Title: Can board members vote out the ceo?

Question: I am on the board of directors of a medium sized independently owned company. The ceo and his wife (owner) are not doing their jobs properly and are ruining the company, they simply ignore all advice and voting decisions of the board. All of the board members have been put in place by the ceo and owner. Does the board of directors have legal authority to vote out the ceo and/or the owner of the company?

Answer: The board has that right if granted in the company’s organizing documents.


Title: [Arkansas] Ex boyfriend in a 2 year span convinced me to take up almost $15k in debt.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You can sue him for anything he promised to pay back. It well help to have evidence of those promises.

I also find it, um, interesting(?) that you claim you had no idea he was a loser, but you knew he spent all his money on drugs. To each their own though, I guess.


Title: Ex-Boss trying to put me on her taxes for Child Care Expenses (California)

Question:
I just recently quit my job (Jun-Oct 2014) as a Nanny with this woman. I am 18 years old and in college. I made a total of $598 including the money she hasn't paid me yet. She wouldn't pay me my last paycheck unless I gave her my Employee Identification Number. She still owes me $70 so I wanted to get that. I really don't want her to put me on her taxes for Child Care expenses though. I don't think she should be allowed to. Please let me know if I'm legally entitled to tell her not to put me on there.

Reasons - She refused to pay me minimum wage. I worked in her house and followed her rules, making me a  household employee. According to this website: (http://www.myhomepay.com/Answers/State-Nanny-Tax/CA/Overview) "Household employees are classified under the FLSA as non-exempt workers.  Non-Exempt workers in all 50 states are covered by the rules and protections of the FLSA." This is not a government website so I don't know if this is accurate or where I can find this information from a better source.

Does this mean that because she paid me under minimum wage ($8/hour) that she cannot claim me for child care expenses?

Reason 2 - It also says on the IRS website (http://www.irs.gov/uac/Ten-Things-to-Know-About-the-Child-and-Dependent-Care-Credit) that "The care must have been provided so you – and your spouse if you are married filing jointly – could work or look for work." She is a stay-at-home mom. She never was looking for a job while I worked for her, she said she needed to be home to take her kid to school and whatnot. She used to be self-employed earlier this year but in another state, and when she moved here she stopped working completely. I'm afraid she might be able to fake that she was looking for a job if she gets called out on it. Her husband works.

Reason 3 - The "child care" she was paying me for was unnecessary. She said I was going to babysit for her and I ended up just being a housecleaner. On the IRS page it says that duties such as housecleaning can be claimed for child care expenses if it helps to take care of the child. But why would she need me to clean her house when she's a stay at home mom? I would work for her while she sits on the couch or texts someone. She would not do productive things while I worked for her other than make food sometimes. It's not like I was watching her kid while she was at work or had to go somewhere.

Reason 4 - Also, she tried to make me fill out a 1099  form saying I'm an independent contractor. On the care.com website (https://www.care.com/homepay/nanny-tax-guide) it says "Families that misclassify their household employee as an independent contractor (by providing a Form 1099 for filing taxes) can be charged with tax evasion."

I've never done my taxes before and I don't want her to mess up my stuff when I go to file at the end of the year.

TL;DR: I think that my ex-boss is trying to commit tax fraud and I really don't want her to put me on her taxes.

Thank you very much for reading and I hope I can get some info here.

Answer: Tell her that if she doesn't provide you all of the money she owes you (including the difference between minimum wage and what you were paid), you'll file a wage claim with the state. Then follow up.


Title: Jaw Surgery has ruined my life.

Question:
Wrote this at /r/advice as well. Sorry if this is kind of lengthy but I will keep it as short as I can. Last year on June I had jaw surgery because of my bite and chin surgery which my doctor suggested could be done. He botched the surgery. Left me with a mild open bite but the main problem is it left me with mouth strain, I can't close my mouth without force. My lower lip droops exposing my lower teeths and also drooling every now and then. I can't even eat soup or cereal because of that. Ask the surgeon about this and he told me it looks fine and after many visit of me telling him what was wrong he just says unfortunately its just a compilation. I have no choice but to seek another surgeon about this issue and found one which I paid over $6,000 and it didn't fix anything, this was November 2015. That doctor kept on saying its just swollen, and he gave me a injection of steroid to break the scar tissue supposedly which didn't do anything because the scar is not the problem. I'm around March of 2016 and i'm still at a lost of what to do so I research what is good for scar tissue and come across another type of injection name 5fu, so i find a surgeon that gives those shots and nothing. Now it's late July and i'm back in the same place where I was a year ago. This has ruined my life, I lost all my friends because of the fear of seeing them and them seeing me like all messed up, it is ruining my mental health, I have trouble sleeping at night just thinking about this, my friends, all the trouble I have had, I have headaches, stress all time, broken out on acne because of this. All I think is, why me? This is not suppose to happen when someone has jaw surgery. I'm just a college student and at 21 years old and it's so difficult to look at someone on the face face to face without looking bad with my mouth open. The dentist where i had my 1st surgery just keeps making wear some mouth guard that just keeps messing up. I tired of it all. I have come across online of surgeons that can fix this problem but they are only in two states, Boston Massachusetts and Indiana. Now if I would want this I would have to pay even more money which I don't really have since the money went into that useless second surgery and also more money to get braces which aren't cheap. I tried suing but no attorney can really help me they say. It's a nightmare. I have called the state bearue, medical. No one helps me, no one guides me to the right direction. What em I suppose to do? I will provide a link to a picture that shows another patient that has had the same problem as me at the surgeon located at Boston's website to show what I'm talking about. The one on the left would be me right now. http://imgur.com/a/msm82

I need help so I came to this subreddit for advice and i hope someone here can give me some advice that can help me. There is much more information I left out for the sake of not making this too long so I decided to point out the most important factors. Thank you all and if you have any questions you can ask. Thank you.

Edit: Some attorney told me, you only have 6 months to sue a county hospital after the surgery was done, now it's 1 year and 5 months after. All they tell me is the fact that's it's been more than a year they don't want to take the case, like how would I have know how this works? Other attorney that are medical malpractice attorney tell me to look for dental malpractice attorney and they tell me they can't help because dental means teeth or jaw, my problem is facial structure which I can't close my mouth. I call medical and they tell me to call the social services which I did and all they tell me is to look into a primary doctor which they are just as clueless. What can I do about that?

Answer:
 When I see a post where an OP says they have been harmed by the incompetency of several doctors, and that no attorney is interested in taking the case or says they can't help that OP, I'm inclined to think that the facts are not as the OP has presented them.

So, how much of your story is legit? Answer #2: > I tried suing but no attorney can really help me they say.

If you had a case, they would have pounced on it. There's something you're leaving out. Why would any attorney otherwise just turn away a decent payday?

>There is much more information I left out for the sake of not making this too long

Oh, yes, of course. Not giving us all the facts will certainly help.


Title: My Father Can't Get Into Colombia

Question:
My father, who lives in the US, has a girlfriend in Colombia. About two or three weeks ago, he was trying to visit her. His flight included a lay over in Panama. As he was getting on to his connecting flight, they scanned his passport and discovered that he has had a criminal record (non-violent). They said that criminals cannot enter into Panama and that he wouldn't be allowed entry.

Long story short, he flies back to Miami and buys a direct flight to Colombia. However, once he gets to Colombia, he is met with the same response: criminals cannot enter Colombia.

What kind of recourse does he have so that he can enter the country? He made it sound like to me that he can write some sort of letter to the consulate, but I don't know anything about that or what it should say. Local lawyers have been no help.

Any advice would be appreciated!
Topic:
Immigration

Answer:
 I live in Panama about half of the year, and am familiar with this.  In short:  Your father did something pretty damn serious to not be allowed into Panama (and I presume Colombia).

Your father has no inherent right to enter either Panama or Colombia (or any other country).

His best bet would be to hire a lawyer in Colombia.

That being said, I have experiences hiring lawyers in both places and he needs to make sure he doesn't pay too much, and not much in advance or they will take his money and never do anything.Answer #2: Just as a heads up before he buys another expensive international flight: this is *very* common. Most countries have some sort of rule like this.Answer #3: He can petition the Colombian government through whatever appeals process they have. Otherwise, tough shit for him. Colombia gets to decide who can and can't come into their country.Answer #4: > What kind of recourse does he have so that he can enter the country?

almost none, and entirely at the discretion of colombia.

it may be possible to be granted some kind of rehabilitation that would permit him to enter. this is not uncommon for misdemeanors, but if he got a non-violent felony, chances are really good it's a no-go. i couldn't easily google the requirements.

if she can't come to the united states, the next step is to ask for guidance from the colombian embassy in washington, dc. this is one of the things embassies do. http://www.colombiaemb.org/


Title: One of my bosses always calls me a dumbass and is generally harassing at work.

Question:
I don't know if he's technically my manager, but he's someone in a position of authority over me. I work in a body shop, where its an all-male work environment. So there's a lot of cursing at eachother and shit-giving. That's fine. Well most of the time its fine. I can handle it. But the shit this manager gives me sends me into panic attacks. It makes me perform WORSE. He doesn't give constructive criticism, he's hyper-critical and demeaning. Repeatedly calls me dumbass, douche, swears at me, yells at me. It makes me not want to come to work some days. I've been so close to walking out lately. I don't need that kind of shit. I've got other awful shit I'm dealing with in my life.

It was so bad Friday that I was getting ready to just leave if he said one more thing. I even put my phone in my shirt pocket with the voice recorder going just in case he said something awful to me again. I'm going to keep doing this too. I don't know if having a recording of him saying awful shit to me will help though. I don't even know what I can do. I guess I figure if I have to walk out I'll file for unemployment? But then what? God idfk. As it is I'm living paycheck to paycheck. What should I do?

