for child porn soon ( I just found out about it) and there are texts on his phone between him and I about purchasing illegal drugs...

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Absolutely. That's pretty much how Jared from Subway went down. They were investigating another person and found evidence of his crimes.


Title: Billed for tax projections that I didn't request

Question:
**edit**: I reside in California, and the firm is also in California.

**tldr**: I requested a tax firm to review my situation and for a quote.  They gave me a projection for my taxes (which I didn't want), I went with another firm, and now they're billing me $320 for it.

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I requested a tax firm to review my tax situation and wanted a quote before I proceeded with them.  I ended up not going with them but they billed me anyways for a projection I didn't explicitly request.  The email exchanges are below, where I admit there would be room for misunderstanding, since I never assumed I would be charged for a quote request.

Does anyone have insights on whether I am responsible for the $320 charge?  Thank you!

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Here's the exchange I had with them via email, in reading order:

Initial Email from me to accountant
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I would like some help to prepare my 2014 personal taxes. Pretty standard stuff: <...>

Can you let me know if you are taking clients and if I'd be a good fit? Please also let me know your rate and your experience dealing with stock options.

Thanks.

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Accountant to me
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Thank you for contacting <tax firm>.  Yes, we are accepting new clients.  We work with folks with stock options all the time so your situation is right in our "sweet spot".  Your tax situation does not sound overly complicated.

Our minimum fee on a personal tax return is $900.  The next step would be for us to meet (or we could do it electronically) so we could review your last two years tax returns in order to give you a firmer fee quote.  Planning and consulting services are not part of the tax preparation and are charged at $375/hour.

We believe that we add value to your life beyond our fees.  I look forward to hearing back from you so we can proceed.

Thanks
<accountant>

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Me to accountant
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Thanks for getting back to me.  The details you've given me are aligned with my expectations and I'd like to proceed with the review.  Please let me know next steps.

A couple other questions:
<...>

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Accountant to me
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<answer to previous questions>

The next step would be for you to send us your last two years tax returns, your option schedule (including type of option, vesting schedule and what you have sold or are thinking of selling) and your 2014 year to date pay stubs so we can see what taxes may be owed.

Then I can also give you firmer fee quotes.

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Me to accountant
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Thanks for getting back to me. I've attached the relevant information in a zip file.  Please take a look and let me know your thoughts.  I've also summarized my options details, but let me know if anything is unclear.

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A couple weeks later:

Accountant to me
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We have run a projection based on the information you provided us regarding your 2014 tax situation. <details of projection>

Let me know if you have any additional questions.

Thanks...and Happy Holiday Season

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Me to accountant
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Thanks for following up.  I really appreciate you and your staff helping me run the projections.

As we last exchanged on email, you noted that next steps would be to get an idea of my tax situation and a firmer quote for my tax planning and filing.  With this information available, could you kindly let me know whether I should have more detailed tax planning with you, and what the range of my tax filing expenses with your firm would be?

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Accountant to me
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There is nothing that needs to be done before the tax preparation.  Based on the data you supplied it appears your tax preparation would be in the range of <...>

Happy holidays to you and your family.

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Me to accountant
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Thanks for your reply.  I had several chats with different firms and based on my interactions I've decided to proceed with <...>.  Their experience and rate are more in line with my needs right now.

Thanks again for your help <accountant>.  Happy holidays and wish you the best in 2015.

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Accountant to me
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I am disappointed to receive your email.

We will close your file and invoice the $320 in charges expended on your behalf for the 2014 tax projection you requested we prepare.

Good luck to you in your future endeavors.

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Answer: From your emails it sounds like you requested the projections so now you owe them the $320


Title: Is it possible for me as a 19 year old to legally disown my family?

Question:
Not sure if I got the right tag but here we go.

So I’ve been having some problems with my family, (nothing too major that I’m super concerned about),  but I’ve decided that I’m fed up.  I plan on moving out soon and want to put my foot down and legally disown them.

I’ve done a little bit of research and really the only thing I’ve found was emancipation but it seems like something that minors would do.  I don’t feel the need to take that route because I would have no problem financially supporting myself on my own.  Also if I’m thinking correctly, they shouldn’t be considered my legal guardians because I’m an adult now. (Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong).

So I guess the point here is that I’m wondering if there is a way to legally say that they are not considered my family.  I don’t want them to ever be able to contact me or any children I may have in the future.  Is it possible?

Thank you in advance!
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer:
 You're an adult, you can have contact with your family or not. There's no such thing as "legally disowning" someone. It's not a legal concept and there are no legal requirements. Do it if you want.Answer #2: There is no process to "legally disown" someone.

You're an adult. You can do whatever you want.


Title: Denied Employment due to Pre-Employment drug test with positive result from Prescribed Drugs. I made several attempts to show I'm on prescribed medication without results. (Adderall) NO Medical Review Officer involved. [Washington State]

Question:
I am in Spokane County, WA, USA. I recently applied for a job and was told I needed to take a drug test before proceeding further. Interview went well and it seemed the drug test was the only thing needed before filling out paperwork and being hired.
I then took the drug test on a friday.

