It's more tips from another Almost Always Organized Mom. Cleo blogs about Consumer advocacy at Consumer Mom. She is a 40 something full time mom, a freelance consultant, and part time consumer advocate, serving on the board of directors of two consumer organizations.
Some days, I don't. When I do keep it together, it's usually thanks to the Gmail calendar program! I have set it up w/ different colors for my work, the kids, my favorite classes at the gym, etc.
I use Gmail calendar …. and just got an iPhone over the summer. The iPhone calendar synchs w/ Google; but I haven't done it yet!
What is you most used 'time saving tip' when it comes to running your house? Time saving vs. sanity-saving? Sanity saving I fold laundry while I watch TV, so I don't feel guilty watching "the Mentalist" or "The Closer". Saves time too :). My most successful time saver has been my crockpot. I like to eat at home. I use the crockpot at least once a week, especially in the fall and winter. I'm psyched for stew and soup weather! My kids help me put items in and mix them up, too. They can even cut some veggies; it's fun, saves money and means we eat healthier food (instead of going out to dinner).
Right now — empty tea cups, clothing to take to a friend (my son's outgrown; they are her son's size), library books to be returned, 2 booster seats, a yoga mat and tons of stickers on the doors. And probably on the floor you would find an empty juice box (or 2) and kettle corn kernels from the Sunday farmers market!
Don't try to be supermom. Be yourself — be your best self — as best you can, as often as you can. Tell your kids you love them — and have fun being a mom! A supermom enjoys her kids! When I'm stressed about the house or my bank account or my last stressful trip to Target w/ screaming kids, I think, hey, they will be gone soon enough, and then I will miss them and then…I will have plenty of time for all that other stuff (clean house, nice furniture, perfect hair and make up, whatever…!)!
My number one goal? Hmm. I have a lot of goals. To stay healthy, to take good care of my family and to be more organized! I plan to reach it by taking it one day at a time. And rewarding myself with dark chocolate whenever necessary….
You can read some of Cleo's posts on her Consumer Mom Blog or follow Consumer Mom on Twitter.
In the spirit of making sure moms feel supported as they tackle the busy life of motherhood and organizing their family schedules and lives, the Almost Always Organized Mom is happy to introduce another real mom juggling it all and her tips for busy moms.
How do you keep your children's schedules together ? I only have one child, so keeping his schedule together is pretty easy. He goes to school or summer camp 3 days a week (full day – I run a home-based business and use this time to work). We then have play dates (by ourselves or with other children) on the days that he isn't in school.
He takes swimming lessons which vary by time and date throughout the year and we love to visit the zoo and play at the park.
Do you use a particular day planner ? I keep track of all of my appointment and my son's appointments using my calendar in Microsoft Outlook. I set reminders so that I always know when we have to be somewhere.
Do you own a blackberry? No, but I wish I had some kind of "sophisticated" phone – I am leaning toward an iPhone, but haven't invested in anything yet.
house? Involve your children! My son is at the age where he loves to help out – so it keeps him occupied and helps me to get everything done.
Take skinless/boneless chicken pieces, sprinklewith salt/pepper to taste.
Divide into single serving or dual serving sizes and place on a large piece of aluminum foil.
Add 1 clove of crushed garlic to each "package".
Add tomatoes, mushrooms, sliced onions. Add chopped fresh rosemary.
rice. The chicken and vegetables cook in their own juices, so there is no added fat required. It is delicious and healthy!!
a bit of everything – some extra clothing for my son, toys, papers, snacks and water bottles – my car is always in some state of dis-array! I believe I have a bunch of old clothes in my trunk that need to be taken to goodwill too!
to be 'super mom'? Set priorities and let everything else go. You will drive yourself crazy if you try to do it all – so don't try. In my house, I have "let go" of the idea of having everything neat and orderly all of the time. I can't keep up with it and run my business and take care of my family – so I do the important things (laundry, cooking, and having some fun) and let go of the clutter. Does it bother me? yes, but I have learned to accept that I just can't do it all.
that I can reach in a short time. That way I am always getting small doses of accomplishment throughout the year rather than striving for one main goal. This way if I miss a few along the way, it isn't upsetting because I have also accomplished many!
Dr. Masucci is a mom to one beautiful boy and a small-business owner. She lives in Pennsylvania just north of Pittsburgh where she operates a maternity and breastfeeding boutique (A Mother's Boutique ) and writes about parenting and breastfeeding on her blog Mommy News and Views.
I was blessed with the most adorable baby boy. He came in to the world on a chilly morning November in 2003. He was beautiful, elf like with pointy ears and the cutest dimples. He slept that day. He didn't that night or the next or the next. Four years he never slept for more then three hours in a row. I was a very tired mom. I am still a very tired mom. Take a tired mom and add the morning school rush. That creates a cranky mom.
Alison Miller has some great advice for the morning rush and I stand behind her advice.
"The problem is in what you expect of your daughter. A four-year-old simply cannot organize herself to move as quickly and efficiently as an adult or an older child. She doesn't yet have a mature understanding of time. She can't yet remember what she has to do next at any given point. She can't make a list on paper, let alone in her head. You have to allow plenty of time, and help her through the process." Alison Miller's answer to a parent taken from her website Life Seminars .
There are so many ways we can help our children (and those tired cranky moms). We have all heard about the Yummy Mommy movement and like any point of view there are positives and negatives, but putting yourself first so that you are well rested will help your entire family.
1) Let the children select their own clothing for the next morning as part of your evening routine the night before.
2) Have the children pack their school bags after they finish their evening homework.
3) Give yourself some time before the children wake up. Set your alarm 5 minutes early each day for five days. An extra 25 minutes each morning before your children wake up will allow you to get things done without being rushed and interrupted by children.
4) Turn the TV OFF. Television will slow everyone down and inevitably result in " MOMMM, just 5 more minutes." Instead make some upbeat fun music CDs and play them in the morning.
5) Consider your child's individuality. If your son won't eat breakfast, stop fighting. Make him a healthy shake or send him to school with a yogurt tube and a granola bar. If your daughter has a hard time waking up each morning, maybe a morning shower would help.
6) Have a "Launch Pad" near your front door. Have everything waiting and ready to go the night before. School bags, agenda's, shoes, coats, mitts, sunglasses, library books, videos to return.
Please share your tips for the morning rush by commenting below.


Kick off the holiday season with Goleta Old Town's Annual Christmas Parade Saturday, December 1st at 6:00 PM.
'Santa Comes To Old Town' parade is led by Grand Marshall Jean Blois, Goleta Old Town Community Association Chair and former Goleta Mayor. The parade features entries from local businesses, area school bands, pooches in festive attire, dance groups, and Santa. Follow Santa to the gazebo at Goleta Valley Community Center for their Annual Tree Lighting. Children will have a chance to meet Santa.
Arrive early to claim a good viewing spot along the parade route down Hollister Avenue. Several restaurants will be featuring 'special parade menu' items.
Parade begins 6:00 pm at Hollister and Orange Avenues and ends at Goleta Valley Community Center. Spectator parking is located just off of South Fairview in the parking lot next to Yardi Systems.
Goleta Old Town Christmas Parade is brought to you by Goleta Old Town Community Association in conjunction with the Goleta Valley Community Center.


