It's also characteristic of an abusive person to turn things around on the other person "now I request that you desist from your continuous attempts to bully and abuse me" when they are confronted.

As it is for an abusive person to behave like a child (see above comment "whatever") when they encounter someone smarter then themselves (I'll give you $5 if you brag about your phd) who doesn't submit to their abuse and calls them out on what they are.

By the way, your thinking is very much "insider" 1) it is a highly misogynistic society we live in 2) your behavior and comments are very typical for a narcissistic abusive person as I have demonstrated.