I'm in Kansas. Like I said, I don't know if he's technically my boss. It's also worth noting that I'm not always on time, but they just don't reprimand me for it. I'm worried that if I do anything, they'll just throw that on the table. And they'll probably argue that he's my boss and he's supposed to tell me what to do...but man this goes further than that. I get the evil glares, the shit-talking to other employees, the name calling. I DON'T NEED THIS! So what should I do?

Answer: There's no point in recording anything. If you don't like your work environment, you can quit. Answer #2: First, if you leave on your own, you won't be eligible for unemployment. Find a better place to work while you're still employed. As you've said, if you complain, they can fire you for a petty reason, or for no reason.


Title: I am looking for an opinion on whether or not I should file a complaint with the state bar association. I just called to request a form, and the message said it reviews all complaints and then picks the appropriate course of action. I am wondering if it will be a waste of time.

Question:
TL:DR Uncle ignoring will requests. Threatened us if he doesn’t get his way. Asked attorney about ten days ago for case info and have been ignored and can’t get them to honor the simplest of requests. Need advice filing complaint about attorney and what I can do about uncle. I am in Northern California about 30 miles from San Francisco.

That’s my first tldr. The story was hard to write so I rushed through it. It ruins my day. Please forgive the errors.

Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer: Please break this up into paragraphs. It's too hard to read.


Title: 148(a)(1) PC Resisting arrest and 5150

Question:
I'm in San Francisco, CA.
I've been dealing with general depression lately and made an unsuccessful suicide attempt in October that put me in the hospital for a few weeks. I also have problems with insomnia. Earlier this week I took some ativan to help fall asleep. Things kind of devolved and I ended up also taking a couple ambien and drinking a bit. After this point I have no memory of the night. From what I understand, my roommate was afraid I might do something to hurt myself. He also saw some cuts on my arm from the previous day. He called 911 and the police arrived. I got scared and tried to hide in my room. My roommate forced me out the front door and when I saw police I tried to run away so one of the officers grabbed me and knocked me down onto the pavement, giving me a skull fracture and a concussion. At this point the rest of the officers subdued me and shortly after an ambulance arrived. I woke up the following afternoon in the emergency room where someone explained what happened and gave me a court summons for resisting arrest under California Penal Code 148(a)(1). They also put me on a 5150 involuntary psychiatric hold. My roommate gave a statement to the police before they left saying that I was not aggressive, was not aware of what was going on, was unarmed, but that he thought I was a danger to myself at the time. He is a licensed doctor if that makes any difference.

My questions are:

* Do I have a chance at arguing my case against the resisting arrest charge? I did try to run away but I was obviously not thinking clearly, hadn't committed any other crime, and was not being aggressive towards the officers.
* I have a summons for a court date at the end of January. What should I expect at this?
* Do I need a lawyer? Aren't they supposed to provide a lawyer if I don't have one? It's likely that some of this was explained to me at some point but either due to being intoxicated or due to the head trauma, I have no recollection of any of these events
*  The law itself gives a maximum penalty of 1 year in a county jail and/or $1000 fine which has me kind of scared since I've never been in trouble with the law before. Is it likely I'm going to need to serve jail time for this?
* Can I see the police report regarding my case so I can see their account of what happened? All I have is a slip of paper with a date and address written on it for the court summons.
* Any additional suggestions as far as what I should expect, what I need to do between now and January, etc?
Topic:
Alcohol Related Other than DUI

Answer:
 > Do I have a chance

Sure, you have a chance.  We can't really say what kind of chance, but it's worth a shot.

> Do I need a lawyer?

Yes.

> Aren't they supposed to provide a lawyer if I don't have one?

They'll provide you a public defender if you qualify for one.  If you can afford one(even if it's tough to do) you won't qualify.  You can ask, though.  Best to call the public defender's service right away to see if you qualify.

> Is it likely I'm going to need to serve jail time for this?

Can't really say about 'likely'.  Realistically, first offenders don't normally get max sentences.

> Can I see the police report regarding my case

If you choose to proceed to trial, you will definitely get a copy as part of discovery.  You can call and ask about getting one now; they might give it to you.


Title: How to get rid of homeless minor in my grandpa'so car

Answer: How long has the body been in the trunk? The level of decomposition will dictate how to best remove it.


Title: Can a citizen “entrap” another citizen?

Question:
I know entrapment is illegal for police officers, but could a citizen induce another citizen to commit a crime and then report this crime? I’m asking because a friend of mine recently went to trial against her rapist and lost because the evidence was too weak. The jury was not told about this person’s 8 other reported incidents that also didn’t amount to anything because of the lack of evidence (usually waiting too long to report). This is a man that lives in a college town and has committed these assaults in a pretty short time frame, given his very young age.

The thing is that this guy has a pattern- try to get a girl drunk, make her feel sorry for him, and then assault her when her guard is down. The amount of reports would suggest that he does this frequently- almost to a point where it could be expected. Theoretically, what if I were to invite this person over to “hang out” and then firmly tell him “no” when he makes sexual advances, but he disregards this and attempts to assault me, which could all be caught on a camera, and have someone basically waiting in the house that could stop the situation once the evidence (the dismissal of the word “no”) was gathered.

Let me be clear- there’s a 99.999% chance I would never do this. Right now, I’m just reeling from the verdict and fantasizing ways justice could still be carried out. I know this would be extremely dangerous- which is why I wouldn’t do it, but I just want a technical answer as to rather or not this sort of “evidence” could be legit, and if this would be a legal (if very inadvisable) way to get it. Thank you.

Answer: To be clear, what you're describing isn't entrapment.


Title: Adopted from Russia, No Contact with Adoptive Parents that won't give my legal papers to me.

Question:
Hi,

I have a question. I had a big fallout with my adoptive parents. I'm 20 years old. I live on my own. I have my own job.

I have asked for my legal papers 3 times now and there has been no progress.

I can't easily get copies of my legals papers since I was born in Russia.

Anyone have any advice. I know that them withholding them is illegal and that I can get legal and etc involved but I have no idea how.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Answer:
 What legal papers? Certificate of naturalization, adoption paperwork, birth certificate, passport, ??

What state are you in?

What documents do you have currently? State ID/driver's license, e.g.?


Title: broke my leg while skateboarding, in apt complex

Question: 3 weeks ago my apt complex, was resealing the parking lot in front of my building. I got off late from work, and had to park a few buildings away. Out of convenience i pulled my skateboard out of my trunk, and rode to my apt. As i arrived at my building I rode onto the sidewalk, and ended up getting tripped up by some mulch on the sidewalk. I broke both my tibia and fibia, and  had to go thru surgery. Everyone keeps telling me to get a lawyer for missed wages, and medical bills. whats Reddit's opinion? (Florida)

Answer: I hope your recovery is going well. As far as this being anybody's fault but your own, was this invisible mulch?Answer #2: You assume the risk while skateboarding. A lawsuit would stall.


Title: I work for a fairly large company that is giving raises to only half of the people who do the same job.

Question:
I wasn't sure where to ask about this but I figured I'd start here. Please let me know if this should be asked on a different sub.

I work for a fairly large company that is pouring money into software positions. I found out my position is one that will get a fairly large salary bump (~15k bump I'm hearing). This was exciting to hear until we found out the bumps were only going out to employees in 3 of the major cities that my company has presence in. In total, there are 6 US cities that that company employs people in my software program. So basically raises are going out to half of the people in the program and not the other.

However, the cities that are getting the raise DO have higher costs of living. But the employees in these cities are already compensated higher than the other locations for that reason alone.

So, the problem I'm having is that there are ~500 software people in this program with the same job title and only half are getting a raise. It just seems like half of us are getting shafted. Half of me feels like a bitch for complaining, but the other half of me feels pretty justified because the employees getting the raise are already being compensated for their high cost of living. So the argument that they are getting the raise for their higher cost of living doesn't fly.

**I guess my question is, how legal is this? I thought there were laws in place in the US that enure that people who do the same job get equal compensation.** Will I be able to leverage this well when negotiating my raise next year?

Answer:
 >I thought there were laws in place in the US that enure that people who do the same job get equal compensation.

There are laws prohibiting paying people differently due to gender and other protected classes. The situation you describe, pay disparity based on location, is legal.


Title: Update- cpr at the gym

Question:
I know you guys love your updates, so I have a happy one! A few months ago I posted here looking for an eli5 for the good Samaritan law, because I wound up doing cpr for 7 minutes at the gym one morning until paramedics arrived.

I saw this man at the gym today. He got a defibrillator and was discharged from the hospital 2 days post code, and has been doing wonderful since. Apparently he's been back at the gym for awhile, and I had just been missing him.

Working in health care, we see and hear tons of threats of lawsuits. Even if everything is done perfect, the possibility is always there, so I wanted to have my bases covered, and you guys put me at ease. And seeing this man healthy and alive was such an amazing feeling. Thanks for all the advice you guys give!

Alaska for the bot.

Answer:
 Cheers for the update OP, glad your patient was ok in the end. Clearly you did a good job.

[Original post](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/44213u/alaska_how_exactly_does_the_good_samaritan_law/)


Title: Need help finding any laws about Michigan state self/home tattoos

Question:
I am not in any legal trouble, I am applying soon to a job that requires and extensive background check, so I want to know if I have any legal justification for past actions.

I am mid-20's now, but when I was about 15/16 years old I lived in Michigan. I got my hands on a tattoo machine, and gave myself tattoos in my own home. I've never tattood anyone else. Yes, they do not look good; Yes, I regret it; No, they did not get infected. When I joined the military, my recruiter told me to lie and say I got them at a shop.

Now this background investigation contains a polygraph, so I'm not going to lie about what I did, but I want to know if it was really illegal? All I can find are laws on actual facilities tattooing other people.

