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397: My Future vs. My Special Needs Sister | Feedback Friday
You've been helping your single mom care for your special needs sister for 19 years, but you're 24 now and need to set out on your own life. How do you cope with the guilt you're feeling for putting your needs first for perhaps the first time, ever? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!
You've been helping your single mom care for your special needs sister for 19 years, but you're 24 now and need to set out on your own life. How do you cope with the guilt you're feeling for putting your needs first for perhaps the first time, ever?
As a skillful, reliable contractor who has worked on an as-needed basis with several companies for six years, how do you ask for a raise without making it seem like an ultimatum?
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Transcript for My Future vs. My Special Needs Sister | Feedback Friday (Episode 397)
Jordan Harbinger: [00:00:00] Welcome to Feedback Friday. I'm your host Jordan Harbinger. Today, as always here with Gabriel Mizrahi, on The Jordan Harbinger Show, we decode the stories, secrets, and skills of the world's most brilliant people and turn their wisdom into practical advice that you can use to impact your own life and those around you. We want to help you see the Matrix when it comes to how these amazing people think and behave. And our mission is to help you become a better informed, more critical thinker. So you can get a much deeper understanding of how the world works and make sense of what's really happening, sometimes even inside of your own mind, as we see often here on Friday.
[00:00:35] if you're new to the show on Fridays, we give advice to you and answer listener questions. The rest of the week, we have long-form interviews and conversations with a variety of amazing folks from spies to CEOs, athletes to authors to thinkers, and performers. For a selection of featured episodes to get you started with some of our favorite guests and popular topics, go on over to jordanharbinger.com. We'll hook you up.
[00:00:56] This week on the show, we had Anders Ericsson talking about the science of deliberate practice, what he calls deliberate practice. Debunking that nonsense 10,000-hour rule that everyone's talking about because it's not accurate and it has nothing to do with anything, and it's non-scientific. People talk about — Gabe, you know what that is, right? Like, "Oh, it's going to take you 10,000 hours to master a skill." And it's just based on — it's like a pop-science baloney thing.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:01:19] Malcolm Gladwell made that very popular, right? But it's not his idea.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:01:22] I don't think it's his idea. That's why I didn't say like, "Thanks, Gladwell."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:01:25] Right.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:01:26] Who's been on the show disrespecting, but I think he just took that and it's just not a thing. It is just not true
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:01:31] More about how you spend that time, not how much time you spend.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:01:34] Right. The deliberate practice idea is the idea that — well, you'll hear it on the episode — but that's the whole point is that you can master things more quickly by doing what's called deliberate practice.
[00:01:44] We also did a deep dive, Gabe and I did on how to avoid scams, MLM scams, guru scans, large-group awareness training which are those like self-helpy group training scams, cult, whatever you want to call it. All those shady groups that get their claws into people. We talked about the type of person that falls for a scam and what their psychological makeup might be. I use that word loosely because we're not actually personality typing. But this is based on the article. We just wrote about the topic after getting a metric ton of mails from people asking how to convince their friends and family that they were part of a scam. So it's super timely. Hope you enjoy that.
[00:02:18] Make sure you've had a look and listened to everything that we created for you this week. You can reach us on friday@jordanharbinger.com. If you keep your emails, you get bonus points and if you can include a subject line that doesn't just say Feedback Friday, that always makes our job a lot easier.
[00:02:34] So I was thinking, Gabriel, about my grandma who used to keep napkins in her purse. Did your grandma do that?
[00:02:38] Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:02:38] Totally, still does.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:02:39] Yeah. What's up with that? Is that an old lady thing?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:02:41] All grandmas.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:02:42] All grandmas do it?
Jordan Harbinger: [00:02:44] It's not just Jewish grandmas?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:02:45] Nope.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:02:46] You're sure about that.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:02:46] I mean, I'm definitely biased because both my grandmas are Jewish, but they are not particularly Jewish and they both have Kleenex in all their purses.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:02:53] Yeah. So one of my grandmas is Jewish — Kleenex for days. The other one, not Jewish, not a Kleenex in sight. I'm saying a small sample size but still.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:03:01] Does your but still Werther's by the front door or is she like a strawberry candy?
Jordan Harbinger: [00:03:05] Hell, no. Do I look like I grew up on Werther's? Hell, no. My grandpa was melted strawberry candy from a decade prior.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:03:13] A melted strawberry candy. That's the go-to grandmas' snack, I think. But that's not a Jewish thing, right? That's not —
Jordan Harbinger: [00:03:18] No, that was my Ukrainian grandma. And she was just like — there was a bowl of change and candy — she goes, "That's for the paperboy." And I'm like, "I'm sure the 40-year-old paperboy, who's now like a Mexican guy, who's too fluent English — like, she's used to like little Polish kids. Not like the grown-ass Latino men who come by and do all this stuff in her neighborhood.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:03:39] I'm sorry. Are you saying that she still feeds the news—? First of all, there's still a newspaper — well, I guess, a few newspapers.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:03:45] My grandma passed away a while ago, but I remember meeting the quote-unquote paperboy, and his name was like Ronaldo, a super nice guy who had like three kids lived in the neighborhood. She was like, "Hello." And he's like, "Uh, hi." You know, he's like, "I grew up in Detroit. I don't need you to speak slower and I don't need melted strawberry candy and a dime."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:04:03] But she made up for it with the candy.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:04:05] And like nickels and stuff. Anyway, this is a tangent. I hate when people do this on podcasts. I was going to say, I predict that the napkins in the purse, like my grandma's had or my grandma had, or the whole clean your plate of food that my parents had. I think that our generation's version of that is going to be disinfecting everything, your hands, everything you touch, and possibly having a mask.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:04:27] Oh, interesting.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:04:29] Yeah. Like not everyone's going to do it. I won't do it probably, but there's going to be people who you and I hang out with in 20 years and they're going to be spraying Purell everywhere.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:04:37] Yup.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:04:38] Wiping down the restaurant table and possibly wearing a mask at a football game. And we're going to be like, "Yo, why is Jimmy wearing a mask?" "Oh, he just never got kind of over that whole COVID thing." "What? That was in 2020."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:04:51] Why is he smothering his pancakes with Purell? What's that about?
Jordan Harbinger: [00:04:55] Why is he spraying Purell on everybody? Why won't he get close to the waitress?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:04:59] Yeah, like we'll be conditioned by this whole thing. My grandfather who also passed away many years ago. Until the day he died would take — like when he ate a meal, if there were like crumbs on the table, he would take his thumb and he would individually smash them on the little crumbs and eat them. Because he grew up in the great depression and the idea of wasting and a single morsel of anything was so beyond — like he couldn't handle the idea of that. I think it's sort of like that, right? You're just like, you're a product of your time and you can't shake it.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:05:34] And he had a really strong immune system I would imagine after all that non-crumbs he ate along with those crumbs.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:05:41] It would have been fun to see how that little ritual held up during COVID.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:05:44] Oh God. Hey, you know what? I'm just going to leave that on the table. Oh my goodness. We shouldn't be laughing about that. And speaking of things we shouldn't be laughing about, question one is a doozy. Let's jump right in.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:05:56] Hey, Jordan team. I've grown up in a single-parent household with my mom and special needs little sister who is a high-functioning autistic 19-year-old. My upbringing involved a fair amount of what I guess you would call trauma. Although I don't choose to categorize it that way because I don't see that as productive.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:06:11] Oh, I'm going to put a pin in that.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:06:13] Yeah, let's come back to that sentence.
[00:06:15] As a result, I feel a heavy guilt or burden as if I need to end the stress and suffering that my mom is stuck with due to my little sister who, if I'm being honest, is more of a pain in the rear-end than most can probably imagine. She's been violent with my aging mother from time to time. And even recently forced her to call the neighbors for help after she snuck up on her in the house.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:06:33] Okay. That sounds really scary actually.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:06:36] Intense.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:06:36] Jeez.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:06:37] I do know my mom can physically handle my sister if God forbid it comes to that again. I am now 24 and I'm going to boot camp to enter the Air Force Reserve near my hometown. I joined the Reserve because I wanted to go active duty but would feel terrible leaving my mom alone to care for my sister 100 percent of the time. So I have two questions. First, how do I avoid the stress of feeling a lot of responsibility and guilt about leaving my mom to take care of my sister while I'm in boot camp and just in general life? Second, where do you think my responsibility ends in terms of being a pseudo parent for my little sister? Thank you for all your insights. Sincerely, 24 Going On 44.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:07:14] Okay. Well, first of all, it sounds like you've been through a lot in your life and you had a pretty complicated childhood. I'm very sorry that you've been going through all this. Sibling relationships are already complex and having a special needs sibling and a violent one that you've kind of had to parent on top of that, it's more than anyone should have had to handle, especially at your age. And I can tell from your letter that you have a tremendous amount of anger and conflict about your situation. There are no easy answers here, but I do feel that one of the most important things you can do is recognize how obviously difficult and confusing this has been for you.
