"How about finding out what she is like as a person"? You don't think that total disregard of the dress code and wearing something racy is indicative of "what she is like as a person"? We also don't know, really, just how much spillage there was. LW1 could have been exaggerating, but I doubt she was exaggerating when she said other people were whispering about it all night. If you come looking like a s-k-a-n-k after hearing the dress code rules, that speaks highly of "what she is like as a person."