Every couple goes through conflicts, and every couple argues. It's how you handle those conflicts together that makes the difference.
You can either let your disagreements define you and break you down as a couple, or you can use them to learn more about your relationship. As a you learn about your relationship, you can eventually cut back on the conflict.
When you learn how to be more constructive in your relationship, you can start to create more love. Once you're able to do that, you're less likely to tear yourself, your partner, and your relationship down.
Let's look at eight easy ways you can start cutting back on conflict right away so you can build more love with your partner.
Most of us know our own "warning signs" when it comes to anger. You might be irritated or hurt by something your partner does, but if you let it continue to build, that can lead to anger.
Instead of allowing yourself to get to that point, talk to you partner. Listen to your partner's view and ask your partner to listen to your view without thinking about a response. Sit with your partner's view and allow your partner to do the same. Avoid defending your view or pointing out how the other's view is faulty. Work out whatever issue might be causing you distress before it becomes a bigger deal than it needs to be. Really listening to and really hearing each other can help you to avoid an argument and get to the root of an issue before it even starts.
Many conflicts become worse simply because we use the wrong tone of voice. Yelling, or even talking loudly/aggressively/condescendingly can cause bigger issues when you're unhappy with your partner.
Make a commitment to speak in a soft and gentle voice when you're dealing with an issue. Some people go so far as to even whisper how they're feeling. The style you choose is up to you and choosing to speak softly can make a big difference.
Many conflicts in relationships occur because partners simply can't come to an agreement on an issue. That causes arguments to get dragged out for days, weeks, months, and even years!
John Gottman says that couples will have "perpetual problems" that do not have an immediate solution. The problem is not the issue. The "solution" to the issue/problem is to keep talking about it continuing the dialogue adding information as you both shift and change.
Sometimes, it's best to "agree to disagree." You're two different people, and it's important to recognize you won't always have the same opinions. While some things are worth fighting for, other times, it's best to drop it.
Compromise and negotiation aren't always easy in a relationship. Most of the time, we want there to be a "winner" when it comes to a conflict resolution. That isn't always the case. If you're not willing to let a problem go, but it's clear you're not getting anywhere by arguing, decide whether it is more important for you to win or for your relationship to win. If the relationship wins, the choice is to compromise.
Your compromise may not give you everything you want, but it won't give your partner everything they wanted either. Instead, it's a good way to meet in the middle so you can both feel content. As you start to realize that the results of the compromise are probably better than you assumed, you'll be willing to do it more often.
One of the best ways to cut back on conflict is to address any underlying issues you might have as a couple.
Are there things you've pushed under the rug for years? Are there arguments you keep having over and over? If so, it could be a sign of something deeper.
If you're holding a grudge or you have resentment toward your partner, you'll never fully be able to move forward in your relationship. Create more love by being open and honest about your issues. The more aware you are of those issues and the more willing you are to share and to listen, the easier it will be to resolve them and grow together.
Many couples will avoid talking to each other for a period of time as punishment when they're in the middle of a conflict. Almost nothing is more destructive than this.
Staying silent when emotions/tensions are high is dangerous. It allows your emotions to get even stronger and your anger to build. You may eventually say or do something you will later regret.
So, even when you don't want to talk to your partner, it's important to do it. When you talk to each other, even if feelings are hurt or you're upset, you're fostering more trust, strength, and love.
Forgiveness is difficult, especially if you've been hurt by your partner in the past. Still, forgiveness is a key component in cutting back on conflict and prioritizing your relationship. It also shows your partner that you love them enough to move past the hard times.
You should expect them to do the same for you if you're both committed to a more loving relationship.
Keep in mind that forgiveness is more than just saying the words. You must be able to let go of the way they hurt you in your heart in order to fully heal.
One of the best ways to cut back on conflict is actually to take better care of yourself. Develop stronger sleep habits, eat better, and exercise. When you're not taking care of your own mental, emotional, and physical health, it's much easier to feel stressed, overwhelmed, and anxious.
Unfortunately, the stress often comes out negatively in your relationship.
When you're feeling your best, inside and out, you can bring more to your relationship, and work harder on creating more love with your partner.
This is the title of the recently released movie about Mr. Rogers, Fred Rogers, and the half hour television show he hosted and created, Mister Roger's Neighborhood, which aired from 1963 to 2001.
As an ordained minister, he considered teaching children his ministry and believed that children had deep feelings. The message of his ministry was kindness, love and empathy as he spoke to the viewer about such issues as divorce, death, competition, war, assassination, racial tolerance and anger. His focus was to teach peaceful ways of dealing with feelings.
"won't you be my neighbor?" was an invitation to enter a safe harbor, to be connected to others where you'd be cared for, comforted, loved, and find healing and be able to offer the same to others when needed. There were many more important lessons he shared over the years; here are a few of my favorites.
"One of the greatest gifts you can give anyone is the gift of yourself." Giving yourself means being present with our loved ones. Presence is not about problem solving or logically addressing issues our partners bring to us. Our loved ones only need us to be present with them in their pain, worries and joy and just bear witness to it. Being present means giving them our undivided attention, being accessible, responding to them, engaging with them and being curious about their experiences/fears as they share from their perspective.
As an example, I recently wanted to support my cousin whose mother was in the final stages of Alzeheimer's Disease. There were no more treatments available and she appeared to be transitioning, so Hospice was called. Living 2000 miles from my cousin and not being able to physically assist in anyway, all I could offer her was my presence by listening attentively to her and to talk with her whenever she needed. We shared many conversations over the months leading up to her mother's death. Often those calls were initiated by me just to check in on her. She shared with another cousin, that our conversations had been such a support and comfort to her. The only gift I gave was my time and attention. In giving myself, she felt my support, care and love and was not alone in losing her mother.
"You always make each day a special day by . . . just being you/yourself." We all need to know that we are loved for who we are, not by what we do. I recently watched an episode of the "Midwives" series which took place in 1959 during a time when homosexuality was a crime. In this episode, a young, married, father-to-be frequents a club for gay men and is caught in a police sting operation, is charged and goes to trial. The episode showed how family, friends and community struggled to deal with the event as well as the father-to-be who struggled with great difficulty as those he loved demanded he change and struggled to accept who he was.