* I informed the manager of the business that my prescription may cause a positive.
* I brought the documentation and pill bottles to the drug testing facility and attempted to show in good faith there. I was told i would be called if anything was found.
* I ended up calling the drug testing place Monday, was transferred to toxicology and told them about the prescriptions. they informed me that a MRO (Medical Review Officer) is not required in Washington state and the results go directly to the company.

* I went to company and told the manager. I was informed the results went to the central office and they would call me with the results.

* Fast forward 2 days to today and I'm informed the only thing the manager was told was that I failed the test. He told me his hands are tied by corporate and gave me the name of one of the owners and his business number.

* There has been no attempt on either the side of the Testing company or the potential employer to clarify if this is prescription or not. They have all denied my attempts to clear this up as well.

What can I do? Thanks to the recent marijuana legalization in WA finding information on drug testing and prescription drugs that's not about marijuana medical use has been a struggle at best with conflicting answers.

It's not even about this job specifically even though i just need some job at this point but that this seems less than legal or fair in so many ways. Thank you.

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Edit: One last thing I want to add that this is for a grocery store, not some high level or corporate job. or one with special safety concerns. Also that this was the first time I've ever heard that a medical review officer is not a mandatory thing but i'm originally from Chicago, not WA state.

Edit 2.0: Apparently... they're going through a massive internal restructuring and it may be cleared up tomorrow, it was likely buried in the sea of paperwork.

Answer:
 You may have a claim under the ADA.  First, you say it *seems* the drug test was the only thing needed *before* the paperwork was filled out. Under the ADA, you cannot require a candidate to take a pre-offer drug test (it has to be post-offer, sometimes called a "conditional offer"). More facts would be necessary to develop this. Second, the fact that they don't use an MRO adds another ADA wrinkle. You weren't clear on the conversation with the company, but if they asked you directly about any prescriptions, that could be a problem. Employers can follow up about a positive drug test to determine if a prescription caused it, but there are limits on this, and the precise wording matters.  If you offered the information unprompted by an inquiry, there could still be an argument that the decision was based on a perceived disability. (It's been awhile since I looked at the case law on this.) You could consult with an attorney on whether it's worth pursuing an ADA claim.  You can also go directly to the EEOC to file a claim (which you have to do before suing anyway).

As for the MRO part, one of the main reasons employers use an MRO (or at least a laboratory with an MRO) is to avoid violations of the ADA.

As a final note, the ADA only applies to employers with 15 or more employees (I'm not sure how large this grocery store is and whether that restriction would apply).


Title: Can I ask for a charge back if a company isn't honoring their return policy?

Question:
Sorry if this isn't the right place to ask this, but I made the mistake of trusting a website (that looked fairly legit) that said they do free returns for 365 days if you're not satisfied. Well it turns out the sports jersey I ordered was way too big so I asked them for a return label and they said I have to pay for it. They're based in China and it's obviously a knockoff and shipping is expensive. They already said that things get "lost all the time" so I'm guessing even if I sent it back they would claim to never have received it. I'm located in the US in Illinois

Can I try to get my credit card company to issue a charge back? Would this company be able to come after me for the debt? Not sure if I have any ground to stand on with this "free returns" claim.

**Edit:** Well it overwhelmingly looks like I incorrectly assumed the terms of the return. Thank you everyone who responded so quickly. I guess I'll pay for the return and at least get most of my money back.

Answer: Does their return policy promise free return labels


Title: [US,CT] Deceased Mother's Boyfriend

Question:
Hello all,
I'm going to keep this as short as possible but with as much context so hold onto this wild ride.

Background:
23 YO Male in College and Working Full time + Part Time
Only Child and friendly with Mom's boyfriend (We'll call him Jack)
Timeline:
July 5th 2016 - My mother passed away unexpectedly. She was in poor health and needed assistance taking care of things but it turned bad fast.
Assets were ~$40k (Cash)
Debts including mortgage ~$200k

*Disclosure* I have a lawyer who is also hearing this story and giving me advice. However, I like reddit so much, I figured I'd get your opinions as well.

Shortly after my mom's passing, I took control of the estate and started handling things. That's when I realized things were not as it seemed. Bills unpaid for months, mortgage past-due, etc. I quickly rectified everything. This meant taking anything to do with the estate out of Jack's hands. He did not like this. I also drafted a rental agreement for him staying in the house. My mom had him on a verbal agreement.

