If one decides to date or marry someone double or triple their age, it is their choice. If one wants to marry an ex-con, so what? If a graduate picks a vendor, so what?
Ngati munthu akufuna kufunsira chibwezi kapena kukwatira munthu wamkulu kuposa msinkhu wake, uko ndikusankha kwake.  Ngati akufuna kukwatira munthu amene anaimbidwako mlandu, ndiye chiyani.  Ngati munthu womaliza sukulu ya ukachenjede kukwatira wogulitsa malonda ang'onoang'ono, ndiye?