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Man on a Mission
The Alamo is potentially the most well-known tourist attraction in San Antonio due to its place in American history, but just outside of town there are a series of other old churches known as the San Antonio Missions. We had intended to ride our bikes out there on Friday afternoon, but after the Thursday night we'd had, Hector, Nico and I decided we were in no condition to make that journey. On Saturday both Hector and Jay didn't have to work, so I spent the day hanging out with them. I joined them around town while they ran a few odd errands, but then it was off to see the Missions.
Although there was one stop on the way out there: an open air market, full of all kinds of trinkets, gadgets, and other things for sale, most of it second hand. We pottered around there for a little while, though I didn't end up finding anything noteworthy or anything I wanted to buy. The highlight was probably the market's sign:
After that it was on to the San Antonio Missions National Historical Park. There are four old missions that are found downstream along the San Antonio River, although the furthest one is where the visitors centre was located, so we headed down to the Mission Espada.
Mission Espada.
We went into the visitors centre and gift shop and had quick look around. There was a small cinema that was showing some historical videos, but I have to admit that after the past few nights of partying that I'd had, staying awake in such a dark environment proved difficult, and Hector caught me dozing off a couple of times before we'd made it to the end of the presentation. After that we headed to the next closest church, Mission San José, which was larger slightly more impressive than Mission Espada.
Mission San José.
The missions had all been Catholic outposts that aided the spread of Christianity across the Southwest during the 17th, 18th and 19th Centuries, but now they were mostly just historical buildings, heritage listed to as to keep them preserved in their current conditions. There was a room that had been redone as a church inside Mission San José though, but I much preferred just wandering through the open grounds and exploring the secret nooks and long abandoned rooms within the old building.
The modern side of the missions.
In the grounds of Mission San José.
It was great that I'd had Hector and Jay to take me out to the missions and show me around – my last minute planning and decisions to end up in San Antonio meant that I didn't really know a great deal about it and hadn't done much research, and while I'm sure if I'd ended up there without them, every man and his dog would have suggested I go and see them, having a personal guide to the city never hurts.
We made our way back into town later that afternoon, and after stopping for snow cones and Tex Mex (Mexican food with Texan influences – although to be honest it's pretty much the same as what we'd call Mexican food in Australia, which did make me curious as to what real Mexcian food would actually be like), we picked up some supplies for the evening. Hector and Jay had been organising to throw a party at their house that night – I'm not sure if it was a special occasion or not, thrown in my honour, because from what I had seen so far they didn't seem like the kind of guys that needed an excuse to throw a party.
They really went all out. Between food and drinks and their hilarious friends, I couldn't have imagined a better way to spend my last night in the city. I spent the beginning of the even playing token Australian abroad, answering all the usual questions about my mysterious homeland, then pronouncing a bunch of different things, and including names, so they could hear my accent, as well as explaining the different terms we used for different things back home. It's kind of weird the things you take for granted about the way you… simply exist, I guess? And you never realise it until you meet someone who's never met anyone like you.
After eating and drinking came, inevitably, dancing. Apparently Jay used to do drag, so out came a wig and pair of heels too, although no one could really pull off a successful dance move in the heels (but that didn't stop us from trying). There was lots of laughing and dancing, although one thing that happened that I found rather peculiar, upon later reflection, was the numerous times that I was referred to by some of the guys as "white boy". I mean, it wasn't really shocking – I am white, after all – and I wasn't offended, because… well, I'm white? Most of the people at the party seemed to identify as Hispanic on some level, and I realised that I'd never found myself in a social situation or a group of friends where white or Caucasian wasn't the most represented racial category. It didn't bother me at all – it was just funny to be the token white boy for once, instead of the token gay guy.
Shots!
One photo that pretty much sums up my weekend in San Antonio – beer, pickles, and the chilli flakes that Nico used to spice up the Dos Equis on my first night.
A solid effort and a great night.
Sunday was my last day in San Antonio, but my bus wasn't due to leave until the evening, which gave Hector and Jay plenty of time to show me the Riverwalk, the remaining attraction of San Antonio that I had yet to see. Though not before bringing me a refreshing cocktail in the late hours of the morning, while I was printing my bus tickets off Hectors computer.
"Sunday Funday," he said with a grin. It was savoury, but there was no pickle in it, so I drank it without issue.
If it was late enough in the morning to warrant drinking, then it was probably late enough for lunch, so the first port of call was Quarry Hofbrau, which despite the name, did not actually serve German food. However, they did make some delicious Tex Mex, but the real reason Hector wanted to bring me there was so that I could try their Dos-a-ritas. That is, a frozen margarita garnished with a full bottle of Dos Equis beer. There was a range of different flavours that could be topped off with different beers, but I'd a fan of the classic margarita and I'd been enjoying Dos Equis for most of the weekend, so I stuck to the original Dos-a-rita. Don't ask me to explain the physics of it, but the frozen margarita keeps most of the beer still inside the bottle, which slowly drains out when you lift the bottle up. So you can let it all pour out at once, or keep topping up the glass with more beer as you keep drinking it. If it hadn't only been midday, I probably would have ordered another!
Dos-a-ritas!
However, after leaving Quarry Hofbrau, Hector and Jay did take me to something else – a drive-thru bar. I don't mean like the bottle shops in Australia where you can drive through, throw a case of beer in the back of your car, pay and keep going – this place had a menu! They did cocktails! Of course, they're not allowed to serve "open" alcohol to the cars, so each drink was just sealed in a plastic bag before handing it over. I was part impressed, part amazed, and part terrified as to how this was actually legal. But it was, so of course I ordered another cocktail to go.
After all that, we finally headed down to the Riverwalk. The whole concept is really interesting – given that it's such a popular attraction, the San Antonio Riverwalk is almost like a main city centre that is focused around the winding stretch of water. I know that cities build on or around water isn't exactly unique – I'd been to a few examples myself – but it was still a cool vibe. There were shops and restaurants along the waters edge for miles in either direction. When you walked down any of the staircases that take you to the waters edge, it feels like you're leaving the upper streets of the city behind and entering some secret, magical world, full of people yet free from traffic, except for the occasional tour guide boat chugging past, wide-eyed tourists taking in the scenery.
The Riverwalk
Boat tours went up and down the river.
We spent the afternoon relaxing and wandering down the Riverwalk, hanging out and chatting and remembering all the fun we'd had over the weekend. Hector kept asking if I wanted my picture taken with anything – after travelling by myself for so long, I sometimes forget that that's what people did when they visited foreign cities. I had just resigned to mostly not appearing in my own photos (or taking selfies, of course), so once again it was nice to have someone to take the pictures for me.
Outdoor amphitheatre along the edge of the river.
After walking a decent length of the cool, shady Riverwalk, we went back to the actual city centre, where we had been on Friday night. I glimpsed the Alamo again, and Hector took me to see another popular attraction, the San Fernando Cathedral. The inside was beautiful when we had a quick peek inside, but given that it was Sunday afternoon and there was a service beginning, as tourists we weren't allowed to hang around for long.
San Fernando Cathedral, the oldest cathedral in the nation.
And then the sun was setting, all too soon, and it was time to head back and pick up my bags and make my way towards the bus station. Nico and Daniel met us there, and I said my heartfelt goodbyes to the guys who had welcomed me into their lives for the weekend, and truly made my San Antonio experience an amazing one.
"I don't think we could have asked for a better first Couchsurfer," Hector said with a smile. "Although I wonder if we're ever get anyone as awesome as you!" I was so glad to have had a positive experience too, both for me and them. Bad first experiences can really put people off for life, but a good one allows for them to keep a little hope if ever the future ones don't turn out so well.
I loaded up on snacks, stored my bag in the luggage compartment, and made my way onto the bus. I had been catching the cheaper MegaBus buses up until now, which cut on costs by not actually having an official bus depot, but now I was kicking off on some long haul journeys that MegaBus didn't cover, so I was boarding the first in a series of Greyhound buses that would be taking me across the Southwest. First up was the long drive across the vast empty expanse that was the rest of Texas. I waved to the guys one final time before the bus pulled out of the depot and chugged away into the night.
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Tucking In, Nights Out, Bottoms Up and Going Down: Eating and Drinking in Austin
Posted on May 8, 2015 by Tiny Tino
Life threw something of a curveball at me during my first few days in Austin. I was only supposed to be staying with Aaron for 3 days, as he was actually flying to New Orleans on the Sunday to visit his father, which worked out perfectly because that happened to be the day I was supposed to meet Alyssa. Alyssa was a distant cousin, just a year older than me and related through some connection on my fathers side that my aunty has relayed to me a dozen times yet I can still never seem to remember. She lived in Oklahoma, and as we'd kept in touch as my time in the states grew nearer and nearer, we had made plans to meet up, although she had suggested meeting in Austin when I was there, rather than coming up out of my way to visit her in her own state. However, on Friday afternoon, as Aaron and I were nursing hangovers and eating food from one of the food trucks around the corner from his house, I got a message from Alyssa telling me her father had gone into hospital and that she wouldn't be able to make it to Austin. Her family offered to pay for a bus ticket to Oklahoma or for accommodation in Austin without Alyssa, whichever I preferred. It was a little disappointing – I'd been looking forward to meeting my long lost cousin for quite some time now, and it was awful news about her father (although in the end he was okay), but I knew a detour north rather than my planned journey west would be a time consuming endeavour that would throw off a lot of other plans.
When going over the dilemma with Aaron, he had an idea that seemed the most practical, although it was one I could never have asked for without him offering.
"Well, if need a place to stay after Sunday, I'm happy to let you stay here while I'm in New Orleans. Saves me having to leave Sergio in a kennel while I'm gone, too." In the end, Aaron's trip to New Orleans got cancelled, so I ended up staying with him the full week that I was in Austin. But the fact that that scenario even happened was yet another amazing example of the kind and generous things that people you hardly even know sometimes do for you. I know I gush about that kind of thing a lot, but honestly, it's a pretty heart-warming experience that ultimately changes the way you see the world.
Since I'd won $150 in the strip-off in my first night in Austin, Aaron seemed determined to make the most of a Couchsurfer who liked to drink and party as much as I did. A couple of nights we split bottles of wine over take-away pizza and just chatted about our lives, sharing what turned out to be a lot of deep and personal stories and forming what turned into a pretty strong and natural friendship. Aaron also took me to a few of his other favourite watering holes around the city, drinking beers and whiskey, and meeting some of his friends to sample a seemingly endless array of alcoholic drinks that contained tomato juice.
An easy decision.
This drink was a "margarita meets Bloody Mary" concoction that was… interesting. I don't remember it's name though, so you know it's good!
I also got to sample some great food in Austin, mostly from the various food trucks that dominate the town. They're all actual trucks, so technically they can move around, but I'm starting to doubt that most of them ever do, considering the great business they seemed to be doing when they were parked on random stretched of grasses in the middle of the suburbs. I had the most amazing pulled pork with a side of slaw, but unfortunately the only photo I thought to take was of the bee that dived into my Mexican Coke and almost tried to kill me.
Benches and tables set up around the food trucks, which makes me fairly certain these trucks hardly ever actually drove anywhere.
Though I have to admit, probably the favourite piece of food that I ate during my week in Austin – and it pains me to say it because I honestly though it would be disgusting, but it was actually amazing – was chocolate-covered bacon.
Trust me, it tastes SO much better than it looks.
I think the thing that was most noticeable was how much the local foods changed in between short geographic distances. The general cuisine was so different in Austin compared to the flavours of New Orleans, but I imagine that most people who had never been through the area would assume that "The South" is just a culturally homogenous space of land, or at least never expect it to be so diverse in that sense.
There was one meal I did have that was particularly memorable, but not because of the food. I had still been keeping in touch with all the friends I'd made along my journey, including Matt from Dublin, who I wish I could call a leprechaun but he's just too damn tall. Anyway, upon hearing that I was in Austin, Matt asked me if I knew of a restaurant called Moonshine Grill, and if it was near to where I was staying. I asked Aaron, and he said it wasn't far, just in closer to the centre of town. Matt then asked me what I was doing on Monday for lunch, and I said I didn't have any plans, and he tells me I do now. On Monday lunchtime while Aaron was at work, I head over Moonshine Grill and make myself known to the hostess. They've been expecting me, and promptly take me to a reserved table, but there was no one else there. I sat down and shortly afterward a waitress came over with a cocktail. I must have looked pretty confused, because she smiled as she explained. "I believe your order has already been taken care of," she said as she placed the drink in front of me, "but let us know if there's anything else we can do for you." I drank my cocktail and ate a delicious burger, and at the end of it all I found the bill had already been paid in advance, including tip.
Matt eventually confessed his motives to me later. "Ah, you're a very special lad, ya know?" he told me in a brief international phone call. "And despite all the nights we spent on the town drinking ourselves mad and stupid, I never got the chance to buy you dinner. Or lunch, or anything. I know it's probably not the same when I'm not there, but I figure it's the next best thing." However unconventional it might have been, it was extremely sweet, and by now I was plenty used to eating in restaurants alone that it hadn't bothered me in the slightest. Although I assured him it would have been much better had he been there. Just another way that the amazing people you meet on your travels are able to surprise and inspire you.