Everything started changing including our attitudes towards each other. Broken promises led to fights and missed rent payments led to me almost evicting him. One day my mother's car (jointly registered) goes missing and we report it stolen. Turns out it was him all along and wanted to start keeping things for himself. Shortly after that, he moved out, while I was at work. He took EVERYTHING in the house. He even tried to take my rescued dog (big mistake, don't mess with doggo). Police reports filed but they won't touch the missing property because its a civil matter. I then find out my lawyer that Jack is trying to Sue the estate, saying that he is owed something. Shortly after, Mail starts going missing and I talk to the Post Office, find out he's stealing mail and forged a document saying that my deceased mother moved with him to his new place. Notify police again, Post Office notifies Inspectors (Never heard anything back about this). Jack returns to house and tries to break in to get a vacuum, assaults me in the process. Police notified, Jack told never to return, charges filed for assault. I then find out my lawyer that Jack is trying to Sue the estate, saying that he is owed something.

At this point, I think all is well. Its now January and I haven't heard any news from Police or anything from Jack.
Here's where I need your advice:
I went to go pay my mortgage yesterday and noticed online that he contacted the loan servicing company and switched over the phone number and mailing address to his new address. Now I sent them a copy of the Death Certificate and Certificate of Executor after she passed and asked them to only speak to me. He is no-way on the mortgage or loan and only mention was 1-2 times when the payment came from his account (not sure why this happened but was 1-2 years ago). So I call the Loan Servicing Company and complain. The CSR I get told me that he would submit a request to have it changed back and to note the account not to speak to Jack. I ask to speak to the person who can change it immediately and not just request it, was told no I can't. Asked to speak to a manager and received the same answer. Threatened to get my lawyer involved and he said that he would put in a request for a manager to call me sometime in the next week.

I have since placed a call to my lawyer and am waiting a response. Do I have any legal standing against the loan company?
Do I have any further legal standing against Jack for trying to alter the loan?

Thank you in advance! I typed this pretty quick so if I missed any important details, ask away and I will answer to the best of my abilities.

Answer: I understand that you'd like advice while you are waiting on your lawyer to contact you, but if you are represented by counsel, that counsel knows best and has all the facts. Any advice you get here would be based on not knowing all the facts, and that tends to be unhelpful or confusing.


Title: Mom afraid of losing daughter to husband

Question:
I have a friend who cheated on her husband, she lives in California with her daughter and the husband lives in Nirth Dakota because of work, he has lived there for 6 years and visits 3 or 4 times a year for a couple of weeks.

She met someone else and is planning on divorcing to be with her new guy, she is afraid the husband will try take custody, she has stable work, diesnt drink or do anything bad, I dont want to assure her of anything because Im not sure but does he stand a chance of taking her?

Answer:
 IANAL.

It is very difficult for EITHER parent to get full 100% custody of a child unless the other parent is negligent, on drugs, homeless or living with a sex offender...SOMETHING that makes the home unsuitable for a child.
In this case, it's also pretty likely that the fact that the father has only been around for a few weeks at time four times a year for six years makes for a weak case for him to suddenly become the primary caretaker.


Title: (Minneapolis, MN) I punched a guy on the side of the head after he threatened to harm me, and now he's filing charges. What am I in for?

Question:
At the end of one of my classes in college, a guy threatened to physical harm me with a knife in his backpack, so I punched him in the head 4 times. Not hard enough to cause any damage or break bones, and he was able to walk (and talk shit) fine afterwards. Witnesses saw me hit him, and he didn't hit back at all.

He's now saying that he is filing for 5th degree assault against me. What am I in for? Is this bad? I really don't want anything on my record as I am in an engineering college at a prestigious university, and I am thinking about my future jobs in this predicament.

Thank you so much in advance for any kind of help, I am really worrying about this situation.

Answer: Why would you punch someone 4 times in the head for a purely verbal threat?


Title: Private University trying to enforce parking on land owned by the state

Question: My university does not allow freshmen to park on campus, which is understandable considering it is a small campus with limited space. However, as I live within 30 minutes, I decided at the begining of the school year that I would take my car up and see if I could find anywhere i could possibly park. I found that in a lot directly next to my dorm (pretty convienent). Now, the small parking lot has no signs at all, and is owned by the state (checked land records). Now, my university police department are an actual police department, but only have jurrisdiction over university property. I have not had any issues with parking in this lot overnight for the past few months. However, tonight when I parked, a university officer came across the street, asked me for my school ID, then explained to me that "freshmen aren't allowed to have vehicles on campus" and told me if I did not leave I would be towed. Not trying to start anything, I left and spent hours trying to find somewhere to park. The officer even told me that it was state property. However, I feel the officer is just trying to clear the lot of freshmen to allow room for commuters. The reason why I'm a bit aggrivated is the officer was threatening to tow me on land that he not only had jurrisdiction over, but also had no signs stating a time limit. I checked the city's public parking laws and found nothing about a time limit in public laws that do not have posted signs. So, I am wondering if it is reasonable for me to continue to park there, aswell as if I would have recourse in the case of recieving a ticket or being towed. Again, I understand freshmen without passes can't park on campus, but I am in a state owned lot without any signage and to be honest, I feel the university police are just salty that me, and a few other students found a loophole.

