she woke up one morning last week saying it never happened , it never happened and he thought she was having a nightmare but turns out she was saying it had just hit her that she was 58 years old and all her life she kept thinking something wonderful would happen one day and now that she was 58 she had to realize that it never had happened yet and probably never would and she cried and cried and jim didnt know whether to be hurt or angry and was probably both but he did his best to comfort her , held her and told her that she was the wonderful thing that happened to him and he meant it and she said , oh , honey , im so sorry , and he thought maybe then theyd have sex but she said another time .