Thanks for the awareness! Yes, I see now the belittling, the parental alienation, the continuous use of the "f" word!  Teaching the only child to call me a "f b" repeatedly! I see it!  Never saw it as such! And now working w abuse victims in my community, I see the signs I ignored despite continuous attempts to sacrifice, and attempt to be helpful and all the cheating that the new gold digger got confessions to in writing and then forwarded them to me joining in adding to the abuse!!! Now there are two abusers together! Wonder how that would work! And yet because of class and income and prestige, it is interesting how much support society affords such folks as does our discussion board, ascribing such behavior as infidelity and hostility and ghosting and manspailing to supposed, " good sense!" Thanks for raising the awareness! Thus we can save people from devastating illnesses!