You need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt.
你需要把创伤变成 你自身的一部分， 你必须把生命中最糟糕的时间， 揉搓成胜利的故事， 用更好的自己 来还击能伤害你的事物。