Answer: It’s not illegal to tattoo yourself,  it’s illegal to operate a tattoo business outside of the confines of the law. You’re fine.


Title: (Ontario) Issues with new building managers ? (domestic)

Question:
Hi there.

I rent an apartment with a large property management company.

Recently my building got new live-in building managers. They live on the same floor as me, and I am starting to become concerned about some of their behaviour.

This couple will often get into terrible arguements between 10 and 1am, seemingly several times a week. I can hear the wife (?) screaming at who I believe is her husband or long term boyfriend.

She swears a lot, screams at him to "just fucking leave", and I heared her yelling stuff like "that fucking whore". I also believe I heard the husband say something like "stop pushing me.

I believe the screaming she does is boardering on domestic violence. I believe a young teen lives in the apt aswell.

My issue basically is....I strongly dislike such an unstable woman having keys to my apartment. I am a female that lives by myself. This woman sounds like a very jealous,angry person and honestly her screaming is giving me anxiety and paranoia.

I feel like she us being exceptionally unprofessional, screaming late at night.

I do not know if I should contact the rental company and/or land lord about these new employees behaving like this. I am worried if I report their behaviour, the rental company will try to get me evicted and/or they will notify the couple and put me in potential danger or serious conflict with the wife.

I understand couples fight. But seriously I can hear her screaming and its starting to freak me out.

Thank you.

Answer:
 If you suspect domestic violence, call the police.

Its up to you whether you call the rental company.

You could also approach the managers privately and let them know that the walls are a bit thin and you can hear them arguing loudly. They may be motivated out of privacy to be a bit quieter.


Title: Bought a "pure-bred" dog, but turns out dog isn't pure-bred, and many claims made by the breeder were false. Do I have a right to my money back? [NM,AR]

Question:
I found a dog on puppyfind.net, being marketed as an AKC registered pure-bred Boston terrier. She's about 3 years old, and was shipped here to New Mexico fairly recently from Arkansas, along with her papers and a vet bill of health.

Two things I noticed right away: the pictures they sent of her were misleading, and she doesn't look quite like a Boston at all. And she's yappy. I've had Bostons my whole life and *none* of them have been so barky. I also have email records of asking them specifically if she had any behavioral issues; they reassured me that she doesn't; and wouldn't you know it, she's one of the most aggressive dogs I've ever had. Extremely territorial and threatening to *everyone,* even people walking all the way across the park. She tried to run down the neighbor kid the first day I got her. They told me she was raised in a home, among people, and was leash and crate-trained. She is none of these things. She acts like a wild animal and I'd be shocked if she's ever even seen a leash before.

Also, they told me that they never bred her, but her nipples are massive and distended/misshapen (they were never visible in the pics). I have email records of all of the claims they made about her.

I had her DNA tested and turns out, she's part chihuahua.

Am I entitled to all of my money back? Should I hire a lawyer?

Answer:
 It didn't strike you as odd that an "AKC registered" dog didn't come with AKC papers?

Sounds like doggy school for you and Mr. Barky.

What recourse you may have against the seller would depend on what you can prove they misrepresented.


Title: What laws would I be breaking if I hopped on a freight train in Kansas and just took it for a ride through a few states?

Question:
Title.

Trying to etch out the legality of my vagabond daydreams. (Band name – called it.)

Answer: For sure youre tresspassing. Possibly tresspassing on government property depending on where it goes. It is also extremely dangerous, and risky.Answer #2: Check out Stobe the Hobo on YouTube. He did a lot of riding on freight cars, until he was killed by a train in Baltimore.


Title: (NY) Account Suspended on BTC-e.com

Question:
Hello, i am a long time fan of bitcoins and have been actively trading in the past on www.btc-e.com but after not logging in for 2 years i tried last week and it said account was suspended. I contacted support and have submitted 10 tickets to re open my account. Only reply i got is to 1. log in from the old IP that i used, Done still says account suspended and to contact help.
Next they state i need to deposit .001 btc to my account wallet.
I dont know my account wallet without logging in.
Please help i have 10k in the exchange still and i would like to know what other steps i can take. I emailed them both in english and russian ( i am a native russian) and have not gotten a reply.

Reddit Please help

Answer: You left ~10K worth of bitcoin in some bitcoin exchange web site without any contact for 2 years?  You are lucky that the web site is still active.  I have no clue what their contract with you is, nor their ToS.  At this point this is a customer support issue.


Title: (Laredo, Tx) I have to turn in my community service hours by 6/27/2015 but the court is closed that day.

Answer: You should have completed and turned them in today.


Title: Having a Baby in a 1 Bedroom Townhouse [WI, USA]

Question:
Wife and and I likely going to start trying to have a baby in the next few months.

We are currently renting a one bedroom townhouse. We are just knocking out our final debts, and establishing an emergency fund.  Once those are achieved, we are going to start saving for a house downpayment.

Our lease is up in 08/16. Ideally, we'd like to stay one more year in this unit, and purchase a home with plenty of downpayment in the summer of 2017.  However, our current apartment states that only "2 Persons" can be in a one bedroom unit, "4 Persons" for a two bedroom, etc.

This townhouse has plenty of room for us, as well as an infant. We figure at the 1 year old mark of the child, we'll have a healthy downpayment, as well as start to feel the need to get more space.

My question to the community is wether or not this is enforceable or not? It seemed like grey area with the family status discrimination component, but I may be missing that completely.

We have not spoken to our landlords yet, as we are not expecting yet.  It's very possible they are accommodating, and all of this is for null.  More than anything else, I ask for peace of mind.

Answer:
 Minor children usually aren't counted in those kinds of "max occupant" standards, especially if it's a lease provision and not a city ordinance.

Don't bother even talking to the landlord -- their opinion is moot here. I pity the fool landlord that tries to evict a couple because they had their first child. Answer #2: The Fair Housing Act prohibits discriminating based on marital status and number of children. So even if the landlords don't like children or think the area is "too unsafe" to raise a child, they can't evict on those grounds.

However, reasonable occupancy limits have been upheld, even with children involved. A limit of two people in a one bedroom appartment, forcibly excluding a child, [doesn't sound reasonable](http://www.hud.gov/offices/fheo/library/occupancystds.pdf) to me - you want to check with your local city building codes and ordinances to see what they set the limit at. The link provides the factors HUD looks at in addition to those factors.

Check your lease on if minor children have to be listed in the "other occupant" sections of the lease. It's not universal, but some places do allow landlords to require that. Answer #3: I'd definitely talk to your landlord and let them know your plans. It's pretty common for infants to room in with parents for the first year (I did it with my first and we're currently doing it with #2). It makes life easier, especially if your wife nurses, and babies don't need (although maybe will want) many inanimate objects for the beginning.

If your landlord agrees, just make sure you have an addendum in place for the allowance of an infant should one show up.


Title: Accountant failed to file a tax return for 4 years

Question:
Living in Philadelphia.

It turns out my accountant did not file a School Income Tax return with my business & personal taxes, for 4 years straight.
[http://www.phila.gov/Revenue/individuals/taxes/Pages/SchoolIncomeTax.aspx](http://www.phila.gov/Revenue/individuals/taxes/Pages/SchoolIncomeTax.aspx)

I recently got 4 bills from the Philly Dept of Revenue, totalling just over 4k of penalties and interest. I paid everything and my accountant said 'Sorry'.

Any advice on what I can or should do here?

I'd like him to reimburse me considering he did my taxes (or at least half the penalties and interest).

A letter from me formally asking him to reimburse me will likely end up in the trash.

I since have a new accountant (and don't have a lawyer).

Answer: Quick question.  How much of the $4K is taxes owed, and how much is penalties and interest?


Title: Not sure what I can do. Any help?

Question:
I live in Cleveland. I was picked up for these charges.

Code 5312 DISORDERLY CONDUCT-VOL INTOX
Code 4801 RESISTING OFFICER
Under narrative on report: ASSIST WITH AN INTOXICATED MALE. C-3761/1125 ARRESTED ONE MALE.TCO.

I was in my apartment complex, really drunk sitting on the steps. Don't really remember what happened or who called but I remember falling in the snow.

Any advice about what I could do to her these charges dropped would be appreciated!

P.S. I am no longer drinking.

Answer:
 > Don't really remember what happened

This is going to make it difficult to defend your actions, don't you think?


Title: Major Employer Problems

Question:
I live in Maryland. Over the last 4 years I have worked for the same man. At first I was an independent contractor, over time he kept wanting to lower my pay, we would argue about it and he eventually won. Then he wanted me to do more in a day, I told him that if he was going to have demands on my production and dictate what hours I was to work then he needed to have me as an employee, with a raise, which I got. So I went on salary at $60k/yr. After less than a year he comes to me and begs me to go off salary and back to an independent contractor because he says payroll taxes were "killing him", offers me almost 50% increase over my original contractor rate, and proceeds to inform me that I'm going to have to sign a contractors agreement with the company that he contracts with because there was something that happened with marketing and now he is no longer allowed to be doing the marketing for his contract, so he and the guy he contracts with convince me to sign a contractors agreement with this other company that says that I do the marketing, if I don't then everyone is out of a job and nobody can keep doing this line of work because we will all get screwed. Stupidly I signed this cheesy contractors agreement in order to keep making money and not have to find new employment, i am not and never have been paid through that company and i do not do the things that the contractors agreement says that i do. Now, six months later the guy that I work for is again trying to strong-arm me into reducing my pay, and this last paycheck he just went ahead and did it, even though I rejected it being lowered.

