People join social clubs like the one described exactly *to* associate with a certain type of person. It sounds like Rhonda doesn't fit this particular mold. There's nothing wrong with LW recognizing that, and recognizing that they should not attempt to sponsor someone that clearly doesn't fit the club's specifications - particularly when she doesn't want to sponsor that person in the first place. Certain things just are not socially acceptable, and for many people, it includes wearing negligee in a professional setting. Rhonda likes to wear what she likes to wear, and she doesn't have to change that, but that doesn't mean everyone else has to accept it or should change to accommodate her, either.