My experience is that "the laity" don't know how to understand the experiences of a survivor, mainly because they really don't want to hear about it. It's too creepy, or they immediately get their backs up and start defending Father So and So, or Sister Whojamebop, who never would have done something like that... even after so many years of these revelations! Let's face it, this is weird and uncomfortable stuff to be talking about. No one wants to be disturbed, especially those who still attend Mass every week, or even just once a year for Midnight Mass on Xmas Eve. Whatever... at least we are talking about it on NCR, right?