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VIDEO Many People Are Becoming Aware of the Very Serious Coup d'état that is Being Carried Out by Supranational Powers – God, Family, Country
EXCLUSIVE: "Many People Are Becoming Aware of the Very Serious Coup d'état that is Being Carried Out by Supranational Powers" – Archbishop Vigano on the Election of Giorgia Milano
By Joe Hoft September 27, 2022
Italian Archbishop Carlo Maria Vigano shares with The Gateway Pundit his reaction to the 2022 election of Italy's new Prime Minister Giorgia Meloni.
Archbishop Carlo Maria Vigano shares with The Gateway Pundit his observation and reaction to the recent Italian election where Giorgia Meloni was elected the first female Prime Minister in Italy.
Archbishop Vigano shares in part the following on the reaction of voters to the ruling class:
Certainly, most of the abstainers express the will not to accept taking part in a game, so to speak, in which the rules are decided by others. But to these must also be added those who do not vote due to trivial disinterest, or more simply – and this seems to me to be the case of the majority – because they are disgusted by a political class that has proven to be unworthy and corrupt beyond words.
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On the destruction of Italy by the Italian Dems:
The Italian Dems have combined the worst of communist collectivism with the worst of consumer liberalism, in the name of an agenda that benefits the high finance lobby using emergencies like pandemics, energy crises and wars with the sole purpose of destroying the traditional social fabric.
Vigano waits to see what this new Prime Minister will do.
It remains to be seen whether the first woman Prime Minister will be able to distinguish herself from her predecessors or if she will prefer to bow to the deep stateand continuethe betrayal of Italian people.
Italians are waking up to the world elites:
It seems to me that many people are becoming aware of the very serious coup d'état that is being carried out by supranational powers, capable of interfering with a heavy hand with the activities of governments and international bodies. The world of business and work is beginning to understand the deliberate action of destruction of the national economic fabric that has been carried out first by Covid and then by the war in Ukraine.
Below is Archbishop Vigano's transcript provided to The Gateway Pundit.
+Cmv Reflections on Italian Election by Jim Hoft on Scribd
Below are the Archbishop's remarks in Italian.
EXCLUSIVE: "Many People Are Becoming Aware of the Very Serious Coup d'état that is Being Carried Out by Supranational Powers" – Archbishop Vigano on the Election of Giorgia Meloni
New PM of Italy, Giorgia Meloni: We Will Defend God, Country, & Family
"They're Panicked Because They Know the Current System is Doomed" – Tucker Carlson's Opening on the Elite's Reaction to Giorgia Meloni's Win in Italy
Tucker Carlson had an excellent opening last night discussing the Italian election and the victor, Italian Prime Minister Giorgia Meloni.
Tucker showed some of Meloni's recent speeches and discussed the ramifications of the vote in Italy. He correctly points out that those in charge will never learn. They think they are above all this.
They're panicked because they know the current system in doomed. And in fact, what happened last night in Italy is the best-case scenario for them. Because it was a peaceful transfer of power. That's a good thing. That's what you want.
In a democracy, people should be allowed to have some influence on the priorities of the government that claims to represent them. And when they speak in an election, the people who have been repudiated have a moral obligation to take a second and ask, 'why didn't they like what I was offering them?'.
They have a right to an opinion, in fact their opinion is at the center of our system, this democracy. But they never ask themselves that. They never take any blame whatsover. They didn't in 2016 when Trump got elected. They immediately blamed Putin, or Macedonian bot farms. They never blame themselves, and so they never learned a single thing from what happened…
The beurocrats who drove Italians to seek a change peacefully at the ballot box, are completely unwilling to learn from that vote.
Here is the entire opening.
WATCH: Trump-Endorsed Kari Lake Joins Tucker Carlson After Italy Elects Its FIRST Female Populist Leader: "If They're Not Attacking You, You're Probably Not Truly Representing The People Of Your Country"
By Jordan Conradson September 26, 2022
Trump-Endorsed Kari Lake joined Tucker Carlson Tonight on Monday to respond to the election of Italy's new Prime Minister, Giorgia Meloni.
The Gateway Pundit recently reported on his historic feat of electing their first female leader — who is also a Center Right populist.
BREAKING: Italy Elects Its First Female and Populist Leader in History – Giorgia Meloni
Meloni understands what is good and what is right: God, family, and country.
Because of this, the globalist left Fake News Media tried all they could to smear her as a fascist and prevent her from being elected.
Republican Arizona Gubernatorial Nominee Kari Lake, who is in a similar position and facing the same attacks, recently spoke out in support of Meloni.
The video below tells you exactly why the globalist elitist establishment tried so hard to stop her.
God Speed to Italy's incredible Prime Minister-elect @GiorgiaMeloni! https://t.co/GPbXLRljXH
— Kari Lake (@KariLake) September 26, 2022
On Monday, Kari Lake joined Tucker Carlson after an incredible opening, where he explained the tactics used to stop Meloni.
The Gateway Pundit previously reported on her last appearance, where Tucker said he could see why the establishment is trying to stop Kari.
"I Can See Why They're Trying To Silence You" – Tucker Carlson On Trump-Endorsed Kari Lake After She Gave THE BEST Response To Propagandist's 2020 Election Question
On tonight's appearance, Lake told Tucker, "What I am scared to death of is what happens if we don't step in right at this moment and do something, afraid of the world that our children will live in."
Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene agreed with Lake and shared the same fears in a recent tweet.
.@KariLake and I share the same fear.
The fear of not stopping the evil attacks on our children's future.
To be extremely clear.
WE WILL NEVER BACK DOWN.
The American Revival is only beginning.
We have just begun. https://t.co/nMrDUunLNc
— Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene🇺🇸 (@RepMTG) September 27, 2022
Watch the full interview below.
Carlson: So you were one of the very first American politicians to weigh in on this election. You were paying attention, which I appreciated. What do you make of this?
Lake: I'm so excited. You know, it's funny. I looked this Italian Ms. Meloni up when I heard about her about a week ago, and I couldn't find any straight-up information on her. Everything was, 'she's a fascist, she's a racist. She's this, she's that,' and I thought, 'wow. This is somebody who I can relate to' because they're doing the same thing about me. And it makes me realize that if they're not calling you all of these slurs, if they're not attacking you, then you're probably not truly representing the people of your country.
Carlson: But it's just so interesting that this is a change. If you're elected in Arizona, it will be a change. Donald Trump was a change. The people who are rejected by voters in this representative democracy that we have, never for one second learn anything from that rejection. Why do you think that is?
Lake: I don't know. I can't get into their minds. But I mean, I think of the Marjorie Taylor Greenes of the world, the Congressman Paul Gosars, the Donald Trumps of the world, what's happening in Italy, myself. The people who are truly understanding what's happening in this country, which is we're losing this country, are the ones who are being attacked. And I'm on the campaign trail; we're working six to 10 events a day. We're working really hard, and I had somebody reach out to me the other day and say, 'Kari, you are fearless. You are so fearless. you're not afraid of anything.' And I stopped him, and I said, Actually, I have great fear. I'm not afraid of the fake news. I'm not afraid of the globalist. I'm not afraid of anything that I'm facing on the campaign trail. I'm not afraid of the cartels. What I am scared to death of is what happens if we don't step in right at this moment and do something, afraid of the world that our children will live in. That's what scares me to death.
NOT AFRAID: Kari Lake Won't Back Down From Attacks, Instead BLASTS Fake News & Globalists
President Giorgia Meloni Speech at CPAC 2022
Tucker Carlson Notes the Era of Great Pretending, and Why Truth Teller Giorgia Meloni Won Election in Italy
Truthteller Kari Lake Says She Will Not Back Down, The Stakes are Too High
The Reaction to Giorgia Meloni Makes Everything Clear
https://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2022/09/raid_on_maralago_judge_cannon_stands_in_the_breech_against_the_deep_state.html
https://www.americanthinker.com/blog/2022/09/giorgia_melonis_election_should_give_hope_here_in_america.html
https://www.breitbart.com/politics/2022/09/28/youtube-removes-clip-meloni-speech/
https://www.breitbart.com/national-security/2022/09/28/china-fears-giorgia-meloni-may-cut-italy-out-of-belt-and-road-debt-trap/
https://www.breitbart.com/politics/2022/09/28/after-the-italy-election-looking-at-the-state-of-the-european-right-today/
https://www.breitbart.com/europe/2022/09/28/islamic-state-woman-charged-with-crimes-against-humanity-in-germany/
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Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on September 28, 2022 September 28, 2022 Tags Bible, Country, Family, Go, God's Mercy, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, Persecution, Prayer, Salvation, TribulationLeave a comment on VIDEO Many People Are Becoming Aware of the Very Serious Coup d'état that is Being Carried Out by Supranational Powers – God, Family, Country
VIDEO ITALY: Conservative leader Giorgia Meloni: "It is absurd that the Left wants us to remove crucifixes from classrooms, while they allow Islam to take over neighborhoods"
SEPTEMBER 16, 2022 BY BARENAKEDISLAM
During a debate on an Italian talk show, the leader of the anti-mass Muslim immigration party Fratelli d'Italia (Brothers of Italy) and a member of the Italian Chamber of Deputies, Giorgia Meloni, defended her party's support of the famous motto: "God, Country, and Family."
RAIR Foundation Meloni also spoke of the importance of Christians being proud and open about their identities:
"I don't believe we ought to hide our identity, in order to respect others. Which is what leftists believe. It is paradoxical to remove crucifixes from our classrooms, while accepting that entire European neighborhoods have been taken over by Islamic sharia. I don't get it, honestly."
The leader, predicted to become Italy's next prime minister under a new conservative coalition government, reminded the audience that "Christian values have molded our civilization."
https://barenakedislam.com/2022/09/16/italy-conservative-leader-giorgia-meloni-it-is-absurd-that-the-left-wants-us-to-remove-crucifixes-from-classrooms-while-they-allow-islam-to-take-over-neighborhoods/
Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on September 19, 2022 September 18, 2022 Tags Bible, Country, Cross, Family, God, God's Mercy, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, Persecution, Prayer, Salvation, TribulationLeave a comment on VIDEO ITALY: Conservative leader Giorgia Meloni: "It is absurd that the Left wants us to remove crucifixes from classrooms, while they allow Islam to take over neighborhoods"
When The Families Go, The Nation Will Go
by Americaoncoffee
THE GREATEST ATTACK UPON FAMILY LIFE
"Evil creations from hell…all manner of abominations are entering into the homes of your nation and the countries throughout the World. It will be an absolute necessity now for all parents to act as a director, a leader in the homes. The greatest attack from Satan shall be upon family life. If you break down the family, you will break down the nation. "
My children, I cry too, bitter tears of remorse for what we see now happening in your world, the earth. Man is plunging fast to the brink of his own destruction. There is no place for men to hide from what shall come upon him.'' "It is well, children of the earth, that you spend now your time in prayer and penance. Many shall die soon. Many shall die without the opportunity to make amends for the salvation of his soul. Pray a constant vigilance of prayer now…going throughout your world and your country.'' March 15, 1978
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"Your children, by manner of the televisions are being now schooled to kill, to sin."
