All immigrants once they get here have a hard life. They stay because they want better life for their children.
   Doing manual (degrading according to the norms of the old country) jobs and trying to do their best of their children.
       If you have written this article without any help from any one else, you are in a better position than the 90% newcomers who have little or no communication skills in English.
        What most immigrants who come here with families do is, one partner takes any full-time job available and let the other one go to school and work part time. The first few years are really hard and then the other full-time partner takes their turn at improving themselves at education. Seen this formula succeed again and again.
     Let your children help once they are of working age. Holding them back and sticking to the restrictive rules of our old countries hinders their progress and confuses them, with unwanted results.  Don't have to assimilate but do integrate.