A more effective way to think about my relations might be in terms of closeness and distance, where at any given point in time, with any single person, I am both close and distant from that individual, all as a function of what I need to do right now.
一个更有效的看待关系的方法 可能是根据亲疏关系和距离， 也就是说，在任意时刻，和任何人， 我都和那个人既亲近又保持一定距离， 这都要看我现在需要做些什么。