Title: My girlfriend wants to be raped.

Question:
Hi. I have been dating a girl for a few month now, but we never had sex. She has a rape kink and really wants me to rape her during our first time. (She is also a virgin). She asks me about it probably once every two weeks or so. I know she really want it, but are there any safety measures I can take to protect her and myself?

Thank you in advance!
Topic:
Canada

Answer: Have you met your girlfriend in real life?Answer #2: This has bad news written all over it. There is nothing you can do to protect yourself 100% for this. For someone who claims that she’s never had sex yet having a rape kink is a massive red flag.Answer #3: The only safety measure is to not do it. Fulfilling a rape fantasy is asking for trouble.


Title: [IL] Relative died in house fire, struggling to find copy of will.

Question:
Hi all,

Unfortunately the deceased had not given the executor a copy of the will prior to the fire so the only existent copy is that which the lawyer who wrote it would have.

The executor also doesn't know the name of the lawyer.

The deceased thoroughly preferred highly reputable professionals, so the search has started there and come up dry thus far but with a couple voicemails out.

I suppose I'm looking for any resources which would list Will & Estate attorneys by county, or whether there is any ability for an extension of the 30-day filing limit in such cases where the will filing late is not out of negligence but difficulty.

Thus far, the brute force approach of calling every lawyer visible in any phone directory is underway, but I wanted to ask a group of folks who might know about some more pointed ways to go about it.

Any and all help is appreciated - thank you, and a reminder to hug your loved ones.

Answer:
 I'm sorry for your loss

The Illinois State Bar association maintains a [directory](http://www.illinoislawyerfinder.com/) you can search by county and area of expertise (Estate/Trust/Wills). Also try the [Attorney Registration & Disciplinary Commission](http://www.iardc.org/lawyersearch_Expand.asp) (ARDC) and your county bar. Without a last name, you can still use the ARDC website to look for lawyers in your county who may have a change in registration status within the last year. Or call and ask them if you can get a list of all lawyers registered in the county.


Title: Got an email from Comcast about violating Copyright Infringements

Question:
I downloaded an episode of Game Of Thrones (best show ever) when I was at my uncle's house this week and he got an email saying Copyrights were violated.

This is the email:

>Dear Comcast High-Speed Internet Subscriber:

>Comcast has received a notification by a copyright owner, or its authorized agent, reporting an alleged infringement of one or more copyrighted works made on or over Comcast's High-Speed Internet service (the 'Service').  The copyright owner has identified the Internet Protocol ('IP') address associated with your Service account at the time as the source of the infringing works.  The works identified by the copyright owner in its notification are listed below.  Comcast reminds you that use of the Service (or any part of the Service) in any manner that constitutes an infringement of any copyrighted work is a violation of Comcast's Acceptable Use Policy and may result in the suspension or termination of your Service account.

I just wanted to know in just how much trouble I am and how I should proceed before I give them a call. Any information helps!

ninja edit: forgot to add location: I'm in the Bay Area, California USA

Answer: I wouldn't call them. That would serve no purpose.


Title: So predators online?

Question: I play a game online that is run out off China. People on there speak of things of sexual nature often and seeing as I’m 17 living in the United States I would like to know how the laws would view that.

Answer:
 How would the laws view you reading/hearing people talk about grown up things?

They almost certainly would not view it at all- that's almost certainly legal.


Title: Giving beer away vs. Selling beer

Question: My boyfriend and I built a game which involves a glass of beer. We intend to take it tailgating and charge $5 a game. Is it okay to say the charge is for the game only, and that we will fill the glass for free? We don't want to get in trouble for selling alcohol.

Answer: Nope. Not okay. You'd need a liquor license and possibly a permit as well for a game like that in NY.


Title: Trying to get my new car fixed after minor accident, full manufactures warranty and insurance coverage, nut no one will pay to fix it.

Question:
First off, last October my husband and I bought a brand new 2015 Subaru WRX, it was a little out of our price range, but we had both recently had great promotions at work and he had totaled his car in an accident (the other drivers' fault).
  Then one day mid-December, we wake up to find the streets are covered with a thin layer of snow.  We both had to go to work, so after giving me a lecture about driving slow in the snow and ice, my husband sets out in the car.  Not ten minutes later he's pulling back in the garage because he slid into a curb going 10 in our apartment parking lot.
We got it fixed and after four months of calling our insurance and body shop every day to hurry them on getting it fixed (and several hundred a paycheck for rental cars), we are finally back in our car.
We notice a grinding noise the first day, and a week later take it back to the shop and get another rental car (again, breaking the bank to get my husband to work).  That was in Early May; the grinding noise was the transmission, and after our auto insurance declined to pay, we submitted it to Subaru's warranty claims, who also denied fault.  Since then we've been called insurance company around every other day, but they say it's up to us to prove that the transmission failure happened because of the wreck, and a written testimony of the technician at Subaru's service center isn't evidence.

My question is; what do we do? The insurance company wants physical proof that the transmission problems happened because of the wreck, and the body shop has sent in pictures, written testimony, even their service records.  Do we call a lawyer or attorney?

Tl;dr: a 2015 subaru with 6,000 miles needs a new transmission directly following a wreck, but our insurance refuses to pay.

Answer:
 Just a guess: He was using the tires that came with the car, right?

WRXs come with summer performance tires, and are NOT safe during the winter, at all. Look into snow tires that you can switch out every year or all-seasons.

Sorry, not a lawyer and can't comment on any legal stuff, just a car/subaru guy.


Title: Employer in Oregon refusing to pay out sick time for employees with excused absences

Question:
Looking at my paystub today I noticed my hours were only half my regular weekly schedule. I was out of work for 4 days for a medical procedure, one my employer knew about a week ahead of time and excused by a note from my doctor.

My employer informed me that they “only pay missed days at 50% of the shift total” meaning if it was a 8 hour shift, they only allowed me 4 hours of sick time.

Our sick time resets at the 1st of the year, with 12 employees, each of us have over 20-30 hours sick leave, which most have attempted to use at one point or another to no avail.

Is it illegal for an employer to decide the amount of paid sick time you receive, or to pay less sick time than the shift hours? What would be the best course of action? Once the first of the year comes and time is zeroed out, do we lose our ability to fight the payments?

Answer:
 If you're a full time employee they have to pay you for a full 8 hours. If you're part time they can choose to only pay you for 4 hours.  I don't think they can 'reset' your sick pay.  Pending a reply from someone more knowledgeable I'd try looking up the Oregon Sick Time law that was passed a few years ago and see what it says.Answer #2: Your employer does not appear to be following the law at all here. Per [Oregon law](https://www.oregonlegislature.gov/bills_laws/ors/ors653.html), you must be paid for all hours you were scheduled to work if you took sick time for those hours for a qualifying reason. You also must be allowed to carry over up to 40 hours of unused paid sick time to the next year. Your employer is allowed to cap the carryover at 40 hours, though, and cap your annual accrual at 40 hours and your total time accrued and carried over at 80. They can also limit you to only taking 40 hours a year regardless of the total accrued.

As for the amount accrued, the law requires you to be given at least one hour of paid sick time for every 30 hours worked. If you are working full-time, you should have at least the minimum required 40 hours of accrued sick time by now, assuming you've been working all year.


Title: Unusable bedroom, landlord refuses to compensate.

Question:
Burien, Washington:
I've been staying in a 4BR 3.5 bath house for nearly 2 months now.
After my first week of living on the property I discovered that one of the smaller bedrooms had a putrid animal smell as if someone kept animals of some kind in that room.  The room had a rug and it seemed obvious that the rug (at a minimum) needed to be replaced.

I was planning to use that room as an office, but even if only for a minute or two the smell was unbearable and the room is effectively unlivable.

I immediately notified the landlord about the smell.

Within the week the landlord came with some spray and said they wanted to try the spray first.  So I obliged them.  We were to wait a day or two to see if the smell went away.  The smell did not go away and I even used an ozone generator on full blast to see if that would neutralize the smell.

The smell remained.

I of course notified the owner via text and voicemail of the status of the room.

They did not respond for two weeks because they were on vacation.

Upon returning from vacation, they decided after speaking with their rug cleaner person that as a last attempt, it needed a heavier dose of whatever chemical/enzyme treatment was suggested and they proceeded to dump a gallon of this substance on the run in the room and literally soak the rug/floor with it.  I was then required to wait a week to see if smell remained.

Regardless if I could smell animal or not, the room was then inundated with a heavy fragrance that effectively made it unusable.

I tried using the ozone generator again.  No effect.

When asked about how the room was, I finally told the landlord directly "the rug needs replacing".  After about a week the landlord came and removed the rug but left the rug strips with nails that holds it.  Then painted the floor.  The heavy fragrance still remained even after painting.

After 6 weeks renting and more than a month since I reported the problem:
I then suggested politely (in person) to the landlord that prorating my rent for the time it was unusable and I suggested a more than fair rate based upon the total floor space at about 1/10th (low) and it being about 1/5th the bedroom floor space (high).  The actual amount I suggested was less than 1/7th the rent.

The landlord responded with a "we'll think about it".

Since then, I have been notified by them that they are having difficulty finding someone to come in and fix the rug due to 'how small the job is'.

**I've already sent out the rent for this next month and am only a few days away from renting for two months and the room is still not ready but I've been paying full rent.**

***The landlord has basically confirmed that they will not be prorating me for the room.***

I know that one of my options is to move out.  But as many know, it's never that simple, I would be hard pressed to find an equivalent space in short notice.  I feel that I am being taken advantage of and it has been affecting my ability to work since I work from home and was planning to use that as an office.

Am I simply screwed?  Do I have any options other than simply moving out?

