The willingness to be emotionally responsible. This means noticing how we feel and admitting to ourselves what we feel.
The willingness to take responsibility. Taking responsibility is not about “right” or “wrong”. We are aware that our thoughts, words and actions are part of how the relationship unfolds. That is our contribution to it, our response-ability.
The willingness to talk straight: to speak up, no matter what the other person wants to hear. Talking straight does not mean blaming others. It means communicating without judgments, criticisms or attacks. It means communicating only what we have observed, what we feel in regards to what we perceive, and what our needs are. We can then make a concrete request. The other person is free to respond affirmatively or not. Just as we have the response-ability for our life, so does everybody we interact with.
Angelika Baum CHt is a belief change coach who uses techniques such as Hypnosis and Psych-K to access your subconscious mind. When you are ready to take responsibility for your life and change your limiting beliefs, you can find more information at greendoorrelaxation.net.