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At CPS, our partnership leaders are our greatest asset. We honor the dedicated work of hundreds of leaders worldwide who are creatively applying partnership and caring economy principles in their work. CPS's leadership community is intergenerational, ranging from teens to elders, spanning 30 countries and over 400 active leaders and 6000+ community members.
CPS's global leaders are active cultural change agents, catalyzing positive change in their circles of influence. They are community organizers, parents and grandparents, scholars, coaches, teachers, healthcare workers, business owners, policy advocates, students, and media creators, and many are graduates of CPS's Leadership & Learning programs.
Read their success stories below and in the Leader's Blog:
Leader's Blog
Connect locally with other partnership leaders, attend an online Community Gathering, write for the CPS Leaders Blog, the Interdisciplinary Journal of Partnership Studies, or other national publications, attend a webinar or take a class, start a community partnership meet-up or book group, get active in social media, make a video, or directly support CPS's work as a monthly Caring Sustainer.
There are dozens of ways to get involved. Contact CPS and let us know how you'd like to contribute!
Partnership leader success stories:
Ginger Garner, PhD.: Leading in medicine and politics
Partnership leader, author and founder of Medical Therapeutic Yoga Ginger Garner ran for the North Carolina State Senate, District 2, and won her primary. She has lectured extensively across the world "...on how Dr. Eisler's caring economics theory offers a solid, proven well researched path to end violence against women and create societies that value caregiving and the feminine qualities that raise up and nurture generations".
Ginger wrote that her political leadership "is the means by which, through caregiving and service to the public, I can continue to translate caring economy principles into policy. I would encourage other partnership and caring economics leaders to consider what critical role they could have in influencing policy that would support and solidify the value of caregiving and of nonviolent action in their community. Whether running for the local school board or commissioner seat, or serving on a town committee, never underestimate the power of a few dedicated people to change the world". "Dr. G", as she is lovingly called by her clients, is currently focusing her EudeMOMia practice on empowerment and advocacy for new mothers recovering after birth.
Read more about Ginger's work
Sharon Sund: Exploring partnership & race – how do we create lasting change?
In 2012, Sharon ran for US Congress bringing in close to 100,000 votes. A consultant, speaker, community organizer and seasoned caring economy and partnership leader, Sharon has written for the CPS Leader's Blog on race, intersectionality & partnership, and the roots of violence. Sharon writes, "During these turbulent times, there are hopeful movements, 'Me Too', 'Never Again', and 'Black Lives Matter'. Many are asking, 'how do we create lasting change?' Let me suggest that lasting change will not happen unless America faces the violence and abuse it propagated and continues to administer against African American descendants of slave-workers and now toward anyone of color. When we consider how we move forward, the emerging Partnership social systems model should be our major focus".
Read more about Sharon's work
Jason Campbell: Leading partnership models of negotiation in organizations
Jason Campbell, M.L.S., is a partnership leader and graduate student at the Thunderbird School of Global Management, Arizona State University. A long-time cultural change agent, he initiated the May, 2019 CPS Partnership Negotiations webinar and has launched a new Quantum Buoyancy Community space on Mighty Networks to leverage the conversation about partnership negotiations in organizations. He writes, "In partnership systems, we strive to negotiate with the focus on how we can actualize the greatest benefit of all. When we recognize that we are in the black hole [of domination-thinking], we must step up and step out in order to strengthen and preserve the partnership within. Without the guilt and shame of power-over paradigms, we can recognize our unconscious value drivers and then work with the ultimate nature of the mind – further developing the negotiation skillset and the ability to use a broad behavioral repertoire in a partnership-sensitive way".
Read more about Jason's work
Brie Mathers: Empowering young women and men to re-vision gender
Brie Mathers, outspoken CPS Partnership leader and founder of Love the Skin You're In, is an activist and motivational speaker who has presented to more than 100,000 teens worldwide through her multimedia in-school events. Brie's resiliency project empowers young women to think critically about their place in society, and about the popular and social media messages they are receiving about body image, sexuality, and self-worth. Her presentations to young men address toxic masculinity and traditional gender expectations. In her work she poses big questions such as 'How can parents and kids break free from the unconscious bias that reinforce limiting gender roles?' Brie: "We can aspire to be perfect and admired or we can drop into the gift of being authentic, lovable, and loving and recognize our common, vulnerable, messy, exquisite humanity. As one young man at The American School in Switzerland reflected in his testimonial, "This taught me that love can change everything. Looking toward the future, I'll go with that."
Brie is part of the CPS Speaker's Bureau and represents the Partnership Next Gen program. She has appeared as a panelist with Ashanti Branch and Riane Eisler in the 2018 webinar Behind Our Gender Masks: Empowering Young Women and Men to Express their Full Humanity.
Read more about Brie's work
Julie Hanks: Nurturing partnership families
Julie Hanks, PhD., LCSW, partnership leader, author, speaker and clinical therapist in Salt Lake City, Utah, speaks widely about ways we can work together to release domination-system patterns and nurture families grounded in partnership systems. In her CPS post 4 Ways to Create Partnership Families, Julie writes, "If every child grew up in a home where partnership was practiced, the world would be transformed. That is my vision, and I'm on a mission to help families develop partnership patterns and shed the shackles of domination that have formed rigid family roles. I want all people to see themselves as important caregivers in the lives of others, as creators of their lives, and as crucial leaders in the larger world. I want children to feel connected to themselves and others, to value relationships above status, and to respond to the suffering of others with compassion". Julie reveals common parenting patterns and shows how we can move toward partnership parenting. She authored the article Bringing Partnership Home: A Model of Family Transformation in the Interdisciplinary Journal of Partnership Studies.
Read more about Julie's work
Sabrina Chakori: Advocating systemic change
Australia-based caring economy leader Sabrina Chakori questions the assumption that to be a consumer is responsible citizenship, and suggests that the challenge of this century is to reconceptualize our role in the economy. Sabrina asks, "If people as consumers are primarily identified as economic entities, where does that leave culture, creativity, self-actualization and our capacity to evolve towards healthy and whole economic systems that embrace partnership values?" She contributed a chapter in the book Positive Steps to a Steady State Economy, titled "Consumer, citizen or a new definition? The necessity to change both the term and our behaviour."
Sabrina emphasizes "the necessity of a shift toward a partnership model that takes into account all beings, one that becomes the norm in our society. Eisler (2005) express two key aspects of partnership systems: the importance of empowering people, and of linking rather than ranking. With these ingredients, we could achieve a systematic change that takes into account that society must operate within nature's limits and that, the economy must serve (not dominate) society." Sabrina presented caring economy workshops at a Sydney, Australia new economy conference ("Redefining people in sustainable economies: the consumer has to go") and at the 2016 COP22 in Marrakesh, Morocco.
Read more about Sabrina's work
Liz Copeland: Organizing and advocating for caring economy policy advocacy in New Mexico
Liz Copeland, certified caring economy leader, educator and community activist, has taught caring economy and partnership systems workshops in her hometown of Albuquerque, including the Fall 2018 "Paradigm Shift: The Work of Riane Eisler" through the Albuquerque's Oasis educational program. Liz is a dedicated and resourceful community organizer and social justice advocate— in collaboration with other CPS leaders she has promoted the adoption of social wealth economic indicators to the state of New Mexico's Democratic party Platform and Resolutions committee as an essential guide for public investment locally and nationally.
Read more about Liz's work