Answer: You are not screwed and your remedy is in small claims court. The measure of damages you articulate is quite reasonable and your rights to it are also quite reasonable. However, maybe I missed it, but are you on a month-to-month, or a lease?


Title: Best thing to wear to trial? How to make a statement of I am innocent through clothes. Trial by Judge for assault charges in PA. Late 30s male would wearing jail clothes have an advantage?

Question:
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer: Dress like you’re going to work at a bank, it shows respect.Answer #2: Scroll through r/iamverybadass and avoid wearing anything posted there


Title: Do I have a case against my mom for wasting child support? PA

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Honest truth: I only read the title.

The answer is no.


Title: Paid an artist a while back for a commission almost over 5 months ago but with nothing to show for it. Is there a way I can get my money back?

Question:
A very popular artist I admired opened up commissions last winter. I had never commissioned anyone before but I really enjoyed his social media presence and the art he'd post that I decided to give it a shot.

He was very friendly when I messaged him and responded right away, asking me details about the kind of art I wanted and asking me questions about poses, stylization, and so on, and asked for a $200 deposit to get started. I thought this was okay because he had said he'd been stiffed by clients before, so I went ahead and sent him the money through Paypal. He promised to send me frequent updates and WIPs and said it would take no longer than a month, max.

A month later, I had not received any WIPs or updates. He was, however, posting sketches of different commissions on social media, and at one point he did tweet that he was behind on commissions after falling sick, so I decided to wait a little longer. Afterwards I sent him an email asking how he was doing, whether the commission was going smoothly, and that if I was too vague or perhaps too specific with my request I could easily change it. He responded right away, saying that he was very sorry and that his illness pushed him behind on commissions, but that he'd be sending me a preliminary sketch within a few days. I told him I hoped he felt better and asked him not to rush (which in hindsight may have been a mistake).

A week later I asked about the status on the preliminary sketch. His response was not as timely, and he said that he prepared the sketch but that he didn't want to send it to me because it wasn't very "coherent" yet, and that it didn't fully represent the final work. He asked me to be patient and I apologized for rushing him and decided to wait.

I forgot about it for a while because I was busy with work, but about two months after the "deadline" (for lack of a better word), I emailed him asking how things were, and that I hoped things were going well. I didn't receive a response, but I figured he was busy. A day or two later I saw that on tumblr he'd reblogged a post about commissioners harassing artists with constant requests for updates, and even if it wasn't directed at me specifically, I still felt embarrassed and decided to leave him alone for a while.

Cut to another month or so later. I'm scrolling through his social media, at this point kind of hoping that he'd posted something about a problem with commissions, and instead he had reopened commissions and posted art for people who'd commissioned him way after I did. This was really upsetting, and I sent him another message asking for a status and bringing up the possibility of a refund. He didn't respond to me at all, not even to tell me to leave him alone, and his only response was to make a vague post about people not understanding his mental health struggles and haranguing him nonstop. Am I paranoid for thinking he was talking about me? He's since deleted it but I remember people responding to him with support.

I'm not sure what to do. I can't make him give me back my money, and nobody else seems to have had a problem with this guy, as far as I can tell. I feel guilty for even requesting a refund even though I don't even have a sketch to show for it. Paypal doesn't seem to have a way of reversing the charges since so much time has passed, and if I'm gonna be honest, I'm worried about him using his online presence to make me seem like the bad guy. I've been keeping screenshots of the messages I've sent him, just in case, but surely I shouldn't have to defend myself like that?

**TL;DR** I made a payment on a commission several months ago, was promised the completed work within a month, and I never got anything out of it, not even a sketch. The artist has begun ignoring me while posting other people's commissioned works. According to Paypal's terms, the window to dispute the charge has long since closed. Is there a way I can get my money back without resorting to publicly posting about him? I really don't want to have to make a huge fuss on social media for what should be a private transaction.

Answer: I would message him one more time telling him that he either needs to finish your commission or refund you your money. What he is doing isn’t right.


Title: Murky water with a seat belt issue

Question:
I was recently arrested for doing something minor, but stupid. I was polite to the police officer, and was cooperative. He would have had no reason to feel threatened by me, and as a result after putting me in handcuffs he put me in the front seat of his cruiser. At that point, he started driving, but never put my seat belt on. After driving for about 1/4 mile, I realized that I did not have a seat belt on and asked him to stop and put it on for me, which he did. There is no mention of this in the police report.

I feel like this is a stretch, but does it buy me any legal wiggle room as far as him potentially not following a correct procedure?

This happened in Indiana. I am having a difficult time finding the specific law, but my Google searching has told me that it is illegal to not have a seat belt on in a moving vehicle. Does this apply to police vehicles as well?

Thank you in advance!

Answer:
 >I feel like this is a stretch, but does it buy me any legal wiggle room as far as him potentially not following a correct procedure?

No. It has nothing to do with whether you committed the crime you are charged with or the validity of whatever evidence they have.


Title: I have a domestic violence restraining order against my husband but he has visitation rights under a specific person's supervision. What happens if that person cannot supervise visitation of our children?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Hi. I'm a San Francisco divorce attorney.

Q. "The court order specifically states that our mutual friend is to supervise the visitation, how are we supposed to organize visitation in the future?"

A. Parents can always make whatever agreements they want for time with their kids. The Court wants to see parenting and decisions on their own.

Q. "Can I simply assign the supervision to someone else despite the court order?"

A. Yes.

Q. "Can I ask the court to arrange supervision--though our hearing is not for a few weeks?"

A. No.

You are right that you don't have to produce your kid for visitation if the friend is unavailable. His rights to visitation only extend to supervised visitation. He has no right to see the kid without the visitation. That said, work with him. The Courts are nice to people that are trying to be reasonable and work with the other party. Is there another person who you would feel comfortable with that can provide supervision? Can visitation be rescheduled?

Whose your judge? Wiley or Flores?


Title: Can a “church” charge for services then mark all fees a a donation

Question: In November I was going to attend this “soul church” I like holistic new age type of stuff so I was going to do their retreat for a couple days. At check out they ask for a donation that goes to keeping up church grounds. I donated five dollars. Paid half of the services fee which was over $400 dollars. After reading more about the place I discover they give you DMT which is a class 1 scheduled controlled substance. Felt a bit cult-ish to me. The problem is they kind of hide the drug part from the main description that sells you. They do say no refunds but I figured I’d give them a call. I told them I didn’t realize substance abuse was involved and asked if they would issue a refund. They had no problem doing so, or so they said. I understand there is not much I can do for my money which I really don’t care. I’d rather loose out on hundreds of dollars then potentially loose my life or freedom. I understand what is the obvious law when it comes to them just saying they will refund me and me checking the I understand there are no refunds box. Anyways, after they didn’t refund me I just figured I’d dispute it with my bank. I told my bank they hide the fact that drugs are involved and that was reason enough for them to be ok with a dispute. The issue was that the “church” marked the entire 400 and whatever dollars as a donation and you can’t dispute money you donated. What I’m wondering is can a church charge for services or events? Not only that but charge then input the entire thing as donation after asking for donations separately? I mean it’s obviously a way to get around taxes but I feel like they are slipping up. No?

Answer:
 You're surprised that a church that flouts drug laws is also flouting the tax laws?

What you need to do is dispute it anyway.  and be sure to say that this was not a donation this was a fee for service when you make the dispute.


Title: Sexually assaulted by a customer multiple times at work, management knew and did nothing, do I have a case?

Question: Two days ago I quit my job at the a fast growing retail chain.  I was told I would most likely be working the entire night shift alone, and due to the fact that I have been harassed by a customer for several months now, I am terrified of being alone at work. It started with him smacking my rear end with a newspaper, this happened right in front of my manager, I complained to her about it and she said that she didn’t see it, but assured me that if she had she would have done something. It happened again a little over  a month ago, this time with his bare hand. Again I complained about it, I mentioned it to everyone there, and I told them it made me feel uncomfortable and I was not okay with it. Nothing was being done, so I mentioned it to the DM the next time she came into the store, she told the manager (who is out of work right now) that someone needed to talk to the customer. For days I asked if someone had said anything, finally the assistant manager said she did talk to him. After that I stayed behind the counter whenever the customer came in the store, one time he said to me “what do you think I’m going to hit you? Not in front of the cameras”, and another time he said he’s been driving past my house multiple times a day and watching how many cars are in my driveway. I often worked several hours a day completely alone in the store unless there were shoppers, one day he came in while I was working alone and stood in front of the employee gate asking “are you working alone tonight?” Luckily several customers  got in line at the register and he left the store.  The customer often stood around the register after making a purchase, just watching myself and the other employees, or followed us around the store, which is why I stayed behind the counter when he was there. Of course, the DM is now saying she never knew I was being harassed. I don’t know for sure if any of my other co-workers would support me if I file a suit, we all got along great until I quit, and I understand they are upset because it leaves them short handed, but I couldn’t take it anymore, I’m so scared of this man I’ve been having nightmares about him.

Answer: You should have called the police.


Title: I'm a student in college and I'm thinking one of the janitorial staff is hitting on me and I am getting verry uncomfortable

Question:
I'm actually hoping that this isn't the case and I pray it isn't but all I see is red flags.

I don't know who to mention this to, and tbh I don't know what steps to take other than verbal violence like "leave me the fuck alone" which may prolly get him triggered and make him come and shoot me the next day if he's one of those crazy types.

I'm a guy. This person is an old man, probably in his late 40s. He has the salt and pepper hair showing, the white is starting to take over. I've never met him personally except for when I needed help cleaning a dirty table in a hall somewhere in a university building. That's when I first noticed he couldn't take his eyes off of me and he couldn't stop smiling. He's too intent on looking into my eyes and it's uncomfortable. That was first indicator that made me question him.

