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A Wedding on Your Terms
The Newlywed Years
August 1, 2012 in
Guidance & Planning
Meg Keene
Meg Keene is the founder and executive editor of A Practical Wedding and Reclaiming Wife. Her first book, A Practical Wedding: Creative Ideas for Planning a Beautiful, Affordable, and Meaningful Celebration, was released in January 2012.
http://apracticalwedding.com/
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Three years ago, I got home from my honeymoon and I, the veteran wedding blogger, looked around to find the online community that was talking about marriage. Friends, there were crickets. There were some blogs about buying pillows for your new married nest, and some blogs about getting knocked up. I already had pillows. I did not, at the time, want to get knocked up. I didn't know where to turn.
With no chattering companionship for the journey, it suddenly seemed like I had no clue what I'd gotten myself into. I mean, yes, I was lucky enough to have some idea of what it meant to have a long and successful marriage thanks to my parents. But I had no idea of what it meant to have a young marriage in our particular generation, in this present cultural moment. And it turned out, there were not a lot of signposts, and hints about what lay ahead were pretty thin. (Unless, of course, you were looking for signposts pointing to doom and gloom, and hints about your probable impending divorce. Then, there were plenty.)
And then, there was the fact that the word "wife" made me uncomfortable. It seemed so negative. So laden with ideas that I couldn't, or wouldn't, subscribe to. So I started an online conversation about marriage, under the title of Reclaiming Wife. Over the past three years, we've tried to tease out what on earth being a wife might mean. It seems that it's complicated.
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As I sat down to write this piece, I decided to poll my section of the Internet, via Twitter and Facebook. What was the most surprising thing about the newlywed phase? What was good? What was bad? And the answers that rolled in are enlightening, if only in their contradictory nature. It turns out there is no one answer to what being married means, but there are many hints and sign posts (thank goodness).
The standard cultural narrative is that you'll feel depressed that your wedding is over (you might), or that the first year will be really hard (also possible). But it seems that for many of us, the first year was a joy (it was this way for my husband and I, perhaps as a counterbalance to the really difficult emotional work that our engagement involved). The first year can mean putting down roots, finding a deeper sense of belonging, and relaxing into a new sense of security (kept lively by the stress of doing a variety of things like merging finances, moving in together, dealing with brand new in-laws, and wondering how the hell we got ourselves roped into forever). But I've also heard tales of the newlywed phase being surprisingly difficult, or married life not feeling at all different from the way things were before. [pullquote]The reason marriage works as in institution is that it's as different as the people in it.[/pullquote] It's perpetually surprising.
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So when I asked Twitter what had surprised them about newlywed life, good and bad, I got an earful — a wonderful, really smart earful. And not one person mentioned pillows.
Weddings are a community event. For better or worse, a whole ton of people are involved in your life during wedding planning, and people want to celebrate you both. Many people mentioned how, when returning to civilian life, the silence felt a little deafening. Some single friends stopped calling. No one was around to help them write those final thank you notes and organize the gifts. Sometimes, there was a bit of post-wedding depression. A time consuming life event was over, and it was time to figure out what was next.
The New (Tiny) Community
But as much as the big community celebration was over, people spoke of the creation of a brand new family. They talked about suddenly feeling a sense of responsibility for that family's happiness and protection. They mentioned feeling a responsibility to set and reach goals, both together and apart. They said they felt more like a team: from feeling more comfortable merging finances to suddenly being willing to move to Africa for their partner's work. And people talked about their new role in their wider community: their ability to provide more emotional and tangible support for friends, given stability that marriage offered them.
The Hard Bits
But the other side of the wedding isn't easy for everyone. For some, the new-found sense of security served as a license to be less kind to one another, or more fearful of what being in a relationship for the long haul really meant. Others spoke of the way the world suddenly intruded upon the private boundaries of their relationship, with parents questioning your life choices, and strangers constantly asking you if you were going to get pregnant any time soon (hint: back off). For some, the public and permanent nature of marriage was not, at least initially, a blessing.
The important thing to remember when you're sorting through your feelings after the wedding is that it's all normal. It's normal if you feel a little blue post wedding planning. It's normal if things in your relationship change somewhat. It's normal if your first year is full of totally unexpected joy, but it's also normal if it's full of new fears and challenges. The little discussed truth is that when you get married, you're making a big life change (and not a purely symbolic one). It's probably going to take you a little while to sort out (and discover) what your feelings really are. And that's not just normal, it's a once in a lifetime chance for self-exploration.
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But it's also smart to listen to yourselves and your wisdom together as a couple. Before, when you were dating (or single), chances are the world at large didn't have much of an opinion what you did. So you put everything you owned in storage and went to India for a year? People just chalked it up to youthful exploration. But after the wedding is over, everyone is invested in you, and that investment often looks like goading to meet other people's standards for adulthood: house, car, good job, kids, settling down, less adventure. Ignore that (as much as you can).
Just like wedding planning allowed you to create the kind of wedding you wanted, marriage should allow you to intentionally create the kind of life you want. Maybe that's living in a tiny Manhattan studio with no kids. Maybe that's moving to Africa for a year. Maybe that's having three kids in three years. The truth is, only the two of you know.
For more wedding advice, visit Meg's blog or check out A Practical Wedding, available from Amazon or an independent bookstore near you.
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Tara from TypeTen says:
Perfect timing on this post, as I just returned from celebrating our first anniversary. Loved your insights, Meg!
Coco Flower from CocoFlowerShop says:
Nice article and beautiful rings
Marije Koopmanschap from Monstermatti says:
Good post, nice to read about the live after the big day. I got married June 27th with my big love. I just made a post on my website http://monstermatti.nl/Blog with nice pictures of our wedding in the forest.
Keely Malady from ModernMalady says:
great post! great reminder - just messaged my newly-married friend for a catch up :)
Megan from MegansMenagerie says:
Great post! I just celebrated my 9 year anniversary and remember how hard it was in the beginning. Although the first year or two were tough we will be going on 10 years next July and I feel that those early times have made us so strong as a couple.
Jess from volkerwandering says:
My boyfriend & I have been living together for 3 years, so sometimes it feels like we are married. I think it is imporant to have a break from the routine & do something fun & special together, but don't forget yor camera! I love filling up picture frames of our adventures!
Sharon and Shelly from soohappytogether says:
So true! It's been almost 3 years since I said "I do" and although I experienced that "silence" with friends and even family, in time most of those same people have come back around. It helps to remember that all relationships work both ways- if your friends start drifting, make sure that you aren't just "letting" them drift! Make plans! Keep in touch! Find common interests! :) Married life = boring life? NO WAY! :)
Anitta Trotter says:
While we have celebrated our 30th anniversary this spring, in my head I am about 28 and it seems like we are just getting started! He is 65 and I am 60. We have lived below the poverty line (with 3 babies) and also very well. Three babies in 3 years. This year the first 2 grandbabies arrived in 22 minutes (different moms). There is always something new, life is always busy. Intimacy continues to get better - different from the early days. Don't give up when life seems tough - that's the time to remember your commitment (the biggest "C" word!) and just keep slogging - it is worth it if you both row in the same direction. Skin is sagging, body's a little lumpy, but he thinks I am still the most beautiful woman in the world. We travel as much as possible while we are able. All the credit goes to our awesome God who took two totally different people and made this beautiful life tapestry. Without Jesus, our marriage would have crumbled years ago, especially when one of our children got into really serious trouble. (Made it through!) Empty nesters and loving it.
Kate from essentialimages says:
The always-wise Meg strikes again! Being married is not just about feathering a nest or hatching new life; the nurturing of your couple-family is your full-time job for a bit. Growth and change as you become One. Go Meg!
Michelle Desch from CorkandShell says:
Thank you! Been married just under 5 months and this was just what I needed!
Linda from TheHickoryTree says:
This year we will be celebrating year number 30 for me and my husband. I can't believe it, I still feel like it's only been a few years. My newlywed years are a blur. Sure we lost the friends we had when we got married but we gained a lot of better ones. We spent our first 5 years having fun; traveling, moving, meeting new people, losing the high school friends and moving on to the friends at work, our neighbors and the ever changing career. The next 25 were spent raising the kids and having fun with them, their friends and sports. Now we are home alone again and we pretty much picked up where we left off 25 years ago. This year we will be grandparents so that is going to be a fun addition to our lives. Not much has changed. Our friends are different now, and our dogs are back to being the new kids on the block. We are no longer broke and have more money than we owe. Life is always changing and it's been fun to look back at everything we've done.
rivahside says:
@ Annitta Trotter-You said it ALL! Thank you-that is what marriage really is!
