how do I become grateful to my mother? I've passed my 20 years old with my mom, and every once and a while she tells me I'm ungrateful and selfish and that I cant empathize with nobody around the house. It's stressing me constantly because I dont know what i do that is so bad. 

I cant find a job and I'm not studying at the moment, and she always tells me I'm overwhelming her with...... something. even I dont know. does she want money or gifts? will she love me if I gave her any of those? I'm so lost