In talking to one of my male friends about relationships today, I was let in on a very interesting fact. He told me that men have a window of opportunity, if you will, when they are ready for marriage. Just like women have a window to conceive, men have a window when it comes to obtaining their life partner. For him it was between 28-31. Unfortunately, the woman he was in a relationship with during his “window” didn’t work out due to her not being available at the time. Meanwhile, his window was still open. The next woman who came along ended up sharing his last name. She wasn’t necessarily the woman that he wanted but because she came around during his period of readiness, she felt like “the one”. Their marriage did not last, however.
If, as a man, you are in love with your womanfriend and for whatever reason she has to move away or something happens to cause a drift in the relationship, does that take away from the fact that you want her as your wife?
I received an email where a question was posed that has had my mind doing somersaults ever since (a little over a week now). Basically, someone from my past wanted to know why I had not revealed my feelings until recently. I figured that if he was dating someone seriously, then the revelation should not hinder the direction of his feelings with her, so why should it matter when I decided to share my feelings.
Did he have me in mind as his wife? Is this new woman going to bare his last name because she came around during his “window of opportunity”? Is he transferring his feelings for me into her and making her his wife to be? Or is this all just wishful thinking?
Do men often get into relationships with or marry the wrong woman at the right time? Does the right one come along at the wrong time?
There has never been a time when I wanted to know so much about the inner workings of men until now.
I do apologize if this blog seems scattered and vague. This is probably some post-PMS BS, but it’s where my thoughts are right now.