Annette from TheLeveretsNest says:
LOVE - love every day as if it is your last, give thanks that your soulmate married you, chose you, love and cherish them with all your heart and soul as long as there is love, endless, unjudgemental love then the marriage will flourish and you both will be happy no matter what you do
Katie from CornerChair says:
When I got married I had a LOT of adjusting to do... I went from being in constant "girl world" to constant "man world"! I come to work with my hubs, and there are men everywhere there! It was totally worth every little bit of change, though. I love being able to be with my hubs every day, and have learned so much about the man I love. We're coming up on Anniversary #1, and I hope and pray that we have MANY more to come.
Lynelle Miliate-Ha from FalconandFinch says:
My husband and I were married a little over a year ago, and in the weeks before the wedding, I was totally worried about all this stuff! I thought I'd get depressed, that we would be suddenly bored with one another, that we would wake up one morning with a horrifying sense of regret. The first months after the wedding I spent so much time looking for imaginary cracks in our happiness with a big ol' magnifying glass - anytime one of those "Is your relationship at risk" headlines would hit my Yahoo news feed, I poured over it, examing myself and my husband for all of these flaws I was so sure I would find. But in the end, I had to admit that I was being crazy. We both were, surprisingly, amazingly happy. And we still are. It turns out that the things that made us feel safe enough to wed each other - patience, generosity, a strong partnership, good communication and just good old giddy head over heels mad love, are the things that keep us feeling safe, happy, and strong. Together, we hope to have an entire lifetime of Newlywed Years together.
Stephanee Johnson from StephJohnsonDesigns says:
My husband and I are quickly ariving at our 1 year mark. We only dated 2 months before we got married. Just like you mentioned, every wedding, every marriage is different. Our young relationship grew in an atmosphere where we understood we were in it together forver. So we treated every situation as such. That's my advice. Treat this person, your life as if you will be in it forever: with kindness, patience and more gentleness than you think you need. Wonderful article!
Erika from ErikaPrice says:
We recently celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary, and (almost) every minute has been fantastic - friends still tease us because we hold hands in the street and in the supermarket! Treat your partner as you would like to be treated yourself, and always with respect. The greatest danger comes from that old saying - familiarity breeds contempt :)
rmaru001 says:
Variety for sure - my husband and I jumped in as 30-somethings 2+ yrs ago and only dated 1.5 yrs. before - to us that seemed quick! And in that time it seems like we've done most of the hard stuff: long-distance dating and wedding planning, dissertations and new careers, moving to another country, 4 moves, first time home purchasing and a major medical diagnosis... and we've both had periods of depression to show for it. And yet, here we are, finally seeing some benefits from all that hard work! Although I can firmly say that the first few years have been crazy hard, I am more hopeful, willing and committed than ever! It's great to hear that anything goes - it gives me confidence that we can find our own solution no matter what the problem at hand.
Lindsay from SweetThreesBoutique says:
I just got married last April, and so its been a little over 3 months now. However, my husband and I dated for over 9 years! Yes, ladies, 9 years. I have felt like we were married for a while now, and now I guess its just official! Point is, it has only gotten better with time. You cannot replace the memories and the bond that time creates, so here's to many more years to come!
Kirsten Gilmore from PaintingsByKEGilmore says:
Our anniversary was last week. I am still so happy to be married to my best friend. :)
Johanna N. from thefrontera says:
Wow. Insightful. Thank you for sharing.
Zane Saracene from Zalavintage says:
I am happily committed to the most wonderful man for the past 15 years without marriage. We raised my daughter together and he's sending her to college as his own and then we plan to start dating again, after all I'm 52, he's 40...and who knows, maybe we will get married one day and I know the perfect place to shop!!
Alexa Sheraton from 26Sorts says:
Great article! I've been happily married for going on 2 years now. We've had plenty of ups and downs these past couple of years - but every silly argument leaves us knowing each other deeper, which makes it all worth it! I totally agree that marriage is definitely a transition and it's taken some time to figure out who we are as a married couple, but that exploration is an adventure I'm learning to love more and more each day. Living and doing life with your best friend is the best!
J.T. Siems from SweetTeaApothecary says:
I love this post. I am a newlywed - our first anniversary will be in November - and while we had a rough patch for about a month after the wedding, ever since then I'm amazed by how much marriage rocks! I feel our love has grown stronger by a sense of security in that we are now a team who are up against the world - he has my back and I have his. The rocky patch immediately after our wedding mostly had to do with me finally letting it sink in that we were together forever, something that I didn't think about when I got swept up with wedding planning fever. Once we talked about my jitters and anxiety (and went on our honeymoon to London and Paris over New Years!) we've been on a path growing stronger ever since. I'm sure we'll have ups and downs along the way but for me marriage is not the crisis situation that the media often likes to portray it as. My hope is that soon marriage equality will become a reality so others can experience the love :)
Amber from BambuEarth says:
Love this post. Marriage is such a blessing and above all it's goal to glorify God is a journey worth taking with highs and lows and everything in between. The most exciting part is knowing that while we're married forever, it's not all about us. ♥
Brianna from thehappycouple says:
We just celebrated three years and I think it has been our best year yet. We took a big leap of faith when we got married, moved away from home, and started everything over, but it's been wonderful. I think at first we were a little afraid we would lose ourselves in being a pair, but we've worked our way through it. I think respect and commitment are key.
Janet Wilson says:
I enjoyed this post. :) Here's my take on the ideas expressed here: Depressed that my wedding was over??? Hell no! I was happy that my "official" marriage had just started (we'd been together for 4 years before marriage). First year really hard?? Seriously?? It was lovely! Definitely NOT hard at all. I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it. We were, definitely, as you said, "relaxing into our new sense of security", I believe. Isolation: None. My husband and I, solely, planned our wedding down to the last detail. We did everything the way WE wanted to and, luckily, we had no intervening relatives to tell us how it "should" be done. So, it had been "us" all along. And that's the way we like it. J No isolation felt anywhere before or after. The New (Tiny) Community: I don't know…. We had our own little 'community' before – I don't think it was all that different. I just LIKED knowing I was his wife and he, my husband. I like doing things together even more once we were married. I liked being "Mrs. Wilson" even though I didn't feel AT ALL like a "Mrs.". Even though I was 33, I felt too young for that title. HAHA! The Hard Bits: The only hard bits we really came across didn't actually happen until after our first child was born and we were working on baby #2. 2 miscarriages really ARE the hard bits. Other than that?… the hardest bit: our younger child being diagnosed with a life-threatening, incurable disease that he will endure for the rest of his life. Talk about the hardest bits?! Yeah. That takes the cake. The Truth: Yes. Things in the relationship do change. You just have to learn to go with it. After all, it's the journey that's the good part rather than the destination, isn't it? 14 years later, we're still as happy as anyone can be – and I often wonder if others have as close and strong a relationship as we do. Sadly, I doubt it. But, I wish they did because they really are missing something if they don't.
Katie Piloseno says:
I love this!!!! I am marrying my best friend in March and just caught myself telling a friend that "I want to be engaged forever" because I don't want our wedding to come and go....this gives great insight, truth in a positive light. No couple is the same...all you have to focus on is eachother and thats all that matters. Thank you!!!
Allison Clements says:
Thank you! I have been married for 7 months and a lot of these things happened to me. Thank you! Thank you!
Katie Carpenter says:
I read so much of my own story in this. I love my husband but no one talks about the level of isolation of married couples. Or marriage in general other then the certainty of divorce. Thank you for this wonderful article!
Kim Monroe from TheTwistedCrafts says:
Ahhh marriage...my favorite subject. No really it is. My husband and I went and took untraditional paths with our relationship. We eloped 2.5 weeks after meeting/dating to Vegas. He was 20, I was 21. He was(and still is) in the Air Force, I had just gotten out. No he wasn't being deployed or anything, we just knew from the moment we met we were meant to be together. Sounds sappy huh? Yeah our kids our tire of hearing it too.... In January we celebrate 18 years together. And there is times I want to chase him with a rolling pin, and I know he has his moments too, I wouldn't trade one minute of these years with him.
Amy Skrocki from skrocki says:
Our first anniversary is in September. Our first year of marriage has been amazing. But we have been together for 12 years. For some reason marriage made our relationship even better.
ethoscustombrands from EthosCustomBrands says:
Wonderful article! A few months ago, someone ordered two cuffs off of us to use in place of wedding rings. Blew us out of the water! What an honor it was for us to know our cuffs would be used as this eternal symbol!
