Stop the message 'A software update is required to connect to your iPad' without doing a software update I'm not interested in updating any software at this point. I would like this message to stop being displayed. Is there way to stop it from being displayed? I would prefer a System Preferences solution, but I'm also comfortable at the command line.
I'm currently running MacOS 10.15.5 and IPadOS 14.4.
You can't. Usually this is a very small update which allows your more recent iPad running iOS 14, to connect to your Mac running a macOS version pre-Big Sur.