"I have a theory as to why you (we as men) don't get it."

The Korn Ferry Hay group did the largest wage study in history, with 8.7M participants in 33 nations, across hundreds of industries.  Canada was in their analysis.  They found that if you did only two things:

a) controlled for employer
b) controlled for job title

The average 'wage gap' in those 33 nations was a minuscule 1.6%.  Every other study stops at the industry (clearly not equal work) or at a government job classification (ballpark but still not equal work) and doesn't go to the actual same employer or job. Once you do, the wage gap effectively vanishes.

So, "we" don't get it because this kind of analysis has been done for 30+ years, now, and no reasonable economist thinks the gap is due to workplace discrimination, but 30 years on, it's still getting pitched as discrimination in the media. People are being openly dishonest at this point, and it's not the economists who are the dishonest ones.