but if you went to the whale people-or to susan day-and opened your shirt and pointed at the bandage and said 'this is partly your fault , so own the part that 's yours , '' they 'd raise their hands and say 'oh no , goodness no , we 're sorry you got hurt , ralph , we whale watchers abhor violence , but it was n't our fault , we have to keep womancare open , we have to man and woman the barricades , and if a little spilled blood is what it takes to do that , then so be it . ''