I'm not sure it's not something to be proud of.  But I do agree I don't want recognition for it from stupid ceremonies, anyone standing for the anthem, or even a holiday.  I'm proud I served, and I think every citizen should.  It was a wonderful experience in addition to a way of saying "thank you" to my country.

You're 100% correct that the murders we've committed with our troops are not honorable.  But, I blame that more on the citizen and the politicians than the troops.  I never supported the wars I've seen in my lifetime, but I still wanted to serve simply to really defend the country, should such a war happen.