Can a man get over an affair? Wife and I have been together for 15 years and married for 8, with 2 kids. I was the only man she ever kissed or had sex with, and that was very important to me. Last year she had an affair for two months with a coworker, but she ended it and remained friends with the guy. She eventually came clean with me. Is it possible for us to get past this? I am not so much hurt by the dishonesty, as I am her defiling her purity with another man. Do men ever get over this part of the affair, or will I think about it every time we have sex?