If, as it seems, you don’t want to let go of him, I would suggest you build alliances with the other women. You can form the Tonse Alliance with his new catch to make his wife more miserable or the Enimudzi Coalition with the wife to drive out the interloper
Ngati, momwe zikuwonekeramu, sukufuna kumusiya mwamanuyo ndingakulangize kuti upanga maubale nda azimai enawo.  Utha kupanga mgwirizano ndi mkazi watsopano kuti umpangitse mkazi wake kumva kuwawa kwambiri kapena mgwirizano wa eni mudzi ndi mkaziyo kuti muthamangitse wolandayo.