There was a lot of eating and drinking going on during my time in Austin, but the Saturday night definitely takes the cake, for better or for worse. Actually, I honestly can't remember if this all happened in one night, or if there were several more booze benders, but there were a handful of bars that provided somewhat memorable experiences.
The first venue we kicked the night off in was Barbarella, although I think on that particular evening it had joined forces with a neighbouring venue to throw a huge dance party, complete with an outdoor beer garden. Despite how cold it was, we spent a fair bit of time outside since Aaron was a smoker, and I chatted to a lot of people who seemed genuinely shocked to be meeting an Australian – though a handful of them attempted to impress me with their knowledge of the names of Sydney beaches (Cronulla's reputation from the events in 2005 has travelled further than I'd like to believe). Barbarella also distinctly stands out in my mind because none of the toilet cubicles had doors. That was very weird, and not in an alternative or arty kind of way, but in a way that made me think they'd had one too many drug problems in the toilets so they'd solved the issue by just ripping the doors off. The music was good but the party wasn't too lively so eventually Aaron and I headed back over to the warehouse district, 4th Street, and Oilcan Harry's. We had more strong drinks from some bartender that Aaron knew, but after a while we moved nextdoor, to a nightclub named Rain.
Aaron and I at Rain.
The place was huge, with a long bar and a long dance floor that stretched down the entire length of the venue, and the floor had lights underneath it that gave the place a deep, colourful ambience. The place was packed too, so we jumped on the dance floor and mingled with the locals. I had half a conversation with a ridiculously good-looking cowboy – half, because I don't think I could form words probably when I was staring into his dreamy eyes – and even ending up kissing a different boy on the dance floor. And Aaron and I continued to drink, and this is where things started to go wrong. Aaron had left his credit card at home, and at some point early on in the evening he'd run out of cash. Considering I'd just won $150 a few nights prior, I was happy to buy the drinks, and he offered to pay me back later. Now, I know that I can drink a lot and handle my alcohol pretty well, but I also know when I've had enough. And it got to the point in the night where I was fairly sure I had had enough. Aaron wanted another drink though. Okay, no worries, I could buy him another drink. But he wouldn't let me not have another drink with him, so that's how I came to be in possession of the final whiskey and Coke that would be my undoing.
We danced. We drank. We partied together. We partied with other people. I kissed that other boy. I was having a good time. Aaron decided he was going to go home, and said I was welcome to share a cab with him or stay with the boy. I decided to stay with the boy. Aaron left. I danced with the boy more. But I was very, very drunk. So I ended up losing the boy, and was dancing on my own.
The room started spinning, and I wasn't feeling so well, so I made my way to the bathroom. At that point I really just needed to pee, but I was so unsteady on my feet that I took the opportunity to sit down as well, so I went into a cubicle – luckily these ones had doors. I sat there with my head in my hands, trying to stop the world from spinning. Before I even knew it was happening, and before I had a chance to turn around and lean over the toilet bowl, I threw up. Into my underwear – which were still around my ankles – and all over the exposed insides of my jeans. Needless to say, I was mortified, although probably not as much as I should have been because I was just so horribly wasted to comprehend the whole scenario properly. I attempted to wipe myself clean with toilet paper, but it was a futile task, and I still felt hideous. There was someone knocking on the door. A security guard, I think.
"Yes. Just… just give me a minute," I call back, trying not to slur my words as I figure out what the hell I am going to do. The stalls starts rocking slightly, and I see a face peer over the edge of the cubicle beside me. Maybe they though I was overdoing on drugs or something. Had something like this already happened at Barbarella? Is that why their cubicles don't have doors?
"What's happening? Are you alright?"
"I'm fine, just…can you just… give me a goddamn minute?!"
In the end, I realised there was nothing else I could do except pull on my vomit-streaked underwear, buckle my belt, and walk out of that club. Or you know, stumble, whatever. Despite not having a single friend there to help me through it, I think it was made better by the fact that I was in a city where I knew absolutely no one, and would never see any of these people again. In fact, no one I knew would ever have to know that this had ever happened, except for the fact I am all about frank honesty and am, for some reason, repeating it here right now. So I opened the cubicle door, and immediately the security guard ushered me out of the bathroom. For a brief moment I thought he was going to give me some water, or take care of me or something, but he merely ushered me to the front of the club, helped me out onto the street, and then left to go back inside without saying a single word to me. Luckily it was quite late and there weren't too many people outside, so my temporary shame was limited. I feel awful for the taxi driver who took me home, although she was very light-hearted about it and said she didn't mind, although I'm sure I smelt absolutely vile and she was probably gagging for half the trip.
Aaron was still awake when I got home. My cheap Primark shoes were covered in vomit, so I didn't even bother salvaging them and instead threw them straight in the trash outside. Not a word was spoken when I walked into Aaron's bedroom. We just had this sole moment of eye contact and understanding before I continued through into the bathroom and stepped into the shower fully clothed, and spent the next half hour cleaning myself, and getting as much of the stench of vomit out of my clothes as I could. And as embarrassing as the whole ordeal was, and as stupid and disgusting as I felt, it probably wasn't even the worst thing to happen to me on my travels, so I couldn't help but laugh at myself as I sat there in the shower, scrubbing at the denim. And even as I write it now I can't help but smirk a little, because as awful a memory as it is, it still makes for a thoroughly amusing story.
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"Keep Austin Weird": First Impressions in the Lone Star State
Posted on April 22, 2015 by Tiny Tino
After bidding farewell to Vincenzo and New Orleans, I settled down on the bus for a full day of transit. I watched the sun slowly rise behind the clouds of the overcast morning, and after little more than an hour we pulled into Baton Rouge, the state capital of Louisiana. It was only a brief stop to collect a few more passengers, and the rest of the morning was spent on the long interstate drive to Texas. My first bus trip ended in Houston, a city of which I had previously only seen the inside of the airport. In the two hours that I had between the arrival of my bus from New Orleans and the departure of my bus from Houston, I would have loved to explore whatever parts of the city I could, given that the Megabus terminal is nothing more than a sectioned off area in a carpark (out of all the bus services in the Southwest it's definitely the cheapest, so I suppose you get what you pay for). But the combination of the early start that morning, travel fatigue, and having all my bags with nowhere to store them for safe keeping, I decided to just wait it out on the tarmac with everybody else and read my book. Eventually the bus came along that would take me to Austin, the state capital of Texas and my final destination for the day, but it looked like I would have to save Houston for another day.
It was early evening when we finally arrived in Austin. I'd been in touch with my planned Couchsurfing host, a guy named Aaron, and I had texted him a few times throughout the day. He had said he would try to meet me at the bus station when I arrived, but after waiting a few minutes and wandering around yet another car park terminal, it was clear that he wasn't there yet. He hadn't replied to my most recent texts or made an attempt to call me, it was starting to get a little cold, and I was hungry for some food that wasn't the can of Pringles I'd bought at a pit stop during the bus ride, so I decided to wander off and see what I could find, hoping Aaron would realise he was late and call me when he couldn't find me at the bus stop. Around the corner I found some fast food restaurant – I can't recall the name of the chain, there are just too many to keep track of in the US – and got some dinner and plonked myself down in a booth and just waited.
Eventually I got a call from Aaron, who was quick to apologise profusely. It turns out he is a vet, and he was busy in surgery for most of the afternoon and so was obviously unable to answer my calls. I told him where I was, and so he gave me directions to his place from there, which required a relatively short bus ride to the eastern part of town. He met me at the bus stop, and we quickly got chatting as he lead the way through the streets to his house.
"So, I'm not sure what you're in the mood for – I know you've had a long day of travelling – but I was thinking of going out to some of the gay bars, they're usually pretty good on a Thursday." My absence on Bourbon Street in New Orleans had meant my previous week had been quite relaxed, with very little partying at all, so I decided that I would definitely have the strength for it. Even after a long day of travelling, it would be a good excuse to get out and stretch my legs. So when we got to Aaron's small and simple one bedroom apartment, I unpacked my things on the couch, had a shower and started to get ready – but not before I got acquainted with Sergio.
Sergio!
My adventures with Princess in New Orleans had ignited a love affair with small dogs, and Sergio was to continue carrying the flame, so it would seem. As we came through the front door he began bouncing up and down like a frog, excited to see Aaron – who would have been gone for all of 10 minute – and equally excited to investigate someone new.
"He was dying when he came to us," Aaron said, explaining how Sergio had been abandoned when he came through his clinic. "But after I fixed him up… well, he still needs a bit of care… He's a special one." Cue Sergio bouncing around so manically he smacked his head on the coffee table, yet proceeded to continue like it had never happened. "So I brought him home with me."
With eyes that seemed to big for his head and a head that seemed too big for his body, he was an odd-looking yet still adorable little creature, and I grew to love him during my week in Austin.
After meeting my new furry best friend and getting myself ready to go out, Aaron and I headed back to the bus stop and made our way across town to the Warehouse District, where there were some popular gay bars on 4th Street. Aaron recommended Oil Can Harry's, and soon we were inside drinking our generously poured double whiskey and Cokes from a bartender who Aaron seemed to know pretty well, assumedly from regular patronage. We stepped out onto the back patio so that Aaron could have a cigarette, and we told stories about previous Couchsurfing experiences.
"Yeah, I've had a few strange people, but most of them were normal. My last guest was this Russian guy who wanted to go to all these live music shows, but he was kinda rude about a lot of things so he wasn't much fun." Aaron confessed to reading my profile and seeing that I'd mentioned that I do like a bit of partying, which was one of the reasons he'd sent the invitation when I posted an open request.
"Well, hey, at least you read my profile!" I'd put a lot of effort into writing it so that people were more likely to accept my request to stay with them, so clearly it was working.
We drank more, chatted more, and ran into some people who Aaron knew, all of them very curious when they learnt I was from Australia. Aaron's friend behind the bar made our drinks nice and strong, and eventually I was pretty tipsy. Okay, I was drunk, but I think I had to be for what happened next to happen at all. There was a resident drag queen who had been calling out between songs for participants to sign up for a "strip-off": taking your clothes off (down to your underwear only – this isn't Porn Idol) for the chance to win cash prizes. I can't remember exactly the sequence of events in which everything happened, but it went something like this:
There were three people who had signed themselves up when the performing started, but they were calling for a total of five. The first few people did their performances – I swear two of them were the guys who had actually been dancing on the bar top at some point throughout the evening, so I hardly thought that was fair. But then they didn't get much a reaction out of the crowd, probably because they'd seen it all before. In retrospect, part of me thinks they might have been entered by management on purpose in order to coax other participants out and join in. All throughout the evening Aaron had been half-jokingly suggesting that I enter the strip-off, and at this point of the evening when I was several drinks down, a gentle push was all it took for me to say "#YOLO" and stumble out onto the floor.
"Well hello! And what's your name?" the drag queen asked me.
"Ah, my name's Robert," I said, slightly nervous and slightly slurring.
"You don't sound like you're from around here?"
"No, I'm from Australia." Cue a monumental cheer from the crowd.
"Australia!? Can we hear some of that accent?" Not knowing what else to say, and knowing I didn't have that strong an Aussie accent (well, to me, at least), I said the first and most unoriginal thing that came to my head.
"G'day mate, how ya goin'?" It was enough to please the crowds, and after that I was given my cue to start stripping when the music came on. Blurred Lines was the popularly controversial track at the time, and so I got into it with my awkward bopping up and down and hip shaking.
The crowds were cheering, though they must have been pretty forgiving, because I was a hot mess if you'd ever seen one. I discarded my jacket onto the floor behind me, not giving it much thought, then slowly peeling my t-shirt over my head, with a drunken, obviously failing attempt at being sexy. Then it came time for the jeans – skinny jeans – which are difficult to get off at the best of times. There's no real flattering way to do it, yet I attempted to keep dancing as I did so, which meant when I got down to about my knees, I went ass over tits and landed on my back with my legs in the air. I don't know if that was a good or a bad thing for the audience, but I'm very thankful I had decided to wear one of my best pairs of underwear that evening. And so eventually I did a little jig for the crowd, stripped completely down to my socks and underwear, before the DJ finally took mercy on my soul and cut the music. But I was definitely getting a reaction from the crowd as I scurried to collect my clothes and re-dress. When I went back to where Aaron was waiting for me, he was in hysterics so much that he could barely stand up.
"That. Was. Amazing!" he said with a laugh as he patted me on the back and thrust my drink back into my hand. "Best. Couchsurfer. Ever!"
