When does the chase stop in a relationship? First, a little background.. 22m, shes 21. I've been single for 3 years, decent amount of hookups but no relationships. My usual attitude with women is let them come to me meaning don't chase, limit texting and don't appear needy. With this girl here we are 2months into the relationship and I'm still acting the same way. I rarely initiate unless its to set up a date or something important. She expressed concern that she can't tell how interested I am because of this so I'm trying to change. I think it's ultimately me having trouble letting my guard down and I'm not sure what its gonna take for that to happen. Any thoughts?