like john locke reiterating that the human animal , no different than any other , concocts an artificial sense of family from emotional bonding for that one purpose which is to facilitate a childs independence , and has no greater or longer lasting bond than this , even though gratitude and respect to ones parents , when warranted , and not obedience , should be maintained throughout life92 , eric erikson states that successful child rearing to the point of the childs independence in late teenage years is one in which parents act as safety nets for children as they stumble and fall when making independent movements away from family,93 an eminently wise suggestion , but still when the right pleasures , the right quantity , and for the right purpose is difficult to determine , let alone do,94 to just let children pursue pleasures as their caprices dictate , and support them when having to endure the negative consequences of their actions , not that there always are immediate ramifications either negative or positive , does seem a somewhat errant form of parenthood the best i understand parenthood when not a parent myself .