I see your point of view and honor you right to have it. It is not necessary that you agree with me or me with you. "We see through a glass darkly". 
       I don't read what Jesus is saying in the context of His whole ministry as portrayed in the Gospels as saying what you say He meant. I don't believe my salvation or yours depends on one or the other of use being right on this issue. What IS important is that we follow our conscience. 
       He said, "Love your God with your whole mind and whole heart and your neighbor as yourself, for this is the Law and the Prophets". 
       His commandment is that we love one another. The history of the church, Protestant and Catholic is rife with instances of intolerance, bigotry and strife, where murder and other crimes against humanity are not being committed in God's name. I think somehow we got it wrong somewhere, all of us.  
       St. Paul's teaching on conscience is a good reference point for understanding differences of opinion.