whenever my dad thinks of his dad , all he sees is a guy who was president of the union , glory be , he never sees a guy who drank himself to death because he couldnt stand going back to his job and doing real work , not after sitting in a union office pretending to be important , not after being the great jackie amognes , the guy who could get you a job with a wave of the hand or fix it so you could get paid for sitting around doing nothing all day as long as you were willing to kiss his ass and make it look like you meant it .