At the grocery store today I saw a 70sh woman with a lovely braid on her head. I asked her how long it was. She pointed to te middle hip area. I told her it was beautiful and to never cut it. She said I was the first person to ever say so.
So nice of you to tell her that, I see people with nice hair a lot but I am very shy so I rarely say anything. You probably made her whole day!
Yeah. That is what she meant. Since she had gotten older. Everyone tells her to cut it.
I think it was very nice of you to give her a compliment. So often we think things but don't express them. I'm sure you made her day.
If any of you ever see me out there IRL, and like my hair, please tell me so. I hardly ever get compliments and always treasure them. I promise that from now on, when I see hair that I love, I will say so. I recently went on vacation, to Detroit, of all places, and went for dinner at a bar/restaurant, and I saw a young man with hip length dreads. When we were getting ready to leave, I asked the waitress to tell him how beautiful I think his hair is, because I felt too shy to tell him myself. Then I told the waitress never mind, and I told him myself. He was so pleased! We ended up talking for 1/2 an hour:D.
OP, it was great of you to say that to an older person with long hair.
Occasionally I will meet someone with long grey hair and if I get the chance I always compliment them on it. The invariably say that everyone tells them they should cut it, but that they themselves prefer it long. A few weeks ago I was introduced to a 98 year old lady with APL silver hair and wanted to tell her how pretty it looked but we were in a group and I didn't really get the opportunity. I would have though if we had been talking one to one.
I've seen quite a few elder ladies with gorgeous long hair lately. I love when people let themselves go grey, it's so pretty!
I LOVE how women look with long, grey or white hair as worn loose or in a braid, et cetera.
I am Pagan and to me, it is very much the way of the old world 'Crone' to look in such a way. I aspire to--one day.
I really detest the thinking that just because a woman is getting on in years, she should cut off her locks. I am 'only' 36 years-old, but it has been suggested to me that I cut off my hair (after always having had long hair for over 20 years now) 'just for a change' or because I have since become a mother and it would be more 'convenient' were I to do so. I am currently going through a hair ordeal for the first time in my life and am agonizing at the mere thought of having to go short-ish. Not since I was a preteen has my hair been shorter than say, around my bust-line though I have typically rocked it to just below it, or to my waist through the years.
I truly commend those ladies who maintain longer lengths of hair as they become wise, beautiful Crones. Blessed be.
I love long hair on older women. I think it looks terribly elegant, particularly when natural rather than coloured. Truth be told: I'm looking forward to what my hair looks like at that age. I'm glad we have a good contingent of Renegrays here who look exceptional. Hopefully more women will feel okay to keep long hair when they're older if they want to.
I agree we want to compliment but get too busy.
Sounds like a nice exchange. I hope she follows your advice. A lot of people fail to compliment positively.
I make an extra effort to compliment long hair on older women, specially the ones with silver hair that's well taken care of. I used to just drool from far away, and then here in LHC I read so much about all the negative reactions people of a certain age get for their locks I figure if they hear at least once how awesome their long locks are and how I LOVE their silver hair that they'll feel more confident about their appearance. I've seen some gorgeous women with long silver hair that give me serious hair envy. I'm so glad I moved to an area where people tend to let their hair grow.
I always say something. Even if I just tell them how pretty it is.
I have a feeling she will never forget that compliment, especially since she never hears that. Good for you for having the guts to initiate a conversation, I rarely do since I don't have the guts.
:agape: I always pictured you in your 20's!
My grandmother is in her mid-80s, and in the past I guess 6-8 years she grew her hair out. Not sure exactly how long it is, but it is very thin, fine, and snowy white, always worn up in a bun with clips. She never hears anything but negative comments - I asked her once why she grew it out, and in typical form for her, she puckishly answered, "Well, why wouldn't I?" She had the short, fluffy typical old lady style through most of my lifetime, so it was a surprise for most of us when she grew it out.
I told her it was beautiful and to never cut it.
That was so nice of you. :) It's strange how many people actually tell long hairs to cut. Maybe they just don't understand but some don't even try.
Heh. I also am older (Social Security already) but nobody has told me to chop. Maybe I have a forbidding face? ;) I also never go to a salon and always wear my hair up so people don't know how long it is really. Don't tempt them, is my motto.