Virginia , I take it you might not be a married lady .  No spouse has the kind of power over the other   
of which you speak .  Nor does the spouse have control of the behavior of his/ her partner  . 
 However if somebody picks a lemon in the garden of love one could choose to exile the offending party and ask for attendance at some counseling.   
Your other notions make me wonder who has fed you these ideas .  
And the worst is your setting yourself up as judge and executioner.   Please free yourself from those who are using your innocence .  They don't have your best interests at heart  .