Remember that big idea you had? The one that got you so excited, you could hardly contain yourself? The one that got you dancing alone in your room in the middle of the night because you just couldn’t believe you’ve figured out something so easy that could change your life for good?
We hate to ask: For anything that we feel is too big that is! The only things standing between us and achieving some of our goals are sentences that start with “can you please help…?” or “may i have/use/try…” The reason for this is one of two things: pride or fear. Many of us, even in our mediocre ‘nothing-ness’ like to believe we are better than others, hence asking for help is an abomination. Sadly, we were created in a world full of other humans because to achieve our purpose, we need the help and upliftment of others. If we didn’t, we would have been created as lone rangers in deserts.
Fear: Fear is a big issue many of us hate to admit we have. I have to say, I am scared too of being rejected after putting myself out there, but it has never for once gotten in my way of trying. The truth is I learned from many events in my life that if you don’t ask for something the answer will always be NO!
Lack of self-confidence: The problem many of us have is that we lack confidence, or should I rather say we have a phobia for confidence. Being confident can truly be scary especially when you find yourself in a very competitive world filled with people who are more experienced at what you are just about to start out on. It may be difficult for you to assemble yourself in one piece in such testing situations but here is a secret: You can only increase your confidence by doing the things that terrify you over and over again. No confident enough to even raise your hand in class and utter the right answer to your teacher’s question, it’s high time you start! The truth is that a lack of self-confidence is a myth that grows in the mind and arrests it, crippling its host and ensuring that life-changing achievements are kept at bay.