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Open Source Licenses, Copyleft and The Development of Technological Innovation
Leave a Comment / Blog / By IPTLC MEDIA
An open source license logo
"Content is available under CC BY-SA 3.0 unless otherwise noted"
If you have ever scrolled to the bottom of a Wikipedia webpage, looking for God knows what, chances are this quote may strike you as familiar. Let's crunch the jargon down, shall we? Wikipedia is simply saying that the content provided on that particular webpage is an open initiative. This implies that absolutely anyone can access the information provided, copy or share in any format to an unlimited audience and modify the information even for commercial purposes, all at no cost. You must be thinking this is the exact opposite of copyright. Going by the rules of English language, it should be tagged copyleft (be wary of departing, beloved).
However, that's not all there is to it. The license further stipulates that Wikipedia cannot for any reason prevent you from doing those things with the information if you fulfill two requirements: first, you must attribute that the information you have shared or modified is bound by an open license (CreativeCommons, Wikipedia's licensor requires you to "provide a link to the license") and second, you must share your own work (modified or not) under these same conditions.
The copyleft symbol
While CreativeCommons is not considered an exact example of open source, it gives an insight into the rules that governs the intellectual property concepts of open source licenses and copyleft (do not lose focus, copyleft is an actual word!). In simple terms, open source licenses are licenses that confers the right to use and modify a product with reduced or entirely waived license fees. Copyleft on the hand allows the free usage, sharing and modification of the copyright in a product while requiring that subsequent modifications to the product be bound by the same free and open distribution terms. Most open source licenses are usually copyleft and both concepts have proven to be exceptionally crucial to the development of software and technology by excluding the stifling nature of intellectual property in a bid to secure other benefits.
For software and technology, open source licenses reveal the source code or underlying technical information in an invention and allow free and open usage. Starting from the mid 2010s, Microsoft which had once been a major antagonist to free and open software licenses has become a major player in open source licensing. Microsoft open sourced its .NET Framework and acquired GitHub, the largest open source host among many activities taken towards the encouragement of open source license. Why would Microsoft sacrifice the humongous revenue in its copyright for a free distribution license?
The answers are not far fetched. Open source licenses encourage innovative technology and boost competitive strategies. Since authors of innovative technology can build on existing codes or technical information to develop newer and better technologies, the end result is better software and artificially intelligent technology. While developers are allowed to gain commercial benefit from modifications to source codes, several open source licenses require that the original authors be credited for their foundational work and that the modified work be released under the same terms of the open license. Invariably, the originator of the software retains its name and brand affiliations to the original work. Open source licenses also help companies on the receiving end save the costs of licenses and the cost involved in training to staff to develop new source codes for technological innovation. Asides this, open source licenses provide great security as malware can be detected easily by anyone and corrected without permission and without fear of infringement.
While open source licenses are amazing things for the development of technology, it is not without its drawbacks. Open source licenses may appear to be cheap but there are several underlying costs involved including costs of setting up and maintenance. The license also prevents claims of infringement without any prospect of indemnity. In situations where staff are not familiar with the source code in use, it can lead to extra training and usage costs. It is advised that before building your new technology on open source licenses, you weigh the benefits and drawbacks to determine which works best for you.

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Old Trafford turned blue on Thursday night as Manchester United showed their support and paid tribute to the National Health Service.
The world-famous stadium had just three of the letters in 'Manchester United' lit up, leaving 'NHS' emblazoned on the arena.
United's classy move was done to coincide with the weekly 'Clap For Carers' which has been taking place at 8pm every Thursday since the UK went into lockdown due to the coronavirus pandemic.
Manchester United's unique show of support to the NHS
The stadium tribute followed the series of measures which the club announced last week to support the NHS and their local services.
Last week, the Red Devils announced their foundation had delivered more than 3,500 gifts to NHS staff, while the club offered their 16-vehicle fleet to the healthcare system to aid in courier operations.
Furthermore, United have donated medical equipment and consumables to Salford Royal, while they are also part of the Premier League's £20million commitment to support the NHS, communities, families and vulnerable groups affected by the pandemic.
Sir Alex Ferguson, the Man United legend, spoke out last week to praise the club and the UK as a whole for the work they are doing in the fight against COVID-19.
The Scot said: Im delighted we are now recognising the importance of our NHS as I experienced two years ago after they saved my life the response to this pandemic has been magnificent and has made me proud of the way the club and the British people have rallied round to help. Well Done.
Give COVID-19 the red card
The quicker we work together to stop coronavirus spreading, the sooner we can get back into the pubs, the gyms and stadiums and arenas to see live sport again
STAY AT HOME. Only leave for the following purposes:
to shop for basic essentials only when you really need to
to do one form of exercise a day such as a run, walk or cycle, alone or with other people you live with
for any medical need for example, to visit a pharmacy or deliver essential supplies to a vulnerable person
to travel to and from work but only where this is absolutely necessary
For more info and tips, visit the NHS website.
The government has also issued further detail on what we can do during lockdown.
Everyone should do what they can to stop coronavirus spreading.
Mental well-being is the key to fight the disease, says Venkat Raghav; The COVID-19 fever doesn't kill you but the guilt can, says Rohit Dutta.
Schools have been closed for the past month in France. That's why French startup Molotov is leveraging its over-the-top TV service to offer content for children of all ages. In particular, the company has partnered with SchoolMouv, a company that offers video…


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package command

import (
	"fmt"
	"os"
	"os/exec"
	"text/template"

	log "github.com/funkygao/log4go"
)

//go:generate go-bindata -nomemcopy -pkg command templates/...

type BackendServers struct {
	CpuNum      int
	HaproxyRoot string
	PubPort     int
	SubPort     int
	ManPort     int
	ForwardFor  bool

	Pub       []Backend
	Sub       []Backend
	Man       []Backend
	Dashboard []Backend
}

func (this *BackendServers) reset() {
	this.Pub = make([]Backend, 0)
	this.Sub = make([]Backend, 0)
	this.Man = make([]Backend, 0)
	this.Dashboard = make([]Backend, 0)
}

func (this *BackendServers) empty() bool {
	return len(this.Pub) == 0 || len(this.Sub) == 0
}

func (this *BackendServers) sort() {
	this.Pub = sortBackendByName(this.Pub)
	this.Sub = sortBackendByName(this.Sub)
	this.Man = sortBackendByName(this.Man)
}

type Backend struct {
	Name string
	Addr string
	Cpu  string
	Port string
}

func (this *Start) createConfigFile(servers BackendServers) error {
	log.Info("backends: Pub#%d Sub#%d %+v", len(servers.Pub), len(servers.Sub), servers)

	servers.sort()

	tmpFile := fmt.Sprintf("%s.tmp", configFile)
	cfgFile, err := os.Create(tmpFile)
	if err != nil {
		return err
	}
	defer cfgFile.Close()

	tpl := "templates/haproxy.tpl"
	if this.debugMode {
		tpl = "templates/haproxy.debug.tpl"
	}
	b, _ := Asset(tpl)
	t := template.Must(template.New("haproxy").Parse(string(b)))

	err = t.Execute(cfgFile, servers)
	if err != nil {
		return err
	}

	return os.Rename(tmpFile, configFile)
}

func (this *Start) reloadHAproxy() (err error) {
	var cmd *exec.Cmd = nil
	waitStartCh := make(chan struct{})
	if this.starting {
		log.Info("haproxy starting")
		cmd = exec.Command(this.command, "-f", configFile) // TODO use absolute path
		this.starting = false

		go func() {
			<-waitStartCh
			log.Info("haproxy started")
			if err := cmd.Wait(); err != nil {
				log.Error("haproxy: %v", err)
			}
		}()
	} else {
		shellScript := fmt.Sprintf("%s -f %s/%s -sf `cat %s/%s`",
			this.command, this.root, configFile, this.root, haproxyPidFile)
		log.Info("haproxy reloading: %s", shellScript)
		cmd = exec.Command("/bin/sh", "-c", shellScript)
		go func() {
			<-waitStartCh
			log.Info("haproxy reloaded")
			if err := cmd.Wait(); err != nil {
				log.Error("haproxy: %v", err)
			}
		}()
	}

	if err = cmd.Start(); err == nil {
		waitStartCh <- struct{}{} // should close
	}

