Each part of me was more wiser when they came together.
Author's Note: There is no right or wrong, it is just that each step teaches us something new.
Author's Note: Hope is fulfilled, it does not die.
but if he was to leave, why did he hold it?
but if he was to wither, why did he fly for whatever little distance?
but if he was to run further, why did he run along my path?
But if he did not notice, why did he look at me?
But if he did not listen, why did he lend an ear?
Author's Note: Emotional pain is worse than any physical injury, physical injury heals and people console you. Emotions torment you, your mind makes fun of you for being belittled in love.
P.S.: Some people, just to satisfy their narcissistic tendencies, tend to belittle others. It is the love for convenience for them. But if someone belittles in love, that person is the world's biggest coward. As Bob Marley put's it in his quote (refer to the image).
P.P.S: What is important is that after being belittled you do not give that person any more opportunities to satisfy his sadist tendencies.
Have you ever been in a situation where you so badly wanted to get an answer and the person you seek response from is just deaf to your questions?
These people are either too bored of your questions, factoring in the fact that you repeatedly ask them, or they are amongst those category of human race who are Escapists. There are innumerable benefits of being an escapist - you do not have to be answerable for some misunderstandings, do not need to dig where you went wrong, you do not care and just live in the moment.
Here's some wisdom for escapists (though there is a possibility of them ignoring it) - Do not fly, fight off bad situations. If possible, make them better, but make a decision. If nothing works, then just let it be - you will not regret later in life.
And for those who seek answers from escapists, you need not find answers in words, but in actions. There are times when you need a 'Me' time, and I am amongst those who make time for the 'Me Time'. I no matter how tried, how unwell, I make sure that I make my way to the terrace and spend some time with myself, it rejuvenates me. No one can answer your doubts as clearly as your own mind, and your intuition.
Author's Note: You cannot wake someone who is pretending to be asleep, is an ancient Navajo proverb. They are the people who will not be of any help either to you or to themselves. They sleep, even while being awake.
One man's terrorist is other man's revolutionary.
This topic has never been spoken about in the Bollywood space, and thus I wanted to watch it. The movie revolves around the assassination of former prime minister Rajiv Gandhi, the LTTE (referred to as LTF in the movie) connection and the role played by RAW. It captured the sentiments of an Army Man's wife, it carried the message about how businesses run countries' national policies, it can become a nasty game. Politics is nothing but the information game and reinstating who is powerful in a region.
West wanted a strong hold in Indian subcontinent and India wanted to avert it, thus decided to intervene in Sri Lankan civil war during the 1990s. It showed failure of Indian military power, world's 4th largest military power to a revolutionay, Anna Bhaskara.
An army man confessing that the killing could have been averted. Although it was not clear to me how could it be averted?
Nargis Fakri role as a war correspondent, Jaya, was real, and her acting was far better than it was in Rockstar. Although I liked her in Rockstar as well.
John Abraham as Major Vikram Singh was naturally a hero. The movie was projected from his narrative perspective. I find John picking up on serious roles as a great decision. Even in Shootout at Wadala, I liked his role.
Author's Note: If you can see blood bath, become a war correspondent, and if you will puke when you see blood bath become a romantic novel writer. This though might be reflected in later posts.
P.S: I still have the image of Rajiv Gandhi's assassination intact, as we watched it on TV. And for a 7 years old me, it was something thrilling, full of horror.
P.P.S: This reminds me of an incident about one of the top business houses in India. There was a negative story about the business house carried by the Forbes Magazine. The Corporate Communications head was being targeted at by the company management for providing sensitive information to the media. Based on mere acquisitions, he was house arrested for 2 months, and threatened by the mafia. He ended up committing suicide. This is not an old story, happened recently, something like 2 months back. But there is no action that can possibly be taken against the company, because there is no proof.
Trust, if lost once, cannot be regained. So are relations, there is some bitterness likely to remain and that does make it ugly. One of my friend kept telling me that once a cup is cracked, it will never be the same. I somehow felt that it can be the same and one day I came across this image on Facebook.
I just could not help but bring it to my friend's notice. This quotation convinced me that broken trust can be re-established, made more beautiful. I believe that quotations have deep meaning, and no matter what your emotional state is, while scrolling through Facebook wall you will find something that speaks of your state of mind.
On seeing this image, I went into a self realisation mode and tried to mend something that was broken for years, and after 1 month of trying I realised that I was not being a logical person, but an emotional fool. I did not care what everyone else suggested to me and just went on with whatever I could do to mend it. I realised that I should not try to fit in the lives of those who do not want me in theirs. It is painful to see them closing the door on my face. It is hurting to see that you do not find any place in someone's life who you thought so high of. But it is good to get clarity and I admire their straight-forwardness.
There's a catch in such a situation - The Reality Check. Is the image you carry, of the person in question, real? Sometimes we are so engrossed in our beliefs that we fail to acknowledge the pitfalls. I realised that I was just being human by being emotional, but it is not that emotions are welcome everywhere.
Author's Note: When in doubt, you back to the time when you suggested a friend what to do while your friend was in a tough situation. Your suggestions are more for you to implement and follow.
P.S.: Post this, my friend reiterated, no matter what you fill the cracks with, the cup is still cracked.
P.P.S: Here is Shesha's take on the topic, Click here to read: Tale of a Gold-filled Broken Bowl.
"Love is like a wild flower, always found in unlike places."
You cannot condition your mind to love, not love or hate someone. However, no matter how you feel you are likely to test if the feelings are mutual. So there is a great possibility that you may try and put them in situations to know how they react. Then you will be able to lift clues, assume and infer what they feel for you.
