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  THE MAN WHO PLEASES
  AND
  THE WOMAN WHO CHARMS

  BY
  JOHN A. CONE

  "Look out lovingly upon the world and the
  world will look lovingly in upon you."

  HINDS & NOBLE, Publishers
  31-33-35 WEST 15TH STREET, NEW YORK CITY

  _Schoolbooks of all publishers at one store_



  _Third printing, February, 1904._

  Copyright, 1901.
  by
  JOHN A. CONE,
  in the
  United States
  and
  Great Britain.
  Entered at Stationer's Hall,
  London.

  All Rights Reserved.



  TO
  MY MOTHER.




CONTENTS.


                                    PAGE
  THE MAN WHO PLEASES                  1
  THE WOMAN WHO CHARMS                16
  THE ART OF CONVERSATION             29
  GOOD ENGLISH                        37
  TACT IN CONVERSATION                48
  THE COMPLIMENT OF ATTENTION         57
  THE VOICE                           65
  GOOD MANNERS                        73
  DRESS                               84
  THE OPTIMIST                        97
  PERSONAL PECULIARITIES             106
  SUGGESTIONS FROM MANY SOURCES      114




PREFACE.


The makers of books have been divided into two classes--the creators and
the collectors. In preparing this volume the author has made no claim to
a place in the first division, for he has been, to a great extent, only
a collector. The facts which the book contains are familiar to
intelligent people, and the only excuse offered for presenting them in a
new dress is that we need to be reminded often of some truths with which
we are most familiar.

In our daily intercourse with one another, we may forget to render to
others that thoughtfulness and attention which we exact from them.

We all know that the essence of courtesy is the purpose, in speech and
manner, to be agreeable, attractive, and lovable, to awaken by our
presence happy impressions in another. We all understand this, but we so
easily forget it, or, at least,