How you 'attach' to people may explain a lot about your inner life
This is a good and interesting read regardless, but I'll just point out that when studies are properly controlled for confounders, the "relationship with the early caregivers" matters much less than we want to think. Maybe not even at all.What shapes us are our interactions with our early peers. This makes sense from a hunter-gatherer point of view too; those are the people we will spend almost all our life with.I highly recommend reading The Nurture Assumption for more on this. The author effectively argues with evidence for why relationships with parents are nothing more than relationships with parents.It really opened my eyes both for things that went on in my upbringing, the upbringing of people I know, and taught me what is going to be important as I raise my son.