Then I was talking to some other janitor which is a woman and I told her some issues I had with my sister that I live with and he was never there. This was a few days ago. Earlier today (8/9pm at night) on the third floor of the building I see him again and I ask him for a chair which is locked in another room and he said he can't help me. Then as I'm getting ready to leave and go back to my study session he stops me by telling me to wait and that he really needs a ride. He keeps telling me how much he hates riding the bus and how people stare at him. I catch his drift and I tell him sorry man it is what it is. That's when he changes it up and tries to change convo. So nobody is in the building and it's just me and him which is creepy. I'm stuck b/c I'm scared of saying anything that may make him pull out a knife on me so I just walk with him like I'm obligated to and I just walk with him to the first floor. Then he makes a comment that I can't hear about MY sister and I say "what??" And he says his sister is making him go crazy and that he lives with her. I tell him he should respect his family and he agrees. Then I'm trying to head back again as I say "alright man" he says "wait man you gotta give me your number" and I tell him sorry man I don't roll like that. And that's when he changes subject again about buying a car...I end the convo quick as I'm like "aye man good seeing you have a good one" As I head back to the 3rd floor. And he's like peace. Then as I'm studying on the 3rd floor he pops up in front of my study room all the way from the first floor and knocks on the door and I'm focusing studying and he just randomly says "Hey man I'm making my last round" (last round meaning his last round of work) and I'm like "okayyyyy, have a good one". And he leaves. He told me it was his last round an hour before I saw him this time around.....

A few hours later nothing but red flags about the interaction pop up in my head and I get extremely uncomfortable compared to how uncomfortable I already was already. So I'm scared of studying up there anymore and I don't know what to do so I figured I'd wait until I get my head together and post here to ask for opinions.

This is our schools holiday off period so no one is actually there and I'm the only lone-wolf that always goes in the building that is open 24/7 regardless of holidays....just my luck

Answer:
 You're way overreacting. There's absolutely zero indication that he is going to shoot up your school, stab you, or do anything whatsoever to you. He sounds like a mildly socially awkward night shift janitor who is just excited to have someone to talk to as he works.

If you are uncomfortable with speaking to him, ask him to stop speaking to you. If he continues, report it to campus security.Answer #2: Wow.

You're a grown man scared of a janitor (and I love how you think late 40's is old) because you don't know how to ask someone to leave you alone.

I have no legal advice for you because this isn't a legal issue.  It's a "grow some balls" issue.

I fear for the human race.
Answer #3: Someone being overly friendly isn't a legal issue.  Maybe he's talking to you because you're the only other human to interact with, and he's lonely or bored. Tell him he's making you uncomfortable and to leave you alone if you really must. You have nothing to complain about until he ignores that request.

This really kind of more belongs in /r/relationships. As you go through life, strangers are going to talk to you and you'll eventually become friends with them, regardless of age and background. Don't live your whole life in fear that everyone you meet has ulterior motives for you.Answer #4: It's shocking that people are so socially crippled that a couple awkward  encounters with a stranger leads them to believe they're gonna get killed.


Title: [WISCONSIN] My friend lost her wallet with one tab of LSD in it. Wants to know whether or not to call police?

Question:
She thinks she lost her wallet and obviously wants to call the police to see if anyone turned it in. However she remembered that she has a single tab of LSD in a plastic baggie stuffed in the bottom of the wallet. She's afraid that the police would find this if they looked through her wallet...

I told her she would have plausible deniability because anybody who picked it up/turned it in could have put the acid in there. But alas, I'm not a lawyer (hence why I'm asking on here). Is that true? Would she have plausible deniability and be absolutely ok going to retrieve her wallet?

Answer:
 > I told her she would have plausible deniability because anybody who picked it up/turned it in could have put the acid in there

Not anymore. That said, the person with the wallet currently has possession of it so it may be a moot point.

Regardless, she needs to cancel any cards in the wallet, report any IDs lost/stolen, and start replacing them if she doesn't call the police.


Title: type 1 diabetic denied syringes in a state that does not require prescriptions .

Question: I have been a to diabetic for 10 years and have always gotten my syringes with a prescription.  Last night I realized I was down to my last one and the needle bent when giving injection.  I did not realize how low i was on syringes. I went online and saw that syringes can be obtained without a script in NH. I went to the local Wal mart pharmacy   and asked for some and was denied and given dirty looks. I did not think I was the junky looking type but ok. Do I have any kind of case or can they legally deny syringes in my state. I would try another pharmacy but the experience at Wal mart made me extremely uncomfortable. I cannot get a script now until tuesday. I cannot eat anything without the syringes.

Answer: You have no right to purchase something. Try a different pharmacy, or go to a local fire station and see if they can give you a couple (I've done that for my wife when she ran out syringes)


Title: Is it illegal to short a stock in advance of making a public statement that caused the stock price to plummet?

Question:
I see Elon Musk has made a statement about Bitcoin that caused the stock price to drop. If Musk had shorted the stock in advance, would that be illegal?

*I'm not suggesting Musk did—or did not—anything illegal.*

Answer:
 1.) Bitcoin is not a stock.

2.) Trading stocks on insider knowledge is a crime and the SEC would absolutely look into that.


Title: Piece of what seems to be metal in my cereal?

Question:
[removed]
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 Call the customer service number on the back of the box. Thankfully you weren't hurt. Manufacturer will want to know and may recall a batch.Answer #2: Keep the silver piece and the box. If you contact the manufacturer, they will probably have you mail the whole thing to them (at their expense). Typically you will receive coupons for free product in exchange.

If you weren't injured, it's unlikely you'd receive compensation beyond that.

They'll probably do an investigation on their end to figure out where the metal piece came from and how it got past their metal detectors (which is why it's helpful if you are able to mail the box to them).


Title: The nanny I hired is an undocumented worker - What should I do?

Question:
I live in Maryland.  I recently found out the nanny I hired is an undocumented immigrant (whoops). She is fantastic and I want to keep her on. But I have some questions.

1. What are the legal/financial risks associated with keeping her employed?

2. We have been withholding income and payroll taxes according to law, but we have not paid the government yet. Our nanny is concerned that paying the taxes might draw attention to her illegal status. I was thinking of refunding her federal/state withholding back to her, and letting her decide for herself whether she wants to file. The payroll taxes are my responsibility, so I thought I might just keep those in an interest-bearing account. If the government ever gets mad at me for not paying, I can just pay the taxes (+ penalties) then. Is this a crazy plan?

Advice? Resources?

Answer: The only advice we can give is to pay the taxes and cease employing her, the law on both is crystal clear.


Title: Can you place a 'fuck you' clause in a will regarding custody of children if both parents pass away?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Your estate planning attorney can guide you more completely.  You'll want to be sure you have guardians and alternate guardians specified in your will.

But yes, generally it is possible to express your wishes about someone never having custody of your children in your will.  Nothing is "iron clad" but specifying guardians and expressing your desire that the in laws not be guardians would be pretty close.


Title: Friend got arrested for DUI, no Breathalyzer was used.

Question:
So my friend worked from 6am to 1am, and had 2 beers before leaving (we were there with him, so we know he didn't have more). He apparently fell asleep at a stop sign, cop pulled up, and was arrested for DUI because the officer smelled alcohol on his breath. There was no breathalyzer used, and I feel certain the reason he fell asleep was because he was exhausted. While I will agree with anyone that he probably shouldn't have been driving while that tired, is there anything we can do to fight the DUI charge? Thanks.

Edit: Location is GA, USA

Answer:
 Did your friend refuse the breath test when they offered it to him?

If so, it's nearly certain that his refusal to take the breath test can be used against him in court.

Plus, all of the officers observations of intoxication and the field sobriety tests can be used as well.

With all due respect to "how you feel" about the incident, it's unlikely that your opinion will matter much in court.

I could tell the difference between a drunk person and a tired person even *before* I became a DWI enforcement instructor.  I'm confident the officer in this case is able to do that, as well.


Title: Information on becoming a refugee in Canada

Question:
I need help please. I need information on refugees going to Canada. I am Syrian, and I have a twin brother. We both are 20 years old. We both wanna know if we can somehow come to Canada. We can speak and write Perfect English so there wont be a problem in communication. We would love to hear from an expert in this field.
Topic:
Canada

Answer: Where are you located right now? It's possible, but not straightforward. You'll likely have to go through UNHCR or another sponsoring organization.


Title: Fiancé is getting sued over a car accident

Question:
The lawsuit is for a million bucks, she only had $15k liability coverage.  It’s been approximately 15 months since the accident.  I read the lawsuit which was served to us and it’s not clear what his injuries are.  There was no specific injury mentioned other then psychological and no surgeries or any other issues mentioned.

The potentially good news is that she basically has no assets.  Our basic financial situation is as follows:

$4000- joint checking
$3000- joint savings
~$60k equity on my condo

She also has a vehicle which is worth approximately $5000 more then she owes on it.  She works a job making roughly $55k a year

We are currently saving up money to save for our wedding, which is summer 2019 and will cost roughly 20k.  We also overpay my current mortgage every month by quite a bit and are using that as a savings account to save for a house after we get married.

My questions are basically as follows:

1- does this lawsuit seem like anything to worry about (or how can I find out?)

2- should we be doing something differently with our money like keeping it in cash or an account under my name only?

3- how long does something like this usually take for the insurance company to resolve?

Answer:
 I’m shocked to hear that having $15k liability coverage is even an option.

Are you considered common law married under local law? Answer #2: 1- you're asking if a lawsuit that you claim to have read the paperwork on and is for "a million bucks" is anything to worry about?  Any time that there's an actual lawsuit against you it's something to worry about.

