Title: Recorded a possible wrongful arrest, now what? [ON, Canada]

Question:
Hi /r/legaladvice! I feel like I can't be the first person to ask this question, but couldn't find anything by searching. Apologies if this is well trodden ground.

I was walking home this evening and came across a developing situation between a lone cop and man who was pleading for the one other passerby to record his arrest, and for his wife (who he was trying to phone) to call a lawyer. I started filming on my phone because the cop seemed to be escalating the situation where it wasn't necessary, and there was no apparent reason why the man was being detained. Of course, there could easily have been an earlier interaction that I missed that justified the cop's action.

Shortly after I started filming, six more police cars showed up, more cops piled out — an incredible show of force when the one individual involved was not resisting and already cuffed. One in particular got in my face, telling me to leave and shining his flashlight into my camera so it wouldn't record properly. This just made me more uncomfortable with the situation.

My question here is, what do I do now? I have video of the incident right up until they bundled him into a police car and drove off, but it's not something that I can say for sure shows police misconduct. Are there any resources where I could have someone take a look at the recording and assess what I saw?

Is there any way I can find out who this man is? I would like him to have the recordings if the events of the arrest become an aspect of a future legal case for him, but I have no idea if there is a way I can reach out.

Finally, is there anything else I could/should be doing with regards to this situation? I really have no idea what protocol to follow here. Any insights would be greatly appreciated!

Answer:
 It's not illegal to have 6 officers respond to an arrest. I can have 6 cops show up to take a shop lifter into custody and I don't need to justify a thing. The things that are concerning are whether the police delivered any strikes while the subject was not resisting or was already in handcuffs.

I've had more than one suspect scream for help in an effort to make me hesitate. Doesn't work against me and I'm glad to see it didn't work against those mounties.


Title: Arrested In TX for less than 2oz Marijuana. Arraignment is on Monday.

Question:
I was traveling through TX on a road trip from Santa Fe, NM to Orlando, FL a few weeks ago. I was arrested in Post, TX for possession of "less than 2oz of marijuana." I only had 3 grams of marijuana on me. They set my arraignment date for March 14th.

I'm planning on driving down there on Monday (I live in Santa Fe, NM) but I'm pretty much going in blind. This was my first time being arrested and it will be my first time in court and I have no idea what to expect or what I should do?

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Answer: You're facing a drug charge that can affect the rest of your life. Plead not guilty and ask for time to hire an attorney, then hire an attorney.


Title: Not sure what to do or next steps

Question: Arrested for failure to obey a lawful order. No prior record of any sort (1 parking ticket). I tried to get into a cop car when I was drunk thinking it was a taxi and prevented their vehicle from moving forward by standing in front of it. I wasn't given a phone call in jail. What are the chances of the prosecution dropping the charges to a parking ticket and expunging the arrest from my record. I just finished my masters degree and am an active member of my community.

Answer: They're not going to drop it. You need an attorney.


Title: My infertility doctor made me infertile, should I try to ask him to refund my money or go directly to an attorney?

Question:
I deleted my last post because I think it was too much of a medical malpractice question. I am pretty certain I have a case for medical malpractice, as I have documented proof that my fertility doctor knew that the procedure he recommended carried significant risks of causing permanent damage (which I believe I now have) and that he failed to warn me about these risks where any other doctor would have.

Before I meet with an attorney, I was wondering about just asking the doctor to refund the money I have paid him for fertility treatment, so that I can use it to get whatever surgical repairs I may need to try and fix this problem (my insurance is horrible). This may be a ridiculous idea, but part of me feels guilty about the idea of suing him for making a mistake, however harmful it may have been to me.  I thought maybe it would be reasonable to ask before just blindsiding him, but I don't know if in the process I may inadvertently hurt my chances to win a lawsuit if he says no. I'm not interested I ruining his career or getting rich, I just feel that his mistake was big enough that I'm entitled to a refund. Should I talk to him about it first or would that be pointless?

(I'm in WA state)

Answer:
 Medical malpractice is very fact specific and it is unfortunately beyond the scope of this subreddit. It is highly recommended to speak with a medical malpractice attorney; your state's bar may be able to refer you to one. They typically work on contingency, meaning there is little up front cost to you. Similarly, consultations are typically free. It wouldn't hurt to meet with one, have them look over your info, and go from there.

*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*Answer #2: You should talk to a malpractice attorney. No one here has any of the facts about your situation. The initial consultation is free.


Title: Part-time Employee Quits no 2 Week Notice for Another Job [Ontario]

Question: Had an employee give me no notice other then finding another job verbal nothing written. i do not want the employee back; but what legal recourse do I have interms of acknowledging the former employees action to quit and giving lack of notice in a timely manner.

Answer: What are you wanting or expecting? You had a part time employee quit on you.  Unless he had a no compete contract and is breaking that then you have no legal recourse.


Title: Police asking for information from 15 years ago, I'm not interested in sharing

Question:
Throwaway account! Just got a call from police. I am a 31 year old female originally from Colorado but now living outside of Chicago. When I was 16, I had a sexual relationship with somebody who was considered to be a person of trust (non-family related). She was 22 at the time. Normally, this would have been within the realm of consent by Colorado law *if s*he weren't in a position of trust (Colorado has a close-in-age exception to consent laws). I didn't view it as "rape" until years later since I gave consent as well as I could as a 16 year old.

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Although this troubled me at the time, I have since totally left it behind. I never took any legal action (didn't want the hassle), I have completely recovered from any trauma, and am now living halfway across the country. The police just called and mention my rapist by name, and said that they would like to speak to me about my relationship with them saying that they are being pressed with charges for an inappropriate relationship with "somebody like me". I told them I would call them back.

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I really want to sweep this under the rug. I am a single mom and have a developmentally disabled child I cannot imagine leaving for even a day. I am living paycheck to paycheck and working several jobs just to make ends meet, and cannot afford to take time off if I am subpoena'd (if that's even how it works). And honestly, even if I had no kids or jobs, I still wouldn't want to participate. I'm really just ready to move on from this part of my life. Do I have to call back? Am I obstructing justice by not sharing my story? Can I tell them I'm not interested in sharing? Will I be court-ordered if I don't co-operate? Should I lie and said I never had any relationship with my rapist? What is the best way to legally get out of this whole thing. I wish I never got this phone call.

Answer:
 > Do I have to call back?

no.

> Am I obstructing justice by not sharing my story?

no.

> Can I tell them I'm not interested in sharing?

Yes

> Will I be court-ordered if I don't co-operate?

maybe. Hard to say.

> Should I lie and said I never had any relationship with my rapist?

I do not recommend this course of action.

You are under no obligation to speak to the police. However, if they contact you again you may want to just tell them you're not interested in speaking with them, instead of just trying to dodge their calls. If they subpoena you, they subpoena you (nothing you can do to stop them). It's impossible to predict how likely that is. If you are subpoenaed, ask about if you can answer questions via phone, etc., or come back here for more advice. Answer #2: You are currently under no obligation to talk to anyone. You can simply say 'I'm not interested in talking to you' if they wish to speak to you against your wishes they'd need to get a subpoena. It is unlikely they'd go that route as an uncooperative out of state witness doesn't do a lot of good for them.

I'd encourage you to help, if this person has a pattern of inappropriate behavior they will continue to ruin young girls lives until they are brought to justice.


Title: (mo)City charging me wih child endangerment

Question: [deleted]

Answer: It doesn't really matter - your 3.5yo managed to get out of your house and wander into traffic. Short of someone else kidnapping your baby...


Title: Got suspended from work for "discrimination" when I wasn't even discriminating against anyone, what can be done about this?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 they should have just fired you, I would have,Answer #2: You're not allowed to harass someone based on national origin, which is pretty close to what you did.  Taking issue with an accent has been ruled as basically discrimination based on national origin.

The boss is protecting themselves from a harassment complaint with the government and was correct in suspending you.  I would have fired you and contested your UI if you filed.Answer #3: > I kept telling him to speak actual English

Piece of professional advice - not legal advice, just, a thought on how to survive in the professional world: _never do this_. If you sincerely believe that you cannot communicate with one of your colleagues, say so politely, or speak to your boss about it, but "speak proper English" is never an appropriate way to approach it.

Your boss can fire you for this. Your boss can suspend you for this. Arguably, if your boss did nothing, your coworker may have a case against your boss for fostering a hostile work environment: you were discriminating against him on the basis of his national origin, which is a protected class.


Title: Why did a Colorado city pay $262,500 for a dog that got shot by police? I thought you could only ask for the value of the dog in situations like that.

Question:
Currently on /r/all

http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_29430145/commerce-city-pays-262-500-family-whose-dog

Answer:
 they didn't sue for the death of the dog. they sued for "Fourth Amendment violations among other civil rights actions" according to the [Animal Law Center's press release](http://www.theanimallawcenter.com/OurFirm/News/tabid/60/ID/58/Civil-Lawsuit-Filed-Over-2012-Police-Shooting-of-Therapy-Dog.aspx).Answer #2: Disclaimer:  I know nothing about this case.

But before this thread turns into too much of a shitshow, I want to point out that the city paying a settlement does not, by itself, mean that the officers acted improperly.

If the city's lawyers and accountants determined that the officers acted appropriately and thought they could win at trial, but the cost to the city to fight it would be $300,000, then they save money by paying out $262,000.


Title: Signing with a friend's startup. How can I cover myself?

Question:
Im signing to help with a startup a friend is working on. I've signed an NDA and can't discuss any details about the business itself. I was promised equity some time back, but haven't signed any paperwork aside from the NDA. Our lawyer is finalizing the operating agreement, which I've been promised would grant me 1% equity.

