In terms of people with disabilities advocating for their sexual rights, in 2011 the French government took a stand on the issue of sexual accompaniment (practice also known as sexual assistance). Discussions taking place within political bodies and in the media continue to be stimulated by moral judgments, however without explaining the lower frequency of socio-gendered relationships. They are simply recorded, objectified and deplored. This article proposes an in depth look into the debate, not by questioning the issue of sexual needs or the humanization of people with disabilities, but by analyzing the reasons for a difference in the frequency of socio-gendered relationships. Is there one (or more) social casualties or can this phenomenon be explained solely by bodily differences?