And quickly it was time for the judging of the strip-off, which was done by the usual method of nightclub democracy – loudest cheer wins. There were cash prizes for the Top 3, and honestly I would put it down to the fascination of my being Australian, because the crowd went wild for me, and I came first! The other two winners and myself followed the drag queen out to the back room, where the money was divided up and I was handed $150 in cold hard cash. Given the thriftiness of my travel budget, it definitely felt like Christmas had come early. It got even more surreal when, on my way back out to the bar, the manager of the venue approached me and asked point blank if I would be interested in working at Oil Can Harry's as a bar top dancer on Tuesdays and Thursdays. After the performance I'd just given, I almost laughed right in his face, but instead declined his offer and said that I wouldn't be around long enough to be able to take him up on the offer. He was visibly disappointed.
I was pretty popular around the bar for the rest of the evening. A few more guys offered to buy me drinks, and one guy even offered me a shot, on the condition that I drank it out of his belly button. As gross as it was, I was definitely living out my "I'll try anything once" life philosophy that evening, and I had passed up pretty much all dignity when I was writhing around on the dance floor with my pants around my ankles. So what the hell, I did the shot out of belly button and chased it with my double whiskey.
They say Texas is a largely conservative place, and that amongst all that Austin is a little safe haven of artists, musicians, creatives, and other more open-minded, liberal people. The motto of the city, which you can see scrawled across chalkboards outside of bars and restaurants and on t-shirts in souvenir shops, is "Keep Austin Weird". I'm not sure if 'drunk and crazy' constitutes as weird there, but I like to think that I left a pretty good impression on the Warehouse District of Austin, as much as it made a pretty good first impression on me.
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From Parks to Parties: Killing Time in Rio de Janeiro
Posted on December 10, 2014 by Tiny Tino
I have to admit, my stay in Rio de Janeiro was not quite like how I had originally imagined it. Around the world, the name brings to mind exotic images of the legendary Carnival, and belly dancers in the streets and lavish, feathered costumes and parties on the beach and… well, I guess I can't really speak for the rest of the world, but it's definitely considered a bit of party city. So I surprised myself at how little partying I actually did while I was in town. I spent a great deal of my time outside, either on the beach or taking walks through the neighbourhoods and some of the nearby greenery, or just hanging out with Tom.
On my first morning I was woken up by Tom getting ready and having breakfast in the kitchen – which was, for all intents and purposes, my bedroom. He was doing his best to be quiet, but I'm a pretty light sleeper, and he noticed me stirring.
"Sorry," he said in a whisper as he shuffled between the tiny gap between my sofa bed and the kitchen counter. "If you want, you can go into my room and lie on my bed if you wanna sleep in some more, so I don't disturb you."
"Oh, nah it's alright," I said, "but thank you."
"You're welcome. How was the bed?" His face looked a little wary, as though he was afraid how I might answer.
"It was… okay," I replied with a sheepish chuckle, and Tom started to laugh too.
"Yeah, it's a little bit hard," he said, with the slightest hint of regret in his tone of voice. "Sorry".
"Really, it's okay. It's fine," I said again, but I guess I must have made a grimacing face as I went to lie back down – the sofa bed was pretty uncomfortable to sleep on.
"Are you sure you don't wanna go and sleep on my bed?" Tom said again with a knowing smile.
"Well…since you're offering," I said with a reluctant laugh, and gathered up the sheets from my bed to go and rest for a few more hours in Tom's room. He had to head to work for the day, so he left me to sleep in and relax.
When I finally got up for the second time that morning, I decided one of the first things I wanted to see was the beach. Firstly I grabbed some breakfast at a café on the adjacent tourist street, full of bars and restaurants that catered for the English-speaking crowds, but as I went to head straight to the beach I found myself having second thoughts. I'd heard my fair share of horror stories about getting robbed or mugged on the beach in Rio, and while I'd had to make some pretty dodgy security arrangements for previous beach visits, it didn't make sense to take my bag with my phone and wallet in it down to the beach when I was staying in Ipanema, such a short distance away. So I headed back to Tom's apartment, lathered myself up with sunscreen, and headed off down to the beach. I didn't even bother wearing a shirt – all I had was my towel, my thongs, and the swim shorts I was wearing, with the apartment key safely secured in one of the sealable pockets.
The day was overcast, but temperatures were still warm and humid. This meant it was still warm enough to go swimming, and there were significantly less crowds due to the fact nobody was sunbathing. It was actually perfect. The cloudy weather also made the beach beautiful in it's own mysterious way, to the point where I actually returned to the apartment after my swim so that I could fetch my iPhone and take a picture. But it was so lovely to be in the ocean again – I hadn't been swimming in the sea since my dip into the beach in Amsterdam, and as someone who grew up on a coastal city, I was realising for the first time how much I really did love the sun, the sand and the surf, and how much I missed it when it wasn't in my life. So I didn't do a great deal that day except for be unashamedly lazy, and indulge in the beach bum lifestyle while I had a chance.
Clouds rolling in over Ipanema.
That evening Tom and I just hung out at home. We ended up bonding over a mutual understanding of certain pop culture references, and I introduced him to Ja'mie King: Private School Girl. He couldn't get enough of it, and we pretty much exhausted the collection of clips that YouTube have of the hilariously offensive Australian character. Later we ended up watching an episode of American Horror Story: Coven on TV, since it was the only thing that was in English. The TV was in his bedroom, so we were lying on his bed watching it. Tom must have noticed me start to doze off at some point in the evening.
"Hey, if you want, you can sleep here tonight. I know the sofa bed is pretty uncomfortable."
"Really? Are you sure?" I'd hate to feel like I was intruding on personal space, but Tom did have a double bed and the sofa bed was one of the hardest things I'd ever slept on.
"Yeah, it's cool. Honestly, I don't mind, I just thought it would be a bit creepy to offer on the very first night," he said with a laugh. But we'd instantly taken to each other as friends, so when the time came to sleep we very comfortably crashed there together, and I ended up doing so for the rest of my stay in Rio.
The following afternoon, when Tom had some free time, we went for an easy hike up the mountain that was located in the park by the lagoon, Lagoa Rodrigo de Freitas. The national park of the side of the hill was semi-dense rainforest, but once again the weather was humid and overcast, which made the day warm but not too blistering hot with intense sunshine. It was a pretty peaceful and pleasant walk through the natural surroundings, getting away from the hustle and bustle of the streets and the beach.
Entrance to the national park we went walking through.
The park was a pristine section of rainforest tucked away behind some of the more expensive houses in Rio.
And when we got to the top of the trail and stepped out onto the lookout, it was a pretty incredible view.
Afternoon sun glowing behind the clouds over the lagoon.
The ritzy, more expensive buildings on the northern side of park, east of the lagoon.
Taking a break after the climb.
And when the clouds momentarily parted, Christ the Redeemer made himself visible from the taller, neighbouring mountain. Tom and I both quickly grabbed our cameras to snap some pictures before the clouds rolled over again to conceal the famous statute.
Christ the Redeemer on his lonely peak.
A close up of Christ the Redeemer, just visible through the cloud cover.
On the walk back down we found ourselves locked in at the gates to the park, so we had to ask one of the groundskeepers to let us out via the service exit. We chatted as we walked back to Tom's place, watching kids playing in the park and locals jog around the flat areas by the lagoon. We also stopped to sample something that Tom insisted was an important part of local Brazilian life. I don't know if there was an actual Portuguese name for it, but essentially it was just a purple frozen smoothie, made from the pulp of the açaí berries, found on the palms of the same name which were native to Brazil. It didn't have a very strong flavour, but it was common to throw in little extras or add-ins to make it more exciting. I got a small cup and mixed in muesli, while Tom had protein mixed into his larger one. I can't say I was a huge fan, but it wasn't too bad.
While I did spend most of my evenings just hanging out with Tom, but there was one night where we did do a bit of partying. I'd failed to get in touch with any of Fausto's friends in regards to invitations or offers to join them at their parties, but I much preferred hanging out with Tom and James instead, so that's what I did. On Saturday night James came over to Tom's and the three of us drank vodka and laughed and caught up, and James gave me some advice and suggestions about things that I could see or do during my last few days in Rio de Janerio. There was also a lot of Ja'mie quotes being thrown back and forth, and for a minute I actually felt like I was back at home in Sydney, between the mindless banter and the crude jokes and figuring out if we had enough vodka left to make a decent roadie or if we should do a few shots before heading to the club.
Honestly, I can't tell you what we decided about the roadie, but eventually we were in a taxi to a place called 00 (Zero Zero), supposedly a pretty popular gay bar in the area. When we got there we went through the whole process of getting IDs checked and registered and being assigned a tab card, but after going through the same drill so many times in São Paulo it felt basically normal. The club was an interesting space, with an indoor seating area, a huge outdoor patio, and a dance floor that kind of blended into both of them. Tom, James and I got our first beers and sat down outside, since the night air was nice and warm, and it was only a matter of time before we were approached by some of the local men. I have to admit, a large percentage of Brazilian men are absolutely gorgeous, but so many of them have this weird charm about them that would come across as super sleazy if it were anyone else. But somehow it just makes them seem cheeky and romantic. Or maybe it was just sleazy and I was blind to it, I honestly can't say. I also discovered that a lot of Brazilian gay men were very flaky and unreliable, and despite strongly insisting that they would "be right back", there was really only a 50% chance you would ever see his face again. So based on personal experience, I guess I now have a few trust issues with some of the locals (although, if we're being honest, it seems more like typical gay bar behaviour than anything else).
It was a fun night, with the three of us continuously being separated and reunited throughout the course of the evening, each time a little bit more drunk and having some other bizarre social interaction to report. The music was a mix of pop and funky traditional music, and a few times I found myself being awkwardly dragged through a drunken two step tango by a sensual Brazilian gentleman, though for all the ballroom dancing classes I'd taken in high school I still struggled to keep up with his lead. The dance floor was fun and wild, though I had a fair share of unwanted attention while shaking my hips to Shakira and insisting that they didn't lie. Though Tom was great for that – he was a well built guy and at least six feet tall, towering over literally everyone in the club, so I could always just fall back and swoop behind him for protection.
I don't know what time it was when we eventually decided to call it a night, but we were all danced out and our skin had a light sheen of sweat. We checked ourselves out of the club and paid, then piled into a taxi and headed back to Ipanema. Once we were in the general vicinity of home, we got out and parted ways with James, who wandered off in the other direction to his hostel while Tom and I headed home. However, the amount of dancing that we'd been doing combined with the amount I had drank meant that I was totally unashamed in telling Tom how hungry I was and pleaded that we stopped somewhere to get greasy, post-drinking food. Of course, he agreed – I was his guest, after all – and after we wandered through a few streets we found a place that was open 24 hours. The service was less than satisfactory at such early hours of the morning, but that didn't matter once we'd been served our burgers, chicken legs, and our delicious plate of bacon and cheddar fries.
And so my world tour of sampling drunken fast food continues. And it was so, so good.
After that we headed straight home, showered and crashed into bed. As beautiful as the beaches and the natural surroundings and the hiking had been, I couldn't have let myself leave Rio without doing at least some partying. And even though it was the only night in Rio de Janeiro that I had spent partying, it was a damn good one.
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"Reto, reto, reto!"
Posted on November 25, 2014 by Tiny Tino
After the first few nights out on the town in São Paulo with Fausto and his friends, I guess you could say that I was feeling a little more confident about the way I could handle myself in the city. Despite that, I was still a little thrown when Fausto had asked whether I was going to head out on the Sunday evening, this time by myself.
"Are you gonna head out tonight?" he asked me in the early hours of the evening. "I have to go to work tomorrow so I can't join you, but there are a few cool places that have things going on tonight."
"Oh… I… I hadn't thought about it." Truth was, I was still a little terrified at the thought of going out on the streets at night by myself. Which, in retrospect, seems pretty ridiculous given the amount of foreign cities whose streets I had drunkenly traversed on this journey so far.
"Well, it's up to you, but if you do wanna go out I could give you a few recommendations." After mustering up some courage and confessing I might be interested to check something out, Fausto told me about a club called A Lôca. "It's a little more grunge, with a slightly younger crowd – definitely your type of place, I think." I checked it out on the map: it wasn't too far away from where Fausto lived, though I would still have to get a cab, but it seemed straightforward enough that I would definitely be able to find my way home at the end of the night.
And that's how I found myself showering and getting dressed up – but not too dressed up, as per Fausto's recommendation – and hopping into a cab by myself to find my way to this mysterious A Lôca.
I'm not going to lie, I was super nervous about going out on my own. I had been practicing a little bit of Portuguese but there's no way I could speak it on any practical level – with the essential exception of ordering a beer – and I was diving headfirst into the complete unknown, with absolutely no safety net in sight. But hey, no one bothers writing a blog about staying at home, right?
When I first stepped out of the taxi, I thought that I must have been in the wrong place. In the dim street lights it was hard to clearly make anything out, but there wasn't anything that looked like the entrance to a club… and that's when I noticed the cave. I'm not even exaggerating, the entrance to A Lôca was a cave. Granted, I'm not sure if the rock walls were real or artificial, but I immediately understood what Fausto was talking about when he had described the club as underground grunge. The was some dim lighting around the entrance, where my ID was checked and I was handed a piece of cardboard. I studied it for a few seconds before realising that this piece of cardboard was the A Lôca version of the electronic tab cards I had used at Lions and Club Yacht. I folded it in half and tucked it into my front pocket, knowing very well it was just as important as any electronic tag in eventually getting myself out of this place.
