Why do i keep hoping We have the same pattern. We get into a stupid fight over something as stupid as dinner plans (usually the topic), he gets furious or i get bitchy, and it turns into a huge argument  that ruins the rest of the day. We make up, things are ok for awhile, and just when I'm starting to think we might be ok, we have another blowout fight over something stupid. We've been together 9 yrs, married 4. Chronic db. When it's bad, it feels like there's no way it's gonna work out, but when we're getting along i start to hope for better. Every time i feel so stupid for hoping. I think we never should have gotten married and i feel stupid for ignoring my doubts before. I'm tired of being treated like I'm the bitch, when i know I'm being reasonable. I'm tired of fighting, tired of no sex, tired of feeling unlovable. I can't keep doing this..