"There is no normal life that is free of pain. It's the very wrestling with our problems that can be the impetus for our growth." To love someone, means we are going to hurt them and they are going to hurt us. We experience pain in either case. Yet, through the pain, we learn about ourselves, those we love and more importantly, we grow.
"You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are." When we know who we are and what we value, choices become so much easier to make.
"Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now." To be loved when I fail or when I'm scared is what I need. To be comforted is so calming. We all long for our loved ones to accept us as we are.
"If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet, how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person." We may never know the impact of our smile, a kind word or a caring touch will have on others and yet these simple things may change a person's life forever.
We all long for love and the goal of our actions are directed toward getting the reassurance we need, to know we are loved.
So let us take in Mr. Roger's message of kindness, love and empathy and incorporate it into our daily lives today letting others know how special they are and how much we love them. We often carry these thoughts of love in our hearts and rarely share them. Saint Exupery, author of The Little Prince, said "And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." So, these thoughts of love, admiration, gratitude, and connection, reside invisibly in our hearts and need to be released by our giving them voice and sharing them with our loved ones. It is not honor, prizes, or gifts that nourish our souls; it is knowing we are loved. Let your loved ones hear the love in your heart.
To assist you in speaking from your heart to those you love, especially your spouse, partner, parent, child or friend, you may find the HEART Cards helpful. Find HEART Cards at https://www.holdmetightworkshop.com/the-heart-cards/ or The HEART Cards app on iPhone and Android. Try giving your loved ones one card a day and see the changes that occur as you heart is made known to them.
"Love is a mystery." Love is a many splendored thing." Apart from these sayings, poets, philosophers, psychologists, clergy and people in general, have through the centuries struggled to define and understand it.
Couples often say, "I don't know what is wrong with my relationship and I don't know how to fix it." In the past therapists have tried to help couples by teaching communication skills, conflict resolution and problem-solving skills. These techniques worked briefly for the couples. Unfortunately, couples fell back into their old patterned ways of interacting and decided the therapy didn't work for them and that their relationship was doomed.
Before you resign yourself to living separate lives or divorcing know that you do not have to settle for the status quo or for failure. Research has taught us how to help couples understand and strengthen their love. This research has shown us that behavioral patterns learned in childhood form a template for our adult relationships. There are evolutionary and biological imperatives for love and affections. Connections have measurable effects on our body, psyche and health. Studies have shown us how to assist and guide couples toward healthy and happier relationships.
Knowing how to help love relationship is important as a 2012 Pew survey showed 84% of people view marriage as an important life goal. An earlier Pew survey revealed most people see love as the basis of marriage. People agree with the finding of Robert Waldinger, a Harvard happiness researcher and leader of the 80-year-old Harvard Study of Adult Development, who has found the single ingredient in a good life with health and joy is a loving relationship.
In the 1950's the emerging science of attachment helped us understand the importance of the infant caregiver bond. As this science has matured, it has given a definitive map of love and how to optimize it – a guide to stronger and more supportive relationships.
In the 1980's Canadian psychologist Sue Johnson became aware of the powerful fears, needs and dilemmas couples faced and she sought ways to understand these struggles. Grounded in the new understandings of adult attachment, Sue and her colleagues worked to develop a method to help couples that was grounded in science. The result was the development of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)which now has over 30 years of scientific research supporting its effectiveness.
EFT recognizes the major tenant of attachment research that show "the love we feel from another person has an enormous effect on us, both physically and emotionally" (Sue Johnson). Studies over the years have confirmed this fact.
In 2006, James A. Coan, a neuroscientist at the University of Virginia School of Medicine, conducted an experiment on 16 married women whom he placed into a magnetic resonance imaging machine and subjected them to the threat of electrical shock during 3 different situations: holding their husband's hand, holding the hand of a male stranger and lying alone in the machine. The women were told that when they saw a large X on the screen they might receive a shock. Coan's study revealed that holding the husband's hand significantly reduced the activation of neural systems in the brain associated with emotional and behavioral threat responses. The hand holding also reduced the amount of pain the subjects reported from the shock. More interestingly, people who reported more supportive marriages based on a questionnaire, appeared to experience the most relief.
Physical health and strong relationships are connected. Attachment research suggests healthy relationships support healthy lives. Coan's study shows we are at ease with certain people. Therefore, cultivating those special relationships may help us better manage life's uncertainties.
Our relationships are part of our survival code. Secure attachment relationships provide a sense of safety, a sense that we are not alone and a way to maintain balance in the face of danger.
These connections with trusted loved one who are our resources shift our perception of danger, disaster and pain.
Emotional distance is the most common problem, faced by couples. For example, one partner tends to withdraw from the other resulting in creating emotional distance from the partner. In response, the action of withdrawing signals the threat of separation in the other, thus triggering protest and clinging behavior in the one who experienced a sense of abandonment. This reaction may trigger anger and desperation in the withdrawing partner driving the couple further and further apart. Each is only trying to cope with perceived threats.
While couples' disagreements often look simple to solve with logic on the surface, attachment theory tells us the fights are about disconnection. The threat of emotional isolation – abandonment – sparks reactive anger to get attention or a shutdown response to the feeling of never getting it right and a desire to block the pain. These meltdowns are about the pain of emotional disconnection, and couples' well intended though misguided and misunderstood attempts to reconnect have little to do with the conflict. Attachment science has shown that love is within our control when we understand how it operates.
In EFT, the first step is to help the couple see they are both caught in a repetitive cycle/dance about emotional distance and that their actions are triggering each other. It is these cycles that are to blame and that leave them feeling alone and lonely.
Next, EFT shows couples how to move in positive ways when they need their partner's support. Moving in positive ways builds positive experiences of secure connection. Couples learn to have bonding conversations where partners identify their attachment fears/needs and share them in soft ways that draw their partner closer. Partners often share fears of rejection; however, when these fears are openly shared in a positive manner, the partner receive the reassurance they've longed to have.