Answer: How do you know this "state owned lot" hasn't been designated as being under your university's control?


Title: Backpack stolen by a homeless person

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You can sue the homeless person for the value of whatever is missing, but homeless people are generally judgement proof.


Title: My roommate had a probation sweep and they found a bottle of my alcohol, what could happen

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Anything from a stern warning to a probation violation. There are too many variables to predict what the outcome will be.


Title: My mother has violated my restraining order.

Question:
I am a 23 year old female from Virginia.  Two years ago I was able to get a restraining order against my mother after years for emotional and psychological abuse.  The restraining order expires on January 6 2019.  I have just received a text from an unknown number that identifies them as my mom and is clearly from her.  I also have received calls and messages from other numbers/accounts who I believe to be her but can't verify.

I have been hesitant to go through the courts to get the order renewed in fear that it could open the door to more contact with her but because of this new blatant breaking of the order I am thinking of reconsidering.

I am looking for advice on how to proceed, if a lawyer needs/should get involved, is there something that can be done that will minimize contact with my mom.

Thank you for the help.

Answer:
 Let me put it this way: if you _don't_ report the violations, how seriously do you actually need to restraining order, and what justification do you have for extending it?

It's very likely you'll want to follow through and report this violation, as well as your suspicions that other anonymous contact was your mother, if you plan on trying to renew or extend the order. If she's caught violating a no-contact order, that'll also strongly weigh in favour of renewing it, as it's clear she is still engaging in whatever pattern of behaviour originally justified the order.


Title: [OR] Could OFLA technically allow leave for care of a sick child in which you have no legal guardianship (i.e. girlfriend's kids)?

Question:
I have a co-worker who's one misdirected sneeze away from being fired, and he's trying to interpret the law to mean that no legal guardianship of a sick child is necessary in order to take leave. In other words, if his girlfriend's children are sick, then he's legally allotted time off.

Paperwork has already been submitted for review, but it seems really fishy. I'm assuming he's pulling his interpretation from this oregon.gov FAQ:

https://www.oregon.gov/boli/TA/pages/t_faq_oregon_family_leave_act_01-2011.aspx
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**Q. When can an employee take family leave?**
A. Although there are a few exceptions, OFLA and FMLA generally provide 12 weeks of unpaid leave per year and OMFLA provides for 14 days of unpaid leave per deployment for the following purposes:

* [...]
* To care for a sick child who does not have a serious health condition, but requires home care, known as sick child leave (OFLA only).
* [...]

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Is there a definition of "child" that we're missing?

Answer: No, he's an idiot.  The text of the law (not the FAQ page) defines a child as a "biological, adoptive, foster or step" child.


Title: Parents are kicking me out because I'm Trans (WA)

Question: I've been taking HRT for about 6 months now, but only came out to may parents 2 months ago. At first they seemed supportive but as time went out they frequently asked for talks and asked questions like "What do you want to get out of this," and no answer seemed good enough for them. It finally escalated to a point where I blurted out my plans to move in with a friend in May, but now they want to kick me out early. I have no phone, no car, no job, and only $525 to my name. I'm currently getting in contact with some friends to see if I can crash with them for a week or so. I'd graduate college this year in accounting and finance, but I can't afford the tuition. My closest bet is this coming tuesday/wednesday where I'll find out if I get a paid internship with the state or not. Does anyone know where I can start?

Answer:
 If you are graduating college then I am going to assume you're an adult. If you're not then my answer would change.

Your parents technically need to give you notice before they kick you out, however in a family dispute the police may be less willing to actually help you. Answer #2: It looks like since your parents kicked you out that you would qualify for a dependency override on your FAFSA form.  Meet with your college's financial aid for help.

"Signs of an abusive family environment include the following:

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* Kicking children and/or a spouse out of the house.
* Parents **rejecting** and ridiculing the child, controlling  all outside contact with the child, keeping the child home from school for weeks or months, deliberate humiliation of the child in front of others. "

[http://www.finaid.org/educators/pj/dependencyoverrides.phtml](http://www.finaid.org/educators/pj/dependencyoverrides.phtml)Answer #3: Contact your college's financial aid department, they can help.


Title: [NYC] Possession of weapon 4th degree

Question:
Background: I had a switchblade that was given to me by my brother in law that I carry for self-defense purposes. I was checking in a bag at JFK and I forgot to take out the knife. I got arrested and charged with a misdemeanor - criminal possession of a weapon 4th degree.

I have had no record/arrest before. The policemen and sergeant I talked to said that usually this type of charge with no records or arrests before would result in a "slap on the wrist and a fine". The more I research - the more scared I get cause I'm relatively young and I don't want to end up in jail or anything.

I know from reading that I should lawyer up - but is there anything specific I would need to know or look out for in a lawyer to help me?

also anything to calm me down would be great too...

