You and Your Research (1986)
There's a part of this that's never ever commented on>I don't like to say it in front of my wife, but I did sort of neglect her sometimes; I needed to study. You have to neglect things if you intend to get what you want done. There's no question about this.As someone that got married during their PhD and is now finishing up and reflecting: it isn't worth it. Neglecting the people in your life that love you in the pursuit of "science" is no different than neglecting them because you have a drug habit or because you're an inveterate gambler or because you're chasing fame and fortune. The science will get done regardless and the only thing you accomplish is ensuring your own interests. Suffice it to say I'm taking steps make sure my next gig has more room.