I'm new to all of this, and I've read about a lot of legal issues with startups. What do I need to know to ensure that I don't end up screwed on this?

Answer: Get your own attorney, don't share one with him or the company


Title: Reddit, my friend's mom will not move out of my apartment, and her name isn't on the lease. How do I get rid of her? [Los Angeles]

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 She's not illegally squatting, she's a tenant. You need to follow the proper tenancy termination procedures for your area. That means giving her 60 days notice if she's lived there over one year (30 days if not). If she fails to move out after the notice period, you can file for eviction in court.

Of course if "Q" doesn't want her out, and he is on the lease, then you can't kick her out on your own at all.


Title: Assaulted by girlfriend... Need advice!!

Question: So to keep this short... I was drunk and was lightly touching my girlfriend... like a tickle light...  punched me and caused significant bruising... it was a couple days ago... what can I do? Bruising  still bad and visible... please let me know!

Answer:
 Translation: "I was drunk and I kept tickling my girlfriend, even after she told me to cut it out, so she punched me."Answer #2: Don’t get drunk and mess with people who apparently don’t want physical contact?

You can file a police report. I’m guessing the other side of the story makes this far worse for you than her. Answer #3: First - sentences end with 1 (one) period. Like this (.). Not three.

Second, you can either:

A) File an incident report with the police and take it where it leads; or

B) Break up with her and move on

Question is, do you still want a relationship with this girl? If yes, probably best to have a discussion while sober about boundaries. If no, break up, move on.


Title: Sell legal items on darknet markets

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You could be accused of facilitating money laundering.


Title: [WA] I want to send a dildo to a certain politician that I don't like. Is this illegal and/or could I get sued?

Question:
The "dildo" in question is a really [empty dildo box](https://www.wittyyeti.com/products/ship-your-friends-an-embarrassing-box-prank-bigassdildos). This politician is trying to put certain laws in place that attack my constitutional rights. Needless to say, I want to do something about it. Preferably super petty. I don't think writing an angry letter in crayon would cut it.

I don't want to act on impulse just yet, so that's why I'm asking you guys. If this isn't illegal, then I'll probably do it to at least five politicians. This is completely serious. Thanks.

Answer:
 Don't waste your time or money.  The politicians in question will never see it or know about it.  The person handling the mail will simply throw it away.Answer #2: Here's the applicable statute:

18 U.S. Code § 1461 - Mailing obscene or crime-inciting matterAnswer #3: On a personal note: I would love to see the constitutional case around this. This could be seen as politically protected speech. On the other hand it might not. I just want to see a bunch of geriatric white men arguing it.Answer #4: I kind of want to know what constitutional rights are potentially being attacked. Answer #5: Oh come on, at least tell us who the politician is!


Title: Tenants rights

Question: [Illinios] Signed a 3-year lease contract on a house on Nov.2016. Landlord informed us he's selling the house 3 days after he placed it on the market. What are the landlord's responsibility to us for breaching the contract? Also, Are we obligated to let people in to see the house? It's been a hassle, inconvenient and scary letting strangers in. We pay rent (on time) & deserves our privacy & security. By the way, if we decide to move out, are we going to be in trouble for breaching the contract? Will landlord pay for the expenses?

Answer:
 > Are we obligated to let people in?

Yes, so long as you are given reasonable notice before hand.


Title: (TN) My BiL died last week and my sister cannot find the will and her name is not on the house deed.

Question:
She meets with a lawyer on the 22nd but until then my sister and nephew (he’s 22) are stressing that they will lose their home. Her name never ended up on the house and her FiL mentioned that he’s “sure we aren’t waiting too long for it to go into default”. The fact that he even mentioned that is now making her worry. Her husband always said “you guys will be taken care of” but a monetary amount was never mentioned and now that she can’t even find his will—she’s stressing. My BiL “spoiled” her in the sense that she never had to worry about stuff like this, so I guess her name being on the house just slipped through the cracks. Can she not just pay the mortgage? Why would it matter who pays, as long as it’s paid, right? I don’t know what to say to her, it was a very sudden and unexpected death that may involve a malpractice lawsuit. Any help or direction would be so appreciated.

If anything doesn’t make sense please let me know. I just want to help calm my sister’s nerves!

Edit more info— my sister is on the sale of the house, but not the actual deed, they think it’s a mistake

Answer:
 Even if there is no will, the wife is almost always the beneficiary. She can pay the mortgage company, the house ( and other assets) would be put in her name after probate if he died without a will.
I'm sorry for your loss.Answer #2: Normally property will pass to the spouse in the absence of a will (and even in spite of a will). She shouldn’t worry.


Title: Didn't get my keys on closing date.

Question:
Hey,

So I was meant to get my keys to a condo i purchased today from the lawyer.  His secretary told me they have the keys but couldn't complete the transfer of property today because he had to leave the office.

What course of action can I take? Cause I find this unprofessional.

Answer: If the property transfer isn't complete you don't own the property yet and he can't give you the keys.  Do you know what issues remain the prevented closing today?


Title: [IL] Would the wet bandits be able to sue the McCallister family for the injuries received during the attempted robbery?

Question:
There are many cases of real criminals breaking into homes and then suing when they got injured. Booby traps are illegal because they could harm people legally allowed to enter the home like firemen or police officers.

Could the wet bandits sue? For example I imagine what was done to the doorknob would be grounds for lawsuit because what if a police officer had tried to help out and gotten third degree burns on his hands?

I realize Kevin would not be charged with crimes because he's a child and defending himself but could his parents face legal action? Especially since they left him unattended.

The wet bandits would probably still go to jail for their other crimes but I'm curious if they could still get a settlement out of the booby traps which did seriously injure (and nearly kill) them on multiple occasions.

Answer:
 Another important factor to remember is that Kevin specifically knew they were going to rob his house at that specific time. He overheard their conversation. How that would play out, I do not know. But that isn't the typical spring gun scenario. Answer #2: There was a criminal case in MN a year or two ago where some local teens had repeatedly broken into a mans' home/garage and stolen stuff.

So - the guy sets a trap for the teens, knowing they would be back eventually.  He makes it look like no one is home, parks his car at his neighbor's or brother's place (something like that) and waits.  Teens break in and he shoots and kills one of them.

Guy is convicted - 1st degree murder.  There were other factors, but one was that he planned the whole thing - set a trap for the burglars.


Title: Someone using my identity on tinder, options?

Question: I (21y/M) in MA have realized someone has taken pictures from my Facebook page and set up a Tinder (online hookup app) profile, using my name as well. This has gone on for a few months. I posted a status on my page, and put out a few tweets so my friend base knew there was an imposter. I just received another message from a distraught young female, claiming that I harassed her on Tinders chat feature. After explaining the situation, she informed me of the imposters alleged address. Do I have any sort of legal recourse? Or any other ideas?


Title: My landlord makes me keep my dog outside in the yard and now he is mad at me for my dog's pee killing the grass. If the grass doesn't recover in a month will I be liable for any damages? [CO]

Question: My lease is over in a month. It has killed the grass in several spots but the entire yard isn't wrecked. Honestly I don't even know if he could prove that my dog's pee is the cause just because there are some dead spots in the front yard too where my dog never goes.

Answer:
 Yeah you’re responsible for any damages your dog causes. Additionally there probably are provisions and policies that you’ve agreed to if you’ve signed a contract to stay where you are.Answer #2: Can you buy and plant new grass? Grass seed is cheap, can be obtained at any hardware or garden strore, and grass grows very quickly.

Your landlord can't hold back the deposit for lawn damage if there is no lawn damage.


Title: Can a store charge me for items i didnt not buy?

Question:
Hi folks,

I ordered some items online from a store then decided to cancel that order later. The items still got shipped do to employee mistake. The store asked if I could return them, which I was fine with. When they arrived I signed for them from my local post office. I left them in my car as a reminder to return them when I had the time. My car got broken into last week and among the items taken were the items to return. Now the store is saying I owe them the money since I signed for the items from the post office. Are they in the right to do that? I wanted to ask this before I sent them any money.

Answer: You are responsible for either returning the items or paying for them. The circumstances that are causing you to be unable to return the items doesn’t exclude you from the responsibility. As you can no longer send back the items your only option is to pay for them. You can recover this cost to you from the thief or your insurance.


Title: Selling a car to an illegal immigrant. He is offering cash. Legality

Question:
Sorry if this is the wrong place to post, I'm in college and trying to sell my vehicle.

I've gotten a few offers so far, but the best one is from an illegal immigrant who is offering my full asking price of 6k. This would be my first auto transaction. I understand I have to sign his name to the title which I have in my possession(car is fully paid off).

So my questions are, is this legal? What do I do about registration? The car is registered in my name, I don't want him to drive off and commit a crime with a car that still has my name on it. Can illegals even register cars/get license plates? I live in NC. Help.

Answer:
 you are under no duty to verify the buyer's identity or immigration status.

just follow every step on the dmv website.

http://www.ncdot.gov/dmv/vehicle/title/transfer/


Title: Ontario - Store didn't charge me for a purchase, but wants me to come back and pay, what are my rights in this situation?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You owe them for the TV. Why would you think you wouldn't? If I walked into a car dealership and my financing falls through, I have to bring the car back *and* they can charge me for mileage.

Same situation. You're trying to get a cheap TV.


Title: NC- housewife of 2 kids for 9 years, married for 10. husband wants divorce. What are my options/rights?

Question:
(throwaway- forgive errors, more of a lurker than a poster)
My husband hit me with this bomb yesterday that he wants a divorce. I've been a housewife for 9 years and our children are 9 and 14 years old. He wants to live together till i find a job/get financial security then one of us move out. He's still saying he loves me though and trying to hug me/kiss me on the cheek. I want to rip the band-aid off and just have him (or me) move out this weekend. what are my options in NC to get the best solution for my kids and me? I have no savings of my own, so would need a lawyer who would work on a payment plan or something. I know nothing about any of this.

