I'm sorry, Sheila, but the way that I read what you write, sounds as if you believe that married people have no other obligations, beyond family and marriage.  The reality for most of us is that, in addition to giving time and marriage to marriage and family, we work, we volunteer in the community, and do things to have fun.  We lead spiritual lives and make time for contemplation.  
It's usually a struggle, but most of us manage quite well, with help from family and community.