It isn't about which is more important. It is about to which do we owe our priority of care in times of crisis, the close or the distant?

That is certainly the way those refugees see it, their own responsibilities will be to prioritize their own family members over non-family, their own ethnic group or countrymen or coreligionists over others. When they come here they will have as a first concern to get their family members here, not the effects of that on their new neighbours. They will organize into communities of people from the same country, ethnicity, or culture, to help each other first.  And you will applaud them for that solidarity.

But your own solidarity can't extend to the girl from another part of the country, she can get in line with the rest of the world?