In Epirus, the word miroloyia refers to two types of laments, performed in very different circumstances. The former are women’s laments, occurring during funerary rituals or, unknown from men, in everyday life ; the latter are played by gypsy musicians during patronal feasts. This article questions the link between both types of miroloyia and shows up the differentiated roles of women and men as regards death. Women manage death when it has just happened and speak directly to the dead persons, while men stand aside. On the other hand, patronal feasts give men the opportunity to weep over their dead. They do not directly speak to them but do it through an intermediary, the gypsy clarinet player, whom they entrust with managing their emotions.