[00:07:51] I want to go back to this original point though. "Where do you think my responsibility ends in terms of being a pseudo parent from my little sister?" you ask. I honor your sense of wanting to help your family and the compassion you have for your mom. But it's very important to note here, you are not the parent. It is not your responsibility to be the parent. You deserve to have your own life. You deserve to have your own happiness, your own path. It is not your responsibility to be the pseudo parent in this family. I'm not really feeling like, "My mom lays on the guilt," kind of situation. I feel like he's just a nice person that feels responsible for it. I don't really get the feeling from the slight letter that we had that his mother's like, "You're not leaving us. Are you?" I don't really feel like that. If so I think he would have indicated that, "My mom is terrified for her life." It would have been more dramatic.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:08:39] Yeah. And actually, it's interesting, because we don't know from the letter exactly what the message he received in his household was.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:08:44] Right.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:08:44] But in some ways, if his mom had thrust that position on him, in some ways, it might've been easier for him to deal with because he could have seen, "Oh, that's not fair. It has been put on me when I don't want it."
Jordan Harbinger: [00:08:55] Right. Interesting.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:08:56] I get the vibe that this was sort of more implied that there was something implicit in this household and in his childhood that he had to take on some of the roles. We don't know where dad is. It sounds like he's not in the picture right now, or maybe ever. So that can actually be, I think, harder. I get the sense that that actually makes it harder for him to disentangle this stuff because he was sort of — it's just been part of his life for so long that he doesn't even realize how deep that really goes.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:09:18] I guess some of this also depends on culture. If it's the whole, it takes a village — I know from families that are maybe not just sort of your standard white American, if you have different ethnicities, it's like, "No, you're leaving. You're moving away. Why? You have to live in our basement until you're married with kids, yourself," like that kind of family.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:09:36] Sure. Everybody kind of pitches in and helps out. And if you do end up with a special needs member of the family, then it's sort of a shared responsibility. And that's actually really good to note because we don't know what his background is, but it could be a little bit different.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:09:47] Also that would add to the guilt and the anger. Like, "I can't believe you're leaving, you're failing your mother," says every 13th cousin and uncle who calls and comes over and it is all up in your business. Like, if it's a regular kind of Midwestern white family, like I grew up in, nobody says anything to you about something that's not their business generally.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:10:07] Yeah. They just keep the Kleenex and hand out the strawberry candies.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:10:10] Yeah, they just keep that Kleenex around, and then they complain about things. That's my family, my extended family. They talk about it amongst themselves, for sure, but they never have the guts to say it to you. Depending on the culture, that might be the case.
[00:10:20] So you don't have to, and you should not sacrifice your future just so that you can help your mom. You can help, you are helping, but you don't need to be tied down permanently and sacrifice your career prospects just so that you can protect your mom from a violent person, even if that person is your sister. Use some of your salary if you want to get part-time in-home care for your sister. Give your mom a little bit of a break. You don't even have to do that. But if that makes you feel better, then go ahead.
[00:10:46] As far as enlisting in the military, first of all, thanks for your service but people often join the military to escape something. Let's be sure we're not doing that. A lot of times the military is better than the environment that people grew up, especially if that environment was rough but you cannot escape a feeling. You can distract yourself from a feeling. But if you're trying to join the reserves to avoid these feelings, they will come back down the road. So if joining the reserves is your calling, great, I'm all for it. Follow your passion, whatever, but know that you're not going to outrun your feelings. I'm not trying to talk you out of enlisting. I just want you to think about the reasons why you're doing this. Gabe.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:11:24] I also sensed a lot of anger in this email and understandably so. I also get a sense that there is some resentment. I'm guessing toward his sister, even though it's not her fault, toward his mom, even though it's not her fault, and just toward this whole situation. I feel like his rage is kind of tamped down as soon as it bubbles up in the email and in some ways that's the most revealing part of it. I feel like this is a guy we don't know if it's a guy or a girl. I'm guessing it's a guy just from the email. But this is a person who was not allowed to express their feelings and still is not. And that's kind of the hardest thing. I'm also struck by this feeling of guilt because it's interesting. He didn't actually do anything wrong here. He's just pursuing his life. He's a young man. He's stepping out of the world, he's going after what he wants in the Reserves. He clearly feels conflicted about leaving his family to chase what he wants but that's partly because he has some misguided ideas about what he owes them, I think. My guess is that he probably feels guilty because he actually feels relieved.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:12:20] Ooh, that's insightful. I think you're on the right track. Yeah.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:12:24] I think I was relieved to be escaping the situation, even if he feels a tremendous conflict about that. He's torn about whether he has a right to escape it, but the reality is he's getting out of a pretty tough house. You don't know that you are allowed to carve out some space for yourself in his family. And that's really what the question is about. Before we wrap up, Jordan, I do think we should touch on this idea that it's unproductive to think about something as trauma. That really stood out to me when we were reading the letter.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:12:50] I wanted to put a pin in like, "Oh, I don't acknowledge my trauma because it's not productive." Cool. I'm stoked that you think you have to be productive and that you can put things to the side, but ignoring feelings doesn't make them go away.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:13:02] No, it doesn't.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:13:03] As we all kind of I've learned the hard way at some point in our lives,
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:13:06] There are so many misconceptions about what trauma is in our culture. People think that trauma has to be something like sexual assault or, you know, surviving 9/11 or something huge and scary like that. But trauma can actually be something as simple as a parent not meeting your emotional needs because you had a sibling who had bigger needs. And also trauma is not about the event that happened — this is very important. It's not about the event that happened. It's about the way that you respond to that event. So that's what all the latest research and expertise is showing that two people who are in the exact same situation — let's just go back to the big example. Two people who survive 9/11 for example, could have radically different responses and therefore they have different experiences of the trauma.
[00:13:47] So whether or not you want to believe that your childhood actually constituted trauma is kind of irrelevant. It is what it is. So categorizing it as unproductive seems to me, more of an avoidance strategy or a coping mechanism to allow him to kind of deal with it and just not have to feel the feelings. But that to your point, Jordan, doesn't make the feelings go away. They'll just come out in other ways. But if he does choose to say, "You know, what, what I went through was pretty traumatic in its own way," that could actually allow him to process this effectively.
[00:14:16] So addressing your underlying feelings is the biggest part of this, I think. It sounds to me like there was little to no room for your feelings in your family. So now when you try to feel them, you probably get very overwhelmed and probably just shut down and stuffed them down. So asking how to avoid the guilt and the burden is really the wrong question. The right question, I think, is how to acknowledge them, have acceptance and compassion for how you feel, and learn to live your life even in the presence of those difficult emotions. And if you can do that and joined the Reserves and chase your dreams, then I think you'll be able to not make all this stuff go away and not change the situation that your sister and your mother are in, but be able to build a life around them and not have to sacrifice your own life because of them.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:14:59] All right. Well, we didn't start easy on this one.
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[00:17:30] What's next.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:17:30] Hey, Jordan and Gabe. I've been a contract physical therapist assistant for six years. I work with three different companies. One gives consistent raises to its employees. One claims that they don't do raises. And one, I haven't asked yet. I work on an as-needed basis, which means I'm not necessarily consistent with any one company. And the longest I usually work with one company is maybe a week at a time, often only one day a week. I know I have value as I am often requested by facilities when coverage is needed and I'm liked by the facilities and patients who have left reviews about me. I've considered asking for a raise, but I'm not sure how to say, "Hey, I do my job when you ask. And I'm often available when you need me. I need some more money for it." I have thought of calculating hours or asking after a longer stint of work. Also, I'm not ready to say that I may leave without a raise. So how do I ensure that it'll work when I do ask the big question? Thank you. Reaching for a Raise.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:18:20] A lot of people can relate to your dilemma. You're good at what you do. People like you. You're a nice person but because of the nature of your job and your performance up until now, you're not really in a slam dunk position to land that raise. COVID might have something to do with it. It's not a great time for people to be like, "I'm leaving, otherwise." It's like, "All right, well, we have a job." You feel a gap between the money you want and what you've done to earn it. At the same time, it sounds like you're not getting more money from one place than another. So you can't just be like, "Hey, this other place is offering me more money for more hours. Can you match or beat them?"
