Could you help with this social dilema? For many years my mother, sister, father and I would spend Christmas together. My father died this year and we are now faced with spending Christmas in a big house without my dad. Where and how should the three of us spend Christmas? We have other family involved that may wish to open their homes to us, or even come to our home. My mother in law spends Christmas with her partner and my wife. My wife spends Christmas morning with her father, who is divorced from her mother, in their home with his wife and child. Additionally, my grandmother, uncle, aunt, cousins, and their partners and children spend Christmas together. We don't really want to spend Christmas with my aunt, uncle and cousins if we have a choice in the matter. What would you suggest we do so that we can be happy on Christmas day and not feel the abscence of my father?