How to stop rejecting / avoiding things? I'm getting aversion when someone do things that I don't like. This happens when a person do and not on natural things like rain. But It is hard to recorgnise it as aversion because that aversion is not towards a person. I just don't like certain actions that affect me (Only the things that affects me in someway). I don't want to hit someone or to hurt someone. So I always try to avoid such situations. But It is not always possible and that avoiding proccess makes suffering, makes doubts. So, How can I stop avoiding things ? How can I practise more acceptance ? How can I face anything without getting aversion?
Very good question, focused on real and useful problem.
Mind generates aversion when things go contrary to what it believes is &quot;right&quot;. This belief is called &quot;attachment&quot;. For example you believe that only certain weather is good and that it should be that same weather most of the time.
So the first technique is to remember this as soon as you feel aversion (basically, as soon as you feel emotionally disturbed):     &quot;what is my attachment in this case?&quot;. Once you identify the attachment you should think: &quot;this attachment is a cause of suffering and an obstacle to Enlightenment, I shall let it go&quot;. And then you should make effort to let go of that attachment. &quot;I shall not be attached to what I think is good weather. I should enjoy all weather as it is.&quot;
The second technique is to turn problems into blessings by changing your perspective. Here's how. Every time you have some unpleasant experience, tell to yourself: &quot;this is actually a blessing because it gives me chance to practice Dharma and reach Enlightenment.&quot; Thinking like this will immediately turn a negative experience into a positive, happy event. Instead of experiencing suffering your mind will be elated.
Initially, you may tend to keep forgetting these instructions. If that happens you will react automatically as you always did. That's okay, keep practicing, keep trying to remember. (This is called mindfulness.)
Eventually you will reach a point when the problems themselves will serve as automatic reminders. At which point the game is won: what was previously triggering aversion will now trigger recollection of Dharma.