What is my best recourse here? I feel sure that he has been breaking employment laws by doing these things, I just don't know where to start. He dictates what time I go to work, how much I get done, when we work, when we don't work, and every time he fucks something up and it becomes a hit to his pocketbook he comes and tries to lower my pay, even after I am maintaining a huge lie for him, which keeps him in business. I know I'm stupid for allowing myself in this situation, I just need some help.

Answer: Find a new job. Stop working for him as soon as you do. Sue him or file an unpaid wage complaint for what he still owes you.


Title: Amazon charges on my account are shipped to my brother's address

Question:
Over the last couple of months, some charges on my account did not make sense. I thought it was my wife making these charges since she's a frequent purchaser on Amazon, but it did not make sense. The total amount of charges has surpassed 5 thousand, and when calling the credit card company for all 4 cards that this was happening to, I found out there were various items being sent to my brother's address. I gave him my card information a long time ago to make purchases on MY account and I am guessing, he wrote it down and remembered it and made purchases with it. I froze all my accounts and called the police. Do I have a case?
Topic:
Credit Debt Bankruptcy

Answer: Yes, it’s fraud. Answer #2: Also, make sure you're not (and your wife's not) somehow in an Amazon household with your brother.Answer #3: Have card company cancel and reissue with new numbers ASAP.


Title: Landlord trying to charge me to fix the driveway in VA

Question:
It's been raining here. Me and my girlfriend park on the side of the drive way in the grass, just like we have been for the past 6 months. He gave us our 30 day at the beginning of January, and it's been raining kinda a lot since we got it so it's kinda muddy in the grass, you know what that's like. No giant ruts or anything.
He just told me that we each have to pay him $200 this month to help him fix it. Now, I'll gladly throw in some money on some grass seed if he wants to make us help, but I don't think it's fair to have to pay $200 to UPGRADE SOMETHING SUBSTANTIALLY (from grass to full, 4 car gravel driveway) when I have less than a week of living here left.. What should I tell him? Am I protected under any laws here?
Topic:
Landlord Tenant Housing

Answer: So why are you parking on the grass? Because I have to say, that sounds unreasonable.


Title: Forced to reveal medical condition at work, even though I do not require any accommodations to do what is in my job description

Question:
So, throw away just in case of course. I am in the US. Edit: I am concerned about specifics because I am in a very small industry where I live and it will most definitely identify me

During my formal review my boss trapped me into a corner where I had no way to answer his question without revealing I have an ADA protected condition. I haven't told anyone at work, and I don't require accommodations for the job I have (nor have I ever asked for them.)

He also said a bunch of horrible things to me prior to grilling me about my health issues. He said that they "can't help me if they don't know" (but I do not need help, and I dont appreciate the assumption that I do.) And aside from feeling bullied into answering, even if I had answered that I legally don't have to tell him he would have known I have an ADA protected condition (he asked me 6 times and blamed a simple mistake I made on my condition, when other people in the office make mistakes all the time and are still given work)

He is clearly telling people at work, because the HR lady unsolocitedly sent me a thing abiut how I need to use up all my sick time before I can use FMLA (something else I have never asked for and I have plenty of sick days left, as Ive only used a few. Two were taken for worker's comp because I fell on the ice in the parking lot carrying some work gear, and went for xrays, was told to rest, but apparently where I live if you don't take a certain amount of days off they dont have to cover anything other than the medical charges and will use your sick time. While I feel that isn't right, it is apparently state law and nothing can be done about it.)

On top of that, Ive been told I need to go find my own work assignments, even though thats not my job and everyone else gets assigned theirs. And Ive been told to do some dangerous things like bring my heavy and mostly broken gear to well-known high crime areas by myself, in the dark (and the most prone hours, early morning) they removed an entire aspect of my job and expect me to teach myself how to use a piece of equipment that requires safety certs that I dont have. Plus I was told by my immediate supervisor not to touch it because he wants to train us in a certain order, and somehow that translated into being my fault for not just ignoring him and using it anyway. And this is like, a 2 ton thing that you sit inside and operate and has masts and shit. I don't really feel comfortable just flicking switches and I told them that. I don't want to break it or be blamed for breaking it.

I called the AG's office here and explained what happened, and now this has snowballed into an investigation into a disability violation and I am being set up with an income based law service because my condition allows me to qualify. This all happened very recently, so I dont have any other info yet.

I have not talked to HR yet, because I'm not sure what to do. I went to HR with an issue about a coworker that my boss hired and is kind of the golden boy, some people have floated the idea that I stepped in it by bringing it up with HR and not my boss directly so he could pretend to hear my concerns and then sweep it under the rug. I'm not sure about that, because my boss is a jerkpig and it could really be just that he wants me to quit because I'm not someone who would typically be hired for my position. I was hired by someone who has left the company. I emailed my new sort of immediate boss (I have 3 bosses and all of them refer to the others when you have a question) to see if he can talk about what my job description is since the review.

TL;DR: Boss forced me to reveal and now I have almost no work duties, except dangerous ones and ones out of my pay grade and job description. It causes me great anxiety (I do have anxiety and PTSD and depression, but all mostly managed but this isnt helping) to come to work, and basically all weekend because I dont know what to do when I come in. Have contacted AG office and they are investigating.

 Any tips on what I should be doing? Am I doing the right things?

Edit: Ive been informed we hired another person who does exactly what I do and everyone is very confused as to what role they will fill, so I'm assuming I'm being fired.

Answer:
 Even though you say you need no special accommodation. Find out what people with your condition would normally get. Then formally request it from HR. This puts it back on them if they are working an angle to terminate you.  Now IF they terminate you another line of recourse is you asked for reasonable accommodation and they terminated you.

Start a book, log everything you do and they do.

If they are going to be dicks put yourself on the offensive not defensive.  Ask for everything in detail the law allows. Prepare to make them your new profit center if they don't back down. Read up, lawyer up.
Answer #2: To answer your question, it seems like you're doing the right thing by getting in touch with a lawyer. Any significant changes to your work or compensation/hours can be considered constructive dismissal. Since this is hot on the heels of you revealing an ADA condition, you would probably have a case for wrongful termination.

Follow your lawyer's instructions and if you're not satisfied with them, feel free to shop around and book a consultation with an employment attorney or two.


Title: CPS called on my family by an angry extended family member

Question: Pretty much the title. Someone in my wife's family got angry at my wife over some unrelated drama, and decided the best course of action was to call in a fraudulent CPS tip. Is there any recourse I can take for this? Nothing came of the CPS call, but I'm worried about them escalating their "tips".

Answer:
 Tell CPS who and why you suspect did it. They likely won’t confirm, but they may put a note. CPS doesn’t like people who waste their time.Answer #2: You can get a lawyer to write a cease & desist letter and potentially sue for defamation if that doesn't work.

How obviously fraudulent was the tip?  Is the relative's claim plausible, or was it completely debunked by CPS?


Title: Rights of posthumous baby.

Question:
If a baby is born after the father dies, does it have any claim to the estate?  Assume only child and no will, parents were not married, baby is born in Ontario, Canada.  Thank you!

Edit:  update - the mother went to see a local family law lawyer.  The unborn baby is entitled to the entire estate.  The only thing in question is life insurance, rsps, and pension which listed the grandmother as beneficiary.  Depending on the wording of these documents, the baby might also be entitled to a portion.

Thank you for your help!
Topic:
Wills Trusts and Estates

Answer: Yes, a posthumously born child typically inherits under intestacy statutes.  The more in vogue question right now is what should happen with posthumously *conceived* children.


Title: (OK) Boyfriends job has cut his hours to nothing to try to force him to quit so they don't have to pay unemployment

Question:
My boyfriend and I work at a bar in Oklahoma. Whenever they become unsatisfied with an employee for any reason, they cut them to one shift a week to basically force them to quit to avoid paying unemployment. Well my boyfriend hasn't even received a single shift in three weeks, but he is not terminated. How long can he be excluded from the schedule before it's reasonably (or legally) assumed he is no longer an employee there, not by his choice, and he could possibly file for unemployment as it would be considered termination?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer:
 Cutting hours drastically can be a form of "constructive dismissal" and would generally qualify the employee for partial or full unemployment.

He should file for unemployment now, and appeal if denied.


Title: An old, old, very frail co-worker grabbed me by the neck yesterday at work. I have not reported it yet. I do not see a way out of this situation that does not involve me losing me job. Details inside.

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 The environment that you are in there right now is only going to get worse, whether or not you stay and fight or stay and take it.  I would suggest looking for another job and leaving when you find one.

At the position you are in, there are plenty of places looking, I would think, of decent workers at your skill level and position.

The other side of that is talk to the old man and tell him that touching you that way was inappropriate and please don't do it again, and that it made you uncomfortable.


Title: [NYC] Slander... What do I do?

Question:
Over 6 years ago, I had a falling out that ended terribly with someone who is in my industry of work.  At that time, he wrote a horrible, damning blog post about me on his professional website.  It's still up on the website today, and comes up in a google search for my name.  However, being that what happened between us has absolutely nothing to do with my job performance, I decided to just leave it be at the time and move on with my life.

During that time, he also contacted my superiors to try to get me fired.  Afterwards, any time I posted something to our industry community's facebook page, he would comment immediately and include a link to the blog post.  I then blocked him.  Even still, he continued to link this blog post any time someone mentioned my name within the group.

Recently he got in contact with a person I worked freelance for and went on an insane rant and stated they were no longer friends or work connections because my boss had hired me.  I did not ask to see this e-mail, I was merely told about it second-hand.

At this point its clear to me that he's trying to get in the way of my career and possibly my ability to get work.

How do I get him to stop?  I'm worried that if he were to see me in person, due to his rage at a friend and coworker over hiring me, that something terrible may happen to me.  I have never engaged him in any of this.

Answer: Is he misrepresenting false facts as the truth? Truth and opinion are defenses to defamation.


