How to feel more seductive/attractive? I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now, but between my vaginismus and his low libido, our sex life is pretty much nonexistent. I’ve been using the dilators and making slow progress but overall vaginismus makes me feel sooo not alluring. I just don’t feel sexy and am too embarrassed to try too hard. Plus with his low libido I feel like I’ll be making a fool of myself. Our relationship is wonderful in every other way and he’s been very understanding and patient...but we just got in the routine of not trying. I also fear he’s just bored of blowjobs / knows that’s all he’s going to get, so how could I expect him to be in the mood?? I just want to be more exciting in the bedroom for him :(