Title: The city vs. my back yard

Question:
This is in Tecumseh, Oklahoma.
Hello. The city says I have to move my back fence in by 12 feet. They have given me 1 month to accomplish this. Of course, they waited until I had my garden planted to do this. I stand to lose a lot of money. There is a shed with a cement base within that 12 feet.
My question: I heard a rumor that if a structure has been in existence for over ten years, I may be able to avoid moving it because it's considered a permanent part of the propert. Something to that affect. This fence and that shed have been where they are since the 1980s, and the property was purchased as it currently sits. Is there a way around this demand by the city? Thank you so much for your time and advice.

Answer:
 You definitely need an attorney in this one. Call your local bar association for a referral to one that deals with property line disputes.

Edit to add: what you're talking about sounds like adverse possession, but you can't adversely possess government property. Answer #2: I have a couple of suggestions but ultimately, i suspect you will need a lawyer to help you figure this out.

1) You have stated that the city is trying to re-establish an alleyway that once existed on your property.  Does the deed for your property still list a servitude/easement for this alleyway?

2) You may want to check the city permitting records to see if the shed and fence have approved permits from the city.  If the city approved their construction, I would try to get the them to pay for the changes like they would if this were a new road/alleyway.Answer #3: I suspect that the city has some sort of easement on your property. You do, in fact own the land, but you don't have full free use of that portion of it.

Here is an example of a city's easement policy - the details would, of course, be different in your particular city or county, but the basic concepts are well explained.

http://www.ci.blaine.mn.us/_docs/_Engineering/_AvailableResources/EasementEncroachments.pdf

You will need to have someone skilled examine the deeding etc of your property. If this is, indeed an easement situation, you're probably going to have to move your fence and perhaps your shed.


Title: (NM) so it's been 30 days - what can my landlord charge for?

Question:
I'll preface this with some brutal honesty - we despised our landlords and are looking for a payday to screw them over

I won't bore you with the details unless you feel they're relevant

This concerns our security deposit

So it's been 30 days(the required time for an itemized list in my state)

The list we did receive was only an estimate of charges and only a few actual charges have been posted - given the time limit is this a proper notice?

There were also some damages that we haven't even received an estimate on - are we required to pay these given the 30 days are up?

Answer: Or, you could always try not being scum bags.


Title: [TX] Landlord is threatening to tow my car so they can power wash. Can they legally do this?

Question:
I live in an apartment complex that has a 6-story parking garage. On Friday the leasing office sent all residents an email saying that on Monday they're going to start power washing the parking garage and that everyone needs to have their cars off certain garage levels by Monday. Any resident that failed to do this would have their vehicles towed at the owner's expense. Ordinarily this wouldn't be a big deal but I'm currently out of town until Wednesday and I'm unable to move my car until I get back. I wrote them a very nice email explaining them the situation and asking what could be done and they responded that the power washing was going to proceed as planned and re-iterated that cars not moved would be towed.

Not only am I extremely annoyed that they gave us all just 48 hours notice to meet their demands but I'm really worried that they'll damage my car while towing. It's a brand new electric car and improperly towing it can severely damage the electric drive motor.

Are they within their legal boundaries to tow my legally parked car?

Answer:
 > Are they within their legal boundaries to tow my legally parked car?

Yes.  Maintenance needs to be done, and they don't have to delay it for your convenience.

Tell them that it's an electric car and the proper way to tow it.Answer #2: They gave you proper notice. You need to have your car moved or deal with the consequences.


Title: Time sensitive: Spouses working at same employer - employer says because we are married we have to be on same health plan - $3000 annual cost diff. Colorado, USA

Question:
Hello, after a few hours of Google searches to no avail, I thought I'd try reddit to see if anyone might be able to help.

Both my wife and I are individually employed at the headquarters of a non-profit in Colorado, USA. We have carefully avoided any work in the same department, and our jobs and responsibilities only rarely cross or intersect.

One of our executives made an announcement in our staff meeting yesterday that due to health-care coverage rises, all employees who have a spouse working in the same organization would be required to have one of the two enroll as an "eligible spouse" on the other's health-care plan, foregoing their individual insurance benefit provided through their unique job.

What this looks like practically is a $50 monthly premium (each), both using our "eligible employee" health benefit vs a $340.00 monthly premium [possibly plus the $50 as well, as of now unclear] if the new 'policy' takes effect.

So basically, either my wife or myself will have to forego our protected healthcare benefit that the rest of the organization in our full-time employment category receives... just because we are married. We have separate jobs, pay, tiles, and responsibilities.

This feels all kinds of illegal / discriminatory. Can anyone confirm?

Thanks so much.

Add on top that our open enrollment ends on Friday and we found out about this yesterday (Tuesday).

Edit: clarified cost situations

TL;DR - employer saying one of two full-time spouses working together can be denied healthcare benefit, forcing the other to enroll the uninsured spouse as an "eligible spouse" = $3000 - 3500 extra yearly cost

Answer:
 Probably illegal in Colorado as marital status is a protected class.

https://www.colorado.gov/pacific/dora/civil-rights/employment-discriminationAnswer #2: You might cross-post this question to /r/Insurance Answer #3: It would not be fair to you and your wife to use "Employee + Wife" plan.

You're working for the employer and receiving a benefit in a form of a discounted health insurance. You pay a small part of the premium and your employer pays much larger part.

Generally, if you want to add another person such as a child or a spouse you'd need pay the full price in order to include an extra person to your insurance plan. That's very reasonable, since the extra person would have no relation to the employer and should not receive any benefits from the employer.

I'd argue, that since both you and your wife work for the employer, both you and your spouse should receive the same benefit in a form of discounted insurance. You both could be on the same plan, but should not pay extra besides 2 * employee part of the premium.


Title: Driving a car without insurance. Halp!

Question:
First time poster here. Posting for my friend.

My friend's (25,M) mother was driving her car but it is under his name. He didn't know she was driving without insurance. She totaled the car and now everything is coming down on him.

She was still making car payments on it, but I guess now, money is tight for her so she's not making payments on it anymore.

My friend is scared that he's going to have to file bankruptcy. There's still $12k to pay on the car. He doesn't know what to do. Please help. There has to be something he can do... right?
Topic:
Credit Debt Bankruptcy

Answer:
 >There has to be something he can do ... right?

His something he could have done - like make sure he carried insurance on a car financed in his name - is in the past. His option now is to pay what he owes.

It is possible as an adult to put yourself in a very bad position. This is one of those ways.


Title: [IN] Someone I know had their house torn down by the government as part of a beautification project for the city.

Question: [removed]

Answer: If his house was condemned for an extended period and he never followed the process to resolve the condemnation, then yeah, the city may well have been in the right to demolish the building. Given the pinhole view you have of the situation, it's hard to say what _happened_, but I would guess that either he only got contractors lined up after the time to resolve the issue had passed, or that he never presented his plans to the city and got the relevant permits.


Title: Most effective ways to stop door-to-door solicitation? (CA)

Question:
Just curious what people's thoughts are on legal and effective methods to stop door-to-door solicitation. Do "No soliciting" or "No trespassing" signs on my door or lawn really have any legal significance? Is it legal to post threats like "solicitors will be shot" ?
Topic:
Other Civil Matters

Answer:
 All this talk of shooting solicitors is very strange for a British person to read on a legal sub.Answer #2: > Do "No soliciting" or "No trespassing" signs on my door or lawn really have any legal significance?

In some jurisdictions. Ask your municipal office if they do and what the requirements are for the size, content, and placement of the sign.

> Is it legal to post threats like "solicitors will be shot" ?

No.


Title: JPMorgan Chase is threatening me with trademark infringement over one of my domains

Question:
First thing first, my name is Chase and I own a domain that contains that word in which I host a personal blog. I am located in the US. I just received a letter from JPM that was forwarded by my registrar. JPM is claiming that I am hosting phishing content (completely untrue) and that I am violating their trademark. There is NOTHING on the site what would ever make you think there was any connection to JPMorgan Chase which as far as I know, is the only pretext for trademark infringement. Merely owning a domain name does not qualify, especially when it's being used for other purposes and there is a valid reason for using said domain name.

What do I do?

EDIT: People keep searching for the site...no clue why. There are a gazillion chase.xxx domains out there. Just to be clear: MY SITE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CHASE. THE WORD CHASE DOES NOT EVEN APPEAR ON IT.

Answer:
 DIY IP law is not something that I'd ever advise, but this does sound pretty ridiculous. It also [sounds familiar](http://nissan.com/).

EDIT: maybe call around to various non-profits to see if they'd be willing to help you draft a response? Maybe Public Citizen, EFF?Answer #2: You write them a letter back saying that your domain does not hold phishing content and that no reasonable consumer would think that your website had anything to do with their bank.


Title: A woman tripped over my dog while jogging and wants money

Question:
So this happened last Friday at 6 am.  I was letting my dog off the leash in the backyard when he took off after a jogger.  When he got to the jogger he ran next to her trying to get petted like dogs do.  She didn't notice him and tripped over the top of him slamming her head on the road.  So she ended up with 10 staples and missing a day of work.  The police aren't making charges. Now she's asking for $180 for missed work and etc. with "whatever else medical insurance won't pay" but hasn't given a dollar amount.

My question is, should I tell her no and let her try to take me to court over it or hand over whatever amount of money she ends up saying I owe her?

EDIT: From Minnesota

Answer: That depends on what she's asking for.  You're responsible for your dog's actions, so if they caused her harm, you'll owe the money.  If she's just fabricating numbers, it might be worth your while to force her to sue you and limit your payout to actual damage done.  But if she's asking for a legitimate amount and seems like she'll sue, you should probably save yourself the trouble.  Answer #2: You should contact your homeowner's insurance. They might cover this.Answer #3: I'd offer her, say, $200 if she releases you from all liability.  Too litte for homeowner insurance -- probably be low deductible.  And, frankly, it sounds like she's being reasonable about it.