Answer: Yes, contact a local divorce attorney.


Title: (IL) Elderly father died. Child A informs children B through E that a will exists, and that child A is listed as executor and heir to everything. He also claims there is actually nothing left to inherit after all debt is paid. How best to ensure the siblings are not being misled?

Question:
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Topic:
Contracts

Answer: Children B-E can demand a copy of the will before chipping in for burial expenses.


Title: Is it legal for my father to do this?

Question:
My dad is pissed at me and has said that I whenever I am in the house, I will not be able to go anywhere except my room until I am 18 and move out (currently 15). California, USA. Is this legal?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: So you're asking us if it's legal to be grounded.Answer #2: Yes. As long as you have access to the bathroom also. And area fed appropriately.


Title: Cancer patient with custody agreement

Question: I live in PA. I have custody of my 9 year old daughter. There's an order in place that my daughter is to go to her maternal grandmothers every other weekend. I'm wondering if I have to send my daughter there during this whole corona scare. PA has closed schools and nonessential businesses. I have stage 4 lung cancer and Im currently on chemotherapy. My daughters maternal grandmother gets 8 different children, my daughter included, every other weekend. I am very concerned about sending my daughter there and her potentially becoming sick. I cannot risk getting this. I only have one lung left and currently on chemo. I'm certain this would kill me. The children all go to different schools so I feel there's a higher chance of one of them having this and not knowing it. Do I have to send my daughter there even though we have a custody agreement? Her weekend is coming up, this Friday, and I'm not sure if I should start this fight or not. She's not very willing to work with me, on anything, so I know she's not going to willingly allow my daughter to stay home. I'm contemplating just dealing with the legal repercussions of not sending her. Any help or advice would be very appreciated. Thank you.

Answer: NAL but if I were you I’d probably risk it and not send her... You might get yelled at by a judge when the courts reopen in a month or two but at least you’ll be alive to get yelled at. I’m not usually one for buying in to the fear but my lungs are garbage too (asthma and too many bouts of pneumonia) so I’m not messing around with this bug.


Title: Are there US federal or state laws (any state) which forbid paying someone for accurately predicting that a particular person will soon show up in the voter rolls?

Question: [removed]

Answer: Essentially, you want to pay people to register to vote. Why not say it?


Title: Does Universal own the rights to their interpretation of the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park films?

Question:
This question started out as something for /r/legaladvice (I'd like to make a business logo/outing around the Dilophosaurus with its frill), but I thought it might be interesting to expand the question, thus I'm posting it here.
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Now, if I wanted to use, say, the T-Rex or the Triceratops, obviously I can. The way they are depicted in the Jurassic Park franchise is (pretty) accurate, so it's just like using any animal. However, the depiction of two dinosaurs in particular, the Velociraptor and the Dilophosaurus, is rather specific to the Jurassic Park films.
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The Velociraptor was depicted as 6 foot tall, but in reality they were about half that size. Not having feathers, well, there's plenty of historical depictions of that. But say you're writing a story, making a film or a game, could you make/use a 6 foot tall raptor, and instead of calling it a Deinonychus or a Utah raptor (which could be accurate), specifically call it a Velociraptor?
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Now, with the Velociraptor it's just in a name. There were dinosaurs that (at the time we thought) looked the way Jurassic Park depicted them, but they were just called differently. However, to my knowledge Jurassic Park is the originator of the Dilophosaurus with a frill around its neck. Obviously the Dilophosaurus is an actual animal, but how much freedom is there in depicting a Dilophosaurus with a frill around its neck?
And to throw in my original question, can I use a Dilophosaurus with a pizza around its neck as a business logo?

Answer:
 Since this is "legaladviceofftopic" I'm allowed to do this:

I don't know the answer, so I can't help you here -- but I must say that's one incredibly interesting question. (At least, it's right up my alley; maybe not everyone would find it interesting but I certainly do.)


Title: I saved two DEFINETELY orphaned rabbits

Question:
My dogs killed a mommy rabbit a couple of mornings ago, and we caught them in time to save two out of three of the babies found. I took the babies inside and immediately did research to find out how best to keep them until I could find a rehabilitation center to get them to. It's been a week, I have called 4 places, all recommended or found online, and none are willing to take them, as they are either full or the babies are too young (I didn't understand this part).
Anyways, it's been 4 days, and these babies are killing it, they are doing really well, and I've done all I can to look after them. I plan to call back in a week and see if they have any availability, but now I'm afraid that my untrained care will have ruined their survival chances in the wild. I'm not touching them unless to make sure they are alive and just sleeping, and when I am feeding them/urinating them. I'm in TN. btw, and I've tried to do some research on my options of keeping them? I'm 100% not actively wanting to keep them, but if no rehab place takes them within two weeks, I'm not giving them away to someone else after 2 weeks of hand feeding them, ya know? I couldn't do it, I'd feel like they weren't getting the love and care they deserve from anyone else but a professional (probably untrue). So what can I do? I  saw that they're classified as Class III wildlife animals but what does that mean?

Answer: The classifications are spelled out [here](https://www.animallaw.info/statute/tn-exotic-pet-part-4-exotic-animals#s403). IANAL but it looks like you’re good unless you’re raising them to sell the meat.


Title: [TX] Sliding Overtime Policy; is this legal?

Question:
This is a new policy at my job. Everyone I've asked advice from is unfamiliar with this sort of agreement and agrees that it sounds shady. I appreciate all input.

"Adjusted Rate Agreement

We are pleased to offer you an adjusted rate agreement so you can work more than 40 hours with (home health company) on an on-going basis.  Because of the scheduled on-going hours with your client(s) we are able to offer you this agreement.

The basic premise of this agreement is as follows:

· We must keep overtime to a minimum. Our clients do not pay for overtime.

· We can limit your hours to under 40 hours a week or

· We can provide an adjusted rate so you can work more than 40 hours a week for an average rate that equals your normal compensation.

o Example: 50 hours a week – with average rate of $10.00/hr.

o The first 40 hours would be paid at a rate of $9.10  ( 40 x $9.10 = $364)

o The 10 additional hours would be paid at the 1.5 rate of $13.65 (10 x $13.65 = $136.50)

o Total compensation is $500.50 divided by 50 hours worked = $10.01/hr average rate

· The advantages to you are as follows:

o Able to work for as many hours as you desire for regular scheduled clients of (home health company) without having to work for another company to begin the 40 hour week compensation.

o The adjusted rate can be adjusted as you gain or lose hours with regular clients

o You are guaranteed the average wage per hour even if the client reduces hours suddenly.

§ If this happens you will receive an “Other Pay” compensation line item on your paycheck.  This amount will cover the difference in compensation to ensure that you will receive your average rate for every hour that you worked.

This truly is a win-win scenario for care givers who desire to work more than 40 hours a week on a consistent basis."

Answer:
 So your pay goes down the more you work over 40 hours to, I assume, not less than minimum wage?

In effect, you work more hours and make the same pay?

Hard pass.

Not legal advice, but I would start looking for a new job.


Title: I was the victim of a robbery. Police made an arrest, charges were pressed. Now, a public defense investigator is trying to get in touch with me. Should I comply?

Question: Am I required to comply with the public defense investigator? What would you typically advise your clients to do in this scenario?

Answer:
 You aren't required to meet with the defense investigator.  You might let the prosecutor on the case know they asked.

>What would you typically advise your clients to do in this scenario?

That they aren't required to meet with the defense investigator, and they might let the prosecutor on the case know they asked.


Title: [IL] Got served a summons for a private student loan

Question:
Hi, I took one semester at a private university in 2007 before I dropped out. My priorities were amess, I was more focused with issues that in hindsight were of no real consequence, and being an escapist, I never bothered to file for financial aid or address the finances of that one semester. The result, as most of you would guess and my title stated, was that ignored bills evolved into overlooked collection letters and dodged phone calls. My debt changed hands multiple times, and finally I've been served a summons for an amount a little over $20,000.

The truth is, I've spent much of the last 6 years amassing significant savings with my simple job. If I wipe out my savings, I can pay off the majority but not the entirety of the balance. However, from a (possibly twisted) personal business standpoint, I am reluctant (Captain Obvious says paying debts is a drag) to pay such a sum for something intangible that will add no value to my life. I don't need to list all of the things I would rather spend the money on, obviously.

I'm not terrible at saving, and I would have more than double my current savings, but I ended up contributing roughly $30,000 to my parents' mortgage at a time when they were having difficulties. Now that they've refinanced, they're no longer financially threatened.

Paying for the debt has even less value for me because, though I've been trying to go back to school, the reason that I dropped out was because at the job I had gotten then, a girl (I was dumb and lonely kid with convoluted priorities, aforementioned) had cozied up to me and initiated a relationship before abruptly pretending I didn't exist, in what hindsight leads me to believe as an attempt to penetrate the social circle that included our manager and myself. I will never know in certainty, and my lens might of course be colored with bias, but when she dropped me, got intimate with my manager, and replaced me in the social circle, I was pretty devastated and depressed. I didn't bother finishing the semester and also left the company.

If you've dealt with me up to this point, the pertinent details are that the debt is a little more than $20k all told including collections and court costs. They have a document that states that registering for classes online entails agreeing to all charges stemming from attending those classes. I haven't attempted to make payments in good faith and thus won't qualify to have my debt discharged even if I qualified. So, my questions are, as follows:

1) Are there any practical ways to avoid paying this debt, in a "this-is-business, not-necessarily-asking-about-the-morality-of-not-paying-a-debt" kind of way?

