"What IS important is that we follow our conscience."

Conscience is fine when the question is not directly governed by what Christ clearly said.  But on this issue, where are Christ's words unclear, or made less clear by "His whole ministry"?  You argue that, when taken in toto, Jesus' commandment is merely to love.  Well, He certainly told us not to commit adultery, and loving one's spouse includes not committing adultery.  You would argue that one does not commit adultery by divorcing and re-marrying.  Jesus clearly said the opposite.  Is there a single false statement in this post, so far?  

Which leads to the next point:  Since Jesus himself --- God Himself --- spoke clearly on divorce, who are we to say he was wrong?  You would argue --- you would HAVE to argue --- that YOU have a right to say, in good conscience, that you are right and God is wrong.  But that would entail your denying God's very existence, because God cannot be wrong.

Where in all this do you disagree?