Title: Am I being discriminated against? Was denied an opportunity to be employed based on a past HR issue I reported.

Question:
I recently became unemployed from a company different than Best Buy. I work in the IT field, and I used to work for the geek squad. I applied to get another job at the Best Buy Geek Squad I used to work at. Everything seemed good and they were interested, I had a interview this Saturday.

The hiring manager called me today to tell me they were not pursuing my application anymore because of HR issues I had in the past.

To give more details on the HR issue, I have a heart and back condition which made it difficult for me to stand for more than a few hours without being able to take a break. Even with a doctors note, they scheduled me to sell computers on the sales floor for 12 hours straight with a lunch after 8 hours. I told them if they were going to continue, I would hire a lawyer. They allowed me to work in the Geek Squad where I could sit down, but when my immediate supervisor found out, he flicked me in the ear from behind, which hurt. I called HR to complain and spoke to the general manager at the time. I did not get to follow up on the issue because I quit shortly afterwards.

The only reason I had for not getting an interview was because of the HR issue I had in the past. I was not written up for the instance.

This is in Madison, WI.
I could be blowing the issue out of proportion, but it seems like they are discriminating against me for my medical issues and choosing to report the problem.

Does anyone with employment law experience think I've been retaliated against, or am I just out of luck?

Topic:
Labor Law

Answer: What makes you think you are being discriminated against? They specifically said you weren't hired due to an HR issue. This could be the flicked-ear complaint, or it could be because you quit, or it could be any of a number of other HR related reasons. It doesn't sound, at least to me, like this has anything to do with your disability.


Title: HOA put a lien on my house for Unpaid Dues (USA-MD)

Question:
I've lived in my house I've owned for 4.5 years, I logged into their portal to set up auto-payment on my HoA dues which are about 103$ a month. Every month my bank account is deducted 103$ + 2 dollar fee for whatever for the last 4.5 years.

About 2 days ago I received a letter from a collections firm that I have an unpaid balance of 660$, and possible put a lien on my house. 200$ of which is legal fees.

From what I can deduce, they raised the HOA rate they charge to 113$ WITHOUT informing me, continue to debit me 105$ (103+2 service charge) from my bank account and charge me 15 late fee on top for the difference of 10 dollars. Each month for about a year and a half.

I received ZERO invoices from them, and zero calls, granted they might have sent a letter... but I might have thrown them out.

I was told in the letter I have 30 days to dispute this.

Obviously, I'm livid and my emotions are keeping me from thinking about this logically. Should I dispute this or just pay them. Do I have ground to stand on that I have been paying my HoA fees every month?

Edit 1: spelling errors

Answer: IANAL, I am a paralegal and do HOA collection work in Florida.  If I were you I'd just call them and pay it.    Explain what happened and ask them to waive the late fees.  There's really no way to prove you did NOT receive the notices and, depending on MD law, they might not be under any obligation to prove they did send them.  The attorneys fees are not much and they are probably not willing to waive those because the HOA has incurred that cost already and lawyers don't work for free.  You probably did receive several letters and dismissed them as junk, it happens to all of us.  As the person on the front lines of the homeowner phone calls, I recommend being polite, explain the auto debiting that you had set up, and admit that you may have overlooked notices and ask nicely for a reduction in late fees.  I certainly don't know how the firm who sent your letter works, but ours is a small office and I while I can't make decisions, I do make recommendations and a lot of it is based on the attitude of the homeowner.    Good luck sorting it out!  Edited this to note that I wouldn't bother calling the HOA, call the attorney who sent the letter.  Usually once it's in collections, that's your go to.   The HOA rep may end up giving you bad information which could end up costing you more money.


Title: Does this count as sexual assault. Please help

Question: My step-dad always stares at my ass as I walk by (I'm 12) and stares at my chest,  and whenever I tan in the backyard he will make an excuse to be in the backyard (usually peeking through the door or windows) and look at me.  My mom caught him in bed with his daughter (my step sister who was 15 maybe 16 at the time) under the sheets cuddling in a way inappropriate way, which is a total red flag which makes me think he has a thing for his daughters. I don't feel comfortable living with him and I can't be a normal teenager and wear crop tops and booty shorts because he looks at me in that way.... I've seen him be staring at me then step outside the door and touch himself, I don't know how many times he's done that but when I caught him he said he was adjusting his shorts (with is shirt off and hand down his pants) and he leaves the bathroom door open on purpose and when I walk by and see him in the bathroom he smiles at me.  I've tried to talk to my mom about it but she is an alcoholic, doesn't give a fuck about my well being, and I don't even think she believes me.  I have no one else to tell me if this counts as sexual assault so I'm asking reddit. Please tell me if this counts as sexual assault.

Answer:
 Tell a teacher. Now. Before he escalated. This is not sexual assault but it is sexual harassment and is very dangerous. He likely abuses his daughter. You need to tell a teacher and specifically tell her about your step sister and how you are afraid. I believe your story and you need to get help now. Answer #2: Staring at you is not sexual assault. It's also not right.

If you feel you are not safe, you can contact CPS or the police. Their investigation would be two-pronged - looking into his behavior, and your mother's refusal to do anything about it.  You can also consider confiding in a school counselor or teacher - there may be resources available through your school.

If your father would be willing to take you in, then this could absolutely be used to justify a change in custody.Answer #3: Tell your teacher that you don’t feel safe at home and show them this post. They will handle everything from there.Answer #4: Your feelings are right. Keep telling whoever you can.Answer #5: What a creep. Tell a teacher and maybe move in with another family member. Maybe dad Answer #6: Tell a teacher or a trusted adult.


Title: VA | How likely is it that a protective order will be granted against my downstairs neighbor and do I have any recourse against being displaced from our apartment?

Question:
Fairfax County to be more specific.

I apologize in advance for this long read.

To preface this, my family, who consists of myself, my wife, and my 2 year old son, signed a 2 year lease on a 3rd floor condo 11 months ago and we've been in disputes with our downstairs neighbor (I'll refer to as John) about noise.  There are 12 units per building, 4 on each floor, with one unit basically in each corner.

My wife is a stay at home mom and John is his mid 30's, lives alone, and works out of his home.

When we moved in, our child was 13 months old at the time was already walking around.  He just turned 2 and is 27 lbs.  He's petite.  From the very next day, John knocked on our door to complain about the noise.  My wife reads people pretty well and had a bad sense about this guy from their first encounter, but it's not like you can do anything legally about a bad sense.

During the next couple months, he threatened to take us to court and also call the cops on us for child endangerment.

We've gotten rugs, pads, and other type of padding and we only allow our child to walk inside the house.  We taught him to walk silently.  When he runs, jumps, or stomps on impulse, we make him stop and discipline him.  He doesn't run, jump, or stomp for more than a few seconds at a time.  Other noises include falling down and dropping toys, typical noises you hear from a toddler.  He goes out, he watches TV, takes naps, he sleeps 11-12 hours through the night and he spends a night or two at his grandparents house each week, where he will run around to his heart's content.  At home, it's very minimal.

I've been inside John's condo to observe the noise level after he complained that it sounded like his ceiling was coming down, and had my son run back and forth down the hallway.  It wasn't bad at all.  It was on par with a quiet conversation, but instead it sounds like muted drumming, so with my child not running around much at all, there really should be no problem.  Still, we attempted to keep noise to a minimum in order to appease him and just be considerate in general.

We've done everything humanly possible to make sure our child doesn't run, jump, or stomp inside the house to the point where it stresses my wife out, but John does not think it is enough and has publicly stated that he believes we do not exercise responsibility, are not considerate, and are bad parents overall.  He claims that some noise is to be expected and how he loves that our child is energetic, yet he has also stated that our child should not be able to run around inside our home even when he is not home.

When he is displeased, he bangs on his walls.  The intensity of these bangs are very large; So much so that my wife and child become afraid when they hear it.  My wife, because she has prior trauma from people banging on her door, and my son because, well, he's a child.  As such, my wife does as much as she can to prevent that banging from happening.  He used to do it frequently while we were teaching him to walk slowly, and the frequency has died down since then. We've gone months without incident.

On 6/2, John called the cops on us twice in one day.  The first time was around 10:30-11am, stating he thought my wife and toddler were alone and that my wife may have fallen ill or been injured and thus the child was alone.  He said that as he is a former firefighter and EMT, he was concerned for their safety, yet he did not even come up and knock on the door himself to see if everything was ok.  My wife had a couple guests over at the time, one who also had a small child and they were playing.  They witnessed the cops.  The next police visit was around 3pm, after I had gotten home from work.  The cops found nothing wrong and told us that as far as John can do, since John had stated to them that he is the owner of his condo (he's not), he can take us to court if he wanted to, but that the cops themselves couldn't really do much since no laws were being broken and it was just a domestic dispute.

All of this has stressed out my wife considerably.

After that incident, we contacted our landlord, who contacted his landlord, and his landlord agreed not to renew John's lease when it runs out this December.  Thankfully, my landlord and his mother also had similar issues with this guy when they used to live here, so he believes John is hypersensitive to noise and has stood up for me through all this.

Things were going fine until this past Sunday.  The latest incident is what pushed things over the edge.  On Sunday, we were all getting ready to go out to church at about 10:20 am.  I'm getting stuff together, my wife is finishing putting on her makeup.  The TV's on, but our child isn't interested anymore, so he starts running around sporadically while we tell him to stop.  As I'm finishing getting the stuff together, which took no more than a few minutes, my wife is complaining that she thinks our child is making too much noise, so I take another minute to finish gathering the diaper bag, putting his shoes on, and exit the front door with him.