Answer: A criminal defense attorney is what you want. Also you can expect to get a fine from the TSA.


Title: Got new property manager, charging fee just to pay rent. Is this legal? Am I screwed?

Question:
So my apartment complex got a new property manager (the 4th one in three years) and they sent us all letters stating they were taking over and where to pay rent. They stated I can either pay online with a checking account (which I don't want to do because I don't want to risk being given additional false charges on my checking account) OR pay at a check cashing facility (Ace Cash Express) BUT I have to pay a $4 service charge!

None of the other property management companies before did this as I could always just go to the office and pay my rent there. No service charge, just my rent.

First, I've never been late and have every receipt to prove it.

Second, I only signed a lease with the first property management company and none of the following companies negotiated a new lease, so I just keep paying the same rent as I always have been with no issues.

Third, since my original lease makes no mention of additional payment fees regarding paying my rent, other than late fees, I don't see how I am legally obligated to pay. I called the property management company, and the woman on the line said "that's the rules". And when I said that there is nothing on my lease stating that I am obligated for additional fees without my consent of renegotiating said lease, and to tell me what law states otherwise, she said she didn't know but "that's the rules", over and over.

I didn't yell at her but she could tell I was upset but didn't care. I asked to speak to her manager but she said that her boss would tell me the same thing. I told her that I would be contacting the owner and I thanked her for her time (even though I wanted to rage at this worthless animal) and hung up. I haven't called the owner until I can calm down.

I know it's "just $4" but I'm sick and tired of being nickled and dimed and treated like I'm some stupid piece of garbage that should just take whatever they give. Dealing with the same poor service from Cox cable but that's a whole other mess not worth bringing up. We've had all kinds of tenants that come and go and besides my neighbor, her and myself are the only constants. Never late and don't cause trouble for anyone. You'd think they'd want to keep a tenant like me. No drama, easy money.

Is there anything I can do or is this another thing I have to just bend over and take it?

Sorry for the language and not trying to offend. Just so sick and tired of being forced to be polite to these savages.

Edit: forgot to add I live in Tulsa, OK

Edit 2: Thanks to fallen243's helpful research, it seems I may have recourse but we'll have to see. I'll keep you all up to date as this may take a bit. Thank you all for tolerating rant and advice. I can't give much but make it rain upvotes.

Answer: What does your lease say about how rent is to be paid?Answer #2: You could create a second bank account, make sure it is setup to reject overdraft attempts, and only transfer exactly what is needed to pay rent.


Title: [Pennsylvania] If I intervene on behalf of someone who is being harassed, and the harasser becomes an active and legitimate threat to my life or the lives of those around me, would I be justified in the use of a firearm to neutralize this threat?

Question:
The recent events in Portland, Oregon have spurred me into considering carrying a firearm for personal defense. The bravery exhibited by those three young men, two of whom have lost their lives, has caused me to question if I would have been as brave if I were in their shoes. While I would like to think so, I believe it would be easier knowing I had a firearm to rely on if my life or the life of someone in my immediate vicinity were put in mortal danger.

I am *not* interested in escalating people getting harassed in public into shootouts. I *would* like to be able to intervene when I see harassment taking place, without having to fear that I may have just gotten myself or someone else hurt or worse. My first action in all scenarios would be to call the police to report the incident.

I do not own any firearms, I do not have an FFL, and I have not taken any courses on gun safety, gun law, deescalation, or concealed carrying. Again, I am not interested in becoming a vigilante. I want to be able to help people within the confines of the law as a civilian, and be able to defend myself or others should the need arise.

Edit: Tasers and pepper-spray are a thing too.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Oh Jesus, dial it down Rambo.  First, you had better be 100% aware of what is actually happening.  Reasonable mistakes of fact aren't total bars to criminal prosecution in most states.  You see an armed robbery, shoot the robber, and find out it was a "social experiment" between two consenting people and you may be in some serious trouble.  Second, even if you escape criminal liability, you can have life altering civil responsibility.  I won't even go into the obvious issues with force-on-force engagements by people who don't routinely train for them.

The answer is that you need way more education and training before you even consider doing this. You should also consider that when a hammer is walking around looking for nails, it's likely to find some.Answer #2: What do you mean "harassed"? Do you mean assaulted or do you mean somebody is saying mean words?


Title: Virginia: Someone called CPS in my name? I didn't do anything, but a social worker said I'm trying for custody of my brother?

Question: What all do you have to do to report someone to CPS? What do you have to do and what information do you have to provide to make a play for custody of a sibling? I haven't done either of these things, but my parent is saying I have. I don't know where this is coming from, and I'm seriously concerned that someone has my personal information.

Answer:
 Someone else may have called CPS and your parent is just trying to suss out whether or not it was you by claiming to know for a fact that it was. You could try contacting CPS and asking if it appears in their system that you've reported to them before...they may or may not be interested in answering this question.