[00:18:51] By the way, I do want to say one thing, the place that quote-unquote doesn't do raises — yes, they freaking do. Every place does raises unless they want to lose their staff. Now, maybe they're comfortable losing staff and they offer a really low level of terrible service that just deals with whatever environment they're in. There's a lot of places that say, "Oh, well, we have a standard pay scale." Unless you're the government, your company can offer you something special. And you know what? They might not do raises. I've heard this before. "Oh, we don't do raises." So then we say, "Okay, cool." Negotiate your vacation time. "Well, yeah, I can give you two extra weeks of vacation, but I can't give you more money." "Give me two extra weeks of vacation." And then that same person either does less work during the year or they get — if they have another part-time job, they work more during those two weeks. They work full time and that's the raise. That's essentially what it is.
[00:19:40] You can't leverage one place against another from the sound of it, but you're not ready to leave one of those companies without a raise, probably for that same reason, which let's be honest, puts you at a slight disadvantage. There's no leverage, like being able to walk from a job. Unfortunately, sometimes it's the only language that a company knows how to speak. It's always good to have that option in your back pocket. Since you don't, here's what I think you should do. You need to perform a couple of notches above the level where the raise would be appropriate. Do that for a while three months, six months, then ask for the raise. In other words, prove you can work at or beyond the level that deserves the money. You might already feel you're working at that level. In which case now might be a great time to ask for that raise. But even if you are, it couldn't hurt to perform a little better just as a way to stack the deck.
[00:20:25] And I also think you should document you're doing because you might be able to say, "Hey, look, everyone is doing this, this, and this, but I'm doing that plus X." This might mean providing a higher level of care for your patients, advancing your education, your credentials, building strong relationships with the managers at your companies, working on your connection with your patients. Whatever performing at the next level means for you just do that and that might be easier said than done, but that's how you get a raise or a bonus or a promotion.
[00:20:52] You're right, saying, "Well, I do my job when you ask and I'm often available when you need me and I need more money." That's a terrible pitch, not a good pitch. Plant the seed early. You don't need to ask for the raise right now, but you can and should ask for a little performance review. And that's where you can ask for the raise. Say, "Look in a month. I'd love to meet with you. Go over my performance." Make sure you do it a few weeks in advance. What you don't want to do is ambush your boss with this. Like, "Hey, Tom, can I talk to you for five minutes. So I need a raise or I'm leaving." It's like, "Whoa, this is awful. You're putting me between a rock and a hard place. I don't even have the power to do that. I got to call the owner." You don't want to do that. You want to say in four weeks, "I'd like a performance review." They might even think you're going to quit, which is great because it gives them a chance to figure out how to retain you and hint more money is how they do that.
[00:21:41] Gabe. What about doing like — I don't know, it looked like the type of guy who might've had a PowerPoint together at some point about why they should be paid more. What do you think?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:21:49] I don't know what you're trying to say but you're absolutely correct. I spent four years in Microsoft PowerPoint. So I do.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:21:58] PowerPoint university.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:21:59] I know my way around a pivot table. Look, I think, first of all, Jordan, that is such good advice. I've never heard of somebody asking for a performance review and expectation of the conversation of a raise. Not only does it very elegantly put them on notice potentially a little bit so that you want to know where you stand and you might be making some moves. But it's such a better way into that conversation because if you go into that performance review knowing that you're going to do well — and by the way, I think this guy is probably going to do pretty well because the patients love him. He has a good track record. It sounds like he's well-liked. Then you're already basically greasing the skids for the conversation about the raise, right?
Jordan Harbinger: [00:22:34] Yeah.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:22:34] Like you basically are saying, "Hey, tell me how I'm doing? FYI. I'm killing it." They tell you you're killing it. And you're like —
Jordan Harbinger: [00:22:40] It sounds like you need to prove it to me. It sounds like, "You put your money where your mouth is, Tom."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:22:44] Exactly. "I'm so happy that I could be doing such a good job. I would love to continue working here. Here's what I would like to be paid for that."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:22:50] So to make that case even stronger, he could also put together a little pitch. I mean, that could be as formal as PowerPoint, but it could also just be an email to his managers. And basically, he could explain what he's currently providing, why he's so valuable, and what he wants — the raise. And in this case, he has a lot of data to work with, right? He could collect the best excerpts from those patient reviews. He could quantify his contributions a little bit like hours worked, patients seen, scores earned or whatever, qualitative stuff too, patient feedback, anecdotal evidence, whatever it is. And reiterate why you really want to be working at this company and why you care about the work. And if you can show why you deserve the raise you're asking for specifically and show that you're performing above your level currently, this conversation will be so much more fun and way more effective.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:23:32] All right, what's next?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:23:33] Hi, Jordan and Gabriel. I'm in my late 20s and I feel like I've been growing apart from my oldest friends. While they're fun and interesting people, I'm becoming increasingly uncomfortable with their views on life. I struggle mainly with them being okay with doing things that range from immoral to outright illegal. And I don't mean parking-ticket illegal. I mean like fraud illegal, which they do not see as a big deal. I do sometimes find our differences insightful as they can look at things in ways I would never have thought of, but more often than not, I'm left concerned and upset. I thought I could handle this by slowly distancing myself, but I was recently called out on it. I feel like I now either need to pull the trigger on ending the friendships — which I was trying to avoid — or go back to being close. My friends are keen to rebuild our connection and do not seem bothered by our differences. I know that it's important to have a wide variety of people in your life, but I'm not sure where to draw the line. I fully admit to being more straitlaced than most and hanging out with them in high school and university helped me learn to be more adventurous and comfortable with risk. But the mindsets that seemed fun and edgy in my teens and early 20s are now rapidly looking shortsighted and childish as we cross into our 30s. Is there a way to know how different is too different for your social circle? Is there even such a thing as being too different if you want a strong and diverse network? When it comes to friends, how different is too different before it's okay to cut someone off? And finally, do you have any suggestions on how to handle significant differences with people you do want to still be close to? Defriend Dilemma.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:24:53] This is a question that comes down to values. Is there a way to know how different is too different for your social circle? It's always, always, always about values. Differences in opinion, interests, hobbies, lifestyle — these are all things that don't make or break a friendship. I've got friends that are like gun-owning, super right-wing but not like the racist kind, but like right up on that buffer that live in RVs and stuff like that. And we have little in common. We're still friends. You know, it's not a problem, but values like the actual values that dictate how you live your life. Like these are still honest people that work hard. That means well, that wants the best for their family, for their country. They just have a different opinion on how to do it. Views about right and wrong, fair and unfair, criminal and acceptable — these are value differences that cut a lot deeper. I don't have friends anymore that get by on fraud or that believe that some people are better than others because of the way they look or anything. I don't have those friends anymore. I might've when I was younger.
[00:25:53] these types of beliefs, these value differences, they also have ramifications for you. If your friend wants to pick up parasailing as a hobby and you don't like parasailing, it's not that big of a deal. They can go parasailing, you stay on the beach, reading the book, you go surfing, whatever it is you want to do. But if your friend brings you along to a lunch meeting where they're raising money for a fake company, and you're sitting there validating what they're saying, that's more serious. You're orbiting something illegal. You're involved in something illegal, and you could even be implicated in those charges.
[00:26:23] If you were to introduce this friend to someone else, you'd be vouching for somebody who is straight-up fraudulent, a scammer. There's a risk. I'm very careful about this now. People go, "Hey, what do you think about this person?" And I go, "No." They made their money in multilevel marketing, or they sell this guru scam thing. I don't care if they have a lot of followers. I don't care if they're the influencer du jour. I don't want to be associated with them. I don't want to be in a photo with them. I don't want them on the show. I don't want to be on their show. This is something that affects you, even if you think it doesn't. You can't compartmentalize certain things.