Kate Downes says:
Our first year of marriage has been anything but dull. Three days after the wedding we packed our bags and moved to Ireland so I could work on my master's. We moved into a TINY studio apartment, and commenced living on the Emerald Isle. Six months later we found ourselves pregnant with our first, and much to everyone's surprise, we're staying in Ireland to have the baby. So, while we've since upgraded our living situation to a small, but adequate 2 bedroom, people still can't believe we're here, working, studying, living, and are now afraid, we won't return to the states. What a grand adventure for our first year!
smarkel says:
Ahhhh, perfect timing! The wedding was July 28th and we are in the final days of our honeymoon. So far married life feels the same (we've lived together since 2009), but we are contemplating some big life changes and it's a bit scary. Live reading other people's perspectives on this exciting and potentially nerve wracking newlywed period. :)
Megan Wilde from BabyWilde says:
Loved this! Very true. Personally, I found marriage very freeing. In a lot of ways, the first 2 years of our marriage felt like the easiest times we've ever had. We did a lot of fun stuff just because we wanted to. Wal-mart at 1 am? Why not? Spend an entire evening making dinner, and then watching movies in bed? Absolutely! Buy that beautiful candle holder and rearrange our entire living room around it? We didn't have kids to break it, so go for it! I love our life now too, but those first years were special in their very own way.
Emily Solt says:
Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I just got married on July 21st, and I admittedly have felt a twinge of depression mixed with the obvious exhaustion when we got back from our honeymoon. I wasn't expecting that. Frankly, being married pretty much feels the same as not being married with an added feeling of security. I think what I personally underestimated the amount of time, thought, and energy went into the planning of the wedding. It was so much fun and people were around all the time. When my wonderful husband and I got home I realized that I was left with a whole different set of things to do (like preparing to finish my exams so I can officially be a PhD candidate) that are not nearly as fun as the wedding.
Jenna Frist from FristVintage says:
love this so much. well written and lovely.
adelinejewelry from adelinejewelry says:
Wonderful, thoughtful essay. Hubby and I just celebrated our two year anniversary a few weeks ago. What has been amazing is how different the last two years were from the previous two years living together, and the three years before that when we were dating. The thing that touched me the most was the (Tiny) Community section. I am more ambitious, responsible, and far-sighted than two years ago -- in my own life, in our life together, and in our community. Having so many other married and long-term committed friends around me, I see the effects of positive partnerships in every area of my life. We are each building our own families, and building up one another in the process. Thank you for expanding the repository of experience, stories and advice that is out there. What a wonderful idea!
Pretty Star Designs from prettystardesigns says:
Brilliant post. Being married is lovely, so different though from life before, getting used to a new name and being together forever as husband and wife. The first few weeks are very odd when you have nothing to do, no big event to plan and questions coming from every direction about when you're going to have a baby. Over 8 years together, just over 3 years married and the up and downs of having a special needs newborn life, our life is wonderful and filled with joy. Being married just means I have someone special to share it with :)
Libby Sanders from goldenyearsvintage says:
Oh. My. God. This is so insightful. I experienced this as a 21 year old bride, and yet there was no warning for it. I had a slight depression from the fallout of being the 'bride' to being the 'wife' (I also felt uncomfortable with this word - it's definitely not got the same pizaz as bride!). A sense of a loss of friends. My best friend, my maid of honour, disapeard from my life when I got married, though the suprising part was that she too was married young about 18 months before me. Now we barely speak and when we do it feels so awkard. My twin sister dispises that I'm married as she feels that my husband (and yes, she ACTUALLY said this) 'has taken me away from her'. She was never close to me before this, even pushed me away from her life, but has since felt lonely now I am married. I also learnt in my first year of marriage that I should not share a single part of the joy of marriage to anyone not married. They tell you it hurts them to see you so happy and not have that in their life. I only have a few people who I can share the joys of this wonderful part of life with, and when i do I feel it must be hushed over quickly in case someone hears. From this experience I have learnt that I desperately want to be there for my friends as they enter this stage of life. I'm sure they'll experience the same and it's so tough when the greatest joy of your life is other people's sadness.
Kelly Johnson says:
Interesting blog that I felt caustious reading, perhaps as its so fresh for me, I am a newlywed, we just married at the end of June and there has been an element of quietness after all of the excitement and energy that goes into planning and experiencing getting married. Overall after working through the changes and the feelings, (figuring out what the term 'wife' means to me (we are parents too so this adds to the dynamics) I came to a place where I feel such an enthusiasm for 'intentionally creating the life that we want' as we did create the wedding that we wanted. I feel lucky as though we have bought upon ourselves a great opportunity of love, security and happiness that it is our job to care for and nurture.
Keiry from ShopMINIM says:
I loved when you said that just how you get to planyour own perfect wedding, you should also plan your own dream life after marriage. There is so much social pressure as to what is expected once you're married. IGNORE IT! Amazing post!
Cat Tatsch from CatCanCrochet says:
This entire post was really well expressed, especially the last section. Live your marriage fully and do not allow outside influences to affect how you experience each other. This is your life together and no one else needs to approve or even understand how your relationship works. It's far more important to understand each other than to try and make the world understand what you have together.
Messila says:
Oh how I needed this. We got back from the honeymoon last night and I am at a loss for crafty diy projects and wedding shopping. It is nice to know that the isolation feeling is normal and almost peaceful now.
Heather Downey says:
That was so amazing. I really needed to read that. Thanks for bringing that topic up:)
Cassie Petersen says:
I really needed this. I'm getting married this Saturday (eek!!) and am starting to get the nerves. We already have the cars and the house and the dog but making all of this even more official scary! I'm going to need lots of articles like this over the next few months .
Amy from PeacebirdStudio says:
10 years into my married life journey, I am so grateful to have my very best friend by my side!
lesyeux from lesyeux says:
great idea for a post but seriously lacking depth! After our wedding (we're now just on the other side of the terrible 2 - first years, that is) I wanted to write a book about what it means to be married in a world where marriage is quickly becoming obsolete and futile. Why get married anymore at all? And if you do, why follow the rules as they've been established (combining finances, shmombining finances!) etc...So much to discuss about marriage in a 2012 world!
Kate Werneburg says:
This is great! We returned from our honeymoon a little less than week ago, and this is a great reminder that marriage is what you make of it, not what other people expect you to do.
Kim Strozewski from SassySisterVintage says:
Very interesting reading everyone's thoughts! My husband and I knew each other 4 months before we got married. Yep, just 4 months! We've been married more than 16 years now. My husband and I are very different people and this has proven to be difficult sometimes. A successful marriage, I've found, is with 2 people who are willing to be a little less selfish, thinking more of what they can do for their spouse instead of themselves. Remember, most divorces are caused because of one's own selfishness. Remember this when times get tough. Just hang on a little longer than you want to, Somehow things have a way of getting better. I do believe that's how my parent's and my husband's parents have both been married almost 50 years.
melanie from mylittleaddiction says:
Love it! My husband & I were together almost 10years before he popped the question, lived together more than half that, and post wedding we still had some interesting times. Always good, some bumpier than others, but our love is stronger now than ever for it!
Betsy Ramsay says:
I waited until I was almost forty to marry. All of the things I read or was warned about regarding the loss of independence never prepared me for the reality of it. While sharing your life with anyone provides a wide variety of learning experiences and requires a willingness to compromise, change and evolve, that is not what I am speaking of. I am referring to how your legal rights, your legal independence in the world, change once that marriage contract is signed. I'm sure that anyone that has gone through a divorce is chuckling to themselves reading this but I don't think most women give this a second thought when considering marriage. I was only woken up to this fact when I called my auto insurance agent to resolve a billing error a month after I married. The agent informed me that because I had added my husband to my policy, it granted him the same control over the policy that I had. He could even cancel the policy and they were not legally obligated to notify me. I was completely dumbstruck that this form of coverture was still in existence! We are still discovering how pervasive it is in society after several happy years together. I believe that the marriage license application and certificate is generally thought of as just another "task" on a wedding check list. Why is there no legal obligation for those that issue these contracts to notify us of the changes to our rights upon signing? Why are we not prompted to consult with a lawyer? Am I the first to question and confront this? It feels that way.