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When my first kid was born, the bond was immediate. The labor was induced, due to preeclampsia, and it went quickly: six hours after the Pitocin drip started, I was holding my tiny, squirming little bundle in my arms. I had dreamed of a natural labor and delivery, in a birthing center, and worried that the change to a hospital birth with medical intervention would impact the bonding process I had read so much about. Instead, my heart broke open and I never loved someone so intensely as I did the moment I saw my precious boy.
Eighteen months later, to the day, I was in labor with my second boy. I had taken all the precautions this time, doing all the things my midwife had advised to avoid preeclampsia, and was actually going to be able to have a home birth this time. We would be in our safe space, without medical intervention, and it was going to create the ultimate bonding opportunity between my child and me. What I couldn't anticipate, though, was that eighteen hours of back labor, a much longer period of time pushing than the first delivery I experienced, and a baby that was 50 percent larger than my first resulted in me feeling exhausted, pained, and hollow. I looked at my second baby, perfect in every way, and though glad he was safe and healthy, I felt little more than appreciation that the entire process was over.
At the realization that I was not over the moon as I had been with my first, that appreciation was suddenly replaced with a crushing sense of Mommy-guilt. Why didn't I feel the euphoria I felt before? Why didn't I feel that bond the second I saw him, as I had before? I had checked all the boxes, done everything right—what was wrong with me?
Turns out, the immediate bond with your child isn't something that everyone experiences. In fact, 20 percent of new parents don't feel that intense attachment the second they lay eyes on their new baby. Those feelings are even harder to come by if your birth is traumatic in any way, as having a child doesn't remove the part of you that is human. Experiencing pain, emotional and/or physical, requires healing, and your brain may require that to happen first before a bond can occur with your child. Worse yet, there is immense pressure to suddenly have an entire identity shift with the birth of a child, so in addition to dealing with the difficult transition to parenthood, a lack of bonding can be accompanied with a giant helping of shame. Those negative feelings, isolation, and other biological factors can spiral into developing postpartum depression, and it's important to recognize when extra support is needed. In the meantime, removing the pedestal we place motherhood on with all of its attached expectations of perfection allows for more opportunity to talk about the times where we don't meet expectations.
Four years later, that second boy of mine is full of more goodness than I could ever ask for, and I am fully over the moon for all the things that he is. It took some time to get there, but that doesn't make me less-than—it makes me human.
As a woman, I struggle with being confident. Many of us do. It's hard to be confident in ourselves when we are bombarded with images of beauty, perfection, and let's face it–unrealistic expectations. When I became a mom, a whole new pressure was placed on me. I wanted to be perfect. I wanted to be the mom who knew what she was doing with my newborn. With my toddler, I wanted to be the mom who never had a child out of control in a store. Now, here I am with almost three little ones, and I find myself wanting to be the mom of three who has it together. I don't want to be a hermit and hide from the world. I want to nurse confidently in public while taking care of two toddlers. I want to be able to go to stores and Starbucks with my little ones and get a latte without causing a scene. But most importantly, I want to be confident in myself as a mother.
I've heard before that you are the perfect mother for your children. There is a reason why you have the children you have with the personalities they have. Johanna, who is 4, has been a strong-willed little thing during her toddler years. However, as she is 4 now, I am starting to see a sweet, sensitive, and independent little girl. It makes my heart swell to know she is growing up. Could I have had something to do with that good stuff?
Moms are constantly judging moms. When your baby is born, you are judged for where they sleep, whether they are breast or bottle fed, and even how much weight you lose. It never ends. Did your little one meet milestones on time? What about any challenges? For us, we had some speech issues with Johanna and Levi had to wear a helmet for several months as an older baby. Did any of this make me a bad mom? No. Did any of this cause me to be insecure and feel unconfident as a mother? I have to say yes even though that's hard to admit.
What about you mom, who do you want to be? I know I have found myself apologizing to my children on days where I fall short. I want them to see me as a confident person, not as someone who can't keep it together. Now, don't get me wrong, there will be days where you cry and say the wrong thing or teach your little one something you wish you could reverse.
When we are confident and calm, things just seem to go smoother with our kids. Take a grocery store trip. When I am calm and collected, I am less worried about how the trip will go. When I feel insecure I am pretty sure the lady at the checkout pities me. I definitely prefer the first feeling.
I think it's important as moms to focus on the positive in our lives. Don't dwell on bad advice or buy into the mommy comparison game. Do what's best for your family and focus on that. Pat yourself on the back occasionally.
Take the time for yourself, too. We are still women. Take a bubble bath or drink some tea. Go to dinner or a movie with a friend. Go get out in nature with your baby and get away from the distractions. Surround yourself with people who make you feel valued and loved.
I firmly believe being a mom is a gift. It's not something to take lightly. So will I fail? Yes. Does that mean I'm a horrible mother? No.
Karyn Meyerhoff lives and writes in Northeast Arkansas where she needs to be playing with her daughter and not working.
I used to put tremendous pressure on myself to get everything "just right." And that often resulted in feeling frustrated. Because while I would approach each day with the very best of intentions to be super productive, the demands of caring for little ones quickly took over and trumped almost everything on my to-do list. Even something as simple as making a phone to schedule a dentist appointment would sometimes take days to cross off the list. It really shouldn't be that difficult to find 10 minutes of quiet to make a simple phone call. Yet it is. Surprisingly so. Because when you finally get that window of opportunity your phone has 3% battery and you can't find the charger, and you make the call anyway hoping it will be quick, but of course you are put on hold and battery gives out before you can complete the call. And now "buy new charger" is added to your to-do list.
A while back I might have felt frustrated about the inability to complete such a simple task in a timely manner; but I now know that it all eventually gets done. And whatever doesn't get done (you know, like that stack of Christmas cards you bought that just sat on your desk until February 3 when you finally decided to pack them away and try again next year) probably doesn't really matter much in the grand scheme of life. And that's the other beautiful refinement that comes along with being at peace with unproductivity; you generally strengthen your ability to prioritize. When you know it is likely you will only get one or two things done, you tend to pick the things that count the most. Usually. But then occasionally the darndest thing happens and you find yourself concentrating on a silly task like reorganizing the spice drawer, even though it is the most impractical thing to be doing. The kids are hungry, the dog needs to go on a walk, you have to be out the door in 22 minutes and yet there you are alphabetizing your spice drawer. Why do we do this? And furthermore why does it bring us so much satisfaction? Honestly I don't really have an answer except that it just feels good from time to time to channel energy into a fresh and unexpected way.
So give yourself permission to go with the ebb and flow of the day. Relax and know what needs to get done, will get done. Anything beyond that is just icing on the cake. It might even be the sprinkles on the icing on the cake. And when you get the weird crazy impractical urge to reorganize your spice drawer, just embrace it. Surely it serves some purpose, which may well just be to help us make sense of our day that seem so out of our control. Perhaps it's like building a snowman in the snowstorm, instead of shoveling.
Motherhood is such a journey. You have a baby and your world changes. It changes in so many ways for the better, and then there are the harder changes. You suddenly care way less about yourself and your world revolves around this tiny being. You get less sleep, wear more yoga pants, and drink more coffee, but your world is perfect. Or is it?
Motherhood is hard. Not all days are sunny and full of rainbows. We have hard days where we cry in the bathroom and need a friend or our mom to talk to. People are always saying to enjoy the stage you are in because it goes so quickly, but this can be so hard.
Does anyone else struggle with being content where you are? I have two amazing young toddlers who I wouldn't trade for the world, and yet I find myself dreaming of days when they will be older, in school, or not as whiny. Awful? No. Real life? Yes.
Social media tends to make this worse for us moms. If you scroll through your newsfeed on Facebook, you see pictures of moms who seem to have it all together. I can think of a couple of these moms who continuously post their highlight reel. Kids in matching dresses on vacation, moms with perfect make-up, and their families are poised and perfect. We see these things and want what they have. We want to appear to have it all together. We want our kids to be the ones who always get along, never throw fits in Target, and we want to be the moms with perfectly kept nails and eyebrows.
I don't have the answer on how to be content, moms. This is something I struggle with daily. With two little ones and one due this fall, I am finding myself desiring a bigger car and a house with another bedroom. But, do I really need these things? No. I want to choose to be happy with what my family has. I mean the important things aren't the toys, clothes, perfect pictures, and immaculate homes, right?
I want to focus on the fun. I want to embrace toddlerhood and all of the crazy that comes with it. It's okay if my kids don't look perfect. My daughter has decided at age 2 that she can choose her wardrobe. It's okay if we look a little crazy in Target and my kid is eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch to get me through a long list. It's okay if we don't have a big house or a new car.
I want to cherish my kids every day and the gift of being a mom. I want to be content.
Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of 2 in Northeast Indiana where she loves the giggles, messes, and crazy outfits that fill her days.