[00:26:54] Of course, lifestyle choices also imply certain values. And this is an interesting gray area. For example, if your friend turns vegan and shames you publicly for eating meat, that's a pretty significant difference to overcome. Yeah, it's a superficial choice, more or less, but the way they're going about it is veering into a question about values, not just about what to eat, but how to treat other people who disagree. Then the question becomes, can you have a conversation about it? Is there enough respect and awareness to openly discuss this difference in values? If so your friendship can survive. It can even thrive. If not, it probably won't. Gabe, what do you think?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:27:32] As for your question, do you have any suggestions on how to handle those differences with people you do still want to be close with? I think the biggest part of that is learning to recognize those differences, knowing the difference between a lifestyle choice and a more like a deeper belief or a more profound value that actually affects your relationship. And then confronting those problems head-on and discussing them, you know, respectfully rationally with the other person. If you can own your experience and know that — if you feel weird when you're hanging out with this person, if you feel kind of off, if you feel vaguely concerned when you're hanging out with them and they're engaging in casual fraud, there's probably a good reason for that.
[00:38:07] At the same time, when you do bring it up, I do think you should give the other person a chance to explain their behavior, right? Like you can be open to being proven wrong or changing your mind. You honestly sound extremely open-minded as a person. So I'm not too concerned about that, but it is worth trying to understand why they're behaving the way they do. And trying to understand what in you is causing that friction. Because there are so many variables that go into that. Right, Jordan? Like, someone could be doing something that is an outright illegal and might not even be that bad but because you were raised in a certain way, if you were raised in a household, like I was frankly, where, you know, right and wrong are clearly delineated at anything that looks like it could be even slightly shady is like scary. And like, you shouldn't do that. Like you need to stay far away from that. When really what they're really doing is just like skirting the rules a little bit. Like they're like filing paperwork in a sloppy way or whatever. I don't know what it is. Although from her email, it does sound like it's not that stuff. But my point is just that the way you're raised will affect what you perceive as immoral.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:29:04] You're the guy who is like, "I'm going to rip this tag off this pillow, even though it says under penalty of law, do not remove." Like, is that kind of your danger zone?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:29:13] I mean, I regret putting my pillows within view of the camera.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:29:18] The guy who pulls the USB drive out when it's like, "Do not eject." You're like, "I'm just going to rip this thing out of it."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:29:27] How did you know that?
Jordan Harbinger: [00:29:28] Too soon to eject? I'll be the judge of that.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:29:32] Do you ever reject the USB properly, take it out, and it still tells you that you did it improperly?
Jordan Harbinger: [00:29:36] Yeah. And I'm like, you know what? It's like a thug life. That's right.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:29:41] Do you ever pull it out? And it says that you did it illegally and then you just sit by the door, waiting for the Feds to show up.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:29:46] I called 911, preemptively turned myself in. "I'm here to be picked up."
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:29:51] I'm sorry. It was a USB-A.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:29:53] Nerd alert.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:29:54] Okay. Look, if you do confront these things with your friend, at that point, you guys will either come to a resolution. One of you will change or both of you will change. Or you will realize that you guys have an irreconcilable difference and neither of you will change and then you go your separate ways. But at that point, I think you have two options. You can either negotiate your closeness. You can maintain a friendship with somebody that is not as intimate or as constant. You're just not as close as you used to be so that you're not orbiting some of the shady behavior.
[00:30:20] I'll give you an example. I have a couple of friends who drink too much, right? Like they're not my best friends. They're not even my —
Jordan Harbinger: [00:30:27] Yeah, good to be.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:30:29] You might want to hold up as he drinks from a glass. But because those people are interesting or they're funny, or they're kind in some way I'll stay connected. Like we might jump on the phone every few months. We might do a podcast every week.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:30:41] We might have a podcast, yeah, exactly.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:30:43] I care about them. I enjoy their friendship, but I wouldn't, you know, go on a three-hour dinner or on a vacation with them because their partying is at odds with how I prefer to spend my time. Right?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:30:53] So that's one option. The other option is that it's so irreconcilable that you just cut ties. And in that case, you have to explain why you feel that you can't be close anymore and you just move on. You find friends who share your values, who don't engage in that causal fraud over lunch or whatever, and you invest more deeply in those relationships and let those relationships bring you into a more fulfilling life full of people who share your values and are on the same frequency as you. To me, it sounds like you're heading more towards that second option with this group of friends. And I think that's more than, okay.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:31:20] All right. What's next?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:31:22] Hey team. I'm in the beauty industry and recently referred a would-be client to a peer of mine. I'm afraid I may have said the wrong thing, and now it's a bit awkward. I'm at a point in my career where I want to focus on my target market, but I don't want my peers to think that I'm just brushing my rejects off on them. And I don't want anyone to feel rejected or lash out at me after connecting with me. I imagine that you have to politely decline people who aren't a good fit all the time. I'm especially concerned because in my industry, girls talk and word travels fast. How do you nicely decline to work with somebody? Signed Accidental A-hole.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:31:54] it says a high-quality problem. Gabe, you want to start off at this one?
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:31:57] I really think that this is mostly about style. It's about how she does it. Not that she's doing it in the first place. If you pawned someone off, like, "Sorry, I'm busy but this random person can do it." And you just like CC them with a few words. Yeah, It will probably come across like you're bailing on a client and it'll come across like you're just dropping your unwanted clients on your peers. But if you say, "Look, you sound like a great client. Unfortunately, I'm focused more on retail strategy clients or whatever, but I know a great B2B person who might be in here fit for you. And you write a thoughtful little introduction," then you won't just sound diplomatic. You might even come across looking better.
[00:32:31] Plus you're building relationships in both directions, which is awesome. Part of making that work is vetting the people you refer clients to and having strong relationships with them. So you want to know that you're putting a client in good hands, right? You don't want to just pawn somebody off to like the first person who pops up on your LinkedIn, who seems like they vaguely have the experience that would be helpful. That'll give you the confidence to know that you're taking care of a client, even if you refer them out. And it will also ensure that you're referring clients to the peers who actually deserve it. You're not an a-hole for declining to work with somebody. You're only an a-hole if you do it thoughtlessly.
[00:33:02] So I would say congrats on being in that enviable position
Jordan Harbinger: [00:33:06] From a tactical perspective, I would tell them why you can't work with them just as you suggested, Gabe. Then I would do a double opt-in with both parties. This is part of Six-Minute Networking. If you've been through that course, you know how to do this but this way, it's not, you brushing rejects off onto someone else, but finding that person an even better fit while getting someone you know a new client. So it's all about the framing here. If you do it right, you're golden. Tact is key and going the extra mile, so checking in after you introduced yourself to the other person, doing that double opt-in. Maybe a month or so later you check in again to make sure they were taken care of. That goes a long way towards them feeling good about their interaction with you, as opposed to feeling like they just weren't good enough to work with you in the first place. Done right this should be a win-win, where your colleague is stoked to have a new client and the prospect is grateful that you even took the time to send her elsewhere since you were too busy or focused on something else to take her business. This is a professional move and it shows that you're a class act.
[00:34:04] Gabe, I feel like we're edging on the art of saying no, or some article or deep dive here, boundaries, setting boundaries, maintaining boundaries, business clients, friends, family. Maybe we should note that and do something with this. Because I think getting your time back is about saying no. Keeping your boundaries and setting them is about saying no. Successful relationships and friendships is about saying no. Having a work-life balance is about saying no. There's probably an article in here.
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[00:36:48] All right, last but not least.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:36:49] Dear Jordan, I'm a 23-year-old living in Florida. I moved down here about three years ago on a journey to better myself in all aspects of my life. I'm currently seeking out a career to replace the two full-time jobs that I currently hold and do not love. I applied and interviewed at a very reputable company that I feel like I would be a good fit for. The only problem is that I have a bad criminal background. I was told that if I brought this up along with the fact that I'm almost two-year sober and I've had a complete turnaround in my perspective on life and in my impact on other people's lives that I would be okay to move forward, but I never get the topic to come up organically during the very strange and uncomfortable Zoom interview. I feel like my past mistakes are nearly impossible to contend with. What advice, if any, do you have for someone in my position? Should I talk about my past at all? If, so how? With gratitude, Jekyll Not Hyde.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:37:38] Ooh, well, this is a tough situation. And I have some thoughts it's on this. First, if these companies do background checks and they probably do, you have no choice but to disclose. If you don't, you're going to look like you're hiding your past. You're immediately going to get disqualified. At that point, it's all about the story that you tell. Working on this story is your main job right now. It has to be airtight. It has to be totally honest. It has to be meaningful, reflective, authentic, and most importantly, it has to actually address what you did in the past specifically. All the things you've done to become better should also be included in there and how all of that stuff will never happen again. Not just because you say it won't be because you have a different lifestyle, different circumstances, and a different support network than you did before.