Holly and John from ZCreateDesign says:
What a wonderful post! My husband and I got married a year and a half ago. I honestly credit our Etsy shop for lending a hand in many of the learning experiences and the deepening of our relationship in that first year and beyond. The fact that something we made together for our own wedding was the basis of our new business venture has kept our wedding, and in turn our love, somewhat fresh in our minds and has certainly been a romantic conversation piece. That, in addition to the strengthening growth as we face a new world in business as a team - making decisions together, making mistakes together, learning and leaning on each other as we grow and as our shop grows - has been such an integral part of who we are as a couple. It certainly wasn't easy going from engaged to married, and absolutely not easy going from newlyweds to business partners... but I wouldn't change a thing as every smile and every tear has led us to where we are...and that's a pretty wonderful place. :)
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VaLon Frandsen from thevicagirl says:
I love it, such great advice!
Kristine Fachet from surlefeu says:
What a timely and thought-proving article. We celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary in just a few days, and I feel like we're finally settling into married life! We were going through the process of buying a house while we were preparing for our wedding (we actually closed on it literally one week before the wedding), and right after the wedding we jumped into restoring the house and making it our own. Our honeymoon period was spent sanding, painting, and tearing out old carpet (as well as our hair!). Plus, we had not lived together before the wedding as many young couples do these days. It was rough dealing with so many changes at one time, but we made it and are ready to tackle anything together now. I agree that marriage can feel very isolating sometimes as you move from being single to being part of a "package deal" - unless you had couple friends to begin with, most friends seem to drift away. But the great thing about being in a marriage is that you are never truly alone - your partner will always be there for you when you need them.
Rona B says:
16 yrs ago my husband and I sat at the kitchen table to discuss what type of marriage would we have. We were going to create our marriage from scratch. It's been loads of fun and tears. We've raised a 20 yr son, fostered a 18 year daughter and moved several times. Make it work for you.
Michelle from FoamyFactory says:
lovely story! I'm not married, but hope to experience it soon!
jackie b from jewelrybyjackie says:
This is an amazing article with real advice and awesome insight. I will be married in less than a month's time and this is very relevant and appreciated. Thanks!
Maggy O'Reilly from OReillyInk says:
This is a wonderful modern take on being newly married. Well done.
coleyclothing from ColeyClothing says:
My husband became ill from a chronic illness 6 months into the engagement. Two and a half years later, he is finally doing better and back at work. Now I feel like our real marriage can begin, where as before we were in crisis mode.
Nechama Leah Kocheran from TheInspiredOwl says:
Marriage is one of the most interesting things I think any of us will ever experience. There is no normal. There is no "what to expect". And in some ways there isn't much good advice that isn't very general. People told me the first year is the is the hardest! The first year was an opening to a whole new world of knowing self and conquering little fears in the back of my personal psychological closet. It was beauty. It was freeing. It was a fun ride with my favorite person in the world. Then some other people told me that the second year is the hardest. The second year was an adventure. Conquering things and moving forward in life together. Becoming more of a team. Learning about being real adults and managing all the hum drum money this and that while still being so happy to share it with one another. Then they told me the third year is when real life kicks in and it's a major bummer. I never really listened to "them" but by this time I really wasn't listening. And this time "they" were not any more right than before. Sure marriage has it's discomforts. But where can there be growth without discomfort? And where can there be deep happiness without a fight to get there? I always think that the things that may hurt the most are the things that are most worth it. It all depends on your viewpoint. Tying yourself to another person can either feel like entrapment or like freedom. It's the most beautiful when you come, firstly, to the realization that you were just a half a person before and now your finally complete. Whether there are moments when they completely exasperate you or you don't understand them at all it's still you and there are moments when you have, no doubt, not understood yourself and been completely fed up with "you"! I am you. You are me. We are we. It's work. It's a lovely lifelong work. Marriage.
kathleen Stephenson from BlackRabbitSociety says:
We are less then a year into our lifelong commitment. We still have a lot of growing to do, both together and seperate. But I look forward to it, with all my being.
emma zhang from vevela2012 says:
very good,I love it!!
Jen Hintz from TheArtofHintz says:
Wonderful and thoughtful post... I find myself in a strange place as I am newly engaged to the man I've spent just shy of 9 years with. He helped to support me through college, we settled into "adult" jobs and learned to pay (our own, no joint accounts yet) bills. We just bought our own home and for the first time we get to live together, no roommates, no parents down the hall - just us. It's amazing to me where we've gotten to and now that I'm staring at the idea of planning a wedding it seems a bit odd that we don't have all of those "firsts" standing on the other side of the wedding date. But I feel far more comfortable in our decision and our readiness for the titles husband and wife having spent time practicing our roles, we'll see how that perspective changes as we go...
Mary Lezcano from BellaBboutique says:
I'm going on 6 months as a 'wife', and in my instance it doesn't feel like there has been much change at all with a small exception, the 'team' feeling. That team feeling makes you act as a unit versus acting alone. I take have to take my husband into consideration when making most decisions now, it's not just me anymore. Decisions that each of us make affect each other and that has both been an adjustment but has been really unifying as a couple. I don't expect the growing pains/joys to ever end, it's a part of life!
J.K. Ramirez from HudsonBlueArtisans says:
After 12 years.. I can say: two great boys, and many joyful days past and still to come.
Stephen Bushnik from NutshellCards says:
Wonderful sentiments! Keeping "love communication" lines open with your partner is precisely why Nutshell Cards were created...to fend off divorce and keep couples engaged. Valentine's shouldn't be celebrated 1 day a year! https://www.etsy.com/listing/118404731/in-love-couples-cards-15pk-bundle-of


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After an exhausting day of omelet making and Netflix marathon-ing, Jimmy and I pulled ourselves together for a date night.
No one cares what Jimmy wore.
Sort of every night is a date night, though if we go out it is generally with co-workers and if its a stay at home date, it involves me cooking and Jimmy keeping my wine glass full between rounds of video gaming.
But don't get me wrong, I actually love this routine that we have slipped into. He gets up early and heads to work. I am usually awake by the time he leaves, but I take a slow morning cleaning, laundry-ing, and deciding on what to make for dinner -which sometimes involves looking up translations for some ingredients to make it easier to find them. Eventually I take a stroll, stop to sketch here or there, pop in to a cafe for a cappuccino, and then head to the store as a last stop. I usually get home and get dinner prepped around the time Jimmy gets home. Now its his turn to relax while I make dinner. Then we settle in with our new best friend, Netflix, and watch a show or a movie. Then I read while Jimmy plays very violent sounding games until I tell him to go to bed.
And if it sounds old fashioned, it is.
But I am unemployed and I happen to love cooking. I love it. It is creative but mindless. And what's even better, in the end you get something to eat (much better than architecture school, because usually I would end up with a crappy model to destroy and some drawings that a professor would mark up with red pen). And sometimes it isn't the best, but usually its pretty darn good.
So anyway, last night we went on a real date night! Not just a drink or a quick dinner out. We got all bundled up for the rapidly dropping temperatures and headed out the door for a bite and a concert.
We settled on a sushi bar next to the concert venue, and tried their 10 euro menu, despite the fact that we could not read what was included. In my opinion, sushi is a pretty risky place to wing it on a menu. But hey, we are just risky people I guess.
What we were delivered was a 14-piece plate of various simple sushi rolls and nigiri. I am happy to report that they were all delicious -we split a third plate- and that no one got sick.
Then we headed off to the concert, waited in line, checked our coats, and settled into one of the last remaining spaces on a railing and waited for the show to start.
Aaaaaand then we kept waiting. And the DJ kept spinning. And we continued to wait.
You see, our tickets said 8 o'clock on them. We weren't sure if this meant doors open or show starts. But we got in when the doors opened at 730 so, naturally, we assumed that the show would start at 8. By the time 930 rolled around, I was just really confused as to why they had even put 8pm on the ticket.
But alas the show started!
We were seeing Lindsay Stirling -a rock violinist from Provo, UT -in a standing room only mid-sized venue. We were not expecting either the turn out or the strong fan base as most of her popularity following her appearance on America's Got Talent has been generated by YouTube videos. But people were really really jazzed. Jimmy has followed her for a while -she does a lot of covers from video game and Lord of the Rings scores -so this concert was his idea, and I was just along for the ride. But, in that one concert, she made a fan out of me!
She rocked super hard, played a ton of really high energy songs -mostly her originals -set to crazy flashing lights, video back drops and even some (kind of hoaky, but really ripped) back up dancers. I mean, she wasn't just playing the violin. She was bouncing and dancing and doing lifts and entertaining us for about 2 hours.
She was really really fun to watch and we just had a blast!
