If the daughter's job is requiring her to work 60-70 hours a week, how do you expect her to make it to a memorial that includes traveling to another state?  I've worked that type of schedule and you are waking up, going directly to work, coming home, inhaling some food, and then collapsing into bed.  There is not enough time left over in the week to be able to travel to another state and then try to make up those missed hours in a week.  I doubt she can just say no to her boss since it's a new job (and it's possible she doesn't have time off accrued yet anyway).  And most jobs only give bereavement time for a funeral at the time of death..... not for a random day months later.  Basically, you're mad because she didn't risk getting fired in order to travel across country have breakfast with you.  Do you really think she can't recall her father's life unless she's sitting at the brunch table with you?