My boyfriend loves me but isn't attracted to me so we don't have sex My boyfriend of 9 years and I have had a downhill effect in the bedroom because he's not attracted to me but he loves me. He can't explain why he's unattracted to me. But he explains why he loves me. Sex is not on his priority list he bases our relationship on other parts of the relationship other than sex. I don't love him for the the physical attraction either but it's nice to receive sex and have a connection. I'm so confused as to how to process this or what to do.