Stuck in Feedback Loop of Gaslighting Accusations My girlfriend accuses me of gaslighting all of the time, and I'll be calm, poised, and not retaliate in any manner. However, when I point out something she has done, she plays the victim, does not take responsibility, and lashes out. She says I don't remember anything and said it's "her reality." No matter how I react, I am told I am the bad guy and that it is my fault and am accused of everything under the moon. In the past (&gt;6mos ago), I would retaliate. Now, I act correctly and with faith, and I still get no where. She only deflects, does not take responsibility, and victimizes. Its like I don't matter. Any advice???

TLDR: My gf accuses me of gaslighting, but won't take responsibility, victimizes herself, and lashes out at me verbally by calling it "her reality"