2) Under contemplation is submitting a denial for my answer to the summons in hopes that they will be willing/more willing to negotiate a settlement. Would that be wise?

3) I'd received spam from local law firms that I've both seen and not seen on television, that I assume comb the lawsuits filed daily and send out letter en masse. Are these law firms more or less capable/approriate for defending me? One of them is the famous Peter Francis Geraci.

4) What happens if I take the portion of my savings that I have in my bank accounts out of them?

5) If they do win a judgement and attempt a lien, how would they find my accounts/about what percentage would they take from my monthly earnings?

A sincere THANK YOU to those who have bothered with this post, and while some of you might read this post and disaprove the guy trying to dodge his debt, whether you believe me or not I was just a dumb sheltered kid that spent $20 every now and then to catch a movie and grab some Potbelly's sandwiches, for whom an amount like $15,000 was difficult to wrap his head around. I was "playing adult," and I was too proud, scared, and ashamed to ask my parents for help, so I ran. Now knowing the difficulties my parents were in back then, I don't regret not burdening them with my debt at all. I'm a tiny bit smarter financially than I was before, but this mistake's caught up to me, and now that it's caught me, it might be hard to get it to release me. I just wish that I could use bankruptcy to shield myself and void debt like corporations do. :(

Answer:
 They bought your debt for literally pennies on the dollar.  Call them up and offer 5k.  If they wont take it, go up to 10k.  They will likely accept.

Also when you call, leave the life story out of it.


Title: Got a bad reference and now I cant work

Question:
So I have been a RN for 3 years. I have been in my current position for the last 2 years and have not been the happiest. I didn't have the best first start. I got along with most of the people, but on gal couldn't stand me for whatever reason. Her and her clique treated me so bad I wanted to find a different job. I stayed though because I wanted to be a travel nurse and most contracts want you to have 2 years of ICU experience. Then I got pregnant and that girl went to day shift, and things got better. After my baby I had some post partum blues and was unhappy so I started actively looking for other jobs. I got told by a few people that I needed more experience. So I decided to wait, and I went to day shift and started precepting new hires. Then in January I had my peer review. They told me I had some attitude issues. I took this to heart and that's when I realized I had not been doing a good job at keeping my hormones in check. However, to further elaborate on this, my day shift supervisor informed me that one such example of me not being a team player was that someone saw me take a crash cart in a patients room without telling anyone. What my supervisor wasn't told was that the pulmonologist, and cardiologist were both in the room and told me to get the crash cart while the charge nurse (who just so happened to be the aforementioned gal who didn't like me in the beining) was getting epinephrine. After this I felt as though I was being attacked and I sent an email to my manager and day shift supervisor detailing this and stating that I felt like I had to leave. They sat me down and talked me into staying. After about 2 months I followed up with my supervisor to see if I had made improvements to my attitude. She even sent me a nice card detailing how well to a teamplayer I had been. So now I have my two years of xp in and I'm trying to get a travel position. My agent requested 2 supervisors as references so I used my day shift and night shift supervisors like I always do. My agent called on Tuesday to inform me that my contract with on of the major hospitals in my area had withdrawn due to my references stating that I am not a team player, I have issues floating to other units. My agent was asking me to clarify if I was even a critical care nurse and if I am capable of working independently. She then informed me that I can never get a contract at any hospital in that chain ever. I feel like this is wrong but I dont know what to do. I'm not the kind of person to seek legal recourse, but I feel that these are some serious allocations.

TL;DR
I am trying to get a travel nurse job. I used my day shift and night shift supervisors as references. One of my references said something bad about me. Now I cant get a job at a major hospital in my area or any of their chain locations
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: Your solution is to find better references.Answer #2: you have no right to a good reference or a job with that hospital


Title: Mom lost job due to cancer treatment, what are her options

Question:
My mom has been out of work for 14 months from colon cancer. She quickly went over the 12 weeks of FMLA with her job and is now living on the long term disability check and some SSI. Her employer promised her job back but reneg'd on it a month ago and blindsided her. Now she is stuck with no plan but her doctor released her medically to return to work. The LTD insurance co has offered her a settlement but it isn't very much. What can she do here? She doesn't really have a lot of time to figure things out or money for a lawyer. It seems unfair that her employer left her hanging like that and provided no notice that she had lost her job or even a pink slip.  Otherwise she would have  started looking for work. I don't think she can file for unemployment because she hasn't earned wages in 12 months.  Any advice would be welcome.

Edit1: Not looking for her to get her job back, more about whether she can lose the LTD now that she's medically released and if she could still receive unemployment until she can find work.
Topic:
Disability Issues

Answer: While shitty, unless there was a written employment agreement, an employer can terminate employment upon depletion of FMLA leave.


Title: Hammer smashed into the windshield of my brand new Jeep. I have the license plate of the car it came from - what can I do? (OH)

Question:
This past Tuesday I was driving my newly leased Jeep Wrangler on the highway when an object (I’m guessing a hammer) flew out of the bed of a construction vehicle when they cut me off. There is now a 10 inch crack in my windshield on the passenger side and it’s spreading.

I snapped a picture of the vehicle’s license plate before exiting the highway to check the damage. (In hindsight I should have followed the construction vehicle).

I spoke with my insurance and windshield damage is not covered under my plan. This means I would have to pay $630 out of pocket to repair the windshield.

Can I use the license plate to find the owner of the vehicle? Is it possible for the driver/construction company to be held responsible for the damage? Or am I just out of the luck? #teachersalary

Answer: If you find the owner of the truck you can sue in small claims court. I doubt you will win without proof the hammer not only caused the damage but came from the truck.


Title: [US, Ga] Loud pool parties every night right outside bedroom

Question:
I rent an apartment in Georgia. It's been great so far, but now that it's summer there's a huge problem with people using the pool late at night. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a night swim as much as anyone, but this is beyond that. There are loud groups out there every single night for the past few weeks from about 2 AM till sometimes 4:30 AM. Unfortunately for me, the pool is right outside my bedroom. Also unfortunately for me, I have to be up for work at 6:30 every day. So, this is been an enormous pain in the ass. I'm not sleeping well and it's starting to impact my work and general well being.

The pool is supposed to be open only from dawn to dusk. The landlord did send out a letter reminding people of this, but otherwise have done nothing. I try to politely ask folks to quiet down, but that doesn't always work and I don't think I should be expected to do that nightly at 3 am. Cops say they can't do anything unless the landlord is there to give them permission since it's private property.

What can I do to deal with this? I don't care if people swim, but I do want to be able to get a full night's sleep in my own apartment. Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 Every single time this happens send an email to the landlord and contact the police. Every. single. time. Eventually one of the two will do something about it, most likely your landlord. If anything you can keep asking the police to ask them to keep it down.Answer #2: Keep being a squeaky wheel to the landlord/police. Also: Not legal advice, but a white noise machine from Amazon is your best friend. It seriously helps block out noise and get a good night of sleep.Answer #3: Ask your landlord to install a locked gate as well as a camera.  Remind your landlord that if someone hurts themselves at the pool at night, if there is underage drinking in the pool, an assault at the pool, the landlord will be liable.Answer #4: Document and report to landlord and police, every. single. time.

Become intimately familiar with your local noise ordinance statutes for the cops.

Become a royal pain in the ass for the landlord who won't enforce a dusk/dawn off-limits pool time.Answer #5: NAL but in GA. Our apt pool was closed for several weeks by the city for not following the city laws regarding complex pools. If your landlord refuses to do anything about it, you could look into this angle. Also wondering if they are there after hours is it considered tresspassing?Answer #6: Do like other people have said, but also be prepared to move out when your lease is up.

I was in a similar situation and putting pressure on my landlord worked (there should be a peaceful enjoyment clause in your contract). But as soon as my lease was up the landlord refused to rent to me again.


Title: [US, Louisiana] My girlfriend is a server at a popular steakhouse, and she (among several others) suffer from daily sexual harassment from a kitchen employee.

Question:
The worker in question has been suspended four prior times for the same behavior, and previous manager was fired for similar behavior. Management refuses to fire him, and my girlfriend no longer feels safe or comfortable at her job of over three years. Is there anything we can do to pressure them with legal action if they do not fire the employee?

Edit: I'd also like to add that she has several co workers who witnessed the ongoing harassment and can corroborate her story
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 Call the police and start creating a paper trail if management won't do anything about it. Get statements from the coworkers and include them in reports that you file.

You want the trail for restraining orders, and the potential hostile work environment lawsuit if they fire her/sit on their hands.Answer #2: Her best bet is to contact an employment attorney.  Sexual harassment is fairly fact specific.  The good news is that she can probably get a free initial consultation.  If there's an actionable case, her attorney will probably be willing to take the case on contingency, meaning she won't have to bear much up front costs and the attorney will take a percentage of any judgment or settlement.

In the meantime, read up on sexual harassment at the [EEOC's website](https://www.eeoc.gov/eeoc/publications/fs-sex.cfm).  They've got a lot of good information there.  It's also possible to file an EEOC complaint without an attorney.


Title: Brother with diabetes in prison

Question:
Hello,

I'm not too sure how to go about asking something like this. I haven't had a whole lot of experience with this sub, so please let me know if I'm missing something or doing something wrong.

My brother is in a prison in Iowa and having trouble with his insulin. They took his pump and arent letting him have it anymore, unless some certain requirements are met, but I dont know exactly what those requirements are. But they are giving him insulin shots, but those arent stopping him from consistently having a blood glucose level of over 300. He has been trying to convince them that the insulin might have gone bad or something, but it cant be healthy for someone with diabetes consistently at that range.

I'm not really sure what to do or what I can do, and advice would be great.

