unfortunately , potential parents rarely prepare themselves for this important task by learning about childhood development or even familiarizing themselves with what other parents have experienced through parental guides ; instead , they trust in their feelings , those instincts , prejudices , fears , pleasures , interests , and habits , and mimic adult/child interactions like that which they experienced from their own parents , each playing an old and familiar record in a new way as though this , with the limited repertoire of negatives and positives therein , was in use everywhere .