It's not an act of love to treat all reported "pain" as equal.  If we truly care about someone's greatest good, an act of charity might be to tell a person to "brush themselves off, grow up, and move on, and serve someone close by". 

It's a sign of spiritual immaturity and instability to "encourage one's intellect to assign" such importance to such matters.  The intellect has been "co-opted" by the passions, and that's a bad thing.  People would benefit more if they didn't let their emotions ride roughshod over their intellect, fanning the flames of every little set back.   

Stronger people "bear up, smile, turn toward others to serve them, not to whine to them. others, they move onward, get busy, build, construct, repair, deepen friendships".  Spiritual resiliency.  They don't whine about little events 45 or 50 years after an event.  They "move on" with God at their side, very close by their side. 

"Rage" no less! Now that should cause some deeper examination and rectification.