Answer:
 Call the prison and see what the deal is and if there’s an internal complaints procedure.

If that doesn’t work you can try filing a complaint with the Iowa office of ombudsman.

You might try speaking with a disability rights or diabetes group in your area. Getting things done for a prisoner can be complicated, so it wouldn’t hurt to have some guidance.Answer #2: This may be something you want to talk to a lawyer about. If this has been going on for a while it could be viewed as cruel and unusual punishment which is outlawed in the constitution. If nothing else it may serve as a fire under the ass of prison officials to get him the proper meds he needs. Im not a lawyer that's just my own 2 cents.Answer #3: You should ask a lawyer to write a letter to this prison and politely but sternly remind them that providing adequate medical care for this inmate is much cheaper than having an inmate die in their custody due to a preventable medical condition.Answer #4: Some of the people in /r/diabetes or the associated subs may be able to help as well.


Title: I need advice about my rights regarding asthma and the workplace. Brooklyn,NY

Question:
I work in a health related office for many years.  About 20 years ago I developed asthma due to allergies when my family and I moved to a different part of the city.
After about three years of asthma treatments and allergy shots my condition was considered very well controlled (if not cured). I was then weaned from medications and only carried a rescue inhaler in the event that I would have an episode. I learned what my triggers were and simply avoided them. My employer was aware of my triggers as were my co-workers.
Because we're in the health field, we use chemicals to disinfect (such as chlorine products and aerosol disinfectant sprays).  Generally these do not bother me since our air conditioning system maintains the air quality virtually fresh.
However, about three months ago a co-worker wore a very sweet flowery fragrance that gave me a headache and I pointed out to her that I have allergies and we do not fragrances in the office especially since we work in the health field.  A few weeks later she had to work in to my office space to make phone calls and of course she was wearing that fragrance again. I spoke with my employer and told him that I would not be able to stay since I developed a very bad headache that was turning in to a migraine due to my co-worker's fragrance.  In addition, I began to feel a bit tight in the chest and throat indicating to me that I was beginning to experience symptoms of asthma.  So I went home feeling sick with the migraine and had to use my rescue inhaler (which had expired in 2008, but it was all I had).  I stayed home the next day since the migraine had not gone away even though the asthma symptoms were gone.
Ever since that day, I have been literally bombarded by strong sweet fruity fragrances including the particular scent that my co-worker likes so much.  I have spoken to my office manager several times, but it seems that every time that I speak to her, the fragrances ensue.  The office manager gave me a letter that I should not approach anyone at work and should only report to her or my employer if I smell any fragrances.  My employer did get an air purifier for my work space and was told to close the door to my area if I smelled any offending fragrances. In addition, that I should provide a letter from my doctor regarding my allergies and asthma.
I have scoured the office to find that there are multiple fragranced body mists and body lotions in different area of the office.  I took pictures of them and showed them to my office manager.  At which point she said that she knew that they were there, but that she cannot tell the employees what they can and cannot wear.
I did go to my internist and she did provide a letter as requested from my employer and am once again under medication after 20 years of being virtually asthma free.
The last time that I spoke to my employer was this past Tuesday.  I told him that the young lady was working in my area, but I wouldn't be able to stay for the day because of her fragrance.  To this he responded that she is not wearing any fragrances.
I am now beside myself, because I have missed several days of work due to the frequenting asthma symptoms and do not know what to do.  I no longer feel that I have anyone at work that I can count on.
Can anyone please give me advise on what to do?
My husband is convinced that the women at my job are taking advantage of the time that my employer and office manager are not around and are simply bullying me. I am afraid that I will end up in the emergency room if this doesn't cease.
I need this job and am at a loss.

Answer:
 Not legal advice, but we have someone at our office who has allergic triggers from a specific building and they now wear a face mask. You might be able to purchase something that is inexpensive but blocks the smells.

Let me be blunt, everyone at your office thinks you're exaggerating and being overly dramatic. Your employer seems to have made an effort to accommodate you but short of banning all personal fragrances (which they don't seem likely to do) you're going to be around perfume from now on regularly.


Title: My daughters ear tube was left in her canal after surgery.

Question:
Hello,
My daughter had surgery to remove an ear tube and patch the hole about 2 years ago. The ear which was treated has been trouble every since, causing her discomfort and producing wax at an alarming rate as well as having a few ear infections. Today, while visiting the doctor, a tube was discovered embedded in wax deep in the ear canal. If this was left by the surgeon after the surgery, is it malpractice and worthy of a lawsuit?
Thanks
Resident of Monterey, TN.
Topic:
Drug Possession

Answer:
 Malpractice is incredibly case-specific. Most medical malpractice attorneys offer free consultations. Answer #2: >If this was left by the surgeon after the surgery, is it malpractice and worthy of a lawsuit?

Yes, malpractice, and yes worthy of some legal action. I don't know what the tort landscape is in Tennessee, but you seem entitled to at least the medical expenses involved with the multiple ear infections and the discomfort.

For further damages, you'd need certainly to consult a local attorney. You should be able to find one that will work on contingency if this case is as clean as you make it sound here.


Title: San Diego, CA: boss confirms my work schedule for the next 2 weeks, then changes her mind the next day

Question: [deleted]

Answer: That's the risk you take when you give a two weeks notice. Some places will let you go right away. Some places will be thankful for the notice and let you finish out the two weeks. Nothing illegal with what she did.


Title: shoplifting advice, i am partly guilty - NJ

Question:
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Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 > I'm not sure what to do at this point

Hire a criminal defense attorney and stop confessing to crimes on a public forum.


Title: Can the state actually force people to turn their TVs off?

Question:
Apparently in Los Angeles they are preventing restaurants from leaving televisions on for a fear that people will congregate more.

How does that not directly violate the first amendment?

Answer: regulating use of TVs has nothing to do with 1st amendment just like noise ordidences don't violate 1st amenddment.


Title: Traveling too fast in Unsafe Conditions in Connecticut

Question:
I was given this ticket for [traveling too fast in unsafe conditions](http://www.jud.ct.gov/JI/civil/part3/3.7-3.htm) in Connecticut. What happens was I was pulling into an offramp to a rest stop when I hit a patch of ice and slid and proceeded to hit a tractor trailer parked illegally on the side of the road. It was during a pretty bad sleet, rain, ice storm. At which point, I called 911 and then an officer arrived around 20 minutes later and took an accident report and gave me the ticket mentioned dated 8:56 PM. Is it possible to just say that I called 911 at 8:12 PM (as shown on my phone records) and that he arrived after my vehicle was parked so he had no way of determining that I was traveling too fast in unsafe conditions? Any other options would be helpful as well.

Much appreciated!

Edit: Charges dropped. He read the police report and let me go. Didn't have to speak.

Answer:
 The fact that you slid into the parked vehicle is plenty of evidence that you were going too fast for conditions. Answer #2: You slid on ice.  You were traveling too fast

>The statute provides that the fact that the speed of a vehicle is lower than the posted speed limit **shall not relieve the operator from the duty to decrease speed when a special hazard exists** with respect to pedestrians or other traffic or **by reason of weather** or highway conditions.


Title: Overprotective parents

Question: So to get things out of the way, it’s not my parents but my girlfriend’s parents. So her parents are very very overprotective. I’ve been dating her since sophomore year of high school (starting sophomore year of college soon). And her parents have always been like this. She’s not really allowed to go anywhere nor can she have a boyfriend (shhh don’t tell them). So it’s a tough relationship as we can’t really hang out too often since we don’t go to the same school anymore and stuff. But her parents are OVERLY overprotective. She’s 19 about to turn 20 and they made her install an app on her phone which lets her parents track her whereabouts (Bro she’s 19). And we believe that they added a tracker to her car without telling her. Is there anything she can do? Rather than legal advice I think JUST advice would help but I didn’t know which subreddit to use and my girlfriend doesn’t use Reddit. Thanks in advanced

Answer:
 /r/advice
In a nutshell she can move out and support herself or she can stand up to them and act like the adult that she is.
But as long as they are footing her bills it will be difficult to escape their hold.
She needs to move out and become independent.

If she is still in school/college and they are paying for it and she doesn't want to move out then this is the price *she*  pays.


Title: Do I have to inform a college if I have attended a different college before? [US] [IN]

Question: [deleted]

Answer: It sounds like you are asking whether you are required to tell the truth on an application. Yes, you are required to tell the truth.


Title: Cousin posted video of my nephew without my sister’s consent

Question:
And it’s gone viral. And it’s everywhere. She doesn’t have any social media and has actively avoided putting her child on any social media. Is there any legal action she can take? Against the person who posted or the pages that have been posting it?

Edit: location is Plattsmouth/Bellevue/ Omaha Nebraska area

Child is 4 years old.

Answer: Where was the video taken? If it was out in public, your sister doesn't really have much recourse. No one has an expectation of privacy in public.


Title: Real Estate - Closing costs to be capped at $10k but lawyer overlooked paperwork and now I owe $36k?

Question:
I bought a preconstruction 4 years ago and closing fees were agreed to be capped at 10k.

Developer changed half way through and this agreement was made void, although I was assured by my lawyer and the selling lawyer that the new replacement document was the same. Sent the new agreement to my lawyer before signing and she assured me it was good to sign.

4 years later, I'm finally moved in after many delays. Just found out today that my closing costs are due Monday and will be $36,000! This is quite a bit more than I was anticipating, I'm a young first time buyer and can't afford to come up with this money.

Any advice on how to proceed? (Ontario, Canada)

Answer: What costs / fees are you actually talking about when you say “closing costs?”  There are plenty of things that could be lumped into “closing costs” that a seller would have absolutely no control over.  Just because there was an agreement about “closing costs” does not mean your required “cash to close” isn’t going to be more than what that agreement states, particularly if you are getting financing.Answer #2: So I bought a condo in construction and for using the developers title/loan/whatever I got $10,000 towards closing costs, not that closing costs would be capped at $10,000. What does your contract say?Answer #3: You've been trying to close on a house for 4 *years*?


