The solution, I think, is that we use language at two levels: the literal form signals the safest relationship with the listener, whereas the implicated content -- the reading between the lines that we count on the listener to perform -- allows the listener to derive the interpretation which is most relevant in context, which possibly initiates a changed relationship.
我认为解决的答案是我们在两个层面上使用语言 字面意思表达的是 与听者的最安全的关系 而引伸义 我们留给听者自己去领会的言外之意-- 则使他发掘出 这个语境中最恰当的解释 而这有可能促成一种新的人际关系