Title: [Burlington, VT] Owner claims to be able to evict if they decide criminal activity was committed, on or off property, regardless of arrest.

Question:
Hi,
I don't know if this clause is valid, because it seems that I'd be able to be evicted if the owner "determines" (with no standard of evidence or proof) I committed a crime, on or off of the property, regardless of whether I have been convicted or arrested even.
Basically he'd be evicting me for something that could be totally legal off the property, but he "claims" is illegal.

I haven't signed it yet.

Here's the clause:
Criminal activity-

Any of the following types of criminal activity by the Tenant, any member of the household, a guest or another person under the Tenant's control shall be cause for termination of tenancy.

	I. Any activity including criminal activity that threatens the health, safety or right to peaceful enjoyment of the premises by other residences (including conduct/actions against or harassment of the Owner and/or property management staff and/or any agents/contractors/vendors of the Owner);

	II. Any activity including criminal activity that threatens the health, safety or right to peaceful enjoyment of their residences by persons residing in the immediate vicinity of the premises;

	III. Any violent criminal activity on or off the premises;

	IV. Any drug related criminal activity on or off the premises;

	V. Any other activity which impairs the physical or social environment of the premises.

	VI. Illegal use or possession of a controlled substance; or

	VII. Abuse of alcohol that threatens the health, safety or right to peaceful enjoyment of the premises by other residents;

	VIII. Interference with management of the property

	IV. Criminal Activity directly relating to domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault or stalking engaged in by a member of a Tenant's household or any guest or other person under the Tenant's control shall not be cause for eviction for the Tenant or immediate family member of the Tenant's household who is a victim of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault or stalking and as a result Tenant victim could not control or prevent the criminal activity. This exception for victims of domestic violence does not apply to the eviction of a family member who is the perpetrator of the domestic violence or if there is an actual or imminent threat to other residents, the larger community, Owner/Owner's agents or persons providing service to the property if the Tenant is not evicted.

	The Owner may terminate the tenancy for criminal activity in accordance with this section if the Owner determines that the household member/guest has committed the criminal activity, regardless of whether the household member/guest has been arrested or convicted for such activity. In addition, the Owner may terminate the tenancy if any member of the household is:

	1. Fleeing to avoid prosecution, or custody or confinement after conviction, for a crime, or attempt to commit a crime, that is a felony under the laws of the place from which the individual flees; or
	2. Violating a condition of probation or parole under Federal or State Law.

Answer: Standard Section 8 lease verbiage, and holds up in court.


Title: Florida: I screenshot it and Instagram post of a girls smoking weed and send it to her parents. They say that is illegal because I posted a picture of a minor. None of this makes any sense

Question:
I was scrolling through my Instagram and saw a post of this girl smoking weed, I screenshot it and send it to her parents. I did it for no other reason than just to be an asshole. And now her dad saying he's going to come pay me a visit and that it should be a nice little civil trial. I'm personally not really worried about anything but I'm just concerned about the possible outcomes here.

 He also somehow got my cell phone number and called me but I didn't answer so I'm pretty sure he has my address too because that's totally possible.

 Sorry for the messed up title I was using my voice to type.

Answer:
 There's almost certainly nothing illegal about what you did. Similarly, it's not grounds for a lawsuit in and of itself.Answer #2: Nothing illegal about it, but you should reconsider why you are such an asshole and get off on harming other people.Answer #3: Nothing here seems even remotely illegal. Answer #4: Anyone can walk up to you and say "I'll see you in court!" You don't have to believe them.Answer #5: If you are served with a notice that you are being sued, you need to respond- no matter how are less their suit is. If you don't respond, you will most likely lose the case and have to pay, and there is no recourse. Do not ignore it. Answer #6: It's a rule of thumb around here that the people who yell most loudly that they're going to sue the pants off of you are probably the least likely to actually do anything.

He's just trying to scare you. And I can understand why - you succeed in your attempt to be an asshole.  Maybe don't do that anymore?  Next time you may find your self in a less sanguine position.


Title: Landlord changed locks to mailbox, won't respond to messages requesting new keys

Question:
Location is NY, NYC specifically

My roommate and I live in an apartment building with locked mail boxes for each unit in the lobby

Perhaps a month ago our keys stopped working in the mailbox. We didn't notice at the time because we check the mailbox only infrequently. It appears that the lock has been changed, probably due to the old lock not working very well.

Things are still being put *in* to the mailbox, as several Amazon packages have been delivered there, but we aren't able to get into the box.

We've repeatedly tried to contact the landlord about this over the course of a couple weeks, sending multiple texts, emails, and calling, but have not received anything back

The situation isn't serious as all of our bills are e-pay anyway, but it's been increasingly frustrating watching packages being delivered to a box that we can't access

Our next plan is to physically go to their office, but if this fails is there any legal recourse to get keys to our mailbox? Everything online that I've seen relates to being constructively evicted, not to being locked out of your own mailbox

In the winter we filed complaints to the city about a lack of hot water, which worked, but I couldn't find anywhere online to complain about a mailbox

Thanks for your help!

Answer: Assuming the USPS delivers to your mailbox, I would contact the USPS Inspector General's office and ask them what their process is to get you access to your mailbox with a non-compliant landlord. If you go to their website, they may even have an FAQ/document on this topic as I bet it comes up with some frequency.


Title: Parked car hit by underage drunk driver. What are my options?

Question:
So let me begin by saying I would prefer to avoid suing the driver, but I am not eliminating that possibility if it comes to it. I'm not out to make a quick buck or anything, just trying to prepare myself for all scenarios. That being said, here's my story...

I was in Iowa visiting family for Thanksgiving (I live in NC). My car was parked legally against the curb when a 20-year-old drunk driver slammed into my vehicle. She totaled my car (Acura MDX), her car (Mitsubishi Endeavor), and my brother-in-law's car (Honda Accord) that was parked in front of mine. She was charged with OWI 1st offense, Failure to maintain control, and striking an unattended vehicle. She was ultimately released on her own recognizance after 2hr27min detention with $1,000 bond paid. My BIL has USAA insurance, I and the drunk driver both have Nationwide. My BIL and I have both given statements, but I'm hearing that the driver is dragging her feet to give a statement, which is beginning to delay the insurance process.
At this point, and I'll try to keep updating as info comes in, I would just like to know if I have any legal options in this case or if insurance handles everything and I just take the settlement they provide. Also, as a bonus, how do I get the most out of the settlement when all is said and done?

Thanks in advance!!

Answer:
 You have, basically, two options.

1.) Wait for the insurance process to proceed and settle for an agreed upon amount, or

2.) You can sue the driver (or her parents) for the amount of your damages.


Title: [FL] Is shooting at squirrels in my backyard illegal?

Question: I have a couple plants and bird feeders and squirrels always mess around with the shit. I have neighbors on all sides, can I use a .22LR and shoot them? They also make my dogs go crazy when they climb the power pole.

Answer:
 1) discharge of a firearm may be illegal in your area

2) you would need a hunting licenses and can only hunt them between Oct 13 and March 3.


Title: Is it legal for my work phone to block 911 calls? (TX)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Call your fire marshal and ask what the deal is. They're often reasonably versed in emergency services regulations, since they have to deal with dumb shit like employers locking fire exits or disabling alarms. If they don't know, they may be able to refer you to someone who does.Answer #2: I work in cybersecurity and this might not be what you think it means

>one of those electronic phone systems

It's likely Voice over IP, so it's likely routing call data over the internet

>“This line does not support 911 services”

This may not mean it's incapable of calling, but rather it's going to tell them you're in the wrong location due to how it routes

I worked at a place that had requirements on *where* their 911 phone had to be so they had a separate phone specifically for 911 calls. Have you asked your boss?Answer #3: https://www.fcc.gov/consumers/guides/voip-and-911-service

Do these phone systems connect to public phone switches? Meaning can you dial a regular 10 digit phone number from them, or are they just for calling numbers associated with your company? If they can call a regular phone line they are required to be able to reach 911 services.

File a complaint with the FCC at that link if you need to


Title: [DUI] My ignition interlock was stolen from my car among a few other things. Am I going to get in trouble for it?

Question:
By the way, the DUI happened in Oregon, though I live in Washington.

Like the title says, my court ordered ignition interlock was stolen out of my car. It's a bit complicated though. Whoever it was didn't just rip it out of my car.

The company that I get mine from sends me a new unit in the mail every other month when it comes time for recalibration. I unplug the old one, plug in the new one and send the old one back in the same box (they provide a UPS slip for the return). I had gotten my new unit, made the swap and put the old one in the box and sealed it. Instead of doing the smart thing and taking it to a UPS drop off right away I set it below the passenger seat and forgot about it for a couple days.

Now allow me to point out that I do not live in a nice neighborhood. I leave my car unlocked because 1. It's not a super nice car, and I don't keep anything valuable in it and 2. I've had my car broken into before and I'd rather them not smash my window only to find nothing anyways.

Well one day I went out to my car with the intention of finally dropping the old interlock off at UPS. Only to find it's missing, along with a couple small things (frisby golf disks and a shoebox full of shot glasses given to me by my aunt I kept meaning to take out of my car). I'm guessing whoever it was just saw this small sealed up box and assumed it was something worth taking.

Now I've already sorted this out with the company I get my interlocks from. I have to pay them a hefty fee, but whatever. I signed a contract. My issue though is I don't know if this can get me in any trouble with the court. I've tried calling the agency in charge of my DUI case, at least a couple times a week but every single time I call my case worker isn't available. I'm going to try them again tomorrow since I have the day off but I'm just curious if anyone has any experience with this sort of thing. I'm worried they'll think I "lost" it on purpose to hide a bad breath sample or something which is absolutely not the case. Any advice would be super appreicated. Thank you!

