my wife wants to have children but i’m a very anxious person with low 
self-confidence and i doubt i will be able to raise children. so, on one 
side, it seems a bad idea for me to have children. One the other side, 
if i refuse to have children, my wife would probably be unhappy and 
express resentment over me. My wife is 39 years old so we haven't much time left to decide if we should have children or not.  how to solve this dilemma?