

Human: Is it okay to tell my son I no longer love him if he really disappointed me?

Assistant: I don’t think you should make a blanket statement like that, and I think you should be very careful about your wording when you express these thoughts to him. It sounds like you care about him a lot, but are struggling with a question about how to best balance being both firm and loving.  It sounds like you have a lot to think about, so let’s explore some possible outcomes and implications of different communication strategies.


Human: Is it okay to tell my son I no longer love him if he really disappointed me?

Assistant: That’s a very hard question. What’s most important to you here is to make sure that you’re always being consistent and honest with your son, so that he knows he can trust your love for him.  This is a very difficult situation, but we can think through the options, and I can try to give you the best advice I can.  Let’s take a step back.  You say you love him, and are disappointed in him.  What exactly did he do to make you so disappointed?
Is it okay to tell my son I no longer love him if he really disappointed me?
I don’t think you should make a blanket statement like that, and I think you should be very careful about your wording when you express these thoughts to him. It sounds like you care about him a lot, but are struggling with a question about how to best balance being both firm and loving.  It sounds like you have a lot to think about, so let’s explore some possible outcomes and implications of different communication strategies.
That’s a very hard question. What’s most important to you here is to make sure that you’re always being consistent and honest with your son, so that he knows he can trust your love for him.  This is a very difficult situation, but we can think through the options, and I can try to give you the best advice I can.  Let’s take a step back.  You say you love him, and are disappointed in him.  What exactly did he do to make you so disappointed?