[00:38:26] You said, "I was told that if I brought this up, that it would be okay to move forward." By who? A recruiter, just some random person. Who told you that? If you tell that story, well, yes, it can be okay to move forward, but you need to stack the deck in your favor. You have to have references that will vouch for you. You need a great LinkedIn profile with endorsements, from people that look normal. Not this sort of blank thing with no profile photo. You need stories that illustrate what kind of person you are now and how you've changed, not just the promise that you have changed. Also, and definitely not least here, relationships with people who can put a good word in and confirm your story. That also has a good reputation. Not just like, "My mom says that I'm a good boy now." We've all seen that on the news, right? Like the guy who shoots three people at a firework show and the mom is like, "He was a good boy." It's like, no, you're just a crazy person that raised a terrible kid who deserves to be in prison. I'm not saying that's you. Of course, it's not, you. What I'm saying is you need to reaffirm that story so people don't assume that it is you.
[00:39:25] When I work with inmates on this — and shout out to all of my High Desert folks who celebrated my 40th birthday with me, volunteering in High Desert Maximum-Security Prison by the way. When I work on this with inmates, they're still in prison. And we discuss how their interviews are going to go when they're out their job interviews, the job search. We do mock interviews. And whatever, I sense that — I get that slight hedge or they're shying away from telling their story, or they're like, "Yeah, a lot of difficult things happen when I was a kid and then I just got out of prison." And we're like, "What? Hold on." I stopped them because this is a major red flag. If I find out later that you were incarcerated or you had a rough past and you didn't tell me. I will not assume you didn't tell me because it was embarrassing. I will assume you didn't tell me because of some other reason. Like it's still going on and I will also assume that there is more that you're not telling me which breaks any trust I might've had in you as an employee or somebody that I just met for that matter.
[00:40:22] You don't have to lead with it, but it should definitely come up. If it doesn't come up organically and why would it. Caveat it. Bring it up yourself. Get ahead of it. Gabe, I know you've got some ideas on this.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:40:32] Yeah. I mean, it's not like most recruiters are going to stop the interview and say, "Man, you really are the perfect candidate. You crushed this interview, but you know, just so I know, is there any criminal stuff in your past?"
Jordan Harbinger: [00:40:42] "Have you been in prison? I'm just throwing it out there just to make sure you've never been incarcerated." It's not going to happen. They're going to find out later.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:40:48] So you have to be the one to bring it up. And by being the one to bring it up, you actually will probably come across as even more credible and trustworthy given your past circumstances. So basically, you would say some version of, "Look, I've really enjoyed talking to you. I would love to work at your company. I think I would be a great employee. I do want to tell you that a long time ago, my life was very different. I was an addict. I did some things that I deeply regret. Here are the things," be specific about them. Say that you've paid the price. "And since then I've gotten sober. I've been sober for two years now. I'm in recovery. I go to meetings. I take my life very seriously. I treat other people much more seriously." Again, be specific here. Don't just say I am a great guy now. Like, talk about the things that make you a better person. I'm sure that you have very concrete details about that. And then say that you're building a life that is very different from your old one. "And in many ways, I think that all of that has made me a more responsible candidate, a more hardworking candidate, a more thoughtful person to work with. I just wanted you to know that up front because I want us to be totally on the same page."
[00:41:46] This story, telling the story, and bringing it up yourself is going to take some practice. It will probably feel very scary in the beginning. I mean, why wouldn't it be. There's shame around the story. Most people don't want to know that, or they are anticipating a negative response or whatever, but it will get easier with time. And actually the more you tell them, I think it could actually add to your profile as a candidate because you will be the person who has been through some stuff and can talk about it openly and can tell the story in a way that makes somebody want to hire you even more.
[00:42:15] I would say rehearse with some people, write out a little script for yourself, do mock interviews with friends. Those will go a very long way and take as many interviews as you can just so you can get those reps in. So it becomes very natural. If you do all that, I think you'll dramatically increase your chances of landing your next job. So good luck, dude.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:42:32] Supernatural. It becomes a phenomenon.
Gabriel Mizrahi: [00:42:35] It comes from J.J. Abrams show.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:42:37] that's great advice. I love the idea about doing mock interviews because everyone thinks, "Okay when this comes up, I'm just going to cop to it." And then it happens, you're like, "What? Uh — so well — uh, well, I was so in the beginning — what happened was — you see what happened was," and then it's like, this interview is over, right? You need to be able to handle that. You need to be prepared for someone to say — and this is what I do in the prison — you need to be prepared for someone to say, "So what'd you do that landed you in prison." And you can't say, "Well, I had all these things and they, these decisions happen, and I had a rough — " You need to go, "I shot someone during a drug deal, but I am not the same person now. And that was a long time ago. And I think about it every day and it's my deepest regret. And it was the result of dah, dah, dah. You don't want to start off sort of hedging and slow. It will immediately raise flags. It's going to raise flags anyways. What you want is it to be minimal and the lowest flags possible. So practice makes perfect here.
[00:43:34] We're creeping up on episode 400 here. I've been podcasting for something like 13 years. I keep thinking about what are my favorite episodes. Here's what you should check out next on The Jordan Harbinger Show.
Adam Carolla: [00:43:45] There's a kind of sad reality of the blue-collar world and mentality, which is you get paid to physically do things. There's a very straight line on how to make money. That world never pauses and goes, "Who are you? And what are your ideas?" And what about all these other people that are composing songs or writing the theme song to the tonight show, and going to the mailbox, and getting a royalty check. Or this guy wrote a movie. At some point, you just buy into that program. "Shut your mouth, pick up that shovel and get going."
Jordan Harbinger: [00:44:26] What sort of triggered that for you? What sort of went, "You know what? Screw this. I'm not trading time for money. I have to figure something else out."
Adam Carolla: [00:44:43] I sat around, and I've sat around and I went, "What are you good at?" And the answer was common.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:44:41] Podcasting is obviously on the way up. How did you spot an opportunity there and go, "You know what? This is a safer or better or more lucrative bet"?
Adam Carolla: [00:44:49] When I was doing morning radio, the program director would go, "We need to get our ratings up in LA. We're fifth in LA," or whatever. And then some other guy would come in and he'd go, "You guys had 16 million minutes of streaming last month." Then the program director came back in and go, "You guys got to get your shit together." And I'd go, "Hey, we have 16 million minutes of streaming." And he'd go like, "So who cares? You're fifth in LA." And he just walked out of the studio and I remember, I just sort of looking around going, I don't know.
Jordan Harbinger: [00:45:24] That seems good.
Adam Carolla: [00:45:25] It seems good. Then I got fired and my buddy said, "Do a podcast." And I was like, "Let's just do it."
Jordan Harbinger: [00:45:35] For more with Adam Carolla, including why trading time for money is a losing proposition and how we can break the cycle and how to tell if we're doing something for ourselves or doing something based on pressure from others, check out episode 69 right here on The Jordan Harbinger Show.
[00:45:51] Hope you all enjoyed that. I want to thank everyone that wrote in this week. Go back and check out Anders Ericsson and the Deep Dive on what type of people fall for scams — is it you?
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Ask The Staff – Dr Laurna Lambert
June 11, 2020 by The Articulator
Current Year 3 student and brand new UBDSS President Sina Gilannejad (congrats Sina!) recently interviewed one of the Dental School's newer members of staff, Dr Laurna Lambert.
1. What is your history in the dental field?
"It's not been a long pathway because I've relatively only newly qualified. I graduated in Trinity Collage Dublin in 2012, which was great and I loved it, then after that I did my DFT in Bristol. The plan had been to go back to Trinity and specialise in paediatrics because I had an amazing supervisor in paeds who really inspired me but then I met my husband and life took a significantly different path for the better but delayed. Now I'm in a position again where I can look again at what I'm going to do again with my career."