…The only major downer was the dude in front of us with the nappy dread locks. I mean, dread locks look pretty cool on some people. If you want to voluntarily look dirty, go for it. Considering your peace-sign tattoo, I would expect nothing less. But please, if you are going to join society and partake in a social activity -particularly one that involved large crowds in small spaces -please please please but some oil or something in your hair. At least Febreeze. Because it smells. There is no way that a hair style that is created by being dirty does't smell.
After the concert, we waited for the crowds to clear, took a long walk home until my (super sassy) heels could take no more, and polished off the night with the final episode of Orange is the New Black and some champagne.
Best date night ever? Yeah, probably.


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Westlawn Students Chime In
By Dan Spurr, Apr 5, 2019
www.westlawn.edu
Prominent Alumni like Dave Martin helped Westlawn earn a solid reputation in the yacht design community.
In the December/January issue, No. 176, we invited Westlawn Institute of Marine Technology students past and present to share their experiences with and opinions about the 89-year-old distance-learning school specializing in boat design—this after the sale of the school by the American Boat & Yacht Council (ABYC) to David Smyth, in 2015. Problem was, in recent decades at least, it lost money and required subsidy, first by NMMA (National Marine Manufacturers Association) and then by ABYC, which eventually lost patience with the school's inability to be self-sustaining. Since the transfer, some noticeable changes to the school caught our notice, to wit: an end to RINA accreditation, disappearance of The Masthead newsletter, and apparent lack of visible activity on the part of the administration and the sole remaining instructor. We asked Smyth what was going on and reported the challenges he cited, specifically the high cost of upgrading "learning systems," low graduation rates, and never having received financial records from ABYC. Next, we asked the students. Here's a summary of what they told us:
Student critique
A student in Europe was three-quarters through the program but had to give up his dream of becoming a boat designer because tuition was raised too high. Westlawn claims to have educated more boat designers than any other institution in the world (which could very well be true), and many are from outside the U.S. With personal income in some of these countries much lower than here, the tuition increase makes it especially difficult to continue. Smyth points to the old installment payment plans as contributing to low graduation rates.
Course materials and the student guide need updating. So does the school's web presence, which is, in the words of a current student, "laughable." It is true that many of the materials have changed little over the years, and while past director Dave Gerr rewrote and added to the printed coursework, the task is formidable. Who, if anyone now, is capable of taking on this job?
"Little useful guidance" especially in terms of software and hardware, wrote one student. Dave Gerr is "sorely missed by the remaining student body," wrote another current student. The Forum has suffered as a result of his absence. While lone instructor Mark Bowditch received generally high marks, it seems clear that students want more designer chat time.
A recipient of a certificate for completing Elements of Yacht Design says he "couldn't be happier." David Smyth, he wrote, is "a great guy" who has helped him expand his "cognitive database."
"David Smyth cannot do this alone," wrote another Westlawn graduate. "NMMA and ABYC should still support the school. How can an industry survive without qualified naval architects?"
A number of respondents, including Tom MacNaughton, who runs the Yacht Design School in Eastport, Maine, offered to assist Smyth and Westlawn.
"Mark Bowditch is an awesome instructor," wrote a student, adding, "He knows how the industry does things now vs. when some of the textbooks were written."
The lack of CAD and computer modeling instruction is seen as a major shortcoming of the school. A Southampton graduate who saw our call for comments suggested offering DELFTship software, which he said is free for its basic modules, adding that Rhino modeling software is available significantly discounted for students. All well and good, but again, who is going to teach how to use them?
"We are not having any problems continuing to operate," wrote David Smyth. "Our enrollment is 250% of what it was when we took over. We get new enrollments steadily, and the rate of progress of our students is substantially higher than it once was. I am only frustrated by the rate we can improve the school. Our plan for raising money is purely for capital investment into the school. There is no need for fund raising or capital for any operations. There is absolutely zero chance of Westlawn going away."
Distance learning focused on design
The uniqueness of Westlawn has always been twofold: distance learning, so that anyone in the world could enroll; and narrow focus on only boat design. Other brick-and-mortar institutions offer degrees in naval architecture, and a few worldwide have loosened their emphasis on ship study, notably Southampton's three-year program in the U.K. The Landing School in Arundel, Maine, offers a two-semester program in yacht design, but residency is required, and if one finds Westlawn's tuition prohibitive, he or she will find little relief at either of these well-regarded schools.
The bottom line appears to be this: Westlawn is apparently here for the long term, and its traditional offering is of good quality; that's the good news. But to stay abreast of developments in a rapidly changing world, and to meet consumer expectations in an increasingly digital world where service is measured almost instantly after every purchase, Westlawn has work to do.
Article Category: Design, Education, Rovings
Tags: ABYC, David Smyth, Westlawn Institute
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Editor on Form When Hired Student
By Administrator in Advertising & Creative, Media News · October 18, 2006 · No comments
Do newspaper editors take a personal interest in finding new talent? At least one did twenty years ago, when TV presenter, Jim Delahunt, was a student in Glasgow. In the Time and Place column in Sunday Times Scotland, Delahunt – who has just joined football broadcasters, Setanta, from stv – talks of receiving a personal letter from the legendary Charlie Wilson, then editor of the Sunday Standard.
The column published a slightly truncated version of the story. Here it is in full: "Law and accountancy were two professions that were being constantly recommended to me, by teachers and friends of the family, but I harboured an inkling towards journalism – which always drew anxious looks whenever I mentioned it as a career ambition. I'd be counselled it had no prospects or security.
"I was still a student when the editor of then Sunday Standard newspaper, Charlie Wilson, invited me to his office. I had written a letter to the paper about a betting system I had worked out. He put me on a three-month trial as a tipster, which then became a job – on
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Gene Frankel Theatre >
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Fulton Theatre
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Arts On Site
MI ABUELA, QUEEN OF NIGHTMARES: A PLAY BY CHRISTINE STODDARD
The play was chosen as one of three national finalists in the Fulton Festival of New Works in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. It was presented in a staged reading at the Fulton Theatre. The director was Eric Swartz ("El Chelito.") The cast consisted of Nelly Torres (Maya), Carol Cadby* (Mami/Ancestor #2), Nancy Ticotin* (Abuela/Ancestor #1), Joshua William Green* (Owl/Cactus/Jaguar), and Ben Dibble* (Father/Sheriff.) The reading did not feature the full stage directions or the role of Jaguar/Owl/Cactus #2.
*Member of Actors' Equity Association, the Union of Professional Actors and Stage Managers in the United States.
Comments from the judges and audience:
"This play is every woman. This play connects the generational trauma and triumphs of every woman. This play captures the unspoken 'green light' of certain conversations between women; particularly women in the same family."
"Compelling, deep characters with interesting story structure."
"This play must be produced for everyone who knows a woman (that's everyone)."
Stories about the Fulton Festival of New Works ran on the local news website Lancaster Online.


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New Emoji's Are Coming, But One Has The Internet Laughing!
You know, some emoji's come in "small packages" you could say! When asked about the new emoji, Emojipedia's founder Jeremy Burge admitted out of context it looks like it could be used to describe a man's small measure!


The winter training sessions are all in full flow with everyone really enjoying preparing for the new season. From Seniors to U6's-everyone is 'kicking a ball'. New faces still welcome as its early days yet. Please contact any of the following if you would like to get involved. Seniors and U14-U17 on a Tuesday at Whitmore High School, Harrow. Contact Dennis Diggins 07768 352680 (Senior), Tony Griffin 07966 160999 (Youth U14-U17), Fiona Corrigan 07940 568702 (Girls), Colin McGuinness 07779 340398 (U12 and younger).
Parnells are delighted to announce that we will be taking part as a 'walking group' in this year's St Patrick's Parade in London on the 18th March. This is a first for the club and it will be a fantastic opportunity for children and parents to enjoy the atmosphere of a great event. Please contact Veronica Bailey if interested (07768 635534).
Diary Dates: The Dinner Dance date is now taking place on the 14th April 2018 at The Claddagh Ring. Tickets still available, if you would like to attend, contact Tony Griffin on 07966 160999 or Veronica Bailey on 07768 635534. The Youth's U12/13 'Trip to Tipp' is all set to go. Flights booked and the exciting and packed itinerary in place which will be available soon.
The club would like to extend their condolences to Veronica Bailey and family on the sad loss of her aunt Mary Delaney (aged 83) who originally hailed from Coolkenna, Co Wicklow. She spent a large part of her life in Kingsbury and then Palmers Green. She is survived by 3 sisters and 2 brothers with one, Tom McAsey, living here who is an active member of the Wicklow Association. May she rest in peace.
