Am I a valid lesbian? I'm 16 and i've been questioning my sexuality for a long time. I've had sex with a guy before in attempts to convince myself i was straight or at least bi, but i always felt so gross and disgusted about what i did. i'd shower for hours and brush my teeth until my gums hurt. the point is, i finally just looked at myself and realized that i had no romantic or sexual love for men. but i'm still attracted to and open to dating people who identify as nonbinary or gender fluid or agender. am i allowed to consider myself a lesbian? i don't think there's a sexuality for "i love everyone but men"...