EFT research has shown that partners who take time to dive deeply into their emotional experience, disclose how they make sense of their partner's words and actions, and who soften their tendency to blame, show increased relationship satisfaction. Intimacy, vulnerability and having a forgiving viewpoint are the necessary ingredients.
With its strong evidence base and lasting positive effects, EFT has become the gold standard of couple's therapy and the only one to integrate attachment science.
In 2008, Sue Johnson developed Hold Me Tight® a two-day education program for couples. Research is beginning to come in on the effectiveness of the Hold Me Tight programs in increasing couples' relationship satisfaction with additional positive impact on the couple's family.
Did anyone ever instruct you on how to be a good listener? Chances are good that no one did, so you are left to figure it out on your own. Most of us are poor listeners at least some of the time.
Being a bad listener can cause us to miss important information being shared or keep us from knowing and understanding friends and family at a deeper level (the level of true connection); at times, our bad listening annoys others.
If you'd like to be a better listener, it's like anything else you want to do better on, you have to first become aware and then focus on taking specific steps that will lead to better listening or other behaviors.
Many of us have the habit of leaping ahead where we think the other person is going while they are still talking to us. Sometimes we get it right; however, none of us is a mind reader and more often we draw the wrong conclusion and, in the process, miss important, helpful details.
For example, after agreeing earlier to a dinner date and place with your partner, he/she starts talking negatively about the restaurant or the food. You jump ahead and assume that your partner does not want to spend the evening with you and you have not heard that your partner prefers a different kind of food that evening and wants to change the restaurant venue. You've heard the saying, "it's not all about you"? The saying often fits when we take other's comments personally.
Another negative listening habit is to tune out to what the speaker is saying thinking it's the same old conversation again. When we tune out, again, we miss potential new information that could be helpful.
As an example, your partner begins talking about the logistics of the carpool schedule and that you are needed to pick up your son from soccer practice on Friday. Friday evening comes and you arrive home without your son. Oops!
Sometimes we tune out because we've heard something offensive or that stings us on an emotional level. When we're upset, parts of our brain shut down and we block out what's being said because on some level we perceive danger.
For example, you and your partner have had an argument and you're still talking to him when he suddenly gets up and says, "I cannot do this anymore and I need some space", storms off and goes to his computer. You never really heard the boundary he set, all you saw was him leaving which stung you on an emotional level.
One of the biggest negative habits is planning what you are going to say while someone is still talking. Again, if you do this you are likely to miss important information and your reply might be off the mark because you missed nuances of the conversation.
Sometimes we are listening, but not deeply enough. We hear the spoken word and miss the body language, often the most important part of the message. When we listen deeply, we listen to the whole message – what the mouth, body and tone are all saying. Paying attention to body language and to tone fills out the message being sent. Deep listening requires presence and your full, undivided attention to the other without being distracted by your thoughts. It is listening with compassion, empathy and patience.
Some readers might say why bother. There are some awesome benefits to being a better listener. For starters, you'll feel more connected to loved ones, friends and co-workers and they will have greater respect for you.
You cannot simply show up for a conversation; you have to be fully present which means that your mind is fully engaged in what the other person is discussing. Being fully engaged means that you might ask questions of the speaker to learn more, and that you are paying attention to the speaker's tone and body language. You are fully focused on the other person.
As you listen, you may find your mind beginning to wander. It happens to us all. When you are focused on creating change, your awareness is heightened, and you begin to catch your mind wondering. It probably wandered before; however, you didn't pay any attention. This time your wandering mind comes into your awareness and you are mindful. The next step is to prioritize the person who is speaking and refocus on them (words, tone and body language). Just notice the wandering and let it go returning your focus to engaged listening.
Your partner will notice it when you are physically and mentally present during your conversations and will really appreciate you for it. The relationship will be stronger and you will understand each other better because you are listening to the whole conversation, not just the words. Listening in this way communicates to your partner that you really care about him/her and that he/she matters to you. Engaged listening builds trust in you. Conversations generally become deeper, more honest and fuller.
So, the next time your partner starts talking to you, stop what you are doing and fully engage in listening to him or her. If you are unable to stop at that moment, let your partner know you are really interested in what they have to say and that you need 5 minutes to finish what you are doing so that you can give him/her your undivided attention.
Try it and enjoy the rewards!


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Mater Dei, Forest Park advance to Class 2A sectional semifinal
Mater Dei showed why it is a sectional contender, while Forest Park looked to a freshman to survive and advance.
Mater Dei, Forest Park advance to Class 2A sectional semifinal Mater Dei showed why it is a sectional contender, while Forest Park looked to a freshman to survive and advance. Check out this story on courierpress.com: https://www.courierpress.com/story/sports/high-school/2019/02/27/mater-dei-forest-park-advance-class-2-a-sectional-semifinal/3004835002/
Kyle Sokeland, Evansville Courier & Press Published 9:15 p.m. CT Feb. 27, 2019 | Updated 9:55 a.m. CT Feb. 28, 2019
Mater Dei's Zach Schoenstein (30) drives to the the baskjet as the Mater Dei Wildcats play the Castle Knights in Paradise Tuesday, January 22, 2019. (Photo: MIKE LAWRENCE / COURIER & PRESS, Mike Lawrence)
HUNTINGBURG, Ind. -- There is a reason the Class 2A sectional field should fear Mater Dei.
The Wildcats can beat you in different ways. One night, it might be their expanding rotation of three-point shooters. On other, it will be a strong front court bullying opponents on the block.
Mater Dei gave little reason to cast doubt on Wednesday night with a 72-40 victory over South Spencer in the first round of the sectional. The Wildcats shot 59 percent from the field.
"I thought the guys looked pretty good," said Mater Dei coach Kurt Wildeman. "Early on, we were playing with defense. We got some rebounds and pushed the ball up the floor. It was nice to see the ball go in the basket on the first night."
So how did the Wildcats choose to do it against the Rebels? A little bit of everything.
Mater Dei went 8 of 12 from the field in the first quarter to open with a double digit lead. Zach Schoenstein had 10 points in the first half and pushed the advantage to 29-11 with a three-point play.
