I like to have BBQ's at my house and invite lots of people.  Everyone has a great time because everyone loves a good BBQ.  One of the bad things about eating outdoors is that you attract lots of flies and bees and other bugs.  The bugs LOVE the fact that I"m having a BBQ because they also like to eat BBQ even though they aren't invited.  Throughout the BBQ I usually curse the bugs and wish they would just go away.  I'm sure all my guests would also like it if the bugs go away but it's not going to stop them from enjoying a good BBQ.  Just because a bunch of bugs show up at my BBQ doesn't mean that I like the bugs or that I condone them.  Am I supposed to stop having BBQ's?