Next Youth Meeting on the 6/3/18 at The Green Man, Kingsbury at 8pm.
Parnells would like to congratulate Joel McInern on his appointment as Youth Chairman. We wish him well for the forthcoming season.


De Minimis Non Curat Lex. It means the law does not remedy an injury that is minimal. We've had this legal theory for, well, forever.
Lawyers use that phrase to tell the opposition: There was no blood. So there could be no foul. Therefore, your honor and members of the jury, my client is not guilty. Or isn't responsible to pay damages. Or the rough equivalent in whatever makes sense at the time.
This is that case; that is this case. Or maybe it's not. Keep reading.
J.S. Bawa is a residential landlord in Los Angeles and was owed rent by David Terhune. When Terhune did not pay, Bawa served a three-day notice to pay or vacate. Bawa stated in his notice that if Terhune did not comply with the notice, Bawa would pursue an eviction claim.
Bawa's resident manager testified at trial that Terhune had received a check for rent, but returned it because it was not in the correct amount. The PM further testified that after expiration of the three-day notice period, Terhune delivered two checks. One was for the correct amount of rental and the other was intended serve as rental for the next month, which rental was not yet due.
Bawa and his PM did not deposit the checks and instead filed an eviction lawsuit.
The case was tried to a jury. The jury determined the facts: $507.61 owed in rent. Terhune furnished a check for $507.60. The differential – one penny – convinced the jury that Terhune had indeed paid full rent owing and did not default.
Let me state that again. This landlord asserted an eviction claim against his tenant because the rent check was one cent short.
One. Penny. Short. You can't make this up.
The Landlord, clearly a person of deep conviction, appealed.
The Court of Appeals, using Uniform Commercial Code laws, determined that a non-certified check is a conditional payment. A conditional payment suspends the obligation until dishonor of the check or until it is paid or certified.
Typically, reasons the Appellate Court, a debtor is not in default for paying with an uncertified check. Once the tendered check is successfully negotiated, the obligation is discharged.
But all of this is premised upon the creditor's willingness to accept the conditional payment offered in the form of a non-certified check. Following this thread further, if a landlord does not accept an uncertified check, the duty to pay rent is not suspended and the tenant is in default.
Then, the Appellate Court evaluated whether or not the landlord's refusal to accept an uncertified check which is one penny less than the required amount is equitable. Or not. Because, you see, Courts have the ability to apply the theory of "de minimis non curat lex." The point is to conserve valuable and overburdened judicial resources and not waste the time of the Judge, Justices, bailiffs, sheriffs, constables, clerks, marshals, deputies, jury members, court personnel, and pay outrageous amounts to attorneys when parties are squabbling over something trivial.
Easy out for the Appellate Court, right? Regardless of certified or non-certified funds, conditional acceptance vs. conditional delivery, apply ye olde DMNCL and we're done. Case concluded, go home and next time focus on something significant.
But no. Rather than trust the jury to correctly determine the facts – that is after all the jury's one and only job – no, the Appellate Court finds that Tenant Terhune failed to pay rental. And, after making that finding the Court rules for the Landlord Bawa and case over, yes?
No. The Appellate Court kicked the case back to where it came from. For a new trial. So that we can start all over again and litigate this one penny case. From which one might suspect there will be further appeals.
Which will give me the ability to write about this case again in 2021. But that's a digression.
The judgment rendered by the trial court was reversed for a new trial where presumably the jury will be instructed that a one-penny-short rent payment is a default. See J.S. Bawa v. David Terhune; Appellate Division of the Superior Court, State of California, County of Los Angeles, Case No. BV 032618; January 30, 2019: https://www.courts.ca.gov/opinions/documents/JAD19-01.PDF.
1. Sweet suffering Buddha. Why does this case exist; why were / are the parties arguing over one penny. Yes that's rhetorical. One might presume rent control . . . Section 8 . . . a personal vendetta . . . who knows.
2. Ok disregarding #1 for the moment, why didn't the Appellate Court use the DMNCL theory and drop-kick this to hades? Yeah, that's also rhetorical. Because here we are. With a 10-page appellate decision.
3. Look for further appeals. Sadly.
In September 2013 Daniel Ryan and Patricia Ryan decided to sell their La Jolla beachfront property and engaged Pacific Sotheby's International Realty to assist. A listing agreement was executing appointing Sotheby's as exclusive agent for M/M Ryan.
It was Sotheby's obligation in the contract to use its "professional guidance and advice throughout all states and aspects of the listing, marketing and sale" of the property. Sotheby's, in turn, appointed David Schroedl as its agent.
During an open house hosted by Schroedl, Hany Girgis informed Schroedl that Girgis intended to remodel his adjacent property, which would permanently obstruct Ryans' westerly ocean view. Girgis further told Schroedl that the construction would have a significant impact on the Ryans' property, as the construction would move Girgis' home to within five feet of the common boundary, create a two-story wing overlooking Ryans' pool, take two years to complete, and require extensive excavation.
Schroedl never informed Ryans of Girgis' plans.
M/M Ryan sold their property several months later to Ney and Luciana Marinho for $3.86 million. Sotheby's received almost $100k as a brokerage commission; presumably some portion of that was paid to Schroedl.
Schroedl did not disclose to M/M Marinho the extensive remodeling plans proposed by Girgis, and the likely impact upon the ocean view and privacy of the Property.
M/M Marinho only learned of the neighbor's plans the day after closing, when the interior decorator engaged by M/M Marinho talked with Girgis. After discovery of this new intel, M/M Marinho immediately attempted to rescind the transaction.
M/M Marinho demanded arbitration, where an Award was ultimately entered for them rescinding the transaction and returning the $3.86 million purchase price. The Award also ordered M/M Ryan to pay damages, interest, cost and attorney's fees in excess of $1 million.
After entry of the arbitration Award, M/M Ryan filed a lawsuit against Sotheby's and Schroedl to recovery the monies paid by Ryans to M/M Marinho. The basis of the claim was that prior to closing Sotheby's and Schroedl know of the construction plans, knew of the adverse effect to the Property, and informed neither M/M Ryan nor M/M Marinho.
And due to that failure to disclose, M/M Ryan were substantially damaged through an adverse ruling in the arbitration Award.
Defendants claimed in the litigation that no duty to the Ryans was breached. Defendants argued that all of Ryans' claims were based on professional negligence, and Ryans failed to offer expert testimony on that point, a requirement of California law. And that since M/M Ryan failed to designate an expert in trial court, they could not establish that Defendants breached a standard of care owing to M/M Ryan.
In opposition, Ryans maintained that expert testimony was not required due to the existence of the arbitration Award. Ryans claimed that to delve into the standards of professional responsibility would be essentially relitigating that issue, which – they claimed – had already been decided in the arbitration.
The trial court granted Defendants' motion to dismiss the case. Ryans appealed.
Counsel for Ryans urged the appellate Court to waive the normal expert testimony requirement, claiming that any non-expert would have "common knowledge" that Sotheby's and Schroedl owed and breached fiduciary duties owing to M/M Ryan. And that as a consequence, no special expert is needed to provide evidence of that which everyone already knows.
So goes the "common knowledge" theory.
The appellate Court first determined that M/M Ryan did not argue the "common knowledge" theory in trial court. But good news for them – the appellate Court allowed them to present it for the first time on appeal.
That was the first hint that the appeals Court was inclined to waive the expert witness requirement, finding that if the professional malpractice is obvious, then expert testimony is not required.
The judgment rendered by the trial court was reversed. M/M Ryan are entitled to proceed in their claims against Sotheby's and Schroedl.
See Daniel Ryan v. Real Estate of the Pacific, Inc.; California Court of Appeals, 4th Appellate District, Division One, Case No. D072724; February 26, 2019: http://www.courts.ca.gov/opinions/documents/D072724.PDF.
1. I believe that a California real estate broker's and agent's obligation to disclose material conditions and latent defects is the most stringent in the USA.
2. Although the conclusion reached by the appellate Court may be morally correct, I'm not convinced it is supported by California law. Can it truly be correct that California citizens have "common knowledge" of the professional standards of care that must be discharged by California real estate brokerage licensees? So if we stop a random guy from Escondido driving his 1983 Ranger pickup truck south on I-15 he will be able to aptly describe the fiduciary duties of those licensed by the California Department of Real Estate? Seriously?
3. Look for further appeals. I will too.
A general contractor was hired to build public schools in Louisiana. The GC subcontracted a portion of the project to a subcontractor, who in turn, further subcontracted with 84 Lumber Company.
