Why forgiving someone else is about you
As somebody who's struggling to forgive somebody who's wronged me, I find this article to be a bit wishy-washy, like this:> Reexamine your perceptions of life events that have trapped you in the role of victim.well, what if somebody really truly was a victim?  What if one's parents have condescended and belittled them for decades?  What if one's mother is abusive and drinks too much?  What if somebody spent their entire childhood planning their escape from their parents (successfully!)That kind of stuff doesn't just go away.  Is it even possible to forgive somebody who honestly doesn't think they've done anything wrong?