May 13, 1978— Our Lady-"My child, Our Hearts are torn in Heaven as We watch man advancing faster into the darkness, deeper into sin. Man has now cast aside the knowledge of sin. He has found the way rationalize away sin until sin has become truly a way of life for many. The greatest measure of responsibility for the lost of souls shall fall upon the clergy. My Son's House, His Church, is passing through a great trial; however it is a time for testing for mankind. The eventual victory against satan shall be with My Son, for the gates of hell shall never prevail against His Church upon earth."
My children, you must understand that man in his frailties often succumb to the mores of modernism. Countless times in the past the Spirit of Truth came with the knowledge to man that the day would come when a great delusion shall descend upon mankind and cover the earth in a blanket of spiritual darkness. This day has arrived, My children. Recognize the forces of evil about you now. The man of sin, 666, Satan, Lucifer, with all the demons loosed from hell, now are upon earth and due great battle with the children of God. The Holy City of Rome shall stand with the cross. Blood shall flow in the streets. My children, no country now shall be free from the evils of communism. My heart is torn, for I have come to you in countless appearances upon earth to warn you as Our children to avoid compromise with the enemies of God, though they come to you with smooth tongues, rationalizing their behavior. And because man has fallen out of grace, he will accept these lies and become enslaved."
CHILDREN WILL CONTINUE TO RISE UP AGAINST THEIR PARENTS
July 25, 1979 "As the darkness deepens upon your earth, your world will appear to many like insanity has set upon it: Murders will increase, accidents called 'freaks of nature', accidents that are not accidents. Children will continue to rise up against their parents, being encouaged by their schools, their teachers, their news medias and all of the medias that have been well-planned to seduce the souls of your children. And the master behind these medias is Lucifer and his agents from Hell walking now in human form.
My children, as long as you reject the existence of the supernatural, you cannot be saved. If you do not recognize the existence of a world beyond your human eyes to see, you will not be saved, for you cannot fight them. There are demons now loosed upon earth. All hell now is upon earth with Lucifer as their head, known as the army of satan, the prince of darkness. Lucifer was a murderer from the beginning, and he will be a murderer to his end.
Many of you, even clergy in My Church, My House upon earth, are selling their souls to get to the head, and for what?! There is not one human being upon earth that must not die, that will not die.
Each and every living creature upon earth will die sooner or later. The body will die, but your spirit will not. Your spirit will live with full consciousness, passing over unto judgment. I have requested many times that the word death be applied only to the human body. For man, as created in the image of God, there is no death if he will accept the commandments of his Creator and live his life upon earth as requested and directed by his Creator. Man with his free will can also reject the beckonings of Heaven and fall victim, willing or unknowingly, to satan. Those who go into the web of Lucifer unknowingly can be brought out through the charity and prayers of another."
THE SPREAD OF DRUGS
"The spread of drugs was for reason—to bring down the morale, and to give your children over to Satan….Recordings known as rock and roll are the major instrument for leading your children into the plague, the country wide plague of Drugs…They put into your child a spell, a hypnotism leading to promiscuity, deviant sex, homosexuality, drugs, murders, abortions and all manner of foul deeds…"November 13, 1975
August 4, 1979 "I have asked you in the past to remain away from even the simplest forms of entertainment outside your home because Lucifer will give you one thousand truths if he can bring in one error to you. Do not be deceived by your medias because they are under the control now of the agents of hell."
COVENS BEING SET UP
"Satan now in the body of the man. He'll roam the country now. He'll set up his covens. Covens, my child, covens they are called. He'll set them up to kill and maim. Beware! Allow none into your house unless you know them well. Guard your doors against the agents of hell, who will come in the wean your children from your house into households of sin." "Mothers, protect your daughters' purity. Allow them no rein to be free in choice. Guard them well, for they will be the victims of black mass which shall rage throughout your country." "This spirit of evilness now is spreading fast throughout your country. The angels of death, they shall now increase." August 13, 1977 Bayside Messages
Immaculate Mother Apparition to Seer Veronica Bayside New York from 1970-1994/95?…until Veronica's death
https://americaoncoffee101.wordpress.com/2022/07/01/the-fall-of-families-bayside-heavenly-messages-unfold/
Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on July 4, 2022 July 3, 2022 Tags Bible, Cross, Family, God's Mercy, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, Persecution, Prayer, Salvation, TribulationLeave a comment on When The Families Go, The Nation Will Go
Community fights and keeps abortion business away – leftists would take all rights away from entire class of human beings
Grassroots campaign addressed doctors, city, neighbors
By Bob Unruh January 29, 2022
A community in New York state has fought to keep a Planned Parenthood abortion business away – and it has won.
Officials with the Thomas More Society explained the dispute developed in Brighton, a suburb of Rochester.
There, Planned Parenthood had made plans to set up business.
But, the organization reported, a "grassroots campaign" organized by Brighton Residents Against Violence to Everyone, or BRAVE, fought to prevent construction of the business.
"A January 10, 2022, email from attorneys representing the town of Brighton informed BRAVE that the town's attorneys had 'received confirmation that Planned Parenthood terminated its lease with Westfall Medical Realty and will not occupy the South Clinton Avenue, Brighton, premises,'" the society reported.
Among those working on the campaign was a group called Reprotection.
Spokeswoman Missy Martinez-Stone, explained, "The Reprotection team congratulates the activists in Brighton on their victory and we look forward to taking this precedent-setting lawsuit to other cities and towns across the country."
Thomas More Society spokesman Tom Olp noted BRAVE focused on the negative impacts that a Planned Parenthood abortion facility would deliver to a community, and took those concerns to the town's planning board, the existing medical facilities in Westfall Medical Park, and area residents.
It filed suit when the abortionists' business was approved without considering those concerns.
"By tying these concerns together," explained Olp, "the group's attorney filed a proceeding in late August 2021 against the Brighton Planning Board and the applicant, challenging the approval of the project. The lawsuit focused on the site plan approval process itself, including the lack of a meaningful review by the Planning Board of the many issues that an abortion clinic can bring to a neighborhood community."
He added, "The lawsuit questioned whether surgical facilities are a permitted use within the zoning district. It also raised the question of waste disposal, as well as deleterious secondary impacts to the community character. Under the advice and assistance of Reprotection, the lawsuit also challenged the proposed facility's compliance with wastewater regulations and the lack of consideration of impacts to the town's water supply."
He noted the Reprotection organization turned up information about Environmental Protection Agency regulations as they relate to Planned Parenthood's increasing promotion of the "at home" abortion pill.
More than five dozen individuals ended up appearing before the planning board – a total of nearly 130 appearances – to argue against the development.
They also sent letters to 80 doctors with offices in the area.
Community fights to keep abortion business away – and wins!
Colorado leftists would take all rights away from entire class of human beings
Radical plan adds to state's anti-life heritage
By Bob Unruh March 10, 2022
It was April 25, 1967, that Colorado took the lead in the race to promote abortion, to make sure that unborn children could be killed at will, by adopting America's first abortion law.
It wouldn't be until six years later that the Supreme Court fell into line with the plan promoted at the time by Dick Lamm, then a Democrat legislator and later a governor whose philosophy of life was typified when he told senior citizens, "We've got a duty to die and get out of the way…"
Now its Democrat-majority legislature is planning another precedent-setting move – the removal of all rights from an entire class of living beings in order to make sure abortion remains available at any time for anyone.
Already, James Dobson of James Dobson's FamilyTalk radio is urging residents to contact their representatives and senators about HB22-1279.
He said the Democrats are "on the verge of passing the most radical abortion law in the country.
"If it goes through, this law will legalize abortion through all 40 weeks of pregnancy. It will also prohibit requiring abortionists to give notice to parents of minor daughters, and even forbid any statute or regulation limiting abortion rights based on the concern for the health of the woman or the baby."
Live Action also was raising the issue.
The pro-life organization explained Democrats in the majority in Colorado – and Democratic homosexual Gov. Jared Polis, could "legalize a woman's right to leave her newborn child to die or allow for the acting 'doctor' to take action to kill the child. This has far-reaching, horrific consequences."
The report continued, "House Bill 22-1279 is known as the 'Reproductive Health Equity Act,' but it has nothing to do with health; intentionally killing a preborn child is never medically necessary. As reported by Axios, the bill is a direct response to the pro-life bills that have passed in states like Texas, Mississippi, and Florida, which restrict abortion access to different points in the pregnancy. Mississippi's law to restrict abortion to prior to 15 weeks is currently being reviewed by the Supreme Court. When the decision is handed down in June, it could mean that Roe v. Wade is altered, overturned, or left in place."
Live Action explained, "Though abortion proponents have long mocked the idea of abortion survivors, the reality is that babies do survive abortions. Some are saved by compassionate medical professionals, while others are left to die."
But lives wouldn't be saved in Colorado, the report explained, saying, "Colorado's bill would legalize the deaths of these newborns by both inaction and action. In addition to prohibiting anyone from 'restricting, interfering with, or discriminating against an individual's fundamental right […] to have an abortion,' the bill would prohibit state and local public entities from: Depriving, through prosecution, punishment, or other means, an individual of the individual's right to act or refrain from acting during the individual's own pregnancy based on the potential, actual, or perceived impact on the pregnancy, the pregnancy's outcomes, or on the pregnant individual's health."
"In short, this bill could force medical professionals to commit or participate in abortions, and let a newborn baby die if the mother wishes. Of course, a common, natural 'outcome' of pregnancy is that a person is born alive. This wouldn't necessarily affect abortion survivors alone, but could also affect babies born with a disability or genetic condition that had not been discovered during pregnancy. Wrongful birth lawsuits have been filed against doctors who did not accurately diagnose a child while she was still in the womb, and therefore, the parents felt they lost the opportunity to abort their child. This bill could allow those parents to 'abort' their child after birth — infanticide."
Further, the bill specifically denies any rights at all to a "a fertilized egg, embryo, or fetus," by stating they do "not have independent or derivative rights under the laws of the state."
"Colorado is in position to deny all rights to an entire group of human beings. The bill also includes a safety clause that states the legislators believe 'this act is necessary for the immediate preservation of the public peace, health, or safety,'" Live Action confirmed.
Axios reported the move is in response to proposed laws in other states that "add restrictions on abortion."
