Roughly 60 million Americans voted for each of the two major candidates.  I dare say many of those ballots (on both sides) were cast with hesitation, regret and doubt.  I am confident few Clinton voters were endorsing pay to play politics, inside hardball DNC tactics against Bernie, or the lifetime disconnect between the Clintons and the truth.  I am also confident few Trump voters were endorsing billionaires not paying tax, mysogyny, racism or sexism.  

We don't need to "fight harder."  We need to actually listen to and try to understand one another.  We need to tune out the polemic talking heads on both sides and understand the fear of the immigrants and minorities, as well as the bafflement and resentment of a vast middle class finding itself increasingly left behind with lousy jobs and lousy schools for their children.  Our candidates this year weren't adults, a mammoth failure of the parties.  We can find common ground, and if we do, we will also find better leaders.  Up to us.