then to rein herself in from such madness she would catalog all the times he had failed her : the big and little things , almost daily in occurrence , like forgetting to get something at the store she had asked him to get , the waiting for him at some street corner until it was clear he wasnt going to show , the innumerable times he took her for granted , the times she wore new clothes and he did not notice , the favors done without thanks , the failure to remember a birthday or that she didnt like vinegar on her french fries , the time in high school when they were rebel students and decided to mock the senior prom by attending and him not understanding that she really wanted to go and how disappointed she was after buying a prom dress to hear him say it was a joke and that he never intended to go and so of course they didntenough remembrances to fill a book as long as war and peace and ending when he walked out on her last fall without saying good-bye .