2 - That's not likely to escape any potential judgement.  Judges aren't stupid; they'd know she was hiding her income.

3 - months to years.

Really, you should be asking these questions of an actual attorney.  Your fiance's insurance company will most likely provide her with one (you can ask if they will even if she was liable for the accident, which I'm guessing she was).


Title: Can a landlord in DC change the date of move-in AFTER the lease has already been signed?

Question:
My fiancé and I are moving to DC for the first time and have just today come across some difficulties with the property manager for our new apartment complex. We would love any advice you might have to share!

We were originally scheduled to move in this Friday, August 28th. We signed the lease and paid the moving fees. We have hired a moving company to help with the move. This had to be planned weeks in advance, as most moving companies require at least three weeks notice. The moving company is scheduled to come and pack up our current apartment on Thursday, 8/27, and move us into our new place on 8/28.

Just this morning (8/24), we get an email (not even a phone call) from the company managing our new apartment complex in DC. They informed us that the current tenants living in our new apartment have decided to extend their lease and will now be moving out on 9/1. They said that this was the tenants' right according to DC law and that we will have to change our move-in date to 9/2. That's six days later than what our original lease says.

We have a few immediate concerns. First, it will likely be very difficult (if not impossible) to change the dates with the moving company on such short notice. Second, we need to be out of our current apartment by 8/31, as that is the last day of our current lease. And third, we have already signed a lease with our new complex stating that we can move in on 8/28.

Would appreciate any advice on this. Thanks!

**Update**
We checked the lease and found the following under "Possession":

"Neither landlord nor agent shall be liable for any damages whatsoever if it fails to deliver possession of the apartment to tenant at the beginning of the term of this lease, nor is tenant relieved of any obligations under this lease except that rent payable under the lease will abate until possession is delivered. If, however, landlord is unable to deliver possession of the apartment within 15 days of the date of possession specified, either tenant or landlord may cancel this lease by giving written notice to the other party within the 5 days immediately following such 15 day period."

We just got off the phone with OTA and they acknowledged that while that Possession Clause is the landlord's attempt to cover themselves, it may not necessarily protect them from a lawsuit.

Answer: DC resident here....DC has a wonderful resource called the office of the tenant advocate. I would contact them, they will probably be able to tell you what is allowed or not.


Title: [NC] Apartment charging $900 for carpet a month after move out. Options?

Question:
Hey Reddit. My fiancé and I are in a bit of a pickle and could really use some advice. At the end of February we moved out of our apartment in Raleigh, NC to San Diego. During the two years we lived there we had our carpets professionally cleaned twice, once after a year and once the day before we moved out. We have two very well house trained dogs who had a limited number of accidents (maybe two or three?) beyond throwing up dog food after eating too fast on occasion. Each time there was an accident we cleaned the carpet with pet stain and odor remover. All this is to say our carpet was in great shape after us having lived there for two years.

While we moved out end of February, our lease didn't end until March 30th. Before leaving, I instructed our leasing office we were moving out a month early, and asked if a walk through was necessary to show the apartment was cleaned. They declined, and instructed me to simply leave our keys with a signed move out notice in their office when I left.

Yesterday we get an email from them stating our carpet was replaced due to pet odor that could not be removed, and that we are being charged $900 for this.

Aside from google searches of the law in NC I'm pretty lost here. Our plan is to obtain a letter from the carpet cleaning company that our carpet was in fact clean with no pet odor. We also want to point out that we paid $15 per month for the dogs over the 24 months we lived there.

Considering the carpet was clean upon moving out and they replaced it without consulting us first, do we have any ground to stand on? It took them over a month to communicate this issue to us and we are hoping we have some ground to stand on. $900 would be a major hit to us considering the move we just made, so and advice is greatly appreciate. Thanks!

Answer:
 Did you pay a deposit? If so, did you receive it upon moving out?Answer #2: Did they provide the actual repair costs? You can't be charged for a new carpet...just the depreciated value of the old one (their "loss").

Also, if it's beyond 30 days beyond your lease end (sounds like it is) they cannot hold your deposit anymore since that's the limit in NC. Did you pay one?Answer #3: How much was the carpet install, and what portion of that did they charge you? Even if this was totally your fault, they can only charge you the cost of the carpet prorated over it's life expectancy. That is, if the carpet was 5 years old, and it's life span is 10, they can only charge you 50% of the cost of replacement.


Title: Underage drinking at work but not at work?

Question:
I am 20 and turn 21 in September. I work at a Walmart, we recently added a winery into the store which is its own private company and leases a space in the store. We have a one hour lunch break at Walmart and I had just clocked out. My buddy wanted to check out the brand new store and maybe turn in an application there because they need workers now. We get into the wine store (off the clock) and we were offered wine samples immediately without being asked our age or to show IDs. I know we should have said no, but we agreed. I did not, but my friend eventually bought a bottle (he is also underage). When we came back from our hour lunch, about 30 minutes after he bought the bottle, a coworker told us that she heard we had been reported to Compliance. This lady constantly lies and doesn’t like us, so I’m not sure if she’s lying or if she turned us in or if it was some other worker. One more time I was officially off the clock when this occurred.

What should I do, if anything? What could happen? This happened today and I haven’t been told anything by management but I’m a little paranoid. I go back in tomorrow and will update this if I hear anything.

Answer: You can and likely will be fired for that.


Title: Relationship scammer

Question:
Hi guys, so I’m embarrassed to admit I’ve been a victim of some sort of catfishing... I’m wondering if I have an actual case here.
After two years of being friend I agreed to take it to another level and let this guy move in with me. We shared my credit card ONLY on the basis of him making payments to my credit cards... which he did! The transaction(s) would say pending for a few days (bank told me up to ten business days) then once the transaction was complete I trusted this guy to use my credit card on the basis that he would make another payment/ pay off what he charged himself... well now that we are broken up he has reversed every single payment he’s ever done on multiple different credit cards. Now my bank companies are calling me and asking for me to lower the balance which is understandable. My question is how can he reverse a payment once it is already posted and can I sue him for this because he also lived in my home (paid rent) in the form of credit card payments. I’m talking over 15k... did this guy seriously just scam me with a false bank account or/and can I sue him for falsely paying my bills...?

Answer: You very likely are on the hook to pay all this, because you gave him access to your account. Your first step needs to be filing a police report.


Title: If I bought my own shit, can my parents take it?

Answer:
 Assuming you a a minor, your parents can engage in parental discipline, including depriving you of the items that you purchased. That doesn’t mean the items belong to your parents, and it would be legally problematic (although not always fatally so) for them to “waste” the property, like destroying it or converting it to their own use.

If you think that’s crazy, under common law a minor had no right to their own labor, and parents could legally go to the minor’s employer and have the wages paid directly to them. A minor could still acquire property through gift or inheritance, but could not claim property purchased with their own wages. Some states [have curtailed that by statute](https://www.revisor.mn.gov/statutes/cite/181.01); but not all.


Title: [X-POST from /r/askreddit - Can a company use my name as their name?](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3k3e99/seriouscan_a_company_use_my_name_as_their_name/)

Question:
Hi, Im from Bloomington Normal, Hellinois. Just wondering about people making money off my name with products I don't support. Thanks!

[Link to original](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3k3e99/seriouscan_a_company_use_my_name_as_their_name/)

My name is Joe Dapper, there have been 2 companies to use my name to sell clothes. JoeDapper in Cincinnati, and now DapperJoe in Aiken SC. I support neither urban nor preppy clothes.

EDIT: I'm only famous in my hometown, because all good wrestlers are. And in the Aiken SC case, I was informed of its existence by a buddy who knew me from living in Hellinois with me. So he was surprised to see my name on a company where he lives. No, they are not using my likeness. It is just a weird coincidence that, for the 2 or 3 other Joe Dappers out there, to find our name which we think rare, being used commercially.

EDIT 2: So I never really wanted anything out of this other than the explanations I received. Thank you all.
Topic:
Business Law

Answer: Generally, due to the commonality of names, it would be perfectly legal. The caveat here would be that they typically can't say that you specifically endorse it. An example of this would be a statement on their website saying something like, Joe Dapper of Douglas, Wyoming wholeheartedly endorses our product with a photo of you next to it. That situation almost certainly doesn't apply here.


Title: Is my employer asking me to do something illegal? [U.S.A]

Question:
Hi,

I work for a company that is located in Wyoming. I live in Utah. I work in a "virtual office" if you will. I will be moving to Maryland in a few weeks. My employer wants me to leave my W4's and other documents as being a resident of Utah, and not change them to Maryland. What should I do? How big of a no-no is this? Bad consequences?

Answer: Do you want to get audited by Maryland? Because this is how you get audited by Maryland.


Title: Developed mentally disabled sister got served.

Question:
Title says it all. She has fetal alcohol syndrome and operates like a 13yo(she’s 47). She lives independently and has credit cards apparently. The one she got served for is for about a grand.
She has no income other than ssi.

Will this create a criminal record that may jeopardize her benefits?

Thanks!

Answer:
 It's a credit card debt? No, she won't have any criminal issues over the debt itself

She should appear in court or you should look into paying off her debt if possible


Title: I just got a speeding ticket in Diamond Bar, CA that I absolutely cannot afford right now. What can I do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 You may be able to make payments.

I'll ask the obvious question. If you don't have the money for a speeding ticket, why were you speeding?


Title: a teacher tells my parents something confidential.

