"Sorry but if what you told me about this tangle of yours is on-key then you probably know him better than I do. Then again, I know him to the point that he has his own morals and his heart would lie in dignity. He would never arrive on a trotting horse, withdraw his sword and, armor shining, rescue you from a blinking boyfriend who has no idea what's going on, grab you by the collar, kiss you passionately as the two of you sail off towards the sunset. You have to be careful, sensitive and above all, sensible in this case which means break up with Ben immediately. Cut this meaningless threesome and let the situation fallow."