When we get outside, my child then runs to the end of the concrete hall, runs back, runs to the end, then runs back again.  At this point, I didn't think he was making too much noise since we're outside and was only for a moment.  We then hear loud banging coming from John's condo and my child is next to me saying "scary".  I then hear a door open somewhere in the building, which was John, but I didn't even think about it at the time.  Within a couple minutes of exiting our front door, my wife comes out ready and upset because of the banging, asking why I was letting our child run in the hall.

We immediately depart.  There are two staircases we can take.  One on our side, which is next to our door and one on the other side.  We head to the far staircase because the one next to our door also runs next to John's door and we do not want to chance seeing him.  When we get down to the 2nd floor, John is waiting there, looking out at the parking lot in his bare feet.  We exchange some words, I tell him to just leave us alone, and he threatens to take us to court again.  I tell him do whatever he wants and proceed to go down the last flight of stairs.  He doesn't like that I keep calling his bluffs.

He responds that he can afford the legal fees more than we can, again trying to scare me into submission, so I respond to his childish remark with an equally childish retort, saying if he has so much money then he should get his car inspected.  He says he doesn't need to because it's a company car.

He then follows us down the stairs and provokes me, saying that my wife is more of a man than I, so I turn around, point at him and say "fuck you" while walking towards him, putting my hand down immediately and get maybe within a foot him.  I say nothing more and just stare at him for a few seconds while he further tries to provoke me, saying to do something, that I can't because I'm a pussy.  I know if I hit this guy, that means bad things for me, so I turn around and leave where he calls me a pussy again.  I shouldn't have even responded in the first place, but what's passed is past.  When I get in the car, the time is 10:34am.

I filed a police report the same day just with the narrative of what happened as far as I knew.  It was rejected and deemed that no crime had taken place.  I figured as much, but just wanted it down for record.  I also contacted my landlord regarding the incident.  I wrote a narrative for him, including that John had lied about the inspection sticker.  After not being able to reach John's landlord by phone, my landlord forwarded my narrative to John's landlord, who then forwarded it to John.

Since then, I've learned new information from the response that John wrote to all of us (me and both landlords) regarding my narrative.  At first, I thought was at the 2nd floor staircase by coincidence and that the extent of his following was following us down the stairs.  He's admitted that he had recorded the entire exchange, from the time my wife exited our front door.  I also did not know he was recording at all.  This would then seem to dictate that he followed us to the far staircase, had premeditated our meeting on the 2nd floor, and attempted to provoke me into doing something illegal so he could have video evidence of it and use it against me.

After the last incident, my wife has vacated our home with our child because of her fear of his unpredictability and is staying with her parents, about 20 minutes away, refusing to come back until John is no longer a threat.

###Should I contact the police again with this new information?  Do I have any case against him for stalking or harassment?  What are the chances, with the given information, that if I file a protective order against him that it will be granted?

Other highlights of his response include:

- Saying he's non confrontational and wants to solve things peacefully despite doing the things he did.  He's over the top polite and makes himself out to be the victim, only wanting for everything to be resolved amicably.
- He's afraid of me and that I committed assault against him, saying I was raising my fist at him, repeating multiple times that he has video evidence.  FYI, I'm an unassuming 5'7", 130lb Korean male and he has at least 50 pounds plus a couple inches on me.
- Called me threatening, irresponsible, inconsiderate, adversarial, obsessive, disrespectful, passive aggressive, violent, etc.
- Addressing my accusation of him lying about the inspection sticker, saying it's a silly argument and that it's completely irrelevant, that I'm obsessed, and there is no visible sticker because not only is it a company car, it has already passed inspection and he had his windshield replaced 8 months ago, which is why the sticker is missing.  He stated he can go out next week and get a replacement if it'll please me.  Seriously.  I cannot make this up.
- Accusing me of being retaliatory by stomping up and down the stairs every time I go to and from work.
- Again threatening legal action and pointing out financial hardship for everyone.

So I fire off a response saying

- A summary of our encounters.
-How he contradicted himself when he denied he followed us out by having been recording the whole time
- Brought up the lying issue because it affects a person's credibility, stating more examples of when he falsified statements, and also pointed out how he received a ticket for driving without a safety inspection just a couple months back (which he skipped the court date and hasn't paid but I didn't mention that.  He's also gotten the same ticket many times before that)
- His accusation of me stomping up and down stairs is false and how he is so sure that it's me.
- That no law enforcement official would consider what I did assault and asked why, if he was so sure I committed assault and afraid of me, he didn't file a police report himself.
- Asked him to release the video so that the landlords could have video evidence of it themselves.
- Stated my wife and child are leaving the condo because of him.

His response to all that?  He focused on 3 things:

1) He called the police for noise earlier because he was concerned.

2) He didn't file a police report for our sake.

3) My "strange obsession" with the inspection sticker, again defending himself against my claims, and that doing a background check on a  neighbor is creepy.

He ignored my request to release the video, his contradiction of not following us, and my wife and child unable to live in the condo because of him.

###What sort of recourse do I have with my landlord, John, or John's landlord?  What can reasonably be done about having been pushed out of our home?

  I need to now drive back and forth, adding extra time to my commute and shortening the time I get to see my family.  Therefore, the space is not being used 99% of the time.

John's landlord has stayed quiet during this whole thing and has only said John's lease can be carried out for the remaining 4 months.

My landlord and I are on good terms and he would probably let us out of the lease if I asked, but I really like the place and was planning on staying there past our current lease and don't think that it's fair that we have to live like this.  I would not only have to pay moving costs and deal with all the headaches that come with moving, but it also adversely affects my landlord as well.

What do you all think?

**TL:DR**

We got a 1-2 year old that makes a reasonable amount of noise that is much less than your average baby.

Downstairs neighbor is sensitive to noise, lives below people regardless.

Bangs on his wall, threatens legal action, calls cops on us, follows us and records us, provoking me to hit him.

Wife and child now staying at in-law's house due to fear and stress.

Neighbor's landlord agreed to terminate lease at the end of the term, which is 4 months from now, but that leaves us with 4 months that we can't live at home.

What do I do?

Answer:
 >he would probably let us out of the lease if I asked, but I really like the place and was planning on staying there past our current lease and don't think that it's fair that we have to live like this.

What is prudent in life isn't always fair.

You don't have much recourse here at all. His landlord has agreed not to continue allowing him to live there when his lease is up, which is not something the landlord is required to do. Your landlord would allegedly allow you to break the lease with no penalties, also something your landlord isn't obligated to do.

Seek a restraining order or protective order. The terms of that order, including how "contact" is defined and the parameters or scope, will be catered to your needs in relation to where you both live.


Title: Friend staying with me question.

Question: I own a home in NY and just received a letter for having a illegal apartment. The reason for this notice is because I let a friend and her kid stay at my house because she moved out of her boyfriends house. This girl is not paying me rent or any of my bills. I am allowing her to stay however long she needs until she can get up on her feet and work some things out in life. How do I fight this illegal apartment letter from my town?

Answer:
 are you letting them stay in some kind of self-contained apartment?  like a converted basement or garage?

what does the city say you've violated? zoning? code about number of occupants or relationship of occupants?


Title: Roommate dated girl for less than a week, can't get her to leave him alone. (NE)

Question:
My roommate met a girl on Match and hung out with her three days in a row. They had sex three times but he used a condom each time. He thought she was acting a little erratic but she was a nurse so I told him to give her a chance. The last day he hung out with her, he saw a paper in her car with a list of psych meds she was on. He told her he wasn't interested in dating, and she lost it.

It has now been almost three weeks and she has tried blocking his car with hers, called about 70 times, texted almost daily, driven by the house routinely, threatened to kill herself, and is now saying she is pregnant but giving no form of proof. What is the best way to handle this crazy? I voted for a restraining order.

Edit: also forgot to add that the day after he left her, she came to the house at 8 in the morning banging on the door and ringing the doorbell, before realizing my roommate is an idiot and left the door unlocked. She let herself in the house and then sat on the couch crying. She wouldn't leave until she saw my car pull up and open the garage door.

Answer:
 >What is the best way to handle this crazy? I voted for a restraining order.

Call the cops if she trespasses. Seek a restraining order. Make sure your roommate blocks her number and all her social media accounts.


Title: my (33m) wife(26F)responded to a divorce I filed asking the judge to change it to an annulment claiming I lied about my mental health history

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 No one can predict how likely it is that a judge will do something.  We don't have enough information to determine the legal merits of the annulment request.  Even if we did, judges sometimes do surprising things.

What is your interest in annulment as opposed to divorce?  Is there an outcome you expect may be better one way or the other?


Title: FIREARMS RIGHTS QUESTION: Owning / Carrying a Firearm, but Married to a Convicted Felon? States of South Carolina, North Carolina, Tennessee, Georgia, and Florida? (repost from /r/AskReddit)

Question:
Is it legal for me to carry a firearm while riding with my husband in his vehicle? I do not have my concealed weapons permit yet.

I've done my own research, but can't find an answer to this exact question.

Answer:
 If he has access to it, he can be charged with constructive possession.  I would bet that a police officer would consider your entire car, you (concealed or not) and your entire home to be "accessible" to him.

Even a gun locker, if he has access to the key.

But that's outside my area, so hopefully someone else can confirm.

"Constructive possession" is a loosely defined term, on purpose.


