Again, stop missing my point. Jut because one heads off to work that one finds intellectually engaging doesn't mean that one's children are not important or ' the most important' . In fact, I would argue that being fulfilled in work life makes one better able to cope with the vagaries and vicissitudes of raising a child. Intellectual fulfillment is important and can lead to contentment, stability and calmness, all good attributes for a parent. One doesn't deny the other.