I already give back on my own and will happily pay the extra taxes for things like this if that's what it comes down to.

If you don't want your kids to eat school breakfast then go for it. It doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else.

You seem to think self sufficiency is wrapped up in relatively minor things like this. I don't agree that it is. 

I had free breakfast and lunch growing up, I also had government assistance to make my way through college. Despite all this all my debts are paid off, I have a great job, and am extremely self sufficient. Costco oatmeal wouldn't have had an impact. 

Sometimes a leg up at the right time can help people focus on larger things. It doesn't make people weak and it doesn't make people moochers. And because you don't partake doesn't make you somehow above the rest of society.