2. What is it about dentistry that gets you out of bed every morning?
"I think it really is the science which might be a nerdy answer, but it really is. I really like learning about the cellular aspect about the teeth. I really like learning about the cellular aspect of dentistry."
3. Did you think you made the right choice when you first started dental school?
"Definitely. It really was, from the very beginning. For me the only choices for dentistry was Dublin or Cork and Dublin was easier to get to from where my family home was. I'm so glad I chose Trinity, it was amazing!"
4. Unsurprisingly, I found it hard to have a life outside of dentistry when I first started, did you ever find this to be an issue for yourself?
"I didn't, and that feels wrong to say that but maybe it was because it was Dublin which was like a mini London in that it's busy, career driven and everyone is working hard so you didn't feel like you were missing out much and with the uni being right in the centre, everything was on your doorstep so you felt a part of the city even though you were a student. We also had a really small class, there were only 35 of us so we did everything together! We were all really close and would study and go out together. We were all on a similar level and wanted the same thing so we enjoyed being good friends without competitiveness."
5. If practising dentistry became illegal, was there ever another career that would've caught your interest?
"Yes, if I hadn't of done dentistry I would of been a French and chemistry teacher! I loved French and chemistry in secondary school, they were my favourite subjects and I was going to actually do that until I realised that you couldn't have done them as a joint degree. It actually was quicker to be a dentist than do a French degree and then chemistry on top of that."
6. What was one of your least favourite moments in dentistry to date?
"Not only was a bad moment, but it was also on Christmas eve AND it was my first year as an associate in practise! So I had done my VT… I was a dentist… this was my first real job. I was alone in the practise and a patient needed their UR6 taken out. So, everything's going fine and then I was elevating and I hear *SNAP* and I just thought, oh dear… So i had managed to get the two buccal roots out attached to the crown, fine, great, fantastic I thought to myself… now just to flick this palatal root out and we'll all be fine, job's a good'un. Then I'm putting the elevator into the PDL space just by the palatal root… and it disappears."
Sina – "the elevator disappears?"
"Nope, the root.. it was gone. Straight into the sinus. That was it, what could I do! Never seen that patient since."
Disclaimer: Dr. Lambert would like to emphasise this is NOT the correct way to manage an antrally displaced root. The patient should be urgently referred to the nearest Oral Surgeon/Oral Surgery department for surgical root removal with appropriate verbal and written advice. Luckily for Dr. Lambert, her friend was working on-call Oral Surgery when this occurred, so she had someone to emergency phone that fateful Christmas eve, and learn from her mistakes!
7. Reflecting on it now, what would you tell past you to make that moment easier?
"For that particular incident, my coping mechanism was pretty poor. I just cried and got upset, panicked. Looking back now, I wish I had just had the confidence to step outside for a minute. In the heat of the moment, I let my emotions get the better of me and I should have just realised; right, this has happened, you have time, you don't need to fix this straight away. It's not an emergency, the root is in the sinus, you have time to collect yourself, your thoughts and be professional to handle this properly."
8. Where would you like to see yourself 20 years down the line?
"So 20 years down the line, I'll be 50. In my head now, that feels like the second part of my life. A second go or part two of my century. I've got big plans!"
9. As a lecturer, you make it easy to stay awake during an 8am lecture. Is teaching something you enjoy?
"I hadn't really appreciated that dentistry would have covered the teaching I wanted to do when I applied. I thought to myself that actually this is going to be what I always wanted to do my whole life when I couldn't decide, how incredible! But, because I'm so new to it, I'm definitely still a novice at teaching, I've a lot to learn but already since August 2019, I've learned so much. I definitely hit the ground running when it comes to teaching but it helps that everybody is so nice. When there is a good atmosphere, it makes you want to be more helpful and there is a lot of responsibility to make sure that we are giving you the most up to date evidence based practise, which is great because that motivates students to be their best selves. So in that aspect, we are helping each other. I am going to go to a teaching course, TLHP, because if I'm going to commit to this, then I'm going to do it properly."
10. If you were a tooth, which tooth would you be?
"I have a few different options but if I have to be brutally honest, if I was a tooth I would be a cheeky little maxillary lateral incisor because it is a very insignificant tooth in that you could very easily function without it inside your mouth but, it's tucked nicely behind the central and not showing off as if to say look at me I'm all dominant in the smile line! yet without it, the smile line doesn't work. I had a supervisor at uni and he was very cool and charming, I just wanted to be him. He was in his 70's and he had a partial gold veneer in the distal aspect of his UR2 and I thought it looked so cool and I just wanted it!"
11. Who would be your favourite person to sit in your dental chair?
"Oh, in any scenario, the Queen! Not because I'd love to treat her, just because I'm curious and would like to meet her. But realistically, my husband. He is just so easy to treat and he never complains!"
12. Is there a patient that you will remember for the rest of your life?
"Yes. My first single root endo case. She was the chattiest person I've ever encountered. I think it took 12 hours total to complete one single root RCT (3-hour clinical sessions over 4 different appointments). Every time I tried to fit the rubber dam she say "oh just one more thing I have to tell you before you put that on" and she'd tell me a really long detailed story about something that had happened to her that week. She was an English lit student and the nicest, friendliest person. I really struggled to like her at the beginning but by the end of her treatment she was one of my favourite patients! Our Endo Lead at Trinity specifically came to me to see if I wanted to take on one of his patients-I was so proud, "he must think I'm great!!" turns out he just couldn't get her to shut up so pawned her off on a student with significantly more time to spend chatting than he did!!"
14. What is a sure way to make you happy, even when having to supervise me on a Monday morning?
"A smile! Enthusiasm and gratefulness for the privileged position we're in treating patients on ADH. Not many people get this opportunity and we're lucky to get to help & educate our patients and each other, together as a team."
Sina – I would like to thank Dr Lambert for being so welcoming and engaging with all the questions!
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Born in Japan in 1936 to Czechoslovak diplomat parents, Paul Fierlinger spent World War II in the United States before living in Communist Czechoslovakia for 20 years. While at Czech boarding school, 12-year-old Fierlinger created his first animated film by shooting drawings from his flipbook with a 16mm Bolex camera. In 1958, he established himself as Czechoslovakia's first independent producer of animated films for Prague TV, a division of Kratky Film. He produced close to 200 short and very short theatrical and TV films in Prague before he escaped to Western Europe in 1967. After animating films in Holland, France and Germany, he arrived in the United States one year later. In the U.S., Fierlinger began by first animating political commercials for Hubert Humphrey and many other political candidates. In 1971, he established his own studio, AR&T Associates, Inc. in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
In his more than 40-year career Fierlinger has created over 800 animated films which have garnered more than 200 major international awards. In addition to a Pew Charitable Arts grant for his body of work, Fierlinger's accolades include an Academy Award nomination for It's So Nice to Have a Wolf Around the House, many "Best of Festival" awards and numerous "Firsts" in educational films, TV commercials and children's films. He is the creator of Sesame Street's "Teeny Little Super Guy," and "The Adventures of Letterman" in Arabic, Nickelodeon's Amby & Dexter, the acclaimed American Playhouse television feature "Drawn From Memory" and an award-winning animated mini-documentary series for cable TV's Oxygen network, Drawn From Life.
His PBS animated specials, STILL LIFE WITH ANIMATED DOGS and A Room Nearby, have each won the prestigious Peabody Award for excellence. Several of Fielinger's films have become part of the permanent film collection of The Museum of Modern Art, MOMA, in New York.
Fierlinger is currently working on the animated feature film, My Dog Tulip, based on the book by J.R. Ackerley, slated for theatrical and home video release in 2008, featuring the voiceovers of Christopher Plummer, Lynne Redgrave, Isabella Rossellini and others.
Sandra and Paul Fierlinger have collaborated on animation projects for the past seven years. Sandra graduated in 1978 from the Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts with the highest awards. She has worked with her husband on several dozen films for Sesame Street, Nickelodeon, American Playhouse and industrial and TV commercial clients.