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Q: SSIS PL/SQL task hangs with message "Multiple-step OLE DB operation generated errors." I've configured a Microsoft SQL Server 2008 R2 SSIS package with an Execute SQL Task to run a PL/SQL query on an Oracle 10.2 database.
The Execute SQL Task (named "SQL Update MY_STATUS flag") is using an OLE DB Connection Manager with a "Native OLE DB\Oracle Provider for OLE DB" Provider. All other task settings are default values.
The query is simple:
UPDATE MY_TABLE
SET MY_STATUS = 1
WHERE MY_STATUS = 0

(Note: This query succeeds when run in SQL Developer with a semicolon terminator. Here the terminator is omitted, because if a semicolon is included, an invalid character error is generated by SSIS.)
When I start debugging, the task begins execution and then hangs indefinitely, the package does not complete execution.
The debug output window shows this message:

Warning: 0x0 at SQL Update MY_STATUS flag: Multiple-step OLE DB operation generated errors. Check each OLE DB status value, if
  available. No work was done.

(The Task behaves the same with the query configured as Direct Input, or as a Variable.)
What does this "Multiple-step" warning mean in this context? What must I do to allow the Execute SQL Task to succeed?

A: The reason the task was hanging was that I had run a separate update statement against MY_TABLE in a SQL Developer client window, and had not completed the transaction. Because the transaction was still open, the Execute SQL Task could not complete. Committing the transaction in SQL Developer allowed the SSIS package to complete, however, it still generated the same Warning message.
It appears the Warning message is harmless, though I still don't know how to interpret it.
Attention Microsoft SQL Server DBAs! The SQL Developer Oracle query window DOES NOT work like SQL Server Management Studio! DML queries are not implicit transactions, so and INSERT, UPDATE, OR DELETE statement leaves an open transaction unless you click the COMMIT or ROLLBACK button on the toolbar. Learn from my mistake.

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Q: Basic questions on installing Ubuntu on new laptop running Windows 10 I've recently migrated from a MacBook Pro to a Lenovo ThinkPad e550 and I have some preliminary (extremely nooby) questions on getting started with my Ubuntu installation.

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*On the Ubuntu website, it mentions that prior to beginning installation I should back up Windows on a bootable USB drive. I presume the purpose of this is in the case that I ever want Windows 10 back. The thing is I'm already familiar with Ubuntu (computers at my university have it installed) and I can't think of a scenario in which I'd want Windows back, or a scenario in which I'd want to dual-boot. What is your recommendation?
In the case that I decide to do the bootable USB drive, what would be a proposed step-by-step guide for me to accomplish it? Buy USB drive and follow guide on the Windows website?
In the case I choose to forego the bootable USB drive, is there anything I should keep in mind?

*I keep hearing the word partition, what does this mean? I'm fairly certain I don't want to share my disk drive with Windows, would a partition apply to my scenario?

*Lastly, I don't know if this is the right place to ask and excuse me (or direct me) if it's not the right place, but prior to the loss of my MacBook (water damage incident), I had all my files backed up on a Seagate external hard drive. How would I go about migrating my files to this laptop? Are there any special considerations since the backups were done by Time Machine on the Mac OS? Noobiest of all, every time I plug the hard drive into my laptop it doesn't seem to detect it?

*Bonus question. In the case of the bootable USB drive, would I be able to perform the backup of Windows on my external hard drive?
I apologize for my extreme lack of knowledge, I'm feeling rather lost so any answers/clarifications are greatly appreciated.
EDIT: Is there anything I should keep in mind to ensure the installation runs as smoothly as possible? Will I need to have a Ubuntu on a disk to install it?

