* * * * * jonas did n't stay glued to me during the run up to the memorial service because tate 's mom , shania , ( stella shared her name with me , she also shared that was n't her real name , her real name was bernadette , but it was the name she changed it to when she was forty and having her first ( stella reported there were three that she knew of ) mid-life crisis ) commandeered him , acting like she was a staple in his life even though he looked confused and uncomfortable as she pulled him this way and that , keeping her hands on him nearly all the time .