And when I began to listen to the sexlessness of the couples that I work with, I sometimes would hear people say, "I want more sex," but generally, people want better sex, and better is to reconnect with that quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of renewal, of vitality, of Eros, of energy that sex used to afford them, And so I began to ask a different question.
当我听到我的那些无性生活的同事的故事时 有时我听到别人说：我想要更多的性生活。 但很多时候，人们更在意性生活的质量, 最好的是能过传统意义上性生活能提供给他们的活力、 新鲜感、动感、和充满动力的性爱 或者他们希望 能得到这性爱。 所以，我会问另一个问题：