A Lôca seemed to take the term 'underground' in a very literal sense – the hallways were fashioned into rough, earthy looking tunnels so that it actually felt like I was inside a underground mine or dungeon. It was like a maze, with openings to different rooms appearing out of no where, and twists and turns obstructing your view ahead. I happened across a bar, which I tentatively approached as I pulled out my piece of cardboard again. I must have looked like a foreigner, because immediately someone asked me where I was from. I looked up to the guy next to me and introduced myself, and he explained how the whole card system worked. The card was a checkerboard of different drink values and prices, and rather than electronically recording all your purchases, the bartenders simply checked off the equivalent value of whatever drink you ordered, and at the end of the night the cashiers at the exit would tally it up and charge you accordingly. Essentially just a more archaic version of the same system, although I was highly concerned at how much easier it could be to lose a simple slip of paper.
I got myself a beer – Skol being the local favourite in this bar – and continued through the maze. I followed the largest tunnel until I arrived at what was undoubtedly the main dance floor. I'd arrived relatively early, around midnight, so the dance floor was only slowly starting to fill up. The music was a diverse mix of pop hits, 90s classics and deep house, with a traditional Brazilian song here and there, but it made for an interesting sound. I just made my way to the floor and started dancing on my own, and I was approached by a handful of people and had short, fleeting conversations with many of them. I had some guys telling me to stay away from certain guys, which at first I thought seemed quite threatening, but the evil eye looks they were giving each other made it clear that there were just social circles at play, or potentially scorned ex-lovers – I guess gay drama knows no language barriers or culture shocks. I did my best to steer clear from anything like that, and just enjoy the music and the more light-hearted people within the crowd. I think I ended up dancing with some American tourists for a little while, who didn't say much but were more than happy to bust a few moves with me.
There were also a couple of drag performances that evening. The first one was… well, she was entertaining, I suppose. But not so much in a "Wow, what a show!" kind of way, but more in the 'car crash in slow motion and so horrible to watch but I can't look away' kind of way. She was more like a court jester – something silly to warm the crowds up before the main event. I mean, it was really just her twerking in a bunch of various positions, and getting offended and slapping one of the boys whenever they tried to jump up on stage and cheekily join in, often accompanied with lewd gestures.
The warm-up act…
In her defence, she was pretty good at twerking.
The main event, however, was something else entirely. It was a full-blown drag performance with an 'Alice in Wonderland' theme set to Lady Gaga's Applause, which had only been recently released at the time. As a big fan of the drag performers and shows in my own city, it was pretty satisfying to see another quality performance from another city around the world.
The better drag queen of the evening.
When I'd started to get a little tired of dancing, I made my way back through the twists and turns of the cavernous club to where the bar was located. I had another beer and then took my place against a wall, watching the people come and go, observing the different types of characters and just generally people watching. Occasionally there would be a little bit of eye contact, but usually nothing more than a fleeting glance. However, that all changed when I met Rodrigo. He was slightly shorter than me and had gorgeous tanned skin, and I noticed him stealing glance after glance at me between his conversation with his two female companions. It was obvious I was there by myself, and in no time at all the trio approached me and asked me where I was from. I guess it was also really obvious that I wasn't a local, but in this case it had made it pretty easy for them to approach me and strike up a conversation, so I wasn't complaining. Rodrigo introduced himself and his friends, Rita and Ducky.
"Why Ducky?" I'd asked, legitimately perplexed. I'd had to direct the question to the others because Ducky didn't speak English.
"Because," Rodrigo and Rita tried to explain between fits of giggles, "Well, don't you think she looks a little… like a duck?" I didn't know if there was something I wasn't getting, but I just laughed along as they playfully teased their friend. She didn't seem to find it quite as funny, but in the end I discovered she was the designated driver, so no one is ever really that impressed to be in that position.
My new amigos.
I spoke to them for a while, and after a few more beers and a few more flashes of Rodrigo's cheeky smile, the two of us were all over each other. I don't know for exactly how long that lasted, but eventually Ducky was rambling about something in Portuguese, and Rita translated. "We're going to go salsa dancing!" she exclaimed with a laugh.
"Yeah, do you want to come with us?" Rodrigo asked.
"Yes! Come, come!" Rita said with a smile. Between the kisses with Rodrigo I had been laughing and joking around with the three of them, and I was having far too much fun to just throw in the towel now. "Ducky is driving, but don't worry she hasn't been drinking."
So I agreed, and after fishing our pieces of cardboard out of our pockets and paying for the beers, Rodrigo grabbed my hand and led me to where Ducky's car was parked.
The two girls were in the front, and I climbed into the backseat with Rodrigo. More making out ensued, but it wasn't until we were actually well underway and driving that I came up for air and actually paid attention to where we were, or more importantly…
"Wait… where are we going?" I said, the gravity of the situation mostly masked in my mind by the alcohol, adrenaline, and probably a few hormones.
"Salsa dancing!" Rita yelled, throwing her hands up in the air. "Don't worry, we'll take care of you!" From the looks of it we were on some kind of overpass or highway, so at that stage I didn't really have much of a choice but to stay with them.
Ducky asked something in Portuguese, and the others began replying. Rita was being a little more helpful, but Rodrigo was just yelling out the word 'reto' (pronounced "heto" for native English speakers) over and over again. "Reto! Reto! Reto!"
"What's she saying?" I asked Rodrigo, once he'd stopped shouting.
"She's just asking which way to go," he said with a cheeky smile.
"Oh… well, what's 'reto'?"
"It means forward. Straight head. Keep going."
"Oh… I see." I don't know what came over me – well, beer and a sense of bravado, obviously – but at that moment I stood up in the back of the car, stuck my head and torso out through the open sunroof, and screamed at the top of my lungs: "RETO! RETO RETO!"
Down inside the car, everybody fell about laughing, and the directions-turned-war cry became our temporary anthem, screaming the word over and over even as Ducky made the necessary turns to get to wherever it was we were going. Eventually we arrived at a bar – I have to admit, when I took a moment to take in my surrounds, it looked like we were just off a highway in the middle of no where – but unfortunately it looked like whatever salsa dancing that had been going on was starting to wrap up. It looked like the night was coming to an end. We all stopped to pee in the service station next door – me praying that my newfound friends actually were my friends, and weren't going to drive off and leave me stranded. But they didn't and suddenly, as I climbed back into the car, I was faced with the questions of: 'What am I going to do now?' and 'How the hell am I going to get home?'
I tried to explain to Rodrigo where I lived, but instead he offered for me to come and crash with him and Ducky and Rita at Ducky's place. "Do you have to be anywhere tomorrow?"
"Well…" I was on holidays, after all. "No, I guess I don't."
"Perfect," he said with a gorgeous, playful smile. "Me neither."
And that's how I ended up with these three crazy, gorgeous Brazilians, singing and shouting all the way home – "Reto! Reto! Reto!" – and taking selfies in the elevator of a rather nice apartment complex. After getting some water into us and raiding Ducky's fridge for snacks, the girls retired to Ducky's room and Rodrigo and I attempted to sleep on the couch. There wasn't really enough room for the two of us though, so Rodrigo suggested that we should sleep in the other bedroom.
"There's another bedroom?" I said with a laugh. "Well, um… duh. Let's go there, then."
Mandatory post-partying group selfie in the mirror.
With Rodrigo and Rita after finally arriving home.
Things got a little weird when we opened the door to a full-blown child's bedroom, complete with city map carpet for playing with toy cars and Disney's Cars bedspread with matching curtains.
"Umm… " I stared at Rodrigo, literally having no words to express my current feelings.
"This is her son's room," he said, stating the obvious but seemingly oblivious to how shocked I was.
"So… where is the kid?"
"With his father, of course!" he said with a chuckle. I didn't have the energy to ask any more questions about the complexity of that situation, but I will say that sleeping in the same bed with a guy that you just met, in the bed of child that you've never met, leads to a mild crisis of ethics and morality the morning. It felt pretty wrong, but hey, what he never knows will never hurt him.
In the morning, both Ducky and Rita had to get up early to go to work, so when they did Rodrigo and I made the shortest walk of shame in history, from one bedroom to another. We spent the rest of the morning there, sleeping in and hanging out. Eventually I heard someone walking about the apartment outside the bedroom.
"Don't worry, that's just the maid," Rodrigo said. This wasn't uncommon in Brazil – Fausto also had a cleaning lady – but it didn't stop me from feeling uncomfortable with the continually mounting pile of weird upon which I was sitting. But there was nothing I could do except roll with it, and trust that Rodrigo would somehow manage to eventually get me home.
My phone had died during the night, but luckily Ducky had a charger at her house. When the screen finally flashed to life, I had a message from Fausto asking where I was.
"Hmm… that's a good question… Rodrigo, um… were exactly are we?"
"Well… we're not in São Paulo anymore," he said.
I looked at him, an incredulous on my face. "Excuse me, what?"
"We're not in São Paulo anymore. We're in São Caetano do Sul."
"And where the hell is that?!"
Rodrigo just smiled and laughed. "Well technically it's the next city over from São Paulo."
I relayed this answer to Fausto, he told me he had no idea where that was and he would ask one of his co-workers. Um, what?! I felt like I'd gone clubbing on Oxford Street in Sydney and somehow managed to end my night in Parramatta, or gone partying in Manhattan and woken up in New Jersey. Except people still know where New Jersey is!
It turned out that São Caetano do Sul was still technically part of the metropolitan São Paulo region, in the same way that the international airport was, meaning that it wasn't really far but… it definitely wasn't close.
"How can I get home? Do you have a car?"
"No… Rita works in São Paulo, but… well, she's already at work." He grinned sheepishly, and I realised that short of pointing me in the right direction, Rodrigo was not going to be able to take me home.
It was a bit of a sticky situation, but I didn't have anywhere to be so I didn't let it stress me out too much. Assuring Fausto I'd be home as soon as I could, Rodrigo and I ventured out of the bedroom to find Ducky's maid cooking lunch for us. I was about to politely decline and start my journey home, but as it turned out the maid had including my clothes in a load of laundry she was doing, so I was forced to stay and eat while waiting for my clothes to dry. The whole thing seemed a little surreal to be honest, but the food was delicious and it was actually nice to put on some clean clothes – that were actually own, too! – for the journey home to São Paulo. There was no reasonable or logical public transport options that were going to take me to where I needed to go, so once again it was up to the Brazilians best friend – a taxi – to get me home. Rodrigo helped me order one that could take me that distance, and helped explain to the driver where I needed to go when the taxi finally arrived. He flashed me one last cheeky smile as he bid me farewell, and with our parting words I promised to match the hospitality I had received should he, Rita or Ducky ever find themselves in Sydney. The taxi wasn't even that expensive – though it took almost an hour to get home, it cost about a third of the price that a similar trip in Sydney would have cost.
Sights on my way back to central São Paulo.
I didn't get a chance to see Rodrigo again during my time in Brazil, but in the taxi ride home from São Caetano do Sul I did see a variety of different environments and neighbourhoods, all of which made for quite an interesting trip. And though I'm yet to meet them again, I would never have guessed that the night that I chose to venture out in São Paulo by myself would be the night that I found the most amazing friends, had the most wild and crazy fun, and created some of the best memories.
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New York Nights: reflections under the disco ball
I'd done my fair share of nightlife exploring when I was in New York City, although I think it's safe to say I barely scratched the surface of what it has to offer. It's just too big, and there's too much going on, that I doubt you could see it all in a year, let alone a month. However, one thing I think that I can safely assert from my brief time there is that you really have to have a plan of attack, and know where the parties of the evening are and where you want to go. Despite having a huge amount of fun on my birthday – probably due to the company I was with than the places I went to – it's hard to deny that the night was in a relatively high degree shambles due to a lack of planning. We just drank ourselves stupid and gallivanted around Hell's Kitchen hoping for the best. But the following weekend I was celebrating Ralf's birthday with him, and since he doesn't drink, I too drank considerably less, and therefore my experiences of the nightlife were substantially different. Possibly due to the fact that I simply remember a lot more, but what's a few shots between four hour memory blanks?
Being the Berliner that he is, Ralf was never in a rush to get to any of the parties on time. I had to negotiate a happy medium of not leaving too early, but not leaving so late that we were stuck in hour long queues around the block just to get inside. In the absence of alcohol I ended up drinking quite a bit of Red Bull to keep myself pumped up until it was finally time to get going. I'd done some event scouting through some of the promoters who I'd come across on my earlier nights out in New York, which is how Ralf and I eventually found ourselves at VIVA – supposedly the biggest Saturday night gay party in Manhattan. It was where Jesse and I considered going the previous week, but… well… that obviously didn't happen. Anyway, VIVA was supposed to be incredible, multiple floors full of hot guys, strong drinks and good music. Ralf didn't seem as keen on the idea of pop music, but I gave him a playful shove and told him to leave his Berlin attitude at the door. He agreed that as long he could dance, he would be happy.
