If I can't remember specifically how my mom verbally abuses me then it probably isn't true, right? I'm always having a dilemma if my issues are valid because I can remember various phrases that she says but then my mom always kinda victimizes herself and claims that she's always cared for me and whatnot. I'm just so confused about myself and whether I'm just overreacting and finally calling it mental/verbal abuse. I just always associate feelings of invalidation and reasons to feel worthless (she gives me shit about my appearance and how I act). She's always telling me I'm being disobedient but it's really just small things like not wanting to wear these pair of shoes or not wanting to eat a certain food. There are other kids who do way worse things than I do? Basically, I don't know if my problems with her are real enough because she's always switching off between liking me and hating me and guilt tripping me. 