this was because , first , he did n't want to learn and second , he was the kind of man who always thought he was right so he did n't think there was anything to learn and my mom flying off the rails was therefore all on her not on the fact that her mother was a weak woman cowed by an overbearing man and her father was more interested in football than fatherhood and expected the women in his life to tow the line and was n't best pleased , and showed it , when they did n't do what he wanted even if he had n't expended the effort to explain what he wanted .