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*You can get a bootable USB drive by using software like Pendrivelinux
It would basically act like a normal bootable CD, although I don't have much knowledge about bootable USB's since I've never used them.

*A partition is essentially a part of your harddrive. For example, you have a 500gb harddrive,and you want to dualboot Windows and another OS, you can create 2 or more partitions both with 250gb, so then Windows would have 250gb (in terms of installing and saving files) and the other OS would also have 250gb. For more info check this link.

3.Sorry, but I don't have much knowledge with backing files up either.
4.I think you can if you make a different partition for that.

A: Welcome to AskUbuntu sofdelg!
Your questions seem totally legitimate to me, so I'll answer them.
1: Having a bootable Windows backup is only useful to be able to rollback to Windows should you decide that you don't like Ubuntu or it won't run for some reason on your machine. (Bleeding edge hardware has a tendency of not working properly with stable releases. Tough based on the specs of the Lenovo ThinkPad e550 I don't think you'll run into this sort of problem.)
So basically having a rescue disk can be handy, but honestly I've never used a Windows disk for this purpose as I have a strong dislike (resentment?) towards that OS.
Still if you wish to use Windows for this purpose then this guide seems to do that.
A neat thing that some people seem to miss is the fact that you will likely install your Ubuntu from live media, and since that is also a self-contained system that can be booted it can be used for various repair purposes as long as you don't care about other OSes.
2: You might already be familiar with the concept of a "C: drive". This is in fact a misnomer as what people refer as c: is a partition on the disk.
Now don't get me wrong this isn't just a Windows thing, quite the opposite actually. A partition is basically just a piece of disk that you can mark with a "file-system type". For example on one of my disks the partition table looks like this:
Disk /dev/sda: 465.8 GiB, 500107862016 bytes, 976773168 sectors
Units: sectors of 1 * 512 = 512 bytes
Sector size (logical/physical): 512 bytes / 512 bytes
I/O size (minimum/optimal): 512 bytes / 512 bytes
Disklabel type: dos
Disk identifier: 0x000db12c

Device     Boot  Start       End   Sectors   Size Id Type
/dev/sda1  *      2048    295016    292969 143.1M 83 Linux
/dev/sda2       393214 976771071 976377858 465.6G  5 Extended
/dev/sda5       393216 976771071 976377856 465.6G 83 Linux

Basically the whole partition table is just a table at the start of the disk (after the main boot record), that indicates that which partitions starts where, how big they are, what type they have and whether they are bootable or not. If you wish to know more about this topic then this Wikipedia article seems to explain things excellently.
The gist of this is that yes, they do apply to you, but you (probably) won't have to worry about them as the installer can auto-create them for you, just pick something like "Use the whole disk" when that menu comes up. (Though you can have a lot of !!FUN!! by customizing stuff there.)
3: While this would be (probably) better suited as a stand-alone question, I'll answer it here as it's related to the previous question.
So by now you know that partitions have a type and that this type indicates their intended use. (Eg. the Linux in my above example means that said partition is intended to be mounted somewhere on /and is formatted with a Linux file-system - in this case ext4.)
Similar to the above your backups from the Mac reside on a disk that has been partitioned and formatted in a way that Windows (and even Linux) doesn't understand without additional drivers. According this Wikipedia article that file-system would be HFS+.
The good news is that Linux does have drivers to access your backups, and the procedure to mount it has even been asked here on AskUbuntu which I recommend you read through.
4: I believe trying to "back-up" Windows will likely format/overwrite/corrupt the drive and as such you will lose the things backed up from your Mac.
I can't recommend it unless you are entirely sure you don't need that data anymore.

I hope I managed to clear up some doubts you had.


