I am sure you would like to have everything out in the open, but you are a drug user, which is still a large minority in the country. I would prefer not to have a world where drug use is normalized and has no "stigma" attached to it, as would most hard working parents...And they are NOT easier to deal with once out of the "shadows", they become more commonplace. Then you have kids facing choices after HS, do I want to hunker down, work hard get a good degree and good job, and be a responsible adult ? Or should I just get stoned and not deal with it...You trivialize these choices as you are probably in the latter category but that is reality for many - especially in a hopeless city like Eugene filled with liberal "the government will and is obligated take care of you" activists. Yes - the Government will ensure you can get just enough pot and munchies to pacify you so you don't complain too much.