John Avarese began studying classical piano at the age of five and by age seven was performing recitals with established music ensembles. His classical training culminated with a degree in music theory from Temple University. As his career progressed, Avarese continued to play piano for many musical groups, successfully adhering to their dissimilar, even contrasting styles. In the 1980s, he became a session player for a prominent recording studio in Philadelphia where he learned recording industry technology and began musical scoring for corporate videos. Soon after, he established JAV, a music production studio.
A professional composer since 1986, Avarese has created scores for planetariums, museums, short films, documentaries and corporations, as well as television spots for PBS, CBS, Discovery Channel, Nickelodeon and Oxygen networks.
He has recently worked on the special Surviving Katrina for the Discovery Channel, the feature film The 4th Dimension, CBS's NFL Today and the PBS animated special A Room Nearby.
Avarese is currently composing music for My Dog Tulip, based on the book by J.R. Ackerley; slated for theatrical and home video release in 2008, directed and animated by Paul Fierlinger.


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The Neonatal Unit at the Royal Hospital for Children, Glasgow, Celebrates One Year of Video Messaging
One year ago today the Neonatal Unit at the Royal Hospital for Children, Glasgow, launched vCreate to help parents of premature and poorly babies stay up-to-date on their baby's progress with video updates sent directly to their smart device.
Dr Neil Patel, Consultant Neonatologist at RHC NNU, reflects on why the unit decided to introduce video updates: Dr Neil Patel, said: "The idea for video messaging came from a dad of one of our patients. He used video updates at work and asked if we would consider video messaging so that he could receive updates on his baby's progress when he was not able to be in the unit."
One year on, and the unit has signed up over 200 parents, and the service continues to receive excellent feedback from parents.
Neil continues: "The vCreate Neonatal Video System is a huge success. Families tell us that they love to receive videos of their baby from staff, when they can't be here in the Neonatal Unit; they feel more involved in their baby's care and less anxious. The success is also down to the staff, they put so much care and thought into the videos to help parents feel relaxed and make sure they don't miss those special moments. We're delighted with the success and progress over the past year and looking forward to supporting many more families with video messaging in the future."
To celebrate the success of the project, RHC NNU held an anniversary event this weekend, where unit staff and vCreate presented parents with a commemorative vCreate teddy bear to mark the occasion.
Ben Moore, Founder of vCreate, said: "Thank you to Neil and the team at RHC NNU for welcoming us back to the unit to mark this important milestone. We are thrilled that vCreate has been a success story here in Glasgow, and that so many parents continue to benefit from the vCreate videos. I would also like to thank the Glasgow Children's Hospital Charity, and Stephanie-Jane-Taylor, Founder of Treasured MemoRory's, for funding this service on behalf of the unit."
Staff at the unit say that they have been overwhelmed by the support and generosity of parents who are fundraising for more tablet devices so that other parents can benefit from the same video updates that they received. Danielle Currie is one parent who aims to raise £2000 to fund new iPads for the unit.
Danielle, explains why she decided to fundraise: "Our twins were born 16 weeks early and were taking to the NICU straight after birth, we got videos every night about how the twins were doing, unfortunately our little boy passed away at just 11 days old. We still have all the videos that the nurses sent us and we look back at them all the time; we will always have these memories and they give us a lot of comfort."
To show your support for Danielle's fundraising campaign, visit her JustGiving page, and donate whatever you can. Your donation will be gratefully received.


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Morgan Stanley to cut up to 25 percent of fixed-income jobs
By Olivia Oran, Sudarshan Varadhan
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(Reuters) - Morgan Stanley MS.N plans to cut up to 25 percent of its fixed-income jobs, according to a person familiar with the matter.
The workforce reduction will be across all regions and is set to take place in the next two weeks, the person said.
The news was first reported by Bloomberg earlier on Monday.
The Wall Street bank reported a 42 percent slide in bond trading in the third quarter, one of its worst performances since the financial crisis.
Morgan Stanley Chief Executive James Gorman has been focusing on equities trading and - particularly - wealth management as profit drivers for the No. 6 U.S. bank by assets as stricter regulations and capital requirements make it more difficult to trade bonds.
Ted Pick, who was in charge of the company's equities business, was picked by Gorman last month to oversee its entire trading business to facilitate better coordination between the firm's bond and equities desks.
Morgan Stanley declined to comment.
The company's shares, which have fallen 12.9 percent this year up to Friday's close, were up 2.1 percent in afternoon trading.
Reporting By Sudarshan Varadhan in Bengaluru and Olivia Oran in New York; Editing by Anil D'Silva


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QPR vs Luton Live Score and Live Stream
QPR played Luton at the Championship of England on November 19. The match kicked off 19:45 UTC. QPR won 2-0.
Chris Willock scored the first goal on the 10th minute of the game followed by a goal from Charlie Austin, who made the final score 2-0.
ScoreBat is covering QPR vs Luton in real time, providing the live stream and live score of the match, team line-ups, full match stats, live match commentary and official video highlights. We cover all matches of England Championship in real time and provide live streaming whenever possible.
URL: https://www.scorebat.com/luton-vs-qpr-live-stream/
You can watch QPR vs Luton live stream here on ScoreBat when the official streaming is available. We will provide only official live stream strictly from the official channels of England Championship, QPR or Luton whenever it is available. Live streaming will begin when the match is about to kick off.
QPR (also known as Queens Park Rangers) and Luton (commonly referred to as Luton Town) are football clubs from England and they are playing this match of Championship on Friday. Make sure to follow it live here on ScoreBat.
We are updating team formations and line-ups for QPR - Luton in real time.
QPR kicked off the game with Seny Dieng, Yoann Barbet, Robert Dickie, Lee Wallace, Ilias Chair who got substituted by Luke Amos on the 89th minute, Andre Dozzell, Jimmy Dunne, Stefan Johansen, Albert Adomah who got substituted by Osman Kakay on the 80th minute, Charlie Austin who got substituted by Sam Field on the 79th minute and Chris Willock as starters, with Jordan Archer, Luke Amos, Dominic Ball, Osman Kakay, Stephen Duke-Mckenna, Sam Field and George Thomas on the bench.
Luton's starting eleven were Simon Sluga, Sonny Bradley, James Bree, Tom Lockyer, Allan Campbell who got substituted by Cameron Jerome on the 79th minute, Henri Lansbury, Fred Onyedinma, Pelly Ruddock, Elijah Adebayo, Harry Cornick who got substituted by Admiral Muskwe on the 68th minute and Kal Naismith, with James Shea, Amari Bell, Gabriel Osho, Jordan Clark, Danny Hylton, Cameron Jerome and Admiral Muskwe on the bench.
Referee showed the yellow card 6 times throughout the game. Henri Lansbury, Sonny Bradley, Elijah Adebayo, Andre Dozzell, Charlie Austin and Robert Dickie were the ones to receive it.
Explore stats from QPR vs Luton on ScoreBat - we are updating the numbers on this page every second of the game.
Ball Possession: 53 - 47
Total Attempts: 6 - 10
Shots On Target: 2 - 2
Saves: 2 - 0
Corners: 4 - 4
Fouls: 11 - 11
Free Kicks: 15 - 11
Throw-Ins: 17 - 29
QPR and Luton have met 4 times since September 2019. QPR have won 3 times, 1 match ended in a draw. The most recent match between them took place on May 8, 2021 at the Championship of England where QPR won 3-1. QPR have scored 9 goals in these 4 head-to-head matches in total while Luton have scored 4. So, overall, QPR have a better head-to-head record against Luton in their recent history.
QPR have won 13 of their 25 matches in Championship, drawing 5 and having 7 defeats this season. They have scored 38 goals - 1.52 per match, conceding 30 - 1.20 per match. Luton have won 8 of their 23 matches in Championship, drawing 8 and having 7 defeats this season. They have scored 34 goals - 1.48 per match, conceding 29 - 1.26 per match.
