The point you make about the statement "When he got shot I was" also causes me to cringe or get ill or feel disgusted. I notice so often that people will make the statement as if it "happened" rather than saying "I did this." I am sure I've used the same type wording on occasion since I'm human. It's disconcerting when I hear others do the same. I hope the kid will someday say "When I shot him...." When I say I did something I am able to internalize the act. It becomes about my responsibility rather than something outside myself. I'm able to heal & hopefully help others involved heal as well, if that's possible. All these kids will be impacted for the rest of their lives. I hope kids will learn from it.

I also appreciate your disdain at the descriptors used by journalists, in particular. This is stupid, but I'm going to say it anyway...the kid was not muscular! In the story about the kid getting killed by an alligator they described the lavish hotel. Why does the hotel matter?