about the love , about donovan visiting from distant england , about the hope of the world , about country joe and the fishthe berkeley house band , about meeting and not at all falling in love at first sight but growing to know each other over the four semesters it took them to finally realize what was written in their stars , about their wedding in golden gate park during a grateful dead concert ( jerry garcia catered our music , is how her mother liked to put it ) , about deciding that their first child had to be conceived that decade , and going right ahead to make sure .