	return err
}

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Ethan Mark
Japan's Occupation of Java in the Second World War
A Transnational History
Bloomsbury 2018
Japan's Occupation of Java in the Second World War: A Transnational History (Bloomsbury, 2018) by Ethan Mark draws upon written and oral Japanese, Indonesian, Dutch and English-language sources to narrate the Japanese occupation of Java as a transnational intersection between two complex non-Western Asian societies – one a colonizer and the other colonized. The book places this narrative in a larger wartime context of domestic, regional, and global crisis.
Japan's occupation of Java is here revealed in a radically new and nuanced light, as an ambiguous encounter revolutionary in the degree of mutual interests that drew the two sides together, fascinating and tragic in its evolution, and profound in the legacies left behind. Mark structures his study around a diverse group of Japanese and Indonesians captivated by the wartime vision of a 'Greater Asia.' The book is not only the first transnational study of Japan's wartime occupation of Java, but the first to focus on the Second World War experience in transnational terms 'on the ground' anywhere in Asia.
Breaking new ground interpretatively, thematically, and narratively, Mark's monumental study is of vital significance for students and scholars of modern Asian and global history.
Ethan Mark is a Senior University Lecturer in Modern Japanese History at Leiden University in the Netherlands. He specializes in modern Japanese history, with a particular expertise in Japanese imperialism and the social and cultural history of the 1920s-1940s. He is also a scholar of modern Indonesia.
Shatrunjay Mall is a PhD candidate at the Department of History at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. He works on transnational Asian history, and his dissertation explores intellectual, political, and cultural intersections and affinities that emerged between Indian anti-colonialism and imperial Japan in the twentieth century.
Shatrunjay Mall
Also Hosted By Shatrunjay Mall
The Politics of Time in China and Japan
Viren Murthy
Outcasts of Empire
Paul D. Barclay
The Japanese Buddhist World Map
David Max Moerman
Ploughshares and Swords
Jayita Sarkar
From Policemen to Revolutionaries: A Sikh Diaspora in Global Shanghai, 1885-1945
Yin Cao
The 24th Mile
Tehmton S. Mistry
Post-Fascist Japan
Laura Hein
Rebels Against the Raj
Ramachandra Guha
Policing 'Bengali Terrorism' in India and the World
Michael Silvestri
Liminality of the Japanese Empire
Hiroko Matsuda
Mohamed Zeeshan
Mircea Raianu


For many people, the area around your eyes is the first place to show signs of aging. Wrinkles, loose skin, or "bags" under the eyes can give an impression of being tired, sleepy, or old before your time.
Blepharoplasty (cosmetic eyelid surgery) is a procedure in which excess skin is removed from the eyelids to reduce sagging of the upper and lower eyelids, resulting in a more youthful appearance. In cases where sagging skin hangs over the upper eyelids, blepharoplasty improves field of vision.
Sometimes the problems around the eyes may include structures other than skin. Herniation or bulging of fat around the eyes can create sagging, baggy appearance of the lower eyelids. Perhaps the angle of the corners of the eye may sag, causing a tired look as well. These issues may also require alteration as well during a blepharoplasty.
Incisions can be hidden in the upper eyelid crease and inside the lower eyelid. A blepharoplasty typically has very little discomfort and can give your eyes a vibrant, alert, and refreshed appearance that will help you look as good as you feel- no more "rough night?" looks from your friends or co-workers.
As people get older their facial skin begins to lose its young, taut look. This loss of elasticity can cause one's eyes to appear loose and baggy. If you feel as though your eyelids have too droopy a look to them, or if you are generally unhappy with the aesthetics of your eyes, then the Houston Eyelid Surgeons at Lou Plastic Surgery can help you rejuvenate your appearance. We have dedicated ourselves to helping patients achieve their facial cosmetic goals, and have the proper modern procedures to give you the look you desire.
Contact us today at 713-932-7290 to schedule an initial consultation.
Eyelid surgery is done on an outpatient basis under sedation and local or general anesthesia. The process is relatively noninvasive and patients typically see a full recovery after a few weeks. During a blepharoplasty operation, incisions are made where the natural crease should be in the upper lids and below the lash line in the lower lids. This helps mask scarring that may result from the procedure. After the incisions have been made, excess fat and skin are removed.
Typically, after an eyelid rejuvenation procedure, all sutures are removed within 7-10 days. Patients will commonly experience some initial mild discomfort, which can easily be controlled through oral medication. Post-operative bruising, swelling, and sensitivity to light will last for at least a week or two. Patients are asked to wear sun protection (sunglasses and sunscreen) for several weeks after the procedure.
Patients should avoid the use of makeup around the eyes until after the sutures are removed. Contact lenses can be worn when comfortable (usually within 3-7 days).
Blepharoplasty is a procedure most commonly utilized by people who desire a more youthful and rested appearance of the eyes. This procedure may also widen one's visual fields if excessive upper lid skin has partially blocked his or her vision. Eyelid operations are not used to remove or erase wrinkle lines. They will, however, soften wrinkle lines.
There are additional procedures that can enhance the results of eyelid surgery. These include forehead lift, face lift, chemical peel, or laser skin resurfacing. Patients may also get lower eyelid lifts if they are unhappy with the excess skin present underneath their eyes.
The specific risks and the suitability of this procedure for a given individual can be determined only at the time of consultation. Patients should realize that all surgical procedures have some degree of risk and minor complications that do not affect the outcome occur occasionally. Major complications resulting from surgery are rare.
Most insurance providers do not include cosmetic operations such as eyelid surgery in their plans. Occasionally, if surgery is being done to improve the field of vision, insurance may cover upper lid surgery. Otherwise, these procedures are considered cosmetic and the patient is responsible for payment.
If you are unhappy with your eyelid appearance and would like to learn more about what you can do to remedy this situation, the Houston eyelid surgeons at Lou Plastic Surgery can provide you with information on your options. Please contact our office today at 713-932-7290 to schedule a consultation.


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Camp Wedding
Mandy & Luke
Seattle Elopement with an Afterparty
*Mandy, Graphic Designer & Luke, Mechanical Engineer*
In the early days of APW, elopements were still taboo (even here). We talked about them. We debated them. And I hoped, one day, that going to the courthouse would become a less taboo and more viable option for more folks. And these days, things are changing. There are photographers who focus almost entirely on elopements. The New York Times is writing pieces about people (APW wedding grads!) who eloped and had a party afterwards. The conversations about the courthouse seem less fraught. And if anything can push the conversation forward on elopements, it's crazy-amazing weddings like Mandy and Luke's. (And, cough, not to be shallow and all, but can we talk about her SHOES? And her NECKLACE?) And with that, Mandy…
I'm pretty sure we did everything wrong* in planning our wedding, but in the end, everything turned out just right.
We planned our engagement. We shopped for a ring together and picked one out that was perfect. We ordered it and had it shipped to my work. It stared at me from my desk all day. I took it home, gave the box to Luke (to give to me), went to work out, and came home (sweaty) to become a fiancé. It wasn't a surprise, but it was incredibly romantic. This was a life changing decision that we were making. It wasn't the first, and certainly won't be the last, but it was one of the big ones. And we did it together.
We knew right away that we didn't want a wedding. We are so so so lucky to have oodles of supportive family and friends that we share our lives with, but when it comes to undying confessions of eternal love, we are intensely private. We opted for the courthouse in the spring with a delayed reception planned for the summer.
We told everyone our plans in an effort to head off any hurt feelings a surprise elopement might cause. In hindsight, it didn't matter how much notice we gave. Feelings were still a little hurt. Everyone says "it's your day," but we learned it's a day for everyone else, too. Ultimately, we decided to do what was right for us, and went full steam ahead with the courthouse.
We got married in March. We woke up, went to breakfast at our favorite café, walked around the sleepy city, and headed back to get ready. We invited our friends Sean and Julia, an amazing photographer and videographer, respectively, to tag along for a couple of reasons. One, we knew we needed two witnesses and couldn't invite some people and not others, and two, we knew we were going to celebrate this day months later with everyone and wanted to be able to share all of it.
The way Sean and Julia captured our day was so perfectly us—glammed up versions of us, of course—but us nonetheless. We will never be able to thank them enough. It's funny to watch the transition from our comfortable selves to a nervous bride-and-groom-to-be as the pressure mounted—even without an audience. We headed to the courthouse with our paparazzi in tow, met with the judge, and then it was time.
Our ceremony was one minute long—which we think is hilarious. Then we were married. We all headed out for drinks (and more pictures). Julia caught my bouquet in our hotel room. And then Luke and I went and had a nice quiet dinner at our favorite restaurant to wrap it all up. The next day we left for our honeymoon.
Fast forward to a few weekends ago. We threw a delayed reception at a summer camp in Oregon—think bunk beds and horse shoes. We had enough food, drinks, and places to sleep for anyone that wanted to come. All they had to do was show up. The rest we covered. And they did not disappoint.
We spent the weekend floating down the river, getting our faces painted (my parents chose a new career path when I graduated college… seriously), making s'mores, and hanging out with our nearest and dearest. Everyone pitched in. Our moms made hundreds of yards of bunting. Our dads hung lights. Our friends moved tables and made pies in jars a la pinterest. And on Saturday we had as normal of a reception as we could muster.
We debuted the wedding video for everyone to see, which was a pretty magical moment. The pictures from the courthouse ceremony became part of our guest book so we could forever tie those two days together. I think that by the time all was said and done, any hurt feelings were dissolved. It was an ideal endcap to our months long celebration.
At its core, getting married is about you and your partner, so obviously you have to acknowledge your own needs when deciding how that will translate to a wedding (for us that meant a very private ceremony at the courthouse). But remember, there is probably a village of people that want to help you celebrate. Find a way to let them. In the end, I'm glad we did it the way we did it. The wedding day was just about us, which is what we needed. But the celebration at camp was so warm and lovey that I think we didn't realize how much we needed that too.
The Info—Photography: Sean Airhart (Wedding Day); Friends and Family (Camp) /Venue: Seattle Municipal Courthouse (Wedding Day); Camp Lane in Walton, OR (Camp) / Flowers: Marigold and Mint (Wedding Day) / Videographer: Julia Welbourne / Face Paint: Surface Art / Mandy's Wedding Day Outfit: Dress: BHLDN; Sweater: Urban Outfitters; Shoes: DSW; Necklace: White Owl / Luke's Wedding Day Outfit: Suit and Tie: Macy's; Cufflinks: Oruaka / Mandy's Camp Outfit: Dress: Urban Outfitters; Shirt: Target
*As the fairytale wedding is supposed to go
Updated - May 16, 2019 Real Weddings