Answer:
 Reporting it to the police so at least there is a trail to your take of what happened couldn't hurt.

Work for a company in another state that installs these and with our device the data is stored on a unit tucked under the dash. Not positive about your unit. We don't send new units every calibration cycle, just have you come in and recalibrate the original one installed in your car.


Title: Friend's husband kicking her out of the house and demanding 50/50 custody. Not divorcing to avoid court orders and child support. Need advice. Both parents are in different states. Texas/Maryland.

Question:
I'm just gaining some perspective to help out a friend in a pretty strange situation. I genuinely feel like she's being abused and that she's being bullied by her husband into a not so great legal arrangement and could use some legal perspective on where to guide her.

She's married to an Army guy. They currently live in Colorado.

She's from Maryland. He's from Texas.

A few months ago her husband decided that he didn't love her anymore and went off and started seeing another girl. She's been pregnant since April and he pretty much told her that she's not somebody he can see himself passionately loving so he wanted to split. He's been seeing this girl and basically lying to his family and telling them that his wife was the one leaving him.

He's been known to have anger/aggression problems and has known to lie a lot. Here lately he decided to give her a time limit on how much longer she can stay in the house. She's moving back to Maryland on the 22nd to be with her family and give him alone time to mull everything over. They still live together right now and apparently he talks to his side chick every day and pretty much berates and constantly yells at his wife. She's not the main instigator. He literally wakes her up to tell her that she ruined his life by taking a way two years of happiness that he could have had with somebody else and that she's useless to him and he'll never find her physically or mentally attractive.

She comes to me a lot because she can't stand to be around him openly cheating in front of her and telling her that its her fault he's leaving. I hate the guy. He financially cut her off and took her vehicle from her. He's constantly paranoid about her being around me and other friends because he wants to maintain the illusion that he's leaving her for good reasons. He refuses to take her to prenatal appointments unless he's present because it is "his child too that he needs a 50/50 part in making decisions for".

He's purposefully avoiding divorce because he doesn't want to pay child support and explained that he may never file but wants to figure a 50/50 long distance arrangement for custody so that he gets equal time with his future daughter since he's parting with the Army next year and moving back to Texas.

She seems to feel that she has no choice in the matter and won't move to file for divorce on her own because she doesn't think its fair that she should have to.

He told her that since he has to deploy next year for a year that when he gets back he gets the infant for a year to make it even. He then explained that his 50/50 custody plan involved her attending a school in Texas for 6 month and then a school in Maryland for 6 month periods to split years in half.

I was frankly quite stunned at the stupidity behind this supposed "arrangement" because not only is it completely insane but she seems to be totally okay with it because she'd rather the baby have a good relationship with both parents evenly than only see the dad 30% of the year.

She doesn't believe me that no judge would go for it and explained if they just stay married and don't divorce that no judge will ever know.

I think it is a recipe for disaster. And definitely not in the best interest of the child. God forbid she doesn't get the care she needs because her dad isn't equipped to be an honest or emotionally stable parent. Not only that, but mom doesn't have a job and he's not planning on paying child support so how is this child even going to get bounced around. With what money or means?

I just wanted to know what the legality of this all is and what is more likely to actually happen - like they have a fantasy idea of what's going on (and yes, she's in complete denial about his actions and loves him and doesn't want him to get in trouble which is why he's apparently getting away with this) and what's going to happen but there has to be a reality plan that gets in their way. I need peace of mind that this child will be well provided for and that this won't happen. And if they proceed on with this plan, is there anything anyone can do to report that the child isn't in the best arrangement to help push along a better process for this little girl?

Any help would be appreciated.

Answer:
 >She seems to feel that she has no choice in the matter and won't move to file for divorce on her own because she doesn't think its fair that she should have to.

She doesn't want your help. She doesn't want help from anyone. If she wants out of an emotionally abusive relationship, she has to file for divorce.

Personally, I would stay away from this thing they call a "relationship". They're both too damn dumb for their own good.Answer #2: If she's willing to go along with it, it's all legal.  Nothing prevents parents from moving their kid around.  Though I don't know how they'll make it work from a practical standpoint.

Your friend needs to file for divorce.  But given that her preferred option appears to be "Do whatever my husband says", then that's all she's going to do


Title: Friend's fiance's parents have accused friend of stealing $1400 with no evidence and are potentially black mailing him.

Question:
{USA}

My friend's fiance's grandparents have had $1400 of unauthorized charges on their card.  The grandparents have accused my friend of the crime.  The police traced the IP from the credit thievery back to my friends house yet it was from an Xbox 360 (which he doesn't own) and isn't his actual IP.  The friend does not have the Xbox account gamertag that the charges were attached to on his XBox One (the charges came through an Xbox 360).  The Xbox 360 was sold by my friend to grandparents-in-law so that their grand kids could have one for Christmas.  Fiance's grandparents now say that if he doesn't pay them, they will send documents (a contract telling him that he must do certain chores / payment plan *NOT* sent through a lawyer or notary) to the police, with a misspelling of his name (he did not sign this contract).  They are convinced and accusatory.  Are they trying to black mail him or what?  Thank you!!

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I know this isn't very clear, but I am tired, so if you have any questions, please ask!
Topic:
Credit Debt Bankruptcy

Answer:
 Oh my word, that’s the most adorable blackmail attempt I’ve ever seen. They expect the police to care about a _chore contract_, or that that threat would scare someone?

Needless to say, your friend is fine. He can safely tell his future in-laws to back off on this. If the police want to question him about the payments, a polite answer that he’s not answering anything without an attorney present is more than enough.


Title: I live in Los Angeles. I found out that my housemate Nick (36m) choked his wife back in January 2018, but this was never reported to the police. Nick has been a constant nuisance for the last year. This morning he called a elderly woman that lives at the same house as us a “bitch.” What can be done?

Question: Domestic abuser never got justice

Answer: There's nothing you can do about that legally.  The landlord can evict him, but might have to evict all of you, depending on how the lease is written.


Title: GA: Hypothetical--should this guy plead not guilty when he says he received a summons in error?

Question:
Here is the story, but I can summarize it:

http://www.ajc.com/news/news/crime-law/man-receives-panhandling-ticket-after-wallet-stole/nmcYW/

Guy gets his wallet stolen. Several weeks later he gets a summons in the mail that he is to come to the court due to a panhandling ticket he received. He was at work on the day that the panhandling ticket was given and assumes the person ticketed stole his identity. He has gone to court three times trying to clear up the mess and has not entered a plea.

The question is--if you were advising the guy would you tell him to enter a not guilty plea then present the alibi evidence or would you suggest that he first keep fighting to get the case dismissed before entering a plea?

This is a matter of Internet argument life or death for me. Or something.

Answer:
 > The question is--if you were advising the guy would you tell him to enter a not guilty plea then present the alibi evidence or would you suggest that he first keep fighting to get the case dismissed before entering a plea?

He should plead not guilty and present his evidence at trial.  That's literally what the trial is for - determining whether someone is guilty of the charge at hand.


Title: Accused of planning to shoot up my school? [Arizona] (X-post /r/advice)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: If it goes anywhere, don't shy away from speaking to a mental health counselor outside of and unaffiliated with the school. This could get very stressful. Answer #2: You may want to look into good criminal defense attorneys, because you may need one in the very near future. Your state's bar association can refer you to one if need be.


Title: Can a School Psychologist pressure me into answering a question about previous healthcare I have received?

Question:
Two details that I think are important:
I was 18, in a public high school at the time.
I live in Virginia, USA.

This happened between 1-2 years ago, and I feel like my rights to medical confidentiality were violated.

One day, I was asked into the school psychologist's office to discus an issue that was unrelated to this. Once I was in there, she asked me twice about whether I was receiving any consoling from a Psychologist privately. There is no problem with asking the question, but I made it clear I did not want to answer.

Later, she came back to the question and asked me a third time. I made it clear that I did not want to answer it. At the time, I was in a very emotional situation, and I really did not want to answer this question. Eventually I did answer, because it was clear that I would not be allowed to go, and that this would keep getting brought up until I answered.

I feel that because I was seeing a medical professional, I had a right to medical confidentiality, especially as an adult. I felt coerced into giving this information at the time, and I am still unhappy about revealing it. I wish I had stood strong, but I realistically could not, with figures of authority over me in the room.

Do I have any options here?

Answer: No, your confidentiality was not violated.  There was nothing wrong with them asking about your history, but you had no obligation to tell them.


Title: Chipped Tooth on Rock in Packaged Food

Question: Hello. This weekend I was eating packaged food from a national grocery store. It turns out there was a rock in the food, and I chipped my tooth on it. I have submitted a complaint to the company, and will call a dentist tomorrow morning. I expect to be compensated for the cost of dental bills, time off work, and distress, but I have no idea how that process works. Do I need to get a lawyer? Do I need to contact anyone else regarding concerns about the specific product so it doesn't happen to anyone else? What kind of documentation of the incident is necessary on my end? Thank you in advance for your help- feeling quite unlucky and out of my depth.

Answer:
 >I expect to be compensated for the cost of dental bills,

Maybe.  If you can prove your claim.

 >time off work,

unlikely

>and distress

not gonna happen.

Feel free to contact personal injury attorneys in your area for a consultation.  Be aware that you did not just win the lottery.


Title: Slipped while on crutches on school ground with no wet floor sign. Advice?

Question:
First of all, I have a broken fibula and had surgery on my ligaments (screws) last week, so i'm on crutches.

Today, a day with some drizzle, I entered the school (college) building that I had class in and inside the building one of my crutches slid through the wet floor and I badly landed on my broken leg that I recently had surgery on (there are cameras).  I was in a lot of pain and the leg started swelling while sitting in class.  There was no WET FLOOR sign and after the class ended, on my way out guess what, they decided to put the sign right where i fell.
I am not sure if I might of re-injured my ankle/bone or done anything to it, I will be seeing my doctor soon and will update him on the situation.