Question:
so i go to therapy where i get to talk about my mentally abusive patints without worring about them finding out. now do to my mental helth i suffer in school which means that my theripist will send my case worker to my school to talk to me and see if she can help me in anyway. well this last meating i had at school went as normal but i said something about my pat=rints i didn't want them to hear. well it turns out my math teacher was snooping in on us and called my parints telling them stuff i had confodechuly told my case worker. is she allowed to do this?! and if not i there anything i can do?
please excuse any miss spellings as im dyslexic

Answer: Inform your caseworker and therapist of what happened and request that they elevate the issue within the school, such as the principal, superintendent, or school board. If they aren’t willing to do that, you have the same options.


Title: Friend trying to file for divorce with limited assets

Question:
We're in Texas and she was married for 9 years with no kids. She's trying to file for divorce but was referred to an attorney that charges $400/hr and has a $7500 retainer. That may be run of the mill for this sort of thing, but it's a relatively simple divorce and she doesn't have any source of income at the moment. Really the only assets/liabilities at play here are: 1) a home that worth 100-200k, 2) two cars, 3) student loan debt, 4) a website that produces a steady income stream.

Is there any way for her to find less expensive legal representation?

Answer:
 > Is there any way for her to find less expensive legal representation?

Sure.  She can keep calling around and talking to more attorneys.

Keep in mind, the retainer is the money you cough up to ensure the attorney gets paid.  If there's less than $7500 of activity, she'll very likely get that refunded.


Title: Can someone have CPS called on them for refusing to immunize/vaccinate their children?

Question:
I know quite a few people who do this, I’m wondering wether or not it’s legal for them to do this or if I could call CPS.
Topic:
CPS and Dependency Law

Answer:
 Location will matter a lot.

Refusing vaccines is not a form of abuse or neglect in any state, as far as I know. In fact, some states, (like texas) have laws specifically saying CPS cannot remove a kid based on refusal to vaccinate Answer #2: No. It isnt illegal to not get a vaccine.

A Dr may call if it is an immediate danger to a child based on other health factorsAnswer #3: Vaccines arent legally required in the us.  There are religious and other exemptionsAnswer #4: Can you call CPS for this?  Sure. But it’s not illegal in any state. Many schools districts are refusing kids that aren’t vaccinated, but that’s a different story. And be careful, as there are multiple legitimate medical reasons why some people can’t receive vaccinations (one of the reasons why it’s so important for those who can, do).


Title: Lawyer never showed up in the courtroom, and I still paid? Do I still need to pay the rest?

Question:
I live in North Carolina and pardon any formatting issues.

I got charged with simple possession of marijuana up to a 1/2 ounce, and paraphernalia charge as well. I talked to a lawyer and they said it would be 750 to come defend me in court. They said I could split the payment into two and I did that. This is what happens: I pay the first amount of 366, there was some fee for doing it online but whatever, and then I wait for my court date. Court date arrives and I go, and sit in the courtroom, until there is about maybe 15 people left total. My lawyer didn't show up to court to defend me even though they said they would. I call their office and tell the person on the phone what had happened. He says that he will call me later and let me know. I end up getting a continuance from the DA attorney after I explained what had happened. Later that day I receive an email from my lawyer stating that they had talked to the DA attorney and that I was to do 40 hours of community service plus take a drug assessment. Most recently I just got an email about the second part of the payment and both of my parents are telling me that I shouldn't have to pay since my lawyer didn't show up to defend me. Please help me out with any advice you guys can give. Thank you

TLDR: Pay half of my fee for no lawyer to come to court, wondering if I still have to pay the other half
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 He did work for you even if it was not in a court room- he got you a plea bargain with the prosecutor.

Are you displeased with that plea bargain?


Title: Kids damaging car.

Question:
**UK**

So these kids (probably about 6) across the street have hit mine and 2 other neighbours cars constantly for the past few weeks. They know what they're doing because multiple people have told them off and they've stopped kicking the ball as hard, then continued doing it a few days later. I've noticed damage on my car. They kick the football hard and they've kicked it **AT** cars on purpose and if the ball hits my car one more time I'm seeking compensation from the parents as I've warned the kids once before, about 2 weeks ago infact. I've seen them hit the cars and my neighbour has also seen them do it. If they refuse to pay for damages, do I have enough evidence to go to the police to file a criminal damage report with an eye witness?

*I'm not seeking legal advice as in lawyers, I just need any kind of advice on how to handle the situation as the parents are rough and have caused nothing but trouble since they moved to the street about 2/3 years ago.*

**UPDATE: Neighbour called Social Services, turns out the parents left the kids alone today for about 3 hours.**

Answer:
 Record them doing it.

Collect any other evidence you have.

Call the police and file a report regardless. Right after you record them doing it.

Sue them for damages if they won't pay them. You may not be able to prove that they caused prior damages though.


Title: [GA] State revenue dept. Is harassing my wife for her famers market stand. She averages around $900 a month (gross).

Question:
They got her name from the vendor list that the non prophet (that facilitates the famers market) had. So yes I do believe they are harassing everyone on that list.

1. They have no idea if the phone line they are leaving messages on is hers.

2. They have no idea if she still even is participating in the farmers market (a lot of people sign up and then stop going)

Should we just wait untill if/when they send someone out to the farmers market and just play dumb?

Answer:
 You should pay your taxes as required by lawAnswer #2: So they are doing their job and your wife is trying to not pay taxes she (probably) owes and you think this is "harassment"? Hardly. This is your wife not complying with the tax laws.Answer #3: Well i assume she pays taxes on all her income. If so, then there is nothing to worry about.

If not, you should talk to a tax professional and start figuring out how much you guys owe.

You can ignore the phone calls though, but not the problem.


Title: [TX] Passing a school bus as the arm is extending and lights barely visible due to sunlight

Question:
[deleted]
Topic:
Traffic and Parking

Answer: If you saw the school bus stopped and its lights flashing, you could expected the stop sign to be extending out. You can try your argument, but I don't think you'll succeed.


Title: I'm on a fraudulent return list. What do I do?

Question:
EDIT: I made a mistake in the title, they actually called it "fraud prevention," I don't know if this pertains to returns specifically or not...

EDIT2: Gainesville, FL

I called Macy's earlier this week about an order that got declined. They told me I was on their fraud prevention list and that I wouldn't be allowed to order online.

I asked them to investigate it, then called back and they told me my request got declined. They refused to give me any more information regarding it and told me I'm just out of luck, I have to find a store that sells what I want.

Is there anything I can do about this? I've never ordered online from Macy's before, and have never returned anything to them either, so I'm assuming they're getting this from another clothing retailer. The only return I can think of which might be considered fraudulent, but I clearly expressed my dissatisfaction with, was a pair of jeans from JcPenney that shrunk an entire inch which were clearly defined as pre-shrunk (still in perfect condition mind you). I don't return clothes I buy either.

Answer:
 Maybe your credit card is flagged for suspicious activity or has been reported stolen. Have you checked your credit report?Answer #2: > Is there anything I can do about this?

Nothing legally, no.  Macy's is free to deny you service for nearly any criteria.


Title: [KY] Abandoned/Condemned house behind me has precarious dead trees along my fence that are due to fall.

Question:
Moved into my current house a year ago (Nov 2017). My backyard is fenced in on all 3 sides with a wooden privacy fence along the left side & metal chain link fence along the back, & right. All fencing is my property. Directly behind my house is a condemned/abandoned house that has 3-4 15'+ dead trees within 2' of my chain link fence.

Last Saturday we had bad winds & a large branch fell from one of the trees and landed directly on my fence & a woodpile along side it. Damage was minimal, just bending the top and taking out a very small plank of the adjacent wooden privacy fence.

This prompted me to go around go around the street to the front of the abandoned house in question. Posted were Drug task force signs and a notice of Meth contamination (fun).

I contacted city public works, who quickly informed me they couldn't do anything with work notice. I checked online for the last property listing and got a name; however, no taxes were paid on the house this year. I then called the state Environmental agency, who transferred me to the 'Meth' department (apparently in charge of Meth related incidents statewide). All she could tell me is the house was busted/condemned in 2015.

I'm new to home ownership & really unsure of where to turn to find/contact a property owner so I can have the trees taken down properly, or at the very least have a paper trail of where I flagged the trees and attempted to notify the proper owners of their risk incase they DO fall and damage any of my property.

Any help greatly appreciated, thanks!

Answer: NAL, but I believe in some circumstances you're allowed to trim the trees yourself if they pose an immediate danger. I would also try checking with your home insurance, they usually like to be proactive to avoid greater repair costs in the future and might be able to advise.


Title: [FL] Can my wife open a business in her name and avoid problems from my non-compete agreement?

Question: If my wife were to open a business/LLC in her name that is in direct competition with the company I'm employed, will my current company be able to enforce the non-compete that I signed? Let's assume the non-compete is valid for this question as I want to focus on how we can avoid it. This seems too easy to be allowed. Thanks!

Answer:
 Assuming your non-compete is valid, and it is fully enforceable, are you saying you want to work for your wife's business?

If you do want to, and do, work for the business, that would be in violation of the non-compete.  Going to work for your wife's business isn't an "out" that gets around non-compete obligations.

But her simply owning a business where SHE is doing the work, no that's not a violation unless she also signed your non-compete with you.

Let's be honest about this though.  It wouldn't take long for your company to find out about this, and they would almost certainly fire you immediately.  And when that happens, if they are moderately serious with enforcing non-competes, you and the business will be sued.  It would be pretty safe to assume that you were working with your wife at that point.  Even if they didn't have enough facts to prove the claim in court, they will have enough to file a suit and make your lives miserable for a year or two at least if you did drag it out. Answer #2: Is your plan that your wife will own the company but that you will do the work?


Title: Legal ways to Game Obamacare

Question:
Location: US, Oregon. Is it legally possible to game the ACA system, and get insurance benefits through an employer without actually working for them?