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~ Marianne Williamson
If you're like me, you may have given little thought to inspiration. For much of my life, I believed that inspiration was random and rare—and something only artists cared about. I would occasionally hear someone say, "I was struck by inspiration," but that only reinforced the notion that it was an infrequent event. My thinking has changed about that, of course, and so are the results I see in bringing my own visions to life. I'm not sure how that change occurred, but I do know that there's nothing rare about inspiration. While it still remains somewhat mysterious, I now know that it's not a feeling, it's a phenomenon... and a rather quiet one at that. Although we may sometimes feel fired up in an inspired moment, it's equally possible that an inspired state is serene. Inspiration comes bearing gifts. It expands our horizons, transcends and dissolves obstacles, makes us feel both lighter and more powerful at the same time. Inspiration always leads to more, not less. When operating from this state, we feel more creative, more confident, more intelligent, more loving, more alive. It also engenders trust that we'll always have what we need, when we need it. Inspiration is the loving parent of innovation, problem-solving and action. It's nearly impossible to be inspired and complain at the same time. Best of all, it's absolutely free and available to anyone who wants it. The trick is knowing that it needs to be invited. As James R. Ball reminds us, "An uninspired mind is a handicap we can all do something about." You may know you'll be inspired when visiting Venice, but what about the rest of the time, the time spent in familiar surroundings? What if, in addition to putting yourself in inspiring environments, you were equally determined to create your very own Inspiration Station right where you are? Here are some ways to do just that. Know what inspires you. Inspiration triggers are highly personal and unique to each of us. Writer Philip Pullman says, "I don't know where inspiration comes from, but I know it goes to my desk, and if I am not there to receive it, it goes away again." Music, stories, even smells can help move us into an inspired state of being. So can work. The late Michael Crichton, who was a prolific writer, said, "Work inspires inspiration. Keep working. If you succeed, keep working. If you fail, keep working. If you are interested, keep working. If you are bored, keep working." Just as important is to know what robs you of your inspiration and eliminate those psychic vampires from your environment. Take a fresh look at your workspace. When Karyn Ruth White first set up shop at home, her office looked like a cold, impersonal cubicle. "No wonder I never wanted to go there," she now says. Her current home office is anything but impersonal, with wonderful artwork and favorite quotes positioned on the walls surrounding her desk so she can see them easily. 1 The place I call World Headquarters is a shrine to things that I love. There's a vintage travel poster from Venice, a Chihuly drawing, and a framed reminder from John Ruskin which says, "We are not sent into this world to do anything which is not in our hearts." A room with a view can also be a source of inspiration. Valerie Young looks out her home office windows and sees woods and a field where cows peacefully graze. Move things around. Uncluttering expert Peter Walsh has discovered that people who live in massively cluttered places reach a point where they stop seeing how bad it is. Even if our environment is spotless and tidy, it's easy to become indifferent to our surroundings. Every few months, move your desk (if possible) and rearrange the things hanging on your walls. Keep things that inspire you close at hand. When I first met Chris Utterback, I called her one morning when nothing was going right. "Make me laugh," I demanded when she answered the phone. To my surprise, she said, "Just a minute. I'll go get my cartoon scrapbook." That was a new idea to me, but ever since, I've kept a folder labeled Make Me Laugh so I always know where to look when I need a giggle. I take seriously Gustav Flaubert's observation, "The greatest goal in life is not the attainment of fame. The principal thing in this world is to keep one's soul aloft," so I also keep favorite books and music within reach in case I have an inspiration emergency. For instance, two books that made a huge difference in my life when I was contemplating self-employment were Supergirls: The Autobiography of an Outrageous Business by Claudia Jessup and Genie Chipps and Macy's, Gimbles and Me by Bernice Fitz-Gibbon. Both titles are long out of print, but have a permanent home on my bookshelves. Even after all these years, I consult them both from time to time. Since I also think quotes can be sources of instant inspiration, I keep files of favorites on my computer. Change the scenery. Julia Cameron advocates regular Artist Dates, time away from your office or studio to explore. Whether you call it an Artist Date or Inspiration Field Trip, you need it. Designer Kaffe Fassett talks about hours he spent at the V & A Museum in London gathering ideas for his designs. I love the idea of regularly strolling through a shop or garden or museums in search of new ideas. Equally important, it seems to me, is to have a short list of nearby spots where you can take yourself from time to time. Bookstores and libraries are high on my list although plenty of folks like plunking down with their laptops in a coffee shop. Connect with inspiring people.As popular as social networking has become, it can't replace the experience of spending time in the presence of people who lift your spirits. Whether it's a formal master mind group or an informal collection of others who are building their dreams, actively find ways to connect. One of the most memorable gatherings I planned came the first year I lived in Las Vegas and discovered I needed another 1,000 miles to keep my elite status with my old airline. I decided to make a turnaround trip to Minnesota and invited my joyfully jobless friends to join me at the airport. It was such a lively party that I could barely tear myself away when it was time to reboard my plane. It was also a powerful reminder that when we take responsibility for staying inspired, we naturally inspire others to be their best.
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We don't need to push life so much as we need to
experience it more elegantly, to be motivated more by
inspiration than by ambition. ~ Marianne Williamson
If you're like me, you may have given little thought to inspiration. For much of my life, I believed that inspiration was random and rare—and something only artists cared about. I would occasionally hear someone say, "I was struck by inspiration," but that only reinforced the notion that it was an infrequent event. My thinking has changed about that, of course, and so are the results I see in bringing my own visions to life.
I'm not sure how that change occurred, but I do know that there's nothing rare about inspiration. While it still remains somewhat mysterious, I now know that it's not a feeling, it's a phenomenon… and a rather quiet one at that. Although we may sometimes feel fired up in an inspired moment, it's equally possible that an inspired state is serene.
Inspiration comes bearing gifts. It expands our horizons, transcends and dissolves obstacles, makes us feel both lighter and more powerful at the same time. Inspiration always leads to more, not less. When operating from this state, we feel more creative, more confident, more intelligent, more loving, more alive. It also engenders trust that we'll always have what we need, when we need it. Inspiration is the loving parent of innovation, problem-solving and action. It's nearly impossible to be inspired and complain at the same time.
Best of all, it's absolutely free and available to anyone who wants it. The trick is knowing that it needs to be invited. As James R. Ball reminds us, "An uninspired mind is a handicap we can all do something about."
You may know you'll be inspired when visiting Venice, but what about the rest of the time, the time spent in familiar surroundings? What if, in addition to putting yourself in inspiring environments, you were equally determined to create your very own Inspiration Station right where you are? Here are some ways to do just that.
Know what inspires you. Inspiration triggers are highly personal and unique to each of us. Writer Philip Pullman says, "I don't know where inspiration comes from, but I know
it goes to my desk, and if I am not there to receive it, it goes away again." Music, stories, even smells can help move us into an inspired state of being. So can work. The late Michael Crichton, who was a prolific writer, said, "Work inspires inspiration. Keep working. If you succeed, keep working. If you fail, keep working. If you are interested, keep working. If you are bored, keep working."
Just as important is to know what robs you of your inspiration and eliminate those psychic vampires from your environment.
Take a fresh look at your workspace. When Karyn Ruth White first set up shop at home, her office looked like a cold, impersonal cubicle. "No wonder I never wanted to go there," she now says. Her current home office is anything but impersonal, with wonderful artwork and favorite quotes positioned on the walls surrounding her desk so she can see them easily.
Valerie Young's view
The place I call World Headquarters is a shrine to things that I love. There's a vintage travel poster from Venice, a Chihuly drawing, and a framed reminder from John Ruskin which says, "We are not sent into this world to do anything which is not in our hearts."
A room with a view can also be a source of inspiration. Valerie Young looks out her home office windows and sees woods and a field where cows peacefully graze.
Move things around. Uncluttering expert Peter Walsh has discovered that people who live in massively cluttered places reach a point where they stop seeing how bad it is. Even if our environment is spotless and tidy, it's easy to become indifferent to our surroundings. Every few months, move your desk (if possible) and rearrange the things hanging on your walls.
Keep things that inspire you close at hand. When I first met Chris Utterback, I called her one morning when nothing was going right. "Make me laugh," I demanded when she answered the phone. To my surprise, she said, "Just a minute. I'll go get my cartoon scrapbook." That was a new idea to me, but ever since, I've kept a folder labeled Make Me Laugh so I always know where to look when I need a giggle.
I take seriously Gustav Flaubert's observation, "The greatest goal in life is not the attainment of fame. The principal thing in this world is to keep one's soul aloft," so
I also keep favorite books and music within reach in case I have an inspiration emergency. For instance, two books that made a huge difference in my life when I was contemplating self-employment were Supergirls: The Autobiography of an Outrageous Business by Claudia Jessup and Genie Chipps and Macy's, Gimbles and Me by Bernice Fitz-Gibbon. Both titles are long out of print, but have a permanent home on my bookshelves. Even after all these years, I consult them both from time to time.
Since I also think quotes can be sources of instant inspiration, I keep files of favorites on my computer.
Change the scenery. Julia Cameron advocates regular Artist Dates, time away from your office or studio to explore. Whether you call it an Artist Date or Inspiration Field Trip, you need it. Designer Kaffe Fassett talks about hours he spent at the V & A Museum in London gathering ideas for his designs. I love the idea of regularly strolling through a shop or garden or museums in search of new ideas.
Equally important, it seems to me, is to have a short list of nearby spots where you can take yourself from time to time. Bookstores and libraries are high on my list although plenty of folks like plunking down with their laptops in a coffee shop.
Connect with inspiring people.As popular as social networking has become, it can't replace the experience of spending time in the presence of people who lift your spirits. Whether it's a formal master mind group or an informal collection of others who are building their dreams, actively find ways to connect.
One of the most memorable gatherings I planned came the first year I lived in Las Vegas and discovered I needed another 1,000 miles to keep my elite status with my old airline. I decided to make a turnaround trip to Minnesota and invited my joyfully jobless friends to join me at the airport. It was such a lively party that I could barely tear myself away when it was time to reboard my plane.
It was also a powerful reminder that when we take responsibility for staying inspired, we naturally inspire others to be their best.
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Councillors have chosen to allocate nearly £250,000 of Community Infrastructure Levy receipts on a selection of projects within Epsom and Ewell.
The Community Infrastructure Levy (CIL) allows the Council to raise funds from developers undertaking new building projects in the borough and is used to support new physical and social infrastructure and also to improve existing facilities. Under legislation, 80% of total CIL collected has to be allocated towards borough wide infrastructure and up to 5% towards administration.
In addition, at least 15% of levy receipts must be spent on priorities that have to be agreed with the local community. This 15% is often referred to as the 'neighbourhood portion' of the levy.
In Epsom and Ewell, councillors were able to bid for these funds from the neighbourhood portion of the levy for projects within their wards, with successful bids selected by a committee of councillors.
Councillor Eber Kington, Chairman of the Strategy & Resources Committee, said "This is the first year councillors have been able to allocate funds under the new CIL process. The successful bids include leisure, environmental and infrastructure projects in seven of the borough wards.
"Local councillors nominated projects for funding in their respective wards based on discussion with local people. However many of the local projects, such as a new and modern bus shelter to the rear of Epsom General Hospital and the restoration of footpaths in Horton Country Park, will benefit residents across the borough too.