South Spencer, paced by 19 points from sophomore guard Jace Kelly, kept close the rest of the half. The Rebels got within eight early in the third to give a brief scare.
This isn't the same Mater Dei team that whittled under pressure in the sectional last season. The Wildcats streaked ahead 56-34 to end the third quarter and started subbing out starters midway through the fourth.
"I thought (the game) was great," said Schoenstein. "We kept (the ball) uptempo. This sectional is always going to be tough. We need to get pushing the ball. We get out and run. That's our strength."
Logan Carter paced Mater Dei (16-7) with 19 points and five rebounds. The 6-foot-10 center scored 11 in the second half after it appeared South Spencer would make a run.
Schoenstein (15 points) and Sam Geobel (12) both hit a trio of threes. Mater Dei played sound defense to slow down everybody but Kelly. The South Spencer point guard had 25 points but not much help.
Mater Dei isn't settling, either. The sectional could be there for the taking but the field is strong. Tell City (18-5) got the bye and faces North Posey (8-16) on Friday. The Wildcats now get a tough Forest Park (15-9) club in the semifinal.
"We always pride ourselves on our schedule," said Wildeman. "You get battled tested and there is good basketball in Evansville. We took some tough losses...I'd like to think we got better. I'm hoping we can keep it going. It only gets tougher."
FOREST PARK 54, PERRY CENTRAL 50
Take a bow, Drew Howard.
Forest Park freshman Drew Howard (Photo: Kyle Sokeland)
Picture this scenario if you are Forest Park: Down seven going into the fourth quarter and on the brink of a one-and-done appearance in the sectional. Do you count on a freshman to lead you to glory?
That is exactly what Howard did in the sectional opener against Perry Central. The point guard hit six three-pointers -- four in the fourth quarter -- to keep the Rangers alive with a 54-50 victory.
"I kept shooting and making them," Howard said with a smile. "The first one got me into it. (Seeing it go in) just pumps me up. I got confident."
Forest Park appeared in control for a long time on Wednesday night. But a 25-21 halftime evaporated quickly in the third quarter. Patrick Mitchell buried three treys and Perry Central got hot to take a 40-33 lead.
The plan was to work inside through sophomore Curt Hopf. He was bottled up with two or even three defenders. Enter Howard, the kid who technically was not on varsity to begin the season.
The freshman tied it at 42 with a bomb from the left corner. He later gave the Rangers the lead and padded it with another 3-pointer from the right wing to make it 50-44.
"That was a big-time performance," said Forest Park coach David Welp. "He has worked all winter for that. We knew he was capable of being a phenomenal athlete. He just worked his way in and has grown each game. His maturity level as a freshman is phenomenal."
It was a career night on the biggest stage of his young career. Howard torched the Commodores for 20 points, while Hopf added 17.
You better believe the kid had nerves starting in his first sectional game in front of a raucous crowd.
"I was (nervous) on those first couple of threes," said Howard. "This brings us confidence going into Friday. We played Mater Dei and they beat us pretty bad. Now that we have the first game out of the way, we are pretty confident now."
Mitchell led Perry Central with 15 points, while Tate Mullis added 13.
Follow Courier & Press sports reporter Kyle Sokeland on Twitter @kylesokeland.
Boys basketball sectionals
All times Central
North Sectional
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Central 64, Castle 62
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Jasper 54, Harrison 48
Friday, March 1: Reitz (11-11) vs. Central (10-13), 5:30 p.m.
Friday, March 1: North (5-17) vs. Jasper (14-9), 7 p.m.
Saturday, March 2: Championship, 7 p.m.
Washington Sectional
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Washington 75, Pike Central 36
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Southridge 49, Sullivan 44
Friday, March 1: Vincennes Lincoln (10-13) vs. Washington (15-8), 5 p.m.
Friday, March 1: Princeton (18-5) vs. Southridge (19-5), 6:30 p.m.
Saturday, March 2: Championship, 6:30 p.m.
Boonville Sectional
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Bosse 66, Heritage Hills 62
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Gibson Southern 62, Boonville 53
Friday, March 1: Memorial (14-9) vs. Bosse (17-7), 6 p.m.
Friday, March 1: Mount Vernon (2-22) vs. Gibson Southern (6-17), 7:30 p.m.
North Daviess Sectional
Tuesday, Feb. 26: North Daviess 47, Eastern Green 37
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Linton-Stockton 83, Mitchell 35
Friday, March 1: South Knox (17-6) vs. North Daviess (18-6), 5 p.m.
Friday, March 1: North Knox (3-19) vs. Linton Stockton (22-3), 6:30 p.m.
Forest Park Sectional (at Southridge)
Tuesday, Feb. 26: North Posey 55, Tecumseh 50 (OT)
Wednesday, Feb. 27: Mater Dei 72, South Spencer 40
Wednesday, Feb. 27: Forest Park 54, Perry Central 50
Friday, March 1: Tell City (18-5) vs. North Posey (8-16), 5:30 p.m.
Friday, March 1: Mater Dei (16-7) vs. Forest Park (15-9), 7 p.m.
Loogootee Sectional
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Vincennes Rivet 52, Loogootee 42
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Shoals 53, Orleans 34
Friday, March 1: Barr-Reeve (21-2) vs. Vincennes Rivet (14-10), 5 p.m.
Friday, March 1: Washington Catholic (4-18) vs. Shoals (16-8), 6:30 p.m.
Wood Memorial Sectional
Tuesday, Feb. 26: Northeast Dubois 76, Cannelton 48
Friday, March 1: Wood Memorial (8-15) vs. Springs Valley (17-6), 5:30 p.m.
Friday, March 1: Day School (9-11) vs. Northeast Dubois (10-13), 7 p.m.

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The School Calendar for next year, 2014 – 2015 has just been added to our website. Here's a quick link: School Calendar 2014 – 2015. It's also available on our Calendar Page and Parents Page.
Also please note that the school will be closed on Friday, May 23rd to facilitate voting for the local and European elections.
Well done to Mr. Kennedy & Mrs. Canning for all their hard work also!


