Write a note to your spouse every day
I have had an opposite experience. Daily notes makes no difference. I was in a relationship for 2 years and have written a poem every day for 400 days straight to her. But it failed nevertheless. In fact, I was told by her that these notes put her in guilt. Weird.Gestures like these amplify whatever the relationship there is to start with.If there's a lot of love, they amplify it.If there's a lot of lack of commitment, they amplify it.They do not change lack of commitment into love magically.Sorry for being the party pooper. I understand where the OP is coming from and I truly respect that. Just wanted to add a bit of more context.