it is only since my return to tusita that we parted for any meaningful time , for once siddhattha gotamas body faded , anandaalong with other leaders of the sanghafocused all his attentions on remembering and establishing the dhamma , again putting others before himself ; before he in the end crossed the river , though not into nibbana , which was his destination by right and achievement , butknowing i would returninto nimmanarati heaven , where he , awaiting my word , enjoyed his music for a while ( which hell do at the drop of hat , give five undisturbed minutes ) .