Do you understand the total cost of printing in your organization? Do you have the experience and knowledge to control your print spending? Don't panic, most companies don't have these skills or knowledge. The average employee costs a business $520 per year in printing, so if you have 100 employees, that's $5,200 per year in printing alone. Now add in the cost to support those printers, network drops, helpdesk calls, supply storage space, electricity and maintenance costs. Also consider the time your employees spend trying to keep supplies in stock or not having them in stock – all of this is expensive and hard to track. According to the Gartner Group, on average, 351 items contribute to the total cost of your printing. How can a business that specializes in XYZ track all of those costs? These factors are driving the industry of managed print services (MPS). Companies are popping up all over the country claiming to offer some level of MPS. Some will come in and stock your toner closet for you, some will maintain the printers themselves and some will remotely monitor them and dispatch a technician before you even knew the printer was down. There are many options available these days, which is why you need to understand what is available to you before signing up for a fleet management program.
First, know what you are looking for. Do you want someone to walk in and take over? Make sure they have the promised capabilities. Ask for references or a trial period and make sure there is an out clause for non-performance. This is the most commonly offered platform. The company will come into your organization and offer fleet optimization services. This service consists of loading a device monitor on your network (make sure you ask for the security whitepaper or equivalent information). Next, they will spend 30 days or less monitoring the devices on your network to determine what your current total cost of ownership is. Be prepared to provide supply invoices and other relevant documentation to validate the information they gather. Then a current cost will be presented and agreed upon. At this time the company should be prepared to offer you several options.
Don't be afraid to ask questions and challenge the plan this has to be your optimal state so make sure your employees' needs will be met.


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By Rod Dreher • February 23, 2013, 10:52 AM
A great comment from a reader, reflecting on changing norms and same-sex marriage:
I think you're missing another fundamental divide, which may also have a generational component: between people who think in terms of "cultural grand strategies" and people who don't.
Religions are grand strategies, attempts to explain the universe and human life and then deliver a program — a coherent set of ethical rules and social arrangements that will put the culture right with God (or, in accord with cosmic values and principles, or however you want to put this).
Most people do not think strategically. They have personal goals for themselves and their families, but even these are makeshift and to large degrees made up "on the fly." Day to day, people are staggering along, navigating the circumstances they find themselves in as best they can. Very few people take a big, strategic view of "the culture" and how it should be functioning. As you say, to them it's like a river: a natural, undirected feature of the landscape, just flowing wherever it flows.
For a long time, people got their cultural grand strategies "off the shelf" from their religious traditions. They may not have thought through their own answers to the big questions, but they adhered to some big group whose leaders and theorists (= theologians) worked out those answers on their behalf while ordinary people went about their daily lives. The plain folk would attend church for various reasons, but partly to get a weekly briefing or update, brought down from Central H.Q., on what the shared strategy had to offer them and what they should currently be doing to execute it.
There is obviously still an appetite out there, if not for grand strategy, at least for tactical guidance — hence Dr. Phil and the whole self-help industry. But increasingly, I think, people don't understand why you would need any grand strategy, any big, cohesive, overarching Theory of Everything in human existence. And if you did have one, it's not clear why it would be that of traditional Christian churches. The conservative arguments against SSM fall on deaf ears because they draw from religious worldviews that, especially to young people, seem about as relevant to contemporary life as the war plans of the Austro-Hungarian Empire. If those plans made any sense, it was within the framework of Austro-Hungarian politics, an enterprise that no longer exists. Perhaps we can still study the old plans in hopes of gleaning lessons applicable to the present, but that's a scholarly endeavor; it doesn't bring the empire back.
Opponents of SSM sound to many people, I think, as if that's exactly what they're trying to do, as if they're arguing that we'd be better off if we still lived the way people lived under Emperor Franz Joseph and continued somehow to follow the strategies of that time. And maybe in a few ways we would. Maybe people were more courtly then, or something. But that old system had horrible problems, and so did the old religions and the societies the shaped. That's why they lost their hegemony. Some of the more moderate traditionalists of today grant that things had to change, but see traditional marriage as a baby that was thrown out with the bathwater. Most people just see it as bathwater.
What the debate of the last 15 years exposed is that there really were no very compelling arguments for it that could hold up independently, absent the broader strategies that the old religions provided.
I agree with much of this. As I've blogged here before, it's impossible to separate the same-sex marriage cause from deeper and broader trends in our culture and civilization, especially over the last century. The reader brought up the Austro-Hungarian Empire, which of course calls to mind the impossible-to-overestimate effect of World War I in dealing the death blow to the Western tradition. The book to read is Paul Fussell's The Great War And Modern Memory. It's literary criticism, but so much more than that. By examining the British literature that emerged from the trenches, Fussell more or less traces the suicide of Western civilization. Excerpt:
Furthermore, the Great War was perhaps the last to be conceived as taking place within a seamless, purposeful "history" involving a coherent stream of time running from past through present to future. The shrewd recruiting poster depicting a worried father of the future being asked by his children, "Daddy, what did you do in the Great War?" assumes a future whose moral and social pressures are identical with those of the past. Today, when each day's experience seems notably ad hoc, no such appeal would shame the most stupid to the recruiting office. But the Great War took place in what was, compared with ours, a static world, where the values appears stable and where the meaning of abstractions seemed permanent and reliable. Everyone knew what Glory was, and what Honor meant. It was not until eleven years after the war that Hemingway could declare in A Farewell to Arms that "abstract words such as glory, honor, courage, or hallow were obscene beside the concrete names of villages, the numbers of roads, the names of rivers, the numbers of regiments and the dates." In the summer of 1914 no one would have understood what on earth he was talking about.
Fussell's main point:
I am saying that there seems to be one dominating form of modern understanding; that it is essentially ironic; and that it originates largely in the application of mind and memory to the events of the Great War.
Ironic detachment from all absolutes as a basic stance towards reality. That is our condition. That is everyone's condition, to one degree or another.
