`` i know how much you hated touching me and i may have been a virgin when we married , alessandro , but i knew enough to realize that a man who has to drink himself into a stupor before touching a woman , a man who can barely exchange a civil word with her and has to scrub her scent and touch from his skin as soon as he 's capable of getting up after sex ... a man like that has to be repulsed by the woman in his bed . ''