Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?
Before we got married, my wife said she would move with me to California if I ever got a good offer from a major tech company.This year I got an amazing job offer, and my wife threw a giant fit, told me she's not coming, and said "I took a gamble and lost.  I never thought you would actually get an offer".Now she's refusing to get a job, wants me to continue paying for our house that she's living in on the east coast (in addition to rent for my apartment in the Bay Area), wants me to pay for 20 flights per year across the country so she can visit friends and family, and has called me every mean name in the book.So my career is going great but my marriage is falling apart.