Peace to you as well, but a "friend" wouldn't write such a condescending, pompous reply.  If only the dispassionate are allowed to contribute to "substantial discussion" about war, no warriors' or victims' voices will be heard and only those who profit from war, directly or indirectly, will.  It's so easy to discredit those who speak truth to power by insinuating they're too emotional for rational discourse on important topics, but that's not a very positive contribution to on-going civil discourse.
My original comment above is my contribution to the observance of Memorial Day, no less valid than the emotional celebrations of war and sacrifice occurring at military cemeteries across the islands today.  I stake my rainbow flag here, not in honor of war and its heroes, but in honor of its many victims.  I have a right to do so, on this day of all days.  I am, after all, a product of both, and my "too much anger and pain" comes from remembering that.