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HUF IN FLORIDA Features HUF team riders Brad Cromer, Josh Matthews, & Dan Plunkett, with special guest Ryan Lay. As featured in Thrasher Magazine's October 2012 issue. Shot & Cut by Martin Reigel.
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Creating a Valentine: Writing Realistic Love Stories
Hi everybody! Happy Valentine's Day! I know a lot of people absolutely hate this holiday, but I definitely don't. Anyone who knows anything about me will tell you that an entire holiday devoted to hearts and candy and romance is right up my alley. So to celebrate, I'm going to talk to you guys about love... in your writing!
So often I see writers struggle with romance. Love stories are hard! Especially when you're trying to create a romance that builds in a genuine way. I can't even count the number of times I've been talking to a writer about their romance and they tell me, "I know what I want them to be like. I know that I want them to be special, but it just comes out like everything else out there."
And therein lies their problem. People, in general, tend to gravitate toward the mundane when it comes to romance. It's so easy to fall into cliches when writing a love story. The love interest shows up for the first date with a single red rose. They go to a candlelit dinner, and then stroll through the town, talking about their hopes and dreams. Then comes the built up first kiss at the door, and it's over. And none of these things are bad.
But they're not original either. What I'm talking about is creating moments between your characters that are uniquely them, and not just for their dates, or the things they do once they're together. From the very beginning.
Why do these two people love each other? Where does it start? WHY does it build? If you want a genuine romance, you have to give them something to connect to.
Let me give you an example. Let's say we have two characters. I'll name them... William and Lola. Now when this scenario here starts, William and Lola don't know each other at all. They're complete strangers, at the starting line, no previous contact. It's a blank slate.
So how do we get them from 0-60? From first meeting to true love? They could meet through a mutual friend. They could run into each other in the street. They could both reach for the last mimosa at a New Years party. They could meet up on an online dating service. Your options are almost limitless, which is part of the problem.
99% of those options probably won't mean anything to your characters.
Without that substance, without a reason to root for these two people, and tangible reasons for their feelings, there's nothing there but two people who fall in love for the sake of your story. And that'll never be enough.
In order to avoid this, you have attempt to create two characters with their own goals, their own paths within your story, and then make those paths cross in a way that makes sense. In a way that's theirs alone.
So, back to our example, what if William's last girlfriend died a while before the book begins, and he has to drive all of her stuff back home to her family? What if Lola is hitchhiking her way across the country during her year off from school to put some distance between her an an abusive ex? What if William see's Lola being hit on by a sleazy truck driver at a diner and then ends up offering her a ride? They're both struggling with things, but they're thrown together within the story by those things they're battling. It's not just a chance meeting of two people who are perfect for each other over a mimosa. It's the beginning of a story that's uniquely theirs. This battle to get over grief and heartache while on a journey across the country.
Complete with all the awkwardness a
journey like that would generate.
It's also about creating moments that are unique to them. Keeping with the same example, William and Lola could start off barely talking, and then William finds out they love the same band, and a few longing looks later, they're going at it in the backseat. But where's the substance there?
Insta-love is my most hated thing in books. I want to know WHY they feel that spark. I want to see it build into a flame, and then combust the both of them. I want reasons for their feelings. Insta-love cuts all of that down at the knees and it's incredibly frustrating.
Don't do this. You'll regret it when your characters are just two people who love each other because you said so. Make it difficult. Make them work for it. Love is often surprising to us, and half the time we don't even realize how hard we're falling until it's painfully obvious. One of my favorite Pride & Prejudice quotes is "I cannot fix on the hour, or the spot, or the look or the words, which laid the foundation. It is too long ago. I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun."
Give them a middle to find themselves stuck in.
The more unique your characters are, the more reasons you have for them to have this connection (and scenes where these reasons are shown and felt,) the more substance your story will have. Don't have William buy a rose at a gas station and hand it to Lola in the car. Show Lola always buying gummy bears and then (after an epic fight with her mom on the phone) William hands her a package to make her feel better. I mean, that's a pretty lame example, but it still makes my point. Show through Lola that William is paying attention. That he knows this little thing about her and makes it a point to use that to make her feel better.
In my WIP, I have a main character who starts collecting those teeny tiny seashells (the ones that are about the size of a pea) in a mason jar. When she's bored, she grabs her jar off the microwave, goes down to the beach, and sifts through the rocks for them. At some point, her love interest is in her house and asks about the shells, and she tells him about her little mission to fill it up before the end of the summer. From that point on, pretty much every time he sees her, he pulls a small handful of shells out of his pocket and hands them to her for the jar. This little inconsequential detail then becomes a thing between them, that carries through to the rest of the book. And it's not a cliche rose, or something generic. It's unique to my characters, and it means something more to both of them as the story builds too, and then later, when things sour, it's that mason jar that gets shattered in his driveway, like a symbol of them being "done." This thing they were building together is literally in pieces on the ground.
My point is, you need to find YOUR moments. The things that tie these people together, and not just because you said so. Their romance should be 100% theirs, even in a world where everything's been done before. It's the behind the scenes stuff, and that inner emotion, that'll make them stand out. Not grand gestures and romantic "type" things that happen.
Roses don't make a love story.
Your characters do, because...
So go forth, and dig into your own moments. List the reasons (and the moments) that build up these feelings for your characters. Why these strangers keep thinking about each other. Why these friends are suddenly feeling more than before. Why this online date is different than the others.
Whatever your premise is.
Don't let William and Lola become generic. Don't leave them to the single red rose and the candlelit restaurant. Cover the car with candles in an apology. Leave a wildflower from one of their stops wrapped around the gearshift after they've split up, as a reminder of what's been lost. Throw the death of the girlfriend in there at the worst possible time.
And I'll say it again: MAKE THEM WORK FOR IT.
Sometimes, love can be simple. But nobody wants to read about the simple ones. They want to see love conquer things. To level mountains. They want the challenge. So give them the challenge. Throw everything but the kitchen sink at your characters. Let them struggle through these moments you've created, and by the end of it, you'll have created a love worth rooting for.
And if that's not the goal of a romance, I'm not sure what is.
Toodles!
(Also, if writing romance is something that you really struggle with in general, and this advice isn't enough, I also offer romance critiques through Wild Things Editing, where I break down your love story and work with you to direct your romance in the direction you want. So if this is something that you feel might be helpful to you, feel free to contact me through the link above. I love working on love stories, so I'd be thrilled to help get yours in the right place.)
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Author David Cornwell, known as John le Carre, dies aged 89
Cornwell drew on his experience working for the British intelligence services including MI6 during the Cold War in his writing
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Cold War espionage author David Cornwell, known by his pen name John le Carre, has died aged 89 after a battle with pneumonia.
Among his 25 novels were acclaimed best-sellers including Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy, The Spy Who Came In From The Cold, and The Night Manager.
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Born in 1931, Cornwell was first educated at the University of Bern, in Switzerland, where he studied German.
He studied further at Oxford before teaching at Eton, then embarking on his undercover intelligence career, in the guise of a junior diplomat at the British embassy at Bonn, in western Germany.
His first thriller, Call For The Dead, was published pseudonymously in 1961.
Two years later, the publication of The Spy Who Came In From The Cold, a story about an assignment to confront East German Intelligence, brought him world-wide acclaim, and he left the service to pursue writing full time.
Cornwell said his manuscript was approved by the secret service because they "rightly if reluctantly" concluded it was "sheer fiction from start to finish" and posed no security risk.
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"David is survived by his beloved wife of almost 50 years, Jane, and his sons Nicholas, Timothy, Stephen and Simon.
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Margaret Atwood tweeted that Cornwell's Smiley novels were the "key to understanding the mid-20th century", historian Simon Sebag Montefiore called him "the titan of English literature up there with the greats … in person, captivating and so kind and generous to me and many others", while Brazilian author Paulo Coelho said: "John Le Carre, you were not only a great writer, but a visionary. Enjoy your new home #Rip."
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Category: Sacrifices
Slaughtering the sacrifice is better than giving its price in charity
Dear Brothers & Sisters,
As-Salaamu-Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
If there are poor people in my country who need money, can I give them the price of the sacrifice in charity, or should I offer the sacrifice?.
Guidelines on the definition of the household for which one udhiyah is sufficient
He is studying in the west; should he offer the udhiyah (sacrifice) there or appoint someone to do it on his behalf in his own country?
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Slaughtering the sacrifice is better than giving its price in charity, because that was what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and the Muslims with him did. And because the sacrifice is one of the ritual of Islam; if the people turn away from it and give charity instead, that symbol will die out. If giving the price of the sacrifice in charity was better than slaughtering the sacrifice, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would have explained that to his ummah in word and deed, because he did not omit to explain anything that was good for the ummah. Indeed, if giving charity was equal to offering the sacrifice he would have explained that too, because it is easier than going to the trouble of offering the sacrifice. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never failed to point out the easier option to his ummah when it was equal to the more difficult option. There was a famine during the lifetime of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he said, "Whoever among you offers a sacrifice should not keep any of it in his house for more than three days."
The following year, they said, "O Messenger of Allaah, should we do what we did last year?" The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Eat and feed the poor and store some, for last year the people were having a hard time and I wanted you to help them." Agreed upon.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Sacrifice when prescribed is better than giving its price in charity. He said, Hence even if you give many times more the value of the sacrifice for tamattu' and qiraan, it will never take its place, and the same applies to udhiyah.
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for refusing to correct a racially inflammatory falsehood about the alleged banning of Hawaiian language in the schools of Hawaii. The falsehood was asserted repeatedly in advertisements through email, televised teasers, and website announcements ahead of an INSIGHTS panel discussion televised live on March 28, 2019 regarding the history and revival of Hawaiian language; and was anticipated to be also asserted by panelists during the discussion.
For a long time PBS-Hawaii President/CEO Leslie Wilxcox has been sending out an email blast on Fridays announcing major TV shows that will be broadcast during the following week. The contents of those announcements are also displayed on the station's website, Facebook page, etc. for maximum publicity. The announcement sent on Friday March 22, 2019 included a description of an upcoming 60-minute live panel discussion in the long-running "Insights" series to be broadcast on Thursday March 28 from 8-9 PM.
The truth is that HAWAIIAN LANGUAGE HAS NEVER BEEN MADE ILLEGAL OR SUPPRESSED IN WRITTEN PUBLICATIONS, NOR IN PUBLIC OR PRIVATE SPEECH OR PERFORMANCES; AND HAWAIIAN LANGUAGE HAS NEVER BEEN FORBIDDEN BY LAW IN SCHOOLS. An amendment to the compulsory attendance law was passed in 1896 to require that any public or private "school" must use English as the language for teaching all subjects in order for that school to be certified as meeting the requirement that all children must attend "school" — but the amendment did NOT forbid after-school or weekend academies from using Japanese or Hawaiian or any other language, and did not prohibit teaching language courses. Japanese parents created such Japanese language academies for their children to learn Japanese culture and history; but Hawaiian parents chose not to do that.
Why is it racially inflammatory to assert that Hawaiian language was illegal in daily life or forbidden in schools? Because today's Hawaiian sovereignty activists have repeatedly and loudly made such claims as a way of portraying Native Hawaiians as victims entitled to reparations. The U.S. in general, and "haoles" (white people) in particular, are called colonial oppressors who suppressed native culture and even "made our native language illegal right here in our own homeland." "My grandma told me she was beaten by her haole teacher for speaking Hawaiian in school." For decades the activists claimed that Hawaiian language had been made illegal. When they were challenged to cite such a law, or to name even a single person who had been jailed for speaking Hawaiian, they could not do so. When it became publicly clear that dozens of Hawaiian language newspapers had been openly published continuously through 1948, and the Kamehameha song contest had been running since 1920 etc., a few professors of Hawaiian language nevertheless continued to insist the language had been made illegal. The claim of general illegality has been forced by the facts to retreat to a claim of the language being banned in school. But it is false, and still racially inflammatory, and must be completely discredited. Comes now the PBS-Hawaii "Insights" TV show with a panel of Hawaiian-language zealots accustomed to earning a living based partly on asserting the now-disproved lie, with the PBS-Hawaii corporate leadership acting as accomplices by giving them a megaphone. Hawaiian is a beautiful language that deserves to be preserved and to thrive as an important element of the culture which is the core of what makes Hawaii a special place. The beautiful language must be liberated from an ugly political demagoguery broadcasting a racially incendiary lie which serves only to foment racial resentment and hatred.
The Goebbels Award provides a copy of the warning to PHS-Hawaii and its executives demanding a correction of the falsehood, which included a summary of evidence that it is false, an explanation of why it is racially incendiary, and links to webpages where detailed proof of falsity can be found.


