"Unfortunately, since the Supreme court's decision, all I have heard from are those who see it as a "winner take all" issue."

Well, if by "all" you mean that which is legally guaranteed under the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution or the Due Process clauses of the  14th and the 5th Amendments, then yes, "all" is as appropriate now as it was for slaves a hundred and fifty years ago, and anything less than "all" equally inappropriate. How much clearer can I make it?