The story has a depressingly familiar ring to it. A small child lies near death after being severely beaten and the live-in boyfriend of the biological guardian stands charged with the crime.
Most statistics show that child abuse by unrelated adults living in the same household as the child is the exception rather than the rule.
Anecdotally, however, child abuse experts paint a different picture. In single-mother households, in particular, the boyfriend frequently ends up abusing the child, for a simple reason: a failure to bond with the child.
The issue came to the forefront this week in the case involving Anjanae Jaamere Bruce, the 3-year-old girl who remains in a coma at Children's Hospital after being severely beaten late Sunday.
In jail is Melvin "Charlie" Taylor, boyfriend of Anjanae's grandmother and legal guardian, Gwendolyn Tolliver. He has been charged with aggravated assault, reckless endangerment and endangering the welfare of a child. Taylor was baby-sitting the child when the beating took place, according to police.
According to data from the Pennsylvania Department of Public Welfare, 50 children died in the state in 1999 as a result of abuse or neglect. In 28 cases, the mothers were the perpetrators; in 21, it was the father; in one, the stepfather; and in three,an unrelated adult companion. More than one adult may be linked to a child's death.
While there are no national statistics available from the federal government, a survey by the Child Welfare League of America bore out the state data, finding that anywhere from one-tenth to one-third of all child fatalities were caused by unrelated adults in the home.
"If you're looking at abuse overall, the natural parents are far more likely to be the perpetrators than anyone else," said Kevin Kirkpatrick, a spokesman for the Chicago-based Prevent Child Abuse America.
But, according to Walter Smith, director of Family Resources Inc., a local child-abuse prevention agency, ."it's very common, either because of a breakdown in attachment, or failure to create one" for live-in lovers to become involved.
"They don't love the kid," said Martin Daly, author of a number of Canadian studies on the issue. "A lot of stepmothers and boyfriends regard the kid as undesired baggage who they wish had never been born. The child remains a resented nuisance at best."
Daly is the co-author of a 1999 Canadian study that found that an American child living with one genetic parent and one step-parent or a live-in companion was 100 times as likely to suffer fatal abuse as a child living with two genetic parents.
And a number of other studies, in fact, strongly suggest that children being cared for by an unrelated adult are at far greater risk of injury or death than may have been previously believed.
A 1993 British study found the incidence of abuse was 33 times higher in a household where the mother was living with an unrelated boyfriend. And a study presented at the American Academy of Pediatrics of 175 Missouri children under the age of 5, who were murdered between 1992 and 1994, found that the risk of a child's dying at the hands of an adult living in the child's own household was eight times higher if the adult was unrelated.
It's not clear how thoroughly caseworkers at Children, Youth and Families investigated Tolliver's relationship with Taylor, who was on parole after having been convicted of voluntary manslaughter charges in 1993 and serving four years in jail. Marc Cherna, director of the Allegheny County Department of Human Services, declined to comment, citing state confidentiality.
But Cherna said that in foster care placements, the presence of a boyfriend would have prompted a background check, and if a criminal history was found, the courts would be informed. If there was evidence of violent criminal behavior, the agency would recommend moving the child out of the home. Tolliver had raised her granddaughter from birth and, with CYF's involvement, was in the process of adopting her.
"I've always seen unrelated adults as a high risk, a red flag, if you will, especially with young kids," Cherna said. "When you have unrelated adults living in the house and caring for children of toddler age especially, those children are at the highest risk. The paternal instinct is very different than it is in someone who is not related to this child."
While mothers may be the most frequent perpetrators according to the data, child injuries and deaths at the hands of a mother's boyfriend are "unbelievably common," added Mary Carrasco, director of International and Community Health at Mercy Children's Medical Center.
"We see this over and over again. People bring a new boyfriend into the house, and before long he's beating up the kids. We tell them to get rid of him, and they get another one that is just as abusive."
Smith says there's a simple explanation.
"Typically, the person who is violent is not capable of seeing the child as another human being who has feelings he or she can identify with. They tend to objectify the child, dehumanize the child."
Child abuse professionals need to do a better job at educating parents about selecting caregivers for their children, he added.
"If there's a past history of violence, you need to say, wait a minute, this guy has hurt other people. Whether it's a child or not, it's relevant in seeing whether he's capable of caring for others. We need to ask, what's the quality of this person's connection with this child, does he engage in a way that reflects that he's genuinely and authentically interested in the child's welfare?
"We need to do a better job at asking those questions."


