Now sure where that analysis came from, watching a lot of Dr. Phil maybe?  As for being "looked at as an outsider", I concur with the great philosopher Marx who said:
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"PLEASE ACCEPT MY RESIGNATION. I DON'T WANT TO BELONG TO ANY CLUB THAT WILL ACCEPT PEOPLE LIKE ME AS A MEMBER".
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This is especially true as it pertains to the local's club which apparently has a prefrontal lobotomy as an initiation rite.