You are not wrong---yes, a predicted and predictable rejoinder came, but my forecast was like me predicting, amid thunder and lightning, that it might rain. And I am afraid that some of these people really do believe that forever-lost families, filled with pain, tears, and lasting sorrow, are merely necessary collateral damage in Catholicism's War against Modernity.  They think like the delusional  infantryman in Vietnam thought: "We have to destroy the village (family) to save it."