Is Buddhism in conflict with manliness? Is Buddhism in conflict with manliness?

I don't mean macho manliness but being a real man. To be man we have to compete, obtain resources and protect our families.
Could it be all achieved reasonably and with compassion? Could a man following Dhamma be a real, good man?

This is a question I ask myself for a very long time. 
Thank you for your responses :)
OP: To be man we have to compete, obtain resources and protect our families. Could it be all achieved reasonably and with compassion?
  Could a man following Dhamma be a real, good man?


What you describe here is basically known as a householder or the head of a household in old times, and maybe even today.

The Sigalovada Sutta has plenty of good advice:


  The wise endowed with virtue
  Shine forth like a burning fire,
  Gathering wealth as bees do honey
  And heaping it up like an ant hill.
  
  Once wealth is accumulated,
  Family and household life may follow.
  By dividing wealth into four parts,
  True friendships are bound;     
  
  One part should be enjoyed;
  Two parts invested in business;
  And the fourth set aside
  Against future misfortunes."
  
  "In five ways should a wife as the western direction be respected by a
  husband: by honoring, not disrespecting, being faithful, sharing
  authority, and by giving gifts.
  
  "And, the wife so respected reciprocates with compassion in five ways:
  by being well-organized, being kindly disposed to the in-laws and
  household workers, being faithful, looking after the household goods,
  and being skillful and diligent in all duties.


From the Dighajanu Sutta:


  "And what does it mean to maintain one's livelihood in tune? There is
  the case where a lay person, knowing the income and outflow of his
  wealth, maintains a livelihood in tune, neither a spendthrift nor a
  penny-pincher, [thinking], 'Thus will my income exceed my outflow, and
  my outflow will not exceed my income.' Just as when a weigher or his
  apprentice, when holding the scales, knows, 'It has tipped down so
  much or has tipped up so much,' in the same way, the lay person,
  knowing the income and outflow of his wealth, maintains a livelihood
  in tune, neither a spendthrift nor a penny-pincher, [thinking], 'Thus
  will my income exceed my outflow, and my outflow will not exceed my
  income.' If a lay person has a small income but maintains a grand
  livelihood, it will be rumored of him, 'This clansman devours his
  wealth like a fruit-tree eater.' If a lay person has a large income
  but maintains a miserable livelihood, it will be rumored of him, 'This
  clansman will die of starvation.' But when a lay person, knowing the
  income and outflow of his wealth, maintains a livelihood in tune,
  neither a spendthrift nor a penny-pincher, [thinking], 'Thus will my
  income exceed my outflow, and my outflow will not exceed my income,'
  this is called maintaining one's livelihood in tune.


From the Anana Sutta:


  "And what is the bliss of having? There is the case where the son of a
  good family has wealth earned through his efforts &amp; enterprise,
  amassed through the strength of his arm, and piled up through the
  sweat of his brow, righteous wealth righteously gained. When he
  thinks, 'I have wealth earned through my efforts &amp; enterprise, amassed
  through the strength of my arm, and piled up through the sweat of my
  brow, righteous wealth righteously gained,' he experiences bliss, he
  experiences joy. This is called the bliss of having.
  
  "And what is the bliss of [making use of] wealth? There is the case
  where the son of a good family, using the wealth earned through his
  efforts &amp; enterprise, amassed through the strength of his arm, and
  piled up through the sweat of his brow, righteous wealth righteously
  gained, partakes of his wealth and makes merit. When he thinks, 'Using
  the wealth earned through my efforts &amp; enterprise, amassed through the
  strength of my arm, and piled up through the sweat of my brow,
  righteous wealth righteously gained, I partake of wealth and make
  merit,' he experiences bliss, he experiences joy. This is called the
  bliss of [making use of] wealth.
  
  "And what is the bliss of debtlessness? There is the case where the
  son of a good family owes no debt, great or small, to anyone at all.
  When he thinks, 'I owe no debt, great or small, to anyone at all,' he
  experiences bliss, he experiences joy. This is called the bliss of
  debtlessness.


From the Adiya Sutta:


  'My wealth has been enjoyed,
  my dependents supported,
  protected from calamities by me. 
  
  I have given supreme offerings
  &amp; performed the five oblations.
  
  I have provided for the virtuous,
  the restrained,
  followers of the holy life.
  
  For whatever aim a wise householder
  would desire wealth,
  that aim I have attained.
  I have done what will not
  lead to future distress.'
  
  When this is recollected by a mortal,
  a person established in the Dhamma of the Noble Ones,
  he is praised in this life and,
  after death, rejoices in heaven.


By practising the five precepts and other things, the householder can achieve stream entry. Please read the Gihi Sutta for more info on this.