First you need a better grasp on geography, second your claim that 80% of the population subscribes to the local mindset is wide of the mark, third do you really thing that the SDSU students wanted to party with you and sleep with you? 
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Finally the comparison between NYC and Hawaii is comical. One need only look at the opportunities available in NYC and the paucity of opportunities in Hawaii to realize that the NYC local mindset is superior.
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Finally I'm not complaining I'm observing.