Everything about him is really great and I think our qualities mesh. I flagged to him that he follows a lot of models on Instagram and he told me, “this is a normal thing for every man” So I completely forgot about who he followed on Instagram as we’ve been speaking and he’s been coming over for two months.

When he told me “every man in the world follows models” I was quite taken aback? Everything has been calm and steady and good by now but this was weird. 

I don’t believe men change for women. He thinks a man does. But I don’t agree with him. I can tell him to unfollow them and I know he will .. mans whipped, I’ve heard what he says about me - it’s cute, got me a $2.2k watch for V day (yeah I know haram etc).

So I know if I say I don’t like .. etc but I want to have a deeper conversation on why it’s wrong ? But is it a red flag? Looking for genuine and understanding responses from this sub.


Thanks.