It is useless to speculate counterfactually on what would have happened to our culture and civilization absent the two Great Wars of the 20th century, but it's probably safe to assume that the disenchantment of the West — its unchristening, as C.S. Lewis said — would have continued, though perhaps it would not be so far along, or would have taken some other, gentler path. It's impossible to know. The point is, however, that an entire world, and worldview, died in the Great Wars, though it took time for this effect to be absorbed by European and North American culture. This is a big story, of course, but I think it worth mentioning as an addendum to the reader's observations.
I've mentioned here recently the work of cultural analysis by Philip Rieff and Charles Taylor, explaining how radical individualism, which entails sexual "liberation," came to be the dominant culture-making force in the West. The reader above is right to point out that most people don't make their way through life with a theory in mind. They just go with the flow (to make clichéd use of the river metaphor), and depended on implicit authority to keep them more or less in the middle of the channel. But various forces in our culture — economic, religious, sexual, political, and so forth — have worked to make the individual and his desires the locus of authority, and this has profound consequences. Most of this is obvious, but I think one force that is underappreciated in this regard is the accelerating velocity of our culture, which greatly exacerbates the sense we all live with of being disconnected from history and the past. Nowadays, the past isn't even seen as the thing we react against; it isn't seen, or felt, at all.
This, I think, is why so many young Americans simply don't understand why anybody would be against SSM. They can't imagine a time when marriage was thought to be something more than the temporal, contractual expression of romantic love. I'm reminded of European friends of mine who regard my religious beliefs not with hostility, but with bemused curiosity. Their parents rebelled against religion. For my friends, though, there was no sense of inner tension about religion. Religion was something that belonged to another world. It's an eccentric hobby, but certainly not a challenge or a threat. The world made by Christianity has passed, and they know it. We in the United States don't really understand this, but it's emerging here too, though a superficial religiosity is veiling this from us.
Twice in the past few weeks, I've heard people who identify as Christians say, in all sincerity, that they didn't see why anybody needs to go to church, that they can "find God" on their own. I hear some version of that a good bit. With that comes an entire worldview. It's the complete liberation of the individual from any authority other than his or her own conscience and judgment. Outside an authoritative interpretive community in which one anchors one's own understanding, the search for God really becomes a search for oneself, and the deification of one's own attitudes and desires. It becomes Moralistic Therapeutic Deism, which is the true American religion. The point is, the churches, as carriers of Christian tradition, have little or no authority within this culture, because people won't accept it. The past is only worthwhile insofar as it is useful to the present.
This seems like freedom to most people. It's really a different kind of servitude, of bondage, as we can already see now, and will continue to see unfolding over the next decades. As a Christian friend told me recently, the problem with us traditionalists is we're fighting this battle moralistically, when we should be fighting it cosmologically.
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EliteCommInc. says:
But again, noting I learned as a catholic hindered my moral under pinnings. They remain to this day. Which again bodes well for the grand strategy of a life the Church — depite my own choice of bitterness — I cannot ready point to the Church as having failed — people lie and they do so in many instances with much conscious — at my age, I cannot challenge the grand narrative of the Church, having been exposed to failings of both lay people and clergy.
The duality you set up here between people who see marriage as a wholly personal romantic contract and those who see it as a sacred trust between G-d and Man are not the only choices – and they leave out a truly essential and fundamental portion of the picture.
Also left out is what modern anthropology considers the significant feature/function of marriage throughout history: the merger of two families. Shifting them from competing with each other or indifference to supporting and cooperating with each other's members.
I think the point is that secularism is far less able to resist Islam than Christianity is.
Moderns can and do assimilate Islamic peoples. It's not Christianity moderating and diffusing Islam in the Balkans or parts of Turkish society or in emigree communities.
Christianity has only been able to oppose Islam (commonly with poor success long term), kill its adherents (how Christian), or make cynical alliances with it against third parties (as Benedict sought to do).
if one notes the dramatic events between Moslems and Christianity, but the strict behaviorial practices as well as the all consuming bent of Islam makes it an unlikely compatible strategy.
A practical example, among Christians while they may not appreciate attacks and name calling against Christ, they do not attempt to issue laws banning such slander. I remember the hoopla as to Maplethorpe's rendering of Christ on the cross. While Christians expresssed displeasure, there were measures in congress designed to protect ot honor Christ. There were issues as to whether tax dollars should be spent for such purposes as said tax dollars were being paid even by Christians. But in the end, it passed. Among Moslems, the reverence of Mohaamed is such that if I do not say te honorable Mohaamed, and a Mulism is present it never fails that there are attempts to correct me. And that modlity will not sit well in secular societies, who value free speech or expression. In a democratic society such as exists in the US, this will not due.
So the contention that secular societies are better able to assimilate Muslims, only those who seek to assimilate to that society, with no intent of transform, by their particular method of force, even when subtle. Here the Muslim faith and practice is crashing into strong opposition in Europe. And the evidence is that it will only get worse. Noy long ago an article was posted on Americans Conservative by a British Author, describing just this behavior, not as anomaly, but as growing practice. Now there is a portion of the secular community that will acquiess to these practices for the sake of peace, but by and large the western secularism will not respond kindly to such behavior. Muslim in theory and what is being experienced by in practice among secular communities strongly suggests accommodation will not practical.
If the youth of today think they are headed for a clash as to Christian thought and practice. They are in for a shock as it pertains to Muslims.
Which is exactly why I think it is losing game to argue soley on a spiritual plane on the matter. For the argument to have any weight the people in discussion must have similar belief systems and God oriented discussions ultimately rest on God's authority.
I prefer to tackle the matter from what my opposition they claim is valid: science — well, that's biology, and what the body is designed to do. That is the natural mode. Under such conditions, such behavior is not normal . . .
That is why for even civil unions is a stretch . . . and a big one. Marriage which reflects a natural dynamic, is collapsed into something abnormal — and that makes no sense.
J, that is a curious comment. Muslims are not being diffused anywhere. At least not that I am aware of. The Russians and the Chechnyans have not settled their issues by a long shot. Norway, Denmark, the UK, Germany, France, Italy are finding the Muslim faith and practice quite unweildy.