And for what it's worth, it was pretty great party. As the evening continued on the place became packed, and under the giant disco balls and flashing lights writhed a sea of sweaty, shirtless homosexuals. Ralf and I started out dancing together, but during one of my excursions to the bar I lost him, and since we were both foreigners neither of our phones worked particularly well. I kept my eye out for him, but eventually resigned to the fact that I had lost him in the sea of hot and sticky flesh, so I continued dancing on my own.
A packed out evening at VIVA Saturdays.
At some point in the evening I took a break from the dancing, and retreated to the upstairs level, with an open balcony that looked down over the dance floor below. I perched over the edge of the railing and peered down below, trying to see if I could spot Ralf among the crowd. There were just too many people though, and my efforts were futile. After a while of standing there, a man beside me tapped me on the shoulder.
"Hey… I think I recognise your face. Did I see you here last week?"
I had barely paid any attention to the man standing there, so I turned to look at his face, which was completely unfamiliar.
"No… No, I don't think we've met."
"Really? I could swear I saw you here last week?"
Internally I smirked at what was an obvious pick up line, but instead I just politely smiled. "I'm afraid that's impossible. I wasn't here last week."
He laughed, almost a little embarrassed. "Okay, I lied. I've never seen you either. Though I'm glad I've seen you now…" It was also at that point, I think, that he noticed my accent. "You're not from around here, are you?"
"Nope. Sydney, Australia."
"Ah, Australian. Nice." He then turned to face the out towards the crowd. "So what do you think of the party? Having fun?"
I turned to look down at the dance floor, examining all the dancing bodes, still no sign of Ralf. "Yeah, it's pretty a cool. Huge space."
"Anything like this in Sydney?"
"Well…" I had to reflect back on Oxford Street, my nights at ARQ, and the countless nights I'd danced away there. "Sort of, but… not really. Not like this. This is different."
He smiled to himself, then turned back to face me. "The go go dancers are about to start upstairs. Have you been up there?"
"There's another level?" This place as bigger than I had realised. The man just chuckled at that.
"Would you like a drink?"
Dancing under disco balls.
I'd given up on ever finding Ralf again this evening, so I decided to go with him and accept the offer. He was a bit older than me, and nothing that special to look at, but I was quite enjoying the banter we had going between us. On the way to the bar he said he had to make one more stop. The next thing I knew, I was sitting in the DJ booth and sound control box while he was talking to a few people who looked like they were in control of whatever displays were going on out over the dance floor. It didn't quite sink in at first, but in retrospect it should have been pretty obvious why this guy was asking probing questions about how much I liked the event – we was one of the major event coordinators and promoters. He gave me the grand tour of the whole venue, and we chatted to each other for a long time. He had a lot of questions, and myself and what I was doing, and he seemed to be impressed by whatever charisma I managed to exhibit.
"So, what brings you to New York, Robert?"
"I'm just travelling around. Backpacking. Only here for one more week."
He seemed genuinely disappointed. "That's a shame. You seem like a really cool guy. You know, if you were staying, I think there'd definitely be a place on my staff for you."
I scoffed at that. "What, really? As a promoter? Why?"
"I think you'd be great. You seem interesting, but real. Not pretentious. We try to throw great parties, but the one thing we're not is pretentious." The conversation was partially lost in the music that throbbed in the air around us, but I found his assertions a little hard to swallow. All throughout my numerous nights out in New York, 'pretentious' was definitely a word that stuck out in my mind as a perfect adjective to describe what I'd seen, especially in the gay bars and parties. The way everyone in these clubs and parties seemed to carry themselves, the way they talked, the way they danced like they were God's gift to gay men – there was just something about the nightlife I'd experienced that almost turned me off it completely. It was almost as though everyone was trying too hard to impress everyone else to even have any real fun. But perhaps that was just me overanalysing everything, because this guy seemed completely genuine when we assured me they were all about keeping it real.
Maybe it was because I grew up in a comparatively small city – not everyone in Sydney has moved from the suburbs in a dreamy pursuit of fame, fashion, riches and glory. At a previous night out with Jesse and Georgia, at an event that I guess had been organised by the guy I was now speaking to, I'd chatted with a guy who was attending.
"Yeah, I didn't really nice Sydney. It was boring," he told me when I mentioned where I was from.
"Oh, well… yeah I guess sometimes you just have to know where to go, right?" I maintained composure, but tried to come to the city's defence. "Some places are better than other at certain times. I mean, I've had some average nights out here, just because I didn't really know what I was doing."
"No," he just replied, with a sour, bored look on his face. "It was just wasn't very good."
And that really annoyed me. Sure, Sydney is no New York, but it had been my home for the past 22 years and I'd had some amazing nights out on the town there, and had more fun than I could possibly quantify. And I certainly wasn't going to let some perpetually pouting wannabe model who probably grew up in Nebraska tell me that my hometown was objectively boring based on his sole experiences. I think it was at that moment that I was well and truly over the attitude of arrogance that I was finding among so many people that I met in New York, particularly in these gay venues. There was so much inflated self-importance that you could have gathered the heads of everyone in the room and used them in place of helium balloons at a child's birthday party.
But here, at VIVA, I found myself with a guy who seemed so genuine in his belief that there was nothing pretentious in the way they flaunted their parties, and that they were just there to have a good time, and not necessarily impress anyone. I guess it really is a subjective matter, and I won't claim that all these parties or all these people are the same. This was just my experience. He was a nice enough guy all the same, and at the end of the night I even got a behind-the-scenes tour of the building before heading back to his place in Chelsea with him to crash. I slept there for most of the morning and afternoon, mostly because it was so unbelievably quiet compared to Melissa's apartment in Midtown.
The Empire State Building at night, as Ralf and I headed out for a night of dancing.
The following evening I headed out again with Ralf, this time settling for some of the regular bars rather than any big parties that were going on for the Labor Day long weekend. The guy I'd met last night offered to get me on a list to whatever party he was throwing that night, but I politely declined, mostly knowing I wanted to spend more time with Ralf, but also because I don't think I could take another event like that. I met Ralf, and he told me how he had ended up at some after party the previous evening. We ended up going to Industry, where I had been at some point on the night of my birthday. I have to admit that as impressive at the big parties and been, I much preferred dancing to trashy 90s pop – cue eye roll from Ralf – in a regular gay bar, there the resident drag queen started a conga line and interrupted the regular DJ program to host yet another twerking contest, a fad that was taking the world by storm at the time. But it got me thinking that maybe the party promoters weren't pretentious. Maybe it was just me, and that simply wasn't my scene. Maybe I was just a simple boy from a relatively modest city who likes a simple bar and the simple pleasures of dancing with a friend without feeling like I'm competing to be the hottest piece of meat on the dance floor. Maybe I'm just not ready for the likes of New York City. But if that's what I was missing out on, then I guess I'm okay with that.
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"I don't know about you, but I'm feeling 22"
As my Amtrak train chugged through upstate New York, I watched the scenery pass me by. Back where I grew up, changes between the seasons were relatively mild compared to some other parts of the world. The eastern coast of Australia is populated by a lot of evergreen trees that generally don't lose their leaves during the winter, but the eastern coast of North America was a different story entirely. The autumn equinox had occurred while I'd been in Canada, and summer was officially over. As my New York City bound train travelled through the woods, I could see that the trees surrounding us had already taken on hues of red, yellow and orange, and the normally green scenery was combined with a wash of natural fiery tones. It was something that I had only seen happen very sparsely in my own country, so I soaked in the sight and enjoyed the novelty of it all. It certainly made for a pleasant visual accompaniment on my trek back to the smog of the Big Apple.
Upstate New York at the turn of autumn.
The timing of my trip was so perfect that I observed foliage of both green and red, as the former gave way to the latter.
Returning to Manhattan almost felt like coming home. After casually jumping on the S Train across town to Grand Central Station, receiving a friendly welcome from Brandon the doorman as I arrived at the apartment, and letting myself in to wait for Melissa to get home so I could tell her all about my trip, I realised just how much time I had spent here in the the last month. "Home is where the heart is", as the old adage goes, and there in that moment I don't think anything could have rang more true in my mind. After being on the road for so long you start to believe that you've lost all concept of home, but the reality is that if you have the right attitude, and surround yourself with the right people, anywhere can feel like home – no matter how brief or temporary a home it may be.
While I'd been keen to get back and see my New Yorker friends like Melissa and Stefon, there was also another reason why returning to the city this time had been such an incredibly exciting prospect. Georgia, one of my best and dearest friends from back home, had been doing her own tour across the USA for the past couple of months, and now she and her friend Eva had arrived in NYC, just days before my birthday. She'd kept warning me that she had a surprise for me, but that she couldn't wait until my birthday and would have to give it to me as soon as she saw me. It was well into the evening when I arrived back in NYC, and Georgia had some final plans with the girls who she had been on the tour with, so we made plans to meet the next day at Grand Central Station.
I could barely contain my excitement as I almost ran the few blocks up Lexington Avenue, and it was almost surreal to see her big golden curls of hair and big smile waiting for me by one of the subway exits.
"Oh my God! How are you, baby?" Georgia said as I threw my arms around her and hugged her tight for at least a solid minute. "It's been so long!"
"I know! I've missed you!"
"Let's never be apart for that long again, okay?"
"Deal." And just like that, within moments, our casual banter had returned, almost as though we hadn't been separated for the last six months. I guess that's the sign of a true friendship.
"So, tell me everything. What's been going on? How was Canada? How was Stuart?" We set off walking down the street as Georgia bombarding me with questions.
"Canada was great! It was really nice to-"
I was cut off mid-sentence, startled as someone bumped into me from behind. New Yorkers can be very pushy when it comes to their pavement etiquette, and for a moment I thought I might have been in the wrong somehow. "Ah, I'm sorry I-"
"Hey, watch where you're going next time, fool!" I might have been more offended if the words hadn't come from a very familiar face.
"Oh… Oh my God. Oh my God!" The person who had bumped into me was my other best friend, Jesse, who was – to the best of my knowledge – still in Australia. "What are you doing here?!"
"Surprise!" Georgia said with a sheepish grin, and suddenly it all made sense.
"We've been planning this the moment Georgia booked her tickets," Jesse said. "I called her up and told her, 'If you think I'm gonna let you and Robert be in New York City without me, then you've got another thing coming!' The three of us are in the greatest city in the world, your birthday is coming up, and this place isn't gonna know what hit it!"
Apparently everyone had been in on the surprise – from Ellie in London to Stuart in Montreal, and even all of our mutual friends on Facebook – everyone had known about the surprise, and nobody had let the secret slip. Jesse had blocked me on Facebook under the guise that he was "taking a break" from social media, so I'd had no idea of his whereabouts.
The three of us had lunch together and caught up about everything we'd been doing in the past few months, sharing travel horror stories and laughing both at and with each other. Afterwards we decided to visit the Museum of Sex, and as we browsed the halls of artworks and exhibitions we made crass jokes and probably nearly got ourselves thrown out on a handful of separate occasions. But I'd been reunited with some of my most favourite people in the whole world, so right now where I was at was definitely starting to feel like home.
Reunited with my best friends.
Perhaps the most definitive piece of art in the Museum of Sex.
And the reason why we can't have nice things.
Over the next few days, it was the little things that made the time around my birthday so special. Whether it was stumbling across a little street market with Jesse and Georgia, where we bought a variety of fresh mini donuts and sat and ate them in the sunshine at Madison Square Park; or when Jesse and I bought $15 tickets to an Iggy Azalea gig at a gay bar on a Friday night; or when we trudged around Midtown for over an hour looking for a place that would cut our hair for $20 instead of $100; or when all three of us visited a phoney psychic just off Times Square, who told us we were all troubled people with shady pasts and dark futures, so we retreated back to Georgia and Eva's Air BnB apartment with margarita mix to watch The Little Mermaid and feel sorry for ourselves – there are a whole heap of fun and slightly bizarre memories that made it a special week for me.
New York City with my best friends.
Georgia and I were a little excited to see each other again…
Strange warm-up entertainment in the gay bar before the main event…
Iggy Azalea in all her glory.
When it came to the actual weekend of my birthday, I had a few more intercity and international surprises. Mischa was making a second trip down from Baltimore to join the birthday celebrations, and I even received a little surprise from Ireland. Well, in the end I knew to expect something, since Matthew had asked for my address in New York several times over the past two weeks, obviously anxious as to whether whatever he had ordered would arrive. In the end a package arrived that was addressed to both Melissa and myself, so I know that had to be it. True to his national pride, he'd had a bottle of Coole Swan delivered to me.
"It's like Baileys, but better," he'd told when I finally wrote to him saying I'd received it. "Gotta have a little bit of something Irish on your birthday, no?" I could almost hear his accent in my head as I read the words, and imagined that cheeky, playful grin of his.
