Vanilla boyfriend, how to help him with dominant play? Hi all, I’ve been dating a vanilla guy for 10 months. Mostly going very well and we care a lot about each other. The sex has been surprisingly good and satisfying despite it being vanilla. 

But now I’m getting antsy and missing dominance. Any good readings for vanilla men on how to play at being dominant? He’s game to try it for sure, and when I first told him about it he actually got very excited- made some ties for the bed, bought some toys, obsessed about it for a couple weeks...but then didn’t follow through more than once or twice. 

I have no plans to end things though in the very distant future we might explore playing with others. So how can I help him sometimes act like a Dom?