Time to hand over the reins before Capistrano costs me my youth?
As much as this is an open invitation to rail on the RoR community, I think this is a problem that is a lot more indicative of this brave new software culture both open source and (independent) commercial.If your tool sees any sort of uptake, it suddenly no longer is yours. The community suddenly expects you to not only to continue to modify the base code to improve functionality, but to also adhere to a sort of backwards compatability so that everything they know and loved about your baby never changes.I can't imagine how much more taxing this would be once the tools you built become integral part of other team's workflow.  The burden and stresses of keeping "the world" afloat would cause many a sleepness night for people of strong constitution.