I think that the hypocrisy has more to do with it.  My main issue with the Catholic Church and why I still have major issues with it is because the rich seem to get away with so much because they are rich (i.e. school, special access, annulments, etc.)  That seems so against the Gospel message that it isn't even funny.  

And yes, I have dealt with very conservative Catholics.  I went to UIUC and the Newman Center there is teeming with them.  I actually walked out of a sermon by the pastor there which I found incredibly offensive.  And that was back when we were still having Mass in English.  It was even worse when I got there.  The main Mass on Sundays at the church connected with the Newman Center is now in Latin.  When I went to grad school there, I didn't attend Mass because of it.  (And this is just my direct experience.  I've also interacted with quite a few people from Christendom and Steubenville.)