It appears you enjoy disparaging the "local" ways even when several have tried explaining it to you.  Your comment "If I could only give up being successful, having a nice place to live and enjoying all that Waikiki has to offer to those with money to spend I would be assimilated. "  Rather than trying to understand the explanation and adding constructive comments all I see is sarcasm, put downs, and boasting.  Have a good day!