Whoa, Nelly: Let's start with, "Because I don’t always want my husband to have advance knowledge of some of my purchases, I’m forced to use my work address." "Forced"? As in being an unwilling participant ... a victim? ... and just how are you being "forced" to deceive your spouse? ... and just what are you buying that you flip out if the receptionist opens it? How about a little rewording: "I am a dishonest person who deceives her husband by sneaky behavior and hide finances from him. I also take the victim stance and am an expert at the blame game." Frankly, I am at a loss why anyone would tolerate you as a spouse or an employee.