Title: Pregnant, need serious advice

Question:
I’ve been on Reddit for awhile and never posted. Something happened to our daughter in law today and I’m furious and we need some advice.
Son and daughter in law expecting their first child in December. She has worked in retail and has been in management at this store for 2 years. She’s worked since she was 16 and is 26 now. It’s an hour drive away and in a very affluent neighborhood, high end store. Her current position, at least through closing tonight, is the floor set manager. She works long hours and sometimes split shifts.
Today manager who’s a family friend, tells her they are doing away with her position and combining 2 jobs and telling her she will have to apply like everyone else. She has 2 options, she can take the severance package and be able to get COBRA  or apply for the job and get nothing, no guarantee she’ll even be considered.
She is a very hard worker and loves her job She never misses work and does not use her pregnancy to get out of working.
Sorry for the length, but is there a possibility of legal action for this happening during her pregnancy?
Topic:
Employment Law

Answer: They are getting rid of her position.  This has nothing to do with the pregnancy.  They are allowed to give her the offer they did.  It was all legal.Answer #2: There's no issue here. She's not losing her job *because* of the pregnancy.


Title: I was denied a job because of my clothes and she thought I was "on something".

Question: [deleted]

Answer: I am not going to read all of that but the short answer is that she can choose not to hire you for either poor taste in clothing or suspected drug use.


Title: [Real Estate] My grandmother wants to make sure that her home goes to one of her children after her death, but it has a loan against it

Question:
This is all in Davidson County, Tennessee.

My grandmother is very sick, and she's worried that this time, she may not come out of it. She wants to make sure that the home she owns (completely owns, no rent or mortgage) passes to her daughter and her daughter's family who have lived with her at the house for 11 years (she has two sons also). About a decade ago, she took a loan from the bank and used the property as collateral; much of the money has been used for family emergencies and house repairs over the years.

Her name is the only one on the title and deed to the house, and she's worried that after her death, the bank will seize the home and we will have no place to live.

I've been trying to learn about deeds and deed transfers, but can't find much about cases where there is a loan out against the home in question. We aren't really sure what steps we should take to make sure that her wishes are fulfilled whenever she passes, whether it's in the next few months or (hopefully) years from now.

Answer:
 Depends on the type of loan she took out.  If she took out a reverse mortgage then she likely gave the company the right to take the home when she passes.  These companies often give heirs the option to buy back the house for the cost of the reverse mortgage.

If it was a standard loan then her estate becomes responsible for repaying the loan.  If the estate cannot repay the loan then the heirs may need to take over the loan in order to prevent foreclosure.

She should also make sure she has a will drafted that specifically lays out what she wants done with her effects after her death.


Title: Group of four young unrelated adults forced to leave apartment unit because we don’t follow town ordinance (family has to include 2 blood relatives) - is there anything we can do?

Question:
As the title goes, we are being forced out of our four bedroom apartment because according to town ordinance, only two people can live in a single unit if not blood related regardless of unit size. This was not mentioned or noted by our landlords when we signed on last April.

Note a “random complaint” was called in, having the town building inspector visit the house and confirm the relationships of the tenants. No clue who complained and why.

We are given 45 days to comply by the inspector, is there anything we can do to delay being forced to move out until the end of our lease in March?

Answer: Location isn't an option here for sure.


Title: Asshole serial ADA filer headed to court for tax fraud

Answer:
 So he doesn't have to prove he was harmed by a business that supposedly is non-compliant, just that they *might* be non-compliant?

Could he be classified as a vexatious litigant so he has to get court approval to file a suit in the future?Answer #2: Figured this might be of interest to the legaladvice subreddit denizens, as more than a few people have shown up on legaladvice due to this guy.


Title: Re-creating Amazon Dash Button [New Zealand]

Question:
If I was to take an idea like Amazon's Dash button in a country where Amazon is not active (hypothetically, New Zealand or something), and re-create it by building my own button and writing my own code server-side... would I be breaching some sort of copyright/patent?

I mean you see ideas copied by other people all the time, and clearly I don't really understand how copyright etc works, but how likely am I to be shut down by Amazon's lawyers, compared to just being a 'competitor' in a market where they are absent?

Answer:
 Your code would not be the same as Amazon's, so copyright is not applicable here unless you just took and reused their code.

You can't call it something that would infringe on their trademarks.

If they have a patent on the invention in your jurisdiction, then you would need to license the patent or wait until it expires (which is 20 years from the filing date). You can do a search on google patents or espacenet to see if there is one.


Title: bank gave me wrong checks

Question: the bank gave me checks with my name on them but with somebody elses routing and account number so it was taking out of somebody elses account for the past 2 years and now they want me to pay back the money but i didnt make the typo on the check and wasnt aware that this was happening what do i do?

Answer: Pay the money back. You should have the funds available in your account, since it never came out.


Title: Who has to pay for the shoes

Question: California. I need a neutral party's opinion. My roommate agreed to dog-sit for their friend's dog for 2 weeks for free. But my roommate was out of town the first day, so I got talked in to dog-sitting for a day for free. Then on the third day, the dog destroyed my 2 month old, $120 shoes. Legally, who should pay for the new shoes? Me, roommate or dog owner?

Answer:
 You.  For someone else to be responsible, you would have to establish negligence.  Unless roommate had prior knowledge of the dog's chewing propensities, such that it was foreseeable to roommate that if dog was left unconfined and unsupervised it would destroy something, you would not be able to prevail.Answer #2: Who was in control of the dog at that time?

You or your roommate (meaning who was taking care of it)


Title: Canada - my company is telling me I cannot use cannabis even though it is now legalized. I am refusing to sign our amended D&A policy. Am I entitled to severance under the grounds of constructive dismissal?

Question:
I work as an Account Manager for a service company in the construction industry. My job consists of 50% office 50% client meetings at their facilities. Our company has always required our employees to be able to pass a drug and alcohol test (breathalyzer and urinalysis) as a part of employment and prohibits the use of “illicit substances”.

With the legalization of cannabis, my company has amended the d&a policy to basically say that we still require to be able to pass a d&a test as a part of employment and there is a zero tolerance on cannabis usage. I have challenged my HR department on the way this document is written, as they have told me that there is a zero tolerance policy for cannabis usage.

I do not think the company has the right to tell me that I am not allowed to smoke cannabis period. Furthermore, if they are to tell me that I am only not allowed to smoke cannabis when it could cause intoxication at the workplace or fit-for-duty issues, then I feel that they need to show me that they have implemented a testing practice that tests for intoxication (rather than a urine test which could test positive from usage weeks ago).

I am at the point where I am prepared to refuse to sign this policy on the grounds that it is a change to my conditions of employment and I feel it is infringing on my rights. The company has made it clear that adhering to this is a condition of employment, so the implication is that they will terminate my employment in this case.

Will the company be required to pay me severance?

Answer:
 Just because you can’t get arrested and criminally charged for using weed any more doesn’t mean there are no restrictions or consequences from use. Unless you can point  to a specific  law that states you can’t be fired for using a legal intoxicant you’re out of luck.

There are employers in the US that prohibit the use of tobacco on or off duty. Why? Because no law says they can’t and that is what they chose to do. Answer #2: They aren’t telling you that you can’t use cannabis. They are telling you that you can’t use cannabis and work for them. The choice is yours Answer #3: >on the grounds that it is a change to my conditions of employment and I feel it is infringing on my rights.

Your theory is weak.  There is an argument that can be made that your previous conditions of employment included a zero tolerance of Cannabis and that it continues to include a zero tolerance of Cannabis. You couldn't consume when you were first hired, you can't consume now, your practical conditions are unaltered.

The chain of circumstances that result in this employment condition have changed, but the condition is unchanged.


Title: Need legal advice for first arrest of possesion of 4 vicodin in California.

Question:
I recently got arrested and im out on bail currently in the state of california. A lot of people are saying im most likely not looking at time, that im probally going to get classes and probation/community service. I would just like an answer from someone in the state of california that knows about stuff like this.

Background, it was first arrest, first felony and it was non violent.

Answer: You 100% need to retain an attorney, being charged with a felony is a big deal.


Title: The Owner of My Company is Pushing us to Join a Pyramid Scheme.

Question:
Hi all, so really weird day at work today.

The Owner of the company I work for called everyone into a meeting and started pitching us on joining in on a pyramid scheme that she is part of. It's your standard "buy a starter kit for only $99.99" "recruit all your friends and you can earn a percentage of their commissions" bs.

She even offered to let employees pay for the starter kits in installments out of their pay checks.

I just stood there with my mouth agape.
So I know there's always the option of quit and find a new job. I doubt I can go to HR or to the owner herself and talk about this without just being shoved out the door.

This seems super unprofessional and unethical, but is this also illegal?

Answer: I would just refuse to get involved, and document all this, and if/when you get fired file for unemployment.


Title: My stepdad told my mother to kill herself. She did it that night. is there anything i can do?

Question:
If it matters, we live in Riverside county, California. I'm 17 years old. I turn 18 this April, and I have been living with him. My mom has been suicidal throughout her life, and this was her 3rd attempt while being with him for 8 years (I found this out afterwards). After a night of drinking in July, they both came home screaming at eachother, and she was sobbing. He had gotten me from my room at midnight, while I was asleep, to drive him to the store because we don't have milk. I walk past my sobbing mom and ask her "What's wrong?" She said "Carlos told me that I'm incompetent and that I should kill myself" they fought all the time, and it bothered me so much that I eventually shut them out. I told her that I'll talk to him. He was waiting in the car for me. During the drive there I asked him why he told my mom to kill herself. He was angry, he said "First of all! You don't talk to me like that! And second, it's because she forgot to get milk for the baby, and she's a fucking mother, she shouldn't forget." When I got home I was too pissed and worn out to deal with either of them in their drunken state. Later that night, at 4am, we found her hung in the closet.

My question is, is there anything I can do? Can I file charges against him for doing this? He has been a huge jerk to me ever since this happened and he refuses to accept responsibility for what he did. It really bothers me that he took away my mother like that, and he is just walking around, living life, fucking different women every other night.