Let's say I work for Employer A, who doesn't offer insurance benefits, and I want to avoid having to get insurance for my family of 5 through the state marketplace to the tune of $1000/month. I approach Employer B and offer to work 30 hours per week for a wage of $0.01 per hour as a "permanent consultant." But I can't actually work 30 hours for them since I have my other job, so I just put in X amount of time, which would be somewhat equivalent in actual pay to the cost the company for the benefits I receive for working the 30 hours? Would this work? Is it illegal? It is certainly a violation of the  minimum wage laws, but we could amend my wage to reflect $8 per hour or something to satisfy that, and they just not issue me a check... since I'm getting "paid" in benefits?

TL;DR. Purely hypothetical. Can a company legally pay me in only benefits, if I agree not to receive wages? In my case, I'd hypothetically put in like 10 hours a week at, say, Lowe's or Home Depot or something, just for the benefits, and not the pay

Answer: No. Don't commit insurance Fraud. Nobody is going to pay you below minimum wage, #1, and #2 your idea costs the company a lot more than you simply think. You cannot just lie about what your wage is and not receive the funds, idiot. Answer #2: You could also try summoning Zoltar The Merciful to allow your family to drink from The Well Of Eternity then you would have unlimited life force and never need insurance. That has about as much chance of working as your idea.Answer #3: Nobody would agree to that.  There's no benefit to the company, and a lot of added liability.  Also you can't just "say" you get paid minimum wage.  You have to actually be paid it.  And if the company is relying on the 30-hour part time threshold to not give it's own part-time employees healthcare, they can't give it to you without risking a discrimination claim


Title: Want to add bio dad onto birth certificate, child support concerns [CA, US]

Question:
Hi, all. I (25F) would like to amend my birth certificate to have my biological father’s (40) name on my birth certificate, and legally take his last name as one of mine (I’m Mexican and my family uses hyphenated last names). I brought it up to my dad and he would love that, but he’s concerned about potentially having to pay back child support to the state. My mother didn’t have custody of me growing up and had to pay child support to my grandparents (before I was adopted by them I was a ward of the state for a while). She had threatened my father if he came around that bad things were going to happen, and that I wasn’t actually his baby and instead the guy on my birth certificate is some fool serving life in prison who she was dating at the time (young and dumb was her excuse, which I get). There’s no question that I am my fathers daughter, but would it be an actual concern for him to have to pay any dues to the state?

(Also, my mother and father are friends now, and I have great relationships with both of them. It was a super rocky start, but all is well!)
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: OP- Your situation is nuanced enough that you should speak with a family law attorney about getting the birth certificate amended and any potential ramifications it might cause your father.


Title: [USA] Can someone explain "one party consent" state law vs "all parties consent" state law? What if the callers are in different states? What if your area code is from one state but you make the call in a different state?

Question:
edit: Forgot to mention in the title I'm referring to laws about recording phone calls.

The only thing I found was if another state called California, both callers are held to the stricter law. Not sure about other states and if area code location/call location makes a difference.

edit 2: As for my location, my area code is in Florida (all parties) but I'm currently living in New York (one party).

Answer:
 > The only thing I found was if another state called California, both callers are held to the stricter law.

This is not necessarily true. The answer is complicated and situational.

https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/recordinglaws


Title: [Canada] Bringing medication to Canada

Question:
Hi

I am going on a week-long business trip to Canada (by plane) and since I suffer from hypertension, I am also bringing my medication with me. My doctor prescribed me a combination of different drugs (ACE inhibitors, betablockers and some supplements). I also suffer from glaucoma (the more the merrier), so I am also bringing eye drops for that (packaged in single use containers). All in all I am bringing some 6 different drugs with me.

I have never been to Canada before, so I am wondering if there might be any problems with this and also what would be the best course of action on my part. I already figured that I should take the pills in their original packages/containers. Do you have any other tips?

Should I carry these in my hand luggage? Should I declare them or should I wait if the border guard asks about them? I will most likely not be able to get a doctors note in time (even if I do, it wouldnt be in English).

Thanks

Answer:
 > Should I carry these in my hand luggage?

100%. Always, always keep things like that on your person. If for no other reason than if your checked luggage gets lost, you're fucked.

That's not legal advice, that's practical advice. It's happened to me before and it's not fun trying to find a doctor/pharmacist to give you an emergency scrip.


Title: [CA] Friends stolen goods used as evidence in a trial... how to get stuff back?

Question:
Hi all,

The following occurred to a friend of mine; I am posting this for the benefit of my own knowledge though if there's solid advise, I'll pass it along.

Said Friend got robbed last year at gun-point; some electronics, car keys and other material (but expensive) items were stolen. Friend reported this to the Police and moved on with this life.

Shortly thereafter, the robbers were apprehended after a brief police chase, occurring in a different county after yet another robbery, which also resulted in the death of an innocent bystander. Friends' stolen goods were found in the car used by the robbers.

As it stands, based on my understanding, the robbers will have three different trials - one for the death of the bystander, one for the robbery leading to the death (in one county) and one for Friends robbery (different county).

It also appears Friends stolen goods are held for evidence and the police department of the county where the death occurred (which is not his county of residence) will not release it.

Is there any hope to getting his stuff back before the end of these trials? This may be going on for years knowing California's legal system...

Thanks in advance!

Answer: He will need to contact victim witness through the district Attorney’s office and get assistance with a court order for return of the property. Depending on the reason it is being held as evidence (if there is evidence on the items such as fingerprints, or if it is simply the stolen property) they may be able to photograph and release it, or he may have to wait until the case is adjudicated.


Title: Troubles in Teen "Paradise"[VA]

Question:
Hello,
I've recently been stuck in a war against my father as we pretty much hate each other. These are my 2 biggest legal problems I have.

PROBLEM 1: A couple years ago my mother lost the fight to colon cancer (please don't PM or reply to this if all your saying is sorry, it gets old). A little bit later, I started to receive SSA benefits from the deceased guardian section. I'v been trying to buy a used car so I can drive my own car instead of possibly killing his "babies". However, if I make a purchase of $25 or more he flips hi sh*t. The account the money comes from is under my name, but any time I spend the money, he says, "Don't go wasting my money like that again". My question is this: When a minor receives SSA, is it the minors money or the representatives?

PROBLEM 2: I am constantly told things like, "You can't change your password on anything without me approving it" or "That's my phone, I just let you use it, therefore, I can go through it and need to know your password" from my dad. (Sidenote, while we were out in the snow, he tried to use touch ID on my phone aand it wasn't working because there was snow on it. He then flipped the f*ck out at me in public.) Is there anything that legally says that he needs my password? As well as, do I have a right to privacy of any type?

No one in my family is taking him to court (again) for anything, because, why would you.
Fast replies would be appreciated.

EDIT:Because I don't know how to kill commenting on this, please do not reply, I got the answer I needed.
Topic:
Computer and Internet

Answer: Your father has the right to control money received for your benefit through SSA, and to set parenting rules controlling the use of your cellular phone until you reach the legal age of majority.


Title: Tricked out of deposit and kick out of my aparment.

Question:
Located in Louisiana

So I posted yesterday about a paranoid feeling that my roommate and landlord were conspiring against me. Turns out they were.

I drew out a lease cancellation document using rocketlease and had them both to sign it. The ending date being today. I was going to put tomorrow, but the roommate said I could stay the night no problem. Included in the document, I put that the deposit should be returned to the tenants by hand or in 30 days to an address which I mistakenly left blank.

As soon as I signed it, the landlord took the paper i drafted and told me to get the hell out of there. My roommate suddenly had a change of character and told me to move out tonight before he calls the cops. I told them i would as soon as I got my deposit, and they both told me I get no deposit. I was going to stay and let them call the cops, but my brother and his friends came to get me and move my things.

Please help me out. I obviously don't want to go back, but is there any way I can get my deposit?

*edited for spelling and clarification

Answer:
 Of course. You will be happy to know you live in the great state of Louisiana and that stupid rocketlease thing you did was utterly worthless. Louisiana you see is a very peculiar state and doesn't like our laws muddled with dirty non-Louisiana.

In LA your landlord is required to return your deposit, or the accounting of said, within 30 days of written demand from a former tenant or they will be liable for a statutory penalty regardless if the failure to return deposit is valid. Simple send the landlord written demand, I advise certified with return receipt but its not required (but do it anyway). You can go to lawhelp.org/la to find a form letter for such a thing. Tell me your parish and I will see if your juris has the forms you will eventually need online.

If landlord does no respond, or if they respond with less than you think you are owed, you can sue them in small claims/Justice of Peace/Parish Court to recover. If you are want of means, you can file IFP so you don't owe court costs until after a judgment is rendered.


Title: Friend was abused by mother, she is blaming it on him and is threatening to make the rest of his life before adulthood hell. *Colorado*

Question: Overall I am not sure of all the specifics of the situations but long story short he got abused by his mother and hit in the face. She was in jail for a while and a abuse report was filed. She blamed all of the situation on him and basically threaten to take away all his privileges and make his life hellish, but she said that if he wrote a good report saying that the abuse was accidental, and to drop the charges that she'd forgive him. Is there anything he could do to drop the charges because he doesn't want to screw his mom over, but he'd like some leverage in his situation. What are his options?

Answer: He needs to let the CPS workers handling the case that his mother has attempted to influence what he says to them. Answer #2: Word of practical advice to your friend: if she was willing to deliberately hit him in the face, odds are good that she’s willing to lie through her teeth to him about “forgiving” him if he just says that it’s all one big misunderstanding. Abusers very rarely (if ever) have a “one-off” incident of abusing their loved ones.


