I was overwhelmed with grief when I realized that despite all the community formed by survivors of sexual abuse by priests and in working together so few of you found healing.  I'm a survivor of incest and found the way to heal alone--which would take up more space than is available here.  It's a trauma that interferes with personal relationships  but healing is possible, even after all this time.    

One reason why survivors of sexual abuse are so traumatized and have such difficulty healing is the connection of our genitals with our autonomic nervous system--the body system that regulates the heart, digestion, breathing, etc.  The connection is with the brain stem and vagus nerve system which do not have a direct connection with our higher brain so that the trauma is hard to address.  See the polyvagal nervous system online with--can't remember his last name at the moment.  will get back to you.