I'm not a Woman in Tech
I learned long ago that as an Asian(not White, but...) male working in technology, you are not to express your honest thought on issues with a designated "victim" class, unless you're a part of the class. Words have consequences and you can't share your intent with a toneless text. Not only are you easy to be misunderstood, but oftentimes inadvertently insult. No, not everyone is thin-skinned or "snowflake" as a denigrating term, but non-zero are.  I think many people learned this when Adria Richards got two engineers fired at the PyCon on an inoffensive(subjective) joke.Nowadays, I self-censor more than ever. I've seen friends, people in my networks, or people two-degrees-apart getting torn apart by expressing their opinion. I don't want to waste the lessons I've learned in proxy. I find myself either avoid getting in the situation with "dangerous"(i.e., the "marginalized" group) people, or prefer people I trust when working with important/interesting project.(you can read high-profile instead). I may be stymying the junior developer girl's success by not giving her the opportunities she deserves by preferring "the guys" over her.Am I a part of the problem? Based on the lambastings on sexism in tech, I guess I am. In fact, I know I'm perpetuating the diversity problem, and I should be more inclusive. Of course, I do not harass and work professionally, but the risk is just too high. Despite low likelihood, the risk of being misunderstood just once is too high. The optimal strategy is to protect myself by eliminating any potential situation as much as I can.My only cowardly push-back is that I don't participate in "Asian-only" event, or the ilk that promotes exclusivity in the name of diversity, lest I perpetuate the issue.Even in HN where I've been active for half of decade I couldn't comment on my original account.Kudos to Maria(OP) with her expressions. I just wish I were as brave.