The worst distractions are the ones we love
Replying to the article I thought this would be, rather than the article that’s here:I feel this really hard right now. I’m in a polyamorous relationship with a married woman; I live with her and her husband.I’m trying to build a practice around writing every day. I found a hole in the functional programming literature that I’m well suited to fill. Every time I sit down to write, words are flowing effortlessly, and I’ve gotten positive feedback so far.What I find is that engaging with day to day, normal relationship affirming behaviors (“good morning!”), going on dates, etc edge out space in my head for this other thing. I have space to think deeply about one and a half things. Frequently I feel like I need to disconnect from her emotionally to have space to think about anything else.I haven’t ever heard anyone else describe this experience. I wonder if others experience this?I thought this article might be about it.  I have a lot of symptoms of high functioning autism, though, so maybe this is just the less maladapted version of getting upset that I can’t go read train schedules.