But Colorado's law would have no impact on others states' laws, and its only effects would be to make the state a magnet for the lucrative abortion industry.
Axios said the American abortion industry is concerned the Supreme Court will overturn Roe v. Wade this year, and its key players want to embed their revenue stream in state law at least, state constitutions if they can.
In fact, Democrats in Coloardo are discussing a constitutional amendment to put before voters in 2024.
State Sen. Julie Gonzales, a Democrat from Denver and a sponsor of the new death law, said, "In a world in which Roe v. Wade falls we want to make it clear … that access to abortion care in Colorado is protected."
Also in the race to promote abortion at the state level is Maryland.
WND reported this week on plans there to allow babies to die after they are born.
The concept actually isn't new. Every few months or years, some extremist brings up the idea of allowing abortion after birth. It's relatively easy to discard when some loner at a university on the other side of the world discusses a wild-eyed plan.
Or when, as WND has reported, paramedics in one region of Belgium say it would be all right to end the life of a baby born with a "serious" defect.
That's been a recurring theme, with medical ethicists Francesca Minerva and Alberto Guibilini in 2012 claiming doctors "should be allowed to end the lives of disabled, and even unwanted, newborn babies because they are not 'actual persons.'"
Former Virginia Gov. Ralph Northam, a Democrat, once discussed on radio a controversial 40-week abortion bill.
"If a mother is in labor, I can tell you exactly what would happen. The infant would be delivered. The infant would be kept comfortable. The infant would be resuscitated if that's what the mother and the family desired, and then a discussion would ensue between the physicians and the mother," he said, alluding to a discussion about whether an infant should be allowed to live or die.
But now, the American Center for Law and Justice said that an American state is considering the idea.
According to the team of legal experts, "The Maryland legislative session is in full swing, and once again, abortion advocates are pushing their radical abortion agenda. Recently, we told you about the testimony we presented against Maryland House Bill 1171, which is attempting to codify Roe v. Wade in the Maryland constitution. Now, we're preparing to submit testimony on Maryland Senate Bill 669 – also known as the Pregnant Person's Freedom Act of 2022."
That bill, at first glance, looks like it simply changes "woman" to "pregnant person" in its references.
But its provisions to prevent a "pregnant person" from being investigated for "terminating or attempting to terminate" her own pregnancy is where the plan gets lethal.
"The bill also proposes a revision of the fetal murder/manslaughter statute that would serve to handcuff the investigation of infant deaths unrelated to abortion. In other words – this bill will effectively legalize infanticide," the ACLJ reported.
"The exact language of the bill states: 'This section may not be construed to authorize any form of investigation or penalty for a person . . . experiencing a . . . perinatal death related to a failure to act.' (Emphasis added). In other words, a baby born alive and well could be abandoned and left to starve or freeze to death, and nothing could be done to punish those who participated in that cruel death," the organization's report explained.
"The bill also includes a section that would allow 'a person [to] bring a cause of action for damages if the person was subject to unlawful arrest or criminal investigation for a violation of this section as a result of . . . experiencing a . . . perinatal death.'"
So, the ACLJ reported, "if a baby died because it was abandoned and police investigated and eventually arrested the person responsible for the baby's death, then the woman could sue the police and get monetary damages for having been investigated and arrested."
The report said even worse is that the language in the bill "is without clear definition," so "the bill could prevent any investigations into the death of infants at least seven days AFTER their birth, and may extend to infants as old as four weeks!"
It's because "perinatal" isn't defined in the bill and medical tomes say it starts at the "20th to 28th week of gestation and ends 1 to 4 weeks after birth."
Since the state already has a "safe haven" law, allowing a mother to give up an infant without penalty, "there is absolutely no reason for Maryland Senate Bill 669's attempt to prevent someone who lets their baby die from being investigated."
The ACLJ reported that because of concerns that it raised, the "perinatal" language is being removed from the S.B. 669 plan, but an identical bill still is pending in the Maryland House.
Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on March 11, 2022 March 10, 2022 Tags abortion, Bible, Cross, Family, God's Mercy, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, Persecution, Prayer, Rights, Salvation, TribulationLeave a comment on Community fights and keeps abortion business away – leftists would take all rights away from entire class of human beings
VIDEO MUST WATCH: 2nd Grader Suspended 38 Times for Not Wearing Masks Tells School Board That She Hopes They Go to Jail – "Family Privilege"? Parental Rights, Marxists'
By Cassandra Fairbanks November 10, 2021
Fiona Lashells, who just turned 8 years old, told the Tampa Bay school board in no uncertain terms how she felt about their rules.
She is "on a mission to take back, not only her rights but every American child's constitutional rights from the tyrant school board," her mother, Bailey Lashells, told The Free Press.
Fiona isn't taking the suspensions lying down either, she has now spoke at her school board meetings twice — directly confronting those who are ruining her education.
School board speech by Florida 2nd grader who was suspended 36 times for not wearing a mask:
Legend 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 pic.twitter.com/SjEAhuQuP8
— Libs of Tik Tok (@libsoftiktok) November 10, 2021
Speaking at a school board meeting for the second time, the brave elementary school student said that she believes masks are dirty and pointless.
Fiona asserted, "ok yeah, I hope you all go to jail for doing this to me," to huge applause from the crowd. She added that her family is very proud of her and that the rules "s^^^k."
"I'm doing it for other kids and not just myself," Fiona told Fox 8.
Fiona's mother says that her daughter has now been told that she will fail the second grade, despite completing all of her assignments.
"Fiona is a strong-minded and fearless young girl who was ready to conquer the world at 7," she told the newspaper. "Unfortunately, the blows just seem to not stop as she was recently told after completing every assignment her teacher will provide that she is not only failing 2nd grade but that there is no way she could catch up, per her teacher."
MUST WATCH: 2nd Grader Suspended 38 Times for Not Wearing Masks Tells School Board That She Hopes They Go to Jail
"Family Privilege"? Parental Rights, Marxists' Next Target
"I Really Want Edmond to DIE. I'll Be So Happy, I'll Have a F*cking Party." – School Board Member's Deranged Father Stalks Parents And Wishes Them Dead
Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on November 12, 2021 November 12, 2021 Tags Bible, Cross, Family, God's Mercy, masks, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, parents, Persecution, Prayer, Salvation, TribulationLeave a comment on VIDEO MUST WATCH: 2nd Grader Suspended 38 Times for Not Wearing Masks Tells School Board That She Hopes They Go to Jail – "Family Privilege"? Parental Rights, Marxists'
The number one thing a woman needs from her husband
By Jimmy Evans, Op-Ed Contributor
The number one thing that a normal, healthy woman needs her husband to provide is security.
Ephesians chapter 5 is God's picture of marriage. The theme of Ephesians for women is respect. God says to treat your husband with honor. Treat him as you would the Lord Jesus, because your husband's most important need is honor.
The standard in Ephesians for a husband is different than it is for a wife. It says for men, "Husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her." That means the standard for husbands is self-sacrifice.
Think of Jesus. We don't have to love Jesus. The reason we love Jesus is because he died for us on the cross. Jesus is not an imposing God who stands over us demanding something. Jesus went to the cross and did for us what we could never have done for ourselves. And so, Jesus is the most loved person of all time. More than any political leader, or any other person in the history of the world, people love Jesus Christ, because Jesus was willing to give his life up for someone else.
Husbands can earn respect in the same way. Husbands can't demand respect or affection from their wives. We can't go around demanding it, but we can earn it. Admiration and affection come by what we're willing to sacrifice.
There is nothing that makes a woman feel more secure than a selfless, sacrificial male. There's nothing that makes a woman feel more insecure than a selfish, detached male.
Men don't need security the way women need security. We need security, but we feel secure in ourselves. That's why we won't stop and ask for directions. We think, "I can get there." As a result, in my family, were great explorers. I have a compass "in here." I think I've got it taken care of. But my wife's saying to ask for directions because her security doesn't come from "in here."
The need for security is not a weakness. It's based on need. She needs for her world to be right. She needs you. She needs your gift. She needs your strength. She needs your understanding and your partnership to help put her world right. She needs a husband who comes to her and says, "I'm here to help. And I'll sacrifice. I'll do whatever it takes."
For a man to have a successful marriage means he has to learn to understand everything in his wife's life that makes her feel secure. It may mean you're concerned about the kids. You're concerned about the finances. You're concerned about her emotions. You're concerned about the spirituality of the home. You're concerned about her job. You're concerned about the broken washing machine.
Then you communicate that you're going to help her. You let her know you're going to come into her world and make her feel secure rather than telling her, "It doesn't matter." Or, "Who cares?" Or, "It's going to be alright."
Some things that don't bother a man really, really bother a woman. All the lectures in the world will never change her, no more than she will change you when she feels insecure. There's only one thing that will make her feel secure: knowing that you care. It doesn't matter that you agree or don't agree. It doesn't matter that you see it the same way. The only thing that matters is that she feels secure.
When Karen and I first got married, I was completely selfish. I would golf all the time, work all the time. Then I'd come home and Karen would say, "I'm worried about the kids," "I'm worried about our finances," "I'm worried about this and that." So, I would just kind of look at her. Sometimes I'd lecture her. I'd say, "It's fine," or "there's nothing to worry about." I noticed that none of this ever helped. When I said, "It's going to be okay," instead of calming her, she would just get tense. I'd think, "What's wrong with you? Relax!"
She couldn't communicate to me, "I'm tense because you don't care. You're not tuned in. You don't listen to me. It's just all about you. I'm telling you, I'm worried about the kids and I don't want a lecture. I don't want you to roll your eyes at me. I don't want you to tell me it doesn't matter. Or that it's going to be okay. I want you to connect. I want you to understand, and I want you to help me make it right."
A husband's response at those times should be, "Whatever it takes. If I have to say no to my friends, if I have to say no to work, if I have to say no to myself, if I have to say no to football, I'll do it."
I remember the first time I looked at Karen and said, "I'm sorry that I've been insensitive. I've invalidated everything you've said. I've rolled my eyes. I've lectured you. I've called you names. I've treated you like you were stupid. I'm so sorry that I've done that. From now on, whatever you need, I'll get it. If we need to talk, we'll talk. It doesn't mean you're right about everything but if you say something that is a genuine need, you don't have to ask twice. I'm committed."
And here was her response: she relaxed. I had tried to lecture her and browbeat her into relaxing and never got it. But when I finally connected with her and began sacrificially meeting her needs that's when she began to relax and open up to me.
Marriage is so much easier when you just become humble and say, "Tell me what you need and what you want me to do."