A bottle of Coole Swan, courtesy of my favourite Irish gentleman.
The actual day of my 22nd birthday fell on a Sunday, so we decided that we'd go out on the Saturday night for the big celebration. Melissa had offered to have all our friends from far and wide over at her apartment, so that evening Georgia, Eva, Jesse, Mischa, Stefon, Nirali and Melanie, another friend of Melissa's, all came over to join in the festivities. Melissa and Nirali cooked an amazing dinner, and we all caught up over food and drinks. I was surrounded by so many beautiful people, friends both old and new, and it really was a fantastic evening.
The best friends at the birthday dinner.
Mischa reunited with more of his Australian friends.
The meal was delicious, and in true Australian fashion the drinks were flowing freely. Unfortunately Stefon wasn't over 21, so he wasn't able to join us when we eventually headed out, and a few other people didn't end up making it to the clubs. We had vague plans, but I'd be lying if I said there was an overall aim to the night. I was in bar called Therapy with Melissa and Nirali, dropping my phone all over the floor and dancing like a hot mess for over half an hour before they managed to tell me that the rest of our friends still weren't here yet. Jesse, Georgia and Eva had someone gotten lost, and we ended up meeting them in another place just across the road called Industry. From that point on, my memory of where I was, who I was with and what I was drinking became a pretty intense blur. All I know is that I was definitely having fun.
The one vivid memory I have is stumbling out of somewhere in Hell's Kitchen with Jesse, jumping into a cab and screaming at the driver to drive. I don't know where we told him to go, and I don't even remember where he ended up taking us. But as we sped down a road through the West Village, we hung our heads out of the taxi windows and howled to the moon like wolves, shouting at the top of our lungs. I wouldn't have been surprised if the taxi driver had stopped and told us to get out, and I know it's a hideous cliché, but in that moment I felt absolutely, 100% alive. Young, dumb, drunk and free of cares, at least I was never going to look back on my life and regret that I had wasted my youth.
The morning after – birthday brunch.
I woke up at noon, curled up on the couch with Jesse at Georgia's apartment. We'd gotten home just after dawn, apparently. Everyone was feeling a little tender as we attempted to sing happy birthday over a very hungover afternoon brunch, but I didn't mind – the night had been worth it. For a night that I will probably never 100% clearly recollect, it was certainly a special and memorable birthday that I will never, ever forget.
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Strippers and Drag Queens and Bears, Oh My!
Posted on August 20, 2014 by Tiny Tino
One thing that I knew about Montreal, from my friends who had both visited and lived in the city, was that it was very gay. Even though everyone had told me about this 'Gay Village', I don't think I was entirely prepared for it. I've seen the gay districts from Sydney to Madrid to London to New York, but I have to say that Rue Sainte-Catherine, the main street that runs through the area, was one of the gayest I have ever set foot in. Apparently during the summer months the entire section of the road becomes closed off to traffic, and the shops and cafés all spill out onto the street, and the swarms of people enjoying the summer really do turn the street into a camp little village in the middle of the city. Unfortunately I'd arrived at the beginning of autumn, so the cars were back on the roads, but that didn't stop the vibe of the place from being incredibly gay, whether we were walking down the street during the day and checking out all the kinky shops and gay-friendly eating establishments, or out on the town after the sun had gone down, checking out the myriad of gay bars and clubs that Montreal had to offer.
During the week that I was in town, Stuart and I had several nights out in the village. On Wednesday evening we went to a bar called Cabaret Mado, the stomping ground of Mado, a drag queen who was apparently somewhat of a celebrity within the Montreal scene. There were a couple of amazing looking drag queens in the show, but there were also a disappointingly large amount of rather mediocre queens, and some who just looked downright awful. I had seen some extraordinary drag queens in New York City, and after some of my travels I like to think that the queens I know back in Sydney set the bar pretty high in terms of standards and expectations, but still so many of these Montrealian queens just didn't cut it, in my opinion. There were a couple of humorous acts though, and the ones that didn't take themselves too seriously almost always got the most favourable reaction, so I guess it goes both ways. There were also moments of audience participation – these were the times Wrecking Ball and the rise of the wild child Miley Cyrus, and she was bringing twerking to the attention of mainstream pop music. Stuart urged me to enter the twerking competition, and even one of the drag queens tried to coax me up on stage, but I told Stuart I was going to need a lot more alcohol before I was about bust out of my jeans and shake my butt on stage – not to mention the fact that I didn't think I could twerk if my life depended on it.
However, it's probably worth noting that a very large part of the show was in French – some of the songs the drag queens mimed to were in English, but other than a few sentences here and there, I hadn't the faintest idea what was going on in the dialogue and the obvious slapstick humour that was going on between the queens. Which I didn't mind so much – I never have and never will expect to get special treatment for not knowing a native language – except that the lines that they did say in English, directed at a fellow Anglophone towards the front of the stage, seemed really rude and condescending (and Montreal technically is a bilingual city). I know throwing shade is typical conduct for many drag queens, but in this case it just seemed so unnecessary. I can't remember exactly what was said, but it was the beginning of something that I came to notice more and more during my time in Montreal – most of the Francophones in the city were really arrogant when it came to their language. In fact, all the warnings that I'd been given about Parisian people being extremely rude could easily be applied to almost all the native French-speakers that I met in Montreal – and of course, all the people I had encountered in Paris had been nothing but lovely. I understand the French-speaking Canadians are striving to preserve the language within the region, but I don't think it gives them the right to be such jerks about it.
Regardless of how nice the drag queens were – or weren't – Stuart and I stayed and watched most of the show. While we were there in Cabaret Mado, we also ran into some people that Stuart knew from back in Calgary. As it turns out, one of them was the owner of the only gay bar in Calgary, Stuart's hometown, and him and his small group were also enjoying a week away in Montreal. We ended up sticking with them most of the night, and after the drag show had finally finished (I have to admit, even when they were performing songs in English, it lost it's entertainment value pretty quickly), we followed the guys next door to see a different kind of show. With the exception of some of the kinkier places I visited in Berlin and I guess that one dodgy time in Thailand, I'd never actually been to a male strip club – come to think of it, I don't think I've ever been to a conventional strip club for either gender, so I guess it was a first for me when Stuart's friends took us to the nearby Stock Bar. The interior of Stock Bar looked like a typical gentlemen's lounge, with a bar to one side and a floor full of polished wooden tables and chairs situated in front of a stage that was edged with red velvet curtains. At the end of the catwalk that protruded from the stage and into the audience was a pole. We bought some drinks and sat down, and it wasn't long before there were guys emerging from behind the curtains to come up to the pole and show off their… um, "muscles".
The guys all had great bodies, and a fair few of them were pretty cute, but… most of them were pretty boring to watch. I was excited at first, thinking that they were going to strip down to their underwear, get up on the pole and do some impressive moves. Some of the guys did a little trick here and there, holding on and spinning around before pulling down their jeans, but most of them did these weird movements that I guess was supposed to be sexy dancing while trying to maintain some level of macho masculinity. They hardly touched the pole, and if they did it was just to lean back on something in an attempt to look… sexy, I guess? The result was truly laughable. It wasn't masculine, and it wasn't sexy. It was just awkward to watch, and I shovelled my face full with the free popcorn from the bar in order to stop myself from giggling. Some guys kept a little mystery, their tight underwear still clinging to them as they strutted back behind the curtains, but plenty of them left nothing to the imagination, and full frontal nudity was rife. Our newfound companions kept nagging me, asking which ones I liked, saying they would pay one of them to give me a private dance. I couldn't take any of them seriously, though – when I couldn't decide they ended up dragging us to the other strip bar, Campus, but at that stage of the night there was hardly anyone there, and nobody was performing.
I'm one of the last people in the world that anyone would consider a prude, but I decided that sitting in a dark room watching people dance in the hopes of earning your money, in addition to your attention, was just not something that I was interested in. They weren't even very good dancers, and seeing how underused that pole was, and all that missed potential, was actually partially what inspired me to take up pole dancing lessons when I arrived back home in Sydney. Stuart and I walked home together that night, and stopped at McDonalds on the way, an ending that was weirdly anti-climatic – yet somehow still preferred – after an evening of drag queens and strippers.
However, by the time the weekend rolled around we were ready to go a little harder and party a little bit more. Stuart and I stayed in two different hostels while we were in Montreal, so on Friday afternoon we checked out of the first one and walked a short way across town to the second one we had made reservations for, which happened to be conveniently located a lot closer to the Gay Village – a perfect way to kick off the weekend. We started off our Friday night at Sky Bar, where we had actually had our afternoon beers earlier in the week, as they had $2.50 drink specials. We met up with a couple of Stuarts friends who were living in Montreal, but unfortunately they were just passing through or too busy to stay for long, or had to be up early in the morning so couldn't stay too long. A lot of the weekend was a carousel of faces and names of Stuart's various acquaintances who were all lovely but none of whom I really got to well enough for them to leave any kind of impression. That's a pretty lame way of confessing that I don't remember any of their names, but hey, there was a lot of alcohol involved so it's not really that surprising. There was also a sizeable dance floor on the upper levels of Sky Bar, so after his friends had departed Stuart and I left the chilled out ground floor for the upper floors where the party antics had kicked in.
It was dark and smokey, with fog machines and laser lights and the electro-pop thumping in the atmosphere of the room. After we had been moving around for a while, a young, shirtless, skinny blonde guy pulled me up onto the podium where he was dancing and urged me to stay and join him. I won't try and transcribe what was ultimately a lot of drunken conversational dribble, but he eventually coaxed me into joining him in his shirtless-ness. He didn't seem to be hitting on me at all though, but rather just wanted someone to dance with. Eventually he pointed across the room towards the bar, where a significantly older gentleman was standing with a couple of guys who were younger than himself but obviously older than my skinny blonde dancing partner.
"That's my boyfriend over there," he shouted as he leaned into me, so he could be heard above the music. "Let's go say hi!" He pulled me down off the podium to follow him, and I managed to grab hold of Stuart, who had stuck relatively close to the podium where I was, and dragged him over with me. I didn't like where the foreseeable future of this situation was going, and I was definitely not going into it alone. Of course, the boyfriend was very wealthy and very generous. He bought everyone shots and drinks, including Stuart and myself, and I guess we hung around them for as long as we had to before we could leave without seeming too rude. It was so bizarre, though – in fact, I probably wouldn't have believed it had happened if I didn't have a hotel address and a bunch of phone numbers saved into the notes on my iPhone, which I rediscovered in the morning. They had invited us to join them at a party the following evening, but Stuart and I were both pretty skeptical. I wasn't particularly keen to be offered up as bait for the sugar daddy, so we took our leave as soon as physically possible. And no, we didn't attend the party the following night.
We did, however, have another destination that Friday night – just down the road from Sky Bar was a nightclub called Apollon. It had always been our original intention to end up there, so after we had slipped away from the sugar daddy, his mates and his boy toy, we headed down the street. It was a huge place with both upstairs and downstairs rooms, playing various styles of pop and house music respectively. I guess by this stage we were drunk enough to not be too fussed about the music – at least, I knew that I was ready to dance. We chatted with some bartenders, got some drinks, and hit the dance floor. Downstairs next to the pool tables I also discovered a machine that dispensed free – yes, free! – popcorn, and in my intoxication it was exactly what I wanted and needed. We danced the rest of the night away, but one other crazy thing that happened was that we met someone that we knew from Sydney. I'd only bumped into Sam a handful of times on the gay scene back home, but when you unexpectedly run into someone you know on the other side of the world, it's always kind of a big deal.
"I knew you were travelling – I mean, it's impossible to not know by now – but I didn't realise you were coming to Canada! What are the odds, hey?" Sam was visiting Montreal with his Canadian boyfriend, and we had brief introductions and catch ups before returning to the dance floor. It was a fun night, but also a messy one. Drinks were bought. Boys were kissed. Names were uttered but soon forgotten, and Stuart and I did not walk home together that night. In fact, by the time I was heading back to the hostel it was broad daylight, an obvious walk of shame through the village from wherever the taxi had taken us last night. I frantically tried to memorise directions and street names from Google Maps as my iPhone battery teetered on the edge of depletion, but at least I had learnt an important cultural lesson about French-Canada: not all of the Francophones were that bad.
Sam, myself, and his boyfriend George and Apollon.
After an attempt to not make Saturday a complete write-off, Stuart and I were pretty exhausted come Saturday evening. But it was the only weekend that we had in Montreal, so there was no way we were going to not go out, so we had a quick afternoon power nap before getting ready to head out again. Stuart was trying his best to get to me see every single gay bar in Montreal, or at least in the Gay Village, and in the end I think he was pretty successful. At the beginning of the evening I was sitting on my bed in our hostel, waiting for Stuart to get ready. I was sitting with my legs crossed, and at one point when Stuart turned to say something to me, I saw a shocked expression wash over his face.
"What?" I asked, puzzled. "What's wrong?"
"Are you sure you want to wear those jeans?"