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Q: Selecting Workday Data from CSV using Python my data is formatted as such:
Username, Timestamp, Text
Joe Bloggs, Thu Oct 5 09:00:00 +0000 2017, Starting work
Jane Doe, Fri Oct 7 18:00:00 +0000 2017, Finished work
Tom Smith, Sat Oct 8 04:00:00 +0000 2017, Still coding this thing

I have a CSV of 5M rows like this, and I'd like to extract just those within 9am-5pm Mon-Fri.
I've read plenty of posts about dummy data and row-by-row extraction, but I'd like to actually filter the dataset as a whole and the examples are either incomplete or confusing to non-experts.
EDIT:
Thanks to @ivan7707 for the answer. Here is my completed code, I didn't include anything at the start as I knew my code was wildly wrong. (I was having issues with %z so resorted to splitting.)
import csv
from datetime import datetime
main_file = csv.DictReader(open("source.csv","rb"))
for row in main_file: #points to csv
    username = row['Username']
    text = row['Text']
    timestamp = row['Timestamp']

    #Convert timestamp to useable format
    timestamp = timestamp.split()
    timestamp = (timestamp[2] + "-" + timestamp[1] + "-" + timestamp[5] + " " + timestamp[3])
    dt = datetime.strptime(timestamp, "%d-%b-%Y %H:%M:%S")

    if dt.isoweekday() in range(1, 6): #If day is Mon-Fri
        if dt.hour in range(9, 17): #If hour is 9am-5pm
            output_file.writerow([username,text,timestamp]) #Save

EDIT 2:
Following the conversation ivan7707 and I had in the comments, here is the code that adds a week number to the data:
import csv
from datetime import datetime
main_file = csv.DictReader(open("source.csv","rb"))
for row in main_file:
    username = row['Username']
    text = row['Text']
    timestamp = row['Timestamp']

    #Convert timestamp to usable format as it was erroring with %z (+0000 part)
    timestamp = timestamp.split()
    timestamp = (timestamp[2] + "-" + timestamp[1] + "-" + timestamp[5] + " " + timestamp[3])
    dt = datetime.strptime(timestamp, "%d-%b-%Y %H:%M:%S")

    #Check if timestamp is within Mon-Fri 9am-5pm
    if dt.isoweekday() in range(1, 6): #Mon-Fri
        if dt.hour in range(9, 17): #9am-5pm
            weekday_list.append(week)
            output_file.writerow([username,text,timestamp,week]) #Writes to csv

    #Handy bit to iterate one week per 5 business days
    elif dt.isoweekday() == 7:
        if len(weekday_list) > 1:
            weekday_list = []
            week += 1

Output for weekly script
Username, Timestamp, Text, Week,
Joe Bloggs, 06-10-2017 16:59:59, Hello World!, 1
Jane Doe,  09-10-2017 09:00:01, Hello!, 2

A: Python's datetime module is your friend here.  This should be enough to get you going.
example:
from datetime import datetime

dt = datetime.strptime("21/11/06 16:59", "%d/%m/%y %H:%M")

if dt.isoweekday() in range(1, 6):
    print('weekday')

if dt.hour in range(9, 17:00):
    print('working time')

Be aware of the right number in range not being included
Good stack overflow answer


New figures produced by the House of Commons Library show over three million low-income working families currently in receipt of tax credits will see their entitlement reduced across the UK, as part of the Government's proposals.
The change will mean a total loss of £3 million to families in the Cotswolds, with the average family losing £750 a year.
Despite claims from the Government that those affected will benefit from plans to increase the minimum wage, the independent Institute for Fiscal Studies has said the figures don't stack up.
"The changes to tax credits will hammer families in our area. The move completely undermines any claim the Conservatives have of being on the side of working families. We already have the biggest gap between wages and house prices in the West – this is just a step too far.
"What makes this even worse is that just over 5,000 children in our area will now be forced to live in poorer households, reducing their life chances and making it harder for their parents to make ends meet.


