"Be the change you wish to see."

There was an old song:  "Wishing will make it so" for dreamers; but all the great and small changes in this world had a beginning by an individual whose wishes were so strong to see the change that he began the effort and soon had followers.

The situation where the baptizing pastor excludes a candidate because of hair style, is the perfect demonstration of how easily a pastor can personally interpret and decide who is or is not "fit" to be a member of God's family and cause such irreparable soul damage.  Yet, individual members are to erase their own conscience
and follow the dictates of the G.C. administration. 

This is when religion becomes toxic to one's mental, emotional, and spiritual health.