This is such an interesting question that you pose. I had a vocation to lead a contemplative, but a teaching, life. That was all blown to smitherines (sp?) from the moment the first act of molestation happened when I was in High School. I married, had two children, have two grandchildren now, and I will soon turn sixty-five. Looking back, I see that marriage and raising a family takes ALL YOUR TIME AND ENERGY... so I understand the reasoning behind devoting yourself to a contemplative life in order to have the time and energy to immerse oneself wholeheartedly in the spirit. Celibacy, and not having a family, can free the individual to do this. I think maybe celibacy is the issue. It could just be a bridge to far.