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Q: using of @CsvBindAndSplitByPosition to read csv file i am trying to read a csv file using @CsvBindAndSplitByPosition annotation with java spring mvc,but there is a problem in parsing my dates list.
this is my object:
import com.opencsv.bean.*;
import java.util.Date;
import java.util.List;
import java.util.SortedSet;

public class UserBindAndSplitByPosition {
    @CsvBindByPosition(position = 0)
    private String Name;
    @CsvBindByPosition(position = 1)
    private String Email;
    @CsvBindByPosition(position = 2)
    private String Address;
    @CsvBindAndSplitByPosition(position = 3, elementType = String.class)
    private List<String> PhoneNumbers;
    @CsvBindAndSplitByPosition(position = 4, elementType = Date.class, splitOn = ";+")
    @CsvDate(value="yyyy-MM-dd")
    SortedSet<Date> Dates;

    public List<String> getPhoneNumbers() {
        return PhoneNumbers;
    }

    public void setPhoneNumbers(List<String> phoneNumbers) {
        PhoneNumbers = phoneNumbers;
    }

    public SortedSet<Date> getDates() {
        return Dates;
    }

    public void setDates(SortedSet<Date> dates) {
        Dates = dates;
    }

    public String getName() {
        return Name;
    }

    public void setName(String name) {
        Name = name;
    }

    public String getEmail() {
        return Email;
    }

    public void setEmail(String email) {
        Email = email;
    }

    public String getAddress() {
        return Address;
    }

    public void setAddress(String address) {
        Address = address;
    }

}

the implementation for my service:
import com.csvRead.Repositories.UserBindAndSplitByName;
import com.csvRead.Repositories.UserBindAndSplitByPosition;
import com.opencsv.bean.CsvToBeanBuilder;
import org.springframework.stereotype.Service;

import java.io.File;
import java.io.FileNotFoundException;
import java.io.FileReader;
import java.util.List;

@Service("CsvBindAndSplitByPosition")
public class CsvBindAndSplitByPosition implements ReadWithAnnotation {
    @Override
    public void read(File file) {
        try {
            List<UserBindAndSplitByPosition> list = new CsvToBeanBuilder(new FileReader(file))
                    .withType(UserBindAndSplitByPosition.class)
                    .build().parse();
            System.out.println(list);
        } catch (FileNotFoundException e) {
            e.printStackTrace();
        }
    }
}

and i call this service in the the controller.
this is the csv file that i want to read:
User Name,User Email,Address,Phone Numbers,Dates
liena yasir omer,email@gmail.com,oumdurman,0912792888 1111111111 5555555555,2020-03-10T12:39:51.676
huda yasir omer,email@gmail,oman,1111111111 2222222222 1234567890,2020-03-10T12:39:51.676;;;2020-03-10T12:39:51.676

and the error as below:
Exception in thread "pool-1-thread-1" java.lang.RuntimeException: com.opencsv.exceptions.CsvDataTypeMismatchException
    at com.opencsv.bean.concurrent.ProcessCsvLine.run(ProcessCsvLine.java:99)
    at java.base/java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor.runWorker(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:1128)
    at java.base/java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor$Worker.run(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:628)
    at java.base/java.lang.Thread.run(Thread.java:830)
Caused by: com.opencsv.exceptions.CsvDataTypeMismatchException
    at com.opencsv.bean.ConverterDate.convertToRead(ConverterDate.java:299)
    at com.opencsv.bean.BeanFieldSplit.convert(BeanFieldSplit.java:189)
    at com.opencsv.bean.AbstractBeanField.setFieldValue(AbstractBeanField.java:180)
    at com.opencsv.bean.AbstractMappingStrategy.setFieldValue(AbstractMappingStrategy.java:581)
    at com.opencsv.bean.AbstractMappingStrategy.populateNewBean(AbstractMappingStrategy.java:328)
    at com.opencsv.bean.concurrent.ProcessCsvLine.processLine(ProcessCsvLine.java:128)
    at com.opencsv.bean.concurrent.ProcessCsvLine.run(ProcessCsvLine.java:83)
    ... 3 more
Caused by: java.text.ParseException: Unparseable date: "Dates"
    at java.base/java.text.DateFormat.parse(DateFormat.java:395)
    at com.opencsv.bean.ConverterDate.convertToRead(ConverterDate.java:286)
    ... 9 more
Mar 29, 2020 11:02:22 AM org.apache.catalina.core.StandardWrapperValve invoke
SEVERE: Servlet.service() for servlet [dispatcher] in context with path [] threw exception [Request processing failed; nested exception is java.lang.RuntimeException: Error parsing CSV line: 1. [User Name,User Email,Address,Phone Numbers,Dates]] with root cause
java.text.ParseException: Unparseable date: "Dates"
    at java.base/java.text.DateFormat.parse(DateFormat.java:395)
    at com.opencsv.bean.ConverterDate.convertToRead(ConverterDate.java:286)
    at com.opencsv.bean.BeanFieldSplit.convert(BeanFieldSplit.java:189)
    at com.opencsv.bean.AbstractBeanField.setFieldValue(AbstractBeanField.java:180)
    at com.opencsv.bean.AbstractMappingStrategy.setFieldValue(AbstractMappingStrategy.java:581)
    at com.opencsv.bean.AbstractMappingStrategy.populateNewBean(AbstractMappingStrategy.java:328)
    at com.opencsv.bean.concurrent.ProcessCsvLine.processLine(ProcessCsvLine.java:128)
    at com.opencsv.bean.concurrent.ProcessCsvLine.run(ProcessCsvLine.java:83)
    at java.base/java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor.runWorker(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:1128)
    at java.base/java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor$Worker.run(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:628)
    at java.base/java.lang.Thread.run(Thread.java:830)

A: This is because you are not skipping the first line of your csv, which is the header line.
Change your code to this to skip the first line (note: .withSkipLines)
 List<UserBindAndSplitByPosition> list = new CsvToBeanBuilder(new FileReader(file))
                    .withType(UserBindAndSplitByPosition.class)
                    .withSkipLines(1)
                    .build().parse();
            System.out.println(list);