Title: (Illinois) forced to quit bc I keep getting scheduled on Sundays and cannot work Sundays

Question:
On my application I wrote my availability was everyday except for Sunday's. Sunday's were never listed as required for everyone to work. It wasn't a problem until now when suddenly we are understaffed again.....
Sunday's I take off to go to church (I play in the worship group) and to do volunteer work/youth group stuff/spend the day with family. (It's usually my only day off -I usually an scheduled to work 6 days a week.)

Is there anything I can do about this? Can they legally make me work Sunday? My manager seems to think she can... the only option I see is to quit (I plan to give my 2weeks notice today)

Answer:
 >It's usually my only day off -I usually an scheduled to work 6 days a week.

Hey, I'm in Illinois and you actually can do something here. It is called the One Day Rest in Seven Act (ODRISA). ODRISA is an Illinois state law that requires employers to give employees a consecutive 24 hours off each week. If you are working every day, your employer is in violation of this act.


Title: Would a restaurant/bar have the legal right to refuse to serve alcohol to a pregnant woman?

Question:
If the woman asked specifically for an alcoholic beverage for herself, could the restaurant/bar legally refuse to serve her?

This wouldn’t be just assuming a fat woman is pregnant, it’s a scenario where it’s known since she’s been openly talking about her pregnancy with her party or with the employees of the restaurant/bar.

Answer:
 No, pregnancy is protected. At least from when I tended bar in Missouri.

EDIT: [This](https://www.alcohol.org/laws/serving-alcohol-to-pregnant-women/)  may interest you too, it lays out that while nothing is on the books federally, there are certain states that define drinking while pregnant as a form of child abuse which I did know. If it is, I could possibly see a case in not wanting to be an accessory to the abuse and denying service?Answer #2: It would probably depend from state to state but I know when I first entered the industry my manager said if I don't feel comfortable serving a pregnant woman alcohol to find them. Or it was in the TABC or some sort of training. I think if we refuse to serve them alcohol they can sue for discrimination or something like that. Like its more of a moral issue. That's the way they explained it to me. We sold wings and beer! Answer #3: I took a bartender's course in GA, and we were told it was illegal to refuse service to a pregnant woman, even if she is openly pregnant and open about the fact that she's going to be drinking.


Title: Hairdressers and makeup artists in NV, performed services for destination wedding in Jamaica. We're not paid in full, bride is overwhelmed with whole wedding cost and is refusing full payment.

Question:
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Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 >We were thinking of giving her an extra four weeks if she agrees to pay it in full, and we will get it in writing.

Probably best to try this approach first. While you likely would be successful in obtaining a judgment against her, collecting on that judgment will be the most difficult part of the process.


Title: Anyone know from how far away Nebraska will extradite me for a class 4 felony?

Question:
I wasn't even aware I had the warrant until I got pulled over in Oklahoma City and the cop told me about it. They clearly aren't extraditing me from Oklahoma, and I got pulled over in Arkansas few months ago, too, so it's safe there. I have to go to Chicago at the end of October, though. I feel like since it's further north it's a little bit closer. Anyone know?
The charge is auto theft, it's out of Imperial Nebraska, and when I called the Courthouse they called it a class 4 felony and said the bond is $50,000.

Answer: You cannot just run from that forever, you need to get a criminal defense attorney in Nebraska who can tell you how best to proceed to get this sorted out.


Title: [TX] Can two children in the same family legally have the exact same name?

Question: A friend had a baby 2 years ago. The baby died within a day of being born. She is now having another baby and wants to name this second baby the same name as the deceased first baby because it holds some significance in the family history. Will there be any legal problems if the second baby has the same name as the first deceased baby? If it matters at all, both babies have the same father.

Answer:
 There are no particular laws on newborn naming in this country.  Legally, you coudl give all your kids the exact same name.

You're setting the kids up for a world of confusion down the road, as the two records will likely get confused.  Your alive child might spend some time explaining that they're nto dead, for instance.  Answer #2: Didn't George Foreman name all of his boys George?


Title: Can’t Appear in Court

Question:
Hello
I’m not sure if anyone will have an accurate answer to this but google has brought me nowhere and I have some questions about a situation that has arisen for me. And yes, I fully understand how stupid I am for getting in this situation and for waiting so long to ask for help, I am only asking for assistance and not criticism.

I am currently going to college in IL. I was recently found to be in possession of <4 grams of marijuana and was given a citation by the county police. On the citation it says that I have a court appearance on Dec. 26, at 9:00 AM. I am not currently living on campus due to campus dorms closing for winter break, and I am living 3 hours away from my college town.

I went into the courthouse and was directed to an office (not positive the name of it, sorry for such little explicit detail) and I had many questions. The lady working the counter was very polite and helped me a lot. I told her my situation and that I did not think it would be plausible to appear in court at 9:00AM the day after Christmas when I live three hours away, and I asked if I could appeal that and get a new court date.

First off, she explained to me the nature of the citation. She said that my citation is very similar to a traffic citation in Illinois, and that it’s not actual “court” so to speak, and that it is not really anything to worry about. She said that there isn’t any reason for me to worry, and that if I don’t show up then I will simply get a notice in the mail of my next date, or I have the option to appear any Wednesday as they hold court sessions for things like this every Wednesday. So I said thank you, and left the building feeling satisfied and having everything in order. Up until now

I don’t know why, but I just have this feeling in my gut that something bad is going to happen if I don’t go tomorrow. I fear that she may have been wrong or something and that I will be issued a bench warrant for missing this “court” date and arrested whenever I was told that it would be okay to miss it. I have called the courthouse for the past three days and I have somehow always missed business hours when I have called. I would go tomorrow if it were plausible for me to, but it would require that I wake up at 4AM and get there by 9, which is not very reasonable in my opinion.

So my question is, if anybody had been through a similar situation or if anybody is familiar with the Illinois court system or familiar for this type of citation, does this sound correct? Was the court worker right? Or will I be issued a bench warrant when I do not appear? From my understanding it isn’t like normal court and it is more just like traffic court, but I am still slightly worried about this because I cannot afford a bench warrant financially and I can not afford to be put in jail as I am a college student with many classes.

Thank you for reading this and thank you to anybody that may be able to help me or give me answers in these difficult times, and merry Christmas :)

Answer:
 Court workers cannot give you legal advice.

You have been ordered to appear at 9 am tomorrow.  Absent a countervailing written order, I would suggest setting your alarm clock, or be prepared to face the consequences.  Is it possible nothing bad will happen if you don't appear?  Yes, it's possible.  It's also possible you'll get a warrant or additional fines, and what the worker told you will not be a defense.

If you don't want to drive tomorrow, drive tonight and get a cheap hotel room.Answer #2: Seriously. Get up early. It’ll probably be nothing, but that error is better than the converse!


Title: Why was Alex Jones banned from YouTube, Facebook, and iTunes?

Answer:
 Threatening to kill government officials, inciting harassment of parents of children killed in mass shootings, that kind of thing.

Answer #2: Because they no longer wanted him on their platform. As private companies that’s all the reason they need.


Title: Teacher seizes phone

Question:
Hi all,

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a legal question i have. My son's friend was caught cheating on a test with his phone out. The teacher saw this and seized the phone and went through the phone and discovered that my son had sent pictures to that student about the test. AFAIU, the teacher going through the phone is illegal correct? I agree that my son should be punished for teaching, but the teacher overstepped his boundary by looking through the phone and reading messages without consent. Is this something we can bring up to the school?

Answer:
 No, a school can search a student's possessions if there is reasonable suspicion that the search will reveal evidence that the student violated the law or school rules.Answer #2: The teachers and the school are not operating under the same rules and regulations as the police.

They are allowed to search lockers, they are allowed to search personal property brought onto school grounds and yes they are allowed to go through a confiscated phone.Answer #3: first of all, if it's determined that the teacher overstepped their bounds, the student whose phone was searched is the only one who has a claim. A school doesn't have to throw out inadmissible evidence to punish a student for wrongdoing.


Title: I think I have found a Child Pornography Ring and I dont know what to do.

Question: So every know and then when I need to sign up for a website, I will use mailinator. Mailinator, if you dont know is a disposable email service that allows you to create an inbox. So I use the site when I want to sign up for something but don't want to be spammed. I always use different emails as I like looking at the emails people get (usually spam), but today I saw something that piqued my interest. I saw a strange email. The email subject line had a strange forum name, and i clicked on it (assuming it was just some porn). The website I was brought to had a little girl as its banner in a model-like pose and one of the post titles I saw seemed pretty sketchy. I don't know what I should do? Should I report it? Will the police come knocking on my door? Please help!

Answer: Don't panic.[Canada has a national tipline for reporting suspected abuse / images of abuse of children online.](https://www.cybertip.ca/app/en/report)Answer #2: Better safe then sorry go to the police or whatever law enforcement deals with that immediately and explain everythingAnswer #3: It's probably a 'child modelling' site. Just report it and let the authorities see if it's important.


Title: "Friend" loads shotgun for me(7 red shells 2 blue shells) first blue shell doesn't Chamber, 2nd blue shell blows gun up and sends me to hospital. "friend" denying blue shells existed.(California)

Question: At a shooting range with a guy I knew for years. Loads a Mossburg 500 12 gauge for me. I noticed 2 shells were blue and paper wrapped, rest were federal shells.I fired 3-4 red shells, 1st blue shell doesn't chamber so I tossed it on the ground. (note the blue was a 12 gauge, so it wasn't the wrong caliber). 3-4 more red shells and last blue shell chambers and blows the gun up where the receiver and the barrel connect. My family go to the range the next day to find the blue shell on the ground but friend's family is already there searching the ground. Friend is denying the existence of these blue shells. Friend is suing Federal Ammunition for hearing damage but he wasn't wearing hearing protection. The blue shell was not Federal. I'm roughly $50,000 down in medical bills, what can I do? If you need any more information please ask.

