LW1 Honestly, by your letter I agree with your family member. To drive an hour and a half to confront someone at their workplace (usually flagged as a bad sign when a guy does it) is not a balanced reaction. You say neither of you are happy in the marriage and you can't trust her. She won't listen to you but expects you to listen to her at any time (4:30 in the am because you missed her text due to sleeping?) You've listed a number of reason not to stay together. Do you have any reason to stay? It really doesn't look like it from your letter. Counseling might help, but I really think it's only going to help you part ways.