shes suddenly furious at them all , starting with wayne , dying without notice like that ; and stephanie , whos always so busy fighting with her boyfriend that she can only come by three days a week , and not the right days , obviously ; and right on through her own children , all four of them , calling up to smooth out their own consciences but never actually doing anything much ; and down to clawdius , who could at least be keeping her company while she waits ; but especially at ruth , the only one of them who probably actually understands , who was supposed to come by in her dog-smelling ford taurus and drive them to the grocery store , but instead is missing in action .