A Polish man moved to the US and married an American girl. Although his English was far from perfect, they got along very well at the start - but one day he rushed into a lawyer's office and asked him if he could arrange a divorce.
The lawyer said that getting a divorce would depend on the circumstances, and asked him the following questions.
No, we have carport, and so don't need one.
All my relations are still in Poland.
Mmm ...is there any infidelity in your marriage?
We have a hi-fidelity stereo and good DVD player.
Look ... does your wife beat you up?
No, I am always up before her.
Okay.... just tell me .... why do you want this divorce?
She's going to poison me.
She bought a bottle at the drugstore and put it on the shelf in the bathroom.
I can read ... and it say's ........ "Polish Remover".
But what would happen if we decided to consciously step back and simply observe and really listen and read what words people used. Might there be a possibility we would start to notice a lot more?
By the way..did you know that we think about four times faster than we talk, so we have lots of time to really process what's going on!
how often do you really 'read' what is being said and do you think you are really getting the whole picture?
Well, the last word in my question to you is a clue.
What is being said is a BIG clue as to what the person is really thinking, even if they don't know it themselves.
When we step back and simply listen (without intention to interrupt, we notice a lot more).
If you want to be able to read people better and know what is really going on inside LISTEN and OBSERVE very carefully and LITERALLY!
" I cannot get OVER this problem. "
" The issue is so BIG I feel overwhelmed. "
" If only I could put it BEHIND me. "
These are some simple examples of how we as humans process our thoughts and feelings. Even without realizing it, our unconscious mind is giving us very real clues as to what needs to be done to sort an issue. Very simply and a little generalized for us to feel an emotion we have 'done' something inside our heads. We have looked at an image and it comes out unbeknownst to us in our language.
​shrink the mental image down and the feeling will shrink also.
If something feels like it is blocking you from moving forward, imagine the image to your side or behind you and your path will become clear.
You can also notice this by simply observing what people do with their eyes and where they look. Noticing their gestures also will give you a big clue as to WHERE the 'issue' is.
Learn more about how to do this on the upcoming NLP Practitioner training!
In the Kind'time keep dreaming BIG!