 Simply calling CPS is not how acquiring custody works.Answer #2: There isn't much required to report to CPS. It can even be done anonymously. Not sure why someone would report in your name, but even if they did, the reporting person's name is strictly confidential.

Is your parent just guessing that you reported?Answer #3: I think it's unlikely that they have been told who made the report.

In my jurisdiction, which is not your jurisdiction, CPS will not reveal the information of the person who made the report.

In my jurisdiction, you can request a copy of your CPS case history.  It takes about 6 months, and personally identifying information of people who made the report are redacted.  (Though, a keen eye can often read between the lines to figure it out).

I do not think that you need to be concerned that someone has your "personal information", and is using it to make reports to CPS, causing your parents to feel that you are trying to get custody of your siblings.

I understand that this could cause tension in your family.  But, there would really be no issues legally if you had made a truthful report to CPS about your siblings.


Title: [Update, NY] My Tenant is Going to Jail

Question:
I forget the names I used so tenant = Brother A, attempted squatter = Bro B, new to the mix = Bro C.

Anyway, I meant to update this a while ago but life sort of got in the way and I forgot. My attorney (through the tenant's attorney), managed to get a form (forget the exact name, but basically something releasing him from his lease) signed and notarized. Turns out there was a third brother, who is apparently the black sheep of the family by way of not being an enormous piece of shit. He came by and scooped up all of the tenant's belongings, as well as the second brother, who at this point was attempting to squat in the apartment.

Brother C has asked that I go through him before calling the police if the Brother B attempts to get back into the apartment. As much as I appreciate his help, I am not really comfortable honoring his request, but I doubt it'll be a problem as new locks were installed the moment the space was vacated, and the events described in this post happened roughly two weeks ago. And frankly if this guy winds up getting doing some time for trespassing (which is Brother C's concern, as B has some priors [I Am Shocked By This]), it's one less problem/idiot for me to worry about.

Anyway, any general advice on how to proceed beyond "call the cops" if this guy tries to get back in would be appreciated. There was also some damage (beyond normal wear and tear) to the apartment, but I don't know if I can prove if it happened during Brother A's tenancy or while Brother B was attempting to squat there. Frankly at this point I am sort of content to just eat the cost of the repairs (~$1,600, which is a little more than one month's rent) so I can either get it back on the market or use it to expand my practice. I believe there's a 30 day window to deduct repair costs from the security deposit, and I doubt I'll be able to get the remainder (~$400) out of Tenants A or B, so I feel like I should just move on. Is there any reason I shouldn't?

Thanks again for the help.

ETA: I... I think I killed your robot? I'm sorry.

Answer: OP:  https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/4j5poh/my_tenant_is_going_to_jail_ny/Answer #2: Is location bot having a seizure?Answer #3: I'm not sure that it matters if damage was done by Bro A or Bro B, Bro A is responsible until the unit is fully under your control.  It's not worth the hassle / time / legal costs trying to collect the $400 over the deposit.  Just move on, and be glad he is out of your life.Answer #4: What happened to locationbot? I don't see any issue.


Title: My company randomly drug tests employees. I live in NYC. Can they fire me for use of prescribed medical marijuana?

Question:
I have an anxiety disorder, have PTSD, OCD symptoms, and depressive symptoms. I tried SSRIs and would prefer to never go on anything like them again. My twin sister has the same concoction of mental ailments and with a medical marijuana card in MA and a company that doesn't drug test, is living much happier after respondingly similarly poorly to SSRIs.

Do I have a stance legally to appeal to my company (not sure which department, perhaps ethics/compliance or HR?) for the usage of marijuana if medically perscribed to mitigate my mental health symptoms? I am quite confident in their ability to help my symptoms (they definitely helped when I was experiencing panic attacks or depressive swings when I worked for a company that didn't drug test).

I am exercising, am practicing mindfulness, and eating well, and while it helps, I still find myself with a pounding heart, feelings of hopelessness, and a heavy chest that appears to just come without notice that definitely impacts my quality of life. I just started this job (1.5 months in) and it's been a trying time.

My fundamental questions are: Do I have a case here? Is it discrimination of a condition?

If you have any suggestions on how to go about this request from a legality standpoint, or about obtaining a medical marijuana card in NYC, please let me know. Thank you for reading.

Be well friends.

Answer: You are not prescribed marijuana. It's *recommended*, not prescribed.


Title: When someone leaves something at your house, do you legally own it?

Question: My cousin divorced her husband and he left a bunch of his stuff at her house which she inherited from her parents. He left a number of collectible action figures (e.g. Star Wars, X-Men, etc.), a TV, washer and dryer, mattress, etc. He's left this stuff and has basically been using her house for storage. Can she sell these items? Can she throw them out? When do these positions legally become hers? We live in Indiana.