Presumably 84 Lumber Company furnished building materials, but I see from their website that they are capable of furnishing much more including custom manufacturing.
84 Lumber Company was not paid, so 84 Lumber filed sworn Statements of Claim. Louisiana law requires that subcontractors must send written notice of its claim by certified or registered US mail to the GC's Louisiana office.
Instead of using US mail, 84 Lumber sent the notice by email.
Instead of sending the notice to the GC's Louisiana office, 84 Lumber sent the notice to the GC's attorney.
84 Lumber sued the GC. The district court held that 84 Lumber's notice did not comply with Louisiana laws.
The Appellate Court reviewed the State laws requiring notice, to determine if it was clear and unambiguous. The Court found that the laws on this subject were intended to protect those performing labor and furnishing materials. And that those same laws, if unambiguous, must not be expanded in their scope, but rather must be read literally.
It is undisputed that 84 Lumber did not send notice of its claim by registered or certified mail to the GC's Louisiana office. 84 Lumber did neither. However, 84 Lumber gave evidence at trial that its lawyer's secretary sent claim statements by email to the GC's counsel. And accordingly, 84 Lumber contends that receipt by the GC of such sworn statements satisfies the statutory requirements.
Because regardless of the manner of delivery, the message was in fact timely delivered and no one is contending otherwise. And so, the argument goes, we should look at the intent of the law not its exact wording. The purpose of the law is to provide notice. Notice was provided. Just not in exact conformance with Louisiana laws.
Unconvinced, the Appellate Court determined that words have meanings and meanings should not be expanded if the ordinary meaning is clear. If the law requires notice to be sent by certified or registered mail to a Louisiana location, then that precludes notice sent by any other manner such as emails, texts, instant messaging, and phone calls.
No Louisiana court has held that an email to the GC's counsel satisfies the requirements of Louisiana law. Consequently, 84 Lumber's email notice to GC's attorney fails.
The GC wins; 84 Lumber loses.
See 84 Lumber Company v. Continental Casualty Company et al; US Court of Appeals, 5th Circuit, Case No. 18-30170; January 24, 2019: http://www.ca5.uscourts.gov/opinions/pub/18/18-30170-CV0.pdf.
1. This issue comes up constantly. People want to know that their email message is sufficient under law. Sometimes it is; often it is not.
2. There are times where laws require delivery of a formal notice or demand in a specific manner. Eviction notices come to mind, as do demands for treble or punitive damages. I have not yet seen non-litigation laws that allow severe correspondence to be sent in any manner other than old fashioned paper, with proof of delivery.
3. Conversely, leases, vendor agreements, service agreements, construction contracts and contracts of purchase and sale now commonly offer, as a convenience, to allow formal notices to be furnished by email or posted on a web portal. Be careful. There is a substantial risk that the intended recipient never sees the message as it might be trapped in a spam filter or ignored. For important notices like default, term renewal, and building repairs, only use paper notices by personal delivery, registered or certified mail, or courier delivery. The point is to have evidence of exactly when the notice was delivered, and to whom. You may need that evidence if the matter is contested.
Francisco Calleja-Ahedo, a resident of Mexico, opened an account with Compass Bank in 1988. He may or may not have signed an account card directing the Bank to hold all correspondence. Conversely, he may or may not have instructed the Bank to send statements to his brother in The Woodlands, Texas.
Regardless, the Bank sent monthly statements c/o Calleja's brother at the Texas address from 2008 until 2012. Calleja's brother routinely ignored all statements, but furnished them to Francisco when he visited.
In May 2012 the Bank statement provided that Calleja had a balance of approximately $43,000. This would be the last statement provided by the Bank to the brother at the Texas address.
Neither Calleja nor his brother nor the two other signatories on the account (Calleja's wife and father) complained to the Bank that statements were no longer being received in The Woodlands.
In June 2012 an unknown person identified himself as Calleja and instructed the Bank to change the address on file to a California address. Then, another California address. Later, a Georgia address. Still later, a new Georgia address.
A forged check for $38,700 was paid from the account in July 2012. The imposter then drained the account balance through a series of smaller transactions.
Calleja claims that he first learned of the change of address and fraudulent activity in January 2014, when a buddy told him a check from Calleja had been returned marked "account closed." Calleja went to the Bank to sign an affidavit disputing the charges and demand reimbursement.
Calleja sued the Bank when it refused to pay the unauthorized withdrawals. The Bank's employee testified through an affidavit that: (1) Calleja never complained about his brother's non-receipt of statements, (2) copies of Bank statements are available at any branch office, (3) Calleja could have reviewed the statements online, and (4) all statements have a toll-free number Calleja could have used to get statement copies or setup online banking for free.
The trial court granted judgment for the Bank, holding that Calleja failed to exercise diligence by waiting too long to notify the Bank of the fraud.
The Texas court of appeals reversed and rendered judgment for Calleja, concluding that sending statements to the imposter did not amount to sending the statements to Calleja. The appellate court further rejected the Bank's contention that it made statements available by providing them at its offices, offering free online banking, and providing a toll free number that Calleja could have used to inquire about his missing statements and overdrawn account balance.
The Supreme Court evaluated Texas laws found in Section 4.406 of the Texas Business and Commerce Code. That section states that if a bank sends or makes available a statement of account, the customer must exercise reasonable promptness in examining the statement. If the customer discovers an unauthorized payment, the customer must promptly notify the bank.
Further, Texas laws provide that if a customer fails to promptly notify the bank, the customer is precluded from asserting claims against the bank for improper payment.
Focusing on the disjunctive ". . . or makes available . . .," the Court concluded that Calleja could have used the toll free number to inquire about his account. Or appeared at any bank branch to review statements. Or used online banking for the same purposes and verifications. Or asked his brother why statement delivery had been suspended for 18 months.
The Texas Supreme Court held that due to Calleja's failure to exercise reasonable diligence, the Bank could not be responsible for his losses. Compass Bank wins; Francisco Calleja-Ahedo loses.
See Compass Bank v. Francisco Calleja-Ahedo; Texas Supreme Court; Case No. 17-0065; December 21, 2018: https://scholar.google.com/scholar_case?case=12161934202290073619&hl=en&as_sdt=6&as_vis=1&oi=scholarr.
1. Most of us would consider it irresponsible to ignore a $43,000 bank account. And yet I can envision that an individual, living in a foreign country and likely unaware of Texas banking laws, may have trusted his USA-resident brother to oversee the account and review statements mailed to his brother. And press the alert button when delivery of the statements ended.
2. Texans are charged with the duty of promptly reviewing banking and credit union statements (likely brokerage and similar accounts as well), and asking hard questions if there are errors or improper transactions. Trusting that things will work themselves out without taking affirmative action could jeopardize a significant account balance.
3. Past that, Happy New Year to all my loyal readers. Let me know if there are any subjects you want me to explore this year.


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Discovering My Roots in Cape Verde: John Barros
Boston's chief of economic development returns to his father's home in Fogo to appreciate the simple life.
1/14/2020, 7:58 a.m.
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John Barros
Chief of Economic Development, City of Boston
Number of Bostonians with Cape Verdean Heritage: 15,197
My parents are from the island of Fogo—which is where so many Bostonians of Cape Verdean descent are from—and I first went back with them in the early '90s to spend some time learning more about where they grew up. My father, in particular, wanted me to get to know his childhood home, which he still owns. It was a typical house during that time: It had a central courtyard with rooms built all around it, a shed in the back where they kept the food after the harvest, and an area for animals. While we were there, he talked a lot about his childhood. He showed me where he and his 11 siblings would go get water and where they would play soccer. We even took strolls to a private beach not far from where they lived.
Since then, I've been back a handful of times. I returned for a few weeks as a Barr Foundation fellow, as part of my sabbatical to learn more about the island's culture and history. In 2017, I brought my three young children to the island. They were impressed not only by the beauty, but also by the simpler way of life there.
Fogo is among the 10 islands that make up Cape Verde. / Photo via Anze Furlan/Psgtproduction/Getty Images
Flash-forward to February 2019, and I found myself traveling back to my parents' homeland with Mayor Marty Walsh in my capacity as a Boston city official. We designed the trip as an opportunity for the mayor to lead the delegation on a trade mission for greater understanding of life and business in Cape Verde and how it affects Cape Verdeans here in Boston. While on the island of Santiago, we met with Praia Mayor Óscar Santos to reaffirm Boston's sister cityship with the capital. Later, on the island of Fogo, Mayor Walsh was given the opportunity to name a street where a lot of Boston residents have homes and often go back to; it's now Boston Street.
