Title: NJ - I was doing 102 in a 65 zone and received a reckless driving ticket..What would I be able to do?

Question:
that's a total of 10 points. The real kicker is I only have my probationary (provisional?) license. The one that's between learners permit and basic drivers license. I have no previous points. I feel like I am in some deep shit but desperately want to keep my license. There was no DUI or anything like that.

ALSO, the ticket is the two on the same slip. The court date for the reckless driving is in less than a week. When I go to court for that, will they only evaluate the reckless driving ticket? or will it be both? do i need to bring someone that can drive me back?

Answer: Reckless driving has a possible jail sentence associated with it.  You need to hire a lawyer.  And slow down.


Title: What questions should you ask a divorce attorney at a first meeting? [USA-NC]

Question:
Here's the quick and dirty context:

My best friend caught her husband cheating about a week ago.  Husband is not aware he's been busted.  They had been having other issues.  They have a child together.  I'm trying to maintain a neutral tone, as I never thought he was a poor husband, but he IS a good father - and when a kid is involved, I can understand why you make sacrifices for the child.  But I think this cheating was the last straw.

I have a neighbor who is in family law, and I've asked if she would meet with us.  I've offered to introduce them and be in the room, if wanted, supporting my friend.  Emotional stuff aside, just regarding this meeting, how can I best support her?  What questions should we ask, what expectations should be set, what does she really need to learn at this point?

If it's relevant, this is North Carolina, the marriage has been approx 10 years, they own a home together, and have a school-age child.  Both work and have decent jobs - no childcare needed due to work schedules.

Answer: Support her by staying out of it. You gave her a reference, your duty is done. Get her a drink or perhaps some pie after it. She needs a friend not a legalbuddy.


Title: Should I press charges?

Question: So I am a minor and just reported a series of incidents with a then 23, now 24 year old man. We had sex on multiple occasions (the first time I was blackout drunk, the other times I was not). I feel that he was very manipulative throughout the whole thing. The police contacted my mother on the 12th and said I could press charges. Would anything happen, do you think, or would they take his side since I'm almost 18? I'm pretty scared and would like advice. Thank you.

Answer: To answer the question of "should you" would depend on the whole story. You consensually had sex with this person multiple times. You were a minor and didn't cover the age gap in your state so it is technically a crime. Weather or not demand deserves to be charged with a crime is still questionable. Did he do something unspeakable why do you feel that you should press charges on him?


Title: [California] I found a website that is publicly posting my name, cell phone number, and location is this legal and is there recourse to remove it?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: You know they used to deliver these "phone books" containing such information to every house? It's not protected information. Answer #2: It's completely legal. These are not considered private information under the law.


Title: Recently Got Served Custody Papers (IN)

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Your lawyer is going to be able to better answer any of your first four questions then we can. As to the last one about the visitation request, I cannot emphasize enough how interested your lawyer will be to hear about how the subject of a protective order (him) contacted the protected party (you). Depending on how the order is worded, that could end very badly for him.


Title: What sort of banter/chanting can I get away with in a football/soccer game? South-East England, UK.

Question:
Hi everyone, this is a UK-based post so I understand that this primarily USA-based sub may not be able to help me entirely. Please remember that "football" in this case refers to "soccer".

Okay, so a friend has convinced me to go along to my first big football game, big as in "outside of my home town". I want to really get involved, as in join in with any chants for the team we'll be supporting (I'm withholding the team name so as not to spark a football debate) and generally get in the mood.

However I'm aware that there are quite a few people that get arrested or in trouble with the police because they get too carried away. There's the obvious stuff such as racial/religious abuse or sexism, which I have precisely no plans to get involved with, but I was wondering if there was anything else I need to be aware of?

Thanks for being awesome.

Answer:
 If it's your first time, wait and see what the local hooligans are chanting. The hardcore team supporters generally have a few chants they use, you can join in.

Unless it's Chelsea, then disregard everything above and just don't attend.


Title: My stepmom just got denied re-entry to united states with a valid visa and being married to US citizen after a ski trip to Canada. What are her options right now?

Question: From talking to one of the immigration lawyers it looks like they denied her entry because they think she plans on living in USA and not Poland. She has been married to my dad for about a year and a half, who has been US citizen for 15 years. She is in process of getting her permanent residency, but for the time being she has been staying here for about 6 months and then going back to Poland for the other 6 months as per what her visa required. If any immigration lawyers could give me some options on what she can do I would really appreciate it

Answer: She's on the wrong visa.  She needs a spousal visa, not a tourist visa.  They weren't wrong in deporting her.  Answer #2: That frequency of travel likely caused the denial. She needs to speak to a lawyer about applying for her marriage visa.Answer #3: If they cancelled her visa her only option is to finish the visa process through your dad.


Title: Can a cop search through your phone without your consent if it contains you insurance card?

Question: If I am pulled over by a cop for speeding and I hand them my phone with my insurance ecard can they legally go through my phone? I want the convenience of the ecard, but I also don't trust law enforcement officers to not look through my phone.

Answer:
 Asked my SO, who's an LEO - no they can't look through your phone. Answer #2: Some states bar officers from looking through your phone on stops.  Others don't.  In any case you can specifically deny consent for a search, even if you give it to him for an electronic card.  That won't prevent them from searching for other reasons.

Or you could just print the damn card once or twice a year.


Title: Constitutional rights with game warden

Question: I was thinking about acquiring a fishing license and taking my son fishing in Alabama. I hate unconstitutional harassment by any law enforcement officer. If I'm required to produce my fishing license even though I haven't committed or suspected of committing a crime then I gladly will but if the constitution protects me from that I would love to exercise my rights. Also, what about my cooler getting searched?

Answer:
 > The right of the anglers to be secure in their boats, beaches, and rivers, against unreasonable game wardens, shall not be violated, and no warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the cooler containing Miller Lite.Answer #2: You are required to present your fishing license upon request from a law-enforcement official.

Game wardens are indeed allowed to search your cooler.Answer #3: AM I BEING DETAINED??? AM I FREE TO FISH???Answer #4: If you are doing something that requires a license and they request to see your license then you show it to them.

By obtaining that license you are likely agreeing to cooperate with law enforcement to verify your are following the laws.


Title: [CA] My sister is going through a rather abrupt divorce and her soon to be Ex is trying to ruin her life and steal her kids.

Question:
So, this is a long one, but here it goes.

My sister has been dating/married to this ~~douchebag~~ guy for well over 10 years now, off and on. They have two kids, 9 and 2, and have been married for the past 4 years.

So apparently earlier this year, around Juneish, during a marriage counseling session her Ex confessed that he had a "girlfriend" but it wasn't a sexual thing, just emotional. She was actually a lesbian married to a woman (turned out to be true, though she is actually bisexual.) Fast forward a few months and he's acting weirder and weirder. Then it all came to a head one day when he responded to a 911 call that he wasn't supposed to (He's a paramedic). Turned out to be their friend's 5 year old son who had died. He spent a long time trying to resuscitate but was ultimately unsuccessful. He was out of it for a while after that, but a few days later, he told my 9 year old nephew he was going to divorce his mom, before he even told her. He chose to tell her the next day, while driving to the 5-year old's funeral. A few days later, he took his gun and the kids and disappeared to his mother's house for a few days, refusing to let me sister see her boys. He also filed a (blatantly false) police report for a restraining order against my sister. CLaiming she was an abusive alcoholic (not even close) and that he feared for his life around her.

He got her kicked out of his house (technically owned by his grandmother) and has been pulling ridiculous stunts since then to try and ruin my sisters financial standings. Everything he's done, including the police report, seems to be trying to set up himself for full custody or majority custody of the boys.

A little background on this guy, he used to be a meth dealer, but had his record kept clean by his families law enforcement connections and we suspect he may be back on drugs currently (he's lost a significant amount of weight in a short amount of time).

He's also been having his new girlfriend stay over at his house with his kids and this makes my sister very uncomfortable. My 2 year old nephew told her today that he slept in the same bed and his dad and his new girlfriend over the weekend.

I know CA is a no fault state, but can any of this be used to help my sister get full custody? His family has far more money than we do, so any legal battle will be unbelievably drawn out.
Topic:
Custody Divorce and Family

Answer: Your sister needs a divorce attorney, yesterday. They will be able to advise her the best.


Title: Found out my father has been cheating on my mother; what actions can I take to get him out of MY life?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 Just cut off contact.  Stop trying to ruin his life.  You'll regret it.Answer #2: No, assuming you're an adult just stop talking to him.

 edit: apparently OP is a grown ass Marine.

 Edit to your edit: No. Answer #3: > is there a way that he is now disconnected from me in the judicial system?

I'm not quite sure what you mean by this. If you're a legal adult then pretty much you're already about as 'free' of your father as you are of any other random man walking down the street. Neither criminal nor civil court will care who your father is, if you're an adult.

If you're a juvenile, then it's a different ball game and there's probably not much you, specifically, can do.Answer #4: As long as you obsess over this he continues to have power over you. Cut off all contact and then let it go.


Title: I work as an EMT at a private company in Boston and I think my employer is trying to screw me over.

Question:
First off, thank you in advance for this helpful subreddit, I don't know where else I could turn to. I'll try to keep things concise but there has been a lot going on in the past few weeks.

I've been becoming more and more dissatisfied with the decisions my company has been making, namely with someone that I would label as dangerously incompetent. I had heard of a number of disturbing incidents that occurred due to this person from other EMTs that worked with her and after being scheduled with her for just a few days, I was able to confirm that she is a danger to her peers as well as the patients we transport. The company has been very stressed for workers lately and apparently they need everyone they can get. While I understand that, I also think it's irresponsible considering the serious nature of the job. The fact that this person was still not reprimanded suggested to me that the company was not taking the situation seriously enough and I decided that I had had enough.