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Jimmy Evans is the founder and President of XO Marriage, a ministry that is devoted to helping couples thrive in strong and fulfilling marriages and families. Jimmy and his wife, Karen, co-host MarriageToday, a nationally syndicated television program. He also serves as an Apostolic Elder of Trinity Fellowship Church in Amarillo, Texas. Jimmy holds an honorary doctorate of literature from The King's University and has authored more than seventeen books.
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VIDEO Marriage, Divorce, and Singleness
John MacArthur Nov 21, 2010
Open your Bible to 1 Corinthians chapter 7, and we're going to do something that I don't do very often. We're going to cover forty verses tonight, so you're going to have to stay with us on this, and this is going to be a very, very rich experience.
We have looked the last two Sunday mornings at Mark chapter 10, at our Lord's teaching on the subject of marriage and divorce, and we now come to the apostle Paul who helps us with some of the implications of what our Lord taught. And actually, he even expands on what our Lord taught. Now let me show you something of the essence of this by pointing out a few verses in chapter 7. Verse 10, "To the married, I give instructions, not I but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband." Paul is saying, "I'm going to tell you something that doesn't come only from me, but it comes from the Lord." So he's referring back to the teaching of the Lord.
However, in verse 12 he says, "This time to the rest, I say, not the Lord." He doesn't mean that this isn't from heaven, he doesn't mean it's not inspired, he simply means "I am not quoting our Lord this time," referring in verse 10 back to the fact that God hates divorce, and our Lord affirmed that, as we saw in Mark 10, "I'm giving you instructions that come directly from the Lord." Here he says, "This doesn't come directly from the Lord, but I say if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her." Now he's gone beyond the teaching of the Lord into new areas of divine revelation, no less from God but just not quoting the Lord.
Verse 25, concerning virgins, "I have no command of the Lord." ("I can't go back and quote Jesus on this, but I give an opinion as one who by the mercy of the Lord is trustworthy. This is coming from me, but you can count on it because God has mercifully enabled me to speak the truth.") And even at the end of the chapter in the final verse, he says, "I consider that I also have the Spirit of God." ("This is not coming from me, but it is rather coming from the Holy Spirit.")
So at no point in this chapter does Paul intend to say that I'm going to be teaching you something that the Lord is not speaking about. He is simply saying I am teaching you something that I cannot find in the precise scriptural record of the teaching of Jesus. It is no less from the Spirit, it is no less trustworthy.
Now, as you work through these forty verses, the best way, I think, to do this is to understand that he's dealing with the Corinthian church. And in the Corinthian church, there were all kinds of issues, as you know, and marriage was one of them, marital status was a huge, huge issue. And, apparently, as so often in the epistles of Paul, he is answering specific questions that have been brought up to him and trying to clarify things that the people need to know. His teaching is equal to the teaching of Jesus. It is inspired, it is in no way inferior, it is in every sense binding and authoritative on us, but not all of it comes specifically and directly from Jesus.
The background, however, of what he's doing here is the Corinthian chaos. People in the Corinthian church didn't come out of a Jewish background, so they didn't have an Old Testament view of marriage and divorce, even a convoluted one like the Jews we talked about today. They came out of paganism. They came out of godlessness and worldliness, and myriad marital problems and entanglements and misunderstandings existed.
For example, here would be a typical scenario that would exist in the Corinthian church with a whole group of converted Gentiles. Rome had no uniform marriage law. They would be under the influence of the Roman Empire. And the Empire contained, for example, many slaves and many of the believers were slaves. A marriage in the strict and legal sense did not even exist for slaves. A master could allow what was called contubernium or, literally, tent companionship – living together, we would say. This was entered by slaves without a ceremony and could be ended if the master chose to end it, and at any point he could sell one of the slaves, and that would virtually end it anyway. It is like today's "live-in" sex partners.
Since many early Christians were slaves, it is very likely that they had lived in such unions in the past and maybe in multiple unions and maybe even in the present. Now what? What's their status?
Beyond the slaves, for the common people, there was a custom called usus, U-S-U-S. It specified if a woman had dwelt with a man for a year, she was his wife. That would be what we call common-law marriage, only in America, I think it's seven years. Another way of marrying for common people was called coemptio in manum, marriage by sale. You went to a man who was a little low on cash and you bought his daughter. This is a rather traditional way, kind of the dowry. The father would sell his daughter to a husband with money.
Now, if you get beyond the common people, you get to the upper classes and the noble people, a little more of the elite folks, they had marriage called confarreatio. They actually had a ceremony, the noble people. They had a joining of right hands. They said vows. They prayed prayers to Jupiter and to Juno. They had rings, by the way, they had rings and you could find in ancient Roman literature the fact that they cut up a cadaver and somebody named Aulus Gellius cut up cadavers and said that there was a nerve that ran from the third finger on the left hand directly to the heart and so the ring should be put on the third finger of the left hand. That was part of the ceremony. They had wreaths, veils, flowers, and cake, so guess where your wedding came from. An old Roman tradition picked up by the Roman Catholic Church and standardized.
The moral character of life in the Roman world and life around Corinth was low. Divorce was high where marriage even existed. And with the slaves, where marriage really didn't exist, the changing of partners was a rather constant issue. And even the common people in their sort of informal covenants together broke them and went to other people. On top of that, immorality was rampant. In fact, you can find in the literature that the Romans had wives for the cooking and the care of the house and concubines for their sexual needs. Concubinage was everywhere, fornication was everywhere, adultery was rampant. It was a horrible world.
There was even a women's liberation movement. Jerome Carcopino has a wonderful little book, if you can ever find one, it's called Daily Life in Ancient Rome in which he goes back and digs out all the history of these things and he says there was a women's liberation movement around biblical times in which, quote, "Some women were not content to live their lives by their husband's side but carried on another life without him." Another writer says, "What modesty can you expect in a woman who wears a helmet, hates her own sex, and delights in feats of strength?" Hmm. We have some of those in our society.
The same writer (Juvenal) says, "Thus does she lord it over her husband, but before long, she vacates her kingdom, flits from one house to another, wearing out her bridal veil," end quote, by overuse.
So marriage in Paul's day is a disaster, like in our day, chaotic. And, of course, among the Corinthians now that have come to Christ and they have been taught the standard of one man, one woman for life in a true covenant, a real covenant, a public covenant before God and before others, they have all kinds of questions, and the questions are the best way to break down this chapter.
Now, there are always those people who come up with the idea of no marriage, no sexual relationships at all. That would be like Mother Ann Lee, who was the mother of no one, of course, since she didn't believe in having any relationship with a man. She started a group called the Shakers that quickly went out of existence, for obvious reasons. They had this notion that any kind of physical relationship was evil and wicked and sinful and that took care of their operation pretty fast, really.
So the first question that we could sort of form as we jump into this chapter – and this must be behind what is going on as the chapter opens – is to ask the question: Are normal physical relationships between a man and a woman somehow wrong? Are they unspiritual?
Let's start. Chapter 7 verse 1, "Now concerning the things about which you wrote," and that's why we believe these are questions that need to be answered because he's referring directly to something that was written and sent to him, the apostle Paul, "concerning the things about which you wrote." And you can imagine what was in that letter based upon the history that I just described to you, based upon the culture. So first, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. That's a euphemism for sexual relationships. It is good, it's okay. It's good not to have sexual relationships.
That is to say, it's not evil. It's good. It falls within the realm of goodness, kalos. It's okay. Celibacy is all right. It's honorable. It's excellent. It's all right not to marry. It's all right to stay single. It's all right never to do that. But, verse 2, "The general rule, however, because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife and each woman is to have her own husband." Why? Because of what? Immoralities. You say, "I want to stay single all my life." Huh. Well, singleness is good if it is not the cause of sexual sin.
The general rule is: Get married. The reason is simple. Because of temptation – because of temptation. There is no place for fornication – that's the word there translated "immoralities" in the NAS. The fact of life is that if you try to stay single, as good as celibacy can be, marriage is the norm, and marriage is better if being single results in temptation. I want you to know that Paul doesn't say get married because you find somebody that you like. He says, really, get married because you're running at a very high risk of life if you don't.
There are six reasons for marriage that I jotted down. Procreation, Genesis 1:28; pleasure, Hebrews 13:4, the bed is not defiled, it's undefiled, pleasure; purity, right here; provision, you take a wife in order that you might protect her and care for her and nourish her and cherish her as the Lord does the church; partnership, not good to be alone, you need a helper; and picture, a picture of Christ in the church. But right in the middle of that is this notion of purity. Each man is to have his own wife and each woman is to have her own husband. Verse 3, "The husband then must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband."
So Paul is saying – there are some people saying, "Well, should we just stay single? Should we just be celibate? Should we see sex as evil?" Why would they say that? Because it mostly was in their world. It was just immorality everywhere, fornication everywhere, adultery everywhere, all the time, by everybody. And so some of them think they're taking the noble high ground and saying, you know, "Maybe we just don't do that at all" because it was a pornographic culture, it was a debased culture.
You know, it's nothing new for that to be the conclusion that people make in a time of debased living. I think there were many mediaeval monks who made that conclusion, that the high ground was to be celibate. They were seeing sexual relationships of any kind in any relationship as some kind of a defilement. But Paul says, "Look, it's okay to be single, it's okay to live without any relationships with the opposite sex, but it's a whole lot better to marry because of immoralities. And then when you do marry, you have the duty to fulfill to each other."
That duty, obviously, is to render the physical affection that is consistent and God ordained for the procreation and the pleasure of people in a marriage. In fact, the duty is so high in a marriage that the wife doesn't even have authority over her own body, the husband does. And likewise, the husband doesn't have authority over his own body, but the wife does. So stop depriving one another. Paul says that's not what God is asking. You look at the culture you live in and the history you come from in the past and all of that and maybe you want to say – the high ground, the noble ground in this sex-saturated, sex-mad culture is to just say, "I'll never do that, I'm going to live a life of complete abstinence, and this is the level of purity."
Paul says, that's good, that's not wrong, that's not bad. But for most people, that's going to lead to immorality, so have your own wife, have your own husband, and fulfill your duties to each other, and do not deprive each other of that. Unless (verse 5) by agreement for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. If there is some exigency in your life, some trauma in your life, some issue in your life which, much like fasting from food, consumes you with sadness and sorrow, these kinds of things flee your mind, you agree to that. But come together again. Why? So that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Don't do that. You give Satan opportunity.
So the opposite is true. You think that you'll be more pure by withholding that. The truth is you're going to go right down the path that Satan wants you to go, into sin, because you're going to be tempted because of your inability to exercise self-control. Get married for the sake of purity, and when you're married, fulfill your marriage covenant physically, do not deprive each other except for some great spiritual cause, and come back together again so that you don't put yourself in a position that Satan would tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Now, Paul says this in verse 6, "I say this by way of concession, not of command. Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that." What he is saying is, "Look, celibacy is a gift. It's a gift. And I'm just conceding the fact, not commanding it. I can't command celibacy because that wouldn't be right. But I would, by way of concession, say, 'I wish you were like me,'" which is to say that he's what? He's not married.
