How many times do you hear the word sorry and disregard it immediately?
Regardless of age I dislike the word sorry. I prefer 'I apologize.' Sorry slips off our tongue with ease, frequently without meaning or follow through. Instead, the phrase 'I apologize' gives us the opportunity to slow down our thinking. In doing this we focus on the meaning of the word and are more likely to be sincere. The word apologize gives us a chance to engage with the person whom we have harmed. At times, we might even find that it is not necessary.
Whether you impulsively say sorry, or say sorry without meaning it, the phrase 'I apologize' retrains our brain to be in the moment and thus, is more effective. So the next time you or your child says sorry, consider correcting them and explaining that sorry is a word we will no longer use. Just like any habit it will be a difficult one to break, but imagine the difference it could make.
If you find yourself impulsively saying sorry this may indicate areas worth exploring in counseling!