How do you know if it is Love? Mind games do not work in case of love. If you are into such games then it is not love, it is more of a strategic, thought through decision to weigh your options. In love, you often overlook the bads and just go with the goods in a person. But the point is that you have to accept both the bad and the good. It is a completely different individual that you are considering here and not your clone. Refrain from thinking that you will change the person, get the one who closely fit your image.
Love is simple, it is when someone cares too much for you. So what is it that matters, why do relationships fail, why do we complicate them? When people suggest that you be practical, it could sound hackneyed, and I bet you do not fall in this trap, you believe that you are different and better be treated like one. You break the rules, go against your principles, defy mindsets and just do what ever you feel could be done to get the answer to - If s/he genuinely loves me?
But in the end, you just have to live with the reality - take a stance - walk away or stay.
Author's Note: Perhaps that is the reason that I am so against the concept of so called arranged marriages. All that they want to know is how much money you make and are you a good cook. People hardly invest time in understanding the other person and start imposing the 'what you have to do to be the one for me' considerations.
P.S.: You never really stop loving someone, you just learn to live without them.
Yeah, right we keep cribbing about the should haves, would haves and could haves of the worlds. But now that when these are not realised what to do?
I am feeling content today that I did not leave an opportunity to talk my mind out, and no matter what - if you put across the truth you will be content. In this phase of emotional rigmarole, I often felt like a fool, but in the end I was sure of what I do not want from my life.
They say if you want to amuse God, tell him about your plans.
While I fight hard to achieve what I plan, I sometimes picture god smiling at me and not amused. I feel that the god wants to tell each one of us that no one in this world knows what is to come next. Everyone is clueless, some just go with the flow, some get up & do something and some rely on others to make things happen for them. I am amongst those who will get up, and do something about it.
My pet line cannot be discounted here - the fittest survives. Do not let failure bog you down, find lessons in them and get up - if need be change your strategy - keep moving - like a river. This life is meant to be relished, each chapter in your life holds a lesson, make sure that you do not regret - take chances with it. There is no book on how to live your life, it's you who knows the best. Take chances, make mistakes and smile at them.
Author's Note: Leave no room for regrets! If you feel you did something wrong, do something to mend it.
P.S.: Love your life, it comes just once.
Despite having someone willing to accept you for the way you are, why do you not love? What is it that stops you to fall in love?
It could stem from your fear to allow someone enter a space that has been reserved or is it because you fear the consequences of falling in love, investing emotions and fearing what if it falls apart. The sooner you get attached to someone, the greater and hard hitting would be the falling apart phase. That is to think beyond the looks and the package a person brings, you need time to know that person.
The moment you get attached to a person, for whatever qualities, consider to question yourself - Is it an intrinsic quality or a fancy package? And for a fancy package you will not know until you unpack it. Does that intrinsic quality that this person bring gel well with my ideologies? or will you have to compromise on your identity? There are red flag situations - a fancy package and the compromise!
The biggest turn off is when a person starts to indicate that you will have to compromise being yourself in order to be with the other. If s/he wants to you change now, then it will be no surprise if s/he will have you as a puppet for life - telling you what to wear, what to speak and what to eat. There is nothing wrong about having a set of expectations for that someone special, but it is better to have those expectations inbuilt in a person than to customize an already existing person into someone you want.
P.S.: Love counts amongst the things that are as important as being alive. Stop giving into societal considerations to fit in someone as an ideal partner - fat, dark, traditional or whatever.... Society is a set of herd - sick, stinking and pathetic. The day you accept the person, stop directing your actions based on set conventions, will be the day when society will focus its attention elsewhere!
Author's note: And if someone is telling you, from one's experience, that there is not a single thing good about being in love or being married, here's something to focus your thoughts on: We sing more loudly when the person we love is far away and whisper poems when he is near. In a nutshell, critics exist everywhere to talk ill about anything under the sun but good things are kept hidden for the evil eyes of the world.
As I think of love, I think of you!
I reckon it was your style.
I reckon it was when you were around.
I reckon were the ones when you said them.
For the years that we parted, I have realized!
But I was the way you made me feel.
But your charm did the magic.
But your voice just went amiss.
Author's Note: Going back in time! This one comes from the old files.
From necessity to insanity is becoming the mother of all inventions.
It starts when the few avail the first mover advantage, and then you find many people with it, and the worse of all is to find a cheap version of it. Hope you can relate with it.
Micromax A100 - I hate the ideator of this handset, infact, no thinking has gone into it , it is a copy paste of Samsung Galaxy series. Even Samsung has been so upset that it was quick to counter the competition with Micromax A100 (a 10 grands handset) by launching Samsung Grand Duos (costing 21 grands), keeping quality and brand in perspective.
Isn't it insane that someone creates a product, and others insanely copy it. and yes, it is very much in context of the reason for which Apple sued Samsung.
The problem emerges when you are a proud owner of a Samsung Note 1.
And one fine day - your colleagues walk upto you, wanting to see your mobile. Suddenly you see a that as one of your colleagues held your phone in one of his hands, he held a similar phone in his other hand. Perturbed! I found out that Micromax has launched a phone to compete with Samsung Note.
The embarrassment continues when your best friend's husband calls and interrogates about your Handset, with ofcourse an intent to bring Micromax in the discussion!
With this post I declare my enmity towards Micromax, I pray to god that he gives Samsung the will and wisdom to sue Micromax.
Author's Note: Necessity is driving people to insanity. It depends on your outlook - would you call Facebook insane or something you can't do without (typically the case with me)?