I looked down into my lap, and sighed. "Oh… well…" I had been aware of a tiny hole in the crutch of my jeans, and I was slightly aware that it had been continually expanding with everyday use – I only had 2 pairs of jeans with me, and as the weather had started to get colder I was usually always wearing at least one of them. The position I was sitting in stretched the hole in such a way that you could see an excessive amount of my inner upper thigh and the underwear around it. "Goddamn it!"
"They have needles and thread downstairs," Stuart informed me. "If you know how to sew you could try and patch it up yourself."
I considered it for a moment. I'd learnt how to sew, back in high school textiles classes, and before that as a Boy Scout, and while I didn't remember anything too specific, I figured it couldn't be too hard. I so slipped into my other jeans and headed down to the hostel common room where I found a wall of communal needles and thread that could be used for clothing repairs.
I obviously didn't do a very good job, because I earned a few sniggers from Stuart when I returned.
"Just… why did you use white thread?" he asked me through his laughter. They were black jeans, and I guess I hadn't really considered the fact that a white repair seam was going to stick out like a sore thumb. In the end I had also just thrown in random stitches across the whole thing in the hopes it would hold as long as possible. I'd successfully closed the hole though, and that was all I needed from them for tonight.
My… ah, adequate repair job on my jeans.
We headed over to Rue Sainte-Catherine for dinner, and afterwards our first stop was a bar called L'Aigle Noir (French for 'Black Eagle'). We had plans to crash a university party that we'd heard about a little later in the evening, but it was still relatively early, so we went on over to L'Aigle Noir for a beer, and to continue our quest on visiting as many of Montreal's gay establishments as we could. What Stuart either failed to tell me, or I'd failed to hear when he did, was that it was actually a leather bar. Not strictly leather in that there was a dress code you had to abide by, but a large majority of the patrons were kitted up in their full leather gear: boots, jeans, shirts, hats, jackets – the works. Having worked in a leather and fetish store back in Australia, it wasn't a sight that particularly surprised me, although the atmosphere in a bar is very different to that of a retail store. Stuart and I got some beers and sat by ourselves and one of the high tables with bar stools, taking in the scenery. There was definitely a lot of cruising going on, with guys coming up rather close to one another to check them out. Stuart and I weren't exceptions to this, but part of me wondered whether they were actually checking us out, or just looking at us with annoyance or disdain, since we clearly weren't regulars, or obvious members of the scene in any way. It felt like the equivalent to a bridal party or hens night crashing a gay bar, where every gay man in the bar rolls his eyes, tired of having their regular venue treated like a zoo for straight people.
There were also television screens all over the bar showing hardcore porn scenes, many of which were pretty kinky.
"I bet you wish you hadn't sewn up that hole in your jeans now," Stuart said with a chuckle when he noticed me watching.
"Hey! I'm just trying to not make too much awkward eye contact with all the bears in here," I shot back at him. When I'd seen cruising bars like this in Berlin, with porn screens and dark rooms and all those dirty delights, I thought it had been something almost unique – a liberal Berliner, or even European, attitude towards sex. However, the more places that I visited during my travels, the more I thought that it just seemed like Australia was the odd one out, the place where venues like this either didn't exist, or were so far underground and secretive, as opposed to being a busy and bustling bar on a main nightlife street. While I doubt I would be a regular customer to a bar like this if it ever did exist in Sydney, I knew plenty of people who would, and it made me sad to think that my hometown and city paled into a publicly prudish place compared to the rest of the world.
I won't lie, I was actually beginning to enjoy myself, making eyes with some of the scruffy, leather clad gentlemen. In the end it was Stuart who was urging that we should leave – as though I was the one who had dragged him there in the first place – so we finished our beers and departed for our next destination.
In a weird twist of fate, L'Aigle Noir was probably the place I enjoyed the most that evening. Stuart and I walked all the way down to the other end of the village to where some Halloween themed university party was being held. It was no more than a year since either of us had graduated, so we didn't think we would look that out of place. And we weren't, really… but the party still sucked. We didn't know anyone, but the whole thing was very cliquey – groups of friends hanging out, people trying to be cooler than each other and acting really exclusive. We tried to mingle, but in the end it was just really boring, so we bailed and headed back to the heart of the village, where there was one more venue that we were yet to visit. The nightclub Unity was a few doors down from Cabaret Mado, and it was packed that evening. It wasn't anything too special, just your average gay bar with strong drinks and a nice mash-up of pop and house music, but the night before was starting to catch up with us, and neither Stuart or I were in the mood to party too hard. I don't even remember how long we stayed there before we decided to call it quits, but it can't have been too late because we ended up stopping off at one last place on the way home.
"Do you wanna go back to Stock Bar?" Stuart put the idea forward, saying that he hadn't really enjoyed it as much with his club owner friends from Calgary around us the whole time, jeering us on and just emanating sleaze. While I'd found the whole concept of the male strippers a little laughable, I conceded that it might be a different experience this time, so we left Unity and walked to the other end of the block were Stock Bar was located. It was a little busier on a Saturday night than it had been during the week, and there were a lot more dancers. Stuart and I took a seat right near the front, because hell, why not? If the strippers weren't going to be shy, why should we? There were actually some very good looking guys that evening, and I found myself blushing as a few of them made prolonged eye contact with me during their performances. They were all obviously very fit, but there was one guy in particular who actually had a few skills and tricks that he did on the pole, which is what impressed me more than anything. After their performances, some of the guys would come down into the crowd to help take drinks to some of the tables, and to chat to some of the guys. I don't know, maybe Stuart and I were a bit younger than some of the regular customers, because they all seemed to be drawn to us.
I wasn't under the delusion that all of these dancers were gay – as it turned out, none of them were – and I know they were just doing their job. Still, I'm not ashamed to say I flirted with them a little.
"Are you guys from around here?" one of the cuter ones – and the one who had some pole skills – said as he sat down next to us. I told him Stuart was from the other side of Canada, and I was from Australia.
"Wow! Australia? That's so far away!" He leaned forward and put his hand on my leg as he said it, and I couldn't help but smile. He was super attractive, but I found the whole thing so ridiculously corny that it was all I could do to not burst out into giggles. But I held my poker face as he not so subtly got a little more hands on, and in the end he leaned over and asked me: "So, are you interested in having a private show?"
"Ahh… thank you, but no, not really my thing." I don't know if he was disappointed or not, but he took the rejection gracefully. "However," I said before he could move on, "my friend Stuart here is definitely interested." We'd both been ogling him, and Stuart had said he'd love to get a private show with him, so before I knew it the two of them were whisked away to the back rooms. I don't know exactly what happened back there, but I just chuckled to myself while I waited and made more coy eye contact with the remaining strippers.
We made our way back to the hostel after it was all over, and so concluded our experiences with the Montreal nightlife for the weekend. It had certainly been a wide and varied experience, and we had seen the gay scene from one end of the spectrum to the other, visiting almost every bar in the Gay Village. I guess I liked the fact that, like Sydney, most of the gay attractions and venues were all located in a big flaming homosexual district, which made getting around and seeing them all much easier. I would love to return to Montreal in the summer one day and experience the village in all its livelihood, but I can still say that I ended this visit feeling particularly satisfied with my experience.
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Sports Bars and Gentlemen
Posted on July 27, 2014 by Tiny Tino
On Friday afternoon, after a day at the museums at the National Mall, I headed back to Robert's where I would meet him to get ready to head out for the evening. He listed a couple of different gay venues and bars where things would be happening, but we decided to grab some dinner first and just play it by ear. We caught a bus to the other side of town, where the street names were all letters – there wasn't really a dedicated gay district, but there were a handful of places around U Street, a little further east from where Robert lived. We went to a place called Nellie's Sports Bar, which was – lo and behold – another gay sports bar. I decided that sports bars are just an American thing in general, gay or straight, because they seemed to be more a commonplace venue than I had been expecting. The walls were lined with sporting memorabilia and jerseys and all kinds of all-American decorations, and the bar was actually more of a restaurant where the servers were all cute guys dressed up in sport themed uniforms. We ordered some beers and got some food, and afterwards Robert told me that there was an upstairs area with a balcony and outdoor dance floor, and asked if I wanted to check it out. Obviously I did, so after fixing up the bill and giving our server a nice tip, we headed upstairs.
If downstairs was the sports aspect of the bar, then upstairs was where the gay aspect was fully represented. It was a cool setup – you climbed a few flights of old style wooden staircases until you reached the entrance to a wooden patio that stretched out over the roof of the building. There were a couple of bars along the edges, with bartenders making every drink with such flair and skill that a simple bourbon and Coke came out looking like a cocktail, and in the main area of the deck was a dance floor that was covered by a light, canvas canopy. The edges of the balcony looked out into the street and over the city, and the vibe was almost like that of a house or garden party. We got a couple of drinks, and I ended up hitting the dance floor while Robert sat on the sidelines.
"I'm too old, and don't really care for dancing anymore", he said with a resigned smile. "But you go ahead."
I flitted around the dance floor, dancing with people and having brief conversations here and there. One thing I liked from what I had experienced in America so far was that strangers can be incredibly friendly. People are more likely to approach you and strike up random friendly conversations, not just in bars but even in the street, waiting at a bus stop, on the subway – and while sometimes it can be a little creepy in some of those places, it's usually really nice, and especially useful in bars when you're by yourself. I didn't exactly make any friends while I was wandering around, but at the same time I never felt like I was by myself. Even when I was waiting for my drink at the bar, I was grabbed by the shoulder by a guy standing next to me and pulled into a group of people. They were doing shots to celebrate something or someone, I don't even know, but they'd ordered too many. The tall shooter glass was thrust into my hand and before I even had time to think about it we raised and clinked them with a booming "Cheers!" and I downed the shot with the rest of them. Somewhere, whoever taught me about stranger danger at school is slowly shaking their head and mumbling under their breath. I thanked the group, danced with them for a little while, then collected my drink from the bartender and moved on. Robert eventually let me know that he was heading home, but he gave me all the information I needed to get home safely, and then left me to the party.
I had a few conversations with guys here and there while I was on the dance floor.
"Are you going to Mix Tape?" one of them asked me. I'd heard a few people ask and mention this Mix Tape, which I assume was some kind of event or party, and from a the few people I spoke to I managed to discern that it was some kind of underground party where local DJs test and preview their mixes, and it was the place where most people began to head once Nellie's finally had to close the balcony party due to obvious noise restrictions. It wasn't too far from Nellie's, apparently, so I thought I would check it out.
That was the plan, at least. However, there was something – well, someone – else that had caught my eye. I had seen him almost immediately when I'd arrived on the patio with Robert, and we'd had brief, fleeting moments of eye contact while I had been making my way around the dance floor. It wasn't like I was honing in on him or anything – I generally scan the crowds of any room I'm in, assessing the people and the situation – but I definitely caught him looking back at me a few times, with that lingering eye contact that was just a little too long to be considered a passing glance. Anyway, out of sheer dumb luck I was dancing my way around the dance floor and ended up face to face with him. Simply staring and relying on eye contact would now be a little awkward, so I finally plucked up the courage to say hello. We exchanged pleasantries and introductions – his name was Mike – but when I began saying sentences that contained more than a few words, his expression became a little puzzled.
"Do… do you have an accent?" I laughed and nodded, and filled him in on my story, where I was from and what I was doing here. He asked me about the guy that I came with, so I explained who Robert was and how I knew him, and where I was staying.
"So, I've heard about this Mix Tape thing that's on tonight?" I said, trying to move past the same repetitive topic I had to begin with for literally everyone that I met.
"Yeah, ah, well… I know it's on tonight. It's a pretty cool dance party."
"Where is it? Are you gonna go?"
"Me? Oh, nah. Not tonight. I'm just going to head home soon, I think." He sounded almost a little bashful.
"Oh…" I don't know if I sounded as disappointed as I was. "Well, I was thinking about it, but I'm still not sure what I'm doing." Then were was a couple of seconds of awkward silence – except for the thumping music all around us, of course – before Mike spoke again.
"Well, you could come with me if you like?" It was very spontaneous, and a little crazy considering we'd been talking for all of five minutes, but I couldn't help but let out a little laugh and smile. Mike smiled back.
While I would have had to navigate my way back to Robert's with the nighttime public transport, or fork out for a taxi, Mike lived about a 5 minute walk away from Nellie's. We talked as we walked, and he seemed to be a really nice guy, and I found myself a little smitten. If you skim over the rather blunt invitation to join him back at his place – which still somehow came across as charming when he did it – Mike was actually the perfect gentleman. I spent the night there with him, and in the morning he even made scrambled eggs for breakfast. But I had to get back to Robert's sooner rather than later – Robert was actually in the process selling his apartment and today was the open house, so if I didn't make it back in time I would be doing the monument walk in my walk of shame clothes from the night before. Mike noticed that I was a little distracted as we finished up with breakfast, pouring over the map on my iPhone, and he asked me where I was going.
"Oh, that's no problem, I can drive you," he's said when I'd told him where Robert lived. "Just let me quickly jump in the shower and we'll get you home." I couldn't believe my luck – was there anything this dreamboat couldn't do for me?