Answer:
 I'm really really sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, this was your mother's choice no matter what your stepfather said to her and nothing he did was criminal.

Have you been given the option of counseling? Because I do think you need someone outside of the family to talk to.Answer #2: > Can I file charges against him for doing this?

You cannot file charges.  Only the police or prosecutors can.  You can report the matter to them, but it doesn't sound to me like anything criminal happened.

Nothing in the rest of your post is criminal.Answer #3: He didn't kill your mother she killed herself. She had a history of suicidal behavior. She needed intervention long ago. This comment may or may not have pushed her over the edge but you will have a tough time in civil court proving he was the proximate cause of your mothers death.


Title: What's the statute of limitations on pushing an 80-year old woman out of a 2-story building if she didn't die? (NY)

Answer:
 Uhhhhhhhhh what?

In NY, 6 or 3 years for felonies, 1 year for misdemeanors.


Title: Received speeding ticket but the model of the car is wrong

Question: We own a 2 door car but it was marked on the ticket as a 4 door. Is there away we can get this dismissed?

Answer: It may depend on your location, but if you're in the U.S., almost certainly not. Minor errors on traffic tickets typically don't invalidate them.


Title: Current law student in danger of losing chance to practice law.

Question:
Before you say it, I'm already scheduled to meet with an attorney. I initially committed the cardinal sin of going pro se as a law student, but now I'm squared away. I just wanna know what r/la thinks.

I start my 2L year at a Texas law school next week. I have severe ADHD for which I seek regular psychiatric treatment. About two months ago, I got a call and learned that a close friend of mine had passed away. Severely distraught, I went to the grocery store (not on my medication) and bought a bottle of wine and some ice cream to drown my sorrows. Distracted, unmedicated, and grieving, I walked out of the store only to be confronted by a security guard. I realized that I had walked out without paying.

The police were called and I was charged with theft under $50 as provided by Tex. Penal Code § 33.03. I looked up the statute and was delighted to see that specific intent to deprive was an element of the crime. It wasn't at all my intent to deprive; I just had an ADHD moment. I'm not a criminal, I'm an idiot. I plead not guilty and now I have a court date in two weeks.

I can provide the court with an affidavit from my doctor containing my diagnosis and dosage requirements, the testimony of my girlfriend who was with me before and after the incident, bank records showing that I had the money to pay for the item and that I had shopped at that store the previous day. Here's my questions:

- Is there any scenario where this creates a reasonable doubt about intent such that I can win a nonjury trial?
- If not, should I accept a settlement?
- Lastly, and most importantly, how will the outcome of this case affect my ability to sit for the bar?

Again, I'm meeting with a lawyer tomorrow. I'm just looking for opinions.

Answer:
 >Is there any scenario where this creates a reasonable doubt about intent such that I can win a nonjury trial?

You're a law student that still enjoys free and uninhibited use of west and lexis.  Use them.  Search the statute and look for caselaw that will give you an idea on how the "intent to deprive" element has been interpreted.

Get a lawyer and listen to the lawyer.  Opinions here won't help you much.  I would say that you need to pay whatever it costs to make sure your record is clean before you sit for character and fitness interviews.


Title: Does an HOA have a right to tell me what I'm allowed to do in my garage in Texas?

Question:
So, I just rented a new condo.  After I rented it I found out that you aren't supposed to have anything in your garage that would prevent my vehicle for being parked in it.  I have a small business and I package things in the garage to prep for shipping.  If I'm not violating any parking rules since my vehicle cannot fit can they tell me I cannot prep packages in my garage?

*Edit* Well, the consensus seems to be that HOAs are horrible and despite how absurd this is they most likely can tell you what you're allowed to do in your own home.  Dammit.

Answer:
 It sounds like they're not so much telling you what you're allowed to do in your garage but what you're allowed to do in your driveway/street.

It is incredibly common and valid for an HOA to restrict the number of cars parked regularly on the street / in your driveway, even if that restriction is down to 0.

They won't tell you "You cannot prep packages in your garage."
They'll tell you "You can't park your car in your driveway / on the street". Two different things.


Title: Minor in need of a lawyer but parents refuse to get one

Question:
What if a minor commits a felony level crime and needs a lawyer but their parents are fed up with their behavior and while they CAN afford to get her a lawyer they refuse to? Does the court assign a public defender and then bill the parents? Does she have to defend herself?
Sorry, location is Washington State

Answer: The judge will provide one and the parents may be forced to pay for that attorney.


Title: [Georgia Advice] Been sued for VISITATION by Grandparent

Question:
Hello everyone. In January I was awarded Full Custody of my two year old daughter. The mother was/is a drug addict. My father being a State Trooper testified for me in the case saying that I was a fit father. Fast forward to around April/May. My father and Mother have been in a court battle for their house since they got divorced two years ago. I ended up signing my portion of the house over to my mother so that she could get her half back. My father took that as a sign of me taking her side over his. He started making threats toward myself and my current wife, questioning our parental skills and undermining our efforts as parents. At the end of April we finally severed ties between my father and my daughter going over to his house.

I was served by court order on AUG 16 of this year for VISITATION RIGHTS. My question is. What kind of chance does he have at winning this case? Would you advise on me obtainting a lawyer or could i win this by myself?

***Note***
 My wife and I are great parents. We both have full time jobs at Delta Airlines. We hjave stable income, stable housing and no past arrests or problems with law enforcement.

Answer: Georgia allows grandparents to legally seek visitation. Just because you're a fit parent doesn't mean they can't get visitation if the judge thinks it's better for your child to have visitation.


Title: Am I being paranoid about a brief innuendo joke I made at a party with a group of classmates?

Question:
So I'm a 29-year-old guy and I'm currently a student at a data science boot camp in California. The boot camp is held by this company that also provides workspaces for startups in a five-story building. So I'm not an employee of the company, but I'm paying them to attend this boot camp that they run.

So a few days ago, there was a rooftop happy hour. There were drinks, music, people were relaxing, unwinding, socializing, etc. It turns out that this woman (I'm guessing she's in her 30s) runs a salon in the building and she was giving massages for $5. I was chatting with some classmates and one of them decided to get a massage. A few minutes later, he comes back and goes "guys, she has the most amazing hands" or something like that.

Now, of course, massages and hands tend to lead to stupid jokes about happy endings. And, because I'm a moron, I made a similar joke. I said something to the effect of "wait, are we still talking about massages?". Now, I'm kinda worried that she may have overheard me and will report me for sexual harassment or something, leading to my expulsion from the program.

We were probably about 10 feet away from her, she wasn't in our group, there was music playing, and we were outside. So it's entirely possible that she didn't even hear me. And even if she did, it's entirely possible she just thinks I'm an idiot and won't report me. And even if she reports me, it's entirely possible that the worst that will happen to me is that I'll just be told to knock it off, which I'll do anyway.

But I'm still freaking out that I'm going to get kicked out. Remember DongleGate? That woman overheard those two guys making lewd jokes, posted a photo of them on Twitter, and they got fired. I'm afraid something like that might happen to me.

So...am I being unnecessarily paranoid? Is there any way she can nail me for harassment or something? I know the joke was stupid and I feel like a complete ass for making it.

Answer: Dude.


Title: My roommate buys drugs off the deep web and sells/consumes in our apartment.

Question:
Just to note: I am looking for a new place to live, but may take a while.

So my roommate, used to be a very good friend of mine, has been buying drugs off the deep web for a while. We live near a college campus in California and he sells a lot of these in bulk to random people. It started off with just light drugs, but its moved on to all different types of opiates, acid, ketamine, just very strong drugs in general. I would move out, but i have a barrier that is stopping me from finding a place easily. And his name is the only one on the lease (our landlord was very weird about that, his dad is the guarantor and we all pay rent to him). He has become an opiate addict and has had a couple run ins with the law but got off each time. This guy is basically a time bomb waiting to happen.

So my question is: can i get in trouble if something gets intercepted and/or cops show up? Should I notify authorities or his parents? I don't have any drugs in the apartment, but he has texted me about his dealings and what not. I also share a room with him and it could be in the room or living room, idk.

Answer:
 >can i get in trouble if something gets intercepted and/or cops show up?

Yes, you'd likely be charged with a number of crimes. Whether you'll be found guilty is another question, but I don't love your odds.

>Should I notify authorities or his parents?

You'd likely want to contact your own criminal defense attorney before pursuing the matter. I'd recommend doing that ASAP.


Title: Can I sue my pediatrician?

Question:
Alright this talks about periods and women hygiene. Nothing graphic, but here’s your warning.

So I’m 19. I’ve had my period since I was 12. It started off slightly irregular, getting my period once every 2-3 months (usually two months). When I was 16, that’s when I noticed a change in my cycle. I would miss periods and get them at random intervals. The longest I ever had gone without my period was nine months.

Because of this, I went to my pediatrician. I told him what was happening and this is how it went:

Me - “So is that normal or should I be worried.”

Dr. - “Do you want to have your period every month?”

Me - “No?”

Dr. - “Then it’s completely normal. You have nothing to worry about.”

I clearly remember the conversation because I used to brag about this to all my friends in school how I was so fortunate enough to have my period usually three times a year as opposed to 12.

I never doubted the diagnosis because I believed that every body was different. Plus I wasn’t sexually active in high school and I stayed a virgin until a few months ago.

I went to a gyno because I had been having really bad pains and horribly heavy periods for my last two periods. There, I was told that being that irregular wasn’t normal and that it is actually an underlying issue to other things. So the gyno did a pap smear (how I lost my virginity) and eventually, I was diagnosed with stage 3 uterine cancer. I haven’t been given an official timeline, but my gyno said that if I had gone to a gyno when my period initially changed, this could’ve been prevented.