Was he ever married? Most of us think he was because he was a member of the Sanhedrin, and you had to be married to be a member of the Sanhedrin. What happened to his wife? Who knows, we don't know. We don't think he left her at home and took off for the rest of his life. So he probably lost his wife in death. He says to the Corinthians in 1 Corinthians chapter 9, "A man has a right to lead about a wife," has that right, but Paul did not exercise that right, and it was based upon the fact that each man has his own gift from God.
And this is what we talk about, the gift of singleness – the gift of singleness. And that is a gift. If you drop down to verse 32, "I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord, but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided," verse 34.
So there are some benefits to being single, if you have been given by God the gift. Each man has his own gift. Celibacy is a gift. And you remember the disciples back in Matthew 19? We read that today. The disciples said to Jesus (after His teaching on divorce), "It's better not to get married." And what did Jesus say? But not all men can handle that. Not everybody can handle that. It's okay. It's good. It's honorable. It has great potential to keep you single-minded and focused. But it's a gift, it's a unique gift.
The gift is best known by those who feel strong, complete comfort in being single and no strong desire for a partner, for an intimate partner, a life partner. It's an option. But please don't conclude that there's anything wrong with the God-given gift of physical intimacy. Singleness, the last thing that God wants out of singleness is sexual promiscuity. Be single if that's not a problem. If that's a problem, get married.
All right, the next question on their mind, probably on that letter he got from them, "Should the formerly married remarry?" And verse 8 is where he starts to talk about this, shifting gears, "But I say to the unmarried and to widows" – these would be two categories of formerly married people. A widow is someone whose spouse died, right? Everybody knows that, it's universally understood. But who are unmarried people? Well, they can't be widows because it's the unmarried and the widows. Now, there are only two ways that you can be married and then not be married. You either were widowed or you were divorced. That has to be what that means.
So to those who have been divorced (called the unmarried) and to widows, "it is good for them if they remain even as I." The unmarried are the formerly married, the agamos, gamos, the married idea, and then a, the alpha privative, divorced people. Verse 11, "If she leaves, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband." Again, the same meaning has to be in view. Down in verse 34, you have the unmarried and the virgin. The unmarried aren't the widows and the unmarried aren't the virgins. So who are the unmarried? They have to be the people who were married and now are no longer married.
So formerly married people, now single by death, widows, or single by divorce, unmarried, what does Paul say? Verse 8, Well, it's good, again it's good to be single, so it's good to stay single. It's good so that you can serve, so that you can be free as verses 32, 33, and 34 were pointed out to you. But look at verse 9. If they do not have self-control, let them what? Marry. It's better to marry than to burn. Not burn in hell but burn with desire. It's fine. You were married, now you're single, be single, stay single, stay focused, live your life that way. That is preferable. I think that's great advice from the apostle Paul, great advice. But if you need to be married, if that's a problem physically, get married.
And you remember in 1 Timothy 5:14, the apostle Paul makes this very clear when he's talking about widows there. He says, "I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, give the enemy no occasion for reproach, for some have already turned aside to follow Satan." You don't want a lot of young widows with all their desires being vulnerable to evil things around them. Stay single if you're able. Paul was able and he was focused, and he was given that gift. It indicates that God can give that gift even after marriage if He so desires.
Be convinced that God has allowed your singleness for holy purposes – for holy purposes. Pour your life into the kingdom. This is picked up in verse 26, "I think, then, that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife? Don't seek to be released. If you're released from a wife, don't seek a wife." If you can handle that, it's good because it's tough in the world. The world they lived in was like the world we live in. "But if you do marry, you haven't sinned and if a virgin marries, she hasn't sinned." They were asking those kinds of questions.
This abstinence idea had apparently taken over. It's okay to marry, it's okay to stay single. Yet when you do, you'll have trouble in this life, and I'm trying to spare you. If you can be single, it simplifies your life. It narrows down the realm of your trouble. You got enough trouble with yourself, you marry somebody, and now you got two people, two sinners colliding. And you have a bunch of children, and you've got six sinners smashing into each other, and it just keeps going.
There's something to be said for just one sinner. It lowers the level of conflict. However, this assumes that one can deal with that kind of situation. And in verse 29 he even says, "The time has been shortened, so from now on, those who have wives should be as though they had none, those who weep as though they didn't weep, those who rejoice as though they didn't rejoice, those who buy although they didn't possess, those who use the world as though they didn't make full use of it, for the form of this world is passing away." Paul is saying, if you can stay single, it simplifies your life and you can pour your solo life into the kingdom, but you have to have the gift to do that or it just becomes a horrendous means of temptation.
So the question, then, is: Is sexual activity unspiritual? No. Singleness is good. Marriage is good, if you don't have the gift of singleness. Should the formerly married remarry? Yes, if they desire to be married because it's better to marry than to burn. But if you can be single, be single and focus on the kingdom.
Another question apparently is raised here: What are the alternatives for those who are married? What are the alternatives for those who are married? Now, understand what happens. Maybe, let's say, a wife comes to hear the gospel, she believes in the gospel, she is saved, and now she's got an unconverted husband. Is she in a situation where she is unequally yoked together with an unbeliever? Is she having a relationship with a person who is part of the kingdom of Satan? Is this Christ with Belial, you know, in the language of Paul in the 2 Corinthian letter?
Is this light and darkness joined together? Is this sin and righteousness joined together? They were asking these kinds of questions. And, of course, the Lord's teaching was no divorce. So the question comes, what are the alternatives for those that are married? Verse 10, "To the married" – those of you who are married. Now, before, he was talking to those who were what? Single. If you can stay single, it's good, but it's better to marry, if that's what you need.
Now he's going to talk to the married. "I give instructions, and not I but the Lord," and here, this is directly from the Lord (Matthew 5, Matthew 19, Mark 10) the wife shouldn't leave her husband. Why? Because God hates divorce and because God joins together every couple. What God has joined together, let not man separate. So he reiterates what the Lord taught. God hates divorce. Don't divorce. One man, one woman, in one union, the indivisible one, for life, no separation.
Now you come to verse 12. "To the rest, I say" – not the Lord, this is from me, the Lord hasn't got any instruction on this specifically – "if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever and she consents to live with him" – this is the opposite situation. But in this case, this is a brother who has a wife and in this case she's the unbeliever but she wants to live with him. Should he divorce her just because she's an unbeliever? The answer: No, he must not divorce her.
And a woman, verse 13, who has an unbelieving husband and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband or divorce her husband. Why? "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for, otherwise, your children are unclean but now they are holy." What is that saying? That is saying, "Look, if your unbelieving partner loves you and wants to stay with you, you stay in that marriage."
Why? Because you become the sanctifying instrument in the life of that nonbeliever and in the lives of the children of that union because you are the one receiving the grace of God that is being poured out on your life that will spill over to those unbelieving people and to your husband or your wife and your children. Instead of the Christian – listen – being defiled by the unbeliever, the unbeliever is cleansed by the presence of the Christian. We're not talking about salvation here, we're simply talking about the pure, wonderful blessings of God falling on a believer and spilling over to a nonbeliever and making a purer, cleaner, lovelier home.
God pours out His blessings on His redeemed and on the children of His redeemed. So it's the opposite of what they were thinking (I need to shake that partner because he's a pagan, he'll defile me). No, you'll be the means of sanctifying influence on him.
However, verse 15 creates another scenario. If the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave. Let him leave. Literally, if he takes himself out, that's the verb, if he eliminates himself, chōrizō, technical term, really, for divorce. "If an unbeliever divorces a believer, let him leave. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace." Here is the second exception for divorce. The first is adultery, we saw that in Matthew 19, Matthew 5. Second one is an unbeliever divorces a believer.
You are not under bondage. The bondage is broken, the bond is broken. You are no longer bound. Romans 7. The married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living. If her husband dies, she is released from that law. Same language here. If an unbeliever leaves, you are not bound. What does that mean? The union has been broken, you no longer are bound by it, which then assumes that you have the right to remarry if a nonbeliever leaves because God has called us to peace, and the blessings of peace are what God wants for His children.
You say, "Well, I think I'll just hang on until the dying day. I think I'll fight this guy all the way to the end. I think I'll make it really impossible for him to divorce me because I want to see him saved." Good. However, verse 16 is written for you. "How do you know" – "How do you know, O wife, whether you'll save your husband?" That's pretty practical, isn't it? Marriage is not an evangelistic tool. It's an evangelistic context, but don't think that just by hanging onto this guy that somehow you're going to save him. How do you know whether you'll save him? Or how do you know, husband, whether you'll save your wife?
That's not the point. You have no knowledge of that. When the unconverted person is determined to leave and seeks a divorce, you don't need to perpetuate the tension and the frustration and the hatred and the animosity under some notion that you might be the only person on the planet who can be the instrument of salvation. That's for God to decide.
Well, the summary comes in verse 17, and this answers another question: Should salvation change our marital status? That's kind of what we've been dealing with. "Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk." Salvation doesn't really change anything. Now that you're a believer, you don't have to give up sex, throw out your partner – doesn't change anything. If you – he gives some illustrations and analogies. "Was any man called when he was already circumcised?" If you were saved when you were Jewish, you can stay that way.
Don't become uncircumcised. If you were called in uncircumcision, don't be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing, but what matters is the keeping of the commandments of God. And that's simply an analogy and an illustration to say everybody remains in the condition in which he was called. So if you were saved single, that doesn't change. If you were saved married, that doesn't change. If you were saved and all of a sudden your unconverted spouse wants to divorce you, stay the way you are. Stay the way you are.
"Were you called while a slave?" Verse 21. Don't worry about it. If you're able to be free, do that. If there's a path to freedom, take it. For he who was called in the Lord while a slave is the Lord's freed man. You're free in Him anyway. Likewise, he who was called while free is Christ's slave. You were bought with a price, don't become slaves of men. Don't let anybody dictate what you ought to do. "Brethren, each one is to remain with God in that condition in which he was called."
So how does that work out? You come, you receive the Lord Jesus Christ, you're a converted husband, you have an unsaved wife. You're a converted wife, you have an unsaved husband. What are you supposed to do? Withhold from him a physical relationship? Divorce him? Throw him out of the house? No, stay where you are. Stay where you are. You're single and you come to Christ. Are you now supposed to be a monk the rest of your life? Are you supposed to be celibate the rest of your life? No. If you have that gift, fine. If you don't, get married – get married.