Answer:
 They never become hers simply because they are left in her house. I would suggest that your cousin send the ex a letter by registered mail informing him that she no longer wishes to store his things and he has until x date to have them removed, or she will have them removed from the property.

Alternatively, she could offer to buy them, or ask that he formally gift the items to her.


Title: Discrimination in the workplace

Question:
So I'm a transgender man, and I work in an oilfield welding shop in Alberta Canada. Ive been out for over a year, everyone knows my situation, and everyone knows my preferred name and pronouns. But everyone (boss, office workers, and shop employees) refuses to use them. I'm still called she/her, and they use my legal female name.

I don't have the cash to change my ID right now, and they outright refuse to change the way to refer to me until I have the legal government ID to back it up.

Is this legal, for them to do this? I've been tolerant and patient for over a year now, hoping they'd slowly get more comfortable with it, but they're getting more stubborn and transphobic about it the more I physically change. I don't want to risk my job by making a big fuss about anything. The industry is so slow right now, my boss could lay me off for lack of available work and no one could argue that. There's no work, everyone is basically doing shop duties and waiting for work to roll in.

Ive started documenting each case where a coworker is transphobic or refuses to use my correct pronouns, but short of threatening legal action I don't know how to convince them to change. I can't afford to lose my job, I can't afford to lose any hours, and I definitely can't afford legal fees. If I lose my job, I WILL be homeless in 2 months. If I could find another job, I would, but my industry is really slow and no one is hiring anyone. Going into a different field would mean a big pay cut. I'd really appreciate any advice as to what to do here.
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 It isn't illegal in Alberta to not use your preferred name or pronouns. Some people have made rumblings that it would fall under hate speech, but that hasn't been tried yet, and would likely be unsuccessful.Answer #2: You can’t force anyone to use your pronouns or a name that’s not legally yours. It may be slightly insensitive, but your field isn’t really given to much liberal leanings. If you don’t like it, you’ve got your options.

Now, if they actually do saying anything specifically that could be hate speech, you might have something there.  But calling you by your legal name and actual gender doesn’t fall into this category whether you like it or not.


Title: Want To Make Artist Group Like Daft Punk

Question:
I want to make an artist group like Daft Punk, but I don't know how to keep my name anonymous. I need to trademark the name, get the legal stuff, etc...How's the best way to do this without revealing my identity?

Maybe I'll just need to show them...Lawyers cannot share information, right? But I feel if I became as big as Daft Punk it'd slip out...

Answer:
 > I feel if I became as big as Daft Punk it'd slip out...

Daft Punk's names are Thomas Bangalter and Guy-Manuel de Homem-Christo, so yea, it probably will slip out at some point, to someone.

Don't worry though. Your chances of becoming "big" are slim to none. Answer #2: A lawyer can't ethically take you as a client without knowing who you are.  They have to check for conflicts of interest and they can't do that without your identity.


Title: Getting out of apartment lease

Question:
So I got myself into a bit of a pickle, I signed a lease for an off campus apartment and put down an application fee. The owners of this apartment complex are still in the renewal process for current residents so I was informed that I would be put on a waiting list and offered a place to live if one was available. I had previously talked to my parents and they agreed to pay for the apartment, but due to unforeseen circumstances they are no longer able to pay for the apartment and I must find a cheaper place to live.

I called the apartment complex today and spoke with a manager and she told me I would be required to find someone to "take over my lease" or else I would be legally obligated to pay the full 12 month rent on the lease. I would be ok with this except I have not been offered an apartment yet. I asked if they could simply remove my name from the waiting list and not consider me for the apartment but she told me that was not possible.

Another thing is the credit card I used to pay the application fee had its number stolen so the card has been cancelled. I have not put down a security deposit because I have not been offered an apartment for next year yet. Is there anything I can do to have them remove my name from the waiting list? Or am I stuck with it until I can find someone to take over my lease?

I am in Virginia BTW

Answer:
 Unless you signed a lease (in which case they'd have already breached it by not providing you the apartment) there is no lease for anyone to take over. And they already have someone to take over your spot on the waiting list - the next person on the list. I think whoever you spoke to just didn't understand what you were asking.

Tell them you're no longer interested, they can take you off the waiting list if they want, and if and when they say "ok, an apartment opened up, come sign a lease" tell them "no thanks." You aren't obligated to sign a lease by anything you could have signed. Answer #2: I can't imagine they would have actually had you sign a lease without an actual apartment available, because if it was a true lease that you signed and THEY weren't able to provide, then they would be in violation of the lease...

Definitely get a copy of what you signed. If you don't have one, call the leasing office back (or better yet just go in person) and ask for a copy of what you signed. If they can't give you one, then breathe easy because you probably didn't sign anything and they have nothing on you.Answer #3: Did you sign a lease or an application? If it's a lease you should have a solidified start and end date, a specific unit/apt/building number, monthly payment, among several other details.