Last Monday I went into my supervisor's office and expressed my concerns and when she dismissed them, I told her that in two weeks I would like to move to Per Diem status.

That evening I got a call from dispatch saying that they needed someone to come in for a 5AM shift and I decided to take it to help them out since I understand that everyone has been stressed lately.

During the very first call, while lifting a relatively large patient, I felt my groin become injured. It looked enough like a hernia that I wanted to have it checked out before taking any more calls. I spoke with 2 separate doctors and a surgeon who all confirmed that it was indeed a relatively large hernia which would require surgical repair.

I realize that the timing of this was pretty bad given my conversation with my supervisor the day before but besides sounding pissed off, she didn't really suggest that it would be too much trouble.

I've been working light-duty for the past few shifts while I await my surgery which is scheduled for Friday the 13th (I know, right?)

Fast forward to this weekend where I feel myself feeling pretty sick with cold-like symptoms. This morning I felt especially bad and I decided to see my PCP who informed me that I have the flu as well as pneumonia. He told me that the surgery would likely have to be put off until I was well which meant that I likely wouldn't be able to return to work at all for at least 2 weeks.

I called up my supervisor and told her my new predicament and she sounded pretty curt with me and said "I'm going to have to call Workerman's Comp to discuss your previous plans for moving to Per Diem" as well as having me come in for an "exit interview"

So basically it sounds like they plan on
**1. Firing me outright**
**2. Complicating the workman's comp situation**

I've literally never caused any problems with the company that would give them any reason to fire me and I've only used 1 sick day in my 7 month employment, and that was when my flight back to Boston got cancelled due to one of the many blizzards we've had this winter. I would really like to stay in the company's good graces since I would like to use them as a reference for when I apply to PA school later this year. I'd like to know where I stand legally and what courses of action I should take, should my concerns be legitimated.

Thanks!
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 Two issues.

1. Yes you can be fired as you have not worked there long enough to qualify for FMLA. If you are fired, file for unemployment once medically cleared to return to work.

2. Your boss is unlikely to have any impact on your WC claim for that reason. I don't see that having any bearing whatsoever.


Title: So I did something outrageously stupid and drunkenly went onto the field at a monster truck rally. I'm now being charged with trespassing and could use some advice on what I'm in for

Question:
I know this sounds like the most white trash thing conceivably possible. Long story short, my friends thought it would be funny to go to a monster truck rally. We all got really drunk (because what else are you going to do at a monster truck rally), and me and one of my friends eventually became fixated on the idea of running onto the field. This is of course an awful idea, but we got drunk tunnel vision.

So now I've got a court date on Monday for trespassing. I don't really know what the consequences are going to be or if this will go on my permanent record. Does anyone know what I should expect?

Edit: this is in Denver

Answer:
 > I know this sounds like the most white trash thing conceivably possible.

I worked for NASCAR for 5 years. You won't even make the top 100 with that kind of rookie level white-trashery.

You should hire a lawyer. Depending on what degree you've been charged with this could be a misdemeanor.Answer #2: 1. stay away from this monster truck rally. really any monster truck rallies for now

2. try to not get that drunk again at least until this is resolved

3. if this is a misdemeanor or felony you'll probably want to go to court and plead not guilty. if you don't have money for a lawyer, you can request a public defender. otherwise you need to start looking for a lawyer asap.


Title: Am I not allowed to consult?

Question: I work in Chicago and signed a non compete with my employer which says that "during my employment with the Company I will not engage in any other employment, occupation or consulting anywhere in the United States...". I have someone that wants me to consult for them on the side. Is this agreement enforceable? Are the worst consequences that I get fired if my employer finds out (given my employment is at will)? Can my employer find out via my tax filings or any other way? Thanks!

Answer:
 It may be enforceable, but it's impossible to say for sure without reading the entire agreement.

>Are the worst consequences that I get fired if my employer finds out (given my employment is at will)?

The company can sue you for an injunction to stop you from working for the other company, plus any monetary damages.


Title: Contractor threatening to sue over bad review

Question:
We had some work done on our home by a chimney contractor. We had some issues with him and how he conducted himself. Namely he provided a firm quote and not an estimate and when it was going to take him longer to complete the job he wanted paid more. When I pointed out he had a firm price quote he threatened to quit. Since our chimney was in pieces we agreed. After he was done, I left a factual accounting of the situation on a review website along with a little bit of snark about how to run his business better (he had been a jerk and bragged about how loaded he was, among other things).

The review caused him to fly off the handle. He emailed me twice harassing me, threatened me ("best hope I never run into you") and said he was going to call my employers CEO to tell him about the situation. He also threatened to sue me for slander, libel and defamation.
I
Heid reach out to my employer to get his direct number and in so doing he used an anti semetic slur in reference to me and a second time when he went in person. My employer is in the process of terminating their relationship with him.

I guess my question is this; I am confident that any case he brings forth will be dismissed, but the whole process will be a huge pain and probably costly. In the event he does would I have any grounds to countersue given that this was a personal matter and he was trying to influence my employer in some way to take action against me in retribution?

Obviously trying not to escalate further, and I will involve the police if he does.

Answer:
 If your review was truthful and in good faith, he doesn't have a case for libel/defamation. Don't worry too much about it.

I think what you need to think about is the harrassment and reporting it to the police.


Title: [Illinois] I was arrested for misdemeanor confinement of my dog in the car. Do I have a chance?

Question:
I am in need of consultation and advice for a misdemeanor charge against me. I was arrested for Confinement of my dog in the car that the officer claims put his health and wellbeing at risk.

The officer was called by a concerned citizen via 911 who claimed to have been at my car an hour before the officer's arrival. Officers claimed to have arrived at my vehicle and waited for 25 minutes before I returned. However, I know for a fact I was not at that location longer than an hour. Definitely less than 35 min. I am sure that I was not away from the vehicle for more than the hour that the officer and complainant claim. In addition to that, I had the sunroof open and it was 70 degrees Fahrenheit and sunny that day (72 according to NOAA). Furthermore, the officer claimed that my dog was physically distressed from the heat and ordered me to remove him from the vehicle and give him water (he had been playing with a bernese and a poodle all morning). He took a few sips from a cup of water and then sat there. If my dog were thirsty, he would have emptied that little cup.

The officers did not get the information for the woman who made the complaint so the arresting officer put herself as the one who found the situation I guess. She was pretty passionate and angry about all this. The other officer who showed up of course had to back her up.

I did not argue with the officers, nor did I give them any reason to assume that I was mistreating my dog, other than leaving him in the car, on the way home from my girlfriend's parents house, to pick up a waterbottle from bed bath and beyond. Nonetheless, I was cuffed and arrested without being read my Miranda rights. I know that the law does not state specific conditions to qualify for this charge and that it is up to the discretion of the officer to determine. However, due to these circumstances and other details, I feel that I was wronged and would like to see what I can do to mitigate any damage this may do to my record.

TL;DR: I was arrested for leaving my dog in an extremely hot car for over an hour. It was 72 degrees F (tops) and he was not there for any longer than 35 min. Do I have any case?
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 35 minutes (be honest, it was longer) at 72 degrees outside (way, way hotter in the car) is dangerous for a small dog. Sounds to me like the officer did the right thing.Answer #2: You should never plead guilty to anything. You should definitely get a lawyer, as a misdemeanor is pretty serious, much more so than a citation. This is what we'd tell anyone with a speeding ticket or pot bust. This WILL show up on a background check if convicted, and if people google the citation you're convicted of, they may not be pleased.

Since the statute requires the animal be in danger, there may be wiggle room. However, let your lawyer make that argument, while you remain silent and polite. Show contrition and remorse, regardless of your personal feelings.


Title: (NY) Was rear-ended yesterday and have some questions.

Question: Yesterday, while slowing down for a stop light on an incline, my seat slid out of position and jammed my foot onto the brake.  The person behind me rear-ended me as a result.  I realize that I handled this wrong and we should have called the cops, but damage to my car was minimal as hers caught the brunt of it.  I want to take responsibility for her repairs, but I know that I cannot pay it out of pocket.  If I call my insurance company, will they pay for it?  I have full coverage.  I am not worried about the rates going up.  I just want to have her car fixed.

Answer:
 The chances of them paying for her repairs are about 0.

In NY there is a strong presumption in rear-end accidents that the following car is at fault. The legal reasoning is that they were following to closely and were unable to stop in time. Even in the event of the leading car stopping short this is the case.

Unless you suddenly changed lanes without signaling and she hit you, your insurance company will likely deny responsibility.

EDIT: I am a lawyer, but I'm not your lawyer.


Title: Homeless person living in my neighbor's car in my parking lot: prostitution, littering and theft.

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 How is it your landlord is unable to evict your neighbor for allowing sublets without your landlord's permission? That just seems like a bunch of bullshit. How is it the police didn't run their IDs and find out they have outstanding warrants for their arrest?

In the meantime, whenever you order packages, I'd spring for extra to require a signature upon receipt, or if you're not home, have them hold the packages at their facility so your crappy neighbor can't rifle through them. As im_not_your_lawyer said, make sure your lease doesn't prevent you from installing a security camera and point it at the mailbox. Inform your neighbors next time if they take a single step on your property, that you're going to call the police for criminal trespass. Consider a home defense weapon as well.