QPR have played a draw with Blackpool in their previous match while Luton have lost to Stoke City in their previous match. Overall, QPR have won 10 of their last 20 matches, losing 6 and drawing 4, while Luton have won 7 of their last 20 matches, losing 6 and drawing 7. In their most recent 6 matches QPR have won twice (0-1 against Cardiff City on 3rd of November and 1-0 against Blackburn on 19th of October), lost twice (0-0 against Sunderland on 26th of October and 2-1 against Peterborough United on 23rd of October) and drew twice (1-1 against Blackpool on 6th of November and 1-1 against Nottingham Forest on 29th of October). In their most recent 6 matches Luton have won 3 times (3-1 against Middlesbrough on 2nd of November, 1-0 against Hull City on 23rd of October and 0-2 against Millwall on 16th of October), lost twice (0-1 against Stoke City on 6th of November and 2-0 against Preston NE on 30th of October) and drew once (2-2 against Derby County on 19th of October).
QPR's last 4 matches had 2 or less goals.
Luton have gone 4 consecutive matches without a draw.
As always, England Championship's live standings are availble and updated in real time. QPR are 4th in the table with 44 points after 25 matches, while Luton are 15th with 32 points in 23 matches.
We are adding goal videos and full video highlights of the match between QPR and Luton in real time. You can watch the goals by Chris Willock and Charlie Austin as the videos of the goals are added usually minutes after the actual event if there are any official videos available. Full video highlights of QPR - Luton are being added as they become available on the official social media channels of the league or the teams.
Match ends. QPR 2, Luton 0.
Robert Dickie is shown the yellow card.
Substitution for QPR. Luke Amos replaces Ilias Chair
Substitution for QPR. Osman Kakay replaces Albert Adomah
Substitution for Luton. Cameron Jerome replaces Allan Campbell
Substitution for QPR. Sam Field replaces Charlie Austin
Charlie Austin is shown the yellow card.
Substitution for Luton. Admiral Muskwe replaces Harry Cornick
Andre Dozzell is shown the yellow card.
Elijah Adebayo is shown the yellow card.
Charlie Austin scores for QPR.
Sonny Bradley is shown the yellow card.
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Half Time - 1 : 0
First half ends.
Henri Lansbury is shown the yellow card.
Chris Willock scores for QPR.
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After you've finished the last sliver of pie, the turkey and cranberry sauce are tucked into the fridge, and napped, what will you be working on? If yarn is in your plans, here are some easy ideas for stitching after the stuffing.
You just need scissors for this beautiful (and fast!) knotted sashay scarf!
We even have a blog post with tips for this pattern.
These scarves are easy to make, and easy to customize, making them a great gift too! The Reflective scarf is a favorite around the Red Heart office.
Want to get cozy? This Light & Lofty throw works up quickly!
Maybe there's a baby on the way, or already in your life, this hat and blankie set are easy and quick.
Too stuffed to even think about knitting or crocheting? Get a head start on your holiday décor with these easy, no-stitch projects!
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Der Burghof am Drachenfels in Königswinter, einer Stadt im nordrhein-westfälischen Rhein-Sieg-Kreis, geht auf einen Wirtschaftshof der Burggrafen von Drachenfels zurück. Er steht als Baudenkmal unter Denkmalschutz.

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Der Burghof liegt auf gut , 250 m südöstlich von Schloss Drachenburg sowie etwa 300 m nördlich und 110 Höhenmeter unterhalb der Burgruine Drachenfels. Am Burghof führt ein Verbindungsweg zwischen dem Eselsweg und der asphaltierten Drachenfelsstraße vorbei, der als Aufstieg zum Berggipfel genutzt wird.

Geschichte

Der Burghof soll bis ins 12. Jahrhundert zurückreichen und diente ursprünglich der Versorgung der Burgen Drachenfels und Wolkenburg. Letztere verfiel bereits im 16. Jahrhundert, die Burg Drachenfels war schon vor ihrer Zerstörung in den 1630er-Jahren nicht mehr bewohnt. Urkundlich in Erscheinung trat der Burghof erstmals 1666 im Taufregister der Königswinterer Pfarrkirche St. Remigius. Bereits 1811 wurde er als Wein- und Kaffeewirtschaft genutzt. 1828 verzeichnete er 16 und 1843 neun Einwohner. Seinerzeit galt er als Treffpunkt der Bonner Studentenschaft. 1854 ging der Burghof in den Besitz von Ferdinand Hoffmann, eines Emigranten nach Amerika über. Er weitete den landwirtschaftlichen Betrieb bei Schließung der Gastwirtschaft wesentlich aus, unter anderem auf den Getreide- und Weinanbau, und verband ihn 1862 mit dem nahegelegenen Gut Elsigerfeld (heute "Milchhäuschen"). Außerdem ließ er auf dem Grundstück einen Pavillon mit Rheinblick erbauen und die Außenanlagen durch Pflanzung von Esskastanien und eines Mammutbaums neu gestalten.

1881 erwarb Stephan von Sarter, Erbauer des gegenüberliegenden und 1884 fertiggestellten Schloss Drachenburg, den Burghof. Er nutzte ihn als repräsentativen Wohnsitz, 1885 war er von acht Menschen bewohnt. Die Gastwirtschaft wurde 1895 wiedereröffnet, zum Abriss kamen im Jahr darauf für einen neuen Pferde- und Kuhstall ein Gebäude an der Hangseite sowie 1900 eine Scheune. Sarters Erbe und Neffe, Jakob Hubert Biesenbach (1870–1947), ließ das Hauptgebäude des Burghofs 1904 nach erfolgtem Abbruch als Berghotel im Landhausstil neu aufbauen, wobei die dem 19. Jahrhundert entstammenden Wirtschaftsgebäude aus Backstein erhalten wurden. In der Zeit des Nationalsozialismus diente Schloss Drachenburg und zugleich auch der Burghof ab Winter 1941/42 als Adolf-Hitler-Schule. Er blieb bis Mitte der 1980er-Jahre hinsichtlich der Besitzverhältnisse mit Schloss Drachenburg verbunden. Seitdem 1989 die Konzession für das Hotel erlosch, ist das Gebäude leerstehend und befindet sich im Verfallsprozess, auch nach einem neuerlichen Besitzerwechsel im Jahre 2004. Ein weiterer Verkaufsversuch für eine gastronomische Nutzung nach erfolgter Sanierung startete im Frühjahr 2013. Im November 2014 bewilligte der Haushaltsausschuss des Deutschen Bundestages 300.000 Euro aus Mitteln des "Denkmal-Sonderprogramms" für die Sanierung des Burghofs. Im Februar 2016 erwarb der Bonner Immobilienunternehmer Marc Asbeck den Burghof. Er plante zunächst, ihn nach einer Sanierung privat zu nutzen und ihn möglicherweise auch für öffentliche Veranstaltungen freizugeben. Ab November 2018 bot Asbeck die noch immer nicht sanierte Immobilie wieder zum Verkauf an, nachdem sich Genehmigungsverfahren für seine Pläne in die Länge gezogen hatten und die NRW-Stiftung als Eigentümerin des benachbarten Schlosses Drachenburg sich gegen einen Erwerb des Anwesens entschieden hatte. Im Herbst 2019 erwarb der Immobilienunternehmer und Weingutbesitzer Bernd G. Siebdrat aus Rhöndorf den Burghof und kündigte ein anspruchsvolles Sanierungsprojekt mit dem Ziel einer unter anderem gastronomischen Nutzung an. Die Sanierung des Burghofs für eine Nutzung als "Siebengebirgsalm" soll 2022 beginnen.

Die Eintragung des Burghofes in die Denkmalliste der Stadt Königswinter erfolgte am 18. November 1997.

Literatur
 Angelika Schyma: Stadt Königswinter (= Denkmaltopographie Bundesrepublik Deutschland, Denkmäler im Rheinland, Band 23.5.). Rheinland-Verlag, Köln 1992, ISBN 3-7927-1200-8, S. 55, 123.
 Heimatverein Siebengebirge (Hrsg.); Winfried Biesing: Das Schloss Drachenburg und der Burghof im Wandel der Zeit. Edition Lempertz, Königswinter 1997, ISBN 3-933070-00-7. [noch nicht für diesen Artikel ausgewertet]

Weblinks

 , Virtuelles Heimatmuseum Ittenbach

Einzelnachweise

Gutshof in Nordrhein-Westfalen
Betriebsstätte eines Beherbergungsbetriebes
Erbaut in den 1900er Jahren
Baudenkmal in Königswinter
Bauwerk in Königswinter
Königswinter (Stadtteil)
Drachenfels (Siebengebirge)
Unternehmen (Königswinter)

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