#2. After Vatican II, there were priests who did their best to meet the needs of their large congregations, but they often found themselves alone in parishes with several thousand families, trying to respond to often competing demands.
What I'm trying to say is that the problem is structural -- not enough priests, too many people, no vision to change the equation -- and that allowing married priests is only part of the response we need. We're choosing our priests for all the wrong reasons, giving them the wrong training (24 hours of classical Philosophy?) then blaming them for not meeting our expectations as ministers. 
I appreciate your insights into the lives of married clergy, but I think we need to begin by asking ourselves what it is we're trying to accomplish. If it is to meet the ministerial needs of several thousand families, we need to make radical changes for which we are manifestly ill-prepared.