Title: Guardianship of our 18 year old niece, does she include our income on paperwork? (Texas)

Question:
I am in Texas.

My wife has guardianship over our niece.  She is an orphan (mom died, dad 100% unknown, mom took that secret to the grave).  We have had guardianship over her person for about the last 8 years.  She just turned 18, and my wife is seeking to end the guardianship since she is an adult now.

We are starting to look at getting insurance for her because my employer said that if there is no guardianship over her, she can't be on my insurance.  We have also started looking into how she is going to pay for college.

Once the guardianship ends, does she still have to claim our income on paper work where it says household income, such as insurance applications (like the [healthcare.gov](https://healthcare.gov) site) and FAFSA?

In looking at the IRS rules for a dependent, it looks like we could still claim her on our taxes as a dependent.  We will have to discuss this with our accountant, but if we were to keep claiming her as a dependent, would that allow her to stay on our insurance even if the guardianship has ended?
Topic:
Healthcare Law including HIPAA

Answer:
 Even though they may use the same term, the IRS and your insurance can have different definitions of who qualifies as a dependent. If your insurance policy requires you to have guardianship over her for purposes of being covered under your plan, then that’s the definition you go by for insurance purposes.

Edit: Same with FAFSA. It can be confusing because of how different entities define the same term. But FAFSA should also define and clarify whether she needs to report your income.


Title: City vehicle backed into our car. Now what?

Question:
OrMy brother was driving behind the city water truck. The truck missed its turn and  came to a stop. It began to back up to make the turn and hit my brother who was directly behind them.

It would have looked like my brother rear ended them! Luckily The driver admitted he backed into our car. 911 was called and we have a police report stating they're at fault and a voice recording of the driver/police saying what happen.

We called the city trying to get them to pay for the damages but we're getting the run around.

What do we need to do to get this fixed and our insurance rates to not go up? 100% their fault and we can't afford to get it fixed if they won't pay!

My brother also had to go to the urgent care for a sprained neck. We have insurance but not sure if there will be any bills from that visit. X-rays were taken which can be a little pricy for our insurance

We are in the DC area

Answer:
 > We called the city trying to get them to pay for the damages but we're getting the run around.

This isn't a "call and then a giant check magically appears" situation.

Generally cities self-insure for insurance claims.  There will be a process for filing claims against the city.  Ask the CITY CLERK about filing a claim against the city.  Then do so, without delay.  Then wait a while, while they investigate.  Then maybe get money.  Or maybe not.

Alternately, hire a lawyer to do the same thing, though it doesn't sound like your damages are too high.

Alternately, contact your auto insurance provider and let them handle it.
Answer #2: Let your insurance company handle it.


Title: Threatened by Customer at work.

Question: Hello and thanks for your time. First off this happened in Greenville South Carolina. So I was at work and a customer came in, he came to the store for the sole purpose of confronting me. Basically my manager tried to defuse the situation while I hid in the office. While I was in there he stared at me menacingly and made several verbal threats. The most profound one that's sticking with me is "I'm going to drag you outside and beat you senseless".  At this point I feared for my personal safety, clocked out and left the store as quickly as I could. I don't know if he followed me because I was genuinely to angry /worried he was actually going to try and harm me. So from reading this you can say that I was not physically harmed, but mentally I can't stop thinking about this happening. I lost sleep last night over it. Also I  lost out of about 1.5 hours of work that I won't be reimbursed for. I am in no way wanting to sue this man. I just feel like this behavior is unacceptable and would like to see some sort of recourse. Is there any options or does this bully just get to walk away from this with no punishment? I also have all of his personal information and home address due to the nature of my work, so finding him wouldn't be an issue. Please give me some advice and I truly appreciate you taking the time to read my post.

Answer: There's nothing to sue him for. Call the police next time someone threatens to harm you. In the meantime, move on with your life.


Title: [Ohio] Employer wont provide drinks for employees

Question:
I work in a fast food resturant. We recently got an email from our Area VP that employees are not allowed to use cups and that cups must be brought in from home in order to get anything to drink. I'm a shift manager where I work and I refuse to enforce this rule in its fullest because it's just..greedy but that's beside the point right now.

We work 6-10 hours a day standing over a 400F grill with a 200F oven literally inches from our face the entire time. Our crew can get dehydrated very quickly. One time I had to walk 6 miles to work in 90F weather. I was scheduled from 6PM-4AM and I dropped my cup on the way to work and it broke. Our air conditioning also broke that day. My boss would not let me get a cup of water even though customers get free water cups. I luckily didn't get sick but..the possibility is there.

Just today a girl got sick because she forgot her cup and didn't drink anything all day out of fear of being yelled at.

My goal is to have this rule amended to allow every employee one free drink a day to avoid any legal issues that may face the company and to prevent employees from being too afraid to get something to drink.

Does my company have a legal obligation to provide water to its employees? Can they face any issues for saying we can't drink anything if we don't have a cup from home?

Answer: There is a simple solution to this. Get some plastic or styrofoam cups that look nothing like the cups used in the store. Encourage employees to bring in their own cups, but you will have some as backup if they forget.Answer #2: Is the rule that you can't drink *for free* or can't drink *at all*?


Title: TX - Should I Change My Statement Or Take The Lawsuit?

Question: [removed]

Answer:
 I'm sorry for your situation.  Clearly you may want to review the entirety of this situation with an attorney.

It is almost certainly a mistake to falsely represent the circumstances of an accident to an insurance company in processing a claim.  When doing so involves changing a prior statement it is very likely additional questions will be asked and you'll be in a very difficult position.Answer #2: Do not change your statement.  If there was a police report, and the police find out you changed your tune, you might end up with a charge of lying to the police or falsely reporting an incident.Answer #3: explain all of this to an attorney representing you. the only thing i can add that others might not add is that changing statements will make insurance companies not want to insure you Answer #4: Lying in any sort of official capacity is a mistake.  Let them sue.  Unless you have a ton of assets and they find a reason to go above the policy limits, you and your stuff are safe from the suit anyway.


Title: My grandpa (widowed) passed away but owes $3000 on a credit card. Who has to pay?

Question:
My grandpa passed away a few days ago (grandma passed away 5 years ago) and had $3000 accumulated after several years of spending. He was unfortunately bad with money, but paid his bills on time (he just charged too many times). Is one of his children (one son, two daughters) responsible for this debt?
I'm located in central Texas

Answer:
 No. His estate is responsible. If the estate is destitute then the CC company eats the debt.

At no point should anyone but the estate agree to owing this debt. Answer #2: Please don't be offended if you already know this:
State laws governing these matters vary from state-to-state.  But here are some basics.

Upon my death, a legal entity named "Estate of Me" springs into existence. The estate can own assets, it can have liabilities (debts), and it must file income tax returns every year it exists. (Some estates disappear quickly, others don't.)

Everything I own instantly transfers either to

a) other people (because of joint ownership with right of survivorship, or beneficiary status), or

b) to my estate.

For example, the bank account I own jointly with my spouse instantly becomes, upon my  death, hers alone. The investment account I own may have had a named beneficiary, and becomes theirs.  Again, and importantly, these assets transfer ownership automatically to specific named people. These assets never become part of the estate of me, and are generally unaffected by anything I may have written about them in my will, because my will only controls my estate, and these assets never became part of my estate.

My estate must pay its bills to the fullest extent possible, liquidating assets as necessary. Once that is finished, if there is anything left in my estate, what remains is distributed according to my will, and state laws.

My relatives do not have to pay my debts. On the other hand, my estate does have to, so my heirs inherit less.


Title: Judge Judy You Really Messed Up This Time, How About Accepting Responsibility For Your Actions? abbreviated version

Answer:
 This isn't how Judge Judy works at all.

The show pays both of you to come be on the show.  They satisfy the entire amount of your claim.  You both "win."  Then they get good TV.

You can't force her to "admit she made a mistake." Answer #2: >I am in the process of finding a lawyer in California to help me.

/thread

We don't know the details of your case, and we're not equipped to tell you how to override a judge's decision. Getting a local lawyer is the only thing you can do right now.


Title: When to Get CPS Involved?

Question: Someone on askreddit suggested I should try this question here. I’m from Washington area here and I have a friend that is concerned about her young child on the days the child stays with the other parent. They have 50/50 custody after going to court to set up a custody agreement. My friends concern is that the step-parent and other parent are neglectful of the child when in their care. Instances is that the child will arrive at school dirty (literal dirt on their face), tangled hair, and clothes too small or not appropriate for weather. The child has informed my friend that they sleep on the floor in an attic and the family pet urinates all over the mattress, clothing, and belongings yet the step-parent and parent do nothing. My friend is worried because their child does not feel loved and is not properly taken care of. Does that warrant my friend to reach out to CPS? Anytime my friend has asked to talk with the step parent and parent about what the child has mentioned, they become hostile, cuss my friend out, and claim the child is a liar.

Answer: Clothes not appropriate for the weather AND a kid sleeping on a urine soaked mattress are both excellent reasons to file a report with CPS.


Title: I'm an idiot; I accidentally Googled "how to buy pure recreational drugs" on my college's WiFi (Texas)

Question:
First of all, I apologize if this is not the right subreddit. If not, please direct me elsewhere.

Yeah, I have no idea what the fuck I was thinking. Nothing has happened yet, but I'm sort of freaking out and would appreciate some clarity.

Can my (public) college see my internet activity? Do they likely have some sort of filter that is actively looking for suspect phrases? What is the likelihood they would actually find out, and care? I realize that it most likely violates their acceptable use policy, but it is a gray area, right? I mean (I know this sounds absurd,) I could have been doing research for a project, etc.