A particularly special moment of the trip was when the Cape Verdean government held a ceremony in recognition of my public service in a U.S. city where a large number of Cape Verdeans live. It was very emotional for me to return to the place where decades ago my father showed me the really modest, poor life that he had and then receive this honor. The phrase "the best way to serve Cape Verdeans is to be a good citizen in any country you are in" is one that I live by. —As told to Brittany Jasnoff
Source, Boston population numbers: census bureau 2013–2017 american community survey (five-year estimates)
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The speech given by Franklin Delano Roosevelt, President of the U.S.A. to the U.S.A. Congress. Given on 6 January 1941.
I address you, the Members of this new Congress, at a moment unprecedented in the history of the Union. I use the word "unprecedented," because at no previous time has American security been as seriously threatened from without as it is today.
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The school anthem of a very great school that has produced and continues to produce thousands of great students (Late Gbegi Ojora (a leading industrialist and socialite), Helen Prest Ajayi (Miss Nigeria 1979), Glenn Inanga (pianist), Ifedayo Olarinde (D.J. Freeze of Cool F.M), Najite Dede and Michelle Dede (Nigerian entertainers), Pastor Jide Odulami (of RCCG Jesus House, Port Harcourt, Nigeria), Bosun Adeoti, Opeyemi Ogunlade).. A school that had Late Rev. Illuyomade as Principal…. Enuff name dropping… A school am very proud of (even if everybody else thinks otherwise). A school that taught me to be who I am now. Nothing fazes me. There is nothing new under the sun. We have seen that (and some did that in ISI). A school that brought so much joy and tears; from crushes to break-ups; birthdays to deaths; parties and very many activities, how we ever passed in that school I don't know; Sports day; End of term dance; Miss Z, Victory Dance; Battle of the Sexes; SRC Awards; Student's Assembly, Juniors Day; the many many club parties, the aristo girls; the UI riots; cultism; vanities; Soiree, Charity Walk…. ISI was just the school to be.
Today marks its 48th anniversary (young school yeah compared to the QCs and KCs, but very much at per with them). Today, thousands of ISI students would dress up for the Out-Off-School Uniforms day (I hope they still do it sha; twas something to look forward to every year). I wish whoever the ISI baby is this year all the best; somehow you never hear about them after that day; did any of them ever finish? I also wonder who the current teacher is that would start telling students we are all hell-bound cause of the Founder's Day dance is, we had Omitoyin in our days… and quite a number of them… Do we still have Senior and Junior Common? Does Love Lane still exist? Hall A and Hall B? Main Block? Behind Music Room? What went down in those places.. Can't be written. Heard Uncle Tony is dead. No more Alabi's Turkey right? Iyawo nko? SS2 block has it finally been completed? Abe Igi? Smitho's office? Matron's house? Cafe? "Osun House squad would meet under the Mango"…."Ogun House squad, eyes right"… "Your legs must be at angle 90". The days of Smitho, Omopariete (Omopariola), Osiyemi (Smokey), Inanga, Ajao, Ojuola (Oju igo), Tejumola, Akanji, Olowe, Parrot O Ajayi.. the list goes on.
Like TK would sing "Go, go ISI, its your birthday, we gonna party cuz its ur birthday…." I so miss that school.
Hear a lot of things have changed but for me I would continue to hold my memories of that school dearly. Not gonna let those memories go..
Happy Birthday ISI.. And happy birthday to my dear uncle Bisi.


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Climate change and sea level rise put Everglades freshwater at risk
July 22, 2015 Phillip Bootsma
Sandeep Varry, a writer for The Beacon at Florida International University, went to the Everglades to be inspired by its natural beauty. However, while he was there for a class project, he noticed that the Everglades weren't as beautiful as they used to be.
"After going to the Everglades I realized how climate change could affect the plants and animals," Varry said. "Humans weren't the only ones facing the consequences of climate change."
Varry, like many South Floridians, is realizing how climate change's effect on sea levels is threatening the Everglades' unique ecosystem and the fresh water supplied to Miami-Dade County residents.
One of the biggest effects of sea level rise on the Florida Everglades is saltwater intrusion, said Donald McNeill, a senior scientist in the department of geological sciences at the University of Miami. Intrusion occurs when sea levels rise to a point where they begin to encroach on freshwater aquifers as well as the Everglades.
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Saltwater intrusion is critical because most of Miami-Dade pumps water from the ground and as salt water intrudes, water must come from more inland sources, McNeill said.
"As we pump more freshwater out it allows the saltwater to start to fill that space," he said. "The salts are intruding in and mixing with the freshwater; it is a process that we help along by pumping out the freshwater."
A huge concern for many ecologists studying the Everglades is whether the Everglades can stay resilient, said Gina Maranto, the director of ecosystem science and policy at the UM. In ecology, resilience is the ability of an ecosystem to adapt or respond to a disturbance by resisting damage and recovering quickly.
If a particular disturbance is too prolonged or it occurs at too fast a rate for the ecosystem to handle, the ecosystem will crash and never recover.
"Ecosystems can cycle through, they're resilient," Maranto said. "[Ecosystems] can take certain shots, they can take fires and they can take droughts. They can tolerate it for so long and then they crash. The question is can they reorganize and come back again."
Because most of South Florida either depends on natural aquifers or the Everglades for its primary source of freshwater, restoring correct water flow in the Everglades is of vital importance.
Several projects are under way to change how water is managed in South Florida, said Cara Capp, the Everglades Restoration Program manager at the National Parks Conservation Association. The Comprehensive Everglades Restoration Plan provides a framework for these projects and aims to restore, preserve and protect the water resources of Florida.
One such project is the Tamiami Trail Restoration Project, which entails raising the Tamiami Trail and creating a bridge, Capp said. The Tamiami Trail is a highway that connects Tampa and Miami and cuts through the Everglades.
"The Everglades should historically flow from Lake Okeechobee … into Everglades National Park, but that roadway really cuts off what the historic flow should be," Capp said. "So the plan for years has been to raise the road, to bridge portions of the Tamiami Trail so that water can flow underneath and we can bring back that more historic water flow pattern."
The water from the Everglades puts pressure on the Floridan aquifers, forcing water up into the wells and pumps, said Gary Matthews, an airboat pilot who already is seeing the effects of lowered water levels.
"Right now there is no water. My airboats have been sitting in a compound for six months," Matthews said.
"I'm out of business. I'm literally out of business because of what they have done to the Everglades."
All of South Florida is dependent on the Everglades. Whether they depend on the freshwater from the Everglades or as their primary source of income, losing the Everglades would have serious effects not only the Florida economy but also Florida as a whole.
"People should act before it's too late and they lose something so unique," Varry said.


Do you know what the federal poverty level is for a family of five living in the contiguous United States? There are actually two types of poverty measures, but I won't bore you with the nitty-gritty of it all. Let's just say it's between $24,744 and $24,800.
I live nowhere near the poverty level. [Not that it's a place, mind you. Sorry, inappropriate humor. Or attempt at humor.] I am eternally grateful that we have money to weather the many storms we've had to weather. I have faith that we will continue to weather those storms surely heading our way. Look, you can see them brewing on the horizon.
So why am I writing about poverty levels? Because I recently waded through all of the medical receipts over the past year. If I include what I anticipate we'll have coming down the pike over the next three weeks or so until the dawning of the new year, our medical expenses are right about the amount of money a family of five needs to bring in a year to be considered living in poverty.
Yeah, folks, we've spent nearly $25,000 on medical expenses. If that's not enough to make me cry myself to sleep, I don't know what is.
On the other hand, beside me in bed will be a husband who shows very few ill effects from his triple bypass in March, save for a much lighter wallet.
How on earth could the poverty level be that low? A family of 5?!
In other news, I saw your "I'm sick. I'm fine." tweet and I totally relate.
Looking at the slumbering peace of health definitely helps to ease the pain of the bills. That is what I tell myself when I look at my son and then think of the piles of bills on my desk. While there is no price on health, it sure does hurt your back with its weight. Good luck!
$25,000 for your husband to be sleeping soundly next to you? Totally worth it as you said. I'm so glad he is doing well!
Okay, but I am SO GLAD to hear that your hubs is doing well - happy holidays, indeed!
That does make one want to cry.
The peace of mind of having hubby sleep next to you is priceless. It is only money, after all.
how sad it is though to think that a family of five living above the poverty level wouldn't even be able to cover their own health care costs. do we eat or pay for bypass surgery? good night.
we are so lucky to have our loved ones cuddled around us.