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ENGIE has shares in four combined cycled gas turbine Al Rusail, Al-Kamil, Sohar 2 and Barka 3 (IPP - Independent Power Producer), and two plants of seawater desalination Sohar 1 and Barka 2 (IWPP - Independent Water and Power Producer). The total installed capacity owned by the Group in Oman is 1.5 GW of power generation and 87.6 m3 of water per day.
STOMO is a consortium between Tractebel, Repair and National Trading Company LLC. This 70% subsidiary of ENGIE provides operating and maintenance services of Group plants
SOHAR I, situated on Batinah coast, the combined cycle Gas Turbine (CCGT) coupled with a seawater desalinisation plant. It has a capacity of 585 MW of electricity and 150,000 m3 of drinking water per day. ENGIE (35 %) and its local partners operate the plant since 2007, and sold the production through of a long-term contract for a 15 years period at Oman Power and Water Procurement Company (OPWPC).
SOHAR II, is a power plant gas station with a capacity of 251 MW. Since May 2010, ENGIE owns a 46 % stake in the construction and operation of the plant, as part of a consortium with Omani partners (Multitech LLC and the Public Authority for Social Insurance) and Japanese partners (Sojitz Corporation and Shikoku Electric Company). Full commercial operation began in 2013, via an O & M agreement for a 15 years period.
AL RUSAIL, is the first power plant in the Sultanate of Oman which have been privatized. ENGIE (30.9%) operates as part of a consortium with Mubadala Development Company and National Trading Company, the gas station with a capacity of 665 MW, for a period of 15 years.
AL KAMIL, is operated by Al Kamil Power Company, which ENGIE owns a 65 % equity. This gas power plant has a capacity of 277 MW. Its production is sold since 2002 to OPWPC through a long-term supply contract until 2017.
BARKA II, is a combined-cycle gas turbine (CCGT) cpoupled with a seawater desalinisation plant, operated by a consortium with ENGIE (30.90 %), Mubadala Development (47.5 %) and National Trading Company (5%). Its production, 678 MW of electricity and 120,000 cubic meters of water per day is sold to Oman Power and Water Procurement Company (OPWPC) through a purchase power agreement for a 15 years period since 2009.
BARKA III, in which ENGIE has a 46 % stake, is a gas station with a capacity of 744 MW. Barka III received the EPCOD (Early Power Commercial Operation Date) in August 2012 and has been operating since 2013. Its production is sold to OPWPC (Oman Power and Water Procurement Company).
ENGIE Tractebel is active in the field of power generation and transfer and electricity distribution networks projects in the Sultanate of Oman. It has an extensive experience in seawater desalination units which allows to combine power and water generation. In Oman, Tractebel Engineering is the prime contractor for Barka III and Sohar II power plants, and also provides consulting services for Oman Electricity Transmission Company SAOC (OETC) on the country's transfer system.
To sum up :
270 000 m3 desalinated water per day ENGIE
Demand for electricity is growing at 7 % year-on-year[1]
97 % of natural gas exports are shipped to Asia
[1] Energy information administration – Oman, pdf
Commissioning of new power capacity in Middle East, in Barka 3 and Sohar 2
ENGIE (ex-GDF SUEZ) inaugurates two significant power plants for Oman with a total capacity of 1,488MW


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Singapore extends tracking to an internet of trees • The Register
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Singapore is obsessed with trees. The island nation, population 5.45 million people, is home to around seven million trees – and manages many of them with an enormous Internet of Things monitoring scheme.
Which is a very Singaporean thing to do, because another local obsession is tracking everything. The city-state's goal of becoming a Smart Nation includes an increasingly comprehensive masterplan that uses tech to manage, link and track as many aspects of life as possible.
Singapore's National Parks Board (NParks) therefore tracks trees – around six million of them – once they reach a certain size, so that arborists can manage them with an app.
NParks CEO Tan Chong Lee told The Register the agency's team visits every one of the urban trees to check their stability on a regular basis, but the remote tree system – combined with other digital assessments – allows many other tree management tasks to be done from the comfort of an air conditioned office.
NParks employee accesses TRS in the field – Click to enlarge
It's a handy option to have, given that Singapore's position near the equator means it stays in perpetual summer and daytime temperatures hover around 91°F (33°C). Unless it's raining, which it does an average of 167 days a year.
Singapore manages trees by creating a digital twin – capturing LiDAR point clouds and then applying artificial intelligence to geolocate each plant.
"This actually takes away the manual efforts so that our staff don't have to go around to the hill to measure all the trees – this can be done automatically through this system," Tan told The Register.
NParks then applies finite element models to the digital twin to assist the team in examining the overall tree stability under different weather conditions (Singapore experiences fierce tropical storms), considering factors like tree architecture, wood strength and root space.
But the inspections don't stop there. The org uses satellite remote sensing for multi-spectral analysis to determine chlorophyll levels to ensure the trees are still thriving. It also integrates street level cameras that give panoramic imagery for remote visual checks, and attaches physical tilt sensors to more mature trees – to detect any sudden movement that could indicate risk.
Tree tilt sensor – Click to enlarge
If NParks is alerted to any problems, staff can act to improve a tree's structure or conduct further assessments to determine if the plant's life has run its course.
Drill for measuring tree density and detecting cavities in the field – Click to enlarge
The high-tech tree analysis has been a long time in the making. Tan said the process started 20 years ago with geotagging the trees, and progressed as new technologies became available. Around five years ago, the geotagging of the trees began to be done through machine learning, thanks to a research project that was eventually put into practice. This means the tree inventory is now done automatically.
Five years ago another significant event happened in the NParks tree fleet. A 38-year-old woman died after being hit by a falling 270-year-old tembusu tree during a well-attended concert in the park with her family, infant in arms. The incident sticks in residents' memory as concert goers had rushed to remove the large tree.
According to a Botanic Gardens director's testimony at the subsequent inquest, the tree had been inspected twice a year and no visual defect had been found. It had, however been raining with strong winds for a week before the incident occurred. The woman's husband later sued N Parks.
Death or injury by falling tree is certainly on the extreme end of the negative outcomes associated with unhealthy or unmanaged trees. Wayward trees are also able to destroy property, block roads and viaducts, or obscure signs.
"We track the number of tree incidents," Tan told The Register. He defined a tree incident as when a branch falls, or a tree trunk snaps or uproots.
Those incidents, said Tan, went from 3000 events a year at the turn of the century to fewer than five hundred a year today.
"There has been about an 85 percent decrease in the amount of tree incidents," said Tan. "And how we do this is to continuously improve our tree measuring process. And some of this is through the use of technology, such as 3D sensors that we mount to a tree to allow us to more preemptively take mediating measures."
Which is good news for Singaporeans looking for a safe arbor. ®
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