Answer:
 No one's calling the cops over a Google search.

The police might use it against you later if they catch you with contraband, but that's about it. Answer #2: Given the number of research projects on drug use, unusual sexual practices or extreme political views, I don't think anyone at a university will bat an eye.


Title: In Florida: My neighbors Huge tree came down and most of its in my yard.

Question:
We live on a lake in Fl. Sitting around minding our own business one night a few weeks back and there's a huge crash. Half of The neighbors massive and formerly beautiful old oak tree was on the ground covering 35% of my front yard.  i thought to myself wow, glad no one got hurt. That's going to cost them some $$ to haul away.  I subconsciously thought, well that's sad and we won't worry about it blocking our garage, it's going to take some time for them to get bids to deal with it. Then yesterday, they called me a little flustered and said that we needed to get busy on the tree removal asap. The majority of it is in my yard however the major limbs are blocking their carport and she's waiting on us to get it out of our yard. There is no property damage. She said 'well it's your tree too'. Now that was new news to me!!

So is it my tree when it's rotten on the ground and their tree when it's in the air and standing?  We don't want to be at odds with a neighbor and want to be good neighbors so my husband went out there and began chopping and burning tree limbs until dark, he got about 40% out just on our property so that's indicative of the size. Also, the other half of this tree still stands. If it falls it could go in either direction. What is our legal responsibility when a neighbor's 50 year old tree falls onto your property here in the Sunshine state?   Thanks.

Answer:
 Was the tree dying and weak before it fell? Are the neighbors implying that you're responsible for cleaning up *their* yard as well? Answer #2: Obviously not legal advice:

You might have a windfall/free way of getting rid of it (depending on your preference and ability to wait out offers). Put an ad up that says something to the effect of, 'fallen oak tree, needs milling: $X dollars (or free if you just want it gone)'.

Or rent a portable saw mill (you'd be surprised how cheap you can find one), mill it yourself, get paid.

Old trees like that are worth a lot of money, and if you can get good slats off of it think *corporate board room tables* or *upscale bar*.


Title: Someone trademarked the business name I've been operating under.

Question:
I started Deep Roots Clothing Co this year. I sell women's boutique clothing and accessories locally from a shop at my house. A man contacted me on Facebook(and anyone else who has deep roots in their name) and told us to change our business names because he changed his own business name to Deep Roots All Weather Working Apparel and trademarked it as of 2 days ago. He doesn't sell anything yet, but is creating rain proof pants and jackets apparently to sell in the future.
He's in a different state, and selling to a totally different market. I have taxes, accounts and checks with my Deep Roots Clothing Co on them and hate to change everything just based on this guy unless I really, legitimately need to.

Answer: Get a trademark attorney.


Title: Renting a condo in Texas with 5 months left in the lease but getting married and must move. Landlord wants me to pay remaining five months on lease or lose deposit and be sued.

Question:
Basically as the title says but I'm getting married and together we have 3 dogs.  The landlord said he doesn't want us there with 3 dogs but if I move out I'm responsible for the remaining months. Meeting my fiancé was unexpected or I would have finished my lease out.  Further, because of her I took a job in a different city.  I told the landlord I could help find new renters but the couple I've found he said they had bad credit and turned them down.  Neither had evictions, repossessions, liens, etc.  just medical bills, credit cards from when a guy was 18 (6 years ago), etc.  I gave proper notice and paid on time but am I still responsible or once the place is released is the home owner allowed to "double dip"?

*update:* Spoke with the city inspector and he said about 1 year ago he gave notice to all condo owners in my complex that they are not allowed to sell or lease to anyone without a notarized document signed stating that the buyer or renter knows about the problems and potential hazards that come with living in these units and that the city must be made aware of new ownership and new renters.  He said he was not told my landlord leased to me so he is in violation.  Not quite sure how to proceed but the inspector said he is going to email me a copy of that notice and I'm sure I will bring this to my landlords attention.

The problem with the unit is that there are not support beams but that the support of the buildings are the walls themselves.   The inspectors couldn't tell that the builders did this because the support was supposed to be rebar inside cinder block (our walls are exposed brick).  So basically, the second and third floors of my condo have no support.   We have a rooftop patio but can't have more than a couple people on it or it may fail.  These units cost hundreds of thousands and are beautiful but it was basically fraud and negligence on the part of the builder.

Thank you all for your assistance!

Answer: How do you figure he is double dipping? You should try to find some replacements who don't have bad credit.  He has to take reasonable steps to find a new tenant but doesn't have to lower his standards. You're the one trying to break the contract not him.


Title: Prenup question

Question:
State of iowa. My aunt recently passed away. She had a prenuptual agreement with her 2nd husband. She kept it in a safe in the home both had access to. He is claiming he can't find the agreement.

The lawyer that drew up the agreement has since retired. My cousins will be contacting the attorney that took over the original attorney's practice to see if he was given documentation from prior clients.

Aside from that, do you guys have any advice on how to make sure the prenuptial agreement is enforced?

Answer: Prenups can also apply in the case of death. For instance, its common for a prenup to handle the spousal-election issue. You need to hire an attorney who specializes in probate matters/trust &estate work to guide you through this.


Title: (TX) I was a passenger in car that was rear ended, and I really want to get my neck checked out. How do I go about this financially?

Question: My neck is killing me now and i want to go to the ER but I'm wondering how payment will be since I was a passenger in the car that was rear ended. Will I have to pay for this?

Answer: See if there's an urgent care open in your area.  The cost, including copays, will be a fraction of an ER.


Title: If one were to get fired for displaying anti-social (but relatively petty) behavior at work, and they are a diagnosed sociopath, would this be a violation of the ADA?

Question: Also, let’s say the employers were informed of the disability before the person was hired.

Answer:
 Being informed of a disability is not the same as requesting reasonable accommodation for a disability.

What *reasonable* accommodation would have been granted that allows someone to act like an asshole with immunity? If there is one, I'd like to request it at my job.  Answer #2: Sociopath isn't a real diagnosis. It's not in the DSM V (although the WHO has a diagnostic framework).Answer #3: "Let me be an unrepentant prick to my colleagues" likely isn't a reasonable accommodation for any social disorder. However, if the sociopath in question had requested and been given a reasonable accommodation and then fired for using it, yes that could give rise to a lawsuit.


Title: “Following too closely” Violation? Dashcam footage available. Defense?

Question:
Hi all,

I recently got cited for “following too closely”.

Summary: I was driving the speed limit of 55 mph on the highway when I approached 2 cars side by side. The left car was in the designated passing lane as this part of the highway had a sign that said stated “slower traffic keep right”. The cars were side by side and going less than the speed limit (because it turned out there was a cop sitting up the road that I didn’t see). The car in the left sped up slightly so I got behind it so we both could pass the slower car. I expected it to move over the right as soon as it had enough room, but it didn’t. I ended up being about 1.5 car length away from the car, and I eventually merged right once I had enough clearance for the car to my right.

I then got pulled over and cited for “following too closely”.

I never tailgate people and the only reason why I let my car get even within 1.5 car lengths is because I had fully expected the driver in front of me to move over to the right as they should’ve.

I have it all on dashcam, and the closest distance of 1.5 car lengths between me and the car in front of me was made for about 2-3 seconds, before I passed.

Would submitting the dashcam to the court even help me or would the judge consider that distance to be too close? The law doesn’t state any specific distance or gap. There were no cars ahead of the two cars, it was a warm dry day.  Any other defense I could take? I have a clean driving record for 7 years and this is my first ticket.

Thanks,

Answer:
 1.5 car lengths is *way* too close. "I expected him to move over" is neither a defense nor an excuse; plenty of accidents happen when someone follows too close for even a short amount of time. His obligation to move over (which, if he was driving close to the limit, does not exist anyway) does not negate *your* obligation to drive safely, which means giving plenty of room.

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Title: Can my boss wait till the last day after work to tell me that my vacation was not approved? (CA)

Question: I was advised by my district manager to take a vacation once I finished my year long project. I have over 100 hours of vacation time and I wanted to take a week vacation. I submitted my request two weeks ago but it was never discussed with me nor approved. I texted my manager Friday after leaving work and she denied my vacation via text. She canceled my vacation for last week therefore making me reschedule doctors appointments and trips. Is this even allowed?

Answer: While not a legal issue, this would be a good point to bring up with your HR department. There is a failure in the system somewhere if you correctly input your request and didn't receive any response except via text at the last minute. If that's how things currently work and your manager didn't violate a policy, then they need to establish some procedures and guidelines for vacation request and approval in the futureAnswer #2: Yep. You shouldn't have planned a vacation if you didn't have confirmation that you would have the time off.Answer #3: Employers are not even required to offer vacation days, let alone somehow guarantee approving them when you request them. It's your fault for assuming it was approved and not following up before hand to make sure. I guess you could bring it up with the manager who told you to take the vacation, but there is no legal issue here.


Title: Do I have a legal claim to my cat?

Question:
My girlfriend of five years and I appear to be headed for a break up. We have two cats, one is hers is the other is mine, they each chose a human when we bought them together 3 years ago.

I paid for one and her the other, but i believe all vet records are in her name. If she were to take both cats and leave me would i have anyways to get him back?

She cheated on me and he's all i really have but i don't think a crappy situation gives me legal ownership.

We live in Washington State.

Answer:
 If you still live with the cat it is easier to keep the cat physically with you and let her sue you if she does not agree with you taking the cat. It is very difficult to legally get an animal from someone else's possession once they have it so I would not count on a favorable outcome if you plan to leave without the cat and use the legal system to retrieve it.Answer #2: This might not be what you want to hear, but also think of the cat.