I want to peruse legal action, but I don’t want to consult a lawyer unless I’m absolutely sure I have a case because shit I have cancer and I honestly don’t have any money to spend. Do I have a case? Thanks
Topic:
Medicine and Malpractice

Answer:
 >  I don’t want to consult a lawyer unless I’m absolutely sure I have a case because shit I have cancer and I honestly don’t have any money to spend

Initial consultations with a medmal attorney are typically free or cost very little


Title: Bank says I them over $1000 from $250 worth overdrafts I didn't pay from when I was 16 (10 years ago).

Question: [deleted]

Answer: Sounds like you owe the money. You agreed to the bank's fee schedule when you opened your account. Don't be a douche.


Title: Strange voice mail. Should I ignore?

Question:
I got a call from a local area code number. They left a voice mail that goes like this: "Hello, my name is *first name, last name*, the reason I am reaching out to you is federal and state law mandates that I make an attempt to contact you. Because this matter is tied directly to your SSN#, your EIM#, wages, all bank accounts as well as your personal and business assets. There have been numerous documented attempts to contact you by phone and by mail. To recieve the legal details as directly related to you press 1 to speak to a live representative.

This just sounds weird. No indication who is calling, nothing specific at all. As far as I know I have never gotten other calls or any letters from -whoever- this is. I censored the given name just because. All my instincts say to ignore it, should I?

Answer: Almost certainly a scam.


Title: Can Sears Pay less then the state minimum wage? (California)

Question:
My SO just got a job at sears. Her hire paper work stated her hourly wage would be $10 per hour, which is also the California Minimum Wage.

Now that she's there working her pay is only $6 per hour. And yes, this is before taxes, not after taxes.

I read the minimum wage law on CA.Gov and from what I understand Sears is not exempt from following the California State Law on this matter.

On the other hand, I find it hard to believe that a big corp like Sears would be trying to rip off employees and also break the law at the same time.

I'm thinking there must be some loop hole that allows them to pay less then the minimum wage.

I'm looking forward to your responses.

Answer: If she's a commissioned employee, they can pay her less than minimum and her commission will make the $4+ per hour. If she doesn't make $10 with her commission, Sears will make up the difference (sometimes they penalize employees for this).


Title: Could I have gotten a DUI?

Question:
I live in California.

I was driving high yesterday. I was going to a national park. There was a ticket booth, and there was a park ranger inside. I was getting ready to pay for parking, but I couldn't find my wallet. I was so high I didn't notice that my wallet had fallen under the seat. I said to the ranger "Hang on I can't find my wallet", and spent 2 minutes looking for it in front of the ranger. The ranger then said "What's the matter what are you trying to do?". I think the ranger could tell that I was high. I said I want to turn around, and the ranger told me where to make the u-turn.

I was too paranoid to come back there, so I went ahead and spent the day at a different place.

Anyway, could I have gotten a DUI there? Could the ranger have detained me or called the police?

Answer: You were driving under the influence...so yeah


Title: [CA] lein sale for vehicle from the towing company, but I already paid.

Question: So my car was impounded over a week ago, and I got it out. It was rightfully impound, my fault. I thought all was over but Saturday I got notice of pending lein sale from the towing company. And they added another 3 days of storage fees. Bring the total to about $625 as of April 19th. I got it out on the 16th. And paid for everything. Like about $445.  I have the vehicle. What do I need do from here? Being this is fraudulent lien and they don't have the vehicle.

Answer:
 Call the tow company.  This is pretty common (minus the additional fees).  The lein sale notice is sent via mail and often the tow company files it just before your vehicle is picked up and you will not get the notice for a few days because ... Mail is slow.

You also should have a recipit showing you paid all fees owed at the time you picked the car up.


Title: Boss touched me. I have no proof and I don't think anyone saw.

Question:
Georgia. I'm typing on my phone so I apologise for any typos and bad formatting.

I work for a small sales subsidiary of a very big Korean company, and it is very common for us to have dinner after workshops/meetings.

Well, I tagged along to one of those last Wednesday, and the boss offered to pour me a drink. He was hammered already and ended up spilling some on my pants. So he starts dusting off my leg to get some of the liquid off my pants, and that's when it happened. He moved his hand over and dusted(?) over my privates twice or three times.

Now, there were people from headquarters that had flown out from Korea and Koreans can be a little touchy with like pats on the butt and stuff... So I didn't want to cause a scene and tried to laugh it off. But when he saw me laughing he said 새끼 엄청 좋아하네 which is along the lines of 'this kid likes it so much' (sorry. Shoddy translation, but it's kinda complex) and he went in for a couple more touches!

I was shocked, but still didn't want to cause a scene because I'm the youngest employee at the company and he's literally the big boss (I know. Stupid.), so I tried to laugh it off again. Then he asked DIRECT(translated) QUOTE: "are you a homo by chance" as he went in for another feel.
I made an excuse that I had to go to the bathroom, got up and went to a different table.

Come the next day, I called the restaurant to see if they had any camera footage. They said there was only one camera in the room, but they asked exactly what I was looking for. I told them loosely that I was touched, and they told me they would call me back if they see anything. They confirmed my number and name (caller ID) before hanging up. I worked Thursday because I had some stuff I needed to finish, but I avoided big boss - not that he remembered anything since he was super hammered. Then I called out "sick" Friday.

I didn't get a call back over the weekend, and I showed up to work Monday. Big boss calls me into his office and asks if something happened at the dinner. This caught me way off guard because he should have no recollection of it. But it turns out that the restaurant owner is related to someone high up in the headquarters (Korea) and basically gave him a heads up. So then I told him what happened and he said he was sorry but that he didn't mean anything sexual, and that's just how they show friendliness in Korea, and it won't happen again. I didn't feel comfortable being in his office so I just said sure and walked out.

I asked around the office and this isn't his first time. He's touched like almost all the men. But nobody had bothered to say anything. It's a weird dynamic with the whole Korean culture and all... Anyway, I tried to forget about it but when I came in and saw his face Tuesday, I felt like punching him. I decided that remaining in an environment where those actions are overlooked as something trivial. I sent my resignation letter to HR, and told him what happened.

I'm not expecting anything to happen from HR, because he knew about all the other instances too. Nobody has formally reported it before. I don't think I'll ever get any footage from the restaurant, and I highly doubt that the camera even caught anything since they said there's only one camera in the room and we were all sitting down, so the table probably covered it. I can't expect anyone to testify, I don't even think anyone saw? And they didn't even report their own instances...

Do I even have a case for a lawsuit here? With no hard proof? And would it even be worth the hassle to try to escalate this?

Thanks in advance.
Topic:
Douche

Answer:
 There are a few different ways to approach this. Before doing anything, I would talk to a lawyer to get more specific advice.

One option is to file a complaint with HR. Make sure there's some paper trail of you filing your complaint. An email to HR saying something like "I'd like to file a formal complaint regarding sexual harassment. What is the proper procedure to do so?" would be sufficient. The thing you're trying to avoid is them saying they never received your complaint.

Another option is to hire a lawyer to represent you. This has a long list of pros and cons, but at this moment it's probably overkill.


Title: Texas parental rights

Question: My ex wife basically messaged me asking if I would be willing to give up my rights as a parent. She stated that it would be better for me because I'll be moving about 250 miles away for my job and not have to worry about child support. She says that if I'm ever in the area that she would be ok with me seeing the kids. My question is there any way that I would be able to get that in writing and have the courts accept it and basically make her follow those terms, or am I basically screwed if I give up my rights as a father. All I want is to be able to see the kids.

Answer:
 > My question is there any way that I would be able to get that in writing and have the courts accept it and basically make her follow those terms, or am I basically screwed if I give up my rights as a father.

You can't "give up your rights", at least not legally speaking.  You can certainly choose not to see your children, or choose not to participate in their upbrining.  You can also negotiate any visitation you want, including visitation once or twice a year or occasionally.

The only way to give up your kids entirely is to have them adopted by someone else - and then they become that person's kids, and not yours, and you have no rights at all.Answer #2: Don't sign the paperwork at all. Don't do it.

I'd also ask your ex wife to see a mediator mediator and get new custody forms worked out. Get it in legal writing that you get x amount of time with your children, such as "four weeks on summer holiday and every other Christmas" or something to that effect. Make sure you document, document, document. If your ex wife won't see a mediator with you, it's very much in your best interests to talk to a custody lawyer *yesterday* and get this dealt with. By leaving the area your ex wife can use that against you in terms of custody and child support. She may not be that type of person, but don't leave anything up to chance.


Title: My late MIL had an very old insurance policy and named her estranged sister as the beneficiary

Question:
We are in GA.

My mother in law pasted away 2 months ago after battling an extended illness. As far as we knew at the time, she had no insurance and we ending up paying for her final expenses out of pocket. My husband is her only child and has no other living relatives other than our children and her sister whom she has not spoken with in over 10 years.

He came across some old insurance policy information on a piece of mail that was $10,000. He contacted the insurance company and they were unable to find a beneficiary listed due to the policy being inactive for such an extended period of time(30 + years) for over a week and they had to go into an old storage room filing cabinet to locate the original policy.

He felt confident that he would be the beneficiary since he was her only child but was slightly concerned because he was only an infant when the policy was purchased. But not overly concerned.

Well, it turned out that her sister was listed as the beneficiary. He is confident that his mother would have wanted either he or his children be the beneficiary and doesn’t understand how she never changed it or even mentioned it before she passed.  He’s not sure that her sister will do the ethical thing and turn the money over to him.