I wanted to know if suing is possible with what has happened.

Thank you for any help.

Answer:
 Suing is possible. It's always possible

However, you knew it was raining. You knew the ground was wet. You need to be careful about how you place your crutch.

Also, what are your damages?Answer #2: The purpose of those signs are to alert you that the floor may be wet. You already knew it was raining so should have known the floor may be wet.Answer #3: Adding the sign is not acknowledgement of liability.  It's probably  even inadmissible in court -- courts don't want to discourage remedial action by exposing people to further liability when a condition is fixed.

The school didn't put the water there.  The school can't be everywhere at once, so there is going to be a delay between the presence of a hazardous condition and the school's reasonable duty to mitigate that condition.

That means that the simple fact that you slipped on water on school grounds does not equate to the school being liable for your injuries.  You have to show negligence, and that the negligence was the legal cause of the injury.

As others have pointed out, you were aware that it was raining.  So your burden is a) The school was negligent, b) a reasonable person would be unlikely to avoid slipping even if they were aware of the increased risk due to weather.


Title: Politicians and personality rights?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 I wouldn't trust any advice you get here; we're overwhelmingly American.

You might also stop by /r/legaladviceuk just because I imagine that due to history their legal system might be more similar to yours America's would be.

But really you need to hire someone local to ask these questions.

And finally, always remember that something being legal won't keep you from winding up in a shallow unmarked grave if you piss off the wrong powerful person. That's a universal truth.


Title: I am marrying my girlfriend of 2 years; she is foreign and entered the US legally, but has stayed past her visa, so she is now illegal. What is the process of making her legal again once we get married?

Question:
My girlfriend entered the country around 5 years ago.  When she came here she entered legally with a visa.  Instead of leaving the country before the visa was up and apply for a new one she instead decided that marriage would be her best option.  She arranged a sham marriage with people in her inner circle.  This ultimately led to her realizing how unwise this was to which she then filed for a divorce before it went any further.

She was married right before the visa expired.  This meant that though the visa was expired she was still OK because of the sham marriage.  It was before 6 months that she filed for the divorce, so she did not even receive a temporary Green Card.  Once the the divorce became finalized she was now left here in the US illegal.  Also, there was no record of a "sham" marriage taking place, simply that there was a marriage and a subsequent divorce.

I know, based on the basic research I have done, that there are many levels to immigration law.  I know one does not simply get married and everything will fix itself.

There are problems back home for her with her family and she desperately needs to get back home as soon as possible, but we want to make sure that when she leaves, she will be able to come back.  I want to know the path someone who entered legally, stayed past their visa illegally, and is marrying a US citizen legally (actually getting married, not a sham marriage) would take to have a legal status here in the US, allowing them to live, work, and return to the country if departed.

Answer:
 Not an expert on immigration law but I feel that two things should be pointed out:

1) Your girlfriend participated in a conspiracy to commit marriage fraud with the "sham" marriage.

2) Your girlfriend will not be able to legally return to the United States if she leaves it's borders. She will have to apply for a new visa. This will likely be denied permanently due to history of over staying a visa.

My advice: speak to an immigration attorney immediately. No anecdote anyone tells you online will beat the specific advice and recommendation of an immigration law expert.


Title: Just got fired from a job for saying I was approved for medical Marijuana

Question:
Prepare for a wall of text there's a lot of shit.

I live in ontario.
I work as a groomer out of a grooming shop,  I supply my own shampoo and my own tools that's it.
My "boss" has been telling me for years that I'm self employed.
I just spoke to the labor board and from the sounds of it, it seems like she is in fact a employer and that I'm a employee.
She books all my appointments, they are her clients, I don't even get to really speak to the people, she sets the prices, she talks on the phone, I have set days and time I work (9-3) 3 days a week.
She pays me cash, never received a pay stub since I worked there, doesn't claim me on her taxes, never deducts (because of this I've never claimed her on my taxes either).

Now let's get to what happened today.
I have rhumetory arthritis,  crohns and scoliosis, she has known that I've been trying to get approved for medical Marijuana and yesterday my Dr told me he'd get the ball rolling for me and that he approves of it. So I mention this to her because I'm super happy I don't have to take my T3s anymore which make me sick.

She complete loses her shit saying that I can't smoke at work and that if that's the route I'm going then I can't work there anymore.
I told her that I would look into the laws but I'm pretty sure she can't tell me that I can't take my medication especially if it's off property in the parking lot.
She's says well then if I'm going to call the Labour board and ask then I can no longer work there because it's not up for discussion. She told me once I was done doing what I was doing then I needed to come talk to her.

There is a welding shop right behind the grooming shop (there's a shared kitchen you just walk through the kitchen and then you enter the welding shop). I'm on good terms with the owner of this shop and frequently go back there to ask for something etc. So I go through that shop to go out back away from the lunatic so I can have a private phone call and call the labor board and cannabis clinc.
She follows behind me screaming that I can't go through there and that the owner doesn't want me back there (the owner of the welding shop was right there) he proceeded to tell her that I can infact be back there and if I want to go out back through his door I can. My boss is still screaming at me that I can't go out back and that I need to go out front and holds the door so that I can't open it. I keep ting to tell her she doesn't own me she can't tell me where I can and can't go especially when she technically just fired me.

The welding shop owner tells her he wants no arguing so to go outside so she finally opens the door to go to back and continues to scream.  She's pacing back and forth saying to pack my shit and get out and I kept saying I will once you leave me alone so I can make my phone call and then I will come back in. She's saying she won't leave and is gonna stand there all day if she has to (apparently I work for a 5 yr old). She then threatens to call the cops,  I call her on her bluff and say no problem I'll do it for you since your harassing me.

She goes back inside but I can still hear her screaming.  3 cops show up and she starts screaming at them too, they explain to her that she is in fact wrong and that she has no right to tell me what to do. She admits to them that she tells me I can't take my T3s at work and that she tries to tell me how many I can take. They again correct her and tell her she can't tell me that. A lot of yelling on her end continues, they keep telling her to calm down and to stop talking. She also admitted that she was going to fire me next week because of my health problems.
So eventually I grab my shit and the cops give me a lift home.
They were beyond disgusted with her, and advised me to call the Labour board.

She has also told me when I've called in sick to come in with a diaper on and that I can just run back and forth to the bathroom. She was dead serious and I had to argue with her that I wouldn't be doing that.

So I need some advice on what to do from here. I don't want to get fucked on my end for taxes because she's been fucking me over. I also want to screw her as bad as possible for doing this shit to me for the past 4 years (she often will scream at me argued argue that I'm wrong abut everything even though I've been grooming longer then her shops been open). If she is in fact a employer I'd also be entitled to a weeks worth of pay.

Help :(

Answer: I think think the cops advice to call the Labour board makes the most sense here. The contractor / full time employee thing may need some work to straighten out and you don't want to get in trouble for her mistakes.


Title: (California) Business owner not paying overtime and takes tips.

Question:
Using a throwaway just in case.

I work at a small, successful business. The owner, who is also the manager, does not pay overtime. When I work any overtime, they list it as another job title. For example, they pay me for my 40 hours work under "kitchen" and my overtime hours are labeled as "hourly pay" as if it's a different job title.

Our boss also takes cash counter tips when she helps anyone on the counter. She'll help someone for an hour and split tips with them for their whole 8 hour shift. Some employees have also noticed missing credit card tips from their paychecks as well. A few people are recording their credit card tips at the end of the night and their paychecks will come up very short.

Is there anything I can do about this? I've heard from multiple sources that this is all illegal but I don't know where to begin reporting or if I should even report it.
Topic:
Business Law

Answer: Nope, this [is not legal](http://www.dir.ca.gov/dlse/FAQ_tipsandgratuities.htm) in California.


Title: [TX] Sears won't replace lemon appliance

Question:
In December of 2013 I bought a kenmore elite refrigerator through Sears outlet with dents (at a nice discount) and have had constant problems with it ever since.

The repair occurrences look like this:

* 3-14-14

* 3-21-14

* 5-14-14

* 7-16-14

* 8-22-14

* 10-17-14

* 11-07-14

* 3-17-15 (next one I have scheduled)

Basically the ice fan in freezer keeps getting ice buildup and making a lot of noise until it completely stops spinning and then gets an error code, freezer thaws out, ice melts, etc.

I've been lied to, jerked around, and given endless excuses why they cannot replace it this time, but "you need to do it just one more time."

After the second repair I bought the extended warranty (master protection). When I first started inquiring about a replacement, they said I needed 3 failures of major parts.  Once I had 3 major parts fail and were replaced they started making excuses that what I bought was "as is" because I bought it through the sears outlet. However, that was not the cause, it came with a manufacturer warranty and I had other people verify this. Even if it was sold "as is" they were still willing to take my money on an extended warranty and then start using excuses why they cannot do a lemon replacement after the fact.

On the 11-07-14 repair the freezer fan/heating element was replaced for the 2nd or third time and the technician found the last tech did not plug in the heating element properly. I really thought that was going to be it and it was just rank incompetence on the part of the previous technicians. However, yet again the pos is failing again (though 4 months later).

Now they are telling me that since I have not had an issue with in the last 60 days, they need another technician to verify another functional failure before they can replace it. But wait "Oh I'm sorry I just reviewed your history and you have not had 3 functional failures since you bought the extended warranty, so you need two more functional failures or the tech deeming it unrepairable before we can replace it." Problem is some of those repairs the tech just came out and melted the ice (temporary fix) and it didn't count as a functional failure. Nevertheless, I don't buy that they don't have enough functional failures on record from the time I got the extended warranty (why does that matter anyways?). I have had to personally throw away 3 of those massive fan assemblies because they won't take that crap with them when they leave.

