Outside opinion please! How much time to spend alone? I'm the type of person that loves and sometimes needs to spend time solo. My hobbies, of course, follow that and I have shared these feelings with my wife.  Spending time with my her is  number one to do, but I feel like my spare time is being monopolized by her (she'll come into our office and hover behind me while I'm playing a video game or tell me to put down a book while I'm reading).  I aim for what I thought was acceptable (after work for an hour a day). So my question is: how much time is acceptable to expect to have to myself/be alone?  She can get very insistent and has been upset when I do my own thing.  Am I being dismissive, unfair, or selfish?