But instead of seeing it in the binary fashion, we focus on all of us as what we call bystanders, and a bystander is defined as anybody who is not a perpetrator or a victim in a given situation, so in other words friends, teammates, colleagues, coworkers, family members, those of us who are not directly involved in a dyad of abuse, but we are embedded in social, family, work, school,
但是，然而将之当作是性别两极化， 我们注重在于我们就好比称之为旁观者， 在这旁观者的意思是任何人在任何情况下， 如果不属于施虐者或被虐者， 换句话说就是朋友，队友，同事， 一起工作的，家庭成员， 甚至是不间接有关系的人们， 但是我们在社交，家庭，工作，学校