Title: GF's Mom has been stealing her Dental payment money for drugs

Question:
My gf (19 years old) got her wisdom teeth out awhile ago and has been paying installments of $400 to her mom so she can pay the bill as they have a joint savings account. Unbeknownst to my girlfriend, her mom hasn't been paying the bill and has been  and using it for drugs instead. My girlfriend just got a court summons to appear in Nebraska ( we are currently in VA) as the payment is under my girlfriends name. Is there anything we can do? Are we fucked? Whats the procedure we should go about with this?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Your girlfriend can perhaps sue mom for the misappropriated payments.

That claim does nothing between her and the dentist. She’ll need to pay him.


Title: Is it possible for a confidential informant with a marijuana related ACD to be reduced or ended completely for helping the police take down a dealer?

Question: This is specifically for the state of NY

Answer: All things are possible through Christ and/or a DA with bigger fish to fry.


Title: Can I sue for harassment/pain and suffering?

Question: I work at a seasonal job usually early sept to late May. By the end of May I get laid off. My gfs dad needs heart surgery so we asked to be laid off early(gf also works there). They agreed to lay us off early, said it was fine, getting laid off in a couple weeks anyway. Laid off May 10th, supposed to catch flight to Texas May 11th. GF goes but I decide I don’t want to go. Work finds out I didn’t go and gets pissed. Instead of calling/messaging me or my GF they call my dad into the office(my dad also works there) and start interrogating him on my whereabouts. He doesn’t know much because I don’t tell him much. He know that I dropped gf off at airport but I didn’t go. They call him and me a liar to his face, saying I lied to get laid off and that’s the only reason they allowed me to be laid off. They then tell him to “shut up and drop it, we know all we need to know” when he tries to defend himself. I don’t have any signed paper stating this nor was it verbally discussed that if I wasn’t going to Texas that I couldn’t be laid off. They gave me the lay off as requested, it seems what I do after they approve it is my business, not there’s. Did I do something wrong or did they?

Answer:
 There's nothing actionable here.  You would not have any damages to recover based on what you have said above.

You are free to not go where they thought you would go.  They are free to not like your actions shy of discriminating against you for membership in a protected class.


Title: Non custodial ex

Question: We live in Arkansas.   My ex-wife is non-custodial parent to our sixteen-year-old.  They have been working together for quite some time now too make me out to look like a bad guy.  My daughter was spending her third visit in a behavioral facility .  Her mother told the facility I'd been in a terrible accident so they let her discharge our daughter and take off with her.  My daughter had been with her since last November against my wishes.  It wax last april was called to take her to the hospital.  Other then that trip to the hospital my daughter would not have anything to do with me.  Back to present,   I believe pmy ex panicked last night because she knew we had a meeting for the very first time this week with a social worker at the facility. Her mom wanted to avoid that.  I guess she was thinking it might "out" her for being the way she Is.   Up to this point she has gotten away with making me look bad with lies, projecting all of her stuff on to me.  I have custody on paper I have nothing to hide.  What would be my best course of action at this point?  I'm waiting to hear back from the attorney and was just curious what you guys might think.  thank you

Answer: You have court ordered custody, but you've let the child stay with her mom for 8 months? What have you done in the last 8 months to get your daughter back? Have you seen or talked to her in the last 8 months?


Title: I was arrested for attending a protest and now have court

Question:
I attended the George Floyd Protests in California this week and was one of only a couple dozen people arrested. The charge was "failure to disperse" even though I was by myself trying to get a ride back home when I was arrested. The cops basically trapped all the remaining protesters in an area then went in the neighborhoods to chase us down and arrest us after the crowd scattered.

I have to attend court now. I've never been arrested before and hate the idea that simply participating in a protest could now prevent me from future employment and opportunities just by being on my record as a crime. Is there anything I can do when in court to get the charges dismissed from my record entirely? Or what's the best way I can go about it so this doesn't affect my future?

Answer:
 You hire an attorney and listen to his or her advice.Answer #2: >Or what's the best way I can go about it so this doesn't affect my future?

Hire a criminal defense attorney.


Title: [WA] Had sex with underage girl, who told parents, and got a rape kit.

Question:
I am 17 and the girl is 15, this happened 1 day ago and if the police get involved what should I do? She was totally ok with it at the time, although we were both a little drunk.  Today I found out that she told her dad and went to the hospital to get a rape kit.
Topic:
Alcohol Related Other than DUI

Answer:
 Do not pass Go. Go straight to your parents to get a lawyer so you don't go to jail.

That you are also underage will help you, but if you were both drunk and her father(?? - not the police or a doctor?) is getting a rape kit, you have some very serious, possibly life altering, potential problems coming up.

Talk to your parents NOW.Answer #2: Washingtons "Romeo and Juliet" provisions allow a 15 year old to consent to sex, as long as their partner is only older by fewer than [forty eight months (four years)](http://app.leg.wa.gov/rcw/default.aspx?cite=9A.44.079).

However, providing her with alcohol changes the situation drastically; and there are other charges, such as contributing to the delinquency of a minor, that could apply. If the police determine the girl was incapacitated by the alcohol, you're looking at a very serious charge.

Did she black out or become unresponsive during the sex? Was she vomiting, stumbling, slurring her speech, or anything like that? Or just "tipsy"?


Title: Attempted murder with firearm in California

Question: I'll make I brief. Neighbor was drinking in his garage, started an argument with passerby's (neighbor said something racist). The two passerbys and he got into a physical altercation. Neighbor got beat up, went into his house and got a gun. Came back outside and fired multiple rounds at the other guys. Facing numerous charges now. What kind of sentence can be estimated based on this limited info? Thanks in advance!

Answer:
 0 to life in prison. Based on the limited info.

[Laws](http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/cacode/PEN/3/1/16/s664)


Title: Speeding ticket for trying to avoid a crash

Question:
11:30 pm June 1st

Im driving on i-10 back from my gf’s house
Doing (according to my Speedo) 65 in a 60. I glance at a car getting off the interstate and pay no mind to it. Moments later, it jerks back towards the road since I guess he decided not to exit. I am parallel to this guy and he is not even looking up from his phone as he’s rapidly approching my passenger side. In a moment of panic I slam on the gas and get into the left lane. My vehicle is modified with a decently loud muffler, the guy hears me step on it and quickly returns to the off-ramp. I stare at the guy through my rear view only to crest the over pass where a cop is waiting on the side of the road. Like I said a modified car..so I got a ticket for 79 in a 60. This all happened from guy to cop in a few seconds. I didn’t even bother telling the officer that I was trying to get away. A teenager at 11:30 driving a sports car over the speed limit..I wouldn’t of believed the story myself.

I have a perfectly clean driving record. I was very respectful to the officer. This is going to be a hefty ticket, so my question is:

 Given the circumstances, could I contest the ticket with the help of a lawyer, To either out right revoke the ticket. Or at the very least bring the points down from 4 to 0.

Thanks!

Answer: Yes, you can mitigate (but not eliminate) the severity of ticket with the help of a traffic attorney.


Title: [CA] Unique physical dispute at work

Question:
Hello r/legaladvice! I am asking for some advice that happened to my SO's parents & a coworker. I hope I can get some advice on the matter. I will provide as much information as possible and names will be changed if any. For now I will just refer to the parties involved as Mom,Dad, & CoW

Mom & Dad work in a large nursing home. They have a coworker who works in Dad's department. I do not know if CoW is as same rank of Dad but they both work in the kitchen.

The setting here is that they are on a floor with Dad,Mom, and CoW. No witnesses besides Mom (who safe to assume will be biased to the Dad). I do not know if there are any cameras where the incident happened.

Dad called out CoW for not doing his job well and setting the team back. Slacking at work and what not. CoW did not like what Dad said and went after him. Mom tried to hold Dad back and that is how Dad got punched by CoW by being restrained. At some point they also fell to the ground. CoW even threw a tray at them after the exchange but Mom pulled them away and closed a door before it hit them. CoW ran away from the nursing home. Administrator sends Dad/Mom home after learning what has happened.

**Aftermath** CoW & Dad have been suspended. CoW did send texts to my SO. Some of the lines in the text were

* "Me and your dad got in a fight. I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to hurt your dad. I hope your mom is ok"

* "I'm so sorry "SO's name". I snap it. I wasn't in a good mood. It was all my fault."

**After Aftermath**(just found out today 11/23): Dad is fired.

How do you think this should be approached? Will this be a claims with the employer? Criminal court for assault? Also, Dad does have a history of a temper, though verbal and never physical, at the nursing home.

Let me know if I'm missing any information or need any that may help. This all happened on 11/22 and Dad has been fired as of today. Thanks guys...any help would be great!

Answer: If only there was a group you could report crimes to....


Title: (TX) Mother of my child and I have odd arrangement. Would love some advice, am i being ignorant or is this a good arrangement?

Question:
My ex and I split up 6 years ago and at the time, the arrangement was I would get our son every other weekend. Two year ago, I started getting him every other week and we didn't go to court or anything to fill out paper work, but essentially we're doing shared custody (50/50). I still pay child support from our previous arrangement as well.

 This tax season we decided since I was the only one that work in 2017, I would write off our son and we would split the money 50/50. It seem fair at the time, but now she is bringing her attorney in and I cant help but think shes going back out of our deal and claim our son. I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to protect me. Or maybe I'm making a big deal of nothing.

