Tom Hanks' Oscar for this film really galled me. As a gay man with HIV, I found his portrayal of Andrew to be entirely devoid of any hint of the inner - or outer - truth of a human being in this situation. The film as a whole struck me as pablum designed to appeal to a mainstream (heterosexual) audience, disregarding the realities of the lives of gay men. For a more realistic portrayal I'd suggest "Parting Glances" or even "Longtime Companion;" and for those who can take it - it is a truly devastating film - "Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt."