SO is aggressive/abusive in an unpredictable manner - what is the safest way to leave? Obvious throwaway. 6 years in, bruises, blood, forgiveness, happiness, sadness, being cheated on, forgiveness, another fight, another broken door. It is time to move on. There will never be marriage or children. What is the safest way to get out of this? I purchased most everything we have and I need to disappear without ruining my future. How can I leave an abusive man unharmed?