dancer was going to spend the weekend in a house in estes park with a friend she 'd met only recently but felt she 'd known for yearsoh yes , one found those folks , what both thought one would speak , it did n't matter which , the soul sister thing : it was definitely a woman thing and maybe a 40s thing , finding one 's freedom and one 's self after raising the kids , after disillusionment with the marriage , after the parents had become more like children , finding oneself all alone , the loneliness of it , the freedom of it .