They might have "picked a human", but separating them from each other might not be the nicest things in the world.  Especially if you both work, the other cat is their primary companion, not their owner.  I know this isn't super relevant to what you want here, but it's something worth at least considering.Answer #3: You could sue her for the cat(s).

If all the available documentation is in her name she has the stronger case.


Title: (Ontario) House seller died, closing in 10 days - Good Friday so lawyers all unreachable - help!

Question:
Some background first because it's applicable to my concerns.

This farm went on the market because the owners were divorcing.  Wife was definitely not the farmer but she retained possession of the house during the sale period and it was her we were dealing with.  All communication with the husband went through two lawyers before it got to him and then back through them to their real estate agent and then to us.  It slowed down a number of items and it just seemed like he was a little bitter at having to sell but it all worked out, we came to terms and we eventually got most of our questions answered.

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This morning my RE agent contacted me with the news that wife seller was in an accident and died last night.  I'm pretty sure their divorce isn't final and I'm concerned that if she hadn't changed her beneficiary information he might decide he wants his farm back.

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I know if he does we can sue him, but god that sounds like a miserable next several months.  Please tell me his lawyer is going to advise against this?  If I do have to sue I can recoup all costs but what about my time and stress and the nightmare of finding somewhere to live that will both allow me to stay until we find a property and allow my 3 dogs.

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Even if he goes through with it he's only got 10 days to move and based on how my house looks right now I'm pretty sure she is not completely packed.

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Basically I'm looking for advice on what I should do for the next 3-4 days until we can reach the lawyers.

Answer:
 I know what you're asking but none of us can read the future of this man's mind.  You're likely going to have to do nothing but wait unless something tangible changes.

You're ten days away from closing and you cannot control the husband's actions.


Title: Ex is creating new email addresses and temporary phone numbers to contact me

Question:
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Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 Well since the laws about this are literally identical in every state, this should be easy to answer.

Oh wait, they're not.

We should put up reminders for people posting questions that we need their locations.

Oh wait, we did.

You can contact your local police department and ask about a restraining order to prevent him from contacting you, or about filing a harassment report.


Title: [Florida] I’m an Uber driver and a woman got into my back seat holding an infant in her arms.

Question: I felt uncomfortable with the situation because that was obviously not the safest way for the baby to travel in the car. Does an infant have to be in a car seat or was it okay for the woman to hold her baby in the back seat? I’m thinking I may refuse the passenger if that sitUation happens again.

Answer: I thought Uber had guidelines about this? I would reach out to uber support about this.


Title: Parked in "Bank customer only" parking the other day to use the ATM, am I legally a customer?

Question:
Hello all,

The other day I parked in a parking lot to a particular bank. At the entrance to the parking lot there is a sign that reads "bank customer parking, all unauthorized vehicles will be towed at owners expense"

I then used the ATM at the bank (and kept my receipt from the ATM with the time stamp on it). There is a coffee shop next door to the bank that I picked up a coffee from before walking back to my car (5 minutes after the time stamp on my ATM receipt).

When I walked to my vehicle, an employee of the banks parking company walked up and told me how the parking lot was for bank customers only. I informed him that I am a customer of that bank, and showed him my ATM receipt from 5 minutes prior. He said "the bank doesn't want people going to the coffee shop, the sign says use the bank then go away"

Well no dude, the sign doesn't say that. The sign says for bank customer parking, of which I *am* a customer. He replied that "normally" he'd let it slide, but the parking lot is full, etc.

I didn't continue arguing with him, I just got in my vehicle and drove off.

But that begs the question, *if* he were to have towed my truck, would I be in the right or the wrong? In my opinion, I *am* a customer of the bank, and the sign itself does not define what is/is not a customer nor does it impose a time limit. In theory, couldn't you be considered a customer just by having an account with the bank?

I have a picture of the sign in question if it helps.

Thank y'all!

Answer: It's for customers only **while** you're banking. That doesn't mean you get to park, check your ATM balance, and leave for the rest of the day. So yeah, they can tow you. Especially since they've now made it very clear you need to vacate when you're done banking. Answer #2: It’s private parking.   While it’d be bad customer service since you were indeed a customer for a period of time, they could indeed boot or tow you for parking on their lot and leaving he premises, even to get a coffee after using the atm.   Answer #3: Once you leave the banks property you are no longer a customer at that point.Answer #4: Bank customers meaning while doing bank business. You can't just walk off the property.


Title: Temporary protective order (CO)

Question:
Very messy breakup, nothing physical and no threats of violence but she felt the need to get a restraining order. Yes I'm the guy, please don't just assume I'm a bad person but yes I've had an ugly breakup with my ex and just need advice.

A couple weeks ago I was still groveling, trying to fix things all of that nonsense, and she had ghosted me.  There were threats of getting a restraining order but never followed thru. Well last week I was served with a TRO from the county sheriff, which I have obeyed since.

My question is: the day AFTER she filed the protective order I had sent two texts, asking to send her a letter in the mail. Yes desperate, clingy, etc, I know but I hadn't been served so was still in the clear. Anyways she doesn't respond of course, but later that night texts me her location without any explanation or words said, just her location. I send a couple responses, get nothing.

The next day she sends a long text saying that sending me her location was an accident then goes on to say that she's started the process to get a restraining order and please don't contact her. I don't respond.

Here's the question, the TRO states that the protected person should not invite or encourage the restrained person to violate the order in any way. When she sent me her location, did she violate her own TRO? If so can it be thrown out?

I'm not trying to fight this to get with her, I genuinely want to move on. But every single time in the past she's asked me to never contact her again she always gets drunk and shows up at my house and I don't wand her to get me thrown in jail for her reaching out to me.

Thanks for any advice

Answer: This is basically a non-issue because while she did encourage you to violate a TRO, you had not been served with it AND did not violate it.  Generally, I think her invitations/encouragement to violate the TRO can just be used as a defense to your violation if you act upon it.  I'm not aware of anywhere you can get in trouble for violating a TRO that you take out (unless it's like a double TRO situation with one going both ways).


Title: Damaged AT&T equipment in my yard

Question: I live in Oklahoma and I have a Att routing box in my back yard. It routes internet cables to at least three houses. One of the fiber obtic cables is exposed and has been for months and needs to be reburried. I've called Att over 30 times, I've had a technician out to look at it, I've tweeted their support account, I even tweeted the Att president for Oklahoma. I got the runaround or no response from all of them. I don't have att service and the line isn't running to my house. I have dogs that chew things and I need to mow that area. Am I responsible if that line gets broken or damaged? I'm at a loss of what to do at this point. I feel like they just don't care and I'm tired of dealing with it. Thank you in advance for your advise!

Answer:
 It isn't your problem if it gets damaged.  It can still be your problem if you (or your dog) do the damage to it.

You have more than enough evidence of attempting to make them aware of the situation to fully CYA, but notifying someone of exposed wires does not absolve you of damage that your dog does to those wires.


Title: Being charged with grand larceny and credit card fraud

Question:
[MS] I owned a personal training business for 3 years and was ready to do something else because even though the money was great, it was inconsistent. I decided to sell the business to the gym owner. After we reached and agreement that I wouldworking for him as an employee for 30 days to help with the transition and he would assume all liability for the training sessions I had sold in the past and any issue that would arise, he fired me on the 24th day because clients caught wind of my departure and no longer wanted to train under the new program. Shortly after my firing , I started to  receive text from the gym owner about "client issues" that he was having and that it was all my fault .Afteronth or or two of not being there I start to get messages from the gym owner saying that he wasn't going to pay me my last checks because so many people had cancelled even though we agreed to pay me hourly + commission on all the deals I sold. I explained to him that the cancelling had nothing to do with me and he told me that " he had deep pockets and a temper" and he would sue me into the ground if I didn't stop even though I had been gone and kept no communication with clients. A week later I received a notice via email/mail that the lawyer who had previously represented myself and the gym owner in a similar case was dropping me as a client and would be representing the gym owner against me. A few conversations back and forth and the lawyer decided that there were going to be no more action against me. 3 months go by and I find out that they now have 3 cases against me ( 2 from clients , 1 from the gym owner) who claim I committed credit card fraud and the gym owner is saying I committed grand larcerny. What should I do? The clients who claim credit card fraud both had issues with their billing and I left before it was resolved and the new owner did not resolve them and is now trying to put them on me
Topic:
Criminal Law

Answer:
 Just to be clear, you are NOT being charged for anything unless the police/DA tell you. Doesn't even look like they're suing you in civil court.

Sounds like they are just trying to scare you and are blowing smoke. I'd just ignore them or tell them to contact your attorney for all future correspondence. If you are serves with an actual lawsuit, you need to respond though.Answer #2: The gym owner can't charge you with theft or fraud.

He can report it to the police who can investigate and then the prosecutor can charge you if there is enough evidence.

But as /u/PushThroughThePain said, you're not charged until the authorities say you're charged.

If you think that it's likely that you'll be charged, then you can consult with an attorney.Answer #3: >they now have 3 cases against me ( 2 from clients , 1 from the gym owner)

What do you mean that they now have 3 cases against you?  Are these civil cases or criminal cases?  If they are civil cases, then you should know the name of the court that they were filed in and the case docket numbers.  If you don't know those things, then what makes you think that ANY cases have been filed against you?