Answer:
 You need to get a lawyer.

edit: spellingAnswer #2: Blue shells are made by a company named Peters.

Seems like your friend wants to commit fraud in order to obtain cash.

I would speak to a personal injury lawyer and perhaps make a police report.

Edit: I stand corrected.Answer #3: Not a lawyer but unless you can prove the shells were to blame then it's likely a moot point. And proving that it wasn't a fault of the person operating the gun is going to be uphill. Especially since a shotgun barrel can explode for a number of reasons. Was the shell too long for the gun? Some guns can only take a certain length of shell but due to the way shotguns are designed they will be able to chamber a round up to a quarter inch longer than they are actually designed for. If the blue rounds were too long then it's likely a user error and the responsibility of loading the proper shells falls to the user.


Title: Wrecked my car due to unmaintained roads

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 > Wrecked my car due to ~~unmaintained roads~~ driving too fast for the conditions.

FTFY


Title: Fake Churches/

Question:
With the new executive order regarding churches and political speech, I was wondering what the line is regarding what is and isn't a church again. I know this has come up before due to the special protections afforded to churches in the constitution (i.e. people trying to make churches to circumvent drug laws), but those cases all revolved around trying to do something criminal and using the first amendment to say the criminal statute is unconstitutional.

Can someone lay out why I can't, say, make the First United Church of Sally Rogan for Mayor, a church that strongly believes that Jesus destined Sally to be the Mayor. The church would get a tax break on donations and would "not coordinate" with the official campaign in the same way that most Super PACS "don't coordinate" with campaigns.

So far I've found [Reynolds](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reynolds_v._United_States) which says that "to permit this [religious rights outweighing law] would be to make the professed doctrines of religious belief superior to the law of the land, and in effect to permit every citizen to become a law unto himself."

Answer: I don't think anything really stops you as John Oliver literally created a legal church just to demostrate how little it requires to obtain that status. I'm sure the IRS may have a new headache though


Title: Let someone borrow my phone for a minute, they started looking at porn (California)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 This is ludicrous. Answer #2: Watching porn is not illegal, and if he really had the phone for "5 secs tops" how could he have typed in such lewd search terms?

I don't think you have anything to worry about from a legal sense.  Just never let this guy use your phone again. Answer #3: >I reported the guy to the front desk in case he does it again.

Front desk?


Title: Need advice calculating damages on a rare case of a mistaken car tow/scrapping.

Question:
CA, USA

Here's what happened:
Went to leave for work Monday morning and my car was missing.  I immediately called the non-emergency hotline and two officers showed up to file the report.  The next morning I get a call from the police department with some new information.  Turns out my neighbor had arranged for his car to be towed to a local junkyard and they towed my car instead.  Also that they had already started scrapping it before realizing their mistake, catalytic converter pulled out, windows broken, and more.  After some phone calls to the police department it turns out that there's no criminal liability on their part because it was a mistake and that its now my responsibility to pursue damages and settle with the company.  Fine.  Not having any experience in these matters, I could use some advice on just what I can/should demand from them that's reasonable for both damages to my personal property and for my hardship.  thanks for reading.

Answer:
 Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer.

Do you have full coverage insurance on your car? I would contact them and start a claim. Let them go after the tow company on your behalf. That's what you pay them for. Your car was stolen and totaled, mistake or not. Answer #2: If the tow/scrap yard knows they made the mistake, they probably know they will need to pay up.

 I'd try calling them and asking for the fair market value of your vehicle + car rental, and other expenses you incure.

If that doesn't work, you can look up the limits for small claims court and if it is more than you are asking for, sue there.

I'd probably put this on the same level as car insurance (if you have comprehensive coverage). You will pay the deductible up front, and hopefully get it back once the tow yard pays the ins company.


Title: Does a university have a legal obligation to release transcripts for a student in good standing?

Question:
I have graduated successfully - passed all my tests, passed all my classes, owe no debt to them, filled out all my paperwork. I received a physical copy of my degree.

My school refuses to send an email transcript and the physical one they sent was "lost". I requested the transcript three months ago. I need it by this weekend. If I don't get it, my career is quite literally over. Thank you residency.

Would a request letter from a lawyer do anything or is a college not obligated to send a transcript for a student in good standing even when said transcript is necessary? This is the industry standard.

I know people in debt or with outstanding classes have issues. I am not one of those people.

Answer:
 Why are you putting quotes around "lost"? From what you said, your university may have done nothing wrong. Do you have a reason to believe that the university didn't send it as compared to it getting lost in the mailroom after being received?

It isn't uncommon for schools to not have a way to send official transcripts via email, since the security features are usually part of the printing process, but are they refusing to let you pay for another physical copy, ideally with express shipping?


Title: Neighbors repeatedly wake us up with their amplifiers, which violate the lease. Management won't do anything about it, do we have a right to break the lease? (Arizona)

Question: So like the title says we have incredibly noisy neighbors. I live in a student-housing type complex (not a part of my university) so the lease states that there is a 24 hour quiet policy and that amplifiers and speakers are strictly prohibited. After the first warning they are supposed to get a fine and by the 3rd they are supposed to be asked to leave. Obviously this isn't happening. My roommates and I have called to complain about them well over 20 times in the past 3 months and nothing is being done about it. We are not sleeping since they play their music at all hours of the day (and well into the night). Me and my roommates are absolutely done with it. We have been promised several times by management that they will take care of it, and they never do. Is this a legitimate enough reason to break our lease?

Answer:
 Start calling the police to remedy the actual problem.

Your lease will dictate whether or not this is something that could allow you to break it.


Title: My Brother smashed a ceramic bowl into my face leaving me with 6 stitches on a wound from my lip to my nose and multiple other lacerations

Question:
First off I live in Australia and I'm on mobile (and I'm kinda tipsy so I apologise if this is incoherent).

When this happened the ambulance was called but the cops showed up first and they've deemed my brother as the "aggrevied" and myself as the "respondant." I'm not really sure what this means or how he's managed to play the victim (the police filed this not him which I don't really understand either). He had no wounds from this incident beyond cuts on his hand from the ceramic breaking on my face. I've since filed a protection order for myself against him but did not show up to the first court hearing as being in public with my fucked up face causes me great anxiety. (I already had problems with going into public but this is a major setback with my mental health situation).

First I was wondering if I should show up to the next court hearing and how to get some sort of compensation for the loss of work and as I'm  currently looking for another job, loss of being able to find a new one while the stitches dissolve and past that, because well, my face is fucked up now and it likely will be that way for a long time. Also compensation for the setback with my mental health.

As much as I want to get a restraining order, we both live with my parents and if I do that they'll likely kick me out (my mother is a narcissist and I am not the golden child).

I also haven't gotten any sort of apology from him (it's been 10 days) and feel extremely uncomfortable in his presence. Mostly, I just want a written apology. He's fucked up my face for life and hasn't even said sorry or shown any kind of remorse at all. Some sort of compensation for my face would be nice also (he makes more money than me) but isn't necessary.

I'm also worried for his current girlfriend and future partners because if you can do this kind of crap to your own sister, I'm sure he's capable of much worse to others.

I'm not completely sure of the advice I'm asking for really but thank you in advance for any replies.

Answer: You left off the entire part of how this happened. We don't know what happened other than the police came and you got stitches. Answer #2: Move out. Get a police report and a protective order. Sue him for medical costs.Answer #3: Okay, you can't force him to feel sympathy for what he's done. You can prolly sue him for your damages.


Title: I got a DUI last night and my name was misspelled.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Under the Minor Clerical Errors Act of 1976, your charges should be dropped and you will receive a payment of $5000 for the inconvenience.

Of course it won't help you.


Title: Baby mama drama

Question: I know this isn’t a pressing matter but I’m still new to the single dad life and that being said I’m not a full time dad unfortunately. I try to be involved in my sons life as much as possible so I feel knowing who my son spends time with is important. His mother has found herself a new boyfriend whom they spend a lot of time with. Spending the night is becoming a common thing and being that I don’t know him let alone his last name I asked my ex what it was and she refused to tell me saying she didn’t have to. When I picked him up today I asked the new squeeze and he didn’t want to tell me either. My question is if she or he is obligated to tell me so I can do a background check. I understand it’s a sensitive subject being that he doesn’t know me either but I feel like I have a right to know. I’m going to get ahold of a lawyer come the work week but I’m kind of bugged that he doesn’t feel comfortable divulging something as simple as a full name.

Answer:
 No, they aren’t legally obligated to tell you. Just like you’re not legally obligated to give them information if you ever become involved with someone. It’s a courtesy and sometimes only happens with two parents who are civil minded.

Having to deal with a toxic co-parent I recommend just try to be respectful as possible when communicating with your ex, you’ll be more likely for a response. But sometimes, people are just unreasonable. Good luck


Title: HR Exit Interview - Information not kept confidential, grounds?

Question:
Hello all,

I recently left a company and had an exit interview, in which the HR person said that anything I wanted to keep confidential to just let her know and she would make sure to keep it off the record. So, at one point I complained about my boss at the time and mentioned some things I didnt like about them, asking for that part of the discussion to be kept confidential. I now know for a fact that the HR person went to my old boss and told them what I said.

Do I have any ground for a lawsuit here? I feel like the HR person broke confidentiality and burned a networking bridge for me down the line. Because of the HR person my old boss will likely never recommend me for a job or could potentially block me from going to a company they work at in the future. It seems like this has very real monetary implications.

Thoughts?

Big thanks in advance!!

Answer: No, that is not illegal. HR can lie, you have no right to HR privacy. You said it, HR is only reporting the truth of what you said.