Single or married, whatever God wills in whatever situation you're in, stay that way. This is so important because Christianity was never intended to just rip and shred families; the very opposite is true. And unless that unbeliever wants to leave, you become the sanctifying influence for the one that stays.
So is our sexual relationship somehow unspiritual? No. Should those saved after they're widowed or divorced remarry? Yes, you have the freedom to remarry or stay single, whatever is God's will for you. What are the alternatives, then, for married people, to Christians? No divorce. And if you do leave, you don't remarry anybody else and you come back to your husband. Those are your two options. If you're married to a non-Christian, the non-Christian decides to divorce you, let it happen. You're free to remarry.
Now, there's another question in Paul's mind at this point and it has to do with virgins. Verse 25. Now concerning virgins – these are the never married. We've dealt with the single and the married and the widowed and the formerly married, divorced, and now we get around to the virgins. Now, this is probably what was going on – now, get the big picture. They've got this sexually perverted culture, they want to distance themselves from the world, and so they come to the conclusion that if they just distance themselves completely from physical relationships, this is going to be the spiritual high ground.
Therefore, there would be people who had never been married, men and women, virgins would cover men and women who'd never married. They'd never known a man, to borrow the biblical euphemism. What do they do? Do they just stay that way? Parthenoi. It is used in Revelation 14:4 one time to refer to men. That's why I say, it can be men or women, most often used to refer to women. These are people who had never had a relationship.
So "I have no command of the Lord." The Lord didn't say anything – the Lord didn't say anything. "However, I will give you my judgment," literally, "as one who by the mercy of the Lord is trustworthy" or faithful. "I will give you a faithful judgment as one who is trustworthy" because he is inspired by the Lord. "I think, then, that this is good, in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is."
So if you can be single – back to verse 1, verse 8 – stay single. Hard times are coming. They were, by the way, about seventeen years from the first general persecution under Domitian, the sixth emperor of Rome, and it was a massacre and a bloodletting of Christians. So he's saying, look, if you're single and you've never been married, so you're not now married to a believer or non-believer, you're not divorced, you're not widowed, you're in the category of never having been married, boy, that's a good place to be in.
That's a good place because of the present distress, the challenges that are coming on us. It's going to be a tough world. A few years from now, some of you are going to – you're going to be killed. Diocletian's persecution stretched across the Roman world. But – verse 28 – we already read 26 and 27 – verse 28, "If you marry, you haven't sinned, and if a virgin marries, she hasn't sinned."
Are you beginning to get the picture of what they were asking him? That singleness seems to be the right thing, no sexual relationship seems to be the right thing. And he's setting all that aside. Look, there's trouble in the world, singleness is great because you're not going to bring a family into the world and then watch your children being burned at the stake, your wife. There's something to be said for being single in a time of terrible, frightening persecution. But if you marry, you haven't sinned. And if a virgin marries, she hasn't sinned. "Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I'm trying to spare you."
You'll have thlipsis, the word for trouble, pressure. You'll be crushed. It literally means to be pressed. Because we understand that, don't we? The single person worries about his own life. The married person, all of a sudden he worries about his wife and he worries about his children or she worries about her husband and her children.
And then he says in verse 29, "Look, it's a short time, life, it's a short time. For some of you, it's a very short time because you're going to get caught in the persecution. So from now on, those who have wives should be as though they had none. Those who weep as though they didn't weep, and those who rejoice as though they didn't rejoice, and those who buy as though they didn't possess, and those who use the world as though they didn't make full use of it, for the form of this world is passing away."
Marriage has no relation to the eternal, right? You remember when they said to Jesus, "Whose wife shall she be in heaven?" And Jesus said, "In heaven, there is neither marrying nor giving in marriage." This is good advice. Paul says the pressure of the system, the problems of the flesh, living in this life, and the passing of the world means that if you can concentrate on the eternal things in dire times, you simplify your life. We're all going to have to simplify. We're all going to have to pull things in. We're all going to have to live in these difficult, difficult times. But for single people, life is simpler and not nearly as threatening or painful.
In verse 32, he adds, "I want you to be free from concern, and one who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife." And that's exactly what he ought to be concerned about, exactly.
Married folks have divided preoccupations, divided responsibility. His interests are divided, verse 34. "The woman who is unmarried and the virgin" – that's the formerly married one who is now unmarried, either by widowhood or divorce – "is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit. One who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband." And that's exactly what she ought to be concerned about.
And the things of the world, this doesn't mean sinful things, just means the issues of life. "But I say this for your benefit, not to put a restraint on you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord." You know, Paul was living this as a single man who had once been married, and he understood the single focus of this. He advises these virgins in the same way that he advised the formerly married in this passage and says, "Stay where you are. If you're married, stay married. If you're single and you can do it, stay single. And if you're a virgin and you can deal with that, stay that way – stay that way."
So the bottom line here, up to this point, is that becoming a Christian does not of necessity mean that you have to make some dramatic alteration of your marital status. That's not what the Lord requires.
Two more questions remain here. Should fathers spare their daughters the difficulties of marriage and keep them virgins for life? Oh, boy, some really well-intentioned fathers were saying "Well, I don't want you marrying some of these men in the world out there. I don't want to have you deal with all of that, all the immorality that may have been a part of their lives in the past." You can understand this. A father comes to Christ, the father's in the church, he's got young daughters that are coming up. There are other men in the church. There are the young men in the church, single men in the church, but their lives before Christ have been very sinful lives.
And so this Christian father says to his daughters that he's raising in the things of Christ, "I don't want you to get married. I don't want you to do that. I want you to be pure. I want you to be devoted to Christ. I want you to be focused on the life of the church. I'll take care of you, as your father. I'll care for your life. You can stay at home and you can spend your life in the service of the Lord and honoring the Lord. So, apparently, some of these fathers thought this was really a great idea.
Paul needs to answer that. Verse 36, "If any man thinks he's acting unbecomingly toward his virgin daughter, if she's past her youth and if it must be so, let him do what he wishes. He doesn't sin, let her marry." You know what had happened? Some fathers were making a promise, "I'm going to keep you a virgin. I'm going to protect you from this wicked, sinful world. I'm going to protect you from these men. I'm not going to put you in a position to be married and deal with all the troubles of life. I'm going to take care of you."
And then the girl gets older, she comes into maturity, and she's past her childhood, and she wants to get married. And he's kind of stuck and he's saying, "Well, what do I do?" He now thinks he's acting unbecomingly toward his daughter. She doesn't want this. So Paul says, "Let her marry – let her marry. But, on the other hand," verse 37, "he who stands firm in his heart being under no constraint but has authority over his own will and has decided this in his own heart to keep his own virgin daughter, he will do well."
So then both he who gives his own virgin daughter in marriage does well and he who doesn't give her in marriage will do well if this pleases her. But if it gets to the point where this is now an action that is unbecoming to her, that is irritating to her, that she doesn't desire, that she doesn't want, let her marry. So if she wants to stay single, keep her, care for her, let her invest her life in the kingdom and the advance of the gospel. But if she wants to get married, let her marry.
God can lead through fathers. I have to believe that. But sometimes we may have plans that just really don't make sense. Fathers in those days made contracts and probably some of these fathers had made some kind of covenant. You know, we have some of that going on today. People making covenants of abstinence and things like that. That's fine for single people. But it would be silly for a father to say this is a life covenant, because you really don't know until time passes and a daughter reaches some level of maturity whether or not she can deal with being single or being married. In any case, a father who cares for a daughter and she stays home and focuses on the Lord and the kingdom does well, if that's her desire, a father who lets her marry does well as well.
Well, there's nothing left except two verses: Should widows remarry? Should widows remarry? We can put divorce in here as well. A wife is bound as long as her husband lives but if her husband's dead, she's free to be married to whom she wishes, with one provision – what is it? – only what? Only in the Lord. Only marry believers. Only in the Lord. "In my opinion, however, she's happier if she remains as she is." That's just an opinion. He said, "Look, I can just tell you, as a man who was married and a man who is single, it's simpler. And I consider that in saying this, I'm giving you the mind of the Holy Spirit."
And I say this to you that are single, particularly. If you can remain single in the service of Christ, do so, but not to the jeopardy of your purity. If that's an issue, get married. And if that's an issue, don't postpone your marriage because marriage postponed constitutes an illegitimate single life. If you don't have the gift of singleness, get married. It always makes me shudder a little bit when somebody says, "Yeah, we've decided to get married." "Oh, great. When are you getting married?" "A year from March." "Oh, really? Just exactly what might happen between now and then, do you have any idea?"
I'm a believer in – like you give the girl a ring and within sixty days, you're married. You say, "Oh, we can't plan the wedding." Forget that, forget that. What do you mean, plan the wedding? Look, I have a plan, I have a plan. We do the weddings here, we do them sometime on the Lord's day in the afternoon, and we just have all the people who want to get married come up. Don't have to pay anything, everybody use the same flowers, we just have a big time. The church is here. We sing a lot of great songs, we have a great time.
One pastor tried that. And at the end of the – they do that in Russia, by the way, I've been to those services and I've been to the weddings that happen immediately after the Sunday morning service – they're really wonderful. One pastor said, "I'm going to do that." He got up after a sermon and he said, "Will those, then, who are wishing to be married, please come forward." And it's a fact that three bachelors and forty-two old maids came. So you have to put some limits on how that works. I mean you got to have your partner picked before the Sunday that you show up in the front, okay?
Well, all of that to say Paul gives us some great practical help here – doesn't he? – in this chapter. Really wonderful choices here. Isn't that like our Lord who gives us such grace – such wonderful grace? For single people, don't delay. If God's designed you for marriage, get married. If you're divorced or widowed and you can stay single, stay single. If not, and you have grounds for remarriage, get married. If you're widowed and you can stay single, stay single; if not, get married. If you're married to a believer, remain. If you're married to a nonbeliever and he wants to stay or she wants to stay, remain, and be a sanctifying blessing to the family. And if you're married to an unbeliever who wants out, let him go. You're not in bondage to that person.
You say, "Well, look, I'm so far down the line, I've already messed up all that." Well, you'll be glad to know if we confess our sins, He's faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness, right? It's all about His forgiveness. There must have been many such in Corinth who were seeking His forgiveness. Accept His grace and live from now on the way He commands us to live.
Father, it's been exciting the last three weeks to just dig into this a little bit and to have hopefully a better understanding of your truth on this, and we know that what you give us is for our good. It is so that we can put ourselves in the place of maximum joy and maximum blessing, and we all need forgiveness, Lord, for so many things in our lives. And there are folks who, in this congregation tonight, are feeling some of the pain of breaking your law in the past, but you're a God of forgiveness and you cleanse us from all our sins according to the riches of your grace that are provided for us endlessly and boundlessly in Christ. And all you ask of us is that we confess, that we repent, and that we start a pattern of obedience in our lives now. I pray, Lord, that your grace would be upon all of us and that your power would be on us to enable us to live as you would have us live, whether single or married, whatever it is you have for us, may we know that clearly, may we live joyfully in the midst of that. And would you provide for us what we so much need in order to be the people you want us to be. We thank you. In your Son's name. Amen.