MH - Secular Misanthropist says:
Secularism doesn't have much to fear from Islam as its days as a growth religion are drawing to a close. Its growth was largely fueled by high birth rates which have fallen in recent years like birth rates everywhere else. In spite of all the Eurabia nonsense they're a tiny part of the population there.
Devinicus says:
Rod, why is nationalism not a "cultural grand strategy"? That didn't die in the trenches of WWI, did it? Perhaps it did die in Europe in the fires of WWII (although the European debt crisis is resurrecting old ghosts), but it didn't die anywhere else.
Consider the argument of William T. Cavanaugh in his 2011 collection of essays "Migrations of the Holy". Americans still believe in transcendence and the holy — it's in the nation and the (idealized) state. The cult of the military survives every rape scandal you can throw at it. The flag remains our holiest object. Monuments to our national saints, Patriarchs and martyrs are everywhere. National holy days mark the passage of time, from MLK Day to Memorial Day to Fourth of July to Veterans Day to Thanksgiving and back again.
Americans still believe in metanarratives, too — Progress, Liberty, Freedom, Democracy. The masses certainly order their everyday lives around these themes. Our religion is America and always has been.
Oh, and the grandest of all "grand cultural strategies" — Human Rights. We don't know where they come from, we don't know why they are, we sometimes don't even believe in the same ones tomorrow that we believed in yesterday, but we desperately believe in them and the more the better. And if Human Rights is not a religious belief, I don't know what is.
Peter H says:
Late to the party, but it seems to me that someone around here objects to Germany's insistence that children get their schooling "off the shelf."
That would certainly be news to all the women who have gotten AIDS from infected boyfriends and husbands, including in some cases husbands the wife has been absolutely faithful to.
There's very few of these. Heterosexually spread AIDS is extremely rare in the West.
Sean Scallon says:
"It was not until eleven years after the war that Hemingway could declare in A Farewell to Arms that "abstract words such as glory, honor, courage, or hallow were obscene beside the concrete names of villages, the numbers of roads, the names of rivers, the numbers of regiments and the dates." In the summer of 1914 no one would have understood what on earth he was talking about."
That's because in an age of the machine gun and mass conscripted armies, it was hard for heroics to find a place for itself in war. That's why World War I vet were so disillusioned/ Not that there weren't men who did brave deeds on the battlefield, there were many on all sides. But their deeds get swallowed up given the sheer scale of conflict and technology as well. Today we give medals for people who go to war from their joysticks and computer screens. Look at it this way – C.S Lewis and J.R.R Tolkien wrote about knights and honor and chivalry and deeds of great warriors and kings. They didn't write about machine guns and airplanes dropping bombs on civilians. In their view, Modor's mass army of orcs and Isengard's blast furnaces represented modern civilization. The Shire or Narnia, heaven.
Modernization and the attitudes sprung from is largely the result largely of machinery and technology. There's no way you can put the genie back in the bottle. Long-range artillery pretty much swept away cavalry from the battlefield just as the pill swept away attitudes about sexuality for the mass population. The internet, the same thing. Perhaps the Luddites were more aware of the future than we give them credit for.
KSW says:
Neildsmith wrote: "Some of us, believe it or not, have the coping skills required to manage our lives in both good times and bad. You have them too. And those skills don't require belief in some supernatural being."
And Glaivester responded: "Maybe not everyone has the skills to do so without belief in a supernatural being."
Kind of like Dumbo and his magic feather.
M_Young says:
"If you think homosexuality is bad because it has historically involved promiscuity, how can you logically oppose the creation of legal and moral structures that tend to encourage monogamous, faithful homosexual relationships?"
Historically, and currently. Now that HIV has been treatable (at great cost), the indicators of male homosexual promiscuity are going back up, for example, the incidence of syphilis among that population.
As for monogamy … I very much doubt that homosexual marriage will push us gay men in that direction.
Hoff and colleagues surveyed 566 gay male couples in the San Francisco Bay Area and found that 99 percent had sexual agreements. Specifically, 45 percent had monogamous agreements, 47 percent had open agreements and 8 percent of couples had discrepant agreements where partners reported a different understanding of whether they have an open or monogamous agreement.
Homosexual activists Andrew Sullivan and Dan Savage have promoted non-monogamous marriage. Among gay males, marriage will be a very different thing than it is currently for the overwhelming number of heterosexual couples. And indeed their example, and their preaching to us, they may even increase the number of so-called 'open' marriages among heterosexuals. But maybe that wouldn't be a bad idea — from the perspective of social liberals.
This post makes me think, in response to your other recent post quoting a democratic pollster, "what use is there in the word, 'conservative', now?"
In a world like the one described here – which description I think is accurate – what is there worth conserving? Is anything worth conserving not now counter-cultural or a minority worldview?
Perhaps we are entering an era in which the 'conservative' thing to do is to rebel.
Considering next year is the 1 Century Anniversay of 'The Great War', every great writer should ponder this in terms of historical significance. (It is true that 'The Great War' also turned out to be the worst war in history in every aspect.) Pat Buchanan stated that Europe after two enormous wars, would decide screw it and go La Dolce Vita. Simply put why not as for years nationalism and religion were put together, Onward Christian Soldier being an obvious reference, everybody starting moving away from it.
Also, I guess everytime I complain about the Euro train wreck (going on 4 years now so it will last longer than WW1 and has two more years on WW2), I have to remember that in the past centuries, the nations would have sent troops.
This is off topic, but I'd just like to point out that not everybody was disillusioned by the Great War. Some found it quite invigorating, believe it or not. Here's wikipedia's entry on Ernst Junger's memoir, Storm of Steel:
Although the book does not gloss over the deaths of many, the most intensely emotional passages are reserved for enthusiastic fighting and for placid moments. The book has consequently been criticised for glorifying war, especially when compared to Remarque's All Quiet on the Western Front. However Jünger was a combat soldier, who saw extensive front-line service. Remarque did not, and All Quiet on the Western Front is a work of fiction, not a memoir (Remarque was actually a sapper for only a few weeks near the front line).
