Ask HN: How to not bring emotion from work back home?
Workout, meditation, distraction, talking with people didn't work for me. They were ways to silent the emotions and postpone the problem.What worked for me was a lot of self reflexion. Understanding way I was angry in the first place.I found out that happiness is just the way of approaching things. That the world is just a projection on your head. An interpretation of the five senses + state (learned experience mostly).Changing the input, just mades you an slave of the environment.
Changing the state, gives you back control over your feelings.If you reflect about why the feelings appear in your mind that generates stress, anger, you can start accepting them, welcoming them, until the point you no longer get anger, or stress...For me, it become a routine. A) a way to trigger the self reflexion, or consciousness while stress happens B) find the reason for the feelings.Example: People don't understand what I say, and then do other things. It bring up fear, rejection, mostly coming from childhood. Ok. I converted an unknown unknown into a know unknown. I excuse my self and decide if better communication skills is a task that I am willing to commit learning, on that case I do, or I just acknowledge that I often going to have mistakes and laugh about it.Time over time, I was able to have happier live. Even enjoying the sadness that sometimes generates things not going the way I wanted at work.