Throughout this term we will be exploring traditional fairy-tales.
Our focus text will be 'The Jolly Postman, and other people's letters' by Janet and Allen Ahlberg.
fairy-tale town. While the postman is treated to numerous cups of tea, children will be re-introduced to a host of favourite characters, from the great and good such as Cinderella and the Three Bears, to the not so nice Mr Wolf and the Wicked Witch.
In Maths lessons, we will be continuing to work on our shape knowledge and fractions. We will also be revisiting measurements - length, mass, capacity and telling the time too!
We have been really impressed with the children's enthusiasm for learning their times tables. Please continue to login to Times Table Rockstars at home.
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As a follow-up to last week's post about interpreter services being required for all mediations, I'd like to pass along a fascinating article titled The Politics and Power of Plain Language by Jane M. Siegel, a professor at Thomas M. Cooley Law School (hat tip to Richard Zorza for highlighting this article in his recent post). Siegel references The Plain Writing Act of 2010, which requires federal agencies to write all new informational or filing documents, including any "letter, publication, form, notice, or instruction" in language that is "clear, concise, well-organized, and follows other best practices appropriate to the subject or field and intended audience." Federal agencies must comply by October 11, 2011.
Court mediators, too, should focus on plain language as a means for ensuring a level playing field for all parties. This takes many forms. Certainly, mediators should be conscious of their own language, ensuring they are not speaking in legalese, even if attorneys are present with parties. But mediators can also review court forms to see if they would make sense to a person without a legal background and make suggestions for changes. The Plain Language Action and Information Network's implementation Guidelines may be helpful in any review process.
Most importantly, mediators can serve as translators, even if parties speak the same language. Mediators can use skills like reframing, summarizing and reflecting back to ensure parties are describing their stories in ways the other parties can hear and ultimately understand. Without this crucial translation, conflict can remain dissonant, preventing parties from even hearing the same thing, let alone coming to a consensual agreement. Using plain language is the responsibility of every servant of the court; though not all of us swear an oath to uphold the Constitution, we all have an interest in providing access to justice for every potential litigant.
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Well put, laudable goal, but becoming less and less attainable? Between increasingly "technical" language – in all fields – and modern social networking communication models which dispense with punctuation, letters, and even substitute phrases with strings of letters, the future is not bright. More of a problem is the "messy" thinking which precedes the writing (or speaking). Everything is tending to "buzz" words and phrases with fuzzy content. That being said, we should all – every day – do our part to create harmony and not add to the noise.
I agree that much of our common speech is stilted and less-than-proper English. I certainly do not advocate eliminating good spelling and punctuation from our mediation forms! In fact, I think using plain language in court documents actually encourages people to read more. Usually, parties glance over language they do not understand and sign away. If they read the first paragraph and realize it's not in legalese, they're more likely to keep reading. The more every person understand their rights, the more democratic our system can be.
I fully support your ideas and I am glad to see you particularize for mediators.
and join our LinkedIn group Plain Language Advocates http://www.linkedin.com/groups?about=&gid=158634 .


Hey Anita, come over to the Forum and tell Us all about the show if you dare:)! LOL! We'd love to hear all about your adventure w/Michael!
Just got home from the show and it was fabulous! You've still got the pipes! Thanks for a great concert tonight in Hartford! Your songs always bring back so many fond memories -- we had a great time!
Wishing you great success for your Michael Bolton & Friends Benefit! I'm sure you'll enjoy spending some time with your family while you're home.
MIichael, thank you for sharing these beautiful photos, CT looks so breathtakingly beautiful, never been to the States yet but hope to travel there someday. Hope you have a great time at home and get to chill out with your little granddaughters!!!
Have some Fun being Home:)! Relax, and by all means take a SWIM....HAve a Great time at the Benefit show:)!
Have a WONDERFUL concert "back at home" for there is no place like home!!! Hope you had a wonderful Father's Day with all your ladies!! Rock out on Tuesday and have a super day on the golf course. Hope the humidity lets up a bit for ya!!!
Happy Belated Fathers Day, hoped you enjoy your special day with family.