Is there any legal recourse that he can navigate? She passed away in our home and her estate is more of a financial burden that any type of monetary gain at this point. When he found the policy we were both thinking about how much this would help us through so many things and now it seems the burden is even more and leaving a bitter taste in our mouths to boot.

Side note: they were estranged due to an inheritance dispute.  She (my MIL)basically sacrificed her adult life to care for her mother after her mother had a stroke. She moved into her mother’s house and spend 12 years being the sole caretaker of her mother who was essentially complete catatonic. She was single with a young boy and never dated or remarried and completely committed to caring for her mother. After her mother’s death her sister wanted the house my mil had been living in for the last 12 years to be sold and the money be  split with her even though she had exactly zero hand in helping my mil care for her mother for all of those years. They weren’t close before because her sister basically peaced out after their mother’s stroke.

Answer: Nothing you can do to force the insurance company to give your husband the money.


Title: [CO] How do I approach sexual harassment in workplace?

Question:
Hello /r/legaladvice, first post here. I'm using a friend's account to post this. Not technically a throwaway, but still trying to preserve anonymity somewhat.

As the title states, I'm experiencing sexual harassment where I work. To get this out of the way, I'm a female and I'm being harassed by a male. He grabs me in inappropriate places and tries to kiss me, but it's all while there's no cameras around so I can't pull up video proof which is where I feel pretty much screwed... This has happened a few times, and we had another female employee experience the same thing from the same guy. She has since transferred from our location.

I tried to confront my general manager about this, but they said I'm making it up. I told my general manager that someone else had the same thing experience from the guy, and they told me since I brought someone *else* into the equation, it just proves I'm making things up (...?), so obviously no help from the general manager.

I have no experience in taking legal actions with these sorts of things seeing as this is my first... 'experience', and I have no idea what to do.

Any help I can get would be so, so appreciated.

Answer: You are going to want to file a charge with the EEOC or Colorado Civil Rights Division.  Before you do that you may want to talk to an attorney because if the organization that you file with doesn’t take action you will have the right to file a civil lawsuit.  Some attorneys like to be involved before you file with the administrative agencies so again, you should find a employment law attorney you like and meet with them, most will do a free consult.  Time is of the essence as your complaint must be filed within 300 days of the conduct.


Title: Student is getting bullied by another student who has special needs

Question: My child has been called a racial slur 5 times since school started by 1 student with a mental disability.  This Texas school has a zero tolerance policy when it comes to these issues, but is trying to be sensitive to the student with the mental disability.  While I have reiterated to the school that the offending students rights are no more important than my child's, the schools attempts to end the harassment (racial slurs and jokes) have not worked.  What should be my next steps?

Answer:
 If the school won't resolve the issue, escalate to the school board.Answer #2: What's the age and functionality of the student involved?

You're basically coming up against your rights v. the school's need to accommodate and mainstream a student with special needs. If the other student is the bad actor you are often going to be the prevailing interest, but there's a LOT of process this has to go through.

Who exactly have you spoken with at the school regarding this? Just teachers? administration?

If they're being unhelpful escalating to the district with phrases like "permitting racial harassment and bullying of students" can push things along. Answer #3: If the student is special needs, it is just *all the more the school's responsibility* to monitor and moderate his behavior.  If he can't be around your child without bullying and using racial slurs, then the school needs to separate them 100% of the time.  They also need to work on social behaviors with the bully.  That's on them.Answer #4: How old are these kids?


Title: [WI] Parents want to give us $12,000 for house down payment. Contract needed?

Question:
My wife and I are in the process of looking for a house. We actually have enough saved for a 30% down payment (we've lived pretty frugally for the last ten years). A few weeks ago my parents said that they would like to gift us $12,000 towards a down payment and offered us an additional $15,000 as a loan. They said that this was something the offered to my younger sister and her wife when they bought a house a few years ago. They do not know how much money we have saved for a down payment. We don't really talk money in my family.

Wife and I talked it over. We decided that we definitely don't want to take a loan from my parents (especially because we have a sizable down payment already) but did agree that we'd like to take the $12,000 gift.

We haven't talked to my parents about accepting the gift yet because wife and I have some reservations.

1. My mom's something of an ~~Indian-giver~~ (didn't know this was offensive. sorry!) when it comes to presents. Granted, she and Dad have never given me anything this big, but wife and I want to make sure that if Mom and Dad give us this gift we have a contract or something drawn up so that she can't change her mind after we've bought the house. When we talked them about accepting it we want it clear to them that this is a gift that they can't ask for back. What do we need to do to do this?

2. We've been talking about buying a fixer upper (you should see my wife work a table saw). Wife says we should throw their $12,000 into the down payment pot and take out $12,000 of our down payment money and use it for renovations. Essentially it boils down to using their gift for renovations but wife feels a little guilty about that, hence the convoluted thinking. Can we do that?

3. Is there any way that accepting this gift could legally bite us in the ass? We realize there will probably be emotional strings attached, but we're ready to deal with that. Just want to make sure that we have our bases covered so we can deal with it all.

Answer:
 The good news is that the mortgage company will likely require a gift letter such exampled here:

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/sample-gift-letter.html

It pretty much addresses your concern, is a requirement of most lending institutions (so you won't have to have that awkward "why I want a contract" conversation").

Google "mortgage gift letter" for more info or examples. Your mortgage company may also have a template they make you use. But, this is very common.

Cheers! Answer #2: 1) "Indian giver" is an incredibly offensive term;

2) You are likely going to need a statement in writing from them saying that the gift is a gift.  The lender will want to see where the money comes from.  It's not a contract, since there isn't any degree of mutual obligation.  A simple signed / notarized letter saying that it is a gift made with no expectation of repayment is fine;

3) A fixer-upper may not qualify for traditional financing. I don't understand the "can we do that" question. Money is fungible - if you don't spend $1 on A, you can spend it on B;

3)  No.


Title: Invasion of Rights

Question: My husband was arrested for breaking property in our home during an argument that got out of control,  bail conditions were a month of no contact till court. We were abiding,  however do share a car in which we both commute to work. I was inturupted during work by my manager with an urgent call on her personal cell phone.  It was our appointed officer telling me the police had received an anomonous phone call in which an angry man was in the back ground screaming at a woman about a dog. There was no evidence to link this vague story to either of us. I told the officer on the phone that my husband had been obeying his bail conditions with the exception of swapping the car when the other needed it for work. Also pointed out, which should be on record obvious, that me having been at work all morning,  was not being held hostage at my residence by an abusive husband. I had to end the call and finish work.  I arrived home 5 hours later to find our car in the driveway and my husband hiding in the dark, having been without evidence harassed from the outside of the house with threats, knocking, and bright lights. He had arrived at my home to drop off the car and get his things for the week (while I was at work with respect to the conditions ) & then felt cornered and harassed and frightened into hiding,  fearing making things worse or another arrest. About 30 minutes after I arrived home to this, banging on my door. I stepped outside barefoot and asked what the need for commotion was with no cause. Maybe here is where we messed up, or my husband for hiding instead of trying to explain his presence in my absence. Both these decisions were made out of fear from aggressive approach. I asked the officers of they had a warrent to be at my home and they said they'd get one, then informed me they were seizing my home, meaning I could not enter it again until they found a warrent. They told me I was making things worse, that now we would both get in trouble, and perhaps arrested.  I told them I was no longer comfortable continuing this conversation without legal guidance, and they told me I was released. Meaning: snow on the ground, barefoot wife with no coat, phone, keys, or allowance to enter her home, was released to leave, on foot... I went to the neighbors,  the police shined lights,  banged on doors and windows for 2 hours waiting for their warrent.  When it came, they entered my home and took my husband to jail.  I don't have a lawyer yet, but feel this is being handled unjustly, and even bullied. Please help.

Answer: There is no invasion of rights in what I read. Your husband violated a court mandated no contact order at the end of the story. All the other stuff made no sense, if you can try and explain it more concisely yout may get more advice. Answer #2: Everything the police did was legal and justified


Title: If an infant cracks his ribs from coughing, will that be seen as neglect?

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 A baby cannot crack their ribs from coughing.

Everything you said points to child abuse.


Title: [US] [PA] Leaving scene of accident after police called?

Question:
My wife was involved in an accident today where there were no injuries, and the two vehicles were drivable but definitely seriously damaged. After the accident both parties pulled to the side of the road and exchanged information, though each disputed the others account of how the accident occurred. My wife claims the other party crossed a double yellow to enter a merging lane early and struck my wife as she legally entered the merging lane at its beginning, other party claims my wife merged into her.

Immediately after pulling over police were called. Prior to the police arriving, but after exchanging information, the other drivers boyfriend arrived and claimed my wife was trying to “scam” them and insisted they weren’t waiting for police and then drove off.

Police arrived a few moments later and gave a report # and took our side of the story down then left.

Was this technically “leaving the scene of the accident?” How is this likely to impact the inevitable disparity of stories told to the insurance companies? I believe my wife did everything she was required to, but did the other party do that and if not does that impact the insurance outcomes in any way?

Thanks in advance.

Answer: Their loss. Leaving the scene of an accident is a crime. The fact you waited for police and now have a report weighs greater with you and your insurance than anything they can/will do with theirs.


Title: botched appendix diagnosis is costing us 35k

Question: We took our son to the Emergency Room because his stomach hurt. The nurse asked 1-10. He said 11. They took blood, temperature, and xrays. They sent him home because his temperature dropped, and because he pooped and felt a little better. Next day. Back to the ER for an emergency appendectomy. Doctor says there was puss all over the place in there. Now we get the bill for $35K and our insurance is refusing to cover any of it because they say it wasn't necessary.

Answer:
 I don't think you have the entire story, or you are misunderstanding parts of it.

