Different ideas of discipline between my SO (28) and I (24). My daughter (5) hasn't been listening to us at all lately. I have agreed with my SO that i do spoil her, and that something should be done about it. She needs more structure and discipline, but my SO says that when she's in trouble at school or misbehaving, that I should withhold affection. He seems to think that i shouldn't hug, kiss, or tell her i love her all day when she's in trouble. if she tries to kiss me or tell me she loves me i can return the affection, but I'm not to initiate. It just makes no sense to me. I don't think that's going to make the attitude problem with her any better.
I could surely use advice on how to handle a child that doesn't want to listen, but i refuse to not be affectionate. What can i do?