In the preface to the 1929 English edition, Jünger stated that "Time only strengthens my conviction that it was a good and strenuous life, and that the war, for all its destructiveness, was an incomparable schooling of the heart.."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Storm_of_Steel
Junger maintained this attitude despite being shot five times during the course of the war, and his book sold over a million copies, which seems odd, given that the war was a disaster for Germany, and the fighting ended when it did in large part because the German people were on the verge of popular revolt against the war. Germans back then were just a militartistic people, I suppose.
Bruce Ross says:
Thomas Sowell's new column said (thanks to a tangent) what I'd meant to:
"Think about the First World War, from which nations on both sides ended up worse off than before, after an unprecedented carnage that killed substantial fractions of whole younger generations and left millions starving amid the rubble of war."
That kind of experience'll leave you questioning your values. If "Western civilization" leads there, maybe suicide was the sensible reaction.
Fran Macadam says:
One thing that should be clear, from the state of our society, is that homosexuals should not be particularly scapegoated. The entire swathe of society is complicit similarly, in many other areas.
Martin Luther King's non-violent resistance to evil, in the matter of civil rights, wasn't just to secure equal rights to do evil by everyone, but to effect moral transformation of the society. This is why his opposition to war, militarism and the burgeoning U.S. military-industrial-congressional complex (called evil as well as it threatened to overtake society's purposes by Ike) was an essential component – personified to his insistence that the war in Viet Nam was wholly immoral on our part.
Integration of African-Americans (or for that matter, the celebration of homosexuality) in the military was not his cause. What good is it to consider that the moral end point sought is to make committing evil an equal-opportunity or compulsory activity?
Is it moral progress to have an open homosexual, an African-American and an anglo joking about "bug-splat" together on recliners in Las Vegas, receiving medals for joystick push-button assassinations half a world away?
wycoff says:
Wycoff says: "If the West has, then why hasn't the East? What about the crimes and brutality of the Mongols, the Mongols, the Imperial Japanese, the Turks, the Chinese, and the myriad others? I don't understand why those in the West are so quick to declare themselves the inheritors of evil. Is it simply ignorance of the rest of the world, a tunnel vision shaped by white guilt?"
The topic of this thread was the way that the Great Wars led to the loss of traditional values in the West, or at least hastened their demise. You would have a point if the topic was either (a) a general discussion of human depravity or (b) specific to the way that China is still reeling from the Cultural Revolution or that Rwanda and Cambodia have yet to recover from their respective genocides.
As horrible as the Rwandan genocide was (and yes, I do teach it in class), it caused a crisis for African intellectuals rather than American ones. There are brilliant, pained books on Rwanda by African intellectuals that reflect an anguish that is strikingly similar to the anguish felt by European intellectuals struggling with the legacy of Nazism or American intellectuals struggling with the legacy of slavery and segregation. I have yet to find a moment in Rod's blog where these books are directly relevant to the topic at hand.
Everyone on THIS thread seemed to agree that WWI did lead young Americans to scoff at honor. My point is to agree and add that the complicity of specific ideas and institutions in the Nazi genocide further hastened the process of weakening the authority of traditional ideas and institutions.
Should colleges not teach courses on the Holocaust? Should those courses refuse to discuss ideas that were embraced by the Nazis and the institutions that greased the way for his rise to power or that participated in the genocide? All because there have been plenty of other horrors down through human history, and to dwell on these questions must arise out of white guilt?"
Shawn-
I think that you missed my point. You and other commentors to this article such as Bruce Ross have suggested that the atrocities committed in Western Civilization arguably delegitimize it or justify its demise. I think that that's an untenable position, and that's the type of narrow thinking and navel gazing to which I was objecting.
There are atrocities in the past of all human cultures. Regardless, I don't think that I've ever encountered arguments from other cultures that their brutal pasts somehow delegitimize their cultures. It's only Westerners that do this. I reject this outlook entirely. I'm not saying that we should ignore the past or its lessons. I'm simply saying that the crimes of the past no more delegitimizes Western Civilization than they do Eastern Civilization, Islamic Civilization, etc.
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A: It looks like you need to move the print statement for "Number not Found" outside of your for loops.  Like this:
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if (!found) {
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The way you have it now, it is always going to either print Found or Not Found, for every item.  But if you only want it to print once at the end, you'll need to have some sort of flag to determine if it was found, and if not, then print.

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And the results? Well, they speak for themselves.
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Rookie quarterback Will Grier threw to McCaffrey 15 times in his first career start against the Colts last week. McCaffrey caught all 15 for 119 yards.
With history in the offing, Bank of America Stadium will celebrate every pass that goes McCaffrey's direction on Sunday versus the Saints.
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Studies have shown that higher fat deposits in the body are found in people who have major depression. But is eating fat the reason of depression? Or is it moving and exercising less? (We know that movement manufactures endomorphins – happiness molecules) Or is it that anti-depressants increase weight? (A well-known and lamentable fact).
Eating good fats – even in higher amounts – does not necessarily make you fat. Fat increases satiety, and fat seems to make people happier. At least, some people – and I am definitely among them. As a child, I would arm myself with a spoon and raid the pantry, eating butter as if it was a pudding or ice cream. As it was after World War II in Europe, and food was scarce, my family was not happy! Today, sitting in a Vienna park, I was drinking a coffee with whipped cream, I was happy. Of course, sitting in a park on a sunny day might be reason alone to feel good, but the non-sweetened whipped cream clearly added to my happiness.
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Below are upcoming Art at the Farm events happening in Brookland and the surrounding area. You can add your own events here.
Red Door's first exhibition of 2019 presents a collaboration of artwork and ceramics made by artists attending Art at the Farm, a life skill training service operated by Canterbury Oast Trust.
Canterbury Oast Trust is a leading local charity offering accommodation and Life Skills opportunities to adults with a learning disability. Art at the Farm is a Life Skill offering individuals the opportunity to access art and craft sessions and learn techniques such as ceramics, mixed media, textiles, felting, lino and mono printing. With an experimental ethos, supported by tutors who are artists in their own right, we aim to empower individuals to have a go and see what they can achieve, whilst building their confidence and independence.