Title: Cosigned a loan now he isn't paying

Question:
Hey Reddit,
Hoping to get some advice. I live in New York state and I cosigned a loan for a now ex friend. He was stable had a job life was great. Now he claims to be working full time for a temp agency but hasn't paid any bills (he had a recent few months of being unemployed). The bank has called me because I am the primary cosigner. They tell me the car is going to be repossessed in 20 days if no payment is made.

For some context I have paid a few payments before for him and also loaned him 2k when he was unemployed. I cannot afford to pay his loan because it is like 22k and the monthly payments with insurance is around 600$. He is behind in payments and late fees totaling almost 1000k. The loan is now upside down so the car isn't worth as much as what is owed. My name and his are on the title of the car.  His credit is trashed and we tried refinancing the loan but no one would do it. Is there a way after the car gets repossessed to make a payment plan where only he is responsible. What are my legal options? Can I take him to small claims court?

Thank you!!

Answer:
 You need to make the payments you agreed to pay. You can sue him. But your credit will be in the toilet if you don't, and you could be sued. There is no way out of this that gets you off the hook to the lender short of him refinancing. If there were there would be no value in lenders getting a cosigner.Answer #2: >I cannot afford to pay his loan

Hindsight is 20/20, but you shouldn't have co-signed his loan if you weren't prepared to pay it.  Your best financial bet is to get him to agree to sell the car, pay off the loan, and sell the car to recoup what you can from it.  Then separately later you can sue him for whatever you had to pay (if you think a court will agree with you that he owes you for it).

If you let the lender repossess the car and sell it then it will cost you more, and you will recover less, and your credit will take a big hit, and the lender will sue you for whatever is owed that they cannot recover from the sale.  Again after the dust settles on all of that you can sue him for whatever you had to pay (if you think a court will agree with you that he owes you for it).


Title: California. Can I legally refuse to do something that is not in my job description?

Question:
If management suddenly decides to give me tasks that have nothing to do with my department, can I refuse to do it without penalty?
Topic:
Labor Law

Answer:
 Unless these tasks are illegal or you are part of a collective bargaining agreement or have a contract specifying you are not to do these tasks no, you cannot refuse without penalty.

The penalty for refusal could be a firing for misconduct which may affect your unemployment eligibility.


Title: (WA, USA)Got pulled over for going 110MPH and got a DUI. Not only was I not going anywhere near that speed, but the cop is on the Brady List, and my lawyer seems clueless.

Question:
I was pulled over in a 35MPH zone, before it becomes a highway, when I passed (with checks and signaling) a slow motorist (25MPH) who was in the left lane (I passed in the right lane, since they were in the 'fast lane').  While I was passing I sped up to almost 50MPH and was completing the pass when I saw police lights and pulled over on a side street. As I'm getting my papers together the cop walked up and (while still 8-7 feet away, walking up to the window) announced I was 'under arrest for DUI, get out of the car'. Literally that was the thing he said. Before continuing, I was not driving sloppy, I didn't cross the road or fog lines, I signaled, and frankly I don't have a clear understanding as to why he could have even thought that.

Anyway, I complied and got into the back seat of his car with handcuffs. He's filling out the paperwork and told me he pulled me over for going almost 110MPH. Which was impossible. I had been in second gear, and had only shifted into 3rd when I was about to complete the pass and his lights went on, not to mention I was passing in a curve...I brushed 50 after exiting the curve, but he was already coming up behind me when that was occurring (although my engine is loud when the clutch is not engaged). Then after about 10 minutes he realized he didn't actually have any reason to suspect I was under the influence, so he pulled me out of the car, had me do the field sobriety test...continuously. I don't know if you've had to watch a pen tip for 2 minutes straight, but it is not easy after the first 30-60 seconds (I have a very good internal metric for time, due to some job tasks which are exactly 60 seconds at a time). Anyway, he arrests me a second time for DUI, and books me in jail (jail breathalyzer said I was .101...it had been more than an hour since my last drink at the time of the incident and I had thought I was sober, but that's what it said).

So I get a lawyer and pay his static rate for the DUI and reckless driving charge, and he's been mostly useless since...like under-prepared or not filing paperwork to prevent things like bench warrants due to a no show in court (I went even though he said I didn't have to go...good thing too because he forgot to file with the prosecutor...he wasn't there because he had forgotten about his kid's field trip). Since he didn't seem to be doing much, and I've already paid him (he was recommended by a friend who shares his office, in another practice for union law) I did a little homework on my own and found out that the arresting officer is on the Brady List for lying in court under oath. Which isn't surprising because he seemingly lied about the speed he clocked me at, and in the official report he lied about his movements (he said he was going the opposite direction on the road...he wasn't, there were no other cars on the road except for the slow driver I passed, and I saw him pull out of a private drive that cops like to hide at on the corner. He also lied saying that he arrested me for reckless driving, not DUI. I tried to get the badge mic audio, but supposedly it was 'turned off'.

Should I try to get his dashcam video? I'm not sure if the fact he is on the Brady List and once again lying will help. Any thoughts on this issue would be greatly appreciated, as it seems bizarre and I know with certainty what he is reporting is impossible.

Thank you for your thoughts...my lawyer's nigh-ambivalent behaviour has me worried that he's simply not trying. He didn't even know the guy was on the Brady List until I told him, which apparently the prosecution is compelled by law to do, which is interesting. He's also inexperienced with the Brady List and hasn't dealt with it before. It's still a few weeks out until the omnibus hearing and trial.

tl;dr - Got pulled over for going 110 and given a DUI. Wasn't even going half that, nor driving sloppy, and a cop on the Brady List lied in the report to make probable cause fit. My lawyer doesn't seem to have a clue so any advice is welcome.

Answer:
 So you got arrested for DUI and blew a .101. Sounds like drunk driving to me.

If you don't like your attorney, hire a different one. But other than that you do what your attorney tells you.


Title: Another student took, opened, and kept my mail

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 The kid got the package, opened it, figured out that it wasn't for him, and put it aside meaning to return it. Then got busy, forgot about it, didn't quite know what to do with it, etc. and never got around to returning it until someone knocked on his door and asked for it. The fact that they didn't keep or use anything in the box seems to indicate that nothing nefarious was at hand. He was just busy and/or lazy.

If anyone is to blame its the mail service, but you got your stuff, late but intact. It was irritating but not life altering, so let it go. There will be much bigger issues in your life to go to war over.Answer #2: Your making assumptions about this other person..  They could have torn it open before reading the name on it.  They could have been confused about its contents, especially since after weeks nothing was missing.  I say blame schools mailing center.


Title: My roommate(ex) is not caring for his snake properly.

Question:
I need a bit of legal help.

My roommate (happens to be my ex) has not fed his snake in three weeks. Shes been without a day lamp for longer. He has no EXCUSE to not be feeding and caring for her. Hasnt cleaned ber cage in months. I keep telling him that he needs to prioritize her but he complains that he never wanted her anyway, that she is NOT his obligation and on multiple occasions I've had to care for her.

Well, I got fed up with it and told him that I'm going to care for her, take her with me if he doesnt claim her and take responsibility and show he will care for her or exhibit any sign of fight. I told him I was going to start putting her up for adoption and scope out someone that is willing to put time and effort into caring for her and he better say something.

I told him I was not afraid to report him for animal cruelty.

What else can I do or should I do better? This is the message I sent him, I was FUMING.

"Tomorrow I am going to buy Cleo's food and new lamp. This is absurd. I am going to put her up for adoption and scope out a new pet owner that will actually put in the time and effort to care for her. You have NO EXCUSE and if you dont want her taken away, then talk to me. If you're going to fight me over this without offering any kind of resolve, I am NOT afraid to report you for animal cruelty.

She hasnt eaten in THREE WEEKS. Yes, I've been paying attention. This is FUCKED and you know it. You have the money, you have people you can ask for help but you are choosing to let her starve. She doesnt deserve this. You made a promise to care for her and all I hear is that you never even wanted her and shes not your priority. This is me taking charge on her behalf. Something needs to be done, I am not afraid to take that initiative.

Tl;dr I am taking care of your snake, getting all she needs tomorrow. I'm going to gather information and reach out for someone who wants her. I will take her with me if I must until I sort it out, but I will ask for your help to clean her cage. At least you can do that for Her."

Answer:
 Uh...depending on the snake, 3 weeks is nothing. And they don't need a lamp if there's an under-tank heating source. You should post the snake and the setup to /r/snakes and get help on what actually needs done and the proper feeding schedule.

You either need your ex to give your the snake or call animal control on your EX. You can't just give away the snake you don't own.


Title: Who should write the demand letter?

Question: If you are going to small claims court, is it better for an attorney to write the demand letter or for you to write it yourself? Attorney is charging $500.

Answer:
 A demand letter written by an attorney is great because that legal header gives a very immediate "these guys are serious" feel to most people.

However, a demand letter itself isn't necessary to sue someone. If you want to settle out of court, you can contact the individual however you want in whatever way you want to write it. You could also just sue them, serve them, and discuss it in court; demand letter be damned.


Title: Car-wash f*cked up my far

Question:
So just now I went to a CarSpa carwash and while going through it the track broke and put a big gash in my side panel door and a huge buffs/scratches on the front bumper and fender.

Then when we finally got my car out of their broken Caracas he said that it my cars fault and not their broken car-wash and would not do anything to get out the scratches/gashes of my car.  That and I dont even know if their is undercarriage damage which their may be from their broken car-wash.

My question is what are my options in dealing with this CarSpa and getting some restitution from their broken car-wash fucking up my car.

TL-DR: Went to carwash, carwash broke, put huge scratch on my car and buffs/dent, general manager told me it was my cars fault not their broken car wash will not do anything for it.  What do i do now / how do i get the money to fix my car.

