But no, in our mind up there are a host of things going on that we don't always know how to bring to the person that we love, because we think love comes with selflessness and in fact desire comes with a certain amount of selfishness in the best sense of the word: the ability to stay connected to one's self in the presence of another.
但其实并不然，在我们心底的某个角落, 有着一些我们不知道的东西 不知道怎么样将这些东西告诉我们的爱人， 这是因为，我们认为爱是自私的， 而性欲在很大程度上出于我们的自私 如果说非得这么说的话 自私就是和别人在一起的时候 只顾自我的感受。