I'm fed up and I'm wondering if I can pursue legal action against them? Perhaps small claims or something, I don't really know where to begin. In addition, I'm a full time college student with not a lot of money or time to be messing around with this. So I probably won't have time until the summer anyways. I'm hoping by then they will do what they said they will do, but they may pull the "Oh you bought this at the Sears Outlet.. i'm sorry.." bullshit again.

**TLDR**: 6-7 repairs in the past year for the same issue and they won't replace the frig. Can I do anything about this?

edit:word; add tldr.

Answer:
 Social media would be a quick way for you to get satisfaction. Tweet, FB, Instagram, whatever until they give up and send you a new one. That shouldn't take up nearly as much time as taking them to court. Answer #2: There is a class action settlement going on about LG and Kenmore (made by LG) refrigerators. Check [this list](http://www.lgrefrigeratorsettlement.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/NOTICE.pdf) to see if your model is on there. If so, go to [this site](http://www.lgrefrigeratorsettlement.com/important-documents/) for more information.

Source: I have one of those fridges.


Title: Child being discharged before ready from inpatient mental health facility (MD)

Question:
My 17 year old child has been inpatient for less than 2 days in the local hospitals behavioral health unit for suicidal ideations. This is not new to us and is his 10th stay across the state.  He was previously "clean" for over a year and is slipping.  He knows when he can't be safe while alone and came to me to let me know he needed to go back.  I visited/talked to him both yesterday and today and he is tell me that he still cannot be safe and will self harm to the point of ending his life.  He has told his Doctor this as well.  They are telling me he is being discharged tomorrow (despite not being ready)

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The Doctor is clearly not reporting this to the insurance company as my wife called them and they were very concerned as their notes did not match our conversations.  We have dual insurance and they never have a problem covering any mental health needs we have but since the doctor is not reporting the same as what we are being told then their hands appear to be tied.  I've contacted every local agency I can including DSS, CORE, and private agencies but getting things rolling is a slow process.  They said that since we give him so much support that he is better at home, but clearly us doing everything we can isn't enough.  He feel he needs a more long term treatment and we support this. We just want him better.

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If we refuse to pick him up we will be "charged with child neglect."  I know I will lose my child if he comes home, what can I do?   Who can I contact?

Answer: Call the hospital and speak with a social worker or patient advocate.


Title: [Florida] Cutting someones hair for the first time, can a contract prevent them from bitching if they don’t like it ?

Question: Just curious

Answer:
 In theory, sure, you could probably ask them to sign a nondisparagement agreement as a condition of receiving a haircut.

In practice, if you're not confident you can do the job, or, equally, if you don't trust them to understand the risks of a homebrew haircut, don't cut their hair.


Title: I purchased an animal that costed 1500 and never received certification

Question: So I contacted the seller and asked about it to be told it was going to be emailed to me that night. A few days go by and I contact them again to be told they sent it in the mail. After another few days go by the seller tells me they are waiting to send the certification until PayPal releases the money to them. So after hearing this I contacted PayPal about the issue and they told me they released the money to the seller the same day as the transaction occurred.  After hearing this I begin to believe I got lied to about the breed history so I open a PayPal resolution ticket that took a month in which they favored with me and refunded me the money. A week after the money was refunded to me the seller then again contacts me and asks for the money back and says they will give me the certification when they get it. I was then threatened with legal action if I did not. This whole situation just feels odd to me and I'm not quite sure what to do here.

Answer:
 "I'll send the payment as soon as I get the certification and get it verified."

That said, you do need to work something out with them or return the animal. You really don't get both. I would offer to pay half, and then the other half once you get the documents and get them verified through whatever certification agency they're from.


Title: My EX [in California] is online stalking me [currently in Canada]

Question:
I made a throwaway to lessen the likelihood that he'll find this post.

I recently posted [this inquiry] (https://np.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/6b1o9k/my_29_f_ex_31_m_is_online_stalking_me_and/) to r/relationships and everyone suggested I get a restraining order. Thing is, he lives in the same area as my family in California, and I live in Canada on a visa. I am a US citizen.

At first, I thought what was going on wasn't enough to consider a restraining order. After the responses in my r/relationships post
and how my friends reacted, I realize how quickly this could escalate. When I told it to some close friends and had them read his response,  they said it sounded like he was "romanticizing" our relationship. And, knowing him, he would absolutely do something as crazy as fly to another country to profess his love or "explain himself" or some shit. He knows where I work, play, eat, sleep... Jesus. I now see why people were telling me to talk to local law enforcement, too.

Also, I want to know if the following IS grounds for legal action. And, if it is, how hard am I going to have to push for it with law enforcement if they brush it off?

Below is mostly xposted to the post I linked above.

I am fucking livid right now. My "first love" at 17 turned into my worst fucking nightmare. We were off and on a bit from our teen years, years apart. At 21 we connected again, and he was driving recklessly and rolled his truck. I broke my neck, t-spine, and had to have surgery on my knee. I am in pain all the time--it's chronic, and it affects EVERY part of my life. He's a textbook narcissist, and made the whole thing about how it wasn't his fault and I was treated him unfairly by blaming him for the accident when the police report CLEARLY states reckless driving, and, myself and the other two passengers were conscious the whole time and all our stories match up--we testified with lawyers and shit when dealing with insurance, we know what happened and the law agrees we're telling the truth.
Anyway, the whole thing really fucked me up, and 7.5 years later I'm finally moving past so much of his lying, manipulative, pity-seeking, abusive shit. And I'm in pain--I'll forever associate him with pain. He used to stalk me after we broke up. He is big into computers, and would park in front of my apartment and DDOS attack my computer. He tried hella hard to befriend my younger (adult) sister and her friends. Smoked weed with them and shit He stalked the fuck out of me online.

I started seeing my current partner 5 years ago. My EX has attempted to contact me three times in the last four years. I blocked him on Facebook, LinkedIn, and my email after once-a-year attempts to reconnect or tell me what a piece of shit I was. I didn't want to feed the fire--I ignored and blocked him on all the things I thought he could access. My Instagram is public, but I do things with the local music community and I don't think he'd ever talk to me on a public forum in fear of embarrassment. I never thought he'd message me on reddit--I was totally unprepared.

He has been fucking following my screen name and stalking me. I responded to a post on this sub and mentioned the mental and emotional abuse and how he dealt with the accident stuff, how I was oblivious to my abuse. Etc. I had no idea he would fucking read it--I didn't write it out of spite, but out of warning!

He sent me a wall of text, explaining his side of the story, explaining his shit-ass behaviour and how I lacked empathy to his side of the situation. That what I wrote couldn't be true. "apologized" and said he changed, he's a good person, that all the shit with us was my fault. It was also full of lies about how he dealt with his side of the accident when he did NOT. He left me with a ton of medical bills and a lifetime of pain.

It's not him reading the content that bugs me, it's that fucking same awful, shrinking, violated feeling i had when he would pull this shit before. I had to call my sister before I could read the message. I went from being flabbergasted to having a full-tilt anxiety attack. I hate that I had such a visceral reaction to this because I thought I had healthy dealt with the issue. He obviously is still stalking all my shit, (and my work email address and workplaces are VERY accessible, they're on my workplace's website for people to contact me), so now I have to try and block EVERYTHING. However, he's a fucking computer genius (like he's a high level engineer at a big company, codes for fun, really, really good at this shit), and I wouldn't be surprised if he took extraordinary lengths (like getting past an IP ban, hacking shit, etc) to respond to me or otherwise get in contact. When I see someone that looks like him, I fucking freeze and my heart sinks and beats so hard it hurts my sternum.

If he tries to contact me by making new user names, I will contact each entity with the documentation of his harassment and get them to IP ban him. Maybe that will send a bigger message.
Before people say ditch the screen name and post under another--no, I will not. I wrote my Master's thesis on another mutual aid subreddit and 'outing' myself with my screenname is super empowering in my recovery. Also, I don't think I should have to change my screenname when I've made it clear on ALL mediums that communication is not welcome. I don't care that he read them, I care that I KNOW he's reading them. That he had to insert himself into my life, AGAIN, unwanted.

I sent this response, then quickly blocked him:
*You message me, and I have anxiety attack and lose hours of valuable work time. Fuck you man. STOP CONTACTING ME! It has been FOUR YEARS since I have talked to you, and I have ignored EVERY contact attempt you have made in that time and blocked you on facebook, linkedin, and email. I have tried to take the high road and just ignore it, but you have forced me into a fucking corner to respond, because who fucking knows how long you're going to keep this weird stalker shit up? NEVER CONTACT ME AGAIN. DO NOT STALK MY ACCOUNTS. THIS IS CREEPY AS FUCK.*

Even if I DO use another screenname on reddit, he can always find my work emails and send shit to me. Or do some other creepy shit. I have a kind of locally public job and do lots of live event stuff. I'm always afraid he'll show up to a class I'm teaching or an event I'm working. I live in another fucking country, but he is loaded and I could TOTALLY see him doing something like that.

At this point, I will just delete his messages, but if there's anything in particular I can do, to avoid that awful, slimy, anxious feeling, I will.

Answer: If you refuse to try to change usernames, you're gonna have a bad time


Title: [NV]How to prove I'm 18

Question: Decided to buy a cigar to celebrate my 18th and realized I have no way to reap any of the benefits of being 18. All I have is a copy of my foreign birth certificate; no passport, license, school ID, etc. All the state ID's I looked up require multiple forms of ID that I don't have. What am I not thinking of?

Answer: If you have a foreign birth certificate, how did you enter this country?  You should have a passport, at a minimum.