I purposely pick fights with my wife We have been married for a year, and were both a bit messy. We don't have big fights, but we do squabble. When we retreat from the fight, she tends to go to the kitchen and clean everything or go to the bathroom and clean it all. Lately, whenever the kitchen or bathroom has been getting too dirty, I've gotten into a little spat with her to get it done. I'll wait till it's clean to apologize.