I will agree with you about some denominations and congregations.  I suspect we might disagree with the choice of denominations and congregations that we disagree with.  The church I went you just changed denominations because of theological disagreements.  After that was handled the pastor retired after almost 39 years in the pulpit there. 
I know what you mean about language.   I have a love/hate feeling for the Law and Order series.  One of the episodes deals with a kid that stones his mom and leads them to one of the 'Jesus' camps.   Of course, the lawyers and the cops on the show take everything out of context and misinterpret everything and put the leader on trial for encouraging murder.   Out of context some of the language can be taken that way.