No insurance company would say acute appendicitis that resulted in a ruptured appendix (which it sounds like it was) was not an emergency.

I'm not sure what you mean by "botched" either. In the ER, his condition improved and he was released. When he got worse, he went back. A case could be made that he should have had a CT scan (but that is fairly controversial in pediatrics) or an ultrasound. But it is definitely a judgment call that has pros and cons either way considering the nonspecific nature of pediatric abdominal pain and the fact that your son seemed to improve over the course of his stay.

Regardless if your insurance company is truly saying that -- and I still maintain that you are misunderstanding some part of something -- then you can fairly easily challenge their refusal to cover an emergency procedure... that is unless your policy doesn't cover emergency procedures or has a ridiculously high deductible.


Title: [California] evicting illegals immigrant tentants.

Question: Currently I have a family of five living out a garage in my property. I suspect they are dealing drugs, I have already verbally told them to vacate about 20 days ago, and no longer take their “rent” money.  What are my next steps? Call BP?  Only the mother n one other are illegal immigrants the other I believe are citizens

Answer:
 Their immigration status is not relevant to the issue at hand. You give them *written* notice of no less than 30 days, or 60 if they've lived there more than a year. Once the notice period has expired, you file for eviction through the court.Answer #2: First of all, their citizen status is irrelevant.

Secondly, can 5 people legally live in your garage? Were you knowingly renting them a substandard apartment? Did you claim this rental income on your tax return? You could be in a lot of trouble there.


Title: [North Carolina] Grandmother wants to circumvent her own will that her daughter set up

Question:
My grandmother just called me asking what the best way to document that she wanted something to happen or something go to somebody after she passed, superseding an existing will.

I don’t know the answer.

I expect that her daughter (my aunt) has set up her will and what not, and may have more control over it than my grandmother would like, so she is trying to find a way to circumvent that.

This will undoubtedly end in family drama, but I figure I should try to get her an answer.

Any thoughts?

Answer:
 If she doesn't like her current will, she just needs to execute a new one. It will supersede the old one. Answer #2: All she has to do is go get another will made. Answer #3: Also, if you're concerned that your aunt has undue influence and may be "financially abusing" your grandmother, call Adult Protective Services for your area.Answer #4: It appears as if holographic wills (a will handwritten by her) are legal in NC, but I would take her to an attorney to get a more official one since it will likely be contested by Controlling!Aunt.

In fact, I think she should do both.  A will in her own hand would be a powerful argument against coercion.

She should consider having someone else assist her with her affairs since your aunt has proven to be less interested in your grandmother's desires than she should be.

IANAL but went through something similar.Answer #5: She can make a new will.  She should probably not have your aunt helping her with it.Answer #6: Take her to a new lawyer, explain the situation.  Exit the room and let her and the lawyer determine what needs to be in her will the way she wants it.

You might also get her to a Dr and get a examination done for competency before the lawyer.

If your aunt doesn't know about this will then she won't start angling to get it changed.Answer #7: Be explicit in the new will the existence  of previous will and any other possible wills and claim they are no longer in effective.


Title: [MD] sold my home 4 months ago, someone didn’t tell the HOA company. HOA Company is now threatening me with collections. Help?

Question:
i guess the first question to me is who is responsible for this lack of communication? i tried contacting the HOA company and they said they need proof from the title company and my realtor should be able to straighten everything. i been contacting my realtor that i was using (redfin, fuck them) and she has not been taking it seriously and obviously has been putting our situation on the back burner. what the hell do i do and more importantly who is responsible?
Topic:
Real Estate law

Answer:
 Well, this is an interesting one.

Was there anything in the HOA agreement or bylaws requiring that you inform the HOA of a sale?

Have you called your title company?  You should be able to go through the closing information and find their information.Answer #2: Is this happening because the new owner refuses to pay HOA fees, and the HOA is coming after you for the unpaid fees?Answer #3: The answer mat possibly be you. Your CC&R documents should outline what involvement they are required to be given when a member's home is sold; have you looked at those documents?

It's unclear why they're threatening to send you to collections; I assume for dues unpaid between the house sale and either now or when the new owners started making payments. Often, mortgage payments can include HOA fees along with insurance and taxes, since the bank has an interest in retaining the full value of the house.

What, exactly are they asking you for as proof? Answer #4: All deeds are publicly recorded. Recording the deed serves as the notice to the HOA (and to the rest of the world) that ownership was transferred. No one can claim they weren't informed if a deed is publicly recorded.

I'm not sure how retrieving recorded documents works in your country, but if you post the address here, it'll be pretty easy for anyone to look up.


Title: [California] my boss is [possibly] about to fire me because he found out I have a boyfriend.

Question:
I met my boss (CEO) on tinder 8 months ago. I had turned down three other job offers at the time and met up with him for drinks.

Was not attracted to him at all and completely friend zoned him. He told me repeatedly that he wants to marry a blonde woman and have blonde kids (he's Asian). Nothing ever happened beyond drinks 2x and it was talking business.

I went my own way, and about 1 month later he asked if I was available to run some ads and I was feeling out some offers and decided to come in and do a little contract work.  After a couple weeks, he made me an offer at the same time I got an offer for a larger company for more money and the same title.   I'm working on my own company and was looking for an interim role (8-12months) so I ended up taking his offer because it was lower powered. I explained to him I was taking a $50k pay cut, and that this was an interim role, and wanted to be clear he was okay with that - and he was.

Well, moving along, we had a team dinner, during which we were talking about relationships and everyone asked about me, and I explained that I have a 7 year long distance open relationship. The second he hears that, he started asking these really pointed and angry questions at me - "what do you mean, OPEN?"

Ever since that night, he has not responded to my emails - he went on a business trip for four weeks and didn't have a single meeting with me, and now he's talking to the other directors and is trying to fire me - they're all defending me because I've single handedly rebuilt the entire operational organization, recruited 4 key senior staff and kept three from leaving.

If he does fire me - do I have a wrongful termination suit here? It's my word against his at this point? How does that hold up?

Answer:
 >If he does fire me - do I have a wrongful termination suit here?

Potentially. California doesn't allow discrimination based on marital status in the workplace, so you *might* have a case.

>It's my word against his at this point? How does that hold up?

It would depend on what he does, how he fires you, the actual reason, etc. He hasn't done it yet so nobody can tell you.


Title: [Texas, US] Hello, I just helped my parents filled out their Jury Duty thing online, please answer a few of my questions.

Question:
Good evening and thank you for clicking on,

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So my parents and I are immigrants and we are not yet citizens, they sent us home a letter for my dad to attend jury duty, and I went on the website to get disqualify because we are not citizens and they do not know a single word of English, after i filled out all the information and I am finally able to reach the page with the following: " You have been Disqualified from jury service for Q-Not a Citizen of the United States.

You are not required to appear. "

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So does this mean we are done? I don't have to mail anything in or call in?

I'm sorry if this is the wrong sub, I am still a bit anxious to know if I've done it right. Thank again for your time.

Answer: You are done.


Title: GA - If my roommate/subtenant, who is on a verbal monthly lease with me, invites her boyfriend to stay overnight more than a few nights in a row, can I call the cops to have him removed for trespassing before he becomes achieves tenant status?

Question: Ok, in addition to the concise answers below (answer is "no trespass"), a good discussion of this is [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xdq9a/can_an_invitedwelcome_guest_be_arrested_and/).  Thanks /r/legaladvice!

Answer: No, because he's not trespassing.  He has the permission of a tenant.  Work this out with your friend like an adult.Answer #2: No. She has the right to have guest over. If he becomes a tenant then you must follow the law to evict them.Answer #3: No because that would be a lie, he has every right to be there as the invited guest of your tenant. You can't bar her from having visitors and you certainly can't call the police and stretch the truth of the matter to avoid liability.


Title: Am I being extorted for money? (need help badly & fast)

Question: [deleted]

Answer:
 This is a super common scam. There is no girl. Cease all communication, and block all numbers. Answer #2: This is a very common scam. Block, ignore and never send photos unless you are okay with everyone seeing them.

Edit: and if they have information that could lead them to your bank account, close that account and open a new one in another bank.


Title: (Ontario, Canada) Student housing building not complete, what can we do?

Question: [deleted]

Answer: It doesn't matter who they think is at-fault, they must offer alternate housing or refund that prorated amount, unless the lease specified otherwise. They are **wrong**!


Title: Paternity issues! Girl refuses to get a test done.

Question: Okay reddit, so recently thia girl that I was seeing for a bit had a baby. She claims that it is either mine or her boyfriend's and refuses to get a paternity test. I'm not ready for a child and the two of them are together which is a better situation for a baby. I just want to make sure I cover all my bases so that it can't come back to bite me in 10 years.  Her boyfriend signed the paternity papers and is on the birth certificate so she says thats the end of it. I was under the impression that without a test done I could still be held accountable down the line if it turns out to be biologically mine. I'm going to call a family practice lawyer as well but I thought I would see what reddit has to say. Any advice?

Answer:
 >  I just want to make sure I cover all my bases so that it can't come back to bite me in 10 years.

It still can, if you end up being the father.

>  Her boyfriend signed the paternity papers and is on the birth certificate so she says thats the end of it

It's not. If she ever breaks up with him she can claim you are the father.

>  I was under the impression that without a test done I could still be held accountable down the line if it turns out to be biologically mine

That's correct.Answer #2: It is going to depend on the state she is in, or where the BF signed the acknowledgement of paternity.

In IL, a guy who voluntarily signs an acknowledgement of paternity after birth  can't get out of it if he later finds out he is not bio-dad.

If he does not affirmatively acknowledge the child but just raises it and acts s the dad, he retains the possibility of challenging paternity in the future.

You need a family law attorney in your state to look this up and advise you.