Title: [Arizona] My wife was in a car accident. The other party was given a citation for running a red light. My car is totaled and she was injured and taken by ambulance to the hospital. What do I need to do now? Please help reddit.

Question:
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: Get in touch with your auto insurance provider and tell them what happened. They will talk you through the process.


Title: Can Americans use the "Right to be forgotten" law that was passed in Europe?

Answer: I don't believe so. Why would an EU court have jurisdiction here?


Title: Habitual Late Payment of Rent (Landlord - Florida)

Question:
State is Florida.

I am considering investing in rental property in Florida.  What can be done if someone habitually pays late in this state?  I guess this is more of a question on what if someone habitually violates the lease, remedies it (pays the late fee in this case), then does it again, and again, and again.  Although they remedy, it causes stress.

I know that you can attach reasonable late fees to the terms of the lease but some tenants just treat them as a cost of doing business and constantly pay late.

I have bills to pay and unfortunately mortgage lenders do not let me pay whenever I feel like.  I have cash to absorb a few missed months of rent but chasing down late paying tenants causes undue stress, even if they pay.  I've dealt with this in other states.

Some states have a a duty to cure where a landlord must stop eviction proceedings if the tenant can catch up.  I would rather not play those games for habitual offenders as I waste a ton of time sending notices and starting proceedings just for them to pay and do it again in a month or two.  I want them out and a more reliable person in.

Can I refuse the late payment and start eviction proceedings assuming I give the proper notices?  Can I include a "3 strikes" clause in which after 3 late payments the tenant must voluntary leave within X days or the eviction proceedings start?

State is Florida.

Answer:
 So, first up, if you're getting in the landlord business, you want a 6-month buffer for the mortgage on all your properties.

Second, for cases like this, my rule is late fee after the 5th and 3-day pay-or-quit on the 15th.

You can include a 3-strikes clause on your lease, but I'm not sure why you would. Late fees can be advantageous and profitable - while I only charge 5% late fees, they account for something like 10-15% of my positive cash flow in any given year. And you also can't mandate the tenant voluntarily leave - you'll still have to evict if they elect to stay. You could put something in the lease to the effect of "Late payments for 3 concurrent months will be considered to have violated the terms of the lease; any subsequent payment not on-time will be grounds for eviction."


Title: [PA] Can a company who claims they have a pipeline that traverses my property access the property any time they want without permission?

Question:
Got a letter today addressed to 'resident' at my address (we own the property/house) from an energy company.

It says that they operate a high pressure petroleum pipeline that traverses our property and they need to conduct a "close internal survey" on the pipeline, which will involve personnel walking with equipment to gather readings. They specify a contractor they will be sending.

They say they cannot provide the exact dates they will need to access the property, but after September 24th, and it may take several months to complete.

Do they have the right to just demand access to the property to do this? Can I insist that they give 24 hours notice, or insist that they not come on the property without giving a specific date?

What are my rights here?

Answer: They're going to have a utility easement for the property. This grants them the right to access the property.


Title: I have 100k saved up pre-marriage. Thinking of proposing to my GF. How do I prevent this 100k from becoming community property and split 50/50?

Question:
I am NOT married yet. I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for two years. Now worst case scenario "we get married but divorce" after x number of years. How do I protect my savings accumulated before marriage from becoming subject to a 50/50 split, WITHOUT A PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT?

We are in the US.

Also FYI, I do not live with her at the moment. We do not plan on living together before marriage because we are both from religious households where that is deeply frowned upon. I know most people here will balk at that but again due to social pressures it is not realistic to live together before marriage.

Answer: A prenup is exactly what you need in this situation. There's not really another air-right way to protect that money, because prenups exist for this exact purpose.


Title: Roommate Fell Asleep Behind the Wheel of an Ambulance

Question:
Some backstory.. My roommate works for an ambulance service as an EMT. He works on a 24-hour shift as a driver and a medic. Also, he is an avid marijuana smoker in a criminalized state.

A few days ago, more that half-way through his 24-hr shift, he gets woken up after just a 20 minute nap. He told by a supervisor that he has to drive on a 5 hour trip one way, drop off a patient, then drive back. About an hour into the drive back he falls asleep and crashes the ambulance in to the guardrail, totaling the ambulance. He's taken a drug test using clean pee and has been told he's not aloud to be on a truck until the investigation was over.

My question is, is there any legal repercussions that could come from this?
Is there a law the ambulance company was breaking by having him drive for driving past a certain amount of hours without a certain length of break?

EDIT: Probably should've added this important fact in the beginning, but he was not under the influence at the time, nor is he anytime while at work. I guess I ASSummed that would be understood, considering the nature of the job.

Answer:
 Nice to know the guy driving the emergency vehicle that can literally save your life is an "avid marijuana smoker." Perhaps your friend should seek out another hobby or, better yet, another job.

> is there any legal repercussions that could come from this?

I sure hope so.
Answer #2: > He's taken a drug test using clean pee

So he committed fraud as well?