i 'm not here to yell at you or exact revenge , or '' -dad blows a long puff of air out , and i can imagine him shifting his weight onto one hip , his toes curling under as he struggles with something he does n't want to face , but makes himself do it anyhow- '' but i 'm here to tell you that if you broke up with shannon because of what happened to your mother , then you might want to rethink that . ''