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Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on August 18, 2021 August 17, 2021 Tags Bible, Cross, Divorce, Family, God's Mercy, marriage, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, Persecution, Prayer, Salvation, Singleness, TribulationLeave a comment on VIDEO Marriage, Divorce, and Singleness
VIDEO A Military Family's Story of Support
As the daughter of a Veteran, a military spouse, and a VA nurse, Debbie knows the toll that deployments can take on a loved one. Growing up, her father deployed multiple times. She noticed that whenever he came back home, he always seemed a little different.
"He got gradually more and more angry, and we didn't really understand what was going on," Debbie says. She and her sister felt disconnected from their father, and his change in personality started to affect their upbringing. "He wasn't any fun anymore, and he didn't like to go to crowded places," Debbie recalls. "He would startle really easily."
More recently, when Debbie's husband Jim –– a member of the U.S. Air Force — went on numerous deployments throughout his career, she noticed a familiar pattern each time he returned. "[Jim] started getting more and more upset. He abused drugs and alcohol for a little while," Debbie says. "It was really scary, because we had at that point three little kids that were under 6 years old in the house. I knew what it was like to be a kid going through that."
Recovery for the whole family
As Debbie was dealing with her husband's change in behavior, her father began talking to fellow Veterans about their experiences. Hearing similar stories from others helped him realize that he wasn't alone. It also allowed him to help Debbie and Jim.
"When [my father] saw Jim start having trouble, he was very supportive," Debbie says. Her father encouraged Jim to make a change for the sake of his wife and their kids — as Debbie explains, to "take the steps that I wasn't strong enough to take."
"When [Jim] realized that his whole family was carrying the burden, that really made a big difference," Debbie says. "Once he started getting help, I think it surprised him how quickly he turned things around. He's doing much better now."
Working with VA counselors has helped improve their marriage and strengthen Jim's relationship with their children. "That has been really helpful for my children to understand what PTSD is — how it affects you," he says.
This month, we celebrate Father's Day and the impact that fathers can have in our lives. For Debbie, her father's decision to seek help for his mental health challenges became instrumental in helping her husband get treatment. It's allowed Jim to resolve the tensions in his marriage and become a better parent for their children.
"It's not about courage," Debbie says. "It's about being smart [and] doing the smart thing — not just the brave thing."
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Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on June 25, 2021 June 25, 2021 Tags Bible, Cross, Family, God's Mercy, Morality, New Testament, Obedience, Persecution, Prayer, PTSD, Salvation, TribulationLeave a comment on VIDEO A Military Family's Story of Support
VIDEO The Dramatic Effects Of Fatherless Homes – 20 Statistics on Fatherless Homes
SZABOLCS SZECSEI NOVEMBER 13, 2020
Fatherlessness is a growing problem in the US, and research shows that a father-absent childhood can significantly affect the children's perception of life, as well as their life choices later on.
Last year was not easy for any of us, and the weight and anxiety it brought placed significant stress on families everywhere. Unfortunately, some of it inevitably leads to the breaking of families, which will have its first consequences in 2021.
Statistics on fatherless homes show that households with absent fathers also have a higher chance of being under the poverty line. In short, the absence of a father in a family can lead to serious consequences and even fatal outcomes, and these are just a few examples to show how grim the issue can be.
Top 10 Facts and Statistics on Fatherless Homes You Need to Know About:
In 2014, 17.4 million children lived in fatherless homes.
Statistics on absent fathers show that, in 2019, 7 million American dads were absent from the life of all their minor children.
Many fatherless families in the US live in poverty.
Among the causes of fatherless homes, divorces are leading.
Around 5% of absent dads had lived in the same home with their children at some point during the year before the survey.
Fatherlessness is linked to the increased risk of infant mortality.
Statistics on fatherhood suggest that the lack of interaction between fathers and infants can forecast behavioral issues in children.
Secondary data suggest that father absence may increase the likelihood of engaging in criminal activities in young men.
Father-involvement has a significant impact on children's health and academic performance.
According to the Department of Justice, statistics on parents in prison show that the number of incarcerated fathers in the US grew significantly in the period from 1991 to 2007.
Absentee Father Statistics to Keep in Mind
If you live in a happy family or at least know both of your parents, you may not even have the idea of how privileged you are. Millions of children worldwide never called anyone 'dad' and these are just some of the numbers to paint a clearer picture.
1. In 2014, 17.4 million children lived in fatherless homes.
(Census Bureau)(Fatherhood.org)
This amounted to almost a quarter of all American children — more precisely, 23.6%. In 2017, the number of fatherless homes in America had increased, with 19.7 million children living without a father, which is more than one in four.
2. As of 2019, a quarter of the 121 million men living in the US are biological fathers to at least one kid who's under the age of 18.
(Census Bureau)
About four out of five of those fathers live with at least some of those underage children (79.8%), while around three-quarters, or 72,6%, live with all of their children. This still leaves many children in fatherless homes, as statistics prove.
3. Statistics on absent fathers show that, in 2019, 7 million American dads were absent from the life of all their minor children.
That means about 20.2% of these men don't take part in parenting their biological children.
4. On the other end of the spectrum, there are 1.8 million "solo" dads in the US.
Roughly about 6% of the fathers in the US live with their minor child without a partner or a spouse.
5. Statistics on fatherless homes indicate that many of these families in the US live in poverty.
(U.S. Department of Health & Human Services)
Female-led homes with no spouse present had an alarming poverty rate of 47.6% in 2011 — more than four times the rate for kids living in families where both parents are present.
6. Among the causes of fatherless homes, divorces are leading.
(Fathers.com)
The gathered data shows that the second leading cause is out-of-wedlock births. For example, in 2008, 40.6% of all newborns were born to parents who weren't married.
Absent vs. "Solo" Dads Statistics to Know
There are some differences here, but you might be surprised at how similar effects they have on children. Here is how these two categories compare and differ:
7. Statistics on fatherlessness show that absent and "solo" dads may not be as different as they seem.
Some would suggest that fathers who raise their children by themselves are opposites to those who have little to do with parenting altogether. However, according to the census data, both categories are more likely to never have been married and to still be living with their parents.
More precisely, when talking about "solo" and absent dads in the US, around 30% of both categories have never married compared to only 14% of all fathers of underage kids. Also, 22% of "solo" fathers and 24% of absent fathers live with one or both parents. This is only prevalent in 10% of instances regarding all fathers.
8. Fatherless homes statistics suggest that some fathers became "solo" or absent due to particular circumstances that they couldn't control.
When looking at these stats, about 7% of absent dads and 5% of "solo" fathers were married at some point, but their spouse doesn't live at the same place anymore. This is the case with less than 2% of all dads in the US when looking at the overall data.
To find out more about relationship facts, feel free to read this article.
9. Around 5% of absent dads had lived in the same home with their children at some point during the year before the survey.
Fatherlessness statistics also show that 42% of these dads had either visited or had contact with their children once a month. In contrast, 12% of "solo" fathers lived with their children and spouse at some point during the previous year.
These figures suggest that nearly half of these absent dads are or may still be involved in their children's lives more than it appears and that a certain percentage of these "solo" fathers live a less solitary lifestyle than it might seem at first glance.
10. There are some other similarities between "solo" and absent fathers.
Fatherhood statistics show that the representatives of both of these categories have fewer kids, are less likely to have a higher education, or to have a job. Also, they are more likely to be divorced, with 51% "solo" and 30% of absent dads having gone through a divorce. When looking at all the fathers included in the research, this figure is only 10%.
And for more stats on dating and marriage, you may find these articles handy.
Health Risks and Consequences in Fatherless Children — Statistics and Facts
No matter how much single mothers around the world work on making their children feel loved and safe, not having a father figure seems to influence their kids more than they expect. These consequences show in the children's health and different aspects of their lives and social behavior.
11. Fatherlessness is linked to the increased risk of infant mortality.
(National Library of Medicine)
A study on 1,397,801 infants born between 1998 and 2005 in Florida focused on how the absence of a father can impact infant mortality in ethnic minorities. At the end of the study, lower birth weights and earlier births were both linked to the lack of involvement of the dads.
Researchers also concluded that the absence of a father could impact infant mortality, with the first 28 days being crucial. In this period, mortality was four times more likely in African-American infants whose fathers were absent than in Caucasian infants with absent fathers.
12. Father absence statistics show that adolescent women from fatherless homes have a higher chance of getting pregnant.
According to a 2012 study, fatherless homes and teenage pregnancy might be connected. The research included 263 adolescent women (aged 13-18) seeking psychological help. It showed that young women who come from homes where the father is absent are 3.5 times more likely to get pregnant than adolescent women from father-present households.
Also, pregnancy was prevalent in 17.4% of cases in fatherless homes, which is much higher than the estimated 4% in the sample of the adolescent population in the US in 2009.
13. Fatherlessness stats may be linked to higher rates of suicide in high school students.
(Wiley Online Library)
A study on social-ecological variables and suicidal behavior found that among 1,618 Latina high school students, the lower overall parental caring and lower perceived father support can both be predictors of suicidal behavior and thoughts.
14. Statistics on fatherhood suggest that the lack of interaction between fathers and infants can forecast behavioral issues later in life.
The longitudinal cohort study found that from as early as age one, kids may express negative behaviors as a result of not having enough interaction with their fathers.
15. Secondary data suggest that father absence may increase the likelihood of young men engaging in criminal activities.
(Sage Journals)
When talking about fatherless children, crime statistics, and research on young men participating in criminal activities has found a link. By studying a sample of 835 juvenile inmates, researchers have found that fatherlessness was these children's only disadvantage compared to others on an individual level.
Professionals found that juveniles from fatherless homes are 279% more likely to carry guns and participate in drug trafficking than those who live with their fathers.
16. Fatherlessness may be linked to lower educational levels of African American girls.
When taking a better look at statistics of fatherless homes by race, researchers have found a connection between the lower levels of education in African American girls and fatherlessness.
Experts concluded that this was true for 532 study subjects, and they've also discovered that the father's absence can lead to a lower income and economic stress in a family.
17. When it comes to the importance of fathers, statistics can help determine how children see school and education.
(ResearchGate)
Those children who have experienced ambivalence or avoidance with their fathers garnered negative thoughts and attitudes regarding their teachers and school in general.
In contrast, kids who had a good relationship with their fathers also had a more positive self-concept regarding academics as well as better social and emotional skills.
