Eventually one has to come to accept the reality that the transfer of a child into the welfare state is a failure of both the mother and the  father of the child-
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The disservice of any child is a tragedy to be sure -
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-but assigning secondary and tertiary blame while neglecting to point at the primary cause  aids no one-
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-and it potentiates the cycles of inactivity and tragedy