Should I be open about my wife's affair? Ok, so long story short, me and my wife are separated.  She has been having an ongoing affair, and recently she flaunted the affair right in my face.  Got too see all the marks he left on her etc.

We share friends.  I have little to no friends that I claim solely as mine.  But I'm so hurt and damaged, and I know what she is doing is emotional abuse.  Do I just talk to "our" friends?

I'm a veteran, severe depression, with a panic disorder, plus heartbroken and emotionally damaged.  My wife doesn't even act like the same person anymore.

Like I don't want to turn her friends against her, or manipulate her.  But I felt suicidal recently, and now it's more of, I wish the pain would stop.  Talking to people helps, but I feel like I can't out of my moral character.

Advice?  Say fuck it, tell people she's having an affair, or don't tell people why I really am hurt?