My SO finally admitted "Maybe I can't drink at all" ...after lying to me on Sunday about drinking.  Last night he confessed how much he had had (which I could figure out from how he'd been acting) and said he wanted to get rid of all the alcohol in the house (we've got a small stash of a friend's homemade wine that I'm not interested in).  I told him that was his choice.  For me, the lying is bringing up all kinds of other things in the relationship and I'm not sure where that's going to take me, but I'm glad for him that perhaps he'll make a decision about the role of alcohol in his life. I've had an opinion for years that he's an alcoholic (during my 9+ previous years sober I saw him hiding his alcohol, etc) and he was a strong enabler of my drinking, especially over the year before I became sober again.  But, as we all know, no one can make this decision for another...he's got to get on this path on his own.