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Trust House has asked me to write a blog, so here it goes. I am not an expert in much so let me tell you about my journey to date with them.
My name is Mike; I am male and in my mid-forties. For slightly over three decades, I have lived with a dark secret. This secret has made my world smaller; it has made me feel dirty, stained and used. It has resulted in deep anger, the inability to trust, to lead me to be somewhat suspicious of people's motives.
This has resulted in me keeping people at a distance for fear of rejection or them seeing what I perceive as a dark toxic stain on my soul. It has led me to question my own sexual identity and had devastating effects on relationships.
My secret is that a male teacher at junior school (Year 2/3) abused me. It occurred in the 1980s in the north of England. It left me with a lot of mental and physical baggage and included robbing me of my innocence, shame, rage, confusion, and fear amongst many of the emotions.
The teacher died of natural causes before authorities could hold him accountable for this and other alleged offences. His death leads to a mixture of feelings for me, but relief was not immediately one of these.
Today, I often distrust male authority figures, their motives and people who I perceive abuse their power, position and status. Consequently, this has led to issues at work for me. Most if not all of my friends are of the opposite sex.
My memories of abuse come in fragmented flashes, memory clips, smells, tastes, sensations with little idea of the order of the abuse.
I remember the start, the isolation, the pretence and how touching led to much more.
My memories include the smell of the room, the shining floor tiles, aroma of wood, dust and old exercise books in the cupboard where it all began. Often, I feel like it did not happen to me, but some other child, distanced by time.
Like looking back at the child, I was observing from outside as he sought his evil gratification at the cost of my innocence and self-worth. I remember wanting to be a million miles from that place and from him. His voice still echoes in my head, when things are going badly in my life. I hear his vile words like it was yesterday, accompanied by the scent of coffee and tobacco that was present on his breath.
It has taken me years to see that this dark toxic stain is how he left me seeing myself. It was created by the fear, the lies, the deceit that he used to control and threaten me.
I remember even now my mother saying, "be a good boy for the teachers" and him saying he would tell my parents if I did not do as he said. He used this to trap me and made me feel complicit in his unforgivable acts, robbing me of my self-esteem and even the ability to understand so many years on.
It has been through Trust House that I came to realise that forgiveness and compassion are key. These are not for him, but me. His acts were genuinely unforgivable. However, it is for the forgiveness of this feeling that I brought it upon myself for not being good enough, or at some levels, I was to blame.
It is through continuous treatment that I am starting to deconstruct some of the issues that still so many years on still in prison me. I am a work in progress and on some levels, I am learning to live, though my journey still has many steps to go.
I know there are readers out there who have suffered similar and maybe considering making that all important first step towards help. From where I am in my journey, I wish I had found a place like Trust House many decades ago.
One of the biggest illusions I told myself which also kept me from accessing help was that the damage would come out and wash me as a person away. I tried accessing help many times over the last couple of decades.
The truth is reader by suffering in silence, the damage is already there and taking its toll on you. You could think of the treatment for this, as being similar to dealing with a severe cut. That is, you seek help, and they look at it, clean it, apply ointment, medication or stitches and then dress it.
Counselling for this works similarly. Counselling allows you to explore, unpack, clean out by tackling the issues that affect you in the now, future and past. Only then, can the effects of such trauma, be dealt with and stopped from causing more pain and suffering.
To use a famous quote, "The hardest part of any journey is the first step".
Trust House is the place that allowed me to see some of the more complex issues in my life caused by my abuser in my journey that I have now shared with you. I am not going to say it will be easy, as it is not, but the friendly, loving, dedicated staff at Trust House provide a safe, confidential, and supportive environment to take that vital first step.
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Individuals interested in joining the Rifle Planning and Zoning Commission are encouraged to submit an application and letter of intent to the City Clerk, Kristy Christensen (kchristensen@rifleco.org).
Meetings are televised live on Rifle Community Television-Channel 10 and are also aired throughout the month.
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This command applies to Exchange server 2016 on-premises and returns a list of licenses in your Exchange organization.
I guess you will not be using this command daily, but if you have to make an audit in a new customer's Exchange environment, it shows you straight away, how many and which Exchange servers are in use.
This command is also only available in on-premise Exchange environments.
On Microsoft Technet, there are many amazing scripts for reporting and/or health checks. However, sometimes these scripts are not needed, or you want to build a script on your own for health reporting for Exchange.
The list is even longer, but this is enough to understand for what we can use this command. It shows us the state of services and includes the transition time.
GroupSize Optional System.Int32 The GroupSize parameter determines the size of the group to process against for a rollup. The default value is 12.
HaImpactingOnly Optional System.Management.Automation.SwitchParameter The HaImpactingOnly switch filters the results to only the monitors that have HaImpactingset to True. You don't need to specify a value with this switch.
HealthSet Optional System.String The HealthSet parameter filters the results by the specified health set. Monitors that are similar or are tied to a component's architecture are grouped to form a health set. You can determine the collection of monitors (and associated probes and responders) in a given health set by using the Get-MonitoringItemIdentity cmdlet.
MinimumOnlinePercent Optional System.Int32 The MinimumOnlinePercent parameter specifies the number of members in the group to be functioning with rollup information Degraded instead of Unhealthy. The default value is 70 percent.
RollupGroup Optional System.Management.Automation.SwitchParameter The RollupGroupswitch specifies that the health data is rolled up across servers with redundancy limits. You don't need to specify a value with this switch.
As the name says, this command belongs to Azure AD and Office 365.
The Connect-MsolService cmdlet attempts to initiate a connection to Azure Active Directory. You must specify a credential, as a PSCredential object, or specify the CurrentCredentials parameter to use the credentials of the current user.
This command can be used with different optional parameters.
This command attempts to initiate a connection with Azure Active Directory. Since no credential is provided, the cmdlet prompts you to enter your username and password.
It will attempts to initiate a connection to AzureChinaCloud with Azure Active Directory using the credential provided. The credential must be of the type PSCredential. To obtain a credential object, use the Get-Credential cmdlet.
-AdGraphAccessToken # Specifies the AD Graph access token to use to connect to Azure Active Directory.
-AzureEnvironment # Specifies the deployment type to use to connect to Azure Active Directory in different region.
-Credential # Specifies the credential to use to connect to Azure Active Directory.
This command is also, like the previous one, usable for the Azure AD. After you have successfully logged in to your subscription with the Connect-MsolService, you can use the Get-MsolDomain cmdlet.
It will list you all domains, which are added to your tenant/subscription. You will be able to see the domain name, status and authentication type.
-Capability # Specifies the filter for domains that have the specified capability assigned. -Status # Specifies the filter to return only domains with the specified status. Valid values are: Verified, Unverified, and PendingDeletion. -TenantId # Specifies the unique ID of the tenant on which to perform the operation. The default value is the tenant of the current user. This parameter applies only to partner users.
-Capability # Specifies the filter for domains that have the specified capability assigned.
-Status # Specifies the filter to return only domains with the specified status. Valid values are: Verified, Unverified, and PendingDeletion.
-TenantId # Specifies the unique ID of the tenant on which to perform the operation. The default value is the tenant of the current user. This parameter applies only to partner users.
Finally a command, which we can use for Exchange online and Exchange on-premise (2016). However, some parameters and settings may be exclusive to one environment or the other.
Creating federations between Exchange organizations today is already state of the art. With a federation we are able to, for example, see the free/busy information between organizations and other things. If you want to know more about federation between Exchange, I can recommend you the LINK HERE to the right Technet article.
However, today we want to know more about the specific command to check how it looks like with federation trusts.
Running this command we will receive a lot of information's about all trusts we have in our organization.
A similar command we also can use to get more information's is the Get-FederationInformation command. Use the Get-FederationInformation cmdlet to get federation information, including federated domain names and target URLs, from an external Exchange organization.
The Get-FederationInformation cmdlet retrieves federation information from the domain specified. Results from the cmdlet can be piped to the New-OrganizationRelationship cmdlet to establish an organization relationship with the Exchange organization being queried.
Use the Redirect-Message cmdlet to drain the active messages from all the delivery queues on a mailbox server, and transfer those messages to another mailbox server. This cmdlet is available only in on-premises Exchange.
When a message queue is drained, the active messages in the queues on the source mailbox server are routed to the target mailbox server. After the messages are received and queued by the target mailbox server, the messages are made redundant.
The Get-HybridMailflow cmdlet is used to view the configuration of message transport settings for hybrid deployments that were created with the Hybrid Configuration wizard.
CentralizedTransportEnabled Optional System.Boolean The CentralizedTransportEnabled parameter specifies that the Exchange Online organization routes all outbound mail messages to external recipients to the on-premises Exchange organization. The on-premises Exchange organization then routes the messages to the external recipients. The valid input for the CentralizedTransportEnabled parameter is $true or $false. The default value is $true.
CertificateSubject Optional System.String The CertificateSubject parameter specifies the principal name of the certificate used for secure mail flow between the on-premises Exchange and Exchange Online organizations.
Confirm Optional System.Management.Automation.SwitchParameter The Confirm switch specifies whether to show or hide the confirmation prompt. How this switch affects the cmdlet depends on if the cmdlet requires confirmation before proceeding.
Most other cmdlets (for example, New-* and Set-* cmdlets) don't have a built-in pause. For these cmdlets, specifying the Confirm switch without a value introduces a pause that forces you acknowledge the command before proceeding.
InboundIPs Optional Microsoft.Exchange.Data.IPRange The InboundIPs parameter specifies the IP addresses of the on-premises mail transport servers configured as part of the hybrid deployment. These must point to either Exchange 2010 SP2 Hub Transport or Edge Transport servers.
OnPremisesFQDN Optional Microsoft.Exchange.Data.Fqdn The OnPremisesFQDN parameter specifies the fully qualified domain name (FQDN) of the outbound smart host in the on-premises Exchange organization to use for centralized transport. This is either an on-premises Exchange 2010 SP2 Hub Transport or Edge Transport server.
OutboundDomains Optional Microsoft.Exchange.Data.SmtpDomainWithSubdomains The OutboundDomains parameter specifies SMTP domains configured for the hybrid deployment.
SecureMailEnabled Optional System.Boolean The SecureMailEnabled parameter specifies that all messages sent between the on-premises Exchange and the Exchange Online organizations must use the Transport Layer Security (TLS) protocol and the assigned digital certificate. The valid input for the SecureMailEnabledparameter is $true or $false. The default value is $true.
WhatIf Optional System.Management.Automation.SwitchParameter The WhatIf switch simulates the actions of the command. You can use this switch to view the changes that would occur without actually applying those changes. You don't need to specify a value with this switch.
This command applies to Exchange Online and Exchange Server 2016.
If you want to know more about what S/MIME is, or for what we can use it, I can recommend you the following LINK HERE.
Here, I want to do a short introducion of the Get-SmimeConfig cmdlet.
We will be able, to see all current settings for S/MIME at the OWA. This can help us to, e.g. set the S/MIME configuration to allow users the choice of signing messages, limit the Certificate Revocation List (CRL) retrieval time-out to 10 seconds, and specify the 128 bit RC2 encryption algorithm.
Warning: The Set-SmimeConfig cmdlet can change several important parameters than can reduce the overall level of message security. Review your organization's security policy before you make any changes.
You need to be assigned permissions before you can run this cmdlet. Although this topic lists all parameters for the cmdlet, you may not have access to some parameters if they're not included in the permissions assigned to you.
It helps to see the current configuration.
Detailed (Required) The Detailed switch specifies whether to return detailed information in the results. You don't need to specify a value with this switch.
SpoofAllowBlockList (Required) The SpoofAllowBlockList switch specifies whether to return a summary view of detected spoof activity. You don't need to specify a value with this switch.
- Sender/sender domain: The true sending domain that's found in the DNS record of the source messaging server. If no domain is found, the source messaging server's IP address is shown. - SpoofedUser: The sending email address if the domain is one of your organization's domains, or the sending domain if the domain is external. - MailVolume: The number of messages. - UserComplaints: The number of user complaints. - Authentication: Indicates whether the message has passed any type of authentication (explicit or implicit). - Last seen: The date when the sending email address or domain was last seen by Office 365. - Decision set by: Specifies whether Office 365 set the spoofing policy as allowed or not allowed to spoof, or if it was set by an admin. - AllowedToSpoof: The three possible values are Yes (messages that contain any spoofed sender email addresses in your organization are allowed from the source messaging server), No (messages that contain any spoofed sender email addresses in your organization are not allowed from the source messaging server), and Partial (messages that contain some spoofed sender email addresses in your organization are allowed from the source messaging server. - Spoof Type: Indicates whether the domain is internal to your organization or external.
- Sender/sender domain: The true sending domain that's found in the DNS record of the source messaging server. If no domain is found, the source messaging server's IP address is shown.
- SpoofedUser: The sending email address if the domain is one of your organization's domains, or the sending domain if the domain is external.
- MailVolume: The number of messages.
- UserComplaints: The number of user complaints.
- Authentication: Indicates whether the message has passed any type of authentication (explicit or implicit).
- Last seen: The date when the sending email address or domain was last seen by Office 365.
- Decision set by: Specifies whether Office 365 set the spoofing policy as allowed or not allowed to spoof, or if it was set by an admin.
- AllowedToSpoof: The three possible values are Yes (messages that contain any spoofed sender email addresses in your organization are allowed from the source messaging server), No (messages that contain any spoofed sender email addresses in your organization are not allowed from the source messaging server), and Partial (messages that contain some spoofed sender email addresses in your organization are allowed from the source messaging server.
- Spoof Type: Indicates whether the domain is internal to your organization or external.
Step 1: Write the summary output of the Get-PhishFilterPolicy cmdlet to a CSV file.
Get-PhishFilterPolicy -Identity Default -SpoofAllowBlockList | Export-CSV "C:\My Documents\Summary Spoofed Senders.csv"
Step 2: Add or modify the TrueSender, and AllowedToSpoof values in the CSV file, save the file, and then read the file and store it in a variable named $UpdateSummarySpoofedSenders.
$UpdateSummarySpoofedSenders = Get-Content -Raw "C:\My Documents\Summary Spoofed Senders.csv"
Step 3: Use the $UpdateSummarySpoofedSenders variable to configure the phish filter policy.
Spoofing has long been one of the biggest issues with email and with the move to cloud services in the last few years it has become an ever hotter topic. That's why the last command for this article applies only to the cloud-based services (Exchange Online and EOP).
Use the Get-SpoofMailReport cmdlet to view information about insider spoofing in your cloud-based organization. Insider spoofing is where the sender's email address in an inbound message appears to represent your organization, but the actual identity of the sender is different.
Date Date the message was sent.
Event Type Typically, this value is SpoofMail.
Direction This value is Inbound.
Domain The sender domain. This corresponds to one of your organization's accepted domains.
Action Typically, this value is GoodMail or CaughtAsSpam.
Spoofed Sender The spoofed email address or domain in your organization from which the messages appear to be coming.
True Sender The organizational domain of the PTR record, or pointer record, of the sending IP address, also known as the reverse DNS address. If the sending IP address does not have a PTR record, this field will be blank and the Sender IP column will be filled in. Both columns will not be filled in at the same time.
Sender IP The IP address or address range of the source messaging server. If the sending IP address does have a PTR record, this field will be blank and the True Sender column will be filled in. Both columns will not be filled in at the same time.
Count The number of spoofed messages that were sent to your organization from the source messaging server during the specified time period.
For your PowerShell tasks, you can have a time stamp in a series of commands, so you can determine how long a single step occurs, or to use it as a logging mechanism for your scripts.
There are many other formats for the Get-Date command, but these four options would generally suite most applications for time stamp purposes.


