Yin, I'm very sorry for what you and your family member have gone thru. 

I know there are grounds for your anger and know how difficult it is to look at The Church in an honest way and not find reason to be horrified. I also know there are wonderful individuals and pockets of holiness within this very corrupt institution. I try to focus on these individuals and "pockets". Yet, I admit, it is not always easy - not by a long shot. 

God bless,

John David