I Know What You Think of Me
I had a talk with a friend recently who is newly single, and it was clear to me that Facebook was making her crazy.  She kept asking me questions about what people that were friends with her and her ex thought of her, or were saying behind her back, or were posting about her in a way that she couldn't see.It was an uphill battle, but I finally convinced her of the truth: nobody really talked about her or her ex that much at all.  And what was said was trite and banal, "Oh, I'm sad they broke up..."This was a bit of revelation for her.I think people that obsess over what is said about them behind their backs should take that to heart.  The truth is you probably spend a lot less time in people's thoughts than you think you do.