18. Father-involvement has a significant impact on children's health and academic performance.
Researchers further examining the fatherless homes statistics have concluded that the involvement of the father is linked to positive outcomes in child behavior, cognitive capabilities, and overall development. It improves weight gain rates in preterm infants, helps improve breastfeeding, and can lead to better language skills and greater academic success later in life.
19. According to the Department of Justice, statistics on parents in prison show that the number of incarcerated fathers in the US grew significantly in the period from 1991 to 2007.
(Bureau of Justice Statistics)
More precisely, data show that the number of incarcerated fathers in the US had grown by a whopping 79%. Among their children, nearly half were African American (46%).
20. Children from single-parent homes participate in more government nutrition, education, etc. programs.
(The One Hundred Billion Dollar Man)
Statistics of fatherless children also show that around 55.2% of children who are a part of the WIC program are single-mother-raised. This participation is 48.2% for the Head Start services. Statistics also show that female-headed households account for nearly 37% of public assistance housing programs and Section 8 housing programs.
What percentage of criminals are from single-parent homes?
Even though pinpointing the exact percentage of criminals coming from single-parent homes is difficult, most professionals agree that the majority of inmates come from fatherless homes. Some studies suggest that nearly 70% of inmates did not grow up with both parents living in the same home in the US.
However, getting the exact data is rather difficult since the Bureau of Justice doesn't track the inmates' family backgrounds. Moreover, a 1994 study found that only 13% of juveniles in Wisconsin grew up with married parents.
(Family Inequality)(Survey of Youth in Custody)(The Morning Call)(Family Status of Delinquents in Juvenile Correctional Facilities in Wisconsin)
What are the effects of not having a father in your life?
According to professional research, growing up without one parent (in this case, the father) can permanently alter the brain's structure.
Canadian scientists believe that the absence of fathers usually affects girls more than boys, and can make these children more aggressive. They are also more likely to be depressed, have low self-esteem, be poor learners, turn to drugs, and, in some cases, even commit suicide.
(The Daily Mail)(Owlcation)
Does growing up without a father affect you?
By looking at the previous question and answer, it is clear that scientists see a connection between certain behavioral patterns and growing up without a father. They've concluded that it has such a significant impact on children, it may even alter their brain structure and chemistry.
(The Daily Mail)
By looking at these figures, it can be concluded that growing up without one parent can have a wide variety of negative effects on children, increasing the likelihood of them turning to crime and having a lower quality of life in general.
Furthermore, these statistics on fatherless homes raise a couple of other, equally alarming questions regarding other important topics like income inequality, poverty, the efficiency of the education system (more precisely, sexual education), and crime. As such, fatherlessness and single-parenting should be a major concern for all of us to deal with in 2021.
Family Inequality
Family Status of Delinquents in Juvenile Correctional Facilities in Wisconsin
Fathers.com
Owlcation
Sage Journals
Survey of Youth in Custody
The One Hundred Billion Dollar Man
20 Statistics on Fatherless Homes and the Importance of Dads
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How and When to Stop Being a Doormat
By Sheila Wray Gregoire -April 12, 2021
Sometimes we get in a rut in marriage where we actually hurt our spouses because we enable sin. Sometimes we need to learn how to stop being a doormat. Let me begin with a story.
I know of a woman whose husband had been involved with porn heavily for years. They had gone to counselors and he had said he would stop but he hadn't. They had talked about it for years but nothing changed.
Finally, she decided to stop being a doormat and told a few select people in her small group and the elders at her church, and the elders confronted her husband about this and told him that they were supporting the separation. The small group helped the wife to pack her things and helped her to get into another place to live. They are not divorced; they are separated. But she has tried everything else and it hasn't worked, and now her church is backing her as she puts her husband in a situation where he has to choose: will I do the right thing and follow God? Or will I turn away?
This, I believe, is the biblical model. I have had other women on this site comment, saying something like:
MY HUSBAND USES PORN BUT HE SAYS THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. I WANT TO SPEAK TO SOMEONE AT CHURCH, BUT I DON'T KNOW WHO TO GO TO, AND MY HUSBAND SAYS THAT HE IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE AND I MUST SUBMIT. I'M LOST.
That is not headship! That is a cop out.
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Headship should never be used as an excuse to continue in sin, or to give you a cover so that you can lead a "second life."
There are times, I believe, when a spouse is so endangering his or her relationship with the family and with God that something must be done. And if nothing is done, then that spouse is giving cover to the sin. In my book 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage I talked about this at length. God wants marriages where both spouses chase after Him, not marriages where one spouse uses the relationship as a cover for sin. And sometimes we need some intervention, it's part of what it means to stop being a doormat.
3 Areas Where You Should Stop Being a Doormat
I am not going to talk about affairs or abuse or substance issues because we all already talk about those widely in our culture and in our churches, and I hope there's agreement that in these cases steps must be taken. But too many people think, "because my problem doesn't fit into those categories I have to live with it and there's nothing I can do." Here they are:
1. Porn Use
A man (or woman) who uses porn is not only participating in a sin; he is wandering down a road that will destroy intimacy both with his wife and with God, and will ruin him as a father. It cannot be tolerated. It's one place to stop being a doormat.
2. Withdrawal from Sex Altogether
In too many marriages sex has become almost non-existent. Usually when it's the man who withholds sex sex porn is involved. Sometimes, though, it's simply major pscyhological and emotional damage. Maybe there are homosexual tendencies, or maybe the man has so pushed down his sexuality because it's threatening to him in some way that he becomes passive and asexual. Maybe she has so much psychological woundedness or anger that she withdraws.
Churches have sympathy for the wife who comes in and says "my husband uses porn". They often don't know what to do with a spouse who comes in and says, "my husband (or my wife) never has sex." It doesn't seem like as valid a complaint. In fact, if it's the man who is going in to ask for help, often the problem will be turned against him: "what did you do to chase your wife away?" Yet in my experience when a spouse completely withdraws from sex it is often not primarily that other spouse's fault. It is often something psychological or spiritual going on inside the spouse who has withdrawn.
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We were created for intimacy with another person. We are not meant to be lone rangers. If a spouse rejects sex, they are specifically rejecting community. And they are rejecting a huge part of themselves. Do you realize how huge this is? How big a deal this is spiritually and emotionally as well? This can't be ignored, and a person who has become asexual must be confronted and told, "you need to get counseling".
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having psychological trauma; there is something wrong with refusing to deal with it. You can stop being a doormat by insisting on counseling.
3. Financially Endangering the Family
I received an email from a wife recently who said this:
FOR THE LAST FOUR YEARS MY HUSBAND HAS REFUSED TO WORK. WHEN HE DID WORK HE OFTEN CALLED IN SICK, AND WAS ALWAYS SEARCHING OUT WAYS TO APPLY FOR DISABILITY. NOW HE JUST SITS AT HOME AND WATCHES TV AND PLAYS VIDEO GAMES ALL DAY. HE'S JUST A BIG SLOB. WE LOST OUR HOUSE AND I'M WORKING TWO PART-TIME JOBS TO TRY TO PAY THE BILLS, PLUS KEEPING THE HOUSE CLEAN AND DOING HIS LAUNDRY. HE WON'T WORK! WHAT DO I DO?
A man who refuses to provide for his family, and who has become this lazy, also needs Christians to come alongside him and say, "put up or shut up". This isn't acceptable. I would say that the same would be true for a spouse who is consistently getting the family deep into debt with spending.
If your spouse is acting in such a way that they are denying a vital part of themselves and a vital part of the Christian life–like responsibility or intimacy or community–then doing nothing about it enables that spouse to avoid any impetus for spiritual growth.
And yet all too often that is what we've done–we hate divorce so much that we ignore the other side: God does not want an army of wounded, damaged people. He wants wholeness. And so we must deal with people who are refusing to confront huge issues.
Note that I'm not talking about a difference in sex drives, or problems when one spouse won't do any housework. I'm not talking about disagreements over child rearing or over the role of TV in the house. I'm talking about things that go to the very heart of who we are as people and what is our relationship before God. And these are issues which, if not dealt with, will continue to drive someone further away from God and further into darkness.
In the old days, brothers would come to support their sister and would give the husband a pounding. That doesn't happen anymore. But now churches need to fulfill that role.
In my book I use an example of a church intervention. A woman was married to a man who was consistently driving his family into deeper and deeper debt. She was working hard to try to keep the family afloat but she couldn't manage it anymore because of his spending.
The elders came to the guy and sat him down and said, "we are going to help you make a budget. Then you are going to stick to it. You'll report to one of us every week until this is all sorted out. And if you continue to overspend, we all will show up at the house with a moving van and we will help your wife get established with the kids in a house of her own until you come to your senses."
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They weren't talking about a divorce; they were saying, "what you are doing is so unacceptable that you must stop. And if you won't, you alone will bear the consequences because we will help your wife through this."
Churches Can Help Us Stop Being a Doormat
Now, elders should never do anything this drastic until they hear both sides of the story; but once that story is clear, if one spouse is consistently damaging the family and damaging his or her own spiritual life, then action simply must be taken. And just because they're married is no reason to avoid taking that action.
I know most of my readers are women, and so let me talk to the women for a moment. Many of you leave heartbreaking messages on this blog about men who have turned their backs on the marriage, but won't move out. They like someone taking care of the housework and taking care of the kids, and they like the benefits that marriage brings, even though they have rejected the intimacy and responsibility. Ladies, if you put up with this, you are enabling him to move farther and farther away from God. God did not create marriage so that we would have an excuse to not work on our issues.
If your husband is addicted to porn, deal with the internet and get him accountability. If he has substance abuse issues, get him into rehab, luxurybeachrehab.com, is an addiction treatment center website with a lot of useful information on a variety of treatment programs. If he's cheating on you, tell someone. If he's not working, do something.
Go to your church and find someone who will help you; who will sit down and talk to your husband, whether he likes it or not, to hear his side of the story. Someone who will walk you through an intervention process, if it is necessary (and in some cases it definitely is). And someone who will stand alongside your husband and give him the tools and help he needs to rediscover who he was made to be.
I know this is scary. Those times are rare, and please, don't take these words as an excuse to leave your husband because he plays video games too much or won't put stuff in the dishwasher. I'm not talking about normal marital disagreements. I'm talking about things where men (or women) have completely forsaken key elements of who they were designed to be. And in that case, your children need to witness health and wholeness and healing. So don't stop until you find someone to help you!
How (and When) to Stop Being a Doormat
Author Narrow Path MinistriesPosted on May 24, 2021 May 23, 2021 Tags churches, doormat, Family, Financially Endangering, headship, marriage, marriage rut, porn, second life, sex withdrawal, sinLeave a comment on How and When to Stop Being a Doormat