Oh my, "burned in fire for eternity". I am very happy that you have found a path, but  I wish you would appreciate that you cannot expect every Catholic to believe exactly as you do.  After all, it took you many years for you to find what made sense in your life.
As a policeman, you must realize that everybody is different and their motivations and understandings are different.  We all come from different circumstances and do the best that we can to understand what God means in our lives.  It is the height of narcissism for you to finally find God, then expect everybody else to follow you in lockstep.  We have our own methods and believe that they are in line with church teachings.