 Thanks

Answer:
 Huh. It seems to me that if you're paying child support based on EOW but you actually have 50/50, *and* you're offering to split the tax refund, she may not actually like the results if she goes back to court.  Of course, without actual numbers, this is just a suspicion.Answer #2: >she is bringing her attorney in

What does that mean, she sued for child support, sued for custody? If she's taking you to family court, you hire your own attorney immediately. Answer #3: Is the issue of claiming the child on taxes addressed at all in any existing court order?


Title: Girlfriend hit me and I hit her back, her mom wants to sue me

Question: Me and my girlfriend got into a fight. We were drinking, and we were both mad so we started yelling. She slapped me and attempted to punch me but missed. When she did that, I reflexively grabbed her arms and pushed her against the wall. Her head hit the wall really hard and she got dizzy and nauseous. I freaked and took her to the ER and they said she got a concussion from it. This was a few days ago. She told her mom and her mom said she was going to sue me. My girlfriend is avoiding me. What do I do now?

Answer:
 You get a lawyer. DV convictions follow you your entire life.Answer #2: > My girlfriend is avoiding me.

No shit? Really? I wouldn't even be worried about being sued right now. I'd be more worried about the criminal charges. Lawyer, now. Have him/her ready when you inevitably get arrested.

Never go near your (ex) girlfriend again. **AVOID HER**. Nothing good came come from being near her.Answer #3: Talk to a real Lawyer ASAP, this could go poorly for you very quickly.


Title: Getting married while keeping assets and finances separate? North Carolina

Question:
Hey legaladvice, long time lurker, first time poster!

My fiance and I are planning our wedding. While we love each other very much, we are both smart enough to take off the rose-colored glasses and see the very real financial impact marriage can have on our lives, especially with divorce rates as they are. We're obviously not planning on getting divorced, but we'd like to be smart about this decision.

I'd like to know if there's any way we can keep our finances separate while still getting married and getting all the benefits of marriage, like sharing health insurance, inheritance in the event one of us dies, etc. I guess we're I'm worried that if we were to get a divorce, I'd each lose half of our stuff. I'd lose half of retirement savings, cars, furniture, etc. Would we need to get a prenup?

We don't have a house yet, but we're planning on buying one soon after the marriage. Is there any way we can split up ownership of a house so the person who makes more money and pays most of the mortgage gets to keep most of the proceeds from selling the house in the event of a divorce? I know unmarried people can be "tenants in common", is that true for married people too?

Thanks for reading!

Answer:
 I'll go against the grain here. Warning: unpopular opinions ahead.

If you came to my office I'd turn you away. Unless one of you already has orders of magnitude more assets than the other, a prenup is going to be speculative.

More than that, not legal advice but life advice: Don't live separate lives. Commingle all your finances. Why? Because doing so will ensure that the two of you are always "in it together" when it comes to finances. One of the best things about marriage is being treated like a "unit" by outsiders, and seeing your spouse truly as a partner. That won't be the case if you're exhaustively separating finances to the penny like a couple of rainy day misers.

If you're getting divorced, you're not "losing half your stuff". People say that all the time and it makes no sense. You each will have stuff together. You're not losing half **your** stuff in the event of divorce, you're simply admitting that your spouse has ownership of the shared stuff, roughly as much as you do. You're keeping everything that's yours in a divorce, and so is your spouse.

More unpopular opinions: Divorce should be difficult. You should look at your spouse and think it would be difficult to separate from them. Why? Because it encourages you to work on problems, instead of just pulling a ripcord and getting out.

Your wedding cake will be no good unless the ingredients are thoroughly mixed. You can't make a cake keeping eggs, flour, and sugar in separate compartments.

You can't give your whole self to your marriage if you're constantly trying to stay separate from the other person.


Title: Landlord want to raise rent by 65%.NJ

Question: Our commercial (store front) lease expires within 2 months. Landlord want to raise the rent by 65% if I want to renew the lease. Is there anything I can do about this, or is this legal?

Answer:
 > Is there anything I can do about this?

You can not renew and move.

> or is this legal?

Yes it's legal. Sometimes rents go up, sometimes they go down. Answer #2: If the lease states that you can renew at a certain price, then that's binding and you get to renew at that price.  Otherwise, the lease is over with and the landlord can charge whatever he or she wants.

That's one of the benefits of signing up for a longer-term lease.  Of course there are risks, too.


Title: (OH) My crazy ex-wife keeps contacting me to send me assorted threats that turn out to be nothing, what can I do to stop her (no kids)?

Question:
The judge divorced us 6 months ago or so with the last order to be for my retirement assets to be split up (she didn't work so she didn't accumulate any but is entitled to half of mine, which I have come to terms with). I sent in my paperwork and did my part and my lawyer assured me there was nothing left for me to do. Since then she has been harassing me sending me multiple messages a day.

I went no-contact day one (she cheated) and have blocked her on everything possible. She keeps using other peoples phones to text/call me so I can't block, and I can't set my phone to to block all unknown calls because I use it for work sometimes. I may end up changing my number soon for this.

She also stalks my girlfriend's social media (twitter/instagram/facebook) and sends both of us weird creepy messages on those platforms. I've blocked her on all accounts she messages me on and my girlfriend set all her stuff to private with the exception of twitter and blocked her as well. The only exception being an instagram profile for her cats. Through that she has requested to follow my girlfriends's cat profile about 50 times in the last month, she's about to be blocked on that too.

I logged into steam the other day and she sends me messages on there because I forgot to block her there too. This is just ridiculous.

All of her threats are that she will order a judge (lol) to hold me in contempt because I'm not working with her to file her paperwork/move forward with her part of the final divorce order. I've asked my lawyer the first few times she's made these threats and my lawyer always responded with 'You have no more paperwork to fill out, this is a matter for the other attorney." I'm sick of her causing me to talk to my lawyer about this when it's probably costing me billable hours to do so.

What are my steps to stop her from contacting me or my girlfriend in the future? I can't really change my email address, I'm moving in a few months, I changed jobs (she was calling my old job to try and get a hold of me to tell me that I needed to pay her lawyer fees) so she doesn't know where I work, I'm about to change my number. I'm kind of at the end of my rope for dealing with this crazy. What are my options?

ps- she did message my girlfriend's cat instagram "there are consequences for being with a married man" right before our divorce was finalized when we had been separated for over a year, maybe that could be construed as a threat?

Answer:
 You can just continue to block her, as can your girlfriend.

If she continues you can file a police report for harassment and see if they do anything, but it's unlikely you'd get a restraining order at the moment.


Title: Employee Refuses to Give Her SSN and Nail License [Florida]

Question:
My mother has a nail salon in Florida. She recently hired a new nail technician because she simply cannot do everything herself.

On the first day, my mom asked the employee for her SSN (or at least the number) and her nail license. The employee said she will send it to her the next day. She told her that she cannot receive her pay until she shows these documents or at least the numbers. Although she asks her for the documents everyday, she made the mistake of letting it slide for a few days now.

For five days, the employee comes in around 10:30am and 11:00am. The store opens at 9:30am. My mom has repeatedly told her to come in at store opening. The employee sleeps on the pedicure chairs, harasses my mom, and gives this "bitchy" look to customers (even to the point that they say "I don't want her to service me" etc.). My mom is very patient and tolerable but she cannot deal with anymore.

1. Does my mom have to pay her if she does not present the proper documents?
2. If so, how do she pay her in accordance to the IRS or tax laws?
3. She afraid of altercations with the employee because the employee often spaces out and is easily agitated. What should she do if it gets violent?

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for the advice. I told my mom about this and she immediately removed the employee without any altercations.

Answer:
 1. Yes.
2. Ask her accountant.
3. Call the police.

She should fire this person tomorrow.  And in the future, nobody starts work without documents.  Your mother is risking fines.


Title: [CA] Commercial truck driver rear ended me while on his phone at red light.

Question: [removed]

Answer: Let your insurance company handle it for now.  No need to get an attorney until you've let them deal with it.  In the vast majority of cases, you'll get a fair payout from the companies without having to hire an attorney.


Title: [ILLINOIS] Ex going after me for child support I already paid!

Question:
I've been divorced from my ex for about ten years.  Over the duration of about 9 of those years I paid the ex via a check for the amount of child support.  I paid this amount routinely and the ex got every penny she was legally entitled to.

Flash forward to now.  At some point the ex filed to have my wages garnished by the state for the amount because she was mad about something or other.  The state then turned around and told me I owed around 80k in back child support with interest.  I already paid this to her, but not via the Family Services state department.

They've added arrears to my garnishment AND seized my tax return.  Now they're trying to put a lien on my bank account, all on child support I already paid!  I've tried reasoning with the ex to see if she will do something to stop it and she is 100% uncooperative.  She's more than happy to keep letting the state take my money and give it to her.

What can I do here?  Am I totally screwed?  My questions are:

* Can I stop the state from coming after me for this?
* Can I get the money back that they've taken that I've already paid?
* Can I do this myself or do I need a lawyer?

Please help!

Answer:
 Steps to get this stuff fixed.

1. Stop trying to solve this with your ex, the moment that she pulled this stunt you should have known that she wouldn't coöperate.

2. Get a family law attorney.

3. Provide your family law attorney with all the evidence that you already paid.

4. Deal with this with your family law attorney.Answer #2: Get a lawyer, get a pile of bank statements to prove you made payments (good job for writing checks instead of paying cash), go to court. If all is as you say it is, they should clear your delinquency and order your ex to refund the overpayment. They might even find her in contempt. Answer #3: Get a lawyer and make sure he asks for her to pay your legal fees. Since there is more than enough proof that you have paid through the cheques you provided over the past 9 years.

