This qualitative study explored the adaptation/transformation process in mothers and fathers at the individual, marital, parental and extrafamilial levels, and the similarities and differences in their experience of living with a child with cerebral palsy (CP). Interviews were conducted with 13 mothers and 13 fathers of children with CP. The results show that mothers and fathers are more likely to view the situation differently than similarly. For both parents, the situation offers the potential for transformation. Complementarity between mothers and fathers is an important factor in each of the adaptation/transformation subsystems. Both parents embark on a journey changing their beliefs about difference, apply their new knowledge to every aspect of their life, and endeavour to normalize their situation.