one day in her early thirties it had dawned on her with the force of a stray comet that she would not be where she now found herselfa sought after attorney , happily married , living what she felt was a full , though still and to be childless , lifeunless she had gained the values her parents had instilled , or rather , allowed her to absorb : love , trust , fairness , with a fair helping of her fathers ohio work ethic and her mothers northern washington tribal nature mysticism .