Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite
"My wife wanted to buy a big house and I kept blaming her for the stress."I have a similar situation. It's not unreasonable to not want a bigger house, even if that's what culture tells us we should want that. Maybe your wife is fine being house poor, like mine wants to be. One bad issue and you're sunk and there will be stress. I prefer a cushion for the real possibility of life altering issues arising. We shouldn't all be spending balls the wall like culture tells us and then going up in flames at the first bump (not that it's your situation, but mine).And yes, I'm a loser and feel like it too. That's ok.