As I waited, I walked around Mike's living room and looked at some of the decorations. There were a handful of nursing books on the coffee table – I would later learn that he had left his job in politics, which was what originally brought him to DC, for a career change and had gone back to studying to become a nurse. There was also a couple of photos of what looked like his family, including a couple of solo portrait photographs of a young kid who looked about six or seven years old. When Mike emerged from the bathroom, I asked him about it.
"So who's the kid? Your nephew, or something?"
"Oh, ah… no," said with a smile, but with a tone in his voice that suggested there was more to that story. "He's actually my son."
There was a moment of intense panic in my mind. "Oh my God, did I just sleep with a married man while his wife was out of town?!" It only lasted a second before I started to calm down again – it was totally possible that he was separated, or divorced, or whatever. Mike was as little older than me, so that wasn't really out of the question. Then those brief seconds of speculation ended, and I actually asked him about it.
"Your… son? Are you… like…. married, or-"
"No, no, no, no, no! No, not married," Mike said with a chuckle, and I could only assume that I wasn't the first person to have ever drawn that conclusion, perhaps in a very similar circumstance. "I have two really good friends, they're a lesbian couple, who wanted to have a baby, and they asked me to be the father. I said yes, and yeah… that's him."
It took everything I had to refrain from letting out a long "Aww!" but it was actually one of those super cute stories that I thought only ever happened in American romantic comedies. Mike told me some more about him as he drove me back to Robert's.
"Yeah, I've known him his whole life, but I was only ever really a family friend, you know? It was only recently when he got old enough to understand and ask questions that we explained to him that I was actually his father. But, you know, he still calls me Mike, and I don't think I really need him to call me 'Dad', unless he wants to. His mothers are his parents, they're the ones who raise him." I thought it was beautiful, and the more I found out about Mike, the more I liked him, and the more I was thankful for my decision to go home with him instead of going to the Mix Tape party of whatever it was. Eventually we arrived at Robert's street, and thanked Mike for a final time as I moved to get out of the car. My future plans were still up in the air – I hadn't even booked a bus ticket back to New York yet – but we exchanged phone numbers and Facebook names just in case we had time to catch up again before I left DC.
"Well, let me know whenever you figure out what your plans are," Mike said. "It would be great to see you again before you go."
"Yeah," I said with a coy smile, and I leaned back in to kiss him one last time. "Yeah, it would."
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The Big Apple and Other Fruits: a taste of gay NYC
During my first week or so in New York, I didn't really do something that I had done extensively while I was in all the other previous cities I'd recently visited, and that was explore the local gay scene. Which is a little surprising, given that a city as huge as New York is bound to have some incredible scenes to discover, but I suppose I was still slightly recovering from the hole that Dublin had corroded in my liver. I'd also been hanging out with Melissa, and while she is fabulously gay-friendly, she wasn't exactly familiar with Manhattan's gay nightlife scene, considering that her gay best friend lived in Brooklyn and wasn't even above the legal drinking age anyway. However, when Mischa came down from Connecticut on the weekend that we ended up going to Six Flags, he had a couple of New Yorker friends who were going out for a few drinks and so we decided to join them.
We went over to Neil's apartment in Hell's Kitchen, which was the on the western side of midtown Manhattan. Hell's Kitchen was probably closest New York came to having a 'gay district', although from what I had heard and what I would eventually discover, the city was a lot like London or Berlin or Paris in that it had numerous clusters of gay venues and parties scattered all over the island, and there wasn't really a 'central' district of Manhattan because the whole thing is a complete metropolis, north to south and east to west. Historically the locations of the more popular gay areas had shifted, and right now Hell's Kitchen seemed to be the place to be. We stopped by Neil's briefly, where I met Walter and Neil for the first time, before we headed out to a bar called Boxers. When we arrived I discovered that Boxers was a sports bar – that's right, a gay sports bar. I don't know if I was shocked, surprised, or just confused, but the concept of a gay sports bar just seemed so contradictory to me. Perhaps it's just because I'm not a huge sports fan of any kind, but I could never imagine a dedicated gay sports bar ever taking off in the Surry Hills area of Sydney. It was also possibly an American thing – come to think of it, 'sports bars' aren't so much a thing in Australia at all, since people just go down to the local pub if they're going to watch the football.
The juxtaposition of the hyper-masculine, all American jock themes with the obvious gay pride rainbows actually worked pretty well. All around the bar there were various sports games being shown on television screens, but less than half of the people in the bar were actually paying them any real attention. We got some drinks and stood around for a little while, but the bar wasn't exactly going off. We had plans to go to a nightclub later – some place where Neil's friend was working as a promoter, which meant we could get in for free – but it was still incredibly early, so at Neil's suggestion, we swung past a corner store on the way back to his apartment and all pitched in for a case of beer. Neil's apartment was new – so new that were were surrounded by half unpacked boxes, and were sitting on his bed because it was either that or the floor – but we made ourselves comfy and sat around drinking our beers and chatting and laughing. It was during this period of a couple of hours that Neil convinced us to join them at Six Flags the following day, a decision that would feel like a huge mistake when the alarm went off at 7am the following morning. It wasn't like I had any other plans though, so we agreed to come along.
Eventually we left – heavily intoxicated by that stage – for XL, the club where Neil's friend was working. We skipped the line and didn't have to pay entry, and his friend even showered us with a handful of drink tickets. XL was located nearby in Hell's Kitchen (it's since closed and reopened under a new name) and was a huge club – when the smoke machines came on it was almost impossible to see the other side of the dance floor. I honestly can't remember much else about my time spent there, thanks to the several shots that Neil ordered us immediately upon arrival and the fact that I probably drank way too much beer beforehand anyway. We attempted to drink more, mostly likely attempted to dance for a bit, and when I used the bathrooms I was intensely fascinated by another concept that was incredibly foreign to me as an Australian: bathroom attendants. These people stand around the sinks in the bathroom and offer you all kinds of things, from soap to hand towels to spritzes of cologne, in return for an appropriate tip. I find the whole thing rather awkward, because instead of requesting their service they just jump in and try to wait on your every whim or need, when honestly I would rather dry my own hands on my jeans. You feel like a bit of a jerk having to actively avoid them or ask them to leave you alone, since they're just doing their job and trying to make as much as they can out of whatever tips they can gather, but I still find it all rather uncomfortable. Although being drunk probably helps.
I couldn't tell you how long we stayed at XL, but knowing that we had to get up early for Out in the Park at Six Flags, I'm assuming we left at a relatively reasonable hour. My memory of the whole thing is patchy at best, and the next thing I know I woke up nursing a headache, spooning Mischa, and cursing that damned alarm clock.
My second night out on the gay scene was a little more memorable… well, that probably isn't the right word since I definitely don't remember all of it. But it was definitely a lot more eventful. I had met Scott a few years ago when he had been holidaying in Sydney. He was a big partier, and we'd gotten on pretty well, so we'd kept in touch. He had been my only gay contact who actually lived in New York, so one evening when Melissa had other plans after class, I got in touch with Scott and asked about the best places to go. It was a Wednesday night, so naturally he was going out himself, and we met for a quick sushi dinner after he had finished work before heading back to his apartment – also in Hell's Kitchen – so he could get ready. He went to offer me a drink while I waited, although the only alcohol he had was this strange Czech liquor (which I had actually tasted with Ike in Ancona) or absinthe. I guess it was at that early point in the evening that I should have known the end of this night wasn't going to be pretty. I opted for the absinthe on the rocks. I don't know, #yolo or whatever.
We went to a nearby theatre where a new weekly event was starting – So You Think You Can Drag? It's exactly what you think it is – a whole line up of drag queens performing on stage in front of an audience, with a panel of judges making comments and scores and eventually choosing a winner. Now, I've been all over the world and seen a fair few drag queens, most notably in Cambodia, Russia and Germany, but so far I had yet to see any drag shows that came close to the quality of the queens that I've seen back home in Sydney. New York changed all that. I guess you really need to have something special to stand out in a place like this, and these queens were trying their hardest. I've always appreciated my favourite drag queens back in Sydney, so I really enjoyed watching all the acts. Add to the fact that the first hour of the event had an open vodka bar, and I knew that if I lived in NYC I would most definitely become a regular here. Like Scott obviously was. The hostess of the evening, Paige Turner, is one of New York's more successful drag queens, and is on a first name basis with Scott – a relationship which I am sure developed purely because he never missed one of her shows.
Scott and Paige Turner – apparently I was a bit of a hit that night myself.
New York drag queens giving it all they've got.
Scott introduced me to a bunch of people as we mingled before the drag performances. It was here that I would learn that aspects of nightlife in New York are very different to Sydney – different from most places in the world that I've been to, now that I think about it. It's not so much about certain venues or bars as it is about different events run by certain nightlife companies, which are held over a variety of venues on a weekly basis. Of course, there are dedicated gay bars too, but it's very much a matter of knowing where to go on what night, depending on what you're looking for or what you want to do. I think you could probably live there for years and still never figure it out, so I'm not going to pretend I am an expert or anything – this is purely just my understanding and perceptions based on my experience. When I was waiting in line with Scott, I was introduced to a guy named Bobby – he worked for BoiParty.com, the company that was running So You Think You Can Drag? – who was going down the line and signing up anyone who wasn't part of the mailing list. Maybe it was something else, since it seemed like I had to give my details to even get in, but I didn't mind, since I had no idea about what was going on in New York and would appreciate some email notifications about upcoming parties. I got chatting to Bobby for a little bit too, and he told me to add him on Facebook. He would end up being my go-to guy when it came to all things nightlife-related in New York.
After the shows had ended – the winner of tonight was a musical theatre queen named Sutton Lee Seymour – I headed back to Scott's with a bunch of other people for a… 'between events' party? Post/pre drinks party? I don't know exactly what it was, but I discovered just now non G-rated Scott's life is. More absinthe was involved. The next thing I know I am at a bar called the Ritz, a place Scott was always raving about, which was the official, or maybe unofficial, after party for the previous drag event. The venue was pretty small and intimate, but the drinks were cheap and it was packed with guys and queens from earlier in the night. We danced, we sang, we made it rain dollar bills during the impromptu performances. Tipping drag queens was another thing that slightly shocked me, but I was coming to realise that the service industry workers who primarily relied on tips didn't just finish in restaurants and bars and hospitality. It was something I would get used to during my months in the states, but right now it all seemed kind of awkward. At least, it did for me – the workers on the other end had no hesitation in taking my money.
Snapshot from one of my future nights out in New York City.
It doesn't happen often, but that night I blacked out. When I woke up, I was lying on Scott's bed, fully clothed except for my shoes, which I appeared to have kicked off and were sitting on the floor by the bed. There was another guy lying next to me, still asleep and also fully clothed. I had no idea who he was. Scott was sitting on the end of the bed, and seemed to be in the middle of a very serious conversation with what appeared to be a drag queen who had only gotten halfway out of her drag outfit from the pervious evening. When I stirred and tried to sit up, Scott broke away from the conversation and turned around.
"Okay, twinks, it's 9am. I have to teach in four hours so I need my bed back." I stared at him, comprehending but being beyond speech in my current state. "You can sleep on the couch."
It was nine on the morning?! I should have just gone home but I wasn't ready to face the day. Scott woke up the other guy on the bed, who I later learned was named Mat, and shooed us both out of his room, along with the drag queen. She left, but Mat and I collapsed on the couch. I had absolutely no recollection of ever meeting him, or why we we'd ended up on a bed together, even though we were fully clothed. We spooned on the couch so we would both fit, and I managed to get a couple of more hours sleep. However, I didn't let myself get too comfortable, because I had somewhere to be.
Melissa had some family coming to stay with her that weekend, which meant I had to make myself scarce for a little while. So I had planned a trip out of the city to Washington, DC. Well, I had a cheap bus ticket and a Couchsurfing host lined up at the other end, which is about as much planning as I ever do. The bus was leaving in the early afternoon, but I had, in all my infinite wisdom, still decided to have an absolute bender of an evening the night before. Eventually I dragged myself out of Scott's apartment and into the to bright sunshine that was Hell's Kitchen by day, and ran back across town – with a quick pit stop at McDonalds – to pack my bag and head of the bus station. Melissa wasn't around, but by this point of my stay I finally had my own key, which she had said I could hang onto until I was leaving New York for the final time. I thought I'd left myself enough time to get the bus stop via the subway, but by the time I got home, showered, threw all my stuff into my bad and got back to the station, I realised that I really hadn't. I hailed a cab. We got halfway across town – the bus was leaving from a corner near Penn Station – when it started to rain. Traffic came to standstill. I ended up throwing some cash at the driver and running through the torrential downpour that seemingly came out of no where. Gasping and panting, I made it to the bus just in time to have my baggage stowed away underneath. Climbing aboard the bus, I made a promise to myself I would never be hungover on a day of travel again – it wasn't the first time I'd said that, and of course, it wouldn't be the last.
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