doctor crs:  I hear you.  Married to a surgeon.  On call for Christmas and family birthdays, misses parenting moments, continual education at home after long hours, lectures outside of office/surgery time but no pay, then has to keep books, make business decisions, hire, fire etc.  The continual hit is not seen by people who do not run a business.  I wish you the best.  We are cutting back our hours too.