Now, in this paradox between love and desire, what seems to be so puzzling is that the very ingredients that nurture love -- mutuality, reciprocity, protection, worry, responsibility for the other -- are sometimes the very ingredients that stifle desire.
在爱与欲这对矛盾体里 令人不解的是那些滋润着爱的养分------ 相依相伴、互惠、 爱护有加、担心、和为对方肩负起来的责任 这些东西有时也会抑制性欲。