Finally got Confirmation My (38M) STBXW (37F) cheated on me a few years ago and through tons of prayer and counseling we managed to survive it. About four months ago her social patterns changed and I suspected something was up. I found some circumstantial evidence and started to put the pieces together. Since then she's moved out, taken the kids, and filed for divorce. I've been in denial and motivated by hope for a while but not anymore. Yesterday my son started telling me about Mommy's new friend. I immediately knew who it was and after showing my son a picture I got the confirmation I needed. I thought I would be sad but I'm actually relieved because it's the same guy she cheated on me with years ago. Now I can finally let go of the idea of her. That hurts but at least now I can grieve and know the pain is temporary and I can move on with a clear conscience.