well , i 'll tell you straight up that no man says to himself as he 's walking down the aisle , gee , i 'm going to work hard and sacrifice so i can provide a good living for my family , and i 'm going to spend hours with my kids even when i 'm tired , all the while hugging and kissing and listening to my wife and telling her all my troubles , and meanwhile , i 'm not going to expect a single thing . ''