Personally, Memorial Day is about remembering those who gave themselves with the intention of defending us all. It's about honoring people who were doing a necessary and terrible job. It is not about honoring the military itself.

So, whether or not the military is being used appropriately or doing good/bad things doesn't enter into it for me. I'm not honoring war. I'm honoring people who (whether I agree with their politics or not) were attempting to do something selfless.