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New Plant Based Foods Association Sprouts Up In Washington
March 7, 2016 By Phoebe Chongchua
The plant-based industry is sprouting up with new healthy advocates in Washington. A special association is planning to seed lobbyists with information about plant-based products just as other trade associations like the beef, pork, and poultry industries do for the companies they represent.
The Plant Based Foods Association is a new trade group that's founded by Michele Simon, a public health lawyer and food policy advocate. The group represents makers of products that get their proteins from peas, soybeans, and other no meat sources.
While plant-based eating is still among the minority of diets followed in the United States, the sales of products that incorporate plant proteins is growing. Comparatively, over 2014 to 2015, plant proteins grew 8.7 percent (through retailers not including Whole Foods) whereas overall sales of food products only saw 3.7 percent growth, according to Spins, a company that collects dat on retail sales for the natural and speciality products industries.
With that kind of growth, it' snot surprising that plant-based eating is becoming big business. Dozens of startups are making their way into mainstream venture capital firms and getting seed money to help grow their businesses. Califia Farms (a member of the trade group) makes plant-based milks and received $50 million in funding from an investor, according to CrunchBase.
Even brands that you might not think would have an interest in plant-based eating are finding their niche in the marketplace.
Campbell's Soup president, Jeff Dunn, says there is a substantial shift toward consumer interest in plant-based diets. He notes that the interest in stemming from consumer belief that plant protein is healthier and less damaging on the environment.
Elizabeth Kucinich, a vegan advocate who is representing the Plant Based Foods Association. She's the wife of the former congressman and presidential candidate (2004 and 2008) Dennis Kucinich.
The first serving of lobbying the organization will dish up is likely going to be for federal subsidies for plant-based milks to be served in school lunchrooms. Right now, schools are only reimbursed for serving dairy milk. Another challenge, will be trying to get the Food and Drug Administration and its Standards of Identity to be expanded. Currently, these standards determine which ingredients and quantities must exist in a food item such as cheese to be call the product "cheese".
For instance, "cheese" made from nuts would not technically be allowed to call it "cheese" on packaging and labels. Thus, product makers were forced to use alternative names like: "cultured nut product".
For those who love nut "cheese", we know this just doesn't do the products justice.
The Plant Based Food Association is a welcome addition for plant-based diet food lovers, even it Washington doesn't have the same appreciation, it may come to find their is a growing group of plant-based supporters who are changing the future of food and the way we eat.
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