Answer: Contact your insurance company or you can sue them yourself in small claims court.


Title: People didn't move the mobile home on property after we bought it, what to do next?

Question:
We bought a property with a house and 50 plus acres on it about five months ago in Kentucky. There was a trailer on the property as well that was supposed to be moved out at closing initially but we negotiated on the buyers agreement the trailer and owners of the property would all be gone two weeks after closing.

Two weeks go buy and sellers had been out of the house early but the people living in the mobile home are still there and we were told the moving company would be about a month. As the people living in the trailer weren't any problem (we hardly saw them) and we understood it takes time, we didn't cause any problems. The problem too is that the people living in the mobile home own it and the sellers were just letting them keep it on the property rent free.

 It's now been about five months and the most recent update was they couldn't get ahold of the company that was supposed to move it but it's getting cold so they were putting the stuff back around the bottom to protect the pipes. Basically every couple weeks we get updated that it's going to be soon and then something happens and we feel used.

We said something to our realtor today but otherwise what's the next course of action? Can we evict them even though they own the mobile home? I dont know that suing anyone would do anything as the mobile home owners definitely dont have money and I'm not sure how much the sellers can help get things going as they have been the ones we keep contacting, but is that the next step?

Answer:
 It sounds like there is no lease so you would give them a 30-day notice that their tenancy is being terminated. Then, if they don’t leave, you would have to evict them in accordance with your state’s laws.

You may want to consult with an LT attorney who is familiar with mobile homes. I believe they are personal property in KY. In my state they are real estate and a landowner can dispose of them (usually in a public sale) if they are not removed from the premises during the 10-day storage period after the lockout.


Title: [Hypothetical] dumb question about privilege and referrals

Question:
I know hypotheticals are frowned upon here but... \#Yoloswag420.

Say I just ran over the Pope in a fit of homicidal rage, right? And I'm freaking out, but I remember my knowledge gained from years of shitposting on /r/legaladvice. I call my local bar and ask for a referral - but, I'm so panicked, I blab everything to the phone agent - what I did, how guilty I am, Zapopas a jerk, where Reginald hid the diamonds, everything. I get my referral, and call the attorney, etc.

In a criminal investigation, could what I said to the bar representative be subpoenaed? It seems like a silly error to make that could sink you, given the nature of the call, and how many people are going to call and share details of their case because they're not sure what type of attorney they need. I have been wondering lately if there's any little caveat to how privilege works - is there any protection that's available to you? Has anyone ever been convicted off bar testimony?

Preemptive edit: oh, ok

Answer:
 >could what I said to the bar representative be subpoenaed?

A subpoena would not be necessary.  But the conversation most likely would not be privileged


Title: What are the consequences of a child severely hurting its parent in self-defense?

Question:
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Topic:
Personal Injury

Answer:
 It depends on the circumstances involved. If it was actually legitimate self defense, then the child wouldn't be charged, and there is the strong possibility the parent would be charged with some form of child abuse. At the minimum, CPS would investigate to determine if removal is warranted.

However, if they don't remove the child, a parent has extremely broad latitude to discipline a child without it being considered abuse. They need to provide edible food (but it doesn't have to be vegetarian, or only fresh food, or even nice food), shelter (which means a house and a bed, but they don't need a computer, tv, games, or to even ever be let out of the house), and education (either school or an approved homeschool curriculum).

The parent can make the child essentially live like a cloistered monk, and that isn't considered abuse. So there's plenty of ways they can legally make their child's life miserable without getting CPS to take the kid. So if the kid struck the parent, and it wasn't legitimate self defense, they should probably expect some damage to the parent-child relationship.


Title: Fedex is trying to make me pay 5K for a shipment that they picked up without verifying the account

Question: Hi, I sporadically sell things on Ebay. I sold two gas chromatographs to a guy who said he would take care of all the shipping if I just would package them up for delivery, which I did. Fedex calls me 9 times, once as some shipping company they have recently acquired called TNT. They call me 9 times to schedule a pickup and I keep telling them they need to contact the buyer. I contact the buyer and tell him that fedex needs to talk to him about the shipment. He says that everything has been taken care of and send me some generic bills of lading which I fill out. No where in any way have I ever agreed to pay shipping costs. Fedex shows up and takes the two skids and thats the last I hear about it until I get a bill in the mail for $5300.00 with a note saying they could not bill the account that set up the shipment, so they are going to bill me instead. I called there revenue department and said I am not responsible for this and they said it is their policy to bill the shipper if the receiver stiffs them on the payment. My wife and I have just had our second child we do not have $5300.00 to pay and they seem to suggest they are going to turn this over to a collection agency. I am super worried about this and do not know what to do other than to hire an attorney. Can someone here please help?

Answer:
 When you filled out the BOL did it say to bill the cosignee?Answer #2: How did this guy pay you for the gas chromatographs?  Seems likely that he will stiff you too if he stiffed FedEx.Answer #3: If you didn't enter into a contract with FedEx, then I don't see how they can charge this to you. If they send it to collections you can dispute it. I would not pay it expecting to then sue the buyer.Answer #4: This may not be entirely within the US, as freight company TNT (op mentioned) is an Australian company.

IANAL, but OP's original as should stipulate "buyer responsible for shipping," should it not?


Title: I've never been sued before... Help

Question:
So to start out, all names in this story will be changed...

Let's continue. I found a group of gals who were renting out a room in their apartment. My boyfriend and I were looking for a room to rent quickly, so we jumped on the offer. The lady who was renting the room, Danielle, was the previous owner of the room and was moving out into a different place with her boyfriend. We met, liked the roommates and we ended up moving in. Danielle allowed us to move in about 6 or 7 days before the rent was due on the 1st as a favor to us because our lease was ending at our old place before the 1st. Before moving in, I signed my name on a document drawn up my Danielle stating that I'd be taking over her portion of the rent from October until December. We moved in and everything seemed alright, until it wasn't...

I'd be having relationship problems for awhile. However, he promised me that we'd stick together for longer to resolve any financial restraints and debts we had. We planned to split afterwards because we were financially dependent on each other. On the 29th he told me that he didn't love me anymore and that he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. It broke my heart. I called off from work that day and by the 30th, I let Danielle know what was going on. She told me to figure it out or else I'd be sued. I asked him to work with me and he initially refused to, but after a sit down and talk with everyone (Danielle, roommates, and us) he eventually complied. However, at this point I no longer wanted anything to do with the situation. I wanted to leave the state and never see anyone again.

Danielle and the roommates were understandably pissed and they just wanted the rent money. So I declined to take the money from him and decided to take my funds and leave. Danielle has been sending me text messages asking if I'm still on the island and she just recently texted me and said she has papers for me and if I don't give her my address, she will get police involved. I want to know to what extent can she fuck up things for me... I know I fucked up. She did me a favor and I feel shitty for what I did. I want to add a few more details, though.

1. The leasing office said that her drawing up documentation outside of them and us creating our own agreement was illegal, but they decided to let it slide.

2. Her name is still on the lease and the leasing office said they will hold her accountable regardless of the agreement she had me sign.

3. My name was never on the lease and I never went through the application process or anything.

4. We moved out on the 30th and rent was due on the 1st. The agreement was to start at the beginning of October and we left at the end of August. Does this matter at all?

5. The reason I was leaving is because my ex boyfriend said he was leaving as well. That would leave me by myself to pay for everything and I couldn't afford it all as I'd been sharing financial responsibilities with him. So I decided to dip as a solution.

I'm 20 years old and worried out of my mind. She says she's going to get police involved and everything. I've never been to court or had to deal with anything legal. I'm not sure what she's capable of doing and I don't want to find out. Can anyone give me some advice?

P.S. Please no comments about how what I did was shitty. I know it was and I have a conscience. I just need advice on how to go about this. I'm scared something will go on my record and ruin my ability to rent in the future and I've more than learned my lesson.

Answer:
 tl;dr You and your boyfriend signed a sublease agreement for 3 months, moved in, moved out after 5 days, never paid any rent.

You owe her money. If she sues you, she'll probably win a judgment for the whole 3 months' rent, plus court costs. Then she'll be able to levy your bank accounts, garnish your wages, or seize your assets.

If she "gets the police involved", it will only be to serve you papers. You haven't done anything criminal.

It would probably be a good idea to contact her and try to reach a mutually agreeable settlement. Or you can do nothing, and hope she doesn't have the wherewithal to actually sue you and figure out how to serve you.


Title: Fired while on maternity leave

Question:
I live in New York State and work(ed) for a large, well known company.
Long story short... my leave of absence paper work has been repeatedly denied because of one reason or another. It was first submitted in May and I was terminated in June. First, the start date was off by one day because they go by last day work not first day off. Next was because I was pulled from work prior to delivery and my doctor couldn’t predict my actual delivery date just my estimated due date. Third was because I was auto terminated for not punching in so they never processed my paper work and I was coming up in the system and no longer employed. Lastly, they are questioning why I entered the paperwork so long after the fact.  This goes along to numerous phone calls to Human Resources, managers, payroll department, leave of absence department, etc.   When I was first notified that I was terminated it wasn’t even by the company but the third party disability insurance company. I called HR and was told it was a computer glitch that would be adjusted in a few days. That was June 15th and I come to find out in July that it was never fixed. This caused my insurance to be canceled. Repeated phone calls have got me nowhere and everyone I speak to tries to pass the buck to a different department. I hear a lot of “I don’t know who you need to speak with to fix this”. My question is do I have any legal standpoint to fight this?  Should I get a lawyer?