Also do not take any legal advice from your ex or try to negotiate with her any longer. Get a lawyer ASAPAnswer #4: Your ex also has a bank account that she has been depositing this into.  If you have a few recent checks that she has cashed, they should contain all the bank account information you need.  Let your lawyer also work that angle.
Answer #5: >Can I do this myself or do I need a lawyer?

You cannot reasonably do this yourself.  You need a lawyer.

You can begin gathering your canceled checks or whatever other proof you may have that you made the payments for the hearing your attorney will presumably schedule.  Your bank will likely take some time processing the older requests for copies, so you should begin that request now.


Title: [OH] Questions on Avoiding Lottery Laws?

Question: I understand that to do this legally, either chance or consideration must be eliminated. If a person may enter as many times as they spend at most 1 minute, does that count as a consideration?  Additionally, what if the chance decides if an individual will win, not which individual of a group will win? Does this deem my concept no longer a lottery? Is this legal?

Answer: Just say what you are planning on doing. It is hard to answer your question otherwise


Title: [Ohio] How do I draw out a criminal court case?

Question: I was arrested  for criminal damaging M1 and have court coming up, I want to hold it off until I have the cash for an attorney, whats the best option.

Answer: You can just ask the judge to postpone so that you can seek legal counsel. If you cannot afford a lawyer you can also ask to have one appointed to you.


Title: NH Is it legal for a potential landlord to charge me for a background check in the application process?

Question: He says that I will come off my first months rent.

Answer:
 Yes, that's what most landlords do.

Actually most wouldn't be giving you the money back.Answer #2: Yes and this is extremely common.


Title: Fired for medical leave?

Question:
Posting on behalf of my SO.  Please let me know if I should redact any information from the thread if it gives too much detail for identity.

State: TX.

About 3 months ago my SO was contacted by a 3rd party recruiting company regarding a position that was contract-hire at a major company. The contract was 3 months and was supposed to end for conversion to full time in middle/late December. The recruiting company assured her the conversion rate is 99% so there was almost no chance she wouldn’t get converted.

At this point we had already planned out two trips totaling 3 weeks at the end of year as she and I had been accruing as much PTO as we could all year (at her previous company). She mentioned this and asked if it was a problem before accepting the offer - the new company agreed to the time off requests, but they would be unpaid as she’s technically contract - and she accepted the offer. Keep in mind this contract offers no PTO or medical benefits whatsoever during this 3 month period, so she’s taking a risk not only going unpaid for all this time but leaving her previous company with medical benefits for this opportunity, which she understood and accepted.

All was going well until they changed the management structure and moved a new director over to her team and a new manager. The previous manager went to another team and the previous director had left the company.

This was around the time when she had her first week of UPTO as discussed prior. During this time off she fell seriously ill and was hospitalized and bed ridden for another week following the UPTO (with no medical insurance). She kept everyone informed during the whole process and asked if she could work remotely when she was feeling well enough, which she did and was back at work the next week.

Upon return she got an email from the recruiting company saying the new director was hesitant to convert her to FTE because of the medical leave she had to take  after the unpaid week off. The recruiter said this in an email:

“He is hesitant on converting you because you were gone for 2 weeks during your contractual period, and will be missing 2 weeks in December. I have tried explaining that your trips were planned several months in advanced prior to your acceptance and it was cleared by the company, but the time you spent out sick is counting against you.”

So right here, in writing, they say she was approved for all PTO ahead of time and that what’s counting against her was the medical leave when she was literally in the hospital and bed-ridden (with doctors notes and proof)

To add to this, she immediately reached out to the director and her recruiter to sit down and have a conversation. The new director and recruiter were (haha) on PTO for several weeks and traveling, so she never met with or talked to anyone at all. Fast forward some weeks and she still has not had any single conversation regarding this problem (nor any conversation aside from that one email from the recruiter), but kept persisting. She then wakes up one Monday getting ready to go into work when she gets A TEXT from the recruiter saying her last day was Friday and they forgot to tell her.

That’s it. No conversation directly about anything, the director actively avoided her when he was in office and was on PTO the rest of the time in between. She didn’t even get a call or information ahead of time, just a text the following Monday saying her last day was the previous Friday.

Is any of this legal, especially considering the fact they fired her specifically for the medical leave? To be clear - they fired her. It was not letting the contract expire, they cut her contract 2-3 weeks short and just let her go without telling her (outside of a text 3 days after her last day) or having any real conversation about concerns or anything.

We’re trying to figure out our options both from a legal and non legal standpoint - does she qualify for unemployment or anything else? Is this something we should contact a lawyer regarding? Does it matter that the recruiter sent that email and not the director or someone who is a FTE of the actual company itself?

What they did was (in my view) morally and professionally reprehensible, especially considering she went unpaid for all of that time and has massive medical bills from the illness now -  but that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily illegal. What are our best options moving forward?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 She can be fired for missing work. They aren't under any obligation to employ her.

Edit: she can apply for UE but it might not be accepted.Answer #2: So, she wasn't fired it sounds like, it sound like they decided against extending her a job offer.


Title: Store Manager had drugs delivered, Franchise owners don't seem to want to sack him.

Question:
So, I'm an Assistant manager in a UK based franchise store. Two members of my staff advised me that the store manager (lets call him M) received, at work, a perfume box containing a large amount of Weed.

(a little back story about "M", he's the absolute worst, A Racist, homophobic, hate filled man, with delusion of grandeur and acute narcissism. Not one single member of staff like him as he belittles and puts them down, he should never have been made manager)

Anyway,

To be sure i checked the CCTV and sure enough there is video evidence of "M" taking the box from an unknown male, sniffing it and show the other members of staff.

Now, here is where it gets a little complicated, The Human resources manager is away on holiday, and the Guy (lets Call Him B) that is taking over for her is a close friend of the Manager in question. So i contacted a senior manager in another store to ask for advice, stating this was to be regarded as sensitive and i ask him in confidence.
He advised me to speak with "B" to save my own skin which i did, he then came to the store the day after to speak to "M". It then transpires that "B" cant sack "M" due to me breaching the privacy of "M" by getting advice from another manager who it turns out breached my privacy by then blabbing on the phone to "B" about what id had spoken about.

(this is a mess, i am sorry, but i'm trying to get it all out)

So, basically ive been told that "M" wont be fired because i called the wrong senior member. Can anyone tell me if this is utter crap, are they lying to protect him, or did i royally screw up and is there anything i can do to get this guy fired?

Thanks in advance for your advice and input. im truly at a loss here, i want to protect the store and my staff whom i regard as close friends. so this is for them as much as it is for me.

Answer: If it's a privately-owned franchise you could always notify the franchisor. I'm sure they'd like to know.


Title: I [23] f have been stalked and harassed for years online by the same person. Found his IP address and am wondering what my options are.

Question:
Throwaway for obvious reasons. Also sorry if this isn't the right thread for this.

So this all started when I was about 17 years old. My pictures were posted onto this essentially porn-forum type website by the same user and he continues to do so to this day. These are literally just candid pictures of me and my friends (no nudes) but this guy takes videos of himself masturbating onto the pictures while others comment threatening rape etc. And yes there are several pictures of me when I was under 18 posted.

The alias this person goes by on the website and has made over 10 instagram and facebook accounts to attempt to follow me with slightly different spelling variations of the same name.

I have gone to the cops not once but twice about this over the past years and each time they said its difficult to get a warrant because "photoshopping and posting pictures isn't illegal unless its a copyright issue" but that they'll "look into it".

So TLDR I found out his IP address and whats unsettling is that hes located its the next city over from me and thus likely someone I know.

I called a PI and they said its extremely hard to pinpoint an exact address from an IP and they likely cant help me. I don't know if I should bother bringing this to the cops especially since I used sketchy methods to obtain this IP and don't want to be penalized myself. So I don't know what my best course of legal action is. Or if I even have any charges I can press if I do find out who this person is - considering I don't think I've ever been followed or stalked in real life and its solely been online.

Its not even the pictures that bothers me its that knowing this person religiously stalks my profiles and uploads my pictures. If I post an instagram its on that website no later than 30 minutes after. I have completely deleted all social media at this point but its still extremely disturbing to me not to mention that if you google my name thats what comes up.

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Any advice would be much appreciated.

Answer:
 It actually doesn’t sound like it would be that hard to find him; if the police feel he is indeed harassing you. If you have the IP address the cops can go to the ISP with a subpoena and get the account holders information. Answer #2: I don't know much about legal stuff but I know Google can remove your images from showing up in their search engine. I've used it myself once.

https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/4628134?hl=enAnswer #3: NAL.
Before I get started, I want to ask you a question, if you don’t feel comfortable answering it, you don’t have to. When you said your picture was posted on the form, did you post it or did the person who is stalking you did?
Depending on the answer, the seriousness of stalker’s action may be more dire.
Having said that, although you may not feel comfortable doing so, let your parents know. Afterwards, contact the local PD, with your parents (this creates an urgency within the agency). Then, collect all evidence: creation on social media of your likeness; his account name and websites; video he posted; and his IP address.
From what I gathered, the seriousness of the situation is dire. From glimpse, the police may arrest the stalker for possession/creation/distribution of child pornography (you are under age). Also, after case of [Amanda Todd](https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/the-story-of-amanda-todd/amp), [Bill C-13](https://openparliament.ca/bills/41-2/C-13/) was created.
I don’t think I read which province you are located in, but if you are in BC [RCMP ICE unit](http://bc.rcmp-grc.gc.ca/ViewPage.action?languageId=1&siteNodeId=23&contentId=41736) deals with such issue. In Alberta ALERT’s ICE as well. Or in general contact [CyberTip](https://www.cybertip.ca/app/en/).
I hope this information helps. If you need more information, I am more than willing to help.