To help you with your deficiency in understanding I will draw a comparison that may be close to home for you.  Not applying correct discipline is like only going 30 kmph on the 401.  You can delude yourself that it is safer but really you are endangering yourself and all of society.  Portraying anybody who actually does apply correct discipline as someone who goes 300 kmph on the same road is a falsehood.  The real trick is to keep it at the limit or a little over.  That is the secret to good parenting.  Take it from someone who knows.  I have seen your failings in other people.  It is really quite sad.  Especially for the snow flake children you attempt to raise.