Answer:
 File a complaint with the EEOC. Wait for your right to sue letter. Answer #2: I am not a lawyer

Though I have deal with pregnancy discrimination.

I think it will mostly depend on how many employees the company has and your state laws. Make sure you have documented everything. Every piece of paper and email. Write down every conversation and who was present.

Contact a few employment lawyers in your area. Many will meet free or for a small fee. Also don't meet with just one because one may not take your case and another will.


Title: [USA-Internet] Can I use (if so how broadly) images licensed as "attribution, non-commercial" inside my mobile app?

Question:
From my understanding non-commercial means I cannot sell the art i.e. as it's for commercial use only. But what does that mean if I'm not making a profit off the art itself but I am making profits off non-related items inside my app? I just like the art and want to even use one for my brand logo (and yes the apps free). How does that work. From what I found online on non-commercial it didn't give me enough info to really know. Thanks!

UPDATE: I wasn't expecting this to get this much attention and as far as the app goes it's for booking events through a third party API but there's a lot to it that's not just for people who book stuff. After I read the first few comment I contacted the owner of the work and told them my deal (I dropped out of school and and working at a 24hr lib in Denver everyday living out of my car and I am) I hope that's enough for them (two people did it) to just let me use it. I said I could give them a cut off commissions I'm hoping I get it because I know (because of some deals I cut) It's going be successful and make me a mid runner in the booking biz in more of a niche. We will see but that being said as far as comments go I know I'm not the only who wants to use graphics/gifs from the web and all this info is insight for for me and hopefully others. Cheers!

Answer:
 Non-commercial means you can't use it for commercial purposes.

https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc/3.0/us/

Selling the art has nothing to do with it.


Title: The doctor did not perform the surgery he said he would

Question:
Throwaway account.

Hello,

My dad has had sinus issues since he was a kid and he has had multiple sinus surgeries in his life, but they only fix the issue temporarily \(e.g. for a few years\). He doesn't live in the US, but I do, so he saved money to come to the US in order to do a surgery, hoping for better results.

We found a doctor who said he will perform the sinus surgery, made all the payment arrangements, everything seemed ok. The **problem** is that the doctor said he will perform the surgery on all the sinuses, all the way \- but he did not do that. My dad was re\-examined several times by doctors both in the US and back home and they all agreed that yes, the surgery doctor did do something, but it was not a sinus surgery the way he wrote it down.

The doctor was paid cash and we have a receipt, discharge papers, and all the other paperwork saying several times over and over that he performed the surgery on all the sinuses, and on the other side we have statements from several doctors saying that he did not do that at all.

Is there any recourse/action we can take?

Thanks.

Answer: You need to contact a medical malpractice attorney in the state where the surgery was performed. You can likely get a free consultation, and if they think you have a good case then it's also likely they'll work on contingency (no or little money up front and then they take a big % when and if you win).


Title: [CALIFORNIA] Bike Got Removed and Donated

Question:
Hi guys, so I primarily use my bike as my main source of transportation, but I didn't have a place to store it, so I left it at my friends bike rack at his apartment. However when I came back a couple days later, it was gone. The ground was clean of any possible debris from my U-Lock and my chain lock would have created if someone that was trying to steal it was removing it. I contacted the management and they said they did indeed remove bikes and gave out notices, but my friend says he never received it.

They said they removed the bikes and donated it already and when I asked if they hauled my bike away they said it simply wasn't there, which seems obvious seeing that they already donated it. My bike was registered under the local police department and had a registration sticker on it and was marked on the underside.

Is there any legal steps to take? They removed and donated my bike without even two weeks time for me to claim it back. They did not document any of the bikes that they removed and do not have a list of what they removed.  I am furious that the management believes they can just remove and 'donate' bikes, which they probably sold.

Answer: What is the policy you friend agreed to about use of the bike rack? It is their property that you left the bike onAnswer #2: Let them know that they owe you your bike back plus money for your broken lock and any other damages. If they say no, tell them you are going to file a report with the police and that you plan to file suit. Do you know who they donated it to? This sounds like a racket.


Title: I'm being stalked and harassed. I need help.

Question:
I need help. I am being stalked and harassed by my father. I have not seen him in six years by choice. He is a sick, unpredictable, and violent man and I chose for my own benefit to live my life without the constant fear and abuse that he brings. I have clearly communicated to him that he is no longer welcome to contact me. I have continued to receive emails, texts, and snail mail from him a few times a year. I just ignore it and move on with my life. Recently, he has amped up his attempted contact. He has been regularly viewing my profile on LinkedIn and sending me unsettling emails with information about my life that he should have no way of knowing. We don't have any mutual friends or contacts and we live in separate parts of the country. Today I received a letter from him at my personal address. No one who knows my address also knows my father, (except my mother but she is in the same boat and has also been harassed by my father in a more violent tone). All my online profiles are set to private and I have blocked him on any social app he has tried to friend me. What can I do to protect myself? I feel like no authoritative figure will ever help me because he is related to me. A few years ago he hacked into my sister's email account to read her emails and showed up unwanted to her graduation ceremony. I do not feel safe knowing he now has my address. He is clearly not going to stop, this has continued for six years and is getting worse. Is there any outside party that will be able to help me make clear to him that he can no longer harass me?

Edit: location. He is in TX. I am not.

Answer: You can report it to the non emergency line where he lives and see if they will take action.Answer #2: You need to talk to police. You'd be surprised how helpful they are. It doesn't matter that you're related.


Title: Bankruptcy Advice

Question:
First of all I'm in Ohio. Few months ago I lost my higher paying job (gross: 42k a year)and couldn't find anything to get me back to that income. Currently grossing about 24k a year. I have a lot of debt from legal fees (that a whole different story) and from trying to keep up with bills when I didn't have the income to do so. My current debt situation:

40k - student loans
16k - credit cards
4K - personal loan
2k - car loan

I'm getting about 2.5k from my tax refund, is it worth it to use that for a bankruptcy lawyer or are they just going to tell me something I can find on my own? Thanks for the help!

Answer:
 You should talk to a BK attorney.  If your job prospects are likely to improve, you may earn your way out of this as /u/georgetakeibung hopes.  But 16k really is a lot of money to have on CCs, especially if you are going to be at that income level for a significant stretch of time.  You will likely not make a dent in principal at all and actually fall behind on just paying interest, thus compounding the situation.

BK wont do anything for the student loans, but the CC, personal and outstanding lawyer bills would likely be gone after a Ch7.  So a lot of this is an exercise in fortune telling.  If this is a temporary downturn, theres no sense in dropping a nuke on your financial life.  But if its longer lasting, paying the CC is literally throwing money into a black hole and the strategic choice would be to file now/soon.

One other factor, BK is only backward looking, so only existing debts would be affected.  If you get through the entire BK process and get hit by a bus and spend 3 months in hospital, those are new debts and you cant file BK again for either 4 or 7(8?) years depending on what chapter BK you did.  So take into account any upcoming expenses that you can forecast when making this decision.Answer #2: I truly believe you are not in that bad of shape that you should consider bankruptcy.

I challenge you to go to r/personalfinance and get some budgeting tips that can help you get out of this jam.


Title: Lied to SSI by accident

Question: I have dissociative identity disorder which makes me black out and say things I don’t remember. I apparently told SSI that I got paid $40,000 under the table, when I in fact have never had a job. What should I do? Should I go to the nearest social security office and explain my diagnosis?

Answer:
 Contact local Legal Aid. Given your state, we can probably tell you which one to call. Legal aid deals with benefits issues every day. However, we are not always preemptive. What I mean is, telling SSI about this income, even if it doesn't exist, is likely to result in them sending you a notice of an overpayment. Legal aid may not be able to help until you get that notice. But making the call immediately, on Tuesday assuming they are closed now, cant hurt. They may be able to go ahead and get a case started. Or they may say "try to resolve it with your caseworker first. If they send you an overpayment notice, call us back". Mine would do that.

So, call your caseworker on Tuesday and explain. Also call Legal Aid. It's possible you'll get an overpayment notice. If you do, definitely call Legal Aid again


Title: [Fl] Elderly Father has Befriended Homeless Female Drug Addict. I am wondering how to protect him (against his will)

Question:
My 70 year old father picked up a homeless woman (45 yrs old) at the grocery store and has invited her to come live with him.  She is a drug addict, has been arrested multiple times, and is mentally ill.  My father has possibly started to use drugs (crack) with her.  Clearly, she is a bad influence on him.  We have asked him to separate himself from her and he refuses to do this.  I believe he is also suffering from some undiagnosed mental illness.  He believes that his purpose in life is to save this woman.

Outside from just our concern for our fathers well being with this woman, she has begun to harass my siblings.  There have been no threats of violence against his children.  About 1 year ago, she attacked him and he called 911.  She was arrested for elderly abuse but he refused to press charges.

As his child, what can I do to keep her legally away from my dad?  a) Can I file a restraining order on his behalf?  I would need to get her evicted from his house.
b) Can I become his guardian and force her out of the house? (if no restraining order)
c) She does drive his car.  If I know that she is smoking crack in his car or driving without a license, can I call the police and have her arrested/jailed?

tl;dr:  Elderly father has befriended mentally ill drug addict who has beat him up and may have gotten him into drugs. I am looking for options on how to protect him despite his objections.
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer: As long as your father is of sound mind he can associate with whomever he wishes and you have no say


Title: Boyfriend is put in two weeks and wondering about his pay.

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Bonuses are just that, a bonus. The company does not have to pay them out to him, unless he has a contract that states they must.