Mekun: OK....we both agree that "rubbing people's nose in it" is not exactly an endearing action.   There are times when we can help, there are times we need help.....to help others is not to be "superior" to them; to be helped by others is not to be "inferior" to them.  Sometimes we're the helper, sometimes we're the "helpee".......that's life. 

 At the risk of being a little "sappy" here (I'm a sentimental old man) may I suggest we all need to take a few minutes now and then and listen to one of my favorite songs....Bill Withers' "Lean on Me."  ..go to Youtube and listen to it.   To me, it says it all in terms of community.  regards, Gary crum