I discovered she was cheating on me tonight I’m 45, she’s 53.

We have two children, 14 and 11.

He is an old high school friend of hers, she started it up a few months ago and has been visiting him when she’s been telling me she’s been visiting friends.

I’m not sure where this is going to go but she’s a stay at home mom who was planning to go back to work. I told her tonight that she needed to find a job and that I wasn’t comfortable with her speaking to this other guy while we were still in the same house together.

I am not sure what’s going to happen. I feel very much like I’m going to lose everything because I’m a man, the breadwinner and in california.

I haven’t been a perfect husband. I can see forgiveness for her in my heart but she’s never forgiven me for anything in our almost 20 years together. I just can’t even...