I apologize for ascribing beliefs to you.  I should have asked.
So, I will:  do you believe that Russia's wishes about what Ukraine ought to do is more important that the wishes of the citizens of Ukraine?
The reason that Ukrainians want to join NATO is precisely because of Putin's desire to take over Ukraine.  It seems to me that Ukrainians should be the one who should have the right to decide what is right for them, not others.