Its tricky. So many approaches are possible. Didn't talk to my dad for 10 years and then saw him in a grocery store.Walked up to him and he told me he loved me.I had 5 years of therapy to figure out that he wasn't just all bad and there were good memories,too.
Some want to go through a list of grievances. Old men, I figure, can't handle that. And, are allergic to blame.But, telling me he loved me and I him was all we needed. He apologized and had regrets-but we didn't go into it case by case. It kinda metabolized after that.Really close now.