Hi Judy, getting personal care services is very expensive and oftentimes leads people to think creatively. I can see that you are already thinking creatively for yourself and your friends. I think sometimes we forget that a person has the right to choose how he/she wants to be cared for, and how he/she wants to live. If we infringe upon a person's free will, we are no longer upholding the ideals of a democratic state. Maile